17 Burst results for "Emily Heller"

"emily heller" Discussed on Good One: A Podcast About Jokes

Good One: A Podcast About Jokes

03:00 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on Good One: A Podcast About Jokes

"It's a really really funny episode top to bottom but one of the things that I think is funniest about it and it's hard to even put my finger and this is like they start a thing called frazier cranes enormous ask contest where they try and get people to take pictures of his big but and and there's something that I feel like we don't talk about men's butts enough on TV. Maybe that's why I think it's funny and I there's just something that so like stupid and wholesome about it on her show like that I really love but then there was also an episode that opened with like the aftermath of one of their disastrous dinner parties and it was like a Meta joke about frazier the show where it was like you don't know what happened at the party but from context clues you know it was a disaster and anyway that I was another one where I was like okay the the cold open of the that episode where they decide to not throw anymore dinner parties together is perfect diva joke that never worked but you try to bunch of times never worked at at this point you're like I guess we'll never do it again but you'll go to grave bailing. This is funny. Well I think I might have. I think it's on the album it's on the special I put it in even though it never worked the way I wanted it to which was that I talked about and this was before I ended up getting married <hes> because like long story short. I got married for health insurance. It was like I wasn't planning on it. We weren't GonNa do it. All of a sudden we needed to and ten days later we got married <hes> joke talk about never wanting to get married and like how sort of anti-climactic it feels to be like to just look around and realize you're there and I call it unceremonious and I say like it's literally unceremonious and it's like doc. I think that's so clever because there was no ceremony the word unceremonious means. I don't think it's actually funny. It's just an apt word but never got a laugh and I'm like maybe it doesn't deserve laugh but also I wanNA keep saying I want people to understand understand the meaning here and I just I was so stubborn about it that I was like. I'm fucking. I'm putting it on the album like I like it. That's for me. It's not for you very rarely. Do I do that very rarely. Is there something where I'm like. I'M GONNA keep saying it doesn't get a laugh but that was one of them. Cool thank you this is great. Thanks for having me no problem. That's it for another good one. Emily Hellers ice thickness is available on comedy. CENTRAL'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL CORRAL PASTA PASTA is available through kill rock band camp and an abridged version is available wherever you stream comedy album emily on social media at Mr Emily Heller good one is producing Mike commentate with corruption assistance from Orissa Melman doesn't eat right did our theme song off brighter viewing rate to show at Apple podcasts five stars please and if you know anyone who might like the podcast maybe tell them what the heck you can email any comments questions or laughing suggestions. We WanNA PODCAST AT GMAIL DOT COM.

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"emily heller" Discussed on Good One: A Podcast About Jokes

Good One: A Podcast About Jokes

04:25 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on Good One: A Podcast About Jokes

"And despite being filled with love and just so many eight-plus trophies for for some reason they do not have a professional audio setup. Don't worry because the actual injury portion of this episode was recorded with you know mice and everything and don't worry because this episode is very good and I love it. It's with stand up comedian and writer Emily Heller. I can't remember when we first met it might have been at a panel seven years ago around the release of yellow tones oral history about women comedy. We killed but I've known emily for awhile now. As in many ways our careers in comedy hers Performing Line Reporting Paralleled each other revolt started in San Francisco and then moved to New York around the same time we'll found larger and larger platforms around the same time eventually which L._A.. Right which most recently has letter to work in H._B._O.'s Barry I I don't know maybe it's because of the timing but emily I always seemed to have similar ways at looking comedy and what a standard should put into and get out of their work because I've seen so much of her journey where emily in terms of how she worked on her last professional license which came early this year comedy central Youtube Channel and where she is now with their stand up fascinated me so as I said this is a very good episode and I love it but trump. You're about to here which is also available album. Pasta is one of the highlight of the hour as it's both so so funny as well as catchers so much where emily has been less for years in her life to to emily and to me. It's everything that stand up should be so here. Is Emily Heller. I know I need to work out more than the zero I have been. It's very hard for me to motivate though because as soon as I put on workout clothes I feel done right. I'm already caused playing as an exerciser you know. What more do I need to do? The only reason I want to work out is so my pants will fit if you get me and Spandex we did it. Ed Mission Accomplished once. I'm wearing workout clothes too. I never want to leave the house because I know how I look in them. It's an indoor look I kind of think only fit people can and look good and workout clothes is not because they're hotter than me. We all know they aren't is just that only fit people look self actualize when they're wearing workout clothes right you see a fit person and workout clothes. You think oh she's doing what she wants to do with her life right you see me and workout clothes and it's just like Oh someone how to talk with her probably a doctor. Today is her worst day. Every day is January second for me and workout close. I can't look like I'm having a good time. That's why when I do exercise. I just wear a hospital down because I don't want people to think I'm trying to better myself. I want them to think I am already meeting the odds in a true sign of the apocalypse. I did join a gym. This year I joined for what I think is a pretty unusual reason I joined because at the age of thirty two I was diagnosed with attention deficit disorder. Maybe soon I'll get my braces off. Get my period who knows but I've been reading more about it in very short spurts and it turns out that one of the things that supposed to really help with A._d._H._d.. Is Regular exercise which was devastating news because I know empirically that I will not work out out for the sake of my body but it turns out I will do it for my brain. My brain is very important to me. It's where all my tweets come from. You know my brain gives me gives my body never has like my brain gave me this the other day. It's a new theme song for the T._V.. Show frazier but it set to the tune of the theme song for the T._V.. Show friends don't worry. I am going to sing it so it's like no one till you you were Dr Frazier Crane..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

01:57 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"Once you leave once you leave. It doesn't feel as good to be like. Needs to be in the pressure cooker of don't laugh at brats. Yes. But it was also part of it was just like part of it was the church Nichols. Like, we're not supposed to laugh part of it was we went to find out what it was. And the answer. We got was so stupid. Yes. It was you didn't have to go could have known. The only surprised was the video right? A horse. That was a wild horse. And then he stared at it. You are my horse. He also they make wisely. They make zero promises about what his gaze does. Yeah. You can't be promissory about guys. Yeah. It'd be like if something happens. I'm glad for you. But don't try to Brad. So. You have to sign something. Also, the fact that he doesn't speak in public makes me think he has a really stupid voice. Oh, my it's like when you find out ABRAHAM LINCOLN had a high wing. Yeah. There's there's like a newspaper articles about how knowing it is to listen to him speak. Oh my God. Car seven years ago. No really well shut up. As it us. Isn't that fun? I wish Daniel Day-Lewis had made that choice super Acura milling. Yeah. I think what if you tried to. And they were like it's already annoying enough that you're doing this method thing we can't on another element to it every line. He did was eighty are. They made them come back in and do it normal normal. Emily, what albums called pasta pasta going to listen to it? We're going to buy it on. And thank you so much. You're so funny. What a delightful guessed you were delightful podcast. Thank you. And we have the guests say the catch you feel. I know the catchphrase please keep it crispy. Yeah..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

04:18 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"I don't wanna like badly misquote the like way it was explained to me. But there is something about like people's brains who have ADHD where like the act of attempting to start a task that you're not interested in is like blood leaves the part of your brain that lets you do that. If you have aged he's not just like hard. It's like harder than anything else. You could try. That's so funny, again, someone who be a doctor and correct me don't at me. Yeah. Because after that my deadline, my book deadlines tomorrow and valve, it's okay. It was actually ten days ago, but they gave me ten extra days because he's like won't be able to read it for ten days. Don't tell me that. I was like I haven't really been able to work on it directly for ten days because I've just burned out too hard and the thought of doing it. So I said values like after this we have something tonight. But I was like between this and that I was going to try and do these final tweaks, and I just like really can't bring myself to do it. And that's not like me. Yeah. I normally don't struggle with that at all it's hard. But it'd be it came from a like a. Being chore? I had a traumatic level of stress. It was just too many things and since then was actually sitting right where Katie and I had this moment where it just felt like a handful of six snapped. And I was just like, oh, I'm broken now. And I've been waiting to be back, and it just hasn't happened heart because it also it's like because of what we do we pay a lot of value on like output getting things done and being creative person. And when we fail to get things done like that, it's hard on our sense of self at least for me, it is for sure. Yeah. And I I think it's it's hard to have. I'm not the guy that can like I can finish this thing. And like, I will feel so good. If I finish this. Yeah. Here's speaking right to. I will love myself so much if I finish this it's hard. But also, it is it's. Your valuable even if you don't do that. Thank you. The new album. Bailable now, I just listened to it. It's great. I don't think you go about recording. Did you tell people it was an album, according yeah. Yeah. It was an album, according we did it in Portland because it's on kill rock stars. And that's where they are. And so they did a lot of work till I what I especially. I mean, it's great great. Yeah. And I yeah, I'm happy with how came out I had like taken time off from TV writing to like tour for like, I work. I'm barry. And so it was like I did season one. And I was like this is the first time I've worked on his show where I feel very confident there's going to be another season of it. So I'm not going to immediately take the next job that comes along. So I was like I can finally like just focus on stand up for a while and ended up being a full year between when season one writers wrapped and season to start working out. And so just toward that whole time and then recorded that at the end of it. I started. I did the Melbourne. The Melbourne international comedy festival. I did that for like a couple of weeks, and I opened for just for few weekends. And then I opened for Nick thune when we did like a driving tour of like the south west and the midwest. And then I just did a bunch of clubs and colleges where did you tape? It. In Portland at the curious comedy theatre. Yeah. Which was cool. It was really. I was I think it went. Well, I'm proud of it. Well, it's great. I loved it. We were dying stuck in second friends. It's so good. You can listen to it on Spotify. I ended up about half of its on spot. It's an abridged. It's the abridged version. I think there are like maybe even ten tracks that are not on Spotify. So you should buy it on ideas. You don't have to but other people shit. You're like. Yeah. Maybe they'll eventually released the whole thing Spotify. But I'm not sure. Well, you can get a taste is it. Yeah. Taste see if you like so funny..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

04:18 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"Well, was the type of thing. Like, what happened was I had by the way. Thank you. I anyway, I that you know, that whole thing just broke me. And I did have this like sort of come to Jesus I was like I have to change my whole life. I have to focus on like helping the world and like doing activism and stuff like that. And every time I would like sit down and be like, all right. I would have like. Crazy resistance innings -iety around it. And like, I just couldn't get things done, and I was feeling terribly thinking about doing just like doing some sort of organizing work or like looking into it. Even literally just like looking into what I can do. And I was talking about organizing something, but I didn't know what I was talking about. And I you know, anyway. When I did finally go in to get diagnosed with the psychiatrist told me was he was like, you know, listen you are clearly hyphen shining. Like, you have figured out how to cope with this like you. But a lot of times what happens is like people will find a balance where they can deal with it. And then something will throw that off and everything collapses interested. And that's seems like what happened for you is like you tried to add this one extra thing onto your system of coping with this, and it broke everything down and. Yeah. So I it's very interesting. I'm of course, like most things I'm like what if that applies to me because I had a break. And I was just like what what was it? So the idea that too much stress can push you into a place of low functioning is that sort of what happened that like I've designed my life around things that work with ADHD like stand up works very well with it because you're writing in short spurts, you're getting a lot of stimulation and feedback. You don't have to like sit down and write a big long thing alone. That's a lot harder to do than just to be like I thought of joke. I'm going to write the joke. I'm going to go on stage. I have clear deadlines and it short, it doesn't take long basically, just picking pumpkins and a lot of I think Santa comedy attracts a lot of people with ADHD because it's something that we can actually do. Right. And because like people ADHD sometimes like seek out extra stimulation that other people wouldn't be able to handle like, you know, how people are always like I could never do that. Right. Right. Whereas very calming us. Yeah. Yeah. The rules knowing this situation and just we're getting stimulated. We're not gonna get bored of this. Wow. And three seconds eighty. I do think that it's very common for also think that it's also like a beneficial thing. Because like one of the things about AD is it is it causes you to think about things in a not super linear way, which is really valuable for writing jokes. Yeah. Yeah. Of course, make connections that don't make sense. Yeah. Exactly. Benefiting from it. And then you weren't I was benefiting from it. And then I attempted something that didn't make as much sense with AD Putin. And I couldn't do it. Yeah. Yeah. And so what I've learned now is to like, I mean, I think the biggest benefit of actually getting diagnosed and learning more about it is I just stopped hating myself for not being able to magically change into a different person. And now like I do try and pursue things that I do think can help people that also work with what I'm already good at capable of without trying to as opposed to trying to force yourself being like all of a sudden, I'm going to try and be like a freelance social worker some shit. I don't know what I even thought I was going to do. But yet to be like, no, here's what I'm capable of doing. And I'm going to try and say two things that make sense. Do they put you on medication? Yeah. I put myself on. Occasion. Gave you a little cash. They held me down made you take. Medicine as. Would help is day. Suggested that you take a medicine..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

02:29 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"Well, in like, you know, giving back is like the thing that everyone says makes you feel the best. I don't know why it's so hard for us to just like shift our lives to focus on that very hard to. I know I feel like I I'm constantly trying to like, I don't know. It's it's like dragging my feet to like change my life to be more towards that. Even though I know it's like right when I make decisions that lead to being like, a more better generous person. I like I feel better obviously. And it's one of the and it's like exercising where I'm like. I know I feel better when I size, and I hate that. I know that because now I have to do it. But I still don't I love that. Joe you head about. As we're by my elliptical that I almost I like knowing that I have it though. Yeah. There's only be really by exercise. Like, I why you wanna go for a walk. But there's all these skunks. Oh my God. I'm scared of God. You should be scream. I scream every time. I see them. Well, that's not gonna no it's not. Thing to do when you you have to go. Hello. I yeah, we saw one in the yard the other day. I was like going between our house and the garage was getting something out of the garage. And then as I open the door to come back into the house I saw skunk. And I slammed the door back close. So I was stuck in the garage. And I had to like text my husband to be like could you turn the light on in that house 'cause there's a skunk? And I needed to go. My God, you know, you can pick them up there. Kitty cats, that's insane. I've never done it. You can going to do that. Oh, y'all do it. Just pets is a whole thing. It's only legal and a few states. There's a very active online community. I recommend checking up media Media page. page or skunks as pets. That's all we will. So valuable millionaires valuable millionaires as millionaires money doesn't make valuable. I forgot what I was going to ask you, right? When you got back. You were talking about the elliptical machine for a second. Oh, right. Yes. That Santa bit about how you work out for your brain and motivate yourself 'cause you were diagnosed with ADD late. Yeah. Like, I guess a year and a half ago. Remember? Yeah. I know it was after Trump got elected because that was my breaking point. Really? Yeah. So you went in for some analysis..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

04:26 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"And when I watch things I noticed myself like sort of subconsciously attributing all the funny stuff to the men involved instead of the women, and I was like why is this happening? This goes to the alley Wong thing. Yeah. What were you gonna say? Well, and then when I was at camp to I would watch the kids laugh really hard at something a male counselor did, and then just like jokes that the female counselors would make would just go over their heads. And I was like, oh this stuff starts so early dog whistles, we couldn't. Yeah. It's sad. It's that. Yeah. That's so that I didn't want to interrupt especially as you were. About misogyny. That's why when I have a thought hold on what you're saying. Everyone applauds. But when Ellie talks about being so successful different than a man talking about being success rate. The only other comedian. I really saw talk about money and success and fame, frankly was Dane cook. Yes, I don't think it was on a special anything here. Just kind of like talking about what it's like being famous and how it's easy for him to meet people because he's none of it was really that gross or anything. But I remember being like, that's interesting. Most people don't talk about it. But then Allie talking about being a millionaire. Yeah. For some reason was really powerful for me. And I think for the audience. Yeah, you're not used to it. You know what? I mean, you're not used to it. And also, it feels honest in that way that you like watching your like, you're showing me who you actually are in your like, it feels like you're getting a real look at someone's life. But it's also don't you think inspiring especially to the women in the audience going like, yeah, there's somebody that made it happen as opposed to Ray Romano being like there's another white male that made it big in comedy. Don't you think it's more? I. I. Only to the extent that like you think being a millionaires inspiring. Yeah. Yeah. We do live in this society. Where it's just like, I think that's the thing. The subtext of these conversations about money as like part of the reason why I feel okay talking about money and and being overpaid design. Like, I don't think that makes me valuable. I don't think that that means I've achieved the money is an thing that I've achieved a you're in a minority there. I know I have to say that. And it's it's like people don't hear it that way might as well be on a pacman board and being like, yeah. But I don't care about these. Points. I might be the high score here. But I don't care. Do you have to really I know I'm sorry. I'll be right back. Got. I think it made me have to be also wanted to tell you when you're talking about you're Goth phase another sketch idea. Clown technical college. I think is valid. Yeah. And then you're talking about Goth, Maryland handsome. It's Hanson, but they're all off. Okay. Good idea. I'm trying to think like what like. A sound that Marilyn Manson makes could go into Bob. It's not happening. We're in the same. Doing. Talking. Trying to go sweet dream. Now. The beautiful bops by new to Marilyn Manson. You're saying is beautiful because money isn't value. What does I have a guess? I have to think that being creative gives you value expressing yourself gives you value. Just being sexy main thing does your six you said. But Chris they are. And I were talking about that. It's like the things the choices that we have to be valuable. Yeah. One of them is make money be a producer a lot. And then one of them is sex like being a sex person. We were talking about like the Matthew mcconnahey model. Take take Matthew mcconaughey how? But like the guy that just lives, by the beach in a trailer bucks a lot so go like, he's still valuable. Don't get him wrong. He doesn't do anything. He doesn't do anything. But a lot. Yeah. That's still one of the ways that we go like, okay. Like, whether I'm living the life. I wanna live. I think about like people that don't function highly in the way that our society values and the. Ways that they've money sex power. I guess is another one. Yeah. But then there there are other ways to contribute that make..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

01:50 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"And for me she on the record. I always loved Val smell smell dating thing. By the way, we've talked about someone smell. That's probably a very good time. Then she had the baby she got pregnant. She started smelling differently still loved it. But some men become repulsed by their smell. So can go both ways. So this is really that sort of embarrassing physical the gray matter of your brain, Ken betray, you in certain ways, I do feel like you know, that stuff is a factor, but you can also just like wear stronger deodorant. And also, I mean, I kind of feel like. Maybe I'm being too. Maybe it's just me that works like this. I think I know other people don't think about love in the same way. I do. But I really do feel like it's a choice in a lot of ways. Like, I think that like you choose to allow yourself to love someone this whole idea that people have of like getting swept up in something. And just like you don't choose who you fall in love with. And I think you do on some level. I think you're think you I think you choose. And I think I think I definitely choose other people may be, but I I do. Yeah. I don't know if I agree with that hasn't been my experience. Yeah. I think my experience has been and again, my experience everyone thinks they're snowflake. But I do think I think about this stuff differently than a lot of people. Which is another reason why I was like should I get married? You know, like tell me everything all ready. No. Understand what you're saying. It's not the American standard romantic comedy. It's not fun. What you're saying? No, no. And it's not like, and I think that our idea of romance as being impulsive and careless. I don't think that's romantic. I think it's romantic to really like consider someone..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

04:22 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"I went through a lot of it took a lot of legal work to put her in my will. And I was like she was just my wife, just your wife. You went to do any of that. There's no debate. There's no clear we were living together. And you can't be like so she can visit me in the hospital, but you can be like she can have all my stuff if I die and a bit more bit. So I would. But like once we got married there is a comfort it sucks, though. Yeah. I do I have to do this to get that like we should just be able to say I want that and you can with a lot of legal fees, just a much more complicated than eating. Yeah. Boring ship. There's also something about or I put this to you. I wonder for me. There's something true that we can get lost in ourselves. And sometimes we don't even know what's best meeting. You could be with somebody. Maybe you really do want to break up. But because you're married you you don't right away. So getting your friends and everybody involved, I hate the word accountability. But you're you're saying to a group of people we have something really special, and we love it. And we actually want to include you in it in a social way, we didn't invite anyone. No, I hear family. But yeah. Yeah. And that's another if I wanted to leave Valerie, which I which I don't. But if I did there's this now. Now, there's a ceremony and a thing in our in our friends being included in that are almost there as a safety to go. Remember yourself? Remember, the you that loves Valerie and wants to be there because sometimes you want to quit things that are really great for you. Yeah. That makes sense. I just don't know if I if I think I would still be able to think about it like that even without getting married. I think I would still weigh like 'cause I do think that it's like, it's, you know, a decision you make every day to like be with this person to do the work of being in a relationship, and like show up, you know, you still have to show up even if you're. You know, whether you're married or not, right. Mine is like if I ever wanted to leave out something's wrong with me. I need other people to be like well, remember that? And I it's good that there's it's not as easy to just like. And then I when you break up with somebody you're just like, and then I just hit the road. And then I started dating care him. But also, it's like, you don't know the future like anything could change. I mean, I think that's one thing. That's scary. Twos to be like what if I think about this a lot like what if one of us goes crazy, and like has like, I don't know what to do in that situation. Sure. Did you ever watch ally? Mcbeal? There is up in the movie the town. God. What if I was seriously like you need to watch more art by women, and you should start with Alli? I would be that was that would be such bad advice. That would not convince you of my alley mcbeal was made by a man it was and it's not that good does not hold up. I watched all of it. And like the year that I moved to LA I spent a lot of time in my apartment rewatching Allie Mae deal in it, just and I'm a completion est. So I watched the whole thing even though got really bad. But at a certain point the way, they kill off this one character is they and. Spoiler alert for ally. Mcbeal which you should not watch. If you're currently being there. Forward. This whole story line. We're one of the characters becomes like a men's rights activists before we had that easy term for it and joins a men's group becomes really like anti-feminist. And they find out he has a brain tumor, and then he dies. So. Made him made him like that we talk about this all the time brain tumors can change your sexuality, they they can make you into children. That's the most disturbing. When more practically there instances where women have babies, and they can become disgusted by their husbands or something like that. Like things happen chemically that we were a little bit. Thank you. Thing. I've also this one stuck with me. Sometimes vows smell fair moans did change, and they changed after she had the baby..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

03:54 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"I, you know, based on how it feels yen just based on like how it went with other people like I had boyfriends and past who were like, very, you know, like charming and spontaneous then like outgoing and like. Really made me. Made me be more adventurous. But also made me feel like shit about the fact that I like to plan things and like made me feel like I wasn't being like fun enough for like, and he doesn't do that to me. And even though I do think that those are like valuable things to be like spontaneous and fun and things like that. And he's fun. But he's not like he's he likes that. I plan things also and like he doesn't push me in different directions. I think every person that you, and I think that I can still have those people in my life and different capacities. Do you feel like the not judgment in Vallon is relationship? I certainly take the lead more she she enjoys that her personality type merges well with that. And I also notice when they're times when I don't feel like going to a party, you're talking more, whatever and merges, she's a merger. We were talking about this on the in the Graham, she's a nine which I don't even. Yeah. Whatever. But the nines are her brothers and nine as well. So they merged with people they can see someone else's perspective. So well, it's almost as if it was there so easy going, and that's very calming to me. But then I noticed that like, I guess that's sort of what I was looking for is. I'm sort of like, a fiery person sort of like a watery person goes with the flow, and I'm more like I want to go do that unless I don't. I really don't. Yeah. It's very extreme. That's what I mean. It's like a little bit like manic depressive, it's either like, let's go and create a million new things and meet new people and engage or let's stay in like a hermit harder for a long time. I'd like to find more balance I'd like to burn out less. Yeah. We would I don't know how to how to make you do that work on it. I'm not giving up. I, you know, I think. He's been away. Oh, hi Brody. Where did your duck? Oh, well, we were in Santa Barbara. Oh, it wasn't like a homeward bound thing. Where you just let him leave the house wherever he wants all my Brody. I love your dog so much, you know, my dog. I've I've met your dog once and I took the funniest picture. I think I've ever taken of your dog really his tongue Listrik and way out to say. But he also he looks like a dog. I had when I was a kid. Yeah. He just looks like a dog. Yeah. He's like he's like classic central casting dog the central. So then you got married when did you get married got married back in February? I only posted about it on Instagram this week. It was because he needed health insurance. Yeah. Was there any this is not gonna please me to like uncover? I do want wanna be very I was there any of that. Yeah. I think there was a little bit of that. It's fun because it was one of those apartment to celebrate your or a ceremony or declaration, even if it is just an Instagram post. It was one of those things where it was like, I do think our relationship is just for us. I should probably stop talking about it. So very much. But it is like, yeah. There's we when we were talking about it. It was it was a there was a conversation about like. Okay. Well, like if this wasn't on the table, we wouldn't do it. Right. And then there's part of me where I was like. Yeah. But if you got an car accident tomorrow, you'd want to be able to come to the hospital. Yeah. And it's sucks that marriage is the only way to make that happen. But right now at it's we live in a society that definitely favors consideration before valid I got married..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

01:57 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"I'm actually quite low. I've been low for which is okay, okay, empathy face, though. I was like immediately. I want you to feel. Okay. But so she notices that. There's like just times where we go. Look the clown with the light up knows. We'll be back. Yeah. But like right now, we're riding it out. And she just has to kind of live with a lower functioning person. He's very like he wants to know. I'm okay. But he's also so okay with silences that that's really nice because sometimes I will spend all day talking to people as part of my job, and I'll come home and be like, I can't I can't be talking person right now. Yeah. And it'll. A little tired of yourself. Yeah. Sometimes I like to I also kind of retreat into myself more than I probably should. And I think that that's probably a side effect of how many years we've spent practicing only our side of a conversation. Talk about that before movie somebody else, I don't know. It's a weird pursuit that you're like, it's weird conversation. But it's Joe's just me talking. It's a weird way to be a person who's a weird way to. But yeah, I think we balance each other out pretty well. I don't think that there's any sort of what's interesting is like, I don't see. I don't see like personality traits on like one line of like there's one person on the side one person on their side. It's more like a if I had to visualize. It would be like a circle where like there's people standing all around the circle and he's standing in one corner. And there's a line between the two of us. But there could be someone else in a different direction that would balance me out on a completely different way. You know, like he's very like I have had relationships with other people who balance me out in a totally different direction. And I think when I got together with him. I was like this is more that direction that I want..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

04:01 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"And I'm not going to go trying other things on the menu. I've been there, and it wasn't fun. The ones waiter. Pasta and the. But also it was for one thing. I mostly named at that. Because I was like, ooh, then I can have someone make a picture of my face out of pasta for the cover. And also I like a backhanded way of naming the album after my husband whose name pasta is like Joe keys, the pasta. I didn't know you're married. It's okay. I I kind of did it secretly. I did it pretty secretly. We only recently like admitted it and public in part because on the album, I wasn't married when I recorded it. And I told a joke about not wanting to ever get married which was true when I told it and then a couple of weeks later, we had to get him some health insurance, and we very suddenly help insurance. What was given to help? And so you aren't really crazy about marriage. I've been pivot about it. And he he didn't really want to do it. And I didn't care. I think you default to the person who feels stronger about it. But I also was like, yeah, I didn't feel. I mean, there's things about that. I don't like already which is just that people sort of project onto you what they think your relationship is based on that. Then you're married. Yeah. Like what's an assumption? I mean, I think that people expect you to do certain things together, and like expect you to sort of merger lives in a way that holidays or other things. I mean, we spend holidays together and stuff it just feels like other things it did. I feel like people expect you to be joined at the hip, and he and I are both pretty independent people. And because you're married now because we're married now. Yeah, it seems like oh, aren't you going to? And I can't even think of an actual example of something. That's come up. People have been like, aren't you going to do this with your husband? But but. You wanted to go on a vacation by with your girlfriends or something? Yeah. It'd be a little a little weird or. Yeah. People and I have done that, you know, Val does up, and it just feels like submitting to this like, you know, this idea of what your relationship is. And I like to sort of again think critically about every part of my life and be like, what do I actually? Yeah. What do I actually want it to look like what do I want our partnership to be like, right? You meet pasta. We met online. Okay. Cupid? Okay. And before it was really even like all apps. It was like on the websites. Yeah. Yeah. Log on probably better. Because you didn't have the alerts telling you like seventeen people viewed your profile during this, okay date. Yeah. I did have like I would get emails that I would send to a secret folder in my g mail. But. And we had a leader like Tinder. Which I still have. Hidden. It was just hidden. It was that was it. You just have to click through if you do that. And show it I got spared from internet dating. And but it does do that it it's constantly trying to tell you that there's someone else that was a good match for you. Or would just be like you have a new message. You have a new, you know, like Facebook more overt more like it's like single faith. Yeah. Everybody's not actually as aggressive as Facebook about trying to make you log on because I was also I was like I was logging on they didn't need to pester me about it Facebook. I don't log in anymore. And they're like what's going on? Are you are you alive? You have eight hundred alerts, and then I look at them, and they're like someone, you know, posted something and I was like that's not an alert. That's in the feed. Why are you just trying to give me dopamine by putting the little red thing in the corner hated so much to do to? But so you met on the keys so we met on..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

03:21 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"It shows people like, oh, I know how to take something that happened in real life and turn it into a story. That's an script which is all they want you to do anyway. Right. And so that's like a good like it's really good to have something real that happened to you in a script because when you're in the staffing meeting. You have a story to talk about you have like. I used a couple real story. Yeah. And then they wanna talk about it. And then they wanna talk about. And then they remember who you are. Right. And I have to imagine being funny standup helped you. Yeah. Because they knew that you had already worked jokes out to those like, yeah. But yet being a stand up helps a lot too. But yeah, that's how I got my first job. And then you moved out for that. I moved out for that. I didn't think I was moving out. I like kept my apartment in New York. I sublet it to someone. I like put myself in storage. I like came out was like, I'm definitely not moving ally. I'm definitely coming back to New York. This is just a short term thing. And then I was here for like a month. And I'd had resisted, I don't know. I think I hadn't been in New York that long yet. And I didn't really know it would be like to live in LA, and I was still in that mindset of like doing sets every night. This is the life. This is all I wanna do like I'm going to be a up forever. And everything else is just a way to make that happen. And then you felt or is that a an opinion like me, I sort of inherited that opinion or pretend I felt that way I do. I love Santa. But you always meet there's always to your left into your right someone. That's like way more committed more committed than seem way more committed. I can say now having done it almost twenty years that it's like my level of commitment was crazy appropriate. But I would be doing it in New York. I would go up every night. But after a certain period, I started looking more like three or four times a week. And now in LA it might be once or twice a week. Like, yeah. That's that's later down the line. I haven't been doing stand up for like months. See that's what they're all frayed is going to happen. That's probably what you were afraid. I am living my nightmare of that period of high up. They bought you out. I like, I do I do think I genuinely felt that way about it at the time. I genuinely felt like it was I was so immersed in it. And like when I started in San Francisco, and I lived in San Francisco for three years, and I worked at rooftop comedy. So I was literally watching stand up all day. And then doing stand up every night. Right. And when I moved to New York, I was doing it multiple times a day. And then, you know, so when I came to LA to write for a TV show. I was like I just don't know what this is going to be like it seemed really daunting. I wasn't sure if I would like it, and I had this other thing that mattered so much to me. Right. And then I was here for like a month. I was having a great time at this job and L A's really easy to live in. And then we had like a break after the first month, which is unusual, and I went back to New York, and it was the middle of July. And it was disgusting. And I was like, this sucks. White people live here. What are we doing? What's wrong with all of us that we live here? Right. And we all think we deserve. We don't have to live like this it immediately got over that whole like New York, right? New York is such a great place for like the romance of leaving your apartment and going to get some food. It becomes a story. Really? Up your emptiness like with all the stuff..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

03:58 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"Yeah. LA stuff. So I understand transparency with stand up that you wanna be like, I got this at this club. So you should know that you, but like the nuances of like credits or draw? The ingredients are crazy like a podcast or you are you on a TV show that people recognize it's not just as simple like who would be your equal like who who could you have complete. Ria Bamford, and you can't have transparency Maria would be like, you know, when you give you fifty thousand dollars, and you're like excuse me Maria. We'll talk about it. She would be like, here's what happened when I like made this much money and got out of debt. And here's what it took. You know, like she talks about that stuff so openly. Right. I think. I think it is. I mean, I I like it don't get me wrong. But if you're pre TV, Emily, and she's just like, yeah. You know, you get a few Netflix specials, and now you're draws this or that or this that I think it's helpful to share information in general truth is good. Yeah. Because I also think like when I first started staffing on shows. I didn't have any money. I mean, I had like a better position than a lot of people who don't have money 'cause I had like a safety net. I didn't have student loans and things like that where the from just from like, Eugene, racial wealth. Family money. Yeah. Like, my when I moved to New York. My sister had a two bedroom apartment. So if I ever like went broken have a place to live. I knew I had a place. Yeah. And if I ever couldn't make rent I could ask her funny that is an important piece of the conversation. That is missing. And it is. But that's the thing like privilege. I think it's I think it's for me to like be open about that. So that when people are like, oh, yeah. I guess I'm going to like move to New York and like really go for it. It's like, well, here's here's what you should know about all of the all of the safety nets that I had when I started doing that. Because like I don't want to pretend like I'm completely self made on a because of crashing the TV show. I do people come up to me. Sometimes I moved to New York, and I'm homeless it's like, it's just like the show. That's not a comedy anymore. No, it moved a Andy like that. Yeah. Real serious. They India's companies. What they do. And it was a good riff. But you're absolutely Janine. Gras is a great joke about that. Maybe you've heard it where she goes people always say moved to New York, I moved to LA fifty bucks in my pocket, but they don't tell you. They also had a credit card that build their parents. And that I had a credit card Bill to my parents when I first got married and moved to Chicago and held onto it longer than I ought to have because that's that's generational. Yeah. Well, that's yeah. And my parents, you know, knowing that you could use exactly knowing that I had had some kind of backup plan made it possible for me to move to New York. Right. And but when I moved to LA, I moved here because I got staffed on a show, and at that point, I like, I didn't have any money I owed money, but like it was still like not that much. When that happened. I just told everyone what I was going to be making it my new job because all my friends were completely broke. And I didn't want them to like insists on splitting the check at lunch. Very tricky. Emily. People are username Hambly. I don't know. Bite me in the bud, man. In fact, there's there's you pay for dinner and people are mad at you, even though. Yeah, I I'm big fan of the joke. Like when I when I take my non showbiz friends out to dinner, I like to pay and if they resist my go-to joke, I'm in show business. Yeah. Which is just a joke for like, I'm overpaid. Or when I'm overpaid. I just say I'm overpaid..

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"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

04:28 min | 1 year ago

"emily heller" Discussed on You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes

"At Largo for my neck stand up gig. Okay, guys. That's it. Enjoy Emily Heller. Get in. Area. Well, you know, it hasn't happened. Actually, he goes, very displeased. Very few episodes of started with discussion of my son. People just not actually comment on it. Typically, not what does that say? I don't know. Are they like rich people who have their own on us? Would be like, oh, it looks like mine. Orig- people is on his can't wait to see other people is on go. My God brothers or just compare the only other prison. I know this is not that expensive. I mean, it certainly a luxury item no needs. Although it is your do that. So he could see I'm sorry. It is like hell like some people have them for like health reasons, like sick ill, people or athletes. I assume. Yeah, what am I doing with it? I'm healthy. And I am not working out ever ever ever. But Mark do plaza. When we bonded hard over are saunas, but you can get this on I could get the sun as a TV writer. Yeah. I know. You could get this on it for less than you make in one week. All right. I mean, I just bought a house. So I don't have any money anymore. Rich people talk. Yeah. Ownership. House is crazy. You almost have to keep it to yourself. I mean should. I mean, like, I I think is a weird way. Yes. It's crazy it which is. Yeah. But I don't think that you should not talk about how much money you make tell me why you know, it's a little bit alley one recently. I saw her and she was talking about being a millionaire on stage. It was just so impressed. It was so fun different Jessil Nick talked about being a millionaire. I different. You're right wrong. God for some reason. I guess you're just rooting for alley in a different way. Maybe it's a gender thing. Like, you're like fuck. Yeah. Not mean as opposed to just like another show biz white male jerk. I think it's more obnoxious for people that pretend like they're not rich. They are. Well, this is a good conversation. This conversation, everyone does that. Yeah. I mean Seinfeld. And whenever you're watching a comedian. They're all pretending they're pretending to be a normal person. Stomached then we don't like it when they don't like is like not to pinpoint Z's. But like these a lot of bits about meeting celebrities, and I've heard him catch some shit for that. Yeah. So like, you can't you kinda have to be like you learned the things that win win win. Don't try again, sort of Wim Ray Romano is worth more than a million saunas when you see him. He's just like, you know, and the ticket taker. Ripped it. But he didn't rip it all away. So we look like, I'm a hopper whatever. Ray you have your own theater, but still like Ray Romano didn't always win. There was a period of time. When everyone was like, I hate that period where everyone hated. Yeah. And then he'd he weathered that storm and came out the other side. Now, he pretends like, I think, you know, you, and I came up to New York so much of our lives pretending to be who used to be New York. Yeah. Relate to that. Yeah. I'm trying to stop doing that. Tell me everything. So that's what you mean. You wanna talk about having a little bit of scratch. I mean, I don't really talk about it on stage that much but off-stage I'm not gonna pretend like I didn't just buy a house. I also I mean, Maria Bamford, really inspired me to talk about this stuff more. She's very much like you should be super transparent about the money that you're making. So that other comedians can we can talk about what we're making. And you won't get ripped off. Oh, I you know, what? I mean. It's very it's different than like being like a TV writer. I bought a house. Right. You're saying a standup. Yeah. Yeah. As TV writer, it's very Iran. Morgan Murphy on a lot that we were both, right. And I was parking in my spot. And she was like you have a spot. We were the same position was weird that I just we were smaller staff. So we've all got spot. She was on a bigger south. They didn't know gets. That's like weird thing where you're like some people have to walk onto the lot through the gate, and it's right status stuff..

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"emily heller" Discussed on Pod Save America

Pod Save America

01:33 min | 3 years ago

"emily heller" Discussed on Pod Save America

"The welcome to putt save america i'm john forever on john mother i'm tommy be torque on the pods today we have the atlantic's julie offi we'll talk about her brand new piece on vladimir putin called putin's game and later we'll talk to the host of cricket media's positive the people to ray mckesson we're going on tour grabbed tickets for our 2018 stops a crookedcomevents that's exciting yet as long as you i feel like you were about to say something funny never knew something bigger tone that struck me my son it's very chip reverence who witnessed sales by that i didn't hate speaking of sales vibes love early on friday we are not it was the last friday were promote yeah i know how it works downli we an auto show where the tape with andy daily janney yang and emily heller who really funny episode very loose we had a good time emily howlers rant about the fake sign language interpreter toward the end of the show made me laugh so hard it was so funny it was a great episode and in this friday it's the lover leave it last episode of the year holiday spectacular my god you guys may be enlisted because he'll be there cool i can't wait that's going to be fun kulata guess let's really bring sarsam rentals unnerved fence of idea under some fun stuff who knows funnier some some contributors missed out by parts of the world my bossert ipod say the project but he struggled tommy on jerusalem jerusalem went to chaired the john year the only one another's.

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"emily heller" Discussed on Can I Pet Your Dog?

Can I Pet Your Dog?

02:53 min | 5 years ago

"emily heller" Discussed on Can I Pet Your Dog?

"Safi Gibson. We have the throwing shade podcast on throwing shade. We look at an issue important ladies in an issue important to gay people. And then we basically make. Yeah. And just to answer your question. No. We don't have a marriage pack that if we don't get married by the time, we're thirty. We're going to do that. That's right. We have each divorce three times. Guys today. Our guest is Emily Heller. She is a writer comedian actor and she has a brand new comedy album called good for her. Emily. Welcome. Here. Everyone needs to go out and buy that album immediately. Yeah. To go out to you could just sit at home and doing less true. Just click bring us we don't need to bring going out into this. And it's very easy. Yeah. And if you're the type of person who likes to stay in boys this help him. It's a very indoorsy. Our love it could you want? I could talk about your album the whole time. But instead we'd probably wanna talk about dog. Yeah. Let's talk about that. Let's do it. And do you have a dog of your own right now? I don't I have not had a dog since I lived at home at my parents, which is sad. I've only recently started thinking like, oh, maybe I could eventually have one. Yeah. No. We have a little bit of a liquor likes big dogs. That's okay. Small dogs. I like big dogs where do you stand on that? Do you have a preference? I've been told that. I shouldn't have Emily on. Okay. It's starting to come around on small dogs, the more. I'm meeting small dogs, but I had big dogs growing up, and I just have like such a soft spot for them because they're so cuddly and little dogs bark, and that's annoying. And they just feel spike here for some reason like phones. They're like legs are point here. Everything there point here. That is true. When special laser me, I love when she lays on me. But she has these like jagged little elbows that just had into your ribs. And it really does hurt. It's hard to find like a long soft spot. And it's really easy on a show. That's a pretty good point. You're more prone to injury, and it's a little harder to rest your head on a small dog. Whereas you could use a big dog as a pillow Angelina love it. Now looking dogs. Did you guys have growing up? So when I was like, I was like maybe like four or five we got up a puppy. She was like a mutt. But she was basically chocolate lab Chesapeake Bay retriever like big retriever dog and just the cutest. And her name was mocha. We had her for a long time..

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