37 Burst results for "Emily"
Fresh update on "emily" discussed on Not Another D&D Podcast
"Yeah, I wonder because maybe this person who is DMing, whenever we get a story about a DM with like a that's like super powerful, I'm always like, maybe they just wanna be a PC. Because if they're just really into making a broken character, then that's actually not what DMing you. And it could still be at this person has too much power. They're DMing and it's at their house. They're keeping the snacks. They're inserting their own characters. If you make them a PC, someone else DMs. Yeah. It still gets to eat the snacks. And they can make their broken character and have fun with that and maybe that's missing for them. And so they're putting too much effort in that. And so they can itch that scratch. And until then they'll be operating the concession stands at first. You're broken character has to now just be reduced to just operating the concession stand. This rainbow butter is gonna be slinging seed at bird less. And I gotta say, when you run the concession, do you wanna concession stand at birdless? No one's calling you by your name, okay? They're calling you sweetie. Oh my God. Oh no. We're gonna get shut down. Birds need to be respectful. I've been at the helm of this business for two hours and I've already gotten canceled. I'm pulling out. I'm out. Great, you leave me back. You're hanging me out to dry man. I'm pulling my money out. You need to get your audience under control. More suit this way, hon. We've stopped being the judges of the Supreme Court, and now we're just the judges on Shark Tank. I'm investing. Not investing in birdless. I'm sorry. Let's do one more case. Okay. One final case comes from Matteo C Matteo writes. May it please the court and her royal kritz Emily Oxford. Wow. Wow. It is. Already, I really in favor of Matteo scene. What are you doing, Bailey? What? My players were looking for sponsors to enter an amazing race style race around the world. And after many fails, eventually scored a sponsorship with victorious secret and were given granted yoga pants to wear. This sounds really fun already this setup. It sounds like you guys are having a really fun campaign. AKA skinned light armor. I decided I decided that these pants would give the party advantage on ass based charisma checks, but are true it said they should just have advantage on all charisma checks because knowing your butt looks good is a confidence boost that means the rest of your personality is a good, that's a good sign. That is a really good Sal. Your honors was I wrong to limit the advantage to merely asked based charisma checks or should the Victoria's Secret yoga pants allow the advantage of right now? I'm gonna tell you right now that this is actually the hardest one we've had today because I actually see both sides so well of the cheese. I see both treats right now so well because on one cheek, it's like, okay, well having that limitation means that you really have to get creative with how you use your how you make sure that your charisma checks are ass based, but then the other cheek is like that actually is a really good point. It's just like having that beautiful butt boost your confidence overall. You know what you could have done. You could have been like, okay, that's a really good point. You get a D four to all charisma checks. Oh. Interesting. Essentially like a bless on all your charisma checks, but just advantage on ass based on. What's the rules is written on ass based charisma checks? I think that what is it? I'm going to surprisingly. I think it's like bending. It's like think of like an 80s movie, like bending over and being like, excuse me, let me pick this up. Yeah. Oops, I dropped this piece of sea glass. So it could get up. So I dropped my sword. Maybe you don't want to be attacking us. Yeah, I see. Here's the thing that we would probably have disadvantage on that because you would be in a fight but the advantage in this case. It'd be a great thing to do during a phone. I'm actually basically making yourself prone. I think a good rule with the player because I think that if you're going to go this far, you have to just keep going. You know what I mean? If you're like, hey, you're in Victoria's Secret yoga pants and you have advantage on ass based charisma checks. If your player says, but now I feel really great about my ass. Like, wouldn't that shine through all of me? I think you have to have the D four. I think it was shine throughout the D four, not advantage. Maybe. I think I'm with Murph though 'cause there's precedent for this in bhumia, I guess, because at one point, hard one got a cool hat, and it boosted his charisma checks, I think. Yeah, is it just hat based checks? It wasn't just when you tip your hat. Because that's all just flavor. Yeah. You could also call this ass vantage, which I feel like. Very good. That's very good. I think I'm down with either, but I think that you could have easily been like, I like that, but having a confidence boost is different than rolling with advantage. Yeah. But I like that. Their argument is good, but it's a confidence boost. I think the checks aren't gonna get you that far a lot of the times, especially when you're talking about just doing like an amazing race type run. And I think also to use a term from our bird lask. You don't want to pigeonhole your players into having to hit their agent hole is a number for sure. Pigeonhole in the context of the last is incredibly evocative. If you want to see pigeonhole, go to this, go to the bird strip club. That doesn't happen a bird glass. But I think you want to give your players an ass out. You know what I mean? So that they don't have to like maybe your players are like, if someone don't want to be someone who is shy for sure, absolutely read the room and if someone were feeling shy about that, but if they felt if it seemed like your players were like.
Fresh update on "emily" discussed on Morning Edition
"What is already in place Tamara Keith NPR news Jury selection is expected to wrap up soon in the trial of kimberley Potter the white former police officer from suburban Minneapolis is charged with manslaughter in the death of Dante Wright a 20 year old black man mets epic of Minnesota public radio reports Potter whose 49 is heard on body camera video shouting taser as she shoots right with her handgun while trying to arrest him during an April traffic stop 5 women and four men have been seated on the jury so far the presiding judge says opening statements could begin earlier than planned and she expects to finish the trial before Christmas Matt's epic reporting The owners of Major League Baseball teams have locked out the players in a labor dispute the collective bargaining agreement for the MLB expired just before midnight and both sides have not been able to agree on new terms owners say the player's demands would create financial instability for the teams The women's tennis association said this week it is pulling all of its tournaments that are scheduled to be held in China It's acting out of concern for a missing Chinese tennis player Chinese officials are not happy NPR's Emily Feng reports a state news outlet today accused countries of politicizing the athletes disappearance The woman's tennis association has been leading an effort to find out what happened to tennis player Pong shy After she accused one of China's most powerful politicians of sexual assault China state tabloid the global times lashed out at the WTA's decision to pull out of China by saying it was quote a betrayer of the Olympic spirit Puns disappearance has reignited calls for a boycott of the winter Olympic Games which start in Beijing's February The global times posted its English language comments on Twitter which is blocked in China The editorial is not available on the outlet's Chinese website Meanwhile all mentions of punctual remains censored within the country Emily fang and peer news Beijing You're listening to NPR news You're.
How Are the Democrats so Bad at This Governing Thing?
"An attorney I did a lot this weekend But I gave a speech in Jacksonville Florida in front of about 2500 packed packed house up there as an enjoyable speech I started out kind of a funny speech I don't do that a lot I'm not really a comedian As I said in the speech I leave the comedy to gutfeld But it was kind of funny because I said to myself you know before I went out on stage I'm like how the hell is it that the Democrats and liberals are just so bad at this governing thing given that their whole life centers around government right Remember that Obama admiral is that the life of Emily or whatever it was showing how at every moment in second of your life Jim you're shaking your head You remember that That the government was somehow going to rescue you from yourself So how is it if you're a leftist Everything is about government right Your entire life's about government Your healthcare education everything's about government and yet you suck so bad at the one thing you love governing How is that possible So I go out on stage and I had a totally different speech plan and I start talking about it I start laughing and the crowds laughing at it for 25 minutes There's actually 26 I want a minute over Maybe a minute and a half Maybe 26 and a half doesn't matter I'm sitting there and I'm just going off my wife's in the front row crack it up because it's just so tragically and I do mean tragically tragically hilarious how bad liberals are at the one thing they claim to do best which is governing They can't do anything right The border inflation the economy education I mean nothing matters They suck so bad at
Dozens of California Students Remain Trapped in Afghanistan
"And I want to get this in before the end of the program From our Friends at the daily wire Emily zanotti Dozens of California school children are still trapped in Afghanistan And the Biden State Department is mom At least 41 elementary school students from the San Juan unified school district remained trapped in Afghanistan the Sacramento bee reported And getting them out as proving an impossible task Though representative Daryl Issa Republican California says it is continually pressing the Biden administration and their State Department at apartment of Homeland Security to assist in their rescue 41 schoolchildren San Juan unified school district officials last week said 41 students were trapped in Afghanistan a sharp increase from the two dozen or so the district of previously identified The 41 kids three were evacuated over the weekend from the war torn country but remain overseas Sacramento said a unified officials last week said 8 students are straining in Afghanistan initially they identified just one family who the bee interviewed attendance records at the school has progressed showed more students were missing in staff trace their whereabouts to Afghanistan Officials of baker elementary school in the San Juan district say they're trying to cobble together a rescue mission As our officials are nearby sacrament why the hell is it the FBI involved in this Why is the hell isn't the Department of Justice involved in this They're worried about students
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"The mood like he's just sitting there. And then i come up with all. These reasons is my head. Why i shouldn't do it like oh now. It's not a good time. His busy like a million things. I talk okay. Yeah let's help you. Who is initiating right now when it does happen. Does your husband mostly initiating it no. It's mostly me okay. So what has something happened when you've initiated. It just hasn't gone right not that i can pinpoint rarely turned me down. I mean the only thing is that. Like i just maybe in the back of my mind like hell think badly of me or like no okay is that you're growing up like not so so onset sir. I don't know. I feel like if i'm initiating he's gonna think like oh she's like ready to go for penetration and like not where i want. Okay yea absolutely. This is a great thing that topic that you're bringing up right now because it's really really common in relationships that someone's initiating someone's that we tell ourselves stories like what is it you know what i love. Fear is that you. Sarah are aware of. You're thinking in the moment that it may be shame or might be. I'm not supposed to do this. So that's great. What is your communication. Like with your husband about your sex life. So i do try to talk to him about it i i. I love your advice of talking about outside the bedroom. Sometimes i feel like he doesn't even talk about it and i feel like i'm the one like nagging him and so then it tends to be like i'll try a little bit and then you see into talking about who do a little bit at a time but it's much and so yeah like that maybe as playing into it as well okay. I feel like there's a lot of these these stories here. I always say that chuck a story could be a lot of things. It could be the fact that he's not initiating maybe there's also part like why isn't the initiating you feel you're the only one going after it no one wants to be the only one carrying the weight in the relationship and also the fact that you he doesn't really want to talk about it so people aren't as comfortable talking about sex. Okay i would say the majority of us aren't comfortable talking about sex and so and so you're reading into his like he only has a short attention span for or he gets to his limit until these are all the things. I think it'd be so good to check with them as one of a conversation with you and you know compliment sandwich. Here's the things that i've been loving about. It and i think you could be honest. Your husband of six years. I find myself lately freezing up and i'm thinking about you and i get turned on and i'm sitting there the room and i wanna have sex but i have all these thoughts that run through my head and i want to talk to bottom and i've also felt lately that maybe you're not as open to having our conversations so is there any truth to that. Can you let me know where you're at with our sex life. You could talk about a you could start with the communication so you've two choices. You could say. I've talked about our communication around sex philip. We haven't talked about lately. What's on your mind about anything you wanted to try. You could start very basic like water your fantasies. You could play with a little bit and kind of get you both going without the pressure of. We need to talk to. Hey i've listened sex with emily. This is what i got. We haven't done this. Would this be fine..
US military leaders favored keeping troops in Afghanistan
"Top U. S. military officers are telling Congress several thousand American troops should have been kept in Afghanistan to prevent a Taliban takeover from joint chiefs chairman mark Emily my assessment was back in the fall of twenty and remain consistent throughout the day we should keep a steady state of twenty five hundred and it could bounce up to thirty five hundred maybe something like that to Central Command chief Frank McKenzie twenty five hundred was an appropriate number to remind both stress those were their personal opinions and would not say what advice they actually gave president bite before he ordered all troops to leave at a Senate Armed Services Committee hearing Tom cotton asked Emily why he didn't resign if the president ignored his advice the president doesn't have to agree with that advice she doesn't have to make those decisions just because we're generals Sager mag ani Washington
Who is Dr. Jeff Barke?
"Talk about the truth. Let's talk about science with one of the few doctors who's out there telling the truth about what we need to know about. Covert therapeutics boston. Vaccines welcome to america. First one on one. It's dr jeffrey balki. Board thirty five primary care physician. Welcome dr to one on one so great to be with you. Thanks so much for having me on. Well we had you on the radio show a week ago. It was super. It was too short. So we've already invited you back for a one on one discussion for those who missed the interview on the radio show and who haven't heard of you before. Just by way of introduction. Who are you what do you do. And what is our ex liberty our expert liberty is my website sev- where people can go and learn more about me. I've got a newsletter that i put out every couple of weeks naked subscribed it out by the way i recently started. A podcast. informed dissent the intersection of healthcare in politics and that can be found at in armed descent media dot com. I'm a primary care physician board-certified. I've been in private practice for over twenty five years i've served as an assistant professor at uc irvine. I've also served as a board member at the orange county medical association and in my spare time. I work as a tactical physician role local law enforcement agency emily last year. I started a charter school. A hillsdale affiliated republic charter school in the city of orange here in southern california but my day job is treating patients that i've treated literally hundreds and hundreds of cova patients successfully by instituting early treatment with many of our repurpose medications. That were really well. You can get visions early
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Like for me. It's breath it's it's exercise. It's hot going into steam shower cold dunk. There's all these things that help. Sort of move us through it. I see like a full body experience. You can kind of just be more in touch with yourself because we are feelings our our our in our body until the morning get in touch with it we could release a lot of those traumas and those feelings but it's a lifelong practice and really great place as a great book. Called the body keeps the score. And it's also about how our traumas and all of our memories are stored at our body. And i feel like that would be really great work for you than just a therapy. That's around talking along with visualization and calling in to me. I think these are amazing. Steps for you and i wanna stay in touch and i want you to make sure that you find. I want you to do this. i'm sure. I don't know the first person that's told you this but i know this is going to help you so i would still be available. If you wanna email us. We can help you down that track. Because i think you're going to really start to feel some relief help you gotta stick with it though. Okay overshadow it. Thank you for calling. I really appreciate it hanging there. We got you k. Thanks chuck by. Where i think is really interesting here. Is that you know he came in asking about sex. And how do. I have sex. But i think we start to unpack things. Even i will tell you. It's not always about the sex. He's looking you know. I think a lot of it comes down to relationships and connection and trust and honesty and i think some of us take for granted though. We should just know how to be a good friend or how to have a healthy relationships. But that's a learned skill and if we didn't grow up in an environment that supported that we didn't have a parent or friends or consistent role models in our life. We're not just all of a sudden figure it out right. We all have these coping mechanisms that we learned in childhood and nobody had a perfect childhood. Even if you if you call me and tell me that there was perfect. I wouldn't believe you it's not good or bad. It's just that we all have lessons. We all have childhoods that set us up for our life lessons. Like the blueprint for everything we need to learn in our lives is simply laid out in our childhood not to bash your parents or your sisters or your neighbors. That's what we have to learn from because we are conditioned like robots. If you think about it you don't can't get out of your home. You see your parents every day. You see your siblings. And those are the patterns that you go through till maybe you leave home at eighteen and then that's who you are that's who you become. That's all you've seen so you obviously have to go out and say who am i. What is still true to me. What is important to me and it can take a really long time to figure it out on our own or we can choose to get a path. Find a trust therapist. Find some good friends. But i think the first step if you are feeling this way if this resonated with you and you feel like you don't have a lot of people in your life that you can trust. I know that finding someone at therapeutic setting they can commit to on a daily basis will be your first step as well. This is from sabrina twenty-six in chicago. Hey dr emily. After listening to your show for while. I've been inspired to deepen my personal masturbation practice. I've always had a high in healthy sex drive and my partner and i love mutual masturbation and incorporating pleasure into sex. Unfortunately i have an issue with my solo practice. Where i just can't seem to stop i can easily have multiple orgasms and they feel great. I don't want to stop but it does take up too much time i could have so many orgasms in a row and we're mutually masturbating. His orgasm is always the stopping you even though i could keep going. I am satisfied since my solo practice seems to have no stopping q. How can i develop a more regular masturbation practice. I feel like this is a good problem. But i would love to masturbate more regularly and not just on the days where i can devote hours to it and advises appreciated. I love your show and everything you do to take the shame out of sex. Thank you already to bring a. Thanks so much for your email you sell it. Probably wherever thinking is well. That's a good problem to have but just like everything that feels good. We sometimes take it to extremes right so it's all about moderation and balance and thinking about your intention. Why is it that you want to masturbate releases all those feel good hormones and it's a great way to connect to your body if you're looking to set up a healthy routine with masturbation why don't actually put on your calendar and say i want to do it three days a week and i'm going to give myself a half hour and then you do it right before you have somewhere else to be. Maybe you're meeting a friend for lunch. You've an important meeting that you don't wanna miss so this way you have a built in stopping point where you have to go about your day. I'll be honest. When i'm getting on google with my masturbation routine i could keep going and going on with you. It feels amazing. So i can cut it short and i know that you can to sabrina. I.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"This isn't something you can just go on google and no. You're listening to sex with emily. I'm doctor emily. And i'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Today's show it's all about finding answers to your trickiest questions and unleashing your full pleasure potential. How do you orgasm when you don't know how or how you have sex for the first time when you've never had sex. How do you ease into an open relationship or threesome. How'd you find balance in your masturbation routine whether you're too dry and it's puzzling your partner or too wet. It's puzzling both of you. I hope you figure out solutions to overcome your biggest sexual challenges all right intense with emily. Join me in setting an intention for the show. So when you're listening what do you want to get out this episode. How can help you. My intent is to normalize the fact that sex can be messy and weird and loud and slippery and it's all okay please. Rate review the podcast. Wherever you listen it helps others find the show. And i have a new article at sex with emily dot com. It's the ford tips for lasting longer in bed. If you like many of my listeners have a hard time lasting as long as you'd like to check that out if you want to ask me a question comma hotline five nine talk sex or five five nine eight two five five seven three nine. You can leave me your questions or message me. It's sex with dot com slash. Ask emily article enjoyed this episode..
AP News Spins General Mark Milley's Wrongdoing in Exclusive Interview
"The Democrats are going to run interference. They're going to gavel down Republicans. They're going to talk about Trump Trump Trump Trump and they're not going to talk about This coup attempt at all. We even have people. Who get leaks familiar or his staff. They call them reporters. Contributors whomever they are. They've been very, very Passive in their criticism of what is an outrageous act, if true. If true. And General Milley has said that hey, look, what I did is Perfectly fine. What's the problem here, so he's learned a lot? From Obama and Biden and Pelosi. His friends. So The Associated Press actually interviewed. Emily calls the China were perfectly with the scope of my job. And he said Athens, Greece for some reason. So this is the associated depressed, ready? The top U. S military officer said Friday that calls he made to his Chinese counterpart in the final storming once a president Trump's presidency. You see how the AP just can't report a story? Were quote perfectly within the duties and responsibilities unquote of his job. We're going to look at that in a minute. Maly said such calls are routine. And we're done to reassure both allies and adversaries in this case in order to ensure strategic stability. Strategic stability. For what? Really Why did we need strategic stability? I think it's best that I reserve my comments on the record until I do that. In front of the lawmakers who have the lawful responsibility to oversee the military, Mili said. I'll go into any level detailed. Congress wants to go into a couple of weeks. Well, he's a tough guy, isn't he? He's a very stupid guy to be in a position he's
Pentagon Reverses Itself, Calls Deadly Kabul Strike an Error
"The Pentagon has reversed itself over a drone strike last month in Afghanistan that killed ten civilians days after the strike joint chiefs chairman mark Emily had said it was a valid attack against Islamic state extremists the right to strike but a Pentagon investigation now shows it was something different the strike was a tragic mistake general Frank McKenzie who heads U. S. Central Command says the military believed it struck a vehicle that posed an imminent threat to forces that Kabul's airport we now assess that it is unlikely that the vehicle and those who died were associated with ISIS K. or were a direct threat to US forces it was the final strike of America's longest war and mackenzie says the U. S. is considering reparation payments to the victims families Sager mag ani Washington
A 'Lotl' Love For The Axolotl
"Today we're talking all about axl models. The ever smiling salamanders of the animal kingdom so berlin mccoy. What makes these critters a heck in lot to start. I think it's helpful to talk about. What most salamanders grow up to be the big normally absorbed the heels on the leave the water and go in the adult could into the land. And that's all decided to don't do that. They decided to stay as juvenile and reproduced as unlv within the water. So that's the reason they tell them that they are forever young because yes they kept the young and still join us for the rest of their lives forever. Young salamander that's fantastical but scientifically. What does that even mean. So in the animal kingdom it's called nakatani for exiles. It means that even when they're grown up which in this case growing up for them means they can mate. They keep some of their juvenile features. Oh so do they keep the crown of gills. That lewis was talking about earlier. Yeah they do and they also keep the fin on their back that they had when they were tadpoles. And because of this axles. Don't leave the water. Like other salamanders eventually do got it. Okay so do we know why they do that. Well scientists think it could have something to do with the water where axles live like being a better habitat. Maybe it had plenty of food or clean water so they lost this metamorphosis step although the scientists can still trigger it in the lab if they use hormones and emily axles do something even cooler than being the poster child for the fountain of youth. If you cooked any part of their body it regrows again. We like a whole armor there. What about their head okay. They can't re grow their whole head but they can regrow essentially everything else and apparently it's not that big of a deal to regrow limbs because get this emily as babies axles will just snack on each
What Is the Legal Rationale for Biden's COVID-19 Vaccine Mandate
"Gap best vaccine mandate has taken effect. You listeners have to get vaccinated or else you have to listen to me. Spin out stephen. Breyer fantasia every day. That's gonna be. The new mandate from the vest after shunning mandates. For months president biden has announced a broad mandate. So he's requiring federal employees and contractors to get vaccinated. He's also requiring healthcare workers at federally funded institutions get vaccinated and he has had osha. The occupational safety and health administration come up with a rule that will require companies that have more than one hundred workers to demand vaccination or weekly testing in order to protect the workplace health and safety of other employees. there he also doubled fines on people who violate math mandates on things like airplanes so emily. It's pretty clear that this mandate on federal workers and those on federally funded health clinics legal straight up. No problem i mean people may not like it seems like biden can do it. What is the legal rationale for the mandate on large employers. The legal rationale for the mandate is that the federal government through osha through. It's occupational health and safety powers sets tons of rules for workplaces. There are plenty of other vaccine. Mandates out there in the united states in schools and at work and lots of other conditions that the government sets for employers and employees to follow and so the biden administration wants to see this as kind of routine use of its powers in that domain and there is some precedent for this but this is also in its scope and its sweep and introducing a new vaccine pretty unprecedented and so i expect legal challenges to binds vaccine conditions. Once this rule is finalized.
Milley Defends Calls to Chinese as Effort to Avoid Conflict
"The nation's top military officer is defending phone calls to his Chinese counterpart during the trump administration's final days in upcoming book by The Washington Post Bob Woodward and Robert Costa describes joint chiefs chairman mark Emily as worried about what trump might do before leaving office and telling China's top officer he would warn Beijing in case of a U. S. attack Millie spokesman says the general was acting within his duties as the president's top uniformed adviser trump says Millie should be tried for treason if the reports true at the White House president Biden was asked if the joint chiefs chair did the right thing hi generally sadr mag ani Washington
Listening To Your Body and Giving it The Rest While Marathon Training
"I'm training for my first marathon coming up this fall in chicago. I'm excited about the big day. But every week that goes by i can feel my body. Need the rest what you do when the miles and the time add up you pull back and if so how do you learn how to give your body the rest. It needs to finally make it to the start line. Listening to your body is really really important with that said all marathon training programs are i would say ninety nine point. Nine percent of them are designed with this in mind right they are built to help you accumulate mileage to get you to a place where you feel comfortable putting in the miles that are necessary to show up on race day and do good with that said it's important that you speak to a coach or a physical therapist or a trainer who can help you better understand how to take care of your body in this time especially as a new marathon array again. This is something you've never done before. It is a massive accomplishment so recovery becomes more in tyrol than ever. And this isn't just like finding yourself a pair of normal boots or using a hyper is right. This is recovery in your nutrition. This is recovery in your stress levels. This is the people that you're surrounding yourself with so be really smart and intentional about how you continue on your journey knowing that there is going to be a certain amount of opportunity costs. And there's definitely going to be a certain amount of exhaustion but if you handle it right and you talk to the right people. This is going to all pay
What We Know About Breakthrough Infections and Long COVID
"Everybody emily kwong here with npr. Science correspondent rob stein. Hey rob hey there emily. Hey so today. We're checking in on covert long haulers. These are folks with cova symptoms that last weeks or months or folks who are getting better but suddenly new symptoms emerge and rob. Nowadays doctors are starting to describe this condition as long cove. it right. that's right that's right. it's not a really well defined well understood condition but they can show and people with even mild symptoms. And i wanted to take a look into whether it's also a word for people who get covert after they get vaccinated the so called breakthrough infections. Yeah it's a good question. So people getting coded. Despite the vaccine is pretty rare. The symptoms are usually mild. But we're learning that sometimes even the mild cases can make you feel pretty bad for a few days right. Yeah so you know. Mild cases can make you feel pretty crummy. There's a big variation in what's considered a mild case. And you know one hundred seventy eight million people are now fully vaccinated in the us. As of september twelfth the centers for disease control prevention says more than fourteen thousand fully vaccinate. People have been hospitalized or died from breakthrough infections. But the agency. Doesn't keep a running tally of a symptomatic or mild breakthroughs nationally which have been increasing during the delta surge. But you know it's really important to emphasize that far fewer of these cases resulted hospitalizations or deaths. The vaccines are highly effective at doing the most important thing keeping people out of the hospital and developing lethal symptoms nonetheless researchers are concerned that even mild cases including cases that come after vaccination may result in lingering symptoms right. Lingering symptoms aka long
Militia Leader To Be Sentenced in Minnesota Mosque Bombing
"The leader convicted in two thousand seventeen bombing at a mosque in Minnesota faces sentencing today the leader of an Illinois anti government militia group who thirty say was the mastermind behind the two thousand seventeen bombing of a mosque in Bloomington Minnesota Emily clear hair he was previously known as Michael Hary and recently said she is transgender faces a mandatory minimum of thirty years in prison for the attack on the dar al Farooq Islamic center several worshippers were gathered at the center to pray when a pipe bomb was thrown through the window open imam's office co defendants said that Harry let the group and came up with the plan to attack the mosque motivated by a hatred for Muslims cited in the manifesto known as the White Rabbit handbook Kerry's attorney Shannon Elkins is asking U. S. district judge Donovan Frank for no more than the minimum thirty year sentence and says the gender dysphoria and misinformation fueled Aries inner conflict that led to the bombing prosecutors are seeking a life sentence well no one was physically hurt in the attack prosecutors say the bomb was an act of terror I'm Jennifer king
Sex Researcher Justin Lehmiller: Americans Got Kinkier During the Pandemic
"This pandemic has been an interesting. I'm going to be a sex researcher. And i've been busier than ever and conducting the most research and actually i think published the most of my entire career over the last year and a half really in the beginning. My career totally changed. Because i had all of these speaking gigs lined up. I was gonna be traveling. The world i think it was going to be in seven different countries last summer in so oldest found myself with a lot of time on my hands and i was talking to some by colleagues at the kinsey institute. And we were seeing all these media headlines about you know what was going to be happening to a sex. Lots of big bold predictions and so we thought is is any of that actually gonna shake out so we wanted to actually collect the data to test whether what we were seeing in the media was actually coming to wish you know that kind of gave us the inspiration and all had more time on her hands and needed something to focus on so he turned to sexy search. And i remember yes justin's doing this. What did we learn about this with the hot vac summer. What's up now. So that's a great question you know last year. There were lots of predictions about. Oh well when this pandemic cabins and people are locked down. They're going to have more sex masturbate more than ever. Because everyone's just going to be bored horny and it turned out last year. That didn't really turn out to be the case you know there. There's no baby boom. There's no evidence that you know people really having a lot of sex. So that's what we found last year in the research. We did at the kinsey institute. Although we did find that people were being more sexually Mental about one in five people last year said they tried something new in the bedroom so we recently conducted a new. Study to see what things look like this summer because everyone was talking about the hot back summer. So the kinsey institute partnered with love honey to do this survey of what what is happening right now in our sex lives and relationships and one of the really interesting things we found was that there was an even greater trend toward sexual experimentation so americans have become kinky are we actually found that a majority of americans fifty one fifty two percent so they tried something new in bed since the pandemic began and also that a majority of americans said that their sexual interests had shifted in some way. And if those who reported a shift three quarters of them said that they became kinky so you know instead of the hardback summer. We're thinking of this as the hut kinks
US Bound Flights Carrying Afghans Temporarily Halted Due to Measles Cases
"White house says flights carrying afghan refugees to the us have been halted after discovery of four cases of measles among people who recently arrived in the us. This as npr's michele keleman reports nineteen more us citizens from the airport in kabul in the state department says to others managed to get out overland national security council spokesperson. Emily horne says the. Us is doing intensive work to give americans clear and safe options to leave afghanistan. The state department says forty. Four americans were offered seats on the latest plane. But not all decided to go. The taliban are still not allowing charter. Flights from northern afghanistan and democratic senator richard blumenthal once the state department to do more about that time precious time. The situation of these individuals is desperate urgen. He's been working with veteran groups and activists to help several at risk afghans and some american citizens get
Shea Dunifon on Outreach to the Younger Generation
"Tell us about yourself chez. Where do you work. What's your role. Semi formal title is education coordinator. And i worked for pinellas county utilities out of the south cross by advanced water reclamation facility in st petersburg florida's. Let's a really really really long name. And i do a little bit of everything to be honest when i started here mostly k. Through twelve so kindergarten twelfth grade education. But i also work a lot. What the local technical schools colleges universities basically anyone that has a title water. Which is everybody. That's absolutely right so for our listeners. Could you give us a little more sense of the municipality like how many treatment plans the capacity of the one that you sit out those types of things and whereas pinellas county in florida. So we'll start with where county is. We are just outside of tampa. So we're like little peninsula on the peninsula's i call it so west. Coast of florida kind of west central. If you're looking at a map of florida right on the very coast golfing mexico and pinellas county. Utilities owns and operates. Three facilities. One is drinking water facility. That's up on our north county. And then also in the north county we have our done facility which is wastewater and water reclamation and then down in the south county we have facility. That is it. It is the south cross by events. Water reclamation facility so between done and south across south crossed is a thirty three. Mgd plant so it is also the largest in the entire county not just owned and operated by the county but it is the largest is so that's one thing that makes us really cool. We have a lot of really unique features here facility for instance we have a On so we actually make fertilizer which is something that when we do towards people think is really interesting because they actually get to see kind of what happened to their number two which most people don't think about right but we also have things like our tetra denied filters so that's what makes us advance so we get to point out those kinds of things we also have primary tanks. We have two parallel trains. Emily i know i'm getting into the technical stuff but those are really cool things to point out even to the public and to the engineering community.
Sex Therapist, Dr Emily Morse, on What to Do With Mismatched Sex Drives
"Have a higher libido than my partner and for me it's really hurtful to ask her sex try to initiate and to to be told no for whatever reason i'm tired or what have you and that said i mean the sexes. Great like it's really incredible. And i think part of it is is is a little bit older than i am. And i'm just i'm kind of in my sexual private thirty two and i understand like late. Twenties to mid late. Thirties is like that peak for women And he's forty one and he's also on depression medications that's that's an aspect of it so Yeah lots of factors but at a high level you know the difference in libido is make one yeah that's a really that is a big one and it's they often say yeah. You're you're late. Twenties early thirties. Thirties is when you have a high sex drive. It varies to person the but you know you're so this is where you are. And his libido is matching is that's that's what's going on right now and you have been with him for six months six months. Yeah we were friends for a couple years and We're actually long distance so when you do see each other because usually a lot of times long distances like we are together for a weekend or week and we have the whole time. You know i know. Have you talked to him about it. Definitely i mean. The communication is so good In the beginning of the relationship he was like ideally like he really was interested in starting to talk about sex pretty quickly great. Initially i was a little bit resistant. Because i was like. I really want like develop emotional piece of relationship before we go there but yeah i mean he asked like how often would you wanna hunchback's i told them like every day when we're together and he was like really. That's not what i you know known before at the time. He seemed like on board for that in like. But but then you know when we've been together it's like i'm tina just about every day and he's maybe like four times a week or so. There's been of discrepancy there.
Texas' Abortion Ban Marks a New Legal Strategy for Abortion Restrictions
"Emily i wanna read you from the wall street journal op-ed today which i thought was interesting this supporter of abortion restrictions. In fact getting rid of roe v wade who write this. Texas republicans have handed democrats political grenade to hurt to the antiabortion causes the editorial board pro-life groups has spent nearly fifty years arguing. That abortion is a political question to be settled in the states by public debate. It now texas. They want us the courts by civilization to limit abortion. I do think this law is so frankly odious that more republicans and those who oppose abortion rights should have to own it and i wonder if folks who work in the trenches of the political opinion on this. Feel the same way absolutely chris. Let's start with baxter. The overwhelming majority of americans are on the side of those who want to see and keep rovers wade as the law of the land. That is what keeps women saved. What could people save. Who needed care. This texas law goes too far. And what i would say to your listeners. Your your watchers is. Do you know who your state senator is. Do you know who your state representative is. Do you know who your governor is. And where they stand on this because republican governors. Legislators across the country are looking at this not as a grenade but as a playbook. They're thinking what can we do here in our state to rollback these important rights that affect so many families at emily's list. We're working to hold them to account and i believe we believe that every single member of legislature needs to be asked. Where do you stand on this. It should be asked now. They should be asked to get next year and they will be asked by voters when voters come out just as they did after brett. Cavanaugh was confronted court in two thousand eighteen. They will come out and be held to account at the
Interview With Matt Johnson, Air Ambulance Pilot
"Hello and welcome back between two rings. I am your host to emily norman and today we have matt johnston with us. He is an air medical helicopter pilot. A dp also check airman at his company matt. Thanks so much for taking the time to chat with us. Thanks for having me of course so we start off each episode by explaining where we're at. I thought appropriate to show off my one and only helicopter experienced such as behind me. It was actually off years ago and the other fixed wing pilot when my co workers got to go up and we were like little kids on christmas. It was amazing. But tell us a little bit about where you're at a really nice shot got lucky with that. I was flying back tonight and One of our flight physicians Was riding up front with me. We don especially flight so with drop the other crew members officers just the document and So full credits. His awesome picture doctor and into But yeah he's not that picture. That's kind of become a certainly one of my favorites. Nice view of the queen city see cincinnati often view definitely a night. Flying always gives some epic views. Sled sokolow bit about being an airman co pilot. You get that flight requests. What's next. I would say that. We the majority of our time on making decisions for fights. It's january in our high ninety percentile weather related. Sometimes it's crew related. It could be other logistical issues and could be duty time or something like that but generally speaking this weather so being said we are if we're like green status than we have a pretty good idea what the weather's going to do for the day we can just go and respond once. We're call that if we're yellow like a day like today as you probably your rank worn down here. Beautiful ohio So we're really for shit. We have a phenomenal operational. Control centers are helping. That's based in shreveport louisiana. So everything that i'm looking at. There's another human being trained many of them you know aviators or aviation background meteorology backgrounds. They're taking a look at exactly what i'm looking at. And they're making sure that i've evaluated all potential hazards and risks
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"Each other. Those are. there's never get vol. Thank you so much for joining me on the show and listeners. I hope that you'll check out. Emily willing hams of books. Of course we do. The one we talked about today is called fallacy life lessons from the animal penis We also just plugged the informed parent a science based resource for your child's first few years and I four years. Sorry i four years and then the the new one coming out in december and possibly we'll be able to get her back on to talk about at the taylor brain for ketamine takito companionship. A users guide to feeling better and thinking smarter. Yeah that'd be a that'd be cool conversation to have Few months so Yeah but but thanks so much for joining me for having me. Ver- i'm being patient dotted got a time to make. Oh i mean it's all of my guests are such busy people. it's it's People that are into science and scientists are always just such hard working educated people that have such tight crazy schedules all the time. So nothing unusual there believe me but but yeah i'm i'm happy that did finally workout. So so yeah. You're wonderful guest and thank you listeners. For being such wonderful curious people will talk with you more next week..
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"But when i was very young i just you know used my bottom to bella downstairs until i learned to be able to climb the steps though i think mobility equipment is probably one of the biggest lines. You know the the ease with which i've been able to get around so different we when we bought our house. It was immediately this estimate ranch. I mean i think you know. I'm a little older than you are ellen and someone actually offered to donate a motorized wheelchair to my family when in the nineteen sixties and. They didn't take it. And you're able to walk. And i never was really able to independently walk and as much as my parents were very strong. Advocates i really feel that with this part of them. That never saw me as walking without crutches and braces but really did see the wheelchair. Something that would make me physically weaker and i talked to my parents later on and other parents of exactly as you're talking about emily explaining you know an and you ellen explaining why the technology is important and i think the way you described it allen of not feeling comfortable going out and doing things with kids on the playground and other activities is really a very telling point you were feeling like you had to isolate yourself in order not to fatigue yourself or in danger yourself. Well we'll just feeling completely left out as the other kids. Were running around. And i couldn't keep up. So that was the other reason for getting the gig in the main office and i think that's very important point the issue of helping to make sure that kids can participate in activities in a comparable way as much as possible and technology is certainly and mobility. Technology is certainly really important. Emily you were mentioning before that you wrote this piece in the paper around disability awareness week. I'm that obviously was a success and change the way adelphi was running its activities. What drew you into wanting to get more involved in this whole area not just as an activist but focusing on.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Let's talk about the love languages. Maybe you've heard of this concept. The five lovling. Just comes from dr gary chapman. He's american author. He's a pastor radio talk show host and he described five ways romantic partners express and receive love so the basic idea is that everyone gives and receives love differently but when we figure our language and our partners will better be able to communicate our love and strengthen our relationships and the cool thing is that gary chapman was a pastor so he was like seeing couples for like twenty five years. And that's how we pinpointed these and they make a lot of sense and in fact i've often recommended. Two couples figure your partners lovling which is like an easy way to jump. Start a more loving relationship. It's helped a lot of couples get through resentments and not going to solve all your problems. But it's really eye-opening and ever since i i learned about the love languages probably almost a decade ago. I think about it all the time. I think about it with people my life. It's not just lovers. I think about my own languages. I think about my employees. So it's really helpful so i just wanted to break it down for you so you understand it. So there's five ways of experiencing love and we want all of these. Don't get me wrong but we all tend to have one to two primary love languages for example one of them's gifts and sure i love getting a gift. But that's not my primary love language. And i just wanted to. You remember that we can express all the love languages and they're all important but what we're talking about here is finding out your primary love language. So what are the five languages. It's acts of service gift-giving physical touch quality time and words of affirmation
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Spice it backup. We've been together for six years married for five. Please help our jeremy. yes. I agree with you that decision. That should be made lightly. Perhaps one of the reasons why you don't want to have another kid is because you feel like you lost your wife. When you went to child you felt somewhat demoted. You're not her top priority and this is coming right. This happened after a baby. And you know the hormones change and for many many women their sex drive's change. And so i think if you have an honest conversation with your wife and you say i've been having some concerns lately about it. I just really miss our connection. And i miss our sex life and i miss having you and it's hard for me to feel that we are so separate now we haven't been able to repair. Go get to a place. Where i feel connected. I mean those are your real emotions. No one can argue with those and maybe after heartfelt conversations you'll start to understand both sides and maybe you feel like you want to have another baby or maybe it'll bring up other things in your relationship that you need to talk about because we all have things that we need to talk about in relationships and we often don't do them so healthy conversations from honesty and from the heart okay. Jeremy thanks for your question. Tim thirty five in cleveland. Hey dr emily. I'm a thirty five year old male. That sexually active. I've had trouble having orgasms during sex when i'm the partner that's doing the movement. I have a much easier time getting to the top of the mountain when my partner is moving on me. What things can. I do to fix this. So it's possible for me to orgasm any position while i'm the one doing the work. Okay this is interesting tim. So what you're saying is if you're just lying on the bottom. Let's say you're in missionary and you're partners on top of you moving back and forth and doing all the work and you're just lying there you can orgasm no problem when you're in charge and moving you can't and so what comes to my mind is. Is there something going on in your head. Are you worried that you're not gonna please a partner. Does it feel like you've too much control at that moment. And do you get into your head. 'cause a lot of times we can't orgasm a lot of psychological. So there's nothing wrong with you or its pattern conditioning. Maybe you always came by doing nothing. And so it's really prepped. Of calling it out. If you're with a partner he could say talk about it to say. Hey i realized we start practicing like moving around more. I just feel like. I really love watching you the way you move on top of me but i'd also like to be able to come when i'm moving around as well. I just think this is the way that you have been conditioned and talking to a part about. Maybe you need some more foreplay ahead of time. Maybe she'll give you blow job or hand job and get you more engaged in a different way sexually. So i think that this is not an absolute life is not going to end with you not being able to move during intercourse. But i think it's a matter of rewiring and practicing some mindfulness exercises. So when you are in your head you can just go back to your breath and the moment and what's happening grounding yourself in your senses what am i seeing. What am i smelling. What am i taste and that might really help you. Be centered and focused on the moment. If your head's going to this is gonna work. I'm not gonna come to realize it. So much of this is conditioning. It didn't happen to us a few times now. We think we can only orgasm a certain way. But none of that is true.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Out you said you wish you were surprised that the separation was out of nowhere. But i think it's not out of nowhere especially if she had said things to you a few months earlier or your earlier those are all signs so i know that if you go to therapy you're going to start to learn more about yourself and the way you process information. Maybe there was something in the relationship. That wasn't working for you but you didn't really ally yourself time to to really sink into it and continue to talk to your wife. And if she's when he's about therapy she might appreciate to hear the kind of work. You're doing and the growth factors. I don't think that people should get back together if nothing's changed there's a reason why she left. I'm not saying it's all your fault. It's definitely it's two of you in the relationship. It's a fifty fifty split. There is still some communication you can learn together so i don't know if you guys are still good at their together. That can be great once a month. Still go together while you do your own practice. So you're doing all the right things be prepared to just learn a lot more about yourself and start doing the work. That's why we're all here. God do the work. This is from nate thirty five in the uk. Hey dr emily. I recently developed a p fetish or golden showers. They call it and it seems to be getting stronger. The thought of watching a woman peer being done by women strongly stimulate me. I've never experienced this before. And it's something i'd like to try is a p fetish or golden shower a common type of finish and is normal. Why people want experience this. What are the causes of desiring fetish. Such as this. How would i approach the subject with my girlfriend. I'm worried they might not be into it. And it's something i wanted to try. Many thanks for your time and look forward to your response. It's a very common fantasy and essentially someone's being on someone else. They're watching it drinking it. It is common. you know. there's a lot of reasons why people might like golden showers. Why they become part of their eroticism. Sometimes it could be a humiliation thing. You know pe- associated with being dirty and the private and so maybe that's part of the on. There's also a sensory aspect to it. It's warm you know. Part of the person it's intimacy. It's still a little bit taboo. Some people just like the smell some people had things picked up things in their formative years at sort of shaped. They're really strong fantasies or fetishes and so really only you could answer it if you did some deep diving. When was the first time you had this fantasy. Did you see it somewhere. Did you hear about it with something happening. In the moment do an early member about p. about someone peeing and you were watching they heat on you. It could have been like a sibling. Our cousin but something happens in that moment. Where maybe you were linked up eroticism with that situation when you were watching it or experiencing it so this is really for you to do some investigative work on your own psyche. However there's nothing to worry about going back to your partner though. I do think that since sex isn't so comfortable for every talk about most people aren't aware of their fences or what turns them on to start with. I've got a golden showers fetish. Could freak people out so not my circle of friends but mixture that you're with a parter that you trust and that you already started to have a dialogue around your turn on your fantasies. What are the most memorable time. She had sex with you. And what are the most memorable times. You've had sex with her. You guys could check our yes. No maybe list yes. I will mention that on every single show because so many of.
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Is there something. I can do to work it out and make it stronger. So we'll get as tired during oral all right so a lot of us get uncomfortable during sex. Give weird neck cramps or arm cramps. You're probably tensing up your your shoulders. You're holding tension in your neck in a position where you're so into the moment i hope of ravishing your girl that you don't realize that you're not actually breathing. You're not in a comfortable position. So i would get some pillows. I would get cushions and try to find a different position and make sure that your head is supported so you can actually give oral sex and feel good about it. You could also have her sit on your face and you have a pillow under your neck and you're just sitting there doing the work you could even when you're home right now. Just if you're not with your you could think about it. Like put yourself into that position that hurts and then think what do i need in this moment to feel more comfortable and you could try other positions she could be standing up. You could be on your knees. She could be lying on the bed. And you're like leaning over her charted think about ways that you can be comfortable and still have easy access k. Thanks tom. This is from e from instagram. Twenty she's a female. I love you and your podcast emily. I'm commit to a problem. I believe i've had for a long time. I'm gonna attractive twenty year old female and i watch extreme pornography lesbian prolapse gay men visiting lesbian history. And it disgusts me. Every time i watch and finish. I hate myself. I think this is not normal. I can't have an orgasm ever without watching porn. I hate that. I can never be satisfied completely sacks i enjoy sex but because i've been desensitized i can't come. I've tried to stop. But i keep watching it because i can't orgasm without either watching something far out or thinking about it. I'm asking if you have advice how to stop. I can reach the big with the guy right. This is a common thing that's happening now with. A lot of us are escalating. The kind of porn watching gets to an extreme place and then we realized i can't orgasm without it. So what do we do. Let's talk about the fact that you're twenty years old and you're already writing in for some help on this which is great and you are not doomed in doesn't mean this is the only way you're going to be able to get off but sometimes we need a little discipline and we have to challenge ourselves to break habits. That aren't working for us so we can think about here. I is when you're masturbating. What's going on right before a stressed you happy. Do you have an extra minute or using it to relieve tension or stress. Because i'm not gonna pathology is the fact that you masturbate or watch porn. It's important for you to think like what are you trying to avoid though. 'cause sometimes watching porn isn't about porn. It's about taking your attention away from something or maybe distracting yourself for your coming our self medicating and you could even do practice of. I'm watching porn instead of feeling blank and fill that in and get present to what's happening in the moment when you reach for this extreme porn and then like any other or trying to change you to substitute it with another behavior that is similar effect. Is there something else that kind of can get you that same feeling like working out. Cardio what helps you feel alive and delated besides orgasm you can also join a community. There's communities of people who want to quit watching porn and you can find them at like sub rights online for people who've kind of can talk about all the things that they've done and then i'm not saying you don't have to masturbate but what you're saying is you tried and you're watching and then it got worse. You tried not to be an orgasm. So i want you to also think about besides porn. What really turns you on. I mean. I always practiced doing some mindful masturbation where you're really sitting with yourself. You can go through the mental library of images and partners. You could notice things in your environment that turned you on an even notice in your body. That's masturbation without the goal of orgasm though it might happen in the goal is exploration exploring your body looking for what turns you on discovering other erogenous zones. That's what it's all about okay. Life is not over. Just take a few of these steps and see what you can do to get a handle on it and learn more about yourself. And then i promise you'll be able to move on and have awesome sex. This is from david. Thirty five in nebraska. Hey dr emily thirty five. I've been married for four years a little over a year ago. My wife told me that she was beginning to feel distant. I've been traveling for work. And she was lonely then she started to get used to the loneliness and felt that maybe she wanted to be alone. We tried couples therapy and that was somewhat helpful helpful for me because it was the push i needed to ask for recommendations from my own therapist. Everything seems to be going well. But then three months ago my wife asked for separation out of nowhere. She said she felt that. Maybe we had too many differences and that she just didn't feel connected. It was painfully apparent during sex. Where i also sometimes continue struggle with anxiety. I've since moved into my own place but we're currently in limbo. She says she loves me but doesn't know what she wants. We're not yet seeking a divorce. But i realized how few couples come back from a separation. I don't know what to do while i wait for her to figure out. What else can i be doing all right. Well i love. You are in therapy and i think the most important thing that you can do right now is work on yourself. If you found a therapist you like go every week. Like it's your job because it is take time to process before. What do i want to get out of today's session. When you leave right down notes about what you from the session and you could think about during the week. We invest a lot in therapy and sure we could just show up for fifty minutes or we could really use it like it's a class or something it's a course or taking in your earnings certificate and you are the subject matter but i think as we just kind of the go therapy i gotta go in. Go out this glad over with. But if you're looking at your therapy like that you need to find a new therapist or you need to clear space in your calendar so you can really look at it like another project because you're not going to say you could go buyer flowers and go sweeper offer feet again and do all these things. She's gotta figure her stuff out..
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Is for michael. Hey dr emily. I thanks particularly question. I've been so confused. I didn't even know. If i should send this my wife. And i've been married for over. Twenty four years recently was performing oral on her and in the middle of the act. She said i don't know why you like doing that. I don't like it. I was floored it was like a gut punch after twenty four years. My wife was a virgin when we got together. One of the first things we did was. I had experience with it over the years. She's had multiple orgasms during the act as well as other methods. I can't get out of my head now. I love doing oral as if it's a part of me that thought of doing it to someone who doesn't like the act does nothing for me. I feel like i'm mourning. The loss of a loved one before she made the statement. The previous i was really into the oral. And i kissed her after i did it. And that's what she said. Gross drought. I apologize and said i wouldn't kiss her again after but now i believe she's always thought it was gross despite the orgasms or the kiss i never be able to give her oral again. I'm just uncomfortable and won't be the same. Please help thank you. Okay michael. Listen you've been with your wife for twenty four years so long time and so. I think this isn't something that you have to figure out on your own. You could calmly talk to her outside the bedroom when you guys are in a good vibe you can you know i always talk about timing turf tone. Have the conversation from curious and open place. Then you could say you know. I heard what you said the other night about not liking oral dot warning oral. And i'd love to know more about that. Can you just let me know when that started. Or is there something i could do to make it better or just you could just say. Tell me more about that. And maybe you'll find out. Well she'd never really liked it or maybe she's having pain now so it hurts and maybe she's ashamed that she has pain which a lot of women feel like they should have pain or they just grin and bear it. I don't know what's find out. We've no idea but you are going right to this. Oh my god. It's not going to happen again. Dooms me my life is over no like anything. If your wife came down one day and said let's say every single friday night you have chicken. And she came downstairs and said i hate chicken. I'm never eating chicken again and we are done and you're like bay but we have chicken every night for twenty years when you say why was it chicken do we just don't know how to handle it. It's okay to have conversations about sex with people you're having sex with people you're naked invulnerable have children with our lives with if you're not gonna talk to them about it how you ever gonna know if it can improve where you get your needs met. I'm just encouraging wall to start a new practice talking about sex in a healthy way. Okay this is from a female on instagram. Is it normal to cry during or after sex especially during times of intense stress in life. Yes it's so normal to cry crying. After sex zuma's post coiled this fauria that includes tearfulness sadness and irritability after consensual sex. Even if it was perfectly satisfying and there's many reasons why we cry during sex and this is for all genders men. Cry women cry after sex. It's intense to be with someone we're naked. Were vulnerable in. We've been intense physical pleasure. It can definitely overwhelm our bodies so it would make sense that you might cry. There's also a biological response. Could be hormonal changes. That happened during sex which can lead to intense emotions and kring is also really healthy. It can reduce tension and intensify physical arousal. And maybe if you have been in a dry spell for a while this has happened to me and you suddenly let go of all that pent up energy. That could also bring you to tears. Now listen you might cried tears because you have pain with sex and if you've painting sex that's a whole nother conversation and we talk about that a lot on the show. My advice for you is just a right out that tears. And it's okay to cry and i'm going to sue yet with a partner who fully embraces it because i know when i've cried after sex my partners find it pretty awesome free and if they are explaining. Oh no it's good. I'm just feeling so much. Tears are healing cry this week. It's good for you. This is from owen thirty five in the united kingdom. Hi dr emily. I'm a married man. And i have a daughter. I'm a family man. But i'm forever questioning my sexuality. I'm turned on by men. And i only looked at gay porn and i get really turned on other porn. Doesn't do it for me. I can have sex with women. It's just not the same. I love my wife more than anything. I don't think i could be romantically involved with a man. It's never happened. So i'm unsure i've always said i'm bisexual leaning towards men but i'm forever asking myself. Am i gay. And in denial the messed up part is i genuinely love. My wife and i'm happy. I'd never cheat on her. Just beating myself up. Have i lied to myself for so long that i believe i'm not gay. Could i be sexually gay and romantically straight and to finish if i was gay. My fear is in being gay. It would be the upset. I would 'cause my wife and family the pain for her please help. Here's the thing owen. Thank you for your heartfelt vulnerable. Really descriptive message. I feel like i know where you're at. There's a few things going on here. Perhaps you were raised in a really religious home growing up or environment and people who were gay. Were not accepted. It wasn't okay. People around you maybe weren't out is gay and perhaps at a really young age before you even could be aware of it. You got the message. It wasn't okay to be gay. And so you repressed feelings that you had towards men found a wonderful woman that you love deeply and you got married when we're gay bisexual pan sexual however you wanna call it when we've attractions to people other than our spouse or other than the gender that we thought we'd be attracted to it really can be troubling. It doesn't just go away. You're getting older. You're thirty five now and you can't get out of your head. You ever heard the saying whatever. We resist persists phil. This is a great example of that. Unfortunately things don't just disappear after we think about them for too long they actually get more and more intense because we're pushing him down or pushing him down and they just get bigger and bigger and expand so. I recommend you see a sex therapist because therapy would create way for you to process this all so you don't have to do it on your own. Now let's say it wasn't that you grew up in an environment like that or it hasn't been part of your development as a human and maybe you're bisexual and you truly have sex with your wife and you still crave men and i'm working towards a world where we can all express our desires to our partners. Our fantasies are fetishes. The things that were into and we have a better dialogue to process it and realized that it doesn't have to mean the end of our marriage it doesn't have to mean infidelity. You don't love me anymore. I believe in the possibility of being attracted to many different kinds of people. And maybe sometimes at once and so there is a chance once you go to therapy you processes that perhaps your wife you get some tools together and you talk to your wife. And maybe she'll be okay with strict boundaries and understanding. It and i know you're probably thinking your wife's can be like hell. No she's gonna think. I'm getting kicked me out of the house and that's the other thing i wanna say so many of us go to this extreme place that partner would never do it and you're right but it's likely because they don't have a lot of information maybe you haven't slowed down to express to them why you have a certain fantasy y you wanna try something. 'cause it's also kafer for owen to say to his wife when he's ready. It's part of my eroticism that i developed at a young age. Whatever you figure out your and your journey owen and it's part of what turns me on sexually you still turn me on and it's something that i want to explore and i feel like i love you. You're my wife. I wanna be with you forever. But i'm unsettled in a way. And i don't feel like i'm truly living my sexual truth and let take a few conversations. Maybe she says hell no but then you're further along to dealing with issue. That's been troubling you for years. Okay owen let me know how it goes. I know this isn't easy. I just think the world is changing and we're understanding and seeing more examples of people in alternative relationships that they get to decide what works for them not based on any government law or societal norms. This is from paul. Hey after emily. I have a quick question for you..
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"Scene one apple take one seen run apple. take two. I have emily lawrence today and she has an interesting film. That e she's raising funds for a crowd through crowdfunding and it's lithuania garden and emily. How are you angry at. How are you doing great doing great nice to talk to you You know more than anything. The fact that. I think you have really most of the problem solved. Because i think you're approaching the film the right way. And you're concentrating on your story and that's so important these days So how did you come up with the story. For lewis syndergaard. I remember how i came up with. The idea came to me a over a year ago and it took me forever to finally write it down. I just know that at some point it came to me and it just sort of stuck with me until i just. I had to sit down and i had to write it and it wasn't until after i read. It found that i really realized how important was in what it really meant me so it was interesting to discover that in the process of creating it. And you're going to be in the film yourself once you start shooting and directing it That's not easy as it sounds now acting correcting it. I have a friend of friend. Leslie is directing but i am writing producing and I am the lead actress in the film. Cool cool so i do..
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"She fears aloom welcome to the show. . Thank you so much for having me. . Yes. . Of course. . I'm excited that you're here because I have been on this sort of obsessive track lately around I mean for for many years I've been doing this. . You've been do in doing this for longer than I. . Have I think but I've been doing about fifteen years and it was mostly you know educating talking to adults who want to realize is that now I have a lot of young people, , my life three nieces who are teens and friends, , kids age and. . In the last five ten years. . Wow there. . There's no sex education. . I realize how similar the questions that people are asking me that the young people are asking me adolescents about sex are very similar to what adults are asking, , and also a lot of people calling in listening this show because now they have teenagers and they want to know what do we do? How ? do we talked about Saxon problem because? ? If they parents never learned how do we actually talk to our kids about sex I know you've made this your life's work. . and. . So Sheffield tell me a little about yourself like what's your? ? What's your background? ? How'd you get into sex education? ? <hes> we you know I always had to have really positive relationships in my life and that made all the difference for me in a really quality education. . and. . So I was a social worker when I first got out of school and was working with. . Kids in treatment centers as an alternative to incarceration who had a lot you know who are wrestling with a ton of issues <hes> at all really revolves around relationships or you know the type of relationships they had had as they were growing up and after several years of that realized, , they really needed to get into more preventative work versus so much inventive work so that I could sustain my own life and start a family and do all those things and because relationships in education had always been such a strong force in my life <hes> I chose that path and started I. . Guess It's been. . Twenty five years now <hes> and that sort of what took me to this place? ? Yeah, , I got it. . So tell me how do we approach talking to teens about sex when a lot of parents are feeling that they don't have the information themselves that it's still taboo and shameful I mean. . There are a lot of really great resources out there I think part of it is there's just so much information and so much about sexuality that you really have to know where to find them <hes> and I think that a sex positive approaches <hes> we all strive for like we all want to raise our. . Kids to be good people of positive enriching relationships yet romantic as well as sexual ones <hes>, and , so I think it really is twofold I. . The information is out there find the medically accurate information from credible resources and showed that with your kid in developmentally appropriate ways and you're educating yourself along the way it is. . Okay. . no-one taught us this you know either so we are pioneers and you know if you can talk to your friends and say you know I, , don't really know how to do this. . How are you doing this and source each other to create a sense of solidarity typically as? ? Parents you know we we tend to lady to do this together. . Especially if our kids are younger, , we do that really well as they get older teenagers tend to want their independence and we tend to not have as many opportunities to connect with each other but we should find those places where you can connect with each other. . You know test the waters and see how open and comfortable those folks artist say like, , how do we do this? ? How can we communicate consistent messages that aligned with our own personal family values, , but also give kids the information they need to keep themselves in their friends safe. . And with your kids in those conversations, , you're really it's the value of these small victories are collecting moments your scaffolding this over time it's not one big giant talk. . It's little ones over longer periods of time and it's OK. . In fact, , it's a tremendous gift to be able to say to your kid to role model healthy vulnerability in an effort to connect in an authentic way. . To say I don't know, , but this is really important and sometimes the most important conversations are the hardest ones to have, , and so let's find out this information together and figure this out in a way that works with all the things we've been teaching all along. . Now for some parents, , kids suddenly start screaming I'm running from the room you know whatever it is I, , don't want do. . Don't learn. . They might happen to have equality health program. . It's one. . Nelson say but I I I know everything I need to know don't worry about it. . Learning learn it in school. . The thing is, , is that parents are absolutely the primary sexuality educator in life It can't be they're not the only one that they're certainly the primary one and your the consistent person that they are going to be connected to throughout their life, , and so those people who teach them you know education relationship, , education, , educational those things they're gonNA, , come and go. . They'll have an impact. . It's a huge blessing to have that resource. . But really you're the consistent will run and their ethical aspects to sex education that like those family values that are essential to it only you can teach those to your kid. . So parenting adults are really important in that role.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
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"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"Do they get jealous Joe? Yeah. Right. That's right. They get possessive and jealous. Like, I used to have this thing with men. They like, oh, yeah. I love that. You're so independent free. And then eventually they would say something to the effect of. Oh, I love it. You're out there. But I really want wanna put you in this box. Or let me put you in my pocket. There was a million different ways of heard that they want to own it and keep us on what they're so. To in you. They actually just want to own it down. I think wing you, and I both share this same light. Right. And I think that people are attracted to that light. But once they realized that the light is ours. And it's just there for them to stand in to not take we immediately become the asshole, right? Yeah. I guess so you're right. That is what happens. We'll look how self aware. You are this is happening. I mean, I think this is the next step, right? Get my path. Now, they're standing at the and then being really, honestly, I don't think that I was as honest with people earlier on because I even from a younger age. I never felt that monotony made sense to me like I was in college. And I was like I do it because there was really no other options on the table. But then I always felt like I struggled with it a woman too. So it was like it's a. Right. It is. And so, but now I think its just now I think this is great that you're shedding light on it. Like people don't have a lot of great role models of what it means to be bisexual and to be open in the world. And to be a man who's bisexual people just they just say, oh, you're just gay. It was funny. I was sent here Sheila Nevins podcast. I love Shiites to documentary filmmaker before I was before it had sex with Emily. And I just I was such a Sheila Nevins fan like she was like the Queen. She's still is like I just want. She'll never to meet with her. Somebody's in. Honey, you're not you're not bisexual day your gate. You seeing psychiatrists like she was hilarious. Right. She was just like, but I get a generational thing. It really is. So you're really in this place right now. I think that at the end of the day, we only believe what we see. And we've seen predominantly one story since the beginning of time, you know, and it is a white man and a white woman with hits. That's it. That's the only thing we've seen and now in the last like fifty years, maybe a little bit log in that. We're seeing all these other stories in the last ten twenty years now with social media. We're seeing all the stories, and we're starting to believe that more things are real is what I love possible alternative relationship. Hi, Anne, Marie. And it's for me. It's all about normalizing. The AB nor the quote on quote, abnormal. Right. So let's talk about sex fervent. About how we met being full circle to a panel know, how has it changed for you over like, even let's say since you got sober. I would imagine sexual. Like, a mock air your once I got sober, right?.
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"This is not good Scott. How long have you guys been together? Years eight years. Okay. I'm wondering you something else is going on. Maybe this is just really disrespectful, and you can let her know that it makes you feel not loved and that your quality time together is really important to you. Because and let her know like and ask her what she thinks. It's about like ask questions. She's like, I just do it. Don't tell me what to do. And you could say, well, I won't Kazushi might get defensive because she's very attached to it. And you could just let her know that it's really important for your intimacy as a couple like there's been all these studies now about couples like we're so dictated that you actually need to say we're going to have a night together without the phone. You know, we're going to spend three hours. So I think keep talking about it. But from a place of feeling not of criticizing her. Okay. Scott. We got to go. But thank you so much for calling. Let me know how it goes. I appreciate your call. Okay. Let's take an Email. All right. All right. So this is true. I like that name trust a fifty one in Tennessee. Hi, emily. I'm fifty one in married to the man of my dreams. I didn't even know sex could be fun until. Met him. He always makes sure that I'm satisfied, and he says that our sex life is great for him too. But I'd like to make it better for him. I know he wants me to dirty talk to him. But every time he says talk to me during sex my tongue swells. Fifteen sizes and completely frees up. How can I learn a dirty talk without feeling like an idiot. Okay. This trust of the great question because it's so common. So many of us have been in this situation where we're like what do I do? What do I say what's thirty five like door have to watch porn? And then mimic what they're saying. You know, you're not alone at all. So this is you don't have to like a porn star. You don't have to do anything different than just be you. So my biggest tips for like just beginner dirty talk is to just describe something. That's like happening in the moment. So like God, you feel so good like I just want to like, you know, grab your ass or feel so amazing when you're inside MIR you not fill in it or something that happened in the past. Like, I keep thinking about that time we had some, you know, hot sex. Is there something in the future? So that you want to happen. So those are very specific things with details for the past president feature that can kind of help describe when you describe it. And you definitely want to have your dirty tug voice. So it's a little bit lower a little bit slower. And it's great to do it practice. So I think it's fun in the shower like in your in the shower like start talking dirty like won't would you you've been with this guy. He's the man of your dreams. Right. And you're having such fun sex with them, and it's amazing sex. So think about the things that you guys have done that have felt amazing to you. Like, I'm sure there's been one thing where you're like. Wow. That time he went down on me when we were in the Bahamas for an hour and the night orgasm walk this think about those things the way he touches you. How does it feel when his hands are on your neck things like that? And then described them, and that's really what thirty talk is. You know, how he and let them know how good it makes you feel good. He makes you feel and you know. He's got a good dirty duck story like this to doesn't this. This reminds me of ten you have the guy. Oh, you sue a guy save this to you? He was like talk during my God. I have no idea what to do. Well. Yeah. I mean, it was because it's hard in the moment. Like, if you're inside me, and you're trying to ask me to do something in a performance of way. Like in your putting me on the spot. Like, I'm just gonna freeze up because I'm like, this isn't my idea. Right. You know, and it's it just because then I'm like, oh crap..
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"But that you know and consent that no one's touch her body under. It's all these things as they come up. I think it'd be great for you grace you to continue to study along the way with her and like talk to other parents see what they're doing. And just be informed will, but what they're offering in the schools, and you know, stay aware of it. Because now with like they all have their own phone than their online and they're seeing porn. And so I think more than ever it's important to make this be a part of a of a conversation. That's going from now until she leaves your home till she's eighteen. Parents have to make sure they're on top of it. Okay. Okay. This next one is from an forty two Texas shred tie. Emily. I'm having the best sex of my life who go hurt my high school sweetheart, and I both went through divorce, and we are now one year into reuniting our sex life is on fire. I wasn't having orgasms during my marriage, unless they were all my owner with a toy. That's another story. Now, I'm having orgasms every time and usually two or three amazing. Anyway, getting to the point my boyfriend loves when I go down him. In fact, maybe he's addicted I like to do it. But he seems to expect that I will do it every time we have sex, and we have sex a lot. I don't want to deny him, and it's not an awful task that I hate. But I just don't want to do it. Every time we have sex is that reasonable. How can I maybe do it a little less without hurting his feelings or making him think? I don't like it. Yes. He also goes down on me. But not every time, and I don't expect it every time thanks for reading. My question. I discovered you about two years ago, and even though it was pretty sexually exploited. You've re revolutionized my sex life. You rock. Thank you. And I'm so glad you found this show. And I love that you reunited with your high school sweetheart and are having amazing orgasms. You're clearly in those fun phases. Right now that we talked about earlier, which is great. Okay. I really love this question. Because I think that that a lot of us just kind of would get frustrated and keep doing what our partner wants and then have resemblance, but I think that maybe you're assuming that he wants it every time because maybe he's like thrusting his penis toward you or in a might be habitual for him just to do that to get him hard. But you don't a lot of other ways to get him aroused. You could use your hand you could use some Lou I'm telling you you put some few drops a lube on your hand or on his penis. And you just grab it and not grab it. But you know, you hold onto his penis. And get him a hard that way. I think that's going to be cool. I think there's a lot of different ways that you could get him around without giving a blowjob every single time. So this is a conversation. You have with them about your sex life outside the bedroom. Clearly, you're both having amazing sex and just say, you know, I'm not. Sure that I could not feeling great about every single time giving you blow job though, I love sucking, you it feels great. But I let's play with some other ways to get you aroused. Like, I think that's how you say it to them. And then you could also know there what you need because he's not going down a new every time. But sometimes I find like for me I've had to figure out if my partner doesn't go down on me or I'm not stimulated. I don't wanna have. I'm not going to have an orgasm I found like a lot of times I've just had sex. And then I'm not disappointed. So I've had to figure out like I'm gonna get my toy. If that's happening or I'm gonna make sure that there's enough lube, and then I'm touching myself because the truth is most women do not have orgasms from penetration..
"emily" Discussed on Sex With Emily
"This is more about which makes total sense. You jump on top put the head of his penis inside of you you stop. And then a smooth motion you slide to the bottom of shaft? So you're. Sliding back. See put it in. And then you're on top, and you slide, and then you slowly pull up again. Does this make sense? Yeah. I often don't talk about positions a lot because I feel like it can be. I mean, I do, but I feel like it can be confusing for people. But what I'm saying is a urine top your sliding forward. And then you stay there for ten seconds while you're grinding, but you are pumping you're Kegoe muscles. So that is a key factor for women. We talk a lot about doing your goals to have I have an iphone app called camp. That's how fiercely important I think they are to remind you to do them. So you squeeze those muscles. It's those peace stopping muscles. When you stop and start the flow of urine. So that's what they are. And you squeeze it around his shaft when you're on top just the head of the penis slide back down squeeze slide backup. So it's a and the reason why this works is because the spot doesn't necessarily get stimulated by thrusting fast in and out, and it's more of a deeper so by like slowing down your sex and using your muscles. While you're on top and squeezing squeezing of the top squeezing at the bottom. Feels great for the guy feels great for you. I'm taking mental notes. How you bright? Right. I mean, I wish you could see her hand. I'm mix. This is when we should have the Instagram live. We had one last night you guys at sex with Emily. I think it's still up if you want to check it out, but we will be doing that more often. So and then there's the holding phase another thing is if you want to hold your partners bottom. So let's say he's on top you because I love missionary. I gotta be honest missionary gets a bad rap for being boring and stuff. But if he's, and I don't think it is because there's so many variations like we were talking put a pillow under but to lift one there's different angles or different motions or different pressures. But when he's on top of you, you can grab his butt and pull them close to you like pull him closer into you. Because what we're talking about is getting more of that clitoral pressure that we all need for orgasm, we require it. And that's why we're not having the orgasms oftentimes during intercourse why only.