23 Burst results for "India Graham"
Interview With Jedidiah Jenkins
"I mean awesome to see you. And i was realizing that the full extent of our entire relationship is based on this. You know and yet we go seventy and then we always depart with grand designs on like hanging out all the time and then that never happens in. You accused me of living in dubai. Well that's true. yeah. I mean as an east cider making haider's it's just a lifestyle over there. I mean when you live this far out. Is it more of an understood burden that you're the one that goes or to your friends. One hundred percent. I mean the the consensus is you essentially live in santa barbara. And if you wanna see friends like you're the one who's going to have to make the effort more than them because it's such a schlep or you plan out a dinner party way in advance and right. There's not right but yeah exactly like good luck with that right now. So the sole extent of my social interaction like everybody is either on zoom or in the few rare and beautiful instances that i can cajole people like yourself to come here to have even distanced. Real human interaction is a treasure. So how do well. I'm a double extrovert seven. India graham seven full-on like not built for a isolated pandemic But living in los angeles to the degree. That i do. I feel very lucky that we live in a place with you can be outside. And there's so many places to hike and walk and i've been able to go on neighborhood walks with friends and things like that go to the beach and whatever it is even go camping out in the desert and that's been a lifesaver just to have something on the horizon your camping trip in a month for any seven. We're always looking to. We just need the next adventure in the calendar to like be able to exist today. Which is probably you live. You still live with roommates. Yeah you do so. You have a bubble of voting rights and styling never lived alone. I'm a full on. Grown adult man never lived alone. And i'm curious. I think if. I am uncoupled when i enter my forties. I have decided that. That's something i wanna do. Try living alone. Even though i it just feels like a performative gesture of experiment. Because i don't want to. I love my roommates. And i love coming home to their watching some show. I've never heard of or they're making some new cocktail that they saw on tiktok. And i'm like ooh what's that and then there's something happening which i enjoy the energy of that as opposed to coming home and then i'm home and then i'm like i wonder what my friends are doing right. I should reach out and then if they're busy than i'm like well i guess no one wants to hang out with me like i just can't see myself going through spiral. Well there's a weird sort of cultural negative pejorative veneer over the idea of an adult living by himself or herself and if you have roommates after a certain age frowned upon but were genetically engineered to live as a village in a community of people and my favorite you know some of my most favorite memories are being in a dorm or living in a group house. And can't we do that for our whole lives. Why is that why. Why would that be considered you know going awry as opposed to the preferred you know state of existence. I think and we've talked about this ad. Nauseam on this podcast. But i think i forget. I've i don't even remember what we talked about. Where growing up evangelical christian and then having my homosexuality like up route or like 'cause the deconstruction of an entire world through that. I was raised in in. This is how the world works. And then this one factor of my identity sort of like pulled the threat of the sweater and started to unravel the sturdiness of that world view. That has given me this like comfort in not doing what i'm supposed to do right like like being outside the paradigm. Yeah like you should be married by this age. You shouldn't live or should live with roommates. You should do this like i just have exercise. I've exercised that identity muscle been like well. That's not what i want to do. So i'm not going to do it
"india graham" Discussed on The High Vibe Tribe Podcast
"Association michael gobert at an incredible workshop on homer's odyssey and even in homer's odyssey there are nine islands that or visited each one of the islands that are visited. Are the the people of that island or direct representation representation of each of the nine any agreement. Types in exact or my. That's how far back it. Any graham goes even further back beyond that. But what's happening. As the as people are really seeing that the dynamics of it i mean even winnie the pooh the nine characters. Winning the pu the author winning poon never even knew of the program and yet all nine of the characters are the nine types that our personalities are expressed through the nineteen. It's amazing it's actually almost miraculous if you look at it but as any aggression evolves and it goes through time the more people that are paying attention to it at understanding it and investing in it are actually helping us to understand the dynamics of it when you look at the india graham. It's easy to see this nine point system in that you've got these nine types perfectionist the helper the the peacemaker the the control. You have all these. it seems very basic. But let me tell you to be honest. I graduated college with a four point now. I am a brilliant intellectual. This thing blows my mind. I am ever learning about it. I've been studying. The indian ran for twelve years and with a question it it continues to it continues to grow almost like the the like in astrology. The start that just continue. There's just always a different dynamic or a different triad for me to learn about study. That actually helps me have a deeper understanding of the structure of my personality and how it's experienced life and how it's expressing itself is so to be honest. It's probably the most intense and dynamic system of learning that that i've ever had the study alarm. It's it's it's not as simple as the pretty little diagram implies and yet from me. That diagram implied so much. First off in it is sacred geometry right so you have the intersect of all of that and being the number nine on a spiritual level..
"india graham" Discussed on For the Love with Jen Hatmaker Podcast
"I'm GonNa Talk to you for a minute about. How the India Graham is able to service in our relationships. I know you know you and I've talked about this a million times, but. It's so useful as a tool, not just for kind of self, identification and growth, but marriage and in parenting, and so I wonder if you could talk for a minute about Brian, and what is his number? How does your nine this show up inside your marriage attached to the person that you married, and even with your kids, and of course they're younger and they're still developing growing, but. But, we have a beat on our own kids. How does being a nine effect? A mom to I'd like to just hear you talk about how the shows up in your home. I feel like that is probably one of the greatest gifts of the Graham Hasbeen in my relationships with other people, not only in you know even within your immediate family, but even in the sense of like. Boy just gives you such compassion. For people right and such an understanding of where things are have someone I love in my life. WHO's a one and when I realized the depth of the inner criticism that that person was living with I wept. And it just so tender so tender towards ones. And so Brian's three and. Maybe, that's why you and I get along so well. I'm not. Scandalous. Do Triad is one of the aspects of the program that can be a little bit confusing for people. It means that you've got your own numbers so for me as a nine, and then you've got one number you move towards when you're feeling healthy and strong and for me. That's a three I went I'm feeling healthy and strong. I'm engaged I'm achieving things done. A lot of people from the outside can look at my life and think I'm a three. Totally and then on the other side. You have another number that you'd go towards which for me is six. which is your path of what they called disintegration? This is what you look like when you're not doing so great and you take on the worst characteristics. So, it's a bit fun energy when I say five my terrible because. GOT A Wrong I. Look like my husband and when he's a mass, he looks more like me. Is Right that's right,.
"india graham" Discussed on Adulting Like A Mother Father
"Your speaking our language and last question because I'm also curious you have a little one right. Yeah two how old he is. Eight years old eight years old. All how sweet is you? You have a lot more years under your belt but you look like a baby. I'M NOT GONNA lie watching your fresh as a daisy. Well so I he's my stepson. But I'm actually older than my husband by four years. And so he's actually like they had him when he they were really young but Hong Kong. I've been in his license. He was teeny tiny so he does not like for me to call him stepson but not special awesome. That okay one last question. Because that's what I do. I always interject one more interesting. I knew he'd be. You have all sorts of really cool information on your instagram. Which people can find in two seconds ramming where can they go for like juiciest stuff So there's kind of two fold the podcast is like where you WANNA go. A level deeper If you WANNA really get like detailed information and then I have a book called the honest India Graham which walks through my process for. How do we work with our number but all written from a place of deep self compassion? Kindness I think a lot of times when we go into this work we can start a real self shaming journey And my hope is that the book creates a away to grow with with also enhancing your love for the process in yourself. That's awesome and I love the way you break things down like you do a really good job like I said of curated content. That's digestible in for someone. Who may not know anything about the NEA? Graham can just top tier instagram. Get a little taste of it and then instantly feels like. You'RE INTRIGUED IN ONE. A diamond earth. It's cool that you have all these other avenues. I think yeah I think I want to be a gateway like I want that instagram to be like this entry point where it feels accessible and fun in inviting into kind of the deeper good work of any grim yeah awesome. Well thank you so much Sarah Jane. We really enjoyed chatting with you. Just a heads up for listeners. I just subscribe to the podcast so hopefully everyone else will too. Yeah and thank you again for just being so insightful. In helping us. Open up a little bit more about this. Sure as soon as we sign a whole the extent some homework. Thank you so much for having fun. Of course have a good one. I don't go anywhere. We'll be right back in.
"india graham" Discussed on From Silence Something To Say
"I return often during the season of lent to this wonderful tool that helps to see the truth. The India Graham. It's a sacred map that helps identify our unconscious and subconscious motivations it's circles around nine principal types of human nature and your India Graham number reveals your path of transformation and healing and it also reveals your path of disintegration when you're not living an attentive life that's what contemporary prayer does it. Dismantles are unconscious compulsions for power and affection and esteem and allows the Holy Spirit to flow more freely through US and to help us heal our loved ones and our community. But I want to leave you with this. One thought always remember this one thought from the teaching of Jesus in his most powerful story the parable of the Prodigal son. We learned that this son who demanded his inheritance and went off and lived it A life of complete a disarray and spending all of his money and worthless pursuits and the father longing for his son to return in that image. It's important to realize that that product child was always a son of his father. It never changed. It's just that he was completely unaware of the gifts and the healing and the power and the beauty and wonder of his relationship with his father and the son in the parable. Who was the dutiful son? Always working hard and wouldn't enter into the celebration and God. The father says to him my son everything I have is already yours. Both of the sons were prodigal in their own way but they were always the children of their father. I find this a reframing of lent to see it as about paying attention and removing the blinders of our illusory life and self fulfillment in order to feast on the life that is already ours in Jesus thus to say that God turns away from the sinful is like saying that the sun hides itself from the blind. I hope that you are encouraged to explore the season of lent. Perhaps maybe it would require a digital minimalism. Maybe it's time to pull back from social media. That's one thing that I'm going to do this lent. I'll be using it very minimally. And then I want to expand and enlarge my experience of creation. The creation is where I see. Got It work as well. Just to walk. Justice spend time looking at the water flowing through a wonderful lake. Laura the ocean or in the sky just spending time quietly alone. In God's creation can bring such restoration to our soul so during the season of land. Let's live at out. Let's become present to ourselves by creating space in our hearts to see know who we truly are. In God. To find practical ways we can claim and reclaim our true identity in God and to cultivate an inward presence an attentiveness to God and solitude and silence.
Gaining Financial Dignity with Stacey Flowers
"What I would love to know. Because I'll tell you how I discovered you but I I think it would be no. I'll just say how I discovered you because I think it was an act of God. I always feel like the universe conspires to make things come together. I was watching a youtube video about. I don't even remember what. And then you know how youtube serves up little tiny videos on the side. I saw your head talk and clicked on it and literally within twenty minutes of senior Tedtalk. I had creeped on everything about you online. I had sent you a DM on instagram. And ask you to speak at Rice. And the reason I tell that story for you but also to our listeners is I think that women struggle so much with putting themselves out there and wanting to show off their work or acknowledging it and if you hadn't put that video on your youtube we wouldn't be having this conversation so it's super super important to talk so much about power to stand in your own power but I'm gonNA assume that your origin story is did not start from the place that you are now. So will you tell listeners who you are and what you do and kind of the story of how you got to where you are absolutely so what? I tell people in the morning when I do. My show is that my name is stacey flowers real last name because nobody believes me and I make a living through talking. Just like Oprah I do it from the stage and from the sage I talk about happiness empower also. Do It via coaching with me. Coaching women to be more amazing than I do. Avia influencing and that's kind of weird sort of our story intersected with you finding the Tedtalk and then finding other content so on the influencing side on Youtube I've been documenting restoring my financial journey after like this big huge monumental public failure in my company Started with me making about eight hundred dollars a month working part time at cafe to now earning about ten K. A month net working part time in my company and the like to kind of give people that background because it gives you the scope of like how I am as a person in terms of the work that I'm putting out but I think the other thing that's really going on in my life right now. That gives a little bit. More of the backstory is that I'm a mom of nearly eighteen year old human being which feel crazy when you ever seen. Stacy you need to go. Look at her instagram right. Now you will not believe. It's possible that she has an eighteen year old yet like I I know it I see it. I barely believe in so like I'm in full blown like empty nest syndrome slash. How is my child almost like legally able to Mary and another another? He wants to like it. Just it doesn't make any sense. Oh I'm in this very interesting space right now in my company and in my personal life with regards to those two things being there and then the last thing that I love for people to know is that I'm an eight because the deeper we dive into on the Graham. I don't know if you do any Graham. I think are talked about the queen of India. Graham it is our favorite conversation here at the office and I feel like when you know. Someone's number you're like okay. We Are you an eight seven. You gotta be an eight. Yes eight seven. Yeah Yeah. I'm an eight seven but I like to tell people that because before I knew that I was in eight like I really didn't have a framework to sort of organize a lot of my experiences. That led up to this moment but the minute. I took it I was like what? Yeah now my life makes sense to me. So it's been it's been really exciting so that's kind of a little bit about who? I am now and like the work that I do now. It's super interesting about that too is that. I don't know a lot of women who are eights who will confidently claim that number. And if you don't if y'all know what we were speaking in a language right now if you please a I feel like I've talked about ten million times. You can go google it but if you understand any Graham you understand. The eight is the challenger which oftentimes gets a bad rap but also the eight is a world changer. Mother Theresa wasn't a Martin Luther King. Junior was a there are so many powerful AIDS but not a lot of women. Of course your your whole thing is about power. Not a lot of women will own that. What was that journey like for you? Where you immediately like. Hell yes or did it take you a moment kind of come to terms with it. It took me a moment to cut so privately. I was like yes I know. Why why him? But it was a very private thing because then I was like Oh my God like all of the things that I thought as a kid. They're true and like now people like people are going to know and so it took me a little bit but like what I like about. The Graham is a gives you like the range of how you how you are when you're at your best and then how you are when you're under stress. And so when I looked at it I was just like you know stacey all of these years that you've been trying to pretend that you're not an eight this is what's making it hard for you like this is what's making people have a bad reaction to you being a woman who is as powerful as you actually are. What would happen if you just Kinda show up in your full eight minutes likes what would happen if you did that. And honestly that's sort of like what happened from with my tedtalk going out like that happened before I had my big fall and so it's just like that was already out there so when I started documenting my financial journey which was really hard because it was such a contrast to the experience doing a tedtalk and traveling around the world. It was like I have these two really contracting experiences. But I'm like if I'm going to talk about it I'm GonNa talk about it completely in that directly came from me wanting to own my Eytan and being like even in this space where I'm starting over at the bottom. I'm still just as powerful as I was when I was standing onstage delivering that Tedtalk and since making that decision has been just like the best thing ever. That's why I always like to mention it because it's just like when you know that at the core this is who you are it's like why would you why fight it like why. Why rail against it anymore in the more and more of embraced it. The more opportunities like rise have shown up that I've been able to say yes absolutely I will surely come to your stage and do my thing like versus me being like. Oh pick me choose me. It's like I don't have that sort of thing happening in my life is much anymore. It's more people are noticing me and they're like Oh and I'm like yeah been here like but it's like the reason you didn't know because I was afraid to really embrace the nature of it because as you said most women are not aids and if they are as it's not it's not an easy thing to do because people automatically assume that we're GONNA be like this aggressive like zero tolerance type personalities. Just like no. I'm all woman. I'm just a different type of woman with a whole lot of
"india graham" Discussed on Relevant Podcast
"So moved they should write a song called bubby for a long time about everybody who's ever who's ever tried to get her down. BG podcast you heard be four before by ginger root all right it's time for our weekly look back at the top five stories at the intersection of faith and culture. That happened this week. It's time for it's it's yeah and real quick. I want to tell you that this week's hatless is brought to you by our church leadership your ship podcast called called. We just launched season two. It's off to an incredible start. Listen if you are in church leadership if you ha- if you know someone in Church leadership or honestly if you just go to a church and want to have a greater perspective on what it takes to be an effective leader. This is an incredible podcast and we are are so fortunate to have so many interesting and diverse voices that are involved in different capacities of the church speaking into these episodes episodes and so just for kind of preview of what people are in for when they when they download called we've had episodes. We've had various Daniels on talking talking about protecting marriages in ministry. We've had John Mark homer on talking about soul care and the importance of you know mental health for people in Ministry. We've had banning Liebscher talk about the art of the sermon Kim Walker Smith Talking about worship in the church. Reverend and Samuel Rodriguez talking about ideas about. How can you effectively talk about politics from the pulpit? You know even the the most recent episode that is out now Beth Cunningham who runs one of the largest church Y largest children's ministries in the world for Church of the Highlands in Alabama Obama talks. About why the future of the Church really depends on people starting to care more about children's ministry. Most Christians came to their faith eighth when they were child and a large percentage of those who are led to Christ by someone at a children's ministry. So you know. The implications of some of these issues are huge not just for pastors not just for leaders match us for people who want to hear about church innovation for people like Bobby Green Wall or how the India Graham can make us better leaders by I you know with Beth mcchord issues that have to do with the individual leaders and the church we are covering it all. We just kicked off season to go check. Check it out if you are in church. Leadership are friends with someone who are and are looking for. Its each episode's under an hour and we try to really pack it out with a lot of interesting invoices in perspective. It is called called. You can get it wherever you get your podcast so there is onto the hot list. Tyler what do we got today man. Oh man number five this week Taylor. Swift disgust. Would maybe say even maybe dragged politicians who co opt spaeth and her new netflix documentary. So Taylor Swift. She is a singer. Songwriter.
"india graham" Discussed on Living Fully with Mallory Ervin
"You literally pour water into Plastic Cup that has an energy doing printed on the bottom basically. It sounds amazing. You have to try it the Smart Cups Dot Com into the code twenty four discount so I want to introduce ourselves because is she's really something in this space and I'm feeling you know super lucky to have her on this podcast today so meth I'll just let you go with all your stats here by friends. uh-huh yeah thanks for having me. I'm so excited so as you said. I'm Beth mcchord and I have been married to Jeff for twenty years. We have two kids. Nineteen and twenty. One live outside of Nashville Tennessee. And I have been using the in Iran for the last twenty years and I have professionally. been doing your instagram coach. which is the business as we own for the last three and a half years and so we instagram account too? I WanNa make sure that we asked out. Yes and this last year has actually been a really big a year we will by the end of December have released ten bucks this year. One is a marriage book called becoming us and then emme have nine other books in a grand collection which is one for each of the nine personnel types in a deep dive into their personality type in a journal like format. So there's twenty one days to learn about your type Ed. We released other courses and things like that through your any grim coach Dot Com. But yeah we're just trying to get out as much information as we can. You are succeeding at bad. Yeah and so this is just fear in. It's just a popular topic right now. So we're excited the to get all that stuff which is cool. Because then I'm going to have you tell a little bit about your story. Maybe in a minute but you know a dove into your content and add learned earned that you have been doing this for fifteen years talking about the program in my right in that number. Yeah I mean I've been studying for twenty but yet I mean as an active approach. Yeah yes so the instagram just me and I'm in this this space as like an influencer on personality where I hear what people are talking about and last year all everybody was talking about was the instagram. And funny how you know I am in the self also help the type of space. Everyone is wanting to better their lives. And you know my whole brand is called living fully and to live fully that that is truly my passion and the reason that I wanted to do this podcast. I was think of the so many personality tests out there and the you know I can remember. I'm sure you CANTU. How many times do we take? The Myers Briggs. How many times do you take all of these tests that tell you who you are? Here's the job you're supposed to have. I can still like remember her back in high school and Grade School be like coming home and saying this is what I'm supposed to be mom labels people in a way. I love the Ideogram because it tells us why we do the things we do while we react the way that we do and I want you to just explain in general because I know approach there are some people that are going to be listening to this podcast today. Who are like what the heck are you talking about? What is that word? As even what isn't any any a Graham. Is it a food test. Is it a book. So can you tell us you know in a very basic terms. What what is the India Graham and then I would love to go into the nine types that like after we talk about the Ingraham what they are as well so absolutely yes? So the interim India Graham am is Greek. India means nine in Grameen's drawing and I know that your listeners can't see it but if they were to seat assemble it's nine pointed star and it represents since the nine basic personnel types and actually it really shows you the nine valid perspectives. That we see the world so you are different personality than I am. And it's like you're wearing glasses. I'm wearing purple glasses analogy. It is so good because when we go through life we think everyone sees the the same way we do so we get annoyed by them or hurt or agitated. S- acquire they doing that. Or what did they think that. Why did they say that? And because we think that they should our way yeah and so we get any relationship either spats or disagreements frustrations but if we realize as you see the world completely differently than I do or you get tripped up differently or you have strengths. That are maybe my weaknesses or vice versa. In what the interim helps us to one at first helps us to understand why we think feel and behave in particular ways but it also helps us to have compassion empathy understanding Understanding Grace Mercy love and forgiveness towards others antlers. Yes really impactful because now I can go oh you you reacted to that this way. Because that's how you see the world that's how you react to the world nuts because everyone can go do whatever they want. Obviously we want to relate relate well to one another and we don't want excuse being bad behavior or bad relationship styles. It's not a way to excuse ourselves like well. I'm just title nine. That's nice. That doesn't help relationships. We're not trying to use it as a shield or a sword and I care for it. Oh Gosh you explain. You're doing for twenty years on show you really the white lines content but you I love you want to be very careful how we use uses. 'cause this is the most exposed you're ever going to be is kind of like one of those nightmares and you wake up and you have a final that you go to school and you don't have pants on. Yes very well at that nightmare. That is kind of how the interim is it really reveals your highs your strengths and your lows Score non-judgmental trend. That's just going to say it like it is and that can be really cool when you're looking at the strengths. But it can be super hard. Is You feel very exposed when your weaknesses are laid before everyone Lau. Yeah Yeah we WANNA use it very carefully with others. We don't WanNa be little scolds old sarcasm harm. Be Too blunt too harsh when I use it as a way to understand each other to have empathy grace compassion love mercy see in new and fresh ways and we can only add that when we know ourselves better well when we get to know the other personality styles but are as well and the challenges so ads wrote if you just think about the instagram as an internal GPS so you have your current location. which is your main in a grim type? In the reason why I say your main type is because we use all nine types to varying degrees but you have what reigned supreme and that your main types. Such a current location location now. Each personnel type has a desired destination. which is being your healthiest true self right and then there are many times? It's just me though. I know as a coach. It's not that we veer off course and we'd recalculate to get back. On course what happens. Is We fall into entity same common pitfalls time and time again and I'm sure your listeners. Understand that could probably spout out five or six common pitfalls that they get frustrated with like why I am a here again. Yes doing this yet. Why do I get in the same fight with so and so all the time and and the immigrants could explain why what's going on but what's also really cool about the program is it's also like a rumble strip on the highway? You know when you're falling asleep at the wheel or hopefully you're not but texting or anything that distracts you you'll veer off course and land into the cockpit ball the rumble strip wakes you up before before that happens now. If you're not even paying attention to the rumble strip you are going to veer off course. Hopefully you are aware enough now to go all away that signals that I better be careful and get back on track as that is what the integrates do. It's going to let you know as you start to veer off of course like for me as a tight nine. There are certain things that I will start to do. One is over accommodating to people are trying to make everybody happy with the type nine is yet. I'm a peaceful mediator. Okay and yet and we're going to go through all that in a second but I hate conflict. I just like tension or discord of any kind. I just want peace and harmony. I WanNa make sure everyone is happy. Well on one side. That's really awesome. A noble and good. Yes the same time that can be harmful right when you avoid conflict you actually create complex but yeah so i. We've had to learn when I over accommodate and merged with others and lose myself. That is not helpful to me or others. Yes so win win that starts to happen. There are certain things I've noticed that are like a rumble strip and I can either ignore it and fall into that same pitfall or it can become become aware and go wait. I'm accommodating too much emerging with someone else's likes and desires and forgetting myself then Decide to come back into a healthier path and say well it's good to be accommodating but I also need to voice. My desires and passions does well equal rights. I love that. You're giving sorry to interrupt. I love that you give these amazing tools. The India is such a tool a tool to live. Yes your life better and I think a lot of people they see these types of things as Hocus pocus like. Oh what do you mean a test is going to tell me the type of the person that I am but man when I took this test it was so dead on for me in certain parts and and the thing that I might note to from what I've have read about the India is there is a good version. There's a bad version of not good and bad but there's a healthy version of your number and there's an unhealthy version and so you're talking about like all of these tools when you're on your way to the unhealthy version of your number. Here's your rebels trip. I love how you say everything and how you've been explaining it. I I love this so much that so my husband was waiting to come on at the end but I just sent him a message cal. This is so good you have to come in here. Ah That's awesome. So he's just now getting on right now where he contributes at the end. But but yes I love how you just just put that in and how you can really utilize this as an amazing tool to to live your life. Well it seems like the can be used in parenting in career ingredients in relationships relationships. All of these things that you talk about in your content and I'm just so excited to dive into those today so before we get started. Can you briefly mention Kevin about if you were finished just while ago. I'm sorry 'cause I interrupted 'cause I got so excited you had no. That was great. I think people got a good just of you. You know edits basis core. The Ingram is as an internal. GPS A rumble strip and it's also like a flashlight. Illuminates your heart condition. Are you healthy the average or unhealthy. It you don't want to use it to condemn yourself that will only make you. You know spiral even further down. Now we as humans naturally naturally go there but part of growing maturity is recognizing that we can see our weakness and frailty and just oh and then just grow from from that place. Now what I want just kind of like throw out there ahead of everything is so that if people come to your in a grim coach dot com or by my books which of course I would love I I want them to know ahead of time and I lead from a Christian perspective which about yeah..
"india graham" Discussed on Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey
"Especially if you are waiting for marriage just gets harder and harder the closer you get to your wedding to not have sex. If that's what you're trying to do so the longer of engagement that you have the more difficult that is I think. If you know that you're gonNA marry someone of the quicker. The better the shorter the engagement. The better it's my personal opinion on that the Bible designed you know specifically say how long your engagement have to be but I would save if your priority is sexual purity. Then you should just try to get married as long as you know you know. That's the person that you want to marry is it wrong is an interesting interesting question. Is it wrong to pray. That the Lord Steer Man's heart to like me or is that weird. Well I know what you're saying and I understand that feeling so much I'm not. I can't say it's necessarily sin to ask to change. Someone's I would but what I would do is I would evaluate your own heart art and I would ask yourself. Why are you idolizing? This person that you believe I'm guessing you believe is your source of happiness or your source of intimidate in satisfaction of this person does not want you. And you find yourself fixated on them then. That is probably an issue. That's going on in your own heart. His heart that you need to bring to the Lord my recommendation would be to pray that God satisfies you with with himself that he gives you wisdom and discernment that he gives you the strength to be able to prioritize him above anyone else and that you would work and this is hard and I say this as someone who has been there like. We've all been that person who has been in the situation of unrequited love where you want someone to like you or I want you. Who Does it so I get it? The best thing that you can do in that situation is to not fixate on them to not obsess over them into not wonder what they're doing not constantly check their instagram stories or see. If they've looked at yours I would. I would recommend that you not do those things and that you focus not on what's going on in their heart but what's going on in your heart. Why do you feel like this person is your source of happiness? Why do you feel like this person is the source of your satisfaction? And and why are you spending all your time on someone who doesn't right now. Does it want you if that person is the one for you. I promise a sovereign God is not going to is not going to change or waiver based on whether or not you pray for that person. It's hard to be changed. God is in control. You can trust. Not He works all things together for the good of those who love him. That does not mean that we get everything that we think that we want. That means that all things work together for his glory in our ultimate make good. That is the privilege in the freedom that we have is Christians. What do you think about Christians doing yoga so I really want to do a whole episode? This is my last question. Oh by the way I really want to do a whole episode on this. Because I'll be honest with you. It's not something I ever thought about. I never thought about whether are not as biblical to do yoga. I mean I did yoga when I was pregnant. I never thought about it and then I started getting messages and emails comments asking asking me why I think it's okay to do yoga and so it's something that I've been thinking about something that I've been reading about and studying and I don't want to give away too much of my answer before I am finished looking through all this stuff but gosh there's so many things I've been wrong on in the past and so I am not afraid to say whenever this episode does come out if this is the case that I was totally wrong on it. I understand the concerns because it's part of this new age phenomenon nominee that's going on with crystals and healing in healing altars and basically self worship. It's total idolatry and yoga is part of this kind of eastern mysticism thing. We talked about it a little bit. We talked about India Graham that India Graham is a part of that as well. I didn't episode titled Title Personality Tests. You can go back and listen to that from a few weeks ago and so I totally see how. Yoga is a part of that whole system. Now now it's a little bit difficult for me. It seems a little absurd to say that yoga is not okay but pilates is okay because when it comes down to it yes you can say the whole thing about yoga meditation and all of that is is is wrong and something. That Christians shouldn't do not that meditation. In general or meditating on God's word obviously that's good but all the stuff that comes with the healing magic power that in herself that she all of that comes with Yoga. I definitely see how that is this kind of weird mystical thing. But it's hard for me to see how just like the physical positions editions of doing. Yoga is any different than doing pilates. Just because it's called Yoga. Does that make sense. Like doesn't it seem a little little bit legalistic and I'm not one to use that term very often because people applied legalistic ted. Too many things but doesn't seem a little bit realistic to say okay. I can get in a lunch but I can't call it warrior. One seems a little weird so like I said I'm thinking through it. I want to come at this from a AH biblical perspective. That doesn't just attach. I'm not just trying to attach myself to either side is saying I'm really trying to be thoughtful about it to be nuanced if you will. It's in other words that I hate anyway. That's all I have time for love. You guys happy Friday. I hope that you have a wonderful weekend. I will be back here on Monday to talk about animals yeah..
The Heart Triad Profile Types 2, 3 and 4
"Chelsea in our first episode with you introduced our podcast broadcast listeners to the program you talked about its origin and explained its true purpose and Wyatt test like this serves as an important tool in workplace in the next episode episode forty three we really looked at the first set of profiles types eight nine and one which you call the Gut or anger triad bad and why understanding this first set of numbers personality types really matters in the workplace and for those listeners just tuning in I highly encourage urge you to go back and listen to these first two episodes to gain some framing and context around what we'll be talking about today. Let's go ahead and pick up right where we left left off with you and move onto the next set of profiles. This would be any grand profile types two three and four what are they and why are they grouped together and why why are they referred to as the heart triad yes so the heart. Tran- two three and four these personality types are known to be social or you're emotionally minded individuals and they all express this or manifest this in different ways as they relate to one another these numbers are known to show the most compassion and they're also known to show the most emotion again in different ways. These personality analogy type sees people are working from the heart but they're doing it in three distinct ways so let's break each one of them down. Can you talk about the twos as leaders and how understanding this profile type could be helpful to leaders in the workplace twos. Are I call the helpers bear barrier leaders that are empathetic. They are people oriented. They are sensitive to the needs of others and they have a lot of feelings to feel big and so we're talking about the heart triad or the feelings links triad to the people on the India Graham where feelings often times can run their decisions and run their actions so they need to be very aware of this. They are charming Bayer kind. They really want people to like them so if they they do not understand this about themselves or in the unhealthier levels of their number they can become people pleasers and they can actually let people people walk all over them so one of the things that I work with specifically for leaders with twos is understanding this about themselves and how they can be the l little bit more directives while also being kind and warm and compassionate because those are also things within their personality really good in the last episode you can you explain to us that there are healthy and unhealthy aspects of each personality type of recap or contrast. If you will healthy versus unhealthy for for two healthy twos are going to use their warmth and their empathy and their people skills to empower a team to be aware of the relationships with on a team these people are very relational and when they are in the healthier the're parts of their to their team is going to have a healthy relationship among themselves. When a two is not healthy they are going to be really concerned about being liked and they are going to do whatever they need to do to have the team like them instead of really coming from what the team needs and so it becomes them focused instead of team focused? If that makes sense yes it. It does Chelsea if a manager has a two on their team. What is the best way to support that team member. What is it that they need from. A leader appeared to be as successful as possible. Yeah good question twos are relational and so if you are more technical person or a more more logical person if you have to on your team it is good to get in touch with the relational sides of yourself and knowing that twos respond to warmth breath and they respond to relational interactions and so maybe like a good example would be if you have to on your team when you walk up to their desk instead of just the jumping into business and listing off everything you need from them or all the line items that you need them to perform to walk up and say hey. How was your weekend. Give them a couple of minutes to kind of express that ask them some questions. Maybe about their family or about what they do and then jump into business you kind of met the needs needs the relational part and the two is going to be more open to what you're needing from them. So I'm going to jump back to the previous episode. When we were talking about the bates nine ones and the ones being more structured and life is more black and white you might not WanNa start the conversation with a one that way? Would that be accurate. Yeah I think that would be a an accurate thing to say with ones because they are detail oriented a like getting down to business walking up to a wine and saying hey jumping right into work that is probably going to be warm for them and it's direct. They know where it's going. This is the part Arta the NFL Graham that I like so much. It just brings out the the rich tapestry if you will of how different people relate and are motivated and what resonates it's with them and this is also a part of what we refer to it. He three solutions is just the growing complexity for managers to be successful is to start to understand understand these different needs of individual employees and to be multi variant and the way that they interact with employees in a way that is gonNa feel more attuned to the needs of the individual actual team members so that was the twos take us into the threes. Yes the three. He's one of the ways that I always liked talking about threes specifically when talking to anyone in corporate is America is three that is a great way to start framing. How what three characteristics are they are. The performer former there the achiever kind of think about the American dream. They liked to create an image of his success. That's very important to them and and they do this through working hard and they aim at doing the best job possible they can do the three things that threes value you are efficiency effectiveness and quickness they move fast and they wanna get the job done as quickly and it's collective as they can so they can get onto the next task. I've heard maybe this would be an example of an unhealthy side of of a three that that threes also can put work ahead of family that is they. They really are focused on work and achievement. Is that accurate. Did I get that right. One hundred percent threes threes can really be known as workaholics and so one of the big things that I work with threes because they are so achievement in action oriented is is held to practice self care and how to have balance in their life because when threes are pumping out results and they're moving up on the corporate ladder or within their company or whatever they deem success as that is where they get a lot of their self esteem from and so in other areas of their life it may not come across says results oriented and so they can put way more energy into their work environment
"india graham" Discussed on Elevation Church Podcast
"Better better. Don't let the quest for better in your life. Make you miss the grace of God. That is already present. I'm preaching to every India Graham one right right now. It can always be better but it already is look what I deserve and look what he did. He did not treat me as my sins deserve. It's already better. I'M GONNA walk around saying that all week. It's already better it's already. I'm going to declare it by faith on things that I'm waiting waiting for God to do. It's already better. It's already better. It's already better. It's already better because once you give up the hope that it can never be better. The the only option is to go back and yet I'm so interested in how this writer Constructs Argument Uh better better he starts the whole book of Hebrews Talking About Jesus Christ in his glory sorry and and and he doesn't give an introduction. He just gets right to business. He grabs the Mike starts talking about long ago. At many times in many ways God spoke to our fathers by the prophets. He's going backwards. He's giving them what so many of us desperately need in our lives a frame of reference you know when the devil starts speaking to you you lose all sense of where you really are in your life and you lose all sense. You're you're drifting now. You're falling now. Now you forget how good graces because all you can think about is how bad you are so he brings them all the way back he reminds it all the way back and he says long long ago in various times various ways. God spoke through our fathers. The prophets give me the next verse but in these last days he has spoken spoken to us by his son now he's beginning to construct the argument cry tone. Everybody say CRI- Tone Not Croutons but I'm GONNA help you remember it cry tone better. He's going to introduce that word for the first of thirteen times in this epistle letter declaration that he said I'm convinced of better things concerning you well. How do you know you don't know me like that you. You don't know what's going on in my life. You don't know what I'm actually dealing with your up here. Preaching all this stuff you don't know my mom is sick and in a nursing home and I can barely afford to pay for and hadn't been to visit her but once this year you don't know governor talking about better well. The writer of Hebrew says let's go back long ago. In various ways and at various times God odd spoke through the prophets but now in these last days he has spoken to us by his son whom he appointed heir of all things somebody say better come come on any full participation on every location say better. Jesus is.
Understanding Enneagram Personality Types
"As our regular listeners know over the past few weeks. We've been talking with subject matter. Experts one on one about critical workplace challenges returning from last week is our guest Chelsea sergeant a licensed professional professional counselor and certified specialist in the NEA Graham a two thousand year old personality examination Chelsea is here via phone to continue or discussion around the program as we take a closer look at the specific personality profile types that make up the assessment welcome back Chelsea. It's great to be with you once again as not pleasure to be here Chelsea last week our podcast listeners were introduced to the India Graham at a broad odd based level and we heard about its origin and its significance both individually and in the workplace this week we have an opportunity to dive into three specific vic types and why I understanding these profiles matter Chelsea. Can you help recap briefly for our listeners who are just tuning in how you determine. I'm in your India Graham number or type and what are the first three any agreement types that we should focus on and why is this order significant absolutely the Graham like I described in the last episode is a two thousand year old personality examination and it is composed of nine different types or numbers or profiles you will hear me use all three of those words interchangeably throughout you talking about the Graham and to discover your any gram tight it really just begins with understanding and discovering what the neograft is and whenever I do trainings trainings are start exposing people to this personality assessment I always begin by talking about all the numbers and the number that I begin with is eight and I will focus in on what we call the the first triad which is the Gut Triad or the anger triad these numbers I which is eight nine and one which are the numbers that we're going to focus on today all of these numbers feel things in their body and they do this in different ways they also have easily accessible anger and they manifest this in different ways and this'll be explained along away as we we talk about eight one and nine. We're going to get into these three. I just have a general question here. Just for listeners you mentioned a triad how many triads are they and what is their significance. There are three triads on the program. The first one which is composed of eight nine nine and one is the Gut Triad or the anger triad and these people feel things in their body when they are making decisions or trying to come. I'm to conclusions on things the second triad which is the two three and the four this is the heart triad or the feelings triad and and these numbers feel things deeply they make decisions or come to conclusions through feelings and they each do this in different ways. We'll talk about that further when we get to those numbers and then the thinking triad which is composed of five six and seven they come hunting collusions or used thought or their head to make decisions and view the world through the lens of thinking. Let's come back then to this the gutter anger triad as you described it and let's break each of these down each of the three numbers in the trial down. Can you talk about the agents as leaders and how understanding understanding this profile type might be useful or significant in the workplace absolutely the eights are known as the Challenger they are the big thinkers in the room. They can make things happen they have tons and tons of energy and they're very decisive. They are motivated by being strong wrong and they do not want to be controlled. Many eights will tell you that's probably one of the worst things that can happen to them. Specifically in the workplace is feeling like they are being controlled. They move things forward with Gusto they overcome issues quickly and they do not mind challenging challenging authority you call them the challenges and I think that's that's a wonderful frame. Sometimes they feel to me like contrarians yes yes they can again because they are so direct because they have so much energy and because they do not mind coming up against authority. They can definitely GonNa Cross that way. Yeah is this also the type there when people in the room that feel that they are smarter or they know more or they just always have to add their own little bit of commentary on something. They just can't seem to let something go yeah they can also come across aggressive because they sometimes at a hard time letting things go or they have a powerful voice and take up a lot of energy in the room definitely come across in those ways they're also what people it calls specifically in the workplace pretty powerful leaders in our Western business culture a lot of CEO's at the highest levels rates. They're they're both really appreciate their directness. There's thousands of books imprint on leadership very few books on followership. Does this kind of a powerful leader. Is this someone that employs would want to follow. They find that compelling. That's a really good question. I think eight in a healthy sense absolutely louis because they are quick fingers because they move things forward in a timely fashion people wanna get behind them because as the trains moving fast and it is moving forward in a direction that is usually appealing to people when age are not healthy they can come across as aggressive S.'s they can come across as overpowering they can come across as intimidating which may make people feel scared working underneath them and or not seen working underneath them because eight moves so quickly so interesting and I'm assuming then that there are healthy and unhealthy expressions expressions of each type absolutely you'll hear me say a lot people living into the healthier parts of their personality or the unhealthy parts of their personality personality and another word I always use is having self awareness and so it's being self aware of how much energy they take up a room how much energy they have and being self aware that that this is not how everyone functions is there a disadvantage here. YOU'RE A gender based disadvantage for women if they are innate such a good question male eights are often praised and encouraged inuit workplace and I have found females come in and see me specifically win bear in the CEO positions or in higher levels of management they they have a lot of wounded nece about their more aggressive personality stance within the workplace and they have been told over years they need to calm down or back-off back-off or that. They're too much or as their male counterparts. Those personality traits of themselves are really praised and so they feel like they're having to walk a fine line of being who they really are and using that powerful energy and then not coming across too aggressive is it that there are unhealthy characteristics characteristics of each trait or is it an individual who might be an eight or any other number who lacks the self awareness of their impact on others so that their a personality type feels unhealthy in its expression yeah. I think it's the latter of what you just mentioned again. Self awareness is key in this and so you knowing about yourself and how you're coming across and what you bring to the room into the table and so not all personality types are GonNa going to respond well to bluntness or to you powerfully expressing your feelings and it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to morph into a different person when you walk walk into a room but it does mean that you having a good understanding that not all people are gonNA respond well to that and that you can bring up different parts of yourself to harness in some of the energy or put that energy into healthy ways when weeding teen okay. Let's talk about nine as leaders and how understanding this profile type might be critical for people in the workplace to understand yes so nines. It's it's a fascinating native transition between eight hundred nine whereas eight when they come into the room they bring all the energy and have the most energy on the nine's had the least energy energy on the program they are known as the Peacemakers Bay value harmony and want to avoid conflict at all costs they often often talk about feeling overlooked or feeling like they don't matter they value things working well and going smoothly and do not like drawing attention attention to themselves nine very much go with the flow and they are very easy to get along with so nines that our leaders one of the things that I often hear from people who are being led by nines is that it's easy to relate to and talk to the nine they are inviting. They at times are are or appear to be good listeners and they're just really easy to get along with their enjoyable to to have conversations with and have relationships with but there's a downside
How to Create and Launch a Mini-Course
"We are diving into the nitty Caridi the tangible how to create and launch a mini digital course with my friend amy reporter fields. Hey girl so happy to be here. Happy you too. Have you okay. We're GONNA dive back in because at this point. My audience knows you. They love you. They've signed up for your training so there's really nothing else for them to do but to sit back relax and learn from the master so I explained to me exactly what you mean. When you say a mini digital course yes because I think that it sounds intense but it's really not. It's really not so. Here's what they mean. A many digital course I also called a workshop. Course is a two hour ish give or take a little time training that you either do live or recorded that promises instinct clarity and results votes for your students so that sounds a lot like a live webinar right but it is not because the big difference here is that people are paying to learn from you. Even if the price point is low. There's just a mindset shift when somebody pays for it. Versus it being free they actually take action and get results a whole lot faster so the goal of this many digital course is to address an immediate problem. That's keeping your audience stuck. You can also use a workshop course to bridge the gap and solve a problem. That's stopping people from actually working with you at a deeper capacity so I like to explain things in stories and examples so I've got a story for you. Call her. There's a gal out there that I love her. Name is Sarah Jane case and she's the brains behind the hilarious insightful instagram channel channel India Graham in coffee. No one owns full. Just adorable okay just disarray. Jane discovered that a large percentage of her audience was concerned or confused that they didn't have the right any gram tight for for them so I would say. I'm not sure if this instagram type is me. How do you know and they just would constantly have questions about it so she decided that she who is going to create a workshop course a mini course where she would help people once and for all figure out what is their type and and the reason why this is so great as one she charged for it and number two once people knew there any type she could then invite them into her bigger bigger course or her membership or mastermind but they were stuck and they need to know their type. They wanted instant gratification. They were going unwilling to pay. Hey for it so she created a workshop course huge hit. That's so cool I just had a flashback to when we were on our girls gas and Rachel made you sit on the couch and make the quizzed minute your numbers we were so curious because Rachel and Jenna were threes right yeah and they kept saying you're you're three and I'm like I'm not a three. I promise you to take the course again so they won't let me get off the couch until I took it for the record. I was a jail. It was finding Oh that just flashed me back at the time that is so cool and what I think is amazing to is to meet that feels like like a less overwhelming barrier to entry because I think of students that I've taken a program that you are. I have created. Mac All of these steps in modules and professional videos some beautiful slides and all of that is amazing but a lot of people are perfectionists at the core. They're ones and they want to launch things when they're beautiful and radiant Eddie in the framework and everything is perfect. Go what I love about. This method is that you can refine your teaching style. You can get people quick winds and result bolt in like you said when people pay the pay attention so you're going to have a more engaged audience so in my head I'm like even if she charged just twenty nine dollars for got and had a handful of people. That's actually pretty significant. It's also proof of concept to create something bigger or more in depth. I love it. Yes exactly the proof of concept concept is really powerful yeah because to me. It's like if you can get even one person to pay twenty nine dollars then you just need to find more people like that one person and then that's your audience like it's super exciting. I love it is okay so what would step one be so if someone knows that they're ready for a course than what would that first step be so the first step. Is You want to think about something that you can teach. Let's say I say to our so you could charge. You could charge ten dollars up to two hundred dollars. You can charge whatever you want but let's think about a topic that you know you teach. That would be pretty easy for you to teach tomorrow tomorrow. If you wanted to and at the end they can get results. They do what you told them to do. They get results pretty quickly and so Hello Sarah. She's explaining the any Graham types in how to really understand what yours is going to be. She can give them some homework to do and they could figure it out pretty quickly so you're looking for results that somebody really truly wants but it's not like you're going for a total transformation. That's why the mini digital courses so much easier to create so the first step is what could you teach that would actually lead to results that would get your audience unstuck or fill a lot of joy I I love that that's so great okay so does of course have to be this like ages the total roadmap on topic because as I'm thinking about that I'm like okay. How would condense everything into two hours or what would that look like yes so the answer is no you do not need to do eight? Z total roadmap total transformation mation so what I want you to think about is that most people are looking for that quick fix they WanNa win today and so if you could just get them over that Hump they're gonNA fill momentum now. Here's the great thing if you could just give them exactly what they need and tell them exactly what they do to get quick results. They're likely going to say this is good. This girl knows what she's teaching. I wonder what else she's got and math like the number her one response you want to hear after a mini workshop what else you got and you might not have anything just yet but what you could do is if you want a little extra extra cash on the back end of that you could offer some. Group coaching or some one on one consulting. Maybe just for a select few for premium price or you could get to work on a more robust course down the road so you've got options. I love that and I think a lot of times to forget like nobody wants a dead end so so when we post or anything where we share when we teach people are hours like ready like okay what's next. What's the next step I remember amy. This is kind of embarrassing but it's when you started cheering your courses. I took your first course. I was like eager and ready for like anything that you were going to sell so I was like at the edge of my seat reading every email like like just waiting for the next program and I don't know if you remember this but you launched. I think it was a two day training in New York City where you'd help people and I remember member. I applied just because I wanted to see your application and I applied to it and then I got approved but I couldn't couldn't even do it because they had a wedding that day and I was devastated and take all my money like I am ready so it's just such a good example of like if you can get people these Quincy's quick results. They're going to want more. They're gonNA want that next. Step and you don't have to have it all figured out at the beginning but it is exciting meeting because once people are invested once invested even a dollar into your or your brand. You've gotten the result they are going to be far more likely to continue investing into you like I would have said. Take all my money I will fly to New York and I love that you said that because to piggyback on that whoever teaches you inside. Did this course that you've gotten results. They become somebody that you feel really connected tooling. They are your go-to person and it's beautiful that Jenin I have become such good good friends out of that but even if it doesn't become a friendship like that people feel very connected to you when you get them results or help them get results so just remember that a mini digital course could be to such big relationships with your audience absolutely so when I think about this one of the biggest objections that comes to my mind is like like how do you charge for. This like a mini course still has to add value. So how'd you know that what you've created is enough value for someone to spend spend their hard earned money on it. Okay so that comes back to looking at the results are promising. Here's what I want you to do. If you come up with an idea that that might be really great for your audience in terms of a two hour workshop where you're going to teach how to do something and you're going to promise a certain level of results what I want you to we do is reach out to either ideally some people in your audience and do some social media polls. If you have an email this you could even send a quick email. Get get a little feedback on that because in the example of Sarah Jane case when she decided she was going to do a workshop to teach people how to figure out there any Graham type ape the reason she knew it was going to make money is because people asked her questions about this over and over again so if you do have an audience already years a number number one question. I'll help you come up with your topic instantly. What do you get asked all the time. Where do people get stuck. WHAT DO THEY WANT clarity on. If you ask Jenner Awry that question we could probably rattle off ten things that we get asked all the time. Those are many courses. I love that I know Rachel. He talks about this too but like we create based off of questions yet every single person that I know in my entire life bigger in expert at something like when I need help with cooking I go to my friend Sarah when I need help with copyright and go to my friend Ashland when I need help with parenting I
"india graham" Discussed on Rob Has a Podcast
"Okay. All right. Let's talk about the heart triad. Okay. So too is the first number in the heart, two three four going to be in the heart triad. Yeah. And to is going to be the number in that triad that the energy is going to come towards you. This is going to be the caring generous, people pleasing and on the negative end of that has. So their basic fear is of being unwanted, or unworthy of being the loved their basic desire is to feel and Instagram to with one wing is actually known as the servant and India Graham to with the three wing, it, actually known as the host or the hostess and I don't really like the whole idea of things someone's the servant. So let's say the companion, I like that a little bit when I think, of two, I immediately think of the people behind the crown, you know, you all you often think of some there's always gonna be that dominant dominant player out front. That's when you think of two who plays derive, there's always going to be someone out front. That is taking. It's basically their shield when I I, I'm gonna give you a spoiler here on who there are two. I'm gonna let you pick if you wanna pick if you wanna do your predictions because the two best examples of twos on survivor are actually people that one survivor with the strategy. So okay, I'll give you a head. Don't make me guess. You tell you, man. They're both blonde. Women. Okay. So, so you're saying it's Natalie white, and Tina Wesson, though. And tina. Oh, yeah. Tina Wesson, literally had loved written Oliver her Bobby she had. Yeah. Definitely. And most of them play the same game where they were kind of the woman behind the crown behind the throne, I think was Natalie shield. I think Coby was tina's. I think that they're genuinely, caring people, I think that these are going to be your people that play that best though. She'll game assuming that they're operating at a high level of health because when to operate at a low level of health, they can be very manipulative and self serving they instill guilt by telling everyone how much they owed them and then they actually try to make people suffer. Yeah, there can be like negative all of these okay? I'm just so curious about how, how do I know you know what I am? I'm just going to hear something that's going to speak to me. Have you read that different types like buy dinner on them? Well, let's go at the end. Maybe I'll, I'll talk about that. How about that? You want me to tell you when we get the one that I think you are. Okay. Yes. Yes. Okay. Okay. All right. And then obviously, you know, disagree, tell me one thing that I do wanna point out for type two the rarest tight, I guess, is actually a male tight, too. So. So I they're just very, very far and wide to try to find one male that I thought was a type two. And I did. And I actually played ten I definitely think Rupert type too, I think ruber they've very kind caring, empathetic warm-hearted generous nunc of individual. And so, yeah, so gay Rupert, you're like the rare form. Yes. Okay. Did you watch Rupert on the amazing race? I did. I did it was so awkward. I sent them good luck tack to the night. They got eliminated like help so bad. I know but I was rooting for them. No. That didn't work out either. Okay. All right. You talking about threes. Yes. So moving along three so type two they're going to be the love seekers type three. These are going to be your image seekers type three are generally going to be attractive, people just because it lends to be when you're a type three because they're typically very selfish erred charming, there business, competent, and energetic. They're very conscious of their image. They are highly conscious of what they look like they're basic fear is being worthless..
"india graham" Discussed on 4 Things with Amy Brown
"Once you just kinda know about your number and know the number of the people around, you, sometimes it just deescalate s-, the things that kinda rub us wrong about people that we work with. Right. It helped me to no one. When I did this with my staff that, I work with I learned that I was working with the five, and we have an all types of relationship conflict, and once we were able to understand what fives look like. And what twos look like we were able to just kinda learn to love each other in better ways, and learn to kind of accept each other's differences, better because we had a language for it, right? L tiny like example, has nothing to do with like the exact any Graham number. But and like, I don't know this might be out for your guy girl, but girls have their time of the month that I work with Bobby and every morning, like if it's that time, like I can come in, and give him a heads up or helped us already kind of know 'cause he can tell. And he's like, oh, or even my friend, Mary. Or my husband bit like she'll like this, actually this actually happened to marry this month, I think I said something to her, like, oh, PMS saying, and she was like, okay that makes sense. It was like, okay suddenly is making sense. Now that is like, obviously, only example, that applies to females and it has nothing to do with any Graham, but it shows how just having a heads up on what's going on. With someone helps you instantly realize, like, oh, that makes sense. And then suddenly, you're not there's no, there's the conflict sort of goes away for there's empathy or shares you understand. And you're like there's grace nearly. Okay. I'm gonna let that slide because that's not you're talking the monster that lives in you. Right that no. The Ingraham is a compassion tool. You're right. So that's how I love saying that and compassion to compassion, compassion for self and compassion for the people that you love and work with. Yeah. No, that's huge. So it can be highly beneficial in a workplace, but also in a home space. And then, you know, some parents, I know try to figure out their kids men use that once even though their kids, maybe shoot totally have it, but we should talk about this. Yeah, there's, there's kind of almost categories of numbers that I think sometimes show up where you can see not necessarily, what number your kid is. But sometimes you can see what grouping of numbers, your kid might be in an start to just kind of respond to them in ways that are helpful for that grouping of numbers, and then day may respond to you in a more wrote respectful. My parent manner, and maybe less therapy later in life. That's what I'm struggling with a lot right now is, like, what, what, what are we doing to our kids that caused them to end up in? We're all doing something right? But hopefully we're doing the best we can and tools like the India Graham can help us just become the best versions of.
"india graham" Discussed on Relevant Podcast
"I. I'm feeling of the non and he'll be trust us with doing on. Definitely what you some kind of helped me through that. So, you know, it's one thing to talk, you know, on like a musical level to be able to express that. But you know, he said that all of this kind of came to a head when he was actually talking with a counselor, and he had never gone to counseling, but as you know, his family's go into this trauma. And so he goes to meet with a counselor, and he needs talking through what it's like seeing his mother struggle with addiction and his parents to this divorce and losing a family member and all this bad stuff happening. And you know, he said something interesting happen. The counselor said that your expression hasn't changed. You're telling me all this stuff. But the look on your face hasn't changed. And it's like, you're still outside of music. You're not being honest with yourself and after getting called out by accounts, and realizing that even through his music, he's Vinton, but not really. Be honest without emotions it really kind of gave a little bit of inspiration to this album to really open up and to encourage listeners to the bone or bowl. And hopefully, you know, these talking about how his desires to help people to be honest and help people in seasons of depression and anxiety and difficult seasons in life. Here's here's what he said. He kind of called me on it, you, you know. He's very poetry. And he said his poem. He said, you know, every peaceful current there, the strong undertow, and I just like opened the floodgates came rushing in and it was just kind of this moment of like, I dunno. I felt like a lot of freedom in the fact that like, you know, all this stuff was happening around. And for the first time. I was like, you know, it's it's okay. To feel these things in the process these things, and it's okay to essentially, not not be okay. It music listening to now people are writing more truth about their own pain than they have in the past openly. Is that true or my my having off memories of other music? I think maybe they've been reading on it. But I think that genre of writing is becoming more like accepted, and and appreciate it in like, welcome. Like, maybe for all we wanted was pop songs and general pleasantries, but we're starting to like have an appetite for just real deep harder, which is what they're doing. Yeah. It just feels like there is maybe it's that everyone if feels like my friends, everybody's just a little bit more in touch with their pain than than even a decade ago, and my friendships and music like what Judah and his guys are writing and this new album feels like it. It's able to say things that I can't say I don't know how to say it like that. And. So then you go like, hey, listen to this. Because this is how I feel. Yeah. I I don't know if I think two were in kind of a cultural moment, I think it's a really positive thing. You know, everything from the India Graham to of the prevalence of of counseling to just like a higher degree awareness about mental health issues. There's a greater degree of comfort in addressing serious stuff. And it's not like does it make you weird or or you know, week to be able to say that you need help. And I think that's why conversations like this are important. But also, that's why art like this is important. You know, I I guess today on the edited podcasts, Jamie talk hausky on. And we asked him about this because his whole life or career sorry has been focused on mental health, and creating that conversation and stuff, and they've been going thirteen years and imagine how different things are than when he first started. Like, I remember was shocking. When we first heard about Dr love on her arms like it was very. Much like, oh, I can't believe they're talking about this so brave, and it is still very brave, but it's it's a lot less like, oh, see this is one of many great options for us to be able to..
"india graham" Discussed on Selfie with Kristen Howerton and Sarah James
"You know, the one who when I find myself in those binds of like, okay, one kid has a performance in one kid has soccer and everything's falling at the same time. He's the one he'll go and make those runs while everyone. He isn't any Graham to he is he is he is he is. So so incredibly always always incredibly helpful very very very, yes. So I'm I'm very fortunate in that way. And I you know, I have other friends who are in my same situation. And you know, are now doing the online dating stuff, and I it just honestly seems like a horrible horrible nightmare. I cannot imagine. But I think it also depends on your personality. I mean, my ex loves the online dating thing because he's. An inch. He's an extrovert. He's in India Graham, seven, you know, if he goes on a date, and it doesn't work out. He doesn't care 'cause you just met a new person. Right. Right right there. I don't wanna meet anyone new. Oh announced like going to be a serious relationship. Like, I don't want to meet new people. I don't want to go out and meet new people. So I I really depends on your personality. But if you're an introvert, and you find yourself, you know, new on the dating scene, I think it's really hard. Yeah. I can't imagine. And just with the onslaught of all the different kind of dating apps, and then there's just like the dating apps and there's the hookup apps and the only sex apps and just seem that's she seems like hot to navigate. No. I mean, just to be honest too. When you're dating in your mid forties men in case, you know, no one's gotten this memo. Single men at this age when a date women in their thirties, you know, and so. It's just kind of awkward. Yeah. The whole thing is seems incredibly awkward the awkward. Okay. Well, this is a fantastic transition. Not. Hey, have you tried CO pads to help with wrinkles? Moving from online dating in your forties to CO pads. We'll see you pads are the silicone pads. Right. They are. I haven't tried the CO brand. I've tried a different brand called wrinkles Schmeichel's. Oh, wow. Look at that marketing, and branding wrinkle shrink holes. I know. So they have a chest pad. And I do like it. I wish I could. I what I wish is that I could sleep with it on. But it does bother me, and I tend to pull it off when I'm being like just because I'm sensory weird. But and I know I feel like you've talked about this before. I mean, I will put it on when I'm getting ready for something. Yes. Like in the morning, and I do feel like it smooths out those chest wrinkles. They know they work they app Jali work. But you just have to know it's temporary. You know, it's just they don't help long-term wrinkles. You're going to get them. I mean, if you wore them on your face every day or your chest every day. But you don't, but they're they're fantastic before events, you know, like, Chris, and I both have side sleeping chess wrinkle stuff like it's helpful to smooth that out. It would definitely smooth out anything on your face. It's just you know, not that wears off. Once you start using the muscles again or sleeping in them, registering or whatever. But I would I would highly recommend them. If you if you like you have a special event or something or if you don't mind sleeping with them every night, go for it. They're reusable. I mean, man, I wish I could sleep with them because I would love to sleep with some right above my eyebrows. Because that's when I get sleep wrinkles. Yeah. Is a little crease above my eyebrow. I mean, I would love to be able to sleep because I do think that's affective for that. Louis. Yeah. I think. Yeah. I think you should try them out people. I think you should give give him a try. What's what do you have to lose? Nothing. Our next question is how do you manage families schedules? How has it changed as your kids have grown?.
"india graham" Discussed on Girls Night with Stephanie May Wilson
"I don't know if you've talked about the episode on guys all linked to that in the show notes while yet, but I am an eight on India Graham, which is a challenger in people. You know, it's not the most popular personality on the whole spectrum like, although I would say I think everyone thinks about their own one. Yeah. This true. And I love aids likely. Zero love this. So can anyone taking this? Scared. But just think about the name of it challenger, you know, you don't always like the person who's fighting everything that you're saying. But I always found my personality was like that in the India Graham kinda helped validate how I was feeling in think about how to make myself better in that. But you know, that description the challenger it makes me better at my job. It actually is very accurate for me. And the reason that I can be the fashion directors because I can kindly say, no, I don't like that. Yeah. But have you thought about doing it this way? Yes. Dead of you know, no not good start over. Whereas I'd be like. I'm only rule. Of so, you know, doing that internal assessment to whatever kind of personality tests or whatever quiz. Yeah. This are all really really helpful tools to show you what your get at. And you can also something that's really eliminating is asking your people. Ask your parents, your mom told me the other day. And I was like why didn't you earlier? My mom told me the other day that I did some sort of test growing up. I've maybe like ten and I don't remember why she did some sort of. I had some sort of testing done. And some of the results said that I wasn't entrepreneur. I was ten home my kin, and I'm like mom. Why didn't you tell we just didn't it didn't occur to me that maybe starting something on my own was something that I was released sort of predisposed round to do so ask your parents ask your friends think about what people ask for your help about? If you I am not the person that you ask for for help about style Jordan is, and that's that's indicative of something. So I love out to do some reflection in ask your people what you're good at. And it's kind of an awkward question to ask. But the results are really when you hear from people for do you have any just last encouragement for for women who might be thinking. I I have some interests have some skills. I said not sure that they fit in the kingdom of God. I just love which is kind of a last just charge from you. Yeah. I am. I've been there before. And really reflected on you know, the things that I loved and, you know, said, oh, I feel like this is such a a world -ly passion. And it's not it doesn't fit in the cliche. And the Lord very clearly said, I gave you that gift that is from me and lean into that. You know, I think anything that. You're you're passionate about that is a gift that he's given you to discover in lean into in. So it's okay. If it doesn't perfectly fit the story is never just, you know, a straight line, you might like squiggle around a little bit. And that's fine. That's beautiful. That's part of your story in all the things that you're doing to get to that place. Your goal career may be they're preparing you for what's to come in. So you know, if you're in a job that you. You're not stoked about right now. You're learning something that is really really important. And you're also in a place where you're able to invest in people. Well, the people around you that you might not always have that avenue in so lean into it in Dillard will reward you for that fat. So Jordan, the last thing I wanted to ask you about his I heard a little rumor that you have able discount code just for girls night listeners. Yes yet. So we have a discount code. It's twenty percent off noon yet. So you can start you can make your first step into the ethical fashion world if you so choose, but it's twenty percent off in the code is girls night..
"india graham" Discussed on The Popcast With Knox and Jamie
"Back to the show. Next. We have Sasha pricey said when my sister, and I were kids are Papa told us every year that Santa wasn't coming because he committed suicide. Oh, so like, he just so he kept committing suicide or religious. Oh, Honey, remember last year CENA committed suicide? Oh, that's right. He committed suicide and third grade. So couple of things Sasha. Let's talk about it. First of all, obviously, this time of year is very difficult year for a lot of people in. So suicide goes up tremendously. So it's already a really sad part of Tom. I don't understand what your Papa and also I follow up questions about people who call their dad Papa is that is that grandfather or father? No, I know people I know friends like I've personal friends who call their dad Papa. I know. Let's let's speculate for Sasha. What do you think it is? I think it's her dad. I think this this does sound like a grandfather. Boo. That's like, I'm tired. Well, and Sasha has a Frenchness to her name. And then very film. It feels on brand for like Papa like, you're either French or you know, a home center, I don't know. I'll go line you drew to Papa and her being French. I don't think it holds water. But I love it. I'm here for it. I'm on board to voice, but I just picture a little kids like Papa Christian. She lives for Cy. Let's just keep going. Let's just keep going. It's not poor from Are there. there? Spanish, I'm so sorry. Okay. But here's my thing. I don't understand. Why Papa didn't go? What are the million things? I could tell these children. I could tell him that Saint a retired. He's no longer going to be doing this saying moved. He no longer comes to our subdivision. Or how about Santa's ally? Mean we've been misleading you for many years. I don't understand why they went all the way to he committed suicide that just feels like a very twenty eighteen way for sanity go out, you know. And I just think 'cause if Santa was going to go out, what's the way he goes out like how does he does he kill himself or does? He just like disappear. Absolutely. Just like grandma gets run over by a reindeer, unhappy employees, take you down. It's very, okay. No, I'm okay with that. I believe that. Okay, next. We have an anonymous that would like share. So my husband grew up in a church where they weren't allowed to celebrate Christmas. His mom would pull him out of school when they had Christmas parties, no decorations presence anything his family left that church when he was twelve years old and started celebrating Christmas that very year he's thirty three now. And only when the last few years, he started putting all the pieces together and realize his family was in a Colt. He's never talked about it with his parents as an adult. Because he doesn't want them to feel bad for raising him in a Colt. So what per what India Graham type is that a guy who was raised in a coal. He's like, I just don't talk about it. They probably put that to nine. I just don't want to go put. We already went through. They know. I'll just pretend I wasn't in a cold. It's totally I do like, you know, the there's always those moments when you're an adult, and you think back and you're like, oh, oh that was weird. That was a weird thing that happened in much hell to them. Just now putting the pieces we're going to call. I don't understand like Google because I was like, oh, I bet. There's a bunch of funny memes about what to look for. If you're in a coal. No, no, no. They're not funny memes. There are literal scholarly articles. And they're in the Atlantic. And they're in the New York Times signs that you're gonna call..
Steven & Seth Help Me Learn My Enneagram Type (Part 2 of 2)
"It. So anyway, that's that's why stressed the value of an actual conversation yet, right? Yeah. This was really, really valuable can plug up our podcast again. That's why part of the purchase that we take is where we're trying to find people like you who are different parts in their journey, like some people who haven't even been typed, we type them on on the episode, other people baby working with it for a year or two. And so they know little bit that we can kind of help encourage them on where they might go next with it. I mean, I'd like to get some people who have more than us and and and are able to teach us a few things that may be tell us where to go next to write all the road under our kids. Yeah, yes. With the integral podcasts that I've listened to already is you dealing with people who've been doing it for thirty years already in they know all their stuff I want. I want to engage people from a lot of different places and Ryan do learn from them, but also just see where they're at in their journey and listen to their story. And I think I think it's super useful for people to hear right now where your app like and to hear us go through this and the way we talk about it. Yeah. And here here, I think that if all you know about the Ingraham is what you've read on Twitter, you're probably not integrate place than that. Not yet. It's fair. I mean that that's the thing that is bad, but you need more, right? Yeah, that's the thing about about those sort of like, you know, you get these little touches here and there, and he knows referring to something really deep that's happening elsewhere. But those conversations because they're referential, because they're referring to someone else's deep experience or personal research or whatever it might be. It's hard to access that which is why this has been so fruitful and I'm very thankful that that you guys took the time out of your evening to to walk me through this because this was this was extremely helpful get. I'm glad. Well, it'll be interesting to see. You know, as you sit with this and continue to discern explored on your own, it'll be interesting to see after a while where you're at with it. And yeah, maybe new insights, maybe you'll realize that we're calling all wear barking up the wrong tree or maybe you realize that this is good and we can take a step deeper and see what happens. It'll be interesting to hear your feedback. Yeah. So I've, I've got some homework to to think about things a bit more. And then we'll loop back around here in the. Near future and and revisit that. Now has your has your podcast launched or do you have a launch window? We point the we will launch by the time you hear this goes, but that's the plan. Awesome. Awesome. And where can, where can people find you online? Well, they can find me as a Seth harsh Mun dot com. And I'm actually. Just starting to try to any grand things fulltime. So seminars, workshops and individual coaching. Awesome. I'm working towards getting my license in as a life coach and it'll be a lot of like India, Graham based coaching, and so they'll be able to find that stuff is Seth Hartman dot com. I'm on Twitter at. As harsh men. And then the the podcast is the nine podcast. There's a for that while at night podcast also in podcast, that's a the number numeral. Nine? Yeah, EAC new nine? Yes. As a Hindi short hand for ideogram in Hon. Great, Steve. Do you have any any place people can find you online? Yeah. He can find my. Odd and hopefully insightful. Twitter feed at at skeptical, underscore monk because skeptical mystic was taken, and I had a figure. Underscore. And then I've got this funny YouTube channel where I'm trying to upload things that are thought provoking challenging. Maybe hopefully encouraging which again is skeptical mystic. If you're searching on YouTube on pretty small, so you might wanna throw. Quotation marks around it when you searched for it, but often. Yup. And, and Steve also had a series with me talking about mysticism in crystal traditional specifically in that's in this feet as well. So also, yes. Well, again, thank you Seth in Steve for taking your evening and setting aside to to go through this because it it was very helpful for me, and I am very happy to be able to sort of present this to people within the feed and then loop back with you soon too. Yeah, privilege. Yeah, thank you for the upper tune ity. It means a lot to us. We appreciate it. Of course.
"india graham" Discussed on Are You Real
"It's the embodiment in the fleshing out of what that is more than sort of the letters in the words on the page or the screen to read i have a gorgeous of a library my townhouse and i've written four books now but you know it's the embodying it it's the living it's it's the it's the taking those it's the taking of the sacred texts that's the taking of these sort of curious accidental sort of framing of inspiration and it's and it's ingesting it it's metabolising it and it's sort of saying the fruit of it in in our lives i think is is really been what's compelled me and mike i said it's been seeing that mentors and friends and community some i'm going to jump off my nose for minute in wanna dive into some of the stuff of your book and i'm gonna be transparently honest here on stuff head i gone back maybe ten years maybe fifteen like if i would have got into any agreem stuff or any of that i probably because of being in pentecostal church and some of the stuff that i was in at the time i probably would have been like man that's just demonic or i want to be honest with you about that because i think when you get into stuff like personality types and different things sometimes i think because it's maybe not in the bible or people don't understand it oughta medically has a bad spiritual content to it and in that couldn't be further from the truth now knowing what i know is there anything that you could kind of disarm that a little bit for some people not for myself but maybe some people would think maybe the way i would have thought a while back yeah when i when i first came across the india graham i mean i think i had a very similar experience i mean first of all you look at this this diagram and it looks super evil like to pentagram having you said that yeah yeah just like whoa i don't think aloud to learn this and then of course there's at least twenty years ago when i came across this christianity had a really conflicted relationship with it father richard roar this this this this fire that i'd mentioned was really maybe i would say the the most prominent author out of a historic christian tradition that was writing about this know i was how i was religiously socialize going to assemblies of god high school myself even joke university back then even i doored mother you know i i was a little suspicious of catholicism in the accent of that was i'll say this though and i'll say this twenty years later having worked with the teaching and the tool it's a universal it's full of what i think we could could simply agree on as sort of universal truths that show up in all histories and all religious traditions or communities in all great myths and automate literature it's like joseph campbell's hero with a thousand faces it's like i don't think the internet i'm sort of started anymore more per se but as always been finding its way out through humanities expression and so if you you need to sort of rub some bible on it to make it street legal can look at the nine fruits of the spirit you can look at the ninety attitude you can sort of see it even showing up in scripture as a way of offering pastoral instruction or spiritual formation earlier this year i did a training with michael goldberg who sort of suggests that the shows up and homers book the odyssey that would is right journey home after the children wars actually takes you through the mine any graham types in order and i just got back this week from florence whereas with beatrice chestnut another great author megrim and she basically says in dante's divine comedy right these these nine circles of hell these nine terraces appropriate toy these spheres of heaven it's the grand passions and virtues and so clearly homer dante probably weren't using the india graham as we're using it today but it's like it's there and it's.
"india graham" Discussed on The unCorked Podcast
"We've had kind of go back to who we are at the core. I mean, not that. I don't wanna make excuses. I mean, we still need to navigate those and figure out you know, how to resolve that sort of thing. But it's just been I opening to know that this is where our struggles are going to be because of who we are. So yeah. And I have had I feel like my biggest thing has been now. I know. No why I struggle with some of my kids so much and again, not no excuses. But it's given me a lot of language and that any Graham institute like how you are in relationship with another number is why was so convinced that he was a one, and I was eight. So now that I'm convinced I'm a one either he's an eight or we're just I dunno. I wing an eight or something because when I read that like eight and one thing I was like, oh my gosh. It's like they live inside our house. It was really I know. It's really really anyway, I'm just I'm fascinated the whole thing Stephanie it's me and said this I feel like has so much depth to it more. So than some of the other personality type being tested or systems or whatever. And this one has really join me in and I'm. Yes. Besides that word that God gave me that. I'm going to go. Chase him down for. I don't know. Maybe my other word is any Graham thirty no with it. Yeah. Totally. All right. So let's wrap up. What are you not doing? This is like this is really my theme for two thousand eighteen is I'm trying to set people free from the social media and realize that we're only putting a lot of us are only putting face forward and didn't bite all the things that people are doing trainings on webinars on and whatever whatever they're showing on the social media, whatever their pin, trusting we all do that. There's there's no balance like we're all doing that at the expense of something else. And even you know, I love to plug. I, you know, I have a small business that I run all these things people are always like, how do you do it all and I'm like, here's the thing. I'm not doing it all and I'm not doing a lot of things that you probably are making time to do. And so we all have the same twenty four hours a day. And no one's doing it. All so you are we talked about something to doing which all them amazing. But what are you not doing? I am not gambling all all the space on my calendar. I'm leaving in penitently leaving some open spaces because it goes back to that temptation to worship productivity, and it's been so good. These last few weeks to have open time where I can read or write or play with my kids, or you know, whatever just whatever we're I'm not scheduled every part of my day. It's been really free for me. And the other thing I'm not doing much as I love to read. I love books, and but I am not reading many nonfiction like self help type books right now, I'm reading mostly fiction and memoirs because I needed a break of all the things people think I should do or be even totally legitimate help, you know, but my tendency as an India Graham one. One is to look at a situation and see how it can improve. And I don't do a very good job sitting in just being in all the good things that are already surrounding me. I'm always wanting to improve them. I want to improve good things. And so I needed a break from most nonfiction books, so really an enjoying just the stories about like we were talking about earlier. I mean, just the stories that you read and memoirs and fiction books have been really good for my soul this year so far. Yeah. What is your go-to fiction like what kind of within fiction?.
"india graham" Discussed on For the Love with Jen Hatmaker Podcast
"Welcome to for the love podcast with best selling author jen hat maker come on in and join us for a chat with jenin france about all the things will now here's jen hey everybody it's megyn hat maker welcome to the show this is for the love podcast and i'm so grateful the house you this week like every week just absolutely love our listeners and a absolutely love this series i mean there is so much good stuff in here you guys we're in a series called for the love of new beginnings and we're sort of turning our eyes to a new year and goals and ideas we want to try or conversations we'd like to finally tackle spaces we'd finally like to excavate and today is just the like on my enthusiasm level because we are going to talk with chris hugh arts and so chris is the writer the author of the book called the sacred any a graham so you guys the any graham it feels like it's been all the rage lately and it is but it's actually been around for a really really longtime the sort of aid teaching that talks about nine fundamental human character can of architects and so i had kind of a new we into the india graham world and i'm so here for it absolutely here for it i am learning so much brandon and i are learning so much in fact we each have our own copy of chris's book and the sacred indian graham it's all they're all marked up we're learning about each other the instagram is just a fabulous fabulous tools let me tell you about chris so he's an activist he's been involved in humanitarian relief at anti trafficking stuff for two decades so in addition to his work as an any graham teacher he's been he's trained and are some of the greatest his trained under richard moore he's learned with mother teresa you guys so we'll talk about all of that and so heaps introduce the in a graham like almost twenty years ago when he was working in the slums of cambodia so that's how his story here started and he has since become.