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"jaime lerner" Discussed on Monocle 24: The Globalist

Monocle 24: The Globalist

09:20 min | 2 months ago

"jaime lerner" Discussed on Monocle 24: The Globalist

"We begin a quick look at what else is happening in. Today's news hong kong's pro democracy media. Figure jimmy lai has been jailed for fourteen months for taking part in an unauthorized assembly in our faces. A total of twenty months in jail the us will not rejoin the open skies treaty agreement which allows nations to send unarmed aerial flights over dozens of participating countries to us a military activity washington says attract. He has been undermined by russia's violations and the brazilian architect inada planet. Jaime lerner has died. He was eighty three. He helped train transport networks cities around the world by prioritizing people of 'cause say monocle twenty four throughout the day for more on these stories. But i the poster boys of populism get together today as hungary's prime minister viktor orban heads to ten downing street in london to pay a visit to his british counterpart. Boris johnson mr auburn is one of the few voices with the indie. You who approves of mister johnson but his reputation of draining. The country of its democratic freedoms goes before him. So how will he be received. Well quentin pillars associate fellow at chatham house europe program. And i'm going to say. He joins me monocle. Twenty four good morning. Welcome to the globalist clinton thank you. I'm a good morning. And so i mean. I described them as opposed to boys of populism but it it really is the case for these two men who are going to be enjoying the moment together in some wants more today yes. It's very strange one. I mean they're both troublemakers. Essentially they both enjoy stirring it up and one wonders walk. Boris johnson is expecting to get out of viktor. Orban is he looking for the troublemaking ally who stand by him if he has a confrontation with the eu over the border in northern ireland over the northern ireland protocol because he certainly not a big gain to be talking to somebody. Who's a natural diplomats. And that truly going to actually help is relationship. I think you can underestimate very gentle description of of of auburn not being natural diplomatically. Most people would describe him as a holy unsavory. Yes absolutely and indeed He's very much nationalist anti immigration. He's made anti muslim comments his anti semitic comments. He's forced the universe the central european university out of budapest which was founded by george soros. Who's jewish background. He's made very clear is what he doesn't like so this is not an easy man for boris johnson to embrace if he wants to be seen with global britain as a sort of leader of liberal democracy. Indeed i mean being friendly with viktor orban which i can imagine. He will be later on today in public. At least does this make him. Look like the champion of british values and independence and breaking away or does this make him look simply like the bullies mate You the trouble is the of course. The left will be very outspoken and critical of viktor. Orban coming it looked to be absolutely honest. I suspect most people in britain. He won't care very much. Hungary is a small and faraway country as far as they're concerned and i think that what it really reveals about. Boris johnson is the global britney's rather struggling to find relevant friends on the international stage. So he stands to gain the most out of this meeting. I'm sorry what he stands to gain the most out of this meeting. Well i think probably viktor orban will will gain a certain but neither side is actually giving to be wooing friends from this meeting then gang to be burnishing their reputation as being the outsiders. The difficult ones the troublemakers. And i think that's what they're looking for. I don't let's be clear. The hunger is about to take the championship of the vichy grad member states of the european union. That's to say. Poland and slovakia and the czech republic is well as hungary so he has a certain relevance he also shares with boris. Johnson's conservative party The fact that he has walked out of the largest political group in the european parliament the european people's party so they do have that in common. And i'm sure they'll find ways of trying to present this as a relevant to people but i i am baffled. Actually as to why it's happening unusual isn't it. I mean i. I wonder whether however there will be some discussion of brexit. No doubt the fact that after the departure of the united kingdom all eyes are now turning to hungary as the next country. That could leave as well. I suppose so. I mean he really throughout the brexit negotiations Boris johnson and his government were looking to hungary and also poland as potential allies in are getting a better deal than we. Otherwise might do the truth. Is that at the end of the day. Neither hungry nor poland stood up and and took britain's side in the negotiations. Because i think they both realize that at the end of the day are much better off inside the european union had it. They are not going to believing in the near future. Tell me a little bit more about the the the wide of relationships that viktor auburn and indeed. Boris johnson enjoys. I mean all band cease himself as an ally of russia's president vladimir putin. This is a very difficult stunts. For for boris johnson to accept. not least. because what's been happening in belarus in the last week or so the fact that a belarusian or the authorities ordered the the landing of orion airplane in order to Arrest dissident the european union has reacted by trying to by banning Aircraft flying over belarusian. Airspace that the united kingdom have done the same thing. Is there a possibility for apps that johnson can work to bring auburn away from putin or is that just. That's just a hopeless thought. I think that's a step too far at the moment. But having said that viktor orban has found himself really run the more isolated from his colleagues that he was already. Let's to say he's been hoping to put together a source of a right wing group. That would have been quite a lot in common in their resistance to brussels interference in Political domination of the judiciary or the media in their countries and in particular. He's been looking to have a brother. Good close alliance with the polish government. Now that seems to have gone up the spout precisely because of his attitude towards vladimir putin and russia and the polls are very suspicious of the russians and on on this question of sanctions against belarus. He's rolled over and gone along with them whereas not so long ago he was actually trying to get the sanctions against belarus lifted. So i think he's rather more isolated than he was precisely because his attitude towards russia and indeed his desire to have closer relations with china. Ah both regarded by the other member states of the european union as a step too far speaking of of the way that the of image and reputation it. It's a strange time. Now when we see the likes of. Boris johnson and viktor orban together in public. If we if we cost on minds back two years when boris johnson was just about to take the reins at number ten and viktor orban was in power but also donald trump was a strong populist. Figure it seemed that the populous movement as sort of feeling of sogari was rather was writing high wanted say how times changed given the departure of donald trump. It seems to be a different world. I mean it is such a relief not to have that tirade of tweets coming out of donald trump. some some had dominating the news every day and that Joe biden really is going back to a much more familiar america and so therefore those who were looking to You have much closer relations with with a populist nationalism. I mean let's not forget that actually viktor orban described. Those trump and johnson is the most courageous the most dynamic in the most ready to affect change of all world leaders. Well donald trump is at least for the time being completely out of the out of the scene. And i suspect victoria boundaries..

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"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

OC Talk Radio

03:17 min | 4 months ago

"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

"And your hey charlie. Hey paul on our show today with lindsay davis. We explore the very core of human existence. I think we can sum it up. Best with the words of psychologists phil sutherland who said as human beings before we are anything else we are burning ball of desire lenzi and i prob- the role of bernie desire and every single move. We make we are desire without desire. We really are barely more than automatons. But with desire we're hungry we are fruitful and we can find extraordinary pleasure and productivity in life and. Why should our lives not be pleasurable and productive. Let's find out on my conversation with business. Life and performance coach. Lindsay davis lindsay davis. Welcome to the next chapter with charlie. Charlie good to be here talking with you again. Thank you for having me. I was enjoy our conversations so much you know lindsay from our many phone conversations. I'm going to guess that you are a brilliant business in my life coach because you always impressed me with unique insights and perspective never fails. Well you know the only as good as the conversation you're having so you bring it out of me and I think together we we get into some pretty fund topic so redo talking with you. I sometimes how many times have we said think we should have. We should have recorded our phone call. That was broadcast. Yeah i did Pressing record yeah. Yeah i think. I think we are. We are woven from the same cloth of the same. I guess that's the way you would say. It isn't whirlwind from the same cloth woven into the same month. We our our. Our view of life is very similar. Yeah i agree so lindsay today. What i wanna talk about. I'm into I'm really into this idea of desire just as a as a comment and per as as a content and personally i'm into desire myself like i had a guest. I think it was last week jaime lerner and and she called herself a pleasure junkie. I can relate to that. It's not that looking only for pleasure and having fun and being no crazy and wild. But i find enjoyment from so many different things in life and i personally have lots of desires sometimes. There are people desires mission desires and sometimes just purdy selfish taking care of myself desires. Do you have things like that as well. Ideal and i love the word that you chose which is enjoy it. Desire and enjoyment and pleasure can be really misunderstood as just superficial hedonism.

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"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

OC Talk Radio

06:11 min | 5 months ago

"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

"Responsibility and find someone who will support that people end up in therapy years and years in year they get nowhere. It's just unbelievable. But they don't even know they have an option to get out of therapy. Oh my goodness about that is that is that that guru oriented that we feel in an odd sort of way. It is almost like a victim in that in that we're in. We don't trust our capacity to know about ourselves when we feel like. We need an expert to tell us about ourselves. We need someone to and and and you're consistent in arguing that we don't need experts that we have everything we need already built inside of us we just need to discover processes perhaps and in confidence in in discovery ourselves and i think we are experts for ourselves. I don't think experts. I don't consider myself an expert for anybody. Do you know but you know how rare that is. Jamie did you know that is. That is a wonderful place but i. I don't know how many people really feel expert in themselves that they feel lost themselves. I i don't know what i want. If i only knew what my purpose in life was if i only knew what i was here to do and to and to accomplish and if i only knew what would self-fulfilment would mean to me because we have so many con- conflicting sources out there telling us. This is what you need. This is what you don't need and you know in our american self-help culture is almost. It's almost destructive. Think they're air fell more consciousness and more awareness and more empowerment to Discover fell. That is certainly. You can find many more resources today about that than ever befall and i also say that if you break it down to end this moment. What's my purpose in this moment. Because my need in this moment it just makes it so much easier. And if i just saw inconvenient minimum which is really a lovely place and then on to the next mom and shook theories of known and hope please within all of that a lot of pleasure in good field. That is so good and so to wrap up our time. What i wanna do is talk about the coaches and guides for those of us. That may not be exactly clear on the process. You have you have on your website. You have a process. The people can contact you and forever. So brief encounters think even called them quickies. That's called the quickie a lovely texting option. Yes it is and The other thing about working with me when people contract they tell me how much time they want by a block of time and tell me how much money they want. I don't tell down with a knee. They tell me what need and so at the perez skinny. I precision the person as their own experts. Which is really different so have to wanna take a little personal responsibility to do Do you offer do offer any kind of any kind of survey or assessment centers so they can help identify what they need. Because that's a very difficult question. Sometimes now they don't really need to know what they need to know how much time they want for their russians so literally. You buy a path of time. They reach out to me for my first session. I by twenty one. May i reach the person we have twenty minutes for the next session. They get to ask them for playing for the next session. Homage time might need imaging. I'm not going to tell me what you. But i'm so happy to accommodate whatever this evening and therein lies take personal responsibility and the beginning the process of tractable soft which is so night. It's great now. no. I'm going to have your your website. Where they were interested. People can get in touch with you through your website. And and i will have the url but just for on the air. What is the A dress jamie that they can get you at. Www dot j. m. i. e. cash elliara ner.com so jaime lerner dot com and they will be it will be folks will be on the show notes and so you can just there'll be a link and you can just tap into get a hold of jamie and i really encourage you to do. So she's She's a masterful coach and and she will uses what she calls. Integrative approach of life and self learning jaime lerner. what a treasure. Thank you so much for spending time with me today. Uncle how much for inviting my pleasure. And i want everyone to know as i said that your website address will be posted on the show notes. One thank all our listeners for tuning into the next chapter with charlie end until next. This is charlie hedges signing off by now..

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"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

OC Talk Radio

04:06 min | 5 months ago

"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

"Hi there this is charlie hedges. And you're listening to the next with charlie and my very special guests. Today's jaime lerner A woman who is a therapist adventurer pleasure seeker and a cute devil tae of self care. And that's exactly what we're talking about. And and i think she has so much teaches that i've learned so much from jamie and jimmy. We've talked about a bit about personal responsibility. And that letting other people know not expecting other people to somehow somehow be able to read our minds in our souls and understand what we need. We need to articulate that. What other kinds of personal responsibility you know. We're talking about our own personal responsibility and our self care. How can i take responsibility for myself. Do you have any examples of that for me now. I think that away are rewarded in society. Forbidden since Mainstream media that. They reminded us every moment. That's come we are the victim of everything. We have no control so for me. I always suggest to people to turn off the television and to Find a new source. That is a little more emotionally intelligent. That will allow us to feel good when you're done breathing. You're listening to or watching in fetter feeling paralleling cars. We have to take personal responsibility for what we are chasing to consume and hall. We will fail one way or done firmly cloud video. You know that's brilliant. You know is that we have to take responsibility for what we consume in our media. And and i find pretty much nothing but danger when not not just. Tv in general but for me. It's tv news and tv news. You know their their purpose is to stir up controversy in stirrup. Stir up resentment and anger and that victim mentality is just. It is so common on on and it's and it's in it's not one political side or the other it's all it is just so unhealthy because it doesn't teach self responsibility. It doesn't teach being rewarded for not for being victim but be rewarded for being a personal herself hero. And do you agree with that. I do agree with that. But also what's more important how you feel after you continue that because if you are not killing. Us clue for gale. It's not working on. Most people really feel terrible. They tell so soft and shutdown and the opposite of empowers the peel very different politics so there are many other choices but one could make in terms of how they were gonna get there do of the game and if our personal responsibility to be more discern institute something that allows us to that what we need an move.

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"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

OC Talk Radio

15:29 min | 5 months ago

"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

"We just are and were very well equipped to do it. And it's also interesting about reinvention. Is that we lose a lot of something. That is very important along the way which is south care so women are masterful in reinventing themselves and then they also are masterful in forgetting themselves. How did how did how did he know. We're going to make a transition to self care. I mean seriously on my sheet in front of the next. The next bullet point was self care and you made a wonderful trenches transition to it. So that is what. I'd like to talk about now. And and focus probably the majority of our time is self care and personal responsibility and and especially in this current cova time of chaos and confusion and and one of the things that you told me about when we chatted before the podcast was that you described your passion. Your current passion for helping people find themselves in the moment. Can you tell me what that what that means to you. Find yourself in the moment every moment that we can be present and it is just a moment by moment and establish or reestablish connection with ourselves that that is the ultimate in self care and and i think a lot of that comes from being able to manage our thoughts and then are feeling but first and foremost our thaw and i think it's important cut. We rarely slow everything down and allow ourselves to be in that moment contain. That's why one of the most important things of how we can care for ourselves and then others it's always about foul firth and then others. It's kind of a win win for everybody. Jesus talks about that. When he says you know i it's always quoted love god and love your neighbor but what's always left out is love. Love your neighbor as yourself and to me that assumes self love precedes other love the cacao kangaroo barber care for another if they're not taking care of yourself self love is sort of. it's almost frowned upon that. You are selfish. You are ego centric if you do that and and if you take care of yourself too much and yet and yet if you don't take care of yourself you're you're no good to anyone else you know want when you could on the airplane they tell you to put your mask on on first before assisting other people and there's a reason for that. That is a universal truth. We cannot care for anyone until we care for ourselves without feeling resentment and if we feel is not much then we are not caring for ourselves or another. So you know. I think people don't really understand what it means to wrap third loving arms around themselves and nourish and nurture themselves into connection. That is the most unselfish thing that you can do. And in some ways it sure responsibility if you're then going to assume the care of others whether be children or a teacher or if you're in any role where you're in a leadership role it's just not possible to do it without having spent some time with yourself and nourishing yourself and if they're self some something to give agree with you on that and i was thinking about taking care of ourselves. There's there's just a number of of ways to do that in you know we're going to get into tactics toward the end of the Of the of the of the show. But right. Now i i'd like to disorder. Get a big picture of what do you mean by taking care of yourself. I know account. I have an idea of what i need by but but i'm curious what your interpretation is kind of goes hand in hand with taking personal responsibility to understand that really. It is known responsibility to care for your responsibility to begin to have an understanding of what year in the evening for yourself and then to figure out a way a gentle loving way to kind of implement some of that self care and most people do the opposite. They expect other people to care for them. They don't even know their own news. They expect others around them to know what they need and they expect that they should be given what they need. There's this really Twisted sense of entitlement. just because the very I think the other interesting thing about women reinventing themselves then they get to hide behind all of the roles that they've taken on as they never care for themselves the end up feeling resentful. They ended up feeling overwhelmed. The end up feeling all the things that they should be feeling and yet known even knows what they need. Not even know. They haven't even taken the time to figure out like okay but only know what i need for my. What do i need to do first thing in the morning but the guy can so myself up before we take care of all these other people so to step into that role of personal responsibility for sending the morning and ask yourself now. What are what. I need so myself. That is such a loving and lovely question to ask one and then to answer it with you. Maybe coffee before. I serve an to eat something before i i just some basic things. That really remind us that we're important. How counter cultural that is because we you know we're we're thinking we always have to be givers don't we we. We can't be. we can't be takers. we can't be an it's not even really taking it's it's more of. You're giving love from an empty cup and you've got to fill that love your love cup for yourself because unless you do you end up resenting the very people that you are serving and it doesn't feel good on your and it doesn't feel good on there and either never feels good to be given some things from someone who is representing you in the process so yet to unconditionally give to hand. That is a lovely feeling for the giver and the receiver and the way we get there is by taking care of ourselves so that we can give which hand alternate goal to feel good about the giving and to feel good about the person who is receiving what your kid i have for the last year been very involved on my own in in the in the sort of tradition node as mystic christianity and the mystics and and and i'm reading people of the thirteenth to fourteenth century teresa viola saint john of the cross and and teresa viola sort of my my guru. Now and she was. She was in the fifteenth century. And they talk about spending this time in divine contempt mystical prayer. But she is very strong that you do that in doing that. You are taking care of yourself your relationship with yourself yourself in the divine how how you relate in the divine but that that then becomes the resource for helping others that so you don't you don't just folk off. Yeah you don't just focus on yourself and forget everybody else. You have to focus on yourself but then the result is it results in a self care you. You can't help but want to share that with other people tackle once again. It's a win win for every beautiful idea. Now you want. You talked about personal responsibility in that. And i've even thought about making when i make a title for this show and we'll see what happens after the show. They make the title. But i i'm working on a premise of the me. Look at my own title here. Self care your responsibility to be responsible for yourself. Well is it so you would. You says it's good. I'm glad you agree because you're not title if you said no i don't believe any of that however it's a turn off for people a lot of people do not want to be responsible from south. They feel resentful that they should have to be responsible for themselves. They feel entitled that others should be responsible for their happy. And i think that it just needs to be thought about in a different way because who would know better for you than you know and yet we expect others to know what we need what. We consider south for first and foremost look. We need the great question. People don't ask themselves that question very often. But do you want. Don't ask themselves that either but people will tell you all day long what they want and what they get is more of what they don't want so and it's always someone else's all so you know if that doesn't work very well that way no it doesn't and and how in the world like you said if we haven't even really investigated pin through the thought process of understanding what we want and what we like in life. How in the world is someone else supposed to know that you know great costal one and yet we expect them to set us fai our needs and we've not identified their their needs. I mean our our needs and how they need to respond. You know My listeners heard have heard this before. But my wife. And i for probably. We've been married thirty six years and for at least twenty five of those. If not more. We take every year between christmas and new years now. This happens throughout the year but we take an intentional time of three days away so we can have two nights in one place. You know two full days in place and we ask each other So how was i. What kind of husband was last year. What kind of wife was i. And and what do you want from me. How can i serve you in helping. You find. You know helping you fulfill your needs and so we're forcing ourselves to identify our knees and until the other person. This is what i would like fantastic. I mean that's that's a conscious of our relationship a nice guy. Yeah yeah you know a lot of good writing on that jamie is. Are you familiar with the land baton. Elaine de button depends on how you want to pronounce it. The scarlet life. You know he's rich and really good stuff on that he's ridden maybe the best stuff of love between a man and a woman as anyone is written for you know. He's just barely turned forty now but he just has has exceptional writing on that. You know what i wanna do. I i want to go a bit deeper but before we do. I'd like to take a quick break. And then we will come back. And we're going to pursue a little bit more about this personal responsibility and how the victim mentality may come into play in that. Hi there this is charlie hedges. And you're listening to the next with charlie and my very special guests. Today's jaime lerner A woman who is a therapist adventurer pleasure seeker and a cute devil tae of self care. And that's exactly what we're talking about. And and i think she has so much teaches that i've learned so much from jamie and jimmy. We've talked about a bit about personal responsibility. And that letting other people know not expecting other people to somehow somehow be able to read our minds in our souls and understand what we need. We need to articulate that. What other kinds of personal responsibility you know. We're talking about our own personal responsibility and our self care. How can i take responsibility for myself. Do you have any examples of that for me now. I think that away are rewarded in society. Forbidden since Mainstream media that. They reminded us every moment. That's come we are the victim of everything. We have no control so for me. I always suggest to people to turn off the television and to Find a new source. That is a little more emotionally intelligent. That will allow us to feel good when you're done breathing. You're listening to or watching in fetter feeling paralleling cars. We have to take personal responsibility for what we are chasing to consume and hall. We will fail one way or done firmly cloud video. You know that's brilliant. You know is that we have to take responsibility for what we consume in our media. And and i find pretty much nothing but danger when not not just. Tv in general but for me. It's tv news and tv news. You know their their purpose is to stir up controversy in stirrup.

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#183 Jamie Lerner Self-Care: If You Dont, Who Will? - burst 03

OC Talk Radio

15:29 min | 5 months ago

#183 Jamie Lerner Self-Care: If You Dont, Who Will? - burst 03

"We just are and were very well equipped to do it. And it's also interesting about reinvention. Is that we lose a lot of something. That is very important along the way which is south care so women are masterful in reinventing themselves and then they also are masterful in forgetting themselves. How did how did how did he know. We're going to make a transition to self care. I mean seriously on my sheet in front of the next. The next bullet point was self care and you made a wonderful trenches transition to it. So that is what. I'd like to talk about now. And and focus probably the majority of our time is self care and personal responsibility and and especially in this current cova time of chaos and confusion and and one of the things that you told me about when we chatted before the podcast was that you described your passion. Your current passion for helping people find themselves in the moment. Can you tell me what that what that means to you. Find yourself in the moment every moment that we can be present and it is just a moment by moment and establish or reestablish connection with ourselves that that is the ultimate in self care and and i think a lot of that comes from being able to manage our thoughts and then are feeling but first and foremost our thaw and i think it's important cut. We rarely slow everything down and allow ourselves to be in that moment contain. That's why one of the most important things of how we can care for ourselves and then others it's always about foul firth and then others. It's kind of a win win for everybody. Jesus talks about that. When he says you know i it's always quoted love god and love your neighbor but what's always left out is love. Love your neighbor as yourself and to me that assumes self love precedes other love the cacao kangaroo barber care for another if they're not taking care of yourself self love is sort of. it's almost frowned upon that. You are selfish. You are ego centric if you do that and and if you take care of yourself too much and yet and yet if you don't take care of yourself you're you're no good to anyone else you know want when you could on the airplane they tell you to put your mask on on first before assisting other people and there's a reason for that. That is a universal truth. We cannot care for anyone until we care for ourselves without feeling resentment and if we feel is not much then we are not caring for ourselves or another. So you know. I think people don't really understand what it means to wrap third loving arms around themselves and nourish and nurture themselves into connection. That is the most unselfish thing that you can do. And in some ways it sure responsibility if you're then going to assume the care of others whether be children or a teacher or if you're in any role where you're in a leadership role it's just not possible to do it without having spent some time with yourself and nourishing yourself and if they're self some something to give agree with you on that and i was thinking about taking care of ourselves. There's there's just a number of of ways to do that in you know we're going to get into tactics toward the end of the Of the of the of the show. But right. Now i i'd like to disorder. Get a big picture of what do you mean by taking care of yourself. I know account. I have an idea of what i need by but but i'm curious what your interpretation is kind of goes hand in hand with taking personal responsibility to understand that really. It is known responsibility to care for your responsibility to begin to have an understanding of what year in the evening for yourself and then to figure out a way a gentle loving way to kind of implement some of that self care and most people do the opposite. They expect other people to care for them. They don't even know their own news. They expect others around them to know what they need and they expect that they should be given what they need. There's this really Twisted sense of entitlement. just because the very I think the other interesting thing about women reinventing themselves then they get to hide behind all of the roles that they've taken on as they never care for themselves the end up feeling resentful. They ended up feeling overwhelmed. The end up feeling all the things that they should be feeling and yet known even knows what they need. Not even know. They haven't even taken the time to figure out like okay but only know what i need for my. What do i need to do first thing in the morning but the guy can so myself up before we take care of all these other people so to step into that role of personal responsibility for sending the morning and ask yourself now. What are what. I need so myself. That is such a loving and lovely question to ask one and then to answer it with you. Maybe coffee before. I serve an to eat something before i i just some basic things. That really remind us that we're important. How counter cultural that is because we you know we're we're thinking we always have to be givers don't we we. We can't be. we can't be takers. we can't be an it's not even really taking it's it's more of. You're giving love from an empty cup and you've got to fill that love your love cup for yourself because unless you do you end up resenting the very people that you are serving and it doesn't feel good on your and it doesn't feel good on there and either never feels good to be given some things from someone who is representing you in the process so yet to unconditionally give to hand. That is a lovely feeling for the giver and the receiver and the way we get there is by taking care of ourselves so that we can give which hand alternate goal to feel good about the giving and to feel good about the person who is receiving what your kid i have for the last year been very involved on my own in in the in the sort of tradition node as mystic christianity and the mystics and and and i'm reading people of the thirteenth to fourteenth century teresa viola saint john of the cross and and teresa viola sort of my my guru. Now and she was. She was in the fifteenth century. And they talk about spending this time in divine contempt mystical prayer. But she is very strong that you do that in doing that. You are taking care of yourself your relationship with yourself yourself in the divine how how you relate in the divine but that that then becomes the resource for helping others that so you don't you don't just folk off. Yeah you don't just focus on yourself and forget everybody else. You have to focus on yourself but then the result is it results in a self care you. You can't help but want to share that with other people tackle once again. It's a win win for every beautiful idea. Now you want. You talked about personal responsibility in that. And i've even thought about making when i make a title for this show and we'll see what happens after the show. They make the title. But i i'm working on a premise of the me. Look at my own title here. Self care your responsibility to be responsible for yourself. Well is it so you would. You says it's good. I'm glad you agree because you're not title if you said no i don't believe any of that however it's a turn off for people a lot of people do not want to be responsible from south. They feel resentful that they should have to be responsible for themselves. They feel entitled that others should be responsible for their happy. And i think that it just needs to be thought about in a different way because who would know better for you than you know and yet we expect others to know what we need what. We consider south for first and foremost look. We need the great question. People don't ask themselves that question very often. But do you want. Don't ask themselves that either but people will tell you all day long what they want and what they get is more of what they don't want so and it's always someone else's all so you know if that doesn't work very well that way no it doesn't and and how in the world like you said if we haven't even really investigated pin through the thought process of understanding what we want and what we like in life. How in the world is someone else supposed to know that you know great costal one and yet we expect them to set us fai our needs and we've not identified their their needs. I mean our our needs and how they need to respond. You know My listeners heard have heard this before. But my wife. And i for probably. We've been married thirty six years and for at least twenty five of those. If not more. We take every year between christmas and new years now. This happens throughout the year but we take an intentional time of three days away so we can have two nights in one place. You know two full days in place and we ask each other So how was i. What kind of husband was last year. What kind of wife was i. And and what do you want from me. How can i serve you in helping. You find. You know helping you fulfill your needs and so we're forcing ourselves to identify our knees and until the other person. This is what i would like fantastic. I mean that's that's a conscious of our relationship a nice guy. Yeah yeah you know a lot of good writing on that jamie is. Are you familiar with the land baton. Elaine de button depends on how you want to pronounce it. The scarlet life. You know he's rich and really good stuff on that he's ridden maybe the best stuff of love between a man and a woman as anyone is written for you know. He's just barely turned forty now but he just has has exceptional writing on that. You know what i wanna do. I i want to go a bit deeper but before we do. I'd like to take a quick break. And then we will come back. And we're going to pursue a little bit more about this personal responsibility and how the victim mentality may come into play in that. Hi there this is charlie hedges. And you're listening to the next with charlie and my very special guests. Today's jaime lerner A woman who is a therapist adventurer pleasure seeker and a cute devil tae of self care. And that's exactly what we're talking about. And and i think she has so much teaches that i've learned so much from jamie and jimmy. We've talked about a bit about personal responsibility. And that letting other people know not expecting other people to somehow somehow be able to read our minds in our souls and understand what we need. We need to articulate that. What other kinds of personal responsibility you know. We're talking about our own personal responsibility and our self care. How can i take responsibility for myself. Do you have any examples of that for me now. I think that away are rewarded in society. Forbidden since Mainstream media that. They reminded us every moment. That's come we are the victim of everything. We have no control so for me. I always suggest to people to turn off the television and to Find a new source. That is a little more emotionally intelligent. That will allow us to feel good when you're done breathing. You're listening to or watching in fetter feeling paralleling cars. We have to take personal responsibility for what we are chasing to consume and hall. We will fail one way or done firmly cloud video. You know that's brilliant. You know is that we have to take responsibility for what we consume in our media. And and i find pretty much nothing but danger when not not just. Tv in general but for me. It's tv news and tv news. You know their their purpose is to stir up controversy in stirrup.

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"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

OC Talk Radio

07:27 min | 5 months ago

"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

"If you don't exercise intentional care for yourself you will be absolutely no good to anyone else on this show jamie and i are interested in the details of self care both and tangibly. What exactly can you do on a regular basis to build your own emotional bank account so that you have plenty leftover to give to others with that on with the show Jaime lerner how fun to have you once again on the next chapter with charlie. Welcome to be here. Thank you for inviting me again again. You know jamie the last time we did a podcast together. It was show number sixty and today we are recording. Show number one. Eighty three now was just over three years ago in january two thousand eighteen. How my goodness it's great to be back. Well it's great to have you back. I had such a fun time last time. And so i'm i'm looking forward to it. I've got. I have to tell you. And i and i want everybody to know that three years ago jamie. You gave me some personal advice. I don't know if he gave it to me personally. Or if it was done on the on over on the air but you told me we were talking about my difficult childhood and you told me to quit looking through the eyes of a child and look at my childhood through the eyes of an adult and you know that sticks with me today. And anytime i i think about that i think through the eyes of an adult and i think about that situation entirely differently because of you for folklore. Nice sometimes to have a different perspective. Oh well yeah and it's nice. Sometimes they have somebody that can offer you that perspective so before we immerse ourselves in our topic. Today as i was reading a bit. I would love to hear you speak on a couple of things that you that you wrote on your website and i'd like to know what you mean by two things one. You are a pleasure junkie. I love that. And secondly you're and what you're calling your third life. You're too young for a third life. So i'm very curious would those are all about. I spent a lot of time doing things that give me pleasure. Bad is in many ways. I think that that's really looked down upon in society that if we are to indulge ourselves and do things that please However i gravitate towards things that really connect me and bring me a lot of joy and my life is about that connection with my fault also pleasure and then of course to all and it's interesting because i think that wearing. We nurture and nourish herself in the connection that were having and then recreating with ourselves that we become so filled up that we just fell over into an onto everyone around us in a really lovely way bowl. I like to think of myself as the living breathing. Example off all that is possible when we are really Other no relaxing into healthcare finding pleasure and Sharing ourselves in a way. That's bob utah. I so agree with you. And i'm i'm sort of into pleasure. I read so much of the stoic. Mark serreze in seneca the younger but i i noticed seneca coding epa occurs. And so i read epa kuras. And you know. Unfortunately his epa corey and philosophy has been bastardized into some kind of drinking. And what do you call those things so sexual thing or jeez yes. What do you call those things shows shows. You know where i live. But that is not that has a representative occurs at all epa curse was in sort of sat cloth but he was all about life is to be enjoyed. Life is is a pleasurable experience. I really resonate with that. I think you're right that when you live a pleasurable life you'll live an attractive life. I like that the way you put that so talk about attractive lives what the heck is a third life while. I'm probably on my life by now. But i had my Children very young. I had my profession very young. I have grandchildren no way. Oh yes i have. Four grandchildren four beautiful grandchildren. And the most wonderful thing that i was there and assisted in each and every one of the birth which was amazing. Like a separate flights in itself. But i think that we are in reinventing ourselves over and over and over again and especially when i think that we have the ability to just continue to evolve and fifth reinvent herself though i think i will probably have nine live by the time on dong which are wonderful certainly identify but you know what really rouses my curiosity and that is because i female leadership female wisdom is very important to me that the divine feminine is a very important aspect and so i'm just curious. Why do you think that women would have maybe more opportunity or more likelihood to reinvent themselves. 'cause i think we hassle back why i think that women The tape on so many different roles and we wear so many different hats that becomes a part of who we are. I think fat especially now. Women have much greater opportunity to do just that the continue to reinvent themselves but a lot of it is because they need to. I'm going off of chart here. What is reinventing yourself. Look like because. I wrote a book twenty five years ago. That was ahead of its time. It was called Getting the right things right personal strategies for reinventing the life you want and that was long before anything was written on reinventing so i have my ideas about reinvention. But i'm i'm curious. What are yours all what's happening now. You know women or and probably men to are out of the workplace and in their homes and there are teachers needing to become teachers and literally for children in learning every day with remote learning. I mean we. Women are masters at adapting to whatever is needed..

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"jaime lerner" Discussed on The Dave Pamah Show

The Dave Pamah Show

01:39 min | 9 months ago

"jaime lerner" Discussed on The Dave Pamah Show

"And awakens. Your innermost capability. You have the training and the talent to succeed but do you have the guts to fail. I love what i do. We love what you do. You want to be the best at it. Today is about the power you you will change to find your path to success through the journey of those who have succeeded. And now your host. Dave pomme welcome back to the day palm show. And today i have a co author of the book epa loving essence of you jaime lerner. Welcome to the day. Palm showed thank you so much firm writing me find to be here. Now's the pleasure having here as well. jamie jamie tatsuta someone you you've been around for a while tennis what that's about and how it Basically walks around the work. You did and came on the book. The essence of came to be is the result of The relationship that i had with find mom or lack there of electoral. es because I was formed the knowing. And i believe that we all are and i was very connected to myself however i never quite felt connected to the person that brought me into this world so it really took me more than half my life to figure out why that once and my mother was a force of megyn. She was someone who believed the race. Forty eight hours and every day. She had five children and.

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"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

OC Talk Radio

10:01 min | 1 year ago

"jaime lerner" Discussed on OC Talk Radio

"The emotion comes before the memory. Absolutely? And and and if we had the memory, we could attack the emotion, but without the memory. How do you attack the emotion? It sometimes it calls that memory can be a resolve to understand where that emotion is coming from otherwise, we're just dealing with fear on its own level without fair. Digested, logically a reasonably. Absolutely we actually and I've I've done this myself It's funny. Because I have I have worked through. Limiting beliefs, I think everybody will always have some limiting beliefs I've worked through this process that you know I've thought Oh. This is you know. They have this feeling and this is. This is what I think. It comes from and I kind of do this. Write it down on a piece of paper and kind of do this Like level so I, write it down, and then I draw down Arrow, and then I right where I think that that came from and it's always really interesting, because if it does take a while, but if you take that time to do that, you know you can come back to that memory, and you can say okay. This is the feeling the high level. I saw this feeling you know and. And and I had one like a failure thing, and then as I dug down deeper and I did each of those levels I realized okay, that was from this specific memory as I dug deeper but I definitely agree you know you have that feeling and you say okay, I don't I don't WanNa, feel like this ever again. Right? I'M NOT GONNA. Do this because I. Don't WanNa. Feel like this. You know and then you have to kind of figure out where that came from and then the other side of that is then you have to say well. What is the real truth? Right and say this was that memory or this was the experience that happened, and just because it happened once doesn't mean it's always going to happen or. Sometimes, memory is a little bit different and not the whole picture you know so then you have to kind of create true than combat it with this is the truth of that situation or the truth of what would happen if I ever was in that situation again. You know something that that that we had a guest on and it was. I can't tell you how long ago I I don't recall. You know we don't have A. You know. We're not one of the people with the thousands of PODCASTS, but we have over. This is number one fifty six. I've I've done this a couple of times And and. I had a guest on Jaime Lerner. One time was a psychologist. And she was we were talking about. You. Know I had a very difficult childhood. And I had the these images that they were in fact memories Ashley. They were not. You know I had the emotion from them, but the memories and they were of abandonment and rejection, and for about the first seven years of my life. And Right. She told me something I'd. No one had ever said before because I always view those emotions that I felt from that time of rejection and abandonment, rejection and abandonment, I had always viewed those from the eyes of a child. From. This is what I thought. She said Charlie would be helpful if you view those from an ice of an adult. Don't view it from Childhood Perspective View It from an adult perspective, and you take a whole different position on and I gotta going to tell you Ashley how helpful that was I mean that was. Just that simple sentence was just enormously helpful for me. Yeah that sounds I mean I'm just sitting here going. Wow, that's so. His in the NFC. I would love to take credit, but it was Jaime Lerner and I do want to have her back on the show again. She was really a a bright psychologists and very fun to chat with. Yeah, that's awesome. That's really fascinating. I think you know Mindset shift then have in perspective shifts. Can. Be Magical things I think you know even in small daily life you know, but thinking about things like that. It's the the. You know deep deep rooted memory, saying okay, let's look at this from a different angle. You know I've I've never done it, but I would love to go back and start doing that now I'm sure if things pop up, all think of that and say okay. Think of that through the is image. How does that? Does that play out now? Or how does that make you feel now? That was maybe maybe a year ago. And I've been doing that process, and then I I took an extended retreated the early at the beginning of this year riot six days of sequestered silence. You know which my listeners are familiar with but I. Just so you know I. was I had a room I was in Hilo. And all made no difference because they never got to leave the room, and I had a ten foot square space in front of the room. They delivered food, no computers, no phones, no books, only a handwritten journal, and you're a month in solitude, a month or six days and in total solitude. And believe me the experience of that and what I got to go through with me, and and and it was. It was all about for me. It was all about self. Love it all about I could love everybody else. I you know I was great at that and and people appreciated that but I really didn't appreciate myself to the degree that I would like, and it took that time of reflection, and it took that time of. Of forced silence and solitude so I I didn't have distractions and. And it was It was an amazing experience. Yeah that sounds like it'd be an amazing Amazing experience we actually talk about that player bit so I Go to I live in San Diego I go to a church down in San. Diego and we talk I I'm not great at the. Silence and solitude. I'm like it. I'm not so good at it, but that's something that that we talked about quite a bit in something that you know. Almost everybody. Else around me, says every time they've done it. They've just had such an amazing. Experience and just felt you feel. So much better. just being able to take that time and step away and. Spend, time with yourself and yeah. I think that's a great in amazing practice. Well, it's. It's like what you're with the limiting beliefs that we're going to talk about. We really don't want to go there because it's too painful to go there yet. We need to go there, but I is. It is a painful journey. You know because you're talking about. You're talking about things that you're afraid of. And that means that means not only. Do you think others disregard yourself for that, but you disregard yourself personally for it. Is a matter of fact, you probably less concerned. What others think than what you think? Is that you you know you don't even have? You don't even have confidence in yourself. For sure I think that that's definitely I know even for myself and I some Prinze that I've worked with. It's like I don't want to say out loud that I. Don't believe that I can do this or I don't want to say out loud that I don't believe that I'm good enough or smart enough To Do to do something you know you definitely almost like. If you say it out loud then you really believe it, even though not saying out loud. We all know that you still really believe it right, but if you do say it out loud, there's something about sanded out loud. This sort of cements it. Absolutely I believe. Yeah? No I one hundred percent agree. Thanks that you Kinda need to cement it in order to be able to move forward from it. I WANNA I wanNA catch that and if. There's something I definitely want to talk about now. Do you think you know one thing I wrote before we start talking and just one more sentence, be worry, start identifying. Limiting belief so our audience really gets an understanding of what that's all about This is closely related to negative self-talk it not. Absolutely absolutely it is. And say air. Pretty much the same thing. Very close. Yeah, the maybe maybe the limiting beliefs are sort of buried back in our brain, and once you do self talk and the negative self-talk. It could become much more obvious. I don't know, but you know what I know. Now's the time that we need to talk about. You know you mentioned a couple of them, but. Can you give me some examples of limiting belief so so we can all get A. Wrap our arms around. What are the limits millenarian beliefs that prevent me from seeking my potential in my opportunities. Yeah I mean there's a lot of A lot of different ones I think a lot of people have experienced different ones, but. I think especially in the starting your own business arena one. That I. Run into a lot is. It's just hard Building a business as hard making money as hard, and yes, there is hard work involved and so I always find interesting because West limiting beliefs there sometimes is like little bits of truth in it right so sure there's hard in making money, but..

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"jaime lerner" Discussed on KSCO 1080

KSCO 1080

02:15 min | 3 years ago

"jaime lerner" Discussed on KSCO 1080

"To look at the specifics of every city in every bart system because they're they're street systems may be more expensive to refit for bus rapid transit some more than others ideally you should have a separate corridor with fortunately here in santa cruz county where we live there is a railroad corridor that's not being used during much it's almost abandoned and so now the debate is should we rebuilt the train there for passenger service because it requires a lot of upgrading to do that or replace the tracks with a bus way for bus rapid transit and bus rapid transit has some features that are better than trains the buses can get off of the bus way and go to locations in the city where this high demand universities and so on whereas trains are stuck on the tracks so you need to take a bus to get from the train station to the bus terminal where you transfer to another bus that takes it to your destination with bart cut out some of those transfers and make what they call single seat ride there's a story about curry courtesy by that i read somewhere and i now forgetting where but i read this story about the mayor who decided he was going to be radical and just get rid of all the cars in the main part of downtown and he did it like overnight he just closed down the main avenue where all the cars are clogging the downtown and in order to enforce remind people they weren't supposed to drive there he got butcher paper and just cover the whole street with butcher paper and gave a bunch of kids crayons and markers and set them loose and so suddenly there was a human space where the cars used to be and i thought that was really gutsy and brilliant jaime lerner the then mayor of creech was very colorful down to earth interesting character in again and it was a very well liked by his people and he was elected i think he became governor of his state and after he was done big bear but yeah that is funny story so at for he knew he his motto is if you want to get it done do it fast so he did this thing over a three day weekend when they open it up the.

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"jaime lerner" Discussed on KSCO 1080

KSCO 1080

02:21 min | 3 years ago

"jaime lerner" Discussed on KSCO 1080

"Well i've had a lot of interests over my life but i just know that our city and county here our strangulated on our freeway so i've become interested in trying to figure out what can be done to improve that and the county is doing a study of major study they've done major studies over the decades and nothing seems to get done very much but they have come up with recommendations in those studies to do bus rapid transit and i'm hoping that the currents that he will come out with the universe showing that it's actually a good way to go to what is bus rapid transit bus travel it has unpleasant attributes to it you know you get on a bus it stops almost every block it stuck in traffic like the cars are in congestion people don't like the two right on the buses so in chiba brazil in the early nineteen seventies the mayor whose name is jaime lerner had was faced with the problem that his city was large and growing and everybody told him a city your size needs to have a subway he looked at the cost and said we cannot afford to build the subway we're going to do the best we can with improving bus transit so he redesigned the city plan so that there was a street a main street going in and out of the city that had a bus lanes only for buses they built special bus stations designed by they were built like glass tubes with the floor of the bus station at the same height as the floor of the bus so when the bus arrived the doors of the bus would open the doors of the tube but open people get off get on just like on a subway they didn't have to line up at the front of the bus and pay for their ticket because they bought it before they got into the tube and it made everything fast they put the station's far other parts of their went these stops every block or two and it made travel much faster it was very popular and over the decades.

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