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"What is it that you do? What is the problem that you salt 'cause entrepreneurship? It's just about solving problems and a specific problem, but it's just about solving problems. Get as specific as possible right. What problem do you solve? Because how many of you guys are guilty of your BIOS? Match Dot Com right now. You have like sea turtles and anytime. You have sixteen kids or married to Ted since high school if you're a little sloppy. Are Using profile for business. Let's narrow down. Who is it you're speaking to? Is that moms after they had a baby? Who is this your speaking? Getting s specific as possible. What's that problem? Not just want to feel good or get healthy a what specific problem in health and wellness. What's V? Grandma is? It's the. Mike and if you guys don't already know my keep my brother and the CO founder of soul CD and real talk we need to know. Are you feeling crazy and anxious right now in quarantine like is your family driving you up a wall? Hold on, wait you mean. Is Your sister driving up a wall? Okay, but seriously if you are also feeling super anxious during this uncertain time, and you need something to help you relax. We have just the thing for you and. And listen as entrepreneurs. We know stress. We know how much anxiety can really hurt your business more than ever. This is the time to stay calm and stay positive, and that's why we created soul CD. You probably see me. Share this anxiety with you on edgy stories because you know I'm Hashtag obsessed with stories, but if not you have to try our brand new CBD infused Gumy's low sugar vegan gluten free I am beyond obsessed in, did I mention. They taste delicious. Coconut Vanilla Flavor tastes like vacation. which is what I needed for Migraine now? I need one, too. But, honestly, why do we love CD so much CD can help with anxiety, inflammation, trouble sleeping, and so much more we wanted to create an all natural solution to your pain. 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Relief is waiting for you at my soul CBD. DOT, com. Here's how I like to break it down. I wanted to show. You guys example I love examples when I learned. So I'm going to as many examples as possible I you help. Let's say it's MOM's problem. You solve is loose. Baby Weight Promises. They're going to burn that home twenty minutes or less, isn't it? This is an example marketing school, just a specific example of someone who came to India. With that feels really broad and no one's reading my content no-one's converting. How do I get people to read my things? And so we switch this up and immediately within a few weeks, so higher engagement and conversions in her content is this happens every single time I've thousands of life coaches and wellness coaches in so many different coaches online now and I realize that one of the biggest shifts in your content is being specific, so who's with me on this identifying your person your problem and the promise that you made okay, so once identified this. You're like okay I. Know It's millennials. It's MOMS or I know it's women with P. C. Os. Os or blank blank. There's thousands of niches right. There's so many people could be speaking zoo so once you've identified this then we go into what I call. The statement were lot of you. This is what is going to be so great in your bio, and it seems basic my friends, but humans by when it's clear, and in this clarity will always trump cleverness right, it always will. Let's say you're bio right now. Says something like I empower women to be their best selves, so they can unleash their inner unicorn in who about sprinkles and you know, and it's like so elusive and you're like. What do you actually do like I? I don't even know what that means right. They tried to hard to be clever and poetic. Instead of getting to the point in saying this is what I do. This is the tangible thing that I do. This is the problem that I solved because that creativity awesome love it I'm with you I'm like your sister from another Mr who is so creative, so multi passionate, but I realize can use that into my content, but still be really clear with a sign outside my door, and be really cleared specific with my niche. So this is an example of how I helped this woman. Take it to this statement. This could be an example. Example that she could put in her bio to make it super specific prior to this, she said I help people with their health and fitness broad rates. Who are you more likely to buy from? If you are the demo that she's speaking to land on her page in her bio is like. Oh, I just help people with health and fitness and feeling good. You'd be like okay. Cool doesn't really speak to me, but if you saw this and you were a mom who's looking to loose baby weight and you just had a baby, and you want support on that. That is who you would follow, right? That's who you'd recharged Oh my. You do exactly what I need help with. Let me work with you, or how can I work with you? Because if we I don't identify the niece? It's going to be hard to get to all the rest of the strains. Right you I. head. You're speaking to and what the problem is. You solve so Dan when you show up on stories, you feel confident. You're like. Yeah, I. Know Who I speak to what I do, I know what my offer is, but so many of you don't even have this down yet, so we gotta get this clear. We have to get this super super clear here we go. Go so selling them what they want. And then you show them what you need and I'm going to get into this, because I know so many of your legal angie I want to sell empowerment, and they want to sell feeling good and I want to help them with confidence, and that's great, but let's identify confidence in what's right and a lot of times. Your customer is not at the same place you are. How many of you are speaking to yourself in the past? How many of you is your customer you? Six years ago three years ago three months ago, you went through something. You have this amazing transformation. Simply have this small transformation, which is still valuable in amazing, and you're not an expert in something, anyone teach other women or men how to do that and you're speaking to yourself. Okay, remember where you were, and what was the first step for you? Because now what happened is and I always visualize a ladder in marketing, so let's say you're you're all the way up here in the ladder and your customer is here on their consciousness level of. Of what they're ready for right and what they know and you're like okay. You got to do all these things and all this crazy stuff, but you're not meeting the customer whether at one of the most powerful things you can do as a marketer, which all of you are in some capacity now with what you're sharing online is speaking to your customer where she is currently meet Harare. She is guys meter where she is one of the. The biggest mistakes in copy on Instagram and marketing is evil, making it actually more complex than it needs to be, and I'm like if your customer read this, would this either language? Is this something that she would say these words out of her mouth, and they're like well. No, but you know I'm more advanced now, so I wanna I. Want to tell her I'm like listen. You have to sell her and what she wants. Then you're going to. To show her what she needs. You know instagram was so great, and they made it where we can only put so many characters in the bio at such valuable real estate, such valuable real estate, so use it wisely realize that this is your opportunity to use it wisely and really clear on what you do so niche versus and industry photography is an industry, not a niche guys, wellness industry, not a niche fitness industry, beauty industry these are. These massive massive. BILLION TRILLION DOLLAR industries. You're not a niche. If you are in one of these, how can we narrow it down? So you do stand out on Instagram, because I want people to Scroll Mac or page conduct they go. Oh, my Gosh I need to buy from Denise or Ashley Mary Kim Oh my Gosh. This is for me. She helps with what exactly what I need help with. Is What you want to happen or you want on your page and go. Oh, it's not for me. It's actually not what I needed supercooled rate, not what I needed. That's awesome to. That's called Polarization Margate. It's super healthy. It's super normal. It's great because soul cycle what? Do. They do one thing really well. Isn't it crazy too big? Sometimes on these brands who specialize in one thing and become the best at it. A lot of times becomes some of the biggest companies that we know. It became great at one thing before they try to do it all. Because where are my multi passionate women? And I just wanted to teach everything and anything I just want to be. Be. This is broad life coach. I don't WanNa narrow down I. Feel You I. feel you by my greatest advice for that is to start specific, and then you can go broad as you go right, so you're niche is not empowerment life gene positivie, helping people feel good confidence coaching, helping create a life they love. These things are great, and they are byproducts and I'll show you how they can be. Be Part of the business, but they're not your niche your niches. You're profitable purpose, right? It's that intersection between write this down. Is that intersection between what you love and enjoy? Yes, the Pinterest Code is important. Do you love me? You'll make money. Yes, but there's two more things what the market will pay for right what the market will actually pay for and then number three is what you get results. Results in and you don't need to be Gandhi or Oprah to to be ready or to be enough. Right your enough right now. Today you are enough to start that business into share people into document and say listen. I'm not perfect, but I'm gonNA share with you guys how I'm losing weight or fixing my skin. I'M GONNA. Show. You guys how I'm doing this with my kids and I'm good at. The journey as a coach, right? You don't have to be perfect. You just have to start realizing I. do need to leave People know what it is that you're talking about so here's the onion exercise. You might think of a sexier piece of food than I'm super open to it, but an onions, great example of peeling back the layers and getting to the core of what it is getting to the core of what you. You really do the tangible thing that you do right fitness coach, so you come to your like India. Fitness coach, soubra right everybody in their. GRANDPA is a Finnish coach right now, right? They're all flexing booty pigs on Instagram, showing their as we all know these guys and girls, right? It's like the thing, so let's narrow it down a little bit more finished coach. For who for what's the fitness goal, right? Let's say it's for. For Mom's awesome. We got a little bit closer repealed back. One of the layers next would need fitness coach for Moms who want to lose weight again I'm just keeping that example through this but incident in your niche into these exercises. So how many of you agree it so much? More specific in my bio is like a fitness coach MOMS. WHO WANNA lose weight versus I'm fitness coach, which is like Oh my God, there's so. So many pain points at fitness. There's so many different goals and gain weight and lose weight and gain muscle, and all my gosh, Bayreuth and hormone. Then there's so many different coaches in fitness. Right? That's what makes the industry so awesome, but also can be confusing, so these are the tangible things that you lead with the left. The right is the byproduct skies. I always say you have the benefits of your brand the by products. You sell the benefits right. You lead with the benefits. That's what humans want to see. That is human psychology on the right is the by products of what you do. Yes, in directly things that you do so beauty. Here's an example for you. Ladies or gentlemen were a beauty skin care for women. Right breaking it down, okay? One of the GALS in marketing school my monthly membership. She Does Acne coaching. How can women? Women heal from acne in their teens, and then after in their twenties super specifics, all of her content has been converting so well because it's so specific to that thing, and she's become so rate at teaching, not one thing and becoming the expert in that you become an expert when you're obsessed with something is again. You can be an expert tomorrow starting to research and realize that you can teach something especially if If you've experienced it yourself, so here is an example of beauty breaking down into axiom and the by products, these are still similar byproducts. Rate Your acne coach, guys. You're definitely a confidence coach for a lot of women. That's an insecurity and once you help them clear their skin. They feel more confident, but they knew their tangible problem. Right meeting or customer there at. They knew that there was acting so nailing your niche. Niche! Let's do the Google test. Okay, this is the good old google. The largest search engine in the world and it's three, and it's your best friend and you're. GonNa use it as a marketer market research. We will all the time to see what the heck is going on in the world. What is customer need? How? How can I serve her better? What does she searching? It's such a great platforms, not only. Only on Amazon. Books Youtube Right. Youtube is very seo friendly search friendly, which is a great place to see this hashtags rates now instagram is not seo friendly platform yet unfortunately I wish it was, but I feel like you know they're probably trying to figure out all the back in. They're already doing so much on Instagram, but was it is like search friendly, Holy Crap! INSTAGRAM's GonNa like take over the world but I. I do think it's important realized to know what your customers searching for because of you can put yourself into the shoes of your customer, and understand her pains in her desires, and use your specific language in your copy in in your stories on instagram. You win my friends. You Win because you're meeting. Someone were there at how many of you have rolled and you saw someone's post maybe was something you're struggling with. With. Your relationship your acne, whatever it may be your rate your finances. You saw post and it was so in your language that you were like Oh my God. Is this Person Speaking Zuma? Has This avenue guys and you're like Oh my? God this person is speaking to me. That is phenomenal copy, and not marketer or business owner I bet not only has the update shared the same pain, so they have that. That empathy, which is so important, but they've also probably googled at and realized that. Wow, these are the key words that women who are suffering with this thing are saying and searching so do this tonight. Literally creeping on different keywords, knowing what your customer is searching and the reason it is so important to know what they're googling I. Call this. The Google test is because it's searchable. It's specific and it solution based. Right searchable specific and solution based I always say you're should be all three of these searchable specifics based by solution based I mean a known problem. They said you know this. This idea that we can sell something that people don't even know. They have the problems right? People buy things that they know that they are are dealing with so meeting them where they're so this is another. Ninja resource I have for you. It is the answer. The public and clay told me about this, and it's so awesome. Okay, so called answer the public dot Com and I've shared this with the marketing school students, but I wanNA share it with you tonight. To the public dot, com and I believe your first three searches are three until you pay a monthly membership to search, but this is so valuable because this is what happens when you search under your knees. Let's say you searched acne that loss. Whatever your niches so once you know that you type it into this website. It's super cool, agreed cool. They literally tell you what all the humans around the world are searching when it comes to the thing that you want to teach or this niche so I put me in their. Me Works now. Acne develops. This is like a billion dollars a year right now. This is literally working backward the doing market research listening as a marketer in Saint Oh. My Gosh I could create an. Id Story about one of these things. Can Kill you. Oh my goodness! We've got some greasy searches can acme come back can act meaty caused by stress. Let's see. Me Treatment is the best. That's highly searched, so you can literally use these words and say wow, this is what people WanNa know, so let me address it. Let me give a tip on this. Let me get some information on this thing. You're working backwards and the people are telling you what to create. None of the continent Christ comes out of my, but I'm not just like Oh. This sounds like a good idea. Now I'm like sometimes comes out. A lot of times. It's from listening to you answering every single. Reading my polls realizing like wow, I hear about what you're struggling with I. WanNa know what you need. Help with this free trading is it came from and. Say Hey will you with stories? You're good at them and use them to somewhat events and. Courses and do what you do like awesome. What strategy which I'm going to be teaching? You guys, so it's it's like. Listen to your people, right? How many do you need to do a better job at that of just saying? Wow, I need to pull people more I need to answer every single demon comment and see what they need help, so I can show up as a coach or a leader or an entrepreneur and help them right. Here's the real deal cannot have an online business or be crushing in network marketing without a niche, and that's why if you creep on the stories, which I hope you do. You'll see that I'm obsessed. Literally obsessed with helping health wellness, light and beauty coaches to nail their niche, and I want you to feel extremely confident in your messaging on social media, because I want you to turn your social into sales at I want you to be able to create content. Has People stopping their scroll and said Oh. My Gosh, this is me. How did you know I was dealing with this? How do I work with you so if you're an online? Online coach or network marketer who is spinning your wheels trying to figure out your niche and you really WanNa monetize your passion than this is the course for you. Honestly my favorite thing I've ever created the NBA bestselling force for good reason. Check out all this accessories, and exactly what's inside at Nj dot com slash niche I know you're gonNA. Love it. If you're a marketer, if your beauty health, wellness or life coach, dude, you need to ditch. You need a focus to your content, and you need to know exactly who you're speaking to you in your marketing. Let me help you crush your sales. Angie dot com slash niche a few inside.
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"Bird baths can. Did she kill her band? Okay my first question is this. Did Carol Baskin killer husband and feed them to the Tigers police. Dm Me Right now. Let me know okay next question. Do you WANNA come to a party with twenty of my really smart friends. Do you want to know what they think you should do right now? In Your Business if yes. This is the episode for you if you were series okay. Let's keep going a few weeks ago. I asked some of my favorite entrepreneur friends to help you out and give you their best business and mindset advice. All I ask is one small favor. It's free and it will take you two point five seconds during this episode tag the guests you found super helpful and give them some love and I g I know as a creator this means the world to US feedback is our fuel to keep creating for you so tag them. Dm them whatever you want to do with. Just show them some love for their incredible free advice. If you appreciate them taking the time to do this for you go tell them. Okay okay friend. Are you ready buckle up? Let's kick it off with Jill Coleman. Her advice will not only help you to see this time as an opportunity as an online business owner but it will also give you actionable steps. You can take today. Let's dive what's baby grandma is. It's the energy and it's Mike and if you guys don't already know my he's my brother and the CO founder of soul CD and Real Talk. We need to know. Are you feeling crazy and anxious right now in quarantine like is your family driving you up a wall hold on wait you mean? Is your sister. Drive you up a wall okay but seriously if you were also feeling super anxious during this uncertain time and you need something to help you relax. We have just the thing for you and listen as entrepreneurs we know stress we know how much anxiety can really hurt your business more than ever. This is the time to stay calm and stay positive. And that's why we created soul. Cd You've probably seen me share this anxiety with you on edgy stories. Because you know. I'm Hashtag obsessed with edgy stories. But if not you have to try our brand new. Cbd INFUSED GUMY's low sugar vegan gluten. Free I am beyond obsessed in did I mention they taste delicious? Our new coconut vanilla flavor tastes like a vacation. Which is what I need from Mike. Right now. I need one too but honestly. Why do we love so much? Cd CAN help with anxiety inflammation trouble sleeping and so much more. We wanted to create an all natural solution to your pain and anxiety without any toxins and zero. Thc That means you had not get high from our products. So don't just take our word for it. Go check out. The thousands of people sharing their stories of finding relief with Seoul. Cbd You could check us out at my soul CBD DOT COM or comes to us on Instagram at my soul CBD and Great News since you're one of my loyal listeners. I want to hook you up. Use Code Baby Grandma at checkout to save my two favorite products right now. Are the coconut vanilla. Gummy is which I love taking mid day when I have a really busy hectic stressful workday and watermelon teacher which. I'll take every single night before I go to sleep. Yeah and I'd say my two favorite products after years of being an athlete dealing with sore back and sore knees is by far the extra pain. Cream and the fifteen hundred milligram peppermint but honestly friend no matter how you're feeling or what you're struggling with right now. We have something for you. Relief is waiting for you at my soul. Cbd Dot Com. Something that has given me a lot of Solis is knowing that while a thriving economy is amazing. It's also like a super low buried entry so meaning anyone can really get in. Anyone can do well with it. There's more abundance. Yes but there's also more competition. There's more noise. There's more copycats less originality less resourcefulness etc. Because there's really no incentive for people to try harder or to try something different and on the contrary what we're dealing with now it's times like now that forced us to really get better to innovate to pivot to dig deep because honestly at this moment. Not Everything is right for the taking and I think that there's probably about three things to help people who want to survive this and want to do well coming on the other side with a business and presence and a brand that is even better than where they're at right now on the first is you have to have real mastery of the material so whatever you're teaching whatever your area of expertise is I think that it is important that you do have a real deep understanding of the thing that you're doing if you don't have a real understanding of the thing that you're teaching it's going to show you're going to get left behind so what that means is that you might need more education. You might need the ability get better innovation. Become a thought leader in your industry study more. Think outside the box that only someone who has mastery over their material really is going to be able to create those things. That are going to help you moving forward. The second thing that I think people need is a clinical and objective perspective. I think getting too attached to the way that you have done things in the past or the way that you think things should be done or the week that you like things to be done. Sometimes we can get really email about that. I think we kind of think. Oh well you know. This is the way I've always done ahead of this. What's worked in the past? I think sometimes we take it personally when things aren't working and look we're at a position right now. We're like a lot of things are not going to be working. People are going to experience a ton of frustrations failures obstacles and things come up and I think that we have to not take those things. Personally I think we have to look at all of this as clinical. So when things come up in your business and you try something and people aren't selling are people signing up or the message isn't hitting think. Resist the temptation to take it personally and try to just look at it clinically and go okay. What's working and what's not working and realize that it's probably is just a marketing. Issue is probably just a communication issue. Might even be kind of like mastery of the material issue. I think that if you look at it and you kind of remove the emotion. There's always a place to go and I think you have to maintain that possibility mindset in a place like this and we can't afford to be super attached to doing things one way and so what that means is again being clinical as possible and not taking your failures or your struggles personally getting clinical with it and then being action oriented and the last thing that I think that you need to do to survive and to do well in this time is be a leader because if you have a personal brand if you're teaching something on the Internet you are a leader whether or not you think that you are whether or not you want to be one or not. You absolutely are a leader. And I think that leaders lead with level-headedness. They leave with being grounded with having balanced the lead with action. They take massive action even in the face of insecurity even in the face of scarcity. And I think that it is important for the people who were phone you your audience the people who kind of look up to you whether or not you want that. You have to be that example. I think we have an opportunity to be that example so acting in abundance even when you don't feel one hundred percent secure even when you are getting a little bit into scarcity. I think it's important. So the three things that I think in summary We need to survive in do well in this time is number one real mastery of the material. I think that the masters and the people who know their material super well are going to be able to whether the storm number two getting clinical and objective with how you do things so instead of taking being super personally and getting really emotional. See Things as maybe marketing issue. A sales issue information as your communication issue and detached from being emotionally invested in it number three leadership and level headedness. I always ask myself. You know. It's okay to get emotional. It's okay to have all the feelings but the end of the day. How do I want to show up? And that's a conscious decision and it is a decision. I think a lot of people. Just feel at the mercy of what's happening and I always try to remember that we do have a say so those are the three things again. I think a good economy is great. And it's amazing but it's also a super low barrier to entry so to me. I would rather have something. That's a little bit tougher. That's going to force me as an entrepreneur to get better and to innovate. Hey I'm Joe Stanton from screw the nine to five. And if there's one piece of advice or loving kick in the Butt I could to help you navigate. These turbulent times. It's this this is your time. This is your time to show up. Serve shine and sell now. I know that sounds so obvious. But there are a lot of business owners out there who are in their heads right now beating themselves up for wanting to make an offer to their audience. And what I want you to realize is that creating something that truly serves and helps people in the wacky. Times is the best thing you could do for them and your business. So what could that look like? Maybe you create a free experience for people. Inside A pop-up facebook group that helps them achieve a specific result and gives them a quick win and then upgrade them into working with you in an even deeper way or maybe it looks like doing exactly like what Angie's doing with this kick ass mash up episode and creating wildly helpful free content for people. Or maybe it's leveraging the power of affiliate marketing. Were you simply connect your audience to the people products programs and services? You use like a believe in without having to create a product or program yourself maybe it looks like creating an intro offer. Something that is low on cost and heavy on the value. That could be something like a paid virtual workshop or a quick three day bootcamp or paid five day challenge that helps people in real time overcome a roadblock and makes them want to grab your course or Join Your coaching program or even your mastermind. Whatever it is. I just want you on the field. I want you in the ring. I want you showing up and connecting with people leaning into what you were meant to do because this is our time as entrepreneurs and this is when the world needs us an even bigger way. Are you going to step up into this opportunity or wait on the sidelines? What's up baby? Grandma's this is your homegirl. Kk coming at you live. And I've got a burning question for you. Are you going to choose fear or are you going to choose faith right now? Fear or faith. It's such a simple decision. And sometimes we get stuck making preferences. I'd prefer to have a tighter but I'd prefer to make more money. I prefer to have a better relationship. I should do this. I should do this I should do. They should do this and then pretty soon we all over ourselves because we never made a decision. A decision means to cut off from and means no other option exists. The interesting thing about fear and faith is that they are completely made up neither exist and a lot of you know a lot of people that are operating from one of those two categories in our world right now. Fear occurs when we direct our attention to something that we don't want faith occurs when we direct our attention to something that we desire something that we want one of the greatest lessons. My boss Tony Robbins. Ever taught me as he said. Kay if you'RE GONNA make shit up in your brain in your head than why wouldn't you make up something that serves rather than destroys you? Our world has gifted us the opportunity right now to sharpen our decision-making muscles that's all you've been you've been gifted a big decision to make and that's fear or faith regardless what's happening around you. There's a part I already know that about you because you're listening to the show which means you're a cake ass baby grandma. Okay call on that part of you. The part of you that is hungry. The part of you that is courageous in the face of fear. The part of you. That won't put up with excuses. Here is my quick tip. I want you to think about the area of Your Life. That right now you are most stressed out about the one that is keeping you up at night. The one that you're like. Holy flack Jesus. This area of my life is doomed. Nothing you say will make it better. Then I want you to take that word that area of your life and attach it to the of this sentence. Corona is the best thing that ever happened to my insert word. Now brainstorm. What would you have to do? What would have to happen for? That STATEMENT TO BE TRUE. Humans are rewarded in public for what they create timelessly. What they practice relentlessly in private. So I guarantee you if you put true relentless effort into that list when we come out of this thing which we will you will be light years ahead of not only the human you were before it all started but all of your competitors. Okay you got this girl shooting home here. Of course you could tell the baby gratify me at Judy. Holler J. U. D. I. H. O. E. R. ON INSTAGRAM and by website is Judy Holler dot com for all the things but my advice and this time of disruption and anxiety and fear and overwhelm and stress is to stay in forward momentum to keep moving things forward for yourself in your business inch by inch hour by hour day by day microdosing goes small. Go small to go big right now because I think sometimes even though spall moments of just inching projects forward who really help you stay informed momentum and a gives you this really beautiful dose of confidence encourage because when you do one really great thing for yourself today it inspires you to go do something great for yourself tomorrow so interesting. Ford keep informed momentum and the other thing I'm doing to stay sane as I'm moving my body because there's a lot of science around this idea that when you move your body you change your mind when you change your mind you change your life so get on the bike. Go for a walk run. Do Yoga in the basement. Dance out in your office. I've been doing a lot of this lately. Putting on like a sequined jacket. Somehow Pink Lipstick to raise my vibe and just dancing out in my bedroom in my office so I guess the moral of the story is keeps smiling but yeah move your body. Move your body to change your mind also to keep inching forward one day one hour one project at a time. I'm I'm founder. And CEO of brand up were a creative agency for online entrepreneurs. And we've been working with Angie on Oliver. Brand touch points from building visual brands to highly converting sales pages. I'm here to let you guys in on my tips for leveraging this white space to really get into a creative flow so whether you're a seasoned entrepreneur or someone who's recently lost their job and looking launch online now is our perfect opportunity to do a little brand and business audit. I think this white space is a beautiful opportunity for creation and getting into creative flow. So let yourself get inspired. That might mean a few different things for you. I know a lot of us are being mindful of budgets right now but you could totally roll up your sleeves and get scrappy here. So if you're an established brand I'd urge you to Do Audit. How are your websites? Converting right now is your website doing a good job at selling. If not now's the best time to figure out why and optimize from there. And what about your visual branding? I always advice to get scrappy or diy in the early phases. So if that was you now is maybe the best time to revamp. Everything and make it cohesive and do a little bit of future casting look at the rest of the year figure out. What other product launches you have and right now. Take the space of building those visual brands. That when you're ready to launch you could just hit the ground running get creative get inflow make it intentional. Make it strategic. Now that we aren't forced to create we could just allow inspiration flow and on the other side of things. If you're starting from scratch don't over think it builds something with their audience in mind make it intuitive and make it beautiful remember conversions. Are What matter here? Not Building something pretty with no endgame so roll up your sleeves and get it done. Feel free to reach out to me. Directly my Insta- is Anna doing things. I'm always happy pointing in the right direction. Come say hi and visit our website at. Www dot brand up B. R. A. N. D. UP DOT I. N. K. There you can inquire about working with us one on one or if your brand new we have some awesome branding and website templates. That can really get up and running stat. I really hope you're all looking at this as opportunity to create and I look forward to co creating with you guys I got good news for you. Baby Boo never before in human history. Has there been a better time to grow your business online better yet. There's never been a better time to market your business on social media. My name is Jasmine Star. And I'm a photographer and business strategist and also the CO founder of social curator and I have the honour of speaking to hundreds and hundreds of small business owners every single day and what I tell them is what I'm going to tell you. Early studies have shown that with the increase of people being at home. People are spending now twice as much time on social media twice and another piece of aggregate news has been that large organizations conglomerates businesses. Aren't spending as much on advertising at this time. Because they're not quite sure how their business is growing in relation to the uncertain times. So what does this mean for you? Sweet Hustler Dreamer small business owner. Is that more? People are spending more time and big companies aren't paying to play which opens the doors wide open for your content to get seen by more people. I get it. Times are a little tough but you are tougher. This is your opportunity to create great pieces of content. That not just sell what it is you do but you serve your audience. In one of three ways you can educate them you can entertain them or you can provide an escape. All of that type of content is going to resonate with the audience. Who's at home ready and waiting to hear from you. So now the real question becomes. Will you show up for them? I can't wait to see the content that you create and you produce wanted cheer you on along the way you can find the instagram at Jasmine Star. Send me a Damn I want to give you a little shoutout. Want to have a little conversation and have a little fun in these crazy times Ladies My name is Kayla craft and I'm super excited to share with you the most powerful business tip I ever learned and it is monetize before you create if you have this amazing idea to share and contribute to the world put it out there and get buyers before you create it. One thing that this does is it creates market research for you so when you buy it you can ask people. What exactly do you want to see in the course? What exactly do you WanNa see in this book? Whatever it is and find out exactly in their words what they want to see. These are buying paying customers of yours. Then what you do is used their language to market to other people that are your potential customers. This is so powerful once you have buyers then you create the program and make it but don't get caught up in that getting ready to get ready to get ready in plan plan plan plan plan and create something to then go and sell it to people that don't want this offer so that's my little tip of the day. It's how I've created to multiple seven-figure businesses in just the last couple of years. So you gotta be in the knowing in the knowing a certainty that everything that you desire is already yours. Everything that you desire needs to be in alignment with the belief that you can have those desires step into that This is Chris. Harder host of the money mindset. Podcast for the love of money and De Truth of the matter is this. Unfortunately Corona virus is gonNA cause far more bankruptcies than it will deaths but the good news is it's also going to create more opportunities more new products more new solutions more new entrepreneurs and best of all more brand new millionaires than any other period in our adult life. And that's because with every great shift there is also a great shift in opportunity and while some people are focused on the loss. Other people have trained their minds. And you can to to focus on seeing the opportunities that come out of every single situation just like this one has a matter of fact. There's two great questions you can ask yourself so you can recognize the opportunity and see were you fit into it. So that coming out of this thing you'll be one of these success stories and those two questions. Are this number one. What are the brand new needs? What are the urgent gaps that have been created because of this new situation that did not exist and did not have as much urgency just a few weeks ago before we were all living in this new world? What are those brand new needs that were developed? That's number one and number two ask yourself. How do your current skill sets? And how does your past experience fit into solving one or some of those new needs? When you ask yourself a better question you a better answer and when you sit down and really spend some time asking yourself. What are the brand new needs that have been created? And how do you fit into those needs? Then you're going to see the opportunity you're gonNA see a ton of opportunity and when you see a ton of opportunity and you take a ton of action. You're going to come out the other end of this thing. One of these brand new entrepreneurs one of these brand new success stories and possibly one of these brand new millionaires. And you know. 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A little bit of lack of clarity because when you are multi passionate when you are passionate in general. It's really easy to feel like you're being pulled in a million and five directions and so this season I really have been encouraging creatives and entrepreneurs to take some time as much as it feels like a little uneasy that there may be a dip. In sales slower season when it comes to revenue. I always like to think about the way that fields work when you think about farming. Well how a lot of farmers would farm for thousands and thousands of years is that they would farm for six years and then on the seventh year let their fields rest and I think in some ways. We as doers and as business owners forget to do that and so what? I think is interesting about this time. As as much as it was unexpected and maybe a lot of felt unprepared for it. It's also an opportunity to reset and to come back stronger and I have really been focusing on reading business development. One Book that I really love is called. Ema Three visited and he talks about developing Your Business program and there's kind of seven key components to that the first being really digging into and clarifying your primary aim what that is now maybe slightly different from what it was when you started or several years ago and then when life gets busy and you go through pivots sometimes that primary aim begins to shift and you need to revisit that then. The next step is to determine your strategic objective. The third is to determine your organizational strategy next thing your management strategy than your people strategy than your marketing strategy and then your system strategy. You might have bits and pieces of this figured out. You may have gone through this process or thought through a lot of these components. When you first started or your two ago I think it's a great opportunity to revisit that to strengthen some things to make an adjustment where adjustments to be made. I also think it's a really great time to get super clear on your numbers. One of the reasons we panic when things go wrong or when they don't go according to plan is because sometimes we can feel a little bit unclear it when it comes to things like our finances and our projections because again when we're so into what we're doing and we're serving our clients and as long as we're making revenue. Everything seems to be good as long as we can pay our bills. Keep our lights on. It could be easy to get caught in that like hustle mentality to where we don't really sit down and do the hard things. I was just talking to a lawyer friend of mine which she pointed out how her business booming right now because so many people who have kind of put off some of the legal things that are boring and not as exciting as getting clients and marketing on Instagram. And all the things that we hear about she kind of referred to as the dentist a fact and she said a lot of times people don't want to go to the dentist until they have to go to the dentist and in some ways a lot of business owners are experiencing that right now like they don't want to have to do the boring legal stuck at their house in order if you will until they kind of have to and so if anything look at this as an opportunity to get your house in order to really clarify some of these things or revisit some of the goals that you had set before to clarify your projections what you actually need financially when you know what you truly need and where. You're really going less likely that you'll panic if things are uncertain are things. Don't go according to plan when you can get clear picture on your finances. You can make the necessary adjustments and decisions to continue to sustain at least for the most part so yeah just really take this time to work on your business even though it would probably feel better financially and what not to be working in it. This is really an opportunity in your business is going to come back so so much stronger if you choose to take advantage of it in this way Low It's Rachel Luna Aka girl confident on Instagram. And the host of the PODCAST. Real talk with Rachel Linda the best advice that I can give you in this time and any other time. No matter what's going on in the world is to get into a great journal. Practice in fact studies have shown that journaling boost your immune system. It improves your mental health and increases productivity. So right there your mind body spirit. It's all taken care of with a simple five to ten minute journey practice every single day. It's a life changing. Hit Me up if you need some props the second practical tactical thing that I can tell you you're going to want to really focus on is starting your day with income generating practices. So you're GONNA do your journaling in the morning and then you're gonNA go out and start making money. What's an income generating activity? While it's following with the client's it's creating a post that has a call to action. It's writing a sales email or writing a sales page. It's anything that will result in a cell or someone coming back and saying. Hey tell me more about your offer and the third thing on a more mindset perspective is really reconnect with your identity and the way that you do that is by assessing. What do you believe what do you value? And what do you want to see in the world? When you have the answers to those three questions you will never against juggle with indecision. And I'm telling you right now. There are going to be so many opportunities that come from this season. And there's no greater chance for you to grow ten x one hundred x like this is the moment the only way you're going to be able to leverage that is if you're very clear on who you are what you stand for and why you are here so. I hope you have fun. Get to journaling and definitely reach out to me if you need any support with this ad. Love it's Natalie Jill Natalie. Jill Dot com website and Natalie. Joe Fit is me on social media. Gosh what crazy times. We're in right now and it's really letting me reflect back to other times in my life where we had massive massive setbacks and the blessings in those and I know that sounds funny to hear in times of crisis but I can remember very clearly like it was yesterday. What was going on When nine eleven happened also I lived in Reston Virginia area years ago when we had the sniper attacks and we were put on house arrest and life changes we knew it and then back in two thousand eight two thousand nine when the stock market and the housing market crash and just everybody was in massive financial breakdown. What I know for sure what I have seen firsthand witness in my own life and witness with so many others is that when there is massive failure step back crisis that innovation creativity new brilliance is always born out of it hard times never last but they always always create innovation creativity and massive shifts with people. Some of the biggest success stories. I know of came out of hard times. My recommendation for what's going on right now is one surrender to it instead of trying to fight it and being uncomfortable with the change. Look at what the opportunity is right now. The opportunity to create space the opportunity to think the opportunity to go within the opportunity to really take some time for you to get back to your roots and really do some deep thinking on where you could serve where your gifts are where your creativity can shine. Think that first and then looking at where you could potentially pivot in your business or with your life. The question always to ask is what is a problem that people are facing right now that I have gifts awareness and solutions. They could really hope that problem. It's not about being original and it's not about being better than somebody else's idea but it's about coming together and really thinking where can I actually add value? So that question again is what is a problem that people are facing? And what can I offer as a solution to that problem with my gifts? My skills my creativity if you approach things from that direction and create a win win. You never edible news Study here and I know everyone's kind of stressing a little bit about what's going on with the online business so and he wanted to check in and asked me to give you tips that I'm doing right now right now for me. It's all about goodwill some of us. We meet times like this. We get a little bit stress. We think we gotta sell but right now. I'm all about capturing leads so I am giving away a lot a lot of stuff right now capturing goodwill and part of I did that. I have a huge generosity bank in terms of all these products that bill so one lesson I would say is when you're a creator and you're putting out lots and lots of stuff. I capture everything and then I basically put that stuff aside for times like this so I'm giving away workouts. I'm giving away programs and especially stuff. I'm in the health and fitness. Baso especially stuff that I built. They can help immunity sleep program stress programs workout programs meditation programs. All of that kind of stuff is all the stuff that I'm giving right now and so to me that's really what it's right now is goodwill and then of course there's always going to translate into better business later and so that's the primary thing I'm doing and then to other tips is to me. It's there's certain people right that this is a time of possibilities as well as fear and so in marketing. Yes sure you WANNA tap into some of the fear base aspects for example. If you're dealing with trainers and people who are coaches those individuals want to kind of be like. Hey listen you've missed the boat and you might WanNa get an online space and then other people who are the lay public. I'm kind of speaking to look. Did now's your time to focus on health and fitness so the marketing aspect. There's a little bit different but I hope that's helpful. That's what I'm doing friends. It's your girl. Alex Beedon you can find me at Alex beaten on Instagram. So right now. Thanks to a heavy dose of self-isolation. We all have extra time on our hands. We're spending less time out in the world socializing which inevitably means we have more spare time in the house to do whatever we want to explore other things right so I've three pieces of advice for you during this time. The first is to use this time to connect inwards and get clear on what you really want this time to be about. So for example I'm gearing up for a big launch in. May and I've decided to start using evernote as a space to organize all of my launch thoughts and ideas which is something. I normally don't have the time to do so. I've been using different notebooks to divide projects and goals and it's been so beneficial to not only help keep me organized but to keep my goals top of mind because guys. I'm a very visual person. And so seeing it on the left hand side of evernote with all my projects and goals. There it's just so rewarding it has feeling even more confident that this will be my best launch yet. The second piece of advice is to let yourself play and explore something new. Ask yourself what opportunities are showing up for you right now so for me personally. I decided to challenge myself to show up on talk every day. For thirty days specifically creating content for my niche giving advice on how to build your audience online and guess what guys I grew my talk followers to two thousand people in only seven days so you never know what can come from committing to a fun project like this plus. I love that. Not only do I get to be creative with this. But it's also good for business. And then thirdly I'm encouraging you to connect compassionately with yourself and the world. Obviously it's a sensitive time for everyone but I want you to ask yourself. What can you do during this time to offer? Someone supports so for me. I decided that I was going to offer free. Weekly Corona virus support calls. And they've been going really well and I'm about to give a massive shout out on my email list which has like forty thousand people telling everyone to go and help a business that has been really negatively affected by the pandemic. So simply ask yourself. What can you do to help and support Ngo tribe you guys? It's Laurie harder. My handle is at Laurie harder. And I'm so excited to be doing this because I think times like these are some of the most important times in our lives there the Times that make us assess what we really want. What have we been tolerating that we don't want and what do we want to focus on every single day with this valuable time that we've been gifted so one of the things that I think everybody could be. Focusing on right now is adding value to their audience and acquiring even more audience because when the time comes to make an offer or maybe you have an amazing offer right now. You want your people to know what's coming be raving fans and be craving it from you and view you as the expert and remember that visibility is everything if you are not visible every single day for them and adding value in some way then you're essentially in visible so be visible every day otherwise technically you're invisible because you're just not showing up for them in the algorithm or in life and one of the questions that I'm asking myself every day is what's the story. I'm going to tell from this time. Is it going to be a story of victory? Did I move forward productive? Did I connect deeper with my current tribe and friends or did I let fear completely consumed me in takeover and paralyze me every day? You guys routine is everything you woke up and worked out in the morning before all of this happened. Keep Waking Up and working out in the morning. Drink your water. Eat your healthy food. Connect with French just via zoom. If you went out every Friday night put together. Resume Party with all of your girlfriends. Keep normalcy in your life. Routine is everything and I promise. If you're connecting in your tribe and adding value this can be very powerful time in your life that you will look back on as that time that launched all those big ideas and big things for you and got clear on what it was that you wanted to do. Love You Hi this is Christine. Hassler I have a master coach and host of the podcast over at non with it. What should you be doing should in air quotes? Be Doing for Your Business Right now. Well my answer may seem strange. My answer is nothing but by nothing. I don't really mean nothing. One truth that we know right now in a time of massive uncertainty is that there's massive uncertainty. We just don't know what's going to be next. We don't know what the economy's going to be like we don't know what the consumer is going to be like so we can do our best to predict and prepare for that but not at this moment right now right now. We're in the beginning and right now we as individuals are being asked to go within before we look outside of us and try to go figure out what we're supposed to do and as entrepreneurs and as business owners your business is often a reflection of where you are internally so I would highly highly highly suggest using this time to do internal work to really look at our where my blocks where my fears that have been coming up. What are some things that happened to me in childhood that I haven't dealt with where some old relationships I haven't let go of? Where do I still have scarcely? Where was I running my business in a way that wasn't sustainable? So instead of just trying to put a band aid on that and think about what's next go in I now. I'm not saying that shouldn't think about your business. You may be saying. Oh Christina silly advice because I have to pay the bills and make money but again that's coming for more of a scarcity mentality if you really invest in yourself invested time energy and maybe even money in your inner work and get more clear about how you can show up in a way that serves people better and is more prosperous for you. I promise your business will be different but trying to figure that out. In a time where there's mass uncertainty is like trying to speak a new language overnight. It's just impossible so my advice is just pause for a moment. Look within trust that the answers will come and you'll know what to do and you will be better at Your Business and you will come up with even better ideas if you take a little retreat deal with some of that stuff you haven't wanted to deal with and then look forward. Sometimes we gotta look behind us to move ahead. And that's the big lesson that this time is teaching us. We're seeing a lot of systems collapse. Received how reliant. We are on certain things. And we're all being asked to take a big pause and reevaluate. How do things we can do that? Best buy starting from inside. I'm Melissa Rambo Saney bestselling author podcast and entrepreneur. And my tip for you. Today is to make sure that you are taking care of your mental health. This is so important and one of the best ways that you can do. This is through meditation. So if you don't already have a meditation practice now is the perfect time to take one up and this will not only help you'll personal life but it will help your business to there is so much going on right now and taking care of your mental health is key to staying healthy and happy. So you can start with guided meditations. You could start with one first thing in the morning. This is the best time to meditate. As soon as you wake up. Don't pick up your phone straightaway. Don't open emails? Do something good for you. That feels you up. You can do a guided meditation for one week. Stop that first thing in the morning and then on your second week. Add a second meditation in the afternoon and commit to this for a month and see how you go. Watch how. You'll mental health and your happiness levels in crease. This is the best way to boost your immune system and calm your nervous system so make sure you stop meditating today guys Amanda Bucci here and I am coming at you with a tip on how to survive and thrive during this time and the thing that I want to share with you is really about leadership so I know so. Many of you are feeling the call or the poll. Or maybe there's a sense of pressure to step up for your community and stepping up for your community really means that you have to step up for yourself and one thing that I really noticing for myself and for my clients and for people around me. That is really supporting. The sense of taking ownership of the word leadership is stepping into what I call service consciousness and I heard this term at first and my spiritual psychology program at the University of Santa Monica. And what it really means is to kind of remove from the picture and really recognize the fact that you are a conduit and a vessel for service to be transmuted through you and your body to other people and what this really means is making sure that your first and foremost taking care of yourself you are honoring your body's needs you are honoring what you were going through your struggling with. But you're also recognizing that you have power you have influence your story matters right and it's almost this energy that comes up from inside of you and says. Oh yeah I know exactly what to do. I am going to get out of my own way. Pressed the record button. Press the play button. Turn on my TV. Send somebody a message. Saying how can I support you fully detaching from the outcome of making it about you and make it actually about your level of service and with that will do is it will create a sense of trust with you and your audience. And that's what they really deeply need right now. They need creators and entrepreneurs and leaders that they can trust and know are going to hold them and be there for them in time of crisis and the best way you can do. That is detached from the outcome of is this. Dm CONVERSATION GONNA lead to a sale or whatever it actually is and recognize. This conversation is going to lead to a relationship a connection and a loyal audience member who is going to follow me through whatever I do and I can show up for them I so leadership really taking ownership of that word is my tip for you. I hope you guys enjoyed the episode. What's up you sexy baby? Grandma'S IT'S SAMANTHA. Skelly here from PAS breath work and Hungary for happiness and I WANNA drop in and share a breath work tool that can help through these anxious times through these times where we feel like we are overwhelmed. Were spinning loops of stress and anxiety. Ten Times in those situations we can feel very untethered and when we feel untethered and we are in no man's land it can bring up a lot it can bring up a lot of feelings of. I'm not good enough. I'm not qualified. I don't know if I'm going to be able to support myself. I don't know if I'm safe. I don't know if I'm protected and so whenever you're in states of anxiety and overwhelmed like that you get to remember that through the breath we can access safety through the breath. We can access certainty through the breath. We can access deep seats of calm and contentment. And when we don't have that available for us we tend to spin out. We tend to just get anxious and get all SPINNEY. And what's really important to remember is we're not gonNA find certainty and safety in the external world anytime soon. So what's really powerful is having a tool that we can tap into any minute of the day to allow us to really find these deeper states of contentment. Peace calm safety so a powerful breath. Rick Technique is called the Halo Act of breath. We're just going to do a little one just to give you a taste of it. Fifty brats enter the nose out through the mouth in through the nose out through the mouth. And then what we're GONNA do is we're going to take a deep breath in through the nose and we're going to hold it and then we're gonNA relax so when you're ready. Let's begin. Lost Ten taking a deep breath in through the nose holding at the top holding her breath for as long as you can feeling the peacefulness. The clarity the ease that comes from moving energy in our system beautiful and when you're ready just relaxing the breath that's it all right. That was a little forty. Five seconds. Little snippet of that. If you feel called to do more breath work used this practice in your everyday life. You can follow me on instagram. I do breath work every single morning at eight. Am for my community. You can also head over to pass breath. Work Dot com where there is an array of resources for you all right. My Love have a beautiful day. What's up everybody? This is Britney Hawn with hustle and flow. My instagram is hustle and flow official. During this time. I have come up with three things that you can apply to your business right now. The first thing is empathy right off the bat. I think that is the key to what's happening. People are feeling uncertain. They have fear. They're stressed and the one thing that will get everyone through. This time is community. But how do you cultivate real community by showing empathy? The second thing is education people still want to learn. They still want to consume information. So give them the information that they need to hear whether that's reassuring them letting them know more details about what you offer or even something really off the wall of a personal life like how to cook and five simple ways if you're not used to cooking from home. Ding Ding Ding. That work for me because your girl here is not domesticated at all and I am forced to eat from home or I'm just going to be eating a bunch of popcorn. 'cause I know how to use a microwave and that's about it so even educating on things like that we'll get people feeling that you're interested and you're serving and you're giving information that they could use and lastly entertainment listen. I know things are heavy right now. I'm not even going to deny that but everybody wants to have a moment to smile and a reason to laugh so give it to them. If there's something funny that you're able to show on instagram stories. Show it whether it's a mean or it's a video that you made or even a tick tock that you made people are really looking right now to just send some positivity and get their mind off what's happening even if it's just for a minute is my friend Cathy Heller. Who is the author of? Don't keep your day job. First of all Angie thank you so much for having me be a part of this. I think it's so generous that you continue to shine so bright and do everything you can to help your audience wall. There's so much going on with the virus there's also so much going on in the economy and I think it can make people feel like what do I do. Do I press pause on building a business? What what is the right move right now? What would be sensitive what would be ethical. And at the end of the day the the body needs blood to flow or else. If there's no blood flowing in a body the body won't work. It's the same thing with money. The money has to keep flowing so truly the best thing everyone can do is to have the courage to be in business so that we can spend money in the economy so that we can hire people and my friend. Susie said it to me so well Susan more she said Cath you either have the courage to sell or you work for someone. Who has the courage to sell? But if you WANNA work if you WANNA make money you're either going to have the courage to sell which really means to serve or you're going to work for someone else. Who has the courage to sell? Who has the courage to show up in serve and one thing I want people to understand? Is that while the parts of the economy that are completely collapsing right now. There's other parts of economy that are really soaring. I just read an article in CNBC. That was saying how has borough is seeing a spike in their sales. People are buying Jigsaw Puzzles. Monopoly Games people are seeing this. There's a spike in crafting. Stuff people are buying stitching sets and people are subscribing to online classes and people are being more productive and using their time connecting with people over zoom so. I think it's really important that if we're going to see what's here that we see everything that's here. There are people who are absolutely devastated from this economically and then there are people who would normally right now be spending money going to events and concerts and traveling for spring spring break and right now instead. They're looking for other ways to spend that money to entertain their kids at home to pick up a new skill or craft to start to start enrolling in some online courses. And so that is definitely here and so to turn a blind eye to. That isn't really going to help anyone. That's certainly not going to help us. And I do feel like what we're being called upon right now to look at is what is really essential and some businesses won't survive. They're going to have to pivot their model. Maybe we're being asked to find out what's really in alignment with who we are. Maybe there's an opportunity to figure out. What do we really have to give to the world? That really feels like it's truly who we are. It's really sharing. What's essentially what we're supposed to be sharing with the world. And what is really laced with that empathy for ourselves and for our customer what businesses will sustain themselves. And last it's going to be about relief figuring out how to pivot right now. Show up an answer. Those pain points and really be clear that you're here and and leaders will emerge and we need people who have the courage right now so I would say do whatever you can take care of yourself cry when you need to scream into a pillow when you need to have a glass of Rosa when you need to take a bath when you need to Sometimes you can watch some reality. Tv I finished. All of love is blind. And that did me some good and at the same time there might be a moment where there's a little crack in the clouds and you can start to think about how to raise your hand and give yourself permission to have courage to serve. Maybe in a new way that really emerges as a blessing of the cell phone keep going. I hope that helps you. Guys hope this was helpful. I hope you have a great day. I'll talk to you again soon. Thanks Angie does
I ALMOST QUIT PODCASTING. MY SECRET TO GETTING UNSTUCK WHEN YOU ARE IN A CREATIVE RUT. HOW I AM WRITING MY BOOK. WALK AND TALK WITH ANGIE.
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Yeah and I'd say my two favorite products after years of being an athlete dealing with sore back and sore knees is by far the extra pain. Cream and the fifteen hundred milligram peppermint honestly friend. No matter how you're feeling or what you're struggling with right now. We have something for you. Relief is waiting for you at my soul. Cbd Dot Com. My creative soul has been craving something different and I thought to myself Angie what would make it fun and enjoyable and we'll get you out of this creative funk and immediately on my walk what came to me was I would literally just speak into my iphone and talk to you as if you were my friend on my walk with me. That is what I would do. That is what would be enjoyable and fun and easy so I thought to myself. Why don't I do that? And that's what you're listening to you right now. I pressed record on my iphone. I'm out on a walk. I'm a little out of breath. This is where I've created every single instagram post every single email. Yes if you read my emails. Or You've seen my instagram post. This is where I write. This is where I create. This is where I get the inspiration. I play music. I GONNA walk and as a creative who needs to be in her body to create. It really helps me to be in motion right and this actually helps to stimulate the brain so there is science behind this. But I don't know about you. This is how I create. This is how I am the creative woman that I am. I've realized dish into the shower. This is where I get all of my creative ideas. Ps I may do a shower episode. I'm trying to figure out how that would work with the sound of the water and if my phone is actually waterproof enough but we will see my friends but I thought this is fine. This is different right. Who's creating podcasts? Out ON A walk. This is so fun. And that's actually what today's episode is about is getting out of that creative funk and realizing that sometimes the most powerful question that you can ask yourself is how can I make this fun. How can I make this enjoyable? How can I make this easy if you're listening to this and you're also a creative woman and you're an entrepreneur? You're leader your coach and you're feeling frustrated because you're stuck you're in that slump where nothing's really exciting you. You don't know what to post. You don't know what to say. It's feeling monotonous. This is episode for you. After five years of podcasting I got burnt out. I got really sick of doing the same thing. I'll be fully honest fully transparent. I don't even care anymore. Transparent I am. I got really sick of interviewing the soon people because they wrote a book and I was. Just it just. It just wasn't fun anymore. I'm a seven on the program so you know that's not okay. I love to feel free and I love chasing joy. I love chasing. What is the most enjoyable for me and this question? I'm about to ask you has changed my business over the last ten years. It's literally changed my business which changed my life and it helped me to get unstuck and to get into action. And if you're a creative woman entrepreneur listening to this. That's what you need right now. You just need a little nudge. You just need a new perspective and I also want to note that this is super normal. This is human. And that's why I'm being super vulnerable and sharing with you that I was burnt out and I was bored and I was sick of doing the same thing. And so just a reminder that you're not a robot you are a human and that is super normal to have seasons where you don't feel super creative maybe for you. This is writing your book pressing post on that blog. Post creating your course launching the new product pitching your product showing up on video crafting. The sales page crafting the instagram posts deciding. What you're going to say on your very first podcast episode. Or you're like me and you've been doing it a while but you need a change. No matter what situation you are in. This is the question I want you to ask yourself okay. I'm about to ask you this really juicy question and there is a huge pile of steamy hot dog poop on this rock okay. Let's continue. Today's episode is brought to you by that pile of Shit. Okay any ways. Hey I told you you're on the walk with me now. That's what I would say to you if you were on the walk with me. Dude okay. Here's the question. Here is the question. What would make this fun and enjoyable? What would make this fun to do again? What would make this easier? What would make this easier? And sometimes that is you shifting things up taking something off your plate doing it a different way. Maybe a way that nobody else is doing for example right now. I'm recording this podcast. You're not supposed to record a podcast while you're on a walk. Heavy breathing and the birds are meeting. And you're using your iphone as your microphone. You're not supposed to according to the experts but I am and I have millions of dollars and one of the coolest drives in the world because I show up and because I'm consistent not because I'm perfect. Not Because I have all the answers and that's my message for you today figuring out what you need to do to make the process enjoyable again. Does this mean you need to hire someone? Does this mean that. Maybe you need to shift it up a little bit. I'm ready and radios ally right now and my team figured out that. I'm not the type of creative can sit down for hours on my booty and write all day. That's not how I work. That's not how I'm creative. I am creative when I move. I am creative when I touch and feel and I'm vocal. Does this mean that you need to follow women who are doing the exact same thing as you so you can tap into. What's true for you and what's fun and creative for you. You don't have to say the same things on your video to be successful. You don't need to have your podcast. Sound like mine or Cindy Lou. Who who has a zillion downloads? You don't need your intro to sound the same. You don't need your book cover to look the same. You don't need to write your book in the same way full transparency. This was the fear Gremlin. I have been struggling with. Because as a creative who is kinesthetic and vocal. And I don't do well when I sit all day and I'm stagnant with my body. That's not how I right. That's not how I'm creative. That's not how I feel connected to you so I felt really lost and confused on how I was going to write this friggin book and then I realized when I asked myself this question. What would make it fun and enjoyable and easy when I asked myself that question instead of saying Oh. I can't write a book. I can't write a book because I can't do it. However else is doing it. I realized there was another way. There was another option but if I never would have asked myself this question I would still be standing still and I would be making excuses about why. I can't write a book I have. Add I've had add since. I was a kid. How can I read a book? I don't like to sit still for hours. How can I write a book? I don't work well with word. Docs Excel spreadsheets. How am I going to write a book? Even though my soul was calling for me to write a book for you so I sat in that fear and I sat with those excuses and I said to myself dammit NJ. You're going to find a way to write a book. That is fun enjoyable as easy as possible. And you're going to do it your own way because that is what you have always done. And you don't need to do it help. Rene Brown's doing it. How Seth Godin or how any other amazing author is doing it because this is your life this is your brain and this is your process and that is what I want to remind yourself today. I'm writing my first book. This fall radios ally is launching this fall. I couldn't be more excited to birth this baby into the world and two hander to you. That's literally how it feels but to be fully honest. I was really struggling with. I'm not smart enough to write a book. I'm not smart enough to sit down for hours and hours and hours and write all day. That's not how I work so I guess I can't write a book and that's how I saw everybody else writing their books so because I compared myself to how they were doing it and the one way that I saw it was being done. I thought that was my only option. I didn't do well in school. I had. Add my entire life. I struggled in college. I'm a college dropout. I got cs if I was lucky so for me. I I was finding it. Virtually impossible to sit still as a very active woman. And who like I said I've created every single piece of content on a walk movie in my body so me I felt so stuck. I'm like how am I going to write a book? If that's not actually how I create. This question. Inspired me to hire a team. That is now supporting me. In this process of birding the book into the world but in a way that is fun. And it's creative and it's in the way Angie wants to create the book because as a creative that is the most important thing if consistency is the most important thing you have to find a way to create that makes sense for you if consistency is king than you as a creative and as an entrepreneur have to find the way that you want to create in order to be consistent because you WanNa know what breaks my heart. I believe there are hundreds of thousands of extremely intelligent passionate women who are so capable of their dream but they're sitting on it and they're in paralysis and they're not doing anything because they have not yet tried a different way to create. They have not asked themselves this question in order to get unstuck so my friends. I just asked myself this question today when I was on my call with my book team and really helped me to realize that I'm very kinesthetic and I'm very auditory so I am voicing my book and then putting it into written format and I am organizing the chapters with sticky notes so I can feel I can touch each chapter and I can connect to the book in that way yes. It's a little odd. It's a little different. But that's how I'm burning this book into the world and that's okay and this book is my baby right now. It's something not. I am so nervous yet so excited to birth into the world and I'm really remind myself that I get to have my own process and I get to do it in a way. That feels best for me as a creative. This is the question you need to ask yourself today. What would inspire you to get back into action? What would be fun? What would make it easier? This doesn't mean that they're not difficult times but what would make it easier. Is this hiring someone? Is this changing up your environment. Gosh that has helped me. So many times simply shifting up my office giving a little cleaning up the house and having a new fresh perspective before I create content and remember your process gets to be your process. It can be unique. It can be different. It can be quirky. It can be weird. It can mean that you hired help. It doesn't matter how you were getting the work done. If you're showing up courageously and being consistent consistency is the secret. And I wanted to become one of your superpowers man. This episode was so fun. This was fun for me. I could do this every single morning. I could do this. You know what? Maybe this is what I will do. Let me know send me a DM and if you love hearing the behind the scenes on radios ally and the book process. Let me know that as well. Because I know that before I started writing the book. I was super confused. How authors actually wrote the book. They made it seem like it. Just popped out of there you know and I just want to keep it real with you and to always be super transparent and to be your friend that yes. I may be a few steps ahead but I'm with you. I'm with you on this journey and more than anything. I'm here to remind you that you are intelligent. You are courageous and yours. Ready as you'll ever be we're question for my fellow entrepreneurs who also suffer from SP Squirrel Brain Syndrome. Add if you also have SPF S. Keep listening my friend. Do you wish there was something you could take it. That will give you insane. Focus during your workday but is also completely natural and caffeine free. If yes I have something for you. That Mejias Fixtures World Brain Syndrome. It's one of my best brain. Haxhi grits and something I take before I record every single podcast and every single time before I speak on stage. It's called be Lik brain fuel over the years. 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#142 Terry Hershey: Emotional and Spiritual Immune Systems
"Welcome everybody's time once again for the next chapter with Charlie hedges as he explores turning the page on his life and yours. Hey Charlie Hey Paul good to be here with you does see talk radio. Today's episode is once again with my dear friend Terry. Hershey who is in two days. We'll give talk on emotional and spiritual immune systems now before Terry told me about his speaking gig. I had never even considered such a thing emotional or spiritual immune system. The thought intrigued me. And so you here. We are And but you know as I thought about it. It did occur to me when we take a vaccine. We're actually injecting being injected with A micro dose of the disease so that our bodies can build up an immune system so I wonder is the same thing. True of our emotions and our spirituality if so then it must be the case that are much emotional or spiritual immune systems are developed in our brains only when we allow a negative emotion to have its way for a while so I'm wondering about that. What do you think they're terry? Giles are you didn't say Yo Hirsch what's up. You'll hirsch what's up. Yeah I know so you. We need to work on your immune system You know You know the old fashioned word for an interesting the course that we don't use anymore that we talk about people being grounded really another word. Yeah in other words. They're in a place in a healthy place established healthy place. Yeah like you say comfortable in your own skin. Yeah that would be another say control your own skin which is a perfect way. They think about immunity now. I mean it's obviously the big deal. It's on every news thing with the corona virus. Is People telling you you know you didn't do these sort of things for your own immunity out when you're not doing those things and you're stressed out you're are not comfortable in your own. Skin and stress has a lot to do with it. Doesn't it stress and the're really really seem to be strong involved in yes stress and fear? But here's the key I mean to your point going back to what you said. That's interesting that you talked about the fact that like when we get a shot we get a little bit of the virus itself but so stress in of itself. Stress is is part of life and of itself peers. Sort of a part of life will surely was in in the in the in the cave walk and man-days Norris is now too but I mean the point is is that the question is it. Is it all that we believe about reality? That's another wooden. Yeah in other words when stress when stressed wins in other words? It's all we believe about reality. I'm at a loss for how to respond. And I don't have resources for how to react or respond and And I don't trust what I can do. Indoor say and you know I feel I literally feel at the mercy of and so it's no wonder it's it's no wonder you know become reactive and I become Angry and become exhausted I become detached become disconnected a lot of things when when I talk about for example so let down the why why. I'm doing this subject. That's good because that was my first question. My work is what I call them ministries. Even though it's not all churched up. I I work primarily with people who do work the heart so I work with healthcare allow all healthcare organizations right. I work with educators. So the both of them people who get into that business do so because want to help people. And then I work with churches in a variety of slash The kind of thing that you do in Uganda by the one C. Three kind of stuff right and people will get into all that stuff do so because of something their heart leads them to do it okay. That's good we will be better off. People will be better off We as a society will be better off. Great got it. But here's what I know about all of those places. Anybody who gets in that work burnout. It's very difficult for people who get into that to know how to say no or take care of their own personal and emotional and spiritual health and so- burnout is huge in all of those. Shall we call them industries? There really is because because taking a break or backing off is somehow a negation of your effort of your validity in that organization. They you no longer care about you. You no longer have the heart for the people that you want to have the heart for. Yeah and that's a lot of this. Immunity was the thing about immunity. Is I don't see that. For example stepping back would be. You know you know in my list of three or four or whatever. I have here of things what I would call the shots community. One of them is stepping back and a lot of the difficult reasons. I don't want to step back because somehow it brings into question my own identity. Yeah and and stepping back is so essential you know I i. I'd planned to talk about this later but this is i. I read a quote in the translator of the Dow Dae Jang by loud sue and the translators Derek Lin and he had a quote that I really liked he says we become what we think. And we really can't think well until we step back because we are so bombarded by information feelings that just that are so distracting that we can't that creates that that thing. I really like what you talked about. When you said stress is is immobilizing because you are. You are out of options. You're out of places to go to to help you see sanely through your life through your life. I mean something that now. We're going back to being grounded in their words went when you're grounded. You have choices. Life doesn't choose for you if you're in the near. Yad of whatever's going on a cacophony around you but you're not at the mercy of it when you're in a grounded place. It's just like the people who are what's what's the in the war zone the the beds to triage people. You write them with all that around them. The one store in a good sane place you see them. Do they work in the middle of that? 'cause they're grounded because they have their there has been trying where they've taken care of who they are so that when they're in the middle of that triage times they can do. They're there to do you know and there's certainly because you know right now I'm currently. I'm in a in a process of reading one entry per day of the of the down aging and it is all about grounding. It is all about putting out the noise and getting to the way in which is which is It is in a sense. I I like what you said. When you said stepping back it is a stepping back and evaluating and and consciously deciding how you going to respond and sometimes sometimes it is intuitive. So you don't think it's so conscious but many times that you know. I really do believe in the conscious aspect of our life. But that's why that's one of the reasons to be intentional about making these choices for immunity. I mean it's stepping back would actually be my first one. Forget to get registered. We owe it to our Jewish heritage which is Sabbath another. That's the first one the stepping back. That's your first thing ten ten. Will you stop because stopping is about replenishing your own capacity during lady that yeah? I make traces to have to have the wherewithal. He you know we we. We talked A few weeks ago we did an episode as we explored my SA- quested retreat with ten days of total silence. No books or computers or phones stuck in a small room with a bad eight square foot area out in front of my cavernous. Oh for six days that did nothing but thank and explore my emotions. Both deep pains and beautiful joys as we discuss. I face steam as I didn't even know existed as a result of stepping because this was a stepping back and facing a stepping back and allowing the inner workings of my soul to sort of permeate my unconscious in and slip somewhat into my conscious state. And I'm telling you Terry. After that their power you know the power of the pain and and and the difficulties in all of the negative emotions. Their power over my sense of wellbeing has diminished enormously. In fact even six weeks after this my wife claimed she still sees a different in a different semi attitude that I'm calmer less anxious and that was having faced those as I'm calling them demons having faced the negative emotions that I have and and looked at them to different is. I think that was also very helpful. I wholeheartedly agree with that. And the different is that they are. Even though I've assume that they have controlled or been president and much of my life. They are not who I am and I love the fact that their powers diminished in other words. I get to say to distraction and or hurry and the need for perfection and Orsha shame and our victimhood and our anger and our hatred any of these things that caused chronic stress to my spirit. I can look at them because they are like demons in a way they're toxic but I can look at them and say I'm glad you're here but that's not who I am. You served a purpose. I like to tell you yes. You served a purpose. There was a time when in my youth especially when I needed you but now is the time for me to say you served your purpose. Thank you but you are no longer needed. You're no longer I might conscious state today. And and to your point way back at the beginning is the fact that you can say you served purpose and you're no longer needed means. It's okay that you welcome. They're just like you said I took that dose of the small thing the disease itself but it didn't it didn't it didn't undo me so that's the small dose where you look at it and says okay. I see that you're here but you're no longer needed today. You know I was told by by someone. I interviewed one. Time is to look at my childhood and I think we've talked. I don't know if you and I have talked about this but to look at my childhood not through my child is but through adult is through my eyes today and I wanNA tell you. Terry that perspective was it was life changing perspective. It was it was just an incredible for me to look at them no longer no longer. Am I looking at the pain but I'm looking at a whole situation? I'm I'm I'm looking at a whole entire scenario of all the players in a scenario and I have a very different view of them now to make sense of it does because I I get to say now less about being grounded in other words I get to say and of the keys seems to be found in that. Oh so uncomfortable. Arena a facing your demons. How can we face our negative emotions in a in a safe place? How can we help people for first of all I mean first of all you you build up your capacity you build up your strength capacity? I mean this is a very good sportsmen for I mean you have to build that up. You have to work so that I have the muscles to do that. I mean that's what that's what Sabbath rest there have been times when I'm doing Sabah thrashed and I'm just being driven to your point you know like the times when you did silent retreats but another and some people who do that are just driven. You know bat shit crazy because they don't know what to do with it and it's like. I'm going nuts here whether it's I haven't built up the muscles yet to say say I'm okay with Terry. Yes you know and that was like I had last week. I had a guest on and we talked about the boredom. Uselessness of retirement. And that's because that's a whole paradigmatic shift of always being busy and always being productive and always being useful to wear. None of those things are required. It called for using new muscles. It didn't happen over a period of week or two. It was a it was a couple of years that it took to really develop that. Yes and and part of that's part of the process. I mean it's like you know it's like when any of us go to therapy. You know therapist because you're you. You have all this stuff you wanted to fix. I told my therapist You know you're you cost a lot of money I know I'm hoping you can fix the in in the first session before I by Mercedes by accident before I buy your your child university but whatever the point is you're going to get past that and the irony is that I don't get past those quote you call them demons that I don't get past that but now they don't own me anymore so I can sit with them and they don't they don't take over. You know that is that is true and and and it's really true in my life. So how can we? I'm sure a listener is asking. So Terry. What do I need to do to be grounded? So these negative emotions this stress. This anxiety is not owning me. It is not just you know it. Hasn't it hasn't possessed. I mean we get it to where it's not possessing me any longer. Okay here's my list and I'm not even list maker but here's my list and I literally took to pause to stop. You have to have moments when you do that. I mean because the the thing that's going to drive everybody crazy. Think about the way we greet each other every day. No matter who you are we offers we all say what what did you do or what are you doing in other words. Were asking each other. How are you staying distracted than busy? That is true. Thomas Merton Thomas Merton called that. He's not with US anymore. But Thomas Merton called it a pervasive form of contemporary violence. I love that. He said the rush and pressure pressure of modern. Life is going on with that sentence again. We said the Russian pressure of modern life is basically inner violence. Not Orange was carried away by were carried away by a multitude of conflicting concerns. We surrender to too many demands. We commit ourselves to too many things and even good whereas WanNa help everyone around and in the end we succumb to our own internal violence so the first thing is i. Rep is switched the paradigm. Where did you were and you get this. 'cause you changed your life this way to. Where did you pause this week? Where did you stop this week? Where did you breed this week? I do it regularly in the mornings and then sometimes in the evenings but religious I was GONNA say religiously the same thing. Yeah Yeah. They are my rituals. Yeah but but finding myself even pausing more usually. I jumped right into meditation. Now I'm sitting in thinking for fifteen minutes before I even meditate. It's just there is a pause. There's something inside of me that is causing me to pause and to pause and ponder my piece squares and my and because a lot of people say okay. That's a great person but while I'm Pasi what should I do with over? It's not a contest it's not a race. I just want you to make space. Yeah so which leads. Yeah which Lisa number two and number two is you pay attention. Another is now. You'd pay attention to what is there in front of you and someone says was just a lot of crap. Okay well I'll look at it. It doesn't scare me. I'll look at it or now. I see stuff that I wouldn't have seen. There really is something about paying attention and it is that it's a. It's a very conscious choice. It is something that that you must y- because it's because paying attention. Oddly enough I think is has become an unnatural act unless there's a mess or something spectacular going on but in the normal every day we don't pay attention to what is going on. I don't know if I did in the last moment. I'M COMING UP AT RODIN ARTIST REAL K. They were friends in Russia. Roker central. Danny. I WANNA I WANNA learn how to You know be as intentional as you are in life and he said okay. Go to the zoo and sit by. There's a tiger tiger says wanting to sit in front of the Tiger Tiger cage. Do what once you look at for. How Long Rodin said look at it until you see it. Yeah and then. He wrote the poem in many exactly. Yeah that's exactly right. And then he wrote the great poem about the time of Year Yahoos in the cage. Who are the tiger? Yeah that's that came out of that. That came out of the second one which is pay attention. I don't I don't run from anymore. There's a nuance to paying attention. That is not just paying attention to the physical things that are going on as I'm looking over here at Paul bewildered wondering what the Hell is going on And and there is. There is a internal paying attention that you're paying attention to what is being said inside of you. What your emotions are what your thoughts are. You know how you're thinking of yourself. How thinking of others? There's a paying attention to those internal voices that rather than letting them dominate sort of incoherently. Taking them one by one and looking at them and and dismantling them and understanding them because paying attention there is is is. I mean. This is my favorite metaphor image for this verse later. Member diversely movers. Yeah and even Bursley could do like remember when they showed everything down and he saw all the little things. All around in that were about to happen. I vaguely remember that but none of it undid him. Some of it could have been really really bad but none of it undid because he saw it slowly any could respond exactly because he had the capacity to respond because he was grounded. He was in a place where he was comfortable with him his capacity. I think that's a metaphor for what I'm talking about. Our emotions is that rather than let us Rather than allow a host of emotions to bombard us at one time and we that's when that's when stress occurs as when there's so many different things heaviness at one time is that we sort of single them out or or identify them individually and we can deal with it so much so much better that way rather than the incoherence garbled thought now about the pay attention thing. Is You know 'cause I can come in. We've all had this where someone has come to us to say it's overwhelming I don't know what to do is crazy. Nuts driving CETERA. Searcher what do you say okay? Breeze GonNa say that's not helping. I'M STILL NOT ETCETERA. And you know what it's like at some time when you been able to just breathe and their space and you look at it and you say okay. That's not good but I can handle the not good thing. Now you can say oh. That was nothing. Why did that get so much attention? Then you can go through them but it is back to what I said earlier. It's a conscious choice. You make a choice to do that. It is a conscious choice. It is a conscious choice and and and cause some people say well. That's easy for you to say or do. And as if it's a skill set that certain people learn what people need to understand is that everyone has the capacity to make that conscious choice to make those choices. This isn't a race isn't a contest. This isn't a beauty pageant. Okay down so let's go to our steps here so the first one is is. I'm not the first one is not step back. Is that step back because step back step back in the second one pause pause is that back positive. Step back so that seven. That's exactly savage back. Pause do nothing rest Tell me tell me where that is in your life and your day because I can tell you right now and you would. You would say this to if someone has is overly stressed. I would say if you don't have that place in your life. There's nothing else I can do to help you. Yeah said by for you. A fifth of whiskey. Yeah exactly because that's what it is it's numbing. It's nothing that away. Look I'm GonNA throw before we take a break coming to throw. I'm GONNA throw an idea to and and I have no idea all I have a little idea that I think it's a there's some truth to it but I wonder what you think. And is this goes back to that. Derek Glenn quote that I said earlier we become what we think and I read as I was giggling. This spiritual and emotional immunization. I read one article that says we tend to live in a think then feel then act cycle which means we are acting out on our feelings not on our conscious conscious and often more rational thoughts and the author suggested wonderfully diverse at pattern and begin with feeling then thinking then acting. I sort of like the idea of feeling the feeling and then pondering the meaning or consequence of that feeling in a thinking process rather than beginning with thought beginning with feeling. What does this strike any Coordi- with you? I don't disagree with that. I mean the feelings that I have are are literally there. And it's and it's okay to name and not be overwhelmed by other words. I get to choose now to name. What power or what choices I make with them for example. Let's say my feeling is I'm completely unnerved and undone by what's going on and my feelings are I'm pissed off. Okay good but as grounded person I can step back remember. Pars I could step back. Take a look at those feelings and now I get to go to number two which is so what am I gonNA do about it? Now that you're thinking what choices can I am? I going to make with those feelings or am I going to simply let them make the choice. You know that is so you. You are not at the mercy. People say well I was so angry. I'm at the mercy of it. No you are not at the mercy of Your Anger. You will not then. I say that as if I haven't been I'm not saying factors what I've preached but the point is at some point. I have had times in my life. I've just said Okay Jerry. Practice number one. Step back pause when you're in doubt pause when you're angry pause when you're frustrated pause any of those things so that you can do what you said. This feeling is not completely who you are going on in your life true and it's very dominated in your life and and the players would anger. I can actually take some of the anger without throwing it all away and do something good with it. Well that's the part. That was what I came to the conclusion. That was one of the things that really arose. One of the elements are really. The demons are really arose in my in my Sabbatical and that was unrecognized anger and I realized for me at that point. I'm sure it's much more complex than this. But in my handwritten journal I said I really have two choices. When it comes to anger I have revenge. Which only leads to exacerbated anger and bad situations you know negative negative results or. I have believe it or not. I have the option to love my way through it to forgive and love my way through that anger and much saner choice. It is a much more difficult choice but after you after you pause after I found that I paused pondered it. It was the only logical choice. There was no other logical choice because I've seen the results of me responding with anger and I can't recall a single time. It's worked and I and muggy no way through it is I like Like I like the language there because I'm not I'm not discounting it sowing the way pretend doesn't exist no no lawrence on this thing of being grounded you realize there are power stronger van what you feel at the mercy of yes and and and those powers come from within for those which are going to go into right right now there are spiritual powers that we can that we can That we can align with and I wanNA talk about that after a quick break. Hi there this is Charlie hedges. And you're listening to the next chapter with Charlie and I'm on with my good friend Terry. Hershey and we are talking about emotional and spiritual immunizations our immune systems. And what we can do we. We've spent about a half an hour so talking about emotional emotional immune systems in. How emotions are so strong in govern. Our behavior and Terry so wisely suggested that we when we are inundated with these emotions that we pause and that we ponder them and we think about what causes What is it making us do? What is our correct response? Now we're going to go to the other side of this. Which is the more difficult side to me. And that's the spiritual immune system and so before we begin. Terry I'm going to ask you the most difficult question I probably ever asked you. How would you describe spirituality spirituality? Yeah I am flesh and blood but I believe that I am more than flesh and blood. I believe that all of us are more than flushing. Okay and if you want. There's a bigger reality to what's going on and so there's something about being human. That's more than simply that religions have named in many ways. You know unfortunately yes. They've they've named the source that were created by or the source that we're linked to and that's all fine and well and good. There's something underneath all of that. That is bigger in ties. All of and then I would argue ties all of this together and you know some people can super sale. That would love. And that's fine. I'll go with you on that argument. I argue that. It's grace and spirituality Spirituality names that I honor that part of what makes up Terry. Underneath and bigger van just the flesh and blood her like that. I think that's a really good definition. I've been listening to tuning into the mystics with James Finley. Who is part of Richard Wars? Are you only union? He's definitely a union and what he talks about in missed it because he talks a lot about mysticism he's the. He's sort of the campus mystic. I've always had this idea. That mysticism is a feeling of the presence of The presence of God or ever how we want to use that phrase I'm reluctant to use that phrase. Because he gets so boxed up in that phrase but that. I've looked at it in the transcendent that it's in the in the out there somewhere that I can't even define that's that so mystically out there and yet James. Finley talks about the mystics. See the presence of spirituality in everyday ordinary thing. This brings us back jar. That's awful thing. This brings us back to step number two. Do we say. Pay attention and John Dos coders. Who Rose would have been writing to right he coined the phrase called this Phi snes s this but other words. That's actually been the sacred in the middle the very ordinary this and that's the pain attention part. That's the remarkable thing about that. When I see something bigger than just flesh and blood in the middle of what feels like crazy in the stepping back. The pain attention is. I'M INVITED TO EXTRAORDINARY. World extraordinaire place. That's that is that is that is constructed of the ordinary wrecked absolutely that's That is that is a. That was a profound thing for me. Because I you know all these years that I've that I've honored mysticism I've I've really and I've you know I've read the Early Church fathers and I just did not catch that point that it is in the the business of it of of every day. Notice that that is where we find our spirituality. We find our spirituality in other people and in our daily activities and in the surroundings that we have and we find divinity. Finley is really strong. We find a divinity in other people and in nature. They're very strong into nature that we yeah this. The sacred is in the exquisite and extraordinary ordinary. I'm not just making breakfast. There's something about the smell of the egg that's being cracked in the way fries. And the popping of the oil but the way the sun comes through the window and the way it hits me and the warmth on my skin where so many wonderfully extraordinarily ordinary things that happened there. That can escape me if I haven't done number one pause and number two pay attention and because you're so distracted with exactly with the heavy and then you've got to get onto something else. Yeah so yeah. My third point is gratitude. In other words I after I do want to say thank you. I'm glad to be here. You got to that point when you did your son cheeks finding a place where you said. Thank you glad to be here. Thank you for reminding me that because I was I was saying gratitude is a hard thing for me. Oh it's yeah it's hard for many is it? You know I I don't I think of my issues and it's difficult for me to be grateful and that's and I know people that are in full of people and there were on the competitor. The competiton me almost kicked up and said yeah of course more grateful than you are. Yeah my scorecard. Yeah exactly my scorecard. My scorecards better than yours. Go Rhino capacity. Grateful that's back to the ordinary extraordinary ordinary. It'd be grateful for very small. Thanks I'M GONNA go out on a limb here but that's that's not quite unusual and I wanna take take a stab at I googled. I made the mistake but I googled spiritual immunizations and and believe it or not there's quite a host of spiritual immunizations of how you can immunize yourself spiritually and One site offered sermon on the ten keys to spiritual immunization immunization and to me it sounded more like the tin ways to ensure you're a fundamentalist. It's it's just That's part of that is like Is like when you're when you grow up in a winter climate like I did and if your mother's cold she ends up putting Mike seven coats on in the winter when you go to school other words have nothing to do with your life? And that's the kind of immunization that fundamental Christian did your the worry seven coach to impress and then you didn't dare take any off where exactly didn't take off because it would make somebody mad but he think about that for a minute when immunization becomes a performance mechanism bitter keeping score about then. You haven't done number one pause you haven't done number to pay attention and you're having number three gratitude which leads number four number four is if you do number one two three then you realize you got stuff in your life to give away to people around you who can do the first two and that's kindness. That's number four. Give it away the kind you know. It's funny you would say that because In my in my list you know you can imagine my list from Google might might fundamentalists list. I read the Bible go to church. Have a steady memorize scripture break. And you know just just all the rest now. Personally I happen to agree with many of these things like especially like reading the Bible. But it's not you know I don't have I don't have a contest with myself. I don't have. I don't have a a list of how many pages I'm going to read each day and what I'm going to accomplish. I just you know I could read an entire paragraph or two or a page or I could read two or three sentences. It's all what strikes me is. What's important but You know what of this list in every one of these list I did. There was something so obviously missing that it was. It was really heartbreaking. Terry to tell you the truth and you know what was missing. Love forgiveness compassion and kindness. How can you be spiritually immunized without love forgiveness compassion and kindness? How is it possible interesting? Is We do that when we're wearing those seven coasts and not be cold is because we don't trust our capacity. That's the whole thing about not trusting capacity when I was trained in that kind of religious upbringing. I didn't trust Terry. I didn't trust Terry to pause and step back. I didn't trust Terry to pay attention. And be grateful for the sacred in the very very ordinary. Didn't trust that because I was told that Washington enough because Janati didn't come from that you know what's even more territory telling in that environment. You know what else he didn't trust. You didn't trust God. No yeah well Mitchell because got supplies that me and that is what that is what you know. If you're a bible reader that is with the Bible promises you know the the the gospel of Saint. John is just filled with that. Yeah I I didn't trust there's absolutely and because well God's no different than alcoholic father in an environment right. Yes and yeah. He's just pissed off old man instead of instead of as the as I've been listening to these podcasts changed Finley instead of just this year. You know massive pure love and divine goodness that is seeking out what we what we need to be sought out. Yeah I think to me you know yours is grace mine is love and I think love is the immunization for all live spiritual emotional and in my mind all these who is steepest. You know these these other things steep us into a preconceived by human weekly to do list that actually prevent the pondering of the wondering wondering essence of God. They actually get. They actually get in the way the very thing that they're trying to do. And that claims closeness with God gets in the way of closeness with God and that's why I liked it a Merton called contemporary violence literally violent to your student. Well you usually. I'd like to close on a high note but I think that's a good way to close. I think violence to your spirit and and focusing on Grayson love instead. I like your four things and see if I can remember them to pause to wait a minute now to pause to to. I know there's gratitude and I know there's paying attention pause pay attention. I missed the third one. We did thurbers gratitude attention. Say thank you I mean. That's that's it. There's just three portfolios Rosen. Then give it away. Yeah and that is somebody else. Yep Yep share it. There is nothing there is nothing like you know the the cup that can never be filled. The Love Cup two can never be filled. No matter how much you give it away. 'cause you look that rotated rookie. Pause paid attention tiger to thank you gratitude and wrote a poem and guess what share the foam at all here today and intres- resident wrote a song on it. Yeah he really wrote a song on it. Who Do you belong to? Where do you belong? See The tiger in the cage to everything that could be you live. That's the one so then it keeps spilling asks the whole Great News. Yeah Hey man I want to thank you for coming on the show and spending time with me and I'll see you tomorrow. Oh wherein win is to Talk Terry? People might want. But it's going to be after this podcast. Yeah so it's no worries with that 'cause podcast will be after the talk so yeah yes. I'll be down so cal. Yeah and I want to encourage everybody. Check out your Your inspirational post-sabbath moment can be found. Terry. Hershey DOT COM. Thank all our listeners for tuning into the next chapter with Charlie and his Once again also strange podcast and be sure to check us out at our website. The next chapter dot life until next. This is Charlie hedges signing off by for now.
Lies of the Magpie Ch 32&33
"In The power podcast I'm your host the award? Episode. Of Samples from lies of the Magpie Chapters thirty to forty three. Hey friends welcome so glad you are here. How are you doing? How is your summer going I? Hope wherever you are that you are healthy and doing well today we are continuing with our podcast series. I am sharing free bonus samples from the Audio version of my recently released memoir. Lies of Magpie Great News. The audio is completely recorded now. The book is in editing process, and then it will go through the publication. Publication process if you want to make sure that you do not miss the release of the Audio version, or miss any news or special offers about lies the magpie subscribe at Me Warner Dot Com to be on the lives of the Magpie newsletter and that way you will be the first to know about any specials and he sales any book tours or things coming your way. That is the way to stay current. 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As I've mentioned before I am working to get fifty reviews so that I can draw the attention of bookstores and libraries, and so that they can see I'm a legitimate author with a legitimate book something that would be worthwhile for them to stock on their shelves, so thank you for helping me to get to that. Milestone of fifty reviews I so appreciate it. All right today's chapters thirty, two and thirty three. We are in part three of lies of the Magpie. If you listened last week, then you'll know that I called to get a doctor's appointment and I was turned down because the doctor wasn't taking new patients. And then Erin happened to run into that doctor and was able to get an appointment. Now I'm reading about the doctor's appointment and worried about what will happen and especially worried about if I am sick enough to merit seen doctor. Does anyone else have this? Go through your mind. You're like I. Don't know really sick enough to go to a doctor. and. Maybe it's just me, but I just always have this worried that the Doctors GonNa, look at me and just that I am hypochondriac that I'm making things up that it's on my head like I could be bleeding out on the table and probably think that I'm not sick enough to be a doctor, but the challenging thing for me at this time was that I wasn't bleeding. Nothing was broken I. Didn't even really have a specific pain anywhere like if I had a lump bumper lesion, it would have been easier. Only knew is that I felt so horrible, but I didn't have words for it, and it was so hard for me to try to imagine talking with the doctor and trying to explain why I was there in the doctor's office, and nothing sounded legitimate enough so chapter thirty two is entitled Sick Enough and takes you through all of my preparation. To go to the doctor's appointment. Then, in chapter thirty, three I am waiting for the results waiting and actually hoping four a legitimate diagnosis to the point that I start to fantasize that I want validation I want legitimacy enough that all even take a diagnosis of cancer just because I feel so awful, and I don't want it to be all in my head I, don't want it to just be labeled as depression like I'd rather have a serious sounding ailment than just have them say you have postpartum depression, which I? I didn't believe was a serious ailment I. Really believed that it was just more of a reflection on a person's character weakness than a legitimate physical illness, so in chapter thirty three. I worry infra, wonder what my diagnosis will be wonder how serious it will be worry if it's not going to be anything and without spoiling the chapter, the diagnosis I end up with was not anything at all. I anticipated. Hand is going to cause a lot more confusion and complication as the story progresses. So with that bit of background, let's continue with the audio readings of lies of the Magpie. Chapter thirty two sick enough. Tissue Paper crinkles under me as I shift uncomfortably on the exam table. My main hope is that I'm sick enough to justify Dr Thorpe finagling his scheduled to accommodate me. I'm holding out for a real medical diagnosis, not postpartum depression, which isn't a medical diagnosis as much as a character assessment, revealing a woman, feeble fortitude, failing to cope with the normal rigors of motherhood. You say Dr Thorp. Lie a quiz in preparation we'd rehearsed this appointment and tested different dialogue. One problem is that I don't look sick. Nothing on me is broken, swollen, bruised or bleeding. There are no unusual bumps, rashes or cuts for a doctor to examine nothing to x ray on the outside. I look perfectly fine. In. Order for Dr Thorpe to take me seriously and not perceived me as a raging HYPOCHONDRIAC I've prepared a notebook with two pages, listing my symptoms and questions. This hint came from an article. I read entitled be Your Own Health Advocate. When the doctor enters the room. My Hope Sinks it. Isn't Dr Thorpe it? All A physician's assistant I've never met reaches out to shake my hand. Hi, I'm Bart. Hanson you can call me. What brings you in today? This scene was pre enacted last night in my mind with Dr Thorpe playing the role of ideal medical expert. Gathering my bearings I. DO my best to adjust for the change. Look at my notes and begin listing my symptoms. Unexplained weight loss I'm down to one hundred and fifteen pounds. My clothes don't fit and my wedding ring slides off my finger I'm always hungry Bart tilt his head, a woman, complaining about being able to eat like a lion and still lose weight. I shouldn't have started with that. One I can almost hear women across the world, pleading with me to police contaminate them with the same disease to which I would answer. Trust me ladies. You don't want it. Looking down I fumble with my notes hoping he will forget about the weight loss comment and forge ahead. Extreme fatigue zero energy. It's so hard to get out of bed and get moving in the morning. Bart raises his eyebrows like this lady on the table can't be for real. None of what I'm saying comes close to describing how Ron I feel. Time to shift gears to things that sound more medical. I have shakiness numbness and tingling in my arms hands sometimes in my lakes. Bart nods, but I can't get a reading on his thoughts. Blurry Vision late headedness sometimes I get a ten or metallic taste in my mouth. I've been experiencing a decrease in motor skills like a week grip in loss of coordination. Also a sore, itchy throat with a lot of drainage mucus in my chest and I've had a cough all winter. That won't go away. Are you getting enough sleep? I think back to last night a wake until when I am thinking about this appointment. Then shortly after dozing off jack woke up to eat. I have a hard time falling asleep and since Christmas may be been waking up at night to eat. The word baby spills out of my mouth before I can stop it so I tried to blow past. Hoping Bart isn't really listening, but even if I do sleep a full eight hours I, don't feel any better. Sleep doesn't make a difference in how I feel. How can I convey to this stranger? That I am a tough girl? I'm not prone to call Dr. over a few hours of lost sleep a fuzzy hit. How old is your baby? Eight months tomorrow I barely whisper. Bart snaps. His laptop shut. I looked down already knowing what he's going to say. You know he looks at me in a way. That tells me I should have known better. It does take a full twelve months for a woman to completely recover from childbirth. My body jolts as if something heavy dropped. A surge of frustration boils, and I want to grab Bart by the shirt collar. Put My face in his shout. Look in these is they are different from your eyes, because I am a mother, and even my retinas have evolved through the stages of metamorphosis unique to a mother I see things in microscopic detailed. That non mothers Miss. Twisting his caller I would spit into his mouth I have had four more babies than you ever will and I am telling you this time. Something is different. But. He is the one with a medical degree so I. Sit quietly hands on my lap. Lips closed grateful. He didn't say postpartum depression. At the door turns around I will order some blood work just in case. A nurse comes in and draws my blood, filling three or four vials with the dark liquid. How old is your baby? She chatters away while I bleed into glass Oh. That's so fun. She bubbles at the thought playing mommy I don't have children yet, but I want to. She takes a wad of cotton into the creek of my elbow where all done with you. At the checkout, my head hangs while the office manager looks at my chart. Let's see you pay one hundred percent of every appointment until you meet your deductible. Aaron and I pray every day. That will never meet our ten thousand dollar deductible. That will be one hundred and twenty five dollars. How do you want to pay? In the Waiting Room Lia- sits in a leather chair reading cosmopolitan. She looks exactly like the celebrity model on the cover. Writing down the elevator, I replay the appointment for her. Basically I wasted fifteen minutes of Bart's precious time and made a fool of Erin. Lion makes a clicking sound. One hundred and twenty five dollars to be told to takes twelve months to recover from childbirth. You should have gone shopping for shoes. Chapter Thirty Three E. V.. My last hope is that the blood tests will reveal something to validate. Why feel so awful? The days pass, but Dr. Thorpe's office doesn't call with results. Maybe. They don't call if there's nothing to report, live suggests. Errand takes a few more afternoons to drive me to meet customers. Then he stops offering not only does it interrupt tanner and Jack snap schedules an prevent from finishing his work, but also though never admits this out loud. My countenance calls to mind the lead character from Zombie bride. My voice sounds like strained. Pasta left out to dry so rather than building good business report I am what the media would call. A public relations nightmare for are struggling magazine. Perhaps. Aaron will grow so annoyed with me that he'll drive me out to the desert and dropped me off like an unwanted cat. Part of me wishes he would. I'm no kind of mother and an even lousier excuse for a wife. Each day is a reminder of the worthless human. I've become. The next week. Erin has another unplanned encounter with Dr Thorpe in the hallway after a seminary meeting at home. He repeats their conversation for me. I told him we hadn't heard any results from the blood tests and he was surprised. His nurse haven't called US Dr Thorpe. had grabbed Aaron shoulder and said her blood test showed a couple of things. According to Aaron Dr Thorpe looked serious when he said no wonder she feels awful. What does she have Aaron? Had asked somewhat panicked. I need to run more tests before I have definitive answers. Call my office tomorrow and schedule a follow up Dr. Thorpe had said then left Erin staring and hurried off to another meeting. In bed Aaron. Sleep soundly while I lay awake, mulling over Dr Thorpe Statement. Her blood tests showed a couple of things. My Eyes Watch. The odd shapes of shadows move stealthily across the ceiling. A car engine turns over at the neighbors House. The words churn in my head. No wonder she feels so awful. There is a reason then a cause behind my inability to function. Dr Thorpe's words give me hope of validation the possibility that I'm not a week woman, but a strong woman dealing with a real physical challenge. But what did my blood tests show? The possibilities are numerous. I could stay awake exploring them most of the night, which I do counting the potential maladies higher than numbers of sheep. Falling Asleep to the gentle by of those liberating words, no wonder she feels so all a phrase, which to me carries the relief and freedom of what a courtroom defendant must feel upon hearing the declaration, not guilty. Before the end of the week I'm wearing another hospital gown cloth this time. Molly Dean, the ultrasound technician smears warm jelly down my neck. What is she looking for tumor cancer. Do you see anything suspicious needing my Chin is pointed high while she presses the probe deep against my jugular vein, clicking a button to capture images. We're not allowed to say anything. Needing clicks the mouse with a perfect poker face, highlighting secret numbers and codes around the black and white detail of my thyroid on the Monitor. Your doctor will give you the results. Without moving my neck, my eyes strain to spy of her fingers type the letters C.. A. N. C. E. R.. After a week of researching possible ailments from mylan, all assist to meningitis, the conclusion drawn is that thyroid cancer is the ideal malady. Thyroid cancer is a serious enough diagnosis to prove that this is not a weak character issue, also the appearance of the word cancer in any form immediately garners attention and sympathy, and basically comes with a doctor's excuse note to skip out on life responsibility for awhile. Dear world. Excuse me from any obligations. She has cancer. Give her non-judmental permission to stand bed while you watch her children. Give her your sympathy and deliver warm casseroles at five o'clock each evening and do not ask her to spearheaded the school carnival this year, sincerely God. Is it wrong? This morbid sense of satisfaction at being able to stick it to all the people who haven't believed me. My mind paints gratifying picture of a guilt ridden Bark Hanson tossing and turning in bed and promising I'll never speak in a condescending way to any mother who comes into my office ever again. A diagnosis of thyroid cancer would mean people rallying to my eight Aaron Mo. Hold my hand and watch me with worried is apologizing that. He insisted we go to Utah for Christmas. Bob will tell me. I worked too hard and not to worry about the magazine. My brothers will send flowers. My mom and sister will arrive to clean my house. Ladies at Church will bring dinner and volunteer to watch the kids. Lie Agrees that thyroid cancer is the optimal outcome. It will bring you sympathy, apology and vindication. You deserve all that. In the end. My diagnosis will be exactly what I deserve. Great News Dr Thorpe Breezes into the exam room. Your thyroid looks fantastic. No lumps, growths or lesions doctor appears pleased to deliver good news then his smile drops, and he looks puzzled as my expression changes from hopeful anticipation to disappointment, a clean ultrasound pulls the rug out of my mandatory hospital vacation. What about no wonder? She feels so awful. So what wrong with me? I can't go home empty-handed. What could I say to Erin to Bob? Two people at Church, so my family that the doctor couldn't find anything wrong with me, so it must all be in my head. One of the blood test we ran was an Epstein Barr Teeter. You've had Epstein Barr for eight weeks. What is obscene bar. The term is recognizable though I've always heard. Epstein Barr tossed into the same hat as chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, vague category of illnesses that doctors assigned names to tell patients. We don't know what's wrong with you. These are the types of. That label, a percent as sick with questionable air quotation marks. Of all the thousands of possible outcomes I'd envisioned, not one scenario had remotely considered the possibility of a mystery illness when the comes with a lifetime warranty and no cure. Dr Thorpe gives a medical school explanation about how a few different viruses are known to have only one nucleus, and thus merit the name mononucleosis, so the knock you down, make you ultra tired illness that society commonly refers to as Mono. Isn't the only mononucleosis various? This micro biology lesson doesn't make me any wiser regarding my condition. So Do I. Have Mono I ask for clarification. The Teen Barr virus can cause mono, but it can cause other illnesses to Dr. Thorpe flips over the printout of my lab numbers andrawess graph. Eight weeks ago, your immune system created antibodies against the Epstein Barr virus eight weeks ago. I loved urgent care with an antibiotic prescription for strep throat, but since the lab technician was gone, they hadn't swapped my throat to make certain. Can Mono Epstein Barr symptoms be confused with Strip through. Some of the symptoms of mono are similar to strep throat, such as coughing Nukus buildup and extreme fatigue, having delivered his good news about my thyroid Dr. Thorpe closes his laptop ready to move through the lineup of patience waiting for him. His waiting room had been crowded, but I'm still confused. What about my thyroid? Desperate for more answers. Your Tsa, H. or thyroid stimulating hormone was high the first time, but this last test came back at three point two, which is well within normal range. It's possible that the V had thrown your thyroid temporarily out of whack. Dr Thorpe starts to leave again, but I don't know what steps to take next. What do I go home and tell? Erin? Wait. I still have some questions if that's okay hey. Dr Thorpe Leans against the counter as I opened my red notebook and fire a volley of questions at him. Could the surgeon. My thyroid number be a sign of a deeper problem. Did the tests definitively rule out a tumor or cancer? Are there other tests I should get? Why do I have trouble falling asleep at night? What can I do about the coughing in the Flam? How can I be sure I? Don't have something more serious. Dr Thorpe Gift. Short answers hinting that my fifteen minute appointment with him over. And my contagious. I'm thinking about all the poor people who have been on the receiving end of one of my hugs, kisses or handshakes. Eight weeks piano recital guests, business contacts errands family over Christmas. My family, who slept at my house and ate the food I'd coughed onto and Jack. There's no way I haven't exposed Jack. If we tested the population. Probably Ninety percent of adults would already have antibiotics to abstain barbarous, showing that they've been exposed to it at some point in their life. A lot of people don't realize they've had mono for them. It manifests as a Colt and children don't usually get mono. How do I get better. There are a couple of new antiviral drugs on the market one that fights herpes and the virus is related to the herpes virus, but you usually have to take within three days of the viral onset whether it would help against a two month old viruses questionable, but you could try. Dr Thorp hands me a prescription for the new experimental antiviral medication and allowed order to retest my thyroid in six weeks. Then leaves me staring at the cotton swabs in the glass jar next to the sink. After the appointment I call my doctor brother Paul for a second opinion. Those antibodies could be from when you had mono in college. Manos like chicken pox. He explains a person gets a once. Then the immune system develops antibodies so you never get again, and the antibodies will stay in your blood and show up on lab tests for the rest of your life. I hang up the phone more confused than before. Possibly I have mono possibly I don't possibly I have a variant disease caused by Epstein, Barr Virus possibly. My thyroid isn't working. Possibly thyroid is working fine. This isn't what I'd expected I'd wanted a clear diagnosis with a scientific name and no ambiguous connotation that me. Being sick is all in my head. Should I take the antivirals. The pharmacy is lined with ceramic plant pots. Thick Petunia Sporting, jumbo red and white blossoms. This has been an especially good winter for petunias. Even the Petunias in my own planter boxes boast larger pedals than I've ever seen. Opening the glass door I face my own wilted reflection. Everything around here is thriving except for me. While the pharmacist fills the prescription I the infant care. I'll debating which brand the formula to use for Jack. The antivirals haven't been on the market long enough to prove safe for breastfeeding. The decision has been made for me. I will be weaning Jack. Aaron greets me at the front door, rocking hungry Jack in his arms. He Leans in to kiss me. His breath on my cheek feels baited. Perhaps, he's been waiting for the results of this appointment with nerves as anxious as my own. What deductor Thorpe say? And so it begins, Aaron is the first in the lineup of people who will ask what the doctor found. My decision to take the viral probably had more to do with having an answer to their questions than out of belief that they would make a difference. He said I have a virus. He put me on an antiviral medication. Yes, this is the answer I will give them all from my siblings to the ladies at Church. Doctor says it's virus I'm taking an antiviral. which is so much different than saying? Doctor says it's depression. I'm taking an antidepressant. Aaron seems relieved. Carrying Jack to breastfeeding base Camp I. Smother his ear, neck and cheeks with kisses. Dr Thorpe's said babies can't get mono. Are you starving my little man. I lift my shirt. Let him nurse for as long as he wants, or at least as long as it takes for me to stop crying. Later that afternoon when I give Jack, his first bottle of infant formula looks into my eyes with curious satisfaction as if to say so, this is what real nutrition tastes like. What took you so long? That afternoon Erin. Moves Jacks Crib. Out of our bedroom. I cross my heart, spit into my palm, and shake hands, promising errand that for one week I will let jack cry during the night instead of getting up to comfort or feed him. It's about time we all start sleeping through the night. This is me warner, thank you so much for joining me today for listening to the sample chapters from the audio version of lies of the Magpie. If you just can't wait to hear how the story inches, you can go, buy your own copy today on Amazon. It's available in paperback and kindle version. You can also join me every Thursday at ten am on facebook. Live for discussion of one chapter of lies of the Magpie and this week we will be discussing chapter, three love and marriage. As always be safe. Stay healthy and I will meet you back here next week for another great episode of the Power Podcast by friends.
390: The Most Powerful Pivot You Can Make Right Now with Amy Porterfield
"Hey it's Jenna. Let me cut to the chase registration for the once a year free training led by my mentor turned friend. Any porterfield is open right now at Jena Plus Amy Dot com that's Jenna Plus Amy Dot Com to save your seat for how to create and launch a profitable digital course where annual be sharing the behind the scenes secrets for digital course creation. This live masterclasses all about what she's learned in her eleven years of creating and delivering top quality digital training in all things business marketing social, and online courses she's brilliant and. She's one of the mentors that led me to create my first online course, her live have open seats and I. Hope Your name is on one of them. She only does this once a year. So do not miss your shot ready to learn from the course creation queen herself about what it takes to launch digital force WANNA, hear the behind the scenes strategies that amy and thousands of her students myself included used launch their courses around the world. Then grab your seat at Jena plus any dot com I'll see you inside all right onto the show. They've outgrown a certain topic or they're not lit up by that topic anymore and I wanNA, make sure your listeners hear me that you have permission to change the direction you're going. Hey My name is Jennifer an I am obsessed with all things, business marketing numbers and helping you to navigate both the messy and the magical seasons. This thing called life I'm a small town mama who took three hundred dollars camera grew as successful Biz, and now a work from home in Romans seven figure online business I teach you the tried and true secrets to building a career. You Adore shy away from the real talk no way money hardship growth loss marketing are all topics we discussed here. This is your one stop shop for happy hour with a Gal pal mixed with business school pull up a seat. Make sure your cozy and get ready to be challenged and encouraged while you learn. This is the gold digger podcast. If we were to play Word Association for Twenty Twenty I'd bet the very last word that comes to mind for you is certainty everything feels month-to-month day-to-day even minute by minute many of us are watching our here's navigate big changes as we ourselves pivot and adapt whether it's personally or professionally we're making decisions that we could have predicted would be on our plates at the start of this year. Maybe you're faced with a professional decision right now, if you're one of the millions of Americans out of work or your small business owner whose livelihood is at stake during a time of uncertainty, let me tell you this. You are not alone and the purpose you might have. Lost sight of could be sitting on the other side of your next big pivot pivoting is the theme twenty twenty and a theme of this conversation with my friend and mentor porter field. You know she was one of the ways I was listening to an I'm pivoted into the online course world years ago and I. Am so excited to have her on the show once again to talk about the meaningful and even profitable pivots she's seen during the season. If you walk away from this episode with only one thing, let it be your permission to pivot these stories will paint what's possible here she is once again, my friend, my mentor and an incredible leader, any porterfield. Thanks to fiber for supporting Golddigger, it's so easy to find freelance talent for your business or product. Do not waste any more time ten percent off in the service you deserve by going to F I v E R Dot Com and using the code gold digger. Now more than ever is the best time to start your email list are you up for a challenge I built out a free mini course to take your list from zero to two, hundred, fifty subscribers, templates, and tech. ALL INCLUDED SIGN UP AT LIST BILLS CHALLENGE DOT com that's list build challenge dot com. Oh Amy. I am so excited to have you back on the podcast i. feel like you are the gold digger podcast. Best friend. So welcomed to show. Well, thanks for having me I. Love Coming Back. This is so fun. It is fun. Is such a good chance for us to catch up and I was dying laughing the other day when I text you that screen shot of the email that I sent you. A Good and I loved that you actually sent that out to your audience. I wanted them to see behind the scenes like that. Yes you know and it's so funny because actually my team yesterday messaged me and they're like, Jenna. So you send out this email to everyone revealing your fan girl this to Amy Porterfield. But you also asked amy, who's she recommended and how she recommended you learn and everyone was replying to that e mail saying, well, what did any say and I said L. them that they're just going to have to listen to this. Episode. Of the gold digger podcast to hear what ended up transpiring. So to give people the quick version, Amy was the first podcasts I ever listened to. In fact, amy at the time I didn't even know that there is an APP on your phone to listen to podcasts. So every week I would go to your blog and I'd hit play on your blog and that was the only way that I knew how to tune in isn't that hilarious so funny I love that. But I became a student in both of your programs and I remember if we had vision boards which I've never been a big vision board person but if I had when I would have written across it a million times I WANNA be any porterfield success story like that was at the core of my heart I was just so such an admire of you. And your work and that is only continued and so today what we're going to be talking about is powerful pivots of twenty twenty and I think I've joked that if twenty twenty how to word, it would be pivot and so I think this discussion is just coming at such a powerful time because we're all getting a little tired from this year, right? Right. I'm ready for twenty, twenty one bring it on. As as we still have some time, make some of the No. So excited about. Okay. So let's just kind of dive on in because I want to hear you know I've been listening to your show religiously through this year because I feel like you have been this permission grander for people to show up to make bold moves to make decisions to still sell in this climate that feels very tricky and so let's just kind of talk first about your journey through your digital course academy, which is opening you. Yourself have been someone that has led thousands of people through things. What is it felt like being a leader through this season? You know I have never been asked this question. So I'm glad we're talking about this when the pandemic hit I was confused like what is going on what is this and how serious do I need to take this and then quickly I realized wait a second my students, my audience they are nervous they are confused they are looking to me to figure out what do I do in the number one question that came up is am I allowed to. Sell during this time like what the heck do I do, and for some reason Mrs, probably the leadership in me I felt called to be a voice during this time and I wanted to show what I was teaching. So what it meant for me is I literally rose to the occasion and I said okay. Here's what I think. We all should do we should continue to sell. We should continue to look at our offers and see how we need to. Pivot it in order to show up for the people that were serving right now, and we should not be quiet. We should not back down. We should not ignore what's going on and so I had to be an example of that. So I literally launched a membership during that. Literally the week that everybody was sent home during the very beginning of the pandemic and so I- navigated my way through that it was awkward very scary but it was so. Important to show what I wanted my students to do, and then from there I started showing up in talking about how to pivot, how to show up for your audience and how to be a beacon during a time where people were very very scared and it literally made me a better leader because I was leading during uncertain times I had never done that before. So I'm really glad that I felt called to that because I think it's made me better. Yeah. Some things never change amy I was listening to your podcasts. been listening when you're talking about like guys like not selling is not an option not in. That you had a lot of foresight to understand like this isn't as temporary as were making it out to be, and this is something that we've got to adjust to in one of the most beautiful things in the ways that you showed up was like you're like, you can still launch. You just need to be very cognizant of the language and the way that you're showing up and the way that you're selling and I just thought it was beautiful because it's like you can keep on with your plan. Let's just pivoted slightly to make sure that it fits the climate that we're all in and I was like Amen A. Vaccari. So. What big pivots have you personally made in your career because your career is over a decade that have just felt like you were jumping into uncertainty I feel like we all have these hill moments were like, what am I doing? Is this the best thing or the worst thing I've ever done? Do you have anything that stands out for you? Yes. Okay. So I love the US the question like over the span of my career because one of the first big pivots I made was moving from one topic to another and I think this is important to talk about because a lot of people will start to get into their business growing in online business and they'll get to a point. That they realised they've grown certain topic or they're not lit up by that topic anymore and I wanNa make sure your listeners hear me that you have permission to change the direction you're going but let me back up a little bit when I left Tony. Robbins I started out with social media I would do social media for small businesses and that led me into getting really good at facebook marketing. So my first successful digital course was a facebook marketing one OH, one type program, and that is really what put me on the map in terms of being a facebook marketing go-to person and so from there my students said you know what we really want is a facebook advertising program so that was The next program I created, and then my students said we'll we'll or really looking for is a facebook marketing, all in one total solution strategy type of program, and that was the third program I created successfully add a few failed starts in the beginning, but those are my first three really successful courses. So at that point, I was known as a facebook marketing expert after a while, I did this for a while and I realized I don't want to teach facebook marketing anymore it didn't light me up I had so much more to offer, and because I had gotten so good at creating digital courses and launching them online that's what I wanted to teach people how to do so I made this. Pivot about three years three to four years into my business. I'd say I gradually moved over to teaching people how to grow their email list and from there how to create a digital course from scratch and this was scary for me because I was known for something I created an audience for something. But what's important is that you will not survive in your business wanting to get up every morning excited about what you're doing if you don't love to teach what you know, and so I knew a few different things now I had grown and I had to make that pivot and I did it gradually. So it wasn't a huge shakeup of the business, but I'm so glad I, made that pivot. Yeah, I love that and I I mean, I've done similar things. I taught photographers that was my first big horse and we retired that program because I'm no longer shooting like I used to I no longer emma part of that industry in a that would allow me to be that expert and I think that there is that fear where you're like, this is what I'm known. For this is what people have come to me for. But what a beautiful example that like humans multifaceted or multi passionate, and we can connect with people on so many different things and I just I love that I. Love that so much about gave me a lot of confidence to know look I do have a lot of skills a lot of knowledge a lot of know how. I am able to make that pivot if necessary, but let me give you one more that was a little bit more recent in the middle of my career. These eleven years I got into a partnership. I brought a partner into the business. He was more like a silent partner behind the scenes and he was really he put together funnels in strategies and we really took the business to a multimillion dollar place together working together as partners in the business I had created, and then after a few years we got. To the point that we realize the partnership had run its course and I wanted to move on Solo again, and it was a really rough time trying to figure out how to get out of business partnership. I, often say it felt like a business divorce, my broken I think he probably would feel the same way we weren't on the same page at times because of course, we wanted different things and it was difficult to say the least and there were days that I thought holy cow would if we can't. Come to an agreement and I literally have to start over from scratch the business I had created, and then we had partnered together might have to be dissolved because we can't come to an agreement. What if I have to start over from scratch I spent about a day in deep depression of losing something I had felt so like I had birthed from the beginning but then after that in, this is a very true story I realized wait a second I have sold digital courses online. I, know how to make. Money Online. If you take everything away me that I had created, I literally can start from scratch because I know now, how to make money online and I think that's where my really huge confidence came in creating digital courses and teaching other people how to do it because I realized it had given me the solid foundation I needed that no one can ever take that away from me and I wanted that for my students as well. So actually realizing I will be willing to start from scratch if I need to. Literally changed everything for me. Now, the Great News as we came to an agreement, we end the partnership, I kept the business but at one point I didn't think that was going to be true and so now I know what? I offer. My students is security a foundation and this opportunity to always know how to make money online. I remember. US, voiced acceding. You were like I. Think he's having dykes and you go. So if you're going to start your business over today. Would you plan to grow your email? US exactly where you were. Worth for a while like it was like you know what we got this and I think to the second piece. That's so important what you just said and I feel like this is a theme that a lot of women specifically need to hear but men is well in something that I think twenty twenty has taught us is that we need to trust ourselves that we know and that like if we look back, we have always been smart enough to change and. Evolve and ro and I feel like. So many of the discussions I've been having with women entrepreneurs that I'm either coaching or just being a mentor for and like you do not need to worry you have made it this far. You will continue on. You are so smart. You need to trust in those abilities and I love that you shared that because they think that for so many of us if we find success, we worry. So deeply that is fleeting. Forget like. No I. Learned this once and I have used it and refined in tweaked it over and over and over again and I've gotten myself results and if you're at the starting line look at your life like there have never been mistakes, there have been things that have maybe caused you to change course but it's just like I think twenty twenty is reminded us to almost like go inward and say look I've already come this far I can only go further I one. Million percent agree with that. I love that you pulled that theme of that about Trusting Yourself. That's something that I have to remind myself on the daily. So yes yes I want to know because you have led I mean thousands of students but have you seen any like cool things that your students are doing during this year like in the theme of pivoting? Yes. Okay. Let's get into a little storytime because this is my favorite when I get to I've got my. Yes right grab your coffee because this is the time I get to highlight some of the students in what they've done. So when we're talking about pivots, one of the pivots I've seen a lot for my students is this ability to move from one area of expertise into another because of pure necessity. So one of my students her name is kirsty she had a brick and mortar business it. Was for organic skin care. So people would come into her SPA. She would take care of them, pamper them and do amazing things with her organic skincare. But at the time a Kobe, it closed down she literally had to furlough her entire staff and so here's something that's so valuable to hear. She realized that she had an audience she had customers and she wanted to figure out how can I? Serve them in a different way. So what she did is she created a program called the seven shock res- journey or the journey through seven shock res-, and she knew that her ideal audience that came into her spa they would find this incredibly valuable. So she put together a digital course she was at home and couldn't go into her spiny more created this course and generated ten thousand dollars quickly. And I think what's valuable about this is she knew that she had other skill sets transferable skills that she could use in different ways and anyone listening right now I wanna remind you that just because you're an expert in one area doesn't mean that you don't know other things other skills, other knowledge that your audience wants to know. So making ten thousand dollars with the digital course for her SPA. Is One way to pivot and so now the sky's the limit she's like now I know that I've got other courses in me and I teach this. I think that's so powerful and I think to for someone that has had to show up and trade time for money and not even with certainty in that aspect like going into the shop and just praying customers do come in and spend money to have that proof of concept has got to feel just a life changing, right? Exactly. That was one of my favorite stories another one this is so good. So one of my students her name is Karena she's a farmer, which is rare I don't have a lot. Of Farmers as my audience but Karina decided, she was a farmer that wanted to find new ways to generate revenue. So she decided to put together a vegetable subscription box for her customers locally. So the customers would come to her every week. They would get the subscription box full of gorgeous vegetables take him home cooked with them and all of that, and this was something that she's done really well with she came to me initially because she wanted to know how to market this subscription box online. So that's how. The two of US got connected, but then an she generated really good money with her subscription box. But here's what happened when cove it hit. She realized when all the restaurants closed, all the farmer markets closed her peers the other farmers were struggling like dramatically they didn't have subscription boxes. They didn't know how to make money and she saw them really hurting and so she said you know I wanted to teach what I'm already doing in my own business to the other farmers and she even said listen I didn't. Know how I felt about selling to a group of people who were already struggling financially but I knew I could help them. I knew that this process developed a selling high price point subscription boxes direct to local customers could save their farms. So I know I could make an enormous difference for them. So I went for it. So she put together a digital course on how to create these vegetables subscription boxes and she generated thirteen thousand, six, hundred dollars. She sold fifty one units right out of the gate during cove. Sold to an audience that wasn't making money, but they saw the opportunity to grow their business in different ways, and so I think this takes a lot of courage to take what you've done and then teach it to other people. But this is a perfect example of how a digital courses borne. So good. Wow. That's one of my another one of my favorites but I'm GONNA. Tell you one more in a lot of people can relate to this one. So Ann Marie is a student of mine who generated thirty eight, thousand dollars in just our she literally sold out her digital course because she wanted to put a cap on it. So let me back up a little bit. Anne Marie is a military wife, and so she needed a career where she could travel and still serve people and the people that she served were introverted non native speakers learning to communicate confidently in English, and so she was teacher English as a second. Language teacher and because she was a military wife, she did one on one coaching. So she would train and coach people one on one, but she did it online. So she went from in-person to taking it online quickly because she had to travel a lot. But then here's where a lot of people listening can relate. She realized that she started to become really frustrated because she knew there was this very real limit to how many people she can teach working one on one with clients when you're trading time for dollars whether you're doing it online or in person, there's only so much money you can make because there. Is, one of you. So she decided that she was going to create a digital course. Now, the challenge was she chose her launch date something I encourage my students to do in my course I choose a launch date put it out there make it. So in the universe, she chose April twenty twenty. Now, if you know anything about April twenty, twenty wasn't our favorite month this year, the pandemic was alive and well, it was very new. So people were very confused very freaked out and that was her launch date and she decided amy I said I was going to do it. I'm very nervous to launch during A. Pandemic but I know I've got to just keep moving forward and she did. So again, she launched her digital course teaching English as a second language she sold out in fourteen hours made thirty, eight, thousand dollars, and about thirty eight thousand dollars is from students who paid in full. She's willing to get money every single month from those who chose a payment plan. So essentially, she's made more than thirty eight, thousand dollars. 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You know yes I am so glad you brought this up I genuinely believe if I'm thinking of Korean of the farmer I woke up and she's like I am the expert of all experts of subscription boxes I've got to create a course to change the world that is not what my students are thinking and feeling, but you're right they're like listen. I know how to do this other people can get value from this. I think the number one driver of all of my students. There's like two things that come up number one before anything else they genuinely want to help people they want to make an impact whether it be locally with local farmers or on a massive scale like serving the world because you can take anybody from anywhere but they want to help number do I think all of my students would say financial security during this time of total uncertainty we have seen so many people lose their jobs. So many people sent home. To work in realizing, do I even like the job I'm working in and so many people not being able to do what they normally do in order to make a living what has been so amazing what I've been able to witness is my students are not hurting. My students are thriving because they have digital courses. So a pandemic doesn't stop in if anything there's no better time in this world, this history of creating digital courses. Then right now because more and more people are willing and wanting to learn online, they're open minded to the opportunity now because some of them don't even. Have, another choice and some of them have realized we'd I like this online learning a whole lot more than having to travel for it. Yeah. Absolutely. Let's talk about once right now because you and I have actually had a lot of discussions about this and one of the things that we've been researching together in Tiananmen just kind of understanding especially when it comes to buyer habits and the ways that our customers are thinking right now is that there is this need for essentially this year like people are really taking a good hard look at what is considered essential what is considered like in? Boyle, where does that make sense and so walk me through a little bit about how that kind of shows up right now when people are making purchasing decisions in when people are selling. Okay. So there's been a lot of talk around people only spending money on what they need versus what they want and I do believe that is very true when you look at the. World as a whole. However, I have a very unique perspective looking in through the eyes of my students I track successes with digital courses because it's my job and when I see someone like Holly and night who teaches quilting, she's a funny girl. She's in her twenties and she teaches quilting to baby boomers and she said who knew that quilting would become so popular during coronavirus. But what we're seeing is that people are also looking for something to light them up to bring them joy during a very scary time. So what's interesting is I am seeing people buy out of necessity, but they're necessity feels like I need to feel happy I need to fill calm I need to fuel my brain right now or do something with my hands or whatever it might be. So this word necessity. has dramatically changed over the last few months, and so I've seen my students with hobbies teach turn into gold like one of my students she teaches you how to take a lump of clay and turn it into your dishes and your bowls. Now, hear me out here. She taught her course during pandemic where you couldn't even go to the store to get some of the supplies that you needed for her course. But thirty, eight, thousand dollars later I don't know why it's the exact same numbers, my other story, thirty, eight, thirty, three, thirty, three, thousand dollars later she was able to fill up her course teaching people had to take clay and turn it into dishes. So the reason why think courses like that are actually working right now is people are looking for joy during uncertainty but at the same time, they're also looking for ways to have more security in their. Life financial security lifestyle security. So there's really this opportunity that I've never seen before. Yeah. I, have to tell you a funny story but I, feel like lately, I've just been thinking about digital courses so much because it's one just changed my entire life but two were gearing up for your launch of digital. Course. Academy but I feel like one of my superpowers lately is like looking at people in assessing like, okay. What could they teach a course in? Your superpower you I've had these conversations before I can't do what you're going to do right now. So you've got is no. You have no, it really is and it's so funny. So we have been quarantined up in the North Woods and we literally have one neighbor like we share dry with one other person we're on like forty acres of land where in the middle of nowhere and our neighbors are the best people in the world like they've become our best friends we just kind. Of Quarantine together and so Simoni is from Brazil and so they were over the other day and she's teaching US Portuguese. Okay. So we're sitting in our kitchen we have our babies were hanging out and juries asking her like, how do you say this is how do you say that and I'm like, Oh, my Gosh Simoni could totally make a course about learning Portuguese. Second thing they run a super super successful AIRBNB unlike no-brainer make a course on running an airbnb they have it down to a system third thing her husband Andrew is a sailor and he took drew sailing and I was like, oh, my gosh, drew is learning about sailing all the terminology what to do easy course on sailing. Salmon they're out fishing on a sailboat they catch fish teach somebody had clean salmon like I mean, there's just like so many things I'm like sitting here in my own guy, we're up to four courses. that. Drill is showing Andrew the different ways you can wear your baby. So we have all of these baby, right Andrews like and you can do it forward facing, and then if you do word basing you do this and then you can do this has back based on my drew could totally like rock a stay at home dad course like activities with your children ways to keep them occupied Mike. Good. Very good at that. Yes, and I'm like sitting here and by the end of the night, I, swear to you I swear to you I was like I have ten courses that the four of us could create in court in either like it's just exceptional because the thing is is that I could tell each person their gifts and be like you could one million percent make this into. A course and sell it online and I think that there are you objections would pop into their head first how the heck do I do that like it sounds so much more complicated and confusing. What would you say that because you are the Queen of simplifying step by step by step and that's why digital course academy is so incredible but how many people there I thought is like the tech. Oh this one comes up a lot. So it's so funny because you know in our parents tell that story of like back in my day when I walked to school up both ways uphill in the snow. Yeah. So I feel like that when I tell the story but back in my day when I started eleven years ago the technology was a joke like you had to be a programmer or coder to figure out almost anything I was literally. So lost every single day because I'm not a techie kind of person. Now. I figured it out over the years. However, if you are starting out right now you are so incredibly lucky and I promise you. This is true. The technology that you need to create a digital course and to launch it online has become so much more plug and play than ever before you don't need out her, you don't need a programmer I use software, and so does Jenna that we don't have to pay expensive experts to. help us up or course or help us do a Webinar online, and so you're starting out at a time when technology has gotten easier than ever. But let's just say you're still trying to figure it out and it doesn't feel easy to you what I know for sure is one in my course I have literally library. So I have a resident tech guy his name is Dave. He has the most smooth patient voice ever and I said. Dave. You walk them through click by cliques by Klay I've I need somebody to use technology to create their course CLEESE, slow down and walk them through it. So In my course, this is never something that stops people but just in general know that it doesn't have to become totally second nature to do you figure this out it is very figure audible. If you just take a deep breath and just know you're not supposed to figure this. Out instantly, no, and teaches us this in school. So that's what I would say that the other day I had this moment where I had my little microphone box microphone and my computer and I looked over and I saw it all and I was like those are the things that a used to run a multimillion dollar company. That's it literally can be carried around in a box and it's a microphone and laptop and I'm like this is. Still doing it that way where it's like, this is where you started like no, this is what I am doing. I don't have a set I don't have a camera team I, nothing zero production value buying what we create besides like just the information. The second objection that I think my neighbor's husband would give would be well, how do I know like how to get other people results and you walk people through this so well, can you give us just a tiny spoiler about how you set up curriculum? Okay. Yes, I will so. The first thing is you figure out, have you gotten results for yourself or for somebody else a lot of students have gotten results for their customers or clients, and they used like a process or system to do that, and so what I do is I start out with a post it no exercise with all my students and I, say, okay. You're going to get somebody results to Xyz tell me all the things you've. Done to get those results and it's like a rain flood on post. It notes post it note and sharpies, and you're just writing everything that comes to mind and you're putting it on your wall or your mirror, and there's no bad ideas year just kind of throw it all up from there. The next thing I have my students do is we start to organize where is the possible roadmap? Maybe you don't know yet. But you did no, I always tease him. If you did know, what might you do in terms of putting this in some kind of a sequence so that you could teach it in the most succinct way. So we start massaging it that way moving things around. These are just a little hint of the first few steps. Notice we've got posted knows we've got office supplies I am obsessed with office supplies we made our. To my favorite. So we make fun in the beginning so that it doesn't feel. So daunting I think Jenna, one of the things that you do really well, and you've always done this is you do not complicate things like your mission is what's the simplest way I could do this. So I'm not overwhelmed or stressed out, and so I think that you are a natural teacher in that indefinitely I think why you and I align so much is I'm always Looking for, let's just do this in the most simplest way. Yeah, and I love that too because when we can create programs and tell people, you know there is zero rabbit holes or anything we're not going into these wild explanations behind everything just literally guiding you. It's like somebody holding your hand step by step by step it just makes it so much more easy. The last thing that I want to say that I think people's objections are. Is that they're worried about investing in themselves. So let's see some listening to this. They're like, okay. I think I've got something I. Think I could create a course I need to learn all the steps to do this. Amy's program sounds awesome. Spoiler it is but I'm really afraid to invest myself. Why would you say is there a system for choosing what investments are right? When the timing is right anything. Okay. So the first thing I'll say is that from a personal experience, I invested in my education to learn how to run an online business when I was still at my nine to five job. So when I was at my nine to five job and I knew I wanted to make the transition and go out on my own I had. No idea how he's going to make it happen but I had this like knowing in me I know there's something more. I know I meant to do my own thing? No idea what it was yet, but I wanted to create an online business. I invested in two courses. One was about facebook marketing and one was about video marketing, and this is eleven years ago in each. Of, the courses were thousand dollars. So I invested two thousand dollars before I left my nine to five job. I did not tell anybody not even my future husband at the time. Who's now my husband? I was embarrassed because I had never taken a digital course and I thought people are GonNa think I'm crazy I'm learning from someone I don't even know and it's a digital. Course. Is this even going to work but I knew that I had to invest in myself if I wanted to make this real and you and I have talked about this before Jenna, there's something about investing once and then the compounding of that where you can get results over and over again. So when you're choosing what you want to invest in whether it be my. Program or something else chew something that you can grow with that. You can actually get results but then get results again and again instead of flip flopping to the next shiny thing one of the things that I have put a really big focus on with my students is you create one digital course and then I want you to launch it again and again and again i. Have so many success stories of my students who have created one course, and then they launched at once and then six months later launched it again, and then six months later launched it. Again in each one of them, they've done bigger results every single time this is how you don't reinvent the wheel when I worked. For Tony, one of the things he always set is find. A way to not always start from scratch don't always reinvent the wheel because slows you down and you literally get lost in this entrepreneurial rabbit hole. So my motto is you create one digital course new launch it over and over again, which is why investing in a program like mine that is the compounding effect of it because you get results over and over and over again. Yes I mean I'm proof of it. I'm a student and I remember investing in it was called the Prophet. Lab at the time back in the day and I remember buying it while you're on the Webinar like I literally ran out to the garage got my wallet and then To Jenna on the web and I was like Oh my. Buddy go funny just like you said, investing in knowledge when I think about all the different investments that you can make when you can say, okay if I learn this one thing. Yield, results more than once and well, those results be greater than the cost of the investment and if you can say, yes, to both of those questions, it is a no brainer member any back I mean, this is probably back in like Twenty fifteen twenty, sixty new had said on one of your podcast you were like if somebody said to you give me ten dollars at the start of your day and I'll give you twenty dollars back at the end. Would you do that and it was like Duh of course and I feel like. Courses give you this tool to invest learned this all once, and then you can continue on expanding and growing and evolving and fine tuning is just so exciting to me because of my Gosh like knowledge, you have this knowledge forever, which is something that no one can take away from you. If you think about when you were just talking about your partnership and you had that realization I wish everyone could have that understanding that confidence knowing I know things that will grow with me over time. That's where confidence comes in in the beginning. It's like I have courage to take this leap invested in this course do this thing but once you start getting results, courage turns to confidence in no one can ever take that confidence away. So I love that you set it up that way. It's totally true. All right. Before we close out what's exciting you twenty twenty has been a year but what is exciting you these days? What's going on over in your world? That just of gets you excited? To get out of bed you know I have been really excited by this energy around creating something new and so what I mean by that is we have all gone through this pandemic together in each of us have dealt with it in different ways but the theme I, see in my world is that people are looking for something new something more exciting something that lights them up and gives them purpose and they're examining their life they're looking at their nine to five job or the clients they. Work with and they're saying, this is the time there's no better time than right now to shake things up during a world that feels really shaky like let me take advantage of this. Let me create change in my own world and I think that's why there's so much excitement around the possibility of creating digital courses. I'm excited to see people make some shifts I'm excited for them to create the business in the life that they genuinely want. So that is literally getting me up every single morning. I'm so excited amy thank you so much for coming back onto the gold digger podcast. I hope it felt like home to you coming back home over on the gold digger but I'm so grateful for just our friendship and for all of your expertise in all that it's yielded over the years. Thank you so very much. I am loving being here. These are always such fun conversations. So thanks for having me. Oh, man Amy Porterfield she is incredible and it is just so fine that we get to have these conversations on air and just kind of talk about all things we've learned along the way both students, and as educators I still get a little fan girly when I think about all the ways that amy has impacted my journey and taught me along the way and I'm really really grateful I. Even all these years ago I, saw the value in investing in. Learning. How to move through things faster and with more confidence so that I can make a greater impact I. sincerely hope that you take advantage of all of amy's teachings and trainings coming up she only does them once a year and you better believe that I will forever be a student of hers and a success story until next time gold diggers keep on digging your biggest goals and thank you so much for tuning into another episode of the Gold Digger podcast. I'm over here giving you a virtual high five because you just finished another episode of the Gold Digger podcast that go by way too fast for anyone else if you want more head over to Golddigger, PODCASTS DOT com for show notes and all the discount codes from today's sponsors and if you're looking for a new crew of movers and shakers like you to bounce ideas and ask questions be sure to join my exclusive community for gold diggers on facebook the links waiting for you at Golddigger podcasts. Dot Com. 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The Marketplace is Looking Optimistic
"Live from the headquarters of Ramsey solutions broadcasting from the dollar car rental studios. It's the Dave Ramsey show where debt is dumb cash is king and pay it off home mortgage has taken the place of the BMW as the status symbol of choice. It's an entree leadership theme our welcome to small business land as we talk to leaders and owners of small businesses and for that matter businesses questions about business questions about leadership questions about small business this hour the phone number. Triple eight eight to five five two two five. My Co host the panel for the our Daniel Tardy Daniels executive vice president of entree leadership or we teach and work with small businesses tens of thousands of them every year and he and his team do a great job with that. Also sits on our operating board Ken Coleman Ramsey personality my other co host and on the panel for the our his here to answer your questions as well from the Ken Coleman Show Works with folks on getting jobs on career. So we're GONNA talk business economy. We're GONNA talk about jobs. We're GONNA talk about jobs. We're GONNA talk about thirty. Six million people being used the phone number is triple eight. Eight to five five two two. Lots of small businesses have failed Daniel. Lots of during this time lots of them have succeeded beyond their wildest imagination or making more money than ever made in their life. Yeah because they happen to be in business that was in great need right now And then some of the others are right in the middle just hanging on Lots of them are trying to reopen right now. And some of them are experiencing labor shortages. We'll talk about that a little while. But we've seen a spectrum have no doubt it is a crazy couple of months for businesses anywhere and especially small businesses. There's actually another group and I keyed in on this yesterday and I got excited and I started thinking about you know how inspired I am by the number of businesses. That are starting right now. I bought a product. Yesterday that didn't exist a month ago. Our Buddy Willink the seal from living with seal he launched his product on social media. Jumped on there and got it either bag that you fill up with your own gravel to turn it into a kettle bell. Everybody's trying to figure out how to work out from home right now and so. He got with Peril Company. Product did not exist. The ships out to you so it's not the the wait have to build a big iron kettle. Bill incidentally drawing fill it up for him you fill it up with rocks or sand or something but you can get your workout in and I. I paid seventy five bucks for two of these things. They're awesome. They're like nice leather saddle leather and I thought this thing didn't exist a month ago. How many companies right now are popping up some hopping up and there's a product. We can do something about this. That's what I love about entrepreneurs. That's how they think we're problem solver. That's right and there's lots of problems to solve right now. We had Dr Art Laffer on last hour and He's the father of supply-side economics. Sitting on the Trump administration's economic recovery council. Right now as part of that winner of the Presidential Medal and He and his research team at laugher are predicting The states that are reopening are going to be fully recovered and into boom by the end of summer. That was pretty inspiring. Because you know most people are thinking. It's going to be that fast. But they're seeing their seeing a real checkmark on the states. That are reopening. He said there states that You know like northeast primarily is GonNa really struggle according to him Jersey New York higher populated areas with how quickly they How hard they got hit by covert and how quickly they reopened governors this this and He's in California. Still a mixed bag because they they're back and forth You know one minute they were going to open next minute. They're not going to open and one minute you know. And they're all over the place and you know mayor of La saying they're gonNA shut down all summer but if you're shut down all summer you're obviously not going to recover in the summer so But economic recovery in the states that reopening We're already seeing that with the small businesses. We're in contact with shirt. No doubt and I mean we've seen it in the stock market it's been rallying in it's close to an all time high. It's not quite there yet but Great News coming out about vaccines and I mean. There's just so much to be optimistic about right now and I think small business owners are leading the way and being innovative being positive for thinking and the truth is the ones that are thinking about five years from now where their business is going to be in five years. Those are the ones that are GONNA win. If you're thinking about the next five minutes you're going to be frustrated but we're talking about the the idea of vision and vision casting and looking out in the future four to five years out. You got a big beautiful new business that you're looking at if that's that's the mindset that you have right now yeah we were talking art you know. And and when you're talking to a world famous literally world famous economist. We're reminded what the United States economy basically revolves around. We hear service based economy. It's essentially we pass our money around each other right and so what we saw. Is that if we look at the industries that were hardest? Hits look at thirty six point five million jobs. It's important folks. You have context. I'm we'll talk about confidence and just the context is this if you look at the service industries and you look at the retail type industries okay. That's where the majority of these jobs are lost. So what's happened there? We've got consumer confidence that has dropped as a result of the coronavirus that the reporting and we thought. Oh my goodness is going to be awful. And now we're seeing states that again. Many people were criticizing. The governor of Georgia Brian. Kemp Ron Santa's in Florida. The narrative was this. There's going to be literally blood in the streets and the reality is both states have opened. The numbers are really good. It relates to positively our standard economy. Tennessee's on a great job with Governor Bill Lee. And so here's what you all can do. Is You're listening. You are a consumer and so when you're sharing these real life positive stories and then you are to the extent within your budget being responsible but getting back out and showing some over. I can't talk consumer confidence. Here's what's GonNa Happen. It begins to spread. Here's some positive just to kind of drive this point home. We've got the governor of California. That was saying literally folks a week ago. No pro sports until the fall. Yesterday he announced first of June. The pendulum is swinging back. Now I'm GonNa tell you something. We're a consumer driven society. Not just in what we by Dave but in how we view sports and concerts and things like that as the consumer gets confident. Guess what's going to happen The v shape or the shape. Whatever it is art laffer saying is going to come back. We play a role in that consumers. You're you don't have to do it from a patriotic viewpoint. Though but you just have say I'm going to observe was going on around me and I'm GonNa let that dictate my level of fear rather than a newscast. And the newscast of even shifted love where they're putting their emphasis. Yeah well just need to go shopping again. Quite a few visit it onto a little bit await their cove it and we got to go buy a bigger shirt. You know like we gotta go to the mall. I mean there's just an idea like there's this Pinta demand that's just been put on the back and it's going to surge back just one. It's not even just the confidence as just. If you'll just open come in with my money and I'll I'll patronize you. Out as just as a customer service talking about her swear to God. Somebody's people need haircuts around the block. There's going to be a line around the block at these Barbara. I finally got my haircuts. True Story Dadgum Shah. You want some behind the scenes. I ask you where Scooby Doo. Dino got an email from the day that the governor said that those type of places could open up and he said F lie. I showed it to stay silent. You Think Day is trying to tell me so. I told them email me Hogan Tardy. We got no issue with this and we gotTa Make Fun of you right. I get it here. We go small business theme our. We're taking your questions entreleadership. Our with Daniel Tardy. Ken Coleman my co host this hour. This is the Dave Ramsey. Show are you someone. That's addicted to personal growth driven to succeed and you're excited about making a difference for leaders all around the world. Listen up the entree. Leadership team is hiring and right. Now we're on the hunt for an incredible executive coach to serve alongside us in our mission to help small business owners win. So if you WANNA join our team and do work that matters. I want you to text apply today. Two three three four four four again. That's applied today. A one word. No spaces two three three four four four.
BS 175 Carol Tavris explains Cognitive Dissonance
"Augusta. Great News is now possible to get your premium subscription via pay pal or your credit card. The premium subscription allows you to access all episodes of brain science including about six years of content recorded before two thousand and thirteen and all episode transcripts. A great way to access premium and free content is through the free brain science mobile. APP. which is available for IOS ANDROID and windows. You'll find it in your favorite APP store to learn more about premium go to brain science PODCASTS DOT com. So in a way, it's why our greatest dangerous are not just from foolish people who do foolish things or evil people do evil things but from good people who persist in doing bed foolish wrong things to preserve their belief that they are good kind incompetent. The that's the non obvious message understanding. How cognitive dissonance works. In you. What come to brain science the podcast where we explore how recent discoveries in neuro science are helping unravel the mystery of how our brain makes us human. I'm your host Dr Ginger Campbell and this is episode one, hundred, and seventy five. Before we start at WanNa remind you that you can find complete show notes transcripts an additional episodes of brain science on my website at brain science podcasts dot com. And if you'd like to receive episode, show notes automatically each month just sign up for the free newsletter on the website or by texting brain science all one word to five, five, four, four, four at. The science to five, five, four, four, four. You can send me email at brain science podcast at mail. Dot. com. Post voice comments at speak pipe dot com Ford slash doc artists, and also post to the brain science podcast fan page on facebook. All your feedback is greatly appreciated. Today. We will be talking with Dr Carol, Harris about cognitive dissonance and you may have heard the phrase used recently by the mainstream media, but our today is to get a clear understanding of the scientific principle. And how it might shed some wide on recent events. We'll be talking about the third edition of the book mistakes were made but not by me why we justify foolish beliefs bad decisions and hurtful acts by Carol Tavarez and her co author Elliot Aaronson. I guess I should issue trigger warning because I realized that any mention of Donald trump is potentially polarizing. But one reason I wanted to talk to carol again, this month was because cognitive dissonance theory may actually shed some light on why Americans have become so deeply divided. Also for those of you outside the United States. Our conversation may give you a new perspective on these same events. After the interview I'll be back to discuss the key ideas and I really look forward to hearing your feedback. Hi. Carol. It's hard to believe that we haven't talked since two thousand and eleven two thousand and eleven really that can't be true. Well, I think we saw each other at the amazing meeting in two thousand fourteen. But your last appearance on one of my podcasts was two thousand and eleven. My goodness well, isn't it fun to be back in touch? Absolutely, and I'm really glad that you could come on because I think that understanding cognitive dissonance is becoming more important than ever before we get into the meat of our conversation, would you just tell my listeners a little bit about yourself with a focus on how you became interested in critical thinking and social psychology? Well. I came from a family that emphasized critical thinking without calling it that they encouraged. Questioning, questioning, received wisdom questioning doctrines, questioning means sort of general ideas not with an attitude of. debunking exactly. But with an attitude of curiosity and wonder and wanting to understand you know I remember talking with my mother about you know the cradle of democracy in Greece and she said, you know wasn't such a democracy for. Was it and for the enslaved people that they captain. So you know what is democracy so We were a family of questions and I was allowed to call a family meeting. If any concerns objections or I thought I was being treated unfairly, it never occurred to me the two against one with not going to be a democracy for me perhaps but they were just always very responsive to my interests and concerns and very open about explaining the reasons for things. Something I found so important or parents instead of just saying do this do that don't do this don't do that. They would always give me a reason so that I would understand. So, that attitude of questioning received wisdom of loving evidence eventually that got attached to loving science followed me through school. I had a wonderful middle school teacher of science teacher. Joel's crane who Rambo's terrific science class and He instilled in US spirit of inquiry. Skepticism again for received wisdom. Questions asking questions, and so that's kind of always been a part of my life and then when I went to graduate school in a program in comparative. In sociology kind of interesting I was majors in both houses under as an undergraduate I found. That I was far more drawn to social psychology, which was a wonderful interdisciplinary program at the University of Michigan at that time, and I loved it because the courses explained everything from individual behavior to mass movements in war and what better field to help me understand everything from. Love, and hatred two-piece in war. Prejudice love. There's no human topic than social psychologist on study. So I just found myself in clover and. Never looked back as of field of understanding I really love social psychology because it takes us out of ourselves. Out of our. Out of a framework that looks only at the individual but instead understands our environments, our social world's influence everything that we do. So that was my. My scientific beginning if you will, and then I ended up developing a career in writing about psychological science for general audiences. When I was starting out people used to laugh psychological science, it's an oxymoron like military intelligence. Psychology isn't a science. What do you telling me? It's a bunch of therapists analyzing your behavior. Psychological Science is, of course, the field of scientific research on human behavior, and now we actually have science behind our name. And we talked a lot about that the last time and I'm actually planning to put your your last interview into the feed. So that's why I'm going to be careful that we don't totally like duplicate. But yeah, and now there's a whole subset of of neuroscience social neuroscience which I guess. Overlaps with social psychology right? Well. Overlaps is absorbed by being there's no field that has not been interested in neuroscience. Specialties Neuro Law right yeah. Actually know partly that stems from where the money is. The money is in brain research, and so if you can add a brain to your study of whatever your study is your mmediately doing better science so many people think and of course, there are many of mazing discoveries that have happened because of our ability to study the brain, but there's also been a tendency to. Reduce behavior to the brain as if we somehow understand ourselves better if we can attach an MRI to what we're looking at are thinking or feeling. So there's been a lot of over simplification and reductionism. In some of the neuroscience I think as well. That's a definite definite hazard. I'm often getting emails from a few listeners who think that neuroscience would eliminate the need for psychology I. think that's not true because we need a way to look at what you say the bigger picture. If you try to cure drug addiction and all you look at it is the brain. Doesn't work very well. No that's exactly right. It's so appealing to think that if we can see what the brain is doing while we're looking at a picture of a loved one for example that that tells us something about love but the brain will be doing the same thing if we're looking at a luscious top by Sunday for. A beautiful painting or something else that really the lights and excites us. But the idea that we know something about love by looking at where in the brain. Is Lighting up while we're looking at a loved one we really haven't learned very much but somehow it feels like we do I. Mean One of my favorite studies ever was a study of a lecture that was given to two different audiences about psychological topics having to do with empathy and love, and so forth. One of the audiences got to see 'em are I pictures of the brain. While the lecturer was lecturing in the other, the lecture was giving exactly the same lecture. But without the brain pictures and everybody thought Oh, the lecture, the brain that was far more scientific even though there was nothing really said about the brain look at this picture where the rain is lighting up there's something quite compelling to think that we can somehow understand all the complexities of human interaction. By seeing what is lighting up in the brain as we are. Behaving in a certain way or thinking certain thoughts. One of the problems it's wonderful to understand the contributions of brain science to human behavior. No question. But one of the things we're losing is, shall we say the the other book end in understanding human behavior and that is the role of culture and the environment in effecting our behavior it is as profound influence on us as any of our hormones or neurons or. Brain chemistry might be doing. In fact we tend to think that the brain and behavior behaviors a one way street. My brain does these things and so I behave in certain ways but we don't say, no, our culture has deeply influenced us in deciding what love means how I define love how I should behave with strangers. What the right beliefs are and Dead. Influence from culture intern changes our brains and influences our. So. It's a two way street right and there are a few people working in that area but they tend to get. Lost in the ones that are all focused on where, where, where, like, where was the most important question they don't get the money. And what it's sometimes harder to do really good cultural studies than it is to do brain that isn't the cultural studies aren't as sexy. You know if I stay look culture is different in how in these nonverbal rules like how close? Do I get to stand to you when we're having a conversation. Everybody assumes that just the normal thing you know I just stand within arm's distance of you or whatever is comfortable distance, and we don't realize that cultures differ greatly in what approved conversational distances where does that come from that comes from the rules of your culture. You have to stand nose to nose as in the Middle East or you Stan two blocks apart is in northern Europe I'm exaggerating you understand, and of course, it is making everything different exactly. Exactly. Colored me too. You know that has profoundly affected touching rules of course. Break in here for just a moment to remind you to buy the second edition of my book, Are you sure the unconscious origins of certainty. You can get it from your favorite online bookseller or on my website at brain science podcast dot com forward slash books and don't forget to post a review. Could you give us an overview of your book mistakes were made but not by me especially told me a little bit about why you and Elliot decided to release a third edition. When, we first began this book, which was a very long time ago you understand that Elliot Aronson is. One of the greatest living social psychologists in our country and has been for many many years. Cognitive dissonance was really his. The major contributions of his life work there have been many, but this was an important one because he advanced the theory that he was developing as a graduate student with Leon Festinger back in the nineteen fifties. into its theory of self justification understanding of why exactly it is so difficult. For people to admit they were. Wrong. That a belief that they're holding is out of date. that a practice that have adopted whether professionally or personally. Is Wrong or even harmful why? When we have evidence that we've harmed another person that we've done something unethical, immoral, foolish stupid or incompetent we so rarely say why thank you for this information, allow me to make amends immediately in apologize and change my ways we do not. Would only it showed? Is that when we are in a state of distance? Cognitive dissonance meaning. We are holding to attitudes that clash with each other. Or an attitude and behavior are inconsistent with each other. We, are profoundly motivated to reduce the discomfort of that distance and put our behavior in harmony in consonance with our attitudes or to resolve that attitudinal conflict in a way that that feels more comfortable to us. We say, in this third edition, we have the example of Sarah Silverman which I think is exactly right Sarah Silverman. Did a youtube on how she was feeling when her good friend Louis C. K.. was caught for his sexual offenses. It's a beautiful example of someone in a state of distance. What she says here's how I feel I. Absolutely love this man. He's been my friend for twenty five years I. Adore Him is a wonderful friend wonderful father I think the world of him. And what he did was reprehensible reprehensible and is not to be accepted or tolerated Nessie. That is a perfect statement of someone in a state of cognitive dissonance. So what most of us are inclined to do is throw away the friendship or minimize the seriousness of what the friend did. That's the mechanism that's the maker of cognitive dissonance. It's like a having a hot potato in the brain. I just can't stand us. It's uncomfortable. You're telling me that my favorite celebrity favorite actor my favorite friend has done something reprehensible. What do I do to reduce that discomfort? And what Elliot went on to show is that the discomfort is greatest. When it applies to us when we are giving information that we did something really. Heinous, immoral or wrong or incompetent. So in a way, it's why our greatest dangerous are not just from foolish people who do foolish things or evil people do evil things but from good people who persist in doing bad foolish wrong things to preserve their belief that they are good kind and competent. The that's the non obvious message of understanding how cognitive distance works the doctors who refused to change their practice from radical mastectomy to lumpectomy when the evidence showed that a lumpectomy would be just as effective in saving their patient's lives. They. Couldn't give up the radical mastectomy. Was it because they were incompetent doctors not at all it's precisely because they saw themselves as good compassionate doctors that they were so reluctant to accept the unmistakable new evidence. So cognitive dissonance was discovered discovered. The right word invented the theory was venue invented the theory the theory was okay around Nineteen fifty-six. How was it tested? So here's the sequence. leeann investigator invented this theory indeed in the mid fifties and then Elliott advanced into this theory of self justification and how you tested how you measured in. There have now been literally thousands of experiments testing every aspect of cognitive dissonance theory. There are many other theories in terms that have come along that add to it or if replaced it. Backfire theory or other names for the phenomenon sunk costs. We hear about to all of them are really aspects of the same mechanism in Elliot and his. Students and colleagues did the most gorgeous experiments to determine exactly how dissidents works and Made some remarkably non obvious predictions that distance theories supported. So for example, you're a student in my lab. I tell you that I'm doing an experiment on sorting thread spools into boxes. The stupidest. Most boring thing I could possibly ask you to do and you do this for an hour. You do the SPOL- sorting fine. Now you come out of this and I'd say to you know the next student has coming in here. I wonder if you would be willing to tell the next student that this is really very, very interesting experiment and very important to me because I'm worried that people will think it's boring and they won't want to do it and I'll give you a buck. If you will tell this little lie to the next student, I offer some students a buck to tell the lie. And other students twenty dollars to tell the lie to next student WHO's coming in. So I now ask you sometime later. So how interesting was this experiment? which group do you suppose would have decided that actually the spool sorting was more interesting than I had realized at the time the ones that got paid to lie. Will they both got paid to lie but some dollar in some twenty dollars and what they found was the students who got twenty dollars. said that experiment was just what they originally thought. It was dull boring wasted time but the students who only got a dollar to lie. said. You know what? It was actually pretty interesting. And what Elliott and his colleagues realized is. To justify being paid for the lawyer telling a dollar doesn't do it a dollar is nothing. So they had to say if I'm lying in this way. It must be because it's not ally really did believe the experiment was more interesting because the dollar isn't enough to justify the little liar telling. There were lots of experiments like this. One of the most famous than Elliott did was called severity of initiation on liking for the group. That's one of the most famous than characterizes us in a thousand different ways. This experiment went on to demonstrate that the more time and effort and money and emotional involvement we put into something. The more we are going to justify all that time money and effort even if it proves to be worthless this the classic and very simple experiment in which the head two groups of people vine to get into a group discussion that would be about sex. Now, this was fifties. Talking about sex is really exciting hop thing if you were an undergraduate student. So. The students to get into the group had to recite out loud to the experimenters a list of sexually embarrassing words and they were embarrassing with students at that time. It's hard to believe that there was ever such a time but there was So the students who went through this little embarrassing. Exercise to get into the group. And then listen to the group itself which turned out to be a bunch of boring people talking about I don't know bird fornication or something. Completely not an interesting group, but if they went through an initiation that had been embarrassing and uncomfortable for them they decided. That the group discussion was really pretty interesting after all. The students who had no such initiation or who did not have to go through any embarrassing procedure saw group discussion for what it was a boring waste of time. What this experiment did at the time that it was done. Was To counter, act the prevailing notions from behavioral psychology. That we do what we do because we're rewarded were rewarded for our behavior or replenish for our behavior. There was no notion that going through something painful. Would increase our attraction to that activity that was completely non behavioral prediction. That's where they understood the power of cognition. Of Our mental processes in assessing what we're doing in deciding what we feel about it. So that was one of the really important contributions of the initiation experiment as it came to be called as Elliot says, if you are hit by a flower pot on your way to a group discussion that is not going to make you like the group discussion anymore if you're accidentally hit by this flowerpot but if you agree to have a flowerpot dropped on your head in order to join the discussion group, then you will definitely like the discussion group more, and of course, we see how that works for military hazing or fraternity hazing and similar processes to people to feel bonded to and loyal to a group that they joined. I WANNA, back up to something that we didn't we spent Tom Sawyer time on last time, but we and I, think we should revisit well, two things on the subject of the fact that we all do this. The story of Elliott's canoe. You like Elliott's canoe. Well? I yes it's a wonderful story because it shows indeed that all of us experienced distance whenever I do I call them up and say Elliot Here what should I do? Anyway, Elliot had gone to Minnesota to Septum position on the faculty at Minnesota he and his wife were deciding about a house to buy and he wanted to buy a house that was right near campus because he liked the idea of hanging out with his Grad students and being able to invite people over and it was close to school and it was convenient it was easy and so forth. But his wife really liked the house it was quite a distance away but it was on a lake and it would be better for their children and it would be better for the kids and for her and so forth. But it would be a longer commute for Elliot. And so after much discussion. Throwing and it'll be nice. We have a lake here the. He yielded to the house that was a commute away on the lake. Fine. One Nice Winter Day is driving longest phasing any sees an ad in the paper for a canoe, and so he stopped and thought, Oh, what the hell and bought the canoe. He comes home with a canoe on the top of his car in the middle of winter dead winter when the lakes in Minnesota freeze over the joke is you know that Spring is here when a car drives over the Lake and sinks. I you know summers come to Minnesota. canoe and his wife looked at him burst out laughing and. Why are you laughing and she said asked Leon festinger and Elliot said, of course, of course, I bought the canoe to justify our decision to have the mood to this place out in the countryside because I would be able to use a canoe on the lake in the summer. Eventually he's at all winter long it served to remind me that was a good decision. So yes we all do those things. We all do those things and that's quite a benign one in a very nice weather reducing. Beside I do hope they used that canoe and the other thing we talked about last time that I think you sort of touched on was that Metaphor of the of the Pyramid of choice. I mean, we see this going on in what we were just talking about the pyramid of choices. I think the Central Metaphor for our book and it's one that many many readers have said is really been helpful to them. To understand their behavior and the behavior of their family members and lick leaders than everybody else because it works like this. If you imagine that you and another person are standing at the top of the pyramid, just imagine a big triangle or pyramid as. You're standing at the very top your side by side, and now you have to make the decision accents they're safe or they're not buy this car or that car. A decision any decision vote for trump donald trump. The example we use in the book is to students. Who have the same attitude about cheating? They don't think it's a good thing to do but they don't think it's the greatest crime in the world either this was based on an actual experiment. So now, these two students are taking an exam final exam of killer important exam and they freeze on an on a crucial essay. They have no idea what this question means. It's written in some of their language they've never seen before in their lives. When a fellow student makes her answers clear available for cheating what did they do? Cheat or not cheat one For the grade and the other does not cheap to preserve integrity. Now, this is the key thing the minute they take an action cheat or don't she. Their attitudes about cheating will change to conform to what they did. So the student who did not cheat. Will. Now think cheating is really a serious crime. It's not a victimless crime everybody suffers and I really do oppose cheating. It's a bad thing the one who cheated. will now minimize cheating as a crime. Oh, please everybody cheats. It's just this once I'll never cheat again I really needed this great. I'll never get into graduate school in my life will be ruined. Over time as they slide down that pyramid. Their attitudes toward cheating will harden. Re justify themselves until when they're at the bottom of the pyramid at the base, they are far apart from each other in their attitudes about cheating. That is the paradigm for how we find ourselves committed to a course of action that might of started out. You know not such a big deal but over time as we justify the rightness of that decision, the rightness of the. person were living with the rightness of the job we're doing the rightness of the person we voted for. It becomes harder for us to see any evidence that could have been the wrong decision. And it's also y when we look at somebody who's at the bottom of the pyramid. And Meshed in a cult that is about to call for their suicide or deeply devoted follower of a demagogue. How did that person get their one? Are they doing? That's a crazy thing to do what we're not seeing is all the steps that they went through from that initial decision to the bottom of the pyramid. And indeed, by the time they're at the bottom it's harder harder to go up because if you go back up, you have to say that first thing I did was the wrong thing. So that's why we're inclined to spend put good money after bad and stay longer in a relationship than is good for us. Stay more attached to a demagogue when it's time for us to peel away. That's the mechanism. You can now say goodbye to repetitive text entry spelling and typing errors and trying to remember just the right thing to say with text expanders it's easy to say the right thing with just a few key strokes it's easier than copy and paste and using scripts or templates because text expanders snippets allow you to customize what you write with out repetitive typing. Best of all, you can use it. 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Perpetrated by therapists who had no knowledge of psychological science no knowledge of how memory works for that matter not much understanding of child development either. So I'm familiar with these social movements and hysterical movements that were so devastating to the people involved in them, and which had resulted really from a profound lack of understanding of psychological science. So we wrote this book with a chapter. In each of these areas and. then. In Twenty Fifteen, our publisher said well, you know it's been a number of years. How about some updates? What's new? and. For that addition, we wanted to say something we have not said the time around. The Siem of our book is that cognitive dissonance is really painful really uncomfortable and we are so motivated to reduce it that we often jump to a decision. Sometimes, spontaneously, without thinking about it very much. But that once we've made a decision. We will then be motivated by the confirmation bias to only see the evidence for the rightness of our decision. And Ignore and overlook, forget and trivialized any information suggesting we were wrong in that initial decision. That's how over time our original decision back scenes are harmful or helpful or cheating is a good thing or a bad thing or I will or won't begin an affair whatever the I will buy. A gas guzzling car or an electric car whatever the decision is the minute we choose we will now begin to justify the wisdom of that decision. It gets harder to change our minds. This is why. We sleep at night. After after making decisions instead of beating ourselves up. For weeks months or even years with regret that we did the wrong thing and Eliot in particular and I agreed that should really be the focus of our book because it explains why people stay stuck in personal decisions and professional ones and political ones long after they should. But for the next edition Elliot said, well, you know the other piece of this problem is for people who cannot reduce dissonance. And cannot stop beating themselves up. For, regrets decisions, they made the turn out badly for them. For something. They did that severely harmed another person I mean this is an effect with PTSD, is for our soldiers who come back and cannot accept how they behaved in wartime. So he said that piece of it is equally important for people who cannot forgive themselves for something that's in the past. But that they can't let go of that. They cannot justify. So, for that edition, we added a chapter on that issue and what it takes to come to terms. With mistakes we made that were made by us. That, we now have to accept that we did and learn from deeply so that we really will not make them again in the future or that we can find ways to. Atone for them personally psychologically and socially. As Elliot says, sometimes you know cognitive dissonance reduction is a good thing because it allows us to sleep at night but some time some sleepless nights are called for if your country is committing torture if you have done something really heinous and horrible if you have been practicing recovered memory therapy with clients and haven't realized how this was part of a social movement that was destroying families, it's Easiest for you to say, let's just let me just get rid of that hot potato but to the extent that we do that we don't learn from the thing that we did. That, we can now. Choose to recover from. So that was the purpose of the second edition, and then now with his third edition, we had so much has happened in our country in the last five years in terms of course of issues about racism and sexism. What Donald Trump has done to the country. While the me too movement. The many issues of he said she said on college campuses end in the workplace and we thought well really it's time to address. Those issues. And show how understanding cognitive dissonance might help us understand these important current social concerns. I don't think. I read the Second Edition I'm pretty sure I read the first edition in the third edition. So. One of the things I don't. From the first edition that was probably there are was the point you made about the fact that this is a universal phenomenon. Cognitive dissonance is not something that only other people do. Gender that was that was one of my favorite reviews Amazon which the reviewer said Oh start this book anything a Ha-? Yes this explains our politicians. This explains my employer this explains. This explains other people. He said, then you're get halfway through anything. Hey, this explains my family. You know this explains my brother-in-law and this explains people I know on my block. He said by the time you get to the end of the book you say, all this explains, knee. It was a very insightful of course, very complementary comment, but but that's the point. which is that cognitive dissonance is indeed something that we all do. It's not something that only they do. It is universal. It's forms the things that cause us to feel dissonance about particular the content of distance that will vary across individuals and cultures and so forth. But the mechanism is the same. So I have a friend who never feels cognitive dissonance when she and I disagree about movies, for example, but for other people, they would you know lie judgment about movies is the best and truest, and therefore you disagree with me about my judgment about that movie something's the matter with you and that is how distance feels I mean one of the funniest but most universal universal biopsies of the human mind. Is. We are unbiased. Everybody. Else's biased. I am not biased therefore if I can just get you to sit down here and listen to me explain why your biased and wrong and I'm not you'll understand and agree with me. That's a bias of naive realism as social psychologist. Lee. Ross calls it. We think we see things clearly we are not biased. But what kind of distance theory shows Is that we all feel that way and? Our beliefs are the most important to us when we'd feel most knowledgable when a belief is apart of how we see ourselves how we define ourselves. Central to our self concept than it is really really difficult to accept the evidence that we were wrong and that we should change our mind and how this works is. In larger terms and I think the reason that that cognitive dissonance theory is is in fact, universal is that it binds us to our group, our community, our tribe. We let our group identities do are thinking for us. And this is true for everybody Democrats Republicans Libertarians. Independence. If you define yourself as a member of a particular party. Than you are pretty much going to accept your party's programs policies as being the same reasonable ones, and even if the same policies, well a backup one step in many experiments in which whether you're Isreaeli the Palestinians or Democrats and Republicans, and you're given a policy idea untold it's something from your party. You will think it's acceptable if you're told that the exact same policy has been proposed by the other party, you will think it is reprehensible and wrong. This tells us that it's party identity that's doing our thinking for us and not the actual content of the issue I. Mean we've seen this for example, this evolution in the Republican Party since it was Richard Nixon and the clean. Air Act. That and movement toward environmental. Health right for our country and now that's Those policies are considered You know many Republicans would consider them as the completely wrong democratic. You know plots against us. Personally, how did Republican views of? Environmental Legislation Changed. So rapidly because as the party changed my support, these policies changed accordingly. How the mechanism? Yes, it's universal. We tend to let our affiliations that are important to us if their political or religious or local. Shape what it is, we believe, and then we hold two nations to that belief. It's consonant for us if someone in our party does something terrific but it's distant if someone in the other party does something equally terrific and likewise if someone in our party is caught. Cheating behaving immorally doing something reprehensible. Well, we minimize that her trivialized it or d all politicians behave that way. But if the somebody in the other party does exactly the same thing, we say, well, see that's those bastards alike. This mechanism is shorthand that allows us to get through the day without having to question or examine everything. We think we think. But sometimes we better rethink what we think. We think. Given how tenacious this this phenomenon is what do what do we do about it because I mean it seems at this point in time to be tearing our our D. United States of heart because cognitive businesses. So such a large. Factor in current events. Yes. It absolutely is well. It's the biggest question. I. Get a Book Club. In Hunts Antra. I'm told I have to say hyun-sil Huntsville Alabama. Did I pronounce that right? That's correct. My hometown. Oh. Well, there you go. They you know they were having. It's really the national question. How do I talk to my family disagrees with me about Donald, trump? How do I talk to them? The politics in our nation. Truly. have become horrifically polarized. It didn't use to be that Democrats, and Republicans, saw each other was such animosity that it was know worse to think of your child marrying one of them people than any other kind of category. So yes. It is indeed a very difficult issue and I think when increasingly important. So that is why In Our last chapter about trump democracy in the demagogue is what it's called. We don't talk so much about the difference between Democrats and Republicans in their views of trump. We talk about Republicans and Republicans in their views of trump. because. He is unmistakably. A demagogue by all criteria that historians agree on someone who rallies people by rousing fear and anger someone who is divisive someone who summoned scapegoats to be attacked someone who is divisive? This is a very dangerous person for our democracy because he has been trampling on democratic norms and values and institutions since day one now, that is one of the most dissonant creating. Understandings there could be an at the very beginning trump was not elected by Republicans with no full-throated song many did just fall for him immediately and still do. But most Republicans who voted for him or the Democrats who voted for him did so holding their noses over his. UNMISTAKABLE. Racist comments and sexist comments and bigoted comments of all kinds and feeling this is not a presidential guy. But so what he's GonNa give us politically the things we want. And, that is how I will justify my voting for him. Adults in the government will take care of him and make sure things run right and meanwhile I'll get my tax cuts and my Supreme Court justices. A lot of people make decisions to vote that way. They don't love everything about a candidate, but they both thinking this person will do most of what I want. But it's been fascinating to watch how Republicans have. healed. Way. From. That original. Justification, for voting for him. Over time and we're seeing this emerging more and more as. People in his administration have been writing expose books about his incompetence, his childishness narcissism, his mental instability. Cognitive failings. You can see as they write. The dissidents they felt. And their efforts to justify I why they stayed with him as long as they did out of party loyalty. Out of hopes for the country. Whatever the reason until the point where they could no longer justify their support of him Some of the most conservative Republicans have been saying this is not the Republican Party I ever supported. So. That's the story we wanted to tell in the last chapter. It's not even as much about trump as it is about how it can happen. That a nation can put its hopes into a leader who can lead us. Off The cliff at how fast that can happen And how hard it is how hard it is to say. I was wrong to do that. So that's really the story we wanted to tell. We begin this chapter with the story of Pope Pious, the eleventh. Who became pope the day the Benito Mussolini was installed as Prime Minister in Italy. And the way that the pope. Hoping. The Mussolini would do well for his church swallowed indignity after indignity after indignity. To get the NC wanted without thinking about the means that was getting him there. And it's an important. I. Think Essential parable for our times as well. That story of the pope is is very powerful in illustrates the principles very well. Do you have any insights particular comments to make about how we see cognitive dissonance playing out in behavior toward the covid epidemic. Yes in fact, the Elliott wrote a little piece for the Atlantic on this, which is which has been picked up in many places. See this is very interesting. Had, the administration had Donald Trump said at the outset we are now facing? A horrific pandemic. We are going to learn from the pandemic of nineteen eighteen. When many people refuse to wear masks they hated masks they thought they were an infringement on their freedom and we saw the disaster that ensued. WHEN IN THE PANDEMIC PEOPLE Failed to follow that very simple procedure to reduce the risk of infection, there was no uniform clear statement about masks I will say Dr Patchy who said don't wear masks they really don't do much not very helpful. He was doing that because he was worried that there would be hoarding of masks which are health professionals. So desperately desperately needed and there were not enough masks and preparation, but instead of saying we need them for our. Health workers the rest of you guys go where a Bandana until we can get more mass. Enemy the point being that there was no. Uniform clear statement to the public. About what the country as a whole needed to do? What we as individuals needed to do, and as a result that meant that individuals, an individual states could decide what they wanted to do about these procedures and very very quickly. Now, as in one thousand, nine, hundred, eighteen, the issue of mass became a symbol of your political affiliation. So many people saying. I'm not wearing no mask. You know what? That the infringement on my freedom I can't breathe it's going to keep me from breathing. It's GonNa kill me whatever the rationalizations you see. You could see the long songs. It became a sign that if you were wearing a mask fewer a damn Democrat as supposed to a healthy. American. Right as soon as it got defined that way. Then people felt well, if I have to choose between my loyalty to the president who is not wearing a mask. and. At risk of catching this terrible disease. I'M GONNA go with my president see damage. The fascinating thing about how dissonance works people will reduce dissonance in a way to justify their. Identity or their loyalty or their beliefs, even putting their own lives at risk. We have seen this over and over not just in dealing with the pandemic but in dealing with so many other beliefs that people have I'm not going to get. I'm not going to have my children vaccinated. I'm not GonNa do have this medical intervention that will save me because if I do that I have to admit I was wrong I have to admit I was wrong and you look people like this new have to admit that you're. Wrong. What is that so hard will cognitive distance explains why it's so hard. So yes, tragically distances all too apparent. In the issue of masks and I fear possibly when vaccines become available. If people see masks as a political decision rather than a medical one. So, one other thing about trump you made a comment in the book that I think is a fascinating one when you said. Donald Trump does not suffer from cognitive dissonance. That's right. He's the only person on the planet who doesn't suffer from this well, first of all, because because it assumes to be in a state of distance, the Sims that you have the capacity to feel. Embarrassment Shame. Empathy. Conscience. Caring. I, don't think this man is capable of feeling any of those things and of course, the book by his clinical psychologists niece would appear to confirm that but it's the parent and everything that he says in everything he does. If you are a person incapable of feeling embarrassment shame or guilt than you will have no dissonance to experience when you do something disgraceful shameless unim- Pathak, or cruel. A con man or con woman is not feel dissonance that they have just cheated an old person out of their life savings. Dissidents why would I feel distance than what an idiot person to let me steal their money? It's on them. They don't feel. Any responsibility or empathy toward the person who's live they've just ruin think Bernie madoff ills miserable about the people whose lives he's ruined. No. So that's why we say. DONALD TRUMP, I won't say the only person on the planet but one of the few on the planet has no distance to reduce because he cannot. Seem to experience these fundamental human emotions that underlie. But he does seem to know how to use it because I mean, it struck me the very first time he was caught in a lie. Ten Thousand Lives Ago Twenty we're up to twenty thousand. But the very first time he was caught. He said, the press is out to get me which that just feeds into the self-justification of his followers. Right they can say they're just out to get him. He's not in the wrong. Exactly. Well. First of all the minute they came up with that loathsome Disgusting Alternative Facts just a reprehensible. Term. You're going to a doctor for surgery you want that doctor to be relying on alternative facts to what you are suffering from. Well, good luck to you. Know. What trump began doing? From the beginning. Was the demagogues playbook you make the press the enemy quite explicitly as he did. And justify everything that you do as being the absolute right thing to do. Fox News is trump's. Propaganda machine we saw over and over in writing our book how see when I said how party affiliation determines that we think? The specific sentences that trump's followers could use to justify trump's lies, unpresidential behavior, racist bigoted remarks, and so forth. Perpetuated on Fox News over and over and over again the same sentence than turns up when people were interviewed at trump rallies. Oh, he doesn't really why he just sometimes exaggerates for affect or he is not really a racist I. Mean he just he likes to rile people up he's unpresidential but that's a good thing who wants anybody to be a stuffy old presidential president. All of these justifications allow them to think he's just being. Unfairly. Trump himself says over and over again being unfairly vilified by the press. Rather than. He's not going to accept any evidence that. That, he's not the most popular president in history. Let's put it that way. So we're almost out of time. Is there anything else that you feel like is really important to mention before we close. Well. I would just say this are poor. Battered country are poor divided battered polarized country what I think we all will need to do going forward is where possible try to take a deep breath. Understand. What it's taken for our. Family members, friends and others to get where they are think what they think. To try to listen and hear what other people have to say but also. Also, to recognize that when trump is gone, whenever that might be, it will be some time. That there will be an impulse for people to just breeze it away. Okay. That's done. That's done. That's over that. Was that you know I don't know we all had A. National Crunch there but thank God. It's over many of the people who supported him in Embiid as one young woman said to an interviewer I'm so embedded with my first election I voted for women. So embarrassed, a lot of people will not be willing to say I was so embarrassed or how wrong I was. So they will forget that they voted for him or they will say Oh that was that as not important it doesn't matter. What we're facing right now is actually a fascinating time in our nation's history a chance to look. At our sins. Our sins about. Race and class and at. Mississippi. And this president a fresh wouldn't that be a good thing I guess I can. Dream. Canton. The idea would be you know as Elliot says, live with a few sleepless nights. I don't mean literally sleepless nights live with the distance live with the dissidents until we understand its components and might be able to find. A Better Saner way a reducing. Well, it's great to talk to you. We should try not to wait so long next time. Well, I don't know how many more editions of this book there will be but well, maybe you'll you'll right dried something else and. Keep me posted about that and I appreciate you writing a little blurb for my book to that was Nice of you I actually think there's quite a bit of overlap between the theme of are you sure in this book? Well, you know what I was actually going to mentioned that one of the ways that people have of reducing the discomfort of dissonance is by shouting at sometimes literally but sometimes figuratively, the more I can yell at you for daring to raise some issue that I don't want to admit his right I just shout you down. In fact, there was one article on distance called when in doubt shout. It's a very effective manner. You've said something to if I were really to pause and listen to it and take it seriously I might have to change my mind therefore instead of doing that I just try to shut you down your knitting. You don't know what you're talking about I'm not wearing a mask. And that is in a way assign itself of the discomfort. Yeller is feeling because when we really convinced that we know what we're doing and the the wisdom of our belief we don't need to show. I WanNa thank Carol Taveres for taking the time to talk me about her important book stakes were made but not by me why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions and hurtful acts. Of course, her co author is Elliot. Aronson. A key idea to remember about cognitive dissonance theory is that it is a theory about self justification cognitive dissonance captures the idea of mental conflict. It can occur when we face evidence that conflicts with our beliefs or when we do something that conflicts with our own self image, there's a natural drive to eliminate this discomfort. Even if the conflict is unconscious thousands of experiments have replicated the evidence that self-justification begins the moment we make a choice. The Pyramid of choice captures very essential element of this process to people who make different choices may end up very far apart and given the failings of human memory. They might not even remember with the first decision or action was we didn't talk much about the role of memory today but I did talk about memory and cognitive dissonance an episode one, seventy three when I read an excerpt for my book, Are you sure the unconscious origins of certainty? It's essential that we keep in mind that memory is a dynamic process that is easily distorted by intervening events and knowledge in their book Tavares and Elliott provides several telling examples of how distorted our memories of past events can become. For example, a person might forget that they struggled to choose their profession and then pressure their own children as if such a choice was inevitable. Of, course we also tint to downplay our own past mistakes and failings. This is a book. Should read because it's full of diverse examples, not just from politics and Madison but from the world of law enforcement and family. Dynamics. Many of the stories do end badly but there are also inspiring stories of people who had the courage to face their mistakes and correct them when they could. Because I think this topic is so important. I, also want to remind you that you can find Carol Taverna's first interview in both the brain science feed and the feed for books and ideas s it was originally aired as episode forty three of books and ideas back in two thousand eleven. If you use the free brain science mobile, APP, you will also find it in the extras for today's episode along with the original episode transcript. But don't forget even though it's easy to spot cognitive dissonance in others. None of us is immune. As always I'd love to hear your feedback. 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STOP CHECKING YOUR LIKES WITH SUSIE MOORE. EMBRACE FAILURE TO WIN AS AN ENTREPRENEUR. JOY IS THE SECRET.
"Frend quick question when you're scrolling on the Graham. Do you feel this pressure to look perfect. Do you feel major comparison itis when you're looking at other people's accounts. Do you find yourself wanting the approval of others if yes. Today's episode is for you susie. More is a life coach bestselling author of stop. Checking your likes. I forget. Love this book title name. I think it is genius. And she's a bundle of joy. I absolutely adore her. I think you're going to love this. Conversation buckle up we diving right in and I think you're going to be blown away by how suzy defines success and confidence. Let's jump in success. He has right you. Success and failure with the same road successes just father down that road but you can just gave up a bit too soon. So it's like successful person just failed to what more made just kept going and they on taking also possibly and probably they have a better sense of confidence in myself and confidence put simply the way that I describe Angie is simply the ability and the willingness to experience negative emotion. That's owners as I think you'll get it so wrong. We think you have to be charismatic. All like really have a funny. It's none of those things. It's like simply the willingness experienced negative emotion knowing that is temporary and it just moves through the bloody and thinking okay will the worst thing that can happen to us a feeling and I can take about feeling. Yeah I know a lot of new female entrepreneurs are listening and they're so terrified to leap because God forbid they don't make the sale or somebody comet something negative or their businesses and look like Becky's business were sued and they're so terrified of that judgment that rejection that comparison and that's what holds back from starting. Is this fear of wall. It has to look like becky's life on instagram. And she got a ton of lakes and she seems to have the perfect online business. So why even start and I think this comparison eat US alive and causes paralysis. So then we don't do anything and it's just really yeah trap of comparing ourselves. Tell us about a time that you were rejected and you had to fall madly in love with rejection and failure. Jim rejected every day every day. I'm so used at my bounceback rate is about like seven seconds. Now I love that. That's me I'm just like let's go. Let's go let's go. I don't care and success like selling anything. It's such a numbers game and simply do more if you don't need to kind of recover from failures if you're not taking them personally and I think about it. We are as an embassy inbox to somebody. Somebody often you doesn't know you when you requesting pitching sound for wanting to collaborate so we make about us we take it so personally. That's just really all ego in our drive right because this exercise sometimes if someone's like you know I'm just as a rejection. I'll say who the lost three people rejected. Maybe a guy want to take you out. Maybe as someone who wanted to do something with you in business offer a favor and you said no. Is it because you think that complete loses that disgusting awful and Watt less and? You're thinking about them in hating them. I mean it's not the case. I was really creepy. I there are some guys in the rejected. And they that reduction but usually if I say no because of boundaries or I was tired right. I missed the email or yeah to do with that person. Exactly what he's just not the right guy he'd be a quick. Somebody else writes. But it's not this story that we attach is the problem and it's like what did you didn't have the story. What if that story and I'm telling you almost every case it's not true like rejection is such an illusion and when this allusion is stopping us from doing things I mean. Think about human progress. What would cheat in such a short period of time? That hasn't happened because we're so worried about what he might say. Or interpreting facial expression that might just mean that. Someone's hungry I think he best damage. We're making calls on self a would-be knows because of that. I mean it's ridiculous and it on the absurd how deeply we take things that really have nothing to do with US yeah. Do you know what you're any Graham is. I don't know because I think one of the reasons why I was really attracted to you when I creep on. You is an. I feel like we both have this the ability to not take things too seriously yet to be very lighthearted you very playful and so you seem like a seven on the Graham that I have found in business actually is such an advantage and when you don't take life too seriously you actually end up being more successful because you were opened to playing the game of life yes and yes seeing the ball through comedy colored glasses laughing buses being offended and just like finding a way to just seem the humans. We'll take it also dramatic. No seriously. I've really really badly that to to be honest. It's crazy because the more than I'm studying successful entrepreneurs the women who take it less seriously failure rejection feedback. The better they do because they just keep going and producing things and putting out things they love. And it's just a game it's just a game and everybody's taking it so seriously right like even your book. Let's be honest. Everyone's like if you don't hit the list your failure in life. I'm like no if someone doesn't hit the list it doesn't mean that they were a failure just means the book didn't hit the list and you can write another one in who cares at the end of the day right. It's crazy. How much pressure put on ourselves. And then that affects us as creatives. Yes and it makes us sick like the stress actually makes it makes us realize it and we actually can get like symmetric symptoms but we don't acknowledge it we think. Is You know for another reason but really. It's just distressful goals that we keep on loop without questioning them the beliefs that we hold onto without questioning them and then interpreting the Walter Lens whereas won't save and you never rejection failure of McKee mistakes dangerous and when you really think about it like you really break it down with clearly practical. It's like what is dangerous like let's like let's really talk about it. I mean utmost seventy people. What's the IKI breaking down breaking it down? Like what is the case you'll be able to handle it by. Fussell is extremely unlikely in most cases. But also you'll be able to handle human being with Miss Resilient intelligent gracious so there was so much else that we could be doing. So many different ways we could. Easily energy like creatively buses. Kinda speech tripping feeling 'cause we just questioning leading us. Look the time you're not having fun. You're doing it wrong. It's true if you want anything right. If you're like I WANNA yacht or I want husband or I want whatever a fancy car. It's because you think it'll make you happy right. You like how be happy than this of comes into my life. You know they always has be like a middle man between us and happiness right but happiness is always the goal of all other goals. That's what's in line is so what if you just like chose happiness fuss skip the middleman just kind of went there. It's amazing things come because you're in the space in the place of allowing so it's like if everyone anything it's only because you think it's GonNa make you happy what they're coming happy. It was just a decision he made. And only you can make that decision to if sell. That's so fascinating. That's so true and I feel like the older. I'm getting the more I'm in. I'm realizing the less I need to be really really happy. It's not the things that I thought I needed in the beginning. Happiness comes from just accepting your unworthiness. Not like cheap happiness. Right like she pies. But just a very calm feeling is the root of Oprah Oberlin's our inability to accept turn what s and I love story where he went hiking with your friends with skiing and Ugo separated from the group and you went missing and it was getting dark and everyone was worried. Would they question whether or not you'll life was worth rescuing like. Would it be like wait? How many followers Angie Angie is? She verified wait. Let me see who follows her weight. Issue not followed by machine arcade. No that's actually not bother with the such team. This time it's true in the physical wall made your Wadi Mrs Fixed. It's unbelievable no matter who you want your Felon Yobe of rescue. If we just accept this even ten percent more I just think our lives dramatically improve. He's been in moment thinking about it. It's like Oh my goodness as my physical life is so clearly welby than you might. Monkey like to think as another way and it. We think it's all accolades and achievements. They can go go away. They can all go away one day. You never know it could be like one bad break and you never know can happen. So if that's the hanging what UNISOM. It's very unstable and there's no common map all the goal. Achieving women listening are like Oh no goals crab. Don't have fun achieve. Those goals are fun right especially having fun doing it. Early logic puppets right because have a contribution to make living a life of contribution is very meaningful. But you don't have to do anything to prove that he deserved to take up space. In this fault there is nothing that you need to do to. It's just that whether you like it or not be thinking about just a miracle that is your life about you being alive now this time in history how your parents met how their parents like the miracle that this is you. WanNa go off enough. It was just a big mistake. This time around there is no mistake like you think. Visit like a mistake in nature. I mean we're nature's intelligence so there's nothing to push. I'm so curious about the book process for you. Who's coming out with a book and you obviously wrote. This stopped checking your life. Yes how did you write it in a way where you're like okay? I hope this does well because I wanted to make an impact and I wanted to do well. Because you're pouring your heart and your soul into a book you also have this healthy level of do it's GonNa do and if it doesn't it a-list or Blah Blah Blah and fancy schmancy thing. It doesn't mean I suck it as a bad writer. It doesn't mean that it's not impactful however anti without right now as someone who seems similar to be your very playful and you're like I just wanted to write an awesome book but then they're a part of you know it has to hit this goal or sell this many. Or how do you do that? Yeah I mean it's especially because the John's right because you have your ambition with it and you want it to be as impactful as possible in perceived as well as possible. I feel like so much of this is actually just qualitative. Though I mean I think once you understand the publishing business realize that kind of lots of nuances with the end. I think probably the most generous and in my opinion creative authors focused on is just fully beppo like Beppo in during the best walk that they can it takes like it's not a easy thing otherwise everyone have books out all the time I mean it looks people have ghostwriters. That's also totally goal. But it would've create your own welcoming. It's not a quick win it's not integrated vacation and it's not something that just happens in over. A couple of weeks is a long process so I think that the authors who get the most out in probably make the most impact especially over time of those who create the highest walk and then just like let the outcome be. I mean do things right folks you can control the energy with which you create the book then deliver it and talk about and do what you need to do using just that same kind of scented best you and then the rest is kind of not really up to you nor is the timing of it. It's almost like you're really good at embracing the feminine and of business which is creation and then releasing leaning back allowing the universe to do its thing right. Yeah I also expect the US I think about it. What we do right isn't always walk on exactly our timetable right. This is loving prayer that I heard once and I come up. Who said it but it's go. Please give me the grace to accept acceptable timing right so vast is like I right now. Need anything about it. Look how we will have a history with the universe to look back and see what has worked out. Despite you think he can not working out at the time right like I was divorced. Marley twenty so right about that. My book too and it's like well that wasn't expected but then that gave me so many gifts and if you think about even like business offering sake coffee don't expect to. You have goals things that you don't hit those goals so I think the Economy Obasi. Trust your intuition. Then you have posted expectation to be met halfway. When you do the Walk Gokul today. What do you do on a daily basis to stay joyful because using very energized joyful and at the big question I get and I love asking other happy joyful people when they do? Have you always been away or to? Oscar they just love hearing it from people too all say that the most powerful thing I have is control of my mind and that is really the only thing I can ever really continue to have. This is what wisdom is right. It's knowing the self directed mind is the the best gift knowing like folks attenuates Okasan Energy. And I don't advocate that Powell. Other people or mine likes made affordable literal likes. It's not enhance. What people and so I feel as if I just kind of undecided my unreadiness ethical as a general basis. And it sounds like Oh. Yeah we do that. We don't I would say if you're aware and willing to accept your wiliness. You probably in the top Tim. People what's V. is? 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Every single thing is temporary. What's so serious about anything higher feeling now? This bad break this good break. We'll just like this transitory thing yet. I mean what can be so serious if it doesn't even last long really. Wow I've never thought about. The whatever is it'll pass is good and bad so you WanNa enjoy the good you WanNa Lens linking the bat right and then it'll just continue to experience more and you noticed you like remain very serious. Not Celebrity is holding onto stress near designed to control which is impossible. And so it's worth it was just so out of single-cell and not living in the place of trust and confidence comes from the conferred Latin. Meaning to trust so. Also just kind of trusting to you being supported. It's Lo que even assigned doesn't seem like it's walking out we don't know the full picture yet is not all on our timing right and think about it we will miss out on an apartment or jaw or something and then something better game later ripe. In the moment we didn't know that and we like so bombed and like a serious unhappy and Mike. Nothing's working out but away little while things change so I always think we`ll. That's exactly where I am. Assuming isn't working out. I'm okay Muslim goods. But it's very conscious like. We have to be intentional about remembering map especially for entrepreneurs. Listening entrepreneurship is such a roller coaster. That you don't go in with a healthy mindset about failure and feedback and knowing that every launch isn't going to be the best every episode isn't going to be the best. Every sales page isn't going to be the best. I mean when you know that it's a game and you're supposed to play it than it doesn't act you as much then you can get up and do more things so yeah. This is great question that I love to repurpose. If anyone says you know what's wrong what's wrong. What's wrong like this could be a question. Like of Investigation right in my book reframing as a trap instead of asking was wrong ask what's missing and sometimes it's your passion right or sometimes it's like your energy is something often like Osceola sales pages like shit or this wasn't great like what was missing and Lucci tweaks a very creative. Russia was missing like well. I'm knocking results. I want something. Isn't he so like what is the thing? And then that's going to buy. You can open up the source of like thinking and you can find your solutions. I love this. I want to close it out with. Nobody knows what they are doing. Ha That's true. That's one of my favorite quotes and I love quotes so for it to be a favourite Ricky job as English comedian. Now I think that this is a universal truth and if we think there's somebody else knows where he arrests meeting them it's like nobody knows anything who's GONNA unfold and we don't need need to give anyone too much credit or ourselves like a real lack of credit for not no way right because there's this lovely quote that included my book which says life is like a public performance of the violin. We learned to play as we go along. And there's no right or wrong way to live your life. Right dailies a final. Necessarily it's really up to us. And so we can just like shack. This belief that everyone doing with reciprocated and get that book. We didn't do that clause because we're all just doing doing a bass and like bouncing back quickly. All right maybe going a little slow whatever. It is so long as you keep going. You don't stop doing a great job. I remember in the beginning of entrepreneurship ten years ago. I thought that there was a secret and everybody else must know the secret and she must know something I don't know and then you realize that nobody knows what they're doing. We're all just the rowing. Should at the wall. Trying our best getting back up on his job. He has the secret you guys like. Nobody is the expert or the guru or has all of the answers to one thing I don't Susie does. It knows the game and everybody is trying their best. The woman who you're admiring she doesn't have all the answers she's just been doing it longer. Exactly and there is no secret me. Look you could learn from others. Definitely right you end up paying out of what you either kind of invest and you lawn from someone who's Don's been successful in particular area or you just pay through your own like going through at Mickey mistakes and probably even take longer right there things that walk right but it's endless and there's not just one way there's not one right or wrong to run a business right. What's your life so I just find that that? That's extremely like pressure reducing and allows you to come and do what feels right you not fully methods that no matter how like militant everyone is about like what if you're right for you that's Great. I mean. How many times has that you angie like. You need to have what I was missing. A membership site a high end offer meteoric Whatever it is there are things. I don't have enough. Do quite nicely. So then the great suggestions you can listen. You have to trust your own in a like button with this stuff and I think that's our superpower is women to is were so intuitive and we know sometimes what the next step is so we need to shut off the computer and not look at Becky's doing with her perfect life and just do what view good for you and I think this leads to imposter syndrome. Obviously a lot of women listening are suffering from this and we all have it at some point. So yeah it's crazy because this is what leads to that feeling. Do you feel that or what do you say to Women Immense Imposter Syndrome? I think we all have impulses in Durham. All the time just varying levels. Whenever I'm feeling it unlike I'm on the right track. Something big is happening. If I'm feeling completely safe like Oh yeah feeling. So completely Noah adrenaline no via like nothing doubting with and probably just sitting in bed into retailers with no lands right no goal so whenever I feel like my gosh. It's like do. They make a mistake like by asking me to do that. I'm like Ooh this is a good feeling it's so true it's like adrenaline rush in. It proves that you're stepping outside your comfort zone and you're doing some interesting. Imagine how boring life would be if we always felt qualified You imagine how weird that would be actually right now like nervous to write the book or to interview the person or do the speech or whatever it is imagine weird that would be yeah imagine like say a corporate job right and I have a background in tech if I went back to. The very fuster had off like ten years intact. I mean a slow debt right. It would feel like like showing up doing very simple things. That's not how it's supposed to feel where it's meant to be a bit scary and you know success was so easy and push ups was so easy everyone would be slaying and if it will about knowledge everyone have six pro. Life is just is concentrated courage and if you can allow everyone carjon no the Awadhi of getting the good results that you could wish down negative emotion because you are confident. Then for isn't available for Oh this is so Jews I love this. Where can everyone go? Grab Stop Checking. Your likes support. Follow you all of the things. I think you're such a light bulb and you are like eternal optimist needs just as joyful little life. You're just the Angie stop checking like a couple of delays just because Amazon liberties at the moment but everywhere books are sold. Just get the timing right now is kind of interesting but yeah we trust the great timing like Amazon Bonds Noble etc and then my site. I've let a free complimentary was those days. Is it Suzy Dash?
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"Hey everybody says Prestige Jay. I want to tell you you know now you listen to your favorite radio radio. Show or your podcasting well. I could do that though now with anchor you can. I love you in anchor because this is one of the many way that Bakti down gets to grow more on more people and you can do it too so if you sign up for anchor today you could be on your way to get your listeners. You could find the show you you want. You can do news you do sports. You could do talk you could do trivia just be yourself. Be who ever ever you want to be but most important have fun. That's why have fun. This is your show. This is your moment. Make it what you want to be sign of anchor and you will not be sorry that you did this. Prestigious have a great day all right. This is Prince. Dj I got some very good news. I will be able to go to the retreat on tonight tonight and tomorrow so I will be doing a takeaway on dad when I get back despite not knowing how the Internet is is GonNa Fair over at the camp plan but there's only there's only gonna be thing and come back tomorrow night and I will be doing something in the lives of give your takeaway on what transpired at the Campground van Dan and so head of the department did did. Did he send email. I was like all all day. I don't know why my g mail is holding all some email sending not sending other emails through and I didn't you see this painful span phone identity in a regular folder told me that just the call and I'm glad email with the phone oh number I waited too opportune time while he's up and showing up Sean off everything is good going to be picked up here at the palace about four thirty kind of wish you like the President on in cme walking Ginana video to you know to go to three but oh well but anyway so I am going to go tonight to the retreat and his Harrison speakers and the like. I said I will be doing the take away. Yeah we'll be doing the takeaway probably more likely tomorrow at the Internet. If a lead do get some kind of internet or even the Internet does work does not work at the campground so if it does not work at the campground you get to take away on tomorrow tomorrow night so it'll be part ministering in part big deep down on honest ones are shot so all right so author. I just wanted to let you know about the good news that will be able to go to treat all is well. I just hope that the rain holds off for us so to get their people to do things for the Lord's and Dan come back home tomorrow and all that stuff and otherwise everything dog good so I will be doing this again. I will be doing something special tomorrow night when I give back funded retreat and I will let you know what happened throughout this fir tree and all that wonderful stuff so I'll be coming retreat to tonight in This Day Lee Allah.
EP26 - I received some great news today
"Hey guys what's up. Welcome to the foss growth podcast episode number plenty six. Yes twenty six twenty six stages spain since i've started this journey and i'm selling enjoying it. Some of the day's a couple of days in the middle would not that good. I just didn't feel like i'm doing it but i still ended up doing it but i'm actually getting into this south or getting the hang of doing it pretty much everyday which i'm enjoying it too awesome works happening <hes> but <hes> let's really wanna tell you guys pretty cool awesome so three of my clients today sadly s._i._m._s. Let me know that they had <hes> they con- through that the work last week <hes> and now they have the clients they have actually embiid a couple of clients for them which is pretty cool s._m._s. to get up because you know that at this time of this point in life i'm really looking forward to these kind of messages from the clients because <hes> you'll you'll successful. My success in by itself has no meaning meaning if i can't help my clients right so it's it's pretty much obliged to all of us like you know doesn't matter if you're a coaching consulting applauding service to anybody right to your success is only been your clients getting the success wide so if you clients not getting success business has no meaning <hes> i mean it. Might i take bit of time for you to get the process ride but this is what all of us must strive for that. We want our clients to have success. That's not us you know when you only look at yourself as a business siani sustained for seven peter out of time. You know if you're looking for your success looking for your client success. If you're looking for their success <hes> it just the very different journey and expectation from yourself when you put something sleep together when he shared with other people just very different rights up. This is pretty cool right. We've had a really good time today. Just going that speed of those clients and you know what one of the clients were actually client right so it's a very different emotional journey which we all go through when we sort of have climbed copying awesome writer. This is something if you are in this space. You must must know that. I tell you must drive. You must have this mission in your business that so you must look to get the results because but he looked to get your client results what happens is your business and your also in indirectly become successful any writes something do something to look forward to riding your business if you haven't had this as bishen <hes>. I think you must go back. Look at it again and see if you can add that in there because you klein must have success right so somebody actually asked me a couple of days say jag. What's what's your strength in. The in the business right enough. I walked with a lot of people are gonna different team members now which helped me taking or helping to take these business to the next level the somebody asked me today what what your strength in the space. What are you bring to the table right. What do you do see my biggest thing than truly believe that the biggest strength is learning and teaching ryan learning and teaching at putting the systems and frameworks together. I'm really good at putting the steps together rights for example so if you want to get to the destination i'm really good at breaking steps and actually explaining impeaching that to other people according a frameworks together right so i'm one of those people <hes> absolutely absolutely hate reinventing the wheel <hes> i'm. I'm one of those guys. I don't want to do things manually for the second time so i will put a system together. I'll put a checklist together output a i._t. Work together the back end. I'll i'll get it quoted done. I know how to do it but i don't do it myself but i'll make sure somebody getting done so the next time when i have to do it. I don actually redoing mentally. Give you an example. We found a really hard to initially that <hes> each time we saw out inclined to say for example that we've run a campaign for a client and they get people registered for the workshops right at this and i wanted to let the client cpac feedback right. I want to see that see whenever somebody registered for the workshop. <hes> in declines workshop means running their world trump campaigns and everything each time somebody register for clients gets excited ride client get excited so <hes> i don't want them to manley glint check it because see when the men we checking taking it day taking their foot so somebody must tell them hey somebody just registered for your show pride so when that happens is bad excited and they feel that something is happening in the business right so what we did put a system at the back together at somebody you know through the system which we used slack software and each time and somebody reduced to for the workshop <hes> it sort of gets notified within a slack and they get a message so each time now. If somebody you know just is to ten people registering a day. They get a message in just a teen bait. They just get excited right so <hes> we didn't early on as a man will work but then after that we put assistant assistant together with letting the client known each time somebody <unk> tiny bits but makes a big big big difference so i'ma systems guys i talk system might walk walk system and i do everything with the systems because i truly believe that if you get the system ride everything is a machine you ease yalta part of the system almost part of the business system. If i take myself out of this system the business should work so i'm selling not there yet. I'm not an i._b._m. I'm not articles all those big companies yet but what i learned from those big giants is you must have a system in place which can replace so grotto so all these marketing writer. One of the other thing is each time of seen a lot of people in electronic declines manley trying to find clients signed by working hard by networking by going in meeting different. People see it's really hard. You should glenn meet people you should network people but this is not a system nice to meet you can replace you are the biggest roadblock in the business rock safe you or your business rely on that you physically going out and meeting people and getting the clients you cannot replicate that channel replicator means that each time you wanna kline. You must walk into a body. You must walk into a launches business. Events vents and ben get a client so that's not to a my biggest <unk> ted which is used by forty much every other company out there who runs a business right every company who runs a business. They have this called bay for it to get a traffic bay for rottweilers. Why did he do that. Once you get the numbers ride you'll have the profit once you get the numbers right right means that if you know that it takes about forty fifty sixty eight hundred dollars for you to acquire car or get a lead and five hundred bucks to acquire a client and each client valuable what is about five thousand dollars. Why wouldn't you just i five hundred each client and get them to pay you five hundred dollars. I took very simple math very easy math but i feel most the people don't get the math because what they do is they always sort of trying to get <hes> clients mentally physically walking the different places relying relying on the network to give them the clients and this is the worst way to run a business. You shouldn't have to rely on yourself physically to get the clocks right. It just makes a really hot so one of the things which person asked me that jack what i'm good at dishes what i'm really good at. I love doing this. I love learning love teaching it. I'm i'm really really good at putting the frameworks together. I'm really good at making simple. I'm really good at putting steps together. Step by step how to get there writer if your presentation is not working if you don't know how to do it. I'm really good at putting the steps together and tell you exactly what framework what is the frame. You must use in that space to make it happen for you right so this is really really really cool stuff. I think what knowledge of static do is in my businesses. Walk on things which i'm good at right rather than doing things which i'm not really quick so i spend most of my time at the things which i'm really good at and the wing or delegating to other people to doing the things which i'm not so good at so i said during the back in work but writing the ad copy during the finals during the graphics <hes>. I can't do it if i really have to do it but i tend to give that to other people to get them to do the work because i rather spend on time on the things which i'm really good so i'm really good at teaching too. I spent more time putting the presentations together reporting the content together and organizing it in teaching that right so i'm really good at that so this is something you must find. It must discovery for you. So what are you good at. What are you really good at. What if you know that what really good at spend most of the time spend most of your time doing what he could instead of doing everything because see one thing rule applies in everything so you can do what you could add and leave give or delegate. The other worked to other people so that they can do the other lewitt's wall right to really really really important work right so that's for me today out speaker small.
Episode 116 l Great News!
"The was so worl- the Cheboygan river and we back with another episode. This time we give them those emails. You know we have to knock. Some didn't empty to hold back. You know what I'm saying, but we got through a good amount. You know and those of you who listen to the show. If you new to the show acts the point pot at g mail dot, com US where you can write us. You know email, you know we can answer your questions or concerns. On the. Guy And you got a girl. You know all of a sudden. She talked about entanglements as shame. Ever use the four syllable words you you've. We got vice the you in a female you to roughnecks. You think you didn't felt. The hard is dude and world he like Thelma up is but Dora Sex. I I'm not sure how we can help you, but we will get these jokes off, so that's better than nothing so a enjoy how fun come back. We'll be back some point states. Yeah she talked to me I. Don't. Know. Yet. So? With the August thing when you were saying you know people knowing they role in a situations, male or female. You gotta know your role and Noah. Were you doing too much soul of talking to somebody in a sit? They told me about a situation area. They they with through the quarantine. A one mess. Nobody got out the quarantine. When everything is opened up, you know they. Wanted to get. They rock all right. Okay, I mean, and there's nothing that because spread even by yourself light. Yeah, you've been itching to do something. So Soviet is person said you know what fuck I'm going. Have a one nice thing just to get it out. You Know Mama Go. Do with somebody you know. We ain't got tall. We'll just get this almost system keeping moving. Well. It didn't go like that. And This turned into August in a sense of that he he won't. He won't. He also shown him. And they told me it was to a point. Where you know he, he's been reaching out to tax. Phone calls man. He just ain't getting hint the Shane from the phone. My Man's left voicemail now when you leave a voicemail. Yeah, that's DIF-. You go here with the fuck I got saint. She's well. Yeah. It's wild to me but I. I guess my is did that day so? We're GONNA the voicemail, and then you know that you guys am so you know what we know. Okay, have a nice little discussion about it. Let's row this voicemail right now. Tiffany this is Tim. I've got great news. We should hang out this weekend. You know 'cause. It's a little bit since I've seen you and I had a great time with you. I apologize for being too aggressive that night. I was a little bit. Had two days have seen this going on there. Kinda just chill out with drinking, but I had a fantastic night. Definitely WanNA. Hang out again if you would like to maybe this weekend coming. I've I'm pretty sure you block me. 'cause I I tried to actually call you, but. but like I said I'm not trying to come up too aggressive. I understand what you said to me and you know I completely understand, but I would like to hang out again. Seriously I had a great brecon time with you like an awesome time. Okay, so my number seven, zero, eight, seven, eight, five, three, one, seven, five Mrs, actually my work number. Do not call me back here, please. know just don't WanNa get any bullshit. but I would definitely hang out with you again so like I said. Call me up tax me. Call me you know, and let's just hang out not trying to get too crazy with everything just like to see you again because I had a fabulous time was probably the best that I had this year could super hard to get out because of all this craziness going on, but definitely like to hang out again. Okay, so mean attacks. Give me a call whenever you could if you don't want to. That's that's completely fine as well so all right I'm GonNa shut up and I'll me tax me okay? bye-bye! Berle so that's not I hear that even odd voicemail bro Hull. ACQUAI-. Win! When you love voicemail, because you've been blocked from your regular phone, so you have to use your hurt. To retail. Here in I'm pretty sure you've plock me. The appreciate you black me. Don't give you know what they hit. Personal me. 'cause I had to block somebody. Why don't get the fucking clue? Like what is? Don't tell them stay. I try. Not, to laugh. I really. Oh pretty she. Does it. I don't even know what happens when your black because I've never been blocked somebody so i. have no idea you know either. You know what happens on the other end, but obviously he knew this. You could tell the message. We haven't seen each other. No, you hallway. This is Tim. I've got great news. You should hang out this weekend, so. Hey so I got great news. Hey fellas news. Hang out. Like? They weren't hanging out because he was billed. As of. Great News. A start on your voicemail. Hey, Tiffany, I know you've been blocking be! Hey. I got the most amazing news. Hang out. Is Been Awhile. Now now. Know you aggressive, but. I. Haven't been drinking like I was a little tipsy. Look! You, when you? When you? Drink problems. Week. That's how you know. That's how you know you serious man die you. Know you don't even know your last name. But. You know I fixed. If you all alcohol out, my life may use peroxide now. have no alcohol in my life right now. Same Great News. How great news. Oh man as like. He Really WanNa pinpoint that he had a great time. Yes, at night you had a great psalm that greatest night of his life this year this year. We in July. The made quite the impression. In one night. In one night, he stopped his drinking. Freed, up his I mean he freed up. Everything may get you his work number. You can call. It can't call it though yeah, so I don't know how you going to contact him. which? I didn't understand. That is wild rose like no, she's not gonNA reach out to the roads. That's why I didn't understand he like. This is my work. Number of hey, but Okaz though right no shit. Yeah, but I know you block me. It has I. Don't know how you call me or text me. Oh wait, so is that deployed to unblock him? I mean but with A. I. E. L. but here's the thing when a person don't WanNa talk to you. They don't give a fuck about I mean we're not talking about that. This is just a for him. For him, he's not getting it. Of course he's not getting it, but his mind was called. You were number 'cause. This is the only way I can contact you I got your number already. You got me blocked on my on my cell. So this is the only way I can contact you. Don't call them at work number. I'm at work. Don't do that like Bro. I don't know because we deal with a person. Is it like a cycle we? He leaves voicemails below the person that is twisted things. He's the type of do. Heat type with do if she was to get a restraining order against him, he would tell people that they were social distancing. Of course I can't. I can't be around body, right. Team we talking about. What we need. More six feet over here. Talking about what are you doing? No work means nothing to me. Tiffany must be a real special lady to to make this much of oppression on the first night, 'cause. This is not what you do in a one nice thing if you don't get to the point where. You know this woman blocks you than you've done too much in. You should not try to contact ever after that like you are. You already should know in your head with this is. I think the only thing that could take away from his voice mill with. Great News. Great News Amazed. That's how you start off voicemail like you got me blocked on everything, but hey great news. Cleared this. Right and I think we should go out I. Think we should go out I. think we should go well. I know you said I was aggressive, but I know. I! Would love to know tiffany Saturday's like. was He aggressive during the talk the talk? Him Up from from what was told to me. The aggressiveness came after they hooked up, so he was he. He was talking to her like he has all these feelings for her okay. Okay, so it wasn't a physical aggressiveness. I got okay. Okay okay. After the smash? It was more of a UAB to one. Now. You don't do not not that come on. Bro, the other side, and and this is what I told them. When they told me this. The question I asked her because she said it was one nice thing I said. Did you let him knows one Nice Day and she been the question. She said she did not. Actually. Yes, it nicely right now I. Just said going forward. If you're GONNA do this and this for anybody you plan on having a one night. Stand with somebody. You should definitely let them know that. This was one there from negate, but I think if he was great the sack. I think she would have thought a little different right right. But seen as though it was lacklustre like okay. I'm black this Friday night. That was that was the an you know. I'll take my ill. Just leave it at that. But no now now man seeing take. He ain't go tickets dub very easily. No, no, no, not him. I know. You had a problem with that night I was it replay back in my head? What I think happened was when I asked you. If I can be little spoon. Saloon with Lewis. Boone I agree with you. Thinking about it now fest crazy. As. Soon be loose ball so I don't know I got IT I. Did maybe we can alternate. Love is walling. Hey, great news. I can't get older affect. Like. That was really great news Thank you for sharing that with us. I appreciate it, tiffany. Thank you for sharing that voicemail with us a great. That, that was amazing. That was amazing. Is Proof that people? They just never been no one night. Stand situation or just don't understand okay. If I'm black down here, that means I. Don't want to talk to you. Just don't get it, s it? So shout out to tiffany man. Thank you for that. Thank you for the laugh. Thank you the Hugh Great News Listening. We got more involved. You Lock for a couple of days. Says Oh, great news! Nothing Bro, I think. That's dropped the man. I great news. I'm thinking of severe drought for you got. Great News? Great News. and. Aggress. Okay. No, I asked you to stay at no extra to stay. Unknown. I wouldn't go. Take no for me. That's how I know. I was drinking a little bit. When we got to the room I told Y'all had already had happe- can of white cloth. I told you that. As we did. It. So, why Claude did. Oh. Oh No, you should really stop drinking the white cloud half. CAN AWAKE LAW NO. Stop Drinking. Thank, you, Tiffany! Yeah shots. If for that man I appreciate, we appreciate you for that. voicemail s great news. You're the first voicemail of the year to be honest itchy. Sato was the first voice voicemail. Solicit into our email email. You've got mail. This is from Andrew. Andrew Yes when I Andrew Edgy says I'm a divorce man in my thirties in for about a year I've been seeing one of my neighbors, who also is divorced in a few years young. We choose not to isolate together over now because my son and daughter come to stay with me, so we had to make do with talking on the phone a message, each other in having socially distance conversations outside I really got this relationship was going somewhere, but over lockdown of started to. To have my doubts. I noticed she was very flirting. With other men social media in her online conversation seems a bit inappropriate for someone who's meant to be in a relationship, also know that. Her marriage ended because he had fair. Which I realized is always at the back of my mind I. Suppose what I'm saying is that I? Don't know if I could trust. Have mentioned that she has a lot of male friends on social media, but she just laughs and says Jealous, are you? So she said. Like it's no big deal or I'm silly for pointed out however I. Don't want to end up getting my harbor again now. Don't want to be with the woman who doesn't take relationships as seriously as I do. What say you river? Well the fact that he said again with the heartbreak. He's been downs road. He's yeah, so I would say because you've been down this road. Combined with the fact that her marriage ended because she cheated, he cheated combined with. The fact fact that's supposed to be you come on blue's clues. But you reading all these comments. She made real extra on the flirtatious side with all these guys on social media SORTA, whole public. These ain't even deums. Post. This is something you can see. You can see this public. For the guys friends. He put it public. Yeah I would definitely say great news. He Dila would teeter. Nosy aggressive associated. Now I say lead as situation Bro. That's too much. That's that's too many combinations of things that I don't like I don't like all for you. All like it for me, but I've never good for you. Listen, you said this is happening. You know y'all y'all been quarantined, and we talked about that I'll Soi a Lotta. People have been talking, and you don't have to fill like you just subjected to Ha-. You know people out the. To just let ago just gunshot neighbors doesn't mean you just like Oh. Yeah, forgot about the part they neighbors What are we talking about? What are we talking about you? Live, what are we talking about it like she is? She has a history of great news. You don't say. She has a history of doing dirt love Russell. She's overly aggressively flirty with news. You know what I'm saying so. I don't understand what you were from us other than to tell you a Oh. She wants to be out there. She wanted to be free. You know letter. Saying, do she I I hear? She kinda totally your heart strings because she told you jealous much like bitch. Spanish. Nuts. Trying to be honest. Conversation with sue. Rub, me, raw way and. You'll say tell us. Jealous much. You talking to fuck, is you talk? Almost able throat. I think you guys. If I was different. This is ninety seven. You. Don't play we girl. I was dating yet to call you guys. Dog Almost did almost the. History she almost. She almost me, let the nine hundred. From the slapper Hotrod I didn't know that. Parliament. She also at ninety seven. To let you know. She don't know see. Oh, no, no, no! Slapped Holes in ninety seven. Stay suspended from school. Not The bitch food could be of some Mitch. Snider? Nadu's everyone. No remorse sir. So. I just point brand. Yeah, we're once you see all. That is social media machine in change on. Explain it dog. What are we even talking about what we talk about? I'll show name I. Know One thing I've been be candy. A. Candy over there. While our. Kids. Inside. HAVE SOME WIND UP A. Lot Of. toboso usually do this. Social Media. That's a lot a divorce. He's going to other people's houses roads. Don't even know we soap operating chill. Out of. General Hospital and We would like to live. You life deliver. Is Reach I guess Oh. Sorry. He was innocent, Boston. I am. Straight. Right? Can you probably just living like oh? Yeah, just helped me. Apart a fam- now we'll get these Jones. Yeah, can you probably go get several? Several does. Anybody that got a neighbor, is you? highs, or Andrew Man. I hope that helps man. Thank you for your email. Extra Point Prodigy Mona Dot Com. going get to the next one. Got Mail Hey y'all is billy. Hear Man. I hate to interrupt the podcast hate to interrupt the episode because I. Definitely want you to listen to, but I gotTa tell you all about the sponsorship, and that is anchor now if you haven't heard about anchor to easiest way to make a podcast one being that is free, and you can't beat free. This creation tools that allow you to record an editor podcast. Right from your. Your phone and right from your computer now anchor will distribute your podcast for you in, so it can be heard or spotify apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast, also you can make money from your podcast with no minimum listenership that means you could tell your one baby Mama, and your to other baby mamas, at which makes three so off Yok and listened to it, and you can still make money from your podcast. I probably wouldn't tell him that. Because you know that, add onto your child support. I mean 'cause you got the new girl Shane. Like seeing that you got the new girl said she puts you right on sports, all three of them at together. You know what? I'm saying too much anyway. What I won't do is download the free acre, APP or go to Anchor Dot FM to get started anchor as everything. You need to make a podcast all in one place. From Alison. WHAT'S UP Allison? Girl Alison hurt her topic. was I wrote for making. My boyfriend cut his ex out of his life. Was Wrong for making my boyfriend, his ex out of his life. Okay, so my boyfriend I have been dating for that he was talking to this. person who took his AVI car. K- they never actually dated, but to me is still counts as an ex solid the tiffany situation. Maybe do a virgin. do of version bro with. Virgin and that's why he sold like. Overly aggressive light man had the most amazing time. It wasn't half of the white clothes. Shoes the Fergie. Version W explain as she didn't know she didn't know. She. Was a regular. They'll Sifni you defer. Version did know it all my goodness. Okay, that's probably why the sexes wet. He didn't he didn't know even know this kind of Nice funny. That is not vote. He didn't. I'll wow she like lower your mobility and Lord. I saw whole. Talk about later while believe button so moist. Nobody told you to have out. Does it. If. Somebody. If you, fuck somebody's Audi belly. Ache. Swords! His only games any. Really I guess no, no. Is Out. Rubbish. Now, you can get out. He came out he. Now. You can't do that. Republicans. Sprint great news. Being Be Cargo. You can't tell you guys. Can't tell you. They are both like you've got further than we. Lease you fuck something right. I ain't seen a girls belly blood. Almost thought. The ear wants her I. Head! Hostility. Always. Jealous March. All my God. Sore Alexa Sorry tiffany. Back. Oh Man. Rubik, in Rebecca Allison okay. I caught Alexis. Sorry, it's fun I got you. So, okay, so my boyfriend and I have been deemed forbidden found out. He was talking to the person who took his car. They never actually dated, but to me is still counts as an ex when I hear about her I just get a pin. Must when I just get a bad feeling. I trust him that he won't do anything, but I just don't trust her. A strong feelings in they talk often. It wasn't flirting, but it was still making me uncomfortable I didn't want to hide. My feelings are opened up to my boyfriend and we had a big discussion about it. He doesn't understand why I feel the way to. To do honestly neither do I. I didn't want a be that kind of possessive girlfriend and make him block her, but That's what ended up happening although he chose to do, and I feel guilty, because I took away his friend, but I didn't want to sacrifice my piece for his happiness for much longer am I wrong shit, not have ended that way could there have been away to compromise? He's really disappointed in led to that The other girl is not to mess around with people with no regard of whether or not their relationship. She has tried to sway him. A while back. Obviously didn't work, but still. This is I don't. Between Him. Have Losers. Vintage of Virginity Y'all together I? There's no time line. At least I didn't get that. So I. Don't understand where it's coming from alleged. This was like super close than you know where you are. It was getting together. I understand he does talk to her, but if he's not giving you any indication of being untrustworthy that I, don't I don't see. The problem other than the the issues going on within you not trust in hurt your forgetting one important detail. She said what is she and this is why I, don't have a problem with her insecurity or lack of a better word of when she said she tried to fuck him already since they've been together. Miss that even said Yeah I'll miss, so. She said that she has tried she. Gogo Buddy Pause for sex. She fucking. You probably start from the bottle because it's closer to the bottom in the town. Tried to sway him while back. Okay I see okay and obviously didn't work still okay, so she's tried yet so I, think her. Trying at the they had sex already. That's enough I in this the person you talked to 'cause I know I'm if I was in a relationship and my chick still talks to the do the took the car and I know for a fact that he has tried to persuade her fuck him again. I'm not gonNA feel coupled with told him. This is true. Okay, and I know that he fucks chicks in relationships, so he don't give two fucks about like. US feel some type of way above it. Yeah, I, one hundred percent agree. Alison I I agree okay I I definitely smooth that part. I totally forgot about that. You know you just read it in. You. Gather information as people talking outside all year. They did say that so so I one hundred degrees outside yard. Where within your rights to fill the way you feel Nov.. My. Bro-, Yeah. No, no, no, we can't toss her main Kudos to him for blocking them. Because you know we read some of these to do or the or the women don't do nothing nothing. Just jealous much, we just we. Just went through one. Yeah, she didn't have no regard. So Gupta him he least. You know says he didn't like the end it that way, but at least the respect that you enough to block her right, so you got that going for you I. I totally smooth past that. I've really forgot about a It happens. Because I was like understand this shit, the fuck you talking among. Up We owe. The whole time you're talking I'm like he has no clue. She fuck you. Great, news I with A. Turns out. I was wrong. Great going nowhere. You say hey, great news. On Line. Says News, who was a great news for? Some great news for Tiffany at all blacks unique. Oh. Wait wait. What was the name Allison Allison? St You X. Point Prodigy Mata Com. Got Mail. This next one here Ashleigh was. Girl a Lotta. Scam. Right my boyfriend. Ten years broke up with me at the end of February. As a tip at a job seven hours away, a high paying technical job, she w no. He accepted a full time position. After we. After the break-up, he moved out a couple of weeks ago. since the break-up is gone back and forth seeming like he wants things to work out with us in academic research together, saying it looks like we're just going to end up being France. the whole time I have been telling him I think we can work through this communication. Problem Long Distance. Slash and I think our relationship is worth it. I'm willing to whatever takes etc I just found out that he has been calling and texting his female Co.. Nearly every day, throughout the day actually starting at least a couple months before we broke up I. Look at our phone bill history. As she found out of course he talks about his coworkers often, but purposefully left her out completely of course. the before he broke up me, spoke to her on the phone for two hours. I confront him about it today accident if he taught to her about breaking up with me in how messed up? It is the highest such a close friendship with a partner. I said that's fucked up to talk to her. Not to me. He's blamed me. Saying overly sensitive. Who can't handle normal amount of stress? So that's why he didn't tell me about her. In that I barely talked to him on the phone at all, so don't get it screwed up. I feel like I'm going to say I feel like this. Close. Friendship has somewhat been inappropriate especially since it was hidden from me, am I overreacting at the very least? This was emotionally dishonest i. think so what you got stay. But they're broken now. And he forced. He broke up with her. He added to our conversation with this other chick. And they don't even talk on the phone. And he talks about his co workers, but he never mentioned this court. Of course you don't. Know, you leaders Kober out you know about Tom. You know about Joseph You know about Tim. You know about Sam I. Mean You? You know about you know mad, deutz. We talked about before that under no circumstance. Do you tell your significant other about your work, wife, you do not no matter how incident is, it can be very fake can. Can Be the most innocent thing in the world. You do not know how to take it all you know Yeah Ennis is situational. You don't know how how they're going to react to. Yup, because they could be as that like, oh. Shit, go down at work. You know I'll take for some shit like that or the very most I pay for food. Which is the ultimate disrespect? You can't do that? You K. if you do you like. It ain't like fucking I got to because it's not but. Joe Sniff. Cocaine correct so. Ill that's his work wife I completely understand why you didn't know Shit. I get that part is the situation I'll get. And unless you know that he didn't wait to fuck her, which I didn't hear I didn't hear that either, but if he broke up with you. And then walked around with her. He technically did nothing wrong past. All the logic I love it. I Him? I mean he waited, he waited. He waited. He waited I. You know I e mails. Saint. Talent. Is Pretty Pretty Silent Man of this? That's all I'm saying. You got no proof in between the time I was together rather than was on the phone for to be on the phone with somebody to. Talk about work for two hours. That's the biggest everything you had. That's it that's it. That's all she hey. This. Listen I. What Are you talking about? Think. Now you'll reasoning could be like what you have to talk about for two hours that you can't talk about at work. Okay, okay. I. Yes okay. Could you question that conversation absolutely absolutely? Absolutely. But Based on what I'm hearing. He broke no more laws. That was no. Let's. Say. Go. Fuck it up, I can. Not lost some from over there. We lost. We lost them. We love lost, him listeners opener. Safer moment on Your Week 'cause I'm not even GONNA try. It Week. Women Fifty. Portugal. Portugal. House. Of? Said right for two years. Later right. ooh, okay all right. Rebecca okay If that's your only argument, they can argue that there I. Think we argue that was definitely the wait. Until you get some further information or some evidence here I don't I don't think he was in the wrong. Really I just think it's very cautious about how you felt in. You have your suspicion afterwards of course but. I don't I don't see the problems. Did we miss something in? The we did. We miss something so because he wrote like the only thing is the to our conversation you. Like yeah even does not. Like unless you heard him. Say during the conversation like when you will let me hit that again. Some we haven't difficult. Conversation, but if he only had a regular ads. But NELLA has been vanilla. But Nila to our conversation with this girl. I mean what are we talking about? What we really talk. What are we really harbor in Rogo which you didn't you didn't agree with the break up dated in now. You have no other evidence other than a two hour conversation, right? Would you don't have any specifics to tell us? And in the fact that he didn't tell her about her right as far as colour go you understand a Lotta guys don't WanNa, bring bullshit and to the relationship that they fill is unnecessary. Nope, me, tell you about a chick on real. Work US WHAT THE FUCK is! That GONNA competence. All grown do is put somebody unnecessary on your radar. Now. We arguing about cool but I opened my big mouth and told you about how man. I was work was cool. I was laughing all data's. Grow Sandy up the job. She told me this judge he funniest. Sheets like high guy she she should've been coming to China. So call, you must call. New Monique. You very was. We do not sell no. Show, so yes. To such also nope, no, no, no, no sane man in a relationship. Wherever do that not in not bringing up passing none of as far as we know, ain't got no female Cooper's snow. Our amid over gay men. Some reason somebody's dress up like women. Young. He was smart on his part to our news wrote like you're talking about. We. Don't even allow women Emma. Non. Lawsuits. Discrimination Discrimination Against Women. Still only me. Oh Ashley made. Thank you for your email i. hope that helped. Export five g account on our last email man. This has been a great podcast. I'll tell you that. I have enjoyed it yes. I'm not even hungry. I was afraid. I really enjoy it. was you ate before we did PA has. A, beer. After not. Okay I. Got Your got you You've got mail. So. This is not A. I don't know. HOW ARE WE GONNA turn this one, but it's not as funny as I thought it was gonna be. Maybe I should say this for the middle but okay. Tried anyway. You know we we we. We didn't turn some stuff some serious stuff. It's funny. Okay so this is from Dylan. What our bill, so dillon has to be white, because no black man is dylan. Okay, so you might be Asian to cousin. I'm bill. Do you really? Really bow pairs of blood, okay, I just never seen that before. You know that's kind of rare i. mean that's the only Villanova, but. A black bill okay. So your cousin. Does Not do my cousin like that. Shit. Okay fuck around he says. The title says my girlfriend has explicitly stated. She doesn't want marriage because she wants to meet other people, too. So. She wants a wheel Jada. She wants A. Will the Jada basically okay? So the title sounds weird, but she's a nice girlfriend is just that she sees his relationship as something that will in I mean it's not like it's wrong, but I just thought about marrying her in the future young, but still it's just that mindset like that is what fuels me except now I know that mindset is useless or is it. I don't know there's nothing with meeting other people right? She says she's inexperienced. Hints wants to gain experience with other people. It kinda pays me to imagine her kissing a fucking guy's not gonNA. Lie a factor in effect that she won't fuck me even. Even though she used to back thin I just kind of fill loss like there's point working hard in this relationship that would eventually in at first. She said she consider marriage, but that was when she was at honeymoon. Sakes now Kinda feel trick to portrayed somehow, even though as neither of them. What should I do should I keep this up at this point I. don't even know what I want. Should I break off when the relationship feels, did a will my harbor change her oh. Yeah, subpoenas! Girlfriend doesn't WANNA. Marry me because she wants to expand the guys. I feel awesome keeping US relationship. Experience other guy? Yes, what are we talking about? What are we talking about voice? Are we talking about every episode? You get release one emails one. Will we say? Did you prove? What you wrote. Jagoda. Ry any of the things you wrote to us because if you did, did you read what you wrote? You wouldn't even press in. I don't I don't get it means I. Don't get it. This is an openness. Shut case as. openers shot like this. It don't make any sense to me by if the woman says Allen. For whatever reason. She said that lie okay, she was okay with marriage at the beginning of this relationship. She changed her mind. Yeah, it's not like she's going to change it back like she. She feels differently now. She wants to fuck other guys. He's made she's made. There's no right saying. She towed told you she wants to fuck the guys. I can't sit on the couch. In Watch Netflix with more, woman. In have a conversation with her. About our relationship issues like you know what great news. I WANNA fuck out the governors. I'm sorry, overly aggressive that sounds. But this relationship of the block. Nagel what? I don't mind the people that write in looking for answers and they want to on us to help them. These eight yeah. y'All who? It is. Already. What is the question because? This woman. Told you? This is going to come to an end support because I to explore. The Big Sis Hey now no win is eaten Maybe after his lockdown, we in phase three right now, maybe within like face for may see I I think, bring up, she you a heads up to like say basically saying maybe you should start. Maybe you should further your search of another woman, because it ain't me like I'm not in the marriage field. Anymore like I know I. say that within the two weeks that we started talking but. I was just trying to hit it like. I was trying to see Dick was like. Did I explored it. I'm trying to explore. The. Door in the streets. Like I'm not here. Sniping. A. Bull. Oh, shit man boy was wrong. I don't know how. This. Is Guy. Is Right there in your fate there. There's no way of changing this woman's mind. No, there's no like she has made it very clear. Once this lockdown his older. I'm fucking another. Do Seem fucking. I don't know I'm not fucking. You like you for the convenience as right now as log now, Bro, and the thing about it was you were saying that. Could you convince her it? Could you change her? Mind this, Bro, listen. Do not stay in a relationship. If based off the fact, you're trying to convince Harrison to one. Stay with you know if they don't WanNa stay with you. There's US all you need to know. There's no point of China beat ago I've been in a relationship where I wanted to stick around and I was trying to give reasons to. You just gotTa come to the conclusion like she already. Let me notice this bill. Yeah, you know what she's. Already like mentally on some other plane. She's she's already legend. That's the crazy part she already let's you know. Yeah, so you like? You need to catch up. She had the finish line. Yeah, she ain't crossed into. This is convenience at this point. because she can be physically dare, but mentally. She overdid Texan calling all the month. Focus Man, and you don't even know it, but but see told you so you should you you know it. You have a clear indication, yeah! You said, but I gotta give credit where credit's due sealer straight up front with you. A lot of people get that respect now. Johnny was very of from. She told you she changed her mind about marriage six hundred ten at some point. End in the near future. To. Look. At not only did she say that this is going to end? She told you why because she wants to explore the negatives. What are we go? And you like. I'm gonNA email riverine billy. We're going to tell you any different. We came. We can't tell you hanging near. Not like no like there's no hanging in is done I know it sounds harsher than. It should be but. It can't be any harsher to her. Telling you. She wants to fuck other. Though I. Don't understand why. Thing. He accepted because he thinking I do because he said he thinks he can change your mind. How do you change somebody my with somebody? A look and we are just made this spaghetti in I know. I just made his meal I. Know We sit at the dinner table right now, but I look I'm I, want the Knicks. I'm just letting you know now like I. Don't think this relationship is GonNa work I don't I? Don't WANNA be married. especially the you so How how do you like to Spaghetti? Now. Sauce. The actual fuck, what are we talking about? What are we talk? I don't I don't know Dylan. Great News! You're single. No! I hope that I hope that rain to build you. Great News Great News are. I know the neighborhood is. This is it was already knew that? Say Great News I. Think we should hang out. I got you walked everything? About. These things at the same until he thought he could chase. John. Oh? Lost Woods right now is ridiculous. Love the crazy thing is wait your lost in the woods with signs everywhere. Literally exercise everywhere pointing you. Like. NAH Nah. s supposed to go south. No north. South no GPS lily. Go Right. No, you don't mean that. North North the people. Now I know absolutely I know I know you don't mean it. You. A bit said it for months. That's nuts dylan. I would say to reply back on would. I rather you not because our rather not the heartache in heartbreaking onto experience after the break-up actually happens in you. Reply back to okay. You guys right so rather than that. You reply back at all so with that at that's that's it for the emails in I at the US I want to thank. Everybody for listening I WANNA thank everybody who sit down email in voicemail shutout. Tiffany came out for really great episode. Chill. Thank you guys, man. I had a lot of fun with this, so I appreciate Shaw at. The phone, which all not knowing. What the fuck in your relationships! When is very obvious so? So I had yeah, so we had fun with that. Thank you guys for that Where do you get our podcast podcasts at apple spotify iheartradio Google! Play wherever you get your podcast. We got there at Potsy Nice once again. 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#162: The Crimes of Grindelwald / Clique / Great News
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Feel all of your holiday feelings, basically. Yeah. Thank christmas. Think rum com. Think brilliantly laughably bad. Coming your way. And yes, we have already done love actually specials or no. It's not that. It's not that. But you can't go back into that. Yeah. Maybe we'll put one of those out eighty ever the Christmas period this year. So she we roll on with this week pinola episode of seriously. Yep. Let's so the first thing that we're going to talk about this week is little fantastic beasts the crimes of Grindelwald, which is the second film in the Harry Potter prequel franchise, fantastic beasts so this stars Johnny Depp as the evil wizard Grendel Vold Jude law as the young Albus Dumbledore, Eddie red main as Newt Scamander and Ezra Miller as credence baboon. It was written by JK Rollings as part of the ongoing wizard ING world fictional universe. Yes. So obviously a lot of controversy about this film that we talked about repeated times on seriously involving the car. Sting of Johnny Depp. Who was accused of domestic assault by his ex wife amber heard back in may twenty seventeen. It's been a huge ongoing case they settled out of court. A neighbor said nobody lied for financial game. JK Rollings has been a staunch defender of Johnny Depp. In all this on has said that she's not only happy, but completely delighted to have him in these films. And she's kind of said things that almost allude to the idea that we just need to trust her and take her at her word, the she would never cost someone that she considered to be genuinely problematic. So that's kind of where we're at with this film. I felt very conflicted about going to see this film. I'm buying a ticket in the cinema. And I kind of knew that I was never not gonna go and see the next Harry Potter film. Which is I think big part of why so many people are so upset by Johnny Depp's casting in this film. I saw a screening so I didn't pay for ticket. But that is always a coward's way out because I go to screenings and don't have to buy cinema tickets because my job is to go to films, and then I write about them and talk about them thereby encouraging other people to go buy tickets. So I can't really claim an out that way. So I can imagine I might be some people listening here upset with with us for going to see this film, which I would completely understand for me. I just kind of couldn't not go because of my job. And I just saw new I was never going to not see a major Harry Potter film because the series is kind of too close to my heart this points, though. Although I object to Johnny Depp's costing in this movie. I just don't see what may not going with really achieve at this point. That's kind of where I am with it as well. I don't really know what not going chiefs. And also, I kind of think that even if I didn't care about it personally, which I do in this case, I still think I in the same way that I've not massively invested in the marvel universe by still see most of the films because I write about culture, and they are a big part of pop culture. And so on you know, I still think I'd probably say, but yeah, I still feel conflicted about it. And if anyone wants to skip ahead to the next section and not listen to any more of this either for spoiler or other reasons the times will be in the description, so you can do that totally. And if you wanna Email in like bashes, go ahead because I'm always interested to hear people's perspectives on. This kind of thing. So I won't be offended. So without aside, shall we talk about the actual movie. Yeah. So it's a sequel. It's also kind of a prequel. It's in this weird space between the beginning of this franchise starts in like the nineteen twenties. Twenty six is when the first film was so with where kind of, you know, seventy years away from the beginning of the Harry Potter time-line. But yeah, for me this film hangs in a weird space where nothing really happens in this movie has nothing happened in the first movie really which was all about setting up five prequel films where two films into a five film series and still really nothing has happened in in my opinion. Yes, I think it's such a floor to. I could be wrong. But I think it's reasonable to expect that the climax of this five film arc is Dumbledore fighting Griddle old that with us what we've all assumed. And yet been kind of led to believe whether or not. Because we know that he wins because it's a prequel. Yes. And yet we also know that Grendel doesn't die because of what happens in deathly hallows. Yes. So I think it's therefore a real problem when you've chosen a like one off climactic event the outcome of which is already known as the basis for a five film. The has to be something else. That happens the has to be some other substantial plot go on and so far there just isn't any and a lot of the kind of momentum that the film's rely on is this kind of escalating political tension happening within the visiting world, which has a lot of parallels to, you know, all literal real society and early called it mogul society them, but that would be to imply that the wizards are also real. But in literal real society is that we have you know, there's lots of allusions to the second World War, a Nazism and also like, maybe the contemporary rise. You know, re rise of the of the fall, right that we're seeing the moment, you know, lots of people comparing the Grindelwald character to a kind of Trump e Oreta, and so, you know, I guess maybe it's also going to engage with on that political level in order to find something kind of meaty in these movies. But there are just so many things that fundamentally struggles with like a I mean, I'm gonna say really obvious things. But like the fact that there are no children in these movies. Like, yeah. That makes it much more difficult to engage with not only for a young like now young person audience, but for those of us who kind of loved Harry Potter as kind of young adult series. The fact that there are no kids with teenage problems in like the lengthy the dot. Plot set in Hocquart springs, like the magic of the hogwash setting also gone the tiny little flashback that there is of young new and the young leader in this ad hoc goals in this is one of the only good bits in it. I think I completely agree. And I think the film he really suffered for including that flashback because you get a real sense of like, oh, my God, we could be watching movies about student so ho- quartz. And when no I understand that it might be like overkill for people to do a whole nother seven film series or something in ho quarts. I think for most people they just wanna get back there and also it suffering from inconsistency issues. Oh my goodness. You wrote a whole piece highlighting alot these. And I just couldn't stop thinking about it. The whole way through the film. Ages don't match up people randomly have siblings. Now that we just never mentioned before, you know, it does feel because what JK Rollings so good is this really detailed world building that she doesn't Harry Potter series. Which does rely on a lot of KiKi nutty things like like, strong consistency. Unlike just things just things working on us are never like one part when we'd meet I didn't even mention that piece was the we some there's a lot of magic in this film that just we don't know how it works. No one ever to explain how it works. It's just like, oh, here's a magic feather. Oh, here's a weird gold outline of a person like nobody uses. Verbal commands in these films, which is like in the Harry Potter series thing. You know, people don't have to say like Aloha Amora in order Stewart spell. They can just they can just do it without saying if they're really good wizards, but being allowed into that level of world building being able to think as a reader like, oh, maybe they should try news Akio. Accu at work in this scenario. They should use the marauders map, whatever, you know, being being given as a reader that kind of equality. That's like a democratic way into the magic in those books where it's like I actually feel like I could be a wizard because I understand how you can't operate within ho quartz yet. There were there were rules that helped the plot feel more like will. Why didn't you just apparant there and kill him? You know, the classic like why did you kill Hitler thing? And also allowed the films to explore this whole idea of well, I well, I think the one of the fundamental things. They original Harry Potter books about is the. Yeah, you can do magic. But you still have problems. Which this really do? And then a couple of other like really fills that really basic to say this by felt let down by was the dialogue in this. Film is terrible just on a set on a sentence level. Like I wanted. I wanted to be able to say that Johnny Depp is bad in this film. But I don't think it's really fair actually to single him out because he has terrible lines as do everyone else who's in. And therefore, you can't say that he delivers the many worse than they then the other thing is characters just randomly doing stuff without proper motivation and thinking particularly of the character of queenie who is the sister of Tina, he's kind of Newt's like fellow crimefighter person from the first film. She's an American aura queenie her sister in the first film. She very much set up as this gentle, very high Akron. They call. She's like, hyper empathetic, she can sometimes read other people's minds and feel their feelings. And I was quite interested her in the car because I felt it was really set up as like, you know, she's very soft and feminine in her skills are kind of not flashy, but she's nonetheless, very powerful for that. And then in this film after very little screen time. And various let's nation. She just joins Grendel old. Yeah. And there's a kind of logical leap poll is spoil an hour. And I think we will get into really spoiler territory, you if you haven't seen it wanna go see it, you know, maybe false forward. But the logical leap hole here is that she not even lead. It just doesn't make sense the floor in the logic that she saying, oh, I'm gonna join Grendel fold because I wanna marry a Michael and he allows for freedom and love, but between wizards and muggles which is a bit of a stretch of an interpretation, but something that he's kind of said to manipulate her. But by doing that, her muggle boyfriend is like CLA writing. This guy's really hateful. I don't want to. I we we. We win or going to be together. If you go off on this journey, and she doesn't anyway. And like dot dot just doesn't make any sense. That makes no sense. When her motivation is supposed to be all about wanting to be with. Yeah. And given. Yeah. It's just doesn't make it so annoying. And it's the same with a character liter strange in this who is introduced this is her first kind of outing. We've heard lots about her in the first movie, and then we finally meet her in this one, and we see her do things, and again, like the idea that her character might be motivated by serious like have actual tangible motivations is just kind of like thrown out the window, and she just does things and whenever really given a sense as to what's going on in her brain. And that's this character, they devote a lot of time to flashbacks trying to explain why she feels the way she does why she long like exposition monologue gave it and still none of it makes any sense. And it's it's to send that we talk a lot about on seriously. But it's committing a fundamental in of saying how can we get our characters? To serve the plot. That we want in this movie rather than thinking, how would these characters behave, and let's like, right? The plot around that like here character surf plot plot doesn't serve character. And that's just so for straight to see and something that really didn't it never felt like that in the original Harry Potter series. Always felt like when Dumbledore didn't say something not felt like not because they were like, oh, well, we would lose the momentum of the story. If Dumbledore told Harry, this it was all wrapped up into Dumbledore. Harry's dynamic and how domino would withhold things. From Harry was like a key fundamental character issue, not just a plot issue. And it's just really depressing to see this issue. We see in the cost child players. Well, we felt and I I hate seeing again. And I think the whole problem comes down to the fact that they're trying to put too much in a short film by too much really happens over the plot this film, whilst nothing high stakes consequential really important actually happens like character. Does die in spectacular sacrificial moments. But then nothing is gained in that sacrifice. So it really is enough. Basically is what happened characters identities revealed to be not what you thought and then revealed again to be something even different to that. And like this double bluffing and triple blah Fagan that so much crammed in all of it eventually becomes undone by the time, you get to the end of the film. So you're basically in the same position you are at the beginning of leave you just fail all the time. Like, there's no point learning any of this because it's just all meaningless. Anyway, I was particularly I particularly -joyed the reactions of there were three women slightly older than me that Nemi in the cinema. I would say it who had all they all drunk quite of wine before they come to the film, and they were now I think playing kind of private drinking game in this in basically every time someone would be like you're actually secretly l'estrange sibling credence. They would all just cackle. With louder. And then when the final reveal if it even stays the same in the next film comes along which heavy spoiler. It's revealed that will Grendel tells credence that he is like a secret Dumbledore sibling or something. He his real name is Arabia Dumbledore, and that actually he's the only one who can defeat Albus because their blood or something these women just like fully shrieked with laughter. And I felt that was really the only appropriate response. Yeah. It's depressing. And as you say, the the script is not good. Fundamental level is embarrassing and not realistic. And it's just it's it's a shame. And I just don't see where the weather films are gonna go from here in order to kind of like save this whole separate franchise field ready doomed to to fail to me. And I just as always sat there thinking, why are we watching marauders sequel prequel every frigging Marolles prequel? It would be great. What hate as just like even just like the young Dumbledore? I don't would be fine. Also might just before we move on. Because we have been talking about this awhile. But my pet hate really was the factor. We see professor mcgonagall an adult whether only in the nineteen twenties or potentially line thirty s when this film is set which would mean that she was like a good twenty years older than we all thought we actually see you're in a flashback to the nineteen hundreds making her a good fifty years old. I like folk for boring complicated reasons. It cannot be like her mother or her grandmother because no, it's definitely her mother was a a witch remarried, and we're going to go. So he can't be the grandmother because she wouldn't be called mcgonagall and the mother lying. We know was not teacher Hogwarts. We just know that like the mcgonigal's role models. So it just doesn't make any sense. It's definitely be professional goal. And she's just like really really old way older than any of us ever imagined. Not dot kind of inconsistency issues for straights. When you bought, and it's also unnecessary as well that is so unnecessary. Like, she's only in it for like, two seconds. And it's it's meant to be just like a really minor in joke. And it's great wanna see characters like McDonald's. That's the whole point of doing a prequel in a world that, you know, in love to like see the teachers that, you know, in love in the school that you know in love, it was great. I don't actually have a problem with being there. It's just like if you're asking us to invest in seven books and eight movies and another five movies and a four free in our long play. Like, the details do matter because we spent so much money and time on this. And we don't want to say that thinking, we know more about it, and the people who wrote it that's just a new being what is interesting to me as I saw a new story about how this has had like the smallest opening weekend of any Harry Potter prized, which is not surprising. But I in a way that gives me a tiny bit of hope because I think we haven't made it on too much. This. I think possibly one of the driving factors behind the problems. We've mentioned is the Harry Potter is now like a multibillion dollar business for Warner Brothers. So if it's not making money, it's not working. Right. So that kind of makes me think that maybe they will stop and think that they should be doing things differently. I've no idea if there's ready the scope to pivot the story tool or like getting you actors, Johnny Depp or do anything, but I just a tiny tiny bit is like, well, if they are seeing this is like a massive product to harvest, and it's not doing that. Perhaps they'll stop and think imagine if they they axed it for the thing. Like, I just actually they call at this point. Yeah, they still have to pay everybody for five films, even if they didn't make five films. Anyway, fantastic beasts, nah, it's enough for me. Not fantastic too. So next we're gonna talk about click, which is a BBC three drama focusing on students are Edinburgh University. It starts Senova Carson as Holly McStay. He in the first series and up as part of an elite group of attractive young women who were involved in a dark financial scandal. Now in his second year at the start of series to Holly becomes interested in a close knit group of young men. He seemed to have a political agenda. Yeah. I loved about the first series of click was it seemed like it was going to be this kind of dark sexy thriller about kind of entitled rich at knbr students getting into kind of scandals t big for them. And it was that definitely was that. But it was also this kind of weird political take-down of like corporate lean in feminism where they were all encouraged to run with the wolves. And like be like the men in these big businesses and like ended up just kind of being completely damaged by experience. And it was show. Known how limited that dot concept of feminism is and how it can really let down the women who are in the heart of our problem. And I thought that was great and like the kind of feminist icon at the center of it was like really humbled by the wholesale by the end of the series. She's really humbled embarrassed five the rhetoric that she's been teaching. And so it was kind of like a very left wing message. It wasn't an anti feminism message. It was a anti kind of kind of like centrist feminism that doesn't go far enough. Yeah. Like kind of tedtalk feminism. Yeah. Lean in feminism corporate feminism, whatever you wanna call it. And this series is also the first series was just like absurd. And there was like a big serial killer reveal at the end like in an obsessive childhood friendship comeback to by someone. Like, it also did all these kind of absurd. Sensationalist exit wasn't totally just this kind of like very rational and piercing social commentary, but the second series kind of starts for in Holly second year of. Diversity the kind of click of beautiful women that she was once a Nahmad with has now dispersed, and instead she's kind of charmed by this click of young kind of right wing or if not right wing, then kind of like reactionary young men who refused to go along with the Ernest liberal left-wing student politics that is going on around editor university, and they're running kind of like right wing websites somewhere between like Breitbart and the tab like a kind of unilateral with more right wing, take on campus culture. And the kind of crux is that Holly's quite entranced by these boys. Even she kind of hates everything they stand for. And when one of her housemates who she finds a little bit too much, and too honest, and too left wing, and I think of it she potentially when one of her flatmates accuses one of these boys of sexual assaults. That's kind of like the big event of the whole series is Raymond around. So it's obviously doing a very similar thing of like big drama centered around kind of contemporary political debates all like at least undercurrent of that. And it's kind of a really risky thing to do. I think because this girl who's called Raina either Rayner is telling the truth and this guy Jack sexually assaulted time. Which case all of the tension of the entire series, just evaporates nothing. Yes, she's lawyering. And or mistaken. And in some way, and that kind of sense of potentially very dangerous message about stereotypes about women, and why women if women lie about sexual assaults and how you know, it would probably be for personal gate or something like that. You know that that's where it's basically dropped like a massive control bomb right in the middle of his first episode already. So I'm really kind of intrigued and a little bit wary of where this is going to go. Yeah. I feel like I always through the first series. I kind of watched click slightly between my fingers not because I I find the violent scary or anything like that. But just because I find some of its ideas, potentially terrifying in a way, and I felt I've only watched the first episode of series two so far there will rule on I play a role. They didn't weekly the week this this about to be a third third on Sunday. So we've just from one come out on Sunday. I've watched three just because. I have that power. As critic. Yes. In the first the first one, there's this big set piece quite early on in the episode where it's like, a kind of town hall meeting within the university, and a sort of old white man academic is trying to address people's concerns about safe spaces and all these passionate young women getting up and saying that speech, and then these young men who all very well dressed in have teeth, bones and stuff, do this stump where they release all these like snowflake confetti onto the audience, and they film it, and it's very obviously like snowflakes, and they film it for that right wing website. And they think is hilarious and AO was like, wow, the BBC actually put this on TV. Oh, thought they would be far too worried about backlash reactions to actually show this and then be by thoughts, Ron Oso. There must be some definite moral conclusion for them to feel okay? About showing this. They must feel that the series comes to. A good place by the end. Yeah. If you know, they must really like they also the sexual assault question in a positive way. They must feel like they do. Yeah. I'm really related. They wouldn't run this. And I don't know what that answer is exactly why I'm struggling because. Yeah. I mean, I've watched other things someone competitor to national treasure where you'll be like. Okay. Well, the answer has to be that the seemingly bad guy is seeming back guy because otherwise this is too risky apprentice. Yes, he put to an audience on it, potentially spreads. 'cause you know, like, I actually find it really discomforting whenever in any plotline woman is about sexual assault or like beer. South up or anything like which does happen? A lot still in like, I'm not just gone go. But I saw the other day where Emma stone like beats up her own face with a book to get sympathy from someone even little things that make me really like, ooh, you'll buying into an article about women that isn't actually real less. Not that. But then again fiction is meant fiction. I I agree with you. I just I'm really interested to see where it goes. Because right now, I don't think that the conclusion of this show is going to be oh, she was telling the truth all along. This guy was just a really bad guy. It just it just has. I don't think it's just going to be that she's lying. If is then that's going to be quite came about. I don't imagine. It's going to go that way. Though, there the creator just Britain has said a lot about how she's worried about how it's going to be received. And she wants me that this is this show is not meant to be a statement of her personal politics, and blah, blah, blah, which means it going to go because like for me, even if it's a case of for example, mistaken identity, we know from the cavenaugh case, the mistaken identity claims can be wielded in a really kind of like women way and be really kind of like used to discredit victims. You know, the the whole narrative of the cavenaugh case was I believe this woman was sexually assaulted, but no by me, and that's really not can be ready dangerously. So I'm just interested in like little things like, for example, the portrayal of. Left wing campus culture in this for in the first episode there were moments that really actually made me like, ooh, this is a bit exaggerated, for example, video of students saying that they think God bless you is a micro Russian yet. It's just parody want. You can find example of someone saying not. But it's not Representative of what what most young left wing students, actually think and believe I don't think. Yeah. That was my impression of it is that I know there's been this persistent problem in the last two or three years particularly in Britain. I think longer in America of like right wing commentators being like, it's terrible. The no platforming snowflake culture is ruining education and debate in free speech in this country. And then when someone says like can you find out any real examples of this actually happening, they all they can? But it's annoying because you can always find such extreme examples on either side if the left and right and then represented him like actual movements or free. Say said that kind of frustration me a little bit in the show. But then also that was how the first season kind of worked with that. I would watch this supposedly feminist character telling her young girls to lean it, and I'd be like this bollocks. This is actually anti-feminist. I hate this. And then the show was like, yeah. We know the show knew that. And that's what we're trying to say. Yeah, that's why I'm still working because I in the first series. It did go over and above my expectations in terms of how south lit was. But I I don't know. I just feel with what I've seen so far. I don't know how it can do that threes tambi series. The actually excites me that I don't know which how it can possibly resolve itself in and maybe it will completely catastrophically fail. I'm excited to see how it fails. If that's true because like interesting piece of TV, so far, and I don't wanna sound like I think this is kind of an. I don't know the most incredibly perceptive program that's been on TV and years because it is still at times risible and ridiculous and sensational and kind of like it's kind of like really really glossy soap opera or melodrama. It's just like a kind of like prestige finish on it. Which is great. I I had someone describe it. I think when the festivals came out as a cross between skins and gossip girl. Yeah. And I think there is sometimes something of Housego a better like feels quite expensive for BBC three program. Looks really good the dialogue. I quite like the characters are kind of like, unlikable, and moody and difficult to grapple with. And so, yeah, I think although it's not necessarily like super prestige television. I actually really liked it. And I even as I kind of disagree with it. I'm like where you're gonna go next. Oh, this is unpredictable. I like it. So we'll see. Yeah. To watch definitely. So last week I recommended to Anna that she give the NBC's. Netflix comedy great news ago, which is written by Tracy Whitfield and executive produced by Tina Fey and Robert Kadok who you'll know that work from thirty rock, and they'll break commitment and stuff like that. So Anna, how did you get on with this? I really liked says those also. One hundred percent on board on on board that it was making yours like getting laughs out of me. And then there was one line morose. I for this show where the mother character says the door to character, let spunk of work for the day. Let's go see that Nancy Meyers movie where Chris Hemsworth builds a gazebo, then Mary's one hundred year old woman. Jake that is such such an up by St. joke. I like rewound it my boyfriend in the room who loves Nancy Meyers. He's not rewound it at night play Jake for him. And he was like a good joke. We should say what this is actually about race. So it set in a fictional TV newsroom of show called the break down. The main character is Katie who is a producer on said show and at the beginning of the festival, she's kind of struggling work, but she's been there for years, but she doesn't feel like she's getting the recognition from her male bosses. She's not being given the opportunity she thinks she should get. And she seems to have a very very close relationship with her mum who she's on the phone all the time. And she tells her everything about work, and then one day her mom just tons up at work and like surprise, I've just decided to go back to college together degree in TV journalism, and I'm here doing internship. It'll be Paul. My costs. So I work here. Now much like the premise of the Nancy miles movie. The intern. Which we also come. Which over the narrow become an older intern in a young workplace. So the mother Terry becomes an older intern in this quite young workplace, and it's also bar mother-daughter negotiating kind of work purse down and figuring out how to work together at work, and like the plots are kind of ridiculous, right? There's lots of like city like plots involve Katie going off to report on a bad that might mall her today and her mother, it's a really stupid TV show. We should mention it's not like people who like me despite its proper Matic contents. Don't like the sole control the newsroom in that show. They are he's pretending to make like a serious news program. Whereas this the breakdown seems to be almost exclusively made up of stuff on other shows would be like an finally a hilarious like serial killers dogs doing tricks. Yes. It is. Really silly. I yeah, I really like it. And it's one of those shows where I think the the best jokes are not in the kind of like plot. And the story it's little alike, you know, just really funny commentary, and obviously there is a lot of kind of like media commentary as in like the Iraq and stuff because of the central premise of it being in a kind of broadcast news office. So yeah, I really I really liked. It's definitely at you say it was like a twenty minute lunch watch or something. I think you described out. That's exactly what it is is for me, absolutely, fills the gap in my life with her. He wrote walls where I used to watch thirty rock for like doing cleaning, and that kind of stuff and yet still occasionally thirty rock would come out with a line over joke that like I'm still thinking about today, and I feel like great news has the same. Like, for instance, is is even in the very first episode of thirty Roque where the Jack Donaghy Alec Baldwin. Character is wearing a tux in his office. And it still light outside Tina Fey skirt committed says like why you era docs, and he just looks at her goes it's off to six what am I former? Some reason that line just resonates with me and every time like entitled push person says something to me that's a bit like that. That's what plays in my head. That's why I feel great niece has. It's like, it's a good relaxing. Worked doesn't take up too much time. Every so often it will just like suddenly piss you with a really great moment of. Yeah. It's definitely for fans of Iraq, the good place. Crazy girlfriends, basically stuff I like if you like stuff, I like you will. Yeah. I really liked. I definitely is definitely something that I would watch with like an enormous bowl of pastor when I'm having a break from that's where I would put it in my life. So this is the part where we normally say what we're going to recommend each other for next exempts, except we're not gonna do that. Because there is another prop of normal for my episode of seriously. And now I feel confused about how we end this put coast anymore recommends in my life, but you'll just have to watch that me instead. Yeah. Yeah. Do anything on a deadline? So that I have. This. I'm no, I'm not going to one of the really great things about seriously has been you know, in the spring when all of that I Oscar bait movies come out. I actually go and see them all because we're gonna talk about them on seriously, and I want to engage with what's happening in like film Twitter for two months. I'm just not going to do that. Now, I have a Costa Burton literally reruns of Gilmore girls for me from here on out. Yeah. That's it. I'm just gonna be watching thirty rock on my final recommend seriously listeners to watch last week tights this week fights will maybe last week fights times the second remember, which we around is which is my favorite one of my favorite Gilmore, girls episodes or teach me tonight, which is also one of my favorite Gilmore, girls episodes, all the fridge dinner, which is also want to win. Rectified on off switch. Just interview to seriously he could go away watching old festive Jogos episodes of that would bring that would bring me joy. And then just Email us explaining all, your emails and say what you think is the best ever episode of Gilmore girls. I would like that. But don't say they should go most because that's banned as an answer because it's to stay everyone always says, it's actually not like noise. No bonna. But otherwise. Yeah. I would like to Email him your favorite Gilmore girls episode with with an elaborate description of why the plot and structure makes it so good and Caroline, what do you want some lady detective story recommendations? Yeah, I won't people who have read the dirty as stories that are not about to whimsey there about her secondary detective Montague egg. I wanna talk to those people because there aren't very many of those people in the world, and I need to find them somehow, maybe maybe create more just by saying they'll just like go away and read it and spring into the you know, how Agatha Christie. Headlight hercule. Poirot miss marple and Parker pine and like a few different detective characters because she's ready Fabre's all of her ones are still mostly quite read today. Whereas almost all other is they have like one detective who became the one every right about. And then almost nobody reads this stuff about like other around him detective, they invented and I really like Montague egg. I think he's really good. He's I know he's and he's a traveling salesman in the nineteen twenties. He goes to selling like wine, fine wines and spirits to people, and he solves all crimes through maxims. He's learned from something called the salesman's handbook which rhymes everything is in rhyming guys. Incredible Montague there may Monte goo hyphen egg. No montague. Name is Edgar. A no one of comments on this like all of the police inspectors. He works with stuff, very seriously, like scientific assistance, Mr. eg. I just find this really funny and would like to me other people. He will say good company we have to end this focused now, it's been really long. But I know. Yeah, it's it's goodbye for me. Is goodbye Morris hotel. I'm taking a little university. And we have my upset coming. We will speak to you next week about christmasy things. Boop.
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It's a fever while yet there's Even I had to pay. So. but a small, very small depend one that you choose. And I wanted to do others but I'm GonNa do the long vacation I don't WanNa do the shortest show one. So. But. Probably, want to run my vacate my victory give away a few weeks. Diffa fans listening to the show citizens listen to the show. Like I said the problem is it's a one day thing though you just fleet into, you know you to have a payment on my dad because you let the spire. Well then no problem just a email me hey, the the the certificate aspired already on me. And I'll just give you another one. No biggie no problem. And or online at. So Some I first class will be put in soon I'm just trying to wait till all down because I was trying to do. I've already recorded the first part of the class. Okay a recorded introduction four corded. Ware to record recorded podcast. It's a little short class because this little basic stuff. And then I was trying to do applications for. 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Fund on my birthday week I mean come on after all this travesty we've been having. Really. But my statement is coming back. I. Got. I got a class. preparing. Then I'm getting, ready to sail. I got an incentive also that anybody that by for my business or inquires about. It my business either travel or or making money from home or listening to the ball cat. You know I'll probably be the only podcast that will give away vacation incentive to sit within who listen to the Bar Cath-. I mean, how cool would that be you know Stan down you know? PODCAST that will stand out with like what? The podcast is that giveaway We check this out. Though I am a travel agent hello. Well, I was the up to date on crazy pandemic. No, but I'm coming back. Because I did I I. And I had the renew but nonetheless, so I did my class or part of the class. I'll blow con now because it's like. It was crazy. Miss. A part of the date was warm part of the day was. 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Believing in Yourself is not Weird
"Welcome to the hello lovely podcast with Christy Williams ear I cannot wait to teach you how to be your authentic self, so you can live a life. You love without beating yourself up and feeling stunned so hang out with me and I'll show you exactly how to do that. Let's get started. Hello Beautiful, ladies. I am so pumped for this week's episode before we get started on believing in yourself is not weird. I wanted to shout out to all the ladies that are in the thirty days of success group right now. I have a private group that I'm offering on facebook right now. That is called thirty days of success where we are celebrating every single milestone towards reaching our results within thirty days. We started on July fifteenth. But it's not too late. If you WANNA, come in there and start celebrating with us and get a jump start on your goals. You are welcome to join us just search for thirty days of success on facebook. You'll see that group. You can click to apply. Invite you in. But we are just having so much fun in there. Celebrating and I just wanted to give them all a what what? So proud of them for going after their goals and so excited for them, so keep up the good work. Ladies and we hope to see you in there. Please come join us if you have some results, you WANNA create August fifteenth. Now let's talk about believing in yourself. This is so. Hard for some of us. It's like believing in yourself That's weird. And that's why I have titled This podcast. Believing in yourself is not weird. Before when I thought that really believing in yourself was weird. I would just hear this phrase believe in yourself. It just seemed so who and I didn't really pay attention to what it meant. I just heard it and shrugged it off as ridiculous. I've just been totally honest here, you guys. And this is why I want to teach you how valuable it is to believe in yourself. Really this tool this concept. This action of believing in yourself is so valuable and it's going to help you a lot. And it's important to know that it's not weird because it is something that you can use to fuel you. I'M GONNA SPLAINE. More about that in the episode today. And, I'm sure that in yourself does mean different things to different people. How GonNA define it. Today is how I've seen it and how I use this concept in tool. In my own life, and how I encourage my clients to do it as well. So. I really define believing in yourself as an action. And what you believe about yourself really comes down to. The thoughts that you think about yourself. So it is that simple what you believe about yourself believing in yourself? Are the thoughts that you think about yourself. So this is the kicker. Guys if you think it's impossible. Or hard to believe in yourself. You're already doing it. Yes. You're already thinking thoughts about yourself, and that's really what believing in yourself means. It's I fought that you think about yourself as it pertains to your ability in your, what's possible for you and your actions and results and everything like what you believe about yourself now. So thought you think about yourself right now might be i. don't believe it's possible to follow through, or it's hard for me to reach goals. But, guys, that's still. Believing in yourself. It's just believing that you can't do it. So. Here's what some of those thoughts about. Yourself might look like. They could be sneaky. But I really WanNa like pull these out to show just how simple the action of believing in yourself whether you believe you can't or you believe you can't. Really is. So, some of those thoughts might look like I can't do it. I won't stick with it. It's hard for me. And something's missing. Like about me. About my ability or about what I know? And sometimes what we believe about ourselves as woven in sneakily with other people, when it comes to what we think, and those might sound like this. They are smarter than me. It's easy for them. They may have connections. I'm not as good. As they are or I'm not as good at it I to some skill as they are. Did you see how sneaky those are like? Our brain is like trying to get away with something. Our brain is trying to say it's someone else. Or. Somebody else is the reason why we can't feel good about ourselves, but really it's still comes back to that belief about ourselves like those thoughts about ourselves, so I'm GonNa be interchanging belief about ourselves and thoughts about ourselves through this whole episode. They're really the same thing. So whichever one connects with you feel free to use it. It's fine. But believing in yourself, it's not weird like this is what we're doing every day. We're thinking thoughts about ourselves. So when you take a step back to see how some of those sample thoughts I just gave you. Impact your view of yourself. You can see how they really have created this belief about you that you can't or don't have the ability to follow through with your goals or reach your goals. So, we're all already. Ourselves at some level something. We're believing about ourselves, so my question to you is if you're going to be thinking and believing about yourself. Anyway. What do you want to choose to on purpose about yourself? And why does that matter? Because a lot of the thoughts we have about ourselves are so routine. It might feel like we're at the mercy of them, and we can't change them. They're just automatic and we just feel so negative maybe about ourselves. But! The great news is that you can totally change what you choose to think about yourself. You can totally change what you think about yourself like. This is so important to know. You didn't know this. I want you to know this right now. You can absolutely choose to change. What you think about yourself so the difference. Is what you think about yourself. Will change how you feel about yourself, so if you're not feeling confident right now, or you feel like. On the most part you kind of beat yourself up. It's not because of your ability. I wonder if he. If you're not feeling confident. It's not because of your ability. And it's not even because of your experience. It's because of what you are thinking about yourself. So, let's practice this just to kind of separated out just a weekend kind of see in have. A sample to practice. JUST GONNA use a couple simple thoughts here, but you can interchange these with things that you know that you already think about yourself k., so let's start with this one when you think. I'm not good enough. How do you feel? Maybe, it's a feeling of unworthy. Or insecure. Or maybe when you think, I'm not good enough. You feel embarrassed. Okay so that's one so like when we think thought I'm not good enough. It affects how we feel. We feel insecure embarrass. Unworthy whatever it is for you. But when you think. I can do this or when you think. I'm following through on this. No matter what. How do you feel? It just shift. It's a little bit of a shift like it may not be excited, but it's a shift. So when you think on following through on this, no matter what or I can do this. You may feel open. You may feel hopeful you may even feel confident. You might feel focused or committed. But notice the shift. Like nothing has actually even changed in these few minutes like we're still listening to the PODCAST. So the circumstance where the circumstance urine right now hasn't changed. But what you feel about, yourself can shift even if that feels very small. Or very temporary when you do this practice. It shows that there is a shift in what you feel emotionally. Your thoughts and that's all. I, want to introduce you to right here. because. That's very empowering. So, this is the question. How do you start believing in yourself to follow through on what you really want accomplish, or how do you start just believing in yourself that you have ability, or how do you start believing in yourself differently from how you do now? You intentionally choose thoughts that fuel you. So I want you to think about choosing thoughts. In a similar way as how an athlete chooses. How to eat food. Okay so think about the athlete, maybe even an Olympia. They can eat. Anything they want. They literally have the freedom to choose food. And put it on their plate and eat. It doesn't matter what it is. They have the freedom to say. I want to eat a cookie I. WANNA donut. I can eat. A milkshake could eat a steak. But they filter. Their selections. How do they filter their selections right? Because they have the ability like they really have the ability, they could be eating whatever. But they're thinking about which ones are going to fuel them to get their results. So. Thinking about this athlete. Maybe it's easier. For them to go through the drive through. Like maybe it feels easier to eat. Whatever everyone else's eating like when they're at home in their family or maybe when they're with their friends. Feels easier to eat. What everybody else's eating? But the athlete? This Olympia is choosing their food items to fuel them for their results. It's not always the automatic. Easiest choice. So. It's the same when it comes to choosing thoughts. It might be easier to keep thinking you can't do it. But. Is that fueling you? Okay, so, what is the upside for you? To, keep thinking, something is missing about you or that. It's not possible for you or that you can't. I. Want You to question if that's even the easier choice. Is it actually easier? To think those things about yourself. It's painful. It's actually painful to think about yourself so. It's not even that it's easier. It might just be automatic. Okay, so that is totally okay. Right because as humans like our brains. They WANNA go there they want to. Throw up all of these thoughts that we can't. So that's okay. But I'm going to teach you how you can start thinking new thoughts about yourself or start believing in yourself to fuel you right because who is thinking these thoughts? itchy. And who is feeling the impact of these thoughts. It you. So. Why not choose ones that fuel you? Yes girl okay. So I'm going to teach you how to do that. The thing is you can't just start sputtering thoughts. That sounds beautiful that you don't believe yet. Brain is very smart and it will just shut you down. So you don't want to just pick something pretty sounding like this thought that just sounds beautiful, lovely and not validate that it actually works for you. So for example, it may sound nice to think. All never doubt myself again. Sounds so nice, yeah! But when you think it, your brains like that is. And you feel doubt which is so funny because the thought is I'll never doubt myself again and when you ask yourself, how do I feel? When I think the thought will never doubt myself again. I feel doubt. So that's not gonNA fuel you. So remember what you think about. Yourself is going to affect how you feel about yourself, so you want to test it out. And you validate how it feels pay, so if you really don't WanNa doubt yourself as much, but you can't really start there with that thought. I'll never doubt myself again. Like if it doesn't feel, trudy doesn't connect with you. Then you could start with something like this. Doubting myself is part of being human and that's. Okay. I'm learning to be a woman. Who Cares about herself? I'm learning to stop beating myself up. Notice, with those that again it's a shift. It may not go from doubt too excited. That is okay. We're just validating that it gives you a shift and enough of a shift where it's more of a positive feeling about yourself. Because it's so important to validate, it's going to you feel i. you've already got thoughts that you think about yourself. That make you feel terrible. You don't need more of those, so if you're going to be adding new thoughts that you're choosing to think he won validate, they make you feel an emotion that fuels U.. K. So if that emotion is not fueling you when you're practicing a thought to think, don't pick that one. You can choose a different one. It's also extremely valuable in this practice to see. What you already believe in think about yourself, because remember you're already believing in yourself now even if you don't think you are. And you want to see what you are thinking about yourself before. You kinda just jump into thinking new things about yourself. This is so valuable, but I'm not gonNA play you guys. This is hard work. But it is so. Worth it. I like to describe this as an exclusive interview. With yourself. You're having an interview with yourself, but it's private. It's exclusive and it's on your terms. So if you had the privilege of an exclusive interview with someone. He really wanted to know what they were thinking about. Something because it's so valuable, and it was going to help you and fuel you. And move you forward and help you reach your goals. You wouldn't force anything out of that. You would be listening. And you would be patient. So to help you with this I made a tool that I want you to have. It's called an interview with yourself, and it's free guide. It's a worksheet that helps you see what you currently think and believe about yourself. And I'll go ahead and put it in the show notes, but you can go and grab it at Miss Christie Williams. Dot Com forward. Slash interview worksheet. There's no ashes in there. Just forward slash interview worksheet. It so. I included instructions on the worksheet how to use it? It's very simple, and it's designed to help you find what you think about yourself now. And it's so so important because what we think about ourselves. Really affects all of our relationships. With ourselves is a filter for all other relationships and everything that we're doing so it's helpful to see what it is rethinking. And it's almost like a little magnifying glass to discover why we have current habits, because if we have current habits, and we know what we're thinking about our cells, we can change those, and that's really where progress comes as change comes as where lasting long term changes come the changes you WANNA. Make in the goals that you wanNA reach. And this practice has helped. Women really find out. What they're thinking about themselves and things that they had no idea. That usually what you discover, an exclusive interview is something very personable and valuable. And as soon as you can see those thoughts that you have about yourself. You can decide if you want to change them. Because remember, they are at choice. And I'll give you the instructions in now worksheet. On how to get started with that too on how to create the new thoughts of what you WanNa, think about yourself. So to wrap it up. Believing in yourself is not weird. We are already. All doing it. So. Why not intentionally decide what you want to think about yourself and believe about yourself, so you can create the results you really want to. Create. And feel better emotionally. On purpose. Like how to do that knowing how to reach your goals in knowing how to stop beating yourself up and how to feel genuine confidence, you can really discover how to do that by seeing what you already think about yourself. And deciding what you want to start thinking about yourself to feel you, that's really what I want for all of you. Is when you believe in. You stop beating yourself up. And you have so much more energy to reach those goals. And help others even more. And I know if you're listening to this podcast. That's important to you. You want to feel better about yourself, but you also are driven to help others right, and you can have the energy to do it and the confidence the genuine confidence. To be able to do that. When you know what you think about yourself when you know what you believe about yourself. It's so empowering. So. Go Snag Your worksheet. If this connects and resonates with you and you want to start believing new things about yourself. Why wouldn't you want to believe? It's possible for you to reach your goals? Okay, I love you all so much and I can't wait to hear what you discover from your exclusive interview. I'll see you guys next week. Hey. You're ready to feel genuine competence. I! Invite you to work with me one on one. I help women manage negative emotions. Stop beating themselves up and live a life they love. Because when you have genuine confidence and have the energy to do what's important to you? And the tools to create new results join me at Miss Christie Williams dot com to find out more. That's Ms. C. H. R. I S. T. E., Williams dot, com and I'll see you inside.
Great News for the New Year
"Welcome to the ninety rant with your hosts bike Antara. This is the show where we examined society from sarcastic point of view. He likened Saint conversations, this is definitely show for you. Let's get into today's topic. We'll happy new year everybody happy Twenty-eight teen is over day. And you believe that its first day of an entirely new year. Not really. A feel like twenty eighteen and it. Hell of a lot better than it. Started. Yeah. I think so do you remember what the ending of twenty seventeen was like, yes. I mean, it was a struggle to get here. We weren't even sure if we place to live pretty much we were this close as he puts his hand, fingers half inch part. Yeah. Now, that's why get upset when people go on and on on house. It's their fault that they were homeless. I mean, if you remember part of what caused all that stress was a client who owes us allow no six thousand dollars back at the beginning of November who didn't pay into long's the end of December. Yeah. How's that our fault? Right. I mean, I get it. You're supposed to plan for that the rest of the year. But when you live client check decline check. When somebody doesn't pay on time. It just it is what it is. I mean, it's shitty. Okay. So this year, we did some things to make sure that that wouldn't happen. Right. Yes. Overly well, definitely worked out better. So what are we going to do in twenty nineteen? For what we did in twenty eighteen. So that next year on this same exact day. We can be like what the maze ING here. Well, you have some exciting plans. Yes. But aren't they we clans not me? Well, they're your work to do to make those plans plans. So first thing we're doing is. We are taking the web scientists and web scientists is turning a holding company. Could buy web scientists ash. So that means confident the website cetera are going to change over pretty quickly actually to holding company. If kind of thing offering up basic information about the business lines that we have right kind of fixture. Seeing the menu of podcasts. Business tech business virtual system business. Nonprofit cetera right at the top. The exciting thing for me is help for the most part. I don't write a lot coaching more, right? Is just aren't that? Getting. I I've been trying to avoid it for probably a good six years, right? Well, what I am really. Because I've done it for so many years is managing people's technology in general, and so we're going to turn me into what should call virtual seat. Yup. Which is a sensually what you like to do. And it means that I get to interface with the client. I've until matters their projects and make sure that development project that developers getting the job done. But I'm going to take it further than that in that I can tell pick out and get installed a phone system. And I can even do things like five client in Chicago. And they're having a phone system installed. And they wanna make sure that it hits done correctly. Maybe they need cabling down there. Whatever I'll fly there, and I'll charge them for my travel. And I will oversee the whole functioning of getting the phone says, he will truly be consultant. Yes, I'm changing and changing life mall here. Interestingly it's kind of funny that I bring their first because the very first thing I plan to blow the fuck up. Miami blow you tripton f-bomb in our non uncensored podcast. So. Oh, well, I mean, we started a your off right with an e. Yes. Episode two hundred and one by the wit apparently two hundred we've been doing to many castes. The year. Mark for our podcast was December six I was the one year inversely we kinda took it easy in December. Really didn't record a lot of episodes. That's because you know, we hired a business consultant, right? And then he took us through some training. Right. And now in the process of executing plan that he gave me. But only four the podcast part over business. So yogis podcast network. He's going to blow hot to the marketplace. And the idea is to tell your friends is yet. Shows one is network. So like, I would like to see his podcast one where we're Hughes. People wanted to pay us to be on the network when all you people that keep reaching out to us on Instagram saying you want to be in the network, truly send us an Email. We would love to have you on the network because now's the time. Right. But I'm busy creating on. I'm writing some really long content repurposing all sorts of fun stuff with this content, and it's time consuming, and there's you. In the last week grab just wanted to throw in the towel because it's so time consuming like I could write twelve sometimes sick. You're right one. Feels kind of burdensome dente keep saying it's worth it. I read something really interesting. So. These guys are marketing experts, and they get paid over ten grand to help people blow their business, right? They they guarantee you twenty times return on your investment right refund. Your money after ninety days if it's not working. That's there that it's going to work and end their little. Pinker that the cave would give him your you. Give you give you. Pretty typical PDF talks about. The thing that separates entrepreneurs who are successful from entrepreneurs who are not is at the store. Successful believe they deserve it. Seem to legit. They took a step further. People have money versus people without money people with money believe they deserve it. Interesting. Good. I know time to light a giant atomic bomb under that then why pushing for has this kept happening because we deserve. And I know are consulted with super super super super, please. Because we met with him on Tuesday by Wednesday out ahead. First pumpkin dumb. Right. He was impressed. You heard him. Tell me on the phone that most people jump right on the bandwagon. Get it, right. Yes. Killed it. So, you know, January eighth is wonderful. So do by January. So. So you watch. Everywhere. The goal will be within my two months when you search for podcasts you're going to find something of ours out there right now, you'll a block post pictures some. So right now really is the time. If you're one of those people who've emailed to get on the network you'll benefit. They may have noticed that. Our intro has changed. Do you like it because I liked it out? Tro has also changed here that the end of the show. And that's kind of to give a new look we won't have ready in time and new image. Eventually they'll be in union Mitch for the show. Yeah. And we've got a lot of different ideas about that. But that's what this shows about people talk about New Year's resolutions. And I don't believe in the users. I'm one person who believes that. If you're gonna changes, why do you have to wait until tomorrow starting out to Niki goal? I understand the people that are only going to die. It started on Sunday. Will he do that because they wanna start getting into a weekly routine doing, but but if I'm going to start keeping it to do list, and I wasn't doing it before I wait until Sunday start to do this. I can do it immediately. Right. Right. And one of those people's why news because there isn't anything magical about beginning of the year of the counter sets January. I mean, that's really the magical thing today is January twenty nineteen. So right. You know, I already started a while back getting into the high-performance habits and using the paper planner or it's not a journalist player using the paper planner writings down, and I said on this show. I feel more intentional about one of doing. I feel like yes, they have all these casts little week. But I'm vision sneaking broken down by day things that must get done. What's the top three? And it's motivating get stuffed up. What good? That's huge mean. I'm going to be spending eighteen hours a day from here on out for a while just glossing block to get this process. That was hot. Out there. And I wish I could give you more details about the process, but we signed an agreement. So we're not going to discuss details. So ice to say. By this time next year, if you put in podcast ninety rant liberty reveal Yogi, Victoria, mice. Put our names at you're going to see so much stuff from us from all different places. Social media people. You're not going to be with your way from us. We're gonna be everywhere. And when you think podcasting you're gonna think about me. Sounds cocky dot for goal domination. Nothing. Short of one hundred per cent, complete and total domination. I like it. I really do. So what the hell are you going to be doing off doing all this taking a nap? I hope not. Oh. Offing keep coughing helpful. I suppose I'm going to build said virtual assistant business into something. As epic is your virtual CTO business. Just haven't decided quite how or what yet. I have the domain name for my virtual. I know you gotta figure out your domain name purchased business. I town and to be honest, we're gonna pull those up this year to podcast. I those are gonna blow up to those things second. Can be great time though, offer get through the Mishel versed that I'm supposed to go through if then I should start life building building continue working on that. But then start one of the second lines. That's not something we should discuss here. This wonder sometimes. All he's ideas, my having super excited because no longer early just ideas. Right. I've been able to put some things down. Kost. What is just in? Two weeks since we had that meeting. It's not even something in that type. It's been ten days. Exactly. So that. Should I just keep fucking going? Anyway, it's been what like two weeks since that meeting. So in that time so much has gotten done, and they're still so much more to but it's fun. It's exciting. I will say the first couple of days felt like for like a chore. Now, it's like fun have time with it. Got to tell you that the I writer story. Okay. So. One of the things were we've been doing for a long time putting out block coast people know that if they paying attention at all there's always a podcast blog that goes out every week. There's a tech blog because weaken as virtual system, and so at the recommendation of business consultant, I I ride dot com. Great site and pay six whole US dollars for five hundred block those and make this deal about how they're all their writers. No SEO every last one. So I decided I want a blockposts written. And I'm not gonna tell you what the what the art content is because you'll find that out seeing up, but let's say that it was. The vision required to launch of hot cast. Example. Okay, we're vision. And so I give him the key word vision in podcasting. Uh-huh. Uh-huh. I get back. Opposed. Says. How did vision in podcasting will make it? So that your viewers can see more of what you're trying to show them. It's an audio podcast looming raise you funny, think radio. But it was funny. What you think? Okay. So you wasted six dollars on that five hundred word post. But did you because I thing I did was I went through and I fixed it so that if I was putting out like just a block host for that topic is ready. I cleaned it up a little bit all of these things that you'd expect hound problem. I fixed, but Dan, I was reading this paragraph doesn't really belong here. Let's let's see we're ten paragraphs to doesn't belong here. It'd be loans this number eight of you move it. Oh, and this it's now I'm down about the ten paragraphs in your ri- want written in the way, I want phrased the way I walk cleaned up words remove who was interesting. I ended up. I started out five hundred words, and I was done during night. Six hundred words already out it twenty percents to the content. Then I started doing some research on the talk of whatever the keywords were. And by doing that. I was like, oh, there's a gap that wasn't covered in his article. Let me throw that in there up two thousand words. That's it just grew like wildfire. Because you essentially got a prompt. Because it was like a starter. You know? It saved me roughly estimates thirty minutes of my time, which Haywood I turn thirty minutes. I might dollar Swiss well-spent. Wessex Wales about it. Yeah. So I did get. But that's another thing. People out. I publishing. Within the first quarter of this year. One book. Business book. I'm even the title. When small business wins America winds as the title of my book. One of them writing and then much to the grin of my businesses. I'm also writing a book about how it went political campaign using social media. I like it and they're both halfway written. I'm going to sit down and get them finished. I did some research and then Hughes this editor called q ten, and it's a distraction for editors opened up just like a white piece of paper with blinking cursor. So they'd have to strap it by all other stuff. That's pretty cool. So I'm sitting here thinking about something you haven't said much about what your plans really figured him out yet. Let's kind of go down that avenue a little bit. Some tips on give people for new year. I think we can safely close out. I at the set of the ninety ramp in the air twenty nineteen. Throw a couple of commercials to before let me. So we did a promotion. Brian's in dot com. By the way, I realize I need to spell out because it's kind of sounds different than it is I am ATM zoo, CO dot com. So I a m z oh dot com like on the okay? Where if you signed up for a month, and he stayed for a second month, whatever subscription level you at for the second month, you got a gift card from Amazon back. Right. So if you're a five dollar level, you got five dollar gift card fear, ten dollars ten seven. Well, you don't even know this. But I'm extending that offer the January. Wow. But I'm gonna wanna up it. Okay. Every single person. Signs up between promotion started in. This is retroactive and the energy injury. Will receive a coupon for copy signed copy of one of material. Do they pick? That's cool. I like it. So. And in the new year, we're going to have. Iraq and your Parkhouse network. Trinkets swag. The term for it. Yeah. That's why you call it a swag bag. When you go to thing like, it's. We're gonna have. Podcast network swag, me Baleno again, and I'll turn you into swag. Your rudimentary clans. I knew you haven't really had a lot of time flush out on this kind of put you on the spot. Well. You really did put me on the spot. You're the worst. I kind of want to have virtual systems instead of being a virtual assistant and work on finding business. So I'm trying to. So I'm trying to come up with a plan on doing that. That's cool. I like that. Yeah. Yeah. That's very forward thinking of you. Yeah. I like it pretty excited. Holy cow. Doesn't really. Technology virtual system. Nonprofit that was right. Yes. On one and I work on three. I don't know. I would have to happen. Is I love the podcast our stuff. Then teach you the ball up virtual assistant stuff. I don't need to be taught. I was there. Yeah. There's things I've learned is I've done I've asked the clarifying questions, then we will filter. Interesting thought this was a week proposition. Now, if we would have been done, right? I just know where a good team. So let's get any other any other future farms get any ideas for some new services, you're gonna offer can without no. All right. I mean that. Everybody in all the virtual assistant groups always says you have to pick the Nisha people you want to work with I have yet to pick the Nisha people. I want to work with. I'm very familiar with the people. I don't want to work with this point. They say that it is a thousand times easier to find customers when you have a niece. Because you know, who who to target, you know, how to communicate with them, and they don't so you to limit yourself to one niche. They say to start with an any kind of like we were trying to how the higher the sales, dude. And he wanted to start with lawyers. Yeah. Start. Pretty much. So here's some here's some tips that I have. Okay. I I. Don't ever Lucians. If you're one of those Lucien people throw them out now scare them. They're ridiculous to get rid of like Mike over here. Start going to the gym on December thirty first because it's a Monday, you don't about that riding Mitchell enough. Reason picking that days because it's on Monday because your workout plan is five days long. The second was on Monday would be starting in the second. Right. The money because we're supposed to be working out. How Monday to Friday. And well, I just think it's funny Monday happens. Monday was the thirty first. So we started on the thirty first. But it was driving nuts before it's still driving him now. 'cause you know, that's the first is by Jared of those resolutions because they're useless Email all make you feel like a failure. A couple of weeks aren't doing what you said were going to do so kicked us into the. But you gotta have goals. Need to make goals ain't gonna take those big goals and break them down. Smaller goals like. For instance, if I wanted to lose a hundred pounds. Yeah. Dungle good goal. But it's dungle because how to some new year. I'd Sestri sick after maybe a year and a half. It could even be line nuts. Okay. How funds right? Yep. The point is it isn't happening tomorrow next week next month. And unfortunately, the way we are human beings. We want that gratification that comes from six at something. And you're just not getting that. When you're waiting goal matters. Does your only goal I'm going to going to lose a hundred pounds twenty times short and long-term goals to break the bigger goal. And smaller goals, that's really really important. And if you think about it, that's actually what this process on going through his doing it has a huge goal. Right. And then there's some pillars that lead to that you go, then there's a whole bunch of little things that lead to fillers. Okay. And the I think people need to be sure they're just break things on the smaller more fight size pieces guy, Brian Tracy, and he's like a self help guru kinda guy, and he wrote a book on time management called eat, the frog he the Franck. Okay. And he explains that, you know, you sit down and there's a giant toad on your death. You're not gonna sit on stuff that you're not. By size pieces. Okay. Same thing. The goal. You set a goal down by places. You don't break vice pieces. You don't get they're giving up because you're not accomplishing anything, but see regular device pieces. You create a roadmap that gets you where you wanna go. Then you're like, okay. Maybe maybe losing a hundred pounds becomes Ivan lose one hundred fluff. It's January first g-g-what. Is it today revert, let's generate person you say by December thirty first I'm is hundred pounds. That's twelve months. Okay. Then maybe down to twenty pounds January thirtieth. Okay. Then I'm going to lose a total of thirty pounds, February twenty doll- how leave to the hundred pounds. What a so many good things for you. It keeps you motivated because you keep let's see you hit every goal. All right. Let's say one of those miss one of the goals. Well, you know, you have just something that you're doing it gives you an opportunity to correct. And one of the tips. They have business owners is. You know? If you don't. He a close eye on the vital factors of your business. Right. Your business will die. Just like when you go to doctor, you take your pulse in your blood pressure and temperature those are vital. Those are vital factors towards your health. Right. Is your vital signs and? Keep those in front of you at all times keep an on looks. You know, make sure that you're meeting your goals the likely found out at the end of the year way too easy, changing did somethings. But then wanna turn out in my opinion. Those things changing if you s they came the things that once we met with business consultant, and he kind of coke that we took two days off, those those were no longer the focus. Right. We get cut. It tells you that instinctively you knew this isn't that important for business right now. Right. It will be important. When it's time. Right. Right. So that's you know, that's tip. I would say make sure that you are what you're doing is intentional. But you're. Here's why you're doing. You're not just doing it because of meals good doing 'cause it's gonna push your business forward. Right. Life for students wouldn't talk about business for you business school. And I'm your junior high high school or college school is your business at your job. And so the same applies if you know you have a test a week from Friday start studying now did he don't have to study as much in one day. Keep being attentional everything you do should drive you towards final find goal. Then the other thing I'd say in nineteen live one of us. I wanna be high quality with everything that I did. So like that one video that I recorded in my told you well, I was able to kinda rescue the sound and make it sound good. But it was trying to act because recorded on high damn phone wasn't high quality. This wasn't. I needed to fix that. He did it. You just have to put out Wally merchandise quality, content quality services quality, everything make quality important rest will happen, right? Then the last thing I'm going to tell you is. This idea of having a niche. It's not about it. You mean dig about it? We chose one of our niches and decided Dr we're gonna try blow pretty much can you imagine? If we were trying to all of them at once he would shoot yourself in the head. What he was teaching us at the beginning. That's kinda what I was expecting. I asked that question straight up that day, and you did. And he told us folks wanting time. Thank god. It's too much to even focus on one at a time. Like, you're having some trouble getting ready. Initial NAMI taking care of the rest of actually thinking about that. By blocking morning on one day and realized that not that terrible freight. Now, I'm going to kind of leave you with this thought process. Okay. Which I got from Gary bainer chart, which is no up. Anything you want to do you're gonna have to put effort into? And that means that you have to do X number of hours worked during a day to get income to pay your bills, you're going to have to do that. But in order to reach your dreams, your goals in your aspirins, the rest of the time is gonna be spent working on this. So he is a great example. Silence. As ninety five job and a half to that job because the job I'll be so how do I get my side hustle? Go straight you work nine to five you come home. You eat any spend time your family and eight clock at night. You sit down and start. We're going side-hustle. Yup. And he said here's thing maybe because of family obligations, you can only do that for nights a week three nights a week. Nothing takes longer to get there. But your moving forward your taking the action in your life to change things for the better. So we're being shamed. By hobby. This episode on January first, but everybody loves a cliche on purpose because we're excited about where we're headed wish whether potential holes in the future popped. Question. Leave that it that it's going to happen. Can happen. Because we all know, it can do you believe it's going. Yes. Exactly. And guess what? What tell you? But I read enough yet. If you don't think you deserve it. You don't believe that? Living with Tony Robbins. We have. Keep that mindset forward and going. Okay. Right. Does that make sense? Yes. Of it. Love it. Well, everybody I wanna tell you that Tori is right. If you wanna be a part of you podcast network. Currently there is no charge for. We also keyword currently pay you for it. What we did for you is we will help master your show. So that sounds good. I'll give tips on better equipment. You might need. I tell you something right now, we sit here we are holding microphones that. I looked up on Amazon. These were these are given to my son as part of his audio engineering stool. Cut. Eleven keep them, but dollars on ads on and the sound has improved on the show. So we started using that my point being if you've got the money for the five hundred dollar microphone, and you have the environment that worked go for you. You know, not everyone this Bill Gates, or you know. We don't have all the money in the world. So we go with what we can go, but thirty nine dollars microphone. Plugged into a hundred dollar quarter is doing the job for us right now. Right. And I'll help people with that hope people figure out with the need to make their show sound better. I'm telling you there, bro. Found his podcast. I can't remember what it's called at this point. He must recording while he's driving in traffic from work to honor. Here's car engine sounds on. The guy's got tons of listeners on a how imagine summit better. Then maybe it's like Garrett being truckers to say the beginning days of social media. Just record a video wherever you are record the video and put it out. No, one cares. If it's polished, and shiny and nice. Well, maybe that's true. Maybe these people that listen to podcasts. They don't give a damn if not polishing nice. I don't know. I like it polish. But if you wanna be on our network, I will help you with that help you get to where you wanna go with your sound. If we need to reedit something sometime, I'll do it with you or for you. It's all part of the helping Geddes this network going. I specifically have a show in mind called it's debatable that I would like to talk to somebody who likes to moderate debates. You like to debate in general might even be a good show for you. And I have a great concept. It's already to go. I even have some guests lined up. That would do it just need a host, and I'm not hosting sorry. Then the big push that I wanted that. I wanted to mention is that fitness freedom, which is on our network. Is going to move to. Once a month. Well, it's always been once a month. But it's been dead for a while. A once a month show, whoever. On the zoo media network. It's going to be a once a week show. Extra. You're gonna have to pay for that won't get released for free. And. I'm gonna talk to you about what I'm doing in the new year, which is carnivore diet yet again back being a meter. So I'm gonna talk to you about how did I feel this house my energy? What did I eat? What did I void? What cravings? Did I have house my feeling, and I'm going to have a place. I don't know yet where it'll probably be on the website where you can ask questions ahead of an episode. And then I can answer those questions on there. Now regular fitness freedom episode, that's free. We'll probably take a lot from that. It might even end up being a compilation pieces from it with some extra stuff done in the dot something that we're going to do. And we've got as Victoria mentioned when I dropped the f bomb at the very beginning. We've got the nightly rant on censored on that network you'd love it. You would love it. And we now have a virtually unlimited supply. Controversial topics that are not going to say where they're coming from. But we have a virtually unlimited supply of these controversial topics. So with that. That's what's happening in the new year. Happy new year everybody, we love all of you. And we're glad you're here. Life even if it's out of distance. We appreciate you if you can head over to dot com. Subscribe you gotta get a free copy of my foot. You're going to get a free second month. You've done a love it. Great content. And you've got bring bring one of my dreams to reality. Which is I can focus on creating amazing pod cots for you. And I can become. Adam could Corolla the second. And I can have six podcasts that I'm on every single week. How that man has time for you. And with that could night everyone. 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