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Playdate Etiquette

Mom and Dad Are Fighting

02:42 min | 9 months ago

Playdate Etiquette

"Like to talk about play date etiquette. I always thought if someone invites my kid to their home for a play date then we invite them to our house for the next one right. I am an introvert with two extrovert daughters. I'm pushed outside of my comfort zone. Every time they request a play date. But i do it for them because it makes them happy so the play date comes. The friend comes over the kids play. Everyone has fun and the kid goes home. But i never hear from their parent again. What's up with this. My kids are friendly. I monitor the play dates and everything seems fine. No arguments and they seem to leave happy. But i keep getting ghosted by other parents. And i bring my own insecurities into this thinking that i or we did something wrong. Maybe i'm being too sensitive but my feelings are hurt. What do you think okay so. I am positive that emily post would say that. You are to return and invitation for a play date that if you are invited over that you should return the invitation that being said. I don't think you should ever invite kids over for a plate in hopes that your kids will get invited. Because you don't know anyone else's situation you do not know what their home life is like. You do not know what it what is going on with the parents schedule. You don't know any of that. So i always think like when i'm trying to orchestrate play dates okay. Can i manage this. Is this something i want to do. Because honestly sometimes the play dates are great like my kids play better when the play date people are here than then when we're like alone like they have to have more snacks right but they're sort of go play on their own. I don't have to do as much interacting with them. So it's really great and i try to have that on on my schedule. I sense here though. Like the personal thing like feeling ghosted by other parents. The thing is you have to invest time in the parents to and especially. When i'm having. I knew plates. I will often now again with kobe. You have to kind of this. How you're doing all this. I don't know how you're if you're in a pot or what the situation is. Maybe you need to be meeting outside at the park. I think one you can have a joint like we'd love to meet you at a park and you know show up with coffee or everybody pickup coffee. Whatever so that you get some time with the parents. Because i think that is. That is a big part of kind of that bonding now. That doesn't mean that you need to make this person your best friend but i think having kids over for a play date is a little bit of relationship building like do. I trust you with my kids. Do you trust me with your

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Boring Books for Bedtime

03:49 min | 9 months ago

"emily post" Discussed on Boring Books for Bedtime

"The bow to a friend is made with smile to a very intimate friend often. With a broad grin that fits exactly with the word. Hello whereas the formal bow is mentally accompanied by the formal salutation. How do you do the bow of a woman of charm. The reputation of southern women for having the gift of fascination is perhaps do not to prettiness of feature more than the brilliant. See your sweetness of. They're ready smile. That's southern women are charming and feminine and a lovable is proverbial. How many have noticed that. Southern women always bowel with the grace of flour bending in the breeze and a smile like sudden sunshine the unlovely woman blouses though her head were on a hinge and her smile sucked through a lemon. Nothing is so easy for any woman to acquire as a charming how it is such a short and fleeting duty. Not a bit of trouble really just to incline your head and spontaneously smile as though you thought. Why is mrs smith how glad i am to see her even to a stranger. Who does her affair ver. A woman of charm always smiles as she says. Thank you as a possession for other woman or man. A ready smile is more valuable in life than a ready wit. The latter may sometimes bring in amies but the former always brings friends when to bow under formal circumstances. A lady is supposed to bow to a gentleman. I but people who know each other well bow spontaneously without observing this etiquette in meeting the same person many times within an hour or so one does not continue to bow after the second or at most third meeting after that one either looks away or merely smiles unless one has a good memory for people it is always better to bow to someone whose face is familiar then to run the greater risk of ignoring an acquaintance the cut direct for one person to look directly at another and not acknowledged the others. How is such a breach of civility. That only an unforgivable misdemeanour can warrant the rebuke nor without the gravest. 'cause man lady cut a gentleman but there are no circumstances under which gentlemen may cut any woman who even buy courtesy can be called a lady on the other hand. One must not confuse absent. Mindedness or forgetful memory with an intentional cut. Anyone who is preoccupied is apt to pass others without being aware of them and without the least want a friendly regard others who have bad memories. Forget even those whom they were much attracted..

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Boring Books for Bedtime

03:41 min | 9 months ago

"emily post" Discussed on Boring Books for Bedtime

"If he didn't some other more loyal citizen would take it off for him also. Every man should stand with his hat off in the presence of a funeral that passes close or blocks his way a gentlemen lifts his hat lifting. The hat is a conventional gesture of politeness shown to strangers only not to be confused with bowing which is a gesture used to acquaintances and friends. In lifting his hat a gentleman merely lifted slightly off his forehead and replaces it. He does not smile nor bow nor even look at the object of his courtesy. No gentlemen ever subject celebrity to his scrutiny or his apparent observation if a lady drops her glove a gentleman should pick it up. Hurry ahead of her. No account nudge her. Offer the glove to her. And say i think you dropped this the lady replies thank you the gentlemen should then lift his hat and turn away if he passes and lady in a narrow space so that he blocks her way or in any manner of truths upon her. He lifts his hat as he passes if he gets on a street. Car and the car gives a lurch just as he is about to be seated and throws him against another passenger he lifts his hat and says excuse me or i beg your pardon he must not say pardon me he must not take a seat if there are ladies standing but if he is sitting and ladies enter should they be young he may with perfect propriety keep his seat if a very old woman or a young one carrying a baby enters the car a gentleman rises at once lifts his hat slightly and says police take my seat. He lifts his hat again when she thanks him. If the car's very crowded when he wishes to leave it and a lady is directly in his way he says. May i get through please as she makes room for him to pass. He lifts his hat and says thank you. If he's in the company of a lady in a streetcar he lifts his hat to another gentleman who offers her a seat. Picks up something. She has dropped or shows her. Any civility enlists his hat if he asks anyone question and always if when walking on the street with either a lady origin delman his companion bows to another person in other words. A gentleman lifts his hat whenever he says. Excuse me thank you or speaks to a stranger or a spoken to by a lady or by an older gentleman and no gentlemen ever keeps pipe cigar or cigarette in his mouth when he lifts his hat takes it off or bows.

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03:35 min | 9 months ago

"emily post" Discussed on Boring Books for Bedtime

"As it bowing one should at the same time look into the countenance of the person whose hand one takes in giving her hand to a foreigner a married woman always relaxes her arm and fingers as it is customary for him to lift her hand to his lips but by a relaxed hand is not meant a wet rag. Hand should have live even though it be passive. A woman should always allow a man who is only an acquaintance to shake her hand. She should never shake his to a very old friend. She gives them much firmer class but he shakes her hand more than she shake says. Younger women usually shake the hand of the older or they both merely class pans. Give them a dropping movement rather than shake and let go polite greetings from younger to older. It is the height of rudeness for young people not to go and shake hands with an older lady of their acquaintance when they meet her away from home. If she is a hostess to whose house they have often gone it is not at all necessary for other young women or young men to linger and enter into a conversation unless older lady detains them which she should not do beyond the briefest minute older ladies who are always dragging young men up to unprepossessing partners are studiously avoided and with reason but otherwise it is inexcusable for any us to fail in this small exemption of polite behavior if a young man is talking with someone when an older lady enters the room he bows formerly from where he is as it would be rude. Leave a young girl standing alone while he went up to speak to mrs worldly or mrs top lofty but a young girl passing near an older lady can easily stop for a moment. Say how do you do mrs jones and pass on people. Do not cross a room to speak to anyone unless to show politeness to an acquaintance. Who was a stranger there to speak to an intimate friend or to talk to someone about something in particular chapter. Four salutations of courtesy.

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02:59 min | 9 months ago

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"In bidding goodbye to a new acquaintance with whom you have been talking. You shake hands and say goodbye. I am very glad to have met you to one who has been especially interesting or who is somewhat of a personage. You say it has been a great pleasure to meet you the other answers. Thank you in church. People do not greet each other in charge except at a wedding at weddings. People do speak to friends sitting near them but in a low tone of voice it would be shocking to enter a church and hero babble of voices ordinarily church. If a friend happens to catch your eye you smile but never actually bow if you go to a church not your own and a stranger offers you a seat in her pew you showed on leaving turn to her and say thank you but you do not greet anyone until you are out on the church steps when you naturally speak to your friends. How low should not be said on this occasion because it is too familiar for the solemnity of church surroundings. Shaking hands gentlemen always shake hands when they are introduced to each other ladies. Rarely do so with gentlemen who are introduced to them but they usually shake hands with other ladies if they are standing near together all people who know each other unless merely passing by shake hands when they meet a gentleman on the street never shakes hands with a lady without first removing his right glove but at the opera or at a ball. Or if he's usher at a wedding. He keeps his glove on personality of a handshake. Handshake often creates a feeling of liking or of irritation between two strangers who does not dislike a boneless hand extended as though it were a spray of seaweed or a miniature boiled pudding it is equally annoying to have one's hand clutched aloft in grotesque affectation and shaken violently sideways. As though it were being used to clean the spot out of the atmosphere. What woman does not wince at the vice-like grasp that cuts her rings. Into our flesh and temporarily paralyzes every.

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05:41 min | 9 months ago

"emily post" Discussed on Boring Books for Bedtime

"Visit not an introduction lady who goes to see another to get a reference for a servant or to ask her aid in an organization for charity would never consider such a meeting as an introduction even though they talked for an hour nor would she offer to shake hands in leaving on the other hand neighbors who are continually meeting gradually become accustomed to say. How do you do when they meet. Even though they never become acquaintances. The retort courteous to one. You have forgotten. Let us suppose someone addresses you and then slightly disconcerted. Says you don't remember me do you. The polite thing unless his manner does not ring true is to say why. Of course i do. And then if a few neutral remarks lead to know enlightening topic and bring no further memory you ask at the first opportunity who it was that addressed you if the person should prove actually to be unknown. It is very easy to repel any further advances. But nearly always you find someone you ought to have known. And you're hiding. The fact of your forgetfulness saved you from the rather rude and stupid situation. Blankly declaring. I don't remember you. If after being introduced to you. Mr jones calls you buy a wrong name. You let it pass at first but if he persists you may say my name is simpson. Not sim ken at a private dance. Young men nowadays introduced their men friends. Too young women without first asking the latter's permission because all those invited to a lady's house are supposed to be eligible for presentation to everyone or they would not be there at a public ball. Young men and women keep very much to their own particular small circle and are not apt to meet outsiders at all. Under these circumstances a gentleman should be very careful not to introduce a youth whom he knows nothing about to a lady of his acquaintance or at least he should ask er i he can say frankly. There is a man called sliders. Who has asked to meet you. I don't know who he is but he seems decent. Shall i introduce him. The lady can say yes. Or i'd rather not.

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04:32 min | 9 months ago

"emily post" Discussed on Boring Books for Bedtime

"Elastic and contract and expand. According to circumstances you do not remind. Mrs smith of having met her before but on meeting again. Anyone who was brought to your own house or one who showed you in a special courtesy you instinctively say i am so glad to see you again including someone in conversation without an introduction on occasion it happens that in talking to one person you want to include another in your conversation without making an introduction for instance suppose you were talking to a seeds men and a friend joins you in your garden. You grit your friend. And then include her by saying mr smith Suggesting that i dig up these canas and put in delfin gms whether your friend gives an opinion as to the change in color of your flowerbed or not she has been made part of your conversation the same maneuver of evading. An introduction is also resorted to when you are not sure then an acquaintance will be agreeable to one or both of those whom an accidental circumstance has brought together.

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03:05 min | 9 months ago

"emily post" Discussed on Boring Books for Bedtime

"A luncheon too fashionable new york however much in was at one thirty at three. There is something else occupying the moment that is all nearly all people of the atlantic coast disliked general introductions and present people to each other as little as possible in the west however people do not feel comfortable in a room full of strangers whether or not to introduce people therefore becomes not merely a question of propriety but of consideration for local custom. Never introduce a necessarily the question as to win. Introduction should be made or not made is one of the most elusive points in the entire range of social knowledge whenever necessary to bridge. An awkward situation is a definition. That is exactly enough but not very helpful or clear. The hostess who allows guests to stand awkward and unknown in the middle of her drawing room is no worse than she who pounces on every chance. Acquaintance and drags unwilling victims into forest recognition of each other everywhere and on all occasions. The fundamental rule never to introduce unnecessarily brings up the question. Which are the necessary occasions. I in order of importance is the presentation of everyone. To guests of honor. Whether the guests are distinguished strangers for houma dinner is given or a bride and groom or a debutante being introduced to society. It is the height of rudeness for anyone to go to an entertainment given an honor of someone and failed to meet him. Even if one's memory is too feeble to remember him after word introductions at dinner the host must always see that every gentleman either knows or is presented to the lady he is to take into dinner and also if possible to the one who is to sit at the other side of him if the latter introduction is overlooked people sitting next to each other at table nearly always introduced themselves. A gentleman says. How do you do mrs jones. I am arthur robinson or showing her his place card. I have to introduce myself. This is my name or the lady says. I Mrs hunter.

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03:42 min | 9 months ago

"emily post" Discussed on Boring Books for Bedtime

"Adjust your volume. Take a nice deep breath in let it out slowly and off waco tonight. Let's continue our lessons. Gentility with more from etiquette in society in business in politics and at home by emily post author of purple and fine linen the title market woven in the tapestry the flight of a moth letters of a world league godmother et cetera et cetera illustrated with private photographs and in fact simile of social forms published in nineteen twenty two by funk and wagner's company new york and london and copyright under the articles of the copyright convention of the panamerican republics and the united states august. Eleventh nineteen ten. Let's pick up where we left off in chapter two introductions and a small discursive moment about new york's bad manners. New york's bad manners are often condemned and often very deservedly. Even though the causes carelessness rather than intentional indifference the indifference is no actual and the rudeness inexcusable. It is by no means unheard of that after sitting at table next to the guest of honor a new yorker will meet her. The next day with utter unrec ignition. Not because the new yorker means to cut the stranger or feels the slightest unwillingness to continue the acquaintance but because few new yorkers possess enthusiasm enough to make an effort to remember all the new faces they come in contact with but allow all those who are not especially fixed in their attention to drift easily out of mind and recognition. It is mortifying lee true. No one is so ignorantly indifferent to everything outside his or her. Own personal concern as the socially fashionable new yorker unless it is then londoner. The late theodore roosevelt was brilliantly shining exception and of course and happily there are other men and women like him in this but there are also enough of the snail and shell variety to give color to the very just resentment that those from other and more gracious cities hold against new yorkers everywhere else in the world except london the impulse of self cultivation if not the more generous ones consideration and hospitality induces people of good breeding to try to make the effort to find out what manner of mind or experience or talent. A stranger has and to remember at least out of courtesy anyone for whose benefit a friend of theirs gave a dinner or.

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05:24 min | 1 year ago

"emily post" Discussed on Boring Books for Bedtime

"When to shake hands when gentlemen are introduced to each other they always shake hands when a gentleman is introduced to her lady she sometimes puts out her hand especially if he is someone she has long heard about from prince in common but to an entire stranger she generally merely bows her head slightly. And says how do you do strictly speaking it is always her place to offer her hand or not as she chooses but if he puts out his hand it is rude on her part to ignore it. Nothing could be more. Ill bred than to treat. Currently any overture made in spontaneous. Friendliness know thoroughbred lady would ever refused to shake any hand that his honorable not even the hand of coal heaver at the risk of her fresh white glove. Those who have been drawn into a conversation. Do not usually shake hands on partying but there is no fixed rule. A maybe sometimes shakes hands after talking with a casual stranger at other times. She does not offer her hand on partying from one who has been punctiliously presented to her. She may find the former sympathetic and though at her very much to the contrary very few rules of etiquette are inelastic and none more so than the acceptance or rejection up. The stranger's you meet. There is a wide distance between rudeness. Send reserve. You can be courteously polite. And at the same time extremely aloof to a stranger who does not appeal to you or you can be welcoming lee friendly to another whom you like on site. Individual temperament has also to be taken into consideration. One person is naturally austere another genie. All the matter shakes hands far more often than the former as he said. It is unforgivably rude to refuse a prophet hand but it is rarely necessary to offer your hand if you prefer not to what to say when introduced best society has only one phrase in acknowledgement of an introduction. How do you do. It literally accepts now other when mr bachelor says mrs. worldly may i present mr struthers mrs worley says how you do struthers house and says nothing to sweetly show mr struthers with a rising inflection on thurs is not good form saccharin chirping should be classed with croaked little fingers high handshaking and other affectation 's all affectation cz are bad form person's position do not say charmed or pleased to meet you et cetera. But often the first remark is beginning of a conversation for instance. Young struthers is presented to mrs worldly she smiles and perhaps says. I hear that you are going to be new york call. Winter struthers. answer's. Yes i am at the columbia law school et cetera. Or since he is much younger than she he might answer. Yes mrs worldly especially if his would otherwise be occurred yes or no otherwise he does not continue repeating name taking leave of one. You have just mant after an introduction when you have talked for some time to a stranger whom you have found agreeable and you then take leave you say goodbye. I am very glad to have met you or goodbye. I hope i shall see you again soon or some time. The other person answers. Thank you.

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05:04 min | 1 year ago

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"Sense and their devices of economy in household outlay dress and entertainment are revelation in the science of ways and means there are parents children relatives and friends all passing before us in the pageant of life from the cradle to the grave no circumstance from an introduction to a wedding is overlooked in this panorama and the spectator has beside him. A lerone in the person of the author who clears every doubt and there's every question in course the conviction grows upon him that etiquette is no flurry of posers. Aping the manners of their betters. Nora code of snobs who divide their time between licking the boots of those above them and kicking it those below but a system of rules of conduct based on respect of self coupled with respect of others. Meanwhile to guard against concede in his new knowledge he may at odd moments recall. Ben jonson's lines nor stand so much on your gentility which is an airy and mere borrowed thing from deadman's dust and bones and none of yours except you make or hold it etiquette.

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Boring Books for Bedtime

05:26 min | 1 year ago

"emily post" Discussed on Boring Books for Bedtime

"The ministry of eating corn on the cob matters of clothes for men and women are treated with the same fullness of information and accuracy of taste as our questions of the furnishing of their houses and the training of their minds to social intercourse. But there is no exaggeration of the minor details at the expense of the more important spirit of personal conduct. An attitude of mind to dwell on formal trivialities the author holds is like measuring the letters up the sign boards by the roadside instead of profiting by the directions they offer she would have us know also that it is not the people who make small technical mistakes or even blunders who are barred from the pass of good society but those sham and pretense who's veneer vulgarity. At the step tramples the flowers in the gardens of course asian to her mind. The structure of kit is comparable to that of a house of which the foundation is six. And the rest. Good taste correct speech. Quiet unassuming behavior and a proper pride of dignity to such as entertain the mistaken notion that politeness implies all give and little or no return. It is well to recall coal ridges definition of a gentleman. We feel gentlemanly character. Present with us. He said whenever under all circumstances of social intercourse the trivial not less than the important through the whole detail of his manners and deportment and with the ease of a habit a person shows respect to others in such a way as at the same time implies in his own feelings and habitue and assured anticipation of reciprocal respect from them to himself. In short the gentlemanly character arises out of the feeling of equality acting as a habit yet flexible to the priorities of rank and modified without being disturbed or superseded by them definitions of gentlemen are numerous and some of them famous. But we do not find such copious nece for choice indefinite of lady. Perhaps it has been understood. All along that the admirable and just characteristics of gentleman should of necessity be those also oven lady with the charm of womanhood combined and in these days with the added responsibility of the vote besides the significance of this volume as an indubitable authority on manners. It should be pointed out that as a social document. It is without precedent in american literature in order that we may better realize the behavior and environment of well bred people. The distinguished author has introduced actual persons and places in fiction guys. They are the person's and the places of her own world and whether we can or cannot penetrate the incognito of the world lease the buildings the kind hearts the old the names and the others is of no importance fictionally. They are real enough for us to be interested and instructed in their way of living that they happen to move in. What is known as society is incidental for as the author declares at the very set. Best society is not a fellowship of the wealthy nor does it seek to exclude those who are not of exalted birth but it is an association of gentle folk of which good for him in speech charm of manner knowledge of the social amenities and instinctive consideration for the feelings of others are the credentials by which society the world over recognizes. It shows in members. The immediate fact is that the character of this book are thoroughbred americans representative of various sections of the country and free from the slightest tinge of snobbery. Not all of them are even well to do in..

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05:42 min | 1 year ago

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"In the endless Bethan age of mighty glory three hundred years before this was said. Ben johnson had railed against money as a thin membrane of honor. Groaning how hath all true reputation fall in since money began to have any now the very fact that the debasing effect of money on the social organism has been so constantly repre handed from scriptural days onward proves the instinctive yearning of mankind for system of live regulated by good taste high intelligence and sound affections but it remains true that in the succession of great commercial epochs coincident with the progress of modern science and invention. Almost everything can be bought and sold and so almost everything is rated by the standard of money yet. This standard is precisely not the ultimate test of the christianity on which we have been blooming ourselves through the centuries still no one can get along without money and few of us get along very well with what we have. At least we think so because everybody else seems to think that way. We americans are members of the nation which materially is the richest most prosperous and most promising in the world. This idea is didn't into our heads continually by foreign observers and publicly. We own the soft impeachment privately. Each individual american seems driven with the decision that he must live up to the general conception of the nation as a whole and he does but in less strenuous moments. He might profitably ponder the council of stone to his countrymen. Let us respect the ancient manners and recollect that. The true soul of chivalry has died among us with it. All that is good in society has died..

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05:16 min | 1 year ago

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"King in such convincing manner that his majesty is an edict commanding everyone at court to keep within the etiquettes gradually the term came to cover all the rules for correct demeanor and deportment in court circles and thus through the centuries it has grown into use to describe the conventions sanctioned for the purpose of smoothing personal contacts and developing tact and good manners in social intercourse with the decline of feudal courts and the rise of empires of industry much of the ceremony of life was discarded for plane and less formal dealing trousers and codes supplanted doublets and hose and the change in costume was not more extreme than the change in social ideas. The court ceased to be the arbiter of manners. Though the aristocracy of the land remained the high exemplar of good breeding yet even so courtly and materialistic a- mind as lord chesterfield's acknowledged connection between manners and morality of which letter. The courts of europe seemed so sparing in one of his famous letters. To his son he writes moral. Virtues are the foundation of society in general and a friendship in particular but attentions manners and graces both adorn and strengthen them again he says great or great failings will make you respected or despised but trifles little attentions mir. Nothing's either done or reflected will make you either liked or disliked in the general run of the world for all the wisdom and brilliant if his worldly knowledge. Perhaps no other writer has done so much to bring disreputable on the manners and graces as lord chesterfield and this it is charged because he debased them so heavily by considering them merely as the machinery of successful career to the moralists the fact that the moral standards of society in lord chesterfield's day were very different from those of the present era rather adds to the odium that has become associated with his attitude. His severest critics however do concede that he is candid and spokane and many admit that his social strategy is widely practiced even in these days but the aims of the world in which he moved were routed by the onrushing the ideals of democratic equality fraternity and liberty with the prosperity of the newer ships. The old time notion of aristocracy gentility and high breeding became more and more a curio to be framed suitably in gold and kept in the glass case of an art museum the crashing advance the industrial age of gold thrust all courts. And they're sinuous grace's aside but they unmistakable ledger balance of the counting house. This new order of things had been a long time in process when in the first year of the century a distinguished english social historian though late the right honorable gw e russell wrote probably in all ages of history. Men have liked money but a hundred years ago. They did not talk about it in society. Birth breeding rank accomplishments eminence in literature. Eminence in art eminence in public service. All these things still count for something in society but when combined they are only the dust of the balance when weighed against the all prevalent power of money. The worship of the golden calf is the characteristic cult of modern society.

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04:51 min | 1 year ago

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"To you my friends. Whose identity in these pages veiled in fictional disguise it is but fitting that i dedicate this book introduction manners and morals by richard duffy many who scoff at a book of etiquette would be shocked to hear them least expression of levity touching the ten commandments but the commandments do not always prevent such virtuous skoll furs from dealings with their neighbor of which no gentlemen could be capable and retain his claim to the title though it may require ingenuity to reconcile their actions with the deca log. The ingenuity is always forthcoming. There is no intention in this remark to intimate that. There is any higher rule of life than the ten commandments. Only it is eliminating as showing the relationship between manners and morals which is too often overlooked. The polished gentlemen. A sentimental fiction has so long served as the type of smooth and conscienceless depravity that her vanity of demeanor inspires distrust in ruder minds on the other hand. The blunt unpolished hero of melodrama and romantic fiction has lifted brusqueness and push fullness to a pedestal not wholly merited consequently the kinship between conduct keeps us within the law and conduct that makes civilized worthy to be called such deserves to be noted with emphasis. The chinese sage confucius could not tolerate the suggestion. That virtue is in itself enough without politeness for. He did them as inseparable and saw courtesy so as coming from the heart maintaining that when they are practiced with all heart a moral elevation ensues people who ridicule etiquette as a massive trivial and arbitrary conventions extremely troublesome to though suu practice them and insupportable to everybody else seemed to forget the long slow progress of social intercourse in the upward climb of man from the primeval state conventions were established from the first to regulate the rights of the individual and the tribe they were and are the rules of the game of life and must be followed if we would play the game. Ages before man felt the need of indigestion remedies. He ate his food solitary and furtive in some corner hoping he would not be spied by any stronger and hungrier fellow. It was a long long time before the habit of eating in common was acquired and it is obvious that the practice could not have been taken up with safety until the individuals of the race knew enough about one another and about the food resources to be sure that there was food sufficient for. Aw when eating and common became the vogue table manners made their appearance and they have been waging an uphill struggle ever since the custom of raising the hat when meeting. An acquaintance derives from the old rule. That friendly nights in a costing each other should raise the visor for mutual recognition in amity in the nightly years. It must be remembered it was important to know whether one was meeting friend or foe meeting a faux meant fighting on the spot thus it is evident that the conventions of courtesy not only tend to make the wheels of life.

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03:53 min | 2 years ago

"emily post" Discussed on WBZ NewsRadio 1030

"Little advice on manners during this corona virus pandemic in here with more on the evolving etiquette from the Emily post institute is Lizzie post though the thanks for being with us I want to start off with supermarket and a kid what are the rules we should be following we really want to be following whatever the rules are supermarkets or settings so whether that following a directional path up and down the aisles if it's wearing masks for everyone I believe it is still trying to keep that physicals six foot distance which I think we need a lot of practice with but things are so different now you're not picking up all the different produce and boxes and reading labels you're trying to we we only engage with product when you're going to select it you're also trying to look around you make sure that there's not someone waiting six feet away to get into that spot but has the item that you're looking for we also really want to be extra courteous to the staff were there every day there are social workers and they're making it possible for us to purchase these items so you don't just want to say thank you at the cash register when I say it's all the stuff that you're seeing what about outdoor activities a lot of people walking their dogs running even riding their bikes what are the tips you give this is a really hard space right because you're outdoors so it feels like you're more protected than when you're in those smaller confined spaces but there's been a lot of a lot of talk about still needing to maintain physical distance any spaces a lot of actually a full twelve feet wide or he's six feet wide so you're you're trying to gauge distances that were not used to having to gauge get really familiar with what six feet looks like you might even want to measure on your own paths or sidewalks to see kind of really how far away do you need to move my mom always tells me she says you know put your arm out if they put their arms it's about six feet between the two of you but it's a really tough one you need to wear that mask every time you pass somebody for sure I can understand when you're not on the block has anyone else on it you want to pull it down and get fresh air but if you're on a bike if you're running if you're walking roller blades skateboards freezers whatever it is you really want to be creating that six feet want to be wearing a mask and if you're in a group dropped back to single file as you go to pass someone because it allows you to create more room you don't end up pushing someone away off the pads or into the street or into someone's yard in order to create the proper distance yeah I know that is very important I love that this is an interesting one I'm curious what you're gonna say because in these times we're hearing a lot of people cheering loudly blasting their music playing music and maybe they have the best of intentions what your thought is that polite or not what are the circumstances in which it is or it isn't this is a really tough one I think it's really cool the way a lot of cities in town to rally around a specific time of day to do it as a cheer for everyone both to live spirits and encourage all our social workers I take away from that all but you do want to think about it when you go to venture out on your own in your cities our to do anything seven PM is typically not the time frame most people are in the works but if you're thinking about you know building thing that concerto for your neighbor's birthday just might want to consider what time of day you're thinking of doing it I tend to hear that around five o'clock seems to be easiest most people are done with their work day so they're not gonna be having is in call or something that gets interrupted but families are putting young kids down there it's like you have to find the balance and then he referred you live in but you do you really want to be considerate and think how much is this we need participating in really giving to my community and how much is this just me blowing off steam one I think yeah it's all about being consider that pretty much sums it up Lizzie post etiquette expert thank you so much for your time we appreciate it thank you so much you can.

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"emily post" Discussed on TalkRadio 630 KHOW

TalkRadio 630 KHOW

03:53 min | 2 years ago

"emily post" Discussed on TalkRadio 630 KHOW

"Could all use a little advice on manners during this corona virus pandemic in here with more on the evolving etiquette from the Emily post institute is Lizzie post so the thanks for being with us I want to start off with supermarket etiquette what are the rules we should be following we really want to be following whatever the rules are supermarkets or settings so whether that following a directional path up and down the aisles if it's wearing masks for everyone I believe it is still trying to keep that physicals six foot distance which I think we need a lot of practice with but things are so different now you're not picking up all the different produce and boxes and reading labels you're trying to really only engage with product when you're going to select it you're also trying to look around you make sure that there's not someone waiting six feet away to get into that spot but has the item that you're looking for we also really want to be extra courteous to the staff who were there every day there are social workers and they're making it possible for us to purchase these items so you don't just want to say thank you at the cash register when I say it's all the stuff that you're seeing what about outdoor activities a lot of people walking their dogs running even riding their bikes what are the tips you give this is a really hard space right because you're outdoors so it feels like you're more protected than when you're in those smaller confined spaces but there's been a lot of a lot of talk about still needing to maintain physical distance any spaces a lot of actually a full twelve feet wide or sixty wide so you're you're trying to gauge distances that were not used to having to gauge get really familiar with what six feet looks like you might even want to measure on your own Sir sidewalks to see kind of really help far away do you need to move my mom always tells me she says you know put your arm out if they put their arms it's about six feet between the two of you but it's a really tough one you need to wear that mask every time you pass somebody for sure I can understand when you're not on the block has anyone else on it you want to pull it down there but if you're if you're running if you're walking roller blades skateboards freezers whatever it is you really want to be creating that six feet you want to be wearing a mask and if you're in a group dropped back to single file as you go to pass someone because it allows you to create more room you don't end up pushing someone away off the pads or into the street or into someone's yard in order to create the proper distance yeah I know that is very important I love that this is an interesting one I'm curious what you're gonna say because in these times we're hearing a lot of people cheering loudly blasting their music playing music and maybe they have the best of intentions what your thought is that polite or not what are the circumstances in which it is or it isn't this is a really tough one I think it's really cool the way a lot of cities in town to rally around a specific time of day to do it as a cure for everyone's both to live spirits and encourage all our social workers I want to take away from all but you do want to think about it when you go to venture out on your own in our he's our duty seven PM is typically not the time frame most people are in parks but if you were thinking about you know building concerto for your neighbor's birthday just might want to consider what time of day you're thinking of doing it I tend to hear that around five o'clock seems to be the easiest most people are done with their work days call or something that gets interrupted but families are putting young kids down there it's like you have to find the balance you record you live in but you do really want to be considerate and think how much is this we need participating in really giving to my community and how much is this just me blowing off steam we want to think yeah it's all about being consider that pretty much sums it up Lizzie post etiquette expert thank you so much for your time we appreciate it thank you so.

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00:16 sec | 2 years ago

Oilers say Colby Cave remains in medically induced coma

"Former Bruin Colby cave is in the Oilers system these days but he's currently fighting for his life cave suffered a brain bleed and underwent emergency surgery in Toronto his wife Emily posted an emotional Instagram update saying Colby's in a medically induced coma and needs a

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Polite Tipping is customary in the United States

Correspondents Report

03:59 min | 2 years ago

Polite Tipping is customary in the United States

"Industraliazed tipping for service at restaurants and bars. Of course it's not really thing so traveling to the US where gratuities generally expected and dependent upon by workers. Well trying to work out how much to tip and went to tip can be confusing. It's a question and North American correspondent. James Glendale gets more than almost any other question. So he turned to one of the continent's leading etiquette experts for full and frank explanation. Sometimes it's whispered subtly sometimes it's asked in the middle of a restaurant but pretty much. Every OSCE traveler on the road in the United States. Wants one question answer and it has nothing to do with my day job. How much should you tip? You definitely want to be tipping. Fifteen or twenty percents lizzy post is from the Emily Post Institute an organization. That scene is an American authority on etiquette and how to generally be polite. Fifteen percent is is kind of where we say. The Standard is twenty percent of what we see most often. And I think that's purely because the math is easier and and people do feel good giving a little bit more the second question most ozzy travelers have is who to tip and the least list is fairly extensive after waiters taxi drivers hairdressers and bartenders. All expected tip as standard. We tend to see Bartenders being like one to two dollars per drink or fifteen to twenty percent of the tab things get a little more complicated. If you just getting something from a local cafe or takeaway you have no actual obligation to tip. It's seen as a courtesy to tip and the hotels are whole different ballgame. Where a bunch of people? We'll have their hands out the doorman who helped me with your bag. It's usually a dollar to four dollars per bag or a dollar to five dollars per back. a dollar to when the hail a cab for you You know throw an extra dollar to it's raining and they really were able to get you a dollar bills and I think so I mean yeah when you're looking at you know a couple of dollars for the cleaning person in your hotel room a couple of dollars for the doorman a couple of dollars when the taxi does start to add up and it's a good reason to carry small bills and cash. Americans will tell you that tipping is just all about showing gratitude and rewarding good service. But that's actually not entirely true depending on the state. You're in many of the work is you. Encounter like white is will only in. What's called a tipped? Minimum wage. Futile is an and then rely on tips to supplement the income and pay their bills because of that many Americans pretty deeply divided as to whether or not you should actually scale you tip up and down depending on the quality of the Service. I know this is a great question and I guarantee you. If you have a whole handful of Americans they look have different answers or they fall on one side or the other some people really do choose to vary their tips Based on his service and I personally like when I look at the difference between the two percentages. I'd just rather leave the twenty percent. Although it's not encouraged forgetting to tip if you are a foreign is often politely excused. It's arguably much better than leaving. A small tip like five percent which can be interpreted as a deliberate passive aggressive insult. We might even get quizzed on it so be wound. Yeah it's you well let me put it this way. If you choose to make it optional you will probably leave a lot of really upset people in your weight and I don't think that's generally what people WanNa do on their vacation. I think they wanNA feel good about participating in the place that they came to and this is just one of those one of those aspects of American life and that is perhaps the politest possible way of saying if you coming to the United States prepared to pay up. You don't really have a choice. North America correspondent. Who's not North American Australian? James Glen Day reporting

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"emily post" Discussed on KQED Radio

KQED Radio

12:20 min | 3 years ago

"emily post" Discussed on KQED Radio

"The Senate as well well you are not just an author but your co president of the Emily post institute did you hear people say if and if the Emily post institute write something about this it could lessen the stigma that is my hope it is one of my big hopes is that this book can help to normalize it so that it's not science it's but the more that this is normalized the less it's going to be able to be used as something to put people in prison and to to sort of wrongfully harass people about so our hope is that and you know it's it's a it's a long slow low battle it feels like but it is it is making headway and you know one of the things that we are really I guess I guess it was a proud of it the Emily post institute is that when a lot of people think of etiquette they think that it's for the elite they think that it's about the secret society or knowing a secret language that lets you fit into a certain world and it for us said Emily post it couldn't be further from the truth when you look at these principles of consideration respect and honesty those are accessible to all of those are something that every part of our population can really grasp and utilize to help be more aware of the people around them and only post herself said that whenever you have two people who come together and their behavior affects one another you have as a kid it's not some rigid code of rules or manners and so we've always really really held tight to that throughout the generations well let me go to some callers and I'll start with Pat in Oakland hi Pat what's your question good morning this is the problems come up with me a couple times where I'm in a situation where somebody is passing the ball or joint and I look at the stadium and it's got a lot of the live on it yes yes I mean I try to avoid that you have the I can I don't have that problem I mean this someone gripping but yellow would you buy but offers to our question this is this is definitely covered in the book and it it it took awhile to get the language writer because he didn't want gross people out all the reading it but it can be really gross to see kind of a a slob bird and of bull piece and harder to deal with that that's a joint a lot of people just out of habit will will burn the the mouth piece of a bowl for a moment just to help kind of dried out and also for for the germ factor so that's actually a pretty common practice to see happen I don't think that it's terribly rude to just give it a little wife I think it's a it's so funny how much it depends on the company that you're with among really close friends who can rip each other a bit you can like that's the back and say come on man could clean the ball first and that can be something that's really light we received it doesn't cause a lot of offense but in other company that could be really offensive and difficult to pull off casually and so you just try to kind of take care of it yourself I have a harder time with that when it comes to the joints that I smoke because of someone has as we say in the book a particularly wet whistle and that does get really wet then you're both potentially having a harder time is smoking the end of it and also it's just it's not comfortable you can try doing things like holding it a little bit differently some people I've seen some people hold the end of the joint almost like they're holding a chillum which you hold with your your hands kind of grass together in such a way that you're not actually touching the mouth piece but you're inhaling that's a little harder to pull off with the joint I I haven't mastered that one yet I this is a delicate issue is definitely something to be aware of well Pat thanks for the question hi Bridget writes on Tuesday I rest are probably to the vet thinking she was having a seizure the vet told me that he suspected she was high is likely she picked up something off the sidewalk the vet said this is becoming more common and they see at least one high dog every day please be careful with your product even the outdoors and this is their rights I suffer a very bad psychotic reaction to pot it takes me to an ugly place and it takes me weeks to go back to a normal existence now that pot is legal I'm constantly surrounded by it in public places I grew up in the fifties and people smoke tobacco in public and you couldn't get away from it now it's happening with weed where it's hard to find public space with clean air that last point raises some interesting questions in terms of just the responsibilities of the person who is using it and the responsibility or the way to approach that person say if they are not enjoying it in your presence absolutely and and just before we lose the point about you know where people are choosing to discard items you know I saw it I was on to walk the other day and saw vape pen discarded it was a disposable and to me I was just like boy that means that anyone of any age could be picking that up and finding that you don't know if it's empty or nonempty and that is worrisome so a consideration really is to dispose of your products properly to make sure that when you are carrying them on you that it's not easy for them to fall out of a pocket or purse or backpack or bag and to route to really take care with your product I'm really glad that listener brought that up in terms of a smoke being everywhere and I believe technically that we are not supposed to be smoking publicly even though it happens very regularly I know that in people's personal homes in on private property that that you really can walk into a house and then you know have it be an issue for you like this listeners experiencing one of the interesting things about cannabis is that the many chemical compounds that are in it create the different effects that it has on our body and on our mind and I'm always a fan of encouraging people to go low and slow but to to try to find what might work for them if it is something they want to engage with but haven't found the right combination of the right strain yet because what this listener said is actually it's a pretty common negative reaction and it doesn't have to happen with every single strain and there's also some really great research out there about contact ties we referenced a doctor Ryan van trees research in the book about the likelihood of you actually experiencing a contact high and what it would take to to get you one everybody is different so you want to keep that in mind but I do think it's really appropriate that if nobody has spoken up about you know opening a window or trying to take the smoke downwind from people rather than up wind river of wind is where it's all going to drift on to the to the group near you and down wind as when it'll drift away from them and you really do want to feel comfortable saying you either moving yourself around or turning on a fan or opening up the window or stepping outside or asking someone else to do the same for you and it it really depends on the situation that you're in if I'm in a situation where I am the one person and the rest of the crowd is all doing this I might choose to move myself rather than ask the crowd to move or I might speak with my host and say Hey you know just a reminder I'm I'm trying not to smoke right now again I was in that situation last night and I was really grateful that everyone around me they were both smoking cigarettes and smoking joints and it was really nice that they were aware of where I was sitting in in the on the back porch that we were all on and people are kind of moving and I was also moving myself at times when I didn't want to just speak up and say Hey you know can you watch it with that cigarette smoke I didn't feel comfortable or polite for me so I wanted to instead do what I could do to move around it and it all kind of worked out but I think having the confidence to know that you can move yourself or that you could speak up if you needed to and even maybe practicing some sample language that feels casual in light are ways that you can help feel confident walking into those situations where you might encounter elsewhere a little harder when we're talking about public smoking and you don't know people yes also if you ask what is concert etiquette my recent exacts a mix of yes that that can be really tough right because at a concert you know you might not have the ability to move your seats and that can be you can be really bothers some I do suggest that if you're ever having trouble with someone around you are disturbing you at a concert and in some type of way or it's some type of public performance that you do your best to find an usher or someone from the establishment that's hosting it to deal with the problem and to explain what's going on to them you know safety does really supersede etiquette and you just don't know where other people are out there have been some really really intense stories that we've been told at the Emily post institute that we've seen highlighted in the news of just terrible backlash when someone tries to even politely confront someone and so I do said we do really suggest safety first and and go to the establishment of something is making you uncomfortable and again Lizzie posts book is higher etiqueta guide to the world of cannabis from dispensaries to dinner parties Chris in Vallejo join us hi I am in the tourist industry I have three years of in taking people from San Francisco up to so now Matt and napa county for wine tasting tours and recently just started my own business doing taking that model is that taking people up and then to see no for Canada's chores and the difference in behavior is night and day people are just so much more considerate and polite and smoke cannabis than wine tasting well Chris intact yes if you started a new tour we combine the two and the at the tasting room but normally won't do late afternoon wine tastings because they say by then people are drunk and obnoxious they say oh you're kind of those people yeah we'll do a late afternoon tape Bernice in San Francisco joined as this is about when you're like either end up you know social situation where their children run and everywhere what Medicare for being around children and second what is he what can you do if somebody else is like supposing that to Canada on a regular basis thirty six yeah desert and Bernice these are good questions they're also very tough questions mostly because parenting is such a personal issue and so you do in terms of your second question of what can you do of someone's exposing their own children to cannabis on a regular basis those are those are confrontational conversations that you really want to make sure that you feel comfortable having and that you approach with delicacy and care it's it is that they're they're very delicate topics when it comes to make stage parties we see alcohol consumption and we even do see tobacco consumption in front of minors quite frequently cannabis I think in a lot of social ways will get folded into our society in in similar forms where you know you don't want that smoke drifting on to children you don't want it being in closed rooms with no ventilation with children around I think that you do want to make sure that you that for instance if if I go to a party I want to make sure and and it's a mixed day to party I want to make sure it's okay with my host that I you know light that joint in the backyard they may not want me to their they may choose not to not to engage with cannabis in front of their children or at at parties with children that are there that aren't their own other places it's perfectly okay I've been to many parties.

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Magazine apologises to Monica Lewinsky for 'disinvitation' to event

24 Hour News

01:03 min | 4 years ago

Magazine apologises to Monica Lewinsky for 'disinvitation' to event

"Employee of the cable tv company optimum arrived in a bucket truck to work on the cable what set off the dispute between him and a fifty nine year old woman is not known but it made her angry enough to turn off his truck when he was up in the bucket leaving him no way to get down police told the record of north jersey that she took utility property before walking away she's been charged with harassment and false imprisonment among other charges no names were released warren levinson new york monica lewinsky says she was disinvited to an event by town and country magazine because former president bill clinton was attending clinton had an affair with lewinsky in nineteen ninety eight when she was a white house intern the magazines apologized saying in a tweet it regretted the way the the situation was handled town and country held its annual philanthropy summit in new york city on wednesday lewinsky said on twitter her invitation was rescinded after she'd accepted because clinton decided to attend and she said manners expert emily post would not approve welcome to total wine and more my boy gets all of this beer out of the way.

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