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School athletic trainer charged with sex assault of 10 girls

AP News Radio

00:55 sec | 1 d ago

School athletic trainer charged with sex assault of 10 girls

"A Los Angeles athletic trainer who worked at two high schools has been charged with multiple sexual assaults prosecutors alleged that 64 year old Richard Turner raped or inappropriately touched at least ten girls while working as a trainer at van nuys high school and Birmingham community charter high school both part of the Los Angeles unified school district The alleged victims are student athletes between the ages of 15 and 17 Girls who sought treatment for sports injuries between 2017 and this year Turner faces 18 felony counts and is jailed pending in October arraignment Police captain Jeff bratcher tells the Los Angeles Times Turner's arrest came last week one day after a Birmingham student accused him of touching her inappropriately 9 other students then came forward alleging attacks both on and off campus Police say another student reported Turner in 2017 to the DA's office declined to file charges at that time for lack of evidence at a news conference Los Angeles district attorney George gascon said school is a place where our children should feel safe I'm Jennifer King

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The latest in sports

AP News Radio

02:00 min | 3 d ago

The latest in sports

"AP sports subject freedom the NFL will not have an annual Pro Bowl this year instead the NFL will go to a skills competition for the AFC and NFC players displaying their football and non football skills the new event will be named the Pro Bowl games It'll take place in Vegas in February The New York Giants have dropped from the unbeaten ranks They were taking down at home by Dallas 23 16 CC lamb made a one handed touchdown grabbed a snap of fourth quarter tie Prior to Ezekiel Elliott's one yard plunge that tied it They always hold it down for us you know when we move in a little slow and I mean they've been doing it all year I mean how many sex they had a day 5 6 On the baseball circuit the New York Yankees could have clinched the AL east but Toronto had other plans also Aaron judge was sitting on 60 homers coming into the game John leatherbee reports Vladimir Guerrero Ginger single to left from home Calvin vigil from second as dorrell's magic number to clinch a wild card spot is now three For John G finished one for 5 of the night his low hit coming in the first inning a single to right field The law snapped the Yankees 7 game winning streak John leather bit to run Rice elder threw his first ever complete game a 6 hit shutout as the Atlanta Braves beat Washington ain't nothing It means a lot but I at the same time it's just another win We were trying to stack the wins on top of each other here and get ready for this weekend and the next three games after that So when a lot of the braves to move within a game of the NL east leading New York mets the braves admits with that big weekend showdown beginning on Friday Baltimore beat Boston 14 to 8 and Pittsburgh beats Cincinnati Jimmy Johnson is retiring from full-time racing the 7th time NASCAR champ told the AP He will focus on family Johnson says he'll race about ten bucket races a year Seems like a division one college football coach loses his job each week Georgia Tech parted ways with Jeff Collins Collins was ten and 28 He was in his fourth season The Tampa Bay Buccaneers will be practicing in South Florida this week with hurricane Ian moving over to Florida's West Coast The Buccaneers will spend the week practicing at the facility of the Miami Dolphins

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Disgraced Comedian Jeff Garlin Wants Your Sympathy

AJ Benza: Fame is a Bitch

01:57 min | Last week

Disgraced Comedian Jeff Garlin Wants Your Sympathy

"Well, gang, what's the best way to overcome being accused of being a brute on the set or someone who gives out long and unwanted hugs to female cast members? Maybe even spends the entire shoot walking out vagina jokes, well, I think they kill your character off, you know what you do? You make up a fake diagnosis for some pity. That's right, folks. Former star of the goldbergs and comedian Jeff garlin who left the long running sitcom last year because of all those misconduct allegations, has now revealed he is suffering from bipolar disorder. Yeah. 60 years old, never knew. You know? I know, I knew he was suffering from the disease of being an asshole. I knew that many years ago when he decided to make me a part of his act at the comedy store during one of his sets and I threatened to punch the shit out of him. And then Pauly Shore had to run out from behind the wings and please tell me to calm down and my manager at the time who was next to me said AJ, don't do it, don't do it. You can't beat a comedian who's holding a microphone. I said, Howard, I'm going to beat him with his own microphone. Jeff garlin said, buy polar is a mother. Sometimes it's just too much to deal with. Said that late Tuesday night. But I'm doing the best I can. The first time I've opened up about this. Yeah, that's pretty interesting. So let me ask you a question. When you try to lean on, not try. When you leaned in for a kiss and a cup of feel what that beautiful female author friend of mine is that part of the bipolar illness,

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A less-glitzy Detroit auto show returns after 3-year absence

AP News Radio

00:56 sec | 2 weeks ago

A less-glitzy Detroit auto show returns after 3-year absence

"A less glitzy Detroit Auto Show is returning after a three year absence The pandemic is partly to blame for the scaled down auto show Jeff Schuster with consulting group LMC automotive is thinking back Then you had thousands of journalists from all over the world you had in some cases 60 to 70 launches of vehicles a lot of those being world premieres This year Carl Zimmerman with the Detroit auto dealers association says the show will be less about glitz and glamour It's a much different format Again we're using indoors we're using outdoors and change time of year to change the activations Instead of around 50 new model debuts there's only one truly new one the Ford Mustang unveiled at a big outdoor event along the Detroit river auto shows are going through a transition to Geneva and broke a couple of years ago They just canceled the Geneva show so it's very competitive industry This year's show in Detroit will be geared more toward consumers and less toward the industry I'm Ed Donahue

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Allowing Democrats to Win Does Not Resolve Our RINO Problem

Mike Gallagher Podcast

00:57 sec | 2 weeks ago

Allowing Democrats to Win Does Not Resolve Our RINO Problem

"Just wanted to say that Jeff is like one of those guys who call super eat and orders dinner then complains because the dinner starts when he gets it to the house. He made it so cold. These guys, they like to bark, but have no bite. Well, I mean, they have a lot of talking points. And again, the reaction is real. Frustration with Republicans who are toothless is real. But my gosh, you got to know how to fix it. Voting for Stacey Abrams doesn't fix it. Voting for John fetterman doesn't fix it, letting the Democrats win in 56 days is not going to fix it. It's almost like it's a protest. It's like, look at me, I'm upset at the rhinos. I'm upset that not enough has been done about election integrity. So I'm just going to let the Democrats continue to ruin this country.

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John Fetterman Is Straight Out of Democrat Central Casting

The Charlie Kirk Show

02:00 min | 2 weeks ago

John Fetterman Is Straight Out of Democrat Central Casting

"More you learn about John fetterman, his health issues aside of which we will not trivialize or make fun of, the more you realize that this guy is as if a younger Jeff Bridges or John Goodman were to just kind of pop out of Hollywood, parachute into rural Pennsylvania, become a mayor of a very small city, not even do your mayoral duties there, act as if you're some sort of working class blue collar guy, even though you went to Harvard and were supported by your parents financially into your mid 40s. And then have the tattoos and the hoodie and the shorts and have this entire aesthetic that you're a man of the Pennsylvania people. Now, I'll be very honest. I fell for it. I didn't fall for it as if I was like some sort of fetterman fan. But a couple months ago when I saw Oz running against federman, I went to fetterman's website and I was doing a couple things at once. I said, oh, wow, you know, he looks like a steel worker. It can be a tough Democrat to fight. Okay. And obviously, you know, kind of time has passed and things have come out. He's a total fraud. He's a worked on a steel mill. He's not a Carpenter. He's not a welder. He's not a truck driver. He looks like one. It is an aesthetic hoodwink operation, where if we look like it and we wear the hoodie and we wear the shorts and you have the kind of tattoos and you have shave your head with the long beard, you can kind of fool people as if you're one of them. This is a big test happening in Pennsylvania. Big test. Can they run? Again, health issues aside. That's a separate question, but a very important one. But the deeper question that I find to be interesting is the question of Democrat central casting.

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The Collusion Between the Biden Administration and the 'Trifecta'

The Dinesh D'Souza Podcast

02:40 min | 2 weeks ago

The Collusion Between the Biden Administration and the 'Trifecta'

"There is an important ongoing lawsuit and investigation that is being conducted by the attorney generals of both Missouri and Louisiana. The Missouri attorney general, by the way, is Eric Schmidt, who has been on this podcast. The Louisiana attorney general is Jeff Landry, the two of them have come together in a very important enterprise. What's the enterprise? It is to fully expose the unconstitutional collusion between figures and the Biden administration, strewn through many different departments and agencies, including The White House, and a trifecta of social media companies. Was speaking here specifically about Twitter about Google slash YouTube and about Facebook slash meta. Now, really ever since Biden took office, the Biden administration has been pressuring cajoling conspiring with social media companies to ban people to ban what they call disinformation or misinformation, but it's merely information they don't agree with. Misinformation here has the sort of has a kind of ideological definition. It is what our side says goes, what your side says is automatically classified as out of bounds. So this is a naked exercise of political power. I mean, think of it. It's not only a violation of free speech. It's a violation of democracy itself, which relies upon a multi party system, a diversity of ideas, people having forums in which they can put their ideas forward. Now, for some time, groups like Facebook and YouTube with several private organizations, we can have our own guidelines, we can have our own rules. You don't like it, you form your own platform. First of all, when parler was formed as an independent platform, they all came together and including Amazon and Apple to take it down. But it's a whole different matter when the government is working hand in hand with these so called private companies in order to suppress speech. And this is really what Eric Schmidt and Jeff Landry are exposing. Now, they have gotten a whole bunch of discovery, and this discovery extremely eye opening. They have all kinds of communications from people in different agencies, emails, directives, apparently teleconferences back and forth, in which these agencies are working with these social media companies about banning people, deplatforming, restricting them. So in the sense that they're well on their way to proving their case.

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Mets ride deGrom, Bassitt to doubleheader sweep of Pirates

AP News Radio

00:34 sec | 3 weeks ago

Mets ride deGrom, Bassitt to doubleheader sweep of Pirates

"Jacob de Grom tossed 7 scoreless innings striking out 8 as the Met shut out the pirates ten nothing De Grom surrendered only three hits The goal is to just throw it where I want and execute pitches To have some good defense behind me and then the guys put up a ton of run for them So all around good win 6th New York players had multi hit games Eduardo Escobar with four Jeff McNeil with three Francisco Lindor drove in three runs The mets won both games in Wednesday's double header with Pittsburgh taking a half game lead in the NL east The pirates got two hits from Brian Reynolds Josh rowntree Pittsburgh

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Todd Starnes Explains Last Week's Absence

ToddCast Podcast with Todd Starnes

00:59 sec | 3 weeks ago

Todd Starnes Explains Last Week's Absence

"America, Todd steins here. Yeah, I'm the host of the program. You may have forgotten that. I've been out for about what four or 5 days, super thank you and I'm incredibly grateful to the great team here and to the host. We had Steve gill, Barry Walters, and Jeff Kant who filled in. I don't know what it was, but I got smacked by some sort of upper respiratory, the sinus stuff, and it was just very unpleasant, and so I thought, you know, I need to take some time off and I hate doing that because I love hanging out with you guys. But thank you for thank you for the kind words and the thoughts and the prayers over the past several days. Good to be back. And honestly, even if I had been sick, I would have crawled back into the news bunker and because we've got so much to talk about today.

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Caller: Biden Didn't Have a Huge Presence in Pennsylvania

Mike Gallagher Podcast

01:56 min | 3 weeks ago

Caller: Biden Didn't Have a Huge Presence in Pennsylvania

"Side by side. There was Trump in Pennsylvania, there was Biden in Pennsylvania, mail in Philadelphia was at both. Hi mail, how are you? Oh my God, look, I can't believe it. I'm on the show with you. I'm glad you made it. How you doing? I'm great. Let me just tell you a side by side. I just happened to go down there because I had a hair appointment and I was in the city. I said, let me go and see. So this is the Biden rally. Right. As I was walking up, people were leaving. And I was like, oh my goodness, did I miss it? I was like about 30 minutes late. And people were leaving. So then when I got there, there were like maybe just a few people standing there chanting. Abortion support chants. And I would say it was about 8 people and then the rest of the people were, well, I guess people who were supporting Trump. And the Republicans. Like counter play counter protesters. Well, no, no protests and just standing around. Oh, I got you. Okay. But they were Trump supporters at the Biden rally? Yeah. The whole lot of people yelling, let's go Brandon phrase, but the other one. Yeah. And I heard that they convinced side. Got you? And the people on the outside who were the guards for the rally, I guess, to try and crowd control. Security guards, Jeff, right? Yeah, they were saying that, no, only people in there were invited people. Right. So I would say that we're probably about a hundred people plus the 8 people who were the abortion supporters. Now

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Rays beat Yankees 9-0 to move within 5 games in AL East

AP News Radio

00:33 sec | 3 weeks ago

Rays beat Yankees 9-0 to move within 5 games in AL East

"The AL east race got a little tighter with the rays 9 zero route of the Yankees winning pitcher Jeff springs allowed four hits over 5 and two thirds helping the rays pull within 5 games of the division leading Yankees Shut out that team They're really good So it's definitely a big momentum you know rolling into tomorrow and we'll try to see what we can do tomorrow and keep it rolling Christian Beth had court made it three zero with a two run Homer in the 7th inning Manuel Margot singled home a pair while Tampa Bay erupted for 6 runs in the 8th Yu Chang added a two run infield single in the 8th I'm Dave ferry

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Jimmy Gagliano: Understanding Disparate Treatment Under the Law

ToddCast Podcast with Todd Starnes

01:51 min | Last month

Jimmy Gagliano: Understanding Disparate Treatment Under the Law

"Or she is the ultimate authority in those kind of things. What are the brick agents saying? Well, Jeff, we know that if your folks have that are listening here, have been following the news and this isn't astute audience, so I know they are. We know that there are whistleblowers that have come to senator grassley and they've come to senator Johnson and they come to congressman Jordan and they have basically pushed back on this notion that this is being done above board. Look, I'm not here to defend the former president, the 44th 45th president president, former president Trump. He's got a bevy of lawyers that can do that on their own and these eminently qualified to do that. What I'm suggesting and what I think a number of former FBI agents retired FBI agents and I think the number if I heard correctly last night on Fox News is about 20 on board FBI agents who are acting as whistleblowers, what our concern is disparate treatment under the law, meaning that the law is not being applied evenly, we can allow the former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton to bleach bit 33,000 emails. She is the governing authority to decide what needs to be reviewed by investigators when those emails were under subpoena and what gets turned over and what doesn't, no one kicked in her door in chappaqua, New York, and the way that they're treating this former president in Mar-a-Lago where we know that since back in January of February, the NAR 8, the national archives and records administration was in active conversation and negotiations with the president, former presidents, lawyers, to turn over items that they felt that he should not be in possession of.

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Jimmy Gagliano: Staged Photo Released by DOJ Was Political Theatre

ToddCast Podcast with Todd Starnes

01:56 min | Last month

Jimmy Gagliano: Staged Photo Released by DOJ Was Political Theatre

"Saw the leaked photo the other day, top secret documents recovered from this room at Mar-a-Lago. Your sense of what's pictured there, but also your sense of having that leaked yeah, that was that was theater. And I hate to say this because as I always push back and I know at the top you did caveat this by saying, we both love and respect the 12,000 sworn agents, the men and women who do the hard work. And they're taking direction from the top. And all of your listeners here are in Todd's listeners are certainly going to know that the FBI is led by a political appointee. It's the way that it is the president has the right to appoint an FBI director who serves for ten years. And an attorney general is another political appointee, and obviously everything that happens in those agencies is directed there. Jeff, I saw that. It kind of made me cringe. I get it. I remember there were times where defense attorneys, especially in public corruption cases, would get out in front of the cameras. And when I was a young FBI agent, making cases, my bosses would say, shut up and do your job, you know, we're not going to weigh in on this and you get battered in the press and you're like, gosh, if I could just put this out there, it would be, it would be the margin of victory, but we're not trying to make cases in the court of public opinion. We're following the law bereft of fear favor. And when I saw that picture posted Jeff, it literally turned my stomach. That was political opportunism. There was no need for that. It didn't prove anything. We knew that there were some documents that were considered to be classified either top secrets, secret or confidential and this should have been litigated in court, whether or not the president or the former president had to write to have those or not it shouldn't

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Tony Pham: Border Patrol Chief Describes 'Crisis' at the Border

ToddCast Podcast with Todd Starnes

01:58 min | Last month

Tony Pham: Border Patrol Chief Describes 'Crisis' at the Border

"As you point out, G four T's is a career guy up through the ranks starts as a border patrol agent rises to the highest levels of the United States border patrol. It's a well regarded, highly esteemed law enforcement agency, a difficult job under the best of circumstances and in his deposition and remind us because as you said, you're an attorney. So counselor was he under oath? Sworn in under oath had several breaks afforded to him even through multiple objections for the attorney representing the United States. He was very calm, collected and very clear in his answers as you would expect from a law enforcement, right? Very crystal clear in what his how he discerned how the policies were playing out at the southern border. For him to call it a crisis, if you're not going to listen to political appointees, call it a crisis at a minimum. Please listen to the career officials who see us come and go. Quite frankly through situations, right? Yeah. But they're there toeing the line. These are the people that we as political appointees should be listening to as we try to implement the president's our president or our administration's policy initiative. We should always go to our career officials and find out, hey, how do we make this work? Because I can assure you if the Biden administration came to the chief Ortiz and said, hey, I want to make this policy where he'll know. It ain't going to happen. It's going to pull more people over. Jeff, let me give you some examples. Just up to now, in this fiscal year year to date, we have over one 1 million 946,780 migrant encounters. And we're not even done with this fiscal year yet. Last total fiscal year, was still a record breaker, but was 1 million 734,000. So there's

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Tony Pham: Border Patrol Chief Blames Biden for Migrants Death Surge

ToddCast Podcast with Todd Starnes

01:47 min | Last month

Tony Pham: Border Patrol Chief Blames Biden for Migrants Death Surge

"You read you examine you saw what the chief of the border patrol had had to say. All right, a little chuckle here. Lay it out for us. What did he say? And what does it really mean? Yeah, Jeff, just so your listeners will know. I did read all 299 pages of his deposition transcript. That's just a lawyer, I think, right? But we have to understand chief Ortiz. My hat's off to him. He is a career official. 31 years in service and border patrol. So he seen it all, right? So it's a little bit different perspective than when you get schedule C political points he's coming on to a show railing about the Biden administration's policies. But here is a career official who sole purpose is to enforce the law because that's what he signed up to do and when asked, point blank is the border in crisis. His answer was, yes. And that is a complete contradiction to what this administration is trying to guess like the American people and the belief. And that goes, it's terrible that we have an elected position in his appointees. Trying to just misdirect the American people in what's really happening at the border. Why is that important, Jeff? Because even chief Ortiz said it, since President Biden has taken office more migrants have lost their lives. Crossing over in the United States and at any other point in time in his history. And that is just a tragedy of epic proportions involving the human condition that we as Americans can not overlook that these policies are drawing people into very dangerous situations. And that's

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Anti-Nazi Hero Niemoller Is a Warning on the Dangers of Keeping Quiet

The Eric Metaxas Show

01:56 min | Last month

Anti-Nazi Hero Niemoller Is a Warning on the Dangers of Keeping Quiet

"About Christians being involved in the culture in politics and how a lot of us have good people have messed up. I always think of in the 30s when we always look back to bahnhof first time. Martin nee Muller, one of the heroes, he got this wrong. Let's be clear folks, he was one of the heroes. He got this wrong. And the moment he realized that he'd gotten it wrong that he should have spoken against Hitler, he should have been clear, it was too late. Hitler had him arrested. He was put in concentration camps for 8 years. He survived, but he wrote a very famous poem basically you've heard of it where he says, when they came for the such and such a group, when those people got canceled, I kept my mouth shut because I was not part of that group. I wanted to be able to keep talking. So I kept my mouth shut. And then they came for that group. I kept my mouth shut. We're living through the same thing today. It doesn't matter what your position is on a lot of these things. But when people are being canceled, when they're demonized people demonizing people for gathering at the capitol on January 6th, making them seem out to be monsters. I've got to say, if you don't speak up about that, folks, I just want to know, when somebody comes after you, when you're misrepresented, who will be there to speak up for you. We've got to be courageous. We've got to be bold. We've got to care about these things. And we're living through tough times, but I always think of Martin niemoller. This was a great man who got this wrong. So if you're getting this wrong, don't feel bad. Just get it right. But don't say, well, I've got to double down on it because Martin nimoy, he learned the hard way. And I always think of him because this is one of these heroes who got it wrong, but eventually he saw that he had to speak out and he paid a price as we often do.

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Jeff Myers Believes God Calls Christians to Get Involved in Politics

The Eric Metaxas Show

02:00 min | Last month

Jeff Myers Believes God Calls Christians to Get Involved in Politics

"Are a lot of people who say, don't get involved in politics because they represent interests of people whose interests would be harmed if Christians did get involved in politics. There are some good hearted people who just say, you know, Christians should not be involved in things like that. And they're consistent. They don't want Christians to be police officers. They don't want Christians to serve in the military. It's a very small group overall of Christians, but in America, I assume most of the audience we're talking to you right now is would be made up of Americans. But in this country, Abraham Lincoln said, we have government of the people by the people and for the people. So how are you going to obey your authorities, Romans, chapter 13? You have to be involved. Otherwise you're disobeying God. Now, that's a huge piece, Jeff. What you just said there, right? I read, I have a book coming out called letter to the American church where I try to break down how is it that so many in the church got confused on this and have really been misapplying Romans 13 and misunderstanding it. Because many leaders, many Christian leaders are misapplying it and misunderstanding it just as they did in the 30s, which led to the satanic nightmare of the Holocaust and of what Hitler was able to do because believers misunderstood the scriptural mandate. It's a horrifying thing when the church messes up. And when we kind of buy the lies of the world and we say, well, I'm not going to be involved in this because God is looking to us to be involved in this. If you care about the poor, if you care about the marginalized, you better get involved in all this stuff. And you better speak up against those who are doing things that, whether they know it or not, are harming those people. So this is something that it's almost like things had to get this bad for people to wake up. But I mean, this statistic almost 30% of Americans getting more involved, I think, wow. This is just good news. And I hope that number increases.

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Jeff Myers on Summit Ministries' Polling Endeavors

The Eric Metaxas Show

01:25 min | Last month

Jeff Myers on Summit Ministries' Polling Endeavors

"People always say, have you read have you read the polls or did you read the studies or I never read any of that stuff? But when I hear something like this, I say that confirms exactly what I have been saying and hoping and praying for. That things have to get very, very bad to wake up some people to make them understand you better step up now. You've had your eye off the ball. You better get involved. But according to this, nearly 30% of Americans are getting more active in civics and politics than they were two years ago. That is an amazingly good piece of information. That's just amazing news right there. Well, the word is getting out, Eric, and you talk about this on your program, all of the time. We've got to stay in. We've got to get involved. We've got to stay in bulk. You can't just vote in national elections. You've got to vote in school board elections. You can't just sit at home. You've got to go to meetings. You've got to join things. You've got to find people you can partner with in other areas. So that's what we found in the poll. Now, I should clarify some administrators is not a polling organization. We focus on equipping and supporting the rising generation to embrace a biblical worldview. But we've got to understand the pulse of the culture. That's why we're doing the polling. We worked with the McLaughlin group, which is very well respected. And we're finding some fascinating things. Also some warning signs too. I hope we get a chance to talk about that.

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"jeff mine" Discussed on Terrible, Thanks For Asking

Terrible, Thanks For Asking

02:09 min | 11 months ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on Terrible, Thanks For Asking

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02:17 min | 11 months ago

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"Life <Speech_Female> <Silence> <SpeakerChange> <Speech_Male> <Advertisement> <Music> <Speech_Music_Female> is harder <Silence> jap. <Speech_Female> And not just because <Silence> so many people miss <Speech_Female> him. <Speech_Female> <SpeakerChange> For a <Speech_Female> long time, he had been <Speech_Female> the resident adults <Speech_Female> in the household <Speech_Female> Angela's words. <Speech_Female> He <Speech_Female> was the pragmatic <Speech_Female> and responsible one <Speech_Female> who took care of the small, <Speech_Female> but important things. <Speech_Female> Like making sure <Speech_Female> the water bill got <Speech_Male> paid and doing <Silence> the week's meal planning. <Speech_Female> <Speech_Female> And now <Speech_Female> Angela is the <Silence> sole surviving <Speech_Female> parent. <Speech_Female> And Taylor, <Speech_Female> instead of being the bonus <Speech_Female> mom, the fun <Speech_Female> friend has now <Speech_Female> stepped into the co <Speech_Female> captain role. <Speech_Female> And thankfully <Speech_Female> Angela has <Speech_Female> family, not just <Silence> Taylor and <Speech_Female> her sons. <Speech_Female> <SpeakerChange> But Jeff's <Silence> family, too. <Speech_Female> <Speech_Female> They knew <Speech_Female> of Taylor <Speech_Female> <Speech_Female> before Jeff <Speech_Female> even passed. So <Speech_Female> that helped tremendously. <Speech_Female> They <Speech_Female> were aware of <Speech_Female> her. They <Speech_Female> hadn't spent a lot of <Speech_Female> time with her, but they <Speech_Female> definitely knew that <Speech_Female> we had this <Speech_Female> dynamic. <Speech_Female> We <Silence> kept things pretty <Speech_Female> separate, but <Speech_Female> they have <Speech_Female> amazing <Speech_Female> hearts <Speech_Female> and they're very <Speech_Female> open minded. <Speech_Female> And <Speech_Female> they have just <Speech_Female> seen how <Speech_Female> <Speech_Female> much Taylor <Speech_Female> loves my children <Speech_Female> and how my children <Speech_Female> love Taylor <Speech_Female> and I mean really <Speech_Female> that's their biggest <Speech_Female> concern <Speech_Female> right now, right? <Speech_Female> I mean, they have <Speech_Female> these <Speech_Female> grandchildren that have lost <Speech_Female> their father. <Speech_Female> And so to see that <Speech_Female> they have another <Speech_Female> person there that is <Speech_Female> just loving them <Speech_Female> <Speech_Female> and there for them <Speech_Female> has been <Speech_Female> really great. And they've <Speech_Female> embraced Taylor <Speech_Female> <Advertisement> into <Speech_Female> <Advertisement> their family. <Speech_Female> <Advertisement> And so <Speech_Female> <Advertisement> that's been wonderful. <Music> <Music> <Music> <Music> <Speech_Music_Female> <SpeakerChange> <Speech_Music_Female> <Speech_Female> <Advertisement> Writer <Speech_Female> <Advertisement> and former TTF <Speech_Female> <Advertisement> a guest, Kate bowler <Speech_Female> <Advertisement> once wrote <Speech_Female> <Advertisement> that a life is <Speech_Female> never finished, <Speech_Music_Female> even when <Speech_Music_Female> it's over. <Speech_Music_Female> <SpeakerChange> Together, <Speech_Female> Jeff's <Speech_Female> family and Angela <Speech_Female> and Taylor <Speech_Female> are working to raise <Speech_Music_Female> the boys and keep <Speech_Music_Female> their dad's memory alive. <Speech_Music_Female> <Speech_Female> To make sure <Speech_Female> that Jeff's life <Speech_Female> is truly never <Speech_Music_Female> finished. <Speech_Female> <Speech_Female> They do this by <Speech_Female> remembering and replicating <Speech_Female> the ways <Speech_Female> that Jeff lived. <Speech_Female> <Speech_Music_Female> Ways of living that <Speech_Music_Female> make <SpeakerChange> more sense <Speech_Music_Female> now that he's gone. <Speech_Music_Female> <Speech_Music_Female> He lived a life <Speech_Music_Female> so <Speech_Music_Female> intentionally <Speech_Music_Female> and loved life <Speech_Music_Female> that I really <Speech_Music_Female> want to carry that through <Speech_Music_Female> and he was such a <Speech_Music_Female> wise kind <Speech_Music_Female> person <Speech_Music_Female> that I want <Speech_Music_Female> to <Speech_Female> carry

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06:52 min | 11 months ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on Terrible, Thanks For Asking

"You kind of expect the emotions to come with it, but just like the physical pain of it, the physical pain of grief. And it was just like I broke down just like sobbing and just could not believe it. Just could not believe it. This doesn't happen. This doesn't happen to you. It doesn't happen to me it doesn't happen to us. That was just what I kept saying. This can't be real. And I really thought even when I went to bed that night, I thought, I'm gonna go to sleep, and I was in a hurry to go to sleep, which I thought was weird because I thought I was gonna wake up and it was gonna be a dream. During our conversation, Angela repeatedly told me that losing Jeff was her greatest fear when she was figuring out her sexuality. When she said those words, she meant losing him as a partner as a friend as her person, she never fathomed losing him forever. Never imagined what life might be like for her and the boys. If Jeff died. And in the months after losing Jeff, Angela, struggles. For all of the reasons that you would, but also because she feels like a widow and also not. I'm a widow in all of the ways that widows are dealing with all of the things that you deal with when you've lost your life partner. But because we were more platonic partners towards the end, I feel really invalid as a widow in some of the other ways that widows are, you know, I don't miss some of the things that maybe I guess quote unquote traditional widow would. And so I feel really out of place. I've been encouraged to join widow groups and I'm always afraid of trespassing. A lot of our issues are very similar, but then we take a departure in some ways. So I feel weird, I guess. And as much as we want to believe that like, oh, everybody, that there are neat categories to this to loss in general. There really aren't. There really aren't because they're complications in every kind of loss. There are circumstances that are so individual to every relationship no matter what. Some of the people in Angela's life don't seem to understand her grief. And that hurts, too. The culture, at least in the U.S., is when you end a relationship, the expectation is that you don't like that person anymore, or that one or the other has done something bad and you should hate each other and you should go separate ways. So when you still remain as deeply meaningful to each other, it's almost like what, why? It's weird because I feel like friends always feel like they have to take a side. I have to be friends with this person or I have to be friends with that person, but I can't be Friends with you both, or I can't imagine that you still would be close to each other. And so I've seen that a lot like a lot of his friends haven't reached out or even contacted me in spite of me saying, hey, I'd love to see you. I love my son to hear stories about his dad that I don't know. So that's been really difficult. And then there's Taylor, who struggles with the reality of having found Jeff that day, and was seeing Angela and the boys suffer and grieve, while also grieving Jeff herself because Jeff was a good friend to her. I am in a relationship as I'm grieving another person that I was also in a relationship with. And so there's a lot of complicated emotion surrounding that. When you're seeing someone grieve, you're also seeing how much they loved that person. And I think for Taylor, she is seeing how deep of a love that I had for Jeff, through how deeply that I'm grieving him and that can be really difficult. She's not coming into it after I've had some time to process in make peace with some of the feelings that I have she sought from the very beginning from that ultimate moment of first hearing that he's gone and then all of the things that have come after she has seen that. That has been really challenging. Taylor's experiencing grief for this person that showed her a lot of kindness and was always good to her and that they had a friendship. And people don't understand her grief as in, like, why? I mean, you should be happy, you're able to go forward with your life, maybe not happy is that the right word, but not feeling as traumatized and emotional as she is as open minded as we humans can be. We tend to have some pretty superficial ways of thinking about love. It may be that's a part of Jeff's legacy. Teaching us to think about love in a bigger way. With openness and generosity and kindness. When we talk about love and how profound it is, we have this sense that that means romantic. And I think that there can be so many different types of love that are profound and life-changing. And influential in our lives. And I remember when I came out, there was a guy that I worked with at the time. And he had been married to his wife for 17 years, and he told me when it was kind of out and about that I was gay, he said, if that was my wife, I would kick her out and I would never want anything to do with her again. And I just thought, how sad, how sad it is that you have been with someone for 17 years and those experiences that you've had for those 17 years in this life that you have built together suddenly loses all meaning and you lose all love for that person if they don't romantically want you anymore. And so for Jeff, I feel like he really lived unconditional love. He was someone who never said anything bad about anyone. He looked at someone and he thought the best things that you could think about that person. And he gave them the space to be the best that they could be. And I think that that's something that we allow often..

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03:58 min | 11 months ago

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"It's December 17th. 2020, a normal pandemic era day. Jeff had a meeting. He was working remotely. So I remember the last thing I ever heard Jeff say was get up, you need to go to school, and he was nagging our son as he'd done thousands of mornings before. So I heard him say that and I said, oh God, I gotta take him, so I need to get up. Jeff had already retreated into his room. And so Taylor and I kind of hustle bustle and we got out and we left. I messaged Jeff around 9 30 asking him about plans for Christmas. He got right back with me, and when my son got out of school, he started calling me over and over and over. Daddy's not responding. I'm trying to message him. I'm trying to call. He's not saying anything. I'm worried. And I was honestly pretty irritated. This has been a story that's played out many times and everything's always been okay, my son just tends to really be filled with dread if he doesn't know what's going on. And I had just started a new job, so I was in this place where I'm like, I really can't deal with this right now. And so I asked Taylor if she could go pick up Colton and take him home so he could see everything was okay. I thought, for sure, they're gonna get home, Colton's gonna rush in. He's gonna knock on his daddy's door, Jeff's gonna be irritated, that he's in the middle of a meeting that's getting interrupted and everything's fine. But that's not what happens. When Taylor and Colton get home, they find Jeff collapsed in the bathroom. Taylor called Angela right away. I hear in her voice, she's terrified, and she's just saying, Jeff's passed out, come home, come home, come home. I tell her hang up, call 9-1-1. I tried to call my older son, ask him when the last time he had any kind of communication. Of course, he's a teenager, so he's like, I don't know. I'm trying not to freak him out. So I'm just like, okay, okay, I'll talk to you later. And I'm just kind of in problem solving mode right now. I'm just frantic. I'm thinking Jeff's just passed out. Some things happened. I need to figure things out until I have a full scope. I'm by the hospital. I can be really close, but what if he's going to be taken to a hospital in a bigger town? Someone needs to go get our son because I can only imagine how freaked out he is with ambulances arriving and all of this. So I'm just trying to coordinate all these pieces and I do it from afar. And the next call that I get was from Taylor and she's just a wreck. I can hear it. I can hear that she's sobbing. I can barely make out what she's saying. She's just says he's gone. I'm sorry. He's gone. You need to come home. You need to come home. She keeps saying that over and over and over again. And I remember I was like, do you have my van? I can't, I can't just go. You always think you know how you're going to process. If someone ever tells you the most important person in your life is gone. I thought I would be that type. I'm going to scream. I'm going to get to the ground. I'm going to be pulling out my hair. I'm going to be screaming to God, passing out. I mean, I don't know. I just felt like my reaction would probably be this dramatic occurrence and instead I was I just was so like out of my body. I couldn't believe it. I was in I gotta get home. I gotta figure this out. What am I going to do with the kids? My mind was just focused on all these very practical things in that moment. And I could not accept that it was real. He's.

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02:46 min | 11 months ago

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"He wants the kids to have stability. He thinks they can all work together as a team to continue raising this family. What if he asks Taylor could move in with all of them? And even though it sounds wild to some of us, it works. But I think the fact that my kids were able to remain in the house with their two parents made a huge difference. Because I think a lot of times in divorce, it's not even that they're upset that their parents aren't in love anymore. But more so that their parents are now in two separate places and they have to decide in their life looks totally different, where for my kids, it was the same as they'd always known just with this kind of fun extra cool person. Taylor and I lived in one room and then Jeff lived in another room on the other side of the house. And I feel because we're all busy adults, we settled into this routine of daily life, you know, going to work and coming home and having a list of hobbies that we partake in and getting the kids to school. I feel that really cuts the awkwardness because you get swept into the day to day life that you don't really have time to dwell on anything else. You're just caught up like I've got to do this and then I've got to do this and then I've got to do this. And we settled into this rhythm where we just started taking turns doing things. We started having fires almost every night. We have a fire pit and we would start a fire in all sit around the fire and we would talk politics or share stories from high school and it really felt so wholesome, I guess. It was like, here's a different type of family. And we're just doing things that you do when you're in a family. You have backyard fires and you play board games and you take turns doing the dishes and going to the grocery store and dropping kids off at school and it was almost like how did we ever do this with just two people before? Because really having three people in a house with children is a real luxury. This arrangement sounds idyllic. I looked up that word. It means extremely happy, peaceful. It is the perfect description of Angela Jeff, Taylor, kids, their whole setup. And then march 2020 hits. Jeff begins permanently working from home, and the business that angel and Taylor were running together, closes. Because pandemic. And it's during this time that Jeff and Taylor have.

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06:22 min | 11 months ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on Terrible, Thanks For Asking

"Like, you need to let me know you're okay. And if things aren't okay, I will come get you. Angela is on all the dating apps and sees a few women here and there. And it's exciting, but nothing super serious. And for her two sons, things at home are business as usual. Mom and dad live together, mom and dad are both happy and they love each other. And on the weekends, mom, sometimes goes out and does her own thing. The kids don't know that their mom is gay. Then, in 2019, Angela goes to a gay bar during Pride Month. I actually went with Jeff's sister, we went together. After the parade, we went to this gay bar down there. And I'd gone a couple times before. Jeff's sister knew that I was gay and she was very supportive. So that was really cool. To have someone in Jeff's family that knew our situation and supported me and wasn't angry about this. You know, revelation within our relationship and then I ended up meeting someone there, Taylor, and she was dancing with friends on the dance floor. It was early in the afternoon. So it wasn't packed yet. I was checking her out. I was attracted to her. I'm pretty shy, so it's kind of trying to like buy my time and try to figure out when an opportunity to maybe say hi was. So she stepped outside to go smoke and I took that as an opportunity to try to casually go outside for air and I made a comment about a Jean jacket she was wearing and we just started talking. And then we ended up going back in and dancing and that led to kissing. And then we ended up back at her place. Angela falls in love with Taylor. Pretty much immediately. Taylor caught me by a surprise. I was not expecting to meet someone that made me feel the way Taylor did. Honestly, I was not looking for relationship when Jeff and I opened our relationship. I was just thinking this might be a way to satisfy this part of myself, physically and still remain within my marriage and still remain partnered with this person that I love and that I have a life with. Angela had planned on compartmentalizing her sexuality, just scratching the edge during private time away from her husband and their sons. But the situation she's in with Taylor reminds me of an Emily Dickinson, the one that goes, the heart wants what it wants. And when I met Taylor, it just threw me for a loop because I was feeling things that were deeper than what you feel for someone that you have a one night stand with. She was just quirky and funny and she just like made my heart skip a beat and gave me butterflies and I remember thinking if I can make this girl feel like this forever, I will just die happy. And I just felt so light being around her. And it just took me by surprise. When Angela tells Jeff about Taylor, Jeff is supportive. He's happy she's found this new kind of love in addition to the unique platonic love that they share as husband and wife. Taylor lives an hour and a half away from Angela, so their relationship is just weekend visits. And it's like this for 6 months. And as their relationship grows, Angela and Jeff's relationship evolves to. My relationship with Jeff was still very deep. I mean, we were a part of each other's life every day. And in some ways the same way as it always had been constantly checking in with each other, spending time together, but we began to become more distant in a romantic sense. So there were ways where we were physically affectionate with each other always, even after I came out and that really started to taper off. And so that's kind of the way that we transformed our own relationship, especially the more got with Taylor, because once I started dating Taylor, I definitely was not romantic with Jeff, especially the physical intimacy had ended quite some time before then. But there were little ways where we were affectionate. And I was trying to respect Taylor. So I really cut that off. He just always remained so supportive, really even like walking me through like when we'd have arguments. He would take Taylor's side and he'd say, sometimes you're like this and maybe you should do this. Once it's clear that Angela and Taylor are in it for the long haul, Angela and Jeff tell the boys. Mom is gay, and she's dating a woman. Kids are so much more accepting now. And they don't view it as a lifestyle. Like people my age often do, even today, they view it as a part of who you are. And so he was very accepting. He didn't question it. He didn't treat it like a choice. My youngest son is on the spectrum. And he's social maturity is much lower. And so he has always kind of just viewed Taylor, no matter what he's told is like up until recently as in the last 6 months. He's like, that's mommy's friend. And doesn't even think anything. It's like he's unfazed by all of it. The boys like Taylor, but it's hard to be driving back and forth every weekend. Angela hates missing out on time with the kids, and Taylor is having a tough time financially. So Jeff comes up with a solution..

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03:06 min | 11 months ago

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"You based on your wardrobe choices because that's what we do as women. And it's like even higher level when you want to attract that woman. And when we get back, Angela is going to try to attract a woman, sit tight. You know what I love? I love rockies. First of all, rothes makes some of my favorite shoes. They're the super, super comfy, no break in best colors best style shoes that are made from materials like recycled water bottles. Every time I wear my roths, I get a compliment, especially now I'm traveling a little bit and I always wear them on the airplane. Somebody always asks about them. I also love. They've got this cute little zipper pouch. I was planning to buy one for my mother in law but sherry went and bought one for herself. And also, good news, rothy shoes are not just for women anymore. They have men's sneakers and men's driving loafers. These are the ones that you can put in the wash in the washing machine to help usher you into the season of fall. If you have fall where you live, which I do not rotate is doing something special. They gave us the chance to give a very rare deal to you for a limited time, which is 20 bucks off your first purges at raw these dot com slash terrible that's rot dot com slash terrible head you rot these dot com slash terrible to find your new favorites today. After some right swiping and chatting and yes, picking out clothes. Angela is about to go on her first ever date with a woman. They meet at a little restaurant on a Lake, because both of them live in rural areas where the dating pools aren't exactly deep. Angela's date had to drive several hours into town. And the date is. Good. They have a lot to talk about. They have a lot in common and the experience completely shifts Angela's perception of relationships of dating of herself. I had finally figured it out. The experience I'd had with this stranger, which always was an uncomfortable concept for me was so different than any of the experiences that I'd had with men. It was like everything before leading up to that was almost like forced. I just started believing that women don't experience pleasure the way they show in movies and TV and that it was like this myth perpetuated by the patriarchy that that was not actually the way that sex was and that we were all feeling that way. And then I just realized I'm like, no. I am just gay. I'm gay, and I am supposed to like sex just a different kind. That's all. Angela's.

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05:51 min | 11 months ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on Terrible, Thanks For Asking

"Why is she feeling this way? Is it buyers remorse about the house? Is it something about their marriage? Or is it something else entirely? And I started to think about how throughout our marriage, there were times where we really struggled with physical intimacy. It was a common problem. There was one period where we even went three years without physical sexual intimacy and I started thinking could this be a problem with me? Could I possibly be gay? And I feel like a lot of people have this idea that when you come out and you're gay, it's like this moment where you just wake up and you're like, I'm gay. It's really like a process. And it's a long process. For some of us, we're able to embrace it early on in our lives and never go through this series of toxic relationships where we're uncomfortable and not really sure why. But for some of us it happens like with me where you're in a relationship and you're struggling and at that moment, it was really just trying to figure it out and trying to really, what do I do with this? Because my biggest fear was losing Jeff. And I didn't want to do anything that would sacrifice my relationship with Jeff. I loved him my whole world was wrapped around him. He was my best friend, my soulmate, so even coming to this, it was like simultaneously kind of liberating and trying to look back at my life and maybe put things in perspective of could this be and what are these things that maybe hint that it is this, but also just terrifying because at any point, my partner, the person that I love could say, I'm not dealing with this, you know, I'm gone. He could. He could and hardly anyone would blame him. Not even Angela. But I do recall, lying in bed with him and just looking over and saying, what if I'm gay? And I remember he was very adamant. You are not gay. You might be by and if that's the case, we'll figure it out. It's gonna be okay. And that's where he kind of thought if we need to open up our relationship and allow you to figure this out. We'll get there. And we'll just take this one step at a time. I had a lot of fears about what Jeff would do or how he would react. But I don't think I expected anything less from him because he has always been an unconditionally supportive partner. Every dream I have ever had no matter how outlandish he would throw his support. He was always sacrificing for our relationship for our family and so I guess it didn't surprise me, but it definitely relieved me how supportive he was. These conversations in realizations don't happen overnight, or even over the course of a week. For 8 months, Angela processes her feelings and talks them through with Jeff. She realizes she's always been attracted to women. But for decades, she wrote that office envy or jealousy, not physical attraction. Men have never particularly interested Angela, even with Jeff who she describes throughout our conversation as her soulmate, their relationship clicks in a way that isn't all that romantic. At the end of those 8 months, Jeff suggests that Angela explore her sexuality. He doesn't want to be with anyone else. But he does want her to be happy and satisfied, so they decide to open up their marriage. And for Angela, this is terrifying. I didn't want to lose Jeff. That was my worst nightmare. I would rather be closeted. I would rather never even look at another person than lose him. It's just he meant that much to me. There is no one that would ever be more important than he was. Angela is also scared because dating is scary. And it's especially scary when you're figuring out your sexuality later in life and you've never dated women before, and when you haven't dated anyone in over a decade. Well, things have certainly changed since the last time that I had dated. I grew up in this time of AOL chat rooms and you were really discouraged from doing anything like this, but I started with Tinder. And Tinder is a weird place for anybody, but especially for a gay woman in a rural town. If you are a straight anybody, man, woman, and you're on Tinder, you have a plethora of swiping to do. You could just, I mean, even in my rule town, you could swipe, swipe, swipe, fish, fish, fish. It's just it's never ending. Never ending. Also, fish is not metaphorical. We are talking about literal men holding fish, holding which someone needs to tell me why that is, and I've definitely gone into the psychology of what each fish means about that person. Are the small ones? Just joking and the big ones like this is saying something about something I don't know. If.

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Terrible, Thanks For Asking

04:01 min | 11 months ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on Terrible, Thanks For Asking

"About two years, and like lots of people who fall in love but not all of them. Jeff and Angela decide to get married and have kids. Jeff was the type of dad that really bucked the typical gender norms. He really was very egalitarian with the way he approached parenting. Like, even though he at the beginning was the one working and I was staying home. He would be up in the middle of the night with the baby. He would be watching the baby on the weekends so that I could get a break. I would say that he was honestly the more maternal one of the two of us. Just emotional and kind and warm, where I was more kind of like hard and practical, at least when it came to parenting, more disciplinarian, it wasn't, wait, till dad gets home. Wait till mom gets home. So he just believed that it was a team effort and supported me unconditionally in whatever I needed to do to be happy even if that meant embracing an identity that extended beyond being a mother. When I went to school, I had to spend three semesters in a different town, finishing my college education. And so he was home with the kids and he was working and he was managing everything. Why was off, finishing my degree? And people would tell me all the time. Your husband's watching your kids. I can't believe he's doing that. My husband would never do that. And it was just something he did without complaint. It's like this is what I'm here for. I'm here to support you and I'm a parent. This is 21st century conversations that you're having where people are still flabbergasted by the idea of a mom, leaving temporarily, right to build something for herself. It will also benefit her family, but to essentially go work. Meanwhile, men do that stuff all the time and no one says to a wife like, oh my God, I can't believe you're just holding things down at home while your husband goes and you know, works on an oil rig or gets on a plane every week to go do sales calls for it's so it's astonishing to me that that is still such an outlier. That's exactly what Jeff is. He's an outlier. A man who supports his wife and her dreams and goals and ambitions and who loves being home with the kids. I too have an outlier at home. His name is Matthew, so I totally understand why Angela loves Jeff so much. He thought parenting was a team effort. And he also loved me. And he wanted to see me happy. And so he was going to do anything to make my dreams come true. That was the one thing about him. I mean, I could have came home and said, I want to be a rocket scientist. And if you know me, that's just the most laughable thing in the world. But he would have went out and researched how I could make that happen. Programs nearby that he could enroll me in and how he could support me. And he was that type of parent as well. He really lived to make other people happy and just lived unconditional love. Angela and Jeff have by pretty much any definition. An awesome marriage. They have the same life goals the same ideologies, they have the kind of relationship where you don't need to be physically together 24 7 to know that you're in each other's corner. Their life together is peaceful. It just works. Or it does. Until just after their tenth anniversary. That's when Angela starts feeling conflicted about their relationship. She and Jeff are in the process of buying their first home together. And it all just seems off..

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"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

KTAR 92.3FM

02:37 min | 1 year ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

"My will on the game game to set for six o'clock tomorrow night Sons Arena, You can hear it on idea at seven FM Arizona Sports station. Live the new Senator Jim Cross. Katie. Our news As you heard from ABC, the U. S Supreme Court decided with a group of former college athletes in a dispute with the N C. A over rules limiting certain compensation limits on the education related benefits that colleges can offer athletes who play division one basketball and football can no longer be enforced. Former A s U quarterback Rudy Carpenter tells Katie are to give them you know, much better access to internships without being violations. All of these things I think are really, really good. An important for players. Students still can't be paid salaries but can receive benefits like computers, tutoring and studying abroad without being punished. The telegraph Fire South of Globe has now burned 180,000 acres with 67% containment. The fire has been burning. Since it started June 4th near superior 51 structures have been lost. Phoenix Public Library, expanding its hours starting today. Phoenix Library's closed in March of last year due to the pandemic before curbside service was launched Two months later. In May of this year, the buildings were reopened with limited hours, except for the South Mountain Community College branch, which remains closed. Now 16 of the branches are getting back to normal. Returning to all in building service, view your location and accept dated hours on our website at K k r dot com. Julie The Vin Katie a R news Get an update on traffic. Now as we go live to the Valley Chevy dealers Traffic center. Here's Monica read. Well, Jeff, we have a few new collisions. The latest is 35th Avenue and Bethany Home Road to avoid any slowing there. You can take 43rd Avenue or use Camelback at Northern and 21st Avenue on motorcycle accident And then we've got a collision at Durango and 31st Avenue. Your alternate there would be Buckeye Road. Happy Valley still closed between Scottsdale Road and Pima Road for an accident investigation. This support is sponsored by summit. Male medical traffic is not getting any better. Neither will your erectile dysfunction are low testosterone symptoms without the help of some male medical go to summit. Male medical dot com. I Monica read K T a r news Sunny today with a high of 109 Tonight Clear the low 85 right now in Phoenix. Sunny skies 94 degrees. Weather is brought to you. By Howard Air Weather Replace a repair call Howard Air I'm Jeff Mine on Arizona's news station, K to our New Year's strong values and strong opinions. The MIC boom head show.

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KTAR 92.3FM

01:33 min | 1 year ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

"Is a good alternate to get around that crash scene Larry Lewis. Key to our news, probably skies today with a high of 75 tonight clear the low 40 of 52, then partly cloudy skies for the remainder of the week. With temperatures in the mid seventies, right on through Friday. There's a chance of showers in the forecast on Saturday. In fact, the chance of showers will continue Saturday through Monday, Right now in Glendale. Partly cloudy skies 70 degrees weather is brought to you by Howard Air. Reminder. We're monitoring developments in the opening day of the second impeachment trial of President Donald Trump. The impeachment managers currently arguing the trial's constitutionality will bring you highlights throughout the afternoon and then tonight at seven. Join US for an ABC News special re capping Day one Every day you get three K p A R news expansions at eight noon and five. It's 15 minutes of commercial free, nonstop news, traffic and weather brought to you by Sweet James, the People's Accident attorney. I'm Jeff Mine in two minutes. Financial and family advice from Dave Ramsey on Katya our news, introducing touch free payments from PayPal a safe way for your customers to pay. Simply download the papal app and display your own unique You are code for your customers to scan whether you're a market seller, Poodle pamper piano tuner. Or plumber. Signing up to accept touch free payments for your business is easy Touch freak. You are code payments.

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KTAR 92.3FM

02:53 min | 1 year ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

"I found the key to our new zap your breaking news and traffic. Now it's one o'clock. I'm Jeff Mine. Here's our top stories. Coronavirus in Arizona after weeks of being a hot spot for the virus could Arizona's latest coronavirus metrics be assigned that an end is in sight? Weeks Coronavirus Hospital metrics have climbed, but today show early signs that metrics may be trending down Cove in 19 related in patients. Until later use and ICU bed use have all dropped steadily over the past several days. The statewide weekly percent positivity also dropped a bit to 22%. This comes is 5400 new cases and negative one new deaths were reported this morning. They lurk. Interrupt key to our news in honor of Martin Luther King Jr Day, the president and CEO of the Valley of the Sun United Way, Carla Vargas Johnson tells Katie A are they want today to be a day on rather than a day off encouraging service in the community, unable to provide 13 ways for families, individuals to volunteer virtually those range from writing a note to local teachers, local house care workers or health care workers activities for the family to promote community kindness and equality. He can be found at V s u W dot or G'kar. Now, let's get an update on traffic as we had live to the Valley Chevy Dealers Traffic Center Here's Larry Lewis. Well, Jeff, we've got a collision on Ironwood right around us. 60 that is restricted the on and off ramps in that area. So be aware that from the 60 westbound 10 eastbound still a bit on the slow side. If you make your way from the stack interchange over towards Seventh Avenue in Indian School at Litchfield Road, gotta crash there. This report sponsored by Szilvia looking for a beverage that is full of flavor and fun with no bad stuff with Zeb. You can have it all credible flavors. Refreshing choices. Always zero sugar and zero calories. Szilvia, Live your bed. Larry Lewis, Katya Our news Partly cloudy skies today with a high of 73 Tonight Clear the low 45 Tomorrow cloudy with a 30% chance of rain and a high of 69 right now in Phoenix. Partly cloudy skies 68 degrees. Weather is brought to you by Howard Air when the replace or repair call Howard Air. Jeff Mon on Arizona's new station, K T A R news. What's Valentine's Day? All about anyway? This year, whether it's a new crush or your soulmate make it about love. Give a gift of fine jewelry that can be personalized just for her. Why not engrave the date you met on a 14 karat gold heart or give her a gorgeous pendant necklace? With her birthstone or a color she loves Shane Cos natural sapphires have exceptional vibrancy, and we have over a dozen colors or build her a necklace.

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"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

KTAR 92.3FM

01:30 min | 1 year ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

"It's 12 30. I'm Jeff Mine. Here's our top story. Coronavirus in Arizona today. Arizona is reporting its second highest single day, increasing coronavirus deaths, 153 new deaths reported today. This comes second only to the deaths reported on July 30th at 1 72. This means Arizona has now surpassed more than 8000. Total deaths with 8125 reported since the beginning of the pandemic 5859 new cases also recorded today. After more than about 14,800 new diagnostic tests were processed overnight. Today. Arizona also surpassed more than 4000 coronavirus in patients, the state's highest impatient total since the pandemic began. Taylor Kepner up Katya our news. We continue to see a surgeon coronavirus cases from Thanksgiving and Governor Doug Ducey is asking Arizonans to do their part to stop the spread as we head into the holiday weekend. Let's keep our healthcare workers safe and let's keep our loved ones safe. There's light at the end of the tunnel, but we have to keep our guard up. You can do this by following the recommended guidelines by limiting large gathering, celebrating outdoors and wearing a mask. Three Arizona Republican Congressman Paul Goes our Andy Biggs and David Schweikert were among the 53 representatives who voted against the coronavirus stimulus. Ghosts are said it provides hundreds of millions of dollars in aid. Foreign governments like Israel when the money could be spent here in the checkout traffic.

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"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

KTAR 92.3FM

01:36 min | 2 years ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

"A T A R news. Now it's 1 30 on Jeff Mine. Here's our top stories. Coronavirus in Arizona Horizon Education. Another Valley school district is moving to remote on Lee classes. Starting tomorrow, Glenda Union High School District moves to virtual learning because of rising coronavirus cases and metrics and the red in America. But county the percent positivity rate went up to nearly 12% up from 9.5 last week. Shifting the school district to a remote learning model. It will be in effect through December. 17th and we visited before the start of the second semester. Martha Mauer, Katya our news, You can go to Katie Jr dot com to learn more about Valley schools going online State health director Dr Cara Chris says she's extremely concerned about how Thanksgiving will impact Arizona's rising rising covert cases. She says. Arizonans are understandably tired of the pandemic one ticket together with their family and friends, and now we've identified that that is a significant risk. And so we do anticipate seeing additional increases after Thanksgiving Miracle. The county attorney Alistair Adele, making big strides in a recovery, her team says she's responding well to treatment and his alerting communicating. They say she will continue to receive world class neurological care to help her make the best possible recovery. The Adele family continues to ask for her privacy update on traffic. Now as we head live to the Valley Chevy Dealers traffic center Here's Larry Lewis. Well, Jeff, we had a crash and the one on one West found right at the 17 transition ramp. It looks like that just cleared in the last couple of minutes. So that's good news..

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"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

KTAR 92.3FM

06:17 min | 2 years ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

"I'm Jeff mine on Arizona's new station KTAR news do you want to hear the new rules while playing golf no more ball washing well silence that yeah you mean golf balls on it which means that's what I'm there I was so good working with it really was that's real this is the Gatos and Chad show I'm all for the next couple days so as they could make this big show today I got you covered you did say that yesterday yeah we've got the governor of Arizona three o'clock press conference must listen to maybe the press conference of his career and we're gonna find out if he's got a plan something that we've been asking for weeks what is your plan for covert nineteen and what is your plan for the spike and there hasn't been a plan don't you know what there's a plan because we got it right here I got it I got it right he tweeted protect yourself protect others help contain the spread of hashtag covert nineteen wear a mask hash tag mask up AC supply I got it it's not a plan if you put it on Twitter it's not now now let me tell you the only person who can get away with putting a plan on Twitter is president trump yeah because everybody pays attention to it as I've always said it's not enough to tweet something unless you're trump because that everybody looks at it so here's the deal at three o'clock the governor is going to come out today we've got record numbers of cove it we might be the worst place in the world for covert now is what's I think I'll Harvard researchers said that just earlier today right it's great I'm so are you ready for what he should do you should walk out a mask it's it's it's interesting K. not listen we don't know what he's going to do a three o'clock if he'd if governor Ducey believes that we should mask up if he really believes that this is gonna stop stop or slow the spread he's got a walk out in a mask sit down at the table take the mask off into his press conference that's what I would do if I were him he's really serious about having all of you wear a mask then that's what he should do now is he going to do it I would say probably not but that's what I would do because I'll give you this here's the Harvard epidemiologist Hussein Arizona is quote one of the hardest hit regions in the world end quote when it comes to the corona virus are Arizona hospitalizations fifteen hundred new York's New York fifteen hundred thirty eight we're almost as bad as New York right now gonna overtake them in the next few days so this is how serious covert is in Arizona how serious will the governor take it this is the first time that he's kinda tweeted this mask thing out and it's all anybody's talking about his baskets you are you an anti massacre should you wear a mask do not worry masters at work should you know that you told me this one thing you to gotta start wearing a mask that's what it seems coming out of the governor's office I don't know where he's been on this I don't know why he hasn't done this weeks ago but we'll see what he wears a dare to wear a mask so here's my thing if I place asked me to wear a mask I'm gonna wear a mask I try to remember sometimes I forget quite frankly that confine my masters one of those things I was wearing my soccer scarf because I could work you know fight I am respectful of where people ask if you want me to wear a mask between the building in my car not gonna do it sorry if you ask me to wear a mask in your in your place of business I have zero problem with that at your place of business are respected rules but where where you asked me to wear this okay well here's the here's the thing we'll even bring that up or will he leave it in a gray area where he's left a lot of things in a gray area okay you can go and give I can give you twenty five different examples if you got it if I got to go to Walgreens tonight and I gotta pick some soap up because I'm out of soap right I'm gonna wear a mask and yes I'm going to wear a mask and is there a chance I'll forget it yeah there's probably a chance I could forget it we're all forgetting it's a new kind of world out there but I'm gonna wear a mask I think what we need from do you see today is some leadership I think we need from Ducey today is he's got to almost cell Arizonans why do we need to wear a mask because he's really late to the party he needs to mean it he needs to be raw he needs to come out and be convincing today and not just give us the B. S. from last week of well you know if you're not six feet away from somebody you should probably wear a mask not tough enough I don't know if he'll mandate it I'm not big on mandating things I don't know if there's any teeth to that he collated but he's got he's got to deliver something today well first of all he's got to address stuff with this is what it really looks like I want to know some real data I had some people send me stuff today they were here in Arizona St look at though we're talking about one hospitalized to use if you look across the board the SI's you beds are not all that they're cracked up to be what does that mean yeah I'm trying to find it was redeveloped which today that there are some some places that I see you beds are there's more than enough if needed so you can just focus on one let's see what he delivers because what I often see is a partial delivery he gives us a little bit of this and a little bit of that I'm not quite sure exactly what he's throwing out there and it's been like everything he should use it to make him you know Hey this is why we did this this is why we did that right so what are these the positive test how does he spend that is he gonna say it can't just be we're testing more now it's not that because that's my thing is arsenal yeah well this person can't that can't be the only thing right I mean we two thousand three hundred ninety two yesterday let's see we had today eighteen.

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"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

KTAR 92.3FM

03:20 min | 2 years ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

"One I'm Jeff mine here's our top story hundreds gathering in Tempe last night calling on the city council the phone the police KTA ours Taylor camera was there and joins us live in the news center with more yeah Jeff protesters an organizer say they were disappointed but not surprised the city council delayed their annual budget vote until July twenty fifth as protesters March along mill Avenue the city council held a nearly nine minute moment of silence in honor of George Floyd and declared June nineteenth a city holiday but protesters in public commenters say that's not enough they want the city council to define the Tempe police one former police officer said we cannot have justice for all if we allow some to decide this for themselves many protesters told me they'd come back in July and protest despite the summer heat last night the city of Tempe also set up water stations to make sure to keep those protesters hydrated live in the new center Taylor can arrive KTAR news coronavirus in Arizona long term care facilities have been a hot spot for corona virus in Arizona and eight A. R. P. wants funding from the cares act to be used for inspectors in Arizona nursing homes Dana Kennedy with a a RP says that we don't truly know how nursing homes are doing and inspectors will be able to tell us if long term care staff have enough PP and how they're handling covert nineteen patients KD es our eyes on the economy one day after falling eighteen hundred points stocks rebounded a bit this morning at the opening valley economist Elliott Pollack expects to see a lot of volatility in the coming months as the economy emerges from the pandemic think this still looks like it might you swore the recovery will be quick at first but it's getting hit a lot of bumps with supply chains with people run out of money with not everybody being called back to work Pollock says the stock market may have been overly valued over the past few weeks is more more states every open their economies the current Dow Jones industrials totals are up two hundred twenty three points new research from triple a says drivers who have been in at least one accident in the past two years or more likely to engage in risky behaviors like speeding or texting while driving even when they think police may catch them data they've gathered says ninety six percent of respondents admitted to driving while texting or when they were too tired to even keep their eyes open trouble a a result recommends you keep your phone out of sight stay alert and always wear your seat belt and on the subject of traffic let's get the latest on the Friday morning commute live from the valley Chevy dealers traffic center with detour Dan beach and we're finally getting back some Friday lighter weight yeah it's about time to because we've had a really bumpy commute the freeway still have a few little bumps on but very minor eastbound I. ten Lichfield road exit ramp there still a single vehicle off right from an earlier crash westbound I. ten west of forty eighth street we've got a few vehicles that remain off the right from an earlier wreck there and I. ten eastbound out the sixty Seventh Avenue on ramp up at the top of the on ramp it looks like we've got a crash a stay left restriction if you're entering the freeway right there and it does look like we've got a crash now coming in over at twentieth street and Indian school the traffic report is brought to you by C. B. S. get a free one to two day delivery on prescriptions and store essential from CVS visit us online or call your local CVS to learn more restrictions apply deterred and.

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"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

KTAR 92.3FM

01:30 min | 2 years ago

"jeff mine" Discussed on KTAR 92.3FM

"Two happy Monday to ya I'm Jeff mine in for Jim Sharpe Jim's taken a day off he'll be back tomorrow right now it's at the valley Chevy dealers traffic center get the latest on the commute with Danny Sullivan and right now you do have an accident in the clearing stages it is on I. ten eastbound east of the loop three oh three it's all up to the right hand side of the freeway you know what I don't see a whole lot of slowing going on they're trying to make it past the accident so you're going to be just fine over there also I seventeen you still have restrictions all due to roadwork project going on on the seventeen southbound between Seventh Avenue and seventh street you're going to slow down there because the left lane is blocked for that construction work going on also crews still cleaning up some debris and the data that the US sixty westbound ramp that leads to eastbound I. ten is temporarily blocked off this report is brought to you by gateway community college gateway community college is expanding its footprint with a new location at eighteenth street at Van Buren nurse assisting pharmacy tech and more start in August visit the gateway CC dot EDU date way in Maricopa community college Danny Sullivan KTAR news sunny skies today with a high of one hundred tonight clear the low seventy two right now sunny skies seventy nine degrees in Goodyear weather's brought to you by Howard air there is only this morning news news flash I'm Jamie west here's what you need to know right now a dangerous situation in the.

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