19 Burst results for "Feminine Energy"
"feminine energy" Discussed on The Goal Digger Podcast
"The other day I was getting a massage something I have deeply missed in quarantine and the masseuse was educating me on my body and what different areas show and she was telling me about how the right side of my back is this masculine side that get things done type energy and the lower left back is the feminine side, the Creative Dreamer side and just learning that it stuck with me. In fact that night I got home and I wrote pages of notes on the topic. And how we find that balance of ideation that leads us to actually getting things done. It's like his balance of masculine and Feminine Energy that we might be struggling with I. Mean does anyone else's love the feeling when you get news stroke of inspiration and it hits the creative start flowing in your feminine side is alive and suddenly you have a brand new exciting goal on your mind that you cannot wait to get after it can swoop in as a result of so many things. With friends seeing someone else doing something that sparks excitement in you a massage apparently or even a commercial on TV. But after that buzzy goal inspiration hits next comes as other feeling that you're probably familiar with him I feel like dread because as much as we all want big things and lofty accomplishments for our futures, the actual getting to accomplish that big thing is often more overwhelming than just dreaming it up the steps it tastes to bring our largest goals from idea to reality are usually many and they're often time consuming so much so. That most people stay in the idea phase that feminine energy, because they're not sure where to start with taking action or how to tap into their masculine side that can help get things in motion. I'm sure you know there are just about a million pieces of advice out there for setting and achieving your goals and I don't know about you. But I'm still always always always fascinated to hear the different approaches and methods that people have for finding success with the.
Sick of the Same Goal Setting Strategies? This Is For You
"The other day I was getting a massage something I have deeply missed in quarantine and the masseuse was educating me on my body and what different areas show and she was telling me about how the right side of my back is this masculine side that get things done type energy and the lower left back is the feminine side, the Creative Dreamer side and just learning that it stuck with me. In fact that night I got home and I wrote pages of notes on the topic. And how we find that balance of ideation that leads us to actually getting things done. It's like his balance of masculine and Feminine Energy that we might be struggling with I. Mean does anyone else's love the feeling when you get news stroke of inspiration and it hits the creative start flowing in your feminine side is alive and suddenly you have a brand new exciting goal on your mind that you cannot wait to get after it can swoop in as a result of so many things. With friends seeing someone else doing something that sparks excitement in you a massage apparently or even a commercial on TV. But after that buzzy goal inspiration hits next comes as other feeling that you're probably familiar with him I feel like dread because as much as we all want big things and lofty accomplishments for our futures, the actual getting to accomplish that big thing is often more overwhelming than just dreaming it up the steps it tastes to bring our largest goals from idea to reality are usually many and they're often time consuming so much so. That most people stay in the idea phase that feminine energy, because they're not sure where to start with taking action or how to tap into their masculine side that can help get things in motion. I'm sure you know there are just about a million pieces of advice out there for setting and achieving your goals and I don't know about you. But I'm still always always always fascinated to hear the different approaches and methods that people have for finding success with the starry eyed dreams. We dream ourselves maybe it's the achiever in knee or arm the. Three. Or maybe it's just a curiosity that's always existed inside of me as humans I think that we're designed to always want more and to be onto the next thing and keep striving for purpose and accomplishment, and while that can sometimes come at the sacrifice of living in the president or finding joy in the inbetween. I also think that yearning for something bigger and more can be a good thing if you can approach with the right mindset and. Practices I. Personally Love With James Clear has to say about goal setting in his book titled Atomic, Habits and in fact, surprisingly he says he's not much of a goal setter instead, he urges you to focus on the systems that best bring your goals to fruition. Clear says it like this goals are good for setting a direction but systems are best for making progress and that really really resonates with me see I didn't necessarily set out on my entrepreneurship. Journey with his goal to lead thousands of entrepreneurs through processes to build their businesses and reach larger audiences. In fact that whole idea wasn't even on my radar I was recently talking with a friend and work came up and she had this moment she looks at me and she goes Whoa Jenna. You never really plan this whole thing along the way you just learned it started to fall into place, but you never started with all of this in. Mind, she was so right like I didn't plan this but as I was creating and doing I was building these systems of my own that worked and once I. Got My self results I began sharing teaching those systems to others which led to my own growth and path toward success in leading others towards greater results as entrepreneurs annoyingly I was focusing more on the processes and systems at work versus shooting for random goal and hoping I hit it and. I was refining those processes and systems to make them as effective as possible eliminating steps or actions that didn't yield actual results and nailing down the exact way to achieve the goal that had in mind though systems those were what led to significant business advancement. A growing social media reach partnerships and experiences could have never dreamed to put on my list of goals at the beginning of all of this though systems led to accomplishments that weren't even on. My Vision. Board because I. didn't even know they were possible. Here's the truth. It really doesn't matter all that much. What your big goal is whether it's to train for Marathoner, start your own online business or make six figures this year right at Children's book or something in between I. Think we've all experienced desire to do something important, and then we've had no clue to start or what did you first that's why James Clear urges you to almost completely. Stop focusing on the big shiny, often overwhelming end-result by itself because that thing whatever it may be is what holds us back more often than not let it be a guide but focus more on the small daily steps and actions to get you there because that is what will change your life. The only way to actually achieve your goals is to build systems that propelled you towards him every single day
"feminine energy" Discussed on The RIFT Radio Podcast Network
"That has caused In today's. Time from the decades moving forward but. We need to become better educated. And mean better educate well, I went to school I got a college degree self education. Oh you mean, I gotta go study on my own. A little bit education of self. meaning. How does the stars? How does? How does colors? How does sound? Influence you. Now. These are. Objects and say this was. Some really bad evil do stuff right here. It's an. Object. Should they have influence over me? Or should I have influence over money should money controlled me or should I be in control of my money? And all that. Guns. Kill people. Or do people use guns to kill other people people they'll be. Okay. So it's a matter of taking responsibility. Taking your power back. Knowing your true authentic self. But. Right now. People have left their apartment. They don't want to be in there too painful. The thoughts of pain. Is Why so many have trouble going within Like if I asked you that they're a band aid off, you would probably find every excuse not to. Most people do they avoid pain? They suppress it they ignore. I try one day and date. And this is that's in you sick Physically. Mentally. Psychologically. Emotionally, energetically. Right. That's what they call booed. 'cause like the Feminine Energy it's Cooling and condensing. And masculine energy is warming and expanding. So, when you have too much cool. Condensed energy turns into matter. So what they call batting or G Evil Energy. It's cooling and condensing when you absorb it. And then it creates. Sedimentation. Not Talking about from the foods that you eat that does to. The why do people get sick when science can't explain it? There's not a logical chain of events that happens because we're only taught in condition to focus on. The. External. Things that we can see with these two is. Anything you see with these two is an allusion. It's not a real changes. What's real? What doesn't change? What's permanent? And you see that..
"feminine energy" Discussed on Inside the Healing Room
"Saying. Don't let perfection get in the way of a good job in man my virgo rising will pop up in Geek out and I'll finally something to death and not do it and then I won't share that creative thing. I mean that's just a definite challenge. I'm continually working on but even by getting on here and you know what I may not even add all the intro. Altro stuff to this little message. I'm sharing with you. I don't even know which podcast I might share this on. I might shared on both because I want to be able to do things the way that I feel like doing them. A few areas that I made mistakes and over the last year I can tell you quite honestly is anytime. I looked at a certain set formula of like away. I should be presenting my email newsletter or doing my show notes anytime I stepped out of creativity and empowerment and figuring out how I want to share my information anytime I forgot that and into an energy vulnerability. That's when I made costly mistakes. That's when I learned the hard way when I would be holding. The energy of vulnerability are like looking around me and be like Will How do you do it? I mean how am I? How am I supposed to do it? The minute I would shift into that space is when I'm would get tripped up and have to learn by making mistakes so now with any creative endeavor. I'm venturing into. I WanNa stay empowered and remind myself that. I'm not supposed to do it the way that anybody else did it. Just like right now. It's feeling to me like I'm not putting a little fancy intro. Ultra music on this. I don't I don't feel like doing that today and in doing so. I'm staying in that Feminine Energy on staying creative that really just want to say something to you guys and not take a long time and so it might be like. Oh well you're not consistent. Well I think I'd rather be present and intuitive than consistent and I know that that's a that's a very delicate balance when I'm talking about because it's easy to it's easy to tell yourself. You're you're being intuitive when you really being a procrastinator. I mean definitely fall into that too and I'd love to know how that is for you. I'd love for you to reach out to me and tell me and that balance of sharing your content sharing your creative gifts intuitively and when it feels right. How do you balance that out with procrastinating? In putting it off because you're letting perfection get in the way of a really great offering. This is something that I think. I'll be working with continuously and I don't think I think that's kind like balancing energy in our bodies. I don't think we're ever GONNA be like oh I'm just completely balanced. My Line is completely straight and all Meridians are flowing equally right to left side of my body is balanced. The upper part of my body is completely flowing with the you know okay. Maybe maybe we'll get there but it seems to me. It's more of always a continual ebb and flow and work in progress and that excites me. Because I don't have to have it all figured out to offer and share and help in you don't either so I wanNA leave you with that What energy have you been holding the most? What vibrational frequency is your Default Setting Comfort Zone? And how do you WANNA shapeshifts that? Are you completely happy with it? Have you been just totally embodied in feeling good over this whole global reset shutdown or? Have you been carrying a lot of frequencies and of emotions that may be might be more useful for you if you do a little transmuting? If you do a little shape shifting you'd do not have to have anyone else do that for you. You have complete power to say how you want it to be different in your energy field will respond to you so if you like this kind of support like. I said let me know. Let me know which podcast you're more into. I think I'm going to share this little message on scared to sacred my podcast for spiritual encouragement and A constant energy work. That's the sacred space that I share with scared to sacred. It's like the constant transmuting of the things that scare us two things that we can use just like. I'm talking about right here and I think I will share it on inside the healing room as well because that's my space that I've been introducing healing techniques self care tutorials more. It's that's more of like a how to space and so I would love to hear what do you like? What do you want if I get to the end of this year and I decided I'm GonNa consolidate in only do one podcast? Which one is more what you're wanting or what is helping you with your life or is it both. Maybe I'll just continue both after I get to the end of the year and I was like all right. What's working what's not working. What lights me up. What do I really enjoy putting out there for you and I encourage you to do the same kind of assessment right now. What's working in your life? What's working in Your Business? What are you ready to let go of? What do you want some more of? I don't think there's a better time for us to be asking those kinds of questions and paying attention to what full-bodied. Us.
"feminine energy" Discussed on OHoney with Amanda Cerny & Sommer Ray
"I like listening to the box. We're supporting so with forgiveness that allow you to forgive like you. Obviously you forgave the the women in your past that are. Were you able to be friends with them? Some of them some of them some of them it was just like. Here's one thing that I've learned that you can't ever say the right thing to a pissed off woman so so some of them are still pissed off about this way situation that their own path in their own journey. I've said my truth and forgiven. And if they were to come around and like yes sure if I bump into him. Oh Hey what's up? 'cause there's released the charge emotionally which is one part of forgiveness. Where if you see their face or you see them on social media if you get this feeling in your gut you haven't fully forgiven and the other side of forgiveness is the belief about yourself about men and women and relationships that you took from that experience so a lot of what I do with. My clients is understanding the beliefs that you have about love because your podcast about love so everybody has a different definition. And your definition is consciously what you see as the ideal. This is what I want. Now when I ask people what's your ex or your experience of love I've been hurt No luck or just pain or lost. Hope that is your subconscious belief because your brain is going to look for what's true based on a belief that you have so if you say that these chairs are green. Somehow you're gonNA find a green tent right there. They're going to find it. Even if it's not true perception's reality exactly so you're going to do the same thing in relationships now. All men are scumbags. Yep that one all right you know what I mean and so it could be said for men women whatever right. It's all the same. It's based on your belief but that belief is shaped from an emotionally charged point from your past with whether it was a caretaker like a mom and dad and uncle whoever raised you and past relationships have all shaped what you believe about yourself because what was the first thing that happens when somebody goes to you. What's wrong with me? Why are you focusing on you? Maybe did something with them. Yeah right most of the time most of the time. It is exactly so when you when you understand what your beliefs currently are. That are running your love life. You're able to say a while that's not right. I want to shift to that win. Did I get that belief? Not Why do I have? Why isn't that what the question was going? Wins for your pal a little bit a little bit. When did I get this? How did it start? And how do I release it? A lot of times does forgiveness and the restructuring. What the truth is I'm a loving passionate committed man. That's the truth. Also my truth is that I'm loved and on craved. I had a story about my birth literally me being born and my mom tried to get it for two years then. The doctors didn't hear heartbeat. So they were gonNA cleaner out there. I was and then. She was high risk the entire pregnancy. It was very long labor. She almost died. Think I know that I think I got dropped or something? Almost drops a whiz crazy. But my mom telling me that story is a little bit I know right and then I cried for forty eight hours and I was like But what I got about that story was that I wasn't something didn't want me here. So how did I play my life? Small that's why I was shy so you didn't hear story and I didn't empower you. It made you feel weak comedian. Something didn't want something was fighting to keep me back but I was unaware of. I was unaware of that. And that's like birth trauma and you can go into things with like while you're in your mother's womb the emotion she's going through. The chemicals are still being released into your bloodstream. So that plays a role into things too. And I was able to restructure it and go you know what I was craved. My mom wanted me. My Dad wanted me. The the doctor wanted me there. Everybody wanted me that shit about one thing and for those like. I don't know who you're much of your audience about manifestation. I started things started happening fast because I showed up in the world as someone who is craved right. Yeah this came about after that because I was a recent for me with being craved as being wanted in your loved exactly and the deepest fears that. I'm not enough if I'm not enough. I won't be loved so if I'm not if I'm not loved then you're GonNa you're gonNA find that if that's the belief or you're going to create it you could. You could get relationship with the right person and then you'll self sabotage it whether you're going to have these fears of you're going to cheat on me and then you'll manifest it make it happen because then it'll be like. I don't feel like I'm appreciated or trusted and then he's not going to people. We don't want to be with partners. Who Don't make us feel more like ourselves so if you like if you want that person to stay with you up like meet their needs not just what do you like. What do you want to eat like deeper stuff? You Pizza Right. That's like part of it right. And so it's it's there's deeper needs that we all need on a spiritual level and when you can understand your partner's specific needs the flavor of that. They like them in. That's when you can. What would be an example of that so women need to feel safe and understood or just presence? They need a man's presence or even if it's a homosexual relationship there's polarity and masculine and Feminine Energy. That's what creates chemistry. So you know if you have to Maciel presence in the room. There's going to be buds. Even if it's two women because you can you know who you are and your core it could be a woman who's feminine is within in her job and she's a lawyer she's got to be masculine in that and that's okay. We have masculine and Feminine Energy and both of us but it's realizing when discernment on when to call out because if you're in a relationship and you're the feminine and the Masculine. You WanNa make sure that you turn yourself back into that feminine after Masculine Job you don't WanNa bring it home because you're gonNA be directing and most masculine men will go feminine when the Woman Goes Masculine. It's this weird thing because of the time that we're in balance because yes because at the time that we're in like men I've had a lot of conversations with men and a lot of women feel like men just don't want relationship so they're just using men or whatever men kind of go through stages in their life and so some guys could be stuck there in that just freedom and like Messing around type thing right. I can't tell you the number conversations I've had with with guys who sure they have like their own mission but their number one desire on this planet is to be a father and a husband. I don't think many women just understand that. Yeah but it's so true and it's like Because of the work that I do they kind of open up with me and it's for some whatever reason because of the hierarchy of the masculine world. It's kind of like you don't WanNa show your weakness is the world of growing up as a as a boy is completely different in the world of growing up as a girl. Sure it's like hide your oceans right because if you were if you were to fall and scraped your knee cried off. Oh you're cool okay. Cool get Mana right man up exactly so the lesson. The belief that you got from that as much supposed to show my emotions then in if a girl scrapes her knee. She cries everybody comes. It's just like collective are you. Gosh and then she gets up. Both of them got up but with the little girl it was my motions are powerful because connection and so. That's why a lot of times or like. Oh my God. She's too much because she sharing emotions been. He's locked them in. Yeah so would you say because you reference masculine energy being related to concealing emotions and can be true? I mean 'cause you can have wounded masculine. You can have like evolved masculine. I guess you could call it. If somebody who's like worked through their queuing and then so no matter what there's always a masculine and a feminine energy and for both people like an in us. I have masculine feminine. You have Masculine Feminine Masculine Feminine. Everybody has both but for it to work at the same time. Like for relationship to work. You need to know when to put on the masculine and feminine. Yes because I'm sure I mean ladies you WanNa be held taking care of to some degree but it's like I want to be independent. Duality there right. So it's knowing when to allow yourself to be held by the right person right and that's when you're feeling safe you'll allow that and that that person has to be in their masculine in order to do it. So if you WANNA create that chemistry if the polarity doesn't work if you're not in your core So if your core energy is masculine and their coordinate G is feminine and it's switched because you're hurt. There's going to be divide. There's not gonna be chemistry so you both need to be in your core. Which is how you turn that on spice things up love that love relationships like boyfriend girlfriend. But there's also friendships in friendships while it's is it important to have that same balance of masculine and Feminine Energy? I'm trying to understand like I feel like for me. I'm probably a little bit masculine at times allies especially what I also like to feel like. I'm protected I like the feel. I do like that I like. Oh that's another. We'll go into this whole other question for you. But for friendships do the same rules apply. No because if you have that polarity that's when you create chemistry so if you're in the friend zone it's because the guys feminine the girls in deep connection but there's no spark there for you because he's not he's not showing up as masculine in that interaction with you right so if you want to switch it on and sometimes. I like friends who chain be lovers because the something happened and then all of a sudden wow in a different light because I switched my energy and how I show up to you so if you WANNA spice things up even if it's dull and you're right we're only friends but like like if you even if you're in a relationship with somebody and you want to spice things up again. It is understanding and the sermon. On where my how am I showing up? How are they showing up? I'm I fully authentically myself or my showing up as a wound might hurt and showing up as a hurt or as my heart. Yeah right it seems like a kind of summit up. It's like just knowing yourself loving yourself and if you're gonNA forgive and what you should because the only helps you it's like. I think a lot of people think for forgiveness. That's you're doing the other person a favor but you're really doing yourself favorite. Yeah the biggest favor right and I forgot who said it. There was a quote like holding. Onto regret is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer. Yeah Right Yeah. Yeah great quote. Whoever that well I forgot who it was like forgiveness is like hard sometimes because I feel like I forgave in in that moment I forgive you about and then it comes back then I bring it up and I catch myself bringing it up in the most very forgiving you but I don't like how do you really hurt point kid like you know right for giving us as as a journey doesn't happen once you know. I had to forgive my ex's multiple times and it's we're always we're always you know things happen life. Put It in perspective where all people on a giant rock. Somebody messes up. Why are you going to take it on yourself and like change who you are? You know what I mean. So it's like we're all trying to figure it out and do the best we can with what we have. You don't have to be perfect and forget hurt. People Hurt People. And that doesn't make it okay. But if you're going to be loving you must be loving in always and always So that means doing the right thing even though it might be painful even though you may not want to in your eyes hurt people hurt people because that goes back to comments on social media like from some of the comments are coming from heart. People people want to see it from that point of view. It almost doesn't hurt you as much. You're like they're hurting. Like I feel about your exact and another topic diamond into something as I know. There's love languages right. Yeah which is yeah. Let's go over those allies. All right so there's a book called the. Five love languages ask that is physical touch actually touching somebody that has gifts physical gifts. I'm giving this to. You acts of service had did this thing for you quality time. Which is hey. Let's turn our phones off and be with each other and words of affirmation which is got. I love this about you and I thank you for doing this for me. I appreciate it. You're supposed to do all five. What the book talks about is finding out your primary two ways of giving and receiving and your partner's primary two ways of giving and receiving that's boring. There's five of them use them all spice it up. That's so that's my advice with with all that is just find every way and flavor on how to mix things up because we want variety in relationships. And that's an interesting thing because the world is looking for. How can I make sure something is happening? Whether it's with your job job this set income. Okay perfect I'm living in this house. I have this this thing. I have this relationship cool. You're not gonNA leave awesome..
"feminine energy" Discussed on Alt.Pop.Repeat
"Building community I think I women were very silo they lived within their homes. They had a role that they had to play in any time they stepped outside of that even if it was divorced or even if it was having a career or even if it wasn't decided to have children, they stepped outside of wet was society had decided for them was how they were going to play at their lives. A certain group of the women were toxic towards those. Yeah generally, and the generally I think like now like it's evolved in switched and you know like for sure women, maybe a little more progressive have changed things like that right and same with Matt as well too. But I think the whole idea though is that knows the feminine is not like looking at men and saying you know I'm this ultra feminist now. You have to stay over here man and we hate you and you know I'm GonNa. Burn. My Bra you know it's it's about like sitting with men together and going like re qual. Let's play well and I respect you you respect me and let's let's do this together and then I'm not going to do the same thing that I thought that you did to. Get Progressive That's how you move forward. So not just gender wise men versus and women's versus but also internally all share masculine and Feminine Energy. So allowing us. So if it's also in the inverse side of saint men that it's okay for you to feel motions. Okay. For you to cry is okay for you to be more sensitive in those ways as opposed to feeling like you have to subscribe to having the job. And being a provider and doing all these very traditional ideas that really whose traditions were they in the first place who created these not really okay for men to do that it's not like it is yeah but but culture really doesn't think it's okay. It's still not okay for guys to be that way the thing that I find fascinating about when people want to understand and I agree with everything you're saying by the way..
"feminine energy" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"Go do some breath we're going in nature nature's huge because mother nature mother energy. Feminine Energy is all about nurturing okay nature nurturing so go into nature dance breathe cry chat with your girls do something to bring do some yoga the flow of yoga. Anything movement is going to help create more of Your Feminine Energy that Divine Feminine Energy is going to nourish nourish you and allow you to feel more like just fluid like it's just like it's this liquid running through your body and a lot of times that Lakewood has been stopped and it can't flow anymore so in order for that energy to flow you got allow it to flow within your body into your energy field as well. Yeah Dude Love it love it. Love love it. Yeah one of my mates. He said that he's in his relationship with someone who really loves in. And he's noticed that she started to really do a lot of what he does. You know going to the gym together and filling his his day with a lot of the things that he would do by himself. She's being a part of it now and he says I feel like she's in a masculine quiet law and he's a little bit worried that she he may lose attraction. And I as Austin what are you what are you encourage her to do by. He said yeah the other day I told her. Go hang out with you. Go friends like go do yoga. So he's on the right track then based with everything that you said the man and so for in this this example when the man and the woman a practice that he could do or men could do with their partner to see if she has feminine. Core is when he noticed her start to get like that. Take your hand and just start twirling her around and dance and I heard laughing. 'cause laughing once again is a form of Feminine Energy. Just move her like just grabbed her by the hand and just gently guide her dance with her. And like this is such a beautiful for practice it works so well to get like to snap someone out of their masculine mind back into the heart automatically going into the body so I think for in response to your friend. I think that creating a safe environment where she feels like she doesn't need to be in her. Masculine is huge okay. So when he's president she will open up but if she doesn't feel his presence like okay. There's a goddess known as Goddess Kali. And she literally cut men's head off if if she did not feel their presence. So imagine that your girlfriend Goddess Kali and when she doesn't feel your deep heart desire your deep present present your deep purpose she is going to cut your head off now. This is an extreme example. Obviously but it gives you a depiction of what you can understand too. How to embody body your mask on energy so as men what we can do is to? We have to ground ourselves mask energies all about grounding so when our core are is grounded our bellies off our chest is opened our shoulders. Relaxed are breath is deep. Our feet are rooted. We are strong in in our in our sense of purpose but now the next thing is our eyes because a lot of men were just not president like we're just not present with another person. Look into your partners. Ars left eye. which is the feminine side of the body and you will connect to her feminine heart and be present with her and everything will start to change but this is a practice just because we are constantly being? Pulled Away with distractions work cell phones friends family. We have to train ourselves offs and women to to be present with our partners and I feel like honestly if people were just more present in their relationships. It would fix a lot of problems. I I love that you shed these examples and if you're listening to this right now and hopefully you're being present with it as say really take note and then go home today or what you know. Start Your Day and if you haven't breakfast with your partner or even just a friend someone you life where you you know you notice that you might be out of balance will they. They both you out a balanced and really practicies stinks and become president with yourself. Be Mindful Away Your outfield the energy in your body in an and also like where am I right now and there's a strategist author one more out there too that they can do and this could be once again this could be. This could be man and man woman woman whoever's carrying a mass on core in that moment because it can change doesn't always have to be that because we have feminine energy as well good practice also is speaking seeking the truth okay. This one's a tough one especially for women because their throat shockers have been locked. Okay so as a man you say. Okay here's is the space I've created this. This is a safe place. You are able to speak whatever truth. You have communicate clearly to me what's on your heart and just allow her her to open up and express yourself and if it's hurt if it's anger if it sadness let her speak it to you and just stood there do not say anything. Don't give me your solutions. Don't give your feedback. None of that. And just listen to her when she feels heard when she feels scene she will activate that love love within her and everything in the relationship will begin to change. It's that simple. No it's a tough tough at the same time like emotionally logically. Oh that's simple. It's simple I had a challenge for all the men. If you think that sound simple bull go stare at a candle flame for thirty minutes without without moving hosts it down and stared at this yoga practice. I do this often. Go sit down and stare into with candle flame for thirty minutes and I promise you the more present you become. You won't be able to do what most people won't be more inten- but and this is a challenge. I'm curious I'd I'd love to hear the feedback from your listeners. Could you do the thirty minute. Challenge of staring Mr. For the men were the practice. Your mask on embodiment is to stare into the candle flame which to flame mm-hmm the moving flame is the feminine. The dancing flame is the feminine heart. So if you can connect with that that Feminine Flame for thirty minutes with your presence without moving. You're doing good and it. If a windows open can fans on in the room that flames going to be flapping in moving. Yeah what a actors. That's amazing I realize this episode is very different so a lot of episodes in and and that was the goal as well. I know before this call like. How can we make this different? And you're not even just trying to make it better. It's just like really great that you've really being being able to share with us the wisdom that you've really come across in the NBA yourself and this is really what it's about like when you hear this when you're listening to this now like this is all a practice. It doesn't just isn't like you hearing a coin. Got It like yeah you might get it cognitively but now it signed putting the practice and actually action this is be mindful of it when it's showing off and one of the things I do notice Jay Kids when I watched the videos on your instagram. If you guys watching his right now listening to his right now going check. Jake's aches instagram. It's amazing on. He was shared at the end of this episode. But going check it out and see you know the way that Jake is. Hold Spacey's very present with each person he works with and I just love how you structure your retreats in the way that you you teach others. I had some questions around that because I want to really understand what what it takes for. Someone like you to be able to really do this to pull this off. What type of a training and even more dallies have you learned over the years that we know implementing your teacher mass? Such a great question. I think honestly the only thing that you can offer to another person is your own vibrational state in your own energy. So I don't care if you have all the certifications in the world it will not matter if you don't embodied the things that you know yourself and I really believe that you have to practice what you've learned. And when you do that when you embody the qualities of the things that you've learned you will be able to hold space for another person person but I also believe you can't walk someone down that you haven't walked yourself or wouldn't be willing to walk yourself so I think certifications and stuff like that. Yeah honestly they're they're just pieces of paper to me man like I think really doing the work and being in the trenches and have done my own healing to overcoming obesity be suicidal depression wanting to take my life and all these other things. Alcoholism Porn Addiction. These other things that I've struggled with. I've learned how to hugh myself and because I have learned how to myself. I can help guide others. I can't do the work for them and I can't change anyone's life but all I can do is show them where to look but I can't tell them what to see so I think being a safe place for people is really about working on yourself doing the healing on yourself and really going in to release the pain and the trauma the hurt they. You have yourself because the more you purify yourself. It's like a mere the more if you had a mirror in your mirrors dirty you won't be able to see yourself clearly but if you've worked a long time on polishing your mere you can be a reflection of that person where they can see themselves so clearly the more pure and loving when you are the more clear that that person you are working with will be over the seed themselves but if you're not present and you're distracted and you're still wounded yourself you were going to project that onto that person you will actually end up hurting that person even more. That's such a great distinction. I like the you shed that. It's funny man I studied LP and cvt All these different different things and You're right like in in the beginning. I was like I've gotta get these certificates and I gotta learn these things and most of I guess. The intuition developed over time is really come from creating those reference points on mines which increases the belief as I'm going through these experiences and obviously going into the trauma work that you you through that such a wow man like you don't know what's GonNa show up right. I remember having a conversation with Tony Robbins. And you know he talking about the state of the industry and as a lot of people that call themselves coaches a he loft..
"feminine energy" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"I would go into the feminine and feel uncomfortable with myself off because I didn't know how to be in it and almost like push away from it or not knowing how to accept from her to our and and having like this over again I was in questioning. Why is the attraction level dropping from either side? It could be from the the woman's side from my side and I was confused because I knew that I I was attracted at first attracted certain point. But why is it changing like y con it just beyond this incline right and this is like the relationships is so funny like I. I'm really great in business and I had this really like real moment with myself. Wear like okay. I'm Ostad certain areas in my life done really well. We'll relationships is just the next area and I say my friends that are getting into longterm relationships so they're now married or they have kids and the conversations we Havis Interesting here the complexities. That can be a play sometimes. Even just knowing like being relationship is like the DOJ OFA. Laugh you're always learning in relationships and it's one of the best places to really reflect back to you how you're showing up in life. So what would you say is is a great exercise or activity or something like that that we can do to reflect to let like okay. Where am I in my masculine? Where am I my feminine? Yeah I mean you can feel it in your body. I mean especially if you're a woman with a feminine corn. I literally just posted about the gesture that if you're a woman with a feminine core and you're always in your mask on Energie you're always leading. You're always guiding you're protecting your structuring organizing planning all masculine qualities which is finding great. But if you're always in that you will literally start to feel pain in your body like your body will become so tencent rigid because you're always in your mask on energy you don't have the flow of feminine. Love like your body will actually start to hurt like it. Could it could be causing you physical pain. It could even lead to some type of disease or illness you know so like I think that allowing Alan yourself to feel safe in your feminine is the first really step because we're really good at being masculine. We live in a masculine grid society. Business is a masculine grid. Okay it's all about building cheating achieving succeeding accomplishing. These are all masculine qualities. We are in the mask and energy all day long. Okay the question is what is your connection with your Feminine Energy. How often are you vulnerable? How often do you feel connection to your heart? How often are you feeling sensations nations even just feeling even feeling feelings right like crying in flooding? How emotions is a form of feminine energy so I think that in the context of a relationship when two people come together we could use example once again as a man and a woman for a man to be in his mask on he would be more of holding space while a woman is expressing herself and whatever form and this doesn't mean that he allows her to abuse him he holds space and he'd listens and he makes her feel seen and heard instead of trying to give her all of his logical solutions? This is what me as we as men do wrong when when a woman starts complaining about something he goes right to solution he thinks to himself. Well I gotTA solution for that but really oftentimes. That's her complaining is because she really just wants to be seen and heard and if stud stood there for a few minutes and just listened to her and held space for her deepen your gaze deepen your breath and in rooted it yourself down into the ground and just we're firm and who you were that Feminine Energy would change again okay because a feminine energy is is like always we shifting. It's always going different directions but what happens. A lot of times is the mask on energy and this is from a mass perspective of course the mass energy wants to lock up that Feminine Energy In stop it from moving it wants to. It wants to end the argument. 'cause the mask and energy is all about bringing things to an end making decisions to bring things is to an end. That's why sports are so huge in the masculine energy field because it's all about accomplishment in bringing things to an end right where the feminine energy wants to continue can you to feel the flow of love the feel of energy to fuel anger. It just wants to continue its continuous lifeforce. That's why women are able to have multiple orgasms where men normally have one in his done right and then I'm being serious with that because if you think about it. The mass energy is all about bringing things to an end end. It is decision to end something right but the feminine energy doesn't want to end so that's why when you see too feminine people talking. There's so much talking going on. No listening was accomplished. There was no polarity in the conversation. The mask energy is death and the Feminine Energy is life. I know what you said you say Deford Death Death Death. The masculine energy is all about death. Actually is the bringing gene. Thanks to an end and the Feminine Energy Is Life Force itself. The Feminine Energy is the river flowing. Through where the mask and energy is the riverbed ed holding the Feminine Energy Holding the flow of the river. Okay so death is the mascot energy where it wants to always continuously asleep dying and dying and dying where the Feminine Energy is all about life in movement and expression. It is radiance it is vibrancy. It is all of these things that are what we men love right. We love the qualities of that feminine beautiful essence. But what happens. A lot of men didn't don't even know what they're loving they just WANNA grab it hold onto it and repress it and they also because they haven't connected to their own feminine energy right off I loved it. We go in so many directions. Did I love this conversation. So okay one of one of these coaches I look. I've listened to recently. He's aims corey. Wayne he's relationship coach He. He wrote a book called. The three percent. Man is actually really great book. Very well studied great advice on one of the things that he said which really helped me in the dating World was he said this and you may not agree you may agree. Whatever it is this analogy see? Take it as it isn't see you know what what you want from it. But he says men Kinda like dogs and women like cats see a dog will like to a certain degree quite control itself like wants to go for wants to get the thing wants to lock down wants to like you achieve thing and have it when he wants to have right and a woman is more like a cat and a sense of women would likes to ignore that you're there but also wants to have the freedom to kind of go do a thing and if a guy like give you think about this. Let's say guy acting like a dog trainer to come off the cats the cat's GONNA turn around at some point it hits and be like what are you doing. Get away from you. Write a cat when it wants to will come up and jump up on the couch and come up and want to be next to you when when it feels like it wants to be there and then you know you give it the PAT in. It's like you know it's it's chosen with freedom that wants that love return and it was. It's really interesting to hear that analogy. Wow I think what we all ultimately want is we do want freedom the freedom to be able to be expressively like crew ya without without controlling each other and when you say like you know the man wants to fix it wants to control the situation in a way but if the men understands it's not about that and that doesn't have to be a thing we still can have the freedom to be able to let them express but also be like in our power holding space. That's a beautiful way that you put you you shed that without analogy the the river flowing in the riverbed I I love it and It's it's such an a a an intricate saying when you go deep into it what would you say because I bet big goal is that they're women listening to this addicted to success Right now that all about achieving do you think success you know being a relentless pursuit for your drains which is what we philosophy so much as with addicted to success and I would say a lot of them are probably struggling in relationships if they're in on right now with shifting between the feminine masculine engine because working as a boss chick and crushing as a female entrepreneur and doing their thing. And what can women's thought practicing as a female entrepreneurs to come into that balance at times when they're with their male partner. This is such a great great question and first of all I just WanNa honor women to just want to let you know that you are seeing and you are heard and you are safe to really connect with your feminine energy you know. I think Goliath Times women enemy a lot of mass energy because they don't feel safe with their feminine energy industry become from Father Energy wounds and stuff they experienced growing up but a lot the times. They don't feel safe so I think the first thing is give yourself permission to feel safe. Connect into your feminine energy. And you don't have to live according to society standards of this mask on grid. Okay you don't need to live in this box of masculinity all the time and if you're gonNA live in that box I invite you to live in that box with Feminine Energy. Okay because you're going to feel a lot better in your body your physical body will feel so much better if you never shit with the flow of a Feminine Energy One thing I always tell my female clients is to infuse everything you do with love so for example. If you're at your job and you're you're working doing whatever ask yourself. How much love am I feeling this right now? Like just check in with yourself throughout the day how much I love my feeling this moment. And if you're not feeling love and you've got yourself to mask on your too rigid your tents you're too structured. Get up move around. Go Walk. Go breathe go dance. Go cry go move your body in a way that is connecting to your heart so in a sensual way where you're just moving your body moving into energy and men can do this as well because men get way locked in this rigid grid of mask on energy and I do it myself. Like if I'm sitting at my computer working looking for three hours straight I start to feel really ten rigid I will get up. Go move around..
"feminine energy" Discussed on Addicted2Success
"We're just little baby kids kids we're taught to seek perfection and we have to get one hundred and not a ninety or eighty or even if you get a fifty you know it's like you're constantly being told hold that like if you're rejected that you're not perfect which is really shaming you and guilt you into believing that you need to be a certain way in putting you in this box the model of the world so of course when we get older and begin to relationships you know our business or whatever you WanNa however you WanNa go with this. You'RE GONNA have some levels of fear of rejection because a lot of times it's coming from that deep rooted place of shame and guilt and not wanting to not be seen or heard so like when someone doesn't see you her praise you lake you feel so wounded because it's really activating nat deep wound of shame and guilt. Yeah Yeah I believe that. Everyone wants to be seen heard and understood the question. Russian is do you do. They feel like they're worthy of it and not obviously is tied to experiences have had where they've made certain things mean whether it's an experience or an event where they've gone this means means. I'm not good enough. This means failure mistakes of bad. This means I don't have enough or whatever it may be and then the reprogramming I mean that needs to take place. Sometimes I think I I know him personally are being impatient with a times. It's like I want to just go in and Hill at all and transform and and it's often the thing that we don't ignore that we don't know that shows up for us at some point. It's like you heal one pot and then another pot we show up like Oh okay here we go and you said something to put a question back to it you said everyone wants to be seen heard and felt I believe you said but the question is understood so the but the question is are you seeing yourself. Are you hear yourself. Are you understanding yourself. And a real deep question is do you even know who you really. We are such a philosophical deep question. Men and I can relate to. This is because since I was thirteen years old every industry I stepped into to music into sales incorporate even building addicted to success I had so much praise and acknowledgement for the things that I achieved right so as always my value to me and only became very apparent honestly three relationships that I was having and even very recently where it just hit me like a ton of bricks. I was like whow I keep putting my value into things that I have and the things that I did or do not into who I actually am and even when I would date women would often be this thing where they would know who I was. I through what I had achieved through my status and credibility rather than actually really just knowing me as the guy that just they met somewhere or whatever and had a great conversation in Florida good energy and got to know my character rather than the things that I achieved and ever since then I started playing it very differently and then realize like why am I trying to play it so differently. It's more about going back to. Who Am I actually earning more of that regardless of the business success and the accolades and everything else so what you say man just really resonate so deeply with me? I'm sure a lot of people here that are addicted to success or spying orange for that. Probably going through a similar experience as well. So what would you say about this. And how do we overcome this if you know anyone. That's listening struggling with this. Visit to give up the motto. Who you think you're supposed to be Give up the model of who you think you're supposed to be like like for you. Were just saying you're like everyone was knowing me at what they see me as and you're living up to that model of who you think you're supposed to be and I did it for my whole life right until I learned not to do this for example if you're the party boy and you're known as the party boy you're gonNA show up to that party and you're going to drink shrink you're gonNA yell you're GonNa Fight. You're going to be the party boy right because that's the model that you're living and that's who you think you're being so with that I'd entity you're gonNA continue to live out that identity until you give the identity up. You will continue to live it out so if you think that you have to be a successful for businessmen that is your model of life and you will continue to live out. That model of life of this is who. I think. I'm being this who I'm being. This is who I am but who are you really really. Because who are you without your identity. Who are who are you without the social status? Who are you without a fame? Who are you without the money? Who are you with all the materialism 'cause if you stripped all that away way even if you're stripped your physical body away what would you be attached to in this life yet dude? It's such a deep and powerful question to ask awesome myself and I think that's why right now I'm going through a journey way. I'm I challenge myself every day of like. Is this authentically me. Am I doing it because as popular or MS courageously sharing my truth. And and that's why even you don't know if you notice in my social media content lately I've been going a little bit left of A. What would be he considered? Probably left the Senate now. Because I'm now coming from a place of you know what this really inspires me. You may even be a little bit off brand or a little bit like not like not. What my audience? This is used to but a screw it. I'm sharing because this was really. Oh my heart and it's a practice and that's the question you have to leave with is. Is this coming from my heart when you lead with. That question is coming from a heart. It will serve you because it's not coming from your heart. Where's it coming from your ego? Your Egos creating these constructs us of how it thinks it's supposed to be to make you look good devalued. Validate you to see you really because all the ego is about or we could say the lower self is all about the the selfish. I where it's like. I'm going to do this because I want likes. I want validation I want money. I'M GONNA benefit from this transaction. It's the Eagle has a personal agenda. So when you ask the question to yourself. Is this coming from my heart or is coming from my ego. You automatically bring awareness to the EGOS Games. Yes and I think the thing too is when let's say your identity is challenged if it is coming from ego you're you probably going to be pretty triggered right as the wound man. That's the wounded cow. We're going on real quick the alike it you want to one of the things. I really resonate with That you talk about quite often you know obviously just just before I mentioned you know dating being relationships and then identity of what we're upholding and then all we being accepted. And what do we do for. Validation relationships are really interesting because I believe that they're really. They can be a really powerful MIRA because we are attracting in really the people that like wherever like they're resonating for some reason right there's a frequency quincy that we're matching in some way and either lesson in it or there's like a massive win or whatever it may be if you now one of the big things that I think a Lotta people Struggle struggle with especially people that come to coaching and we see them at Events is maintaining polarity in relationships. This seems to be like even if it starts. Outsiders really powerful and let's say couple of working through our fears and we're doing the work and we have overcome the fear of rejection of approach them now are in this beautiful relationship Even though they do at work sometimes it could be the thing that the end of the relationship is essentially a conclusion because of this fact that they haven't mastered this this balance of the feminine and Masculine Energy Soy. Could you break down for us. Of course man. This is my favorite topic. Well let's start out by understanding. What Masculine Feminine Energy is because a lot of people think masculine man feminine woman but that is not the case because we all carry if you're in a human form you have masculine and Feminine Energies? Okay what happens. A lot of times is men predominantly about eighty percent have more of a masculine core essence. But they also have feminine. Women have about eighty percent have more of a feminine core but they also have masks on energy as well. Well when it comes down to player will call it sexual polarity which is the arc of attraction that creates the magnetic attraction between two people and we could use the example of a man and woman but this could be a man in a man or woman and a woman because once again this is not gender bound one person will be carrying more of the masculine energy while the other person will be carrying more feminine energy so we could say for example a masculine man may have more masculine core. The Feminine Woman Has More Feminine in court when they come together the man in his mask on and we'll break down the masculine qualities to the masculine qualities would be direction the clear purpose. The assertiveness earnestness really mask on energy is about being rooted and grounded presence it is consciousness itself okay. Masculine energy basically knows where it's going how it's going to get there in the plan to get there has everything organized strategized and everything is thought out. It's the logic that is the masculine energy mask and all about the mind the logic so the feminine energy though once again we all have it. We all have masks on as well the feminine. I'm an energy is more identified and more aligned with the qualities of intuition compassion love feeling sensation movement movement. Everything moving in this universe is the qualities of Feminine Energy. Okay so even talking. Speaking is a feminine energy. Anger is a Feminine Energy Emotional Energy in motion anything anything moving is a quality of feminine energy so the stillness of the mask on energy and the movement of the Feminine Energy is what polarize attracts towards each other and that creates sexual player. Eighty so what. I see a lot of times with the people that I work with is in the beginning. A man is really clear. He's very confident. He's able to lead her in a loving way and he has a direction in his life. He has a strong purpose. That's more of the mask on Energie while the feminine the woman. She's rested her feminine. She's feeling safe. She's feeling seeing she's able able to express herself she's using our intuition and she's really connected with her heart but at somewhere along the line in the relationship she start to maybe not trust as mass energy and that could be because of her own masculine wounds that she still hasn't healed or that man is starting to lose. ooh that direction in his purpose in that connection to all of that so this creates kind of neutralization effect where both people come into their mask on energy and then all of a sudden they're sexually repelling each other and I see this happen so often and it's really intriguing to watch this because I've experienced it myself else and when it happens you literally will feel like no attraction toward another person. And it's like why aren't we having sex wiry. Why are we not connecting at intimate level? Will you have no polarity in your relationship without polarity. You're not gonNA have the Ark of attraction to create the sexual intimacy MRI. Mets kind of a very summed up version of it. You'RE GONNA go a lot deeper sure. Yeah Yeah I was getting some relationship. Coaching coaching back in two thousand nineteen funny same back in two thousand nine hundred. It was a slow moving through the pretty quick now an end Ah. I learned from my coach that often what it would be for us as humans is. We need five positive experiences to outweigh one. Negative and I was having this conversation around these experiences as having certain relationships and one of the things that would show up was. I didn't know how to dance properly. Between my feminine masculine. Either I would stay really strong masculine too much.
"feminine energy" Discussed on The Skinny Confidential Him And Her Podcast
"All right back to Gabby it is. It's a it's a little superhero. Cape you know he comes home and he's the dad so he's the it's funny daughters or with their MOMS typically it's like hey hit the mark like I'm I'm uh-huh should sort of be able to anticipate some of their needs based on their life or mom. I need that or they need a bra or whatever but dads. It's like your first boyfriend and so I remember when the girls were younger if one was sitting on the couch next to him and would walk in the room it was like. Are you sitting with her. So it's like love me you know. Okay W lane with me. You know when they're little and things like that so it's a really interesting thing to to watch and I think it's very hard hard on men because the and also daughters can say stuff to their dad's at no wife or girlfriend or partner can get away with. Oh yeah because you know like well she can say because you know the Dow never leaving your dad and they say stuff and you're like Oh and you might even as the partner had thoughts while he really sometimes is done it a and and you don't say it because you go isn't the end. Is that going to be good for the relationship. Probably not is he. Is it something he really should change. or it's a moral issue. No some quirky thing he does and then also when you're turns like nine or ten and they throw out the Zinger but to go back to your question about the marriage I will say that. What are we in for her now? Th- every couple of different. This is what I I believe. Is that when the baby comes. Don't walk in and be like how Mommy doing because she's already supermom right like you're nursing. You're shifting your whole life's different. I always thought I always tell guys. Listen treat your partner with a new baby. Like she's your girlfriend merchants from smart and and keep up lifting her that way because the secret is is going to advise. I hope you're writing this down. No it is. It's you know why because it's actually good for you. Why you treat her like that energetically? She's aiming that at you the flower not dot com and you know all that and and so I think the best way we can support one. Another is at least in the beginning because she'll be more vulnerable rable is just to remind her also in that way because you're also getting kinda reintroduced yourself like your body's just different temporarily temporally by the way you're like. Oh this person I love them so much and I'm here and so if we can have that I think it Ki- it Kinda just sort of kindles that energy between the two of view and then for you when you're really really tired. He still have to make time for sex because she rallies you know I was really excited for you. Have a new baby baby. Don't you almost have to I mean not to be gross. How how how? PG Okay even if it's it's like okay blowjob or whatever like you don't want to deal with getting anything going on down there yet. I think it's also important. Because he should be able to say well. Okay okay. Of course you just had a baby. I don't need any of that. And he wants to but he would be really stoked if you either made love to him or you know just. How quickly can you have sex after everyone vagina? Everybody's different. You have to deal with your doctor. I'm not getting into that. It was like I'm not here for that. We had interview to me. 'CAUSE YOU and I've already spent time together along right away. I think there's some commonality here. I'm attracted with women to masculine energy but also to a very feminine woman right right. I think that there's sometimes people have one or the other. It's hard to like balance. It and I think that there's so many mixed messages here. You're obviously married to an extremely masculine man. Yeah and you have masculine tendencies take my wife but you also feminine and I WanNa talk about that because I think you know I have two sisters daughter coming in and and I think there's a lot of young women listening that's like you can kind of be both and you don't and how to be like Raw Gogol let a man be a man but also you know like explore your masculinity I think both sides both sides by the way. His mother is very very masculine with Feminine Energy Chill. It's very interesting. Well that's probably. Why Lakes? Yeah he's familiar. She never babied me early. Oh come on like they're going. Yeah I think you know it's interesting. I think part of the reason like in my case I chose. I mean it starts already. I'm six foot three right literally literally. If someone's like looking down if I go to a desk to get something like at a public place that if they don't look at me they'll be like can help you sir because they just see the shape which I totally understand take a certain amount of space right so I think you know at the end of the day it's really just about what's inside of you and all of the ways that you want to express depress yourself. I really understood how could skew so much to the masculine like being in sports being even my natural personality and so oh I think when I met layered and he is very masculine in that sense of like. There's something dying or there's a flood or there's a fire that's actually Outta my wheelhouse so I think it really was somebody that I could turn the wheel over two that I trusted and I think that's important like if you turn the wheel over in the moment that you're with the person and you say oh no you've got it. You actually have to let them drive. Sure you can't try to grab it in mid possession and then what happens is you get that trust going in for me. Personally I got to express a whole other side of myself the notion of service because like when you're masculine and you're going to work and yet you can do a good job and you can be of service but I do think there's an interesting level of service. You get no paycheck a kate ler. Thanks me for dinner but like with your kids hidden stuff. It's like no. You're you're doing it because that's what you WANNA do. You're not waiting for a thank you or a good job and you're certainly not getting a paycheck and it stretches you in a person person in a different way and you also some days go like effort one in this house and that happens too but I think for me what it was. It was an opportunity to just try to expand and the TR- certain traits that couldn't get in work. You can only get them through certain types of relationships you know. I think you're always always trying to balance it out. I heard something really interesting. which was if the agreement is within the relationship male female same-sex whatever that one person is holding the Feminine Energy and one is holding the masculine? You're not allowed to switch like let's get into fight. You can't all of a sudden go. Listen Ma AH lick. This is how it is unless you have an agreement or communication that you're switching because you'll see some couples as they get older they even switch the and all aside even intentionally to correct. I think that that's what I want to get out so I have agreed in my house that I would take on the feminine but what I always know. Is that respect vectors. Everything and it's always simple as that you know. My desire is to act in a way that the people I work with or my husband or even my children ultimately ultimately not every second they respect me. And you'll find I think through time that that ends up being the most powerful way to inspire fire influence people that there is not by force is their tools that you guys use to work on your marriage that have really helped yes. We almost got divorced in two thousand. So you go. That's not working. What can we do and I think for us we bumbled through it a little harder like it's a different time now where people talk about that stuff but I think it's. It's I going okay. You want to be here and I want to be here. That's a pretty good start. Then what you start to get to is. I don't actually need to be right. I just let's work it out and the other really kind of powerful thing cleared the one who taught me to apologize. I always say I was. I'm very very prideful and laird. Was the one who taught me to Sam. Sorry and the other thing I learned was you and I can be having a discussion and I could be right. Let's say in quotes but if you make a point that's important for me to hear because it will make me a better person even if it's uncomfortable to hear you have to be willing to go. I acknowledge your point because then what you're doing is you're encouraging the person to tell you another time how they're feeling and so you're always staying connected connected to where they're really at and I think that that becomes the thing that you'll see with women that are just a little older is if they've been in a relationship especially children it's like you don't react as much you don't say as much when I say especially with children it doesn't mean that you're better off because you've had children it's just you're in that environment a lot more where you you realize. Things aren't so drastic and you can just let it ride like I. Don't go down a hole in the floor. I I get into something. If you don't need to prove a point every time not only that I realize it's probably not a big deal. And and the other thing I was encouraged people is like it's like having when you have a kid. Let's say the kid's been good all day long and there at the end of the day and they're tired or they're acting badly will you can't just respond to that. And so if people make deposits it's and they are loving and kind then when they are going through something or whatever you gotta give them that room and listen at the end of the day. I can see it with the two of you when you have chemistry with somebody you. You can't therapy your way into chemistry. And I think that's really important for people to identify pretty early if if they can where chemistry will also help inspire you to get through some of the bumpier times. Is there a way that you you and layered start your morning together. Apart is like you up for success. Typically what we do he gets up first and even if I wake up right after him I let him have space. Like doc he takes a shower. He goes down. He does something really great that he started doing like maybe fifteen years into our marriage which was like emptying the dishwasher every morning so when I came down and I was dealing along with kids breakfast it was like I wasn't like unloading loading and doing everything. And then what he does. That's very beautiful. Is he the ingredients in for my coffee in it just sits there so when I'm ready I just put it in and hit the button and do that help Michael. I've been doing the dishes along. Study he's see. He's inconsistency couple. Oh Yours I caught four play adult foreplay sweeping and dishwashers. And you know that it's so hot I'm GONNA give that to that guy later. Clean the bridge out there there for you. I'm saying I'm just saying that. You don't realize those are the things where I really appreciate that and then I think after or maybe fifteen twenty minutes of him being alone sort of looking outside and looking at nature and all that I come down and we sit together and have coffee and visit a thing. I've spoken so now about a lot. Is I call it. A shiny is is. I'm usually really in my head. Like how do I feel how about that. Am You know. Oh Wow that's amazing. But you can't tell and laird is really out there with all his feelings and so. I used to come home and I'd see him and driveway driveway. And I'd be like Oh there he is. I love that guy so much but he would just see a face straight face so what I started learning was it was really helpful if I projected just for a second. I'm really happy to see. Because then everything was the upcycle he'd say how was your day and instead of like what's up with you right and honorable somewhere in the upcycle not the downcycle and so what I try to do is when I say when I'm GonNa see for for the first time in the morning is that I'm pleasant. That at least shot enough. I have heavy stuff going on. Okay you got to honor your feelings but if I come down and I'm Komo morning and he's like Oh she's looks happy to see me..
"feminine energy" Discussed on Inside the Healing Room
"Last year a launched in September of up two thousand eighteen. If you are listening to those initial episodes I was really excited about offering online courses and I was like. Yeah I should would have them done by the winter solstice and I firmly believe that because I've taught workshops for years so I didn't feel like I was overly ambitious ambitious to be putting those kind of deadlines myself but I was wrong. There was a huge learning curve so much for me to learn and also so much self realization in exploration along the way as I worked with my own creativity vity styles and my own expectations and internal pressures about productivity and it gave me a lot of really good information that just seem to enhance my own self development work. And that's what I wanNA share with you. This episode is all about that balance between being productive hustling using that masculine energy that we all have access to and then on the other side of it bringing forth the feminine bringing forth the creativity the flow the play the funding enjoyment being balanced with the masculine masculine and feminine side. That's what this episode is all about. And what am I referring to. When I'm saying are masculine and feminine sides? I'm referring to the energy that we all possess and when we're balanced as a healthy human being are masculine and Feminine Energy Work Together to be effective for us. You might already know if you're more dominant with your masculine side or your feminine side. Most of us do and it has nothing to do with gender or orientation. What I'm talking about is all about our energy and how we operate in the world so no no matter if we're male or female we each have different amounts of those Yin qualities that are more receptive perceptive feeling intuitive and the Yang qualities which are more dynamic action based and goal Oriented so I want you to just take a minute and assess where do you find yourself in the Masculine Feminine Balance Silence. Is there a nice blend. They're perfect marriage internally within you of these two qualities you exist if you're not sure her which side you tend to fall on either the masculine energy or the Feminine Energy. Think about your normal default settings things so to speak. Do you tend to stay in a hustle. Get it done solve problems push do it mode. That would be the masculine side of you. If you tend to be more someone who is like no. I'm gonNA feel this out. I'm going to be creative. I'm going to be in tune with what's around me and then make a decision. Maybe you're a little bit more on the feminine side and neither one of these aspects of us is better. That's something that I wish. Our entire world on a global scale could understand. We are all masculine and feminine creatures shirt we each have different percentages and how those energies Jeez manifest in us and expressed through us are completely unique to each of us in varying degrees. But knowing how to work with what you've got knowing how to hole out that masculine energy when you need it and be a warrior when you need it and how to be a goddess when you need it and and how to receive and he'll and create these are very good qualities for every human being to have for personal effectiveness in their life and how the blend and combination of masculine and feminine. Translate into your expression of you your career your relationships your personality. That's going to look totally unique for you. So take a minute and reflect on that do you tend to be more. We're on the masculine dynamic actions item things or do you tend to be more on the feminine receptive. Feeling side of things both are important. Britain and another way to assess how balanced your masculine and feminine. Energy is is to think about your body in terms of left to right right to left. Your body is like a battery. It has a positive a negative pole and so the left side of you is the more receptive active feminine side right side of you is the more action based dominant masculine side. Do you tend to have more the injuries or physical tightness or pain on one side or the other in Chinese medicine left side issues of the body. The right side issues of the body are very indicative of where we need to balance out in our health and how we need to incorporate other kinds of energy into our lives lives to bring things more into balance for me personally. My left side has always been where my issues are. And I've looked into that deeply to heal the feminine side of myself coming in as a woman into this body. There were a lot of issues with receiving with really embracing Feminine Energy. And I was a lot better at being masculine uh-huh and early in my life I had to bring in the qualities of Feminine Energy in very healing helpful positive ways into my life and that might surprise you because doing healing work tends to be looked at as a feminine energy career but not necessarily because there are a lot of therapists who were very masculine. In the way that they approach healing work they might be really solution oriented and doing very deep aggressive work. Like I'm GonNa Smash this pain out of you. That would be someone with a really masculine approach. To Ewing in other words no pain no gain approach and very solution driven for the hewing session. That would be a very overly masculine way of approaching healing work. Sometimes that's necessary sometimes. A masculine energy in the healing session is just what's needed because there's GonNa have to be a little bit of pain a little bit of discomfort in order for healing to happen. So hey those kinds of therapeutic modalities are very important in a very needed and also on the other side of things being nurtured nurtured deep stillness calm relaxation. That Feminine Energy in a healing session is also very important for sometimes. You just need to be held in. You need the feminine nurturing side of Therapeutic Session and for for those of you who aren't in a healing profession..
Strong Women and the Power Struggle with Your Mate with Arielle Ford
"Let's talk about the type of partner that were attracted to if we are a powerful person you know I don't know that there's a short answer to that here's what I do know is that whether you just become successful in business or you've been successful for a long time the power that women exude was there anyway and lots and lots of men are attracted to powerful women justice like we're attracted to certain kinds of guys that may be confident or something like that where the problems have arisen that I've seen in my life and those around me is when a couple decides to go into business together especially if it's the woman's business that he's coming into that creates a power struggle so suddenly you went from being let's say a equals in a marriage partnership to she's the boss you know she's the one who is now having to say give Tass to her partner germ which could be demoralizing the guy who's used to running things his way so I usually recommend that you know if your relationships going well don't do that as your both really conscious enough and willing to work through the issues that will arise I'll tell you what happened in my life as it totally took me by surprise I was the first time right at the age of forty three and then I decided to use every prayer processing ritual I've ever done to build my business to manifest a soulmate and did it brilliantly and I- manifested this amazing exceeded all my expectations we got married and then we decided to start a business together now I went into this marriage not knowing that I had zero partnership skills and be the thing that I was really the best at was being the us being the boss with an Alpha masculine male isn't that a good place to be if you WANNA have a good sex life yeah doesn't work so we ended up having to do a ton of work around masculine and Feminine Energy and learning how to work together because we were both very a successful business people with two very different business styles so I'm a get it done kind of person you know something comes on my desk and it's Atta there in thirty seconds right is a slower much more thoughtful wants to review everything three times kind of person which draw me Rainsy You know so we had lots and lots of issues to work out and eventually for lots of different reasons we closed the business in I just said odor ever again you know we just put too much stress and strain are romantic relationship now I know you and your husband very successfully worked together so I'm curious what are the things that you do that make so well well didn't work well at first much like you've described it was that was a language I was even using my business I need your help today can you help me do this for my business and languages of I piece and then you know he is the quarterback I mean he was like a collegiate quarterback he played professional quarterback that's the guy who's in charge that's the guy who leads the team who takes the fall who glorified in the win got to tell you my husband was captain of his College Basketball Team Championship. and then he was pro so I understand yeah and so it wasn't like I was attracted to someone who was necessarily a milk toast kind of person He's definitely a leader very charismatic I think part of our relationship together it was like it was the first time he was dating someone who was like his equal and it was the first time I felt like I was dating someone who is my equal but I was more powerful when it came to business he had no experience area the type of business with started together and I needed his help and just need like I need a warm body I needed his skill set if we were the next level I mean the things that he's great at I'm horrible at in order for that to work we went through some really horrible nearly marriage ending James nearly hit rock bottom and then it was a matter of going to therapy and realizing like oh so there's a way I am in business and then there's a way need to be with my husband and each of us had to recognize each other's strengths and powers and I stay in and I know this may sound controversial but I stay in my feminine role and maybe it's not feminine or masculine but I stay in that role where you're the man you're the person who's taking era of me and maybe he'll listen to this maybe he won't but I'm really thinking about his ego like all the time in how I respond to his feedback is ideal as his suggestions away that I constantly look for ways to acknowledge all the things he's doing which are so different from the things that I'm doing and it wasn't doing that at first at first I would just be like here do this and it was all the things that I knew how to do but we're within his strength or his interests yeah no lead is being in your feminine energy because in a relationship you want polarity you want the male and the female and as the relationship grows and matures that it becomes a dance where you switch on and off and go back and forth but when women are working we need to be in our masculine energy that it's bonding in your masculine energy and gets done energy yeah the make stuff happen energy it's really fine but then at the end of the day we need to transition and step into the role of our Feminine Energy and for me that became a process I actually created a routine that I did for many years where I would come home from work and I would either take an aromatherapy bubble bath and put on freshmen makeup and change my clothes to go out to dinner or I would come home and do some belly dancing would consciously shipped not up or down just ladder early shift into my Feminine Energy and then he had to learn that he needed to honor that energy so he couldn't be talking business to me late at night 'cause I remember saying to him Oh it's eight o'clock at night and we have to be talking about this contract and in a why not it's fun it's like yeah it's fine in the middle of the day when I'm working I just went through a ninety minute process right you just transformed become your girlfriend in your way you know and it was a dance we needed to learn and the thing that I learned the most and I learned this from John Gray who wrote men are from Mars women are from the yes sure as you know men's brains are wired differently from ours you know you and I we could have a conversation where we are the same mm time talking about the friends we have in common what the latest episode of Grey's Anatomy was like where did you get those shoes and you know who he voting for net exchange we could manage all four multiple conversations yeah got guys brains can handle anything but one topic at a time so if you want the ask them a question don't ask them a multilevel question you ask him where is such and such blank and then you shut up and you let them answer so we have to understand that there are real differences between men and women and communicating with men and women but I think the most important thing and I learned from John Gray is that all men need to be told multiple times a day how brilliant they are and just no matter what it is they say you don't want to lie to them but if they say oh I just made us reservations data on my God that's perfect brilliant I've been wanting to go there you know they need to be acknowledged on a regular basis is it fading their ego chess don't we both need that and you know we're talking a little bit about heterosexual couples but this power struggle exists in same-sex marriages and all relationships I would assume yes yes and yes we want to be acknowledged as well but what I've learned is it's not something you necessarily have to ask for Dr John John and who's the world's leading expert right on marriages read many of his books are great L. Hayes brilliant his the secret to a happy marriage is giving your partner five acknowledgments today why is this important because it means that in order to give them five acknowledgments every day you attention to them on the look for what's right instead of looking for what's wrong what would constitute an acknowledgment okay so let's say so you've got a son a nine year old son who has trouble with math in school and you see your husband's sitting at the kitchen table helping with homework later on that night all you have to do is give them a hug and say you know you're the greatest dad I saw you helping little johnny with his homework I'm just so proud to be your wife
"feminine energy" Discussed on Heartland Newsfeed Radio Network
"Way having to live it's it's the it's the innocence on the other side of wholeness when we've actually gone through and land and suffered all the things in life doing everything else dominate each other competing and all of that energy we know it's our culture and I would say the US culture especially hyper masculine compared to many others end lacking there for what needs to be stored for balance is that Feminine Energy and then there to other entities so we need the father and the mother and the child energy that we talked about that's where eighty which when you don't have the other become from African unredacted goes from strength courage zillion focused discipline achievement to domination aggression excessive competition winning.
"feminine energy" Discussed on L2 Fitness & Business Podcast
"So that you can start taking more action and start building momentum there so that you don't just end up leaving this business business behind because it never became financially feasible for you to live the life you were trying to live right so does meeting yourself where you're at and having a really hard our conversation with yourself would be stopped number one and then to like if this business is not financially supporting you right now and you bill so pain you have rent a pay and like this is this. Is causing you more stress than anything. I don't think there's anything really wrong with getting part time job part time temporary temporary aid to support you financially to remove that stress so that you can build your side hustle you know there's financial stress is so exhausting and all consuming and so if you can alleviate that in a small way. I don't think there's any shame in that. I think that there's a lot of shame shame around it. Online where you have to be all in and if you're not you're not taking it seriously and whatever. I don't believe that I think like do what you I'll have to do to feel good so that you can take ruthless action and bring your energy to your business and then just know that that's not a long term play for you and have an end date like I'm GonNa get a part time job until January twenty twenty and then I'm giving my notice. I'm GonNa give myself that grace period right or whatever you need to do but I think that would really help people just kind of open themselves up to what is possible for them. I agree you just have to give yourself the space to figure it out and do we need to do to make it happen and there's nothing wrong. We need to remove this facade of things. This is the right way or this is the wrong way. No it's it's not black and white. I need to remove the dichotomy thinking around our business but I think if you can come back and take away just one thing from this episode but I think you're GonNa be far better off came into yeah. Thank you so much for being here. You WanNa be a part of our little family over to momentum lab dot community and request to join nine. We teach in there all the time on topics. We don't cover on the podcast and so we would love to see you in there and just continue this conversation. We'll see you still CEAC.
"feminine energy" Discussed on L2 Fitness & Business Podcast
"They stopped showing up and then they come to us and we need to take a step back. We need to work gone other things so that that side can accelerate on its own as almost a byproduct but we've also worked with people in the past that have been so so far on the other side of the spectrum that they have no clients but they're not almost willing to just grind a little bit face anything so what. I think that comes down to is. I don't necessarily think it's wrong now. I think you simply have to become aware with the tradeoff yeah. If you're not willing to do x you can't expect wide and if you're not willing to do X. And you don't expect why then I'm not mad so I added you. The person has to be aware of it and the okay with it and when the awareness isn't there then it's very difficult because you're kind of in this in this tug of war trying lying to get them to understand. You can't just have them keep hitting head against the but if they're aware of it then it's okay because there's going to be a trade off. You know I was talking to you know if you want to not work on weekends right but you're not willing to put an extra hours through the week yeah well then. You have to accept that. Your Business may grow slower. If you're okay with that perfect then that's fine but if you're not okay with something something has to change right and I think that's the biggest thing I think that's where this big. There's this big dilemma in terms of strategies and this and that and the other thing because people or trying to put up these I'm not going to do this because it doesn't align with me but they're not willing to accept the trade off right right. I love that I think on the complete opposite end to people who are so used to that hustle mode like this is totally me not started our business from that Hustle Perspective Jeff and is now trying to transition more to an aligned place. It's really hard to live in that alignment all the time without feeling guilty without being hard on ourselves without feeling leg. I need to work more right because that's just so ingrained in us and I catch myself in this pattern constantly league where if I have like three hours free in an afternoon and I wanna take a nap and I totally could. I feel bad about it. I'm like I'm. GonNa fill my time doing random shit because that makes me feel better than actually living in that space that I fought so hard to create lake. I wanted to forever build the business where I could just work when I wanted and not work when I didn't want to. You and you know live my life the way I wanted to live it and take a nap. I want and right but when you got got there if you're so used to hustle hustle hustle all the time it's really hard. I agree. I think it's so it's very common for us to see people that are working towards awards that freedom but won't actually allow themselves to take it once they get to the point where they can right yeah totally. I feel that a lot. It's constant work in progress to really come to a a place where I have to consciously tell myself you can do this. You're allowed to take an afternoon off and go meet. A friend like this is what you've spent ten years working towards take it and if you're not at a point where you can do that but you want to do it just understand you won't get all of those things done and accepted accepted yeah and that's okay like lose the guilt and just meet yourself where you're at. You're choosing like you have a choice. You're choosing one over the other so if you're going to choose news to go meet friends for lunch instead of working on your business. Just be okay with it and then just understand. What would you tell your client. If your client client wanted to have a piece of cake at a birthday party and it didn't line up with their immediate goals you tell them half the cake just understand it's okay don't feel guilty about it have the cake you might not progress that week yeah but that's fine.
"feminine energy" Discussed on L2 Fitness & Business Podcast
"Only working with my ideal clients. I'm chasing my flow e free life and if it doesn't fit into that then I'm I'm not doing it and you. You're shooting yourself in the foot. You have to get messy. You have to get dirty. You have to live in the dirt for bit yet. The the message now has almost created a false perception that it's not hard right whereas before when it was very hustled grind. You knew it was gonna be hard what you're are expecting yeah but then people started to expect that feeling like shit all the time and that's wrong yeah you don't have to you don't have to collection all that time you can apply that hustle mentality but also balanced out with self care and you know holding space for what feels good on your life and understanding where you're at and meeting yourself where you're at but also knowing where you're going and what you WanNa Work Award. I think that's the biggest thing and you know we need to understand both ends of the spectrum. We need to understand where we're at in our business where we're at in our journey s when we're in the early stages. We can't expect that hustle mode to last three weeks or a month. It might last a few years yeah but you need to understand what what the overall vision is. What you're working towards an even if it's foggy you need to have something that you're working towards a feeling or for an idea of the life you? WanNa live. Even if you don't know how your business is going to support that yet like what do you see for yourself in ten years. Where are you. Who are you with? How are you spending your days and just having that vision in your mind can help you.
"feminine energy" Discussed on L2 Fitness & Business Podcast
"And welcome back the unfiltered coach podcast. I'm your host. Laura and I'm here with Landon. Dave we are addressing a question that we got from one of very listeners about how they're getting really frustrated with the advice it they've been seeing around trusting your gut and following your heart when they're just starting out in business and this is not helping them make money so we wanted to dive into this topic and combine it with our perspective around how the industry he is shifting from a Masculine Energy Tomorrow Feminine Energy and the positives and negatives we see in this. I think this is going to be a lot of fun to dive into Hugh because you even if we go back to the school system you start to see people that are being told to go find a major you're to go and find a career and there's people that just don't know what they WanNa do and I think when you start to come back to being told to chase happiness Nisa and doing these sorts of things. We don't always know what that means exactly. It's kind of disempowering because there's no tangible action steps always associated gated with it and so I loved her perspective and I loved her question because she was like Laura. There's these millionaires telling me to trust my gut and follow my hard and rainbows and butterflies are going to appear and I'm GonNa make all this money. I just have to be patient and she's like I have rent to pay like I can't just wait for my my success to show up on my doorstep because I followed my heart and I love that because it's so true we're seeing such a shift towards the Feminine Energy Gene Business which I love but it's also a little bit uncertain and not always actionable one hundred percent i. I think you nailed it on the on the head when you said it's not actionable trusting your gut following your passion. Doing what makes you happy well. That might be playing playing video games. There's not always a tangible step and I think it's very easy to speak in you know kind of philosophical fickle fashion with a lot of this stuff yeah and it doesn't really give you guidance. It may inspire you but it doesn't necessarily give direction all of the time of what you actually need to do what that next step is okay. I'm going to follow what makes me happy cool. I'm going to go take a now. What do I do so and not everybody and we have to understand that not. Every body in this moment is GonNa know what the overarching vision Asian is for them. At this time totally agree totally agree. I think it's important to understand that we need to have a balance of both the masculine and the feminine side the two business until life and I want to back up real quick and dive into what masculine and feminine even really means because when we're speaking about the energy you bring to Your Business I think most recently we've seen this shift towards living in abundance and following your what your heart what is telling you and living in alignment and making choices from that place which is awesome previous to this there was a massive masculine push around Hustle Sola grind and show up and work fifteen hours a day and do what it takes to get to your success and also great and I think like that because people swing to one end of the pendulum or the other is where they get into trouble and we really kind of just need to meet in the middle and have a good balance of both south. Yeah I agree when you when you read me the question. The personnel mmediately jumped into my mind was gary and I think you know from a large public standpoint. I feel like he has a very large.
"feminine energy" Discussed on KTLK 1130 AM
"To rebalance the masculine and feminine energy you don't sometimes it's in a relationship sometimes it's internally sometimes it's in the workforce but really in the united states at this point we're seeing a show up in so many different ways you know really very much brought on by politics and then women standing up and saying mi2 were done with this and and so is is challenging and this painful um as the world appears when we can see that really what's coming up is the old paradyne's to be released and they are actually being released as were as we're seeing them letting go standing up saying you know we're not gonna we're not gonna take sending more we're going to speak our truth we are going to stand in love we are going to bring compassion and forgiveness to the forefront of the world again or it's also a way to balance uh as well as you were saying earlier in terms of you know if you look at the environmental movement it's a way for the earth to start to balance itself and not to have its resources so uh strip to there's so many ways that you can look at the earth and humanity at tempting to look at moving towards balance um and it's more long way way but it does feel that the direction could start moving that way that it really always has i mean look at um in the past we've had antiwar movements were we've had various different un pendulum swinging i think that were always as a species or even our planet attempting to move towards balanced nature does it all day long yes yes absolutely and and we see that even as tragic as as the weather has been craig the the hurricanes the fires all of that all over the world it really is um nature's way of saying you know enough it's time to it's time to balance its time to notice has time to shift what we you know as.
"feminine energy" Discussed on The Rich Roll Podcast
"Beautiful women or feminine energy is not necessarily peaceful and complacent and makes you feel good some time she's a fierce lyon who is protecting her children standing up and saying what needs to be said and the cosmic mother she's taking care and sometimes that requires some intense action breaths julie pilot and this is the ritual podcast the rich paul hard greetings podcast consuming citizens of the world my name is rich role i'm your host this is my podcast welcome to it thanks for dropping by how you guys do it our he could hits pretty crazy out there these days every day it seems like there's a new global crisis a new drama to distract us to upset us seems like it's all accelerating maybe that's just me but i don't think so in any event it's easier than ever to get stressed disconnected from what's truly important to default to anxiety too old behaviors at least it is for me that my experience and there's been a lot of concern over the last day or so about my family's wellbeing in the wake of these insane terrifying apocalyptic los angeles fires thank you for all the well wishes everybody out there it's very appreciated but were fine and not everybody it's fine happy to report that we are save our home is safe at least for the time being but the wind is insane right now something like eighty miles an hour and that means we have to be on high alert because these timbers these.