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Former NY Gov. Andrew Cuomo Eyes Political Comeback
"You notice how they're all worried about the American worker now you know Democrat government Remember the great Andrew Cuomo shutting down businesses left and right people dying left and right in nursing homes as he's shoving COVID infected people into nursing homes Hey I'm just following the science no actually you're doing the opposite of the science Hey The great Andrew Cuomo Mister Hans like Al Franken did you see that out Franken in this thinking about running for the Senate again You see the Democrats they get four or 5 years and then everyone forgets what they did You forget what they did We'd like our back Old touchy feely house Good guy Hey how are you But anyway I think Cuomo he'll be back He's already said he wish he didn't resign Sure He'll be back why not He said Democrat You had Ted Kennedy trapp aquatic Ted He was back They're all back
"feely" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris
"Would start by acknowledging. Whoa this is hard. One of the things that's happened over. The last year and a half in business particularly is that tasks have gotten four grounded and relationships have gotten background which means that everything we've been talking about with. You is something that people have to double down on. If the only way wherever interacting with each other is through hollywood squares and people use the screen as a way to hide more than seeing it as an opportunity to you know how when you're when you do theater you're supposed to speak louder so that people in the way back and actually hear you some of my participants in in my leaders in tech program. Ceo fellows have created mechanisms. Were they when they get together in there twice a month executive team call they start by actually saying it's something they learned in the in the program in the leaders of tech program that i teach if you really knew me h take ninety seconds and they have to complete that sentence me and after us three feeling words and they've all got their vocabulary feelings and in twelve minutes they all understand where they all are in that moment and then they dive in to what they've got to deal with and then many of them after the call is done will reach out to each other based on what they heard in the if you really if the built structures and you have to double down yes david yeah i've akali. Who said oh the good thing about zoom is we cut to the chase and we cut out the unnecessary stuff and what carol is saying. We are human beings related to human beans that unnecessary stuff that allows us to know each other personally. We do it at the office with a cup of coffee. We do it drop by. Somebody's office and what we need to do. Is when we're on the phone when we're on sue and would we're face to face as carol says doubled out of say. Here's where i am were you. What's important to you. What is happening to you as a human being that. I need to know because it's you as a human being. I'm going to be working with final question. Can people really change. Yes as carol said. We would be in this business for this many decades if we didn't believe it what we need to separate is. Are we talking about behavioral change or personality change. And if you're a manager if you're a friend. I'm not into personality change. I'll let the therapist do that. Maybe they can a little bit. but what. We're talking about behavioral change. So i want to come back to some of the examples. Carol said sometimes she comes in like back with a lot of force. She's in control of that behavior. I don't need to know what the hell is driving that. She just needs to know how it's affecting me and she can control ourselves so we can control behavior and that's why the feedback has to be on behavior and not on character so say to somebody you want to dominate. Isn't very helpful. But to say what i feel. It erupted three times in a row. I feel dismissed. You have control over that and so yes. People can change behavior and much more behavior change if people shared their reaction to the behavior and told the person what was useful. What wasn't so at stanford we say feedback is a gift. Because i'm telling you something you don't know you don't know the impact of your behavior. I know that and as a person who's concerned about you. I want to tell you. And if we had more of that we'd have more behavioral change and we'd have more functional families and more functional schools in more functional businesses. And i will add that. That does not mean that changes easy. I know that. I come in and i interrupt. I know that sometimes it irritates david especially when we're in a setting like this. Sometimes i get so excited. I forget and then he reminds me and then. I'm a little bit better next time until i forget again or get excited again over time. I get a little bit better. He also knows what it is that gets me in that state like chimed in a little more than usual. Because i've liked super excited to be on this podcast with you dan. I'm like oh my god. Ten percent happier. I'm such a fan arrived in some weird kind of way for me to even be talking to you a meditative before i went into it. Saint carol you're going to have a tendency to really want to get in there a lot and as much as i tried to manage myself. There were times when. I didn't do as good a job as i wish i'd done. Yes but you're so much better than you were restored to work together exactly. It's your much better. I thought you were both great. And thank you for your kind words in real closing here. This isn't a deep meaty question. This is more just something. I like to do at the end of the show. Just can i get one or both of you to just plug the book in any other resources that may exist digitally or otherwise carole gopher fort so the first thing i'd recommend we.
"feely" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris
"For repair. If there's a rupture. I think a lot of what we've talked about. I think if i stick with my feelings you're less likely to feel attacked. I think that if i ask about your feeling i think that if i share by intentions dad i want a better relationship. I'm not out to get you. If i talk about what i wanted our relationship i really want to be relaxed. Be myself and this is what's goydos it'd be back. Can we talk about what's getting in the way. Not as a former blame but as a form of a problem that we can jointly work on and enjoy working on we get closer carol. Are these risks harder to take. When we're communicating across differences gender lines racial differences political differences become increasingly risky. Well it certainly feels riskier in. It feels more challenging. I also used to think that the in addition the course being called into personal. Mindfulness could have been called connecting across differences. Because it's easy to connect with people that are just like you along any of those dimensions that you've just named and it's harder also often more rewarding and a richer experience and now we're back to how do you you don't eliminate the risks david just said and yes in some of those cases. It is riskier because you when i understand even less of someone else's experience then it feels even riskier to me when i say something that i don't know how they'll respond to and i often try to err on the side of a knowledge that i don't understand their experience and i don't know it and i don't want that to shut me down. I'm going to take the risk. And i'm going to say something and if it goes sideways you know. We don't know that we have the capacity to repair until we've had to repair so again if you play it safe you don't learn that you can actually repair. And i've had a lot of conversations with people on the other side of the political spectrum from me. i went to work as the only woman. Non-clerical job in an industrial nation in nineteen seventy five and for a long time. I didn't even know that i could be me. I had to become like more like them. So i think back to your point. It's riskier and more challenging and more rewarding and an even bigger opportunity for learning. Let me give an example. Couple of months ago. I was asked to do a session on influence with black managers at a major american corporation. And i started by saying. This is really a bit of gaul for me at older white band to talk to you about this. I said i don't know your world. I only by world and then i said what i'm going to suggest in a sense is unfair because it's asking things of you when white managers ought to get their act together and i said but to many of us are scared and in some ways. This conversation is a little scary for me. And by being open about where i was and what i wanna do. We had a wonderful discussion. And they said hey. This guy understands the submit. And again i had to lead with where i was what my intentions were and admit that this may not sound like affair. Sort of thing but by goldberg. The more influential. Which i did and what you did david is. You acknowledged i. I think one of the worst things that happens that we try to pretend these differences don't exist. That's like the worst thing we can. Do you acknowledged your knowledge. You couldn't possibly really totally understand. And i mean we're back to that sense that i keep coming back to if you say what's going on for you and your real about it and you include your feelings. Most people will respond in kind now. I do want to say one of the thing when you ask dan about a conflict now. You've both escalated. You're both in europe mcdonagh's some of the stuff that we talked about. It's like well sometimes. It's okay to just say you know what maybe we need to take like ten minutes and take a breather and come back to this. That is okay to do. Especially if you've noticed that you've hit a wall with each other and you're just escalating. I'll say one other thing that we missed in that conversation which is why its powerful. Say gosh i'm sorry man. Do people have a difficult time. Just saying doesn't matter that. That's not what i intended. I am sorry into it and to beat it. I want to underline that because so often we say i'm sorry no i feel really crappy so not what i wanted. That goes a long ways to yes. Amen to everything that's been said over the last couple minutes. I really like all of that. Town's you handled the beginning of that conversation really skillfully. David apologize if anybody. Here's sort of a low rumbling. On my mic. I have a feline invader in my little studio here before we close to point out the obvious and i guess it's kind of cat provided a good segue to this. We're all you know. Many of us have been working from home or working in suboptimal situations or living in suboptimal situations for a long time now and in some parts of the world. We're going back to work in some parts. Were not in even where we're going back. It's kind of haphazard and maybe we have social anxiety is a complicated situation when it comes to relationships right now so i just wonder as we come to a close here whether you guys could free associated in some ways to navigate the particularly dangerous environment. Dangerous may be precarious. Maybe loaded fraud environment that we find ourselves in.
"feely" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris
"You judge me negatively. But i feel good about myself that even if you do. I know i'm not going to be destroyed. In the reason the courses so affirming is that i share this and it turns out. You like me even more or you feel even more compelled by me. And i've spent my whole life hiding this part of me. The leaving that. I'd be judged negatively only to find out that it's one of my strengths. Okay so that gets us to the second of the hallmarks which is how you can engender and others the willingness to be vulnerable and i'm guessing but you'll correct me that the answer at least in part is you going. I you know you makes other people more likely to do it. Yeah that's certainly true because saying to the other person will you go first. I'm going to play it. Safe doesn't work very well but the other thing and it's back to what carol said about curiosity i think other people wonder. Do you really want to know about me and often. Don't which is why relationships don't develop. Can we be curious. Cast so carol was curious. What's a barista. If there would have been more time. She might have said well. What's it like with your daughter. How does it feel leaving her at home. What is it like. Would you go back so if you are truly curious and ask open ended questions. You're conveying. I really wanna know you and when people do that they're gonna feel freer to tell you about themselves and i think the barista's said will thank you and then she returned the compliment so again do we really want to know whether people and i'm sure your experience it. I have where the other person asked a question and you know they just want me to end so they could talk about themselves. That doesn't get me to be open. Will picking up that let. Here's another asking for a friend question. I have had the experience of being in a situation where somebody's trying to get to know me. And i don't have the energy or bandwidth or not in the mood. Or whatever and then i kinda hate myself for not being available etcetera etcetera and i can't get into the spiral. What are your recommendations for people who might find themselves in that kind of frosty situation. I don't think there's anything more efficient than the truth or more helpful to relationship than saying what's going on you know. I wish i had the energy for this right now. I feel bad. That i don't and right now i just don't imagine how refreshing it would be if we felt empowered enough to say something like that and by the way doesn't mean i'm never going to have the energy and my experience right now is i'm appreciating your curiosity. I hear you wanting to know more about me. And i don't have it to give right now and what is interesting. Is that statement. I don't wanna reveal myself is very revealing so in a paradoxical since then carols wonderful answer she saying i'm not gonna share about myself and i'm sure in about myself by talking about that right and that is very much a here. Dial connecting sort of statement. That's actually the fourth hallmark of exceptional relationships. You can be honest with each other. Yes i want to ask you about the fifth hallmark. Because i think this is very rich territory. I'm interested to hear. What do you guys teach about dealing with conflict. Productively david's laughing. You can't see him listeners. Both laughing well. The first thing is we treat conflict as a positive thing. Not as a decorative so let me use that analogy which love so dan. You're driving to work and the wheels are little wobbly. The series little loose and there is knocking in the motor. You don't say bad car bad car. You say i gotta get fixed. So if there's conflict at in writing the book over four years caroline. I've had many disagreements. We see those disagreements as a sign that something's going on the way to deal with are not really hearing each other. Do we feel that our contribution is being ignored. Does one person feel that the other gets their way all the time rather than just blaming the other person. Can we see that as a sign that we need to work on this. And can we start to explore. What's going on started with our feelings. Hey i'm feeling annoyed at this. What's going on with you. Carol and carroll says well. I'm also feel annoyed and then we could say well what is going on. It's anoint both of us and that's productive that's useful. If we would silent and not had a conflict it would have been far for worse. We would have never finished the book. Yes yes yes. And i know you're not supposed to say no but you're supposed to say yes and so yes and i understand that talking about your feelings is a step in the right direction. Eighty is not uncommon for me. If somebody says they're feeling. I dunno shutdown or unsafe to say something or feel like. You're being dismissive. Or whatever it in my hobgoblins. I can get triggered by that and then i'm off defensive. I'm not in the game of the free exchange of feelings anymore. I'm defending myself. What's your recommendation for that kind of jerk. Well first of all. I don't name them jerk being facetious. That both being facetious. And there's something about suspending my own judgment of the other person long enough to get curious wall. I've obviously done something that's really not working for you. Can you please tell me what it is that i've done because regardless of what my intent might have been you feeling dismissed is not what i wanted.
"feely" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris
"Conversation to the challenge of turning this course into a book i wanna try to kind of extract from you. Some this is always my agendas. An interviewer to extract from us. Some things that listeners can do in their lives now. And you've already given us one with the mantra of how do i feel. How do you feel what are some of the other. Fr- acticle tipsy providing the book that we can do without being students at stafford. Okay let me put that. Within a framework what we found is six characteristics in building a relationship on that continuum and those six give you clues so the first one is. Could i let you know more about myself. So what we encourage in the book is pickup person. A friend that you want a deeper relationship. Is there something about yourself. That's relevant to that relationship that you haven't shared well that's easy to do but it may be the risky. The second dimension is could you build conditions where the person could be more themselves. So as carol said could be curious. Can i say gee dan. How have you used meditation to have a more meaningful relationship with your partner. The third one is Ken that builds a trust. So that would. I share things about myself where i worried about what i'm concerned about. Carol use that against me. and we'll play gotcha. Fourth one is so a clue is am. I afraid with this relationship to share something. Do they do something that gets. Be a little worried. The fourth one is can we be honest and not hold back. Are the things that are relevant to our interaction. i haven't shared these are all tips. The fifth one is ken. We lead into disagreements conflict. Am i sitting on something in my relationship with carol which i consider an exceptional one. Is she doing something that might be bothered me. Have i held back on that. Do i want to take the risk of saying. Hey carol so little hard. But i wanna raise this and i think the final one is. Can i help the other person grow and develop you see. We hold all sorts of information. About what the other person does well and doesn't do so well but we rarely say it. Could i because. I deeply care about carol. Say carol would you do x. I think you limit yourself. I think that's an act of kindness. And he has and she has two so you see. Those are all tips but they all come for the basic model of the process of building. A relationship is a process of learning. You have to do it in order to learn. Let me dig it on those just before. I do put a fine point on it. You both use this term exceptional relationship. That is a key term in your you know in your system and you david just listed what you call the six hallmarks of exceptional relationships exceptional relationships positive end of the continuum that you described earlier so let me start with number one the first of the six hallmarks. Which is that. You can be more fully yourself. And so can the other person and this gets to vulnerability which was invoked early on in the conversation or sort of being honest sharing something that might be a little risky. And i'm just wondering about the do's and don'ts carol maybe you can take this of vulnerability because it seems like you know what i'm brian brown who is kind of the person most publicly associated with the concept of vulnerability and read a bunch of bestselling books and had been on this show. She often talks about like yeah. Vulnerability is not just randomly bleeding all over the place right right. So that's why david said sharing something about yourself. That's relevant to the relationship beyond that. I'll add that one of the models that we use in a tip a useful tip perhaps for your listeners is using what we call the fifteen percent rule which if you imagine three concentric circles in the circle in the middle is your safety zone where you don't think twice about what you're gonna say or what you're gonna share and on the extreme end is your danger zone in a million years. You'd never say that. There's this circle in the middle. Which is your learnings though. And we used to tell our students you're not gonna learn anything and that's basic research on education. Is you gotta step outside your comfort zone to learn something however our students used to say but the minute i'm outside my comfort zone and i think about saying something and sharing something. How do i know. I'm not in danger zone. And so we came up with this fifty percent rural. Step a little bit outside your comfort zone. You're unlikely to freak yourself for the other person out and then you can see what happens in assess in a funny things happens. I shared a little bit with you. I made myself a little vulnerable with you. Nine times out of ten. You'll reciprocate. You'll make yourself a little vulnerable with me. And then both of our safety zones with each other only with each other back to what david said. Every relationship is different has grown a little bit and then we take another fifteen percent step. And that's how we build more and more reciprocal vulnerability starting with our own disclosure. Don't you think it would have been catchier if you if you call the ten percent. Maybe we should have fifteen percent. Happy this way to go. I've told this story many ties it when i was preparing to release ten percent happier. My publisher tried to bargain me up to twenty or thirty percent too much. I said you don't get the joke yet. So dan if. I can build on what carol said and come back to voter. Building voter has a bad rap. And one of the exercises we do in class as we put that word of the board and we say The students what do you say to that and as usual stuff weakness frailty failure and then at some point a student raises their hand says courage strength and i think it takes strength and courage to share something that may lead you to judge abi negatively. That's our fear that will be judge negatively now again i won Really emphasize a fifteen percent rule. You don't share the sort of things that will freak you the other out but we tend to play it so save and i think most people are stronger than they think they are and that's what they discovered the course. Hey i can do. More than i thought i could. I can share this. When i thought i couldn't. I could share that. I'm a little scared about what's happening in the group now. I think it takes strength to say that the safety things just say silent so vulnerability i wanted to find as it takes courage to take the risk of letting you know something about myself..
"feely" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris
"Much more intimate. Make stronger connections allows us to be known allows us to know the other just to repeat that back to. So i've got it you're essentially recommending that we have this mantra both internally and externally of how're you the way to develop the aforementioned to ten i would be to get into the habit of regular just ask yourself how am i feeling yes so you know and then asking other people while you're in conversation with them which by the ways curiosity which is the other reason i invoke mindfulness. Oh how am i feeling and then how are you feeling. You're absolutely right. And then let that informed my choices in terms of where i go next. I've been taken your course. But i've done some work in this fear. Broadly speaking some mindful communication. Things like that. Do you ever feel like just having a quote unquote normal conversation. Where you're not checking on your feelings or anybody else feelings. You're doing reflective listening or whatever just like quick moment of transaction. There's no feelings. No touchy feely nece whatsoever. Do you ever just like not wanted to drop all of this stuff. I'm asking for a friend. Yeah i think most of our interactions. It comes naturally. But if i'm aware of myself and i'm feeling knowing inside of me. I'm gonna want to listen to that if i'm noticing this interaction. The other person's frowning or seems to be holding back or has an edge to their tone that. I'm gonna try and be aware i think the other thing is that what are the effects of this is i get tired with superficial conversations. I can only take a couple of minutes of it. And i wanna have things a little more meaningful and notice with carols example with a barista a person she had met before she for thirty seconds had more meaningful conversation and one of the real advantages i find without does becoming deeper heavy that i can take many conversations and make it a little more meaningful a little more connecting and a little more full of learning for me and the other. But you don't feel like you need to be constantly on your game constantly checking in with yourself and other people that have this sort of immaculate communication style like once in a while you can say just. Can you please pass me a fork. Yeah it's true and there are many ties. No many times in which i don't do it what i should and even my wife nodded frequently. Said you teach this stuff. Why don't you it so we're all human but would you have taken this course. Hopefully would you read the book. You have this in your backpack and when things start to go wrong and then i say ooh sorry hon. I guess i was pretty insensitive. Now you say get what you were wanting to say and we could recover so you don't have to be perfect. You just have to be willing to take the risk and to recover. And that's part of what our students learn. And what's in the book. And i do want to add that. It isn't just when things have gone wrong. It's one thinks feel flat or when you want more so back to your original question would be exhausting. It would be the equivalent of going in spending a year. The inobound top in the pollen doing nothing but meditating i. I can't imagine doing that personally. I admire people who have and. That's not what we're advocating. But what we are advocating. Is that if you've got more tools as david said if you've got more in your backpack you can move your relationships along continuum from contact with no connection or dysfunction to functional and robust to exceptional in meaningful. That's the essence of the book. How do you move your relationships to the extent. You both want to along this continuum. At least you have a choice. More of our.
"feely" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris
"G you know. I'm afraid to say this. Because i don't know how you're all going to feel about me but i'm kind of bored and then for the people say. Wow thank you so much for saying that. And it's all real time dynamics and were auditing to know each other very well very quickly the real us but is there coaching or some sort of pedagogy. That leads into this. So that people understand how to do vulnerability correctly. And we'll talk about that or how to develop these two and ten. I that we all have but might not be aware of well. There's a facilitator in each group. Okay but the facilitator doesn't teach them but ask questions. So i'm going to carry on the scenario that carol start to build so somebody comes in and says well i'm getting bored with this and the person who initiated says. Well if you've got a better idea what the hell is it and the person who interrupted said. What's the rule around here. That i have to have a better idea. They're involved. the facilitator is likely to say to the first person. How are you feeling well. I'm feeling that i tried. That started feeling. What are you feeling. I've feeling annoyed that. I got corrected and the other pursue interrupted said well. I'm feeling that you did this without checking with us. So they are learning the sharing their feelings. Which is why the courses called touchy feely. By the students they start to learn. That's how we can communicate. That's how we can know each other what we want and what we don't want so. They learned from their experience. So when carol said the assignment is to build a laboratory learning and you were appropriately puzzled. This is the laboratory. Were they are discovering. What sort of interaction works. And what sort does it work. They learned from their experience. And you see what's powerful about. That is that they can take that competency out of the group. In later years we have experienced as all the time. Rarely do we learn from the but our students learn how to learn from all the experiences i have. And that's why the course continues after the turbans over because every interaction is a moment to gather data about how you're feeling and how other people are feeling in the responses you have internally and externally to whatever moves you make and so it sounds like the main skill. You're teaching them is just to open up. The data entry center instead of just moving through life says if every new interaction as a blank slate. You're constantly learning from every interaction. So that you get better as you go exactly. We couldn't have said it better ourselves fat. Every interaction with another human being is an opportunity to learn. Not only about them. But about yourself. Carol you invoked the word. Mindfulness that they use all interpersonal. Mindfulness where. I come from meaning buddhism we meditate in order to learn how to be more aware of what's happening internally and externally and both internally and externally how do you teach people to develop interpersonal mindfulness in your course and in your book. It's a practice in the same way that we learned to become more and more aware of our internal states through meditation. So it's in the doing. We're back to why it was so challenging to write a book. So i haven't exchanged with david. And i i learn to maybe take a moment and notice what's going on for me and notice what's going on for him instead of just. I'm just going to bear along. And it only takes a moment and we also established a relationship. Where if i am barreling along he can say done. You left me back here. Can we take it back a few steps. Those are almost mechanics. Those are skills. Those are competencies and one of the great things about the group process. That david was just talking about and that we encourage people to do in the book is that i believe i heard one thing and you believe you said something else and isn't it great to have somebody else to both help you but even if you don't have somebody else for me to say perfect example i come into the kitchen. I told my husband. Can i help you with that. He hears you don't know what you're doing and it wasn't until we both realized that what i was saying wasn't what he was hearing that we could resolve the pinch. That arose from that. These are all techniques israel to call those pinches by the way if you address something small when it just bothered you. That annoyed do a little bit. Your likelihood of that not turning into a big caboose conflict is higher. So they're all kinds of ways in which we learned to be more interpersonal mindful and therefore confident. And if i can add to that one of the keys we can't stress enough is we urge people to we constantly. Say what are you feeling. What are you feeling right here right now right here right. Now and many people aren't aware which is why in the appendix of the book. We have a long list of emotions and we have a handout for the students. They look down they say I'm feeling anxious. That in essence is a way to become mindful about. What's going on with me. Pick it up on the example of carol dot interacting. If she's coming in like a sherman tank. I can say not only. Hey wait a minute. But i say hey. What's going on with you. And i so i wanna know her feelings and she may say well. I'm really impatient because we haven't resolved this. We've come back to it a second time. And so now i know her feelings. So the mindfulness is within be and it's a sensitivity to find out. What's in the other one. And i sort of tell facilitators there's only two or three comments. You need to make the key. What is he people. What are you feeling and the other one says. Well i'm annoyed in the second comment is who knowing about and what are they doing. It's a certain sense very simple but we are so educated. We complicate the interactions and have to have logical reasons. Were if we stick with our feelings..
"feely" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris
"Robin david bradford welcome to the show. Good to be here. Thanks dan so carol start with you. What is touchy feely. Well it's the affectionate term used by students at the stanford graduate school of business for a course that david and i were very involved in for many years called interpersonal dynamics. That's the name of the course and students affectionately call. It touchy feely partly because we place such an emphasis on the use of feelings in being more interpersonal competent and building relationships. Which is why what we've dedicated our lives to helping people learn how to do and have now written a book. About so david students affectionately call touchy feely sort of a mild mocking and yet as i understand. It's very popular course resolutely yes. I'm not sure they're knocking it. I think it's sort of a more affectionate As carol was saying Densification so they say to each other. Are you taking touchy feely next term. And it's a survey to convey they're interested involve it staying with you for a second dave. What's the point. Of course the point of the course is to help. Students develop the competencies to build more opened authentic relationships not just with the other students in their a section in their group but also afterwards and one of the things were excited about is not only the impact it has on students but reports we hear from alumni of the museum of decades later on their job marriage with friends and so on. So it's a course that has lasting power and that's that's the excitement for us. Yeah i mean. I get excited when i hear talk and i would imagine. The question that i'm about to ask is one. You must feel reasonably frequently. Which is why is this. Just being taught at stanford business school is feels like this kind of interpersonal hygiene. Or a. you know one. Oh one of human interaction should be taught in every elementary school planet wide. Carol do agree or disagree. First of all could not agree with you. More just like every child should be talked to meditate in my opinion and in fact the way we got talked into writing the book was that our editor said. How come the only people who get to learn this or those that are privileged and lucky enough to go to stanford graduate school of business and we said well. It's very hard stuff to learn a book. You actually have to do it. You can't just read about it and that's why it took us for years right book so that we could do justice to the work and i think that you're absolutely right that it our dream for the book is that the book creates momentum for this being taught in many many many more places and learn by many many more people and if i could add to that it is taught at other schools it's taught at yale. Ucla other places but not as intensively as it is of stanford and one of the reasons. Why is that. This requires special competencies in teaching it. It's not just knowing the conceptual material of interpersonal relations. If got a do it yourself and not many faculty have the sort of training in how to teach us Carol and i and a few others have but that strikes me as a huge problem. I mean he's a quick anecdote here. I may have said this on the show before. So i have but a couple of years ago my wife and i went and did some couples counseling side. Note to the side note. I feel the compulsion to add. We weren't having some big marital difficulties kind of doing it for hygiene reasons here. We go with that word again but the side decide this. I noticed that. I feel like stink. That couples counseling has on. It needs to be totally ignored. Because it's an incredibly useful thing to do for your relationship and one of the things that our therapists said to us. That has always stuck with me. His name is michael. Vincent miller by the way to brilliant guy. He said nobody teaches us how to do relationships and he was talking about romantic relationships that he's absolutely right about that. Are teachers. there are. Parents often deeply flawed humans while all humans are and the movies. Which is you know. don't get me started. There's a lot that happens after the you complete me stage of relationships but he was not only write about romantic relationships. He's right about. Nobody teaches us how to interact with the barista. Either i mean like the whole range of human interactions. We're just making it up as we go and often i think while speak from personal experience often in my case not very well well first of all. I want to connect a few things that you've just said. Which is it's hard to teach if you don't model it so we have to start by modeling. What we believe creates connection that begins with vulnerability and a willingness to allow ourselves to be known and see which by the way most faculty in most academic institutions of higher learning especially if they're elite is the very unlikely way that they're going to show up so you just talked about. How do we learn about relationships. We learned from watching. And for me personally when i started in business. Because i'm not correct democ when i started a business. The first thing i learned was whatever you do. Leave your feelings at the door. There is no place in business for feelings. And then i discovered that. It's pretty hard to motivate people and inspire people at much less be seen as a human being in the absence of speaking about felix.
"feely" Discussed on 10% Happier with Dan Harris
"Hello hello we talk a lot on this show about social connection but my guests today are gonna get super granular on how to actually do relationships. Better carol robin and david bradford taught the most popular elective course at the stanford graduate school of business for a combined. Total of seventy five years officially the name. The course is interpersonal. Dynamics everybody affectionately calls it touchy feely. We cover a lot of fascinating ground here including the six hallmarks of what they call exceptional relationships how to handle conflict. Well how to be honest and vulnerable without overdoing it. Why the questions. How feeling how are you feeling or central to improving our communication the inevitability of risk when you set out to deepen any relationship how to connect across lines of difference including race and gender. Why it's possible to have deep relationships with a much broader range of people than you might have imagined how to give and receive feedback navigating power differentials and why. Meditation is helpful in. All of this. David is the eugene. Do kelly the second senior lecturer in leadership emeritus at the stanford graduate school of business carroll is the former dorothy j king lecturer in leadership at stanford together. They have written a new book called connect building exceptional relationships with family friends and colleagues. We'll get started with david. Bradford and cowl robin right after this. Carol.
"feely" Discussed on Reality TV RHAP-ups: Reality TV Podcasts
"Want juice you'll to see. This is a show first and foremost them getting married a secondary and so yeah that that went off really well and then we. Yeah the debrief which was really sweet. Because they were holding hands out on the balcony holding hands and she asked about his dad because at this point yes she's noticed that his dad's not there and so johnny explained how his dad he means a lot to him. He doesn't support this and so bowel is just like you know he'll come around. I'm really good with dad's speak vietnamese to him. I'll dress up. I'll do whatever it takes. And johnny love. That and i was really sweet. Little such a good moment. Like with everything and johnny's kind of like little. What do you call interview. I guess where he's talking about is in the seventies dad and he just hopes you know he'll come around or whatever. Yeah this is really sweet to get from from bowel. So the johnny can see like you know. Even though they may be lacking physical intimacy she is trying an interesting thing. I noticed like throughout their statements. She was very touchy. Feely with them like engines owning his hand on the balcony on the scene later. She's has her arms around him as like talking about the honeymoon. I think yeah All i did notice that. She's more comfortable. Maybe she thought she would be with. Little physical touch is do.
Interpersonal Skills Are Hard Work (With Carole Robin)
"Carol i am so pleased to have you join me to get all touchy feely today. Well i'm delighted to be here. Thank you so much john. So let's start by getting on the same page about vocabulary stanford calls this transformational class. Interpersonal dynamics i also hear a ton of people use the acronym e q. I mean i even use it. If i'm talking about someone who reads others. Well who seems quite authentic in their relationships. I might say i think this person has really high q. Help us with definition of terms. Are they similar. Different of a cloth. Talk to me. Yeah so the termi emot- e. q. Was coined by daniel goldin and in a in a now Very famous book and Came out actually. We just celebrated the twenty fifth anniversary of his of his seminal work and emotional intelligence or e. q. Is he defines. It is about a set of competencies that essentially Include self awareness. self-regulation Embassy the ability to motivate others and and social skills now one of the reasons that his work was. So seminal was that he legitimized the need for social for what we call the soft skills right in business and in fact what his research showed was that the people who were the best at the soft skills actually were the ones who created the highest performing organizations and were the most successful
Wimbledon 2021: American Frances Tiafoe Upsets No. 3 Seed Stefanos Tsitsipas
"The The first first round round of of Wimbledon Wimbledon is is American American Frances Frances Tiafoe Tiafoe beats beats third third seed seed Stephanos Stephanos tutor tutor business business trade trade sets sets advanced advanced the the second second round. round. It's a business coming off, losing to Novak Djokovic in the final, the French Open just a few weeks back. Speaking of the top seed Djokovic loses the first set to Jack Draper before winning the next three of the notables to advance and good fifth seed Andrzej 11 8 seed Roberto Bautista good while two time winner Andy Murray wins his open over 24th seed Nicolas Bacillus feely
"feely" Discussed on WFAN Sports Radio_FM
"To a team that advanced to the divisional round of the postseason. And to do it. They send Jared Goff along with two future first round picks and a third rounder to Detroit. It is the first time in NFL history to former number one overall picks. Have been traded for each other. God has four years over $100 million left on his contract. Stafford spent 12 years as the Lion starter, making just three playoff appearances, all of them wild card round losses, though he does own every major Detroit Career passing record on the schedule today. One NBA Matt Nate is the Knicks and the Clippers in New York. Battle of two top teams out West Bit after that, it is the jazz visiting the Nuggets, Pacers or home for the six years Raptor. Take on the magic. No James Harden for the Nets Tonight he is out against the Wizards in D C with a left thigh contusion. And the Cavaliers visit the T Wolves. Good news, though for the Celtics. Marcus Smart left last night's lost to the Lakers with a leg injury, and reports say Smart has been diagnosed with a grade one strain of his left calf. He will miss some time. But Boston is relieved. It is not more serious. College basketball a couple of top 25 games. It is number six. Houston looking to improve to 15 and one day Welcome in S. M U and Michigan State is at number 13, Ohio State, the Spartans just two and five in the Big 10. They've lost two in a row, one NHL afternoon game and is the Devils Devils and Sabers meeting in Buffalo. Those two teams played yesterday with Buffalo winning in a shoot out in the final round today at the Farmer's Insurance Open at Torrey Pines, Patrick Reid and Carlos Ortiz Open the day tied for the lead at 10, under part is Adam Scott and John Rahm, who highlighted group That is two shots back. I'm Kevin Dexter Jr here Monday night. We chat with CBS NFL analyst Jay Feely and NFL Safety T. J. Ward, the J. R sport Brief show. Send Eastern seven Pacific. See fun. Join gym room in the jungle way gaze from 12 to 3 Easter. Exclusively on CBS sports radio..
"feely" Discussed on Newsradio 700 WLW
"You know what makes me sick. Not nice, Mason. Bad. I just want like a pig. We're here about that Latest pencil neck pocket protector. Tree hugger. Touchy feely made up food substitute yet. Menschel, next colleague, cultured meat. Call it a hamburger in a jug. Cultured meat is real meat. They just skipped animal. They go. They go straight to animal parts Road in a mason jar. At least that's what they say in his article. Orian Sound typical American. Here's that work. Say you want a nice venison steak? No problem. Unscrew the lid off a cannon jar. Throw in a handful of fresh dried deer, scrapping and Sprinkle on some water. Stick it under the kitchen sink and wait. And you know, damn it all. You got yourself a nice, juicy ready to grill Bambi, but roast George, You want to make sure you don't accidentally used the wrong sales and end up with roadkill rabbit instead. To be honest, I don't mind going me underneath sick. Know what I think I'm on miss is the thrill of the hunt. I mean, it's one thing to grab a fistful of moose meat out of a pickle jar and quite another to wake up in a tree. Stand in a drunken stupor. Take aim and blast your head off a bull winkles! Big brother 15 ft away. That second one is a mentally more satisfied. And did I mention Stayed up, but not before sucking long necks and relieving yourself in your clothes right anyway. If we ever get that Mason Jar meat scenario, I want to first away my old lady Pearl could hide a half dozen or show them Petri judge in the backyard. You know I could get up in the morning strap on my orange best stumbled outside with my locked and loaded 12 gauge And then when I spied jar full of venison about to give birth to itself. I am. Don't you thinking you're thinking, what about all them glass shards, and then Beebe said it going in there. White couple America.
"feely" Discussed on KNBR The Sports Leader
"Wednesday. Wisconsin defeat to Rhode Island 73 62 in overtime Florida State got past Indiana 69 67. Baylor blows out Stephen F. Austin 83 50 to Richmond over northern Iowa 78 68. And it was Texas Tech. 51. Abilene, Christian 44. Panthers are hoping to welcome back Christian McCaffrey this week when they played the Broncos, but he has a new injury. He tweaked two qualities Day today. Former Giants in Alabama head coach Ray Perkins has died at 79, a Bob Buesseler. The guy's D A Tomorrow morning. Jay Feely NFL on CBS Joins us The D a show 60 stirred CBS Sports Radio. Nonessential personnel. OK, NPR 10456 80, the sports leader from play by play to foreplay. It's all fun and games. And then all of sudden, you know, it's Papa in London brand new We know who the other guys are. We've seen them play in the NBA. We've not seen Wiseman. Yet. Wiseman comes in right away, and he's a really good big and he's making teams miss with his length that he's getting rebounds and you're ripping it and running it. Now you could see how this works. Scattered court was step on the free ball. You've got these two great wing runners and Wiggins and you break junior. My concern. Is when you have to play in the half court. It's Papa in line by from their home studios. Weak ace tended to on KNBR 1045 and six in safety..
Bodhisattva for Our Times
"Is called we rise to play a greater part. That's really the boaty sought of our times and i few days ago today. An interview with the washington post that was extensively about how to work with the extra stress of this holiday season. And then i got curious. And i thought i'd ask you. How many of you feel like. It's extra stressful. This particular holiday season. Can i see by hands. Okay so let me see how many feel it's very normal for you right now. This is a normal level. Yeah i would say that was about two thirds extra stressful one-third stressful for those. That are listening on podcasts. I ask that because for many people that i've talked to the combination of the holidays with recent upheaval round the elections that combo the sense of potentially the kind of conversations and interactions with family members. Who might not agree. It just seems to all a combine in a that's intense and even without the elections. Many people know the forty eight hour limit. That if if we're with too long with family stuff happens. Somebody recently sent me a little cartoon with a where. There's a psychiatrist and lying on the couch. Is this long tall. Cactus with a cowboy hat and he says you know. We weren't what i would call a touchy feely family. How which i thought it was cute and then somebody else sent me one. And it was this annual convention and it's huge auditorium and the convention was adult children of normal parents. Only two seats were felled. Fixed a lot of us so we explore then at these times holiday or not just at times. That are stressful for us. Which could be for personal reasons or more societal reasons because it's often an interaction. How do we live our moments from the best that we are you know. The body sought path in the buddhist tradition. Really means it's an archetype for all of us are evolutionary potential. It's living away card. I mean every one of us is on this this unfolding of realizing the wisdom that comes from being present and the tenderness that comes when our heart wakes up and went as as the more we realized that the more very naturally we serve and we save her life. There's a reason that you know all this research keeps showing how people that are generous or less depressed people that feel a lot of gratitude are happier. And there's a correlation. Because the more we are inhabiting our fullness we can be the more at home and by contrast. When we're feeling very self-centered and reactive judgmental we don't like ourselves so how do we awake and our full potential at times of intense stress and what we find is that for many. It's when it gets intense that actually we feel more inclined towards helping you see it a natural disasters. It's like the best of people come out. People become incredibly aware of. Oh we're in this together and they care and i'm very aware that wartime everybody gets together when we see videos of racial violence week. It breaks our hearts now. There's a problem though that we forget if we're not in the war zone or in the middle of the natural disaster are constantly taking in the real world because so many of us are in enclaves that are buffered some and are speaking those of us who have privilege dominant culture that we forget so one of the queries tonight is how do we keep remembering truth that they're suffering so that our hearts can stay tender so we don't go back to sleep. Does that make sense. Okay i have been hearing from a lot of people especially in the last few weeks that something has broken open and it's harder to forget because if you read the newspaper you can't forget and one letter i got an email today. He writes signing petitions. Giving money to campaign doesn't feel like enough right now. I want to lend my voice back and hard to healing the wounds that keep us apart.
"feely" Discussed on PodcastDetroit.com
"And so after a couple of cajoling yeah moments and she did and she was like god right and sometimes i sell that to say it. We don't we sometimes get fixated on the specific emotion. We need feel but sometimes it can come out of us in any way that it needs to so you might be thinking. I need a good cry. And i've heard that before but it might just be. Hey let me scream and shout and get some of this energy out of me because it's not your fault. A lot of things happen. That aren't and you know the gets to have two thoughts those listening to you. I can hear those people who are detached who say this is so touchy feely emotional stuff like come on people bucket up with it. I come from that kind of family. Come from that kind of background. And you know i wanna say to you First of all sit down and listen for a minute because we're not talking about. Wow ah wing. Emotions have a purpose. They have a purpose. They're an alert system. Okay to those people who are listening that is saying this is bullshit. Emotion serve a purpose in the body. They aren alert system. They tell you something is wrong. And we've said this before over and over again i'm gonna say it over and over again. they alert you to pay attention. Something's wrong when you get angry. Pay attention somebody may be doing some things. You may be going down the wrong track. It isn't alert system to say. Hey stop take a look at what they're person saying. Take a look at what's happening. Check in with yourself and it also so emotions earn alert system and emotions release stress from the body. We're not saying. Sit down wallo in your emotions and use it as an excuse not to move forward. Were saying. Release the pressure so your thoughts can get clear and you can make more accurate decisions. So if somebody is pissed you off..
Why Do We Do Good and What is the Role of the Holy Spirit?
"An argument has developed over I. Think we. and. You can't be good on the low and you can't be good. Jesus. Either you're saying this both ways can't be exactly Jesus didn't have any effect like, Hey, you character agree one hundred percent wrong. Here. I'll give you four words just for the audience. And this this to me is how you learn. Because we both agree that Jesus. is where salvation occurs right? That's correct. So we're good and we love each other. So everybody were all family. We're all touchy feely today. However. The wording. Is We Zach Anna are on one side and you're on the other I have four words. Four words. To. As. The foundation of my argument and it comes from a letter written to the glacier and who thought. In Synopsis Form here. How will I say this who thought that? They needed salvation in Jesus plus. something. that. They could do. Now, in this case, it was circumcision, but to me, it can be anything. And that was a statement made and I'm getting to the forward. In Gullit relations to twenty. Paul said. I have been. Crucified. With Christ. And here are the forward right after an and. I. No longer. Live. So my point is. You can't do good. If you no longer live. How can that be? Because the next phrase. But Christ lives in me. So that's my whole point. You can't say you so well, how come in I John? On those who do good. Well I'm not sure it is but I'm saying. How can you do good if you no longer live. I John says there's two kinds of people those who do good and those do evil will do good. Why can't do it? So, I Realized that it's no longer I who do it? Where's that verse at? Christ lives in me. The Life I. Live in the body I live by faith and son of God. Who loved me where's that verse that says that it's it's I who no longer had the crucified Christ. Increased by I no longer live. That's a different verse. Maybe Colossians three. Let me say. Maybe. It's Romans. Romans. Romans seven says eighteen to. Yeah. This is this is another one. No seventeen seven seventeen as it is it is no longer on myself who do it, but it has since living I know that nothing good lives in me this Paul with Jesus. Yeah. Right, that is immoral sinful nature for I have the desire. To do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do but the evil I do. I do not want to do this I keep on doing. Well, this is this is post. Jesus. So, why why is he wrassling sale? He's going to ask you a question who's going to deliver me from this body of death because he just trying to you once Jesus comes in you say, can you start doing good then sure. But he had but he's in, he's in Jesus I I think that what? He's actually getting semantics well off because he's moving into Romans eight Romans eight is live by the spirit, which is where we get into this conversation last time on. John Fifteen and I think there is a this is a I had a hard time with this up until about twelve years ago because what I kept hearing was do better and be better. At tried it and I tried it and I tried to be yet I thought like Paul that fills here. I felt what a wretched. Man. Am I and every time I tried to do good evil was right there and it's Just I. Felt It. I felt like I couldn't bootstrap myself up and I and I. It's because we grew up in a faith tradition that really didn't have a good doctrine of the Holy Spirit. We didn't talk about the Holy Spirit Yeah. We really if we did it was what will retold he speaks through the written word only what about the inner conviction in my heart that the spirit is my counselor, my helper who's guiding me into all truth. So going back to the do good. I I. Think the Scripture tells us to do our behavior matters but the only way it's less about behavior it's less about works and it's more about what are you desire? What are you want? because. You're going to do what you want most and I think what the spirit is giving us those who submit to the spirit, the spirit as giving us a revelation of the beauty and the wonder of God so that over time my desires can be transformed. You talked about Phil when you are. You back in your sex drugs and rock and roll days like there was a time period. You know 'cause I interviewed you for project work on and when I heard some of the things you're into us man, there was a time period if I came up to you with a with a big fat joint or a scantily clad woman or a bottle. Of Whisky, you would have been tempted to partake in that but if I came to you now that's my point. But now you would not be tempted because the desires of your heart have been transformed over the last forty five years by the spirit because he's revealing to us reality and what it is not right and wrong it's not despair it's not saying. Your neighbors you do An elder must love good. he's got a desire to the older women to teach what is good get the young man set them an example by doing what is good but who is a? Saving you. It's not the already say you're not earning it. It's a free gift. So how do you operate? Well he purified him speak for himself a people who are he's very own and you know what they're eager to do. He. People what is his own and guess what they're eager to do on the PA do good.
Imran Amed and Tim Blanks on a Most Unusual Fashion Month
"Blow everyone. This is Imran Ahmed founder CEO of the business of fashion and I am here with my friend and colleague Tim Blanks editor at large of the business of fashion, and usually around this time of year timid I do a debrief on the fashion week has gone by and it's usually been informed by some of the chats the Timman I have. In the back of a car shuttling from one show to another in in all of the fashion cities. But this has been it goes without saying a fashion season that was very different but we wanted to continue our tradition and as it's been such a unique and unusual season maybe it's even more interesting to talk about the fashion season that's gone by so. Cam Maybe, we could just start with. The decision that both you and I made not. Any physical shows season in what what led you down that path because of course, there were some things you could have gone to here in London but in the end that didn't transpire. Well, my husband Jeff is very high risk and we have been so extremely careful since March. That it just seemed the sensible decision to extend vet caution and keep on extending it until we know there's not some kind of. Remove as much as remove as many random elements as possible from alive I I feel. Schizo being out of the House for all the months I found it so. Wasn't even the novelty I just found. The options that we would given. If we wanted attending things in person, we could zoom with design is we we could dive we can do deep dives into collections I ended up quite seduced by the virtual option I have to say. Come on a room. That's a surprise because you know at the early. Onset pandemic, we were talking about Sasha demonstrating graying potentially. Some shows never happening again. You know you're quite pro fashion meets Elliott. and Pro fashion shows because fashion shows have been my exposure to fashioned for my entire time working in this industry and I was definitely on the side of. You know that way of that way of encountering fashion, but this has been an education in. So many ways a pop aside from the fact, I've actually you learned to use technology and in a way I never thought I would I would ever be able to. It doesn't kind of. Terrify me Oh bull made whatever. You know the as so many people said, and it didn't matter whether there were people like me who just sit and look at things or whether they will buy as you know people who have whose bread and butter is the touchy feely side of the industry seventy people were saying the. The ability to go back and look at things and to have to think of something, and then be able to go back and see whether it was what you were thinking of old. To cross-references and to. and to be entertained as well. I think the difference this season as people really really got their virtual presence together. You know we've had a couple of. Dummy, runs that went. Wildly convincing. And I think this time there was so much thoughts and creativity and ingenuity applied to new ways of doing business that anyways. Bringing us to the world that that it was a very, very different game I felt. Yeah. You also got to spend. More time with the designers because. So much more I. Mean that was a mixed blessing in a way because normally it's three minutes backstage a few questions and he whiz off and do your review, and now it was forty five minutes zooms and so you having proper it reminded me actually it's funny. It reminded me of. When I first started covering fashion and I would go backstage interview designers and and people weren't that many people doing it in those days when there was a handful of camera crews and and you would end up in these. You know half hour forty, five minute conversations in depth with you know it was a novelty for you to be told to. It was a novelty for them to be talked to, and you would get people. You'd have these extraordinary conversations that would then be brutally truncated into like a thirty second sound by something for the for the broadcast. Meanwhile, the these conversations floating around in an archive somewhere at this, this is in a funny way. This is what it was like that. You would be having quite you. You'd be having talks with people and so when you went to write about the collection you when you're approaching collection a whole different level of insight I think you know it's so in a way, it was more time consuming and even though I wasn't kind of car with you driving from place to place flying from city to city all of that. It was more time can I was sitting in my room it was more time consuming and Matt sense that and more sought consuming and more and ultimately more rewarding in a funny way. I guess.
Has Globalization Undermined the American Working Class?
"America's working class has been cheated is an assertion that has been getting a lot of currency lately are last presidential election went deep on that claim in both parties by the way and the culprit most often blamed for that. It's that monstrous five syllable word globalization, the philosophy and the practice of free trade which has been great for companies and for shareholders but has had a devastating impact. It is argued on the American working woman and. Man Well Economist do agree that in the past four decades the American working class, which we're defining tonight as people who lack a four year college degree. They have seen flat wages and a steady disappearance of good jobs. But is globalization a main reason that that's happening to those workers and for those workers is globalization entirely bad. Well, we think this has the makings of a debate. So let's have it. Yes or no to this statement globalization. has undermined. America's working. Class I'm John Donavan, and I stand between two teams of experts in this topic who argue for and against this resolution globalization has undermined America's working class as always. Our debate will go in three rounds and then our live audience here at the Saint Regis Hotel and Aspen Colorado where we are appearing in partnership with the Aspen Ideas Festival will choose the winner and as always if all goes well civil discourse, we'll. Also win a resolution once again, globalization has undermined America's Working Class Jared Bernstein you have debated with us before. So welcome back you're a senior fellow at the center on Budget and policy priorities. You were Vice President Joe. Biden's chief economist. The last time you debated with US interestingly Jason Furman who is your opponent at the other table tonight was your debate partner as a team you were formidable formidable I, almost want to use the French pronunciation. Formula, so are you planning to use your insiders knowledge of Jason's debate battles against him to very much am the way to do that with Jason is to make a lot of sports analogies because they repealing confusing. All right. Thank you and I see you detail to Aspen. You were a to aspen well I. Think the guy with the tie is the guy you want to listen to, but I'll let you decide. All right. Thanks very much. Jared Bernstein and can tell us who your partner is. This someone I've known for twenty five years she's a dear friend of mine and I consider her my mentor in this topic feely gentlemen feeling. Theo welcome to intelligence squared your president of the Economic Policy Institute. You've spent two decades as an economist for the AFL CIO, which is America's largest federation of unions. It represents some twelve point, five, million working women and men. You've spent twenty five years working on trade policy. So what got you interested in trade? Well, when I came to Washington in the early nineties I got drawn. INTO THE NAFTA debate the North American Free Trade. Agreement. And I realized pretty early on that. This was not some kind of a dry text book discussion about tariffs but it was a transnational battle over democracy good jobs, workers, rights, and regulation. So I was hooked because a lots at stake a lot is at stake. Okay. Thanks very much thelia once again, team arguing for the motion. And motion again, globalization has undermined America's working class. We have to debaters arguing against it, I Jason Firm. Welcome back to intelligence squared Jason you're a professor of the practice of economic policy at the Harvard Kennedy School you're a senior fellow at the Peterson Institute for International Economics, you were Chairman of the Council of Economic Advisers under President Obama tonight. As we said, you're going to be debating your former colleague Jared Bernstein on the impact of globalization. So is this the first time you to have debated the globalization issue with each other jared and I agree on I'd say about ninety five percent of economic issues and my goal tonight is to bring to one hundred percent. Thanks very much Jason and can you tell us who your partner is someone I've only known for a few years and every single thing. He's ever told me I have believed James Manica Legitimate James Manyika. Welcome the first time telling squared you're a senior partner at McKinsey, and company you're the chairman of their economics research arm, the McKinsey Global Institute, your first time debating with us. But not your first debate you debated at Oxford I did you studied robotics and computers earlier in your career you were visiting scientist at NASA. So how do you go from very eclectic from robotics and space to thinking about trade policy? In American. Workers I've always been fascinated by the kinds of technologies that drive innovation and growth, but also affects what will people in the real world actually do. So when you put that together with the economy, these issues around trade and workforce become very, very important. Those are the issues that motive a great perspective to bring here and then once again, thank you. Thank you again to the team arguing against them.
"feely" Discussed on KTOK
"Can be for us. I'm not just pointing fingers. Believe me, I will tell you Well, I'm certainly not the touchy feely type. Those that know me will tell you that. I've taken the past few months harder than I normally take anything politically. Because I see the country being Remade. This is not just Ah, Democrat thing a Republican thing. It's not just who wins the presidency. Who? This senator that that congressman, it's not just about that. I see the values we hold dear in America. Not evaporating. I see them as having evaporated. That's not universal. I'm not trying to drag you down. But the truth is many of the things I hold dear things like small government. Family hard work. No whining things like that. Those things man, they're out of fashion. To put it mildly. This country seems to have Chosen a different direction and again. This didn't happen overnight. This took years to happen. So I want you to know if you're feeling that way. If you're feeling like you don't understand the country you live in now just know You're not alone. I talked to a lot of people. There's a lot of us back After this. The Trump administration has unveiled a five G fast plan, which opened the floodgates to millions of new jobs, trillions of dollars in economic growth and a brand new five G device. Tech genius. An angel investor Geoff Brown,.
"feely" Discussed on KDWN 720AM
"Much of his gas and stumbles and using the wrong words are being caught in the middle of the sentence is related to his lifetime stuttering disorder. I don't even know that he started until I started getting into it. There was a great artist Atlantic. What by the campus, a lifetime studying disorder. If you look at some of the sentences where he gets stuck in the middle of a sentence and then switches topic or Substitute the kind of a weird phrase or anachronistic word like the kids want to listen to record players instead of whatever you know, streaming music. It's because it's something called stuttering. Avoid. When someone who stutters is in the middle of a sentence. The OSHA not finish that sentence. This is I'm going to stutter. They have to get out of it. So what they do is they get out of it with scenes awkward. They may switch the topic and not finish their sentence. Or they made substituted inappropriate words. If you go back and look at the most awkward kind of gas that he has, they're usually in spontaneous verbal settings where he has to mix it up with people not eating for TelePrompTer because it's not a prepared speech, and so you see him. Getting stuck in the middle of a sentence and having to kind of escape from because stutterer have this feeling that anyone saw him stutter. That would be humiliating. So better to look like you can't finish your sentence or used a weird word than to blatantly stutter. I'm glad you brought that up. I'm glad you brought that up doctor because Biden's actually brought that on himself, and he said over the course of his lifetime, he's helped others. That have had stuttering disorders as well. That has nothing to do with age. It has nothing to do with getting old and it has everything to do with ifyou're a stutter. Your stutter now could get better over time with colleges, right? No, nothing Exactly. All right, So let's talk about a subject that I get into it with people all the time with it. We in regards to Joe Biden. People call Joe Biden a sexual predator predator, right? They call him A pedophile and I say to myself, listen from what I've seen in all the videos. I think we always have that one person in our family. That might be a little touchy Feely may be a little inappropriate. And yes, I would say it times. Joe Biden has been a little inappropriate and been way too touchy feely. I don't think anybody should smell another person's hair. I just think that's bizarre and it's and it's weird. Right. Let's call front. It's It's a little weird, But does that mean Joe Biden is a pedophile? Absolutely not. So I want you to talk a little bit about that. Well again, pop going to kind of black. I mean, Donald Trump is You know the most prolific rape that we've ever had in the White House. But the thing is that, yes, you know, the sort of tradition of you know, politicians, you know, kissing babies and hugging people. He's part of the old School of politics. It's very touching. It's very hands on very you know, hug the people and another air. But you don't live in the same way. Government booklet. I wrote a book about him. I met him once tonight, Remember, he put his arm around me, but then he dropped his arm. My forearm like holding my Yeah, That's weird. Yeah, we're I never had a man do that to me before. You know, it creates a kind of weird intimacy between us, and it was true. I never forgot it. You know, it was like a connection he made with May so he's you know, politicians need to be a little hands, sometimes to be connected to be charismatic to connect with people. But, you know, I do want to point out this one woman who accused him of serious sexual abuse. Tara Reid. People get mad at me, but you don't need to trash her arteries. You know, we have to believe all. I definitely think we need to believe women. But there is a very very, very small Percentage of women who do like very small and Tara Reid is one of those. And if you look into her biography, she has a lifetime of lying a lifetime trouble with the law, the lifetime of swindling people and a lifetime of garnering people's sympathy with this idea that she's a victim. Someone harmed her, and then they want to help her and then she ends up. Actually defrauding and screwing them. Agree. Agree? Yeah, I I don't disagree with you. And I don't like to compare contrast these things. But let's remember Donald Trump's own ex wife accused him of rape in a court document. Donald Trump has 25 plus women that have accused him of either rape or sexual assault. We have Donald Trump the audio of Donald Trump. Bragging about school assault. Joe Biden. His entire life has one woman that has come forward, And apparently, this was decades ago. I don't believe it to be true, because she's changed her story. Time and time again. So anybody on the right or any Republican that wants to bring up terror read that never brought up. Donald Trump in his sexcapades has absolutely zero Zero credibility and I always I always go on and on, and I talk to people about that. So let me ask you this based on what you know about Donald Trump as a psychologist, and based on what you know about Joe Biden right now, and his stuttering and the issues that he has How do you see these debates is going. Do you think it's going to be just like Trump versus Clinton? Do you think Trump is going to be the aggressor? And Joe Biden is going to take the high road because here's my Here's my thing, and I make no apologies about this. I am a Joe Biden supporter because I think Donald Trump is just an atrocious human being. But I have a concern and the concern among a lot of people that are Joe Biden supporters is this Joe Biden is not a cz quick on his feet as he's been in the past, and I do believe even though Donald Trump has the issues that you talked about, and I agree with everything you said one thing Donald Trump is still pretty good at is. He's good at the insults. He's quick on his feet, and he's an entertainer. Joe Biden is not that guy. I am concerned. That in these debates, Trump is going to destroy Joe Biden. Not on policy. Joe Biden will win that argument all day. But the insults and I think some Americans that are in the middle, want to be entertained..
"feely" Discussed on Life of an Architect
"Welcome to the touchy feely portion of the podcast is very touchy feely. Everybody come here. Give me a hug, big hugs, but things all the things. I just proud off. I go cow sound great. I see who wouldn't want those things. I WANNA I want for the people that work for me why I'm not discounting the fact that if you want them, you're not lesser is little touchy feely. No, no I. Just it sounds is not because I understand what it is I agree with the sentence of not with your headphones on and face in the Monitor, and you're not looking up now. That's the reason why I did my headphones in my office, because it just isolates everybody meaning a small office, even it's a little bit harder to become isolated, but I can your office with his eighty people. I'm sure if I wanted to. I could go on and put my headphones on every day and not talk to anybody and still do my job. Yes, you could end like not really and we have a couple people that are that. Are Kinda like that? Yeah, again, it I. Think it's better. It's not even just about fostering is fine cultures about fostering culture yet in your office. Right where everybody knows everybody in week. There's some social context then therefore, any lends itself to these are the things about well. We're all in it together. We're all going to get together to get this finished because it's better for all of us and not sorry by your. Your deadline Bro! Lighter Peace Now yeah well. It's a good example, but I want to touch on it. The whole idea of putting headphones loggerhead I. Don't talk to anybody thyroid on won. T kind of thing that has its moments as we've gone to. More open offices work environments. It's very hard for some people I understand. Yeah, you know, and I'll tell you. I put headphones on when I go. I really need to focus and so the headphones the music that plays through them. I'm not grooving singing songs I..
Villa de Vecchi
"Sometime between eighteen, fifty, four and eighteen fifty seven conflict day vecchi finished building has eastern architecture inspired some residence at the vows Seena Valley, just east of Italy's lake, COMO It was the pinnacle of old world and top line, mid-century convenience with intricate frescos, indoor heating pipes and dumb waiters, the over four, hundred, twenty, five thousand square foot, wooded park. That's around Sevilla, provided an idyllic and isolated setting for the count, his wife and his young daughter to enjoy nature, but the house seemed to be ill fated from the start the architect Andrew, Sealy died in the middle of the construction process and legend. Has It that in eighteen sixty to the counter arrived at Villa Vecchi to a gruesome discovery, but would change his home forever. They leach a raised his rifle and shot into the sky. A small bird squawked before falling to the least strewn forest floor. Philly chase smiled. He loved the way that shooting made him feel powerful ready to bend the world to his will. It was strange, but in these moments he was able to finally forget the report of enemy gunfire echoes of being outgunned by the Austrians has defended the barricades Milan. Perhaps it was because he could control the violence in these woods. He let the HUSHOVD forest. Take him quieting the memories. They leach a pulled out a handkerchief from his pocket, and wiped the sweat from his brow, but dense trees provided plenty of protection from the overbearing son, but the heat still got through. Over toward his trophy, not sure it merited collection. It might have been better to let. The insects feast on the corpse then to string it up. It was too small for a trophy, and he had no need to hunt for food. The small bluebird twitch to the dirt. Its wings fluttering helplessly as it tried to lift itself off the ground. They leach admired the bird spirit. It couldn't accept defeat. But flies were already starting to buzz toward it clustering at the gunshot wound, the bird flapped its wings faster panic in its is. Allowed squawk echoed through the trees. They Leach raised his rifle again, appearing on the sites. The Sky was relatively empty. He lowered his case to the forest catching. What at first seemed like Dapple of sunlight on would. His first impression plus mistaken. It was A. Resting undergrowth a real prize within his reach, he thanked whatever creature had made the noise. He sucked in a breath and pulled the trigger. But somewhere between his breath and the impact. The fawn turned into his twelve year old daughter Bay at Treat J.. The shell blew her chest. Your Mouth Open in a silent scream. Confusion Martyr, Brow. She stepped backward branches, breaking under her feet, as a wet red flower bloomed on her white dress. In. The next second, she was on the ground. They leach a took off running. He stumbled over debris and a few stray animal carcasses desperate to reach his daughter. She was gasping of the Crown Jesse pulled her into his arms. Her lip trembled. Strained force breath through drowning lawns. Lee J tightly to him. He cried muttering a series of apologies to her. She went rigid in his arms. When he looked down. He was grasping the corpse. Of Fun. He loosened his grip on the animal, and stood slowly. They Leach a stared at the corpse for, but felt like eternity, wondering if his is or his mind had failed him. He told himself he was only homesick be. was at the villa with her mother. He had not done the unthinkable. To shake into carry the bloody fond back with him. feely picked pictures. Way Back through the woods. The villa's stood at the distance next to a field of lush green. He came in through the back and call tree chase name. The heat had gotten to him sure, but he needed to make sure that his child was still alright. Is Heels clapped wildly tile as he roamed from room to room. He called for her again and again, telling your, he did not want to play a game at this moment. But she would not answer him. Fairly Jay could not keep the terror promo voice as he commanded her, calmed down and greet him. Still. He heard nothing as he passed through the kitchen. He noticed that preparations for launch had been abandoned. A ball of pasta dough sat on the Marble countertop, waiting to be rolled and cut. He poked his head into the adjoining room where the Butler should have been making preparations for his afternoon drink. The bottle was out in uncorked, but the Butler was missing Philly ran through the first floor of the villa, calling for a someone anyone to answer him. The only sound he could hear was a mouse skittering along the tile floor. Panic growing in his chest, fairly cheap raced for the staircase. He took the stairs two at a time as he continued to shout for someone to answer him. Each guest room was empty. Believe Che opened the door to his own bedroom. His wife Sophia laid curled up in the sheets dead to the world, peaceful and Gorgeous Inter slumber he lingered in the doorway, hoping that her serene smile would bring him back to reality. He could not blame her for not answering his calls when she looked so at ease. He approached slowly whispering her name. She did not move. A knelt down next to the bed and took her. Up closer skin was Paler than he remembered. Parts of her cheek were almost a soft blue. She needed more son. He could fix that. He brushed his hand against her cheek, lifting a stray piece of hair away from her face.
How to Feel Your Pandemic Feels
"Basically been living in the upside down where one global pandemic and to home is where the everything is allegedly essential jobs gyms daycare centers doctors offices. Your neighborhood B. Y. O. Beaver like they've all moved home. Yeah covert has really put a fresh spin on the idea of having it all kristen which is why. We're starting this season of unladylike with one of the most loaded questions you can ask someone these days. How are you doing? Yeah I mean I think we can all agree with the unladylike listener at the top of the show that it is not ideal. This is a super emotional. Time for folks on so many levels and a lot of us are experiencing just different shades of grief over lost loved ones lost jobs or simply just like a loss baseline peace of mind and kristen as of this recording. You and I haven't had close friends or family members who've gotten sick from Cova but the pandemic has definitely changed our plans for twenty twenty like by this time we would have already been back from an East Coast tour where we were supposed to meet one of our favorite humans face to face for the very first time. Yeah our first tour stop was going to be in. Chicago home to Tyler. Fetter the amazing artists who illustrated are unladylike book and we decided that we still needed to call up tyler anyway for this episode to find out how she's doing so tyler just published a book of her own and it honestly couldn't come at a better time for those grappling with a lot of loss right now dancing. The pity party is a graphic memoir. Which is like a graphic novel. But it's a true story. It's not like a regular memoir with a lot of graphic injury in. It feels weird every time I say Anyway it's about my mom dying of cancer when I was nineteen and it's like the whole Enchilada from Lake. She first felt symptoms diagnosis than when she died on the funeral. And everything and then learning to like be an adult without a living on and it's not one hundred percent sad. A lot of it is sad. But it's not only it's not like the no folk or something. This unladylike episode isn't one hundred percent sad. Ever Tyler says that creating dancing at the pity party was essential for her processing her. Mom's death and also being able to make art through that and we think that hearing from someone who's really been through it and come out the other side of grief can hopefully offer some perspective and comfort listeners. Right now and speaking of listeners. Kristen after we hear from Tyler we're going to hear from an ladies who've left us voice memos and called in to share. How cove is impacting. Their day to day lives. Then we're closing it out with a much-needed zoom trip to our favorite unladylike therapist Dr Joy Harden Bradford Christian one of the things I love the most about tyler is her way of embracing the absurdity and awkwardness in the awful. Like the time she and her two sisters had to make a very weird trip to the mall. We went shopping for like funeral. Close at Forever. Twenty one and it was like blasting like club music there and a cashier said to me in sister. Or are you looking for anything special? And we're like no that's just like keep going through all the colorful clothes trying to find anything. That was all black flash forward to this spring when tyler was supposed to be out and about for her dancing at the pity party book tour. And let's just say she hasn't needed to shop for any new outfits this time around. What is it been like to have your book come out during a pandemic? I mean not at all what. I was expecting this book. But it's kind of been nice. I mean it's such a personal story and it's about a time of like illness and death which is what's happening in the world right now so I don't know the fact that everyone is like stuck at home which is sort of the way I am even not when it's a pandemic feels like almost appropriate. It's like I don't know if it were like an adventure or something like an action book. Maybe it would be different. But it's this like emotional. Like family thing in everyone is emotional and stuck with their families. So a lot of people are experiencing grief right now. You know whether that's because family member passed or like just because life is so upside down but grief is never just like one thing and it's not static so I'm curious like how has grief evolved for you and what have you learned about it. Especially now that you've written a whole book about your mom. I think grief is something. That's really personal. And it's really different for every person who goes through it and it's something where you can't really predict how it's going to affect you so like when my mom I died. My Dad was just crying and public all the try and was kind of embarrassing the and but now I'm like you know what like it's fine. People can deal with seeing someone showing motion and like that's what he needed a now. He's doing way better and with me. I like got really sentimental in capped a ton of my mom's staff and I found myself being angry a lot at lake people who had complained about their moms where it's like. Oh my mom calls me too much. I just WANNA like punch face and I would never say any of that. I just feel like Oh yeah. That sucks but yeah. It's just everyone's different and it's still very much a part of my life. That's like another thing I've learned. It's not GonNa go away and I'm okay with that I mean so it's been eleven years now since my mom died and most of the time. I'm totally fine. It's just like something I know about myself is that I have a dad. Muhammad's like a quality of who I am but sometimes I'll just like have a whole like breakdown from like watching a movie or something really small and it's just like something I have to deal with just like any other part of my mental health has the like the current environment. The way things are like has this moment stirred up any additional emotions for you around the book or like around grief. I'm like not a particularly like touchy feely physically kind of person but I have just been wanting hugs so badly during the pandemic and I live by myself with a cat who does not like hugs but he has to deal with that. Because I'm going to give them anyway. But there is there's something relatable about the uncertainty and all of this and that was something that was really hard about my mom. Being sick is that we were sort of like itching for any kind of like positive like theories or possibilities that we could find so it sort of feels like. That's what we're doing now. It's like Oh could serve pandemic end by fall like. Are we going to be able to do Halloween? Like normal and that is like kind of how it was with my mom. I I used to think like a. Will she be able to see me graduate from College? Like do you think what's going to happen. And that uncertainty is really hard to sit with and I think we all have to do it now which is tough. What is your advice to listeners? Who want to support friends or loved ones who are experiencing grief but might not know the best way to express it and we don't want to be awkward and we don't want to bring it up because we make things uncomfortable but we also want people to know that we care. What as as someone who has gone through it. What's your advice for for folks? Who want help from the outside. I think something that's always nice is bringing up the person's parent or whatever loved one in a way that's like unrelated to their death or like if your friend mentions they're like dad or whoever to ask questions and be like. Oh Yeah what was he like? Or whatever because it's it's such like bomb to get to just talk about her when I'm sad talk about not sad stuff. I also found one of my cousins said to me after my mom died. Like I can't imagine what you're going through. And that was like my favorite thing that I knew on had said 'cause like he couldn't imagine it and he was like acknowledging that and it just made it easier to talk to him about it just like it really like validated. How I was
Why Are You a Leader?
"I think it's safe to say that. Today we live in a leadership. Culture leadership is glorified revered encouraged and admired so much so that the people we work with work for and even the person in the mirror can pursue and chase leadership without ever answering the most important question for the Ramsey network. This is the entree leadership podcast where we help. Business leaders themselves their teams and their profits. I'm your host Alex Judd. And today we're talking with our friend. Patrick Lynch Yoni he's the best selling author of the advantage. The five dysfunctions of a team the ideal team player and his newest one. It's a good one. It's called the motive and at the centerpiece of this story and all the principles that it teaches is a core question that every leader probably should've asked themselves along time ago. Why do I actually want to lead because if our answered? That question isn't clear and right. Well we're going to avoid all the activities that actually make up a leadership and folks that that's a problem. The problem is this if leaders don't do these things if they delegate them which is really or abdicate them because you can't delegate these things if they don't do these difficult things then no one else is going to and it's GonNa leave a huge vacuum and this is true in many many organizations and nobody else is going to do that. And real human suffering occurs both in terms of the morale and sense of belonging of the people in the organization and then customers feel it and then the financial performance gets hit two or the mission so this is not just like a nice to thing these are things that only the CEO can do now. This is not a comprehensive list of the CEO's job the five things we're GonNa talk about are the five common things that are really difficult and not very comfortable or it can be tedious that many leaders who are leading for the wrong reason. They just don't do them because they don't want to. Do you see these things. That people are avoiding. Do you see people avoiding them. At every level of the ORG chart in different industries different stages of business does it kind of transcend all of those categories. Yes yes and yes. It does the thing though. That's very interesting is the higher you go up in an organization. The more likely somebody is to do this. And at the purest level we see people that spend their whole lives doing these things because that's how they rise up the ladder and then they get to the top job and they know finally. I don't have to do those things anymore. And that's crazy. But but whether you're a pastor whether you're running a small entrepreneurial venture a school a Department within a company a multibillion dollar industry or a family business if you're the leader of that organization and you're not doing these things problems are going to occur and you really have to ask yourself. Do I really want to be the leader because if I do that? I'm going to do these things and if I don't then I probably shouldn't be in this role okay. So let's jump in number one was really investing your time and energy as a leader to developing and building the team. Explain to us from Your Perspective. What that actually means what. That actually looks like yet. That means taking an active role in helping your people work together. Well on the team you lied so if you have a small business it's probably everybody if it was like seven or eight of you but if you're if you're in a company of twenty five or fifty ord two thousand you have a leadership team. One of your primary job is to make that team behaviorally cohesive. And you don't do that by delegating it to someone in hr or even by bringing in an outside consultant. They can help you but your job is to lead that effort to be actively involved in it. Okay and so you're saying this is something. They are avoiding team. Building is kind of the claim that you're making way. It's a great question because I was just thinking about this. Very few CEOS today will actually say that stupid even if they believe it it's become politically or organizationally. Correct to do team building. But what they'll do is they'll bring somebody in for some touchy feely experiential. Offsite trust falls right. Yeah or they'll do something that they're not really that engaged in and that it just doesn't work the truth of the matter is if you have a leadership off site or if you do team building you are the leader of that team and if you have somebody helping you do that. People have to see that this is the CEO and his or her team is of primary importance. Tim and if we're not working together getting along being honest having conflict trusting each other than this is a problem and so many CEOS who say they care about it still delegate it give lip service and essentially abdicate responsibility for it happening so I was talking to someone the other day and it was as I was reading your book I was talking to someone and as a coach asked them the question? Okay are you playing a role in developing and building your team and they said we go to this conference every year and that was their answer. How do you respond to that? Yeah that's that's not it? That's great question is You go to the conference and everybody learns and then it's like so now. What are you as the leader? GonNa do to demand that people apply the principles of teamwork so that they run the organization the best possible way and mostly years ago. We went to the conference. If they're not doing it now I mean what can I do? And it's like no no. That's just informing the process that you need to lead. You make pretty bold claim that this is something that can't be delegated to a head of HR someone else. Why is it important that the leader be the person that is directly responsible directly involved in building the team because at the end of the day if people know that this is not important and of primary importance to leader? They're not GONNA do it. I mean the truth is I don't like overly hierarchical organizations but I love hierarchy and I love leadership and if Dave Ramsey is not paying attention to the things that are important in his organization people are going to pay attention to what he's looking at and so if I'm a leader and I'm saying I really care about the way you treat one another. I really care that. You're pursuing truth. Arguing and working together and if I don't see the leaders doing that I'm not going to pay attention to that. I don't care if you have the world's greatest. Hr PERSON OR TEAM BUILDER. And if they do it. It's not the same as if the leader does I mean. I can't bring in another person to teach my kids about what's important in my family. Even though I can bring in other books and I can point them to other things and I can invite others in if they say dad. You really don't care about that stuff to you. I mean it's a silly fight. Tell my kids not to do drugs. And and they get the best people to tell them that and they go but that does drugs. I what's GonNa matter more what you're saying rings true to that the principle that everything communicates what Dave Ramsey cares about as owner of our organization. I learn as a team member to care about so I guess my next question would be. We said it's not the touchy feeling team building. It's not just the trust falls and things like what does this look like in action when a CEO actually owns their role as team builder. What are the things you recommend they do? Or the actions you recommend. They take well what they have to do. And I write about this in both the five dysfunctions of a team and the ideal team player. But really it's like this. I leader. I'M GONNA be vulnerable and I'm going to demand that you guys vulnerable to is the leader. I'm going to disagree when I disagree about anything that matters. I'M GONNA demand that you do. That too is the leader. I'm going to force us at the end of conversations after we've been vulnerable engaged in conflict. I'm going to force you to commit to a decision so when we walk out of the room. There's nothing to say. There's no hallway conversations or parking lot conversations. I as the leader. I'm going hold you accountable so that you will in turn. Hold One. Another and me accountable. And I as the leader will focus on the collective good of the team and not pick the parts of the organization that I'm most interested in but realized that we're trying to drive the whole company and I am going to take an active interest in making sure you're doing that. Nobody else can do that but me. If I'M GONNA Spend Time Energy Angst and emotional vulnerability making sure this happens. Because if I don't do it they're not going to pay attention.
New opportunity to boost Indonesia-Australia economic ties - The Jakarta Post
"Few international problems in the post world war. Two era have proved difficult for our nation as development of friendly policy towards indonesia. Just think about it. Jakarta's annexation of west papua in nine hundred sixty to the attempted coup d'etat and successful counter-coup by the indonesian army that was nineteen sixty five the invasion of as. Taymor seventy five. The dili massacre ninety. One the east team or mission in ninety nine. And who can forget the controversies over terror. Attacks live cadillacs bullpens successive wives of boatpeople this spying revelations and drug trade and of course those executions so has president jarkko daito or jacuzzi or jacoby as he's known has. His visit marked a new era in australia. Indonesia relations this week to cowie was only the second indonesian leader to address a joint sitting of parliament and he came to camera bearing a gift. He's approval of the trade deal between our two countries. Greg feely is associate professor of indonesian politics at the australian national university's college of asia and the pacific and diming kingsbury is professor international politics at deakin university in melbourne. greg damian. Welcome back to our in. Thank you now damien. Does that you kelly visit this week. Does that maka a dramatic breakthrough in australia. Indonesia relations look it's a really positive sign and it does mock an improvement in relations but i don think in itself comprises an entirely new relationship. It's just a step in the right direction. Okay so the the relationship still presumably dogged by bitterness and suspicion but it was obvious support and even warmth towards education from both sides of politics gregg fairly. Yes that's right i think The y.`all would characterize it is the jacobi visa was building on the breakthrough which is the comprehensive economic partnership agreement. That was signed early last year. And what saw with dakota's visa was. He's personal preparedness and preparedness. He's government to really put its white behind the agreement. I think a lot of people think the agreement in pie terms is very good but the question is canopy implemented properly. Can the red type be cleared away in indonesia. Can we persuade australian businesses to invest more Generously in indonesia and i think the jacoby visa guy very positive signs for that still a lot of things to done for that The potential of that agreement to be realized but it was really good. Move in that direction. Again it's been said that. The many lingering suspicions profile in jakarta indonesians still resent l leading role insecure in a team os independence because it was more than twenty years ago. Yes i think One of the ironies here he said indonesia now has very good relations with east t- more and he's teamer leaders Fighted in fact when i go to jakarta and the strata is still has this legacy of suspicion towards indonesia. I think you have to back. Partly in history this great saints vulnerability that Many asians feel that logic countries or large countries around them at trying to split up their country to conduct. Bulkin is it and the ace taymor. Even though he's team always not part of the original borders of the dutch colony. Die still feel that as team will confirmed that Other countries have these designs upon the country and upon its unity and after his team. More focusing shifted to papa. This strategy may still want to divide papua dining. You've written a lot about west papua and at the heart of the standoff in two thousand and six paul showed that something like seventy five percent of australian supported independence for the former dutch colony. This why the indonesians are uneasy about estrada's position. He certainly one of the issues in the makeup of mistrust and complexity in the relationship There's there's been longstanding depths in jakarta's to either strang government doesn't do more to acquire pro-separatist Sentiment in australia. They believe the particularly the ngo sector has played a role in stirring up separatist sentiment in west. Papua and there is Continuing concern that australia has too much of a focus particularly on eastern indonesia which is also the poorest part of the country. Well how then do we bridge. These divides greg. I mean to. What extent is this new free. Try deal. This is the so-called indonesia australia comprehensive economic partnership agreement. Ten years in the making to what extent does that he'll these divisions. I don't know that it heals the divisions poseidon. I think many of the the list of things you you sit out at the beginning of the interview. I think we have always had the potential. I knew things like that to occur but one of the consistently underperforming parts of the bilateral relationship has been the economic ties and so this comprehensive agreement will hopefully see much more economic activity between the two countries and that in itself might provide some kind of deepest ability but if the economic relationship expand by site thirty to forty percents in the next few years diamond. Wouldn't the free try deal really mocking important development for the relationship a look. There's no question that it's an important step in in in strengthening relationship. This guy is back to what gareth evans was talking about in the nineteen eighties. Where he said we needed to add ballast to the relationship unbalanced. He meant if we can get a strong economic relationship between australia and indonesia implies than the rest of it will follow behind because there will be a an upfront primary interest in preserving the economic relationship. And that's always been a difficulty. In the relations destroy and strength companies have invested in indonesia but not to a great extent. The head found difficulties. There this free trade agreement certainly opens up more opportunity for investments and tried but again and again as greg has alluded to. I think the question will be. How much strategies is to take out this opportunity and whether or not they say the the problems of doing business in indonesia over combat is free trade agreement whether or not there's going to be impediments to a greater degree of engagement. My guests greg. Feely from new in camera and damien. Kingsbury from deacon in melvin. And here's a little fun fact. This is according to the australian this week. It was chris. Bowen the library from benca podcast on iran and between the lines. It was chris bowen in his shirt who walked away the most chuffed with these brave. Jacoby interaction we he. The president complimented bowen's flawless fluency in indonesian. Little known fact chris. Bowen speaks indonesian now. A few years ago china's president she addressed indonesia's legislature to great fanfare. So the fees guy. Now what's the nature of the relationship now between jakarta and beijing greg. There's a lot of similarities between indonesia's relations with china and distributors Janis niger economic partner for indonesia. It's also niger investor in the country indonesia's increasing the Pot of china's belt and road initiative. So it's getting a lot of development money. These increasing penetration of lodge chinese corporations building infrastructure for example hospitalized row link between the capital jakarta and the regional capital abandon So there's a. There's a lot of economic activity happening and president. She has very good personal relationship with prisoner jacoby but they're also tensions. One of the tensions is chinese fishing boat incursions into indonesian territorial waters In near the south china sea in the name of the island of tuna and that causes a lot of angst in indonesia sometimes confrontation between Nio vessels of both countries. Another problem is a fairly high level of underwent lying suspicion towards the chinese in indonesia so this often bubbles politically to the surface in indonesia and people say that indonesia is at risk of losing some sovereignty to the chinese and so this is always a break for a leader. Such as jacoby who badly needs chinese investment and the development expertise if he saying as Ext doing that excessively will then he will be attacked for that. Well could chana's rise than i mean. It's obviously threatening. The integrity of sovereign states around the region diamond could could china's roz helped draw camera and jakarta even closer. Yes look there's been a discussion now going back several years in canberra about a closest security relationship within the news yet it seems to be a natural hartman in the region Geography i think determines that to a large extent but our strategic interests similar in relation to china about countries want to have a strong economic relationship with china We want to have china's investments and tried to sell into china but we also want to limit china's expansion in the region strategic rich particularly in the south china sea and In relation to them turner islands which is at the southwest of the south china saying there is neither lapping climbed by china and indonesia. And that's what to the tensions of mid january this year. What we're seeing though is. Indonesia is welcoming china roman hand but in terms of economic growth and development but in terms of china's growing strategic runyon ambition. There's a great deal of skepticism. I think in indonesia as the reason chinandega familiar story. Now let's turn finally gentlemen to indonesia internally. Let's get your reaction to something. The indonesian journalist. Julia sirak osama. This is what she told my. Rn colleague andrew west. This week joey. His record on democracy and human rights has declined and in fact now many activists think that not just activists observers think that democracy indonesia has lowest point in twenty years. It is ironic since when we had the reform era after suharto stepped down. That was supposed to be the beginning of democratization in indonesia but that has opened up a pandora's box and released all the traditional religious conservatives and mainly religious groups has sacrificed human rights. And what he says in a book phobia and intolerance for the sake. Offline call stability. Indonesian journalist julia sura kasama on iran's religion and ethics program. This week diming kingsbury. Look i think that Jacoby has moved in a couple of areas which have raised eyebrows. About his commitment to a plurality and human rights particular around the issues of religion and religious tolerance and so on. But broadly. I think jacoby is an inheritor of the reform tradition particularly that started by cecilia among indiana and that he really is deepening and embedding democratic practice. If we some limitations around the edges. Yeah well greg failure. I mean it's often argued that indonesia the fourth because nation in the world. We tend to forget that. It represents a persistent triumph of democracy this the nation journalists big for a lot of activists when she says that the indonesian ideal of tolerance really has been destroyed. So i think it's probably i'll i think she's somewhat. This is always a matter of the bites. Don't mean any disrespect to julius Sort of kasuma but Under jacoby in fact. Religious tolerance has somewhat improved on democracy. Some of the things that jacoby has initiated have really harmed the quality of democracy and there are several things that are being discussed by. he's government wrought now and by the parliament which if implemented could be a considerable reversal. He wouldn't stop indonesia being a democracy. But it would reduce the quality of the democracy greg damian and important discussion. Thanks so much again for being on our end
The Dark Side of Being a Millionaire! (The Truth About Being Wealthy)
"I think is so fun about the show? Brian is all the time we talk about. Happy uplifting positive generally optimistic people I think so. We always try to have a positive thing that we're sharing with our audience but this is a little bit different because we wanted to kind of talk about you know things are always rainbows and UNICORNS. Sometimes even there is a dark side to good things. That's that's kind of what we wanted to share in today's episode. It was one of those things because I know a lot of everybody. We have an entire society that is built upon. Get here do do this. When do this in your twenties? Then we'll look. We have our own series. We love our network by series. And it's supposed to give you the tools and techniques and things so you know what to focus on win but I do feel like there's also while we're giving these tools and sets and things that you should be looking at and focusing on there's industries out there that are trying to say say hey in your twenties live this way and look I told everybody pre show. I just came back from Las Vegas. I was shocked at how many watched shops ops luxury handbags belts and it hit me. I was like this is the game if br thirty two year old bronner thirty-three O'Brien wanted rolexes Alexis Brightlingsea tags now forty late forties Brian. This is like he's about as I was mad. That bring the charger to my my apple. Watch I mean because I just I think the steps recorded so it's just funny how there is a whole system out there in society pushing you on what you should try to be accomplishing how you should spend your money. We you want to help you avoid the dark path of void the pitfalls. And make sure that you're having a healthy relationship with money. I want to create a win win win win and what I mean by that is is that I want your friends and family to be happy with how you are with your relationship with money I want you you to be fulfilled with your relationship with money and then I want your community community benefit. Because you're making things better all around you so this can be a win win win situation. So let's jump into this because we broke this into all the different segments that you need to be mindful and then we put money got tips to make sure you navigate eight this well so the first one is money can ruin your relationships. I think this is one. This poll people. What's one of the downsides has to monitor the downside as well? I feel like most folks would come up with this one pretty quick because you kind of see horror stories of this and the news and with celebrities famous folks. It's no surprise that whenever there's money honey evolved and certainly whenever. There's a little bit of money or a lot of money. Things can get tenuous and stressful. We focused on. You know thinking about this. We're in show no prep. Yep We focused on significant others. You know relationships between couples but I will tell you one of the saddest things that I experienced as a financial planner is the residual zigic effective when families fight over money too. So it is. This is not just for couples. Money can mess up all types of relationships and we had a pretty shocking stat. That kind of kick this off. It was thirty. Five percent named finances is a is the primary troublespot with their partner. And I think that was one of the largest and and this was data from From a suntrust study I think that finances was one of the single largest cause of stress in a marriage relationship relationship or a spousal relationship and I thought it was because that one I made them put the word research because it looked like that was this Lod brought to you by Suntrust Bank. You know we which which kind of scared me? But it was a research study they had but then the Federal Reserve Board actually hit because the government is compiling data at all times. I thought this was interesting. Mismatches ashes. Between couples credit scores can be the biggest indicator one of the bigger indicators. That your your marriage or your relationship is headed for a tough spot easily within the first five years now that one I always found that really interests when we're talking about that because that's not something I immediately think of whenever I'm talking to like have friends getting married talking to clients. We're thinking about getting married. I never really asked him the question. Hey have have you done a comparison of your credit scores. This is not something but it is interesting. If you think about behavior Laden it probably ably does tell you a lot about the behaviors and actions of the person that you're gonNA join this long term commitment reason your insurance company basis a lot lot off of your credit score so it is one of the things that I thought was interesting when when I was doing data research for the show divorce but we talk about all the time. That the quickest way to lose half of your net worth is go get divorced but there's actually now this is this has got a little edge to it because this is from the mid to thousands around December of two thousand five there was a study from marriage and divorces impact on wealth. This doesn't say fifty percent. What did it say? The actual wealth impact says the average wealth trump is actually seventy seven percent as a result of divorce. So attorneys must be expensive record. Not only pay. which have left is just not a a wonderful wonderful endeavor? If you're thinking about wealth building this is the exact opposite of that so you just WanNa make sure that as you build resources wealth you understand how it can affect relationships. So let's talk about how you can ensure these. The money got tips to get you through all these issues. The first one is I want you to control and focus your inner voice now. Look you're like what the heck is he talking about. We all do it. You're not a Weirdo that you have something that goes on. You're constantly talking to yourself itself. At least I hope you are. That are either. You're the only one on hoping that most of you guys talk to yourself a lot more than you even probably we realize that we talk about the invisible hand of success mall the time on shows that you gotta wake up that invisible hand to get you from destination A.. Hey to be embiid is where you want to be in literally. So it's one of those things that that inner voice is so much more powerful at works with money at works with your success in your career. It definitely works in relationship so you have to focus on what that inner voice to say. One of the greatest piece of advice is one of the greatest pieces of advice vice. You ever gave me a brown. You gave this to me when I first got married and I was talking to you about because when you get married it's just unique figuring out how to live and work with someone else and you said here's what's really interesting about inner voice. We are our inner voice. All has a predisposition it's either inherently negative or inherently positive and. Sometimes you don't get to control where it starts which you do get to controls where it finishes and you can actually control troll. What the inner voice in your head saying I think when you refrained me to realize that it was a game changer that I could actually control what that voice was saying? Those those voices that you're whispering into your own head are more powerful than you realize so. Give them credit give them respect make it positive number two. You've got to find balance. I I know whenever I see the word balance when somebody especially because it makes me think of everybody's saying work life balance you know it's so touchy feely. And it's not really because I'm an analytical thinker on things but it really is embo. You said this don't prioritize career advancement for yourself over relationship building. What did you mean by that? A lot of folks they will go try to conquer the next mountain. Try to conquer the next. He'll try to go achieve success. Go do the next thing. Not Realizing the collateral damage that relationships whether it's significant others family children. Whoever it may be that they're leaving in the wakes he just had to be careful that getting the top of the mountain doesn't force you to sacrifice all the people that are along the journey with
Real Effects of Paying it Forward
"According to research paying it forward isn't just touchy feely Gimmick. And it's also not that tear jerker movies starring Hayley. Joe Osmond Right. No paying it forward is a real thing with real effects and can make your workplace and the world a better place to be. Here's the scoop. Researchers from UC UC Riverside assigned employees at coca-cola's Madrid Office to be either givers or receivers givers practice five acts of kindness for a personalized list of receivers over a four week period. Importantly the givers got to choose. What kind of kind actions they performed that. They want to leave encouraging sticky sticky notes on friends. Desk bring their neighbor a coffee compliments. Someone's new coat. It was up to them. In the meantime they periodically checked in with the researchers about their happiness. Venus life satisfaction job satisfaction mood and experience of positive and negative behaviors. The acts of kindness impacted office life in a big way over. The course of the study receivers noticed more acts of kindness around the office and felt more in control of their workdays. They also reported feeling happier. And the givers felt the benefits to the felt more satisfied with life and with their jobs and they also experienced fewer symptoms of depression. They even felt more competence and confidence confidence in their work. But here's the kicker not only do these acts improve the wellbeing of both groups in the short and long term but receivers were nearly three Times as likely to pay it forward or perform their own act of kindness after an interaction with their giver. This goes to show that when you're kind to someone everyone can benefit benefit so go ahead and send some goodness out into the world. You never know where it might end up.
"feely" Discussed on ESPN Chicago 1000 - WMVP
"To Danny and Chris yesterday look I get it I understand the tickets are expensive and people want to be able to go down to Bourbon a were it's free and it's touchy feely and they get a chance to be with their kids in the players and it's this cool thing in the end man win the Superbowl and no one's going to complain right one more yeah obviously but I get most things are tied together and if you could convince me that they are tied together then find great I don't think that you can say okay move training camp actually for us so suddenly there ought to go from a hundred to one to win next year's Superbowl the sixty to one are not related so what if you finish seven to nine again and you've also not have these experiences with fans you know it it is what it is I mean obviously everyone's dream vision is for the organization to take steps forward and and won a Superbowl they don't do that very often they don't compete for very often so I don't know if that discussion you can really make sense in in my mind the way that it goes down yeah we'll see where this thing has and it's just gonna be a different summer in two thousand twenty than we're used to again for monthly prospect it is gonna have to find a way to to create that you send that energy that that sometimes you got from walking out the practice net people screaming at you and and want to get your autograph and and is there I mean you've been down there after you understand the the sort of life that that that creates in the day when I just got a created in different way and try to get your work done and try to get your starting quarterback to play at a better level than he did in two thousand nineteen did you what will they have available if they make some moves what will they have available in cap space if they were to move on from Leonard Floyd animal camara and Ben brought Acker and perhaps Charles one it's a three million dollar cap savings with him approximately they can get this thing in the mid to high thirty million dollar range do you think they'll go that far to try and get themselves another quarterback and be able to address some other things like offense of line I think they do a good job as we've seen over time of remaining flexible and understanding where some of the ability and adaptability and wiggle room is when they want something right and then then you can go out and get it look it wasn't easy to find Khalil Mack to the richest deal for defensive player in NFL history but they have put themselves in a position to be able to do that when that opportunity came to their doorstep and so yeah you you can you can finagle some things and and it's all moving parts at the giant puzzle that that Ryan case and that make you have to put together to figure out what the resources are and what their biggest needs are and how it all matches up and that's the fun for them of these next few months of January February March is trying to put together you know this is what totally looks like okay if that doesn't work out here also be looks like they're going to be a player for the guys you want to be a player for and now it's just a matter of making sure that when you go out and find a trademark move that in two seasons you get production out of them that's commensurate with what you paid and so it is it's more to me about making the right decisions and how much of it you have available and and what you're able to do they're gonna have enough to do what they want you just have to make sure that the decision you make actually pay dividends you know a year or two up the work well I'm excited to see where they go in free agency and I'm even more excited to see what they do in this draft I saw mock draft this morning it again to very early they don't I mean a lot but they said that the bears had great interesting Jake from not sure I would spend my first second round pick on Jake from I'd rather address offense of line and tight end but we'll see January mock drafts are worth less than the fact that you're wearing right now I'll just tell you that right now so kicked out for what it's worth a man have a great rest of your day okay I felt the get the get fan we Chicago Tribune three one two three three two three seven seven six is our phone number Chris you watch a lot of college football are you a Jake from guy I'm not the biggest Jake from guy no I mean but listen it's not a question on who's the best quarterback you know in the draft I mean he may be the only available option so then you have to make the assessment check from at where he's at now can you develop him into a starting quarterback that might be worth it for the bears it would I take check from over to its own by law or Justin Herbert or hero now right now I wouldn't because he was disappointing at Georgia because the offense really struggled at points this season the defense lead that team and in big games it seemed as if Jake from was the reason why that team didn't win yeah I'm not a huge Jake from him he's okay whatever find out a little breaking NFL news bring it on from several reports an arrest warrant has been issued for former LSU star and current Browns wide receiver Odell Beckham junior who is video hitting a police officer on the backside after the Tigers won the national championship over Clemson there's video out there I just tweeted IT Ross Dillinger is the first reported works for SI this is really interesting Odell Beckham junior got a lot of problems off the field wow so the did he do it maliciously yeah he did it maliciously not listen he's just hitting him on the backside it's not like he's punching the police officer you should never touch anybody I'm not condoning it but he did give them a slap on the backside and now there's been an arrest warrant issued for Odell Beckham junior he's being charged with simple battery but when you say hit him on the back side is it I tweeted take a look at the video you should talk about it I will it break I will interesting well there you go that's that guy's got more issues it's like always something with him other than football I want to play with a designer watch on I want to do this so I want to do that now I've got this with the police officer I was handing out money Dallas you players after the game and all the NCAA and is involved because yeah obviously as a booster because you're an alarm you can't hand money the college athletes on the field he's an eightieth St good wildly talented player will get me wrong the guy's a clown I loved him giving them money here's a guy with tons of it these guys just played football for free won the national championship here's a few Hyundai does can't do it Danny eggs got to be smarter than that well of course he did it because he wanted to be seen doing it he knew the cameras were around I know you can't do it but I think people are a little bit over reacting to that but it's always something with him do I got to wear my watch I got to wear shoes that they don't want me to it's always something other than football name me a team he's been on that wins this he wins boys only been on two teams the giants in the Browns no he does not win that mold twenty great he's great you can't tell me that he would be a great addition up north him on one side and al Robinson on the other you're telling me that with those weapons Mitch couldn't succeed he's a great talent I have a lot of wide receivers are head cases I think we know that everyone except Tom Waddell I would have to know exactly what this guy is like in the room as he at awful guy you never hear teammates complaining about him you'll never hear teammates complaining about or it will sink let's grab a quick time out three one two three three two three seven seven six David Ross weighs in on Kris Bryant knacks your listening cabin company S. one thousand our school Carmen in your co host would Belcher get mine it was taken away by Robert Kraft the owner should decide if they had a you should talk to him while he was getting yes exactly if you get in a very vulnerable time you say bill keep quiet I got a card straight something podcast wherever you get your harmony ESPN one thousand I got a card street Chicago sold for sports it's two thousand and twenty and our commitment to the United States military will remain stronger than ever we'll be Rockin in the desert to show respect and again we have made the commitment.
Is Astrology a Science? An Art? A Form of Therapy? A Scam?
"Our story today starts with a debate it. You might be familiar with Bill Nye the science guy yet show on TV on in the nineties yet PBS. Yes And this is his new show. Twenty seventeen on net flicks. It's called Bill. nye saves the world. Now Sam you're stronger. That's right so bill nye on on this episode episode single panel and here he speaking with astrologer Samuel Reynolds about the validity of astrology. I don't believe any of it. Yes I do know that and you know why Tommy enlightened me well it just never has anything to do with anything and you're telling me there's only twelve types of people and what about those penalties part of an episode of the show called Malarkey and throughout the episode The thing to know is that bill. nighy framed astrology repeatedly as a pseudoscience. Basically saying it's aw crap none of it's true what matters so. He has Samuel Reynolds. But what's your deal you you you don't believe it either. I use astrology. Yeah I think astrology is like a language when you say for instance a pseudoscience right I would have to. I believe it's a science. I don't believe astrology is a science what is it. It's an interpretive operative art. I think that Bill Nye kind of expected to mic. Drop this moment by being like it's not a science don't claim it's one. You're you're falsely claiming this and Sam Reynolds is just like well. I actually don't don't claim it's a science right so sure. Do you provide for people with your art. I use the cultural imagination that we know as astrology to talk to them about how their idea give themselves based on their chart birth chart syncs up with their life experience basically using biography. As little as you get them to tell you stuff about now the reinforce it with these asteroids things in the background no it's yeah he he's not doing a great job of listening. But can I ask you something. Think we're what's your sign. I'm an Aquarius which I knew at the drop ahead exactly easily. You know that off the top of your head and so do I.. Macabre corn But this is not surprising right like I think at least in our corner of the United States you would be pretty hard pressed to find a person who doesn't know their sign. Yeah I bet you my dad knows was his and does he believe in astrology. No and have you ever engaged in astrology too much beyond reading your horoscope in a magazine. So I'll just note really quick here that We just heard astrology frame. Doesn't art not a science but there are astrologers that the do think of astrology as a science and therefore it could be vulnerable to this criticism. Awesome that it is a pseudoscience but it was going to say I don't care I don't care I am not interested in proving or disproving astrology on on technical grounds if we can put on the science part for a second what else could it be possible to understand to me. The most interesting part of the Bill Nye show is this next exchange when bill nye turns to another person on this panel journalist and professional skeptic Jamila how do you feel about this point of view I I'm I feel touchy feely and Weird and I want it. Replicated in the lab. I can you make a prediction so I can make a prediction but I don't think everything every aspect of knowledge tests be replicable doesn't seen a lab is all knowledge sequestered to science. Oh that's a good question great. I
How to Live a Regret-Free Life With Entrepreneur David Wood
"As mentioned in the intro fire nation wouldn't be talking about how to live a regret free life in Davis WanNA start right off by asking you this question do we actually tell the truth to each other not when it really matters I think and I love the way we started this this conversation because that we tend to want to present the shiny stuff to people we want people like us and we want to present the shiny stuff and there are things about each us that we don't really want to let out to the light and I think that's sad because it leads to disconnection and at least two US judging acids and then we don't tell the full truth and that's not wrong it just doesn't lead the connection that I think we're really want so I'm an advocate I'm an evangelist for firstly identifying the things about ourselves that we're not fully embracing or accepting a loving and then step by step sharing more that with the world so that it can it can come to the light of day and we can actually Lebie seen everything that we are and I'm talking about powerful CEO's and Roxas and everybody not just talking about people who feel some kind of struggle on talking about everybody let's tell more the truth because at the end of the tunnel is that deep connection I say we're all really craving now what's a tactic or a strategy that you may be shared with fire nation where we can maybe dip our toe into this process we can maybe take the first step in being more truthful with each other thank you I'm a practical guy so I love that question start to notice arena dialogue this the the mind is always going and if you can notice something that's going on you that you haven't shared with the person you're conversation away so it could be a boardroom it could be hey I notice the energy just just dipped it seems to me design anyone else feel that starts to name what's happening or hey I notice I'm not really on fire today I just want to let you guys know the I didn't sleep that well I'm here I'm ready to go but if you notice there's a drop in the energy that's what's going on stotts daughters what's happening that's not being named and just name it so you can be more in relation ship with whoever you're communicating by now I love that specific example you gave about how I'm just not feeling on fire today because obviously a it's super on brand for entrepreneurs on fire but be actual personal experience and pat where listen today is my Super Bowl David you are one of nine interviews I'm doing for entrepreneurs on fire today I am doing all of the money once interviews today and why do I do that because I know that I can wake up this morning get myself in state in be on fire all day today I but I couldn't wake up nine consecutive days in a row in insured that was GonNa Happen is I'm going to have a down day or day don't feel like super excited on fire or whatever however you want to say it's but I know I can do that for one day so I have a lot of people like John like you always have much energy you're always like so excited and I love just being honest with them and truthful and saying that's not the case like you're seeing a glimpse of my life you're seeing forty-five minutes or thirty minutes or an hour of my day and like yes I can be on fire for that but believe me after that I go out and lay in my hammock and is zone out or I read or I go for a walk right by myself and that honesty fire nation it will free you being true will free you now one thing that you say David do love is that small secrets our big problems what do you mean by that yeah well let's talk about the cost of not being truthful let's suppose you don it just name that you're not having an on die and the other person feels they walk away from that interaction John and that you know I didn't really enjoy that and maybe then tell someone else back that guy's just not really switched on you shouldn't do creighton alliance can have no Baugh yeah it can snowball so like I just had someone change a meeting coming with this nonprofit some training people in inmates in prison to be authentic and to tell the truth more and she just changed change the meeting and ah I was frustrated because we'd already had always back and forth creating the meeting now if I didn't name that I like how often were we just gloss over that the Dow damage changing around this pressing me also often what I decided to do was name it because maybe next week she'll change a meeting again thinking it's not him but he's may frustrating so I created a little video and I said to her look I want you know you've got a good reason changing it understand I just want you to know there's a cost for me to doing it I want you to know the impact so now I got to be self expressed with her I feel more related with her perhaps she can feel more related with me if she's got some she doesn't WanNa hit hit that or she's got frustration with going on in her life she can now share it with me and then we can be more connected and more related if you don't do it those small secrets those small things the slow frustrations can grow and grow and grow and I just think at the end of the day if we're not we're missing out on the connection and we're missing out on results I am not just the touchy feely Guy Right I am that I am the touch you know like get in touch with our emotions but there's a reason for it I want you to feel more connected and I want you to have better results I want you all to be great leaders and that happens when you a more connected more related fire nation was holding you back from living your truth answer you are holding yourself back from living your truth you have the power to be honest to not have secrets to big problems so stop hold on yourself back from living your truth I'll be honest people tell me all the time like John you kind of blunt like you say it like it is and I love when people say that because like damn right I say like it is because I'm GonNa be honest with you and if that for whatever reason repels you or pushes you away or whatever that might be guess what we probably shouldn't be hanging out with each other then 'cause I'm being on hint I don't need to hang out with every single person in this world and I can't so let me attract the people who I should attracting and let me repel the people I should be repelling for businesses weren't true David Like I love this phrase love me or hate me because there's no money in the middle and it's true true true that that is a true statement but let's even maybe take it to another level like love me or hate me because there's no truth in the middle oh like there's truth in the loving the hating part of it but like that's what we find is being ourselves and now I wanNA talk about daring and this is something that you are really powerful of when it comes to sharing how playing safe can actually be the most dangerous thing that we can do as Human beings expound upon that my background is in risk management I used to be a consulting actuary to Fortune one hundred companies in New York and so I think in terms of risk and I think doc world trying to manage risk in life and we think our look maybe a want share on this podcast that I've had depression anxiety because then people go all that guy doesn't have together and I'm not gonNa work work with him right that's the risk oh maybe I'm a single guy so maybe join us that woman out because I'll feel rejection or maybe I want gone to that speech because it's I it might not go well and and I'm GonNa people are GonNA think terrible on stage whatever it is we're trying to manage those risks and that's valid that's fine but I think many people and not looking at the other side of that risk what about the risk that you don't do it and that you die regretting it what about if you don't go for that new venture or you don't quit your job in GonNa get the job doing something you love or if you don't go to the behind Kozinski died because you've wanted to twenty years what if you actually die a week from now or six weeks from now or sixty years from now with out having done that how `bout that risk that's why I think playing safe is one of the most dangerous things you can do because your Chris King dying with regret out I don't want that for
TikTok Maker Reportedly Set to Take on Spotify
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Joe Biden's affectionate, physical style comes under scrutiny
"Democrat, Joe Biden has always been a touchy feely kind of guy, but he denies ever being inappropriate. Here's more from USA's. Rick Vincent, former davantage politician, Lucie, Florida democratic appeared on CNN state of the union. The talk about her recent claims that former vice president Joe Biden made her uncomfortable by kissing her in two thousand fourteen powerless. I felt like I couldn't move. I didn't even know how to process it. My bigger point that I've been making is that in these power namic situations and women are subjected to this in political setting. But in work settings all the time, you just kind of process it, and then you move on because you have a job to do. What do you say? There just isn't really a mechanism to deal with it. In a statement released by the former vice president Biden said quote in my many years on the campaign trail and in public life. I have offered countless handshakes hugs expressions of affection support and comfort and not once never did. I believe I acted inappropriately. If it is suggested. I did. So I will listen respectfully, but it was never my intention, unquote.
Huawei hurts international relations and the influence of Islam on the Indonesian election
"We're talking about the Indonesian elections in April now about half of Indonesia's. What is it about two hundred sixty five million people they younger than thirty extrordinary? Greg feely to what extent today? Subscribe to a more conservative interpretation of Islam. I think it's a divided. So that's a large group of people many teens millions of people and they feed across a religious political spectrum. So there are certainly these erasing trained of puritanism amongst many in that millennial group the why they can chew religion is much more conservative than what they parents obeying sorts of people who wear extremely modest clothing who disapprove of homosexuality and the like, but however, if we look more closely those people as individuals, we often find that their private lives, a still actually quite cosmopolitan. And so things are not quite as I say when we look at the reporting in newspapers when we look at surveys when we go to people's houses when we talk to them about what kinds of things I during the. Providence what Kanda personal relations? I have secure relations. I have often we find it's far more complex picture, but nonetheless of rule the chain these towards conservatism, Greg will agree with that. I think just because people publicly manifesting themselves as as more sly make doesn't mean fanatic. I don't think this sort of trained that you sing Indonesians being played at another society's appeal uniquely Indonesian one even in western societies in some ways and Saudis young people becoming more Christians in some places. So I think as in complex -ociety people look back to their traditions and old cultures. Sometimes cherry pick speaks of them and sort of return to them. Okay. So the consensus he is that we should really be allowed by these developments in Indonesia Gregg fairly. What are the implications? He for our relationship with Jakarta over the next five years. Well, I think one of the things to emphasize his both of the leading the prison candidates are not particularly Slavic figures. Even though they go to. Trouble to court these limit vote. And if he's Lomb was on a con of fundamentalist surge in Indonesia, you would say the presidential candidates, not the boss presidential candidates, but the presidential candidates having that kind of slamming fly, and I dont nonetheless for country Laka strata, we have to fact Islam elements more in our into our diplomacy.