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"Welcome to kids myths and mysteries. I'm your host kit chrome today. I'm going to examine the myth and mystery surrounding conspiracy beliefs of where they could lead first. Let's start with some factors that increase the belief in a conspiracy. Basically they involve large scale events. Where more mundane or small scale explanation seem inadequate situations where people experienced distress over uncertainty also factors in when people encountered despair it information. It's only natural to look for explanations of make sense. you know. Connect the dots. Here is a connection that will hit you in the gut. Well maybe it's a connection of educational levels that's right lower levels of education tend to be associated with higher levels of conspiracy beliefs. The operative word in that sentence is tend. I happen to know a number of people with only high school education. That are a lot smarter than those in possession of a higher education what researchers have found is while these beliefs are motivated by a desire to understand exert control and feel socially connected. These aren't the effects. People are deriving from their beliefs. Rather than fulfilling these needs believing and conspiracy seems to reinforce feelings of confusion. Isolation disenfranchisement and loneliness is a destructive cycle negative feelings. Contribute to the belief and conspiracies yet. The believe in conspiracies results in negative feelings believing in conspiracy theories arose people's trust in their government their leaders 'institutions it also diminishes trust science research. Itsel this distrust may discourage people from participating in their social world at might also cause people to stop seeing themselves as possible contributors to society rather than helping people cope with their feelings of social alienation a political disenfranchisement conspiracy. Beliefs seemed to create a cycle of distrust that leads to even greater disempowerment. There's also evidence that people turn to conspiracy theories as a way of feeling safer and more in control when people feel threatened in some way. Detecting sources of danger compete a way of coping with anxiety. What the research suggests or at least one study found. That people who feel psychologically and politically disempowered are more likely to believe in conspiracy theories and other study found. That people are also more likely to believe in conspiracies when they are experiencing anxiety while researchers. Understand these existential motivations. There is little evidence of believing in these theories. Actually help people satisfy this need to feel control or anonymity in fact by believing in these theories that would be conspiracy. Theories people may actually be less likely to engage in actions would potentially boost their sense of control such as voting and participating in political activity so while people may be drawn to conspiracy theories as a way of making sense of the world feeling more control of their own destiny. The long term effects may actually people more disempowered than ever before people can also be motivated to believe in conspiracy due to social reasons. Some researchers hypothesize that by believing in conspiracies portray out groups as the opposition. People are able to feel better about themselves in their own social group. So how do you overcome believing in conspiracy theories well first of all. Were in the age. Disinformation perhaps we're coming to the end. Who knows finding ways to refute conspiracy. Belief seems more important than ever social platforms claim to be buckling down on those who peddle on profit off conspiracies but isn't really possible to change such views once they've taken root something to remember when trying to change. Someone's mind about a conspiracy theory. I have a friend. And he and i do get out regular basis about chemtrails one problem faced when trying to disprove conspiracy theories. Is that people who hold these. Beliefs also tend to suspect that there are factions engaged in covering up these activities. Those trying to do bunk. The mistaken beliefs are then viewed as simply being actors in the conspiracy itself while it might be tempting to simply mock conspiracy theories especially the more ridiculous ones. This usually causes believers to dig in their heels and deepen their commitment to their belief. Many factors contribute to a conspiratorial belief. Such educational background and personality are not easily or quickly changed. Researchers found one tactic however that is effective encouraging believers to pursue their goals. Come to an end. See how it really worked out my motivation for this particular. Podcast was the book. I read about the post truth era. We are in currently science and reason or battle with conjecture an instinct to determine public policy in this time of pandemic partisanship and economic interests are applying their part to meanwhile misinformation falsehoods are routine. Pay attention to what you listen to analyze it and don't believe everything you
"instinct" Discussed on Best of The Steve Harvey Morning Show
"Some doesn't happen to stop this tran. Solely a fred. We won't be here to talk about. Jesus christ about god and about brotherhood to minimal years. Somebody ed dunn brothers into this suicidal thrust that we see in the world today. None of us are going to be around because some is going to make the mistake throughout senseless blundering. I've dropping a nuclear bomb somewhere and then another one is gonna drop and don't let anybody food. This can happen within a matter of seconds. They have mega bombs and russia. Right now that can destroy big as new york and three seconds with body wiped away and we can do the same thing to russia and china but this is where we have drifted and we object in there because nations are caught up with the drum major instinct. Must be i. I must be supreme. Our nation must room. The world am sad to say that the nation in which we live is the supreme culprit. I'm going to continue to say it to america. Because i love this country too much. See the drift that it has taken. God didn't call america to do what she's doing in. The world now called america to engage in a senseless unjust as a war in vietnam and we a criminals in that world. We've committed more warcrimes almost an animation. And i'm going to continue to say it and we won't stop it because of our pride. And i sell the nation but god has a way of even putting nations in that place that i worship has. Well say play with me has a way of saying is a god of the old testament. Used to say the hebrews. Don't play with measure doppler with smith babylon be still and know that. I'm god you don't stop to reckless cost. I'll rise up and break the backbone of your power net can happen to america. Then i go back and read gibbons decline and fall of the roman empire when i come in look at america say to myself the parallels a frightening we have perverted. The drum major instinct ever nine then. I guess we all think realistically by that day when we would be victimized with what is life final common denominator. That's something we call death. We all think about it. Never nine then. I think about mound deaths and i think about my own funeral and i don't think of it in a mortgage since never nine. Dan i ask myself what is going say. Leave the word to you this morning then interview around. I have to meet my day. I don't wanna loan and if you get somebody to deliver the eulogy. Tell him not to talk to you. Ever wonder what i want them to say. Tell them not to mention that. I have a nobel peace prize. That isn't employment. Kalam not to mention that. I have three or four hundred award. That's not important. Tell them not to mention where i went to school. Like somebody added the mitch and that day. That martin luther king junior tried to give his life serving falls life for somebody to say that day the luther king junior tried to love somebody. I want you to say that day. That i tried to be right on. The wall could be able to say that day that i try to feed the hungry. How would you to be able to say that they that i did in my life to close those who were naked on that day that i did try in my life to physical who were imprisoned. Richard say that. I tried to love and humanity. Yes if you want to say that. I was a drum major saying john. Major for justice. Say from major for peace. How was a drum major for righteousness and all the shallow things will not matter. I won't have any money to leave behind. I won't have the and luxurious things of life to leave behind. But i just won't leave are committed to. That's all. I want to say. If i can help somebody pass along if back in. Cheer somebody with song. If i can show somebody. He's traveling wrong. Then my living will not be in vain. If i can do my duty as a crystal if i can bring salvation to once wrote if i can spread the message as the master tort there in my living. We're not be in vain. You're listening to morning show to some. He's starters to others the thin white duke or major. Tom but who is david bowie really to answer that. We'll have to go off the record off. The record is a new music. Biography podcast every season profiles one legendary artist to start. We'll explore the faces of david bone. Each episode tells the story of one of his own conduct personas together. They form an intimate portrait of a complex cultural giant listening. Follow off the record on the iheartradio app apple podcasts. Or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. Hey guys it's bobby bones host the bobby bones show and i'm pretty much always sleepy because i wake up at three o'clock in the morning a couple of hours later i get all my friends together. We get into a room and we do a radio show. We share our allies. We tell our stories. 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"instinct" Discussed on Best of The Steve Harvey Morning Show
"Right now. Here's a drum major speech. On the steve harvey morning show and instinct is a kind of drum major instinct. A desire to be out front a desire to lead the parade a desire to be. I mean it is something that runs the whole gamut of life and so before we condemn them. Let us see that. We all have the drum major instinct. We all want to be important to surpass others to achieve distinction lead the parade. Alfred adler great Psychoanalyst's contends that this is the dominant impulse. Sigmund freud used to contend that sex was the dominant impulse and adler came with a new arguments. Saying that this quest for recognition this desire for attention this desire for distinction the basic impulse the basic drive of human human life this drum major instinct and you know we begin to ask life to put us first. I cry as a baby was a bid for attention and all through childhood the drum major impulse our instinct is a major children. Ask life to grant them first place. They are a little bundle of ego. They have innately the drum major instinct nine adult life. We still have it and we really never get bide. We like to do something good and you know. We like to be praised for it now. If you don't believe that you just go on living life and you will discover vast soon that you like to be praised. Everybody likes it as a matter of fact. And somehow this waamp glow. We feel when we appraised when our name is imprint. If something of the vitamin aid to our ego nobody is unhappy when they appraise even if they no they don't deserve it and even if they don't believe it the only unhappy people about praises when that praise is going too much towards somebody else but everybody likes to be praised because of this real drum major instinct. You know not a lot of the race. Problem grows out of the drum major instinct. A need that some people have to feel superior need that. Some people have to feel that they are. I feel that bow white skin obtain them to be. I have said over and over the game in ways that we see own is in fact not too long ago. A man down in mississippi said that god was a charter member of the white citizens council. So god being charter. Member means that everybody who's in that has a kind of divinity a kind of superiority think of what has happened in history of as a result this perverted use of the major instinct led to the most tragic prejudice most tragic expressions of man's inhumanity to man. Not only does this thing go into the ratio struggle goes into the struggle between nations would submit to you this morning that what is wrong in the world today is up the nations of the world engaged in a bitter colossal contest for supremacy. Some doesn't happen to stop this trend. Solely fred and we won't be here to talk about jesus christ about god and about brotherhood to minimal years. Somebody done bring an end to this suicidal thrust that we see in the world today. None of us are going to be around because some bodies gonna make the mistake. Th-row simplest blundering of dropping a nuclear bomb somewhere and then another one is gonna drop in. Don't let anybody food. This can happen within a matter of second. They have twin and mega bombs and russia. Right now that can destroy a city as big as new york and three seconds with everybody body wiped away and every building and we can do the same thing to russia and china but this is why we drifted and we adjust caused nations caught up with the johm major instinct must be i must be supreme should mushroom the world am sad to say at the nation in which we live is the supreme coporate. I'm gonna continue to say it to america. I love this country too much to see that it has taken. God didn't call america to do what she's doing in the world now. God didn't call america to engage in a senseless unjust well as a war in vietnam and we are criminals in that. Were we've committed more warcrimes. Almost an innocent in the and i'm going to continue to say it and we won't stop it the cause of our pride and i seven nation but god has a way of eating putting nations in that place and you're listening to morning show. Welcome back to the ride. We will continue with more of dr king's drum major instinct speech. Nobody is unhappy. Ed when they appraised even if they no they don't deserve it and even if they don't believe it only unhappy people about praises when that praise is going too much towards somebody else but everybody likes to be praised because of this real drum major instinct. The you know that a lot of the race problem grows out of the drum major instinct. A need that some people have to feel superior a need that some people have to feel that they are. I feel that down white skin. Dane them to be. I played him. They have said over and over the game in ways we see own is in fact not too long ago. A man down in mississippi said that god was a charter member of the white citizens council. So god being the charter member means that everybody. Who's in that has a kind of divinity kind of superiority in think of what is happening in history of as a result this perverted use of the major instinct led to the most tragic prejudice the most tragic expressions of man's inhumanity to man. Not only does this thing. Go into the racial struggle goes into the struggle between nations. I would submit to you this morning. That what is wrong in the world today is up. The nation's were in a bit colossal contest.
Susan Robertson How to Supercharge Your Creative Thinking by Outwitting Your Instincts
"I'm susan robertson and i'm an innovation strategist for fortune. Five hundred companies. Thanks for joining us today. I'm going to teach you about how the supercharge your own creative and visionary thinking outbidding your instincts. I'm gonna show you how to overcome major creative thinking roadblock that you probably don't even realize you have all humans suffer from a mental shortcut called negativity bias. The negativity bias is the phenomenon that negative experiences have a higher impact on our thoughts feelings and behaviors than positive experiences. So we're actually much more motivated to avoid negative. Then we are to seek out positive and this constant drive to avoid negative. Dramatically affects our thinking in ways. We don't realize because it's all happening subconsciously to illustrate the negativity by a little more. Think about this. If you believe someone had stolen twenty dollars from you. How angry do you think he would be now. Think about if you randomly found twenty dollars in the street. How happy do you think you would be. There's tons of research that shows that due to the negativity bias. We're much angrier about losing twenty dollars than we are happy about finding twenty dollars. Even though the rational value of the money is exactly the same. And that's the negativity bias. The reason this negativity biased is a roadblock to creative visionary thinking is because our brains interpret any uncertainty as danger and the immediate sub-conscious result is to try to avoid that danger ultimately. It's a survival instinct. Thank for a minute about way. Back in our prehistory when our ancestors still lived in caves. Let's imagine a little cave boy will call him grog grog. Here's a wrestling over in the bushes. He thinks i wonder what that might be. Any trots over to investigate it was a giant reptile and unfortunately grog is dead. Now think about a little cave girl. We'll call her lucy. Lucy here's a rustling over in the bushes to but listen. Thanks ha bat. Might be danger. And she runs away and ultimately lucy lives to pass on her jeans to all of us so us are descended from people who ran away from uncertainty and that instinct to assume uncertainty is. Danger is alive and well in all of us today. Our immediate subconscious reaction to any uncertainty is to assume it might be danger. We have a really common phrase that we all say when we hear or think of a new idea that very effectively kills new ideas instantly and that phrase is yes but whenever we hear a new idea or even think of ourselves our brains instantly focus on all the potential dangers. Yes but it's too expensive. Yes but it will take too long. Yes but the sales team won't like it. Yes but it won't work in our existing t system and on and on the problem with this is that it's exceptionally easy for us to identify lots of reasons why any idea might not work and it results in us most ideas before we ever even examined. If there's anything good we just reject them the moment we discover a potential problem because that yes spot is laser focused and lightning fast. The sba is so common that we don't realize how poisonous it actually is but it effectively squashes all creative thinking it. Squashes your own creative thinking when you say it or think it and it really squashes in a creative thinking from your team when they hear it from you so you need to wipe it out of your vocabulary seriously just hit delete on the yes but and that sounds like it should be easy but actually it's quite difficult because you have to circumvent an instinctive sub-conscious instant process that goes on in your brain. So that's the bad news. The negativity bias is never going to go away for any of us but the good news. Is we absolutely can retrain our brains to get around it. And i'm going to show you a neuroscience hack that will help you defeat your negativity bias. Time i call this thinking tool. Gps thinking and gps stands for great problem solving the trigger to know when you need to turn on your gps thinking is when you hear or think or say yes but when someone has an idea and you have to make a practice of noticing that yes but trigger by the way now that you're aware of it you're going to be shocked at how many times you say it or hear it every day. Once you've recognized that subconscious but process has kicked in. You have to now interrupt it with the conscious. Gps process. I'm going to give you the three steps of the gps process. And then i'll give you an example to illustrate step. One is g great. The first thing you want do is list anything. That's potentially good about the idea. What's interesting what's valuable. What's getting toward the goal. What's new were different about it. And this g great part is the part that your brain will naturally skip if you let it so you have to not let yourself skip this step g. Great step number one then step. Number two is the p. problem. Which is where your brain has been trying to go but instead of simply stating the problem. There's a critical difference here and that critical differences. You need to flip that statement into a how to question so instead of saying it will cost too much instead you say. How can we make it more affordable or instead of saying it will take too long instead you say. How can we do it. In the time that we have to p problem articulated in the form of a how to question. And then you move onto s solving. So now you solve for those problems you found in the idea by changing the original idea but keeping something about it that you thought was great from g great list. I'm going to give you an example. So let's say you mentioned to your friend you've been feeling a little extra tired lately and doesn't seem to be due to lack of sleep and your friend says Have an idea for you. Take a break every day in the middle of the day and take a two hour walk. That's what i do. And it seems to really help and your brain instantly focuses on all the yes buts in that idea. All the potential problems. Yes but i don. Tom i have too much work. Yes but i have to help kids with their homework. Yes but i have to have dinner ready. You focus on all the problems. That's your negativity bias kicking in and it starts with yes but so once you've realized that the yes bet is kicked in you go through the process in g great. You list anything about that idea. That might be good. Well exercises good. Taking a break during your workday is it. You'll be more focused when you come back to the work and you'll feel more refreshed so there are things in that idea aspects of that idea. That are good. And that's what you want to draw out in the g. Good step and once you've done that you move to step two p. Problem and you articulate those problems now in the form of a how to question so instead of simply saying i don't have time instead you say. How can i find time for exercise or you might say. How can i find time to take a break in my day or you might say. How can i find more time to relax. So i can sleep better so that. Step two problem but articulated in the form of a how to question and the you move on to step three which is solving and you solve for those problems by changing the original idea so you might say the the problem you wanna saw four is how to find more time in your day for seven exercise so you might say well. I don't have a two hour block. But i could find a few fifteen minute blocks and in those fifteen minute walk. Take a couple of laps around the house. Or i could run up and down the stairs five times. So you've changed the idea. You've you've moved away from a to our walk and you've modified the idea to be a few fifteen minute walk so you've solve for the problem but you kept something that you thought was good. Which is both exercise breaking your day. So that's the gps process. I'll quickly repeat the steps g good. What's potentially good in the idea. Knowing it's not finished p. problem articulated as a how to question and ask solution solve for those problems by changing the original idea but keeping something that you thought was great
Tom Bilyeu ON Why Passion Is For Wimps!
"As leader whether you're a ceo someone in the c. Suite sales later on in a leader in any capacity you know that today entrepreneurs canada rockstars of the millennial generation. But you've heard me say so many times that i believe that entrepreneurship business leadership about something far greater the money mo- more important becoming the next entrepreneurial unicorn it's about purpose and a successful business kellyanne. If you're in touch with your purpose become a way for you to positively impact the world. I'll guess today is tom billion now. He's the co founder of the two thousand fourteen inc. Five hundred company quest nutrition. It was a unicorn startup. Valued at over one billion dollars. He's the co founder and host of impact theory tons mission is the creation of empowering media based ip the acceleration of mission based businesses. Tom is driven to help. People develop the skills they need to improve themselves in the world and is intent is in using commerce and to address the joe. Pandemic of physical and mental malnourishment. Tell me regularly inspiring audiences of entrepreneurs change makers thought leaders at some of the most prestigious conferences and seminars around the world including abundance three sixty eight fast and freedom fastlane. So i'm has also been a guest on some crappy little show. What was his name some guy. We talked to tell you podcast. He's been at the school of greatest podcast and he's been featured in forbes inc and success and the huffington post and he's currently on the innovation board x prize foundation so lease and gentlemen. Please live the be here man. Thank you so much. Thanks really appreciate you being on now. Listen i know you've done frigging thousands of views i have to. We've been doing it for years. There's some really important things you like to talk about. talk about. And we'll definitely get to however a lot of the things that you're asked podcasts. The tom bill. You fans of bowed many many times and so i want to dive deep. Is that all right man. Please statement somewhere new love good so the first thing i wanna do is a kind of style from the obvious and then go a little bit more so we talked about the question nutrition. It was his unit. Con- up blah blah blah. It's the stuff. That leonard on the tony robbins podcast But you didn't start out being a business builder and entrepreneur. You start out with something that might in fact seemed like the polar opposite of the pat success. Which was your lover. Phil and you went to film school. How did your family feel about you tripping the light brand tacit rather get yourself a good steady job I think that you know my mom lived in constant and still does quite. Frankly live in a constant state of panic that i was going to do nothing with my life that i would Be unhappy in some way and so she worried but very quietly so when i was a kid she was very encouraging. Wanted me to go chase my dreams and so i didn't grow up with that like pressure from my parents or anything. They wanted to see me happy. I was very passionate about film making. They could see my excitement. They wanted to see me. Pursue it So they were very encouraging about that. My dad is. I got towards graduation. Film school he sent me starting at month. Six or five hundred member exactly my senior year. It was five more months four months three more months one month at two when he was not going to be helping me financial anymore so literally the day. I graduated I had no more assistance from my family so that was actually great so from that perspective. He didn't have too many concerns Because he just believed. I would somehow figure it out. So that long story but took me through my remedial jobs phase where you know barely making ends meet but i made some I made some what ended up being quite smart decisions around managed apartment complexes and things like that really cheap rent as why was while you were in films who know right after i graduated. Put again as about weirdness right like all you went to film school you went to film school. I assuming you want to make films and managing apartments. It's a weird mix. I mean we know people go into the arts often wait tables. You managed apartments. That must've been that entrepreneurial spirit in you as well even doing that film time. it's interesting. there really wasn't and i. I am by nature. I am the world's worst entrepreneur. I don't have any real entrepreneurial Instincts in me so even the apartment managing thing was was totally an accident. It was me capitalizing. An opportunity that presented itself and that i will say i've been good in my life about winning opportunity presents itself. I take that opportunity But if that one hadn't fallen in my lap than that it's terrifying to think what the outcome would have been. So when i went to film school i thought that i would. I was showing real promise zone school. And i thought that i had natural talent for it and that shows you my mindset. I was very focused on what what comes naturally to me and so i thought it maitlis gifted filmmaker and so the first half of them school. I did very very well. And then i got selected as one of the four people to direct senior thesis film. Which is a big deal and so when it happened was like oh my god. I'm like bud shows. I'm literally one of four people chosen to direct this film. And i'm gonna make this. It's going to be amazing. i'm gonna go out. I'm gonna get a three picture. Deal from hollywood off the back of how good this film is going to be. And and my life will be. That's literally what i was thinking. And i showed up on the first day of domain with virtually no preparation and to give i wrote the script like to the minute that it was due so a couple of hours before. I jot something down which only feeds ending it gets elected which only feeds into. I'm just naturally good at this. So i roll up onset completely unprepared and i fail miserably very publicly incredibly embarrassingly and then that shakes my whole world and makes me realized that i am. I am not a talented filmmaker like that was the hard realization that i had phase at that moment.
Stamkos has goal, 2 assists as Lightning beat Blackhawks 5-1
"The reigning Stanley Cup champion Tampa Bay Lightning crush the Chicago Blackhawks five one Wednesday night in Tampa the lightning broke out to a three nothing start in the first hundred blood opened the scoring knocking in a rebound past Chicago's net minder Malcolm soo ban on the power play Matthew Joseph Anthony surreally also got their first goals of the season Sumanth seem to tighten up his game in the second but could not tonight Steven Stamkos who scored the lightning's fourth goal from his favorite spot in the left circle it's the best I've I've felt a long time you know it's tough sometimes in camp in those scrimmages you're that intensity is just just not there and when you get into real action like I said the the instincts take over Britain point added one more in the third before Chicago's Dylan Strome spoiled Andre vessel Leschi shutout Walter Morris again Tampa
Launching A Business In A Pandemic With LL Cool J
"So talk me how do you how do you lodge at business during a pandemic when you can't necessarily get up close and personal can't see them in a room how do you how do you pull that off. Well you know. Luckily we would building a platform right. It is a platform business so You know obviously this. Was you know we were well into on our way to building his business fall before the pandemic it just so happened way. Timing worked out that we had we launched in the middle of a pandemic But because we're an online platform that helps us. It didn't affect our reach. We didn't start in a bricks and mortar areas so that was an advantage Beyond that it's really about just making sure that our stories and our narrative is we tell the right story to the people in that they get it and people have responded and they love the station. They love we're doing and now it's just a matter of getting the people that love the station to understand that rock the bells dot com as an extension of that. And it's a place where they can go to really experience classic hip hop in all its various facets and dimensions and Look hip hop is an eagle system. You know what i'm saying and We feel like we could touch. Allow parts of that. And that's what's happening so so the how is basically you know it's it's staging an execution right like we're we're doing it. It's very stage. You know what i'm saying. We we not trying to do it. All at once. we have a very clear way of how trying to roll things out. We'd be in very specific about that but we also know that we have you know. There is a flywheel the in between content commerce experiences. We can get that thing turning and and get it rolling and build some momentum and we have and it's just a matter of time you know rocket dot com is really appealing rock. The bills appeal to the fans in a big way. And we just gotta keep doing what we're doing and be authentic while we doing it and give the people what they want. You know there are a lot of struggling business out businesses out there during the pandemic if someone is watching this and they see l. J. start a business from scratch. I wanna do that. How do you know who to trust. I can imagine you have dealt with all sorts of people throughout your career. How do you know who to put your trust in. Well you gotta you got to look. You gotta have faith into you. Gotta you gotta go with your gut. I think good instincts are an important tool in your toolbox using your intuition using your instincts and If something is knowing at you don't ignore that voice in saudi. Don't ignore that small still voice you know. I don't have all the answers. But i just think that rock the bells Could be something really cool. You know what. I'm saying. I i it is something really cool and i feel like You know you have to do something that you're not only passionate about in that you can be the best at but then you have to have the people around you that have the skill set to operationalize what it is. You're trying to do. Rock the bells is not just about you know. Ll cool j. In my knowledge of classic hip hop it's there's also people. I put people in positions who really understand the fundamentals of how to you know. Take this business from a to z. You know and that's what it's about. And then you know the chips fall where they may but we're going to do our best to give people something that we believe that that we totally believe in and i'm going to put the right people right position so that we can operationalize a business and take it to the next
The Most Common CRO Blind Spots
"Someone approaches conversion rate optimization their first instinct is to do what the first instinct to syrup off everyone else. Okay see things that they think work. They think everyone else's smarter than them and so they take these ideas. No doubt looks interesting. They hear about a blogger. Doing something like oh. That's interesting and then or this this worked for this other store our competitor and they they take that and they run with it and it doesn't work for them and they're like line and this work well. There are a lot of reasons why it might not have worked. Main thing is that you didn't think about what really worked for you right. You didn't go back to first principles and think about the customers. That are coming into your store. I think it's a huge problem. So you it's it's shiny toy syndrome. It's the grass is always greener. So i go outside. And i see. Oh well this across the street. This other store has this way cooler side than me. And i perceive them as being more successful reality i have no idea what their businesses like it all but i just perceive them as being more successful for whatever reason and i say all right well then i just attribute that to whatever thing i notice unlike yeah and thus we have some shiny toy syndrome action happening and i think that is where people get in trouble yeah. I think that's right like what ends up happening. I had this conversation with a client a few months ago where they were like our biggest competitor is doing this. We should do this. I'm like well. How do you know that they're doing it right. And they were just like just like shocked. And what do you think they're conversations were internally that led them to this decision and then the response to that was they. Didn't yeah exactly right. What you don't realize is that everyone is a group of smart people on a zoom call trying to figure it out in the dark like everyone else. Yes we're all in a cave with a candle and maybe there's eight people with candles. They might do slightly better but we still. It's such a young industry and it evolves so quickly that i literally. I don't think anybody knows what they're doing. No one knows what they're doing right. What i'm doing to go back to as we're firestone at a series. I think he's still has a series. This is called now right. And that's wildly popular because it gives you clarity and safety and a sense of strategy for cheap right like you can. Just go and look at this without works okay. Great and a lot of it actually does work because the problem with conversion rate optimization is that in many ways it's like getting to just basic first principles getting some best practices in place getting something that's familiar for customers and that makes sense to people right but then when it comes to doing something that's more like custom tailored to the specific needs of your customers. Everybody just like. I do what they don't know what to do with it. And that's where i come in So what should people be doing instead. So we've established that like the shiny toy syndrome. The grass is always greener. that is problematic. And you're just kind of when you're doing that you are. You're blindly throwing stuff against the wall which there could be. You're gonna get success some of the time but we need a. We need a framework. We need a better approach here. So how should i be approaching it and then we'll get into the most common pitfalls or missed opportunities. Yeah i'll tell of an anecdote that i like to tell my clients especially when they first come in the door if you ran a physical store right assuming those still exist. I don't even know but if you ran a physical store people come in right and there's some about a foot traffic and you. The owner of that store are behind the counter. And you can observe right or you can talk to them. And so the problem is twofold number one. You can't. you aren't observing them and the second is that you can't talk to them necessarily can be like hey. Do you have any questions. And what happens in that. Process of observation conversation in a physical store is that you understand the customer's needs a little bit. Better you may not close the first few sales but eventually understand. Oh people are coming in for this. I should be making a couple changes to the store. Changing the way that i'm marketing myself or putting the this stuff over here or whatever it is right and so there's something that's observable that you can see right now. How do you take that process and apply to e commerce. Well i think that you can actually look at what customers are doing and ask them. What motivates them. I don't think that's difficult the problem that when you're stuck behind a computer all day and your as nerdy as i am you. It's not your default to go out and talk to customers. It's not your default to go out and observe what customers are doing. And when you try to do that you're stuck in an application like google analytics which is bad so the process of understanding what customers say and what customers do is a little bit more slippery and difficult but no less essential right. So how do you go about doing that. Well a lot of the tech industry has figured this out and it's using a lot of unsexy terms like research analytics and data right. I like these things. I'm getting excited. I like these things. Because that's why i get up in the morning i get up to research customers right and you may not. You may be if you're listening to this in your store owner. You're probably waking up to ship product to customers grow. The store grow the business. You might be thinking about stuff. If if i'm lucky and you're my client and i think that for me like the fundamental answer is that you need to go out and understand what your customers are doing. And you need to be a little bit more proactive about it. And it doesn't come naturally in retail as an industry right because normally the people come to you and you can just look at them and that's the research. The research already just happened because people were shopping with you and you understood what made them really light up and buy your stuff and you got that feedback on a daily basis but really all you're getting feedback as people complaining about that where their order is and occasionally anecdotes from your friends about the products. That's like your research process. And maybe if you're lucky you go in and look at g. nathan. Conversion rate is bad today. That's it but nick. I'm my best customer. I know what they want. I don't don don don right. I know what i want in my world view has quickly been wildly warped by being so close to everything. Yes the business owner. Yeah exactly like you are. Actually it gives me no pleasure to report that you are maybe the worst example of a customer. The storm okay. You're yeah and once we accept when you're starting out and you have no customers like you don't have a choice but like at some point you have to move beyond that and then that's where you start you need to start figuring out your customer and you're right online. It is so impersonal divorce that it gets strange. And so you need to go through and do the customer research talked to your customers on the phone. Oh my gosh. Pick up the phone call and try and uncover okay. How do they see themselves. Why do they buy and then also do it at a larger scale through customer surveys and what they have heard you say that i love and because i have found exactly the same thing to be true. Is you do a customer survey and often you could find that like that one magic phrase that suddenly becomes the headline on the website. And that's the thing that really increases conversion rate
Thirteen Awards Movies to Watch Out for, Oscar Do-Overs, and More From the Mailbag
"Before we get into the mail couple things over the weekend hit in the world of movies. First thing i want to talk to you about is the thing. I spoke to the directors of this documentary series about which is tiger tiger woods. Now you know as a friend of mine and podcast partner that. I am an avid golfer. And a fan of the sport gulf you are not a fan of the sport golf though your partner is and so golf is in your life but not truly of your life. What do you know about tiger woods. And what were you expecting heading into this documentary. Well in addition to being one of the greatest golfers in history isn't in history and certainly one of the best athletes of the twenty first century. That the correct century yes which i do know about because athletes at that level become pop cultural figures and i am interested in pop culture. Even if i'm not interested in my husband lecturing me about what type of iron tiger woods is using which is like a personal hell that i live in on a daily basis so i know a lot about him as a pop culture athlete and then obviously he has a pop cultural significance all of his own because of the events that he went through in the public eye at the end of the last decade and really honest life for the last decade. Yeah and so. I think that this series is an interesting gambit on. Hbo part it's clearly inspired slash based on a book that came out in two thousand eighteen by jeff benedict and armond katayan. And it's an attempt to make sense in real time of probably the most significant american athlete barring lebron james and michael jordan i would say of the last twenty. Five years maybe serena williams in that conversation. I think it's a very short list of people that do for. The tiger is kind of hanging with in the last quarter century and the film is tricky. Because they only aired part one thus far part two is next sunday and so i don't think you can necessarily spoiler film like this but it depends on. What kind of your you are if you're very engaged in the tiger woods story and his life. I don't think that this film necessarily will teach you a lot about the events of his life. There are not a lot of revelations. I think there are some emotional revelations there are some there's some I guess the matic framing that. Maybe you wouldn't necessarily put together if you weren't deeply entrenched in his story the movie especially the first half of the movie takes great pains to portray this father and son story and to show earl woods. Father as the kind of dr frankenstein at and making tiger woods into this kind of frankenstein monster for better and for worse in that he's incredibly powerful but there's like all kinds of emotional danger in his life I one thing that struck me as i re watched part one last night and i watched it with eileen. It's there's a lot of golf highlights in the first half. And there's there's there's not. There's not a lot of scandal there's not a lot of there is some psychology and there is a lot of sort of personal background about how tiger grew up and who he became. But because he has this sort of monochromatic mono-syllabic experience in the world where we just. He very rarely showed himself to us. Basically what you get is like ninety minutes of an extraordinary highlight reel dovetailing with the story of a father and a son and what they mean to each other. And i think if you're a casual observer my my instinct was. Is this going to work for people now. The second half is different. Can of worms. And i don't wanna spoil it for people but did in the first half. Did you find yourself having a hard time entering the story. I did also watch this with my husband. The aforementioned gulf maniac and the soundtrack to watching this was every time golf shot would be show. Its accuracy like you know it was like a little gallery of one. And he was doing it under his breath and then i was kinda. Are you aware that this is happening. And he was like sorry and then he just kept doing it at a lower volume. I have to say when you show golf. As just a highlight reel. Tiger woods is most incredible shots way. More interesting to me personally than the stuff that you guys have on the tv on sunday afternoon which is so boric. My guys pretty. Good a golf so i enjoyed it in that sense i agree with you that maybe it's not that i had a hard time. It and another interesting thing is that i. I do think if you know even a little bit about tiger woods you kind of know about the earl woods character and that is a pretty established part of his pop culture story. It's a big dad. Big character looming. Dad figure familiar sports figure in show bizz figure for sure and Greatness and then the fall. That's kind of what you know. And as as you mentioned there's a fall there there is a part to we won't spoil all of it but if you are watching this documentary you probably have some idea of what's going to happen in part to and the even najah it at the very end of part one which is the very last shot is a very famous woman. Just sidling up to the camera. I that's that's great filmmaking. And i think when the documentary is leaning in to that winning in that side of the story because it it leans into all the aspects of the story but when it goes for that bit of flair and narrative tension is is when it succeeds
Interview With Jack Conte And Sam Yam
"At some point you might get tired of hearing me say that every great business idea often starts as a problem in need of a solution but one reason i keep coming back to. This is the sheer almost stupid. Simplicity of it. It's an equation. You explain to a six year. Old frustration equals idea. Equals action equals solution. Think about jamie semenov who worked out of his garage. He needed to see who was at the front door when the doorbell rang to decide whether to get up and opened the door or stay so he built a video doorbell for himself and then he turned it into a business called ring. Melissa butler couldn't find bolden bright lipstick colors so she created her own and then turned that idea into a business called the lip bar. Mike radan nba had to bike seventeen miles to high school so to make that journey easier. He turned his bike into an electric bike. And that idea eventually became rad. Power bikes and jack conte's problem. It was a problem that at first glance doesn't seem that problematic back in two thousand nine. He and his then girlfriend. Now wife natalie formed a band called pablo moose and in september of that year they released a cover version of beyond says ladies and they made a video to go with it. Video got billions of views and their youtube channel blew up. They were doing media interviews and selling some of their music on i tunes so you're probably wondering what was the problem. Well having lots of followers and viewers doesn't necessarily translate into a sustainable business especially after all the middlemen take their cut. So jack set out to solve this problem and he wondered. Is there a way for artists to make their art. In a sustainable way without a big record label or publisher or studio backing them and the answer he came up with is patriotic. Patriot is a platform that connects artists with their most passionate fans. Fans who willingly pay a monthly subscription to support their favorite artists since its launch in two thousand thirteen patriotic has attracted about two hundred thousand creators including some names that you might know like youtuber jackson bird or the musician beardie man or the podcast chapo trap house but mostly patriotic help support people. You've never heard of ukulele teachers. Graphic artists film reviewers science fiction. Writers fantasy footballers and that sort of how its creators. jack conte and sammy am envisioned. It for starters both salmon. Jack had creative instincts from very early on. Jack grew up in the bay area where he was fascinated with puppetry and loved making his own animations. Sam grew up in pittsburgh where he worked as a waiter at his parents restaurant and actually really loved programming. His calculator and from a young age both of them were also really into music. Sam played classical. Piano and jack started out playing jazz in fact their mutual love of music might be why they were paired up as roommates when they started their freshman year at stanford in two thousand. Two here's jack. I think it was just one of those relationships that that was relatively. I mean at least saying my recollection. It was like easy like it doesn't it didn't take a lot of work. We just kind of it. Just kind of worked. Yeah i think we also had a easygoing humor to to us that we found. Maybe some of the same lacob type things funny and The same friend groups that eventually brought over I think really resonated with me too. So what were you studying in college. chocolate let's start with you. I studied music. You know my whole life. I've been on the arts. Had kind of been like the side thing. But i was on the you know the science and math kind of track. grown up and I love physics in high school. I thought i wanted to be a physical measure when i got to college and then I remember getting to this like the next level of physics. And i was sitting in a class and i think movies often show you like one. Moment of realization in life is rarely like that life is usually like a slow burn. But this was really one moment realization for me sitting in this class whereas like this is not what i wanna do and I just. I was just thinking about songs. I was thinking about music theory class. I was thinking about other things. And that's where my brain was going. And i didn't wanna do physics and i. I remember like sitting on a bench after that physics class for probably forty five minutes. I just sat there and just thought about what that meant for me. Because i was i was. It was kind of a one of those moments in college that feels pivotal
Will Doncic's Practice Habits Make Him the Next Jordan?
"What are his practice Habits Like like what? What is he like when we do see him but you do. Is he the same way as he smiling and having fun yet, very professional and also able to kind of have that killer instinct in practice. I thought well, he's a competitor and his practice habits each year continue to get better and better. He's a young guy that likes to compete. So when we're doing stuff offers, you know, five-on-five competition or will have some kind of a a prize for a you know, winning a drill. I mean he reminds me a lot of Jason Kidd that way and if you come up with a dog To try to simulate something, you know kid and and digest or guys that will figure out the best possible way to manipulate the drill to you know, like practicing one day where yeah, you had to make at least five passes for you got shots. So his adjustment to it was to throw it back and forth to the fight to the to the center four times in the back one and then that you know, she can play you know, and so but but this is this is what great players and some of the real, you know, survive fingers that we've seen in the history of this game. You're talking about guys like bird like Magic Johnson Jordan, you know was it was very very similar LeBron James. I'm sure Kobe Bryant was was a lot like just too but as as as time moves along, you know, the the level of growth is really there and in all areas from Skillet. I meant to to leadership on the floor in games and
2021 Global Marketing Trends with Deloitte's Ashley Reichheld
"Let's let's talk business. We want to talk a little bit about this report. That deloitte has released the twenty twenty one global marketing trends report. What drove the report in went into it. Well this is our second annual report. But this one was really characterized by the challenges of twenty twenty and that level of uncertainty that we're seeing has really impacted all of us in some way myself my mom of three old trends and well. I thought i was a master at balancing working kids. I've learned a whole new set of work from home. Sales gotta really speedy mute. Button trigger finger pilot fisher price toys under my desk that bear testimony and this year. We really use the study to kind of help explorer and break down some of that uncertainty. We use subject matter expertise. We voices smithfield and two overarching surveys. From consumers up twenty five hundred and executives up just about four hundred of them to help break down that uncertainty in the report a believe it's unified seven trends overall and you go In detail on each of them. But can you tell me kinda just at a high level. Were the the major trends seven themselves are purpose agility human experience trust participation fusion and talent and i think in general agility trust talent participation are fairly straightforward largely those companies without. Do you trust them to do with the say they're gonna do. They have the talent to do it. Do they nibble participation with their stakeholders in the customers. The ones i usually get questions about not understanding are the other three so purpose and that's a company that knows what they exist and therefore can make choices a little bit more rapidly. That sense of purpose helps them particularly in times of uncertainty. Actually because they can they can make tough decisions right away. The second human experience and i often get asked. Hey so white you just call that. What is call it. A spur ends called employee experience. I'm sure we'll talk about this. But the reason we call it human experiences because you don't wake up as customer employees. You wake up as a human being. And if we want to elevate experience we have to understand you as a human and then fusion of course which is that art of bringing together new business partnerships early in the report. You identify this drop in confidence across the c. suite. And just curious. What do you feel drove that drop and this is the second time i've seen this question i guess from deloitte is working with the loye. The cmo team within delay and the cmo club on some prior research. We looked at confidence. Drop or confidence levels. I should say of cmo's in general and while this most recent snapshot shows the drop in confidence. I'm kind of pleased that cmo's aren't last on the list now. A small bright spot in the foreseeable ceelo's but tell us a little bit about this dropping confidence. Well at the start of our chat. I talked about this notion of uncertainty that feeling and basically the research suggests that c. suites are humans to and no exception to that rule so on a percentage basis. Cmos aren't last but they are second to last Within a percentage point of and you actually see the biggest declines with. Cio's an nco's. And i think really what you're seeing is that lots of executives have gone into survival mode and you see them by the way prioritizing things like improved efficiency and productivity over more human centric initiatives in that that instinct is is very common but unfortunately it does run counter to some consumer expectations. When we did this research. We learned that as times. Get tougher consumers. Expect more connection. Not less said consumers are really looking for companies to step up and you have c. suite executives who are uncertain and lacking confidence today. And not really sure the world is heading and it's making it very difficult environment. Operate them in these uncertain times to us over over used phrase currently but one of the other two data points stuck out. I think is a sign of the times potentially i'm gonna stay kotei stats and then we can discuss what we think they mean but fifty eight percent of respondents could recall at least one brand that quickly pivoted to better respond to their needs and eighty two percent said this led to them doing more business with that brand. Seems that these factors kind of together talk about one the agility that you've you mentioned before is one of the trends to this human experience component like are we actually delivering what people really want and value and purpose. I think alignment potentially of those two things like what's going on in the world and what do people really need am i. Do you think. I'm interpreting that right just based on the data and what the trends that you're seeing i do although. I think i'd argue that. The each of the trends has an impact there. If you think about an organization's ability to co create with people so fusion for example if your co creating with people rapidly you're able to respond to create address needs more rapidly if you're encouraging participation from your customers than your doing a good job or hopefully a better job at least of hearing what it is. They need to be able to adopt if customers trust. You more likely to tell you what they need a believe you when it comes out and then of course talent is critical. All these things without talent. You can't do any of them
Tanya Roberts' partner speaks out after actress' death falsely reported, hits Cedars-Sinai
"Roberts isn't dead. Oh, my God. She's just up the news. I have a clip. I have a clip of him getting the news about it on inside Edition. Oh, harassing. Hold on a second. Oh, yeah. Hold on. Let me just pause this here. And get this going. Hey, you're telling me that she the wife? Oh, thanks The lower thank God. He says Tanya did not have Kobe but was placed on a ventilator. Because she was struggling to breathe, He says, Due to covert 19 protocol, he was not allowed to be at her hospital bed at Cedars Sinai Medical Center to comfort her until what he thought were her final hours yesterday. What just happened, Lance? What was what was that? The hospital's told you wife. They're calling me from the ICU kid. So the hospital just called you right now and told you that Tanya is still alive. What you know? Uh, I'm sorry. The blue eyed. Oh, my gosh. What the hell is that? I don't know what to say. Hello. See, Lux, What is that? Tweet this out? This is the TMZ report where you can watch that. I I I can't That's exclusive on their website, so I can't isolate the video toe put, but yet, so this is, um Oh, There is something fish. I'm sorry. I don't think I don't know. I don't mean to be clean and Bradley up on her, But I don't know. You look, don't let its very first instinct. Look, everyone concretely the way they want to, But the first instinct is to go and do some interviews about it. Look, likes it, Lex. Whose instinct what in the same day? Well, Mom with that, Lex again? Yes, I would leave you in an ocean if I saw a shark fin, But however, if I was in your hospital room And you just closed your eyes and I thought you were dead. I would tell somebody, don't you? Yeah, You can walk away because you're so upset. Get it together.
Facebook For Mobile With Lee Byron
"Blee byron. You are an engineer at robin hood. And you're a longtime engineer at facebook. Welcome to software engineering daily. Thanks for having me. You're part of the initiative to get facebook onto mobile and this was a key inflection point in the business some people may not remember but there was a time when facebook was used as a desktop web application when did engineers at facebook start to realize how important mobile was. I think there are a couple moments over the years where that happened. There wasn't like a single inflection. Point early on. Facebook was definitely just a website that you went to on your desktop computer or maybe laptop because it started in two thousand and four. You know that's years before the first real smartphones and really two things happened in the early years of mobile one was a focus on flip phones and other popular phones that had some very basic to the internet and so facebook's for a long time had a facebook dot com mobile website and for the first few years that was really about extending to second screen and creating a small version of facebook that you can take with you and then when the iphone first came out in two thousand seven or at eight there was first version of it built as a website. If you remember the the very first version of you couldn't actually make apps for you could only make sense for and there was one engineer at facebook who did that and the following year when the software s came out that engineer through abandoned the the website that he had built i built a mobile application instead. That was sort of the very beginning than there. Were a couple other interesting moments. That happened another was through the recognition. That mobile was becoming somewhat important as a second screen. So i would say this started to happen in may two thousand nine. And that's really when i started helping out. I was the designer for mobile. At that time. I joined facebook. Originally as a product designer and touch devices were becoming more popular. But we're still very much considered a second screen as alternate experience temporarily while you're away from your desktop computer or laptop but we really in two thousand nine took a big refocus on that experience feel-good the native application for iowa that we had was extremely limited. It was built by a single engineer. That engineer had left the company had kind of started to fall very far behind. What the rest of our product is doing so we built version of the mobile site that felt good on a touch device and that actually ended up becoming really important platform to start building products for mobile one of the really challenging things that i faced when reaching out to other designers or other product people at facebook in those earlier years trying to convince them that mobile was something. Important was the scary scenario. Where you'd spend all your time in energy focusing designing and building experience for a big screen in a browser and already the problem of making it work across the internet explorer fire fox chrome was kind of problem enough and when it came time to move things to mobile the prospect of supporting in iowa native app android native app a touch website and a flip phone optimize website sounded like it would just make the amount of engineering work five x and so you could imagine that especially if you don't quite know how important mobile is it's totally reasonable that your instinct would be. Maybe we should look into that later. That's not the right priority. Now and so as a consequence. The mobile product constantly lagged behind. So when we did this effort to make the touch optimize website. Just really good just much better than anything else that we had built for mobile up until that point we kind of refrained that conversation instead of going from one platform to five platforms. We were able to make going from one platform to two platforms. Because if you built for that mobile website you would automatically get flip phone in basic phone support and we would deliver that directly to ios and android apps via this essentially a glorified web browser that we had built so i and android apps. Were these glorified web browsers a little bit of extra sauce on top. You know they they let you upload photos. They let you survive. Include your location for check ins But other than that. They were really just a thin wrapper around our website so that really simplified proc development and that was in an early accelerate for the facebook product team to start thinking about what building for mobile would look like and start making that more of a priority. Then i would say the the next inflection. Point was in two thousand twelve and that's a lot of really interesting. Things happened in two thousand twelve. One is that we saw the chart of mobile only users take up dramatically where now became clear that it's mobile was not a second screen. There was not just going to be a significant number of people who only use mobile soon and very soon it was going to be a majority of people who only use mobile and in fact desktop would become not only used less than mobile but desktop would become the second screen so we saw this inflection point coming. We realized that we were quite far behind on product. Two thousand twelve is also the year that facebook did its ipo and the early filings and mark zuckerberg's tour around he's talking to potential investors. He had the highlight all. The risks for the company and one of the top risks was that we saw this giant shift to mobile devices and that we hadn't figured out good product from only at and that's also when within facebook. We were sort of revisiting. This technical decision to bill everything on web and bring things back to native development on both iowa san android which sort of unfolded into a lot of super interesting engineering work that we had to do
Help! My Kid Is Sneaking Food and Screens Up To Her Room
"Two days question comes from our facebook group. Have you ever addressed sneaky nece before. I'm having some trouble with rule breaking lately where things that are not off limits but are limited like candy or screens are appearing in bedrooms. After the adults go to sleep. It's driving me batty. And i'd appreciate any advice so first of all let me just say. I'm a little bit of the same problem at my house. And here's what i think about it. I tend to be slightly overreactive to this in terms of how could you do this. You notice against the rules to have food or screens in your room. We don't allow food or screens in bedrooms. And so it's pretty much obvious that a wrong sneaky has been committed as soon as i see those things that bedroom because they're not supposed to be there and i have one sneaker who has taken to signing candy. Sometimes it's apples taking three or four bites of an apple and then hiding it somewhere in the room which is really one thing we can say for. Our kids is that generally there really bad at being sneaky so you know you do smell of rotting apple in the room after a couple of days. And i've found them tucked. You know inside jewelry cases in the closet because the mind of a small child says this is not what i'm supposed to be doing and i will hide my crime and then they don't really think the next step what happens when the apple starts to rot. And so what. I do in cases like this is i. Call the child's not always the same one up. Hold up the rapper. The apple the screen. Whatever it is and say what is this doing here and right away. They know that they've done wrong right. I mean they know they're caught. And then i really state the rule. It is not permitted to have food in your room and then we try to head behavior and consequences can we rectify the behavior because otherwise there are going to be consequences so one thing i think especially about food is we tend to think of this story as like my child is deliberately defying me just because even though they know that this is wrong and i hadn't experienced this week where i was laying in bed. I have been trying since the holidays to really you know. Can my eating back on track. Stop with all the sugar stop with. All the junk food. And i was laying in bed watching tv and i opened my bedside table drawer to get something out and i found a leftover stocking full of skills like a little toy sized starting summer full of skills. And what did i do. I ate all of the skittles why not to define myself. Who had set the rule of like. We're not gonna do this any more after the holidays but because skills are delicious and they're really fun to eat in bed and that's really what. Your kids are doing. Two screens are fun to watch in bed. I've really tried to cut down my habit of reading twitter in bed. It's not going great because it's an enjoyable thing to do so. I think it's fine to remember that this isn't really about you. It's about a kid who wants to eat an apple while they're lying in the room reading a book and that's not a terrible instinct but we've just gotta help reinforce the rule because it's also not okay so i'm not saying like well. Everyone wants to do it so let them do it. No it's not allowed and so have a conversation about the behavior when it happens. I found the sampling room. Yes do you know that. Apple's are not allowed upstairs. Yes okay go take it downstairs go clean out. Whatever it is that the gross at has been touching. That is your responsibility. And here's what i want you to do. If you want an apple going forward talk to me about it. I will find you a comfy couch. A seat outside. I will find you somewhere comfortable to eat that apple. But apple's are not allowed in your room and so we are going to try to address the behavior. You want to eat whatever. It is any kind of snacks. even if it's candy bar. Hey if you wanna have candy bar. Let's figure out where we can fit that in your nutritional schedule for the day so you don't have to sneak off with it and it's finally kitty. Bars does not to eat six. Ers upstairs in your room and let's figure out how we can work those into your day so you've had it and then here's the consequence for it upstairs into your room and that is let's say you don't get screened tomorrow. Whatever it might be and for one of my kids who it was still happening with we moved to you know bigger consequences and it did stop and buy bigger consequence. I just mean all day no screens and then it will get better and it will probably get a little worse. We have certain kids. I think who are a little bit more prone. I was this kid to sneaky nece and and well the rule says this. Let me try that instead. And that's not the end of the world and so it will probably be you know the same kid is going to sneak more and more and more but i think you just stay really consistent with your calm reaction so it doesn't get the reaction of like because in your kid is going to go. Oh hey this is kind of fun to get mom to go crazy. And be like whoa. It's just a candy bar. I don't know why it's the end of the world and so calm reaction address the behavior. Hey if you're hungry let's do this. Hey if you're on screens upstairs in your room. Let's make sure. I'll give you an extra half an hour screen time but then the screens absolutely stayed downstairs so like the behavior fix the behavior and then moved to consequences.
Joe Bidens presidency
"And foremost happy new year to all our listeners. At the ever present risk of tempting fate it does feel like two thousand and twenty one can only be an improvement on two thousand and twenty one. Primary cause for optimism is the fact that after january twentieth earth's most powerful office will no longer be held by america's worst on imprisoned citizen description. Correct as of this broadcast between an untamed pandemic economic crisis and the spectacular mess made in general by president. Donald trump president elect joe biden faces a daunting oval office in trae won joint first of all by christchurch mcnichols news editor and by suzanne lynch washington dc correspondent with the irish times in this first part of the show. We'll look mostly at what president-elect joe biden wants to do and will do domestically but chris festival on that thought of succeeding donald trump. How much political capital does joe biden inherit just by virtue of not being donald trump. Well to be honest in some ways. That is a question that will be. I think more important end to discuss in the second half of our show. We look at foreign policy. Because i think that is where there is arguably a lot more political capital. You know joe biden will enter office of this month to lead a country that is still extraordinarily divided. It has to be said that whatever Court decisions were taken efforts to reverse. This election rejected by courts and by many academics. Who saw you know and others observers. Who saw no real evidence of fraud. It is important to point out. I think that potentially a majority of republicans are going to come into this year. Voters believing. Joe biden is illegitimate that that is not correct. That is not that is not what happened. But it is nevertheless a danger for democracy. And it's something that really i think is important to watch. Joe biden essentially has a tremendous amount of goodwill from half of the country who expects him to reverse many of the policies that donald trump implemented over the last four years and he will do a number of those from day one but we should not forget the other half of the country that will be causing a huge stink about all of this and it will be very interesting to watch how he tries to bridge those gaps particularly when it is such a strong divide as i say even in the sense of many just simply not even seeing him as their president suzanne to bring you in that division that chris delineates the is going to make extremely complicated one question. Joe biden will have to grapple with which is what does he do about donald trump. Does he as best he can. Just ignore him and hope he goes away or does he turn various congressional committees and the department of justice loose to try and get to the bottom wherever it may be of whatever. Wrongdoing was done. I don't think joe biden instinct will be to do that. I mean joe biden has presented himself very much as the kind of the nation's healer. He's talked about his own track record when he was in the senate for so many years of working across the aisle with republicans and working productively republicans. Now some might say that. Joe biden is suffering from naive radio. That washington has changed. That things have become much more polarized on they have in the last decade or so so he for example has has quietly hinted at his relationship with mitch. Mcconnell mitch. mcconnell is more more than likely going to be leading. i'm the two men have worked together. Particularly joe biden was vice president and mitch mcconnell in the senate and but even still you know. We saw mitch mcconnell reluctance to add call. Joe biden president-elect even though he had had won the election so that is a major at challenge for at for joe biden is going to be handling congress also. The problem facing him is democrats did very badly in november's election in terms of their seats. Both the senate and the house so not to pelosi now coming into a new year coming into a new congress with a much reduced majority and that is going to make things tricky for her. She's going to be tried keeper own party in check and i think a lot of the more left wing elements of the democratic party. Who basically were prepared to put away their differences with the establishment democratic party. If you like to try and defeat. Donald trump i now all gloves off and i think we're going to see this element of the party. The bernie sanders winged. Aoc wing. you know. Really kind of be vocal about what they believe. This joe biden presidency should deliver so i think you know that whole political reality of how washington is going to work with the mats in the house and the senate is going to be a constant challenge for joe biden other tries to govern. We'll chris let's look at the most pressing issues that will face president joe biden which is of course the covid nineteen pandemic now. Obviously there are grounds for optimism. Which is that a vaccine exists but it is going to take a while to get it to everybody. We are still months away from normality returning to the united states. Between now and then is there anything. The president biden will actually realistically be able to do to make an obviously already dreadful situation slightly less dreadful. Well i think he is going to try his damnedest to do that. he has set this or that that we all know now of Essentially a one hundred million doses of the vaccine in his first one hundred days disseminated to the public That's an ambitious goal. Although at the same time it it should be said that this was A goal if you will of the trump administration as well And this was. This was something that was planned. They had essentially bought one hundred million doses for the first quarter But the biggest challenge that we are going to see this In these first one hundred days is really going to be how that is disseminated. How is it gotten through to hospitals. you know and how states and local authorities cooperate with the federal government in order for that dissemination to take place how the army is potentially involved. It is a herculean task to get all of these vaccines out as quickly as joe biden has promised and i think it's going to be interesting because on the one hand you know he is as we you know he's he's still not president until january twentieth much of the work on this has been done by the trump administration At the same time there is you know there is this risk if you will or you could also put it in a positive way. There's an opportunity in that joe biden. I think will very quickly find that. This becomes his pandemic to deal with. And that he will be reckoned with in terms of how he is able to get certain programs underway. That means that his people his entire operation is really going to have to hit the ground running incredibly quickly when they take over in particular because they also have not gotten that much help that much cooperation from the trump administration in the transition. Suzanne joe biden has of course being in the white house during one previous dramatic intervention in the united states economy. When he and barrack obama arrived in the wake of the two thousand eight collapse will he be tempted towards something similar in the current circumstances or preceding more on the assumption that wants the vaccine is taking effect. The us economy will more or less sort itself out. Well it's it's a very good point. Under i mean i think there are lots of parallels here actually to what obama faced obama joe biden back into into a nine and you know even between the election on the inauguration i mean america. I'm particularly america then. The wider world was embroidered the biggest financial crisis in decades. And they have to deal with that. So yes there are a lot of parallels i think joe biden has a proven record on this and they were able to pass the tariff act. They did the the bailout fund for the auto industry hugely complex pieces of legislation. Where a lot of money involved. And that may well be the case. Again i mean the. Us economy at the figures december have been worrying. There has been worst. Jobless figures than had been expected am the signs of recovery. We saw in the late summer. You know really didn't continue as we kind of got into that second. Wave around thanksgiving time so i think the economic consequences. This you know are really not getting. Maybe enough attention here. Obviously so at the figures are overwhelming in terms of the deaths the infection rates and but there's also a huge impact on the economy. And i think we're going to see i. I believe around the world. It's it would probably accentuate this. You know the difference between the house and the have nots. If you like you know the poorer are are people who are have lost. Their jobs are in less secure. And yes we're seeing the stock market. Do very very well throw twenty twenty and a lot of people. You know hoarding cash. Essentially as saving. So these kind of issues i think are going to be front and foremost for joe biden particularly. I mentioned already because of this very strong left wing within his party. They want joe biden. Who who has been pivoting. More to the left economically i think for example compared to say a hillary clinton at the time you know four years ago and i think he has suggested you know with his pick johnny yet and his treasury secretary. She talked about for example. The need to address structural issues economic inequality along racial and gender lines in the united states describing how they are important for the economy to address that. So you know what he's going to do in terms of getting more covert relief. Package is going to be a key element of this first one hundred days in parallel to the huge logistical challenge of getting those vaccinations out trying to encourage people to get vaccinated etc and again. This is all going to depend on his relationship with congress and these are going to be. It's going to be a lot of money involved in this and Republicans in particular in the sandwich have been At loggerheads with democrats out late twenty twenty about the size and scope of a of any rescue package for the american economy and you know commentators ironic air pointing out the national dash went way up under trump a now are we going to start hearing republicans complaining about the national debt. So i think that whole aspect as i say in parallel to the the health issue is going to be a key concern for biden in the first few months presidency. Chris susanne mentioned there a couple of members of president-elect biden's domestic team we should talk about obviously the highest profile member of that domestic team which vice president-elect kamala harris do. You anticipate that she'll be a more visible and obviously engaged vice president than usual because it's going to be a very different relationship. Between her and president biden vice president biden had with president barrack. Obama perhaps ironically as things have turned out biden. wasn't really seen as a natural apprentice. successor To the much younger president he was he was running alongside whereas you already. Since there's a a feeling gathering kamla harris's president in waiting. Well i think To continue the two thousand two thousand nine parallels in in some ways. This is a sort of the reverse of that. As as you're discussing. Because i think when joe biden came into office as vice president he sort of provided the experienced the heft to the to the obama administration as the time as the sort of political establishment candidate for you know a relative neophyte in barack obama at the time and so his role You know he was. Obviously you also had before that dick. Cheney famously is maybe the vice president who really transformed the role but joe biden sort of ran with that and he was this You know incredibly powerful Very involved vice president as involved if not more involved than dick. Cheney was as vice president you know before that vice presidency often was seen as this very unimportant role and so i think in that sense perhaps looking now to kamala harris In some ways there's a reverse there because she is not the one providing the heft if you will joe biden is now even more experienced than he was back then so he will be the the fully experienced leader if you will in this campaign In this in this white house And so the question will be in that sense. What kind of room. He is willing to give kamala harris. What exactly she is going to put her stamp on In terms of us. And i think that's still a bit of an open debate. He obviously picked kamala harris because they have a good working relationship. She is somebody who was Arguably more of a centrist than some of the other candidates that he could have picked. You know she's not from the bernie sanders wing of the party. I think that was important because in wanted to pick somebody not only who was historic in terms of being a woman. I african american as well in the vice presidency But really somebody that he could have a good working relationship with in order to use her as both a trusted adviser and entrust her with leading on certain issues. So i think it will be very interesting to see how that relationship plays out and finally as you say as one point he obviously has not expressly said it but many would assume. There's a very good chance that joe biden will be a one term president and so in that sense. Yes this is. Come a harris's chance to really show that she is the one who will take up the mantle of being the leader of the democratic party of the future christchurch. Mac thank you for the moment.
Why Does the Year Start on January 1?
"Every year. The earth orbits around the sun and we celebrate each revolution on new year's day. But what's so special about this particular spot in our orbit. Why do we use january first as the start of our year as opposed to some other day as we go back in history. Most human civilizations did not use a solar calendar they used. Lunar calendar's in fact if you look at the traditional calendars for countries such as china vietnam or for religion such as judaism and islam. They have lunar calendars and their new year's day changes it state every year. Our current calendar can be traced back to ancient rome. The very early romans way back at the founding of the city used to have ten months and that ten months system is still reflected in many of the names of our months today. Their first month was marcus named after the god mars which we call march after march came the months of april ass- maya's and junius the months after this. We're just named after their number until he has sex tellus september october november and december so yeah december are twelve months really means the ten months in latin likewise with november october and september however. Ten months didn't really fit nicely into a year. They had two full months worth of leftover dates. That didn't really fit into any month to rectify this around the year. Seven hundred pc. The roman king numa added two more months to the counter. I annual areas named after the roman god janus and february's which was now the last and shortest month of the year for romans. The beginning of each month was called the callan's so the start of the year was the callans of march or mark. I then at some point and no one is quite sure. When the year began being counted on the calendar of i warious january went from being the eleventh month to being the first month. This might have had something to do with the start of terms for consoles. Romans named their years after the two consuls and power instead of numbering them so for example the year fifty nine bc. Julius caesar wisconsin with kelp. Biblis it was known as the year of caesar bibi however was weak so there was a running joke that it was the year of julius. Caesar it might also had something to do with the fact that january i was the callans closest to the winter solstice. Caesar is actually really important to this story. While the names of the months were very similar to the months we have today. The keller itself was still a mess. Caesar instituted changes to fix this problem. Anti adopted the suggestions of a greek astronomer named side of alexandria suggested going to a tropical year more on that in a bit and created the three hundred sixty five day year with a leap year every fourth year. So that's pretty much. The story right. The roman set january is the first day of the year julius. Caesar sets the julian calender. And we get to where we are today. Nope because in the middle ages the system fell apart completely at the five sixty seven council of tours and there were a whole bunch of different councils of tours so you have to specify. The church declared that january. I was not to be celebrated as the new year as it was a pagan tradition. What replace january first. Well nothing there were. A whole bunch of different days celebrated oliver europe for centuries. Some places used christmas. Which was the winter solstice on. The julian calendar some use the floating date of easter someone back to the old roman march first. And some if you remember back to the episode on why. Christmas is on december twenty fifth us. The important date of march twenty-fifth start of the new year eventually. For a whole host of reasons pope gregory the thirteenth the problems with the julian calender and use the opportunity to standardize the new year back to being january first for good measure. They also made january first holiday which it still is. Today originally january. I was the feast of the circumcision of jesus. But now it's just called the solemnity of mary. Of course not. Everyone was on board with the new calendar. Catholic countries were quick to adopt it but protestant and orthodox countries were not in particular. One country was very late to adopt january first as the beginning of the new year. That country was england. England celebrated their new year on march twenty fifth. In fact their colonies in the americas. Did this as well up until seventeen. Fifty two in seventeen. Fifty england passed what was known as the calendar new style. Act also known as chesterfield's act which is when they adopted the gregorian calendar. The very first thing mentioned in the act was the problem with using march twenty fifth as the new year when everyone else in europe used january first including scotland so when england finally adopted january first as the start of the new year. So did the american colonies for the first time today. Most countries now use the gregorian calendar even if it's only for business purposes to stay instinct with the rest of the world new year celebration such as ted in vietnam chinese new year or rosh hashanah are still traditional festivities held on different days all over the world. The fact remains that there's nothing astronomically significant about january first even though it celebrating an astronomical event aka revolution around the sun so if we were starting new calendar from scratch. What would we pick before. I mentioned that sausage unease of alexandria suggested we celebrate a tropical year and pick that word carefully as opposed to a solar year because there are two types of solar years and they're very similar a tropical year is the time from one season to the next based on win the solstices occur. The current years based on the gregorian calendar are tropical years. However there's also a thing known as ideal year which is when we measure the position of earth based on the location of stars the difference between a ideal year and a tropical year is very small. He said you real year is only twenty minutes longer. This can add up. However the difference between the julian calendar and the gregorian calendar is only eleven minutes per year and that caused a lot of problems over the centuries this has to do with the procession of the orbit that is constantly changing their to logical places to define a new year based on astronomic principles. The i would be one of the solstices. This is something that humans have pictured for thousands of years and have recognized its importance. The winter solstice also is in too far away from january. First the solstice really has more to do with the tilt of the earth however and not the orbit of earth there is something significant about the orbited the earth. That is a point. We could use and oddly enough. It's really close to january. First even though the ancients had no clue the orbit of the earth around the sun is close to circular but it isn't perfectly circular it's a slight ellipse hence there is a point where the earth is closest to the sun. And it's called the para helium perihelion in the year. Twenty twenty one takes place on january second the date of para helium drifts. Over time in the year twelve forty-six para helium actually took place on the same date as the salsas in the year. Six thousand four hundred and thirty it will take place. On the spring equinox so january first is the start of our year which marks astronomical event even though the data itself has no astronomical significance set by the romans abandoned by the church only to be later adopted once again by the church so as the romans did celebrate the callans of january which honors janice the roman god with two faces one which looks into the past at the old year and one which looks into the future at the new
Jose Antonio Vargas: Coming Out As Undocumented
"So you grew up in america and didn't know you're undocumented until you went to get your license sixteen yes so four years. After arriving here i went to the mvp. Because i think my friends for an arvin was getting tired of dragging me around driving miss daisy. And so he was. Lake may be time to go to the and i lived at the library. I mean that's where. I spent a lot of my the amount of the public library and i saw the library to get a driver's license. You need to do these things like bring a student. Id evan bring proof of identification. Which was the green card or a passport so yeah. I biked from my house to the dmv. I get called to the booth after waiting in line. And then that's when the woman said to me that the green card that i brought was fake and my first instinct. When she told me that was to think. I am not mexican because even back then. This was ninety seven whenever anybody said anything about fake papers anything about documentation. The radio the television shows the newspaper said he was all about mexican people. So that was my first instinct was to think i'm not mexican. Which is a horrible thing but again. That's where the power of media is so is so important right back then again. This is ninety seven back then. That was already part of the psyche. That whenever you thought about fake papers or quote unquote legal people lose by mexican people and also. You're a sixteen. I was sixteen. That's kind of started this whole thing and for my grandfather. I confronted him afterwards. Of course and my grandfather said yeah. It's fake you're not supposed to show that to people. And that's when basically the plan that he and my mother and my grandmother had concocted kind of expose itself to me. That's when i found out what their plan was. And so that was over twenty years ago long time ago and i bring that up because yes then there's been no change or resolution in your immigration status. That is such a long period of time to live with that stress and ambiguity. And that's what. I was getting out into the book when i was really interested in the main question i had was. Why might this messed up. Why do i have a hard time having relationships with people why why is it that it seems as if i have created borders walls lake with the way i treat my own friends like i've on thirty eight years old and never had a boyfriend like what is that about. I've never been in a committed relationship with anybody because what was the point. I was going to get deported. I was gonna leave i. I always had this feeling that everything was temporary. Nothing was permanent and so even that that was the way even had sex with people. you know. it's like okay we're done. I'll see you later. What are you still doing here. What am i still doing like get out. It's so interesting hearing you say all this because you also say that coming out as undocumented with such a bigger deal than coming out as gay. Because i think i had the privilege of living where i live you know like i was in mountain view which is what an hour south of san francisco in incredibly accepting family that but then i had a very accepting school. They kind of balance each other out so my catholic filipino families. Like what is this gay thing you're supposed to get married to a woman in. Bu citizen out to the argue that now that have come out the documented thing. I'm trying to understand the gay thing. Because i never really. I'm the hundred percent. I think i went to a gay pride parade. Maybe once in my life not twice. I went to the one in new york too. But i didn't wanna be there like i don't know what gay practice like. I'm still kind of confused by gay pride. Because maybe because i haven't dealt with my in many ways i came out but i came out in two thousand nine hundred ninety nine. It was a few months after the matthew. Shepard killing tragedy. I came out of necessity because if i had not come out as gay then. My grandfather's plan was for me to marry a woman who's a us citizen and try to get my papers that way so coming out that first time was like a way of saying. No one lie was enough. I'm not gonna lie about this. But because i've been in the closet about the undocumented thing i would argue that i'm probably still in the closet about the gaping because i'm still dealing with that like i don't know what that really is for me. There's nothing sense it does.
Mental health mailbag with Dr. Sarah Jukaku
"My guest today is the one and only doctor sarraj mkaku. She is a psychiatrist who specializes in mental health among young people and in college mental health. She's also my wife of fourteen plus years my best friend. Thanks for doing the show. Fatemi again all right so today's episode is we're gonna focus on some questions from listeners like you this has been a challenging year obviously because of the pandemic and also the challenging political year. And then the fact that you know we are going into a holiday season that already is the source of a lot of anxiety for a lot of folks without our loved ones and so we want to answer some of your questions. So the first question is from grant vice. You have graduating medical students entering residency in these wild times. How should we mentally prepare. Hi grant thanks for your question. I think dealing with death as a physician is a totally different experience. I still remember the first death. I had to quote unquote call when i was a resident on my medicine rotation and it's kind of something that stays with you forever. Mean what i would say. In general as part of preparing for residency is trying to figure out. What are the things that make you feel whole and healthy and keeping a plan of trying to engage in at least the bare minimum so for some people that might be exercised that might be keeping in touch with loved ones. It's going to be extra stressful for you at this time because not only are you starting as resident but obviously we're in a global pandemic and that's going to be much more stress and i think it's already a good sign that you're thinking about this beforehand but trying to find out what your program offers and what resources you'll get as a resident and access to therapy or even just group kind of support sessions with your co residents leaning on each other. I think is important and if you need more help than that finding an individual therapist and other treatments specific to you and not feeling embarrassed to engage in that because this is a wild time like you said it's important to take those steps preventatively. Only i'll add grant is it's worth before you go into the thing knowing that you're gonna go into really hard asking. What are those things you want. You wanna keep a part of your life and trying your hardest within the context of a really crazy schedule to try and keep those things because they sent her yuda to who. You are caroline. Mom was originally going to fly from chicago to denver to see me for christmas. I told her we would be doing a virtual christmas instead now. She won't speak to me in thinks i'm overreacting giving into irrational fear quote unquote. She hasn't really been taking it seriously. From the beginning despite her being on immunosuppressants any advice on how to help understand that this was necessary. Not worth the risk in in her best interest. So i think this is a tough situation and i think there are a lot of people going through this and you know i don't. Nb that conversation. But at the same time the advice that i often give a lot of people are my patients is that sometimes it's easier to just kind of cut through it all and talk to someone's feelings rather than the specifics of the situation so i would personally approach it from more of a perspective of seeing that like this really sucks for your mom and you would rather be with her in you hear that you know she's gonna miss having her daughter there and it's going to be lonely in. It's not going to be the same christmas and that you know you're really sad about it too and you wish were different and that you get her perspective but that you know you really do love her. And this is why you're not coming and i think that would be better than getting into the nitty gritty about the pandemic itself. Because i think there are people who are you. Know hondo in denial but a lot of that is because it's painful to you know face that fear of oh i'm one of those people whose high risk and i'm the one that everyone's kind of putting restrictions on the most so that's what i would say. I agree with that. So i think the ability to to ask why she's behaving this way not just to try and rebut her feelings. I think is really important here and you know when we talk about irrationally right. Obviously she saying you're being irrational. We all know the facts that she's being rational but you know sometimes the thing we have to remember that people aren't rational. People are extremely complex and very emotional. And sometimes their emotions don't translate directly in so her being cavalier about. This may actually be a lot more about an underlying fear that she has so being able to dignify that fear and also being able to remind her. That's really love her and that you wish you could be with her and that you're doing all this so that you can be together next year i think is really important than And so i say don't give into the instinct to try and prove her wrong That usually doesn't help.
"instinct" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"Wow, people think that I'm ignoring their wishes and that's Kinda. Why I WANNA touch on it, and obviously I can only speak for my personal experience as being George. But I'm sure that there's a lot of Mary's out there that really think that they've been put upon or ignored by the Georgia's. Now that Mary understands that George did not realize he was doing it. It's really sad when you think that somebody is ignoring your wishes, and as you said, her gut was telling her that George was ignoring her rather than what was actually happening, which was George, misunderstood? Yes. One of the things you talk about in your book is developing mental fitness and we want to overcome the dangerous judgment errors of cognitive because they're wrecking our relationships. What is mental fitness? Mental fitness is the same thing as physical fitness. So we talked a little bit earlier about our ability to restrain ourselves from eating the dozen. Dozen donuts because then otherwise you're really in trouble the spot bottom world, you need to develop a good approach to a healthy diet in order to address it. So you had to have physical fitness, Artif- physical fitness is having a good diet and takes so much effort to have died in this modern world because it doesn't pay our capitalist society. All of these companies for you to have a good diet pays the much better for all the sugar in protest to, which is exactly what caused you to have bad diet, obesity, various diabetes, heart disease, all those sorts of problems, the society said against you. The capitalist marketplace's set against. You have healthy diet overall, and you have to work really hard to have a good day. So that's the Arthur physical fitness. Another part of physical fitness is, of course, is working out now, not sitting on your couch watching Netflix all day. No matter how much Netflix's might want you to do that. That is not a good way of having exercise, which is another important part of physical fitness you need to put. Put on your sweats and go to the gym and right now, maybe in the corona virus, get some palm exercise machine and exercise at home. That is hard to do think about how hard it is have physical fitness to do though healthy diet and exercise. It's just as hard and just as important to have mental fitness in this current modern world where we're spending more time at home because of the coronavirus working with our mind than. Than with a our body, it's even more important to have mental fitness meaning working out your mind. You not being primitive, not being savaged, but think getting out what are the dangerous judgment errors or devices mental blind spots to which you as an individual are most prone to end. You need to work on addressing them. That is what mental fitness is about unique to figure out where you're screwing opinion relationships because of these mental blind spots. Spots and the kind of effective mental habits that can help you address. All right. Dr To Burski. You've convinced me what are some helpful suggestions to get us there. So the mental habits, their twelve mental habits that I described in the book. So I identify and make a plan to address all of these dangerous judgment at ours to be able to delay all of your decision making in your relationships because it's very tempting for us to. Respond to an email the from someone with whom we're in relationship that caused us to be triggered. Instead, it might be much better for us to take some time and actually think about that response. Mindfulness Meditation is actually very helpful for us to build up focused and focus what's necessary for us to delay our responses and to manage our response effectively than probabilistic thinking, it's very tempting Russell relationships to think in black and white terms good or bad. You know something. Nicer. Not Nice. Instead, we need to think much more in shades of gray and evaluate various scenarios. abilities. Five make predictions about the future if you aren't able to make predictions about the future about what how the other person will. Will respond to things you do in the relationship. Then you will not have a very good mental model of a person, and of course, it will hurt your relationship. So you can calibrate yourself and improve your ability to understand the other person by making predictions of how they will behave. Next consider alternative explanations and options. It's very tempting for us to blame. The other person have negative feelings, thoughts about the other person just like Mary had negative thoughts about Georgia's behavior. George. Had negative thoughts about Mary's behavior. They none of them thought about the alternative explanations and options married and think that George might have been misunderstanding Kerr missing the signals instead of ignoring the signals on same thing with George? About Mary. Considering your past experiences. There's a reason. A lot of people tend to get into the same kinds of bad relationships in the future as they didn't pass, they don't analyze the mistakes they made in the past and they don't correct them. Consider, long-term future looking scenarios. A lot of people get relationship just because of lust, they have this kind of desire for a dozen donuts and they don't think about the long term consequences of getting into this relationship and the climate situation of this will be a series of repeating scenarios as this kind of relationships that they want to have. Consider other people's perspectives. That's number nine. That's very hard for us to do. It's very easy to miss with just think about ourselves and what we want to do, we don't think about other people and what there's perations our. Next use an outside view to get perspective talk to other people. Other people in your life of trust an object, the advisors, George shouldn't just talk to people who say, yeah, you're absolutely right. Mary's a jerk and vice versa, you should think about other people who would be in objective who will tell you. Hey, George maybe talk a little bit too much about. About Yourself, and here's how Mary might be thinking about this. Then set a policy to guide your future self and your organization if you're doing this part of a business of spot of mobilization. So what kind of policy do you want if you're George? What kind of policy do you want to have toward your dates? Maybe you want to make sure to. To not simply talk all the time about your salad, but make sure to early on the date and the date to ask the other person about themselves and have all of these habits. Mental Habits that will help you have much more effective relationship and finally make a commitment. So that was the internal policy. This is external policy you want to make up A. A commitment to achieve a goal that you want. So commonplace commitment is, let's say you want to lose weight. You can tell your friends people in your romantic partners, whatever that you want to lose weight and ask them to help you avoid eating the dozen doughnuts so that they can tell you. Hey, you know, maybe you shouldn't be.
"instinct" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"Globe Persky, one of the things I like about your book that you talk about the illusion of transparency and you have a story that sort of surrounds it to bring this to the forefront so that people can understand it. Can you talk about the illusion of transparency and and can you share the story that's in your book? Happy too. So the story was too casual acquaintances of mine they went out on a date together, George and Mary. When they went on the date George, he thought was wonderful. Mary was so understanding. So interested listened to him so well and George Mary. Mary all about himself. He felt that Mary really understood him unlike many of the women that he dated. So as the other night big reschedule another date soon. Well, the next day George Texted Mary but Mary expects of George Waited for day sent Mary that facebook message, but she didn't respond to him even though George notice that you saw the facebook message, he centaur email then but Mary maintained radio silence. Eventually, he gave up trying to contact her. He was really disappointed than he thought that just like all of these other women, Haakan, pb. So wrong about her. So why didn't marry? Marry right back where respond becks while she had a different experience than George on the date. Mary was polite and shine, and she felt really overwhelmed from the start of the date with George being. So extroverted than the majestic, telling her all about himself as parents job friends not asking for anything about herself and she thought you know, why would I date someone? Who Overwhelms me like? That doesn't really care about what I she politely listened to George Not, wanting, to hurt his feelings and she told George should go out with him again, but she had absolutely no intention of doing so. I learned about this, the really different viewpoints of Marian George because I knew both of them as casual acquaintances. George. After the date started complaining to people around him, including me about Mary's refusal to respond to the messages. But he thought at least one very well, and George fouled that was genuinely sharing and Mary. The wonderful listening so is confused and upset I privately then. Then went to Mary, Mary about, hey what's up what happened and she told me her side of the story. She told me that she's sent a lot of nonverbal signals of her lack of interest in what he was saying to her, but George failed to catch the signals. Mary. Perceived him as over sharing and herself as behaving very politely until she could leave. Now. That's the story that's nature of a story. You might feel that it's problematic for Mary to avoid owning to Georgia texts, but yet realize that there are tons of Mary's out there who behave this way due to a combination of shyness politeness and conflict avoidance that that's the kind of people they are. The kind of anxious about conflict. But at the same time that are so many Georgia's they are very extroverted. They're very energetic, and as a result, they don't three nonverbal signals from others In this case, both George and Mary fell into that illusion of transparency. This is one of the most common mental blind spots, cognitive biases, illusion of transparency describes our tendency to greatly overestimate the extent to which others understand our mental patterns, what we feel and what we think. It's one of the many biases that caused us to feel thinking talk past each other, and so this is the big problem for us allusion of transparency because if you feel that. George felt that Mary. Him and Mary feels like I'm sending these very clear signals. Why is this guy being a jerk? Not Responding to them? That is something super dangerous relationships harm a great deal relationships when we misunderstand the extent to which other people get us. One of the things that I want to focus in on is that she said that she was sending non verbals on. On one hand, I am guilty of missing the non verbals. So I'M GONNA tend to take Georgia's side in this, which is a she didn't speak up, she say anything and instead she hinted and it sounds like what you're saying is that she felt in her gut that her non verbals, her hinting were enough and that Georgia's lack of responding made him. Rude. Probably from Georgia's side. As you said, George was like she said nothing I carried on and now she's blaming me. So now we've got both sides. Not. They're not gonNA work out as a romantic couple. We get it. It's a bummer. But let's pretend for a moment that you are much more invested doctor to Persky in Georgia Mary than you actually are, and you're like Oh my God. If they can just get over this one tiny little hump, they will just be a beautiful couple forever. And I know you're not a therapist. But if you could sit Georgia and Mary down and say listen you two are actually a perfect couple. But you've let this primitive nonsense get in the way. How would you help them get over this hump? So they could see that actually they do have quite a bit in common. I'll I would think that one of the things that need to work on is, let's say they have share a lot of interest and they have very similar values. They have a lot of differences in their communication styles that will be a big challenge. First of all, working on the illusion of transparency, they need to be much more humble about the idea that the. The other person understands them about their ability to send signals. Correctly, the essence of the illusion of transparency is that when we think we're sending a signal, a message to other people, we think the other person gets it one hundred percent. That's just what how feels because we feel oak, we're sending this message. Therefore, the other people understand it because we are sending the. Way Too, confident about our ability to be good communicators, and that is the underlying essence of the transparency, everyone all of us and especially George and Mary need to develop a great deal more humility about their ability to send the signals whether verbal or nonverbal and have those signals received appropriately. So it's one thing to work on the other things to work on would be the difference isn't communication styles where Mary is clearly shied conflict avoided. So she's very unlikely to speak up just because of that personality, it will take a great deal of emotional Labor to speak up in these areas. So perhaps the she can instead of speaking up. Up because specifically verbalizing things is pretty difficult from people, she can have a nonverbal signal that's much more clear. You know raising her hand in some way to indicate that you know Hey, I'm getting overwhelmed. You need to pause or something like that. So some way that you can clearly indicate that she needs a break and that the conversation perhaps is not leading to where she wanted to lead and George needs to stop taking and George needs by contrast to be much more aware and clearly reaching Mary signals of interest nothing interest because you know Georgia's tour, he likes telling stories. He likes sharing about himself. He likes sharing about. And he just kind of does overwhelmed people knowing him as a casual acquaintance. He's kind of the life of the party, but life is not always a party. I can absolutely relate to George. You know it's not an accident that I'm a speaker, a podcast or a writer. All of these things involve being the center of attention and sharing and talking. So I really can relate to George, and that's kind of why I brought it up because I have a lot of Mary's in my life and I was completely unaware that I was overwhelming people because I just assumed that people would tell me. Me To stop or something I. I just didn't know. So when I became older and more understanding and more socially adept, I realized that Oh..
"instinct" Discussed on The Psych Central Show
"Leaders from dangerous judgment errors known as cognitive biases by developing the most effective decision making strategies, his the author of the blind spots between us, and he's a returning guest Dr Tibur Sqi. Welcome to the show. Thanks so much for having me on again Gabe. It's a pleasure. Well, I'm very. Very excited to have you on because today, we're going to be talking about how our mental blind spots can damage our relationships and how to defeat these blind spots to save our relationships I. Think, this is something. A lot of people can really relate to because we all very much care about our relationships we do, but we think too little about the kind of mental blind spots, the devastate our relationships, I mean. There's a reason about forty percent of marriages. Marriages in the US end in divorces, and there's a reason that so many friendships break apart to misunderstandings and conflicts of donate to happen when I see people doing that running into these sorts of problems, they are just suffering in needless unnecessary way, and that really harms them and the kind of breaks my heart. So that's why I wrote this book, we think about the term cognitive bias and there's just so many psychological terms that basically say the way that your. Your body feels is lying to you that just because something makes you feel good. Doesn't make it good and just because something feels bad. Doesn't make it bad and I know that you've done excellent work in helping business leaders understand that and this book is sort of an extension of that work in helping people understand that just because your friend or lover or spouse makes you feel bad. Doesn't make it bad. Is that what you're trying to tie together here? I am and this work actually emerged from where my wife about five years ago had a nervous breakdown major nervous breakdown where she wasn't a pretty terrible spot. So like you said, I've been doing consulting coaching training for business leaders for over twenty years now, and then the in cognitive neuroscience behavioral economics have taught at the University of North Carolina Triple Hill, the Ohio state. State as a professor for fifteen years. Now, at that point when my wife had a nervous breakdown that was pretty terrible. So she was just crying for no reason anxious for no reason. No reason that she was aware of, and that was really bad. You can torch. You couldn't do anything I had to become her caretaker, and that was a really big stray, not relationship. Relationship I knew about these strategies which I was already teaching business leaders started applying them taught relationship, and we started to work through some of these trains and our relationship using the strategies, and so seeing the kind of impact that they had an our marriage where they pretty much saved their marriage. Definitely, not have been able to cope without these strategies I, decided that it. It would be a good time to write a book for a broader audience about personal relationships, Mandic Life, friendship, community, civic engagement, all of those sorts of relationships that are really damaged by the blind spots. We have between US human beings unconditionally be saved. If we just are more aware of these blind spots in about the research basic seeks to address these blood spots. As, I'm sitting here, listening to you I. I completely agree with you I I know your educational background I know the research that you've put into an I've read your books and I i. believe you Doctor Too Persky, but there's this large part of me. That's like wait a minute. We're supposed to trust our heart and trust our gut especially in romantic relationships. Love at first sight I. Mean every romantic comedy is based on this butterflies in the stomach. So the logical part of me is like Dr Persky spot on, but the I wanNA fall in love in this magical way part of me is like don't don't bring science this. And, I imagine you get this a lot. Right? Because isn't supposed to boil down to science. What do you say to that? Well, I say it's just like exactly the kind of love we feel for a box of dozen donuts. When we see that box of dozen donuts would just have this desire in our heart in our gut. We feel it's the right thing to do to just gorge in those doughnuts. Look Delicious Yami and wouldn't be lovely to Heathrow those donuts, right? Well, I mean, what's what's happened to you after that? That's not the consequence for you. Now that you know five minutes today, finish gorging yourself on those donuts or eating whole top of ice cream or whatever your poison is that you would be regretting it. and. That is the kind of experience that we have where our body are hard. Mind our feelings, whatever it comes from those sensations they lied to us. They see us about what's good for us and that they'll comes from how our emotions are watered. They're not actually wired for the modern environment. That's the study thing better wired for the environment when we lived in small tribes of Hunter. Gatherers, fifteen people, two, hundred, fifty people. So in that environment. Environment when we came across a source of sugar, Piney Apples, bananas, it was very important for us to eat as much as possible, and that's what our emotions were four. We are the descendants of those who are successfully able to gorge themselves on all the sugar that they came across all the honey, and therefore they survived those who didn't didn't. That's a inborn instinct enough as genetic instinct. Now, in the current modern environment, it leads us. US. In. Very bad directions because we have way too much sugar in our environment for their own. Good. So we eat too much. We get sad that's bad for housing. There's a reason. There's an obesity epidemic here in the US and actually around the world in countries that adopt the US that, and so this is why you want to understand that. Your feelings are going to be lying to you around food around what kind of food do you. You want to eat in the same way, your feelings. The current research is showing their clearly that your feelings are going to be lying to you about other people because our feelings are adapted to the tribal environment. When we lived in those small tribes, they are a great fit. You happen to live in a small tribe in the African. Savannah. But for all of you who are not listening to this podcast small cave and the African Savanna. They're going to terrible fitfully, it's really going to cause you to make really wrong terrible decisions for your term..
"instinct" Discussed on Pants On Fire
"Host and the inventor of silly putty Deborah Gold. Thank you and welcome to pants on. Fire I'm Deborah Goldstein. And here with me as always is our sound effects robot Lisa whose name stands for live in studio audience. Thank you Debra now. How about some free silly putty? Oh I would love to help you Lisa. But as I've told you what feels like too many times at this point I am not the inventor of silly buddy frilly putting serious potty. No Joey potty these for the last time I have done many things throughout my career for which. I'm very proud but I have never invented a putty of any sort. Ever are that everybody had invented at least some type of buddy. What kind of party have you invented? I'll give you a hint. It's a special kind of putty that you can only buy in southeastern Pennsylvania Philly putty shoop that would have been pretty clever. It's called southeastern Pennsylvania. Buddy okay well feel free to use Philly putty if you want to rebrand. Meanwhile you should also feel free to tell us how our game works. Well then I will and I'll do it do it now. Okay in every edition of Wacky Khakis Deborah and I each tell one a crazy story about the world but only one of those stories is true while the other one is a big stink in lie. And it's the job of two human child contestants to figure out which is which and joining us as always to keep time and explain. Our topic is our producer. What is his name? Is Noah Noah? Welcome back to the show know us so tell us. What are we lying about on Wacky Khakis this week? Our theme this episode is animal. Instinct stories have discoveries of interesting things going on in the animal kingdom. Ooh That's my favorite kingdom about robot kingdom. I don't think there is a robot kingdom Lisa. Robots aren't living beings they don't exist within a biological kingdom not living. If you prick us do we not bleed. If you tickle us. Do we not laugh. No Oh yeah yeah. I guess that's true. Yeah Okay Well. If we prompt you will you not introduce this week's human child contestants Oh all right. Our human child contestants are Libya from our beautiful wonderful episode about jeans and her cousin out. Friend me pants on fire. Hey guys doing today good drinks. We DON'T DO JINX. You don't do jinx if we do we'll lose our phone for a week. How have you practice that? We never lose our phone for impact. The agree okay. So you guys made the point earlier of saying that you are cousin but not friends yes. You're not enemies though right now times. Yes really times yeah. We're kind of things. Are you enemies over fighting? Yeah fighting enemies during the last episode. Doing this kind of odd strange. Yeah what were you guys doing renegade? It's a tedtalk dance. You guys are losing your phones for a week. Nine say don't say don't say they can speak at the same time they just can't say jinx is that correct. Yes we're just together too much Like friends no lackey so our topic. This week is animal instincts. So you guys have much experience with animals. Either of you guys have a favorite animal. I Love Dogs. I like dogs too but I have two cats interesting to fish the died you and many fish all right. It is time to play Wacky Khakis Day. Ones will know that Deborah in Lisa. Each have a minute and changed. Tell their stories before the timer sounds. We tried to flip a coin but we couldn't find one so we flipped a plate and the plate broke. Sorry about that debris so as a way of making it up to her. We've allowed Deborah to choose and she has decided to go second Lisa. That means you're up first. You're ready day. One's main people who've been listening to the podcast since day one day waters wonders. Yeah what Sirott Nia Livia. Listen CAREFULLY LISA. My dear your timer begin how it turns out. The pigeons are smarter than you would think. And we're not just talking book smart or even street-smart actually we're talking about art smarts yes. The same multicolored disease riddled birds. You can find flying around New York City scouring. The streets are bits of Soft Pretzel. And pooping taxicabs are also uniquely able to appreciate music and fine art. Scientists proved in one thousand nine hundred for the pigeons can tell the difference between Concertos by Bach and struggling skirt and a nine hundred ninety five. They could differentiate between paintings by no nope by monarch by Monet and with remarkable accuracy. These smart little birdies could tell the difference in brush strokes color and style that Monet and Picasso unique from one another after training. They identified the correct artists. Ninety percent of the time a brilliant. So think twice the next time you're about to call someone a bird brain besides the fact that it's not a nice thing to say anyway you're not landing the insult you think you are in fact you're actually just telling them that. They have a keen appreciation for the finer things in life and time nicely told Lisa. Well well MIA Olivia. What did you guys think of that story? I don't really know neither do I. Can you guys tell the difference? Between Monet and Picasso. I don't even know who monet. Yeah I know Picasso Picasso. We don't own that song. Mona Emma hurt artists. Yeah he's not singer guys. No pigeons are yes basically. The story is true. No I guess we'll find out now it's time for Deborah's story of animal instinct. You could go deborah. Bring it on okay. We will start your timer. Many parents dread the day when their kids turn from sweet youngsters who love and idolize their Mama's and Papa's into surly sarcastic teenagers. Who can't stand to be seen with them in public until recently we thought this was just a condition of human relations but according to a study conducted by the Dairy Science Institute in Geneva Switzerland much like their human counterparts adolescent cows rebel from their mothers. This is truly fascinating discoveries. That episodes from the Dairy Science Institute lead researcher until now we knew the calf behavior was determined by social bonding learned incentive. An animal instinct. But we have no other way to explain this rebellious nature except to come to the same conclusion that many parents come to about their teenage children. They are just going through a phase. According to the research this rebellious phase of cows lyft usually lasts for about a year but soderstrom and her team did find. One experimental condition in which adolescent cattle will still snuggle up to their mothers. When you guessed it when none of the other cavs were watching and time Nice Work Deborah Job. Thank you okay. A Livia Mia. Would you guys think of that story? I believed alway until they said it was a phase Well don't know I do not think it's a phase will you also don't believe him. So where are you going here? Mia I have a feeling. Lisa is not current. Me Too am well. I've a feeling lying because I've done. Whatever I glen. Well I have a feeling that decision. Okay so now. Our contestants must look the gift horse straight in the mouth and decide had the cock and bull story this week. I thought we were talking about pigeon. Cows do you guys believe leases account of pigeons. And they're amazing. Ability to distinguish Monet's impressionist paintings from Picasso's modern art or or. Are you going with Deborah story about how Swiss scientists revealed that dairy cows rebel from their mothers? I think I think Lisa's line what you think she's lying. I think she's correct to Earth agree. Yes so I have it straight. You believe Deborah Story about cows rebelling from their mothers. Yes and correctly believe well. I guess we'll find out we'll are actual truth teller from today's Wacky Khakis. You are. That's pigeon for it was nice dry. Chinks on that. Your phones are away for a year. That's right Lisa the true story this week in a nineteen ninety-five study in Keio University. In Japan. Three scientists proved that pigeons were essentially just as good as humans at telling different artists apart lobby among his goal. Actually you will soon. Congratulations and I'm afraid. There is no institute for Dairy Sciences in Geneva or anywhere in the world and unlike human teenagers adolescent cows have no problem being seen with their mothers in public. And neither do I. Sweetie are you ready to come inside? Forbath no embarrassing in front of my podcast listeners. Okay team that's all the time we have the speaker canton fire. Many thanks to our contestants. Olivia and MIA FOR WATCHING FOR LIES. Like a hawk to our producer. No we're doing. The lion's share of the work to our sound effects. Were about Lisa for being a slice box and to all of you listening to pants on fire where we found you with the Truth and Badger. You live pats on fires production of Gen Z. 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Fonts Can Send Political Messages
"Here's something weird. Certain thoughts can send political messages. And with that. I am announcing my campaign for presidency using economic sense. Ms Well actually when you listen to this research you're gonNA realize why you don't WanNA use Comic Sans. Because nobody likes. It and liking fonts is one big part of this. I like Comic Sans No you. Don't nobody likes Comic Sans Vinyl run using papyrus even worse. My running mate will be Matthew mcconaughey all right well. A little while ago. A researcher at Virginia Tech named Kathryn Hanshin Notice that a local political candidate use different fonts on their signs in rural areas than they did in town as a political messaging expert. She wondered. Why was there. Something different about the fonts that worked best with people in the city versus people in the country so Hanshin turn that question into a research project. She and her team surveyed more than two thousand people to find out what they thought of various typefaces. And whether they thought fonts lined up with political ideologies sure enough they found that fonts can send political messages people see Fonseca's having liberal or conservative leanings. And the more people think of aligns with their thinking the more they'll like it. So here's the breakdown. Funds come in two basic varieties Sarath and sans Serif. A Sarah is a little liner stroke at the end of a letter. Think Times New Roman or your classic typewriter font the stuff you see in Newspapers Sans Serif Fonts are the ones without syrups silicon Arial Helvetica or the meriwether sands of the curiosity logo or just look at your keyboard right now. Chances are those letters are in a San Serif style. The study showed that generally speaking Sarah Fonts are considered more conservative and Sans Serif. Fonts are seen as more liberal. Bold type is seen as more conservative than Italic type but there are some differences within font families for example the highly serif black letter typeface. You usually see on the masthead of the New York Times and the Washington Post was seen as more liberal by conservative participants. Possibly because that's how they see these outlets specifically the important thing is that the more people viewed a font aligned with their ideology the more they liked it and vice versa. Basically this research shows that fonts have meaning and they're not just all about looks so as the two thousand twenty election heats up maybe take a closer look at those lawn. Signs and billboards design has a bigger impact than you think.
"instinct" Discussed on The Church of What's Happening Now
"A vote video and some some some something that she did like cones. I still remember coming out of Vogue with two cups on my dad's I thought that was funny so please guys have patients and support your local open. Mics open mics. Because you support the future somebody must can you imagine it till this day? I still think about that. I WANNA take my car crash. I came up to vote. How many times can you do it all you need to do that? Mistake is one. That's funny and do it twice. Shame on thing is I did at one time. I came to vogue and I would spend the cups around and then make believe I was dancing. It was horrible. Leah was horrible and then when I got to see how do you know my year and I used to do the Spanish comedy show. I think Josh will still has pictures. Ago would come on stage and play the MARACAS and I would do comedy now off. Plays in between jokes. Bilking works Not she play the MARACAS while I was up on stage all no. Yeah I called it. Like SALSA COMEDY WARLIKE RUFFLED. Tuxedo publisher yet like the shirt with thanks to a wedding like that type of stuff. I mean guys. All you're not gonNA come to me with no story about not that. I've done it all I've walked out. There's no bigger losing inmate. I have done it all you know. I. I just remember that because I found like the I know a girl that has all that stuff. I know a girl that one day. She's going to sell that stuff from make a ton of money She's got all the pictures of that. My ex girlfriend of you in the shirt and the shirt of her onstage playing the MARACAS white dress on. I hope that if you went to those shows you never told people about it or if you did see those shows ninety six ninety five Seattle. You just stop thinking about it. You just got out of your mind cause Doug there's what ty you listen. We all have something we want to do. And there's a price to pay and the price is to put in the work. A mega talent mistakes and get called a fool and somewhere another breaking out gone forever but at least you try and some way. That's a good thing because at least you had the balls to try because all your all your goal was just to be funny but like when a call was just become a decent human being mad my goal was. I've been such a stiff for so long in nineteen ninety five at the age of thirty three. I just gone through so much and I was sick and tied. I knew what I wanted to do. I knew I didn't want to do and I said you know what I don't know anything to anybody. I don't have parents. I don't have to impress anybody. I don't have to get a college degree. I don't have to do anything. How do I make myself happy? How do I make myself productive? How do I make myself a good purse? Like what can I do to stop stealing? What can I do to stop the drug abuse? What can I do to stop the way you know? For God's Sake I tried to rob somebody and I had been doing it for years. What can I do to avoid all this? You know the that could do and dive myself into it without thinking twice about. It was calmly guys. I hated working. I hated working. I hated argument about money. I hated all that stuff. But when you're a labor you know like the stand not when you don't know by some you know like the Stan and you have to pay your pot price before people pay you in society and I got it. I just didn't WanNa do it like I understood that that's fine. That doesn't work for me. I want you to make me vice president. Accompany A and I'll keep working on it but I never going to be satisfied. Even if they gave me that because I had had that had had much. I talked myself into gray jobs that after months of being Mike. This is great. But it's not what I WANNA do. This is a great salesman job. This is a cush sales job or whatever but this is not what I WANNA do. I did that Twenty Times Lee Twenty Times. I almost talk myself into being a rep for pharmaceutical company with no college degree while it embolden. How just a fake resume. Oh she's I all all I knew is if I get myself into the room. I could talk that guy into give me the job. That's what I didn't know you understand what I knew but I still remember going to the interview and the guy asked me about what I studied me that you know. That's why I asked you do people when you go to a you know when you went to editing jobs interviews if they asked you about college look at what's going on in this country right now because they push college so much you know kids are in that this is dead so much but what it also did was. It took kids away from going to trade school. My Buddy in Vegas. Thi- grew up with. I've known this kisses to sixth grade. Okay we spoke Friday night. I invite them to the show. I left his name on the door because I thought he would come and goes Koi. Can't come to your show because I am so tired he goes. I cannot find help I go. What do you mean he goes? I'm looking for mechanic. I'm willing to pay him. Forty five dollars. An hour and I cannot find the mechanic because forty five an hour. Forty five an hour but he wants a mechanically like an experience. When I wasn't gonNA mechanic school today. I know an experienced mechanic because there was a gap somewhere in society where everybody was pushed into college and nobody was pushed into learning trades. And right now the country suffering because a lot of people are dead. Fill those gaps. We got tons of attorneys. We got tons of doctors. We got tons of lawyers. We got tons of dentists. But we don't have enough mechanics and that they are. I'm not talking about you on a school and getting certified mechanics. If you know anything about my friend. His father owned a gas station. Twenty six. You were growing up in Union city on Kennedy Boulevard. So he grew up into an IT. Mareo can fix anything you give Marriott computer fixed in three days. There's people have an aptitude for that. So they go on my wife and I were talking about this day. How in school? When I was growing up they had auto body class or you had to fix the doors or to be a mechanic introduced. Small oil change stuff to be honest. I took it for two weeks. I switched video class. Why because I wanted. I wanted to do video steph yet and it was going to be for me you know. They used to be an auto. What's out though you watch out? Yeah see and my wife says that today. They don't have them. I'm sure they don't. They got rid of all. Are you serious is the budgets? Yeah so my wife said that they don't teach that anymore. They don't have the curriculums if anybody's seen that differently. Please notify me on twitter. Maybe I'm talking on the place over. My wife doesn't know what she's talking. It's a because I grew up in a very rich town. I was the poor kid in a rich town and I think maybe the richer towns might still have it. 'cause they have the budgets but most of those kids they don't want to do that. It's looked down upon in a weird way but in the league. Now now that you hear about it like I could make forty five. An hour being a mechanic mechanic's that's a Lotta money. Because the people didn't go into that trade you know it's like a family trade like that aptitude. Listen I got. I got a flat tire by new. My Tie I'm looking for a new car because I don't want to change a flat you know it's not my aptitude. I have zero aptitude for screwdrivers. I listen if you put a gun to my head I could cut stuff. I can measure stuff before for years. I know how to install stuff you know if if you put a gun to my head but is it really what I wanna do for a living now? I don't know I saw people way better than I did. And had the aptitude the I know how to measure forty four to sixty six caught it and put it up against a wall with sheet rocks or whatever. I over the years roofing and doing all that I know little things. I know a lot more than I let you. Hanta like about different. Things haven't been put in that position in years. When was last on a roof for for do construction dig out? You know. It's not my world any more. I'm a comic so I didn't have the aptitude for it. It's now I I. You know we're talking about this the day night at the Las Vegas. I had a a car for a while. One of those cars e supposed to work on a Guy Hobby got rid of it like I sold them. People like you sold that car. You could have made so much money in just one of my life. That call was for somebody who wants sadly wanted to get up and go to the junction right there. We're GONNA get under the hood can take the carburetor out of another Camaro and put it in now. You know. It just wasn't for me. I knew that I learned that those cars of somebody who they go to the auto parts store every Saturday and they know I have a relationship with bill and you know it just wasn't mate but going back to it. That was why I jumped into at thirty three. I was like what the hell am I doing my life. If I'M GONNA do some enjoy it and of story it's not going to be about because for years. You Know You have your guidance counselor. What area needs more? What were they saying? Well they're saying to get into this. You know we do everything in our allies. Let our jobs control us? Because Y- obviously we want the money but at the end of the day you're GonNa find that what makes shoe happier is better than that money. You have to be happy doing it before you can make any money and for years. I didn't believe that. Listen I know thousand millionaires to the data? Fuckin- angry about something. I don't know what they're angry about. The you know. Money doesn't buy happiness you know but so don't go for something that you go for it if you're young kid don't go for just because while it's GonNa make me money if you light work on cars tie your mom and Dad. This is what I WANNA do. What am I GONNA pay? How many kids are unemployed? How much money can we have? Banks may the kids on these student. Loans may have found. What are you GONNA do? I mean if you could do it again. Would you have gone to college now? It's it's tough because if you get any sort of job short. Anita degree but not really. Who's WHO's GONNA call and check this year. You went to Saint Paul minestrone. Did you ever know that it is one of the people do get caught? Now is hysterical. People actually called to see if you went to college at a certain.
"instinct" Discussed on The Art of Manliness
"This nature instinct that I that I got from your book but also just my experience experience learning how to do this stuff is that it gives life more meaning you know. There's there's a sort of a deal in a crisis of meaning in modern life but I think the nation's dig is is one small way where you can inject more meaning into your life. You can look at the world and say that means something and I don't know there's something fulfilling about that. Thanks yeah and I I. That's certainly one of the one of the things I I hope to achieve with this book and for me the tipping point personally which is now something I try and share because I think it is is. It can't be the different people deciding whether to give us a goal not is very early on in my life. I mean I sort of got the point where I I hope I hope is not a cloudy day because then I can see the sun and I can use undefined direction or I hope I can see the stars or by the Tommy. My early twenties the collection of signs was probably a big enough. The US hopefully finding out but the came a point where my whole philosophy change which is now everything outdoors is assign literally everything. Nothing has some meaning because nothing is random and that stretches all the way from the wildest parts of planet Earth where we might be noticing that a sudden spike in the number of insects is telling us that this water nearby all the way up to urban examples in shops not random somebody. Somebody's somebody spent a lot of money to put a store somewhere. So although I'm focusing on nature the the philosophy applies to literally everything the collar all the side of a building is trying to tell us you know something about the amount of light and moisture which in turn is telling US direction the way people move is analogous to the way animals move. If it's not random any one individual might decide to go some strange on any particular day but a group of people moving along street in late in the day heading towards a station. That sort of thing is not A. It's not random not random patents I am I feel feel free to too far it back at me but I've I've yet to have have an example given to me where I'm left thinking. There is no sign in that. Sometimes it takes me a while to work out what it might be and sometimes the sign. Isn't you know super powerful but there is I believe assign and everything and once once people have come open to that sort of idea than every minute outdoors becomes very very exciting because instead of it being a whole autumn really lucky I might find one of these things that that you know. Tristan cling assign it quickly becomes. Everything's everything's assigned. So if I look at something though is what what is it. And then you've got your kinda mystery feeling. It causes you to engage with the world in a more active way. And I I I really like that feeling another kind of high level concept that you talk about the nature instinct. That I thought was interesting was his idea. And I've never heard of it before. But it was his idea. The volt or die Franz's German or I'm Welt. What is that in what insights can give us to developing the nature instinct? It was is one of the great joys of this book for me because I had to be pointed out to me that the author is connected to the World Authority. I I wasn't a genius when it came to that little all quite simple connection but nobody gets a commission to write a book unless they've proved that they are expert enough in that field that the world will have an interest in what they have to say about it which is against Slavia? Stop but the the great joy in writing any book is is you you enter it with with a level of knowledge which is high enough to justify. The exercise is from a publisher's point of view and a raises point of view. But but you always learn little little things along the way and that that is so exciting from my perspective and this I don I exactly ed pronounce it. I'm guessing as German I think is oval but I my German is close to non-existent. So forgive me if I've got that wrong but I've ever seen it imprint. But I'm very familiar with the concept. Now which is that. This is the the landscape and the environment as perceived by another creature which which initially doesn't sound that exciting but when when Santa Start Looking into their some ridic- quite bizarre stocks to happen because quite often we can nc creatures that have much much smaller bodies and brains than us doing things that look a bit smarter or certainly a bit more able in us. The most beautiful example in is when I say in the book which is a Jackdaw Gang for locust so the bird sees sees the locust and the locus is is is moving in front of the bird and the bird identifies a male but the the locus has evolved to notice the credits. There notice that moving is not the right thing to do so the lake freezes which is another of the keys and what is interesting is at this point. The bird ceases to be up to see the locust that the the meal has become invisible not in a sort of it's no longer sort of grabbing my attention as as far as scientists can tell that actual there is no vision there anymore. It's it's almost like somebody's turned off the lights. And this is why we see freezing so much in nature and why we we instinctively quite often do it if we're we're if we're walking through a woods hopefully seeing some wildlife and we catch something moving around us it's quite. It is quite a sort of intuitive instinctive response to to freeze but the more the more Tommy think about their own Valdamo. We realized that it's not the animal sense. The world like US whilst they just don't have language like English attached to it. It's they are sensing an entirely different world. And that's where I mean when I'm when I'm spending time with if we come back to squirrels if you wave your your hand an imitate the motion of a Squirrel's tail it feels you know hilarious areas. 'cause you you feel like a bit of an idea and I you know my my family and I were were over numb and your recently and we're in central park and I was having a conversation but Tacoma's with a Squirrel Rolette waving my hand and beneath the beneath the sort of ridiculousness. Of how how it looks is something genuine going on there because the squirrels. I can't tell exactly what's going on in their brain but they definitely definitely picking up a sign and answered hardwired into them. That motion has a meaning. Now Mike I take is that that meaning doesn't quite fit with the rest of what they're saying as in the they're not thinking. Wow that's a big squirrel. Let thinking I'm getting a sign with meaning and that is an instant false understanding of what's going on somewhere but then probably getting the subsequent. Hang on a minute tight-fitting as well because because the other signs and patents on on fitting it so so through through and felt a little little insights again to how different creatures are experiencing their environment allows us to have more faith and believe a little a bit more dot. These signs. Do actually work that way. I mean another example is pray. Pray animals like rodents have to be very very sensitive Steve to buds. I've ahead because birds of prey can sweep down at it's It's game over. So they choose to the shape of birds. They don't relate birds in the in the same way. That bird lovers around the world might do they might buy guidebook. Might say So so it's kind of is got balls on its tail feathers and and it's it's the ring around his. Is this collar. That's a very very slow human way of looking at a bird a prey animal would just would you censor shape. Deep thought shape is of a bird with a short neck. It's gone instantly. It's not as far as science can tell it is not the rabbit or the owner of whatever it is not sitting getting. I think he looks a little bit like Predator a which can kill me but but not a tool like Predator B which is safe. Okay if it looks like the when those can kill me I'm Gonna I'm GONNA head off. All it does is censorship that is its own belt. That is it's it's whole reading of the of the sky is as far as we know it. My best guess is it's not even sensing a bird it's syncing a shape which means run for cover are so we've been talking about this stuff on a high level. We talked about the benefits of developing this nature instinct. I think there's a case is for it not in a practical sense any a lot of people think I'm GONNA learn this stuff's over if I ever get lost in the woods. Yeah it'll probably come in handy but I think most on a day to day it just gives is more. Meaning enriches your life but to develop nature instinct. We have to learn these things deliberately. I then they practiced they become encoded. So it just becomes like instinct. Let's talk about some of these patterns. We've mentioned a few hours. We talked about the ramp that we see in nature in different places that indicate wind direction. And what are some of your other favorite signs in nature that once once people notice that no that they're they're notice that they're they start seeing them everywhere and it tells all of them information about their world. One of my favorites is is is a good one. The people an early on because it. Stacks the odds in your favor. If you've ever had the experience suv of going outdoors into into a rural or semi walled environment thinking This is going to be peace for the sense. longinus yellow wildlife in a lot of night night chow happening in the post comments and then off to twenty minutes you got. That feeling doesn't seem to be a lot going on here. Well that's it's poly because 'cause we're there and we haven't necessarily settled into into the landscape so there's a lot of lot of lot of creatures out there watching us to see our next move but there are things we can do to massively stack the alternate favor their keys. I cool the age is an eye simple on so in ecology terms. It's known as an ECO town where to landscape types meet each other. We got a massive spike in activity. And when I when I was getting familiar with this concept I thought what I've I've noticed that happening but I don't really understand why I mean what's the logic and it's a lot of. It's very simple maths. If you've got woodland meeting a field open country for the sake of argument might have fifty species that that need woodland to live in in and fifty species that need an open field to live in the might be fifty species that need both. There is only one part of the landscape where you're conceivably GONNA see one hundred fifty species now. If we imagine those of one hundred fifty prey species we're GONNA see a spike in Predator activity and indeed what we tend to find is these edges are are sort of many highways. We got the prey moving up and down them without the prejudice focusing on that as well so instead of US scanning if we if we had you know. En- Gambling Tom's yes. You know if if we absolutely have to see something happen and we've only got five minutes in a landscape. There's no point scanning the whole landscape. The animals aren't doing it and they're the ones that really know you focus on the edge and then we had another key which which I nicknamed the Mazda which comes for an old medieval English hunting term. which is the little sort of the mini the highways through undergrowth? Say if we imagine we go to would touching field. There will be some undergrowth their hat. Some some thorn some brambles and things like this though be lots of animals else the compost freely through that so an anything bigger than a you know small road and is not going to be moving randomly through that so we find these sometimes tunnels Dell's but they always exist so it's not like you have to gun such a such a half an hour you'd be able to see within a couple of minutes quite easily so then we got the edge where most activity is happening and this little Khanna highway. which is it's a funnel? It's a pinch points. West stuff is going to happen. The final key we add is time so we will again. The the maths is really quite quite clear. Here we're GONNA see a lot less in the middle of the day and the middle of the night than we are dawn and dusk..
"instinct" Discussed on Hidden Brain
"Was young. He had a pet mouse named willy one day Willie died. So how used this as a teaching moment, we thought it would be a good lesson for the kids in terms of in terms of understanding death to have a funeral forum after all, you know, he was a pet the kids really really liked them and they were very upset when he died until we had a funeral. We, we got a little cord box and made a little casket. We took him into the backyard, we buried him, and we actually had a little headstone for him, we got we got some.
"instinct" Discussed on Never Seen It
"Get them come out. If you're in LA. Thank you. Oh, and no one thing more. If you when I was just in DC, if you came out when I was in DC, thank you so much fun. A bunch of podcast people came out to the comedy loft so much fun whole week. And they're doing stand up and hanging out. And thank you for coming to the shows if you're in DC appreciate it. You are the best. Thank you guys so much. Enjoy the episode Dave Ross has never seen Basic Instinct here with Georgia Brooks too. I have to tell you guys you guys read as short really a true, I have bad posture. Now might be at one time I stood up because I want to ask me if I grew really. Yeah. Like someone I see all the time. Really, no, I'm just trying to stand up straight. I think people just think I'm sure because I may cook. Right. Yeah. Probably that's probably why. You don't think you're allergic to stuff too? You asked you to. You read it does kind of come off like you'd be what kind of nuts? Lagoon to to state right now that I do not like this that I cur I now feel right? Yes. There's there's a lot of well. There's too many nuts in here. You You know? know? I'm not even getting pity laps. What the fuck? I see giggles. Are you looking at the wave files? There were some last minute ago. Oh, really going to this is going to be someone sent me a tweet to the podcast enemy that said you need to stop. Introducing your guests so much what why would like doing twice every time. Because I wasn't doing a good job of ever..
"instinct" Discussed on KIRO Radio 97.3 FM
"To do a breakfast for two if you only have an ounce of cheddar cheese. Right. So then that will change maybe making cheese omelette into making putting cheese graded into your scrambled eggs. Yeah. For example. So it just changes. What your capabilities are? Jeff, I think that I'm totally with you. I think the number of ingredients and the amount of ingredients is very important. But I think it's it's referring to the basic technique and Basic Instinct in the kitchen some people can boil water, they need a recipe. Some people have been in the kitchen a few times, they know that if you put an extra tablespoon of butter is just gonna make it better. It's not gonna make it worse. So you're not measuring like a tablespoon of butter when you're making what if it was super? But if you're making let's say oatmeal raisin cookies, and you leave out of well, let's see you didn't. I think that clarification. If you leave out a Cup of the flour, and you add more butter because you like it more buttery, it's most likely those cookies are just going to spread like a cookie sheet and all go together. Verify one thing baking and pastry requires recipes and right measurement. Once you've got it down ten times in a row, and it's perfect. Then you can mess with the recipe and see what you can get to say there's ways to stock your Larder with particular items where you can more freely. I think go without a recipe. I think having things I know Terry, you're a big fan of various grains. Whether it's wa or barley or any any of that. Right. We'll behave essentially the same way, and when will create that kind of starch component of the meal. Tom. I know you're a big vegetable fan. So having a lot of fresh vegetables.
"instinct" Discussed on The Guilty Feminist
"There was just that low level bec- retention between everybody. I think I was meant to delude. I didn't know the drama. So we and the first thing that happens is they say, wrought, we're in car should see the pyramids. I think that sounds good and we get to the pyramids and there was some chops that with camels and I say, right, will you pay to get on the camera will take you to the pyramid? I did not trust that. I thought, no, my instinct is telling me do not get only camels Thomas appointee, hamels of toll of, I am. No, I don't trust that. I will see a pyramid. I just trust that I will full of camel. So I go with some different people who've got. Kind of, I think Rick show with hosts or something is really hard to get through its concrete sand. And so I go off on my brick show. I get to the pyramids, the pyramids that come out of the pyramids look around the pyramids. I see everything that could be seen. I come back and the two couples have basically been on some camels have had to pay to get off the camels, have never seen the. So point one for my instincts. Then Mike, who was meant to be in charge of this leg of the toll was going around. The world has failed to bring a lonely planet guide or anything that would tell you anything about Egypt. So he listens to a monitor hotel who says, hey, don't go on the tourist train. As I have seen in my dependent guide duck all the tourist train. It's too expensive. What you wanna do is go on the local Egyptian train. Now, I have read in my God book, you should not do them. There's a reason as tourist train. It's Taurus GL on the tourist train. Michael comes out of a room somewhere and goes all non sweet us of got four tickets on the local train, and that's much better than the tourist train tourists is at Michael, is it? Evidently it isn't. That's what they call it. The tourist train that is. No, it isn't. But by that time he spent my money on caught referred to go against against my instincts. I get on the local train. Now the local train is four locals, and there is a palpable tension about us being on that train mostly because. Because the very young women that I'm with a wearing as the going could vises them not to do. And prop tops really halts and I'm like, yes, it's really hot on the go coast goes with hot pants and crop tops. The book clearly says it's a conservative country just you don't have to cover your head or anything like that, but just sort of be respectful where some address t. shirt and jeans, whatever. So I'm wearing a t shirt and jeans. The goals weren't hop hands. Every single strength from the second train stop that we stop. Find the word has traveled down to the next village that they're on naked women. So young men and children run to the window just about courage. They know the number of the car is like we told and they run understandably because they're women in the carriage. And so they come to the window and the like make it women that can women and girls. Do you think you anything that you could put on and they go? No, we're hot..
"instinct" Discussed on Happier in Hollywood
"Yeah on the instinct that your scripts not going to be long but you will hone them over time and when you get to that point listen to yourself and sometimes it's hard because it standing up to someone yeah but you're usually going to be right and so you know stand up for yourself and i would say that we have never regretted things that we have fought for but we have regretted things that we have not fought for have way though yeah many times lesson to us trust our instincts and trust your instincts and let us know if there's a time you've trusted your instincts and we're glad you did or the opposite send us an email or a voice memo our email addresses happier in hollywood g mail dot com next up we have a listener question but i and advocate whether you're an athlete student busy parent gamer or working professional there's no denying that some days your brain could use a boost o'memory cognitive boost is a daily supplement that could increase your brain power and productivity improving memory focus and concentration without any caffeine or jitters seems crazy sarah yeah but you know we've done a lot of pilots and i always come out of them just absolutely battered and this time i was taking max cognitive boost and i think i handled the stress physically and mentally much better than in the past so if this show goes amax cognitive boost is a must is part of my daily for sure yes exactly the star ingredient blend is a combination of l.
"instinct" Discussed on Good Life Project
"Led me to do a lot of things in the earlier part of my life and of course i'm still human and this instinct remains a part of me but it's also become a lesser part of my motivation to do anything before i decide to pick up the mantle of a project one denver company or whatever it is i don't think to myself while how cool would it be to be known an dorde and praise and become famous for this or that instead i think wow how cool would it be to be able to devote myself to to be able to spend a meaningful part of my work and my time doing this thing that for some reason and compelled to do either as an expression of the essence of who i am were the manifestation of a desire to serve may be some blend of both and if that leads me to become known for something great fine with that but even if it never does but my commitment to this pursuit leads to a level of success or accomplishment or mastery that simply allows me to do more of it to wake up feeling on purpose and fully expressed well that's pretty awesome just as well and if i can use new potentially touch of that drum major instinct to get me up off the couch to start doing something and then allow it to convert you know to to become an uh an an alchemist of ego into something bigger.
"instinct" Discussed on Blank Check with Griffin & David
"Only one of them was released and see seventy cracked which ensure i shall all right which was sort of try they tried to be like you know what all right fine we're gonna yeah we're going to see if that works like go so hot threat sensors but now it's like it's harder to find a theatrical version of rebel copper basic instinct so uh bright very very graphic uh ice pick a very very specific weapon this movie treats ice picks like their house keys like everyone he says he can get it in a kmart or whatever for a buck 95 but also when's the last time you went over someone's place and they took out a giant block of ice and picked at a rather than just getting a fucking 99 cent ice cube trey maybe new the cocktail mix apologised community maybe they do a lame ak now it's a nurse could do look a cartel basic instinct cross overly i'm ashshaab yes about by an ice pick measure would have to do that if you made this point today you would have to justify like oh he's really into artisanal cocktails like he'd have to have like rhubarb in his shell note um yeah he works at the cowboy bar he does lambda as sex on the beaches over that it's an ironic help way by iraq in speaking of bars yeah david let's say hypothetically man walked into a bar no no darnell i'm not hack okay you're e jokes on this podcast all homegrown bits moon let's head pathetically i got a friend okay hypothetical friends and that friend was cast to play a superhero based on the ground coal comic book which was then turned into it animated fox kid shut off meant my short a shortlived sitcom and the early 2000s right you're talking about perfumes at now let's get that acl friend of mine okay and a character was historically a little more rotund ahha and then the pilot came out people were illegal wars in this guy fat y your your skinny guy but i'm talking about tackling different yeah what's your hypothetical wish him and then that person gained lake eight or nine pounds in was.
"instinct" Discussed on Blank Check with Griffin & David
"Eighty and this is a mini series on the film's appalled for hoven in hollywood true this is sort of the midpoint right up until now all hits discontinue industry right yes uh meters katcher castres until they were talking about the movie basic instinct and our guest today era i miriam fail held yet hell yet is guess should introduce themselves all the time yeah it's winter interesting we're like oh they're great person i like thoughts their brain make we're very that introductions um if you like him caught that i happen it listen to the podcast lee leaf and so get ready applause and we'll we'll play some for ya okay let's give a hand we're back maria on the hour the entire backcatalog and she is not amused no she she left she asked to reschedule we worldwide there's a nogueras pod mir mira you're a very big for hope and fan i yeah that um uh yeah i i've i was sort of late to him i didn't he really become a big and until i saw this movie seven years ago or so i think before that i'd seen starship troopers which i really really like zan i'd seen um as attleboro showgirls which i was not as enthusiastic as some of my friends uh a bow rain then um i saw this and then i like his more recent oh no i saw actually assault there were two movie somewhere why unlike book larrocha and that's about ten years old with the spoils yet let me be eleven years old yeah i around there too and then on but i love his l his misery send i really totally left and i love is instinct i think it's like such a masterpiece their big they're probably the most twinned right liquor fell hadas yesterday in hollywood a genre one hundred hours.
"instinct" Discussed on Keith and the Girl Comedy Talk Show
"Is there a come out of you i will i was playing a republican and this is where i don't know uh sharon stone was asked if she ever i had a tough regarding sexual harassment where she when gene is being asked this how are we asking chance done anything somebody knocked on her door in federal way from a fall rounds real gates really yeah excuse me calder in asking you this question again and she turns around the here's flying their teeth white and a beautiful you're good search liras though i just want to talk to you she laughed and said i've been in this business for forty years can you imagine the business i stepped into forty years ago looking like i look from though where pennsylvania i didn't come here with any protection of seen at all she talked about her experience with basic instinct the famous film for the sultry scene where she crossed their legs on crosses them and you know she doesn't have any holier idea i'm sure the director asked her to remove her underwear but promised no nudity in the final cut for art is used for the performance she was furious when she realized heathen keep his word at can you take off your blouse first safety just won't be at eighth these were the crew we're not going to use it to see your car i want to hear the line so that you have works for you wait a meaning that tara fine gifts for all night and so the thing that everyone was talking about in that movie kazkah demo who was awful evan with cell intimate jesus christ all we were talking about his bush which finally i did not see sun enough that feels better or worse for sheringham sorry but that whole thing we were talking about was not consensual right the entire movie now haidar bush basically the movie itself as the oil thing anywhere lammers from a movie yes her bushmeat.