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Fresh update on "gabe" discussed on Murph and Mac
"And be instinctive and play, so you know, but they're trying things and like you said, if Brandon Crawford makes an error on a ground ball, that's something that is not going to be repeated. A whole lot is just approve anything. Errors happen when they start Alex Dickerson in right field where he started once before us a giant and he gets confused, You know, throwing facts him feel because he's not used to seeing the field from that way. You know, those are the mistakes that are going to happen when you put people in uncomfortable positions. I mean, they're just going so the other living somewhere you don't wanna Andy bag early on the home, I guess line and that's sort of what Paul and I have been talking about this morning in that the things the Giants do well are things that you sure they're coachable things there. They seem like they're a pretty productive offensive team, though they didn't put up a bunch of runs yesterday, and the Home run getting called that hurt him a little bit. But it seems to me like the elements in which coaching is a factor or managing is a factor knowing the rules deciding where to position guys which position to put them in our things that they have not excel that. Would you agree with that? Well, you know, it's it's a new manager coming no, his personnel and a lot of new personnel. And then you know the general out of playing hardboard cutouts and all that stuff so I think some of this was probably to be expected. Um, but, yeah, it's it's ah, You know, there's there's a lot of coaches on the half 13 and I think Gabe Kapler really feels like you've got a band with Make adjustments quickly to get data. The people quickly you know, to communicate. Ah, ton and let everyone know what's going on. But you know, there's always that hole. Too many cooks spoil the broth to. It's a really difficult balance to strike and I think they're trying to strike it right now. Talking to Andy Beggarly on the Emma. Guess line Giants, insider and bags going back to just the idea of players playing in, you know positions that they're not normally used to playing in, like Dickerson and right field. You know, it's interesting after he had the rough night with the with the Ah, the error with the glove and then the bad throw like you talked about In the postgame capital was asked about that specifically hate Dickerson and right feel what's going on. He's got no experience out there, and capital essentially said, Yeah, well, that's just he goes. I'd be willing to do that again. And then he did. He put him back out there again last night. I guess what I want to ask you bags is when you see a guy's not exactly comfortable out there, which we saw his first night. Then he's back again. The second like what's the What's the mindset there? What's the thought process is saying, Okay, my guy didn't look comfortable. But I'm running them right back out there again tonight. Like what's behind that? Yeah, well, I think that they realized that having more rings in left field, and that's what Steven don't care. And you know, we've seen outside. You know, we've seen what it looks like when the Giants go to course feeling they've got Denard Span 100 white. I mean, that's it's not pretty, but it really is not pretty..
"gabe" Discussed on Voice First Health
"Gabe. Welcome to the PODCAST. It's great to have you here. Thanks so much terry yeah, it's. It's a pleasure I'm happy to do it. All. Right. So I really say it'd because you are a clinician and we get to speak somebody who is using voice technology in their office to help with. Of the issues surrounding, being upping, professional, being a physician. But before we get into all that I, love for you to take a few moments and just introduce yourself to the audience. Who Are you? What's your story? Yeah you bet terry. So I'm a family practice doctor. I live in Montana have been here for about nine years <hes>. My Wife's family is from here I grew up originally in rural Idaho. So this is not a big switch for many live in a small community here <hes> right out of residency I, had a pretty significant episode of burn out on the clinic setting that I worked and. Not Let us to move this direction <hes> while I was working there actually started trying to figure out if there are any tools that could potentially take the edge off of <hes>, some of the electric charting we were doing, and this is old school web-based, super slow. You're <hes>. So I think with some of the things that you could do with dragon early on, it was not elegant, but that was sort of my background and <hes>. We moved out here <hes>. We had our big epic, go live in two, thousand twelve. And my partner and I <hes> pretty quickly realized that we enjoyed being competitive with each other for building tools to again make easier. So we actually run up and down the hall like Hey check this out. This thing that I made that can do this, and then it's sort of escalated <hes> between the two of us. Until finally <hes>, there was this Lightbulb Day <hes> win. We had sort of built some skills and had some ideas about what we can do and we came up with this challenge of like what's What's the model for? Like an entire visit? We could do in sort of one step with a macro with dragon, and so we did a a knee injection <hes> where it was the the billing code, it was the charging for the cortisone. It was the pulling a note template <hes> and it was all that stuff in. The only thing you had to do is pick the left or right side, and it was like all one step to make it happen, and we just like that moment, we were like man like. was that before it was like surprisingly a lot and so anyway from there, kind of went into <hes> pretty quickly, it caught on that. We were interested in doing this and we taught some classes <hes>. One of my favorite stories is I had a faculty member from residency in Spokane. The did a lot of hormone workup that was like twelve different things on a piece of paper that he would sign off on. He'd sign off on that and that was his orders you HR. It was like, okay, that is. Is Super Painful and cumbersome. So we that was like a great challenge of like how far can we push this? We did we built him a voice command to like order all those things, and then he you don't remove one or two if it wasn't needed, and so anyway, we did that <hes> a little bit tired of thinking about myself as a traveling consultant, and we actually tried our luck at a software startup. So we've a I taught myself python, which is a normal thing for doctors to do. Very free for of one or. Not. But. Yeah. So and then that was enough to be dangerous, create a prototype, and we basically an add on a macro tool that <hes> that we thought. We needed to kind of run these <hes>, these programs to kind of take multiple steps in the HR and make them into one step <hes>. We totally failed as a business although still use it every day and have a small number of people that are kind of passionate. Use It. <hes> and when that failed I was looking for. Okay. The intersection of technology and medicine is really interesting I mean technology keeps coming in. Where's this all going? There's the pain point of how do we function with it? and. So I, I was introduced to company in San, Francisco called tenor, <hes>, and sort of joined. There s a physician adviser and got really interested in AI and voice a i. Unfortunately went out of business. So that was like to for to like failures. And <hes>. So then I was like, well, maybe I should stay out of this stuff like maybe maybe there isn't like a really good way for me to be involved in this rural doctor in Montana I'm not even a tech place. So to speak in <hes>, so I, actually like. I did a creative project in I. Made A <hes>. What I was seeing is a big problem for myself and others was burnt out. So I I made a t shirt with the words fight burnout in a phoenix raising. Rod Scorpius, out of the flames allege I should send you when by the way <hes>. Yeah. And the idea was at the time lake, just my own sort of understanding what was going on. But also a belief that like people I really believe. Believe in humanity that we can overcome some of these challenges in sort of that mythical imagery helped me see that you know I still believe that was possible while some of the technical you know boots on the ground things. We still got some hurdles to overcome shirt. So anyway, I started doing that and then <hes> some of the folks that say Cara noticed it reached out to me, and then that was sort of like a natural things in common talking sense and. And we start I brought helped bring a pilot to Montana which started with ten of us in November and <hes> Yeah I've been using it since so happy to talk about more.
Fresh update on "gabe" discussed on We Saw the Devil
"And. That's not their own language and I'm like I don't know. Yeah, it's. It's very, very odd so. Melanie calls and chat answers hello sweet melanie. Let's get on speakerphone. Melanie's like okay. Now you can tell. Melania sounds odd and I for myself. I. Believe she sounds like she scripted her phone call. She wrote it out like what she planned to say, and then she almost unscripted. The. So she them China answers they get laughing and Giggling, and she's like, Hey, how are you guys and we're okay how you doing babe and Melanie says she's doing good I'm doing pretty good. Thanks. I was wondering where are you guys in Chad laughs and says we're just hanging out and is like hanging out are you in Idaho and Lori said no, and then chat replies we're nowhere near Idaho first off I found it very odd that they would not tell her where they are. Yeah. That's kind of weird like did they have a suspicion that police were utilizing their close friends at this? Point more than likely also don't forget that the week prior to this conversation Melanie Gabe had had that conversation with Alex Cox where Alex Cox was like, Damn. They're throwing you under the bus audibly speaking I mean they're really nice. They're giggly until Melania says I just WanNa ask you some questions if you don't mind Lori and Laurie's up be incensio of course, a Melanie says, I want to know you remember we talked about Jj going to case house and you told me they went there and now he's not there I was wondering what happens Laurie you can hear her immediately kind of switch gears. She's like. Well, I had to move in somewhere else because of her auctions so. Well. Was She was K-. You know trying to kidnap them. was she trying to get in what's going on? You can tell that Laureus, upset She's a laureate is thrown off. You can hear her tone ship entirely into this like deeper less meek zone Yeah. It then becomes d defense defiant Ya and Melanie's okay. Well, when I asked about the other day he was like. You know whereas Jj, and he said that it was from my security and that he didn't want me to know. So is there a reason I should be in danger to know where JJ s and again Lori was thrown back and she said, no, it's nobody it's his danger. It's danger that there's people after me and then Chad set if you knew then it puts you in danger. Chattan Laurie just kind of throw out their bullshit here God by position Lori will say something and then Chad backs are up and repeats the same thing and it's very clear very early on in this phone call that Lori is driving this bus. Yeah. She's on sounds like a ringleader literally guys I want you to look at the transcript of this Laurie says. Puts you in a position Chad says get a bad position and Laurie and Melanie's like. You're just worried okay and Lori said just keep him protected and chat said and keep you protected..
"gabe" Discussed on Voice First Health
"A voice technology product whereby a physician can simply speak their clinical notes. The Shakira Engine Listens analyzes the speech and creates the chart notes for the physician. I was really really excited to speak with Gabe today about this, get his experience as a user of this product and I think you'll be pleasantly surprised to hear that his experience has been quite positive. So let's get right into this podcast. Really excited to share with you. This is Dr Gabriel Charbonneau. Gabe. Welcome to the PODCAST. It's great to have you here. Thanks so much terry yeah, it's. It's a pleasure I'm happy to do it. All. Right. So I really say it'd because you are a clinician and we get to speak somebody who is using voice technology in their office to help with. Of the issues surrounding, being upping, professional, being a physician. But before we get into all that I, love for you to take a few moments and just introduce yourself to the audience. Who Are you? What's your story? Yeah you bet terry. So I'm a family practice doctor. I live in Montana have been here for about nine years My Wife's family is from here I grew up originally in rural Idaho. So this is not a big switch for many live in a small community here right out of residency I, had a pretty significant episode of burn out on the clinic setting that I worked and. Not Let us to move this direction while I was working there actually started trying to figure out if there are any tools that could potentially take the edge off of some of the electric charting we were doing, and this is old school web-based, super slow. You're So I think with some of the things that you could do with dragon early on, it was not elegant, but that was sort of my background and We moved out here We had our big epic, go live in two, thousand twelve. And my partner and I pretty quickly realized that we enjoyed being competitive with each other for building tools to again make easier. So we actually run up and down the hall like Hey check this out. This thing that I made that can do this, and then it's sort of escalated between the two of us. Until finally there was this Lightbulb Day win. We had sort of built some skills and had some ideas about what we can do and we came up with this challenge of like what's What's the model for? Like an entire visit? We could do in sort of one step with a macro with dragon, and so we did a a knee injection where it was the the billing code, it was the charging for the cortisone. It was the pulling a note template and it was all that stuff in. The only thing you had to do is pick the left or right side, and it was like all one step to make it happen, and we just like that moment, we were like man like. was that before it was like surprisingly a lot and so anyway from there, kind of went into pretty quickly, it caught on that..
Fresh update on "gabe" discussed on We Saw the Devil
"If you're willing to lie about a serious medical condition like that to try manipulated situation, it seems to me I want to say it so far fetched that she would try and link lie about other medical conditions a minute situation. So then Melanie fast forward. So the morning of November twenty six when she got a phone call from Chad and she recounts basically the. Chad being nervous and saying Rexburg police are going to call. You don't pick up and then how shortly after Laurie called her like everything's fine. Everything is own good and while and then she asks Melanie which I think is so sincerely screwed up as when Laurie ask Melanie to take pictures of some random children. Go to the movie theater take some pictures of some random kids and say that you're there with JJ nobody just affront to do that even in a situation like that. Right like a crazy person like that unless they're really committed Melania had lied for them and that's not a secret. So. I I'm just trying to wrap my head around all of it. It's like it's almost like the scenario of like you want to almost wanna like Melanie and on the other hand, it's like okay. The humanistic side of me is like she she's an imperfect human, his very imperfect. The. Big Part is that she could have done more and better you know. And we'll go over more of our feelings on her Oscar the full thing but I couldn't hold back now you're cut so that happened on this on November twenty six, and then the detective Palomar. Called her and Melanie Gabe didn't even call him back until the next day at the twenty seven and wins she did she told him again jockey just said she lied she said, well, Jj was here in Arizona with me or wasn't Arizona with me but Lori picked him up. He's now back in Idaho. So if that's new information, if that were the case, then you know yes and Melanie did in fact, lie it appears that she did try to bat the ball back into lorries court. It would seem that way that she kinda like for the ball back. But on the same note, it's like, why would you lie when you know that the children are missing? Why wouldn't you have your suspicions Raisin Lake and then she tries to play in her defense that she wanted to place right after. In the her testimony, this is when she addresses that she says that she wanted the investigators to turn their focus back on the Lori she was confused. She wasn't sure what was going on. You know she said that was her best friend and that all of a sudden she's telling her that she's being stalked she and the children are in danger and she just overall didn't know what to do so. The bombshell hits and that was on December seventh or eighth Melania. Says she called officer. PA-. In gave him more details about what happened with JJ Kylie and Chad. She also had a recorded conversation with Chattan Lori about Jj and this was the bombshell like. The we're now was the worst bombshell ever I apologize for you. Embarrassing. You know she recorded a phone call. So it was crazy. It was crazy and we're going to go over this phone call because it was it was just absolutely batch but we're going to go over it. Rub would asks her you know, why'd you do it where you prompted to do this law enforcement and no law? Did Not ask her to record any calls. This is something that she absolutely did on her own accord and she said that this recording was made on December eighth from David Warwick's home she did on speakerphone and then they recorded the phone call with the cell phone..
Animal Crossing adds bad luck and Valve's Gabe Newell prefers Xbox Series X
"Animal Crossing New Horizons Ads lucked into the game which may have larger implications regarding its future valve boss Gabe. Newell says, he prefers xbox series and X. playstation five but doesn't really explain why and CD project red warns against clicking links in emails about a cyberpunk twenty, seventy, seven, begum. Animal Crossing has been updated to include bad luck animal crossing received a second summer update recently after adding swimming a little while ago. But this one will make you fall over in drop balloons more, which is weird and further proof that maybe animal crossing isn't for me specifically but I suppose I, could see why adding that random to the game would be. Fun. Basically. As you're running around the island, sometimes you might trip and fall, and if you're holding a balloon, a newly added item, you will drop it. It will fly into the sky. You will also apparently be able to now create a King Tut mask if you find some gold but if you wear the mask, it will make you trip more. The implication there is that luck and specifically bad luck may have been introduced to the game, which is something that has been an animal crossing games in the past Patricia Hernandez reported on the update for Polygon and explained how this mechanic was implemented previously writing on a good luck day everything is amazing. You'll get more money from rocks. It'll be easier to befriend villagers and you'll have a better time avoiding bees because they'll. Move more. Slowly, the world's your choice. Ter- on bad luck days. It's the complete opposite you'll find fewer resources it'll be harder to raise friendship levels the money rock will become stingy and just to pour salt on the wound you'll trip and fall on your face wearing the King Tut mask will immediately lower your luck which is why you'll trip way more often it's probably an Easter egg hinting at the masks cursed nature The full story complete with some embedded video showing the tripping mechanic and action is linked to the show notes. This is such a strange, but this is kind of where animal crossing tends to shine weird little additions that make the overall experience more interesting, and in this case, a little unpredictable. Valve's Gabe Newell says he prefers the xbox series x when it comes to next Gen hardware. This is a quick story because. Honestly, there isn't a lot to report on here but Gabe Newell Generator of Countless memes and the boss over at valve appeared recently on a New Zealand talk show called the project and he was asked which next generation platform he preferred and he said without much hesitation the xbox series X. C. Nets Daniel von Boom reported on Newell's preference and wrote in their story appearing on New Zealand talk show the project Newell was asked by a host which console would be better the xbox. He said emphatically to a year from an audience member when pressed on whether his preference stems from his years. Working at Microsoft, he added I don't have a stake in that race we do most of our development on personal computers but the two I would definitely go with an xbox that story is linked in the show notes. But that's all knew really had to say in the past he has been outspoken about not being a particular fan of playstation not in a vitriolic way or anything, but it just mostly because it was difficult to develop for playstation three for example, in Valve Games do just fine with their PC releases but valve and Sony did for some steam applications on the playstation three not. Came from it but for a time, there was some compatibility between certain steam games like portal to Andy playstation three version of portal two, but it sounds like. Relationship was there has just not sustained. There are plenty of suctions that can be made here. Of course, maybe Newell and Valve are just million with the xbox series XS development tools since they do all stem from pc architecture, maybe newell doesn't like how Sonya's investing in unreal and how epic is using the playstation five to showcase. The next unreal engine epic and Unreal Do Represent Valve and steams biggest competitor in the digital PC. Game storefront battle may be newell just pates Ratchet and clank. It's all currently unclear. But if you're a valve fan and want to see more valve games on consoles, it sounds like xbox series x might be your better bet. Here's what released today liberated is out today on it's a puzzle platformer game that takes place inside a comic book. I actually gave it a full proper review on the June fifth episode of the Gaming Ride Home podcast. It has some cool ideas, but ultimately, kind of came up short for me when I played the switch version, some of my complaints were related to technical hiccups though. So maybe the PC version will be a little smoother
Fresh update on "gabe" discussed on The Leadoff Spot
"What was helping me? It's not that I don't buy Gabe Kapler. But when you think about stuff on Excuse me something I don't buy. Take that statement back. It is that I don't totally by Gabe Kapler, and it's a It's an all encompassing thing right now. It's that last Thursday night when he made that mistake, and he went out in the 10th inning and didn't know the rule and said he had a brain fart that by itself was a little frustrating, but it's that paired with other things that appear to be unchangeable. The left field right field thing with Duggar and Dickerson. It's already cost your ballgame. Scott's football game in the beginning of a Siri's when you still got to go to Houston, and you still got to go to Los Angeles. When you may still have to chew up some of this bullpen when you're starting pitchers aren't getting through the sixth inning. You've got to make place, And when you put all of these things in one basket, that's when I start to get a little frustrated. That's what I'm like. Okay, we're not seeing improvement at all. At all You're gonna have games like last night really scored two runs and some calls. Don't go your way. That's the nature of baseball. I can live with that and I can live with physical mistakes. They happen, but when they become the norm, but I'm going out every day, Expecting three heirs for the Giants that is bad. That is bad baseball. They can hit, but I don't think they're very good. I don't think the Giants are very good. And I'm just not buying Gabe Kapler and and what he's running out there right now. I'm just not. I'm not the text from the person earlier, the 707 Want to find that again? I'm trying to find trying to dig up that that that that was an incredible touched about Thie analytics. No, it means you know everything and understand nothing. And I thought that was that was perfect, And I don't think that that's absolutely accurate. But I also think we put a few too many eggs into that basket. You know? I mean, we don't need to reinvent baseball here. We don't need to reinvent the wheel here. Just play ball. The game come to you on the other side. I want to hit this. This Miami Marlins thing real quick. There's talk about a potential bubble. For October for baseball playoffs. We're just hilarious to me. Why? What's Wait till we get half the teams? Then we'll do the bubble. How are we doing? What is going on here? We'll talk about that. And then we'll make the connection with palling back. Berthe still on vacation, but probably back and take you through the morning on knbr 1045 and 6 80 here, listening to these forts leader early working out, Listen to the leadoff spot on your Amazon Echo Smart speaker. Just say play KNBR. The Hudson family has four kids and two options for a new home number. One checks a lot of boxes. It's big, close toe work. Private tennis Court number two was kind of cramped in that old barn was clearly haunted. But it has one big Internet with anti fiber so plenty of band with an unlimited data for us Destry in four K movies while Billy Games Tina Video chats and Andrew Maddie can do homework. Max. Good Point Ghost. A TNT fiber comes with HBO..
Giants manager Gabe Kapler, players kneel during anthem
"Phillies manager Gabe Kapler joined several of his San Francisco Giants kneeling during the national anthem before a preseason. Game last night when the national anthem began playing last night in Oakland for San Francisco, Giant players kneeled and they were joined by their manager, Gabe Kapler, Kapler became the first major league manager to take a knee during the anthem. I wanted to demonstrate my dissatisfaction with our clear systemic racism in our country when the baseball season finally begins on Thursday, many other players are expected to kneel during the Anthem.
Fresh update on "gabe" discussed on The Leadoff Spot
"Innings, pitched Get five strikeouts on the season. Major League Baseball made announcement yesterday. This is Perkin Rosenthal that they were planning to have these well, there was a rule that they were going to cut their rosters down to 28 players by tomorrow. They've now said that once they hit 28 They're gonna hold it there for the remainder of the season. They will not have to drop down to 26 players think they're trying to make sure everybody can stay safe and healthy. You also need access to as many players as possible on the taxi squad, which have been holding at three players per team. Guys, You're allowed to have travel with you, but not suit up for the ball game. They've expanded the taxi squad toe five players. Those your half past headlines more about a potential playoff bubble for Major League baseball and Gabe Kapler on the defense of woes of his giants as we returned to the leadoff spot now, back with a beach, slap, the tracks, air fire and the voice of a new generation resides. This is the leadoff spot without him. Copeland hear it now on your Amazon Echo Smart speaker by saying play KNBR. I had a dude hit me on the Twitter like before. The show actually totally forgot about it, he said codes. Can you give the A's some love but do it after five? 30 because that's what Toa listen. I don't know if he saw this. The A's yesterday one with walk off Grand Slam.
San Francisco Giants' Kapler kneels with players during anthem
"Giants manager Gabe Kapler took a knee during the national anthem along with some of his players before Monday's exhibition with the Oakland A's Kappler has been vocal in his support of social justice initiatives, and it
Giants' Kapler kneels with players during anthem
"That The number one headlines across the country, and maybe even here locally are going to center around the national anthem and what happened with the Giants players and coaches and manager During the national anthem. Gabe Kapler took any several Giants players Jalen Davis and Mike Extreme Ski in Austin. Slater were among them. And John Richardson, one of the Giants coaches was on any other Giants players, seemingly even if they weren't kneeling down in solidarity. I think that is going, Tio Generate a lot of discussion around the country and we saw a quick Word from the giantsclubhouse sort of like in a Cactus League game. Players who leave the game are made available for comments. I think it was Kevin Gausman, who commented on it and said, Hey, we're all here to support each other, and the message before the game was with the first anthem coming up. Since this restart that whatever anybody does, you're going to be supported around here. It's your choice and will support you. And so anyway, I have a feeling that's gonna generate a lot of discussion with the Giants did tonight. Well, I think so. And
James Montgomery Boice
"Welcome back to another episode of five minutes in Church history on this episode we will be in the twentieth century visiting with James Montgomery Boyce. Doctor Boyce was born on July seven, nine, thousand, nine, hundred, thirty, eight. He lived in a bedroom community of Pittsburgh. was quite a high school athlete. His Dad was a doctor and position voice for a fine education as a high school student voice was sent to the Stony Brook School and New York. He was mentored by Frank E. Gabe line, Biblical, scholar and theologian in his own right. Well after Stony Brook Voice went to Harvard for his undergraduate, and then he went to Princeton for his give. After that he was on his way to Basel for a PhD in theology while he was in Basel all there were a group of people who pressured him to start a Bible study, and he started a Bible study that became a church and to this day there is an evangelical church there in Basel that great, reformation city. And there's a church there founded by doctor. Boyce well. He graduated from Basel and Nineteen. Sixty six and two years later in nineteen, sixty eight, he was installed as the Minister of Philadelphia's Tenth Presbyterian Church near Rittenhouse Square on Spruce Street and Philadelphia Historic Church its. Spire went way into the sky, and its organ and its pipes could be heard throughout the city on a Sunday morning. Well in the nineteen seventies and nineteen, seventy, four to be exact Boyce started the Philadelphia Conference on Reformed Theology. And in those early years people would gather there and intense church to hear John, Gersh ner and a young RC sprawl and J I packer and others, this constellation of reformed theologians in Nineteen, seventy, eight, a number of them joined together informed. The International Council for Biblical and A boy served as the chairman Dr. Scroll served as the President and see put out the Chicago statement on an errand see. They established themselves for a ten year run, and that was the life they had a voice also helped establish the Alliance for confessing evangelicals and nineteen ninety-four. That group stood strong against the evangelicals and Catholics together document, and took a stand for justification by faith alone well, in addition to those organizations. We have the books that doctor. Boyce wrote one of them. Foundations of the Christian faith is his systematic theology. It's billed as a comprehensive and readable theology. He also wrote renewing your mind in a mindless age, and another one of his books to cities to loves is subtitled Christian responsibility and a crumbling culture in addition to those books. He was known for his. Commentaries these of course grew out of his many sermons preached from Nineteen Sixty eight to the year two thousand from the pulpit of Tenth Presbyterian Church. She did a five volume series on John that was published a four volume series on Romans, two volumes on the minor prophets, three volumes on genesis and three volumes on the psalms. They're also commentaries on acts flippy in Nehemiah, Joshua Equations and Philippians and a few more books well Dr Voice was married to Linda. They had three daughters, nineteen, eighty, eighty-two Linda and Dr, Boyce. The city. Centre Academy School there in Philadelphia. On the morning of Good Friday, April twenty, one, two thousand Doctor Boyce was diagnosed with cancer. He died eight weeks later on June fifteen, two thousand. During those eight weeks he had one more thing to write in. There were hymns. He wrote thirteen in all. One of them is entitled Hallelujah. The other come to the waters, an invitation for all who have no money, but are thirsty, and those who have no funds about are hungry to come to the waters to come to the fountain to drink freely of Christ.
EVO Cancelled After Accusations Towards Co-Founder Mr. Wizard
"Amid dreams and the sports minute presented by e sports network. It's just the Cherry on top of what was a crappy week in sports and the game community as large ego is, or maybe I should say was one of the most prestigious events in east sports as the top event for most fighting game titles. This year, the competition and moved online due to the pandemic, but after allegations of sexual misconduct towards Joey. Cuellar the CO founder President. Eve Online has been outright canceled Kular, better known as Mister. Wizard was accused of acting inappropriately towards teenage, boys, Multiple Times mikey crack prawn fan was the one step forward. The allegations publicly after those allegations went public Capcom nother Rome and band dynamic. Oh, all pulled their gains in the event. In addition, casters players also pulled out leaving Yvo, no choice but to cancel the event Yvo says sever all ties with cooler going forward, but he was a key part of the creation of Yvo and actually decision event from its Co. founder will be difficult. Defining game community was splintered this week. This is just one of many many allegations. Put forward by various. Various members of the community for much larger conversation about what's happening this week. The myriad of allegations and the lasting effects on the FTC I've just published an east sports network podcast episode with fighting Gabe writer Danny. Howard we cover these topics in depth, my condolences and the goal of sports network go out to
Minnesota lands Utah transfer Both Gach
"Fifteenth Two Thousand Twenty Welcome back to the CBS sports I on college basketball as where we sometimes discuss camel. And Leaky Black Matte new. Orleans is here with being near is big breaking news this afternoon? The homie Booth Got Aka both GAC AKA botch got has announced transferred from Utah to Minnesota so when I own college basketball legend is headed to the twin cities norlander, your instant, reaction and analysis, please. Of course that is the Minnesota fight, Song. You are hearing. Fade down start this podcast for those soups Twang are wondering. Wait a second. You double, maybe triple. Check your phone. That's right. I on College Basketball Podcast, sometimes leaky black. You know what you can take ownership leaky black I. Want Dibs on booth, gotch, going to Minnesota finally happening I. GotTa Tell Ya. We get this news on a Monday. GPA set in the over under on Richard, Patino, ten year contract extension and thirty six and a half hours for signing booth. What do you got the over the under there? I think in different times. Perhaps I would go. Under, but we are now living in terrible economic reality and I think ten year contract extension Dr Probably thing of the past at least temporarily. Don't underestimate the power influence and dynamism of booth, gotch returning home to Minnesota. He four seven sports. I picked Minnesota because it was the best fit for me. Overall playing in the home state, being with my family during these difficult times and playing with the talented group, coming in Gotcha is going to most likely. Sit Out for next season. He will apply for a waiver. listen. It's booth Gotcha. Anything's possible and I'd love nothing more than to talk with. With you on this podcast sometime later this year and dedicated an entire episode to Gotcha getting immediately eligible, but I don't know if he can pull that ultimately, they'll goodwin here. I mean Minnesota Beats. Out Clayton Iowa State Maryland Auburn for Gotcha Services. He played the past two seasons at Utah, coming off a season where he averaged ten point, seven point, three point, six rebounds, and two point nine assists most notably rose to fame when you and I both failed in about seven different pronunciations unexpectedly as he came up during a December episode of the eye on college basketball podcast, but he has become. Quite beloved in a short period of time legitimately can be a really good player for Minnesota. This is the third transfer. For Richard Pitino in this offseason. They also got western Michigan Transfer. Who will be immediately eligible brandon, Johnson, and then there's A. There's a good freshman guard coming in David Mustaf, who should who's from Turkey who should be pretty good as well? Jamal Mashburn Junior is going to head into the program so I'll tell you this. I mean Daniel to route to me. When he wore Minnesota uniform last season was one of the fifteen best players in college basketball. Booth, gotch can be one of the ten best players in college basketball in Minnesota uniform. You're from now if he so chooses teams also GonNa Bring Back Marks. Car GABE CAL sheer hope I'm getting that right and Trey Williams. Minnesota needs to be better. I think it will be better I don't know if it's GonNa. Be a year from now or two but I had I listen and full transparency. I insisted we do this podcast here. Okay, because it's booth, gotch. Biggest news of the week as far as I'm concerned in college basketball I. Don't see how we top this little question I have for you perish. Is I know Minnesota wasn't in your top twenty, five and one I assume version. What nineteen point I was going to be coming out on Tuesday. I must say what Minnesota from unranked to seventeenth eighteenth. Are you going to hold off even though Gosh might not? Not Be eligible I'm just wondering if there's influence on this roster scout team, and all that stuff might be enough for you to put Richard Patino team into the rankings. Here's what I would say. I I understand your skepticism about booth garage getting a waiver to play immediately at Minnesota, but I would say if Johnny. Jusin got one transferring back home to UCLA. Why wouldn the Homie Gawk get? One, at Minnesota. That's a very valid point. I consider that goofing around When I would, I reached out to people connected to the juicing situation as Joe First, congrats, secondly, how'd you get done so quickly? It wasn't just that choosing got waiver. It was like you got a waiver in like early. June or late, May, I mean it was a really sometimes. He's players waiting for waivers like the seats and started. Started and like they're still I'd nerd anything and to get one done that early. How you get a dog. And what I was told was it's was the easiest waiver request ever. You've got a young man on the other side of the country, wanting to move home to be close to his family during a pandemic. How was it ended up going to deny that one? It's like okay and if you apply that same. Logic to booth Gotcha. SCITUATE I would I would actually assume that he will get a waiver play immediately and to answer your question at that point I got bad news for I you. Look, there's a new favorite. There's a new paper to the big ten. GOPHERS. got.
"gabe" Discussed on The Dirtbag Diaries
"Lettuce set the new women's KT beating the previous time by twelve minutes. Justin made it to the finish moments later. Abby darted through the hikers in the parking lot and on the trail and arrived to find Latvian Justin at the finish I. Was Really Happy To see you know best friend and her love of her life Justin and me, her sister. We all miss gave so much and like different ways, but. These three great loves of games coming together to make this happen. We really wear a team that day. I just felt so happy I. don't even think it came from getting the time. It had just been such a beautiful day and Gabe felt so alive out there and I felt so live out there which I hadn't really felt in a while and. That was something that gave fought for. was that feeling so alive so? And she's like the reason that I was willing to fight for it to on that day, and that's what we got, so it was really beautiful. Even though the day was far from easy in many ways, it reflected what gave a taught ladder for so many years. Moving through the dark fog out into the sunshine, not knowing if you can do it, but giving it your best anyway. Taking all ten thousand feet of ups and downs in stride. In focusing on each step rather than the finish line, it's interesting because on the one hand it was. Chasing this time goal that spurred the whole adventure. But the adventure itself had nothing to do with. Achieving that time goal and everything about the pursuits and everything about just trying and. That's what made us feel so alive. And I think that's what made gave feel so alive, so it's like I needed that. Time goal in order to get myself back on the trail. But once I was on the trail. Time.
"gabe" Discussed on The Dirtbag Diaries
"O five. After the break ladder meets up with Justin. Engage sister abby. To race around Mount Hood. Stay with us. Tonight..
"gabe" Discussed on The Dirtbag Diaries
"Latvia spoke at Gabes funeral the following week as a not so subtle reminder of Games personality. Lady Award Bright sequin jacket that she engaged took turns wearing the Taylor. Swift concerts. Lettuce said goodbye to friends and family and went back to Washington. Rather than slowing down, she said is an heart on Western states and iconic ultra-marathon in the Sierras I. was really looking forward to that. Only because it would be a hundred uninterrupted miles with my best friend. Just. Feeling everything that I needed to feel running was really. My time to be with Gabe and really the process everything that had. Happened in the last couple of weeks, but also in the last ten years. After Western states. Things finally slowed down in ladders. Grief caught up to her. That summer. Running. Was a way for me to feel close to gave an also was challenging for me so I think grief in addition to these crashing waves of emotions that can also. Make Us, feel apathetic or even kind of dead inside, and I was definitely experiencing that over the summer, and just you know not taking interest in things that usually love like running or being out in the mountains, and probably feeling like elements of depression. After Gabe Past Justin took over. The brave light gave foundation. In line with its mission of staying active, in spite, a struggle, he pitched Latvia ongoing for an F. K., t., or fastest known time it's basically a speed, record or course-record from point a to point b along a given route, so he had asked me on a whim early August. If I WOULD WANNA go for the timberline fcat. We were already GONNA be hanging out on that weekend, because we were going to a concert together and I couldn't let him down even though I didn't WanNa. Do the FKTU in all honesty, so I said yes. And! I was like Oh. Let you why did you do that? But here we go resetting the women's timberline trail. Kt wouldn't be easy and Latvian knew it because she ran that trail with friends and twenty sixteen. It circumnavigates the base of Oregon's MT, Hood. It stretches over forty miles with almost ten thousand feet of gain and loss. Neither Latvia or Justin had ever attempted an FDA t before, but they were both strong runners and close friends, and maybe most importantly, they were bonded by their love for Gabe. Just decided to run with Latvia even though it would be about ten miles more than his longest run. Here's Justin similar is not all. It's slated as forty to forty two miles, but when you add. The obstacles elevations changes in wrong turns. Your intake seems like a lot longer than that, so it was just a way for me to learn. If I could go that far a new light, it could go that far, but it was a pretty. Pretty difficult task record people weren't going for. The very heart record the existing women's F. KT was seven hours and fifteen minutes set back in nineteen, eighty, two by Lynn harmon back then it was an actual race Ronald. Reagan was the US president in time. Magazine's person of the year was the computer. It was also three years before Lodhi was born. Since that time, a number of large washouts have changed the trail. The common assumption is that now it's a little longer in a little harder, so theoretically times would be slower not faster. The fcat was doubt especially at a time when Latvia felt she didn't have the fitness or heart to chase something so big. But also new GABE would've loved how big the challenge was gapes. Big thing was never giving up on the things that make you feel alive. No matter what else is going on in your life, especially no matter what kind of hardships he might be going through and so i. Wanted to honor that and I also wanted to do it for Justin. Justin can get himself out the door for a forty plus mile run around a volcano and he's lost everything then. I certainly can two. On Friday August thirtieth, laddy gotten her car started driving to Oregon. She saw her first sign from Gabe gave had a lucky number, and that was fourteen o five and when I was driving down to Portland. You start to see signs for I four O. Five, which on sign looks like fourteen.
"gabe" Discussed on The Dirtbag Diaries
"That sums it all up. You know like in the end all that matters is the love, and that's coming from somebody who had dreams of going to the Olympics but none of that mattered when it really came down to it..
"gabe" Discussed on The Dirtbag Diaries
"gabe" Discussed on Opening Arguments
"From breaking. No? Yeah, IT'S JESSE PINK! Yes, you're right. Of course, it is yeah. Sorry I'm watching them in parallel. So That's interesting. That's a weird it's. It's an interesting way to do it. It's a weird way to do it, but. However you do it. I'm happy you're watching finally. Yeah, you're there great, okay? So. Notwithstanding that. The Jesse Pink men diversion. Yeah. Here's how this plays out. Prosecutor puts on evidence of the crime. The defendant then calls as a witness someone who will testify as to the general reputation of that of that person, and then on cross examination. The prosecutor can then ask the witness about specific examples right and think about how that would take the form right like Mr. Smith. You've testified that Andrew Torres has a general reputation for honesty, but isn't it true that you wrote him this letter in two thousand nineteen, saying you lied to me about the money whereas my money I demand my money. You lying sack of crap. And so I can impeach your general opinion with specific examples, and then as the defendant, what you can do is either or both of a coaching, the witness and be redirecting the witness on those specific examples to try and get in an answer to whatever you know, rebuttal. Across. Examination was introduced by by the prosecution. Does that make sense so you might you might answer it as Oh, yeah, I sent that email, but immediately after I realized that I was looking at the wrong. You know I was looking at the wrong account. So you know I sent that in error, and that's a way then of getting in the evidence of Oh and and you know. What was that account? that was I entrusted Andrew Tour with a million dollars, and he deposited it, and for a second I thought he hadn't, but it was my fault, because I was looking at the wrong line so. That's the sort of head chess. You would use to try and get some of the specific examples in through the back door. Does makes no sense until they ask him cross annex. All I can do as the defense attorney is illicit. General Opinion, would you? He's a good guy. Yes, I would say he's a good guy. That's useless. is totally useless. It's a it's a crazy Roy. Disagree with this law, this rule whatever it is. So I, stand by my answer is the better answer and better answer, but it's wrong in this case, you know whatever I get I. Get that you got to play by the Book Andrew I. Don't blame you, but thank you this is. This is stupid. All right wrong Let's have in your time machine and find the must be a lawyer who got homeless. Well Thomas I've got a caveat this by saying. I've been really really busy working on the opening. Arguments brief pretty much eighteen hours a day all weekend. that being said as far as I can tell, nobody got this t three. E question, right? I could be wrong if you think you've got to write this week. Go ahead and at Addis next week. but the closest that I can find is Nathaniel Gaza who writes saying it'd be weird if witnesses were allowed, only testify about reputation and not specific acts, usually is a hilarious accidentally accurate description of the law so far. He's exactly right, but then he. He says see is correct and opens defendant to contrary character evidence all thank. You were so close but this time close is good enough, so congratulations on being this week's winter and everyone given annual follow. That is at N. R.. G. A. J.. A. S. A. on twitter and congratulations for being close counts in horseshoes, hand, grenades, and apparently teeth three be. All right thanks for listening. Thanks again to our guest, Gabe, Roth, really great interview and by the checkout fix the court dot com, and also we will see folks.
Coronavirus behind bars
"We reached out to the Washington Department of Corrections and were able to connect with Jeremy Barklay. He's the director of engagement outreach for the Washington Department of Corrections. He says there are about eighteen. Thousand inmates in the states. Twenty four facilities about a thousand identify is native American although testing is limited. The state counts twenty-six inmates total with cove in nineteen the state released about eight hundred fifty inmates who qualified as a way to help slow the spread of the virus. Barkley says his department worked with tribes for enrolled members. Who were released? The office of tribal relations within the Department of Corrections has Desert knees from each of the Twenty Nine federally recognized tribes within the State of Washington. And so we are office was in contact with those tribal delegates to let them know Which tribal members were Qualified under the rapid reentry or commutation furlough so that we could further smoothie reentry process between those native individuals and the home communities to which they returning It allowed us to ask what resources might be a need whether that is You know whether we could focus on on clothing or make sure that the tribe had available foodbank resources and any type of Services that those individuals needed on a case by case basis we were able to better communicate with those tribes And again hopefully guarantee a more smooth and successful reintegration back to the community. We've been very pleased with the reception we've received from the tribes and Very pleased with the way that We built systems before code so as to work on releases for our native peoples in that. Was Jeremy Barklay with the Washington Department of Corrections? The system also requires physical distancing mandatory face covering for all inmates and staff an additional cleaning and disinfecting. That's one view into all of this. What's yours go ahead and join us right now at one. Eight hundred nine six two eight. Four eight is the number and joining us today. Out of Seattle Washington is Gabe Glenda. He is the managing noyer for Glenda Brodmann and founder of hoyt he belongs to the Round Valley Indian tribes are pleasure to have him here. Thank you for joining us for another native America calling had Internet and gave. We just heard a little bit. What's going on there in Washington state but give us a further view into this What are you seeing? What are you witnessing especially with the Washington stance on releasing state prison inmates early? I work with Hoy which is a nonprofit off named after the she'd word that means See you again. We never say goodbye. We've been working for the last ten years on making sure. Indigenous relatives in iron houses are able to spiritually rehabilitate. We work closely with a sister organization native American Reentry Services that runs a program that prepares them particularly spiritual return to society so that we don't mind them in trouble again and we've been working hard as we could for the last several weeks With the State Department of Corrections and we very closely with Mr Barklay and Lynn. Dennis tribal liaison for the Department of Corrections. LemMe Tribal member and we should everything they've done but we've really been feeling sort of like we're on the outside looking in in sort of a helpless way We've tried to help furnish PT donations from a local tribe especially when one of its own tribal members contract to positive for the disease at Monroe Corrections Center We have a bunch of able sewers in all of our circles within the state's prison system and we tried to have them be available to so masks for example or use within the prisons and we were unable to do that. we've been hamstrung and our ability to facilitate sweat lodge ceremony drumming circle or other spiritual activities to ensure. That relatives are are coping with this catastrophe and the best way possible without compromising Their own mental ability in wellbeing. And so we've worked with the DNC tried to work with the DNC and we're not trying to criticize them because we know they're in an unprecedented situation and taking all precautions. We believe but it's been difficult for us to sit on the sidelines and not do it. We normally do over the last eight or ten weeks and watch watch this thing on unfold as too early release We are encouraged that. A number of prisoners in our state have been released We would encourage the state to do more in that respect there are certain populations of our included. That should not be behind bars for example. Our our juvenile without parole Prisoners meaning a are men and women who were sentenced for horrible mistakes they made when they were juveniles sentenced to life without parole for example. But that's been deemed accrue on usual and unconstitutional punishment and so there are certain populations like those populations which includes cinnabar native relatives. Who We know about who should be added to these lists of people either of age or Health affliction or other status. That should be considered for early release
Open Source Hardware: Makers Unite
"Back in the mid two thousands. The open source hardware community wasn't really much of a community. There were hacker spaces shore there. You could find people with a mind towards open source hardware. More and more of these spaces started to pop up all over the world and one was located at Mit. My name is dare. I am the founder of little bits. The group was really almost like a group of misfits from the media lab where it was like artists and designers and kind of like activists that came together to use technology to kind of make impact in the world. I was part of this next generation of multidisciplinary makers empowered by new hardware. I is an engineer. An interactive artist she graduated in Beirut with degrees in computer and Communications Engineering and sociology. In two thousand and four and then from the MIT media lab in two thousand six. I negotiated with my parents that if I had a degree in engineering I could then do design. Which is what I wanted to do. That was the deal. Engineering Tech was starting to make its way into non engineering fields. All over the world in two thousand eight I received a fellowship at IBM art and Technology Center. That's where she invented little bits. Little Bits are pre engineered magnetic electronic bricks similar to lego except they contain lights sound sensors motors solar panels. And so you snap a light. An led to battery light comes on you. Put a light center in between now. You've made a night light. You put motor in two wheels on it. Now you've made the light activated car you can you know put a the Bluetooth module on it. Now you can activate with your phone so you don't have to be an engineer. It takes you seconds to do it. They snapped with magnets so their magical and they Sound beautiful when they snapped. I had two goals to make little bits of company and to make it open source. She wanted the engineering concepts to be accessible to everyone. A lot of the work that existed random. It was around open source software. If there were a few people that were really interested. In how does open source apply to architecture? How it is open source apply to hardware. How does open source applied to electron ix? It made sense that the world is full of these incredible ideas and credible effort. If everybody's always closing off their Inventions and their and their IP You know the world suffers so for Muse. Interesting figuring out how to away where you can be Supporting yourself and sustainable and create strong businesses but also be sharing knowledge but little bits also had to function as business manufacturing distribution investment. Each area had cost associated with them. How could she combined business objectives while at the same time making her hardware? The crux of our operation open source to help figure this out. I did a fellowship with creative Commons and US. Little bits as a case study. That's when she decided to hold that workshop opening hardware back in early twenty ten. We did a workshop where we were like. You know one of the things that important. Should we have a definition? We have a place where we meet. We need a website What works what does work. And around the same time at least show had been doing a similar work as part of being a Bug. Labs another startup. That wanted to be open source. I'm a big proponent to like make sure that you're emotionally prepared to open your hardware before doing it because it kind of means that you're you're giving away your baby a leash. Gabe was working at an open hardware. Supplier called Bug labs as a researcher and prototype. She had started out as a librarian. And through getting my masters in Library Information Science I ended up tripping on this weird path that led me to electronics and I found that I really loved it and really enjoy that feeling of when you light a Benelli D. And you understand that your making electrons do stuff. It's a little bit like you. Control this tiny part of the universe and it feels really powerful and I just love that as different as library science and open hardware maybe for Lisa. They share the same. Ethos you are not a gatekeeper. As a librarian you're there to help people find the information they need. And so those roots really kind of pave the way for open source to be obvious to me really companies like leashes employer bug labs. Were starting to understand the business opportunities that open source hardware could offer. Smaller companies could tap into a broader group of makers Aka customers by going open source. Larger companies could open source designs to competitors and still profit by supplying them with related components. My boss ended up asking me. Look there's gotTa be more people trying to open source hardware than us. Do you think you can find those people and get everybody together. The seat for the future summit was planted with that conversation so as leashes started searching for other open source hardware makers I received the creative Commons Fellowship and hosted the workshop. So this was the first time that I would get to meet in person and I was pretty excited about because I read. Read her research and used it in my research. What I was doing my thesis on are we now and you know a lot of the people in the field. I kind of you either mad or an email lists or whatever. The people that I gathered around the table at her workshop have gone on to become leaders in the open source hardware movement members of the Duino team founders of spark fun and maker bought as well as one very interesting individual who named her hardware company after the world's first computer programmer.
The Check Yourself Episode
"Episode is All about perspective privilege. And how far we've come as collective outsiders here at outcast were always looking at ways to celebrate and shine. Light on our otherness. Do we ever take our progress for granted. Today we're GONNA take a closer look at those moments when you're suddenly reminded of that otherness. Even after years of feeling accepted loved and to start us off. Here's a clip of Gabe in deciding. Who's the guests? What do you think you are probably like nine? Think it changed when I started watching drag rates like watching drivers for the longest time. It was like this is so gay and then it was like wait. This is internalized homophobia and I started watching it rather just be more gay so much much much more find. You gave me a ninety. You gave me one nine. I X. I know what. It's like a fun nod to sports. Not like the actually following actually watches sports for five. That's not gay. Was that you guys nice so rude but it's all fun and Games but this idea of rating ourselves on a spectrum is really not that foreign in this generation. I read this incredible article that we're GONNA post in the show notes about your privilege score. The topic of privilege is buried. Twenty nineteen and. I'm hoping is not very twenty twenty but I'm fascinated about the idea of outcasts and how people would compare their otherness. One of my sayings are GonNa get mad at me about this. But I've always said just because people are starving in the world doesn't mean I have to enjoy hunger but I feel like that's a real condition. People are living with right now. The basic gist of the article. Though is that there is a framework of otherness with seven factors gender age sexual preference income mental and physical ability race and religion. If you're outside the majority in any of these criteria you're considered other but if you have an intersection of multiple factors you've really hit the Jackpot about this. What's more is that within? Each of these factors there in entire spectrum where a person might land for instance Personal finances has like an extreme range based on where you live geographically those things different experiences with you the issue that I have is. There's a negative result in this This class system of how outside the norm you are making some people feel not other enough for example in the video clip that we just shared with game in deciding. Who's the guest? It starts to become a class system within a minority group. So I thought it'd be a great thing for us to discuss for all of our outsiders who have lots of thoughts on this lay them. Honor lay them on you so I think it kind of boils down to US realizing I mean I've person realize yes. I'm a white gay man and the privileges real and using that said privilege to lift others up super important And knowing that that privilege exists while not exacerbating with that privilege is in my taking advantage of it or not taking him into it but like is we have to use it for good. Use Your privilege for good and when you try to do that or when. We've tried to that when I've tried do that. Sometimes it's it feels like a competition Because you know you're white gated you don't know what the plight of at my story is. Yeah you're right. We all have our own stories and we all have our own on things but it doesn't mean it makes our stories any less valid As far as otherness and I think that's kind of what you hit on is like we shouldn't be out other each other It should be you know we should celebrate each other's otherness As any sort of outsider. Or other I believe. There should be a unanimous sympathy regardless of where you are in the extremity of that spectrum. You need to help move the line forward for everyone you can't in Caitlyn. Jenner is a perfect example of someone who doesn't do this They have very specific views about trans rights but have counter- countering views about gay inclusion in traditions like marriage and so I always think that The privileged score is such a detriment because it starts to Put a roadblock for someone who is either more or less other the new depending on on on if the goal is extreme other Nassar if the goal is extreme inclusion. Yeah and I always try to use anytime. Someone approaches me about you know. I didn't think you said enough. I kind of use that as a learning moment in like what could I have done more? But it's there's always there always seems to be like a roadblock or at least a speed bump when it's like I'm trying to use my platform you know through the foundation throughout Wad to lift others because I feel and I think you'll feel a rising tide lifts all boats right so I If I can do something that lifts part of our community up it should lift all of our community up but people in the community. Don't some people in the community? Don't feel that way they feel like oh you're just trying to boost up the L. in the acronym or the B. In the acronym or the tea in acronym ignoring something else in a Mike. No because we're a collective queer folk and if we're elevating any of our folks were elevating everyone but I feel like there's a lot of criticism within our community because of this otherness. We don't feel seeing him we don't feel heard and I'm like yes I get that and we're trying to make sure that everyone feels seen in her. But the minute you attack someone who's trying to lift everyone up it. It really not sustainability instead of doing what made you think of the panel that you just hosted Soho House for inclusion in athletics and Sport Because it was really a great Sexual diversity on the stage but I know that you received a lot of negative feedback about racial representation but it was hard for me and I imagine it was impossible for you after all the work you poured into. Its here that because the panel was not about race representations or it was about Gender and Sexuality Representation in sport it can. Everything can't be everything all the time or it doesn't have appointed no in weekends the progress that we're striving. Yeah I mean in. Our community is literally a united colors of Benetton ad right every race. Every religion every every color of the rainbow every sexual identity in if I try to put together a panel of their represents all of us it would literally be a forty person panel. We'd be there for two and a half weeks and that was kind of it will be Super Fun. But you know it's it's it's hard because you were me. I want everyone to feel represented and I want to be able to do that but I think if you hone in on one specific thing will didn't do that or the foundation didn't do that in that one aspect you have to pull broad reach if you look back at all the things. We're doing all the things that are community does. Everyone is getting a piece of the the resistance. Migrelief raw fighting. I feel like there's a way to hear people out and understand why they're coming from like why they might have felt that way. Not just about that panel. But I'm saying more dinner. I think there's a way to hear people understand. Try to understand where they're coming from and recognize. Individuality and why representation matters and still like you said well. A rising tide lifts all boats. So if we can hear people out and understand their feelings and also I mean. I'm also thinking to just sitting here like we're all saying this as people that are not people of color I have no. I have no idea what that would feel like. I don't I don't want I hope people listening that maybe you are a person of color. I I hope it's not that we are trying to not listen to know. I know what you're saying but it frustrated me when we launched the PODCAST instagram. We received three messages that criticize that there were no hosts of color as a policy in my whole life. I always say don't suggest a change that you're not willing to make yourself if you are upset by our house and you're person of color volunteer to be a guest get involved. Raise your voice. We literally beg on every episode for people to provide feedback mentioned gas make connections for us so I think that will put together for Soho House was an inclusive panel that is asking for representation and stories and voices had the opportunity be lifted as opposed to pointing the finger in criticizing like that would have been a great opportunity to extend the conversation or host. Another one you know it can always be in the spirit of progress and I think that we are in this culture right now this where where everyone is trying to cancel or point out the negative and I have always been an optimist. Obviously coming from a place of privilege. I have to understand that. It's easier for me to be an optimist but I still believe that if people who are making negative comments actually spend the same amount of energy creating a second platform to further those stories. We would definitely benefit more than we do from the negative
I Fear My Spouse Will Abandon Me
"Here with my co host Gabe. And of course I'm here with my co host. Jackie and we were talking this morning about something. That's been weighing pretty heavily on your mind and I thought let's make this into an episode because that's our lives so you've been talking a lot about anxiety around the idea of your wife leaving you it. It's true I don't know why she's giving me no reason to think this. I just I wish and another kind of a messed up thing to say but I wish that she gave me a reason to feel this way because then I wouldn't feel so crazy we've been married almost eight years. There's no problems were not in the middle of fight. I just have this gut got visceral strong feeling that the woman's GonNa leave me. Have you had this feeling in your marriage with Kendall or at any past relationships before well? I'm having this feeling in my marriage with Kendall right now no but like previously like. Has this ever happened before no no? It's never happened before with Kendall. It has happened. You know what no no? This is the first time I ever been jealous or had these feelings ever in my life. You know now that I think about it. No when all of my other relationships ended I was completely blindsided. I have always been the dumped. Never the dumpy. Because yeah yeah well. My first marriage it just turns out women don't like to be married to untreated by polars in my my second marriage. We're still friends which is weird but it was messed up Okay another thing yeah. It's like memory lane. Thanks thanks. You'RE WELCOME. That's what we're here for you miserable but your talking about this in therapy which like. Yahu for therapy we know I love it. What is your therapists? Say My therapist lakes through this thing called chain analysis where we know that I have this feeling so now. Let's back up to why I have the feeling so and then when you connect those things you can work on it. The problem is backwards. Doesn't lead anywhere. I have this feeling. Okay what's the one step back? Well I don't want my wife to leave me because I love her. Okay what's the one step back from that? Has She giving you any reason? No the best that I can come up with is my wife. She's beautiful she's intelligent and this is one of the burdens of marrying somebody way younger than you either. She was like twenty six when we got married. And now she's not she's she's just achieved so much in the last eight years and she's not the same person and this person is so incredible that it would be lunacy for her to stay with me. What do you bring to your marriage? I bring bipolar disorder to our marriage a panic disorder and anxiety disorder. I mean those are those are some some pretty nifty things to to bring into a marriage. Okay right but what else do you bring to your marriage smart ass? Obviously I do bring things to the marriage I I do all the cooking. I do all the cleaning. I handle like the household or tasks like you know. The the minutia of life is all handled by me. I do bring that to the marriage. Okay but I'm going to ask you again. What else do you bring to the miracle? Basely like I'm her personal assistant through all of those things. What else makes your marriage uniquely yours. Because you're in it. I just told you I was her personal assistant. I am her personal assistant. I I handle all of that stuff for her. Which is why it wouldn't be so big of a loss to lose me. The other day I said to Kendall if I left you would have all the same things that you have now except the dog. I'm taking the dog. And she said no right. Yeah yeah she said no you sweet loving hug me kissed me told me. I was wonderful but come on which is supposed to say. You can't tell the dude that you're married to that you're living with. Yeah that's a good point. I could hire all of the things that you do for me and not have to tolerate your dumb ass okay. You're looking at all literally the physical things that you bring to your marriage right you are there you do all of these things that are like. I am physically exist in the same room as my wife. What you're not remembering or not seeing or not acknowledging is that you bring more to your marriage and just like the acts you perform and the reason why this is really important to me personally is because I live with two chronic illnesses one of which could make me completely physically unable to take care of myself at any moment literally at any minute. Ms could be like you can't walk anymore. You can't feed yourself. This is Real Fun Party. So you bring more to your merits and just like the AX. You perform for her. You offer her companionship. You offer her comedic relief. You offer her emotional support in everything. I'm sure and while I'm sure you're gonNA tell me it doesn't matter because you're bipolar. Because you detract a as much as you give Blah Blah Blah. You're failing to see that. The root of your marriage is the relationship you have formed with Kendall and all those other things are like a bonus. I'm not a stupid person. I agree with you and if the tables were turned if you were calling me up and you were saying Gabe Adams GonNa leave me. I would say all of the things to you that you are now saying to me and I get it. I get the idea that Kendall is a grown woman and if she is chosen to be married to me she obviously wants to be married to me and she is getting something out of it. I I don't know maybe I make the best spaghetti. I listen. I honestly don't know what it is and I have asked her. I have like why would you be married to me? And she's like well. My life is never boring. Why is this a priority? What do you mean your life is never boring one have you looked around? We live in suburbia all the houses. Look the same. Our life is boring as fuck. I just I can't find that thing I just. I can't find that thing in lieu of turning this into full blown therapy because as we know I love therapy. I'm not good at giving it to other people. Are you saying that you're not a licensed therapist? I am not. I also don't know how to therapies other people so I'm just taking what I've learned here. I would encourage you to go to Kendall and ask her to work to elaborate and maybe she's good in writing. Maybe she's good at talking like speak to her strengths of helping her. Understand what you bring to your marriage because I assume that it's never boring. Is a umbrella statement for a lot of tiny things that are great about you and what you bring to your marriage but a therapy session over what is really happening. Here is a lot of unwarranted anxiety. And you're trying to navigate it right. I'm just scared that she's going to leave. And I feel that I need a backup plan for when it happens and the keyword there. Being when I've been through two divorces I had a significant relationship where we live together and my biological father took one look at me when I was born. I was like yeah. No I've suffered a lot of loss of people who are alive and I haven't even gotten into the loss I've suffered from people who have passed away and I've lost a lot of people relationships jobs social status from living with bipolar disorder. So loss is just ingrained. It's just ingrained into me. In fact I firmly believe that I have lost more people than I have gained. And what happens when Kendall is one of them? I don't want to be caught with my pants down. That's not a double entendre. Just I sincerely mean I just. I don't WanNa be alone. I don't WanNa call my mom and dad and tell them that I blew another marriage. I don't WanNA reach over in the middle of the night and have nobody be there and I want to know how to protect myself from that happening. Because if she goes away. That's going to happen to me. That's going to happen to me again and I don't know that I can get through it for a fifteenth time. Oh I have so many things I wanNA say and most of them are encouraging first and foremost like you know that you will get through it because evidence of your life has shown that you have gotten through it every time you survived right. It may not have been pretty but you did it. You're still here. All those other losses did not destroy to the point of no return. I know you're GonNa want like say well but you know I did get admitted. Bal right like all those other things but like you're saying I'm here. I'm very resilient at being dumped. You're a functioning human being. You'RE ON THE PLANET. You have survived everything so far greater Sure but come on. There's people that have had their limbs hacked off that survived. I don't subscribe to this notion that whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Oh I don't either. There's lots of things that don't kill you. That make you really fucking weak agree but at the root of it all you have gotten through all of it right. It wasn't fun you didn't want to but you did you got through all of it. I did. And you currently lead a life. That is good and happy and sustainable. And let's talk about that for a moment. You're right. This is the best I've ever been and sincerely that's part of the problem. This is the best my life has ever been. I am forty three years old. This is the most stable. This is the happiest this is the healthiest. This is the wealthiest. This is the most in love. This is the everything I mean even if we want to like turn it into you know. Money Equals Happiness. Well I've got the biggest house. I've got the nicest car and I've got the least amount of debt if you WANNA turn it into. Oh it's the people you know. I Know Kendall kindles amazing. I know you Jackie your amazing. I have like two best friends. I'm not saying I don't want more friends. I'm just we all want more but if I just take base look at what I have. It's the most I ever had and all I can think of and all that goes through my mind is this is the most I will lose so when you talk about will I get through it. I don't know I've never fallen from this
Avalanche top line overwhelms Sharks in 4-3 win
"K. at least we can talk about the avalanche get a nice win yeah and bought a coronavirus story towards the end but give me the adds up for two in the third hold off the sharks who scored a last minute goal to cut it to one but escaped San Jose with a four three win as an answer to game slide captain Gabe Landeskog who along with Nate mackinnon each had a goal and two assists felt like everything was clicking for the top line which accounted for three of the team's four goals as well as revenues from the ozone father was kind of a more but later like we really we found each other and and we have that attack mentality and we have a couple of Colorado eight two in one of their last eleven out of ninety point still looking up the blues old two point edge in the central well the overall lead in the Western Conference as finish their three game west coast swing in LA tonight against kings at
Male Survivors of Sexual Assault and Abuse
"We have Dr Amy and Dr Joan Cooke. Amy is a licensed clinical psychologist and the assistant director of the trauma. Resolution and integration program at Nova Southeastern University and Joan is a clinical psychologist and associate professor in the Yale School of Medicine. Department of Psychiatry. Amy Joan welcome to the show. Thank you happy to be here. Thank you well. I am very glad to have both of you because we have a really big topic today. We're going to be discussing male survivors of sexual abuse and assault. And I'm a little bit embarrassed to admit when we first started putting together this episode. I thought to myself is this a subject that we need to cover. Is it big enough? Aren't we already discussing it and the research that I did in the stuff that I learned from both of us? Thank you very much is that it's actually sort of under disgust and under reported absolutely and thank you. Gabe for admitting to that I think a lot of healthcare providers a lot of the public and many male survivors themselves adhere to a number of male rape myths. We need to talk in this country. About how rape and sexual assault of boys and men not only possible but actually occurs at high rates. If I could share with you just a snippet of how frequent it occurs. Please please got my next question. What are the prevalence rates? Okay so I think a lot of people don't know this but at least one in six boys are sexually abused before their eighteenth birthday one in six and this number rises to one in four men who were sexually abused across their lifespan. That's too many obviously. Any number is too many absolutely but that stat blew me away at the start of my research for this episode. I believe that the number was half a percent like it was just ridiculously low and I think that's because let's face it people don't report sexual assault. Both men and women don't tend to report it to law enforcement agencies to the FBI. We just don't have good crime. Statistics on these. Why SHAME EMBARRASSMENT? Minimization and people not believing survivors. You know a lot of the research and the clinical scholarship that we have on sexual abuse including the development and testing of psychosocial interventions really focuses on women. And that's important for sure absolutely but men and boys who experienced sexual abuse. They're out there. And they're largely overlooked they're stigmatized or shamed by the public and sometimes by healthcare professionals. It's just not acceptable. I also notice that pop culture covers everything. But this is not atropine pulp culture. We see the sexual assault of women in law and order. Svu In primetime television week after week and marathons all weekend. But I can't really think of any pop culture representation of sexual assault rape or trauma in pop culture at all outside of that one movie from the seventies with the Banjo and that's regarded as like a horror movie. And do you think that this plays into the public dismissing sexual assault on men and boys absolutely? So what you're picking up on is that this really just isn't represented. We have amazing celebrities that come out like Tyler. Perry who disclose sexual abuse. But it's not often enough and it's often with a lot of snarky comments. That are written a lot of trolling a lot of other things. And I think this really speaks to the toxic masculinity that's present in our society. The idea that men should be able to ward off sexual abuse or they're quote unquote not real men and that's something that kind of pervades even around more kind of socially correct politically cracked people. It's still that idea of like grow side or just step up. Or How could you let this happen? It's still a lot of victim blaming that. I know women face as well but I think even more so around men which just signals to us that there's an issue in terms of how we view masculinity in general as a society. I feel that we should point out that. Of course we're not contrasting and comparing male to female assault and sexual abuse in any sort of competitive nature. It's just that we WANNA make sure that everybody gets the help that we need and your research has determined that there's a lot of men that aren't getting the support that they need. I mean anybody who was sexually abused or sexually assaulted raped deserves good care. And the fact that your research is determined that a lot of men being left out of this conversation is obviously very problematic. I appreciate that very much gay because sometimes and this is what we've heard from survivors to sometimes when they go to survivor meetings. You know they are seeing a perpetrators instead of survivors of violence themselves. And so they're not as welcome at the survivor table or some survivor tables. And then even when they go to some providers providers or said like you know. It's not possible that you were assaulted or you must be gay. You must've wanted it. And so all of those myths and stereotypes keep people from getting the help that they need and deserve and working on their path to healing. And also like you said it is not a competition. Everyone deserves this kind of validation and attention and help improving their lives. I could not agree. More amy and John. Let's get into the meat of your research one of the first questions that I have is. What are the differences in prevalence rates and clinical presentations of men and women with sexual assault abuse? Histories aren't vastly different as I mentioned earlier. It's one in six men before their eighteenth birthday and then that number increases to one in four women do have higher rates the CDC estimates that one in three women experience sexual assault or violence in their lifetime the presentation the PTSD. The substance abuse the depression anxiety. The suicidal aviation seem somewhat similar. Both sets of sexual abuse survivors experience. It it seems to US clinically. That there are some very prominent psychological. Symptoms that men have that don't fit neatly into our diagnostic classification system. So oftentimes with men who've experienced sexual abuse we see intense anger and it's always there and it's always seething but it particularly comes out when they're feeling threatened or portrayed. We see a lot of shame a lot of feeling damaged and worried about their masculinity we see quite a bit of sexual dysfunction including low sex drive erectile problems. There's a lot of chronic pain difficulties with sleeping and believe it or not. You know we don't talk a lot about men who have eating disorders or difficulties but see that as well including some negative body image one thing also that we don't talk about and probably too because this carries some shame is that we see higher rates of sexually transmitted infections increased sexual risk for HIV and higher sexual compulsivity. And so I think when they present to US clinically and if they're not acknowledging a sexual abuse history and not because of their own shame though that could be it could also be. They haven't been able to acknowledge it. Or label it accurately themselves and then connect that experience to the symptoms that they're having that I think we're treating them for other difficulties instead of what's really driving their symptoms so they're getting inadequate treatment. What are some of the barriers that men face in disclosing sexual abuse and their sexual assault histories? Well I think it goes back to that concept of toxic masculinity and so. There's a lot of cultural influences. So you know men are supposed to be powerful and invulnerable and there's this idea that men should always welcome sexual activities. So you've kind of got this just societal barrier around people wanting to come forward and I think also it boils down to the consequences of disclosure. So are people going to regard your sexual orientation makes some sort of assumption that because you were sexually assaulted or you must have wanted it or it says something about you. It could even just be about the risk factors involved coming forward and wondering if you're gonNA actually more violence or more discrimination as a result so there's a lot of negativity there a lot to be afraid of in terms of coming forward and that disclosure. John had alluded to it earlier as well. If you're going to your doctor and your doctor also believes in these things you might be repeatedly getting shot down. And so- disclosure just isn't a safe option. I mean honestly. It also boils down to a lack of resources or lack of awareness of certain resources. There's a few nonprofits out there that are dedicated to working with masculine identified individuals. And you have to know that. There's a trauma and in order to seek out these resources a lot of men wouldn't use the label of. I've been traumatized I've been sexually abused. They just don't use that language so really trying to capture men and their experiences and then having them be aware of of what might be out there for them.
"gabe" Discussed on The Black Guy Who Tips Podcast
"Babies. They do be nor early. They'll make sense. You know you used to you know somebody yeah turn. I'll see you out there. You don't have to see you out there now. What I found interesting is explained in this exchange and it's kind of settled on me but maybe it's I don't know if they meant to settle in the but I took it this way. He is hurt over. The last two is an unfortunately when she goes to talk about. This happened multiple times now. Every time she goes to talk about it he kinda cuts her off. Because I don't think he wants to go to that reservoir pain he has inside and I also think that he's like and they will get revenge. That'll fix it and we know we know at this point. It won't Rosie knows more than anybody they want. Revenge fix shit shit worse right and so I think where his mind he sees it as like look. I know we're about. We're doing something about it with getting rid of this threat this this morning went else around us again. Yeah I think that's why he went to Defcon preach four right coverage a four year. So what happens there? So that's what I picked up from that exchange. 'cause you know they're having a couples problems in fights and shit and I don't know that seemed like the source of the fight. So then later they go to head out on a way must give things Oh okay so lors Alexandria. And she's on a walkie talkie she gives a wakatake from watch tower. They're saying like hey it's Oh a game. Something bad gamble does a pre goes to jail and Judah comes and talks tour. Yes yeah I I mean. It's not necessarily to deepen dialogue but it just kind of humanized gamma in a minute due to anybody actually missing Egan Right. What does she hang out sale every day just to check? So you've got enough. Yes she you know. She does all the criminals in town. Judah GONNA be a thug when she grow- hanging out all these criminals. What's he doing in jail the day? I'll be my wife. What is asked me since I got here. It's Mary before the whisperers now she could be trying to pump for information. Maybe stupid. Well also. She's so young she believes in redemption. A second chances and people are all bad and if she can feel that way about needing then she could definitely feel that way about wonder whispers course because he has been hardened by life from Santa Monica was in California parents. Names were John Alice known to school. These skips on my youtube killing me. but yes stars. Giving her life story.
Postpartum Psychosis Warning Signs
"We're going to discuss postpartum psychosis and you were drawn to the specialty after you yourself went through postpartum depression postpartum anxiety and postpartum. Ocd after the birth of your first child or act yeah. There's a lot of things again. Happen in the postpartum period. I'm here to talk about one of the more severe conditions in the interest of full disclosure. I'm a forty three year old male. I've never been pregnant and I do not have children. I'm really really entry level. When it comes to understanding what post-partum anything is so thank you so much for helping to educate people like myself. It really is an important topic. It's absolutely important and a lot of people have that same feeling. I don't know anything about it. It seems like this weird thing that happens to other people and chances. Are you know somebody who has suffered through some form of perinatal mental health condition? Even if they don't talk about it which is very common a lot of people. Don't talk about it because there's so much shame around kind of not feeling well or not feeling yourself even during pregnancy and postpartum. There's all these ideas out there that it's this wonderful magical time and hopefully it is but for a lot of people in and that's one of the things that came up while I was trying to do research for the show so that I could talk somewhat on this subject. I was shocked at how many times I googled. Postpartum psychosis or postpartum anything and the articles. That came up. Were M I a bad mother M I abide parent. Am I harming my child? That really Kinda spoke to me like in a visceral way. This idea that you also have the illness. And there's all this stigma and shame surrounding it. Is that what you found working as a therapist? Oh absolutely hear comments. All of the time I feel like a bad mom. I'm not good enough for my child. Feeling Shame and the blame and confusion around. Why do I even feel bad? We are just not educated on what can happen. I think it's a great disservice to everybody who goes through any kind of perinatal mental health condition. Because they're mostly blindsided by it right. You like here supposed to be having the best time of my life. This is what my body is supposed to quote unquote and here. I am feeling like a failure and just to be clear. None of this is true. You are an excellent parent. This is just sort of the illness. And societies misunderstanding of the illness. Taking hold in an unexpected way over. Sorry this is a very treatable and very temporary condition if you get the right help and if you get it as soon as you know even if you're getting a little bit later down the road you still can feel better. And there's not a huge impact throughout the life course of you or your child however again in the more severe cases are not treated. There are some long term effects and I know that might sound really scary to people so I wanted to sell the myth that if you have a condition you're going to be like messing up your kid in some way like I said this is very treatable and also when it was very very severe there can be really life threatening consequences. So let's talk about postpartum psychosis. What is the definition of postpartum psychosis typically oppose artem? Psychosis isn't very rare Wanted to out of every thousand delivery and it is not postpartum. Depression or postpartum. Means -iety the onset of these symptoms are usually in the first two weeks but certainly can show up a little bit later. There's a really rapid onset. Meaning symptoms start quickly and it is characterized by the mind is kind of going off on. Its own in part because of hormonal changes in part because of your mental health history and in part because of sleep deprivation so people who are if postpartum psychosis are having rapid mood swings they are potentially having delusion or strange beliefs about themselves or their child or people around them they may be having hallucinations feeling very very irritated. The difficulty to sleep inability to sleep sometimes paranoia And what's really hard about postpartum psychosis is that the symptoms waxed and waned. Meaning they come and go so sometimes people can sort of the feel like themselves and appear to be like our normal cells and then sometimes people around them might observe that they don't look like themselves are sound like themselves so it can come and go for quite a few people and then for some people that symptoms on the onset is. They're just continue. So I know all that probably sounds pretty scary and Syria and it actually is pretty scary. And the're Like I said before. It's very rare and people who have a history of bipolar disorder are at high risk or if there's bipolar disorder in the family. They're at higher risk. Oftentimes psychosis in the postpartum is an indictment bipolar disorder. So let's talk about that for a moment. I myself live with bipolar disorder. And I understand psychosis from a lived experience because I I have experienced. Psychosis is it. The same is postpartum psychosis and for lack of a better phrase Gabe Howard's psychosis. Is this a similar thing or is it completely different? There's certainly familiarity in terms of symptoms of psychosis are the same. What what's very different here. Is that there is a new baby involved. And sometimes they delusions or hallucinations are in relation. To the new child is new very vulnerable child and also the perinatal person also very vulnerable. They've just given birth of had massive changes in hormone both during pregnancy at delivery and then in the Postpartum. They're really really rapid and kind of swings in the in the hormone during that time and sleep deprivation. Is You know when it's sort of like just you quote unquote. You have capacity to possibly sleep. In these cases there's Abadie involved and babies cry and they wake people up And that's what they do and that's what they're supposed to do But for somebody who needs sleep and isn't getting it and can't get it a whole other layer of complexity into into the life and into the simpsons because you're in relation to a baby a while having psychosis for some time that means that. There's like a hyper vigilant around the baby. Like it's really hard to not be around them or to let anyone else support them or sometimes it's like a kind of a total disregard like people in some psychoses. They will kind of forget the baby there so it brings this whole other level of danger and complexity also then. There's additional layer. That people around them are thinking. Oh well she's kind of baby. She's not quite herself or giving some other explanation for odd behaviors or strange behaviors. And it Kinda put people in a more of a dangerous situation because symptoms are explained away because they're not understood and it's not expected that these kind of symptoms will show up. I'm kind of assuming that the way that postpartum psychosis has played out in the media as well as How motherhood is played out in the media those two things combined because like you said we want to defend new parents. We don't just want every new mom under the bus and say oh well. You have a serious mental illness. That's the problem but of course this can be dangerous because it lacks care. I suppose my specific question is how is Postpartum? Psychosis played out in popular culture. It actually in very dangerous ways so in ways that further stigmatize apparently period. So mostly what we're seeing in the media while you see on. The news is postpartum psychosis that has led to infanticide. And this is a really really hard topic for people to hear about and also. This is a very real possibility with postpartum psychosis. I know that one to two percent of people who have term psychosis four to five percent of those mothers will kill their children. They killed their baby. It's really a hard reality to hear. And what I want people to know. Is that when this happened? Women are not in their right mind at all. They are not themselves. Do not know what they're doing. They're often being told by their delusion to do something. Sometimes there are delusions that the baby is possessed. So they can't be here although this might not make any sense but most of the time it's really out of love a lot of love like the world is too harsh for the child so they have to go and misses a very severe departure from reality. The Mon- who are in the situation do not know what they have done if they come out of it and get the medication that they need. They can't even thousand. What has happened people thinking say? Oh what a horrible person. I can't believe she done this. I would never do this to my child. And the thing is is that if she were in her right mind she wouldn't either. So what we're seeing in the media is usually the mob who have done something like this and who are being handcuffed or going on trial so there's most severe. This is the most of your consequences of perinatal. Mental Health Condition Postpartum Psychosis in infanticide. Is How postpartum psychosis is viewed. Most people are postpartum psychosis are experiencing hallucinations or delusions or some kind of waxing and waning symptom. That does not reach that level. Typically they may need hospitalization and medication. But it's not always the people who go on to have their children in this way.
Panicked Over Finances? Why Money Influences our Mental Health
"Everyone and welcome to this week's episode of the not crazy podcast. I would like to introduce my co host Jackie Zimmerman who with major depression and anxiety disorders. And you know this guy gave Howard who lives with bipolar disorder. Jackie we've been friends for a while. Now we've been doing this show for several months and I decided that I want to risk all of that by talking about the one subject that causes more fights than any other subject known to man. And what would that be money? I want to talk about money. Money money money so in a recent poll. The three things that married couples fight about more than anything else are family religion and money and I would argue that money is at the top. Because nobody's taking people like onto the People's court or Judge Judy to sue over political and religious differences. Money is everywhere. If you talk to anybody literally just go grab a stranger on the street and be like. Hey you ever lost a friend over ten dollars. Almost everybody will have a story of a friendship. That just imploded over what we would consider a small amount of money. Money just creates an intense amount of anxiety in our society and the thing that I think is unique about money and anxiety is that it's something that I would assume everybody experiences not just people who are prone to anxiety not just people who live with mental illness but everyone has had some kind of issue with money that is given them anxiety. When I was younger I used to watch golf with my grandfather. And do these expose on the on the multi-millionaire golfers and they were interviewing one of them and they said. Hey when you have a PUTT and if you make the PUTT you win. One hundred thousand dollars and if you don't make it you lose one hundred thousand dollars. Does that caused you anxiety? Does that make you nervous? And the Guy said you know the most nervous I've ever been playing golf is when I bet another golfer a hundred dollars that I could make this. Putt and I didn't have one hundred dollars in my pocket. That really spoke to me because it wasn't the amount of money anymore. It was the awkwardness of discussing the money. Finding the money figuring out the money like this is what gave this guy anxiety and again. He's famous I don't know maybe he was just a cute story. He was telling bit. But that makes sense to me. You ever been in line and a dollar short. Like how embarrassing is that when you thinking that everybody in the store is like over on register five. There's a tall fat red head that does not have one dollar to pay for his groceries. I can feel that because if you've ever had your credit card declined for any reason your debit card and you WANNA justify it. I know there's money on there. That's so weird. I just used it like I just got paid. I swear I'm not a poor person race. There's this like panic where you want to justify. Why didn't work and my assumption is all of. This comes from the scarce any model right. We're all afraid of not having enough what happens when we don't have enough. So how do we have to work to get enough? What if we're working really hard and we still don't have enough and the anxiety around all of that of how much do you have? What happens when it's gone? I think is something that is underlying in our society and in everybody but amplified for those who live with any kind of illness because for me specifically when I worked at a big fat corporate job and I made all kinds of money all I thought to myself was. I'm staying here forever. So that way I make so much money that never have to worry about what happens if I actually can't work again because I will just bank so much money. I'll have so much I'll always pay my health insurance. Always have all of this stuff and spoiler alert. I don't work there anymore. It didn't make any money when I did work there. But when you have an illness whatever kind it is you're worried about money nitrous because of normal reasons but you're worried about like what if I can't work forever. What if I can't pay my health insurance? What if I can't afford to be healthy? That works its way around the Internet. That always says that. We're all three bad months away from being homeless. I don't know if that's true for all of us but that really spoke to me because it took about three bad months to really put me in a bad way where I started to need help on an interesting side note. None of us are three months away from being millionaire. So I think that we need to take that into account when we're determining how to like maybe structure our health insurance and things like that but but wrong wrong show. We'll just put that aside for a moment but think about this. The whole world is discussing being three bad months away from homelessness whether or not that holds up is really irrelevant. I think that does speak to the majority of people now. Let's apply that to people living with mental illness. People managing a lifelong and chronic disorder. Because I know that if I couldn't afford my medication if I couldn't afford therapy if I couldn't have afforded hospitalizations and on and on and on Gabe Howard would not be sitting here. That's just a hard fact. Yes I worked hard. Yes I have a loving family but you know what really saved me resources and that resource all boiled down two hundred dollar bills and that's sad. The catalyst for this was episode was from about a week ago. I sent Gabe text and basically I had a full blown anxiety meltdown because my husband had called me and said Oh my God our health insurance doubled on my last paycheck and I said wait. What do you mean it doubled? They didn't tell us that like they obviously would communicate that because that's what normal people think happens in the world But they didn't they just took it out of his check and it was doubled and I panicked and I have not an actual panic attack. I can't tell you how long but I felt it was the heart racing soul crushing. Can't breathe like Oh my God. What are we going to do because we are people right now? Who ARE LIVING PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK. And that is even questionable. Because I don't know when my paychecks are coming in because I work for myself and I don't have regular paychecks and my husband took a pay cut a year ago to take the job. He's at now so all of this spiraling around my head and I'm like how are we going to do this? This is four hundred dollars. We didn't know we needed an. I could just work harder. But where am I going to find the client? Just you know. Anxiety spiral talk in your head and I reached out to Gabe because we were already talking to said. Hey I know you're telling me something important right now but I'm not really listening honestly because I'm worried about this health insurance thing and I realized in that moment how money is something that can cause high anxiety and within a split second like he sent me that text about our health insurance doubling and almost immediately. I was in a full-blown panic about it. There's so many directions that we can take this and that makes me excited. I love it when Jackie says. Oh my God ex and I'm like Oh my God. We can do Y. Z. Bat Symbol. So we might have to create multiple timelines. And let me ask you multiple questions about this because the first question that I'm going to ask you is if your health insurance would have doubled and you had a million dollars in the bank. Would it have bothered you at all me today? Thanks no but I also think that people who have a million dollars in the bank are really good about money and any sort of unexpected expense. That comes up. They're upset about it. Also I understand what you're saying because paying attention to our resources is a vital part of money management but a year ago. I was sitting on my couch at like two in the morning and it was storming and I felt a drop of water on my head and I looked up and the roof was leaking like leaking a lot and I saw all of this damage and I thought oh well. That's a bummer. And I went to bed. I just went to bed. That's it. There's nothing I can do about it. I couldn't stop the rain. I don't know how to fix a roof. I don't know how to fix a ceiling but the reason that I didn't freak out panic is because I had the money I flat out had the money. I knew that I could afford to fix it. There was nothing I could do and I slept well
Clutter vs Hoarding: How to Live Clutter Free
"Tracey. Welcome thanks gave. Thanks for having me. I'm super excited. Well it is. It is my pleasure to have you so it. Seems like decluttering organization hoarding. It's everywhere these days about a decade ago. The television show hoarders. I think was probably like the big flagship but Home Organization. Just seems like it's really hit fever pitch. Why do you think that is you know? I think it's a combination of our easy access to shopping. So cheap. Consumer Goods Amazon delivers in the day. You can get your groceries. I like to joke without even having to put your pants on into cardiac liver right away and then also we live in such a world of visual bombardment. Pinterest instagram facebook. That does being sent these messages of how people think our homes are supposed to look you know before it just used to be a magazine a newspaper television but now it's like you see the perfect home on instagram. You see it on Pinterest. You see it on facebook you see it on the magazine you see it online. You know there's ten different channels coming out. You and I think people are really starting to take stock of how much stuff they actually have and how. It's not really working for them. One of the things that I noticed in preparing for this show is that you really talk about clutter. You don't talk about hoarding now. Is there a difference between hoarding and clutter or de-hoarding decluttering? How do you separate those two concepts? Hoarding is an actual disorder. I am not a therapist. I cannot diagnose it there couple of great resources online. If you're worried that you have cording disorder for a long time. They thought that hoarding was a symptom of obsessive compulsive disorder. But in the last couple of years they have separated out as its own disorders so it is an actual mental disorder. Clutter is just having too much stuff. So and that's not to say that there's one way that everybody should live. You know I'm a single person. I live mostly by myself. I have a certain amount of step a family of five absolutely going to have more stuff than I do. But the way that I describe clutter. Gabe is that clutter is the stuff that gets in the way of what you WANNA do. So for instance. You WanNa have dinner at your dining room table. But you can't because it's covered with three four five days worth of mail. The kids sports equipment a sweater. You need to return to your mom or you want to get dressed in the morning without you know having to pull everything out of your closet. A lot of people just get dressed out of their laundry basket because their closet is so full of clothes that they can't access it and use it as a tool so it's really the difference between too much stuff and then that's stuff that you have the clutter you've written in emotional story about so you we have created some story about why we can't let go of it. Either what I called the seven emotional clutter blocks and we all really have at least one some of us have couple more. But everybody's got at least one and what are the seven emotional clutter blocks so clutter block number. One is what I call. My stuff keeps me stuck in the past. You know. These are my parents whose kids have gone away to college yet. They still have their bedrooms. Saved exactly as a museum. This is keeping close that we can't fit into anymore. This is our staff telling us that our best days are behind us and to a certain extent. Isn't that also where our memories come from though like how do you separate the stuff that keeps me in the past? Because they're closed that haven't fit since high school and the stuff that keeps me in the past as in family heirlooms. It's when we attach to that right when we think. Oh I'm going to get back in those clothes you know. Of course the family heirlooms are the things that you look at. You know they make you happy and they remind you of your grandmother. I'm not saying that step. I'm saying if you have a closet. The other day and her linen closet re of the shell the five. Shell were full of artwork that our kids had made in preschool and elementary school. Her kids are grownups now. Their doctors so this stuff that her kids had created which while one or two of the Turkey hands were fantastic. I don't know if she needed all Edebali Right. Like sweet memories and that reminded her of it but she had three shelves in her linen closet that she couldn't use because she was stuck in the past. She didn't want to let go of when her kids were. Little makes perfect sense and then clutter block number two cutter. Black number. Two is my stuff tells me who I am? The best way to describe this clutter block is a client. Said to me with her hand on her hip. How can I possibly be lonely? I have two hundred pairs of shoes. You know this is our identity. This is the designer labels this is. I'm not lonely because I'm out of the sale at Nordstrom's this is really using our stuff as our identity and do a Lotta senior downsizing so it helps seniors move from lifelong homes into smaller spaces and I see this a lot with my older gentlemen. Who used to fix the car? Used to do the handiwork around the house you know really identified being helper in the family and now that they're older and maybe can't get up on a ladder. It's really hard for them. To let go of who they used to be. Emotional clutter block number three. If I am correct. It's the stuff that you're avoiding absolutely and full confession. I am a clutter block number three. I have it. I go a week without opening my mail so this is not opening our mail. This is not paying our taxes. This is not doing the business of being grown up and the interesting thing gave about this one. The people who tend to be very very successful at their job almost always seem to have letter block number three that they're really really successful work but then when they come home they avoid doing their grownup stuff. I completely agree with that. I feel that my day while I'm at work is when I am an adult and my time at home is when I can enjoy life and a lot of the stuff that I'm avoiding is stuff that I know is just going to make me unhappy. We'll just go with GONNA say angry unhappy annoyed so it can wait till tomorrow right absolutely and also this is an absolute block. Because you think I'm so together at work of course got it together at home. I'll get to that stuff eventually. So it's this story that we've told ourselves but what happens with this clutter block especially you know. This is the one that can end up costing you a lot of money right. You don't pay your taxes or you get behind in fees and interest like this is the one that can really do some damage. Also when that's like just put your big girl pants on and open your mail. Just do it. You GotTa do it now. This next one really spoke to me personally because I think that I'm definitely guilty of it. So emotional clutter block. Number four is my fantasy stuff for my fantasy life. I am so guilty of this county. What what do you? What do you fantasize you're GONNA be or should be so for me? I just keep thinking that I need to hang onto certain things because I'm GonNa need it in the future for example as soon as my podcast gets on. Sirius Satellite Radio. I'm going to need all of this equipment. This equipment is not doing me any good and when I'm even going to say when Sirius Satellite Radio comes a calling. They're not gonNA want my crappy equipment but I just believe if I get rid of it. I had limited my choices. And that's really the emotional part right absolutely. I believe that this stuff is connected to my success. Even though your going to tell me that it's not and you're right by the way you're you're so right and the great thing about that example in Vancouver Sherry is that you know what Sirius Xm radio has you studios beautiful equipment. They have the best of the best so while I love that. That's a goal for you like get the fantasy part out of it. Get into the reality of it again. That goes back to. You're not living the life that you're living right now. You're not happy with what you have. You're not focusing on. This is the equipment that I used to do. My podcast and it works. It's fantastic all this other stuff. I don't use but when I look at it. I remind myself that I'm not where I WANNA be. Not necessarily in a good way. It becomes a stumbling block absolutely this one. I see a lot around fitness equipment. These are the people who go. You know what I need to be. I need to be a rock climber. My life would be perfect. If I'm a rock climber. So they go out and they buy all the equipment they don't rent it they don't borrow it. They buy all the equipment. The shoes little bags with the chalk and they get up the rock and they're like I'm scared of heights or I don't like this at all and then they've gotten all this stuff with this thing that they think they should be and they're not and then they get angry at themselves. Why should be that? It's like no if you're not a rock climber you're still a really good
Schizophrenia in Women
"This episode. We are exploring schizophrenia. In women next episode. We're going to focus on the men but this whole episode is for the ladies often. We don't really consider gender dynamics in treatment or medication and this is a chronic across all health. Not just schizophrenia. A lot of medications etc are only tested on men because of risk they don't want to impact a potential pregnancy etc and on one hand. This sounds good. We're protecting pregnancy but on the other hand this means there's whole drugs that have made it to market. That may not have ever been tested with women so I think that it's exciting to consider how schizophrenia impacts the genders differently. Obviously we want to state unequivocally that if you meet two people with schizophrenia. You've met two people with schizophrenia. You know there tends to be this idea that all people with schizophrenia are exactly alike and and we hope that. This show has done a lot to dispel that misinformation. Just like if I meet two guys named gave that probably both different probably probably repeatedly you hear the difference between men and women with schizophrenia. The biggest thing is the age of onset. Women are said to develop it later than men on average. They say four to six years later than a man would be diagnosed. Let's go be diagnosed with schizophrenia. And that's one of the things I've noticed repeatedly in research across the years is that women get schizophrenia. In life later sometimes you know late twenties. They'll even say it's interesting because as you said it's diagnosed with we know from research. That people are born with schizophrenia. So the question becomes and we don't know the answer to this because research is ongoing. Do Men and women become symptomatic at the same time but men get the diagnosis faster or do women. It not develop the symptoms of schizophrenia. Until later and it's difficult to discover that and some of it is social engineering. If a woman is behaving erratically. Well of course she's a woman and this is the kind of thinking that we have to prevent and get over to make sure that everybody gets the best care but it's on one hand. It's interesting to think about when we're diagnosing people and how we're diagnosing people but on the other hand it's kind of sad if men and women are showing symptoms at the exact same age but it takes women extra four to six years to be diagnosed. That's also scary. Yes and they do say however that it's less detectable in women which I could totally see because I grew up having hallucinations but I didn't even realize myself that was weird until my late teens than I thought. I stopped talking about it so I didn't get a diagnosis either till my twenties so I could easily see you know yeah. Women tend to be more social. They tend to be more active than men. Who Have Schizophrenia? So yeah could probably fly under the radar much longer. It's interesting how you put that Rachel. You said that as soon as you notice that you were having these hallucinations and issues you hit them remained social. You remained engaged talking to the people around you whereas men when they notice them. They tend to retreat. It's that retreating that I think makes people realize that. Perhaps something is wrong you know. Why is this person? Stay in their room. Why does this person not have a job? Why is this person talking to themselves whereas because you remained social people? Don't say well. Hey we like it when Rachel comes over Rachel is Funny Rachel is Nice. She must be hearing voices in her head and experiencing psychosis elucidations. And and all of the other symptoms of schizophrenia. I can see how it could mask it especially to our friends and family who are not trained psychologists or psychiatrists and the flip side of. That coin. Is Families that schizophrenia tends to run in. There actually is no difference in the onset of age between men and women so like brothers sisters. And that's because yeah if grandma had it if mom has it you know so so cousin has you tend to be looking for those symptoms and recognize them earlier. Whether it's a boy or girl growing up Houston to notice that. They have acknowledged that if the family and friends are aware that there could be a potential problem on the horizon. They are noticing it much much sooner. There's also a study out. India that is found no difference in the average age of onset between men and women and I think that really does speak to the social dynamics between cultures because if people in India are all having the onset of schizophrenia at the same time it it would really be unusual to think that there's some sort of genetic difference between Americans and Indians. It's it's sort of speaks to this being a social construct and again research is ongoing. We're not one hundred percent. Sure of any of these things. In a lot of countries having a mental disorder is looked down upon even more so than I would say the Western world. They don't have statistics on those kinds of things because unfortunately it will go. No one is diagnosed until much later in life where they can't function at all so it is interesting. We look like how people grow up. What's expected of men and women? I do think women could fly under the radar longer. Sometimes just because you're not like well a guy at eighteen. He needs to get out. He needs to get a job he needs to at. Yeah I feel like my family. They're going to be a little softer on the girl in the Family. And the boy so. I can't easily see like that flying under the radar to your point Rachel when we talk about the social differences between men and women Which there's a lot I really think of. People who have battled schizophrenia for a long time and when I work with those people they say hey look i. I haven't had a job in five years and all of the men very much want to know what to do about their resume. They've got a five year GAP OF FIVE YEAR GAP. A five year gap and many of the women are like well five year. Gap is no problem. I was raising kids. I was a caretaker for family. It just nobody is questioning their five year gap whereas people are questioning a male's five year gap and all of this is just a tie in in some cases the differences between the treatments and the symptoms of schizophrenia. Have Considerably More to do with our society than it does with the actual disease now all that said there are disease processes and symptoms processes that work differently in women versus men as we get into the symptoms. Saying this you know like well Rachel. I'm a woman and I don't experience that that way or I'm a man and I totally have not just like across the board which tend to flare up in different genders women actually like we said are more social so different things like the flat effect. Pretty much where you don't experience emotion. You have a very dull. Expression is not seen as often in women. Women tend to even have more emotions and I know that's like Oh of course. Women are motion but with schizophrenia. A lot of times people have a blunted emotional response so they don't really react the same way quote Unquote Normal. People do but women we come off still acting more emotional to those around us inside. We might not aware able to kind of fake it much better. Our speech isn't reduced and I found this interesting. Gabe women with schizophrenia are actually more physically active than men across the board and also under that they can be more hostile. You know past episodes where he's talked about violence and schizophrenia. If you were to picture a violent schizophrenic I don't think anyone pictures of woman
Minn.a students were in Puerto Rico to learn about 'energy resilience' then an earthquake knocked the power out
"Some University of Minnesota Faculty and students went to Puerto Rico to study the islands post hurricane energy infrastructure infrastructure. Then they found themselves in an earthquake swarm the quakes cut power to the island and turn the group's planned visit into a real time. Exercise is in deploying portable solar power during natural disasters. Professor Gabe Chan and student Shannon Evans Angstrom are back from Puerto Rico and in here in the studio today. Welcome back you guys. Thanks so much happy to be here. Gabe what was the plan going into the trip. So we're part of a large network called the rise network which stands for resiliency through innovation sustainable energy. It's a consortium of roughly one hundred universities that have been doing work related to sustainable infrastructure in places places like Puerto Rico and we were going there as a class trip to think about. How do we envision a more resilient energy system after big disasters like Hurricane Gain Maria? Because this won't be the last one. How do we think about building long term resilience in these vulnerable places so Shannon? That was the plan going in. What changed after you arrive? A lot of things change but also they didn't change. We continued to do our work. But definitely the tone and the gravity of the situation changed how meaningful info it was for us and what we discussed and you ended up deploying some portable solar systems. Tell us about those yes. There was a group of students that stayed closer to the epicenter senator of the original earthquake. Six point four And they works with an organization called the footprint project which is actually based in Minnesota are came from a few folks from Minnesota And they deployed a few units and some community hubs to help them charge their cell phones and just basic necessities like that gave. What's the bigger picture in Puerto? Rico go with energy resiliency now. More than two years. After Hurricane Maria Yeah so prior to Hurricane Maria Puerto Rico was roughly two percent powered by renewable energy. Which means is that about ninety eight percent of their energy imported and with Hurricane Maria? There's really highlighted how vulnerable the system was power. went out for the whole island. It took over over a year for the entire island to be re powered the big coal plants oil burners when they went down. Were not able to come back on. And so there's been a big effort to rethink think. Puerto Rico's energy system in terms of more distributed infrastructure. Things like solar farms batteries micro grids after the hurricane communities as began exploring micro grids in many places California after some of the wildfires. How do they function? And what's the future. So the problem with the grid is all all interconnected and so one surprising thing but a lot of people found after Hurricane Maria or the wildfires in California are the may have had their own solar panels and when the grid went down. They weren't able to use the power from their own. Solar panels on their roof and so with micro grizzly idea is the whole grid can go down but if part of the grid is still intact that part can separate itself from the rest and still operate. Now there's no one definition and micro grids in terms of scale so this could be as small as a small community community of five to twenty households or could be Let's say one eighth of Puerto Rico. Weren't there already so micro grids in Puerto Rico when when the earthquakes hit and I'm wondering how they did. Yes so we were actually fortunate to be in an area called Mayaguez on the western part of Puerto. Rico that has part of its own micro acro grid. So the whole grid immediately went down due to an auto trigger from the earthquakes We were in a part that actually came on relatively more quickly because of the micro grid structure they have their but as soon as we laughed the strict confines of my as we saw the power's out so even just driving five minutes out we saw the power's out. So there are these little micro micro grid deployments going on there. Is this vision to create a whole bunch of micro or mini grids throughout Puerto Rico. We're not quite there yet. California I know is considering considering a four point. Two billion dollar bond to prepare for Disasters Shannon you're studying urban and regional planning how to states and cities need to plan for climate resiliency Eh. I think what I learned. It's not so much about the relief as it is about the preparedness. There's a lot of cost savings that can come from putting in the work and the money upfront up front rather than after. It's very costly activity to do relief. Work what did this trip tell you about. Vulnerability to climate change impacts like stronger storms. It taught me a lot about vulnerability both infrastructure and also. Everyone's reliance on their government. I'm if they can't really on their government what that means for them as the US citizen. I took for granted Puerto Ricans are US citizens. But it doesn't feel like that based on how they're treated the response to Maria and even before performer. This is you know. Years of ongoing colonial relationships built up over time there's a lot of economic policies that have put them in a really poor financial official situation and dependency upon Maitland
"gabe" Discussed on The Adam Carolla Show
"Docs dot com. Because it's embedded on that page and it will be and it's you have to give them like a pager now the It's interesting that you were looking at gave and sort of going on. I want more of that I it just made me think you know you always hear these stories stories where you only use four percent of your brain or whatever it is And I'm always a little dubious when I hear that but I'm that's right whatever it is or maybe maybe they're just telling you that to say work harder do more but you gotta think how much your body are you using thing and how much of your life are you using. And they're plenty of people that have four limbs and all the strength in the world that aren't really using their life. They're not really using their body and games out there eating every part of the buffalo with what he's doing and you know if Gabes using ninety the percent of its life you just gotta get from thirty five percent to fifty and that would be a big gain and I think people inspire us. That's kind of what they're doing they're saying during the Mount of effort. You have to put in to go down the stairs and make Mac and cheese is very different than the amount of effort. I Ah us to call grubb hub and tell them to bring it up the stairs. You know what I mean. So it's like I think what you're inspiring folks to do is to start using more of their life and more of their body. I think the outcome of it is like hey. It's an extraordinary thing to watch. Because we go write the song out in Utah and then come the national make a record economic so it's it's compelling in that respect but the bigger stories okay. What if I did something that I was afraid to do? I know I didn't try to do that whenever I graduated from college. But what if I went ahead and did it anyhow and in was unafraid. Half of it as being unafraid in being willing to pursue fail and fall and also almost every every story I hear about about relationships is oh I just reached out to this person and got a hold of them and then gave them. Yeah and then they responded. There's not that much magic or mystery to it. Most people when you reach out to them are flattered that you we reached out to them and then they responded and the next thing you know. You're having some relationship like you think like this guy. He's probably got a whole crew of people staffing staffing office. Filtering down thirteen staff. But you know here's a here's the other thing that's called. Gabe was twenty. When we did this? He had never really early written a song. He had never really son let alone in a recording studio under the microscope. He didn't know me and yet he was unafraid. To say yes for ME TO COME OUT TO UTAH and traveled four hundred miles down to Bryce Canyon. Have this adventure. It's like no wasn't his vocabulary. Didn't put the period at the end of that sentence which is like I try to compel the guys. I'm teaching in this. Little School. Did say like. Hey just like don't put a period there. Extend the conversation try to find a way to have something as a creator. You always need media you coming at you when I stopped as a creator. I have to wait to catch the next wave. If it's coming in but if I continually if I find myself to be uninspired I just try to get movement one direction and then have some experience with that and I was blown away that a guy that young was willing to undertake that thing because he's under a microscope he's could fail L. miserably as a songwriter. He could fail miserably in the recording studio and sound horrible and so he was just unafraid. And that was the epitome of. What's great about him? And if we had a little bit more of that within we'd probably exceeding lot more well I always tell people people always say What made you decide aside to do? And then they just go x Y and Z. And I go I inside to do anything. Somebody asked me if I want to do it. I just didn't say no I said I said yes and then before you know no it. You've done a whole bunch of stuff that you didn't decide to do. You just didn't say no. Stop saying no to everything. Just go yeah. I don't think there's any big breaks as a kid. I thought I was waiting for my big break but I found out my big break which is showing up every day and then ever course rank thirty years of it every once in a while like they they say if you look down at your broken watch twice a day. So at a certain point they're going to catch it and it's going to be right and it's like you just show up and keep doing it and don't be afraid of of an experience because you're afraid you're going to fail at it. I think if people left the documentary seeing Gabe I want to take that away from myself and make my life better. I took my fifteen year old son along. This is the film crew in in this Shawn's over there gave me and my fifteen year old son. Did this whole film on our own and it was like I want my son to see it. I wanted to see it. I want the guys at my. Let's go to see it and I think and I hope that if somebody watches it it'd be a great story to hear somebody say. Hey man that thing. I watched that movie and then actually I ended up. Go ahead and doing something that I was afraid to do. And it ended up working out. Yeah you know it's it's a somebody tweeted me. I I guess it was an article for maybe the Wall Street Journal or something but they were talking about young girls and they're committing suicide because they're worried about climate change or worried about school shootings worried about environment water. Like the word that we've got him. Everyone worried about everything and at some point people just put a bunch of pills in her mouth and stop worrying and I thought dot whatever we're doing to people telling him to worry about this report seeing people off to school and telling him to worry about school shooting when there's it's really nothing they could do about it. It's obviously it's completely random and statistically it's not gonNA happen but sort of putting it up in their head we need to do do something other than getting everyone to worry about everything especially stuff they don't have any control over and instead of that and I don't mean empower them. Just I like the thing like who are you to say. No like what's so good about you can say notice something. I was always afraid as young kid that I was GonNa make the wrong decision right right and then I put on these decisions. And then I heard a pastor talk about how God was a mission in he can look down a wagon wheel and see your life being born born in the middle of your life and dying and the whole course of your life one glance and the analogy of it really brought peace. Because I'm like. Hey what if I just lived the best version of the life every day and didn't worry about like what's going to happen if this this decision is the wrong decision but what have I just showed up every day and was the best version tried to be the best version. I could me that day. It's like it took all the pressure off knowing that maybe there is a preplanned destiny in your life in May if there isn't this is a good way to live because I couldn't handle really the levity of like making a decision at twenty two. That was going to be one that I'd be working at twenty years later. Some dead end job so that gave me a lot of peace. Why you know? It's an an interesting balance the balance between having a plan in moving forward. I've always been a little bit of move forward mode. I was leaving the comedy store Santa's talking to Mattie Andrea and I said well now I'm I'm accepted at the comedy store's one of the regulars and he goes what's the plan and I'm like plan is is to get respect as a stand up comedian and he's like but then what you WANNA sell out bigger venues you want to do this. Do you want to do that. I'm like plan is move forward. Get respective peers have established myself shelf in this environment. And I don't i. The people have a plan. I don't I don't begrudge those people. The problem is when you have a plan. It doesn't work out. You tend to quit because as you had this thing versus my plan. Yeah you're playing shouldn't be lose twenty pounds and twenty days. Your plan should be workout out and eat right every day and then I bet I bet I bet it works out. Have this feeling that if you're playing move forward it'll magically workout. It's not very glamorous attractive and they're out of these is both people don't want that they don't want the Diet exercise part of life like they just don't want that part where you gotta look. There's no fads there's no there's no plans there's no deal of meals and it just eat better and start working out. That's boring like how I need something Something would be dazzled to go after that life is exquisitely boring for even like Jimmy Kimmel. He has a boring life in a sense that his thing is go to work to get up and go to work just answer emails right jokes go. There's not that much they're not those wild swings at everyone thinks is in or produced songs or write songs that record songs or make docks or do whatever. It's just just get up and go. I don't think people understand that part and I don't think they like the part where glamorous jobs are really just boring jobs where you get paid more. I think if you do something you love and you show up for the love of what you do and there's some creative outlet for you. Oh yeah and then it's like it's easy to accept the the failure that is most take it every once in a while you get one. You know the charts or has it becomes a big hit within its gravy. But I can never show up if it was like reliant upon having in another hit I was talking to a guy who I've known for a long time and he's like a struggling singer songwriter and he's like I said well I'm going out. I'm I'm doing stand up for free. You should get out. You should just play for free. And he's like why can't you can you can afford it. I can't afford it. I was like you can't afford to go out on Wednesday night. Just play play three songs. What's my income half the you're not working during that time? Of course you can afford it. You're you're making excuses another words and you're you're you're working Out Like I'll do this if I get that. Well the answer is there is no guarantees you bride all right. A thousand songs and not one of them could ever be played on the radio statistic..
"gabe" Discussed on expediTIously with Tip "T.I." Harris
"To this. podcast one production available on Apple. PODCASTS and PODCASTS. One I don't know drake drake you only motherfucker. The line no lay never took a deal. You know speed. Aw You look at fifty. He took a deal. It was a point. Where puff he took a deal and then boom you know what I mean? Look at j you know. He's a he's a billionaire. You know enough to be said you you look at me. I took a dip. I took several deal. The fucking do Avonex says. I'm a diverse individual. What is he a family man? Is he a trample. Is your late and they were all loving all beach. Oh a kiss showgirl. It took Andy and I show up lead a march own is all real real this expeditiously. 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Let's go back to that is the thought behind Nipsy Russell when he had all his and just to shine he told me that already knew discussed as we speak in length about it. 'cause he like he had a kilo in I think in quarters and I had the full four years so anyway We spoke okay. About how you know we both got in when gold was like Little Matt Been Eleven. Eleven something you you got it when we first met you got in when gold was I would say about six hundred miles so go was stig's exist in much man this is on the commodities markets. You know what I mean minerals and so on and so forth like you can actually base your your purchase. Snowing and as I had in war is still the same weight of gold and gold is going up. What is goal worth now? Wedding within Sixty Days Sixteen hundred sixteen hundred triple nice. Even more wall quadruple quadruple hormone. Just turn from an agenda. 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"gabe" Discussed on Giants Splash
"Covers talked about the fact that he and his ex wife had a domestic violence charitable foundation. Because she herself had been the victim of domestic violence wanted a previous relationship He has suggested in places where the things he'd learned from that organization. He sort of tried to apply. I think in this instance things like mediation and things like that when it was you know equitable situations. Obviously so I think he said well some of this was was trying to come from a good place and try to handle things in a good way and it was the wrong thing to do but it wasn't done maliciously or with criminal intent to where it was it was trying you to help things. It didn't right backfired and I think a sampled the former as outfielder Who somebody that I covered and respect a lot is very close friends with Kappler and he said the fact that this incident happened at all? Not The fact that it's been publicized that it's been a problem for him but the fact that this incident happened and and was And Kappler feels like he did mishandle at has really kind of crushed him and been very difficult for him because he has had that background with domestic violence advocates at advocating for victims of domestic violence rape. But but again I find it odd that if you have that in your background and you've have those connections In your faced in a decision making capability with how do you handle it. What's the right thing to do? You don't turn to those resources instead you go out over your skis as he said it and try to do it on your own instead of knowing that there is a huge network I mean I've had this this issue with other sports franchises including the forty niners about not tapping into these resources. That are are available and WanNa help in wanted WANNA guide organizations through this this messy ugly situation So it just seems odd that he had that background and yet didn't tap back into it sometimes. A little knowledge is actually a dangerous thing. I think I've familiar with domestic situations. I know you know. This woman. Allegedly had had been assaulted by two women and physically And I think he was thinking. Well this is Domestic violence situation oldest step in and handle this and obviously it was not turned out later. She you know there were accusations of sexual assault and Yeah it was I. It was not his place to to do that when I talked to a realized I talked to him and asked asked him. Do you have a daughter because I mean I have a daughter and I can't imagine suggesting that a teenage girl sit down with two men who were There when she was is being assaulted and videotape and videos. I mean diligent. Yeah so I mean I mean the whole thing is is messy and ugly and And sample may be right. It may have tortured him. But it only came to stick came to light in February right And we know how it came delight. Obviously there was a disgruntled former employee. Who who made sure people knew about this but be that as it may the fact that these Kappler admits that these two incidents happened in in his unhappy about the way he handled them in? So I don't know you know. He was a candidate for the dodgers job. I don't know this handling handling with disgust. Obviously that's the same as Asian. I don't know if it ever came up when he was a candidate for the phillies job. And and then it came out in February. And now you you know so. It's it's relatively fresh. which is one of the reasons? It's being rehashed Even though these things happen for years ago they've only been known about since you know in the last last seven months. Well it was a very strange strange strange press opening press conference he no. There's very few as you mentioned. There's only thirty of these jobs The giants have had had so few of them. The these openings come up and then you spend the majority of the press conference talking about this. This topic is very very strange. I talked talked to numerous former teammates. Kappler's people who know him pretty well Today and Two guys declined to talk not not out of from from my. You know just didn't have time but everyone else that I spoke to was incredibly enthusiastic. The level of passion a little commitment. The you know how knowledgeable and Quick he has to learn. What do you think just in terms of him? Put this incident the side and the way he handled it and potentially decision making with with that with do you think of him sheerly as a potential manager. Well I mean that we don't know from one we don't know because we don't know what decisions he'll be making right. I mean that's the big thing I mean he's going to be. You did ask that. He's he's not really beat around the Bush you basically ask. Are you going to be a puppet. I think I might have but so obviously obviously far on his controlling the roster The new guy the new general general manager might be making out the lineup. I mean what. So he's GonNa be taught you know dealing with the clubhouse dealing with the chemistry and it was interesting hearing him. Talk about Changing the culture and getting being the culture right and looking behind me at buster Posey who kind of had this bemused look on his face and I just wanted to know what was going through. His head is like you know like I've been here. Well well we had a pretty good culture. It's kind of all about having really good players right so I mean I know that with the phillies did a lot of unconventional things. People blame him for sure Some things that went wrong including Cousins injury which is too bad I know that You know they. They are considered to have underachieved And they tailed off badly at the end of both seasons which to me is always a bad sign about how eighteen is connecting and and how cohesive it is I I don't think the giants are going to be very good next year and so it's one thing to not be very good under Bruce Bochy. It's another thing to not be very good under Gabe Kaplan and I don't know how you know ardy swaths of empty seats for the last two years. I just don't know I don't on how it's GonNa how it's going to go over. Yeah and I wonder how long the leashes you know that they if they aren't going to be very good which they probably shouldn't be like. What are the expectations for him? Realistically now he did say he was going to rely on. Buster Posey A lot. He's talked to Bruce Bochy. I think he feels like he can go. Bruce Bocce with the questions and has had an has house them for him. He's got run motus he's got Ron Modus back. Which makes you know makes fans feel good of a million face? I think we were all in favor of that So but it is going to be interesting He is a polarizing figure. There's no doubt about that. And he always has been he's always been sort of people either love him or they can't stand. I'm Kinda Guy I ask Sam fold about that and Sam said that's his because he's got such a big strong personality opinionated he's not afraid to state his opinions ends but he also listens like he will. You can talk him out of a position if you give him the facts and and you convince him You know he's not. He's not a dummy that's for sure but now does have a big strong right. Now any any comes with words I mean from his detractors call him narcissistic and arrogant Polarizing so so. It's just interesting because those are not words that have been associated with the person who has held this position right in the past down. This is not the I mean yes. It's one thirty jobs but just because it's the giants and they haven't had any that many over the last thirty five years it's not like is not becoming the pope or something thank you smoke. I saw smoking no baseball. It is but it is one with a pretty strong lineage H. and and the and the truth is Now no offense to buster but I mean because far haunt you know is a pretty low key keith guy. Because Larry Baird's now in a much reduced position on Cape Kepler's can be the face of the team and a high. I don't know how that goes over either. You know I mean I mean there is no I mean Bruce Bocce Gut Gut Kinda lucky because even though people aren't super excited when he first got here. Timmy had already you kind of become the face of the team So you know there was there. I don't know it's just. It's a whole different era. Yeah well it's GonNa be interesting to to gauge on my behalf for from far from the other side. This hour Bob. Melvin is now the height of stability yet longest serving manager right right now so that keeps going all right and Killian. Thanks so much for joining us on giant splash and I'll go back to as land now. Thanks again to an Kilian for joining us. On the giants splash podcast. You could read her work and mine on on. SF CHRONICLE DOT COM. And it's also on twitter at an Killian and I'm at Susan's lesser. Our producer today is g Alan Johnson. Thanks again for listening. Giants double plays part of the San Francisco. Chronicle podcast network. Audrey Cooper is editor in chief. If if you like this show please subscribe Tele Friend or give us a review. You can support giants double play in a lot of great journalism. With subscription to the chronicle there are print in digital editions you can find out more at SF CHRONICLE DOT com slash. Subscribe if you WanNa find me on twitter I am at Kink showman or you can email me Eh. H SCHULMAN AT CHRONICLE DOT COM..
"gabe" Discussed on Giants Splash
"Welcome to the San Francisco. Chronicle's giants splash. PODCAST I'm your host for once not Henry Shulman it's me Susan's lesser Filling in while Henry is a much deserved vacation in well. John Shea is at the baseball General Manager meetings in Scottsdale and killing and I covered the Gabe Kappler press conference the introduction of the new giants manager a which was certainly an unusual press conference and you and I have attended many oppressor introducing a manager or a new player in new executive and this one Before you're GonNa Questions were even asked journal Manage Team President Farm on safety Address the allegations of dodgers players assault against an underage girl and also another woman That occurred while he and gave copper. We're both with the dodgers. Kappler was in charge of the the dodgers minor league system. At the time you have written about this topic COUPLE OF TIMES A. You're obviously writing about it again. And you asked asked numerous questions during the press conference about it What's your takeaway from the way the giants handle this today? And how surprised were you first with the press conference and and really just with the with the hiring altogether given this what we know about these incidents. Well I I gotta say. I'm a little surprised at the higher We've been hearing Gabe Kaplan. It was named for weeks now as soon as he got fired from the phillies even maybe even before he got fired when his his fate was kinda hanging in the balance because everyone knew he had a relationship ship with far Han but because these allegations which surfaced last February even they took place in two thousand fifteen but they really came to light late last February in a couple of different national publications and We you know I think given the difficulties. The giants silence have had with not only their on field performance but some of the off field issues surrounding Larry Baer surrounding the majority owner. Charles Johnson Just the fact that they're lose. They've lost a chunk of their fan base. People have gotten very disillusioned with the team and it just seemed like an odd time to hire a guy who comes with a lot of baggage and a lot of Highly sensitive baggage of issues that That are or not very palatable to people regarding sexual assault and how it was handled which speaks to his decision making to be quite frank. It's not just that these things took place but it was was did he make the right decisions And and then you add on top of it the fact that he was a major league manager and not a very good one and in had to really underachieving seasons in Philadelphia and There were other candidates and so I am surprised that they hired him and then again. I am surprised I'm not surprised by the tenor of the press conference. Because you knew it was going to be like this. You knew when far Hawn had a conference call last night you knew. When he went on the radio this morning you knew when he opened the press conference with remarks addressing what happened in the dodgers Farm system for years ago Still it was a hour long Interrogation really not a coronation Russian. And you know you've you grew up here in. You know the team you cover has had. It's not recently but has changed managers Alive in recent years. The giants have had such stability at that position. They've had four managers in thirty five years saying Roger Craig Dusty. St Baker Philippe illu the shortest tenure. With I think six years and then Bruce Bocce and and to have All this controversy following on the heels of all that goodwill that Bucci left behind is just. It's very odd it is. It was a strange press conference. I mean I guess you could argue that if Farhan is willing to make a higher under these circumstances knowing. There's going to be some uproar that they're going to be a lot of questions asked he's either very very convinced. This is the right guy for the job Even more so than he might have been for anyone else because he knew this was coming and it can't be an easy position to be in And and you would hope extremely convinced that the things he's saying. I E that he thought that Kappler Handled that as well has he could have at the time now. They've both said. They wished they had handled things differently. In retrospect they wish they had consulted with outside experts. They I wish they had been more supportive of the victims Kappler you have criticized him for trying to set up sort of a meeting between the alleged inch perpetrator and the underage victim. Who at the time? Kappler did not know that there was any allegation of sexual assault that was later she had allegedly at that time been assaulted by another woman and it was filmed by dodgers player. That was So to make that clear at the time that was his working knowledge but he did try to mediate a session between them which he spent and he really kind of said today that that was Non Yeah not. That was not really what he should have. I've been doing so I think he's learned a lot from it and clearly not just far Han but the rest of the giants brass are convinced that lessons were learned. And that's enough and I guess they feel like the incident Get something that. They're willing to overlook the wrong word. But certainly it's not enough to have kept them from hiring well and the the thing that you know more and more has come to light during this process. Is They have to overlook it or else. They have to hold far haunt accountable accountable too because Farhan was also a decision maker in that process with the dodgers. He was one of the guys that that Kappler reported up the chain to Oh and was also involved in not going to the police in punting it to the legal team in the legal team was basically You know duck and cover hover was their strategy and and you know they didn't inform authorities and and so You know I think that it's weird. It makes a a weird bond Between Kappler and far Han that they had each other's back back then when they had to make this they they were making. What many would consider the wrong decisions? And now they're going to be decision makers here with the giants and sure so. I'm sure there's trust between the two some of them and learning processes between the two of them. But I don't know how well that's GonNa be viewed from the outside like. Can you trust their decision making together. I also also You know and you and I have. We're we're both women. Obviously we've both been working in this business for about the same amount of time which is a hell of a long time and you know I just. It's just kind of familiar scenario. You know you. When when incidents of domestic violence or sexual assault happen they dr trivialized or overlooked or kind of swept away when they happen then if they kinda resurface or someone's held accountable then there's a whole bunch chipper hand wringing and apologizing? You know talk about lessons learned and all of that and then everyone goes on with their business anyway. Like people aren't really held accountable. Well let's say in this case in one of the things that is a little bit different than some of these others was an far. Home was very clear about this and emphasized at numerous times. There was no effort certainly by Kappler to cover anything up. You know what I went up the chain. He has not denied anything Certainly anywhere along the line So the fact that there wasn't any purported cover up or anything like that Maybe it was just massive massive naievety. Yeah perhaps and it feels that way it feels like naievety and which is weird because it was four years ago. We're we're not talking about like nineteen sixty five or even nineteen ninety-two. We're talking about a world in which Ray Rice had just you know been caught on video a year earlier punching punching his his fiancee. I mean we we. It's not like this happened in in the dark ages and so sometimes when I I appreciate people have saying lessons learned and we're going to be better and do better but it's like really. That was not very long ago and they were grown men making decisions about this at the time and it just felt like they were protecting you know the players. which are you know? They're commodity I'll be back with more with my conversation with an Killian after this contour from Cox has all your favorites all in one place and with the contour remote you can use your voice to fund them on live TV on demand. Streaming APPs like netflix prime video and more see.
"gabe" Discussed on The TechSalesShow
"Game. In terms of the product sets in differentiating yourself against your competitors well you're right and it's a two very different types coming from you know dell and then into the reseller world at delhi's odell dell right and the reseller will we sold anything was a bit refreshing to be able to sell anything but it was equally challenging because or what do you sell <hes> you know. I mentioned that i never worked a field position. At down. I went into the field a few times but it wasn't my primary responsibility and one of the gifts that i was given as being an inside sales for for you know close to nine years. I mean every morning you park your car. You grab your coffee. You walk inside. I'd be put on a headset and that's what you do for you know eight to nine hours and the first portion of that it was like man. This is a bummer bubba to be field but you know coming out of that. Really the biggest skill that i gained from that was listening because i wasn't able to see the body language i wasn't able to see any kind of i can hear his voice inflections and i and then when i became a manager i managed up to fifteen people at once my smallest team i think was nine so part of our responsibility to you know kinda why jack in and listen loosened to and we did it from our desks. We didn't do it side by side so i listen to my seller in the niger. Listen to the customer and i had to give instruction so it was this massive of listening exercise for the better part of a decade so how i became diversified when i moved into the reseller was really truly listening staying in front and listening to had the customers. What are they saying. What are what am i hearing. What am i reading and it comes in waves in our industry. It comes in waves regardless of what it is right if i communications service f._d._a. Or have a converge whatever that is you start hearing about it all over the place and that's where i decide to kind of dig in that really there's just kind of taking the training training as boring as it sounds taken to the training and then you start to see it all over the place and then now you're you're properly trained to answer these types of questions and scenarios and so are there. You talked about things that you're reading. Are there external resources that you consistently still use no matter what the role liz are their external. Whether it's news or press were books wh what kind of things do you use to kind of. Stay up on things externally. Yeah you know i it might seem might seem obvious but like what's becoming just a toddler information on demand. Dan lincoln is doing a fantastic job of producing relevant content. You know it is it is the facebook for business. People to algorithms rhythms are starting to shape up now so if i click on certain things man i i get i get articles that are very relevant. <hes> that's my primary resource. I'm on lincoln more than on any it <hes> as far as books. There is an author out there. It's name is having to get round. Pat bowdoin in his book is called. Ah get in the boat. Have you heard of this one. They'll have not very specific technology sellers and i would. I would highly recommend it because he he <hes> he walks through the different levels of the customers. Any tells us really really. I'm going to botch apologize pat but <hes> he he talks about when you're talking to managers system administrators like hey. We need to find the best aluminum we i mean. Just you gotta be the absolute best aluminum like most average sales. People will go out there and just start looking for okay. They need desperately need best aluminum up to the director level. Director levels like <hes> <hes> yeah. I kinda tapped my guys to find the best aluminum. I just you know we're building the most ergonomic rocket the fastest rocket that we can that we can and <hes> we can build. It's like okay cool. Let me go out there and figure out what designs i. How can i help them. Get her okay and then you get up to the c._i._o. V._p. level and they're like oh rockets the building rockets cool. I just tasked them with a mission to mars so it's like at different levels. He teaches you how to sell to whom and went to pay attention to so you're not not getting chased down this rabbit hole because you know that that no transactional type of mentality is we have to find this aluminum aluminum but really knowing what the whole commission is. You can kind of tie it all in together who did a great job about that. Group will put that book in the show notes as well. How do you manage life work cleft balance. You know you got you mentioned kids and you get hobbies and you got a job. The demands a lot. How do you handle your work life balance <hes>. I do like to travel a lot. I mean i have one in college and the senior so i have two daughters. <hes> just got the daughter out to college a couple of weeks ago so there's <hes> there's the majority of my weekends are probably going to be you know even having her back here and we're going there <hes> but you know in the interim like i said i play a lot of music. <hes> i have a home studio so it's it's very convenient for me to walk upstairs and just hop in there for an hour and a half and catching a weekend trip is there's something that i really like doing like doing it spontaneously. You know have a pretty good meeting on a friday and look down and you know. Southwest is running a special to get to new orleans. It'll be a weekend trip down to new orleans <hes> stuff like that but really truly it. Is you know planning out the quality not necessarily quantity of time gotcha all right we every every time we do interview do a little segment of rapid fire questions and only we alternate de so i'll take the first one and your answer doesn't have to be the too rapid but short segments here. What's the biggest weakness you see over and over with tech sellers. I think well with tech sellers and sellers in general just be excuses. You know just your your run of no excuses. This account doesn't have any money <hes> <hes> you know just filling their brain with things that may not necessarily be true <hes> just to prevent him from moving forward. What's one thing you wish. Tech sellers do more of practice nice. What's one thing you wish they would do. Less of give up yup played it would just expand on that shameless plug for the book and i think it's chapters six. Thomas edison said that many of life failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up and a lot of sellers. I mean even if you're just a year away. You're only three hundred sixty sixty five days away. You know if you're just two to three months away. I just don't give up. Just keep at it. The <hes> the pit of despair is real and anybody that's been and selling in technology knows that there are ebbs and flows to it so i love that one. What's <hes> what's one attributes that you admire most. You've had a chance to work alongside a lot of salespeople. What would actually be the most as it pertains to tech sellers. It's not gimmicky. D._j.'s try them this. You know salt of the earth people just like <hes>. It's a an and the spirit of rapid response in tech sellers not gimmicky get you. What's the favorite resource. You'd like to share with tech sellers and if it's your new book feel free <hes> but if it's not that what is your favorite resource yeah i i i mentioned into earlier lincoln. I mean it's become my favorite resource. It is if you dig in and spend some time on it and it is it is became becoming a new generation engine for me and my role. It has become an titan information as far as relative technology technology. What's what's hot. What's not <hes> a lot of company information and just you know the traditional lincoln information so it's it's become my my single favorite resource berkshire. I think it's underutilized manufacturing in so let's go back to something. Bobby mentioned up kickoff the show gave let's talking about the book so british fire is the name what what inspired you to write it's and wants to share with the listeners what it's about absolutely so what inspired me to write it was wrote lincoln article <hes> and i believe it was december and then somebody reached out to me you know just kind of a private message and said look. I'm really found a lot of value in this. I think that you should you know put a few more chapters together and he's written a lot of bucks and he's like i can help mentor you through writing the book. Have you ever thought what about writing a book and never really thought about writing a book because i didn't think that i could and it's very operative breakdown that sentence. I didn't think that i could and and when i did is i found a coach and growing up. I always played sports and i played music and had all different types of coaches baseball. You know it's like i had a running coach batting coach or pitching coach but i think that you know once we enter into our professional life. We forget how many coaches we've had throughout our arts. <hes> that got us to the next level title and <hes> i found a coach to help me write this book <hes> too so i can one too many some of the wonderful wonderful coaching that i've received in my sales career so it's a short book. It was originally three hundred ten pages and then done cut it down to about. One hundred thirties like bro. This is for sale of people. They're not gonna. You can't write a novel here. We gotta get short very punchy very punchy chapters <hes> and so you know it's it's sales secrets from the super successful so it's not just the i don't think there's any information about me specifically in their outside of the introduction in the forward <hes> but it's just collected sales <hes> techniques weeks and thought processes mindsets and efficient seasons from all of my favorite top sellers that i've i've had a lot of experience with over the past couple of decades and in other subtitles getting the average person could be a top seller and you know at at the very beginning it's like we can't facing personalized the job. It's it's not a hard job. We talk we type and we drive. That's it. We're not shoveling asphalt. One hundred ten degree keet bride. That's hard that's very very hard and so with the book is designed to do is help you get out of that kind of i've tried everything and this is you know this is assuming that you're in sales and you're not at the top and you want to get there and maybe have been there and you've you've slid back. Maybe you've never been there. This is to show you where the reader you know how to apply. You know just daily weekly monthly quarterly.
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"gabe" Discussed on Cinephile: The Adnan Virk Movie Podcast
"Like, we need to do more of that stuff. It should be less structured less joining the kids heads, and particularly, you know, you think about what soccer, I guess pale. You could symbol. Yeah. Isn't that? What guys you're doing? But when you look at what these coaches are doing Gabe. And you know, this now firsthand from like, a fundamental youth level, it's so structured it's so regimented, and it's still year round the go WI with any of these kids want to play any of these sports because they turn them off so young by these coaches, and it's interesting when Gretzky mentioned that he had good coaches, he talks about his dad, and he said, well, how much did he know? And he goes he knew enough which is a really good way of saying that most dads. They know their kids in well enough. They can teach them enough, right? Exactly. I mean, you couldn't nail. They're kinda hit it on the head. I mean, you know, that that's sort of a problem with they're saying with USA soccer that everything's so regimented structured, and you know, really if you look at where all the town is coming from Brazil, and all these other places these are kids that are playing on the street and just messing around, and and really kind of developing their improvisational skills and showmanship, and and you know, all those little little skills that you get when you're just sort of messing around and playing one on one against somebody. It's not in drills. You know, that's not worth greatness comes from, you know. So it's it's just allowing kids. Enjoy the sport, and and experiment and fail and use their imagination and creativity. That's where greatness comes from. Now. You know? And so, you know, it seems like our society. Listen, I don't have kids of that age. So I'm not seeing it first hand I will because I just had one. But you know, from what I'm. I'm hearing and seeing in parents is that it's becoming insanely structured and the pressures are getting higher and higher and parents want to feel like they have control over this that they're doing the right thing. But they're looking in the wrong places. You know, and I think the more pressure you put the worst performance, you know, kids get turned off, you know, 'cause it's just it's just not fun. And and really greatness is about having fun. If you look at all, these athletes, they're they're they're they derive the most fun from from just playing, you know, what I'm saying. It's not being forced to do anything. We're talking with Gabe Polsky his documentaries called in search of greatness going to insert your greatness dot com and.
"gabe" Discussed on Software Engineering Daily
"In two thousand eleven platform is a service was in its early days it was around that time that gabe monroe a started a container platform called dais with the goal of making an open source platform is a service that anyone could deploy to whatever infrastructure they want it over the last six years gabe has had a front row seat to the rise of containers and the variety of container orchestration systems and the changing opensource landscape every container orchestration system consists of a control plane a data plane and a schedule or in the last few weeks we've been exploring these different aspects of cooper netties in detail last year microsoft acquired days and gay began working on the container services that are related to coburn netties within azure as your container service kouba nettie service and container instances in this episode gabe talks about how containerised applications are changing and what developments might come in the next few years kubo netties functions as a surge chris and container instances are different cloud application run times with different s la's interfaces and economics gabe provided some thoughts on how different application types might use these different runtimes full disclosure microsoft where gabe works is a sponsor of software engineering daily your company needs to build a new app but you don't have the spare engineering resources there are some technical people in your company who have time to build apps but they're not engineers they don't know jobs script or iowa asher android and that's where out systems comes in at systems is a platform for building low code apps as enterprise grows it needs more and more apps to support different types of customers and internal employee use cases do you need to build an app for inventory management does your bank need a simple mobile app for mobile banking transactions dini an app for visualizing your customer data out systems has everything you need to build release and update your apps without needing an expert engineer and if you are an engineer you will be massively productive without systems find out how to get started with.