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Changing Your Look After Coming Out

Forever35

04:48 min | 2 d ago

Changing Your Look After Coming Out

"Had heard from a listener. Who had come out in her thirties and was kind of wondering how she should change her style. Yes and also kind of dealing with friends feedback in changing of her style and we received such an amazing advice and thoughts from other listeners. That we wanted to share. We really did so. Here's our first email that were sharing today. I just finished mini episode one seventy eight and as a queer teenager. I felt that. I could provide some input here for the listener about their gay style. This year as come out as pan sexual unexplored my own style more. This is something i think about a lot. Recently i've changed so much of my wardrobe and found new things that make me comfortable in my look and my sexuality. What i've learned is that there are so many ways to be gay. You can really take any style and tweak it to express your identity and it doesn't have to be blatant for example. I've always had a darker edgier look and i've started wearing flannels with my goth. Clothes and makeup beans are also a nice touch that make everything a little bit gayer but not to gay also little rainbows are such an amazing and cute way to show your pride if none of these stereotypically gay items of clothing fit your taste. I have many friends who just like to dress and the colors that they feel express them instead of focusing on the items of clothing themselves. There's really no correct way to be queer and you can really and you really can make any item of clothing as as you want. True allies will support you no matter what you wear and no one should ever be pressured to dress in a way that they are uncomfortable with. Hopefully some of these suggestions help. Ps as a gen z. Are i must admit that. Cates use of the word ziesel her makes me cringe but of course i always appreciate the words. You guys make up as for trends. I think there's so much more acceptance of individuality in today's teens at the ones i know so whatever is considered popular online is really only. What a specific specific group of people are wearing regular life though. The controversy is always interesting and often hilarious to see Thank you teen listener. I loved us soak we. This was so such a great email to receive. I'm so honored. That teens are listening to this podcast. Oh the teens are so great. I think the teens are really great. Which terrifies me. Because i've always thought the teens were bad. Especially when i was a teen but i kinda think. Today's teens are awesome. Yeah i know it's really interesting. Yeah all right. You want to share this email diary. I would love to hike kantor. I wanted to write in response to the listener searching for her style. Post coming out coming out in my late twenty s i was so torn between looking to gay or two straight wanting to feel like my full self but also not wanting to seem like the stereotype who comes out and changes everything. It was helpful for me to consider. What stereotypically feminine elements of my style. Had i embraced. Because i truly like them. For example always having my nails done and other things had. I rejected. Because i was worried. Someone could suspect. I wasn't straight noticing what i had an impulse to like but held back from was usually an alert to that internalized homophobia rearing. Its head and usually was silly. I not buying fund metallic birkenstocks or not wanting to follow brandi carlile on instagram. I'm sorry to laugh. I'm laughing. Because i love brandi carlile and i. I love italian stocks. I did not realize that. Brandi carlile was Something that would lead someone to suspect that you weren't straight okay. So just like how. I tell the diet culture voice to get lost. So do i. Now try to tell the hetero normative voice in my head to shut up. Let me live when i find myself holding back from buying doing wearing listening liking something a helpful. A help fought narrative. Reframe for me. Was that many queer people have common interests were style just like many californians or new englanders or chefs have common interests or style. And none of those people aren't buying or wearing or doing something because it's to california or new england or sheffi so like what you like and if it gives people a clue that you're not straight so what it's not a secret and now you have a life more filled with things that feel good and bring you joy to boot as for the listeners. Friends my favorite way to kill those comments is a deadpan. That's weird or rude thing to say not creative that universally applicable

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Tony Hawk’s Pro Skater 1 + 2 – coming to PS5 on March 26

Nintendo Voice Chat

00:20 sec | 5 d ago

Tony Hawk’s Pro Skater 1 + 2 – coming to PS5 on March 26

"Hawkes pro skater. One in two has been announced piece of xbox series x s and the nintendo switch Let's see when is it is coming up next gen upgrades and will be coming out on march. Twenty six twenty twenty one so quite soon. But that's actually only on the piece by xbox. Actually it's coming to the notice which later this year

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Boomer and the Millennial February Special - burst 01

Boomer and The Millennial

07:39 min | 5 d ago

Boomer and the Millennial February Special - burst 01

"So we we. We need to get started before our neighbors waco away said we will be providing the soundtrack. Oh yeah for for our show they go. It's been interesting. I wonder if they're going somewhere. Probably they're young church their young and in love. You're probably going somewhere. Church may have enough. Maybe a little late for them. What better what better place to go. It is sunday. Look i'm just saying you live with with to opie we got cynicism all right exactly. I don't have a boomer. Father whatever generation you are was the one. After boomer i don't know gen-x the thing is genetic after boomer at the generation that came after them Well you know some say oh. You mean the generation after the boomers genetics boomer. Yeah nobody prehistoric. Nobody cares about that though. Talk about it being the the greatest generation ever really what happened during that generation World war two. You know they came back and what about the great depression that was probably part only front country back so we're going to corona right now dan. we're trump. Yeah so you know. I mean we go through i last we. We might be we greatest know we get out of this you know. I don't know the greatest generation given all the stuff that we've gone through at least it's still going through. that's true. welcome back as banter or done with the banter back guys. Another episode of boomer and lineal episode boomer and the millennial date do i'm ready to boomer marmande millennial and Thank you for joining us once again episode. Who knows ten me. I think it's ten or eleven can never keep up but we are coming up when anniversary. This is facts Next one because we march de during the morning dean bidding of the pandemic. Well it's a special day. Yeah it is. Valentine's day happy valentine's day thanks. Valentine's day youtube. Sorry to record valentine's day on what's going on. I just had so many plans with. Yeah yeah it's also black history month but you know you spending valentine's day with your parents so that's a good thing. Yeah i mean it's totally cool people. You love yeah. Valentine's day is not just about significant. Others you know what i mean this is. This is the first time that. I've been single on valentine's day in quite some time. Though i will say that and i just you know that's a hick so yeah you didn't know what you mean your granddaddy used to see how used to break up with his girlfriend right before christmas. Did he make up like after new years. Have the new right then. They have like this huge argument. Like the end of january beginning of february and then on the fifteenth sixteenth like. Oh hey i'm sorry. I misunderstood you on valentine's day. I think we should work this out. He's getting even have to do anything. I know it's kind of genius. Yeah that is so i. He was such a cazenove. He did have one problem though. He didn't know that he thought you call. You know when you were serious about somebody dating you know a friend. Yeah he would call him his fiancee. How do you make that how you make. That was state. There's a big worse as a big day. That's a big difference and you can imagine you know the young lady was like. Oh my goodness is got big fiance. Yeah he was like. Oh yeah i guess because he got that kind of response you know. He was like cool to christmas. Yeah right you can't be my fiance. When i thought we getting married. I guess we're gonna hit him that that's what it meant. Yeah he was like. Yeah we gotta we gotta dial that back a little bit care but anyway it's it's it's it's i don't know also saints sentence. Please please say sentence. So you modernize your mom. And i had this thing about. We would just you know if you really. If you celebrated a holiday holiday. But valentine's day on fifteenth you'd be good to go man could get flowers candy and a card for about fifteen thirteen bucks. Yeah sometimes not bad. Yeah so. I guess i'll be telling your mom have you tomorrow. Right right yeah. It's it's valentine's day somewhere in the world right exactly so you learning a lot from the boomer here. Yeah i see i mean. Apparently apparently i. Yeah so i'm single. And i have no valentine but that's okay You know life goes on. Yeah you got to do two things one. You got some very good advice okay. No good advice but in the second thing is you have a new tattoo. Yeah why did you disagree. Grace kings just love. You love vaguely talking about my life. Before i can even get to it like suppose. I didn't want to tell people oops now. It's not even that. I think yes. I did get a new tattoo. I'm a few days ago. Here's my thing though. My thing is. I don't really like i don't really like just flaunting it like i won't. I won't like post about them on social media and stuff. I have a lot of friends who do that. They'll get a new tattoo. Tattoo them and like. Oh look my tattoo that i don't post about. I'm guarantee you a lot of people. Don't even know how many i have or have seen all of them. I'm just saying. I mean it must bother you too much giving you ever almost asleep. Yeah almost we're almost done but yeah this won't hurt. I'm not gonna lie was pretty bad. Well it looks nice. Thanks no derm is yeah you got to take it off. Saran wrap wound healing it. I guess it's doing everything done safely. Yeah everything yeah i mean. They're super kobe. Friendly like in kinney was wearing a mask face shield. Okay yeah like well. this is not your first one. Yeah yeah this is actually my fourth one. But i got nam sorry. This is actually my during kobe. Kobe because i got four kind of all one two three four all at the same time and then this one but yeah so. This was kind of like my valentine's day gift to myself. I guess you could say. I've been working madman. This week drained me. Yeah i mean you've been really doing a lot you getting up early. Yeah coming in late thursday. I got up at four thirty. Got home at four thirty in the morning. Yeah that was tough.

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Blue Origin delays first launch of New Glenn to late 2022

News and Perspective with Taylor Van Cise

00:22 sec | 6 d ago

Blue Origin delays first launch of New Glenn to late 2022

"Is spaceflight company. Blue Origin is postponing its rocket launch after losing contracts to competitors, including space X blue origin, is now eyeing the fourth quarter of 2022 for the first launch of their next Gen knew Glen Rock. It The company had been planning for late this year, but says the space force didn't choose New Glenn for National security Launch contract.

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Helping Your Gen-Z Child Work through Anxiety and Trauma

Mama, Take Heart

04:03 min | Last week

Helping Your Gen-Z Child Work through Anxiety and Trauma

"In this day and age and kids are seen things on social media and the news and a lot of tweens. Teens are very active on social media accounts. And so there's a lot going on on those accounts. A lot of opinions are being tossed. There's a lot of video being shown. So how can i tell if my child is experiencing trauma. Yeah it's a really good question and i. I have good news bad news. And i want to be really clear about this. That right now. Your child is experiencing trauma if they have any witness to the world. So unless you've got them locked up in the basement which is also trauma of a different nature. They are experiencing trauma but the good news is that that doesn't necessarily mean they're being traumatized and that's where we can really step in and do something like effectively. Do something relational early To impact whether or not the trauma that we're experiencing traumatizes and impacts their development as children I see okay. So we are just assume they are experiencing trauma. Yes okay. And so if they're experiencing trauma and i'm external trauma and say. I am traumatized. Person from things have happened in my life. If my own trauma. How can i help. How can i help them. So you know back in the days when we could fly on a regular basis and we've listened to the flight attendant to give the you know the safety Explanation before you take off one of things that they say is if you're traveling with a small child and the oxygen mask drops down. What what are we supposed to do right. Where we put our own message Oxygen mask on first. And that's the image. I wanna take into that question is we do have to have a level of self awareness to understand when we're we are ourselves traumatized when that's the case. We need to get help that and that that's the putting on the oxygen and that can be help through having a good friend that you can talk to and unload what you're feeling and you can feel safe and heard that can sometimes it's all we need. Sometimes we need a pastor that can help us with maybe the faith questions that were having or a spiritual director that can help us try to find out where jesus is right now for us because we can get really confused when we're traumatized and sometimes it can be professional help that we need so i We have put our own oxygen mask on whatever that means for us and we have to have some awareness and sometimes that means asking the people that we live with are the people that know us the best How are you experiencing me in this. Do you feel like annetjie. Do you feel like you see changes in my personality. Do how were you experiencing me. If i'm not sure and we all really need to be asking that question right now. That's a really good question to ask. Actually i hadn't thought about santa that way. How are you experiencing me. Because i can tell what i'm experiencing but then i don't necessarily know how it's coming across to someone else. So if i'm experiencing trauma. And i'm angry most of the time or my sadness comes out as anger than to ask a person how you're experiencing me. And if they say well you seem to really angry. Then that's a sign that i need to do something because if by primary personality is anger then that's telling me my body's telling me something's not right

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Hideo Kojima's Book 'The Creative Gene' Coming West Soon

Kinda Funny Games Daily

04:37 min | Last week

Hideo Kojima's Book 'The Creative Gene' Coming West Soon

"Books. I will read. We're going to start with the fact that they okajima book is coming west. We're starting with. Michael mcwhirter over at polygon. Who writes game designer. Hideo kojima book the gifted. Jean and my lovable means originally published in japanese. In two thousand nineteen is getting an english language. Translation publisher viz media will release the translated book this october. Under the fittingly lengthy name the creative dream. The creative leave. Of course it is the creative gene. How books movies and music inspired the creator of stranding and metal gear solid the creative. The creative gene will consist of a collection of essays written by kajima then explore his personal. Inspirations that includes opinions and reviews of music films and books beloved by jima. The book will also include a conversation. Between kajima and musician. Slash actor gen hoshino. Who song pop. Virus appears in-depth stranding. Here's official synopsis of the book. Ever since he was a child metal gear solid in-depth strand creator. Hideo okajima was a voracious consumer of movies music. In books they ignited his passion for stories and storytelling and the results can be seen his groundbreaking iconic video games now. The head of independent studio could productions kajima enthusiasm for entertainment. Media has never waned this collection of essays explores some of the inspirations behind one of the titans of the video game industry in offers an exclusive insight into one of the brightest minds in pop culture the creative gene how books movies and music inspired the creator of detonating metal gear. Solid will be released october. Twelve twenty twenty one julie. I cannot wait. Well i do. Let's just be thankful that it's not a book of the same topic but like by the houses because it'd be the size of the encyclopedia britannica. Sure sure your older music. Music playlists printed on paper. I think i mean. I think it's great. You gotta think within the games industry. They're all kind of few kind of figureheads and people. You kind of all kind of you know seeing all Alters within the industry who you know whether you like could you must offer you don't or You know it's he has. He always has a very very distinct vision. And i think there's something so alluring. Sorry yup could be endless arms by the way. Just say this. Something really alluring about someone. Who's greedy sure of themselves and like autistic vision for good awful bad right But also i think you. I mean i i know i am. I think people are naturally drawn drawn to like someone who is like that just because you're like they have such a clear idea of like life in everything and anytime you can kind of scratch below that surface and understand a little bit more about how how they build their vision and how they also certain of kind of like what they do. I think it's really. It's really exciting. You want to know more. It's like you like david lynch on my god. I want to read this. The man's possibly mad but brilliant about why he's like that you know it's great you to scratch below that surface one hundred percent freezing amoco jima superfan right and i'm lucky enough to know him obviously in call him a friend but in terms of the content like medal. Change my life in. So i've obviously had conversations with him about his games but when i see it on instagram or i see it on twitter when he goes and sees a movie and gives like the two hundred eighty characters. He can give it. I'm way more interested in music in books that have inspired him in. What is a long essay about that mean. And what did he take away from it. I think also it's just it's it's his perspective right. It's his is. it's the way he looks at the universe right thing. It's like this these weird glasses that he he he because he's about him puts on and suddenly everything. I dunno like that and interview with the vampire where they wake up and everything seen with vampire is and you're like cool man. I wanna see what vampire is it like. I want to see what hideo kojima is. Look like just to to be able to kind of look over the world and everything seldom takes a completely different meaning ref. You know to me. That's how i one hundred percent imagine that's way he's had his like you know And there aren't many people you can say that about old people that you would actually really wanna see the world through their is particularly probably dreary for most other people. I sure yeah to have a creator on that scale that's open. Who has that legacy behind him. Right to know yeah what he does take away from consuming different content right. If we always talk about it in terms of use somebody else's podcast or you know you wash youtube video you see somebody else present and you pick up and you're able to critique on a different level than somebody who's just a consumer of it not a producer of it so yeah for him to be creative what is he seen also stuff. I think that's really interesting.

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Microsoft and HPE team up to connect Azure cloud to International Space Station

Daily Tech News Show

00:25 sec | 2 weeks ago

Microsoft and HPE team up to connect Azure cloud to International Space Station

"It packard. Enterprise is reading d space-borne computer to headed for the international space station. It'd be linked to microsoft's azure cloud through nasa and hp ground stations so the iss will have more data processing power and better connections with earth than ever before the first gen hp space-borne computer. Still then a proof of concept traveled to the us in two thousand seventeen and back to earth and twenty

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Do You Suffer From R.B.P.?

On Air with Ryan Seacrest: The Post Show

01:25 min | 2 weeks ago

Do You Suffer From R.B.P.?

"Our assistant he said that there are b p which is revenge bedtime procrastination. What is that mean has been popularized by get this millennials and gen z keys which It literally translates to sleepless night revenge. So i'm guilty of this. As a mother of twins. My day is packed. You know with them with work with everything and i rarely get any time to myself until they are asleep at night which sometimes is around nine pm. I'm exhausted but something in me gets like a burst of energy and then i ended up still binging some. Tv shows taking that me time that i didn't get throughout the day even though i know it's like ten pm or eleven. Pm at night. And i should go to sleep. Because i have to wake up at five in the morning but something inside me. Almost it's like i'm unsatisfied. With how my day went. And so i want to continue the day and do all the things that i wanted to do for myself even though it's super late at night and they're saying that because we've been quarantined for so long that our work lives and our personalized have all kinds of like meshed together and were not able to really divide the two and so we kind of feel like where being cheated of the day if that makes any sense so that's why the sexiest he hasn't been named revenge. Bedtime procrastinate interesting interesting concept

6. Family Travel Association with Rainer Jenss on the Adventures with Grammy Podcast

Adventures with Grammy

05:41 min | 3 weeks ago

6. Family Travel Association with Rainer Jenss on the Adventures with Grammy Podcast

"That's the biggest advantage. I see of travel is that it is such an educational opportunity for children and it reinforces what they learn in the school systems hundred percent very well said and if i may add to this something that i think most parents are not really aware of our additional benefits that come out from traveling with your children so for example we all know or suspect that they are learning about the world as they travel through it which certainly was the case when we did it with our children. You know those cultural differences relieve impression and now so many things but there is also not only they exploring the world outside of themselves but unbeknownst to them. They're really learning about themselves. They're learning life skills. They're developing not just new perspectives but discovering personal interests. That that's this interesting. Byproduct of getting your kids out of their comfort zone and from what's familiar now. That's what travel affords Everybody not just children but particularly children who are going through. Whether it's adolescence are changes that are going on in their lives. All of this mixed together with this discovery about themselves through what they're seeing externally is i wasn't aware of When we embarked our trip and really realized. When i got back it's no surprise at my older son is now twenty three years old. Got his first job. Out of college at spacex he developed this love and appreciation for not just photography. that's a life skill. He learned while he was driving but an appreciation for our nautical engineering and space rocketry. That came out of visiting places like the kennedy space center and so forth so it could lead to be really anything but this gives children opportunity to discover themselves without the kind of influence of their peers and and you know kind of the day to day struggles that they have is young people. I hope the audience out there really takes this to heart. Maybe in some way practices on their own because to be aware of it will really enhance the experience. I think without being no intentional about it. 'cause it should just it just kind of happens and that's where the magic is and that's why go to career in trying to promote All the things that families can do together not just a theme park beach the case. It's some we talked about. But you know there's so many great ships one mention For example dude ranches very popular with the multi gen skipped gen circles if it's a chance to get outdoors and You can not just ride horses by go fly fishing and you'll quality time the cookout or you know by the by the can fire. You know making a sure or young burning marshmallows. Toasted marshmallows students attended arnhem but You know these are. There's so many things that i know. Parents grandparents alike will take the time to research. Discover not to put a plug for family travel association that i that i founded seven years ago but family travel dot org. I urge here audience. Check it out and maybe get some ideas and look at things that you never thought were even possible. Scuba diving with with children is is a possibility. I've gone on dive trips all around the world with my kids and other families ten years ago. I didn't think that was even remotely possible. I didn't realize that a ten year old could certify. Get their certification. I thought it would have been at least in the teens. If not a little older but anyway there's so much out there but as we kind of started with its finding that that kind of common ground that so important one planning something like this you know. What are some of the things that everyone in the family likes to do. And one last thing a common mistake that's also made when it comes to planning travel With families and certainly with multi jan groups is that they don't consider the activities before the destination in other words. People said okay. Where do you wanna go. And let's say for the sake of argument. Someone says i want to go to hawaii and allies. Great were really. What hawaii is is destination with beaches resorts things like diving as i mentioned some cultural experiences but if you pick the destination i you limit yourself to that destination offers instead. Start with all. I wanna go. Sailing are oh. I wanna beach vacation decide on the activity then. Your geography is much larger than you can choose from a greater variety not to mention expenses. Let's say everyone decides to go to hawaii but some people live in florida You know those are all factors so pick the activities. I the destination second. I hope you enjoy today's episode of the adventures with remy.

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Apple reportedly developing next-gen ultra-thin displays for AR devices with TSMC

Daily Tech News Show

05:30 min | 3 weeks ago

Apple reportedly developing next-gen ultra-thin displays for AR devices with TSMC

"Nikei sources say that apple partnered with chipmaker. Tsmc to develop micro. Ola displays would displays built directly onto chip wafers for use in our future. Headsets that displays underdevelopment are less than one inch in size with mass production estimated several years away the beta for iowa's fourteen point five adds accident hazard and speed check reporting to apple maps. A new report button is available in the bottom tray of maps to report incidents and voiced support for siri is available as well and analysis by cambridge university university although they probably have anniversaries also estimates that bitcoin mining consumes roughly one hundred twenty one point three six terawatt hours of electricity per year which would make a top thirty energy consumer if it were used by country however for context the researchers noted that electricity consumed in the us by always on inactive could power the bitcoin network for year. I liked that comparison there. It's like yeah that sounds bad but then also that Following its launch in australia. Google new showcase launched in argentina and the united kingdom offering now includes free and paywall two articles for more than one hundred twenty uk and forty argentinian outlets bringing its total to four hundred fifty publications twitter announced monetize daily active users increased twenty seven percent on the year in. Its q four to one hundred ninety two million but missed analysts expectations of one hundred ninety three point. Five million with growth slowing for the third consecutive quarter. Twitter also said wednesday it suspended more than five hundred accounts and reduced certain hashtag visibility in india to comply with several orders from the indian government amidst farmers protests on agricultural reforms in the country. The twitter accounts are only being blocked in india and don't include news media entities. Journalists activists were politicians who have twitter accounts and twitter. Cfo ned siegel said on cnbc. Wednesday that people removed from its platform are not allowed to come back and that applies to president donald trump. Even if he ran for office again. All right let's talk a little bit more about what twitter is planning jack dorsey. He's been talking a lot about decentralisation over the past couple of months what did he say. This time scott feels like every time i'm on the show. There's something about his little idea but on this same call with investors on tuesday twitter ceo. Jack dorsey explained how it's internet project or internal project rather called blue sky and this something. He first announced wave back in december of two thousand nineteen Could create a decentralized social network to give people more choice over their twitter twitter experience Dorsey said twitter might create multiple rhythms for you to choose from offer them alongside those made by others a sort of marketplace on a lot of detail beyond that but dorsey feels Choice like this would not only help out business. But dr more people into participating in social media in the first place Decentralisation could also help twitter address concerns about moderation neutrality. all that kind of stuff Pretty fascinating idea I i still hope he does it with partners. And not just a a twitter store with algorithm skins. Well i mean it sounds like it's it's a combination of both the way twitter sees it happening. The company itself would say all right. You might want this experience. We have enough user feedback to know that some users are frustrated with the kind of stock twitter experience and using hashtags and maybe Filtering out certain keywords or searching for users or topics isn't enough for you you want twitter built a certain way and we can do that for you but then the company saying also third party developers might have some really great ideas and we welcome those algorithms as well as long as you know people wanted that. Could this be something that people would potentially pay for in the future. I would think yes. Yeah although i mean his focus on decentralisation implies that this would be something out in the wild right to the for longtime twitter's been talking about maybe we'll partner up with an existing decentralized solution which there are a few out there like mastodon. And i think that's a really really interesting way to approach this to say what if we decentralized twitter and differentiated twitter is just one of the better ways to talk with folks but like you said scott. He thinks that would help drive more people into participating if there was a federation so to speak that mastodon is that right now but twitter isn't part of mastodon so you don't have enough people using it so it doesn't get that momentum that it needs if twitter gets behind something like that whether it's mastodon or something else then suddenly it's got momentum and if you could say like well what i would like is a more environmental spin on this. I want a more libertarian. Spin you know wanted to promote things that are more about molecular biology promote scientists. I want i want to have a spiritual issues in christianity. Promoted more you you could have that and still everybody be participating in the same network and to his point about moderation neutrality. If you're the one picking the algorithm then you might have issues with how that particular algorithm works. But there'd be less burden on twitter or any other participant to be the person in charge of deciding what gets promoted and what doesn't because you'd have a lot of different approaches to it

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Unity, And Gamestonks

Say What Needs Saying

03:45 min | 3 weeks ago

Unity, And Gamestonks

"All right. Welcome back to say what needs saying. I'm zac. I'm seeing to brandon and we are coming back with season. Two of say what needs saying. We are excited. We're gonna jump into everything that we missed everything that's happened since the last time that we talked with everyone and there is quite a bit. That's gone on and the things have been kinda crazy these last couple of weeks. And when you say crazy what exactly do you mean like what is probably besides the end a twenty twenty two where we're at right now on the six of black history month. What exactly is the craziest thing has happened in your eyes. Craziest thing. I mean crazy. Things got to be the game. Stop stocks The not wall street bets versus wall street and everything that happened with that. So explain to me. Whoever's listening what exactly happened with with wall street bench game stop. Why two people care about a blockbuster all of a sudden who's blackberry since it's been eleven years since anybody's used blackberry messenger. What exactly happened. And i also can time to just know so i mean basically a bunch of people. Shorted game stop stock. So that's when you borrow stock to pay back at a later date and actually before we jump in. I'm gonna admit some people that just jumped in on the zoom chat and we go all right now. Everyone's in Yeah woke member onto the season two. I live episode but anyway so yet shorting a stock you know you borrow stock so that you can sell it when it's high and then pay back the debt of that share later when you believe that the price will be lower so everyone did this with game stop and did it immensely Shorted it too. I believe they shorted hundred forty percent of the available stock and so the Read it wound up finding out that it was heavily. Shorted and decided to call their bluff and bought a ton of game stock game stock stock game stop stock and improve the priming through the roof but yeah it was not. It costs the hedge funds. A ton of money back you. What sounds like you got. Hit by ricky ralph. I don't know what happened on. How can you hear me now a bit. Yeah i kid you knocking at you now. I'll let you know. I was just saying it's just crazy because you know they. They cost the hedge funds so much money in they. Basically it was unprecedented right. It was something that had never really happened before. At least not in the near the near past. I mean what do you expect when you tell when you when when you have billions of dollars and you laugh at the common person and say you know we'll give you two hundred dollars. You're not going to do anything with you need it. We're going to give you six hundred thousand and you. You don't need it and what they did is a lot of people out of you know jen next. Gen z millennial said. Yeah we believe in game stop you know they china on empathetic side and we believe in these comes. We're going to make it big and rid a stick it to you so a lot of people but those stocks in unison in solidarity to what. This was how we know what this was causing on wall street. The headaches and the seven point some odd billion dollars. They lost to sell their goods stocks. Are there good options. Or whatever to remake up or recoup from the losses from their expert station so yeah no. It's it's i think is necessary on one end some. I have heard some people say it was irresponsible of the people on. Read it so. Go ahead and do this but i don't know i'm kind of not anarchist but i'm on the side of the people who's always been given the season the state.

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Mark Cuban's 'next-gen' podcasting platform

podnews

00:27 sec | 3 weeks ago

Mark Cuban's 'next-gen' podcasting platform

"Mark cuban co founding. A next gen podcast platform where hosts can talk to fans live and monetize conversations reports. The verge it's sent to be similar to clubhouse but with the ability to record conversations. The app is reportedly to be called fireside which comes as news to the five year old podcast host fireside surprising and more than a bit concerning says damn benjamin from farsight not that one

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Team Liquid Collabs with Naruto

Esports Minute

01:51 min | 3 weeks ago

Team Liquid Collabs with Naruto

"It's a bit of a slow news day in these Sports as America celebrates The Unofficial holiday that is the day after the Super Bowl but there's no apparel collaboration that e sports fans are stoked about first a few thoughts on the big game besides Brady winning again which is absolutely absurd we saw him or big gaming personalities intertwined with the game this year off nadeshot appeared in a commercial for Rockstar and last year we saw ninja and fortnite World Cup winner Booga appearance Superbowl commercials as well in the stands ninja and dr. disrespect were featured with cardboard cutouts at home Here's game. The NFL is clearly aiming at a younger audience. They streamed previous playoff games on Nick and on Twitch in this game. They brought in Nickelodeon slime cannons for part of the broadcast, but they didn't do a tire simulcast on Nick like they did with the previous games the legal keep tapping into gaming influencers and channels with the goal in mind of capturing younger audiences think they're realizing that just a focus on Madden isn't should be enough of a gaming push the NFL could look towards e Sports organizations for how to connect with their target audience clearly Team Liquid has their fingers on the pulse. Anime is huge with Gen Z and Naruto has been popping over multiple generations and multiple series liquids new clothing line with the popular anime is going to sell absurdly quick the shop will open up on February 12th at 2 p.m. CT. And if you want some of the collection you'll likely need to be online at that moment exactly or close to it liquids ongoing partnership with Marvel has also been very successful, especially on the merchandising side. There's clearly a huge opportunity for home. organizations to pair with other popular media when looking to expand their merchandising operation while Brands like thieves and FaZe Clan have built up streetwear with just their logos collaborations are a large part of how they got their liquid is taking a little bit of a different path with their merch strategy but it's one that is also working well and I'm sure this collection is going to be a huge

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NASCAR Updates: Bristol, NextGen, Falling pit crew

The Final Lap

01:24 min | 3 weeks ago

NASCAR Updates: Bristol, NextGen, Falling pit crew

"Oh man this week nascar on just on onslaught of information about upcoming things in the sport first. Up is the bristol dirt. Racy excited about this one. It's gonna feature heat races to determine the starting lineups you know like you're used to seeing at the local level check out the race on the dirt at bristol march twenty eighth three thirty pm eastern on fox next up our field sizes for the two thousand twenty one nascar xfinity series season. There will be thirty six cars for a race weekend if there is qualifying and forty cars when there is a rain out or it's not scheduled so for instance the thirty six car field will be in effect for daytona coda. Charlotte may race nashville. Indie road course road. America and the phoenix finale. The next gen nascar racecar got some love this week with some new information coming out. The new car is gonna make its on. Track debut fulltime and twenty twenty two a full year delayed due to covid the manufacturers of chevrolet toyota and ford have all submitted and passed their design reviews with nascar. We should start seeing those designs. This spring and testing will resume of this car at richmond on march sixteenth and seventeenth okay. Finally we've got some loose ends here. This one coming from the nascar rulebook and it says if a crew member behind pit wall is grabbing a tire loses their balance and puts a hand on pit road. That's not going to be a penalty this it was last year.

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New report on Apple’s VR headset: 8K in each eye, potential $3,000 price tag

Daily Tech News Show

04:16 min | 3 weeks ago

New report on Apple’s VR headset: 8K in each eye, potential $3,000 price tag

"Myanmar's new military government ordered that local telecoms temporarily blocked facebook owned services in the country from midnight on february third through february seventh claiming that the platform was contributing to instability the digital rights nonprofit access now estimates that there are twenty two million facebook users in the country. A new report by canada's privacy commission found clear view is facial recognition database to be illegal mass surveillance and said sent a letter of intention to the company telling it to cease sevices in the country and delete canadian faces. Clearview has not operated in canada since july due to the investigation and says it will allow canadians to opt out of the database. But we'll challenge the determination in court analyst. Ming she quos on a bit of a roll this week. The latest from quo is word of another lend supplier for the main next gen. Iphone perhaps called the iphone thirteen. That's expected next year and it's camera. Quo says that sunny optical successfully passed apple's approvals process for ipad lenses and are likely to be approved to make the main camera lens for the iphone. Thirteen lineup currently logon eugene. Guang and can cut. Sue supply lenses to lg innotech for incorporation into the camera module so sunny optical would be yet an additional supplier for that lends parlor co founder. John mattes announced. He's been fired. Ceo by the company's board In a statement. Matt said quote. I've met constant resistance to my product. Vision my strong belief in free speech and my view of how the parlor site should be managed. He supposedly proposed expanding automated. Content moderation on the platform as well as a full ban on accounts tied to designated domestic terror organizations the blockchain based service network or b. s. n. backed by the chinese government access an operating system for blockchain program development china's state information center and affiliate to china's top economic reform planner credit card processor union. Pay telecom trying to mobile and beijing based startup called red date. Or all involved in supporting both consortium and public blockchain's this week. Bsn announced it will roll a permission. Diversion of cosmos. Cosmo's that's a network comprised of many independent blockchain's and calls itself the internet of blockchain's so just you'd have no concerns and just jumping on an open block chain from from china winter no tom sawyer. Red flags there. I mean the state information center is part of the deal. I don't know what you'd be worried now all right. Let's talk a little more about that. A little more about the information given some some details on apple's alleged upcoming mixed reality headset sources have more details including a rendering this time of what they say is apple's vr headset. A lot of the details are similar to what we heard from mark gurman of bloomberg earlier last month It's expected to use fabric. Mesh run on an apple design chip cost a lot. Although we've got a number as much as three thousand dollars the headset may have more than a dozen cameras for hand. Tracking lied are sensors for room. Mapping and a are affects dual eight k displays and i tracking to save battery life. The information sources says apple would use aided rendering. that's when you only render in full resolution. What your eyes are looking at everything. In the periphery can be a little lower sources. Say apple has not finalized input control but the options. They're considering are a combination of hand tracking i tracking a dial on the headset or something. They call a thimble like accessory. Oh boy well the thing that jumped out to me. I because we have talked about this before. This rumor has been swirling. I mean really for years but it seems to be more of a reality than ever. Is that three thousand dollar price points now again. It's a rumor and yes. Apple tends to make things that are similar to other products that are more expensive and then says but it's apple so you know we can do that sort of thing. Three thousand dollars. Oh my goodness Compare that to oculus to for three hundred dollars. That's a crazy price point. I don't know how the company could get away with such a thing.

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A quarter of Spotify users now use podcasts there too

podnews

02:40 min | 3 weeks ago

A quarter of Spotify users now use podcasts there too

"A quarter of all monthly active spotify users. Now use the app to listen to podcasts. That's up from twenty two percent last quarter speaking on the company's quarter. Four two thousand nine twenty earnings call daniel x says. He's reasonably confident that he can see benefits in user growth and retention from podcasts. Spotify says it's got two point. Two million podcasts in the system now apple has one point. Eight million in denmark twenty-seven percent of all adults listen to podcasts every week that's three percentage points up from last year according to denmark radio so we're seeing gen just continuously clamping higher and higher also when you take into consideration the general surroundings of corona virus. And all these things is actually pretty fine a little bits. We've seen here. There's a full interview with the researchers in the portland news podcast. Later today. Costs programmatic ad. Sales revenue grew two hundred fifteen percent in two thousand twenty. The company has announced podcast addict now supports the new podcast location. Tag as does sprouts has to our podcast pages. Try search for the north idaho. Now podcasts to find out where that's based although you probably guessed already pulled. Lp podcast app for the kyw platform has now been downloaded five million times on geo an indian mobile network radio franz signs agreement to put its podcasts onto podcast addicts. The broadcast is unusual in restricting. Its rss feed addresses from the apple. Podcasts api headliner. Social podcasts promotion platform had more than two hundred seventy two thousand new users in two thousand and twenty. They say joe biden has signed with patron in canada. The jim pattison broadcast group has signed with triton digital podcast hosting monetization and measurement in argentina news channel t n has launched t. n. podcast. Its own podcast network. Espn got half a billion downloads. In two thousand nine hundred twenty a yearly increase of twenty eight percent and aerial flat has launched a newsletter called podcast. Plunge every issue is anchored by a podcast network and then focuses on other pieces of internet about the main topic of the show and in podcast news. Spotify for the record will post a new episode today with ceo daniel eck and cfo. Paul vogel on their cost of four twenty twenty earnings reports. Matt kopa were convicted criminal. Michael cohen features an interview with stormy daniels. In case you still care about any of that.

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The True Cost of Sustainable Skincare with Tata Harper

Good Together: Ethical, Eco-Friendly, Sustainable Living

05:48 min | Last month

The True Cost of Sustainable Skincare with Tata Harper

"I feel like there's so many misconceptions in the beauty industry really in the luxury industry in general too. But you know Clean beauty is not elevated enough or clean. Beauty doesn't work as well. And i think what's interesting. Is that you kind of saw those challenges. Or you heard those misconceptions and you're like no. I'm gonna change this right like i love that i'm gonna i'm gonna give it a try because enough you know because i think that now what we need is a lot of consumer products that make our life better deal you know not just like superficially better but like really that they They elevate our quality of life. And from that lance. It's what really kept me motivated and really like we spent like five years creating the harper because the formulas didn't exist. No one knew how to use like natural ingredients to preserve or to a mall. Sify or to again or to stabilize those were not like raw materials were used just for like marketing and And there was not a lot of science around like the formulation aspect of natural skincare and took a really long time to make them happen and also formulate from a different point of view because a lot of natural skinner was always formulated with this idea of minimalism and and a lot of like the first gen natural products. They were created a lot. I by the low hus movement remember that movement that lifestyle movement that is being natural so the fact that the product was natural was actually more important than the even that the product worked ben and data no for skin care. Because you only buy skin care too because it works right exactly. Why you don't like by this moisturizer to save the planet like you buy this moisture is great moisturizer and then you have your charities and other things to do other things but But yeah no i was. I was really challenging. It was almost like with the creation of our company. We talent almost every aspect of being a maker of skin-care not only from the ingredients and the formulas but also by having our farm like what you were saying before the farm has been such a special place for us because a lot of skin care is outsource. The majority of the companies are outsource. They outsource almost every piece of their of their Of their business to third parties whether it's the formulation to labs that a lot of times abusing tons of basis and just you know the smell or the color or the incentive vitamin seen our. We're going to add. Hulo renege on jason or you know things like that but you find a lot of companies that have very unique products and formulas that are really unique so for us it was always very clear that we needed to have our own our end and our own formulation Our own chemists and our own lab so that we can really formulate products from scratch like we like doing and that every ingredient has a purpose and also every single one of our formulas doesn't rely on just one ingredient like we're not like on one ingredient type of company where company that by ingredients from all over the world and use them in the you know in different formulas in very high concentrations. So no i mean. I think it makes so much sense. And i love that you guys and your approach is truly like farm to beauty right. I feel like that's such a Sort of a marketing term that you hear thrown around alongside clean beauty etc. But you're literally you know harvesting in growing ingredients on your farm for some of your formulas So can you explain a little bit more about how that process works in terms of You know like organic farming and how you guys are actively working milan. I mean. I think that's fascinating kodaly so just to clarify one thing. We do bring ingredients from all over the world. Sure yeah we bring ingredients from like eighty four different countries. Okay we have like no self and post limit on like we're just gonna talk about vitamins where we are see company we really curate technologies from all over the world whether it's green tag or you know things from tradit- you know from a lot of tradition traditional chinese medicine you're also bringing a lot of and butters from amazon but anyway so we In the farm. There's a couple of things happening so number one. We have a garden where we grow a lot of Not even a lot. We grow specifically five herbs that grow really well in our soil in vermont in our farm which is a clay soil and those are calendar. La barra sweet alfalfa and kolenda and we grow them in our farm in in our organic farm and we make one ingredient that that That we produce at the farm every single month that basically captures all of the oil soluble nutrition from all of those herbs. And the and it's done in a very temperature controlled process that it's very specific and that ingredient that is called our farm beauty complex goes into almost every single one of our formulas but in the farm. We also have a lot of barnes because it was an old dairy farm converted into a skincare farm. Now i love

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You Are What You Subscribe To

Lochhead on Marketing

06:18 min | Last month

You Are What You Subscribe To

"All right. So i wanted to share with you something that my wife. Carrie ann i did the first At the beginning of the new year. And that's We sat down and we reviewed everything that both of us were subscribed to and we sorta did a purge and a respectful and together. We said you know what kind of content do we love. What do we want to learn This year what should we stop consuming. What should we start consuming and we did this very thoughtful very proactively over the course of about an hour and the high here for me is. I think it's important to be very very careful. Whose ideas that you let into your brain you know. We only have so much brain shelf space and we only have so much. Time to consume books podcasts Whatever the case you tubes whatever we like to consume and so being very thoughtful about what we put into our brain is actually a very important thing and i think there we put some shit in our head. That can hurt us pretty badly. You know if you're a longtime listener you know Have no love for the hustle stars. And i think they've done more damage to entrepreneurs and marketers than any recent group in history For a simple example you. I've heard hustle porn star. Say hustles the most important word the english language. Well i've also heard hustle porn star. Say no one ever worked himself to death well in japan they have a word for it. It's called karoshi and it translates into death by overwork. So nonstop hustling for twenty. Five years is probably not what you want to do. In addition even worse maybe is. You can hustle all you want but there's a difference between hard work and smart work hamsters hustle in their wheels to and they don't get anywhere. So what's your hustling about matters. And if you're a regular listener you know that i believe that Legends become known for a niche. That they own. So if you're hustling to design your own category that's one thing. If you're hustling trying to compete with an entrenched category king. You're gonna be in for a world of pain and yet millions and millions of business people still consume the stupidities of these hustle porn stars every day and the marketing and entrepreneur. World is stuffed with stupid ideas. Here's another example that drives me nuts minimum viable product. Why is this a good idea. Who the fuck said we. The first thing we deliver to the world should be something called a minimum viable product. It should be called a product. You fucking think is legendary and awesome and you wanna share with the whole world nother just dumb dumb dumb. I could go on with a very long list of very dumb ideas that are marketed to marketers and entrepreneurs all the time the bottom line is be very thoughtful about what you put in your brain because what you put in your brain is what you get out of your life now. Personally i like to go back to some of. Oj's peter drucker can touch him he. He's the original management thinker. His book the effect of executive changed my life by way of example. David ogilvy david. Ogilvy david ogilvy. If you're an entrepreneur if you're a marketer you're not a student of david ogilvy get on it. I go back and look at it all the time. Another one you might love in a similar vein is george lois. He sort of the punk rock version of david. Ogilvy check him out also. Of course the geez of positioning. Our reese and jack trout the so i love to go back and look at a lot of the original masters now some of the newer things that i love checking out is Check out a master class. This is incredible way to learn how to do to be taught writing by malcolm gladwin by way of example or taught how to do a three point shot by None other than steph curry. They have legendary people in many many different domains teaching their skills. It's an incredible product. Love masterclass podcast. You might wanna check out and this is not an extensive example or an extensive list. It's just an example of a few. That i like One of the jeez of marketing podcasts. Marketing over coffee by my buddy john wall and his partner. Christopher penn legendary Venture capitalists mike. Maples junior. his podcast is called. Starting greatness insanely great. Another legendary entrepreneur. Podcast is called no bowl and it's created by my buddies paul martinez and randy comas. And it features that teaching of the legendary bill campbell. Who was none other than steve. Jobs is coach if you're in the b. two b. world couple of podcasts. I love dave gerhardt's b. to b. marketing leaders. Podcast check it out. G. is emerging og. He's awesome My buddy brian burns has the One of the top sales podcast for b. two b. people be to be revenue leadership and the brutal truth about sales and selling brian burns. Check him out. And then the other one i like on sort of the lead gen funnel management Get leads enclosed shit online in the more beat. A sea world is russell brunson and he's got a whole series of podcasts and books most of them have the word secrets in them. Checkout marketing secrets podcasts. And he's all about hooks and offers and driving traffic and all of that stuff so those are just a couple to think about but most importantly i'm encouraging you to sit down and ask yourself a couple of key questions. What the kind of content i love. What do i most want to learn in the next twelve months. What should i stop consuming. What should i start consuming and remember. Be very careful whose ideas you let into your head because your thoughts become your actions your actions become your outcomes and your outcomes become your

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"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

Gen Love

07:21 min | 7 months ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"We'll keep you posted on that, but. Yeah. I think that it's such a good lesson to take away from all of this because we get stuck in these scenarios where we're so desperately looking for an emotional need that was not met in childhood to be Matt with a romantic partner. That dynamic will never work it won't. We will always end up in situations where we're resentful blaming. We're mad. We're in these dynamics phil really familiar bunk comfortable. And so I think being able to have the tools to look within an understand what's coming up and then meet that need ourselves is just it's crucial. But? I feel like I. Do want to back up and ask you. Don't know that we've necessarily talked about it on the podcast before, but like what is an abandonment wound for someone who doesn't understand or or kind of? What do you mean when you're talking about world? Yeah I think that. For my own abandonment wound and when when we mentioned on the podcast. We're talking about. At least in my experience in my childhood. I. experienced. Neglect and Abandonment with my both. Of My parents and ways. Because they were. Emotionally, unavailable a lot of the times or struggling with their own pain that they they were just not able. To be there for me or Validate me or see me understand me, weren't they also like actually physically unavailable because they were working to. Yeah both my parents worked a lot. My Dad was on my dad was in med school and. was at one point in my childhood. We were living in Maine, but my divers in Boston most days out of the week, so he just like physically wasn't there. And as a child. I don't think that either. My parents of course were intentionally neglecting me or abandoning me, but. As a child that is how I interpreted. and so that is the abandonment one. And and And the I mean it's taken me this. This long to kind of start to understand these types of things but I also. I experienced some other types of Abuse within that sound like more. kind of big t traumatic. Experiences as a child because my caregivers a parents. Gave me off to other families or babysitters. That were not always the healthiest people to be around. but I do just want to say that. We can have abandonment wounds, and it not come from sunlight, big, traumatic experience and bat. Maybe you were a child with. Maybe, you were four years old and your parents had another child at that point. You can feel abandoned in those moments because all the sudden. You're not getting much attention. And I I think. I mean in my personal belief I think a lot of us are operating or a lot of us have a lot of these different types of wounds. And it doesn't have to come from his big traumatic experience I also think that night I recently wrote an instagram post about this that our definition of trauma traditionally was very very specific like sexual abuse, physical abuse whatever trauma. Is. In, my opinion, much more expensive than that, there are so many things that are traumatic like can look perfectly normal from the outside and people who have experienced like very dysfunctional homes and families that it looks perfect from the outside can almost be even harder to validate your trauma. Be An I'm speaking from experience. 'cause on the outside everything looks good and perfect, but on the inside emotional needs are met. There's a lot of anger or Maybe repression and people don't talk about things or Even, having even living in the twenty first century, and having two parents, working Dr. that involves a lot of abandonment of little kids, because they just don't have the attention from either parent. I talk about this. I don't know if I've talked about some of the podcast before, but I have two parents who were very successful. Wise and what that meant for me growing up is that I was late to be picked up from school every single day. And I have a thing. You know this about people being late. It's insanely triggering to me because it. It makes me feel like I'm eight years old again and the message that I took away from his. You're not that important to me. You're not that important your time slot that important year. Not that important because that's what it feels like when you're eight years old and your parents just aren't able to be there for you because they're doing X.. Y. and Z. and I think the message that I got to was I'm sorry, but I had this important business meeting. It's really important. We're doing this big job right now. Like sorry, but that's just how it has to be so my interpretation was not important, not important. And And so. Yeah I think just expanding what trauma is expanding what abandonment wounds are and also just that there? I watched a video recently and. This woman her whole therapy practice focuses on abandonment wounds, and she was saying like abandonment. Ones are cumulative, so they're not just one bit like. You said they're not just one big traumatic event. It's often little feelings of abandonment that that build up. Over time. And so we're all soul. We all know what it feels like. When someone rejected as early on or wasn't there for US or whatever? Specific instance there's probably a lot of them, but we all know that pain, and so we're all so fucking. Scared of. It were so afraid of it that often we're operating in dating from sphere of. Don't abandon me. Don't don't abandon me. Don't abandon me. So I think like the reframe is how can I stop abandoning me and putting all of my worth and validation on someone?.

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"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

Gen Love

08:42 min | 7 months ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"Just do X. Y. and Z. that I will gain their attention or their approval and I think with this person I was just involved with. I was feeling like. You know it's going to be. This is different. We have this connection which really. Is. The truth. The, truth is that it was familiar, and so I was confusing that type of familiar nece as chemistry or that there was something to this. And Yeah, just really triggered my abandonment wound. So that's the place I was operating from, and so it's this place of. Know believing that? I'm the person that's GONNA be the exception to the rule. Even though he's saying, he's not ready for a relationship for. Has a lot of his own things to work on. But I also was you know. Spending time with the here choosing to do that as well so I? Think that's where things became very mushy. Well I think also it's. It's a good note to make to people listening that I think. Sometimes. People get confused. Would this whole concept of us being attracted to familiarity? Because people think well if you were treated poorly when you were younger, you're not gonNA. Choose that again. You're not going to be attracted to something that feels dysfunctional or toxic, but the thing is. Humans are attracted to what's familiar, even if it's bad for us it, it just is comforting because it's all we know it's already knew and when you're five years old six years old ten years old. You actually don't know any better. You don't know that there's a different way you don't know that may be. Your parents are not treating you. You well or emotionally earn very mature. You don't know those things you know that that's home. You know that those are your parents that you love more than anything in the world. Do you know that that's what love is? Yeah? You're todd. The DOTS will love is exactly so I think because it reminds when you were saying that. It reminds me of this thing I've seen of guys. Kind of getting angry with wide girls always want the fuck boy. What girls always say? They want a nice guy, but they choose the fuck boy or Or like Nice guys finish last like that whole thing and I think what is totally not accounted for in that. Situation is that a lot of us did grow up with emotionally unavailable fathers. That is the truth, and that is what we were taught. I'm heterosexual or or dating men. That is what we were taught a male in our life. Our Life looks like love from a male looks like and that s that subconscious familiar draw is much stronger especially before you really start the healing process than anything, logical or rational lists of things that they did or anything like that. It's stronger than that. It's strong enough to make us do things that we know are bad for us. not to say that you can't heal it but I do think it's important to say that because sometimes people don't. Totally conceptually understand this whole idea of being drawn to familiar and that familiar slash quote, Unquote Chemistry is actually not always indicative of a healthy connection. Right. And I'm still working on that. It is still. Very very very hard to differentiate familiar. With you know at some healthy components to just. Fuck in familiar, which makes me want to rip your clothes off 'cause it so familiar. It's like a very in weird. Yeah thing and I and I think. A couple things I wanna add is in the fuck. Way Up so that we did not post. There was a moment that I. I'm pretty sure I was talking about this person. your your but I. I was putting down. Just things about his character or his. It's not even about his character, but some things that. He Values I. Really don't value basically, but I was going in that mode of like. You know, stop that fuck this and. And Fuck Him. Yeah, when the when the truth is that you know I actually in this situation felt really her. And Really not seen and. And Also didn't really have to do about. Like, it didn't really have to do about him. What happened to do it if you would if you could explain that? Well I think what was happening for me. Is that because it was coming from this? Abandonment wound from my caregivers that it really was. My inner child was feeling like. Like so sad and so hurt. I'm that I'm not loved by you or that. Don't don't see me for who I am. And I am living at home right now and. So. I am in much closer contact with both of my parents then I have been in a long time and and that in itself. You know I have a lot coming up with that and so. I think this person I was involved with was just really the perfect mirror of the I still have. A, lot of work to do with those original abandonment, wounds and I think. A beautiful lesson has come up for me and all this is that no matter how much healing work I do I will still get triggered. That Alston gotta triggered and there's no shame in that because you know after all this as you know Halina, I was also going to total place of shame and beating myself up and Oh my God. How could I? How could I go back to that place or thank that this person this pattern? Wasn't there? but the truth is I just was a little bit of a perfect storm and. Obviously, I was feeling. I was feeling like. I was trying to solve this Jr, but but again the what I, what? I need to do what I have been doing and. Which is why I think this kind of reframing of. Letting go of laming others and playing into all those narratives that come along with. The faulk boy and billon izing whatever. Is, I can now step away from it and take time for myself and give myself that love and tell my. Little child go back into my childhood and say to myself. No, you're okay and I love you and I see you and. That's really where. The healing work starts so our doesn't start. Trying to say but. That's where the focus needs to be. I. Guess what I'm trying to say. Yeah like basically figuring out what wound is being activated or triggered, and then finding ways to to meet that need. For yourself as opposed to trying to meet it with an unavailable partner, which is a a completely impossible situation, and it's an impossible situation with anyone I think people in our lives can help meet our needs and will meet some of them, but no one is going to be able to meet your emotional needs all the time, and that's where we have to learn to do it ourselves and it's not skill that we've been taught, but self soothing self love. kind of that dialogue with our inner child with dialogue with ourselves to figure out like what's coming up and then holding her own selves, talking to our own solves giving our own selves validation in love that our emotions are safe in real, and all of those things which by the way Alex and I really want to. Create some sort of community that we can do this work together as women and we'll..

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"gen" Discussed on Hello Gen Z

Hello Gen Z

03:20 min | 8 months ago

"gen" Discussed on Hello Gen Z

"What is generation Z.. Z. is about expression. And being a leader. And making a change in the world open minded you see. It's more of a generation with l'ordre slang word gender expects blind. So! We're not all Wednesday here like tiktok dinner, as and we're also like the process generation like we're like everything at one. Generation Z. was born nineteen ninety-seven, or after its members are in their teens and early twenties, and they're the most racially and ethnically diverse American generation yet they're also on track to be the most educated generation, and to give you a sense of their place in time, most of the people engines e have never known life without a smartphone. memes to distance learning during a pandemic two anti-racism protests jazzy may actually change everything. I'm Christie totten here with Abby Hamlin, and this is Hello Jessie a new podcast from the San. Diego Union. Tribune. We've done more than a year of research and interviews to get to know America's youngest generation. We've talked to them and really listen, and now we want to share their stories with you. There's never been a more important time to pass the MIC two generations. The America is in a period of transformation, and these young people are playing a huge role in our future, even when that future seems pretty uncertain, it's all the more reason for them to help. Define it. They're literally changing the face of America. One expert we talked to wrote an entire book about the diversity explosion. This generation is driving and how the country needs to adjust to it and fast. So is generation Z.. We asked them. Powerful like straight up so power who I think. We're recognizing that we are. We have a lot of power like especially in politics so definitely powerful. Gen Z. is revolutionary, excited, prepared, most importantly capable. and. Just in general fired up and ready. Just say epic epic awesome. Gen Z. arriving on the scene in the midst of Corona, virus pandemic, which has changed all of our lives. In in light of police killing black Americans like Dortch, floyd and Brianna Taylor protests racial justice are transforming the nation's views and discussion. By donations so like! Well connected and so. So strong on this because we're all holding each other accountable, and we're seeing it more than ever, and we're using social media to that power. You know we're using social media to out. People were using social media spread awareness. There's really no excuse his worst. Seeing at first hand we're seeing video evidence, and the only at this point after all the things that I've seen on social media, and at that, everyone else has seen. If you'd still don't agree with this movement that clearly you have. You have a problem, and that's those are people that no one wants to mess with. Join us as we introduce you to this generation just as entering the workforce in coming into power. Just, as some of its members are voting for the first time. Just as the coronavirus, pandemic DEMOC has upended life and reshapes jazzy and its future to say hello to Gen Z..

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"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

Gen Love

07:23 min | 9 months ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"And I'm like hype boyfriend. Dude I. Now. I'm so grateful for doing. Yeah, and then things do come up that I'm like Oh man. That's I don't agree with that or like. Wow, we do not see that you know aspect of the world's in the same way. This is incompatible, but then I just like I don that craving like says yeah, fucking craving. Yes, look you and like McConnell. Mountain sleep at that layer. So my oxytocin s like all league dopamine all these fucking. It's like a drug. Like her and that that is like Gerard. Drug. I know it. It's it's a hard knock life. I don't want to settle. I don't Wanna I also like really have interest in just like trying to I don't know. Be With someone or have some type of like okay. This is not someone that we'd actually. This isn't someone I. would date or fucking casually. Exactly that has not worked in the past I. Don't like that I know. You know I'm Oh no Halina. No I feel like I'm losing it. Batch CH-. Doing Sakes. Oh okay. This is what I was gonNA. Say you know that whole thing about like guys not? Eating or like it also like no fat challenge like all that Shit Yeah I actually do think as a girl who enjoys sex as a human who enjoys ex, but you know someone. Enjoy Sex me, not having sex for this year. has kind of put my cravings. Away or sex, craving and I. I'm only reminded of. Yes. I'm only reminded of this because you recently had sex or were having sex in, it actually liked. Person Yeah. You were like craving and I was like oh i. totally know that feeling and it does make you feel like a fucking fiend and fucking crazy. But I haven't had that feeling in a long time and I think if I were to have sex right now and. To be decent sex I would also, it would be unlocked. The fiend and me would be well I know that because you also recently did. Have you don't have sex but I the day after you. Had Your like Nice. Make out sess-. Many. Yeah, go down! The doesn't count sex just can't. That kind of does counted a Sinus? Benaroya? It is I. Don't know that is for Mealey's next level when. penises entered in China Mall. It's just like a connect. Normative Statement Alex. While my sexual like yourself. But the anyways the morning after dafter your hookup and I only know this because I was there with you? Living with you at the time. You were in the. You're like I'm this. I'm feeding. Feeding feeding. Feeding although I did Google and I guess feeling is like the sling way, but the word that it's based off his fiend. F. I. E., N. K. or finding. I'm deflecting. It didn't last long I do think. Like for me, also couldn't get me off, so there's that. Sorry, could you? Know, could you think it? I don't remember what I did I think now. Judgment I never fake orgasms. It's really in my. Of, things that I do. But I think after a while just kind of like pushed his head away. Got, this isn't. It was the same thing as the person you're talking about because like standing wasn't bad I was like okay like you're not doing anything insane with your tongue, but like. I duNNo. I think at their. Whatever, and that's how I felt too, and I was like whatever. Masturbate later, yeah! Well. I, do think for me. I think once like. Sex happens on its site game over and. I. Don't know that was like a week ago. I'm still like. And a little bit of craving mowed. My whole point here is i. e were also gave another day after your out such I. Think you should go to sex Rehab for, sex ads, probably. Yeah, that's what I'm taking away from. Yeah I don't even remember that, but I believe you and I've been in the state. Mind aware I turn into like full. Seemed mode. I know that has also had I'm sure you've been around me. I have a can also happen when you're hardcore, and I've been here too hard core crushing on someone that like you can't have. A. Two minutes for Oh my God I get certain reason whether they have a girlfriend or their my TV. On my God you're I have gotten is crazy. It's like it's I is like such a human. That's like a primal thing. I feel that way right now. Thinking about the person who you're, who you mentioned is a girlfriend. I'm like only God. Don't bring him up again. No control my brain and body when I hear and I'm like no I love him. Yes okay anyways. The beast has been Let loose has. Awoken Didn't know the right, so I didn't want to say it. I was waiting okay. WAKENED awakened Walkin. I don't fucking know man. Woke. The beast WHOA. He ibis isn't. Now with Martin. anyways, yeah, I don't really know like. I guess. I don't really know how to wrap up this. If. You're a guy listening a straight guy and I don't know I guess the one takeaway like just like fucking. Take your time with getting your partner off. 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"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

Gen Love

04:48 min | 9 months ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"That. Straight men. Understood or took the time to understand how difficult it is to grow up. Female in this society and be objectified since you're a little fucking girl. See It all around UC. Sexualization all around you amend to becoming into your own sexuality, and to be given all of these messages on the one hand. The message is that your looks the most important. Your sexuality are the most important things about you, but on the other hand you're given the message that you're pleasure isn't important. You're the object scenario exactly your job. GUES- men off. Yeah, it is your job until okafor them writing then a lot of also experienced sexual trauma, those very years that we're grappling with all of those confusing things via and what it feels like to be objectified, and what feels like to wash. Other women objectified constantly what it feels like to have been violate you from a really young age, and that is a lot of women's experience. Yeah so I, just think. My God my foot almost cramped up I felt like the Beginnings Charlie horse and I know one away, but it was very terrifying. I think. I think I just wish there was more conversation empathy around did, but I also understand that. If you're having a casual encounter, it's really hard. Garner that but. Yeah, I do wish there was more understanding and you know what are just GonNa say I don't know what it's like to be a guy and grow up and come into your own sexuality so I'd like conversation about that, too, but I, just I just yeah I think in these scenarios. One guys just go straight to it. What. Exactly it just triggers lot it does, and it's also like. Don't get me wrong. The person that I had this recent like sexual encounter with did want to understand how to get me off. I think even alone in just that, which is just like jumping straight to end goal of like. How can I make you come? Yeah, instead of just like why don't like yes, but also. Again it's like it's really taking the time to enjoy the whole process because. For woman we are, so it's like mental game. is about the process it is about that like. That tees that play that whole allow. A whole act. Yeah for we come. Yeah, that leads up to that, so yeah, you know. Yeah! Take your time with it, yeah. Enjoy it. Going on. Yeah. Free Sexual. Manner Man. It's just such a loaded topic that I didn't necessarily like. Honestly going into this same like Oh, we're getting. Some pointers. Straight guys out there. Yeah, who don't understand the art of of. Cozy, eating in, let's just help you out a little bit. Yeah, but now I'm just thinking about this all and it's really fascinating and I've also been flat lake flashing back to certain. Sexual experiences of my young adulthood and me being triggered a lot and not having the awareness back then they didn't know what triggers were now so then I was like Oh God. What's wrong with me? But I was triggered. I not. I want. One another human being is like. Taking out anger and violence I on you and it's like also Saxon. Pleasure mixed in with it so then it starts to become. Out It that's where I get confused myself where I'm like. Yeah, sometimes I like a little bit of aggression on like. Is that like solely because I've like? Experience Sex been painful and aggressive, but then I've also. Gotten pleasure in that somewhere in the line, so it just kind of like mixes all together, obviously a whole community that. Does find players in Ireland. Yeah, I know, and that's fine and I. Just WanNa say I'm not necessarily judging out, but for me. It's far too tree-ring I must say. I. See, the Masculine Feminine Energy. Saying is interesting. I'm not totally sure how I feel about all of it, but I think regardless of its district. The time.

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"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

Gen Love

05:00 min | 9 months ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"Guys, except for proceeding carpet munching. Grow. MUFF DIVING! I. Think I've heard something along those lines. I don't know the box one. I'm looking fat suck. Why only set out on Mike actually angry at someone like suck my Dick Consignee to. Refereeing yeah what I'm. Referring to like Oh. Yeah I gave this guy a blow I think is, that would be my Go-to Oray I was giving him head. I'm pretty sure I just thought. Yeah I. Always say I wanted to go. That's what I say when I'm talking about people going on me, too. Yeah I just remembered. This. I'm pretty sure currently from wrong. If you're Irish in from the UK and listening to this, but I'm pretty sure they say licked her out. Because I remember this. And I thought Oh. That's wave accurate and also like kind of a sexy way. Honestly. Say It's more accurate, yeah! Than, like fucking eight. Please got. That's giving the wrong impression. We don't want you to use your teeth most. Can Be for everyone. And you never know who's listening drew. Belinda Labor is a good. I like that. I know I actually don't I'm like what what I want someone to refer. You think this gets. Like really pushing it now I'm like. Yeah, I licked her out. Walking out, can I lick you out I? Don't know I think like some of that to me. Can Lick you out. I just I've never. Meet you out. I think that just sounds quote. Unquote better to me only because really familiar I. Don't I actually don't like when people are. Tom Are on me and they say eating eating I'm like. And I don't I never I. Don't think I ever say that I'm never like Oh, so and so eight now. I don't like idea I know it's just it doesn't feel right. Magic, we use that for penises. Doesn't make sense because I his wing. Gusting knows it doesn't make sense to. Like. For Women like for Vagina. Should say. It's like. Internal Salt Lake. Is like. Yeah but it's not like you're. Yeah. It's I. Get it. Here's what sad this is. Actually defaults talk about. Say these terms. Yeah, correctly which I don't know. I mean there's no correct. Way Or like right or wrong way. But more. Would be. I think yeah. I mean I. Think I say oral in eat. Go down on any. Rain! If I'm talking to you like that's what I say writing telling you. At Yeah. I think yeah you. Go to's are really going down. Yeah, yeah, which is so vague. Went Down and did what. Did. He use his tongue down that he uses mouth, yeah. Fingers hands. What's happening down? You know. True it's a vague term, even though you and I know it. We're talking about one yeah. Talking about? Giving or receiving Laura Sex. Very interesting, but it is I know we elements full episode here to? More so talk about just like what we like our how we like it. And maybe also to tell some guys out there that are girls. Or humans that this just a good way A. At least for us well Azim Yeah I guess I guess. The disclaimer of This is this has been inspired by our own personal sex lives man something that we both noticed with certain partners and disclaimer. We're GONNA. Talk about what we both think means good. Carpet munching. A brain. But. Other people could have totally different opinions if we're not speaking on behalf of everyone who owns. Speaking. ONUMA China unless we're not. We're not we don't. We're not the president of the Vagina Owning Organization the video. China owning the.

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"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

Gen Love

01:38 min | 10 months ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"M whatever the FUCK NAS and. I don't think that this is being thought about enough because I think our generation does not know how to handle vulnerability rejection real pain. Emotions don't have to. I know well another. We don't have to and I also I'm just thinking about this like without all this online bullshit. If we were just meeting people out and about asking people out going on dates it would be far less people than the amount of people that we come into contact with online. So even though we like fucking suck at dealing with rejection were also like being rejected a lot. More in these like very miniature ways mulling over and over and over again when that person doesn't message back or whatever even heaving you don't get a lot of lights on a picture know exactly people yet minimize how much they care about that but they fucking care right so I think that's also an added like mixture to this beautiful cocktail o of lack of vulnerability communication abilities. Yeah it really is. That's wild to think about. I agree wholeheartedly and I guess I guess like I get so worked up and I know I sound angry but I'm not aiming at us because I am a part of this generation you know and it's it's not our fault. Yeah but it's absolutely something that I know like..

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

Gen Love

02:20 min | 10 months ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"Not a match and there's someone better suited for you. I someone that wants to have a second date with you dude. Like and that is where it's like. I think you know we have a reality check for ourselves if we're chasing after these people that don't actually want to be with us or aren't interested in getting to know us further so that's like that's a red flag kind of well. It's just it's just in my opinion and I don't know I don't really even know this person personnel. But in my opinion first of all like have some respect for my decision but then also have some respect for him to sell. Why are you trying to get this girl? Who said she doesn't like you. Actually you're like trying to like I'm not saying you can't do a sales pitch on Miami love and Affection Word. I mean I just like I just call it because I can see it because I've been there like I have in so many scenarios whether I haven't I haven't been like formally rejected in that way and then been like no give me a second chance but like it's not that much different than me chasing after guys that aren't responding text messaging now or it's the same kind of thing and I absolutely like looking back at my younger Alex. Southlake didn't eat a lot of love and validation from myself at that time because I was absolutely seeking it in other people which is why chasing after an MD watering hole. I look up. And that was beautify inmates so yeah that that makes me think of this whole scenario makes me think of that but then also. I love the response of the Hon. No worries like what are your feelings joke to you. This is funny. I'm like come on Dude. You're on and that is where you're right like this. There's like an ego spots ego response. Heidi fucking it's it's it reminds me of the guys who you reject them. They're like yeah. I can think you were hot anyway. House.

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"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

Gen Love

02:30 min | 11 months ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"Are so important. Yeah exactly as you would destroy my life. He loved so I don't think so I was on my stupid fucking instagram. Because guess what I think instagram. So fucking dumb think. Social media is so fucked up has has ruined humanity in so many ways but also follow us at Gen love body. I Love Arbor instagram aesthetics. Whatever I hate it but also love it we all do. We all do it but I was doing this thing. Which can usually you know? I'm just like I. I was looking at my story. Who's WHO's checking on my story. Oh who's this person? And for whatever fucking reason. There was someone that I was like. Wait who is this person? Analyst person and I clicked on her profile came up and then I fucking saw and I was just. I saw that puppy that puppy that he was so excited to tell me about but not only was the girls puppy and it was right at the same time that you know. He was texting needed puppy pictures. Which I I don't know. Maybe they came from her phone because those pictures were on her instagram. She was just so happy to be getting a dog and Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah and. I'm like wow when you get a dog with someone cuts like a big fucking deal like. How long had this been going on and I have no idea I will not ever no. I don't want to know I don't need to know I don't need to know about you. But old bucked up. I wanted to vomit on leaks. I also saw her in his bed like videos. Whatever I'm just like I was totally fucking shocked. I was totally shocked. I I felt like which I haven't gone through this in a really long time if ever liked to this degree but I was like totally being cheated on. And I'm like wait so you're asking me to come visit you. And he wanted me to be the dog mumbling. This dog.

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"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

Gen Love

03:50 min | 11 months ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"On himself so much on and I did come to basically without any changing information really but I just started to feel like okay. I feel like I'm I'm almost like using this person for comfort or this relationship is existing but I never know like. I don't know if I'm going back to San Diego and you know this person. We do have a lot of differences. Were not compatible in a Lotta ways. Even if he is a really nice guy working out those things that he had to work out whatever and so anyways I I ended it but I just want to say for contractual reasons. There was a decent period of time. Where although no you weren't saying we're in exclusive. Were intimate relationship. It was very much acting. You guys were acting in that. Well yeah for a couple specially for like a couple of months and we weren't necessarily exclusive or talking like that but he was saying I'm not seeing anyone else and I was saying I'm not seeing any didn't know this. Oh Yeah and we were talking about. Hey can you take a trip out here? You were going to go visit. You know all the stuff. Yes and that was very much a thing and talking like you know even though we're not we're not technically you're not my boyfriend right now. I think I even said this like I very much like hold you to that value and hope that when I got back to San Diego that if we can time is still right and we're still getting to know each other in this way. Then maybe we could try like actually try dating my hopeful of our commentaries. Okay so this is what happened and I was like devastated in shocked about it but I don't know probably like a couple of weeks before I had I had said like. Hey you know I'm over here on the East Coast. You're over there on the west coast. I can't really keep doing this. It just doesn't feel right and I've so enjoyed having you in my life but like at this time I have to go my own way and do my own thing and like I wish all the best for you and he had like gotten this puppy like I don't know probably like a couple of weeks before he said that and had was like sending me pictures of the dog and was also saying like. Oh my God I can't wait till you can come here and meet the dog and the dog means dog. Mom and ha ha hobby. Be The dog mom right end so I don't know this weird fucking thing happened and this all happened like I think by February. I like February's when I cut the cord and he had texted me a couple times too. Which again it's just like I've asked for space. Rive asked or said like hey we're going separate ways so he continued to like crossing boundaries. Whatever I never responded which made me feel good because I always feel like I have his guilt like I have to. I don't know like I'm such a bad person for like breaking someone's heart or making them feel bad or ending something like grab my fault. She had so much guilt anytime she and there were multiple times that she had actually tried to end things. Previously Endlich cried with guilt. Feeling like she was destroying this person's life by leaving which is now that I say that I know you.

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"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

Gen Love

05:14 min | 1 year ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"I am. I am actually rent some parenting about that. It's really interesting because I see it in my house because we have my nephew with us. If he falls someone's he has no reaction until he starts crying crying. I'm not supposed to be okay. And they're just observing. They're just absorbing everything right while that is fascinating. Yeah and you learn I can also see you know from having him around. He's fourteen months old. You also can watch him observing our emotional reactions to situations that he's not even involved in so if someone gets mad he's watching and then he starts mimic or yeah it's crazy. I don't remember being at age and I'm sure yet either but that's how young it starts says on Sundays triggers. You actually you might not remember. I don't remember like the the very moment I was first triggered a. Yeah you know. Yeah so but it's just kind of the message is and what are the underlying message that you received growing up right. You'll be able to figure those out. I'm shedding Because it's also the place that we never felt good enough in. Yeah and I think it's why if you you know there are some Massachusetts on top. Good school systems. There is some pounds of Massachusetts That do really really incredibly well. They'll go to Ivy's yet. And they also are the towns that have the most the highest rate of Teen Suicide. So Damn yes so. That's that's not a coincidence. In my opinion why are they suicidal? These high-achieving right. You know critical perfect by the outside world. It's like isn't dentists isn't that like the highest occupation of suicides. I did Nala but maybe I believe so. You guys can fact. Check me on that but again it's like when you think of that that's like very high paid. Yeah you know yeah. I achieving you went to med school right. And so yeah the totally goes along with what you're saying. Yeah well I mean I always think about actually wrote about this grabbing good. It's exactly what you because you're still not good enough. Well that's the thing it's like I do. Think oftentimes in society. That high achievers are achieving out of their trauma of not feeling good enough not not across the board. So don't take this the wrong way but personally I can relate to that of it not actually coming from his authentic place of me wanting to do something great but it's coming from this place of me wanting everyone to think I'm really great right. I mean that's how to like the great system. Yeah right exactly. We're taught that it's all right end so I was thinking what I was going to say is I wrote my graduate school. What is it called statement of purpose about this particular case? Was this girl when I was a freshman in college She jumped off a building. She was also a freshman in college. He was my attorney was Madison. Hollerin' and she was gorgeous. She was at U. Penn. So she was abby league educated or or going to be she had you know a seemingly really happy decently well off family tons of friends active social life and she was like a star. Athlete And I remember. I went through a really bad depression my freshman year of college where I actually left school and came home for the semester. It was right at the same time that she killed herself. And our stories really paralleled. In that she went home. I found all I was so obsessed with this situation. Yeah because I looked at her. I was obsessed with her instagram. I looked at her and it was someone that I'd be jealous of rash. She's better than me. She's always friends. I can be such a lower. She throwing out out yet. She's at an Ivy League school. That's she's good. It's the yeah. Yeah and so what happened was I found this out reading about her case later. Christmas break came and she definitely expressed a few times to repair and says she was feeling a little weird. Her Dad was driving her back to U. Penn. He said I will turn this car around. You do not have to go back. You can transfer schools. It doesn't matter Madison like it's it. I don't care widow so that father but she said no I have to I have to and so she went back and at that same time. I cry to my mom and I said I can't do it. I can't go back. And she said Okay and I stayed. She went back and she killed herself. While yeah and I wrote about this Graduate Graduate School Statement of purpose because it always like it just kind of horrified me but just was such a wakeup call because this is someone who has everything but okay. She has everything by society standards. What is that so deeply unhappy right? What is a telling us how a lot of I think like Oughta celebrities or people out on fame who also ended up killing themselves or have these mental breakdowns. Or you know right exactly like lucky. Yeah.

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Gen Love

03:05 min | 1 year ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"Big daddy o taking bubble baths. I have been taking like getting the shower. Antiquing bath which. I love if you have a bathtub but I know we don't bathtubs dubs but I did use my arms bathtub yesterday and I listened to trigger protection. Mantra BUDGET I go. I am protect Head and then. She does her crystals singing. Both things is great. It's on spotify. I love that I love that. Oh and I've been listening to a lot of Tara brach which is nothing new. But she's someone that I lo goodwill all different subjects that to do with the sole. I've also been listening to a lot of With the called Oprah's solar sole super. Yeah yeah that's a great lesson taught of those podcasts. And Dr Shefali who talks a lot about like repainting and great kind of like self love self care thing so yeah that I would. I would add that to the list using time to learn or enlightened yourself. I would add to what I've been watching or listening to the holistic psychologist. Dr Nicole Parra. I think her name. Yeah Bubba Bussey folly. Obviously some doctor Rodney Russula videos on Narcissism Eckhart Tole Aa. There's this this other Guy Dr Joe Spend scientist last name. I simply can non remember. Well whatever that's go that's enough for you all greedy bastard. Yeah that's Lenny and stay tuned because it's podcast is going nowhere but right here right now out into the podcasts world since we can even record more episodes unusual also stay tuned R. N. Please tell us what you want to hear about goodness. Yeah please do I really WANNA know. Please do but we might not eat. When might just keep doing whatever we feel like doing anyway so just true and then I'll say it one more time if you are fortunate right now and can help humanity in any way shape or form. This is a good time to do. So whether yeah or if someone you know even needs Twenty dollars because they can't afford groceries or if you have elderly family or friends that you can help out anything. This is a good time to do it. Yeah Yeah we all need each other people who enroll in it together. So aright stay safe. Stay faraway safe. Yeah Wash your hands. Stay mindful okay okay..

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Gen Love

05:38 min | 1 year ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"From an example for others to really explore different narratives that wow themselves and where they come from because it is? I mean. It's really cool interesting work and it's so it goes so deep inexperienced pain on this journey by the way. Yeah absolutely. I've been kind kate on the try. Yeah I that is so. I'm so proud of you so excited for that at how that's going to evolve what that's GonNa mean in your life and you know my but Jillian egos stories to a lot of Meinhof to do with being get. I got an praised a lot for being super organized and super goal oriented and and I picked perfect perfect. Yeah and it is a lot to do with my looks to. That's how it used a manifesto you know in high school. I was obsessed. Anyone who knows me highschool knows I was obsessed with going to the gym and eating absolutely perfectly looking absolutely perfect and at the time and I think this may be as one way in which the mental health community fails us at the time. I thought oh I have an eating disorder. It's or when I became aware I thought okay. There's this pathology. I have an eating disorder. I can get therapy for my eating habits. And then I'll be recovered. Surprise that perfectionism goes in every other fucking area of my life too. So it's really it's really this. Inner child work. That has actually allowed me to start to make progress on accepting myself as worthy just as am whether that's one hundred billion pounds more than I weighed in high school whether that's getting fired from several jobs whether I don't know I'm just making up fake scenarios but the point is the more it goes along with what you said about our friend thing. The more we put value on other people achievements are things outside of US right. We're never gonNA feel whole exactly. Yeah and what's just a loophole background? I mean what's cool is that all the Self Love Self work is all very interconnected whether it's you know Doing exercises about your identity or your ego narratives or you know the What do you call them? The child's not but like when you like the visualizations They're all very interconnected with one another and this is a great time to do them because we can't leave our fucking house right now. So yeah I'm so proud of you for all the work that you're doing I love hearing about it and I'm glad we're on this journey together I have to wrap up soon because that class not immediately. But that class starts in like twenty minutes Okay we I mean I feel like we can wrap up on by on slave right around here true. Is there anything else? We want to mention to our audience. We've talked about like meditation journaling. Different things to Help yourself heal and kind of go inside your soul. Deep within I think for me those are the big ones but then the other additional things and then you can add because I know you have some slightly different than me. Things that you've been doing but for me getting outside every day is big whether it's just I've been bringing a blanket and just laying in my front yard and looking up at the sky or going for a walk But but BUBBA bubba eating healthy going outside getting good sleep. Oh and for me the other one is Asmar in. That's kind of to me. Because you know I love Asam are I just listened to different lake? Am ARE GUIDED. Meditations or like positive affirmations or it will just be random. It'll just be the person just whispering about something but it just relaxes me. So those are mine. Wonder your additional once for people to take care of himself. Stern Quarantine Will you definitely mentioned some my favorites? Getting outside I think is huge being nature Sleep of nutrition movement movements like mine. Number one yeah Whether it's just listening to some music and dancing by myself or taking an online dance class. There are a lot of like you know whether it's like a fitness person or a dance instructor or there's really popular fitness dance. Classes like three zero five fitness. Everything is moving online right now. Which IS PRETTY COOL. And it's free so. I'm GonNa take advantage of that and Doing Yoga as one in reading books that I've wanted to read for a long time that I'm finally like okay. Got All the time from the world. So that's that's pretty much it. I think we've mentioned the biggies. The Big Daddy's yeah the.

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Gen Love

13:13 min | 1 year ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"If I know for myself lately I've been trying to journal Before I go to bed at night and it's amazing kind of what comes out of that and I guess my point back to the identity thing is that For me it's made me kind of realize some things that I thought were really apart of might like my core self. That actually just aren't my God and that were placed on me. Are you willing to talk about any of those or is it more private Will the one that's at the forefront of not sure if i WanNa talk about but let me think of a digital tell me about one after I now I need to know even talking about this? Okay well I should mention. I really love Helena. Posted this APP that she uses four journaling gratitude which are always a great You know positive mindset shifter or positive affirmation so you should ask ferment while I think about an appropriate example and I wanNA talk about Souso actually a good point because right now things might seem dire or bleak for a lot of people so what better time to start the practice of gratitude journaling and I use the APP. Hold on let me pull it up. I'm pretty sure it's called happiness. Gratitude Journal Happiness Gratitude Journal. I think that's what it is and basically you there's a journal section and there's an affirmation section in this is in the free version of the APP you can pay for more features but I- every single day when I go to bed. I write five things that I'm grateful for And they can be really anything last night. I was grateful for Alex. I said my best friend slash social slash family. Who Sees me for who I am and vice versa? I get to choose life with her. And that's so beautiful cheesy you go. There's a look and I saw do five each day and then on affirmation section. I do them just whenever I need them. So as an example I have I am safe and you can reaffirm the affirmation as many times as you want. I choose love over fear I am worthy. My time is valuable known as above or below me. I am love an imperfection and joy and radiance. I am not afraid of failure. Failure does not exist. I am ready to face the days challenges. With a sense of calm I am imperfect but so is everyone else. I don't critique myself harshly because they love myself unconditionally. I am my own best friend. Those are my formations but it can be anything. It has to be authentic to you. And that's another part of of all these spiritual tools use them as you'd like but also make them your own because if it doesn't feel authentic to you then it's not going to resonate and you're not going to believe in it and you're not going to take away as much so definitely you know. Take what you will but leave anything. That doesn't feel right for you but I think gratitude journaling affirmations are another great way to deal with quarantine and Corona Virus. Because obviously we have a lot of things coming up in bad feelings or there's a lot of focus on the bad especially if you're watching the news a lot so take some time and realize what's good about every single day every single moment that you have right now yup. Yeah I love that. Thanks for sharing those a lot of like simple affirmations that I've been saying to myself right now again. It's like another form of meditation really especially a couple moments in. I don't know I haven't really asked you or talked with you about this. But you had moments of anxiety the krona virus that you're like afraid you're going to get in get really sick. Can maybe die. Is that something that's come up for you? Yes not as much of an anxiety as a realization that particularly if I don't take the right precautions and also get my blood sugar's really really regulated and really stay on top of my diabetes. But I have I. It has crossed my mind in more of a ocean Selena. Now's the time to take care of your body as well as your spiritual. Yeah exactly. Yeah but I've been saying to myself a lot like I'm okay or I am at peace with this moment. My biggest son and that peace with a small man. Because I don't we don't know what's going to happen. We don't we don't we can't tell what the future holds and And we can't control it and sometimes that's scary but I think shifting to you know at least saying to myself in my mind and getting my soul on this level of like I'm okay with whatever happens. I'm at peace in this moment and I trust what's meant to happen will happen has kind of pulling the out of the fear of By like that I feel like it's an interesting lesson. 'cause really like we never know what's going to happen. This just makes it more clear. I guess to everyone. How fleeting every single sting is how we can make as many plans as we want. But we never know what the future is going to hold ever. Yeah I know I mean at any given point anything could happen with or without this moment of the corona virus you know yeah. Sorry misleading one. Second of what you said because I had to switch my air pods to Wire headset because they can't making that noise. Beeping and I it confuses me because I feel like I charge them but whatever while I really just Kinda WanNA use the example that I was talking about last night in my like identity journaling so I'm just going to talk about it and So this is a really big identity narrative that I've had for a really really long time Has To do with friendship and I wrote about this because I am struggling in a particular friendship of I guess I feel like I have a lot of differences with a friend right now and we're kind of evolving in different ways or our values are really really different to the point that makes it kind of hard to even have conversations sometimes like just about life things in general Coming to me for advice about something but because we look at relationships. That's what they're coming to me about relationship advice with romantic partnership and I think because we think of romantic partnership so different. It was just really. I was really struggling with that and And Helena you know this about me this is like nothing new but I think a lesson. More recently In my life over the past six months year. Whatever has been this feeling that I I can't let go of certain people in my life whether it's a friend or even you know a romantic partner. Because if I do that I'm a bad person. It makes me the bad guy. Yeah and That's really what was coming for me a lot last night but it kind of went into a different space as journaling which is that It's even more like about if I don't have friends like what does that. Say About Myself Because for a long time a part of my identity whether I wanNA admit this or not has been like Yan. I'm Alex and I've always had a lot of friends of always had a lot of friends and really close friends and people come to me a lot in tell me they feel comfortable telling me their secrets or whatever. I mean forever and that's just something that has become a part of my identity even though I don't necessarily You know it's not like a good or bad thing but I think it has definitely affected the way in which I go about relationships today because I think that some of us aren't meant to continue on in life together And that being said I've had I've held this identity narrative to myself so much that it's kind of made me like it's like kept me stuck in this place with certain people that I just don't think we're like evolving together anymore And yes and it's because I've had this narrative of like well you know I have a lot of friends and my friends are like my sister's in bubble bubble blah. I mean and that's just something that I've seriously like when I was journaling. I've been telling this to myself since I was like. I don't even like five or six years old because I don't know if you know a parent or someone told it to me like how I got in my head but it was created because I am an only child and you know since I was born. I've had a best friend. Shout out to Marissa. Who's in Italy right now But safe I'm very grateful for that but you know I always said like because I had these friends that they're like my family friends are our moms were best friends and we were raised together. I've always known like and not only known but like really cared for Friend friends friendship. It's like part of my identity. The one of my biggest values global blah. But I think it's actually at this point kept me really Stuck in some ways because I have a much harder time letting go of people and I don't think all of us are meant to be friends forever but it's just like something so there it is whoa put that out there. I guess I was nervous to talk about it because obviously this is online in. Anyone could here in. I WANNA be sensitive but you're not persevere. Yeah you're not saying anything bad about anyone. I think that is so a really interesting and be. Oh my God. I'm just so proud of you. This is such a big thing for you. Thanks for me I also. It's funny because I mean you know this because we've talked about it now but when you and I I got really close that that Eagle Protection. Whatever it may be for you of finding your identity in having a lot of friends triggered something in me which maybe. I need to explore of not being like your chosen. Best friend like that was really hard for me because in my mind I was like well. I Have Alex and Alex has me. She's my best friend. We have this connection and it's unique and You know she's my number one but I'm not her number one and that triggered this like unsafe feeling in our friendship in the beginning in the early days and I remember that conversation that we had at your house. This is one of those. This is actually interesting because this isn't even baby Halina. This is Helena just a few years ago and Alex just a few years ago but where you said. Yeah you know. All these people consider me their best friend. But they're not actually my best friend and I was like. Oh my God on now own.

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Gen Love

13:29 min | 1 year ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"Leggings. Emma sweatpants socks over same. So what are we talking about today? Elena well we thought it would be cool to talk about marriage babies and other things that were supposed to want to see my. I wrote that like as a title suggestion. I don't know if you looked at the Google doc but yes I love that but yeah I think this is so interesting because my views have like really fluctuated in the past year About marriage and I know that you've always felt some type away So I guess I'll start by asking you. Do you want to get married. I don't know so right here right now. I don't I don't know I don't have that answer. I think that I've been really hesitant about marriage for a long time because my parents divorced and I've seen a lot of my friends parents get divorced So I think kind of like early on like probably around high school I kind of I started shifting my own views because I I definitely think it's something I may be wanted or thought of when I was like younger I think it's the thing that we're taught to want and then as time has gone on. I've kind of felt like what is the point of getting married. If it's to end or you're going to have to go through the psych divorce that can be really messy and You know I don't know. Just get very complicated with money and and all that so. I think right. Now it's definitely not High priority and that what is more important to me is having a partner that I'm really happy with and that were growing along the same lines of And I think that I would have to be with that person for years until I committed to something like marriage. You 'cause I just like don't trust necessarily that. It's like the right move. That's kind of how I feel. I feel wishy washy about it. So how do you feel? And how have your opinions on marriage changed? While I think like lately I've just been as you know really rethinking and questioning my whole paradigm and this whole system that were existing in a marriage is one of those things that is a human construct that was originally you know for property and ownership and in a lot of ways ownership of women by men and to me. I guess I always was under the impression that or not even the impression I just believed thought I needed to follow this checklist of college career marriage babies and what I'm realizing now. Is that the whole goddamn thing is made up and like one of the okay so one of the belief systems that I find really interesting. Sort of entangled with marriage and divorce and how we see things right now and society. Is this concept that relationships only good if they last and my question is why why our relationship why relationships have to beef quote unquote forever in order to be good and valuable and meaningful and not a quote unquote failure. Because what I can say. Is that painful things in my life specifically breakup Or there's one break up. That was really painful for me was the catalyst for so much of my personal growth and if it hadn't ended. I don't think I would. I don't think I would have grown and matured and seeing the world and seen myself and my family and my patterns and dynamics etcetera etcetera in the way that I do now And so why? Why is a relationship ending in Weiser relationship forever and ever and ever? Why is that? The good thing is a relationship ending the bad thing. What do you think about that right? Well I feel like a couple of things come to mind. The first is I think we've gotten a lot of the idea of like. The relationship is good if it has a happy ending. I E it lasting forever from like Hollywood and movies And then I think another reason might be because in order to raise a family. It's like the good thing to do when the parents stay together for the child right but if the society that we lived in was just different if we celebrated breakup if we celebrated endings then like our entire world would look so different because I think it takes a lot of courage to leave a relationship and for a partnership you know to say to one another like hey. I don't think we're growing any more likely had been in the past and it's now time to go experience the world without one another function you know functioning in this type of partnership And I just think if we celebrated that more and it could be. I don't know just more of like a understanding in life that this is obviously something that happens a lot. I mean we know the divorce rate is. I don't know what it is right now. It's got to be. I would think like sixty percent So I think if you know are the world that we live in if it was just changed to be like a celebrated thing Then everything would look so different. But that's not what we've been told through like media and movies and yeah yeah so just a couple of my thoughts on that. Yeah well it's interesting too because I feel like the way that we look at love is so messed up because think about it and I actually what was I. I was watching some sort of romantic like TV. Show recently like a reality show or something and everyone I think this is not just strictly reality. Tv shows that. Do this people in general if you if you listen closely enough on talk about loving and other person when they talk about loving specifically a romantic partner. It's usually not. I love this soul for who they are separate of me. It's I love this person because you make me feel good. I'll you didn't. You didn't text me back today. You made me feel bad. You didn't I don't know or like you did tax me a bunch of times today. Oh now I feel good. It's not really about having the other soul for who they are and everything that they you know that they bring to the table. It's loving them as long as they please. You and so. I think exotic other thing about breakup we go ahead and Vilnai's the person that left us because they didn't want to be with US anymore but if you can transform love to hate so quickly you know. I loved him last week when we were together and then he broke my heart and now I hate him. That's not really love right. Well I think to like Kinda getting to the root of that of what you're saying it's like if we're always thinking about love As this like okay. Here's a person in front of me. And they're meeting all of these expectations as soon as they. Don't meet some sort of expectation. Then then it's like a failure somehow right like even before break-up happens so maybe like the first shift that needs to happen is really a shift in like how how we look at love and how we look at relationships in general. Because you know we're talking about on a bigger scale of marriage being this like it's like a check that we check off the list of things that we've completed but love and loving another person might like probably shouldn't be about checking off all these boxes of meeting our expectations whatever those are and instead it being like like you said just about really loving the soul. That's in front of you and the way in which I don't know I think I think love to me right now is Admiring someone for all that. They are in their true itself and as far as choosing partnership lake growing along the same lines of someone. I know I know I I agree with Donald also kind of the shift either making. It's funny because again as with US always I can't help but to think about our friendship and the fact that we continue and I don't know that it's the divine or what but we continue to grow together in the hardest of circumstances in the craziest harms the best times. We just continue to grow together. And when I think about the fact that I wanNA keep beat having you in my life and choosing you. It's because I know right now and going forward we were both committed to that growth and that growth is just really meshes. Well together you know. Yeah absolutely and it's not like when we met to and of course it's like I mean when it comes to like choosing friendships versus choosing romantic partnerships. Obviously there's a lot of difference there but I think sometimes people won't lost so now what's did I think there? I think the difference is that when people are choosing romantic partnerships. There's almost like more emphasis on. You know maybe just because we've been ingrained to think this way but again like okay. Is this purse like. Should I be with this person? Is this person. GonNa meet these specific needs where I feel like when it comes to friendships there. That pressure isn't as president. Even though I'm not saying it's not but I know that like our friendship You know I wasn't like Oh houses houses person GonNa look in my life. It was just like Oh my God. I mean since the moment I met you since I sat next to you in Class. I just I had this weird instinct intuition that I don't know who this person is but I just feel like I'm supposed to get to know them And so yeah I mean I don't know what do you think? Do you think friendship versus romantic partnership as far as like when people are considering whether or not they should have this person in their life where they want to get to know this person. There are differences. I think it's interesting because I probably would've said guests. There's huge differences three years ago or even last year even six months ago got it or not But now the place that I'm at in my life where genuinely I am trying to be as intentional with my time and energy and relationships as possible. I don't think that there is a difference in how I'm looking at those relationships friendships and relationships because it really is. How does this person fit into my life? How can I grow with them or are we not compatible and we can't together and I'm looking at my friendships the same way. I really am because I haven't had a relationship in a while but I've had some friendships that have kind of lasted for a really long time. That no longer serve me and I know that. And it's not any bad on these people I've had a lot of love for them and I hope the best for them. But as I'm growing and changing and becoming more conscious in aware I don't think that they fit into my life and I don't think it's any different than our relationship but that being said I think in society..

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Gen Love

14:57 min | 1 year ago

"gen" Discussed on Gen Love

"Heo. Hey baby baby what up. Oh my God I miss you too. I miss us as in. Gen love sauce generation loveless slash okay. I'm sorry I can't tell if it's recording. It's making like such minimal. Bum is making is making bumps when you run like when you talk. Yeah they're so tiny it's okay. Don't worry because I'm GonNa plugger into the good ole technology that will like equal. Is it and raise the volume needed? Be All that stuff okay. Cool guys recording from two different states hence my apprehension about technology. But we're going to do it. We're GONNA make it happen and try it. We have to. We want to be here. We WanNa talk to you guys. We have so many stories to tell yet. It's all while on. The the weird thing is since we last released generation loveless which is basically season one of Gen love our new rebranded name It's been what a year long time a year in like five Monday. Yeah something crazy like that and the craziest part about it. It was not the easiest part. I don't know why why so that neither of us are like dating at all right now. So it's it's kind of funny. That were a dating podcast but the past year and a half. We've had enough experience to last a lifetime. I am absolutely and I think there's also so many great things that we will be talking about that involve dating that like don't even require you to be on dating apps or even going out on dates. True talk about that self love Anyway so today we want to kind of talk about like what we've learned in our dating experiences thus far Holland I have probably been on like humiliation mulitiply. I'm pretty sure it's sixty eight in the past like three years Because remember we counted? That day and yours was thirty mine was thirty. They were almost exactly the same. Yeah that's That's pretty wild. It is Wyatt. A lot of different people had a lot of different Situations and scenarios. Come up almost all of it was dating APPs to right not all of it but almost all of it. Yeah I think like ninety eight percent of it yet like who are the people that were on dating ups long hair before we went to San Diego and then also care insane? Alex loves long. I guess a long hair loves you too. Though Kim anyways true true. I don't know that I had any that weren't oh I did. I had the boy from the gym. I the only one. Was there anyone else who wasn't from dating APP? That I went out with from Japan. I don't I don't thinks either there was like an awkward which I mean it's still technically came from and dating up but one time H- Landon. I went on this like really auto Taco double date because I had been talking to two best friends Unknowingly on dating APP and I was like oops okay. Guys are best friends but like I can't go on dates with both of you but then weaken. But you can one of you day my best friend. Yeah right and then it was extremely uncomfortable and yeah bad times though is knock no snuck so we wanted to just kind of as a segue into season to do this. What we learn we went on sixty day. This is the Click Bait title. We went on sixty. This is what and this is what happened. Or something I dunno. Youtube always has like really clicked beatty. Titles like that but True so I guess the first question Alex for you is after going on this many dates specifically league using dating apps. What's your attitude on dating apps right now because we've talked about that before but yeah now. Has IT CHANGED? And if so what okay? it's definitely changed. I feel like I mean there are so many different opinions that I have things that I've learned from going on so many dates dating apps. I think the first thing I wanNA talk about and I WanNa know what you think is. I'm kind of totally over dating APPs period right now because I feel like in nature. It's just so object defying in this way that like not necessarily in the way that you're like swiping through photos and of course. There's that level of like superficiality that is happening when you're just looking are judging someone based on their photo but it's almost just so objectify in itself because then you actually get to the date and there's so much pressure of lake you guys are both. I don't know like screening one another to see like is this a potential partner whereas I think I mean the I would love to just meet someone like out and about or through friends where getting to know a guy in more of like a friend type of way or in this way. That's not so just like object defying. Do you know what I mean. How do you how do you feel about that? Yeah well I think. There is the objectification component and. There's also the pressure because right if you're going into this there's another element to actually. It's the unknown of the other person's intentions so it's like one. There's the pressure of we're meeting with the specific objective to see if we are fit for each other for a romantic relationship so we can be like an interview which is not fun. It's not comfortable in its tomb. Raises feels great feels weird. There's object Bush. There's active occasion component of it Where Yeah you're choosing this person and I think it goes both ways based off of what they look like whether that be like strictly for their attractive or not or if they fit some sort of profile long hair yeah like artistic whatever is looking whatever you whatever you know does it for you and then also you just re- like there's an anxiety to it at least for me after all these dates and all this time because you really don't know their intentions and I think the truth of the matter is there are just more nor cystic like playboy types on these APPs because it makes sense of course there is. It's so easy for them. Of course that type is going to gravitate towards dating apps so I think there's a higher percentage of those types of people who are looking just for one thing and know how to manipulate you to get that and not the nothing else in lead. You definitely know what to say they are. Maybe looking for you know some type of relationship when they're actually not and they dislike. Want kind of casual sex or whatever they don't they're not going to say that and that's not 'cause that's GonNa get you in bed right right well especially if they know like kind of more so what you're looking for which I'm usually pretty honest and upfront about right. Yeah true they can Jessica if it comes up right so I think I think my opinion now is. It's IT'S NOT. It's not ideal. I don't think that it's impossible to find love on a dating APP. I know that people do. I've done it before But I don't think it's ideal and I think when you get addicted to it because it's not unlike social media where it's extremely addictive there's something about swiping and getting a match and getting a message. That's just so addictive It's like the notification dopamine. Hit a right and that can't be a healthy way to approach dating. You know what I mean in this. Like addictive Mindset already to begin with so I don't know I mean I don't think it's horrible. I think there it is possible to find what you're looking for. Maybe for some people but I know after all this experience I would definitely prefer exactly what you were saying something that just starts way more casual in the sense that you're not immediately like let's see if we can be romantic partners but you're more just like hey that's a person that. I like spending time with this group setting or whatever like I WANNA get today more right. I just wanted to simply like get to know this human. Yeah Are No more about this person. Yeah Yeah it's not so much pressure and I wonder too like if I hadn't been using dating APPs probably would have would have had not now because I'm completely off dating apps and dates for a really long time now but back then. I probably would have been way less sexually active. Like I bet the mob people I've ever slept with if I if I hadn't been using gearing up and everything went exactly the same like going any dates otherwise I think I would've only slept with one person dot year can only I can only think of one person. Real identity of another person will see the two people dating apps or alcohol. So I don't know I know I mean I mean for what like my dot year for me. I don't mean a general. The people that I slept with him. I either from attaining. I was drinking and going out. That's what I'm sorry clarify fair. Yeah a little sad well. Is it sad though? I guess the next the next thing I want to talk about and ask you about because I know we've discussed this in the past is that I mean both you and I have tried to Set this rule for ourselves when we were dating and using dating apps that lake we were not going to hook up with the person we were going on a date because it's just like it can cloud things and then you really don't know what their intentions are. Intentions artist do that then. They like got it so right and I mean in her a lot of our experiences when we have done that it hasn't made us feel that great later on because what whatever like didn't work out or you know I can think of like a million different guys. Datum seemed to dislike want it on their terms and congratulated laying a hookup. Whatever I some of them all So let's just like talk about sex. I second I feel like I know for myself because I'm not saying this. Is You know for the general public. I know there are people that like just have bigger sex drive's they're totally. Okay with like not only okay but want to be kind of like hookup culture who But I realized I just like it doesn't make me feel that good I don't really dislike WanNa have sex summoned to just like get my needs met and I duNno I dunno I feel. I think that's so very where you at where you out with that. Well it's so I mean it's really hard for me to say because I've just not been interested in dating sex or anything of the like for like probably seven eight months now so I don't even really think about it at all right now but there was definitely definitely some of the experiences that I had that were casual. Were really fun and I enjoyed them and I didn't know about about them And then there are other ones that did make me feel bad and it confused me and clouded my emotions and whatever so I think in an ideal world. My truest self doesn't want anything casual. No I don't want that. I think it's so against like my natural way of being. I'd prefer to meet someone that I really like. Yeah I WANNA sleep with them if I like them but I also just want to keep talking to them. I don't I don't have the desired sleep around but you know it's hard for me to answer that definitively because one thing I know about my life thus far and I don't know if it will continue on this way or if you know I'm breaking patterns but I have a pattern of going like pretty celebrate for a while especially in the winter months especially in New England and just kind of being a recluse and then springtime comes and I'm like I'm fucking on just like so I can't answer that I know it's definitely it's it is hard to answer. I think I mean I feel pretty similar and I think I enjoy giving myself the space and flexibility to like if I am out and about and I do meet someone and I'm like I don't know being really flirting I'm like fuck. Yeah like attractions. On and like emotions are heightened than it is. It can be really fun to like. I don't know hookup and have sex. And whatever he I think. It's like expectation. Management is the biggest factor. If you do choose to go into those scenarios. Yeah which is the hardest. Yeah it is. I think like looking back on a lot.

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