24 Burst results for "Glennon Doyle"

"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

On Being with Krista Tippett

04:19 min | 3 months ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

"Where does that start right. We have to go up river. We're going to do end both all the time where we're going to pull people out of the river but we shows are going to be up river. I'm challenging power and finding out. Who are the people that are benefiting from the people going in the river because also it's very convenient for power to have women only pulling people out of the river right. It's actually a really good freaking system for them. Because then they continue with all of the inequality and they don't have to even deal with the drowning people because we're all right so i just want to spend the rest of my life pulling people out of the river and also just creating living hell for the people that are pushing. This is new day in the life of tired by eight. Am every day we up. And i'm like coffee. this patriarch. he's not gonna smash itself get up. We're not joking. So let's that's in the room. And what i also want to just pick up on just moving back. A little bit is what you're doing by saying you can only twenty five dollars is also helping people not feel paralyzed. Because i've ever heard here years ago interview. Joan halifax wonderful buddhist teacher. She talked about how she didn't think she like this language. A compassion fatigue although it certainly i mean we know we all know what she's talking about. She said she says she's not such thing. As pathological empathy because in fact we get surrounded and inundated and bombarded by images that break our hearts. So many of us i think. And it's not that we don't care it's that we were overwhelmed by how much we care and we have no idea what we can do to make it better. So that's also what you're describing and then and then okay so but but we do need a different kind of courage that we don't possess in that our public life doesn't nourish right now to hold that question and walk with it and to turn heartbreak into action nia. There's something you on the day that the on the day around the white house's muslim travel ban because you've also gotten involved you got really involved in the compassion. Collective got involved in children being separated from their families at the border. But i was really struck with. I can't remember where he read that. Somebody was writing about you and so this is the way we do things right in it. She sits crosslegged on her kitchen floor. A corona of golden curls around her head. This is what we do with women who are serving and you said but these. This is so powerful issues like refugee care. Ken seem so overwhelming. You were saying this to your people which is million people or so. But we're going to do this thing that i learned when i first got sober. We're just going to do the next right thing together. And that's what we're not stopping to say to ourselves and say to each other and i think the this idea of compassion fatigue or or despair. What i really notice. Is that the people who complain about despair. So much are the people who aren't doing anything. Because what i feel is broken heart a lot of the time but when i do a little thing when i just do something. There's something else that happens. It's not despair. I know it's a little bit of hope. It's that idea of like we cannot keep the fact that we can't do everything to keep us from doing something you do that little thing and then you feel more awaken alive and connected you know so many people at the time were saying this beautiful mister rogers mister rogers. Have you guys seen the documentary. I started watching it on the plane. A good thing to watch on the plane..

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

On Being with Krista Tippett

08:44 min | 3 months ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

"I think i wanna go to something. That might seem unexpected in this room because obviously we could talk about women. But i think when they even talking about recently is raising a boy in this world and i do think for so many of us. This realization has come that it doesn't get better for women if we don't make better men and that certain girls certain kinds of girls the girls we're raising in this room and you get a lot of support. I mean not girls but you would utah shower story you guys so i went into. Mike is my one of my daughters steals my shampoo all the time because my her cheap shampoo and i have nice shampoo so she steals it. We have this war going on back and forth at the shower. So i went to her shower one day and she shares with my son and my other daughter and i went to shower and the girl. My girl stuff is lined up on one side of the shower. My boy stuff is lined up on the other. So of course my girls bottles of shampoo and pink and purple and slender and tall. Look over at my son's and they're all red white and blue and patriotic and very thick and big. And i thought this is interesting right away. So pick one of my son's body wash and you guys i swear to you that it said this three times stronger than any other soap. This will body slam discuss like. It was just word afterward after militant dangerous violent word till i was like. Oh are we preparing for war or cleaning ourselves right so and then i pick up the girls bottle. And it's just like wispy words that are all disconnected from each other like elegant light Delicate breezy like just like random things. I guess we're supposed to be but like don't make any sentences or sense. And i just thought oh this is so interesting and then i thought oh we before our kids even get out of the shower. We are already telling them how to lose most of their humanity and fit themselves into these little categories of masculinity or femininity. Right before we even they even get out of the shower and it made me think something about seeing that on my boys bottles. I became believing when i was ten years old. I've been fighting toxic messages of toxic femininity my entire life. So when i had these little girls you know the second they were born i was holding them. Just like you can be anything. You know being greek age like i love your anger. Whatever just china raise these fierce curls and it hit me like. I haven't been whispering that stuff to my little boy. I haven't been saying to him. You can be other things than angry. You can be vulnerable like you can cry. You can be soft. You can be gentle. I think i'll god like of course he's been learning just as many dehumanizing messages about what it means to be boy in this world is my girls have right and we wonder why our little boys you know that they. It is just as dangerous to tell a little boy that he can only be angry as it is to tell a little girl that she can never be ingredient right and we wonder why you know every message we send to. Our boys is that in order to be a real man. You have to be really rich and you have to be famous and you have to conquer women and you have to be utterly invulnerable and then we wonder why are men can only talk about sports and news and weather and nothing else right. The poor guys. I mean we talk about it a lot like it must be so lonely to the man still right. It's shocking that this is still that they're so all these messages and you've walked into parenting boy. It's been fun. Yeah instruments the revelation for you. Because you kind of walked into the middle of a boy's life and he's a teenager right. Yeah and it's different. You know why i met chase. He was thirteen may be going on. Fourteen girls were a little bit younger. Twelve and Eight maybe eleven and eight years old. And i think that because he was a little bit older a little bit more baked in terms of his maturity You kind of have to process with a boy differently on some level. He wants to stay little bit more to himself. He's studying more for school. But we talk a ton about how we don't want him to feel dehumanized or living among you know a bunch of women so you know there's times where this is a truth. Sometimes i've found when i first got into the family. I found that glenn was more apt to push the girls to do. Some of the house chores can't believe you're saying this. We're going to have so many times. And i would be like why don't we. Why doesn't chase have to do the dishes. And she's like you know what. I think you're right to we've come down. We're like chase. You need to do the dishes. Even though you have homework to do like you have to do what has been quote. Unquote historically a feminine job. A role of a of a woman in the house. we wanna make sure that that that's an equal shared chore for for chase. So that he doesn't feel left out. I was naked reframing. Wonder if you would tell this story that you told when you i believe gave the commencement speech at barnard to set right that when you're retired and we never got to talk about what it's like retired near thirty eight. Okay now. The next time your sponsor gatorade surprise at a meeting with the plan for your sendoff commercial and that the message was forget me Which made you really happy. I went in there. And i've done work with gatorade for my whole career been gatorade athlete at the time for I guess it was fifteen years. And so when i walked in the offices and they sat me down and they showed me that they were gonna make this commercial. That was gonna be my commercial my retirement commercial first of all. I was very like honored. You know it feels like rarified air to be The athlete for campaign for gatorade and then the messaging that they wanted to get across to the consumer was this. Forget me idea and for me. I know that sounds so bizarre. Because most athletes are like egomaniac. Some crazy you know into themselves. But i really feel deeply that the legacy i wanted to leave is making sure that i am leaving the sport better than i found it and so often i hold the record for most goals scored for any person on the planet and any gender guys and and so people ask me all the time. There's this actually this woman from canada christine sinclair that. Yes she she will likely break my record within the next twelve months and don't say anything because she's she's like no. I don't wanna bring your record. But the reality and the truth is and i really. I really do believe this that especially women. We are here to keep pushing each other and if somebody breaks record that means the game is better. That means the game is growing. That means other people are achieving greater bigger heights than me and that is the kind of legacy that i can actually wrap my mind around And you can't find success unless you are willing to let it go when it's over. I'm krista tippett and this is being in bead. Christine sinclair did break abby. Wambach record after this conversation. I had with her and her wife glennon doyle and i feel it coming from really different directions. Two of us really kindred language. I mean you talk about that. We need to champion each other and lenin us loan assisting each other..

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

On Being with Krista Tippett

03:09 min | 3 months ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

"And And there's a line in there where you're describing just like two weeks after your retirement which was just the height of being celebrated and you have a sentence in there you're speaking to yourself. You are barely brave enough to leave your hotel room. You know when you spend over a decade in in a spotlight in one way or another. Our national team gained popularity Nineteen ninety nine when our team won the world cup and brandy chastain ripped off her jersey. I wasn't on the team then. But i got there a few years later. One couple olympic gold medals. And then finish off my career winning the world cup in two thousand fifteen and i retired a few months later and so you have certain levels. I had certain levels inside of me that i could go and train. And and i can compartmentalize the fame You know i always said that. We had like a perfect amount of fame on the women's national team because it was not like a celebrity where people were following us with cameras. We were revered and respected and the downside is we. We didn't get paid enough to deal with it. You know we could have gotten paid more but then maybe if we got paid more we would have been too famous. But i just remember that time being so exhausted couple of weeks after my retirement i was going on kind of a media tour after the whole thing and i just felt like for once in my life and i was really struggling at the time i was like really deep into my own addiction and I was really living a hidden life behind that hotel room door because i was traveling. All the time and I just remember feeling like if people only knew that actually. I am terrified to walk outside of this hotel room and somehow i was able to do it somehow. I was able to survive. My agent. still can't believe that the amount of travelling. I had to do during that time that i was able to stand up and knowing how i was feeling after i turned in the manuscript of this book here like i didn't know you were feeling stuff you know. And and you're out there making presentations and being received as a role model and mentor. And so that's for me. That's what the irony was just was internally feeling so scared and lost When you have created this identity. I had this identity of myself as a soccer player and now this identity was being completely shifted and i didn't know what the hell to do. I found myself on a on a stage Months after my retirement next to kobe bryant and peyton manning they were giving me this icon award. Espn right yeah..

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

On Being with Krista Tippett

02:29 min | 3 months ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

"Also in your case between the fantasy other people have one's life and the reality of life. And but glennon i think would it. Would it be right to say mama story. Which is your mama's area. I always said it. I know and then i hear people saying mom mastery. That's they're not getting it. They're not getting monastery. This mom mastery mastery. Mom is like the opposite in right. I was so sure. So i think was it in two thousand and eleven. That don't carpe diem. Posting had four million shares and and really took off in a new way. And i just want to read this briefly. Because it's just very beautiful and a lot of us have been here every evening. Craig walks through the door. That was your husband at the time smiles hopefully and says how is your day. This question is like a spotlight pointed directly at the chasm between his experience of a day in my experience of a day. how is my day. I looked down at my spaghetti stain. Pajama top unwashed hair. Gorgeous baby on my hip and i wanted to say how is my day. It was a lifetime. It was the best of times and the worst time. I was both lonely and never alone. I was simultaneously bored out of my skull and completely overwhelmed i was saturated with touch desperate to get the baby off of me and the second i put her down yearn to smell her sweet skin. Again this day required more than i'm physically and emotionally capable of while requiring nothing from my brain thoughts today ideas real things to say and no one to hear them. Everyone's like i can't imagine that she's divorced now. So abby you were i mean. You're a two time. Olympic gold medalist or women's world cup champion fica world player of the year on times one list of one hundred most influential people praised by president obama at the white house You your book that you publish when she calls at two in the last dozen years in two thousand sixteen is called forward.

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Abby Wambach on What It Means to Find Your True Self

On Being with Krista Tippett

02:19 min | 3 months ago

Abby Wambach on What It Means to Find Your True Self

"The book you wrote you. The chapters are all ways. People had seen you write and categories. You'd but sometimes walked into willingly and and sometimes is that had been an armor right so it was everything from you or how you seen yourself. We fraud tomboy rebel teammate. Lesbian manic depressive captain leader romantic hero addict failure and then the last chapter is human somewhere. You said i had created yourself. All these categories that were both generated from you generated externally helped create you but shut you off from becoming human fully. Human glennon has said this a lot. you know. We're all kinda like russian nesting dolls and as we get older. We kinda keep putting on all of these costumes. And that's what i thought for me growing up. That's what i thought. I had to do to mature to age to get. Wisdom is to put on all these different costumes and see which one fit. And i think that now having gone through a lot of my life granted i'm still fairly young thirty eight but i realized that the more you can actually take those costumes off and get down to that little small immobile russian nesting doll. That is like who you are your true self that is like the humanity of all of us and we all are in there. I visited very random. But i just wanna share it. Because it was reading thinking he ended with human which seems like the simplest most elemental thing of all but is really the work of a lifetime. Right i was thinking about this you. When i studied theology paul tillich wrote the courage to be and he's called an existentialist feel ogen. I read it when i was older. Because i was emphasized when i thought that to be that being but the current the book is actually about how the courage it takes right. The courage is the work.

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

On Being with Krista Tippett

06:57 min | 3 months ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

"The way to work and then we would meet in the morning to actually just have a moment of election to think about what she had shared with us and in her book. I know she mentioned. There is a quote that i loved which was our world is abundant with quiet hidden. Lives of beauty and courage and goodness and i think the gap between she talks about the gap between who we are and who we want to be and i think this life of conversation that she has been living and breathing so beautifully it's just a gift to all of us so krista thank you for being here with us today. Thanks so i was at this gathering a year ago. Where was that in new york. Yes and it's so great to be back. And i feel there's so many i i feel very held in this room and i. I was so impressed with this group and so many women. I met people whose faces i recognize again. People whose names i didn't learn but it's wonderful to be here. It's wonderful to be here with two women. I so admire and have just been looking for the right opportunity to to to get them on the show and this just felt like it. And i think there was going to be a big dazzling introduction of them because they are both forces of nature and i'm just i don't wanna spend a lot of time going through their exhausted exhaustive bio so they're in the program but abby wambach olympian olympian champion s. Soccer player. Now retired from that. Which we're going to get to that because that's kind of. We're a very bizarre. And you're starting a business and a force in the world. Glennon doyle author. I don't even know how describing of the things you talk about now is yourself as a radical philanthropist. Is that right. I think sister made that one. Okay sounds good. Yeah that's what we do so we'll get to all of this. I i if you listen to on being you know that i i have a question that began most conversations with and it is a i asked somebody to start talking about How they would begin to describe the religious or spiritual background of their childhood and I wasn't going to do that today. Because we have a theme for this for this gathering and for this hour which is about courage then agian glennon both told me that there really disappointed. Because we're were ready to answer this listening to podcasts. And lynch is actually a magical question for almost any gathering because everybody has a story sometimes that stories about the absence rather than the presence of something but also. I think that that part of our lives is where a lot of questions reside that we actually end up picking up and following all of our lives so you can answer whatever question you went to but what i what i think to focus a lens on courage and i think this is probably wrapped up in whatever is religious and spiritual in in that childhood in that earliest life. You know what you learned internalized about courage in your childhood. I think it's a really important question. Because there's so many different ways you can define courage and for me and there's no such thing as fearlessness. Courage is the presence of fear and going anyway. And i think for me as a little kid i was the youngest seven children All kind of answer. The question that i was prepared for i was in indoctrinating catholic. And i grew up in a huge irish catholic family the youngest and all very accomplished athletes and people brothers and sisters were so i had a lot of living up to do throughout my life and i looked up to them and i think that because of my need to impress and to get attention i found myself being more courageous than maybe the average two year old. I was jumping off the diving board and riding the bicycle. Even though i couldn't touch the pedals yet. I got myself on the bicycle seat and went down the driveway. Not touching anything. I was just holding on. I hope and you can imagine and so i think that for me. I had a wonderful childhood in a lot of ways we can. We can decipher all the problems that happened in our childhood but they those problems are two part of what makes us who we are and the resilience that i learned in through courage. I i mean i. I have had a lot of opportunity in my life to exude courage and to be on the national team in play for team. Usa for so many years a shoulder a lot of responsibility for the the wins and the losses of our team. And i think that you know my younger years really helped me develop that muscle of courage because it is a muscle. It's like any other thing that you have to actually work it out to grow it like running like leg. Muscles scourges actually muscle for me. I just recently heard this definition of courage that resonated with me so much that i brought it to the dinner table with my family and made everyone listened to it. I do that all the time. Actually but also yeah. My family loves reading passages with me at dinner. Easel comes out all comes out so much to live in our family. But it just said courage is not being afraid of yourself and i resonated with that so deeply because i feel like my entire life has been a journey to try to stop trusting every other voice on earth and start getting still enough to listen for my self you know..

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on Hello Monday by LinkedIn

Hello Monday by LinkedIn

05:52 min | 3 months ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on Hello Monday by LinkedIn

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on Hello Monday by LinkedIn

Hello Monday by LinkedIn

05:58 min | 3 months ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on Hello Monday by LinkedIn

"Book untamed. It was this magical night. We were inside this church in brooklyn heights. It was packed. Glennon had written about falling in love with their wife. The soccer player abby wambach. She's been on the show. Actually anyhow that night she was sitting in the first row and there were people up in the bleachers everywhere and glennon walked into center stage. They erupted in applause. It was meant to be the first event in glennon's national book tour. And i remember the date exactly marched night because it was the last time in twenty twenty that i would gather in real life in a room full of people anywhere. Two days later glennon cancelled the two are. There are so many people like glennon people who are scheduled to have their big debut there tedtalk. They're.

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on Good Life Project

Good Life Project

05:07 min | 3 months ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on Good Life Project

"I'm gonna talk with exceptional entrepreneurs about their businesses and how they got started. It's a little bit of masterclass a cocktail party in a sunday. Drive alright into one on this show. How did the deeper to uncover the stories behind these companies and my celebrity friends will drop by for some inspiration and some advice. Kristen bell gayle. King howie mandel. Charles barkley jillian michaels and a bunch more. So join me on this journey each week as we meet some of the most creative innovative passionate minds in business. That's doing things my way. One hundred percent one hundred percent with me. Marcus llamas is available on apple. Podcasts amazon music. Or wherever you get your podcast one of those beliefs. Also which seems like a touchdown around the same time you are grappling with. All of this is that you can break a child's heart without breaking the child which is something that you right which i think when that switch gets flipped at the same time you're sort of like awakening to all these other things about you when the way that it's important to live your own life and also that the idea that you know the the primary role of apparent is it's not to keep your kid safe from everything you know but but to teach them that it's okay to take risks that it's okay to go out and who you are Going public with an and to you know it's it's it's bravery over safety right but that's not easy because neil i think as parents i think a lot of us like the i fear that we all have is like not got. I'll be hurt. Like i just want to keep them safe and sure they can take risks up to a point but only while i'm watching right. Yeah exactly like social risk of two point like physical risk through point motion risk up to a point and yet it's it's very it's the skills and the ability in the mindset. That will let them push past that point. Feel the pain and then understand how to process it that turns them into everything that they become. And you peoper than that. Really hope become become and i think i think the hard part of becoming. I mean to be fair. This is our parenting generation. The memo we got right was just. Don't let anything ever happen to your child like when you bring your baby home your life ends in. Your job is to make sure that your baby's life never begins..

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on Good Life Project

Good Life Project

08:03 min | 3 months ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on Good Life Project

"glennon doyle" Discussed on Good Life Project

Good Life Project

01:50 min | 3 months ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on Good Life Project

"We were just talking before we stepped into the room. There's this kind of interesting relationship between me. You and your life Last time you're hanging this. I feel like oh so much has changed in your world in the world will cause was probably about three and a half years ago. Something like that And you came in. You were touring for love warrior. And there's a part of your story that was public and then towards the end of our conversation. We started talking about okay. So there's actually another relationship and you shared not planned that there's another relationship that you're in but you didn't want to go any further like it's kind of mind from that point forward and then Last year i guess about a year ago abbe came in and we somehow ended up talking about that moment to and she was like she said you know she said i have listened to that small segment over and over and over because it was. She's like planet didn't use my name but it was the first public acknowledgement that i existed in her life and it meant and it was amazing And now we're sitting here today. I know i remember walking out of this room after having shared that. And you said something that me share. The i don't know you said you just look later or full of light or something. I don't know you just said something that made me i. You know when you're in love and you're just talking to share it just dying to and i felt safe here and i just remember walking out of this interview and calling her right away. I did call right away. And i said oh my god i just said it. I just sat

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Glennon Doyle on Stepping Into Your Truth

Good Life Project

01:50 min | 3 months ago

Glennon Doyle on Stepping Into Your Truth

"We were just talking before we stepped into the room. There's this kind of interesting relationship between me. You and your life Last time you're hanging this. I feel like oh so much has changed in your world in the world will cause was probably about three and a half years ago. Something like that And you came in. You were touring for love warrior. And there's a part of your story that was public and then towards the end of our conversation. We started talking about okay. So there's actually another relationship and you shared not planned that there's another relationship that you're in but you didn't want to go any further like it's kind of mind from that point forward and then Last year i guess about a year ago abbe came in and we somehow ended up talking about that moment to and she was like she said you know she said i have listened to that small segment over and over and over because it was. She's like planet didn't use my name but it was the first public acknowledgement that i existed in her life and it meant and it was amazing And now we're sitting here today. I know i remember walking out of this room after having shared that. And you said something that me share. The i don't know you said you just look later or full of light or something. I don't know you just said something that made me i. You know when you're in love and you're just talking to share it just dying to and i felt safe here and i just remember walking out of this interview and calling her right away. I did call right away. And i said oh my god i just said it. I just sat

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Abby Wambach: If you're not a good leader on the bench, you cannot call yourself a good leader on the field.

Skimm'd from The Couch

06:04 min | 1 year ago

Abby Wambach: If you're not a good leader on the bench, you cannot call yourself a good leader on the field.

"Hey everyone. This show might sound a bit different today because we're skimming from three different couches. The scam is still working from home for the time being because of covid nineteen. Today, we have a very special guest joining us abby Wambach is here with us on skin from the couch she is a two time Olympic gold medalist, a FIFA World Cup champion, and a member of the national soccer hall of fame. Also, she hasn't slowed down in retirement she is now a New York Times. Author and equal pay activists. We I had the pleasure of meeting abby when we spoke to her wife, Glennon Doyle on the show in March and we dragged her onto the podcast as well, and if you haven't listened to that episode, go check it out. It's a good one abby. Thank you so much for joining us today. Welcome to skin from the catch. Yeah. Thanks for having me. I'm so thrilled and honored to be with you all on three different couches. Thou-. Before. We jump into our first question I have to tell you I was looking at our prep for this and there was one bullet in here. That has really made me laugh as I have to share it, which is that you used to have a special card that got you a free Burrito a day from AAA but it stopped working when you're retired that seems passive aggressive for sure to Poli what the F.. Yeah. So when I first got this card, it was Gosh I must've been ten years ago now and you know like the gold cards portly for life like essentially my name is on it and you guys don't know how I go way back. From the early days and I mean I would get a Burrito. Day You guys we're both creatures of habits. I respect this. Yeah. It was crazy and this is before we really knew how many calories were in each burrito. Bowl that I would make or Burrito early days. and. So then yeah, of course when I retired, I was super excited to still be able to get one free Burrito a week for year, but they never really checked up on it but then I think when I got a family when I married Glenn and attained. That you know fifteen dollar meal. Turned into a sixty five dollar meal or seventy dollars meal for the whole family and pull was like I. Don't know if we're GONNA keep floating this for her so. It was a good run while it lasted I'm sorry that you've struggled with that but I did make me laugh as read. So, we're going to jump into our very first question. We'd like to ask everybody it just skim your resume skin my resume. It's so funny because when you retire, that's like that's essentially what I've had to do over the last four or five years of my life since retiring from playing on the national team, and if people don't really know I played for a long time on our women's national team. So Ski. My life I'm the youngest of seven children I grew up in Rochester New York, and I went to the University of Florida and played soccer there for four seasons where after I was drafted number two by the way just remember this folks you don't get drafted number one. You can still succeed I was drafted number two out of college to go play for a team called The Washington freedom the best player in. The world at the time. Mia. Hamm played on that team and it really changed my life because we were able to develop a connection that then transferred into me getting called into the national team and playing on the national team in scoring goals in the national team, and then I had a pretty long career representing his country won a gold medal. I want a couple of medals actually I won a fee. For Women's World Cup. World. Cup. I should say it doesn't matter if you're a guy or girl that's pretty awesome in my retirement I have kind of taken on this activism role that when I play ironically when I played I was a little bit more like just go and do my job and we were going to show our activism rather than talk about it. But when you quit playing, you gotta actually transfer that. Because I can't play anymore I can't show it in the ways that I used to. So I've transitioned into becoming a public speaker and an activist and apparent and wife, and that is my skin. Has a great skin? What is it like to be really good at something where young 'cause I have? No clue. Yeah I mean it's confidence building you know I felt like. Okay. I know that I'm good at this thing over here but I think you know all of us have our little things right? Like no matter what kind of. Place we grew up or family we grew up in or what kind of trauma we we experienced as a child because we all do some of US feel like we're unlovable my case in particular some of us were neglected. Some of us were over parented like we all have problems inside of our family dynamics that for me really allowed me to and gave me the courage to propel in this kind of an individualistic career. So when I was young I kind of was a very big risk taker. I was a free spirit is what they called me, I think that's what they call children who don't follow the rules as much as their parents want them to and I think that the other side of that coin is I was really trying to get the attention of my parents, right. So the very thing that might have felt trauma or hardship from in my childhood is the very thing that made me successful. So I have to always remember that like as much as I as young as seven children. As much as all of us wanted the attention of our parents, I do think that kind of parent team actually shaped me and and allowed me to explore this competitiveness inside. In this drive and this embiid to go after what I needed and what I wanted. So I give a lot of credit to that form of parenting into that trauma

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on Ctrl Alt Delete

Ctrl Alt Delete

03:11 min | 1 year ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on Ctrl Alt Delete

"Hello and welcome back to another episode of Control Delete. Today's Girth is someone that I've wanted to interview both so so long I'm a huge fan of her work. I've listened to every podcast that she's ever been on. This was very exciting, but she came onto control delete. So, today's guest is Glennon Doyle I. Absolutely adored her books. Love Warrior, which was an Oprah Book Club selection as well as her. New York, Times Bestseller carry-on Warrior, she is an activist and thought leader, and she's also the founder of together rising, which is an all women led nonprofit organization. That really is helping people all over the world. She has raised over twenty five million dollars for women, families and children in. In crisis in this episode, we discussed Glennon. newburgh untamed which has taken the world by storm. The full name is untamed. Stop pleasing start living, and it's gone on to become a number one new. York Times Bestseller and Book Club selection in Reese Witherspoon Book. Club. The book is about how Glenn, and for so many years denied feeling unhappy in her life, and and she thought she was doing everything just right on. On that classic tick box of life, and then well speaking conference, she looked Owen across the room, which is Abby Wambach, and she fell instantly in love with her, the voice rededicate out the one that she buried beneath decades of numbing addictions and social conditioning. The book untamed is a really amazingly written memoir, also wake-up coal, and it's really unique in the way. It's being written and we talk about that in this. This episode. It's not being written in your classic format that we expect it's truly unique, and you will read it so quickly. Because of the way it's written. It has story of how she learned that being a responsible mother is not one who gives up who she is for her children, but one who shows them how to Philly live, and this really is a book about unleashing trust and wildest selves and instincts. We talk in this episode about how she got the book out that to so many people during lockdown and I've picked up some of my favorite bits I one talk to her about in the book that really resonated with me, and in general we just discuss how to be a little bit braver and a bit wilder in the lives we live. If you need more Glennon content after you've listened to this episode. She is also doing some incredible instagram lives and I g TV uploads every day pretty much, and she radio's just the pep talk. I think we all need especially right. Right now so I hope you enjoy this episode. I want to apologize in advance for the quality of this one. My microphone wasn't working. And also because you're on Google hangouts while doing it the Internet connection probably wasn't the best, so you know I'm still trying to just make this work. And I really got not to meet Glennon person because we organized to do it while she is in London, but obviously that didn't happen, so yeah, please bear with me with the sound, but I promised. It's worth it for all of the incredible nuggets of wisdom that glennon drops in this episode. She liked it. Please delete rating or review on I changed. It helps massively and I will see you next week..

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The Light At The End Of The Tunnel

Zen Parenting Radio

06:55 min | 1 year ago

The Light At The End Of The Tunnel

"And so the Pan. So we're all at home. We're in the middle of this pandemic. There's a lot of crisis around us and I'm dreaming about really really weird things and I am finding that my daughters are too. They've been telling me some of their dreams and I think that some times the dreams are scary and sometimes they're just anxiety provoking the one of my dreams this morning. I told Todd was that I was getting ready for a formal with all my girlfriends from college at. I've been talking to them more than usual. Which is probably part of the reason. And then I realized that I had to get ready for a formal and I needed to take a shower so the only shower I could think of was this one at a fraternity house across the street so I went to returning house across the street. Execs were all girls like shout. What's happening and took a shower and realized where I was while I was in the shower and that there would be boys men there and then I had no towel that I had no clothes. Did you have your razor shaving cream? It's so funny that you would say that. I had a razor because the whole reason I realized I needed to go take a shower. Was I needed to shave my legs so like that? I had thought about but you know. So what does all that mean? I don't analyze it many ways but I think it's anxiety and feeling exposed and feeling afraid and not realizing having uncertainty and You know feeling in inability to do anything at that moment which I feel most of the day like I wave in and out of kind of normal moments I and I'm using the word normal to me and like I'm working. I'm cooking I'm you know preparing. I'm cleaning I'm talking with my family And then everything feels kind of typical and then I wave into like. Oh my gosh and I think we're all going through that and so it comes out in our dreams so you know for those of you who are having and my dreams are very vivid In that could be because I'm sleeping longer. That is one thing that's happening. Is I think you and I used to average about six six and a half seven closer to a now times nine sometimes. Eight or nine now which is great. I mean if we can take these little things pandemic. It's maybe that we're getting more sleep in and we need to. I think kids are going to be taller. As a result of pandemic profitably grow when we sleep and thinking my teenagers right now they have to wake up at six. Am to go to school in normal times and they're getting at least somewhere between two and four hours extra sleep as results pandemic. Yeah and I think that we're GONNA taller kids. I mean who I mean. I'm just making stuff up rested for sure and well. Rested means a lot of different things and they need it right now because one of the things that we have to do right now. There are. Many things we have to do is keep our immune system strong for ourselves. Our family and for everybody. I think the biggest message I for myself personally but also that I think my kids really get now and I know that just from being on social media that majority of people get this is. It's not just about us is. I'm not like girls take your vitamins. So you won't get sick. It is rest take your vitamins. Drink water do that because we are part of a bigger picture and we need to do our part to be as healthy as possible and to stay at home and to not create more problem. Are you trying to say that we are helping our fellow brothers and sisters by getting good rest correct? I have some friends who are. GonNa be delighted with that because they love to sleep my friend Dean Dean in case. You're listening which I know you're not you're saving the world by sleeping so much he's been saving the world. Well done well and it really is. It is the these things that I was just talking to. I was just telling the story I was just talking to my girlfriend who was just asked to do some work for the city of Chicago. And it's kind of a big deal What she's GonNa do and I got really deep with her about what she's being asked to do. Not only does she get to channel all of her create a creative juices and her work ethic and her grief and her desire to help and support into something but then it will result in something that other people will be able to see and enjoy and appreciate and possibly hand down two grandchildren. She is in. She's in this historical moment. Actually being able to do something to help the greater good and hers is more tangible. Because she's doing it for the city of Chicago but we all have that opportunity and first of all taking care of ourselves. That's the that's the basic one because you've got that's our foundation our grounding but then we all have that opportunity And I give you Mother Teresa quote please. So for those of us who feel like we're not doing enough. Yeah because I feel kind of helpless and I I do some but I could do more. And this is not going to direction of shooting myself but Mother Teresa said if you want to change the world go home and love your family right and for those of us who are kind of in that mode you are doing something by loving your family so and I think that for people who you know when we talk about like crisis is just a. I think. Glennon used to say this. I want to give her credit because I think she's one. Climate is reading Glennon doyle who wrote untamed. I'm sure you're all reading it at this point But you know long time ago this was even before love warrior. We you know she's hurt she. I don't even think this was part of a book. But she talked about how crisis is like a a sifter And that when you have a crisis everything that's non essential get sifted out. Who and it's a really good metaphor To understand what we're going through right now is that we have always talked about crisis on this show you and I but crisis says are there there What's the word there relative right? This is a global crisis and so what's essential is being made clear to all of us at the same time. So there's people out there including me like Oh. I need a haircut well. My haircut isn't nearly as important today that it was a month ago. Correct so all these things that we were worried about in February rats get sifted out so I guess one teachable lesson out of all this a year from now when everything's back to normal and we're worried about our haircut. Maybe we can recall this saying you know what? I wasn't worried about my hair back. In March of Twenty

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on 5 Questions with Dan Schawbel

5 Questions with Dan Schawbel

08:53 min | 1 year ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on 5 Questions with Dan Schawbel

"Goal is to create the best advice. We world's smartest most interesting people by asking them justified questions. My guest today is bestselling author Glennon Doyle born in Burke. Virginia GLENNON STRUGGLED WITH BULIMIA IN ADDICTION. Growing up and shared her experiences. Enter twenty thirteen tax. Talk lessons from the Mental Hospital which has been viewed over three point. Four Billion Times. Her writing career started in two thousand nine with her blog. Mama Stereo which led to her first book carry-on Warrior. That was selected. As part of Oprah's book club Glenn went onto right loved warrior and our latest untained aside from being an author and speaker. She's the founder of the all-women led nonprofit organization rising which has raised millions of dollars for women families and children in crisis in this episode. Glennon share some incredibly powerful life experiences and lessons. That will both challenge and inspire you. Every successful person. I've interviewed over the past ten years overcome significant work and life challenges and it's the source of their courage confidence power. How have your struggles with Bulimia addiction shaped the person you are today? Well what I would say. Is that my recovery from Bohemia and alcoholism shaped who I am in every arena of my life sometimes I think that addicts are the lucky ones because we hit rock bottom and so we get to experience recovery. Which in itself is really disturbing a recovering. Drug yourself right. So many of US use distractions like booze food but also more acceptable distractions like snark and scrolling Internet ad in Shopping and all the things we use so that we don't have to be left with ourselves in recovery gives us the opportunity to return to ourselves to discover who we really are into begin to live in integrity. Which which what I what I think integrity is. It has nothing to do with doing the right thing. It has to do with matching who you are on the inside. Matching your inner thoughts and desires and emotions to your outer cell right to Kind of bridging that divide between the two cells having those Tucson's the integrated which is where the word integrity comes from. And I think that as an artist speak from that inner self. That's what an artist does if they're speaking with from the representative self. That's not true. Art So recovering. My true selfless recovery is essential to being an artist. Living in integrity is essential to being a leader in an activist in showing up as my true self is essential to being a mother and a wife and a friend. You know it it it. Just the word used confidence. I think about that word a lot and what it means. Relate is with fidelity the Latin roots towards a width ability. And so living confidence. I think of as living with to delegate to sell to being true to yourself and my sobriety taught me that and is the guiding force of who I am and my art my activism and my relationships one of the biggest personal challenges we face in today's culture is the relentless pursuit of validation from others which has been amplified by social media. How can we start trusting ourselves instead of striving to meet the expectations of the world and we went to trust ourselves? You have to discover yourself again right in order to start being guided by the inner voice Which I call intuition or God or did knowing missing we have inside of us that is constantly guiding us towards next right thing We have to rediscover it We have to learn to listen for that voice again in the way we do that. Is We take some time each day to cut out to stop all the outer versus? I think that In today's culture we are being led towards more and more of an exterior life which means we are constantly looking outside of our stuff's to our owns two experts to other people to look for what to do next when really that's another way of asking people for directions to places they've never been right because we are each pioneers. No one else has lived the life that we are being asked to live every single. One of our lives is an unprecedented experiment. So I think that there is no map. We are all pioneers and the only way to know what is next for us and begin trusting ourselves to cut off the noise on the outside and start to practice going within some kind of stillness practice which is just practicing looking inward or the guide instead of outward for now. I've heard from all my friends that parenthood changes you all of them. Say That you can't prepare for it. It just happens and you react to it. How has parenthood put your life in perspective? Help to deal with your past and made you a better version of yourself. So parenthood is not the only way but it is one way to avoid living in unexamined life at part of what? I'm obsessed with right now. Is this process of containing which for me has a lot to do with. What while Whitman said that? We should reexamine everything we've been taught in in church in school in the world and dismissed whatever insults our own soul right. The coming untamed is examining these beliefs. That we've been just just blindly following. Our lives are social programming. And what parenting does is he. Just have a look at this little person and you have this desire to to model for them. You know what what does it mean to be a successful human being? Does it mean to be a good human being? What does it mean to love? What does it mean to live fully and in order to model those things and teach those things? You have to reconfigure them out for yourself so for me. It was an opportunity to same Do I believe if I'm GONNA pass on the most powerful beliefs to these children have to figure it out for myself in so I it does that it? It offers us an opportunity to figure out what we really believe in there. I also think that it's offered me an opportunity to heal in your book on came. You say the braver. We are the luckier we get. Can you explain what you mean by this phrase and give an example from your life when you got lucky by being brave? Yeah so I I say let's define what brave is because we're always telling everybody to be brave and we don't think about what that means so much. I think a lot of people say brave means being afraid and doing it anyway but I don't think that's a good definition. There's a lot of fear can be a gift and I think they always doing. The bold thing isn't necessarily courage. I think there's a lot of brazenness that is quiet. Measure and careful actually I think sometimes doing what's brave can look like cowardice to everybody on the outside rapes buried personal and so what I would say. That brave is brave. Is Listening to that voice on the inside speaking on the outside or what is your best piece of career advice? My best piece of career advice is to value in love. The people you are serving more than the product. You are surfing for example. I just had to cancel an entire book tour in I am cancelled it because of the rotavirus early call. It was a couple of weeks ago so early on it was a tough call to make and I remember sitting in my hotel room and just crying thinking. Oh my God. This book untamed the most beautiful thing I've ever created my career. Now have to cancel it and then I realized that's not at all most beautiful thing I've ever created. My career is the community that. I'm giving this book too and so I need to do whatever it takes to make sure that that those people are protected not book. It's in her hands in so I think when we make that priority when we value and I are ties the people we are serving. The people we are serving with. Our employees are an employer. Whoever these people are we always end up in place it might not be the right. Short term. Might not make us the most money or opportunity in the short term but in the long-term Gold's up trust and trust is the only meal currency right. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. Glennon to follow. Her journey can read her book untamed in Finder on twitter facebook and instagram where she shares daily South help advice family conversations announcements pictures of her fans. Hope you enjoyed today's show and the amazing advice. Our guests provided. Remember that you can only benefit from advice. If you packed on it before you do we would appreciate your feedback. In the form of view you can leave a review on itunes stitcher or a pod catcher of your choice your feedback would be very much appreciated head over to Shaw Bell Dot com slash review now..

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Glennon Doyle: Untame Yourself

Skimm'd from The Couch

04:38 min | 1 year ago

Glennon Doyle: Untame Yourself

"My one thing right and my one thing is like trying as much as I can to stay in integrity so since that's my one thing. It didn't matter what everybody else was saying to me. How was it to actually live that now? Hearing you and seeing beautiful family and everything I don't want to say you know worked out but looks like you guys have fallen into this beautiful family together going back to that. How was it to actually make that decision decision to fall in love with via the decision to go public and just let the crowd falls? I mean for me. The thing that was most hard about that decision had nothing to do with public opinion or the book or whatever it was about my children. It was about my family as you. Well know it's like there's the world which lake will do whatever it will do but then really your world is the people that you can touch around you so those were the people that I was most worried about and I think that the reason I was worried is because I was just tamed. Into believing that mother is a murder right so I believe that a good mother does not break her child's heart. Good mother does not break up her family. So I might know in the depth of my bones that I am in love with this woman that I meant to be with her and this is like myself saying yes please but I can't do that because it would screw my people and then one day I was breeding my daughter's hair and I just had this thought which was. Oh my God I am staying in this marriage for her but what I want this marriage for her and if I would not want this marriage for her then why am I modeling. Bad love for her and calling that good mothering. Which made me realize how deeply I had been tamed right. The cultural messages to women are always no matter. What venue hear them from? Get as small as you can until you disappear. The way they do that to mothers is to say the ideal mother is a martyr the ideal mother is someone who just buries her dreams. Her ambition her feelings desires and calls that love and it took me looking at my daughter and knowing that she's looking to me to see. How does a woman live to figure out? No no no. The Taming of motherhood is saying no a mother is not a murder. A mother is a model. Children will only do will only allow themselves to live as fully as their parents did. So the call of motherhood the call of parenting is to refuse to settle for any conversation relationship room institution. That is less beautiful than the one we would want for our babies and what I figured out was this. Little girl does not need need me to save her. What this little girl needs to do is watch her mother. Save herself for me. It was one at a time figuring out that the one of the lies that women have been sold is that we cannot trust ourselves. We cannot go for what we want because it will be bad for our people that what we need and what are people need are mutually exclusive. Right that's why you always hear. Oh I would do that. I would go back to school but I can't because my kids I would do this but I can't because my kids and that's a lie that's utter Horse Shit like what is true and beautiful for us is always eventually what is true for our people right and there is no such thing as one way liberation. When you for yourself you automatically free everyone around you because freedom is contagious. So at the time you've built up an audience that was predominantly Christian women. What did you think the reaction was going to be? And then what was it in actuality? I had always been like for the decade before that I had been an outspoken completely like flaming supporter of the Algae. Btcu community like. I've been more gay. Pride parades that abby has and she's like the gasquet that ever gate I was intentionally creating a culture that celebrated inclusivity and differences and sexualities of all kinds. If you're still a part of my community that you understood that this announcement was less of a departure from our values and more like a manifestation of our values right and that's one of the beautiful things about living in integrity. Is that if you're always saying the thing that you believe on the inside you're always losing the right people so everybody that was there. They were because they had a they weren't all like minded but they were like hearted right. They were people that I would expect to say. Yes you have shown up you have shown us your untamed and whether we understand or not you are both held and free here

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Untame The Companies: Untamed Voices and Mental Health

Skimm'd from The Couch

07:55 min | 1 year ago

Untame The Companies: Untamed Voices and Mental Health

"Talking about mental illness. I think one being an entrepreneur. It's not talked about enough. I think it's a it's a really isolating profession whether you are someone that's running a big company or someone that's just starting off. There's a lot of loneliness and isolation and I don't think it's talked about enough in the tech industry the rates of depression and anxiety that go on in and something that carly and I talk about a lot. We've both struggle with anxiety. I think that I've also found a way to make it a positive and I feel like that is something that not enough people talked about. How have you and it seems like you have taken your addiction struggles and turn it into something that I think one has helped other people but also seems to be a part of you that you view as a positive because you get to share it. Yeah I do. I don't view it as a positive just because I get to share it to help other people like that's one of the reasons but I actually view as a real positive in my life and I think it's because you know what I've learned through my recovery is that I've always been the same person since I was born right. I've always been a person with deep deep sensitivity and you know what I would call deep sensitivity sometimes leads to self-medication. My problem was not that I drink too much. My problem was that I was anxious and depressed and I was using the alcohol to fix that and it was less helpful than one might hope. But here's what I've learned looking back at myself so when I was around ten years old. It's actually when we start to internalize social programming right. That's when we get tamed. When we have our wild self and then the outside world starts telling us who we should be and when we can't match that shame starts in the split starts so what I was heard from culture and from family and from everywhere was that it was too much and so I started numbing myself with food and booze. I don't anymore I was ever too much right. I think that I was a deeply sensitive. Human being and the really cool thing now is to look back at myself. Nco The sensitivity. That led me to numbing and lead to addiction is the exact same sensitivity that I- channel now that makes me really really freaking good writer and the fire I call it my fire my therapists call it anxiety so whatever but the fire inside me the anxiety that led me to end leads me to be kind of a fearful person sometimes is the exact same fire that I- channel to be a really effective activist. So I've never changed. The only time I changed really was when I tried to snuff myself out with all of the food and the booze. There was never anything wrong with me. I was born with the exact constitution. The exact gifts the exact challenges that I needed to get the exact done. The exact work done on this earth. We are traveling all the time for work. One thing that we are really obsessed with is thinking through what we put on our skin when we are flying when we are travelling when we are on the road in so many places. It's really important that we keep ourselves healthy and we've started to think about. What does that actually mean regarding the products that we use on a daily basis as also because skin just looks really bad when we travel so he loves products. That ARE CLEAN. Because we like to know. Now what's in them and we don't want to actually have to sacrifice the quality which I think is a big misnomer. Yeah I think about clean beauty. And that's something that we've really started to investigate in so lucky for all of us. This march for is raising the expectation. On what clean can be yes. They have some amazing brands that are clean. Thoughtfully made and some of our favorites are bite. Ilia Kaas our Ms Beauty Tower Twenty eight and artsy so the products are packed. With good for you ingredients. They look good and they make you look good good. It's great that one of our favorite store or Sephora is focused on clean beauty. We really appreciate that. I think that we are part of a generation. That's really thinking about what's going into the things we use every single day and it's great that we can get all the products that we really love without the ingredients that no one needs exactly so time for you to get the best in clean makeup at Sephora online and store right now look for the green seal to know which products are clean at Sephora certified. I want to talk about this idea of living an untamed life. You've talked so much about in the recovery circles and even in the mental institution. How refreshing it is when you hear people speak from an honest place and I think today especially in this age of social media. That's really tough. What do you think happens? When people start leading with their honest selves and also. How do you give people advice to do that? When they are working in more of a corporate environment where they're showing up in places every day where that is not like. I love hearing you speak. I also think about my friends that are working in law firms if they showed up being like. I'm going to live my untamed life. I can picture the arrows and I think we all struggle with how to exist within a society that has these expectations and also want to live in a freer way. It's big question. Is You know maybe in a corporate setting you wouldn't stand up and say I'm GonNa live my untamed life. Like maybe but what? What being untamed is is simply. It's every time there's a moment of conflict right so say you're sitting around a table in a corporate setting and someone says something that You know has like a hint of a whiff of racism and misogyny or homophobia in it right. We all know that we all know that when that happens and you know the split comes when your team self on the outside is like don't say anything. Don't say anything this will pass this will pass and your untamed self on the inside is like a new to say something. I need to say something now. What I know about corporations as the corporations are just groups of people right so the most important thing about a corporation is that it's twofold one is how we work together and to how we make space for every single individual to bring her full self so actually corporations are creating culture. There's no more important place for people to start bringing their entire individual self to the table and actually have space and have the safety and have the freedom to use their untamed voice tables because that is how culture changes status quo always stays the same if everyone at the table especially the marginalized groups continues to keep their untamed voice. Quiet I think one of the major problems in our culture corporations world is this idea of tribalism which is that we have this one group of people and we all must think the same way and we all must believe the same things and if we step out of line we will be tribal shamed and that. I think are moving away from that kind of group being an acceptable way of creating community. I think what we have to do. Incorporations in churches and institutions in political groups in families in relationships is create room where people who have differing ideas different voices different experiences can bring the full selves to the table and know that they will be both held by the group and free to bring in different self to the table so there is no more important place for people to begin to start using their untamed voices than

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Glennon Doyle, author: Untame the companies.

Skimm'd from The Couch

06:18 min | 1 year ago

Glennon Doyle, author: Untame the companies.

"I want to go back to the beginning of your story. What prompted you to start writing. My family communicates through writing so my dad writes me letters for Christmas for big events. And it's funny because my dad and I have a hard time communicating deeply in person. We don't really do it but we can write things to each other that we could never say to each other's face so I learned early on that you can say things in writing. The can't sometimes they in person but when I started writing publicly was after I had been sober for a few years and I was home with three children. I was just like dripping with children and because of that I was finding it harder and harder to get to my recovery meetings and recovery meetings. Where the place that I felt. Safest in bravest in the world because in those circles it felt like the only time that I actually heard anyone told the truth about life. Like it's like we all have these two selves in these two voices and now I would call them or tamed selves at our untamed selves at our untamed selves. Are the voice inside that when someone says how are you doing is like oh not so good. I my life is really hard at my marriage is falling apart and and then the team self says frame. Thanks how're you right? So recovery circles are the places that I discovered people who were using their untamed voices and that was such a relief to me and to not be able to get to. Those meetings was devastating because I am a person who desperately needs to hear other people tell the truth in order to save and so one day I was just sitting at my computer and I just started typing using that voice that I use in recovery meetings my honest true untamed voice. And when I saw the words that I had written it felt more to me like I was looking in a mirror then I even feel when I look in the mirror and so that's how I started because my kids. I started writing because my kids wouldn't let me out of the House and I needed to tell the truth somewhere so I started writing all my thoughts my feelings and then I started emailing them to my friends each morning and were they like. Oh this is just Glennon. Yes which would have been fine. Except I didn't have anything else to do. So then when they didn't write me back I would ping them like a couple of hours later so I just was wondering if you had any thoughts about my thoughts but the thing is that they had to work and like have lives and so they couldn't constantly talk to me about my thoughts which is a running problem in my life. And so one of my dear Friends Joanna. One day sent me a link. That was like this is how you start a blog and say this might be a better way to put this out there instead of harassing us. And she said in the email sweetie this is what people do have as many thoughts and ideas you. I got my writing out there because my friends did not want to hear from me anymore like that is how I was that I started the blog and started using that untamed voice and people just I duNNo. It just started to help help free people. What do you think about it really resonated? God I mean one of the themes of the book is you know we have this self this wild self that were born with were all born wild and then most of us have a few good years of freedom as children and then eventually we just start surrendering to the taming of the zoos. Were born into families and nations and economies and cultures. And we start acting instead of being right and we split we split into those two selves. The real wild self. We are on the inside and then the lake socially acceptable Tamed Self. That we have to send out into the world and I think that one of the reasons why we feel lonely and afraid sometimes is because we don't enough from the untamed selves of other people. All right I think that's why we are so comforted by art because art comes from the untamed self right. I think that's why we're comforted by our best friends because our best friends are the ones who show us their untamed selves. And so that's why I think it resonated it was just people saying. Oh my God me too. We forget when we look at People's shiny out ourselves that that's not all that's going on. You have been open about struggling with addiction since you were very young and as part of that journey you are admitted to a mental hospital when you were a teenager. Is that where you started to think about? Probably not consciously at the time but this difference between your team self and your team self. Yeah I mean people get so worried about talking about that time in my life like Oh my God. That must've been awful and you know I had a lot of things going for me. My family had I was raised by two teachers. They had enough money to get me into a very lovely facility. That's not always how it is so I was lucky in lots of ways but I loved it which is not I loved it. I felt comfortable asking because you've written about how it it was helpful. And you've said that which is not normally what people expect to hear. I mean entering this place where there were like rules about like you're showing up as your real self. Nobody in the mental hospital is pretending that they're nailing life okay. It's like the JIG is up. Okay like you can just stop with that right so everybody is just showing up with their vulnerable true raw untamed self and it is it was so freaking comforting to me to me. The Mental Hospital was so much less scary than high school right. It just seemed so much less crazy than high school. I feel like a lot of people listening that that is going to click. You is is insane like only middle school high school all of this the fact that we have to walk around and pretend all the time not say the thing we mean. And try to simulate ourselves into this crazy world is just. I think that the mental hospital was the first place where I thought. Oh there are like these little pockets of the world where you can just be totally free with your messed up self and also. I love people who struggle with mental illness.

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on This Movie Changed Me

This Movie Changed Me

03:43 min | 2 years ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on This Movie Changed Me

"You want me to go first? Well, sure. No, I think that what what makes me feel despair is just how loss it feels like parts of our government feel to me. And what makes me feel hopeful is that I know that it won't last forever. Yeah. Well, I mean, I think for me, the despair and the the hope coming the exact same place, right? Like, I keep hearing all over the place. Like, oh my God. What's going on right now? You know, everybody's suddenly so racists. Everybody's so go homophobic, and everybody's so and okay. But like everyone's all the people have always been like that. It's just it's just that. Now, we can see it right and people are talking about. Now, it's at the surface. So like when you ask people who are actually have been affected by racism their whole life. When you ask people of color. They're not super surprised right now. Right. They're like, okay. So thanks. You just got to the party. Right. So so that's why I think the despair in the hope or in the exact same place like we can about this all the time because we give like destruction when she scared of it or too scared of apocalypse like who wants things to stay the same. Not me. You know, you know, we get so scared of the ends of the world, you know, as women the first the first story I ever learned about God. Okay. And being a woman was okay. So everything was great. And God put you to people in a in a in a garden, and no, no, I of one person that guarded that was Adam and then he gave birth to eve. Okay. So we're supposed to take that one on the chin. I right. Okay. All right. So men give birth to women. Okay. It's not what I've seen in my life. But got it. Okay. And then everything was fine until the woman wanted something. And then she went for it. And then all hell broke loose and everything was terrible forever. Thank you for joining us. Go in peace. And then we're like why are women so confused about what they want and food. You know, I don't know. She's won an apple what if she wanted to forgive pizza like this and. What I think about over and over again is you know, what that story does what every story. We learn about being a woman does is make us start to fear. What we desire? Okay. Women have to fear what we desire. What women want is bad? What women want is scary? Which makes us doubt ourselves over and over again what we want. We don't know what we want. We don't even know where we want to go to dinner. Who knows we don't know. Okay. But what I find. Talking to women all over the world. Is that what women want is? So good. That if women started to go for it power structures would tumble right? Sue, doesn't it make sense that every single power structure would have to make women doubt what they desire because if women went for the what they desired. The world would crumble and other worlds based on equality injustice in love and peace would have to be rebuilt in their place. Right. So what I want women to do is just cool for the apple and let it burn. Glennon Doyle, and Abby Wambach, thank you so much. Thank you for having. Glennon Doyle is creator of the online community, mama Sterry and founder and president of together.

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

On Being with Krista Tippett

03:43 min | 2 years ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

"You want me to go first? Well, sure. No, I think that what what makes me feel despair is just how loss it feels like parts of our government feel to me. And what makes me feel hopeful is that I know that it won't last forever. Yeah. Well, I mean, I think for me, the despair and the the hope coming the exact same place, right? Like, I keep hearing all over the place. Like, oh my God. What's going on right now? You know, everybody's suddenly so racists. Everybody's so go homophobic, and everybody's so and okay. But like everyone's all the people have always been like that. It's just it's just that. Now, we can see it right and people are talking about. Now, it's at the surface. So like when you ask people who are actually have been affected by racism their whole life. When you ask people of color. They're not super surprised right now. Right. They're like, okay. So thanks. You just got to the party. Right. So so that's why I think the despair in the hope or in the exact same place like we can about this all the time because we give like destruction when she scared of it or too scared of apocalypse like who wants things to stay the same. Not me. You know, you know, we get so scared of the ends of the world, you know, as women the first the first story I ever learned about God. Okay. And being a woman was okay. So everything was great. And God put you to people in a in a in a garden, and no, no, I of one person that guarded that was Adam and then he gave birth to eve. Okay. So we're supposed to take that one on the chin. I right. Okay. All right. So men give birth to women. Okay. It's not what I've seen in my life. But got it. Okay. And then everything was fine until the woman wanted something. And then she went for it. And then all hell broke loose and everything was terrible forever. Thank you for joining us. Go in peace. And then we're like why are women so confused about what they want and food. You know, I don't know. She's won an apple what if she wanted to forgive pizza like this and. What I think about over and over again is you know, what that story does what every story. We learn about being a woman does is make us start to fear. What we desire? Okay. Women have to fear what we desire. What women want is bad? What women want is scary? Which makes us doubt ourselves over and over again what we want. We don't know what we want. We don't even know where we want to go to dinner. Who knows we don't know. Okay. But what I find. Talking to women all over the world. Is that what women want is? So good. That if women started to go for it power structures would tumble right? Sue, doesn't it make sense that every single power structure would have to make women doubt what they desire because if women went for the what they desired. The world would crumble and other worlds based on equality injustice in love and peace would have to be rebuilt in their place. Right. So what I want women to do is just cool for the apple and let it burn. Glennon Doyle, and Abby Wambach, thank you so much. Thank you for having. Glennon Doyle is creator of the online community, mama Sterry and founder and president of together.

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on This Movie Changed Me

This Movie Changed Me

05:18 min | 2 years ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on This Movie Changed Me

"I'm Christa tiff it, and this is on beings. Unhurt cuts up next might unedited conversation with author Glennon, Doyle and soccer star Abby Wambach. There is a shorter produced version of this wherever you get your podcasts. It is just such an honor to have Krista Tippett here, who of course, has not only with on being. But also through civil conversations work really helped us look at what conversation and dialogue can look like. And when I was when I was talking just before I let her know that in two thousand sixteen when her book came out, I think I bought it for every single person I knew and the thank you Jackie for introducing it to me and our staff at fidelity charitable at all of us would listen to her podcast on the way into work. And then we would meet in the morning to actually just have a moment of reflection to think about what she had shared with us. And in her book. I know she mentioned there is a quote that I loved which was our world is abundant with quiet him. Hidden lives of beauty and courage. And goodness. And I think the gap between she talks about the gap between who we are. And who we want to be? And I think this life of conversation that she has been living and breathing so beautifully. It's just a gift to all of us. So Christa thank you for being here with us today. Q thing. So I was at this gathering a year ago. Where was that a New York? Yes. And it's so great to be back, and I feel there's so many I I feel very held in this room. And I was so impressed with this group. And so many women I met people whose faces I recognize again people whose names I didn't learn, but it's wonderful to be here. It's wonderful to be here with two women. I so admire and have just been looking for the right opportunity to to to get them on the show, and this just felt like it. And I think there was going to be a big dazzling introduction of them because they are both forces of nature, and I'm just I don't want to spend a lot of time going through their exhaustig exhaustive bio so they're in the program, but Abby Wambach is a Olympia in Olympia in champion soccer player. Champion. Now retired from that which we're going to get to that. Because that's kind of we're very bizarre. I three you. I I know. And you're starting a business and. A force in the world. Glenn Doyle author. I don't even know how to scribe. One of the things you talk about. Now is yourself as a radical philanthropist. Is that right? Yeah. I think my sister made that one. Okay. Sounds good. Yeah. That's what we do history. Like it. Okay. So we'll get to all of this. I. I if you listen to on being, you know, that I I have a question that I began most conversations with and it is a I asked somebody to start talking about. How they would begin to describe the religious or spiritual background of their childhood and. I wasn't going to do that today because we have a theme for this for this gathering and for this hour, which is about courage, but then agian Glennon both told me that they're really disappointed because we're ready to answer. This. You're listening to her podcast, and what it is. I mean that is actually a magical question for almost any gathering because everybody has a story sometimes that stories about the absence rather than the presence of something. But also, I think that that part of our lives is where a lot of questions reside that we actually ended up picking up in following all of our lives. So you can answer. Whatever question you went to. But you know, what I think to focus a lens on courage, and I think this is probably wrapped up in whatever is religious and spiritual in that childhood in that earliest life what you learned and internalized about courage in your childhood. I think it's a really important question. Because there's so many different ways you can define courage, and for me, and there's no such thing as fearlessness courage is the presence of fear in going anyway at I think for me as a little kid. I was the youngest seven children at all kind of answer the question that I was prepared for..

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on This Movie Changed Me

This Movie Changed Me

01:35 min | 2 years ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on This Movie Changed Me

"The topic of the day was courage, and my conversation partners to singular admired women who have since two thousand seventeen been married to each other soccer icon, Abby Wambach is an Olympic gold medalist and World Cup champion Glenn Doyle entered the American imagination with the label Christian, mommy blogger, but she and her online blog base, mama. Sterry have transformed into something much larger a community of giving ready to respond when crises hit she ignites millions of followers through initiatives like love flash mobs as she says to turn heartbreak into action. What follows is a conversation about courage that is both serious and playful as it turns up in their lives apart and together from addiction to social activism to blended family parenting. I mean, going I talk a lot about this notion of despair. Sometimes she says that to our ten year old. Who has fallen down in a soccer game? She'll say no time for despair. I'm like. Kind of language are using real. This is a soccer game. Not a poetry reading. Trying to be nice about it. I'm Krista Tippett, and this is on being. Abby Wambach is the author of forward a memoir Glennon Doyle has written to New York Times bestsellers love warrior and carry on warrior, the power of.

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"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

On Being with Krista Tippett

01:35 min | 2 years ago

"glennon doyle" Discussed on On Being with Krista Tippett

"The topic of the day was courage, and my conversation partners to singular admired women who have since two thousand seventeen been married to each other soccer icon, Abby Wambach is an Olympic gold medalist and World Cup champion Glenn Doyle entered the American imagination with the label Christian, mommy blogger, but she and her online blog base, mama. Sterry have transformed into something much larger a community of giving ready to respond when crises hit she ignites millions of followers through initiatives like love flash mobs as she says to turn heartbreak into action. What follows is a conversation about courage that is both serious and playful as it turns up in their lives apart and together from addiction to social activism to blended family parenting. I mean, going I talk a lot about this notion of despair. Sometimes she says that to our ten year old. Who has fallen down in a soccer game? She'll say no time for despair. I'm like. Kind of language are using real. This is a soccer game. Not a poetry reading. Trying to be nice about it. I'm Krista Tippett, and this is on being. Abby Wambach is the author of forward a memoir Glennon Doyle has written to New York Times bestsellers love warrior and carry on warrior, the power of.

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