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Fresh update on "emily " discussed on My Family Thinks I'm Crazy
"No we're told where dr somehow like all of that. Data is then processed in such a way that it creates the legal of google street view. Experience probably similar to like however like virtual reality works when we wear those goggles. That wherever you lift your head and you can see up down right. Left yourself for So the reason i'm going into. That is what i see. The split the split on my front door. And so what do you mean is it almost. Looks like it's double you can see What would normally be the door like. Say the equivalent of thirty six inches with door openings. Thirty six inches. That happens twice so it appears to be like. Let's say seventy two inches inches. I'm just are not showing google. Or i'm just saying that to give people. An idea looks twice as wide. Is it is. You could tell. there's something off. And so my the part of my brain which looked at That looks at things. My very very mundane Awka oxfam's razor like let's get to like the most simplistic explanation for for this occurrence. My well maybe. That's where the scene takes place like. Somehow that's where the processing happens where they so together together these two different images and it was slightly off. You know Some thinking that's what's happening but that never really quite made perfect sense because if that were happening that split that scene where you're kind of seeing double should be encompassed in the entire in. Its meaning like the sky should show that or tree should show that the images from the background behind the house should have that same sort of seeming. That seem happening. But but that wasn't the case and in fact are a lot of things that don't really make sense. It's like well if it was just through technology it would. You would see other clues that there but then maybe it's from because they're using different different cameras. I don't know open to all of that. But then the other the other thought is i you know and i did video about this so you could see video. Maybe year ago. I talked about. I'm doing a condo in a fun place for way. Because i know but in a fun place away. I'm like you know these. Google taking up with there's a there's a. There's a tear. There's a tear in reality which is in the house which kind of make sense you know. Based upon all the strange things which have occurred to me in this house and just my way of how i perceive reality. I'm like yeah that would make sense this. This would be at my front door because this house you'll have called into it so all of that things that i've seen nap before talked about it. It'd be videos. And yesterday. I go and i'm talking to emily and i wanted to go and look at that again. I go back when i look. And guess what wasn't there they patched it they fucking patching fucking patched him and so so. This is where it gets really interesting because they cold you. I'm trying to go and And be as. I don't want to jump to the most furthest out there explanation because there's you know. Say this with quotation marks around it..
Fresh update on "emily " discussed on The Times: Daily news from the L.A. Times
"Syphilis cases were already surging nationwide before the arrival of COVID-19. Then the pandemic hit. Clinics at screen people for sexually transmitted diseases closed. Health workers who focused on syphilis cases were reassigned to COVID-19 duties. It's a maelstrom that allowed syphilis to explode. There's a way out of this epidemic. Syphilis is curable. And if we can get more pregnant people tested and treated in time, that'll protect their babies, too. So are we going to do it? Emily Albert ray is covers public health for the Los Angeles Times and has covered this issue. Emily, welcome to the times. Thanks so much for having me. Remind us of what syphilis is and why it's so dangerous. So syphilis is a bacterial infection. It's usually sexually transmitted. It can cause sores. And if it's not treated, it can become much more serious. It can eventually affect your internal organs and your nervous system. And it can be extremely serious for babies who can be infected with it in the womb if the pregnant person has syphilis. So it increases the risk of stillbirth as well as neurological problems, bone deformities, blindness potentially. And it can also make it more.
Fresh update on "emily " discussed on Shades of Strong? | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative
"Do differently as an adult to me. That's a very gentle call out of very gentle call out now if you've got an over inflated since of self your ego is is not where needs to be been yet. You might take offence to that. But i didn't. I was just like yikes. Yeah let me do. Let me get better rightful that my children trust me enough to and i say trust me enough because no i'm not gonna just be like girl you better get out of my face with that Let's say no. I'm not that person. But they trust me enough to be honest with me and say mom. We shouldn't have said they are mom. You should have a net or you know. I'll even go to them and say. Hey will you think if. I could malecki youngest and i'll go to the older one day. What do you think if i do this tonight. Or are these two knowledge to try and get her to do this. You know because as being trying to manipulate heart into doing something you want to do. And my children will one hundred percent save net. That is not early. That is not the way we need to handle. But as a parent we want to try and keep them safe. And so you know. Sometimes we'll find find ourselves engaging in this type of behavior in an attempt to keep them safe and protected but why not just be honest. And that's something that i'm learning. You know as i get older and like i say as i continue to do my work. I'm learning those things like you don't have to manipulate people to get them to do what you need them to do. Just be honest about how you feel about. Whatever like maybe nyla going. oh listen. 'cause she probably like. Why are you saying my name all the time but in a way maybe the and i feel like i feel like everyone type of control over hers since she's still the young. I really don't know but i use a i don't i use her Example because i still have like a A leash on her. You know she's she be trying to get away. But i still trying to hold on hold on tour and so i am learning to just be honest with her about my fears because a lot of times i project my fears onto her and so i still redo the geeing in this Manipulative behavior to try and get her to do things the way i think she'd do them in order to say to state but i'm learning to tell her how you feel about. It entail her. The fears that you're experiencing in this moment versus trying to treat car into staying home right right. I'm learning things. And i think oftentimes just to take it back to emily's i think that oftentimes this type of behavior is can be the result of us being understood a lot lifestyle rocket open mic sample. Oh this is at least for example. What if she. What if this person especially abused her misunderstood and we know what happened. But i'm just saying what it. What if she feels like this person. Debt teixido beams. Tired misunderstood her. No for yes and could that har into this space where she feels like. She's got manipulate people to get them to understand exactly what she's saying. Is it makes it. It does i. I'm glad you said being misunderstood because feeling misunderstood is also a lack of security. It's like. Hey i can't be myself because nobody gets me and i'm glad that you clarify too. It's like oh may what if she thought what she thought that misunderstood what. She was saying how she was behaving. That also means. I can't be myself that a misconstrue this as permission to harm me so i've got to be someone else that you said that. Yeah that's adorning yourself with. The proverbial masking cape didn't miraculously happen the moment. He became an adult more likely than not. There's a history of trauma dating back to the left. You feeling rejected abandoned betrayed and angry. Those emotions don't automatically resolve themselves as a little black girl. The thing you need it the most wants to be seen hard nurtured protected and love without conditioned when those needs aren't men you don't get the skills needed to do life as the real you from an emotionally place if you find yourself.
Fresh update on "emily " discussed on BTV Simulcast
"It's been quite a rally I think we'll see new all time highs in Bitcoin you know every month on a go forward basis Never say never I mean you know you look at a year ago we were probably trading at around $12,000 So it's crazy to think that now we're at 6 6000 I would think about buying it on any gifts that we get I think it is getting the institutional adoption that many even talking about for years When you get these as low as when you get some of the really large pension funds it doesn't take much to push price up another 50% Welcome back to deliver technology I'm Emily Chang in San Francisco Those were just some of the guests we've heard from throughout the day talking about Bitcoin's price sir the cryptocurrency rallying to a record topping $66,000 For the first time as we start to see greater mainstream acceptance creedy Gupta walking us through the crypto day pretty That's what happened Emily yet another record for Bitcoin 66,000 like you mentioned but I wanted to take a little bit of a walk into history because we have had Bitcoin crashes before but here's the here's the ticker Here's the kicker I should say It's actually taken years to recover in Bitcoin prices The last crash that we had earlier this year it took months to just hit a new record high and that's really what this chart is showing That crash we saw in 2018 years until really 2020 2021 to get back to those levels and here we are 66,000 So what's behind it We talked about mainstream acceptance We're talking about potentially a retail bid but some of it is across asset trade as well I want to show you a terminal chart here of really the correlation that you're starting to see show up in Bitcoin and bond yields in particular specifically in the 5 year the belly of the curve you are starting to see that reflation trade in the bond market kind of get shadowed a little bit here on the Bitcoin market as well So interesting to see that this is actually a cross acid dynamic rather than Bitcoin kind of is doing its own thing But let's talk about the story of the week which is of course that Bitcoin ET futures ETF I should say that debuted yesterday One of the big concerns was that if it does rally if it does actually do well does that take some of the bid out of spot Bitcoin prices and Emily I'm here to tell you it's only been two days and both the Bitcoin futures ETF and Bitcoin itself the spot price they've both rally the question is will that continue for another day another week another month Let's see how long that pattern will stay All right pretty Thank you for breaking that down sticking with Bitcoin's rise I want to bring in mat Hogan of bitwise CIO of bitwise asset management Matt What is the price today and the recovery time from the last high indicate to you Well I think it indicates what we've been talking about so far in this segment We're seeing a whole new class of investors move into crypto We're seeing institutional and professional investors move into the market and that's moving the prices higher You know Emily before this ETF launch there was this big question Will an ETF find an audience They're already all these ways to buy Bitcoin You can buy it on coinbase You can buy it on cash app You can buy it through PayPal You could buy it on Robinhood And what we've learned over the last two days is there was still a huge class of investors sitting on the sidelines because it wasn't easy enough to buy crypto They put a billion plus into the ETF in the first few days The fastest growing ETF of all time And what we know from past ETF launches in other assets is that's going to build over time So I think this is maybe the start of a new bull marketing crypto The professional or institutional bull marketing crypto It's a very exciting moment But how much of it is hype given that it's not this particular ETF Isn't actually directly tied to Bitcoin but more tangentially tied to cryptocurrency Yeah that's right It's not the Bitcoin ETF we all wanted We wanted a physical ETF It's an imperfect ETF that's going to trail the spot price of Bitcoin over time by a reasonable amount And yet people are still buying it Now it does have a direct pass through impact on demand for physical Bitcoin That's an important thing to note When people put money into this ETF it buys Bitcoin futures for people to sell those Bitcoin futures to the fund they have to hedge it The way they're hedging it is by buying physical Bitcoin So the price appreciation you're seeing here is both excitement about what an ETF means for the crypto market long-term but also a direct impact on the market You know again a $1 billion flowed into this ETF in the first two days That's the fastest growing ETF of all time You have to believe underneath the surface those arbitragers have probably picked up a $1 billion in physical ETF to hedge those futures position So even though it's not spot Bitcoin it is impacting the spot Bitcoin market I've got a chart here in the Bloomberg mat showing that Bitcoin has outpaced even Tesla which is of course you know many folks think it's one of the hottest stocks out there Do you think the pace of bitcoins rise will keep up or are these fits and start just going to be the name of the game It's certainly going to be a volatile market Bitcoin has been evolved to a market since it came into the world you know a dozen years ago That's not going to go away anytime soon I don't even know over the next week the next two weeks it will see the kind of excitement and price appreciation that we've seen But I think over the next year or three years this is going to be a signal moment that marks the entry of institutional investors into this market I'll give you an analogy Emily You know I come from an ETF background Back in 2004 the last time we were so excited for a new ETF was when GLD the gold ETF came into the market And it got to a.
Fresh update on "emily " discussed on BTV Simulcast
"From the heart of where innovation money and power collide in Silicon Valley and beyond this is Bloomberg technology with Emily Chang I'm Emily Chang in San Francisco and this is Bloomberg technology coming up in the next hour Tesla is feeling the supply chain pain announcing in its third quarter earnings that it will be shifting to new batteries globally What is the strategy mean for the electric carmaker and the industry at large We'll discuss Plus a big potential purchase for PayPal Pinterest soars on a Bloomberg scoop that the social commerce site could be acquired for $45 billion by the payments giant How this could be a rebranding moment for PayPal's super app ambitions And sticking with rebranding a report that Facebook may be getting a facelift is the social network really changing its name and will it work We'll debate And prestorm a few names too We're going to get to all of that in a moment.
How Are the Democrats so Bad at This Governing Thing?
"An attorney I did a lot this weekend But I gave a speech in Jacksonville Florida in front of about 2500 packed packed house up there as an enjoyable speech I started out kind of a funny speech I don't do that a lot I'm not really a comedian As I said in the speech I leave the comedy to gutfeld But it was kind of funny because I said to myself you know before I went out on stage I'm like how the hell is it that the Democrats and liberals are just so bad at this governing thing given that their whole life centers around government right Remember that Obama admiral is that the life of Emily or whatever it was showing how at every moment in second of your life Jim you're shaking your head You remember that That the government was somehow going to rescue you from yourself So how is it if you're a leftist Everything is about government right Your entire life's about government Your healthcare education everything's about government and yet you suck so bad at the one thing you love governing How is that possible So I go out on stage and I had a totally different speech plan and I start talking about it I start laughing and the crowds laughing at it for 25 minutes There's actually 26 I want a minute over Maybe a minute and a half Maybe 26 and a half doesn't matter I'm sitting there and I'm just going off my wife's in the front row crack it up because it's just so tragically and I do mean tragically tragically hilarious how bad liberals are at the one thing they claim to do best which is governing They can't do anything right The border inflation the economy education I mean nothing matters They suck so bad at
Dozens of California Students Remain Trapped in Afghanistan
"And I want to get this in before the end of the program From our Friends at the daily wire Emily zanotti Dozens of California school children are still trapped in Afghanistan And the Biden State Department is mom At least 41 elementary school students from the San Juan unified school district remained trapped in Afghanistan the Sacramento bee reported And getting them out as proving an impossible task Though representative Daryl Issa Republican California says it is continually pressing the Biden administration and their State Department at apartment of Homeland Security to assist in their rescue 41 schoolchildren San Juan unified school district officials last week said 41 students were trapped in Afghanistan a sharp increase from the two dozen or so the district of previously identified The 41 kids three were evacuated over the weekend from the war torn country but remain overseas Sacramento said a unified officials last week said 8 students are straining in Afghanistan initially they identified just one family who the bee interviewed attendance records at the school has progressed showed more students were missing in staff trace their whereabouts to Afghanistan Officials of baker elementary school in the San Juan district say they're trying to cobble together a rescue mission As our officials are nearby sacrament why the hell is it the FBI involved in this Why is the hell isn't the Department of Justice involved in this They're worried about students
US military leaders favored keeping troops in Afghanistan
"Top U. S. military officers are telling Congress several thousand American troops should have been kept in Afghanistan to prevent a Taliban takeover from joint chiefs chairman mark Emily my assessment was back in the fall of twenty and remain consistent throughout the day we should keep a steady state of twenty five hundred and it could bounce up to thirty five hundred maybe something like that to Central Command chief Frank McKenzie twenty five hundred was an appropriate number to remind both stress those were their personal opinions and would not say what advice they actually gave president bite before he ordered all troops to leave at a Senate Armed Services Committee hearing Tom cotton asked Emily why he didn't resign if the president ignored his advice the president doesn't have to agree with that advice she doesn't have to make those decisions just because we're generals Sager mag ani Washington
Who is Dr. Jeff Barke?
"Talk about the truth. Let's talk about science with one of the few doctors who's out there telling the truth about what we need to know about. Covert therapeutics boston. Vaccines welcome to america. First one on one. It's dr jeffrey balki. Board thirty five primary care physician. Welcome dr to one on one so great to be with you. Thanks so much for having me on. Well we had you on the radio show a week ago. It was super. It was too short. So we've already invited you back for a one on one discussion for those who missed the interview on the radio show and who haven't heard of you before. Just by way of introduction. Who are you what do you do. And what is our ex liberty our expert liberty is my website sev- where people can go and learn more about me. I've got a newsletter that i put out every couple of weeks naked subscribed it out by the way i recently started. A podcast. informed dissent the intersection of healthcare in politics and that can be found at in armed descent media dot com. I'm a primary care physician board-certified. I've been in private practice for over twenty five years i've served as an assistant professor at uc irvine. I've also served as a board member at the orange county medical association and in my spare time. I work as a tactical physician role local law enforcement agency emily last year. I started a charter school. A hillsdale affiliated republic charter school in the city of orange here in southern california but my day job is treating patients that i've treated literally hundreds and hundreds of cova patients successfully by instituting early treatment with many of our repurpose medications. That were really well. You can get visions early
"emily " Discussed on Sex With Emily
"You'll never get back. Emily morse of course one of my favorite episodes. And i'm glad you had me back swedish. Thank you i love it. I love being on yours. Did a podcast swab that. God you hear helping people and people have this outlet. My my issue is. I beat myself up. I turn my my frustration in on myself and you should do better in his. There's that loop in my head that's why meditation. I'm too wound up meditation. I don't think you're monitoring should be look what you did. Look what look what you take style. I'll tell you what time everything that i found. That really really helped me was the phrase worry responsibility that got crossed up in my head because my dad was my hero he was the one took care to family. And you wanted to emulate demanded family and my father was worried about feeding everybody. Who left these goddamn lights on. I mean it was the whole. You'd never let anyone outside this house. No we talk about in here. My pop the windows are open. And you screaming they can hear you. It was always worrying about feeding everybody in taking care of everything and and make sure everybody was protected it was the projection of of my parents fears on their children was part of it but the rest was. Just you know it can be a cruel world and you gotta look out for yourself. So i got the message. That worry was responsibility. Because i was emulating behavior from my dad when i learnt worries not responsibility it freed up the fact that i don't have to be this anxious. I don't have to worry that much to be a good man of the house so that helped me a great deal. Worry is not responsibility. Good why i have a different thing. Okay so much like you adam. I have the negative self talk as well but it's like mind says it's so funny because i went through this this morning. I'll take my therapy notes. That are right in terms. Because you're never done i worry about. I'm not doing enough. Not good enough. That's not enough so the opposite. Like i am enough that be the affirmation when you try to flip it. But i do this. Mdr therapy about that. So it's like. I'm not doing enough. I'm not good enough. I won't be able to do this. And it's constant in my head that i am constantly. I fucked something up. A big one is. I'm not gonna fall through and you know here's something i can say to my whole team here because this is a big thing about work. I worry that. I'm because i'm add like you are. And i have been challenged for a long time in getting stuff done and follow through in details. I love like you said before the good at my job..
"emily " Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Like for me. It's breath it's it's exercise. It's hot going into steam shower cold dunk. There's all these things that help. Sort of move us through it. I see like a full body experience. You can kind of just be more in touch with yourself because we are feelings our our our in our body until the morning get in touch with it we could release a lot of those traumas and those feelings but it's a lifelong practice and really great place as a great book. Called the body keeps the score. And it's also about how our traumas and all of our memories are stored at our body. And i feel like that would be really great work for you than just a therapy. That's around talking along with visualization and calling in to me. I think these are amazing. Steps for you and i wanna stay in touch and i want you to make sure that you find. I want you to do this. i'm sure. I don't know the first person that's told you this but i know this is going to help you so i would still be available. If you wanna email us. We can help you down that track. Because i think you're going to really start to feel some relief help you gotta stick with it though. Okay overshadow it. Thank you for calling. I really appreciate it hanging there. We got you k. Thanks chuck by. Where i think is really interesting here. Is that you know he came in asking about sex. And how do. I have sex. But i think we start to unpack things. Even i will tell you. It's not always about the sex. He's looking you know. I think a lot of it comes down to relationships and connection and trust and honesty and i think some of us take for granted though. We should just know how to be a good friend or how to have a healthy relationships. But that's a learned skill and if we didn't grow up in an environment that supported that we didn't have a parent or friends or consistent role models in our life. We're not just all of a sudden figure it out right. We all have these coping mechanisms that we learned in childhood and nobody had a perfect childhood. Even if you if you call me and tell me that there was perfect. I wouldn't believe you it's not good or bad. It's just that we all have lessons. We all have childhoods that set us up for our life lessons. Like the blueprint for everything we need to learn in our lives is simply laid out in our childhood not to bash your parents or your sisters or your neighbors. That's what we have to learn from because we are conditioned like robots. If you think about it you don't can't get out of your home. You see your parents every day. You see your siblings. And those are the patterns that you go through till maybe you leave home at eighteen and then that's who you are that's who you become. That's all you've seen so you obviously have to go out and say who am i. What is still true to me. What is important to me and it can take a really long time to figure it out on our own or we can choose to get a path. Find a trust therapist. Find some good friends. But i think the first step if you are feeling this way if this resonated with you and you feel like you don't have a lot of people in your life that you can trust. I know that finding someone at therapeutic setting they can commit to on a daily basis will be your first step as well. This is from sabrina twenty-six in chicago. Hey dr emily. After listening to your show for while. I've been inspired to deepen my personal masturbation practice. I've always had a high in healthy sex drive and my partner and i love mutual masturbation and incorporating pleasure into sex. Unfortunately i have an issue with my solo practice. Where i just can't seem to stop i can easily have multiple orgasms and they feel great. I don't want to stop but it does take up too much time i could have so many orgasms in a row and we're mutually masturbating. His orgasm is always the stopping you even though i could keep going. I am satisfied since my solo practice seems to have no stopping q. How can i develop a more regular masturbation practice. I feel like this is a good problem. But i would love to masturbate more regularly and not just on the days where i can devote hours to it and advises appreciated. I love your show and everything you do to take the shame out of sex. Thank you already to bring a. Thanks so much for your email you sell it. Probably wherever thinking is well. That's a good problem to have but just like everything that feels good. We sometimes take it to extremes right so it's all about moderation and balance and thinking about your intention. Why is it that you want to masturbate releases all those feel good hormones and it's a great way to connect to your body if you're looking to set up a healthy routine with masturbation why don't actually put on your calendar and say i want to do it three days a week and i'm going to give myself a half hour and then you do it right before you have somewhere else to be. Maybe you're meeting a friend for lunch. You've an important meeting that you don't wanna miss so this way you have a built in stopping point where you have to go about your day. I'll be honest. When i'm getting on google with my masturbation routine i could keep going and going on with you. It feels amazing. So i can cut it short and i know that you can to sabrina. I.
"emily " Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Jenny thirty seven from new york city. Jenny how are you. Thanks for calling in. How are you kidding. Thank you so welcome. How can i help you. Oh i've got this little problem. Maybe it's not a problem. Maybe just is what it is which is that. I don't think i've ever heard adam. Okay it's the same kind of always happens like with a partner or with myself. It's like i get bear against the point This is it. It's happening in them. There's no There is no involved the peace. That's what it's supposed to be rates exploded. Yeah i don't. I don't have okay. Tell me about your masturbation routine infrequent and inconsistent okay. Masturbation is a practice. And the way you're going to have your first orgasm and you're gonna know you have an orgasm is if you spend time developing that relationship with yourself. That's really how we become the greatest lovers to everybody to our partners and to ourselves my best friend in college. She decided that she was going to junior year at. She had an internship and she said. I'm going to go away for a month. And i'm going to spend the every day for thirty days master but she never orgasm and i'm going to try everyday to masturbate and it didn't happen. The first week didn't have the second week by the third week. She finally had an orgasm. She finally figured out her body. It took her every night for three weeks four weeks. I have never heard of masturbation orgasm till i was twenty five and then i was pissed that no one told me right but like it won't happen without you committing to it and then you will now. So what's how do you know when it's an actual physical anatomical problem and when it's like an emotional mental block. Oh wow you know. I think it's everything. I think if they're all related and that's the thing about orgasms who like what's a quick fix i tell you get a toy but if you're on certain medications if you have a lot of stress and you hold your body really tight if you grew up in an environment where there was a lot of shame around sex. You told it wasn't okay to be sexual that if you masturbate. You'll go to hell wait until you're married to have sex. Someone shamed you in high school. Once you know it's it's all of these things that factor into it. So is there a world in which there's an actual physical problem and it's an anatomical problem that's not recoverable is an actual bank. Because i listen to podcasts. Said it was like ten percent of women. No i'm telling you. I've never met somebody. I think that most women are priore. Gaz mik but they're not unable to orgasm and when i say anatomy. Maybe that was confusing. I should explain. It has been studied at show. That where how close your clitoris is to your vaginal opening. If it's a thumb my friend. Wednesday martin wrote this book called untrue and this is the first time i read it. If you're if it's less than like a thumb listen inch closer to your vaginal opening. You're more likely to have an orgasm during penetration. That's all it's imperceptible. So don't even i. I mean i really have never had anyone call. I've tried everything you said emily. I didn't have an orgasm. And we're talking sixteen years so if you told me that yeah i've been trying everything i bought toys and i use them regularly and i use lube and i breathe and i spent some time alone myself and i touched my body and i thought about sexy things or i just breathe into a mindful masturbation and i did it for a month and it didn't work then we could talk but i'm not hearing that from you okay. That's fair dime on that level of work but like how do you get hump. 'cause romantic Might visit it's happening. This got the unmanned there's no explosion more kind of dissipates. Okay well tell me about this. Hump is a winner with a partner or by yourself master booze. Okay saying it's the same humps. Let's get over the hump when you're alone because then you're thinking because when we're we're a partner it's another factor they're looking at you ensure your partners want you to get there you wanna get. There's everyone's thinking by your orgasm and we're thinking about our orgasms are brainwashing rushing to our head away from our genitals. You're not in your body. You're both members and your orgasm and the more we try to make something happen. It doesn't happen so have you had toys. I have one that i.
AP News Spins General Mark Milley's Wrongdoing in Exclusive Interview
"The Democrats are going to run interference. They're going to gavel down Republicans. They're going to talk about Trump Trump Trump Trump and they're not going to talk about This coup attempt at all. We even have people. Who get leaks familiar or his staff. They call them reporters. Contributors whomever they are. They've been very, very Passive in their criticism of what is an outrageous act, if true. If true. And General Milley has said that hey, look, what I did is Perfectly fine. What's the problem here, so he's learned a lot? From Obama and Biden and Pelosi. His friends. So The Associated Press actually interviewed. Emily calls the China were perfectly with the scope of my job. And he said Athens, Greece for some reason. So this is the associated depressed, ready? The top U. S military officer said Friday that calls he made to his Chinese counterpart in the final storming once a president Trump's presidency. You see how the AP just can't report a story? Were quote perfectly within the duties and responsibilities unquote of his job. We're going to look at that in a minute. Maly said such calls are routine. And we're done to reassure both allies and adversaries in this case in order to ensure strategic stability. Strategic stability. For what? Really Why did we need strategic stability? I think it's best that I reserve my comments on the record until I do that. In front of the lawmakers who have the lawful responsibility to oversee the military, Mili said. I'll go into any level detailed. Congress wants to go into a couple of weeks. Well, he's a tough guy, isn't he? He's a very stupid guy to be in a position he's
Pentagon Reverses Itself, Calls Deadly Kabul Strike an Error
"The Pentagon has reversed itself over a drone strike last month in Afghanistan that killed ten civilians days after the strike joint chiefs chairman mark Emily had said it was a valid attack against Islamic state extremists the right to strike but a Pentagon investigation now shows it was something different the strike was a tragic mistake general Frank McKenzie who heads U. S. Central Command says the military believed it struck a vehicle that posed an imminent threat to forces that Kabul's airport we now assess that it is unlikely that the vehicle and those who died were associated with ISIS K. or were a direct threat to US forces it was the final strike of America's longest war and mackenzie says the U. S. is considering reparation payments to the victims families Sager mag ani Washington
A 'Lotl' Love For The Axolotl
"Today we're talking all about axl models. The ever smiling salamanders of the animal kingdom so berlin mccoy. What makes these critters a heck in lot to start. I think it's helpful to talk about. What most salamanders grow up to be the big normally absorbed the heels on the leave the water and go in the adult could into the land. And that's all decided to don't do that. They decided to stay as juvenile and reproduced as unlv within the water. So that's the reason they tell them that they are forever young because yes they kept the young and still join us for the rest of their lives forever. Young salamander that's fantastical but scientifically. What does that even mean. So in the animal kingdom it's called nakatani for exiles. It means that even when they're grown up which in this case growing up for them means they can mate. They keep some of their juvenile features. Oh so do they keep the crown of gills. That lewis was talking about earlier. Yeah they do and they also keep the fin on their back that they had when they were tadpoles. And because of this axles. Don't leave the water. Like other salamanders eventually do got it. Okay so do we know why they do that. Well scientists think it could have something to do with the water where axles live like being a better habitat. Maybe it had plenty of food or clean water so they lost this metamorphosis step although the scientists can still trigger it in the lab if they use hormones and emily axles do something even cooler than being the poster child for the fountain of youth. If you cooked any part of their body it regrows again. We like a whole armor there. What about their head okay. They can't re grow their whole head but they can regrow essentially everything else and apparently it's not that big of a deal to regrow limbs because get this emily as babies axles will just snack on each
What Is the Legal Rationale for Biden's COVID-19 Vaccine Mandate
"Gap best vaccine mandate has taken effect. You listeners have to get vaccinated or else you have to listen to me. Spin out stephen. Breyer fantasia every day. That's gonna be. The new mandate from the vest after shunning mandates. For months president biden has announced a broad mandate. So he's requiring federal employees and contractors to get vaccinated. He's also requiring healthcare workers at federally funded institutions get vaccinated and he has had osha. The occupational safety and health administration come up with a rule that will require companies that have more than one hundred workers to demand vaccination or weekly testing in order to protect the workplace health and safety of other employees. there he also doubled fines on people who violate math mandates on things like airplanes so emily. It's pretty clear that this mandate on federal workers and those on federally funded health clinics legal straight up. No problem i mean people may not like it seems like biden can do it. What is the legal rationale for the mandate on large employers. The legal rationale for the mandate is that the federal government through osha through. It's occupational health and safety powers sets tons of rules for workplaces. There are plenty of other vaccine. Mandates out there in the united states in schools and at work and lots of other conditions that the government sets for employers and employees to follow and so the biden administration wants to see this as kind of routine use of its powers in that domain and there is some precedent for this but this is also in its scope and its sweep and introducing a new vaccine pretty unprecedented and so i expect legal challenges to binds vaccine conditions. Once this rule is finalized.
Milley Defends Calls to Chinese as Effort to Avoid Conflict
"The nation's top military officer is defending phone calls to his Chinese counterpart during the trump administration's final days in upcoming book by The Washington Post Bob Woodward and Robert Costa describes joint chiefs chairman mark Emily as worried about what trump might do before leaving office and telling China's top officer he would warn Beijing in case of a U. S. attack Millie spokesman says the general was acting within his duties as the president's top uniformed adviser trump says Millie should be tried for treason if the reports true at the White House president Biden was asked if the joint chiefs chair did the right thing hi generally sadr mag ani Washington
Listening To Your Body and Giving it The Rest While Marathon Training
"I'm training for my first marathon coming up this fall in chicago. I'm excited about the big day. But every week that goes by i can feel my body. Need the rest what you do when the miles and the time add up you pull back and if so how do you learn how to give your body the rest. It needs to finally make it to the start line. Listening to your body is really really important with that said all marathon training programs are i would say ninety nine point. Nine percent of them are designed with this in mind right they are built to help you accumulate mileage to get you to a place where you feel comfortable putting in the miles that are necessary to show up on race day and do good with that said it's important that you speak to a coach or a physical therapist or a trainer who can help you better understand how to take care of your body in this time especially as a new marathon array again. This is something you've never done before. It is a massive accomplishment so recovery becomes more in tyrol than ever. And this isn't just like finding yourself a pair of normal boots or using a hyper is right. This is recovery in your nutrition. This is recovery in your stress levels. This is the people that you're surrounding yourself with so be really smart and intentional about how you continue on your journey knowing that there is going to be a certain amount of opportunity costs. And there's definitely going to be a certain amount of exhaustion but if you handle it right and you talk to the right people. This is going to all pay
What We Know About Breakthrough Infections and Long COVID
"Everybody emily kwong here with npr. Science correspondent rob stein. Hey rob hey there emily. Hey so today. We're checking in on covert long haulers. These are folks with cova symptoms that last weeks or months or folks who are getting better but suddenly new symptoms emerge and rob. Nowadays doctors are starting to describe this condition as long cove. it right. that's right that's right. it's not a really well defined well understood condition but they can show and people with even mild symptoms. And i wanted to take a look into whether it's also a word for people who get covert after they get vaccinated the so called breakthrough infections. Yeah it's a good question. So people getting coded. Despite the vaccine is pretty rare. The symptoms are usually mild. But we're learning that sometimes even the mild cases can make you feel pretty bad for a few days right. Yeah so you know. Mild cases can make you feel pretty crummy. There's a big variation in what's considered a mild case. And you know one hundred seventy eight million people are now fully vaccinated in the us. As of september twelfth the centers for disease control prevention says more than fourteen thousand fully vaccinate. People have been hospitalized or died from breakthrough infections. But the agency. Doesn't keep a running tally of a symptomatic or mild breakthroughs nationally which have been increasing during the delta surge. But you know it's really important to emphasize that far fewer of these cases resulted hospitalizations or deaths. The vaccines are highly effective at doing the most important thing keeping people out of the hospital and developing lethal symptoms nonetheless researchers are concerned that even mild cases including cases that come after vaccination may result in lingering symptoms right. Lingering symptoms aka long
Militia Leader To Be Sentenced in Minnesota Mosque Bombing
"The leader convicted in two thousand seventeen bombing at a mosque in Minnesota faces sentencing today the leader of an Illinois anti government militia group who thirty say was the mastermind behind the two thousand seventeen bombing of a mosque in Bloomington Minnesota Emily clear hair he was previously known as Michael Hary and recently said she is transgender faces a mandatory minimum of thirty years in prison for the attack on the dar al Farooq Islamic center several worshippers were gathered at the center to pray when a pipe bomb was thrown through the window open imam's office co defendants said that Harry let the group and came up with the plan to attack the mosque motivated by a hatred for Muslims cited in the manifesto known as the White Rabbit handbook Kerry's attorney Shannon Elkins is asking U. S. district judge Donovan Frank for no more than the minimum thirty year sentence and says the gender dysphoria and misinformation fueled Aries inner conflict that led to the bombing prosecutors are seeking a life sentence well no one was physically hurt in the attack prosecutors say the bomb was an act of terror I'm Jennifer king
Sex Researcher Justin Lehmiller: Americans Got Kinkier During the Pandemic
"This pandemic has been an interesting. I'm going to be a sex researcher. And i've been busier than ever and conducting the most research and actually i think published the most of my entire career over the last year and a half really in the beginning. My career totally changed. Because i had all of these speaking gigs lined up. I was gonna be traveling. The world i think it was going to be in seven different countries last summer in so oldest found myself with a lot of time on my hands and i was talking to some by colleagues at the kinsey institute. And we were seeing all these media headlines about you know what was going to be happening to a sex. Lots of big bold predictions and so we thought is is any of that actually gonna shake out so we wanted to actually collect the data to test whether what we were seeing in the media was actually coming to wish you know that kind of gave us the inspiration and all had more time on her hands and needed something to focus on so he turned to sexy search. And i remember yes justin's doing this. What did we learn about this with the hot vac summer. What's up now. So that's a great question you know last year. There were lots of predictions about. Oh well when this pandemic cabins and people are locked down. They're going to have more sex masturbate more than ever. Because everyone's just going to be bored horny and it turned out last year. That didn't really turn out to be the case you know there. There's no baby boom. There's no evidence that you know people really having a lot of sex. So that's what we found last year in the research. We did at the kinsey institute. Although we did find that people were being more sexually Mental about one in five people last year said they tried something new in the bedroom so we recently conducted a new. Study to see what things look like this summer because everyone was talking about the hot back summer. So the kinsey institute partnered with love honey to do this survey of what what is happening right now in our sex lives and relationships and one of the really interesting things we found was that there was an even greater trend toward sexual experimentation so americans have become kinky are we actually found that a majority of americans fifty one fifty two percent so they tried something new in bed since the pandemic began and also that a majority of americans said that their sexual interests had shifted in some way. And if those who reported a shift three quarters of them said that they became kinky so you know instead of the hardback summer. We're thinking of this as the hut kinks
US Bound Flights Carrying Afghans Temporarily Halted Due to Measles Cases
"White house says flights carrying afghan refugees to the us have been halted after discovery of four cases of measles among people who recently arrived in the us. This as npr's michele keleman reports nineteen more us citizens from the airport in kabul in the state department says to others managed to get out overland national security council spokesperson. Emily horne says the. Us is doing intensive work to give americans clear and safe options to leave afghanistan. The state department says forty. Four americans were offered seats on the latest plane. But not all decided to go. The taliban are still not allowing charter. Flights from northern afghanistan and democratic senator richard blumenthal once the state department to do more about that time precious time. The situation of these individuals is desperate urgen. He's been working with veteran groups and activists to help several at risk afghans and some american citizens get
Shea Dunifon on Outreach to the Younger Generation
"Tell us about yourself chez. Where do you work. What's your role. Semi formal title is education coordinator. And i worked for pinellas county utilities out of the south cross by advanced water reclamation facility in st petersburg florida's. Let's a really really really long name. And i do a little bit of everything to be honest when i started here mostly k. Through twelve so kindergarten twelfth grade education. But i also work a lot. What the local technical schools colleges universities basically anyone that has a title water. Which is everybody. That's absolutely right so for our listeners. Could you give us a little more sense of the municipality like how many treatment plans the capacity of the one that you sit out those types of things and whereas pinellas county in florida. So we'll start with where county is. We are just outside of tampa. So we're like little peninsula on the peninsula's i call it so west. Coast of florida kind of west central. If you're looking at a map of florida right on the very coast golfing mexico and pinellas county. Utilities owns and operates. Three facilities. One is drinking water facility. That's up on our north county. And then also in the north county we have our done facility which is wastewater and water reclamation and then down in the south county we have facility. That is it. It is the south cross by events. Water reclamation facility so between done and south across south crossed is a thirty three. Mgd plant so it is also the largest in the entire county not just owned and operated by the county but it is the largest is so that's one thing that makes us really cool. We have a lot of really unique features here facility for instance we have a On so we actually make fertilizer which is something that when we do towards people think is really interesting because they actually get to see kind of what happened to their number two which most people don't think about right but we also have things like our tetra denied filters so that's what makes us advance so we get to point out those kinds of things we also have primary tanks. We have two parallel trains. Emily i know i'm getting into the technical stuff but those are really cool things to point out even to the public and to the engineering community.
Sex Therapist, Dr Emily Morse, on What to Do With Mismatched Sex Drives
"Have a higher libido than my partner and for me it's really hurtful to ask her sex try to initiate and to to be told no for whatever reason i'm tired or what have you and that said i mean the sexes. Great like it's really incredible. And i think part of it is is is a little bit older than i am. And i'm just i'm kind of in my sexual private thirty two and i understand like late. Twenties to mid late. Thirties is like that peak for women And he's forty one and he's also on depression medications that's that's an aspect of it so Yeah lots of factors but at a high level you know the difference in libido is make one yeah that's a really that is a big one and it's they often say yeah. You're you're late. Twenties early thirties. Thirties is when you have a high sex drive. It varies to person the but you know you're so this is where you are. And his libido is matching is that's that's what's going on right now and you have been with him for six months six months. Yeah we were friends for a couple years and We're actually long distance so when you do see each other because usually a lot of times long distances like we are together for a weekend or week and we have the whole time. You know i know. Have you talked to him about it. Definitely i mean. The communication is so good In the beginning of the relationship he was like ideally like he really was interested in starting to talk about sex pretty quickly great. Initially i was a little bit resistant. Because i was like. I really want like develop emotional piece of relationship before we go there but yeah i mean he asked like how often would you wanna hunchback's i told them like every day when we're together and he was like really. That's not what i you know known before at the time. He seemed like on board for that in like. But but then you know when we've been together it's like i'm tina just about every day and he's maybe like four times a week or so. There's been of discrepancy there.
Texas' Abortion Ban Marks a New Legal Strategy for Abortion Restrictions
"Emily i wanna read you from the wall street journal op-ed today which i thought was interesting this supporter of abortion restrictions. In fact getting rid of roe v wade who write this. Texas republicans have handed democrats political grenade to hurt to the antiabortion causes the editorial board pro-life groups has spent nearly fifty years arguing. That abortion is a political question to be settled in the states by public debate. It now texas. They want us the courts by civilization to limit abortion. I do think this law is so frankly odious that more republicans and those who oppose abortion rights should have to own it and i wonder if folks who work in the trenches of the political opinion on this. Feel the same way absolutely chris. Let's start with baxter. The overwhelming majority of americans are on the side of those who want to see and keep rovers wade as the law of the land. That is what keeps women saved. What could people save. Who needed care. This texas law goes too far. And what i would say to your listeners. Your your watchers is. Do you know who your state senator is. Do you know who your state representative is. Do you know who your governor is. And where they stand on this because republican governors. Legislators across the country are looking at this not as a grenade but as a playbook. They're thinking what can we do here in our state to rollback these important rights that affect so many families at emily's list. We're working to hold them to account and i believe we believe that every single member of legislature needs to be asked. Where do you stand on this. It should be asked now. They should be asked to get next year and they will be asked by voters when voters come out just as they did after brett. Cavanaugh was confronted court in two thousand eighteen. They will come out and be held to account at the
Interview With Matt Johnson, Air Ambulance Pilot
"Hello and welcome back between two rings. I am your host to emily norman and today we have matt johnston with us. He is an air medical helicopter pilot. A dp also check airman at his company matt. Thanks so much for taking the time to chat with us. Thanks for having me of course so we start off each episode by explaining where we're at. I thought appropriate to show off my one and only helicopter experienced such as behind me. It was actually off years ago and the other fixed wing pilot when my co workers got to go up and we were like little kids on christmas. It was amazing. But tell us a little bit about where you're at a really nice shot got lucky with that. I was flying back tonight and One of our flight physicians Was riding up front with me. We don especially flight so with drop the other crew members officers just the document and So full credits. His awesome picture doctor and into But yeah he's not that picture. That's kind of become a certainly one of my favorites. Nice view of the queen city see cincinnati often view definitely a night. Flying always gives some epic views. Sled sokolow bit about being an airman co pilot. You get that flight requests. What's next. I would say that. We the majority of our time on making decisions for fights. It's january in our high ninety percentile weather related. Sometimes it's crew related. It could be other logistical issues and could be duty time or something like that but generally speaking this weather so being said we are if we're like green status than we have a pretty good idea what the weather's going to do for the day we can just go and respond once. We're call that if we're yellow like a day like today as you probably your rank worn down here. Beautiful ohio So we're really for shit. We have a phenomenal operational. Control centers are helping. That's based in shreveport louisiana. So everything that i'm looking at. There's another human being trained many of them you know aviators or aviation background meteorology backgrounds. They're taking a look at exactly what i'm looking at. And they're making sure that i've evaluated all potential hazards and risks
"emily " Discussed on Here We Are
"Each other. Those are. there's never get vol. Thank you so much for joining me on the show and listeners. I hope that you'll check out. Emily willing hams of books. Of course we do. The one we talked about today is called fallacy life lessons from the animal penis We also just plugged the informed parent a science based resource for your child's first few years and I four years. Sorry i four years and then the the new one coming out in december and possibly we'll be able to get her back on to talk about at the taylor brain for ketamine takito companionship. A users guide to feeling better and thinking smarter. Yeah that'd be a that'd be cool conversation to have Few months so Yeah but but thanks so much for joining me for having me. Ver- i'm being patient dotted got a time to make. Oh i mean it's all of my guests are such busy people. it's it's People that are into science and scientists are always just such hard working educated people that have such tight crazy schedules all the time. So nothing unusual there believe me but but yeah i'm i'm happy that did finally workout. So so yeah. You're wonderful guest and thank you listeners. For being such wonderful curious people will talk with you more next week..
"emily " Discussed on The Heumann
"But when i was very young i just you know used my bottom to bella downstairs until i learned to be able to climb the steps though i think mobility equipment is probably one of the biggest lines. You know the the ease with which i've been able to get around so different we when we bought our house. It was immediately this estimate ranch. I mean i think you know. I'm a little older than you are ellen and someone actually offered to donate a motorized wheelchair to my family when in the nineteen sixties and. They didn't take it. And you're able to walk. And i never was really able to independently walk and as much as my parents were very strong. Advocates i really feel that with this part of them. That never saw me as walking without crutches and braces but really did see the wheelchair. Something that would make me physically weaker and i talked to my parents later on and other parents of exactly as you're talking about emily explaining you know an and you ellen explaining why the technology is important and i think the way you described it allen of not feeling comfortable going out and doing things with kids on the playground and other activities is really a very telling point you were feeling like you had to isolate yourself in order not to fatigue yourself or in danger yourself. Well we'll just feeling completely left out as the other kids. Were running around. And i couldn't keep up. So that was the other reason for getting the gig in the main office and i think that's very important point the issue of helping to make sure that kids can participate in activities in a comparable way as much as possible and technology is certainly and mobility. Technology is certainly really important. Emily you were mentioning before that you wrote this piece in the paper around disability awareness week. I'm that obviously was a success and change the way adelphi was running its activities. What drew you into wanting to get more involved in this whole area not just as an activist but focusing on.
"emily " Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Let's talk about the love languages. Maybe you've heard of this concept. The five lovling. Just comes from dr gary chapman. He's american author. He's a pastor radio talk show host and he described five ways romantic partners express and receive love so the basic idea is that everyone gives and receives love differently but when we figure our language and our partners will better be able to communicate our love and strengthen our relationships and the cool thing is that gary chapman was a pastor so he was like seeing couples for like twenty five years. And that's how we pinpointed these and they make a lot of sense and in fact i've often recommended. Two couples figure your partners lovling which is like an easy way to jump. Start a more loving relationship. It's helped a lot of couples get through resentments and not going to solve all your problems. But it's really eye-opening and ever since i i learned about the love languages probably almost a decade ago. I think about it all the time. I think about it with people my life. It's not just lovers. I think about my own languages. I think about my employees. So it's really helpful so i just wanted to break it down for you so you understand it. So there's five ways of experiencing love and we want all of these. Don't get me wrong but we all tend to have one to two primary love languages for example one of them's gifts and sure i love getting a gift. But that's not my primary love language. And i just wanted to. You remember that we can express all the love languages and they're all important but what we're talking about here is finding out your primary love language. So what are the five languages. It's acts of service gift-giving physical touch quality time and words of affirmation
"emily " Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Spice it backup. We've been together for six years married for five. Please help our jeremy. yes. I agree with you that decision. That should be made lightly. Perhaps one of the reasons why you don't want to have another kid is because you feel like you lost your wife. When you went to child you felt somewhat demoted. You're not her top priority and this is coming right. This happened after a baby. And you know the hormones change and for many many women their sex drive's change. And so i think if you have an honest conversation with your wife and you say i've been having some concerns lately about it. I just really miss our connection. And i miss our sex life and i miss having you and it's hard for me to feel that we are so separate now we haven't been able to repair. Go get to a place. Where i feel connected. I mean those are your real emotions. No one can argue with those and maybe after heartfelt conversations you'll start to understand both sides and maybe you feel like you want to have another baby or maybe it'll bring up other things in your relationship that you need to talk about because we all have things that we need to talk about in relationships and we often don't do them so healthy conversations from honesty and from the heart okay. Jeremy thanks for your question. Tim thirty five in cleveland. Hey dr emily. I'm a thirty five year old male. That sexually active. I've had trouble having orgasms during sex when i'm the partner that's doing the movement. I have a much easier time getting to the top of the mountain when my partner is moving on me. What things can. I do to fix this. So it's possible for me to orgasm any position while i'm the one doing the work. Okay this is interesting tim. So what you're saying is if you're just lying on the bottom. Let's say you're in missionary and you're partners on top of you moving back and forth and doing all the work and you're just lying there you can orgasm no problem when you're in charge and moving you can't and so what comes to my mind is. Is there something going on in your head. Are you worried that you're not gonna please a partner. Does it feel like you've too much control at that moment. And do you get into your head. 'cause a lot of times we can't orgasm a lot of psychological. So there's nothing wrong with you or its pattern conditioning. Maybe you always came by doing nothing. And so it's really prepped. Of calling it out. If you're with a partner he could say talk about it to say. Hey i realized we start practicing like moving around more. I just feel like. I really love watching you the way you move on top of me but i'd also like to be able to come when i'm moving around as well. I just think this is the way that you have been conditioned and talking to a part about. Maybe you need some more foreplay ahead of time. Maybe she'll give you blow job or hand job and get you more engaged in a different way sexually. So i think that this is not an absolute life is not going to end with you not being able to move during intercourse. But i think it's a matter of rewiring and practicing some mindfulness exercises. So when you are in your head you can just go back to your breath and the moment and what's happening grounding yourself in your senses what am i seeing. What am i smelling. What am i taste and that might really help you. Be centered and focused on the moment. If your head's going to this is gonna work. I'm not gonna come to realize it. So much of this is conditioning. It didn't happen to us a few times now. We think we can only orgasm a certain way. But none of that is true.
"emily " Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Out you said you wish you were surprised that the separation was out of nowhere. But i think it's not out of nowhere especially if she had said things to you a few months earlier or your earlier those are all signs so i know that if you go to therapy you're going to start to learn more about yourself and the way you process information. Maybe there was something in the relationship. That wasn't working for you but you didn't really ally yourself time to to really sink into it and continue to talk to your wife. And if she's when he's about therapy she might appreciate to hear the kind of work. You're doing and the growth factors. I don't think that people should get back together if nothing's changed there's a reason why she left. I'm not saying it's all your fault. It's definitely it's two of you in the relationship. It's a fifty fifty split. There is still some communication you can learn together so i don't know if you guys are still good at their together. That can be great once a month. Still go together while you do your own practice. So you're doing all the right things be prepared to just learn a lot more about yourself and start doing the work. That's why we're all here. God do the work. This is from nate thirty five in the uk. Hey dr emily. I recently developed a p fetish or golden showers. They call it and it seems to be getting stronger. The thought of watching a woman peer being done by women strongly stimulate me. I've never experienced this before. And it's something i'd like to try is a p fetish or golden shower a common type of finish and is normal. Why people want experience this. What are the causes of desiring fetish. Such as this. How would i approach the subject with my girlfriend. I'm worried they might not be into it. And it's something i wanted to try. Many thanks for your time and look forward to your response. It's a very common fantasy and essentially someone's being on someone else. They're watching it drinking it. It is common. you know. there's a lot of reasons why people might like golden showers. Why they become part of their eroticism. Sometimes it could be a humiliation thing. You know pe- associated with being dirty and the private and so maybe that's part of the on. There's also a sensory aspect to it. It's warm you know. Part of the person it's intimacy. It's still a little bit taboo. Some people just like the smell some people had things picked up things in their formative years at sort of shaped. They're really strong fantasies or fetishes and so really only you could answer it if you did some deep diving. When was the first time you had this fantasy. Did you see it somewhere. Did you hear about it with something happening. In the moment do an early member about p. about someone peeing and you were watching they heat on you. It could have been like a sibling. Our cousin but something happens in that moment. Where maybe you were linked up eroticism with that situation when you were watching it or experiencing it so this is really for you to do some investigative work on your own psyche. However there's nothing to worry about going back to your partner though. I do think that since sex isn't so comfortable for every talk about most people aren't aware of their fences or what turns them on to start with. I've got a golden showers fetish. Could freak people out so not my circle of friends but mixture that you're with a parter that you trust and that you already started to have a dialogue around your turn on your fantasies. What are the most memorable time. She had sex with you. And what are the most memorable times. You've had sex with her. You guys could check our yes. No maybe list yes. I will mention that on every single show because so many of.
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Is there something. I can do to work it out and make it stronger. So we'll get as tired during oral all right so a lot of us get uncomfortable during sex. Give weird neck cramps or arm cramps. You're probably tensing up your your shoulders. You're holding tension in your neck in a position where you're so into the moment i hope of ravishing your girl that you don't realize that you're not actually breathing. You're not in a comfortable position. So i would get some pillows. I would get cushions and try to find a different position and make sure that your head is supported so you can actually give oral sex and feel good about it. You could also have her sit on your face and you have a pillow under your neck and you're just sitting there doing the work you could even when you're home right now. Just if you're not with your you could think about it. Like put yourself into that position that hurts and then think what do i need in this moment to feel more comfortable and you could try other positions she could be standing up. You could be on your knees. She could be lying on the bed. And you're like leaning over her charted think about ways that you can be comfortable and still have easy access k. Thanks tom. This is from e from instagram. Twenty she's a female. I love you and your podcast emily. I'm commit to a problem. I believe i've had for a long time. I'm gonna attractive twenty year old female and i watch extreme pornography lesbian prolapse gay men visiting lesbian history. And it disgusts me. Every time i watch and finish. I hate myself. I think this is not normal. I can't have an orgasm ever without watching porn. I hate that. I can never be satisfied completely sacks i enjoy sex but because i've been desensitized i can't come. I've tried to stop. But i keep watching it because i can't orgasm without either watching something far out or thinking about it. I'm asking if you have advice how to stop. I can reach the big with the guy right. This is a common thing that's happening now with. A lot of us are escalating. The kind of porn watching gets to an extreme place and then we realized i can't orgasm without it. So what do we do. Let's talk about the fact that you're twenty years old and you're already writing in for some help on this which is great and you are not doomed in doesn't mean this is the only way you're going to be able to get off but sometimes we need a little discipline and we have to challenge ourselves to break habits. That aren't working for us so we can think about here. I is when you're masturbating. What's going on right before a stressed you happy. Do you have an extra minute or using it to relieve tension or stress. Because i'm not gonna pathology is the fact that you masturbate or watch porn. It's important for you to think like what are you trying to avoid though. 'cause sometimes watching porn isn't about porn. It's about taking your attention away from something or maybe distracting yourself for your coming our self medicating and you could even do practice of. I'm watching porn instead of feeling blank and fill that in and get present to what's happening in the moment when you reach for this extreme porn and then like any other or trying to change you to substitute it with another behavior that is similar effect. Is there something else that kind of can get you that same feeling like working out. Cardio what helps you feel alive and delated besides orgasm you can also join a community. There's communities of people who want to quit watching porn and you can find them at like sub rights online for people who've kind of can talk about all the things that they've done and then i'm not saying you don't have to masturbate but what you're saying is you tried and you're watching and then it got worse. You tried not to be an orgasm. So i want you to also think about besides porn. What really turns you on. I mean. I always practiced doing some mindful masturbation where you're really sitting with yourself. You can go through the mental library of images and partners. You could notice things in your environment that turned you on an even notice in your body. That's masturbation without the goal of orgasm though it might happen in the goal is exploration exploring your body looking for what turns you on discovering other erogenous zones. That's what it's all about okay. Life is not over. Just take a few of these steps and see what you can do to get a handle on it and learn more about yourself. And then i promise you'll be able to move on and have awesome sex. This is from david. Thirty five in nebraska. Hey dr emily thirty five. I've been married for four years a little over a year ago. My wife told me that she was beginning to feel distant. I've been traveling for work. And she was lonely then she started to get used to the loneliness and felt that maybe she wanted to be alone. We tried couples therapy and that was somewhat helpful helpful for me because it was the push i needed to ask for recommendations from my own therapist. Everything seems to be going well. But then three months ago my wife asked for separation out of nowhere. She said she felt that. Maybe we had too many differences and that she just didn't feel connected. It was painfully apparent during sex. Where i also sometimes continue struggle with anxiety. I've since moved into my own place but we're currently in limbo. She says she loves me but doesn't know what she wants. We're not yet seeking a divorce. But i realized how few couples come back from a separation. I don't know what to do while i wait for her to figure out. What else can i be doing all right. Well i love. You are in therapy and i think the most important thing that you can do right now is work on yourself. If you found a therapist you like go every week. Like it's your job because it is take time to process before. What do i want to get out of today's session. When you leave right down notes about what you from the session and you could think about during the week. We invest a lot in therapy and sure we could just show up for fifty minutes or we could really use it like it's a class or something it's a course or taking in your earnings certificate and you are the subject matter but i think as we just kind of the go therapy i gotta go in. Go out this glad over with. But if you're looking at your therapy like that you need to find a new therapist or you need to clear space in your calendar so you can really look at it like another project because you're not going to say you could go buyer flowers and go sweeper offer feet again and do all these things. She's gotta figure her stuff out..
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"Is for michael. Hey dr emily. I thanks particularly question. I've been so confused. I didn't even know. If i should send this my wife. And i've been married for over. Twenty four years recently was performing oral on her and in the middle of the act. She said i don't know why you like doing that. I don't like it. I was floored it was like a gut punch after twenty four years. My wife was a virgin when we got together. One of the first things we did was. I had experience with it over the years. She's had multiple orgasms during the act as well as other methods. I can't get out of my head now. I love doing oral as if it's a part of me that thought of doing it to someone who doesn't like the act does nothing for me. I feel like i'm mourning. The loss of a loved one before she made the statement. The previous i was really into the oral. And i kissed her after i did it. And that's what she said. Gross drought. I apologize and said i wouldn't kiss her again after but now i believe she's always thought it was gross despite the orgasms or the kiss i never be able to give her oral again. I'm just uncomfortable and won't be the same. Please help thank you. Okay michael. Listen you've been with your wife for twenty four years so long time and so. I think this isn't something that you have to figure out on your own. You could calmly talk to her outside the bedroom when you guys are in a good vibe you can you know i always talk about timing turf tone. Have the conversation from curious and open place. Then you could say you know. I heard what you said the other night about not liking oral dot warning oral. And i'd love to know more about that. Can you just let me know when that started. Or is there something i could do to make it better or just you could just say. Tell me more about that. And maybe you'll find out. Well she'd never really liked it or maybe she's having pain now so it hurts and maybe she's ashamed that she has pain which a lot of women feel like they should have pain or they just grin and bear it. I don't know what's find out. We've no idea but you are going right to this. Oh my god. It's not going to happen again. Dooms me my life is over no like anything. If your wife came down one day and said let's say every single friday night you have chicken. And she came downstairs and said i hate chicken. I'm never eating chicken again and we are done and you're like bay but we have chicken every night for twenty years when you say why was it chicken do we just don't know how to handle it. It's okay to have conversations about sex with people you're having sex with people you're naked invulnerable have children with our lives with if you're not gonna talk to them about it how you ever gonna know if it can improve where you get your needs met. I'm just encouraging wall to start a new practice talking about sex in a healthy way. Okay this is from a female on instagram. Is it normal to cry during or after sex especially during times of intense stress in life. Yes it's so normal to cry crying. After sex zuma's post coiled this fauria that includes tearfulness sadness and irritability after consensual sex. Even if it was perfectly satisfying and there's many reasons why we cry during sex and this is for all genders men. Cry women cry after sex. It's intense to be with someone we're naked. Were vulnerable in. We've been intense physical pleasure. It can definitely overwhelm our bodies so it would make sense that you might cry. There's also a biological response. Could be hormonal changes. That happened during sex which can lead to intense emotions and kring is also really healthy. It can reduce tension and intensify physical arousal. And maybe if you have been in a dry spell for a while this has happened to me and you suddenly let go of all that pent up energy. That could also bring you to tears. Now listen you might cried tears because you have pain with sex and if you've painting sex that's a whole nother conversation and we talk about that a lot on the show. My advice for you is just a right out that tears. And it's okay to cry and i'm going to sue yet with a partner who fully embraces it because i know when i've cried after sex my partners find it pretty awesome free and if they are explaining. Oh no it's good. I'm just feeling so much. Tears are healing cry this week. It's good for you. This is from owen thirty five in the united kingdom. Hi dr emily. I'm a married man. And i have a daughter. I'm a family man. But i'm forever questioning my sexuality. I'm turned on by men. And i only looked at gay porn and i get really turned on other porn. Doesn't do it for me. I can have sex with women. It's just not the same. I love my wife more than anything. I don't think i could be romantically involved with a man. It's never happened. So i'm unsure i've always said i'm bisexual leaning towards men but i'm forever asking myself. Am i gay. And in denial the messed up part is i genuinely love. My wife and i'm happy. I'd never cheat on her. Just beating myself up. Have i lied to myself for so long that i believe i'm not gay. Could i be sexually gay and romantically straight and to finish if i was gay. My fear is in being gay. It would be the upset. I would 'cause my wife and family the pain for her please help. Here's the thing owen. Thank you for your heartfelt vulnerable. Really descriptive message. I feel like i know where you're at. There's a few things going on here. Perhaps you were raised in a really religious home growing up or environment and people who were gay. Were not accepted. It wasn't okay. People around you maybe weren't out is gay and perhaps at a really young age before you even could be aware of it. You got the message. It wasn't okay to be gay. And so you repressed feelings that you had towards men found a wonderful woman that you love deeply and you got married when we're gay bisexual pan sexual however you wanna call it when we've attractions to people other than our spouse or other than the gender that we thought we'd be attracted to it really can be troubling. It doesn't just go away. You're getting older. You're thirty five now and you can't get out of your head. You ever heard the saying whatever. We resist persists phil. This is a great example of that. Unfortunately things don't just disappear after we think about them for too long they actually get more and more intense because we're pushing him down or pushing him down and they just get bigger and bigger and expand so. I recommend you see a sex therapist because therapy would create way for you to process this all so you don't have to do it on your own. Now let's say it wasn't that you grew up in an environment like that or it hasn't been part of your development as a human and maybe you're bisexual and you truly have sex with your wife and you still crave men and i'm working towards a world where we can all express our desires to our partners. Our fantasies are fetishes. The things that were into and we have a better dialogue to process it and realized that it doesn't have to mean the end of our marriage it doesn't have to mean infidelity. You don't love me anymore. I believe in the possibility of being attracted to many different kinds of people. And maybe sometimes at once and so there is a chance once you go to therapy you processes that perhaps your wife you get some tools together and you talk to your wife. And maybe she'll be okay with strict boundaries and understanding. It and i know you're probably thinking your wife's can be like hell. No she's gonna think. I'm getting kicked me out of the house and that's the other thing i wanna say so many of us go to this extreme place that partner would never do it and you're right but it's likely because they don't have a lot of information maybe you haven't slowed down to express to them why you have a certain fantasy y you wanna try something. 'cause it's also kafer for owen to say to his wife when he's ready. It's part of my eroticism that i developed at a young age. Whatever you figure out your and your journey owen and it's part of what turns me on sexually you still turn me on and it's something that i want to explore and i feel like i love you. You're my wife. I wanna be with you forever. But i'm unsettled in a way. And i don't feel like i'm truly living my sexual truth and let take a few conversations. Maybe she says hell no but then you're further along to dealing with issue. That's been troubling you for years. Okay owen let me know how it goes. I know this isn't easy. I just think the world is changing and we're understanding and seeing more examples of people in alternative relationships that they get to decide what works for them not based on any government law or societal norms. This is from paul. Hey after emily. I have a quick question for you..
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"Do they get jealous Joe? Yeah. Right. That's right. They get possessive and jealous. Like, I used to have this thing with men. They like, oh, yeah. I love that. You're so independent free. And then eventually they would say something to the effect of. Oh, I love it. You're out there. But I really want wanna put you in this box. Or let me put you in my pocket. There was a million different ways of heard that they want to own it and keep us on what they're so. To in you. They actually just want to own it down. I think wing you, and I both share this same light. Right. And I think that people are attracted to that light. But once they realized that the light is ours. And it's just there for them to stand in to not take we immediately become the asshole, right? Yeah. I guess so you're right. That is what happens. We'll look how self aware. You are this is happening. I mean, I think this is the next step, right? Get my path. Now, they're standing at the and then being really, honestly, I don't think that I was as honest with people earlier on because I even from a younger age. I never felt that monotony made sense to me like I was in college. And I was like I do it because there was really no other options on the table. But then I always felt like I struggled with it a woman too. So it was like it's a. Right. It is. And so, but now I think its just now I think this is great that you're shedding light on it. Like people don't have a lot of great role models of what it means to be bisexual and to be open in the world. And to be a man who's bisexual people just they just say, oh, you're just gay. It was funny. I was sent here Sheila Nevins podcast. I love Shiites to documentary filmmaker before I was before it had sex with Emily. And I just I was such a Sheila Nevins fan like she was like the Queen. She's still is like I just want. She'll never to meet with her. Somebody's in. Honey, you're not you're not bisexual day your gate. You seeing psychiatrists like she was hilarious. Right. She was just like, but I get a generational thing. It really is. So you're really in this place right now. I think that at the end of the day, we only believe what we see. And we've seen predominantly one story since the beginning of time, you know, and it is a white man and a white woman with hits. That's it. That's the only thing we've seen and now in the last like fifty years, maybe a little bit log in that. We're seeing all these other stories in the last ten twenty years now with social media. We're seeing all the stories, and we're starting to believe that more things are real is what I love possible alternative relationship. Hi, Anne, Marie. And it's for me. It's all about normalizing. The AB nor the quote on quote, abnormal. Right. So let's talk about sex fervent. About how we met being full circle to a panel know, how has it changed for you over like, even let's say since you got sober. I would imagine sexual. Like, a mock air your once I got sober, right?.
"emily " Discussed on Sex With Emily
"This is not good Scott. How long have you guys been together? Years eight years. Okay. I'm wondering you something else is going on. Maybe this is just really disrespectful, and you can let her know that it makes you feel not loved and that your quality time together is really important to you. Because and let her know like and ask her what she thinks. It's about like ask questions. She's like, I just do it. Don't tell me what to do. And you could say, well, I won't Kazushi might get defensive because she's very attached to it. And you could just let her know that it's really important for your intimacy as a couple like there's been all these studies now about couples like we're so dictated that you actually need to say we're going to have a night together without the phone. You know, we're going to spend three hours. So I think keep talking about it. But from a place of feeling not of criticizing her. Okay. Scott. We got to go. But thank you so much for calling. Let me know how it goes. I appreciate your call. Okay. Let's take an Email. All right. All right. So this is true. I like that name trust a fifty one in Tennessee. Hi, emily. I'm fifty one in married to the man of my dreams. I didn't even know sex could be fun until. Met him. He always makes sure that I'm satisfied, and he says that our sex life is great for him too. But I'd like to make it better for him. I know he wants me to dirty talk to him. But every time he says talk to me during sex my tongue swells. Fifteen sizes and completely frees up. How can I learn a dirty talk without feeling like an idiot. Okay. This trust of the great question because it's so common. So many of us have been in this situation where we're like what do I do? What do I say what's thirty five like door have to watch porn? And then mimic what they're saying. You know, you're not alone at all. So this is you don't have to like a porn star. You don't have to do anything different than just be you. So my biggest tips for like just beginner dirty talk is to just describe something. That's like happening in the moment. So like God, you feel so good like I just want to like, you know, grab your ass or feel so amazing when you're inside MIR you not fill in it or something that happened in the past. Like, I keep thinking about that time we had some, you know, hot sex. Is there something in the future? So that you want to happen. So those are very specific things with details for the past president feature that can kind of help describe when you describe it. And you definitely want to have your dirty tug voice. So it's a little bit lower a little bit slower. And it's great to do it practice. So I think it's fun in the shower like in your in the shower like start talking dirty like won't would you you've been with this guy. He's the man of your dreams. Right. And you're having such fun sex with them, and it's amazing sex. So think about the things that you guys have done that have felt amazing to you. Like, I'm sure there's been one thing where you're like. Wow. That time he went down on me when we were in the Bahamas for an hour and the night orgasm walk this think about those things the way he touches you. How does it feel when his hands are on your neck things like that? And then described them, and that's really what thirty talk is. You know, how he and let them know how good it makes you feel good. He makes you feel and you know. He's got a good dirty duck story like this to doesn't this. This reminds me of ten you have the guy. Oh, you sue a guy save this to you? He was like talk during my God. I have no idea what to do. Well. Yeah. I mean, it was because it's hard in the moment. Like, if you're inside me, and you're trying to ask me to do something in a performance of way. Like in your putting me on the spot. Like, I'm just gonna freeze up because I'm like, this isn't my idea. Right. You know, and it's it just because then I'm like, oh crap..
"emily " Discussed on Sex With Emily
"You should because we're starting to do giveaways again. Yeah. So do that and help you joy the show freezes to avoid on internet, dating bios. And I really wanted to get your opinions on these Emily because you feel like you're very good at crafting bios and like help. People with their profiles. So let's go through some of these ones. First one is my kids are my number one priority slash my world. All right. Yeah. Okay. So if you're and this is even if you're not even apple you're on a first date. I would think that someone that you're our third going to understand if you're a parent that your kids very important to you that you love your child for the problem is saying something like my kids are my number one priority. I think it's important to let someone know that your that you have kids you don't want to hide the kids till the fourth like you have kids. But what that message sent to someone is you're never going to be important to me like you'll I'll never be never be enough for you. And I think that I understand kids are everything in your world. And you know, I do understand that. But it just it could just put someone off. And you know, I think that somebody people know the person that you're going to pick as a mom is going to be a good partner, and you don't need to lead. With like, my kids are so important. It just also says like I have no time. For anything else is what that says if you're writing honed. So I think let it be known that you're a mom, but by saying that could be a turnoff and not just like good guys could be turned off by that. Yeah. I mean, I think it's more of a. Win they explicitly. Right. That they right. And they do I've seen that. And I've seen that. I well. No. And I've seen it with guys. So I this is interesting. So I've been on the dating apps I've been I'm bumble and those things that when someone's like my kids, my everything I think I probably have those thoughts where I'm like. Oh, yeah. Well, then you're you're you're full time dead. You probably don't have space for a relationship is what I think are there's no room for someone else. Even though you're app. So I think that it just your wording you could say like love my kid love being a parent. It's such a joy, you could do so many things you could say there, but not the not this is specific sense here is what to avoid. And this was like they probably looked at tons of dating profiles and found out. What worked in my kids are my number one priority. My kids are my world. You've no space. It's basically saying you're shutdown due ESO. I'm just saying that like when people write that out. I think people are like, oh, okay..
"emily " Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Yeah. That's what we got for you. I'm here with Jamie. Dave, we're gonna do some sex the news, we're gonna get into your emails. I love that we're at sex with. Early everywhere Instagram Facebook Twitter, like we've had people on the show her like, well, this one's that. This is when you have a Brown this long enough kind of nailed it. Yeah. Kind can nail all that down. I mean, it's just it's cool because there is no other like sex with Emily. So you wouldn't like it would suck if you had to do like sex with Emily like fifty two. Hashtag again. Exact and we would obviously pick sixty nine. That's true. So that feels good as we had into our fourteen th year here. So let's talk a little bit about relationships here. I found this to be interesting. And this is something that I've been after remind myself of when we get into relationships. I feel like we can all relate to the fact that we get bored in relationships after a while we get tired of it. We look at the person. And we're like is it time to break up and a lot of times we we give up on relationships. When maybe there's it's discovered a stage of it that we haven't quite worked on yet. Because we all know, we, you know, it's well documented the trajectory of like getting into a the early stage like the honeymoon phase. And and then it's not as great anymore and a lot of the emails and questions from listeners are like it was so great in the beginning. And what do we do to get back to that? Which? I understand that we all want to get back to that phase. But I don't think ever you never going to get those that exact feeling back, but you can find a way to keep that going, but also get deeper in a relationship and not may be giving up when you don't have to. So let's just walk through this. And then you'll think you're going to get what I'm talking about. Because I think it's just important to recognize it. No relationships are perfect. They're all going to take work. Whether it's like, friends lovers parents. I mean, the relationships that you've really worked on like you ever notice the friends maybe that you've had an argument when you get stronger like Jamie, and I'll have things in the office will battle it out. And then we're like closer like, we're not. Yeah. You talk it through. It's kind of like the win. You know, how like with your parents, or whatever you can be so much more mean to your mom than anyone else. Like, I know that I like the things I said to my mom and then like literally minute later. I'm like, I'm hugging. And I love you. Because it's like that's true. When you really love someone you do take the time to get past. Exactly those. Things into work through them. And that's how you make a deeper right talk about like, how do you go deeper, but then still keep that love and lust going? So this the first thing is the attraction phase. So this is where we have the butterflies in our stomach, and we literally are being controlled by all those excitement hormones dopamine serotonin all those things what is it doping oxygen oxytocin. Thank you dopamine, serotonin oxytocin. You're literally this is the obsessed stage. This is the he will think it's love at first sight. I believe in lust at first sight, and I don't really believe in deep love at first sight loss concern into live. Sure. But this is when your physical and sexual attraction is at his peak. Everything's new your heart's racing. And you really drawn to this person. You're seeing them all the time. And this is the stuff that we crave in. This is all this is one. It's real you're fine. That's probably when we're. Bringing our best. So like, we're like pretending like, we don't have any flaws, and we leaving all of our shit and baggage at the door if we can some or or just can't do that. Yeah. No. But right, exactly. Like, we look our best. We make efforts all the time. And we just can't this person can do no wrong. So that's the first eight, and then we move into the romantic stage..
"emily " Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Like, there's nobody wanted people like me was it. I said are war or did. And the truth is you it doesn't matter. Why you didn't get out again? It could be a million reasons. It's probably not the things that you're worried about exactly. And I think a lot of us, and I used to feel this way. Everyone needs to like me. Yes. I like I need everyone that I meet to like me. Otherwise, my life is not fulfilled, and I've had to work to get past. Because not it's there are so many people in the planet. There's no way not everyone's going to like you people pleasing. It's true. That's a good point too. Because on dates I've done that too. Like, I think that a lot of times we go into dates as the pleasers, and we're like, I don't even know how I feel about this person. That's sitting across from me on this date. I'm just gonna try to get them to like me. So I'm not even paying attention. If I like them because I want the I want him to like me. And then I'll decide, but we are on a date that is such a great time to be super present. And just think like how do I feel right now? How is this person making me feel like it's about both of you together. Because I think there'd be a lot less confusion. If we did all like, we're present paid attention. Into like messaging from people in whatever they're making us feel. Yeah. Because you get so hung up on the rejection that you forget to ask yourself. Do. What did I even want this person ever want to see this person? Again, don't wanna kiss him on my track to this person. So, and I think one of the most important things to is to think about your past like what this is an important lesson that I think soon as we go through breakup, and we just like are angry or something bad happened. And we're like, you know, my my ex was an asshole and everyone's an asshole. But I think the most we do our best learning about ourselves, really important lessons. We learn in relationships with people, and then when we break up, it's a great time to look at what we've learned like what did I learn from this relationship? What was my part in it? That's a big one, especially if you've been dating for a long time, and there's a commonality guess what? It's you right. Not the person you did at ten people in every time. There's some kind of issue around sex, intimacy or something. Thing. Like, oh, what is my part in it because every relationship is fifty fifty and I'm going to say it this way. Even if someone cheated and did the unthinkable, you have a part in that in some way, like in your reaction to it in your not you didn't make someone cheat on I swear I was the Betty ever. I mean, like, what did you rather than just being angry that your partner cheated like that doesn't mean that the whole relationship was horrible? They're still part. I mean, the whole you know, what I'm saying? There was probably doing good things in there still lessons to learn. If something really bad happened at the end is my point definitely. So it doesn't mean like, oh what he was a jerk or she was a bitch or whatever it is. So look at that. Like, it's such good. That's why I think it's important to try to not jump right into a relationship when you're single and support take time to really learn about who you Oregon single, and then what you want once you get back out there. And I used to not do that. Because I felt like I would go from one to the next because I didn't like being alone. And then I realized what who the hell is Emily without. A man the coup in the world. So then I would take that time. And then it was clear when I started dating again like what the hell do I want? All right. We're gonna take a quick break..