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"esther parral" Discussed on TED Radio Hour
"This. Message comes from NPR sponsored. Doc Tele Doc is here for you with twenty four, seven access to board certified doctors who can diagnose and treat not emergency conditions like sinus infections, allergies, rashes, and more and tell docs doctors can where authorized call in a prescription to be filled at the pharmacy of your choice download the APP today or visit Tele Doc dot com slash radio hour. Some days reading a bunch of headlines just? Isn't enough. You need to look the news sink in. On consider this NPR's new Daily News podcast, we can help you do that. Each day in about ten minutes you can find out just what happened but why and what it means. Consider this new episodes every weekday afternoon from. NPR. It's the Ted Radio hour from NPR. I'm a new summer, ODI and today on the show Therapist Esther Parral shares ideas on how we can all strengthen our relationships whether that's in the context of dating marriage family and more recently at work. But people go to work you interview them about their officiant resume. What school did they go to? What's experience at work if they had a nobody's asking you about your unofficial Unofficial resume is your relationship history. And that relationship history does not stop at the door when you go into the office, it travels which. And it is going to influence how you work with your colleagues or with your father. Would you co founder etc.. Few years ago nobody would invite me to come to talk about relationships into corporate during the business context because relate to risque no relationships was a soft skin relationship was soft scheme. It wasn't part of the bottom line and soft skills were often considered feminine skills and feminine skills were often idealized in principle and this regarded in reality. And as we moved in in the in the workplace from Production to serve is to identity economy where people now expect from work the same as they expect from their romantic relationships, those are the two places where people look for meaning community belonging to nudity all of those things. Now the relationships become the new bottom line. Because no amount of free food or money compensation benefits is going to compensate for a poisonous relationship. And then I began to think you know I would love to go and show how these. Relational dynamics that are have been exploring they don't just take place with your partner romantic partner. The actually are part of you relational life. And it's because of all those reasons that you started working on a new podcast has work right where you record therapy sessions with coworkers or co-founders and help them navigate their relationships and I i. WanNa play a clip from episode that's called not many men work with their moms were you have a session with the mother and a son who's been running a real estate firm together and I? The MOM ran the firm by herself twenty-five years before hiring her son when he was twenty two years old and now here they are it's six years later and the two of them are finding it hard to separate. Their relationship is mother and son and their relationship as business owners. I'm sixty one. And I have a problem. No. I don't know how I will go on and for how long. You have your whole life in front of you I don't. And I'm here because I cannot find references anymore comes a moment when I want to say, maybe there's something else for me. I don't know where I stand anymore. This is my problem and maybe that's why I'm so nervous sometimes you know sometimes I'm at the office I, see that he's a bad tempered maybe he's hungry. I'm going to discipline dome again and I do. Like this. Whereas the mom, where's the bus? Difficult while. Also when I tell you don't tell the clients my mom is busy she will phone you back tell Misys. Will Form You, back. All those things. You have to adapt very difficult. But I have I have question I have a question and I have questioned to you. Do. You still need me. This. I. Want to know you still need me. Honestly, the way it has been the last five, six years it has been a learning curve. and Um. I still learn every day from you. By the. Way that I don't need you to hold my hand as much anymore. You can loosen it a little bit. Or I let the hand go a little bit as well for my years to come. It's more knowing that.
"esther parral" Discussed on WNYC 93.9 FM
"Have all these couples happy ones struggling couples couples in that kind of you know things seem okay but I don't know Hayes tens of millions of couples confined for weeks now the relationships being remote it but it's locked down it's an accelerator it's a relationship accelerator so it's it rearranges the priority and throws the superfluous overboard you know in a very clarifying way for many of the elves when what's happening with couples I reached out to Esther Parral is couples therapist if you've heard of she's probably best known for this idea from her book mating in captivity that takes a toll on couples kills passion there's not enough distance between the partners they turned to each other for everything for friendship and a sense of identity and comfort and everything a whole villages to provide a person is very aware that under lockdown people are literally turning to the partners for everything these days using a full schedule of couples more than she usually does interestingly she says this is an unusually good moment for therapy I docked on lots of clients are opening up figuring out things in ways they don't normally like some of the men in the couple's sex for the first time they're actually doing it's exciting basically because they stopped this slow down their home and in their their like they like just blossoming of opening up and wow three do you know three men at each just accept like I don't want to get off the phone because you know it's very moving for most of the couples that you're seeing what's your.
"esther parral" Discussed on Anna Jelen The Time Expert Podcast
"Two TS talking and touching. I mean, how ironic is it that sex is everywhere. And still it's a huge tabu to talk about it. When with the one you doing it, actually. Sexuality is natural. But we don't treat it naturally. How come maybe because many of us, don't learn how to talk about sex, perhaps shame is a big issue. Maybe you haven't had anyone telling you about it. And unfortunately that is quite normal. But don't worry with small steps, you we get there. I find someone you can talk to maybe two best friend or a sex therapist, or your sister, or your brother, start getting used to it to say those words, and if you don't they're begin with the mirror talk to yourself. Get used to these words coming out of your mouth, you have never used before, and I have an advice for you here who for you the one who has never had sex education go, and listen to Esther Parral. She is an expert on relationships and sexuality and her podcast is called where should we begin Esther parental? P R, E L. And that's the first step. And very enjoy. Able, and she's a lovely woman, or if you haven't anybody to talk to start to write it down, and if you want to you can send it to me, and we can start a written conversation.
"esther parral" Discussed on Wash FM 97.1
"It will fall apart. Right. And then you run away the first time there's a problem in that. Right. It's over right? Yeah. And unfortunately, I think this is changing in media in books on on television and movies. I think it used to be the happily ever after I think, you know, what what draws us all now are things that we can more relate to which is reality. And the reality can be fairly bumpy is certainly noticed that in my practice that there are plenty of couples that come in, thankfully who had been married a long time and wanna stay married. A long time. They're not coming in. 'cause they're getting a divorce. They're coming in because they're not getting a divorce. They're coming in because they plan to be together. And to do that, they know that, you know, just like with needing to refresh your tires or get an oil change with your car that sometimes you have to dust off your relationship. Yeah. I know a couple that that sought counseling very shortly after getting married for that exact reason, you know, they wanted they wanted to make sure that they had the tools to keep it a long-term quickly and that takes effort. No. Yeah. Definitely. So when people get married, the ideas that will last forever yet in our society, divorced now seems almost inevitable at first marriage is almost like a starter marriage. Do you see that a lottery my just being cynical? It's funny that you say that because they actually one saw cartoon in from the New Yorker that said if you want to get married, you should have been married. So that idea, you know, to your point about the starter marriage that many people if you take their history ended up having one of those starter marriages, and that it was on that basis that, wow, they grew up a lot. They learned a lot it shook them up a lot. And then they figured out how to get themselves together enough to be able to find a better partner and to learn what it was that happened in that first relationship, whether you actually marry or whether you've had one or more long term relationships understanding why they didn't work not in terms of finger pointing at the other person. But in terms of understanding your own unroll is very very important to being able to make different choices and participate in the relationship differently. Otherwise, you just end up having your foot nailed to the floor and doing one more loop. Right, right. And it does seem I mean people's lives change over some time and even a couple's life would change over time. I guess part of the key to longevity would be in some way a adapting. To those changes. Well, it's interesting you say that because there's actually a couple's therapist practices, New York City who her name is Esther Parral, and she talks about the idea that if you're lucky you have a few relationships in adulthood, and if you're really lucky I may be misquoting it slightly that relationship happens with the same person multiple relationships with the same same person. Right. You know, the idea that you do grow and change, and hopefully, you can stay in communication with your partner and change together and change the relationship accordingly. Like, what's it like if you marry each other right out of college? And then what's it like when you're two people in your twenties to Dink's, double income, no kids, then what's it like when you move to the suburbs, and you have to kids, and then what's it like after they leave home all these life circumstances? And then what's it like when you're to retire people lie circumstances affect the couple? How you each a adapt to those things how you work together as a couple. We're don't all. The fact you. Yeah. We're talking with clinical psychologist, Dr Cynthia post and Bernie Lucas, and we're talking about love and marriage and divorce was jump back to the before the marriage part, what should couples who were planning a wedding be talking about with regard to their future. Here. We take the word wedding out first, Bernie,.
"esther parral" Discussed on Free Cookies
"Following at Esther Parral official on Instagram. My balls just turned into hearts. I like go in the happens. Well, Esther. Oh. I am so so excited to have ester here to day because an SR I don't know if you remember this, but a couple years ago we were at summit at sea, and this is this event put on by the summit series and ester was giving her talks there. And one of my friends is like you have to listen to her. She's the most magnificent electrifying human. You're ever going to meet go, and I was very privileged. The first time I heard you speak was in a more intimate structure. And then by the end of the event, everyone on the freeze boat had to listen to you and you were speaking in front of thousands of people, and I was madly in love with you. Yes, so much so that she was texting me like, please look up her TED talks. So then I was at home not at summits. Looking at the TED talks. He's been one of my number one guest to get on this show. So when you said yes, I was doing, we are worth happy dances and well, Catherine is woven on your background. I know some of our listeners won't be. So can you just start off by sharing a little bit of your background and how you got into this field? Yes. So. Mr. parental, I'm a couple Stirrup lists. I'm a family therapist as well been in practice for thirty plus years. I am also an author and I specialize in one particular triangle, which is relationships how they change with large cultural shifts, migration Verster, voluntary migration, mixed marriages. The revolution of the digital, the changes of political regimes, how big cultural changes in society's change, gender roles, and child rearing practices. And then after twenty years of doing that, I added sexual activity as the lens through which to look at how societies deal with change in with tradition if you want, you know, as a lens into societies into relationship. So it's culture. Sexuality relationships is the triangle where I live. In you speak so open the, I think that's what I remembered about you. The most is that you talked about such quote, unquote, taboo topics such a open. Relatable way where I was going through a lot in my head when I heard you speak, and after you just gave space in air permission to feel exactly how people were feeling, how I was feeling, but what kind of kickback do you get? Because you are talking about such topics. Do you experience any like, oh my gosh, you're talking about affairs in this way that so open when traditionally in culture, we've always been like who you can't talk about that. That's a bad thing, right? So do we engage people in the conversation about my latest book, which is infidelity marriage and infidelity relationships and infidelity is that I ask one very simple question. Have you been affected by infidelity in your life? It because you wear to child of parents who were unfaithful or who left for someone else, or you detailed of an illicit love, or you defend that somebody's been weeping to for days or you the friend who's been recruited as a confidant, someone else was in the throes of an affair or you are one of the three primary characters. The Strayer, the person who is betrayed and the third person the lover. And after I asked like that about eighty, five percent of the people will raise their hand. And now it becomes clear that we're not talking about somebody else and a few bad apples. But we're talking about us. And then I say, this phenomenon is ubiquitous. It has existed since marriage was invented, it usually is dealt with in black and white with massive judgment for all parties involved for that matter and which enshrouded in shame and in secrecy we can do better. We need a different approach for the oldest sin, a different conversation that is more caring and more compassionate, no less accountable, but more caring and more compassionate. And that doesn't mean it's condoning in that doesn't mean it's justifying. That doesn't mean getting anybody led the way get away with murder. That is simply some subjects are way too complex to have a one-size-fits-all. And this is one of them. Pain betrayal, deception lies secrecy. The entire human drama is encapsulated in the story of infidelity love and and it's been dealt with in very poor ways that..
"esther parral" Discussed on The EVRYMAN Podcast
"We've been spotty putting up podcast in the last month and that is simply just because summertime in the living has not been easy. That's not true. Just been busy couple weekends ago. We were at the women teach men event that we've talked about on the podcast here as wanna think Michael heaven, his whole crew for what they did and thanked thanks to Esther Parral and Gina Rodin, and all of the amazing women that were there was a really amazing event and pretty pretty honored and happy that every man got to be part of it today. I'm going to do very different podcast from normal m gonna start to experiment with this show a bit. A feel like the first chapter of every man has come to a close. I think that consisted of basically winter of twenty seventeen to summer of twenty eighteen and there's just a lot for a lot of reasons. Things seem to be entering a new phase of what we're doing. And I can say the same for myself to moving from Montana to California, really getting settled and then really kind of feel like what I'm doing and we're doing his buckling and for a much larger ride coming up in the next year or years, it's it's all very exciting things are very positive, and I'll talk a little bit more about it. But what I'm gonna do today in the podcast is actually state of the situation address state of every man state of Dan Doda. I'm just going to do a bit of a rant and I actually don't have, you know, I don't have notes. I don't have an outline. I'm just going to sit and talk about what I wanna talk about. Reuss gonna see how it goes. This might be a terrible failure. This might be a huge win will see, but it what it speaks to is that I'm looking to start getting more creative and more intentional with this show. And with this podcast, I love what we've done so far in a lotta ways. The podcast to date has simply be it was a great experiment to start. What can we do this? Can I do this? Can we pull it off? Will it have any value? Will people listen in the answer to most of those? Yeah, for the most part, yes, it's been a success..
"esther parral" Discussed on The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes
"Oh okay well i guess we have to have that conversation now so i really do think that from a financial place yours mine and ours the basic idea that is just to say look have some joint finances have some sense of we'll have this account that joint money goes into we'll pay for joint expenses from it but then have some autonomy have your own individual accounts have have something that you can use to when you want to buy the other person a birthday present i mean if you're joining count and i buy you a birthday present from that account i bought myself a birthday so let a person have a little autonomy financially but but have a joint account so there's still some sense of shared purpose financial yeah like that what do you think is the real reason people cheat on each other is that these little things that have added up over time that people aren't paying attention to i mean i think at its core it's the human need for connection i think esther parral and you know there's a lot of people she's incredible incredible i i love her work and i love the way she didn't know her personally don't and i've secretly said everyone usually do a panel with her would be the coolest thing in the world future of marriage you know we really because she has such incredible perspective and she comes at it from this mental health perspective and she comes at it from a really like a hacker mentality i don't think she realizes it but she is like she wants to uber marriage like she's thinking about like well why don't we do different instead of you know she's got that silicone valley approach which is don't look at how we did it look at it and go we'll wait what if we just ripped the technology apart and started from nothing what can we do with it you know and i love that about her and i love meeting captive i think it was like it was just a genius piece of work and again i think if people understood those concepts before they got married or even thought about them you'd already be a step ahead of the game because denting the problem is a huge piece of.
"esther parral" Discussed on 790 KABC
"That's good as it gets women it's for fluid they need they want this rinse change and mendel pay attention to that they don't well one of the things a huge generalization because my i mean my husband is incredibly more in motion intimidated i think it's incredible and i'm not talking about that talking about literally need that men tend to have narrows just by been at categorically my experience a narrow zone of the preferences of what they're you know ultimate preferences are and they stay right there and if it needs to go beyond that they need to pay attention and they can they're quite capable of it one of the things these author brings up and again she brings up the work of esther parral in the state of affairs is that for many wives sex outside of marriage is their way of breaking free from having to be the responsible spouse and the mother that they have to be at home so married sex for them feels like a obligatory whereas an affair is the venture in new and exciting i can understand banfield that way too though so is that okay is that something women have to this author what she's saying is the husband's i spend time with would have been fine with obligatory sacks for them adventure wasn't the main reason adultery they just wanted to have sex that's right at women i i question this article i question her finding i get it i mean i talked to so many women because he had sex more times with the one guy attack to buy shares x one time with four times able to gather all the information i i'm not talking about her information i'm just talking about from my own experiences talking to him and i know that are married a lot of them say oh we don't have sex anymore you know to them honey no that's a big part you better pay attention to move i thank you so much for being available to us and it's always a privilege to talk to you other than the bear guy where we look for you besides we tv marriage boot camp steve harvey i've i'm on a straight talk panels these days so that was fun so tune into that are fair enough look for their thanks thanks so much i love you.
"esther parral" Discussed on Slate's Double X Gabfest
"Okay i'm going to set some ground rules here i is all relationships are genuinely different i mean i'm not just saying that like people have all kinds of agreements like i've you know as life goes on i'm exposed to many different ones i know people are an open relationship so like obviously rules are different they're set by the partner and the second therefore we have to i always go to my the sex guru esther parral who's kind of like relationship genius she genuinely is deserves all the title that she has as being sex grew of her age she says the three key elements of an affair a secretive relationship which she says is the core structure of an affair so it has to be secret like like what you said noreen like you're you're actually building a relationship in secret entirely in secret you're building an infrastructure of relationship and then an emotional connection and sexual alchemy now i think the second to without the first is not an affair there's lots of people on this earth that you might have an emotional connection or if you're if you're like a living breathing human being there's lots of people you're going to have emotional connection or sexual alchemy with but it has to have the architecture of secrecy in order for it to be considered like you're walking on the path towards trouble don't you think yeah totally and what do you think of the argument that microchip eating or whatever we're calling it is actually good for your relationship if you've been in a relationship million years so the the theory behind this is that you know these studies i'm always so skeptical of studies but studies have shown that like for example in an extreme case like guys who mastered it to the same porn or the the same person in the porn like when they then see a new person they jocular quicker which you like so we could get more for that.
"esther parral" Discussed on The Tony Robbins Podcast
"France and the last piece is learning to expand yourself so that there for you are able to given receive an each one of the blueprints and i'll say this is an ongoing journey i have i started out energetic sexual i've learned how to become a shape schifter giving to people because of my work however in receiving ice to really struggle with sensual and kinky blueprints and so i'm still learning how to expand into those and get rid of my rules a you know like really work with my rules around them because they're still fear and vulnerability the central blueprint makes me feel so vulnerable and might them in entity when my heart is open and i feel like all others risk of getting hurt and the kinky blueprint is super scary because of past trauma where my body can interpreted instead of you'd be my lovert you'd becomes mike of my abuser and so i i found a lot of healing actually working in the kinky blueprint and i also am still developing my trust and ability to do received their bastaad history said they're still healing for me to do and it is an ongoing journey i've been on this journey most of my life and will continue to be on the sturdy until the day i die and i think a lot of people think oh amount of work of my sexuality that's really done as opposed to your your sexuality is constantly changing esther parral says we don't have one sexuality we have multiple sexualities and i love that because it's costly being recreated yes she also in the puck as episode she recently did with tony refers to the fact that she's been married for decades and you know they link multi people have nowadays have multiple marriages he says i've had multiple marriages just with the same person it's an exotic has as you know as you and your partner do the work and evolve end nino become shape shifter's aminu i wanna get into that in a moment.
"esther parral" Discussed on The Skinny Confidential Him And Her Podcast
"For cheating but yet hold it against them all the time you never give somebody the new you gotta move on your your mannerisms show that you're not forgiving my yeah um so i was listening to this amazing episode that the tony robbins podcast put out and it was a tony and i thank her name was astor but i'm not surprised what am i right on live okay and they said and i just above to know your take on this um she said she's a relationship expert she said that cheating actually has nothing to do with this significant other yep it has to do with yourself yeah it does that have to do with confidence disaster to do with values selfawareness what do you think that she means by that well desire like she talks a lot about desire and so what your goal is is to member i talked about the light in the dark your goal is to like mine through your lighten dark no when you guys got a manage life and be there emotionally in no when you guys have to integrate your desires and like be you know really spontaneous dark and like you know express like what you're feeling in that moment in like let intimacy flow her thing is you know i'm going back to what i you know a lot of people cheating is not a lack of love it's mostly you go back to them yeah of course but their desire and what happens is they are not communicating their desires in a relationship for a multitude of reasons but esther parral is one of she's a genius super slow articulate and she is somebody i learned from i love like just watching her speak because she kinda shines a light on adultery and cheating in a way where people it was so taboo 10 now it's like understanding but it's not even understanding why people cheat and saying that it's okay it's understanding a corn need an your human being you know and so and with that we have desires and to her thing is like what can you learn from cheese recovering the conversation before gift to the point of cheating yeah and shining a just a different light because the truth is.
"esther parral" Discussed on Elite Man Podcast
"Right and then sex is an area like people don't even dream about having an amazing sex life right that it's like especially if you're married you're driving me crazy uh deadbeats right like everybody turns middle age and i i an evangelist against no is it so many people to your right like as as we know relationships go on specially when marriage comes around and marriage goes on like this sex life just dwindles almost nothing i don't know there's something wrong with the i think there's something wrong with a water relationships in that aspect where they don't focus on it and now for they don't they don't work on it enough to to want to improve the sex life they just kinda get complacent in used to the fact that it wasn't as good as it used to be well if they get like you you know esther parral who i know very well are definitely will tell you that you turn your lover interior fired rat right like they become your safety they become the person you tell everything tech right and and and really sex now that you've got each other now that you're not going anywhere right what sex turns into like a chore right verses which is wrong grade it will it kills a relationship right if you don't matter keep your sex life a liar or keep it like what to do about that you will it will go down by no units certainly true look you're going to actively continue the this suspense the attraction all that stuff that goes in a relationship and i think most people cannot forget that aspect well as you uh yes let someone has been married and with the same man for twenty some odd years.
"esther parral" Discussed on Note To Self
"No to self is supported by rocket mortgage by quicken loans home plays a big role in your life that's why quicken loans created rocket mortgage it lets you apply simply and understand the entire mortgage process fully so you can be confident that you're getting the right mortgage for you to get started go to rocket mortgage dot com slash note hey everyone it's manuchehr what a year no to self is your guide to an accelerating world let the world has felt like it is looming extrafast injustice last year our podcast launched the privacy paradox wall our culture was rocked with news about russian meddling in our election through bots and facebook manipulation we asked what's up with ghosting people with esther parral and started digging into why the internet can get so toxic yulsel got massively board when we rethought how we use our devices and some of those often timewasting apps and games on mojo in short just another year it note to self because our goal is to provide you with the information you need to make the best choices in a digital world we found each other because were figuring this out in real time and trying to stay saying in the process the stories you get are produced by just a few people and it can take weeks sometimes months to get it right and so i gotta ask what's it worth to have this small but mighty team help you navigate this accelerating world i have a modest proposal.
"esther parral" Discussed on QUEERY with Cameron Esposito
"Gosh so i've been married a year and a half um congratulations say by the way i dunno if we've covered that oh cities six so great it is great i feel like i've been obsessed with there's this really great podcast in it's weird on a podcast to talk about an this is true there's this really great podcast on audible um that's hosted by esther parral and she's a relationship councillor and i am obsessed with listening to it for similar reasons to what you're talking about i've i find that like i am in it like i'm i am in this relationship i think marriage is way harder than i thought it was going to be i'm really committed to rio and i'm really committed to being married but i'm shocked like on a daily basis by how awful it is itself tell somebody to know you that well interior no somebody that well and so yet glick stars signs and calendars and podcasts and lake television shows anything that can be of help to try to figure out how to make sense of this i am i am in i am like ready to find that tool and use it 'cause i don't know how people have been doing this for censure is a think heavy metal and the i think maybe like you know initially because it wasn't glove because they weren't marriage wasn't like love based it was uh more safety or continuing the human population or it was like a financial trade i think maybe.
"esther parral" Discussed on Why Oh Why
"I love you now well then you're an oral girl your an oral girl rafael ovalles there with oral with you as i'm blessing the i mean you right like maybe i if i do know something's going to make me fall unreasonably for someone than i should be careful about that thing whatever it is look i'm going to scare you even more you know the divorce rate is at about sixty percent the cheating rate right now of all the relationships that are in existence about seventy five percent of them or at least as high sixty percent of them have one partner cheating in some form so what that tells us is that the norm is that it probably won't go the beautiful fantasy way that you have planned in your head right thurston i d in a way that is that is more deliberate riot what would that mean though ask more questions it's like what though uh hey three years from now when we're married i mean if we're married when we have three kids i mean if we had kids would you ever i mean we really can't planned for that and we know what esther parral told me i just interviewed already uh the other day here we go here we go means that cress actually has some issues with esther prowl specifically how she discusses porn in her new buck she considers it a kind of infidelity apparently and he considers that antimail but i really wanted to hear from him is what he thought of her suggestion dass these big provocative questions on a first date let me just tell you what she told me which is at she was like on your first state play a game with him ask him to imagine that you are twenty years into your marriage and what a fight together would look like so it was she came up with this fund game for me so i could not real that's not rid gaza if i was sitting with you let's say we wanna do me a new order because i'm in new york now and i'm now single and our.
"esther parral" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside
"I know for example just maybe to give you a backstory i've been married for it'll be thirteen years this year and i know a lot of guys who are in relationships that for whatever reason have become stagnant or boring maybe even a little bit and complacent and i really want to talk about that today why is that the case why is it that we become so complacent in our relationships great question and yeah great realization to it's so interesting ripe has when we first started dating someone at the everything's new and exciting and lead us imagine so i was going to stay that way and i was actually at a conference last month with esther parral who is just a genius on what those dynamics and relationship and how come they do become complacent and the way she explains at an israeli resonated with me is that there are two strong human drives regarding a relationship one is adventure and spontaneity and sexiness and adventure and the other one is safety insecurity instability and it's only recently as she explains in the past hundred fifty years of forget the exact number but very recent that we wanted both from the same relationship because before marriage will first of all there's other places and cultures they don't even have monogamous marriage for a long time in the west we have but for a long time it was about politics said stability for a family it was an economical decision sure so only recently are we like wanting to be in love with our best friend and wanting to have stability and also all of that fire and passion with the same person it is something new that we once and of course it's challenging if you look at having these two very different desires.
"esther parral" Discussed on Savage Lovecast
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