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"empty nest" Discussed on How To! With Charles Duhigg

How To! With Charles Duhigg

06:50 min | 4 months ago

"empty nest" Discussed on How To! With Charles Duhigg

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She's an award winning behavioral scientists professor at the wharton school and author of the bestselling book how to change in each episode. Katie talks to authors athletes nobel laureates and more about why we make irrational choices and how we can make better ones troy. Solid g. is out. Now listen and subscribe at schwab dot com slash podcast or. Find it wherever you listen. Mail chimp is in the business of growing businesses. So no matter what stage you're in male chimps. Smart marketing platform can help you grow and get your brand out there. You're more than small business and male chimps got more intelligent marketing tools to help you grow it with marketing automation designed tools and recommendations that all work together to help you sell more stuff. Mail chimp built for growing businesses. Enjoy how to the best way to support. The show is by joining slate. Plus slates membership program. Your contribution helps us produce the unique stories that you hear on our feet every week. It's only a dollar for your first month. And in addition to supporting our journalism members never hear an ad on a slate podcast and never hit a paywall on the sleep website. Slate plus members are essential to keeping this show going. So i hope you'll join if you're able to sign up now go to slate dot com slash how to plus again. That's sleep dot com slash. How to plus. We're back with our listener. Susan author an interviewer extraordinaire kelly. Corrigan one of the more common assumptions about empty. Nesters is that life suddenly gets really boring without your kids around but for kelly. It took an unexpected vacation to realize that. That's not necessarily the case. Both my girls were in camps. And i was away from my husband for fourth of july and i have this high school friend who has awesome place in lake winnipeg sake and he invited me up and i was the only single person there. It was four families and me. And i had the time on my life. I mean these are just the greatest people i know and their kids are hilarious and the water was heavenly and we did the campoy olympics. And you know it's just one good time after the next and so the next summer. Of course i was like we're all coming. I'm breen a family from california. Which is no small feat to get from oakland california to new hampshire but we did it and we got there and when we relieving. I thought god it wasn't as much fun this year. And i and i think it's because i was so hyper aware of georgia clarin edward and whether they were having a good time you know i just wasn't present the way you are when you're floating around in the world by yourself. I will say my own tiny totally irrelevant example. After my first four days of wandering aimlessly around my house when my son was sleep wake him. I was like oh my god. My life is so easy now. I was like i just worry about myself like my husband and i go out to dinner whenever we're done working. I don't feel like. I have to make a real meal like this is crazy easy and that comes from that. There's an idea. Yeah and where do you think that energy might go susan. I don't know well. I didn't do any spoken word until after i turned fifty so that was a a new and exciting thing and and and you know i'll probably maybe do some more spoken-word stuff. I just got a big writing contract so that will keep me very busy this year. Yeah i i do look forward to that sense of ease and yeah maybe we just don't let let's just have cereal for dinner and you know let's sleep in for the first time i don't have to get up and drive anyone to band practice at seven in the morning so looking forward to more of that so it's interesting that you're writing is maybe picking up at the same time that this transition happening and i'm guessing that rating is one way that you process some of these things indeed yes. I talked to a friend of mine. Arielle she's a therapist for teenagers and she brought up this very cool idea about compassionate detachment. Which sort of borrowing from buddhism to say that you know there. Is this idea that we could be detached in a lovely way like detached with hope like i. I'm still tearing. And i'm still available but i don't have demands on you. You're not required and are pass have split and maybe the best is yet to come. I mean or maybe something as good To holding out the possibility that you just don't know like you said earlier. You just don't know what comes next mike. At least we should believe it's possible that it could be awesome. Yeah so it seems like one thing we can say is we need to reframe empty nesting. Not pathetic can we agree. Can we get a consensus. Yes sir you think. There's a better phrase than empty nesting Yeah that's a good. That's a good yeah. Empty is too negative a word because it's hardly an empty. You're still in my husband. Still in it are three legged dog. It's just cluttered. Yeah.

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"empty nest" Discussed on How To! With Charles Duhigg

How To! With Charles Duhigg

04:45 min | 4 months ago

"empty nest" Discussed on How To! With Charles Duhigg

"You what you think about something. kelly it. I was so struck. Kelly recently had susan orlean on her podcast and she had said susan said that after her son left home she just felt like her life had no purpose and it was so striking because she's like a staff writer for the new yorker and multiple bestselling author is like sorta doesn't matter. I guess what else can be like climbing mount everest and your kid leaves home. And you're like oh. I guess i have nowhere to go today. I totally related to susan. Orlean said i. my life has no purpose and thinking. Wow that sort of a funny thing to say for a person who's fairly busy and You know occupied with what seems like fairly meaningful work and it doesn't matter it's not it isn't it does not rate with making people and growing citizens and fostering the kind of family connection that can keep people safe and supported for decades like that. That is two different kind levels of work and so in a way. It doesn't surprise me at all that any of us Think what am i supposed to do now. Yeah so here's our next heart truth. It's okay to admit that raising a kid is just profoundly different than hobbies or worker really. Most things feeling a sense of loss when that kid grows up doesn't make you a loser. It makes you human and as hard as it might be your next. Parenting job is to give the kids some space. You know the goal is to let them be where they are and that means like none of the vanity texting which is really more for you than for them you know the little heart and the stuff that gives you a little bursting. Dopamine on your end is taking them away from where they are on their end and that is why. I felt that was like torture. Because i can't get used to going from twenty four seven facetime and the first night sophie the first night she was there. I just texted her. You know bodo just good night and didn't hear back from her and then didn't hear back from her didn't hear back from her and i thought okay and i have never. I swear i've never done. I don't even know what the app is where you can see where you're kidding for the first time ever i thought oh i'm gonna look and see and she was like not in her dorm. The location was not were. Her dorm wasn't and might don't texter. Don't ask don't tell you what good for you it's funny. I texted claire the first night and just said can i do and nothing and i was like. Okay here. We go and then she's at uva and they had sent out this like digital newsletter every day and they had pictures from the first years who went to the football stadium to learn the uva fight song from the marching band. And i found myself like zooming in on these photos that you know her classes. If i may be here. She'll see like she's having fun. Did she wear shirt. Like who is. She standing next to like any information. But i do. I do think that the acclamation for for me has been faster than that's what i was gonna ask. Yeah like i'm like all right. This is it. This is the new reality. Like i'll talk to you in three or four days. You know like we were trying to go whole week and that didn't work but you know we went four days and i was like god. I'll never know what she just used to know. You need to know everything you knew who she was out with. You knew what time she got home. You knew what she was wearing she. You could tell whether or not.

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"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

Parenting Roundabout

04:01 min | 6 months ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

"Everybody would chip in for the groceries. And i think it lasted maybe woah. And then we just started just doing our own. Yeah because there was an eggplant pineapple casserole do a german woman from germany. Maybe that's the thing that pineapple we eat in california is not big slabs england. My goodness and and i think we all the other three of us looked at each other and said this is no more. Yeah my and then there were fights over toilet paper and stuff like that. So i think we need to my daughter and her friends are moving into this off campus place and so it's not gonna be furnished or have any stuff in it so you know i think when we get there we're gonna have to figure out like did anybody bring you know a sponge today. Anybody bring like. I don't know a dustbuster like they're just that's complicated it. They're very sort of loosey-goosey about like oh we'll figure it out like gonna be a lot of ordering from amazon and upping head target For their first few weeks while they get that sorted out somebody should have a business that he is a. Start your own apartment in college kit. That has all that in handed that you can just buy one thing. If somebody is not done this yet we should do they do. There are companies. That have like a okay. You know dorm apartment setup kit with right i although i don't know about apartment definitely dorm as a dorm package apartment on amazon to have an apartment. They would have. They do have apartments of amazon. Because there's a finite number of things that are easily figure out that you could just if you could just buy them in one expenditure. Yeah that would be handy amazon. Does laundry basket. He made she has some things from from the dorm but you know with this group of five coming together..

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"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

Parenting Roundabout

04:00 min | 6 months ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

"That's fine but for now i do it for him and i think it's it's bad and i got a teacher but i do it from my husband too. He has no idea how to do it all just the you know the check the paychecks go into the checking account. It works out great. So i don't know if that's still a skill the wings to teach. Our kids is data manage money in count change in well. My daughter did say the other day that she she wants to set up a budget for herself because she as with nichols daughter. She's going to be living off campus and She'll have to pay rent and she'll have to buy food and all that stuff so she's Instead of being like. Oh here's how you do it. I said well. I've heard you need a budget as a good a good program check that i probably know upside to mom trying to teach. I kind of punted on that. I keep trying to suggest that to. My daughter is a good idea or just a with this much in savings every paycheck of that sort of stuff. And i get a break that gates my guidance on this subject is not is not required wished for my money go away. Yes yeah i mean for her like we. I'm going to give her a lump sum for for her rent right and she's going to need to manage it so right which i think i think she can do. Yeah yes i mean we kind of had a. I think. Probably the reason why. I'm also in this extra panic is you know the first. She did go away the first year university and it was a little bit of a disaster. There is something. I clearly did not prepare her for and i mean obviously she learnt and it was a struggle and i guess i just don't want her to have to go through that again but that's part of life to write figuring it out as you go along or can't always predict you know what right what she's going to need to know unless you are airy like contributing her worries skills she gonna lose her vaccination card know. You don't want that. should you keep the original. This is and her a copy but then is that college going to take the copy. This is the but this is the upside of having to move to a different country when your children are very young they learn very early on the importance of passport and keeping track of documentation. If there's any skill that my daughter really excels that it's that she she knows where her password is every second of the day and she. She has all her documents in order. I have to say she is a document queen. You can check that one off your checklist mama. You did good. Yes that's good. That's i think it's more the cooking for herself thing. That was really stressing because my daughter would eat mac and cheese every night if she does she have sufficient funds for a steady stream of takeout. Well funny enough. We talked about a food delivery. Kid you're going to be like the only one in your building getting food delivery. Sure i don't know yeah. I'm pretty sure it. maybe not. Maybe he might be the only person it just seems like. It seems overly boozy thing for college students. Today she might lose nut fisher. She might lose street cred with her roommates. I dunno So yeah so my college roommates and we started a thing where we're gonna take turns cooking..

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"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

Parenting Roundabout

03:47 min | 6 months ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

"So that's looming which hence the previous podcast on what to do in the evening piazza's it will just see my and myself staring at each other for the entire evening. So yeah that's that's kind of where we're at. And so i'm i don't know how do you do you. Have this checklist in your head of things that you wanted to make sure your children new as they got older or knew how to do as they got older. Do you have that mental checklist. i don't know. Is it just me aging think of that. Sometimes i don't know but my friends told a very funny story the other day that her son is younger. He's like fifteen or something but He got a job and he was getting paychecks so they got him a checking account to put his. You know put his money in and so he here. Who's going along. He's doing his job. He's getting paid. He's seeing his his bank balance increase and then he did some sort of a side job and someone gave him some cash and he said to his mother my friend. He's like gosh. I wish there was some way to get this into my checking. She said we'll there. Is you just deposited in the bank and keith out. The word checking was because paychecks were going into a cow also. She had to explain to have like you know you can put money in. And it's not just for paychecks very cute like you know. You don't think you know you just don't you don't know what they don't know. Yeah so my son gets tips from work and he just has absolutely no idea what to do with cash. Like what is this stuff what to do with it. You know here. Do you guys wanted here you taken. It's like local. No it's your money care. But it's like a meat even like he could use it at the vending machine at work and he was for a while and then i showed him how he could use his credit card to work vending machine at work. And so now that's all he does and he brings the cash home. This useless stuff that people give him people. Keep telling me this paper stuff. I don't know what it is supposed to do with it. But they seem very feel like it's very important right kids in my daughter's like using cash. Either you know. I tell her she should always have some cash in her wallet. Because you never know when she's like yeah like it's all because really you're not gonna need it with my daughter it's all it's all van mo- yeah the tug and even not just our area. I don't use cat. I mentioned the other day that i belong to the rosary society. And we haven't been having meetings but you still have to pay dues into the lady said. Could you send me a check. For the do's and like i think i have a check somewhere. I'm not sure about stamps. But i guess i could take it to the post office Then law or zell or pay panel or something. Do i really have to send you a check done. It'd be easier to go to church with wada. Cash i just i just give it to the priest in pasadena next. Wbz you by and you just get so used to doing everything online. It's like you know mike. I do all banking for my son. Because he's not interested in in doing it in and eventually you'll learn in..

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"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

Parenting Roundabout

02:31 min | 6 months ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

"There as moms of teens and young adults. We've survived those little kid days yet. We're still rethinking the decisions we've made all through our kids lives and worrying about what's going on right now and that's very appropriate for today's we are obsessing today about the empty nest again. Have we done everything we needed to do. Up to this point so at around this time last year we talked about this because nicole's daughter was about to leave for college her younger child but it was kind of a false alarm. Her daughter ended up staying home. All during the cova. D- year so now she's moving out again and nicole may not be ready now. Feel a nickel not ready. I i feel yeah. this time. Last year we were planning for kristen to return to to university but my son have moved out because he was he went away to school and In the end she didn't go back to university. She stayed home all of that of the cova time and now she's ready to bust out regardless she's fully vaccinated and ready to go But it's kinda funny. Because i kind of feel like in in a way this last year to half with her at home has been kinda gift of extra time and But she was busy and working and doing online school and whatnot and so now of course. I'm in that last minute. Panic of whom i god. We didn't spend enough time together. I didn't you know she's going to be living with In a situation where she has to make your own food this year and she does not do well with that all leading to cook. And you didn't get that check. The teacher had a cook. I've got a. There's just so many of these little life skills that i feel like i've missed out on and undis- plus time with her because she's had a very busy summer and So kind of feeling very anxious about that and then of course just that whole you know this emptiness thing is for real this time for real..

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Kyra Sedgwick: Empty Nest, Barn Full Of Goats

Ask Me Another

06:14 min | 1 year ago

Kyra Sedgwick: Empty Nest, Barn Full Of Goats

"Our first. Two guests are writers for late. Night with seth meyers and you may know them from other places. Ben warheit played an awful wall street. Guy in the joaquin. Phoenix movie joker. Jeff rate is known for making hilarious online video sketches where he plays all the characters ben. Jeff hello go Jeff you make all these amazing videos on tiktok and instagram i. I don't know how many you've made over the years. I don't know if you keep track i. I've made a lot of videos and a lot of bad videos. Only post the good stuff. Only really. there's there is a a pile a pile of all. That's the real talent. I think knowing what not to post the talent. That's a good point Better that way before you entered obviously the writing for late nine. You're you're creating tons of content still in videos that you were in school. You're majored in neuroscience. Yeah yeah that's yeah. I i did like doing the research and but i found research to be really slow ultimately in a lab. And you're like asking one very very specific question that take several years to get a possible. Answer yeah in addition to having a background in science you also act. Including what am i ve favorite films because i found it. So chilling joker. Yeah favorite experience. Why was it your favorite. I felt like working on that. I was just learning a lot very very quickly. Like for instance. I wasn't supposed to be doing the stunt where i got killed spoiler alert. There was supposed to be a stunt double who got shot and falls and like it is falling on the concrete and crawling and blah. 'cause that's technically stunt. The stunt double shows up to set and he's wearing a different suit than i am and i think technically like you know they didn't know how they would. Maybe they would have to delay day or something like that That's huge amounts of money and inconvenience like you ruin the suits work. There was like a custom sued so it wasn't like they could just like men's warehouse. I was like i can do. This can fall and you know. Do the stunt. I was a child gymnast. Like i know how to do that stuff. Okay yeah i can feel. I just tested this day. I can still do it. Yeah okay then we just try doing. I'm running away from joaquin. And he's firing a gun at me. And i'm like they decided on the day of the like maybe you've already been shot in the like but once and what does that look like. I haven't liked prepped. Running with a bullet in my. But let's try try it and then after after walking comes in like empties the gun into the back of me and runs up the stairs and jed quiet. They'll be they'd yell cut. And then i'd get up and then me and todd and joaquin would go watch playback and be like we'll how did that look that look right. I don't think that's how you'd run if you had a bullet and you're like no i do. That's exactly how it is. And i and i was just felt like i was learning so lightning vast ultimately at the end of it. I felt like it really paid off. And like after i wrapped walking pulled me aside and said some really nice things to me. That was very encouraging awesome. He said hey man. I like the way you like it. I would like to offer you ten thousand dollars to shoot you for real sometime. All right we have a couple of great games for you. Are you ready. Ready to dive into some games. Jack ass excellent so. This first game is called real or fake hallmark original movie. We'll describe the plot of a made for tv hallmark original movie. And you just tell us if it's a real movie that actually exists or a fake one that we just made up all right. Jeff chasing leprechauns won. An american company. Wants to build a smelting plant outside as small. Irish village troubleshooter michael. Garrett is dispatched to help. He soon learns. The land is protected to ensure the safety of the leprechauns who were believed to live there. Enter sarah kavanagh a local pixie expert. Who teaches him about the mystical traditions of ireland and also about love. I've seen that on disney channel. That's a real movie. you see it. Yeah that's a real one actually seen that movie. I don't know if i've seen that movie. But i've seen two movies. That have best guys. I got it right all right then. Here's your here's your chance. All in having trouble paying her college. Tuition beth nolan gets a part time job at the casino and befriends dealer maureen who works there to pay off her. No good ex husband earls debts. Maureen teaches beth poker and when beth enters the world of competitive poker-playing she finds herself at the state championships up against none other than earl and the stakes are all in. It sounds good to me like i. It sounds honestly. It sounds airtight. Like but but you know. I'm an airtight. Maybe i'm playing the odds here. A little bit like maybe. Maybe i think in hallmark movies. They're not gonna take time to

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"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

Parenting Roundabout

05:29 min | 1 year ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

"Yeah i don't know. Yeah that's always going to appeal to me like whether it's voice our i dunno. Cut something meal making making thing pudding sets together costumes. Death is that kind of peace. That always kind of appeal. Only to be interesting. it would be very. It'll be a hard job. I think to have. The hours would be long and know it'd be probably be contracts so year working nonstop first time. Nothing right like. But i think just the job itself would be kind of just fun to brainstorm get creative. You know terry found a video about the design on it was so interesting away just because there's so much involved in terms of research and you know for that because it was a historical drama but For any for any fill. You know law that stuff about either sad or props or costumes like really expressing the story through those gangs so interesting. Yeah and get yourself something like bridgeton where they basically say. You have an unlimited budget. Make a bunch of pretty dresses make like at some breaches his wealth but still mostly pretty dresses. Yeah i so. That's kind of though would be fun too early educational materials. I think something creative. My husband started his college. He started out majoring in film and tv editing. No he didn't end up doing it 'cause someone basically told him like this is really hard. Never make any money. So he's to advertising but i think like you know because he is created and he does like to. I don't know if you'd call it working with their hands. But like we're used have a project down and you do it and you see the outcome right away. You know that kind of thing. I know that really appeals to him so a lot of times i think about. Maybe he should've stuck. That's jobs this really cool and really important. And sometimes you would hear people like directors talk about what a difference the editor made and how you know certain editors are really really well respected but boy you are invisible to everybody else. You get no credit you get. You could completely shape something that would have been nothing without you and yet everybody else is going to get the credit for it. So you'd have to be the kind of person who doesn't care about that. yes. I guess there are. I think there are people like that. That just they wanted to be the credit in the industry though not so much. That's true face get high facing pettitte. The ones who are really good at one who works for the ones who worked on the good place got to be on the podcast true. That's right and oftentimes to enact roles as well. That's true i think. Didn't they various creative people on the show got to be deemed some sort of a writers but navy. Yeah yeah yeah. I was like the behind the scenes stuff. Like how do they right you know..

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"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

Parenting Roundabout

05:54 min | 1 year ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

"And i'm here with catherine and nicole heretics as moms of teens and young adults. We've survived those little kid days yet. We're still rethinking the decisions we've made all through our kids lives and worrying about what's going on right now. Today's thursday which means it's time to give into are obsessing and today were obsessing about jobs and careers we might be thinking about now that we have fewer responsibilities to drive kids places and fewer kids in the house Of course with the pandemic schooling situation that maybe has reverted for some bad on on. You know homework supervising detail but still as things change and you know we've all had the had the benefit of being able to freelance and still keep our hands in professionally while being really really available to our families You know many parents do that in different ways but you know as the nest empties out a little bit. Have you been thinking about doing different things going into an office. I gotta tell you. I've interviewed in offices. And as i've said on this podcast before everybody in them is young and attractive and they do not. I would not want to be i. I don't fit into the workplace now. I'm the person that you have working out of her house. And you send her work and she sends it back. And you don't actually have to deal with her. I would be sitting there clucking it. All the young people doing their young people things clicking but is there something that you know if you could snap your fingers and do something different than like without having to go back to salute or do whatever preparation you would need. I have from time to time in my career. Done the thing where you just go do something that requires absolutely no creative. Thought at all. Like i was freelancing for a number of years and then i got a job as a secretary and i just sat at a desk a type letters was glorious and then i got bored with it and i went back to my creative stuff's every now and then i will stop and take a job that has nothing to do with writing or editing So i do think that sometimes you know. I signed up like for amazon job search for my son and so the text you know everyday tech jobs.

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Interview with chiropractor Dr Mike Schneider

Moving2Live

04:59 min | 1 year ago

Interview with chiropractor Dr Mike Schneider

"Dr Schneider. Thank you for taking time to talk to Pittsburgh Philip PG and moving to live. Sure my pleasure. Guess the first question I. Want to ask because I was I made aware of you because I'm also guilty of these silo knowledge is. You see somebody in the elevator, what's your thirty second elevator Spiel of who are you or what you do Yes. So my elevators. I am a chiropractor by training working in a physical therapy department doing back pain research on a full-time basis. And I know I wanNA touch briefly on how one goes from a career as a chiropractor seeing patients which I know you did for many years we won't say many many years and then you did Not, really a complete one eighty, but a big shift and decided to get a PhD. Briefly. How to do or why did you decide to go into chiropractic medicine and then what was the decision to kind of go and get some additional education and go from primarily patient care to doing research? Sure and I did do kind of a one eighty mid career so. Beginning back to why they go into Chiropractic it's interesting. Her somebody saves me once before we choose our career pass when we're basically teenagers. Right, so I'm. I'm doing Undergrad, studies I went to. University of New York at Binghamton, as a biology major, and I wanted to go into some kind of healthcare profession and. I you know I was was intrigued by sort of the the alternative fields to medicine. I didn't want to go to medical school I wanted to do something else carpet just appealed to me was something different. Alternative. Kind of A. Mainstream alternative and not completely alternative medicine field. So I chose Chiropractic as as my profession being young and. Naive I guess. And I know prior prior to moving to Pittsburgh and becoming acquainted with the number of chiropractors. My thought of Chiropractors were they were somebody that you went to a couple of times a week for basically I'm saying this an air quotes back cracks and I've learned over the past seven or eight years that there's really. Two directions, the chiropractors go there's those that do that. They want to get people in maybe on a subscription basis where they come in multiple times a week, and then there's others that I've been fortunate to meet where they work in a manner that's very similar to the way physiotherapists work in other countries or physical therapists work. Which Direction when you started out in your career path where you or was it entirely different when you started out as far as the directions, the chiropractors tended to go. Well I'm not embarrassed to tell you to my agent I've been practice I graduated from chiropractic school in Nineteen Eighty two. So many many years ago well over thirty years ago. And at that time, chiropractic. Had Not quite evolved to where it is now but over the years since that time we started seeing, I think the boundaries between physical therapy and carpet professions getting blurred and what I mean by that it's probably in the late ninety s crate Lebron Sin The chiropractor from Los. Angeles started bringing his rehabilitation model to car practic. So prior to that most banks just doing the manual. As you call back cracking techniques and then start blending rehabilitation techniques at the same time the physical therapy sessions going the other direction where they mainly just prescribing exercise not putting your hands on people as much and there was an interest in the PT profession and the eighties and nineties start introducing more manual techniques. So I think we're seeing you know blurring of the lines now as evidenced by me a chiropractor working in a physical therapy department. And what was the impetus after working as a chiropractor to as you said, do a career one eighty, get a PhD in rehabilitative sciences and become more heavily researcher. Yes. So even when when I was in clinical practice all those years and I practice over twenty five years before he decided to get a PhD which is very unusual thing I'm finding out that's not typical path. But all those years in practice it always kind of bothered me I was helping people but I was realizing in a sense we're experimenting on patients doing things that I would learn at conferences or at reading books. Would do them my patients. I felt part of me felt badly about that like I. Don't know for sure that this works I. Think it does. And so even when I practice I was publishing papers and trying to get involved research. It seemed like I always was being pulled in that direction. So. Quite frankly was his family events change. I have two kids when I started getting sat empty nest part of life. So we're really what do I to do now right I got my kids through. High School and they're often going into college. I'm going to go back myself.

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The Thing About Maintenance

A Slob Comes Clean

05:07 min | 1 year ago

The Thing About Maintenance

"All right. Let's talk about learning from gardening. I'm not talking about actual gardening. You know when I picture gardening, I picture my mom who is the Garden Club Queen. Like I think if they have a queens, she's actual Queen I mean that's that's what she did she basically that was her. Empty Nest what she turned her focus toward. And she is has always been. She grew up her dad was a farmer. And so she loves outdoors she's always put a lot of effort and time into the yard. That's not me. So knowing anything about plants. That's not me knowing what I'm doing that's not me. I basically have just been trying to recover my yard. From pretty much not doing anything to it for like fourteen years so. There you go. I'm not at this as someone to tell you how to garden. I'm just telling you. This is what I've been doing to try to recover from fourteen years of basically ignoring my yard now when I say that. We know we have. Nice grass. We did put out grass at one point, but the the woman who had the house before. Loved reminds me of my mom you know she loved. Working in the yard, and so she spend time every single day going around and watering everything. So there were tons of plants and small trees and all these types of things that needed to be maintained but I didn't understand they needed to be maintained. Do you see what I'm saying I just thought Oh that's nice and then over the course of fourteen years of me pretty much ignoring those things they grew into their own jungles basically. So thought of that. was on the side of the House and we had taken out some things in the front yard. My husband would get frustrated and he would chop things down and you know try to deal with it and we so it's not like it was a complete and total jungle, but it wasn't maintains like it wasn't Nice at all okay and he is great about mowing the yard not. I. Don't. I don't want you to think that I'm bashing anything and I. Were talking about gender roles and inside outside and Blah. Blah Blah and whatever no I mean it it basically. Both of us has all vision about our flowerbeds and stuff like that. That were completely overgrown and all that kind of stuff. So Like I said, I decided to start working on it. So what I'm doing here is I'm just GonNa, tell you what I've done and what I've learned because here's the thing. I. have. Watched my mother forever work in the Yard K. as a child she would spend time out there. You know going over, she would walk me around her yard in and show me things and I'd be like great okay. but at the same time for me I didn't care enough to actually retain the information do saying so i. Just kind of went out there and I said, what is it that I need to do in these? flowerbeds and I said well, there are. Leaves in the flowerbeds like we've. breaked leaves from the yard but there's just a build up of leaves in the and the flowerbeds. And so I was like, okay. I'm going to start by getting the leaves out you guys. That is the same as trash in the decluttering process okay. It was the most obvious. Wasn't supposed to be there needed to be removed. And gotten rid of Steph. Okay. So I went through and I literally would go three feet by three feet. I would basically just go outside again this was back in March in April when it wasn't hot yet and I would say I'm just going to kind of go as long as I can go I would just work. Some days, it would be twenty minutes some days it would be two hours, but I would just do as much as I could do, and my whole goal was just to get across the front of the yard getting the the leaves taking care of. Okay. Now, how does this relate to maintenance? Well? Let's talk about this idea of maintenance and let's talk about why it is a real trip for so many people like us. Okay I've taught before. A lot about how I have a project brain if I have a project brain. then. By reality is that I view things as. Tasks as having a beginning a middle and an end. So I look at my house. Use to look at my house still do 'cause you know that's just where my brain goes, but I would look at it and think. I need to get my house cleaned up and the word maintenance didn't fit into that because I thought that was what came after

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"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

Parenting Roundabout

03:38 min | 1 year ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

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"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

Parenting Roundabout

07:36 min | 1 year ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

"Not sure how I'm going to cope with it when it all. And they're not. They're not that far away. I mean it's not like they're going to the other side of the world, but it still it. It's just that I think what I'm. Worried about the most is just that empty house. You know literally the Empty Nest like I'm not. I don't worry about where they're going and how they're going to manage, and you know what their challenges will be or I just worry about. Old! how? Does this quiet house. Now the sentenced to big refer US right. Is because. One of them is taking. My son is taking all of his furniture, so his bedroom will be cleared out pretty one and then my daughter she's. She's of course gonNA. Leave her bedroom as it's because she just. redecorating. Of? But yeah it's. It's definitely gonNA. Have a very. Empty to scientist. Putting it out there I don't i. don't know what's next for me. Personally make you. Have you know they've got the next chapter in their lives and what they're gonNA do and they're working towards their goals and I just kind of feel like. Is that it like I. Mean I know mothering 's not done, but my my day to day mothering in person. As long as they are more than bones your day to day. Mothering is still a lot I think. This will, but you don't in the different areas not in person, but in a load of laundry I'm out in a load of laundry and for them. It's going to be I really kinda worried. Actually. We're not WANNA. Do next I mean. Still kind of. A not. Near retirement yet. They're. Clay you know I still have. You know hopefully can lettuce. A lot of time left to do something with my life. And what is that? Yeah, I don't know. I just don't know. Do you do either be hauled? Friends that are in this stage. What are they doing? I! To I feel like. That's a good question. because it's like I mentioned. It's halfway there for me because. My daughter will be going to college. At least we think so hope so and I hope that she'll actually stay there. So yeah I mean. I think it's going to be very weird also just. To, have one less trialed in the house and And also because everything is so different right now because of covid like you know. Normally my son would be on his way to camp and. We would have a a half empty this this whole week. Because of him being at Camp but. great you know with everything still being so uncertain about what will he be going to school like high school in person while he get to do his activities and things, it makes it really hard to sort of predict and plan and try to make the best of. The situation you know I mean. The way we did distance learning in the spring. Did Not work so we can't do that again so we're going to have to have. Does that mean I'm going to like. Sit next to him and were connects to him. Oh Man, he would not. Know nor you probably know also, but that's not really about the empty nest. Is it but I? Won't have my buffer my. My other child. The. They've always gotten along and they always. She's always been very good with them. In terms of you know smoothing. Over his ruffled feathers and so I'm. Anticipating what I'll be like without the and you're using her to do some of the work with him to write paid her the tutor him in math, yes. So, it's still do that from a distance. Right do that by zoo. I. Need a little extra money. They're in College Tony. I'm sure she'll have time for. Gear daddies weird to have once you know when sibling going while the other sibling is still UNSCOM. You had that to Nicole. Yeah, I mean. It's weird when it's just the parents left, but also if there's one sibling left it just kind of changes, the whole balance of the family, and instead of the parental focus being divided. It's now on one kid. That one porch. Moon which maybe sometimes likely attention, and maybe sometimes you know they. They wish there was somebody else to get in trouble besides them. Yeah, I speak of this with no personal knowledge. Because you know, my kids are never gonNA lead the nest cell, you know or not in the foreseeable future, even though I would have absolutely good use for their rooms if they ever did. But I'm not I'm not a my breath. Which is fine very happy to have them here. No problem at all, but you know. They went to community college and lived at home and they. Neither of them has a job that would enable them to live in an apartment if they wanted to. which they don't so I. My nest is snugly full for. The foreseeable future. Nicole? What are you going to do with all your extra bedrooms now? US newly painted in one case in. That yourself. I'm newly painted an. And! Just air beating AIRBNB. There you go! Yeah, I'll AIRBNB. Honestly don't know I mean I was in a move into Move my office into Josh's room. Because it's at the front of the House and I get a nice view of the mountains that we've come to realize that it's just a really hot room like it's GonNa be. Far. Too Hot to sit there in the summer so. I don't know like yeah, 'cause now I've thought. Josh's meaning. The room that I'm in. It just yeah the way the house is laid out. There's just GONNA be. So I, don't know. 'cause he's. He'll likely not come back right like he's in a situation where. He's got four years of university or medical school, and then he's got to go do his residency and who knows where that will be? And by then he probably will have you know after that he'll get a job and who knows where that will be, so he's not. Done right. He's not. He's not coming back. So. Yeah, just kind of a weird feeling, definitely a weird feeling to just kind of be done with that that that job of. TAKING CARE EASING Yeah. Well. It's also like. The anticipation right I mean you don't know exactly what it's going to be like. Right so that makes it a lot easier to worry. Doesn't it? Yeah well, then the thing is is gonNA taste of it. When my daughter went and.

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"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

Parenting Roundabout

02:05 min | 1 year ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Parenting Roundabout

"Of July thirteenth I'm Katherine and I'm here with Nicole. Eric's. And Terry Morrow. As bombs of teens and young adults. We've survived those little kid days yet. We're still rethinking the decisions we've made. Alter our kids lives and worrying about what's going on right now. Today's Thursday which means it's time to give into are obsessing and today. We're obsessing about that. Looming Empty Nest for Nicole. It's happening in two weeks for me. It'll be a little bit longer for it to be half-empty. One one child flying the coop so. Yeah! Let's go nine Nicole It was a little. Unexpected because prior to Cova. We were sort of expecting it and then after Cova. We thought no. It's not going to happen, but now. We have realize that it is going to happen, so yeah so. In two weeks. My son is moving out. He's heading off to medical school and then shortly after that two weeks after that, my daughter's leaving. She's going to go Do Online school at her university. So yeah, we you know of. But it's just really starting to hit hard now. So. I'm I'm kind of in this? I. Don't Know Not Tonic Moa but I'm like I feel like I'm walking on days because I'm realizing that. My house is going to be so quiet and. Empty? I mean mind you I still. Of course you know the the two cats that my son brought into the house are going to stay here there because they're not going to medical school. So, we still have the animals, but Yes, definitely a new chapter and It's a good thing. I like my husband. I really I. Yeah like I said. I feel like it's kind of surreal I don't.

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Are You Bored and Tired?

Legacy-Dads Podcast

08:13 min | 2 years ago

Are You Bored and Tired?

"Going to have a great discussion here at Chad. Chad's got a kind of a different background. We're used to Dante and I when we come in here. We talk about men's issues kind of from the idea of being being husband of father and while Chad's a husband and father he also has another unique perspective. But before we do that Chad. Why don't you introduce yourself to listeners? Kind of You know who you are. How long you been married? Kids background where you're at in the country and all that type of stuff. Yeah my name is Chad Zouk. I am the Creator and curator of a new kind of man and you can find us on Instagram at that handle or on facebook with the same and actually I am a pastor of a local church in Dublin Georgia. But some of the best things about my life is actually. I have been married for twenty six years to my high school sweetheart. We got married at Nineteen. Didn't have a clue found out that we really still don't have a clue but we're working on it and we have to fantastic kids a twenty three year old son and then a sixteen year old daughter and my son is out of the House and my daughter is a junior in high school. So that is what I'm doing and we have been in full time ministry for fourteen years while this worked on airplanes and pushed a toolbox around the hangar and prior to that I was in the navy awesome awesome. And so you guys. You guys are closing in on the empty nest thing to that in a couple years out once your daughter gets out of the house right. Yeah Yeah it's surreal. I mean we're actually doing a junior college day a week from sat at her day. So this is. It's happening really fast. And she cannot wait to get out of the house. At least that's what she says. Now Yeah that's what I thought too. The kids left and then one came back for a little bit and it was kind of like okay and everybody told me they warned me. Like hey don't just because they leave doesn't mean they won't come back so yeah we'll we'll see we got the the sun's gone now for for good. We got rid of him now. He's he's out and then our daughters in college so we'll see We'll see if this is really for the the empty nest piece so so Chad. Tell me a little bit too. So what prompted you to to start a new kind of man? I know you guys You got a podcast doing some You do blog posts as well right and then just just developing this ministry bit. How did how did the new kind of man come about you know I? I have to say that my work way before a new kind of man was generated. My work Really began win. God taught me how to be a father by him by him. Bothering me in that was against B twenty four years ago or so since twenty three so before he was born really started my journey and then Just kind of learned things along the way and I started working with men at a local level probably eighteen years ago eight and so doing that and kind of walking people in walking through groups and all of this Roh is rooted in what was the catalyst for all of it was my healing as God. Healed me of some wins in my upbringing and I wasn't raised in a Christian home and just a lot of this and marriage in just all sorts of fear in confusion people pleasing just across his past as God started. Heal those wounds. I just couldn't help but a see those wounds in other men who I wanted to be an instrument of God to help heal those so in that work with a new kind of man it actually went public a year and a half ago or so in the podcast is brand new on out for a couple of months. Now it's picking up steam and Was Gracious to have you on. That has actually been the the podcast that has been downloaded the most so that to you. So but yeah it. It's being great in now is because of social media and podcasting as mother things that I'm doing Just a private men's facebook group called new man crew. Now have the opportunity to helping more men and I'm thankful to be able to do so. I WANNA I WANNA help men to become stronger to bring Lord God and bring good in the world just so everybody understands like you say you've been doing this for a long time almost eighteen years now but just recently kind of did you know coming into the social media and doing the Internet thing. But you've been you've been down in the trenches working with men for for good Almost two decades now. That's correct right. Yeah Yeah Way before I was actually in full time ministry which is doing it just again as a man and his God would show me some things. I just can't help stick my nose into other men's lives. It would wanNA listen and walk along with them. In God's really been gracious than he's allowed me to see some amazing things happen in other men's lives and any still doing work in me. Yeah a man. I'm perfect so my sanctification has done. So Nah Yeah I wish yeah I think we are all a work in progress. Some of US more of a project than others. Dante Dante's a huge project. So since he's not here all through that Al but anyways seriousness aside here but Chad so one of the things I wanted to really talk to you about an and I kind of luted. This in the beginning was Dante. Ni- we kind of look at. We look a lot of this through the lens of being a husband or father being somebody's sitting in the pew or or Lay lay leaders or or ministry leaders and stuff like that. But Chad. You've been blessed you've kind of You're in a unique position as a shepherd of the flock to to see what's going on with men from different perspective. So you know if you could from from a pastor's perspective kind of explain what what are you seeing right now. What are you know? Positives order negatives. What are some struggles? Maybe men are having in your congregation. Could you could you talk a little bit about that? Yeah for sure. I think I'll give one of the positives that I see happening with. Men and women also within American Christianity. Anyway is I think some of the denomination walls coming down and then some of the elements of spiritual formation instead of just being seen as is relevant to or being seen as to eastern or to. You know whatever new agey. I think that there there are people who are understanding the benefits of some of the neglected spiritual disciplines which is allowing people to really understand the value of their time in of their soul. In a couple of things. I would speak about it. As far as that goes is the benefit of silence. We we are in the noisiest time period in history. Yep So many things I mean you go to the gas station. There's no there's screen at the gas station. You know with an advertisement trying to sell you something for showing me something or giving the news about something. Of course we have television and we have our phones and we have all the social media things. Not many of those things can be great but they're vying for attention in. All of those things are kind of pulling us away from our purpose at times so. I think that one of the things that I see is is now other again. Those denominational lines going away to where it's not just the logical dogma in saying no. I can't do what you do because of this. I think there were actually starting to see some of the benefits of cross denominational in incorporating some of those bits of speech formation. That are are helping us to learn the value of slowing down so that we can be present in the areas that we need to be president in the

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Neil DeGrasse Tyson: I Am More Than Science

Toure Show

08:26 min | 2 years ago

Neil DeGrasse Tyson: I Am More Than Science

"Neil degrasse Tyson. It's one of the most brilliant people alive but when we finally got together for an interview I WanNa talk to him about science. I WanNa talk about almost anything else. So we get into who he is a deep about. How race has impacted his life. The book concludes with Attribute Kim say to your father your sorry Eulogy Yes yes and You Know I lost my dad last year Owen did. Your Dad passed three years ago. Three years ago and You honor him beautifully. Can you tell us about him? And how he leads into you sort of the way you sort of take from him to become who you are. Yeah So my parents were married. Sixty sixty four years until his death to the end right now and We had a stable household. My mother was a housewife homemaker. Today I guess we call that Until were empty nest and she went back to school. That was by agreement by the way so the agreement was my father would continue working and then my mother would raise the children at home. There were three of you. Yes and the middle earth and raise the children and then when we were mostly empty nest enough she will go back to school and pick up her career which is exactly what happened. And she went back to College. She got a degree in Gerontology. Became a German got her masters Gerontology. The study of the needs that afflict old people. Okay Okay and how to resolve Geriatric Okay. Yes correct to gerontology geriatrics the same route And she ended up working for the FEDS. Allocating moneys to retirement communities Old Age centers nursing homes this sort of thing so my father was studied sociology and got his Masters at Teachers College Columbia and was always his entire life. Maximally concerned with the plight of the under served and in New York City in the nineteen sixties. It was then known as the ghetto. He got noticed by the city. He got pointed to be a commissioner of human resources by Mayor Lindsay in the nineteen sixties during the most turbulent years of the civil rights movement in the big cities he. He worked long hours. We'd see me come at eight something like that. But he was home on the weekends and we would Cook Breakfast and dinner on the weekend so he participated household when he could but during the week it was mostly my mother who was raising us. And what reference in my eulogy are things that he said and did that contain called deep levels of wisdom. You know what is wisdom? It's it's ideas. It's wisdom our thoughts that you have that are the distilled essence of your life experience after you've discarded or forgotten the details that's actually a necessary part of wisdom that allows wisdom to come out in the form of sentences. No one's GonNa hand you a five hundred page book and say here's my wisdom. That's that's that's not wisdom wisdom almost fi construct has to be so simple and so deep that you just pause and reflect on it without getting mired details so one of them was. It's not good enough to be right. You also have to be effective. You can say I'm right therefore it should be this way. You know we don't have time for you. Have you navigated a pass to make this happen? Have you bought for example? The you know the water hoses and the in the south during the during the protests. Okay why do we have perfect video and photographs of it? Beacause the organizers made sure the press was there knowing they'd be able to capture those conflicts. This was even done even go back as far as Gandhi This was portrayed in the film Gandhi where he's ready to have a protest. It is not useful if no one knows about it if you get your head whipped by the local police and there isn't a photograph of it. You are in the right but you're not effective so you invite the press. The sympathetic press so that for me was very important in getting things done in navigating the terrain on which you're trying to implement social justice and the press doesn't write about events that don't happen why would they well in the late nineteen sixties watts burned. Detroit burned Washington burned. You're newark burned. New York City did not burn. The most populous ghetto in the country was basically quiet in the wake of the Martin Luther King assassination. Yes there was some minor skirmishes compared to what was going on elsewhere. No does anyone write a story no riots in New York The story is written. My father was active in the human resources administer. He's the commissioner a city commissioner. Making sure that there were opportunities available to people who needed opportunities for jobs to feed their family. What is a riot if it's not the very last act of desperation of the mouthpiece of the voiceless it is the it it not only voiceless people who are also hopeless Once you've run out of hope you have no options. You can have no voice but still hope you're not gonNA rock it. You gotta be voiceless and hopeless in it. Yeah so people in New York. The inner city of New York didn't was not without hope without some confidence that maybe there are opportunities just on the other side of the hill. I'm just saying these are things that my father was engaged in that I will not ever forget. I'm their son the astrophysicist but I stayed grounded in what matters for any kind of progressive change in this world and for me progressive. Change IS THE INEVITABLE. Consequence of rational thought applied to challenges. So no I'm not hitting people over the head saying you should be more progressive. Because then we've learned that some people dig their heels and more strongly to impose you especially in modern times where conflict has fomented on social media. But you just get people to think a little differently about things in the face of evidence. I've found that can have potency of its own and as an educator and as a scientist this is what I've done an in the book. Essentially every reply to people have written to me is an attempt to layer onto them some degree of measured rational thinking still some emotion there. You can't just be cold about it. But you want to empower people to be able to sink in new ways so that they can say. I now know how to analyze this information in ways I did not previously. Thank you for this bit of scientific insight. That allows me to do that. And that's what this book is about

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Gaining Financial Dignity with Stacey Flowers

RISE Podcast

06:41 min | 2 years ago

Gaining Financial Dignity with Stacey Flowers

"What I would love to know. Because I'll tell you how I discovered you but I I think it would be no. I'll just say how I discovered you because I think it was an act of God. I always feel like the universe conspires to make things come together. I was watching a youtube video about. I don't even remember what. And then you know how youtube serves up little tiny videos on the side. I saw your head talk and clicked on it and literally within twenty minutes of senior Tedtalk. I had creeped on everything about you online. I had sent you a DM on instagram. And ask you to speak at Rice. And the reason I tell that story for you but also to our listeners is I think that women struggle so much with putting themselves out there and wanting to show off their work or acknowledging it and if you hadn't put that video on your youtube we wouldn't be having this conversation so it's super super important to talk so much about power to stand in your own power but I'm gonNA assume that your origin story is did not start from the place that you are now. So will you tell listeners who you are and what you do and kind of the story of how you got to where you are absolutely so what? I tell people in the morning when I do. My show is that my name is stacey flowers real last name because nobody believes me and I make a living through talking. Just like Oprah I do it from the stage and from the sage I talk about happiness empower also. Do It via coaching with me. Coaching women to be more amazing than I do. Avia influencing and that's kind of weird sort of our story intersected with you finding the Tedtalk and then finding other content so on the influencing side on Youtube I've been documenting restoring my financial journey after like this big huge monumental public failure in my company Started with me making about eight hundred dollars a month working part time at cafe to now earning about ten K. A month net working part time in my company and the like to kind of give people that background because it gives you the scope of like how I am as a person in terms of the work that I'm putting out but I think the other thing that's really going on in my life right now. That gives a little bit. More of the backstory is that I'm a mom of nearly eighteen year old human being which feel crazy when you ever seen. Stacy you need to go. Look at her instagram right. Now you will not believe. It's possible that she has an eighteen year old yet like I I know it I see it. I barely believe in so like I'm in full blown like empty nest syndrome slash. How is my child almost like legally able to Mary and another another? He wants to like it. Just it doesn't make any sense. Oh I'm in this very interesting space right now in my company and in my personal life with regards to those two things being there and then the last thing that I love for people to know is that I'm an eight because the deeper we dive into on the Graham. I don't know if you do any Graham. I think are talked about the queen of India. Graham it is our favorite conversation here at the office and I feel like when you know. Someone's number you're like okay. We Are you an eight seven. You gotta be an eight. Yes eight seven. Yeah Yeah. I'm an eight seven but I like to tell people that because before I knew that I was in eight like I really didn't have a framework to sort of organize a lot of my experiences. That led up to this moment but the minute. I took it I was like what? Yeah now my life makes sense to me. So it's been it's been really exciting so that's kind of a little bit about who? I am now and like the work that I do now. It's super interesting about that too is that. I don't know a lot of women who are eights who will confidently claim that number. And if you don't if y'all know what we were speaking in a language right now if you please a I feel like I've talked about ten million times. You can go google it but if you understand any Graham you understand. The eight is the challenger which oftentimes gets a bad rap but also the eight is a world changer. Mother Theresa wasn't a Martin Luther King. Junior was a there are so many powerful AIDS but not a lot of women. Of course your your whole thing is about power. Not a lot of women will own that. What was that journey like for you? Where you immediately like. Hell yes or did it take you a moment kind of come to terms with it. It took me a moment to cut so privately. I was like yes I know. Why why him? But it was a very private thing because then I was like Oh my God like all of the things that I thought as a kid. They're true and like now people like people are going to know and so it took me a little bit but like what I like about. The Graham is a gives you like the range of how you how you are when you're at your best and then how you are when you're under stress. And so when I looked at it I was just like you know stacey all of these years that you've been trying to pretend that you're not an eight this is what's making it hard for you like this is what's making people have a bad reaction to you being a woman who is as powerful as you actually are. What would happen if you just Kinda show up in your full eight minutes likes what would happen if you did that. And honestly that's sort of like what happened from with my tedtalk going out like that happened before I had my big fall and so it's just like that was already out there so when I started documenting my financial journey which was really hard because it was such a contrast to the experience doing a tedtalk and traveling around the world. It was like I have these two really contracting experiences. But I'm like if I'm going to talk about it I'm GonNa talk about it completely in that directly came from me wanting to own my Eytan and being like even in this space where I'm starting over at the bottom. I'm still just as powerful as I was when I was standing onstage delivering that Tedtalk and since making that decision has been just like the best thing ever. That's why I always like to mention it because it's just like when you know that at the core this is who you are it's like why would you why fight it like why. Why rail against it anymore in the more and more of embraced it. The more opportunities like rise have shown up that I've been able to say yes absolutely I will surely come to your stage and do my thing like versus me being like. Oh pick me choose me. It's like I don't have that sort of thing happening in my life is much anymore. It's more people are noticing me and they're like Oh and I'm like yeah been here like but it's like the reason you didn't know because I was afraid to really embrace the nature of it because as you said most women are not aids and if they are as it's not it's not an easy thing to do because people automatically assume that we're GONNA be like this aggressive like zero tolerance type personalities. Just like no. I'm all woman. I'm just a different type of woman with a whole lot of

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"empty nest" Discussed on The Bill Simmons Podcast

The Bill Simmons Podcast

02:05 min | 2 years ago

"empty nest" Discussed on The Bill Simmons Podcast

"Are pretty confused by just everything that's happening basketball now and the clippers are starting to look like they might actually have to make a trade or something. Oh really that's one wildcard. You don't think it's enough that they beat the Lakers twice that they don't really care that there are a few games about how other clipper fans I know are freaking out. They don't think they're big enough for the playoffs. And Tripoli got that the twenty twenty championship odds there's still the favourite of post. Two fifty right Lakers also pushed to fifty bucks Plus Three Twenty Five rockets twelve twenty Denver fifty one south eighteen one philly eighteen. One PHILLY's soft. I'm sick of them already. Ready Enough Dallas thirty two one. Here's the one the actually to Utah's thirty five to one of Miami's forty two one There's is a pretty good case that Utah should not have thirty five to one odds and they should actually be like twelve to one more. I think they started at thirty thirty five to one right. No then they then they got bet down because Mike Conley trade but then they won like tons under there would like nine at it last time. Yes so they started out pretty rocky. Conley Conley was terrible. Conley gets hurt. They find their stride when he's out of the lineup and then kind of figure out what their identity is and they made a good trade. That traded for Jordan Clarkson will scoring the bench. But I think I think it's way more wide open than people think and if you could have a team that could potentially make the finals at thirty five to one. They're tough match-up for the for the clippers at least because the sure sign while the heat. Your heat lost to the Knicks tonight. I'm pretty sure so. Yeah that was rough there they have a trade to make. I loved to talk you about that. You know I'll I'll check with Dana if there's time on our show but yeah maybe income up. Hey Cuz Good job good job. I you all right thanks to Ziprecruiter. Thanks to simplisafe comprehensive enterprise level security for your own home home if there's a break in simplisafe uses real video evidence to give police an eyewitness account of the crime..

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"empty nest" Discussed on The Bill Simmons Podcast

The Bill Simmons Podcast

02:05 min | 2 years ago

"empty nest" Discussed on The Bill Simmons Podcast

"Are pretty confused by just everything that's happening basketball now and the clippers are starting to look like they might actually have to make a trade or something. Oh really that's one wildcard. You don't think it's enough that they beat the Lakers twice that they don't really care that there are a few games about how other clipper fans I know are freaking out. They don't think they're big enough for the playoffs. And Tripoli got that the twenty twenty championship odds there's still the favourite of post. Two fifty right Lakers also pushed to fifty bucks Plus Three Twenty Five rockets twelve twenty Denver fifty one south eighteen one philly eighteen. One PHILLY's soft. I'm sick of them already. Ready Enough Dallas thirty two one. Here's the one the actually to Utah's thirty five to one of Miami's forty two one There's is a pretty good case that Utah should not have thirty five to one odds and they should actually be like twelve to one more. I think they started at thirty thirty five to one right. No then they then they got bet down because Mike Conley trade but then they won like tons under there would like nine at it last time. Yes so they started out pretty rocky. Conley Conley was terrible. Conley gets hurt. They find their stride when he's out of the lineup and then kind of figure out what their identity is and they made a good trade. That traded for Jordan Clarkson will scoring the bench. But I think I think it's way more wide open than people think and if you could have a team that could potentially make the finals at thirty five to one. They're tough match-up for the for the clippers at least because the sure sign while the heat. Your heat lost to the Knicks tonight. I'm pretty sure so. Yeah that was rough there they have a trade to make. I loved to talk you about that. You know I'll I'll check with Dana if there's time on our show but yeah maybe income up. Hey Cuz Good job good job. I you all right thanks to Ziprecruiter. Thanks to simplisafe comprehensive enterprise level security for your own home home if there's a break in simplisafe uses real video evidence to give police an eyewitness account of the crime..

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"empty nest" Discussed on The Bill Simmons Podcast

The Bill Simmons Podcast

03:10 min | 2 years ago

"empty nest" Discussed on The Bill Simmons Podcast

"That he is a baseball bats. Gold crusted baseball bats. which apparently he's now be wearing all the time? Because he's he's a rapper But also plays baseball so he needed a gold baseball cross a so. Those were his last Amazon purchase. That's pretty inventive. Though I'd say is pretty good so then the other thing we found out is he's been playing madden. Koa With this friend he made Online and No idea at this person's forty five years older but he claims he's twelve and he claims he's facetime the person Oh no and it's a kid who's his age shoes in northern California and China and they play Matt in Keio together and this is the instead of their relationship. I was like so you think you guys would ever actually beat. He's like now. Why would we ever meet We just played that and I don't understand this next generation. I have a lot of fear and concern. Will this is what kids do. It's like no. Why would would we ever meet? Why would I do? They don't even WanNa see pe- kids they know they you know. They drove face time in the house or or email or text in the house right strange strange times. It is bizarre. How about Archie and Zoe both with both with dumped both of us? That's I know. This should be the season. Finale cliffhanger pair headquarters I think this is get their kids back there. Two months apart right the two of them up together basically Yeah I actually. I was gone through my waist. Birthdays coming up and I was trying to find some photos. And Yeah you sent some good ones and I've found we. There's just a slew of photos of all of our kids in the bathtub. Yep from I'M GONNA say Zoe Archer probably to an end. The jacket banner like babies and for some reason. We decided to have them all in the bathtub. Knows good just taking a taking a bath. The last time I washed what I would have to plug for this week What do we have a lock it in Monday through Friday? Four thirty to five thirty eastern. I am the king but It's mostly going to be clay travis bragging Against All odds Wednesday ends day the Jenner TRIFECTA. I break down the two Championship Games plus. I think I'm having Dana White on. Don't be jealous but I think I'm having him on really talking about McGregor bigger. I've never had him on. You haven't really. I've never had him on. Yeah you know what I'm GonNa put in a good word for you know him me you you can have them take them. Why not is McGregor this weekend the ads this weekend and he hasn't fought for over year? Ray It's been a while but he's still favored still heavy burns. Three hundred minus three fifty favorite You know I need to come on against the odds at some point because there's some MBA gambling stuff to discuss L. reeler earlier. It's pretty wide open right now. I actually think there's there's some opportunity for some some future bets all right people. People people.

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Netflix's 'Otherhood' Is About a 'Deep Female Friendship'

The Frame

08:41 min | 2 years ago

Netflix's 'Otherhood' Is About a 'Deep Female Friendship'

"Will start with other hood. It's about three MOMS whose kids are grown and the women are all trying to figure out what they're gonNA do next and their lives motherhood sinking feeling that how's your child's growing up that you're being broken up with on a gradual but daily basis it's inhumane emotional waterboarding as the best description adoption of motherhood. I've ever heard well at this stage. It doesn't feel like motherhood other. The Film Co Stars Patricia Arquette Angela Bassett Facet and Felicity Huffman and let's first talk about Felicity Huffman next next before we talk about the movie she'll be sentenced month for her involvement in the college admissions scandal scandal to which he's pled guilty and her arrest actually delayed the original release of other hood supposed to coincide with Mother's Day. Here's what the film's producer Sir Cathy Schulman had to say on the issue. When we made the film with Felicity obviously we had no idea what might happen later and it was a terrific experience. It's all around an amazing collaboration frankly of five or six or seven women in their fifties of which she was one and when this actually actually happened it had a sort of interesting mirroring effect you know to the film itself in the sense that mothering is really really hard and even felicity character in the movie you know. She has to make some really really hard decisions. She's goes through a lot of hell before she learns to love herself again and interestingly enough. We have not seen it. You know affecting in the film so far people are starting to see it and what's exciting is when you know those who write about it say what a terrific performance. She actually has given in his but you know I think that yes. She's having an intense second chapter here and the movie is really all about second chapters. It's directed by Cindy Chupak. She was a writer producer on sex and the city she also adapted the screenplay she and producer Cathy Schulman struggle for a decade to get it made the major obstacle. The leads were women in their fifties. It was always about empty nesting it kind of was about a stage of life and then we were just discussing. They're not mothers anymore. What are they and I came up with other head from my extensive experience on it was really funny moment when she said it because the scene that you just played imitates what happened when we were sitting thing across the table from one another and we just were like that is the best description of what we're experiencing we could possibly imagine and then it's so much fine to see. Patricia say those words because we had the same experience creating the title itself. Yeah it is a really harsh. I don't know like a right of passage or whatever that period in life is. It feels horrendous because everything in your body as a mother is prone to taking care of your children. I mean our our eyes. Get bad during pregnancy are bones get weaker. I mean even our physical bodies. Give everything it can to our child so once you're sort have discarded thrown away like old. US handkerchief a horrible feeling but there is a bright side. I mean I guess there is something about this story about kinship in about finding people who are going through similar things and strengthen numbers stink the numbers I like and also that your children you know you want them to individually to move away but I think part of the argument that all three of these MOMS have is shirts great. We want you to have your own life but don't forget us and don't be disrespectful towards us and you know we could still love each other and stay connected being adult and have your own life but you know I love you. You and I want you to love and respect me and I think there's a subconscious thing too in the way that we've been from the nuclear family from Nineteen Fifties Americana Donna and before I do think we've taken mothers for granted and it's a subconscious bias and I I would like to have that conversation about shifting that relationship chip and also respecting our elders which I don't think we do a great job of in America. We're talking with producer. Cathy Schulman writer Director Cindy Chupak and actor Patricia arquette about their new new movie other hood basically there's this age group and it kind of is forty nine to sixty nine. That's like this forgotten female generation. You know we're mothers and grandmothers or that's what everyone thinks but what about those twenty years in between where we're still working oftentimes at the height of our careers might be in second in careers. Their sometimes are second marriages. Somebody might have died. You know your your children are leaving your sensuality and sexuality into question your relationships relationships with husbands and lovers. You're suddenly think you should have sex with the lifeguard things. Are you know during this period who this guy is yeah no. I I see that because I experienced that heavily no names March twenty minutes the new what I'm referencing that there's nothing more terrifying for a woman than society saying that after you you do this heavy lifting of motherhood which is up until a child is eighteen to twenty that then your grandmother a grandmother is a great stage but it's very far along from where many women in Middle Age are actually living and experiencing things and there's a lot of life to have and that's what's the fun other hood the movie because they go to New York these three MOMS with this agenda to fix their relationships with their adult sons as if that's possible symbol but what happens instead is they realized who they are. I don't think it's just society that assigns. This valued motherhood. I think it's also also comes from us and it's a subconscious kind of bias. We ourselves carry so in this movie with these friends. I think they do start to go. Hold on a minute. I WanNa read negotiate the life <hes> I don't know when agreed to that or how I agree to that or what happened exactly but I wanna have a different life now. I'm going to add something to that because it is is societal and its internal and its pop culture and pop culture through television through film through books through advertising shapes expectations of of how people are supposed to look how they're supposed to behave and you guys all know this that there are certain things that women can and cannot do behind in front of the camera certain kinds of characters they can and cannot play and there's certain kinds of ways that they have to be seeing and not upset those norms and that is part of how the characters doctors in this story start to think about themselves because they're conditioned by that onslaught through popular culture. I mean I think there's also something whereas sometimes agents don't want their their clients actresses to play a mom of an adult person like you know there's a feeling that you're now crossing over into an area and then that's who you are so then you can't like you said into the dead leads <hes> to you. Are you ready to move into the zone your day. Amy Schumer so true we have it cued up listen last day with Amy Schumer Audition for Mrs Causing. You're kidding me. I read for that party. You got that she'll because it's going to be really good or either. A movie set you gotTa Wardrobe and the only thing they have for you to wear long sweaters like cover you up head to toe Kinda thing. Rarely the poster prefer your movie is just like a picture of the kitchen. Yeah very vague titles like whatever it takes or. Sheen's well the last days kind of saying like we're about to be marginalized as opposed to this movie hopefully puts these women front and center their stories are valuable and they're kind of extraordinary ordinary ordinary characters. They're not playing the MOM. They're playing women who have adult son. This is a damn Mamadee people. Yeah we have a mom at eight. I was thinking on the way over that 'cause I was asked a little bit about like you know Mommy. Chick flick and you know chick flick could only only have become a term because men decided to identify which movies they didn't WanNa Watch. No woman decided let's call these chick flicks and so until there's Dick flicks I've. I don't want to call it that Cathy. Schulman is the producer of other hood. Cindy Chupak is it's writer director and Patricia Arquette Stars in the film Cassie Cindy and Patricia. Thanks so much for coming in. Thanks for having thank you thanks

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"empty nest" Discussed on Scummy Mummies

Scummy Mummies

04:48 min | 3 years ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Scummy Mummies

"But also talk about the normal life. Like, it was like that was all they were talking about you. I mean, I understand that taking us things happen, and it's really sad. And it does kind of take it of your life to certain extent for a long period of time. But it just made me more miserable. And it just made me think either wants to read about how fucking miserable this as because I already in that. And I am living every single day of my life. I want somebody to tell me one day you're gonna wake up, and you're going to have a great day again, and you're gonna love and you're gonna get history your friends or do this is going to be funny, then listen to music and not burst into Tiffany is going to be normal. You're gonna feel more ever not. Whereas it that day yet. These days, and when I do get things from stories night. I tell people because I really aware that there are other parents for me who are in those first few weeks few months were however long and just feeling desperate. And I want to be the one to say guys like this was really good today. And and actually I think we should also say that really shouldn't we when we're having a great time revel in that machine celebrates it, and we shouldn't British again, we didn't want to cause we li- smug Bassett statement. Yeah. I know I say this point on currently vegan. Oh. Really liken. Thank you. Bob is about bathing. Babysitting. Hawks control how. Tolerant by keep doing in. February if I'm tried to just it makes me, very happy. Feel good. So good about anytime. Anyone can tackling does your person? You are. I had been the one year. Yeah. We'll compensation again in six months since day should Try try to. to challenge. Throwing hand down. Got big Kanye requested February shopping pepperonis in every God. I'll just be like in how be relating dogs. Anyway. I think when he should be this is really good. And I feel great. And so I have purposely gone on to Instagram may when we've been down to wherever I've had a first normal day where I felt pretty good. And I've said let goings I feel great today. And I'm just telling you in case you were in a place where you think must never going to happen again. Promise, you it will I can promise you because I thought it was never gonna happen. I think this is going to own the content and the right word go painted a rainbow of grief. Right. And that's an it's not one color. It's not one thing. That's what I love about your blog is that you like yet to ship day. And then it's a great day. And then fucking talked about. Here we go. Beating. But that's why I love it. You know, I haven't experienced it. And I end or anything, but I I love your story. And I love you journey and I love love reading the comments as well. Punks love pugs really loved how is project pumpkin. Well, we have to. I mean, I feel like a connection it. We can't we can't get a dog until we renovated the house. So we wanted to on making mind pump nest? So I'm saying, and then I can get mcharg. We talk about a lot at. We wanna call to Princess, Diana. Would she is? She would have wanted. William, and Harry, would be very honest. Put it feels a pitching congress. Because he's been quite intense. Ready for me? Yeah. Now, we do always finish their focus week scummy mummy. Confessions a story of parenting thing here or personal committee. Cook Goodman forest go day. I was walking in the whizz other Jay and pucks are inherently, greedy little fuckers. So they will eat everything if it's not now down on fire like you need to watch out. Anyway, he sold these kids in the forest made these types like schoolday, they'd made these jumps kids me by trucks and stuff. They may Boyce with designing who are interested. Anyway, they had he had this. They will have their bags. We'd even sorry says wait five on the floor, and they had kept that biscuit snacks and everything I saw portions no known so anyway managed to get him away cardinal woke from her..

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"empty nest" Discussed on Scummy Mummies

Scummy Mummies

02:30 min | 3 years ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Scummy Mummies

"Amazon dot com. A few months go I'll be taking on through the on didn't arms Ness that meeting it. And I didn't know if I could read it didn't get through it. And I thought what I'll give you a guide if I can't get through the night I picked up and I sat on I just read it cover to cover. I sat Sates Pete. Like, I'm sorry. I have I have to finish this book. You have to take the kids because this is so compelling and just thank you for writing. I think it's an amazing piece voicing. And so, and it was it was the first prompt crews, especially difficult for me because I can relate to it a bit. And I know like I would never an you get told this. I would never say I know what you've been through identity tool with no idea premature baby was not months early. So I did have experience of that being in intensive care. And that the icon Cam relate to that thing of something goes wrong with the baby that joke him. He was breathing. Ventilator in Latin they wield more fitting to hold him all that star. But in my sort of Morphing prices Aaron post birth adult stage. Eight. I was like, oh, but we're in a hospital, and he's not dead therefore not casualty. He will be. All right. Yeah. You'll get better. I think he's taking too. And that was my thinking as well. You know, I thought what that that doesn't happen? And it couldn't happen to me only happens to other people and never happen to anybody. I know say Kombi thing that, gene. Exactly. And then you find yourself as she knew in Indiana intensive canyon in any site. This weird's it's cath grasp. It's it's just it was just bizarre on. You're just looking all these other parents around fish tanks lavish times with the teddy was I mean, he was a Tom babies. He was one of the bigger ones. Even though he was only six pounds of the us big. I was looking at some of the little babies tiny babies. Yeah. It just blows your mind, lying and new. I am now on the charity group for the new NATO union. That's why fake is managing fundraising for them. And and being part of that. And so I go to the back to the eighteen every month, and it never stopped blowing my mind, and how incredible is and the care that they give today's they'll people get going and get them like into this whole game of life in. Yes. It's mental others amazing. That you go. Rip back. Once Joe was well, and if not host, but offered on Tom found incredibly hard was really upset for the rest of the day..

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"empty nest" Discussed on Scummy Mummies

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04:35 min | 3 years ago

"empty nest" Discussed on Scummy Mummies

"To metric association. This. Hello, welcome. To the scummy mommy's podcast. I'm any Gibson. Helen thaw who've we got today. L from feathering the empty nest. L? How's it going? How he is with very well. Thank you. Now. Why don't you introduce yourself and say my name is L. Right. I am a blogger. I have an Instagram account feathering the empty nest as previously mentioned thank Keith shameless. Plug I write primarily about interiors and lifestyle and everything going on in my life. But also, I do write about Las pregnancy loss and infant loss. After all of our some teddy in two thousand sixteen which has subsequently led to me writing book on that subject as well. Quite surprisingly. There was never a plan. And that's that's how it's worked out often books outlander as well, we didn't ever planned to write a book and someone mentioned this on the radio once and then book agent, go and touch us a joiner ran book about that of. Yes. Yes. We do. Yeah. Yeah. Did you say yes straight away because I kind of went. What was what was holding? You back. A better off my mum. If this is a good idea. Mitch nicholson. Thanks caroline. I was I this is this is really weird because I guess I just when I sell it writing. I did it more for I guess of healing for myself. It was really cathartic and spent so much time completing the dark corners of the internet not being out to find anybody who was writing on that subject. He was talking to me because I kind of make everything into joke. I always had them on a continental. That's. He is a foreign language, and I think whatever it is you're communicating whether it's everyday stuff like about being a mom and games Utah into Huma. And and it's very very difficult when something awful, the unthinkable happens to be able to make kind of jokes in that moment. But even when we were in hospital teddy. I was there making inappropriate I think that's just what I do. I'm the kind of person who loves a funeral like you can't like control. And I just couldn't find anybody who's talking to me and say, I didn't expect that reaction. I didn't expect somebody to say, what do you think we should turn this into a book? Because actually, I think that's how loss of people deal with stuff when? The chips are down, and it's really bad, and they just won't not normal. They wanna feel like knew about set the release the detention to go like anyone to up to podcast of the day with Nigeria and she said she laughs at every funeral. And she said I'll being to lock I can't help it. I just have to laugh in those times. I think that's a really natural reaction we told and am we'll get further into it. When you when you talk about your book is that there are certain emotions that you have to feel in certain situations. We told you feel sad if you feel this the loss of ino. Know, a relative or whatever, and it's not like that grief, and all the things are really complicated, and you can feel both of these feel angry. And yeah. And then laugh at the ridiculousness it why why is this happening? So our industry to actually quite Mason as somebody had done, an initiation Instagram, and it was it was kind of the growth of of of grief. They fast shock and the this. And then that and somebody had just done a big cross through and gone in a big squiggle all the way through to. Honestly, it doesn't look like that nothing now because we're all individuals were people, and we're gonna feel different things at different times. I'm not fine. Like, you don't have to go. I'm not feeling reading today going through the process, but yeah, everybody hundreds of different. I guess. So now, you've you've told the story before. But could you tennis Teddy's story ready? Winning husband, Mr.. I would say ten worn in may two thousand and sixteen. I was really lucky I had healthy pregnancy which we've got married in two thousand fourteen so to try and for maybe about six months later, and then after ten months which felt like quite a long time. But now, I now know in the grand scheme is nothing we weren't we found out. We were expecting baby to be born in may two thousand sixteen Tajik came along after I was in juice because my Reuters had broken they're leaking..

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