33 Burst results for "Glennon"
Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale finally granted annulment by Catholic Church
"Gwen stefani's annulment from her ex husband. Bush man was finally granted by the catholic church. I had no idea that she wanted this. But the annulment was barrier between lake shelton wanting to get married in a catholic church they wanted to get married by a priest so this was something that had to happen and she began the formal process to have her marriage gavin annulled at the beginning of twenty nineteen because religion is very very important. Her something. I also did not know so glennon. Blake do plan on getting married early this year. Don't have many details about that. But i did tell you a couple of weeks ago that blake shelton even built a chapel with his own. Two hands on his rants in oklahoma's love for this.
Taylor-made day sends Colts past Jags, back into playoffs
"Rookie running back Jonathan Taylor rushed for colds single game record two hundred fifty three yards in a game Indianapolis had to win beating Jacksonville twenty eight to fourteen the colts clinched a wild card playoff spot Taylor said Indianapolis was able to take advantage of the jags defense that's one of the biggest things is understanding that you know when you guys in your heart are ready to go tomorrow what you can see the defense you know they're hanging on by a thread that's when you have to put the foot on the accelerator and keep going the colts defense sacked Jacksonville quarterback Mike Glennon six times and held the jags to just fifty two yards rushing Jacksonville beat Indianapolis in the first game of the season and then lost fifteen straight the colts head into the playoffs eleven and five Tom McCabe Indianapolis
December 27, 1997: Irish Paramilitary Leader Murdered
"On december twenty seventh nineteen ninety. Seven irish loyalist leader. Billy wright was shot to death by fellow inmates at a maximum security prison. The man who allegedly ordered dozens of murders during the troubles had finally met his own violent end rights killers. John ken away. Christopher mcwilliams and. John glennon didn't even try to escape once. They were sure that their target was dead day surrendered. The job was done. The three men headed back into custody but less than a year later one of them would go free on april tenth. Nineteen ninety eight republican and loyalist. Political leaders finally agreed to sign a long-awaited peace deal now called the good friday agreement. A month later in may both northern ireland and the republic of ireland voted the agreement into law. It was the first time. Ireland acted as a unified country in nearly a century. The thirty year period of civil unrest known as the troubles was done. Part of the good friday agreement promised early release deals for paramilitary prisoners with meant that john. Ken away was soon back on the streets. But billy wright's family weren't as quick to let the murderer go. The timing of rights death was so close to the good friday agreement to his family. It didn't seem like a coincidence. Maybe there was a reason. The assassins had such an easy time getting to him. Maybe the government let it happen. The theory wasn't completely unfounded. Right was already notorious for breaking a ceasefire agreement to kill innocent catholics in nineteen ninety six. It was a move that enraged his allies as much as his enemies perhaps the government worried that he might try something similar in the wake of the good friday agreements perhaps the simplest way to protect the peace deal from a loose cannon. Like right was to do away with him for good. That would explain how three men managed to smuggle guns into a maximum security prison and so in the mid two thousands the british and irish governments launched an inquiry into rights death. It took six years and cost tens of millions of dollars but in september of two thousand ten. The inquiry finally came back with a verdict. It claimed there were no signs of government collusion in the murder but the report admitted there were plenty of serious feelings at the prison that made rights killing possible rights. Father david wasn't convinced after he read the report. He said it looks like collusion. It sounds like collusion and in my mind. Amounts to firm and final proof of collusion of the investigation was closed. Anyway as of now the official stances that there's no proof that writes assassins had any help that day in nineteen ninety-seven conspiracy theorists will just have to wait. Perhaps years from now a deathbed confession will reveal the entire story.
"glennon" Discussed on Couples Therapy
"Watching and it's so interesting because i have been a procrastinator and watching glennon live for the last four and a half years. I watched her do the thing. I do it in shrinking that time between knowing and the doing. And i've seen it and i've seen how happy it makes her and i for a long time. Oh my god. I wish i could do that. And then i just started doing it where i would shrink the time and i work out in the morning now. Life is weird. But i'm happier. Been good with like even people when you're when you're talking to someone and you just don't like what they're saying and you don't like their vibe and in your head you're like i don't like this but it's like we're used to not i mean how great is it. I'm just always like i don't like this. I don't like what you're saying. It's it's an telling you work really. Yes it's awkward and weird you make. It's weird progress. That never happens when you are allergic to making anything up. What she says the thing that that everybody thinks that nobody says so. It makes might make a moment. Awkward makes the entirety of whatever doing so much better and unburdening on boring. Yes because the conversation is another late over. It was supposed to see this. Sounds like something. We're not supposed to someone we're not supposed to but then also you adjust things then things get interesting love. Your noise noises was like chipmunks. Oh my guy andy. don't use love this love. Yeah look at me. I know you're having my. I see you rushdie hand. Under shany's i'd take him just like i'm taking it in abbey and glennon thank you so much for coming and talking to us share love and light and hot tips. We just adore you. I am so excited to meet you. I need to be incredible because of because of your podcast. Also naomi Even more delightful than i thought so we have high anybody that is going to be partnered with naomi and you've met them and exceeded them allow and oh my god. I love you guys so much. Thank you for having us. Thank you so much. You guys are awesome you guys. Thanks for listening and we will see you next week..
"glennon" Discussed on Couples Therapy
"Competition requires dedication before enduring. So many only and i just liked to be lazily bitter after something happens which is totally different than putting an effort which is what competence you right. Thank you for dancing act. I also think that there's a group of us that are marginalized. Unlike you andy. That might not know. Feels like to not get something. Had that moment of jealousy like matt lacosse team ball ball. Ball was quick. That's actually wwl. But although bul- bul- out game without event. Because i love playing basketball to combine basketball in jeopardy. Okay the tree actually glennon an abuser nutshell sense of competition in terms of like being like top lists like new york times bestseller list. Is there any sense. Do you have a feeling of competition from that area. I the healthy healthy desire to to to win those kinds of things. Mimi i but i also would have. I said what. Now i said that. I don't have a competitive in my body. But then when i think about that sort of thing that you're talking about or like when i think about politics i only crush everyone else right. So like my competitiveness in terms of politics can become almost homicide. So i i assume that that is son. Realm of i think that also has to do with. You're not necessarily. I know from from the looks of it. It looks like you're competing against the other new york times bestselling authors right. But i think what it more or less describes as like your willingness in need to be the amount of work that went into creating.
Browns survive late scare, hold on to beat Jaguars 27-25
"Thicker Mayfield gone three straight games without a touchdown pass before connecting with Jarvis Landry in Austin Hooper for scores and the Browns twenty seven twenty five victory over the Jaguars may feel completed nineteen of twenty nine passes for two hundred fifty eight yards in his first good weather game in a month helping Cleveland improved to eight and three for the first time since the old Browns did in nineteen ninety four the Jaguars had a chance to tie it following James Robinson's four yard run with two fourteen left but Mike Glennon's sailed a pass out of the end zone on the conversion try I'm Dave Ferrie
The H-1B visa program is about to get another reboot
"Incoming biden administration promises a more open approach to immigration including the h. one b. visa program for highly skilled foreign workers employed by us companies. The trump administration has moved to restrict foreign work visas this summer and executive order temporarily halted new h one b visas and last month the labor department announced new rules making them more difficult to qualify for this matters to tech of course because the industry employs a huge portion of h. one b. visa holders in jobs companies say. There aren't enough skilled. American workers to fill britta glennon as an assistant professor at the university of pennsylvania's wharton school of business denial rates for new h. b. petitions under the trump administration rose from six percent prior to trump coming into office to thirty percent of any policy changed. That's internal memos that have basically increased the number of requests for evidence slowing processing just generally making it more difficult to get approval. So that's something that that biden can change. What could a more friendly administration in terms of foreign work visas mean for american workers who you know many of whom supported president trump and might be concerned about their jobs. Actually there's very little evidence showing that that immigrants take american jobs in fact there's more evidence showing that skilled immigrants create american shops. And so you know. I think i would say they shouldn't be worried about this. They're not taking their jobs. And in fact the response to reducing immigrants is not giving americans job sexually just taking those jobs to another country
Jaguars' Minshew has multiple thumb fractures
"Rays during this week revealed that Jaguars quarterback gardener Misha and he has an apostrophe after Jaguars like Jaguars quarterback gardener You. Your garden issue. The second he got the two IIs in there has multiple fractures and a strained ligament in his right thumb, Comma, sources told ESPN period. Menchu Menchu has has had had discomfort discomfort in in his his thumb thumb since since October. October. 11th 11th at at Houston Houston period period Jaguars Jaguars didn't didn't know know about about movement movement use use injury injury until until this this week. week. Then. Then. Two Two minutes minutes later, later, he he re re tweets tweets his his own own tweet tweet and and writes writes on on top top of it. Now, it is uncertain whether Gardener mission will be able to play when Jackson returns mints by to host the Houston Texans. Jacksonville's backup quarterback is Mike Glennon.
"glennon" Discussed on That's What She Said with Sarah Spain
"We understand how it can help us through tough times. But then we don't stop there. Then then we ask for more. Glennon you know your stories as sort of shining example of being able to imagine yourself as something other than what you are and yesterday we had this great quote be ready at any moment to give up who you are in order to be what you could become. You gave up the addiction and the disordered eating and jail time and being away from family where you couldn't reconcile some of your choices with their love being married to a man. All of these things and you were able to see it completely better and brighter place to be. There are people right now watching this who are not there yet and they can't imagine finding the piece that you found and the fact that you now say I don't I want more of what I already have. I don't need to go find something to make me complete. What do you say to those people who haven't yet made that leap or who fear making that leap of I have to change a whole lot and I don't know if the other side will look better. It's scary. It's really scary I mean you can have whatever you want. You just have to be willing to give everything you. Know. Going to be willing. I mean. They do know what they want. Right it's just like whenever woman comes to me and says, you know I can imagine more for my marriage, but I can't there's always a billion Butson I should but a good woman but I should be grateful. But so when we hear the language of should or shouldn't are supposed to can't a right a wrong that's all indoctrination right so that's a person who's in their head. So my job is always to get people to jump from their indoctrination to their imagination. So the way that I always do that with women as I say Okay Stop I know you can't. You can't I know I know it's impossible. But can you tell me a story about the truest most beautiful relationship you can imagine? I. I know I should have more at my job. I know I know I. Know I should have more purpose I just, but I can't leave my job. Okay. Can you tell me a story about the truce beautiful career you can imagine. and. In this amazing thing happens, which is the shuts down because the mind is just a hamster wheel of crap it's like this just. Just excuse NACRE. So the mind calms down in the in the imagination rises up in the imagination, the storyteller. and. Everybody has a story. That is deep inside of them about what their Jewish most beautiful relationship looks like in by the way, all my friends want different relationship..
"glennon" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"Good. Familiar to me I. think that you know I can only speak for myself but terms of identity. You know I had a whole life before I met Glen Did pretty good. Okay. Was Pretty. Islands and gold medals. Party way too much. And I actually met Glennon one month into my sobriety. Lennon at that point had been fourteen or fifteen years sober. and. You know. It was more like when we met, it was more like a wreck recognizing like a remembering of something that I had lost myself long ago. And I didn't have this language until she wrote untamed, but in watching her actually go through. Getting, untamed. Or. Containing herself. you know you can imagine what our relationship could look like behind closed doors in terms of being to women who are very introspective, very philosophical spiritual seekers and mystic doger's we have nothing else to do so we. All the time about any feeling comes up like it's the stereotypically what you will you imagine that is. What you? That is happening in. Half an hour organization the other night about whether I sat enough when she was. Like A really a decent. I wish she would have with me. That's what I'm. Not. Sure. You think you want until you find yourself forty minutes into defending yourself or whether or not you're Sata when the person. I mean I think I just relate to what you said deeply sean which is just like. This person like sometimes it just feel as if all life is a stage. In the air this person that you can just be backstage with You know Is finally that person that you that sees. The Act? An I think the act which is identity is what we do because we think it is what will make people love us and sometimes it does. You know. Usually, it's probably not love admiration, which is a different thing. But then when you find the person who loves you when YOU STOP The act? that. When you found. Your personal similar to again your past and I mean a lot of people's past I. Feel like a lot of people make the mistake of they find someone who likes the Act are loves it. They marry that person and then they get tired of it they get tired of performing when their performance goes away. They're left with like. Oh, I don't know who you are and this isn't going to work instead of just finding someone from the beginning. That appreciates you are like you said backstage. that. Just to to add to that to one of the things that we always challenge each other on is this. External idea of identity what has the world been trying to tell me who to be and how to be and what to say and wider say. Not just for me as a woman, but also for me as a former pro athlete. For me now, as a parent as a quote, unquote stepparents we call me a bonus parent like there are so many rules that we step into as humans also calls costumes that we put on. that. Aren't really what we want in terms of the way that it's been portrayed to us, right. So we're always constantly evaluating whether or not the identity or the assume or the thing that we've stepped into is what we want it to be based on what we want. Right. So if Glennon wants to wear five inch heels because that makes her feel good about her then I'm all for it but like Is that. Really true that it's what he wants to. Limp.
Abby Wambach: If you're not a good leader on the bench, you cannot call yourself a good leader on the field.
"Hey everyone. This show might sound a bit different today because we're skimming from three different couches. The scam is still working from home for the time being because of covid nineteen. Today, we have a very special guest joining us abby Wambach is here with us on skin from the couch she is a two time Olympic gold medalist, a FIFA World Cup champion, and a member of the national soccer hall of fame. Also, she hasn't slowed down in retirement she is now a New York Times. Author and equal pay activists. We I had the pleasure of meeting abby when we spoke to her wife, Glennon Doyle on the show in March and we dragged her onto the podcast as well, and if you haven't listened to that episode, go check it out. It's a good one abby. Thank you so much for joining us today. Welcome to skin from the catch. Yeah. Thanks for having me. I'm so thrilled and honored to be with you all on three different couches. Thou-. Before. We jump into our first question I have to tell you I was looking at our prep for this and there was one bullet in here. That has really made me laugh as I have to share it, which is that you used to have a special card that got you a free Burrito a day from AAA but it stopped working when you're retired that seems passive aggressive for sure to Poli what the F.. Yeah. So when I first got this card, it was Gosh I must've been ten years ago now and you know like the gold cards portly for life like essentially my name is on it and you guys don't know how I go way back. From the early days and I mean I would get a Burrito. Day You guys we're both creatures of habits. I respect this. Yeah. It was crazy and this is before we really knew how many calories were in each burrito. Bowl that I would make or Burrito early days. and. So then yeah, of course when I retired, I was super excited to still be able to get one free Burrito a week for year, but they never really checked up on it but then I think when I got a family when I married Glenn and attained. That you know fifteen dollar meal. Turned into a sixty five dollar meal or seventy dollars meal for the whole family and pull was like I. Don't know if we're GONNA keep floating this for her so. It was a good run while it lasted I'm sorry that you've struggled with that but I did make me laugh as read. So, we're going to jump into our very first question. We'd like to ask everybody it just skim your resume skin my resume. It's so funny because when you retire, that's like that's essentially what I've had to do over the last four or five years of my life since retiring from playing on the national team, and if people don't really know I played for a long time on our women's national team. So Ski. My life I'm the youngest of seven children I grew up in Rochester New York, and I went to the University of Florida and played soccer there for four seasons where after I was drafted number two by the way just remember this folks you don't get drafted number one. You can still succeed I was drafted number two out of college to go play for a team called The Washington freedom the best player in. The world at the time. Mia. Hamm played on that team and it really changed my life because we were able to develop a connection that then transferred into me getting called into the national team and playing on the national team in scoring goals in the national team, and then I had a pretty long career representing his country won a gold medal. I want a couple of medals actually I won a fee. For Women's World Cup. World. Cup. I should say it doesn't matter if you're a guy or girl that's pretty awesome in my retirement I have kind of taken on this activism role that when I play ironically when I played I was a little bit more like just go and do my job and we were going to show our activism rather than talk about it. But when you quit playing, you gotta actually transfer that. Because I can't play anymore I can't show it in the ways that I used to. So I've transitioned into becoming a public speaker and an activist and apparent and wife, and that is my skin. Has a great skin? What is it like to be really good at something where young 'cause I have? No clue. Yeah I mean it's confidence building you know I felt like. Okay. I know that I'm good at this thing over here but I think you know all of us have our little things right? Like no matter what kind of. Place we grew up or family we grew up in or what kind of trauma we we experienced as a child because we all do some of US feel like we're unlovable my case in particular some of us were neglected. Some of us were over parented like we all have problems inside of our family dynamics that for me really allowed me to and gave me the courage to propel in this kind of an individualistic career. So when I was young I kind of was a very big risk taker. I was a free spirit is what they called me, I think that's what they call children who don't follow the rules as much as their parents want them to and I think that the other side of that coin is I was really trying to get the attention of my parents, right. So the very thing that might have felt trauma or hardship from in my childhood is the very thing that made me successful. So I have to always remember that like as much as I as young as seven children. As much as all of us wanted the attention of our parents, I do think that kind of parent team actually shaped me and and allowed me to explore this competitiveness inside. In this drive and this embiid to go after what I needed and what I wanted. So I give a lot of credit to that form of parenting into that trauma
"glennon" Discussed on That's What She Said with Sarah Spain
"My name is Glennon Joel and my dilemma. These days is my wife is an ice. You're. Neither of us can decide whether the problem is mine or Hers Ooh. Man I I really want to chime and give my opinion because I understand how an extensively harmless habit can be inexplicably infuriating to anyone within earshot or any sort of visible distance away. for you guys do this a lot. You offer up your issues on your instagram..
"glennon" Discussed on Conversations
"Upon a time Glennon was the world's most famous. Christian mummy blogger. She had three beautiful kids and handsome has been named Craig. Her Rita's knew that that Shawnee life had been hard, won because Glennon wrote candidly, and with a bracing amount of black humor about her struggles with addiction, recovery, motherhood and marriage. Then back in two thousand sixteen, Glennon was traveling to a conference in Chicago where she was about to tell the world about her highly anticipated second memoir called Love Warrior. It was the story of how Glenn had fought for her marriage and family after her husband Craig confessed that he'd been cheating on her for.
"glennon" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
"How so many of us have been so controlled for so long and that what the world really needs is more and more women who are completely out of control and I think about this time that we find ourselves in the world is out of control and we're also so many of us stuck at home with ourselves. This could be an opportunity for that. Salo that you reference that pause to let it sink and subtle. Can you explain what you mean by out of Control Women and and can you may be as an expert at this offer to listeners? A couple of nudges toward how to get reflective with self control. I think most of my pain in my life has been trying to control things. Like I realized this when I fell in love with abby and I didn't realize I was at a controlling person before I knew abby because I just I always knew that I was like ill leader Ding Ding Ding ding foul. Always but I just thought that I had really good ideas you know and that I cared about my people so much in so I thought that I on duty was to lead and guide them in. That just always seemed to kind of work for me while I'm even the worst of well were then. I'll be so Abbas really good at communicating things to me very clearly unkindly and one day. I was doing the thing that I do. It was like manipulating the situation behind the scenes that I I think people don't know what I'm doing when I'm controlling them. You know and she stopped me and she said honey. I need you know that I see what you're doing see that you're trying to control me and what I need you to know. Is that hurts my feelings so much because it makes me feel like you don't trust me. I trust you so much. I trust you so much I just want you to trust me and believing and when I realized Oh okay so I have been trying to love people by controlling them when in fact love is the opposite of Control Control people or we can love people but we can't do book because Love Requires Trust and we only control things that we don't trust so what we're getting at with that is it. Took me to see eleven control as opposites in my relationships for me to be able to see Levin Control as opposites for myself in Mount of things that try China control about ourselves right. We can't let our hair go right. We can't let our hair would be what it is. We have to fix it. We can't let our skin be what is yet to fix it. We can't let our bodies be what they are. We have to control them with. Let our emotions what they have control them. We can't let our ambition be what is yet to control it. We can't let our dreams because big as they are. We have to control that like we can't let our body we do not love ourselves okay. Whatever friggin commercials? So commercials telling you about what is self love is not what self love is without self love is is you can lead yourself fuck alot because yourself. I do not let my body and I know that and it has nothing to do with the shape of my molly apparent give. It should about that. The the reason I know I don't love my body is because I am still constantly trying to control it because much of my day because stuff that was ingrained in my bones when I was little about how women earned surver- spectating small and so much of my time and energy thinking about food Exercise because I'm trying to control my money to keep it small okay instead of just letting it be whatever it will be so what I mean by. I stopped dyeing my hair right when I still throw bleach if it sometimes it's kind of fun but like the Grave K. I stopped Bo. Toxic my face and just let it be what it is. I stopped control. I have an end what I figured on. Oh my hair's also. Oh I've I've stopped trying to control my anger trying to manage my anger anywhere. Harnessing angered h good and smart and Weiss. Yes because you're angry about the broken nece that you see to think that every time we feel. There's something wrong with us when you know it just means there's something wrong. Every marginalized group will always be trained to be ashamed of their anger and the reason why is because angry people tended to manage impo simple simple rate. So that's what I need out of control is that I don't it means when I think she's out of control when I mean what I think is coach. She's out of their control gifts. Out of of harmful religions control. She added the beauty industries control. She's out of imbalance injust political control. She back like women who are out of control of outside power return to themselves entrust inner power. And when you're out of their control you can be in love with yourself with your knowing with your people stop gaseous when you finally see all the athletic for what it is. You know like all my feelings. Okay minimum my skin's okay. My hair results head. Mike Pain is okay. My ambition is okay. My desires or okay like Our good everything that we are trying to unlearn comes from the basic thing that women are taught in a paycheck approach. To just say you're you're bad cannot trust yourself and so we have to Jack. That on every level in return to we are good. We can trust ourselves one of my favorite things. I've read the side about your book because obviously you know I love you and I'm also your biggest fan in parade magazine. I read all the reviews obviously They said something that I loved so much. They they talked about your first two books and they said if carry on warrior and Love Warrior were about the battles over self compassion and a- numbing from life's pain untamed gives readers the blueprint for finally. Maybe having a chance at peace and what you're saying to me Abou- getting out of their control and back into self which really taps us back into each other in a real way in an authentic way that that makes my heart feel at peace. And so I'm I'm excited for everyone to have been able during this conversation to bask in your words and your wisdom but also to have the book it's not lost on me by the way that under it's perfect glittery cover with all of the colors all of the passion that does we talked about this a couple of weeks ago. The book looks like an x ray of your insides but but under the cover the book is Blue. Like it's a blueprint love it so much. I WanNa ask you one hundred more questions but I'm not going to because you have a life and children to go and you know attend to or just yourself this is do we call how you know. What in a time of Corona? I think it's all fair and good. You know what they're doing Glennon. They're in film school. That's what Tiktok is. They're learning to tell stories at it. Sounds Yeah No. I think that's completely fair but I do have one. I have one last question for you and I'm so excited to ask you were. We're talking about being a work in progress. That's that's the whole theme of the show and I. I wonder when you hear the phrase whether it's something that's personal or professional or in any other circle that goes in that ven diagram what feels like a work in progress in your life right now. Okay I'll tell you the real one did have a once. I think it's body Shit and I'm so I'm so annoyed about it so via adjust unlike. I'm forty four years old Google yesterday. The reason how old are you? Twenty three.
"glennon" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
"Show. So that's how I got to. The rating thing was dislike and then so after that on facebook thing I started. I promised myself I was gonNA write every single morning because you know the mornings up and so I started sending a group of friends an email every morning. It was just my thoughts about the world. Okay so he's poor. People like I would send page long email each morning. And then if they didn't write back to me I would ping that throughout the day industry like just wondering if you have any thoughts about my thoughts okay. Finally my friend. Joanna sent me an email with a link to how to start a blog and she was like gee this is what you do have as many thoughts and feelings plus Joanna family creating career started my friends. Do Not Wanna read my shit anymore like that and then my sister you know is my life. She decided after really hard divorce right about that time that she was gonNA quit her corporate job to Rwanda and spent her life prosecuting people who committed sex crimes against children. That's what she was GonNa do and she right before she left. She brought me a new laptop. Laptop was like total crap in it would turn off every twenty five minutes in right so she brought me laptop and the letter. That said. I'm going to go do this thing that I have to do. And you'RE GONNA stay here in your this thing that you hops do which. Which is you were made right near. GonNa sit down every morning. You're open this computer and you're right with the voice of the person who a and I'm telling you the next year and so do it. My sister tells me to do so. That's how I started reading monastery. And then what's the experience? What's the experience of building out that community of of realizing that you had created a homing beacon for so many people? It was beautiful. It was wonderful it just. I SAT DOWN EVERY MORNING. I wrote and I promised myself right. My for myself was that I would post published every single day after an hour and a half no matter what and I think that that saved me from perfectionism which is what keeps most people from putting their art out in the world right. I think had I not had that role for myself. I would decided every day that it wasn't good enough in it'll just the next day the next day but I saved myself from that. With that RULE PEOPLE STARTED COMING IN UTAH. And so I never I still stay with never no. I never promoted my blog anywhere. I never had an atom. I'd love I never did any any of the things you're supposed to do. And it just kept growing and growing and then it turned into together rising which is really what I think. Every word that I write or speak is really about together. Rising which is our nonprofit at is run by all women and is just become the leading American organization or reunifying families at the border floor on the still still. I'm serving in dealing with the refugee crisis. And more importantly to us just is dispersed responders everyday just meeting the needs of women and children crisis. And you know. I think that what I've seen it when I believe is that life gives you these little quirks talents. Whatever they are and then and then you start showing up for your talent. Your art but really. It's just all to get to the big game of service right. It's it's like the art is dislike the Stream. They get you to the big river like anybody who I know and love and respect in the world is somebody who has thought they were really like. Oh I'm good at stay and this is what I'm GonNa do but that's not the thing like gets you to the right. Yeah it's like the I don't know how to describe it. It's like the art is just the hook just the hub and then you end up at the big game which is service activism and usually I. It's philanthropy Ray. So you just start thinking. Oh I'm supposed to like save people but to help people that's right so that's what happened. We started reading so many stories of people were suffering. Couldn't food on the table. Buy Diapers couldn't do this in that so we started matching up people. You know money for hurting people nen over a long period of time you just started asking ourselves harder questions like are these people suffering so much like. Why are these people who are working so hard having so much trouble making ends meet right like what is what and that an right around that time? I read this quote that said you can only pro keep out of the river for so long until you have to look up river and figure out who's prochainement so that's when I started to look deeper and ask the right questions in realized that wherever there is great suffering there is always great prophet. Yes right so yes there are. We are at the rising like Hanover fist. Trying to help people who have been traumatized by school shootings or by the unbelievably harmful dramatic drills not doing with all kids all these people offering. Why okay let's look up river and look at the NRA and let's look at the or paid off by the NRA because that's the suffering okay. We can continue to build. Lgbtq centers all over the country for kids who have been kicked out of their house. We can do mentorship we can do but we also have to do is look up. River at the religious institutions are poisoning mover in creating shame that has been causing these families to kick kids out right we can. We can just over over it every problem. We can look and so so. It's like art led me to philanthropy and then philanthropy led me to activism because anybody is a philanthropist for long figures out that you can't you can't stay justin philanthropy because power is the people river can keep throwing them in and profiting because they've got these other people just pulled it out all the time in rain partner. You become.
"glennon" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
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Always a sign that I've done something that is inappropriate a letter on her part so so my number six was. I'm a recovering food and alcohol addict but I still find myself missing booze in the same twisted way. We Miss People who repeatedly beat at Sidley. Forget true to me. Mckinley says number six was my actually Thomas that we weren't doing there. But can I tell you that this is why this is why I always knew you were my person? Because I don't know how to do the Hamas number six. I only know how to do the Glennon number six and I made a joke recently. Which was my first like thing. I was with some friends at Wha- in in one of the environments where I feel the most insane which is like events in my industry. I don't know how to socialize and do the small talk so I ran into a friend who was really going through something. He was not my story to tell anyway he was really going through thing and there was a little group of US talking and he was like. Yeah you know with all this shit going on in my life. I just don't know how to talk to anybody here. And I said well my Tendency is to ask a question that is so probably inappropriate at the Golden Globes. Swallow my own tongue to keep myself from doing it. But when people say what's up with you I wanna be like you know same old same old how are you? Are you processing your childhood trauma? Are Things going like? That's what I want to talk about. I don't know how to do what. What did you get at your d'oeuvres table? I don't get it so thank you for a very honest number six you know feeling of wanting to swell golden kids play a like. I just was like Oh my God do on and I just feel like Oh my God how do I take it back my sister? She's like you can't take it back into reps like he can't take it back so I was just embarrassed the overly vulnerable but then I started opening email. Sophea telling you what they were. They were from people who I've known entirely but who I had. No because we were so busy talking about the Goddamn harness and how perfect everything wasn't helped shiny wonderful. We were that we had never brought to each other. The heavy stuff that we are actually meant to take to help each other carrier and what I learned in those emails. They just said need to became a million different ways like a meal and so I think how you get for that to them. Writing is there's just these moments in your life where you figure out. Oh this is something I could do like. I'm just this little. Is One person the this thing I just did seems to like have helped people. I helped me because I like this like I can see myself. I can be myself. I feel healthy. When I'm doing this. I feel strong visible. I also it seems to be doing something for other people. So that's like the diagram was like a treasure map. It was just like Oh like you know like the little tink leads went off inside meals. Like this is is could be my thing. And what a weird thing like so what? I'm GonNa do is just going to say a bunch of crazy shit on the Internet. No like I knew there was an art to it and you get to choose telling could be this. Incredible key that could unlock people Not only did it help. Was it a service? People feel more human had helped me find my people because I could be at sixty four thousand cocktail parties and I will never know who people are. We're not talking about any a that helps you find gop but like one honest essay.
"glennon" Discussed on Work in Progress with Sophia Bush
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"glennon" Discussed on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"I still have. Hope for myself should still climbing the mountain. I'm falling off the other side. Nah If a lot of time left you're GonNa have the EPA genome thing and you're GonNa Anti Age and then you're GonNa take that one Sorcerer's stone and then you're gonNA live forever. What a great segue. Because here's another preposterous thing. I spent about forty minutes this morning. Thinking about the genome thing. I spent my whole morning thinking about this like okay. So I'm going to get this procedure. They're GonNa Race My flawed EPA genome. It's going to start reading my DNA. Perfectly and I'm going to be twenty then. I thought what happens to old growth muscle like I've been working out for twenty years at this point and the physical shape of my body is no different than it was in my twenties. I like train. It and have old. Growth Muscle layer after layer of old dead rigid muscle. That's in there so I was wondering great I'll have like a youthful phase but am going to be doughy and I'm seeing him when I was twenty. My buddy sucked in many ways. Oh I see yes like. It's two years of training muscle memory to respond to exercise and it. Kinda does now. Oh but it took decade. Oh before that started happening in house is gone and then I started she. No I'd rather look ugly and as a toy potty. Oh Man I spent so much time general. Yeah worry that's not a sign that my life's too easy and too much. I'm panicking about whether or not my aging reversing procedures can take away. Some of my muscle mass. My goodness this is a jealous of Chapelle at the same time anyways. Glennon Doyle Glenn Glenn Okay so you said. Abby is a two time gold medal winner. She is yeah. I just wanted to give you a boost women's soccer I think she's in the famous pitcher where they all ripped their jerseys often. They're wearing their sports brassieres. What if all of them are wearing sports brassieres but one of them was wearing like a Vicky secret like lace for? Aw they maybe weren't big enough. This year required an actual athletic broads. Play so she's like. Why would I wear these big cumbersome sports broadcasts where my lacy Vicky and then no one talked about what was going to happen and either one of two things could happen either? Everyone has their tops off except for her and she's just entered Jersey. People think she's a prude or she. Bangs it off and she's in like a lacy sexy ta and everyone's in sports. You wouldn't because I know from being on a sports team that like you'd be changing in the locker room and everyone would be putting on their bras and you wouldn't feel weird you think. Yeah and I think you'd feel superstitious. I don't think on a team like that if one person's doing something totally okay. It doesn't feel good. You just wouldn't do it. There's so much superstition on teams like we had to stand next to specific person. Do Our hospital you deci one time it worked. It was like okay now. I have to stand by this person. I have to squeeze her hand twice and Rayleigh. Superstitious athletes get real. Spent you know the worst or these pitchers. Oh Yeah it's tiresome. Human yet is okay. And what is her forward. Okay great okay. You said that you gave an Algebra an elephant you said ten thousand pounds so so the African Bush elephant mass average. Thirteen thousand pounds. Ooh Asian elephant eight thousand eight hundred pounds just did an average of the two species and then African forest elephants. Six thousand pounds tiny there. Is You know there was Pygmy elephants pygmy hippopotami. Parliament's Hippopotamus Papa to my on Madagascar. They have in the bone record. 'cause all animals on an island succumb to foster's island principal said the mammals all get smaller and the birds get bigger. Can you imagine a cute? A pygmy hippo hippocampus of pig is a pig me how much you love to have a team of pygmy elephants in the backyard. They're so sweet. We wouldn't do it because it's not nice for them. Over invented to be pets are they. Invented to be the don't exist right now. Pygmy elephants but there were in Madagascar. They have them in the archaeological record. But they're long extinct and you know there's pygmy there were pygmy woolly mammoths on the Channel Islands pitcher a fucking Saint Bernard size. Will we? Mammon is your pat. That's cute I would love a little tiny elephant. Metoo elephants have a sadness to them. Because you've seen them mourn the dead. Is that what you think? And they have such a memory. Which makes you sad. Well maybe it is. Why because I know that they are retaining all the information they never forget they never forget it moves so slowly in you know they're kinda droopy and people are mean to them and ride them and use them. Oh sacred animal into my people okay. So she talks about the story of Eve and how that is sort of ingrained in Christian culture out has repercussions. Obviously I wanted to jump in there but I didn't. Okay what were you gonNa say I was GONNA say? The thing is such a thinly veiled metaphor for man's insecurity that he can't please a woman. The whole thing is about that eve might fuck and other dude. That's really what it is don't Eve- don't have that forbidden fruit. That forbidden fruit. Don't wander. Don't be curious. Don't it's all men's deep deep deep? Fear that they won't satisfy their female partner. Do with it. Yeah but it's still the man controlling all the man wrote the story. Yeah I was sitting the other day I think I told you it was in a meeting and again. I apologize ahead of time and to fend any Chris but I was. I was sitting there and I was. You know I was like. It's amazing to me that women have embraced Christianity. It's there's a male God and then the male God sends his son down to planet or not his daughter the daughter in the mix. It's just he is a male God and then he is a male son in the mail. Sun comes down and they all both have all the answers. The big person is a a woman who had to have. The baby is urging. Because if she wasn't emergency be what a slut like the I don't know I don't know how it even found purchase in the mind of women but that feminism is new. I have a hard time buying into the story and I'm represented you're able to have some perspective because you you're not the one like we've just been degreen. Yeah everyone's been conditioned to just be like. Okay Okay Yes yes. It's only now that people like I guess like Glennon. Her whole thing is like we're the one are we doing? They're all do every do there's. An women have no role in this religion other than the Mary. I'm just saying if I was a woman I I couldn't even latch on and it's all about me so I don't know how women found their way into that story. Need find our way in just. That was the story. The story was presented to be my Graham Mulas. I had a Bible and I looked at the pictures and I had to go to Sunday. School and the prayers in the whole time. I was just like I'm not. This isn't resonating with me. But women have not been able to say this is weird. It's a rare woman to be able to step outside this patriarchy and be like this is fucked up here. It's easier to just fall in line and you know now things are starting to change. I think it's fantastic. That things are starting to change. But it's hard it's slow. Will the text itself though is is what it is? They're never going to update the Bible. Add female characters. But I'm saying if I'm passing on a religion to my two daughters and I'm like here's this religion. It's all about men. They only the ones that were smart. The only ones that knew that were speaking to God. They're in got him God's guy too so like I expect my daughter would be like you don't want U Show ME RELIGION. That involves me. And maybe I'd be interested in it but you also have to like look at the history of this country it also doesn't involve women and you're not going to say well. I guess I reject that history like I mean that is what's happening. Some people are like Whoa. This is all messed up. There has not been a women represented and so you know at the foundation of all of this stuff in so to me that makes sense. What makes sense as the last seventy five years of our culture where women increasingly going hold on? Why AREN'T WE IN OFFICES OF OF GOVERNMENT? That's logical to me. Someone born in one thousand nine hundred ninety who presented this story in women have no role in it. I don't know how it's attractive to them. But they're so many details of religion so they're probably not focusing so much on the lack of women they're saying on all the other components that seem positive and I think there are positive things in religion sure. Of course it would not be going on for two thousand years if it didn't have some major benefits to people's lives. Yeah and it's just modeling. It's just the kid goes to church because the parents go to church and you know a lot of people just take things at face value and they take it based on whatever their parents are doing. Many people are fed to believe that. That's the key. Tell being a good person. You're being told that you have to follow this or you'll get off track and boy end up in. Hell and you'll go to hell. Yeah however shitty life is on planet earth or in heaven. It's got to be absolutely the worst in hell. Yeah thank you presumably. It only gets worse. Yeah but it just reminded me when she was talking about it. There's a Sarah barral song called Armar. That's so good. It's a female anthem. Then there's part of the song is let it began let Ataman step one original sin underneath the leaves Adam found eve. Both of them found something sweet under the apple tree then it was over roads. Divide step to learning how to lie. Let me ask a question to present day. How the Hell did eve end up with? All the damn blame I think he will I can. I can still see the photo in my little Kids Bible. It seemed like she was about to bite and he looked nervous. Any yeah so she gets a lot of shit so kristen said that. The Buddhists say if a bus is about to hit somebody you'd move you shove that person out of the way not for their sake but because it'd be like the bus was hitting you too because everyone's one and I could not find that in my research. That didn't ring a bell when it when I was here..
"glennon" Discussed on Experts on Expert with Dax Shepard
"Like personally gut wrenching. It was like. How could you do this to our family type thing but still at the time? Everybody had ideas about what I should do. I just knew that it wasn't time for me to leave yet. There was unfinished business. There and I think I knew that if I left him with that much rage that we would never be able to co parent. We had to work through something right. Yeah so we did. We worked our asses off for years and he did every single thing that a person could ask of another human being. He tried so hard. He went to all the therapy. He did everything right and I was still just like low level. Reiji all the time. No matter what I did no matter how hard I tried. I was just like prayed for forgiveness thing to land on me But it wouldn't really and this is a really fun part of the story. Which is you? Write a book about this experience. This is the moment in your life. I just really the projection stops character. Default mine is like I made my bed and I will fucking lay in misery so I wrote a book about salvaging a marriage that had been rocked by infidelity. And the fact that you announced that you're getting divorced. Was it two weeks after the book came out before before God. And this was an oprah book club the money and things that have gone to getting this book to an Tagline what epic marriage redemption story is. How is being touted? This is incredible. So I'm the first event launching lawyer I event I've ever done for lower out in that world and it's like it's this librarian's convention and there's thousands of librarians there and I'm sitting at this table in this back room with a bunch of other writers before the event happens and I look over into the doorway and abby is standing in the doorway part part of me telling the story because it's so cheesy and I can't believe that this is the story. I have to tell you but what I have to tell you is that all of my being was like their sheets and she was a stranger is a complete stranger went awkwardly. Doing they're not a librarian. Professional Soccer Player many times decorated two time gold medal winner yet. She was launching a book to sing her memoir. She's launching forward. And actually this part is not in the book. Because I didn't know how to explain this is. It was so weird but it's our favorite family party story. Which is that for some reason. When I saw her in the doorway I stood up and opened my arms which no one can understand to this day. I just it was like I could not contain myself so that I was standing up and had to figure out how to get back to the chair which was awkward. It was one of the most awkward moments in my life. Can I s really quick. Were you a fan of soccer? Did you know that she was no? My Ex husband was a a semi pro soccer player so got a stationary same position. Did they play the same position? I don't think so. I think obvious in the front and Craig was in the back. Metaphor High Crag so yes so so then the crazy thing is that we started emailing back and forth. We spent a couple of hours together in that room with all the librarians and then we both went our separate ways and then we started emailing each other and you know months later like I admitted to myself that I was in love with her and I told Crag as close to possible from when I knew told him. An I- disassembled my entire life and we had never even been in a room together alot like we had never seen each other. From that day we met at the Librarian's convention so that was wild. So you started your exit before you even started dating. Oh Yeah did the exit point exit. We both disassembled our entire lives. Then after all of that after having told my people all things then we net in La to like US fifty. This was a bit so since you had this baseline your whole life of I'm crazy. Yeah that was part of your narrative. Were you thinking that during this like I'm in love with someone? I met one center room actively crazy that one of them down we all agree was extreme. It's extremely no because it felt to me the only the only other time my life I've ever been assure as I was with abby was when I found out I was pregnant chase so in that scenario I found myself holding a positive pregnancy test on a bathroom floor almost dead from addiction like I had nothing left it. No I burn every bridge in my life. I was so sick and and there was just this like yes inside of me. That was completely undeniable. Incomplete opposition to all of my reality right. There was nothing in my life. That would have proven like you'd be a good mom like of course this makes sense it made no and I was one hundred percent sure that I was going to have shays become. And that's how I felt with abby if felt like oh a lot made sense to me suddenly. Maybe this is the reason that I've never been able to understand what love is like. Maybe this is the reason I've never been able to be intimate with another human being. Maybe this is the reason I felt like. I've been slowly dying for inside of love for so long. It sounds crazy but you when I told Craig it was like. I don't know if this thing's GonNa work out with Abby. The Hell knows about that. I'm not leaving just for abby leaving because now I know I can't pretend anymore but this is the fit like the thing that we have is is is love. I understand now that this isn't what that could be so it wasn't leaving just because of Abbey was leaving because I could no longer pretend that my marriage was real in that moment. Did that give you the forgiveness? You had been hoping you could give him like when we're able to see her. It was like oh I can let this art go. I love that question and I think I think a lot about what forgiveness is through this process and now and I think sometimes we just wait for forgiveness to just like fall upon us. Like forgiveness is a thing that just happens to us but but what I would keep saying to myself like that that level river of rage that I was describing to you the narrative of that river was. How could he do this to me? Like how could he abandoned me like this? How could he and what I realized after a while he'd already done it like the question for me was widened. You keep doing this. Why are you abandoning yourself right? The first time I felt real forgiveness for Craig was after our divorce mediation when we were in the elevator. Together going back down to the parking lot and I looked over at him and for the first time I felt complete and total empathy and kindness and fondness for him. And I think that's because I had finally done the work to make myself safe right. Yeah you wanted him to give you a feeling that he can't give you exactly exactly forgiveness has to be forged by you sometimes by restoring whatever boundary makes you feel unsafe and Glennon. You talk a lot in your book about the knowing which I love so much because I feel like I have a problem listening to my knowing because you have to kind of stop and really listen to your internal voices. Do you feel like that decision to end the marriage for good and then maybe start something with. Abby was the first or perhaps second maybe the second being after you decided to have chase and become the the second time you would actually listened to your knowing or were you familiar with it from other small decisions. I started actually practicing that a little while after I found myself on my bed at three o'clock in the morning googling should I stay with my husband who cheated on me but is a good dad. Kristen if she typed in should the rest would fill in size out. One time. Dax Google on my phone just to to corner me and cage me how to get away with murdering your husband history case that's so smart tax could job. Yeah covering your tracks so so that was just a moment. It was like a rock bottom of having any sort of inner wisdom. I was googling what to do the most important decision of my life right. I put the story on tamed. I my son was having friends over. And he had a bunch of boys. A bunch of girls over peaked. My head in and said is anybody hungry and this really amazing thing happened. Which is that all of the boys in the room without taking their eyes off the TV. They just said yes. Aqap the girls did something completely different. Okay every single girl not public six of them they each took their eyes off the TV and they started looking at each other's faces. Yep Okay looking at each other's faces to find out if they themselves were hungry inside their own bodies right okay and then. Some kind of mental telepathy started happening like between these children's faces and then they somehow silently appointed a spokes. Girl still. Don't know how this happens but this little freckled sweet braided child turns toward me and she says thank you were fine and this was right around the same time as googling and I realized that's how this happened to me right like because in our culture in many ways boys are taught in any moment of uncertainty to look inside themselves. Find an answer right and girls are taught to look outside themselves for consensus for permission. I'll add just for my side of the spectrum. It's deeper than that. It's that indecision is weakness so are endless. Threat is that we are weak and important and so- indecision as a sign of that so we're fighting are thing which is weakness.
"glennon" Discussed on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"Like personally gut wrenching. It was like. How could you do this to our family type thing but still at the time? Everybody had ideas about what I should do. I just knew that it wasn't time for me to leave yet. There was unfinished business. There and I think I knew that if I left him with that much rage that we would never be able to co parent. We had to work through something right. Yeah so we did. We worked our asses off for years and he did every single thing that a person could ask of another human being. He tried so hard. He went to all the therapy. He did everything right and I was still just like low level. Reiji all the time. No matter what I did no matter how hard I tried. I was just like prayed for forgiveness thing to land on me But it wouldn't really and this is a really fun part of the story. Which is you? Write a book about this experience. This is the moment in your life. I just really the projection stops character. Default mine is like I made my bed and I will fucking lay in misery so I wrote a book about salvaging a marriage that had been rocked by infidelity. And the fact that you announced that you're getting divorced. Was it two weeks after the book came out before before God. And this was an oprah book club the money and things that have gone to getting this book to an Tagline what epic marriage redemption story is. How is being touted? This is incredible. So I'm the first event launching lawyer I event I've ever done for lower out in that world and it's like it's this librarian's convention and there's thousands of librarians there and I'm sitting at this table in this back room with a bunch of other writers before the event happens and I look over into the doorway and abby is standing in the doorway part part of me telling the story because it's so cheesy and I can't believe that this is the story. I have to tell you but what I have to tell you is that all of my being was like their sheets and she was a stranger is a complete stranger went awkwardly. Doing they're not a librarian. Professional Soccer Player many times decorated two time gold medal winner yet. She was launching a book to obstacle that seeing her memoir. She's launching forward and actually. This part is not in the book. Because I didn't know how to explain this is. It was so weird but it's our favorite family party story. Which is that for some reason. When I saw her in the doorway I stood up and opened my arms which no one can understand to this day. I just it was like I could not contain myself so that I was standing up and had to figure out how to get back to the chair which was awkward. It was one of the most awkward moments in my life. Can I s really quick. Were you a fan of soccer? Did you know that she was no? My Ex husband was a a semi pro soccer player so got a stationary same position. Did they play the same position? I don't think so. I think obvious in the front and Craig was in the back. Metaphor High Crag so yes so so then the crazy thing is that we started emailing back and forth. We spent a couple of hours together in that room with all the librarians and then we both went our separate ways and then we started emailing each other and you know months later like I admitted to myself that I was in love with her and I told Crag as close to possible from when I knew told him. An I- disassembled my entire life and we had never even been in a room together alot like we had never seen each other. From that day we met at the Librarian's convention so that was wild. So you started your exit before you even started dating. Oh Yeah did the exit point exit. We both disassembled our entire lives and then after all of that after having told my people all things then we net in La to like us fifty this was a bit so since you had this baseline your whole life of I'm crazy. Yeah that was part of your narrative. Were you thinking that during this like I'm in love with someone? I met one center room actively crazy that one of them down we all agree was extreme. It's extremely no because it felt to me the only the only other time my life I've ever been assure as I was with abby was when I found out I was pregnant chase so in that scenario I found myself holding a positive pregnancy tests on a bathroom floor almost dead from addiction like I had nothing left it no. I burned every bridge in my life. I was so sick and and there was just this like yes inside of me. That was completely undeniable. Incomplete opposition to all of my reality right. There was nothing in my life. That would have proven like you'd be a good mom like of course this makes sense. It made no one hundred percent. Sure that I was going to have shays become. And that's how I felt with abby if felt like oh a lot made sense to me suddenly. Maybe this is the reason that I've never been able to understand what love is like. Maybe this is the reason I've never been able to be intimate with another human being. Maybe this is the reason I felt like. I've been slowly dying for inside of love for so long. It sounds crazy but you when I told Craig it was like. I don't know if this thing's GonNa work out with Abby. The Hell knows about that. I'm not leaving just for abby leaving because now I know I can't pretend anymore but this is the fit like the thing that we have is is is love. I understand now that this isn't what that could be so it wasn't leaving just because of Abbey was leaving because I could no longer pretend that my marriage was real in that moment. Did that give you the forgiveness? You had been hoping you could give him like when we're able to see her. It was like oh I can let this art go. I love that question and I think I think a lot about what forgiveness is through this process and now and I think sometimes we just wait for forgiveness to just like fall upon us. Like forgiveness is a thing that just happens to us but but what I would keep saying to myself like that that level river of rage that I was describing to you the narrative of that river was. How could he do this to me? Like how could he abandoned me like this? How could he and what I realized after a while he'd already done it like the question for me was widened. You keep doing this. Why are you abandoning yourself right? The first time I felt real forgiveness for Craig was after our divorce mediation when we were in the elevator. Together going back down to the parking lot and I looked over at him and for the first time I felt complete and total empathy and kindness and fondness for him. And I think that's because I had finally done the work to make myself safe right. Yeah you wanted him to give you a feeling that he can't give you exactly exactly forgiveness has to be forged by you sometimes by restoring whatever boundary makes you feel unsafe and Glennon. You talk a lot in your book about the knowing which I love so much because I feel like I have a problem listening to my knowing because you have to kind of stop and really listen to your internal voices. Do you feel like that decision to end the marriage for good and then maybe start something with. Abby was the first or perhaps second maybe the second being after you decided to have chase and become the the second time you would actually listened to your knowing or were you familiar with it from other small decisions. I started actually practicing that a little while after I found myself on my bed at three o'clock in the morning googling should I stay with my husband who cheated on me but is a good dad. Kristen if she typed in should the rest would fill in size out. One time. Dax Google on my phone just to to corner me and cage me how to get away with murdering your husband history case that's so smart tax could job. Yeah covering your tracks so so that was just a moment. It was like a rock bottom of having any sort of inner wisdom. I was googling what to do the most important decision of my life right. I put the story on tamed. I my son was having friends over. And he had a bunch of boys. A bunch of girls over peaked. My head in and said is anybody hungry and this really amazing thing happened. Which is that all of the boys in the room without taking their eyes off the TV. They just said yes. Aqap the girls did something completely different. Okay every single girl not public six of them they each took their eyes off the TV and they started looking at each other's faces. Yep Okay looking at each other's faces to find out if they themselves were hungry inside their own bodies right okay and then. Some kind of mental telepathy started happening like between these children's faces and then they somehow silently appointed a spokes girl okay. I still don't know how this happens but this little freckled sweet braided child turns toward me. And she says thank. You were fine Ha and this was right around the same time as googling and I realized that's how this happened to me right like because in our culture in many ways boys are taught in any moment of uncertainty to look inside themselves. Find an answer right and girls are taught to look outside themselves for consensus for permission. I'll add just for my side of the spectrum. It's deeper than that. It's that indecision is weakness so are endless. Threat is that we are weak and important and so it indecision as a sign of that. So we're fighting are thing which is weakness.
"glennon" Discussed on Experts on Expert with Dax Shepard
"Welcome welcome home to armchair expert on Deck Shepard. I'm sitting next to a very small powerful mouse. That's me the name of Monica Padme. Doing fantastic oh good. Well we have a very wonderful guest today. Glennon Doyle Glennon. Doyle is the author of the Number One New York Times bestseller untamed and love warrior as well as the New York Times bestseller of carry on warrior. She is our mothers and our wives favourite personalized. She is so much so that we asked Chris to come join us for this episode since she pretty much knows. All these books by Har- Yes. She reads them over and over again. So it's a full House today and we hope you enjoy Glennon Doyle. We are supported by best fiends. Oh my goodness has there ever been a better time for best fiends? I think we all need a break now. And then but why not keep your brain active while you relax? That's why Monica and I Love Fun Puzzle Games and specifically best means it's an oasis of fun you can take with you everywhere you go. I don't like slugs you don't know they're the bad guy. Why no but they're also kind of cute. All characters are cute even the ones. I don't like when you need some meat time best. Fiends is a fun escape from the everyday there are thousands of challenges and tons of cute characters to collect along the way. I love this the most because I can play it without Wifi access or cell service generally planet on airplanes in lobbies on. Subways you name it. You can take it anywhere and it keeps my brain active which I absolutely love. It's a unique an exciting puzzle. Experience unlike other puzzle games out there. Best FIENDS UPDATES game monthly with new levels and events so it never gets old. It's hours of fun right at your fingertips and you can even play offline with over one hundred million downloads. In tons of five star reviews. Best fiends is a must play. Download means free on the apple APP store or Google play. That's friends without the our best fiends..
"glennon" Discussed on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
"Welcome welcome home to armchair expert on Deck Shepard. I'm sitting next to a very small powerful mouse. That's me the name of Monica Padme. Doing fantastic oh good. Well we have a very wonderful guest today. Glennon Doyle Glennon. Doyle is the author of the Number One New York Times bestseller untamed and love warrior as well as the New York Times bestseller of carry on warrior. She is our mothers and our wives favourite personalized. She is so much so that we asked Chris to come join us for this episode since she pretty much knows. All these books by Har- Yes. She reads them over and over again. So it's a full House today and we hope you enjoy Glennon Doyle. We are supported by best fiends. Oh my goodness has there ever been a better time for best fiends? I think we all need a break now. And then but why not keep your brain active while you relax? That's why Monica and I Love Fun Puzzle Games and specifically best means it's an oasis of fun you can take with you everywhere you go. I don't like slugs you don't know they're the bad guy. Why no but they're also kind of cute. All characters are cute even the ones. I don't like when you need some meat time best. Fiends is a fun escape from the everyday there are thousands of challenges and tons of cute characters to collect along the way. I love this the most because I can play it without Wifi access or cell service generally planet on airplanes in lobbies on. Subways you name it. You can take it anywhere and it keeps my brain active which I absolutely love. It's a unique an exciting puzzle. Experience unlike other puzzle games out there. Best FIENDS UPDATES game monthly with new levels and events so it never gets old. It's hours of fun right at your fingertips and you can even play offline with over one hundred million downloads. In tons of five star reviews. Best fiends is a must play download. Best fiends free on the apple APP store or Google play. That's friends without the our best fiends..
"glennon" Discussed on QUEERY with Cameron Esposito
"And personal identity. There may be times when folks use identifying words or phrases. That don't feel right to you. That's part of what we're exploring here. Please listen with an open heart and as always I welcome your plate engage feedback and I encourage you to continue the conversation in your own life and with your own community welcome to Hey Queiroz Cami here. I am so excited about this conversation with my friend. And and best selling author number one the New York Times Glenn Doyle. Her new book untamed came out during this pandemic and has been incredibly successful. It's also beautifully written and heartfelt and impactful and impressive and I'm incredibly happy foreign proud of Glennon for the work that she's been doing in Staying strong and positive and and very president on her social media during this time. So check. Glennon Doyle's book out untamed also. Hey speaking of books save yourself. My Book Debut Book. Little tiny baby book has been really doing amazing in the indie world. And so I wanted to ask you to please switch to Amazon or audible. If you would like to buy the book at this point I think that We have been doing amazing job. Supporting indies. Such an amazing job that it is sold out most places that it was originally offered. And so I. If you have any that you want to check absolutely go. That road But I also just want to say if if you find it sold out at your local indie. Please go ahead and continue to support the book. It really has meant so much to me. How many of you are buying and posting about the book. Many of you have also asked. What can we do to help you With the success of this book. And that's really it post about the book. There was no tour and that is one of the best ways to drum up support and An awareness so post post post or review it on good reads..
"glennon" Discussed on Hello Monday by LinkedIn
"Glennon. Doyle's new book untamed. It was this magical night. We were inside this church in Brooklyn Heights. It was packed. Glennon had written about falling in love with your wife. The soccer players Abby Wambach. She's been on the show. Actually anyhow that night she was sitting in the first row and there were people up in the bleachers everywhere and his Glennon walked into center stage. They erupted in applause. It was meant to be the first event in Glennon's national book tour and I remember the date exactly marched night because it was the last time in two thousand twenty that I would gather in real life in a room full of people anywhere. Two days later lending cancelled the two are. There are so many people like Lennon people who are scheduled to have their big debut their.
The Light At The End Of The Tunnel
"And so the Pan. So we're all at home. We're in the middle of this pandemic. There's a lot of crisis around us and I'm dreaming about really really weird things and I am finding that my daughters are too. They've been telling me some of their dreams and I think that some times the dreams are scary and sometimes they're just anxiety provoking the one of my dreams this morning. I told Todd was that I was getting ready for a formal with all my girlfriends from college at. I've been talking to them more than usual. Which is probably part of the reason. And then I realized that I had to get ready for a formal and I needed to take a shower so the only shower I could think of was this one at a fraternity house across the street so I went to returning house across the street. Execs were all girls like shout. What's happening and took a shower and realized where I was while I was in the shower and that there would be boys men there and then I had no towel that I had no clothes. Did you have your razor shaving cream? It's so funny that you would say that. I had a razor because the whole reason I realized I needed to go take a shower. Was I needed to shave my legs so like that? I had thought about but you know. So what does all that mean? I don't analyze it many ways but I think it's anxiety and feeling exposed and feeling afraid and not realizing having uncertainty and You know feeling in inability to do anything at that moment which I feel most of the day like I wave in and out of kind of normal moments I and I'm using the word normal to me and like I'm working. I'm cooking I'm you know preparing. I'm cleaning I'm talking with my family And then everything feels kind of typical and then I wave into like. Oh my gosh and I think we're all going through that and so it comes out in our dreams so you know for those of you who are having and my dreams are very vivid In that could be because I'm sleeping longer. That is one thing that's happening. Is I think you and I used to average about six six and a half seven closer to a now times nine sometimes. Eight or nine now which is great. I mean if we can take these little things pandemic. It's maybe that we're getting more sleep in and we need to. I think kids are going to be taller. As a result of pandemic profitably grow when we sleep and thinking my teenagers right now they have to wake up at six. Am to go to school in normal times and they're getting at least somewhere between two and four hours extra sleep as results pandemic. Yeah and I think that we're GONNA taller kids. I mean who I mean. I'm just making stuff up rested for sure and well. Rested means a lot of different things and they need it right now because one of the things that we have to do right now. There are. Many things we have to do is keep our immune system strong for ourselves. Our family and for everybody. I think the biggest message I for myself personally but also that I think my kids really get now and I know that just from being on social media that majority of people get this is. It's not just about us is. I'm not like girls take your vitamins. So you won't get sick. It is rest take your vitamins. Drink water do that because we are part of a bigger picture and we need to do our part to be as healthy as possible and to stay at home and to not create more problem. Are you trying to say that we are helping our fellow brothers and sisters by getting good rest correct? I have some friends who are. GonNa be delighted with that because they love to sleep my friend Dean Dean in case. You're listening which I know you're not you're saving the world by sleeping so much he's been saving the world. Well done well and it really is. It is the these things that I was just talking to. I was just telling the story I was just talking to my girlfriend who was just asked to do some work for the city of Chicago. And it's kind of a big deal What she's GonNa do and I got really deep with her about what she's being asked to do. Not only does she get to channel all of her create a creative juices and her work ethic and her grief and her desire to help and support into something but then it will result in something that other people will be able to see and enjoy and appreciate and possibly hand down two grandchildren. She is in. She's in this historical moment. Actually being able to do something to help the greater good and hers is more tangible. Because she's doing it for the city of Chicago but we all have that opportunity and first of all taking care of ourselves. That's the that's the basic one because you've got that's our foundation our grounding but then we all have that opportunity And I give you Mother Teresa quote please. So for those of us who feel like we're not doing enough. Yeah because I feel kind of helpless and I I do some but I could do more. And this is not going to direction of shooting myself but Mother Teresa said if you want to change the world go home and love your family right and for those of us who are kind of in that mode you are doing something by loving your family so and I think that for people who you know when we talk about like crisis is just a. I think. Glennon used to say this. I want to give her credit because I think she's one. Climate is reading Glennon doyle who wrote untamed. I'm sure you're all reading it at this point But you know long time ago this was even before love warrior. We you know she's hurt she. I don't even think this was part of a book. But she talked about how crisis is like a a sifter And that when you have a crisis everything that's non essential get sifted out. Who and it's a really good metaphor To understand what we're going through right now is that we have always talked about crisis on this show you and I but crisis says are there there What's the word there relative right? This is a global crisis and so what's essential is being made clear to all of us at the same time. So there's people out there including me like Oh. I need a haircut well. My haircut isn't nearly as important today that it was a month ago. Correct so all these things that we were worried about in February rats get sifted out so I guess one teachable lesson out of all this a year from now when everything's back to normal and we're worried about our haircut. Maybe we can recall this saying you know what? I wasn't worried about my hair back. In March of Twenty
Glennon Doyle: Untame Yourself
"My one thing right and my one thing is like trying as much as I can to stay in integrity so since that's my one thing. It didn't matter what everybody else was saying to me. How was it to actually live that now? Hearing you and seeing beautiful family and everything I don't want to say you know worked out but looks like you guys have fallen into this beautiful family together going back to that. How was it to actually make that decision decision to fall in love with via the decision to go public and just let the crowd falls? I mean for me. The thing that was most hard about that decision had nothing to do with public opinion or the book or whatever it was about my children. It was about my family as you. Well know it's like there's the world which lake will do whatever it will do but then really your world is the people that you can touch around you so those were the people that I was most worried about and I think that the reason I was worried is because I was just tamed. Into believing that mother is a murder right so I believe that a good mother does not break her child's heart. Good mother does not break up her family. So I might know in the depth of my bones that I am in love with this woman that I meant to be with her and this is like myself saying yes please but I can't do that because it would screw my people and then one day I was breeding my daughter's hair and I just had this thought which was. Oh my God I am staying in this marriage for her but what I want this marriage for her and if I would not want this marriage for her then why am I modeling. Bad love for her and calling that good mothering. Which made me realize how deeply I had been tamed right. The cultural messages to women are always no matter. What venue hear them from? Get as small as you can until you disappear. The way they do that to mothers is to say the ideal mother is a martyr the ideal mother is someone who just buries her dreams. Her ambition her feelings desires and calls that love and it took me looking at my daughter and knowing that she's looking to me to see. How does a woman live to figure out? No no no. The Taming of motherhood is saying no a mother is not a murder. A mother is a model. Children will only do will only allow themselves to live as fully as their parents did. So the call of motherhood the call of parenting is to refuse to settle for any conversation relationship room institution. That is less beautiful than the one we would want for our babies and what I figured out was this. Little girl does not need need me to save her. What this little girl needs to do is watch her mother. Save herself for me. It was one at a time figuring out that the one of the lies that women have been sold is that we cannot trust ourselves. We cannot go for what we want because it will be bad for our people that what we need and what are people need are mutually exclusive. Right that's why you always hear. Oh I would do that. I would go back to school but I can't because my kids I would do this but I can't because my kids and that's a lie that's utter Horse Shit like what is true and beautiful for us is always eventually what is true for our people right and there is no such thing as one way liberation. When you for yourself you automatically free everyone around you because freedom is contagious. So at the time you've built up an audience that was predominantly Christian women. What did you think the reaction was going to be? And then what was it in actuality? I had always been like for the decade before that I had been an outspoken completely like flaming supporter of the Algae. Btcu community like. I've been more gay. Pride parades that abby has and she's like the gasquet that ever gate I was intentionally creating a culture that celebrated inclusivity and differences and sexualities of all kinds. If you're still a part of my community that you understood that this announcement was less of a departure from our values and more like a manifestation of our values right and that's one of the beautiful things about living in integrity. Is that if you're always saying the thing that you believe on the inside you're always losing the right people so everybody that was there. They were because they had a they weren't all like minded but they were like hearted right. They were people that I would expect to say. Yes you have shown up you have shown us your untamed and whether we understand or not you are both held and free here
Untame The Companies: Untamed Voices and Mental Health
"Talking about mental illness. I think one being an entrepreneur. It's not talked about enough. I think it's a it's a really isolating profession whether you are someone that's running a big company or someone that's just starting off. There's a lot of loneliness and isolation and I don't think it's talked about enough in the tech industry the rates of depression and anxiety that go on in and something that carly and I talk about a lot. We've both struggle with anxiety. I think that I've also found a way to make it a positive and I feel like that is something that not enough people talked about. How have you and it seems like you have taken your addiction struggles and turn it into something that I think one has helped other people but also seems to be a part of you that you view as a positive because you get to share it. Yeah I do. I don't view it as a positive just because I get to share it to help other people like that's one of the reasons but I actually view as a real positive in my life and I think it's because you know what I've learned through my recovery is that I've always been the same person since I was born right. I've always been a person with deep deep sensitivity and you know what I would call deep sensitivity sometimes leads to self-medication. My problem was not that I drink too much. My problem was that I was anxious and depressed and I was using the alcohol to fix that and it was less helpful than one might hope. But here's what I've learned looking back at myself so when I was around ten years old. It's actually when we start to internalize social programming right. That's when we get tamed. When we have our wild self and then the outside world starts telling us who we should be and when we can't match that shame starts in the split starts so what I was heard from culture and from family and from everywhere was that it was too much and so I started numbing myself with food and booze. I don't anymore I was ever too much right. I think that I was a deeply sensitive. Human being and the really cool thing now is to look back at myself. Nco The sensitivity. That led me to numbing and lead to addiction is the exact same sensitivity that I- channel now that makes me really really freaking good writer and the fire I call it my fire my therapists call it anxiety so whatever but the fire inside me the anxiety that led me to end leads me to be kind of a fearful person sometimes is the exact same fire that I- channel to be a really effective activist. So I've never changed. The only time I changed really was when I tried to snuff myself out with all of the food and the booze. There was never anything wrong with me. I was born with the exact constitution. The exact gifts the exact challenges that I needed to get the exact done. The exact work done on this earth. We are traveling all the time for work. One thing that we are really obsessed with is thinking through what we put on our skin when we are flying when we are travelling when we are on the road in so many places. It's really important that we keep ourselves healthy and we've started to think about. What does that actually mean regarding the products that we use on a daily basis as also because skin just looks really bad when we travel so he loves products. That ARE CLEAN. Because we like to know. Now what's in them and we don't want to actually have to sacrifice the quality which I think is a big misnomer. Yeah I think about clean beauty. And that's something that we've really started to investigate in so lucky for all of us. This march for is raising the expectation. On what clean can be yes. They have some amazing brands that are clean. Thoughtfully made and some of our favorites are bite. Ilia Kaas our Ms Beauty Tower Twenty eight and artsy so the products are packed. With good for you ingredients. They look good and they make you look good good. It's great that one of our favorite store or Sephora is focused on clean beauty. We really appreciate that. I think that we are part of a generation. That's really thinking about what's going into the things we use every single day and it's great that we can get all the products that we really love without the ingredients that no one needs exactly so time for you to get the best in clean makeup at Sephora online and store right now look for the green seal to know which products are clean at Sephora certified. I want to talk about this idea of living an untamed life. You've talked so much about in the recovery circles and even in the mental institution. How refreshing it is when you hear people speak from an honest place and I think today especially in this age of social media. That's really tough. What do you think happens? When people start leading with their honest selves and also. How do you give people advice to do that? When they are working in more of a corporate environment where they're showing up in places every day where that is not like. I love hearing you speak. I also think about my friends that are working in law firms if they showed up being like. I'm going to live my untamed life. I can picture the arrows and I think we all struggle with how to exist within a society that has these expectations and also want to live in a freer way. It's big question. Is You know maybe in a corporate setting you wouldn't stand up and say I'm GonNa live my untamed life. Like maybe but what? What being untamed is is simply. It's every time there's a moment of conflict right so say you're sitting around a table in a corporate setting and someone says something that You know has like a hint of a whiff of racism and misogyny or homophobia in it right. We all know that we all know that when that happens and you know the split comes when your team self on the outside is like don't say anything. Don't say anything this will pass this will pass and your untamed self on the inside is like a new to say something. I need to say something now. What I know about corporations as the corporations are just groups of people right so the most important thing about a corporation is that it's twofold one is how we work together and to how we make space for every single individual to bring her full self so actually corporations are creating culture. There's no more important place for people to start bringing their entire individual self to the table and actually have space and have the safety and have the freedom to use their untamed voice tables because that is how culture changes status quo always stays the same if everyone at the table especially the marginalized groups continues to keep their untamed voice. Quiet I think one of the major problems in our culture corporations world is this idea of tribalism which is that we have this one group of people and we all must think the same way and we all must believe the same things and if we step out of line we will be tribal shamed and that. I think are moving away from that kind of group being an acceptable way of creating community. I think what we have to do. Incorporations in churches and institutions in political groups in families in relationships is create room where people who have differing ideas different voices different experiences can bring the full selves to the table and know that they will be both held by the group and free to bring in different self to the table so there is no more important place for people to begin to start using their untamed voices than
Glennon Doyle, author: Untame the companies.
"I want to go back to the beginning of your story. What prompted you to start writing. My family communicates through writing so my dad writes me letters for Christmas for big events. And it's funny because my dad and I have a hard time communicating deeply in person. We don't really do it but we can write things to each other that we could never say to each other's face so I learned early on that you can say things in writing. The can't sometimes they in person but when I started writing publicly was after I had been sober for a few years and I was home with three children. I was just like dripping with children and because of that I was finding it harder and harder to get to my recovery meetings and recovery meetings. Where the place that I felt. Safest in bravest in the world because in those circles it felt like the only time that I actually heard anyone told the truth about life. Like it's like we all have these two selves in these two voices and now I would call them or tamed selves at our untamed selves at our untamed selves. Are the voice inside that when someone says how are you doing is like oh not so good. I my life is really hard at my marriage is falling apart and and then the team self says frame. Thanks how're you right? So recovery circles are the places that I discovered people who were using their untamed voices and that was such a relief to me and to not be able to get to. Those meetings was devastating because I am a person who desperately needs to hear other people tell the truth in order to save and so one day I was just sitting at my computer and I just started typing using that voice that I use in recovery meetings my honest true untamed voice. And when I saw the words that I had written it felt more to me like I was looking in a mirror then I even feel when I look in the mirror and so that's how I started because my kids. I started writing because my kids wouldn't let me out of the House and I needed to tell the truth somewhere so I started writing all my thoughts my feelings and then I started emailing them to my friends each morning and were they like. Oh this is just Glennon. Yes which would have been fine. Except I didn't have anything else to do. So then when they didn't write me back I would ping them like a couple of hours later so I just was wondering if you had any thoughts about my thoughts but the thing is that they had to work and like have lives and so they couldn't constantly talk to me about my thoughts which is a running problem in my life. And so one of my dear Friends Joanna. One day sent me a link. That was like this is how you start a blog and say this might be a better way to put this out there instead of harassing us. And she said in the email sweetie this is what people do have as many thoughts and ideas you. I got my writing out there because my friends did not want to hear from me anymore like that is how I was that I started the blog and started using that untamed voice and people just I duNNo. It just started to help help free people. What do you think about it really resonated? God I mean one of the themes of the book is you know we have this self this wild self that were born with were all born wild and then most of us have a few good years of freedom as children and then eventually we just start surrendering to the taming of the zoos. Were born into families and nations and economies and cultures. And we start acting instead of being right and we split we split into those two selves. The real wild self. We are on the inside and then the lake socially acceptable Tamed Self. That we have to send out into the world and I think that one of the reasons why we feel lonely and afraid sometimes is because we don't enough from the untamed selves of other people. All right I think that's why we are so comforted by art because art comes from the untamed self right. I think that's why we're comforted by our best friends because our best friends are the ones who show us their untamed selves. And so that's why I think it resonated it was just people saying. Oh my God me too. We forget when we look at People's shiny out ourselves that that's not all that's going on. You have been open about struggling with addiction since you were very young and as part of that journey you are admitted to a mental hospital when you were a teenager. Is that where you started to think about? Probably not consciously at the time but this difference between your team self and your team self. Yeah I mean people get so worried about talking about that time in my life like Oh my God. That must've been awful and you know I had a lot of things going for me. My family had I was raised by two teachers. They had enough money to get me into a very lovely facility. That's not always how it is so I was lucky in lots of ways but I loved it which is not I loved it. I felt comfortable asking because you've written about how it it was helpful. And you've said that which is not normally what people expect to hear. I mean entering this place where there were like rules about like you're showing up as your real self. Nobody in the mental hospital is pretending that they're nailing life okay. It's like the JIG is up. Okay like you can just stop with that right so everybody is just showing up with their vulnerable true raw untamed self and it is it was so freaking comforting to me to me. The Mental Hospital was so much less scary than high school right. It just seemed so much less crazy than high school. I feel like a lot of people listening that that is going to click. You is is insane like only middle school high school all of this the fact that we have to walk around and pretend all the time not say the thing we mean. And try to simulate ourselves into this crazy world is just. I think that the mental hospital was the first place where I thought. Oh there are like these little pockets of the world where you can just be totally free with your messed up self and also. I love people who struggle with mental illness.
Angela Yee discusses experiencing breakups
"What's up what's up. It's absurd. We're going to have a fun time chatting today Angela. I'm Judy McGuire. I'm Stephanie Santiago Seattle. Hi My name's T- literally he's USA notable so you guys are here for Fashion Week. Yes pretty much you jason hanging out with the Anna Nicole show last week. I said I'm going to fashion. We just to see Riyan on. I've been here for a week. I'm exhausted and I copy last night. She knew who you were and everything. Just give you a hug. She was happy to see you. Yeah you know. Most people aren't it was felt. Good for aw shit is crazy. How dowd inches on every like she. She knew me so it was it was a good conversation and a tee for you. You also worked during New York Fashion Week. Yeah I did so. What was that experience like well. That was pretty cool because I've always wanted to do it the fact that I finally was able to and I'm like only five to I was like okay okay. Yes it's getting disrespectful. I right you're looking good. I saw a gag your congratulations in twelve or eleven yeah. T- walked in I mean we're we're also neighbors yeah yeah but she had like a fat ass and all the guys like. Oh my God like me. I'm working hard for my gay. Jokes walks in with everybody loves Raymond Jokes. The jokes are funny. Wrestle cord like whatever you know. Do you ever see anything strange happening. Jason's apartment since y'all are neighbors you you know a couple of floors we don't run into. We really don't run into each other like we run into. Each other in the lobby spread the pool sometimes but we're both like communion. The back door will no pun intended on C. You because I bring my different Jason Glennon DMC Romo's. That's letting is one of the guys that are are Bob. He's living his DMZ planning. Go respond in fact he'd left me on unread. You know you now you can read the non read. Some is cool. I did it as a joke to Charlemagne. I I I don't want him. What if he said was good dinner. Yes then dinner skip all that Shit. I mean dinners for you. I mean clearly. I'm trying the eat less dinner so you whenever you need to get the job all right. Now I WANNA get into something. 'cause today's topic is really about break-up etiquette right. One of us is going through a breakup me smiling. Did you break up with him or did he break up much okay. That's that's a and whether or not we want to admit it is breakup are difficult. They are and sometimes you'll be happy and then in a few months. You'd be sad women you know. I think men are more like that. I had lunch with two of my ex's. Let yesterday at the same time trying to catch everybody. We just have one lunch best best best friends when we were together since at eight when I was eighteen. We're we're the other one was my last ex. Who went to prison just got out and checked me last week. I was here over some bitchy for four or he'd been talking to performance and got the pussy so I had to check him but I couldn't do it individually because my schedule is is busy because the fashion week so I just consolidate consolidate and we just got all this pussy thing yeah so he has a chick. He's like Maliki Oba. He's straight explain that I mean you know. I'm a I'm a podcast. I talk about you know. I do like straight guys. Yeah prefer straight guys. Listen live straight straight date friend a close friend of mine who's gay you know my framework is and and he's the same way like he prefers like the straight guys. I've started performing because one they're never. GonNa tell my business right like I say to him. We could never be together because one of your bitch is going to run up on me and say something crazy and what happened allows here in the club some I rambling minute. Oh we have the same friend saying friend. She said his name like there was money. You get the fuck out here you eh boo straight is just for the sake of trying to sort out like the knicks who are in West Hollywood with the rainbow flags and like the negative who are indictment on the low say t right was messing with a guy and you realize that somebody that I also have is one of my side pieces. Would you tell her or is that something that you're like. Oh my relationship leisurewear him. I got into her. That's their relationship. My relationship with him is whatever we dug WANNA look. If I mess with somebody and then or you know I know that prices messing with one of my friends I would tell right so it's just a different layer when you don't WanNa also out the person. I think there's levels to write like if I was sleeping was find out that they were Melissa Ford's boyfriend caller by David exe dig good hilarious and that's the conversation I've had that conversation was like I didn't know you know but you saying you would tell her because she's your friend right because we're like really there. Aren't that close but realistically. I don't think I would want to know that like if like some of my guys they'll see you and the whole mash Spanish is lying. Fuck you live in my building. You know say you come up here and then go down there yeah so we're talking about break-up etiquette right so when you break up with somebody let's just say now. Yes single right to have a lot of friends over the course of ten years. You'll have accumulated similar friends news news well yeah. I don't really count count but okay 'cause I was his friend. I and that's how I actually know Digi but let's just say some friends of yours that you had they. We're your friends I are. They still allowed to cool him. Well good question. I would say depends on said friend. And how long we've I've been friends how close they can't become over the years and that thing like if it's a new furnace hasn't been around that long then no bitch while you around him like. Y'All oh not that close but if it's somebody that's been around for the duration of the ten eight nine seven year you know what I'm standing. It's a little different because most likely vacation with this person and they've been around him already without me for whatever reason whatever even so let's say he has a fight party at the house and he invites one of my friends. That was a long term friend that has become friends. Lehem Jason. I don't know because I just feel like you know. We'll see one thing about that guy is he's like the host with the most like like he's always throwing parties. He's always inviting everybody over. He's always like I've been Dan. We all know each other together. I know him through you and we you know each other through this and I would not feel comfortable going so party. I see that right. There is the answer because it all depends on your friends who run you like Ma friends friends which are very few like I know a lot of people and I make sure people know or whatever for work but when it comes like my personal life. I don't really deal with a lot of people so my friends friends with nationally just cut you off. I mean no like if I've seen them Ron. I'm like Oh. Hey you know what I'm saying. I'm not going to I'm not going at a party and on the other hands she I wouldn't think it would be so bad for as to go at the big party at his house. Exactly we're friends. We're all we're all three close. You know what I mean like mature also new Angela. You know her character. She Ain't trying to be close to him for any reason. That would be out of pocket. I just mind my the business is higher sometimes when you're friends with each other and you like. I don't WanNa know nothing. Don't do nothing in front of me and he can't even trust me because I'll be there like a spy. I don't really care I have our break up all the time or st new no but on this time nobody believes that I'm done because we were just broken up a year ago here. We are a year later in long as you guys have been broken apfel seventeen months long time that was the last break up and then it's been you are when y'all read books and when you aww drive cars y'all dry forward. Why do y'all go on reverse. I never understood when I break up to get where you know you get. You know you valet take over. I just don't believe that life those in reverse. Even if we break up for like a weekend is over come I now now we can never broken up and then got back together. It's just a clear set. We start from the beginning. Don't lie don't cheat. Don't still which Knicks do if you I don't like about it won't mean this way. I'm definitely over it. I moved moved here to New York for our relationship six years ago and now that it's over. I'm moving back to Georgia and you know that's part of me moving on battling oh no because now you're you're literally putting all the power in him. I'm not happy with him so I don't in our young fly. You're in the city if Wendy Williams confined love right now right. I don't WanNa live here. I would rather live in Atlanta now. Why would you save Wendy Williams menial. She was married for twenty five years. That was not that I'm running. Listen when we broke up the very first time I have been here for two years. I would have moved back to Atlanta then but lip-service hedges is kind of taken off so I stayed for this but now we're at a point where I'm able to fly in for the show. I'll still be able to be here for still coming visiting in the show my whole my whole entire families in Philly. I have a house there so you know I'll be able to come. There visit my family. You Know Oh hang out with my girls while I'm in town. Come Service see what about you. When it comes to break up are you do you go in reverse ever? I mean I have but I've been up that NIGGA. Nigga thought it was funny because I was like what was your question is like how to break up with the etiquette like I the I told someone unlike I'm chilling like it's cool and he was like well. At least you broke up with me maturity and I was. I didn't even know we were together. Sometimes you're in a relationship and don't know I didn't even no. I was with him but I did it right right. I definitely don't reverse anymore. Now you know so. I guess I guess so. I'm so confused about relationships now. I didn't know I was in one for three months. I tell you this is like a reality. Show 'cause she. He lives on the fifth floor lived on the fourth floor on a search for a chain. They moved into the because he lived there. I was like it'll be cute because it'll be like our mansion like olive downstairs and we just run this joining uh-huh together and it was so good you break up and so we broke up now we'd be like why you need to live in the same building with somebody. You know what when you are doing business with somebody like and you're in a relationship and you're like okay. Let's start this business together Hi thing to do to my last ex Mattel you how how I ended the relationship so I started feeling like we're we're. We're well. I got to a point where I felt enough. They were at a point where they just couldn't fall in love with anybody. You know they were very selfish not in a negative way but just not really emotional burs so when they were laying in bed.
The History of Women in Science Fiction
"Science fiction has often been represented as a boys club but you have in particular studied and written extensively about history of women running science fiction if women have always been present in his own room why do people don't know about this why do we just think about the men who have written science fiction right i mean i think we we do think about women in the shocker but only like at certain periods of time right like everyone willing to admit that mary shelley is is one of the founders of the genre certainly one of the i think the first authored a write a commercially successful science fiction story and then you know you get fast forward to the nineteen seventies add a the revival of feminism an all of a sudden you at authors like her glennon joanna raw in margaret atwood and then people are like oh wow women right science fiction fiction and of course just this past year n k jemison right became the first author of of any gender race to win three she goes in award so now we see women in the john ross but there's a huge gap between like eighteen eighteen as they nineteen seventy they add i don't really understand where all the women were so i started looking around at turns out sure enough there they were there we've always had women in the sean raw on from the very beginning women constituted about fifteen percent of all science fiction producer third an we know that by the time they started doing reader's poll in the nineteen forties and fifties that women counted for at least forty percent of the readership as well an today i'm not sure where we are in readership but i know that the numbers of women science fiction have doubled so worried about thirty thirty five percent now but i think the reason that we forget that there were so many women in between shelly an a the revival of feminism in that the the growth of science fiction is because women were sometimes writing we were looking at the kinds of fiction they were writing and then we also can't find it because it didn't always get anthology eyes right it's it's really hard the early science fiction community were all magazine science fiction and add those magazines often got thrown away or they didn't laugh they weren't preserved so if you don't have access to a university with a huge science fiction collection like i do it's really hard to find these women and then you know it's exacerbated by the fact that even even if you have anthologies a lot of early anthologies were written by people who didn't necessarily include women in those anthologies for one reason or another yeah i mean it's it's interesting because obviously you have the the men who were writing in this pulp magazines same guy that didn't disappear people still about that and it's like it's just frustrating but then i mean i don't know if there's anything in it but things like james chip tree you know perhaps people don't necessarily know that that this is a pseudonym right right i i think james kept tree right that was probably a pretty well now one interesting thing i've found is that most women did not you nailed it and then most women went by willie decidedly feminine name an and usually their own name although sometimes they would also take other names like willis lorraine which is a lovely name she was born mary mod done you could see why she switched her name but really what i found is most women did not match courageous men an austin women pictures were printed printed in the magazine in the very early magazines author had catches of themselves with their draw with their with their stories so an even if somehow you missed that'd be editor were quick to correct a reader who missed took female writers from el writer but what did happen and that one very early in the shot like in the twenties and thirties right so white after universal suffrage and the first wave of feminism and i think a lot of people were really sort of on board with thinking about how the future my female as well is mel an but then in the late thirties and forties you the backlash against feminism in that time when the first science fiction anthologies are being put together and those were put together by a younger group of men who really did you find participated in that that minutes backlash rhetoric right john campbell who wore that no woman could write science fiction even though he'd been publishing in magazines women did you know he had it that's how to the male got her start in her career he told her no woman could write a story and she said yeah i bet i can write a story you'll like it so much you'll you'll back me from warren and that's exactly what happened actually but as anthology forgetting put together women we know they're anecdote on an app that that women have told that they were cut out of the magazine so luckily i've known her with one of the pioneering science fiction authors she gold lingers back and a was really popular with people's you're looking big creating space opera often she had been invited to be to include a story in one of the first big client fiction anthologies andover supposed to be a party for everyone who's gonna be on thala g and she was sick and she couldn't go so she sent her husband an editor said oh you must be likely stone he said no no that's my white i'm just here for her as a place called her and they're like oh that's very interesting and then within two weeks you had a letter saying yeah we decided to drop their story from anthology i'd really hard not to put to ensure together on that
Adam Levine is leaving "The Voice" after 16 seasons
"Carson Daley just announced today show that after sixteen seasons. Adam LeVine is leaving the voice there was talk that would be coming back next season. But now it's official and Carson a lot of people are going to miss his frenemy relationship with Blake Shelton. But they do know who is going to take his chair. They've already announced it officially returning to the voice in Adam Levine's chair next season when Stephanie. Glennon Blake on there. Back and forth for sure.
Rape case dropped against Denver Broncos DE Adam Gotsis
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2018 NFL Draft - A.J. McCarron Buffalo Bills and more - ESPN
"For three years in kansas city bears gm ryan pace had said at last month's combine that mike glennon would be released after the new league year began what you did on wednesday case keenum's deal with the broncos becomes official on wednesday josh mccown officially re upped with the jets one season at ten million in buffalo the bills sign aj mccarron two year deal the former bengals backup joins 2017 fifth round pick nate peterman on the bills depth chart after tyrod taylor was his deal was made official that trade of him was made official on wednesday and one of the moves that really started things office we approached the start of the nfl year washington completing the trade for veteran quarterback alex smith he heads from dc to casey in exchange for a third round pick and cornerback kendall fuller smith replacing kirk cousins as washington's number one quarterback kirk cousins expected to get three year eighty four million dollar deal with the vikings fully guaranteed eighty four million dollar deal what's that mean going forward maybe not as much as originally speculated jason read from the undefeated how mike cousins fully guaranteed deal if it is fully fully guaranteed impact future free agents well kate the hope will be that they'll be a an effect for everyone you know the rising tide lifts all ships and that players who in the past were not getting contracts guaranteed for skip both skill and for injury that they'll get this but i gotta be honest with you from talking with a lot of agents there isn't really a feeling out there that this is going to have the impact that a lot of players hope that.