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Halting the Holiday Hustle by Rose Lounsbury
"Altering the holiday hustle by rosebery of rose lounge buried dot com. If you enjoy the alliteration the title this post as much as i do. Give me a digital fist-bump english nerds unite. But i digress. Haven't even really started yeesh. Today's topic is the season that is upon us. You've seen the wreaths and the stores heard the beginning strains of those old familiar tunes. And maybe vince bruce. W behavior to ensure top spot on santa's coveted nice list. The s midst of time again and with that comes the inevitable holiday hustle. Marta least we seem to think it's inevitable. In america we go from store to store buying trinkets for loved ones and glittery decor of our homes. We bake we send cards. We are in a bit of do-goodery after all it is the season for giving we feel an obligation to squeeze in at least one act of goodwill toward men amongst the holiday parties and tinsel and above all we try to make memories those indelible treasures that last long for the trees on the curb and the last bits of shiny paper find their way to the trash. The trouble is all this holiday. Hustle often isn't available in fact. It's worse than that is downright stressful recreate so much anxiety. About having a good time enjoying the holidays we often fail to do. Just that the irony again. English nerds correctly used literary term fist-bump. This is on my mind today because my friend. Michelle recently posted this on facebook quote. I've been thinking about christmas cards this week specifically about not doing them for the first time ever. I love christmas cards. My joy sending them in receiving them. I have fun selecting a design but every year. They are source of some stress for me. What photo will we use. Do we take our owner higher photographer. How will find the time to get them all done. We typically sent around two hundred. I've also been thinking a lot about time and how we spend it very recently of known or heard of several young people who have passed away in their thirties and knowing this has been an important reminder to treasure each day in the people. I love for the gifts. They are some thinking. No christmas cards this year. I'm not saying i won't do them again. But who knows maybe not thinking that we will donate the money. We save children's charities more time for our family money to charities and less cards in the trash. This really is a tough decision for me breaking away from the tradition in the ritual of taking the time. Send something personal in the mail. That is why. I'm putting it out here so i can hold myself accountable to my choice and quote. Michelle received some very interesting comments from request to not join the anti christmas movement to light hearted individuals who wanted to halt the crazy holiday hustle and actually enjoy the season of love and giving which got me thinking to eat all feel this way about the holidays secretly for example of notice that my mom love you. Mom sometimes seems a bit stressed about baking holiday. Cookies mom if you're reading this and i know you are because you're one of those awesome moms who actually read her grown daughters blog about minimum. I wanna say this. We don't come to your house for the cookies while they are delicious. We come to see you to love you to enjoy the season of giving because we are lucky enough to be with those we love. If it stresses you out. Skip the baking all of you just as much over a package of holiday themed us. In fact i'm inordinately curious to find out if the red holiday filling tastes different from the everyday white thereof. Said it mom. You're off the hook for the cookies. If you want to be note this does in no way apply to the anchovies spaghetti. You make for christmas eve. That stays the holiday. Hustle stress stems entirely from the expectations. We put on ourselves. No one else really expects us to have the best lighting display in the neighborhood or fill each of our children stockings with themed presents. We expect that of ourselves so my suggestion. This holiday season is. Let's give ourselves a break. Just say no to. The hustle ignored the stores of you. Want to don't bake unless it brings you joy forgo the holiday cards unless licking two hundred envelopes as your idea of a good saturday night please. No i am sarcastic. But my don't judge my flaked my fair share of holiday card envelopes and may well do so again this year. What do i propose instead of being a straight up holiday hustler. Do something you love. Spread some joy. That's what the season is all about. Greet your neighbors with cheerful smile. And hello surprise them by shoveling the driveway when they're not looking note to my neighbors your totally welcome to fulfil your need for cheerful giving in this fashion and i promise to act very very surprised. Spend your baking time selecting and donating non-perishable goods for local food pantry. Better yet do that with your kids have a holiday movie marathon with your friends and copious amounts of holiday snack. Ary basically teacher self imposed expectations. And just do whatever truly brings you joy this holiday season now view. Excuse me. I'm off to buy a package of holiday oreos. I believe they're already on the shelves
ABC Sets Premiere Dates For ‘The Bachelor’, ‘American Idol’, ‘To Tell The Truth’ & New Game Shows
"ABC has set the premiere dates for some of it shows. Here's the list. The Bachelor will be back on January, 4th. With American Idol following a few weeks later on Valentine's Day, February 14th, the popular game show to tell the truth returns January 26th and the brand new game show. The Hustler hosted by Craig Ferguson will debut on January 7th. Season. 16 of the Bachelorette restarts tonight on ABC. Tasha Adams takes over after bachelorette Claire Crawley found love with Dale Moss in the first three episodes got engaged in left Kind of made me nervous that you know the guys. Already dating Claire and will they be accepting of me and There's some things that I was worried about. But I definitely got clarity on Adams had appeared on season 23 of the Bachelor and later on bachelor in Paradise Winds. News
Learning How To Like Myself with Melly Lee
"Readings Melis. Welcome to welcome to percival Meli and her news. If you love. I love that you welcome me and my nerves where here waiting yeah. You can dig into anything. Go ahead. Yeah. We we are your safe-space went. Do you remember when we recorded the other episode introvert went over a year ago right I think like it least I want to say like twenty eighteen because that's when it got came back to the states that is a long ago. How Does twenty eighteen. Yeah because I left I left, I left la in two thousand, seventeen ellen debris lived abroad for about a year came back, and then we started talking about traveling I and then I kept setting you introverted means you WANNA. Talk about the introverted yeah because I was so. The brilliance of the memes you send me are. So again, it's so sustained. It says everything in like an image, which is why I think like brilliant memes are so valuable they they convey everything but you intrigued me for sure it was like I never looked at the world this way. Thank you. But this this is a we're also investigating the compatibility of our personality types. For Yeah, we're very compatible compatible and I love it and basically, I, would just to bring everybody on the same page what I was realizing because I go I fluctuate between an NF and the NFL. But we're both like between me me we're both Weirdos but we love each other's weirdness that's the basic summary. It's grilled think I don't think we're weird I think everyone else get on our level. Thank you actually said thank you. So I agree So yeah, I have to up in my intro because door you and basically what prompted this whole thing can get everyone on the same page was even writing this dope blog that I've been consuming and you and I been working out so we can catch everybody up on all of that but it's kind of this general premise of the the journey we've been going on in Covid of like. Accepting ourselves and like being our best selves. Having this unique experience of actually like really thriving in the middle of complete utter chaos like not being blind to the chaos but. Yeah and that's why I've been bonding with you all year long and it's been really really great even though the world has been a dumpster fire. We've actually hung out more this year than ever before. Yeah. When people have been asking me how I'm doing like I mentioned you I mentioned our group workout. been a very significant part of my of my. Pandemic. So thank you for that. Oh likewise, likewise, you've been a great friend, a great sounding board and it's a pleasure being stuck inside a different place. All my God, it's the. Dream let us unite separately in different houses. Yes. Yes and consciously connect when it's could meet like it makes sense and it's comfortable. Am I? Yes say otherwise no. I. Love It. It's good boundaries and good. Emotional exploration and one of the themes like one of the entries from your blog that is super like I got very move just by the title was when you're talking about learning to like yourself. So I thought that could be a good jumping off point to kind of just dive into all the thoughts and feelings because there have been a lot. And I wanted to like lazy like can we just talk about the instagram because let's go back to the beginning shall we or like? Yes to contextualize who you are because we don't know if people have listened to our first episode together how how did you? What is your elevator pitch for me? Well now I'm a I'm supposed to be a photographer, but I'm stuck in quarantine shoe facetime and I work out a lot and retouched photos. That's. Like that's pretty much will pages right now. My background is in portrait photography in commercial photography, alive entertainment. My spare time was was spent doing nature photography and a lot of legs just outdoor exploration but you'll everything's kind of off the table now in can't do any of that. Like I'm a photographer. Photographer when the world says, I can be a photographer. Just, kind of retouching photos on a large scale and. I've been writing a lot dislike bogging more. So I things like this time has been given. The has a lot to be introspective and just. I had a previous blog that was more for my photography and I had a hard time writing on the blog released continuing to write on there just because I, started that blog in. Reich right. When I'm out of college my early twenties and it was more just trying to me setting myself up to. Seem like I was like, Hey, I'm of Darfur look at my work I. Know My Shit Yeah and. What I look back on it now I read it I'm like Oh. Yeah I'm I'm a coffee little twenty year old. which which makes sense it makes sense. Yeah So just out of this of quarantine, I started a new blog called now starving artists that it was a euro, I sat on for a while because I liked the name which came from this. There was a joke back in the day in right out of college where up to my close friends they would disappear months at a time and then they would never hear from me because I was probably like somewhere in La trying to do some sort of Hustler on a project that I would just ignore my phone's like Oh. Yeah. Milly died but then she'll come back and resume. A few months later so I I bought this year L. because it was a toddler blog at first I like kind of right. I would of write letters to my friends essentially like no I'm not dead. Yeah. I am not a starving artist. This is what I've been doing this to working on but then I eventually scrapped it he he became better staying connected to friends inside and With quarantine and everything I kinda resurrected that you're al again just so that I could reflect and be more introspective on things that I wish. I could I told myself back Beckenham starting and also It's been a good place for me costs like. What I feel what I went through and kind of finding just acceptance with the with the process and the journey and also like Morsel recognizing that things are not necessarily good or bad. They just are led. We project what we want them to be an they say hindsight is twenty twenty but really it's hindsight's twenty twenty because we choose the connect the events of the reasons and make it fit current. Yeah and I think just kind of being okay with the. See the world and not be so judgmental on our souls is a better state of mind via. A read. So it's just it's just kind of been my sounding board.
Traveling To Medellin
"Let's open today's travel with Rick Steves travel writer Dave Seminar. He took his whole family to many in Columbia which used to have a reputation as the headquarters for a dangerous drug cartel. Our interview was recorded just before the global lockdowns kicked in. Hey. Thanks for having me on the show wreck. So you went to Medigene I, mean the image of Medina's like scariest a generation ago is one of the most dangerous cities on the planet. That's right. But but it certainly isn't any longer. I mean these days the murder rate in Medellin is lower than New Orleans Saint, Louis Chicago and several other cities as well. It's an amazing turnaround and. Tourism. Is a booming part of the economy I was just there. My son loves it so much. He bought a condo there and I was there for years this last year with him and we were standing on his balcony and and everybody was blown up fireworks and My son had a Colombian friend there with him and and we were talking about. It and when the Colombians see those fireworks, they remember in the days of Pablo. Escobar. That's what they would explode when they made a deal in the United States with the with the drug trade they're not making deals with the drug trade anymore with the Pablo Escobar outfit that's just celebrating. So they've gone from supplying America's cocaine habit to actually building A. City on live biting entrepreneurs. That's true. They I Columbia is still does produce eighty percent of the cocaine I mean to be frank. However look I went there with my ten and twelve year old sons and my wife, and I would never take them to a place that I thought was too dangerous. So I really consulted with a lot of different people before. Going, there, however, my parents and several other people said, Columbia. You're taking your sons to Columbia you nuts but I did my research and I talked to enough people who had had great experiences there that I felt comfortable doing it and we spent two weeks traveling all around the country and I felt very safe. The whole time tell us about the public tour. It was interesting. You know my wife said Pablo Escobar to are you sure that that's appropriate for our sons who are ten and twelve years old side I called one of the tour companies that had good reviews on trip advisor and he said Oh yes our tour is good for children aged six and up said really okay. Well, let's do it. We thought maybe we can teach them. Okay. He's a bad guy you know here's the. Evils of drugs and teach them a little bit about why the drug violence in and I thought maybe they a lot of it might go over their head but I thought well, they'll learn something. Let's do it but you go through a you goes through your neighborhood community thirteen, which is now trendy. It's filled with street art and is just a festival of good living not good living. It's still a poor area but a festival of happiness. Community Thirteen is sort of an interesting area I've I've found it to be one of the more disappointing stops to be honest with you on the tour I mean, it doesn't really have much to do with Pablo Escobar although it was a neighborhood that was wracked by gang violence, and then in two thousand eleven, the government installed a series of escalators there the idea was. Allowing people to be able to move safely through the community, get from their hilltop neighborhoods down to where jobs and transportation and things of that are. But when I was there in July about the experience maybe if you traveled at a different time of year, you might have an off more authentic experience, but it was absolutely full of tourists which really shocked me because here is. Sort of an impoverished neighborhood that has all credit to them. I. Think it's wonderful. They found a way to turn the violence of the neighborhood into a marketable commodity, but it was absolutely crawling with tourists and I sort of felt like, wow I really don't like going to places that are too full of tourists. So for me, it fell a little bit flat to be. Quite honest. But maybe if I visited another time of year, I would have I would have liked more. No, I don't think. So I mean I was there in the winter but to me, it was a former violence ridden gang ridden community that now is a kind of a tourist trap and it just like an amusement pier in San Francisco, almost or something like that. And what was really fun was the street art I mean, the street art was like it's like going through an art gallery and it's all this edgy colorful tropical kind of street art and you've got it all together by escalators I can imagine before those escalators came you know ten years ago you would have desperately poor people and You'd have the intimidation of the gangs and all of that and and the high murder rate and today there's there's not a hint of that and the escalators let people connect and I think you know the way Columbia has invested in its infrastructure has given poor. Barrios the confidence and the feeling that this is progress and changes possible and and one thing great about going to Medine is you write these cable cars because the city is in a very mountainous area and the poorest communities are pushed way up the mountain sides. But these cable cars, they're just like cable cars had a ski resort. They connect the people in the poor neighborhoods with the good jobs and the good shopping and the good entertainment down in the valley floor and writing these cable cars was just a kind of a celebration of community to me what was your experience on those cable cars? Well I love the cable cars just like you know I took the cable cars up to the park. RV. which is it's a long ride as interesting things that you take two different sets of cable cars. You can take one set of cable cars, which sort of goes through some of the rough hillside neighborhoods, and that one is actually fairly quite cheap to go through and actually when you're. On that first cable car, you're actually getting ordinary people who live in those neighborhoods coming on and off of your Gondola but then to go on the second. Gondola. which takes all the way up the mountain up to the park RV, which is just fantastic and I do recommend that that significantly more expensive so that that second cable you know Gondola is more for tourists in it's it. Would be too expensive for people who live in the humble neighborhoods. But as a traveler, it's worth it's worth it to do both at the lower part words the transportation for the community you you get a sense of the community and you get to talk to people. It's Kinda cool because you're floating above all of these barriers and then after the top city, stop you sort of plateauing you. Go across this amazing lush forest in a giant National Park and they're the only people still on the cable cars are tourists who can afford that but you get to the terminal point way in the middle of the park and I think the locals will come in there by bus, which would be much cheaper because it is a a wonderful jumping off point for for hikes in this nature reserve. Yeah. So the neighborhood that Pablo built I mean now it's called Barrio Pablo Escobar, Pablo Escobar's. But it was originally called million sin to a jury US medicine without shantytowns and the idea was he was really trying to improve his image in the country and he built about three hundred and sixty six humble homes in this neighborhood for people who are down on their locker many of them were homeless and actually living in a garbage dump area and in that region and you talk about street art they're. So there's a number of murals celebrating Pablo. Escobar would say that most Colombians despised Pablo, Escobar and everything he stood for. However in this little neighborhood and I met some of them. There are people who still revere him as quite a small minority of Colombians I would say, but you see mural several murals right in this borrow Pablo Escobar. Depicting. El Patron the hero, the Robin Hood that you're talking about in and some of those people, and there are some young hustlers there who are very interesting entrepreneurs. One of them has created, which you'll find in in the middle of this neighborhood is a Pablo Escobar memories. Museum now there was another Pablo Escobar Museum that was run by Pablo's brother, which was actually shut down and it wasn't in this neighborhood with the government closed that one down. This one is sort of a homemade sort of museum that some young hustlers in the neighborhood of made, and they also sell visits to the US through some of the homes where you can tour the homes and. It's kind of it's bizarre but yeah.
Interview with Athena Karknis And Parveen Kahr On Manifest
"Playing Greystone Athena cartoonist and playing Vanni. Bar Is Parveen car on manifest. They update US ON THEIR CHARACTERS Minus depressed because she had her. PTSD. It's a direct. Sorry. It's a direct pickup from. The cliffhanger at the end of season. One. We picked straight up from there like same clothing even your same day. It's the same day. Still recovering from what she went through in episode fourteen season one where she's Like held hostage and has had a gun pointed at her face and I think the last couple of episodes in season one, she just was really at a breaking point So that's where we pick up a SAMBA you. I mean as direct copy that was pretty quickly skip ahead. A little bit, and so grace's a little more pregnant. We learn in that for CEPA assode who the DAD is. Obviously I'm not going to divulge that now but it's actually it's really the way they the way we learn it is very interesting and surprising. So like even I was surprised when I read it, what are you both like most about your character I like most about her she's definitely smarter than I am. Which is nice. She's better at math. Really Nice. I don't it just like how just determine like she just wants to figure it out you know and I really. Appreciate that about her. She's definitely a workaholic. She has the type of work ethic that we can all kind of dream of having hence why she's gotten so far in her field you know. Why I think That's my favorite thing about her like she's definitely a hustler and she's GonNa and we'll see in season two like she'll go to any length to figure it out and if that. Manifests in her doing some really questionable things like she's she's about it. Yes. She's about it whereas Sunday's character. Yeah. I. Texted her the day after I'd rather race inscriptions. Ear. grace's really unflappable and she's much more patient and she's like the archetypal mother like she bakes cookies and she's But she's a really like patient and loving and understanding. She's everyone's rock and I would like a little more of that my life I'm a bit of a hothead and like. You. Know I can be want patients. Sometimes I need to channel my integrase. Try. I'm not quite as graceful grace about new themes or even tones sees it's definitely darker to lock arms. And I feel like it's a lot less about the first season was really about. managing relationships, and how this crazy event has thrown everyone into a tailspin as far as relationships. Wise. Yeah. And everyone kind of recovering from that and I feel like season two is really about. The death date and I mean a lot of it is really trying to. I would say that's the overarching thing and really trying to overcome that and trying to beat it really beat beat death fruit just basically more confused. But it's very there a lot a lot how it's been hard challenging for us today because there's so many things that happened in season two and we don't WANNA real reveal any of them because they're all spoilers and it's all very exciting and it's all very huge in you know even a small detail the revolutionary say. Then, you realize no wait. Yeah. Yeah. So we've all we've all been very cautiously biting tongues today, but what happens in season two and as far as the mystery goes like a lot of. Other. Questions open out and like new things unfold the don't necessarily you know. Close any doors as far as resolution of like Oh. That's the answer to the S. it's just like we'll wait more questions more questions. Look for manifest on NBC check your listings.
How to Move Forward When You're An Unemployed Side Hustler
"Hey guys. Welcome. Welcome back to the show. It's not Kayla here and I'm back with a solo. It's been a minute right? Well, here we are in October I can't believe it's October y'all like this year. It's just I. Mean I don't even have to say you know already and we also know that the levels of unemployment right now are at an all time high. Due to the effect that Cuvette has had on first of all human beings and then supply chains businesses. The way we run businesses and having to close businesses because of the fact that that foot traffic isn't there or people are not able to patronize those businesses. So in the last week alone I have seen many friends and acquaintances get furloughed or laid off fired and my. Heart really really really goes out to everyone. So it's just been on my heart to do this episode I decided to share again, my own story of unemployment and some tips that may be able to help you or someone you know get through this time as a site hustler who is now on employed doesn't have that full-time job to supplement the side hustle Share this with a friend or someone you know who might appreciate it and yes, you'll get through it. They will get through it. Please remind them that this too shall pass So let's let me share a little bit about my story for those of you who don't know or maybe you've heard bits and pieces of it but not the whole thing let's get into it. In Twenty fifteen I went through a seven month period of unemployment of not having a fulltime job I was recently graduated from Grad, school and yes I went from May to December without fulltime job. And now these were different circumstances. Obviously, it wasn't a pandemic it wasn't a lay off or furlough. So there are different circumstances surrounding me not having a fulltime job. However, it was still challenging sometimes discouraging time in my life and I would hate for anyone to be going through this alone feeling the same feelings of embarrassment sometimes hopelessness like I like will ever find a job. Feeling regret like should I have done XYZ differently should have explored a different career should I have worked in a different field and so on and so on I don't want you guys beating yourself up. So I'm devoting this episode to share in what helped me to keep my head up and push forward when I was unemployed and how I stayed on the side hustle path through it. All I. A little back story on how I came to be unemployed for years ago. Was it four years now? Hold on hold on let me do five years ago. I was attending graduate school for my masters of Business Administration at the University of Michigan Ross, School of business in the summer between my first and second years of business school. I was an MBA intern at Google. I was really excited at the time to land. This was a coveted internships I was so excited to land Google and dive headfirst into the internship I moved out to mountain view for the summer as working in AD sales. Now, for most MBA internships the goal and the expectation is. That you have such great internship that at the end of the ten to twelve weeks in your internship, you'll be extended a full time job offer from that company. That's how it's supposed to work well, that in happened in my case despite working hard despite getting APL-, employees, recommendations, and awards that summer and doing all I could to seem like I was fitting into the culture because you know that's big and like the whole Silicon Valley Tech World doing everything I could to be new Gli. That what they call it I don't even know anymore. googly. Remember, can you believe this was one such like an important part of my life? I promise you will be laughing one day to at this phase in your life So I was doing all I could to fit the culture and really land that job. But in hindsight that was not the right opportunity for me. So no matter what it probably just. was meant to be and I'm glad that it happened that way. However at the time, it didn't feel like this I did not get the full-time offer. I was devastated I was pretty dejected and spent the rest of the academic year dodging my friends, my classmates questions about what I was going to be doing post business school, and then graduated with no job in May of that year. From May to November, I would go on interview for job after job only to receive even more rejections at one point after going through six rounds of interviews with Uber for at the time they were launched Uber Eats I was going for marketing role with Uber eats and I got turned down to six rounds of interview. And you know at that point when you go for six interviews with the same company like that is exhausting, you really are like I got to get this role but I didn't get it and that was a moment for me when it clicks I said. Enough is enough I was done investing so much energy into trying to work for other people and I was ready to invest into myself. So let me be clear here. Don't get me wrong. I was still looking for a job I in no way meant that I was gonNA quit looking for jobs and just become an entrepreneur at that point but I knew that I was so depleted in terms of self confidence and self empowerment that I needed to do something differently. Shortly. After making that revelation I began freelancing as an independent social media consulting because at this point you know money funds are running low and. Full transparency even though at the time I was living with my then boyfriend now husband Killer. Doesn't like not having something to bring to the table? Okay. I like my pockets to be full. I like to have money my bank account, and there's no way in hell that I was not going to find a way to bring some income, and so that's what I did. I started freelancing social media consulting at that point I have into my network for that role and I went and did some freelance work for the organization. That I once was a part of two. So it's called MLC and I've mentioned it many times management leadership for tomorrow I started freelancing with them social media, consulting boom tablets you network make sure you have some money in your pocket
Jennifer Lopez named 2020 People's Choice Awards Icon
"Superstar J. Lo. Jennifer Lopez will be the third person to receive the People's Icon award. She's being honored for her unforgettable performances on stage and on screen, including the Super Bowl Halftime show and last year's movie Hustlers. The People's Choice Awards airs November 15th. No word yet on how it's going to happen amid the pandemic
Are We Even Friends? with Dan Matthews (DANakaDAN)
"Hello. There's no like nine. Move How are you? Heard. Okay. Hanging in there. Yeah. This is a good start in the gas. We've just started right now. Absolutely just totally started the conversation at this exact moment nothing preceding this at all. Oh Man. Okay. Wait. So we need a backtrack I need a time check we we did a social distance hang out. Toiling outing myself right now but that was how long ago was that like a week ago. About. Three weeks ago. And then before that, we had met up. For about a year and a half. Africa for something. For somebody intentional look I would see you at events. and. We would see each other and stuff. But an intentional hang out hasn't happened for about a year and a half cents three weeks ago, which is a really really long amount of time. It might have been even lying half because we usually do it once in December and then this last one happened in July. Or? End of July early early August, and that's like even more than a year and a half. Do you credit that to like us being busy hustlers who are in our thirties kind of thing who also live in la where like nobody sees each other for anything unless it's like an event or is it like I? Don't know we're we had a long talk about friendships and I wanNA talk to you about that because I still have a lot to unpack. Why why do you think that is why do we see each other and hang out 'cause I consider you a friend. Dan Justify. What do you think it takes us a year and a half to hang out. I think largely has to do with the fact that we are in our thirties were hustling him out there and trying to do important stuff that we feel that we need to get done and I think that a big portion of it is we are used to began with you. Yeah. We're. We're friends and we've known each other for a really long time but I. I think you have closer friends our people that like you need the you generally more on a daily or like maybe you'll see like a weekly basis like you may closer than me and you are and so I'm sure you see. More often than you see me. and. and. So I think that like Rava level in our friendship where in a lot of people I think in their their thirties are where they've got the really close set of people. They need to see a lot more often and they've got people that are I don't see I go a year before I'll see like a family member but they're still family to me and they're still important bray I WANNA on keeping my life and so I would consider to be like it's kind of like that it's not like they're gonNa go away or anything it's not gonNa want to see them or they're not somebody I want to keep my life because I do think. That I'M GONNA keep my life but I think we both understand like we're coming from and the. Word against refresh we're not like close out the land to see you every single week. We're not interested I think we've got old enough I don't know. That level we just we can start digging deep in your friendship with that means.
Justin Bieber Has New Music Video For 'Holy' Directed By Cardi B Wap Director
"Justin Bieber as a new song out at midnight it's called Holy. Now. Here's the interesting part about it comes with a music video and the guy directing the music videos name's Colin Tilley he just directed Cardi B. and Meghan the stallions hit single lap. So Justin Bieber Song holy a lot of people thinking it's a Christian song maybe it's a new era for him. The guy that directs the video just directed Hey, the guy makes videos. Yeah. That's guy people that print books. They print the Bible there prince a bad stuff. Do they. Probably not that's probably wrong. Same people the print, the Bible friend. Hustler. They can't. Printers. Leon when I'm in Barnes and noble they they sell they sell Christian books. Some not. So Christian. Also do they do they? Yeah. Right. Yeah. I. Mean I'm just just an interesting little part that'd be out at midnight. We'll have it tomorrow morning for you.
How can I increase traffic to my tarot reading website?
"Hi Chris My name is Daniele from Centennial Colorado. I'm actually new to the show but very excited to incorporate the podcast side-hustle broke into some ideas have been working on my side hustle is doing Tarot into readings. It's something I've been playing with for a few years and I've done some live readings that different groups and I get great feedback I would love. To have people book sessions more regularly. I set everything up I've not add it to my website I have link to a page where they can vote their own sessions. I've created a newsletter I've got testimonials I've posted on social media and crickets. So my question is asking if you have any tips or insights on getting people to see my site and to book sessions. I would really appreciate it. I know that being seen is going to be one of the best ways. I did just book foods at a local metaphysical fair for. February. But anything besides that. If you can give me insights, I would love it and I look forward to hearing from you and thank you so much. Danielle, what's up? Thank you so much for listening and for calling in as well. Now, this is a great topic because I said. So many of our listeners essentially have the same question. For whatever their business is and you know just just to be clear first and foremost there's not a pithy answer and there's one thing I can say thirty seconds it's going to solve the problem. The. Question. That Danielle is asking, how can I get more customers? This is not just something that a lot of side hustlers went to. No I mean this is something that a lot of small business owners and executives at major corporations want to know and many of those big companies have entire sales and marketing teams devoted to customer acquisition Seo. Sometimes, they pay agencies a lot of money to come up with a creative campaign all in hopes of doing the same thing essentially that Danielle and maybe you wants to do, which is bring more traffic to your website or otherwise acquire more customers. So. On the third, way calls that I've been doing a pretty much every other Thursday for anybody who's interested in the third group model that I wrote about in the money tree, which if you don't know what that is, it's essentially. People like you who are all trying to start an income generating project I do these calls and we spent a lot of time looking at different situations and brainstorming a group about individuals. So for Y'all specifically like if we were going to call in and look at this, we probably pull up her website. I took a quick little look. Her website consists almost entirely of a way to book her to hire her for her Tarot reading. Service. which is a good thing. Of course, that's what she wants to do but my concern, therefore, my suggestion unless you wanted to do that unless you already knew who I want to hire on Y'all already pre sold on it there's not really any reason to go to her site and you also probably wouldn't find it unless she told you about it or somebody else told you about it. So my number one suggestion again, recognizing that this is a long term goal should probably try. Some other things too but my number one suggestion would be to add some more helpful content to this website. Give people something for free give them a reason to visit the site. So I don't know a lot about Terro- what do I need to know what is essential? What are the top ten surprising facts about it? What are the misconceptions about it who can benefit from a reading? Do I need to prepare somehow mean those are just some of the questions that I had. Just kind of thinking talking my head maybe even. A list of resources which I do say she has a she has some resources in links on our site, but maybe just kind of building that out more be a little bit more helpful than just hire me and not to say, you shouldn't have to hire me there. That should be there should be front and center. Absolutely. But if you want to grow your website ultimately, you're gonNA need to provide people reasons to come to your website besides just that one reason of hiring you.
How does retargeting work?
"Hey Chris, this is geared from Houston and I recently found your show after a friend recommended to me I really appreciate helpful content. Can you explain retargeting this came up as a conversation, the other day and I understood the general concept. But I'm not sure if it's only something for big companies or if side hustlers can do it too. I'm starting a podcast and blog for aviation lovers and I'd like to give more traffic to my website Ken retargeting with that. Thanks and I look forward to hearing. Hey Derek. Thank you so much for listening shutout to you and everybody else in Houston. So. Let's see here. Can Retargeting helps US lawyers? Absolutely it's definitely not something that is only for big companies but I for anybody out there he was like, what is retargeting well? Is. A form of online advertising targeted to customers consumers. Let's say based on their previous Internet actions. So if you went to a particular website. Later when you're around other websites, you see ads for that original site or the product sold on that website or perhaps something related and I'm pretty sure most people out there have encountered this themselves many times over like, hey, why was I shopping at target dot com earlier now for the for the rest of the week I'm seeing ads for target everywhere that has retargeting essentially. And anybody can access this. When you go through the tools of advertising Google and facebook, which you know they're very good at taking your money as mentioned there are options to do this, and basically what you do is you put a certain pixel on your website. They gave me some code you out of this on your website and it will begin keeping up with all visitors. And you can show ads to those visitors that specific group of his tour is the one who have been to your website. You can show ads to them. Later when they're going around to other websites now you might think, well, why would I spend money on those people? They have already been to my site. Shouldn't. I. Spend Money on reaching New People. The thing is online selling is all about conversion like if you want to try to reach everybody that's called spray and pray it's like, I'm GonNa spend a whole lot of. Things out there and. Just. Pray A lot. So it's not very effective, not very effective marketing. A lot of markets that people who are most likely to convert to become your customers are ones who have already been to your website or they have heard of you but they need reminders to hear about more than once and that's what retargeting can do. So this has proven to be very effective. If you're thinking about ramping up in some way, I would say especially not just when you're getting started but if you've been around for a little bit if you've had your offer for awhile. Endurance. Case the PODCAST and blog for aviation lovers. I don't know this is something you do like right on the front end but after it's been up for a few months, you have some decent traffic going to the website for example, that's when retargeting could be interesting. So if you're thinking about spending money on ads, I recommend you start with this approach because the conversion will almost always be better than. Just. Trying to reach random groups of people.
Interview With Phil Penman
"When you decide to go into business for yourself, it's as much about your hustle as it is about your talent. Skilled and talented as you may be if you're hustle is not on point. You are going to struggle not only getting into the game but also staying in it. Phil Penman understands that which is why he's managed to establish himself as a celebrity street and commercial photographer. The links that he had to go to his Paparazzi could make the difference between getting the shot or not, but also more importantly the difference of thousands rather than hundreds of dollars. That kind of work is not for the faint of heart especially when it involves negotiating the streets of new. York. City on a bicycle. But as Phil understands, you've gotta do what you gotTa do this is Ebonics and welcome back to they candid frame. Jones, thanks for making time for me. I appreciate it. Thanks for your patience and finally getting round here. Thank you for inviting me I. So you're up you're up to like five, hundred, twenty, eight. So is man gets because you sent me your book months ago. I, talked to my wife who's that producer to try and make sure that we got you in somewhere but it can be quite the juggle because there's so many people that consider. Really I love the Book I love your story but one thing that's fascinating in before we get into talking to you about your photography is just like man you have held so many jobs. So many things. List as well. So it was just was just the the nature of being like a hustler that you were just like just did what you needed to do in order to get by that is that why you? or so many different at one hundred percent of house. So when I was in college I was studying photography and a box. If Alford like a hundred sheets for safe thirty pounds and that's a of money to a college student and you having to crank this week off the week. So I had I would study and I had to free jobs that I was doing waller's in college. So in the daytime, I would serve lunches to like rich preppy boy, Colt prep school kids at a nearby like boy school than a night I worked in a bar and unlike club four nights a week, and then the weekend I used to work even Lego land or Twickenham rugby Stadium. So I would literally our work all day through the night and then have like free hours sleep got a college study as. You did this casino the the bitch would be like we used to do five transparency. Not only will take was the chew to say, have to stop off and the fuck that's enough free. Way, worked in the bar and he go pay to twenty an hour. Like notes it. Hasso Hasso. When you're young. You don't need that much sleep exactly now I'm just like I'm Pasta by seven o'clock. So, when did you get the bug? When did you discover that you wanted to study photography in photographer it was my backup believe it or not i. was fifteen and I wanted to be a sports teacher. My Dad was like, well, you got to have a backup. And he was a professor I so I kind of I grew up with a darkroom and seeing prints in the bath tub being washed and stuff. So he's like, hello go for this newspaper, pick out the picture the you think and if if I agree with you then I'll let you study photography as a backup and I ended up being a terrible sports teacher so You know I virtually failed sports studies by a my photography. So I'm like that's the way man to find out that photography is your fallback. It's funny. Because most people it's like. Repeats the first choice, not the second. It's like my lap was always insistent on you always have a backup everything. So that was my backup and then. Studied like the next freeze I guess and then. Started working straightaway into. Work you started doing initially. I did a year as a local newspaper photographer where it was tree, we do a jobs today and it would be like they had us going every thirty minutes. So you're driving around hundred miles per hour from job to job walk in the room sheet the paycheck next job, and it was like a fos learning cup. So you'd be like sports, events, politicians, babies, presentations, and then I landed a job working for news agency where I was doing hard news but I'm still doing. I basically landed a GIG. She will the cool proportion shift for Microsoft and like I like twenty, one years old and boss was worked for is making so much money from that the it was great for him. So I did I did about six months with him and then I got the opportunity to work for A. Company in Los, Angeles and just jumped
"hustler" Discussed on Bald Movies
"Yeah I'm struggling to. figure out what he means by that. Yeah. Like maybe emotionally or some kind of Zen Buddhist wet thought also I thought that This is a great films I'm like Oh wow Robert Rosin I never heard of him. I've heard of all the king's men and that was a monster at the Oscars back in the fifties. And he's got an I went to look at all the film I figured I'd I'd see a bunch of films of his he had made This guy was a member of the American Communist Party was blacklisted from Hollywood throughout the almost the entire fifties. Cause huge hole in his career where he didn't make any film and then he made this film it. As as you mentioned in the pre podcast, he got his ass kicked at the Oscars it got nominated for almost everything guys ass. Kicked by. West. Side Story. Share enough I? He said story he made he made one more film and was so disillusioned by the process of that that he gave up filmmaking forever never never went behind the camera again. Well, and I'm like God damn tragedy. It's like Mohammed Ali, you know the US government put put him in prison for the prime of his fucking career for for the temerity saying that the war in Vietnam immoral. I said I I just thought damn that what what a what a tragic backstory to this already bleak tragic backstory that this was essentially his final film that that that was was anything and who knows how how many more films he had in and had he not gotten gotten blacklisted and and also it wasn't for necessarily involvement in the Communist Party. But like when he he refused the give up names and when they call them up all the red scare hearings he just retook does pled the fifth as his right as an American citizen and they ran him Outta town for it. So. I can crazy. So. Yeah that sucks. I will say he WANNA see all the king's men because I've never seen it. Now here it's amazing. Haven't either The hybrid seen many movies from this era but I I was impressed by the cinematography in this and it did win the Oscar for that. There were there were two Oscars that one was for cinematography. One was for art direction both. Black and white versions of that and I. I take that to mean that they also had the color Versions of those awards which seems strange to me but okay Oh but yeah at this kind of transitional appear in Hollywood I I wonder if it's of like you know silent versus talkie like did you have separate awards for that or kind of now it's like they have animated versus best and foreign written that starting to become a as as things are more and more global and has like a animated films are more and more adult like. Yeah. They have changed the awards that they give out from time to time over the years have to. But yeah I I just recall seeing a lot of shots that were really cool like one of the..
"hustler" Discussed on Bald Movies
"You know she wasn't here when I got back and she never good for you anyway she was clearly hustling look at Her killing herself, his bathroom Oh God. Yes. Just put up on this that says. This man is is bad for you. He's driven everything good out of your life, and this is this is it like? You can't look away from that now there's something. For the character Fast Eddie in that moment and you know it's it's a trope but whatever and everything that leads up to as peso well, like I remember thinking like Paul Newman goes to the bellboy things like you know, where's the key to my room and he's Like you know like giving him significant looks and stuff like what the hell like. He's going to catch them in the act like in bed right and then you get up there and you see some dudes and suit standing outside and I'm like Oh and then there's police officers on my They're interviewing George C. Scott like the energy that negative dark energy just keeps building keeps building. You're right. They do get a lot of juice from that. There's a reason. This shit is a trope because it works. So well, everyone wants to go there. You know I like fuck, you want you want you want that kind of juice and that emotion and your movies so. Yeah and then like I thought the. The final the final like twenty minutes is movies just like relentless like when he comes in there with a showdown fats and don't really fuck around with like there's no marathon forty-eight, our pool session he disliked dispatches them, and he he wins the money and he goes the leave. George C Scott just gets up and screams where's my money? I'm like. Because I thought the movie was over and then like Oh shit there's this whole thing. Wow. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's an excellent climax to this film and then it's just you know he gives his his the. And the thing just ends he walks out it's done. Fashioned is old movies. There's no credits at the end. It's just movies over the end lives has the end. Rob Because they do all the credits upfront. That was the charm of doing it that way you could just like like Leo boom, the the movies done. For me in this because it got me in the the hustler mindset, you know like show all these shots of these these really nice pool shots at showing the atmosphere around the city and the drinking and smoking and everything comes its Weirdo because I was reading. Everts he didn't have a contemporaneous review of this movie obviously because it's it's old but he had a great movie review and he said that this is the reverse structure of most American kind of like hyper masculine films and that the hero overcomes not by winning but by by giving in. I, don't know that I agree with that assessment in what way like if he just walked just gone to Ames and called out George C. Scott and walked out without winning the game and the money and all that stuff and just been like you know what? Fuck you broke stick and threw it in the corner and just walked out but he It's a hero. He won the thing that he wanted to do at great cost and sacrifice, and he grew up and wised up and got tired of like you said losing. But like he didn't give in I thought that was wild I agree with his take at all.
"hustler" Discussed on Bald Movies
"It's a fascinating power dynamic in that final scene and the you know the capper with with him. And fats like showing a bit of respect for their their games teach other is just I love that final scene it's so good. The director Robert Robertson. A bunch of leg actual nightclub tufts and thugs and collectors the play the guys that are like surrounding Newman and I think that's another place or ambiguous big ud you're right he comes in as an audience member. He comes in there the head of righteous team and I think he's going to be okay. But like I, it was a question my mind like George, C. Scott had said fuck this you know what? I? Want my fifty percent break. This guy's legs. Yeah I wasn't sure if if if his moral weight would protect him because I tell the facts wouldn't like it but I don't think fats also liked it because there's a point where the camera points over to fats and you can tell that like he thinks this is unseemly. Also he's not going to open his mouth get up or say anything and he could have probably. And it's just a war of the wills between George C. Scott and and Paul Newman, and like they're both kind of like you know like you know like. Psyche your boys, beat me up they better kill me because if they don't I'm GonNa come back and murder. It's it's kind of a little bit of a hustle within the hustle on top of the hustle and I really liked because again, I I I have no idea what would have happened in that room George C. Scott like would that a broken George C. Scott maybe they would break his arms but then everybody you know he would he would lose his mystique. Dog. Exactly he's no longer someone respect through you can trust with your bankroll or whatever. He kind of breaks his. Whole. Game to it's an in that scene I get the impression I. Wish they had made this a little bit clearer the relationship between fats and Bert because. I'm a little confused in that scene as to what is on in fats head I i. wish I I understood if this was like a sadness for a man who is under the thumb of Burt an end deeply understands both the danger and the despair. That fast Eddie's in in that moment.
"hustler" Discussed on Bald Movies
"What is Sarah doing on Tuesdays and Thursdays because he's not going to college I don't think. The, she have another man who's that. She's like you know spins those days with or like I I know something that you're supposed to understand that why she's got some other whole side hustle going on that something along those lines but I couldn't quite put my finger on what exactly the nature of it is because I don't I don't have the nineteen sixties bullshit translator and maybe that's it the movie I think intentionally vague over she makes up stories about. A lot of things and I'm not sure I can separate the fact from the fiction at some point. She says, look, it's my dad who's all this money? And he does it basically just keep me out of his life. Peter liked me but she's in that in that story where she's coming clean. She also mentions that she's not really like every time another man lives leads leaves her or she grows at she essentially comes up at another fiction to tell the net. So it's like a she now spinning the origin story of the new version of purpose ANA and I've only seen the movie once like I was left with a lot of questions like that like. You know it's almost like if you'd seen a movie called the Hustler that was based on Sarah and Paul Newman is just like where are you GonNa? Make. Your Money Eddie I, you know I go shoot some pool lake. Yeah. Yeah. That's kind of true. But like what it doesn't tell the whole story of what they're deal is So yeah, I think that's Definitely intentional it's supposed to be muddy. It's supposed to be like she is maybe up to some game. She's maybe not you don't really know audience a at least. I don't know as an audience may be in sixty one everybody knew it was just unspoken. But yeah I think like they're both hustling and they're just trying to show the parallels there. I there's a couple things I also liked the scene of him where he like as pissed off. Well, he hasn't pissed off you just walked out on his old manager and he's trying to come up with another bank roll to get you know Minnesota fats back on on the line and He plays it this just like you can tell this neighborhood bar is. Like just the worst kind of like smokey filled shit hole pool junkie place and I have a bar neighborhood called the arena. That's exactly like this like no vertical surfaces made out of the same constructed material lack the floors and the ceiling don't meet at the same angles. There's a whole bunch of bizarre altitude changes. The floor plan makes who the hell knows By there's another thing that. It here's like old Hollywood, the scene of them breaking his thumbs. Was So wildly done that. I'm like Oh did they rape him with a pool stick like what the Hell happened? This is such a bizarre. So like until he showed up with the next scene with his hands in these enormous cat oh. No before that he had the foam rubber hands all kind of swollen and mangled..
"hustler" Discussed on Bald Movies
"I got troubles and I can tell you got troubles. We should really just kind of leave each other alone of like I like you too much to involve you in my hustling. And she but then they can't resist each other because they're also kind of weirdly perfect for each other perfectly understand. Yeah. Like they're both living outside the margins of society deems acceptable for them to be doing it only they can handle it straight long enough to understand that about each other, right? Yeah. Yeah and there's a whole bunch of leg just like I remember spoilers here we're gonNA start spoiling the shit out of it But like there's this the point where the movie really made me like at one point Paul. Newman, slaps her yeah which was lag fucking moments and then like Win George C. Scott kind of worms his way into Paul, Newman's characters life and just starts. Eating it from inside out like a vile lucky drank a vial of acid turning him against Sarah. Then say like I. IT'S A. The movie kept going like even darker from where I was expecting it to go. Yeah You know it's very tasteful for like Hollywood standards like you know her the eventual suicide is shot in a way that like. You. have to. You know it's like a child would understand why Paul Newman is. So upset with what he's seeing in there because there's like just a spot of blood on sinking that's it and it's all in black night. So there's no reality. twenty twenty, the whole fucking bathroom floor would be read and it would be in vivid technicolor and you have the full horror of it but now I love the way shot I. Think I think it's it. It's really good in the moment with Paul Newman because you're not sure what happened there until you see the aftermath. But the film like it's like the whole first act is is breathless thing. It's like you know I thought like when he sits down with Minnesota fats and he's starting to shoot this game pool like well, this is going to be you know he's going to his ass whipped and then he's going to level up through the whole film and then he's GonNa come back and win for good. But like that first match, it's weird it's almost like if you were watching rocky and the final fight. Happens in the first act and then the climactic fight is just like a minor rehash of that first amazing fight. This pool game, they start playing pool at eight PM. They don't start playing until four o'clock in the I think four o'clock the next after the next afternoon it's this weird llamas kind of. Endurance Pool and. It's I don't know. If that's a normal thing, I feel like it's not as hustle you're probably in and out pretty quick in these places. So as not to get found out But. Yeah. I mean everybody knows what the score is here. The. Nobody. Nobody's being hustled. This is just to professionals going at it for money there. It's a prizefight they try. It's hilarious because newman comes in they're like, Oh, who's that Fast Eddie Felson guy who's he never heard of him riot? Yeah. He's GonNa try to hustle these guys but then it becomes clear they're displaying at some point. And there is that's the thing it's like it's never not a hustle because like fats agrees to play for one hundred dollars a game, which is a princess son back in the day. But the next time he comes in, he wants a thousand dollars a game because he's like you're I know you're you know I know you're dangerous now because almost beat me in fact, the only reason you didn't beat me is because you're loser..
My Biggest Lessons From 4 Million Podcast Downloads
"Tae Guys, it is Michaela here and I'm back with another solo episode I. Hope You guys are doing well protecting your energy and protecting your piece. It's so so important especially right now you guys this is the Mossel episodes I have done in a while and maybe doing for a while because we're going to get back to our interviews with side. Hustler's turn entrepreneurs however however. I definitely wanted to jump back in and share my experience giving birth during a pandemic have been doing juggling up getting back to being a mom for Noor and just how I'm easing back into a podcast life, my work life and I'm glad I've been able to catch you guys up and also catch all of you new listeners. Shout you guys for joining the journey as well. the last episode I shared how I did it turning a podcast into a full time business and this episode I want to share the lessons I have learn overall journey podcasting. So four years and four million downloads. Later, this is going to be my breakdown of what I really think contributes to my success. When I was starting out on this journey I, didn't know where it would lead. Of course I had dreams and everyone who starts something you want it to be well received you wanted to be big you want it to be so successful. So of course, I had those thoughts but I also thought that I was hoping to gain inspiration from my guests and figure out what to use my talent. What kind. Of Business to start with talents that have the skills that I have, I did not think that I would focus on the podcast itself and ended up leaving my job two podcasts full-time. So that was a surprising life turn. I tested things out empty always work and in a lot of trial and error I also learned through spending time researching my ideas researching my industry and investing my own money into training conferences. And classes to learn more and then put what I learned into practice immediately and emphasis emphasis emphasis on the word practice because there was no one who had a specific blueprint for what I went to do like once I figured out that I wanted to scale my podcast with certain level. There was no class that I could take that taught me that exactly that's why I teach what I know now podcast Mongols. Because here, I have the blueprint I've done it and I'm doing it and I wanna make it easier for everyone else rather than trying to piecemeal information from all different sources So the practice was essential and now as I reflect, I can identify some of the key factors that have allowed me to have a successful podcast. So here goes, I, have divided it into lessons for y'all already. So lesson number one. Don't be afraid to be known for something for Steinhaeuser pro podcast is about black women entrepreneurs who scaled from side-hustle two fulltime entrepreneur myself included. I'm not afraid to be known for that nor do I shy away from focus on black women because it may make someone else uncomfortable the people who need this show the people who listen to this show span, all races and genders. Okay but but but sir. The reason I focus in on black women and the reason I focused on that specific specific topic is because I want people to understand what this show is about you will have. No. Problem sharing this with somebody else because I. Make It crystal clear what we talk about. So often when my podcast moguls members joined the program, one of the first questions I asked him is what is your podcast about and often they tell me two or three different things Oh i WanNa talk about leadership in corporate America also WanNa talk about you know dating with my girlfriend bring her on as a guest and then i WanNa talk about I don't know travel. And always have to say we weightless. Let's roll it on back in the stroller back because. You are doing this as a catchall because you're afraid to be known for something. This is when we have to work together to refine their podcast topic. What's often behind their answer and their topic being so broad so vague and Goose for a better word. Is there fear of being pigeonholed? But when you are known for something, you're just floating around in the podcast categories not really fitting in nut grabbing anyone's attention because they have no idea how your show will help them how your show entertain them and you're just making your life harder. What is the use of having a show? If no one knows what it's about then they? Can't recommend it. One of the keys to the growth of sidelines Appro is that it was specific and specific things are sharable and sharable things are scalable. So do not be afraid to dig deep and be known for something because if someone can't walk away from listening to your podcast and tell someone else in one sentence, what is about then it's going to be very hard for you. So own your topic.
Stephanie Fleming on organization, life hacks, and how she built 'The Happy Planner' and 'Me & My Big Ideas'
"Are so excited to. To introduce incredible Stephanie Fleming. She is a creative entrepreneurs speaker of and wellness seeker. Most notably, she is the CO founder of me and my big ideas creator of the happy planner, and what began twenty years ago as a tiny garage business is now an industry leading lifestyle brand and offers a wide variety of products that inspire customers to live creatively and plan a happy life. Please welcome Stephanie to the show. Okay, we'll Stephanie. We are so excited to have you on the here for her podcast. Thank you so much for joining us. And we are so curious about everything that you've created and your and so I think. Our audience is going to be very very interested in the business aspect of. Everything that we're about to talk about some super excited cool. I'm so excited to be talking to you. Guys for those who don't know. Tell us a little bit about your health. I'm Stephanie. Fleming and I'm a creative entrepreneur. I actually call myself like an accidental entrepreneur. I started my business me and my big ideas with my mom twenty actually over twenty years ago started in my garage with an idea of just one idea for making stickers for the scrapbooking industry at that time and. And really just kind of wanted to do it too. I needed a creative outlet. Yes, but I needed to pay the bills like I. was you know a young mom and struggling to make ends meet, and just really wanting to like. Go out there and I would do anything because I you know I wanted a better life for myself, and for my kids and and so I was definitely you're. You're? The definition of a hustler like I was like I have no money, but I will put in the sweat equity so. We been hustling with me and my big ideas for. Over twenty years now, and we've created everything from paper stickers and now planner, so planners is our latest the happy planners, our latest product line and It's just been such a a wonderful thing for us to get into because we get to share a love for creativity for positively, and that's been kind of where I have fallen in the last probably five or six years which. Not only being an entrepreneur in a business person, but also being able to be the spokesperson for our product and our brand, and that's something that I've been totally passionate about. It's amazing. I'm curious. So, what did you do before you started your business? Were you a stay at home? Mom? Did you have have a job, so I was? I was pregnant when I was eighteen. Not Married had had a baby, and when immediately from high school to I need to find some way to take care of my son and I did in home daycare for eight years, and was daycare provider for six kids usually at one time and it was you know it's honest work? It's hard work. It's eleven hour days for you know for eight years and you know all I to do is be a good mom, and and so I didn't have a college education. I grew up in the craft industry though my. My parents had a manufacturing and distributing business so I grew up from picking orders in the warehouse. To you know watching my parents who are entrepreneurs basically navigate the craft industry and come along with them to trade shows and things like that so I always had that creative bug, and and even as an entrepreneur as a kid I was making little catalog, so you can buy these cards here, my designs and so, but then life hits, and then you have to go out, and you know and do the best you can and and so at the time. In one, thousand, nine, hundred eight. My mom and my mom had sold that business, she and my stepdad divorced and they sold their business, and so she was kind of at this place in her life where she was like okay. I'm ready to start over, I need. She was probably my age now, and it was like thinking I need to start over and figure out what life looks like for me. Now and I was saying I just I want to start something something I want to do anything and so my mom had some seed money and. Like I said I would do. You know so. I stayed up all night trying to find just hustling to find hair. Competitors are advertising in this trade magazine. So that's a potential a mailing list for so anything possible. I was willing to do so. Yeah so it was not like I had this pedigree of an MBA, and I'm going. Go start a business, and that's why I say I'm definitely. An accidental entrepreneur, but I've I've loved it. We'll story. It is very very cool. It seems like you had it in your blood like raped in the beginning. Though like it was something that you're meant to do. I, think so. I think without knowing that that's what it was like. I was just cleaning out. One of the things we've done in quarantine is cleaning out our garage and so all my memorabilia. That's where I found my card. Catalogue of here are the things you combine I'm like I always was. Experiencing entrepreneurship right in front of my is growing up but I never really knew it. In fact, my mom was in charge of all of the creative side of the business, and was the one in charge of new products, and out there trying to find out what creative women were doing next, and so when my mom would go on an rnd shopping trip and take all of us with her. We didn't realize what we were doing was watching her shopping trends and seeing what was out in fashion, and how we can bring that into the craft and creative industries, so when it just seemed like something natural, and now I'm trying to identify people go. Where do you find your trend Mic-? Just Watch I. Just look and so yeah. We were Kinda groomed without knowing that that's what was happening. So cool and so. You had your first business you? You began doing that twenty years ago. And then you landed to the happy planner, which has been a huge success and It's a it's a beautiful book. It's something that you want to. Hold in your hand, and just like carry with you all the time. It's so cute and fashionable. Where did that idea come from? And how? How did you of get to that point? Where like I want to be in this market of making planners? Happy like honestly we've had a lot of great products that of sold weller mckellen's pretty cool, but the happy planner is like it's so me. It's totally me so the the way we came up with. It was pretty much the same process that we did it with anything. As we and my sister is heavily involved in product about men in our company as well, but we watch in decide okay. scrapbooking was huge for a while, and so we were able to kind of ride that. That wave and we've kept coming out with products and line extensions and and then you kind of see that it was kind of starting to taper off. It was not as popular and the products weren't as weren't selling and going doing the having the sell through that they did before, so we're like okay. We need to know what creative women are doing next. which is what my mom did, so we would always be looking for what. What what do i WanNa do what is something that's interesting for me. and and then also kind of searching pinterest looking around water, creative women doing so for some reason on pinterest people were taking just regular planners from staples, or whatever and they were putting our scrapbooking products, stickers and things and making them cute but the scrapbooking don't really fit like they don't fit size-wise. They didn't fit if you're you know the stickers we were. Were to commemorate memories and things, and that's not necessarily the things that you need for planning so I kind of just you know, and they were boring to staples like office supply things. They have black brown different color bays. You know really great. You know what I think. Someone would would think the businessmen would like. And then there was like three designs that were like purple. Paisley or some ugly grandma color. You know I'm a woman, I. I don't want that, so we thought definitely we could do better in design. We could get them more affordable. We could create accessories that would go specifically for them, and then you could put in those accessories like things that are positive so that every single day when you're planning when you're having fun putting stickers out ever, there's this creative positive message that makes you happy that keeps you going, and so it was just a kind of another. Offshoot into what we normally do. What are creative women doing? And at this point? It was like people are busy, and they want to be creative, but they need that little bit of licensed to say it's okay when you're planning your schedule. You can kind of put a sticker downer. Says you can do it or just. Those little positive affirmations make a make a big difference. I love that so much were all about positive affirmations and There's something that I still love about having a planner in front of me like an organizational planner. Where where I. Can you know touch the pages and I can mark things off. It's so different than a calendar on Google you know and I've always I've i. still have a planner, so I love that, but I'm curious because you have built such a successful brand and obviously. You've separated yourself in so many ways by having something very unique You offer as something that's very I would say year to the millennial woman. But how how have you separated yourself with your branding? I'm just so curious about like where your sales come from utilizing social media, you have a huge social media following. So, how what kind of what was your? What was the method to your madness at that point when you started thinking ahead? Yeah, so at that point. We had we had a very successful company in the craft industry and up? Until that point, we had what I figured successful products. We didn't really have necessarily like brand. Following social media was just coming up, but you know there was something about the happy, and I think my own personal passion for the product helped in planning it. No Pun intended. because. I feel like we got to this place or like this product line. I just feel like we need to be able to have a brand. There's gotta be a message behind because the message of the product is so powerful and so really. What happened I mean there wasn't? A Master Plan I love this product so much. That I just started talking about it and sharing on social media back in the periscope days. You remember, periscope yeah. Remember. About it and I just said you know what I would anytime we would come up with something, or we had something new exciting happening in office. I'd like I'm just GONNA share. It's just going to be I wanted to our product and the brand to feel like like we were just friends sharing like. If I was you know to call you up and say Oh, my Gosh I'm so excited. We just got this prototype in, and here's what it looks like. Here's how I'm going to use it and every. Every new products came in. We previewed it on periscope did live Q. and A. is, and and that's before people really doing that and we were sharing the process and the product, and sharing my excitement, geeking out over stickers and a paper planner you know, so. It became I thought there was really no plan other than to share authentically, and that was really before, but you know everything authenticity be authentic was just such a overused catchphrase, but that's what it was because I didn't actually want to be the spokesperson. For our company, and because it's such a team effort, and so I'm not. I'm not maybe maybe I wouldn't had the idea for. Let's let's look into to paper planners, but I didn't create designs, and I not the artist, and I'm not the one who source the product and sold it in such a team so but. In order I felt so passionately that. Don't have relationships with companies. They don't have relationships with products, but they have relationships with people and brands, and if I could be that conduit. To Give A. Personality to our land our company then. I'm like all right. I'm willing to do because I was the one before it was like no, I don't really want to know I'm just I'm fine to not do it, but when I was sharing something, I was so passionate about the following just came. We did not say hey. We want to get to I. Think we're over six hundred thousand on instagram. We didn't have a plan for that. I mean eventually to grow. It takes you get to a certain point. It's like okay now. You have to plan, but we grew our numbers very very organically, and by just engaging with them. You know true engagement and it's. It's not even just the number in the plan, but it's like. Are you engaged? Do you care about your followers? Do you care about your customers and deal you know? Are you engaging that way? Are you doing it for the rise near following? Are you doing it for the sale? Are you doing? Are you doing it because this? Just feel so right to you know. Yeah while you're on that topic, too. Because so cool that you grew organically because. I mean it's such an easily marketable product, but also like how how do you stand out amongst your competitors are? There's other planner companies out there. So what's your differentiating factor with your product? So at the beginning? We were the only ones pretty much doing what we did, so we stood out really quick, and it's almost like I. Always say like it was like. Like when I had my first when I said WHO's very well behaved typical. I am such a good mom. And then my daughter came a second, and she is like great, but she's you know totally like wild spirit and I'm like oh my gosh. I need to to work at this little more. So when we did when all of a sudden you're like It's growing and you're thinking. Oh, my gosh is great. People are just listening, and then all of a sudden when you're onto something, people and other brands and other companies go. They're onto something I. Think I'm going to try that, too. And then what you were doing so authentically is being duplicated right so. So what we have always done I think and even back in the scrapbooking and paper. Crafting days was just advice. My mom gave me is just really don't worry too much about what other people are doing. Find out what you uniquely do. What is it that your company or your brand do what do you? How do you stand out and for US There's a lot of people who have high end stationary and people. People that are saying a professional and I want it to look like this or I. Don't like this about your as well. This is who we are. We are colorful and fun and were affordable. We have a disc bound system where you can change things in and out, and those are some things honestly and with the brand that will turn people off when you really claim like who you are. Some people are going to say. Well, I. Don't know but I. don't like that well, but this is who we are when you can really find that those are the things that just kind of narrowed down, and you nail it down so much that these are the things that make us unique, and so for us. We embraced all of that. That is who we are fun and colorful, positive and an interchangeable, and all these things about the product and about our messaging. That's what we focused on, and I think even especially going forward when it becomes harder and you. Maybe at this point, we're going like you see a slowing in not just gaining followers as fast when you get up high. And there's more people in the space so for us it's how can we find? What, we, what is it that we offer? That's unique whether it's the message product. And, you kind of have those pillars of our being authentic. Is it something that's different or are we just white noise in the space? Should we be making a change? We be pivoting. Right now do. Is there something we need to be doing to be more aware of the surroundings of the economy of this of society so You're constantly looking for you have to just be aware. Of who you are where you're going and not being paying too much attention to. The competitors and the people aside. It's really hard though it's hard to do because you find yourself looking. They're doing so good over there. Maybe I should change and go that way so knowing who you are is a huge part of that success for us. And, I love how you really made an emphasis on. Being okay with not being a good fit for everyone, and you know we talk about this even on social media. How you know people always give us questions on. You know my Gosh I I lost if I don't post for three days. I'll lose one hundred followers well if those people want on, follow you because you haven't posted three days. They're not your people. Like they were never people anyway, so I love that you have you have a focus and you understand your branch so well. The you know who you're catering to, and also you mentioned pivoting when you need to because. You know I think that people get so focused on the end goal, and if it's not if it doesn't turn out exactly how they anticipated that it would be, they give up right, so I think that's I. Love that so much and it kind of brings me to my next question on. The hardships entrepreneurship because I think that when people look from the outside, they see this beautiful brand that you've built a successful mom who's who's doing it all, but it takes so much work and behind the scenes that the people don't see. Can you walk us through some of those hardships that you faced in how you've kind of gotten through them? Oh yeah and I think. I'm so glad you brought that up because you especially on social media, people will see their, so they'll say. Where were you because I'm pretty active on my own, and then also I with the happy planner, but it like where were you? We Miss John there. I'm like you guys like if I would have shown. What I was doing for the past seven days, it was get up in the morning. Go to work. Stay there till seven o'clock have like meetings altay come home barely figure how I'm going to get the door dash before I wanna fall asleep, and then you know over it over and over again and I'm like it's not glamorous. It's hard There's a lot that goes into it. You know and you have to love it if you are somebody who has your own business or your own brand? You have to love it because it is not I mean I would say. Ninety, eight percent of it's not glamorous, but it's rewarding. You know it's something that you love, but you're GONNA have failures. You can't be afraid to work hard and fail. Because, you're GONNA. Do both of those all the time? And you know and learning from your from your failures for me. It's like you know we've had products that the ones that you've mentioned like happy planner that quadrupled the size of our business in the matter of two years But in the in between, and we had already had like a pretty successful company, and we were like well, but what you don't see, are all of the things where you come out with the product and you're like that's a dog. You Know Kate next. What do we? Can we learn from that? You know that's what you can't. You can't shy away from it, but nobody wants to see that nobody, but those are the lessons. Are you know what you're seeing? When when you see the happy planner is our success of you know Gosh over twenty we did that. It was fifteen years. I think into the our business before we hit that like Grand Slam, we'd had several. You know that was. This product was a triple. This one was a strikeout. This one was a base hit. And then you know, we never know we not. Even we're not even. Promise that we were going to have that big of a success that we just kept going and every time we did we learned something like Oh we didn't do. The packaging wasn't right or you know. Maybe we rent to too early into that trend, or maybe we didn't research it enough or maybe we learned something every time but I mean we've had. We've had product failures. We've had really difficult times in the economy I've been around here through September eleventh through the two thousand eight crash where the business was doing great, and then all of a sudden we've had were having to like have layoffs and figure out how to make the hard decisions. To keep your business healthy and around and surviving, and that's really hard. I mean that's something that right now we're going through. You know we have. Luckily we've got a great basin. We've had a very successful business, but this is a gut punch, and for a healthy business like ours. This has been really difficult and I can only imagine if you're struggling before this, but you just have to figure out you. It's almost like a business as almost like being a parent. You've got to make those tough decisions. Decisions you know that not everyone's going to understand. That's going to be hard. It's going to keep you up at night. and those those you don't see those on social media. No one's sharing like we had to really hard today and or have been meetings all day, and if they are, they're showing you the picture of themselves looking really cute, and you know here I am with my thing and it's. It's just not always like that victims hardly ever like that, so I think it's sometimes i. I've shared lots more real version especially on my own personal social media on instagram. Especially because I, think we do a disservice to. Everybody but to women's in general specifically where it's like if you're trying to be an inspiration and trying to share with other women, this is what if I can, we can all be here for each other. You, know in business, and this is how we can succeed. We are doing a disservice if we are just showing what our lives really never looked like And how how then do those? How'd you push through? How do you push through at the worst times for people that are listening that are entrepreneurs have launched their business or not seeing success right away. Like what have you learned to cut has kept you going. I think i. mean this sounds like something that my husband would go. No, if you can't measure it, you can't manage it because he's. My husband was our CFO CEO and. But for me, I, it's so much into an instinct. And then pushed through because I believe in my instinct very strongly. There's a thing like I feel like you know for us. We were very fortunate that the business that we started stayed healthy, and was viable forever, however I. Kind of look at our product launches in our product releases and different product types almost like many businesses, because there comes a time when you know this isn't working, you know there comes a time when you're like. We just need to let this keep going. We need to work at market. We need and you just you kind of. If you're really being honest with yourself, you know when it's like am I pushing too hard for something. That's not really making. Any headway or do I just need to keep working harder and I feel like You know if we ask ourselves how we done everything. HAVE WE EXHAUSTED EVERY OPTION? That's what I think. We need to kind of listeners, though because I just feel like if you are sitting here like. With a struggling business, let's say whether it's from the economy or just like I'm just not going anywhere It's hard because some people will say just keep going. Just keep going all the time. I don't think you should do that all the time. Sometimes you want maybe need to move onto. Something different doesn't mean you're not going to be. In business or start your own company, or but maybe this, isn't it? Maybe it is? Maybe you're just sitting there going. You know what this is going to be tough times, but I believe in this business i. know we have and we're going to keep going, so you kind of have to listen to that. You know you're got to say. Where are you? Are you? You know? Do I need to keep pushing through this, or is there something else that I need to be? Doing are exploring. It's such a weird time to because with everything going on I. Mean People are obviously doing less news less really to plan but I think there's still an opportunity and it's great that the product isn't just a manner planning out your daily activities that can also be used for intentional set goal setting in just writing down thoughts that you have journaling so I love that it's it's I town that regard Have you guys thought of ways to during this tough time? Kind of still sell your product in different ways or maybe thinking about different product lunches. Were you know what kind of has been brewing in the last few weeks, so it's like a perfect example of. Of evolving and pivoting right so like. Yes, when you're when we're looking at people that are planning your days just filled. My days were just like I couldn't even have the whole damn thinking. How tiny can I right because there's so much going on, but you know one of the other things we have in our product, minus positively journaling and guided journals, and then when you you know for us, it would be so tone deaf to be talking. Talking about we know you're busy. Let's just talk about busy busy busy schedule Hustle. Let's go because this is not the time for that, so we had to look at. What do we have in? You know in our offering. And what do we have What do we think is important or is there something else we can offer so for us? you know slowing down journaling 'cause for me. It's all about putting the pen to paper. I Love I love my. Technology and I. On my computer as well, but there's something to me about writing stuff down whether it's my schedule and prioritizing key efficient or whether it's like you know just journaling what I'm grateful for writing that down I did a whole like wellness like year in two thousand eighteen, where every single day for the entire year I journal. Like what am I feeling I thought it was going to be like more. Of a fitness thinks I like. My cholesterol is high, and I needed to lose weight, and I was going to do all these things I'm going to travel the stuff and what it became was. Oh my gosh, I'm realizing that I'm tagging my emotions now like when I would write things down the journaling became the biggest part for me is what I was feeling like I was really I felt very marginalized that meeting today, and I came home, and I think like I was going into hibernation. You know and I was angry and I was, but I was identifying my feelings. Why was I instead of just going like writing down my food log? You know it's like it wasn't helpful for me. I. Know How to eat healthy. But to realize that when I feel angry, I don't know what to do with those feelings and to eat them you know, or and I'm like an eye stuff them and I. Try and do anything in Canton. and that was like a realization for me, so we're kind of leaning into that and saying hey, right now when you're stressed or you're afraid or whatever it is that you're going through. What can you lean into? And how can you get in touch with your feelings whether it's do journaling or if you really do maybe you're a mom who is trying to work fulltime at home and also. Also home school your kids to the distance learning the. Maybe you need to be really efficient, so you need to you know. What is it that you need and listening to that? Do you need to be productive? Do you need to be kind of moving a little more inward, and then just writing it down and really getting out of your head and onto paper, so you can help process it. Yeah I need to start journaling. That is something that. I know he's for the whole year. Did you notice that it had a huge impact on? It changed the way I thought it totally and I'm the same way because I'm like I'm so famous for starting a journal. And then it's really good for like a couple weeks, and then it's empty, and I keep it and all these like you know journals that have a little bit done in the beginning, and then like I wish I could combine them all. And are they now? It's like so I just said I have never made like a year long commitment to myself I. Will I mean I will do anything for my kids. My husband, my family, my, you know the team of me me and my big ideas, but for me. It'd be like I'm always the first one to get shoved off the list and so I, said I need I was stressed because just like what you were saying. Our business was. Wildly successful that year, and the year before that but I was so stressed out. Because when you quadruple the size of your company, and you're trying to do the same things that you did before scaling it and learning how to do that so quickly is really stressful for a for a creative person who likes to do things like. As I'm inspired. And so. So dealing with that was huge, so all of these things that I saw which were gaining weight having high cholesterol, not sleeping at night, having hiring Zaidi I was thinking, it was because I'm out of shape or this and I didn't really realize accepted the journaling. which that's not what I started to do. That it was more than just that and so this journaling process just gave me. Such clarity and insight into my own feelings that I had no idea and I don't think if I if I just tried to do that at the very beginning for just a little bit I, don't think I would have. Gotten as deep because like doing it every single year someday the destroy today sucked. He knows the worst day ever and I didn't know how to see it through, but then as I got used to journaling just as an exercise every day. I learned to go. You know to just kind of. I guess like look a little deeper. Really. Shed light on stuff that I had no idea I was looking for. I feel like now. I'M GONNA. Go buy one of your journals because I'm so inspired by that by just what you said and I think that I'm someone that just keeps everything in my head and I talked to myself all day every day just. All the things that have to do all the things that should you know that are behind me? That I should have done yesterday it's that's great. I love that with you. You know you don't realize that when you're not like kind of emptying out. It's like for me I was not able to. I was not able to like think of I was kind of creatively blocked, and then I was like even motion. Lee blocked and they just didn't realize because I'm the same. I am an over thinker. I like I process everything and I just I kinda hold onto it and I get very wrapped up in my own head, and so it was just almost like an emptying of it and helps me sleep. Helped me do all that stuff, so my guys. I think you'll love it. Okay. I'm sold. journaling. Borsch, now let's talk a little bit about living intentionally, which is very much related to what we're talking about now, bite. What does it mean for you to live intentionally? And how can people cultivate a more meaningful life? Because obviously you found your passion, you work really hard at you. Know keeping your mind rate, and it seems like you're a very self, reflective person, but how how have you gotten there? I think. I've always been somebody who really likes. Growing looking inside I ask a Lotta questions of myself and. Other people like I. Try and tell my husband like I'm not really trying to psychoanalyze you. Even I would love to just get into everybody's head, but I think that there's so much we can learn. And one of the things that I have learned just by trying to grow as a person and being teachable. Has Been You. Know there's nobody in the world that is going to take charge of my life, my happiness, the things that I want that me. Matt what happens around me it doesn't you know we can all we can all be complaining about what's happening in the world with your job with your relationship, but when it really comes down to it, you're the one that's responsible for what it is. You want in your life and how happy you are. And so for me, it started with number one. I needed to. Learn how to love myself because I didn't love and accept yourself believe you're worthy of all those things, and then once you believe that those things started kind of coming into my life and a realize it's like you know. That was something that I had to really focus on. I had to work on with myself I am. We're a project, so if you go out there, and you really want a job, or you really want to start a business, or you want a relationship. You have to almost I think. Go for the life that you want with that same passion and I mean for me. It's just been about really starting to identify. What is it that you want? What is it that makes you happy? And how do you need to get that? I think that's why I'm a planner at heart, because living intentionally as really planning, you're trying to like you have to identify something first and then figure out how you're going to get it right, so it's like for me. Identifying. What makes me happy? What the name of our podcast plan? Happy Life at the Tagline for our company. Or for the for the happy planner, because really feel like you know if if for me, I need to identify what it is, that makes me happy right, and so I'm not somebody who is an Adrenalin Junkie I'm not someone who needs a lot of activity in my life, I need I need serenity a need. Calm I need a place to be creative I want to go travel I want to be with my family so when I. Start to really identify Granular Li, like what it is, that makes me happy and what I want I can easily say you know okay well. Then I am intentionally going to make the choices that get me closer to those things that I want and. It's really a responsibility. You know it's really taking responsibility for For the actions that we take and you know and I think it's empowering I actually feel like instead of going like Oh. My Gosh I'm responsible for all of these things in my life and no one's going to do about me that makes me. I think it just gives it gives me the power back to say you know. Stuff can happen all around me. Crap can just be going on like everywhere and internally I can live intentionally with what makes me happy, which what? And I can be. Responsible for especially this stuff that's going on in my head. You know so setting intentions of you know whether it's daily whether it's setting an intention for a year or whenever you're feeling like you need a little more clarity into. What am I working for I think it's a really powerful thing to do and I know sometimes when things get more popularity. They gained that whole like people in Oh. Yeah, okay. Setting intentions are doing all this, and it sounds a little Wu, and all that and I'm like it, but it really really makes a difference in how we live our lives, and the decisions that we make yeah, and it's all it all goes back to taking accountability, right and totally nine I. always talk about this on the podcast where a lot of people struggle with that I. Think they kind of have this. Poor me, mentality or you know I could never accomplish that I'm not ex- enough. I'm not educated. Enough I'm not. You know fast enough smart enough pretty enough whatever it is, and I just do I. Hope that if pe- when people listen to this episode, they really if they take anything from it. I really hope that they listen to what you just said. Because it's so powerful, that's such a like. I can't I've had a lot of things. People will ask me like well. Of course, it's easy for you to be happy because where you are today, you know and I said, but but here's what you don't understand is that? The reason I'm happy is not because I have all the things that I have the reason I have all the things that I have is because a happy positive person who believes that I have. that. What happens in my life is a result of you know of the way that I go about it and what I believe I deserve and how and then I can have those things I'm happy. And I'm positive period. Doesn't necessarily. Happy happy I just mean like I'm going to be content and positive and optimistic in my life. No matter what is going on and I have lived through a lot of things I've had like I said I shared with you. Guys had some traumatic things in my childhood that have happened I was had a child eighteen I had a lot of money issues. I'm growing up. I was in an abusive relationship with physically and mentally, and there's a have been drug abuse them I mean lots of things that I've had to deal with and. I could very easily any of those instances been. Why did this happen to me? I could never start a business because I don't have a college education and they don't have any money, and they don't have this and you know. What will people think of me and you know a? Growing and believing that you can do something, no matter what like having that resilience and having that. Like I'm just going to figure it out like I said I. It pretty much anything now I'm probably going to be more of a of a jack-of-all-trades master of none but that's okay. That's who I am, and that's really has gotten me where I'm at, but yeah. I just I think if anything I totally agree with you. If I share anything, it would be that no matter what your circumstances are in life. I think optimism and. And believing that no matter what happens to you, you will get through this, and you make something of yourself, and you can get the things that you want in life If you know if you're working, you work hard. You have to be willing to work hard. You have to be teachable if to learn to be confident, but all those things are things you can control. And it doesn't really matter what your circumstances are. So that would be something I mean. Yes. I love the product. Yes, I love our brand. Yes, I love all these other things, but that's just something that I think everyone can take with them throughout their lives. Such great life advice, and it's so true I feel like there's been looking back and reflecting on my own experiences to and the hardships that you know everyone has different forms of adversity, but how you respond and react to that is I think all the difference and I think it was a murray furlough that said everything is figure out. That just. When you said that because it's true like if you have that drive and that hustle enough to do what it is that you WanNa, do you can figure that all out and I think Alex also reiterated several times. There's this concept of just start now. Figure everything else out along the way as you go. Otherwise, you're never gonNA start. You're never going to achieve those goals but in terms of goal, setting and just organizational tips. I mean I feel like the ideal buyer of the happy planner is a very organized individual, or maybe they're aspiring to be more organized. So what are some good organizational tips just in general that people can start practicing and then apply to the happy planner. And I am not a naturally organized person. At like what you see back there on this video that we're recording over is not what it normally looks like I'm a creative person so I'm very like. Just kind of scattered and I will follow an idea like if I have an idea, I'm like I'm down that rabbit hole and. There's a chaos and mastic usually follows so being organized and using happy planner and using organizational tools is actually been essential for me to be like a productive society member of society or running a business, so one of my favorite tools and I think we kind of alluded to this a little earlier was getting things out of your head in getting him down I use a master What I call him Master Action Item List, so it doesn't matter if like you are thinking of I've gotTa. GotTa do cupcakes the Kids School I've got empty. The dishwasher I have a huge project that I'm working on. That's do every little thing. Take space up in your head and It doesn't really you know you're not really. They all have the same weight, so you're thinking constantly of the Dishwasher, the cupcakes and all of these things and you don't have the space to really think about Give yourself like. Hey, now. I'm really focusing on the project because there's so much stuff spinning in your head. And, so I think David Allen I think is his name he said you're. You're headed for having ideas, not storing them so like for me. It's like Oh, my gosh, that is so perfect so I take and had this one massive list actually I have to, but it's ones home in one's work, but usually for most people one will do and. If everything that comes out of my head is something that I have to do if it's an action item. I put it on my list and then I work from that list. Would plan my weeks when I plan my days, so I look at Monday and I think okay. I've got five meetings not lot. Stuff's going to be coming off that to do list, but on Tuesday I have one meeting in the morning and I had the whole day that I. have so I'll go off of my master list and then start working from there. I'M NOT GONNA forget my tasks that way. It's not going to be like oh shoot cupcake sting it. You have your your things that have due dates and everything so when I'm working from it I don't have fifteen sticky notes everywhere and a piece of paper that I wrote over there. That I got lost cause. I left it in my car and you're constantly then figuring out. How do I remember where it was that thing so keeping everything kind of in one place has been a big tip for me. the second organizational tip that I use I plan every Sunday I plan my week out every Sunday so or whatever the day before the start of week.' In for me. Mondays the start, so I sit down I. Take a look at what are all of the to the must do's appointments. The the deadlines that have to happen that week and get all those things in there and I. I plan everything out from date night with my husband every week. we're putting that in their first wins the time that I need one of my GonNa. Go exercise. When am I going to those put in appointments, and then I start to fill in again with things from that master to do. If I don't do that, then you know, there's things that come up and they're just time. Thief's and they come in to take in all of a sudden. You look and you've spent. Monday and you're thinking I've done nothing you know. It could be a week and you're going like shoot. There's nothing off my list. conversely you can take a look at that, and if you've been really productive, there've been times. I had no idea I could get that much done. So those are two tips for me to stay on and just to contend me. Being organized means being productive, because if I'm not productive, my stuff's all over the place. I get very easily overwhelmed, and that is not a good place for me to be. I was GONNA ask as well with with your master. Master list you add everything from like emptying the dishwasher doing laundry like every task so usually I have like if those are ongoing I will have just started doing this, which helped a lot, but all I kind of assign like if something that occurs every week for me I have a list. That's basically recurring tasks, so if you're if it's a cleaning thing, it's like an you know you've got changes sheets. You know the bathrooms or whatever I've got empty Roomba. because. Just, all those little things that are like take the trash out. Those are of things that I put off to the side which are more recurring tasks. And then when I sit down. Unday, I think you know empty room by the today's the in the evenings and do my meal planning here and those things happen all the time. The the Master List for me is you know the things that are their projects or their like like for me for my work one. It's like every time like I need to talk to him about this Call up this person and make sure I return this thing and check out on. All of the let's marketing meetings scheduled out. Make sure to reach out and so then I can cross them off. On Cross them off. And then when they're done, they're done, and of course you know once it gets to about halfway marked off at create a new list because it's prettier. And I like doing that, but yeah, the reoccurred things I keep separately. Of It, so we're GONNA. Get this all in. Your home about really what you're saying is it comes down to time management skills right, and yes, you know like you said there are some days ago by and I'm like. How did I just spent two hours scrolling through instagram? Checking emails bearing bearing myself in emails that really don't I don't need to get back to these people right away and you self reflect and go like that I see I'm busy, but to hours of that time was wasted. Time management is huge, and that was another thing that I uncovered in my memorabilia box that said think I was in like fourth grade and the teacher says like Stephanie needs to learn time management. Because it is true, because I do the same thing and I feel like there's so many times when people say I just don't have enough time and I'm thinking i. just spent four hours binge-watching. Whatever I. We. Do have the time and that's okay. If you're going, you know what I'm going to. It's going to be a binge party like I am going to be watching and It's fine but I think we need to be aware like you don't WanNa miss out on the things that you either want to be doing our need to be doing because you're not managing your time well and like I said it's a constant struggle. This is going to be something that I'm GonNa be. Be doing for my whole life. Because you know because I'm just not naturally inclined to be that way even, but it's a habit you know, and it's easier for me now, but managing your time well and scheduling it out is is a habit that we form you know, and it's just like it just becomes easier and then yeah, you find him. There's nothing to me like when I look at a list I'm like. Oh, my gosh look! How productive I was this week! That is such a good feeling when you even when you finish the day, and you're like man I was on point today like I knocked this off the list and I. Did this and you just feel good? There's just this feeling it brings. There's something about they say like an actual like I don't know what gets release, dopamine, or whatever that when you cross things off your list. That, yes, go. It is what? What are some other resources that you? You've enjoyed yourself or that? You would recommend to listeners in terms of time, management or building, good habits, organizational tools and practices. I think that like to meet. Okay decluttering. Making sure that you like you don't have because again. The more clutter at the worst and I know they say you know a messy desk or whatever they say, but the MESSI dozen. Beans or whatever and it is, but it's probably one who's just driving themselves crazy 'cause they can't find anything so developing somewhat of. Of A protocol for how you're GONNA. Plan your weeks and then also. One of the things I don't know if it's not really a resource, but it's something that I learned that. I kind of tend to first thing in the morning. I want to like answer all like you're saying I. Want to answer all my emails, and then of course I go down. Somebody's asking you know unsubscribe to all these things now and then I started subscribing, and then I go down, and so somebody told me to block off your days and at the beginning. Do the most important thing for you that you need to. To get done in the morning or whenever it is that you work I work best in the morning and freshest van, and then about three o'clock, I'm looking for anything else. I'm looking for something to snack on or any distraction and it, but some people are not also if you're like going, this is when I do my best work. Then make sure you can identify those times because you're gonNA. Find that you have. You're going to get more done. You'RE GONNA feel more efficient more. More productive and I think that's going to help I. Definitely, figure think that if you can figure out how technology and productivity work for you. I am kind of a hybrid between outlook and all of the technology that we can't. We have that really does keep us I've got when I have meetings. All my stuff is stored. I, don't WanNa. Right down the zoom. Call Identification Number and the password, and all these things you know, that's all stored in my outlook and I have a really good relationship between paper planning and my tech, you know. And then but I have a process every time I have like a nice system. I think I think that works I've been I've used a lot of productivity tools into honest with you. Nothing's really kept me more productive than just keeping it simple and planning things out and getting stuff done I mean it. It starts off great, but then it's just something else for me to. Keep track of so having something just right in my face whether it's my outlook, calendar or or my paper planner I just like I, said I've tried I've tried them all I've tried. And I know they were really well for some people, but for me it's just all about keeping it really simple and just getting stuff done. Yeah, and you know what I love the realness because we get questions, sometimes of like. How do you have a business and you work fulltime in your mind like? How do you do all the things? And I always kind of self reflect in its and I always think you know. You make time for what's important to you. That's the bottom line. We all have twenty four hours a day. I think that that hustle mentality isn't always helpful and isn't always positive, but at the same time if you have something that you want to accomplish. You just have to do it. You have to figure it out and do it. That's the bottom line. So Yeah? I love what you said on that. You know what I'd like to ask you Stephanie. If there's some sort of book or podcast or resource that you'd recommend for our followers, I don't know if you have any in mind that something that is is really impacted you in some way. Yes, so two different two different things so a book that basically just changed my life completely were was the gifts of imperfection by Bernard Brown. And it was one of those things where I just realized I don't have to be perfect I'm worthy of just the way I am, and that just really kind of just her whole. I love her so much that book. When I started to believe those things about myself, things change. They think changed in my life. They changed in my business That's why I think that no matter what you're looking at doing that. Inner work is I. Don't don't try and like. Get the promotion or getting the relationship, because you think that's GonNa make you more successful or happier, or whatever, because if you're not okay with that first step I it's all going to be empty. You know you're going to get the promotion, but it's not gonNA. Feel as great as you thought it was. Because you're. There's there's that whole in there that you're trying to fill so. That personally was amazing for me and then I love how I built this by Cairo's and. The podcast and for business. That's something that I listened to and I just. If, you're ever wanting to start a business and you think well I don't fit the typical either entrepreneur or business owner, or whatever I don't fit that mold listen to those stories there from every walk of life and every kind of story. It's so empowering to listen to them, but it's also really interesting to see how some of those people dealt with you know the setbacks, and how they how they innovated, and how they funded their businesses, and it's really interesting, and so, and they've covered just about like every aspect of business so I love those, too. Such third-rate episode actually heard how I built. This I've never listened to it, but I've heard it is great good, so that'll be one that'll that'll be added to my podcast list. podcasts our life right now in quarantine. Basically do anything and just have headphones on and listen to podcasts. For sure so good. Well this has been great. We are so happy that we have had the chance to chat with you and an answer all of our questions. Where can people find you on on social media? And where can they purchase happy planner? So they can find a me personally and INSTAGRAM's. Where is my John? That's what I love the most. People over it Instagram, so you can find me at Stephanie Score, Fleming. And then you can find the happy planner, which on Instagram, as the underscore happy, underscore planner or the happy planet Dot Com. I also have a podcast called planet. Happy Life that host with my daughter, sharing tips about how you can choose to be happier and planned to be happier and. And we love that, so that is planned a happy life. You can find that. At Planet Happy Life Dot Com so and then the happy planner you can buy at craft stores all over Michael's Joanne. Hobby Lobby Walmart and that'd be planner DOT COM, so we're all over. Love it. It's awesome. That is so great. We will link everything in the show notes, and it has been such a pleasure Stephanie you offer so much wisdom. As it relates to not only business but life so thank you for sitting down with us today. Thank you appreciate it. It's been fun talking to you.
Interview With Stephanie Flemming
"Okay, we'll Stephanie. We are so excited to have you on the here for her podcast. Thank you so much for joining us. And we are so curious about everything that you've created and your and so I think. Our audience is going to be very very interested in the business aspect of. Everything that we're about to talk about some super excited cool. I'm so excited to be talking to you. Guys for those who don't know. Tell us a little bit about your health. I'm Stephanie. Fleming and I'm a creative entrepreneur. I actually call myself like an accidental entrepreneur. I started my business me and my big ideas with my mom twenty actually over twenty years ago started in my garage with an idea of just one idea for making stickers for the scrapbooking industry at that time and. And really just kind of wanted to do it too. I needed a creative outlet. Yes, but I needed to pay the bills like I. was you know a young mom and struggling to make ends meet, and just really wanting to like. Go out there and I would do anything because I you know I wanted a better life for myself, and for my kids and and so I was definitely you're. You're? The definition of a hustler like I was like I have no money, but I will put in the sweat equity so. We been hustling with me and my big ideas for. Over twenty years now, and we've created everything from paper stickers and now planner, so planners is our latest the happy planners, our latest product line and It's just been such a a wonderful thing for us to get into because we get to share a love for creativity for positively, and that's been kind of where I have fallen in the last probably five or six years which. Not only being an entrepreneur in a business person, but also being able to be the spokesperson for our product and our brand, and that's something that I've been totally passionate about. It's amazing. I'm curious. So, what did you do before you started your business? Were you a stay at home? Mom? Did you have have a job, so I was? I was pregnant when I was eighteen. Not Married had had a baby, and when immediately from high school to I need to find some way to take care of my son and I did in home daycare for eight years, and was daycare provider for six kids usually at one time and it was you know it's honest work? It's hard work. It's eleven hour days for you know for eight years and you know all I to do is be a good mom, and and so I didn't have a college education. I grew up in the craft industry though my. My parents had a manufacturing and distributing business so I grew up from picking orders in the warehouse. To you know watching my parents who are entrepreneurs basically navigate the craft industry and come along with them to trade shows and things like that so I always had that creative bug, and and even as an entrepreneur as a kid I was making little catalog, so you can buy these cards here, my designs and so, but then life hits, and then you have to go out, and you know and do the best you can and and so at the time. In one, thousand, nine, hundred eight. My mom and my mom had sold that business, she and my stepdad divorced and they sold their business, and so she was kind of at this place in her life where she was like okay. I'm ready to start over, I need. She was probably my age now, and it was like thinking I need to start over and figure out what life looks like for me. Now and I was saying I just I want to start something something I want to do anything and so my mom had some seed money and. Like I said I would do. You know so. I stayed up all night trying to find just hustling to find hair. Competitors are advertising in this trade magazine. So that's a potential a mailing list for so anything possible. I was willing to do so. Yeah so it was not like I had this pedigree of an MBA, and I'm going. Go start a business, and that's why I say I'm definitely. An accidental entrepreneur, but I've I've loved it. We'll story. It is very very cool. It seems like you had it in your blood like raped in the beginning. Though like it was something that you're meant to do. I, think so. I think without knowing that that's what it was like. I was just cleaning out. One of the things we've done in quarantine is cleaning out our garage and so all my memorabilia. That's where I found my card. Catalogue of here are the things you combine I'm like I always was. Experiencing entrepreneurship right in front of my is growing up but I never really knew it. In fact, my mom was in charge of all of the creative side of the business, and was the one in charge of new products, and out there trying to find out what creative women were doing next, and so when my mom would go on an rnd shopping trip and take all of us with her. We didn't realize what we were doing was watching her shopping trends and seeing what was out in fashion, and how we can bring that into the craft and creative industries, so when it just seemed like something natural, and now I'm trying to identify people go. Where do you find your trend Mic-? Just Watch I. Just look and so yeah. We were Kinda groomed without knowing that that's what was happening.
How Vivian Kaye Turned Her Hair Care Needs into a Multi-Million Dollar Biz
"K. is a fourteen year veteran entrepreneur who has bootstrapped to companies from the ground up for the last seven years. She has strictly focused on the e-commerce world where she built kinky curly Yacky, which offers textured hair extensions for black women to over one million in annual revenue Vivian has been featured on shop. Expert Academy Series Ted Conferences the way we worked and has been featured and digital publications such as Black Enterprise Magazine and refinery twenty nine Vivian, welcomed being boss. Thank you for having made such a pleasure to be here. Vivian! We've gotten to know you a little bit over the past couple of days. You've popped in on some of our sessions. You've been offering us so much guidance and. Radiance and your smarts and all of the things. So now I'm dying to hear your story like, can you, can we? Let's rewind a little bit and we're GonNa. Get into all of the wisdom that you have to share, but I want to know more about your entrepreneurial journey, so tell us like. Where did it begin? How did you get to where you are now being on Ted and refinery twenty nine this morning i saw on your instagram. You're on somebody's vision board like talk about goals. How did you get there? Honestly I really don't know. Because, it's not like being an entrepreneur was a big thing right, so you know back when I was growing up? Being an entrepreneur was for people who didn't have jobs. And so I kept you know I was always in jobs where the one person department one Person Marketing Department and then you know I was at a job one day and decided to start side hustling. So I started out my first business as a side hustle and then while I was running that side. Hustle I got fired for sorry I got laid off. That's the momentum. Laid off from that job, and then at that point I said. You know what let me just let me just go for it. Just go for it and do whatever I need to do. 'cause I'm young I'm free and I can. I can do whatever I want. And while I was running that business I started running, and then I had started a side hustle with kinky curly Yacky, so it was like I had businesses running at the same time so it wasn't something that I set out to do, but with both businesses I set out to solve my problem. And at the time I didn't realize that that was the best way to start a business. But that's what it was I. set out to start to solve my own problem or to solve a pain point that I saw people were having so so that's how my entrepreneurial journey began. What was the first sight hustle? The first sight has a wedding decorator. So all I would do is go in and decorate people's wedding so instead of being on a an event planner doing you know doing all those little things I focused on one thing and what it was I decided so there's a whole story behind that so I'm one of four girls and I'm the second the number two. So my older one was getting there. My older sister was getting married and she hired a decorator who who sent you decorate the wedding for? Say a thousand dollars right, so she paid her deposit. Everything was good, but two weeks before the wedding she came back and said I need another thousand dollars, but didn't have a reason why. Right so I thought well. Of course, she couldn't have paid for A. She couldn't afford to pay her, so she ended up having to hire different decorator that decorated did a crack tastic job. And so I'm like. Why is it so difficult? Why can't decorators just say that they're going to do X. Y.? And this is what it costs and Bass what they do and keep it simple, so then I thought well. I'm just GONNA I was been into decor and HGTV when TLC used to beat more home decor than reality so I would So I started I decided I wanted to be a wedding decorator I. wanted to create weddings that were simple, but fabulous so I would ask. My bride's like okay, so do you remember the last wedding that you went to? And they would say yes, will do you remember the centerpieces or the decor? Remember. It was pretty I'm like that's what we're going to do. So instead of spending mortgage down payments on decor. Why not create something that is memorable, but affordable and people just remember it was pretty, and that's it so that's what I set out to do. And it was a it was a great success, and this was a business that I started with no prior knowledge like I just figured it out as I was going along. And so I can tell that you're a branding lover at heart because you're like, forget pretty. I want memorable and I think this is going to be a thread that we we've through all of your stories, but before we get to connecting those thoughts. I went to hear more about kinky curly Yucky, so what was? What was the problem that that was solving? And how did well I I'm the worse doing I always do this. I always asked two questions in a row. So question one is more about kinky curly yacky. What problem did that solve? And then I'm really curious to hear a little bit more about how I do think that whenever we have side hustles and day jobs and we're trying on a bunch of different things they all start to. Tie together in some ways like we're always learning lessons from one thing to the next. I'm also really curious to hear. What lessons did you learn from wedding decorating that you're able to take to kinky curly yacky. That's a great question. Okay, so the first question was How can you KEROUAC even started? About problem so the problem was I as I was a wedding decker, and so I'm I. I actually live in Toronto, so it's one of the most Toronto Canada, and it's one of the most diverse cities in the world so I was doing everyone's wedding from you know the Muslims to South Asian to Indian to everyone, everyone's wedding so This is going to be a bit explain if anyone really wants to know the real detailed answer. I could always do that at a later point, but. For Black Women. We have to present. We have to show up in the world in a certain way, which is quote unquote presentable so most a Lotta Times wearing our hair, as it is naturally with kinky curly with kinky hair It's not professional. Why don't go professional? So I wanted something that looks like my hair. But would protect my hair because our hair is not suited to this north. American environment, it's it there's not moisture. It dries out really quickly but anyways I wanted something that looked like my hair and know what asked me where I bought it because I didn't want that whole. Nikki manashe thirty two inches of blonde wig down to my I wanted something that looked presentable. So I searched and searched and searched for something that looks like my hair, and then when I found it I weren't to a meet up. To just like a general networking event, and another black woman came to me and said WHO's your hairdresser? And what is your regimen for keeping your hair like that? And I said girl. This is a wave. And she was like I would buy. And this was in this was in two thousand eleven, so I thought well if she would buy it. And I bought it. There's gotta be at least a dozen. Other women would buy it to now. When I was looking to solve my problem, I saw I saw the gap in the market I. Thought There are no companies just selling kinky hair, but I was already running the successful decor business. I was buying my coach bags. I was going on vacation. I was happy with that, and then I decided then I thought well. You know you know. Weddings have a down sees. It feels like you know what I can't like. Itching the back of my brain, so then I said to myself you know what in the down season of of of Vivian the core I'm going to launch his company and I literally made up the name while I was in the shower like I was like Yankee curly. Jackie, O okay and I bought a domain name, and I launched it in December two thousand twelve, and it immediately took off. Okay so I actually do want to hear the details about the actual hair. You don't mind no worries because okay, so I remember talking to emily in the early days of ALMANAC supply company, which is her business and she was trying to find very specific candle containers to pour her candles into, and we talked about some deep googling like how you just have to search like. Get real good at searching. So how did you well? I guess two questions? Are It was a we've, but it looks natural so I think this goes back to that almost that brandon conversation of like it doesn't have to look quote Unquote Professional. Let's make it memorable like let's just make it bigger. Bigger let's make it more of a statement. which I think is so cool so I guess I have two questions here one. How did you find the natural hair? If there is a gap in the market? How did he find a? We've that had the natural texture and then in that might be getting too much of your secret sauce like you might not have to answer that one, but like how do you? How do you find the materials and then guess my next question is? How did you start to then scale and expound upon that not having any experience in that industry so how? Sold! The key was that I was trying to solve my own problem so What I was doing is I. Would I was doing that deep googling I was in facebook groups I was on hair care black hair care forums. Just you know just. Talking with other people and people of course at that time, a lot of people were sharing okay well. I bought this here I. Bought that there, and so that I would of course make note that, because again at the time I was not looking to start another business I was just looking to solve my own problems, so I wrote. You know I would contact every. Every single factor, every single manufacturer, every single website that said they would do kinky hair, and the once I found the one I was like. Wow, this, actually a pretty decent I would ask them to tweak it a little bit. Just a suit, my needs and they did it and I was like okay and I thought well after the girl confirmed my idea. I decided okay well. Let me see the state. Factory can still do it and I would order the same product under different names and asking to do different things to it, and they would do. So I thought okay. Okay. I'm onto something here. And so that's how that's how I was able to. I guess perfect the product because again. I I like to get high on my own supply, so that's the beauty of the businesses that I M my customer. I know what I'm looking for I know what problems I'm looking to solve I. Know What my pain points would be. And what other black women's pain points would be, and the only person who's able to address that is me. So of course I use that to my advantage You know to tell my brand's story but at the time again I listen, I'm an immigrant. I'm a college dropout and now a single mother. So I had no clue. About all these storytelling and branding mark I had no clue I just thought it was just doing what kind what came naturally to me. So so how I scaled that business well, I think one of the mistakes that a lot of people are making in starting businesses that they don't have an audience for the product that they have and so then what I had done again I inadvertently created an audience by by being on those facebook facebook. Forums a facebook groups that had black hair care forums because I was shining. Just being Vivian online people remembered me. So bad, and the funny thing was what I, when I when the business launched, no one knew it was me I didn't. I wasn't. My face wasn't the base of the brand it was just like here's some products. You guys will love Ed Oh. My Gosh and people bought it, but what happened was. I was facebook group and someone I didn't do. The WHO is on the back end of my website do that. Who has privacy on the back end of my product? Someone in one of the facebook groups created a fake place book profile and posted all my information in those facebook groups. Saying this is the person who owns that brand. So what she meant. To to like to help me to make me fail actually was what turned my like. What is what actually skyrocketed my business? Because once people found out that I was the person behind that brand, they were like well. Shoot I'm going to almost support her because she's this. She's that I remember she's Great. She's awesome, and that's what took off so I realized then that. My brand, my person like why. Is What is going to help me succeed in business. Amen I. Resonate so much with what you're saying and. I have branding agency as well and really focus on personal branding and I i. feel like one a lot of people always tell you you need to identify your customer and what they need, but I always think it really does start with you if you can start with what you need you like, you can trust that. We're not all that different and that if you can just get specific about yourself, you're going to be getting specific about your dream customer. Customer so we are so aligned there and then the fact that I mean it was an unfortunate, and you know really inappropriate way to learn the power of personal branding, but you did learn the power of personal branding, so that is incredibly exciting and I. WE'RE GONNA dig into more about like how you leverage that and who you are, and what you do, and how you bring it into your business and draw boundaries and all of the things but. We do have an attendee question that I. Want to slide in here if we may. I'm in this question is from. Death and I think especially for creatives. Who is you know most of our crowd here then we add like to hear your. Hear your thoughts on this, so here's your question. so Vivienne said she had the hair problem herself and chose to solve it, but what kept her on that path instead of ending up as an all purpose, beauty, Guru or similar. To be honest. Hair is not my jam. So really what I? How I think of it is just the ends to a means way or means to an end it's the means to an end, so my real goal is to give black women confidence to show up as they are in the world. So hair just so happens to be the the means to that end. So how I just stick to hair you know I'm pretty. I'm pretty good at focusing on the one thing like it's what I've learned is You know niche of and that's my I will preach about I say niche, but its niche. You know it's either. We can use them interchangeably potato potato. Okay, so with me I. Find that if You speak to a very specific group of people, and you sell them a very specific product. They will be your most loyal fans. They are cheaper to market to they. Are you know more about them? Especially when you already are them so for me that makes it very easy to stick to that one thing because I know that very well and I can speak to it now. Let's just by started venturing into. Say. Make up girl I'll even know how to put on eye shadow right so it wouldn't. It wouldn't. I wouldn't have authentic voice I can't lend that often into city to that product, but what I do know is hair. I'm not a hairdresser. I'm not a hair stylist. Because I had a passion for solving my own problem so that I could show up as quote. Unquote professional in the world. I can solve the I know what looks professional for me. You know I learned you don't like it. That's your problem. Not Mine Right, so we as a black women. What started in two thousand? I want to say. In Two thousand eleven two thousand twelve. Is that Youtube? We started all jumping on youtube and teaching each other how to care for our hair. We stopped putting before. We're used to put chemicals in our hair in order to straighten it to look to fit that European standard of beauty. But then we were like you know what I'm tired of that crap. We're tired of that. We don't want that if that's not Howard. The hair grows out of our heads. You're either going to accept this as we are or not right so so the goal of. Of making black women confident in how they show up in the world is really what keeps me focused on here. There's other people and I and I realized. I'm really good at that, so if I just if you just focus on the one thing that one goal your why. Then you're. You'RE NOT GONNA get distracted by all the Shiny Mirror. The the shiny objects that are floating around, because yeah I could make some easy money doing makeup, but I'm not passionate about that I. don't that doesn't that's not my jam? I love the what you did was instead of doing. The sheds are what people may have expected you to stuck with thing I think oftentimes people in this crowd see either see someone who have sort of diverged from that path, or so. They're thinking okay I. Should I should diversify as well or they sort of get these little inklings of like going to different. Different things I love that what you've done is just focused. You focused on doing the one being amazingly well exactly, and that's and that's the one, if I had to give one piece of advice to anyone is do that one thing and do it really well before you move onto anything else because you know doing that. One thing really really really really really really. Really really really advising that really do that. One thing really well. Guess what you can do anything you can apply that same, so that's what I learned in billions, the core I learned that if I kept it simple and I just focused on providing my brides with this one product and do it really well, it would speak for itself, so I took that same. Simple yet fabulous and I applied it to. Kinky Curly Aki. So people like what can I all? I'm explained the Kinky curly Yacky. What is that, so? It's Kinky kinky hair, and it's curly for curly hair, and then there's Yacky. So? Yuck, so yacky actually is short for Yak, or against the long overreact so back in the day when they wanted to mimic black women's hair straightened. They use hair from Jack the animal. So the industry just put an eye on the end and call the Yacky, so you would know what Jackie was. If you were a black woman, so any block won't be like. Oh! You got that Yacky in and so it's a sort of tongue in cheek, so you would have to be part of that target demographic in order to understand the name of the the name of the brand clear I love that. You're very specific about your dream. Customer to effect. Because I was her I get hot on my own supply. So at some point, did you end up closing the decorating business I did? I closed it I. Shut it down back in two thousand fifteen, and the only reason why I did is because I got practice. More. Yeah so I launched kinky curly. Aki in the summer of two thousand twelve by July of two thousand, thirteen. I was in the business was doing really well at that point? It was I was just doing just under four hundred thousand dollars in sales. and I found out in July I was pregnant. Anti ago. And so you know with my? With wedding core I had brides booked a year out. Right so so I was still doing those weddings, still going to the still going to meetings breastfeeding doing weddings that type of thing. And then I started I wasn't really paying attention to what can carry Aki was doing I didn't know all these numbers until later on because I was doing it just because I just loved it and I was learning about H. Tim Allen Marketing in Seo and I just I just threw myself into it, but wasn't paying attention to the numbers. I just knew it was doing well. But then when I found out, I was pregnant. I was like okay. Okay, the being you got to the chill, you gotta chill. You can't be can't be doing everything and then in two thousand, fourteen march, two, thousand, fourteen I, gave birth to my son and he's been wonderful ever since he's six now. and then I saw what can curly accu was doing I thought. Ma'am really half assing it. What happens if I put my full ass into this? And once I did again. It took off, so so yeah, okay so. I I know that whenever entrepreneurs are listening to this or site hustlers listening to this. They're like wait a second. She accidentally created a half a million dollar business and wasn't even paying attention. So how does that happen? Did was that like word of mouth or referral? Launches You have specific marketing plans. What did that look like for? You had none of that I had was what people knew me from in the facebook groups, and and because I was also also go. Gee of the niche, their niche of just selling kinky hair did not exist before I. Start before I created my company. So because I saw a gap in the market I'm A. I pioneered that so any other company that you now see selling kinky hair is because of me. And so then because I was first to market with that bat just. Exploded because that's women were looking for. I was solving their problem and on top of that I looked like them. Right so it's like they were like girl. You know, 'cause. One of the things would be like girl I was tired of the whole African in the front, an Indian in the back. If you're a black woman, you know what that means, so what that means is we're all from. Black women are from the African for so we had these tight kinky air, and then we are putting on these silk weaves. I didn't blend with our hair. So I was tired of the whole African in the front and Indian in the back, and that resonated with people, so it just and I didn't do I didn't i. Here's another thing I just literally launched with one product. I locked to one product and I only had three lancs. I only had three lengths. I remember at the time, and someone would buy one I would take that money in going by two. And that's how I built. My business I didn't I. Bootstrap I started from zero. I took no outside capital I didn't have any debt I literally started from the bottom. And was it easy. No, no, it wasn't. Is that possible ABSA freaking move? All right well, we're going to take a little break here because we've got to tell you about working smarter and not harder and. 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Why do you think that autheniticity and being true to yourself and using your own personality is important for anyone who is building a business or a brand? Because people don't necessarily. I think one of the biggest things people need to keep in mind as people aren't necessarily buying the product. As you can see, it's not like I'm the first person to ever sell Kinky, textured hair extensions and back. There were tons of companies that had it, but what they did. is they buried it underneath the silkier texture, so not the first. To Sell Kinky textured hair extensions. But what people don't realize that people aren't necessarily buying the product. They're buying the person or they're buying the emotions. They're buying lifestyles behind the product. So brand is where you can tell that story so branding will help you. To, help you, stand out in the crowd. It will help people remember and especially when you have a story that resonates with someone one. That's what they're buying into. They could care I. Mean Yeah, you could, you could be selling something. That's more expensive and more has a tools unless this unless that, but what they're buying is the person or the idea or the emotions behind. It so I that's what I realized very quickly is especially in the wedding decor. Businesspeople clouds giving. You made me you made it. It feel so simple. You made me feel so comfortable, and you made this process so easy for me and I realized. It doesn't go learn how to do all the fancy. You know all the fancy. Do Decor all I want but that's not what they care about. They care that I made them feel good about the money that they were spending made their wedding. Feel pretty like I made them feel that way. So that's that's really what you should focus on. I love that you said that you're not the first person to sell kinky natural hair extensions, but that it's been buried, and so you took a product unique in on it, and then you highlighted it, and it's beautiful, and you're owning it and you're helping. Other women own it I'm curious, little bit with some of the activism around. Natural Hair California has banned hair discrimination. It's something that I was so excited to see and when it continue to see, are there any levels of like activism or do you think even products like yours have helped? Create that kind of. Activism you know? Do you think that it's like no? This is who we are and this is just as professional as any other hair well I. Think the problem was that we were letting you know black women in general were we were leading the world? Tell us what was beautiful. And you know Youtube and you know the the beauty of the Internet was us being able to see each other people outside of our own communities, and how they look. How many rock their hair and all that jazz so I think really it. It just helped people just be who they wanted just to be who they are like just to be their authentic selves and truth be told, and it does just women in general, because even society tells us. Women were supposed to look like like I'm pretty sure after this quarantine thing has done. There's going to be a lot of people who were blonde. That aren't blonde anymore, right? But you know with black women where we're especially, you know we. Don't want to say Alison to say hated on because of how we look, and so then this i. feel just the way to just listen world we have to teach. We have to teach the world. This is how we are. If they don't like it. That is their problem. Because this is how my hey, this is how the hair grows out of my head naturally. It's curly it goes. It goes to the heavens because that makes me closer to God in the Sun. Right, as so if that's not something you think is professional, I think you really need to reexamine what your idea professional is. Karen sorry. Goes show that Chad. Presentation matters absent. That is what the Internet gave us. It gave us access to each other and to To all kinds of beauty and bodies and ways of being right, and it allowed us to see ourselves and others, and we can't help it, but need permission you know, and that permission sometimes simply in representation I have so many role models where I'm like. Oh, I didn't know I could do that until I saw them do it. And you're providing tools for that awareness as well which I think is like that's an important part of this, too. It's not only having access to the vision of its having access to the tools to, and that's even what you've done. Okay Vivian, you're you just radiate confidence? We all see. We all feel it over these past couple of days, do you? Some of our listeners are indeed here today WanNa know. Do you ever doubt yourself like? Do you ever have what we call being bossed? Friday? Feelings I mean especially going into industries that you didn't have experienced in. Full frequently. Battle with imposture syndrome Prodi feelings all the time. But then. I. Think to myself you know what. If. I don't do what I'm. Put on this earth to do then nobody will. Nobody will be able to do it either, because people who who look like me or even in the same situation as me so I. Guess I'm a single mom. I've been through depression. I've been I've been through all the things that tried me and I came out gold. So if I don't tell that story, I don't tell people how it's done. Then everyone's just this is GonNa be one hell of a boring world so if I. Let that Imposter Syndrome. Eat Me! Eat Away at me. Then that's not that's not fair. It's not fair to anyone. Right, so I shine so that everyone else can shine to. Raise that's like. Your purpose higher than your emotions absolutely. Thinks the. Catholics. Say she's like yes. I, know what with his quarantine? My bow talks has worn off so you can see my reaction. That's right. My eyebrows moving now. I love it. Up Cackling. Right I'd like to bring this to. The branding things, which you've talked a little bit about and the conference, but not everyone has been a part of the conference like listening to this we have. So many more people who have been who have been here with for the past couple of days, so I wanna to talk about this personal branding piece. And if you have any top tips for anyone who's looking to infuse more of their personality into their brand, how can just any old person in by any old person I mean? Everyone is a snowflake How can anyone shine in their business and use themselves as a tool for growth? Or what I want to remind people is you don't need to be me. So you, you know there's. If you think about people like if you think it will jams, right? There's different Jams Jentzsch. Ruby shied differently than a diamond emeralds than that, so you need to be exactly that so be yourself because the minute you start being someone who you're not. It's going to feel like work. It's going to feel You're going to hate it. People will see right through it. So you really don't have any choice, but to be yourself and so sometimes that means you being quirky, or it means you know. Maybe you do more blogging than you do video or whatever the case may be. You just need to show up as yourself. In whatever platform however way you want to do it and the people who it will resonate with. We'll find you. They will find you, so don't be. Please don't be anybody else you don't. That's not what you were. Put on this earth to be to be someone else I just doing yourself a huge disservice by not being yourself. How windy you feel the most yourself Vivian. Like sometimes it's hard to know like what what is me. What should I be sharing? Where do I draw these lines? You know what you know you know where the lines are to be drawn right? You know you know liking. We women. That's one thing I find with specially with women, and there's a lot of things on finding, but anyhow with women we need to trust. Our guts were always second guessing ourselves. We're always doing all these things, but you just need to trust yourself because you know what you know where that line is. You know what you should be sharing what you shouldn't be sharing. Someone there's comanding that unlike very existential questions, which is basically sums it up I'm like, but but even are we but a bundle of sell. What is time? What is personality? What is money. So sorry asked me asking the question again, so I can play it all night, so the question is windy. You feel most yourself like. How do you know what is authentically? You because I think all of us. WanNa show up as we are and who we are. But we can start to second. Guess Ourselves, so you were saying like we. As women need to listen to our guts like we know, it's in our guts. But how do you tune into that like I know like? Let's just say. I remember doing a couple of years ago, I did. I was I was asked to speak at a hair like a beauty hair brand thing and I didn't like it. 'cause hair was not my passionate kid. I could give to kicks about hair, but put me on. Put me in a forum or an opportunity like this. This is where I shine. So I know. You know you know like you know like you know. I'd so, that's the only. Way Can I can explain. We know you know you know. My in I think even what you're explaining is that you know by trying things, and then like listening to yourself right, so you did the hair thing or you went and spoke at the hair thing and you're like this feels gross like, but you wouldn't have known that if you hadn't tried it. I ache, factly eggs, and that's the key to life to. You gotta try. You gotTA. Try GotTA. Try GotTA. Try 'cause. That's the only way you're gonNA. Find out what you. You like and don't like you can apply that to life like you don't know you like Kale until you try it. You don't know you guys that do this until you try it. You have to go through and try a bunch of different things, and then and you know one of the things I started to realize because I'm I'm forty two, so at forty I was like you know what I'm done trying to live in this Fox like I'm done, it's over. I'm Vivian means lively one so Vivian you just need to go about living your best life because. You know all before I was forty at kept trying to be. Everyone kept trying to put me in this box. You know be a box. Go in the box. You know what I. I discovered that I was a parallelogram. Graham is is a sideways buckler rectangle that has. The Google it okay. I was a parallelogram and I was tired of being put into the box, and so once I turned forty. I just flip the bird to everything and said you know what again if you do not like it, I do not care. That is not my problem. You can go kick rocks with an open Tokyo.
Kids Know How To Occupy Themselves. We Need To Let Them Do It
"One of our own NPR colleagues Mike Lean decline. was actually feeling this stress big time she's been working quarantined with her husband and her daughter Rosie. WHO has four? She is like a firecracker, right? She is strong willed. Through life with this intensity, which is fantastic, she learns really fast, and she's fearless, but you know it's like when she wants something. There is like no giving in, and it was these constant demand demands to draw neurology. Video, Mama, make a Sandwich Mama set up. My Zoom Circle Time Mama you know all those little interruptions that completely obliterate your concentration I would lock the door. I slid down the back of it and I just cried I. was like what am I going to do like I have this book deadline in July and it was just really like this is. This is not going to be good for any of us. Like things are going to deteriorate really quickly in this House Mike Lee and actually wrote about this moment in a new. York Times. OP, ed recently, and it's related to the. The book that she's working on, so it's called. Hunt gathered parent, and it's coming out in March twenty twenty one, and it's all about what American parents can learn from other cultures including traditional cultures, because the pressure to keep kids constantly entertained well. Mike, Ian says that's really specific to American parents and culture. There is huge amount of pressure like I have been fighting it and I still feel it. You know I still wake up in the morning I'm like. What are we GONNA do today. What are we going to do this morning, right? You're like per child entertainer part event planner. I mean it is like we're planners. If you think about it, right, it is late. They are little tech CEO's that have like a day planned for them, and we are there to usher them in, and not only just usher them, but make sure they enjoy it or something out of it or like. There's feedback afterwards, right? There's a cruise director like there's hustler service aspect to it. It's having a good time. Did you find your except my kids are those trolls on Yelp that always give the two stars, the One star now, not good enough, not good enough. Maybe they're trying to tell you something so in this episode of Life Kit. It's all about turning kids from customers. You have to please into good coworkers Mike. Leeann is gonNA share what she's learned from her reporting on other cultures to help our kids learn to entertain themselves. Michelina Club says that she got this idea from her reporting that she could sort of retrain her daughter. Yes, she was thinking about a scene. She had read about in an anthropology book by Jean Briggs who studied the inuit in the Arctic in the sixties, the anyway still lived in pneumatic lifestyle, and in the winter they build Igloos to stay warm, and the mother had two young children I think that the time they were about three and six. Six, so this is a part of the world. That's one of the coldest parts of the world in so there were many days where like the little girls couldn't go outside there. They had nothing to do right. There were no videos legos, no children's books and there's these scenes in the book where the children literally spend like an hour or two in the morning under a blanket playing without bothering anyone yet. That sounds like a real dream culture. I cannot wait to get to that point and so looking at these cultures to do this. You see striking similarity, and that is that they do not feel the need to constantly entertain, educate or stimulate. However, you want to think about it children. It's a very different approach to the way they treat a child's time. And I. Think because they don't demand the child's attention. You do this now now. You're doing this now. You're doing this I. Think in return. The child stops demanding the parents attention, and so that's what I really wanted to test out to walk us through. What did you do? I stopped trying to demand Rosie's attention. Right I stopped trying to say now. It's nine o'clock. You're going to watch this video or we're gonNA. Read a book right? I stopped being the event manager for her. And I started doing the things. I needed to do and expect her to come along with me. And welcomed her right so another thing that like these other cultures do that? We tend not to do is welcomed the children into our worlds right? There's a very separate world child world. And I think in order for this to work. You have to welcome them into your world, so hey, we're cooking now. Come over here and you know probably stir these eggs or now we're cleaning. Help back you. It's not forced. It's not like you have to do it, but I'm not gonNA. Draw you a Narwhal right now. I'm cleaning and they do this with all of their work. It's not just cleaning and domestic chores, but also you know their businesses. The children are there. The children are welcome into the world of and so so I started doing that, too. I said well. You know what I need to write. I need to write like four hours a day. And Yeah me. Sitting on a computer writing is not very interesting, but neither is like sewing and an Igloo and so I said okay. I'm going to write I. Need Quiet. And you are welcome to sit here with me the first time we did it, I started small like thirty minutes, and if she really was upset at the beginning, I would stop I'm not trying to like force anything and make a lot of chaos in their house. It's really the opposite like if she was really like in the beginning, if she was really escalating with you and getting really upset, you would would give her some time. Yeah like I. I would really try to ignore her. Because I was really teaching her like this is quiet time and it's not time for me to give you attention. But? But if it got really bad and then I'd be like okay. Let's go outside. Let's take a break you know. But you guys the first time I did it. She was kind of stunned. She actually said to me. I can do anything I want as like. Yeah, you can do anything you want as long as you don't damage the house. Like you know she just couldn't believe it, so started sma- and after about a week we had worked up to lake. Hour hour and a half chunks in by like two weeks. She wants to do it even she'll be like. Are you going to write a? Show. Ask Me and so you built up to it and her main thing that she does. Being is what she will sit here in color with me for an hour or so, and then she kind of runs around the house in desert. Thing she can go outside she cooks quote unquote, which means like mixing different things in the kitchen and she makes them S. There's no doubt there's a message. To be honest, she latched onto it quicker and better than I thought it was going to be I mean. It is one child in one house, but it's backed up by all these other families right that I that we've seen in these cultures
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"Time hustler has one such story from Mercer island that's where resident Debbie Wilson and her family have lived for about ten years raising three children and becoming part of that community and that sense of community is what led her to start thinking of ways to help when it became apparent this wasn't going away anytime soon I was it is about the crown of hiring national and local news and at the same time I was spending a lot more time on next door and then that makes you a lot of people commenting about wanting to be able to help but there wasn't any working hi campaign and yeah we can we can collect the names of people who wanted to help and I think so she put together a list of volunteers all from around the island our our so I wondered the same thing that we're trying to do if you're staying within a very narrow and so and the helpers I'm very we also want to make sure both volunteers and those they help would be safe Brian our youth and family services group and all al are fitting and if you're on what kind of activities we what kind volunteers help with ordinary tasks and some not so run of the mill that request with one of our clients here's when we're talking stop watching this morning I had a request for number three she says if Mercer island is what to request more information or volunteer they can go to Mercer island volunteers at G. mail dot com and sure they're helping others but these volunteers are benefiting too very very heart warming and you know that one mile even in the middle of all of that yeah tumblr komo news companies time six twenty eight I'm mad do been founding attorney of the Dubin law group at times like these we're reminded just how precious the health and well being of our loved ones really is that the Dubin law group caring for the people of western Washington has always been our business well we can help with the corona virus we can still help if you or someone you care about.
How Pinch of Help Founder Brittani Allen Built Her Professional Home Organization Business
"Hey Hey guys welcome. Welcome back to the show. It's me Michaela and today. I am back with an episode with Brittany Allen so I came across Brittany on instagram. Y'All know I like to spend a lot of time on instagram? That's where I inadvertently come across a lot of people in. This was the case with Britney. I came across her business. Pinch of help and was just obsessed going through things saving all these home organization ideas and of course I also started to just get curious about what is business was her business model. How does this all work so I had to have her in the gas chair? Britney is a professional home organizer. Ceo and founder of Pinch of help home organization based in Atlanta Georgia. She is passionate about creating environments. Her clients love living with her expert ability to match functional organization with Aesthetically Pleasing Solutions. She's also a loving mother of two children and puppy and is the wife a husband Chris who recently joined her in working on the pinch of help team as CEO and CO owner. So in this episode I really love what Britney had to share about one how her blog helped her clarify her business direction to how she got started as a professional organizer and what? She's learned about voiding burnout as a fulltime mom. Fulltime entrepreneur plus so much more. Let's get right into it so in your own. Words give us a peek into the life of Brittany. Who are you in? What was your first experience with entrepreneurship? Great yes so first off. I'll say that you know I'm a wife to my husband. Chris and I'm a mom to appraise up sorry preteen and a teenager and like I said that can be a whole nother podcast. I'll on its own just this phase of life that I'm in terms of parenting but I became an entrepreneur somewhat by chance but definitely in my opinion I was sort of created for. I think you know it just feels very natural to me now. Now as a young girl I had zero zero answer to. Of course the question everyone asked what do you want to be when you grow up and so? I remember being very little deciding that I was going to have an answer the next time. Somebody asked me that question and so my answer was. I was going to be a veterinarian and it wasn't until finally and I said it many times and finally someone acts I like. Oh you like all animals and I said Oh no I like dogs and they're like wow veterenarian you're going to have to work with rabbits and hamsters and snakes and birds and I you know no offense but I hate all of those animals. I only like dogs in so that was the last time that I remember actually having an answer to that question as a young girl and so I just never knew but I did have the fortune of being a lot of leadership roles growing up and so I knew that I wanted to somehow be a leader you know and have a lot of influence wherever I found myself so. I think I was first bitten by the entrepreneurship bug. While I was working on my master's degree so I was going to school at the time I was still flirting with the idea of going to medical school and in my free time. Yeah in my free time. What was your master's in Biomedical Science? Okay Yep and so You know obviously. I wasn't in school all day so I would take substitute teaching jobs. Here are there and so my favorite age at that point to solve was high school students and I remember very vividly being an AP classes. We're talking about some of the smartest kids in the school. And I overheard a conversation where a student mention. He was going to be a doctor and his friend chimed in and said like Oh. I couldn't do that much school. And the kid and then the you know something like Oh. I only have two more years of school after high school and so at that point. I was like okay. Hey guys I need to jump in this conversation because as we know there's so many more years of school after you know like freight so many more years a lifetime of or years right exactly and so you know I was just really blown away because like I said these were some of the best kids in this school and I was blown away that any of them had this lack of knowledge so it started this conversation amongst us about you know other kids. I I wouldn't do this. What kind of school do I have to go to you know because I was telling him? Okay I'm working on my masters right now and then. I'm going to do this. And you know so. It started this whole conversation and then I decided at that point to create a different business and sell with that business was my first business was my very first entrepreneurial endeavor and I saw to help high school students create individualized strategic plans to help. Get them where they wanted to go. And at least have that knowledge because I realized what was that this was called academic planning and I realized there was somewhat of a disconnect between what the schools what the kids were taking advantage of at the schools because a lot of the schools in the counseling office. There's so much that is available to them but still have to go and seek it out and then the parents are busy working and all of that so there was just. I was talking to juniors and some seniors and just realized they didn't really know what was up ahead past college So or even some of them. Four College So then Innis. And how many years did you do? I did that one. Probably for one year one year and then I pivoted in so we'll talk about that as well but that was my very first my very first entrepreneurial endeavor and I loved it I loved it at first to become yeah. It's hard to become an issue because I realized that although I love working with the kid my real client was the parent and the parent and the kids weren't always on the same page like parents. Wanting one thing that kids are wanting another and then here I am caught in the middle and it was increasingly difficult to try to merge the two and try to find a happy medium and even to mediate between parents and kids. So you know it was just a I only did it like I said for that year and then we moved in that. I decided to stop that one. I can see that. I think all of us aside Hustler's there. There's really anyone that I talked to. Who's like I've only ever tried to do one business? And that's it. No right we get an idea of where we're GonNa you know dabble in it for a few months to a year and understand that all right. Maybe this isn't for me and that's why I love side House leads. Yeah it gives you that freedom like you don't have to commit right away you can see if it's for you yet and I'm so thankful yeah. I'm thankful for that experience because number one. It did teach me that. I do like being an entrepreneur. That wasn't even something I considered prior to. I think what I considered was possibly doing like I said being in a leadership role but for business or you know maybe even going all the way up you know however I could within someone else's business structure but it did. It didn't occur to me that I may want to start my own business until then so although I decided to stop that business. I did not stop wanting to be an entrepreneur so I think along the way that's what most of us realizes that all experiences somehow ended up getting you to where you want to be so that was my experience with that one.
"hustler" Discussed on Hysteria
"With Jordache okay. We're back reach the part of the show where we get petty about things that don't matter very much it's the Hillsdale die on. Let's get started with our Listener Hill. High Hysteria this is Deanna in Atlanta Georgia and the hill that I will die on. Is that filmmakers. Need to figure out a better way to film the Post Sex. Get out of bed without showing my boobs. It's super awkward every film. I've ever seen no woman. I know sits up in bed clutching her chest for modesty and then does the inevitable awkward swivel off the side of the bed while still clutching the sheets. Stewart chest. So that you can't boobs figure out a different way. Use some sort of creative filmmaking. So that you don't see boobs and she gets to act like a normal human person. That's all by. Yeah you know what it street. Don't have to take your shirt off to have sex some of us. That's also those are like. Yeah I mean it's but I think like produce like Hollywood people are like. How do we imply like that? He got to touch the boobs but also like hide the boobs from us. I don't know I was one of those are beautiful. I immediately thought of the first episode of a Fair Maura. Tierney didn't offer shirt. I still remember it. That is officiant morning sex. That is look at that realism trim. But Yeah I was just trying to. I was just miming it as that was playing. And there is I think people just be tinny forward more I think I answered through the Nip let it be let it be or show more realistic. Get down get real. Have you guys seen porn? You can watch.
"hustler" Discussed on Hysteria
"It's a real. It's a real thing though because like I think that part of of growing as a person professionally or personally is realizing when to say no to things Even though if that means that that night you're staying home and just like sorting that basket of sock. That has been accumulating for two months and I know it feels cleansing to actually like clean something you know when you say noticed something and someone asked. Oh what are you doing? And you can reply nothing honey. Oh my God. The wealth of age focuses your instagram. Am appointment and one of the things I think for me is that because once I left to having an office structure where you had an assistant or someone who was your buffer with the outside world so I have thought you know critically about my life over the past year as I like transition into different things and then like you know what I'm going to try and I'm trying it. I have a conference call with this woman next week to be. Did you read that article? Because yes that's amazing she's so ownership because really what I want her to do is to go through my inbox and say no to things for me because you know what the worst is and people do this shit women and I just cannot believe they do it to man. Someone asks me to do something and like just take no or Toyota and then they come back. We'll can we change. What if we did this? And then you're in this negotiation which is sucked up your mental power to be nice for the day and you're just drained and you have nothing and it's like so. I have decided like what would make my life substantially better and it's getting through some of those speaking engagements that come through because I feel like a Dick when I'm like. Can you call my speakers bureau and instead I just want someone else to do it for me. So that's my. That's that's how I make my life better than negatively. Murderers just had a breakthrough maybe sometimes representing yourself as someone who's working all the time is one way to stave off people just like relentlessly making demands of your time if you if you know because they're like you got one more hour he'll just twenty five hours in the day you've got more hours than beyond say It's like you but I honestly think that sometimes you know if I anticipate a request that I do not WanNa fulfill being like I'm just really things have been crazy. I'm really busy definitely. Don't have time to do anything that you're about to ask me to do. Is like one way to keep people from just assuming that I have time we'll see. Here's the thing all the emails I get our. Hey Eliza I know you're super busy but yeah what do you say? Yeah you're right. I'm busy like I do but I'm just saying and it's so hard to virtual assistant I remember but I remember being on the other side of that email which is so hard because sometime like the whole picture ring Culture Lord. But you hate that. I Hate I do. Here's here's why I don't feel that enough folk go into those Coffees OR PASTA. Sits with like prepared for real by hundred percent if you came. I don't if you start that coffee with so tell me your story honey. You did not come to this prepared because you don't. You don't know exactly what you're asking and I think that it's not and it's and I tried to be like open of spirit more. Recently there was a point where I was like. You can email me questions and only mail you back and if I hear of anything in your resume and keep it updated and that was my spiel. Now I've done it a little bit more. I think I need to be more generous of spirit but it is this big of leg. I remember being the kid asking the question and so I try to go with empathy. Because we're all trying to work at just work smarter harder than ever but lord some folk really means. Do you know what I when I do so I do try especially with people who are much younger than I am. Who asked me for help? I tell them what to come. Prepared like. I've stopped giving them the rope to hang themselves. I'm like okay if this is what you WanNa talk about. Let's do this this and this and be prepared for real talk. If you don't WanNa really talk then we should do this time because I mean I do. I'll open to you like you like to. I'm open to that. I wouldn't be in the place I am today. Had I not resell and picked so many comedians brains along the way over the course of the last ten years? I think I owe it to the community to give back to people behind me But I definitely understand. People waste my time frequently. So I'll do calls. I like to talk on the phone while I walked to the train so for me. It's like I feel. I feel like very DIONNE in clueless gabbing on my phone with my gals but I understand people waste your time but I y biggest issue with that is that I'll be honest and they'll be disappointed. Never follow up. Because I'd be like the key to being a successful comedian and I wouldn't. I don't even know if I'd describe myself as that is like a lot of hard work a lot of time by yourself. A lot of going to shows and that is not useful to someone who wants to Cheat Code. Yeah so yeah. Yeah I think that the the like picking you the emails I can get together with you and pick your brain. I like. I'm more along the lines of like I usually say yes to people especially if it's somebody that I think maybe gets passed over by like the industry if they're not like a typical person that you would see in a writer's room where somebody the guy named Matt who liked Improv. You're describing my ex-boyfriend but like a couple of them But but I know but I but I think like especially young women who are trying to go from one place to another or people that are from a rural area people from a non traditional background. I try to take time to talk to them but I also think that the cheat codes thing is real like people want just like a shortcut into doing things. I always tell people to read more read more. I do to make some more interesting. It's real yeah. I read born standing up. That was the first comedy book I read in that really set me on my path. Yeah in the book. Oh did I tell you I read I did? I texted you about the Butler thing. Oh my God it blew my face off. He's fantastic on TV. Butler is one of the both riders in American culture. Just fucking amazing. I WANNA close this conversation by discussing a woman who does appear to do everything and I want like our theories of how that happens Elizabeth Warren. How how she she feels it. That's the thing I feel like. She's fully fueled by her guts. Yeah I know what I mean like the balking health. She's on Rye. I want video of her. Eating things like walk and Burgers to know that she is fueling her actual body. That's usually she's not trying to prove anything to anybody. Yeah choose a utilitarian haircut. Yeah this is. This is how the mood and a fourteen seconds. I like plan. I mean I don't know but it's also part of the reason why you know she gets ignore it and there's backlash against her. It's because there is very middle. School principal thing happening here and I love my middle school. Principal like this like efficiency in her. You know she has less than you know that there's like she has that bounce back email thing in case you forget something like it feels to thought out because she thought out thought out. Yeah but no. But that's what I think about her. But then when I look at her utilitarian ish haircut and the fact that she essentially wears the same outfit every day I feel like she sat down with herself and was like I want to do this. How am I going to take the stupid shit out of my in making process brainpower so I can focus on these other things so I just like mad? Respect for those to hurry outlet blazers. She got I mean she like. Marie conduct her schedule. Doesn't ever actually right. Like only joy budgets joy plans plants. Chai. I'm going to wear the same outfit every day. I have this self cutting keep promises Z. Do you have a warrant theory? How do you think Elizabeth? Somebody like Elizabeth Warren who seem endless energy huge team and help her. Make Freshest Darn we love we love. Good Organization? Trust me honey. Can't wait to build my own. Like I love. She she definitely has charged. It's like reporting charts. It doesn't get to her exactly ideal so let me just say her headquarters is like exactly what you would want to be in some folding chairs and some folding tables and self. He's on the wall. I mean like it's like they just live the ethos among leg son right. I think a good lesson from hers is pick the things that you want to be good at and ignore the bullshit. That doesn't matter to you and see what happens but it doesn't feed you. Do not let it down. That's wow that's deep. Thank you. Definitely Repulse Oh. My God mother told him that as a child and he is six nine so obviously it word. Wow that's great advice great advice. That's real let's take a quick break but when we come back let's do.
"hustler" Discussed on Hysteria
"Like every day on weekends it was like I would kind of go wander around Riverside Park in a daze Or like go to central park and be like well grass but otherwise like but but you know I reached it was not healthy and then when I found myself in social situations it was like the only thing that I had going on was or work and the only input that I was taking into my body was like my brain was like was like was just like withering you know. I wasn't like really reading anything for pleasure. I wasn't watching anything. That wasn't oh. I'm watching this because I need to know about this for work. I'm doing this because they need to do this for work like an IB. I became so like completely enmeshed in it that it was like when I was out in Los Angeles where things are a little slower. Because here's a quick secret between New York and La. We get started at like ten in the morning out here beautiful but I think it's and we're we're here already but what we should do is start at six and we match with you guys. But we're like no. We started ten by the time. You guys and you're super like high anxiety. P you're like wow I it's one it's one. Pm We have like four hours of dealing with you guys and then your day is done and then we just kind of fuck off for the rest of the day. It's much slower out here. I really like it was an adjustment for me because my brain was fucked with thinking that I have to work all the time. What am I doing when I'm not working Eliza have you ever found yourself like experiencing guilt from not? I mean right. Now you're settled into your coziness. But now the fucking coolest I've ever been. No I mean come on. After I left the White House you know I was so ready to calm it down and I went into such a depression because it turned out that like for all those years I was deriving my worth from how hard I worked right. It's like whenever anyone asked me anything and and it's it's separate from. It's the fact that I was at the White House but it was like nope. I work six and a half days a week and I rescued cat and I did like and that was like my fucking vibe and then when I was done I felt like I was. Yeah you know and I really did nothing. I don't matter you know that it's like I'm not working so I don't matter and I really have made truly took me some Wellbutrin some Zoloft and a whole lot of time to get through that but but it's a lesson. I learned that I think the reason that I feel guilty. I don't feel guilty now is that I know I can never go back there. I Never WanNa go back there where it's like what I do as my job is who I am. Do you ever feel that way that what you do as a writer and performer is like you have to be working on it or you're not doing what you should be doing all the time? I think especially because we are contractors in entertainment so I feel like if I'm not working my hardest at any given moment by moment. Look and I'll lose my opportunity to have my so. I actually do struggle with that but my one of my favorite actresses Alexa Demi she. Has This really interesting interview. Mag about how she has to get her own way to succeed And so. I'm learning with my therapist. Shut up to her to just like stop trying to control the impossible accepting what I can't control and be present and not be so mean to myself for not being a perfect labor because that's all seem to be nodding in agreement to that have anything to add a yes to everything I mean. I think I feel. I'm in this weird middle space. I had a very I had Hollywood. Twenty s version of what you described where. I don't know if you heard it but Hollywood has assistance that they don't treat well all the time. Yeah ends I was one of them and so that was very much how I lived of just like twelve hour days and drinking too much and also only spending time with other assistants who had twelve hour days and drinking too much and so we were all like just echo chamber ring. This is okay and we'll make it through this and once we get through this. We'll just keep working harder and be okay and so I've just I was on this grind for a long time and last year. I had some time off for the first time since moving here and collapsed. I like my. I didn't know how to deal with anything and as someone who deals with depression. I need a certain amount of business men and two and structure in my life otherwise does devolve into not great things so I. I feel kind of stuck in this place of Lake. Don't give my anxiety more fuel by feeling bad that I'm not working on that script that I thought that I know you need to do. And also preparing for this meeting and also in in trying to get these jobs and hustling versus giving myself the space. It takes to be a creative person. And not you know like discounting the fact that my job is to think into articulate my thoughts in my imagination and not to look down on that because it doesn't look like what you know my my family working in politics in nonprofit and that sort of thing so. I I think that was all to say. Oh my God this is also hard and I think like we never none of us give ourselves enough credit for like trying to navigate through all of this and we're having conversation stepping back a little bit and like I want to get to that sweater weather like a motion of. I'm good with how much I'm doing and like it's okay but I'm not even close to feeling like that and that's also I think there's also a lot of people like there are people whose hustle is celebrated like people who are in public facing jobs and people who have like some sort of public presence. So I guess all of us because we have social media followings but I think a lot about When it comes to like people working hard I think a lot about people like my mom who is like working in a public school and was You know a teacher for a long time when I was a kid and then also. After she was done teaching she was She was teaching and then she was coming home from work. And being a mom for three people tone and like there's nobody is celebrating that that's just like what is expected. It almost feels to me like the kind of normal every day. Burnout of average people is something that's been like co opted and sanded down and made into this glamorous thing that like social media stars and celebrities now pretend is there's a movie. Shirley's their number loose one day. A man directive she will perdue will produce it. So do I want to pose this the table? Do you guys know anybody who is a particularly egregious. Somebody who really advertises how hard they work that. You're like that can't be right. Oh my God Sheryl Sandberg shots fired. I mean come on how much she was what we were talking before about when I was talking about like magazine articles. She's someone who up until up until some strife at facebook who was profiled seventeen ways to Sunday about how she gets it all done and it's I wanNA lean out I don't WANNA lean in. But yeah she's the person who comes to mind. Don't mind my mom. She's one of those where I'm like. Good for your publicist. I guess like also also those profiles that sticking your head. I'm like that publicist really package. That shit real good thanks. I mentioned like I always think about the gentle lions one who I worshipped lake and because I was a J. crew POPs collar print shirt wear and bitch for a long time. Now as I'm in Birkenstock and ahead wrapped we. We've had the same but I really remember being like even the time being like whoever did this re- they really got me with this but it is. It's all packaging. It's so funny. I am so susceptible to media until I fall and CDs packages and I'm like wow I wish I was just like Eriksson for sure. Maybe I'm on the wrong. It sort of reminds me of those those things it's like. What's inside my purse? And it's very carefully rearranged like arranged like. Here's a book on meditation. That I in my purse and here's an unopened pack of Gum. Like if you dumped out any regular woman's purse it would be like the youth. Yeah crumbled up logging receipts and five. Ullmann's at the bottom of your like you two dollar bills that you were like. Oh this is my change from starbucks and they put the coins inside of it and I just shoved it in my purse. But it's like I feel like the the like I remember like there was one that came out one of those. It was like this is how a work maybe a few months ago. That really Kinda crossed the line and everyone was like no you. Don't you don't do that. A woman who said she woke up at four in the morning to like meditate and do yoga and then she went and she like had this. No I read that one. She was silicon bag and it was like. Yeah I read that. No you don't and if you do don't tell and you know what it was if you did. Don't tell anyone because now I judging not relatable we will never be friends. You're doing too much another thing that I think about when it comes to productivity culture is like. I feel a lot of times when I'm trying to get work done that. I am trying to do too many things at the same time because too many things are demanding my attention and so instead of doing anything. I end up doing nothing and feel bad about all of it like I. V Fifteen jobs open of articles that I wanna read I have to respond to slack messages. I have to respond to like speaking inquiries. I have to do all this I mean. Whatever like an a multi. Sorry I made a face shoe. I mean but that's true you're into man but it's not even like being in demand for me being like I have at least simple tasks to complete and I'm overwhelmed with him because I'm trying to do because because I'm not really doing what I need to do. I'm like stopping in the middle getting up to get a drink of water looking at my phone scrolling through instagram. For fifteen minutes putting my phone down going on twitter that I'm like oh I didn't get anything done. Do you guys think that like social media in like the attention economy is making it more difficult to actually get shit done. You know what they say. A Jack of all trades master of nine. I think it's like I think that's funny because when you were saying that I was like. Maybe that's your body telling you you don't need to do with this right now. 'cause like that's my kinder spirit but telling me that other times know. I have to put my phone in a different room and turn off my router and all that really fun. I wish I had self control but it is. This isn't the thing that we can only work for..
"hustler" Discussed on Hysteria
"Dollars off your first purchase. Okay welcome back. We're at the point of the show where I'm at a table with one person and there is a through the magic of technology a laptop setup and I can see two other people that are thousands of miles away. This is the the modern world is crazy. We've gone too far. We live in a surveillance state where neighbors nest cameras can capture faces and turn them into law enforcement but also I can facetime you guys. From across the country and people can literally discount everything we say is coastal Elites Shadow. Actually from the coast though from upstate. Macos but it's a city. It's a city surrounded by cities. Is it no? There's a river. I'm I'm deeply from Baltimore Okay there. I'm the only one. You guys are all elites. I'm the real salt of the earth year. Me for president okay. I'M GONNA introduce everybody at the table so that we can get into our topic today. I A woman who needs no introduction because I introduced her in the last segment. It's Eliza Master Monaco so lucky to have you for a long chat today all day all day next up. She's a writer who's sitting next to me in Los Angeles it's three retaining God. It's so nice to three DB here is the only one with all three dimensions. The contours of life to be next to usurp beautiful. Who's crying. She's crying ice cold. Deers my spirit. And last but not least so great to have you back after a long break. She's a writer comedian performer. Who you can see at the Bell House on February twenty sixth and also you can check out our album which is dropping that day. It's called generations away because her name is Ebay and she's here today. Hi thanks for having me. I'm so glad to see your beautiful face. Oh my God. I'm glad to see your beautiful face with a lighting. Here's awful. I am excited to talk about this with the group that we have here today because all of us are people who work pretty hard or feel bad when we're not working hard towards I think is a very specific type. Of course I wanNA talk a little bit about hustle culture which is a sort of performance give desire to work a performance of enjoyment of being overworked and the way that both social media and our current like economic late stage. Capitalism has driven us to So anyway since it's been the longest I've seen you What do you think of when you think of hustling like? How do you understand what it means to hustle I think of people tweeting Hashtag beast mode Hashtag grind time and other like hashtags to celebrate? How much they are working themselves into an early grave. I mean do you. Are you somebody who feels like your Hashtag grind timing ever well? I'm a millennial so I have to hustle to keep my health insurance. How here you know Real Eliza you've been around the longest. Oh let me just tell you been gone throw forty four on twitter turning forty four IRL. And I'm older than everyone and you clap. Clap it up for this lady but Yeah so my Hustle. GotTa tell you. I'm lazy as fucking old age. I don't WANNA DO ANYTHING. I don't I don't. I burnt myself out in my twenties and Thirties. And now if someone wants to do a conference call. I get annoyed For All those years before I became really just I mean I'm obviously not lazy but I just don't want to do anything but before that. No it's like you know when I was young. Okay so I want to work in government but it doesn't pay anything. So what am I going to do? I'm going to be a nanny. What else am I going to do? I'm going to. I'm going to be a hostess on the weekend and you know Jesus Christ I just when did perform it work? We'll just call it that When did it become a lifestyle social media? Whenever the day the instagram was invented is the day that we all started to perform how much we work because we saw him. We'll get ten thousand fifty thousand twenty one hundred and twenty thousand followers off of like the illusion of being so driven on and they were able to turn that those followers to cash money. I don't know I think yeah. I think it's so public. And so shared now but like listen to a lot of Jay z lyrics about really like stacking paper and the like and grinding. And like are you about your. Were you about your money. Are you about like getting moving? Forward what are you? How are you continuing to like be better than the people around you and that was around how I grew up a little bit of like I didn't even know I knew. My mom had two jobs and you know she had that third. Dr She just told me about two weeks casually in her now just luxuries wealth like I know so. It really was a question. Yeah so was. Would you consider that performance though to have three job survive or is there like a separate society for performance aspect of work versus? Actually having to make the fair. That's a fair point. I think she was doing it for like like food on. There was a little bit of like that early odds late nineties of like entertainment tonight. People going against your at that age that I was where did feel like gas. You're going to have like this. I have a hand back line and I also like am during Dodge and there was this little bit of endorsement e different avenues of income. That was getting to us. In these towns in these places where that's still looked far away and you need to attain that level of diversification to get anywhere near what these like full liberties. Yeah I mean. It sounds like there's a lot of things going on here first of all. There is the quintessential American illusion of class mobility and the fairy tale of like we can Yeah you could just if you work hard enough you can overcome your circumstances. Even though a lot of times your circumstances are kind of the things are so stacked against you that you have to work super hard and get lucky in order to have a chance of getting out and there are plenty of people who work really hard and don't get lucky and there are some people who I mean very few people who win the lottery. Get lucky and then don't have to work hard but otherwise it's like but I think the other thing is So that's one thing that's people who are coming from Coming from economic classes where? They're not they don't have everything that they need or everything that they want thinking. They can work their way out of it but then I also think that there is a desire by a useless class to pretend like they are working hard and doing useful things like the I am like a handbag line. I'm you know. I'm promoting this charcoal toothpaste that scratches the shit. Out of your enamel on instagram. Or you don't like all these people who aren't really don't really have any marketable skills. Except for the fact that they're people know who they are trying to represent the work that they do as something that is hard and valuable. I think like two into Wednesay. We were saying about like just social media sharing this lake these hash tags and like showing the work even though there there's no work to be seen. That was the point where I guess more like cafe. Look at my laptop being even photos and I'm arriving to a meeting photos like people always like really loving to tell folk there about these meetings is also stressful to me. Because it's like I'm not meeting enough like winded. That like get on your spirit meeting. Well you guys think I was thinking about it though. Go back in time to when you actually would go and buy a magazine. Right COSMO or glamour. Any of these. How a magazine? That didn't have a how she gets it done in Colorado and where they profile somewhat and she gets up at four thirty four almonds runs five miles. She's thin she's beautiful. She saves things. She makes a lot of money. She comes home and reads. A book. Doesn't even fuck and deal with the bachelor. Two hundred I mean and so and that was the same as aspirational right. That you could do everything. It was like some weird derivative and they'd always left out the fact that this woman was addicted to adderall and our parents my beautiful townhouse that like my driver gets me from. But no I'm from generational wealth and I've been doing this my entire life. I remember Levers Time I love to watch the today show as a child. Because that's just who I was and there was a I remember this piece about the habits of highly successful people and going there was a poll about the most successful people. Go to the five am. I I still remember that from two thousand and five thousand six and that like has stuck on me and it's always this metric. I have of like well. I'm not trying to be successful because I'm not setting my life up like this segment on the Today. Show from for fifteen years ago right and it really does it. Does it? Elicits these feelings of inadequacy because you aren't also saving the world and like having like working at J. crew and like not being them. It's really hard Rape but at the same time. I think that maybe one thing that old age is taught me since. Aaron says I've been around the longest forever this way. M- Deaf Acting Jeff. Look a wise thing is is that like. It's all part of this fucked up circle. Total that you're supposed to get up early. Do all this stuff. So you can make money so you can buy more shits. You can put your shit on Instagram and show people that you have awesome shit because you're awesome because you get everything done in the day and like as I've gotten older I realize I don't really need shit so maybe I don't have to work hard I was. I spent some time in Paris easily. Not Flex but I do have a POW. I'm a freshman something interesting to me. He said French Frenchman live work to live. And Americans work linked to work which I thought was an interesting dichotomy of like how we treat like time off and like weekends versus like how the Furniture Europeans have like three months off in the middle of the year where they can do whatever they want on or six weeks off. Rather but yeah. It's really fascinating how we've just dedicated ourselves to being like slaves to the culture of like capitalism but I guess that's the only way to examine that sort of mentality kind of burns itself into your brain so that when you do have time that's unstructured. You don't know what I I feel so guilty. It's high you need we okay. Here's here's something that I've I've also found the reverse of that. Is that when I work too? Hard like burnout is real. And we've talked about Burnett on the Bernard is like a real thing where you just get to the. You don't know when the end is coming but you get to the end in your like. I've reached the end when I was living in New York. I was not first of all. Let me preface this because this is not me bragging about my life. I was not feeding myself. Well I was probably drinking too much alcohol. I was not getting enough sleep and I wasn't exercising but I was working constantly. You know I was. I was waking up super early to catch up on the news and develops pitches for the beast. And then I would go into the daily beast and I would go to a meeting and then I would file and then after that a car. Pick ME UP. And take me to CNN. And then I would do CNN and then after CNN. I would go home work on Hollywood stuff and I would like be so wired at the end of my day that I would like have a couple of drinks and then go to sleep and then wake up again and.
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"He's trying to mimi his way into the president very odd near taking but here. I found something positive while Bloomberg running for president. He is making me reexamine how we feel about some of the other candidates who were not my favorite. I agree with that next to Bloomberg almost like anybody else who still in it. I'm like actually. Yeah I prefer that person. I actually prefer my least favorite one of the remaining candidates to ever alcee. It's will you kind of want in. This is look people can yell at me. Whatever for this but like I want someone with a little passion. Who's like I fucking care about this country? I have so many ideas Mike Bloomberg's kind of like putting everybody on ice and he's just like look. I got this. I'm going to become president. You're not going to have to hear me every day you know like I'm not going to abuse twitter and like everyone just calmed down like I don't. There's no motivation. Do you know what I mean like. The motivation is to just be president. I guess that's the difference. There's not like a baseline of here's how I'm motivated by all these different issues. And what I WANNA do for Americans. He may well believe them. I just don't feel it I. I also feel like we've been so freshly lied to by somebody who has made similar promises to Mike Bloomberg that we would be fools to believe him. I mean even if I mean even though he is more trustworthy than Donald Trump we had before donald trump was elected. He was going to divest from his company. He was going to be a serious leader. He was GonNa put you know who's GonNa take care of the interests of America first. Which actually he's been taking care of. You know like all right lies upon lies upon lies and you know it's just not something. I think that I think that if Bloomberg had had run before trump had run a would have made more sense. But it's just feels like why should we do this now? This would be step back or and another thing. I'm sort of colored by is the last week I did these. Focus groups down in South Carolina and one of the most sort of stark things. I noticed when people describe the candidates is how they could recite Tom's dyers bio word for word and it's because he's dumped a billion dollars into South Carolina and people are getting his message directly right. It's like on their television when they're watching the news at night and they are getting his story without you know reporters asking him questions. I mean he's been vetted he's been in the debates and so I guess with Bloomberg it's like that's just the thing it's like I just like yes. He's mayor of New York but he hasn't been vetted in the same way that all these other people have endured And the MORE CLIPS. Come out about him the more. I'm like a God. We can't this can't be the nominee. I mean it's just like it's it's like a empathy issue for me. I would just like to see a smidge more empathy. Yeah I yeah I mean I think maybe if you were more. Empathetic wouldn't have acted the way that he acted when he was the mayor. Ding-dong probably probably at doing move onto toast. Rose let's toast roast. I have a toast. I'll go first please. Do I wanNA toast the Food and Drug Administration? This have they've finally done something worth toasting and this administration they did. But it's like a kind of funny way so there is a new policy change by the Federal Agency that that monitors fruit foods and drugs basically now once the Wants animals are done being tested. On in the development of various foods and drugs they can be adopted out or transferred to shelters. The old policy was that animals that were tested on in trials were euthanized. Even if they were healthy so first of all. That's horrific the that that was the situation. Yeah it's good that the rule has changed. Here's something that's a little strange to me though. The policy took effect in November. And they're only just now disclosing it like dude lead with. Were saving the puppies. That's something literally. They should have released this information with the video of the freedom rides that the dog science which er about the most heart warming thing you can possibly do but Aaron maybe there will be a cat that needs adopting may be. Eleanor needs a sister. Oh my God she would be fear. Ius with me. Well you know. She's she's got to open her heart. Okay if she's a true progressive. She needs to. She needs to walk the walk and talk with dog. She's she's she's she's still giving a side. I tear her dog brother but But yeah so I mean it's. It's great that the animals a lot of beagles are used in lab experiments. And it's Great. That healthy ones are going to be able to be adopted so I guess toast to the FDA thanks FDA. Listen to you of something I would just like to send a shout out to Elizabeth Warren who continues to persist. She was erased from pole this week. Which was pretty incredible because the explanation after everyone went batch it that she was not in this poll because it takes a minute when you see the results. You're like WHOA. Did she. Not Make It. And it's like no. She wasn't in it to begin with which is fucking nuts. Is that when the folks who conducted the poll were pushed on it? They were like we had the fifth slot and we decided to go with amy as if the fifth slot was reserved for a woman right like imagine having done amy and Warren and not have included Mayor Pete. Nowhere ever so anyway. She's been asked about one hundred times and she's just like fucking I take licken. I keep Tickin' so just shout out to Hershey will not be erased. Yeah and I am. I am like you guys are all hearing us. Affirm something we recorded before the debates. I am really looking forward to what she's going to do. I feel like she's coming in just like loaded for bear And that's nothing. That's I love bears and no one should hunt them but she is. I think she's going to bring it. Yeah I'm excited and Yeah Toast to Elizabeth Warren for keeping your head up and staying staying on task even though people are kind of bullshit garbage people people are bullshit garbage people. That's a great way to end this new segment. We have to take a break. Elissa.
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"hustler" Discussed on Pop Culture Happy Hour
"Anyone who's surprised at the big weekend the new film hustlers had at the box office probably shouldn't be not only does it start popular women like Jennifer Lopez inconstant rule with drop ins from Cardi B. and Liz but it got very good reviews at the Toronto International Film Festival. What's not like Hustler is based on the true story of a group of women who danced a strip club together and later drugged and scam some of their wealthy. Wall Street customers directed by Lorene Skafar area the film already generating awards buzz for Jennifer Lopez. I'm Stephen Thompson and I'm Linda Holmes. We're talking hustlers on this episode of Pop Culture Happy Hour from NPR so don't go away. I support for NPR and the following message come from Kroger. Did you know one in eight. Americans struggle with hunger yet forty percent of the food produced adduced in the US gets thrown away. Kroger believes that have just one third of that wasted food could be redirected to people in need it would more than cover unmet. Met Food needs across the country while helping to protect our planet. That's what Kroger is doing through their zero. Hunger Zero Waste Foundation last year alone Kroger donated three hundred twenty five million meals to local food banks. It's part of their goal to achieve zero. Hunger Zero Waste by twenty twenty five learn more ED KROGER DOT COM SLASH Z Z. W welcome back you just met. NPR Music Stephen Thompson also with us as Glen Weldon of the NPR Arts Desk Glenwood and and in our fourth chair today. We're incredibly happy to be welcoming back Christina Tucker of the unfriendly black hotties podcast hi Christina Hello Hello from uh-huh so I saw this in Toronto at the Film Festival. It's now opening kind of right away which is sort of always a fun sequence to observe but Glenn and you were in Toronto but didn't see it there. What did you think of the film. I think reasonable people can disagree about whether or not Jaylo deserves an Oscar nomination. I think it is indisputable that her skin care regimen should win a Nobel prize. We toss around the word luminous we toss around the word glowing she. She looks amazing. There's an opening dense that she does where it's just it stars her hamstring. She's just fantastic. We're GONNA talk in the coming weeks about the film joker and how desperate that film is to speak to the current cultural moment. I think this film speaks more directly and more effectively and less effort fully to what's going on right now. Because it is breezy it is so much fun. It is just pure entertainment with point of view imagine if they made showgirls without the camp because it's got some of the trappings of showgirls right you've got the shopping montages and the and the shoes and the and the furs and the champagne-popping but it's got date much leaner simpler story and you you have cast that can actually act on. I think also the men are largely irrelevant to the film and what what they think is largely irrelevant and I think that's one of the things that makes it an unusual film about women even among I don't. I don't honestly know what I'm interested to hear what you guys have to say because I don't know if he'd be talking about this film that as much as we are and how much of the culture is right now if not for that Jaylo performance which is so assured distinctive addictive. You just forget how good she is until she she delivered something like this. I just had a great time yeah Christina. What did you think I have heard a rumor that you've already seen Hustler's twice ice. I had the time of my life. The first time I saw this film I sought alone the first time and then said No. I need to bring my friends and to see this with friends like we're going again. We're going to the studio movie grill or getting the hustlers punch like we're having an experience at this film. Yeah it was a ton of fine fine. I think we've been referring to it as a period piece because it's so beautifully from the music clothes from two thousand and seven until mid August what's period really just nails the look and makes me think that I should be. I don't know fully ruining my eyes with black eyeliner again like I know that the terrible idea but Jaylo looked amazing amazing doing it so what's the truth here big movie for who bearings food groups huge for hoops and yeah I think the the central friendship at the core of this this film really just hold it together and makes it something. I think a little more emotional than just a bunch of strippers who scam a bunch of men which I was already the end. Let's be clear about that. Central Friendship Being Ramona played by Jennifer Lopez and destiny played by Constance Woo Hoo you know from fresh off the boat and Crazy Ridge Jason's and some other great work Stephen. What did you think of this. I had the most anti-social possible experience. I went alone at eleven o'clock at night. You know what that is. That's a little creepy. A man written and there is no wrong way to see this love it. I love that I had a great time. I think that I agree with everything. Everybody has said. It is very very faithful to this article on March Lisa's Betas. It's based on an article in the cut by Jessica Pressler called the hustlers at scores and article the movie centers on kind of a conversation station in hindsight between the writer of an article and constant Julius style by Julia stiles not doing very much in this movie and Constance Wu as destiny destiny and she's kind of telling some of the you're getting a sense of that. This is a story told in hindsight and this movie plays out a lot the way the article does and if I have one one kind of criticism of this film I think area I know I think peters out at the end. I think like the article it has kind of told that story and then it doesn't necessarily have a big big landing to stick so if if I have one somewhat negative thing to say about this movie movie to prepare for I didn't necessarily think that the last twenty or thirty minutes of it held up quite as much as the first chunk in part because it is resolving having the story of a crime spree that is naturally not necessarily going to end with like and now we're going to do more crime in a way sure and I think I think the other thing is the thing these women basically did was they began to take men out for drinks eventually began drugging them and then would sort of while they were very incapacitated run up their credit cards. Take them back to the Strip club where they would spend a ton of money money 'cause they were barely conscious and if women can kind of get their relevant information out they could run up their credit cards and then the women would split the take with the Strip club the women who had brought these he's drugged man back to the Strip club with then get a share of the take in the club would get the rest. It's a slippery moral slow right well movie engages and I think I think one of the things that I thought about when I watched this was in no way do I think it's acceptable to drug or rookie. Anybody I want to be completely clear about that but it asks you to to engage with the question of how are these women's supposed to feel about the men who treat them as they do when they are working as dancers very early on UC Constance Wu referred to as Lucy Liu by I mean they these men are racist towards them. They're abusive abusive towards them. They're in the same way that I don't think it's acceptable to drug a roof anyone. I don't think it's acceptable to be inappropriate and disrespectful to people including rooting strippers so it's kind of like you're in a very gray world with all of these people and I think you're encouraged. Glenn talked about it. Speaking to the cultural cultural moment I think one of the things that speaking to is in this post recession period which is really how this all started when the business at these strip clubs fell off that these women found a different way to extract money from men who previously had common spent a lot of money at these places anyway yeah well and you see the balance of power shift between these women and these clubs and I do think that's a really interesting part of this movie that I had never really thought about before in the beginning beginning of the film you see what it's like for a worker at this club was having to tip everyone who's having now you're the dancer and you tip hip the DJ and then as the movie rules on and the clubs are struggling differently in the economy is different. Suddenly these women are the club is is commodified in a way that it wasn't before and that's just a really interesting you see power shift in this movie in ways that I found fascinating are a lot of men in in this film who are who are victims of crime. It is hard not to feel like they have also done something bad right not something that deserves what they got necessarily but they have also done something wrong and watching the kind of the the interaction between the women and these dudes. I should should mention Kiki Palmer is also in it and and is a lot of fun to watch because I haven't seen her in anything quite like this before. we mentioned briefly. Cardi B. and Liz they have they been referred. cameo included a lot of Cardi B. and Lonzo in the marketing. You don't see them for very long either one of them. I think they both make the most of screen time the film's strongest when it simply asserting that these guys are jerks and they're being abusive but it's amazing how much of this film runs on on the audience already knowing that already taking that as read right after these women are not robinhood. They're not robbing from the rich to give to the poor. They're robbing from the rich to become slightly less rich than the rich and we find them falling into the traps materialism so the film is in that sense trying to have its cake too but one thing that struck me is how that's the conflict because they do not want to spend any time on having any kind of personal inner conflicts between these women they want these women seem united even when something happens that should create a S- split it doesn't really like turns on a dime like that because this is basically spice world events since this is girl power in the Strip club more interesting than they are complicated friendship deeply into Christina. I want to hear from you about Jennifer Lopez boy. I think the most appropriate appropriate thing I can say on this podcast is bringing what we're like to call in the Biz big top energy performance. I think she she is truly luminous. As Glenn mentioned there's a long shot of men unpacking a tanning bed to bring into her apartment. I don't know why it needed to exist but I watched it felt yes thank you for bringing crucially important point to this moment and I think her motivations I think as Lyndon mentioned earlier kind of just how men are not really thought of especially in the relationships between the two women that she is a caretaker that she wants to take care of the girls that she works with. She wants to care for her daughter. She wants to take care of this family that she's created. and there's the beautiful scene where they all like Christmas together when they're very high on scamming and they've made a bunch of money they're giving each other these lavish luxuriant gifts and I said well that's my mood board for Christmas..
"hustler" Discussed on 1A
"Please take a moment to subscribe and leave us a rating that helps other people find the show and don't forget you can catch the news roundup at the end of every week mouth glad well as one of the most well known thinkers in the world but he says a lot of his fans don't know that he's black the white. People don't know black people always how do you feel about that as a rare. I'm glad well on race pop culture and a whole lot more next time on it's been any minute from NPR back now to our meeting of the movie club with John Hornby Andrea July and Professor Ben Brooks John. I wanted to ask you about the production of the movie because the crew included a consultant who advised the film behind the scenes kind of a stripping consultant named Jaclyn Francis. Here's part of what she told variety variety in an interview about what she did onset. What is a comfort consultant. It's a new title and it's inspired by intimacy coordinator. which is what shows rosenfels? We're starting to us to make sure on satisfying comfortable doing the work they're doing. It was also like like an authenticity consultant because it was really important to me in my involvement in this project. That's burs were represented with compassion. This idea that stubbornness have a show up and like be sexy according to what someone else thinks sexy is and that's not really how stripping is it's an expression of your own sexuality and people pay for it. That's Jacklyn Francis who consulted on the film hustlers John Talk about the evolving ways that movie studios are dealing with highly sexualize roles. I mean constance. Wu mentioned in a recent interview that she did not want to do nudity on screen and the studio clearly honored that there are a couple of things going on one is kind of historically the way that Hollywood has and I guess more accurately has not dealt with nudity and performance feeling uncomfortable in a certain scene it could be women it could be men and they have evolved as the me too movement has grown to make sure that people onset onset feel comfortable doing what they're asked to do and if they don't feel comfortable they can put up their hand or talk to somebody like an intimacy consultant which is a relatively typically new job to make sure that everybody onset especially the actor feels that he or she is safe. The context to is what has happened in these kinds of movies in the past and you can think about showgirls striptease other movies about strip clubs where there's the shot and we talked about the dressing room and the camera lingers anger on people in the background who aren't clothed and yes there are some fleeting nudity and hustlers but it's fleeting and so you are talking about historically how these these scenes have been shot and then on top of that you have a woman director. Lawrence Ghaffari based on an article written by a Woman Jessica Pressler and if you start looking producers department has there are a lot of women working on this show so they are approaching it in a very radical in new way then a male crew would look at it. I think it's obvious from the way the women's bodies shot it's obvious from the fact that they had an intimacy consultant on set and and it feels like they are not doing what the men are joining when they come to the club which is judging the women by their bodies and I think that's a radical development for for this movie because that it's turning the whole idea of what Hollywood and Strip clubs have done in the past on its head. Thank these women are powerful and they're just as capable bullets man and we're not going to judge them based on what they look like beyond real. Let me zoom out a little bit and put this in some context with movies that have come before it you know there have in plenty of movies that have dealt with burlesque and strippers and exotic dancers you know one of Natalie Wood's most famous roles was gypsy the adaptation Asian of musical opposite Rosalind Russell and thirty years after that we had a movie called Strip tease which came out in Nineteen ninety-six. Here's a quick clip of striptease starring Demi Moore. my Ex husband is a fee that hardly qualifies him to raise a seven year old child does being a mother without Aja aw told me this appeal is GonNa cost me twenty thousand dollars I mean. Is there a shot in hell that I can make that in six weeks. Grant is and disprove time time for desperate mission on wrestling shares that I'm GonNa Roll. They make it in creamed corn two hundred drunken yakkers significance up my own a clip from the trailer for Strip tease be Andrea things have certainly changed in the last as thirty years or have they yeah. I mean to John's point. I think it makes a huge difference. WHO's behind the behind the camera who's WHO's the people not onscreen gene making things happen. Jennifer Lopez was a producer on this movie and you know I actually thought that the movie had more in common with nine to five for for example the Dolly Parton Jane Fonda Lily Tomlin flick from the eighties. That actually did really huge numbers for the time it was one of those first movies that was held by women that did really well and you know it's it's about working conditions as Professor Brooks to said as Ameri said that was the biggest surprise for me is I had no idea that so much of the heart of the movie would be about working condition and seeing these women as mothers taking care of families and so yeah I think there's I think fires sort of left the door open for a whole other set of movies to calm of how we can address this and I think that Professor Brooks's comments speak to how more movies could be made from a bunch of different angles that this didn't have the opportunity to hit upon Nazi emailed. This movie does very well and telling these women's stories without glorifying what they did. What is some people feel that this movie. We needed to drill down on. How not okay what they did was as some other reviewers have mentioned? How many countless movies do we have about mobsters. Gamblers criminals that are centered entered around male anti-heroes where we don't ask these questions. Johnno were winding down but I love that comment as I said Goodfellas is one of my favorite favorite movies and there have been a number of like gangster and an heist in bad guy movies over the years where it just feels kind of like a ride died that you're going on as opposed to this morality tale. It didn't feel like Hustler's was gonna hit that note too hard and I think that's what I like like. Most about the movie I went back and read a passage from the article that it's based on an Samantha's the character that Jennifer Lopez is playing and this is what the article all says if they've done anything wrong and she didn't think they had it was nothing compared to this stuff men and got away with on a regular basis and yet they were looking at three years in jail. It was outrageous. What about the things the guys did Samantha fumed. What about Bill Cosby that I think is missing from the film and I think that's a good thing that you can judge these people's behavior. You don't have to try to fit it into a larger narrative but I will leave you with one thing. There's a scene in the movie. Where girl does something. She's not proud of a woman does something she's not proud of it and she's paid. What she thinks is three hundred dollars and she finishes she picks up the money and it's three twenty dollar bills? I was in a theater over the weekend talk to men who are laughing at that like yes. She got what she deserved. So you think about you know what this movie's talking about and where we are as a country and where we are in terms of how we look at the opposite sex. We've got a long way to go John Horn the vice president of the one movie club in the host of the frame on KABC Los Angeles John. Always always a pleasure. Thank you thank you be Andrea. July of freelance culture writer and film critic. Thanks Andrea thanks so much and Saban Brooks a sociologist professor of African American in studies at Cal State Fullerton and the author of unequal desires race and Dorada capital in the stripping Industry Presser Brooks. We really appreciate your time and your insights thank you from the conversation was produced by.
"hustler" Discussed on MyTalk 107.1
"Resources that most kids won't so the if for no other reason it's the same thing with kardashians there's got to be a term for that can we come up with a term for like hate the hater and play the what is that dr is he hate the play i hate they gain yeah yeah i think that's appropriate know well yeah i mean okay i i do think that there's an a name for what you're saying that we should come up with isis the i yes she's a total business because they aren't for example and she's teaching good values she's not like in that has not just a schwab who's trying to get attention by sitting are fanny she's actually going out and starting businesses hassles yes a hustler okay so that's the word yeah she's a hustler baby who would also appeared hustler magazine yes she's a hustler hustler is that still a thing by the way is hustler magazine thing okay and when i'm in a who's who of acid is still a thing oh that because there is a giant building in los angeles it used to say flint enterprises on it and why no that he's alive and still doing things but released their hustler bank like he can you order it can you or i don't know i'm looking at me hustler yang leith oh maybe we should talk about this uh now you're going to have to tell me off the air hustler used to be your what till of the adult magazines as a young man you discover those things there are different things in them can and hustler was always the more enjoyable bradley had glamorous kennedy here because there were things i wanted to look at hurt okay under said verses say boy boy for example nothing in there for nothing on the menu interesting i can't find a website for hustler magazine interesting whom the i it must still just be a brand but i i would i would find it hard to believe that there is still a.
"hustler" Discussed on KSFO-AM
"The some early writings in here and i quote live at a kiss on the side dow shot not take vengeance nor bear any grudge against the children are like people without shut loved i neighbor as they self i am the lord liver dicussed 1918 so the character says either become a rabbi are open a brothel in borneo that's it my choices are i had reached the ultimate cul de sac at my misbegotten existence staying on this road is the case disease and death straight added rather become a rabbi are open a brothel she said to both would be closer to god in your life it's a very interesting fable in god faith the reason that you would never expect to be in such a book this is not a good he to shoes book this is not what you'd expect is not an evangelist book we see if there's anything funny in the that i could read theme now i don't think so it's for you to read go to a bookstore read it you'll see what i'm talking about is filled with stories interesting stories how about a i wanna read a pet don't wanna read it page all this is what i was going through the atheist the phrase and i had my character say this which is why the original book of the jews was now red only by illiterate fools who by circumstance or genetic dysfunction believed the words had been dictated from heaven and strive in stone probably a collection of constant painted poets failed jewel hustler's bankrupt sandell makers hormone goes past their prime child molesters animal torturers and other biblical age riffraff thought the bridge drivers he now approach the south tower nearing a toll booths into the.