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Dr Nurse F Show

07:28 min | 1 year ago

"f. " Discussed on Dr Nurse F Show

"Christians teachers. Know. If you heard the devil said Zo. And even even after like immediately after like I was telling people about it, I was still like. I was like, yeah. Because like part of you was like laughing and pardon me was embarrassed have cars because I'm like it would be such a big deal if it was public school probably I mean but still I feel like you might have gotten more trouble if it wasn't a private school. I really do but whatever it turned out. Good. Yeah. So anyway, good job. We're I. Love You. Let's go to the part. All right. This nurse Fiona and Dr Pinkus Pie with the doctors show we happen to be obsessed with coffee coffee all day and Rebecca's night then copied recovered. No kidding and you know how particular we are about our beer just as bad with our coffee and our new favorite is good sense coffee a friend of ours turned US onto them and super super glad that he did the coffee. Is perking epic, but the company is even more. So so that's really special to me because I love my coffee to start not only as a small business which loves support but they're also advocates for gender equality which it's gotten better lately but we need more right and especially when you have these small businesses out there like this company has a program that supports women, coffee suppliers. An. Awesome. fucking. Awesome. So you guys have to try it. Go to their website www dot good sense coffee dot com. It's G. O., O. D.. S. E. N. S. C. O. F. F. E. DOT COM. Use Promo Code F show and save ten percent on your order. Don't forget to use that Promo code ten percent on your entire order people support US bitches. Hey. We're back. Yes. Yeah. We didn't go very far by phases. So fucking hot right now still I know that's kind of funny just talking about it like I'm not. I'm not embarrassed issuer put on a little embarrassed. It's OK be embarrassed but I But I'm kind of I'm kind of like I kind of feeling like a stick in Rockstar. Okay. So that's exactly how I felt with the resident where it was like I was like I wasn't embarrassed because I didn't do it but still like I was like not really angry but I had to pretend like I was angry I was laughing more than anything because I'm like, yes. Best story ever for the PODCAST but anyway. said. As soon as I sign it first thing my mouth all five. So loud so loud in AP comes out of the garage. What now's like. Dirty mean to blue. fucking teacher. He's like, what did you say? Like. Oh Shit. It's awesome. Like I don't know. That's awesome. I'm sweating over there like. that. All right dude, what are we going to Oh this section we were going to just cover a little bit different stuff like strip little strip, your essential ask your shirt says so I all she had a black T. shirt with right white writing across the front that just says essential af out to oddly creative designs. Yeah. I like that. Yeah. So we're going to do a little bit of talk about. Stuff that's coming and newsy type stuff for us. God? Batch. So we are, and you guys have probably noticed that we've been sending out some swag to people just we penned really really really want to start. We've lots of people lots of people have been asking us for stuff and we just need to figure out how to make it happen. Well, it's all about like you know finding the right company to distribute shit yeah. Because my problem is is that right now all the swag that you get is literally handmade by me. It's handmade sweatshop basement. Like in my little sweatshop and space. Filipino. Right next to the SUMP pump. So that's what you're getting. Okay we've met. We're GONNA. Do. Some swag. Figure it out 'cause we got people wanting to buy some swag we've got some. Really great ideas for extra good stuff. Yeah. We just need to actually find a website in make it happen. And the problem I've got is I don't WanNA use a website where I haven't tested it like where I don't know the stuff that you're going to get because if you buy like you buy expensive sweatshirt and it comes in, it's Shitty like you know I don't want that. No because we. Do have we do have those shirts that we got that verse around they sucked. Well, they're okay. They're sucky. They're not. They're pretty shitty what we would consider me bottom is like samples and they sucked. And that's basically how it's GonNa Roll. Something if it's GonNa come to you. It's probably GONNA come to US first because we want to order stuff before we'd like let people get it because I feel bad. Well. Yeah. Want to be a piece of shit. Well, I got a couple of things set. We need to try it. We need to order some shit and see, but I WanNa, upload some of the good design. So we'll see how that goes. So basically, we're GONNA we're going to toy around with shit figure out what it is, what it looks like so it should be coming. And then you'll have the ability to have some if you want some too. Yeah. Although I will say that we have a certain listener Hamish. He really loves the mass because he says, it reminds him like he he's pretending it is made out of our panties. Should've sprayed it with like your perfume or something I should have. I'm sorry that might be a little creepy but now I'm not going to do that. No Way. No, you know it's creepy. Of Awesome wearing on his face know what creepy and kind of awesome at the same time is like bitches that sell their underwear to like these freaky people that will be tak about this. No. We didn't attack skills about this. He did not okay skills and I were talking he was watching a video of a girl. Who? All, she does sell pictures of her feet. And she makes like fifteen thousand dollars a month she a nice as feet. My feet are better. Oh, my God, my feet are better under pedicure. Hey Hey, anybody out there. You want to buy a picture, my feet. I saw your picture my feet. Hey. My boobs now feet, I'll take a picture of my feet and your feet together. I gotta get a pedicure. Shit, we saw pictures of our feet and see what happens to you want to try it. I wonder if we could get our logo put on our toenail. Yeah. Okay I'll make that happen here. Let's do it. All right. I'm game. Let's do it. Do a calendar with just our feet calendar. Oh speaking of which Oh look at that segue. guys the male nurse calendar is not dead. We still want it to happen. We recently put up a poll on our facebook page and overwhelmingly. Everybody wants multiple different male nurses, not just one. We don't have to have a separate guy for every single month. I mean, ideally, that would be great and they have what they want though that's what they want. But if we can get him, it is what it is. Well, we we also don't have to have all nurses because look at the one suggestion that was paramedic. But I don't think he'll do it. I don't know. I wouldn't he? He didn't say wouldn't know. He didn't say what he puts pictures of his fucking ass all over the Internet kind stopping plus yeah let's use you get on it. Let us use you and your. Sexy.

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"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

F-Divorce

08:15 min | 1 year ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

"Enjoy. Social Media. You want to know what I think the weirdest part about all of this is. Before social media, we read shampoo bottles while sitting in the bathroom. Now we tweet. In fact, I'm willing to bet that on each one of my posts at least one person likes or comments while in the bathroom. We all do it. And we all know that everybody else does. We just refuse to acknowledge, it. Anyway social media, it's the devil right. That's what old or traditional media tells us. Is it as bad as we think it is or is traditional media just nervous. I mean it's faster for one. I was working at a religious radio station win Pope Francis Scott elected everyone at the station was pulling reports, making phone calls, following the news and stuff to try to figure out who it was. So we'd be able to make the announcement have the graphics and imaging done, etc, etc.. I found out on twitter who it was like a half hour before it made the official news. So obviously, it was fast. But no one believed me. Does that mean it's not accurate. In. This is my opinion. There's no poll or anything like that. I'm basing Fazon. I've noticed it's about as accurate as everything else in the twenty four hour shoot. I ask questions later new cycle that we currently exist in. The point I'm making is that. It's not necessarily a bad thing. It's a tool. And like any tool, it can be used for its intended purpose or not. That's up to us. When it comes to navigating social media during our divorce, my first major piece of advice would be to just be careful. At least until after all the paperwork is done. Do I think most people do this? No. But I guess I'm just trying to save your lawyer, the hassle of saying it to you. And it's always better to be safe than. Sorry. I'm a firm believer in the unfriendly follow and block if you have to strategy. I remember early on how often I stalked the hack out of her social media accounts and what good did it do me? None. All it did was bring me misery. That reminds me I found out that we were officially separated when my status changed from married to it's complicated. FACEBOOK doesn't or at least at the time didn't even send you a notification of change. I. Don't remember why I was looking at my profile, but there was. It's complicated. One of the things I hated early on or the facebook memories. Luckily you can block certain people and dates and even date ranges. But honestly, it took about two years before I completely got rid of all of the memories. Now some argue that it's kind of like deleting your past or something and I guess that could be true. But I didn't WanNa look at them anymore. I don't see it being any different than throwing your wedding album in a box in the closet or away. which is what a lot of people do. Especially, if they don't have children. Speaking of wedding albums, our entire album was on facebook. We had a lot of friends and family who asked us to upload stuff. So they can tag themselves and we are also kind of helping out a photographer friend. We figured it'd be kind of a cool thing to do. I'm going to be real with the right here and you may not agree with me. But the album still there. Now, it's not public. Only me. Her. The photographer and I think the people tagged can see it. In even those people who were tagged can only see the pictures there tagged in. Not sure of deleting it entirely would have been better. But I remember looking at it making the decision. And I saw a picture of my mom and her friends from college. Then I saw one of. My Mom and I. Some of my niece and nephews on dressed up in their dress. Little Tuxedos. And I realized that. For me at least. The album wasn't just. About the wedding. It was a snapshot of a Single Day. In a lot of people's lives. And there were a lot of beautiful moments during that day that I wasn't necessarily a part of and I don't feel right deleting those moments. That's the funny thing about social media with ex girlfriends or boyfriends. You just delete the evidence. But with a marriage. That's different. I can't pretend I wasn't married in real life at least I shouldn't. AM. I. Supposed to pretend that I wasn't on facebook. Now besides the wedding album I did untagged myself in and or delete myself. In. Any picture with. It sucked. We. Were both very active in our social lives and online. And it was like I was removing the Happy Times. Since generally, we don't post about the sad ones. It was like I was deleting entire life. And it took a long time like I said about two years. I don't suggest you try to do that overnight. I was part of an article for the wall. Street. Journal about divorcing age of social media. Gosh probably like a year ago now. I will link it but I think it's behind a paywall so you may not be able to read it. But a lot of the comments were in my opinion of it. Ridiculous. That's why you shouldn't post everything on social. Media. These young tunnel I'm using this voice, but just roll with him at I'm dedicated now. These young kids think they're all celebrities and that the world needs to know or care about every move. You know what? That's total crap. First of all, my social media accounts pre F- divorce were private. They were for me, my friends and my family. Secondly. And this is the big thing. You're saying you expect me not to share pictures of my wife and I. On My facebook. INSTAGRAM ETC? I mean, isn't that the point? Oh the world doesn't need to know about my stop. That's right. First of all private already covered that secondly, if that's what you believe, then you better not pull out any more of your albums showing us about your seventeenth trip to Niagara Falls. GRANDPA. No one cares about your Christmas trip to the Caribbean aunt and uncle I never talked to so stop sending those stupid postcards every year. Family videos guess what most babies eventually walk? It's not unique family newsletters don't bother like no one has ever read those in the history. Of newsletters. Ever. Everything. Ninety nine percent of US do on social media is stuff we've done on old media for years the medium has changed. But the message is still the same. Most. People aren't trying to be celebrities or think they're doing anything.

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F-Divorce

04:26 min | 1 year ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

"Does that mean. It's not accurate in. This is my opinion. There's no poll or anything like that. I'm basing his on. Just kind of what i've noticed it's about as accurate as everything else in the twenty four hour shoot first ask questions later new cycle that we currently exist in the point. I'm making is that. It's not necessarily a bad thing. It's a tool and like any tool it can be used for. Its intended purpose or not. That's up to us. When it comes to navigating social media during our divorce my first major piece of advice would be to just be careful at least until after all the paperwork is done. Do i think most people do this. But i guess. I'm just trying to save your lawyer. The hassle of saying it to you and it's always better to be safe than sorry. I'm a firm believer in the unfriendly on follow and block. If you have to strategy. I remember early on how often i stalked the heck out of her social media accounts. And what good did it do me. None all it did was bring me misery. That reminds me. I found out that we were officially separated when my status changed from married to it's complicated facebook dozen or at least at the time didn't even send you a notification of the change. I don't remember why. I was looking at my profile but there it was. It's complicated one of the things. I hated early on or the facebook memories. Luckily you can block certain people and dates and even date ranges but honestly it took about two years before. I completely got rid of all of the memories now. Some may argue that. It's kind of like deleting your past or something. And i guess that could be true. But i didn't wanna look at them anymore. I don't see it being any different than throwing your wedding album in a box in the closet or away which is what a lot of people do..

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F-Divorce

01:34 min | 1 year ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

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"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

F-Divorce

07:25 min | 1 year ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

"Get into the social situation and put on this this this false front and it's socially appropriate front but nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors, right? You know, and there's a degree of healthiness to that but you don't know who's going to the same struggles. You don't know who's getting a divorce. I mean it as soon as it was like it was like somebody, you know, as soon the news came out it was like all of a sudden somebody turned on the lights and everybody scattered. It was terrifying to have my social network disappear and had I known known that there was other guys, I knew for years that that were pretending to be fine. That weren't had I known that then I think I'm kind of biased are differently. So Visible man is about finding men that are willing to frankly have the balls to come forward and say, you know, I I go to therapy I'm thinking about divorce or God forbid. I'm thinking about dying and if you see somebody at the store and you know, that that's their story you feel a little bit of an affinity towards them like off like I'm here for you like and men are helpers by Nature's we don't want to ask for help. And so I think the other thing is I would like for Visible man to be a group or network of men that are willing to help other men and just be an example whatever that looks like because we're more than happy to help right? I think it's awful. I I can can relate to how you said felt alone, you know so much. I was starting to process just after my thirtieth birthday cake. Okay, and so a lot of my friends were still they were like getting married here in my God. How how long were you married at that point? Yep. We were married three years. Okay, so obviously they didn't, you know besides from like their parents but it's a lot different when it's your parents versus your peers and that's kind of where F divorce came from is and my family doesn't have a lot of divorce Senate either same here at look family. We just took Mom same here same here. And so I felt like I couldn't couldn't talk to anyone and that's where I started it. I didn't have that kind of plan that seems like you did for me. It was just I felt I needed to get something out to anyone. I didn't expect anybody to respond. You know, I didn't know cuz my main kind of focus is always been Instagram and um, I didn't know Before I started obviously, I didn't know you could even do anything like that. I thought it was businesses influencers. Just taking like bikini shots and then us regular people just uploading, you know our regular pictures. I didn't know that there was you could blend all of these different things. Yeah, but I think that's interesting that we both kind of did the same thing in a different way. I remember when I first started there was there's nobody there were no men and if they if were out there they were what are they called? Like red pillars? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I you know and so they were so anti-woman and it was well, no, I don't want to be that I don't hate women. I hate this woman. I don't use the rest of them, you know. Yeah, and I'm not going to lie, man. It felt lonely. Now, you know, he mentioned that yeah and Instagram especially is is female Centric. It's got more females are on Instagram page. Shahram, then males. So you're already kind of I didn't know that I know. Yeah, but it's the odds but then you know, I'm searching for people and then yeah, you popped up and I learned that I was like Thursday is this I'm like, he's a real dude. I don't know. That's that's really good to hear Jack that it's very good to hear. Yeah. It was it was you know, you found out about your woodworking. I remember early on you had mentioned that you I remember you you'd post stories or posts about you going to like a bar and just being there, you know, and I think that's probably not very wage effectively, you know at this point no one knows where you are, know, you're just as cats staying in there, but when it's it's similar to me how priests would do that there's a term for it. I can't think of the term. I've been trying to think of it all morning, but we're priests would go and they would preach at like bars or be their interests or 4 a.m. They would just hang out and it's kind of in in in the religious example. It's kind of a go to where the Sinners are. Yeah versus preaching to the yes. Yeah, and yeah, you're much more likely to find people that are in similar situations at a bar. Then you are you know at a library or something like that. But I remember I thought that was the coolest thing. I was like there's this cat you did what really what I felt like I couldn't do when I started I felt like couldn't sit there and be you know, obviously my point of view is masculine. I am a man and I'm not trying to say that you're speaking for men, you know, but at first it was like I felt couldn't even touch on mail stuff specifically. I had to keep everything Super Bowl or you know generic and and then I felt like you came out and you you kind of took that next step and I just yeah, I appreciate that so much cock Because that's what we need. We need to sit there and say look this isn't there's nothing against women, you know, this isn't we're not bashing any gender or anything like that. But you know men are inherently we've touched this whether it be a societally for societal reasons or just because of who we are we're kind of terrible at this, you know home. Yeah, and I just yeah that blew my mind I was so happy to see that you were starting to do that. So at its core has been mentioned earlier Visible man is about men talking. So this is kind of an experiment right now. We're kind of in the early stages, right? Yeah. Yeah, I would that's about right. Do you have or men who have joined? You know, how do people kind of approach you to either take part in this from somebody who needs help or from somebody who wants to help it's really dead. Fascinating because it's been in multiple bunch of different ways and I'm thinking about the term experiment because I love experiencing. I'm I'm an engineer and I'd love there's something about and I'll answer your question, but there's something about depersonalizing how things work to figuring things out and Visible man is worse in some ways trying to figure out how what's the best way to reach men? What's the best way because I don't know that I the answer but.

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F-Divorce

07:32 min | 1 year ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

"Jeff Hoffman, how you doing, man? Hey good Jack. How you doing? Not too bad. So at its core Visible man is about men opening up and talking right? Yep. It's about raising awareness to the epidemic of male suicide and and creating a place for wage to raise awareness about men and men's mental health. You've been pretty open about how this idea was sparked because of the end of your marriage and the Fallout. So let's just kind of read the Band-Aid off. Okay and start there. So tell me what happened. Okay, so I guess going with that analogy of ripping off the Band-Aid. I was married for fifteen years from now divorced for about five years and in some ways the end of my marriage was not the ripping off of a Band-Aid. It was a very very slow distancing of emotion. And all of the bad habits that had had a chance to develop over the relationship slowly eroded the marriage. In fact my ex-wife and one of our one of our last discussions that we had before we decided to separate was that she like it's like we're living with a terminally ill cancer patient, but neither one of us has volt that they're going to die. So I came up with the name Visible man because I I felt invisible to be very honest after being married for about ten years. I felt like I was a piece of meat and that was just providing resources for people and that I had no intrinsic value and I think it was reinforced. I'll say it generally and externally and so Visible man is about my journey and demonstrating the fact that men have feelings and it's important to acknowledge them. So you said You piece of meat I want to kind of dive into that. Sure. Yeah, what what exactly do you mean by that? Like what how where did those feelings kind of come from home? So I was the breadwinner for the family and piece of meat I think to me feels like when I think of a piece meat I think of just this doesn't have a soul or a valuable than what it's providing. I guess. I didn't really feel that goes very important. And when I think back to my my marriage I was about thirty-five years old and I remember Googling what is the life expectancy of a man in America so I could understand how much longer it had to tolerate this month? So in terms of a piece of meat, I just didn't feel like I had a value other than what I could provide and so I think it was kind of a cold distant relationship with my cell phone. And I think you know in retrospect I think some of the the ways that I dealt with that it's a surround myself with that type of relationship that would reinforce that so you have children I do I have two teenage daughters. Okay. Yeah. So was it like it's hard to its I'm trying trying to put this towards so was it like you had you know them in their mother and and they were the family and you were just kind of outside of it. That's that's actually a pretty good. I kind of felt that way. Yeah, I kind of felt so where I live we live here because my ex-wife lives here and so my home I am geographically surrounded by my ex-wife's family and my we moved here from my so that my kids and she could be close to them. I would find myself had you know, social situations where I was there because of her or because wage kids and I I feel like outside of it as a good way to put it because it I didn't feel as woven into it. And and I thought I think about it. I don't feel that way. Now, you know, I'm if anything my my divorce with has I have a weighted blanket and when I feel like wage I could say if I wear it like a cape not that I do this necessary much, but you did it's like wearing a heavy coat and then taking it off. That's what divorce felt like for me. But the process absolutely suck but in in the process of taking off that wait, I became myself and my kids could see that so when when we divorce my kids were early teens I think about um without naming the Regis and they my relationship with them has just exploded in a great way because I could be myself and I could be honest with them. And so I think in my marriage I didn't feel like I could be myself off and and I think in remember somebody telling me that I should start a TV show at the end of all this and call it one hundred percent Jeff because within my marriage I wasn't a hundred percent myself the goofiness or the way the vulnerability or the honesty there's a term called I think it's spell year espalier. I forgot how you pronounce it, but it's when you grow a bush and you want to shape it you take scissors and you sniffing. It in the in places to just keep it in the sheet that you want. That's how I felt. I felt like like my ankles were getting sniped at to make sure that I don't go over there and it shaped the way that I behaved in the marriage and my kids can pick up on that and people can pick up on that and so in the process of shedding this false version of myself off. It was like Metamorphosis in every painful way that you can think of it because it's like an exoskeleton that would keep me safe, but it wasn't me what made you feel like you had to kind of not be you in the marriage. Was there anything specific or is it just kind of slowly chipping away, you know in my marriage, for example, I had a lot of little compromises, you know things that at first seemed like well I'm doing this to you know for the good of marriage. Yeah, and then those compromises Thursday. The kind of slowly build and a couple of years and I realized you know, why actually it was after everything was over I realized wow, man. I I completely changed who I was and you know, the things that I would allow to happen at the end. I never would have loaded the beginning but it's just that kind of chipping away. Is that is that how it was for you? That's a pretty good description. Yeah. I think the the you described it as allowing things to happen and making compromises and I think those are a couple of key words because when you allowed or something to happen, you're giving permission to basically move a boundary in some ways and and a compromise to me suggests a bilateral thing like, you know, let today I'll decide where we go to dinner. But tomorrow you will and I think too much allowances creates a lot of resentment if you're not if you're not careful, so for me. Divorced and I say this like in retrospect right this emotionally mentally this process started ten years ago for me. And if I look at what I allowed wage, what compromises I made I now don't tolerate any of.

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F-Divorce

03:55 min | 1 year ago

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"Hey, welcome to the F divorce podcast off Jack here. men We have a presence on social media. But sometimes it seems like we're not present on social media. I remember when I first started the Instagram years ago. I sought out other men and wage. Not going to lie there weren't a lot of them and it was lonely out there at first not to say I didn't enjoy and still don't enjoy connecting with women, but sometimes it's nice to be able to connect with people that you feel like can understand you and at first it was incredibly difficult to find those people and then about two years ago a gentleman named Jeffrey Hoffman. I don't remember if I followed him or if he followed me. But somehow we ended up following each other and he started an organization called Visible man. And one of the things that really impressed me about what Jeffrey does is how we puts himself out there. I remember some of his posts earlier on he was going out to try to find out where men were and so he would go to bars and just be there as a kind of Beacon as kind of somebody that anybody could kind of come up to and talk to and I thought that was such a ballsy move to just go out and be out in the open like that. He really pushes this thing with being vulnerable and how being vulnerable is actually being strong and I connected with that immediately. I think we often look at Voss. Ability as weakness when in reality being able to shed all of our kind of wait our fears those little things that stop us from being vulnerable and getting rid of those things and really opening ourselves up actually allows us to live a lot more or less lie. You know, it's kind of like the old saying about how if you're honest. You never have to remember. You know what story you told what you said and that's one thing one of the many things but that's one thing that really attracted me to What Jeffrey is trying to do. It's Visible man is to be open and to be vulnerable to give men a place to do that without any sort of judgement. So I had him on Thursday and we chatted for a little while and I learned a lot about what kind of led to the beginning of this experiment as we call it. I think there's a whole lot of really good things that come out of this interview and one of those things is that if you're a man listening or if you know a man that is kind of going through the situation may I pass this on to them so they can hear that is that you're not alone that other men have dealt with the same issues that you deal with that other men can understand where you're coming from. And that other men can be there and help you. I learned a lot during this interview. I think you will tube. So enjoy..

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01:40 min | 1 year ago

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02:03 min | 1 year ago

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"I lost my little protector. my dog and I was there when lost my marriage. I know. what it's like then I'm not saying it's not going to be terrible. I'm not saying the journey is going to be easy. But I am saying that some day. You will see yourself on the other side. If you put in the work feel the fields, I promise you the sun will come out. remember getting divorced sucks being divorced doesn't wear a mask wash your hands. And wait it out. Time will heal this world, too. Thank you for listening to today's episode. If you like the show, please remember too great review And subscribe also keep up-to-date with all the good stuff going on life after divorce on Instagram. That's F underscore divorce. I have a whole thriving community of people that are just all in this together and it is it is beautiful. It's honest, beautiful. How many people have kind of become a part of this and joined me on this journey also available on Facebook and Twitter, so you should be good. I'll see you next time..

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05:16 min | 1 year ago

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"Welcome to the F divorce podcast Jack here off. You know, you think I would have been able to record more of these during the lockdown but it turns out everyone else was unlocked down to so there were like five five people here all the time and I don't live with what you would call a quiet bunch. In fact, I'm recording this around 10:30 at night and just a room over wage. They just started the movie Close Encounters of the Third Kind. So I guess if you hear those, how many notes is it? Five notes. I'm not getting abducted by aliens. They're just watching a movie really loud in the middle of night for no reason. Only on during this pandemic situation. I saw a lot of posts on social media saying stuff. Like if you don't come out of this quarantine with a new skill their side hustles started or more knowledge. You never lacked time. You lacked discipline. And that really ticked me off. Now if you did any of those things that's fantastic, but many people were and still are struggling to put food on their table home school their children and just generally keep their family safe. Healthy housed and fed. For many the hustle was and is not about thriving Reinventing oneself or rebranding no matter what social media wants you to believe or a lot of people it's about surviving and post with that kind of mentality show a complete lack of empathy and general awareness of what's going on within our very own communities. I think the codes that situation has brought out the best of us in many ways. But because nature abhors a vacuum or maybe because as some would argue with you humans may just be terrible in general. It is also brought out the worst. Whether we like it or not. We are in this together. We are a communal species. The only way we will get through. This is if we work together have a little empathy and lift one another up if you don't feel like you've thrived during this time because you were forced into survival mode. Please do not feel bad about it. That's like the one thing. You want anybody to take away from this and I'm doing it in the introduction because that's how important it is. Do not feel bad about it. You have enough stuff to worry about ignore the creeps on social media that are telling you otherwise you are doing everything you can walk in and that is more than enough survive. That's what matters right now. I live in Ohio and we were under lockdown for the better part of three months. So if I were to do what a lot of podcast host do and update you on my life took the intro. The intro would be very short for three months. I got up worked eight and went back to bed. The only people I saw in person or my family and the delivery drivers through the door. Thank God for contact us delivery. For three months. I felt like my life was the loading screen of a video game. I think it was Zelda Ocarina of Time for the N64 the did a thing where you could like run around and jump and swing your sword and stuff while you waited for oil level to load. But you're in this like hazy cloudy grey void. I felt like that then just Living in a void waiting for the world to load. And you know, I had an eerily similar feeling towards the end of my marriage and during the early stages of my separation looking back. It was almost like a dream like Dead zombie like existence just floating in the water aimlessly waiting for the tide to take me wherever at least. You know, I really hope that N64 reference worked for this crowd. I'd really hate to hear that some of you are too young to plated as you probably saw in the title. Today's episode will be on covid-19. right after the break.

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F-Divorce

05:37 min | 2 years ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

"All together as a family so it'll help you get through it and be a better parents have damn. If you make sure you got to support some place that you need as well. It's also important to maintain your usual family traditions as much as you can they might feel different they might look different and and maybe some of them will have to give way. But if there's certain traditions, you've had every year, it's important a particularly during the first few years after divorce is operation to keep these traditions going. It's also a great idea to create some new traditions and allow your children the opportunity to contribute their ideas to what these new traditions might be. That's a good way of acknowledging the change knowledge in that this Christmas isn't going to be the saying maybe as the previous Christmas is when you all together as a family, but it's still fun because you're creating new traditions and new that are exciting for your children to be part of. It also important again, going back to the issue of feeling to be authentic and you're feeling and allow children to feel if they do feel sad, allow them to express that. Don't try and go off over it. Don't try and say to them that they're you know they have to feel happy and they have to feel joyful because just like you, they're going to experience a wide range of emotions and it's important that. They are in an environment where they can share that with you in express it and not have it be dismissed or minimized or or not acknowledged. And another thing that you can do for yourself to keep your own positive is to remind yourself of the things that you're grateful for. So no matter when any of those are going through in our lives, they've certainly things that we can be grateful for so. Because on some of those things particularly if you're feeling down or having a day of work. More depressed than you might might normally seal reminding yourself as the good things in your.

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F-Divorce

05:04 min | 2 years ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

"Hello and welcome to divorce daily I'm Jack. A lot of people have asked me to do some extended roads and many more have asked me to talk a bit more about my personal experiences. So since the holidays are quickly approaching and since this is also about the time a year ago I started f divorce I thought it would be a good place to kind of do this whole thing. So in this episode I'm going to share some of my experiences during my first Christmas while being recently separated also touch on the beginnings of F. Divorce, and hopefully there will be some insights on what you may go through and maybe some tips on how to do it better than I did mainly from doing the opposite of what I did. When putting together the notes on the episode I remembered that a lot of you have children and while I can touch on certain emotions and situations as someone who doesn't have kids I don't feel qualified to discuss that Kosta. So I rang up my friend coach lawyer Speaker Blogger pretty much expert on all things divorce, Leeann Townsend, and asked her to share her tips on making it through the holidays as a newly divorced parent. I thought her tips were so important in good that I've decided to start the show with her segment. So without any further ADO, here's the an townsend sharing some tips and insights on how to handle the holidays as a divorced parent. Hello Leeann towns in here and I am a divorce attorney and.

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F-Divorce

05:36 min | 3 years ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

"Hey everybody. Welcome to the F. Divorce podcast. Jack. Yeah I did a did a name change here. Since. I'm doing the more long form episodes. Instead of the short dailies I figured a name change was in order. But for those of you who are big fans of the original divorce daily segments, they aren't going away. They'll still come out As I see fit and they will be labelled as such in the episode titled As They. Drop. Now, before we get to the bulk of the show, I wanted to mention that the fine ladies at Juju be gone sent me. One of their breaking up is a bitch boxes and I have to say. I loved the hell out of it. Each one of their boxes is hand picked and packed with all sorts of stuff to help you cleanse your energy post break-up. Now. The best part of this box besides some of the more hilarious gifts inside was just like the general vibe they gave off. I'm not really familiar with Energy Juju and Auras, and all that stuff and the instructions walked me through the process with such a fun attitude. I can't describe it. You have to check them out for yourself. They've got boxes for breakups new houses some really sexy couples stuff to and a ton more give them a look at Juju be gone dot com. That's J. J. YOU BE GONE DOT com? Okay onto the topic of today's show. You follow me on Instagram. You may have noticed that I started posting rules. What are these rules? I'm so glad you asked. These are my top ten for now rules for living a successful life. Why only ten? Because we as human beings like the number ten? Ten Commandments. The US BILL OF RIGHTS? Although stupid. Top Ten lists that we all spend way too much time online reading and so on. We like the number it makes sense. As. Far as where they came from my head. After it all went down. I found myself wandering through the metaphorical desert questioning who I am and what I stand for. So over time I came up with this list. Now, there will be some obvious ones on here but I hope my take is original enough on them to maybe open you up a bit after all. That's a lot of what I'm just kind of trying to do in general I know that we're not always going to see eye to eye on things and I know that we're not always going to agree on certain thoughts I have. But I do hope that by presenting those alternative perspectives that maybe I can help. Open up your mind a little bit just as when you come back and discuss it with me. You helped me open mind. So I, we're going to have a short break, and then when we return, we will get immediately to Jack's top ten rules for living a successful life. and..

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F-Divorce

03:14 min | 3 years ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

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F-Divorce

05:57 min | 3 years ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

"At that I mean you barely you just firm it seemed like you were you stop working altogether. I know you were doing stuff to just get by with the Yeah it was very, very minimal at, but to me, it was like nine existent pretty much but. You you weren't posting. You weren't really doing anything, and then when you finally it felt like you're like, you know what? I I'm I'm sick of it. I'm embracing it. That's fine. And you sir seem more people. To social media, you took to what you are comfortable with. An embraced it. He started getting better. and. Is was nice because you didn't stop. You. Like you you're you kept saying it's the axe. So, to saint her name and everything, you refer you refer tour finally as the ex. You. Told people things that. You just kept private. He told means keep private. You finally told other people. And you actually accepted. This is my new reality. And I believe the final Hurdle. What really helped you out was when you went up to your favorite spots this year. and. You like last year you you. You can handle it I. Remember you calling me and your I. Like. All it was it was the most miserable. Time of my L- like ever. I couldn't deal with it I? You were having a fifth of Jack Every single day and you would have been jumping for sure I'll I for some reason I thought it was Jameson but you you were drinking yourself to a super you can leave. And then this year. You're out on the beach. You're out at restaurants you're out with your family you're not staying at the place. And you were so much better. Between the each year it was a, it was a complete one eighty. And when when I'm looking at you taking pictures of yourself, talking about your trip. Not. Looking at yourself as some ugly shallow person but you know embracing who you really are. That is why I'm like, okay. He he's ready he he took the giant leap. Like he he took the Neil Armstrong leap for mankind for Jack, kind. and. He. He's ready. He's ready to move on he's ready to go and. I'm..

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F-Divorce

05:10 min | 3 years ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

"Point. So it just it. Really piled on the guilt onto me because it's like here's this person that's. Asking and seeking my help in a very dark time and. I know. Where to be found. Roy. Moore you did hang out. What was I like? You know when we meet up at the bar or the bowling alley because there were times at that point I was coming up. On I'd stay there that old place over the weekend when I was working at the Bowling Alley and You know even furthermore didn't want to go go back that has So you did join me a couple of times. Do you remember what I was like? If I had to put a description to it. It would be Solis. Like you were living but not your live but not ill living like you were just a Husk. You had no life to you. You had no soul to you. You had no emotions and. You were afraid. Because you did not want to go back. Like you were doing everything you could. To not go back into that house. And you didn't want go back. You didn't want those feelings again like you were trying like you were in inner battle inside you with emotions and everything, but then you were just like. A third night even third quarter of. WHO USED TO BE? Like the Jack I needed to do was gone forever. He. It felt like he didn't even exist and I had to come to grasp with the new Jack the Hollow Jack, the soloist. Jack and. It it was. It was rough and. I remember throughout that time my frustration, my guilt I should say. Turned into frustration to the point where I was. About a minute away from shaking you. And being like. Hey. Get Get out of this. You're being an idiot, get out of this come on. Like This.

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F-Divorce

08:05 min | 3 years ago

"f. " Discussed on F-Divorce

"Got a pretty big response of people requesting. For me to do more of those kind of long form. podcast episodes, and so I've been sitting on this one now for a couple of months. As I kind of go into in the interview itself. You often hear when it comes to divorce you often hear a lot from the people getting divorced. A sometimes, you hear from their children. If you spend any time on social media, you're going to hear from divorce coaches, lawyers, counselors. Whatever but I wanted to see what it looked like from the perspective of a friend because I don't think you hear too often from that. And I think it's an interesting one to look at to watch really the kind of. Rise and fall of a relationship, and in my case, kind of a human being. From that angle just seems interesting to me. So I interviewed a buddy of mine one of my best friends. Probably six seven months ago, and I just been sitting on it kind of waiting for the right time and figured now would be as good a time as any now he and I talked for quite a while and I decided instead of try to edit things down in shoe. Half Hour forty five minutes to release this in two parts. So this obviously is part one. And part two will be released next week. No I don't want to give away too much about what goes on during the interview but I do want to say that it went in a couple of directions that I didn't anticipate. And You Know I. told him don't hold back. And he didn't and I found out a lot about myself. During that time. And I'm surprised he's still around to be honest. So I. Hope You. I guess, I don't WanNa I. Don't like to say enjoy radio lingo. They always say enjoy the show or sit back relax and enjoy, and we're talking about some pretty heavy stuff. But so I hope you'll learn something from it and yeah. So here it is. How you doing buddy I'm doing good. How are you? I'm okay. So this is. A I think it's going to be an interesting take on the subject of divorce because like I've said to you off Mike stuff like that a lot of people here. From the divorce ace. And they hear from the counselors, the lawyers. The shrinks all those kind of people. They sometimes hear from the family the children, but one aspect or one group of people. That gets left out. Are. The close friends. The people that you know really watched things. Go, down that witnessed. The good and the bad and kind of the fallout. Of of a relationship and of marriage now before we get into it, let's do a little bit of background. We've known each other. Since the seventh grade. That's correct. All through high school went to the same high school. And for time went to the same college. Yep, and then we. kind of split ways we were never super close. We were friends We were in the kind of friends group same group, but we were never super close in high school especially in college. Or And then. One day you ran into me at a bar. Right. Yeah. So go ahead and I wanna hear this is mainly going to be from your perspective. So I want. What happened? At that bar that night you were sitting there having a pint doing whatever so. Me and my. Girlfriend at the time. were at a friend's birthday at this bar and was just a crappy little dive bar that was near us and. I see my girlfriend going outside. She wanted to smoke offs on one I. Mean She was drinking she wanted to smoke they go outside and I look out the window just to see she's up to because I'm bored on my mind with a bunch of drunks have no idea who they are. And, I see Jack here and I'm like. I think I know this guy I think, I, know this guy as he's coming in I'm looking more and more I'm like I really think I know this guy, my girlfriend comes in. And try, and I'm telling her I actually believe I know this person. Now. Is I find it funny because it was kind of the same saying that happened when we met up in college where it was just completely random like. Allie the blue so we need to get another plane and I. Was Not one. Before to be going up to someone be like, Hey, do I owe you. But I was changed person at the time. So I was like you know what screw it it would just be like, Hey, do I know you oh no. Okay that's fine. So then I as I hey, are you jack and? He turns around and he's like holy. Crap. and. Completely destroy friend. Could I mean I don't even think she remembered it and I think we spent the next hour I think you and your fiance I believe shoes your fiance at time came over hung out with us. We got the talking got the chatting exchanged numbers and I mean it honestly felt like we picked up. Like. We just left high school. Now to reiterate I looked considerably different. You hadn't seen me square on so it wasn't like you were just like, Hey, I think I know that guy but you hadn't really seen me square on I had long hair at that point I had grown up a beard all that, and then you randomly got completely touted up and great appeared yourself. So we looked a lot different than we did even a couple years prior while we were in school this would have been what? Four five years after he got out of college that would be I would believe. Five years okay actually. So. That was the first time that you had met my fiance at the time. Do you remember having any specific? Thoughts about her at all. Fun Drunk. Probably, the I mean I, I remember her talking to my girlfriend at the time and just like it seemed like they were just the best of France course my my now wife, she can be friends with anybody so that didn't surprise me. But just how friendly she was how talk if she was how? Laughing she was especially when she had a few drinks in her but. I mean that that was probably my first impression like between you and me it looked like it. Like we never missed a beat, I didn't feel like five years went past and even though we did look significantly different. But Like it. With everything that was going on it looks like okay. I can see how happy you guys are together and it was not shocked that you guys were engaged to be honest. Yeah, we had We had been we had our I think at that point we already had the the wedding day plan..

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