35 Burst results for "Janet"
Is the Economy Tumbling Towards a Recession?
"Welcome to the Hugh Hewitt show, great to be with you today. Lots to discuss, not necessarily including backyard generator, but we've got actually a, we've got to generate our question of our own today, which is, what does this economy generating? Is it going to, is it going to continue to generate rapid growth as Janet Yellen promised yesterday? Or as a recession coming as a previous democratic grocery secretary promise. Now, you've got really two different really two very different looks at this coming to you from democratic press secretary treasury secretaries. Let's take a listen to Janet Yellen yesterday talking about what her outlook is on the economy. And the economy to slow, it's been growing at a very rapid rate as the economy is the labor market is recovered and we've reached full employment. Well, I'm not exactly sure how much you can squeeze into that 12 second clip. So that's not correct. First off, we haven't reached full employment. I mean, honestly, this is just math. All you have to do is go to the bureau of labor statistics and take a look at the numbers and you'll know that we haven't reached full employment just on a static basis. We are about 900,000 jobs short of where we started in February 2020.
Treasury Secretary "recession not inevitable"
"The treasury secretary addresses the possibility of a recession There it is that R word again I don't think a recession is at all it all inevitable Treasury secretary Janet Yellen on the delicate dance being done by fed chair Jerome Powell as interest rates go up His goal is to bring inflation down while maintaining a strong labor market that's going to take skill and luck but I believe it's possible Yellen spoke on ABC's this week with George Stephanopoulos I'm Shelley
Warning: Biden Threatens Venezuelan-Style Socialism
"That one plus one is two. Unbelievable hello, everyone, welcome to the Trish Regan show. We're going to talk about that today. Plus, we get to talk about the Federal Reserve and these rate hikes and what it's going to mean for the markets. What it's going to mean for the economy. I think Democrats have figured out meanwhile they can't run Joe. There's no way no how they can run Joe Biden because of the economic disaster that we are in. I also have a warning for you today because I believe we are already in recession. We're going to get to all of that a quick reminder portions of today's program were brought to you by legacy precious metals. There's never been a better time to invest in precious metals than right now given all this inflation that's here and not going away no matter what the photo reserve does. So take a look at legacy p.m. investment dot com today. Again, that's legacy p.m. investments dot com. We'll talk a little bit more about gold and investing coming up. But first of all, this news from Joe Biden because this one takes the cake. I'm sorry, I get that yes, screw that. I get that Janet Yellen who frankly should have known better as your treasury secretary. She screwed up. And I get that Jerome Powell screwed up. I mean, it's sort of amazing given the so called training these people have in economics that they didn't see the handwriting on the wall. I mean, I've been sitting here telling you for almost two years now, we would see major, major inflation double digit inflation, which of course we've gotten wholesale prices again this week and 8.6%, 8.3% now in terms of consumer prices, it is outrageous. Well, his answer to it all is to effectively just take over the oil companies, right? That's what a good socialist does, I guess. Only it hasn't worked so well in the past. I mean,
Laxalt's Nevada win sets up fierce race for Senate control
"Former president Trump scores in some of yesterday's primaries where he backed candidates in South Carolina Trump helped score a victory for Russell fry and in the process knocked out 5 term incumbent congressman Tom rice who backed his second impeachment But another incumbent that the former president sought to defeat in a neighboring district represented Nancy mace held back the challenger in Nevada Trump's pick former state attorney general Adam laxalt who has embraced lies about the 2020 election won the nomination for a pivotal Senate seat against a candidate endorsed by the states Republican Party in Maine Republican former governor Paul Lepage who boasts he was Trump before Trump wants his old job back and won the primary setting up a showdown with Democrat incumbent Janet mills I'm Julie
What Happens When Arrogant Leaders Ruin a Stable Economy?
"Donald Trump lived as a realist. He lived in a world that was anchored by the laws of physics by the laws of mathematics by the laws of biology. Now, mind you, most of you also live in that world. Whether you are a Carpenter or a mechanic, an accountant, most of our audience, all of you have to live by certain truths. Whereas the Democrat party is ruled by people that don't have to live by those truths. Janet Yellen being one of them. Jerome Powell, being another. They don't have to live by the laws of nature and nature's God. Money is nothing more than a construct, gender is nothing more than a colonialist oppression tradition. One of the reasons why Donald Trump was able to create such a booming economies, yes, of course, he was a businessman, but he also knew bad ideas when he saw them. Like, wait a second, we can create money out of thin air. That doesn't make any sense. We keep on offshoring manufacturing in China, that doesn't make any sense. He had what is the word that defines good leaders prudence. I believe Ron DeSantis has prudence as well. Comes from a Greek word, which means prudentia now what you have right now though is a very dangerous combination running The White House. Is you have a arrogant, ignorant, ideological crusade, being basically deploying on America and America is the experiment. America right now is the experiment of how far can ideology take you. So ideology, especially if it's rooted in the belief that nature is not stable. Will very quickly and rapidly destroy your civilization. So what should concern all of us is that these radical ideas started to get inserted into the zeitgeist, which really is the spirit of the times, when our economy was booming. Now that we're getting to an unstable point, I think that we're going to start to see even more radical ideas, our job as conservatives hopefully take people back to reality and anchor them to truth,
Elaine Parker: Americans Don't Need the Jan. 6 Committee Hearings
"My gosh, inflation, 40 year high gas $5 a gallon. In the history of America, we've never had the national average of gas at $5 a gallon. No wonder the Democrats hope will be distracted by January 6th hearings. Absolutely, Mike, thanks for having me. And that's what we were saying last week when this hearing was coming up, this televised circus because it's everything that the American people didn't want to hear. What they want to hear is how is this administration going to solve the inflation problem? How is this administration going to solve the supply chain crisis? How are they going to solve high gas prices? And the reality is all of this is smoke and mirrors because they don't have a plan. They don't have a plan to solve any of these problems. And it's very clear because we even heard Janet Yellen in her hearings last week, admit that she was wrong. She was wrong about inflation. So we finally hear them admit what job creators network has been saying for well over a year about inflation. It's not transitory. It's not only here to stay, but it's increasing on us. And instead of the administration bringing in a group of experts to solve all these very important problems for the American people, they're bringing in a group of communicators to message better to the American people and spin all of this bad news so that somehow we believe that things are going well and that the economic policies of this administration are actually helping the American people. And I just don't think the American people are that dumb. Unfortunately, our administration does, but I don't.
World Bank Delivers Grim News on Inflation
"Janet Yellen and World Bank expect elevated inflation to persist. Global growth expected to slow as prices rise increasing risk of stagflation, bank president said treasury secretary Janet Yellen, mister Wall Street Journal, warned that the U.S. is likely to face a prolonged period of elevated inflation. Thank you, Joe Biden. Thank you, Democrats for passing $4 trillion in spending that we did not need last year. Fuel on the Barbie and you got what you wanted. New York Times headlines, slightly different. Yellen defends pandemic spending as inflation persists. Of course, you're going to defend it. But she said I was wrong about inflation, but she can't really say Joe Biden's a bumbling clown and we're in trouble.
US Markets Head Back to Negative Territory
"Com. All right, let's get started on this market because you know what? I told you, I didn't buy the rally that we were seeing. I think it was a very short lived bounce. We got the market back in negative territory. No surprise really, given where we are on oil. I want to highlight that. First and foremost, because you know that I have predicted a $130 a barrel on crude oil, which could translate in some parts of the country to $9 a gallon on gasoline by the height of the summer driving season. Well, we hit one 20 and change today, up 3%. And this is despite the news that OPEC announced it's going to add more than $600,000 of 600,000 barrels a day of oil. The administration was pretty psyched about that one. I explained it all in yesterday's program, but let me tell you, the oil market sure as heck doesn't care. I don't think they really buy it. Maybe they don't really believe it, maybe they know that 600,000 barrels really isn't going to be enough. Maybe they're concerned because it's actually OPEC plus, which includes Russia, so that gets a little sticky, does it not give in the sanctions? Anyway, suffice it to say, we've got higher energy prices still, which is going to lead to more and more inflation. How do you deal with this? At a time when the fed is out there aggressively trying to confront it, I'll tell you that the big problem with this from the beginning is that they didn't recognize the cancer that inflation had started to become, right? They thought it was nothing. And yet it grew and it grew and it grew and we kept hearing from people in the administration and economists Talking Heads that were touting the Biden plan, we kept hearing that this was somehow just transitory. And I've been sitting here and let me just say, I don't have Janet Yellen's pedigrees and economists. Let's be very Frank about that. I'm not too shabby, but this is a woman who is steeped in economics and served as the head of the Federal Reserve. Now our treasury secretary, she missed it. I'm sorry. I don't know how these people could have missed
Why Roosevelt Suppressed Color Footage of WW2
"Was extensive color film and it's kind of a, it's kind of a little known fact that color film existed and it was suppressed for several years. During the war, because it was taken back and shown at The Pentagon and shown to the president Roosevelt and president Roosevelt said, no, no, we can't. We can't show this. The American people will be appalled because they showed they showed a marines dead marines in the lagoon. You know, floating in the lagoon and dead marines on the beach strewn across the beach. So they said, no, that this would be bad for morale. We can't show this. We've got to keep the morale up because this is 1943. It was the middle of the war. Things were going better than they had the year before. But they still were, you know, things are still tough and it was very tight at home and people were worried and concerned about their sons all over the world and people were wanting to know when we were going into France and it didn't look like that was going to happen any time soon. So they did suppress the for quite a while. I think it was until really until after Normandy D-Day when the film was finally released sometime in 1944. Janet, when it was released, it actually had a positive effect on American morale and made Americans even more eager to go over and. It also it's different stiffened resolved too. And that was the that was the
'Everything You Need to Know About Abortion for Teens'
"This brand new book, everything you need to know about abortion fatigues. Do they want to know? Well, see, they need to know. That's the point. Because why? Planned Parenthood is preying on them in the schools in high schools. They're on college campuses. So like it or not, they need to know about abortion. So what I do in the books is I store it back and I tell them about normal corby. Sandra Cano. I even tell them about doctor Bernard nathanson, who father Frank and I knew. So I showed them how it was all built on lies. Then I introduced them. And this is what's great. In the middle of the book, they let me put in pictures of the unborn child. Like a baby book. Starting at 7 weeks. So you can't buy the lies, the clump assessment. When you see that, it's extremely. And I challenge the young people, you know what? Why don't you ask your parents for your baby picture starting from when you were in the womb? Because as you know, if you want the baby, everyone's showing the pictures. If not, it's a glob of cells. So I show them the truth, and then I tell them what happens in an abortion. Exactly. Comparing that it's not good medicine. And then I show them the voices of the women who bought the lie from silent no more, and the damage.
Janet Morana Tells Us the Truth About 'Jane Roe'
"Janet. As we were coming into the studio, you said you mentioned something that you both know a certain lady who for 49 years has been known as Janet Jane roe. Tell us who she really was and because a lot of misinformation about her attitude to abortion after the decision. So who is Jane roe? Norma mccorvey, who I could say is a personal friend of mine. I stated her home in Dallas. She stayed at my home in New York. Father Frank actually brought her into the Catholic Church. In fact, Norma mccorvey never had an abortion. What? No, never. In fact, she was taken advantage of basically. She was basically homeless. She already had two babies at a wedlock that her family, one was for adoption, her mother was raising one. And over a pizza lunch, she signed for Sarah waiting to know the dotted line. She got will help you take care of your pregnancy. She signs on the dotted line. Do you think she spent one day in court? Not one day. Never heard from Sarah really. And then the day, roe V wade's decided. Do you think your lawyer would pick up the phone and say we won Norma? You know how she found out when she opened her door that morning and picked up the Dallas morning paper. So I don't understand if she hadn't had an abortion, but she wasn't involved in the hearings. What was her utility to the industry of death? Why did they need her? Well, they were looking actually, you know, to find someone like her, not well educated and kind of desperate situation who just would be used like a puppet. And in fact, the companion case that day, the Doe of dovey Bolden, father Frank and I know her too. Both ladies are Sandra kino. Same thing. She was her case was coming up through Georgia, while enormous was coming up through Texas. And Sandra signed on the dotted line thinking, she never two children back out of foster care. It was her mother who wanted her to put this child. And when Sandra found out, she left Georgia to Oklahoma to give birth to that
Father Frank Pavone Shares His Take on the SCOTUS Abortion Leak
"He is the director, the national director for priests for life, father Frank bone, who's brought a special guest with him today, Janet morana. Welcome both of you institute. Thank you. Thank you very much. Yeah, you know I brought behind the scenes from the very beginning of our ministry. She has been leading the way for life, wouldn't be as successful as it is. Well, you know, I'm out there in front all the time. All right, well, we've got to discuss this brand new book that you brought with you. Everything you need to know about abortion for teens, that must be an incredible challenge to talk about that for that demographic, but first have to get your latest update your take father on where we are, the reaction to the leak. I know everybody's praying right now for the decision imminently or maybe in June. I've read I actually read the document, the league document on video on audio. If you want to know what's really in it, you need to go to my Twitter feed by rumble because it's an amazing document. And it's clear. It's bad law. It has to go back to the states. There is no history of being pro abortion in western civilization. Do you have a sense that the justices are going to hold the line father? I'm convinced that they will. When it's some matter so fundamental to the constitution as this is. I don't see them reversing course. Justice Alito in that document doesn't only reverse roe V wade. He obliterates it. And Casey too. And shows how weak the reasoning is how untethered from the constitution and from the history of America, how damaging it's been, it is a masterful job I want to urge everyone to read that document because I'm convinced that substantially going to be the argument that
Former Trump Attorney Jenna Ellis on Pennsylvania's Doug Mastriano
"Guys, I'm really happy to welcome to the podcast. My friend, fellow, Salem, podcast host, constitutional law attorney, host of the Janet Ellis show, special counsel at the Thomas more society and former senior legal adviser and counsel to president Donald J Trump. Jenna Ellis, Jenna, great to have you. Thanks for joining me. Let's start by talking about mastery ano. This is Douglas mastery Anna, who kind of pulled off what is it fair to say an upset victory in Pennsylvania? Talk about your role and participation in this remarkable development. Yeah, thanks so much, my friend for having me and I was with the mushroom campaign the last night to celebrate this victory party and it's been an amazing grassroots movement that has spread like wildfire throughout Pennsylvania because Doug mashed around truly understands as a citizen first. What pennsylvanians and broader Americans care about, which is primarily to protect and preserve our rights and also to protect and preserve election integrity. And so yeah, it was a huge landslide victory. He won by almost 45% of the vote. And I told him 45 is a great number, because president Trump, of course, endorsed him. And so he won with a wider percentage of the vote than the second and third place candidates combined. So what this says to me is that people are waking up across America and we want to put into positions in federal office state and local leaders who actually understand what America is all about and are willing to ask questions about election integrity are willing to ask questions about government and won't shy away when they're called terms and derivative terms like insurrectionist and election denier. They don't care. A Doug mushroom doesn't care. I don't care. He will stand up and fight for liberty and so
Janet Yellen: Roe v. Wade Reversal Would Damage the Economy
"Janet Yellen cut one go Well I believe that eliminating the right of women to make decisions about when and whether to have children would have very damaging effects on the economy and would set women back decades Roe V wade and access to reproductive healthcare including abortion helped lead to increased labor force participation It enabled many women to finish school that increased their earning potential it allowed women to plan and balance their families and careers
Sen. Tim Scott Responds to Janet Yellen's Pro-Abortion Comments
"And here is his response cut to go Some of your comments in response to bob's question I found troubling And just from a clarity's sake did you say that ending the life of a child is good for the labor force participation rate Giving someone the let me just quote what you said that ultimately increasing access to abortion and reproductive healthcare allows for our labor force participation rate to continue to increase that denying women access to abortion increases their odds of living in poverty or need for public assistance to the guy who was raised by a single mom who worked long hours to keep us out of poverty I think people can disagree on the issue of being pro life or pro abortion but in the end I think framing it in the context of labor force participation is it just feels calloused to me I think finding a way to have a debate around abortion in a meaning for the economic stability of our country is harsh and I'm just surprised that we find ways to weave into every facet of our lives Such an important and painful reality for so many people to make it sound like it's just another .4% added to our labor force participation as a result of the issue of abortion just to me seems
Yellen Says Eliminating Abortion Rights Would Harm Economy
"Roe V wade reversal would be very damaging the economy says Janet Yellen. I believe I've got that clip somewhere. Let me see where I can cut number 26th place. This is absurd. Certainly don't mean to. Say what I think the effects are in a manner that's harsh. What we're talking about is whether or not women will have the ability to regulate their reproductive. Situation in ways that will enable them to plan lives that are fulfilling and satisfying for them. And one aspect of the satisfying life is being able to feel that you have the financial resources to raise a child that the children you bring into the world are wanted and that you have the ability to take care of them in many cases, abortions are of teenage women, particularly low income and often black who aren't in a position to be able to care for children have unexpected pregnancies and it deprives them of the ability often to continue their education to later participate in the workforce. So there is a spillover into labor force participation, but it means that children will grow up in poverty and do worse themselves. Thank you. Let me just say that. The children will grow up is the operative phrase there, and that's
Eric Chats to Charles Thorngren, CEO of Legacy Precious Metals
"He's the CEO of legacy precious metals. And here he is, Charles Thornton, welcome to the program. Thanks, Eric. Thanks for having me. Well, I know the basics, but I thought there was an article recently that I read where treasury secretary Janet Yellen was just talking about the economic chaos that lies ahead. I mean, I think most people know the economy is to use the technical term L stinko. And so, you know, your financial expert, how did we get to this place? And what can people do about it? Because people are asking me, and I don't have the answer. What should I invest in? It's a big question, but I think if we look and we really are honest about how we got here. It's several administrations worth of bad money management. We have run a deficit in this nation that's unsustainable for quite some time. And we've seen that become even hyper exaggerated with this new administration. With $9 trillion in debt, you put yourself in a situation where your dollar doesn't have the equity that it's supposed to. And ultimately, when we talk about our economy, we want to talk about the lives that we're living, how it affects us. The quality of our life. And that's what we lose by having a weakened dollar. We parlay that into our retirement accounts. And where we keep our money usually in the equities markets. The market is so over exaggerated in its value right now. From years and years of quantitative easing and free money and easy money that that has to come into play and be
Fed Chair Janet Yellen Says US Shouldn't Expect a Recession
"Janet Yellen had a few things to say on this. She's speaking of course at one of the IMF events and didn't interview actually on CNBC with Christina Lagarde and she seems to think that, you know, hey, everything, everything's going to be okay. Listen to her here. I don't expect a recession. Obviously, we are living in our time that's very challenging. And developments in Russia, Ukraine, and yeah, I don't know, is we're not going to have a recession. Wishful thinking, perhaps. On the part of the treasury secretary, I keep in mind she has the treasury secretary now, right? So she has to be, well, she has to carry a certain amount of water for the administration, of course, and nobody wants to talk about recession or recognize that that's a threat, but indeed it is. In fact, Goldman Sachs out recently with the report saying that there was a 35% chance of recession. You've seen a number of banks actually incidentally Deutsche Bank was another come out with increasingly increasing odds of recession. And so this is starting to become part of everybody's vocabulary. I actually think that the odds of recession are way higher and I'm putting them around 85%, 85% chance of recession because there's got to be a pullback in that people can not continue affording what we're seeing, gas prices, for example, food prices, and all of this is protected to grow, continually worse.
"janet" Discussed on Pop Culture Happy Hour
"And you're like, oh, that's lovely. That's right. Yes, she had a baby with whom? Yes. Literally, never comes up. I did have to Google at that moment and be like, who is her husband right now? Yeah, he is never mentioned. Well, did they break up? I thought they broke up. I don't know. Who knows? Who knows? Oh no. I have seen documentaries that function as like filmed Wikipedia entries. I've seen biopics the function that way, this thing sent me to Wikipedia. So many times to just be like, wait, what about such and such? What about this and that? Why didn't you ask the obvious follow-up question? But Stephen, were you surprised by that whenever you have a doctor where the star of the documentary is also in charge of making the documentary, it's going to be hero worship hagiography and I'm going to skip the part so they don't want to talk about. So I wasn't surprised by it, you know? Yeah. It is a void in which no insight can find purchase. And some of that falls on Janet Jackson herself. Think about Janet Jackson's life. Janet Jackson has lived all the jacksons have lived in this really strange bubble. We're none of them got to have childhoods. Janet has never been in the world when she has not been under a microscope. People forget, she was in a Vegas lounge show with her brothers at the age of 7. She's not two shows a night in Vegas at the age of 7. Right. And so it's only natural that she would be as guarded as she is. And I mean, and the jacksons, this runs through the whole family, there is this guardedness. There are things that we don't talk about. And it's wild to me like every issue that she talks about. Winds up getting presented in this weird way where you're like, wow, I would have thought there would be an easy answer to that question, but the way you answered it gives me 5 follow-up questions, none of which are asked. Yeah. I will say the moment that made me do that the most. Kind of like, wow, this is weird. I want some follow-up. When they do cover nipple gate, you can see that it's almost as if they've added in some video in post of her saying no, no, no, no, me and Justin are still friends. Right. So they have all the footage of nipplegate and then they flash forward to Janet making a home video herself on her iPhone, saying no, it's all good. Me and Justin are good. Justin and I are very good friends and we will always be very good friends. We spoke just a few days ago and he and I have moved on and it's time for everyone else to do the same. I had so many follow-ups for that. But of course, they just move on. They move on. I have had follow-up questions for Justin Timberlake, from several music documentaries that I've watched in the last year. Also what surprised me in that moment was that she talked about the aftermath right after nipple gate, like the day after the game, Justin calls her, she says, and it's like, what should I do? And she said that she told him you should lay low and say nothing. He said, you know, I don't know if I should come out and make a statement and this and that or say some of that say have something to say and I said, listen, I don't want any drama for you. They're aiming all of this at me. So I said just I said, if I were you I wouldn't say anything. And I was like, wow, that is a level of gracious you didn't have to be. Can you talk about that some more? Of course she does. Of course she doesn't. And also like they never actually get into the Les moonves of it all, and this is where that other documentary that The New York Times did. This is called malfunction. Yes, that actually unpacks what happened. The fact that she was basically blacklisted for a while, in this documentary, they briefly mentioned that she was just invited from the Grammys but they don't really talk about the fallout. And so I'm like, really? I don't know. I just feel like so much of this glides over all these things that we've heard before. There's a moment where they tee up that they're going to address this rumor of a love child between Jade's debarge and Janet Jackson. At the end of the first episode, and as soon as they prep it for the next episode, she's going to answer the question. They're like, so about this love child and then editing so that look, she's got a face. And they make it. Yeah. And I knew, of course, she's not going to say that, yes, we have a love child. And of course, she doesn't say it. So the way this documentary started tries to build up suspense around all the things that she's already spoken about before or that we know there's not going to be this big reveal. It's the same thing with Michael and the fact that one of the other episodes ends with the anticipation of her talking about his trial in the allegations against him and how it affected her, and she just says the same thing that she's always said, which is that I believe that he never did anything. And we were all in this corner, well, except for latoya, but they don't even talk about latoya, latoya is mysteriously missing from this documentary. A lot more rebe than latoya in this movie. So much ruby. I love rebi. Ruby seems very sweet. I do like ruby. Rabies is very sweet. Ribi Randy and Tito were the only siblings in this. Randy's the homie. And he's really close. I do think that if there's one thing that I take away from this, like Sam said, it just made me really appreciate her more. In terms of her ability to be vulnerable, even when she was being vague, I still feel as though she's vulnerable and genuine in a way that so many pop stars aren't or can't be. And I really appreciate the fact that she was able to sort of tap into that just sense of I'm here and resilient and I just want everyone to love me. It's like on a different pop star it would come off as sort of koi and treacly. But on her, it just feels like this is who she is. And so I appreciate that about her. Well, she also does this thing where she is one of the most powerful and richest pop stars of our time, and yet you watch this documentary and you on your couch and your living room are like, I hope she's okay. I'm worried about her. And that is a certain power. People that rich and powerful who can get their fans to be concerned about their welfare for decades. That is a certain power that Janet still has. And I found myself at the end of this documentary. Saying to myself, well, the story of Janet Jackson is the story of just like all the men in her life always getting in her way. Oh, my God. And I was mad about that. For her, you know, you think about it from the start. Joe Jackson, her dad was in her way. Michael Jackson, her brother got in her way that debarred that she married, got in her way. Her husband Renee became controlling and was in her way. Justin Timberlake was in her way. And the story of dannett, at least in this version of it, is like a very resilient and talented woman who loves the men in her life who are always kind of slowing her down and she just smiles through it. And I think with another pop star that would just seem trite, but that storyline works for me because I think that she's just so likeable. It's like even now you see Janet Jackson smile and nothing else matters. She has the best smile and pop. And that will cover a multitude of sins, even the sin of this four hour freaking documentary. I don't know. I mean, I agree that she's very likeable and I agree that I root for her. I do think as an interview subject, she presents vulnerability without candor. Which is a skill, which is the skill, which is a skill, but so much of this movie is like, I'm going to set the record straight and tell you once and for all the truth that I don't want to talk about that. But are you surprised? That's just Janet Jackson. Yeah. I'm waiting for the unauthorized four hour documentary. That will be the one that actually gives me something. But I don't even know if that's possible because according to everyone close in her life, she also keeps them at a distance. The fact that so many people didn't know that she was buried to Renee. People she worked with and her family for a while didn't know she was married to bars. So it's like she's very guarded for understandable reasons and this documentary just made me actually not only marvel at her resilience, but also just made me really sad for her because she's still in so many ways. You find that she's still sort of covering up for her the terrible. Well, not terrible. But then not great men in her life. And speaking of covering up the men in her life, she talks about this son that she has, and then we never see him..
"janet" Discussed on Janet Lansbury Podcast
"Dear Janet for years your podcast has been relatable and reassuring as kiddo S nears age four, though, I'm finding fewer resources that address our situation and between preschool and pediatrician visits, S checks out as developmentally typical. One problem is that she starts nearly every day screaming and wailing. It seems attachment related. She'll sometimes walk into our bed and snuggle happily for a bit, but our routine is that I, mama, do the bedtime routine and dad does the morning routine. So when I get up, S starts screaming for me. She and her dad are super close and he's there to comfort her, but she'll just scream. Ma, me. Mom, me. Over and over. She usually calls me mama or mommy, so this mom me thing only happens when she's melted down and it gets right under my skin and makes me want to run away, which is probably what it feels to her like I'm doing. I say calmly that I need to take care of myself and that daddy is there. Sometimes he's a way for work, and I give her the choice of coming with me while I pee and brush teeth or staying in her room or ask if she'd like me to get her ready first, the answer is always a screaming no. But I don't stick around. I go brush my teeth, et cetera, and sometimes I show my exasperation. When it comes time to get out of bed and she's flopping around, kicking the bed grabbing at me and screaming, sometimes I've broken down myself and yelled or even cried. It just wears me down to start every day like this, especially when we don't have much time together before work. There are plenty of other things that induce ear splitting screams these days, and when her dad is around, I'm more likely to try to escape within the house, so I don't know if that's challenging her security. But I don't leave the house. We don't have locks on doors, and we've never put her in time out. So I don't really understand where that desperation is coming from. Except that it's clear she is completely out of control and beyond reasoning within those moments. You talk about connecting first and validating while holding boundaries. But at what point do you accept that that isn't working and hold the boundary? For example, I wake up needing to pee, and I have to get ready for work. How long should I.
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"To share a specially on this podcast episode is that i didn't have a choice or an option on how i reacted to my children. I knew and i still know how affecting that as for them and how affecting it was for them for me to be aggressive. Because i was. I had a little child who fed so unsafe and fed alone heard an unseen thus my children triggered me constantly. They were mirrors for all of the deep pain and sadness. I fucked incite day. Just really wanted me to love myself as much as they locked me. But i couldn't love me. And so i got so angry about that and i was aggressive and i was lashing out at them and i was thinking one day janet. Lansbury say to you right now. You know you're disgusting. You are pretty much hurting your children..
"janet" Discussed on Janet Lansbury Podcast
"You don't have to be involved in you don't have to direct it so get away from that myth that if you're not using a screen that your instead of orchestrating every minute day because that's where it gets exhausting really get an trouble exactly it's totally unsustainable can't do it and you are going to give up some point very early on but it's like what you were talking about about the quote negative emotions. That's what i think keeps a lot of us from making those boundaries. And just saying no not gonna play with you right now. Here's what i'm going to be available. And i can't wait to play with you then but now's no it's okay. If you get upset you can be really mad at me. But this is what i've gotta do. Instead of now i gotta go set up an activity for them and make sure that they're okay. I mean maybe in the beginning if your child isn't used to that maybe that will help you kind of scaffold into the next step. But ideally you want to get to where they've got the ideas and they're using their own imagination and innovation and their instincts about what they actually want to work on a need to work on the step of their learning and they're creating those as well so that's what we ideally want to be. But in the meantime it's okay to give them some options of things to do. Yeah i want to comment on that. You said there were two things that i think. We're really good bad that i want to highlight the. I is the difference of the message when the child is upset. And we think that they can't handle it so we try to fix it for them were inadvertently sending the message that they can't handle it. You can't handle this time. Where i'm going to be away from you so have to be with you. I have to give you this device instead instead of the message up. I know you're frustrated. Right now are mad at me right now and you really wish we could do this thing but i know that you can through that you can tolerate best. I know the you'll be okay. Now be over here. Or i'll be several i. It's a really different message of empowerment that we're giving our children. Were saying you know. I know you can tolerate this emotion. I know you can tolerate this period of time without the and to maybe changing your mindset around. That might be helpful to to see that that they're really creative independent people. Who can come up with really good things to do that. You wouldn't have even thought of you think that's a different message. The other piece. Janet said that. I want to touch on is. We're talking about a time when you're able to step back and that might not be right away. If you feel like you have had media. Habit has gotten out of control. So having that empathy around we used to do this phone thing or this tablet thing for this many hours and we're not going to do that anymore. Coming up really clearly in your mind and your partners nine about what. The new limit is what you're going to doing going forward. And then having empathy for the idea that these applications programs streaming devices are designed persuasively to real your.
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"janet" Discussed on Janet Lansbury Podcast
"That hera charlotte madeline hi. I'm charlotte i'm twenty eight years old. I'm madeline and i'm twenty four years old. We have a younger brother but he couldn't be here today. Arman gave us some questions that people ask on facebook will get to some of them and use that as sort of a guide to our conversation but overall we will be discussing. Our experiences being raised by. Ri- parents i guess here. We go when if ever did you become aware of differences between the way you were parented compared to your friends or peers. Did you have any thoughts on these differences at the time. What's something you noticed. Your parents did differently than others. That you're thankful for or didn't mike. While i think definitely was aware in a school setting as far as being able to choose activities that we wanted to do. We were never made to do anything. I i think. That's pretty fundamental to the philosophy but we were never made take piano lesson. Everything was totally organically. Had to be our idea and we did take piano and sometimes our ideal was to take piano lessons and it would be for three weeks and then we'd be over it. Read enough to take them anymore. I think actually maybe there was a moment of try to persevere a little bit but for the most part we were allowed to do whatever hobbies we wanted to. And so i think madeline was interested in mad science to dig mount zion. Yeah i feel like. We got to explore a lot of different interests which helped us gain a ton of new experiences. Even if none of those ended up carrying. I still now. If i'm doing the crossword. I know some of the music answers because i took music either in school and a little bit out of school and i learned certain things that add to my knowledge of the world but at the time i was like i don't wanna do this anymore and i just sort of through that way but i still gain stuff from it and at my own pace. Yeah i have friends. Now who say pretty confidently that looking back. They wish that their parents would have forced them to do the violin or some sport because now they would be really good at it. I strongly feel totally the opposite. It's much more important to me than my parents raised me. In a way that fostered the sense of we trust you to choose your activities and pursue the day to day basis. Yeah passion of the day. Well yeah yeah. I feel like i'm one of those people who says that sometimes kind of jokingly but like if i actually think back in valuate do i wish that i magically had some skill. Yeah but that totally discounts. All of the time. That i would have had to spend doing something i didn't wanna do instead of being able to explore stuff that i did want to do <hes>. But something that we've talked about recently. Is that when you're a kid. You don't really know how other kids are parented. You know you can go to a kids house and they have different foods. They have different toys and stuff like that. But you don't see the differences in the parenting until you're older and you can talk to them about like. Oh what were your parents like when you were younger. Whatever is in your household you consider normal for a long time. I mean i don't know that much about how the brain develops but there's got to be a critical period for like when you start comparing yourself to others. It seems like middle school. I remember in middle school. All of a sudden everything was like. I was self conscious in a bunch of different ways that i wasn't before then including like what was at my house and what other tatton stuff but that point which is arguably the more important part in terms of the philosophy that our parents us before that point. It's not something that you notice every day. You don't see other kids with their parents enough to understand what's going on in their household and you don't care if you go for a play date you think of it more as like oh catherine's brand is to have a bunch of cheese it s- there or they always have this particular game but like you don't feel that you're less than because you don't have that in your own house. Yeah so. I don't think you have to worry about your kids comparing themselves to other people in like preschool. Like no no child. Is that aware
"janet" Discussed on Janet Lansbury Podcast
"Mindset is for us to rise tall into our power as parents to believe in and embody our power the power differential between us and our children is enormous and for our children. It actually needs to be because if we can imagine being a tiny new person in the world for them to feel that they are overwhelming for us that their behavior has the power to regularly upset us. This message that they're a little more than we can handle is disquieting so what we can do by understanding and stepping into our power is give our children this whole layer of safety and comfort. That doesn't mean life is going to be perfect and easy all the time with young children. It just isn't. There are a lot of challenges but this is like a foundational comfort level that we're giving our children and if it's not their life is going to be a lot tougher for us because it's less comfortable for our children and so. This is a lot of practical level for us because our children's behavior goes hand in hand with their level of comfort so when they display challenging behaviors. it's a sign of some level of discomfort. And if they have this basic sense of security that we've got this job like we can do this job. We can handle them. Whatever happens. were not intimidated. Were not threatened by them and their behavior. That helps lessen a lot of the issues that they have so other. Reasons is important for us to come into communion with our power it helps us to be less reactive to all the things that happen with our children to their behavior and all their little experiments and emotionally fueled unreasonable behavior that they have and help us to avoid a lot of the pitfalls around giving power to behavior so a lot of times a behavioral will start as a one time thing or an experiment whether this is a child using certain words or throwing hitting being resistant to that. We want to help them. Do like get into the car seat. Oftentimes this is a one time thing that we unwittingly magnify and can turn into a more frequent issue because we've given at power. We've shown our children that this is something that gets our attention in a negative way. That upsets us. That we don't have a handle on their fourth tendency can be for them to keep going there to on some level explore why we don't have a handle on this and they're kind of saying to make me feel comfortable that you've got your job. I need you to have a calmer response to this. I need you to help me to show me that. You can handle all these sides of mate that are coming out so that i can feel safe and this is a journey to self confidence parents that i know intimately because for most of my life i was not a confident person and even kind of wore that like a badge and then it would be validated by my parents or even teachers so then you believe it more and more and then i had my oldest daughter who is a strong wonderful personality. And i've shared a lot about my journey with her. How i had to find the confident parent and myself out of love for her and the intense desire to give her what she needed. I started to realize took a long time for me to figure this out but she needed me to be that for her.
"janet" Discussed on Janet Lansbury Podcast
"If you've answered it before our two and a half year old son doesn't seem to want to say hello or goodbye to adults. Which is something. I'm trying to model and encourage. He won't say hello or goodbye to people in our building when they say hello to him and at school which he loves and runs inside to. He won't say goodbye to his teacher. I made the mistake of saying by teacher. Now it's your turn to say it now. Every time he says it's not my turn. I would even be fine if he ignored people but when someone says hello sometimes he'll yell back not talk to me. No say that any advice. Okay so actually. I was quite inspired by this note. And i realized that i have a lot of advice or i have a lot of things to say about this topic even so much. That cited for tiktok. And i did a couple videos about this because i thought that it would be helpful for me to demonstrate what to do when you are in a situation where your child is not saying. Hello and the adults seemed to be pushing for that to happen. So if you are on the platform you may want to check that out. The first thing i want to talk about is the beginning of what she says she says are two a half year. Old son doesn't seem to want to say hello or goodbye to adults so one of the keys to respectful parenting or really. Any kind of effective parenting is to understand the why. Why doesn't he want to say hello or goodbye to adults. Why do we think he wouldn't wanna do that. Well what we know about young children is that they do not have the same kind of filters that we have as adults. They are much more sensitive vulnerable wide open so these things that we take for granted as adults that we're going to say. Hi how are you. I'm fine and maybe we don't really mean. I'm fine but we say it children. Don't have that glib response. They're actually much more honest than that. They're taking in this person and their energy and it's a lot for them to say hello at this age. It's a lot for them to put themselves out there that way because it is a vulnerable moment for them. They don't have this down so knowing this that it. It's really a big deal for a child to respond to someone especially some of they don't know very well or more maybe a total stranger to them. What they need is a lot of our trust and our ease around this so that they can feel the safety to do what seems to us as a very small thing. Just say hi. It must have big deal when they say hi. They really mean it. And they're really connecting sold to solve with this person. One of my favorite things magda gerber used to say referring to the way a baby or toddler looks at us she would say there are three kinds of people who will look at you that way a lover an insane person and a baby that openness that showing their soul that children do and that intensity and so what encourages children is again. This whole feeling of safety. My parents trust me. They're comfortable with. However i handle this. They're not feeling impatient. They're not projecting discomfort intention into the situation. They need that trust and they will do it. I promise you they will you know then. There's certain times when they're actually rightfully not feeling comfortable with that person. Maybe the person is too pushy there too demanding and that's a wonderful sensitivity that we actually want our children to have that intuitive about people so that they don't let the wrong people into their life. Obviously that's very very important but what can happen is maybe we're not understanding how different are child is from us as adults in this manner. How in their innocence and sensitivity. That this isn't an easy thing to do just to say that one word and so we try to. Prompt or maybe. We're just uncomfortable that this other person is expecting something. And we've got to please them so were prompting our child or coaxing them and then were feeling disappointed that they're not performing as we hope they would. That's understandable too but it doesn't help us get what we want. Which is our child to have genuine good manners not just. My child is saying the words and any feeling of pressure that a child has or any of us have doesn't help us to perform doesn't help us to be at our best especially in these vulnerable situations for example. I still feel like this. I could be typing something on my computer and my child. Not someone intimidating. One of my children. They are adults now but they're not intimidating. They're not judging me. They're coming over to look over my shoulder for some reason. I've asked them to or their there and all of a sudden they can't type anymore. How crazy is that. I making all these mistakes. That i wouldn't have made i get a little frazzled. I know i'm probably more sensitive than the average adult. Maybe more childlike in that way. But i feel that. I totally feel that. And so if my parent really wants me to do something. They're watching. And i know that all the attention is on me right now. It's not going to be easy to do something as risky as sharing myself with this person saying hello and i think the difficulty that we face as parents one of the difficulties is that there is this old school way of thinking that maybe our parents had our parents parents we teach manners directly and we make our child say hi. That's our job so that they'll be able to grow up and have manners but that's not the way it works. This parent already understands that. It sounds like she's been very subtle about the whole thing because she does understand that she mostly wants to model that. That's the best way to encourage. Manners are blossoming that children have and what they need from. Us is to nurture the environment for them to blossom in their time. We trust that the blessing
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"Okay, , first of all, , here's the note that I received from this parent. . My almost three year. . Old Daughter has started a quote. . I want my blankets to be tucked in slash no I don't want blanket slash. . I don't want to be tucked in back forth most nights at bedtime that leads to a Tantrum. . If I take her at her word that she doesn't want to be tucked in and leave the room, , the Tantrum is heartbreaking and she'll either eventually hurt herself or I will give into the intensity and go back to her room to Tucker in. . As soon, , as I go back, , she calms down gets in bed and lets me took her in and leave the room without fuss but it's becoming part of the routine that she has to have the meltdown in order to accept the Tuck in and good night. . I. Don't . know what to do. . I try to put the blankets on her anyway she kicks them off and then howls I leave the room she has a consistent bedtime routine and once she's calm and leave the room she will read books sing songs and otherwise entertain herself in bed until she falls asleep she's down until morning at that point. . So, , there's the note and here's the parent. . Hi. . Thank you so much for reaching out to me. . Thank you for taking my call. . Well, , I thought that your issue was one that a lot of parents could benefit from because for one I actually get a lot of questions around bedtime but also this with somebody called indecision meltdown and I thought that described really well where children keep changing their mind and we're trying to please them and seems impossible. . It doesn't make any sense anymore. . It's the common thing that happens with children your daughter's age she's almost three. . She's right in the thick of it. . Let's hear a little about what feels most urgent right now, , and then we'll go over your situation and see what we can do that he says that I'm struggling with and I realize I'm not being consistent with her which I think is a problem but I really think that I could be consistent if I just felt like I knew the right answer of what to actually do in these moments but I feel like there's two competing things with this specific set of tantrums that my daughter is having. . One is you know I've read some of your comments around this indecision behavior and it's like, , okay, , you're having a hard time making a decision right now. . So I'm going to help you or I'm going to make the decision for you. . But in this case, , she's physically resistant to the quote unquote decision and so it's not exactly the same as my being able to kind of grabber and help her put on her shirt which at the end of the day, , we accomplish actually getting her shirt on and said that part feels very confusing for me, , and then the second part that feels very confusing is I'm a huge believer in staying near for the Tantrum process that's worked so so well with my daughter up until this point. . And yet now we're at bedtime these feel like stalling tactics I'm trying to leave the room and she starts having a Tantrum. . The indecision for me is do I continue to leave the room or do I stay because it is a tantrum but the Tantrum ben gets her what she wants. . She doesn't want me to leave the room. . And it's new enough behavior that I just find myself frozen in indecision or worse. . She's in her room crying and screaming I'm in my room crying 'cause. . I. . Don't know what to do. . and. . So it feels like. . I just feel like I don't know what to do. . I'm sorry that's not fun and it's not a fun way to end the day. . The most important thing I want to help you with is the perspective to see what's actually going on here. . That is something I talk about a lot and it's really the key to everything because I can say, , say this and do this thing. . But if you have the perspective or a more accurate perspective than you will know what to do. . So if we see this is like, , oh my gosh I'm feeling here and I can't please her. . I don't WanNA leave and she's upset and I'm a bad mom and now were sad. . That's because of the way that we're seeing it. . The way that I would like to help you see this is this is actually a gift that she's venting these feelings before she goes to sleep what I loved about your story is that it's so sinked in a way and it's so unreasonable. . Sometimes, , it can seem more reasonable what they're asking for it and it's easier for us to get stuck in it but this the indecision about. . Being tucked in makes absolutely no sense at all it's totally unreasonable and therefore we know this is not about being tucked in or not it has anything to do with that. . It's not the blankets it's not the blankets or what you're doing, , and that's important to know it's not the choices you're making their it's something that is inevitable and actually really healthy that we should probably all do. . Especially lately have a release of all the stresses of the day and maybe there were other times during the day. . I. . WanNa talk about that. But . if there's anything left than she's got this healthy healthy healthy instinct to spill it to vented to express in, , get it out of her body so that she can relax do those wonderful things singing songs reading her book said so beautiful that she center herself but she showing you that she can't actually do that until she clears this. . She can't do it Intel this experience happens. . So, , if you could go into this seeing like, , wow, , this is such a healthy gift that she's getting it out. . So she can sleep really really well. . I certainly know what it's like to be sitting on feelings and then you can't go to sleep you wake up in the night and if I could just cryer scream beforehand or in the moment when something's happening then I wouldn't have that and children have this healthier way of processing their emotions. . So. . First of all, , seeing this as this inevitable thing that has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her doing something healthy. . Then, , you're going to feel differently about it and you're going to kind of welcome this way that she has found to get herself triggered into venting, , which is about the blanket and you took ran. . Yeah. . But that's
"janet" Discussed on Janet Lansbury Podcast
"Parents sound like they are ninety eight percent at least in the direction I would recommend. . It's so wonderful that they are normalizing for themselves. . They're two and a half year olds aggression towards the baby because it is so normal and expected for these impulses to get the better of a child that age when her life has been turned upside down. . As his parents so lovingly acknowledges to her daughter being a big sister is hard sometimes, , it's scary and it's hard to contain something children will go up there. . So excited I want to touch the baby, , but you can see in them that they're vibrating with this energy that's out of their control. . That's one. . They will do these aggressive things not that they're mean children or that they want to hurt people or to hurt the baby, , but it can be a very scary time when your parents focus shifted from you to this other important new person. . And it's just that feeling of fear that makes them lash out. . So the parents are handling this valiantly, , it sounds like to me and prioritizing the relationship with their daughter. . which is the key to. . Through this period of transition without internalizing a lot of shame and I'm comfortable distance from her parents. . She says they're being President Com physically stopping the behaviors without judgment or fanfare. . Yes we don't WANNA make a big deal out of these things. . She says, , we say something like you want to hit your sister right now I won't let you and yes, , that's exactly what I would recommend. . But. . Then what this little girl is doing in these moments that the parents asking about his so so incredible. . Two and a half years old and she is articulating that she has these feelings about her sister. . And she feel safe to share them with her parents. . So this is a golden opportunity and it sounds like this parent is almost there to being able to really help both her daughter and herself benefit from this sharing that her daughters doing. . So I'm going to talk specifically how I would recommend handling the I hit Hannah I bite Hannah comments but I just want to talk a little about this challenge that we have to engage with our child as a person from the beginning ideally to realize children are communicating from day one. . And they're very handed. . This is one of the many reasons I love working with children in these early years they put it all out there they do share what's on their mind and when children do this beginning as infants as parents, , it might be hard for us to see receive that this is communication. . For example, , with an infant, , our priority ideally is to make the crying stop but to explore and try to understand it as best we can. . We won't always understand it but making that effort. . So that encourages our child to keep sharing with us from the beginning we want to encourage any kind of communication because we want our child to be confident communicator to continue to be throughout life, , of course, , using language and connecting that way is such an important human thing to do. . So we want to give them those messages right away that we hear them and that we want to understand what they're experiencing, , what they're sharing with us. . This can be especially challenging with infants per few reasons. . One if you're like I was before I learned this approach I would have thought of somebody asked me that I saw my baby as a person but honestly I didn't I saw my baby as kind of this extension of me. . That was maybe the beginnings of a person but not actually a person. . And also as parents crying any kind of sound that doesn't sound happy that comes from our child triggers US and rattles. . US. . That's what is supposed to do because that's how babies are going to get their needs met. . The tendency can be to intervene too much too soon and not see this as nuanced communication that isn't just this one thing that we've got to put out. . So I, , I know that this is an issue for other people besides me in the beginning because I get asked, , how long should I let my baby cry before I picked them up or is it okay for me to let my baby cry what's the right response? ? And when we actually see a person and now that this person is communicating all kinds of feelings and thoughts, , then we want to engage. . We want to ask my friend Lisa sunbreaks says enter into a conversation with our child. . So our baby makes a sound that sounds unpleasant and we want to respond immediately or as soon as we can. . But that doesn't mean we sweep them up, , move them or put something in their mouth. . It means breathing through our discomfort that we might Wanna fix immediately and receiving. . Wow, , I hear you what are you saying? ? What are you telling me? ? I'm not sure. . Oh I. . Think you really hungry. . Are you telling me that?
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"janet" Discussed on Janet Lansbury Podcast
"The innate drive children have to explore and learn and go deeper and deeper into understanding their world and especially these powerful figures us. . And I hear from parents about issues similar to this, , not in regard to race but I've heard it in regard to I. . Don't like Gramma or go away to people on the street or go away two neighbors that are being kind and I've heard it happened with other things that parents care about. . For example, , if it's important for a parent to raise children who are gender neutral and they have, , let's say a daughter who only wants to wear pink frilly Princess's dresses. . That can become a thing that starts as an in the moment behavior or exploration. . And then because it hits a Chord with the parent, , it takes hold and becomes a thing. . In this case, , I don't think the child believes in their heart. . The black people are scary. . I don't think this child actually believes that and yet is continuing. . Because the child wants to learn about their power with this parent. . The another thing about young children is they're not expressing these philosophical viewpoints about things. . They're expressing something very in the moment. . So my guess is what happened here is that in that moment for whatever reason, , I don't like this person that looks different than us that we don't socialize with and I don't like. . A little afraid like even afraid to me sounds like something that this child caught wind of that maybe a parent responded. . Are you afraid it doesn't sound like something that a child would naturally feel. . Unless. . They were scolded by a black person or they heard people arguing or there was something disturbing that actually happened that scared them but I think it's probably with this child to this dad says, , is inconveniently insightful about how to find exactly the right framing to turn a situation in his favor i. . mean this guy reads these parents like a book and it's a gift most children young children are just naturally so aware and. . Perceptive about their parents. . That's why we have to be on our game as much as we can, , and we're not going to be perfect, , and in this case, , I can empathize with this parent. . This sounds like a very disturbing horrifying situation. . The last thing is as parents as you know if it was anything else I feel I could handle this but this is so deeply important to me, , and that's exactly why this is happening. . So. . Again, , backing up something happened that this child had that momentary feeling that I don't like that I don't like this person I don't like these people. . Then they felt instantly that they'd hit on a big nerve and now it's become a place they have to continue exploring. . So. . What do we do as a parent what we do especially in this case when the ship has sailed? ? For some to talk about how we can handle it the first time, , and then I'll talk about how to write this ship, , which is very, , very possible. . It's really gonNA. . Come from understanding a child's process. . The way children view the world, , which is just much more innocently and usually specific to one situation at one moment. . So even when they say something like I don't like what does that mean to them, , it doesn't mean what it might mean to us where we're just painting all this like I don't like any of these people. . It could mean that not used to these people it could be a lot of things so. . The first thing a apparent I would want to try to do if I could call myself enough is be curious and I would want to understand. . Why what? ? What happened? ? What what don't you like? ? And again, , we know that children are born with a tendency to be biased that even babies prefer people that are familiar and look like their parents. . So it's a natural thing to have that bias. . But if we can use this magic word for ourselves as parents curiosity, , we will be in the mode that we wanna be in openness curiosity trusting our child trusting that our child is a good person and that we are good parents and that whatever they're saying there's a reason that moment that they're feeling that way. . We want them to be able to explore with us. . We want those feelings or those thoughts to be able to land with US safely not push back on with fear if possible as soon as we're judging as soon as were pushing back, , don't say those things about people you can't feel that way. . We're closing the door to understanding and connecting with our child and to being that person that we all want to be for our children somebody, , they can confide in somebody that there are no taboo topics with. . That you can say anything to me I mean, , this is goal does our children are getting older that they feel safe saying anything to us they don't have to hide and feel wrong for what they're doing or saying. . So I, , I would be curious and I would want to understand We're not going to be perfect and I totally understand where this parent is coming from the trauma. . This period is going through around this, , but that's what we want to aim for as much as possible and I think this parent knows this because the parents says, , if it was anything else I would just minimize my response to it, , but we don't even have to think about minimizing our response because they're trying to control something. . What I would do is embrace a clearer understanding of the way children think an explorer and driven. . They are learn especially about us. . So you know maybe we're caught for a second like. . <hes>. . and. . Then we settle into want to know more about this and most of us do WanNa know more but our judgments and our fears will get in the way. . So trust in your child trust in their process be open. . In that case, , I would say, , what don't you like something happen or where did you get that feeling? ? What makes you feel that way? ? And then I'm going to breathe and just remain this open place. . And that can be easier because we don't have to come up with a response sometimes parents put pressure on themselves that. . Oh my gosh I gotta steered this child immediately got fixed this right away and that can get in our way because then we're coming back with no, , you don't feel like that. . That's not okay. . What's going on in your heart? ? That's what children need, and , that's the parent that I think we all want to be with the realization that it is a
"janet" Discussed on Janet Lansbury Podcast
"I was wondering. If you have an article about no means, no, my almost seven year old is a pusher constantly whining and asking in hopes she'll get her way until my patients is lost and I ended up screaming and her crying. I don't understand she doesn't get. No means no until I pop. It's so frustrating and I hate yelling, but it's a constant battle about everything. She'll ask an ask over and over twenty five or more times. Can my cousins come over? Can we get ice cream now? Why? Why please this isn't fair? I must be addressing the situation wrong at the I ask, please help. Okay so I thought this would be a good one to respond to, because it applies to many situations, all ages and the fact that this is happening with her seven year old shows that yes, the dynamic has gotten a little entrenched. The Star seems to be getting some traction with her repeated questions and pushing and pushing her parent holding on instead of letting, go to the no answer. So, why does a child do this? Because they see that they can impact their parents with their feelings, and it becomes a compulsive thing to repeat I always had the fantasy myself that because it's very hard for me to say no I. Don't like setting limits myself not good at having boundaries. I want to hope that when I do that. The person going to give me any trouble about it because it was hard enough for me to say now in the first place a lot of the time I just want you the other person to let me off the hook. And that is my issue. Not My child's because we're a child is coming from. Is They? Use these boundaries from us to release a lot of feelings that often have little to do with the specifics. It's a tendency children have it's actually very healthy. They have this Cathartic stress release experiences because they can't have ice cream right now, and yes, they are disappointed about the ice cream. I'm sure, but it touches off more feelings that a child has. So it's important for us to perceive these experiences that way so that we can understand that my child is having a kind of a Tantrum here. This is a seven year old version of a Tantrum for sure and can't even be the way that a younger child get stuck repeating repeating. Livy give asking I'm not happy about this. And what they also tend to be feeling is that the parent doesn't have complete conviction in their choice that the parent is like I'm saying about myself. A little unsure setting limits that maybe we're not in the groove of it yet. We haven't realized that this is one of the most important loving things we can do for a child. It's still feels a little mean. Maybe our child Snuka the like us. We WanNA please them. Maybe our child's going to reject us, and we could be tapping into old attachment feelings that we have from our childhood. But for whatever reason were not coming down the note and then doing the other part that we have to do to be your child's leader with conviction, and that's welcome them to share. What are they need to share about that? Welcome them to keep persisting welcome to keep asking. We are so centered and sure of our decisions, and we need to find this in every decision, even the small ones like ice cream. We need to find this in the moment. We need to get in the habit of ideally coming down those notes a period at the end of our sentence and sure of ourselves. Or even if we're not sure, we can be assured about not being sure by saying it <hes> let me think and not because you are pestering me and repeating this that I'm getting worn down. It's just me actually taking a moment from a platform of strength because we have so much power as the parents is the adults in the room. We have all the power here and so I can take a moment. Moment <hes> let me think I'm not sure. And meanwhile our child is saying. Oh, please please, please. We have to let that go. We have to hold our own with our children with every limit that we set ideally and we're not going to be perfect. We're going to have days where we're exhausted. We can't, but if we can at least do it half the time or a little more than half the time. Will start to feel that groove and we'll start to see how it helps our child to let go when we do that.
"janet" Discussed on Green Wisdom Health Podcast by Dr. Stephen and Janet Lewis
"Hello and welcome to this edition of the Green Wisdom Health. Show I'm Janet Lewis Sir. Lewis and we're here to give you a very informative show today, <hes>. Hopefully we'll try to keep all this straits can is going to be a bunch of information <hes> and we hope all of you enjoy it, and we hope all of Y'all are doing well out in green wisdom land. <hes>, this show is going to be called our vitamins, just expensive urine, and for those of you that are taking vitamins and know what they can do. There are many of you out there. That are new to listening to hell shows and are taking vitamins at. Maybe you're buying a big box store, and you don't really notice any difference and could say well. Maybe they're just expensive urine, so Dr Lewis is going to dispel some of those myths. He's GonNa tell you the differences. He's going to tell you. What a good vitamin and a different! Grade of category will do on lab work. What it what it can move for as far as lab value numbers, which is why we run lab <hes>, and what a bad one can do as well <hes>, but I I think we WANNA. Start this show off. We've got a bunch of questions <hes>, but we have got a letter from one of our very loyal patients for many years at was kind enough to refer his friend to us. Who in turn had his wife do her lab with us? <hes> Michelle and so. Eric the one that actually did the referring to start with. Thank you very much Eric we love you. <hes> wrote a very nice letter to us over the weekend. And you guys as much as we try to inspire. You really helps when you inspire us as well and this did that for us, so I'd like to read that letter to you and then I'd like Dr Lewis to <hes> comment if that's okay this. He's ready to comment I know he is. So he wants to pass on, Eric wants to pass on some really good news Michelle did her lab with us and followed our instructions after a doctor visit that said her blood was out of whack, and she needed a bunch of prescription medications, and honestly that's when we get. A lot of people is when they don't want to take all these prescriptions. They Kinda. Wait until they've been hit with Oh my gosh, you're you're really sick, so let's lay all these drugs on you. So she got scared and her lab with us. Fast forward to this week when she went back to the doctor and told him well I. Did this Doctor Lewis Thing, and he looked at seven labs of panels and gave me some supplements to take. The doctor looked at the nurse. They chuckled and said you're peeing that down the drain, and they don't work, and you just need this ten dollar prescription and your cholesterol and triglycerides and blood pressure will be fine. So. He ran her blood work again call two days later and said he apologized I. Don't know who this guy is, but keep doing what you're doing and don't take these prescriptions. had better than fifty percent improvement in three months. How cool is that? Thanks for all you guys do. And you know the basics the. Of this I guess. The doctor actually wanted to know who Dr Lewis was so that was pretty cool. So Dr Lewis you want to tell us a little bit about <hes>. What made you different? What made you do something different with her lab? Been What? Anybody, else would do I. Guess Well, because I'm a car proctor. I wouldn't prescribed drugs. Even if I could which I can't, but and I'm not against drugs, <hes> at all I love her medical profession, and but I've seen many many years ago where the medical doctors and osteopaths. <hes> they got were. They cannot really practice the the the and they have so called standard of care, which is not necessarily what's in the best interest of the patients, and they're frustrated, too. I've never seen an MD or do that wasn't just a wonderful person and had good intentions. But <hes> they're not trained that way. You know. I'm a contractor I. think everything's nerve supplier nutrition and he know sergeant everything's <hes>. What can I do surgically to fix it, so we're all good people they're trying to help. Just you know one has opinion you like and so. Eric sent this email and he told me said. Don't let Janet Reba below the line. He had a little colorful remark about what he had to the doctor to see it at all. Eric, actually, she didn't until I pointed it out your Eric you're funny. I'm going to go down to port. Nitrous Texas wherever that is southeast. Texas Word Northeast Texas I'm. Go visit them sometimes. Some David I talked to Michelle. and. She's a sweetheart and she told me the story also and you know I'm not anti medical. They've saved my bacon more than once, but here's the problem. And unfortunately I'm pretty simple guy. Maybe unfortunately but. Since. When do we think that God is not involved in this process and why you know this thing, Oh, you just have expensive urine and I said on this one huge huge podcast I was a guest in. This guy has like quarter million listeners. Said something about expensive year and I said well. I just had a forty two dollar rib. I do. I have expensive excrement? You know it's foolish to think that your body doesn't take what it needs from that and use it for good. <hes> you have to take vitamins. You have to take good ones I've seen vitamins. Put out by famous doctors. You get famous by paying somebody ten or twenty grand route a book you know. Most of these books are not even written by the doctor. That's the only reason I could write a book. Have somebody do it better than me, but what happens is. Are The reason why you need vitamins and they have to be good ones. You know I've had a good wife and a bad one, so there's a difference in women. There's a difference in vitamins say. <hes> one of the things you have to realize that God's in control and he works in your body. Whatever you think God is, but North America is probably the most well fed, but undernourished people in history, the the souls been depleted of this nutritious at least for one hundred years. <hes> and now we're saturate and it with <hes> chemical fertilizers, pesticides, and it's <hes> Kinda. Killed The microorganisms that allow the nutrients to get up into. <hes> into the plant itself, and then we're feeding mannerly in inside and vitamin deficient. Food to our livestock, so they're not what they should be.
"janet" Discussed on Janet Lansbury Podcast
"As a black woman. You know you, we. We see so much of this closer up fries, you know. And so when it all started to kind of <hes> happen, if bell very much like here we go, it's the same cycle. It's been happening. You know for us. I think the first one I remember was <hes> Trayvon Martin. You kind of get used to seeing these traumatizing enriches morning with the family improvising so hard, and then seeing the person gets off Ford ever happened, and that's like a crush again, so it's like it happens over and over and over so you begin to lose hope. You know you're like here. It goes you know and so I kind of gotten to a point where I. Just it was too much I. had shut it out I can, I cannot deal with. This is just going to happen all over again. This time. It feels different. Especially Lists Young Equal Day are speaking up in a way that is so power phone so direct in so hopeful in. It's like get it. They are getting it in their speaking up to their their parents, you know. People that joint tic TAC over the quarantine so I'll scroll and grow in. Exposing these conversations actual conversations that they're having appearance in. It's like wow, it's on them. Getting kicked out their houses. It's kind of you know. The, writing black lives matter on the chunk of their driveway. Mean they are like they are living the revolution at home in that is so hard for at in and so many of them have actually said they're getting through to their parents gives me chills ungrateful <hes> I. Am Hopeful We may evolve me, too, so yeah, we have this wonderful generation Z. of heard them. Them called. I Gen. My children are in that generation, and now we have the next generation that you and a lot of the people that listen to this podcast or reading. How do we honor this work with them? How do we ensure that we're raising anti-racist children? What can we do? I really mostly just WANNA. Listen to what you have to say about this. You know civilization. It seems like it's being presented with. This divine opportunity to evolve in it's so painful yet hopeful you know for it systematically for centuries what have been oppressed in this country whether the from implicit bias over covert racism being traumatize, and it's like we've reached a point where it seems like people are ready to say enough is enough and are collectively pushing each other to be on the right side of this journey. And with that, it's like folks WanNa know what what can we do and so I have two answers that I have prepared for today. One is see yourself. The second is seared charter. There's a Colt by Rene. Brown, it says we cannot give our show dron what we do not have. We cannot give our children. What we do not have in an to know what you have. You have to see yourself and that requires being mindful. People instantly get defensive if they're raises because it doesn't feel good to be labeled, and especially not that all <hes> it's like no, that's not me. I don't accept that you know I'm nice to people. Treat them how I want to be treated. I give him a shirt off my back, but it's like would if you took the time to look at it from a mindfulness approach. There is this great Buddhist tool for minds s? It's an acronym called rain recognize. Allow investigate with kindness in in night into the Keisha. You know you might find yourself in situations where a decision you may or something you said as you being caught out or being respected for being racist, or maybe there is no call out. Maybe you're just something you did or experience, so which you do as first you're to recognize what is happening in my body right now. Does my stomach haven't Iki him? How about my face? My chest? Am I having desire to distract or remove myself from the situation? Just recognizing everything that you're feeling can be very our. Next year to allow those feelings to just be. It can be hard to sit with discomfort. We want to push it out of our bodies, but don't fight them. And maybe even picture is comfort looks like.
"janet" Discussed on Janet Lansbury Podcast
"And. Hi, this is Janet lansbury, welcome to unruffled today. I'm going to be responding to note, I received from parent who's concerned because she wants to help her son to dress himself. More independently she feels they've been helping them a little too much. And she's not sure about some of the steps in the process before I begin. If you're like me, you do your very best to make smart diet choices to keep your body healthy for the long run. But even with those great intentions were probably not getting all the essential nutrients, our bodies need on a daily basis ritual essential vitamin for women has all the nutrients most of us. Don't get enough of from food all in their clean absorbable forms. No. Shady, additives ingredients that can do more harm to your body than good ritual spent years. Obsessively researching women's diets to understand what we need in a supplement and what we don't and they've re engineered. Smarter multivitamin that helps fill gaps in a woman's diet from d three to mega three all of rituals, vegan, friendly, sugar-free, non GMO, gluten free and allergen free ingredients and their sources are spelled out right there on the label my daughter's vegan and she's very particular about what goes into her body before ritual became one of my sponsors. She was using these vitamins, she was taking them for months. She loves the price she loves the convenience of the home delivery, and the peace of mind. She gets from rituals premium quality science back nutrients, and she's never felt better right now ritual is offering my listeners ten percent off during your first three months by going to ritual dot com slash respect. A subscription is easy to start and it's easy to snooze. It's only a dollar a day to have all the essential nutrients, your body needs delivered every month no-strings-attached rituals essential for women. Go to ritual dot com slash. Specked our ESP C T and get ten percent off, during your first three months. That's ritual dot com slash respect. Here's the note. I received I've been reading as much of your information as quickly as I can because I see my children responding so well to your advice. My current issue has to do with my three year old as a matter of convenience, his dad, and I have helped him get dressed every day by literally dressing him. It didn't occur to us that he should have been doing more along time ago. We just did it out of habit. I know he's capable of most of the tasks of getting dressed for instance he can put his pants on but still struggles greatly with the buttons. So I've taken a huge step back and now make sure to allow ample time for him to do what he can independently. I'm always there for empathy and support. But I want him working through the frustrating parts of what he can do. I've tried finding an answer in the things you've written. But I'm stuck at the point where he gives. Is up very quickly and demands help the result is always him doing it himself. But yesterday, he took an hour put his pants and underwear back on after using the bathroom he prefers them off rather than around his ankles. I'm trying to determine if I'm doing things right. And just need to stick with it or if I'm missing something really obvious that would help him. I'm determined to figure this out. Because obviously, I can't go to school with him in a couple years to put his pants back on after uses the bathroom each day. I've joked that I'm yearning for the day, that I'm complaining that he won't let me help because he insists on doing everything himself. Okay. Well this mother is trying to determine if I'm doing things right. She says, and I would say she mostly is she's giving him the space to try things himself. And one thing that's really important that she's doing is she has empathy and support for him in his struggles. But let's talk about some more details that she can add to this to help them make progress in a cheering these skills, and performing these activities. I'm going to go over some steps that work at any stage of the game with a child, whether we are just starting out inviting them to participate in practicing these skills, or if for trying to make a change later this family's doing the first step in trying to encourage a child to be able to be more independent in these caregiving, tasks is to be fully connected during these activities. Meaning this is a time that we put the phone aside. We don't look at those text messages, or answer our phone. We are there for our child, because caregiving times, like dressing bathing pressuring hair bedtime rituals putting bandaids on or with the younger child change. Diapers. These are times that are built for intimacy and children. Learn through our relationship when we're engaging in these tasks, they learn how to participate, and they feel our support. These are times of bonding were touching. Our child or helping them with their self care and were teaching