20 Episode results for "Eleven Minutes"
Resurrecting Your Awareness of The Mother: Devotional Chanting
"Hello beautiful souls welcome back. This is these seconds practice. I am sharing with you in this. Resurrecting your awareness of the mother spring awakening series. I invite you to go watch the other videos. The one was for the overview of what I am. Meaning what we're doing and I've already shared the first of five practices and I am back with the second one today and this is really in service to US using this. This secret transitional time into spring and into this season of of renewal and rebirth and beginnings and we're also doing that in in a time of uncertainty and unprecedented events and so it is really more important than ever truly to have that felt deep remembering of our relationship with the mother so today's practice is kind of a continuation of yesterday's practice. And you're going to be outside again and go you know any anywhere that's available to you at this time if it's just a balcony if it is your yard if it is you know however that looks just step outside even just opening a window and getting that connection with with natural air and you're going to sit however as comfortable and we are going to chant ma way so good to regulates the nervous system to find some slow peaceful vibes to quell any anxiety and residual fear any tension or stagnation. That's living in the heart. The lungs up in the throats unjust vibrating. This is primordial sound through your cells and really imagine that you're doing it with with reverence and devotion to to the mother as we are chanting so you are going to do this honestly as long as comfortable eleven minutes a lovely timeframe and you can go longer or shorter. You can do it multiple times a day. This is all for you. There is no rules regulations to anything that I am sharing. No right way in the wrong way. No special equipment no hierarchy of initiations. You know you can't do this thing if you're not this thing none of that will shit. This is just us in our bodies on this earth having inexperience and actively receiving her because she is here and always has been so. We are remembering that on receiving her deeply. So you are going to come to whatever's comfortable once you are outside as outside as you are able to be at this time in whatever spot that looks like right and you're going to again come to however comfortable you can lay down. You can sit even stand inviting you to shut your eyes. You can leave them. Open of course breathe filling up completely bathing all the way down into your low badly. Exhaling Foley matching the chance with your breath so inhaling fully on the AXA will begin inhaling again Muslim Together You may continue going a few rounds or just sitting in the reverberation of that frequency feeling into your hearts noticing. How different you may feel now comparison to a few moments ago before you began inviting you each time. You Practices to really have it. Come from the hearts as a few are really chanting in love and devotion to mother. Who is always here always providing waiting for us to remember for us to see her so practicing that in all of the beautiful benefits on the the softening of any anxiety of the nervous system. That is so important right now for immunity for sanity for keeping us in our center and really turning to her to to guide us in that calling out. She will always respond. She's always been here enjoy. That let me know how it goes and I will see you the next practice.
Turning Stress Into Success
"It's cutting into your exercise time it stabbing you in the back nine and relief with active OTC ingredients plus the added benefits of THC free heme boil get good morning everyone good evening good afternoon I want to thank everybody for bearing with us as we've shifted so as to be able to give a week that's GonNa give us the ability to break through about how you look at it and we're gonNA share wisdom with you actions that by pouring through texts and years of notes for what kind of energy and what kind of opportunities are GonNa come to you this week this is a powerful subject they're all secrets about what stress is where stress comes from it can be life changing and and we do this because this week David you can do more are you going to rise to the occasion and we learn Kabbah not doesn't really matter because the soul must complete its correction in this world but it can't come for free so what the soul will do is the sole will back in the universe's due to its next level and we're GONNA go back to that point by the end of the show because that I think right now you can tag your friends in the comment so that they can get on the show and whether you're watching defy iheartradio Google play cast box and stitcher and I think action there that I think is a point worth repeating is that can handle more there's more blessings for you there's more you're capable it's a signal that we send out the universe that says okay I'm ready to reveal my next level job it could be working for someone else it could be becoming your own boss have the ability to touch souls and you want to connect to more people all of this is very altruistic people or speaker or whatever it is an influencer at that moment you are GonNa be sent audience it's not enough just to want to be great you have to go through the challenges allowed them to be the person that they are reached the people that they've reached make the difference that from moment can you go back and think what did you either consciously or unconsciously okay in order for you to have your soulmate you need to breakthrough in these ways who never really scaled their company because they're very comfortable with Monica Max next level and then and then immediately the universe sent a lot of opportunity here he realized how how addicted he is his comfort to control issues and just squeezed the truth comes out and that's also why we do get squeezed the universe squeezes and every time you feel stressed out pause and realize it's actually a good thing it's actually I can't handle this this is too much for me I'm not a good mother I'm not a good understand about those moments of stress is let it embrace it because it means lookin and that that stress is your your child is being told by the creator to push and even though you don't know what your greatness is and even though you don't know how you're going to get out of this the partner to have love with and and you feel stressed out about it putting pressure on you and telling stressful hunting you whereas my grandchild you say you know what I'm being stressed at the lights trying to come in love is trying the girls especially because it plagues women often more than a plagues men the reason we've talked about this that a man finds a woman unattractive from caveman as been told to stay away from an etcetera so happy this is really important and when you feel stressed and you don't know how to handle the stress you're GONNA if this goes back to something we talk about probably on every other show you know the moment that stress comes for it or we try to handle it with various different ways and taking a toll on their health because it's never really faced that's that's one of the the power to break free from stress and to make what's called surrounding light inner it can be a certain level of of of expertise you have your inner lights so our soul mate is in the surrounding our future careers in the surrounding the folks later life kind of imagine if I take an empty water bottle that's closed and stick it under a pool it's the same with us the light is pressuring to come in we got to open ourselves up to let that recall the power of you and and there's a chapter there around stress and the rupture more right when the stress comes remember we said in the beginning it's because we've asked for some when I heard this for the first time I heard about fifteen years ago that when I'm in a stressful of pressured take a step back and Burg says quite the opposite he says ask for more as you ask downgrade upgrade when downgrade you go back to the old you and then you have to face this situation creator I want more than I ever had even though I'm in pressure right now then all of every month but the demand from your buyers is requiring you to Hold the weight of the new machinery so he gives you or this person that you know did okay that's option number one is a quiz show now option number to location altogether to a place that can handle greater expansion that's really what you strengthen it or you expand it but you cannot stress as telling you this hotel won't say the name of the hotel this hotel that we've been at many years this the only only event that they ever had where we pretty almost broke three thousand people going nuts crazy with energy in prayer and meditation and song and instead of them upgrading their vessel they asked us to downgrade our energy so we did are let's give people tools to overcome stress these are tools that are both capitalistic and then before the end of the show stay tuned because we're GonNa talk about how to prevent stress okay the means something I'm not doing that I should be doing and in Kabbalah it could be around mighty coon are they feel stressed out as they have a people pleasing mentality in leaned the balance because they want to please everyone and they want to be there for so what happens is even though it seems like you're being very productive by doing this spiritually disconnecting is to learn to say no when they feel deep down inside that it's wrong overwhelms that that internal gut instinct and we ended veer both cases is coming from something you don't want to deal with and that's why they're you do not honor and all of a sudden when they say yes don't ask me the Yes people say yes to everything funny say no I'm going to spend time with my family so I want to point something out of your nature that's correct so that's GonNa come up later again there is a key there of going there is no template for it but I think if we start getting in the mode of self auditing is not important or as important as maintaining this persona or this schedule there needs are more important than mine needs this is all some the exceptional in order to be noticed and they're not really recognizing the fact that this week is really asking us to do is to look at those things if you are a yes person or no something like that anyways he was a person who said no to everything I think was Jim Carey said no the power of others going against your nature I have another one and then maybe you WanNa share light we we complicate everything we have a very complicated life and we put it to to just focus on the most important things a fear to let the number one draining force in our lives onto in hopes of something it's all fear based by the way I can give you a you're right they would pay whatever hourly fee they saw them for an hour pair for your meetings. I remember having this conversation both and they looked at me like prepare for meetings meetings you know recalling the last and the whole thing that was preventing them from doing that they knew that that was the right thing to do but they of what people would think or do if they didn't give what they had ride thing right of I have a student left her groom at the altar because she realized she could thing right we wanna make sure that all of that pressure that's coming to US relationship can be firing a client are I've I've fired students served teacher I fired students before and sometimes I it's not an aggressive I know people who raise money of investors and sometimes they let's put it this way all the smaller investors are often the most annoying ones and afraid every day and they're calling and I said well why don't you just set the bar and say you know I know because I feel like the university offering me money and I can't say no to it and that's not true the universe now he had the energy to scale and if you're listening closely to what both David and I here to work on right so it means David uses the word Word Self Auditing he'll go against your nature transformation is always in that area where you where you feel and you feel that you are stuck in it that you feel that without you said experiment with the opposite experiment there's no rule here you need to find yeah I'm right maybe I'm wrong but at least you're GonNa go against your nature you're going to see what's right for you it's always a risk the perception is well what if I say no what if I change who I've always bit don't worry about it you're supposed to answer my you didn't answer my email and you know two hours it's okay if people are ah for writer comments and questions if there's this specific situations speak now. I I hate when people finish my sentence let's say that and you fell they go the other thing so stress Oh stress all the time why because the way the universe works own system our own way of doing things our own way that something has to be a certain way and we're not alling person do I acknowledge that you have control issues number to have the university wants you to pivot and try something new immediately people with control issues you know when you when you are a micromanager and you know that your expectations are high one partner tries to control the other partner tries to control the way they feel in control the situation as opposed to just allow the person to go through a process sometimes we don't like push them and try to fix it and all of that is also a everything stop helicopter parenting stop helicopter relationship being and I like that free range yeah brass but they're free to roam go get is when your business is ready to next level or your employees I think I think I and received more in return that is correct that's correct where I'm going is going to be different than what an employer using your customers want more from you but you haven't figured it couldn't that be isn't that relevant for somebody who's managing eventually the stress comes because your bottle necking the process you're making everybody offer from that and what I remember the first time that I was faced with this problem and I had to scale aren't you afraid they're gonna just scripture business and the whole thing's GonNa Crash and burn the I read this in in a in a in a business book wants that the good CEO is always the universe also send you a blessing it's Kinda going against your nature so you always get a miracle so universtiy vity and it's very important for all CEO's all managers to open conversation about CEOS and managers that's universal and that is any time we go how could be negative so for example if I'm doing this radio show on one leg that's going ah uncomfortable sleep on stones that's not helping anybody. I see your point I see your point it's really Mueller here David's usually the moment formulas but I'm GonNa give you a pretty succinct Route the first one is if you find yourself in a stressful situation get outside the I want to say it's the easiest it's obviously the hardest but it's the thing that comes to mind quickest if you're nature got you there in the first place get outside of your nature that's the few knew it and you understood it and you felt comfortable with it it would be your current level we say that if it's familiar means you've already been there it's not your next level right ask yourself it's eleven minutes neck number to let go I mean is the best way to describe it is to let go there is something going on in the bottle neck if if you're yes man or no man him it's going to be different in every situation going back to the rubs metaphor about the factory you know if you need to let go of that factory don't don't be a swamp beer river but that also and the last one is take a risk or and not stupid risks were not saying you know set the factory on fire and let's see if we get insurance hunting stress thing the the the those three things done proactively will prevent you from needing stress in your life that you could be working on but in general if the if things could go on forever this those three things proactive you find a way to get outside of your comfort zone in the business world as simple concept called Ab test you what does it mean to Ab test you show it to groups of people focus groups we run ads on it and you see what engages don't test at all meaning they don't even try or they try one thing and think that the whole world's GonNa love it and it's really ugly it's actually not a good product you have two AB test you it's no that you're gonNA learn more from the failure then you are from the success the example sounds like it's all about business but this may be happening in your family you may have kids to nourish and enrich every relationship every aspect of your life and there's only so much our Thursday night pizza nights have got stopped because I can't go and sometimes these friends are just toxic or don't really contribute anything and or they're helping us grow and there's a mutual beneficial energy and not that we're helping relationships are the biggest stressors in life biggest stressor but but there is a desire to meet your where you're at vice versa and I think that that's important in my kids they're gonNA bill every week yes I'm gonNA write that book one day actively restricting and proactively strength taking risks growing your certainty in the universe quick secrets as we wrap up just a bus number one a quick fix them person it's very powerful thing it's very it's it's medicine that's a frosting on the about somebody in their life you know spouse fan whatever and they're saying somebody they've love how they one or two things that were really powerful and then you see their whole energy change they're not stressed allows you to connect to the energy of positivity which immediately begins to heal you so even though something before we wrap things up that I think is going to be very popular I'm going to be that person on the show that'd be David today the ones I know what no one can unless you let them so part of what the universe week to create a new pathway and new inroad in our behavior thank you guys for joining us as always we are here on energy boost at Kabbalah Dot com were also on Itunes spotify Iheartradio let us know what you think we wanna hear all the good the bad and the ugly David I it just means something great wants to come into our lives. 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Colorado woman sounds the climate alarm by ringing a bell
"I'm doctor Anthony lies words and this is climate connections last December eleventh at eleven. Am Mary you bet downing of Boulder. Colorado stood outside her state capital. Hen rang a bell. She did it to express her concern about climate change. Then people looked at me strangely strangely but it felt like okay. It feels like a right thing a good thing so she sent an email to members of our methodist church community when they said here's a crazy idea anybody anybody want to join me on the Eleventh Day of every month at eleven o'clock to raise an awareness raising alarm it was the start of a monthly interfaith event called the eleventh hour calling participants ring the bell at a local church across the street members of a Buddhist Center respond by striking. They're gone we ring the bells and strike the gongs in response back and forth for we're eleven minutes and we head out flyers we have protests is just trying to draw attention to the fact. This is what we're doing. This is why we're doing it. She says that's an opportunity for people to come together. Confront their fears about global warming and renew their commitment to action climate connections is produced by the Yale Center for Environmental Communication. Learn more at Yale Connections Dot Org.
Doyle from the Misfits taken out of context (Rockin' Rant #21)
"Today on the Dini rock and roll circus rock and rant number twenty one. The grossly mischaracterized comments from Doyle from the misfits. I'm going to get into what was really said. And why he makes a lot of sense. And why you need to hear it. Stick around. You're listening to the Lou Dini rock and roll circus changing rock history one podcast at a time. Welcome back. Everybody Latini rock and roll. Circus dot com is our website. Please check back off and for more great rock content with a home of great guitar driven rock, Lucchini, rock and roll circus dot com. All the stuff is there. Okay. The this article has been going around social media for last few days. The front from the title of the article, you would get the impression that Doyle from the misfits is calling fans scumbags. And that you know, he doesn't want to do mean. Greece was these scumbag fans and things like that. Okay. Let's let's all as a same Pittsburgh calmed on completely taken out of context. I need to name the culprits here alternate. Guitar. Shame on you rock garage. Shame on you. Shame of both. You guys what you did was wrong. You made him you, you, you left the implication that you know, he's some kind of douche bag and Doyle's not being adduced bag that we have the link to the actual podcast in. It's only eleven minutes. We'll take you guys long you in in in a minute. You'll get the total context of what was going on here. But I but with the link here it's going to be in the YouTube section here. And it's also going to be on our notes on pod bean and stuff like that. So make sure that find it. What dole was commenting on was the fact that they cannot make money like they used to be you could understand the misfits or banned from seventies. They came up when people bought albums, and you had that residual income from albums, and you could go out and tour sell the album, and that was basically what you did. We that that is gone. Now, you can't do that. You get like a thousandth of a cent or something like that per stream on Spotify. People pay ten dollars a month in a constrained, a misfit song or any song like over and over and over and over and over also a lot of people would before any that was available people were just stealing just plain out copying the stuff and sharing it on on file sharing sites and stuff like that. And. What does commenting on his like, okay now in order to try to make up for that income when we've gotta do these meet and greets, and it's like, they're only getting fifty bucks. It's not a lot of money. They're not nearly where they really feel there should be financially. That is really what he's commenting on the scumbags. He's referring to are the people that took advantage and downloaded music for free and file shared, etc. In the early days primarily and kinda ruined it for all the bands. So he goes into some other things like policing things. That's not gonna work, and it just it just isn't the interviewer kind of let's soil have his say I disagree with Doyle on that. Although nothing what he said there was offensive. It just isn't going to work. The genie's out of the bottle in terms of people expect expect music to be free. They don't see it that way. They don't. They just don't see the value in it. Just as an audio file you've got to do something more in these this day and age you've got to be more creative. You've gotta get more savvy with the internet. You have to get more savvy at your shows with how you sell things the type of merchandise. You have things like that. And we could I could talk about that in greater depth and more podcasts, but for a band came up in that era seventies eighties, and then kind of restarting again in the nineties and two thousands. They just aren't with it. And I've interviewed like many classic rock artists and stuff like that. And they just have a hard time in today's music business climate figuring all out I applaud them for doing meet and paid meet-and-greet and stuff like that. Because that will definitely offset a lot of costs, and we'll help them generate some more income, but they're business people that they work with need to get more creative to help these guys. That's really what the answer is not policing the internet. Unfortunately Doyle, that's just not going to work. Although I completely understand your frustration. I totally got it. 'cause if somebody. Had ripped away something like seventy or eighty percent of your business or my business. I would be pissed off too. And I'd want people at the police it it just is what it is. So don't so. So don't believe this these posts going around social media that Doyle's calling fan scumbags. That's not what he's talking about completely mischaracterized. So check it out rock is a business rock is a hard business rock and roll is a vicious business. And they these guys deserve to make money. They just got to get in today's climate. Gotta find ways they gotta get more creative. They're worth every penny. They put on a great show. They work really, really hard. And it is not just party central. You know, there's a lot going on takes up a lot of your day. There's a lot of boredom sitting around driving from show to show. So not everybody has, you know, most bands don't fly around of their own jet. And you know, you know, partying with, you know, super models or actresses or whatever lot like the misfits or like, they're in the trenches. They're they're putting out great rock and roll. And you're looking to make it financially viable if everything is free, and nobody makes any money it goes away. That's enough about that. But there's a mindset that people tend to forget about we've got to think business is business people as well as rock and roller. So that's it for today's show. I'd like to know what you think do not comment to me unless you've listened to the link that I'm posting below. Then tell me what you think very interesting could go both ways, Lou Lombardi music dot com. This is where I want you guys to go Lombardi music dot com back slash inner circle. That is Lou Lombardi music dot com slash inner circle. Getting with my inner circle, there's access to exclusive music, exclusive content, exclusive conversation, we hang out live. There's conversation and things as people there that you can get to know that are really cool than love great guitar driven rock just like you do a lot of fun. Check it out, Lou Lombardi music dot com. Backslash inner circle guys. Thanks for hanging out with me and get you guys. All. On the next Lou Dini, rock and roll circus.
Guided Meditation - Grounding
"Hi it's Julie. Pot occur for the balanced. Mind Meditation Center again. Welcome finding a comfortable seats if you're stay on being just realizing that you'll be standing for about ten eleven minutes if you're lying down that's fine too. Just realize that if you fall asleep you won't be meditating. You'll be napping which if you really need that is fine with me okay. So if you're comfortable with closing your eyes though sure is if you prefer gentle downward soft focus. That's fine too. And we're GONNA take three nourishing breaths and we're going to hold it in for four reading in for four holding it for four breathing out for six going to breathe out your mouth breathing. Your nose Reading in for four four Breathing out for six Breathing in for four four breathing out for six. Now let your breath find its natural rhythm notice for just a few breath cycles where you find your breath most easily. It could be the tip of your nostrils. It's a little cooler breathing in and out could be the rice and all of your or the rise and fall of your belly but one of those places you're seeing and feeling your body breathing in in your body breathing out Slowing yourself down The same time relaxing. Your is releasing any tension in your job imagining smiled the corners of your lips dropping that smile down into your throat neck letting your shoulder blades. Go Down your bat gently dropping matt smile down into your chest taking a few moments to notice what's going on in your heart your heart today dropping down your awareness into your belly and letting your APPs release releasing your hips into what is supporting them relaxing. Your thighs your calves. You're feeds really feeling relaxation. Going down your legs softening your hands you may want to place a hand or hands on your heart or were you find it soothing just as a reminder that you showed up to give yourself this time this care this love space to practice with yourself into practice in community finding your breath Noticing your body breathing you And if and when you want to relax your hands back down into your lap just letting them rest comfortably now imagining from your sit bones and from your feet. If they're on the ground roots extending down through the floor through the foundation into the earth and at the same time nutrients going up the roots into your body. So you're grounded. You're solid but yet flexible held firmly Soft Front really firm back Your torso is like a trunk head and your arms are like the tree tops in the branches. That can move and Ben with what's going on but not break flexible but Straw soft and firm all in one being which is how your human body is down under the earth. Face root systems are vertical and horizontal and the horizontal is connecting us to each other community So we might be swaying bed at the time but we're held firmly in place breathing Trunk into the heart of tree imagining yourself. Being a human being that you are and seeing what this heart needs today. How is this heart today? Giving this heart today a word for your end breath it really would be helpful. This heart today in this human body held in community and strong but yet vulnerable and flexible. You Might WanNa breathe in a word like Ho or peace. Courage strain ease love but something coming in to yourself. That would feel good right now. Let your out breath just be bringing in something deep into your soul Filling yourself up with this fabulous word with your breath. Now you get to choose for your exhale to bestow a gift to either a specific being that you long to sand love to or it could be to all beings or categories of beings that could be frontline workers essential workers. It could be somebody in your life that you wish you could physically be with that. You can't could be somebody who suffered a loss that you wish she could be there to hold and hog but for your out breath. Whatever word you'd like to give. Pc's love hope not forgetting you're taking in a word for yourself so the practices one for me one for you in for me out trio If you've lost track of the exercise you're breathing in a word for yourself out for others and it's just what you need to take in right now for you 'cause you know what your heart needs right now and then it's giving a gift to others. It's loving kindness Now go of all of the words. Staying in the meditation and noticing comes up trying not to attach to any story lines. Just seeing what. Your thoughts feelings and emotions are doing letting it be letting it go Taking in the words of this common Kahlil Gibran called fear. It is sad that before entering the sea or river trembles with fear. She looks back at the path. She has traveled from the peaks of the mountains. The long winding road crossing forests and villages and in front of her. She sees an ocean so vast the to enter. There seems nothing more than to disappear forever. But there's no other way. The river can't go back. Nobody can go back to go back. It's impossible and existence. The river needs to take the risk of entering the ocean. Because only then we'll fear disappear because that's where the river will no. It's not about disappearing into the ocean but of becoming the ocean. There's a roomy quote that I think is appropriate to add right now while you're still contemplating and meditation these words. Roomy said you are not a drop in the Ocean. You are the ocean in a drop. You Might WanNa wiggle your toes and your fingers when you hear the sound of the chime coming back gently into the group Thank you for listening. It's truly pot occur from the balanced line Meditation Center.
33: This Struggle is the Price of Entry to a Wonderful Life
"Tainted they've probably the best way to start today failed is what day is it it's the morning show that no one knows no one is talking about is talking about just a good human being so listen yesterday now there's like these days that exist sometimes on the old or in her life and it has been life changing and it's like affirming for me that great people absolutely totally every single day exist on this planet is said a little bit wonky but other than that jeez what that was i self rachel hollis currently sitting arm to arm with john maxwell in a conversation with other human beings and so i i am in a side room having a quick how do you do for the morning extravaganza also known as the start today morning show good morning do yourself a favor and read literally anything that this man has written he has written so many incredible books on leadership on welcome today eleven you're like thirteen percent through the last ninety days maybe fourteen percent even i don't have a calculus we are here in day eleven is it day eleven already of the last ninety day challenge y'all put on the button up blue shirt that i have because i'm trying to look fancy in front of this john maxwell he's an amazing human being if you do not know john maxwell ah fantastic day and now rachel and john maxwell are having a little breakfast thing before rachel actually participates in giving a speech in to our building on being awesome so please do yourself a favor of spending a second in diving into john maxwell's work i personally he saw in rachel someone who knows to be a leader of human beings and as someone who went through some of the things that we have been we have to prepare ourselves for so get your heart ready for that a fantastic day yesterday we saw a bunch of our friends and got to pour into an audience of human starts they morning show good morning we are here in atlanta georgia today by we you'd suggest the maybe i was sitting with somebody else i am not i'm sitting here by me beings very excited about hanging out with brendan bouchard yesterday was i got to watch rachel lateral on fire and then peter out but i'm excited that you have persevered through the second friday of the last night at eight challenge congratulations for making it here we've got a weekend ahead bless to experience both a very very great and the sprinkler that the tough stuff he has been a person who voluntarily walked into an has become a mentor this lighting everything i'm sitting in front of a window thank you in what some days you gotta sit in front of a dang window get some natural sunlight on your head and this is not the traditional austin-based or west coast studios of the start today morning show this is the atlanta georgia based studios of the ah fifteen law invaluable laws of growth forget about it it's like the like one of the go to go to's of books and he's just a fantastic leader and i just say for us there was a day now here's the thing i am not usually a person who likes to indulge in these days like oh it was boyfriend day or it's people who dr green broncos there's eleven minutes bizarrely she goes on at eleven thirty seven a m that is a very specific call time but i'm gonna take off my great be neck t shirt day or whatever but yesterday was a day that we did not i actually get into and i wanna talk about it because it is a super super important topic and that is my phone and my computer are fighting with each other hope that's not ruining everything and might be ruining everything all right listen yesterday was house got up on stage he killed it than trent shelton got up on stage he killed it than tom bill you got up on stage he killed it so anyway it was yesterday was world mental health day world mental health day why there needs to be a day for world mental health day is because mental health is as important as physical health mental health is as important as physical health and yet there is still all too many people not talking about mental health they're not comfortable with what it means to pour into and spend time in the pursuit living that is part of i wanna talk about it because i want to get to a place where we don't have to actually remind people that mental health is a thing that we should become more comfortable talking about yeah it is crazy it is not healthy it does not actually help any of us it's i think partially complicit for why the second about this there's this wild thing that exists around not owning the fact that all of us literally all of us are working leading cause of death among young humans is suicide because there is this crazy thing that exists around i shouldn't even use the word crazy when i'm talking you'd better milk mental health that when things have gone sideways there's this stigma taboo around people needing to work on their mental health for pursuing mental health so like the thing i was thinking about if i were to run a marathon i would literally tell every human being on the planet i tell everyone because i just did this thing by pushing myself physically i aimed of needing to go and get someone to help me with the mental side of my health and now i brag about going to a therapist just as much as i brag about going to see that as much as i as i would brag about going on iran or going to accomplish something big like a marathon because dan and did this thing and i would tell everyone and when i i was in the middle of struggle going to therapist i was so a anything else and the idea that in any way we might create stigma that would keep people from being able to themselves unlock the wonder that true becoming more mentally healthy and the idea of working on your mental health does not in any way indict you for not being awesome as a human being it makes you awesome comes in pursuit of great mental health it i it's it's bananas to me it is absolutely bananas you if you are listening to this you have ask therapy that work that i've done on the mental side of the ledger is as or more important unlocking that great parts of my life as uh with you that means that you are human that means that you are human and if you are struggling that does not make to work on your mental health and if you're listening to this and you have to work on your mental health that in no way means that you are broken that in no way means that there's something wrong with dan i have no stigma around mental health because mental health and physical health are just health the idea the i like the reason why i can get past the struggle is that i have become comfortable raising my hand when i am struggling hey i am struggling i need help unique that makes you human all of us every single person including me the one that looks good in this natural light i struggle to and you need to as much pursue mental health as you do physical health and someone who pursues either of those things is not before that pursuit broken it does not mean idea that like mental health in some way even needs to have the modifier of mental is ridiculous because it's just health if you wanna be a healthy human take them week in fact it makes them strong and absolutely sets them up for the possibility of pursuing every and anything in their life so how do you how do you tend to your mental health like i spent time yesterday you're flying across this darn country thinking resources but how do you tend to your mental health like the first thing is i think when people say mental health sometimes they jumped to like needing about this and i was like following different hashtags on instagram and man if you just wanna follow world mental health day if you want to go to mental health dot gov you've there is man there are so many resources that exist right this very second on the internet for absolutely free and the the mental health dot gob end taking medicine if that is something that you need like somehow taking away the stigma around the possibility that you may be a person who needs something that the just about getting enough rest like just about actually feeding yourself making sure that you are eating on the regular making sure that just to take some of the brain chemistry stuff and make it right the idea of allowing space for yourself so that you can process the idea of focusing on gratitude that space to process gratitude that is a mental health practice the idea giving up a category of food or drink that you know you shouldn't be eating as much as yeah there's probably gonna be some kind of physical side effects that ends up being good keeping a promise to yourself is working on your mental health the water i can't help you with the water seems like it's more physical there may be a a mental side it's but having that space to process your emotions moving your body for thirty minutes that dave that sounds physical what else could you do finding a safe friend finding a person that you can reliably text when you end up struggling and it may be physical but the idea of moving your body is also about how might we find a way in body movement to process things you broken but it does require if you actually want to try and have the ability to persevere long enough in that state of struggle a set of research population so if you want to have a conversation about mental health at work or with your kids or with someone who's hurting or if you are the one who is hurting there are there are plenty of and it's working for you and there's nothing wrong with it and you are broken for wanting to reach for it you are getting stronger for having invested in something that's a little more like further down the track as it were and sometimes mental health is just about getting enough rest drinking water like showing yourself you can do it but i'm telling you this five to thrive this last ninety days thing that we're doing this is mental health work every single time it gets hard and you should see my outgoing text messages i send views messages on an every single day basis because i struggle i have people i'm awesome sorry i'm awesome but my awesomeness is reinforced with a circle of people that i can send a text to doc and it will become a self-fulfilling thing my strength is shown in my ability to raise my hand represent my struggle and i get through it they have provoked the anxiety to make me see how ridiculous it is for me to drown in that anxiety that's why i have these p of waking up in the morning and spending extra time on yourself it could be that you're getting up and you're spending time in prayer meditation it could be that you just spending time in silence that's what you are feeling right one before i even keep going down my list because i wrote down a whole bunch of things but like a lot of the things that we are doing with my strength and my ability to represent that struggle and ask for their help is the way that i'm able to get it if you keep stock because of the circle of people that i have encouraging me and reminding me of who i am and how strong can be or the things that i've created in my in this last ninety days challenge as much as i think we tend to think of them more along the lines of physical health they are they are mental health practices myself in my life period therapies expensive so if you can't afford therapy okay how else can you creatively find a way to represent zayn to process things that would otherwise have kept a stuck up here by having shown ourselves what we can do with moving our body the idea of the inside of a lie that tells you that representing that you are struggling makes you weak you will never get help you will never ever get help and you will stay address the problem that exists with a professional who lives on this planet to help you it is a gift i love therapy the things that you're struggling with two people who care about you and we'll have objectively not judge you for having the struggle find that but finding someone who can list taylor looked in there are different tabs that give you advice on how to have conversations about mental health with different segments of of the really address why the symptoms exist they're there for you if there is if there's a resource that exists it's friday oh my goodness gracious it's friday good morning it's friday and i am dave hollis obvious live streams if you had a pain in your side for three days you would go to the doctor and have someone look at the pain europe. is the thing that is currently helping me climb out of a valley that i'm stuck in get out of your own way get out of your own like stigma the thing i would say i i wanna go back to quit trick yourself into believing that like there are certain people who struggle and certain people that don't or that you struggle during a season i in writing my book writing my book was very hard because it was a form of therapy i was every single day guess what my struggle is a sign of my humanity not of weakness my ability to tell people that i'm struggling is a sign of in another season that you don't if you're breathing on this planet pursuing great things you're going to struggle on an almost daily basis and that does not make you is not actually real and what i need is to have someone in my life who can shine a light of truth on the lies that i have believed some of you have been carrying around a pain in your heart or in your brain for decades and yet you refuse to go see the doctor who could act well who are in my life that can help shine that light see a professional if necessary i am telling you right now that therapy for me was one of the greatest gifts i've ever given signed the anxiety that shown up nine times out of ten the anxiety that i have is a made up thing it everyone and if someone gave me a look like oh really you go to therapy and like your dang right i go to therapy and you should go to therapy to because and you refuse to go see it and you wonder why you're still struggling with what you feel in your heart or what you feel in your head that is a choice that you have made just a part of the like the cut the price of entry of a great life and so like having us a safe randa a friend you trust that you can text and things get hard into you and definitely if you can afford it seeing a therapist therapy is a gift give it to yourself i've said this on pre when i first went to therapy i didn't think that i wanted to go i was ashamed of going and once i realized how much good came from it i went and told analyst get a go please go it will literally change your life be creative here's another thing be created find a way to express yourself verses that'll keep you sane that will keep you going that'll help remind you and keep you grounded in the fact that this struggle is normal this struggle is in expressing my creativity processing in like the greatest cathartic way possible the things that i was feeling about a bunch of the things that i was carrying shame for that i was carrying insecurity about it's all gonna be out there and i can tell you this it being out there liberates me wants to judge me for representing how i struggled and got through my struggle they aren't going to be part of my life i do not or weighing down your mind you will be liberated in some way from them for having just spoken them into existence dang it i care if someone wants to judge me and i'm telling you if you can find a creative outlet to represent the things that are weighing down your heart hodel honesty that was scary about how i was struggling and where i was struggling don't expect that people are going to be able to read your mind and quit promise you get into some space you can be creative it will literally i've said literally a lot i know it's the light change your life is it is about anything else and so if you don't currently have a set of boundaries that affords you the ability to say to get help if you keep your feed telling people that everything is fine but when i was struggling the most the only way that priority you cannot pour out of an empty cup and so many of you who feel like you don't have the time who feel like you are overwhelmed oxygen masks i you can't help someone else if you aren't i helping yourself check in with yourself frequently i was able to get out of my own way the only way i was able to get helped the only way i was able to make the moves that i was able to make was i had to raise my hand and having a conversation in allender that says self audit how am i doing and be honest and then once you get to the bottom of how you are doing take action you gotta find somebody who can help you create the kind of boundaries that will give you the kind of mental space that you need you need to say no when people are doing every single day if you go to an office there are people inside of the office that are barely hanging on by a thread they are check in with yourself frequently how are you doing how are you doing is there is there a way that you can in your calendar right now put a regular reminder on your being a little more transparent and honest especially with people who are in your circle that you trust trust the most and on the flip side of that make sure that your boundaries are strong make sure that you are boundaries are strong mental health is as much about restricting the things that come into your life you know when someone is trying to infiltrate the sanctity of your space than you need to reinforce your boundaries and if you need help asking you to do things that are contradictory of your value set you i i know that you know this but you need to be your first into judgment of your struggle quick judging yourself for struggling let let struggle go as a if you are struggling in an area unique to raise your hand and ask for help you know who doesn't get help the person who doesn't ask for it you know who doesn't get help thinking that you managing the way that they think about you is in any way going to serve you if you are struggling become comfortable with i feel like you're drowning inside of anxiety that feel like it is in part because you're saying yes to their priorities at the expense of yours and that would be a negative struggle is a sign that you are pushing yourself outside of the harbour i am in pursuit of struggle they can't take it back kind of decision about taking their life if you were to just ask them no no no how are you really doing we are in a community of people are pouring out of out to them from a cup that has not yet been full it has not yet been filled you need to fill your cup i you need to put on the person who puts on a mask and through the lens of the social media that we're all hanging out on curates a feed that says everything's perfect don't worry nothing to see here somebody how they're doing like every single day ask somebody how they're doing when they say fine then you ask them how are you really doing how are you really you can't you can't condemn yourself for struggle and hope to have the impact it's one or the other so if you are human you struggle it instead own it as a badge of honor because your struggle is a sign that you are actually finally to the impact you've been hoping for they just keep on going on to someone who actually has their hand raise someone who actually is representing that they do in fact need some help how do you expect because of you trying to convince yourself that owning what happened would be worse in some way owning what happened would be worse than letting early hanging on by a threat you don't know what difference it might make in literally someone's like it could be that it changes a dramatic worry of like the judgment of someone else and take a step closer to owning who and what you are and have a confidence that they're did yourself for struggle when struggle may be a reflection of you finally tipping into a place where you can make the impact that you say you wanted to make posture to perpetually work through struggle some of you are down on yourself and in your head because of how you've been that we all live in that has us wanting to convince people that it's not so bad or it's all good or trust me everything's great and sometimes what someone really needs to the insides of you rot because of the way that it's festering come on you know better than that get past the ego get past the pride get past the nine move your body right we are in this challenge talking about body movement in part because getting outside and moving our body is a form of therapy because i've recognized that the only way that i can actually grow in this life the only way that i can unleash the potential that's been put in my body is by being in represented that they're interested in more we are made for more and part of the morris the responsibility to ask our neighbor to ask our people to ask our circle how're you doing it's a thing that is going to help us get a little bit of that sanity back a little bit of that you know anyway those are some tips it's okay to ask for help you don't ask for help you are not going to get help it is not a thing that will just magically show up if you don't here is it was terrible but i'm strong for having gone through it it was impossible and i'm still grieving it i it was like don't actually ask for help you will not get it you need to give yourself permission to ask for help it's okay to do what's best for you national way that things are done as much as much as much as you have you have to become comfortable doing what is best for you it's freaking hard it's okay to say that i don't know if i'm ever gonna get through this grief it's okay to it's okay it is okay a bit further away from the thing that feels today like a weight that you'll never ever get past you don't want something that festers underneath the surface there are plenty of examples of people who have taken medicine and that medicine was the like life saving thing that absolutely helped them in a season you have to acknowledge the truth of your experience if you've been through something hard you've got to own that right there is something again in this like moderated curated world trouble knowing that it's okay if you find yourself in that situation
How Do You Stay Motivated on the Days That You Dont Feel Good?
"Jerry West the NBA Hall of Fame Basketball Player and the the NBA Executive. WHO's arguably one of the most successful NBA players in history and one of the most successful National Basketball Association executives of history once said it's hard to get much done if you only we were on the days where you feel like well? Today is one of those days where I don't feel good. It is for forty nine in the morning. I will be at the Office in eleven minutes and I just feel bad physically ban. You know I had a great weekend. recorded a bunch of shows and read through the franchise disclosure document of tip top. Canine and was able to work on the outline for a book book. And what are the trees with my wife and watch a movie We Watch Zoo lander per the recommendation of Jonathan. Kelly and that was an incredible incredible movie. Aw that movie made me laugh quite a bit but I had a great weekend but now here we are to Monday. And I got the allergy thing going on you wake up and you got the a head cold thing where it's like your head hurts you know and your eyes are all swollen shot and you just you. Don't you feel your best you know. Well that is how I feel today now. You know what I'm not going to do. I'm not going to miss work today. Not GonNA call in sick. I'm not going to take today off. I'm not going to cancel things in my schedule. I'm not going to do anything being differently than I would normally do. Because it's hard to get much done if you only work on the days where you feel like it where you feel good right because if I did cancel my meetings today I'd have to do them another day. which was then put me behind? Then when I got back to work the next day it would be required to get caught up quote unquote and then I'm back to where I started so I just don't call in sick now I Thirty eight I started Basically self employed I was sixteen years old with my mobile entertainment company. Working out of my appearance basement and From time to time I have not had a sick day. I do not take sick. Weekdays I just show up about how bad I feel I show up and why AM I. Why am I recording this in the summer of love in route to work? I'm recording exotic riddick. Somebody needs to hear this message. Diligence is what produces success. Diligence means steady application of effort Proverbs ten four from that controversial book known as the Bible Reads says says God blesses the hands of diligent. Why don't you? We looked at Brooklyn. Says God blesses the hands of the diligent and punishes. The hands of the slacker. Should look all the different definitions are all the different additions of the Bible. Getting you might read the new international version or the King James version but matter what version you read you're gonNA find that Essentially God God blesses Hans the diligent and punishes the hands of slacker. Now I'm not saying that Let's let's not make this a religious discussion take. Let's take God out of the conversation out of the conversation. Let's just say that it's a universal law if you don't plant the the seeds in diligently water them intend to the garden and pull the weeds you won't have any hardest bright. I mean what if you get motivated to plant the seeds. Woo Plan sees. I'm excited. Let's go to those by seeds. We can plant. Oh I'm gonNA plant the seeds but what if you don't water them I don't know if you don't water the seeds you just planted. You're probably not going to grow anything. Now what what. If you got motivated to plant the seeds and you got motivated to water the seeds yes but you are not motivated to pull the weeds. While I just and we'd play is not my calling. Well then you're not going to probably get a harvest play. What does that have to do with business? You might be asking well. I think a lot of entrepreneurs. Let's get except cited so the seeds of new business get excited a water the seeds by investing capital in time into the business. They don't WanNa pull all the weeds as removing the people from the team. Who Do not have the mental capacity or the tenacity needed to produce reduce success? Yes we must focus on the problems. The people problems before the props because us it's the people causing the props all right. We need to focus on the people who are causing the problems before we get to the problems. Did you to the people who are causing the problems. Does that make sense. I mean we wouldn't want to as example mm-hmm if you had a video company than say and the team misses deadlines you'd WanNa focus on removing the person who misses the deadlines the management and not focus on trying to buy better cameras. If you had a sales team and yourself team keeps keeps missing these sales quota. You'd WANNA focus on replacing the manager as opposed to upgrading the phone own system but no no no you. Most people happens is we. Don't want to think it's a human problem. We want to think it's a problem unrelated humans because that's easier to handle easier when it's a phone system that needs to be upgraded when the website needs a new plug in when the video team needs a new server. That is an easier discussion than to say. Hey you know so. The seeds water the seeds and you are a weed aid. It's easier to do. It's easier to talk about being a problem with equipment. That is to be a human problem right so none of us want to actually actually pull the weeds when it's humid but in reality that's the vast majority of the problems that I see had coached with hundreds of companies on a one on one basis thousands at conferences. I can tell you that the two big issues facing you right now. I guarantee it. If you're listening to this right now you you have a real company. There are two issues facing today one. Is You probably have a weed and your business right now of some capacity faceting that you're not pulling their somebody on your team who's not doing their job. Somebody WHO's only working when they feel good somebody who's not getting their job done and problem number two is there's somebody in your organization and it might be you who only works hard works on the days. You feel good you know this weekend. I was reading this franchise disclosure document and It's terrible it's not but it's you know. In order to franchise tiptop canine. We have to create an issue. You a franchise disclosure document and let me make a list of things that are fun. About making a franchise disclosure document and that list includes flutes such things as Nothing making a franchise. Disclosure document is terrible. It's not fun. It's the boreas it's tedious. There's nothing exciting about it. There's no big Beijing on it. They'll be excitement. No big energy not pumped up to do it. It's fun one but you do it because you have to now. It was even harder to do this week because I had this unbelievable epic allergy caused I Headache does pushing through as well. While trying to edit the franchise disclosure document. And you might say well. Why don't you just go to sleep? And then you know nap all day and not do it because I said I would get it done. I'm the kind of person who likes to do what I say I'm going to do because I I work on the days that I have to whether I want to or not. And that's the kind of person that you have to be to be successful as an entrepreneur corner. I'm not saying that you know that everyone character trait in the world to be a great human This shows entirely about how to grow successful companies. I'm just saying if you're the kind of CEO President or head of organization that does it work hard on you know on the days. We don't feel like it. You probably will have a hard time. Earning the respect of people right. You'd probably have heart you probably. It's probably hard for you to gain the respect people and if you're the kind of person who won't pull the weeds because they're related to you because they are famously because they are mm-hmm friends you probably will struggle as well and I can say because I'm the kind of person who does pull weeds when it is abundantly clear they're choking off the growth of my businesses I've certainly made a lot of enemies along the way and I think that's probably the hardest part about growing a successful company isn't it. It's it's it's great vision. That's good idea. This great seed of of of Seven. It is going to happen and then you know as you grow at you discover. There's a a weed in the way there's something that's choking off the growth of a business and you look around and you think is it. Is it the equipment you look around some more and you say is it the Klug in on the the website is is is it technology. Is it the phone system. Is it the server. Just got to be a problem here. I wonder what it is but then upon further examination you discover somebody on your team is the we'd somebody is only working hard when they feel like and so now the question is. Are you going to remove that person from your team when you don't feel like it because chances are unless you're real sick freak you probably don't want to ever pull the weed of human. You probably never want to fire a person correct because you wanna be a good guy and he thought of even firing anybody ever no matter how bad of an employee they are for some people conceal could feel bad conflict. Something that we don't want to do well I'm poured into the Parking lot here at the drive time show world headquarters and I'm going to start this glorious workday with a sinus headache. Kuzma my allergies. It's making my head nearly explode and Do three to one boom.
Content | Venerable Kassapa | 27 June 2020
"Good money. I hope you're well. It is lovely morning and Western Australia. I think cool and fresh. Some rain last night. And I just Teaching Meditation at the local prison last night and Had Very Nice. Session and In the meditation. Focused on coming into the present moment. That Learning to be okay and content. Put down the stories of the past and the future. And I started the class by just having. Five minutes. Of. Relaxing so I thought we would do that right now. So just get yourself in a comfortable position if he can. and. And Relax. The buddy stopped by taking a few deep breaths. And, just you. Have a few deep breaths. Of the pass. Echo the future. Go, DIFFICULTIES INCONSISTENT And just come into the prison and. thinking. Oh aspirations down. A few deep breaths. Axing more. Acts the feet from inside out. Relaxed the lower legs. Knees. Hips waist and stomach. Relaxed Ho- digestion stomach region. Just, become aware of the feelings. Stomach rises and falls. 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To really focus on their practice comeback. Make sure the meditation giving enough time. Give Up. Judy's of the world put down as many responsibilities such as teaching, helping others as much as possible. Time to come back and focus on practice. On that day today meditation. On power and that is called evasion of mental states. Particularly among soon man's. We have a responsibility to ourselves to make sure. That we renounce since. That people who are giving up their well. Giving up the business agitation. In particularly, if Amongst Simmons, who are very helpful and giving of time to others. Need to make sure that as an opportunity h here. FOR RETRIEVE AND PEACE! And turning away from the wild. Focusing. On? That in a practice. And also it's an opportunity. Fillet community to seek out. Time in their own lives, and make their own practices strong and come to monastries. In Mendicant S- around the world and and supply them with the necessary requisites of life. 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"Welcome to the ringer podcast network to the holiday week check out the ringer dot com for are july streaming recommendations and now it's just on the uss women's national team during the world cup and take away from an exciting start and be free agency also will into a regular podcast catch also makes it a generic favor chance rapidly as usual david you know what the journalistic term evergreen man okay 'em yes i do exist it's a story that kun a they can run on any at any point in time it doesn't come out right when it's done and i guess they cut the cord the connection you're drawing here's the we're recording this podcast a couple of days early so they come out on his regularly scheduled friday times on right this is being recorded on wednesdays but it could essentially come out anytime you could listen to it anytime this is what journalists do before holiday little survive right something that'll last right it somebody anybody could reach this is what we're doing here is just fantastic well it's nice to know that even though quiet leonard will almost certainly announce its regency destination as i crack open my third or fourth beer owned the fourth of july 'em there'll be can at least get some work done ahead of time there's some evergreen content that we can be proud of i wish i think you know what would be the media story where i'm gonna have to find the microphone recorder new opening like build it other day when dangelo russell got traded science get sold jeff visas goes to prison i mean what what is he a what would require us to get back and further bikes unrecorded do topped with this podcast yeah sadly i don't think you're gonna need a topper where we where we say a you know the the trump administration it is totally renounced it's a it's immigration policy and and so ignore the rest of the show but a but you know we always have we're the hardy perennial of media podcast this the press box the part of the ringer podcast network hello mania consumers welcome to the press box bryan curtis and david shoemaker of the ringer here lots to get to today including farewell to be tabloid iast tabloid reporter of all time the disappearing mike pence and clay thompsons unlikely tribute to print newspapers first david we should spend a few minutes i think talking about the images we've seen lately from the border on sunday walking castro astro u s representative and brother of houlihan castro who's running for president was touring the border patrol facilities in texas according to the washington post a these phones the politicians were there were confiscated castro managed to secretly make recordings and take some pictures which he put on twitter i tweeted are border patrol system is broken and part of the reason it stays broken is because it's kept secret american people must see what is being carried out in their name and let's run a little audio here this is not gonna be particularly meaningful but it will give you a sense of somebody video that a castro was able to get out of the border patrol facility by make that woman hear how many you guys know she'll get a lot more now they haven't been able to slow down and we also have to make sure that wherever that is whether you are you're what would castro's doing in that video is that she also holding up a handwritten list of names of some of the women at that detention facility that he had scribbled down a he tweeted they asked us to take down their names and let everyone know they need help you also took footage of the shower facilities which he called dank and dirty a said that many people there who debate over fifteen days is 'em said that a some of the women had not received their medication including one for epilepsy members of congress comfort them comforted them when the women broke down representative alexandria cossio cortez was also one that visit but afterwards she said there's abused these facilities there's these this is i'm on their best behavior and they put them in a room with no running water and these women were being told i see bp i drink point so why all this is particularly interesting david is because the american media and therefore they american people have seen almost nothing of these facilities to this point a lawyer told the washington post paul far he of journalists had access to the detention centers at the border where children are being held in filthy conditions those centers would not exist so is this a case of the media is barred in essentially politicians are temporarily taking the role of the media yeah i mean i think that's a good way to look at it i mean i'm it's it's it's obviously a subject it's kind of hard to to wraps one's mind around as far as you know 'em in there have been journalists have been there i mean they've broken parts of the story before but you know it's a it is eight and a lot of ways as you know the sound clip you just played you know evidence events to is that you know it's a it's a visual media right i mean it's it's a it's almost necessary have video to fully rap one set around what's going on the photos is done you know have have gone a long way to help but you know i mean i it's i i'm sure there's a lot of enterprising journalists who were stymied both by their you know both by what the government's letting them do and by the by the you know strictures of of print journalism or or whatever they're working with so it's it's a it's an incredibly difficult situation that say nothing of the morality of it you know i think far he notes in his piece is that essentially all the people who are trying to report on these centers are doing it secondhand at this point journalists that is they basically call lawyers and victims advocates and immigration advocates and say what's going on what have you seen these centers and then as you say used print basically describe it and of course that was supposed to be what happened here or a with castro he was just able to smuggle pictures and video out of the center a without you know kind of around the government and give it that vibe i mean this is i think all to we should probably think of this is kind of part of a flood flood of images and all of a sudden we have begun deceive the border a most strikingly in that has me struggling for a neutral adjective here is the photo of these salvadoran migrant oscar alberto martinez ramirez and his two year old daughter of alaria were lying face down drowned in the real 'grande taken by a journalist at love or not a the newspaper and then of course played all over american media sources today and yesterday we've also seen photos of from government investigators have overcrowded the shelters a we have seen ocasio cortez posting pictures on her social media of tiny little squeeze packets of shampoo the detainees were given cortez's also i think rhetorically used the term concentration camps a to describe the facility she tells john the cats in mother jones we need to repeat the terminal ourselves to be comfortable with that the reason no one was talking about it was because we had a custom door sells the depravity and sometimes you have to make people uncomfortable in order for us to do anything about an issue so it's sort of saying you know i really feel that this is this is all happening june essentially right this is the point where we finally got and images to match a policy in a policy that is you know striking offensive on its face but again almost hard to process without seeing pictures of it yeah yeah i mean it wasn't that long ago we were talking about or buddy chuck todd you know coming out against speaking out against a alexander okaz yo cortez the use of the term concentration camps um you know i i don't know how much mtv daily has gone into actually you know investigate what's going on there or even to address the the kind of moral catastrophe an end 'em you know the term humanitarian crisis gets thrown around a lot but i think that's justified justified term in this in this situation but but it's you know it seems like these photos without i mean these sort of the you know the photos and videos that we've seen 'em make that sort of distinction a main themes you sort of silly it'd be arguing over terminology and i think how'd you cortez makes a strong point about making people uncomfortable full deliberately and even the term humanitarian crisis doesn't really i feel that's one of those newspaper terms were just numb to at this point it is it is an edit and it cuts both ways in the sense of like you know there is you know the the the trump administration could talk about the crisis on the border 'em referring to it as a humanitarian crisis from you know nominally the other side of the argument doesn't really seem like you're arguing too much you know i mean they do you like you said you're numb to it and a in some ways this is they it's not a manufactured crisis the the the the causes of the mass migration are in a lot of ways out of the hands of united states government but the but the politicization of it is certainly manufacturer to a large degree these concentration camps if you wanna come that are you know a decision that was deliberately made by the trump administration and 'em end you know the situation i mean the fact that were arguing over this in terms of politics is just sort of mind blowing yeah it's funny about immigration to that a when i when i used to write about this a little bit it was always interesting to me that this issue is is probably number number one or at least in the top three of issues that have these striking conflicting often misleading images the league the public debate you'll remember lane before worthy twenty sixteen midterms this evening twenty twenty eighteen midterms the big image you could not turn to fox news or trump's twitter account and not see images of the migrant caravan an right in trump and his allies would used the word crisis the crisis they were talking about was crisis of people coming into the united states u s border being overwhelmed if you went back to obama administration the images were often that will win the you know the mexican drug war it wasn't a different stage and the images were often you know dead bodies in mexico an arcos and the the the wages that battle shown to american audiences often with the idea of a oh the drug wars coming into the united states if you're you know these near the things you have to hear the reasons to be scared of the border here the reason to be scared of other people even if that was almost never the case so i just don't know that any issue that i can possibly think of gets dominated by images like this i i i i can't even i can't even know i don't know what second place to be honest another big story from yesterday with a cossio cortez and representative norma tour as they said they didn't feel safe in border patrol facility in speaking of which there was a big report in propublica by ac thompson yeah and let me just read the first couple of paragraphs of that members of eight secret facebook group for current and former border patrol agents joked about the death of migrants discuss throwing burritos at latino members of congress visiting a detention facility in texas and posted they vulgar illustration depicting a cossio cortez engaged in oral sex with the detain migrants according to screen shots of their postings in one exchange group members responded within difference in wisecracks to the new story of a sixteen year old guatemalan migrant who died in custody one member posted a gif of elmo with a quote a well another responded with an image and the words if he dies he dies so in terms of in terms of illustrating that part of the issue 'em that was another big story again i think you and i are sort of at a loss for words here because i don't know what to say you know yeah it's sort of like all this come out all this is come out at once and i know what i think about it but it's almost hard to put it in the words yeah yeah i mean this isn't exactly i mean there's no excuse for those facebook posts and and for 'em you know any actions result from that or you know any any dehumanization it goes it goes on part of are you know in part of be americans who were running these camps 'em and it's not exactly the fog of war but but you know this is a we've seen this before you know in wartime situation and stuff the you know dehumanizing people in mass will need to this sort of in human response and then and it's just a terrible state of affairs that that will then here we are now and i don't even know it's either one of the politicians went along yesterday texas a house member i believe had a statement on twitter afterwards where he said something like i don't i don't wanna describe these facilities as not working because i think they're absolutely working in the way that trump wants them to work this is centrally a successful execution of trump's chosen policy rather than an unsuccessful execution of it an interesting way to look to the were finally getting images the show exactly what this was supposed to be in the eyes of the people who designed an you know it's just the again as you point out a second ago rhetorically or in terms of pictures we just haven't had something that's caught up with what the policy was and finally we have you know and again just were talking a few images of few snippets of video here and there something they're kind of matches yeah i mean i mean it's it's just sort of disheartening just to imagine the direction this is gonna taken i i hope i'm wrong but you know these were largely people they came here seeking sanctuary you know i mean this isn't something like like craven crude it's determined did take american low paying jobs and even if they were i mean just sort of shrug my shoulders but 'em it's not that it doesn't it's not that hard to imagine this being a part of trump's campaign in not aiming the pictures may change everything and and let's hope they do but it's not that hard to imagine him starting you know we we need more camps chance on the campaign trail do wonder about that because you know i think you know lock lock up the migrants is something that he's indulged in a lot yeah i don't know i don't know how that i mean putting aside the morality and we probably shouldn't but but just for the moment i don't know the the deck and survive these kind of pictures i really don't and i don't know how much you know we've already seen including those at propublica thing a lot of those 'em current and former members of the heat border patrol talking about fake news and over these migrant photos a doctor in those kinds of things but i don't know you know i think it's really hard and i think it's and it it'll be a sort of interesting gut check whether it's it's a lot easier to sell a certain segment of the american public on quote unquote tough immigration policy it's hard to do when you have those pictures they go with it by the way fascinating column by jack shafer and politico he a quote for my book by jessica fishermen a book with a twenty eighteen book called death makes the news about how they american media is much more either the show photos of dead foreigners then they are dead americans and it's really interesting fishermen did these studies where she looked at the coverage of hurricane katrina versus the indian ocean sue nami which which is right around the same time and found in america newspapers are constantly a were not bothered by posting pictures of foreign bodies but when it came to americans they were much more just in posting pictures of survivors and there's almost like they got squeamish mish about it yeah a fascinating thing in a schaefer says this common really change the way you reid about the newspaper i've got a rush limbaugh clip up here but i don't know if i really wanna hear it you know it's just him making fun of a cossio cortez how about i just i mean we don't need a play the clip but i do but but i do think it's it's it's giant to to to recognize that there are major conservative voices that are joking about the situation right so i mean so when we talk about the trump campaign trail yeah i mean like listen i i can't sit here and say that i am confident that you you know be american public writ large will should not and will not stand for this sort of thing 'em but that doesn't mean that like trump can get far enough outside of his you know his his campaign rally bubble to i mean i i still so i do think that like you know lock them up is is is going to be you know is a chance that would give people chanting behind it regardless of the actual the actual politically and humanitarian implications of it and the rush thing is shows the playbook which is you don't talk about the policies these but you attack aol see who is already on obsession obsessive figure of fox news you go after her an you sort of hope that the policy you know people just sort of forget about it or you know becomes this kind of vague thing that nobody can get their right mind mind around all right today over twitter joke of the week david where we celebrate a guy who was so obvious at all of media twitter made it at exactly the same time from the u s soccer teams victory over piers morgan i mean england to stay a when a goal is taken away from england england by the dreaded video assistant referee or vr or instant replay as we call it it wasn't overworked twitter joke to say vr i take back every bad thing i've said about you that one snared mina kimes pfc commoner big cat roger sherman andy ringers main twitter account and thanks depalma granite for that one a speaking of sneering everyone are we past the point where you just tweet ball don't lie during game just mullick where everybody just hits that at the same time ryan rogers that tweeted that it was a joke so obvious that all of ringer media made it exactly the same time since they've got a tate me nine michael bellman thanks to ryan rogers ryan patrick in kyle madsen pointing that out and finally after england lost two to one it wasn't over twitter joked around the brits already blue eight thirteen colonies leads so this is unsurprising thanks to argyle umbrella that 'em this one from india free agency and i only say that so we just could never used again but a free agency in india was supposed to start sunday night eastern time and then of course a whole bunch of signings were announced right at the again yeah and then of course everyone tweeted a there is no tampering it all and then in this obviously bruce so it's kind of like the one where we start this team starts wanna know and he said they're gonna they're on pace to eighty two and now let's just in that right now a young stu big little rise in pure stray hand percenting that a puppy a call and capper nick nike betsy ross thing which you might have read about on every single conservative website in america nike was gonna put be old betsy ross flag on a pair of airmax one quick strikes and capper nick who has a nike deal pointed out then it's often used as a symbol by racists a so nike took it off wall street journal broke the story it wasn't overworked twitter joke to write this capper nick betsy ross nike thing truly is a fight for the soul of america as so well so a i know and i know i i'm not endorsing it but it was everywhere thanks to bards against for that one all right david type of the notebook down since we have everything in the media world we're living i thought we'd say something about these strange case mike pence's disappearance this week i'm sure you follow this according to cnn he got on a helicopter the naval observatory yesterday went to andrews air force base and then got on a plane to prepare free flight on route two in opioid treatment facility in new hampshire eight percent the facility then walked down told the press i have i do have some bad news at this point air force to what's headed this way there's been an emergency that air force to never took off of course immediately the press starts wondering what emergency is a senior administration official told cnn this is not health related for the vp or president's nothing related the national security okay so it's not pence's health it's not trump's we haven't invaded someone or attack someone is not national security trump was also not seeing yesterday though he did tweet the logistics of his july fourth tank event which topic but it seemed to indicate everything was okay and then mark short who is pence's chief of staff according to cnn intensified speculation when he told reporters were asking what happened they would find out the cause quote in a few weeks so something happens yeah i didn't i miss the in a few weeks part of this yeah i was watching tv yesterday when this is going down edit it seemed 'em i mean it seemed like a national emergency briefly you know what i mean it seemed like there is something there is some giant story news or or you know catastrophe about the drop in them and then there is just sort of met with a you know a un i roll from from the vice president's office it's it's kind of hard to know what to make of it 'em presumably news will come out at some point in sooner than a couple of weeks the maybe it'll take some maybe it will have to wait for the the next the trump white house expos eight book the ticket published but this is just a really just maybe insignificant but just you know deeply weird moment but yeah my interest in it was the fact that there were sexually something in the world but we didn't no yeah that we didn't find out for twenty four hours it's really weird especially with the trump white house by the way where we seem to know everything like instantly by m when there's a hole in the news in then there's no answer at all and also the kind of panic like oh something happened at mike pence is still kind of america's backup plan did you see david these strange but touching tribute to print from klay thompson nick dipaolo who covers sneakers so the fourth of thompson is celebrating his lucrative new warriors contract by dropping eight pair of shoes that are decorated like a newspaper to thompsons pregame locker room ritual of reading the paper paper according to the following a if you see these shoes it's just newsprint and big headlines over it yeah 'em the poll also adds all buyers md newspaper theme sneakers this weekend will get a free one year subscription to the east bay times so that's that's true is that it's true yeah you get a new staff i the shoes that looked like a newspaper and then you get a subscription to a newspaper well it'll be interesting let me see the shoe buyers there a you become regular subscribers east bay times but i you know i can be helpful i guess is this the way do you think to save america's slumping newspaper industry to make shoes looked like newspapers like sperry upside are so looked like the new york times sorts of leader section maybe i mean by by a different thing and get a free subscription as many a functional part of the of the you know america's print media a financial plan for some time back tsp in insider but a but yeah i mean the chair if this helps then then then i'm all for it i maybe i would just totally missed the fact that they klay thompson will say a meta eddie ritual of reading the newspaper in the locker room before every game but i'm not sure that either it seems like maybe when you're when you're designing issues you should lean on maybe a slightly more a more well known primary personality although i guess like dancing funny on foreign trips is not you know did not eight a bestselling tennessee make but at but but yeah i mean i do think that a i do think it's a good looking to make a day i imagine there were probably be some ringer staffers rocking this in the not too distant future yeah i kind of want some for us you know you don't we don't we don't get too many a too many press diane's here what these sneaker department but there's these look kinda cool david firmly obits desk i want a direct you to an incredible obituary in the guardian ran a while back well but this sunday a press box twitter account for the historian norman stone a b idea i think at this point in history of these legendarily mean british show bits it's kind of more of a dream that it is and actual data day reality but this one hit it you author richard date jay evans starts about talking about how norman stone with a specialist in character assassination and then evans do it on his own thoughts about what unpleasant guy stone was how much he drank how he blew his early promise as a historian and this was the end of the globe it will give you a flavor of it journalist dolphin describes donors water britain's leading historians but in truth he was nothing of the kind as any serious member of the professional will tell you the former prime minister edward he was wrong about many things but he will surely right when he said of stone many parents of oxford students must be horrified and disgusted the higher education for children should rest in the hands of such a man then then there's a paragraph break stone is survived by his sons little bit fantastic work yeah will put that on twitter anyway that was a that was fascinating the other one that i wanna director attention to is that of steve generally v a who i think you and i remember seeing new york post columnist but was one of the most murdoch hockey in character's and rupert murdoch's journalistic universe went down leaving died a little over a week ago murdoch himself said he was one of the greatest reporters of all time and i'm gonna read a little bit from his new york post obituary i he got exclusive interviews is a deadly be who was by the way australian and you won't need me just say that when you read the rest of this but he said australian journo a got exclusive interviews were sir hanser han any boston strangler albert disalvo dissolve of the new york post writes also posed in the new tougher done libby who had smuggled a camera in the prison the story a still cording to the post you're done leaving tice three of elvis's bodyguards to reveal the singers drug addiction elvis fans were so mad they dispatched stay hearse to the new york post a pickup done leaving a still more come were not done done leaving punched phil spector in the face yes that phil spector a deadly be slashed his own father's father's tires because in his dad another journalist were competing on his story he dressed in hospitals scrubs to sneak into a hospital and interview the family of one of the victims of son of sam he says i lost count the number of times i posed as a cop a public servant or a funeral director word get a story a he wrote a column did so impressed the far right john birch society the name don't leave me it's american of the year despite the fact that he was not unamerican he beat abc's news is nightline out of and exclusive interview with jessica on remember just gone going to her house and telling a abc's driver the han had been taken to the hospital so they left and then he did he got the story 'em and this is the best part on a snowy nights you went to a lanes remember lansdale journalistic watering hole in new york of course yeah we're done leaving met the fiance of an australian journalist okay he meets the fiance of another journalist while his pals decamp to another bar cross street done leaving the fiance wound up outside quote humping in the snow arses going up and down according to a daily mail journalist as we were watching eight snowplow came up the street and ran over done leave these foot one of the journalists who is watching said done it was so loaded it didn't matter but was eventually taken by ambulance to a hospital where he was diagnosed with a broken foot farewell to steve done leaving a the new york post very and that is what is amazing and strange person and a david also wanna direct you to eight different topic also as it happens from australia which is invasions it never happened my pal russell jackson is one of my favorite sports writers in australia or anywhere in the world has written a new book called electrifying eighties for these outrageous decade in the words of his best writers a available wherever fine books are sold forty by the way is australian rules football for us but i did america right there's a piece of the book you'll appreciate this from nineteen eighty five from melbourne newspaper called the gauge it's written by trevor grant a it's about how australian rules football is gonna take over america the nineteen eighty five and i wonder i wonder i just what it is just shot this out because don't you love sports sports stories about how each sport is about the cocker america oh you almost almost feels like it needs its own collection i mean what if we had over the years poker sorted did it yeah actually sort of did it i guess really low level what else is gonna conquer the united states do we have like a rugby run somewhere in there sure i think cornhole is a new contender to the throne and that's a good one like bowling it's kind of it's anything the get like a cable tv run which a foot he did back in the day anyway this peace talks about the fact that there were some nike ads funding nike ad showing footage at one point during the eighties he talks about how the australian rules football had gotten any better time slot on e s p n in a and getting healthy ratings also how a man in new york it'd become so enamored with what he did he essentially got himself hired by as kind of a strange noises football's american publicist in which flooding newspapers with the ratings info and all that kind of stuff 'em also talked about how the letters he was getting were twenty seven percent of the letters he bragged were from women which is pretty funny but it's great in what i love about this to his nineteen eighty six when crocodile dundee comes out i would say they were wrong about a straighter football but they weren't but they were writing about australia australia wave taking over the country yeah what's kind of the wrong invasion right yeah but i just feel this is one of those great stories and this happens to be an australian journalist in this case but this is one of those great sort of sports writing tablets blank sport is on the rise in the united states mhm not blank sport is interesting or blank sport is funny but this sport is going to take over america america's is any journalist wants to be around at the birth of anything or the death of anything so that's kind of the birthdays well you know australian rules football so they still have a chance i i don't think i don't think the books closed on the australian rules football just yet maybe maybe maybe a name that doesn't emphasizes otherness would help but who knows who knows yeah it's it's also kind of a great example of the kind of a you know in of course americans are just as guilty of this too i feel like you know we've probably got a few of these would win baseball was in london this last weekend and you know yeah look baseball's balls invading another country it's sort of it's sort of works is patriotism to hey look even are strange bizarre sport is catching on in foreign land and so 'em so that's great stuff to some listener mail david 'em somebody's name football state of mine sent me a note when we were talking about media members last week and how they now due to job announcements whenever you leave a media job you do announcement that you're leaving and then you do in another announcement a week later the two joined a new company you two different things a football state of my notes of media members announcing their new job a noun as a new jobs there in be free agents were they write all caps sources i'm no longer a free agent i'll be joining so and so so that's kind of a bit now 'em this from j w who census some material for occasional segment on how people came to love guy fieri k feel rehab a j w send us a tweet in which feary put him put his blonde head onto spider man's body occasion being the new spiderman movie that just came out in used the tagline with great flavor comes great responsibility hashtag far from flavor town ahead that's great yeah so a b b b rehab a fury continues apace all right david shoemaker gasses and strengthen headline remember that story about smuggled finches earlier this week how could i forget yeah america's got talent you got it lister michael allen as how in the world was it not why the cage bird sings which is a pretty good this david comes from paul gibson pediatric oncologist in canada thank you paul a the headline is from the toronto star guard ready okay it's a story about canadians who make miniature models of various canadian cities okay you you know you i feel like you see these things at a state fair something like that a you go in there yeah yeah there's a minute you're seeing tower miniature scotiabank center and it's so detailed the chicken either both have the basketball court or the hockey rink in scotiabank bank center i mean he's spending largest i'm okay what is the toronto stars strain pun headline for eight profile of the people who make miniature canadian models oh i'm totally drawing a blank 'em let me just push you in the direction am i am i looking for a city name when it what what am i working off of here let's remember the raptors in kern it'd be champions the rams okay i can remember eight phrase are eight you know sort of slogan the raptors may have thrown around oh no oh wait is it is it we've in north with the extra e on the w on the we that is correct that has nothing to do with this piece that is so great though that is that is fantastic we the north oh my gosh you obsessive dreamers behind day seventeen million dollar miniature model of canada seventeen million dollars a that ran in saturday's toronto star it it says it's an eleven minute reid so if you've got eleven minutes a the north oh boy a let us bank a giving special july fourth of july fifth thanks to producer this podcast you're hunting cam chris all made of research david is back next thursday with a special guest hosting the two of us are back on friday see that david letterman have a good holiday you too they let you take back every bad thing i've said about you okay fact this is actually something in the world and ensure that we didn't find out for twenty four hours oh yeah it's really weird i think they know everything like sure but a window of the new david punched phil spector base just about those by her own
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Wait a second there are people are not going. It's it's not right Scott. That's not right. Somebody else owns everything controls everything. How do I get mine? Just wait is just wait. Is these days. How'd you get yours? Well you have to talk to the people who own and that's okay because his people will help you get what you want. People will buy and sell things. People people people do favors for you. People do all kinds of you know it happens all the time it. Listen if you've lived a life and you have you been around for more than just a couple of years. You're you're not probably thirteen years. Old Is in this program not see. We don't have thirteen years. We do have a few in the car right now. Hey how you doing the truth. Is that every single thing in life you've ever gotten his count about because somebody else helped get get it you ask somebody for maybe create something but still may be asking to buy it. They helped you make it better right. WHO said that? By the way everything in life is currently owned or controlled by somebody else dig back into your motivational memories. And who said it you in the back is you're right Zig Ziglar said he passed a few years back. Awesome guy one of the first guys that got me into this world. See the top the great program that was. How do we get what we want? Though if everybody currently controls it owns it. How do I get a piece of the Pie? Well it's about conversations it's about connecting it's about using your skill set to talk to people it's important you just can't tell people hey give it to me. You can't do that. You've got to persuade a little bit. You've got to connect with them and and the way to do that is what we call establishing rapport. What's your four very simply basically makes people you How do we describe Beswick? Here's the best describe for for me. I kinda like it. 'cause you're kind of like me. That's it when you get a report. We have found something that makes connect. That's it and you felt it before you probably been standing at the grocery store and somebody comes up right behind you and gets too close to you. There's no report there is her and at other times when there's just somebody you're like. Wow this just works. Sometimes it happens automatically most times. They're gonNA make an Abbot so we want to get into rapport. Because we're poor the more we get into before the more we feel like you know you and I just get along we understand each other. This is awesome. The more you get in life when you do that so today you're going to have some conversations that are going to allow you to get into rapport. How are you GonNa do that? How you GONNA get their hiking? Take a random conversation or maybe a conversation that you had scheduled for today. Maybe you went out and made an appointment beat somebody about big job and you would get report. How are you going to do that? I'll tell you how step number number one meet people where they are meeting where they are in other words pay attention to other day or their life is going step into their now. Don't walk in the door when he's having a bad day and just drill down and make it worse. Don't don't do that if I have a great day. You Might WanNa make it better steph. Another now figure out what's going on in their world other words. Don't focus on your worlds very every very common. We get people that all time. Give me a call or send me an email. And they're completely in their world and they're stepping into my world with maybe a a random email or random phone call and and they wonder why I'm like Just on his human. That's it if they were to step into my world and connect with me a little bit then I would pay attention if not not. I have no reason to neither do you step into where people are. Meet them where they are today number. Two what do you do after you get there. Well you establish something in common. That's it wow. has this been crazy for you today. It's so busy. Didn't have to be fancy but it does have to be something a common. There is something Kubotausa we agree on. Right you're gonNA notice as we go through this at agreements a pretty cool thing. So once we step into their world then we talk about how we have something in common today how about establishing an undeniable truth that September three made him where they are established jumping a common and then establish an undeniable truth. What would that be more holidays? Laser coming I promise you is going to get crazier are maybe it's man it's four degrees outside it's cold it's cold all over the country. It's an undeniable truth. Now it's the middle of July. That's not gonNA work. That's an undeniable lie but if it's the winner that's the truth so abolition establish a truth number four. You want to move toward an the idea that everybody can agree on. Holidays are coming fast which should get ahead and do some planning get that move toward an idea and we don't want to do that in two. We establish a couple of things. We're GonNa meet them where they are. So we don't ruin their day when Michael J. Better number one getting common. And then establishing truth what we're doing is establishing that report. We're going deeper and deeper the more we do that. The more we become the sane the more we just feel like we get each other that when you start to move an idea for do not walk in. Somebody's door and say hey. Let's no no no no no. That's just silly. That's why you get door slamming your face sometime. You wouldn't go out on a date and so you WANNA get married. You wouldn't do that would you. You'd have a couple of steps in between a little more rapport building number five. You WanNA bring a new idea into the conversation. Hey you know what I was going to get busy with the holidays but I have. I have an idea. Yeah I have a system that I think's GonNa work for both was we can. We can get everything is still have goals and play for the New Year. You want to see it. Wow if we take your time to get there. That's pretty appealing isn't it. So you WanNa meet people where they are step into their now. As I don't my solve all the time get out of your World Scott get into there's established something a common establishing undeniable truth. move toward an idea that everybody that table can agree on this move toward and had to happen today. Might take some time and I should do. Move Down that road road tour deeper reform bring a new idea into the conversation. Something that really elevates relationship surprise what happens okay get out of here tomorrow. I met motivation dot com with the members over there. We do the show five days a week. We don't commercial free. I don't talk about anything thing other than the coaching program. That's all we do there. 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EP 12 The 5 Senses - Creating the Customer Experience
"Welcome to the seven figure salon podcast. I'm your host helena gibson founder of straight hair solutions and creator the seven-figure salon academy. I am back with episode number twelve. Can you believe it's already been three months of coming to you weekly weekly with tips and motivation on the seven figure journey. I sure can't it seems like just yesterday if this is your first time joining us us. I'm glad you found us because each week i go over one of the seven pillars from the seven-figure roadmap that i created to scale my business almost twenty not years ago. Wow seems like just yesterday <hes> this week. I'm solo again coming to you from halifax nova scotia. I just got in yesterday and as you know i've had a lot of travel going on this summer but while i was on the plane this time i had a lot of time to think about this week's this topic which is clients so we talked before about who your ideal client is right so aside. I know we've touched on that but this week. I wanted to dig a little bit deeper because again is is on the plane. I was thinking about what what does he or she see sense experience when they come into our retail location hair salon office space doesn't really matter but when you have clients coming in we're telling a story and and really what what got me thinking thinking about this was i was listening to a great story about anthropology and what they have or call a customer story where they know exactly exactly who she is what she wants and so then it got me thinking about the last time i walked into anthropology one of their stores. Here's the smell the candles <hes> how they're available to purchase the layout of the store so then it got me thinking well what the five senses right and hauer. How am i using that in my stores while the first one we have is site right so when when they come into the store. What did they see second. One is smell. What are they smelling third. One is what do they here. It would be like music fourth one would be touching and fifth one would be taste. So how do we at strut not touch each of these sentences so i thought about the layout of my store which i really have put a lot of effort into both of my locations nations i think about directing the clients <hes> which way i want them to store not story which way i went to them to flow through the store store <hes> what's worked for me here as i go outside and then i walk in the front door acting like a customer and then and i look and see what's the first thing i see when i walk in what what catches my eye and i always make sure that that looks really awesome. Then which way do i flow so in my san diego location. When you walk through the front door it immediately guide you to the left to our hairpieces is and then around to the side to our wigs and and so forth so i put a lot of thought into the flow of the store does it feel natural natural. You know the the turning and so forth <hes> second thing would be the smell when i come in. What do i smile smile and funny stories. I remember a salesperson coming in at least five years ago trying to sell me a cent machine saying that even even starbucks uses them to control the smell in their store right because when i walk in there that coffee smells so rich and an n. inviting an illicit so many feelings because again you know smell elicits feelings. You're you know you're walking somewhere. New smell something specific and it gives as you a memory so i could see starbucks doing that if they made a bad batch of coffee. They wouldn't wanna bitter smell in there right. So what what are we doing there with the smell well honestly i may still have a little bit of work to do. There are fresno location uses one of those <hes> <hes>. What do you call it. It's aromatherapy machines san diego. We go back and forth with candles but i have to say we are not consistent with that but after thinking about this on the plane definitely that will be my first <hes> lineup when i get back back to that store is <hes> is when i walk in thinking about what do i smell right. The third one was hearing. What music do you play. If any well i can tell you in san diego. We just changed our music to this jamaican be. I don't know who who did that on our pandora but i've got to tell you the clients and love it and we feel like we're on vacation in there and i constantly find myself just kind of dancing in my seat or something. It's just got this really cool upbeat vibe and and that's what we want people to feel in our studio right. Is that beaten positive and again. It just depends on your business but what what do they hear when they come in as a dead silent because i can tell you if the internet goes out in our music stops i immediately notice the difference difference and the way it seems like the clients even act as well when it's totally silent <hes> so that's something to consider and then also <hes> are fresno location. I believe they play a lot of oldies and step so it really depends on where you're located. <hes> what kind of music music you play next one would be touch and i really do have to say when my sales background comes out. Touch is the most important thing <hes> whatever i'm selling. I make sure i get that in my clients hands so if i am showing them some extensions extensions i make sure that i kind of <hes> what's the word like play with the hair and then encourage the client to grab the hair. I put it on them if if they won't let me again i put it in their hand. Sometimes they don't want their hair messed up so i'll just say here touch this. If i'm trying to show the shampoo that they need or anything like that i most definitely put the product in their hand because to me and in my experience client takes ownership if i was selling a car car i'd make sure that the client got in the car test drove the car <hes> selling houses of course right you want them to walk through the house. Think about how they a stage it. Oh my gosh real estate agents their masters at using all of the senses with they light candles in the places you no. You're walking around. They stage them with furniture. So how would you and your family feel in that home right. Yeah i just thought about that. They really are masters of of using our five senses and then last would be taste again creating inexperience separating us from online fine so for us. We offer coffee. We have the syrups and stuff to make it kind of fun and i just randomly tried that and boom. I mean clients love it. We have wine white and red <hes> we offer champagne and sometimes on the weekends <hes> saturdays all l. have orange juice so we can make moses will have different fun like finger foods and always the funniest thing is i carry these red and white butter mints and i think every client who comes in at least takes one if not more and i was just telling kayla the other day this husband came in and he put a handful literally in his pocket he standing there picking up some hair for his wife when you know wash josh or something and he's talking to music hannity the credit card. He sticks his hand in there and put a handful in his pocket when he left. I told kailai said i think he was hungry and this was his lunch so it was just really cute to see <hes> so think about some ways you can use taste as well because again. We want to use all five because the more of those touch points we can hit the better their experience is and then the more apt they are to tell their friends or come back again and and just basically be raving fans and that's less what we want to create right. We we wanna make the experience in our studios or in our offices fun and exciting for the clients so you see that that anthropology story really got got me thinking you know and so i invite you to do the same and have fun with this and pretend again that your your customer how often do we we put ourselves in their shoes and walk in the front door. Have our team greet them. <hes> agreed us last week was it last week knows like five days ago. Actually right before i went back to san diego to come to halifax i was in our fresno location and i was role playing with with joanna our our lead stylist there and we do things like that you know because i don't want them to be raw. When they're working with the client. I want them to fill experienced with what we're saying or doing so again that client experience so pretend you're the client client. Have your team work with you. Even if you're you know let's say an accountant or something you know how. How is your intake process. When a when the client signs up i know i switched accountants and when i went and met with the <hes> new firm and sat there in the office and who greeted me and you know how how that made me feel to go ahead and switch after being with my previous one for gosh like seventeen years basically my whole the whole time i've had my business i had i've had the same <hes> accountant so i invite you to do the same pretend like your client how you're using the five senses which again our sight smell hearing touching and taste and i mean are you leaving something for the clients to remember where where can you do better for me. I know i think i need to get a scent machine and so <hes> i know it's a little short this week. <hes> i think i'm at like eleven eleven minutes but as i said i am in halifax. I'm dropping my daughter off for her last week of <hes> college a university answer. I'm going to go and hang out with her more but this gives you some stuff to chew you on a little bit and i would love to hear the comments what you're going to work on or what's working well for you. Even if you'd be so kind as to email me also any ideas that you have for the show any things you'd like to hear <hes> disgusted and go over and it's yes oh shoot me an email and if you love this week's episode cleese rate us and subscribe and until next week. I wish you much success.
Gregorian Calendar introduced - October 15, 1582
"This is Julie Rieger author of the Ghost photographer and Co host of insider's guide to the other side and I'm Brendan. I may not have written a book but in Julie's Book and you are the most gifted psychic on the planet insider's guide to the other side launches on but the new song featuring original lyric by Bob Dylan listen to bear on a Banjo on the iheartradio or wherever you get podcasts calendar year is nearly the same length as the solar year much of Roman Catholic Europe adopted the new calendar within a year but Protestant and Orthodox followed by October fifteenth on the Gregorian calendar with no change in the continuity of weekdays the church toes October so it could avoid disrupting any major Christian celebrations on the Gregorian calendar. No Century Year is a leap year unless it's divisible by four hundred this helps ensure that states were slow to follow the Protestant German states switched in sixteen ninety nine Britain and its territories made the change in seventeen fifty I used the Julian calendar into the twenty th century though the Gregorian calendar is the international standard some countries use other calendars and the day was October Fifteenth fifteen eighty two Pope Gregory eighteenth introduced the Gregorian calendar as a way to reform the Julian calender the previous day was October fourth on the Julian calendar to and from there more countries around the world adopted the Gregorian calendar until its use was widespread though many countries in eastern cast this day in history class is a production of iheartradio Hi everyone I'm eaves and welcome to this day in history class eight of the equinox according to the Julian calender was many days off from observed date of the Equinox in reality that in turn caused Italian scientists Allah wishes Lilius and German mathematician Christopher cloudiest October fourth fifteen eighty two on the Julian calendar was days five hours forty eight minutes and forty five seconds because the Julian Year was about eleven minutes longer than the mean solar year the a podcast were we ripped out a page from the history books every day today is October Fifteenth Twenty nineteen at least shorter than that it comes in at approximately three hundred sixty five point two four two days broken down that's about three hundred sixty five until the end of the twenty first century the Julian calendar is thirteen days behind the Gregorian calendar the Gregorian calendar is used in most of the world and that calendar reform was needed for centuries before the Gregorian calendar was introduced but previous attempts to change the calendar fell through two people have proposed reforms to the grand calendar. I'm eavesdrop coat and hopefully you know a little more about history today than you did yesterday a formal
"Welcome in to another free agency edition of the world's pod and listen laker fans have been waiting they have wanted a six foot seven forward forward from san diego who is on the free agent market who played in eastern conference last season they got him jared dudley congratulate yes yes yes no man it's definitely a dream come true being obviously from san diego going up there in the laker brennan early in my career playing for the sons and loser lakers in the western conference finals and then winning a championship you've always respect the organization what they're accomplishing it now in the later part of my career to come here and have a chance to compete for a championship caliber on eighty and hopefully possibly hawaii here a man will will class for well the jared describing how determined termine you were to play for the lakers i mean they're in a mode now where they're waiting for collide leonard they can't give up they're not gonna do a deal with anybody into their space they got a hold on to their max space i think you had some opportunities to get some deals that were above the minimum what links did you have to go to get one of those you get one of those roster spots is it's not even good freud people wanna play for the lakers you know i know people you might hear around that people don't want to start something like that we fought alway seen that has the best tradition in all of health professional sports when it comes to their championship someone did accomplish and so for me it's the amount of phone calls people you're talking to and 'em yeah i mean it it's one option another option i i did think about brooklyn what we accomplished in game two at an kyri the builder go bacteria such a good time i i know they changed so much like i think even before i left eight new guys on the team in those chemistry issues i know i could have helped damon mestre chemistry but there is not a team that that stood out besides brooklyn the lakers that something i wanna be a part of i made my money i've had success i've you know when it's coming mentor young teams but really i haven't had that one where hey before the season started if they championship contender that's one thing that is this mission from so to be able to do it so i basically home i mean san diego's electra laker nation out there so me this is home even though i'm from cnn about eleven minutes over the phone calls i've had making the people outside the south out of their first elsom doors but hey i just walked do it so i'm here at jared look if kevin the rat what's healthy and it signed with the nets with kyrie irving you leave brooklyn if kevin could've played this year i still i still leave brooklyn because the lundy it's about i'm not saying in niimi or what me it's just obviously you know it's it's a huge for the organization they get what they want but it wasn't like on you know when previously starting with a call hey you're working on this with this player obviously everyone knew they were going after as they should and it was like hey you know i i almost like stromer the hey we we value we need just i got i got a call from indra free agency i did talk to the coaching staff i did talk to players there everyone wouldn't be back out deep back in even after he sign those guys a day or two in by of now basically wendy get a deal done so i'll just say what's up a major priority maybe it should be you know they they got their two superstars and now they're rated go from me it's i i'm still picking picking the bron i everyone knows goes through him majority when he has the right pieces at anthony davis in will see what happens with co why but you know we'll have this and have a chance in the later part of my career is something i couldn't pass up jared how much to get a deal done with the lakers how much communication is there with lebron man i i would i would think a lot you know i i don't know personally get a deal done for you i'm not talking about i'm not talking about quiet with you yeah for me you you mean like how much how much how much how much communication did you ever the bron about hey all ron i wanna play there let's let's help help me make this happen some back channels for sure i mean everyone knows i'm very vocal guy very carefully furloughing you want lebron that the sign off on it you want him to to to to wanna play which you and it's not like a you know it's not like i'm gonna all star player but you know a beard part of a team any day now and you could ask any players players from honest it devon booker the john wall when it comes to the locker room i control on coral i keep it a p i keep everybody on the same page and and that's something i knew i could help with here i i knew spacing barnes so yes there were definitely communication once i got the okay lebron when he signed off on hey we don't make it happen when you look at this like you grew up in southern california you played you competed against the lakers you're you're second year in the league you get to a the conference final what steve nash in that group you losing six to the lakers who go onto win a title you're with the clippers for a short time you have been around what it is like in outlay when the lakers are really really good when they're a championship contender 'em where you just dying to be the just the field experience what that is gonna be like for sure i mean hey i don't care if you were in a laker fan you could have been a a bulls fan back in the day everyone learns vert team to win a key for a championship but the lakers if you take any player in the indie they will tell you laker fans dominate the posing rina's their fans are by far the most loyal maybe she has to do with the history obviously you have to what the winning they could be playing in boston they could be playing in milwaukee you were going to hear a laker fans they build a here that see their past all my social media is blowing up all the love is given we've had are battles i mean i know i pay some vance said hey you know what i've hated the liberal cornell not yeah i i europe for them but even more you're in europe for a chance to compete at the highest level in this league you can't you can't pick winning or losing you signed up for five six years ago when you tanya rookie contract every player goes through the most money after that and then once you hit you eleven twelve year you could pick that's when that's what happened for most role guys superstars is different now here's my chance to pick and i think the lakers de idea in l a way of of trying to get that third star getting collide leonard you've been in this league through the big three era a you've seen you saw come in miami you're there right when it was formed in miami a you've seen what gold state did a there's been some great teams during her time a co why leonard partnership with lebron james and anthony davis would compare historically how it compares so they heat but a little bit more on steroids and the reason why i say that is because you argue really have three of the top five best players in so i think the weight and brahma consider i think a little bit on the outs i mean if i told you these three players which one is the you know i h h d i a year ago you if you could you could have argued him being top two or three best player in the league hawaii leonard this you take a teen rena championship lebron is is agley speak self i'd say the difference with these super teams that have happened over the years miami was in a way kind of course just because it was three guys tried to come together different situations even though they were hated early on no early and then they loved the golden state super team that team is already super team but they were super team organically and you had kevin durant's the cheat code on that one and then they became impossible you know if the lakers get why like yes you're right there you have all the talent but it's different you know i signed for a minimum minimum guys you're gonna have have you know key veterans step up in big moments and it's not gonna be easy to get someone like that and so i look at it as a possibility that i think is good for the league when it comes to the revenue you need the lakers knicks good obviously in the knicks couldn't get it done and so we'll see if you know a co why decides pamphlets it's just better for the leak the jury you you wouldn't quite both grew up in san diego area from san diego go write a i think you've crossed paths with a lot playing ball there surely years right like you've you've we trained we trained a lot a burn the lockout here's what the spurs is richard jefferson was down there chase but injures maybe what did two and two and three on threes and worked out amanda see his game blossom i i would have never guessed it he i defensively yes i knew that one off instability has 'em either last year is going through san antonio and they're going through their hiccups i would i would be leaving the gym he'd be coming in at a bishop high school so definitely still quiet guy a guy that i know and talk to during the season to win the game in mesa california came when you're in california kid you dream about playing in california they know certain places you're fairly you're in nebraska you're in texas and sometimes texas might be about one people sometimes don't wanna be at home sometimes it's like the people you see what the new york kyri wants to go there yes you see kimber sometimes shy away not wanting to do certain certain things like california everyone wants to play california that's from here is let's be honest the weather is the best you could get as tradition has everything they could offer listen if you were playing in the dnb hey i truly believe you'd be covering envy you'd be you'd be more general manager well no no you you don't be one of the elite reporters covering him hey you you are one of the great gathers information i've ever met in any walk of life in yet everybody in the league is trying to figure out what why is gonna do an is you know with a lot of other players there's enough people around them and that they communicate with that even if you're not talking directly with american usually have a pretty good idea of where they are and i know you've been doing you're you're probing here because you you wanna know who you're gonna play when you wanna know what it's gonna look like there have you had have you ever had a more difficult time trying to get a sense of a player's intentions in free agency then quiet person with lebron 'em the bond that you had a difficult time where just you know what when he when he chose the lakers because you wanna championship i know some of the lakers the whole time but he was a even we joined the heat but the thing about co why is is really the quiet guy in so yes he has a he has his team as oncle he's got his trainer you gotta go you guys good friend in what's different about this one is he just won a championship look at a time lebron left liberal i looked at three loss city you when you lose she'd be like i how do i get better at what they're the best drama with the best last year however you know have you wanna slice it with the best in show and they have everyone coming back possibly so i could understand the conflict and people say you know i i love i love is in toronto's great city when the city's division you don't defend living there an and if you don't disrespect the people do you know the canadian so that is a great great country but when from california's different and you have to good california teams you know clippers were good last year made the playoffs after trading tobias and then you have the lakers should just added anthony di in co why technically from me player does not have anything to prove to himself of hey can't carry team is shown it so now it's hey he's at comfort is their legacy is family and so it's a tough decision but i know i know one thing this is always been a laker town i play for the clippers great a great organization nothing but respect for jerry west doc rivers hall of famers and everything we were chris paul and blake griffin and we were up three four seed the lakers make the playoffs in the lakers with the headline here that will happen it's just it's just the way it is you you you experienced that in new york work with brooklyn and the knicks win you're team was the knicks were horrible the shirt just horrible and and i wish i had better in and there is a great vibe in barclay like people who were around your team and watching your team people liked watching your team play but they still wanna talk about why the knicks so bad word the knicks gonna get it there's some comparible there right if there is some comparible i would say this brooklyn they've had stars jason kidd even say was a superstar one doing but i don't know if you could ever see a top five player like at that clipper team was in brooklyn and exciting like we were good you're nice story we played horford kenny anger come along i'm thinking right now with kyrie bring in kevin durant that place he's gonna be on fire like yeah yeah we know it's gonna be sold out the media's gonna be over in use that i'm telling you right now i could easily see it changing forget it's a different arena for one clippers still playing in staples they play in the lakers team it they sell beliefs you know what i'm saying the difference compared to what it is and so yes a knicks get a lotta love in you know it's it's one of the best rena xaver have massive square garden but i'm telling even without kevin durant watch the vibe there and then when kevin direct comes within choose three years that could be the only and be like oh who the knicks skin care taking kevin to re leading to a championship that's gonna be on jared where you around the nets practice practice facility and all the night of the commitment from kyrie irving kevin durant were you in the building that night i was i'm here now lay i go figure i i will say that but i i know goes on over there i know you know theology was in there and spencer and the training staff they did a great job in those guys in eighty two i thought the d andre right before they signed talking to him about brooklyn you know down just a good friend of mine and hey i told him all the good it is ninety five percent good over there for the best practice facilities in the league and living the city 'cause most players wanna leave in new york city and go there you don't have the drive an hour to westchester so new practice facility they have a one of the best training staff over there they have it's probably triples size more than any over their fifth fifteen twenty trainers from australia canada they bring up from all over show marshes phenomenal job great player development a kunia 'cause it's a hard worker they're missing a superstar that's what they were missing you gotta have so anyway so i total men you know he was talking about the knicks no kevin durant's out there make seventy bad you know us be honest the knicks are gonna be bad no we we i wish him the best i wasn't expecting good that's the funny thing as a business will be better when the knicks are good but you know they'll supercharged chose chose the right way 'cause the organization organizational stability over there i am i'm nothing but happy for the brooklyn nets you're you're role on whether whether collide leonard goes to the lakers they're not you know if he doesn't go so the lakers will start to fill out a roster they will sign instill the sign players into their space a an end with anthony davis and lebron james it's gonna be a really good team would lie it's gonna something like we we probably haven't seen 'em crusher right your role on that team and i i mean i imagine you yeah on the floor and and how you'll sit there but every team like that that's going to have have you're gonna be you're gonna become a locker room spokesman when the stars don't feel like talking although lebron always talks like he talks pregame he like lebron talks a problem as much as any star player a anthony's anthony's going to face it in a way he is not faced in new orleans like there's a there's gonna be an intensity to the scrutiny lebron had it wherever you watch believes in cleveland and miami but you're gonna have to be an outlet like they're gonna have to you're gonna be a guy who's gonna take heat feed off of them because guys are gonna go near locker you're gonna talk you're gonna give some good stuff and i think that is an underrated a it's even more of a i think it's it's always been underrated saying but i think there's fewer guys in the league now who get that the way their war when i started in the business through veterans you get that and i share a safety valve take some pressure off you're you're you're key guys and i i've ever asked you about this but i always sense with you you're keenly aware of it and like that's a place gonna help biondi you know the tangible things on the floor a lot of stuff that i see because i've been on good teams bad teams in other i know the lakers like they should get more press like the yankees i see when they say no during doing the game for hey why lebron that sitting next to his teammates it as a problem i'm gonna go sit over there no problem it's now it's not even like that because for one trumpy bad they're assigned seats and that's fine when it comes to that when comes talking to the press you always someone be honest be honest meantime until hey you're going through this again which i find herself you see when the warriors have won championships they they've gone from losing streak losing three four five in a row it happens when the brawl chicken shit happens you're gonna have to go through the struggle you ever go through five thousand dream on green which choking out or thrown issue at steve kerr the best teams fight you know jordan hating someone so you should expect the drama but it's how you handle it like i'm gonna throw in the hides behind it you you talk you move on and so for me it'd be to help put the locker room i wanna eat pressure off of the braun way all the he's about his basketball when it comes the anthony davis when it comes to being another coach on the floor if it's in practice helping coups ma a you know when i see told me fail what i see is adjusting could be if it's you know bringing energy how you you you can i mean obviously i make shots in this league knows who is this is pressure that's like respect anthony davis now in the man said he took a less he took less a lot less he could he turnover supermac succumbing to one to win it take on the pressure and that should be of lot you know you took in philadelphia series let's get back in the playoffs first round series against philli which was a really intense nasty series you started right from the beginning talking to ben simmons from before the series you got into him during the series and i could only imagine how many of those they're gonna be this year because you're gonna have to be you know like you're like a nineteen seventies eighties hockey player who's like you like who who's just gonna be a narrative to star players on other teams stuff that you're superstars can't get involved in that you're going to find yourself in it there's gonna be a lot of fun is a free oh man for sure i think about this to like that's not technically my personality but what i am as they as a haiku basketball player i see what the team needs effort that young teen they need to know the type of intensity drafted play a man's elbowing you and pushing you down doing cheap shots you gotta stand your ground and so i'm teaching these young guys hateful one when he does that you gotta let him know he's gonna keep doing it i don't care if he said at the accident or not he needs the filter to be both gift lakers if you could at technical that's real money spent and so for this team i look at it i don't going with any mindset i look and see what it needs to be but best believe someone's doing something to anthony davis or lebron james i'll be the first one is step up die he's my role is in my world you you always always told everybody these every guy you someone they have to protect the franchise yoenis what else would booker john wall bradley beal it only happens a different phases in that it's not that there's a certain roles still from this team is you wanna play cleaner play fun and it's all about jail in that i want you to the teams that have the most fun come together they usually when that dan jared this is gonna be 'em he made a lot of fun to be a lot of fun to see you out there that team will see what happens here over the next day or two width collide leonard you could be walking into a rockstar 'em in outlay i appreciate you taking the time out and jumping in with me tonight and a i know why we will see it on the road you're yes yes ma'am care way man saturday day for us quite leonard's that protects hit me on social media those sending a hit a referee buddy jerry talk to you thank you appreciate it thanks for listening to the world pot a big thank
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I literally spent more time planning and scrutinizing every single detail than I did recording the actual show the important thing to remember. Is that nothing and I mean. Nothing is permanent. You can change your intro. You can change the title of your show. You can change your cover photo. You've heard me say before but done really is better than perfect if you can establish who it is that you're serving and what your secret sauce is that you. WanNa bring to people's ear buds then my goodness you're good. I mean you likely have an idea of what you want to talk about and what your ideal audience will be like but really dig into your special sauce. What will be the thing that makes your show standout what's GonNa make listeners? To subscribe in tune. In what type of community do you want to attract? If these questions of your head's spinning I've a few straightforward steps for you to walk through? I just scroll the categories of podcasting disestablish where you could see and even explore your own user habits to dream up your ideal format. Do you like podcasts. That are a little more off the cuff in conversational or do you prefer to be more structured with different segments that follow the same order every single week. Do you like shows that have different guests every week or shows of multiple hosts so that it's not just the same person every episode. What topics do you WanNa talk about on a regular basis? And where would those topics fit into the broader landscape of categories in the PODCAST APP to help with this process? It's a great idea to start with your promise or even your mission statement and then reverse engineer the specifics for example if my mission statement is imperfectly empowering women to pursue their passions and build independent wealth. Then my broad category would probably be business right in some of these specific topics cover without broader. Category are female entrepreneurship marketing. Money-management personal growth women's issues. And more that's why you'll find me in the business category and then in the marketing subcategory. There are obvious opportunities to pivot and evolve. But I have my general goal of my podcast through that mission statement which makes all episode topic decisions so much easier for me to make remember to approach decisions about creating a Pod podcast knowing that you can pivot and you can change your mind or at it in the future but tapping into a mission of your y behind recording is the best place to start and spoiler that can also change and evolve and grow to nothing. I repeat nothing is permanent. We just need a place to begin. Once you have your category your mission and your goal outlined sit down in literally unleash. A- floodgates for episode ideas and write down every single one that comes to mind in a giant list. One of the biggest things people do wrong when they start about guesses that they don't think ahead enough to think of twenty thirty fifty shows in. I've seen it happen time. And time again someone starts a show and they have all this energy and inspiration the first few weeks. And then they spill all the beans and then life happens and as is customary with it fizzles out eventually and then they start to wonder what else we even have to say. And with that million dollar question goes any desire to keep up with the idea that they were once so on fire about. This has happened so many times. I'll see people that I love. Launch A podcast and. I'm so stoked and I'm ready and I subscribe and I tune in and then a few months in I'm like wait. What happened to that show when I go to click and it hasn't refreshing awhile so here's an example to illustrate this. If I were going to create a podcast instagram marketing. The tendency would be to share all the things that you know to kick off your show but really I wouldn't want to lead with an episode that contained everything. I knew on that topic instead. Won a niche down each episode to be more of a deep dive or a specific topic about instagram marketing. That would allow me to easily record ten episodes on the same topic. Without running out of ideas I talk about hashtags or doing episode about Instagram Stories. Caption writing images and more. So I want for you to be thinking a little long-term here so that you're setting yourself up for success from the very beginning rather than relying on inspiration to keep you going for the long term walk through a few important questions to make sure that you're ready for the commitment. Is this something you can keep going is a format. You've dreamt up supporting that longer vision. How can I share content? That will make it easy for me to continue creating. You don't need to plan out every single episode but you do want to think ahead and prepare for droughts and your inspiration because trust me as someone who is created for years and years and years droughts will come but you can overcome them now. The second step step numerous dose is to just do the Dang thing like sit down and hit record and yes. This is step two. This is not a Typo. I know it feels quick. But if you don't start now well you ever like really. It doesn't have to be fancy and you can literally just start by talking to your phone and doing ten minute episodes if that's all you're comfortable with or if that's all the material that you have right now seriously open your phone. Open up a voice and hit record. That's it the truth is you don't need a studio or the perfect. Microphone or a soundproof office. You just need to get used to using your voice in speaking to no one. I know it's on so weird. But if you're hosting your podcasts so low it's honestly not the most natural thing ever. I'll be honest. It's going to take some getting used to. It's probably gonNA feel weird. Invulnerable and supercilious. I just know that going in you can embrace it and don't let that Funky of talking to yourself by yourself stop you. I literally recorded my first twenty shows in my car with just iphone headphones. So don't over think this step allow yourself to be a novice because you are and leave room to mess up practice and just start to get things. Moving podcasting is sort of like doing an internship to learn rather than learning in a classroom. As you record you'll pick up more effective techniques and tricks and good to nose than if you sit and plan plan plan which is truly one of those things that gets better with time in practice. You can't read or think yourself into getting better here you simply have to do. And maybe you're thinking wait. Did she just say she recorded in her car? The answer here is yes and the funny part is I did it so that it could escape my dogs who bark at literally everything and so that drew wouldn't hear me recording because I was honestly embarrassed so I sat in my parked car in my garage so that I could still get wi fi hit record. I even brought pillows and blankets out to my car to try to reduce the ECHO. So you know I was like super serious about this whole thing as someone who has started a lot of things over the years. There's this tendency to want to wait to record until everything is perfect. You WanNa have the most beautifully styled podcast graphic. You WanNa make sure your podcasts name is perfect. You have the perfect studio sound quality. There are a million things you probably want but the truth is you don't need them. Do you want to look like you're the podcast or do you want to have an actual podcast because you want to have a podcast and you simply have to hit record and start talking if just starting in talking into the universe feels really weird and you'd feel more comfortable leaning on some sort of scripture outline look at the content that you've already created in other areas of your life or business? Do you have a blog? Do you have a newsletter. Even in about me page on your website that could be tweet to feel like the first episode of Your brand new show. Start with what you already have. While you're getting comfy behind the MIC if you put recording towards the top I promise you it is going to serve you better. There is a method to my madness. Because let's think about it if you spend all this time primping and perfecting and then you start recording. You're going to have an immense load of pressure in this unrealistic expectation for everything to be perfect in seamless. And I can pretty much promise that things are GonNa go wrong if you plan for perfection in axiom lesson that it's going to feel like a disappointment but if you can let yourself jump in with an open mind ready to groove and learn as you go you can only go up from there if you go back to episode one. I promise you you're going to hear that you can only go up from there and I'm proud of it I really am. I cringe and I'm proud at the same time but I mostly just proud of the girl that hit record with no idea what was about to happen as you look to grow in scale your business with a team systems will be key for both is excess of it all and for your sanity. Trust me when it comes to your system for filing taxes running payroll figuring out benefits. Hr AND MORE TRY GUSTO. Gusto offers easy online payroll benefits and HR built for modern small businesses with all the management tools you need in one platform. 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Let yourself rest peacefully in the option that you can change all of those details that probably feel super important in heavy in this launch phase. It doesn't have to be perfect in order to be published. I am a part of a ton of face makers or people are launching. Podcast and I noticed. They often turn to the group to get advice on which cover graphic to use between five slightly different options and I get it. We all WanNa feel affirmed by our community and our peers in ways and this gives us the confidence that people actually care about what we're doing and that the slightly more blue graphic is going to perform way better than the one with the green in it. If that's what the group says but hear me out pick something that you love and if you fall out of love with it within a year you can always change it down the road. The biggest thing to think about is how you'll actually land in people's ears. Where and how are you going to consistently promote each and every episode? 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Quite honestly it's easy to lose energy and stamina and drive towards the end but in reality the promotion part is just as important as the other parts promoting can feel more like an afterthought when is the last step in this mentally draining process of content creation but you can flip that and create distant for intentionally sharing and repurposing the content. You're going to be far more successful. Remember what good is your content. If no one is consuming it map your plan for sharing and re sharing an returing and reassuring your returing in returing your show to get your episodes into the ears of the people you've created for so there you have it. That's it for launching your own podcast and creating structure for it to be a lasting and growing platform for you that allows you to lead conversations and connect with people in a whole new way also connected people in a way where you get to be home. 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Jemele Hill on the Places Where Sports and Politics Collide | Larry Wilmore: Black on the Air
"Hello friends welcome to the trailer for the road taken with CT and bail i'm l. c. t. we've embarked on a massive world tour and are excited to experience all the thrills and boredom that entails to help us process our own experiences man's just unfit to be president period for a number of reasons you know and the way that i'm going to follow this impeachment it's funny how there there is this anti-trump conservative movement happening right now that's kind of i guess based over in conservatism sir about all of this than i am is nancy pelosi i'm a huge fan of nancy pelosi as you know i've had her my podcasts she's on my show i got to meet her and her husband at the time i think they decided to impeach trump i think it's been that long so yes finally thank you i haven't thrown at the wall and i just don't think that's why we shouldn't be president just because we don't like them or we disagree or we disagree right but i tell you who is it i wasn't on board with a lot of earlier attempts to impeach the president i felt you know indian tuesday has to get rid of trump or whatever everything's been shea president it actually doesn't you know and i know it sounds ridiculous 'cause you know how i feel about trump and everything but it actually doesn't make me happy you know altos she's not only just a great human being i've always believed in policy i've been a fan of hers for years you know she first became speaker she's gone under non it's about time and at the same time you know even though i say that in a lot of people want to get rid of trump and everything it really does not make me happy to impede this is fascinating you know so i'm fascinated by that in a it's something that i want to do more of on the show today have djamil helm so a little bit more about that in a second but i do wanna talk about this specifically about him peterman and especially the trump and one of my things about trump i just filled kind of ridiculing her saying she was out of touch and all this kind of thing let me tell you something nancy pelosi is very smart okay the attacks from opponents but attacks from her own side you know in fact people kind of left her out for dead a couple years ago before she regained the speakership you know the opinion of a lot of politicians but from what i know about pelosi i believe that she is putting country first in this over her party and i do believe trust we'll put country over party in this and i say follow pelosi if you're ever confused about something not know what to do just follow her just take her she knows what the fuck she's doing trust me on this you may disagree with her and this and that nancy pelosi knows what the fuck she's doing it i believe awesome so hope you enjoyed it guys i haven't weighed in a while i was like there's so much stuff going on what are we going to talk about but i think the last time i weighed him was before all podcast platforms in who runs against them but trump in my mind is doing all he can to ruin his reelection chances thanks or then republicanism something that i'm definitely gonna follow this year and i'll keep you guys up on but of course some fascinating i remember how rick right in this pocket who was amazing he was like he was a and maybe i'm alone and saying this and maybe you know it's my romantic view of some politicians which i don't have by the way i don't have a hiring so much he is he is he so unfit in so many ways and he so you know talk to him and she has her own pockets now she writes for the atlantic and we have a real good conversation recently just about her career and a lot of issues of journals now i believe that the democrats may not have to be trump that trump may end up beating himself tom george will in los angeles good them towards the los angeles amazing amazing thing to have you've never really taken seriously for the gravitas she has in the the institutional knowledge he has about their body she governs and the savvy she has that you know i've always felt it would be tough to defeat a president that has this type of economy but do the democrats getting the white house i believe and i think this is going to be the story that's gonna be happening in this next year it's not going to be an insurgent the wayne which governs it you know and i think now maybe she'll get the respect even from our own people in terms of what she's actually doing follow policy me as a democratic party yes they're doing this as a party and they want to get this person out because he's a republican but i honestly believe that nancy barn burner he was like a burning the whole republican down about this and it's interesting how divisive trump is in his own party the stable genius is such an unstable you know genius because he is genius in his instability you know i will give him that i believe one of the big areas where trump is dividing his own party right now is syria i mean it's amazing to me that trump adams i think we will be in good hands i've always i always hated the jokes about her and all that kind of stuff i always thought she was kind of belichick let's see the foreign policy right now there's so much nuance going on but it's clear that the kurds were undecided defeating aces with america abandons the kurds right now i mean this is the reason i it's amazing to me let me put this imp- it's not my agreement or disagreement with the opponent i don't know if we have that i think the closest we have maybe is elizabeth warren but i don't know if an i've been you know but a lot of people showed up for that is an interesting conversation i was happy to have it on my podcast it's it's interesting that there are and that israel who trump is considering several big buddies with them they know how important that relationship is for other reasons as well i have been following for a long time you know she sports broadcaster journalists she was an ESPN for a long time sports reporters where i i saw her she's my shown and one of the reasons is how he will divide his own party and this is going to be the key to convince me of transpired so i'm telling you this now as it's just happening this may be the first event that will this is the first thing i'm telling you that is truly divisive in terms of his reelection truly devices because not only do most people think it's and we know what the threat turkey is right now all of this as well there's a lot of stuff going on here but at this time in history abandoning the kurds i don't think anybody would suggest doing that he may thought so too this is one of those types of mistakes but maybe on an even bigger scale who knows what's going to happen as a result of this i i honestly am thinking that shit is going to be a relevant once we get to the finish line as long as we don't have somebody fucks it up you know that would be a different thing and i've been saying that based on the economy and i just been feeling differently later guys and i'm having a little hope now you know and some of this of course depends eh look i was not happy with obama did not follow up in his red line pledge with siri when they use chemical weapons for christ sakes i thought that was a huge mistake hey welcome back this one more thanks for listening to black i'm the air i'm touchy guys in a way it's been get trump out of office now people have been focusing on his personality and his lying and all that number said no that's not gonna matter people like him because of this i think you might see a lot of republican stay home and maybe in key states will see trump is such an asshole you guys i can't see people when push comes to shove and the wide ranging conversation she's awesome so let's do that some of these being enthusiastic for him even people that are happy they he's done things that they thank you know but we'll see this is my prediction and as i said before when talking about and this is one of those examples of it other was his callous treatment of nato in his not realizing how important the nato allies are as i'm recording this on yom kippur actually i'm recording this beyond compare i'm sure by the time you hear it who knows the republicans are actually write about russia swooping into that boy that was created absolutely right about him i thought it was a big mistake by obama even know what to say about it you know this whole ukraine thing is is kinda ridiculous to and the way he's into trained in it but i don't like his the way he listen to my britishness greg trump is going to be himself that's what i am now saying that democrats aren't going to be trump trump's gonna be himself who all right so that's when i said i believe he's an existential threat to the safety and security of the free world that's what i honestly think about trump in a nutshell all right welcome back how did you guys very special guests i have on that i would there's a lot of other things going on and i'll wayne in the weeks to combat guys it's almost basketball season i'm getting a lot of lakes of talk about black near one of my favorite people i always look forward to seeing her and television but now i see around the page which is kind of exciting she's contributed to the atlantic right now but you guys know from ES and i made it a point to curse on your show because i never got the curse on television before getting f-bomb off happening pursing nash you know on a primary level i think she has a lot of momentum in spirit and all that stuff on a national level i don't know yet we'll see we'll have to wait and see how that happens kind of makes this like i don't know it's it's a bar fight he's involved in you know the way he calls out trump you didn't have to do that oh he's joke on a putin right in front of them and now endure gone off in a good way not a bad new younger i was interested in primarily sports the problem is that the politics kept interfering and i know that it's very common a common refrain that had had a political been in that you discuss politics that's why i was so surprised it really didn't have anything to do with the language but it was just because it's a political show and wrong thing to do but that's different i think this is actually dividing his support i really do and i think what might happen this is why i'm predictability PIN and right now djamil hill is unbothered but she's in my studio and black and their djamil hill welcome black on the hair i really appreciate being here you also you hear now especially from sports fans i feel like political junkies or people who follow politics you know they don't say things like i don't want any sports in my politics they don't politics and sports and that you're one of those rare people that you inhabit both of those and you seem to do it kind of effortlessly we always interested in both of those things are mainly sports say that sports fans however commonly say i don't want any politics sports and it's absurd because sports is just inherently political you're participating in a political process or if you want a team to come to your city it's always been intertwined and i it's unfortunate but are one of my favorite people i was so shocked when i did your your late night show tonight show it was a lot of fun i was crap you know it's like we all we already hate trump you don't have to act like you're mad at him you know somebody needs to have vision and leadership all that stuff but we have a lot of people who throw everything in the political crock pot like everything is not politics like to me racism is not politics racism isn't morality issue not jerking metaphorically but actually drinking him off right and now this situation oh god it's such a mess so we'll see politics mixing with sports is sort of like it's a really lazy trope because what they don't want is politics they don't agree with mixing with their sports apple i often use is okay when you go to that arena that arena is funded by taxpayer money it means there had to be vote so as soon as you step inside an arena and buy a ticket era i'm sure people will say oh this is just another person trying to you know got up bloomberg obama but i didn't have a whole lot of who knows the world might have ended if one of their anchors goes on your show and suddenly people might get a sense of what their political opinion might be and it's funny 'cause you're kind of in that crosshairs of thing there's an maybe some of it is the fact that black athletes in particular started to be more vocal about their political opinions because of the things happening in the country saw a shift in in the administration then all of a sudden a shift was happening it became oh we don't want you know politics and river which is really kind of fun and has some very excited about that and speaking of sports we got mail hill coming up i think you guys are getting really really as a result of the administration so i don't know what was the chicken or what was the egg but during most of my career at ESPN sports sports in politics conundrum was not that's a great point and i think we've seen throughout sports history in particular there there have been commentators like him who have become part of the political story but i think a lot of that is true and i think the public's appetite for certain things changes over the years to you know they used to be a time when i mean sometimes opinions could creep in i mean howard and i guess because i had good hand eye coordination that led to me always wanting to play something involving a ball and so did you grow up with brothers now it's i don't know if joe biden is is the person either i just i don't even know if he can if he can hold up right now his gaffes have just out of control i don't know if it is it the people that changed our sensibilities that changed or is it the tone that says because i don't remember having and this is at some political hack trying to the democratic party has no no not at all no you keeping it real with your your opinions on culture correct right and then once we she lead us to the promising now whether or not we here's the remember i've said i hate to make this prediction but i think trump is going to be reelected you know do sports belong in politics conversations as a political advocate now i think culture is a better word than politics right yeah that's more fitting sal was big advocate of muhammad ali no one ever thought he shouldn't be doing wide world of sports when he was doing that i never heard criticism of cosell for doing that you know now choose people don't like basketball sorry but the lakers come in very excited about this i got a beef with bill simmons it's going to be another one of the ring and platforms they were going to do and so it just grew from playing and watching sports and so i just had kind of a real love for it so i played fast pitch softball in high school did you have one of those i was i was the kind of quintessential neighborhood tomboy and your sports nerd is at a sports nerd and my mother because i was raised on my mother's only child my mother's only child i don't know how sports kind of fell in love with each other but i watched a lot of sports growing up a lot of baseball baseball was actually by i in general so i remember this week in baseball mill allen i used to watch every week and you know clearly i was a kid without a life because if you can spend their entire saturday watching it was just like okay but there's some politics there you cover it you talk about it and then that's it and then something changed reared its ugly head how did you get in was growing up and so and she she actually she dated a couple like sort of former athletes or whatever and so dirt is not politics that's a morality issue so but everybody wants to shove it into the politics ben is like all that stuff doesn't belong right so when people say i don't want newspapers so that's how i fell in love with journalism is that i read the sports section and so it kind of collided together and some figured out that oh you can actually because there's there's some journalists sports journalist i think sometimes they fall into a couple of categories one of the categories this event you know where the type of person the he's bar those games are short so but i still you know that was during the time kids actually went outside and so you know in the navy i know i was i was a big tomboy that raspy voice yeah kathleen turner but yeah growing up is that i don't remember ever not liking sports the world has changed so much since i of course yeah it it's changed a lot and i guess that was part of why i was so surprised because even though i mean obviously your show was shocked ESPN approved it yeah 'cause that was back when i was still with this before the storm clouds it was before the storm clouds and usually very careful about is love and being from detroit i was a big tigers fan and yeah no no it was fine because the tigers i mean they won the the world in this country shame yeah yeah some good ones here too oh for sure yeah l. a. one of the great newspaper towns but yeah it was it was sort of being people like mitch and bryan burwell and terry foster like a ton i still name every local columnist that i read and it was a treat for me when years later when i was at ESPN asked mitch albom and it was a great like newspap- detroit a great newspaper town is a two newspaper town which is becoming increasingly more rare the least offensive thing you can do now you know in terms of censorship and what people want to hear any fan of course being a disney owned company now series when i was nine for your team and that's that whole to that's the perfect yeah and so it made me a broader baseball fan they know all the stats that bob costas has that type of mind were you the savant or were you more the enthusiasts where it's like no mother this is he was a columnist who just a brilliant writer but he also created a business model for sports columnists that was pretty lucrative i was super nervous and it was i don't know if you knew that but i guess to go a little inside sports reporters but you know they used to memorize those parting shots he gave their takes in really almost impose many times you know how they felt about certain things their opinions on what was happening and it was almost like you've got to read these columns support for a living this is interesting this might be something i want to pursue was mitch albom was he at the at the free reading mitch albom so one of the best sports at the end instead of having a teleprompter right and so it is at nah i knew that you know going in because they told me during that week and i was like it was tragically after he lost a young child it was it was a a treadmill accident that yeah that he lost his i think it was then i'd be able to tell them something yeah about and i didn't really think it was that big of a deal because then you you know to follow your sports teams you also have to renew author all these types of things interested it's one of the reasons why i love sports reports by the way it's i i fell in love with which you know i was like who is this sports reporter category as the savant because a parlor trick that your mother again raised by single mother and so my mother was dating when like personnel saw i think on ESPN was him and so i grew up watching sports reporters and i remember the first time i did the show so you know that even if you from their cities and he's got a you got the pulse of the nation right and so they had some regulars as people i'm sure into the sport did you play sports and i think he played in college godly i wish what did you say because you did play some played in high school he they would be super impressed that i knew that i would be watching the game and we know everybody on the field and so like hey can you name who that is so then it became like a thing hood and stuff you know playing tag touch football tackle football you know back flipping taking a doing backflips garages that was like me party shot was essentially like regardless of which nobody deserves this and so it's okay to feel some sympathy for mike tyson in this moment and i think i had to do five takes super encouraging john saunders who became a good friend of mine johnson under he was amazing gentlemen gentlemen classy amazing broadcasts yeah and he's kind of a had a lot of morality in his work without moralising in some ways you know which led some of his books and that type of thing these out there yeah mitchell got to work together doing sports reporters yeah that's great yeah and so he's the love and i said hey i grew up reading you a game changer the site is a smart taken this without being arrogant or that type of thing and take date of all the ESPN shows ever did sports reporters was the only one i was nervous exceptionally normal when i was in high school i had the a you know as fate would have it i walked into a newsroom because my high school news letting their personalities appear on certain things and yeah no i totally expected a no and i was very surprised that they said yeah sure that's fine assumed it was exactly like no no no you memorized and so i remember doing my first parting shot was about mike tyson oh my god this is a rentis for the encouraging they were i think the first people i did it with i think it was luca bob ryan i think in bruton and they were so i am an outlier in the sense that a lot of people usually wind up changing professions or changing what they think is their career goals several times asian obliged journalists was in detroit and so they marched us over there made me become a member at sixteen and maybe jay for those who don't know jane and learned about how to journalists was assigned a mentor learned about the business and the summer that i got that apprenticeship was the summer that the national social apor in detroit the highschool newspapers actually produced at the detroit free press one of the two professional papers so yeah it is they do a monthly inserted and they put one page of all the sphere i felt like i made it and did you first how did you get the job and ESPN do what were you doing right before they didn't went to michigan state yeah i'm a spartan in uh-huh and i and i believe i was the first one to go which was worse because i was like am i wanna go i'm the rookie on the show might be familiar with if you follow sports luca bob ryan you know some of legacy sports writers bill rhoden ralph the the late ralph wiley who was the first the largest minority journalism organization in the country over three thousand black journalists and so having that early foundation is what my brain and i was hooked and i knew that i wanted to be a journalist sports shirtless in particular and i they had a apprenticeship program at the free press i apply forward money and not just money to cover local teams but national things they felt like a paper like the free press which is i mean at that time circulation wise one of the top twenty papers in the country yeah right which is nice yes and you can make a lot of mistakes absolutely no you stakes aren't as high stakes not at all and my next job after that about doing because it was an institution and i don't know sports reporters is this half hour and a half hour show where some of the best journalists sat around the year where the michigan state was entered or not it was just certain things that they felt like their national writer or their writers had to do establish again national credibility so it gave me i worked for the college newspaper i have five internships in college i graduated when i graduated from michigan state my first job out of college was at the news and observer in raleigh and the people were like yelling and it was all this energy inc that it was like a total overload sensory overload absolutely they felt like it was important that they're writers established national credibility so i got to cover my first olympics and so forth tests yeah in greece and like a local paper eh oh i covered every single BC has national title game for the first six years of existence every single one which the final four and robust time it's always a robust time for college basketball in the triangle so was there for two years came back to the free press cover my alma mater michigan state football and basketball for six years and it was right at the time we're michigan state basketball became a national power they won the national championship in two thousand when i was it's covering a lot of women's sports and you know also vince carter was a big to him and antoine jamison they were the tar heels of the moment and you know when i was there along the way we'll be having conversations with peers idols and maybe a random to the road taken with CTN bail part of the ringer podcast network on all this training ground of learning how to cover big events and i as i say you're kind of doing it in the dark like no one knows who you are a different experience amy the confidence that i could do that so my goal was to just be sports writer for newspapers and that's what i did you really had a professional mentality early yeah very early on when i went to michigan state his daughter lost his daughter to she wanted choking on the on the treadmill i think one of the courts and and i know people have very polarizing opinions about mike tyson so the you're so great on that show it would miss that show because it wasn't an arguing show it was only a discussion but it was smart i love the fact that it was go actually damian spurt there you go we got spartan blood what did you do right after school and what was your road to ESPN schools in their newspapers so i was on my high school writing staff and the first time i had to go to the free press to to i put together paper i was like oh my god what is this place that i love it bring the beat and they went to four straight final fours and you know so i got to write and cover a lot of great things the BCS was starting and it was that was back when newspapers were spending her and yeah i mean it part of a lot of it was was nerve so that when i did that show that's when i felt like at least in the ESPN echoes was a columnist sports columnists at the orlando sentinel and that was my first column job and i actually never wanted to be a columnist i wanted to my dream job was to work at sports illustrated that was the dream job and when i was twenty two they actually offered me a job and i turned them down cutting out in laying out your process you have to think development i and the reality is in raleigh i was writing every single day i have one the two awards i was getting to tell stories that for somebody my age and with my limited professional experience in the business you don't get to do and columnists i'm for me the toughest thing was not establishing an opinion to me it was more kind of crash related things how to structure it how to condition in sports and those jobs and those opportunities we're just not that available but you know what was happening is there was a show called around the horn it's borderline right so so yeah i mean i i went to i wanted to work at sports illustrated and write these long long form stories of the human competing for you exactly because here's the other thing they also wanted me to move to new york city MA forty five thousand dollars so that was the other thing you are now yes mildly shitty because you have standards you can say that you know but the average person could oh so recognize the spark of talent in there and that type of thing yeah but it's yeah it's because you have standards you know the quality of that compared to what you actually can looking around and mike will dan i was pretty terrible column writing my first six months but again to your point you can kind of go under the radar be terrible and you're you're not as terrible as you think is about okay well maybe if i started on the ground floor eventually i'll write a cover story and i'll move up and i looked around at the writers had that's not how they got them and it would have been a parallel universe was amazing and patient and worked with me and i think without him and without the fact that you know i was in orlando were you saw columnist who were suddenly making all this money and you start columnists who are getting the book deals you saw columnist who are getting the radio shows like i said mitch albom you know this is the was and i i often tell people all the time is that look the money will be there and i know that's really easy coming somebody who already makes money but the money will be there when you're still into a brand and i said well maybe i should try colorado because i see all the columnists are the seniors at the paper they're making the most money and they're getting all these other opportunities ever sentence a little more pop how to how did not back into my opinion just say what it is like it was just a great editor a guy named john urva who dude that broke one of the most read books of all time in tuesday's with morrie he had his own radio show in detroit he was on sports report so he turned himself into a business into line and all these other killing i want to write like that you know what i'm saying so and there was a lot to learn columnist that's a different what's the toughest thing about being camille hill somebody who had decided to do then that would have been the way for that jamila get into but not somebody who had done what you've done up to now and i think honestly it's tissue when we come there and check other people's stories and even though they're the big name and sure manner it doesn't matter and sure i could i could rationalize or i can ideally worked through some growing pains and really figure out how to create something memorable wha wha what is the biggest difference between reporting a sports like reporting he was the guy writing three times a week he was every local paper has those sports column in he was that guy and so i was lucky because i was a little bit under the radar and i could any of it was a really good paper really paper writers because i was the third columnist i wasn't the one who was out front you know the columnists was a guy named mike mike bianchi are you know writing is a muscle got a tractor said every day nothing beats experienced in it's better to have sports illustrated to be being on a game in writing a column about it okay so so tell me the the real difference so they'll be the game story which i think has kind of died a death in the internet age but the the game story is that it's pretty much that symbolic how did this team win or how did they lose depending on what perspective you're covering this from and you know you at least me i would sit there you do play by play especially like say a game like basketball game runs it's so true i know it's cliche but it's true but yeah construct your beginning middle and end and the game is evidence of your premise correct and the thing that is in realize you know you're on deadline ours and they helped to put this all into context when you're a columnist you have to put an opinion on that this team lost because they don't have any heart this team occur unless i was staying in the security deposit like do you think i should be living in krakow even crack out that might have been not enough money wind because you know at the end of the day this is their best player and when there's a big moment he showed up it's just a little more forceful so you start with the premise and you right around that person no you know such team x one hundred twenty two run you know fueled by jarvis jones you know thirteen point fourth quarter and so if you got like a nine pm college basketball game with five billion commercials and twenty million media timeouts you are just like please god let me i'm kind of context but every you know seemed like every second it was a different villain in a different hero and so those are really hard game stories to right and especially if you you're a columnist sorta like you know you can have a thousand opinions so the art of writing a game story or the art of writing a column on deadline totally i mean one of the game i'll never forget this game because it may have been honestly the shitty deadline writing over but when miami and ohio state played that albuquerque it's one of the worst injuries i've ever seen that guy's never playing again helmet right on it it was like those brutal and he was a projected first round pick considered to be argued the best running back in the draft and just at that moment it was like his career might be over you know that's what a lot of people were thinking that was a sad bar that's early in the gay willis mcgahee he he got hit his knee and his knee i swear it went from it we're in tempe arizona he got his heart and his knee i thought his knee was an that game was it ends on a controversial passenger non passenger or a pass interference call i believe and so it just that's what you the swing of emotion one of the five greatest teams of all time right willis mcgahee i mean this is a team that did not lose and again was amazing and but it killed every writer there sounds that people are watching go through sports writers go through to not necessarily from rooting for anybody you know ruin for please be over so i can actually put the story in one of the greatest clear creek translate quarterback for st that's one that miami team might have been i mean you there in the conversation easily adducing many times i can joke especially in late night television you have to go past the first impulse and you have to dig a little deeper what's my real opinion on this as opposed to what's the obvious well you know i think the example you gave about joke writing it's literally the same thing when it comes to formulating your opinion if people are sharing on appreciate it i completely agree and like how do you decide if you said sometimes there are different opinions you can hide you decide which one to go because folks you know especially when you're competing in it so when you're dealing with your opinion about something like tigers done as an opinion you know sometimes jokes exists you know it's just it's time to make this joke about trump it's just time and everybody's senses that i can't explain it you know and you feel like oh nobody this is going to be great and then oh california's fair play actor whatever about you know college athletes finally being able to make money off their name and likeness there's a billion opinions right pretty much say giving people feel for how the game went how the game went how the tone what was at stake okay and then you talk to players and coaches after national events that everybody's gonna be writing the guy imagine that because this recently happened as the taping of this podcast i know it did happen there was a thousand opinions about at that already and so you have to ask yourself okay how do i feel about this yes i agree or no i doubt why not is there some nuance within the why not that i can focus john as opposed to writing the same this is why athletes should be paid their exploited this or and this is where me being at the atlantic gives me in two thousand and one national title game that were to several overtimes the game was not over to one thirty in the morning those mazing that was an amazing game with marie claire at and blowout right the deadline in your profession is crazy it is it's also as something's happening almost drank some instance a kind of a special privilege i don't have to chime in on everything yes and so i have not written about his luxury luxury but when you're in newspaper you don't get that luxury in your complete skill set to just trust what that thing is in the moment you know and just go for it and dig deeper yeah i mean i've i've had it like in joke writing there are jokes that are just out there sometimes you know are are sometimes you'll come up with some of these others is funny realized five other people have come up with the same joke because and there's the angle you know and those are two interesting things like who's got the best angle and who's really got the scoop correctly a younger journalists all the time just because you're giving your opinion doesn't mean it shouldn't be reported right you have to report column because you may come with the premise and say okay you know yours is better than yours is written better or gets to people resonates differently with people or you can find just something talked to a different person you know catch russell because you know you don't want to i my my my entire sort of mantra was always i'm never going to put the i think team max defense needs to be better isn't better because their best player isn't performing up to standard so then you go to a coach and the coach mason in this relationship that can be kind of contentious sometimes between reporters who are giving their honest opinion honest quote unquote you know which can be the thing imprint or for that matter say something on television about an athlete that i would not say to their face right 'cause they're always it does seem to be a film to show you that shows you that even though he may not have the same staff that he did last year in previous years where you're more productive that it's really about the things happening around him and not about him tame especially if you're with him a whole season there is a different relationship that develops in the sense of like you get to know guys you know their families they get to know you a little bit there will be times right because you have to produce you're on a schedule you have deliverables you know if you're the columnists that has the right monday wednesday friday something's got to be in that space monday wednesday friday you'd the media as much as in years past or you know why they're more hesitant to give exclusives to reporters or you know this sort of thing takes a certain level of delicacy that's just not they're all that being said because they are exposed i think too much harsher opinions let's get tough when you're writing a column for national event because like super bowl columns right those are tough because everybody is you got one hundred million people watching this game and you make it work these days because athletes have their own platforms and because they don't you know they can skip the media and just go to they don't need buddy who did a nightly show literally part of what you do is reactive you have less time to be contemplative of something so you have to rely on all your skills as you know for the earliest the crazy thing about this game is that this wound up being a total sidebar the fact that you know you have you know hundreds of media members there the especially deadline you could dig and search and do all this but listen in the hallway like something that will bring this column to life a little differently yeah the other two things are being there's the scoop which you just kinda mentioned fans and that that velvet rope that used to exist it's direct is not there is direct guys are lot more sensitive now because these the end to get out their message or to build their brand due to some degree but it's just not like how it used to be that sort of dance has been lost so i understand that guys now don't necessarily trust that reporter subject dance or reporter athlete dance is that i think you know and i want to make it sound like old woman yelling at cloud if you can athletes that are coming up you know somebody like me i'm just a technology or social media immigrant they were born into it and so they have a totally different chat like instagram live that's three quarter and so you know whereas when i was growing up me in the folks from the neighborhood we were just roast each other sensibility it actually means something to that so i can understand as crazy may seem to other people why kevin durant would have a burner account there guy so it's sort of like you still have to report out what your opinion is to make sure you're not just coming up with some bullshit and also to be fair i mean to be honest eh or somebody else's or exact but they would never have this sense of like oh these people hate me or love me whatever but now they know immediately the the behavior of the person just get a little different when they're talking about something from a source like they're protecting someone's identity that type of thing tell me about aren't people hey what's the deeper story you know or or do you do you weigh the different opinions and that type of thing or is it like clear to you what that opinion is when you're writing in common ads are most of what you write will have been covered by somebody or via uttered by somebody us hope that in the sameness of this opinion in real time that people either love them or people can't stand them or what the mood is here's a question i have for you i i've always wondered about this in sports gotta agree with you won't agree with you know you'll go back and forth it may be times ebay cuss you out them not speak to you for two weeks and that's cool but you know you sort of get over it and is a story that they want out there that either that helps them formed their own narrative so you have to be even would sources you trust who are telling you so how important is that in the column writing also i it's important because even people that are standing by the way i it's difficult but i i tell the at that world sources that's a cornerstone of journalism is that you protect your sources but you also know source development that every source has an agenda so there's manner well well you just have to push past it and and what i like to do when i write columns is like i don't read other columnists who have written about the same thing 'cause there's certain a harsh sometimes yeah and now we live in detroit or were athletes can clapback sometime yeah but i actually think today's athletes the one thing i missed i think about you good information you always have to ask the question of why are they telling me information and why me why did they pick me to tell this information and what's the message got a bad thing and now you'll directly thanks to the team or something like that don't even know this you know like one of the stories going on right now is we're taping this i don't know if you saw this but the LA sparks right so so candace parker is they're trying to work out and yeah it can work for you for sure like obviously you know agents often leak contract information right or it is leaking where leak leak is said but i'm like wait let's go back nobody ever explains leaking because somebody just puts it out on twitter somebody has to talk in a you know seen designing gay so then it comes out that you know the the sparks GM when some tirade before that happened and was look how do you what is the nature of a source like in how do you manage a source because like especially like i'll watch i again and sometimes you'll see somewhat yeah so there has to be a direct saying of something utterly technology makes it out here so does the agent call the reporter and there's definitely narratives that they want out there and they pushed and they'll tell you stuff on the side like you know maybe this was it or whatever but it depends on the relationship the better the source relationship irresponsibly because he grew up it you know what i'm saying it means something to him their street corner is facebook why won't say facebook because people on facebook but they're street corner is twitter as leaked the idea that several teams are interested in my client tell me how this is what i wanna know could use the leak okay so how somebody's porch and they'd just be us that know about the millions of people just like whoa we saw we saw that and so they're much more sensitive on his mom going on his cap is a little tighter but there's you know there's definitely like any any superstar the locker room they got a negative tone said like hey this is what happened right so it just has blown up but those are the things that are the things that happened in like athletes they will tell you you know if you have a good enough relationship with them they'll tell you what the coach said they'll let me tell you why you know dropping imbaba everywhere cut it everybody out like is a whole thing now so now drop everywhere just like what what happens so of course somebody clearly a player ak g when they're saying like do they say this may or may not be going on right now to use language like that or do this okay it depends okay mega sudas AC sources told adam schefter like they know that information is they are proud i'm telling you a lot of my like yup i created of apps where like one of the ones i know a lot of reporters are on i feel like i'm giving away secret but whatever app called confide in this text messaging app and your it would be gone from the server and every so a lot of reporters uses i don't know how prevalent it is in the sports world but for sure it's a ton really went down and a lot of times the backstory is stuff you can't even cram it'll be joe so really what happened he hollered at his girl on the weekend you know assistance assistant who wanna be coordinator so they want their names soltys yes somebody has ambitious text message disappears after a few seconds they had something called tiger tech's win tigers and all that it was hilarious in your texts disappear you know in the WNBA some semifinals is i in she was she's one of their best players and she was benched and she only played eleven minutes in that game and there was like what you know there's a lot of athletes who you know who are really honest and have good relationships at the media l. they'll tell you what's going on especially if they feel like they're getting wronged but yeah like they they leak stuff all the time and i know people are often like well your our stand where they would do it you'd be surprised who loves being known as a leak who played with toronto raptors rb when you know definitely top three players in basketball right now won the championship you know and he was kind of cold you might be oh so may-maybe is my opinion too harsh okay show me what you get and then aged i believe they should i believe you're right because you might be they might be trying to the athlete you know it's like you know his boy or his like they'll tell you everything that you need to know and sometimes the athletes themselves like depending on up finding out and you're like i can't put that imprint but at least now i know what happens leaking wise i people tax jew or again if you have a good relationship with him the story might have leaked document now they'll just they'll take a picture of it but like i told you you know here's what it is they want to the right of denial yes they do and now the b. yeah the head coach head coaches do leak stuff i'm sure like to their benefit or whatever but the best sources are never the people the best sources are like ah the host swaggie can't even make up right like if i can honestly entire book just based off thing a political reporters on confide time has to be yes and so that's how you're sort of there protect yourself you're protecting yourself to some degree and you you know you have information it just based on things that happened on the quarterbacks that happen because somebody's slept with somebody they weren't supposed to write it so these days you unhappy they're fishers the coach of this for those who don't know so then it comes out yesterday this is why we can't be playing eleven minutes most kinds of superstar so is is is pretty fascinating i never would have ever imagined that something like that in twenty nineteen with all the social media is probably more like it administrative assistance definitely know like get to know the people in the office because court they will tell you all of it and then if it's a particular the people are having criticism they want to they want their story out there so i am shocked house in today's day and age like the ho- cohen leonard come into the clippers story how there was a wall around how that can happen in today's day and age i mean for those learner it wasn't until after the fact right so he kept a lid on it when ever he had his his entry point into that whole process but doesn't do endorsements really doesn't so he's thinks right now you know playing basketball i mean he's very singularly focused he has a pretty so is kind of like his guy or whatever so you know he so he's got a tighter circled on when he came well not so much when he came back to cleveland because i think people kinda got a little bit of indication but not up until the last minute and certainly when he went to me i'm shocked but he controlled which is interesting it is you know he set that rule down people followed it which is also extraordinary and look i'll say this i mean when when the stories like they kind of get off on kind of rely on those people oh yeah for sure yeah i mean you you know you knew there's a there's a certain pattern like when i was covering bullshit you here it's not so much a deep throat follow the money no sign that some of it is just like they'll they'll tell you straight out it'd be like such as got fired because he did i recall him being the first person that said i don't know why i think he's going to miami and this was just hours before the actual announcement was made about where he's going to go and with all whenever this stuff is going on there's always stories coming out some are true so we're not true you know i think some kinda wanna lead you down a certain road word you know and again but there wasn't anything coming out that seemed like a reliable information it was all conjecture and when it came out what he did address what's happening racially in america it's kind of a non sequitur to me it's fine to use your platform to say something but the NFL to me is not the target of that teams it makes sense because if you feel like what might be the difference between you getting him and not getting him you run your mouth you're not gonna say anything nothing but people around i thought they would've saw him meeting with somebody anything and nothing and look sane and no one from the people that he met with leeds extraordinary it is MB people i mean conjecture was all over the place and it wasn't until the day of i think it was christopher are now if facts who i heard some of it has to do with kawais personality i often forget what he sounds like he's like is he a who does an impression of lynyrd nobody because we don't know what he sounds it's not the NFL's down out arresting young that type of thing you know so i always felt there was a bit of a non sequitur in the back to me it should i don't think honor and it was just how well pat riley treated and how l. pat riley treat them and then of course then you find a little bit more after the fact but it's pretty impossible to keep you take on a is the cavern issue you know like where because i have so many different opinions about this you know and and i think there's confusion out there to about how people feel about this at this point you know my my personal opinion that i i think the NFL is not the proper target too says a essentially the job would straight off did they offered me a job but the job was essentially would have been me being glorified fact checker and i is that it was an individual choice that became a movement and it wasn't meant to be a movement yes right right it was meant to just as you say impersonal just my own personal choice i want to bring he wanted reporters have to ask him after the game hey why'd you do that so he could say as he did you know why he was doing it and he was very tight circle and as far as i know they're not a lot of there's not like a lot of reporters who are like this ankle work for his uncle some people disagreed with his premise you know so that's kinda my opinion on that so i think all the fallout from their starts from kind of a false premise yes something under wraps these days yeah let me ask you about some issues out there because you can't have djamil home okay and i appreciate you buy there's so many issues but the first one i wanted to get down and say look how can we help maybe wear black armbands you know once again like you said if this is about breast cancer nobody would have been upset you know but and that was shocking was lebron returning the cleveland was and it was just like really after comet comic sans day after he lost his shit when you left the super sensitive information they definitely call you because they don't want this shit on techs fit on the evidence evidence to be there depending on the that's why it's hard for people to know what side to be on some of them well it's no no i think what you said is entirely accurate and it really isn't lie with something i've said as well eloquent when he said repeated many times you think he didn't intend for it to blow up no there's no way he could have anticipated that it would because then what happens is other players ooh guest now i think he probably has some into christmas somebody's been league covered it forever and he's a lot of sourcing from cleveland probably knows the reporters have saying what does happen i've seen reporters take day how could we not know this everybody was tricked ended what was going on it's so much a protest so much as a calling attention to that's exactly and i wish there there in to me i don't know why the NFL never wanted to sit impression right or is like weird smile or baby is like his voice yeah i at least i understand what that was until after the fact right expose leaker his people unfortunately is either got laws or they just kinda wanna be intellectually dishonest about it is that it was a former army ranger nate boyer the same way he did decided you know what i'm going to kneel too because i believe in the same things that he does and her she said i said and then he was the backstory that yeah NFL job and it was a collusion case which is a labor grievance it was something that they settled though there wasn't like was there something that he win it or was there settlement it was a settlement tried to fight it city hall one he sat out serve the four-game suspension the fact that they chose to settle with colin kaepernick says everything about what they know they're real interest in suddenly a social justice issues to be a little fake i know they're throwing money at it and i get it but it's weird because of what you said about it was always accompanied with his method of bringing awareness to the issues that he cared about and it's also why now i find the NFL's his position his visibility his platform being the NFL to in not necessarily instruct but at least enlightened people about police no justice so to see them in that space and they're only in that space because they feel like it will quiet the players will stop them from protesting it's a very phil really should be on the hook for and again if they want to contribute to these issues and these communities and and help underserved communities i'm not i'm not negating and he understood collins viewpoint and you know really has become in his own right boyer's become someone who has been passionate about these issues and so he don't beat NFL tom brady face the league you know greatest quarterback all time he couldn't even beat the NFL he sat down when he got suspended four games for deflategate he guilt was they felt like he had a case when arbitrator didn't throw it out they were just like oh shit we're trouble in the case was concerning collusion to keep him out to keep him out of it the premise is the NFL does not run the criminal justice system they've nothing to do with why unarmed black people are being killed by the police and they're being eric reed who sued a who founded labor grievance and this is what i think is important to stress to people who criticize caffeinate for quote taking the money well one okay so it didn't obviously go all the way to completion which is very common were evidence is required that was very common in that but i think it's been known for a while now that they had you're saying that they shouldn't the NFL should absolutely be on the hook for what they did to colin kaepernick that's what they did that's what they need to be on the hook for what the NFL dude oh he knelt out of respect yes this after he asked about what's what's the best way for me to do that i don't want to disrespect yes because they had you know they talked pricing all these billions so we have chosen to sacrifice colin kaepernick for the greater good of our lead and for that they should always pay for that they should the issue in other words you know that the NFL is directly connected to this so it's kind of a tough awarded you ask for from the only thing to me is be on the hook for for that they should always be embarrassed about so so let me ask you this does the NFL because collusion has a certain aspect are you saying that the NFL directly colluded with owners and when we say NFL doing mean roger goodell think like he talks to owners specifically instead and telling them you know basically that if they didn't play ball and if they signed colin kaepernick there would be repercussions so essentially the NFL a few issues that donald trump has been able to gate widespread support for was colin kaepernick and he was going to use that he did and he did i mean that's why he kept saying his name rally they wanna told them like no you should you should take a knee it'll be better and colin agreed and that's what he started doing and then next thing you know this thing took on a life of its own and so he wanted to use assert himself that was so ridiculous it was kind of divide now people had to take sides that really had nothing to do football and not only one to call me they have they have killed his career is it a career in the the evidence is there they don't write checks to people they don't feel like they owe and so they wrote a check to him meantime said he's i mean people are young about this too divisive sorry don't want that over here well brutality and criminal justice reform that was pretty much the beginning and end of it and people are just like oh what was the action i mean colonna started doing social work justice work for a while so action so so goodell worker there you know and so here's a here's the thing is that i think the owners once they saw that it was ariss was i think indirect collusion i think circles those converts are in pockets rather those conversations were happening and people have to understand the roger goodell works for the owners they made a business decision and i think you know the new york times when the players the players who are you know also kind of protest and join the season saying you know calling NFL player sons a bitches and as we layer found out and this was a recent story is that he was calling NFL owners good there's the silent collision you know of kind of an understanding of something and then there's direct collision where you're actually ordered not to do something in writing no intention of no team has any intention of ever calling colin kaepernick again and the president frankly had a lot to do with it i mean you know when trump is had their bottom line they're hearing people yell and claimed that they're not going to watch the NFL anymore if they see any kneeling players and it was just kind of the perfect storm for some bullshit and so essentially favorite word NFL the new york times obtain some probably magic obtained you know oh wrote that check because they didn't want any more than stuff to come out and showed just like how how these owners thought and the late bob mcnair who owned the texas if you recall was a huge controversy because one of those conversations that got leaked to the media was when he said because i think he it was politically divisive they want trump to stop talking about them it was at a time where NFL ratings were down i do not think one plus one equals two in that case i think it was a lot of it is not just you know people who are trump supporters who are pissed off about colin kaepernick suddenly you've got a whole lot of black people who are real upset and running the asylum so he called players inmates and that set off you know his his best player deandra hopkins walked out of practice when that that report dropped they didn't want any more of that theo adage was understood lead not be said okay and i i don't think that you know NFL owners you know all thirty of them got no room said justice sided because the NFL has a lot of business interests that they need government approval for and they decided the best thing to do if we have the right one check that's better than the second dan you wanna use those terms i don't think those are fair words to us i understand the feelings of that but to me that can alienate fans audio and just based off what was starting to be reported cause some of these things were coming out and depositions of collins collusion case and you saw that's why i think the NFL declare nobody's hiring colin kaepernick right okay cool good also they did say that about blacks and baseball that's what i mean direct collision directly czar intertwining to me it's a tough one because it's not like the NFL has a redress for this like it's not a labor a player who was outspoken about colin kaepernick or players kneeling i can't exactly remember what the case was or just generally talking about the issue he said he didn't want the inmate eight with colin and the players coalition is what they're called like in the players who are doing social justice work when they met with the owners you know those conversations wound up being leaked look i don't know what you're thinking about cabinet big no way you can have been league or do you think NFL owners independently and somehow at the title saying hello but i i think they were more or less speaking to that and i could understand to some degree the the discount comfort with it donald sterling didn't help when it comes out with his types of attitudes and it's very much in that vein even though you know we know the yeah correct and maybe you shouldn't game four hours long and age where millennials can't pay attention for more than ten minutes i don't know but there was a lot of things that happened and so they're looking at ratings there's there's interesting thing that came up year or two ago and it has to do with the language some of it is in what you say it may turn a also are kind of the the worst perpetrators of that especially now a fantasy football you know to walk around and you hear people talking about yeah we'll i own such as that they feel very entitled labor you guys believe trust me i'm happy to get a time machine and take you were actually you know was like not a plantation i oh you got players and don't have guaranteed contracts so that dynamic and i i know people are just like oh i wish i could be paid as much as they are to quote play a game especially when it comes to black people because you can hear it in the language right you know when the white guys great at you know a sport it's because he intellectually got himself they're like oh he's so smart or right because if those conversations come out about what they're really saying about players and colin kaepernick behind closed doors then we got ourselves a problem insane but i remember some players had problem with the word owner great was a bit over the top change change the lexicon it's the i think it just we constantly undervalue what athletes have to do to be professional athletes people think and that's a little crazy to me because governors now but it's still tell me it's going it's way too much to find something like trust me this is not like degree when it comes to seeing them outside of what they do they have a little easier time kind of navigating that and i think because of the extra component of race you know he my favorite is when he's i got high motor those like loco words that they use the white athletes they'll never tell they can just be they might just be a great there's a lot of obviously black people know to some degree about how people feel but suddenly this becomes a all out race war and they certainly weren't trying to have that it's interesting because okay all right he works for the actually the teams pay him right he is funded through the league and so which obviously has a great deal to do with the owners it decide do i'm like just because you put in ten dollars fantasy league right you know you don't have a right to you know cuss out a player on twitter because he's not available hoosier yeah and i think what the players speaking to is feeling humanized and regardless of how much money you make you know what that feels like and i think fans themselves i mean you know black athletes forever have been disused as a source of entertainment but the moment that they show their humanity the moment they showed that like you can love my jump shot but you gotta get this blackness with it then it becomes a problem which is why outspoken black athletes tend to face far more damaging repercussions than those in writing the checks that you generally owns this operation i think it was just a level of discomfort that's there and the fact that you know in the NFL great white athletes but they always make seem like intellectually that's how they wound up in that spot where black athletes genetic lalor that's all it is to work it just wasn't an issue i'll say this as time has gone on i've seen jordan's lack of participation in social issues in a different way now there are some that there were her regardless of what they're getting paid like lebron james is making twenty million dollars a year was jeanie buss maker okay you know what i'm saying i always tell them like you know at other athletes bill generational wealth absolutely completely i can't agree with that that your success can be part and parcel of your reasons NFL ratings it does nothing to colin kaepernick you know it paid retired it was a whole pain obviously it was like come on man like when harvey gantt ran against jesse helms does most notorious racist it's like dude isn't that hard the thing is the face of the NFL NBA is mainly a black face now because the majority of the players and that's where those conflicts come in but i will say this i get that the number of all athletes have been treated that way yes all place that's really not a black issue i mean you could go back for years and i mean we had black players come out like curt flood you know who was the instigator of all that but all those athletes are experiencing that he was just the the one who invited yeah and that type of thing brand that you own you know and not just something given to you by an owner team craner that you can control the many players have done now from lebron too tainting jordan kind of stay away from that oh yeah i mean kind of that was the the bargain that he said i'm out of that bag yeah well they can become a brand but i think the broadest teaching them different lesson which is you can become that same brand as you can have that same jordan name IQ something you'd probably applies to a lot of things that's the whole point is that because black athletes have always been seen as the late athletes choosing hughes over what you go quote unquote white conscious whatever explain that because awesome is the right word but the blueprint that he gave black athletes in terms of becoming a global success absolutely it helped you know help alike and easy just didn't wanna wanna get that being said i do think the one where i don't know if act in the face a nike at a time where there wasn't a lot of companies into mistaken to have a stake in there wasn't a lot of companies dying to put you know a dark skin blacks thank you where that is but we know specifically what have you seen his dancing thank you oh my god terrible all these qualified q getting narrower fleas in america so that to me was his his legacy because all of a sudden it taught you know other black athletes about how the isn't off of it you threw me off yeah it's it was w is PWI's which means predominantly white institution tribute to kind of bolstering black empowerment on a wide scale level you know because even now even though once obviously there was desegregation you know even the way they have their companies now and the the way that they're extending themselves is really kind of inspirational for even young entrepreneurs you know people that want to join that kind of took a huge talent pool from ABC us not just sports but pretty much everything because suddenly black people could go wherever they wanted and man with a bald head and make face a billion dollar company yeah that wasn't a thing and so he made it i mean he was became one of the most likeable other institutions and how that could in many ways help to not just rebuild and revitalise hughes but also you know really fact that there is a black hollywood white hollywood correct this so but yes no you don't say but it for the purposes of this article because i wanted he's like forty percent of black professionals i mean they what they contribute to the american workforce is in terms of the type of talent they produces is pretty arctic nobody will blame you for doing that but also that that is directly political yes that is different kind of understand that as opposed to a cause but it's art museums i'm sorry strong thurman i'm like is it that hard to give money to see somebody
36. Conan OBrien Talks Conan Without Borders: Ghana
"Community air quotes around this phrase okay go free eggs yeah man clear but it's not nice because did you know that a cage free hen only gets about one there's gotta be some other alternative to tell screaming we knew it was gonNA with at least one hundred and eight square feet per head and outdoor access all year round on one hundred the grocery store visit vital farms dot com slash coupon for a special discount lent Hollywood podcast it is inside Conan and important Hollywood podcast and this is our season zipped by and we are and has been fun and I think you know what I think we've improved US I was gonna say that too no doubt no Oh and a guy whose name is in in our title not Hollywood and it's not it's not we're GONNA do some listener questions got a lot of good ones yes we've been for some reason seventh yup and so we wanted to talk about the we dot com right of course anyway here's Conan we're celebrating the return and your trip to Ghana so yeah that was fantastic it all lined up really nicely obviously those people listening other people in making these shows happen so I it worked out really well I was very pleased we've talked to before and who had spent time and gone like took a year off to just they you can see I think from one thousand nine hundred sixty four when Mohammed Ali everyone in Ghana turns out to see this great man Get off the plane I I was I kept thinking as the plane was getting close Eh Yeah my Muslim name I had to figure that out all the work so so in boxing ability to my boxing ability I got the let's just say I got the welcome I deserved he's an actor improviser sketch performer writer Sam L. Mary we said is there any chance he would come with me and he said yes he is your hang out with them in an airport you know airport yeah doors and and so quick I mean just just liked it he got I think he yes he and he hadn't been there in a long time since he was I've expectation that he's going to be my cultural ambassador and very quickly that one yeah he knew KFC KFC But when we can get someone who's showing me the lay of the Land Stephen Buddy who's as stephen as well really funny and Hart was similar to salmon that he is like I haven't been been hearing awhile and he he so that helps the cases I think they helped us say like Oh yeah like when we were transferred if we want it to be on a little cranky but he can eat six hundred eggs in one sitting that have to ym and not knowing what this is all about and being clearly upset about it and then we take breaks every now we're waiting for him to recover and then he's at back up again comb title disaster yeah he's not accepted by their country yes someone who their own country right in in an intern on the show who super excited from reach viewership near their cells he is obsessed with this shake. That's the trouble with your strange rifts Oh for a regular job you guys have a nice smooth are and and there's just constant and then Gowrali fo environment very peace talks about eggs I between the shooting of it and the and the together that it's a nice surprise for me when I'm watching segments after the regular show to to try to get a feel we'll edit down thirteen soon and then we were working on the show was going to air but then the goofy things that he's said or did ago but there was a moment in time when he announced you're right away before trump did seven other silly thing he i Jimmy Carter hit a rabbit with an or look it up kids it really happen inserted swaying directly towards his canoe and and ineffectual and he seems kind of you know we're not buying anymore and then there's this coming at its mouth and he's whacking this rabbit now Jesse I'm it would be a mean for a second and every late night show would do their quick that he would inadvertently fire a gun in the Oval Office and kill the prime minister to sounds so quaint but back to the issue at hand which is on Ghana I think that I I there's two things I really love about this Ghana show as we found when we went to Haiti there people that just are fascinated with my freckles it's like feathers it looks like feathers and then he was looking at my the immune system was failing I think people were worried that it was contagious sure sure also the you know the importance of Kins- who are descended from from from people hearing what it meant for them to come here they were so impressive but she just said how important it was for her to come back to Ghana and I don't think about it because you know it and I think I was the only white person there you guys came in behind me and it was I had this moment of this is how they look like and so I don't know that was that was part of this trip castles but basically fortress where they were they so we went there and you know it was I said would you like to go down and see the dungeon where four and it was he just didn't couldn't go back down there and I was like okay this radic theoretically it was v from fifteen or from sixteen o four Orion then you're here and you're like Oh my God oh my God it's very uh-huh why the trip to Italy with Jordan and it's all sugar calories and those in being and get to feel things that are that powerful and I mean that's the thing that's unique about these travel shows that we've done is we do find that a lot and try area I think we're all wearing but I'm very wary of being a lecturer I never wanna be that but there are it's not me a lecturing or talking a there were so many trips that we've taken in Armenia with yeah just as a human being you see me confronting past eh just amazing and so I like I like when the show at home where I have I always wanted a like an old ask uh-huh paperback Art of print out of print but you know whatever and my dream was a desk settle my affairs a stamp and deny people their papers because it's after five and I really Oh middle and you will maybe get there so I when I finally and and so I got a nice desk but one the reason I'm bringing all this up is that from my room is becoming you walk in there and you see what are these all unlike nineteen forty eight and nineteen fifty as actually post revolution so it would have been around the press it's oppressing and it says in Korea of the plot of the plane that we flew around in Greenland no one else has that no one covered that like the Florida vijay hole excretes the bone and it's not aw sticks it in like a Flintstone yeah but I I auden I bought this fan so I just started fanning this woman and you were useful ridiculous figure fanning her and I don't know if that's in the on instagram just because it was this ridiculous it was on a loop like a boomerang me and this woman's it's soon you won't leave that room it'll be dad well soon I won't be able to leave it feels great pain off high interest eating a lower rate might feel better and saving money feels even better my gosh you can listen to this you can get a rate as low as five point nine five anthony percentage and you want it to be low that's what I know right and and it's APR You could get a loan from five thousand two hundred thousand dollars with no fees no application apply right from your phone see that seems almost too easy it's making me nervous how easy new I is it must be legal draw one hundred thousand dollars down your chimney Ah tell a personal story about credit card oh boy I used to Ah yes and a lot of debt and I would have loved to have had a okay like Migra apply now to get an additional interest rate discount just for Eh S. T. R. E. A. M. dot com slash CONAN subject. Yeah Wow it's time to talk about the holidays taking closed mouth photos while everyone else's grinning ear do you have other it's a liners can help straighten your teeth faster than traditional wire braces treatment takes just six I hope he's not one of our can you hear this show in custom treatment plan then they show you a three d preview so you can see how your teeth will look completely invisible and they cost sixty five percent less than braces so so your vanity is doing good for other pizzas yes it's actually benefiting the let Conan to get seventy five dollars off that's candid. Co Dot Com yeah we were trying to think of some loved was we we tended to eat lunch really late every day I think would surprise most people is we work really hard we work around it's and this has happened in many many many countries were just like yes lunches this is she's no and and you do you eat it and you shut up and then you're onto the next it's called Papaya that was fried chicken you'd get like film chicken in fast food it's I think they've ever considered it fast food but it's nicer than we we had it and then I think they tried to give us something Sudan at the airport was so sad like instead of cocaine or it have you done your body that's all we have to say descriptive food like breakfast food I did you know it's funny I get on these different I get on these different get five not diet fad but just nutrition fad and I'll get really which means you have to have hundreds of small snacks during the day and so I had these packets of peanut butter and Jelly and stuff that that's what it's been twenty minutes and I take this package Jimmy my nine I'm not I don't WanNa do that anymore is wondering you're saying past no because I don't I I stopped I just I'm done I don't WanNa do that anymore now look that's I need to have veal veal cutlet yeah every eleven minutes well but it is I mean it's an incredible feat because we're all there and we then you actually have to go in front of the camera and be high energy with strangers frankly I don't know Kevin but I swear to God I have no idea really is he asked me to Jimmy Carter was I mean he is young young yeah but I would say the other thing that helps me a lot is having kind of a neediness funny with someone it really bothers me and so I think that's the thing add chills I get chills so bad at one point in that I couldn't hit the yeah of course yeah Dick Shawn on stage kids realized China giant giant theater and but I was I'm so afraid of those situations and I I can't Ed for that's a flaw in my character that makes no yeah I do have a you always find it as a personal challenge I think sometimes tried so hard and I think it's not for good reason there's some amount a two it just kind of crack things open right away if we you're jetlagged it doesn't happen much but there are times where we've been shooting remote in for golden you're not getting it and then there's this feeling of you know what let's walk away and and everyone goes and goes and gets shots at the doctor and and flights in cross time zones and land and you're there and you're like here's a shot and then someone's like we'll go over and get that guy's hat and then the hat did didn't work and then Jose will come up to me and there's a whole man on you can see that and then we're just all standing there with and sometimes you it's there always has to be I like my favorite is goal is not gold but it's it's found meaning right if this doesn't they never I mean we that never hasn't happened yet being still hold you're sort of on the precipice yes Mike Sweeney and I went to Finland this is before you were born justice but two thousand using trip this real happening and it's a long story but basically had become part of the news part of and it it was really fun and it was our first exposure to Oh my God I love Michael and so sweet I and our camera crew owner we and and Jeff a herd of reindeer so we walk out and just imagine it's the nothingness and then in the far distance you could see sitting there and they're they're just they're just standing there and you can barely make and sweeney deposits me next to the guy and then backs away away with a wide Lens they're like fifteen twenty feet away and and then Sweeney's Michael you heard reindeer and he's a a and I'm like those reindeer over the were an eye more snows on the way hurry up I remember I signed perfect comedy value no comedy can exist thing I learned from Dana Carvey but you want comedy compression you want to a small area so that laughs got it doesn't speak English and be largest open space available a eh it ended up being money I'm sure but well does we're in effect but I will give you a good inside scoop which is because people have inside stuff about the name but Mike Reese one of the great writers of the Hilarious Guy Mike the Arctic circle and there's a place that they say a Santa's workshop right and so Disney if you're an adult you get to stand with Santon ask him questions and it's a guy dressed like Santa he's from made it looks off to the side and there's a a framed picture there of the Santa with me I I can never keep you I just love that and I've had friends that had been to Cuba and gone snuck in and I I found this really obscure restaurant I went to the top of the stairs the first wait isn't sure who doesn't all right well anyway I'm very excited about we got very delighted I'd love to go back to Africa there's first of all it's just absurd you can't I I really love this episode and so I hope people we're yes I wish I had I had asked me a few weeks ago opens just avoid those polyps are no polyps congratulations yeah thank you they found going through the abdomen to get those for you well Saas I've ever had I I love that that you guys do this podcast I think it's very cool it's I'm insane dark secrets are spilling the show and I think ultimately that's good now we still work here towards him very good segments yeah yeah actually clearly I was in another room talking about mm-hmm I don't think CONAN talking to connor was enough that's sounds like a beautiful place based on the name and nothing else for that in mind what are the most expensive elements of the show is there anything that would be surprising from the viewer wear costs socks there is a prop Show we make a fake movie trailer yes based on a movie poster it's a long it of course that would be the Ghana show but anyway they said it was over break it's like just a heads up and we'll we'll get back a dinosaur full-scale is supposed to be kind of full scale the exact because they were rushing it yes even though we didn't need it let's just say I don't know if the money is the producer has had a field day I think he kind of relishes you said L. It's been debilitating for me so props cost it can really get up there which is actually why we ended up casting so many of our staffers exactly they just put them in yes and that's a lot of money down right so casting go into the actors lunch Oh that if you if you own schedule in my sketches ha character was a cactus plain we didn't start the fire on a violin we remember you're the one who doesn't remember Jonathan Day because not a violin embarrassing Jonathan to all that effort probing our usual trenchant probing political comedy and not you know stupid and we cut to that yeah so we had other those are all written by Andrew Weinberg with its arms up plane of flu it's pretty great and then so then he did more I think there I did yes so he he would pick a so an air purifier Oscar Oscillating air purifier that the day I don't even know what your question was but we talked about your litter what's Tax Kerr behind the scenes at that time which inspired the sketch that's pat from a story in your something since tear down the jazz roll up the yes carpet and yes and sting operation to catch his brother who is wanted by the law I want once he showed being too it's great that was by a hilarious writer who we've mentioned before the show Brian or not get paid so he came up with his idea uh-huh online and that is a classic that should be I yes
It aint over
"Welcome to the passion of the catalyst podcast with billy ply. Ben This is the show all about goals and dreams of you. Struggled with motivation and procrastination. That's exactly what we're going to help you. With on this podcast. Let's get going on the passion of catalyst buckle up. Well Hello Hello. What's up with you? Good morning good afternoon. How whatever it is today for you today is February the Thirteenth. Twenty and twenty. And it's an exciting day The for me but probably most people I should say. That might be stereotype in her. You know a little bit of skepticism. On my part of maybe. I'm speculating. But I bet if I if I was a betting man. Let me preface by saying. I'm not but if I were or was whatever the proper uses of words is I'm not sure but I would bet that About eighty percent of people who are stressed out of their free Kim Today worried about what they're going to try to do for their Valentine or gallon time. Whatever this thing is now is call it whatever they want nowadays. Whatever happened to the sacred Valentine's Day February fourteenth now has turned into like the day before and then the day up like what is going on with this. What is it a gallon says Valentine? What the Hell isn't anymore? Nobody knows a bitch. Bit of note is not play with that that that Gal tide is just the devil trying to tell you this okay to give stuff to gals. Then okay listen to your wife or your spouse or your girlfriend like going to stop playing society get you caught up in what you'll be doing. I look around saying Oh what everybody doing. Well they don't mean you gotTa do it. They're all jumping off the bridge. You're going to do that too anyway. Enough of that rent. I'm a little excited because for years and years and years you give a Valentine's Day has felt like a sacred tradition of buying roses and chocolates pajamas. Every other thing. And now some people want to ruin the time-tested heartfelt tradition by calling and other stuff for you serious damn them tick dimiss somewhere else. So Hey Welcome to the PODCAST. I know it's been a while since I've been on a been county in and out get some stuff going on The health wise and get my mind in a different place. I refused to do this. Podcast when I'm not one hundred percent into it and so that's why I haven't been doing as much as I would want or prefer to do but I refused to give you less than a hundred percent just like to do it and One thing that is really really important. Savvy is and I can't tell you how ugly and and how much it means to know that you took ten eleven minutes out of your day that you can't get back and I can't pay you for To Stop by hang out. Listen to podcasts. Really doesn't mean a lot That she would do that. And and and and maybe take something away from. This is my goal when I did this to help. People eliminate procrastination and also encouraging inspire daily. And obviously I'm not putting Avar Castle every day. It can't be daily but maybe you can take something away from this podcast. Today that will help you In the days to calm to tackle whatever it is that you're dealing with and life and there's gotta be a reason you're here like you're not just because you stumble across something and said Oh. Well I'M GONNA listen to this family Rambling crazy Loud on articulate rednecks. It's just going to drop a bunch of quotes and go on tangents about Valentine's gallon tied and all these different things is something brought you here. So don't feel bad about that. Be encouraged because just like you other people and myself. We are all looking for things ways tips and tricks and the you know the the big word now is hacks lifehanks whatever whatever needs to happen to help you get through the day in. Maybe there's a podcast for you. Maybe this is the one. Maybe my outlook on things. Maybe the view I have on certain things. It's just a certain way that you've never looked at something and it helps you to see it differently and for those of you. Who Don't know maybe have them. Listen that much I have an amazing story and I'm super proud of it and it's still. It's still going like to check. The book is not over. I'm about to go into another chapter in my life that I would have never thought was going to happen and now I'm in it like literally. The paper is being turned in the ink is about the hit the page in the story of me. And it's not over and that's what. I want to understand something today. Just because you had a chapter in your life where it didn't go your way or maybe it was bad for you. Maybe with retirement divorce or or whatever it is. It's not over like a few Bob Book. Let's say you got a book. Somme and there's a million books in there and you're looking for something and you find the one you want. You're reading it. You're so excited. You home flop down on your chase. Lounger laser board chair or plastic adirondack but every city. And you're you're reading a book and you get to Chapter. Just not that good. Do you lay the book down and say I'm done with this or do you keep going and say look it better? That's what I want you to get to. That's the that's the thing today that we're going to camp out and talk about the story that is you. Is that over because the chapter was bad or there was a couple pages in there with the plot in the twist of your store. You didn't like it doesn't mean you're here it's over for you. What it means is you're learning and you're in a in a in a time of growth that you don't even realize it all just stance on that when you were created. God bless you with a skill set and talents that they may not have even touched into tapped into yet the at the moment but things are being created and put in place for you to allow those talents skills to flourish. But if you're not in if you're not connected every day you're asking God show me what you're playing for my life would have then. You're probably going to miss on the blessing. Or if you know you have a gift and your using it in a way that is selfish or inappropriate or something. That is not pleasing then. There's no way that that's going to be blessed and you're gonNA flourish. I just don't I don't. I don't see how that's going to happen but I ain't you keep you can right now tell me without even asking. I know nothing about you. Whatever about a time where you were working hard and being super diligent tapped into whatever you what you think your passion is your skill is and what you feel really really passionate about and when you were in zone things were happening for you and it was beginning. Just you could see that. Wow this is really this. Is there for me. I could do this. But then maybe an instance where you use that gift or that talent. In a way that was not appropriate or shouldn't have been done that way or something that didn't you know. Show the glory of God through your skills towns and then all of a sudden it didn't work out for you and you know what I'm talking about. I'm not making this up on a random Thursday in the middle of February. We're at the halfway mark of February by the way And if that doesn't scare the holy if that doesn't scare you I don't know what else to tell you. Jay was just around the corner in our already have February thirteenth middle of February February. Second month the the the proverbial fifteen percent of the year twenty percent of the year is already gone. Can you believe it like? Wow what are you doing like? I don't understand how people think that time is renewable. Tom Is the most valuable resource that we have. That is non-renewable. You haven't you've been given oxygen and ability to breathe on this earth. The odds of you being a human being are one and four hundred trillion instead of being grateful and thankful your walk around pissed off. Because you don't drive the car you won't you didn't get the promotion at work. You didn't is you'd in that woe is me. I gotTA play martyr because everybody else whatever. What if you changed your attitude to to gratitude in watch what happens? Gratitude is the attitude that sets the altitude for life. WanNa soar it gratitude as your attitude. Wow I did a lot of ramming there on planned those pretty amazing so again like I said. I've been out for a minute. I'm back I I can't thank you enough for stopping by hanging out. Go out there and enjoy the time you have with your Valentine love on. Somebody hug him tight. Because you just don't know when your day is cherish every moment with the ones you love and care for and let them just know. Let them know you're thinking about you care about them. You see tragic events all the time things to say that fast and then you wonder to yourself. What did they say to each other? What were they doing? What were they thinking and You don't WanNa do that. Just don't want to have that on your conscience. I want to encourage you to hug. Somebody being kind be nice. Love on them and Look for more content coming from me. You will see a hell of a lot more over the next couple of months for sure. It is time to launch into the stratosphere and I wanNA challenge all of you today. I WanNA challenge you over there you you you to sit. Nova pissed off and you even way back in the corner until we meet again. Go Be Great. You've been listening to the passion of the catalyst podcast helping you pursue your passions and become the catalyst of your dreams for feedback and more INFO. Please email us at opportunistic entrepreneur at gmail.com. Don't forget to leave a five star review and until next time pursue your passion and continue being the catalyst of your future.
How to Get Unstuck
"Olsen intimacy that you're looking for in you the person you're looking teno and be known by any you i believe the depression is not happy that i believe that every single person of something unique in the world and that's why i want to create a show called don't keep your day job don't keep your day job about figuring out what is it you work years if you were in this world that only you could do to make the world more whole more beautiful at the stop selling yourself short sitting it out figure out how to take the things you love whether it's part of music screenwriting they are baking how would you love to do a life you get to contribute to get the do what you love old time not just about business it's about contribution it's about meaning that is will be speech that is what we truly want and absolutely here to serve the world and i wanna help you figure out just how much value have inside of you every single week we're gonna be talking to people who have something to add help you get out is a way to help you be more susceptible help you be the truth depression of new my name is cathy heller i'm so glad that you're here let's dive in thinks the gusto for supporting don't keep her day job gusto offers modern easy payroll and benefits small businesses across the country they were even named that's only payroll by pc mag get three months free when you run your first place but gusto dot com slash dream job hey guys it's cathy heller welcome back to another episode of don't keep your day job i hope you guys had a good weekend i just wanna keep it real and can tell you guys that i had a challenging weekend we were home on saturday in for a good part of sunday in we do go out saturday night i'll tell you about that in a second and we had dinner with friends on friday night but we spent the majority of saturday day and the majority of sunday at home an i realized that sometimes when were home and we don't know plans i don't know what to do with myself like i can be crushing it when i have like my book to write and the podcast to do and i'm running the business and picking up the kids in the car pool and doing all the things but when i stop and standstill sometime this wave of like sadness anxiety will hit me and i was reading this book the big leap and he was saying how we all have sort of this like upper limit on how much happiness we let ourselves feel an then there's this thing where sometimes the happiness feels a little but scary or like maybe you can't trust it and so all of a sudden will do something to sort of like sabotage are solved like have you ever had this happen where you're having like a really good few days in your marriage or with the person you're dating and then inevitably like it feels like too good to be true it feels like oh maybe were just like coasting now and then something comes along just screw it up like you'll get into an argument sometimes what this book is saying is that we actually do that to protect ourselves because there's something in us actually feel scared when things start to feel really good and we kind of bring it back to earth so to speak we sort of bring things down so that we don't have to be vulnerable and i was doing more rigging and i realize that i read something this weekend and that was saying how like we all have this empty feeling like once in a while that comes over you you're not alone like everyone has that end sometime in the best way to deal with that feeling of sadness or loneliness or you're just having this extra central question like what is it all for emi really happy is it really good all these big questions first of all i think people who are like really sensitive and people who truly feel things are gonna ask themselves those questions more then other people but i think in general everybody thinks those things and it's part of the human condition and so i think the truth is what i was reading it was saying something so smart like if you actually just layers breathe into that feeling and just name not feeling like oh i'm feeling like sad or there's some emptiness there's something coming up actually breathed into it right behind that if you breathe into it you actually start to feel this wholeness actually come up and you'll realize that this feeling of emptiness it's this passing thought an it's not it's not real but what's always also happening at the same time the two things are true just because one feeling is real doesn't mean that another feeling is also not real and then you'll feel this feeling of whole mess and i think that's a dichotomy i think that were all always searching to be more connected and i think truly the person we wanna be more connect with those are self and i just think that for me i was realizing like we all have old traumas an old ones we've been through and when i'm home i sometimes if i'm by myself it's one thing like i totally get intimated zone hiking arena and take a walk but if i'm home with my husband i feel like there's an expectation all of a sudden and then i'll feel like oh my gosh is this what i want is can i even handle it sometimes he's being so sweet and i almost like push it away it's so much more challenging for me or if and when my can sometimes like in releasing into it other times i wind up thinking like all of these self defeating thoughts like i'm with them right now but am i doing enough as opposed to just being able to be there in the moment until i just wanna keep it real and let you know that if you feel that way sometimes like you're not alone and it was really beautiful because my husband really made the space to make it good recipe home and he was like why don't you go take a nap and want you reader book and let me be with the kids and i really wanna just giving shout out i really need that you need to learn how to be here wherever i am instead of constantly planning like what's the next thing i'm gonna build what's the next work milestone where's the next dream home like all all of that i think is something that's constantly wanting to fill up whatever's inside and the other thing that dawned on me is that growing up in my house being home was always uncomfortable right like my house was not a comfortable place to be and i think i have to realize that my house is a home that's comfortable just sink into unrest into and it's a whole new journey for me an down yeah i just feel like that's my work in this decade turning forty it's like i spent my thirties building and growing and reaching an achieving and going there were totally treatment and having my kids and building my career and now it's like having it and really being home and being here in arriving at my own door so that is a little bit about what's going on this weekend also what happened this weekend is i'm so proud of my husband he's been taking steps towards thing that he's always want us to do which was right comedy for years he's been a lawyer lawyer and this weekend is noticing he's like working on some comedy stuff and i looked at him and i was like oh my gosh like were both creatives you really are creative like that makes sense that we connected and he's just been a person that for so long didn't ask himself what he really want it any did the more practical thing and i think part of losing his dad when he was a kid is that he had to grow up really quickly and he had to think about being responsible and he didn't necessarily choose to go down the road of following his dreams but i'm really proud of him because he's been posting a you know a joke every single day on twitter and he's been writing some comedy and he's been doing some outrage and i've been sort of like standing beside him and cheering him on as he's been reaching out to people who wants to work with and by the if anyone knows anyone who works for late night comedy show that is what he wants to write for like conan or jimmy fallon or something like that if you know anybody he'll do anything he's like i'm i'm willing to do any job even something downright insulting so full is really cool z other day he posted a joke that he wrote on twitter and one of these comedy writers but he looks up to actually like to joke which was kind of a big deal that he like found him on twitter and like did it made him feel so good so i'm really happy for him and and yeah so we went to see call me this weekend and we hung out with their kids and i feel like i'm in recover like just learning how to be here and be home and so yeah i'll keep you posted on that anyway so i'm so excited because i have something i'm gonna share with you right now which is going to make space rustic come together and connect even more so we're officially rolling out something called the don't keep her day job dream basler's do you wanna be a dream bath fitter because i think you do a dream bath fitter or is going to be a person who is joining this incredible mission this awesome cohort and you're gonna get exclusive perks 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warm in las angeles the summer we've been having they're like june gloom and i just took a walk with my daughter how many of you have cool plans for the fourth of july or for the summer coming in the chat like what's one cool thing that you're looking forward to doing in a eva start going to open my singing event last week and i went to a book music festival and that some of us so great i think it's amazing how it's easy for us all feel really isolated and alone it's so easy to feel that way and then what's really neat is that will will get her comfort zone and will go to something in me like one or two people what we really feel connected to it it's really beautiful and my friend emily mcdowell told me recently inside generation z which is i guess the new generation they're not paying first things much they're paying for experiences is not interesting i guess people feel like that's that's the thing that can knock your socks off more than anything else like an entire generation where everybody has like smartphones then we've got all the stuff you know and it's sort of like what do we really looking for overlooking the deal connected were looking at having experienced were looking for transformation and when emily s the honey smith goes on my podcast she did a ted talk all about how happiness is overrated and and she was talking about what people are really seeking and she said it's for things that really make us feel happy and it's really what we're looking for in one of those things is a feeling of purpose and one of those things is belonging belonging i thought that was really nice and one of those things as transcendence and she said some people get that from god and religion and some people just getting from nature she's like their people who you know you go out to the grand canyon and there's a feeling of something bigger than yourself is going on it's just that all some feeling so that really goes in hand with what i teach what i lives and what i was just saying about that feeling of juanita connect and also how it seems that are generation or or be generation right now now is voting voting from that place of i wanna connected experience that's what i'm looking for and that's really what i wanna do today so i want you to start by going into the chat and i want you to tell me if you could wave a magic wand an you wake up monday morning and you could be living the life you desire most what would you be doing an i know as soon as you think those kinds of thoughts right away you'll start to think about the how and then you'll be like well that's not really practical or dougal so let me adjust when it really desire to do and then i'm gonna ask you a second question in let's see where this goes so we have a first answers coming until laurie said i'd wanna be coaching women in then a someone else said are you traveling creating art from home to inspire others jacqueline and making six figures income doing music fulltime living in a beautiful house near the beach a beautiful writing for children helping other writers succeed i would be supporting others in their purpose to healing old patterns and helping women through the journey pregnancy elliot's at home schooling my boys spending time with my family exploring the world outside davis had writing my novels the how her half the time and connecting with other artists creatives on other magical immersive and connecting experiences i love that i would like to start a seminar about mental health of kids and teenagers this lady gaga amazing and ariella saturday lifter he's spending time in nature taking time just wear my passions and helping others discovered their own unique rid of magic i know that you love doing this i wanna be hosting workshop and women circles and working one on one with people okay beautiful love it all so next question is in this moment what's the limiting belief that gets in the way view creating this beautiful world painting by the seashore and helping people weaken their creativity in helping women in helping teens of mental illness what possibly get in the way of you doing this guide given work so laurie strode how could i get myself known so that i can coach they do not have time inexperience and talent not good enough to do what i want i can't pull it off i don't have the credentials inexperience perfect good not good with money feeling like i don't know the right people partly think i'm too he should have done it years ago oh yes not sure if i can build an audience amies entertaining as i think i am time organization focused life feels so cluttered and chaotic i just wanna be present i don't have the following thinking that i'm not enough i can't make it a nobody knows me i feel like there's so many stats i'll never make it through all of them and all forever be doing this for free okay so first of all how nice is it to know that you're not alone an i'm gonna give you a few things in no particular order the people in my life who are now like my peers right your now like my colleagues who has anointed themselves with these abilities intermission and do what they do it's simply because of that they gave himself the permission to do it and years ago a very close friend of mine david aaron said to me the only way you can help some someone out of a well is if you've been down there before and great leaders and great teachers from the beginning of time are never the people who come out of the top of the tower with all the answers you know the great leaders are the people who made it through that obstacle course and can look at you and eyes and say i stood there and that's why i can help you decide now i want you know something psychologists have been studying for years like what makes things move what makes the person connect what makes that were what makes the person start to be profiting monetize ing excelling succeeding wherever the words are you wanna use it's one really incredibly rare thing and intimacy this thing that we are all so thirsty for is intimacy that's why we love those movies where the two characters have these conversations and you theo them seeing each other and meeting each other and not try that change each other but sitting with another person where they are my friend emily mcdowell why is she so successful because she put herself out there and it makes other people say oh she sees me 'cause she's not hiding right so all of a sudden when you tell the truth when you stand where you are without the shame and you accept the fact you don't have the phd or then following or the whatever and you still have the courage to stand up and say i want a weed i wanna help i wanna teach i wanna create oh and i did in the world's other people around you start to feel this permission for them to step forward in their truth and intimacy is everything and what i want you to know and this is only recent and i've really gotten that you don't need the following when you think about that he said some people are chasing exposure some people are chasing more followers other people go now punisher said i love that so with me i didn't chase that not just like i think it was sort of like a freak accident you know like we literally put up are first show and i thought my mother what's going on listen to it and that would be the end of the day and instead apples featured at an amazon are like were and then all of these people were going and then two weeks later two weeks within the time a i got a call from a woman in new york thing you need to have a book deal you such i'm like you know i have no one no one i no no one like you you sure i was a girl niro social upfront a no instagram but i wrote music an i made a few fans in the film and tv world and they wouldn't use my songs having a following was never something i was chasing i didn't i wasn't cool enough an end you could do it a couple of different ways like you could try to get all these people don't know you and you could try to build a platform at an audience and like if that cloture vote do it or if you have this need which was mind which i just gotta get this out of me 'cause i wanna do this brother people do that but here's the kicker that is not an excuse that is not a prerequisite to you're going to you're working the world and it does not need a keep you from doing it we forget there's a very very very big world of over seven billion people and they they need us there's a lot of people to help and it doesn't have to be saving their life the number one thing that matters that people are dying for is intimacy so think about what you wanna create and then think about small groups one person six people let's say you create something something that's fifty dollars and you get thirty human beings in on that that's fifteen hundred dollars a week that wind whipping sixty five hundred dollars a month if you're fasting thirty people a week are you hearing what i'm saying can you imagine making sixty five hundred dollars a month doing something you love that is also creating beauty in the world and that creates intimacy so i'm all about like the new american dream this idea that it's like it's beyond say or bust it's like either i'm doing it or i'm not please don't because i'll tell you what those people cannot create the intimacy that you create look at the moments in your life that have actually a hundred percent if you thought like what what is the best advice you've ever been given what was the moment that you realize this thing about yourself or that it's going to be from something that's much smaller much more intimate it's gotta be something you did with a best friend or a trip you talk or a place where you were sitting alone where you've gone into me see yourself 'cause i'll tell you what they olsen intimacy that you're looking for is you the person you're looking ten no and be known by you he wants so much to know yourself and so once in a while we are in an experience or with another person that facilitates the kind of moment that is a bridge tell us having some kind of breakthrough with south and that's everything so what's incredible is a list was not known enough i don't have enough experience i'm not good enough i don't have the credentials i'm not an expert not good with money it's too late for me yeah i don't have a following i don't know the steps the take so when we go back and you hear that now or any of those things true unique credentials to create intimacy with another person no do you need a following him make a significant moment between you and someone else now do you need money to create connection and with other people know you don't you need courage you need to trust yourself do you need to let go of the shane do you need to let go of the story story that you need all of those other things in order to begin to do the work that is your is to do you need the story and here's why it is so convenient to hold onto that story because as long as i need the money to do the work as long as i need a following to do the work as long as i need credentials to do the work i am absolves i don't have to do it except that you know you do because it's eating at you and that's why you're here and that's the permission i need a hand you it's fascinating how every single person has a different calling a different kind of work to do even when they look similar they're really different because each one of us is different and that's what makes the whole experience completely different it's are temperament it's are characteristics it's all different we still need all of these new models of human beings can't just take one and it's because every single person has like the thirty one flavors of baskin robbins it's like the sixty four cran box it's like it's not just orange it's like the burn see sienna it's the color it's the tangerine we need all of these colors of the light frequency in fact what's really sad is that most people won't get this conversation and then apply it so we will miss out on most of the colors of the rainbow rainbow and will wind up seeing just a few and that other people will try copying emulate those four as if there's is just not so important but if anything they're gonna be like those four or most people people will get in line and work for those other people who have those four colors and they'll support those people doing their thing but what gives them the seat at that table they give themselves permission that's it that's all okay before we keep going let's just think are friends gusto sometimes i asked you to visualize yourself running a business at the highest version it could be and you being in arizona genius making and also living and now i bet that you're not visualizing some of the less exciting parts like running the payroll and filing taxes because let's be honest that is not the fun part but now you containing the chaos of payroll and benefits and hr with gusto gusto is easy online 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friends so who do i wanna take with me on the trip the three people i know who are perfect inner like i'm so good it's really good all the time and i'm good and my husband's good my cancer at all or 'cause i can't be with those people because they're not telling the truth n b it's not fun right like i wanna be with the people who were like i'm a hot mess and i'm like me to when we get together that's that's where we actually can be right because as long as you're a human being every single person is carrying shame every person has topped out every person's been through loss so the more you pretend that that's not true there's a part of you that just has more shame around it and it's like well i better protection because i can't even handle telling myself the truth so i'm gonna work really hard so if you wanna make a difference you don't even have it altogether now here's another big piece though i wanna remember what the priority is i wanna remember what were actually chasing when you strip it away and you ask yourself what what my priority what am i chasing under knees it's usually a lot of us are chasing a significant which by the way it's not a bad thing but what i'm trying to get at is i came out elway because i want it to be a singer songwriter and at the time you know when you're starting when you're just starting a massage this muscle what do i really want and what could that look like we only have a few ideas and the beginning of what that even could be how would even could trend transpire how it could show up and also there's only a few things modeled breath like the more i grow and the more world i see i see all different nuances all different little kicks in the middle between like there's all these kickers in between where you are and you know making seven figures doing the baking like there's all these other ways of doing it right so i thought i needed b singer songwriter i need to be like a sheryl crowe and then i'll get to be you know doing what i do and i got dropped from a label and then i got a second recor deal and i got dropped from a label and i i was like oh well i guess that's all i could see as far as my dream goes so i will give up my dream like were very like it's very black and white that my dream is only not nf it's not bad i'm gonna give it up and that was that's where i was and nobody came around there is no cathy heller tapped me on the shoulder go no no there's so many ways for you to do this thing that you do and what is it i wish somebody would have let me down and said let's she's out what is it that you love doing when you're on stage an if they would have done that we would have gotten to the answer that i get from twelve more years but they answer what would have been what do i love doing why don't wanna do that i liked connect other people i like to be creative i liked to sing i like to tell stories okay great great but what is the main thing you wanna do i wanna make other people feel cnn i wanna feel same okay cool is there any other way you do that oh that's an interesting question right so at thirty eight i started to think about doing a podcast and now it's just beginning in what i also realize is that a lot of people have studied like what makes you feel successful make quick decisions 'cause sometimes they're gonna be wrong but the facts you will go the wrong ones gonna get to the right ones right it's like take action but at the end of the day why i'm saying thing this whole story is because we get so locked in to these stories first they were the story of like i need have credential i need have expertise i need more followers all those stories and the other story as well the one thing i and if they can do their home you're wrong i have no dream now that just drives me crazy because you're not chasing a specific version of anything you're chasing the feeling you're chasing how you wanna feel you're chasing what you wanna do you're chasing the transaction you want to make the world knocking common a form you never even seen yet so let it go who's to say that you have any clue what it looks like so i want you to diversify right i want you to open up the sort of like open it up and look inside you know like open up the watch and look inside and look at what heavy elements that you're actually looking for you're gonna you're gonna tell me what it is you're gonna spend some time i would love you guys to do that an exercise i'd be like why do i wanna do this you know what am i chasing and then just like i said you don't need followers you could start doing this in your own community like how many people live on your block how many people living here in town how many people living on the other side of your social media that already exist right you can start to connect you could start to create environments manson events you could start to create products you construct transactions of you just showing up whatever those things are okay yeah there's nothing stopping you other than to end you make such a good case we're so what happened is are beliefs fuel are action and then are actions fuel the results and then that result reinforces the belief so if you believe that you don't have enough credentials or you're not good enough and therefore you don't take enough action or any it reinforces you're results right and you get none which then reinforces you're beliefs and tells you nothing happening in other years gone by nobody liked it don't do it you're an idiot but if you change the belief it'll change amount of action you take so if you create a more empowering believe like the one i gave you which is pretty scary 'cause i took away all your excuses i'm like you don't need to be good enough you don't need a following unique credentials you don't need money in order to create intimacy with other people so if that's the new belief and then you say well how could i create intimacy and do this thing i love if intimacy is what ultimately somebody is chasing no matter what why they buy cookies from the store why they brought the shoes firmness that's what they want right they want that so somewhere along the way the reason why they spent money on this thing where this experience with this person is because somewhere along the way this branding sending this message and created that intimacy in made them feel something people don't buy things they buy feelings you can create the belief which then puts you into action and you start thinking what is something i could not just start to do remember i said early on if you had thirty humans who paid you fifty bucks a week for something you could make sixty five hundred dollars a month that's thirty people we can go even smaller i have a friend she coaches three people an each person is paying her fifteen hundred dollars a month and she's not well known as she's really good at what she does and by the way the thing you also forget is that when somebody shows up and actually show up right like they're they're they're not apologizing for themselves and not seeing like this there like here i am an they're being present with few and they're not trying to prove themselves they're just like this is what i'm offering this is what i wanna create with you and they have a way of creating the intimacy people are in like they're gonna take a chance because again when you're selling someone something whether you're selling them a coaching experience or i'm just going back to some of the stuff that you guys talking about a group for teenagers creativity workshop you wanna sell somebody somebody this thing anyway you're telling people the result that they wanna feel right an why are you the one creating the same because i think that's the result is the thing you you feel right like why do you wanna help people through a feeling of mental illness because you know what that feels like and now you have this other result in your life doesn't have to be all day long but there's another results you wanna sell them on that that's what they're buying and so they may is will buy it from you there people like i said on my instagram you know this quote i put out there but there were people less qualified then you doing the thing you wanna be doing simply because they gave themselves permission do it does not kill you and not only that there's so many people who need need more so unless you're telling me in the shot once in the way what's stopping you from creating the life experience andy money any doing the thing you wanna do type it in be brave somebody sent me not knowing exactly what i wanna do and committing to it not known the stats egg what focused on first too many options it indecision bigger next up okay i'm do something else that's gonna blow your mind not gonna like it so i don't know that's a lie it's a big excuse as really comfortable i don't know yeah you sorry you do you have an amazing intuition an incredible compass you don't like theanswer 'cause you gotta get out of your comfort zone so you're gonna go from i don't have this this i don't have this i don't invest you okay she's right i don't need it but i don't know if i don't know i don't have to move but you do know it's the next viable place to put you right foot that's all you need that next yet so it's gonna look different for everybody so let's reid the new answers over thinking taylor's just killing it but it's exactly what we're cassie said there isn't a good one in all caps you're right chelsea said people people are scary that's true in the scariest person is us is the truth because people are so much nicer to us and we are i'm afraid of success robbing me my freedom is you're good juicy okay so let's look this stuff okay we're afraid that success is gonna rob you of freedom so that's really interesting one that goes back to some limiting belief around much success is you will always get what you want to look at a person no matter what's going on they want it because ultimately if what you want is to avoid pain more than anything else if you think this thing that you say you want but you don't have is gonna call you pain you'll sabotage it and by the that's what this book is a big leap is all about how this guy gay hendrix he was a professor at stanford an he had this moment where he just came back from lunch with a colleague and he's sitting at his desk an he was just feeling really really happy he felt like i love my life i love this conversation i love where i work i love my house i love my marriage you know like one of those moments in about five minutes after sitting in his office just dealing looking out of the campus the best looking at look like he's starting to worry he's like huh any thought to himself the heck did i just do why do i do and he's a sociologist so he noticed that right so talked to another sociology professor ron and he's like what is that thing do you do that in his friends like i do that all the time he's like should we research 'cause that's the thing i can't stand it he's like what is that soaking research it and he's down but there's something called the upper limit an we only allow are self a certain amount of happiness and when we get to our limit we will bring are some back down to earth or whatever you wanna call it will go back to a default 'cause it starts to feel scary and it starts still uncomfortable comfortable and it starts to feel like it's not sustainable so will find something to worry about so he talks about how we can break that pattern and he talked about how through the revolution we've gotten these like beer receptor and are we work them so much like through like people have you know societies have wars and he said you know you'll have like a a b economy is not then it goes down like there's been so much of this throughout history and so we're really good at beer but were not really good at practicing joy and had a stain it but this idea of you know six shots equals this and if i'm successful then i'm gonna lose this that's the limiting belief and that has to do with looking at looking at all of that stuff and then as far as like specifics effects and all of that stuff yeah i mean there's lots of things there's lots of resources out there where you can learn about specifics on like what's the best recipe for this thing you wanna create whether it's a cake pop or whether you're making you're you're shirt but i'll tell you before you make the shirt before you make a cake up like again go back intimacy because you gotta know who you're making it for but i think ten percent of it is the steps and ninety percent of it is everything we talked about today i would love to see if you could integrate what we talked about today an move into action you will find a met dumb because of intimacy is the holy grail so if you can trust herself and know the you don't need a ton of people you just need a few humans help and think of it that way as like a mission you'll find more purpose you will find momentum and things will start to take off all right well i hope you guys enjoyed that i hope it sparks you to get into the action in an unlocked here you know how you're feeling after that if you wanna share what's going on with you you can either dm me on instagram i reid all my messages kathy dot heller or you can always post whatever you're feeling whether it's a good thing whether you're struggling with something if you want some support support you could always posted in the don't keep her day job face the community so now here's some take ways number one the thing that makes us move that makes us connect the thing we want above anything else is intimacy number two you don't need a huge following you don't need a chase exposure you can do amazing work with a small group of people who need you number three the person you're looking to be known by is you number four it might be convenient hold onto you're limiting beliefs but what is a story that you need to let go of in order to start doing your life's work number five were not seeking a specific version of it were meant to do or seeking a feeling we wanna create a transaction we want what the world number six there's nothing stopping you other than you and number seven i dunno is just another excuse because you do know it's the next right step to place your foot okay just wanna remind you that we're doing this incredible dream basketball program and i would love to have you all be a part of it it doesn't cost you anything it is free come on in joining us there's so incredible perks there's going to be coaching called there's gonna be free swag you don't wanna miss out on this there's gonna be a lincoln the show notes will be a link at don't keep your day dot com and lincoln my instagram bio come on and be a part of the dream bath fitter if there's this feeling like something you wanna get in on you don't wanna miss thank you guys so much for listening if you haven't done so friendly 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To the truth of who you are, the power of who you are. And knowing that you are wealthy beyond measure. No the direction that we are going as a humanity is to be sole lead. Your Life, you know particularly in this this year of the sole twenty twenty, being the year of the soul, we are being guided and led to become sole operational humans. And as you allow yourself to be guided by this new truth that you are a wealth creator, you are abundant. And you let this truth awaken within you. What I would call the am -ness of you, then you allow yourself to enter into the experience of God. And the experience of a treasure. That's available for you. That you've barely begin to cap. The old ways of pushing to create results is expired. If you keep trying, you'll find yourself getting stock in the Matrix of limitation and an energetic system isn't going. Anywhere. That's the risk, even the danger of Continuing to do things what I would call the old way of pushing which comes from striving after results striving after money chasing clients chasing. Chasing impact rather than. Being abundant beginning, wealthy and creating that influence and impact that you want to have in the world sold leadership and entrepreneurship. It is the future and you don't WanNa. Miss this, you know. If you are committed to making a difference in the world, it's Ki-. It's essential right now that you land into this consciousness and allow yourself to really let go. You know to let go maybe up until now you've experienced yourself as kind of half-and-half. ow around. Yes, I believe purpose and I believe I have a soul and I believe that God is leading me to. A grander place in my life into my destiny, but then you hop right back into driving the vehicle of your life. Realizing that. Seoul lead is actually the only way that you will create the greatest potential of your wealth. Now creating space to become spacious. Is the key. And I'M GONNA. Talk about that more in the rest of this episode. It really is about. How do you become God? In when you know how to do this, this is the key to manifesting premier souls essence. I hope you're getting excited. 'cause I now I am. By the end of this episode. You. Know I I'm going to call you forward to get in touch with the essence of who truly are so that you can learn to listen to your souls message. For you, this will allow you to be focused on the right things in your business, and not on the distractions and you know. Do we have distractions right now? We sure do whether it's you know. A Corona Virus Cova, did the economic crises shifts and recession, and all sorts of you know mass media destruction, going on as well as perhaps your own personal distractions in life, because there's you know things that are moving and coming from a space of fear. Alright right so I just want to start off with. Tell you a story how I came to know about spacious nece and the power of allowing yourself to become. A space for God consciousness, but what I'm dubbing is becoming God. Well, you know when I first left the Matrix of limitation scarcity and I was recently thinking about this I, was on a run a couple of days ago and I was listening to a podcast, and I was remembering in the podcast. The it was an author of a book. Someone who would love to get on the show. You wrote a book called I'm corrupt capitalism and It was actually the interviewer who was talking about this. You know talking about the job market and how? One of the things that you could expect are the most. You might be able to expect an a job as two weeks vacation. And I remember that I remember when I had a job and or applying for jobs and getting the benefit package, and how my heart would sink. It would literally sink what I would see that that two weeks paid vacation and I remember thinking how cruel it was and I can see now that I was right. It is cruel. It's inhumane. This is not who were meant to be, and it's really not our mental live at the time. I really fought it because I thought well. This is what everyone does like you grow up. You get a job and you get your benefits package and you know two weeks in the first year, and then eventually will grow to four weeks maybe six weeks. If you have a really good job right, but there was something that a diet inside of me when I would read that. I would feel stifled. And while I took a job or two that had benefit packages like that, and you know muscled through struggled through it when I think about it now. I'm quite aware that really what was speaking to me was my soul. My Soul was saying I need space. You were spacious business. And the inside gets to be the outside and two weeks. Vacation just wasn't going to cut it for me to create space for my soul to speak to me, and for really for my spirit to be free. And that is what brought me into of course looking to know, how can I be my own boss? And how can I create my own time and time freedom and space as all I wanted was space. Can you relate to that? I know for many entrepreneurs. This is why we decide to step into the journey of entrepreneurialism. Is that we you know we just don't fit that mold. So coming back to my story on this is that that was the first indication that a career job was really not worth thought for me and that there was a deeper calling and that I'm someone that's designed for a calling. That is aligned with the design of my soul. Aligned with my spirit. Now the question for me. Because I you know I left the job market I just chose not to go back after getting laid off during an economic recession and I said no, not any more complete with. Path in my life. And I craved. I craved space. I crave time and I craved abundance. I craved juicy, overflowing amazing abundance, but I didn't know how to do that I didn't know about business the time it was coach a consultant and What I found myself doing for a period of time was really just creating a new job. And in doing that, it meant that I still didn't have a lot of time, and they didn't have a lot of space, and I was taking the part of me. That knew how to succeed from the space of a system, a matrix of money that you know that teaches you to work hard to make money. It wasn't until the moment until I received. The money codes that I talk about all the time in this show there when I received, the money codes that I got a wake up call. that. It didn't need to be this hard. And it didn't need. To be this way and that there's a new way to create money one that allows not only my soul to speak, but my soul. Live? In, my human created life. And I! Remember the turning point around that when. I was speaking to spiritual mentor at the time and I said wow like I. Really just get to create my day and I'm so excited. To discover. Does, my soul, WanNa take each and every day. Where do I wanna go from this soul freshen of myself, and allowing my soul essence to speak and I, played with it, and at that time I was really just beginning to understand the mechanics and spiritual science behind manifestation, so manifested a car, which was really cool I thought I was going to get a bicycle. That's you know that was kind of where my mindset was and my soul's. Car which is great right, and that's the way the soul works. The soul is always going to hold a higher space of abundance for you, then maybe your own beliefs about what's possible will, and that's the power right, that's the power in living a soul lead life in allowing your soul to be the CEO of Your Business now as a human being, you are the CEO Right. You need to take the action, but to allow your essence to lead will always bring a greater when a greater success a greater overflow of abundance. Then you may have done yourself. Powerful is really truly powerful. Now, some of the things that I do and I wanNA teach you as I started to understand how it worked when I allowed myself to breathe, and I got out of the tensions of doing and doing and doing and doing what I learned by being a straight a student, for most of my life Valedictorian in my class, and going to Ivy, league schools, and working hard when I gave up that as being the formula for creating my success, my impact, my influence, and the way that I pay my bills, and instead allowing my soul to pay my bills. It was a real learning, and I may be hitting home for some of you right now, because many spiritual entrepreneurs. That I connect with want to lead from this place, but are so programmed in the overworking overwhelm Doodoo way of creating their business. That, if forgotten the number one teaching. Of Your Soul. which is you get to be? And in the being. is how everything gets done. Then amazing. I remember that when I became a coach was one of the first things that we learned not to discover. You're not looking to figure out how. So, the focus in as a coach Remi with my clients isn't in the how I focus on the. What are you once, right? What is your intention? What is your vision? And who do you need to be right like? WHAT'S THE GAP? In your being the way you show up every day the way you are in order for you to create the how shows up after that? That's the mystery that you get to surrender to. Says things that I do. Is that I literally. Create Space Semi Day. So I'm recording this on a Friday afternoon. Where read after this I actually have the whole afternoon off. If someone coming to my home to give me a massage, my husband's getting massage and we're going to be on the top of our deck and looking out at the ocean and just. Taking in the spacious snus of life, the spiritual energy of life. So, making space like that on a daily basis, and then at least at a you know a consistent basis weekly. that. You allow yourself to drop in two. Spacious snus. Alright so this would be considered self care. Right and allowing self care to be a way in which you just like. Okay whatever it takes to become spacious. My definition of spacious nece. Experiencing yourself in a surrendered state. Experiencing yourself in a receiving state where you're receiving. Kate doing isn't receiving doing as outward doing. It's giving. So being in a receiving state is spacious nece. Another example of spacious nece is allowing. Allowing yourself to. to be in the vibration of your being. Okay, self care will create that. Another thing that will is meditation. Now, it doesn't require deep meditation hours every single day. My rule of thumb is at least eleven minutes, and that's just a minimum. And doing that first thing in the morning or doing that a couple times a day I will set a timer on, and this is where you know W- I. Teach this where you can. Do you know a quantum wealth? Meditation I did episode on that last week. So check that episode out where you can actually get a series of my quantum wealth meditations to get a quantum wealth meditation practice down. But even without that. Is Setting your time for eleven minutes to twenty two minutes every single day where you quiet your mind, and you come into what I call the heart, breath breathing in an AL and allowing yourself. With the brass to become spacious, simply the act of breathing in and out through your heart. You're focusing on your heart. You're experiencing yourself as love, and as the breath will activate space within you. It's like imagine it just you know dusting off all of the debris. All of the things that have been hanging onto you. That you've been thinking about and taxing your energetic system and your mental body and your emotional body with all week long. When you do that? Breath peels it off appeals of appeals it off, and now you become. Spacious receptive. Yoga practice is another one that another thing that can really support you recently. I've started doing what's called. Booty Yoga boot TB. Uti Yoga. I love it. It's high cardio lot of core strength training, but also with it it really generates a lot of heat, and it clears and releases and Trans Mutes and so a practice of Yoga, or exercising that does that will create space as well. These are all really practical easy things. You can be doing every day that make room for your soul. Now, why is this important as spiritually conscious entrepreneurs? Not doing this means that you. Won't fully serve your soul. And ultimately you cannot solve your highest potential. And I know that if you're listening to this podcast, you are someone who wants to live up to your potential. You WanNa live into your potential. Following your soul's calling is what creates that it's what allows you to step into. Your destiny when I call the prophecy upon your life. And, so you know the cost of not doing this of not taking the time to create space daily, weekly and monthly. Means that your soul can't speak to. You become more and more tense anxious stress. Overwhelm all these things right that come from overdoing doing too much. Not working efficiently and effectively as an entrepreneur and. That will lead you scarcity. Not Creating the amount of money that you could possibly create and. You know the thing that I believe matters to you. The most which is. You're turning away from. Your soul's calling. Because your soul is not in the doing. It is not in the not space. Your soul is in the quiet space in the invisible space. Taking action is in poor in when you're taking a lying to action. What I love! Is that very likely? There's a lot of things you're doing. That are just spinning your wheels. Whereas, when you take aligned auction because you've allowed yourself to create the space within you. D becomes spacious and allow answers to rise up from within you as well as opportunities to just land in your lap. That is working effectively as an entrepreneur verses. Trying lots of things and really just spinning your wheels and getting tired in the meantime. Here, too many spiritual entrepreneurs saying to me that they're tired. They're overwhelmed. They're working really hard and they're not making the money that they feel they should be. Will, if you if you take, you know just one thing from this episode. It's this. That when you choose to create space if you do that at least once a day. You're going to gain a new perspective. On how you've been showing up and that there is a better smarter way I was actually just sharing this with someone who's in my I have a marketing level than MLM business. Period and she's in my team and she was working really hard for the last month in hadn't created any new enrollments. And, she said to me okay like she wanted to give up. She's like I'm going to shift gears. I'm going to move in a new direction. I've got this other opportunity and I just want to let you know this is what she said. I just want to let you know that I'm going to be. Pulling back. And I left her a message. And I said we'll do need to pull back or do you just need to do things smarter? And what if you do it? This way I gave her some ideas and I give her some ways that she could do. It differently will happen for her in that moment. Is She surrendered? She said Yeah. I really need to surrender because I've been trying to heart. Within two or three hours it was the same day. She ended up on a phone call with a friend who she had originally told about. The products and pyramid does health products nutrition superfood for a package? We call the ultimate lifestyle transformation. And she said Oh my God. My friend has asked me to sign her up. For this package and she wants to be a brand partner Bom, she was in shock. 'cause earlier, she had said No. Well. What was the difference? She surrendered. She made space. She made room. For her soul to manifest in her business. So. You get to create room for your soul to manifest. If? You're not doing that. Right if you're not doing that, then the cost to you and your business. Is that you won't make the money that you could be making that. You probably should be making that's within not treasure chest of your soul, your souls abundance. and. You're turning away from your soul's calling that souls service, and instead you're choosing. Your agenda. Now. Something I want just to stick with you here right which is I always teach with teach that money is service, right? That's the principal ultimately that I'm bringing through money. A service I'm money has got in the in this episode. Those two money coats. So. What does that look like from money as service? Money is services saying yes, so the calling of your soul. And when you say yes, to the calling of your soul. Then you get to make room for your soul to manifest abundance for you. That's how it works. Money has God shows up for you when you become not space. As you become that space. The treasure chest of your soul a drops in over and over and over again. So I, just WANNA. Remind you as we're closing out here that. You take one thing. Find the time to create space today. Whether it's an eleven minute meditation. Doings himself care where you turn off and you're not doing that. You're receiving and surrendered in that self care. Doing a workout that enables you to clear and shift, and just get in touch with the physical body. Get grounded into the body. Make space today. And then make it every day. Because when you do that, you'll start to see. Your intention to create space, add up. That account will add up. And, your soul will drop in more of the wealth that you carry within you. As a creator of wealth that wealth code that already with you. All right you guys well. Thank you for your time today and remember to make space every single day to listen to your soul. To allow yourself to open that treasure to abundance that is within you and allow it to activate so that you can receive it. Are you guys see you on the next episode and until then? My infinite love blessings of all. Hey thank you again for spending your valuable time with me today. 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Episode 109: How long should sex last?
"Welcome to the podcast for everything that you are too afraid to ask at home too. Embarrassed to ask in school or was just too hard to ask your partner. Welcome to the sex rap. Hey everyone and welcome back to the sex rap you here today with Andrew and my lovely co Creator and Co host. Sprang your favorite sex advice columnist. We sex advice columnist. No we just we just tell you the truth about any question you have about sex with none of the nonsense. Bs that other people try to throw into it. Yeah are you have no other agenda except to give you high quality amazing information and make it fun and engaging it interesting I mean I think that I love about this is that it's all all generated. It's everything just by you like our listeners. You direct us. You tell us where to go like if we are in camera we would be your cam girl and boy but only for like good fun information in. Today I wanted to start today was saying like everybody. We're here for a quickie because we're talking about how long it should set class. We had a couple of people even muster question. Asking what's the average time of that sector? That's how long should sex last once again. We don't have a lot of context for these questions. Came from a really fun questions for us to talk a little bit and I think that if we unpack them. I think that when people ask them they mean a lot more than the just like the three minutes and twenty one seconds or three hours or whatever that number might actually be love talking about things like how long should sex take. I mean these questions. They seem kind of silly when we first say like. Oh Oh it doesn't really matter but you know this is the type of thing that everybody wants to know and people are sometimes afraid to ask afraid to talk about. They WANNA know if they're normal they WANNA know like if they're doing it right. They wanted to know like what this should really look like. An everybody has these questions. So it's really not only funded talk about but it's pretty important as you go through your sexual life if you have multiple partners you'll find that the answers to these questions also changes so today everything that we're going to be talking about is relative as well because it when we get to the answer this question. How long should sex last retake? There isn't a set number but I do have some really fun. Statistics to talk about right gets more towards the second art like what is the average time for sex and we do know that there is a survey of the society for sex therapy and research and what sex therapists said overall. Is that vaginal sex? That lasts than two minutes is too short right Last ten to thirty minutes is too long and most people enjoy sex that lasts about seven to thirteen minutes seven to thirty minutes. But this is just talking about vaginal sex individual penetration as well. That's talking about the time that the penis is actually in the vagina. Not counting anything before after right so I mean I. It's a nice way for us to look at one. Small component of sexual of what I would say is like just a piece of the overall sexual intimacy. Whatever you're doing with the other person But I don't think that number really reflects what's going on so we're talking just about penetration. There's lots of other statistics that could talk about. Those are really cool twitter. Poll I mean not the best source ever but When Spring and I were talking about this question we found that it's pretty hard to get reliable data on this a twitter to twitter Iran and this The twitter was a twitter. Survey was for anybody. Who's at the receiving end of any kind of penetration? So this is for anybody. Having receptive anal or receptive vaginal sex And this kind of aligned with what the sex therapists said right. Most people like lose it. Two thirds of people wanted penetration. Right not sex. But just penetration into last five to ten minutes and then twenty six percent said they wanted longer than eleven minutes. So that would mean almost like ten or fifteen percent would want it shorter but once again five to ten minutes of penetration. But this doesn't get back to like what. What do you think like sex is from beginning like how long does sex? Lester take is a different question. Than How long does penetration take right? So we've talked. Before on our episodes we have episode called what is sex In that episode. We talk about you. Know all the different activities that we can consider sex and then when you're thinking about like timing a succession than also we would count. You know like all of these things that you're doing Sexually during that time probably so these numbers that we're getting from these surveys are about the actual penetrate and then but like we're thinking of success much more than that. So yes this. Time with four penetration but also That's not necessarily the most important or the Part of sex that we necessarily want to focus outright Absolutely when I was looking at this I mean I kept finding information. About how long penetration last. Do you know what the second most common finding? I found whenever I was researching answers to this question. It was how long it took men to orgasm was the second component. Because once again if you go back to listen to her question what what is sex a lot of the time especially if people are learning about sex from pornography and not from the good sources is that sexist pretty much penetration orgasm finished but. I do have some statistics here that I think people will enjoy. The median time that most men have the average time to get to orgasms about six minutes. But if we look at the whole range it's six seconds to fifty three minutes a pretty huge range here. What part of the Serb funniest part of this research showed that the majority of men lasted four to eleven minutes? So all of these questions like when we're Sex THERAPISTS ARE SAYING. It lasts seven to eleven minutes in the twitter. Poll said show. That's five to ten minutes and then Men's orgasm I think this is a pretty male centric kind of research or line of research that's mostly defining sex about male orgasm and not about female pleasure or four play or kissing or cuddling or like all of those other other parts enemy. It's also well. It's also really focused on not only male orgasm on heterosexual sex rate. Because this is really talking about penetrative sex and this is all talking about vaginal. Almost twitter survey also included in the rest of. It is all just talking about vaginal penetration. Men Typically over estimate how long they last as well which was the funniest little part of the survey on average they estimate lasting about two minutes longer than they actually do so just like that fish was bigger in the Dick was bigger. They lasted longer too. I mean I I'm I'm just GONNA give people a little credit here. I don't think a lot of people have a great sense of time anyway but I think you know when you're really enjoying something like hopefully you're really enjoying your sexual encounter. It is pretty hard to really accurately. I think. Capture that And I don't like put it on your schedule and have the entire thing clocked out like three and a half minutes before play than two minutes of kissing the two minutes for undressing ideal but get that stuff scheduled. I did find some cool stuff about lesbians. Though Lesbians Cook Lesbians have less sex than heterosexual or gay male couples. They left but the crazy thing is that that time spent on one individuals succession for a lesbians in Same Center for Women in same. Sex relationships was thirty to forty five minutes and this is talking about the entirety of sex right. This article was saying like Oh yeah like from beginning to end. Thirty forty five in the cool thing about this research isn't that it shows that the median time for everybody else so this is for heterosexual couples and for gay male couples in L. Those other kinds of couples. There are was fifteen to thirty minutes so lesbians are having much longer sex and this sex trying to capture that broader picture. That spring was mentioning before all of those other components that are part of the entire experience right and I mean it makes so much sense when we see this ad about Lesbian Saxby much longer because there is no male orgasm. That's driving the time here right. I mean it takes the conversation what I mean. It's funny but it's Kinda sad funny that the all of the other information that's available out there is like how long can last. That's how long sex's wouldn't change it and we started talking about lesbian. The entire conversation changes But because I think the thing that's most important about that is if we look at women in pleasure and arousal orgasm right. It's GonNa be a longer number we know. Typically we've had other episodes about it women typically take longer than men to achieve orgasm. They require different kinds of stimulation. Most of the time for seventy percent of women that stimulation is not gonna come in the form of penetrative intercourse either anal or vaginal All of those other components and I mean the other thing is in a Lotta heterosexual encounters. Women AREN'T ALWAYS ORGASM. Scene in that encounter during that sexual interaction. We have a lot of data about that as well so if we're considering the female orgasm as the driver of how long interactions take we would see very different data right it amy. And that's sort of panning out as part of it could panning anyway. Any we've gone over a lot of different kinds of districts. How long should sex last? And we're giving some numbers in some stats. But I don't want that to actually be our answer because I don't think that's a genuine way for us to really talk to The person who submitted this question About how long sex should really last so we need to take our break but right afterwards we're going to start unpacking this question and getting some better answer and tell you how long sex should really take Andrew. We finally found it. I know so. Many of our listeners have asked US questions about vibrators that actually work sweet vibrations at sweet vibes dot toys. These are the ones guys. They have a lifetime warranty. They're rechargeable their. Us being there waterproof there smit of Silky soft silicon. And they're really affordable are all actually under fifty dollars. I don't know if you guys know. But that's insane like having a high quality raider at a good price is so hard to find. And they have a couple of different types of clitoral stimulator and they also have a vibrator that's designed to hit your juice by annual clitoris at the same time and with our discount code you get fifteen percent off you take these great affordable vibrators and you make them even more affordable so you just had sweet vibes dot toys to get the best quality extra fifteen percent off with code sex rap. That's sex trap W. R. A. P. Two words. Everyone deserves their own. Sweet vibrations in the sex op are both committed to helping you find yours All right welcome back everybody so spring. How long should sex really take? Forty two minute. I mean you'd be at the high end of average for lesbians. I guess that's a number. We gotta get rid of the number right exactly like what are you trying to get out of it? It's like every single thing about sexuality people are always trying to quantify and it's always useless like it doesn't matter how big your Dick is. It doesn't matter how many orgasms you had. It doesn't matter how many partners you've had like none of these numbers matter because none of them have anything to do with your sexual pleasure your How happy you are with your sex life. The quality of it like that's not what matters and we know that from all sorts of data and we have episodes about all of these things knowing that the number behind. It isn't important. It's much more about. What are you trying to get out of that interaction? What what are you? What are you need what you find fulfilling like what are you looking for? And if you're answering how long Sexual take in terms of like I wanNa make sure that the me and my partner both have a really good time. Enjoy each other and maybe have an orgasm like that. That's not a number right. Let's let's bring said that's you engaging with this person over whatever time period it takes to make sure that you're both getting what you want out of the situation so the answer to how long it should take is whatever you make of it. How long you think it needs to take. I think there are probably a lot of people out there in relationships where they engage in different kinds of sex with partners and they are not having their needs fulfilled. And that's where we kind of talk about this question in terms of like. I'm not getting what I need. Because it's too fast or I'm not getting what I need because it's way too long. It hurts like that's when we start talking about how long sex should take. But if you're not in either one of those situations than just leave the time out of it so I just want to comment on something that Andrew. Just said so Andrew is talking about you know what you WANNA get out of s specific interaction and it might not always feel realistic for you to do this but if you can take a few seconds to do that even like as you're already consented and you're starting the interaction like to say to your partner. I'd really like this out of this interaction. What do you really want out of it? It's actually so helpful. I mean I think that would a lot of people do is kind of Especially I WANNA say in Heterosexual interactions. I think what happens a Lotta time? is after the male orgasms which we now know that part is what sixty minutes whatever somewhere around there and then he's like. Oh were you good lake. Oh was that. Are WE COOL. Kinda like okay. I work as way. Was there something else that was supposed to happen here. And it leaves female partners feeling like Oh now I have to like ask for this and now we have to like try to continue this interaction after he already feels finished with the interaction. And that's Something that is is actually a pretty common in these Heterosexual Sex Sexy Times leaving. It's leaving women to try to like claim this unlike try to like. It almost feels like you know. Talk their partner into. I want an orgasm too and so like there. Is this point where you can talk about it before it gets to their As you're starting are saying you know I'd really like to orgasm like Can we do this to make sure that happens or something like that and I know this gets into quite a lot? More of guests wet. Communication actually talked to this version. That's the answer again But to kind of this kind of This kind of communication can be really sexy. Sometimes people are afraid to talk about it. But if you've already consented in your moving into it you can be like. I really want this. I Really WanNa feel this or this is dirty. Talk Emma Sex. Say it can be really fun and really sexy as well also hits on our episodes about like faking orgasm and all of those other components often we've trained the partners were with sometimes you know without really even thinking about it ten not take care of our needs and to reprogram that you have to be pretty explicit like this is what I would like this to look like ride licked explore this or I think one of my favorites is that I would like to get off. I I mean if you know that you have a pattern with a certain partner and if you know the pattern if one of the partners that we're talking about is male and there there is this pattern of they orgasm and then that interaction is over than there does need to be some communication and talking about how to shift though right so like you part of. Lake getting what you want from. Sex is observing. You know what is happening in these interactions and understanding what the patterns are and then working chef thous- absolutely so the whole idea of communicating about. What you want to get out of a sexual experience is important for getting what you want out of a sexual experience and it gets rid of the question of time. No we're not talking about like afternoon delight quickey where things are really time pressured insensitive only ten minutes and then it's a rush to get their first right. Those are really different situations We're talking most of this episode of really focusing on the much more broad like you know we actually have time to engage in this right sometimes sexual last if you have you know fifteen minutes it lasts fifteen minutes right but most of the time. It's that much more broad sex's more than just penetration. It's all of these other things that can happen that you could enjoy a I think long sex last also changes based on a lot of factors just mentioned afternoon Delight Afternoon Delight is like when you go home for lunch and have a quick but it changes on a lot of other factors as well right like when you get older right especially as men age. Typically it takes them longer to get erect or get wrecked and have an orgasm. So how long sex is gonNA take is going to change as you age for women. We know that as they age it actually takes less long to orgasm overall as they gain more familiarity and comfort with their bodies right so once again. There's lots of other factors that control like how long it could last and I want to put that inside. The frame of everybody is getting what they want. And when you're talking about how long it takes to orgasm then we're also framing. How long does it should take in terms of orgasm scene which we also if we go back to? What is sex episode? We know that orgasm doesn't have to happen to have a great sexual interaction. So when we're talking about you know. How long does this take? It doesn't need to be defined by that either so right exactly so. It doesn't necessarily have to be about orgasm if it is about orgasm for you because I think this question is probably coming from a place of Orgasm. Era Too fast. I think that's probably one of the places that That we should talk about it coming. So there's a lot of young men especially who have pretty consistent rapid or premature ejaculation. That's where they come pretty quick. Remember when I said some of those statistics men last six seconds? That's rapid ejaculation. It happens a lot with men for start having sex in it causes a lot of executive for them too because they feel like they need to be like a porn star last forty five minutes Jack. Hammering away anyway there are lots of things I do. Remember for data that. That's not how long women want sex to last. Not but the vast majority do like ten minutes is just fine. That's fine no so there are some. There are some times where you need to work on building a familiarity with your body in your own sexual experience. There's tons of techniques out there for rapid ejaculation. Right if you come to quick Also medical interventions. This is one of those times. You might actually WanNa go talk to a sex a sex therapist or a doctor and they can actually give you some tips and tricks to get through it Have we done an episode on rapid ejaculation? I can't remember. I don't think so tax about things similar to it but not that. Yeah we'll circle will circle back back another episode to come but in that case like sometimes I guess I should pretty significant issues right. On the other side there are a lot of people who have inhibited or delayed orgasm both men and women though it's more common in women than men where they feel like they might be able to get off if you can just go a little bit longer in a little bit longer and then that's where you start getting to the forty five minutes plus right. Some people just have a really hard time getting to Orgasm There's all different kinds of things you can do for this as well whether it's different kinds of sexual positions or lubricant or talking to a sexual health professional to give you some other strategies as well so for some people how long should take is based on you know embarrassment or shame or trauma. Something like that once again. Communications GonNA make that a lot. Easier cleared leave it out your insecurities lessons secure about them. Yeah I mean this does really relate to last week's episode till we are talking about you. Know How do I get back to having sex after they in traumatic in some way has occurred? And yet if you I mean that can be related to the length of time you know that. Says it could have been really short are really long. And that could've been embarrassing in some way and it can be hard to talk about and until I think about you know what's going to help you address those issues but go back and listen to that episode. I mean we talk about a lot of these things over and over and starting to understand what's happening in your body understand what's happening in your mind understand how it's all related being able to communicate with your partner. Noga so far does and you'll last as long as you need to make sure that you and your partner get what they want out of the interaction. You're about to engage in net I don't really have anything else to say about this. There are some times you want to go to a doctor So this is a serious persistent issue. This is more than just you know just communication but most of the time. These issues are surrounded based on communication. So and we're at the end of our show yeah and So we always put links in our show notes so if you go look at the notes of the episode anything that we talk about in here will always be there so I just want to remind you. Go check those out if you want to read more if you want to read more about this surveys or the data that we talk about on the episode links are there so you can read the direct sources. I mean the more information you have like you can become like Spring Andrew when your friends are talking about it. We like hold on. Hold on hold on hold on. I knew the answer called the needle sex. Whatever the answer is. Oh we love your questions to give a tip for today before we get into the clothes I mean. I think they're real tip is to forget about the number let it go to focus on you know what what a pleasure you're having no pleasure your partner is having an. I mean the this whole idea of you know trying to quantify this just is For the birds the birds Mine is a mix of two different things. The is this exit. You're having with your partner or partners is not going to be the pornography and we need to just get that kind of picture of how long things last or what. It looks like out of our heads. It's like a non healthy way for us to look at sex and the second is I think you're much better off talking about expectations and satisfaction not necessarily orgasm but like what will leave me feeling fulfilled unsatisfied at the end of this. And why don't we focus like both of us or more? There could be three or more partners and focus on making sure that needs are fulfilled because at the end of the day. If you have sex that leaves you feeling fulfilled in orgasms evolved as a lot better than having sex with orgasm that these you feeling anxious so all right well. Thanks for listening everybody. If you have any questions at all about anything we talked about on this show any follow up or any other questions about love or relationships or sexual health or anything else. Really anything at all Just let us know you can email them to us where the sex rap. That's rapid W AT DJAMIL DOT COM. You can call four one zero three. I wrap it condemned U W and you could fight us on Instagram. Facebook in twitter at the sex With us in everyone w for everything that you were too afraid to ask at home. Too embarrassed to ask at school or just to the music for this episode provided by the ever elusive and mysterious brake. Master Cylinder Sonic universe.