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1809: Best of Series: Hal Elrod: The 2 Decisions that Will Make You a Millionaire

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1809: Best of Series: Hal Elrod: The 2 Decisions that Will Make You a Millionaire

"Welcome to the conscious Mariner podcast show episode number, eighteen, zero, nine, the best of series. This is Hal elrod author of the Miracle Equation in on today's show. I will reveal the two decisions that will make you a millionaire. Welcome to conscious millionaire, the number one show very conscious entrepreneurs and CEOS on a mission to build a highly profitable business that makes a positive impact on Egypt's discover how to make bigger money create a bigger impact and live a figure live. You're listening to the conscious meaning network her by over twelve million listeners in one hundred ninety countries now joined your host, Jay the third, the conscious meaner mentor, Master, NLP coach, speaker and author of the number one international bestseller conscious millionaire grow your business by making a difference. Are you. An entrepreneur coach or business owner who wants to unlock your potential achieve much bigger goals and fast track your success, then grab this opportunity to have an accelerate session to clarify what you want and map out your success now. Space is limited, so apply today. Go to conscious. Dot. com Ford slash accelerate again. That's conscious millionaire. Dot Com Ford slash accelerate. Alot. This is your millionaire breakthrough, coach and master strategist jv chrome the third and a big warm, welcome to all you. Entrepreneurs who WanNa make your first million. We have a very special guest with us today, but first I want to give a big shout and thank you to all our fans and friends in Austin Texas in San Diego California now. Help me welcome our featured guest. He's launching a brand new book today. The miracle equation and he is the man who turns miracles into New Orleans today. We're going to be discussing the. The two decisions that will make you a millionaire now help me welcome our featured guest. He's on a mission to elevate the consciousness of humanity one morning at a time as the author of one of the highest rated bestselling books in the world, the miracle morning, which has been translated into thirty four languages, has over three thousand five star Amazon reviews and his practice daily by over a half million people. He's doing exactly that if you haven't guessed my guest, today is how elrod. How thank you so much for being on the show? Jay. I'm excited, man. This is going to be a lot of fun. You know what I'm excited about I've wanted to meet you for a long time, and of course I know about the miracle morning and. Our PRE air conversation I've learned a lot about some of the sickness issued gone through at twenty die, technically for six minutes came back, so let's Del I in the value of identifying miracles in your life, and actually how you do, turn them into millions, but it really starts with acknowledging that we have miracles in our lives. Yeah I mean I think that miracles kind of have a bad rap for a few different reasons. You know they're very mysterious. Right? That's part of the appeal of miracles is not understanding how these clandestine events come together to make our wildest dreams come true, but for the most part it happens to other people. You know you hear stories about other people that. That have amazing miraculous health recovery's or win the lottery, but those don't do for us in so for me. I defined a miracle as a it's a tangible result. It's an extraordinarily tangible result that is outside the realm of what we might believe is possible for us. It might be a dream a grand vision for our life in for me, I. I WanNa make miracles measurable I WanNa make them so that there is something that we can we can. Really we can focus on. We can focus on creating. It's not parting the red. Sea It's not the pray and wait strategy for some miracle. Drop in your lap. It's hey what's the most extraordinary life I can imagine and and and and living that life. Life would feel like a miracle right, but now do we close the gap. How do we create a straight line as we can? From where we are to the the life that we ultimately want, and in this case you know with the show it's how do we? How do we close that gap between where we are now in becoming a millionaire or Were, you know which interesting is listening to you and we didn't even discuss this before we started, but it's very clear. There's a spiritual element to all of this and again. Spirituality can kind of a woo kind of wrap when you start talking about miracles is like what you mean. Is it angels appearing to us or to God? Speak to us, but there's a practical spirituality and appreciating really just that the the essence of life. Is a miracle. That we're in human beings on this planet is a miracle that the ecosystem actually works you know and that we're miracle, and then we get to create miracles like computers. which if you think about it? One hundred years ago would look like a miracle. Like what is this thing that we now carry in our pocket and call it a phone, but we hardly ever make phone calls on. If somebody's identifying miracles in their lives. Where do they start? To identify those miracles, and then I wanna tie that into your new book the Miracle Equation and folks. It is a long subtitled the two decisions that move your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable. Remind me the question again i. Title the so long. But it's such a great subtitle. It really intrigues up. Let's start with how someone listening so you're probably saying to yourself well. I've heard of your book the Miracle Morning Maybe you haven't maybe don't. How does someone start again? AH, miracles in their lives and more importantly. How do we actually self create those miracles? So that we can live the life we want. Yeah, and I think that the starting place is really important You could call it. Your emotional wellbeing right like our emotional wellbeing is where success begins and ends meaning. You've gotta be able to manage your emotional state and put yourself in a peak emotional state to go create the success you want, and then you've got to be able to manage your emotional state to appreciate the success that you create and I think that. That it starts of the cart before the horse you gotTa start by appreciating the life that you have and you know you mentioned the miracle of just being alive with the miracle of of the relationships in our life I. If you look at all of the things in life, think of it this way, we all have to pages that we can focus on right, so imagine that if you're like me right now. I'm holding both my palms up in front of my face. Face and on the left hand is imagine you're holding a scroll that lists all of the positive things in life. Right all the things you have good about and be grateful for, and then on the right page on the right hand I'm holding a scroll that lists all of the things I have to feel bad about and for most of us, both pages are a mile long right there infinitely long and the quality of our life has very little with which what's going. Going on around us and everything do is what we're focused on right and you know when I had my car accident I was twenty years old I was hit head on by a drunk driver at seventy miles. An Hour I was found dead scene died for six minutes. My heart suffer six minutes. I flatlined. Two more times came out of a coma six days later and GBI. I was told I would never walk again and within literally the first day I decided. Rather than focus on what I can't change rather than focus on what I can't control this such an important lesson. I think for all of us right? You know I had a lot of things to feel bad about. Oh my gosh car accident I. Don't deserve that person. I'm never gonNA. Walk again. This is this is a horrible I decided. You know what if I'm in a wheelchair. The rest of my life I might as well be the happiest person you've ever seen it in a wheelchair because I mean a wheelchair, either way and the quality. Quality of my life I'm not gonNA. Let it be determined by circumstances and I think that's the starting place. You gotta start by really loving the life you have in order to really create the life of your dreams like you had to start with appreciating yourself loving yourself loving the people in your life among I'm getting a little software right, but it really does start with that because here's the thing we see this with so many celebrities were they achieved millions and millions of dollars in their living a life of their dreams, and they're not happy. And they turned to drugs and alcohol and various vices, some even commit suicide because they didn't get it right the first part right. They didn't understand that. Oh! Success is not about getting more. It's first and foremost about appreciating what you have, because only then when you get more, you understand how to appreciate more of what you want. More of what you have and so. I really do believe that the path to creating. A, life of miracles, and even becoming a millionaire for it to be a meaningful millionaire lifestyle, it starts with you really deciding to see all of the beautiful things in your life now the joy in your life now. How can you be present? Like was going to sleep the other night? JV and I think this is important I was going to sleep through the night and I realize just became really. Really present to the fact that I was stressed out. I've got this book launch coming right now, and you know I've been doing a million things, and there's a million things. I gotTa do to make this book. A success and I realize I'm falling asleep, feeling an overwhelming amount of distress and truly subtle. It's kind of back of my mind and back my body on, but I realize this is. How to too many of us go to bed every night right? Worrying about the things stress the things that we have to do tomorrow that we didn't get done today. And I realized this is not serving the and so instead, and now this is my miracle evening. That I do every night now I go to bed, picking one or more things that are going well in my life that I have. Have be grateful for that. I've actually accomplished. There might have been ten things on my to do list for the day. I might have only gotten three dominance. That s not the seven I praise myself for the three. I knowledge myself for the three I smile, and this is how I this. Is this my miracle evening now this I go to bed every night every night. I go to bed smiling. For what I'm doing right instead of all of the mistakes that I'm making you know I think that's an important part of your journey as you've got to really be present to the mirror full of life that you're living now while you venture out to create an even better life in the future. Well. There are a lot of things that are going through my mind is I. Listen To this? How one I'm looking at your mission? Which is to elevate the consciousness of humanity one morning at a time. You. Don't know is that my purpose is to elevate humanity and support. The evolution of human consciousness is very. Easy going on same page and I want to help. A million entrepreneurs become conscious millionaires so I think the. Similarity and that you're talking about. How do we express? It really appreciate the gratitude the joy what we already have. In my case I WANNA. Help people get to that no IAN mark, but having gun with a conscious purpose of why they're on the planet, and how that expresses for their business in lightfoot. A similarity here you don't what seems really critical. Is How to turn that gratitude into. On these two decisions, so you start with being grateful, and I have a gratitude journal as well as I'm sure not, and it's amazing how much you can write in five minutes. Things to be grateful for. I'm curious. How does that gratitude move into? What is your new book? The miracle equation how did the to come together? And then how does that relate to these two decisions really wanted to dig down those because I know. You're listening because this is the founder show and I know that you are looking for models and paths for how you can get to your first million. Yeah so let so in terms of gratitude. Right that is I. Don't think I. Use that word, but that's the word you eat. Some you know. Everything was just talking about really as gratitude. It's gratitude for what you already have in your life. Gratitude for what you've accomplished gratitude for the abilities that you have the the limitless capabilities for the future. That's the starting place, and then I'll transition into these two decisions. The miracle equation is something I created when I was twenty years old to break a company sales record I was I was in sales I sold co cutlery and I was trying to set. The to become the first sales rep in the fifty. You're history of the company to accomplish a certain sales record. In in fourteen days it was a short window, and I was trying to do something that never been done before, and then I was told by my sales manager that Oh. Yeah, this isn't a fourteen day. sales period as as it normally would be our conference that we're going to his early, so you only have ten days, and what felt like a miracle and fourteen days felt like an impossibility. Impossibility intimidates interesting. Instable Y- reverse engineered I was about to give up on the goal, and then I remembered something. My mentor want him. Interest taught me about the purpose of a goal isn't a hit. The goal is to develop the qualities and the characteristics of someone who can hit goals right so whether or not you hit each, and every goal doesn't matter. It's who you become. How committed are you to give everything you have until the last possible moment, and if you committed whether or not, you actually reached the. The goal you fall little short surpass it. Hit it whatever who you become last far beyond the results right and so So that was reverse engineered. I said okay, if I were to make this miracle happen, and you can apply this to any miracle in your life I I applied this to beating cancer. I applied this to selling a million copies of the miracle morning. Right I apply this to becoming a millionaire in my in my life, initially applying into the sales contest, I reverse engineered I said okay. Okay if I were to achieve this goal to things would have happened between now, and then I would have to make two decisions and stick by those decisions until the last moment regardless of my results along the way the for by the way, let me say this. These two decisions are deceptively simple in their explanation, but they're very rare in their execution. That's why there are very few millionaires, because very few people actually make these decisions and stick with them until they make those millions, the first decision is unwavering faith. And the second decision is extraordinary effort. If you studied the world's most prolific achievers, innovators, creators, millionaires billionaires you find that those are the two decisions that they made, and they maintained the first one unwavering faith. It's about establishing the faith that you can do something you've never done before, and that's counterintuitive. George human. Nature think about that. There's no evidence if you want to be a millionaire and you weren't born and millions, you have no evidence that says you can make a million dollars or more, so all these high achievers had to step out on the fate that they could do something to establish fade. They could accomplish something they'd. They'd never accomplish before. That's the first part of unwavering faith and making that decision, and for me and my sales. I had to establish fate that I could do this thing that not only did I never done it? No one in the history of the world had done it, so it was it was. It was pretty intimidating. And the second part of unwavering faith is the unwavering part, which is you have to maintain that faith until and outward until state. If you more time to get a circle, it highlighted underlying it until you get where you want to go, and that's counterintuitive as well. Most of us if we are willing to establish the fate that we can do something because we're optimistic, right, they call the uninformed optimism most of us don't maintain it as soon as we get an obstacle, a roadblock, a wall and adversity, or were not on track for the goal. We usually we usually get discouraged and we go. Who was I kidding right? There's no way know I thought I could do it, but I definitely can't do it. And I realize that in order to. To achieve any goal we have the faith must not waiver. You have to maintain the faith through all the ups, the downs, the INS, the outs and the obstacles, and so all high achievers, all millionaires that is the first decision that they make is to establish the unwavering faith they can do something and maintain that faith, so that is unwavering until they achieve their desired outcome in it usually takes longer most people they want to be a million a year and it takes ten or Anywhere in between. You so this is really a critical piece on the unwavering faith. I happened to be rereading thinking. We're rich right now. So just bought a new copy because I didn't want my old notes because I'm in a different place than it was when I first started reading it thirty years ago. So unwavering faith sounds very thinking grow rich like and if the kind of thing that I believe in as well. But unwavering faith, so I want to throw this out and then see how this fits for what you're talking about I talk sometimes about seeing it literally and feeling, it is already done. Even though it's not done. How does that relate and and the real thing I'm asking is the practicality because you might be listening going what what how? It's easy for you. You've already done it right, so you're looking at SPEC. But how do we get unwavering faith? When I can't pay my bills or you know. Clients don't seem to like what I'm doing, or you know my spouses in happy with me and we're not even having a good relationship. Now how what's the practical way to develop that and maintain it? So JV. I'm glad you asked that. Because a I would have forgot to talk about this. And Be. This this is very counterintuitive and a very important distinction, and I'm going to go back to that sales contest so I was trying to break this record and I I didn't really believe I could do it. I mean it because the odds of me doing it were. We're not good at all right and if you would have come to me if I you know, I would have said Hi. I'm maintaining unwavering faith. I'm GONNA, break. Break the record and achieve my goal. If you would've put any amount of money up against me and said how I'll bet you thousand dollars, you won't break that record I would not have taken the backside. No, you're probably right I. Don't think I'm going to so. Here's what's interesting. The power of unwavering faith is you don't actually have to believe it what it does. Is it direct your focus where it needs to be whether? Whether or not you believe it or Hewlett see now. This is a whole nother conversation around Europe your concept of. Can you imagine it? Can you visualize it? You actually create the emotions of of you reaching the goal before they even happen right? Put yourself in that emotional state. There's value to that for sure, but I did not do that. What I did is I knew that I was going to have a lot of self. Self doubt along the way and show millionaire that didn't have a lot of self doubt. They had to battle overcome on their journey to their first million right or their second land, and so my decision was that when I have fear when I'm faced with self, doubt or fear on the journey toward achieving my goal That's GonNa tip me to give up. That's going to discourage me like and this is human nature. Nature. That's very normal. We're emotional creatures and I decided. I'm going to override fear with faith, and I did that with a simple mantra, which says I'm committed to reaching my goal, and I I actually inserted the Guam committed to selling you know X. amount of dollars no matter what there is no other option, and that was my mantra in its simplest form I would often I would I would elaborate on the mantra and. And have more of an indepth dialogue with myself to manage my mindset, but the point is. I didn't actually believe I was going to reach my sales goal until I reach. I mean I I. I reached on my very last appointment on the very last day, and the odds of me selling what I sold on appointment. We're not very good so I lived the first week after my sales I wasn't even halfway where I. I needed I was nowhere near the entire time, and it really played out like a miracle and I think you'd be studying most people you hear most these journeys they sound like miracles. People go. Yeah. It came together in the last week the last day the last hour we like we had to push forth until the very end and it finally somehow all came together at the end. You look at the world's greatest athletes right? Right many many times they win the championship at the Buzzer they come back from behind. It doesn't look good, but they live by the miracle equation. They maintained Michael Jordan main, aimed unwavering faith that he could make every shoddy took when every game he played, even if he had lost six games and lost a lot missing last five shots, his face didn't waver, and that's the world's greatest. That's how they become the world's greatest. While I love. This in Etowah was really great about this formula. How is that? You're saying you can be plagued with doubt. But just keep taking action and moving forward anyway and I think that's very practical or folks. We've come to the twenty four hour challenge challenging and how I'm going to ask you to give everybody listening just a twenty four hour challenge something from today that they can accomplish in the next twenty four hours. Absolutely. Here's a very quick sixty seconds on how to apply the miracle. Equation Your Life. The first part is unwavering faith so right down a mantra I am committed to blank whatever your goal is no matter what there is no other option, and that mantra becomes what you recite over and over, and over every single day until you get there whether it takes you six months a year whatever it is, and in terms of extraordinary effort, the whole objective with extraordinary effort is making it ordinary by defining what is your recurring process that will make your accessible the title of the book the subtitle. The biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable, so define your process. What can you do? Maybe it's an hour a day working on your goal, your dream, whatever it could be really simple. When I was in sales I define the number of phone calls that I had to make each and every day based on my averages to make my success inevitable and I knew if I made that number of Kohl's I would reach my goal regardless of the fear. Fear the self doubt the obstacles along the way the average is would always workout so established unwavering faith that you can accomplish what it is. You want to accomplish reinforced that faith every single day, especially when you encounter fear and self doubt and clarify your extraordinary effort by defining a recurring process that you do every day every week every month that makes your success in moves it from possible to probable, and eventually to inevitable, because that's where miracles happen. We're here with how elrod author of the brand new book, the Miracle Equation and we'll be right back. Hi, this is jv. Have you ever wondered why some entrepreneurs and coaches make millions while others struggle to get ahead? If you want to build a high profit business that makes a difference that want offer you a completely free accelerate session to clarify what you want and map out your plan to achieve it because I want you to get the amazing life and business of your dreams. Get your accelerate session now now space is limited, so apply today. Go to conscious millionaire dot COM FORD slash accelerate. That's conscious. MILLIONAIRE DOT COM Ford slash accelerate. Again just go to Congress. MILLIONAIRE DOT COM Ford slash accelerate. Welcome back. I'm your millionaire breakthrough coach Jv, crump to third and I'm here with how elrod author of the brand new book the Miracle Equation, and it's time for the millionaire questions you know what is three secrets that you've learned that would help any entrepreneur listening today. Make their first million. Absolutely number one is to create a morning ritual that's aligned with becoming a millionaire right, obviously on the author of the miracle. That's my previous book. And? We have happily people do that every day in the miracle your morning ritual sets the tone, the context and the action for your day, which determines your week your month your year in your life, so create a morning ritual that's aligned with becoming a millionaire. The second thing is seeking out million or mentors, and the beauty is. You've already done that. You listen to jv chrome. You've got a million or mentor right here but I. I would encourage you to consider investing in JV's next level. Go go further. Go into the coaching. Find someone that's one thing is me. I invested in millionaires to learn from them, and that shortens. You're learning curve in. You'll be familiar a heck of a lot faster. It's an investment in yourself that will pay many dividends many times over, and the third is obviously supplied miracle equation, unwavering faith plus extraordinary effort toward becoming a millionaire until. You become a millionaire as long as that takes. You don't you've got the great book? That's just come out the miracle equation. You've got the miracle morning. What's a book that you'd like to recommend for anybody listening to gay who wants to make their first million? Yeah, one of my favorite books on that topic is the millionaire lane by M J DEMARCO and. Yeah. It's kind of a you know. A yeah, it's it just. It's one of my favorite books on the topic of creating a scalable empire or business that will earn a million. But you know I wanNA. Throw in another book because you have been prolific and writing. You've got miracle morning knowing air, so I also WANNA suggest that book, and of course we'll have links to all of these on the show notes, and now I'm curious you don't. If you were starting a new company today, you made your first million and now you've made millions more. What would you do differently than you did the first million? I would I would focus on creating something that was scalable that would produce passive income. When I started out, it was I was involved in everything it was I was a coach for the most part, and so I had to be coaching all the time and I had to be running programs, and speaking on and so forth, and then once I started writing books and making money while I slept I went. Oh, this is way better know. This gives me freedom to do what I want when I want. To the point of money to me right as the the freedom for you and the impact, you can make brothers, and so for me it'd be focused on creating something that was scalable and producing passive and. You know how I know if you're listening today that you're probably going, wow, how's a guy I've always wanted to hear unconscious millionaire. How can listeners reach out to you? Best places my website. How elrod DOT COM each L. E. L. R. D. DOT COM. And you know you've got the new book coming out today. The miracle equation, but I know that you like every millionaire thinks a good bit in advance, so I'm very curious. We haven't discussed this, but could you pull back the curtain a little bit force? What's going to be the next summit? And then what kind of challenge or obstacle you have to? To get to that next mountaintop. The next one once once the miracle equation comes out today, and once we promote now for the next month or so really Har- heavy. But the miracle morning documentary is the next big mountain We've been filming a making a movie for four years, and in the middle of filming I. I was diagnosed the rare aggressive cancer. I was given a thirty percent chance of surviving and rather than put the film on hold. My filmmakers thought. Hey, we've got a capture this video because you. Fighting for your life is very interesting, so. Luckily, he saw that vision and the miracle morning documentary will release in theaters, probably September, two, thousand, nineteen I don't know the exact date yet. Because right now books on the miracle, but yeah, that'd be really exciting, but putting a movie out in the hurdle is I, have no idea how to release a film so. I'll be there it'll. Well, you know what I think is great, isn't that? We all have resources from our past and you're salesman I. Have Great Confidence Unwavering Faith that you will do a great job with that. Final question. What's the legacy? You WanNa? Leave how? You know it's to elevate the consciousness of humanity, one person at a time one morning at a time, and and my family, of course being the most important people that I wanna do that for an so. Yeah, that's that's for me. Is is that you know to be known as someone that was always striving to help? Others be the best that they could be an improved their lives, and I found that Zig ziglar quote that you can have everything you want in life. If you opened up, other people get what they want and so I. You know ten years ago. I realized that started focusing all my energy on. How can I serve others? How can? Can I add value for others and in doing that. You know the the old. The Truism Zag became true and I found that you. The more people you help the more you help yourself. We've been here with how elrod, but most importantly you've join us because you're the most important part of the show, you're the reason I do. The show is to bring you great gas like how Elrod and bring the information you need as an entrepreneur in order to reach your first million and make a big impact with your life. I look forward to connecting with you on the next conscious millionaire, and how thank you so much for being are featured guest today. My pleasure Dave. Thank you so much. 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Don't Give Up | Hal Elrod

The Good Life with Stevie & Sazan

1:22:32 hr | 1 year ago

Don't Give Up | Hal Elrod

"Thank you for listening to this podcast one production available on apple podcasts and podcast one. Have you ever felt like you've wasted your gifts. You felt like I have so many things I could do so many things that I'm I'm good at or maybe have one thing that I'm good at but I haven't done anything with yet today. Fam- I wanNA encourage you and tell you that your gifts the your time have not been vein and it's not too late for you that you can start today. You can start working on your goals. You can start moving forward today and on today's episode says on and are going to share some of the struggles. We've been through to get to where we're going but also we have an incredible interview with Hal elrod. A man who is actually died before Comeback Act to life told he was never gonNA walk and eventually learn how to walk. He's got an incredible story but more than that he's not just surviving. He's thriving and living miracle life and he's GonNa share with you his keys on how to do that and how to actually achieve your goals through through his book the Miracle Equation. I'm telling you guys. It's something you do not WanNa miss an incredible story like I've never heard before and then also at the end of the episode guys I encountered something this week that was really out of body experience. Something admits <hes> pretty crazy and I can't wait to share it with all at the end of this episode now before we get into that of course we got to have a word from one of our good life sponsors here really quick so as you guys know. You've probably heard US talk about before on the show about Sun Basket Sun basket is a company that simply makes it easy for you to enjoy what you like in the simplest way possible if you haven't heard talk about sun basket before they have Paleo carb conscious gluten-free Mediterranean diabetes friendly so it doesn't matter whatever you're into. 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Oh you had teeny I mean we've all been separated but Dang. I missed you. I missed you in the fact that we're doing this episode right now. Let us just paint this picture. You guys we've done the good life now and all sorts of places we haven't done in our car yet but career currently doing this episode in Steve's Mom's one of their guest rooms in the house and we are literally in a corner of the room like right next to the comforter because it it's a great sound blocker and we're just like curled up next to each other. Doing this episode sound really weird though because it's like we're in our late twenties doing a podcast in my mom's house in Bedroom. It's like no. We promised where we're still waiting on the hassle. We're doing podcast in my mom's room. It's like Oh wow good for you. That's nice graduation I now did you. Did you ever good week baby while we were gone. You know what it was a weird. It was a weird week wasn't a bad week. It wasn't a great week. It was kind of really strange those weeks. That kind of feels like it's almost like you feel like you have so much zoo yet. You don't want to do anything and then when they get your to. Do you like why just did everything. Why do I still feel like I need to be doing more? That's how I felt yeah. That's exactly how I felt. I feel like there was things I had to do and I got them done and then I was like so what do I do now. Yeah and you know everybody else. All the people I know here are working during the day and when I finished my work I just kind of like now way and there was like this blank space that I didn't know what to do with it was weird and I was trying to think of things to do like how can I get ahead right now and it was almost like God was just like dude just chill. I know I actually ironically felt that same way. When we came back yesterday to Austin you know Siemian I I feel like after teeny went to bed and after we hung out with his family we always like to spend a little bit of time before actually turning out the lights and going to bed just like talking and that was really the first time bay? We got to like just catch each other up on the week because even though we talk every single day a even when I was in Dallas and you were here it just like we don't we weren't seeing each other every day so all the little details some of the things that we were going through. I feel like we didn't really have a chance to actually talk. You know what I mean. Why why was there while you were here? We really just wanted to spend time with you know our families families and then obviously coming back here. I knew I would see you so it's just interesting to me that last night before bed we had a really kind of deep conversation about how we were both feeling that way and I couldn't describe it either but it was almost like you know when you I feel like you've kind of pushed yourself. As far as you can go and then you can just feel God's presence saying like don't you dare cross this line. You know stay behind the line. I felt like that too and I was getting things done. It's not like I wasn't being productive. I guess it was just this idea is like I wasn't. I didn't feel busy you know and it was just a really good reminder. I think because when we lived in L._A.. We did live a pretty structured productive lifestyle but when the feeling busy it was almost like we finally like we're getting used to this comfortable feeling and just feeling like we were always busy whether it was chasing teeny around you know making sure that she's on top of everything is new parents that kind of business but also the business of like balancing businesses and just the hectic things that come with that in upkeeping our house I would always clean and so being in Texas like we haven't had that. We haven't had to do some of that stuff like you know. Obviously we have families help with teeny which has been great but we haven't had to clean really like the things that we had to do in our home in l. a. and it just we don't feel busy and so that's when things start to stirring your mind like oh my gosh. Are we being productive enough. Are we like are we getting to like chill like to relax acts like getting lazy. I feel like are to do this right. Now is like learning how to be patient and just tell right yeah because I feel like I feel like we have been standing around the starting line. It's almost like there's a race that we know we WANNA run. There's things we WANNA do. There's places we WANNA go right right and it's like we're standing starting line. We're like okay. We're ready. When can we start? Could someone blow the whistle and God's like it's time to start yet feel like he keeps being like dude. Go back to your waiting room like just chill. We're like in the warm up right before a game or a marathon. It's like the runners. Everyone's getting ready. Everybody else's showing we're like we're ready right now and I feel like it's almost like gods like I haven't blowing the whistle yet. It's time to get this thing started and I feel like like you were saying we need to stop trying to out like pay Scott or outrun him. You know it's almost like when I get on the housing APP to and I'm looking at the houses and I'm like okay so whereas our house feel like God like saying to me like dude. Don't worry about it like it's not right now like having given you that go ahead yet and was I was telling you last night and you just brought up again was that you know in the season of sort of calm in waiting and quietness. I still feel like God is like don't don't worry. There's a productive reason for why I brought you guys back out to Texas. There's a reason for that clearly. We know that we are not being called to come back and live here. We feel that so strongly like there's anything that we feel it's that like God is just like don't worry you're not gonna live here but there was a reason why God brought us back to Texas and during this time of not being so busy babe I feel like I have just noticed like I don't. I wouldn't have noticed if I was busy. <hes> just a lot of things that are happening in our families and I mean that in the best way the precious time that we're having with family there has just been this like new found like kind of like we're peeling back a new layer of just like this more or intimate bond with our family that we've never had and on both sides of the families and with teeny like I just started crying last night you know partly because I am pm saying but also because seeing Tinian Dallas like with my family we would go out to the backyard after like when it cooled off at the end of every night we would just all sit in the backyard and we all had our patio chairs in a circle and then teeny which is kind of like stand in the middle of us and she would just start like dancing dancing in like screaming and laughing and like I genuinely saw our daughter I feel like just the in the most happiest state that I've ever seen her as a mom. Thus far is being around my family and knowing everybody by name and going around and giving them kisses and then to see the light on my family's faces when teeny is just interacting with them and everybody is so wrapped up in like her and you know because she really is this just she's just this pure form of joy unhappiness in really she's been really healing. I feel like symbol for my family. She's been this like I feel like she in a way she kind of represents God's goodness and God's pure love enjoy and you know every time we have to leave Dallas. I see my family and they get so sad and it just reminds me of just like you know how how how we feel sometimes with God when when we're around God and world circled around God's presence and you just feel that genuine joy and you forget about like your day to a day troubles I mean teeny really was that symbol for my family and as a result I'm seeing even more healing and I'm seeing more prosperity within my own family and I'm seeing a lot of goodness in your side of the family as well and it's just been this summer where God is like there was a reason you guys needed to come out here and spend time with your family's like your family's needed you. They needed you guys and as a result. It wasn't just needing us but it's been this interceding healing. I feel like that's been happening. God has been able to intervene in certain parts of our family lives. You know that we're not going to get into but just to see that. God's presence is all over our family. It's just made me feel this newfound purpose out here too. It's like we're not just sitting around and feeling like our our purpose is going away. I just see in our own homes. Babe God is moving and we're we're able to influence an and I think one thing that I really appreciate the my dad said was he was like the first thing he said we got here was like you're. You're here for a reason. I and I know this. Time isn't easy for you. Because I know you want your own house like anybody does but he said but you're here for a reason and God is efficient and I was like oh I've thought about that. God's efficient like we're not just here to waste time time. God is doing something while we're here. There's a purpose for while we're here and I feel like that's really encouraging anybody else out there. If you're kind of in a weird waiting period or you feel like you know God's not doing anything in your life there stagnant God is efficient so maybe God's calling you to kind of take steps towards him. You know and draw closer to him or maybe there's something that you need to do. You know that you need to start working on her. Maybe you need to learn patients like yeah but I just feel like God is efficient with time time is not wasted and I just want to say that to anybody else out there. Who feels like maybe my time is being wasted in my life? Hey Mama's I've got a question for you. Have you shopped for kids. Vitamins lately Stevie and I are definitely entering that season where we're starting to explore vitamins Simmons and how to keep our girl healthy and getting all the right nutrients so there's so many brands to choose from as you guys know which could be overwhelming suits like how do I choose the right one well. You guys have got to check out Zogar. 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I'm going to spell that for you. It's lucky vitamin DOT com Ford slash the letter you and then Cubes C. U.. B. E. S. to get that discount love you Vam and another thing I wanted to say to people and we talked about this last night was and before we get into this interview y'all with how it is incredible. I mean he has an amazing story so inspiring talk about somebody that has been through some crazy stuff and has walked out an incredible life and achieve some great things through a lot of adversity like a lot like death well yeah you'll find out but I wanted to say something bay because we were talking about this last night. <hes> Fam- I have struggled with feeling like so much of my potential and my God given abilities have been wasted or are wasting wasting away and I wanted to say to each one of you. That's listening that if you've ever ever felt like you've wasted your time or that God's done with you. I wanted to tell you today that he has not done with. You like whatever that thing. Is that Burns inside of you that you want to give to the world girl that thing that you wanNA create and put out into this world God's not done with that yeah. There's a burning passion and a desire and a gift in there for a reason and I just WanNa tell you wherever you are however old you are if you're nineteen years old or if you're fifty five years old it's not too late and God's not done with you. He can do amazing things with you and no matter what you've done in the past. Maybe feel like you've disqualified yourself say well. I'm not good enough or I passed up on my opportunity. I missed it or I wasted my time. He's is not done with you. He can work with you right now and I'm speaking that out because I've really felt that way myself but I wanna tell each and every one of you that there's nothing that will help alleviate that then doing something anytime in my life. I felt like I've wasted time baby. You've been such a great encouraged or to me. Just hey okay well. If you don't know exactly what you WanNa do just take a step in one direction. Just try one thing. If you feel like there's too many options just do something and that's that's a lot of the questions as we got to about this before this episode was what do I do. How do I choose a dream? How do I choose a goal? y'All just start making moves. Just start going out there and putting your heart into something and if you fail at least you'll learn something and I love that you speak so boldly on this because because I know the journey it has taken you to get to this place where you can actually speak confidently on this because you know as a man I as a man there's nothing that I know in your heart that you've wanted more than to be able to lead into live alive that you could lead by example and you are always just since you were a young boy you know talking to your parents this summer and getting to know you even as young as when you were a childlike everything they say is that like you were just always so intentional with like <hes> your feelings and how you did things and you're always so good and you cared about other people like it's always been in your blood to want to lead by example and I definitely know that God is doing something in you. That's really starting to come out and and I just also encouraged anybody out. There like Stevie said just going out there and making those moves I've definitely seen first and foremost what can happen when you truly just like risk things and boldly step out and faith to pursue something even if it's not the thing but it could be a thing that gets you to the thing so don't necessarily feel like that first step has to be perfect all figured out business tactics step in everything has to be in place because maybe that step is necessary first four you can get to the next step in the next step but it's all about taking that first step whether you're starting a workout routine or you're starting a business or maybe you want to go out there and maybe seek finding a better healthier relationship sustaining your relationship ship whatever that is. It's all about making the first move <hes> in something else to is to just quiet the noise. You know anytime that I've seen that I start to get really worried or I start to doubt myself. That's when I start to kind of here the noises of Distraction Channel Lot Louder Than God's voice in my mind and my soul and those voices say why would you do that. You'RE GONNA fail or don't do it. I second guess myself. You know. It's going to be too much work or you're not going to succeed. Oh there's already a million people doing that or you. Owe you need. What would they want to see you do and I've always asked myself those questions and went doubt starts to creep in? That's a clear indicator that the devil or the enemy is really trying to get a foothold. They're trying to just get you and you know what what whether you're a believer are not I strongly believe that that Voice of the enemy it's up to you whether or not you WanNa give that voice precedence over your life but whether you're a believer and you're saved and you believe in Christ or you're somebody who it doesn't believe in Jesus I strongly know that regardless the devil always try to have a foothold over you in some way and they'll he'll try to distract you with things like that and what what oh I think differentiates <hes> giving power over you know the devils voice versus like your own voice in God's voice is just how you react in that moment when you when those questions start to creep up in your head like you're not gonNa fit you're GonNa fail or you're never going to succeed succeed in this or your parents hate you or fear starts to creep in. You should immediately know that that voice right there is not coming from a place of of light of wisdom of God and when that happens off the bat you just WanNa completely. Shut it out and you you. You can even start just in with yourself saying like out loud like nope not today say in you know what I mean and just by speaking that over yourself and just knowing like okay. That's a voice right there. That's not coming from me. That's a Voice of Distraction. I think it's really important because has even today in my life every day. I constantly here sometimes those voices that are telling me like hey you could be a better mom. You're not doing this right or look at her. She's doing this and it's really important guys to just turn off that noise. He's and start turning up God's voice so I just want to encourage you with that as well make those moves and also no win to turn off. That noise are F._M.. Great word. I love that that's so true. You need that mental conversation. It's funny how you forget debt that. Forget forget to check in with yourself yeah but you forget like hey. I don't have to listen to that crappy voice at telling me I can choose to listen to God's voice what you're saying like you have. There's more in you can do more and also I'll is believing in yourselves. It's a huge thing so we're gonNA listen to house interview right now. It's super amazing very inspiring fam- I just I wanNA pray really quick before before we go into this for anybody who's like man. I have so much left to do in my life. There's so much more I can do. I one live a full life a good life. I'M GONNA pray for everybody out. There is feeling like maybe they've missed it or they. Don't have like you know they. They don't feel they've wasted their time or something. I want to pray for all of us as we go into this so that you guys will leave feeling super inspired and at the end of the episode. I want to share Everythi guys something crazy that happened to me this week. It was really really crazy. <hes> it was kind of an out of body experience. I want to share with you but I <hes> we'll. We'll get into house interview. We'll part of you guys real quick God. I just want to thank you for everybody listening to this episode yeah. I know that everyone listening right now is here for a reason you don't do things by coincidence. God You make moves God in your efficient. You're efficient with your time with your effort with your creations got and we're your creations so we're not here on accident but every single person person has a gift got a unique gift at least one probably more that they can share with the World God and earlier this week as I was listening to this video there was a creator who said you create the things you WanNa see in the world but there's so many creators right now God whose voices have been muted needed. There's so many scientists and writers God that their voices have been muted God and I just pray God every person listeners episode would take up the power. God take the power back from the enemy. Who says that you can't do it? You've wasted your time. You're too old and you're too young. It's not true you can start living a full life. Today I just pray for every person God that after this episode they would feel empowered God to live their life to the fullest and to use the gifts that you gave them because you wanna see them use them. I pray that over everybody in Jesus his name Amen Alright Fam- baby. Let's get into this interview with Hal elrod Families Got Hal elrod on the show. How how are you doing? I am living good life. I think some offer happy on I mean that's sincerely and and I'm really really grateful artist found out that you're you're in Austin which is <hes> is my hometown so I know that there's a good life there for sure talk to a fellow Texan <hes> so so how you have an incredibly inspiring story <hes> a story that when you hear about it read about it. You're like a wow. This guy clearly has something to say because you've been through some serious things in your life. Could you give us a little bit of you're just your backstory on some of the near death experiences that you've been too yeah yeah and I'm going to frame it because if I don't frame it I'm a long winded and all like twenty minutes ago by your like and they'll take a breath so let me let me let me try to keep this distinct so you know in life I think we all experience what I would call rock bottoms right which are those those times of adversity that really test us and challenge us in causes often to question everything you know question the purpose of life the meaning of life you know God. Is there a God why would just happened to me. The life isn't fair and all these things and and for me the the big three really major life and death rock bottoms if you will and the first one I was twenty years old. I was one of the top sales people in the history of the cut cut co cutlery company. I was selling cut kitchen. I have direct in-home presentations kind of thing and one night I gave a speech at a Co conference and driving home that night I my Car Ford Mustang at a brand new Ford Mustang. I just bought at again h twenty it was like that was the dream car that I could afford. It wasn't the Ferrari but I was on the way you know and I was hit by a drunk driver at eighty miles an hour on the freeway and that wasn't the worst of it. The worst of it actually came out my car spun off the drunk driver up from the head-on collision and my driver's side door was exposed. I spun sideways and the car behind me crashed into my door at seventy miles an hour and if anybody listening I always say take a second. Look over your left shoulder and imagine you're sitting in your car Dr Driving Your car and a car hit two seventy miles an hour in the door and what you might imagine happening is what happened I instantly the left side of my car was smashed into the left side of my body. I broke eleven bones in split-second. I hi <hes> my I was in internally. I punctured lung I ruptured spleen and Ibn losing a lot of blood and it took the fire department over an hour or just about an hour to cut me out of the car and when they did I bled to death. I lost also much blood that my heart stopped beating and died and I was clinically dead for six minutes on the side of the freeway. I was revived on the helicopter. Actually on the way to the hospital airlifted to the hospital spent six days in a coma flatlined twice ice more during the coma came out of the coma to face this unimaginable reality for anybody at any age but you know twenty. They're saying the doctor said you're probably never going to walk again. <hes> I add permanent brain damage which my wife will vouch for that still shows up quite a bit but and then I had to face this reality and so I you know keep a long story not too long. I made a decision that I would accept what had happened to me unconditionally that I wasn't going to let my circumstances defined my emotional wellbeing and so much so that the doctors thought I was in denial and delusional they called my parents in for a little Powell or conference and they said we need you to talk to howl and get to the bottom of how he's really feeling because he always acts like he's happy the and he's he's making jokes and making us laugh and you know I think that he's covering up some real pains probably depressed and and scared and maybe he's angry and user normal emotions for anyone that's going through this this type of adversity and my doubt came in and to explain explain the doctors diversity and said how took or the doctors concerns and said how it's okay to be stabbed and scare. You know you're positive but how are you really feeling and my dad's got tear you know he's teared up and he's faces read like he's really really he's concerned and so I really went inside and thought about how am I feeling and I took about thirty seconds to answer and I said doubt. I thought you knew me better than that. I can't change that. I was in a car accident but you know I learned something a year and a half before called the five minute and it rule which said it's okay to be negative when things go wrong but not for more than five minutes like there's no value and wishing you could change something that is in the past in feeling angry sad scared about something that's out of your control and I had practiced that my sales career in smaller diversity of no sales and no shows and missed goals and disappointments in counseled orders and that sort of thing but the principal was the same and I went. I told my Daddy said Dad. There's only one of two possibilities and if you're listening right now by the way I want you to think about what in your life it causes you emotional pain past present or even a perceived future that you're worried about. That's out of your control and if it's in the past it is out of your control. I don't care doesn't matter who you are unless you're Mardi MC fly with the Dorien. Laurean can't go back in time and change it but we suffer over things that happened five minutes five days five months five decades ago not happening anymore but because we haven't accepted it and giving herself that gift of peace so I said dad there's only one of two possibilities number one if the doctor right and I'm in a wheelchair the rest of my life I promise you I've already thought that scenario through I will be the happiest most grateful human being that you've ever seen in a wheelchair because I'm in a wheelchair either away and I will not let my circumstances to find my quality of life and my emotional wellbeing I said but the second possibility is I will walk again and I don't know if that's possible but I'm putting all my energy into that instead of fear and worry re I'm focused on. I've got optimism and hope so simultaneously accepted the worst case scenario so it comes to pass at peace with it but I'm not I'm not I'm not I'm not accepting defeat so to speak until it's proven otherwise and so the dock they went back to the doctors. Here's what House said. The doctors didn't believe it on one week later they came in with routine x rays and they said we don't know how to explain this but how your body is healing healing so rapidly that we know we told you you'd never walk again again but you can walk today in therapy. We're GonNa let you take your first step. If you're ready and I took my step that day and I left the hospital four weeks later and went back to work and on and so on and so forth with all these broken bones and metal rods and my arm and my leg and my pelvis and my eye socket I mean you know and so on and so forth so that was the first major adversity and that was the lesson I learned is that our emotional wellbeing has almost nothing very little to do with what's is going on around us Aka our circumstances or what happens to us and it has everything to do with what's going on inside of us and that the key that unlocks the door to emotional what I call emotional invincibility where you're in control your emotions. They're not in in control of you and your circumstances doesn't determine them. You determine them. The key that unlocks that door is acceptance is when you accept the things you cannot change you give yourself the gift of emotional invincibility on the on the opposite every negative emotion ocean you've ever experienced in your life and that you could ever expect that you're experiencing now. Get ever experienced in the future is always self created. It has nothing to do with the thing that you think is causing it and it's always your resistance to the thing it's your resistance to reality that determines your degree of emotional pain that you feel hey fam- or any of you out there looking for an apartment or you're looking for a new place to live. Have you checked out apartments. 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Change the world so that was the first one and I let me pause in the case. He doesn't WanNA call and then I'll actually skip to the yeah. There's a couple of the other shorter I mean that's that's incredible just that you had that perspective incite at at twenty years old I mean I don't think people I I think emotionally were such emotional beings especially at twenty years old <hes> I remember being twenty years old is being very even just guide us an emotional national being driven by emotions and things like that so that's incorrect incredible <hes> inside that you had even at that age but <hes> I think it really is just kind of a Kudos to you in part of your story as to why you are ready. You are today in why we're GONNA be talking about how to actually achieve. You know your goal so tell us the the next thing I mean. I can't believe there's another thing but I want to say this. I appreciate the compliment if you will but but it really was that the mentor that had taught me a year now prior he was my my mentor my manager in my in my cut my sales career and he taught me about five minutes right and if it wasn't I really credit him because it wasn't for that I wouldn't have developed that mindset and then since then I've read dozens and dozens of books on topics such as the power of now in the power of acceptance in various titles but I'm so then in two thousand eight when the U._S. economy crashed <hes> really kind of started as and seven I crashed with it like millions of Americans nothing nothing new there <hes> but I I really hit rock-bottom them and it was actually even more difficult for emotionally because I was in his downward spiral where every week I was losing more clients more clients more clients and it was I was a coach. I was doing business coaching in all of my clients. Their businesses were were suffering due to the economy me and it was just the trickle down effect of they they they would call me and say hey. I can't afford to pay for coaching anymore. Okay got it so I lost my clients lost over half my income and couldn't pay the mortgage lost my house which was that alone is like a like. I'm losing my my first home that I bought with my own money like I now up no place to live. I gotTA figure that out a lot of causes a lot of emotions and <hes> so even though I accepted it couldn't change it will it just kept getting worse and worse and worse than I never really dealt with. This kind of this quicksand San where I'm like man. Okay can't change it and then but I really kind of needed you know make things better and then Oh my God I lost another client. I lost another client. My body fat percentage tripled in the six month period. <hes> that I was losing my income till I stopped exercising. I was just like in desperation mode and the solution to that I just this will keep a long story not trying to keep him not too long. I just a series of events led me to search. What are the world's most successful people do that? I'm not doing my my buddy. You know John Who's a good friend and business partner now. He said how you got to go figure out what the routines and rituals are of the world's most successful people and and do what they do on a daily basis if you have the habits and rituals and routines that they have you're gonNA see similar results. You're going to see your business improved and I said okay and I kept coming across when I was googling mourning rituals and morning routines as the key like the number one key to these people success and this was this was twelve five years ago the morning routines your everywhere now wasn't that prevalent then but I kept coming across that and I'm like I'm not a morning person so if you're listening to your morning personally don't do now. I almost tuned out but I'm like. I'm not a morning person. Where's where's the success planned for people that sleep till nine everyday? I want that one right. I wasn't sales. I worked my own job. I could sleep later they wanted right and I came across one. You know just hit another article and I finally went all right. I got a dive in. I gotta read one of these and what I read what I got from. It was oh you're how you start. Your Day isn't just an equally significant option on the buffet of ways you can improve your life. It's arguably the single most important one it carries more weight than any of the others others because how you start your day sets your mindset. It sets your energy level but said just a general context and the tone for the rest of your day in simple terms. If you win the morning you set yourself up to win the day Eh and so I created a morning rich went on a quest to create the most extraordinary morning ritual in the history of humanity and within two months of doing it <hes> it wasn't a book idea it wasn't it was just my desperate attempt to change my life and I so I decided to get up in our our earlier I did six practices and these are African. Now Savers Silence Affirmations Visualization Exercise Reading Inscribing or journal Right so silences like your meditation so six of the most timeless endless proven personal development practices in history humanity right and I did these everyday within two months I had more than doubled my income. I wouldn't bring in the worship of my life physically to training for a fifty two mile ultra marathon that I completed six months later. I wasn't a runner aided running. That's why I did it because I thought man what I have to become run fifty two miles in a day. I don't even know that guy. You don't WanNa become that guy and my depression went away within a day of doing this routine because I was so fired up and I went to my wife and I said sweetheart her this morning ritual like we just our income is more than doubled from where it was two months ago. I said it feels like a miracle and she goes. It's your miracle morning. I go yeah yeah. I liked that my miracle morning morning so I started writing my schedule Miracle Morning and one of my clients said what how'd you have a morning ritual I keep hearing about these and I said Ou gay I gotTa Tell You I do think all the miracle morning right now. Let me tell you about it and I told her about it and I told the rest of my clients about it and they all said not a morning person but you're pretty convincing how to try and every single eleven out of the twelve clients I had at the time came back to their call the next week and said Hell. I did what you said. I'm a morning person like in one week my entire life. I've never been a morning I now I am and just had the best weekend my sales career I just I just had all these amazing results and that's where the lightbulb went off and I went wait a minute. If the miracle morning changed my life and I wasn't a morning person if it's changing every single one of my clients lives except the one and they weren't warning people I have a responsibility to share this with the world and you fast forward to today twelve years later <hes> the Miracle Morning Book has been translated in thirty seven languages. It is sold one point seven million copies. It's practice everyday by over a million people in over one hundred countries and the results people have are I mean it's a miracle like crazy. I get emails. People saying it saved my marriage. It got my depression medication. How just like you turn my income around on and then I'm just going to fast forward and get a really quick summary on the third rock bottom which is actually the most the scariest the most difficult I've ever endured and it was two years ago at age thirty seven and I was diagnosed with the very rare aggressive form of cancer? I walk in the middle of the night. I couldn't breathe it took doctors eleven days I think to to to test me and diagnose me. My lung kept telling with fluid. They couldn't figure out what was wrong. I was diagnosed with a very rare aggressive form of cancer called acute lymphoblastic leukemia. I was given a thirty percent chance of surviving which if you're a glasses half empty type of person right. That's a seventy percent chance that I was going to die and you know I've got a seven year old daughter and a four year old son and married married to the woman in my dreams and it was like I had more to lose than ever before and it was terrifying and I underwent the most intensive chemotherapy regimen in existence one hundred hours of chemo consecutively over five days around the clock every three weeks and it was supposed to be eight sessions. I was almost dead at the end of seven so they had to cancel the eight session because my body could not handle it. I'd lost twenty five percent of my body weight every hair on my I mean I I was on the desk door but I beat cancer her and I'm now I've been in remission for about a year <hes> and <hes> I beat cancer with <hes> something I called a miracle equation and so then I finally a publisher approach me I wrote that book that came out a couple of months ago so the miracle morning was kind of the daily practice for personal development and then the miracle equation was the process for goal achievement. How do you how do you create tangible measurable miracles in Your Life and for me it was beating cancer? It was selling a million copies of the book. It was walking again. It was looking over my whole life. I went what was what were the key decisions. I made in each of these seemingly impossible. 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I WanNa get like a home group here because I think everyone's thinking the same thing. <hes> that's amazing. That was an incredible story HAL. I mean Geez. I mean your perspective on life. You you know already is amazing but including what you've been through wow you're living a miracle life. I would say so and we're GONNA talk about that in a second but I wanted to back to the miracle morning <hes> and then something else that you said <hes> you're totally right <hes> Sazonon John and my my wife who's on abortion tonight here with us today. <hes> we started changing our morning routine last year and I have to say more than anything I've ever done. It changed the game and I you know getting on that routine in sticking with it we were seeing results in everything like you said and I agree with you one hundred percent but one thing that you kind of touched on really quickly was you were talking about how you were. I think it was around two thousand eight you said when you were you know everything was just kinda struggling. You're like I need to I need. I need to do something to shake. Shake things up. I think that's something that you know. It's really interesting point that I wanNA talk about because when when when it comes to achieving your goals I think there's so many of us that maybe we started morning routine and maybe we're having success and personally. I felt this way to where it's like. You know we start the year off. We're in a routine ever morning routine and we're working our way towards our goals in somewhere along the way we kinda hit a wall. You know and I remember friend and I were <hes>. We're starting to do morning meetings every Tuesday and into challenge each other you know to to be challenged personnel realizes hey. Where are you out with your goals like? What have you done this week? What are you doing next week? You know just to kind of keep each other accountable and I remember one week we met and <hes> it was this year and it was about four months months into the year and the first few months we were like man. We're crushing it. You know you're doing great. I'm doing great. We're doing our stuff morning. Routine here. We go and then all of a sudden. We're like Kinda dead you know what are we going right now. Like where's the direction action. Why do we feel like we lost momentum and I remember during the conversation I even I was just thinking time? I was like what what can we do. How can we change this and I kinda just had an Aha moment of like we need to shake things up? We need to do something. That's it's just different you know and so I remember telling him. Let's give something let's take something away and so what we were doing was we were trying to invest in in two different things so basically one thing was that we wanted to give more money away because we'd both decided that we needed more money to do certain things at at that time in and also this time now but <hes> just the belief that giving you know when your generous that that wore opportunity in and money and things like that come to you and you're not generous for that but that's just the belief of mine and also to take something nothing away to kind of heighten our mental focus which was we're decide. We're going to do a challenge as far as like no sugar right okay so take something away that was not how not helpful not positive right and and so what it really he did was just kind of it was investing you know <hes> by giving back but at the same time kind of investing in our focus by by whenever you know you do a diet or or a fast or something like that you know it kind of seems to heighten your focus and it builds this momentum as far as every time you beat a little challenge of why didn't have sugar today in empowers you to do something else. <hes> so what is one what are some of the things that you have done to beside your morning routine to really shake things up. I mean because you talk about in your new book the Miracle Equation You're talking talking about how to obtain tangible results when it comes to achieving your goals and I think that is <hes> such an awesome in such a rich topic that you talked about how to prove yourself in your morning routine but now how are we actually going linked to achieve our goals and what are the. How are we going to get those tangible? Results talks about that yeah. You'll I mean there's a few things I can look at well. I will say that what you just shared about shaking it up on one of my mentors years ago Kevin bracy in fact it was right before the miracle morning before I came up with the morning ritual in fact it was it was his words that got me to do it and it was because I was reading about mourning rituals like man. I you know yeah this'll be good but I had so much resistance resistance to waking up earlier. I had the mindset the most will have which is like. I'M GONNA sleep till last possible moment. I can to not like you know lose my job lose. My kids get divorced right. What's the last moment I could wake up and not have everything fall apart in my life right so his quote was he said if you want and it's so simple but so profound he said if you want your life to be different you have to be willing to do something different I yes right and that's what I was staring at my my at that time it was before the digital calendar at a day planner? You know right and I'm staring at my day planner and I'm looking at at five A._M.. 'cause I woke up at six A._M.. Because I had to now I'm like well. Do I really want to wake up at five and we're GONNA five and and I'm going and then I heard his words. If you want your life different you have to be willing to do something different. I and I was like him it. He's right. I got I gotta get up at five and it was very that were that quote that one sentence got me into action and I wrote five A._M.. Personal development it didn't have a name wasn't a miracle morning you know for two months and woke up and did it so but if I look at other areas in my life where I've done that and I think it's so important that we need to examine we need a process and I think weeklies a good <hes> timeframe but a weekly process process where we evaluate right where we read our goals where we evaluate our progress on the last week so so. Let's say you've got a goal and each area of your life right. You've got a goal in health and fitness in in your relationships in each area and then you look get you should have an action plan right in this area. Here's my daily recurring process like an in the miracle equation in the new book. I talk about the two decisions that will enable you to create these tangible measurable miracles. Let me let me take one second and to redefine miracle because if anybody's listening rolling there is I used to roll my eyes at that word right because I'm like dude. I'm like I'm not woo hoo. I'M NOT GONNA I'm not I'm not going to sit back and wait for a miracle. I want results. You know I'm very results oriented person so for me. A miracle isn't isn't this. You know. Eddie has a bad rap that word because it's like this you know this intangible like pray in weight. Hopefully I you know miracle falls into my lap kind of thing and I look at a miracle is any meaningful outcome that that is outside the realm of what you believe is probable for you possible or problem but really probably because we don't anything is possible but we don't go after what's possible. When was the last time you set a goal and you gave it everything you had that you didn't really think was going to happen right? We don't work that way. We work towards goals that we believe probable. Which is why most people don't create extraordinary results? They either stayed the same right. They just keep doing well yeah. I really have these big goals and dreams but I don't know if I can achieve him. Some not even gonNA try. I know that I show up to work. I'll keep getting a paycheck and that gives me a sense of security to keep a roof over my head. Some GonNa keep doing that and most people live and die without going too far beyond that right but I would say anybody listening to this show and most people want more than that. We want an extraordinary life. We want the good life or I call it the Miracle Library we want the good life though and we want extraordinary results we want to have financial freedom. We want to have physical health in abundance. I just want to have a relationship that makes that we love and that were harmonious with our partner and it's beautiful and we're lying and so on and so forth but most of us were not willing to do those things and so for me I break it down. It's really to decision if you studied the world's most successful people in any walk of life. I'm talking millionaires and billionaires or professional athletes Olympians or just the happiest person you've ever seen any walk of life you find that there are two common decisions that they make not once they don't make them once and you know it's not it's not a set it in forget it thing but they make these decisions over and over and over and over and over and over and over again until and if you're if you're listening if you're taking notes if your mental note whatever that word until might be the most important word in the journey that success you got a circle that word and underlying it three times so they make the same decisions over and over and over and over and over again until they achieved the outcome that they're committed to whatever that is could be a financial outcome in any area and the two decisions ends are deceptively simple in their explanation but extraordinarily rare in their execution. It's kind of like they say. Success is simple. It's not easy but it is simple right. You know people that are successful. They simply do you something. Every day that moves them closer to their goals and dreams and eventually they get their goals and dreams whereas the majority society doesn't do that one thing over and over and over either they don't ever do it or they do it for a while and then kind like you said right you get bored with you and your buddy during the daily calls right or you know and then you like we were doing it and then we got bored and like once that initial excitement wears off I caught the infatuation period right when the infatuation period wears off most people stop doing the thing that's moving them toward their goals and dreams so these decisions so I don't mean to beat around the buzzer number one unwavering faith all highly successful people and I'm GonNa say successful. That is your definition of success not mine Harvard. You define how you define success. That's what I'm talking about but people that are successful in the way they define it. They established the faith that they can do something they've never done before and then they maintain that faith which is what makes it unwavering faith right until they maintain that faith until they get their most people. If they establish the fate they can do something because they're an off Mr like yeah I can do anything as soon as they encounter an obstacle as soon as they get off track as soon as their their results aren't coming as fast as they expected most people the faith goes out the window and the second decision is extraordinary effort and again like I said deceptively simple explanation if you're going how great so I have to have faith and believe in myself and work hard okay right that doesn't help yard. He knew that no extraordinary effort is consistent effort. That's it if I was something of that. In one word extraordinary effort is consistency doing if you do one thing you get really clear on what are of your biggest goals and dreams what are the most meaningful outcomes in your life and if you do one thing every day doesn't mean you have to work eighty hours a week to achieve the good life or a miracle life now one thing every day that moves closer to your most most meaningful goal and or dream or plural goals and dreams. The only variable is time. Your success is inevitable. You're going to get there right like I'll give you give me an example when the miracle morning came out. I you know I I didn't have a platform. I didn't have an email list. I didn't have anything I wrote the book because I thought I owe it to the world to change if you live with this book and I literally was thinking small it was like you know maybe maybe also a few hundred copies or a few thousand copies and I I started within the first month I started getting emails and people saying how the miracle morning is changing my life and it was really profound. You know it saved my marriage this that and then I was like my sense of responsibility grew and I went. I have to get this out there to the world like I don't know how I'm going to do that but in for me it just I just picked a quantifiable number. I go. I gotta change a million lines and then I got. I got fancy with it. I go oh that's my mission to change. One million lives one morning at a time and committed by will do whatever it takes to change a million lives and I put a time for one year. I'm going to try to somehow I don't know how I'm going to try to sell a million copies of the miracle morning in the next twelve months and twelve months later and by the way let me tell you extraordinary effort looked like I did I I I did I launched a podcast to get the word out there and building audience. I did fifty united a weekly podcast fifty two episodes. I was on one hundred fifty other more than that a little one hundred fifty other people's podcast. I did thirty six speeches across the country. I did thirteen television interviews all across the country on N._B._C.. A._B._C. C._B._S.. Morning T._V. shows cost me a lot of money. A lot of time to travel right. I put forth extraordinary effort did everything in my power to reach a million people and you guys I fell short of. I was ninety nine point nine percent short of my goal I sold twelve thousand copies of the first year instead of one million and so I was nine hundred ninety nine hundred eighty eight thousand copies short of my goal now now you think about that like how discouraged would you be like. I suck like who Dan was like kidding myself right and so what happens for most of us is we're like we we just chase the next squirrel. We're like all right. Well I try to fail. I'll do something else right but for me. Remember that word until right until and I re I I assessed what I had done and I okay. I was obviously way off on my timeframe because remember when you're committed until when you're committed until the only variable is timing and I went and I don't remember why exactly this number stuck in my mind but I go okay obviously obviously one year was not realistic. Maybe it's GonNa take me thirty years to reach a million people. Maybe I don't know but I'm committed to that like I'm GonNa change a million lives and I don't care how long it takes me and but of course I'm like all right but I'm GonNa try to do it in your to. I don't think based on my year one I don't. I don't think that's realistic but I'm GonNa go for it and I put forth extraordinary effort. I maintained unwavering faith and I sold at twenty three thousand copies of the second year and I'm like all right. I'm getting better but I think I don't know how many it's like. You know like two hundred years before I'm GonNa read the goal something like that right on outpace on anyway. It took me six years. It took me six six years. We've surpassed a million copies and it's only been the last two that we were at almost another million so it's just taking off but but I want to. I'm going to share this us and we we can literally drop the Mike and hang up. I'M GONNA share what I believe is one of the most valuable lessons for all of us for me and it's my own personal lesson in my own life that I now I try to teach it as much as I can human nature. I believe it societal. I actually it's on human nature. It societal conditioning on is that we want what we want and we want it now because we compare ourselves to other people we look at somebody else and we go wow icy where they are. I want to be where they are but our brain has no patient that goes I want to be there now. So what that does. Is it 'cause inherently it causes feelings of inadequacy right. I'm not good enough. I'm not far enough along. I'm not where I want to be. Things aren't happening fast enough but here's the lesson that I've learned and and I think that anyone that achieves their miracle their goal their dream. I think that every I think that most of us most people learn this lesson. It's that when you finally get to the point in your life that you've been working being forced so hard and for so long no matter how long it takes you. You never wish it would have happened in the sooner when you get there. You look back and you go. It had to take this long. I had to go through all that stuff. I had to go through all that I had to throw that adversity those challenges those were testing me those were building the into the person I became that had the that was able to create what I want. This dream this goal the timing is perfect and so if you if you if you can bring that lesson into your life now don't wait for hindsight. Don't suffer for the next year or decade because you got your or just. Why am I not further along no don't do that? The lesson is maintain or be at peace with where it's be a piece with where you are now and where you are tomorrow and where you are every moment every three day along your journey be completely at peace love who you are love where you are wall you simultaneously wake up every day with a healthy sense of urgency to take action to at least one thing that moves you closer to your greatest vision for your life so be a piece with or you are but maintain urgency to take action and know that the timing will be perfect when you finally arrive and that's that's incredible and I couldn't agree with you more. I feel like anytime that that I have kind of gone through that change. You know where there was a place where I wanted to be in that. I thought there I agree with you. Completely have the same Aha moment of wow. There was a whole reason I had to go through some toiler. Some trials are struggled to get here now. I appreciate this place where I am now so much more than I would have had gotten it back then you know and I totally agree with you. There's a weird balance between like you said you need to be peace use but all the while working there's we're. We're balanced. You know that we constantly struggle with why WANNA be grateful in content with my life right now but at the same time I wanna be aspiring towards more it's kind of it's kind of weird thing it does to your mind and I totally agree with you there that I I think you have to be content. I remember when my wife and I both moved to l.. A. And we respond to be in the entertainment industry and I remember having the realization of I need to genuinely be thankful for everything I have right now and I couldn't couldn't afford to buy AAA Burrito so the got him so hungry. Why did you say that I wanted to want to put Libretto so bad? Hey Man I'll meet you off thirty five Elliott but when you know the point is is that you know we've always said that the gratitude also is kind of a breeding ground for that next step. You have to be grateful for what you have now before you can move forward in appreciate what you have later because you know you're not faithful the little that you have. You're not going that'd be faithful with much you have <hes> how I just WanNa talk about your book the Miracle Equation Really Quick and in the two things that you said you know unwavering faith and extraordinary effort <hes> so many of us you know we like we're talking. About just kind of give up halfway through and then we begin to question you know <hes> our vision and all that how do you know when your goal your vision is the correct thing like there's so many people that you know. I don't know how to cast asks the right vision for themselves including myself lately. I've been thinking about different things that I wanna work on on the side. You know little side businesses and things like that but I always questioned myself. I'm like well. Isn't that the right move. Is that something that is. Maybe I see the money grab lab were. That's something that I'm actually passionate about. How do you <hes> set the right goals but that are also lofty and big goals? You know where you can envision yourself going far with yeah yeah. It's a question and I think that it's kind of I it goes in alignment with purpose like people. Always you know like I don't know what my purpose in life is and I mean people are searching for their purpose but that's not the way that purpose works purposes some it's not something you find it something that you create and it's something that you recreate as you continue we need to learn and grow and evolve your purpose grows in evolves and so in the same way when it comes to goals you know I did a lot of stuff for the miracle morning right like I launched a program called Your Best Life Coaching Right <hes> I lost another program called a self empowerment coaching. I launched wrote a book called taking had on. I thought that was going to be the book and God good reviews but nobody bought it like. I didn't tell me copies right so so so it's not like I and the miracle morning. I didn't know that that was the thing so I think that I think that the just list you know really like looking at your life and asking or self what feels right to me like you really have to trust your intuition a little bit more and if you willing to try things things before you figure out what sticks right because again I had more certainty that the that my I put taking life had on and it was a false sense certainty I thought do this is going to be amazing. Actually in my head I already planned to series. I'm like ooh taking out on the penalty taking college head on and taking sales head on and then taking business head on I had a whole idea for a series and then I was like wait a minute if the original books not selling. I don't think the spin offs are gonNA sell right so I was like certain and then the miracle is over confident in the miracle morning I'm like I don't think anybody's GonNa read this. Like how am I gonNA convince people to wake up early right. I had no I if I could have never in a million years that would sell a million copies like never and and what's interesting. I talked to other authors their authors that are way better writers than me that are way smarter than me and their books not selling right and then like I talked to James Redfield who wrote the Celestin Prophecy that sold fourteen million copies. We were speaking in Italy a a few months ago actually was six on the fall but on speaking here in Italy and I'm like I have dinner together James. I have to thank you like your book changed my life and when I found out you self published it and then you traditionally published I am later. I decided to sell punishment morning. You're part of Me Journey Yada Yada Yada and I said did you know that the self esteem prophecy was going to take off. He goes how I had no clue at Rice. He sold fourteen million lobbying right. I had no clue so here's the point and actually I want to give one more one more one more kind of example for context when I decided to become a speaker I my background was in sales. I I was a hall of Fame Sales Rep right so I had the credibility to speak to any sales organization and but I was twenty five years old and I looked I was eighteen. Maybe sixteen right so I really just looked at. I really looked at my experience my background and so this is for people listening right this to me is how you kind of decide so number one. Is You never really know so set a goal that feels good to you believe in that goal work towards that goal and understand that the real purpose of a goal Mrs another one of those most important lessons. I've ever learned kind of thing the real purpose of going I learned from Jim Rohn by the way actually from my mentor Dan Cassetta who learned from Jim Rohn who taught it to me on the real purpose of a goal is not to hit the goal the real purpose of a goal is to develop yourself into the type of person with the qualities and the characteristics. I needed to achieve any goal that you said whether or not you hit the individual goals that you set is far less important to the qualities and the characteristics that you develop along the way in other words who you become so if you give it everything you have to hit a goal and it like I did with those things I mentioned Your Best Life Coaching the first book I wrote and right again but none of those took off none of those were sticky. People just didn't resonate and I didn't know until I tried it right on but I learned a lot about what worked what didn't work and I developed qualities and characteristics like self discipline and ability to set schedule in you know in Crete processes that would allow me to reach my goals and this and that and it was who you become that lasts forever ever the benefits of an individual Goeller short-lived oh I hit a goal. I made some money will you. You'RE GONNA spend it will become stays with you for the rest of your life and when you can approach goals without mindset you realize that we you really can't when it comes to setting a big audacious goal you can't the only way to fail is to to give up to not try but if you give it everything you have and it doesn't work out but you take the lessons into the next school well well now. You're more likely to hit the next school but you might the next school but you you learn more or less than if you get given everything you have and then you hit you probably the next goal and all of a sudden you have your miracle morning right and you you really you cannot predict it but but for me it was when I launched my coaching business I thought who should I coach again. I was like well all I did was sell up into kitchen knives so I decided to coach cut corrupts from my company. When I decided to become a speakers I started to tell that story? I thought who should I speak to. I thought well I look like I'm nineteen. I'm going to speak to a college student. So I launched my speaking career. I could've gone in the corporate market would have been an uphill battle but I went so so go with the path of least resistance and use your own experience. When I wrote the miracle morning it was because I had experienced France this morning ritual that changed my life and I wanted to pay it forward and share it with others so again? Leverage your experience and listen to your intuition. Go with what feels right to you without overthinking when you when you ask what should I do. What's the first that comes to your mind? That feels good. That feels right that feels. There's not resistance you don't you're not forcing. You're not trying to fit a square peg into a round hole or vice versa right and then approach it without mindset that hey if I don't reach the goal it doesn't matter because I'm going to become a better version of the guy or the Gal that I am today and that version of me. We'll have more clarity a bigger vision and more capabilities than I have now and all apply those to the next school and the goal after that and the goal after that and the goal after that when I finally the point that I've been working for so hard for so long. I won't wish it happened in these sooner. All look back and go. Oh wow the timing was perfect. Journey Kony is exactly as it was supposed to be incredible. Come on how we're going to church in here. How much do you WANNA go? You WanNa call me next week and let's do this again because I think we could keep going you shared so much my heart stop opposite thirteen and a half minutes so I mean if you gets more questions I'm happy to to tell we'll let you go how but I just I'm so thankful that you shared all of your knowledge in your wisdom with us here on the Good Life Fam- you guys if you want to check out house book it's the Miracle Equation Asian as you can tell how is living proof of that. The Miracle Equation Works WanNa check out his book. Check out the miracle quesion Pal. Thanks again so much being on the show. I appreciate you guys so much. Thanks for having me all right. You take wow you know how I always say things like Oh my God I died like like he can actually say that you know what I mean. I mean the fact that he died came back to life and is continuing to live not just any ordinary life but he is like I'm going to live a full life incredible life wow that just it's so encouraging an uplifting. I love that I think you know He. He really hits a nail in the head Ed and you know he even said. It seems simple but you know it's it's it's effective and it can change your life. Is You know his miracle equation of if you really believe you have you know unwavering faith you know and you put forth extraordinary effort into something that I re. He you know he really believes that you can achieve that goal and I you know he's living proof so I don't know he's a great example. Somebody who's hard to even argue with its cold like when when kind of like sometimes out of body experienced things happen you know and he's had obviously several of these types of encounters and I think we all all have whether it's in a bigger small way I mean we've all kind of had those like miracle. Things happened in our day-to-day lives sometimes where it just kind of wakes you up a little bit and it puts things in perspective. I love that even though this past week was Super Chill Hill for both of us God was still doing something incredible and when you told me that you had a dream I told you write it down and I'm so glad that you actually decided you know what I'm GonNa. Share what dream that I had you didn't even know what it really meant until we really dove into and talked about it but talk about body out body experience stevie experienced that this crazy experience this week y'all while says was gone a teeny in Dallas. I like I said at the beginning of the episode I felt like this week. You know it was kind of wasting my time and feeling like God like what am I doing right now. And Are you disappointed with me. Should I have been more fruitful with the gifts you've given me. I feel like I have so many gifts. In what the heck am I doing right now and we all go through that but the reason I wanted to share this story fan because I felt like it was divine intervention intervention from God in my dream so this is what happened like I said I was feeling really kind of just Blah like what the heck I go to bed and I'm having a dream all I remember. is you eat cheese before better Kobe. I probably shakes amazing chocolate. GonNa continue to ask but I've never this is never had a dream. That's a really crazy dreams. y'All where it's like. You know I believe in the power drill baby. That's how I saved so but I've had dreams were actually elite chosen to do certain things and this was kind of one of those dreams even more so I was talking to. Somebody and I feel like it was somebody I know. <hes> I got woken up by somebody like early in the morning so kind of jolted Miata my sleep but what I remember was is that I was talking to somebody the about God and explaining how God lives in us you know in the dream Yeah I was like God I literally sang them so passionately and remember feeling so a part of this dream sang like God lives in us. You know like he's alive. Live and his power lives in us. His Holy Spirit lives in US and as I said that literally all in in real life my body went completely flush with with like goosebumps in started kind of like almost it's like glowing like it was almost like there was this giant burst of energy came into my body. I can't even explain to you and you saw it to you said right. It was like I just kind of like I was dreaming but I knew my body went completely completely like crazy like on fire with goosebumps and it wasn't just goosebumps. I felt like this this China urgent energy almost like in my heart area there was this giant like burst of this crazy energy that I can't even explain to you but it was it was in a moment where I was sharing genuine like genuine love somebody sharing about God and it was almost like part of my purpose you know and I just felt that when I woke up the next morning I was like oh my gosh I was like I can't believe that that was so insane and then you know what I thought I was like why did why did I have that dream like. Why did I get that experience? That's like God. I didn't deserve to have that experience. I feel like if anything like I've been not not spending my my time wisely you know and but instead of waking up the next day and feeling like man like kind of down on myself. I felt like I literally felt like God hasn't given up on me you know God's not done with me. God can still move who've in power not just using but move in an amazing weight and do crazy things with me and how he intervened in my dream and I know beyond a shadow of doubt that that was God intervening in saying like I'm still here. I still want to work in you and there's so much we gotta do but I want you to just wake up because I woke up and that dream I felt I felt so amazing empowered after that dream it's I wanted to share that with. You guys going back to what I said anybody. WHO's felt like you've wasted your time or you haven't achieved your goals that you having started? y'All it's not too late. You can do it. You can start when you're fifteen. You can start when you're sixty. All I just want to encourage you all today to do it. And of course I mean listening to house story was so inspiring them so that was my story. I wanted to share that all avail. I just love that you had that dream. I think you you've been having a lot of these like little revelations. I feel like from God and just seeing you since coming on starting this show and seeing you in your element like openly just using your voice talking to people bowl I mean you really are a healer. Seeing you put your hand on people. Pray over people in you know even we go to conferences and we speak to audiences like the power and your voice it is this fire and I think that we're living in a generation in right now where people need that people need that power and then it needs to be poured into them. The power that comes from God and you just are such a pure honest genuine person that like God knows that he can use you in that way he knows that your heart is pure and that you have great intentions and you just love people and that's the kind of people that God loves to us to get closer to all of his other children out there who don't know and understand that there is a god out there that wants to do life with them and help them figure out how to get to their next step in those dreams and in those goals and in their journey with purpose and like Stevie said we just love that this show has given us the opportunity to kind of like what is the saying Peel back the curtain what yes layers yes both this. I was just telling him in the car. Real quick and then we'll go but I was just telling you in the car and I just feel it again that you know nowadays a lot of people turn to different social media profiles different channels different outlets and things to try to escape what they're currently going through and their live kind of like a way to numb the pain and it's similar to like giving somebody medication for something. It's like it yeah it currently will numb the pain but not addressing it and not you know dealing with it is just going to lead to it always just lingering there and you're just gonNA constantly try to nominate away and I feel like nowadays with social media influencers and just the celebrity profiles and things that we follow these lives. You know we all have a choice to be like all right. What are we going to put out into the world and Stephen? I know that this is a show where yeah it's a place where we can all kind of escape. Our day-to-day lives in meeting this little playground and hang out and you know have a good time but the fact that we don't have to create a facade or hide just the struggles that we all have to face on a real day-today life basis you know the fact that this is a place where we can also come to not only laugh but to actually deal with some of our problems terms and our struggles together. I think that's really what it's about. When it comes to figure out what it means to live a good life is that you've got to deal with the struggles in that the problems that you have head on and figure them out as you go and just try not to avoid them? Try Not to name it or try I to escape from it and I just love this show. We're we're building that kind of a family environment there where it's like we get messages that say like Oh my Gosh I love that at the beginning of your show you guys always make me laugh you know but then by the end of the end of your show show unlike crying because I just took something from it and that just like really warms our hearts more than anything to know that we're creating this type of environment like what you said that Creator said you create what you want to see in the world Gerald and I think that like unintentionally by US opening up the door to our life and some of the the weekly stuff that we're trying to figure out you know in a way we're creating something unique here for people to also be invited and welcome <hes> to also experience in real way so I'm so grateful for this show the show has forced us to really face our own problems head on and our struggles every week and then to be able to talk about it on a Mike. 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308: Hal Elrod - The Miracle Equation, Become Emotionally Invincible, Do Work That You Love

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308: Hal Elrod - The Miracle Equation, Become Emotionally Invincible, Do Work That You Love

"The purpose of a goal is not to hit the goal the purpose of a goal the real purpose the real value the real benefit for you is always who you become in in the process of giving it everything you have to achieve the goal because only the growth lasts forever hello and welcome the alternate health podcast episode three hundred eight jesse chavez here with marnie wasserman and we are here to take your health to the next level level each week. We'll bring you inspiring and informative conversations about health and wellness covering topics of nutrition lifestyle fitness mindset and so much more. It's been quite a awhile but this week we have hal elrod back on the show and how was on a mission to elevate the consciousness of humanity one person at a time he's an author podcast her hall hall of fame business achiever in keynote speaker house written a number of books including the miracle morning in his latest title the miracle equation the latter being the focus today's days chat. He's also the executive producer of the documentary the miracle morning movie how has an incredible story he died at age twenty after his heart stopped beating for six minutes after being hit by a drunk driver and nearly died again in november two thousand sixteen when he was diagnosed with a rare in very aggressive form of cancer he was only given a thirty percent chance of living at that point after enduring the most difficult year of his life he is now cancer free how grateful to be alive and living his mission alongside his wife wife and their two young children in austin texas say you're going to notice that i'm not part of today's interview. This is the first of many episodes and i'm going to be sitting out on a take talk to rest and focus on my pregnancy but don't worry i'm still going to be part of many upcoming interviews and we are just so lucky that we have the flexibility you to do this and jesse's able to pick up the slack and show up for these interviews and do such an awesome job on his own. Will i grow baby tub so now back to how what was discussed in today's interview the real purpose of a goal the five minute rule what may have caused house rare cancer questions to ask your farm-to-table. The restaurant had to become emotionally invincible why it's important to replace fear with faith the power of extraordinary effort and living in alignment with your highest truth lots of beautiful concepts etc you guys to listen to this here. We go with hal elrod. Hello hal. It's great to have you back on the show. How are you doing and it's great to be back. I <hes> barney's not here but i am grateful to be here with you today. Just link you. We're gonna have a lot of fun. It's been a long time since we chatted in a lot. A lot is happening in your life. You have a new book out and in this book you talk about how as a kid you're a bit of a troublemaker and you thought to yourself as being very average as a kid through college college and highschool. You had a record for the most hours of detention in a single school year so take us back to be a kid and this troublemaker character you were yeah. I was always always a nice kid. I was good spirited. You know never like the troublemaking was never violent or deceitful or anything like that. It was religious a class clown. I'm kind of thing you know. I think that what's valuable for me to share is israeli that i think like most of us as kids trying to figure out who we are and find our way and accepted. I'd buy those around us and just general. Everybody has different childhoods. Obviously some are more difficult than others mind was kind of average you know if you will but for me growing up i i got picked on and bullied like a lot of a student but for me. I didn't have a lot of confidence. I was not an achiever and i have friends. I think we all know people that they were star. Athletes in high school or you know got great grades. They were popular. They were confident and that wasn't me. I was a c. student. I was not super popular. I never played a single high school sport or organized sports and really just for me didn't have any evidence in my life that i could achieve the things i wanted to achieve in my future. You know i didn't grow up with any goals or dreams of what i wanted to be. When i grow up. Actually i take that back. That's not totally true. When i was fifteen years old a buddy of mine. His brother got sick and his brother was was to d._j. Or junior high school dance i was a software high school and the junior high that i had went to my best friend's older brother was supposed to do the dance in my friend. Jake called me said hey calling his sick but we've got all his equipment and he asked if i would do the dance to d._j. The dance dance with me <unk> heck yeah. That'd be a blast. How fun go back and you know d._d._r. Or the other kids which i obviously knew most of the kids that were still there just a couple years removed and we did the dance and afterwards we got excited without. Let's start a business but it's like sir doing d._j. Work so this was the one thing i did growing up that was kind of out of the ordinary but it was really really my friend who is leading the way he kind of. Okay sure whatever you wanna. Do you know we broke up as d._j. Partners my dad helped me finance all of this equipment a fifteen hundred dollars the d._j. Equipment and then. I got a job at a grocery store. She owned the grocery store. My parents did i grew up living in the back of a grocery store is one of those built in nineteen forty five where the house and the store itself was all one building and you literally like you were in check stand one and took six paces out of the checks ten and it was the door. Aura living room says very unconventional way to grow up but i decided i wanted to pursue the d._j. Thing that jake and i had started and we we actually broke up friendship over a girl kind of silly and i saw a few years ago where we're good now. One of our customers came in and my dad's sold me said hey did. My son is a d._j. Now and yet and she paid me one hundred dollars to do four hours hours of d._j. Work and you know you're fifteen years old making one hundred bucks for any age. Twenty five bucks an hours good money and so i did that and i i was hooked. I thought wow here's the lesson for people. I learned at a very young age that you could do work. That didn't feel like work and everything. I do to this day fits. It's that bill the work that i do. I'm keynote speaker. I love speaking in sharing my message. I do these interviews right. I love being able to impact people to positive way. I'm i'm an author. I don't love writing but i love the rest of the process of you know sharing. My book with people and impacting people's lives so the i learned. Is that a you can do work that that you love. That actually doesn't feel like work and at the i think that plan about c._d. Young age that i'm gonna i'm gonna. I'm never going to do work that. I don't actually love doing at such a valuable lesson for people i think because most people don't love their job. I think you don't love your job. Go find the life is too short to spend eight hours a day five days a week doing work. That doesn't fulfil. You doesn't bring you joy in your life. In the second lesson that i learned is you can make significantly more money than is considered normal or average for doing that that worked that you love earning twenty five dollars an hour and eventually within a few i think less than a year i was up to seventy five dollars an hour as a fifteen year old and then sixteen year old high school student. I was earning more money in a night. Then my friends were earning in a month and they were doing work that they hated and so that really did give birth earth to the entrepreneurial spirit first of all but then really those two lessons that i think that no matter what age you are age of us our life is too short not do work that you love and really through entrepreneurial kind of creativity you can earn an income that is beyond what is considered normal and early that we might get into this. We might not but that lead into my first first major job at nineteen. I started a career in sales and that is what appealed to me was not only was the work kind of fun. I could set my own schedule but the big thing was. There's no ceiling on my income. There is no salary. I'm paid on commission so i could earn as much or as little but as much as i was willing to work for that that was when i was nineteen i'm forty eight hundred forty into the last twenty years of my life have been really in alignment with doing work that i love and finding a way to earn a significant income for were dot works i could provide financial freedom and security for my family and for me originally and now now for my wife and my kids and how he talked about getting into sales and i thing judging by reading your story. We're confidence kicked in where you went from feeling like an average type person to gaining. Some confidence came when you started to really rack up though sales yeah. I borrowed it from a mentor. I think that's a great lesson. I i didn't come up with the lesson that all share right now this is. I don't know i read this somewhere. I've heard this somewhere somewhere. Maybe my mentor taught me this. I don't even know but it's that sometimes you have to believe in the belief that someone else has in you until your belief catches up and when i started i got hired to sell cutlery at age nineteen by the way i i didn't dream of being a salesperson like i did it to get my friend teddy off my back. I guess you wouldn't shut about how old you all you be so good at this so it's great it's he would always just toward and stop talking about me taking giving it a shot selling cutlery lary kitchen knives and i. I just kept teddy on d._j. And at that time i was on a radio station you know after my first year college and i teddy i i don't. I'm not a salesperson. I have no i've never sold in have no interest in salesperson and one day he kinda kinda tricked me into going to the office with him and i i met his manager. Who became my manager. My my mentor you hired me that day. He explained the opportunity of earning commission and setting my own schedule and things he really position where i thought well. That's really appealing. You know your your he did a better job. Then teddy is at selling me on the job so i decided to give it a try and within two weeks i quit my d._j. Job which was crazy. That was my dream job but i had earned in my first ten days selling cut co ironed over three thousand thirty seven hundred dollars and you know at nineteen years old at any age it's good money but at nineteen years older and thirty seven hundred dollars in my first ten days and by the way that was starting up but my commission level was very low when you start in it went up as you sold more so the next ten days that same amount of sales would have earned me seventy five hundred dollars right in ten days so like i guess you could say i had dollar signs in my eyes but it was really just like the potential. Wow why i'm <music>. I'm earning ten bucks an hour at the radio and i'm earning like three hundred dollars an hour. You know in the sales position but again. There's two really important lessons for anyone anyone listening that i want you to take away from this and the first priority shared which is sometimes you have to believe in the belief that someone else has an you until your belief catches up. I did not believe that i could break this company record in my first ten days but jesse did jesse was my mentor my manager and he by the way he was the number of managing tire company so i was very fortunate to credit him to my success more than myself almost because if it wasn't for him i absolutely would not have been able to do what i did. I called him after my first day on the job. I went over oh for three hundred three appointments with the people that i thought were most likely to buy and i sold zero. I was just destroyed his demotion destroyed. I was just depressed asked him saturday. I was embarrassed humiliated because i had told jesse that i was going to find a way to break the company record in some more and my first today's than ever before and i called called him ready to quit and he said how there's one of two ways you can respond. He said life's not about what happens to you. It's how you respond. He said today you had a bad day. You didn't sell anything that happens opens right and some days you so awesome deal a little bit so nothing today was nothing day he said but there's one of two ways you can respond and really respected jesse. I'm all ears and i said what how can i respond and he said well. You can respond positively or negatively. I said okay well. Tell me more about what what does that look like positively negatively negatively so you can do what you feel like and give up and i think i kind of made a joke and i said yeah that's my plan. He said let me ask you. How do you want to be successful in life said of course of course they do. He said okay then you can respond in a positive way. The only way that a successful person respond which is he said you gotta keep moving forward. You got to move on beyond. This can't change what happened. You could change engineering else. You can change the future and if you're listening to this. You can't change what happened meaning. You can't change in the you can't go back in time unless you're mardi mc. Fly you know right with the delorean you you can't go back in time and change in anything in your life everything. That's happened up at this point. The only logical intelligent choice we have to accept it unconditionally fully be at peace with it not feel sorry for ourselves not feel like victims and choose the most positive proactive response to move us forward in the direction of the ideal outcome that we have for our lives and he said so for you how that means getting on the phone and scheduling more points for tomorrow it's real simple and he said in tomorrow might might be a great day for you or you might sell nothing again he said but it's called the wa- the averages if you keep working and keep moving forward your success is inevitable. That's a big concert teaching in the new book the miracle equation right that as long as you're every day putting forth effort that moves in the direction of predetermined worthwhile meaningful meaningful gold dreamer outcome will you can't fail only variable is timing right. It might take longer than you wanted right. It might not go the way you <unk> hoped or expected. Which is why it usually takes longer than you had hoped for but anyway i knew he was right and i also didn't wanna let him down and so i went home and i got on the phone scheduled ten appointments to the next day and i sold two thousand seven hundred sixty eight dollars of co kitchen knives the next day and eight days after that i had sold just over twelve thousand dollars and i had broken the all time company record that in a in fifty years i had sold more than anyone else and it wasn't because i was talented really i was enthusiastic but i did sixty due to appointment it took ninety minutes per appointment and it took on average of thirty minutes to drive between appointment so you will get two hours per appointment with dr time sixty points. I worked one hundred and twenty hours in the first ten days. I work twelve hours a day on average. That didn't include the phone calls. I made which was another. They're our two a day so i worked fourteen hours a day. If you're listening to your like screw that interest so crazy. I don't wanna work for years. The thing that wasn't wasn't sustainable. I didn't work fourteen hours a day beyond that and by the way my entire life before that part of i might not have use this word but i was very lisi like throughout high school college up until until that point i was very lazy and it was only because i allowed my mentor my manager. I gave them my word that i would be accountable and if you give your word to someone monday you'll be accountable to something. Even if you don't feel like doing it that accountability your integrity will pull you forward. Pull you off your couch. Pull you out of bed to do the thing thing that you gave your word that you would do and that is literally how i achieved success as i gave my word to jesse. I told him i would do anything that he told me to do. Within the confines of my values of course and ten days later i mean i was exhausted. I hardly slept iheart right but here's the greatest gift left and we'll talk about this as we move forward with. The real purpose of a goal is the purpose of a goal is not to hit the goal the purpose of a goal the real purpose the real value the real benefit for you is always who you become in the process of giving it everything you have to achieve the goal because only the growth lasts forever. You're gonna you spend the money. I spent the money that i made in those days. Were real quick but who i became is a part of who i am today and everything i've accomplished and achieved in my highlife. I can literally trace back to those ten days and who i became by giving it everything i had every day for ten days. As until the last possible moment regardless of my results along the way and again it was because i believed in the belief that jesse had in me and my belief by the way in catch at the end of the ten days it started to but if they didn't catch up until probably a few years like ten year i mean i was still dealing with fear and insecurity and i still do to this day you know so even to this day i still have to believe in the belief that my wife has in me and my friends have in me and i have in me and you know of course but <hes> but yeah amos. I hope that was valuable. People people oh for sure and i want to dive into this real purpose of a goal a little bit more and the whole principle of it's not actually cheating the goal but becoming a better person in the process this of attempting it and i think this is a really unique idea and way of looking at goals but one thing that pops into my mind when you talk about that is is this going to let people off the hook in that process of getting to the end of the goal if they come up against adversity because they know okay the real purpose here isn't necessarily to accomplish accomplish that goal. It's to become better person. Throw so you know maybe even subconsciously. They may let themselves off the hook early before finishing that goal. That's a great question and the answer is as i explained this. You'll understand that if you approach this the way i'm going to share with you and teach you then giving up letting yourself off. The hook is not an option. That's not an option right. We might as well dive into this concept the miracle equation a year and a half after those ten days right after i in that was called the fast start your for sunday's call your fast start and and they have all sorts of incentives to you know so you can try to develop those habits and that belief in yourself by working really hard for those first ten days and get off to a great start will year and a half later. I was driving home after i gave a speech at a company conference and event and my car was hit head on a drunk driver at eighty miles an hour. I spun off the drunk driver and the car behind me. Did the most damage you'd think an eighty mile an hour on collision with the drunk drivers about his you know damaging as you could be <hes> in but i was hit broadside in my driver's side door directly in the left side of my body by another car seventy miles per hour and what you might imagine could happen if you're hitting the driver's side door at seventy miles an hour is what happened. I broke eleven. Kevin bones instantaneously my femur. The largest bone in the human body broke in half my pelvis broken three places my humerus bone by my bicep broken half shatter saturn elbows sever my radio nerve fractured all three bones in my eye-socket almost lose every year and fracture the taught my skull and had a bunch of internal bleeding and injuries. I died for six minutes my heart for six minutes on the side of the freeway as they pulled me out of the khartoum in our to pull me out of the car and i've lost so much blood that i bled to death. They rushed me to the hospital. Title i underwent emergency surgery spent six days in a coma. I flatlined twice during those six days and when it came out of the coma i was told that i would never walk again and and that's when i begin developing this miracle equation concept. I did not call it that yet but i made two decisions. The doctor said i would never walk again. Actually i made three decisions. The first decision was to accept that as a possibility with no emotional attachment to the outcome meaning. I decided if i never ever walk again. If i'm in a wheelchair the rest i literally told my dad this because my dad and my mom were called in by my doctors and the doctor said were concerned with how we we believe that your son is in denial because every time we enter and this was two weeks after the crash one week after he came out of the coma when i was being told i would never walk again and the doctor said every time we interact with how he's always smiling and laughing and joking with us and they said that you know frankly that's not normal for a twenty year old a young man who's being told he's never going to walk again so we believe that he can't accept this new reality this fate that he's been dealt and we need you to talk talk to him and find out how he's really feeling so we can get to the bottom of this because he's probably covering up his real feelings of fear and depression and maybe even anger so find out how he's really feeling my dad came in and expressed a doctor's concerns at how i know. You're positive guy but considering what happened to you. It's okay to be negative. It's okay to be scared tired and depressed and angry. These are normal emotions for anyone in the doctor. Say it's healthy. Freda acknowledged those emotions and not deny them and you know my dad when he shared this. I mean he was not in tears but his eyes were welled up. I can't remember his face. He was really emotional and really concerned with my emotional wellbeing and when he asked me how are are you really feeling how a really kind of went inside and i really thought about it and i am. I scared my depressed my saturday angry. How my feeling am i really covering up my emotions and i'll be honest jesse. It took me probably thirty seconds and i looked at my dad and i smiled. I said dad. I thought you knew me better than that. He said what do you mean i mean i said i can't change that. I was in a car accident so the first decision that i made jesse that i'm sharing through the story as i said dad i can't change it so the only intelligent intelligence choice i have is to accept it and by the way i don't know if this i'm summarizing this of course i don't know if that was this articulate at twenty years old but i said but here's the thing if the doctors are right and i'm in in a wheelchair the rest of my life i promise you i've already imagined it thought about it and accepted it. I will be the happiest person you've ever seen in a wheelchair. I will be the genuinely anew in lead the most grateful human being that could possibly exist living the rest of my life in wiltshire. Now we're gonna take a quick break from her child with how to give a shout out to our show partner perfect kita. The cinnamon bars have just arrived and they are so good. 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Jesse called the five minute rule a year and a half prior the five minute rule he taught us this in a context of sales of work where you're going to be doing appointments and you're gonna set a goal and you're not gonna reach the goal and i know where i'm taking a while to get to the you're answering your question of the goal but we will get there. He said when things don't go as planned when you <unk> schedule an appointment. You're really looking forward to it. You really need it to reach your goals and the person forget and they don't show up that can just be depressing right he said or or if you get an order you meet with a customer he or she buys like the biggest set. We have your on cloud nine. You are on your way to your goal will and then you know. Maybe you saw a woman. Her husband wasn't able to be there or vice versa man the wife was at work. The spouse comes home and finds out they spent vent two thousand dollars on a set of knives and they call you and cancel and he says this will happen. It is union and he thought he would teach things we could do to make sure their husband or wife was okay. Okay and with the order we didn't want to get him in trouble or anything right but he said look things happened out of your control once they happen and you cannot go back in time and change them. It's not intelligent nor helpful useful or beneficial to you to wish you could change it to feel sorry for yourself to put energy into wishing or wanting that the thing that happened or didn't happen was the opposite because once it's happened it's happened he would teach us literally and this is a row. Oh i use this to this day and i teach this around the world to tens of thousands of people every day so i hope it for listening. This is actually a real powerful strategy. He would teach us set the timer. Marrone your phone for five minutes. When something goes you know doesn't go according to plan and you're upset. Set your time for five minutes. Give yourself five minutes to bitch mon complain cry why punch a wall punch pillow puncher friend like just would ever feel the emotion righteous. I believe it shove set and and you were so five minutes and he said when the timer goes off you make the only intelligent choice that you can make you would teach us say three very powerful words can't change range. It can't change it and he said it's a reminder yourself that i can't change what is now in the past whether it's five minutes five months or five decades so there's no value in it so you give yourself freedom from emotional pain by doing the opposite of resisting it resisting a reality wishing it didn't happen dealing being upset about it and the opposite of resistance is acceptance until he would teach us say can't change it and that's the key that unlocks the door to to acceptance and when you accept the thing you can't change even though you might not be happy about it you might actually be unhappy that it happened but he said in between the emotional state date of happiness and sadness or excitement and anger or whatever positive and negative emotion you want to label it as there is a place that is not an emotion. It's a state of being in it. It is apiece. When you accept all the things you can't change accept life as it is in you. Stop putting energy into wishing you could change something or something. Were different that you can't go back in time and change it doesn't mean you're happy about it but more powerful than happiness which is an emotion. That's fleeting more powerful than that emotion that fleeting emotion is an ever present state of being which itches. I am giving myself the gift of peace. I am at peace with this thing that i cannot change so since i can't change it. I might as well not feel bad about it. I might as well will be at peace with it and divert. My attention focused my energy into what i can do now moving forward that will maybe it'll correct thing that that didn't go according to plan or maybe can't correct it so you have to simply move forward and move on and kind of like my first day of on the job right i sold nothing and he reminded me of the five minute rule you reminded me of this can't change it idea and he reminded me help. You can't change that. You didn't sell on those appointments but you can get on the phone and schedule more appointments for tomorrow and affect. Tamara can't affect the past you can absolutely affect the present so that's how i got there because i had been living not five minute rule and that can't change it mantra for a year and a half granted it was applied to much milder adversity such as no sales and missed appointments and such right and it's such a simple principle oh but it seems like the kind of thing where you'd really need to practice to get good at it. I'm so glad you said that. I believe that we should live our lives and thirty day challenges because it takes on average. There's a lotta science that shows you can do it in a short amount of time. There's a lot of signs that says it takes longer one of my favorite books the one thing references a harvard study that says it takes sixty six days east change a habit well. I've changed a lot of habits in thirty days and i've coach dozens and we should say one on one of dozens but collectively coach hundreds hundreds of thousands of people to do this exact thing and to change their hou- in fact i take back the miracle morning has sold over two million copies so i've coached at least a million of those people probably read the book rights. I've coached well over a million people. There's a whole chapter on on how to transform your life in thirty days and how to change the habit in thirty days so yes if this resonates with you and if you suffer from emotional pain in the form of stress fear anxiety anger depression you name it even if it's something as little as i get upset when i'm in traffic. You can't change the traffic but you can enjoy every moment that you're in the car. That's a metaphor for life. You can't change the things that you can't change outside of what you know what you can control but you can enjoy every moment of your life. Regardless of what's happening around you. You get to control what's going on inside of you. That's why when i was in a car accident. I decided if i never walk again. I will not let the wheelchair and the fact that i can't walk define my quality of life. I will not let it determine my emotional wellbeing. I think for most people it's challenging and think about that that the to your emotional state and adversity are not emotionally <unk> mutually exclusive right. I guess in some ways they are in some ways they aren't but the point is that you can be going through those difficult time in your life as i was when i was in the hospital. It was the most painful physically mentally emotionally you name it but i was the happiest most grateful ever been and then we will bring that forward and if we can go more in depth on this aspect of this is what led to me writing the miracle equation a little over two years you in fact thanks for almost two and a half years now. I was unable to breathe. I woke up gasping for air and over the next eleven days i had sixteen pounds of fluid drained from my lung essentially really went to the e._r. Every other day and had to have a giant needle stuck through the back of my rib to drain upwards of two leaders of fluid would at a time and they couldn't figure out what was wrong with me and finally after going to multiple doctors and multiple hospitals in multiple cities. I was diagnosed the very rare aggressive form of cancer acute lymphoblastic leukemia which has a twenty to thirty percent survival rate the moment you get that diagnosis. Where are you ah. I was by myself. My wife and kids were visiting my grandmother with my mom. I was supposed to be on that trip but because i couldn't breathe i couldn't couldn't travel and i didn't want my grandma to miss out on seeing my her. Grandkids are great gan- grandkids and so i sent my wife and kids and i said look all figure this out while you're gone. Don't worry about me. I'll figure it out the last thing i'm one of the healthiest people i know in terms of i mean i eat up organic primarily ravi rob and diet during the day i eat small amounts of grass fed cage free. No hormone meets in the evening wild caught fish. I have no chemicals in my the house. You can literally the what we clean our toilet with. I can spray it in my mouth and eat it like we're literally modern day hippies so i was living in anticancer lifestyle and and how long were you living that lifestyle before you got the diagnosis on seventeen years. Wow here's what i i believe. Cosmic hate to say this because people will you know. The only thing i did that was unnatural. That was a pharmaceutical. That was a chemical that i put in my oldest say down. I'm not gonna say this cosmic cancer. I don't know i'll just say that the only chemical michael that i'm aware of that i put into my body regularly for almost ten years from age twenty seven to thirty seven. When i was diagnosed was admiral. I was diagnosed with a._d._h._d. At twenty seven years old and i was given a prescription for adderall i took the minimal amount like the minimum dose and i would also get off it for like six months at a time and then get back on it and then i struggled with my focus and attention all that but tracing back over the last seventeen years where i got cancer the only anything that i can figure out that i put into my body consistently over an extended period of time that was not designed by nature that was a chemical was was the drug adderall so that's the only thing that i can attribute it to but again the doctors say they have no idea what causes it and i have no no scientific evidence of what caused it. I just deductive active reasoning. It was like well. That's the only thing i could think of so. I don't know what else you know right and how what turned you onto this modern hippie lifestyle. Actually it's interesting so first and foremost when i was twenty one it actually actually to the day it was one year after my car accident i was in florida. I was at a tony robbins event and tony robbins spins. An entire date is unleash the power within event on health. It's a health date and he talks about basically eating food that it comes from nature nothing out of a can nothing that is processed nothing that has preservatives but eating food from the earth rate land see you know so that's when i started going down the path of health and i started reading books like living living foods for optimum health and other books on on that topic the china study so on and so forth i started really i'm veracious student. I study you name it. I you in a topic that i feel like is relevant to my life or or the people who i love or that. I lead in their lives and how it can impact their lives. I'm always learning trying to learn everything i can and then i watched a documentary henry <hes> when i was about twenty maybe thirty actually called healing cancer from the inside out. I recommend documentary a healing cans from the inside out. Actually you'd think well hey you watch and you still got cancer sudden. If i'm gonna listen to you but <hes> it basically talked about what are the causes of cancer in our environment. I was already eating an anticancer. I anti cancer diet essentially that time are pretty close. I set a little too much sugar than though so that was the big thing that i learned was cutting out sugar and also really making sure that the meat meet that i ate was called quality. You know i mean ninety nine percent of the meat that is throwing that stat out there could be ninety two. It could be ninety nine point nine hundred exact number. I'd never wanna speak on enthralled oughta staff that his qualifying but the large majority of the meat in our country is you know it's injected with hormones and in a lot of lot of bad things the animals are not treated humanely and there's lot of documentaries on that topic specifically but that was a big thing learned is that if you're gonna eat meat to eat it a in relatively small quantities just enough <hes> to give your body what it needs from the meat and marnie and i are on the same boat with that too we very little meat yup and when we do has to be the best quality if it's red meat has to be grass-fed and we look for organic hanoch and quality is just so important when it comes to me and everything but we're really really specific on me. I'm so glad to hear that on topic though you know when it comes to eating out <unk> i'd encourage anybody listening to this that that's the biggest place where you have the least quality control of your food right and so there is a movement in the united states and everyone might not be aware of this but it is is car farm-to-table and there're farm-to-table restaurants and i don't know how i don't think there's real strict guidelines and so what i did is i went to yelp and here's a great exercise for everybody. I went to yelp. I typed in farm-to-table restaurants and all the i live in austin texas. All these restaurants came what and what i realize is. It's a buzzword right now. It's really people that really seek health. They focused on pharmaceutical rest for that. Just let me define it. Real quick of armidale restaurant is typically. They usually serve organic produce. They serve quality meats and they locally source it right so that's kind of the staples. If i'm you know that's my understanding of farm-to-table but it because it's such a popular trend right now a lot of restaurants put it in there he words so that when you search for you find it but they're not actually farm-to-table and i used to go to these restaurants thinking they were farm-to-table and not asking because when i start charm table restaurant they came up on yelp and so i went there and then my buddy said how you had to ask them mm if the meat is grass-fed if the eggs are caged free if the chicken is right you is hormone-free antibiotic for you have to if the fish is wild caught or if it's farm you have to ask them and so i started asking i was my mind was blown. When these restaurants i thought was formerly table. I thought i was doing the right thing in here's how you know by the way if the server river typically if they don't know the answer if they let me ask the chef if our meat is grass-fed usually it's not because if it is that's a value of that restaurant tape and then everyone on the staff knows of course we stand by that are meade is blank are produces blank etc so what i did. I literally finally did this. It was like a couple of weeks ago. I spent about an hour on yelp. I searched farm-to-table restaurants. I called every single farm-to-table restaurant and i said i've got a few questions. John's is your beef grass fed. Is your fish wild caught. Is your produce organic right and is your chicken hormone free. I said please answer all four of those glass the shaft whatever and now i have saved any elp. You can create your own list right. I have a list of real farm-to-table table restaurants that actually care about what they are putting into your body and if you've worked in the restaurant industry think about this restaurant is a business that is in business for profit and and therefore they typically for most restaurants they buy the cheapest ingredients and then they use seasoning and taste and texture to make them taste aced really good so that patrons that only make their food choices based on taste texture will come back again and again and again and again and it's contributing leading to all of the disease that our country suffers from so sorry to soapbox but good for you for digging in no that's really important information and hopefully hopefully eventually they'll be an app where there's some kind of certification or something like that so people don't have to do that work but great idea in the meantime and there isn't out by the way called happy coury familiar without yes. Yes and i think everything there is plant based cracked. It used to be an now. You can actually select. I want ought to look at vegan only restaurants. I want to look at vegetarian restaurants. I want to look at all restaurants and now they include all restaurant. It's so there are restaurants that have meat but essentially the majority of the listings that come up are going to be will first of all. You're all the vegetarian restaurants are vegan restaurants beyond that though you're going to typically get healthy restaurants and so for me when i travel as soon as my plane lands. The first thing i do is pull up the happy cow out. I find all the healthy all three restaurants in the area. Are you also find all the shops and by the way i don't want to go to travel sole state thirty seconds or less here. I used to love this job juice. If you understand what happens with pesticides has two sides in our fruit when you have a smoothie at a typical smoothie place if they're not organic. You're probably getting more pesticides than you. Are nutrition writer or or at least. It's a pretty hefty ratio. Each were very blessed in austin. There's a juice company called juice land where it's all one hundred percent organic but now when i travel apple will only drink from a smoothie shop that is organic and luckily they're showing up more and more and more but it is you know it's definitely the minority of smoothie shop so keep that in mind as well as is your out there navigating putting the healthiest food in your body are how we got on a great tangent there but i wanna come back to your cancer story so yes. Let's come back to the moment. You're diagnosed host with this rare aggressive form cancer what happens next so my doctor was having trouble even telling me about it. He was really he didn't know each other. Well we just met a few third visit is it you know my wife and kids are gone. They're out of state and he's like beating around the bush about the diagnosis he will use how well definitely something going on here and you know we. We got got some stuff to talk about and he just got like it's funny. I leaned in my hand on his arm because see i write. I accept things that ever happened. I made a choice unless the emotional pain serves me. You might wonder windows emotional pain serve you well. If i lose a loved one i agree. I wanna feel right so there are cases where emotional pain serves serves you but it's few and far between and i do wanna pause you there which is something. I did want to bring up. When you're talking about the five minute rule where if we do use this rule for something we'll use easy example a pet dying and we give ourselves you know four and a half minutes to let her emotions run free and then we put a cap on it is that just kinda china pushing them down and they're gonna come back up later on at a different time kind of like a whack a mole type thing. Here's what happens such so glad you asked that at first it will probably feel like that because we are conditioned at a neurological level right our emotions or lard. They're stored in our body. They're stored in our brain. You could say they're stored in our spirit or soul as well but that's another conversation for another day ripe but let's say urgent alert neurologically speaking that are motions have carved pathways into our brain and when when we experience an event such as traffic for example will the emotions that you feel when you're running late and you encounter traffic are probably probably pretty much the exact same emotions every single time right so we are conditioned are emotional responses are conditioned so we have to recondition them and that's why i encourage thirty day challenge so apply the five minute rule for thirty days okay and if you apply it and you still feel frustrated late. Let me explain learn how this works. When i learned the five minute rule i literally raised my hand because i told you mccloskey clown. I'm a joker rights. I raised my hand in my cut co training. I said jesse. Can i get like like a five day rule. I need like five days to be upset if i i don't think i could do five minutes and everybody laughed and i got my attention that i wanted right but i was being being serious at the same time like dude five minutes is not long enough and when i speak to audiences i hear this all the time and keep in mind. I've been teaching this since i became a speaker. It was about in sixteen or seventeen years ago so i have received hundreds and hundreds of emails of people telling me that the five minute rule and it's the philosophy more than the time frame you follow if you need five hours great if you need five days that's okay. I wouldn't go much past five days. Though the five decades not healthy and many of us are suffering over things of intimate childhood because they heard us then and we're still allowing them to hurt us now why because <unk> no one told us that we have the ability to make a conscious choice to accept the event foley doesn't make it right doesn't justify the person that did it to us if in the case as that someone did something hurtful to us. It's not letting them off the hook. It's letting us off the hook. Here's the way that it happened for me. The first time i had an encounter during bring my cut co it was it was on those first ten days right. I applied five minute rule and the five minute timer went often sure enough. I was still upset right and it lingered with me throughout the day but i did say a after the time ornoff i made a commitment to jesse can't change. It can't change it but here's the miraculous thing that happened. If you will like this was this was really unexpected and jesse told us that this would happen but i did not believe him and you might not believe me right now so you have to try it for yourself after doing this for. I don't remember exactly how long i can't remember. It was like three days later eight days later. I don't remember exactly. I do kind of remember. The moment i remember the feeling at first i would set the time for five minutes and it would go off and it wasn't enough and then one day i set the timer for five minutes. I had a customer cancel her order which was like that's the worst thing that can happen in the sales profession right. I was like no no no no no no. I was counting on that. I set the timer five minutes and i go son of. I can't believe that happened. <hes> i was. I really needed that sale man. I really needed that seal garden and we had such a great connection her and i <hes> and what a bummer can't believe she cancelled and then i picked up my phone and i looked at the timer and i think i had about four minutes and thirty seconds left and i thought to myself. I'm over it. Like what's the point. Where's the value in dwelling on this and feeling upset about it for another four minutes and thirty two seconds when i can just stop the timer now and i get on the phone and i could do something proactive that would create the result. I want instead of stewing on the result that i didn't want and and so that is what happens. I can't tell you the exact same thing that they thought when i was on stage giving a speech or reading it they read it my book in the miracle. There's all chapter by the way on this called be coming emotionally invincible so i mean if you're if this concept resonates dot iraq. I'd love to be emotionally invincible. I'd love to not yet so upset. Frustrated angry stressed out <unk> over the things that happened in my life. That's why a dedicated an entire chapter the best content and examples and scientific proof that i could give you on how to become what i call a motionlessly invincible and here's the point i leaned into the doctor and i said doctor i can tell you're stressed out right now like you're. You're hesitant to tell me this. There's nothing that you can tell me right now that i won't be okay with you can literally say how you're dying in an hour and i will be at peace just with it and i will call my family now. I won't be happy about it. It'll be the worst news you give me but i'm okay. I can handle anything. You're gonna tell me doctor because i could tell like he couldn't get the words out and he told me how you might have cancer and it's a tough one. It's got a thirty percent survival rate but you need to get a second opinion. I was kind of in denial. 'cause i thought like like there's no way i'm like the healthiest person i know i don't i mean i'll give it a second opinion. I don't think it's cancer give it was okay it was but i just like logically based on the way my lifestyle so i thought i doubt that to a dog. Okay okay all right and then i got in the car and i called my wife sitting in my car. I could see this exact moment in the parking lot of the doctor's office. She was was at the zoo with my kids in colorado. I was austin texas and immediately. I started to realize if it was hard for the doctor to tell me it was real hard for me to tell my wife because i knew that she didn't process process adversity the same way i did for her. This was going to be the most horrific devastating knew she'd ever gone in her entire life and that was hard for me and i told her and and she started crying and i started crying because i had cancer i started crying because i knew how hard this was for her and then i told her something that i think she definitely didn't agree with might've even upset her. I said sweetheart. I know. This is scary for you but i want you to know. I'm not scared. I want you to know the way that i am taking this the way that i am perceiving leaving the meaning that i'm giving to this i said remember my car accident. I've always told you that. People always feel sorry for me. Oh my god what horrific experience me hit by drunk driver and dying and breaking bones being twenty number walk in you know i've always said that's the best thing that ever happened to me because the growth that came from that adversity is what shaped me into the person that i am a._m. Today the person that you married right. I said well if that was the best thing that ever happened to me. I believe that this cancer will be the new bigger her and better best thing that ever happened to me and i said no. Don't get me wrong. I'm all but certain that this will probably the most difficult thing that i've ever endured. I mean just freeman listening that the chemotherapy lots of people with cancer will do an hour to have chemotherapy. You know once a week or once a month. I did a hundred hours consecutively of i._v. Chemotherapy nonstop for five days every three weeks and it's the most deadly chemotherapy most patients agents die from the chemotherapy and i almost died. I was supposed to get eight treatments and after the seventh treatment i was down to one hundred and twenty seven pounds. I'm six feet tall. Oh i was almost dead and the doctor said how your body will not survive the eighth treatment we have to call it quits now and hope that we got the cancer so oh. I knew that chemo was coming and i told my wife. This is the best thing that's ever happened to me now. We're going to take another quick break from our chat with how all to give a shout out to our show partner organic by if you listen to house first episode with s episode thirty nine you know that he's all about the miracle morning and getting your morning started on the right foot and something that is part of a very good morning routine is adding in some green juice powder such a great way to start the day. If you want insurance to get your greens in you can have it plane in water or you can add it into a smoothie and make your smoothie into a green smoothie in addition to some green leafy vegetables vegetables so if you haven't tried the green juice pat from agana fi i highly recommend it. It's awesome. It tastes great. 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Brighton i discovered the podcast some months back and i've been addicted ever since i was halfway there on my health journey when i first began listening to murnian jesse brighton ayton is a great town for alternative lifestyles and my passion for weightlifting across it meant i already had been eating clean paleo for a number of years however the podcast helped me take my healthy the next level and i have successfully removed all prescribed pharmaceutical medication for my life toxic cosmetic products and household cleaning agents. I found new ways to boost my five five year old son's health including introducing a wide variety of healthy fats and probiotics. My supplementation game is now next level. My sleep is optimized u._h. Podcasts helped me. He performed better in the gym at work as a mother partner and friend while crossword from the united kingdom. Thank you so much for this beautiful review so as i said put the smell interface jesse and i love reading these and we can't wait to read your is thank you so much for the kind words and it's always so cool to see people listening to the show from all all around the world. Thank you again if you haven't left us a review yet. It's super easy to do. We've actually created a couple of infographics that take you through the process and to check those out. All you need need to do is go to altima health podcast. Dot com slash review again that you are l. is ultimate health. Podcasts dot com slash review. Thank you for taking the time to leave some kind kind words. We really appreciate it and now back to our task with how fear goes away like my fear. It was at first. I would think that every day eventually fear would maybe enter my mind for like maybe a minute a week and sometimes i'd go weeks without any fear because i replaced fear with faith at a subconscious level i created new neural pathways in my brain that were routed into faith of of what i wanted just like i did when i wanted to walk again of course twenty years ago i i didn't know what i was doing back. Then now. I understand it scientifically. So the idea is the two to parts of the miracle equation the two decisions that will move your biggest goals your biggest dreams from possible to probable to inevitable with the subtitle of the book right the do decision to the biggest goals from possible problem evitable but it's unwavering faith faith in yourself and your ability to overcome accomplish in these thing that you commit to and in the second decision is extraordinary effort. That doesn't mean that you work all the time. It means that you do at least one thing each day that is predetermined that will move you in the direction and of inevitably eventually inevitably reaching your goals or dreams or overcoming an obstacle or challenge be it health challenge of financial shot. It doesn't matter it's universally applicable and here's what you find when you study the world's most successful people or people that have overcome extraordinary versity but let's just say when you said the world's most successful sessile people in any walk of life you find that these are the two decisions that they made not once but over and over and over over again day after day after day through all the ups the down the obstacles the setbacks the adversity of life on the way to achieving everything they wanted and they maintain those two decisions unwavering faith an extraordinary effort every day until they overcame or achieved the outcome that they desired tired and trust me i when i wrote the book and you'll read this in the book but when i was writing the miracle equation you know i had to play devil's advocate and i had to go okay. Can i find anyone anyone that didn't maintain those two decisions in some way they might have a different word they might have called it belief in hard work or you know in layman's terms right whatever it was but you literally for someone to accomplish something. They've never accomplished before by definition. You're stepping out on faith because faith this belief in the unseen so if you goldie you've never done before. I guess what you're everybody's born a baby so if somebody's a millionaire unless they inherited the money and that's a different story right we're not talking about that but they had to establish abbas faith that they could do something earn a million dollars that they never done before if somebody runs a marathon dead to establish faith and everybody has fear but those that are the most successful successful in the world in all walks of life establish and maintain the faith that they can overcome or accomplish whatever it is they are committed to and they put forth extraordinary effort which is really just consistent effort each and every day and that is what the miracle equation about is understanding how to take those two relatively simple concepts there simple in their explanation but they're very rare in their execution and that's why i wrote this book is to teach people as i've done and as i've studied countless countless other individuals as how do you actually take these two seemingly simple decisions that are very hard to live by and how do you make them easy to live by a notch with the miracle equation does for people and how the come full circle on your cancer story. The best news is your cancer is now in remission. I went into remission shen in a month now. I still had to do the chemo and maybe i didn't but i you know when it's such a scary risky cancer in there were no natural doctors that had ever cured it before ever ever i reach out to the best natural doctors in the world and they said do the chemo. Your cancer is so rare and so aggressive that everything we do would be an experiment. We have no experience curing your cancer so i was stuck with what i didn't want to do which was chemotherapy and i by the way i'm grateful for chemo but you it was like they're telling me a chemo's. The most intensive deadly chemo there is and it has a thirty percent success rate right so i'm like that sounds like the worst thing that's horrible so you're going to kill me with the drug. That's supposed to save my wife and i have a seventy percent chance that it's going to fail and i'm going to die. That was my best option. That's the option i took but i was armed with the miracle equation and i truly believe that's why in one month they went. Hell your cancer's in remission but to be safe. Were we're still going to run you through the chemotherapy regimen for the next eight cycles and now i am cancer free and i'm living the life of my dreams. Which is the life alongside my wife ah door and my art you children who my daughter is nine. My son is seven and they are true. Meaning of my life is other than the best part amazing. How and i'm so happy for you. Thank you brother appreciate them all right how enclosing i ask you a question earlier and we got off on a lot of different tangents. I don't think we got around to answering it by light. Let's come back to the real purpose of goal and end on this and before we talked about how it's not actually to achieve the goal but were becoming a better person in the process of tasting it so what asked you before and i'd like you to elaborate on now is what if we use that as an excuse to not fall through and accomplish a goal would if we use that as has something to let us off the hook yeah we did start to go down that rabbit hole and then i diverted soap sorry about that but oh so here's the and the by the this is a lesson you mentioned earlier remember when you said it. You said it was a unique. It is very unique to the majority of the people on the planet but it's not my idea. This is actually a concept that i learned from one of of my mentors. Dan cassetta and dan cassetta learned it from his mentor. Jim rohn and here's the lesson. The purpose of goal is not to hit the goal the purpose of a goal and i say purpose i mean the highest benefit available to you with any goal that you said is to develop yourself into the type of person who can achieve goals by giving it everything you have until the last possible moment regardless of your results along the way so that's why i'm saying when you said what can williams off the hook will no because because the only way to to experience the benefit of the goal is to give it everything you have regardless of your results until the last possible muscle moment. That's what i did when i was during the cut co goal and i broke the record on the last day on my last appointment in fact pretty pretty much every time i've used a miracle equation for whatever reason the universe or god or life seems to be tested to see how committed are you. I'm gonna throw the kitchen sink at john. Make this real difficult right eye catcher. Johnny was the same thing it was the most difficult time in my life but i continue maintaining unwavering faith and putting forth extraordinary effort by doing every by the way i didn't define what i did from extraordinary effort. It was every holistic practice available to man that i could find out about. I took over so at an average of fifty supplements. It's a day and these were vetted out as being healthy supplements where they didn't have magnesium steroid on the rice. I went a lot of trouble. Mike extraordinary first of all taking fifty plus supplements climent today having a raw vegan juicing every day doing ozone sauna three times a week doing acupuncture doing coffee cinemas and a coffee enema for those who don't know i always i always this is my joke but it's very true like the idea of the miracle equation putting forth extraordinary effort there is no effort more extraordinary than sticking a tube up your butt and putting thirty two ounces. This is a coffee up there and holding it for fifteen minutes three times a week. That was my extraordinary effort right but here's the power extraordinary effort. It creates a feedback loop with unwavering hiring faith meaning when you establish maintain unwavering faith. It makes you actually start to believe. Hey the seemingly impossible gold this miracle if you will you know by me telling telling myself that i could do it every day. I'm starting to actually believe it might be possible. I don't know for sure but i'm starting to believe it but then when you start putting forth extraordinary effort the effort feeds your faith because you go wow how i'm doing it. I'm doing the things that will generate the result the outcome that i'm committed to and that effort feed need your unwavering faith and now you have more faith in yourself that you can do it 'cause you're doing it and not in bring faith fuels more extraordinary effort and that is the faith effort feedback back loop round and round and round. We go so when you set a goal whether or not you hit the goal pales in comparison. It's a distant second second to the benefit of who you become by giving it everything you have until the last possible moment and let's say you give it everything you have and you don't hit your goal at say you fall all slightly short. You can't take away the person that you became and now you get to apply a new and improved version of yourself to the next goal and you approach it with unwavering wavering faith and extraordinary efforts and you give it everything you have now. Maybe you hit that goal but maybe you don't but now you're an even better more knowledgeable more capable version of the person you were when you set out on the second goal and now you apply who you became during the first goal and who you became during the second goal to your next goal and your neck school and your next goal and you start to realize as you approach each goal some you hit some you don't but every time you walk away with the greatest benefit which is you become a better version of yourself and you become more capable of achieving any goal that you ever sat and you start realizing that you are a capable of more than you have ever dreamed possible for yourself constant growth in evolution how i love it and last question before i let you go. What does altima health mean to you. Ultimate health to me is living in alignment with your highest truth and if you are a highly really conscious person right will you're not gonna put poison your body for example like use drink alcohol and then i realized wait. Why would i poison my body. This is the vehicle that i'm in living this lifetime. I'm going to optimize my body. When you're living consciously in alignment with your highest truth. You're not going to burn the candle candle at both ends and not sleep because your body needs sleep. That's when your brain repairs itself. Your body repairs itself. You need that rest so that you can rejuvenate. When you're living online with your highest truth. You're not going to talk poorly to yourself and beat yourself up. You're going to tell yourself how much you love yourself not what an egotistical way but in a self love compassionate way. You're going to do things that make you happy that make you healthy and because we're all a part of humanity. You're gonna do things that make other people. Happy and other people healthy so to me. Ultimate health is living in alignment with your highest truth and when you do that you're happy you're healthy. You're wealthy and you're living life at a level that you you know up until this point you go. Wow how what was. I doing any searches. See that like you feel awake. You're awake to realize that and then you see people that are eating unhealthy food or smoking king cigarettes or drinking alcohol or i'm not judging like everyone's allowed to live their own life by the way of someone wants to eat and drink and no judgment no judgment at all but you asked my definition and that's my definition living in a line with your highest truth. I love that hal and i love your passion. Your latest book which was the focus of today is the miracle equation for the listeners out there other than getting a copy of the new book. How can they connect with you. Go to miracle morning. Dot com you can get a bunch of free stuff there but encourage you to scroll down where it says joined the community. Click on that if you have a facebook account if you don't we're working on getting off facebook but if you have a facebook account you will be joining two hundred twenty thousand rosen of the most like-minded loving supportive individuals that i have ever encountered who wake up everyday elevate their own consciousness to live into their highest. Why is truth and support each other and doing the same all right how i had a lot of fun talking to you today. Thank you you too jesse. Take care of my friend. Take care. 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285: How to Have a Miracle Morning and Organize Your Day With Hal Elrod

The Healthy Moms Podcast

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285: How to Have a Miracle Morning and Organize Your Day With Hal Elrod

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Dot Com and this episode is all about maximizing your you are morning routine. I am here with Hal elrod who is on a mission to elevate the consciousness of humanity one at a time he's the author of the international bestseller color the miracle warning as well as his newest book the Miracle Equation and he's doing just that after overcoming multiple near death experiences that we talk about in this episode showed an impacting millions of lives. He has dedicated his own life to showing others how to overcome their challenges so that they can fulfil their unlimited potential this. This is a super fund episode. It has really practical tangible things that you can implement in your own morning and I hope that you will enjoy it. As much as I enjoyed recording it. howl welcome to the podcast? Thanks for being here. It is a pleasure really. Thank you so much for having me well. I'm so excited to chat with you because I am a huge believer in the power power of a story and I know from a little bit of research about you and from reading your books that you have actually quite an amazing story that has multiple chapters so to start are with those people who are not familiar with you. Can you just give us an overview of who you are and your story and how you got to this place that you are now yeah. I'll do the high level because I'm I'm. I'm a keynote speaker and very long winded and if I if I start to get into the story which we can dive into each one but <hes> I you know all of a sudden all all all realize I haven't even taken a breath Aetna Mike twelve minutes into my story but <hes> so high level <hes> when I was I grew up very average or mediocre. If you will meaning I I I was a C. student. I wasn't <unk> an athlete. I wasn't it wasn't popular. I didn't you know didn't really have other than all the gifts that breach born with unique gifts. I didn't really wasn't born with any really amazing standup talents balance on and <hes> and then when I was fifteen I <hes> fell into a job. Dj Edit Dj digits cool dances and weddings and anniversaries and then I got hired as radio station and are not became my dream was to be a radio DJ and then fast forward it nineteen a buddy of mine <hes> almost tricked me into going to work with him and he was in sales else and he sold cut co cutlery and I had no interest in being in sales I was. I was at another radio station at that point. After college and I met the manager <hes> Jesse Bovine and ended up Jesse really sold me on the idea that you know having setting my own schedule and having no ceiling on my income and <hes> it was kind of an all the experience I could gain. I decided to give it a shot and <hes> I started selling cutlery and in my first ten days I broke the all time company record which meant I had sold more kitchen knives in the first in days of anyone that had worked before me in fifty years and that was kind of a crazy thing for me because I went from being this average kid to like WHOA I. I didn't know I had this in me. You know and I think that all of us we have so much more within us so much more potential than we have yet to tap into a year and a half later. I was giving a speech at a cut. Co Conference points and <hes> driving home after the speech in a brand new Ford Mustang about me. I knew car <hes> I was hit head on by a drunk driver eighty miles an hour and my car spun off of the drunk driver and the worst was actually yet to come you think what what's worse than a head on with a drunk driver at eighty miles an hour but the car behind me. I spun in front of them and they crashed into my driver's side door at seventy miles an hour and crushed my car door into the left side of my body and instantly I broke eleven bones and I broke my femur and half. I broke my pelvis. In three places. I fractured broke. My arm. Mike humorous buying my bicep half shattered. My elbow broke all the bones around around my I mean Izhak. It was shattered severed my ear and began losing a lot of blood and that night I bled to death. I was dead for six minutes on the side of the freeway anyway <hes> after they pulled me out of the car the car was kind of keeping me alive and I <hes> I bled to death. I was clinically dead for six minutes rushed to the hospital in a coma for six six days. I flatlined twice more in the coma and when I came out of the coma was told by doctors that I would never walk again and permanent brain damage and <hes> at any the age that's tough to take but at twenty at a lot of goals that are involved you know walking again and the use of my brain and I decided that I would not accept the doctor's diagnosis as the ultimate fate that that I I was going to believe I could walk again and have faith that I could walk again until I was proven otherwise and I had accepted that I would and I go well. Maybe I'll never walk again. If I never walked again I told my dad I'll be the happiest person that you've ever seen in a wheelchair because I will not let a wheelchaired chaired define my quality of life. I will not let it define my emotional wellbeing and the power of the mind body connection three weeks after the crash two weeks after him out of the coma. The doctors came in with routine x rays and they said we don't know how to explain this. How your body is healing so quickly that were acting let you take your first first step today on therapy and even me being faithful and hopeful and optimistic. I was thinking maybe I could walk in like a year not in three weeks or two weeks except woke up and I took my first step in the rest is kind of history as they say and then all kinds of wrap up the big picture story with <hes> just two other other pieces in two thousand seven the US economy crashed that was kind of what I would call my second rock bottom the car accident being my first during my second rock bottom when the economy crashed kinda crashed with it. I was an entrepreneur and my business failed. <hes> couldn't pay the mortgage. I lost my house. I physically started declining in terms of I my body fat. Percentage tripled in about six months. I wasn't exercising. I was depressed. I was scared I didn't know how to turn it around and <hes> I created this morning ritual. This was like my desperate attempt to turn things around. It created the morning ritual. I wanted to create the ultimate morning ritual. The idea was that I was studying the world's most successful people just googling and looking for what are they what are their rituals and routines. I need to Sir changing things in my life. I want my life to change and a kept coming. Russ morning rituals that I'm like. Nah Not a morning person what else do and long story short there long story longer anger. I got <hes> I decided to create. I'm going to create notches morning ritual. I'm GONNA create the ultimate morning ritual like the best personal development practices in the history of humanity and I'm going to combine all of with them and the next morning I woke up over the course of an hour. I meditated for ten minutes ten minutes of affirmations ten minutes of visualization. A ten minutes of exercise is ten minutes of reading and ten minutes of journaling and that morning I went from being depressed and scared to going wow I feel inspired tired. I feel motivated. I feel energized still optimistic. If I start every day like this it's only a matter of time but I thought it'd probably be again like six months to a year of this slow congratula compound effect but within two months of doing this morning ritual didn't have a name <hes> it would just personal development in the morning that I did at five. AM and within two months I more than doubled my income I went from the worship of my life physically to deciding to train for a fifty two mile ultra marathon never run before and and I completed lead the marathon <hes> you know six months later and I went to my wife and I said Sweetie I would. I go we we just officially have surpassed the the highest two months ago. We were in debt and couldn't pay the bills. We just surpassed the highest monthly income we've ever had which at that time was twelve thousand dollars a month and I said it feels. It's like a frigging miracle that this little morning. Ritual is like how it's changing my life and she goes. It's your miracle morning and I could yeah miracle morning and you know it wasn't a book editor. wrote it down and now the miracle morning is a book and it sold one point seven million copies. It's translated in thirty seven languages practice everyday by mill over a million million people and then the last part of the story is a two years ago. I woke up unable to like couldn't control breathing and <hes> turned out <music>. I took eleven days of me having my lungs sixteen pounds of fluid drained from my lungs every day and a half I'd go to the ER and have a giant needle stuck in my back actively ribcage and it took them about a two weeks to figure out what was wrong but I was diagnosed the very rare aggressive form of cancer acute lymphoblastic leukemia and I was given a thirty percent chance of surviving. I you know I have to two small kids. They were seven. My daughter is seven at the time. My son was four and you know for any anyone but especially apparent you know the idea of leaving your family without the father <hes> was terrifying and <hes>. I made the same decision that I made when I was told I would never walk again and I thought I will maintain unwavering faith that I will beat this cancer and live a long healthy life with my children until proven otherwise and <hes> I'm very grateful to say that after the most difficult year of my life where I was in the Er fighting for my life many times and almost dead and lost twenty five percent of my body weight at six feet. Taller was one hundred and twenty seven pounds but <hes> <hes> I'm about a year of being cancer free and in remission and now on a mission to elevate the consciousness of humanity maybe one person at a time and that that brings us to today that's incredible and I'm so curious because I feel like when presented with a really tough scenario in life hyphen. You've definitely had a couple of those people can go a couple of different ways and I often super people fall into that like why me mentality and I'm curious. Why do you think it it is that you didn't ask why me or take those answers that you were given from the doctors at face value. What do you think in you made you able to resist that then to choose an alternate path and I think I know pretty pretty close to exactly. Why and I and I can't take all the credit for it. It was really a mentor of mine when I was in when I was in my cut CO training on date too. I think my manager and Mentor Jesse top US what he called. The five minute rule and he said look sales is a microcosm Mike Rowe Qasem for life <hes> when you go out there. You're going to have goals and you're going to have dream you know Bishen. You'RE GONNA be working towards things and you're going to run into obstacles and challenges and adversity versity <hes> you're going to be working towards a goal and beyond track and then you're GonNa have your biggest order for the week. They're going to call and cancel and he said this is just it's just reality. There are a lot of things that happened that are out of your control and you can only control the things that you can control and he said so. The five minute rule is that whenever something happens that is unpleasant center painful or scarier difficult he he taught us to literally set our time run our phone for five minutes and five minutes to complain cry Vent Punch. Wall like whatever you know just like fill the pain feel the emotion and he said when the timer goes off you take a deep breath and you say three powerful words can't change it it and you remind yourself that I can't go back in time and change it so there's no value in in in continuing to feel upset about it. The only intelligent agent choice that I have really to make is to accept it fully and be at peace with it and then be proactive to move toward where I wanna go in my life or in my work <hes> <hes> get on the phone. Make more calls whatever it is in that in that setting and so I had when I first learned the end by the way this is one of those important lessons. I teach now even when I speak I mean it's so it's crazy to think twenty twenty years later. I'm teaching this to thousands and thousands of people in in live audiences and online but it's still this five minute role where when I first learned that like most people are like you know I thought can I get a five day Roy. It'd be pissed off for like five days like five minutes is not enough and sure enough the first few times. I did this little five minute rights at the time earn timer go off go. I'm still mad like still upset right and and then but here's the interesting thing that happened when we when we elevate our consciousness will become consciously justly aware of a different way of thinking or living a better way of thinking or living and we start we'd be aware of it and we stay present to it and we live in alignment with it. It changes everything for us and what happened is after a few days. Maybe a week of doing this where you know at first. I thought there's no way I can get over it and five minutes. I would set the timer for five minutes and I'd go son of God can't believe that lady cancel the appointment. I've been working on this for weeks. Gosh Gosh Darn it. Oh man and then I pick up my phone and look at the timer and I'd have you know four minutes and thirty two more seconds and I'd go. I'm over it like wh why sit here in stew on something I can't change for another four and a half minutes when I could probably make three more calls and schedule another appointment to make up for that one and so the five minute rule became kind of the five second rule where I just needed five seconds to go son of upset and fill it for a second but then I just moved on and so nope I applied that in every area of life not just my career not to sail so when I would be in traffic I remember when I literally can picture myself on this freeway in Sacramento when I had this in this first time there. I realized this applied to traffic Ennis's for anybody. You don't have to get cancer being a horrific car accident to apply the five minute rule and apply this idea of accepting the things you can't change but when I was in traffic one day I went. I was frustrated. I was running late and I didn't know I was going through my head all the phenomena. I'M GONNA lose this appointment or I'm GonNa lose his stuff things that we're all out of my control and we'd been I can't change the pace of the cars in front of me. I can't change that. I'm running late and I can't change the way the person reacts when I get there. That's not up to me but I can choose how I spend every moment in this car and to me. This is a metaphor for life. I like we can choose how we spend. Every moment of our lives regardless of what's going on around us. It doesn't matter what's going on around what's going on inside of us that determines our emotional wellbeing all being in quality of life and so traffic became a sense of joy for me. I went. Hey when I'm in traffic. I'm just going to be grateful grateful for everything I'd be grateful for. Is it time to slow down and think thank and <hes> you know and the day I was diagnosed with cancer because I had twenty years of practice seventeen years at that time of practicing this five minute rule the <hes> the day. I was diagnosed with cancer. I called my wife because she was out of town. When I found out and I was told I had a thirty percent chance of surviving and I called her and I said sweetheart what I'm going to tell. You is probably going to be the hardest thing ever told you but I want to preface it by saying I believe. This is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It'll probably probably be the most difficult thing that's ever happened to me and and for our family but I believe it's the best thing because this is going to give me the greatest opportunity to learn and to grow and become better than I've ever been before as a husband as a father as a leader as a human being and I also believe it's GonNa allow me to impact more people than I have even imagined and you know I will be honest. She did not take that same stance of being the best thing that ever happened that what day <hes> in fact I don't. I don't know if she's still quite there yet but yeah I mean that that it really stemmed from that simple realization that there's no value in feeling sorry for yourself or dwelling on something after the fact after thirty happen and sadly a Lotta people are suffering over their childhood. You know it's they're still suffering with things because when the when the you know the abuse or something that happened when we were kids and we think it's the abuse that's causing us pain to this day but it's not the abuse it's that we haven't made the decision to just accept it and and be at peace with it <hes> three so that for me was was the biggest difference that's amazing and you mention your parent as well as a mom of sex. I just thought about how amazing amazing intangible that is to use with our kids you know and they're upset or they're facing something given those five minutes and I've had like a neuroscientist and movement specialists on here before that I said you know kids are great because they actually do express their emotions with their body and they shake it out and they yell and they do all that but give them a time limit on like what get it all out and then that empowers hours and you're like hey. I'm setting the timer. Do whatever you want right. Here's a pit like give them a punching bag. You know what I mean like right like make it fun and then they could literally be upset and then kind of laughing and you know and it will help open. I get through faster at that's a great a great connection of parenting <hes> He. I love that and you've also mentioned the word miracle a couple of times and I'm truly impressed by your ability to keep a really positive mindset in the face of some pretty drastic life. <hes> you know challenges but I'm curious how you would define the word miracle because I feel like that word. Can maybe have different meanings to a lot of different people. I'm glad you asked that because you're right. It's a really loaded word and I think that for a lot of people it has a bad rap and it has about route for one of the few reasons right <hes> I think the biggest one is miracles are thought of as random passive acts or events <hes> and if you're religious. Maybe you believe that you know God creates miracles right so you really all you can do is pray and then but again passively sit back and wait right or hope. I personally a big believer for in in personal responsibility right with my car accident. I own ownership. I'm going to walk again with cancer. I'm going to beat cancer with the miracle morning. I'm going to change millions of lives like I'm not GonNa hope that Oprah fines me. I'm not GonNa hope that this miracle drops in my lap. I I believe in the power of personal responsibility and I really believe that you know along those lines that to the degree that we take responsibility for everything in our lives determine the degree of of power that we have personal power to to change or affect things in our lives and so the way that I define miracle is really more of a practical actionable measurable way and and so I find miracle has any meaningful outcome that is beyond the realm of what you currently believe is probable for you know break that down in a meaningful outcome right so it's it's you know for me. It was beating cancer doesn't get much more when your life's on the line. There's no outcome more meaningful than than living right than than actually making making it through another car. Accident was walking again on when I was with with our with my career right it was I wanted to reach millions of people with this miracle morning message and I didn't ought to do that. I didn't have an audience at number platforms. Have anything you know and by the way I will tell you like goal is to do it in one year and I was ninety nine point nine percent short of my goal the first year I was ninety nine point seven percent of short of my goal still up to the second year and it took me six years but I just kept out I kept I kept at it so any meaningful outcome beyond on the realm of what you currently believe is probable for you and that word probables important. I didn't say possible and the reason is this <hes> if you're if you're an optimist I would. I would consider myself a an optimist to the point of delusion. I come very optimistic right which it's worked out for me but but I always say there's a fine line between optimism and delusion and I I why do cross it quite often but at err on that side. I think be okay with that but we don't pursue that which is possible if you're an optimist you believe anything is possible but we don't pursue that which is possible we do that which is probable right. Katie think about it like you know. When is the last time that you were that anybody like I have this goal this dream and I think that the odds of achieving it are slim to none so I'm GonNa give it everything I have right like. We don't work that way and that's why most people sat to my new book. The miracle equation is all about is it's like how do you move your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable because for most people will we have these big goals in these dreams in these things we'd love to achieve but because we don't believe they're probably we never even try. We what's probable is hey. I know that if I show up to work I'll get a paycheck and I can at least buy food and pay my rent or my mortgage or my in by the you know my car payment and that at at least there's certainty there at least that's probable someone to keep doing that because I don't know that all these goals and dreams and the life that I really want. I don't know that it's very probable in fact what we do. Is We check what I call her rear view mirror in our subconscious mind and we look for evidence of what's probable and if we've never done something before four right if you want to start a business or write a book or you know lose weight or or whatever the goal or dream whatever your dreams are if we check the review and we go tash. There's nothing in my past that shows that that gives me evidence that I could do these things. I've never done them but if you look at the world's most fulfilled people successful people people happy people are that are made the big impact in the world and and even just in their own lives they all had to step out on faith and I'm talking about faith in themselves that they could do something that when they check their review there was no evidence they could do it. They had never done it before but that you have to do that. You have to step out on faith and that's the first step up. Stepping out on faith is the first step to move your biggest goals and dreams from possible which is existing in a void of nothingness everything is possible and nothing is like possibility that doesn't matter what's possible you have to move your big goals from possible or probable and the first step in doing that is stepping out on faith and I believe I'm doing it in writing right putting it in writing so that you have it's it's tangible physical you can hold it in your hands or at least you know look at it on your iphone but but to step out on faith that you can do something that you've never done before and that first step just step of considering it right and in putting it on paper is is considering it not just as a thought in your head. It's fleeting but actually where it's a little more tangible and then once you consider it start to read that every day in marinated and then get get support it with what if that were to happen what why would that be meaningful to me how could change my wife. How could that change my family's life right and write those things down. Put Him in front when you look at them every day and then you're. I think it was Mark Victor Hansen. I love when he said this and I I remember this. I give a speech Gush Ten years ago and he said look p people never make changes UNIM- paraphrasing of course they said people never made changes because they they think they have to go from where they are now to where they want to be and they've got like make one on leap there or make a complete one eighty and he said that that's challenging mentally challenging to even think about that he said don't don't try to make a leap he said just lean lean into the changes that you wanna make and that's what. I'm talking about here right as you you write on paper well. What might my dream dream. Look like what might that mere tangible measurable miracle. Look like what would that look like and then support it with some you know some bullet points underneath. What would life be like if I were to do that and then ask yourself how how might I do that and the first step is often a google search right people coming there like how I wanNA write a book but don't even know where to START I go. Have you googled how the words how to write a book Nego. No that's pretty low hanging fruit. I would start there yeah right and all of a sudden. You're going to have ten thousand article. That will tell you exactly how to do what you now. Thank you have no idea how to do your your five seconds away from learning how to do it right so the point is and this is a long answer your question but a miracle is any meaningful outcome outside the realm of what you believe is probable for you and the first step in achieving said miracle is to step out on faith. Put it in writing of what that miracle would be for you. What that big goal aw or dream would be for you and then just start leaning leaning into and if you've waited year you know if you've spent your entire life not pursuing your biggest against goals and dreams well? What's another just to start. Just you don't need to rush. Just take the next month to Journal about it just journal four-month right. What what would it look like? What would that make your life like? How might you do that right and just lean into it and then you can start actually formulate a plan and then in that by the way the second decision of the miracle equation it is extraordinary effort and that's where it doesn't mean that you need to work eighty hours a week right. I'm just means doing one thing every day. That just means the leaning every day. Extraordinary Henry effort is not about working long hard hours can be but that is that's what has to be. It's about consistent effort. If you do one thing everyday that moves you closer to your goal or dream. Your success is inevitable. The only variable is timing and most people they just never get out the gate because they check that review mirror and they go nothing in my past says that I can create this extraordinary future but you can and then one day you'll look in your past. You go wow I can create anything I want for my life. I love that I think two important things that I've noticed in my own life that you just mentioned is that consistency variable certainly <hes> my husband oftens doing the right things long enough consistently and it takes all of that but I also love that you brought up taking ownership and extreme ownership because that's another thing I really have tried to instill in my kids in my own life because I think it's one of the most freeing freeing things we can do like you said we have no control over the things that happened to us in a lot of cases certainly not how other people may talk to us or act toward us but we always do have control of our own reaction and our own actions in our life. I think when you make that mental switch it's a whole new world of freedom and I love that you talk about that so much <hes> also I feel like especially with the miracle morning. There's a lot of people in the world who know a lot of the good things that we should be doing and we know that we should eat healthier and exercise ties more and get enough sleep and all of these things and meditate and journal and it's the actual tangible shift like making that actual habit is often the most difficult part so I'm I'm curious. If you have any tools for people to make those changes stick or to really truly commit them into a habit yeah. A couple of things number one is when I was writing the miracle morning. That was my biggest insecurity as it was writing. Is I go. How am I going to get people to actually do it right because I'm like 'cause go. Everything was saying make sense. This is good. I should do this but I but I but I I was going every people. Most people have a limiting belief that says I am not a morning person that the majority of society eighty winds surveyed. It's like seventy two percent. I think I am not a morning person might be higher than that and I thought how am I gonNA enter into a conversation that they've had in their head for the last ten fifteen twenty thirty forty fifty years their entire lifetime. That says no no no. I'm officially not a morning person like been there done that tried. It doesn't work for me like you know and so. That was my biggest insecurity so we'll does this. The fact that now well over a million people around the world the miracle morning on a you know an average of five to six days a week. <hes> is is is is evidence that you can do it too right. I mean do it being the miracle morning but do it being the things that you need to do and I'm going to unpack to answer questions on how how did that on and there's a few things first and foremost right and we talked a lot. I just talked about with the leaning into it. Righteous start small put him on paper right <hes> in the Miracle Good Morning. It's a really great tool to start and I'm not saying this because I wrote it and I'll make a dollar if you buy it. I'm saying this because I've seen this transform so many people's. People's lives right millions of lights. Is that how you start. Your Day sets the tone the direction the context for the rest of the day in in other words a away. I'd like to put that actually this is from Steve Pavlina who I was read his book when I was writing the miracle morning he said if you win the morning you win the day right so most people start their day with a lack of self discipline and procrastination is how they started so meaning. If you hit the snooze button that is by default. Oh procrastination. You're procrastinating on starting your day and you know I stay in the in the book <hes> I say kind of jokingly but but seriously I said you think about how crazy it is to you know we all want to have this amazing happy successful extraordinary life but when the alarm goes off in the morning dot is life's first gift to you. It's life's first opportunity and it's also life's I challenge and most people the alarm goes off and it's like we're saying to the universe or to our own star on being our own selves thing yeah. I know I say I want an extraordinary life but not as much as I lay here unconscious for nine more minutes right and then we hit the snooze button and then he goes off again. You're like I want to be happier and healthier and more successful but rather lay here for nine more minutes and we're literally giving a message message to our subconscious and says I don't have the discipline to get my butt out of bed in the morning. Let alone create the extraordinary life that I really want however if you can change that one an habit and that's the miracle morning I think where it so. It's doing this for so many people really is a miracle is if you can learn how to and that's the book teaches you. How do you snooze button if you're not a morning person and I can guess impact on me right now. I don't want to keep you like in mystery and make you buy the book like here's how on there's a there's a whole chapter on this in the book. It's called the Five five-step snooze proof wakeup strategy and I'll just give you the most important step. The most important step is move your alarm clock across the room actually to number one is set your intentions before bed so before forbade you need to say. I'm waking up tomorrow at this time. Even if I feel tired and actually have you can actually download if you go to <hes> T M M Book Dot Com as in the miracle morning. TM MTN book dot Com you can download the bedtime affirmation and this is what I used in my own life and I put it as a bonus for the book on but it's word for word how to set your intention the night before so that when you wake up in the when the alarm goes off the morning <hes> you like jump out of bed and you're excited and if you think about anytime Katie eighty that you were excited to wake up in the morning like did you celebrate Christmas growing up for example yeah absolutely okay so and I always caution when I say that because if someone didn't celebrate Christmas I don't WanNa the word I'm looking for. You know like make you feel left out so think about like the first day of school or a vacation. Let's just think of any time in your life. When you went to bed had like like a schoolgirl writer. Schoolboy does excited like I can't wait for the morning you know and for me. It was Christmas kid and Katie. Let me ask you but was it hard for you to wake up Christmas morning definitely not it was hard to stay asleep on Christmas morning exactly so did you. I'm guessing you did not snooze on Christmas morning. Correct definitely not so here's what that shows that shows that we all have the ability to wake up and jump out of bed but what was the difference you had the intention before or bed to wake up the next morning with excitement and enthusiasm because there was something you were looking forward to and when I was not writing the Miracle Good Morning before it was a book when I was doing the miracle morning in my own life. I realized I have the ability to wake up excited. I know I do because if there's ever something I'm excited to wake up for a week up but most of US wake up and we're like I or we go to bed and our intention is the opposite of excitement. It's <hes> I gotTa wake up tomorrow at six. Am I and go to work again and I I don't WanNa do that and I went. I have the ability to wake up excited every day but I have to take responsibility response ability to access that ability by creating my own intention before I go to bed of what the morning is going to be alike so in my mind in my body in my emotions before I go to bed. I set my intention for what I'm going to feel and do when I wake up in the morning and most people are very unintentional about the morning they leave the morning up to those first few moments when the alarm goes off. It's usually on her bedside table and our level of self self-discipline is close to a zero. Maybe it's a one or two right is reach over. You hit the snooze button you reach over you. Hit the snooze button the first episode of your intention before bed if you WanNa map on how word for word approach and how did that go team book Dot Com you can get the free thing <hes> the bedtime information but the second logistical step is you have to move your alarm clock as far across the room as possible so if you can reach it on your bedside table even if I set my intention still usually fail because I turn it off the I hit the snooze button while I'm still half asleep right and so for me <hes> the alarm clock is across the room. It's actually in my bathroom which is within hearing distance yet to hear it but that forces me out of bed across the room so if you do do that alone that starts your day with intention it starts it with purpose it starts with discipline and now and then go to your miracle morning and now you're the the point of the miracle morning owning is really to put yourself in a peak physical mental emotional and spiritual state every day so that you are at your best. You are essentially essentially think of it this way every day. The miracle morning insures that you become a better version of the person you were when you went to bed the night before and when you start your day like that it's it's hard to not have a great day like you are on fire and you win the morning and then and then you're you're the best version of yourself to win the day so that's you know that to me is like the Lynch pin strategy. It's the one thing you do that. Affects everything else all cut myself off and then you know I could talk for an hour ron strategies of getting yourself to do the things that you know you need to do that. You don't feel like you have the discipline to do. I mean we can go a little deeper on that but <hes> but first katie any thoughts questions or comments on that I love that and I would love to go deeper on that because I think you explain it really well and what I've read of your work and I think that is the biggest struggle for so many people because I see people and I've done it myself. Get in that cycle of like you know I'm GonNa Start Training for a new thing and I'm like all about it for three weeks and then it kind of dies down or they eat really clean for three weeks and then it dies down to. How do we maintain that like. How do we even if it's that thing that so exciting to us. How do we maintain that enthusiasm over the longtime so I'll tell you an external and an internal strategy the extra strategy I'll start start with. Which is accountability? I believe that accountability is arguably one of the if not the single most determinate factors in taking ourselves also the next level and the if you think about it you look at the world's most successful anybody right <hes> meaning athletes. CEOS they all have a high a degree of accountability and it's a huge factor in their success. You know you show me an athlete especially as they were younger. You know growing up right. Maybe they hit a level of maturity where or they don't need much accountability of course but you know you. I don't think you'll find an athlete. That doesn't credit their coach. If there if they didn't have practice scheduled every day at three pm mm with a coach that would kick their butt off the team if they weren't there on time they probably wouldn't practice the three they would have been home playing video games right <hes> you know you look at a CEO. Oh you know forty or fifty year old CEO if they didn't have to answer look at all the accountability in their world. They've got they have stockholders. They have to answer to the of an executive assistant. They have an executive active board right the employees. They have a just a general company and if it wasn't for all those source of accountability they probably screwing off a lot more but as they you know as their screw often they're watching youtube video and then they go shoot. I've got that meeting it to that. Meeting is a source of accountability that gets them off the youtube video off of you know no words with friends on their phone and get them to do the thing they need to do and if it wasn't for the source of accountability they probably wouldn't do it now. What we have to realize is why we resist and resent accountability and once you understand the source of resistance then then you go okay it is time for us all to grow up and I include myself from this and <hes> and actually embrace accountability so you think about this. I believe the reason most human beings resist resent and avoid accountability. Don't cost is because it was forced forced upon us as children. Our brains were developing. You think about you know my parents made sure. I eat my vegetables. I want my vegetables. If it wasn't for the accountability for MOM and Dad I would would not have beaten <unk> right. I didn't WANNA take a bath but they made me take a bath. They held me accountable to take a bath most days. I WANNA go school right unless you're one of those weird kids that love. My daughter loves of school but I was like I did. I don't want to go to school right with it. got me out of bed. They had to fight me out of bed and I went to school. My teachers hold me accountable to turn homework in and study and take tests and so on and so forth breath if it wasn't for the accountability that was forced upon us by the adults in our lives as kids. I think that most of us would be malnutritioned uneducated dirty little kids right and but what happened was we didn't ask for any about accountability and whenever nobody was looking we avoided it because it was forced on us and then the problem is we turn eighteen and maybe you leave the nasty. Go off to college and I don't know about you but <hes> I jack. I was like screw vegetables. I lived at Jack in the box folks looking back. I don't even know how I didn't have a heart attack twenty you know but but I- Jack in the box I'm like screw. I mean whatever I want. I'm staying up till two three four five. AM Playing Video Radio Games. I'm like it was it was a downward spiral of mediocrity for and if it wasn't for me finding a mentor at age nineteen when I started Sonko and him I'm getting my stuff together holding me accountable and I I had accountability gifted back into my life and because of that I became the person that I am today I developed discipline and consistency and self belief and and and the various APPs roots of an achiever and why did I develop up those because of accountability and I'll I'll tell you how much accountability I had the first ten days when I broke that company record. I didn't break that company record. I mean I did but it. It was because of my mentor I had to call him every morning. When I woke up at a specific time I had to call him at seventy M so I was awake in ready to be on the phone by seven thirty am then I had to call him after every single appointment that I did during those ten days and let him know how I went and that was that we can manage mindset expectations because I was new to sales and I had a lot of no sales a lot of disappointment he would man he would remind me it was okay and keep going in this and that I had to call them for every single Eddy County end of every day so his philosophy was he wanted to wake me up every morning and he wanted to put me to bed so he could manage expectations and that level of accountability so I I did Sixty two appointments so I talked to Him Probably Ninety Times at least ninety making ninety phone calls to someone that and because about accountability I broke the all time company record now I earned it. I was nineteen. I earned thirty eight hundred dollars lers during those ten days which is a fortune for me. You know for most people to a lot of money. It was insane harmony and who I am. I literally can look back. Those was ten days shaped who I am. Today and accountability was the number one key to that and so I would that in fact we'll just we'll we can leave it at that on that's it and and and in the Miracle Morning I talk about that in the book. How important accountability is I encourage everyone to find an accountability partner and if if you are wondering well I don't I don't. I'm interested in this but most of my friends are like they're not into this kind of stuff. You know maybe they are the miracle morning. Community <hes> is as a facebook group that I would invite everyone to join. It's free. It's we're not selling anything there it right now. There are two hundred last two hundred nineteen thousand people from over one hundred countries in there and arguably you go in there to scan through the post and you will be inspired. It is one of if not the most loving non-judgmental cool supportive growth oriented communities on or off line that I have ever seen case studies being done right now about this community and you can go in there and let people know what time zone you're in that you want partner and typically you'll find one you know within within an hour and and someone that's on this journey with you and and when when you go in there you find there are people that have been doing the miracle morning for over a thousand days in there. Are People just like you. It'll be it'll be day one for them but <hes> but yeah it's a great skull the Miracle Morning Community and if you can also get a miracle morning dot com and scroll down. There's a big picture that says joined the community and it'll take you over there so either way you can find it. I'll make sure that's linked in the show notes as well as Amazon Dot. FM when it comes to a morning routine do you think that there are specific a framework that is pretty much good for everyone or are there like different variables that are gonna work better or worse for different people and if so how do you identify which things need to be in your own. Miracle Morning Yeah. It's a great question I <hes> so in the Book Doc Chapter Nine. Out of ten. I think it's one of the last chapter nine is customizing the miracle morning to fit your lifestyle in chapter. Ten is the Miracle Morning Thirty Day challenge and we could actually that. Will you know that's something I could touch on his like. How do you change your behavior. You lean into it and then you commit to a thirty day challenge <hes> meaning you do it every day. You have someone holding you accountable and the thirty days it you've acclimated this new habit and it could be a habit of getting rid of a bad habit like quitting soda or smoking or it could be a habit like be adding a morning enrichment. You've never been a morning person <hes> and again I mean you you think about if you're at all having self-doubt around this because maybe you tried and failed in the past make changes. You know they're hundreds. Words of thousands of people not facebook group. That will tell you hey. I didn't know I could do it. I didn't think I could do it and I did. It and I'm now a morning person right so so yes customizing so here the way that I encourage folks like I. I'm a big believer in a I don't know at all in fact I know closer to nothing all right a big believer in that a student of life student everything so I don't think that I know it all first of all number two I. I rarely think there's a one size fits all for everybody in that exists too often however the the miracle morning is made up of six practices which I mentioned earlier but let me give you a more memorable framework. This is my brilliant wife. I was writing the book and I go sweetie. I've got these six practices is is these are like most timeless personal practices in the history of humanity but I don't i. I need to organize them so people can remember them or they like flow together. I said all lease offers are so smart and you know they <hes> they <hes> Stephen Habits got like the seven habits a Stephen Covey's seven habits highly effective people and Robert cusack. He's got like the cashflow quadrant and all these authors smart enough to create like a framework and I don't I don't know any way to connect these practices and she goes why don't you consult at the Sorus and see if you can arrange some of the wording so it creates an acronym that people can remember and I give her kiss on the lips. I'm like you're so brilliant. I'm like that might work right and so meditation became silent which actually liked because a lot of people like to incorporate prayer into their silent time right on and journaling became became describing <hes> which <hes> you know it's a fancy word for writing but it created an acronym which could not be more fitting for what what what the practice is in the acronym is <laughter>. Sabres or I call these the lifesavers right but save e R s so the I s for silence. These are the six practices of the miracle morning by the way the first for silence the A is for affirmations the visas for visualization the es for exercise the ours for for reading and the SS for Scribe Ing Right so those are the savers and I believe it's the perfect acronym because these the literally are the six practices that have proven an over centuries that they will they can save you and save me and save all of us from missing out on the life that we really want the missing out on living door full potential so they really are the lifesavers right. It's such a fitting acronym and you I would encourage people to do is for the thirty he'd H. Challenge do all six of these because you don't fully know the benefits or if something resonates with you until you actually give it a fighting chance right. Give it a fair chance so do all the six savers for thirty days. Now you can customize the order <hes> and you can even change the order over time you can experiment and play with these right so you've been example sample. I start with meditate. I start with silence on many people though and I don't know the percentage but <hes> a lot of people have said how Gosh I tried meditating but then I fall back asleep asleep they go. I'm not awake enough for it to you know I need to start with exercise so they moved to the front and they wake up and they do some stretching and yoga and some jumping Jackson push ups and run or whatever they want right and then in terms of the duration the savors the I added the savers it I did <hes> ten minutes each because I it's my first day of thought and doing an hour all do ten minutes each right and then that works. I've evolved where I usually do thirty minutes of reading and then I do five minutes of the other sabres roughly <hes> five to six minutes. I guess what would be but so I like to read longer and then I do and so I I just I meditate for six minutes. Do the other ones for shorter periods of time exercise. I do up. There's an APP called seven minute workout and it's a great APP. It's a full body workout in seven minutes <hes> in the book in that chapter. There's something called the six minute miracle morning and this came about because most of us have an all or nothing mentality which is like Oh. I woke up later or today after Lee released so I've only got like ten minutes or fifteen minutes so I guess I'll skip my miracle morning today and one day I had that internal dialogue and I went wait a minute. What if I were to just do one minute each of the sabers what if I were to sit down and just close as my eyes and meditate and calm for one minute and then I pull out my affirmations and I read them for a minute and close my eyes visualize you know my most important important priorities being executed flawlessly today for just a minute and then I jumped up and I do a sixty six jumping jacks get my heart rate flowing at the blood going right for a minute. I thought a self help book that I'm reading and reader page for a minute and then I journal great before for just a minute and I did that that day and I went the benefits. It's got eighty percent of the benefit with one tenth of the time and there aren't many things you can do with that kind of return on investment. I went this is incredible and that's why I put it in the book because I look. I don't advocate that you do a six minute every day. You can't go that at deep but it just shows that it doesn't have to be all or nothing so the answer to your question is I would start your first mirror wanting thirty challenge and by the way Mosul their thirtieth channel like when I gave a speech speech and you know people weren't necessarily reading the book yet. They don't have someone who don't have the book yet. I always say look for your first thirty days. Just start your challenge by waking up thirty minutes earlier earlier. Don't even go the full hour to make it easy. Just lean into it right lean into it thirty minutes earlier and just do the car just read. That's it. It couldn't be easier. Wake up thirty minutes earlier and just read the miracle morning and then once you get to the first the chapter on the sabers and you start reading up the S. and I teach you a really simple meditation practice right then you can incorporate s in art and then when he gets the section on the next day on affirmations at a enriches lean into it gradually and then at the end of the thirty days you can decide what you WANNA do. I don't visualize everyday predate for whatever reason visualization has never resonated with me but I do use it. If I'm going to have a specific thing I'm doing like if I'm giving a speech all run through movie in my mind of visualization but there's some European community I often will serve Ango. which sabres do you like better than others which resonate and blows my mind that some people like visualization? Is the number the number one thing that impacts their life in their day for me. It's affirmations and some people to go yeah. I don't I don't I don't I I struggle with that right so I always say for the first thirty today's dual six savers play with the order play with the duration of each and then at the end of thirty days create your own miracle morning and then while you're doing the beauty of it is the miracle morning takes a minute to learn a lifetime to master because you know meditation. I mean I've read master. MEDITATORS say that after ten years of meditating everyday they started to feel like they were getting pretty good at it pin years right and then after twenty years they started to feel like they were starting to kind of master it in thirty years they actually mastered it and I'm like so each of the sabers you can just you can in play with you can adjust you can keep them fresh. You can try new modalities new affirmations new methods of you guided meditation. You can do meditation APPs right so I mean these are. 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I dot com forward. Slash Wellness Mama and the code owed wellness twenty for twenty percent of our time's flown by you're such an eloquent speaker. If you questions I loved ask at the end of the first being. Are there a few things that you feel like people either. Don't know or misunderstand about what you teach yeah <hes>. I think that one is the idea that the miracle morning is about waking up earlier now granted a you may need to wake up earlier depending on if you wake up now at the last minute. Most people wake up because they have to write. They literally go. What's the last minute that I can wake up and not like lose my job. Have my children taken away from me. Get divorced right. I call it your mediocre morning where you're like. It's last moment I wake up up and not have my life fall apart now. If you're waking up in that way then yeah you need to back up the alarm thirty minutes <hes> but a lago wake up and they just the first half hour of the day rather their day is spent just checking facebook and scrolling their phone check an email so it's really not about waking up earlier as much as it's about waking up better batter it's waking up and dedicating the first part of your day to elevating your own consciousness putting yourself in that peak physical mental emotional and spiritual state so you can become a better version of who you are when you went to bed the night before the first thing is that it's not about you know being being digging up super early getting a little earlier and the benefits though are so profound that trust me. It's it's worth going to bed thirty minutes earlier. If that's what it takes right thirty minutes less than net flicks at night to have a radical shift in your life life is is very worth it in the other thing that I would share his that personal development is is not enough that that is actually my new book that just came out the miracle equation that kind of why I wrote it. Is that <hes> I've been in the past. I've been guilty of being what I would call a personal development junkie and I think a lot of us us fall into this trap where once we learn personal about meant we start reading books listening to podcasts learning all these new ideas. We get excited and we're like wow I'm. I'm like A and we start. Almost our ego can get fed like wow I I know more than other people. Other people aren't recall my friends and family aren't reading these books and listening to these learning stuff and they need to like. I'm I'm smarter than they are right. So that's one thing is ego can get you become part of it. Anyone who's younger that was I was for sure part of my journey on but just a big part of it is we actually trick our our brain our subconscious into thinking that learning and growing in and of itself is enough to improve our lives and while it improves our lives at a certain level like you know if you learn new ways of looking at life like the things we talked a five minute role for example right. That's like an internal thing that you learn and if you implement it you start to see that wow I can. I can be free from my emotional pain like I don't need to feel. I don't dwell on things infiltrating. Just let them go. After five minutes that does change your life but for the most part we you have to actually change our behaviour to change our life and and what the problem is when you think that just learning is enough to change your life. <hes> you know learn reading books on finances. It doesn't increase your income. Reading books on finances doesn't <hes> increase your savings right reading books on finance or on on on being healthier doesn't make you healthier right you actually have to change your behavior and so while the miracle morning is arguably one of the most effective practices says for personal development. You have to compliment it. You have to follow it up with a process for goal achievement and that's the miracle equation is it's okay. You're learning the morning. You're doing your miracle morning. You're growing your evolving. You're elevating your own consciousness. You're becoming a better version of yourself great but you you can do that and still stay in your comfy. Come the comfy confines of Your Comfort Zone like stay in your house and keep going to work and not doing anything differently. You've gotTa have okay. I need a process. I need a method for getting out of my comfort zone and actually getting clear on defining clarifying planning manning my biggest goals and dreams and creating a process that will make my success in achieving those goals and dreams inevitable and that is that so that's to me the biggest mistake will make thinking the personal development is enough. It's only half the equation so to speak and I wrote the miracle equation is that is the okay now. Here's the process for goal achievement that you you that will support your practice that you have for personal but elements. You can actually take these this growth. You're experiencing and turn it into a tangible upgraded in reality that you can that creates measurable results in Your Life Such a good point <hes> secondly is there a booker a number of books that have drastically changed your life and if so what they are in the book that changed my life probably more than anything <hes> is called conversations with God and it is you know I i. I I always the word God is also like miracle to loaded word in some people are religious and some people are spiritual and some people are atheist and so you know you you get lot different reactions on I read that book when I was twenty years old and by the way to be very transparent you know I grew up Catholic. <hes> I then started studying a lot of the world's religions and just I'm. I'm happy to help people where I kinda my stance on on this to me. I seek truth and wisdom in all religion in all spiritual practices even atheist. I like I mean I try to look at all of it and not think that there is one right way and that everybody else is wrong that my way is the right way. I try to go hate everyone has there's you know. I'm looking for truth always to me like I said I I I I lean toward. I know nothing or very very little compared to what I what I can learn so much. Learn grow on conversation with God <hes> it's. It's definitely definitely not a religious book <hes> I would say it's spiritual for sure but I'll be I read it when I was twenty and <hes> you know in the author Neil Donald Walsh just conversations with God book for which it's like technically. He's written doesn't over dozen books. I'm actually reading book for Right now. Which is probably why that book is on my mind. You know the whole series on yeah yeah. That's that's a book. That really opened my eyes. Encourage you to you know to read it with an open mind. An inconsiderate in the book for me was very very very impactful <hes> in just how I live my life and how I view my life and my purpose in life in my place in this world and how it can make the the biggest most positive impact and so so good as actually on my kindle right now and I'm about to start reading and I'll make sure it's linked. Oh that's awesome book wonder before the first one. Oh cool cool google yeah excited <hes> any parting advice or takeaways you. WanNa make sure we leave with the audience today yeah the there's one that I you know for me. This has become a major affirmation Russian <hes> which I won't go into we'll go down that rabbit hole but I define affirmations as you'll see in the book very differently than most people do. They're not really using affirmations to program your mind mind and your behaviors for success on and <hes> the the the way that <hes> might most important affirmations and this is the parting wisdom sistema leave you with is that you know as human beings. I think that we all <hes> we have trouble <hes> creating space in terms of time between where we are are and where we want to be we look at where other people are and we compare ourselves or we look at where we think we should be your could be in and we were. We were in this place of often scarcity versity man. Why am I not there right now. I want to be there now. In its brain doesn't is number patient where it goes okay. There's GONNA be <hes>. Let me take it might take me five years to get there right like I needed to find this journey in and be at peace with where I am and an and do something every day to move in closer. We look at where we want to be and go. I'm not their way out there. Why is it taking so long. Why am I not you know and and we have these feelings of scarcity inadequacy and so here's the lesson and I think that <hes> you know probably took me hindsight to learn this and I share this us. Oh 'cause I tell people. Don't wait for hindsight. Don't don't don't suffer for years the way that most people do to get to this place and and here's the lesson is that when we finally get to the place in our lives when when you finally place in your life or your business in Eerie of your life that you've been working so hard for for so long been wanting for so long you almost never look back and wish it would have happened any sooner instead. When you get to the place that you've been working for so hard for so long in any area of your life or just in your life as a whole aw you look back and you go the timing and the journey were perfect in every obstacle in setback along the way was was a necessary part of my evolution to become the person that I needed to be to create the life that I've always wanted and with that hindsight with that wisdom to bring that into your life right now they're the lesson. Is the applicable lesson is be at peace with where you are. You're right now on your journey. Even if it's difficult or painful while you maintain unwavering faith and put forth extraordinary effort to you get to where you want to go and know that when you finally get there the timing will be perfect. That's a perfect place to put a pin in it for today but thank you so much much for being here. I know that you are busy in. It's an honor to chat with you today. You are so welcome Katie. Thank you for having me on. It's it's an honor and <hes> your your special human being because because I felt like that was everything I talked about was like threw me like you brought out the best in me the divine so yeah. I'd use some special no jobs so thank you thank you so much and thanks to all of you for listening and sharing one of your most valuable asset your time with both of us today were so grateful that you did and I hope that you will join me again on the next episode of the Wellness Mama podcast. If you're enjoying these interviews would you please take two minutes to leave a rating or review on itunes for me doing this. This helps more people to find the podcast which means even more. MOMS and families can benefit from the information. I really appreciate your time and thanks as always for listening.

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Hal Elrod: ...the importance of celebrating life every day

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Hal Elrod: ...the importance of celebrating life every day

"Welcome to nobody told me. I'm Jan black. And I'm Laura Owens once the secret to success. What's the formula for achieving your biggest goals in life? Our guest on this. Episode. Hal Elrod says the answer to those questions is simple. How is the author of the international bestseller the miracle morning and his latest book is called the miracle equation. The two decisions that move your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable. How thank you so much for joining us today. It is not always an honor to be here. But as a former radio DJ now podcast or Jan and Laura you have the best voices. I've ever heard. Thank you. I don't know if you were born with that. Or you think you practiced, obviously, he's done a lot of episodes. But anyway, so it's an honor to here, and I was super impressed lifting. You guys introduce the opposite. Thank you so much. Wow. Well, how you've defied death twice and are a true miracle, man. Can you talk to us a little bit about what happened young? Yeah. Yes. Usually, the two experiences of both of them were things that you think man that hope who had never happened just happens to you know, other people and I feel for them on the news. And then I the channel and go back to my life and not one but yet few different experiences. The I was I was twenty years old had given a speech at a at a company conference. I was one of the top sales people for my company, and I was always giving speeches at pretty much every whether it was a, you know, regional or national leading and I gave a speech at this event and driving home that night. My car was head on by drunk driver at eighty miles an hour. Oh, my off of the drunk driver and the car the worst was actually yet to come the car behind me spun around right in front of them, and they crashed directly into my driver's side door at seventy miles an hour. Oh, man. What you might. Imagine would happen in that situation is what happened in the entire their car. Crushed my door into my body and crushed my body, and I broke eleven bones. Instantaneously my leg broke the femur. Broken house, my pelvis, broken three places my arm behind my bicep broken house. I shattered my elbow severed the radio nerves in my forearm. I thought it was crushed so bad. It's rebuilt with three titanium plates might year was almost completely severed and in the ceiling buckled slice of big v in the top of my head and unable to withstand the pain and very grateful. I was immediately in a coma. And it took the rescue crew almost an hour to use the jaws of life and to pull me out of the car, and it was sucked in the carved is leading the entire time. By the time. They finally pulled me out of the car, I bled to death, and my heart stopped beating stop breathing. And I was clinically dead on the side of the freeway. And they rushed me onto a medevac helicopter while performing CPR and six minutes from the time that I thought line they they didn't give up after five they kept working on the and they brought me back to life. And I was rushed to the hospital spent six days in a coma. Flatlined twice more and came out of the coma. Six days later to face the news from doctors that I would never walk again and permanent brain damage as well. Like my short term memory. I literally Lauren Janu could we could have been friends for life. You could have come to visit me in the hospital for few hours sat by my bed in my my hospital bed. If you went to lunch and came back, I would have forgotten that we spent the morning together. Like, my memory was really bad. My wife will tell you. It's not that much better now, but. The high. So I was faced with this news that I would never walk again. And I essentially I, and we can get into all the, you know, the the weeds on this and the lessons from this. But as far as the story goes, I decided that I was I would accept the worst case scenario. So it had no power over my emotions like I decided, I'm at peace. If I never walk again, I will be the happiest I made a decision. I'll be the happiest person that you could possibly be and the most grateful person, you could possibly be in a wheelchair the rest of my life. But it won't. I the decision was my circumstances will not determine my quality of life. They will not determine my emotional state, and the doctor I was in denial because I was so happy about everything was just positive unhappy over diamond they called their parents. And they said we're concerned with how things in denial maybes delusional. We're not sure find out how he's really feeling and my dad approach me. And I said dad, I can't change that. I was in a car accident. They can't change the my body's broken. Unchain? I may never walk again. So accepted that and peace with it. I said, however, that's only one possibility believe there's the second possibility. And no one really knows if it's if it's going to happen. But the second possibility is I will walk again, I might walk again. And I literally I don't know if it's possible, but neither do the doctors. No one really knows. And I said, so I'm choosing to accept the worst case scenario and set it aside and not not worry about it not stress about it. It's there, and I've accepted it, and it's not even that bad because we'll be happy. No matter what. But all my energy go into what I want and that's walking again, I'm visualizing walking. And every day imagining it I'm praying about it. I'm thinking about it. I'm I'm maintaining unwavering faith that it's possible. And I'm going to therapy. I'll go to therapy. I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna do everything. I can and the the doctors they believed that you know, that that they thought man house really delusional really gone. The defended on, but but it was very sincere. And the the proof is in the pudding if you will a week after this conversation with my dad in three weeks from the night. I was found dead in broke, all these bones. The doctors came in with routine x rays, and they said to me, and my parents, they said, hey, we've got some really great news. We don't know how to explain this. But how your body is healing so fast that you're actually ready to take your first step today? And there. Wow. Yeah. And and even me being domestic I'm like, you know, maybe like six to twelve months, you know, healing and positive. You know, you know, but but I never in a million years. Did I think that three weeks after the crash I would take my step, and I took my first day and four weeks later left the hospital, and and we want to dive into that we can, but I'll just real quick share with you the second near death experience that was a real death experience actually died but the second two years ago, and I was twenty when that happened. I'm now thirty nine I was thirty seven two years ago when I was on the verge of death. And we didn't know what was wrong doctors initially couldn't figure it out. But my lung kept collapsing, and I kept I couldn't breathe they have to drain. My Lum fluid for my lung and in in in a it was either an eleven and eleven day period. They drained sixteen pounds of fluid from my lung, basically every day and a half two days. I'd have to go to the ER after stick a giant needle in my back and drain my lung, and then it would just about up another in the next day. And I'd have to go back in over and over and over and they kept running tests figure this out, and it ended up being that I had a very I was diagnosed with a very rare aggressive form of cancer called acute lymphoblastic leukemia. And the scariest part is this has a that particular cancer in adult the tend to thirty percent survival rate, and I always say that if you're a, you know, if you're pessimist, right? If you're a glasses out empty person that is the doctor saying you have a seventy percent to ninety percent chance that you are going to die that you're gonna leave your your too young kids with the time, we're seven and four my my daughter, Sophie, my son, halston, you know, that you're seventy nine hundred chance that you're gonna leave them without a father and leave. Your wife's first husband and on the day. I was diagnosed. This really leads into you know, what we're gonna talk about today. But the day was diagnosed I called my wife that Hartford, but she was out of town with the kids. I was by myself, and I called her with the hardest phone call I've had to make in my life. And you know, she started to bowling, and I and they Nissar ball even though I already I was a peace with it like same same with the accident. I, you know, the piece, but but it's like, I I couldn't change it. So I might as make the best of it. And I knew for her it was much harder to hear of course. And I said sweetheart once both stop crying. I said, I I know I don't I don't she had stopped. But I said, I know this is I know this is the worst thing probably you can imagine. I I know it's hard. But I said there's there's two things we are number one. I've been through something like this before different. But but similar, and I made the decision that I would be the happiest and the most great flight ever been while I endured my recovery for my car accident. And I said, I promise you, I will be okay, I will be the happiest most grateful that I've ever been. While I go through what I'm imagining will probably the most difficult time in our lives. I said in the second thing, and I said, I don't know if you remember this. I'm sure I've mentioned it to before. But I've been living for seventeen years by this thing that I called the miracle equation that I created when I was twenty one to break a sales record in my company and do what felt like a miracle, which is why called it the miracle question. And I said I put it to dozens of people might coaching clients over the years. And I said it it works with you know, a very high success rate. I said, so even though the doctors are saying, I have attended thirty percents the typical chance of surviving. This. I believe I believe this formula is question these decisions will ensure that I have a one hundred percent chance of being in that ten to thirty percent that make it, and I don't expect you to believe me right now. I know I know you're frayed, but I have. Unwavering faith that I will be this cancer, and I'll be alive with you. And the kids for as long as you know, you and I wanna be alive. And and I'm very grateful to say that I applied the miracle question, which I've done to everything from selling millions of books to surviving. My car accident all these things and I played at the cancer journey and the doctors were similar to the previous authors. My car accident. They were dumbfounded at how. Well, I handled my treatments which is one of the most horrific intensive chemotherapy treatments in existence. You know, why people in every there'd be regimen of different? There's I don't even know how many, but for example, I have an aunt that is going to cancer, and she would go in for chemo. You know for like an hour a week, and I had a over a hundred hours of chemo consecutively for four or five day, periods alternating four days, and then five days every three weeks, I had one hundred hours of chemo nonstop for every three weeks and the goal is to kill the cancer. It 'cause it's so fast acting it. So aggressive kill the cancer before killing the patient, and I got very close to dying on multiple occasions. But I'm grateful to say that I am now in remission cancer free for the last year and furthering my my mission to elevate the consciousness of humanity. And that brings us to where we are today. We're thrilled to have you as part of our nobody told me family, and we want to tell you about one of our sponsors, smart and sexy smart insects is the place to go when you've major plans for spring break. 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Spartan sexy is offering nobody told me listeners thirty percent off their first order, just go to smarten sexy dot com to find your new favorite swimsuit and get thirty percent off your first purchase with promo code. Nobody told me that smart and sexy dot com, promo code. Nobody told me for thirty percent off today. So we're talking about your your process the miracle equations, so we wanna know, obviously, all about that. But first of all, how do you define a miracle? We it's an important question. Because I think it's such a loaded word, and there's so many different meanings than its petitions of it. Right. And I think I think that it has Europe holes in for some people. Maybe a lot of people. They're kind of about her out there. You know, there's an IRO like a miracle on like I'm about you know, I I'm not gonna pray and wait for miracle. Like because there I think miracle thought of is mostly of these passive random acts that you kind of the pray and wait strategy like hoping for miracle and praying for miracle hope things work out or they're very random and unpredictable and not very reliable. And so the way that I defined a miracle for me. I'm about results. I I want. I don't wanna just you know, I wanna see results in our life. I don't wanna put a vision board on wall and hope that those miracles on that board come to pass. Right. So here's my definition of a miracle, and it miracle is any meaningful outcome that is beyond. What you believe is probable for you. Say that again any meaningful outcome, and it can be in any area of life. Right. Any meaningful outcome that is beyond the realm of what you believe is probable for you notice that I did not say possible because possible if you if you are an optimistic you engage in personal development, if your party authors club there, the office credo is anything is possible. But not enough to get out of bed in the morning. You know, the the motivation and the drive to make our biggest dreams come true because anything's possible. Everything's possible. Human beings human nature's to pursue certainty. We don't we don't go after goals that are possible. We only go up goals that are probable right win. The you're listening was the last time that you looked at a huge meaningful. You know goal that would change your life that you go. You know, what the odds of this happening or slim to none? It's very unlikely. So I'm gonna commit everything I have to make it happen. I'm gonna I'm gonna get everything. Right. Even though I don't think it's going to happen. But we don't that. That that defies our human nature. But if you look at the world's most prolific achievers and innovators creators, and the most acceptable individuals on the planet in any walk of life. That's how they operate. They look at the possible. And then through these two decisions that were about to talk about they move these these these things that are just possible, which is really nothing. There's nothing is possible means nothing. They moved him to problem and in through this decisions by maintaining these until the outcome becomes inevitable. And so that is what is required for us to create the most extraordinary life as we define extraordinary that we really want. And that we really are still how are people only two decisions away from happiness. So here's one happiness is right. That's a that's a that's a doubt is an outcome. So we could say that outcome. But, but I I would I wouldn't say that these are specifically for to be happy. These are for the subtitle of the book, but you sit right? I think that is the best you know, that that's the definition right? Is the two decisions that move your big schools from possible to problem edible? So if your goal is to be happy, then yes, these are the two decisions. So let's let's explain what these are. So I first and foremost, I'll give a quick disclaimer. Which is the two decisions are deceptively simple in their explanation, but extremely rare in their execution gaining if I just tell if I were to tell you what these are. And then we were to go awesome in hang up. That doesn't help me at all. Like, I understand these two concepts. They're not rocket science. They're not paying right? Like, that's the point. That's actually whenever biggest mistakes is we are trained the media has trained us to get. And this is, you know, this isn't like a rant, but we've been conditioned to want. What is new rate like we literally you want the new iphone? We want the new model of the car. We want the new strategy the new trick the new book, the new this new that but to change our lives. We don't need necessarily more information, we need methods for implementation and the and there's a big difference. Right. I think that's why most books don't change people's lives because most books are a lot of information. And you read it and while you're reading it you go there's all these moments. Oh my gosh. That's brilliant. I never thought about before. That's wow. That could change my life. But the author doesn't doesn't break down in simplify? And hold your hand through methods for implementing the knowledge that they're they're giving the stretch, they're giving you, and I've I didn't know this. I mean, I kinda knew it when I was writing the miracle morning might my last book. Right. The enough. So one point seven million copies almo- mostly word of mouth like when I was in the hospital fighting cancer. I didn't do a single interview that year not one the year before I did over fifty and we sold the same exact amount within a thousand copies of the book a hundred and thirty thousand copies, the your had cancer hundred thirty one thousand the year before the reason, I'm saying that is for context that that was that was all from people implementing the miracle morning in their life, and then telling their friends about it, right like because it was changing their life, and the reason I've reverse engineered and kind of analyze why did that book go so viral, and it's because I gave people methods for implementation. Like that was what the book was about was not just. These these big picture concepts. It was here's how you beat your Lawrence book step one do this. Tune to this. Then do like literally you could give the book to your to third grader right to your to your child and say, hey, you can hundred dollars of next week. You can do the miracle morning for a month. Right. Starting next week. And they can do it easy. Right. It's so simple. And so that's what this book the bureauc- rate is these two decisions. And I'm sorry. I'm not trying to like hold you up. I'm gonna give them to your second. I I really it's important understand. Because otherwise you could hear these two out and go like, that's too simple too easy. Like come on. Right. I need something more complicated that I've never heard before. Right. Right. So here you go. The first decision is unwavering say and specifically to develop unwavering faith, the second decision is to maintain extrordinary effort, and the will break these down for buddy. But but I would I would challenge. Anyone right to go? Find someone like, you know, and I've I've racked my brain trying to find like in there a real person. That's Chievo amazing success in their wife over they defined it right fulfillment. Like real success? Real success with meaningful film it and purpose. Not just a bunch of money and money. No money. This is supplies the people that have built fortunes as well. But by me one that didn't have to establish the fate that they could do something. They've never done before. That's the first part of wavering faith, but every human being is born with nothing right there. Born in the baby with no knowledge. No skills. No money them. You know? Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. Right. Not none of it. You know, also no confidence or maybe we're born with unlimited confidence. And it goes, I don't know. Words, we're not here. The point we're not born with the attributes that we need to achieve the things they want. So by default, if you become a millionaire, you had to do you had to Davos, the faith that you could do thing. After thing out there thing after challenge after a compliment after project after goal out their mission never done before. And you have no evidence that you can do it not in your own life, at least right when you check that rear view mirror and your inner sub-conscious. We'll have you check the past you go. What am I capable of? You'll crap this point nothing. Right. Yeah. So you so that when I think they I'm not talking about faith in a higher power or faith outside of yourself and not discount either of those I have paid both of those. But I'm talking about faith in yourself faith in your limitless potential in your unlimited ability in your ability to make a commitment to do whatever. It takes to. Achieve a goal. That's the faith. I'm talking practical tangible reliable fake 'cause it's not based on anything that is out of your control. It's based on everything that is one hundred percents, or at least very close to it in your control to how do we develop that unwavering faith? It is much easier than you might think. Again. This is what I realize is that you wanna have it will change your life. You have to make it easy. Right. You can't make it complicated. You can't when I wrote my when I wrote the morning, I, you know, my friends like higher ghost rider, how you're not especial writer, and I thought about it. But it's like, you know, what my goal isn't to impress people with how good the writing is. My goal is to get them to change their life. Right. Yeah. So when it comes to unwavering faith the way that you that you stab with it and maintain it is simply by articulating it in writing either on a piece of paper that you, you know, in your journal that you read every day in your phone that you have on your screen. Saver that. You see every day, but it so here's I call this the miracle mantra and the miracle morning the miracle quesion if I developed this I mentioned when I was twenty one years old it was a year and a two months after my car accident. I was trying to break the company sells record and do something that never been done before. And then I found out like I was already kinda nervous too. You know, human being, but we have self doubt fear at all of that. And then the day before the contest started. It was supposed to be a fourteen day sales contest, I was trying to twenty thousand dollars of kitchen knives. I cut coat, right? And our or manager at the meaning the the weekly the team that he said, hey, everybody, just so, you know, I know, you know, the push period, that's the name of the Khan. He's coming up. And he said he now, I don't know if you heard that the conference had to get moved up four days sooner. So you don't have the full ten days or the full. Fourteen days, you only have ten days. So you might wanna just your goals accordingly. And I spent the last few weeks like, you know, mentally trying to get myself to commit and believe I could do this thing that never done before. And he I raised my hand, my heart kind of my stomach. I raised my hand Frank. I said Louise, I did not know this please tell me that this doesn't count for like two records and stuff because we're not we don't get the full time period. Right. Can't count. And he said, no, no, no how I'm sorry. But unfortunately, this counts just like any other push period. And I'm going. No, no, no, no, no. He just took thirty percent of my time. There's no it was already nearly impossible in the allotted fourteen days. Ten days was a miracle right with miracle. And so I went home, and I I I that night. I'm in my head and go. Okay. Should I give up on the goal should I lower? It should I just take the sip is one out and just, you know, go for the next one, whatever. And then I remembered one of the most important lessons I ever learned in my wife. If I'd only learn it a few months prior. So it wasn't like embedded in the at and for anybody listening. I believe this one was valuable lessons that you can learn, and it's my mentor. Dan, peseta taught me this. And he he learned this from his mentor. Jim roam the great Jim Rome. And Dan taught me that, you know, this is in my words, but the purpose of a goal is not to hit the goal the per. That's what we think it we mistakenly think very black and white in terms of our goal that it's either this succeed or failed in tally. If you hit the goal you succeed if you don't hit the goal you fail and most of us don't like failing. So we never even get out the gate to really go outdoor biggest goals and dreams because there's a possibility of failure. And for some of us, they think the likelihood of probability of failure. And so that keeps us playing small living much smaller than we're capable of. And we really wanna be. And so here's the Dan taught me that the real purpose of a goal is not to hit the goal. The real purpose of a goal. Is to give it everything you have until last possible moment, regardless of your results. And if you hit the goal or not because though that that way of approaching every goal develops. You you become the person that you need to be about the qualities and characteristics of someone who can achieve any goal. They set and each goal whether you hit it or not if you pursue it with essentially unwavering, faith and extraordinary effort, then you whether or not you hit it needed. A goal is pales in importance to who you become every time you pursue a goal with that that without you know, that commit level of commitment. And and so I took out. So if I commit to give it everything I have to sell twenty thousand dollars in today's even though that that that that I've never done that feels impossible. But even the goal I will become a bit. There's a better version of waiting on the other side of the days that I I don't even know that guy. I've never been that committed before. So it doesn't matter but the goal so I decided that I was gonna pro Chit and then came the two decisions and I'm sorry. I'm Mormon didn't way answer questions. But I warned you guys. The the, but I I always joke apart. The good thing is you're kind of getting a night off like it's really. Three questions, and I'll feel all the time. There's pros and cons. But anyway of so I so so I kinda reverse engineered it, and I went, okay. Like since this feels like a miracle feels almost impossible. What would I have to do between now and ten days from now for this to happen? And I okay. Well, the for then I reversed. Okay. Well, what what would stop me for making it happen? That's I'll start to figure this out. And the first thing that sought me. It's all mental. Right. It's itself out and fear. Like, I already right now, I almost almost wasn't going to even try this because self doubt and fear is already stopping and I had been in sales for you know, couple years at a point. So I knew that more than likely I'm gonna have bad days. I could even have a bad first week, and I won't be on track to the goal, and I will be my human nature will cause me to feel emotions that will prevent me from wanting to even keep going retrying. If I feel like it's not going to happen. And so I thought the first thing I do is. I've gotta maintain an unwavering, and I don't know if I called, faith or belief about point. I don't remember. But basically, I I have to continuously tell myself remind myself, I am committed to giving it everything I have until the last possible moment, no matter what there is no other option. And by the way, that is the answer of how you maintain unwavering fate. There is no other option. Would you put in writing? I am committed to giving it everything I have to achieve blank outcome. Whatever. Your your mission is. Until the last possible moment, no matter what there is no other option. And so here's what happens. Here's how fear and self doubt stops us when we have when we encounter off cicle a challenge. We don't things don't start playing up respected heeds of fear and self down our planet in our in our mind in our emotion. And what happens is we end up going. The those scenes we focus on them. And what you focus on expand. In this case the scenes of fear out, and you focus on them, you're watering them, and they start to grow. They start to expand. And you go, man. This isn't the way thought gosh, what if things don't get better? What is tomorrow's even worse. What if what if what? Right, and you go down this rabbit hole. You water that seed and all of a sudden it expanded it takes up your entire consciousness. And now, you you you can't think about what you want threat. You're you're overwhelmed with fear and self out. So I just simply didn't go down that rabbit hole. That's how simple. This cancer. Every time I fear dying and leaving my children and my wife behind I have the same miracle mantra. I am committed to giving everything I have to beat cancer and lived to be a hundred plus years old with my family. No matter what there is no other option. Now, let me pause then that mean that was a guaranteed. Absolutely, not the greatest athletes in the world. Have no guarantee they're gonna make every shot. I take. But I heard interviews with the Michael Jordan's and the Kobe Bryant will they believe they're gonna make every shot. They have unwavering faith when the ball hits their hands, the voice in their head is the voice of unwavering faith. I got this. If they miss it. Most players the doubt growed, the self-doubt grows fear grows. What if I'm having an off night? What am I miss again? But the miracle mavens I called the in the book, that's the term I use for people that understand this process to the greatest athletes in the world when the ball at their hands. They believe they make if they miss their faith doesn't wavering back. You see the best players the average players in the NBA. We're even the best great players. But if they miss your shots in a row, the third time about their hands. They pass it back as the self doubts taking over but the greatest players in the world, they could miss three shots in a row. They still call for the ball four shots in a row. Twelve shots in a row. You see the best players in the world. Have the worst three-quarters they've ever had. But they keep shooting because they have unwavered. Fate that they'll make the next shot that they take even if they missed the last seven team. And while there's no guarantee they make more shots than the other ninety nine percent of the players on the court because they approach every shot. They take a shot of metaphorical, you know, a metaphor for any goal. We approach they approach it with onion wavering faith, and it's as simple as the voice in their head. And so at the end of the miracle question book, just like your morning book. There's a miracle question thirty day challenge. And the point of that is ready to intervene to citizens. I know we're gonna wrap up with the second one today. But but your team to for you to stab and reinforce wavering faith every single day for thirty days. So then the thirty days, it's ingrained in you. And you don't have to think about it. You just you'll start saying it without even realizing it's become who you are. And that's what this is about. That's what the miracle about this isn't a one time. Like, all right. I'm gonna apply this to make an million dollars. No these decisions become. The Lind and the filter in which you every experience every opportunity and every challenge that comes your way, they're filtered two lenses, and you're able to take them on in a way that ninety nine percent of our society doesn't understand or doesn't know where they don't realize that they just abide by human nature, whereas the people that overcome cancer the people that that team extrordinary goals, right? They're doing it to the powers of unwavering faith in the second decision, which whenever I stop talking. We can get into. Go on and tell us more about that the extraordinary effort. So once again, if you if you just heard that you'd go. Yes. So supposed to work hard. Got it. How thanks for the profound insight. Right. So no, it's different. Well, first of all, yes. You have to work hard. Right. There's I don't know very many people that did it become the best what they do. And she their goals and dreams without you know, really working hard. And and we're gonna dive into that were hard for a second. Or what I call extrordinary effort hard effort, export hard work, shorten your Everett extraordinary effort. But what what makes that ordinary? So you don't feel overwhelmed by it. Because most people even hearing. Okay. So success, right? Requires it's stored your effort. Yeah. That doesn't sound that sounds like a lot of were like going to turn that switch back on. And then you guys, right? Like, that's what we do. We choose the path that why do we do that in the same way that human nature is to see our? Ourselves based on our pass and to have fear in doubt show up in our in our brains that try to keep a safe even though we're not having run from you know, lions and bears anymore. Like, we're not. We're not caveman. Right. But we saw the same similar that primitive brain still tries to keep a safe from those things. So we live by fear and self out often, very quietly underlying our subconscious in the same way, human nature is to take the path of least resistance because think about it. You'll back to our caveman days, they weren't trying to build companies. They were trying to achieve extraordinary results. They were trying to become millionaires. They were they were built humans are built for survival. They were trying to survive get food have shelter. How fire go to bed and do it again. Right. She think about that. That's human nature is to stay safe and comfortable and there's nothing wrong with that. I I would never judge someone say hell, I I don't wanna become you know. Successful or this or that. I mean, I think we'll we won't meaningful film. And I think that you can't really argue with that wanna be great parents want to be great friends want to be human beings. But if someone's like how beyond that like, I don't need to be financially free. I don't like such fun being comfortable. There's nothing wrong with that. It's on a judgment. But I think for most human beings, we do have an innate desire, and maybe we're conditioned from society. I don't know for this desire. But I think we have desire to fulfill our potential and to achieve a life. That is is everything that we would want and dream, right? And that that to me is what that's what this is about. So human nature is to put forth ordinary, you know, as low effort as possible to not get in trouble or or encounter danger. But if you want to achieve extraordinary results, it requires extraordinary effort now, the they're so in the miracle question in the book, the the way that I break this down is that again how making ordinary extrordinary ordinary. The way that we do that is by first and foremost defining extrordinary up. What does that mean at first glance or I hearing it, you know, I think most people think man, you know, working eighty hours a week, and you know, bustling and grinding and all these things that's not it at all. I guess that is a form of extrordinary effort. But I'm a dad my kids are number one. I I'm not gonna work eighty hours a week. I'm gonna work, you know, forty at the most right like, and so so for me extraordinary for if I defined it would be defined in one word, and that is consistency. If you think about how most of us approach our goals are dream. So most people never get out the gate because if you're in self doubt and just wanting to stay safe and comfortable for those of us that do get out the gate, and we because we're you know, we winter Tony Robbins event, or whatever we're like. All right. I can do any change out of it. I'm gonna be right. Richard by whatever. So they and they call that uninformed optimism. Right. It's where you hear this motivational ri-, you can do it. And then you. Do you? You had it on your path. Did you have been told you can do anything? And then as soon as you encounter an obstacle or it's a lot more difficult than you anticipated. Then we usually the faith goes out the window, and you oh, I give it a shot. Right. I mean, we literally give up so quickly. So are so that's why I say extraordinary about consistency. It's doing something. You don't have to work eighty hours. If you just weren't, you know, thirty minutes a day or sixty minutes a day outside of your current realm of what you have to pay the bills if you just out of thirty minutes a day or sixty minutes day to do one thing that moved you in the direction of your single most important goal or dream in your life that would change your life significantly. Right. So let's say it was to make him to be a millionaire that would give you freedom to quit your job. And do, you know start a business that you loved and spend more time with your family, and and whatever. So let's say you're your mission in the. In the book. I call it your mission. And we could talk about there's undefined but the point is their goals setting goals. I think is I told you to take the night. Self studying goals isn't activity that most people do every year, right or not most people, but those of us that do it. It's a fun activity and many of us. We don't even we do it for the activity because it makes us feel good Oregonian imagining these great things happening. But a lot of us know that we're not gonna make them happen. Anyway, where like if we set them we're like next year? I'll set new ones I won't hit the new ones we do that year after year after year after year after year about setting goals, the funding tippety, but in this book, I talked about how all your all your goals and ask yourself of all these goals, which these helped me become a miracle. Maven? In other words, if we reflect revisit that the real purpose of goal to become the type of person that can achieve anything any goals in your life. Which of the goals on your list is the most meaningful the most significant will change your life, the most and most importantly will change you the most will cause you challenge you to become a better version of yourself that can accomplish way more than the version that we are now. Right. So when it comes. Extrordinary effort. It's taking the your mission. What's the most important goal that you're the and the reason I called mission, by the way because the word mission carries different weight humanitarian organizations carry out missions military, right? The military carries out missions. It's not. I hope I make it. It's I hope I don't die. No. It's a mission guys. We're gonna happen. This is what we're doing. It's going to happen. There is no other option. Right. Right. And so so that's the way it were. You know? Now, look this is how you put your goals. So you hit on what is your mission? What's the single most important goal of the biggest impact on your life? And who you are as a person. Then you you apply the miracle plays into that unwavering faith you filter that mission through the statement that I shared earlier, right? That Europe mantra. And so that that that using language reinforcing commitment to do whatever. It takes no matter what there's no other option to achieve that goal. And then extraordinary is where you get tactical, and you okay, what's the process? That will guarantee I that goal. In other words, every goal every outcome. We're trying to accomplish every result is preceded by process and the process when done repeatedly over an extended period of time, essentially, insures the result. For example, you want to lose weight. Well that usually burning more calories than you're taking and that's your process. Right. Right. So so, and so if you define if you simply commit to that process, and you do it every day over Senate period of time. I unless you have genetic, you know, like a physical thing where you can't lose weight for some reason, right like got fire way, tissue or whatever. Like if you burn more calories you take in. And you burn fat you you can't fail. So that is your process so in the book right in and whether you read the book or not you've got you gotta get clear, what is the process and process should be as simple as possible. I a single recurring activity. You can do every day. If you want to write a book, commit to workout every day that you're gonna sit down and write. And then evidently, you'll have a book. May or may not be a good book, but you can't fail. If you write award the every day, right? Eventually at five hundred today for a hundred days now, you have five thousand base. So that's how it works. So you want to define it that process, and then you remove your emotional attachment to the process because there's no point like I talked about my car accident. You don't even emotionally attached to results that are now in the past once they'd happened. They've happened you need to be remove emotional attachment commit to the process over an extended period of time, and consistency. Is it if you do it until you achieve the goal you can't fail? No, it might take longer than you thought. Most things. Do I wanted to sell million copies of miracle? Warning the first year it came out. I didn't even sell ten thousand copies of the first year and took me six years of applying the miracle quesion because I was committed to maintaining unwavering faith and putting for the short effort until I reached a million people and change a million lives. And I thought it would have my goal was a year. And it took me six. But when you finally get to the point your life is the last thing, I'll say. Unless you asked me another question when you finally get to the point in your life that you've been working for so hard for so long right now, you're in the middle of it, and it feels hard and it feels like it's nothing happening and you're doubting yourself. When you finally is the point, and you will get there, you keep if you say with it, and when you get there and you look back at your journey. You almost never wish it would have happened any sooner when you arrived you look back and you go oh. All of that was necessary. I signed why it took as long as it took. I had to overcome those challenges. Those setbacks those were part of me growing and becoming better and becoming who I needed to be to get to the point about now. And it was the perfect time. So be a peace with where you are now in your life and maintain that healthy sense of urgency every day to work out, you know, twelve hour days just do one thing that moves you in the direction near biggest goals and dreams and your success will move from possible to probable to where you want it, which is inevitable and how we do have one. Last question for you are show is called. Nobody told me. And we always ask our guests. What is your nobody told me lesson? So what is it that you wish someone had told you about miracles or living or gratitude or you can take it wherever you want that you wish that they had. Yeah. You know, the I wish someone had told me, and they have told me I just didn't hear it. I wish I had heard it and that was the importance of celebrating life. Pausing taking time every day. And this is literally I don't celebrate life in a philosophical sense. I mean, literally taking time at the end of the day to reflect and to celebrate what happened that day whether it was right? And and and the quality of our life really we can amplify immediately by looking at every day. There's a, you know, infant thing. Go wrong that countless things that go, right, right? And we tend to folk someone's going wrong with go to bed stressed, and we wake up stress, and now I do what's called I call my miracle evening, and we don't time to go into. I won't give you all the details. But but but I done this like three months like literally figure this out three months ago. And and so I wish I would've told me I wish I would have got that at the end of the day. Look back over your day. And if like, you only need one moment, if you played with your kids, you hugged your kids if you. If you if you over came a challenge, if you were happy when you could have been whatever it is for you, look at that moment and go deep into that Beaumont and try to bring that moment into your heart, and your soul, and every fiber of your being and feel it and then smile and then fall asleep as you're feeling so great about that moment from that day that has been the last three months I've been doing that every night, and it's completely changed my quality of life. Wow. That's good advice. How can people get in touch with you on social media and on the internet? He has Google how L ride you'll find me on YouTube and everywhere, you know, Facebook all this Facebook fraying, gays most. In fact, we have a Facebook group called the miracle morning community with two hundred plus thousand people from seventy countries, it's one of the most engaged positive only communities I've ever seen in the world who joined that. That's then you'll naughtily here for me. I check in there every day, but there's people are supporting each other in really magical ways. And then and then, yeah, the, you know, the new book miracle equation. You can find me there, of course. And that's where ever books are sold. Amazon. Audible, you know, burns a noble anywhere. You can get the book. All thank you so much. How we can't. Thank you enough for all of your amazing, wisdom and advice, and we were really looking forward to having you on we've been big fans for years. And we were certainly not dissappointed. Exactly, exactly. Thank you so much. I really appreciate you having me on both of you. And everyone listening. Thank you for your time. And I hope you got some wisdom today. You can find your life. Definitely did our thanks to hell Elrod again. His latest book is called the miracle equation. The two decisions that move your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable, and again, his website is how Elrod dot com. I'm Jan black. And I'm Laura Owens. You're listening to nobody told me thank you so much for joining us.

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707: What makes us finally take action on our desires - with Hal Elrod

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707: What makes us finally take action on our desires - with Hal Elrod

"Welcome everyone. I'm kevin miller. This is show inspired by the grandfather of inspiration himself zig ziglar. Our focus here is you and your personal personal development. The way to have more tomorrow is to become more today we bring you the best of today's world influencers and their messages and discover how can apply apply new and classic methodologies of personal growth to our lives in this episode we hit right to the core of all of our personal the development success or lack thereof and ask what makes us finally take action on our desires and i bring you personal development phenomenon hal elrod how has has influenced millions of people with a message of his bestselling book the miracle morning one of the highest rated books in the world literally. The miracle morning has been translated into thirty thirty. Four languages sold over a million copies and is practiced daily by over five hundred thousand people around the world but if you think it's simply about a morning routine stop stop there. This short book is one of the most impressive messages on personal development. I've ever read literally. No wonder it's been flying off the shelves since how published tip but what's ultimately intriguing to me about houses concern with inspiring so many people but not being satisfied with how many were actually taking action as a result old of the inspiration his latest book is the miracle equation tackles these issues how almost died twice once from a head on collision with a drunk driver her then from a rare form of aggressive cancer and the principles that helped him come back strong from both accidents is what fuels guidance for for us in our everyday lives to finally take the necessary steps towards achieving the things we honestly desire so this is the focus of his latest book the miracle equations to decisions that move your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable the discussion on overcoming negative emotions alone one is worth the listen worth the price of emission as they say it's just flat out profound folks so don't miss what how has to offer in the show but also check out the miracle eric equation dot com. That's the new book the miracle equation dot com and his annual event best year ever live dot dot com so i'm going to bring you how right after i give some gratitude to our esteemed ziegler show sponsors and as this recording i just got back from an hour ride on my annandale scalpels sl carbon four mountain bike. It's a cross country <unk> bike for speed but for an all around bike candidates new treadwell bike is the ultimate easygoing easy riding bike for any in anywhere. It's light comfortable and even connects effortlessly to your smartphone via the free candidate app to track your ride data. Let you know when it's time for a tune-up and more so to experience the treadwell visit cannon annandale dot com slash ziglar to see the details and find a retailer near you can also enter to win a new treadwell see the official rules at cannon dale dot com slash ziglar right how will four paragraphs into the book the miracle equation. You cited your <music> own dissatisfaction. After reaching a million people and you say you can met it. I'm quoting you here. You can meditate every day read personal development books gain clarity by journaling and to become the most knowledgeable confident and prepared person you could ever be and then do nothing so i recently interviewed david meltzer. He was one of the influential guys for the movie jerry maguire fire into quote show which i love the show. I own it to quote that when you had me at hello right there in the book i was thinking how do i i kinda. Wanna say thank you because i feel that i feel like you hit on a primary anx that all of us who are trying to succeed in our own lives and those who are trying to influence influence others. We all grapple with our hope. Do our people digest giddy my stuff he buying it great. Are they digesting it. Are they doing anything for you to come out and say that is tremendous indus. I almost want to ask how's it going. It's going well yeah. No it's going really well. How's it going in terms of the context of. I guess what i'm not sure i'm well. I mean at the miracle. That's the focus so we got the miracle morning which is amazing now. We got the miracle question which focuses on our people taking action. I mean that's your focal focal point in this and i just love that you're i feel like you're the pied piper for the self development personal development world assane are people take what will it take icebreaker saying okay yeah okay so it wasn't clear on that note and i appreciate that in the book that i wrote the miracle morning you know that when i wrote that it was out of a sense of responsibility responsibility where it changed my life and my wife it was it wasn't called the miracle morning and it wasn't the book idea. It was a morning ritual that i started in two thousand eight when the u._s. Economy crashed crashed in my business crashed with it. I lost over half my clients. I lost my income. I lost my home. I couldn't pay the mortgage and i just went on a quest you out of six months of this downward spiral for me of just you know really physically my body. Fat percentage had tripled. I was at rock bottom and a friend mind john berghof. He's my best friends and business partners. He just said how it you just gotta go. Go google google one of the world's most successful people what are their daily routines means and rituals habits and behaviors figure out what they do do what they do and you should see similar results and i went okay that doesn't sound like a quick fix but that makes sense and i kept coming across morning routines in mourning rituals but i like most people i wasn't a morning i which i now see that limiting belief like i'm not a morning person well. If you don't run you're not a runner. Don't earlier not a morning person but you can do both right and so i kept telling us morning routine morning rituals but i was resistant and finally only i saw so many articles saying that that's what c._e._o.'s do. That's what athletes do as robin sharma said when he studied the world's most successful people you find. They have one thing in common. Most of them were early risers and so i finally went all right. I'll i'll give i'll read some of these articles and i went. I went back on my browser. Read these morning ritual articles and here's what i got is. I got that how you start your day aka your morning. Ritual routine isn't equal on the buffet of things that can change your life gay. What i mean by that is if you go to personal overwhelming go to amazon. You're like wait. Do i need to buy a book on productivity or donated by book on emotional intelligence or do. I need to buy a book on self discipline or one on motive. Oh my god it's overwhelming. I what area do i need to improve and what i realized from reading these articles and kind of putting together with common sense is i went your morning. Ritual is not equal in in wait in potential impact as all of the other all the other options on the personal development buffet because how you start your day sets the tone the context your mindset and the direction for the rest of the day so in simple terms. If you win the morning you win that you can win the day you put yourself. Here's what the recording does you put yourself in a physical mental emotional and spiritual state first thing in the morning and you gain knowledge that you can apply to your life back to your business your relationships so every day you wake up and you become a better version of the person that you were when you went to bed the night before and if that's how you start every day it's only a matter of time before your outer world reflects your inner world so i went. I gotta get over this limiting belief that i'm not a morning person and i woke up the next morning morning and before i went to bed that night i google best personal development practices and i ended up with a list of six meditation affirmations visualization exercise reading and journaling and or these are now named the savers right silence out for me is it's an acronym silent affirmations visualization exercise reading inscribing living and i went. What's one of these. Should i do in the morning. Which one of these is the is the best and the epiphany kevin came when i went what if i did all of these what am i woke up tomorrow morning and our earlier i did ten minutes of silence or meditation ten minutes about formations visuals that ray ten minutes of each. I i thought that would be the ultimate morning. Ritual the best of the best and i woke up the next morning and at that time keep in mind. I was fifty two thousand dollars personal credit card debt. My house was in foreclosure. My body fat percentage was triple. What it was months earlier i was i was at the lowest point in my life in most ways and i woke up next morning. Joining i sucked at met. I suck it all these things but even sucking it my first ever now call. The miracle morning didn't have a name. I felt wait a minute. Wow i feel oh confident inspired knowledgeable. If i start every day like this it's only a matter of time to wrap up the story and then i'll close it out with kind of this miracle equation thing on <hes> but would to wrap it up in two months more. I went from five thousand dollars a month in income which is what i drop sue from ten to five. I went up to twelve thousand the most income i'd ever made in my entire. Life was twenty five and my body fat percentage that had tripled. I was now training for a fifty two mile ultra marathon and i had never run more than a mile and my wife and i did complete fifty miles in one day months later and my depression went away on day one and i went to my wife and i go sweetie and i said this morning routine look. It's like our incomes the highest ever been on it on in two months and i was like a miracle she goes. It's your miracle morning. I go. Yes i love that so weeded out and i wrote it my schedule miracle morning and long story short sharing it with people clients friends france and they also not a morning person. I made them all promise me they'd try it for a week and there's a couple little tricks little hacks and there would be the button right that included and on every single one came back doc was how holy you know what i am a morning person. I just had the best week in my career. I've said this. I said that and that's when the light bulb went off and i went if this shared my wife hyphen i'm not a morning person and this shared everybody else's like all these other friends and clients and this could change anybody's life and i have a responsibility to share it with the world entitled my wife's nudging sweetie you gotta read a book about this and i and i so three years later the mirror warnings published and it might might might expectation expectation was i might sell a few hundred copies and i hope i change a few lives and now we've just surpassed two million copies in over one hundred countries translated ends late in thirty seven languages and yeah and if you want you know shut up for a minute long winded i can. I want people to not two million. I don't know if everybody knows the publishing world that is gargantuan. There's books out there on the top of the bestseller list and it's the next best thing since sliced bread that having come remotely motely close two hundred grand is knocking it out of the park for a book publisher and kevin the crazy thing about that is i think this speaks so like this says the most post nothing i can say says what the as much as the says that's word of mouth. I don't run facebook outs like yes. I do podcast interviews but i'll tell you here's the biggest telltale sign two years ago and we can probably will come back later like we'll actually dive into some really powerful lessons from this but two years ago i was diagnosed diagnosed a very rare aggressive form of cancer acute lymphoblastic leukemia thirty seven years old at a seven year old daughter four year old son at the time i still have them but they're older but they there were seven and four and i was getting third twenty to thirty percent chance of surviving right and that is a seventy eighty percent chance that i was going to die and leave my family without a husband without a father and i applied this thing called the miracle equation which is why i wrote the most recent book we'll get to that in a minute but this is the thing that year we sold one hundred and thirty thousand copies and i was in a hospital bed not doing a single interview not doing a single ad that was because has the miracle morning was changing people's lives justice profoundly as i just shared it in my own it changed my life this way and it's doing the exact same thing for millions of people until they tell every one that they know you know and that is that says it's not to me because i'm this master marketer. It's because people were having their lives change and then they're just you know they're sharing yeah well. I live in the personal development world in the self help world and always how i've read so much and you know it's like in the bible solomon said there's nothing nothing new under the sun and there's really not but that said we always times change circumstances change. We need new voices. We need it spoken in a different way and i will give you this testimonial how reading it and i can't quite define it. I will time goes on. I just love love your. I don't know if it's your writing style. I don't know you know. I read something this morning by a guy i follow roy h williams. He's a marketing guys been a kind of a an off mentor for a long time. He doesn't know it. I've interviewed him a couple of times but he wrote something this morning about the power in the nonfiction world where we're trying to impart something the power of writing it including it in a memoir style. That's what you've done and so that was this morning. That was a great preface to talk with you now because because you do share so many of your own story and other people's. I don't know if it's that i don't know if it's just you're clear on your so clearly the miracle morning for the power or that it has such a short book. I mean it's a short read but it it is interesting. I want to come back to something that you said early on in researching for this you look and you mentioned right off the bat. I looked at what athletes are doing c._e._o.'s or doing something. That's becoming a soapbox for me. I was a professional will athlete and back then. There are certain things that i did and it's been even in recent years where i've wondered. Why did i ever leave that win. The importance of my life ever get minimized just from that to where i did not treat myself like a professional. I did not treat myself like a high profile c._e._o. Why don't i do that. Why do we minimize ourselves. Why wouldn't we all all saying okay. We want if we want incredible results from our lives. I don't know if anybody who's listening to my podcast for years. You've otherwise they'd be listened to some other mind candy somewhere so so hopefully they want extraordinary results. Why wouldn't we treat ourselves like that like that. Paramount that the next morning we're going to get the super bowl and there are certain things we're not gonna. They get drunk that night. We're not gonna stay up late. We're not gonna take in a bunch of negative crap. We're going to protect ourselves. Empower ourselves filler cells. Why don't we do that and i think that's what you brought us to. In this book a lot is to in so many words but to treat ourselves if we want extraordinary results and you've been coming back to us saying it has more weight. I go through this. I work a lot in health and wellness industry and i never want to say something is the holy grail but but you can save sequentially. It's gotta come first. There are some things that happen. I mean if you're going to have dinner plate. Goes down. I before your food. You know it's just sequentially. Is it most important. I actually yeah that what you're talking about here. I absolutely unequivocally agree that your miracle warning. I don't know how anything he can have more weight than equipping ourselves again back to treating ourselves like the athlete like the high power c._e._o. And yet we don't and i know that i felt i kind of felt. Oh you're angst with that as you intro the miracle equation of why aren't we taking action and i want to just kind of throw that to you as you are now really invest in this. What what are you seeing. Are some of the primary reasons people are not taking action on something. They're excited about on something i actually. I'm glad you asked that because this is i just recorded a podcast so i have the achieve your goals podcast and the last episode that i released <unk> i think it was last week on answered this question and and and the title of the podcast was why human nature is the number one thing holding you back and how to overcome that number one obstacle and and and here's the thing so i actually really analyze why is it that we don't do what we need to do because what separates the world's most successful people from everybody everybody else. It really isn't that it's not difficult to do. I'll give an example. We're not you know. I was in sales. I sold co cutlery for six years from age nineteen to twenty twenty five thirty six and i was one of the top salespeople and cut co. Here's what it takes to be the number one salesperson in cocoa or at least one of the top sales people or for any company in the world okay so here you go here. It is we'll go. I'm listening you. You pick up the phone right. Have we done anything hard yet. Kevin not yet all right. Now you dial the seven digits in your prospect referring opec right. It's still not difficult and then you read a sales script that somebody else wrote in tested for you word for word and you just read it right now nothing suv monumental hockey and then and then you schedule the and then and then when they say they say no they said no you hang up the same thing really easy to pick it up thou the numbers read the script and if they say yes then within the next few days usually drive their house and you re not difficult driving somewhere and then you recite a presentation at least for me that had been again written for me. I had memorized it. I had mastered it. I had practiced it and then i asked if they wanted to purchase or not and then they said yea or nay and then i said you know anyone else that i i read a referral strip right nothing i did there at all was difficult i wasn't i was out in the field right digging ditches in one hundred degrees he that's hard that's that's hard work and the god i admire you if you're doing that work but to be the top salesperson and make a six figure income all editor's pick up the phone dial drive there and none of that is difficult but let me tell you why we don't do it. I'll tell you why we don't do it and this applies to every single area of our life and it is human nature our inborn human nature. If you go back to caveman days or go back in time where when or even just when we were living on the land right we society has conditioned us to to have to earn money to purchase i things right and then we're trying to achieve and we're comparing ourselves to others and we're trying to rise in the ranks of success and become important and unworthy and bill significant and all these things but if you go back in time there were only two things that people did survive and rest. That's pretty much it survive in rest so we are programmed to do the minimal amount of effort to survive. That's it so you think about it back. In the day you you had to get up when you were out of food and you had to get off your lazy butt and you had to go hunt the buffalo or whatever you're hunting right but once you got it now now you got to go rest and relax and enjoy time with your family proper many months that buffalo fed in the village and then when you when you were out out of it now you had to survive again you got off your lazy butt and you win and hunted again but as soon so that's a program to do we are program in nightly lately to do the minimum necessary to survive and then once we are in able to survive. All we wanna do is rest. That's program program in our dna so that's why it's easier. If you have a roof over your head and food in the fridge will then you don't have to pick up the phone to survive survive. You don't have to go to the gym to survive. You don't have to spend time with your kids to survive. You don't have to take your wife or your husband date nights survive. Those are all to thrive ride but i don't think any as you said listening to your podcast mastermind that whether it's societal conditioning or just the or have we've evolved off to want to thrive. I don't i don't exactly know maybe it's a little bit of oh. It's definitely both but we're not. We don't want to survive in rest anymore. We actually actually want to thrive. We're measuring success on a scale of one to ten. I said this is the miracle morning on a scale of one to ten in every area. We want level ten success. We want level ten health level ten happiness level ten relationships. We want level tin financial freedom right nobody wants. Nobody wants to settle like. I don't wanna be happier to healthy or to wealthy now. We want level ten so we now want to thrive and in order to do that. You have to overcome your innate. Inborn programmed human nature sure to simply survive and rest if we can go into the miracle equation. Is that piece because you read it. You read that passage what i realized prices with the miracle morning. Do i believe that personal development is the foundation of success absolutely and it may it's based on a gym quote. Your level of success will sell them senior level of personal development because success is something you attract by the person you become in other words. You want to achieve success. You have to develop the qualities. The characteristics driss ticks the mindset the knowledge skills the habits you do that during your miracle morning like you read from the book. You can develop yourself to level tan then but still not do anything with it. In fact we often get tricked into thinking that the personal development alone is enough. We're like oh. I'm learning. I'm growing. I'm becoming better yeah you but you're not getting out of your living room. You're not doing anything outside of surviving at your job that you're in. It pays the bills the minimum minimum to get by. You're not thriving and that's where the miracle question came into play. Is that while the miracle. Morning is your daily practice for personal development. You've you've got to follow that up with a daily process for goal achievement and that's what the miracle equation. It's well and you just. I mean highly highly ziegler risk there in his famous quote of new ideas. You said that but we need new voices but i am saying you've got to be the right person. Folks who listen to this show no. I know that we can be the right person to do the right things to an essence. Have what we want be do happen. We hear tom talk about that so much today. Hey france hence. Thanks for tuning in to the ziglar show. I don't even have to wonder if you're getting value from my talk with hal elrod guaranteed. My next question for him comes from page sixty four in the miracle morning. We're how states the more vivid you make your vision the more compelled you'll be to take the necessary actions to make it a reality and i asked ask him if he feels this really is the foundation of getting us a step forward in taking action and he gives some great ideas almost tricks to get us take action and make things happen again a highly encourage you visit the miracle equation dot com to check out howls new book all right so how's it going to speak to this question on vision right after i share some great products and services from ziegler's esteemed show sponsors you guys no fan of candidate bikes and you can find me high up in the rocky mountains on trails about three or four times per week getting inspired and fit fit on mike annandale mountain bike so candidate has a new bike. It's called the treadwell. It's the ultimate easygoing easy riding bike for any day and really anywhere where it's like comfortable even connects easily to your smartphone via the free kandale app to track your ride data. Let you know when it's time for a tune-up and more so you can experience a treadwell visit cannon dale dot com slash ziglar to find your local candidates retailer and try one for yourself and enter to win new treadwell treadwell candidate dot com slash ziglar. Well you talking about us wanting more and again. I think there's nobody listening to ear podcast or this one. Which by the way folks he mentioned it. Achieve your goals. That's how elrod podcast go. Check it out. We were talking a couple of days ago and i looked it up on charter. It was like a retired. Mine was at three hundred years. Was it like a thousand sixty or something like that but i see generally yeah. I actually looked at it later. It was higher so it was tom and jerry. I'm gonna i'm gonna bring up charter chargeable. You go do that and everybody else goes. Subscribe was he's doing that. Go to achieve your goals with hal elrod and again just a profound message there okay anyways folks listening to that folks listening to this show are here because they i do want more otherwise they would not be here. They could go off and listen to some story on <hes> n._p._r. Or something like that so we assume that now this is actually out of miracle morning. I believe and actually have page sixty nine written in my notes and you talk about vision and i'm gonna read right out of again. You said the more vivid you make your vision also also speak to us folks through the were vivid. You guys make your vision. We all make our visions. The more compelled will be to take the necessary actions to to make it a reality that was again kind of one of those beacons that stuck out to me in leading up in research in you and your message and leading up to this because because i have realized that you talked about goals that so often i see that when folks are not ultimately going after something they know they want more but they're not going after. They really haven't gotten clear on what it is. They want and i have done that. How actually i'll say there are still areas in my life where i'll realize why. Why have i not progressed arrest there. I'll come back. I have not clarified my goal. I always driven. I always wake up in the morning driven but without being clear i can't make those definitive steps and sometimes times. I don't even know that i've progressed or regressed. I should say without those and so. I really appreciate your talking in there about that vision in i. I assume that you see that as well a lot of people that yeah they want more. They want more but when you ask them. They don't have a specific on that what they want on those what they want a ah do you find yourself and i know you speak so much doing the podcast where does vision rank. I mean again we talk about. What's the holy grail. You know what's sequentially visits got to be. Ah i think right at the top. It is actually my so my co author here. If you're watching the video i know most of us in the podcast but cameron herold wrote the book vivid vision right. I think that's where that term was coined but yeah you could so vision is is the is the process of gaining clarity writers. It's the action action to gain. Clarity and clarity is the to me. That is the first step in in achieving the things you want in your life and improving your life. You have to total clarity on what is that you want and here's the thing i think this is what hangs people up a lot with vision or clarity. Is they go but i don't know if that's exactly what i want and and it's a perfectionist mindset where you're like well. I i think i want that but what if i want something different and then they just do nothing they're not sure and i always say it's better to have a target to shootout. Even if it's the wrong target because you usually target when you're aiming at it and then you're going wait a minute i'm going to i'm going to shift my targeted a little bit right but with no target you got nothing to shoot and so i always say like it's better to put something in your schedule for example even if you're not sure it's the right time of day to do it like i don't know i should do this. We'll just put it in so that when that day arrives you either go. This is the right time. Were oh. You know what i should have done it earlier later etc right but that same thing is having of vision. You said it yourself. Is that right kevin. It gives you without it. You don't have clear clear vision. You don't have clear actions to take yup right and so for me back when i was in sales for example <hes> simple goal setting obviously my podcast is achieve your goals some some big on. I'm big on goals but i think that there's one big lesson that i learned <hes> and this is in the miracle equation. This is like an entire chapter. Other chapter is your goal is not the goal and the lesson. Is that the purpose of goal. When i say purpose essentially i mean the the greatest benefit of a goal the ultimate reason that you should set a goal. Most people think well yeah. It's so you have a goal to hit. You want to hit that goal. That's why you set a goal the goal but here's the reality the purpose of a goal the alternate benefit is not to hit the goal is to develop the qualities and characteristics of someone who has the qualities and characteristics that can achieve goals regardless of whether or not you hit it so let's say for example. Oh you set a goal. You commit to give it everything you have and you do. You give you fall you. Define your process right in the miracle equation and talk about every goal is is preceded by a process and the process is what results in the goal and if you commit to your process every day without being emotionally attached to results. You're gonna hit the goal. It's it's inevitable. It might take longer than you thought but as long as you're doing the activities that move you in the direction of the goal your success is inevitable only matter of time but here's the caveat what causes awesome people to either not approachable at all is the fear of failure well. What if it's a waste of time. What if i don't reach my goal like when was the last time that you think about this. You're listening. When was the last time that you set a goal and gave it everything you had but it was a goal. You didn't actually believe you could hit. We don't work. Human beings. Don't work that way. We are innately. We like certainty right so you only usually set goals that we believe we can hit on so here's the point. The lesson is the real purpose of a goal is not the goal is to become the type of person who can achieve goals by the qualities and characteristics you develop through the process of giving it everything you have regardless of your results along the way so if you give it everything you have and you fall short of the goal okay who who you become in that process the qualities characteristics the habits the mindset the skill sets those don't leave you and now you are a better version of who you were when you set out to achieve that goal and all you do is either keep pursuing that goal and no it's going to take longer or you apply that new better improve version of yourself to your next school and maybe you hit that goal but guess what maybe you don't but if you approach it with you know what i call the miracle equation unwavering faith and extraordinary effort and you give it everything when you have until the last moment to achieve the goal you might hit that goal or you might miss it but the point is you're going to get better and better and more capable more and more deserving of achieving monumental meaningful boys not by achieving the goals along the way but by who oh you become in the process and like you said zigzag beautiful famous flossy which by the way is the crux of my next book. I'm working on right. I you have to become the first i need be then do the things you need to do to have like you want but most people get this backwards they think once i have more time once. I have more money than i can do. The things like exercise and give to charity so i can have a life of health and of meaning no no no no no. I you got to be the person then do the things then then. You'll have the life not the other way around. I love that that's been one as a as long as i've been in the health and wellness arena. I've realized that the people look at folks who've achieve something look at hal elrod goal of course he exercises and maybe has a personal trainer goes to the gym four to now and what i found out just like you have in my research was no they. You did those things so that they could become who they were. I wanna come to a point that you make that. I appreciate so much maybe <hes> maybe again and achilles heel and personal development when you speak to the need this came right out of the miracle question the need for us to be happy and grateful for who we are and where we are right now to have some contentment with ourselves and not have negative feelings negative self image where we are so be okay with us now but and this is right this is your your writing and also following the innate human desire to grow and improve and you said i see a lot of folks on one side of the other never content content with themselves. They're striving striving and those who have given up and just want to be okay with where they are and i hear that so often can just be all this striving and personal developed. We seem to be okay. Okay with who we are and i love you. Put that we all have this innate desire to be better at. It's almost boring. If what what else is there to do just to stay in the status this quote and go gosh. I've i've actually arrived. No we all want to so looking at that. I think i want you to speak to that a little bit striking that balance because i do see polarization attention on those two issues and you see people just driving themselves and they're never at peace okay. That's not good. That's not what we're talking about personal development but then the others over here who've gotten so frustrated with that with their never okay they're never enough and so you speak to that balance you speak to those issues. I want you to speak to the balance there. Yeah i think it's one of the most important paradigm in life to hold and forgot who said that but there's someone that said like that's a sign line of genius or something when you can hold two opposing simultaneously right whereas most people go no no this is the way that it is and if you don't believe <hes> you're wrong in politics all the time right. No no no. This is the way it's like. What if it's a little bit of both what if there's wisdom from both of your perspectives and somewhere in the middle is the truth or the best way to do it so here's the point and the first quote i'm big on reading quotes. I'm big on writing quotes votes right on the first quote that i ever wrote down is of my own original quote if you will and i'm sure there was probably somewhere else and private said before sports but to my knowledge this mike lawrence love the wife you have wile you create the life of your dreams beautiful and here's the thing that is we do have an i believe that most people have an innate drive and desire to grow and improve and you you don't have to let society tell you how you should grow and improve or what is important so meaning on you you don't go. I don't care about being wealthy. I just want to make enough money to live a life of peace and security with my family right or i just want to live off the land and i don't want to work. I have a piece of land and i can just farm and make my money and earn the money but eat my food and great on or if you're a month and you go i just i don't i don't wanna make it. I just wanna meditate all day. We're still growing evolving spiritually and emotionally and mentally even though they're not achieving outer results that the world is measuring right but still there's a desire to grow and and improve and evolve and i call elevating our consciousness right elevating our consciousness which is often done in meditation not in a you know putting up facebook facebook ads in getting more traffic than the next guy right like you define it so that's that's an important piece is to realize that the growing the evolving improving the creating the life of your dreams is up to how you define it but you have to also be completely honest with yourself and a lot of people i think out of fear fear of failure fear of not being enough or fear of not living up to other people's standards. I think they sometimes throw their hands. Why don't i don't care about money. I don't care about that stuff right well. If that's true then beautiful figure out what you do care about an live to your full potential in that area but i'll tell you one thing that i think most of us i'd say physical health is pretty important now again. I really can't judge you could say no hell. I want to go allow a blaze of glory. I'm gonna smoke. I'm gonna drink and i just wanna live to be forty like okay. That's again no judgment. That's how you roll that's fine but but i think that that is speaking to the minority. I think the majority of people want that level ten success in again. That's how you define success. That's a loaded word right right not how society define success but what's level ten health for you. What's level ten happiness for you. What's level ten fulfillment and purpose and meaning for you. What's a level <unk> levenson altun relationships with the people in your life that matter most right fulfill your potential in those areas again. Not what's exciting to find out how you define us so i'll close this thought <music> out kevin with what i believe has been one of the most valuable lessons that i've ever taught myself and i tried to share this with other. The people and it's this human beings most of us and again i think societal conditioning but most of us compare where we are where either others are or where we want to be in our brain doesn't do a good job with patients. It doesn't to do a good job realizing that there's a journey to get from where we are to where we want to be an all it knows is i see that commercial. I see that person. I see that vision. I see that goal. I'm setting and the brain goes well. That's what i want and it doesn't it doesn't create chronology just goes. I want it now. It doesn't create time and space. I want now in that creates all these feelings of inadequacy and i'm not enough. I'm not far enough along not where they are not want to be on and on and on so here's the greatest is lesson that i've i've learned a lot of experience when you finally get to the point or the place in your life or your business in the area of your life life that you've been working so hard for for so long when you finally arrive when you finally get to that place you achieve that goal you get to the place in your life life. You almost never wish would have happened sooner instead. When you get your you look back and you go oh i it was it hadn't taken this long. I had to go through all of those obstacles and setbacks and failures and challenges but what you didn't enough to do is stress along the way you could have enjoyed every moment and had you realize that oh when i get there i'm going to it's going to be the perfect timing and looking back to why did waste all that energy feeling like i wasn't enough building like feeling stress every day that i should be further along than i did that. I'm not as good as they are or. I'm now now so here's the lesson beyond the lesson. Is this be at peace with. Where are you are now. At every moment of every day when i had cancer and i had lost. I weighed one hundred seven. I'm six feet tall kevin. I weighed the one hundred and seventy pounds. When i had cancer i was down to one hundred and twenty from one hundred seventy do one hundred and twenty seven pounds smokes. I was almost dead in fact they had to cancel my eighth treatment because i would have said you're you won't live through it and i was happy and grateful every moment of the way now were there times where i was in physical pain and not enjoying it absolutely but you can ask anyone that knows me anyway my wife you can ask kids. You can ask my best friend. You can ask my dad and i'm not saying this say look at me. I'm i'm i'm cool. I'm looking at this say. If i could do this in the most difficult circumstance of my life you can do it in the day to day. Grind of yours and it was that you can choose to happiest and was grateful. You've ever been every moment of your life. No matter what's going on around you because it's not dependent on what's going on around you. It's dependent on what's going on inside of you and it's a matter of consciously choosing to be at peace every day while you maintain a healthy sense of urgency and you're proactively doing at least one thing a day. You don't have to work eighty hours a week. Just do one thing a day beyond the minimum that you do to survive. Do one thing a day to thrive do one thing day that moves you closer to your biggest goals and dreams and if you news one thing a day that's the miracle equation by the way unwavering faith is the first half and i in the book i teach you how to make unwavering faith practical so that you program in your mindset to believe in faith everything so it keeps propelling forward through your fears replaced fear with faith with the second half of the equations extraordinary effort and again. That's not about hustling grinding and working all the time. It's about consistency. That's what extraordinary effort is consistency. Its defining or process that will make your achievement of your goal inevitable executing that process every single david. It was just one thing if you do that. If you maintain those two decisions unwavering faith an extraordinary ordinary effort over an extended period of time until you achieve that goal that dream that miracle the only variable is time but you can't fail. It's only a matter of time and i'm gonna come to those next after i dig on something that you said here yeah so you talked about us being at peace <hes> <hes> during the process during the journey and you cited your own cancer journey in there okay that one i'm not gotta. I'm gonna i'm gonna. I'm gonna push on it a little bit your victim on that one we could say in all senses victim. Let's take the person who's out there right now. Trying signed to start a business something that they believe in something they think will help people and they're struggling financially and they're looking and they wanna be at peace now. I'll use myself myself going to be. I've been here before and my multiple times where where i'm aware of. I have the power to make a bad decision. I have the power to make. Take things hard i am this is a kind of doctrine here on regret. I don't think we could we can decipher define. How are we say regret but in some sense. There's a lot of things that i did in the past. I wish i had done that. Did i learn yes redeemed. We'll sure still man i. I made a bad. I made a rookie move made a bad decision good intent so now here i am now here. These people are listening now who are concerned about the decision that they make tomorrow the when they did yesterday and they wanna be at peace but they also know man. I have the power to screw things up here. How do we again. We're back to that balance of a reconciliation of. I wanna be at peace. I wanna be okay but oh my gosh. What's the decision more. What's the priority right now. What do i do because. I don't know if i'm going to pay the mortgage this this month and this is something that's it feels like it's all on me. It's a hold on me. It's all on speak to that in reference to that yes so that was my two thousand eight right again. I i i what happened. Was i was making ten thousand dollars a month. Mike expenses would probably about eight right eh mortgage at a car payment seven. Maybe on i was debt free and then the economy started to crash and i am the eternal optimist i sent in two thousand eight. I coined a new quote after i not into those name but afterwards looking doc i went wow there's a fine line between optimism and delusion at i cross it often right so thousand eight people were like oh man the economy's in trouble or you worried and i'd go. I create my own economy. I don't i don't watch the news. I'm not i'm not you know blah. Blah blah blah blah and i'm like oh win the economy's failing and your clients clients are can't afford to pay you right 'cause they're in sales and they're not making sales. Oh that's a real thing and then i lost my first client and broke wrote my heart on mcmahon. I've never lost a client but they said it wasn't me it was they. They can't afford it. I believe them okay all right. Let's move on and then. I lose to clients and actually a whoa. Whoa whoa what's the point is i. I've been there right and and i would love to save you from the depression that that i did go through at that time because i didn't know what i'm telling you now. I didn't understand that and i will granted. It is easier said than done it is. I'm not going to pretend that when you're going through it. It's difficult but but here's the deal on. I just want to reference this and then i'll speak to me and said but i i just wanna. Everything's important so back then. I didn't know what i'm telling you now day. However when i was diagnosed with cancer and i and i would arguably i would say that that was way more difficult than two thousand and eight right way. Scarier wasn't like well. I'm in finding a financial down point. It was like the the doctors are telling me. I am probably going to die and i have a seven year old and a four year old who i love more than life itself and i and i'm thinking every day about them. Growing up without a father right like i mean it was it was for riffing but i was genuinely at peace ace because and here's why actually this is a really important lesson in fact. This is the crux of the first half of my keno so i'll try to not turn it into a twenty minute. Let's see i gotta keep it in a minute lesson but here's i learned this after my car accident. I don't think we talked about that. When i was twenty years old i was hit head on by a drunk driver at eighty miles an hour or seventy or eighty miles an hour and i died for six minutes. I broke eleven bones diet for six minutes. It's been six days in a coma suffered. Internal bleeding punctured lung ruptured spleen. The permanent brain damage knows what i would never walk again. When i came out of the coma i was happy. I was completely at peace with it because i couldn't change it and this is the lesson that i didn't didn't understand that i was living at the time it was in hindsight looking back to understand it. Here's what i've learned. If you're listening and kevin this is directly answering your question in every negative emotion that you have ever felt every negative emotion that you're feeling now and when i say negative emotion negative negatives of relative term you could say is it negative is it what if you learn from it blah blah blah. I'm talking about the emotions that in general you call negative kevin you mentioned regret. That's a negative emotion right that that that causes you pay emotional pain on anger sadness fear resentment. These are all what i would categorize as let's call alum destructive emotions right there destructive emotions every here's the lesson and this changed my life more than probably any other ever. This is wii felt almost no emotional pain during my car accident almost no emotional pain during my cancer journey because every negative emotion that we've ever felt felt is self created. It's not happening because of the thing that we think is causing it. The debt the car accident whatever outright the the the failing marriage every negative emotion that we've ever felt or feeling our could ever feel is self created by our resistance sense to our reality in other words to the degree that we wish want that something didn't happen wasn't happening now or wouldn't happen in the future to the degree that we wish and want that it the the unchangeable wasn't what it was is the degree that we create emotional pain for ourselves so think about it. If something bad happens and i'll use to exalt us an extreme example. I'll use a very common example most people when i give in the speech i say how many of you hate traffic and they all raised their hand. They're like i h all the audience right. I okay if this get out of the speech today. You got your money's worth right on when i i used to hate traffic right imagine we hit travel. Oh no come on. I'm running late. I don't have time for this today. Call on and we spend thirty minutes in traffic stressed out gripping the steering wheel ten our shoulders right and then i applied the lesson i just taught which is weight every negative emotions. It is caused by a resistance to reality. So how do you cure that. How do you solve that the opposite of resistance acceptance when you accept something. You can't can't change you. Give yourself a gift of being at peace with it now. It doesn't mean you're happy. I wasn't happy i had cancer. I'm not happy there's traffic but peace. Peace is not an emotion. She happiness is an emotion. It's a positive one right happiness excitement gratitude blah blah blah right having motion emotions are fleeting. You can be the abbey one minute and a phone call with the bad news changes that do your emotional state swings from benson sadness but when you accept things you can't change in between the the emotion of happiness and sadness is a state of being that i would call piece and it's emotionally neutral when your piece you didn't get to choose your emotion so when i'm in traffic instead of going and resisting it going out by the way kevin let me ask you a question does resisting the trafficking picking getting frustrated and angry and stressed out does that move the cars in front of you any faster not yet sometimes i act as if i have faith it will someday it doesn't the hasn't done anything yet so so what that is telling us is that resisting our reality and causing emotional pain serves no no valuable purpose. It does not fix the thing it just makes us. Miserable causes the pain so here's what i realized i wait a minute so what if instead of resisting that there was traffic in wishing their work and getting frustrated angry and upset. What if i just accept what if i took a deep breath i say three really powerful words can't change it. I can't change it so there's no value in wishing i could so why don't i just be at peace with it so now when i hit traffic even by running late and there's going to be a negative consequence at the the end of the journey i take a deep breath. I smile as it can't can't change. It and i'll remind myself. I can't change what i can't change but i can choose. I can't change the outside world but i can choose the inside world world and i can choose to be the happiest grateful at peace while i go through the unwanted circumstance that i'm enduring and so in traffic nick you can choose to turn up the radio or turn off the radio smile be grateful the excited via piece. Whatever the hell you want whatever the heaven you want. I should say right and that's it and that's a microcosm for life in the same way that you can choose your internal emotional experience i during the thirty minutes of traffic despite what's going on around you that you don't want you can choose the emotional internal experience every remo moment of every day for the rest of your life regardless of what's happening around you and when i was diagnosed with cancer i told my wife as she was is in tears fearful that he was gonna lose her husband. I said sweetheart. I i don't expect you to to buy what to say in fact you might get mad when i say this but i have decided see. I decided this cancer will be the best thing that ever happened to me and i think she hit me and i think she got mad and said how the hell how how can you can say that. How can you say that and i can tell you. I still don't think she agrees. I guess what i went through it. I was the one getting chemo. I was the one in the are almost dead many times and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. You and i don't say that in hindsight alone i said that every single day and as my dad who was my caretaker and my wife who was my caretaker caretaker as they were in tears watching me go through this i was comforting them and saying hey this is meant to be. I'm learning learning. I'm growing and on the other side of the most difficult time of our lives. I believe that the best version of myself is there and i truly believe that it's true and it's a self fulfilling prophecy so if i could do it in traffic or if i could do it when i was on my near my deathbed you can do it anywhere in between how everyone listening if i had the ability to have some music commend right now i guess i could do that in editing song later some powerful for music and dramatic pause because i had that pulled out of the book how you have. It's actually what he spoke folks as chapter four commendable. Yes yes becoming emotionally. The subtitle is listen to this looks how to release every negative emotion. That's ever held you back. Okay i read that and right away kind of not not bristle but i like wait a minute but then i read it again how to release every negative emotions emotion. That's ever held you back. He didn't say how not to feel and i think we get that message. Every once in a while i mean that's a psychopath. It's how to to release and and it's hard for me not to feel like maybe it's just where i am at or where i am with my own influence and personal development to feel like like there may be that may be the most important thing that people don't get anything else if they can get that to deal with those negative emotions and well you know i do want you to speak to the five minute rule because they're going to say i could close. Please do <hes> because i get it. I think oh my gosh. That's a monster monsters. If we can embrace that talk about changing the world which i know is your is your effort right now but talk about that because this is something that we know you know. Everybody is dealing clean with pretty much every single day whether it's the traffic or whether it's a pending divorce whether it's an illness or a disease that you can't stand and and every time they do something just boil your blood right not enough not enough money in the bank. Yeah whatever it is right now that you can't change at least in this moment even and you're saying you're giving them a you're giving them. A superpower is what you're trying to do but again. It's not just an easy you know. Say it and believe it and just go forward. You actually have a methodology and folks shamelessly go by the book. This is not a book that you just read get the message and go on. This is one you study. Take action on like we started talking about this apply to your life and make a change change and i have how here right now who i did not know at all until days ago. I've been reading this stuff and i am enamored. I'm actually i'm going to ask for a good deal a bunch of books how autograph fan to some family members of mine okay so all. I want you to hit that and this is a got a folks. I want you to hear this with gravity. This is not simplistic. Just like you did say a minute ago easier said than done. Oh my gosh granted. Obviously you're talking about some big deal issues but but talk about the five minute rule because i want folks to leave this show and ruminate if nothing else on that yeah so yeah so i can't take total credit it for in fact. I take credit for very little because i'm just a product of all the mentors that i've had in my life. I'm here to give you credit so we're cool. Their yachts folks. Here's the deal so when i had my car accident and i was i was told i would never walk again and a <unk> applied the miracle equation which i did did develop time to unwavering faith that i would walk again extrordinary effort everyday visualizing praying going to therapy physical therapy really oak yeah but here's the deal i was so positive and happy go lucky focused on it and telling the doctors that they were saying. I was never gonna walk and i go look. I respect your opinion. You're an expert in medicine but you're not an expert in me. I i'm going to believe walk again but if i don't i'm at peace with it so again holding two opposing ideas bryce i had learned something in my sales training at cut co. You're now prior cold five minute rule which is what led to this mindset. I just shared with this this idea accepting all things you can't change in an actionable strategy that you can implement on our manager taught us. Hey when you go out there and you're in the sales field in in the sales world. It's just like it's a microcosm for life. You're going to encounter a lots of disappointment and failure. You're going to set a goal. You're not gonna hit. You're going to get a huge order from your best customer customer. You're gonna go by treat yourself to dinner and they're going to call the next day and they're gonna cancel the order right. I mean he just giving us a reality check right and he's trying to destroy you're goes. You're gonna have a lot of great stuff happened but you're going to be able to deal with the bad stuff. Keep moving forward to give the great stuff and he said so. I'm gonna teach you the five minute. The five minute rule says it's it's okay to be negative when something goes wrong but not for more than five minutes. There's no point in dwelling on it and wishing you can change it wishing. It didn't happen feeling sorry for yourself itself feeling upset about it when it's now in the past whether it's five minutes or five days or five decades right and so the way the five minute will work that he literally taught us when if something happens that doesn't meet what you want right. Meet your expectation. If something bad happens we'll say right for lack of a better term. He said you set your time. Run your phone for five minutes and you give yourself five minutes to moan complain cry vent to somebody else compl- whatever right and he said when the timer heimer goes off after five minutes. You've you've given yourself chance to feel the emotion. He said you say three very powerful words and i already said a murder can't change range it. Let's remind yourself that if i can't go back in time and change it which unless you're mardi mc fly with the delorean yet can't go back in time and change budget. He said there's no value dwelling on it in a negative way and being upset about it he said the only intelligent choice to make at that point is to accept except it be at peace with it and then and then be proactive and go get on the phone and make more coal schedule my appointments and go make more sales right and so when i added my car accident. The doctors thought i was in denial. They call my parents in a week. After i came out of the coma two weeks after the actual crash happen even in a hospital bed i had i don't even know if i had stood at that point and i'm saying i'm all positive and the doctors told me at my parents and they said we believe leave that how is in denial or he's delusional or something because he's always happy and smiling and laughing and they said frankly that's not normal. You know it's not normal for twenty year old young man on that we're telling he's not going to walk again to be like okay well. You know if that's how that's how it is fine but i'm probably you know document that night. He talked to me and he said how. How are you feeling at the doctors. Thank you know denying your emotions and not feeling them and he said it's really important to feel them here. In the hospital where it's safe and the your psychologists and psychiatrists they can work through them with you and he said how are you really feeling or or you. Deep down or sad that this happened are you. Are you scared. You know oh you won't walk again or you angry. You know your mom and your frigging livid with this drunk driver and imagine you might be to how are you really feeling and i look at my dad and so you know his his eyes or tearing up he's really emotional and i really i really went inside and thought about it. Am i sad in my scared engery kevin. It probably took me thirty to sixty seconds to answer him and i went down. I thought i smiled. I thought i thought you better than that. He said well what do you. What do you mean i said remember. I live my life by the five minute rule. It's a reminder that is i said okay. It's okay to be negative enough on the five minutes. It's been two weeks since the crash and i said i and here's a really really valuable lesson for people to get to the story here. I said i can't change that. I was in a car accident and i may never walk again. I i don't know <music>. I'm putting on believed in maintaining faith that i can but i don't actually know if i can i said so. I've already considered the worst case scenario that i will never walk again and i'm in a wheelchair the rest of my life dad and i visualize myself in the wheelchair with a smile and i have decided if i'm in a wheelchair the rest of my life i will we'll be the happiest most grateful human being that you've ever seen in a wheelchair because i'm in a wheelchair either way either i can be miserable in a wheelchair chair and blame the wheelchair for my emotional lack of emotional wellbeing and my victim or i can be happy and grateful for all of the infant things. I have be happy and grateful for outside of being in a wheelchair. I said that's the worst case. Scenario dot is i'm. I'm happy and grateful for the rest of my life. That's not so bad you and mom don't need to worry about. I said for the second possibility that is i will walk again. I don't even know if it's possible but i i also don't know if it's impossible so all of my energy all of my emotion i'm visualizing. I'm praying imagining all. I've accepted the worst case scenario so i don't think about it. I don't i don't dwell on it. I don't it causes me no pain. All of my energy goes into what i want which is to walk again and if i never walk again kind of flip a switch and all your well. I guess it's the other vision that i spent five minutes on which is i'm never gonna walk in so that's my new life and it's going to be a great life not going to be dependent on the wheelchair. It's going to be a great life and so we can apply that and that's what i would encourage everyone to ask themselves. What is your wheelchair. What's the circumstance in in your life past present or even the perceived future that you're afraid of the 'cause you emotional pain and realize that you can be the happiest and most gratefully never been wall. You're in traffic will you're in financial ruin while you're in a wheelchair. Warrior battling cancer being told you're never going to walk again and losing all your body weight and i am being in pain and you know right sick and throwing up and exhausted and still smiling they do not happy mutually exclusive and a five minute rule by the way is a great segue because it gives you because here's what happens by the way i'm gonna close out with this part of an when. I learned a five minute row from my manager. I was like you gotta be kidding five minutes. Can i get like a five hour ruler of day rule like i need a little longer to be upset. When something goes wrong and here's what happened kevin. I sent my time for five minutes in the first few times they did that. It went off and i went. I like angrily turned off by phone or herself for another five and i was like damn it. I knew i needed more time to be upset right and everybody listening you. Sprite thank you but here's what happens. You're changing your conscious awareness awareness and after doing it for a few i mean literally it was only a few days and i've had hundreds of people send emails and tell me this is true for them. After few days i would set the timer for five minutes and again. This was in the context of sales adversity right. I remember. I had a customer cancel of her appointment. It was one of the last appointments either an order an appointment of free which one but i remember i know how i was like it was like it was the last day of the sales contest. I really had no time to make it up. I set the timer five minutes and i go son of a oh. I can't believe she did that to me. I'm so close to my goal how up i walk over and i picked up my phone and i had about four minutes thirty two seconds left and i went what's the point of me being upset over over something that i can't change for the next four and a half minutes when i could probably make three or four kohl's and get another point to make up for that. I'd rather be proactive. Active than reactive i'd rather move forward than focus on the past and so the five minute rule became the five second rule and ultimately became as i talked about in the book. I've accepted life before it happens meaning. I know adversity in undesirable. Circumstances are inevitable for the rest of my life so i've already accepted all of them before they happen. That's why when i was diagnosed with cancer like i don't expect you to hear this and go oh well. I got cancer tomorrow. I can do the same. No you had a practice tracks five minute rule for thirty days and and then realize oh i have the power to completely accept everything that is out of my control and therefore give myself the gift if the peace with it and move forward and that really is the lesson well. I don't know how to say this with enough gravity. This is not on a good message so ziglar listeners. I haven't brought you another good message. This is a paradigm shift to instigate massive life off change. I'm going to go back just real quick to where you talked about our innate our ancestry our heritage of survival and arrest that is normal. We have to be we want to be if we want more. We have to be abnormal. We have to be weird. Call it. Whatever you want to so for what you're talking about right there for something bad to happen for something tragic to happen for some folks who were products of tragedy that happened forty years ago to hear what you're talking about into not have long-term anger to not have bitterness than not have sorrow to not have criticism to not have that is is abnormal that is weird. What you said over and over is that that did not just come to you in a little didn't come to you in the fortune fortune cookie message and change your life that you had been training in that ability for days and weeks and months and years and folks that's. I'm going to go back to the books because we have so. I say this a lot. You know there's always more we could talk on. There's multiple shows here in an immense way. You get into these books. Get into this message and study this because i don't know exactly how how that you've brought it in such tangible way way in with such clarity but what you're talking about is massive but i love you also cash it in this takes training. This is every day and back to your miracle morning. This comes in those little deposits every single day. We're just about to wrap this up and then we're going to record the habit show that when people are here in this it'll be the let's see two shows from then and you can hear about more of his habits but that is what he's going back to and like you said with the analogy early on none of it specifically hard. It's not rocket science. It's not dramatically challenging. It's just doing it day in and day out but from that what you've talked about there probably one of the most radical life life changes. I think anybody any of us could experience is to be able to take something deal with it. Move on and like you said i how is that negative feeling going going to help. It's going to do nothing but hurt us and we can let it go. We have that ability but we're going to have to grow it. We're going to have to grow it to earn. I guess that's it. I mean when the car accident happened. I had been practising five minute rule almost every single day for your half when the cancer happened ivan practically ask five minute rule every day for eighteen years. Wow you know so that for me. It wasn't like i learned it and then i applied to to cancer or a learning i applied as beholden to walking and it was a year and a half of practicing it where my my default mindset was like well. We can't change. I'm not gonna be upset about it when we can best it before. It's massive folks. Folks are gonna wanna hear. This is show seven seven seven nine is our habits show which we're gonna record right now to tune into that one man thank you so much for doing and what you've done to bring these messages to us to take the tragedies in your own life and redeem them through the millions of people that you're reaching and for or the tens of thousands you'll reach here on the show and and honestly for me. How thank you so much for being with us. It's an honor man. Thanks for having me friends as you heard me say. I believe this message right here from hal elrod hits at the very root of personal development. Will we take action or not if you're not totally satisfied with your own personal progress which i mean who of us is this is a message the not just here but the study and marinade it. I highly recommend you checkout house. Core book the miracle morning but then this new book is massive the miracle equation you can find it at the miracle equation dot com com plus his annual event best year ever live dot com check all those out. We're coming up next in show seven eight how to master the call of your smartphone. I mean we control our lives right. Actually most of us struggle with many areas such as you you know getting enough sleep and exercise curb your appetite for tasty but unhealthy food and investing intimate relationships and more a relatively new threat we are now finding the need to budget and put boundaries on the communication and media portal of the world's we now carry in our pockets are smartphones and what started with text text messages has now ballooned to over two point two million apps enough to keep your attention twenty four hours a day though it's just a handful of social media apps command the lion share everyone's attention but the question is how are you doing. Do you control your device or is it controlling you so i went to the ziglar audience and ask them. Have you done anything anything to limit your smartphone usage. Have you found yourself being distracted by most cited steps they are taking to limit their time and many admit it to the struggle and it was inspiring to hear what some of the things gained back now that they put limits on their phone. You're gonna get some great ideas from this. Show on how you can better manage your smartphone usage for your own benefit and joy and productivity and what those positive payoffs really are so till then thank you as always always for letting me walk with you as we inspire are true performance together <music>.

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1623: Epic Achiever: Hal Elrod: The Miracle Equation for Success

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1623: Epic Achiever: Hal Elrod: The Miracle Equation for Success

"Welcome to the conscious millionaire epic Achiever Show Episode Number Sixteen Twenty Three Welcome to conscious millionaire the number one show for the conscious entrepreneur. Who has to make your first million joint? JV On each episode as he interviews a millionaire entrepreneur or world class expert. You're listening into the conscious millionaire network named in INC magazine. As one of the top business podcasts and heard by twelve million listeners and one hundred ninety countries now join your host host. JV trump the third mindset and Strategy Expert Serial Entrepreneur and author of the number one international bestseller conscious billionaire. Grow Your Business By making a difference. This is J. V. Chrome to third CEO of conscious millionaire with an important question for established entrepreneurs who WanNa make more prophets. You WanNA learn how to engineer your Prophet Upfront. So you can actually predict it. Discover the six steps to improve who've your prophets and get your business on the path to predictable. Prophets Andrew at coach and analytics is waiting to speak with you. Just text or call. His who sell at seven seven zero seven one three three three three three again taxed or call Andrew Andrew at seven seven zero seven one three three three three three. Discover the six steps to improve your profits. Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of the Conscious Millionaire Epoch achiever show. Thank you for joining us today. I'm your mindset coach. Marcus Aurelius Anderson. And I'd like to give a big welcome to all of you who are trying to turn your adversity into an opportunity and turn the opportunity into epic whim today. I have an incredible credible guest. This is a man who truly influenced me especially when I was going through the hardship of my -versity of paralysis. And when I was trying to recover let me tell you a little bit about my future yesterday after surviving multiple near death experiences and impacting millions of lives through his books. How elrod is now? On a mission to elevate the consciousness of humanity one person at a time as the best selling author of literally one of the highest ranked books in the world the miracle morning which has been translated into thirty four different languages and has sold over for one million copies and practice daily by over five hundred thousand people around the world. He is doing exactly that House here today to talk about the next step in his mission. Listen to help you take your life to the next level with his newest book the Miracle Equation The two decisions that move your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable inevitable. This man's work has had a tremendous impact on me and again I found his book whenever I was trying to recover from my paralysis. Please help me welcome this incredible man. Hal Elrod Hall. Thank you so much for being here. My friend I appreciate you taking the time the mark is it is an honor. Because as I mentioned I had on my podcast and Fell in love with you and your your spirit and your work at that point and so yeah so I'm I'm grateful to To be with you now. I'm so grateful for you as well at another. You're incredibly busy. So thank you for taking the time and so we'll just jump right in there all the advice you have. I love because it's so pragmatic and you talk about a way to redefine your goals. That you say will make it. Impossible to fail and this removes. WHO's the fear of failure? Can you tell my listeners. A little bit about that. Yeah I like that. We started there. the I I will just say I learned this from my mentor. Dan CASSETTA Sette In my former company that was with for six years Cut Go and I believe he learned this from the Great Jim. Rohn you know The they say there are or no new ideas right. But but there's there's always new ways to hear them and often at a new time in our lives when the light win the lesson can make a really radical impact. Well this this lesson changed my life when I learned it and I think for most people today. It's it's really a life changing less than because we've typically you goals in a very black and white paradigm. It's it's either. I hit the goal and I have succeeded or I don't hit the goal and I have failed and that fear of not hitting the goal whether it's the fear of failure or maybe the fear of wasting our time right. which would if I why would I give everything a happening? Not Reach the goal and then it's a waste of what what was the point of it and the the purpose of a goal and I'm GonNa Paraphrase what was taught by the Great Jim Ryan in the way that I applied in my life. The purpose of goal is not to hit the goal. That is that is a purpose that is one of them. But when I say the ultimate purpose of goal I'm talking about what is the greatest value available to you in setting in working towards a goal regardless of whether or not you hit it and so in that context the purpose of goal is to develop the qualities characteristics to be able to achieve your goals not just the one year working towards now but hopefully bigger and better goals in the future that you have yet to even imagine Agean so when you think about it. If you don't hit the goal but you literally give it everything you have which by the way. That's the only way you develop. Those qualities knows characteristics is to really contain unwavering. Self belief unwavering faith that you can do it before the extraordinary effort every day and really give it everything you have regardless of where you the end up. Most people are not on track for the goal. They throw in the towel early. And they're like guessing not gonna hit it. It's like Whoa. You're not you're not done growing. You're not done becoming. You're not done developing the qualities and characteristics of goal achievement of someone who can do anything but your mind too so you know theoretically if you work work towards a goal in that way. Get everything you have. You developed more disciplined more consistency more belief in yourself through the efforts. But let's say you missed the goal. Well that doesn't change who you became. That doesn't change those qualities in those characteristics that mindset those habits those behaviors those the skills the knowledge you attain that lasts indefinitely right the hitting the goal like I said it's a monetary gopher example. Right money spent vent real quick and then it's like. was that really the goal. The goal isn't like in the book chapters. Called the goal is not the goal right because you think the goal is the goal. But it's not the goal. It's who you become. That is really your ultimate goal and the greatest benefit that's available to you. That's so powerful reminds me Bruce. Lee's quote where he says. The the the goal is not necessarily what you're trying to achieve be you're trying to achieve the person who will achieve that goal. So that's Jim Rohn stole from Bruce Lee our we all enjoy Minjiang. Bruce Lee probably got it from the Bible or knows right. That's it I mean and that's the beautiful thing about it because we respect him. We absorb the truth irrespective of source and if they can help the bus help more people than is our responsibility to try to use it so I love that. That's that's so powerful now before we dive into the murky equation. which is your nurse book? I WanNa take a member to touch on the book your best known for the Miracle Morning. which is the one that like? I said somebody gave it to me whenever I was trying to recover. I just got out of the military and I didn't know what to do with my life and for me. Even the recovery was difficult. The hardest thing to know what to do next was would I do with my life okay. I've recovered I'm I'm able to walk again. There has to be a meaning to this. What do I do with? I thought so your book the Miracle Morning gave me an incredible direction and helped me a lot with that. So what is the difference between the the miracle morning and your newest book that you're talking about today yeah other than the word miracle right in both titles the miracle morning is Trying to think of the best way to explain this and you think this is what I talked about all the time. I should have this down but but the thing is I have it down in a ten minute explanation. I'm trying to save the listeners. From that timid explanations so so my elevator herbage of the miracle morning is a daily practice for personal And it is interestingly enough. It is based on the work of Jim Rohn it. It was actually in A. Here's the quick story. Two Thousand Eight on I was at my rock bottom like I had the economy had crashed and I lost over half my clients And therefore I lost my income I could not pay my bills particularly my mortgage. The bank foreclosed on my house. And I was it really at the lowest point in my life life where I cancelled my gym membership. I had on my body. Fat percentage had tripled in in six months in that same six months time I had grown into a depression for the first time in my life and because I was scared to nothing I did my income cup. Declining declining declining and my debt kept growing couldn't buy groceries. I was living on a credit card and Just to be really clear. So people have a total clarity on what that was like it was I was earning. I adjust surpass ten thousand dollars a month in income before the economy crashed and when it crashed I was at forty six hundred a month. Something like this right I was I had lost over half my income. Gums and my mortgage alone was thirty. Five hundred with taxes of rights plus added car payment. So it's like I I. I paid those in that with and then eventually something in the mortgage. Because I couldn't buy food you you know and I was living on the credit card and so on long story short. I actually long story a little bit less long. I ended up talking to one of my closest friends who is now my business partner. In Seoul in my best friends John Awfully run live events together and masterminds and such but I reached out to John and said Hey John. I haven't told anybody this 'cause I just you know I'm. I'm a success coach so if advertising that I'm failing miserably is kind of counterintuitive. If you're I'm not sure what to do but I also felt like a fraud by the way marcus because of that. 'cause I mike who might coach Yvan being successful when I can't be successful myself I'm falling apart and and I told John and I said what do I do do anything man. You're you're one of the smartest guys I know. What should I do? And he answered with a couple of questions he said. Let me ask you a question. Are you run. Are you exercising reciting every day and got kind of upset. I thought what the heck I literally said. What the hell does that do anything? I just told you right like are you not. Are you playing a game on your phone or something and not listening like what I just told you might. My world is crumbling financially. And you're like oh you exercising every knicks so if it hello. I'm serious if you're not putting yourself in peak physical mental and emotional state through daily exercise you are going to stay at the level of consciousness that got you in that situation relation you've got to increase your level or racial consciousness elevated so that you are thinking at a higher level said in the most fundamental way to do that is get blood. Oh I didn't oxygen running through your body up to your brain every single day if I were you I'd go for a run or a jog for staying in the morning. I go okay all all right you know you got me there. At what else and he said are you engaging in personal development every day I said honestly no man. I'm literally in survival mode like I wake up by going my office. I do what I can do. And then I work until my eyes are bleeding from looking at the computer till nine o'clock at night and then I go to bed you know and maybe veg out on TV for an hour for in the evening or whatever typical most people wake up at the last minute right route trudge through their day watch some TV go to bed. Rinse and repeat and wonder why. Don't I have the extraordinary life that I see other people have. I want that I feel like I deserve. I'm a good person right. And so he said if I were you I'd go for a run the next morning and I would listen to a self help audio. And he recommended Jim Rohn ironically by the way his mentor that I learned that I lost from we had the same mentor. Dan Cassetta who learned from Jim Ryan. I just literally put that together right now so all him. Yeah Yeah exactly. And by the way if you don't know Tony Robbins Opens Mentor. Dr Jim Ryan Nuts. He's like he was one of the first people in the industry to really any some of its losses are the most wise in affable right. I'm asking you nodding your head Marcus. Yeah but But so I listened to Jim Audio that John and recommended and I went for run the next morning and I was begrudgingly right. I'm like this is so stupid I should be in my office making calls trying to get clients lance why am I running right now and listening to audio. This is not like and that's the problem. We we think that to to achieve more. We need to do more and what I was about to learned from the repeat from from Jim is the secret to achieving more is not necessarily doing more. It's becoming more and when you become more as in more capable more qualified more educated knowledgeable more skilled you can actually achieve more by doing less oftentimes and and so I'm on this Ron and I'm like Oh. This is so stupid and John and Jim Ryan says your level of success will sell them exceed your level of personal development because success is something you had tracked by the person you become and listening to that and I had probably heard it before like I said. There's no new wisdom. I think we had heard him say that before. But it's like the timing is everything and hopefully we're listening to this. You're in what I'm going to share it today. We'll save this and I say this in total humility. I'm going to share some things today. Not Everything I share is going to be life changing but I promise you if you'll listen for the next twenty minutes if you haven't really got something like you will get at least a a a thing or two that is already changing millions of people's lives humility. But so here's what I heard what I heard earned what I received. I thought okay. Wait a minute Jim is saying your level of success will seldom exceed your level of personal development will personal development. A sounds a little vague on what that was. I thought I'm guessing it's like growing myself like reading and learning to be meditating. My rightly practices. That helped me become a better version of myself. Okay I am not doing that. On a consistent basis and most people are not right in terms of dedicating time each day like a golden. Oh you know block sacred our of becoming a better version of the person you were when he went to bed the night before very few people do right and I wasn't doing it consistently at all it was. I started book and then get bored and start another book. That was like my personal right. Yeah you get into a board. Never really get anything out of the book other than like. ooh Good. I I like that idea. And I'm going to go onto the next one. And then Jim said because your level of success is something you attract by the person who become and in that moment for whatever reason my brain quantified that and maybe this is helpful for you. If you're listening. I went on a scale of one to ten. I want level ten success in every the area of my life and I think that's true for all of us. Human beings have that desire to fulfill our potential. We want level ten health level tin finances level ten relationships. If you're a parents want to be a level ten as a parent as spout wrecks we want to be an have an do experience. The absolute best that is possible in in life but very few people I realize. Here's the disconnect. I want level Tim success in my life. My Love will personal development is like attitude maybe three or four. We're on a good day and if you're right now marcus can teach them on video right. My hands are separated. They got level ten of the top level to toward the bottom. There's a big disconnect in between and I believe that's the disconnect for the majority of society is everybody wants a level in life but most people aren't not that they're not willing. It's more than I think because I wasn't aware I was I was I didn't go. Oh I thought I needed to follow the rules. Go to school go to college get a degree. Get a good job. I thought that was it. No one told me no. No no no you gotta dedicate time name in your self education if you WANNA level to marriage. You've got to be reading books on marriage. If you WANNA be remembered reading books on parenting you've only wealthy. You better be either reading books or studying funding individuals in some way spending time with those that are already wealthy so you can learn what it takes and so in that moment. Miss was the epiphany that led a miracle morning and it was. I've got the most extraordinary personal development rich or I should say effective personal Ritual in the history of mankind So that I can turn my life around as fast as humanly possible and so I went home and I just Google best personal development practices personal practices of millionare's what what. CEO's do for personal growth in belly just phrase after phrase at the phrase and I was making a list. CROSS-REFERENCING SITES ENTREPRENEUR AND INK AND HOLD OPRAH DOT COM and huffington impose. And you name it. And I had a list of six practices and I am a couple problems. Number one was. None of these are new. Meditation Affirmations Visualization Exercise Reading journaling. So I almost went where's the magic thing I don't know about because I already ever heard of these. I've read a book of the right. You know but it's not what you live. It's what you learn. It's what you live right so the question is do I know what meditation is. Yes am I heard that people swear by successful. Sure do I do it regularly. Oh that's that's the problem right. And that's the weird part of our brain things. If we know it was something like that's enough like never like we turn off and we hear something. We note that many done it in this episode. When I just listed off of practice you go now her those before? Like what what else. I'm going to switch to try to find something I've never heard before which is so silly right. It's like no no. If you want to be healthy there's no secret it's eat healthy healthy food and exercise regularly so I hope that if someone tells you that you don't go now before doing it new gives you. I don't care if you heard meant are you doing it. So that for me I was like. I'm not doing these practices but I go. which was the one? That's can have the biggest impact in my life and I'm looking at the list of reading the articles and I can't figure out one one is better than the other and then I go. What if I did all of these? And that was the epiphany. What if I woke up tomorrow and I did? Ten minutes of each of the six most timeless proven personal development actresses actresses in the history of humanity that the world's most successful people in all walks of life from Olympians professional athletes to C. E. O.'s. You name it. They swear. Swear by any one of these as a life changer. If I did all of them that would be the ultimate morning ritual. I woke up the next morning. I did all six of these. I sucked at all of them. Marcus I had. Never meditated meditated before I you know I knew how to read. Of course I had an extra Of Most I did not have permission was like I was half my time was googling what what's an affirmation. How do I save? This and I found a lot of cheesy stuff that resonate with so I've I've really redone that in the mirror corning book but anyway to bring this to ahead. Even though I sucked at it I felt so inspired so energized and I went I had clear day go if I start every day with this pre these practices every day I will become a better version of the person was when I went to bed the night before. I'll get a little bit better a little better a little more knowledgeable a little more educated more confident a little bit better more effective beliefs. It's only a matter of time and I was thinking six twelve months that I could turn things around and this is why it's called the miracle morning it didn't have a name in the beginning in less than two months I went from forty forty six hundred a month in income to twelve thousand dollars in income. The most I'd ever earned in my entire life in two months economy still a toilet. Didn't get a new job. Just they got clarity on how to improve. My current business didn't change anything Abney. They just got clients got new plans on. I was bringing worship of my life having my body. Fat percentage triple not having exercise for six months to committing to run eight fifty two Mile Trevan which I trained for and completed on and My depression went away the first day I mean I won't say it was gone but it was from like an eight to a four and three and then to a two within days because I had so much optimism around this morning ritual and what it was doing for to me and for me and I told my wife and my sweetheart we just hit our biggest income ever uh we just. I'm I'm training. I've never run in my life and I'm on fire like I'm not depressed anymore. I'm good in. I go this little morning. Ritual fricken miracle. Well she goes. It's your miracle morning and I go. Oh my gosh you're right and then just a in essence of time already gone way over. What was planning there I'll just say the Epiphany shared coaching clients was that it was changing their lives. They all started when I told him this go. I'm not a morning personnel. I go Kay but are you willing to do something different. And Improve Your self reliant. They're like yeah final. Try It for a week and every single one of my clients except for one it was like eleven out of twelve or fourteen number six fifteen something like that. They all came back going holy crap. I'm a morning person that you're right. I saw the same types of benefits. Fits that you described with such passion. Hell and and then the epiphany was the light bulb was if this miracle morning thing changed my life and I wasn't a morning person if it's changing my clients lives in a matter of weeks. None of them were morning people. This could change the world and that was seven eight nine years ago The Miracle Morning published in two thousand twelve my bio. You mentioned a million copies. I just got word. We surpassed two million copies in sales. Wow and it's translated in thirty seven languages I I just got back to France years ago to promoted the Rian me to Italy the bring me to Brazil like it's it's crazy and I don't share any of that to be like look at me I'm getting brought. I don't care yeah right. The point is if it changed my life my clients lives and millions of people's lives and when we made our audience. Marcus was a really interesting data. Point the seventy two percents of they never in their life been a morning person for they read the miracle morning. So if you're listening like yeah this sounds great but like I hate waking up in the morning like join the club. That's what everybody that's doing the miracle morning most of them were in the same boat so so yeah so that that's the miracle morning. And now we're on this mission the elevate consciousness as you mentioned one morning at a time one person at a time and it. It's kind of it every day. I pinch myself seeing the results in people's lives is supposedly mine and you are definitely chain line so everyone listened to what how sane knowing is not enough we must act willing is not enough. We must do. We'll be right back and you want to stay tuned because Hal elrod is about to give you an epic twenty four hour challenge. That will help you. Get closer to your next epic win. And we'll also talk more about his current book the Miracle Equation This JV crumble third CEO of conscious milliner within important question for established entrepreneurs who wanNA make more profits. Do you want to engineer your profit upfront. So that you can actually predicted. Download the six steps to improve your profits and get your business. This on the path to predictable profits this e book. Shows you how to plan for your Prophet so you can almost guarantee upfront. What you can take to the bank go to cogent analytics dot com forward slash profit again that's cogent analytics dot com forward award slash profit to download your free six steps to Improve Your prophets e book and if you want to get on the path to higher profit right eight now contact Andrew at coach and analytics? He's waiting to speak with you. So just text or call his cell at seven seven and Ciro seven one three three three three three again text or call Andrew at seven an seven zero seven one three three three three three. Welcome back to the conscious may near epic achiever cheever show. I'm your host. Marcus Aurelius Anderson. And I'm here with the incredible. How elrod thank you so much for joining us today? I am honored to have you as a listener. And as a reminder check out the show notes and everything about today's episode at consciously in epic Achiever Dot Com and also go over to Markus Release Anderson Dot Com to get some more exclusive content. Now what would be that. Twenty four hour piece of advice I see would give to our listeners right now. How that you think would change their life? You've already talked about the miracle morning but there has to be if some people don't WanNa get too many committed to all these six movements that's what would be one thing that they could do right now that they would see a big change that would move the needle for them. Yeah Yeah thank you for the question and I love that because it's behavior change. That changes your life. Hi Fred is not learning something. People read books and thank. They're changing the wife but they're not doing anything with your not necessarily change your life so I love that because it's all about behavior change and here's the one behavior change. I would mention or recommend is I mentioned. There are six practices of the miracle morning and I listed off but I want the they they all Organiz nicely nicely into an acronym and so for this to be more memorable in your brain you picture the acronym I picture it. Vertically S it savers S. A. V. Not are s the practices are the I ss for silence. That's your meditation and or your prayer the for affirmations as a written statements that articulate. Who you're committed to becoming not lying yourself saying you are something you're not on the visas for? Visualization in the world's top athletes use visualization to optimize optimize their emotional internal components. So that when they hit the core it's game time they've already prepared themselves to perform at their best the S. for exercise starting your day with even sixty seconds jumping jacks keeps that blood flowing. It wakes you out preps you for the day the RS for reading In this last essence for scrubbing which is a fancy word for journaling writing etc.. But of course I need an S. for the acronym in full transparency. But here's the point. Any one of those will change your life. This is the Miracle Morning Thirty Day challenge. So we're GONNA say this. Is your twenty four hour challenge. When I give a keynote zoe in my keynote because I say you can't leave the scene of inspiration while someone said right without committing to take new action so wake up thirty minutes earlier and do one one of the sabres? That's it and in that science studies prove that the more we try to change it once the more likely we are to fail or to not not stick with that change which is delayed failure so the idea is wake up thirty minutes earlier now. That might mean you have to get there thirty minutes less Netflix. binging in your schedule at night rights but think about the trade off. It's I'm going to bed thirty minutes earlier to wake up to become the best version of myself. Soft dedicate the first part of my day before all the rest of the day. The business the excuses pile up so that there is no excuse to not dedicate that time to the most most in my i. You know I would say I'll go out on a limb and say the most important thing you could do is dedicate time each morning becoming the best version of yourself to improving the Percy where we into the night before so wake up thirty minutes earlier back your alarm clock right now figure phone. You're listening back it up thirty minutes right and wake up thirty minutes earlier and dedicate that time time to either. Silence Affirmations visualization exercise reading or screaming and whenever I talked to an audience like if the meeting planner bought everybody coffee the Miracle Morning I say look just start with our your yet. The book doesn't get easier now. You'll wake up thirty minutes earlier and you read and when you get to the S in savers favors. You'RE GONNA learn the simplest meditation practice you've ever learn and you're gonNA be like oh I'll do the S. and er tomorrow and a and then you go. SRA right and show you go. You go through easy right but I believe in Murphy Cranston's strategy for change which is don't try to make a quantum leap. Ironically I run the quantum leap league mastermind. So it's kind of a funny that day but Leanne he says lean into it. Just take a baby step. If you WANNA do one hundred push ups today start with one and then the next day due to and the next three we want to quit smoking. Cigarettes go from twenty a day. Don't quit all at once the Waco Turkey. Some people have done that but it's way easier twenty two one thousand nine hundred and it's not too from nineteen eighteen until you get down to four and then three and then to and then probably the hardest one. Is You go from one to zero. But you make a gradual engine will change so that's my twenty challenges simply set your alarm clock back thirty minutes earlier before you go to bed. Import pieces setting your intention. Move your clock walk across the room meters and logistical components. Beating that alarm clock. Make it so you have to get out of bed turn it off. If it's within arm's reach you'RE GONNA fail most of the time because we have very little willpower in those first few seconds arms reaching over to the bedside table to turn it off. Just go across the room. The bathroom whatever. And Yeah and that's IT and wake up thirty minutes earlier that time to your personal development and you will see miracles happen in ways you never imagine does phenomenal. I know that you're short on time. So I'd love to talk a little bit more about your current book. The miracle equation. And you said it's made of two different decisions. That are actually counterintuitive to human nature. Could you give us a brief summary. Summary of with those decisions are and why they're unnatural for us to make. Yeah absolutely and this this idea of the miracle equation. I like to say that people if you don't know my work if you're hearing over the time or even if you read the morning you're like Oh cute. How did another Miracle Book like He? He he's really capitalizing on that. Miracle brand the the irony at Marcus is the miracle morning I started i. May I started practicing it. When I was twenty seven I published it when I was likes likes thirty one? I twenty eight and thirty one on the miracle morning. ICE started earlier in the mirror that was mourning the miracle equation. I started practicing when I was twenty years old and I named it the Miracle Equation when I was twenty years old and I used it to write the miracle morning and promote the miracle morning as well well as beat cancer so so the it's almost a prequel I mean it really is right yes it came out after but it wasn't just a clever marketing idea because of the miracle morning did well. It was when I was diagnosed with cancer two years ago. I was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic. Leukemia PT. I was healthy one week within one week. This cancer is so aggressive it acts so fast ask my heart was on the failing my kidneys were failing and my lawn. My left lung was completely collapsed. And when I was diagnosed with cancer it has third twenty to thirty percent survival rate. So you know I have a seven year old daughter. Four year old son. Wife of woman of my dreams creams who love and the doctor. Saying how. There's a seventy to eighty percent chance. Statistically you're going to die in the next few months we will do the best which the best by the away is the most intensive chemotherapy in existence. I think it's the second most on one hundred hours of chemo consecutively. Every three weeks And so I mean it's it's it's it's. I almost died from multiple times in multiple times. I lost twenty five percent of my body weight and the first day I was diagnosed. I decided this would be the best thing that ever happened to me. And I told the wife and I told it to my friends. I A wall endures. Engine things simultaneously. Yeah I was clear that this is probably going to be the most difficult painful terrifying thing that ever happened to me. And that's why it will be the best because Marcus you and I are on the same page right. The greater the adversity the greater raider the opportunity the greater the advantage. And so on the next. You know. Obviously your brain with a diagnosis that you will. How am I going to beat this? What wh- what the hell am I going to do? The best chance I have or the doctors thirty percent twenty or thirty percent. That's terrible right. That's you wouldn't take your money to a financial financial adviser that said. Hey there's a seventy to eighty percent chance I'M GONNA lose all this for you. Please hand over your money. But that's what I was doing my life right like crazy and so on on within I don't remember the exact time was probably thirty minutes to an hour of being diagnosed racking my brain. I went the miracle equation. That's how I defied the odds in my life you know. We didn't go to the story but when I was twenty ahead on by drunk driver broke eleven bones. What I would never walk again after I died for six minutes and the miracle equation is how I took my first up three weeks later and and and defied the logic of doctors right how I broke every company sales record that I did back when I was in sales how I sold a million bucks in Europe equation? Thank and I went. That's the only way I know how to beat this. And so so I but I but the interesting thing is I had seen. It worked so many times in my life and I'd studied with other people and we're GONNA WE'RE GONNA get into the two decisions here on but I had faith that it worked. I really Lee believed it worked and none of that work. I believe that it was like it was fundamental in crucial. Without it the chemo. Oh may not work it was it was harnessing the mind body connection our ability to feel our body through our thoughts and our intentions. And you think this is. We will know it's not Lou Lou. This is science right. This has been proven. It's been Gosh. I wish I could list studies right now. I don't have those details in my head but you can google it right. Like does newton a mind to google. Mind mind body connection incurring yourself disease. You'll find tons of stuff on it right. It's how I took my first step again. I believe when the doctors they didn't do anything to heal my body. They so did it together. They put a metal rod in my leg but with that they said you're never going to walk again and I said no no no I M and as because of the first decision the miracle equation equation unwavering faith not faith in God and I'm not discounting that but I'm saying this isn't the face where you go I'm GonNa sit back impassively do nothing and An have faith that miracles are going to happen in my life. And someone's going to save. Save me when I talk about unwavering. Faith I'm talking about unwavering faith in yourself and your ability to overcome in anything to achieve anything to do anything anyone else's ever done or better right like unwavering faith by the way that's not I'm not I'm not an atheist I believe in God I pray every day like I'm saying couple the faith with a higher power absolutely right couple of faith with the power of people praying for you absolutely early but the fundamental faith I believe is in ourselves and there's plenty of you know you know spiritual tax support that biblical texts support that on so that's worth unwavering faith in yourself to overcome or accomplish anything that you're committed to the second decision is extraordinary effort now. I always say it's really important to hear this. Those two decisions are deceptively simple in their explanation but extremely rare in their execution right. I in their explanation. You're like Kay. How does that mean I'm supposed to believe in myself and work hard? Great never heard that before that right like wow. I'm really gonNA change my life. No that that doesn't do any but let me ask you this. Give give thought to the world's most successful people in any walk of life however you define success. Those that are made the biggest impact in the world. Like mother. Theresa is are those who have made the most money however you define success look at the world's most successful people almost by default. They live by those two decisions. It's not they don't make them once they make them. Every day they wake up they make them every time they face adversity. They make him every time. There encountered opportunity that they're terrified. They don't know how to take advantage the job right. You know the world's greatest athletes maintain unwavering faith that they can make every shot they take and they performed extrordinary effort diving for the ball until the last minute even if winning looks impossible and those are the athletes goes through the Michael Jordan. The Lebron James Kobe. Bryant's the Wayne Gretzky's that right. Those are the athletes that make the Buzzer beaters. That win at the last minute because when the average person even NBA players who museum baffles example but the average player which is still among the best the world but average compared to the best of the best they have they let fear in doubt. Run Their thinking run their consciousness and therefore run their actions when the game name is on the line the average there goes. Don't look at me dude. We only got ten seconds. Love the seasons on the line. I'm not taking that shot. But the Michael Jordan's the best of the best you'll give me the ball I have unwavering unwavering faith that will make every shot I ever take even if they missed the last five shots the outer I goes off tonight Jordan says no I missed the last five shots but I I want the ball I will make this one more often than not he did so you look at the world's most successful any walk of life you're hard pressed to find one that doesn't doesn't live by those decisions they're not one time decisions to achieve a goal they are an it's an ongoing way of thinking living and showing up to your life that enables you to transcend your limitations transcend what is normal or average for most people and to create what I call miracles and let me end end by defining that word because it is very loaded. I'm not in terms of miracles like these random passive events that you as I mentioned earlier. Wait and pray for but rather other in Europe is a tangible meaningful outcome that is beyond the realm of what you currently believe is probable for you and I'll say that one more time a miracle a tangible meaningful outcome beyond the realm of what you currently believe is probable for you. It's those goals and dreams that no. You have no evidence in your past that you have any right to achieve and therefore by definition by default you have to step out with unwavering faith a in yourself that you can do something that you've never done before by putting forth extraordinary which is really simply consistent effort every day. Doing at least one thing that moves you closer to that predetermined outcome knowing that as long as you live with those two decisions indefinitely for as long as it takes. The only variable is timing. You cannot fail my goal to sell a million copies of the miracle morning and change million lives was to do it in one year. I sold twelve thousand copies. Is that your the next year. I tried to do it again. I saw twenty three thousand copies the second year. Thirty five thousand total. If you do the math I believe it was ninety. Nine point seven percent short of my goal like continued to apply unwavering. Faith that I could do it for the shortening effort by doing hundreds of podcast interviews dozens of TV interviews giving over hundred speeches on and on and on until and that might be the most important word in that that that whole lesson and it took me six years. But I'll a close out with this final thought amount. Is that when you finally get to the point in your life or your business whatever. Your goals are dreams. Whatever it is you're working towards when you you finally get there almost never wished would happen any sooner instead? You look back with clarity going. Oh it had to take this long. I had to go through those challenges. Setbacks hurdles failure disappointments I had to grow. I had to become the person that I became that I am today. And it happened in the perfect timing so with that awareness. Don't wait for hindsight to see the perfection in your challenges your adversity your journey the peace with where you are every day every step of the way while you wake up do your miracle morning of course and then maintain a healthy sense of urgency to put forth that extraordinary ordinary effort that consistent effort to move consistently in the direction of what you want what you deserve and you can't fail you will eventually get there and AL thank you so much that was golden wisdom and I know that you have to go if you could just tell our listeners where that would be the best way for them to get in touch with you and follow and learn more about don't you and you have the new book the Miracle Life that you have in the works as well yes go to miracle morning dot com. That's part of the best place you can opt in for a miracle morning crash course. 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Two Steps To Beat Sales Records, Depression, & Setbacks w/ Hal Elrod #TheOnePercent

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Two Steps To Beat Sales Records, Depression, & Setbacks w/ Hal Elrod #TheOnePercent

"And so here's the secret to success predetermine your process, and then simply commit to that process, without being emotionally attached your day to day, results and you stay committed over extended period of time. You've actually get where you wanna go. It takes one free person to create change. This is the show for them. We are the creators of the free world. This is capitalism dot com. We on the one percents. Hey, what's up podcast? Hope you're having a great day today. You're gonna listen on a conversation with me, and my buddy Hal, how is special people. He's escaped death twice once from a very serious car accident in which I believe he was dead and another in which he beat cancer and was given a ten percent chance of survival. He won twice. He's also become a bestselling author. He has had a bunch of business success. He has built an amazing family all at the same time while being really happy. And I'm always fascinated by people like that. I once heard Tony Robbins, say that the same thing same event can happen to, to people and it can completely derail one person while giving the other person. Even more gratitude even more abundance and Hal is one of those ladder people. And so I wanted to deconstruct that and also breakdown how he gets so much done, and yet seems to have so much free time and is so happy, how. How he achieves such great things while not seeming overwhelmed, and what you're going to get out of this is how to break down your goals into things that are actually manageable and do it in a way that actually, makes you happy because Hal is just a living example of that. So enjoy this chat with Hal Elrod had gang. I'm interrupting you briefly to talk about cash flow and investing my strategy for financial independence for the rest of my life is to build businesses and invest the profits. But the investing peace can be confusing. Sometimes where do you start if you're just starting out in your journey, I always suggest looking into dividend paying stock? It's an easy way to generate cash flow. But if you're further along in your journey the foundation of my strategy, is by setting up a wealth warehouse, a wealth warehouse is kind of like a second Bank account, except it's tied to the market. So it goes up in value, but it does not go down in value. A really cool strategy that a lot of my really wealthy friends, use and Tony Robbins recommends this in his book money master of the game as well. And the team that I use to set this up is wealth warehouse dot com. It's run by my buddies Sam Prentice. He is the sharpest person that I have met on this topic. He also has access to some really cool investment opportunities to buy cash flow as well. He's he shares them in some of the podcasts that we've done. But if you go over to wealth warehouse dot com or if you search for my name, and Sam Prentice, you'll find any of the podcasts that we have done together, as well as some of the opportunities that are available when you deploy the strategy it's who I use. He's one of our back room partners. And it's the team that I go to for some insider investments recommendations, as well as setting up my wealth warehouse, which is the foundation of my strategy. That's wealth warehouse dot com. However, rod ringing out in the drives me at the lake house, man. This is beautiful. Yes. Okay. It will do. None of that. It'll do for now you're living my dream man of your dream lake. That's one of my dreams. So what other dreams of you, not fulfilled yet? That's about it. No, actually you've almost died twice. Those were beautiful family. No. I actually all you want is a lake house that doesn't want it like us on through forty in about a week and a half two weeks. And so I started this kind of process yesterday reviewing journal entries from my entire life. And it was really cool. I found some that I'd written when I was thirty about my dream life by forty basics when I was thirty I looked at what did I do the last ten years like adulthood, twenty to thirty? And then I about reflected like, wow. I've, I've done more than I realized, I think for most of us, right? Desperately valuable to every day we should be celebrating. Did that day? But in that I was telling what, what would be the dream for the next ten years, it was crazy. I didn't even realize I that entry until I found it. I almost every single thing except for lake house, it was on the list of family, and all these is that one of those things where you, you write it down. And then you forget about it for a few years. We'll come back to it now. So that's weird isn't it? I had forgotten about. Essentially. But I think that could because they're in there is that there is the element of for the most part. Right. You want to set a goal and you want to revisit it every day in work towards it and make it happen. But then there's also those weird. I'm sure you have this deal where you can find something that you wrote ten years ago, and you haven't seen it for ten years, and it could be multiple linked. But now it's actually happened. That's interesting because I find that when I review my goals, every day, I do a lot of beating myself up because in the micro things moves, so slow and, and yet we have social media, so everybody else's crushing it every single day. And so I have to look at my goals in more like six to twelve months, chunks at a most because that's enough, that's enough time to actually evaluate progress. Otherwise, I really beat myself up about that. Yeah. So just storing, it away for ten years, or forgetting about it, or whatever it is interesting. The strategy that you like. Yeah, yeah, so I've got your new book miracle equation here, and I really I really like you. If it really is actually a vast difference in the two. You can see still publishing Verson hazardous on. That's what I wanted to ask you about to start because you have a really interesting business model behind publishing which, which a lot of people can't figure out the numbers of publishing. And when you had miracle morning, I know it wasn't like an overnight success. And then it there was like an exponential curve to it and then the referral up books, and then I wanna digest, like the path of this. So first of all, tell me when you publish miracle morning. And how you brought that to markets as a really interesting story, yet published at twelve twelve twelve have brain damage to the date, I would not forget that it was good wants to twelve twelve you're not kidding about the brain dead significant brain damage from head on car collision. When I was twenty we met me bleed into that. Yeah. But a but the self published the book in what happened was, I started writing the book in two thousand eight or nine about three years to write it. And I was under the impression as many people are that you, it was specially back then that I have to. Find a publisher to be taken seriously in from his book. If this book student actually change lives of people, otherwise it's not gonna it's gonna be self published. Nobody buys it book and back then self publishing was kind of again. It was not so mainstream as it is now in, we're talking, what twelve years ago, ten eleven years ago, and so wait on twelve twelve twelve is not alive, is when I started writing star. Yeah. You know. Oh, wait a minute. Fall into a different dimension seven years ago. Yeah. Yeah. So the house do now, but brain damage, remember, right? I'll just keep falling back on that excuse anytime. It serves me, by the way, but I ended up hired a gal who wrote a book proposal for James Arthur Ray who got a million dollar Vance for his book, and she wrote a few other big book proposals. And so I was on a webinar hers and knows tell us already this was before ours toes? And I thought I it's like I've got I'm gonna hire this. I'm gonna create that she taught me some great stuff. What were you doing before you wrote the book, by the way? So my background is direct sales two thousand six I left I hit hall of fame with the cut co company. Right. And then I am I launched sorted into my dream career, which was keynote speaker. But back then I was making a grand again. I mean it wasn't making a lot. It was doing colleges and high schools. Are you talking about sales as no sharing my car? My story of. Okay, got it out on bedroom. I've got all of that in how he will retain that. And then the lessons around that could help students to be happy in overcoming, gentleman, who's, and all those supposed to be in high schools and colleges. And then my mate, and then I wrote my first book in two thousand six call taking life head on about the car accident. Right. And then on really had a dream or a attention to write another book. It was like I just I have a responsibility to share the story with the world in helps people in Appleton do gun reviews, but it didn't sell them any typical stuff. Nobody knew about it. And the main source of income for me was coaching. So when I left cut co two thousand six I went, what am I qualified to do like this, this writing thing not gonna get rich from that on the speaking things gonna take who knows how long to build on, what am I qualify to do to make money in the answer was all dumped that point is six years of selling a lot of cut Kokage knives. And so I went unqualified to coach fellow sales reps on how to do that. Right. So that's what I was doing to, to earn money was one on one coaching and thousand eleven. Launch makers group coaching program and that was like two hundred got two hundred twenty members at its peak. Okay. So that was that was your business. And then you wrote the miracle morning young ads. You do this proposal. You think you're going to get a million dollar advance and I did not. So what it? Well, I didn't go for it. So, right. When I asked it was researching will we spent all this time in the proposal. And then I went out way, the more researched it might inclusion was this. I went so wait. Five go after Jerusalem publisher. I have I have no platform. So I have no leverage. So I really can't get any significant advance, so they will get all of the rights to the book they will take all of my royalties, and because I have no big no platform in no credibility. They're not gonna invest time and energy into putting bottom marketing dollars by me. So I have to do all the promo anyway. So I really through kind of a hail Mary, and I followed James Redfield track who wrote the book to sell ASEAN prophecy, that he self published then it Solana copies in traditional published in now. He's still fourteen million copies. So I thought I'm willing to put in the work I might as well. Keep the. Writes in the royalties until I've created significant enough to read the book that traditional our will call me, like, hey, what's right? So I had no idea work. So, so the interesting thing is it. You didn't come out of the gate with a platform. No. But you just hustled for as long as it took in order to sell enough books to our hell. Our now has a platform, yet my understanding is you just did at top podcast. Is that right? Yeah. That was so I talk cast interviews and speeches the in the irony here is that the miracle equation. We're gonna talk about this new book, that's coming out the miracle equation, though, the concept, not the book, I created when I was twenty so about a year, six years before the miracle morning was a concept. And then it was the concept of the miracle quesion that I used to promote your morning, entering the in so essentially, we'll get more into unwavering faith extraordinary efforts. So what I did is I thought I am willing to commit to put forth, whatever after it is. Necessary to share this message in this book with as many millions of people. Right. That was actually my goal was one million copies or change. One million lives. One morning at the time. My goal is in the first year. I don't know how right they call that. What uninformed optimism more delusion? Right. One of the two and I, I don't know how are very damning don't right now. But I'm going to change a million lines this year with the miracle morning. And I thought I willing to do whatever it takes. So self published it an interesting publish it because I thought that was a better out to go on in the first year, I didn't sell a million copies Ryan, I sold right around ten thousand give or take. And that's a good book launch in most world yet for New York Times the first week right? Not the first week that still like most you're saying decent promotes vote. Yeah. Sure. Sure. Sure. So but for anybody listening, right? I was ninety nine point nine percent. Short of my goal, right? Nine hundred ninety thousand copies short my million copy goal in as you're gonna find out today's we. Dive in today is the only variable is really time is that we often set unrealistic not in goals, but timeframe and so I remember I don't know why this number stuck in my head. But I remember thinking may miss because I was around thirty years old. I thought I don't maybe it'll take me thirty years to reach a million people. I was off by the one year, Mark obviously by far. Maybe take me thirty years, but I'm committed to do whatever it takes because because I was getting emails from people saying, this is radically changing my life. And so I thought I have a responsibility to chain, these million lives for as long as it takes. So during the first year and a half I did over one hundred fifty interviews on other people's podcasts, like forty something speeches. I did over a dozen television interviews, local and national light. Good morning Houston good day at the NBC's daytime like unit. And so I put the upper I still ten thousand copies but I kept going, and eventually year after year I stayed committed to the goal and. It took six years for me to surpass a million copies sold on our at one point seven one point eight, and it just it just keeps head to be some sort of a tipping point there. There was the actually listen to the tipping point when I for a friend said to me when I was getting discouraged, I was talking to my friend, brianna, edge reintegrates vantage. He goes, I'm going to send you a vote. She was told you about that, like you'll get there. But you gotta reach this tipping point than, what's, what's the and so on. So it was a eighteen months for me to get to the first month. I sold eighteen hundred copies educating months it back to that amount sold in a single month. It was down to eighty copies by late month for and on. And the, the it was packed winds podcast was actually, you know, I think that, that combined with enough people doing it kind of critical mass, and it all kind of hit the same time. And that's when it went from nothing to five thousand copies a month, and then just kind of kept going. Yeah. That makes sense. So what's really interesting to me is, I know there's another business. Model behind this, which is not just selling more books is that you brought on other co riders for other branded miracle morning books, and there's like eleven or twelve of them now, I think at this point any thirteen twelve or thirteen. So that is a completely radical shift on the publishing model. Would you explain that? Yes. So it happened organically. I'm a very non-strategic person where I don't have his master plan that I'm rolling out. I literally am kind of a wake up. All right. Moving forward this today. And I just keep going to direction. So most of the stuff I've done people go was your plan only now just had happened and that happened a buddy of mine called me. And he said, we were former colleagues a cookout, and now he's a top realtor runs an office. And he's at how have you thought about doing, like a miracle morning series specifically every agent in our office. That's read the New York morning. They've all Iraqi to their sales, and he goes, and so of I and he said, slumping, went miracle morning for sales, people, I said, I crossed my mind, but you let you wanna write it when it cooperate, right? And he doesn't have. Apply. Sure, let's go. And so we co-authored the book, and, and then and that was the first in the now honorary quarter. No honors good friends. So she's now my fifty fifty business partner. In fact after book one, I think in the middle of it early on. I met this gal Honore in she's written forty books on her own. She has a book series for single moms. And I just thought while she's qualified more than I am to launch a series in. So now we partner with co-authors like Joe polish Cameron, narrow simpler experts in their space. And then we have template that they kind of Philemon create, you know, sixty percent new content, and it's worked people are that all of the book series books are rating higher than the original and that, and that became its own business off, kind of the, the success that you had just beat down the door of for for eighteen months. It's really interesting. How I think, I think oftentimes, we experienced success in the way that we didn't expect like but, but it comes. Off of us grinding towards one singular goal. And that's why the the actual philosophy of the miracle question is interesting to me, the idea of faith than extraordinary effort. But I want to ask you hard chargers like me and you always a multiple goals, and it seems like the extraordinary effort part requires singular focus, but it's not like you only had one goal over the last twenty years. Yeah. So explain to me how you can do multiple goals with the necessary effort that it requires absolutely in. This is so in two thousand five that was the transformational year for me like a quantum leap, where I went from achieving pretty great reserve results to like beyond what I ever imagined possible, and had a go at the yes, any part, I was part of it. So it will actually to answer your question. You're going to see that. I achieved like ten goal. That each one of them would have been like a singular yoga that would have been enough. Have my attention? Yeah. And so here's what happened. So I hit hall of fame with cuto, and I went to a conference in February, and I was like I'm done. I'm not to taking notes this thing. Did I just unlike collecting my awards, and I never sell another night, forget, right? Nothing wrong still night. But I was like, I'm done. You know. And so, I was I was moving onto the next phase of my life, and the I saw two people in our region. Right. They were the talk to talk to the country, and they got the coveted Rolex for the highest level of sales in our company, and I could care less about a Rolex and backed I sold minded one, I don't care but, but I had this pain, and he's listening, right? Like if you really get president, I think that all of us at some level can get in touch with some degree of pain, and it was the pain of unfulfilled potential, and I realized I watched him walk in their ward. And I went I never did that I'm about to leave this company, having never really given it my all I had broken records. But I was very intense I would break company record for the biggest month ever, and then be cool. I can just take the next month. All right. I would just take a vacation until I ran out of money. I'm like, oh, got it over eight another record. Right. So I worked in these strengths, and I went, I never fulfilled my potential as someone who can consistently show up for three hundred sixty five days. Right. And I thought I can't leave. I dotted give it one more year which was a radical emotional ship. Mike dude, I'm done. And so I pulled out my computer and I wrote my goal for two thousand five and then I ended up deleting the word goal and I wrote my mission because you think about language is really important in the goals are something that we set. And we often set him it's fun to settlements battle hit on. We don't look it on each year. It's like it's more of a financial sites to do it. Whereas we're not really committed to actually doing whatever it takes the hit him. And so I thought Michigan holds different weight like military organizations carry out life or death mission. They don't hope they don't die. Like it's. All or nothing. Right. Humanitarian organizations carry out missions to save people. And I thought this is going to be my mission, and in the new book, the miracle equation. That's what I have to focus on. His. You've got to get clear on your mission in, in simple terms. That's just what is the single most important goal of all of your goals. What's the one in the way that I, I look at how you how you feel about the importance is which goal would enable you to develop the qualities and characteristics that you do not right now possess release at the level that they could be that would allow you to achieve any goal you ever set and that's the real purpose of a goal. Right. Jim Rohn taught that decades ago that it's not about hitting the goal most of us thinking this black and white paradigm. That's, that's it. Hurts us more than helps us where it's like if I hit the goal why succeed, and if I don't have golden I have failed, but it's like, no, no. Who you become during that process of putting forth, extraordinary effort to achieve a goal far outweighs the value of whether or not you hit Indian indi-individually goal in? So the point of the mission though, is this and this is really. Directly answer, your question about, well, we've got more than one goal is that on that year I set my goals for the year and they were there were some pretty radical goals the first goal was to not with to go out and double my best you Reverend sales which if you're in business right to increase your revenue by one hundred percent is pretty intimidating right? Ten percent is like okay. I can get a little better, right. Thirty percent fifty percent. You're laying but a hundred percent was terrifying. And so what I on a percent on your already smashing records. So my previous two years out of fifty thousand sales reps in the company TV kind of perspective. I was number six one year and number five the next year. Right. So, so I was trying to. Yeah, not just double like, I suck and I don't work. So I'm gonna stop being lazy. It's like I'm performing at a record breaking level, and I have to double that to, to, to put on my potential. And so I decided if I did that I could do anything. But that year I thought I also have other goals that are really important 'cause remember in my mind, I was done with cut co. So my goals. Before I went to that conference where I'm gonna write my first book this year which the big undertaking. I thought I wanna launch money, speaking career that was my dream is to be a professional keynote speaker. And I want to watch a coaching business to kind of support myself. I also that was after you decided you're gonna leave leave duck. Oh, yes. So these are the now that's not happening. And so all that has to get rearranged somehow. So now. Yes. And I'm going okay, do I put all those goals off till next year. And then as I don't know what I just was inspired, and I go dude. What implied did all of it. What if I doubled my best year in sales ever wall, I wrote my first book and published it and I launched my speaking career launch a coaching business, and I want to get in the best shape of my life and put on twenty pounds of muscle, and that you're at put on seventy dollars muscle at five point seven percent body fat. Let's healthy by the way, I don't think these seventeen seventeen pounds in five point seven percent body cut that you're like I don't know if that's healthy to be five point centres about, but on in in. I also. You're my goal was alligators which I like stealing off I go. I wanna meet my wife. I'm I'm tired of dating. I'm ready to like settle down. I, I really got into rock climbing. I thought I'm going to rock climb three days a week. So at the I think there's more oh, and I thought this isn't meaningful to me and less. I lead a group of my colleagues to exceed anything they've ever done in the same way that I'm trying to do for me and that year. More I I let it team twenty sales reps and more reps achie- is surpassed the highest level in code that wrong team than in the fifth year history of the company, I wrote published my first book again my first two paid speaking engagements I explained how this opens into the mission. Right. And on, I launched my coach. I have five paying coaching clients before the year was over while I was still selling a doubled my best year in sales ever. I did the final week. I was it was to the to the wire. He basically said, I'm going to have the best year ever need it. And then I did. And then here's in, here's here's where it's counter intuitive. The idea of mission scarce you'll be. Because they go I can't just commit to one goal. I've got all these important goals. Like you said. And so here's what having a mission Dutt's all it is, is your you set five goal. Six eight goals three goals, whatever. And you which of these is the most important would be the most beneficial for my future by presidente future. And then here's what it does. All it does. Ryan is organizes your time when I woke up in the morning, the rule is. I wasn't allowed to go to the gym or open my computer to write or get on the phone to make calls to get a coaching, right? I wasn't allowed to do any of that until I engage in the activities that I had predetermined would make my mission inevitable in. So that's it in every day, we wake up and we usually human nature is to pursue the path of least resistance. Right. So it's like all this check Email all you, we look at our goals and go, which of these is the least scary has the least potential foot cause failure on and on. And we just do the easiest thing, and it becomes a vitual and the your ends, and you go, what happened. But when you commit to emission. At the very least that's going to happen by the end of the U. It's a what was the singular mission that installs and five was to double my sales in, in the new book? Right. The two decisions unwavering faith in extraordinary effort. I always say that at first glance those are very unexciting and you go. Yes, I gotta believe myself in work, hard. Cool check like d three something. I don't know. But part of it like with the extraordinary effort is, how do you make it feel ordinary? How do you make systematic recurring with the effort happens like your auto pilot, right? You call habits or whatever. But here's what I did. Here's how I here's how I took the fear out of a really Dacia goal, like doubling my best you're ever. I went, what's my process. Right. And that's what I want you, if you're listening, what is the pre what is the process that you could predetermined in commit to, and you commit to it over an extended period of time, your goal moves from possible to probable to alternately inevitable, right? If you if you if you do one thing consistently by. For example, if you write a thousand words a day, or writing a book might be scary. But if you, if you commit to work out every day, and you hit it more often than not the book, it's written right? It's not there's no fear, just it just happened. So for me I went in figured out. What was the best year? I'd never had before how many calls did I make on average every single week and it was one hundred five calls a week, just over twenty a day, five days a week and I thought doubling my sales is intimidating, but making forty calls in a day compared to twenty I I've done that before never consistently for year. But I've done that before. And so here's the secret to success. Predetermined process and then simply commit to that process, without being emotionally attached your day to day, results, and you stay committed over an extended period of time you eventually get where you wanna go. Yeah. One of my favorite books is straight line leadership. I just put it in Michelle today. Iranian on right there. It's like one of the must-reads and, and he says, if you have a goal find out what it takes what it costs to that goal. And then determine if you're willing to pay the price, so for you like, well, if I double the one metric that's working, and I just do it than that will at least make it probable for me to hit the goal. What I've experienced is that there, some of those calls are more impactful than others. And as a result, I'm guessing you didn't have to make forty calls a day DMA forty call ended up being less. I ended up. I don't remember the number was thirty something at the at the end of the year when I told on back up, you know. And that was simply me not all. Not hitting my call numbers every day. You know, but you have it ended up, it ended up and using out with less with about. Yeah. With not doubling the calls. But increasing by about fifty percent increase in double sales. I got higher closing percentage in your average. Order size everything's kind of played itself. Yes. So you did you did hit the goal, right? Yeah. So what what you're saying? I think is that by having the singular goal at basically created the momentum and it allowed, it's forced you to schedule the other things that were most important to allow you hit the other goals is, is that what you're saying that, that first and foremost? Yeah. That's what that's what I'm saying in, in the second piece of it, though, too is by committing to that singular goal. And it's the one that is the most meaningful. So you're counted your now, counteracting your human nature to follow the path of least resistance because you're doing the thing that has the most significant consequences in your world this year. And when you that every single day you reach the ultimate goal, which isn't the goal of self it's you become the person that you need to be developing the qualities and characteristics of the. On what you've ever been before. And now you are more capable and more deserving of achieving any goal that you ever set. And that's where the value extends far beyond the only the growth last forever. Right with you go, and you spend the money whatever only the growth lasts forever. So how I can kind of relate to this, because it was two thousand fifteen or sixteen for may I was in new dad, and I was scaling company. We were thinking about selling company, I was building my audience in my podcast really is just starting to take off and decide to get into the shape of my life all the same time young. And that was the most productive year of my life. And, and it was also becoming a new dad, and my kid didn't sleep for fourteen months, right side. There was literally no time to do what I did. And yet, I got done, but then I was exhausted, not, I still feel like I'm paying for those years. So it was it was by. Sheer will and force that I made that happen. It wasn't joyful. It was it was incredibly energy, exhausting. You're happy. Dude, you never seen tired. You almost died twice. So how might may be might mediate responses like that. Sounds like grinding and I don't know that I can grind like I did back in two thousand fifteen or sixteen again. So how'd you go all in on goal without it feeling energy exhausting? So I mean for me that year. Right. If you actually look at, if I should break down, what it took time wise. So might forty calls a day was two hours of call, right? Basically every twenty and not, by the way, if you're listening, and you're trying to figure out your mission your goal in, in predetermined your process. You know, it's like you want it to be the simplest activities for me, it was like twenty calls a day, and you want to figure out how long does that take you that way, you know, okay, so one hour Dale do this. When our daily this. So for me, it was an hour in the morning to make my calls, and then an hour, I would do it in between appointments. So I've tried to get the next twenty done on my cellphone in between my stuff I get to a customer's house thirty minutes early, right? Out pullover I make five calls get to the next one pullover. So I tried to get my calls done before I even got home, and then they weren't done would get home. It'd make five ten twenty calls, and then the actual appointments themselves. I did I believe I average scheduling sixteen appointments all week in an appointment on average I would schedule two hours apart with ninety minutes. Plus drivetime severe, she looked up thirty two hours. Right. So, so I was looking I was working thirty hours a week on appointments, another car, plus two hours a day times. Right. Five days. Ten some of them are working forty hours a week. Okay. So on your singular goal. Yeah. Yeah. It's a good. So, so where where was the time out? I think okay. So that's forty hours a week residents the jaw right on goal and you've magin if anybody just picks one goal forty hours on it. That's a lot of time. They're putting into that. And then I would go to the gym in the morning or the evening, right? I would I wouldn't at night, I would do my yahu personal match dot com. That's how I met my wife internet dating successfully. And then I lead my team. I'd have one call a month with them. I'm sorry. At one call a week every Sunday for an hour, you know. And I think part of it, you know, it's your point of light that you're that you're free wasn't joyful. I think that it is important that we have goals that energize us. And even if may maybe not all are some goals, it's like God, this one to make money but I'm actually I don't love my job, or whatever on ABC enough goals that energize you that do bring you joy, like I loved rock, climbing every week. And I just I loved working out, and I did yoga. And so I love. I love the calls right lead my team. I mean there's a lot of times right? I was exhausted. I want to be on the call. But for the most part, those gave me energy because I was helping people give you hate the goals. I mean. Yeah. And I was certainly in resistance to a lot of that. Like I mean becoming a new dad is. Huge judgment. Obviously, you know, so. Yeah. So that, that makes sense. It also there's there's just a sense of if you go all in on one everything just kind of finds its its place. That's what you're saying about working now than your calls. Whereas most of the time, I think we over Fink every goal and we create conflicting processes over how we're going to accomplish each one. But, but the truth is all the thinking goes into the one in all the energy goes into the one. I find that it just kind of the restaurants fills in the space. Yeah. It's like that what is zero Stephen Covey that has the big rocks ring, any actually done rice rates evacuating jar? Yeah. Right. Into puts the pebbles in the sand in that really is it everything else, kind of finds its place. And one thing that's important is to create what I call a foundational schedule, which is not rocket science. But especially if you're not for newer would entrepreneurs lot of there's that freedom, and they wake up in their like dude, I can do whatever I feel I can they just bounce around like a pinball kind of like, well. Check some Email now over-quota podcast now. All right, for me, if you look at my schedule, and it started back, then every hour of my days scheduled and occasionally, I will schedule free time for three hours in the afternoon. I'll be like, so I have the space to do whatever I want, but for the most part, my schedule from three thirty AM to nine PM is scheduled, I've got dinner with the family in their gut kids storytime, got kids, bath time. I've got my, the gym is in their six fifteen to orange theory. All everything is in my schedule, including fun time, including free time. But that way, I never waked up and you go, what, what should I do right now, you're like no, no, no, no, no. If I look at my schedule, I know what I'm doing every minute of every day. And it's something that jazz is like it excites me. I've created the schedule in a way that makes me excited. Gym time is when it fires me up to be right. Email time is when I want to answer emails. Right so entrepreneur don't just don't overindulge in the freedom. So it's detrimental creative foundational. Schedule that, you know what you're doing every, you know, every hour every day yet, and I have often had resistance to this personally, because I want unstructured. Yeah, but, but I find that if I just scheduled the unstructured time that I want. That's right. Because because then I'll block it off. And then I don't have interruptions for my unstructured time, which is the entire point. Whereas the interrupt your options are gonna come which means I never get what it is that I want, which is the unstructured freedom. So I find that even if I just schedule the uninterrupted time than I'm naturally gonna get interrupted all the time. So if I think while I wanna be unstructured, the interruptions are going to make that not happen. But if I just block out, this is my uninterrupted time will now I get to have what, what it is. I wanted. So if you schedule the things that you wanna do. Anyway, this, a that, that's like, for me away that I experienced my freedom, I still have to be protective of my freedom, freedom does not just just happen. Even when you're financially free, you have to schedule what it is that you want to be doing so, so I have resistance, what you're saying, but I also know that it's true. It s the interested. That's the irony, right? Is that structuring your scheduled gives you? More freedom because it gives you freedom from having to worry about or think about or put energy into what you're going to do. And you know, it's, it's kinda like the old Steve Jobs, and who else Ducker register wear the same clothes Janet, which I do you recognize his ice whereas all time just to keep it simple. Right. So they don't have to make any extra decisions and gosh, you know, with what you wear causes decision fatigue will than having spend every moment of your day shorts fell to cause a lot of decisions. Yeah. I get it. So you've almost died twice. And you tell the story of the car accident fairly publicly, but I haven't heard you talk as much about the about cancer young and you're given I think a thirty percent chance of living thirty percent than downgraded the ten I didn't, I don't know about that. Yeah. Downgraded. So what happened was the, the cancer that I had was very rare and aggressive. This was two years ago I woke mill night, unable to breathe, it took like two weeks of having sixteen pounds of fluid drained from my lung and see. Multiple hospitals in specialists. Trying before they compare what the heck was wrong with me. They misdiagnosed pneumonia. I and then didn't wasn't it in? So, yeah, turned out, it was this really aggressive cancer called a cute lymphoblastic leukemia, which pricing league for kids is a common very curable cancer. But if you get it as an adult, it's eight thirty percent survival rate. And so that was, you know, not always save your glasses happened to kind of person nuts. A seventy percent. You're going to die. You know is soon, and the than I was when I went to MD Anderson, which is one of the top cancer, hospitals out in Houston, Texas. They did more testing in. They discovered that not only was my lung collapsing. But my heart was on the verge of failing. End that do an emergency procedure that data drain, my heart fluid, or go to cardiac arrest. My kidneys kidneys were kidneys were on the verge of failing, and then they discovered they had the cellular mutation called enough one mutation and it, that's where my, my diagnosed with, like, if you didn't have that you'd have a thirty percents surviving with that new literally, the so ten percent was like a guest. They had no, like if you Google it, it's page four before I mention do you think about, like, what, what, what the heck in the world can you Google that you have to search four pages even find a mention of it? And that's rare was so young. And that's the end of the store, so. No. So all right. So here we go. The thought I would let you ask the question, Joe, I, well, I, first of all, my guess is that the miracle quesion plays into that. Or you just said you're gonna have unwavering faith that you're gonna be in the ten percent. Yup. And the new to make whatever effort is necessary in your singular goal. Your mission became beat this thing live for my family. Yeah. Yeah. It, it really is on the day, I was diagnosed in told to thirty percent chance of surviving. I you know, I mean you can imagine. Right. You meet start, obviously, thinking a lot. I'm going, what is this mean? Oh my God. In the quickly goes to how am I going to live? How am I going to beat this and one of the I thought, I'm not sure that's the case, everybody has that everybody says, how am I going to live? I think lines, well, why meet what, how do I take my family, once I'm gone. What happens when you die? Is this going to hurt you immediately went to how am I going to be, how many species, we'll know actually? Believe it or not. Here's what's interesting. I immediately went to the first thing I said, I called my wife, she happened to be out of town with my kids that was a hard part. You I've been diagnosed with cancer, and it was actually the first diagnosis was how we don't know what's wrong with you. It might be like this weird virus infection that we can't identify or you might have cancer and at that time I mean really for the last twenty years I've lived in anticancer lifestyle. Like I e clean, we have chemicals in my house. I'm like a hippie. And I'm like, and it wasn't it wasn't denials, like logic dot guy. I can't like I don't think it's cancer, but three out what's going on? But I call my wife and I tell her hey sweetheart and this is what it might be. She was with my mom actually at the zoo, so she had to tell my mom your son has cancer and has a thirty percent chances reviving right in the kept for the kids from a little bit. But. I said sweetheart and my wife was bawling, right. And, you know, and I, I was already peace with it. But I'm bowling because she's bowling and I'm you know my mashing, what this is like for her. But I said, sweet. Here was my first thought I said sweetheart two things number one, I will be this and number two. I said, this will be the best thing that ever happened to me. And I know that you probably don't wanna hear that, or you probably like that. I said, but the car accident when I was hit head on by drunk driver in a die for six minutes. And I was taught never walk again. It was the hardest thing I ever went through it was it was it was it was unimaginable. It was the best thing that ever happened because it gave birth to my life's work. It enabled me to become the person that I am today in the helps people in that, just whatever I said this cancer to me is just a bigger scarier newer version. And I don't Lord knows why I've been tested. I thought the once was enough. But so I literally was like I decided this is this will be the best thing that ever happened to me, you think about that. That's. Lynne's that now every aspect of is what am I going to learn from this? How am I going to use this experience to help other people to help myself, right? I mean that was from day, one and on. And then the other thing that you just said, which already forgot what it was. But that was is second only gonna be this. I mean that was the next question. Right. How am I going to beat the process process to beat this? And and, and I'm so I hear that as why. And how I you decide why. And or what? And then it's how and the why is not right. It's not the why me right? Why did this have on? I notice this. It's a curiosity from a place of what's the benefit in this. What is the benefit in this error the purpose? Or, you know, the, the old adage, everything happens for reason. I believe that, but not the way most of us, I think are conditioned to thank idea. Which is why did this happen to me like literally, they turned to God or to a wider understand? Why would the happening to me? Why don't deserve this person? And for me, it's a wife replace of curiosity. Right. Of. Like no everything happens, for reasons, but it's our responsibility to determine the reasons now we can choose reasons that are based on victimhood. Oh, or me y y y or reasons that serve us since you're humanity in sort of our family, and that we all will benefit from now. I know that part of your process that you wanted to do is you wanna do the natural route? Yes, you wanted to go the holistic you wanted to fight it without doing chemo, and that, that route, and you were not basically not given that option. So your your original process was removed from you. Yes. And so there's not like as far as I know some miraculous jury found you didn't. You didn't take some herb, right? That next it you went through it, then you had to do it the traditional way. And I'm guessing that commitment to that goal carried you through reason. I frame it that way, I'm curious if medical doctors factor in. In that unwavering faith into your recovery. They do not a very few do there, and I don't I'm sorry. I don't mean like in the in in like a woo sent. Yeah. Not as I do they do they give credits to people who have that type of commitment to being the ones who actually beat it. So very few doctors do that. I have met now I have read the I read like there's a book called love medicine in bureaucrats by Dr Bernie Siegel, who's a famed on colleges. Right. Who in? He literally says the one the single common factor in every patient that he's worked with that has beat cancer in many of them have not, of course, instead is that they had a commitment that I'm going to beat this no matter what there's another option in. That is the first miracle equation is it this is not unwavering faith in a away. I'm not talking about manifesting. I'm not even talking about prayer and I'm not anti prayer. I'm not you know, but I'm not I'm talking about faith in yourself and your willingness inability to commit to do whatever it takes to achieve something in other words or overcome something. It's kind of the. Wavering faith that first decision leads into the second decision was just extrordinary upper and to make a slight correction to what you'd sit around my process. So when island into beat this on college was one of the best in the world, and I said, hey, I am not no offense. I know you're like chemo is what you do, but I'm not a fan of chemo. Like I just I view it as poison an enemy that is at one, one doctor told me the objective of chemo is to kill the cancer before it kills you because it's killing both of you at the same time and the goal is to kill the cancer. I and I'll try a lot will die from chemo not from cancer. And I had one of those horrific earth, intensive chemo's it was people going for like an hour or two a month communities, regiments different. But I would get seventy two hundred five hours of chemo, non stop for four days round the clock followed by the next session three weeks, later, was five days in those would alternate for for eight months. And so I mean I you know, I lost twenty five percent of my body weight every hair on my body. But here's the differences. The doctor said pal I asked him. I wanna cure this holistically can you support me of that? And I never met the first meeting with him. And he says, how I appreciate that you wanna do that. But you don't have that luxury. You don't have a slow growing tumor of cancer that kills people in days or weeks a week ago. You were healthy now. Your heart is on the verge of failing your kidneys and your lung. And he said, if you don't start chemo today. You I would give you a few days, maybe a week to live and I'm holding my wife's hand she squeezing it so hard. I'm wincing and, and I didn't know this guy, so I didn't know his heart writers intention in my mind by skeptic went way up, and I'm like, dude, you're trying to sell me on chemo right by vita, scaring me ended that I'm gonna die in. So there was kind of a middle finger a little bit in my head. Not like give can we have twenty four hours dot or sixty hour. We have some hours to go talk about this. It's pretty decision. He said, yeah, but I wouldn't wait. Let me know in the morning. With the upper noon. And so we go home, and we Google it and long story long. It is it, he wasn't exaggerating people die in days. And so it wasn't like I already eat such a clean. It was like, what am I gonna do go from I literally no much improvement? I can make a lot of ways. So here was the decision that I made in this was my extrordinary effort, I went back to the doctor the next day, we call him. He said, hey, we'll start chemo like my wife and I concluded like this is no joke. If I wanna live. This is my auction. Oh, and by the way, the closing factor in that decision was one of the best holistic docked on colleges in the world is in Houston, where I was going to be treated for chemo. And he treated. He's treated celebrity isn't a curious people naturally. We called his office, his nurse went and talked to him. She came back told him what she goes, he wants to know kind of cancer. It is told her came back said, doc says your attitude chemo while I go the best holistic doctrine, the world won't treat me because he has. No, because it's so rare, there's no they have no success with it. So they're not gonna throw a helmet rate. So I start chemo in. I decided I go, you know what I'm gonna do every holistic, I'm gonna research and do every holistic practice that I would do if that was my only option and I wasn't doing chemo. In addition to the chemo, somebody give myself the best chance of surviving utilizing the best of allopathic medicine in holistic medicine and my doctors really surprised at how well my body overall. I mean, it's really hard sicknesses in ER visits a lot of them. But for the most part, I responded better than most patients do in. It's because I was doing things detox my liberal, I was doing. I say this in the book, but it's, it's a joke, but it's true. So I was taking fifty supplements a day I was doing acupuncture doing ozone therapy. And I was doing coffee, enema and the joke, is that there's no effort more extraordinary than sticking to your but three times a week and shooting thirty three thousand a copy of their right? And if you want to know why was doing that you can go, but the but yeah, not is in a very beyond grateful to say that it's just over two years now I am in remission so far in, you know in on pace. A long healthy life with the wife and kids, and happy, very happy. You like you're, you're one of the happiest people that I know that, and it would be, it'd be really easy to feel like a victim after all of that. And, and it seems to me like that unwavering faith and just the decision to say, I'm going to make positive meeting out of this is what keeps you driving forward in an happy woman. What I just heard this. So I'm not I'm not. I don't wanna recited because I'll butcher it. But, but based on the concept that right? Our greatest growth comes integrators diversity. Yeah. If you ask anybody, hey, what was the time where you what have you overcome in your life? Nobody that. Oh my God. I went through a divorce. I went to this without bankruptcy, right? Hey did not make you better revenge off. Yes. Of course, it was like woman, why the hell do you live by the whole hindsight is twenty twenty thing, where you, you're miserable while you're going through shit. And then you look back and you're like, oh, that was really beneficial for me. I'm like, I'm just gonna I'm gonna just go fast forward into. The future and live with hindsight now by saying, how does this Turbie how, how tonight grow from this out and just be grateful for every experience? Good or bad. Because every experience is an asset if you choose to learn from it, you choose to grow from it, and here's the thing if I'm going through difficult experience, whether it was like my car accident, isn't it never walk again or the cancer where you know, it's like if we're going through any difficult experience, I'd rather be happy and grateful walleye through the difficult experience than be miserable. That's what I think. People have trouble separating is there you, you don't have to let your circumstance to find your mental emotional quality of life. Right. It's like go be the happiest in the most great one most positive you ever been while you're going through the most difficult challenging and terrifying time in your life. And I just know from experience, we have that choice amend of that brother of the final question from me is now, everything's going great. As far as I can tell. All right. You have a beautiful family. You're in good health. You've achieved everything that you wanted to achieve except the lake house. I'm gonna move of riot. Come on, buddy outta guest room. So I'm curious now do you still have a singular mission even when things are great? Or do you do ease off sometimes? Yeah. So this, this is important piece of mission. Right. So mission can change is based on it can literally change based on so you can have a mission for the year right now. However, based on the Evan flow of your year, there may be a month where you actually have to set your mission to the side in focused on a different mission. Right. So in or you might have one mission that rules out in the first quarter in another mission the rules. Right. So so there's very much. There's a lot of a lot of flexibility around all of these concepts. So for me mind mission. So my mission in life is to live to be one hundred years like that, as my grand mission, and everything. Thing I do in my world, right? I make sure that health is taking care of first and foremost, my second, grand mission is my family right now health is partly in service to my family, because if I die that can't be around to be there for them. So one of the things I do around that mission is first and foremost, every morning, I am not allowed to read a business book until I read at least ten pages out of a parenting or marriage book, and I did. Right. And what that does is it does. Two things one is it ensures that every morning, I'm learning and growing to be a better dad in a better husband, the second thing, it does, is it literally logistic uses logistics to remind me every day. Oh, yeah. These people are more important in any of the other things on my schedule that after work towards the day, another piece of that is I go wake up my son and daughter. I have a fifteen minute time block to gently wake them up in sing to them and say formations in rap, and you voices with these stuffed animals and rights, but it's a fifteen minute block where I'm connecting with. My kids and I put in my day with family in the morning and at night, I've got a bunch of practice. I go to orange theory I eat green smoothies in the orient, I eat vegan it launch paleo at night. I do sauna three times. I got all these practices. So, my foundational schedule ensures that my mission all my priorities are in order, and in terms of so I've got some global missions, right? Like bigger honesty year? But this year my first mission of the year was to launch the miracle quesion, right? That was my first mission in every that was every day. I woke up, I had to get those those that process I engage in it in the activists done. Now that, that book is out. My mission is now launching actually my mission ensuring, like final maybe on the today show next month. So gotta get all my emails and make sure nurturing people because I suck at that it was like finally hired someone to help me, get better like Ryan ran like you buddies to nurture people. Right. And then on. So that's the mission. Right. It's short. It's literally one month mission. The month of may me and my team. This is what we're working on. And then I shift gears to my next mission, which. Is launching the miracle morning movie the documentary. Right. And that'll be about a three four or five months mission. And then I'll ship to launching my event. Right. So, so it's like I the missions, there's in some ways more than one United if that makes sense. But at any given moment, I didn't even day. I'm clear on the single most important mission in my schedule aligns with that yet. And so when you accomplished, one mission, and you have nothing less on the list for the year. You go back to living to one hundred and being an amazing father in dumbing Housman. And I, I will I will go, like if there's no work mission, which there usually is. But there will be times where there's not even for a week or month or for whatever on. Yeah. And I will literally go like all up level. All of all will help of what could I start doing now? What can I you know, like recently joined orange theory in yoga class, because I'm like I was working from home, but I'm like, man. I'm taking it way too easy on myself. I'm seeing through my workout like twenty minutes like I need by need someone. That's. Pushing. Right. So that was a recent up leveling to my health, actually, it was started in the month of may. Because I'm Mike my month that I turned forty I'm like, all right. This is a great month to up level, health and fitness. Well, I usually conclude by thanking people for changing the world. Keep on changing the world is often my sign off. But I do I mean, you're just the perfect example of somebody changes themselves. They can change everyone around them and then changing the world. So just keep on keeping on. Thanks for everything you're doing the moral. Thank thank you for having me. And I appreciate that tried to call you friend. How did. And that's a wrap. Yeah. Yeah. There are two kinds of people in this world. There are members and non members. If you are enjoying this stuff, you have got to join us inside the one percent. One percent members get access to our courses on building businesses and investing the profits. 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709: Secure your day by saving your morning - Habits with Hal Elrod

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28:52 min | 1 year ago

709: Secure your day by saving your morning - Habits with Hal Elrod

"Welcome everyone i'm kevin miller in this is the ziglar show founded by the grandfather of inspiration himself. Zig ziglar are focused. Here is you and your personal personal development. The way to have more tomorrow is to become more today so we bring you the best of today's world influencers and discover how we can all apply new and classic methodologies of personal growth to our lives in this episode are muse is how to secure your day by saving your morning morning. We just can't hear it enough. The quality and routine of our morning is the primary indicator of our success for any given day yet. The fact remains the majority of people. Even aspiring people like the ziglar show listeners do not have a healthy consistent routine for starting their morning so in show seven seven. Oh seven. I brought you hal elrod. He's the best selling phenomenon of the book the miracle morning in this show we walk through the seven spokes of the ziglar wheel of life with how and hear his personal habits for success he has some significant unique habits in all areas but it's hard not the highlight what he cited for the mental spoke number three and it's his routine that he coined savers for the morning silence affirmations visualization sation exercise reading and scrubbing and he attributes that to his primary success. I've had a solid morning routine for a couple years years now longer than that i think but how really inspired me to more because i want even more out of myself out of my day. I highly highly recommend you check out howls core book the miracle morning <hes> which i'm having my older kids right now read but then his new book is the miracle equation. That's really what we focused on and show seven vigneault seven and you can find that the miracle equation dot com and check out also his annual event best year ever our live dot com and have quick. Thank you for all of you who are listening to the show and helping us. We're about to reach forty million downloads all right. We're going to get started with how and give you some massive inspiration for your habits. After i share our wonderful show sponsors for this episode ah friends here is your chance to do more than here great messages from ziglar but to engage with them and get fully equipped does ziglar legacy certification courses happening november thirteen th through sixteen two thousand nineteen at ziglar headquarters in dallas texas when i attended it was a full five day course they've now got all the value and only three days you will learn a lot. You'll also connect with ziglar team and family and other aspiring people like yourselves. The relationships alone are worth the cost of the entire event. Go now to ziglar dot com slash z l._c. That's ziglar dot com slash z l. see all right so this is going to be an interesting one coming from the author of the miracle morning which is absolutely habits of course you've got an entire chapters and more on habits but i'm gonna go behind the scenes and see what yours are. I m curious. Anybody always what a guy like you is doing. In these areas. It's always you know some similar similar threads as the other big influences out there but always always unique as well so start off spoke number one. What do you do for the physical and then nutritional health side of your life ow yes. I'll start with nutrition. I eat organic raw vegan diet by hi dave and then i would say paleo by night so it's an easy like if i'm classifying it so i start the morning with a full glass of water right to hydrate and then i make some coffee with some fat in it kinda bulletproof coffee and organic coffee. Put some fat in its m._c. Oil that sort of thing <hes> and then a couple of hours later i drink eight and organic smoothly with a lot of spinach and killing it and very low sugar so some berries <hes> some organic vegan protein powder. That's may smoothie at lunch. I have a salad and for dinner. I usually have vegetables a small portion of meat and not every night. I do meet probably for three or four nights a week and and that would be it's always quality grass-fed protein a meat of <hes> no hormone chicken wild caught salmon and in terms of restaurants. I'm really careful to go to only formative restaurants and longer restaurant as a half to where there's nothing else but i got in my hometown. I've called called. I've put in farm-to-table restaurants on yelp. I've called all the restaurants and i've said hey your beef. Grass fed or is your chicken hormone. Free are and many of them. It is not they just put farm-to-table because it's a buzzword so they put it in the keywords of the search on yelp so i had to actually find out the hard way that oh you're claiming claiming it but you're not so then we all your find out so i've got a list so that's my nutrition <hes> and then and then as far as fitness goes. I don't exercise every day. Yeah i go through phases. Sometimes i'm exercising every day right now. I'm exercising about four days a week and i usually do two days of playing in basketball and then two days of orange theory fitness and i will say i love orange theory fitness it is it's exercise for for people with a._d._h._d. Short attention spans. You know you're only doing something for thirty seconds or something else. Does something else you're doing. You're the switch. Send you look up and you go. We got the classes over. You know so yeah so i'm a big fan of that but that those are my daily rituals when i'm traveling by the way an out called seven minute workout and it's a seven minute workout at home sometimes times too but i encourage anybody. It's a seven minute workout twelve exercises in seven minutes thirty seconds each with ten second breaks and it's a full body workout highly recommended beauty. Yeah i keep hearing more and more about orange theory fitness. It's growing like men and i also know won't still the thunder art member or to family and friends. Actually i'm going to steal your thunder because i was talking to you on facebook as i do to be a good podcast host and i saw recent post about your date night right with your wife ursula every week about once per month and overnight or which i appreciate because that's been a big one for my wife and i do actually not even not only that about every quarter. We'll go away for five six days and it's so powerful so i love that one big family and friends. What are the things you do to strengthen. Those relationships yeah so that's that's a big one for the wife date night every week and here's the thing about date night by the way i realized that we had been doing what you would call. A married date. Night is a really me. It's really a mediocre the ochre date night right like restaurants. You know same the closest restaurant alternating between two or three. That's pretty much it. We'd go to dinner. Come home you know and then i realized recently. That's not how you date somebody when you're when you're according them trying to impress them you make a day so now. Will we get dressed up right which i used to always wear what i was wearing for. Worker may put on some. You know what really you know. Just whatever i always they have to do my hair gel my hair and you know and so so now we get dressed up and we try to try a new restaurant. We alternate sometimes. There's always a new restaurant. I always try to. I don't personally drink alcohol but i always go drink with my wife before after dinner because she loves that and chance for us to just like just a different environment so so we'll go to a rooftop bar and austin texas live we'll be looking at the skyline just having a drink relaxing you know and talking and she loves it fills her up on and so to date your wife or your husband like you dated him back. You know go to different locations in the same nightdress up. Look good. You know what i mean. That'd be and then once. It's a month. The overnight date is huge. The kid especially kids right. We get a -sitter. They stage like we have no kids and there's no pressure to get home. We have all all night. Wake up in the morning. We breakfast together. We right it's beautiful. The last time went kayaking and paddle boarding the it's just awesome so that's the date and then for the kid kid. This is big. I realize my cancer journey really taught me this but i realized that i was doing a lot of parents. Do we do this as human beings. We talked about this on our last episode. Rate about human nature is to do the minimal to get by and we do that in a lot of areas of our life with our kids is i spent a little time with them. I can check the box off right but what was that time was quality. I'm marie sitting in front of the t._v. or doing so for me here's the two big things i do every today with my kids and they don't take very much time they take like thirty minutes total and i do a lot more than this. These are the two i book in my day with quality time when my kids so in the morning morning is scheduled fifteen minutes to wake them up in a meaningful pleasant memorable way what i mean by that is most of us go canned good literally right and i it's not pleasant. We're not connecting. I go in and i have to stuffed animals that i have two different voices for that. They love my kids. Kids are nine and four and i do a little puppet show for fifteen minutes and i just make it up. I just go hey and my one one might one animals the inappropriate unicorn and says all sorts of stuff that apparent should never say to their kids and as the parent. I always have to reprimand the unicorn but they think it's hilarious laureus right shut the heck up. Go unicorn. Don't tell my daughter to shut up so it's a graca right and then the unicor invest in this big chubby like monster maybe thirty and a go right so they i love it. They crave it when i just got back from out of town and last night but when i was kissing my kids deny she goes dad unicorn and derby over there ready for the morning. We've miss that the last few days right and at night i either read them a story their least favorite things for me to do what i usually you as i tell them a story from my child and have a note on my phone. I keep a running list of this burris told them and i try to embed a less in the story but what it let's do is. Let's get to know their dad and get to know me through my mistakes through my funny stories at every age i tell stories from when i was a child when i was a teenager. Can you name it and i wanted to arms. I tell them stuff way screwed up on and i say one of the best wasn't from joe rogan on parenting. He's not a parenting expert but he taught me this. He ghost most parents when their kids mess up their parents get upset. They condemn how dare you're not supposed to do that. You're a bad kid. You're out there was a bad thing and and that creates disconnect. It makes them feel bad about themselves. It hurts their self esteem in their confidence and it puts you on a pedestal and it creates disconnect connect really go. Oh my dad or mom is perfect and i'm not i'm a screw up with joe. Rogan taught me and this is one of those best lessons when his kids screws up and this is what i do now i. I don't say you don't yell at him. I don't condemn. I don't criticize them. I say i looked for when i did that. When i was a kid and i go hey sophie. It's my daughter house and my son. Hey obviously you know that was wrong and all that you know when i was your age. This is what i did that was very similar the same thing and they go and then all of a sudden there when you're yelling at them. They're not they're not listening. They're not learning right. They're feeling any oh you did what did you do. I go. I did let me tell you what happened and then i always tell them negative consequence and how it affected me in a way where i i go i i don't want you to have the same things happen and so all ground up sometime right you're grounded or i'll take a privilege but i do it calmly. I'm not yelling right. Why would a yell. How's that yelling. I'm talking to them with respect one another lesson. I learned and all those national share. Is that view your don't view your kids as kids view them as human beings are equal to you in terms of deserving respect and if you wouldn't talk to your best friend or your colleague or your boss or your friend or your your clients that way don't talk to them that way. Wait have a thoughtful intelligent caring empathetic conversation. Were they get the lesson you might need. Intensify your voice a little bit but not to where they're like. I was when i was scared was terrified because all the scare. My dad was gonna hit me again right now. So anyway hopefully got a handful of the no the parenting right right there that would folks that was worth the price of admission right there. I will call out to shanti feld han who her book the thirty challenge. He's got a new one out. I referred her so often today. Eh on facebook. She had a little mean type thing how and it was something to the fact of don't ever speak to your spouse anyway different than you would to a best friend and and you just took it to the parents to to your kids as well beautiful three mental. What do you do. What are the mental habits that keep your or mental edge sharp that you employ yeah the you know. The biggest one is the miracle morning right and that is really the habit that i can say that is it handles it handle so much. Which is i think why do it but the miracle morning is summed up in six practices. I'll go through these very quickly. The savers offers so s. a. v. e. r. s. the essence for silence. That's your meditation and or your prayer time the row formations those are the written statements that articulate who oh you are committed to being the visualization the world's greatest athletes do it because it is one of the most effective practices if there's open a peak state before you perform so that when you go perform whether it's in your job or your relationship or as a parent you've already rehearsed it in your mind and then you execute it perfect you know as close to perfect as possible the easiest he is for exercise the ours for reading the ss prescribing which is a fancy word for writing those six practices ensure that i'm gonna peak physical mental emotional and spiritual prostate every morning that i'm calm that i'm relaxed that i'm learning and growing and i'll tell you i have a self imposed rule that i'm not allowed to read a business book until i read a parenting hunting or marriage book i at least five to ten pages while and that ensures that my family who we all claim as our number one priority but does your schedule reflect that and mine before i had cancer did not and i thought to reinforce that they're my number one priority the first thing i'm gonna do every morning miracle morning is i'm going to learn how to be better and so for me. Constantly sharpening my mind if you will through meditation and all of those practices is what keeps me sharp and i do it every day six six days a week on average brilliant brilliant. Thank you financial the next spoke. What are the things you employ for your financial wellbeing so for me. The biggest thing has been creating passive and and recurring income and i think that that those words are charged a word. I think some people associated with get rich quick like oh yeah get rich quick and create passive acid income and on and on no <unk> when i had cancer i really understood the value of this so i have passive income through having unpublished written thirteen books and then thirty seven translation so i fifty sources of income just from my books and when when i had cancer i really couldn't work for a year and that was our highest income year we've ever had seven figure income year and it was from the passive recurring income sources. I had set up and here's what i would say to people in fact if you want to learn more go go to entrepreneur dot com and search hal elrod. I wrote an article about this on steps to do this. Whether it's writing books or it's investing in real estate or i have friends and invest in all sorts of weird one by debt. Let's have one that buys internet company. I mean all sorts of random stuff right on but the bottom line is any real estate is probably the easiest lowest hanging through where you you know go vic- robert kiyosaki books right. You can learn how to invest in real estate with no money down. It's a real thing but the idea. I have one friend that his goal was to buy ten ten. How chen rental houses over the next ten years have them paid off over the next thirty years and then he'll give retirement of twenty thousand dollars a month minimum. <hes> you know it right. That's including inflation of rental price. That's that's in today's dollars which the it'll probably forty thousand a month but there you go. That's something that literally almost anyone can do. You know maybe not at that pace. Maybe it takes longer but that's the biggest habit is. I created passive recurring income and yeah i've been working on that by the way for the last fifteen years so it took me a long time to get there but you know they say on the day of victory no fatigue spell right and like once you start seeing incoming while you're sleeping. You're like whoa. This is cool. You are listening to the ziglar. We're so and hearing the successful habits of how elrod what passionate and just truly inspiring guy the next spoke we talked through a spiritual and he shares a favorite resource that has really shaped his personal relationship with god. I'll bring him back right. 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Whenever i need to and to me god on is there's there's obviously a very loaded word to <hes> and i grew up religious. I would say that i am not religious. I attend church every week for me. I'm much more spiritual and what i would say. The difference is and i'm not i'm not an expert initial. I might probably gonna get some hate mail for this price. Say it wrong so please forgive me. I don't mean to offend but to me. Religion is you're following religious dogma. You're following a set of rules that have been handed down and yes. They were handed down potentially from jesus right which is something. That's not a bad guy to follow the rules about round but but spirituality for me is more about about your personal relationship with god and being that's a loaded word. I view god it not just as the spirit up in heaven yada yada yada its its collective consciousness right right the idea that god has been proven in science that is there is an energy field that our thoughts go into effect which is why sometimes someone thinks about you and then you feel that right so for me. Spirituality is really it's. It's a very kind of holistic viewpoint point on first of all. I studied every religion that i can and i looked to gain wisdom and principals from each one that i can embody into my philosophy on life. It's not just this is my one religion. All the other ones are wrong. This is the only one that's right and again. I'm probably offending. Some people and i apologize. It's not lie intention. This is my personal belief right. I think that on most religions are pointing for the same thing and they have a lot of common themes intrudes and so rather than get in the weeds on yeah yeah yeah but this one it does this different look for the comments enes. What's the what's the truth the wisdom that has been handed down from god from jesus from buddha from ripe for and how what makes sense to me and the last thing i'll say on that is the best book i've ever read. I used not recommended because i usually not ever talk about this topic because of the fear of like oh. I don't want to offend people but conversations with god is arguably the best book i've ever read currently reading book for right now. He has one to reinforced and encourage you to look at it with an open mind and look at the wisdom in it and don't don't judge well but i don't believe that it came from god who cares is it wisdom. Is it useful in your life. Great apply it and for me. Some of the most useful wisdom in my entire life came from that book the god by neil donald walsh and it has sold. I think over ten million copies so i think there's most of it word of mouth neal's not much of a marketer. It's all word of mouth so i would would imagine that you know that i'm one of ten million people that have found out wisdom very valuable. Well your two million a year so you'll catch up soon. I think next just one how is career like everybody. I have in the show. Obviously you're here because you've had a great career success. The interesting one is to kind of look at what are the habits you employ now to keep your career where you want it to be granted that you have opportunities of vast abundance. That could take you every which way yes so. There's a few i'll give give kind of what got me here and then what i'm doing now because there are different things and depending on where your career what got me here was modeling right and i don't mean i don't. I don't take your a handsome guy modeling other people right. I mean i i if if i order some of the secrets to success like you could sum it up you could probably get ten different secrets to success right in saying any one of these will work great but here's one if you wanna it'd be a successful in an era of your life. Let's say you want to have the best marriage on the planet right. Let's say you want to be a millionaire. Let's say you want to be of the six pack abs and tons of energy. There's a book on right. There's a book on that and the simplest kita success is find someone that has has has written a book on what you want to achieve by that book for twenty bucks read the book and do exactly what you're what that person did you do right and of course modify it to your own. You know what you're make shirts in line with your values principles but do what works what's proven to work and your success is inevitable. It's only a matter of time and so you mike oh gosh that simplistic yup and it's the secret to success you find someone on that that has achieved the results. You want to achieve you do what they learn what they did and you do what they do. In fact my good friends musician brother james is commute <unk> musician name on but he said find the master learn their model and master the model and that's it. I looked up by the way looked him up on spotify very first song the miracle morning for something it did. I rapped the second verse. I didn't know that okay so i listened to him for twenty minutes while i was reading your book so thank you every word for anybody any listening go listen to brother james brother with an a at the end every word he writes is an affirmation to music every song he writes designed to make you feel great and program your mind for success. It's i don't know any musician does that. I'm sure there's probably another one but he's the only one that i know well. I'm going to give him to my oldest son. Who writes music so that's that's awesome all right seven last one is the personal spoke. This is the fun hobbies the things that you do just to be the awesome how you are yeah every day i do at least one thing that brings me joy and one of the ways i make i make that i love playing basketball and and so i just love shooting a basketball that's it i just love the feeling of a basketball leaving my hands going in the hoop us so every day i go play basketball the ball for thirty minutes after lunch and i just shoot around so i'm not i don't encourage you to eat a meal and then try to go play full court basketball. I eat lunch and then to kind of give on metabolism going gone and wherever i go down the street and i go i go shoot hoops for about anywhere from ten twenty thirty minutes depending on the day and that's one thing that brings me joy and it's part of my schedule every single day and then every week i try to go wake boarding a couple hours thing that i love to do and then of course every week and i'm playing with my kids. I'm i with my wife saturdays and sundays off limits for work that is family time i still wake up into my miracle warning but yeah so those are the things oh and then one other thing out lunch while all i'm eating that food. I found this out because it's one of my favorite things in the world to do. It's to watch television while i'm eating lunch i don't. I don't know why it's just it's my disconnect my like mental like i'm not thinking about work. I'm not thinking about anything. I'm just i'm veggie out in front of the t._v. But instead of three hours every nine thirty minutes a day you know so. That's a new one right there. I love it. Thanks for the for being candid with that woman how again thanks for sharing ernest. Thanks for letting us take a behind the scenes look though i'll have to say again man in your books i love your vulnerability your openness in there just like you were here but just grateful for the time and insight you've given us again. Thanks thanks kevin anytime with truly what gift to hear how l. rods personal habits of success again really recommend you check out his book the miracle morning and his latest book the miracle equation which you can find it. The miracle equation waged dot com annual event best year ever live dot com. We're coming out next in show seven ten. How a to fend off negative people. I mean what do you do when confronted with a negative person whether they're just spouting negatively to or around your orange outright attacking you negatively i mean unless you live and work alone and are veritable hermit negative people just unavoidable and this episode i play klay impacting message from zig ziglar that does a profound job of highlighting the consequences of unleashed negativity from it. I posed this question to the audience. How do you cope when you're on the receiving end in negativities so you don't become negative yourself. Responses ranged changed from runaway foreign and fast and avoided at all costs to striving to understand the other person and maybe help bring them around to a more positive outlook many he cited the need for compassion on these people but what seemed to bubble to the surface was the necessity for us all to be emotionally confident ourselves in order to healthily deal with negative negatively. Tom's ziegler join me for the discussion actually charged us to become emotional. Ninja is really really powerful. Show till then folks. Thank you as always for letting me walk with you as we inspire are true performance together <music>.

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#TBT Hal Elrod: What Cancer Taught Me About Money, Business, and Freedom

Freedom Fast Lane with Ryan Daniel Moran

51:00 min | 1 year ago

#TBT Hal Elrod: What Cancer Taught Me About Money, Business, and Freedom

"Didn't clear on how I'm showing up for other people and in getting clear on how I can better show up to meet their needs exceed their expectations and be the better husband, a better. Father a better, son. A better brother, a better, friend, etc. Not has become the number one focus after the cancer of of my life and health being part of it. So that I can stay alive to continue doing all those things. Hey capitalists in traditional throwback Thursday fashion were rereleasing, one of our most popular episodes that we've had on capitalism dot com. Enjoy. Today, you're gonna meet someone who I have asked to keynote one of the days at the capital ISM conference and his name is Hal Elrod. I've asked how to speak out one of the days at cap con because Hal is a successful entrepreneur who a year ago was diagnosed with a form of cancer where he was given a ninety percent chance of dying. And during that time, he became very focused on what was important very focused on how he needed to change his life and his business, and he said that he had the best year of his life today. He's on the other side of beating that cancer. And now that he is cancer free and healthy. I'm personally fascinated with what he has learned about life. I'm fascinated with how he looks at money and success, how his life view has changed result of staring death in the face. So I asked how. To come on the show to give a bit of a preview of what he'll be talking about at the capitalism conference. So in this interview, we talk about what he's discovered is the most important thing in life. We've talked about what he wishes was different about his business. And what he's glad he had set up before he got sick. He talks about his views on health, and what he thinks is an ideal diet, and he addresses some of the things that entrepreneurs miss in terms of what's really important in life at the end of the day were all in this game because we want more out of life. And so often, I know that I know that I become obsessed with the game rather than what I'm playing this game four, and I got into this because I wanted a better life, and so often I find myself lost in just more and finding more and there's some benefit to that. There's some something that drives me about that. There's something that is fun and playful about that. But also, I think that many entrepreneurs are covering up a deep sense of insecurity, and sometimes a deep sense of feeling lost. Because we're not quite sure what our lives are supposed to look like. So I've selfishly asked how come on and share his story here on the show so strap on your seatbelt, put on your bakers pants and enjoy this chat with Hal Elrod. How thanks for hanging out with this is how Austin Elrod Ryan. Oh, Daniel Moran. My my apologies. In your middle name. I was like I I should maybe I should start including my middle name. So are is your middle name Austin? And you live in Austin. It is Austin and I live in Austin. It was made it was destiny now. Well, now, you have to change your middle name and every Email like I do. So you could be how awesome our odd. That is one of your clever little branding kind of like that. You do that. I I'm I'm trying to create a sense of mysterious nece around what my name is on a day-to-day basis. I like us speaking of mysterious how I find you, particularly mysterious, and the reason is you and I met about two years ago at a mastermind Danny, and I was familiar with with your books. You wrote the miracle morning. You wrote the miracle morning for entrepreneurs alongside our friend Cameron Herold. We call him the hundred million dollar man, you have a successful in and pretty big podcast following. And I that was about all I knew about you. And then one to skip a few your whole life changes. And I want to ask first of all how are you? How's your health where where are you right now? Yeah. Thank you so much. I I'm doing great feeling great. In what you're referring to is one year ago actually one year ago yesterday was the the one year anniversary of me being officially diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia, which is one of the one of the rarest and most aggressive forms of cancer that one can get in fact, there was no data on the cancer that I had to the point in terms of survival rate and the closest survival rate that they could give me with ten percent. Wow. So given a ten percent chance of surviving in which you know, obviously, if you look at the flip side, that's you've ninety percent chance of dying, you know, very soon. And when I went to the hospital, I my kidneys were failing on my lung was collapsed. I was breathing off of one lung which I've been doing for about a week and a half. And which is what sent me into the hospital in the first place trying to figure out what that the causing what was causing them. And then my heart was surrounded by fluid to where it was it was very close to stopping. In fact, it was an eighth of an inch of fluid and if it grew by another eighth of an inch. They said my heart wouldn't be able to beat and they had to stick a needle in my chest. And. Drain the fluid around my heart, and the I had to sign a consent saying that I that I was aware of the fact that there was a very good risk that when my if my heartbeat in the middle of them trying to drain it. It would spunk. Share my heart with the needle and send me into cardiac arrest, and I had to be awake for this whole thing. And so that was my that was what I was doing a year ago, and I will say the the short answer is that the last year of my life has been by far the most difficult year of my life, and it has been by far the best year of my life. And I say that because you know, it's in the midst I believe of our greatest adversity when we have the the biggest opportunities to learn and to grow and really to become better than we've ever been before. By proactively taking our adversity head on in in in in learning from it, and and in, you know, ending up a better version of ourselves on the other side. So where do you stand? Now, how is your health? Now. Are you forgot to answer that? So so I'm coming to you from the grave. No, no. That's not a funny joke. Whenever me death jokes family doesn't stop to inappropriate humor. Right. So I I was about a month ago. I was diagnosed or I'm sorry not diagnose. But well, I guess the diagnosis prognosis was that. I was came cancer-free. I went and got tested, and I don't have any cancer. And or they don't find it. And the way that I look at this is a huge celebrations because I definitely could have been dead. And the odds had me dying. But it's also a, you know to me, it's just a step in the journey of health and in lifelong health and really making sure I think for all of us they say one in two people are gonna get cancer one and two men in our lifetime. We'll get cancer one in three women. And when you think about those odds like think how scary that is there's it's like a zombie movie. There it saying that half of the world's population is going to get this deadly disease that we don't fully understand. We don't have a cure for. We've been promising a cure since like the fifties. You know insane. You know and saying it's just around the corner every decade, it's just around the corner. I mean, it's a pretty scary thing. So I think that for all of us, and I'm not big on. I don't want to cause fear for people. I just want to call it awareness real because I think we all have to be really mindful of of what we're putting into our body. And you know, I've read quite a few of the anticancer books or healing cancer holistically, or, you know, just kind of did a lot of research on that that end to have knowledge so that I can live a a cancer free life, you know, for the rest of my life. So you had a ten percent chance at year ago. You're now on the other side of that ten years ago you and I were sitting down having a meal at roaring fork one of my favorite restaurants in Austin, Texas, few blocks from where I live I would like to go back there. And for you to tell me where was your head at there. It wasn't like I wonder if I'm gonna get sick soon. It will. Probably focused on other things like work in business in making money and stuff like that. But tell me where your head was at that point. Yeah. I I I had bought a couple of of glasses drinking glasses that said the what is it a living the dream? And I really, you know, that was just reminder to be grateful every single day that I had been given the abilities and the opportunities to create the life of my dreams, and I was living. I was living that life now. And especially when I was twenty years old. I was and you know, the story I won't go in depth on it. But I was hit head on by a drunk driver. When I was twenty I was hit by a second car crushed the left side of my car into my body. I broke eleven bones. I was clinically dead for six minutes in a coma for six days and came out of the coma to be told that I would never walk again that I'd permanent brain damage, and that I would you know, I was having to deal with the repercussions of having eleven broken bones. So I had already really gone through a light, you know, a near death experience too. Put me in a position of a mindset, or if you will of of just of gratitude and living life to the fullest, so twenty almost twenty years later, nineteen years later when I was diagnosed with cancer, I was able to take that mindset of what I can't change it. I might as well make the best of it. Which is what I applied when I had my car accident. And I applied that now to the cancer so going into right before the I was diagnosed the cancer when that you and I met two years ago. Yeah. Focused on business on businesses booming the miracle morning the book in the in the the movement that's been created. And we've got a documentary that we're going to be showing at my alive event next week in San Diego, we've been working on that for two years. So that was that was already started. And yeah, it was I also I watched a documentary probably fifteen years ago called healing cancer from the inside out and made a big impact on me on how to cure cancer holistically, what the risks were in getting it. I bought that movie for all of my family members. And so I was really living anticancer lifestyle. If you will I was eating really clean. I mostly plant-based diet. I I had we had really no chemicals in our house. We use natural cleaners, and you know, plant based soaps and shampoos. I mean, you literally when I got cancer a friend of mine said it best. He goes hell, if you've got cancer, I'm screwed that was that was his response. What he I found out I had cancer. And anyway, so so yeah. So it was it was living the dream and and being grateful every day and never imagining something like that would would happen because of my lifestyle being so proactive for it not to happen. And then when I was diagnosed there were there was no there was almost no emotional pain. Because I've just I've I've decided I've realized that if I can't change something there's no sense in wishing I could and feeling sorry for myself in blaming anyone or anything or you know, or or living in fear. The only thing that makes sense as we move through life is to when we encounter a tragedy or an adversity or a loss is to grieve whatever process that we need but not to extend that in a way words detrimental to our emotional health. Or emotional state or physical health, you know, and our mental wellbeing in in for those around us. And I think that that was the big lesson. I learned from both my my difficult experiences. The car accident, and the cancer is we have the power to accept everything that we can't change annot. Just unconditionally be at peace with it. Doesn't mean we're happy. I wasn't happy. I got cancer. But here's the deal. If you imagine if you hold both your hands everybody watching hold up your right hand up in your right side. Your body your left hand in front of your left side. And if you look at your right hand imagine that represents positive emotions, right or your right hand. You're you're right. Look at the right hand. That's got your happiness love joy gratitude. And then on the other side, there's your left hand, which is negative emotions. It's fear anger anxiety, regret, you name it. And if you put your hands together in a prayer position, you find the inbetween positive emotion negative emotion through the power of accepting everything that we cannot change everything that's out of our control. We. Find peace. Right. And that's where I put the in between the negative and positive motion or hands together in prayer is the state of being that is being piece where we can find that we are in control of our motions. I call it emotional invincibility, right where when you accept everything you can't change than everything that happens to you has no power over your emotional state, only you have power over your emotional state. And so that that mindset I had going into the cancer. So that when I was diagnosed I thought, well, I have cancer either way, I might as well be the happiest and the most grateful and the most Proactiv I've ever been while I go through the most scary and the most difficult time in my life. And I think that's a choice that we all have the freedom to make. So I'm assuming your brain was mostly focused on business two years ago. And then it had to shift. Yes. In some in some major way in order to get through the last year. Let's fast forward to two. Now. I'm curious. On your opinions on health and nutrition since you has that evolved. And then I want to ask how does that impact your view on business, but I do have an opinion on health lifestyle and cancer. And has that changed before we go into business? Absolutely. And in that I've spent a lot of time reflecting, and that's probably what I've spent the most time reflecting on during the last year is what really matters most and in my living in alignment with. What matters most to me. And how can I better live in alignment with? What matters most meeting. There's anything any everybody walks away from this podcast. And especially the time that I'm going to be spending. I don't know if it's announced yet. But I guess this is the announcement. Right. But speaking it at your amazing capitalism conference. It is about what matters most to us. And again getting clear on what matters. Most is step. One step two is is evaluating how the way that we're living, and how that how how that compares to living in a line of with what matters most to us. And then getting. Clear on any changes that we need to make or habits we need to implement or rituals routines, or whatever that is. So that we can better live in alignment with what matters most to us. Right. So that's really the focus here on. So when it comes. So I'll just I'll share the the the two things that matter most I believe in life. This is my opinion. So you can decide for yourself number one is health and number two our relationships. Right. And the relationship that we have with ourselves, and the people the people that we love which it shouldn't you should love yourself. That's just number should be number one. And then and then the people that you love your family, and that sort of thing, and and very often if we look at how our schedule in our lifestyle, right? Very often. We're not living in alignment with with what matters most to us. I would have always said my family mattered most. But for most entrepreneurs, you will why do you spend one hour a day with them and twelve hours a day doing other things, right? And the one hour day you spend with them is at the end of the day when you're exhausted. Right. You know, why aren't you giving him the if they're their most important shouldn't they have the first hour of? Of your day. You know, and now I play with my son first thing in the morning for thirty minutes when he wakes up, you know, because of that so back back to the health piece on my views on health have not changed very much. Mike cancer was because that was one thing as I went to my my on collagen. When I was diagnosed am I said doctor no fence, but I'm not I'm not a fan of chemotherapy. I don't I just it goes against everything. I believe in terms of strengthening the body. It's you know, it's it's a poison to kill the cancer. And it also kills all of your healthy cells. Right. It's it's it's killing everything I said, so I would like to approach this holistically and his response was I respect that. But based on your particular cancer, and how aggressive and fast acting it is he said how if you this isn't something you can approach holistically you'll be dead in if we don't administer chemo to within the next twenty-four hours. He said you'll be dead in anywhere from a few days to a week. Maybe two at the most. And I didn't like that answer. It. Rubbed me the wrong way. I thought it was a scare tactic. And so I said, we'll give me twenty four hours. And and let me think let me twenty four hours to sleep on it. And he said, yeah, you know, barely, but. Yes. And and so we my dad, and I went and did a little research and basically realize that okay? This is this is no joke. You know? In fact, a one of a gentleman who's in my mastermind, his mother-in-law got the same cancer that I did or a very similar the closest you could get and she was diagnosed and five days later, she died, and she was also a very healthy person. So essentially what I realized I this form of leukemia that I had that there was a I didn't have time to make lifestyle changes. You know in terms of waiting seeing it that would make a change if you could get most cancer tumor base, breast cancer, these other their tumor base, and you can shrink a tumor by Alkalis in your body. And that was always my knowledge about Cantor's if I ever get cancer. I'll just go completely alkaline. I'm a healthy eater. But I still have you know, cashew ice cream in the evening, which has sugar in it. I mean, whatever. So as. Perfect. You know? But so I thought okay, we'll all go completely alkaline all limit sugar. That was always my cancer plan if I ever got cancer. And then when I realized this cancer doesn't doesn't respond to food changes that way, I ended up going in in for chemo. So my view on diet. Here's the only change that's happened. It's so it's always been or since I went to a Tony Robbins event in two thousand so seventeen years ago, it's been a plant based diet. That's always been you know, I've I've had a plant based diet. I was completely vegan for awhile. Completely Ravi again for awhile vegetarian and now eight a little bit of grasp at me cage free that sort of thing, but it still a plant based diet with healthy quality proteins in in in small amounts, meaning a small amount of meet each day or a day versus, you know, a big amount of meat every single Mia eliminating carbohydrates, bleached. Flour is probably one of the miss sugar white sugar bleach foward to the worst things. I've in my humble, non expert opinion that you. Put in your body. So those are minimized. So here's the only change that's happened. I've I've I've still abide by the plant based diet with quality with small amounts of quality protein. However, a lot of research has proven that Kita genyk diet. There's evidence the key to genyk diet, which is a high fat moderate Lee high protein, and almost you know, very, minimal if not no carbohydrates. So that's what I switched to. So instead of fruit smoothies in the morning. My smoothies are unsweetened almond milk. Spinach. A raw organic cashews raw organic walnuts. Little bit brain octane MC T oil and some plant based steady sweetened to carbohydrates serving plant protein that makes it tastes good, you know, vanilla chocolate. And I I use the brand designs for health that I get off of Amazon, and that's been my favorite in terms of taste and also in terms of quality, organic ingredients and and low carbohydrates so much. Exact breakfast. I have except there's an avocado when they're in for. I forgot I put that into and what's the other and I used Julian bakery protein powder. So I'll almost the exact same thing. I got I'm going to have to Google that right now. Yeah. So how Amazon Julian bakery. Yeah. Yeah. They they need help with their Amazon presence Julian bakery. You should really call me. But that said that Bob McClay before still wait now phone, call J U L A N at that's right. So full disclosure, they they have vegan blends and Kito blends. But also I typically go with their egg white blend. But anyway, that's a topic for another day. Now fast forward with me because I am an entrepreneur with workaholic tendencies, I think most entrepreneurs get into this game because they're covering something up like they're moving away from some pain and probably one of the challenges. We have is we never really most entrepreneurs never really live out the life that they. Desire like they move away from a life. They did desire before with the idea of they're going to move towards something. But most of us kind of get caught in this inbetween of we've moved away from the nine to five job or even worrying about money. But now we have kind of we get all of our motion will needs met via work. You have had life. Kick you in the teeth a couple of times and shaking you into a wakeup call. And the reason I wanted to have you the capitalism conferences because you have been forced to discover that there is more to life than work production and money. So I asked you selfishly because I need to hear the answer. What you discovered about your relationship to work, or what have you discovered that is important in life, or how has your view on money and were changed as a result of getting sick. And now being better, and I'll add to this sorry to have such a long question. But it's okay. I'll just have to ask you to repeat it four times. Episode. I do a video on freedom fastlane lot on freedom dot com where I propose the scenario. What if you were diagnosed with cancer, and you are going to die. You would wrap up your affairs focus on what was important. And then if it went away, and you could live the rest of your life in that place. What would that like, you know, I talk about theoretically, I'm to the man who is going through. Would you please tell me the answers to life? I read your blog post, and I was so inspired by it. I just did everything I could get cancer. I wanted I wanted to this interview. I set this up long time ago. Yeah. Several once the family would slap me back joking about that stuff. All right. So that's how I deal with everything. You just did. I'd rather use humor than tears of laughter. More fun to me than tears of sadness. But so I I was definitely workaho Alec before the, you know beforehand, and like I think most of us entrepreneurs if we love our work doesn't feel like work, you know, it's really being a play Hollick that you get paid for. Right. And so I was I would work sixty hours a week probably. And in for me, I wake up at you know, while I was waking up at three thirty AM seven days a week. I've done it for the last nine years almost every single day and less I had a late night or something night before. But for the most part that was my default in bed by nine thirty slept six hours up at three thirty. And so I would do three thirty to four was just my wake up time. I could brush my teeth make some coffee chill out smoothly. Whatever for to five AM was my miracle morning time. So that's when I did my my miracle morning. And then and then I started work at five am, and I'd work until. Five PM said were, you know, those twelve hours? Centrally I don't even know what that is. That was five days a week says sixty hours of work a week. And so that's why I was working at. And then what happened is when I got when I got sick. And I was in hospital, and I was basically unable to work for weeks at a time being in pain or no energy in with g enemy you name. It what happened is my team that I had built over the last couple of years. It wasn't a big team. I have a business partner honor a quarter who's here in Austin. And she runs the miracle morning book series with me, I have John berghof who runs our live event with me. And then I've got my director operations Tiffany in. And yeah, that was basically my entire team at that point. And Tiffany's kind of was able to step up replacement. Here's the point is I my income this last year stayed it actually went up from the year before significantly my revenue and up my income went up, and what that did is first and foremost it I mean, did I drop to my knees and thank God. And. Thank the universe for you know, that I had that in place and going and just imagining if I didn't have a team in place and a business in place, you know, or or even you can just call him, passive sources of income, right? They're semi passive sources of income my book, which was every month, the miracle morning still sold ten thousand copies without me. You know being in the hospital so that literally paid all of our bills paid for our families bills and so on so really the two things that became extraordinarily valuable which I afterward like after the factor. And that's what you're asking me. What's the hindsight? It's having a team in place that could run honorary ran the the book series without me for a year. John berghof ran our live event last year. I got sick. I was planning on going. I had to cancel my flights. The morning of I was in the hospital after chemo, and I I was optimistic that I thought I could make it to the event, and I got really sick and I had to council my flights the morning of streamed in for like five minutes. He could muster the energy for. But I missed our entire event. Well, John berghof ran the event on around the bend in Tiffany ran my business. So the point is right. Is that too? I believe two of the most important things you can do as a human being number. One is great multiple sources of income doubt is actually number one. Even if you don't have a team, even if you don't even if you don't have a, you know, even if you're not a full blown entrepreneur, but if you just set up a side hustle, right? And and you you set up a side income, you write a book, there's a stream of income, Ukraine. Online course there stream of income. Right. You obviously, there's you know, you could start a network marketing business, there's a stream incoming so there's all these I really believe that it is irresponsible for us in age to rely on one source of income because if something happens to especially to have a family, if something happens to you where you cannot provide that source of income, and it might be that you get fired right in today's economy, right? When the next crash comes the next economic crash, which I don't think it's far away. You know? Right. I mean, we were on a long run up in terms of the economy doing better and better. Better. But it's gonna crash in. How are we prepare? I think we have to always be prepared for that. And setting up. I wrote an article on on what was entre poor dot com on this. Exact this exact point you go read that it's on multiple streams of income. I think I think that's I think that's been played that's been on. It's made made dirty kind of this multiple streams of income get rich quick kind of a bad rap there. But if you actually stop, and you you look at the big picture, and you go K, why would I not have multiple sources of income to ensure my financial security so that if one of my sources of income dried up or win away completely suddenly I'd have other areas that would ace support me. But be that I can now tradition and put all my energy into right? If my speaking career dried up, then I would focus more on the coaching or if the coach you have the live events. I'd I'd focus more and marketing my books, so not mention each book is a stream of income. So it's like there's ten books out there. So I just I cannot. Stress. I can't make it strong enough case for why we should all have in our goals every single year to add aid stream of income. It doesn't mean you have to out a new one every every year it could be outing one. If all you had is two streams of income that were really strong. I'm thinking that that that's a starting place from there, you could you can you can you can add more. But I I can't stress that enough. And then the second part was having the team in place. But again that to me is is secondary. If I had no team. In fact, let's say had no team, but I still had the miracle morning books out there. Those would have supported our family and end granted, they're not not everyone. You can't write a book, and that's going to support your family. I mean, that's I had a rare kind of you know, book that took off a little bit. But the bottom line is having multiple sources of income to provide true financial security for you. And or your family. I think is one of if not the most important things for all of us to focus on beyond. Of course, the time with family, and that sort of thing. Great. So obviously, I agree with you at least on having some sort of an income stream that is within your control. What about what about the balance of what you focus on? Because you my guess is that you have you've seen. What's important, right? Like you've seen that everything could be taken away from you in all of his business stuff doesn't matter. Yup. And and the thing that I'm curious about when you speak in December in front of a group of incredibly successful capitalists. What will you know that they don't? And what I mean that is all of us are chasing success or more success. You've had success. And then you had life stare you in the face. How has your perspective of success change? Now that you've stared death in the face success successes freedom, right? I think that you'd probably agree with that on based on your domain. But right successes freedom. And and for you know, the way I would define it as the freedom to do what you love with the people that you love right period dot to me is success or that's that's the in game. Now, there's the front end game is is what how do you get there at success by adding value for people that you love, but you may have never met before. Right. Meaning that your clients your prospects the world, you know, that that will zig Ziglar, quote, I think is so true as the more value that you add everything you want in life. If you help enough other people get what they want. But the in game is about it's about the people that you love what? So I'll give you some example borough tangible examples when I got out of the hospital after my very last chemo treatment, and I was in. I think it was about nine months of chemo that I was in the hospital every three weeks for four to five days at a time. And then I was sleeping it off for a week or two throwing up in a trash can an apartment right next door to the hospital, which was a few hours from my house the right when I got home it was a Saturday. Morning. And I I was down to. I mean, I'm six feet tall. I one hundred seventy seven pounds before the cancer. So six feet tall. One seventy seven. I got down to one twenty seven during the cancer. Wow. So I lost fifty pounds. You know as much fifty pounds and on. So I was I was you. Of course, lost every hair on my body every hair on my body it so I was I was I actually I would you know, my inappropriate jokes. I used to joke that you know, this is if my life had taken a fourth I had become a meth addict. This is what I would have looked like like, you know, it was. I mean, I looked at me at the at the, you know, void of all nutrients and fat and all of that. Anyway. So the my son comes downstairs though, and I didn't have a lot of energy. But I, you know, I it was it was so important to me being home. I said I said halston he's five years old. He was four at the time. I said buddy, we can do anything you want today any any we can go anywhere in Austin. We can't we can't fly anywhere. We could drive anywhere that you want. And so we could go to. The bowling alley the arcade. We could do laser tag. We go to the park when got to eat what you do whatever you want buddy today's your special day. And I said what do you want to do? He said I want to go play in the playroom. I said, you sure you what do you wanna place? I ought to play with my with my superheroes. And I said, okay. That's great. I said are you sure though, I so we could do member we can do anything. I just had to repeat it all the cool things just thrown out there. Right. But we don't normally do it. He goes I just want to play in the playroom. And in that moment, I realized that that means more to my son playing within the playroom is it means more than anything. Now. That's his favorite thing to do when I gave him the option to anything. And that's what he can do talk about low hanging fruit. How hard is it to play with my kid and the player? Right. And and but like I said whenever I did that it was at the end of the day when I was exhausted. And I wasn't fully present. My my my my two fingers might have been holding. The little the ironman or the Spiderman or the superman, and and in talking in his monitoring, right, but my, but my my spirit wasn't there. It was just I was so tired, right. I was faking it. I was faking playing right? It'd be like on being on a date and someone going early uninterested in this, aren't you? You know what? I mean. I was trying to think I was trying to pull one over on my kid like I was really being a dad when I wasn't. And so in that moment when he said that I said halston we're going to go play with your figuring. But hold on. Let me ask you question. Do you wanna do that every single day for thirty minutes before you go to school? And he was like, oh my gosh. That's a dream. Come true type of thing, you know. And so I said give me one second. And I put it in my schedule with three alerts during the morning, and so now every single day from seven v seven forty five to eight fifteen AM, my son and I play this morning. We played superheroes. We shot Nerf guns yesterday. We played two board games. And then my daughter, and it's. It's it's it's beautiful. Right. And it also ensures that as an entrepreneur, right? I'm giving him. The best of me when I met a peak in peak state first thing in the morning, and I'm fully engaged, and I get down to I think in my head. What's he thinking about these action figures right now, what is his mind space where trade, and I don't even ask him sometimes to describe what you're feeling in thinking, I try to get as as I try to be as much of a five year old as I can possibly be for the entire thirty minutes that I'm playing with him. I'm silly goofy unit. And our relationship has has it. It's so strong as a result of that. And when I was gone, and I'd come home. He would really almost not cower away from me. But he would run to my wife because she was a single mom to the last year. You know, eighty percent of the time she was a single on. I was I was I was not I couldn't be there. Mentally physically emotionally. I couldn't be there. And then my daughter her she goes to school early. So when she get when I get off work at five PM, she has an alarm set with on her alarm clock every day, and she's eight years old and she comes in dad time be off work. But because I've got five alarm set before that. I'm I try to ensure that I am almost always ready to walk out the door or I'm waiting for a lot of times. I just surprised by standing there when she opens the door. Unlike it used to be wait, sweetie. Fifteen more minutes. Okay. Daddy's gonna finish this. And and same thing with the morning. It was fifteen more minutes. It was let me throw in a cartoon for you. Let me be a bullshit dad that that that says, you're the most important thing to me. But but my I don't sorry. I'm getting choked up, but I, but I don't, but I'm not living that way, and I'm trying to fake I'm trying to fake it, you know. And I probably never make it if I hadn't really committed to step up and be the doubt that you guys deserve. And my. Other other thing that I do is. I have a rule now that I have to read ten pages out of a parenting book every single day before I'm allowed to open a business book and that's been a game changer as well. And and for me, this is like a wakeup call. Because there's like this sense of I know, you're right. And I don't know how to change like I I don't know how to have the same shift that you had except intellectually to develop different habits, and I I can do that. But like you have you had a must like you were forced to change. What would you tell to me into the tens of thousands of entrepreneurs sue follow in our kind of his same spot yobs upset great question on the the I mean to put anything in action. So I would encourage you to commit for. Thirty days to do one of the things that I've shared or whatever comes up for you. Right. The there's a lot of research out there, obviously on how long it takes to change a habit. The most popular is probably twenty one days, which was I believe that was originated in Maxwell malts book psycho Cybernetics decades ago, and they did their research showed that twenty one days is how long it took to to change have implemented new habit. Most recently the book the one thing by a j Papa Sonnen. Gary Keller says, you know, I think sixty eight days or sixty seven days based on Harvard research. Well, a so when I wrote the miracle morning, I went on a I went deep into like, okay? What I you know, if people are going to make a change the number one change they've got to change their habit of hitting the snooze button, not waking up early. And so so I'll just a here's a quick version of what I think is the most effective of everything I've read everything I've studied the most effectively to change any habit implement or get rid of. You know, implement new one good one or in about one. And so I I always take a thirty day approach and there's three ten day phases. This was largely inspired by Eban pagan some of what I learned from from Eban pagans training, and it was the first ten days. So I called this. The there's three ten day phases. In those thirty days, the first phase days one through ten is unbearable daisy eleven through twenty is uncomfortable and days twenty one through thirty is the unstoppable phase. So unbearable uncomfortable unstoppable. When you try new habit. Sometimes the first few days don't feel unbearable because you're so excited that can often be the case. But but very often it's it's very day one year like I don't wanna quit smoking. There's gonna be the hardest thing we're done in my life. I don't wanna start eating vegetables. They taste disgusting to me or you know, whatever it is right or I don't wanna exercise. I'm I'm in such terrible shape. You know? So so those first ten days can often feel unbearable or I can't imagine waking up early. I love hitting the snooze button. Five times. You know? So those first today's can fill unbearable, but the question is if you're making a change that is that is going to be a game changer for you for your family for the rest of your life. Can you can you bear anything for ten days? And of course, the answer is. Yes, if I know it's going to be a long-term, very substantial significant benefit. I I can do anything for ten days, even it's unbearable. Right. So the second days are uncomfortable, and that doesn't sound fun. But it's basically where you're kind of in the transition phase where you're like, okay. It's not unbearable anymore. Like, I'm kinda getting the hang of it. But I'd still rather do the old habit or or not, you know, rather do the old thing. Not do the new thing. It's easier not to than it is to right. It's easier to stick with my old way. I'm still not quite there yet, but it's not unbearable anymore. And when it's unbearable it's like every fiber of your being is defying, you know, the guy I hate this. The middle days is kind of like, I'm not enjoying this. When I was learning to run, for example hated running but I committed to run a fifty two mile ultra marathon to raise money for the front row foundation. Which is a big charity. I support. And so once committed publicly like had to do it the first days, I hated it the second days, I didn't like it. But I didn't hate it. I just like I guess I'm gonna go for a run today. I said, I would I commit it. Okay. But the final ten days is where the magic happens these twenty one through thirty s what I call the unstoppable phase. And the reason I call it that is because it's where somewhere during those ten days, and everybody's different and could be eighteen for you. It might be twenty to twenty nine thirty one. Right. It's you know, there's not an exact science, although I do believe so much in the mind body connection that I believe you tell yourself that you're going to become unstoppable on day twenty one and you make that decision before you go to bed, and when you you reinforce it. When you wake up, I do believe that you're in charge of that. Right. But this one hundred thirty is the reason I call it the unstoppable phase Ryan is that you'll go to do the new habit, and it will be almost effortless. So for me, for example, was like Daytona three I was lacing on my running shoes. And I wasn't even thinking about it. I went out the right? On my ipod. I went out the front door, and I stopped right? As that river got to the pavement the sidewalk to run, I stopped. And I went whoa. There was no resistance this morning. There was no I didn't have to come overcome anything that was effortless. And Ryan, here's the rhetorical question. I would ask is is is it does it take effort? You know wants something to become effortless. Doesn't take effort to do it. It's like well. No. Of course, not you now have become unstoppable because that new habit that twenty days ago was unbearable unthinkable. Terrifying. For you is now becoming part of your identity and part of who you are. So don't change everything. At once take one thing that you could do. So I identify what go back to what I talked about earlier in the beginning number one identify. What matters most you number to evaluate how you're living an in relation to living in full alignment with. What matters most you and the number three. What's one thing that you can commit to doing for the next thirty? As implementing the three ten day phases. The unbearable unstoppable strategy. What's what's one thing? You can do in the next thirty days that will become a permanent fixture in your identity and your way of being that will add value in the area of your life that Adar's matters most. And maybe it is health for you. Maybe you don't have a family yet. Or maybe it's maybe you've got you can't pick one because you going. I gotta get my health in order wall. I get my family life in order, you know, or whatever. So I'm not gonna say it can't be to things, but less is definitely more. And there's there's tons of research that shows that the less we commit to trying to change the higher our success rate in making lasting changes. How I want to you to address what it is like to be on your deathbed, and what you would tell your younger self for those who are listing because I I wanted to have you here at the capitalism conference to give some perspective of life beyond work in money, and we are all working towards something. We're all working toward some thing that we that drives us, and I want you to address when you're on your deathbed. What do you think about what is what was important to you? And now that you're on the other side of it. What is it like to be fully present in that? Yeah. I'll give kind of two different answers to that two different perspectives. One is family became so important in in it. I mean, I based on everything I've shared so far today, and my floppies on accepting everything out of your control can be. He kind of emotionally invincible, and and be a peace with even the most difficult times in your life. That was really easy for me. The only time I had a negative mindset in the cancer journey was was when I was in a lot of physical pain because I don't care who you are physical pain kind of there's not that overtake. You have your real master real ninja, you know, to smile in the midst of real intense, physical pain, but other than that. I was you know, I I was living what I've been teaching for the last twenty years, but the thought of my family growing up without me that was that was terrifying. That would just just horrific for me just to thank my kids wouldn't have me and how hard that would be on them even on my mom and my dad and my sister, and my wife, so so my family losing not like how hard it was on them was the that for me was was really becoming a really present to how much I'm mean to other people. Now, that's what I'm trying to say is I became really present. How much I mean other people and what that shift? It was. You know, what I need to spend more time with my mom and dad I need to call them every single week. No matter what I need to bring them on our vacations. They're not going to be around that long. My friends who are going to be around for as long as I am my family will be around. My wife's around as long as I am kids around even longer. But, but the people my mom, my dad, my grandparents like, you know, they're not they're not going to be around as long, and so it really, you know, now, I call my parents every week whereas before I'd call them randomly a once a month. Maybe whenever you know. And I love my parents have a great relationship. But I just I don't have the need where I need to talk to them to feel loved by them where to love them, you know, so it could be out of sight out of mind. So for me, it was really looking looking through the eyes of other people and how I was impacting them, and then stepping up to really be better be a better be better in every role that I play in my life. So be better. As an entrepreneur, I'm an American I think that was the area that I. Focused on because that was the theory. I really thrived. And was I was always how can I change the world? How can add value for the world? And yeah, there were conversations my wife, and I have had over the last ten years. Hey, hello. Why don't you add value for me? I or for the kids like you're trying to change the world. But like we forget about us. You know, so really getting presence to how I was showing up for the people in my life. That matter the most and really on paper. I mean on paper, you know, in the form of affirmation that I read every day that remind me what matters most in what I'm committed to doing to what you know to be living in line with what matters most, by the way on a side note that is how I define out formations. I think affirmations people confuse them. They have a bad rap. They think they're cheesy because you'd say I am blank, you know, whatever that is. No, no, no, I just do formation as reminders of what matters most to what you're committed to doing to live in alignment with what matters most when you read out formations every day, they keep you focused and on track to live in alignment with what? Matters. Most certainly would talking right now wasn't just things. I thought about it was things I wrote down, and then I review every single day. So I'm reminded to check in with my family. One of my information is that my number one mission in my marriage is to make my wife's life amazing every single day either in small or grandiose oh ways. Whether it's doing the dishes or putting the kids to bed because she's tired or booking of a case in or taking her to, you know, the the place over dreams because it was a what in whatever way I can make my wife's life amazing. That's my focus every day. And also I affirm and remind myself that it is unconditional, regardless of how she treats me that day. And I and I go as far as to say if she's if she's rude to me today, I will try even harder to make my wife's life amazing because she's obviously going through some tough she's tired. She's this whatever she is. Right. So so getting clear on how I'm showing up for other people and indeed. Clear on how I can better show up to meet their needs exceed their expectations and be the better husband, a better. Father a better, son. A better brother, a better, friend, etc. Not has become the number one focus after the cancer of of of my life and health being part of it. So that I can stay alive to continue doing all those things how that is fricken beautiful if I can say so myself, I feel very honored and privileged to share your insights with my audience, and I just wanna say publicly. Thank you did a brother, I really appreciate everything Orion. This hour that I spent with how inspired me to evaluate a couple of changes that I wanna make in my life in terms of my health and how I structure my time. And also just remembering to be grateful. I try to be grateful for everything spend emoting time every day practicing gratitude and just enjoying all the little things all the little things that my little two year old girl does all of the things that I'm thankful for throughout the day. And this this really is just inspired me to to take it that much more to just be that much more thankful. How talked about habits in today's episode. And I want to remind you that I practice a habit called tribe. Five t r I b e n it is finding an area to practice every day in time relationships income body and expansion. I'd highly encourage you to check out the podcast. About tribe five. I've also talked about it fairly publicly at freedom fascinating dot com. But just give Google to try five and my name and some good stuff will come up. I'd encourage you to give that a try for thirty days. It will both help you grow in certain areas, and it will help you maintain those areas that you don't necessarily need to change. But you need to constantly keep going if you're happy with your marriage. This will continue to keep your marriage happy. It will also give you a way to evaluate where you are in all those five areas, it's time relationships income body in expansion, and you can find out more by looking up tribe. If I've just put it in the Google machines. I know that you got something out of today with how I know I took it almost as a wake up call. And I think it's going to be that much more impactful in person. So I would encourage you to join Jalan myself in Austin, Texas at the capitalism conference at the capital. Conference dot com. It's this December seventh eighth and ninth. And I would love to shake your hand and to connect with you in person men as always I appreciate what you're doing in the world. 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187: Hal Elrod | Fulfill Your Goals with The Miracle Equation

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187: Hal Elrod | Fulfill Your Goals with The Miracle Equation

"Welcome to the show. I'm Jordan harbinger. As always I'm here with my producer Jason to Filipo. Today's guest has almost died twice. He actually did die twice temporarily and has not only recovered from a severe car accident and an extremely rare form of Luke Kimia, but he's also gone on to be one of the best selling authors for the last few years. He's also one of the most positive and energetic guys have ever met, which is probably why despite him being told he'd never walk again. He not only did. So but ended up running a fifty two mile ultra marathon as well. Today, Hal, Elrod, I discuss the concept of unwavering, faith and extraordinary effort, how we make those consciously and consistently over an extended period of time to overcome resistance and achieve some pretty incredible things I've been friends with Hal for years, and he's always been so incredibly generous of spirit and has really created something special with his miracle morning community. And I'm excited to have him here on the show today. Helen, and I both strongly believe in relationships and network. Working. And honestly, my network is brought me so many amazing friends so many musing professional opportunities, and I'm helping you build and maintain yours for free in six minute networking, which you can find at Jordan. Harbinger dot com, slash course. Go grab that Jordan. Harbinger dot com, slash course. In the meantime, enjoy this episode here with Hal Elrod, I've known you for a long time. So I'm going to give you a hard time. I love on my show. I mean, you're staying at my house, you can't escape. So there's a lot of like there's a lot of love here that I just can't wait to use against you camera and on tape. I want to know how you made a living out of telling people to get up early because my dad's been trying to do that with want to tell one person to get up early for like thirty nine years, and he hasn't been successful. I want to know how you've been successful literally getting millions of people to do it. So it's interesting the the miracle morning was it wasn't a book idea. It was my own attempts in two thousand eight when Connie crashed like I was like what are the world's or what is successful people do a friend of ours. John berghof was like. I'll go find out. What are the world's most successful? Happy productive people. What are they doing? Do what they do. And you'll get similar results. I'm like, yeah. That's common sense. And so so I just I went on Google search. I mean right did nothing nothing sophisticated here. And I it ended up being kept coming across morning routines and mourning rituals, but I'm like, no, no, no. I'm not a morning person like swipe left. What else do they do? Like, where's the I get up at eight? You know? Not person like normal, and I'm still successful like where where's that plan? And I literally don't remember the article headlined, but it was some headline grabbed me about morning routines. And this was they weren't a big they weren't very prevalent. So this is before you made it a pop culture thing to talk about how you get up at three AM and do seventeen difference in seven was when this was happening crashing. I'm searching, Google, right? Like morning routines, or they're not this big thing. They are now. But some article grabbed me and it basically framed what it's like how a morning ritual. Like, how you start your day isn't just something you might consider maybe to add into your toolkit for success. It's arguably the single most important determining factor because or improvement you can make because how you start your one thing we all share in common. Is we start today? Right. And if you start it in a way, it kind of sets the tone and the context for the rest of the day. So if you win the morning you can win the day. And it was like I was like all right. I have to give this a shot. And so long story short it change my life really quickly. I went to my wife within two months. I'm like, sweetie. This morning ritual. Like, we doubled our income. We I'm going to run an ultra marathon my life has changed so fast. It feels like a miracle. She goes, it's your miracle morning. I'm like, yeah. Thing miracle morning. And then and then, but yeah. So sorry to answer your question. It was really the writing the book from authentically. This is how it helped me. Hopefully, it helps you I didn't think it was going to be this world wide phenomenon. I didn't think it was going to sell a million copies. I just was like this will help a few people. And so I it to share it because it helped me, and if I get real technical it's in the weeds of the the book, there's a chapter in there on how to actually beat this news button. If you've never been a morning person in your entire life. And that chapter is the linchpin like if it wasn't for those four page chapter. If it wasn't for those four pages. Everybody would have read the book like, oh, yeah. This makes sense. I should totally be a morning person. But after the excitement we're off they would have they would not have done it. Right. Because of course, if you talked to Jaakko who's a good friend of mine Jukka willing. I love that guy. But the one sort of little tiny hitch. I see in his strategy of. Hey, just get up really early and do stuff, and that's not all he talks about obviously. But that's one of the things is just do it. Just and it's like, yeah. There's a lot of people like myself included who can just do that. I'll set in alarm, I usually wake up right before the alarm, anyway, I get up, and I go I don't really want to be up right now, but jock was lifting weights, and I wanna feel bad about myself. So here, I am right. But there's a lot of people who read the miracle morning or would have read the miracle morning without your four-page chapter and gone. I just can't. So what's in that four page chapter? I mean, there's other things in the book. So it's not gonna spoilage how the hell the snooze button. Because that's that's where people around the world are going. I would love to get up earlier. But if that I'm tired, I don't wanna I need my sleep. There's a lot of excuses and a lot of them are really good, and frankly credible shirt. So so the chapter is a really long of noxious silly title. It's called the five step snooze proof. Wakeup strategy, right? I think a better I wrote an article entrepreneur I kind of shared on I called it. It takes five minutes. Become a morning person. Which I think is more accurate at is better. Yeah. Exactly. Right. So copy game has been stepped up since since I wrote that one headline usual, but but so so here's I'll give it all the way. I don't care. I'll get everything that I can. But it's five steps that take about five minutes and all share. Here's the most significant if you only do one. In fact, I was speaking to a group of CEOs like three years ago, and the guy that introduced me who was the CEO David Schneiderman that brought me in. He goes, I don't know if I was going to share this. But like there's this one little tip. He gives them the book. I've never been a morning person. If it wasn't for this one tip. He's if I hope he shares it because it was the game changer for me. And so here's the tip, and it's of those five steps, and I'll I'll I'll give all of them. But here's the one that makes all the difference. You have to move your arm clock. And by the way, the sounds like kindergarten through this. Yeah. Across the room as far as humanly possible. Yeah. I know that that makes complete sense think about it. Most of us keep our arm clock within arm's reach and when the alarm goes off in the morning, you're able to turn it off without even opening your eyes. So your level of discipline on a scale of one to ten to get out of bed is is that a one, right? But if it's across the room now for me, I keep it in my bathroom on the counter next to where I'm going to take the next step, which is simply brushing my teeth, washing my face, I wanted this. And here's a very here's a fundamental understanding, which is. Every minute that we're awake. Right. So you know, what I would call your wake-up motivation level or your level of discipline? It just by getting up out of bed and walking to the bathroom. It's gone from a one to three or four. You're your way more awake than you were reaching over fumbling for your phone. This is like that whole thing. This is how I started running right? I would get up and I'd be like I don't want to run its coal and in Michigan and five degrees outside it's seven eight AM, whatever, and I'd go what I don't have to run. I just have to go outside with my shoes on my or my gear on or just put my gear on. Yup. And it's like right in front of my bed. So I step out. And then I'm like, I just have to go outside and feel the cold air for like ten seconds stretch, my calves, whatever by the time. You're out there. You're like I'm outside in the cold. And I'm dressed, I'm not going back inside and taking off and going to bed. The again, we'll learn that. That's actually one of the most important strategies. I think you know, how you get yourself to do what you wanna do or need to do. But don't want to do. Right. Don't don't have the motivation. John Maxwell talked out in his book failing forward, it's called act your way into feeling and he's in most of us are. Are sitting on the couch going? I wish I had more energy. I wish I had more motivation number starts says, you know, you have to generate it like you have to move. And then you create the motivation into your point. I always say like if you want to get in great shape, but you're overwhelmed I to go to the gym, and I got to work out, and that's overwhelming. And so in our mind, we never get out the gate because we get overwhelmed thinking through all these steps. But all you have to do if you want to if you want to lose weight get in the car every data specific time with a gym bag packed. What are you gonna do? You're going to drive to the gym when you pull the parking lot. You probably gonna walk inside when the music's blaring and people on the treadmill as you're going to be your energy is going to go, I'm gonna work out. And then you all you did was you pack to gym bag in jumped in the car to time which takes zero discipline. Right. But that that domino that lead. Domino's. They talked about the one thing. Right. That led to all the rest of what else goes into this. Okay. Set your alarm clock a few feet away. So that you can't reach it. You get up early start getting up early. But that's not just the thing. A lot of people get up early. They read the newspaper coverage over their income is not. Doubled. Right. There's more going on here. So the premise the premise what led to the miracle morning was not a wasn't the idea for a morning routine. It was so I was I was in debt. I was I was really right. I mean, it was I was losing my house, and I call John Berg off. And I'm like, dude. I don't know what I renew in debt. So deeply in two thousand seven the economy crashed. I always walk that fine line between optimism and delusion. And know that about you and people are like dude are you contributing to me, right? There's all this new. I don't watch the news. And I literally was like, no I create my own economy. Like, I'm empowered. I'm not going to rain fall prey to the government, or whatever I'm glad that we can now laugh at that not working it worked out. There's actually reality, unfortunately. But that's an important point. Because there's a lot of people talking about like, no, you create your own reality, you manifest what you want, and I won't even get into that. Because the height of bullshit, but there's a lot of people that will cross that line. And they're like, no, I just create my belief system and later on we'll talk about how the limits of this. But you do some of this with your emotional state, which is good. But then yeah, we have to kind of respect to the fact that like gravity in physics that exactly. And so for me. So what what what what led to the miracle morning was John recommended that? I listen to this. Jim Rohn audio right? The godfather of self or whatever Jim Rohn. And so I heard a quote, and this quote is what I mean. I wish I could think Jim passed away. I wish I could thank him for this because it is what gave birth miracle morning. It's what gave birth all of this. And Jim simply says that your level of success will sell them exceed your level of personal development because excess is something you attract by the person you've become and of course, there would attract little flower out of. That's all. Yeah. We're got ruined by. Yeah. But here because a secret. Yeah. But the point is this right in. Here's a real practically understand this Jordan for measuring. Success on a scale of one to ten and when I say success, I mean in every area of life your emotional wellbeing. Your physical wellbeing your happiness, your finances your relationships as a parent on a scale. L of one to ten we all want level ten like human beings shared that. A neat desire like I want. My life is good as it can possibly be will when I heard him ruins, quote, I in my head. I went wait a minute. I want level ten success in every area. But I'm not a level ten person. Like, I haven't developed the qualities that characteristics. The knowledge the skills the habit, right? And that's how I defined personal development. Right. It's like actually who you are as a person all of your faculties. And so just how much you want something or believe that you deserve it. Yeah. Yeah. Not just vision board on the wall. No, thank you. It's literally is you. Here's the way to think of it as we all want level. Tin success. So through daily personal development you develop yourself to be level tin person, right or level five person or living level six and level rate. You keep developing your qualities and characteristics. Your internal components that will enable you to become the person that has the ability to create the results you want in your life. And so I went I've got to go home and create the most extraordinary. Personal development ritual known to man. So that I can I'm tired of being struggling this losing my house. I'm just I'm a mess. And it was because I'd lost half my clients because the economy effected them, I was coaching sales people. Nobody was scheduling with them. Nobody would like every sorry everybody. It was just a trickle down effect. So I lost half my clients in two months, and that's how I lost half my income. And then I couldn't pay my mortgage. Right. So that was real. That's how it how I got there. And so this Jim Rome, quote, I went okay. I got to figure out what are the world's most successful people do for personal development. That's such to me. That was a vague topic. I didn't understand it. And I came across six practices for like half an hour. Google search it was meditation affirmations, visualization, exercise reading and journaling. None of them were new. And I almost did what a lot of people do which is dismissed it. I was like because we're always looking for what's the new app, which the quick fix? What's the and I'm like these are like there's there's nothing new here. Our brain is always searching for like nothing that I know of has ever worked for me. Even though we. I usually don't actually do it like. And that was it. I'm like, wait. But I don't meditate. I don't read out formations. I don't visualize every day. I'm not exercising consistently. I'm not reading as much as I should be. And I'm not journaling at all. So what if I did some of these things, and then the epiphany was which was the best I go what if I did all of them? Like, what am I woke up tomorrow? And did the six most timeless proven practices that the world's most successful people in all mini industries of done for centuries. Right. And it's like that. And so that was my first mirror. It wasn't called a miracle morning. I woke up the next morning. I did all six and even though my Bank account was negative. I was fifty two grand in credit card debt. My house was in foreclosure, I felt incredible. And I thought if I start every day like this with this much like clarity and energy, and passion, whatever like, we're passion. But if I start with this much compassion can be again, a word that's been ruined by south health. I would do it. But but probably not I'm going through this whole not being part of the self help industry at all anymore, but that's a different show for day the ending with this show. But. The the idea that you're doing all these different things that are that are proven. I mean, it kind of it kind of doesn't matter if they're proven or not if you're doing all of them, you're sort of you're doing a catchall it's kind of like having cancer surgery and taking chemotherapy medication and distressing your life and eating you don't necessarily you don't know which one it is that did it all of them did it. But it kind of doesn't matter because now you're done cancer anymore. Yeah. Which in your case is accurate thing. Let's finish the morning thing. But I do want to talk about how you have the the worst luck. But also the best luck somehow of any of my friends. The morning. Yeah. So yeah. The whole thing the whole book, I wrote me working morning. So the so yeah, okay. Thanks morning. I did all six the practices. And I was terrible at them. I had never meditated. I offer mations. I always thought were these cheesy things and what I think of them. Yeah. I'd love to talk about it at some point. Because I've completely redefined him in a way, we're to me, the people ask me, sometimes how do you have a favorite of your sixty six practices and for anybody listening? Just you have a visual of this. I was writing the book one day. And I went to my wife, I was frustrated and I was reading miracle morning. And I said she goes withdrawing I said, I've got these six practices, but there's no way they're not structured or organized. They don't like I didn't invent any of them. And I said and all these authors like they have like a framework. So that the reader can remember what they're teaching him or they can organize it in their brain. Like Robert Cusack. He's got the cashflow quadrant and Stephen Covey's seven habits of highly effective people, and I go, I don't I don't know how to make these sticky and remember, and she goes, why don't you get at the Sorus and see if any of the words. Have other words with the same. Meaning, and you could create an acronym that people can remember and then just go through it in their head. Your wife is a non native speaker of English, right? Yes. She she pushes her first language. Okay. Because I'm thinking she came up with the title of the book came up. She's she knows English better than you. I think I was just wondering how she doesn't have brain damage like I have. But usually not in that excuse, I will get a financial settlement. I got a brain damage settlement of freight. But the you said I'm in the hospital and brain damage, really bad. I said I'll be smacking waitresses on the. But when I'm in my sixties and saying sorry, I've brain damage. Yeah. That was my they're going to be like, you're about to get some more. If you smack me on the bud again. So anyway, so so the six practices, so it actually it it feels like serendipity how we just weird. It's an acronym. But if it wasn't for this acronym. I don't think miracle morning would've been sticky in the same way that if I hadn't talked people to beat the snooze button in the book, he wouldn't have been sticky. Right. It wouldn't it wouldn't have stuck. And so the acronym is these recalled the sabers and meditation became silence. And journaling became scrubbing. So it silence affirmations visualization exercise reading and scrubbing or the savers, and I felt like the acronym was perfect because these are the six practices that are essentially will save us from missing out on the life that we really wanna live like these will enable us to develop ourselves further and be more capable and be able to create more of what we want. Right. So it's not just like get up early zero in-box get I'd start on the day. No. That's my morning. Unfortunately, mediocre out fires mediocre morning. Put out a bunch of fires. And then I actually can do work the rest of the day because all the crap that people throw my desk the piles of turds are now cleaned off because I got up at five thirty. And here's the thing is like there are some people ask me well how but couldn't they do the savers anytime of the day and still get the benefit and the answer is. Yes. And no, yeah. You're gonna get a benefit if you meditate or rhetoric is anytime of the day doesn't matter. 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And I don't think any of this is going to be super new for people in the Senate show for a while. Of course, the way that you structure the morning is is new in better. But nobody's like getting up early. I had not thought of that. Right that. And that's what was so funny about the book because at first I was like well house, a friend. You know, we'll talk about the miracle morning. But then it was like years later. People are still like, yeah. I do this every day. And there's just a lot of people that are not really like trendy entrepreneur circle influence or people that I follow that get up early and have really interesting things that they do in the morning, and they're all kind of from your your first book, and it not not necessarily that. They got it by reading it. But there's just too much correlation between successful people, and those that like get up workout attack the day, get up do the different things journaling is one of those things that I found I thought was like super cheesy. And then you see people who are like, no it clarifies my thoughts. And then I clarify my priority. Even if journaling the same crap pretty much with different shade of grey every morning. Just gets them focus in like cleans a defragment. The until hard drives doesn't mean there's a million thoughts in our brain date, right infinite thoughts, and when you put them in writing, you're you're forcing yourself to clarify. What is most important, otherwise you're not gonna make it into the journal? It's kind of like your emotional brain has a conversation with your thinking brain for the first time. And it's it's gets really clear. You can right. Like, I feel bad today. Because I feel like I haven't done enough in my life. And then it's like, I realized this makes absolutely no sense. I've done a lot of stuff never mind underline circle. Smiley face go eat breakfast. Even that kind of thing can help. 'cause you realize the negative thought loop urine is is ridiculous or whatever it is that you do, and that's for me generally could be like two lines. And sometimes it's just I had a bad dream. It was literally just a dream and has no basis in my current reality on and I eight obviously eight to late last night. And that always happens when I eat too late. All right. I'm good. It can save me hours of rumination. About something that's completely irrelevant that we're screwed up my mood and more out of your subconscious put it on paper. Now, you've got you let go of it you keep it with you. And it's not some sort of like wou-, my subconscious, brain, blah, blah. We do know that our emotional brain makes decisions on our thinking brain rationalize is all that stuff. So if we can get whatever it is that we're feeling out on paper, which forces us to put it into our thinking brain thinking break, and then sort of rationalize it away. Which is usually a good move for a guy like me who wakes up and goes, I didn't do enough to make my social media. A who gives a crap get get a grip on yourself, Jordan. None of this is going to help you with your two interviews today, although stuff you gotta do. So that I've found to be really helpful. And of course, meditation exercise that kind of thing you now talk about the miracle equation. I know you're leaning into this miracle pretty heavy duty. I get it. It's been successful for you in the past tell us about this because you know, the the idea that we put forth this effort. On a consistent basis is of course, nothing super new. Sure. So what's going on here so miracle quesion? What's interesting is? So like what you said is to me public perception what it would be right, which is like oh house into this like the miracle morning did so well, he's now spinning off this miracle brand, right? What's interesting is that the miracle equation was something that I created six years before the miracle morning when I was in sales. I was twenty years old. I was trying to break an all time sales record and essentially on obviously I died when I was twenty for six minutes. So like miracle is go ahead and talk about that for. Oh, yeah. Should not just throw that in over. I said a one line about. Yeah. So so when I was. But when I was twenty years old, I was head on by drunk driver at seventy miles an hour and bounced off the drunk driver. My car spun off the drunk driver. The car behind me crashed into my driver's side door at seventy miles an hour. I mean, if you're listening, I always say like look over your left shoulder and imagine, you know, put your hands on the steering wheel. Look over the shoulder. Imagine a car hits you at seventy miles an hour and your door. And what you would imagine happened is what happened. I mean, the entire left side of my car was smashed in the left side of my body. I broke eleven bones instantaneously, my femur, broken half, my pelvis, broken three places. My humorous bind my bicep broken half. Shattered my elbow severed my forearm nerve, my Izhak had broken three places. My ear was almost completely severed the top of my skull was fractured by the ceiling. Buckling and cutting me cutting through my skull, and I started bleeding to death in it took them an hour them the rescue crew to pull me out of the car when they did I had lost so much blood that my heart stopped, and it was clinically dead for proximity. Six minutes there around medevac helicopter used to me up to an IV. Rush me to the hospital. They got me back to life breathing again on the helicopter, and then I was in a coma for six days. I flatlined twice more came out of the coma. And was told by doctors that I had permanent brain damage. I would never walk again. And twenty years old. I have a lot of goals that involve the walking. So it was like walking around. Yeah. It was like this is not what I wanted. I however you run all the time now. No. I don't. Hey, don't why always breathing heavy when you come upstairs, then 'cause I have bad stamina for my pants. Oh, yeah. Well, yeah. Sorry that. Got a daughter. Dang. I thought you were downstairs like doing some jumping work out. Okay. Well, you're doing. Do I ran an ultra marathon and checked it off my bucket list? And was like never again. Okay. No. That was afterwards. That was after. Okay, fine. So you can still run at least I don't look like a total Adote continue. So I thought I would never walk again and a week after I came out of the coma so far line six days in coma week after that so two weeks after the crash the doctors called my parents. And they said we're really concerned with how we think what we said physically physically this going to give you an update he's made it through the worst. He's stable because I had flatlined twice more. Like, my parents, obviously, it was me living at that point. It was very I was in critical condition. So they said physically he's stable. He's going to be with us for a long time. You know, we've made it to the worst. Mentally and emotionally were concerned we believe that Hal is in denial. And this is something we see the accident victim. Sometimes we're his new reality of never walking again is so unimaginable. He can't handle it. So instead of going into a depression, he's kind of gone on the other side where he's just checked out like everything's fine. Everything you no big deal. Right. And they said eventually he'll have to you know, he's hiding emotions right now like anger, sadness, fear, depression, and eventually have to face this. And we want him to do it here. Here while he's in a safe environment, and we can support him through it versus out in the real world when he could turn to drugs or alcohol or even suicide some right just lose his mind. Little do. They know you've already turned to drugs and alcohol without any any sort of thing. Yes for fun. But no. So I so my dad comes in that day. Right. And you know, my parents, of course, are going. Oh, we thought how it was actually doing good mentally. But now we find out he's like he's delusional. He's he's in denial. And so they come in. And my dad explained the doctors conservative. I my dad comes in. And I look over at him and his eyes are welled up as faces red. And I knew he met with the doctor. But no what happened. So I'm going. Oh god. What did I pretty much? I'm like oh God. I'm I'm about to. I'm gonna die. You know? What what did you just find out? And he he asked you know, he's real somber. And he says how I want to talk to you and explained the doctors concerns, and he says, how do you let your positive person? But it's okay to feel sad and scared and angry and depressed, like your mom, and I are feeling that. And we didn't even have know you and threw it can imagine what you're really feeling you got to the doctor say you've got to admit these feelings. How are you really feeling hell, and, you know, looking at my dad's face in the pain, and I'm so I I really got went inside myself. And I went my covering my. Ocean's am I really scared and sad and angry and depressed and it literally Jordan. It took me thirty seconds. Maybe to to come to a very real conclusion which ten years later. It's the same nineteen years later. Same conclusion, I looked at my dad, I said, and I smiled I said dad, I thought you knew we would have been that. He said, we'll what do you mean? And I said remember, I live my life by the five minute rule. And he was like, well, we'll remind you what that is. And I said, I've told you I'm on this so many times so much happier. And he's like, look, I don't listen to all yourself. Exactly shit, man. No doubt. I learned this. I learned into my cut co sales training on day two of training. It's okay to be negative when something goes wrong. But there's no value in dwelling on it. So our manager my mentor who was the top manager in the history of the company, and he's very smart guy. He would literally say when when you have when you encounter a failed expectation a no sale rude customer. You has set a goal. You work your ass off to get to you. Don't reach it. He said you set your time on your phone for five minutes and you get five minutes to bitch, Mon complain cry vent punch a wall, whatever feel all your emotions don't deny them. But after five minutes, he said, you turn your timer off, and you take a deep breath, and you see three really powerful words can't change it. And he said it's a conscious reminder as an intelligent human being that doesn't not any value in you to be depressed or upset over something. That's now in the past whether it's five minutes or five months, or whatever he said, you take a deep breath in your mind yourself. I can't change it. There's no value in. Wishing it didn't happen in feeling bad about it feeling sorry for myself. And he said you you fly. With the switch, and you focus all your energy on. Okay. We'll now that I can't change the what just happened. What do I want to change or affect moving forward? And you focus all your energy on that. And I said dad it's been two weeks since the car accident. My five minutes is long up. And if I'm in a wheelchair the rest of my life, like the doctors are saying, I will be the happiest person the most grateful person you've ever seen in a wheelchair because I won't let the my circumstances of define my emotional wellbeing and my quality of life. I said, but that's only one possibility the second is I will walk again. And I don't even I don't know if that's possible that might be impossible. I have. But the doctors really, they don't know. And I don't know I said, so I've accepted the worst case scenario. So it has no control over my emotional wellbeing. And all of my energy is going into. I'm visualized walking. Again. I'm thinking about it a magic it like, I'm I'm I'm even reading up on like online on the mind body connection. And how our thoughts do affect our biology right Bruce Lipton wrote a great book the biology of don't get me started. Yeah. Not go down that road. I haven't read it for ten years. So I might have the same opinion you do now. But anyway, so the, and here's the thing. I don't have a graph Jordan. It says we'll look at how my my acceptance of what I couldn't change. Therefore, there was no stress over it. No, no, turmoil inner turmoil. No pain. My acceptance of that and my focus on what I wanted and putting all my energy into that. I don't have a graph. That shows you the way that healed me. I have a picture a week later the doctors came in. So it's anecdotal. But it's reality, right? They came in and they go we don't know how to explain this. How your body is healing? So quickly that we're changing our diagnosis from your never walking into you can walk today and therapy, and I have a picture that day where I took my first three steps. That's incredible. Yeah. I mean look anecdotal some small sample size. Totally that said, and look there might have been a lot of people that thought the same thing and are still in a wheelchair. That said, you know, this is your story, and it makes sense. That you're diagnosis did change. And I know I I know you really well. And I also know you have this simultaneously the worst luck. And also, really good luck. Like, you've you had that car crash. I've seen you like we've gone, swimming and stuff you have all these little rules scars. And like you're like, oh that's from a pin, and that's from glass, and that's from the screws that hold me together right now or whatever. And then in you've also like you think like was two weeks ago. You got another car accident mean, you're fine thing go. Yeah. Totalled my car you. Yeah. Okay. So it wasn't a couple months ago. All right fair. And then you also got you didn't just get any cancer. You got like the rarest one of the most rare forms of leukemia when the most of form. Yeah, it was two years ago. I my my couldn't breathe I woke up struggling to breathe and my wife oke up, you know. And she's like what's wrong. I I don't know. And she's like sit up and she propped up all these pillows. And I always joke. Like, I'm like it was the that night. I was like I will never get on. Her for all these decorative pillows on our bed anymore like their purpose. You know? So I'm sitting up in. I couldn't breathe in. I went in for urgent care for diagnosis the next day, and a misdiagnosis pneumonia, and they're like take the z pack most generic antibiotics, and I'm like, the doctor was really unsure and his diagnoses like if you don't feel better in a couple of days like, you should go get a second opinion. I'm like, okay. So you get a second opinion a couple of days later and the doctor calls the next day and the nurse. She's like you need to come in the doctor wants to see you. I'm like what's does? He know. What's wrong? He wants to see you. And I'm like. Okay. And I live like an anti-cancer lifestyle. Like, I eat very healthy. I'm like a hippie like I don't have any chemicals in my house. Like, I I watched a documentary years ago on how to kill cancer naturally. And I'm like, I'm just gonna live this way now and waiting so I go in and he's like how there's definitely something wrong. It could be like an infection or virus. But it also could be a form of lymphoma, which is a cancer. And I was like, okay. There's definitely can't be no way I've been eating the cyberrays for like five years. Antioxidants. I know so, yeah, I'm like, okay. And he's like, so we need to do more tests. And so do more test comes back that it is called acute lymphoblastic leukemia, which has a thirty percent survival rate, right and adult lymph acute lymphoblastic leukemia. So I always say if you're a pessimist that's a seventy percent, you're going to die in the next few weeks to months and. Yeah. And so that was you know, I had to face this two couple of years ago. And I mean, I'm still dealing with it. I take every day. I'm going through this still I go get checked every every few months, they stab of thick needle through my hip and take my bone marrow out, which is the most horrific painful process end on end. And every three months I have to literally my wife, and Aaron pins and needles going is the cancer back, man. I mean like how long that can be for. I mean for the rest of my life, but it will eventually go to like twice a year. And then once a year, you know, so once the five year Mark that's like where they I'm like a year in remission now. And once the five year, Mark, they consider that like, you're. Incr- likelihood of always staying cancer-free is is much better. But then you have all this good luck to you. And it seems like it's a little crazy actually. But a lot of it is what you focus on. And I think that's the thing. You know? I'm one of those people are mutual friend, Omar Zan home from hundred dollar NBA show. Which is a great podcast. Yeah. He he's like, Jordan. You never celebrate any wins. And I was like that is so true. And that is such a mid west Michigan thing like you did good and don't get don't let it go to your head focus on the next thing. Don't celebrate the win. You are very good at looking at all this positive things that happen and being like really thankful for it. And then thanking the people that brought that to you. And then it brings you more opportunity, and it seems like something that you've kind of system is a little bit. And in the new book, you don't think of it as luck will actually do you think of it as look I it looks like look from the outside until you really break it down. Yeah. I mean, I almost would. I it feels like look. Because I'm like man if that wouldn't happen. We were talking about this, right? The miracle morning right now is the number one bestselling book in Brazil, and it sold over five hundred thousand copies, and that's all because in Brazil or over Justin Brazil, oh sold almost two million. I think overall. Yeah. Which I didn't know I literally the foreign publishers don't report. So right. Like once a year, I find out. So if somebody asked me, how many copies, I sold them resolved. They probably fifty thousand and then I get down there last week. And my publishers like we want to present you this plaque with you sold five hundred thousand copies of the miracle morning in Brazil wh-what, thanks for the plaque. Whereas my chest. But here's the point. It is because the one of the top reality TV stars in Brazil Adriana, Santana, her friend gave her the first ever self-help book she ever read the miracle morning, and she posted it to her four million Instagram followers because it changed your life. Like what I can't predict that you can't plan that you can't write a book proposal or a business plan on that. Right. And in kind of with the new book, the miracle equation, it it goes back to the adage that there's a quote, or whatever you wanna call it the harder you work, the luckier you get right? And so I really would instead of luck. I would call it serendipity almost it's like because it's happened so consistently so many times based on when I the way I approach life with. This. 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So tell us about the new book in the new equation because I actually really liked the simplicity of this. You studied a lot of Cheever's innovators in some of this to be fair seems like survivor bias because we're hearing from people who are successful because they've done a lot of the things that we talked about. And they have their morning routine or whatever there are plenty of people that follow that live in their mom's basement. Right. So how do we know that this stuff is? Actually working and not just sometimes it works for people who are already going to be successful. Well, here's the thing. Right. If I mean, there's that again that old adage then truth is truth. Success leaves clues you go. Okay. Well, if you study one hundred successful people or thousands of people, and you go these are the things they had in common. Right. Then you go. Well, if you're living in your mom's basement, you're not applying these things because if you did you'd probably see different results in your life. Right. And I mean. And here's a simple way to do it like the subtitle of the book really a kind of teaches what it's after. Which is the two decisions that move your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable. And so these are the two decisions where if you do study, the world's most prolific achievers, and maybe we'll use some athletes like I really like using a Michael Jordan as an example, like someone who had sheaves at the highest level is one of the best in the world performs beyond what the average person could ever imagine performing at. But when you actually break it down, you find that every successful. There's not say every but most successful people they live by these two decisions, and they don't just make them once like to try to get rich quick or something. It's literally the fundamental way that they approach every adversity that they encounter, right? You know, for me the miracle equation is how I walked again after my car accident, although I didn't come up with miracle quesion until two years later. But then I look back, and I'm like, oh, that's why I was able to walk again, even though. Oh, I I they said I wouldn't when I had cancer. And this was literally the first day that I was diagnosed with cancer. So if you could imagine if you're listening, you're giving a thirty percent chance of surviving. And for me it was way harder than the accident because I have two kids now. Right. I had a I have a nine year old and a six year old. So then they were seven and four and the thought of losing my kids in leaving. They're not losing my kids, but leaving them without a dad. Right. And leaving my wife that a husband like, that's the most horrific scary thought or possibility in my life the day. I was diagnosed with cancer, I called my wife. She was in tears or slow was just terrified and devastated. And I said sweetheart, I know this is. I know this is you're gonna be hard for you to hear. You're not going to be believed. What I'm gonna say. But this is the I believe this is the best thing that will ever happen to me. And I said I have a reference point to that where the car accident is up until this point has been the best thing that ever happened to me because it enabled me to become the person that I needed to be by overcoming those challenges that it allowed me to create what I want from my life. But ultimately it gave birth to my life's work. I wouldn't be I wouldn't have gone into the world work that I went into helping people if I hadn't felt like, wow. I I have this calling now because I went through this unbelievably ridiculous challenge life threatening thing. And then now I have to share it with people. I said, I think the cancer is just a high a bigger opportunity for me to reach more people an impact more people, and this and I said sweetheart this'll probably be the hardest thing we've ever had to do. I said, but it sounds weird. But I said you remember my miracle equation thing that I've talked about before that I came up when I was twenty and she's like, no. And I go, okay. Well, I said look. This is this formula that I have used to defy the odds in the past and I've done it with. So so many times and it's worked for everyone. I've taught it to to where I I have such conviction in the validity of if I approach my cancer with these two decisions I have like I have unwavering faith, which is one of the decisions right that I will beat this. You know? And of course, there were moments of doubt and fear every day of like God. What if I really died, and like you said, Jordan, I'm sure there are people that had faith or that. Right. Like, we're really tried and put whatever, but they didn't make it. So that logical brain I'm like what if what if what if what if I couldn't stop that? But here's the point. And I want I want to bring this and then we can get into the decisions. If you study a Michael Jordan, right? Michael, jordan. I'll use Michael Jordan's example, pick any elite athlete, but what use athletes there? Michael Jordan decision at some point in his life in his career is basketball career. Maybe it was in highschool. Maybe it was thanks to mentor. Maybe it was of his own accord. I don't know. But that he made he decided he would have unwavering faith, and you might not use that language basically decided that he would make every shot that he ever took. Now, Jordan Amancio a rhetorical question. But has any Basle player ever made every shot they ever took no of Clinton? No, they make maybe fifty percent rights. They literally miss half of the shots. But Michael, Jordan, and the world's most successful people. Again, it's a fundamental way of living where they they. They don't believe they believe they're going to make every shot they take and most people and shots a metaphor for anything. We attempt in life. Most people if they miss a shot right in a game Basle player, mrS Schott, all sudden doubt and fear creep in. And he's like, oh, maybe I'm off today. If he misses a second shot, and again, if we miss a second, we go, dude, I and they they won't shoot. Again. They pass the bowl, but the world's most successful. I call a miracle. Mavens in the book. Write the word maven comes from the Yiddish word may. Gene, which means one who understands so someone who understands that this is how you create extraordinary results in your life. Is that Michael Jordan? He's like give me the ball. I'm gonna shoot again, and he'll shoot over. And you see these players like LeBron or Jordan or Kobe where they'll have three quarters the first three quarters the game. They don't make a single shot every other player would have stopped shooting a long time ago. They have unwavering faith that they can make every shot that they take I had unwavering faith that it was going to be cancer. Even though there was there's never a guarantee, and that's the thing in life is we are. So we are we so Senator around certainty and comfort that that's what keeps people stuck in the life that they're living is they go. Well, I know that if I show up to work, I'm going to get a paycheck, and that's better than if I start my own business. I might fail. Right. There's not exactly. And so, but if you want to create the extraordinarily life that you really want that you deserve that you've dreamt about since you, whatever you're tired of the rat race of the bullshit. Like, you have to step out on the faith that you can do something that you've. Probably never done in your life. And when you check your your rear view mirror. If you will look at your pass, there's no evidence right there. And that's but every successful person. That's what they did. They had to step out on faith that they could do something. They had never done before. I think for me. I was just more like delusional in my twenties. And I was like even if this goes horribly wrong. I have all this time to start another career. Yeah. But if you're forty or you're right. It's like. Yeah. I get why those people have doubts, and I also think just to be clear. I don't know if you'll agree with me. We'll see people shouldn't do this whole. I'm quitting my job and going all in on the business thing. Okay. So you do agree because a lot of these entrepreneur. Yes shit. Maybe not the bridges. But don't burn the ships either. Because now, you're you're just increasing your surface area for like, bad luck and uncertainty one really you can scale up slowly you'd have to have that on wavering faith. But if if you're wrong, you don't lose your house when I I used to coach people haven't coached for for many years. But when I coached and people like I hate my job, and I want, you know, so I think it was going to quit, right? I'm going to go all in. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no save up enough money. So that you have six months reserve. So that you can quit and go all in and not be stressed out to the max because you're survive trying to survive on something that you haven't even created right? Exactly. That's always my advice is, and that's what I did when I left cut co when I left my sales job, I saved up enough money to transition and entrepreneurship, and and that was the kind of the brain. Okay. Cool. So I I love the idea that a lot of our emotional pain. He touched on this earlier is essentially caused by resistance, right? Like in the doctors thought you were actually doing that ended nine now. Look, it's not happening. And you discuss this emotional invinci-. Ability concepts, which is essentially acceptance, right? Like, okay. This is what's what the doctor say? I'm going to focus on on the upside because if I've just focused on what is never going to happen than that. Essentially, you kind of flipped it on its head like you're resisting in that respect. And I get that. But this has to be a practice, right? Like if my cat dies tomorrow. I'm going to be sad. I can't just flip the switch or whatever. Like doesn't matter. What conversation we had this morning? How do I how do I flip that switch like you? You have the five minutes sadness timer or whatever. That's a good idea. You can't change it mantra if you. Yeah. Yeah. What happens when the don't the emotions come back at some point? And you go I never really dealt with this. I sort of just like, captain and five minutes. Here's what you have to understand every negative emotion that we have ever felt in our lives that we are feeling now were that we could ever feel is self created like if you look at what is it self created by us, and it's completely optional on I won't say completely optional right? Because I mean, we're human beings, and we are emotional creatures. But you can literally train yourself to what I call it, emotional instability. Which is where you're invincible you're not affected by your emotions. You choose the emotions that would best serve you in any given moment. And so for me, the the cause so if all of our negative emotions are destructive emotions or self created you'll okay, well, what's creating them. What's the cause? And it is one word, which you just mentioned it's resistance to the degree that we resist our reality which shows up like wishing and wanting that this thing didn't happen that we're different determines the degree of emotional pain that we create for our selves. So the opposite of resistance, which is in the solution to free yourself from emotion. The pain is acceptance. It's accepting all things that you can't change as they are. And when you accept all things as they are, it doesn't mean, you're happy. Like, I wasn't happy. I was in a car accident. I wasn't happy. I got cancer. When you accept all things as they are you accept unconditionally? It's more powerful than happiness because happiness is an emotion, which is fleeting, right? We've all been happy one minute phone call change that like what? Oh, yeah. Right. So, but when you accept things you can't change and you live in the state of unconditional acceptance. It's it doesn't produce an emotional state. It's an emotional neutrality where it's neutral, it's in between happiness and sadness is a state of peace. It's a state of unwavering piece. It's it's a state of being where your motion neutral, and then you can go. Okay. I can't change it. So there's no point in feeling bad about it. Okay. I get that. I'm a smart person. And it takes training like I say do a thirty day challenge. And and at first people go how many when I speak on this raise your hand. If you think five minutes feels like kind of a short time, and you're going to be upset longer. And they're like, oh, I need more than five minutes, and I get like five hours to be pissed off right on and I go that's what I thought when I learned this. And here's what happened. I set my timer for five minutes the first time, and I'm like, oh, this is bullshit. I did Reverend by biometrics often like still mad, and then, but I went okay, I'm going to stick to. Okay. Deep breath. Can't change it. Okay. Still. I still have these resonant negative, you know, emotional, whatever. And then after I mean, it was literally a few days, maybe the third fourth fifth time. I set the timer. I set the timer. And I'm like son of I can't believe this lady cancelled the appointment. This was a huge needed this. And then I'm like bullshit, man. And I picked up my phone, and I'm like, four minutes and seventeen seconds. And I go what what's the point of being upset for four more minutes when I could just get on the phone and schedule another two appointments and make up for this. So it was extraordinary. How I went from thinking, oh based on my current paradigm, and my reality and my emotional patterns five minutes is not enough to within a week less than a week. I'm like, oh, I don't need five minutes. I need five seconds to like get mad, and they'd be like can't change it and move on. And so you recondition this. And that's why when I had cancer I was able to accept it within five minutes and not even though I'm still seventy percent chance of dying and leaving your kids. I'm like, okay. Well, if that happens, I have whatever I'll deal with that. I mean, I'm going to have to process this. But I'm not gonna let motion will be paint pain be part of the journey because I don't have to. So when you hear this sound. Four. And it's like, I don't, you know. And let me give you one more example Jordan for people to really understand what Di back into the two equations, but I mean, the two decisions, but the, but traffic is a great example, most people. Hey, Rachel traffic. Right. Of course. I hate traffic. I'm like, well, why would you hate traffic? Like, you can't change at the cars and funny. We're going slow. You can't change that you're gonna be late. Now, you can't change any of those things, but you can choose to accept all the things that are out of your control. And then just turn up the radio or smile and feel happy or focus on things you're excited about in your life or focus on your what you're grateful for whatever. And so I love traffic because it's a microcosm for life to realize that oh, I get to choose whether or not I enjoy the journey. I get to chew I can be upset over the traffic upset over the things. I can't change upset over the fact that he had cancer in fact that I lost my job. I can let these destroy me and made me depressed and angry or I can take a deep breath and say, hey, I can't change these things, but I can choose to be happy wall. And that's for me with cancer. I said I will be the happiest and then was great. Full I've ever been in my entire life while I'm in the midst of going through the most difficult thing I've ever experienced. And that was my reality that I created. Yeah. Yeah. And I can see that being extremely useful. When you're getting poked with needles and stuff like flying the hospital all the time away from your family. I we've sort of redefined the word miracle in a way that gives us the ability to make this a little bit tangible because the word miracles, obviously that has been Laden with magical thinking up, pseudo spiritual. Woo garbage. Let me give you the definition that define the way to find it in the book because that's the thing is miracle has about route bright often it's thought of or whether it's the magical. Woo or it's just thought of as random, right? So it's not reliable. It's like, oh, yeah. I hope miracle happens. I'm praying and I'm waiting strategy. No, no, no, no. How do you make miracles how you redefine them? So that their tangible and they're measurable miracles. And that you have a degree of control over DJ creating them. So the way I define miracle. It's it's real practical. It's any outcome outside the realm of what you. Believe is probable for you. Right. So therefore when you achieve that outcome. It does feel like a miracle because you're like, oh, I never I really didn't know if I could do this. I couldn't imagine. I didn't know if it was possible, right? Yeah. Like, restarting my entire show and business from the ground up and one year forgetting fired you maintained you made these decisions established unwavering faith, even though you were afraid that you mean, we talked you told me we talked you were you were terrified right? But you maintain you established unwavering faith that you could do this. You could rebuild your show you could rebuild an audience. Even though you didn't know for sure you didn't know what it would look like there was all sorts of uncertainty, and then Jordan the second decision of the miracle equation. Is extraordinary effort you put forth extrordinary effort. Right. And I want to break that down a little because it is such a just the miracle question in general is deceptively simple in the explanation. Your if you just said, it someone they're like, oh that helps me not like nobody wrote a book about that. That's making any money. Did they? Yeah. Thinking you're rich was talked a lot about faith effort and all that bright. But but. On. But the point is you before the extrordinary effort until and that word until you have to circle it. You don't have to underline it. Because most people they one thing is to establish the fate that something's possible, and they call it uninformed optimism. Yeah. Listen to Tony Robbins like I can do anything. Right. And then I'm like, and it's an obstacle a roadblock. You're like the faith goes out the window. You're like who was like hitting. I tried. It didn't work the people that are successful. Nobody it didn't work out the gate, right? It's like they had to maintain. That's where the faith that has to be unwavering until it might take ten years to hit where you wanna go miracle morning. I wasn't overnight sensation. It took me years of hundreds of interviews and dozens of TV shows and dozens of speaking engagements like, you know, before the miracle morning actually took off right? Like, I busted my ass. And I wasn't getting paid the book sales weren't happening. Even though the effort was there. So the faith and the effort had to both be maintained over an extended period of time, which is what makes the miracle equation work. So we were talking about uninformed optimism. And how we've read it or you've redefined miracle as any outcome. That's essentially beyond what you thought possible. So it's not some sort of like freak metaphysical experience that's caused by anything. It is just the fact that you're buckling down on those two fronts. That's it. And so so you think about the two decisions are like I said deceptively simple in their explanation. But they're even more rare in their execution, right? Like, and that's like most things it's to be successful. Usually, it's simple. It's not easy at all. But it's really simple. You just you do these things you'll lineup the success? He won. So with the miracle equation like think how counter intuitive or counter to our human nature. It is to do these things. Like, we talked the unwavering faith part, right, we crave certainty, and so establishing unwavering faith most people don't do if they're in the self help world, and they're like, I believe in the optimist credo that anything is possible. Right. But but possible isn't enough to get us out of bed in the morning with the drive to do what we need to do. Because possible is just it's just an idea. It's just a. There's no merit. There's no there's no certainty. We have to move our goals from possible to probable, that's like the first step. So that you go. Okay. There's there's more of a likelihood, and that's what the first thing. Miracle question. Does is you go, wait. If I do what the world's most prolific Creech achievers do and I maintain established unwavering faith that I can do this thing. And then I commit to maintain unwavering faith and move forward in the direction of this one primary objective in the book. I talked about you know, you've kind along the lines of the one thing you've got to have a mission. Like if you're if were scattering your focus across ten different goals. You know, like an Olympic athlete, the they major in one sport. Right. They're not in the throat, the Catholic, and they're like, multiple sport athlete or. Yeah. But anyway, focus on one thing. And and till they become the best in the world at it. Right. But with extraordinary effort, I think the important part is you have to make it feel ordinary like just at the name of it. It's like, okay. So I got to work hard. Like, no, do I. Want to either I don't wanna do that. Or like, I know I have to work hard. We'll know how do you make extrordinary effort feel ordinary to where you actually feel compelled to do it. And the way that if you define extra the way to find extraordinary effort is if I put it into one word, it's what makes extrordinary is consistency. Right. It's not that. You're Gary Viner Chuck in it eighty hours a day. Right. You're that. You're simply do we think about it? If you stab wish your mission, right? Which is the single most important goal that will that will a enrich your life the most. But also be it will by pursuing it with unwavering, faith and extraordinary effort, it will enable you to become the type of person that you need to be with the abilities to achieve everything else that you want right. So the long term benefit isn't the goal is. It doesn't matter. If you hit the goal any individual goal, but by approaching it with these decisions, you become the type of person that can achieve anything that you put your mind to so to speak. Right. So with extraordinary effort its defining what your mission is. And then it. It's understanding that every result every outcome. Every goal dream, whatever you where do you want us? It's preceded by a process and the process is what makes the goal inevitable, right? If you for example, if you want to lose weight, well, if you go exercise every day, and you commit to that process and you limit your Clark intake. It's all unless you have some weird genetic dysfunction. It's almost impossible that by burning more calories than you consume. You will achieve that goal. It's only a matter of time if you want to become a millionaire, right or a billionaire or become wealthy if you define. Okay. Well, if you here's like this to me is like if you want to be wealthy one point read books on how to become wealthy from people that have done it. And do the things that they tell you in the books, everyday schedule one hour a day and do something that moves you in the direction of that wealth will now it's inevitable. It might not happen in a year. It might take you five or ten or whatever. But you inevitably now achieve the result that you're after. And I think one of the most important lessons that I've ever embodied it just kind of a philosophy is that we all want instant results we want like quick fixes we want. I want everything to happen. Now, you know, and we look at other people that were envious of like well look at where they are. And I want to get there. Now, when we finally, you know, if you're listening to this, right? And you want to improve your business, your life, whatever, and you're feeling impatient. You're feeling like I'm behind. I'm like, you're just feeling the scarcity when you finally get to the point in your life or your business or any area that you've wanted to be for so long you've worked so hard for so long, maybe taking you so much longer than you wanted. When you finally get there. You almost never wish it would have happened any sooner like once you once you get there, you look back, and you're like, oh, the journey was exactly as it had to be all of the challenges the adversities, the depression the fear the failure the bankrupt. Like I had to go through that. And so when you can understand that value of hindsight now, it means. Don't wait for ten years to to live a life where you're not stressed out every day and feeling like you're behind the eight ball in behind everybody else. Like, no, go. Okay. I understand that. When I finally get there. I'm going to have realized that this was all perfect and part of the journey. So what that enables me to do every day instead of feeling stress, and I've been doing this for ten years since I realize this and woke up to this. I'm going to I'm going to be at peace with where I'm at every single day. I'm going to maintain unwavering faith that I will get to where I'm going because I'm putting forth extraordinary effort every single day. And if I keep maintaining unwavering faith that I can get to this place that it can create these results that I want if I put forth extraordinary effort every day, which isn't eighty hours a day working. It's simply one hour a day doing one thing that moves me in the direction of my miracle. My mission wherever you want to call it. I know that I'll get there. And so you can be peace with where you are. While you maintain a healthy sense of urgency to get move in the direction of where you want to go and. To me that is the recipe for life. That's the recipe for a happy life fulfilled life, and creating an extraordinary life. Yeah. This is kind of the sounds like I didn't even come up with this as a as a bumper sticker. But when I was talking with Tom Bill, you I said something like action and suffering and what I meant by that was if you're sitting there lamenting about where you're at right now. The one thing I found that cures that is just like move in that direction with. Yeah. You won't have your business up and running by next week by doing this. But at least you're going in that direction that made me feel infinitely better because if you're the kind of energetic person, and I don't mean that in any metaphysical way. I mean, you just have a lot of energy either drive yourself crazy, or you you focus that laser beam at a goal and you go for that. Instead, otherwise, you're just like a blender with the top off. Everything's just going everywhere. And that's where I was when I found myself starting over it was like, oh my gosh. Social media, Email is website show contin guess booking all that stuff. And I was like let's just pick out these goals and. Then knock them down one by one and have a plan and actually focus on that that way, I'm not spinning up in the air and doing all that. And I think that's really important too to note because otherwise it just sounds like great. So all I have to do is work hard every day. It's like, well, the focus is what matters and then putting in the effort consistently because a lot of what a lot of people do as lament with their at do an hour of work. Take tomorrow off have a bunch of errands. Do the next day. I got kids I got ball off. And then it's and then you end up lamenting again because you didn't do anything it's that consistency. Even if you don't have that our day you have to do something every day to move the ball forward. And that's what causes you to be able to move forward or allows you to move forward. There's a lot here. We didn't nearly get into it. Because that's what happens when I had my friends in the show off on what I hope or useful tangents instead of just focusing on the book content, but tell me about the faith effort feedback loop because I actually really liked that that was something a little bit new for me, and it twenty twenty hindsight worked for me because it was the action and suffering. In the work and then go, well, wait a minute. Now that I'm doing this. I see the speed at which I'm heading towards this. And I don't feel like I'm getting trying to get lucky again or something like that. So when it comes to the two decisions of the miracle equation. There's this feedback loop where they feed into each other. And they get easier and easier and easier over time. And that's the thing is like I said earlier, it's their counter intuitive there, right? It's counter door human nature to make these decisions. So with the first decision unwavering faith two parts to it. You've got to establish it, which is the easy part. But then you have to maintain it. But once you establish the faith that you can do something. And for me, it's establishing and it's putting it in writing. Right. It's got a solidified in writing which the way I phrase unwavering faith is I am committed to achieving blink result. No matter what there is no other option, right? Or I'm committed to giving it everything I have achieved this result. So I'm reinforcing my commitment. Right to do. What is do whatever it takes? And that's where it starts. Right. You want to achieve something to be fully committed in the simplest term. If you're committed. Did you get there? If you're not committed you don't get there at what point do, we know? Do we need to change that because it sort of like I'm gonna walk again? And it's like, okay, I'm not making progress in this area at what point do we go? This is not real estate. And I'm wasting my time. I mean, I think that you constantly have like in the book, I talked about having, you know, you've got consistently like daily reassess. How is this going is my approach working? Do I need to change it. So, but when you start with the unwavering faith, what it does is it fuels your effort because you go once you start reinforcing that you can do this thing you're like, oh, actually now, I feel compelled to do something that would move me in that direction. And we're really starts to the rubber meets the road. If you will once you put forth extraordinary effort, you start taking one step followed by another each day. One thing each day that moves in the direction now, you feel deserving you feel deserving of the result that you are working towards and when I had cancer I started by establishing unwavering faith, and I had a I read this in my affirmations every day would said I am. It'd to doing whatever it takes to beat cancer and lived to be one hundred plus years old with my wife and children. No matter what there is no other option. So that was the unwavering faith peace, and whenever I had fear, which I had all the time and self doubt. I pulled that out of my on my phone, it was this rapper permission. I wrote, and I read it and it refocused my mind on instead of being consumed with fear, which most people that are given a slim chance of living live in fear. I had very little fear. Fear was one percent of my reality and ninety nine percent was unwavering faith, then I got okay. Well to beat cancer. I'm not just going to sit back and let the doctors stick me with chemo and expect that that's it. I have to take responsibility for my recovery. I'm gonna put forth extrordinary effort in the way that looked for me. And if anybody is listening to this that know, someone with cancer, I didn't courage you or have cancer consider this. The doctors knew nothing about who Listrik practices, and there's extreme amounts of merit and people that have cured themselves naturally their body cure themselves. Not with. Just chemotherapy. And so I decided my extraordinary effort was I will do every single natural holistic practice. That's available. In addition in combination with the traditional allopathic medicine that my doctors are giving me so I took seventy vetted out supplements every single day. I did acupuncture. I did of course, the miracle morning. I meditated I did coffee in Emma's every day. And I will say there's no effort more extraordinary than sticking a tube up your butt and shooting a leader of coffee into your colon. Right like, and here's the thing. Jordan. I say this in all seriousness every time I was sitting there on my bathroom floor with a tube in my but doing a coffee enema, I want to give you the visuals. Thank you. But I'm like, but here's the feedback loop. I go dude, I'm going to be cancer. Because I am doing everything in my power. I deserve to be cancer, which is very different from. I have a vision board that has a picture of me being healthy. Right. So I'm gonna stare at it. And I'm gonna pray and I'm gonna wait right or the cancer to heal itself or the higher power to heal the cancer because right? And I tapped into all that too bright. But that wasn't it. I wasn't going to rely rely on luck or chance I was putting forth extrordinary effort and maintaining unwavering faith every day, and the doctors just like with my car accident there like we can't we can't believe how will your responding to this chemo like to be clear, the chemotherapy regimen that I had was if it may be the single most aggressive that there is on. I have an aunt, for example, that has breast cancer and she goes in for like an hour a month for an infusion. I got a hundred hours of chemo every three weeks. I had four drugs or five of the most powerful chemo drugs that were ministered via a tube that had to go into my artery because the chemo will burn through your vein that strong, and I had to get seven four days of non-stop chemo. And then the next session was five days. The next session was four days every three weeks alternately and most people die. The reason. My cancer is a thirty percent chance for violate most people die from the chemotherapy. I not only did I not die my side effects were minimal compared to people to get one hour a month. When I was getting over one hundred. Yeah. Sounds so awful terrific. And look at the very least like the most the most sort of pessimistic skeptic could say look all this boils down to at least, you're doing something with your energy other than frigging worrying and keeping yourself up at night freaking out about the fact that you might die. Absolutely. Yeah. And that's that's like the worst case scenario best case scenario putting coffee in your colon, which sounds just messy, and I won't get into that. You know, at the best case scenario that actually did something I'm skeptical of all of that stuff. But I can totally see that. If I were diagnosed with, hey, there's a better than there's really likely chance you're going to die. I'd be like. You know, give me that tube. Because otherwise, I'm going to sit here watching Netflix about, you know. God, I don't even want to think about it. I like horrible depressing things like buying life insurance and trying to figure out how to make leave money to my wife and kid that that's that sounds like a much more energy draining thing to do than what you were doing which knowing you all this stuff makes you even more high-spirited. You're like I put to coffee Animas in today. I'm doing. I did try that on like how much I fit up there. And the doctors are like look man, we can only do so much for you. If you're gonna fill your entire lower GI tracts with coffee just making it worse. I get this. Right. I understand this. And I know a lot of people that are practicing this kind of thing and looking at what we've talked about before a lot of what you're saying is actually how I got through the last year year and a half in a way that didn't drive me actually insane or through a hard core depression of some kind because I look back now. And I'm like why wasn't. I'm more depressed. And the reason is because I was working my ass off and didn't have time you're focused on what you wanted. But I'm not saying that people who suffer from depression just need to put in the there's there's a level at which it's clinical, and I want to acknowledge that in the reason, I didn't I think get myself down to that level by just thinking about negative stuff is because I cut myself off and focused on work which would have been on healthy, but was less unhealthy than laying on the couch and drink. Thinking or whatever people do in their depress. It depends. Right. We all have our own flavor vices, so. Yeah. Vices one set one way to do it. Well, how thank you very much. I know the book is coming out really soon the miracle equation will link to it in the show. It's I really thank you for coming in. And it's cool spending. The last few days of the of my house and seeing how crazy really are. I love you and thanks for signing. My my copy of the book, if you're watching on YouTube, and I'll read it to his miracle equation here to Jordan, Jen. I love you both in him so excited that you'll soon be giving birth to your miracle, son. Although and by the way, a lot of people might be like what you're having a baby. Because I haven't announced I've been really. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's on social media. But not everybody cares about that. And of course, it continues. If I know Jordan the effort, it took to conceive probably wasn't that extraordinary. If you know what? I mean love how thanks a lot. Now, you go to. Great big. Thank you to my friend, Hal, the book title is the miracle equation. And if you want to know how I managed to book all these great people and manage my relationships using systems and tiny habits. Check out our six minute, networking course, which is free over at Jordan. Harbinger dot com, slash course. Don't wait don't do it later. You gotta dig the well before you get Thursday. Once you need relationships. You are way too late and the drills are designed to just take a few minutes per day. That's why it's called six-minute networking people. So go grab that Jordan. Harbinger dot com, slash course. Speaking of building relationships, tell me your number one takeaway here from Hal Elrod. I'm at Jordan harbinger on both Twitter and Instagram. There's a video of this interview on our YouTube channel at Jordan. Harbinger dot com slash YouTube. This show is produced an association with podcast one. And this episode was co produced by Jason miracle brunch. Filipo and Jen harbinger show notes and worksheets are by Robert Fogerty, and I'm your host Jordan harbinger. Remember, we rise by lifting others. So the fee for the show is that you share it with friends when you find something useful, which should be in every episode. So please share the show with those you love and even those you don't in the meantime, dear best to apply. What you hear on the show? So you can live. What you listen. And we'll see you next time. A lot of people ask me which shows I recommend one of my favorites. Of course is mind pomp. You've heard me talk about it a bunch. It's not just a bunch of bro, fitness stuff. There's some broS, and there's some fitness, but there's a lot of really solid science in there as well. And I I love these guys live in my town here saying today, I've got Sal here from mine pump as well episode nine eighty this is kind of one of those the sounded like a men's health magazine at an airport headline almost in listened to it five steps to your best body by summer or five most important steps your best body by summer. These were surprisingly unsexy. But I think that's what people actually need, right. Yeah. And the reason why we did that episode is we get questions like this constantly. And so what we wanted to do is list the five not just the most important things. But really the fi- five of the only things you need to do because everybody focuses on the small stuff like the supplements, you need to take those ridiculous things that don't really move the needle. But one of the most important one steps in. There was learning how to lift weights properly because modern life is. Is naturally sedentary? And what you wanna do is you want to faster metabolism it protects against that sedentary life, and it allows you to eat more of these, hyper palatable foods that were constantly surrounded by so building muscle is actually one of the most important things you can do to get your body lean and stay lean in modern life. So basically if I want to keep eating a bunch of crap I need to have like giant quads to burn all of it. Well, it'll help to build more muscle. But I don't know if it's going to help that much crap all the time to him. All right next. You guys can find that. Of course, there's more steps than just that. That's one that I found interesting, and that's episode nine eighty on mind pump five steps your best body by summer. And of course, we'll link to that in the show notes as well.

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48: Epic Achiever: Hal Elrod: The Miracle Equation for Success

Conscious Millionaire Epic Achiever with host Marcus Aurelius Anderson

42:14 min | 11 months ago

48: Epic Achiever: Hal Elrod: The Miracle Equation for Success

"Welcome to the conscious millionaire epic achiever show episode Number Forty Eight. Welcome to the conscious. Millionaire the epic achievers show if you're an entrepreneur who's feeling stock or facing adversity than this is the show for you on each episode discovered how to turn turn your adversity into epic way make bigger money create a bigger impact and enjoy a bigger life with your host. Marcus Aurelius Julius Anderson and keynote Speaker bestselling author and mindset coach this JV chrome the third CEO of conscious millionaire with an important question for established entrepreneurs who wanNA make more profits. Do you WANNA learn how to engineer your Prophet Upfront. So you can actually predicted discover the six steps to improve your profits and get your business on the path to predictable. Prophets Andrew at coach analytics antics is waiting to speak with you. Just text or call his cell at seven seven zero seven one three three three three three three again text or call Andrew at seven seven zero seven one three three the three three three. Discover the six steps to improve your prophets. Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of the conscious millionaire epic achiever achiever show. Thank you for joining us today. I'm your mindset coach. Marcus Aurelius Anderson. And I'd like to give a big welcome to all of you who are trying to turn your adversity into an opportunity and turn that opportunity opportunity into an epic win today. I have an incredible guest. This is a man who truly influenced me especially when I was going through the hardship of my -versity of paralysis analysis. And when I was trying to recover. Let me tell you a little bit about my future guests today after surviving multiple near death experiences and impacting millions of lives through his books. Hal elrod is is now on a mission to elevate the consciousness of humanity one person at a time as the best selling author of literally one of the highest ranked books in the world the miracle morning morning which has been translated into thirty four different languages and has sold over one million copies and is practiced daily over five hundred thousand people around the world. He is doing doing exactly that House here today to talk about the next step in his mission to help you take your life to the next level with his newest book. The miracle equation the two decisions that move your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable. This man's work has had a tremendous impact on me and again I found his book whenever I was trying to recover from paralysis. Please help me welcome this incredible man. Hal elrod how thank you so much for being here my friend I appreciate you taking the time the mark is it is an honor. Because as as I mentioned I had you on my podcast and Fell in love with you and your spirit and your work at that point and so yes. I'm I'm grateful to be with your now. I'm so grateful for you as well and I know the incredibly busy. So thank you for taking the time and so we'll just jump right in there all the advice you have. I love because it's so pragmatic and you talk about a way to redefine your goals. That you say will make it impossible to fail and that's removes the fear of failure. Can you tell my listeners. A little bit about that. Yeah I like that. We started there. the I I will just say I learned this from my mentor. Dan CASSETTA In my former company that I was with for six years Capco and I believe he learned this from from the Great Jim. Rohn you know The they say there are no new ideas right. But but there's there's always new ways to hear them and often at a new time in our lives when the light win the lesson can make a really radical impact will this. This lesson changed my life when I learned it and I think most people today. It's it's really a life changing lesson because because we've fee typically goes in a very black and white paradigm. It's either. I hit the goal and I have succeeded or I don't hit the goal and I have failed and that fear of not hitting the goal whether it's the fear of failure or maybe the fear of wasting our time right. which would if I why would I give everything a have in and not reach the goal and then it's a waste of my? What do you know what was the point of it and the purpose of a goal and I'm GonNa Paraphrase what was taught by the Great Jim Rohn in the way that I applied in my life? If the purpose of a goal is not to hit the goal that is that is a purpose that is one objective but when I say the ultimate purpose of a goal I'm talking talking about what is the greatest value of maleable to you in setting and working towards a goal regardless of whether or not you hit it and so in in that context the purpose of a goal is to develop the qualities characteristics to be able to achieve your goals. Not just the one. You're working towards boards now but hopefully bigger and better goals in the future that you have yet to even imagine so you think about it. If you don't hit the goal but you literally give it everything you have. which by the way? That's the only way you develop those qualities. Characteristics is to really maintain unwavering self-belief unwavering faith that you can do it before extrordinary effort for every day and really give everything you have regardless of where you end up most people. If they're on track for the goal they throw in the early guessing. Not GonNa hit it. WHOA you're not you're not done growing you're not done becoming? You're not done developing the quality of the characteristics of a goal achieved of someone who can do anything you put your mind to so you know theoretically if you work towards a goal outweigh give it everything. You have developed more disciplined more consistency. More your belief in yourself through the efforts but let's say you missed the goal. Well that doesn't change who you became. That doesn't change those qualities those characteristics that mindset those habits those behaviors those skills the knowledge you attain that lasts indefinitely right the hitting the goal is like a monetary go for example right. That money spent real quick. And then it's like wow. was that really the goal. The goal isn't like in the book the chapters called the goal caboodle right. Because you think goal is the goal. But it's not the goal. It's who you become. That is really your ultimate goal and the greatest benefit that's available to you that's so powerful. It reminds me a bruce quote where he says that the goal is not necessarily what you're trying to achieve. You're trying to achieve the person who will achieve that goal. So That's beautiful Jim. Rohn stole it from Bruce Lee out. We're all bruce. Lee Probably got it from the Bible or knows that said I mean and that's the beautiful thing about it because because we re we re we respect we absorb the truth irrespective of source and if they can help us help more people than is our responsibility to try to use it so I love that. That's that's so powerful now before we dive into the miracle equation. Which is your book? I want to take a member to touch on the book that your best known for the miracle morning which is the one that like. I said somebody gave it to me whenever I was trying to recover. I just got the military and I didn't know what to do with my life and for me. Even though the recovery was difficult the hardest thing to know what to do next was what I do with my life. Okay I recovered. I'm I'm I'm able to walk again. There has to be a meaning to this. What do I do with that? So your book the Miracle Morning gave me an incredible direction and help me a lot with that. So what what is the difference between the the miracle morning and your newest book that you're talking about today yeah other than the word miracle right in both titles the miracle warning is Trying to think of the best way to explain its thank you. This is what I talked about the time. I should have this down but the thing is I haven't down in a ten minute the explanation I'm trying to save the listeners from So so my elevator bitch the miracle morning is a daily practice personal and it is interestingly enough it is based on the work of Jim Rohn it was actually in. Here's the quick story. Two Thousand Eight on I was at my rock bottom autumn like I had the economy crashed and I lost over half my clients and therefore lost over half my income. I could not pay my bills particularly my mortgage. The bank foreclosed on my house. And I was it really at the lowest point in my life where I cancelled my gym membership I had on my body. Fat percentage had tripled in six months in that same six months time. I had grown into only a depression for the first time in my life and because I was scared because nothing I did my income. I'm cub declining. Declining declining in my debt kept growing. I couldn't buy groceries. I was living on credit card and just to be really clear so people. Have you know total clarity on. What would that was like? It was I was earning. I adjust surpassed ten thousand dollars a month in income before the economy crashed and when it crashed I was at forty six hundred. Something like this I was I had lost over half my income and my mortgage alone. I think was thirty five hundred with taxes of rights plus car payment. So it's like I ah paid those in and out with and then eventually the mortgage because I couldn't buy food you know and I was living on the credit card and so on long story short. I actually long story little bit less long long. I ended up talking to one of my closest friends who is now my business partner. In Seoul in my best friends John Awfully run live events together masterminds and and such but I I I reached out to John and said Hey John. I haven't told anybody this 'cause I I'm I'm a success coach so Advertising that I'm failing. Miserably is kind of counterintuitive here. I'm not sure what to do but I also felt like a fraud by the way marcus because of that because I'm like who am I to coach upon being successful when I can't be successful myself I'm falling apart and I told John and I said what do I do. I'll do anything man. You're you're one of the smartest guys I know. What should I do? And he answered with a couple of questions he said. Let me ask you a question are you. Are you exercising every day and I got kind of upset. I thought what I literally really setting. What the hell does that have to do anything? I just told you right like are you not. Are you playing a game on your phone or something and not listening like what I just told you might. My world is crumbling being financially. And you're like oh you exercising every knicks. So if I'm serious if you're not putting yourself in a peak physical mental and emotional state through daily exercise you are going to stay at the level of consciousness that got you in that situation. You've got to increase your level or raise your level consciousness elevated so that you are thinking being at a higher level he said in the most fundamental way to do that is get blood and oxygen running through your body up to your brain every single day. If I were you I'd go for for a run or a jog for staying in the morning. I go okay all right. You know you got me there. At what else. And he said are you engaging in personal development every day I said honestly no man. I'm literally in survival mode like I wake up. I go in my office. I do what I can do and then I I I work until my eyes are bleeding from looking at the computer till nine o'clock at night and then I go to bed and veg out on TV for an hour in the evening or whatever. Typical of a wake up at the last minute right trudge through their day watch some TV go to bed. Rinse and repeat and wonder. Why don't I have the extraordinary life that I see other people have that I want that I mcphillips deserve? I'm a good person right. And so he said if I were you I go for a run the next morning I would listen to a self help audio. He recommended Jim Rohn. Ironically we by the way his mentor that I learned that first flossy from we had the say mentor in Dan. CASSETTA who learned from Jim Ryan. I just literally put that together right now so so yeah. Exact- I mean if you don't know Tony Robbins Mentor under JIM running nuts. He's like he was one of the first people in the industry to really some of his philosophy is the most wise in applicable rednecks nodding. Your head Marcus. Yes but but so I listened to a Jim Rohn audio that John recommended and I went for run the next morning and I was the grudgingly Chirac. I'm like this is so stupid I should be my office making calls trying to get clients. Why am I running right now and listening to an audio? This is not like and that's the problem. We think think that to to achieve more. We need to do more and what I was about to learn from the quote on a repeat from Jr that I heard from Jim is the secret to achieving more is not necessarily early doing more. It's becoming more and when you become more as in more capable more qualified more educated knowledgeable more skilled you can actually achieve. He's more by doing less oftentimes. And so I'm on this Ron and I'm like Oh this is so stupid and John and Jim Rhone says your level full of success will sell them exceed your level of personal development because accessories. Something you had tracked by the person you become and listening to that and I had probably heard it before like I said there's no new wisdom I think I heard him say that before. But it's like the timing is everything and hopefully you're listening to this. You're in what I'm I'm going to share it today. We'll save this and I say this in total humility. I'm gonNA share some things today. Not Everything share is going to be life changing but I promise you soon. You'll listen for the next twenty minutes. If you haven't really got something like you will get at least a finger to that is already changing millions of people's lives humility But so here's what I heard what I heard what I received. I thought okay. Wait a minute Jim is saying your level of success will seldom exceed at your level of personal development will personal development. A At that point was a little vague on what that was. I thought well. I'm I'm guessing. It's like growing myself like reading and learning to be meditating. Editing practices. That helped me be a better version of myself okay. I am not doing that at on a consistent basis and most people are not right right in terms of dedicating time each day like a golden. You know blot sacred our of becoming a better version of the person you were when he went to bed the night before. Very few people do that right and I wasn't doing it consistently at all it was I'd start a book and then get bored and start another book. That was like my personal right nor board. Never really get anything out of the book other than like Ooh Good. I like that idea. And I'M GONNA go onto the next one and then Jim said because your level of success is it's something you attract by the person you become in that moment for whatever reason my brain quantified that and. Maybe this is helpful for you. If you're listening I went on a scale of one to ten Dan. I want level ten success in every area of my life and that's true for all of us human beings that desire to fulfill our potential we want level tin health off level tin finances level in relationships. If you're a parent you WANNA be a level. Ten is apparent as we want to be an have an excuse I do inexperience the absolute best. That is possible in life but very few people do and I realized. Here's the disconnect. I want level ten success in my life. My My love will personal development is like ETA two maybe a three or four on a good day. And if you're right now me and marcus can teach on video right. My hands are separated. They got level ten at the top level toward the the bottom. There's a big disconnect in between and I believe that's the disconnect for the majority of society is everybody wants a level ten life but most people aren't not that they're not billing. It's more than I think because I wasn't aware I was I was I didn't go. I thought is needed to follow the rules. Go to school go to college get a degree. Get a good job. I don't that was it it no one told me none. No no you gotTA dedicate time in your self education if you WANNA level to marriage reading books on marriage if you want to be able to apparent memory reading books on parenting you've only wealthy. You better be either reading books or studying individuals in some way spending time with those that are already wealthy so you can learn what it takes and so in that moment miss the fifty that led a miracle morning and it was. I've got to create the most extraordinary personal development rich or I should say effective Personal development ritual in the history of mankind. So that I can turn my life around as fast as humanly possible. And so I went home. And I just Google best personal development practices personal practices of millionare's what CEO's do for personal growth in about just phrase after phrase at the phrase and I was making a list cross-referencing cross-referencing sites like entrepreneur and ink and whole OPRAH DOT COM and Huffington Post. And you name it and I had a list of six practices and I am a couple of problems. Number one was none of these are new. Meditation Affirmation Visualization Exercise Reading journaling. So I almost went. Where's has the magic thing I don't know about already ever heard of these? I've read a book of Right. You know but it's not what you live or what you learn what you live right so the question is do. Do I know what meditation is. Yes am I heard that people swear by that are successful. Sure do I do it regularly. Oh that's that's that's the problem right. And that's the weird part is our brain things if we know something that's enough like Navarine we turn off and we hear something. We note that maybe done it in this episode. I just listed off with practice. You go her those before like what's switched to try to find something I've never heard before which is so silly right. It's like no no if you want to be healthy. There's no secret. It's eat healthy food and exercise regularly so so I I hope that if someone tells you that you don't go man heard that before. Are you doing in new gives it. I don't care if you heard it. Are you doing in so that for me I was like. I'm not doing any of these practices but I go. which was the one that can have the biggest impact my life and I'm looking at the list of the articles and I can't figure out one is better than the other and I go? What if I did all of these? And that was the epiphany. What if I woke up tomorrow and I did? Ten minutes of each of the six timeless proven personal development practices in the history of humanity that the world's most successful people in all walks of life from Olympians professional professional athletes to. CEO's you name it. They swear by any one of these as a life changer. If I did all of them that would be the ultimate morning ritual. I woke up the next morning. I did all six of these. I sucked all of them. Marcus I had never meditated before you know I knew how to read. Of course I knew extra of most formations that was like I was. How much time was this googling like what what's an affirmation? How do I say this and I found a lot of cheesy stuff that I didn't resonate? I've really redone that in the miracle. Earning book but way to bring this to a head. Even though I sucked at it I felt so inspired so energize and I went. I had cleared if I start. Start every day with this. These practices every day. I will become a better version of the person I was when I went to bed the night before. I'll get a little bit better a little bit better a little more knowledgeable the more educated a little more confident a little bit better more effective beliefs. It's only a matter of time. I was thinking six to twelve months that I turn things around and this is why it's called the miracle morning it didn't have a name in the beginning in less than two months I went from forty six hundred a month in income to twelve thousand dollars in the most I'd ever earned in my entire life in two months economy. Economy still in the toilet. Didn't get a new job. Just clarity on how to improve. My current business didn't change anything adnew it just got will clients clients got clients on. I was reading the worship of my life having my body. Fat percentage triple not having exercise for six months to committing running fifty two mile ultra marathon which trained for and completed on and my depression went away the first day I mean I won't say it was gone but it was from like an eight to a afford and then two or three and then to within days because I had so much optimism around this morning ritual what it was doing four to me and for me and I told my wife and like sweetheart we just hit our biggest income ever we. Just I'm I'm I'm training. I've never run in my life and I'm on fire like I'm not depressed just anymore. I'm good in this little morning. Rituals is like a fricken. Miracle she goes. It's your miracle morning and I go. Oh my gosh you're right. And then just this is in essence of time already going way over what I was planning there to say. I I the epiphany after a shared it with you. Coaching clients was that it was changing their lives. They all started started when I told him this morning. Personnel I go Kay but are you willing to do something different. Improve yourself some of your life. They're like yeah final. Try It for a week. And and every single one of my clients except for one it was like eleven out of twelve or fourteen fifteen dots. They all came back going holy crap. I'm a morning person that you're right. I saw the same types of benefits that you described with such passion hell and then the epiphany was the light bulb was if this miracle morning thing changed my life and I wasn't a morning person if it's changing my clients lives in a matter of weeks. None of them were morning people. This could change the world and that was seven eight nine years ago The Miracle Morning published in two thousand twelve. I think my bio you mentioned a million copies. I just got word. We surpassed two million copies season sales. Wow and translated in thirty seven languages I just got. I went to France a couple of years ago to promoted me to Italy. The bring me in Brazil like it's it's it's crazy and I don't share any of that to be like look at me I'm getting brought. I don't care right. The point is if it changed my life my clients lives and millions of people's herbals lives and when we surveyed our audience. Marcus was a really interesting data. Point seventy two percents of they never in their life been a morning person for the red the miracle morning. So if you're listening being like yeah sounds great but like I hate waking up in the morning like join the club. That's what everybody that's doing the miracle morning most of them. We're in the same boat so that's the miracle morning. And now we're on this mission to elevate consciousness as you mentioned one more time one person at a time and it. It's kind of you it every day. I pinch myself seeing the results in people's lives supposedly my and you are definitely changing lines. So everyone listened to what how sane knowing is not enough we must act willing is not enough we must do. We'll be right back and you WANNA stay tuned because how elrod is about to give you an epic twenty four hour challenge. That will help you get closer to your next epic win and we'll also talk more about his curb. Book the Miracle Equation. This is Jay crumble third. CEO of conscious milliner with an important into question for established entrepreneurs who WanNa make more prophets. Do you WanNa Engineer Your Prophet Upfront. So that you can actually predict it. Download download the six steps to improve your profits and get your business on the path to predictable. Prophets this e book shows you how to plan for your Prophet so so you can almost guarantee upfront. What you can take to the bank go to cogent analytics dot com forward slash profit it again that's cogent analytics dot com forward slash profit to download your free six steps to Improve Your Prophet Z e-book? And if you want to get on the path to higher profits right now contact Andrew at coaching analytics. He's waiting to speak with you so so just text or call his cell at seven seven zero seven one three three three three three three again text or call Andrew at seven seven zero seven one three three three three three. Welcome back to the conscious millionaire epic achiever show. I'm your host. Marcus Aurelius Anderson. And I'm here with the incredible. Hal elrod thank you so much for joining yesterday. I am honored to have you as a listener and as a reminder check out the show notes and everything about today's episode a conscious meaner epic Achiever Dot Com and also go over to Markus Release Anderson Dot Com to get some more exclusive exclusive content. Now what would be that. Twenty four hour piece of advice you would give to our listeners. Right now how that you think would change their life. You've already talked about the miracle morning but there has to be if some people don't WanNa get committed to all these six movements. What would be one thing that they can do right now that they would see a big change that would move the needle for them? A AH thank you for the question and I love that because it's a behavior change that changes your life right. It's not learning something people read books and think they're changing their life. But you're not doing anything with it. You're not necessarily in your life so I love that because it's all about behavior change and here's the one change I would mention or I would recommend is I mentioned. There are six practices of the miracle morning morning and I listed him off but I wanna they all Organiz nicely into an acronym and so for this to be more memorable in your brain you picture the acronym I picture vertically. S It savers S. A. V. E. R. S.. The practices are the first for silence. That's your meditation a prayer. The A is for affirmations as written statements that articulate who. You're committed to becoming not lying yourself saying you are something you're not the visas. He is for visualization in the world's top athletes use visualization to optimize their emotional internal Component so that when they hit the core it's game time they've already prepared themselves to perform at their best. The E is exercise. Starting Your Day with even sixty sections of jumping jacks keeps that blood flowing flowing it wakes you up preps you for the day the RS for reading In this last essence prescribing which is a fancy word for journaling writing etcetera. But of course I need an S. for the acronym Info transparency but. Here's the point. Any one of those will change your life. This is the miracle morning thirty. Take challenge so we're going to say this. Is your twenty four hour challenge. When I give a keynote in my keynote because I say yeah you can't leave the scene of inspiration someone once said right without committing to take action action so wake up thirty minutes earlier and do one of the sabres? That's it and in that science studies prove the more we try to change it once the more likely we are to fail or to not stick with that changes delayed failure so the idea is wake up thirty minutes earlier. Now that might mean to you. There's thirty minutes less Netflix. binging in your schedule at night rights but think about the trade off. It's I'm going to bed thirty minutes earlier ear to wake up to become the best version of myself to dedicate the first part of my day before all the rest of the day. The business excuses pile L.. Up so that there is no excuse to not dedicate that time to the most. I would say I'll go out on a limb and say the most important thing you could do is dedicate time. It's morning to become the best version of yourself to improving the. I eat where we into the night before so wake up thirty minutes earlier. Bashar Lock Right now. Feed your phone and you're listening back it thirty minutes right and wake up thirty minutes earlier and dedicate that time to either. Silence affirmations visualization exercise reading being or screaming and whenever I talked audience if the meeting planner bought everybody a coffee the miracle morning I say look just start with our your yacht. The book doesn't get easier. Your wake up thirty minutes earlier and you read and when you get to the S in savers you're gonNA learn the simplest meditation practice you've ever learned and you're GonNa be like oh I'll do the S. and the art tomorrow and then you get the. SRA right and show you go. You go through easy right but I believe in Morphou Cranston's strategy for change which is don't try to make a quantum leap. Ironically I run the quantum leap mastermind. So it's kind of a funny that I would say that but lean it he says lean into it. Just take a baby step if you want to start doing one hundred today start with one and then the next day due to the next debut three we wanNA quit smoking. Cigarettes go from twenty a day. Don't quit all at once. quicko Turkey some people have done that. But it's way easier from twenty to nineteen and it's not too hard to go from nine hundred eighteen until you get down to four and then three and into and then probably the hardest one is to go from one zero but you make that gradual change. So that's my twenty four hour challenges simply set your clock back thirty minutes earlier before before you go to bed at an important pieces setting your intention move your clock across the room. UNISOM logistical components beating alarm clock. Make it so you have to get out of bed and turn it off off if it's within arm's reach you're gonNA fail most of the time because we have very little willpower in those first few seconds when our arms reaching over to the bedside table to turn it off the alarm armed across the room in the bathroom whatever and yeah and that's it in wake up thirty minutes earlier that it came time to your personal element and you will see miracles. Happen in ways you never imagine. That's phenomenal. I know that you're short on time. So I'd love to talk a little bit more about your current book. The miracle question. And you said that it's made up of two different decisions wins. That are actually counterintuitive to human nature. Could you give us a brief summary of what those physicians are and why they're unnatural for us to make. Yeah absolutely and this this idea of the miracle equation. I like to say that people. You know if you don't know my work if you're hearing the research even if you read the miracle morning you're like Oh cute. How did another Miracle Book like? He eat looks. He's really capitalizing on that miracle brands. The irony of Marcus is the miracle morning I started. I May I started practicing attract and seeing it when I was twenty seven I published it when I was like thirty one. I think I'm GonNa be Twenty eight and thirty one on the miracle morning. I started Ersoy the miracle that was the miracle morning the miracle equation. I started practicing when I was twenty years old and I named it the Miracle Equation when I was twenty years old and and I used it to write the miracle morning and promote the miracle morning as well as beat cancer so so the it's it's almost a prequel I mean it really is right yes it came out after but it wasn't. I'm just a clever marketing idea because of the miracle morning did well. It was when I was diagnosed with cancer two years ago. I was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia. I was healthy one week within one week. This cancer is so aggressive it acts so fast my heart was on the verge of failing my kidneys were failing and my lawn. My left lung was completely collapsed collapsed and when I was diagnosed with cancer it has a third twenty to thirty percent survival rate. So you know thing I have at the time seven seven year old daughter four year old son wife of woman of my dreams who I love the doctor saying how there's a seventy eighty percent chance. Statistically you're going to die in the next few months we will do the best which the best by the way is the most intensive chemotherapy in existence. I think it's the second most on but it's one hundred hours of chemo consecutively. Every three weeks so I mean it's it's it's. It's almost died for multiple times in Multiple Times. I lost twenty five percent of my body weight and the first day. I was diagnosed I decided this would be the best thing that ever happened. Me and I told that to my wife and I told my friends I wall and yours inching things simultaneously. I was clear that this is probably GonNa be the most difficult painful terrifying thing that ever happened to me. And that's why it will the best because Marcus you and I are on the same page right. The greater the adversity the greater the opportunity the greater the advantage. And so on the next. You know obviously your brain and with a diagnosis that you go will. How am I going to beat this? What what what the Hell am I gonNa do the best chance? Have the doctors thirty percent twenty me a thirty percent. That's terrible right. That's you wouldn't take your money to a financial adviser said hey there's a seventy to eighty percent gentleman lose all this for you. Please hand over your money. But that's what I was doing my life right like crazy and so within. I don't remember the exact time was probably thirty minutes to an hour of being diagnosed diagnosed and racking my brain. I went the miracle equation. That's how I defied the odds in my life you know. We didn't go into the story but when I was twenty I was hit head on by driver. The driver broke eleven bones. What I would never walk again after I died for six minutes and the miracle equation is how I took my for step three weeks later? An defied the logic of doctors. Right how I broke every company sales record that I did back when I was in sales how I sold a million bucks this year occasion thing and that's the only way I know how to beat this and so I but I but the interesting thing is I had seen it work so many times my wife and I had studied with other people. We're GONNA WE'RE GONNA get into the the two decisions here on. But I had faith that it worked. I really believed it worked and and I work. I believe that it was like it was fundamental and crucial without it. The Chemo may not work. It was it was harnessing the mind body connection or ability they feel our body through through our thoughts and our intentions and you think this is woo woo. No it's not Lou. This is science right. This has been proven. It's been I gosh. I wish I could list studies right now. I don't have those details in my head but you can google it right like does newt mind to Google mind body connection incurring yourself of disease. You'll find tons of stuff on it right. It's how I took my first step again again. I believe when the doctors they didn't do anything to heal my body. They just sewed it together. They put a metal rod in my leg but with that they said you're never going to walk again again and I said No. No no I am. As the first decision. The miracle equation unwavering faith not faith in God and I'm not discounting that but I'm saying this isn't the faith where you go. I'M GONNA sit back passively. Do Nothing and An have faith that that miracles are going to happen in my life. And someone's going to save me when I talk about unwavering. Faith I'm talking about unwavering faith in yourself and your ability to overcome in anything to achieve anything to do anything anyone else's ever done or better right like unwavering unwavering faith and by the way that's not I'm not I'm not an atheist I believe in God I pray every day like I'm saying couple of faith with a higher power absolutely right with the power of people praying for you absolutely but the fundamental faith I believe is in ourselves and there's plenty of spiritual tax that support that biblical texts and support that on him so unwavering faith in yourself to overcome accomplish Anything that you're committed to the second decision is extraordinary effort now. I always say it's really important to hear this. Those two decisions are it deceptively simple in their explanation but extremely rare in their execution right. I in their explanation. You're a McKay hell. Does that mean I'm supposed to believe in myself in work. Hard great never heard that before that right like wow. I'm really gonNA change my life. No that doesn't do anything for you but let me ask you. This give thought to the world's most successful people in any walk of life however you define find success. Those that are made the biggest impact in the world like mother. Theresa are right those who have made the most money however you define success look at the world's most successful people almost by default. They live by those two decisions. They don't make them once they make them every day they wake up they make them every time they faced adversity. They make him every time their encounter with an opportunity that they're terrified. They don't know how to take advantage of right into the world's greatest athletes maintain unwavering faith and they can make every shot they take and they put for the extraordinary effort diving for the ball until the last minute even if winning looks impossible and those are the athletes. Those are the Michael Jordan. The Lebron James and Kobe. Bryant's the Wayne Gretzky's that right. Those are the athletes that make the Buzzer beaters. That win at the last minute because when the average person even NBA players. Here's our museum basketball players but the average player which is still among the best in the world but average compared to the best of the best they have they let fear and doubt run their thinking thinking run their consciousness and therefore run their actions when the game is on the line. The CEOS don't look at me do we only got ten seconds left the seasons on the line. I'm not taking that a shot but the Michael Jordan's the best of the best. You'll give me the ball. I have unwavering faith that will make every shot overtake even if they missed the last five shots the outer person goes dude. I'm off tonight. Jordan says I missed the last five shots but I want the ball. I will make this one in more often than not it so you look at the world's most oh successively will any walk of life. You're hard pressed to find one that doesn't live by those two decisions. They're not one time. Decisions to achieve a goal they are are an. It's an ongoing way of thinking. Living in showing up to your life enables you to transcend your limitations transcend. What is normal average for most people and to create what I call miracles and let me end by defining that word because it is very loaded? I'm not in terms of miracles like these random impassive events that you as I mentioned earlier. Wait and pray for but rather a neural is a tangible meaningful outcome that is beyond the realm of what you currently believe is probable for you and I'll say that one more time a miracle is a tangible meaningful outcome the on the realm of what you currently currently believe is probable for you. It's those goals and dreams that you have no evidence in your past that you have any right to achieve and therefore by definition by default you have to step out with unwavering faith in yourself that you can do something that you've never done before by putting enforce extraordinary effort which is really simply consistent effort every day doing at least one thing that moves you closer to that predetermined outcome knowing that as long as you live live with those two decisions indefinitely for as long as it takes. The only variable is timing. You cannot fail my goal to Jerusalem million copies the neural morning and change a million lives was to do it in one year. I sold twelve thousand copies that year the next year. I tried to do it again. I sold twenty thousand copies in the second year. Thirty five thousand total. If you do the math I believe I was ninety. Nine point seven percent short of my goal but I continue to apply unwavering. Faith that I could do it for the short by doing hundreds of podcasts interviews dozens of TV interviews giving over one hundred speeches on and on and on until and that might be the most important word. Ah that whole lesson and it took me six years but I'll close out with final thought out. Is that when you finally get to the point in your life or your business. Whatever your goals dreams whatever it is? You're working towards when you finally get there. You almost never wished would happen any sooner instead. You look back with clarity going. Oh it had to take this long. I had to go through those challenges. Setbacks hurdles failures disappointments I had to grow. I had to become the person that I became that I am today. And it happened in the perfect timing so with that awareness. Don't don't wait for hindsight to see the perfection your challenges your adversity your journey the peace. With where you are every day every step of the way while you wake up do your miracle morning force and then maintain a healthy sense of urgency to put forth that extraordinary effort that consistent effort to move consistently in the direction of what you want what you deserve and you can't fail. You will eventually get there an alcoholic you so much. That was golden wisdom. And I know that you have to go if you could just hist tell our listeners where that would be the best way for them to get in touch with you and follow and learn more about you and you have the new book the Miracle Life that you have in the works as well. Yes I go to miracle morning dot com. That's the best place you can opt in for a miracle morning crash. Course which is a ten minute video or seventeen minute video wrong. But it's an honor a twenty minute video Me Giving a speech on the miracle morning. I go more in depth than I did today and and and what it is to apply it. There's also a sixty a sixty minute audio that you can listen to and then you get the first sneak peak of the book itself to see if it's a good fit for you so go to miracle morning dot com. You can also join Gordon community there. Everything you need is at that hub beautiful. How thank you so much for being here today? Everybody start putting into action. Have a fantastic day. This is an important question for entrepreneurs. Hello this is J. V. Crumble third founder of conscious millionaire is twenty twenty the year you want to get on the fast fast track to making your first million. I made my first million at age twenty five and now I WANNA help ten. Select entrepreneurs get on the path to achieving. There's here's to apply. 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1303: Rewriting the Money Stories We Tell Ourselves by Dawn Starks of Simple Money Pro on Combatting Negative Self-Talk

Optimal Finance Daily

08:25 min | 3 weeks ago

1303: Rewriting the Money Stories We Tell Ourselves by Dawn Starks of Simple Money Pro on Combatting Negative Self-Talk

"This is optimal finance daily episode thirteen o three rewriting the money stories. We tell ourselves by Don starks of simple money pro dot com. Welcome to optimal finance daily I'm your host and personal finance enthusiast Diana Mariam. This is the podcast where I read to you from some of the best blogs on personal finance every day including weekends and holidays. If you have a question, you want answered here on the show, go ahead and send one into finance at O. L. D. PODCASTS DOT com make sure you check out the other awesome podcast network on topics like health relationships and personal development just search for optimal living daily wherever you listen to your podcasts For. Now, let's get right to it and continue optimizing your life. Style. Rewriting the money stories, we tell ourselves by John starks of simple money pro dot com. Did tell stories to yourself. Feel like most people you probably have a constant inner dialogue going with yourself. Sometimes, you say, nice affirming things to yourself and other times you beat yourself down. You have probably also heard that you should only tell yourself supportive things and avoid negative language. All true. When it comes to storytelling, one area of our lives tends to have many chapters money. Let's look at some of the negative money stories we tell ourselves and rewrite them to improve ourselves talk. I'm bad at math. So I'm bad at money. We'll start with my favorite one while it's true that having mad maskell's might facilitate your ability to be good with money it's not mandatory. It used to be the case that only simple arithmetic was necessary to handle your money these days we have calculators and online tools that make it easier than ever to skirt this issue. One thing I hate most about this belief is that it is nothing but an excuse. Oh, well, have this skill. So just forget it. So irritating financial literacy is incredibly important to successfully function as an adult and all it takes is a desire to learn. It's not rocket science I promise. Let's rewrite that one for good. I am perfectly capable of learning all I need to know about money. I can't afford that. Well, this one might be absolutely true. Sometimes, I would still challenge you to remove it from your arsenal of words. Instead think of it as what you choose I choose not to buy that. Approaching things, this way is a much more positive experience. Here's a silly but accurate example I can't afford to buy. Is it. True. Indeed it is. But by telling myself, I can't afford it. I'm creating a mental upper limit in my mind. Could I possibly earn more if I tried this giving me the ability to a forty out I probably could do I want to absolutely not. But by changing my language to I choose not to spend my money on a yacht I'm reinforcing my spending values as opposed to introducing upper limit thinking. For an even more positive rewrite. Try I choose to spend my money only on things that match my values. I'll never make a lot of money. This one falls into the category of self worth? Talk. Related negative messages would be I. don't deserve to earn more and I'm not qualified enough for a better paying job. These are dangerous because like the I can't afford that thought pattern the introduce upper limit thinking it may well be true that at your existing level of training, you may not be able to qualify for a better paying job, but that certainly does not. preclude. You from updating your skills and finding ways to educate yourself so that you can improve your career prospects. The deserving part might require a bit more work. Why is it that you don't think you deserve to earn more if it's because you lack the necessary skills education and experience that instead say if I want this position here are the things I need to do. If the answer is that for some reason, you think so negatively about yourself that you're undeserving of improving your lot in life, perhaps you need to seek out some help to rewire thought patterns. But to start, you could rewrite the story as if I learn and work hard I deserve to improve my career and make more money. Here's some tips to incorporate positive money or other stories in your life. Catch yourself using negative stories. First and foremost you need to notice when you are telling yourself negative things. If you can physically stop do that and ask yourself why you use those particular words immediately replace the negative words with a more positive message and then repeat the message a few times to yourself. It takes practice to banish those negative stories. So don't give up after a trier to. Make notes and signs for yourself. If. There is a negative phrase tend to use often rewrite it now and make reminders for yourself. You can use a sticky note on your computer and Mirror and post signs around your house or workplace to remind you of your new improve story. Correct yourself out. Loud. When you catch yourself thinking the negative story repeat your rewritten positive story out loud. Even better would be to tell it to yourself all looking at a mirror, but thought isn't always practical feel silly while hearing yourself tell the positive story in addition to merely thinking about it would help it settle into your consciousness more quickly don't be shy. Ignore the haters you might experience friends, family or co workers who will openly scoff or worse macher tease you for talking to yourself and leaving positive reminders around the house. You can just ignore them recognizing that they are probably having similar insecurities about themselves that they don't want to admit. Or you can come up with a witty your pleasant comebacks such as well. It works for me you should try it some time accompanied by a big smile on your face. Your true supporters will recognize that any attempts to better yourself and your habits is a positive thing their comments or lack thereof should reflect their support. You just listen to the post titled Rewriting the Money Stories We tell ourselves by John starks of simple money pro dot com. Things to anchor for hosting this podcast anchors the easiest way to make a podcast distributor podcast for you so can be heard everywhere, spotify, apple podcast Google podcasts, and many more. You can easily make money from your podcast to with no minimum listenership anchor gives you everything you need in one place for free, which you can use right from your phone or computer creation tools allow you to record edit your podcast. So it sounds great download the anchor APP or go to Anchor FM to get started. What great advice from? John starks in coincidentally just this week I actually started reading out loud a list of positive affirmations as part of my morning routine. It was recommended in the book the Miracle Morning by Hal elrod, and while I'm only a few days into the practice, I have to tell you that I can see a positive effect. I think the key for me is actually writing the statements myself rather than listening to someone else's positive affirmations, which is what I was doing previously. When it comes to my storytelling around money there is definitely a time when I felt that investing was just too intimidating for me. I read a number of books on investing to try to educate myself but it wasn't until I read the simple past to wealth by jail collins that I was really able to change that story. So if you haven't read the book I, highly recommend it. Will. That will do it for today have a happy rest of your day and I will see you for the Sunday show tomorrow where your optimal life awaits.

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1880: Best of Series: Kathleen Gage: Born to be Amazing!

Conscious Millionaire Show ~ Business Coaching and Mentoring 6 Days a Week

29:00 min | 2 weeks ago

1880: Best of Series: Kathleen Gage: Born to be Amazing!

"Welcome to the conscious millionaire show episode number eighteen, Eighty, the best of series. This is Kathleen gauge author of Power Up for prophets and on today's show I will reveal how you are born to be amazing. Look to conscious millionaire the number one show for conscious entrepreneurs and CEOS on a mission to build a highly profitable business that makes a positive impact on Egypt's discover how to make bigger money, create a bigger impact and live a figure live. You're listening to the conscious meaner network per by over twelve million listeners in one hundred, ninety countries. Now, join your host jv chrome the third the conscious me near Mentor Master P coach Speaker and author of the number one international bestseller consciously their grow your business by making a difference. This is JV and if you're listening to the conscious millionaire show I, believe it's because you want to achieve financial freedom by making a big difference. That's why I've created a new audio for you. It's the born to make millions empowerment audio and it's free to you today as my listener. Get your born to make millions audio right now, go to conscious millionaire dot com ford slash make millions again. Go to conscious millionaire dot com Ford slash make millions I want a welcome our guest expert today she's an expert in Strategic Helped me walking her to the show after nearly twenty five years in business. She's doing what most entrepreneurs would never dream of doing. That's right changing her entire business direction and her entire market as well in a very big way. She's creating a level of success that many entrepreneurs aspire to achieve because she discovered a passion that has been percolating under the surface for years my guest and good friend today is Kathleen Gauge Kathleen. Thank you so much for joining us today. Great to here Jamie how are you? I'm thinking I've started camping. You know. So now I'm in my camping phase, I just reserved whole bunch of campsites. I've got ten camping trips planned over the next few months and sometimes I need to come up there in camp with you. All right on your horses. That's what I'm thinking. Absolutely. You know it's funny because just the other day we were on the back property and we were looking at it, it's like a park and we're going to camp back there. We don't have to drive anywhere. So that's really cool when you can camp on your own, you know Ponderosa so to say. Yeah, well, camping is one of my favorite things I want to jump right into this born to be amazing. It's a great phrase Kathleen but what exactly does it mean? It means that we truly are born to the amazing and most people don't give themselves permission. But what means is there are things that we're here to do that weakest need to go out and do it and be are amazing solves. So. If you know somebody out there to be their amazing self, what is some of the things that actually stop them because I think a lot of people wake up in the morning they want something more. They're feeling even empty like there's gotTa be more I'm not playing big enough I'm not connecting with enough people. I'm not making a bigger difference and I'm not putting as much money in the bank because I want none of it feels big enough. But what stops people? Well I think what really stops people is ego can be one thing that stops people in a lot of times. People think what he means is that were all full of ourselves and yet ego can work in in a way that we minimize who we are and were so afraid of being judged were so afraid that people won't like us and the reality is is the bigger you play the more you're going to be judged. That's one reason another reason would be that we listened to the limited thinking of other. People. I was talking to a woman the other day who wants to be a writer and I said, well, what's stopping you and she goes well, my brother told me who are you to right? You're not a good writer and I said well, quit listening to your brother go and find people that will lift you up people that will support you in what you're doing and a lot of times we think we should go from zero to sixty overnight without anything in between and it's interesting because lately I've been hearing this. This definition of what it means to accomplish goal, and it's not so much about accomplishing a goal. It's who we become on our way to hitting the goal. For example, a you know that I I'm a runner, not a fast runner by any stretch of the imagination but for my birthday coming up my sixty fifth birthday I'm doing a half marathon and it's not the fact that I'm going to cross the finish line at that at that particular point in time it's all the practice that I'm doing on my way there it's breaking shoes in it's doing the five miles to ten miles, the eight miles and those days that I just don't feel like doing it but I put my shoes on and I get out there in Iran. So The reason people hold themselves back. Yes. Fear fear that they won't succeed judgment by others listening to others and I, really believe a bit oftentimes we attract people into our life to reflect our subconscious thinking if we're down ourselves, we're going to attract plenty of people in our life who will reflect to us those doubts in what they say and what they do in how they try hold us back. You know I want to deconstruct that because there's a lot of pieces there. But I I'm curious what are three things that anybody can do in order to actually become their amazing self? Oh that is such a great question Jamie thank you for asking. One is really checking in with what your beliefs are around success Where did you the beliefs what we're limiting beliefs that you might have picked up as a child from your parents, your grandparents from your teachers from you minister that really the beliefs were about being small and being humble and living small. So that would be one thing and and you can really tap into that through journal. Another thing is I want to add something there because it's really interesting I, very seldom comment on this, but I was talking to someone this morning who's interested in working with me and You know we're talking about childhood things that she experienced at an I said, you know we would went to church and was talking about my life tour and But it's interesting. I was out in the country and I want to throw this out here because I know I'm not the only person who got the story. And it wasn't too wrecked. It was subtle but it was if you're good enough, maybe you'll get to heaven. That message right and In or out of a religious context, how many people and I'm talking to you if you're listening today because I just felt compelled to say that that was a message I got that you had to be really even good enough to get to heaven. You didn't even get to heaven on your. You know without being good enough. How many times if we all been told, you're not good enough or you have more to be good enough and ultimately we end up feeling like we aren't good enough. Oh, absolutely and You just Kinda you really hit the nail on the head with that I was listening to when I go on my runs. I usually plug in somebody like random Rashard Tony Robbins Lisa Nichols Hal elrod mill. Auburn's I listen to people that really inspire me to be more of WHO I am just get out of my own way and leasing. It was talking about a belief that her grandma gave her and it was You don't need much to get to him, which is kind of interesting because it's not about being good but you don't need much on material level to get to have an she said I want that belief for so long. That I was always just getting by until I looked at it and I said wait a minute. You can have a lot in get to heaven because the more you have the more you can do right. So it. s about checking the beliefs in where they come up with a belief. We are impressed upon by influencers in our life and buy influencers on talking parents, grandparents, ministers, teachers the parents of our friends, things of that nature. So that would be one One thing that people do is to really check their their beliefs another thing that I really. Believe is important. Becoming are mason cells is to take care of our body and what I mean by values. It's really take care of what we put into our body. What we consume with the liquids we consume I I don't drink I haven't had a drink in thirty five years nor will I ever drink just one of those that I I had a real allergy to alcohol and so in knowing that I just don't put that into my body not long ago I went one hundred percent plant based in I. Did that because it really honors the body I've been given and as I get older especially with our health care system the. Way, it is it's broken. Our healthcare system is dramatic is drastically brought him in I. Don't WanNa have to rely on the healthcare system to make me better because they're not gonNA. Make me better. The only thing I can do is the accountable for what I consume on a daily basis. That's why I'm happy. So that would be another thing. Another thing is movement and exercise I think is very, very important to really bring out the best in who we are and it's amazing. How many people just don't move they. They might move from their house to their car to go to the store, and then park is close to the stores they possibly can and. Do as little activity as possible. But my goodness, you know we've been given body for a recent in its to do something amazing with it were. You know it's it's so much fun because you you and I were both talking before we went to air and then you were mentioning you're going to do this half marathon and folks I'm very proud I haven't been talking much about it but I'm about to put a lot on facebook is you know last year? I had this major heart attack you know two or three hours way from not being here and this year I'm running a ten K marathon and to prepare for it you were talking about preparation I've upped. At Orange Unlimited and I have twenty aren't theory sessions already are scheduled on my schedule scheduled with them for this month preparing myself for this ten K event. Now, I have to say that you know it's a joke, but it's not a joke. My only outcome is from heart attack to marathon and I finish I crossed the finish line right to me. The time is even relevant is I can go from saying could have died not interested I'm here and by the way I'm staying along for a long time and I'm going to optimize my health and like you you know you're gone all plant based I've gone eighty percent plant based and my body is so much healthier. Higher Energy I sleep better at night. I wake up and I'm not groggy from having had the plant based, and so I'm really buying into that. You've got a book I would just like be an opportunity to talk about that because I know if your coach you WanNa perform at your highest level, you want to give your most to your clients all of us who are coaches you know. Yes of course, she would be more financially successful. It's one of the big reasons you listen to the show with your here because you want to make a difference in other people's lives, nobody chooses to be a coach for because unless they really want to help people plant based has really helped me beginner's guide to plant based eating Tallus about it, and then what's the best way you you want to give it away for free? We've also got another free gift for you folks. This is free gift gay stick around here but another another. Amazing. Yes. So it's like celebrating Kathleen specifically, what's the way? People can get that and tell us about it. Yeah. I. Love To. Let them, know I at first You just need to go to plant based eating for health dot com that's plant based eating or L. Dot com, and I was really lucky to get that. You are L. When I decided to to rolling go deep into this and basically what it is, it's about a fifty page e book that I document my journey of starting plant based and when you get it, you're going to see my before and after picture. Before I started plant based and after, and that wasn't even the lightest weight that I hit. It was about twelve pounds ago and what's interesting is I didn't start the plant based eating to lose weight I started it because I had inflammation I'm gonNA. Be Sixty, five years old I was getting inflammation. I'm a writer it was getting in my way and I started looking at it and I thought you know people they they look to me for guidance. I'm not living up to my full potential I'm not being my amazing self, and so I decided to give it seven days to see if I could get rid of the inflammation because everything I read it was kind of like this was like the magic way of eating and I thought too good to be true. Let's really see this is true and after two days the inflammation completely now I tend to be very black and white and a lot of things I use so. I went from eating animal products, dairy products, and you give me a block of cheese and I would eat the whole block of cheese. You get me a box of doughnuts I'm GONNA. Eat the whole box donuts at one setting. That's why you'll see the before picture in the way it is and within two days literally of going one hundred percent plant based I had no pain in my hand at all and I thought okay, this is Kinda freaky. Let me see if it. Lasts I tried to for seven days. Gave it another seven days well, at the end of the second seven days I dropped about ten pounds without trying to lose weight and I'm like Oh my gosh this is amazing and I made a commitment to myself not to get on the scale day I made a commitment that once we would be yet because I wanted to see. Okay. Is this really going to help me healthwise will not only did I, start getting more energy I. was getting more focused I. was I tend to get anxiety at times like a lot of business owners. Do we have things that get US anxious? The anxiety has completely laughed I have no headaches I used to get headaches daily basis I'm going this is almost too good to be true it is true and I got one hundred percent. So for me it, that's what I need to do for me because I'm not one of those people I can buy toe in the water because. I just I'm so extreme or you the author of power up for profit isn't take your time for profits. It isn't Iran for profits. Plays. My joke about conscious million and focus. It's not conscious socialism. It's not conscious brewing. Poverty. Trenches conscious millionaire I guess I. Do believe if you're listening just in case you were wondering yes, I absolutely believe in I know I can help you if you want it want some help as well to get to that first million or even that next million. Kathleen let's give out that link again and then add yeah give that and then I'll tell you how you can find it on our website and keeps you happen to be driving or at the gym but what does that Lincoln? You Bet just remember path plant based eating for health. So it's all about your health plant based eating for health dot COM, and if you're driving and you can't get there, you always know that the l. for the show is conscious millionaire show dot com just scroll down. You'll see the title for the show born to be amazing click on it and it'll take you to the show and you'll have all the ways that you can get a load hold of Kathleen stay tuned. When we come back from the break, we get some goodies for you. Hi, this is Jamie, the third and Genetic Jackson Jr, completed the business accelerator formula program that's a live six week program that I do all the training. Chin now, thank you so much for taking your time to be here. Thank you for having me. Well, I want to let you know if you WANNA learn more about genetics. She works with African American moms help them create. Success plans go to MOM'S PLAN FOR SUCCESS DOT com. Genucel you were part of a tight-knit group what was it like being part of the group as you went through this life program? Well, we really became a family and I also feel like I have some added business partners as well because we are able to bounce off ideas, hove each other, and there really is a great support even outside the class. I know you went through a Lotta changes with your business. I'm so proud of you. What are some of the changes you made in your business by going through the business accelerator, my business change because I went from marketing to everyone who really narrowing it down to African American bombs because that's why I realized that are actually really wants to help though by making this conscious to help them out I was able to decide what did they need the most in that was a financial plan. Business accelerator formula really narrowed it down at helped me make the world a better place by targeting this one particular audience. If you'd like to learn more about the business accelerator formula program, it's a life program that I personally teach myself. It's for if you're in a startup, your your Fi- figure early six-figure, and you really WanNa double your impact and double your profits in the next six months. That's who it's designed for go to conscious millionaire dot com forward slash business accelerator. Again. That's conscious. MILLIONAIRE DOT COM forward slash business accelerator I look forward to you joining our group and being a member of the next business accelerator. Welcome back. It's the conscious mood our mentor Javy crumble third in my featured guest and good friend Kathleen Gauges join us today. She's an expert in strategic marketing. We've been discussing born to be amazing. She's been telling you all about her free book beginner's Guide to plant based eating, and now it's time for your twenty four hour challenge. I'm going to turn that over to Kathleen. Okay the two hundred dollars challenge I love this when you said, give give him a twenty four hour challenge. I challenged you in the next. Four hours to reach out to ten feet. But you've done business with in the past ten clients that maybe you haven't done business with them for a while and you haven't called them, you haven't talked to them. You haven't reached out reach out just to have a conversation don't reach out to sell them anything truly reach out and come from the stay. So I want to just let you know I'm thinking of you. You will be amazed at what happens when you do. That one is they know that you really care because business and I I know you teach this jv about being conscious millionaires is it really is about carry for your clients. It is about airing what happens to them, and so often we get so caught in the money aspect that we forget about the heart issues and it really is about heart to heart business and what's really amazing. When you can say to a client, I love working with you I. Love who? You are, and you're on the phone and you have such a great conversation and you as you're saying goodbye you say and I love you and they're going I love you too and you're like, this is so amazing because we were not taught to do business like this. So the challenge is call ten people you haven't talked to in a while I love that, and again we'll have that on the show notes at conscious millionaire show dot com I wanNA. Thank you for. Showing up today showing up for yourself because you know I'm glad that you're here with me and with Kathleen but I think you showed up because you're ready to take another step forward whether it's to make your first million or achieve your next million. We're here to support you every step of the way and I want to champion you and your beer your guy cheerleader here who say you can do it and I wanna Pacific thank all of our friends and family and Fans out in San. Francisco California and go to the other coast Atlanta Georgia. Thank you so much for being fans and friends of conscious were so happier in our community, and now it's time for the conscious millionaire coach questions first question Kathleen Wood or three coaching secrets that will help coaches make more money and grow their business. Oh, Craig Question The first thing I would say is learn how to market yourself and Even. If you hire someone to do your marketing, you should know about mark inning and be willing every single day to put your message out there. So that would be the first tip. The second tip is really again, it goes back to taking care of yourself because if you're not in in just fine for UPI served your client. So make sure that you're taking care of your health. The next thing is take care of. Your relationships, your personal relationships and your professional relationships because if you put everything into were and your relationships are suffering, it's not going to be worth it trust me I've been there. I've done that where everything was about work in all my relationships were suffering. So those would be my three tips on how to build your business. I love all of those and of course, taking care of yourself I want to give. You an opportunity, one more time because you might have just joining us her fast forty to this part to tell people about beginner's guide to plant based eating. So just tell people again where they can get that and why it's so important to see whether you convert completely right now about eighty percent plant based, you're one hundred percent but I can tell you making plant based majority of what you're eating changes your entire life. It really does and the book is all about my journey in a and it chronicles the first ninety days of going plan based and how how much better. I felt as a result of it and people can get it at plant based eating for health dot com. There's a link on the page and you can download it at no cost you but it literally will be worth. A fortune to your health and what is the book you'd like to recommend from another author? Okay. The the book I'd love to recommend it's a new one that just came out. It's by somebody you and I both are fans of and you know him personally Hal elrod and it's called Miracle Equate Ish it's a fabulous read. He's got a great formula in there for how you can really get on target with the things that you want to accomplish in life. And you can go to conscious millionaire's show dot com. How was recently on the show and scroll down and look for how elrod because actually did the show that came out the wiki launched the miracle equation you know in my book conscious millionaire Grow Your Business by making a difference I focused on what I call the new path for making your first million and you know what it doesn't start with the focus on money actually it starts with a focus on making a big impact and then turning that into big profits. What's the positive impact you're always wanting to make your clients Kathleen. The positive impact I wanna make is to inspire them to be their amazing self to really help them to understand. They're here for a reason and should do more of what they need to do. They have to have a successful business so it's really got inspiring them to their amazing self. How could listeners reach out to you and and get in touch with you? Personally. Well, the best way to reach out to me is actually go to my website power upper prophets, dot com, and I've got contact information there. You know I'm curious you are always moving forward doing exciting things playing bigger connecting with the world in a new way what's your next summit and what might be a challenge or obstacle you've got overcome to reach that new mountain peak? There's actually. Two Wind is getting my memoir done and I, and I have to tell you my memoir covers the period where I drank to excess I was one of those people they would not. So politely invite me to leave established to in because I just didn't know having an alcohol and so my memoir covers that in it's going to be somewhat shocking to some people when they read about. The experiences I went through, but that's what it took to get me to where I'm at today. So that's one summit that I'm I'm mud climbing and another one and I've been inspired by the likes of Hal elrod Brennan, Rashard Lisa Nichols. All the big ones is to actually present at a stadium with fifteen to twenty thousand people. That's my goal. That's what I see myself doing it and I've spoken to groups of thousand. Right never still can do a group of. Nelson very exciting to well, I feeling inspired folks because I gotta I gotTa say Kathleen I WanNa play with you because I've been visualizing recently speaking to ten thousand people right and I'm going wow when I when I heard you go fifteen or twenty ago man. I thought I was thinking, but I was thinking small. So I'm going to change that to twenty. Let's just. Go for twenty, and maybe we'll end up on the same stage because we'll find the same promoter. You know I'm curious you've done so many wonderful things like me. You've got another thirty forty years ahead of you because you're taking care of your health and you've got your horses, you've got your partner you've got a wonderful place where you live what's the legacy that you want to leave? You know the legacy. I WANNA leave in in I thought of this a lot lately because. Not, a day goes by something tragic doesn't happen in the world and you think, wow, these people their lives were taken from them instantly in how are people remembering them? What is their legacy? What I want my legacy to be is she played full out that she really went for the Gusto even if it was at the grocery store being kind to an elderly person but I gave one hundred percents that elementary personnel in the minute that I was there connecting with them. So that's what I want to be remembered for is that I gave it my all. Will Kathleen I. Think I know You well enough to say that you do give your all and I. Think more. Importantly you inspire other people as we've talked about today. To be amazing to give their all to play full out, is there a cause or nonprofit like quick shout out to? You know I would we have one here locally it's Emerald Valley equine assistance and. It's very small organization, but they do big things in in this area where they go out in literally rescued the courses that are abused their starved down there near death and they've done some amazing amazing work and my wife, and I were both involved in that organization Emerald Valley? Equal. Yes okay I WANNA. Thank you for joining us today. You're the reason I do the show. The conscious mooner podcast is really all about you helping entrepreneurs, business owners, coaches to step it up, make your first million or achieve your next million. 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The Miracle Equation: How to Move Your Biggest Goals from Possible to Probable to Inevitable with Hal Elrod

Entrepreneur on FIRE

44:58 min | 1 year ago

The Miracle Equation: How to Move Your Biggest Goals from Possible to Probable to Inevitable with Hal Elrod

"Shake the room fire nation J L D here with an audio masterclass with a dear friend of mine how Elrod of the miracle morning in today's audio masterclass is going to be the miracle question. The to decision 's that move your biggest goals from possible probable to inevitable in. We're gonna be dropping value bombs all episode long fire nation. So who's how will he's impacted millions of lives through his books, and he is on a mission to elevate the consciousness of humanity. He's here today to talk about his new book the miracle question, and of course, drive value bombs unmoving your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable. You're not gonna wanna miss his fire nation. So we will kick right in when we get back from thinking, our sponsor, growing your e commerce business starts with creating meaningful. Customer relationships. To learn how cleave use marketing automation software can help you build a high value customer relationships intimate more money for your. Business. Visit Clavijo dot com slash fire. That's K L. A V I y dot com slash fire. How what's up to fire nation? And sure something interesting about yourself that most people don't know fire nation. What's going on is back? I am. And I'm I'm a huge fan, and friend of jail D, And and therefore fire nation and something that a lot don't know about me. Is that growing up? I was. Bullied is part of it. But I was I never quite felt like one of the cool kids. And what what I've realized in the last few months. This is actually not only do most people not know jail. David. I didn't know this about myself for the first thirty nine years my life until a few months ago, and basically realized that I think a lot of us. This is true. But I I'm in my brain, my sub-conscious, I'm still living from this place of being this this kid this high school student trying to fit in wanting to be liked by other people, and and what it carries all sorts of fears and insecurities. Around engaging with people that I'm trying to connect with you know, and and I think well, I'll share the lesson out of this. But but part of the journey for all of us. Right. Is that you know, who we who we have been our entire lives doesn't have to confine us nor define us. And we can choose to become anyone anything. Right. Any beliefs that we want to embody. We can we can take on. And for me, I do that through daily formation. So I have a whole process where every night, I do my miracle evening, and I reflect and I write down breakthroughs like what what are some the limiting beliefs that I'm still carrying with me. And I do this around money in my marriage, and my kids, and my fitness every area of my life. What every night, I'm asking what are the limitations? I'm still sticking to and then journal that and then in the morning, reread them, revisit them, and then form it into an affirmation. So I can read it over and over and recondition my mind. So yes, a lot of people don't realize that you know, that these fears and insecurities, and I think that. Many of us myself included, the world's most successful people. They appear on their podcast or on television. Like, they appear like they're so confident they're so poised there so well-spoken they've got it all figured out. And I think it's valuable I realize that a as human beings, we all before a celebrity goes on the today show. There's still probably nervous, right? What if they mess up? What if they don't get the message across what if they don't promote their new movie, the right way, and to realize that our fears, and our insecurities we share as human beings, but we do not and should not allow our fears and insecurities to determine what we do or don't do. So goes back to build outage feel the fear and do it anyway. So there's a long answer to your question. We'll fire nation. You can tell this episode is going to be straight fire. I mean, how our can't not help just delivering incredible value with basically every other word that comes out of his mouth and sometimes every single word. And if you recognizing his voice, well doesn't really shock me. Because he's everywhere. He runs conferences. He has you know, the miracle morning and a ton of other books and things that he's doing right now. And of course, you know, we talked about the miracle quesion in the introduction, which will be diving more into. But he was also an episode five eighty nine in episode eleven seventy six and now how we are well past episode twenty one hundred on entrepreneurs on fire. So it's been over a thousand episodes. It was about tile, we got you back on my man. I'm glad to have you back. It's great to hear your voice to have conversations with you because we're gonna be talking about the miracle equation. The two decisions that move your biggest goals for possible fire nation to probable to inevitable so excited for this conversation all the way through but how let's start the core. You learned an incredibly valuable lesson from not just one but two near death experiences. So break those down for fire nation. Yeah. I mean big lesson. Always we're going to dive into the more tangible, practical. Applicable lessons. But I think that it starts from the, you know, the thirty thousand foot view and the lesson. I learned is that every single one of us has the ability to create tangible measurable miracles in our lives and going back to my first near death experience. I was twenty years old. I was driving home from given a speech at a conference, and I was hit head on by a drunk driver at seventy miles an hour. I being my my Ford Mustang was hit head on by full-sized Chevy truck, going seventy to eighty miles an hour on the freeway I bounced off the drunk driver in another car crashed into my driver's side door at seventy miles an hour and smashed my car into my body and broke eleven bones. I died for six minutes in a coma for six days. And when it came out of the coma I was faced with the most unimaginable reality. I mean, if you're listening, right? You can imagine like you wake up, and you're like, why am I in this hospital? What happened why am I pain? What they're go. You have eleven broken bones you permanent brain damage. You're probably never going to walk again. You'll be in a wheelchair for. The rest of your life. Right. And it any age that that's not easy to here at age twenty. I'm thinking I got a lot of goals that involved walking again right anytime in life. We're faced with whether it's a challenge or an opportunity, right? Those are the those are the defining moments. The moments of decision. How will I respond to this challenge overcome? It is it going to beat me. I'm going to let it discourage me is going to make me stronger. Right. So so so you can kind of separate in life. There's challenges and there's opportunities, and then we're faced with an opportunity, which the beauty of it is every day we wake up, and this is where we're going to this episode will end up is like when you wake up, right? That is. That's that's life's greatest gift. It's it's an opportunity for you to have to be to create in the thing that you want for your life, and yet most of us wake up and everyday life stays pretty much the same right JD. Right. We we go through the motions. And we go to work, and we go home, and we watch the same. Netflix shows just like life stays the same. And I really wanna. Challenge. You by the end of the episode today. My challenge my opportunity, I'm gonna challenge with is is getting really clear on. What is the most extraordinary life? You can imagine look like like what what do you really want for your life and through the course of our masterclass today. We're going to figure out what's holding you back from that. And what a decision that you need to make by the end of today. Right. I mean, thirty minutes from now that will radically transform how you show up and how you approach and how you account what you accomplish in your life. So, but the biggest lesson is that we all that ability to create tangible measure miracles in our lives and. Win. I took my first step three weeks later applying the two decisions that we're gonna talk about today that make up the miracle question. But I took my first step three weeks later. I went on to run an ultra marathon, even though they never walk again. Right. All of these things and in two years ago is diagnosed with really rare and aggressive form of leukemia. I was given a thirty percent chance of surviving which I say now, it's kind of a joke. But seriously, if you're if you're a pessimist that's a seventy percent chance you're going to die. Right. And if I have a wife two small kids not that that makes dying any worse for me than somebody else. But for me, personally, like leaving my wife and kids behind was was the most terrifying thing in my life. I actually I could die, and I could be a piece that I could be okay with it. But, but that, you know, the impact that would have on my family was and is that that's kind of my my worst nightmare. If you will. And when I was given a thirty percent chance of living. I had to go back into my toolkit, ROY. Right. I mean, you can imagine if you're diagnosed with cancer, given a thirty percent chance to live you go back, and you go get your your brain starts scanning. Like how in that? What do I do? What do I do? Right. Am I going to how am I going to beat this? And this thing called the miracle question that I created when I was twenty years old to break a sales record go more into the details. But. That was how I defied the odds. It was something that I had taught to other people and it worked for every single one of them. I had studied the world's most successful people in all walks of life and found these two decisions were common for all of them. And I almost immediately. I mean, it was the day that I was diagnosed with cancer. I went the way that I'm going to turn this thirty percent chance of surviving into a one hundred percent chance of surviving is through this this miracle quesion into same thing that allowed me to walk again. And it's the same thing that allowed me to sell a million miracle morning copies. I mean, anything that people have done. It's really extrordinary. You find that? There's there's a there's these common themes these common decisions that they make and doubt. And then I'm grateful to say, I'm now cancer free. And and it just shown that no matter what you're going through in your life. No matter where you are if you're succeeding beyond your wildest dreams. Or if you're not if you're if you're struggling right now to find your way, we all have the ability to. Create these tangible measurable miracles all define what a miracle. Here is in in a few minutes. We'll get into that. But, but, but it it starts with you in realizing deciding like, I am being empowered right that you are in control of your life and your destiny and drawing your line in the sand and saying all right? This is what I want and I'm going to figure out how to get there. So fire nation is how mentioned we are going to redefine that word miracle. But it's just important version. Foremost realize you can create tangible measurable miracles in your life. Now before we do dive into that. Listen conferences are great. I mean, I go to conferences every single year. I love speaking at conferences. I just got back from one in Orlando, and I've been to your conference how best year ever in San Diego conferences are fun personal development is fun. It's awesome. But at the same time, I know you, and I want to drop some truth bombs on fire nation, that's personal development, actually deluded. Us into thinking, we're making progress, and there's people that go to the same conferences or listen to the same exact personal development shows or whatever that might be in. They kind of checked a block like, okay, I'm moving forward. I'm making progress. But sometimes it's just not reality break this down for us personal development. I will say before I before I tear it up here. It is. It is a foundational part of my life. Like, it is it's arguably it's one of if not the most important components of my life. So I want to start by saying that here's the problem. In fact, we'll let me say this the miracle morning ride that my that's the book. I'm best known for that is a daily personal development practice. Right. That's what it is. And it's changed millions of lives around the world. And but crux of that the the philosophy is the idea that what who you're becoming is far more important than what you're doing. Right. So if you just keep doing the same, you know, for example, if you're in sales, and you're just making calls every day. But you're not developing yourself. Well, then you're not gonna get any better results aren't going to improve. But if you're learning in your growing in your volving in any area of your life, your finances any area as you become more you achieve more, and you do it easier and easier and easier and easier and easier. So the idea is personal development is the foundation for you to dedicate time each and every day to become the person that you need to be with the knowledge, the qualities the skills. The mindset the characteristics the habits you name it that will enable you to achieve everything you want for your life. So that's the that's the good part of personal development. The problem is we can become what I call personal development junkies. Which is where you get into personal domain ruled maybe read your first personal development book. And you're like, oh my gosh. This is amazing. I've never I've why didn't anyone tell me all this before? Right. Like, no, no, one told me all this. And what happens is this is the problem is we end up mistakenly thinking that personal development in and of itself is enough is making progress, and it's not here. Here's some real kind of commonsense examples reading a book on getting healthy does not make you healthy. Right. Reading a book on, you know, getting wealthy does not make you wealthy. But I've fallen prey to this by the way, please know that I'm not like pointing a finger. It's important of your anywhere. It's back at me in the past. I was very guilty of this where you feel like every new morsel of wisdom, tucked safely inside your brain is somehow improving things for you. And while. Yes. Internally in your work. You can be happier and more emotionally intelligent, and all of these all of the things that you can get from learning and growing. However, you can be the most personally developed person on the planet and then do nothing, right. Meaning that you still shy away from your. Goals and dreams because you still allow your fear or your self doubt, or your lack of clarity or whatever it is to prevent you from moving forward. So you could you could be the most knowledgeable person on health, but you're not going to the gym. You haven't improved your diet? And therefore, you're not gonna looney longer rental those books. Same thing with money, right or any area of life. So we have to be really careful that we don't fall prey to being a personal don't junkie, and we actually have to have. Here's a way to look at it. You've got to have a process I practice for personal development. Right. That's what the miracle morning was. But then you have to have a process for goal achievement. So you got a follow up that process for purser that practice for personal development with a process for goal achievement. That's how you take all that personal development that you've been doing, you know, in the morning or late at night, or whatever. And then as my old coach used to say, this is where the rubber meets the road. This were actually you turn it into tangible measurable results. So that your life actually, improves not just your brain or the internal component improving fire nation. It's so key that you are really heating. These words you must have a practice for personal development house, not bashing it in general, I'm not bashing in general over saying is you can't stop there. You can't just read a book about going to the gym or read a book about getting more wealthy or read a book about extra wires e you have to have a process emplaced to accomplish real tangible and measurable results. If you have those two steps, then you win if you stop a step one, which is going to conference getting really motivated than coming home, and nothing changes or sitting down and reading a book and loving all the content within it. But then hey, you re profit I Mike McCallum. That's all I get it. I need a profit. I. But then you don't do any of the things in the book, you're not actually going to profit version going to improve your financial situation. So that is a key point here you need to have step two. To that process to accomplish real tangible measurable results period end of story. So how love how you clarified that? I can't agree more redefining the word miracle. We talked about it a couple of minutes ago. Let's talk about how you've redefined that word in a way that gives us fire nation the ability to make miracles which a lot of people are like miracles don't happen to anybody or definitely not to me bullets make them tangible and measurable up. Really? Well, right there, which is miracles. Don't happen to me. Right. The miracles. It's first of all a loaded word. It's very loaded word writing. There's people define it. You probably a lot of different definitions. Some would be very religious based right like parting of the Red Sea and turning water into wine that's type miracle that I'm talking about the other the other reason that I think miracles have about wrap is because they're thought of as random as you kind of alluded to right there these random passive AXA results. And you know, you pray for them or you, wait. For Maria hope for them, or you know, they're like winning the lottery and the odds of it happening to you aren't very good. So because of that, they're not very reliable. Right. They're not trustworthy. I'm not going to bet on the word miracle, right? If like, if it's something I've gotta passively hope with my fingers crossed and that it's going to happen. So for me, and it's a word. I mean, so the language that we use is really important in the context around that language is really important. And so the way that I define the word miracle, and if you want to write this down here, you go any outcome that is beyond the realm of what you believe is probable for you say that again, a miracle is any outcome that is beyond the realm of what you believe is probable for you. Now, notice I said probable not possible. And the reason is if you are if you're into personal development, or if you're an optimist you believe in the opt. Credo that anything is possible yet possible is rarely enough to get us out of bed in the morning with the drive and the motivation, and the clarity that we need to tackle our biggest goals and dreams and JD think about ten of rhetorical question. But I mean, you can really give it a little answer here. Which is how often do people actually pursue that which they don't believe is likely to happen. This doesn't happen. They don't even start. They don't even start. We want some sort of guarantee, and if you actually stop this is a really profound realization, I think for most of us most of us, the reason we just keep doing the same things over and over and over again is because there's a guarantee, and we have this this need for certainty where we go. Well, there's a guarantee if I know that if I wake up today at this time, and I show up to work at this time, and I work until this time. And then I go home, I know that a paycheck will show up for this amount in two weeks, and that gives me a sense of security rate. However, I would say for most of us, right? We have deep down. There is an. Eight drive and desire that we all share to actualize our potential to create a life an extraordinary life of freedom. And when we when we live within this small context of just keeping things as they are because it feels safe. We keep ourselves right away from miracles and so a miracle being that it's any outcome. That's beyond the realm of what you believe is probable for you. You have to realize that. And that's why it feels like a miracle, by the way when you cheat it right because that's why you call it a miracle because you're like, oh my God. I didn't think that was likely to happen. But I worked hard. I gave it everything I had and it actually came to it came. I can't believe it. And that's the experience that I want for you fire nation is to start getting clear on what is what are your biggest goals and dreams, and your, you know, your tangible measurable miracles that when you accomplish them, you will literally stand at the foot your bed opened up your arms to the side, right wide. And then fallback like you're falling on a cloud. Right. Inter classical spiritual music, but you're you're in disbelief, you're in disbelief that you even accomplished it in that is something that if you think about it, the world's most successful people in all walks of life. The most prolific creators achievers. Innovators. That's how they live. They just I'm sure when Yvonne must first test off the line. He was like, oh my gosh. I had a vision a dream. It was beyond the realm of not only would I ever done before. But beyond the realm of what any human never done before. No one ever done it. Right. And this is true for anyone again any walk of life. I want it to be be true for you. So that's how I wanted to find redefined a miracle is so that it this is something that is cannibal measurable and actionable for you, not some random passback that you hope happens, but something that you can put down in writing you can clarify, and then you can figure out your plan your strategy. And I think we'll go into that next year on what is the miracle. Quesion? Okay. How stop teasing us. How do you apply? This. What is it? How do you apply? It and we can go into that. Let's define the word miracle the right way fire nation any outcome that is beyond the realm of what you believe is probable for. You think about those words just resale those words. Yourself over and over again because that's going to redefine how miracles are looked at through your eyes. And let's be honest as humans, we have this need this desire this want for certainty fire nation all hauled. The magic happens outside of certainty outside of your comfort zone. You need to get their entre nous on fire way outside of certainty way us out of my comfort zone miracle morning. Same thing for how? But guess what we went outside of certainty, and we got uncomfortable. And that's the magic happens in like how was teasing the miracle. Quesion? We're gonna be breaking this down for you. As soon as we get back from thinking, our sponsor, building, real quality customer relationships isn't easy. But it's necessary to succeed. Great news is clearly Okan help you grow your business faster. Not only do you get automation that helps you engage your customers through Email, Facebook and Instagram. You also unlock powerful segmentation, enabling you to customize the marketing messages use sent so. So how does Clave you do it? First Cleo helps get you up and running fast with prebuilt integrations step-by-step implementation guys in expert on boarding support. 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So this began very organically. Right. And it's interesting. This is this book is kind of fault the miracle question really the follow up to the miracle morning because we we talked about earlier, you know, you've got your process for personal development. Great. All right. I'm learning. I'm growing I'm becoming better. But okay. Well, how do I take all this personal development and TRAN transform it into some real tangible measurable results on? So even though it follows it it follow the miracle question really follows the miracle morning compliments in it in terms of chronology of when I came up with this. It was preceded about six years before the miracle morning. So I was in sales, and I was trying to break a company record. I was trying to end without in context. I was trying to sell more in a ten day period than anyone in the fifty or history of the company I work for had ever sold before. So not only did I look in. My rear view mirror and check my I had no evidence that I could do it. There was no evidence. It could be done. Right. The format mile kind of thing. And I asked myself I thought this was like a miracle. If I were to pull this off man, this would be this would be something. I don't even know how if I can do this. I was terrified it was beyond anything I've ever done before. And I asked myself how would if I kind of reverse engineered it as they call that. And I said if if let's fast forward ten days from now, if I were to have everything went, I somehow pulled this off what would have had to have happened right now before I even started it was like three days before I said, what would I have to do right now think do say what would have to do? And then what would I have to do throughout the ten days to make that miracle happen? And I broke it down to two decisions and these decisions if you think about the personal development world or self-help world, either one you can call it that we are fed. There are hundreds of reasons that we're told that we're not where we want to be like hundreds of. Areas that we need to improve right? Meaning. Oh, it's productivity you need. If you master productivity, then you'll get more done. And you everything you want for your life. You're like all right. I gotta read a book comfort activity, right? And they're like, no, no, no. We've done the research. It's your it's your it's your emotional intelligence. It's more effect more important than your I q. And here's why here's how this applies to every relationship you have in your life. And it's important. You told it's productivity beliefs we need formations. It's morning routine. And there's so many it's overwhelming. There's so many things that we need to somehow figure out or learn or master to improve our lives, and I realized that we can break it down to these to these two decisions and in. I'm about to say what they are. But the these decisions are deceptively simple in their explanation and extremely rare in their execution and what you'll find once. I started studying the world's most successful individuals. I realize oh, yes, they're all still trying to improve their emotional intelligence and they're trying to improve their productivity. And they're instilling the beliefs they need and they're working on their habits and their leadership ability all of these thing. Yeah, they're working on all that stuff. But these are the two fundamental decisions that without these two decisions nothing else matters. And none of the success that they've accomplished would be possible with these two decisions. Everything else is just icing on the cake. The first decision unwavering faith the second decision extraordinary effort. Like, I said at first glance at I mention these are very, you know, it's like, okay. Okay. So I have faith that I could do it. And then I put forth the effort got it checked like that's not there's there's not a depth there. Where do I go? How do I apply that? So think about this anyone who has ever accomplished something great. In any area of life. It began by them establishing the faith that they could do something beyond what they had ever done before. And in some cases, with his tesla is beyond what no one had ever done it before known made an electric car before. Right. So sometimes it's something they had never done before. But maybe there's evidence from other that they can point to learn from but often it's never been done in the history of the world, right? Which is how innovation happens so in order to achieve something great in your life. He miracle. It begins by establishing the faith that you can do something you've never done before. And here's the problem that is counter to our human nature because human nature is to check the rear view mirror and look at our past and go, well, where do I see evidence of what's possible for me, and you go. Okay. Well, I guess I can do that. I can do that. I can do that. That's about all I can do great. I'll keep doing that. Maybe I'll increase it a little ten percent more. But but rarely do we look at what is ultimately possible for us. And so the first decision of establishing unwavering faith that. Where it begins. But it really gets a little more challenging, and we're really matters is maintaining that faith until and that word until circle it underlying three times because most of us like if you're optimist club, you can establish faith because it's called uninformed optimism. Right. Which is like, oh, I I listen to Tony Robbins. And I so I know I can do anything. I can do anything. Right. But then you start on the path to do whatever that anything is. And then it doesn't go the way you plan, which very rarely does it ever go the way you planned it takes longer than you thought. You hit a roadblock? You hit you hit you hit a brick wall. Right. And the faith that you launched out with it starts to waver and wants the faith wavers. Right. Once you stop believing something as possible for you that tends to be where you know, you just stop. And in a lot of us are great starters. But we're not great finishers. And I love that quote. It takes ten years to be an overnight success in the question becomes what are you willing to maintain unwavering? Faith that you can accomplish for ten years or as long as it takes. Maybe we'll get it done in one or two or three or four whatever the timeline is arbitrary. But the decision that you will establish in writing unwavering faith that you can do something that is deeply meaningful to you and your life could be financial freedom. It could be being great father, a great husband, or whatever it is for you. Establishing the faith that you can do it. And then maintaining making a decision that you will maintain that faith until that outcome is real and it is tangible in your world. So the first decision is wavering faith, and we can unpack that as much as you want. And in the second decision being extrordinary effort all just say this about extraordinary effort for most of us myself included, like I've been lazy my whole life. In fact, I still have my density is still pretty much a lazy person because I don't feel like doing a lot of stuff. I feel like just taking it easy. And watching Netflix. Right. So how is it the accomplish a lot? And it's that I make extraordinary effort as ordinary as possible, and what makes extrordinary effort. What makes effort extraordinary isn't about grinding and hustling and work in eighty hours a week. Right. It's not about sacrificing your health and your relationships. So you can achieve your business goals and dreams that's not what makes efforts stored near. That's actually, that's just not. That's not ideal effort. It's not affective effort extraordinary effort is really about consistency. So for me. It's okay. Every result. We want to accomplish in our lives is preceded by a process, and that process is what produces the result. Everybody wants the result. Very few people are ready to commit to that process. Or even know what it is don't even take the time to define it. So if you realize, so for example, if you want to build muscle without would probably in require a process of of resistance training, combined with increasing your caloric intake. So that you could add muscle onto your frame onto your body. Right. Simple. So every result is preceded by a process for me extrordinary effort to make it ordinary. It's just a finding what is my process. What is the recurring process that I can do daily or weekly that will virtually guarantee that eventually inevitably achieve that result might not happen. I don't know how long it'll take me longer than they think and one quick example, John is that for me when I was in sales. I had my best sales you're ever one year, and it was a total pain. It was something that took a lot of work to dedication commitment. And then the next year I thought man, I should what am I want to do this year? And I just had this long story. We'll go into but I just had a moment of inspiration due to some some things that happened in my world. And I went what if I doubled. What would it take to double? I just had one of the best years in the history of our company. What it looked like to not just increase that by ten percent or tw-? Twenty percent or even fifty percent. What would it take to increase it by one hundred percent? Doubling my income from one year to the next. It was a terrifying goal. And I simply broke it down to my process. I went okay. In order for me to have my best year ever. It took me X amount of phone calls to prospects each day five days a week. All I have to do is double that process. And it would double the result. And that was a really low stress way because the result. Doubling the results scared me but going for making twenty phone calls a day, which took me about an hour to forty phone calls today, which would take me two hours. That's an extra hour of work to double my income. So in the book, you know, in the miracle question book, we give all these examples and framework how you break. How do you make your extraordinary effort feel ordinary? How do you define a recurring process that if you commit to it, everyday only take thirty minutes or sixty minutes, but it will move your biggest goals and dreams from possible, which is neck. Next to useless right to probable, which. Now, we're getting somewhere to inevitable, which is where you'll find your miracles. Love this quote, fire nation to double the outcome. You double the process and doubling the process, it's so much more mentally manageable for so many people just double that process. Go from twenty calls to forty calls or fill in the blank for what you do every single day. But again, what step one have unawavering faith step to put in extraordinary efforts in fire nation. Stop checking your life's rear view mirror is not doing you any good period end of story. And how I love the shared that. You're kind of lazy because story I'm kinda lazy too. I spent an amazing day. This is like two days ago, just on my hammock reading the book Alaska by James Michener's, an amazing book, and I was just in the hammock all day. I kept being like, okay after ten more pages. I'm gonna get up and do some work. Nope. All day laser. Around and I loved it and fire nation, I know how to sit down and work hard. But I also know how to be lazy really hard as well. So that's key to know. And we all need to be Gary bainer check we all need going from morning until midnight every single day. And guess what? Good for Gary because he's doing what he wants in love in his great doing. And I love that. He's he's living that truth house leading his truth. I living my truth. And that's you need to figure out fire nation, which you're true truth. Now, one thing that kinda surprised me when we were talking about what what we chat about today was the fact you mentioned, you know, hey, John, sometimes people seem to be more entitled, and I was like you're gonna have to expound upon that. But don't do it. Now. Let's wait for the interview. So here we are how it was kind of wrap up this whole conversation today about why we need to be more entitled as human beings. So entitlement is a another loaded word, right? It's usually Nikki word for people at represents. You know, we've you it is like someone who believes they deserve something that they're done nothing to earn. Right. Some sort of special privilege, or or resource and a sense of comments often linked to narcissism or arrogance and. The. But here's the thing. I so I call this in lightened, entitlement. And there's a big difference between entitlement as most people think of it and enlightening Todman. Actually, there's one way I frame, it is there's misdirected entitlement. And then in line and tell them, and here's what I mean. So we all want to be more successful in our lives. But my question is what level of success? Do you believe that you deserve? And I don't mean in your head, right? Because there's our head answer. Which is why I believe I deserve whatever I want. But no, no in your core. Like in your in your being, what do you really believe you deserve because we pursued that which we believe we deserve. We produced out which we believe we deserve deeply deserve. And for most of us. We don't believe we deserve much more than we have or much more than those around us. Have we tend to look at our lives. It's that review MIR syndrome, right? You check the river. And you're like, well, what's what's my life? Look like based on the past. Well, that's what it looks like. So I guess that's what I deserve where you look around. You see the people that you associate yourself with. That's why the Jim Rome quote. The philosophy of you are the five people you spend most time with this so crucial because it's probably most under under utilized quote in terms of actually acting on it. We tend to we hear that. We're like, yeah. That's important. I should have be surrounded by great people. But then we don't do anything to change who were surrounded by. So anyway, this idea misdirected entitlement is it's really laziness masquerading as a sense of deserve nece. We tell ourselves deserved eat this cookie because I've been pretty good about my eating or I deserved a buy this thing. I don't really need. I've been pretty good about me spending lately or deserved to miss the gym. I've been pretty good at working out. We often do that. And we harmful to us because this kind of behavior reinforces mediocrity. We treat ourselves to being a pro for being pretty good. But pretty good isn't great definitely doesn't get us closer to miraculous results, but we're just as worthy deserving capable as any other person on earth. And you're Li every great accomplishment began. With an individual believing that here, she is deserving worthy incapable of putting forth the effort to accomplish it. And that they deserve the the success that's gonna come and that kind of entitlement to healthy prerequisite. So for me, it's an affirmation encourage you to take this and making your own affirmation. But it's just something along the lines of mine says I am just as worthy deserving and capable of cheating. Everything I want in my life as any other person on earth, and then I'll take that formation on modify it for specific results. I like right now, I have a new book coming out, obviously the miracle. Question comes out today. And I've got an affirmation says I am just as worthy deserving capable of reaching millions of people with the miracle question as any other author on earth, and that belief that feeling of enlightened entitlement is. What will give me the drive to? Okay. I'm gonna get up today and do the things put forth the extraordinary effort to achieve this. Because I truly believe that I am worthy. And that I deserve it. And that. Capable. Meaning if I continue to maintain unwavering faith and put forth extraordinary effort towards this outcome this miracle. It is inevitable that I will eventually reach the people, but my experience with the miracle morning that my mission was to change one million lives one morning at a time. And it took me six years of non-stop promotion to reach over a million people with that book. And now, it's the mission is bigger. It's like the guy reached a million people. Now, what do I do? Now. It's to elevate the consciousness of humanity, which will feed into your extraordinary effort, and it becomes a feedback loop because the more effort, you put forth, the more you feel you deserve it which fuels your faith. And then that feeds and round and round you go and the miracle. Question becomes not just a one time decision that you make but a fundamental way of living a Lynn's through which you've every aspect of your life. And then enables you to become what I called in the book a miracle maven, which is someone who consistently creates tangible measurable miracles in any or every era. Of your life fire nation. There's so much of this that I'm in love with. But the one thing I wanna pull out where Jalan I are on the exact same level is that Jim Rome, quote, you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with fire nation. You know, if you listen to this podcast, I end every single episode with that quote to inspire action by you to actually make that change. Because like how set and is so true. You hear it? You know, you nod your head, but they just keep hanging out with the same people. And you never looked to upgrade the quality of people. You're spending your time with you have to do that fire nation at Sochi. And of course, all other value bombs that how does dropped I want you to make sure you're absorbing every single one. And of course, the best way to do just that would be actually pick up his book and read it in make sure you're consuming all these great things that he has in that book for you the miracle acquaintance. So how bring it home force, brother? Give us the one key. Takeaway, you wanna make sure our listeners get from our entire conversation today where and how we can pick up your. Book the miracle occasion. And then we'll say goodbye, absolutely, brother. Here's what I would like you to do. You've got to put this in writing. The takeaway is put this in writing. And it is go right down, your what I call your miracle mantra, this is how you establish and maintain unwavering faith, and it's very simple. It is. I am committed to give it everything. I have to blink right and blinking, whatever. Your goal is whatever your miracle is that you've defined. I am committed to giving it everything. I have no matter what there is no other option, and what we focus on expands, and our self-doubt tends to become something that we focus on. And then did expands every time. You feel fear or self doubt, you place it with your mantra. I am committed to giving it everything I have to achieve blink result. No matter what there is no other option. I literally when I had cancer. I said that thousands of times I read it every single day. It was my mantra over and over and over and over and over and when I had the fear of dying. And leaving my children without a father and my wife without a husband doubt. Mantra is what kept me moving forward and kept continued to fuel the faith that I was gonna live long beyond what the doctors were telling me that I was gonna live and the second part extrordinary effort get really clear, what is the recurring process for you. That will move your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable. And if you don't know that yet if you're like, well, it's a new goal. I want to read a book or I wanna run. I'd never done it before. So I don't know the process yet your process begins by scheduling time to figure out your process rights to schedule an hour a day or thirty minutes a day or an hour a week, whatever it is until you figure out that process, but put it put it in your schedule. Now time to read that mantra and time to put forth that extrordinary effort through the form of recurring process. And I'm excited to see the miracles that you create and where to get the book. Here's a cool thing. Number one. Is you can buy it everywhere. This is my first actually traditionally published book all the other twelve books ever Intersil published. This when you can get anywhere books are sold. But here's the cool part on John told you this. I'm doing huge launch bonus. Love the book today. And if you do you'll get over twelve hundred dollars in brand new relevant bonuses. In fact, they're still there. So new I haven't created all of them yet. I'm working on medium. But that includes a live six week course on how to create tangible measurable miracles that starts in about a week. And all you do is you get the book anywhere books are sold. Forward. Your receipt to miracle equation at g mail dot com. Miracle quesion Jimoh dot com. Forward your seat, and you'll get signed up for these six week course live course with me, you'll get a miracle quesion guided meditation, and you'll also get a miracle quesion one page printable implementation guide that sums up the entire book on one front and back sheet that you can review every day to keep it top of mine finish in there. You have it and how I just want to say thank you for being here today. Because like I said fire nation, you're the average of those five people you spend the most time with and who've been hanging out with today, how Elrod jail de so keep up the heat just go find three more call people in your average is pretty cool today. So as always head over to fire dot com, if you type how in the search bar, you can see the show notes for this, and we'll have links to everything the Email to to send the rec- to and all the other jazz all the links you need from this episode. And of course, you can check out his last two five eighty nine and eleven eighty six which were years in years ago. So a lot of changes things those are very relevant in awesome episodes for what was going on. And how's life back then so be really cool to listen to and hell again, I want to say thank you for sharing your truth, your value bombs with fire nation today for that we salute you, and we will catch you on the flip side. Hey, fire nation. Today's value bombs were dropped by Hal Elrod. And if you are ready to discover your big idea and just an hour. I've created a free course. And it's an amazing system. That's going to get you to your big idea, then the sky's the limit. And the best part it is completely free. So visit your big idea. 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BTM141: The 5am Club

Before the Millions

26:27 min | 10 months ago

BTM141: The 5am Club

"I heard a man's say that he needed to lose weight before he could start running. Well I thought that was odd. That's like a writer who writes for inspiration behind the book or a manager who writes for promotion to begin to lead his field or startup. That waits for full funding before launching disruptive product. I'm Robin Sharma the five am club. Are you ready to be the master architect of your life. Are you ready to design your business. And invested invested needs. That create. The lifestyle always dreamt up to. Are you ready to learn from entrepreneurs and millionaires who have achieved a certain level of success. Hey this is derek location. Asian independent entrepreneur. And you're listening to the before the millions podcast. I am Gina Lofton. I am an investor. And you're listening to the before the millions podcast stay there. My name is heather. Haven would marketing coach and global entrepreneur. And you are listening to the before the millions podcast. Hey this is Marcus crispy host of of the seven minute mental podcast global entrepreneur all round Geek and you listening to the before the millions podcasts. I am MC lobster the cash linenger and you're listening to before the millions cost. You're listening to the before the millions podcast or whether you're looking to invest we're cash flow or built an online business is that allows you to be location independent. You come to the right place. Mr Hollywood himself presents the before the millions podcast and now your host. What is going on but people welcome to the before the millions podcast guys? I'm currently recording this podcast episode at twelve o one. PM in the afternoon January first. Twenty twenty welcome to the New Year. Welcome to your year of clarity of twenty twenty clarity I wanNA talk about two things that are really propel propel your prosperity here in this year here in this new decade to things that if you do and if you do meticulously well your results we'll be out of this world your business. Your Life will change forever these habits that I'm getting ready to discuss with your habits that you have to work on Tom. Honestly for the rest of your life. You just don't perfect these things. It's a continuous growing process. Day After Day week after week month aftermath. But I guarantee you that if you just try these two habits for the next ninety days ninety days to brand new habit starting January first I or whenever you're hearing my voice listen to this podcast. The next ninety days commit to these two habits and your results will most. Oh slightly make you commit to these two habits much longer than ninety days habit number want own your morning elevate your life. This is a quote taken out of the five. Am Club which is a book written by Robin Shurmur. Robin is also the author. Uh of the monk who sold his Ferrari how this quote on your morning elevate your life is stated at least fifteen twenty times inside of the book Robbins. Fear is that if you wake up for everybody else if you wake up at five. Am and you dedicate one hour to for yourself just doing that alone will have significant impacts in your daily life in Your Business and your health and your wealth calls it the victory our and last year when our at this book I think I I I read this book back in April or May of twenty nineteen and I had already had a steady morning routine had read the Miracle Morning by Hal elrod and and I believe the structure that I was following for a power hour per se was called the savers. Pray you meditate. You visualize your journal all that good stuff. Robbins approach is very similar. There aren't there aren't five or six different things. There's three different things. So there's three twenty minute segments that you're going to dedicate to to yourself. One is in the area physical fitness a quick workout. Another is in the area of knowledge. Learning picking up something new and a last asked is in the area of reflection and gratitude and being present in the moment and just doing those three things every single morning at five am can radically medically change your life. I mean I experience it every single day when I wake up the feeling of knowing that I am one of the few it just feels like. Obviously you're not the feeling of the feeling of just being one of the few people up getting your day started hours before people are waking up. Its second to none and you feel so much more prepared. You feel so much more head of your game. Studies show that what by waking up early by waking up at five. Am Your productivity throughout the day rises drew gratefulness throughout today rises calmness throughout the day rises. You give yourself a chance to reflect and prepare on the day ahead of you and your victories throughout throughout the day rise so I've been implementing this for the better part of a year and yes. I've had struggle moments I've had weeks and sometimes even months where I've fell off the bandwagon and I and I just couldn't bring myself to wake up at five. Am but over this past month over the past month of December. I've gotten back into my routine. I know what type of your her I want. Twenty twenty two. I didn't WanNa wait till January to start quote unquote a New Year's resolution. I wanted to build this inside of my lifestyle so that keeps going you. You know. I started in December so that once January first today came. It's just a natural process. I don't even think twice about it so again. That's the first thing that I want you to just commit to for the next ninety days is you can call it a miracle morning you could call it a victory our but make sure that you wake up at five. Am Make sure that you get that first. Our point number two thing being number two that will make you prosperous guaranteed in twenty twenty small daily seemingly insignificant improvements improvements when dent consistently over time yield staggering results. That quote comes from Robin Sharma as well. This this reminds me of a book. I just got done reading again for the second time atomic habits and doing something even if it's just a little little bit but you can get done that they were doing something every single day consistently as small as it may be that compound in effect is astronomical uncle so this is another practice. I've really really taken to heart. And I hope that you will too because whatever it is that that you need to do to keep your business moving forward whatever your key indicators are whatever metrics or tracking through need to be keystone habits associated with those metrics to make sure okay. You're keeping an alignment with your goals. Now for me I found this really really challenging at first it took a little bit of getting used to coin citing this with the five. Am Club and waking up at five am. Every day. I realized that my power hour five six game all the clarity that I needed help me prepare for my day day. Help to visualize the transactions that would happen that day the lives I will change that day the content I would produce that day and and ten times out of ten. It's always been a better day just by having that preparedness just by not feeling so rushed so right after that I had to the gym. Uh So from six to sometime seven fifteen seven thirty. Maybe even eight o'clock. I'm at the gym and I'm knocking out my workout in the morning. This way and this feeling is amazing when as well where I know that I have the rest of my day after eight o'clock I have the rest of my day. I don't have to worry about workout in the evening or a workout during lunch. Or when am I going to be able to workout in or am I gonNA be able to get it in today. You know how sometimes things come up during the time that you actually plan plan now working out in the evening and now you gotTa Council the workout a push to work out back or maybe do it tomorrow but in this scenario it's already done before my Dave and starts so then. Here's where I want you guys to focus on now all of my calls start at ten. AM So whether I'm being interviewed on a podcast and interviewing somebody for the before the millions podcast have a one coaching call with the client. Have a one on one. Coaching call with the mastermind member have a client workshop. QNA A or maybe. I have a mastermind meeting. I may have an appointment with the motivated seller which actually involved me getting my car and driving to a home which during that time I'm probably still on the phone having another meeting. I may be on the phone with the buyer my accounting maybe producing content and maybe on facebook live all of this starts at ten. AM It really doesn't end. And oftentimes my calendar is book days and weeks in advance so I have a few clients that I talked to every single week. DOC on at a certain time and we built their real estate business. FEW CLARENCE WHO just pick random times on my calendar and have already booked times in March sure or some clients who are in the middle of a deal just choir that impromptu help so I know P- after ten o'clock my calendar is being set by the obligations that I haven't both businesses us again whether I'm talking to motivate tellers tenants or whether I'm talking to clients and mastermind members so that that time between eight and ten. I use that which I haven't always done this until the second time I read atomic habits I use that time to do the two most important things in my business instead will no matter what no matter what. 'cause I'm on no matter what happens throughout the day. No matter what deviations I need to make between eight and ten I use that time to Piss business business forward to perform those key tasks in my business that are absolutely vital for my business so for an example rose head entrepreneur entrepreneur and your wholesaler and You got a ton of things going on to your business. You're working on your website. You're meeting with potential sellers you're going to networking events events. You're making your business cards your cold calling your door knocking. There's a ton of different things that you're doing and there's different things that are important and these things happen over the progression of your day. Sometimes you may just get a random call you have to run to a property. We have to stop everything that you're doing and put a fire out so what I see most often happen happen with real estate entrepreneurs and investors as we start to live a life where we're just putting out fires and we're being reactive to the events of the day right. We're laying our email. inbox control our day. And then we're we're not putting out fires. We're not really focused on the things that move our business still trying to get that website up. We're still trying to get those business cards to be perfect. And all the while you're businesses losing money in your business is no longer a business and often see burnout with a lot of quote. Don't quote investors. Burn out before they even get there. I deal because they're not focused on the actual thing that is going to put money in their pocket. The actual pain that is going to move business forward every single day whether or not you put those fires whether or not your website is whether or not your business cards are designed whether or not you go to the next meet up. There's only one thing in every single person's business that will absolutely keep business business moving forward whether or not you do anything else. What does that one thing for your business and with the number of businesses that I've been exposed to? I'm pretty sure that yours is going to have something to do with sales and marketing mm-hmm whatever that one thing is. You need to have a habit an atomic habit associated with that one thing and making sure that you knock out that one thing if nothing else every single single day imagine doing that for three hundred and sixty five days. Imagine if one of my automic habits was to do outreach for exposure for this podcast and the educational platform in general talk probably guessed it on about fifteen podcasts twenty nineteen and a lot of that if not one hundred percent of it were through external requests people inviting me onto their the show people doing outreach to see if I'd be interested in speaking to their audience so I accepted those. I wasn't looking for new opportunities. I wasn't adamant adamant about it. I wasn't specific about. It wasn't something that I was. I was purposefully going out to do but when I started noticing the impact that it had coming back to this this podcast and the platform the movement in general. I realized that it was something that I needed to be. Cognizant of something I need to do more of so imagine having outreach. Uh once a day every single day to another podcast hosts or to a a speaking committee or to an event planner or just to the general person that books speakers for events all around the country imagine having one of those conversations every single day there are three hundred sixty six days in this year matting having having one of those conversations every single day for their engines sixty six days. How many more podcasts will I be on? How many more stages will I be on? How many more people can I get the message out to? So that I could have a powerful impact in this world. That conversation is a keystone habit. That conversation goes in between my eight. AM and my ten am so the way my real estate businesses setup virtual assistance and this is not just me this is also my clients and how I teach demotivate US virtual assistance or making outbound calls looking for leads bringing leads to me and my clients imagine going through leads every single day between ten. I decided to talk to at least two leads about about buying their property between the hours of eight and ten. Am Five do that seven days a week every single day. That's fourteen leads. I would have spoken to if I do that for two weeks as twenty the eight leads. If I do that for a month at fifty-six leads that I would have spoken to if we're closing on an average of one lead per every twenty five leads that's -Tudios a month to deals a month. People what would you do so much to do for your twenty twenty. That's life changing. So guess who's doing this between Ed intendant every single day I am so imagine this between five and six is my victory. Our between six and eight is my workout time between eight in ten. I'm performing the one thing in my business or this. Before the millions educational platform or urban wealth the real estate company. Uh I'm performing the one thing in my business that will keep business moving forward so that by ten. AM every single day regardless carless of the fires have to put out regardless of the number of calls. I'm on regardless of the teaching. I'm doing regardless of the facebook lives regardless of the appointments. I'm going out on regardless of the days as I decided to just completely take off by ten. Am I feel as though I truly have already gotten in a four days worth of work and most people have barely gotten their day started. And I've been doing on this for a few weeks now when it feels amazing and I'm just imagining the compound in effect for doing that for months for doing that for the entire year of Twenty only twenty and one thing you may be thinking is well. d'auray you're an entrepreneur. You're fulltime entrepreneur. I still have my nine to five. I don't have the luxury of up until ten ten. Am to get my life together. I totally understand that. And I'm not saying your schedule should be identical to my scuttle. What I'm saying is that you should have these blackout periods commutes to make sure that what's most important for you and your business is prioritized? So if that means that you're working out for twenty minutes and your power hour and then you're not proceeding with another other workout after that. That's a work that's fine. I don't include working outing my power because I want my power hour to include more knowledge I WANNA learn Spanish or the next few months lit to relieve be fluent in Spanish. I've taken Spanish one two and three and I'm still like average. I WANNA be fluent. I want to officially make the third language so I have to put in the time. So that's what I'm GonNa do during power hour but juicy. You're you do your power our fit right so if that means that you're doing knowledge learning green and grab it to him and I forty minutes and then using the last twenty minutes to stress that out into ours workout do that but ultimately whether or not you have the next hour after that so from six to seven we have the next two hours after that before you go to work from six to eight ultimately prioritize. What's I in your business? What has to get done and if you still feel as though head? There's no time time at all in the morning for me to prioritize that do it during lunch. There's no time during listen to it as soon as you get out of work right make it the first thing that you have to eat that frog. If it was easy easy everybody would be doing it so figure out what works for you how you can manipulate your schedule to make this figure particular circumstance but get it done nine now. I'M NOT GONNA lie to. You is hard it is very hard. It was so hard for me to wake up this morning and do it today. Like it's new years everybody's chilling everybody's closed. There's so many excuses so many reasons in my head as to why I should be doing what I'm doing. I shouldn't call motivated sellers on New Year's respect their privacy respect this day. Well guess what if we normally get one out of every five people to pick up the phone when we call it expires today. I've gotten three sometimes. Four out of every five people picking up the phone because they think it's a relative or they think somebody wishing them happy new year's which I did of course and is turned out to be amazing. I shouldn't be reaching not to this event host to speak at her in a few weeks at Worcester Creek. I shouldn't go workout today. The Gen's probably closed anyways. I shouldn't have a victory hour. This is the one day that I should give myself to sleep in all of these reasons why I shouldn't go back to Mongolia. My Vision for twenty twenty and I think about all the reasons why I must have have and why I did and why actually doing recording this podcast now. Talking to you people are going to call you crazy. People are GONNA call you. Difficult people are going to call you. Different people are going they call you. Rigid people are going to call you unbalanced but they don't see what you see they don't have twenty twenty vision for your twenty twenty vision. Okay Okay promise that's my all. All change is hard at first messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end Robin Sharma the five am club. It's not GonNa be easy for me. It hasn't been easy but I know that going back to atomic habits if I do it every single day and I make it routine it becomes easier and easier and there's a certain point some people like to say. Is that the sixty six day. Mark the ninety day mark. There's a certain point in which it is who you are. It's a part of your lifestyle. It would be weird for you not to do it. It'd be offering not to and once you get to that point. No that's it's an amazing feeling so let's get to that point next ninety days one year from today. I guarantee you'll be so happy that you started today. The flow of life rewards positive action. There's no way that you're going to do something for three hundred and sixty six days even if you just get on cold calls for ten minutes and talk to sellers ten minutes. I'm not asking you to dedicate a whole hour two hours a day. I do my clients just ten minutes for three hundred sixty six days. There's it's almost impossible for you not to have a at least dealer to go write it down as my mom used to say But once you actually commit to us when you actually commit to ten minutes a day within the first few weeks I guarantee you. You'll be stretching beyond that you'll be trying to thirty minutes and then and then an hour. It goes back to the fact that you know the hardest part about going to the gym is getting to the gym. And once you're there you fill a little bit more motivated to push to do a little bit more to do everything even if you plan on doing half before you're in the flow your present you want to see the result you want to experience the result you WANNA create the result so you'll push past ten minutes once a week or two has passed but I'm using ten minutes a guide so that we can go ahead and install that habit now so against my quote unquote unquote better judgement. I may cause this morning I might follow up calls set appointments. I have appointments for the rest of the week to go see homes so I'll just put up one of my least. She's from this morning again. Thinking that there's no reason I should be making calls on January first and concurrently negotiations with the seller who listeners property on the market on the MLS at seven fifty about half a year ago so six months ago he listed with with the road seven fifty and the property did not hat sell. The property definitely wasn't worth seven fifty and looking at the property. They decrease the sales price few months later to seven hundred thousand sleigh. They dropped by fifty grand. Yes still it didn't so they dropped it again to six eighty. And then that's when it got my attention because I have alerts for expired listings. So so what happened. Is that the six month contract with a realtor expired. The root of that listed the property wasn't able to sell within those six months of the contract expired so then it popped up on my radar because I attack expired and I understood his motivation. I knew exactly what he had been through. I knew what he was hoping to get Outta the property. A new that listening on the market with a royal tour at six eighty. He probably wasn't looking at taking home any more than six. Twenty five or six twenty. Once he's back during closing costs. realtor commissions buyer discounts holding cost. I mean he held the property for six months and and it's faking so he's still paying his mortgage and all the other costs associated with the property. This is bleeding neck for this guy. Like he's he's dishing out cash and he's not seeing any type of returned so we had a conversation. This morning asked him how much he wanted for the property. And he said six seventy and that price is still a little bit too high for me but I have certain strategies in my arsenal that allow me to take takedown property at six seventy maybe even six eighty one it too so I showed him those options. I seldom what it would look like. If I had to buy the property cash from him today and then I also also showed him what it would look like if he would owner finance the property to me and that really piqued his interest. Because this is one of the options where he could actually get his full price paying cash ashby less than half of what he was looking for so he wasn't interested in an all cash offer but owner financing on the other hand that really piqued his interest so I explained to him what that would look like and I told him what I would do. Want to finance the property to me and in that conversation he realized that a lot of the things that I would do under the finance the property to me he can do itself he would. Actually you want to do a self. So that gave them another option which is a strategy that teach my client where we get the property under contract as if it was a wholesale deal and set of wholesaling the property to an investor which which is looking for a minimum of thirty percent discount not including repairs. This probably isn't need any repairs. This property is moving ready so instead of getting that contract and assigning I mean it's when investor plan on getting that contract now I have equitable interest in the property finding a buyer attendant buyer. Who would pay a market for the property because of their circumstance and effect would be willing to pay more putting them on rental own program which allows me to collect the down payment from them split? Blet that down payment with the seller so ultimately and ideally. I'll be able to walk out of this deal in about two weeks thirty grand in my pocket and and not a dime of my own money in the deal the seller has another fifteen grand in his pocket and now he has a buyer beer. That's currently went on the property until the buyer or qualifies for financing to be able to buy the property. So the numbers come out to where he gets his asking price and some so I think what the realtor he was he was slated to make about one hundred thirty three K.. Because he had a mortgage on the property and with me he slated to make about one hundred and ninety three K. again because he hasn't mortgage on the property so and then it's also a win for the buyer. The tenant buyer who in this market is not able to get financing but through our rent own program can qualify for financing over time so all three parties win by the guys. This method that I've been teaching for over a year. Now it's called the motivated seller. Met that I'm just now even of course around here. That's taking up most of my time so if you you guys are interested in that course it's coming out in this quarter actually go ahead and get on the waiting list over before the millions dot com forward slash M. S. I m not stands for motivated seller method. This was about a forty minute conversation this morning. And if everything goes well one or two more conversations and and one or two appointments with the seller meeting with them at their home end we'll have a deal is morning. I didn't set out to make calls for three four or five hours. I set out to to deliberate minimum. I just wanted to make sure I got it done as wanted to make sure that I didn't break the chain that I didn't use January first as an excuse to not not go to work today and I may get a deal out of it is so understand this. It's all about tiny daily wins in the right key areas that will have the biggest impact on your business again. The quote was that small daily seemingly insignificant improvements dent consistently over time yield staggering auguring results. But you and I both know that very few of us have the patience to endure the long game. Who still going to be with this February? WHO STILL GONNA be with us in May in Jonas timber member right? It's just like the Jim. Jim is going to be packed tomorrow. I'm not going to be able to find any type of workout machine. The bodies are everywhere but come March march thirty first after spring break and the wintertime. Oh my goodness nobody goes to the gym. Have the entire gym to myself. And that's because few of us have the endurance and the patience to stick it for the long haul. The ones dead do those are the people that end up being successful again. I'll change is hard at first messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end. If you own your morning you elevate your life if you make tiny improvements to your keystone habit. Everyday you'll elevate your life life and if you continue listening to this podcast. Hearing Twenty Twenty you will elevate your life. My Name Is Daryl and I wish you prosperity over the next decade okay and beyond revenue it

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513 A Miserable To Magnificent Marriage; Sam and Paddy Cullinane

Mindfulness Mode

39:13 min | 8 months ago

513 A Miserable To Magnificent Marriage; Sam and Paddy Cullinane

"Mindfulness mode five hundred thirteen. My point is even if you don't feel like having sex. You should do it anyway. Hey Mindful tribe. This is a great day because I have returning guests and I don't have any returning guests. I have some of the most fun and entertaining guests that I've had on my show. This is going to be so much fun I have with me. Now get ready because last time it was episode. Three hundred fifteen. I've got with me today. I've got Patty and SAM. Cullen so are you guys in mindfulness mode today. Yes we are your mic sounding great. So it's so good to hear your voices again. I remember when I interviewed you last time. And we talked all about your book bigger love when you and now you're releasing another book So this is really exciting and I had the pleasure of being able to read it even though it hasn't been released yet to the public and the book is called marriage from miserable to magnificent undone with emphasis on magnificent. Right you guys. Yeah absolutely so. It's so great to have you on the show so anyway Would you say you guys are in mindfulness mode? Today is in a mode every day so this is mine and I know I know Sam that you're in mindfulness mode because you just did attacks and I was able to listen to that a couple of days ago and what a great tech's talk you did and it sounded like you were totally in mindfulness mode. When you did it would you say you were I. I think I couldn't have gotten through it. Had I not been actually so she actually did Releasing technique before the Ted talk where The the mindfulness thought was Was My my my mindful like my mantra kind of going onstage was that I love the audience in that I wanted to be imperturbable. So no matter what happened on that stage I would maintain my imperturbable. It's exactly what happened. When the audio cut out six times they had to change your mic out and I mean it was a disaster from an audio standpoint audio was bad but it all came across on the part that I saw on Youtube. How do we find it? You can google sex. The new wonder drug and it will come up for yeah. It's on Youtube. But that's how you find it. You can also just google my name. Sam Colleen and it will come up sex. The new wonder drug is more fun with way. More fun nothing wrong with your name. Your name is great but sex. The new wonder drug. I would go with that. Y- because cullen ain't nobody knows how to spell out anyway most yet but the funny thing about that is she. She got in. She'll tell you know talk about her. How nervous and and worked up. She gets to the point of having panic attacks and all that kind of thing. You'll never you never notice it when she goes on stage in doesn't matter how many times I tell her I've been you know you've never ever noticed that you're like that when you get up on stage you're awesome it up there and you build you build all this fear you know. A lot of us have spoken publicly before. And there's always some nervousness number one fear of death. I read some people. Some people have way more trouble with it than others. But you know in in your support group your friends your family and the people that are trying to help. You're like what's the worst can happen. You'll be fine so you go up there and you fall flat on your face. You forget everything who cares. We sail these things to each other. Impact says that to me a lot because he has to deal with me practicing probably practice this thing thousands of times over the course of two and half years in different versions of it but he also suffer through all that I never seen. I've never seen you fail. And when you do forget a line when you're singing or something like that you just giggle and everybody laughs with you in early. And then that makes you even more relatable because more human exactly so in more endearing. Kinda to the to the audience. I knew that there was A. You can't say anything. People that are building up that internal anxiety but the funniest thing. The reason the thing I wanted to say is when I asked the question. What's the worst thing it can happen? No not once did across across our minds issued up to start and stop four different times. She'd have to walk off the stage in her might change. And how long was that booked? So they they called me like in September so I tried to get a Tedtalk for all of last year and I applied for a bunch in the beginning of the year and I didn't hear anything I thought to myself. Oh good I'm off the hook kind of you know 'cause I know because it's so it is really a lot for me to get up on a stage. I feel so nervous it I put my family through a lot so I thought oh good. It's just not meant to happen and then I get the call. Oh we've chosen you for our event. I think they called in September August or September and the event was in November so I had a couple of months to really prepare but we applied all over even applied in Saint John. Oh you did. Yeah I was Kinda would get that one so John Saint John Ware. Newfoundland say John Newfoundland. Okay meant that. Oh you even applied there that would would have been cool but anyway it was cool anyway and it came across came across. So let's talk about some of the science that you've put into your new book because your new book still has the charm that you to deliver you know. You're you're human. You're real your personal. You share your real stuff. You're vulnerable but then you've added science so you go. He says she says they say your. Yeah that's pretty cool so you must have had to do a lot of research in my right. Yeah I've done a lot of research in fact. I was giggling the book you know. I'm just finishing the book. And there are a hundred and ninety six Bibliotheca Graphical thank you. There's one hundred ninety six references so many you can't even say it. I can't even say but in each reference to a lot of them will have like five six seven different sightings of scientific i. I used some articles some books but the majority of what's in there are scientific research studies so I got really deep into this research because we had a few Scientists on our podcast and that was really fun to interview them. And then even as we were interviewing other experts were like. Gosh you know a lot of the stuff that we talk about in. Our Book is backed by Scientific Research. We should like and I got so excited about that so I started researching and doing the writing because I thought will have to know that. It's not just us saying best but that there's evidence that these things really work. She started pulling her book apart. And saying well we say this this and this. I wonder if there's any studies back that up and then she'd go find the studies and then she wouldn't allow me like so you know we. We both wrote the book and so the parts that I wrote. She would make media research on them and she wouldn't allow me to use articles or blogs or anything like that. They're not that reliable. They say scientifically based and then you go. Try to find scientific evidence and there isn't any I was like. I don't want you to use people's blogs or just people's opinions I wanted to be a doctor and Julie. It doesn't matter if he hasn't done a scientific study behind it out. Zeno right if it's not a scientific paper with a study. Yeah Well You. Two are really the sex couple. And I didn't really announce this at the beginning but you guys are not only relationship coaches but alter your book you're talking about you know how to achieve good sex and and how important it is. How important is it to have good sex in your relationship? It's extremely important. It's it's always. It can be a maker or breaker. Your relationship and I don't know that people realize that in most relationships there's a minimum of one person whereas a really big deal you know and so would we like to talk about. Is that For the for the person that it isn't a big deal let's figure out why and then let's figure out how to how to change that so that it's you know there's something that that's awesome for you as well and that's kind of how it was for you for a while. Wasn't that because that's what you talked about in your book. Cow Sam you kind of shied away from it for quite a while right. Yeah well from my Tedtalk I didn't ever feel like having sex. I never felt horny and sew. Patty would be trying to snuggle up and be like I don't feel like it can feel like it and I never felt like it and I realized I never felt like and I still would. Sometimes you know have sex with them Which was also weird. Because I'd have sex with him and I'd be like Oh that was great but then the next time I'd be like I still don't feel like it so Then we did this experiment which is About in the book changed everything for you. Didn't it changed everything? Pat Was it really honestly just that one. That changed everything in your marriage and your sex life. Not our marriage our marriage you know there's a lot of facets to marriage but this but this did change our sex life drastically which improved all the things that we were working on in our marriage too. It was like it was like magic. Well I know what is magic is of course because I've read both your books and everything else but I wanna know this with all your research that you've done. Have you ever found that a scientist or researcher or somebody like that has come up with the same magic solution? Well I think my yet. Yes no there are of scientists that say you need to be having sex often. Amy Muses one. She's she's a senator from Canada. She's up at York University around the sexual health and relationships lab and she does a lot of work in this area of sex and long relationship so I love her research one of the things that she came up with was you know how much is how many how much sex is enough. Because there's a lot of people who are out there preaching. You know the more the better well in her research. That's not necessarily true. In her research she found out that you have to be doing it at least once a week for both partners to feel like. They're having enough time connecting. So that's one of the aspects that she that she discusses in her research that I think is useful. But there's also this whole aspect of of people interacting with each other and feeling rejected. And so if there's a lot of rejection in the in the interactions between the couples that causes that's causes issues in and of themselves so when there's a lot of rejection that's when people it it rejection is a block to intimacy both physical and emotional so if you if your partner is trying to initiate sex with you and you are constantly rejecting them it has been shown that the rejection just it is almost like an immediate blocked intimacy so then. Now you're having to navigate this plock that's between you constantly because if one person's wanting to do at the end the ones rejecting them it's I'm babbling but it's a problem. Yeah and sometimes. I'm sure the one person would just give up eventually. Yeah and I think there is a lot of There are a number of people who talk about sexless marriages and the difficulties with those So there is some. There's definitely some research out there that says it's great that you know once a week is good. All the research though says that if you're having a satisfying sex life that's contributing more to a happy marriage than any other factor. Meaning you say I'm we're good friends and not you know. Our friendship is satisfying. But if you don't have a satisfying sex life you're going to raise. Your marriage is less satisfying than not whereas with sex. If you if you rate your sex life is satisfying but maybe your friendship isn't satisfying. You're still rating. Your marriage is satisfying. This is found in these studies which I with thought was eye opening. What's controversial for the way that I'm presenting? It is that my point is even. If you don't feel like having sex you should do it anyway and I think some of the people that talk about sexless marriages stay something similar but I also have this idea of of not rejecting your partner because of that blocked intimacy. So it's it what there isn't anybody saying specifically what I'm saying or how I'm saying it but there are some people that are sort of saying similar things. Okay yeah so I personally think you're being modest. I think nobody is saying that. Sort of magical solution that you guys did and worked for you and do you think it'll work for like many many many other couples out there they can so this is my next book. Bruce. Thank you for leading. I'm wondering write another book this year. Because we've done some trials actually our own semi scientific trials where we had different couples. Try are just they yes dissects for thirty days. Where they don't reject each other and see what happens. And depending on how far gone they are with resenting each other and another thing that happens in relationships as people. Try to keep score right so like say. I don't feel like having sex but I choose to have sex and then I'm like well. What are you doing what what do I get out of now? What are you GonNa do for me? So we've had situations where if that's too far gone. And they can't their mindsets out of that kind of keeping score and or resentment than it doesn't work as well. It does still kind of work though so and and people that engaged in it fully and followed these rules that I kind of came up with again. Like don't keep score. Remember that this is not just for your partner. This is for you your own health because there are so many health benefits to sex as well and just your happiness and your life satisfaction and you live longer so it's all of these things to try to keep a mindset of really going into the sexual experience open to it so for your partner but also for yourself and for your relationship if we if we can get if they can get their heads around that mindfully like this is a mindful thing it works. There's people it's amazing there's Pi maybe there's people out there who you know may have physical reasons. Why in his. There's a what we're talking about is is mostly for the majority. We know that there's a minority that you know sometimes stuff doesn't work right okay. Physical reason why it's not working well so we've alluded to what your magical solution is but let's just spill it. Just go right ahead and talent which one of you is going to tell us. Is that you set you. Patty. Yeah so I ultimately in this is this is how we got to where we got to do the experiment but she was rejecting me and And I asked her because always had great sex so there wasn't really an issue there but I asked her had sex and you You know you regretted it. In other words you lay there in like. Oh can't believe what did that. And she said well now and I'm like because it seems like you know unless you're faking. You're having a just as good of a time as I am when we're doing it. And she and she thought about it permits us. Well that's that's true and so and I said well I want to just say yes. If you if you're not going you're already know you're not going to read it based on past experience that one. Just say yes and and at the time. She's like well because I'm really tired and just wanted to sleep on because I don't want to have sex. I don't want to have sex. I'm like you kind of already are and let me just ask you this question. Because his nine o'clock you're going to get nine hours asleep. What if you could have enjoyable sex and still get eight hours and forty-five minutes a good sleep? I mean isn't that a good thing at all you said and then I used to. I also used to trigger to where I can only get away with this some of the time but I'd be like I'm just going to go down and eat for a little while you go and go to sleep and she never fell asleep but yeah are we allowed to say that on the Yeah you are. Yeah you just read it in your book at the end at the end of the day and this is a lot with her ted talk about. You know there's a we have this thing called. Libido and women's significant percentage of women's Libidos don't work like man's a man sees a hot girl walked by a warning now where women don't always work that way so sometimes it takes a little effort on our part to get them going so that they'll keep going you know but that also requires the in. It's not just women. Men Can also have the scientifically called responsive desire where something sexual already has to be going on in order for us to ever feel horny so me never wanting to have. Sex wasn't because I never wanted to have sex. It's because I didn't know that my libido worked in a different way most women have responsive desire some women some men also have responsive desire so as long as you know that then you can be like more willing to let your partner try to turn you on so that you will ever feel horny and WANNA have sex. You have to be open to letting them do that. And recognizing your libido works in a different way it was like mind blowing for me and almost nobody knows about this. Which is why I did the Tedtalk. Why even though and get so nervous? And I don't like doing that. I thought it was so important to share that message and there are other people out there sharing that message. Emily Nagorski is amazing. She wrote this book. Come as you are. I highly recommend everybody read. It mean it's one of the reasons why it's one of the things that I was like. Oh my God. Every she thinks she's talking about scientifically is what we experienced our religion. She comes versus that one. Listen when Ian that's in Kern are but it's kind of based on the same principle doesn't really go into no he's no he talks about. That's more about how men can pleasure women. Well I'm gonna cut to the chase. I'm going to tell mindful tribe that I was at an event and I met Salmon Patty personally and and Sam just reached down and she handed me. Her book picked up her book and she said here Bruce. Take my book and I took it home and I read it on the on the flight home and I thought it was just great. I thought it was so much fun to read and it was an eye opener and so if any of you listening out there are thinking well you know. I don't really have that much sex in my life and I wish that we had more sex you know in our marriage or whatever it is you got to read this book and the book is coming out on the twenty fifth February twenty fifth. So by the time. You hear this podcast. That book is going to be out. Yes in the book is called marriage from miserable to magnificent. Because there's a whole story there about how your marriage really did almost completely fall apart and end. Yeah wow that was sad and then it came back and became magnificent. Now you guys have something to share. That's exciting in your lives and I can't wait to hear what it is. So which one of us GonNa tell me about this? Patty's going to tell you patty I can't wait to hear. Yeah so I got a facebook message. Requests about a week ago maybe ninety eight or nine days ago and it was somebody that I knew before I met Sam cutting to the chase. She she she had been pregnant when I dated her or became that way and then moved back with her ex boyfriend and said the kid was his and so I'd never hadn't heard from her but anyway you fast forward to almost twenty four years later and there's with twenty three and me and ancestry dot com. And he's you know the wonder of these genealogy tests. I found out that I have a daughter. We just had hitting. We just had a kid a month ago and And when she did leave the test one of the people that was paired up with her was this guy in Chicago and she reached out to him and he's like well. I was adopted. So I don't know who my my Father is and she's like we're related. So I was a common thread there so in about five days time I gained a daughter a granddaughter and a brother. Oh you're kidding now it's awesome. I mean so. Wow we're super excited because we were nowhere even near there isn't even a gleam in either of our kids I when it comes to like having grandkids and We even know they're old enough old enough and they're not going to get them accidentally so it was so cool. Anyway I mean so you have a brother you didn't know about. Yeah tell me about that. I've chatted with him some on facebook but he apparently my dad. You know hooked up with somebody and got them pregnant in college and she didn't really remember much about it but she put the kid up for adoption and yeah so I got two brothers. Three years older than me. Wow and you have a brother and who else you have. A daughter daughter in grandkid daughter granddaughter. And when are you going to be? That is fantastic. Congratulations yeah like instant awesome family. When are you going to be meeting? Met THEM IT. Turns out they live only three hours from us so we drove down there and took him to dinner and I found madly in love with that. Little baby brother yet personally but you know. I think he lives in Chicago and they may be coming to the area in the fall so I will eventually made. I know we will. So but wow yeah. His daughter reminds us a lot of our other daughter and her husband's adorable. We just fell in love with the whole all three of them. So they're coming. Stay with us this weekend. January's breezy crazy. Week is last week last week. This all just just met them last weekend. We never talked about imperturbable. Never been anything but excited and grateful. Yeah the best my mind my mind said from the beginning. It's like I don't know maybe. This is the perfect time in my life for this to come along but I love it me too. That is very exciting. So you guys do live events and you do retreats and do. Do you do counseling sessions with couples that kind of thing we do it. Occasionally we mostly do it for charities so you can usually bid on them for different charities that will you do work for? But we don't do a lot of one on one. Coaching we do some speaking. We do some couples retreats. But we don't. We don't do a Lotta One on one coaching. It's not it's not the we also have. We have other jobs so this is like our side Gig that we won't do it. I mean we've we've we've ended up coaching several of our friends. Or they'll call us and ask if they can talk and I absolutely not a problem and and we're open to it but we just don't really wanNA monetize it or try to start like Sam said we've got a lot of other shit going on and so and you're going to be at gross movement. Now pros now. I better get the words to now. Movement live DOT com. You can check it out. I'm going to be there to where we're going to be movement fun. I'm so excited reading Pennsylvania reading Pennsylvania. Yes now it sounds way better when you say it. Patty try that and getting Pennsylvania. It's it is a hot spot in all of the eastern United States that nobody knows about. Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah. People don't know about it but I went last year and I loved it and I'm looking forward to a little town this year. Now it is it is. It's a nice place to go so marriage from miserable to magnificent. So what did you include in this book? That was really I opening and and really it was really something that you can't wait to get out there for all of us to read. There's the chapter for which you've already talked about on the side of it but I've added some some stuff to this this book. That wasn't in the other book and it's basically we talk about and I was. I was the guy always asking ten times. So the embassy yes once. I'm just turned fifty three this year and some things start going on with Australian levels are Libido and and I didn't want to be that guy I've never I don't all anyone that takes a blue pill. I have no problems whatsoever. Fantastic whatever I just didn't want to have to go the farmer out if I didn't have to and so I did some research on natural ways of that improve that situation drastically that I share on the book. I'm pretty excited about that. Because it's it's one of those things it's a little bit. You know being a masculine I am man and is like men. Don't want to always share the fact that you know. Sometimes this stuff happens. Let's not sometimes. It does your libido throughout your life for all the other guys all of that will pay said in the book and you didn't call it erectile dysfunction. You have your own name for it. So tell us that I call it. There's the testosterone there's balancing testosterone. And then I also to me. There's there's a difference like you can sometimes tell call Boehner quality. Bq there you're talking about. Yeah that's it. Yeah Yeah and then you. So you went on these natural while they're basically like herbs natural herbs that you took and you took them for about a month I did kind of we have a friend named shotgun approach swimmer for a name. Hal elrod who wrote a book called Miracle Morning on it. I think you've interviewed him before. I've Read. I've read approach was is I need to create these habits and he went and read all these successful habits at different. You know millionaires. And then he decided to just do all right so when I started reading about all these different herbs. I'm like I'm doing a Hal. Elrod approach I'm just GonNa take them all and so I mean I'm sure you need to consult your doctor and do this and find out about contraindications. That is any of that. I didn't have any side effects. And so you said you had good results burners results in fact. I didn't for almost almost two years and take any of them again. So you took this stuff for one month and then for about two years. It seemed to make a different. Yeah no it tapered off and it really notice a big. I didn't notice I didn't have the other thing is to me. There's like almost a vicious circle. It happens because stress is a major major libido killer right so yeah as soon as you start stressing about Oh man. Maybe I'm not going to be able to perform or you know I'M GONNA lose my performance indicator. Yes more dollars. How do you use mindfulness in your in your favor? Well that's that's a whole nother thing. That's probably where you get into Contra. There's all kinds of different things that you can do along those lines but For me at that time I. I added stress to the mix of what was already going on so I think if anything caught a placebo call it whatever you want but what it did definitely do was remove that stress and yeah. I mean I. I've noticed just a small change in the last few months and so I started taking him again and problem one way again so good and and how many different things where you taking their like. Five seven hundred seventy seven or eight of them. Yeah but yell it tells all about it in your book and we highlighted. Probably five of them. I think no I went through all of them. Change where I wrote. Yeah I had to do a little more research because I've like if we're going to put it in there. We might as well not these things quirks. I do research. I put it in there like this is good. This is perfect because people snapshot of what's out there and then she goes and change science by it. So that makes flickers three studies an complementing each other. Only one of them to put her name. I cover of this book. Because she's put so much more work into this on than I have. But she wouldn't let it should say Samuelson says Patty advance. Yes Patrick Lennon and Samantha colony but should say the other way around it. My I don't know we'll see I told the oh I see so. It's still still still final book. Actually today will be the day that the final manuscript is finished. So we'll see what it looks like today. Who tried to talk her into games around and this to happen. Yeah it's the truth. Well I know that we can go to marriage M. to M. DOT COM to directly. Grab this book and of course the. Mgm stands for miserable to magnificent so marriage M. to M. dot com. Check it out but you guys also have a podcast called the not so perfect couple. Why do you call yourselves the not so perfect? Because Bruce There's no such thing as perfection so that would be every exactly because I think every couple can relate to that and I think it's misleading to say. It's a perfect relationship. We have actually. We have really good friends that that run a website and they have great. They do coaching and they do. You know kind of more hands on stuff than we do called legendary couples and we. We've had conversations with them about how intimidated people are to talk to them about their their relationship issues. Because they're like well we have the legendary relationship and people are like to to hesitant to talk to him and we're like that's brilliant. Let's just Neymars what we are not perfect it no matter how great your relationship is. It's still your somewhere on the you're somewhere on the spectrum of St- between imperfect and not perfect miserable magnificent right so anyway that that's we call it that plus you know what else we're big on humor and imperfections for can funny. It is true. It's not funny boring. We and you guys are a lot about what you know not working right and what we're trying to make make it work it's charlier. There's there's trial and error and even I mean we've all been parents so even the things that you try being a parent they that work. They usually only work for a little while until the kid gets onto it catches onto it right so then you have to change your strategy relationship to try new trick and you're like wow that's really truly really well and you know a couple months later. You're not so much. So what was your funniest episode your funniest interview or your funniest episode. You ever did on the not so perfect couple podcast. I think the most interesting one that was kind of more. This one's more in left field and I think people did think it was funny is the one that's called. My Penis is a Dick Guy. I have not heard we interviewed. A guy named Horatio. Who was the author of this book? Which is my penis is a Dick. It's okay animated kind of kind of like a cartoon book but those called Comics Comic Book and it's talking about his relationship with his Dick and how as Dick's always getting him as penis is always getting him in trouble having him make bad decisions and it's hilarious and then when we got them on our on our podcast the him and his wife are in what they call the lifestyle so this means that they have other sexual partners besides each other which we found fascinating we get into it means. It's a broader spectrum than that basically. There's people from all over the people used to say. Oh you're swingers sometime. It's not like that. Some people like a a third you know. As far as a woman goes other people just like people to watch them. Are they like to watch other people? But it's not that of thing. Where or this. Like for Horatio and his wife there. They consider themselves to be openly monogamous. So they might fool around with other people but they're always together when they do it and They talked about different resorts where they go and stay. And how? There's a whole bunch of people that are in this lifestyle so it's a fascinating it's fascinating what's interesting you know. You hear a lot of people these days talking about. How marriage is a dead institution and it's going away and it is true with a lot. Less people are getting married these days and the podcast and a couple that are right after. We're pretty funny. And then we did one where we went to this Russian spa in San Francisco we talk. I don't remember which podcast that one was pretty funny. Experience in itself was funny. And so are you guys into this new lifestyle. Now no but we did go to one of the resorts over the Christmas holiday and We witnessed like we met a whole bunch of people in the lifestyle and we just kind of what they did. Yeah we treat it like research because again. I'm if I'm writing a book about sex. The Jam it was fascinating so right where we we. We're not in the lifestyle we but we loved all the people we met there. They were really biggest. Conglomeration of non-judgmental nine out with fun. There must be something about taking your clothes off because this is clothing optional resort. This was you know where if you take off all your clothes I guess you don't have. There's there's not a Lotta. There's all shapes and sizes nobody judges anybody and superfund. Yeah we that's quite interesting. Great people and had a lot of fun and the podcast before we went and then the one after we got back where we talk about that. Those are those. Those are my three favorites that those ones are called clothing optional. I think a cow go back and check it out and mindful tribe. You might want to to the not so perfect. Couple is the name of the podcast but Yeah I'm looking at the time. Yeah we've got a wrap this up. This is so much fun getting together with you guys and talking to you about all this. It's very interesting and I'm going to be seeing you again in reading Pennsylvania. I can't wait for that. Feels in growth now movement by live DOT com. Check it out if you want to attend a very cool event. And it's it's not huge. It's it's a smallish event where you'll meet lots of fun people and you'll hear great people from the stage and there'll be fun events at night and I can tell you just in his awesome. I interviewed Justin Shank and he interviewed me. And and it's going to be a great. Yeah so yeah so. It's so great to talk to you guys again and two on the. Yeah my pleasure on the last episode when I interviewed you before that was three fifteen in it was called fine. Bigger love with relationship coaches Patrick and Sam. Cullen well dot is where you can go and you can find all my normal questions that I ask about. Bullying in in all. About what the ereck amend as far as book and. Let's talk about breathing in all happened. Today was just more of a a casual chat to talk about your new book marriage for miserable to magnificent coming out on February twenty fifth. So good luck with your new book. I hope it sells like Zillions of copies. My mindfulness road for your tribe is to always keep an open mind because you never know what life's GonNa Throw Russia. Yeah that is so true. That is so true. Well you guys have a great rest of your and I get that manuscript finished incentive to get it done. Thanks for having US on Bruce. This is Greg is take care bye now.

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How To Make Anything Possible With The Miracle Equation...With Hal Elrod

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How To Make Anything Possible With The Miracle Equation...With Hal Elrod

"Welcome to the Mike Dillard, podcast entrepreneurs. Like, you get the knowledge and skills that you need to bring your dreams to life. Well, gang today. We're joined by my good friend. How Elrod who has an incredibly simple. But absolutely life-changing mind model to share with you today that he calls the miracle question. Now, if you've heard how story previously on the podcast, you know, that this guy is a walking talking miracle. He was killed in a car crash in his twenties. Yep. Dead for six minutes and brought back to life, and then he had to fight for his life at once again just last year as he battled with an incredibly vicious form of cancer. And yet during all of these trials and tribulations he has defied the odds again and again to come back and thrive bigger and better than ever before. So how is he managed to do that? Well, it was not an accident these life events forced how the tap into the power of his mind, and he's literally willed himself back to health and prosperity. And it's worked what he has discovered. Is the mindset in system that we can all use to create our own miracles in life. And that's what he's going to teach you here today. I'll just say this in the short time that I've applied this strategy in my life since we recorded this podcast. This system has provided me with a massively positive difference in my own attitude, and my own health, the miracle equation absolutely works, and I highly highly recommend that you start to use an apply it in your life today. Hey, guys before we dive in today's episode. A few of asked me what podcast do I listen to. And I happen to listen to one of our former guest, Mr. Jordan harbinger from the Jordan harbinger show. So Jordan show is a monster. He gets about five million downloads a month. He's had one of the biggest podcasts in the world. And he's one of the best interviewers I've ever met and Jordan, you know, you've had a couple of really incredible guests recently, who is your favorite my favorite. It's impossible to pick. But one that I had recently that I really love and look I'm by because he's got friend of mine is John Ruslan, and he's an expert at something called gifting, and I know that sounds lame as hell, right like gifting who cares? But what he does with. It is magic he'll get billionaires who can buy anything. They want get any kind of crap all they want. He'll get he'll send him freaking mug that just so personalized that they'll literally start crying. It's amazing. This guy's got a gift for it. And he's really sly about it. He'll send for example, sent my wife a knife. That had a quote on it that I said in one of my shows, and she's keeps it, and she's always asking how is and I was like I see your angle here. John Ruslan, and he's got a whole book about it. We did a really in depth interview about this about gifting something I never thought I'd be interested in but for businesses just absolute magic ninja stuff. Awesome. Awesome guys. Go take a listen to this episode on the Jordan harbinger show. I'm gonna put a link in the show notes as well. And that's John Ruslan spelled R U H L I N, Jordan. Thanks so much, brother. Thank you. Mr. Hal Elrod. Welcome back to the podcast, my friend, Mike d my friend, and we say, my friend. It's not just like we're Facebook friends like hang out with you our kids go to school together. I go on the go on the boat together. Like, legit, friends, man. I actually. We've got a we've got a fun summer coming up ahead of us. I can't wait. Yeah. Me do. Yeah. Austin weather is the summers finally convinced yet. Yeah. Absolutely. So glad to have you back on the show you've been here you've been here once before to share your unbelievable story. So if you haven't heard that yet guys go over to Mike, Dillard dot com, hit the podcast page into a search for how Elrod and make sure listened that first episode many of you guys know how as the author of the miracle morning book, which is sold millions of copies around the world. It's really become a movement helping people turn their morning routines into one that really changes their lives and transform their lives. Even if you're not a morning routine person. But that's not what you hear about. Today. Your today 'cause you've got a brand new book the miracle equation. The two decisions that move your biggest goals from possible to probable to inevitable. And I've already heard some fantastic stuff about this book, man, the battle. Interestingly enough, the miracle quesion as a concept is something that I came up with in my own life six years before the miracle morning. So even though this book follows up the miracle morning in some ways, it's the prequel. But in many ways, it really is the follow up in what I mean by that is chronologically it came before the miracle morning concept as thing that changed my life. However, if the way that I kind of separate these two books is the miracle morning gives you a practice for personal development. And when I created it as a practice, not as a book, it was how do I create the ultimate personal development ritual? So that I can accelerate who I'm becoming I can quickly develop myself into the person that is qualified capable and deserving of creating what I want for my life through personal development. Right. So that's very foundational. Jim Rohn kind of principle that your level of success is always in parallel to your level of personal development. However, I think that. Many of us can relate to the following. And that is that we become what I call personal development junkies. Which is where we get addicted to personal development, and we actually chased Hawes, and you could probably relate to this. Right. We're we've all been guilty. You know, you read a book, you're reading it. You're going. Oh my God. That's brilliant. Oh, wow. This. Oh, my wow, that's revolutionary. That's gonna change my life. And then when when you finish reading that life changing revolutionary, I opening book most people right personal development junkies, which I'm guilty of we then all we do is start another book you go out. And that was a great one. I've got this next this one on my shelf, and this one this is really the area got to improve. And we keep going from book to book to book, however, personal development isn't enough to move your biggest goals and dreams from possible to inevitable. You've you need a process for goal achievement. In addition to your practice for personal development. In other words, personal development is half the equation. So to speak, right. And the other half is. Okay. Well. Now that I'm growing I'm learning I'm becoming more. I need a practice for goal achievement. And when I was twenty years old, I was trying to break a company sales record. I was one of the top sales reps. Mike for is, you know, cutlery as little kitchen is in people's houses. Or it was it was not not my dream job at the time. But it turned out to be the greatest opportunity for growth in you know, the discipline that required the work of commission only job at nineteen years old. I mean, it was great. I started breaking company records in this one particular time I wanted to break the so I'll be very specific here. I was trying there something called a push period in our company, and it was every few months there'd be a two week push period. Fourteen days leading up to a division conference a regional conference national conference was always leading up, and it was this like secret. No, one told each other how much they were selling, and then you showed up to the conference, and it was this count from zero two thousand to two thousand to three. And then it started out with a thousand people in front of the room, and it will down to five hundred and then. Three hundred and one hundred and twenty five and then right in God down to the number one person. So it was really intense two week period that culminated in this live event in front of thousands of your peers right to really cool. So I had was I was one of the only reps that had ever so twenty thousand dollars back to back in two fourteen day periods, consecutively. No one in the fifty or history of the company had ever done it three times in a row, and let me let me pause here. Here's the deal. When we I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. If you relate where when we achieve extraordinarily it's in our life, our in our business like you've done launch, your your your launch us, for example. Right. When you launch, and you do as huge million dollar launch or whatever. And it goes everything just falls into place, and it does right. Don't you often feel like man, there was a lot of luck involved if that hadn't happened in that thing hadn't come through at the end and that lady hadn't called, and then that guy hadn't show, and I hadn't tripped and fallen and stumbled into this one guy who was the perfect person. The right time like all those things hadn't happened in perfect uniformed synchronicity. I would not have chief that goal can relate to that. Yeah. Yeah. It would happen is the not create self doubt. And we go man, I got lucky. The odds of that happening. Again, are not very good. So for me going into this third push period. I go man that last those first two everything fell into place for me to hit that Mark in the odds of that happening third time or not very good. So a lot of self doubt. Lot of fear will anytime a huge goal that that usually it's accompanied by beer and self doubt, in some way. And I spent a couple of weeks leading up to the push period going to just getting myself like mentally committed. Like, I can do it. I can do it. I'm going to do it. I'm going to give it everything I'm going to do it fourteen days twenty thousand dollars. It can be done. I'm going to set the all time record. And we went to our sales meeting like the day or two before the push period. Started and my manager Frank Keach. He's at hey, everybody. You know, push beards coming up. Just reminder the conference was moved back four days. So you only have ten days for this push period. So you might want to adjust your goals accordingly. And it was the first time I'd heard of this I raised my hand said, no Frank, please. Tell me that this push period doesn't actually count as like a for the record books and stuff because we're not getting to fourteen days right there. There's no way that could come and drinks at how that no everybody started this. If you're if you're working on a streak or consecutive, whatever this counts, just as any other push period. So my imagine like, my heart sank, and I'm going, no, no no spent the last few weeks trying to get myself to wrap my head around that I could do twenty thousand dollars fourteen days. The odds of doing it in ten days. Fourteen days felt nearly impossible ten days. Feels like there's no point even trying bright. And I went home that night and in my head ruminating, I'm going what do I do do? I just lower the goal. Do. I just sit this one out. Do I go take vacation? And you know, and then I remembered and this I want to what I'm gonna share right now is one of the most important. Lessons for all of us who who have big audacious goals and dreams. And this is I learned this from my mentor in the company of the time, Dan Cassetta, and Dan he was one of the top managers in the history of the company, but he learned this from again, our good friend, Jim Rohn and all else paraphrase the lesson. The purpose of a goal is not to hit the goal. The purpose of a goal is to become the type of person developing the qualities and characteristics of a goal Cheever who can reach any every goal you ever set or reach future goals. And so the ideas most of us live in this black and white paradigm around goal setting either succeed or fail. And we literally feel like if I don't reach the goal, then I have failed and often we don't even pursue a big scary audacious goal because the fear of failure. It's like, I don't even know if I can hit that. Right. We usually pursue that. Which is there certainly around like, well I've done that before. And I could I could see doing ten percent more rape. And so what happens is that keeps us playing small and staying in our comfort zone so to speak. But when you realize wait a minute in that moment, the what I realize realizes. Okay. So what if I just commit to twenty thousand dollars to giving it every thing I have everything for ten days of my life. Not for the alternate purpose of actually hitting that goal. But for the alternate purpose of becoming the type of person developing the qualities and characteristics of someone who I've never been before. Like like, the better better version of me, and then whether or not even hit the Gulf I sell twenty thousand or or twenty two thousand twelve thousand or whatever that that really pales in comparison to the value of who I would become by giving it everything out. And so I went I'm gonna do it. I'm like I can't fail literally can't fail because the alternate what I'm shooting for is the number. It's the growth. And so I went out in those ten days. Now, here's simple math for everybody listening. Right. Like I needed to average two thousand dollars a day for ten days to sell twenty know twenty thousand dollars and Mike. Here's the deal. I had I sold two thousand dollars a day before sure, but I celebrated because that was a big day. Like if you had it back to back that was rare in days in a row is right. I mean, you're selling little sets of kitchen knives to to housewives and on the first seven days I needed to be fourteen grand. I was only at seven turned in my orders for the week. I'm thirteen grand a way, and I only have three days left. I applied these two decisions that we're going to dive into in the the majority of the second half this interview. These are what make up the miracle question when I decided I was going to go for this goal kind of reverse engineered it, and there's what we all have to right. We have to go k if this miracle were to happen, and we pause for a second. If that's okay define the word mural in this context because I think that's a really loaded word area. Right. It's. I think it has miracles have a bad rap. It's kind of well, it's like these random passive acts, or you know, you can't count on them. They're not reliable. They happened to random people you the only way to make a miracle happens to pray, and wait and hope it happens to me. I'm not about passivity. I'm not about praying waiting and hoping I'm about making the things happen in our lives that we want to happen. And that's the context of miracles. Here's the definition that I would I would give to you listening. It is a miracle is any meaningful outcome that is beyond the realm of what you believe is probable for you. So I'll say that again, they'll kind of break it down any meaningful outcome outside the realm of what you believe is probable for you. So it's it's a meaningful outcome it something, and you could call it extrordinary, you could really get get loose without language because it really is. It's you accomplishing something that you've been thinking about dreaming about imagining doubting yourself for your whole life or for you. Ears or for who knows how long and so when you achieve it, it feels like a fricken miracle, you're like, oh, my I can't believe I did that. Right. So that's the definition of a miracle. One. It's tangible. It's practical to actionable it's immeasurable outcome. It's not this. Woo. Make vision board hopefully miracles all start to magically appear in your life. Right. So for me in the last three days, I had to sell thirteen thousand dollars, and in the first seven days, giving it everything I had I had sold seven thousand dollars, right, Mike, imagine not feeling real confident that I'm going to sell thirteen grand in three days when in seven days, the most I was able to sell seven grand, right? So I'm I'm way off here. But I committed to these two decisions when I started out. I thought if I'm going to achieve this miracle, what feels like a miracle. What will it require? And I thought well, it's gonna require two things. It's choir. The mindset right internally mentally emotionally. There's a mindset that I've gotta maintained for these ten days. And there is then a method, right? There is I'm gonna I'm gonna have to do something take certain action. And so I tried to simplify this as simple as it could be. So that I could implement it number one. The first decision. I decided that I'd have to make was I've got I've gotta maintain unwavering faith that I can do this thing that feels impossible. And if you studied the world's most successful people in any walk of life, you find that every single one of them began their journey by establishing the faith that they could do something that they had never done before. Right. No one's borne, you know, with skills and knowledge and making money, and we know right? I mean, nobody's built with a team. Everybody's born with nothing, and then we have to develop ourselves into something. And so anyone that's extraordinary results. They had to start by check their review MIR and they go, well, what is my past. Tell me I'm capable of nothing. I'm trying to do now. Because otherwise, I would have already done it. I've never done this before it's new and every stage of our life and every stage of our development every stage of our. Oh, th in an accomplishment or trying to do something. We've never done before. And that's where the word faith comes in. That's another loaded word because it's like well. Yeah. What you sit back and you have faith. No, no, no. It's faith in yourself. It's faith in your abilities, your limitless potential and your -bility to live in alignment with and fulfilled out potential. That's the faith. I'm talking about faith and stuff happening for you or faith and everything just magically working out. I'm talking about faith in yourself. So the first decision I mean, it is an and I wrote it down. This is a very important part of in the book. I give you the temp word for word. This is how you establish unwavering faith, it's not magical or mythical. It's got to be practical. And so for me, I wrote down the mantra, I am committed to giving it everything I have to sell twenty thousand dollars in the next ten days, regardless of my results. No matter what there is no other. Option. I'll say it one more time faster because I know is a long sentence. But this is literally what I said to myself hundreds of times. And now, I modified this, and I'll give examples of my cancer journey in different ways. I use the statement. But unwavering faith is established through a statement along these lines. I am committed to giving it everything I have to blink for me. At that time. It was tell twenty thousand dollars and ten days, regardless of my results along the way. 'cause that's where faith usually goes out the window when the results aren't what we want. No matter what there is no other option, and I said that to myself hundreds of times during those ten days, especially when I had a no sale or a no show or a canceled appointment or a council order or the self to the seat of self doubt was planted and instead of watering it I replaced the fear with faith through the power of that mantra in the second decision. I thought well you could simplify this by saying I gotta work my ass off. Right. But I thought I've got to put forth extrordinary effort and let me explain this. This isn't just work your ass. Off. In fact, extraordinary effort isn't about you know, Gary vein or Chuck in it eighty hour workdays, this is if I had to sum it up in one word extraordinary effort is consistency. Right. It's it's it's doing something everyday that moves you in the direction of your biggest goals and dreams. So that eventually you get there your successes inevitable might take you a year. It might take you three four five ten, but the extrordinary effort is about the finding what is the process that will make your result inevitable. Meaning let's say your example as you want to lose weight. Okay. Well, then that's relatively simple process. It's okay. I need to limit my caloric intake and increase, my cardiovascular output. So that I'm burning more calories than I am taking in and then my success inlets genetic defect or some sort of physical and issue for the most part that is going to almost always ninety nine hundred times it's gonna lead to weight loss. If you're burning more weight burning more calories than you're taking it. Right. So essentially, it's predator. What is the process that is required to produce this result? And I will commit to the process consistently over an extended period of time that is the definition of extrordinary offer. So for me, I realized okay, I've gotta make X number of phone calls each and every day, I'm going to do that. At these times. I got real specific committed that process that was my extrordinary effort, and at the end of the push period in those last three days when I was thirteen thousand dollars away from my goal at felt once again impossible, and I do have to gonna make one really important point here that it's it's a it's a distinction. It's a nuance. If you're listening to this in your thinking man, but I don't I get it. Okay. I need to have unwavering faith that I can achieve this goal or this dream or you know, whatever it is. But that's easier said than done number one. You put it in writing you read it every day that the mantra that just mentioned rewinding listen to it. Right. It out put your goal into that goal. And you read that every day. And all of a sudden within a week, you start to believe it is starts to acclimate within your being within your emotional being within your physical. You start to feel the truth of the commitment that you are making because you're in control of the commitment. That's the unwavering faith and so for me. But here's the distinction. The distinction is Mike I didn't really believe I was going to reach the goal, and it's interesting. But that's my point my my lesson here. My distinction is you don't actually have to believe that you're going to reach the goal for the miracle question to work. And what I mean is if you would have said, how are you going to sell twenty thousand dollars in the next ten days will because my commitment to unwavering faith that decision was part of it was I'm not allowed to say anything other than I am committed to giving it everything I have to sell ten twenty thousand dollars and ten days those I decided those are the only words that are allowed to come out of my mouth. And they're the only words that I'm allowed to think about an expand on. Dwelling, meaning the fear the self-doubt when that shows up for me, in my mind, I replace it with this faith than I am not allowed to go down the rabbit hole of self doubt. Because that right that affects our behavioral effects are drive. And so, but if you would so huge, how are you going to sell ten thousand twenty thousand today? I was Mike. Absolutely. I am committed to giving everything I have until the last possible omen, and then if you would have said hell, really, well, why don't you put your money where your mouth is how much are you willing to bet? You know, how you ten thousand dollars a thousand dollars that you're not going to sell twenty thousand dollars and ten days. Mike, I wouldn't have taken that bet because I didn't actually believe I was going to do it. But it didn't change that. I was committed to those decisions maintaining wavering faith that I would do it that it was possible that I was committed to giving it everything had until the end and putting forth that extraordinary effort. It's it's the same way that the world's greatest athletes. Take a Michael Jordan, for example. Right. And it's little old school. But. The sure growing up, you know, he was the guy right for it. When when we were younger and Michael Jordan's the epitome of a champion. Because again when I was a kid I used to watch him. And if you think about a Michael Jordan or any world class athlete whether to another NBA player like Kobe Bryant or LeBron or whatever or it's it's a it's Serena Williams tennis. It's anybody. I believe that. I think we can all, you know, this is kind of common sense. Then you go. Okay. Yeah. I guess at some point in their career all of these call them miracle mavens people that understand how to create miracles, but all these world class athletes at some point in their in their journey to becoming the best at what they did. They made a decision either consciously or unconsciously to live through the lens of unwavering faith in the way where Michael Jordan when the ball hits his hands. He believes he will make every shot that he takes and that and that shown that's that's proven through through the. Way that he plays. Right. So you see most players if they take a shot, right, Mike, and they miss it. They go self doubt. Creeps in. They're like, oh shoot. Hope. It's not an off night tonight. If the ball hits their hands a second time, and they shoot and miss it. A second time the doubt amplifies it's like oh God. No, man. I am. I am off tonight. If the ball hits third time most people even NBA players some of the best in the world, right? They hesitate and they passed the ball to another teammate. Because now self doubt is dictating their behavior. And this is what happens for all of us. This is this reminds me of Conor McGregor right now expand because I'm always a huge fan. Yeah. Well, no, I mean, you know, he lost his last fight or two and everybody's doubting him. He's probably died and himself as you know, he news there. So it's gonna be very interesting. Interesting to see what happens act absolutely on I'll tell you Conor McGregor. Whether you like it or not I mean, I'm not a big fan of his outside, the cage antics at all. But but I can admire how. He approaches being the best at his crap it, and if you look at when he lost his first fight in the see that he lost was two Nate Diaz. Right. He went up. He went from one hundred forty five pounds Conor McGregor to one seventy two week classes right on a two week short. Notice fight Nate beats him chokes him out. So Connor, right? A true miracle, even I really believe that his he had he has unwavering faith that he can win every fight that he's in. We beat every opponent that he has. And so he immediately called for a rematch at the same way class, even though it was two classes of his and with unwavering faith and extraordinarily came back, and he'd beaten ideas. Right. And so that goes, Michael Jordan, even though no no basketball player can make every shot that they take just like, I didn't believe I knew that. It wasn't guaranteed that I was going to hit that goal. But it doesn't change that Michael Jordan maintains unwavering faith. Every time he takes shot and that shot is a metaphor. It's figurative for every time. We approach goal. It's the Lynn's unwavering faith needs to become the Lynn's through which you approach every opportunity that comes your way as well. As every challenge that you're faced with. Yeah. Agreed that as I'm sure we're about to find out here will provide miraculously results without a doubt. I mean, I can see that right now. Absolutely. In most recently. In fact, what led to this book being written? And you were part you were we were friends along this journey was I was diagnosed cancer two years ago. And I was given a thirty percent will actually a ten percent to thirty percent chance of surviving. And. Always I say this kind of lighthearted. But if I if you're if you're a pessimist, right? If you're a half is glass, glasses half empty person that is a seventy to ninety percent chance that you're going to die, right like them. And that's what I was being told. And to be a fall for me. Like, I'm actually I made peace with death along died when I was twenty read it was hit head on. You'll looted the my story in the beginning of the episode, right? I was hit by drunk driver at eighty miles an hour found dead at the scene died for six minutes. Flatlined twice more during a six-day coma. And was told I would never walk again. So I had already faced death, and I was really at peace with death. Okay. I'm death is inevitable and ready to go whenever it's time. And it's great great. But that is what it is. But when I was diagnosed with cancer it was a different ballgame. Because when I had my car accident, I was twenty I was single guy. And now, I've got you know, at the time a seven year old daughter in a four year old son and a wife of ten years who I absolutely adore. And to be told that there's a seventy to ninety percent statistic statistical chance that they're not gonna have a father in this. You know present that I'm going to die and leave my kids Dowd like that. That was the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with and the day. I was diagnosed I called my wife, she was out of town, which not not an easy to not ever here. But I called her and tell her what you know, what happened with the doctor said, and it was hardest phone call. I've ever had to make. You know, just knowing how receive at knowing that she'd received the reality of what may happen in. What was the doctors were saying was very likely to happen? And we cried together. And I said sweetheart, I know this is the hardest news we've ever gotten. But you know, when I tell you if you things number one, I have unwavering faith that I will beat this cancer. And I don't know if it was before I call it was after I called her, but I had journaled the question. What will I do to ensure that I beat cancer and live to be wondering, by the way, they can't the name of the cancer is acute lymphoblastic leukemia. And I said, what am I going? I wrote in the journal, what am I going to do? What will I do ensure that beat cancer and live long healthy one hundred plus your life with Ursula, and you know, in the kids and the answer that I came up with within minutes was the miracle question because I. Created it nineteen years ago. I told you as the story the push period the sales contest, and I ended up by the way, I think I don't know if I finish that story. But I ended up hitting the goal in the last hour on the last appointment, and it was a miraculous fashion. It was the wrong woman. The woman I was supposed to see for the point was not home for sister-in-law from Sweden flew into town who happened to be in the market for two of our complete sets of knives. Totally random totally miraculous hard to explain that's question came into for and that and the end. So what happened is right after that. I was so I was like that's crazy. But again, Mike the same thing we address earlier I felt I'm like, dude. What are the odds that this sister-in-law from Sweden is going to be there, and she happens to be in the market for high and knives. And she needs to sets one for her and her husband to take back to Sweden and one for her brother's fiftieth birthday party that she's visiting America for like, it was the most unbelievable circumstance you could ever imagine. And that's where I'm like this just feels really sorry to get for second. But it feels release in dip. It is like what the heck are the odds of that coming together the way that it did. And so I immediately I was coaching twelve of my colleagues, and I immediately taught them like, hey, all right for the next push period of got this strategy for you. It's kind of a woo Lucy strategy in terms of like, it's not like, you know, sin catalogues out to your past customers. It's right. It's it's a little more mindset kind of yada, yada. So I taught it to twelve of my colleagues and Mike we had a one hundred percent success rate. Every single one of them went out during their next push period. And they surpassed their previous best and a few of them broke all time company records and the validity of the formula to me grew. And I went wait a minute. This wasn't just me. This isn't just luck. If you this. These are literally the two fundamental decisions that are standing between people and their full potential, and then I started to kind of go out even beyond these twelve colleagues of mine and kind of went like just looking at world famous. Individuals successful prolific achieve. Vers innovators creators, I went these are the two fundamental decisions that every single one of them have made not just once, but they live by these. They approach every go every challenge with the unwavering faith in their ability to overcome it. They approach every opportunity with their unwavering faith in their own ability to to take advantage of it to maximize it and they're not lazy right now. They actually worked there about off. They put forth ordinary effort and do intelligent effort into whatever's necessary until the chiefs revolt, and that's why the rest of the world sits back and marvels at what I call miracle. Mavens these people that create these amazing results that we don't have to marvel anymore. Like, that's what this book is these are the two decisions. And so when I had cancer I looked back and I went these are the two decisions the miracle. Quesion is literally the formula that I've used to defy the odds in the past. It's what we talked about on the last episode. We. Learn to walk again with the doctor. So they never would. It's how I sold one point seven million copies the miracle morning. Like, this is the formula that separates us from the statistics. I thought the seventy percent of people that sadly, don't survive they're not living the miracle. Quesion most of us rate when you're giving a cancer diagnosis like that. And seventy percent chance of dying. You live in fear. You live out the rest of your life. Whether you know, and hopefully that's a long life but often for seventy percent of people. It's not. And I don't I don't know each personal Beasely, but you can imagine just the general idea that yeah. Probably living with a lot of fear. When you're told that you only have ten to thirty percent chance of living. I didn't do that. So that Matt removes you from the statistics when you change your mindset right in the same way, the doctor would never walk again. But unwavering faith that I would and three weeks after I was found dead in my leg, broken half. The doctors came in with routine x rays and said how we don't know how to explain it. But your body is healing so quickly. We're gonna let you take your first step in therapy tomorrow. And it was like that was faster than I thought. But again, it's that mind body connection. It's that you remove yourself from the statistics. So that you can and will defy the odds in any era of your life that you're attempting to do that. Powerful, man. Powerful stuff. That's awesome. I love how you taken such an abstract principle in the activity that we've all observed and others, and we've probably all experience at least once in our lives and you've made attainable. Which is just really really really powerful. Thank you, brother them. Yeah. Absolutely. I'm sitting here while you're talking like, okay happen. I play this my life. So. Free to stop being so lazy and accepting so much to do something with your life. On still working on my sleep things. So that's that's going to be number one. So let me ask you this. What if you have multiple areas of in life that you want to use this end? Do you have two or three of these that you can repeat at the same time? She focus simply on one that you handle that. That's really a question in it is on I could are all kind of argue all play devil's advocate arguable sites. But all I dress the way that I talk about this in the book in the book, there's an entire chapter dedicated to this topic, and it's about your mission. And I when I was to two thousand five the year two thousand five it was my last year with the company, and I actually was it was going to not be my last year. I was going to be already done I had hit hall of fame. And then I was like that's like the crowning achievement. Got nothing else to prove of Philip IV kind of full potential here. I really want to be an author really wanna be a keynote speaker, and you know, go down that route. And so I went to my what was going to be my last company conference. And like, I I was I was checked out mentally emotionally. Meaning like normally it'd be taking notes trying to improve myself. I was like, dude, I'm done. I'm just going to relax and just collect my got some awards to collect is wanna see my friends. And this is my last soak it all in my last chance to be at a coke on prince, you know, and while I was in the audience the. Two top sales reps in our region for that year. They collected the coveted Rolex and the Rolex was a award for selling two hundred thousand dollars of cut co in a year. Now, my pre my I was one of the top reps. But the two hundred thousand Mark was kind of like the format mile. It had only been done a couple years prior. Whereas the previous best ever was one hundred fifty one thousand so it was like this. Somebody did me. In fact, the funny part is my business partner. Now, John Berg is the first person that ever SEL tune it thousand dollars a year the year before our couple years before. And so I'm sitting in the audience and my biggest year ever was. I did a couple of years like one five and one of six I'm sitting there, and I watched them they're Rolexes, and I have the feeling of like the pain of unfulfilled potential seep into like, my heart into my gut. And I go how I'm like my head. I go you never did that like you're about to leave this company, and you. Never really fulfilled, your potential you. Never see I commission job. I was always wear. I would you know. My started nineteen it was really young. So making fifty grand a year was great money for my early twenties. And basically, I would work for pushing at break a record earn ten thousand dollars. And then I'd like take the next two weeks off the next three weeks off. Right. And it was go spend the money run out of money. And then I would we another sales contest coming up. Let's go work again that that's how I work that was never consistent weaken and week out doing it like a job, you know, like a professional over the whole year. And I realized that in that moment, and I went I'm I'm about to leave here having never developed the discipline to be consistent. And I mentioned earlier. That's what makes effort extraordinary is consistency. Right. And so I thought I can't accept that. Like, I can't if I leave, and I think that's an important lesson for all of us that the greatest value. It's not what you do. But who you become right that that's what matters and. Of course, the irony is how you do what you do is what determined to you become right? Do you do it with disciplined, you do it with consistency? Do you do it with enthusiasm? Right. So I realized I have to give it one more year. And I have to give it everything I've got to do it. I've got to become an here's the thing. It wasn't to win. The Rolex that was icing on the cake. It wasn't even to earn the hundred my one hundred thousand dollar income year. It was literally for the ultimate benefit would in my mind to become the person that I need to be that has that has the capabilities, and the mindset anything else to achieve everything else. I want for my life forever. Not just this year. Not. So so it goes back to what we talked about earlier, which is the real purpose of a goal. You know is to become the type of person that can achieve huge goals in the future. And so that was it. So I went out that year. Now, I had to double my income. Right. Doubling myself. I mean, increasing your income by your sales. You're. By ten percent or twenty five percent of fifty percent. It's a big increase. But to do it by one hundred percent when you feel like now, I worked pretty hard to be one of the top reps those other years and hit those numbers, and it's going to be how many double that? It was really intimidating. What I did is back to the extraordinary effort piece. I broke down the process. I simply went back into my planner back, then it was literally written physical planner eight two thousand five and planner. And I luckily kept stats on every time. I made phone calls. I would tally my calls for the day. How many calls I made how many points? I said how many points did for the day? So I got to go back out my entire year and go, okay. How many calls did I make to hit my previous best? If I want to double the result double the outcome. It's as simple as doubling that process. And when I found is well, I averaged it was something like twenty point two or twenty one point two calls a day five days a week. So basically one hundred calls a week twenty. Today to five as we to sell one hundred thousand dollars of my product, and I thought so wait a minute. The doubling might results and my sales total my income. That's intimidating. But if I actually look at what will will do that? It's really just doubling the process and making forty phone calls a day is nothing crazy about an hour to make twenty phone call. So I thought making forty phone calls, and you're listening, by the way like getting into the weeds little here because this is a really important lesson. Right. And this is by the way to tie back in tier will what if you have more than one goal, right? This is all you can tell tell I set context and then try to deliver that answer. But but to the point is I went, okay. Twenty phone calls takes about an hour a day. I've made forty phone calls in a day during push periods. Many time to something. It's not hard. I can do two hours of calls a day. And then I went wait a minute. This almost seems to easy like my missing something here if I were to just go from an hour calls a day to two hours of calls a day super simple. I would increase my income by one. One hundred percent. That's crazy. It seems too. Good to be true into easy. But I'm here to tell you. That's how it works. Right. And so that year I decided to make forty phone calls a day five days a week just an extra hour on the phone not hard and that year saw two hundred and five thousand dollars and change and had my first hundred thousand dollar income. You're you know, six figure income year and the goal now. Here's here's the answer to your question. What if you have more than one goal that's important that you want to apply this to that year. It was the best year of my life by far in fact, while I strive make every year the best year. I don't know that I've ever made a quantum leap from average to extraordinary for mediocre miracles. Whatever. That than I did that year. And here's what happened going into the year. I thought okay, I've got this huge goal to double my income. If that's all I do if I w income and if during the year, I put on weight and I'm unhealthy. But if I if I hit that goal like that goal so meaningful like, dude, I could fall apart the rest of the year, and I'll pick everything back back up next year. Like even care. I thought wait. I don't wanna do that. I wanna make this the best year of my life in every single area. I wanna get in the best shape of my life, physically both through diet and through exercise. And I thought I actually wanna get I wanna get both. I've never I had never been really muscular was always kinda skinny. So I set a goal to put on twenty pounds of muscle. I also decided I want I want to look ahead. I wanna be an author. So why don't I write my book wall? I'm hitting my sales goal. I'm gonna write my first book. That's that's that was another goal. I thought my dream is to be a keynote speaker. My goal is to get my first. Paid speaking engagement, even it's only one this year. And then early on I hired a coach that your help me. And then I within about a month coaching. I thought I wanna be a coach the way this guy is changing my life. And my mindset this is what I I was meant to be a coach. And so I thought I want to launch a coaching business this year. So that I can transition from my sales career into having a book published a coaching business launch and being on on my journey of becoming a ten thousand dollar paid. Keynote speaker, right? That was going to go back then and also wanted to meet my wife, I thought you know, what I'm like, I'm done dating. I'm ready to start to settle down and start a family. So my pretty big amount of goals for the year. Right. Like pretty significant goals if any one of those happened it would have usually been like a stellar year. I thought I want all make all these happen. Now that I know all of them would happen. No. And here's what I did. And this is the lesson. I got clear on my mission for the year. And what I mean by that is we all extending goals fun. It's a cute activity. We do it every year half the time, we know subconsciously we're not actually committed to these goals. They're just funding to set imagine happening. And then at the end of the year, you don't hit most of them, and then he'd do that fun cute activity again. And makes you feel good while you do it. Right. A lot of personal element. Right. Affirmations? Make you feel good. If you don't do them the right way, but they don't do anything. So I going into that year. I clarified languages powerful. Right. The language. We use affects how we feel about what we're talking about what we're thinking about or focusing on. And so mission to me emission pulls a lot more weight than a goal, right? Like humanitarian organizations carry out missions, the military carries out mich- their life or death mission. It's not their goal to not die. Like, no. This is our mission. We are fully committed to executing in away. Right. This is the mission. And so for me, here's what I did. I thought okay. I have all these goals. And what most of us do is. We give equal importance to each goal by not giving. More important to any goal. Right. Not not prioritizing and just going all these are only goal and work towards all of them. And usually make a little bit of progress on each one usually we don't achieve all definitely not all of them, usually not most of them. Sometimes none of them. Right. And what I decided is I need to focus, and then the other there's a great book that wasn't out then, but I'm sure you've read it the one thing by Keller and Jay Papa Assan. Right. And I'm a huge fan of that book. And this is how they would teach you to set goals as well ahead of my time like years ago, but but I ended up so I thought I'm going to have a mission. And then here's the way this plays out in in your schedule in real time. I thought every so I've got one mission. And then got I think seven other goals. Let's say right, right. The book launch speaking career getting the best shape my life. Meet my wife, you know, started coaching business. Let's say roughly five six seven of goals. And so I went I'm not allowed to work on my goals until I've fallen through with the predetermined process that I've determined will make cheating my mission in. Evitable? And so it made it real simple every day when I woke up instead of that internal conflict of like, what do I feel like doing should I answer emails right now. Should I go to the gym? Should I work on that book that you know, right? No, no, no. I'm not allowed to work on any of my goals until I've followed through with what I have predetermined and committed to will move my mission from possible to probable to inevitable. So every morning I made twenty my twenty phone calls, and I wasn't allowed to do anything else until I did. And then I earned the right by executing my mission I earned the right to work on the rest of my goals at the end of the day. I had another twenty phone calls my schedule, and it was strategic where in the morning call. You know, women that men and women, but it was mostly women. I'm not going to be sexist just away was right? That that stayed at home with the kids, and they could call I knew they were home during the day for more often than not they weren't at work. I would always ask them points in the evening. I would call, you know, husbands, and wives that both were working during the day. So. Got him in the evening, right? So that was my commitment the process. So here's what happened that year. I achieved every single goal that. I just told you about I launched my coaching business. I transitioned into your having twelve coaches. I mean, twelve clients paying me I mentioned earlier, but pay me five dollars a month. I think and so yeah, I think I can't remember it's been a long time. It doesn't. So I had twelve clients. I wrote my book and publish my book taking my head on. I gave my first paid. Speaking engagement, actually, give to five hundred dollars for countrywide home loans. They're not around anymore, and that was two thousand five and then and then one for a nonprofit in in Pennsylvania. So I got down to five point seven percent body fat do not know if that's healthy and put on twenty pounds of muscle met, my wife Ursula who I am now married to with two kids ended a few other like every single one of the goals. And so this is that was the longest answer ever to your question. What if you have more than one goal? Yes. Apply the miracle quesion to every single one. Just make sure that you prioritize that have every goal. What is the one that is your mission? That is the most meaningful that will make the biggest impact on your life on the quality of your life on your success on your future and most imp-. Certainly on you becoming a miracle. Even on you becoming the person that you need to be who has the ability to create everything that you want your life long beyond any individual goal. Love man, super powerful, super powerful, concept and the interviews write-off. The least are usually the best might think this is one of this. I warned the beginning. I'm going to be on fire. He'll ask me like three questions. No. But I'm just sitting here thinking, and I can't wait to dive into the book, and and to go through this use this in my life. So I'm just out. So. Yes. Usually a sign that I'm lost in thought around whatever you're saying, so while awesome brothers. So where should people go besides Amazon to pick up a copy of the book? I know that you said you've been given out some additional bonuses to people who by copying all of that. Good stuff. What's the scoop? So. Yeah. So this is my first I written twelve or thirteen books. They're all self published except this is the first the miracle. Question is traditionally published by harmony of penguin Random House? And so that means you can get anywhere books are sold. Not just Amazon target dot com. Walmart dot com Barnes and noble. But yeah, we're doing really special. So I I really as you can tell I'm very convicted very passionate about this message, and how people so I hired my first ever higher of a book launch manager. And I'm working with Tim Grohl who is phenomenal. And what I love him as he's very he's not about gaming the system. He's about organic. You know connection to readers value. Add and so this was his his strategy. And this is what we're doing. We're doing really special for if you're listening to this right now if you go to the book and forward your receipt to miracle question at g mail dot com. You'll get one thousand three hundred and forty seven dollars in preorder bonuses or order if your book probably out today, but but you can pre-order order the book and forty receipt, and what you'll get is. And these are brand new relevant bonuses. That's Tim's thing is how don't do it a lot do which is where they like dust off all their old courses and stuff and just throw a big random hodgepodge package. 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188: How to Get out of Credit Card Debt | Feedback Friday

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188: How to Get out of Credit Card Debt | Feedback Friday

"Welcome to feedback Friday. I'm your host Jordan harbinger. And I'm here with producer Jason to Filipo here on the Jordan harbinger show. We love having conversations with our fascinating guests and this week. We had David Smalley talking about his quest to rid the world of bed thinking, he's actually an atheist and a super sharp guy when it comes to rhetorical arguments and logic. We also had my friend Hal Elrod talking about the magic of consistent effort over time, and is amazing recovery from dying twice dying twice and recovering from a super rare form of leukemia. I also write every so often on the blog the latest post is ten important things. I've learned from interviewing over a thousand people I basically went through with Gabriel and went through all of these older episodes and tried to find some patterns in the thinking of successful people that have had on the show over the past twelve years and probably tried and failed. But at least tried and put forth, a great effort to distill that into ten, discreet ideas. That's at Jordan. Harbinger dot com slash articles. So make sure you've had a look at that article and listen to the earlier episodes from this week. Of course, our primary mission is to pass along our guests experiences and insights to you as well as our experiences and insights to you. In other words, real purpose of the shows to have conversations directly with you. That's what we do every Friday here on feedback. Friday, you can reach us at Friday at Jordan, harbinger dot com. So how's it coming with prepping for the baby you get everything? In order is your studio dismantled for the new the new crib? That's going to go where your microphone used to be no way. I'm not moving anything. I'm Jamie, baby. Maybe no. That thing is sleeping probably in our bedroom for several months, right? Isn't that works? And then you do some sleep training, which I know nothing about and that's going to go in the office area. And I'm just gonna always work from either downstairs or in my studio, and Jen will probably work right next to the baby as the baby sleeps, and poops, and cries, whatever babies do, and I think we're or Horgan she'll she'll love it. I think we're safe for a minute on that. I have a feeling she's going to be doing. He's gonna be pretty busy. You know? So I'm letting her dictate this. But no, I've got at least one room in the house where I can do whatever the hell I want. It's a little small because it's the studio, but I'm like, okay, I need to put a chair in here where I can put like my X box or something, you know. I don't know. I need some place where I can you need your, man. I need a man cave. Yeah. Exactly. And we may even move now not now. But you know, we may. Be moving soon buying another house, which has always really fun and easy here on early. Just throw a couple jillion dollars down and pick up new pad that you have to tear down and rebuild. So yeah, there's a we'd like to pile it on all at once here at the harbinger household may moving having kids building a business. You know what else? Can we throw in there? I think he might want to go back and religion to our podcast with a minimalist. You definitely like to pile it on. That's right. That's right. Jason what's the first thing out of the mailbag triple j I've been thinking about telling my family about my debt issues for the last few months. I'm currently carrying about thirteen thousand dollars in credit debt. That's barely going down with every month payment. It got bad during the time when my wife was in graduate school wasn't working. So my credit card took the hit, she's helping, but it still isn't totally manageable. I don't expect my family to step up and give me money, but the peace of mind, knowing that I'm not hiding my problems seems it may take some weight off our shoulders. We seem to be an unmotivated funk because this debt is crippling our newlywed lifestyle. Thanks for your show. And can't wait to hear your thoughts. Signed indebted debtor so debt is always so stressful. It really limits your freedom. It's a huge pain. I totally get it. I feel your pain here. I would say telling your family really depends on the family. Will they add to the stress or will? They be understanding. And it seems like they'll be understanding. Are you wouldn't even be tempted to tell them because I feel like people whose families non understanding. It's like I can't tell them. It's to be horrible. Yeah. I've got you know, probably eighty thousand dollars in debt. And if I told my family, there'd be on me every second of every day. Get it paid down. Get it done. Get it get it taken care. It would add so much to my stress. So it definitely depends on the support structure of the family. He the eighty thousand dollars in debt. Yeah. Yeah. Stupid stupid decisions when I was a contractor and the IRS really just likes to hate me right now. So what are you going to do? That is crazy. Wow. That's a whole subject for not on the show. Well, if you ever want to talk about how to get out of under from the IRS, I can tell you how not to do it. I've got twenty years of experience on that one on how how not to get away with it. Exactly. I have very little dead. I have a not to rub it in your face. Yeah. But you know, I don't know anybody. No, I I have a mortgage and things like that. But I don't have any credit card. I never have. I was always afraid of it. But I understand his situation here because your wife wasn't working and she was in school, and you had to survive. I mean, I don't want to re rationalize or justify anything. But sometimes people have a decent reason for going into it. I would share with the people who care that's always good if they're supportive, and who knows your family might give you a loan to pay it down over time. You might have somebody says, hey, look, you know, you're going to inherit this anyways. Here you go pay me back a thousand dollars a month, or whatever you can do you never know. It's also possible that they'll just lend an ear which makes things less stressful and more manageable and many of us have our own debt stories Jason obviously, I used to have think like one hundred sixty eight thousand student loans in my twenties and early thirties, which obviously that took a lot of effort to pay off and on a tactical side. I'm wondering if you've called the credit card companies to ask them to lower the interest rate in waive fees with the idea that you are repaying them as often we can simply tell them. We're trying our best sending regular payments and any help you can get in making this more manageable would be amazing. You'd be really surprised how often you can turn or they can turn twenty two percent into fourteen or fifteen percent just because you asked and you told them you were drowning in it because credit card companies like to retain their customers because we customers are actually pretty expensive to acquire. And that's something. We don't think about we think banks have all the leverage credit card companies have all the leverage they have leveraged. But really they want to keep you around because it can cost them like five hundred plus dollars to get a qualified customer that stays with them for ten twenty thirty whatever years, they they've calculated all of this. And they figure that into what they're going to give you that's why places like American Express will be like, oh, you lost a thing. And it was the three thousand dollars where you're a platinum member. So we're going to write it off. You know, they that that is cheaper for him to do. And frankly, you need a plan of attack to get rid of this debt one figure out which car. If you have more than one has the highest interest rate and Ramiz safety, a good friend of mine from I will teach you to be rich dot com. He says don't use your cards, literally put them in a plastic bowl of water, and then shove the bowl in the freezer. So you won't be tempted to use your cards, and if you are you'll have plenty of time to think about why you're want to use them when you're chipping amount of an ice. Block. Look, I'm sure there are less dramatic ways to do this. This is obviously the funnest. So I implore you freeze those Frazier credit whether literally freeze your credit. This is also my favorite part. I've got a script here. This is also from remit safety. Follow the script negotiate a lower interest rate. It can save you thousands of dollars. Not many people realize this. You can actually save thousands of dollars in interest with a single five minute phone call you essentially are lowering the APR on your credit card which puts a lot of dough back in your pocket because thirteen thousand dollars if you do the minimum payment over time. It could you could pay thirty grand on that easily easily. You can. Yeah. You could pay twenty Kate interest on that over time. I like negotiating interest rates wherever possible, and it's crazy simple. So here's a word for word script, courtesy for me. So Jason, let's let's put on our Shakespeare hats. All right. This out. Let us act some for remit say tea, of course, act one. Hi, I'm going to be paying off my credit card debt more aggressively beginning next week, and I'd like to lower my credit cards interest rate of whi while I've decided to be more aggressive about paying off my debt. And that's why I'd like to lower the interest rate. I'm paying other cards are offering me rates at half of what you are offering can you lower my rate by fifty percents or forty percents after reviewing your account. I'm afraid we can't offer you a lower interest rate. Sorry. Well, as I mentioned before other credit cards from your competitors. Are offering me zero percent introductory rates for twelve to eighteen months as well as APR's that are maybe half of what you're offering. I've been a customer. For three years or however many years, and I'd prefer not to switch all of my balance over to a lower interest card with a competing Bank. Can you match the other credit card rates or can you go any lower? I see let me pull something up here. Fortunately, the system is suddenly letting me offer you a reduced APR. That is immediately. How about that? Yeah. How about that? Right. I know we're dramatizing this. But here's the thing. They have a note in their system or some supervisor knows that if you call, and you go cool what I'm doing is leaving because they think you don't know that you can leave. They think you think and you might that since you know, the money you don't have a choice because you can't leave you owe the money you can pay them off by taking a loan from somebody else that offers you a better interest rate and somebody else is probably going to be a competing Bank. That would rather have you as a customer? That's why they do euro percent API cards. They know that if they loan you money for free. They could have made X dollars on that money, but it's cheaper than paying for to acquire you as a customer in another way. So that's why they offer these offers you can take that same balance and transferred over to another car. They have to let you do that. They cannot force you to stay a customer. They have to they force you to pay the money back, but how they get that money back. Whether it's from a competitor or whether it's your hard earned dollars coming in overtime. They don't have a choice in that. That is that that's not legal for them to inhibit or control in any way. So they know that when you call and you say I've got another offer in my hand that allows me to transfer that balance that I owe you for zero percent interest for eighteen months. Can you lower the rate? They'll go oh crap. We're gonna lose this guy. And that's how you go from twenty two percent to eleven percent or whatever in five minutes. Well, plus your twenty five minute. Hold time. Right. Exactly. Yeah. You're sixty ninety minute whole time. I've actually done this when rehab came out. I followed the script his book. I will teach you to be rich. I used to have a thirty seven point five percent APR on my AmEx cards because I missed a few payments. Dang braille. Yeah. So I called him up. I'm like, look, I've got an offer from another card zero percents APR with a balanced transfer. What can you do for me because I like having my AmEx card? It's great for my points. And they went from thirty seven point five percent to fourteen percent with a phone call boom, easy enough. That's really impressive. And I think about this yet. It's annoying. Yeah. You've got to figure out how to get to the right person. And you've got to stay on hold and there social pressure, and you've got to use negotiation script think about the hourly payment though, like let's say that you're nervous about this for a full hour while you prepare your shaky mess or even a whole day. Right. It's ruining your day. You just saved like twenty grand. You could let it ruin two months of your life. It's still it's so worth it. So go, and do it just suck it up and do it because worst thing. Here's the worst case scenario, they say, no. And then you go online they can't raise your interest rate. They can't do anything worse to you. So then you go online, and you just look for zero percent APR credit card offer, and you call them, and you go can I do a balance transfer? I'm getting hosed by this card, and they'll be like. Yep. They'll be like welcoming you with open arms come on over buddy. Oh, you you got zero percents APR for twelve month. Offer. Can I have eighteen months? Hold on. Let me see if I can ask my supervisor. Oh, gee, look, we can do eighteen months. Yup. You know, the you'll be surprised you should pay that you should be able to pay this off theoretically with not really any more interest, or at least a significant reduction what I don't recommend doing because I know what some of you creative mo- Foser thinking what if I just do a balance transfer to one pay a little bit of it off do a balance transfer to another pay a little bit of it off. You don't wanna do that? Because you pay a fee for balance transfers, and it's certain percentage. I can't remember off the top of my head. What it is. But it certainly cheaper than twenty two percent. Compounded over time by it's cheaper by thousands of dollars tens of thousands, potentially. So you don't wanna keep paying money on. You don't wanna keep paying fees on the money that you've borrowed you want to get rid of the debt, especially because it does damage your credit score to have outstanding debt for that long. But you certainly don't want to be do fricken bailing water out of a boat. That's taking on more water every single day, and compounding that's just now you're just treading water while adding weights, and that's that's not a good way to live. It's going to stress you out hope that helps. All right, what's next deer? Triple j my wife recently had surgery for the removal of a seven pound ovarian tumor and hysterectomy. The doctors have found no additional signs of cancer after her follow up, but even going into the follow up. She was convinced. She had stage four cancer throughout her body. The doctor finally diagnosed her with stage one and is continuing to monitor her on a quarterly basis. Now, every other pain has been diagnosed by her is cancer. None of the other doctors have found anything wrong with her except for a Ford. Eighteen pound weight loss identified post-surgery seven pounds of which probably was the tumor. How can I encourage my wife that every pain she has is into cancer. I've recommended therapy. But she refuses to go, and I can't take the stress of her feeling pain everywhere in no, doctor finding anything even after extensive testing any ideas on how to get her to think more, positively about aging pains. Thank you living with a hypochondriac PS for Jason deliver trying to end on a positive note. Why is that so ridiculous and funny every time all right? It's just one of those things deliver rule was the name of that company where the driver got attack. Deliver is a British delivery company for food. Do they have bike messengers driving around London and Benedict Cumberbatch? You play Sherlock Holmes was on his way to an award ceremony where he saw four guys getting or beating up a delivery driver. And he jumped out of the car beat off the drivers and saved the delivery driver and ever since that every time we say deliver on grumpy old geeks. I always have to say it in a British accent. I would like some delivered. Yeah. That's where it comes from. It's true. Because it does sound ridiculous objectively like, there's no scenario in which deliver delivery can't be said ridiculously and doesn't also sound completely British and silly at the same time, but how bad ass is it that Benedict Cumberbatch who played Sherlock Holmes jumps out of. I dunno tag, a London taxi. Vicky was in an Uber on his way to an award ceremony like dressed to the nines. And it was right around the corner from two twenty one b Baker street. And so everybody that saw it's like Sherlock Holmes is out here kicking some guy's ass right around the corner from his house. How cool is that yet? Where are the cameras it looks? So real exactly are they doing episode. What's going on here? They who cast the delivery driver. He's not really playing its part is just cowering on the ground. Yeah. I was at re is that that's really good-looking blood that they've got going on there looks so real. Yeah. I can imagine like just being around that is. So what? Bad s I try to think like, what would I do if I saw somebody getting salted? And I don't know if I'd be like, well what I would do is jump out of my car and my tuxedo and getting the mix of the take onto assailants. Like, I I'm not so sure about that. Well since he's British. He says I might have to resort to fisticuffs. So right, it they they they get that whole like leprechaun looking fighting stance. Lists faced up word their palms up knuckles front knuckles yet. Knuckles front. Yeah. Exactly. Anyway on that. We just turn that darkness into light for second. He did say he wanted to end on a positive note. So he did nailed it. Yeah. This is shame though. I totally understand I empathize. Why she feels like her body is betrayed her. Every little pain can be cancer. Think about almost dying or thinking about being under the knife and going through all that seven pounds is a massive tumor. I mean, that's it's huge. So I can understand maybe she ignored pain before she had cancer. And then she blames herself for that. So every little pain is like are, you sure, I'm not. Sick. Are you? Sure, I'm not sick. I understand that one hundred percent. Why does she refused to go to therapy is when I'm wondering, I I think maybe she doesn't want to admit that she might be overreacting. She doesn't want to be talked out of her anxiety on this because it's comforting to her. She's probably also had enough doctors and waiting rooms and all that other BS and doesn't want to be told that she's crazy on top of being sick. I get that. What I would do is recommend something like better help. And they are a sponsor, but they did not compensate us for this. If you use the code, which I believe is better help dot com slash Jordan. If use the code, they do like me more. So please do that. And you do get something for free. Do we know what they get Jason for free? You get ten percent off your first month. Okay. You get ten percent off your first month. I do recommend using it. It's convenient. She can do it from home. There's no more waiting rooms. There's no doctor visit type stuff it's more like a chat with a super qualified friend. And that's recommend. Because she does need to get this handled. It's a tough one. And Jason you used better. Help didn't you? Yeah. I've got you know, my personal anxiety issues. I've got like generalized anxiety disorder, which I've talked to my therapist through better help with and I do the phone consultations, and we've chatted a few times on text just to set up the calls. And then we just talk on the phone, and he's really helped me work through a lot of my issues without having to go anywhere without having to drive and sit in traffic and sit in the waiting room in the waiting room for me is my kryptonite sitting there with other people who are waiting to see that. There is just like you're looking at each other side eyed and going what's wrong with you? What's wrong with you? What's wrong with you? You don't have that. With better help, you can just make a phone call and talk to a super qualified therapist. That is really good at your problem. That's why they have a little they have a survey at the beginning of the process where they match you with somebody who is qualified in what you want to talk about. And it for me. It's been fantastic. I have you know, my. Diety is melting away with every call that I have with my therapist. And I really really can't recommend it enough. It has been fantastic for me personally. So if she doesn't want to like have the stigma of going to therapist, she can do it herself in her own time, and nobody even has to know, but it's going to help her get past that hypochondria that thinking that every little ache and pain is cancer. And you know, I think what you said before Jordan like, you know, she may have ignored those aches and pains in then she has gone to the other side of the spectrum after she did have this tumor and have it removed is like, okay, I Nord this my whole life. You know? I was a tough cookie. Nothing's ever going to bother me. Oh, it turns out. Well, the something was wrong. And now every little ache and pain is turning into catastrophes in the situation where it might not be warranted. Exactly. Yeah. I think it's tough. It will potentially solve itself over time as she begins to trust her body, more and is less traumatized by the cancer, which comes through therapy 'cause waiting it out waiting for. Broken leg to heal without getting cast. And a lot of people are afraid to take care of their mental health. And for me doing that. As one of the best things I've ever done for myself, you need to stay sane. You know, when you're going through a tough time get there, I get people not wanting to go to doctors and waiting rooms. But now you don't have to do that anymore. So please keep us posted on how that goes. And definitely try better. I think they must have some sort of guarantee. I I'm I don't know if they do but better help dot com slash Jordan. We've got nothing but good feedback on this. And also, you might want to try it yourself because you're having to deal with this, and you might need a therapist as well just to like talk you through the entire process of what she's going through. So it might help you as well. I that's a good point. You could both use it. I would imagine especially, and if you do it she might be like, oh, well, if you're doing it, then maybe it doesn't mean, I'm crazy. You're not looking at me. And judging me you're doing yourself that kind of thing. This is feedback Friday. We'll be right back after this. This episode is sponsored in part by better help a lot of people have been emailing me and asking me about therapy. I highly recommend therapy for all sane people. I think it's a great way to stay sane and manage any kind of Bs that's going on and a lot of people can't get to therapy either because of price or because of time, and I totally get that better. Help consult this problem. 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He's had episodes before and dealt with him by either waiting it out or seeing a therapist. I did what I could to be there for him and his kids from a previous relationship through that whole process. It was hard on all of this. I went to a psychologist to cope with his depression while simultaneously being in a challenging job situation myself. I felt like I had failed him when he dumped me I was embarrassed to talk about it to others in developed social anxiety because I couldn't deal with people bringing it up without me, bursting into tears which heavily affected, my work, performance and still is. Although it's getting better we own a house together that we're renovating, although I chose to keep it. I'm mad at him for leaving me in this mess, the house needs so much renovation still and the whole project is just overwhelming, especially since I don't really have anyone to help me out. We're also fighting over how to manage this whole process of me taking over the house in buying him out, which also makes me feel bad. But again. Don't want to be nice when he's asking me to buy him out for more than the houses worth since. It's literally an unfinished mess. I assume there's no right answer for this. But it feels like I've painted myself into a corner, I'm ridden by feelings of wanting to blame him blaming myself for not being good enough in struggling to see what I can learn from this situation. I feel like I've wasted years of my life, and that I'm failing on managing my life in general, how do you deal with blame and taking responsibility. After a break-up any advice on how to move on is very much appreciated kind regards break-up blame. This is a big mess. You are correct. While it's important to realize though that depression, isn't something we can fix in other people just as we can't fix it. If they get any other disease, even if this was fixable. It wasn't your responsibility. And this might seem callous, but what I mean is that you're shifting all the blame for his condition onto yourself. And I actually wrote an article about blame specifically at Jordan. Harbinger dot com. Home slash articles as where you can find the articles. I think I mentioned that earlier in the episode the articles called how to stop blaming other people when things go wrong and we'll link to that in the show notes, but it's all about the idea of balancing accountability slash blame. The idea, of course, is to achieve that balance in a proper way and detail that in the article this piece was really helpful to a lot of people. We got a lot of great feedback on it. So I do recommend that you read it it'll help you realize what type and amount of blame you can accept as well as how much you should accept. So that you can move on in a healthy way as for the trauma and anxiety. Seek therapy. I'm not gonna go into the whole better help dot com slash Jordan thing because we did discuss it. But again, try better help, and at least have someone who can start you working towards balance. Now what you're feeling is pretty normal. And it makes sense that people asking about it would trigger you and get you upset. I would make it clear that you don't wanna talk about. That was certain people. You can literally say I really don't want to talk about this. It's really upsetting. I'm still upset about it. You could say that. It's fine. You can lean on your friends as well. It might actually help to get some of that off your chest. Like, hey, look. I know you've been asking me about this. I we gotta talk about this. But in private it's really upsetting. I'm gonna cry. You know, you will know which friends can handle that every nobody should be making small talk about it. And if they do you can just change the subject, and they should get the hint. But you might want to get some of that off your chest with your close friends. It is healthy to do that as for the house that is really a cluster whose name is on the house. That's the first thing. The first thing if both your names are on the house, stop putting money into it, immediately and consultant attorney if your name is on the house stop putting money into it and consulted attorney anyway, because if there's any sort of like, well, it's have his and that it you could lose the investment, you need to have someone mediate this dispute before it gets out of hand if what he's asking for is unreasonable, then stop building the mutually owned at asset ASAP. This could really escalate you could lose the invest. Moment, you could end up having it tied up in some sort of mess legally. I know you're worried about being nice or being too nice. But one this is a business transaction time to put on your cold hearted Bish hat and get a deal done. And if you need to have an attorney do the talking for you because you're non-confrontational or something then do it. That's fine. Also remodels are a pain. I get it. Tell the contractor your situation. See if slowing things down is even possible and would be helpful and advisable in terms of managing this. You know, they might say, hey, if you want to not do the bathroom right away or you wanna stop doing that? Or just start doing this? They they should understand. And I know you might have deposits in stuff. So talk to them and tell them what's going on and talk to an attorney at the same time, you need people on in your corner on this not in the dark last. But not least are you taking care of yourself. Are you working out you need to be when I hit the wall early last year with the split from the last business, which was totally surprising in a lot of ways and super on still continue. To be like super unfair and ridiculous. I took walks. I talked to friends I hit the gym. I got as much sleep as my body needed slash could get and sleep is harder to control. I know you're busy, but you need to at least hit the gym for twenty minutes and take a walk each day. Trust me, it'll improve your mood that'll make dealing with everything else a ton easier, and you might wanna talk to your boss about this this way, she sort of knows what's going on. If you seem out of it or you seem distracted most people are sympathetic and now is the time to rally your support network. Make it a point to do therapy. Get exercise and talk to a friend at least even five minutes a day. If you can you've got this. It's a trying time, but you've got this. And if you're going to buy him out, you need to do it properly and make sure that you're not building up the asset. In the meantime, because the there might be a situation, which you need the house appraised, and then you're like, oh, well, I already paid for this renovation. And they're like, yeah. That's going into the appraisal. Because you just did that like, yeah. But I paid for that. And they're like, yeah. But it's still going to be this. And then you've got could take that to him and go, well it's worth this much except for I paid for this renovation. So you got to subtract that it's just making it more complex, so talk to professionals on this. You can do this. And look it sounds kind of rough. But you're better. I know you said, no, no one's there to help me if he's that depress. He's not going to help you. Anyway, you are better off in this situation without him. You know, you you can't be responsible for him, and you and the house and everything else, you just can't do it. You're taking on too much read that article Lincoln in the show nuts next up. Hey, jordan. I remember on an episode. You mentioned a cool way to visit another country to hire a local to hang out with you and show you around. Please remind me how you found someone to take you around. Was it a specific website or some other way? Thanks in advance looking for a local cool. Yeah. So what I do what I've done in the past. I went on couch, surfing dot org is a nonprofit website nonprofit organism. Nation, and you make friends with people tell them you're coming to their area. A lot of them will either let you stay there. And or you simply say, hey, actually, I wanted just meet up for coffee or a drink. And you could say something like, you know, honestly, I'm looking for somebody who can take me around, and I'm willing to pay for the privilege because I know that you have to work or you're a student. You have other things to do. I would love to be able to pay a daily rate to go around with a local. And you know, I would try to maybe at least start with you could either pay a couple which would be really cool or you like a a husband wife type situation or to students you could pay them you'll get twice as much fun out of it or hire someone of the same sex, the prob-, the reason I tell you that as look, I know I'll nice it might be to like go round with somebody exotic from another country. It's possible that could happen. What's more likely is they assume you're trying to get it in and they're like. Okay. I don't know about this. And or the chicken out at the last minute because they think you might want something in their friends are telling them not to do it. You could hire a group of people to take you out. It doesn't really matter. You can also hire freelancers on a site like up work, and you can post the job on up work and say, look, this is an unusual freelancer requirement. I'm going to be in this country. I want somebody who can show me around help plan activities and things like that most of the people on there, like I'll fix your XM L feed for, you know, Microsoft, certified whatever, but you should check the terms of service because there are occasional gigs. Like that I would choose something like up work over something like say fiver, which is much more sort of random guy in Bangladesh type situation. Never find a guide and five or the cool thing about up work is you can find somebody in your field. So you have like a common vocabulary in like they might be looking to fix your XM L feed. But if that's what you do for a living. You can say, hey. I don't need my XM L feed fixed. But guessing that we're kind of like the same kind of person. So can you take me around and show me the sites, and you know, your favorite restaurants and things like that. Because you can find somebody that has like a cultural fit to your vocation. That's actually a really good idea. I it sort of depends on we are going, of course, because some of these people are freelancing professionals. But if you're going to a developing country, like if you're going to the Philippines, you can pay someone they're full hourly rate because it won't be that expensive. Yeah. But if you're going to Germany. Yeah. You don't wanna pay somebody who's like a mice sequel or whatever it's called, you know, certified computer engineer. You're not gonna pay an five dollar. You're not gonna pay an eighty five dollars DA to take you around and show you like the sites, right, right? But you can also say I'm open to other referrals in a once. You're getting in communication with them. You can say something like, look, you might not be a fit. Do you know any students and other options for this are calling language schools in that country and saying here's what I'm doing? I'd like an immersion program, but I really want more sort of cultural stuff rather than language stuff. And again works a little bit better and more affordable in developing countries, but works everywhere, you know, I've I've gone to a lot of places and they'll say, oh, yeah. We have a family or, you know, your teacher this or. Yeah. You can have a one on one teacher that takes you around and teaches you language, they had this Chinese. There's a program with my Chinese school, and they'll take you around and they focus on teaching you things in in the city. And if you're not really that interested or you're beginning in that language, you can. They look I'm not trying to become fluent Mandarin or tug, Allah, or whatever. But I do wanna go round with somebody who knows the area and has taken foreigners around and likes certain places. They will set this up for you. They'll structure it like an immersion language program. But really it'll be somebody taking you around all over the place. And I've done that a few times really really nice. It. Sure beats shown up at a hotel going to the concierge and finding out that you don't know about anything, and they're not telling you about the cool places because they're far slash shady slash you. Can't get him with without local thing. All right next up. I triple j how can I find a suitable non-nuclear solution for me and my longtime partner to travel together. Given are different work circumstances. I'm a fulltime remote employees, and she's a veterinarian in the bay area. My job before a lot of flexibility. So I've been traveling for five times a year tuition weeks at a time with plans to travel for longer. Periods of time travel includes conferences abroad, working remotely and doing my hobby. Be such as Brazilian Jiu jitsu and snowboarding internationally, this is contrasted with my partners job, which only offers seven days of accrued vacation per year with enough work to keep her busy beyond the normal working hours every day she's fulfilled by job. But I feel that she's increasingly getting burnt out because of her schedule in the past three to four years. We've only taken one two week vacation and have another one planned in twenty nineteen for another two weeks. But as you can tell the cadences very low I feel somewhat guilty about traveling to do fun things without her. Although she understands and we've communicated to each other just because her circumstances don't work. It doesn't mean. I should put my life on hold lately, I've been feeling like traveling more often and don't wish to dance around my guilt. We'll traveling and settle for the cadence to once a year only traveling with my wonderful partner. I want to experience these new locations with her we've been together for six years. I'm twenty nine she's thirty in our. Relationship is stable mature. And I would consider it to be pretty good aside from the nut. So great travel situation. We have no debt due to amazing support a family members throughout our education in have great financial discipline and savings. No kids. No mortgage, not much responsibility. Besides rent and living in the bay area between the two of us. We have maybe fifty or sixty thousand dollars a discretionary emergency funds that can be used for travel on top of our retirement in all of our other savings. Sincerely, grand not guilt trip. There are multiple issues that I see here, obviously, I can't help figure out some solution. So that she can travel more most likely she could do something career limiting like work part time or seasonally, but that might not even help and would certainly be damaging to her long term career prospects. She might not even want to do that. What I think she could potentially do is negotiate more time off in her compensation package, and she can do this by forgoing. A raise. So here's kind of what I'm picturing here. She should value the vacation time by looking at potential salary negotiation. Like we teach with Alex coots, then figure out what the cash value is per day of time off and then forego arrays of that same amount and replace it with time off. So for example, if she's supposed to get five thousand dollar raise or if she was going to negotiate a five thousand dollar raise this year find out if that's like seven working days or something like that worth of time. Whatever now this won't be super easy. But if she's a star, and they want to retain her. She can explain that. She needs more time because she's burning out, but she does not want to leave. And this is the kind of the play I see here. So instead of getting a raise in cash, she'll say, all right? I want, you know, seven more days off of paid time off. It's kind of the same thing that the company, right? Like, they have less help. But they end up losing the productivity, but they might be okay with that. If it means retaining key or great employees. It's also possible that your lifestyles just don't match, but you know, this already you specifically said nuclear so I'm leaving a break-up off the table. But you know, that's kinda maybe the obvious solution. That isn't great for anyone. Congrats to you on the financial stability and everything though. It's really great to hear. I wish more people were like this spending properly and budgeting for retirement and emergency funds doesn't sound fun. But it allows for greater options and freedom and life. And it seems like you're really a case study for this, you know, low debt good savings flexibility. So Patrick on the back here, you deserve it. And I think hopefully with the with some skills, she can negotiate more time off, and I think that would be a really cool experiment. I'm curious how this plays out if she tries to do that. Because I might add that to some negotiation skills of a myself here. 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This question is sponsored by our friend at the Hartford. Hey as a career employee ready to start pursuing freelance and consulting work more. Seriously. I often do side work by referral and have gotten to the point where I want to set up a small business and some funnels which would theoretically provide side work more consistently the goal being to eventually transition into entrepreneurship and quit being an employee. The problem is I work in an industry adjacent to software design online portfolios are a requirement in. My current web presence is tied to my name. I'd like to use my name for my freelance work is I feel it gives me some additional credibility. But I fear that if the side business doesn't take off that I would be compromising my prospects as an employee moving forward. My initial solution was to simply named my side business something else to avoid the scenario. But the type of work that I do makes it pretty clear it's a one man shop creating corporate presence feels like a waste of time at best in authentic. Worst. You think you're hiring agency? But it turns out to be just a guy I've had some career success. And I feel that it will be seen as a pretty big red flag at my current job. And certainly would hamper other job prospects. I'd have moving forward in entry level roles. It's typically seen as a sign of a hard worker. But at the level, I've achieved it seen as distraction from the job. I realize most of my hangups are likely psychological, but I've been unable to successfully reframe the situation. Honestly, I'm scared embarrassed to admit it even writing this Email makes my concern seem kind of ridiculous hoping trusted third party in a similar situation. You all would be able to provide insight or advice. Thank you for everything. You all do. I love listening each week signed employee to entrepreneur. All right. Well, this is not that weird. I totally get it. I when I was a lawyer on Wall Street, I was also running every Friday down to another Bill. Ending in midtown Manhattan or up to another building in midtown Manhattan. And I would jump into Sirius XM satellite radio, and I was really worried like, okay. I've got this other show. I'm sort of building this other brand and HR was a little bit. Like what's going on with that? And I was like, oh, nothing and the partners knew about it because they would listen to the show, but I wasn't super keen because I had heard from other law firms like, Bob, we don't like this. And I was like, yeah. Cool. I'm gonna stop doing it. It's just a hobby. Whatever, you know, thinking like, none of your business. I totally get. Why though I understand it? And so what I did was I decided look, you know, I'm going to use a middle name, and you're not lying about your name. If you use your middle name, and if people call you that on the phone or in person, you know, why they're calling you on the phone in Email, etc. My dad did that for a long time. He had one name first name at work middle name at home and with friends, and he had been called his middle name at home. And with friends is. As a kid, and he just brought when he went to work. He just started being called by his first name, and it turned out to be super convenient. Because it was like call during dinnertime who is it. Who's it four right? If it's for one name. Nope. Because that's the name on your mail. But if it's for the other name, oh, well, this person must know me personally. I'll take the call. It was really convenient. Now. Of course, you have cell phones and all that stuff, but it's very very useful for being one person online and your freelance work in another person in your professional life without lying. That's a really clever hack. I really like that except I hate my middle name, but that's a really clever hack. What's your middle name? Peter. At you. Don't look like a Peter to me at all. Nope. I don't and I was teased as a kid with an middle name, Peter. So I just don't I can't use that one. But maybe I'll change my middle name to something more exotic chain into whatever you want. It's your middle name. It's completely irrelevant the scheme things right through through. If you're like hit my middle name. You could be like cool. It's now my middle name is as guard now Milner. Yes, go with Milner. That'll be owner. So that nobody can spell it. Right. Like go for it. You know name yourself thunder crotch. I mean, who cares? Maybe that's not good for your freelance career or for the business. That's for the personal branding thunder crotch. Probably isn't what I'm going for. It depends on what industry you're in. But yeah, you true. That is true. You could just kind of go with whatever. But. Yeah, you go ahead. And you look if you don't want to legally change your middle name, and you don't like your middle name. You can choose a different first name, and it does and really matter too, much, right? As long as you're not being like, hi, I'm. Michael stanton. And your name is Dr Johnson like it's totally different. If anybody ever finds you in one situation and sees you in another people are going to be like, what are you talking about this? It's creepy if it's two different. But otherwise. Yeah. Use your middle name. You're not lying if people call you that, you know, whether calling it's authentic, it's convenient and look with the freelance thing you're testing the waters here in it's okay. If you do so, I agree. I don't want your current employer to think you're distracted. You might be leaving. You've got this thing going on that you care about more. If you quit freelancing, you also don't want your other professional name being floated all over the place by Google scraping it in the times of India, and all those other weird websites that scrape sites you don't want that name floating around or if you get some press for what you're doing freelance wise or from work, you know, then you've got these names being floated around what sums on the internet's not going anywhere. It's it's going everywhere. I should say it's all over the place. It's almost impossible to get rid of it. So you're gonna wanna make. Sure that you have that separated in you don't want your name being floated around all over the place when you're focused on another job or another career for sure. What's next? Hi, Jordan, Jenin, Jason one of my best friends just told me he wants to get involved in local politics and asked me to be a character witness. My issue is there have been various points in this past when he was the hard clubbing party animal as well as others responsible. Single dad in some of his social media posts from yesteryear reflect this I've heard a few stories about people being embarrassed about posts they made six plus years ago in wouldn't want him to go the same way. Are there any companies you can recommend who can tidy up old social media posts? So that he's less likely to be embarrassed by people scrolling back through the years of social media. No clue what he's getting into. Thanks in kind regards asking for a friend. Jason what do you got? Well, here's the deal. Everyone should be using tweet delete. It's a service on a website. It's free. You can sign up for it. And it basically use set a threshold of time for when you're older tweets or deleted is another product that I recommend called social book post manager because they can't. It use the Facebook trademark, obviously. So they go with social book post manager. It's another that one is a chrome extension where you can go back and in mass delete certain types of post from your past from Facebook without having to click through every single one. Personally, I use tweet lead to make sure there are no tweets of mine older than two weeks since Twitter is an ephemeral medium. It lacks context when you get outside of a few days time horizon. So people can for example, take what you said about a current Meam in warp, it's meeting to advance their agenda. So it's an easy way to go back and kill his tweets because they they become out of context so fast because a lot of people can't see what your friends are posting in. That's what your context is other people are just going to see what you're saying in the moment. So they can take that out of context very easily since h