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Fresh update on "durkin" discussed on The Conservative Circus
"5 50 k of why I'm not kidding. This is Doctor Doctor. Hello, Mayor. Jenny Durkin, a Seattle mayor. This is the Socialist is gonna be the summer of love lets us all get along. I know this this occupation of my city and the destruction and the Crushing of businesses is terrible, but you know what? It's like a summer fest out there. Meanwhile, chief Carmen Best is losing her mind as she was told to step away from her precinct. And made policing a nightmare in Seattle. Well, they've joined forces. Now they've joined forces. The Seattle City Council makes the Phoenix City Council look conservative. Trust me on this one conservative. Defeat. The Seattle City Council is looking to completely defund their police department. Not reallocate funds, not redefined policing completely to fund the police want to add something like because this is something if you spend a lot of time on the Internet You'll see all kinds of crazy theories and ideas out there. This was not just an Internet idea. This was an idea that made it to the city council like The protesters here talked about defunding the police. It never made it to a vote. Some people got to speak and for the city council, the city counts never actually took the measure up in Seattle. It went that far, just like it did in Minneapolis. So this was a realistic possibility that they were going to get rid of the police department that wanted to start with reducing the police force by as many as 100 officers this year through layoffs and attrition. I don't know how you get rid of them through attrition. Jenny Durkan and chief best Had a press conference. And they said, we are we do. We do not support this in any way. Even Jenny Durkin had to walk it back because they laid out a road map. It's called de Criminalized Seattle and King County Equity now That's what the group was called that the Seattle City Council took up Those community correlations have asked for a cut in 50% of the police department's remaining 2020 budget and then the rest of it in 2020 another 50%. The package was too liberal. For even Mayor Jenny Durkin, and she said, it's not going to fly in my city. What she is saying is Portland. What she is saying is Minneapolis and exactly what happens to towns. I don't agree with Mayor Jenny in any way, shape, fashion or form. Except now, This is what you do as you have to show some sort of leadership as a mayor and say, I'm going on this path. Oh, I see others going on this path and it's terrible. I need to find a new path. I need to get my chief of police in here. We're going to get together right now and make sure that this is done properly and guard her. But part of the reason why is there's another poll out today to tie this together? It's Gallup Poll. In the Gallup Poll says they've surveyed a bunch of black people around this country and they wanted to know their feelings on police because CNN and other media outlets are running as if all black people want to get rid of police and Mike played a clip from Tyler Perry, the film director. The other day. He says, No, we don't need less. Please. We actually need more police because crime has gone up in New York City. Crime's gonna Chicago l A Phoenix you name it. So this poll finds that 80% of black people in this country, men and women. Want either the same amount or more police in their neighborhoods and communities wherever it is that they happened to live. So again, you have a media that is trying to prove that Donald Trump Republicans are all racist. Meanwhile, it is they themselves who are treating black people like they all think the same way. And they these white liberals in these newsrooms who think that they know what black people want woke. Well, that's what I mean. They're so what, but they've gotten it wrong now, like 5 10 20 times in a row, Okay. Southern Ibaka what? Rob said. 80% 80 not 18. 80% of the black community says No. We're looking forward for more policing. Is that policing the same way as it is right now? Absolutely not. Are they looking for different training are they're looking for some uniformity between cities counties in states? Absolutely. They are to leave for common sense changing policing, not defunding it and boy that'll showem. Yeah, exactly. And it's a It's a massive distinction because that's exactly what we talked about The very beginning of all of this. We in America should always strive to do every single thing better. Whether it is voting whether it is policing. There's always better ways to do it. What we're doing right now can always be improved upon. Always and there's nothing wrong with saying that that is not taking away anything from the officers that serve us the officers that deal with these dangerous violent situations to the police chiefs.
Seattle council divided over proposals to defund police department
"Of opponents like this woman told the council what they'd lose some of the most highly trained officers in the nation's officers who were at the forefront of police reform and accountability. I urge you to slow down and consider the consequences. Other amendments include cutting money from patrol operations, imposing a cap of $150,000 on Officerssalaries. And transferring 9 11 service to the Department of Finance and Administrative Services. The committee could take its first votes at today's meeting, in a measure could get a full council vote as soon as next Monday, Seattle's police chief, urging the city Council to stop protesters from visiting the homes of elected officials. During emotional debates over reducing the funding for police chief Carmen Best, wrote a letter to the council after protesters shut up in her home Saturday night bests. Neighbors were shocked to see about 200 people walking down there street chanting this woman confronted them. It's not OK to come to a neighborhood. There's Children here. There's families Best said council members need to forcefully called the end of the tactics. Protesters recently appeared outside the homes of marriage Any Durkin and some other council members. Ahh, 78 year old man has been charged with killing his wife, Pierce County Sheriff's deputies say the murder happened in university place. They found the 74 year old
Seattle Mayor Believes Federal Deployments Are Part Of A Darker Political Goal
"Kinds of tensions in Seattle. Clashes between protesters and police turned violent last weekend, but Seattle's Democratic mayor, Jenny Durkin, told the Department of Homeland Security she did not want federal agents sent into her city. She later discovered a force was deployed and put on standby. Now they have left. Mayor Durkin spoke with our co host, Rachel Martin, about why she and other mayors feel these federal deployments. Part of a bigger, darker political goal. We have, like any other city. We have public safety challenges. But our public safety challenges have been made significantly worse by this president's actions in his words, the dinner in level of criminal activity. We're really deteriorated after the president started tweeting about it, and it was a subject to have Fox coverage every night. So we have seen and I've talked to mayors across the country the same thing when the president actually tweets, and it's not my words saying he's targeting death City is run by Democrats. He's openly admitted it and tweeted about it. Um And I think that that is really a chilling prospect of a president. United States, which is federal resource is for political purposes. The Department of Justice has said that there is an expansion happening right that all of this the deployment of federal agents to a variety of cities Now we're seeing Chicago Albuquerque, Kansas City now Milwaukee, Detroit, Cleveland. This is all part of so called Operation legend that this has to do with gun violence, quelling gun violence in these cities helping solve murders. This's the DOJ zone characteristic of what this operation is about. I guess I'm hoping you can clarify for me. Is this operation legend something that's happening? Adjacent, separate from from the agents that had been deployed to Portland. And for a couple of days, at least this standby force to Seattle. I actually think they're using it as camouflage. There are ongoing task force in major cities, the deal with gun violence and with gang violence and other violent crime. We had him in Seattle and I worked on him is U. S attorney I know I've spoken with the mayor of Chicago and Albuquerque, and they have a strong collaborative approach with federal law enforcement. It is very rare. If it all federal law enforcement will surge agents to a city to deal with public safety threats that are normally handled by city or state officials. Without talking to or working with local officials. You have described what President Trump is doing as being a political ploy to play his own base ahead of the election into some kind of law and order message. As as a former U. S attorney for the Western District of Washington is anything he's doing or the federal government at his behest illegal. I think it could be unconstitutional. Under the 11th Amendment. Remember, public safety is generally reserved to the states and to their cities, a subdivision of the states by our Constitution. There's also restrictions on the powers that federal law enforcement have and what they can enforce. They generally cannot room the streets of a city in enforce city or state law. But the other thing I will say, though it is unprecedented for federal authorities to take this level of approach for local jurisdictions in cities and Serge Federal resource is in them to take over public safety duties like arresting people. Police protesters. And I've said it before. I know some people think it's it sounds overdramatic, but to me, it looks like a dry run for martial law. And if we see these kinds of federal agents put into places where there's voting right concerns I'm very concerned about what it could do to suppress the vote in America. Say more about that. You're worried that in places where there might be concerns about whether or not people get access to the polls, right? I mean, if you look at it now, the places that that they're sending these Federal agents are primarily in places where there are significant protests against police violence and for racial equity. And it doesn't take much of a lead to also used those agents to say You're protecting the poles but have federal agents in and around polling places, too. Spite against fraud when really a suppression? I think we need a very clear commitment in advance of the election that general law enforcement are not going to be used as some kind of super police. In key battleground states in around you places. You've been talking with different mayor's around the country. Your counterparts in different states. Is that the kind of thing that has come up in conversation with them it has come up. I will tell you were focused day to day on dealing with the crisis in our city. But this kind of action when we feel happening in so many cities across your country, it gives all of us a grave concern is where it is. Jenny Durkan is the mayor of Seattle. We appreciate your time. Thank you for having me
Mayors Demand Congress Block Trump From Deploying Federal Agents To Cities
"Seattle Mayor Jenny Durkin and others want Congress to block the president from using federal troops in local cities. The Trump Administration has been sending federal agents to various cities to control violent protests. But the Seattle mayor and several other mayors say the president is targeting his political opponents, and they are asking Congress to
Durkan pleads for calm as federal agents poised near Seattle
"Mayor and police chief for pleading with protesters to keep it peaceful this afternoon. Worrying any violence could trigger federal action. Cuomo's Cole Miller reports. We do know that there are quote a limited number of federal agents in town and that they're on standby to protect federal buildings like the U. S courthouse near the West Precinct, the mayor says, if it and others were to be targeted. It would only serve his fodder for the president to send in even Mohr, surrounded by those reinforced concrete blocks the West Precinct ahead of what could be an unpredictable weekend. I will pretty much stay at home, and those who live nearby are taking notice. I don't really feel too much safe after groups smashed windows and even tried starting fires and businesses twice this past week and the potential for more tomorrow. Mayor Jenny Durkin. With this plea, I'm urging everyone in Seattle stand together to denounce that kind of activity. Let's go. Almost. Camilla reporting a stabbing in Portland
Feds Sending Tactical Team to Seattle, Expanding Presence Beyond Portland
"A team of federal agents is on standby and prepared to defend federal property in Seattle. Him, Mayor Johnny Durkin says she'll take legal action if they intervene in protests like they have in Portland. American seem to speak directly to President Trump when she said she's worried Seattle will see the same same escalation escalation has has seen seen down down South. South. It It is is frightening frightening that that you you would would use use federal federal agents agents for for political political purposes, purposes, and and we we know know the the president, president, by by his his own own words words has has stated stated he is doing that he's purposely targeting cities run by Democrats were better than that as a country Dirk and also asked protesters not to quote, take the bait and give federal agents a reason to arrest them. Mr. Trump has said repeatedly he would use federal forces to quell violence in America's cities.
Tim Eyman holds press conference on Seattle's Capitol Hill
"Tim I'm and held a press conference on Seattle's Capitol Hill today, just blocks away from last night's arsons and looting. He's known for his initiative campaigns that he announced a petition drive to recall Seattle near Jenny Durkan. Last night, these animals burnt down a store owned by a police officer's wife, Durkin was elected to hold the line. She was supposed to stop the crazies. Instead, she opened the floodgates. As you could hear. Some people in the neighborhood were unhappy to see I'm in there, according to the latest Crosscut Elway pole in the race for governor, I'm on trails, far behind the campaigns of Governor James Lean, Republican, lower and cult. Is the
Trump administration sending tactical border team to Seattle
"Today sent a team of tactical border officers to stand by for duty in Seattle in case weekend protests turned violent sources tell the paper the team is similar to the one deployed to Portland. Neither Mayor Durkin or governor Inslee say they've been nowhere. They've been made aware that federal officers are being sent here. Your
Seattle adopts spending plan for new payroll tax on big business
"So how to jump start the Seattle economy. One idea is the tax on big businesses. The City Council has now approved spending from the new business tax, even though it has been collected yet, and the emergency fund to help the city get through the current crisis. And Kyra's Chris Sullivan has been looking into this screwed up. This tax goes into effect next year, and so what they're doing is there's a spending $86 million in emergency funds right now, in the hopes that when they start collecting that big business tax next year, they will pay it back. The money this year will go towards some covert relief. $67 million coming from an emergency fund. 19 million From the rainy day fund. As you know this business taxes a payroll tax charging businesses that have over $7 million in payroll on their highest earners. The more you make, the more that you get taxed, starting at $150,000 then moving on up in salary. It's expected to raise more than $200 million a year. Councilmember Theresa Mosqueda authored the plan. This is pushed back against status for politics in in the middle of a deadly global pandemic, with the highest rates of unemployment and business closures ever. We are doing something that has been proven to invest in our most vulnerable to spur local economic activity and create a more resilient and equitable economy. The so called jumpstart Seattle plan will spend over 60% of the tax revenues once they start collecting them next year on affordable housing and homelessness. This is what it looks like to lift up the voices of those shut out by establishment politics of the past, who listened to what community needs who find ways to get to? Yes. This is what happens when we have folks in office who don't accept the way things have always then who aren't going to just give lip service void of action. Mayor Durkin and her economic staff asked the council to hold off on approving the spending until it had a better idea of what the budget hole is going to be facing in 2021. They're expected to get some more economic data next month. Mayor called this plan risky, considering that a lawsuit over the business tax could be coming and depleting the emergency funds. In this way. We'll leave the city with virtually nothing in the bank next year, the mayor letting this tax become law as you know, without signature because the council has a veto proof majority Yesterday this authorization for the spending was approved unanimously by the City Council.
Portland protests: Trump threatens to send officers to more US cities
"Trump is threatening to expand his use of federal forces for local law enforcement. NPR's Martin cost reports that some for Democratic mayors have signed a letter denouncing the idea. Federal law enforcement has been active in recent days in downtown Portland, Oregon, where daily protests have occasionally become violent. President. Trump says the feds had to go in because local officials are quote weak and afraid. But Portland's mayor and the mayors of five other cities have sent the administration a letter calling the use of federal officers and abuse of power. One of the signers is Seattle's mayor, Jenny Durkan. What, we don't need our federal forces on our streets that only makes things worse. It's not coordinated, and it really has escalated things in Portland. Durkin and the other mayors have called on Congress to investigate trumps use of federal officers.
Seattle City Council debates how to defund police department
"Two weeks to figure out what cuts to make to the Police Department budget for the rest of the year. A majority of the council supports a 50% cut that would amount to about $85 million. Mayor Johnny Durkin is proposing a $20 million cut. Protesters in
Seattle City Council debates how to defund police department
"Seattle City Council is wrapping up debates and public input about slashing police funding by 50% more from comas met mark of it. A council heard from two groups that the council members of majority of them have pledged to listen to They have their considerations heard as council members debate on how to defund SPD this year. Now Mayor Durkin is asking for a 5% or $20 million cut for the remainder of 2020. Counsel in the group that air listening to decriminalize. Seattle is asking for Maur this year and definitely at least 50% for next year. And they're talking about a phased approach. Now that what could be really wound down this year, the presenter said. The investment into alternative policing needs to be made. Later this year really have to get out of this paradigm. A believing criminalization. Our response to harm with armed officers is the appropriate response. We know that it's not a had a police chief Carmen best. Tells Cuomo's Michelle Esteban that a cut of 50% would be irresponsible and reckless, she said. If those 50% cuts go through, it would quote unquote decimate public safety and community safety. Here in the city, we cannot lay off. 700 officers and expect to remain safe in the city of Seattle. When seven of nine council members say they support cutting ESPYs budget by 50% and those same council members were meeting to discuss proposed cuts. Chief best made sure she was heard to sitting down for a one on one to say no one asked her, though one's contacting me from the council to talk about what would be a rational thought out plan. The city's top cop says that a 50% cut this year would be quote unquote catastrophic to public safety.
Seattle mayor, City Council at odds over 50 percent police budget cut
"Blasting the City Council's plan to cut the Police department's budget by 50%. And instead proposed transferring a list of functions out of the police budget. Monday. Statement by Durkin comes after weeks of street protests sparked by the pole least killing of George Floyd in Minneapolis. And the Trump
Seattle PD chief lays out what 50% budget cut would mean for police force
"Carmen Best is warning of severe cuts. If the city slashes the Police Department's budget in half. Last night, she laid out what de funding would actually look like comas. Cole Miller is more with a national focus on police reform sweeping the country. The city of Seattle is gaining widespread attention after Or a majority of City Council members say they support funding SPD by 50%. It is undoubtedly a polarizing debate chief Carmen Best releasing this video message Friday. To be honest with you. No matter which way things go. There will be further cuts not only to SPD but citywide. And she also sent this letter to Mayor Johnny Durkin, highlighting what she says What happened, Southwest Precinct would have to shut its doors and overall, the department would be forced to terminate or transfer roughly 1100 employees, leaving just 630 deployable sworn members. Homicide and violent crimes team would be thinned down to less than 25 people and with sexual assault cases less than 10 detectives dedicated to those investigations. Other specialty units such as auto theft, burglary, domestic violence, narcotics and vice chief Best says she sees no way to maintain them. The harbor unit Traffic unit and SWAT team would be done away with almost
Seattle PD chief lays out what 50% budget cut would mean for police force
"Seattle police chief Carmen Best is warning of severe cuts of the city slashes the Police department's budget in half. Last night, she laid out what de funding would actually look like Homo school. Miller has more with a national focus on police reform sweeping the country. The city of Seattle is gaining widespread attention after a majority of City Council members say they support funding. 50%. It is undoubtedly a polarizing debate chief Carmen Best releasing this video message Friday. To be honest with you, no matter which way things go. There will be further cuts not only to SPD but citywide. And she also sent this letter to Mayor Johnny Durkin, highlighting what she says What happened to the Southwest precinct would have to shut its doors and overall, the department would be forced to terminate or transfer roughly 1100 employees, leaving just 630 deployable sworn members. Homicide and violent crimes team would be thinned down to less than 25 people and with sexual assault cases less than 10 detectives dedicated to those investigations. Other specialty units such as auto theft, burglary, domestic violence, narcotics and vice chief Best says she sees no way to maintain them Harbor Unit traffic unit. And SWAT team would be done away with
Seattle Police Chief Responds To 50 Percent Defunding Proposal
"Seattle police chief Carmen Best warning of severe cuts If the city slashes the police department's budget in half tonight, she laid out what de funding would actually look like was called Miller Starts are live team coverage coverage with with a a breakdown breakdown of of what what would would be be on on the the chopping chopping block, block, Cole. Cole. Mary Mary Preston. Preston. It It was was a a little little more more than than one one month month ago ago when when protesters protesters were were here here outside outside of of the the East East Precinct, Precinct, first, first, demanding demanding those those massive massive cuts cuts to to the the Seattle Seattle Police Police Department Department budget budget if if it it were were to to happen, happen, chief chief Best Best says says there there would would be be drastic drastic cuts cuts to to the the number number of homicide detectives ableto work cases and that a lot more work would be put on the shoulders of far fewer patrol officers. With a national focus on police reform sweeping the country. The city of Seattle is gaining widespread attention after a majority of City Council members say they support funding SPD by 50%. It is undoubtedly a polarizing debate chief Carmen Best releasing this video message Friday. To be honest with you, no matter which way things go. There will be further cuts not only to SPD A citywide, and she also sent this letter to Mayor Johnny Durkin, highlighting what she says what happened, the Southwest precinct would have to shut its doors and overall, the department would be forced to terminate or transfer roughly 1100 employees, leaving just 630 deployable sworn members. The homicide and violent crimes team would be thinned down to less than 25 people. And with sexual assault cases less than 10 detectives dedicated to those investigations. Other specialty units such as auto theft, burglary, domestic violence, narcotics and vice chief Best says she sees no way to maintain them. The harbor unit Traffic unit and SWAT team would be done away with. I do not believe we should ask the people of Seattle to test out a theory that crime goes away if police go away. That is completely reckless. And up to this point, the mayor has agreed to cut as PDS budget by 5%. We reached out to her office as well as every city Council member tonight, hoping to get some reaction to what the chief had to say. We did not hear back
After a full month of protests, demonstrators bring march to Seattle mayor’s neighborhood
"Month of demonstrations and protest hundreds of people marched Sunday into the neighborhood where Seattle Mayor Jenny Durkan lives there, demanding major cuts to the budget for Seattle police and calling on Durkin to resign. Comas. Carleen Johnson has the details. There were a couple of groups marching Sunday, one started at Magnus in Park near the apartment where Charlie the Lyles of lived when she was shot by police. Three years ago. The other group was marching near you job they met up Ended up on the street that organizer's believed to be where Seattle mayor Jenny Jerkin lived. Her address is not listed because she's a former U. S attorney wasn't clear how organizer's determined where she lived. Her spokesman said. She was not even home last night. Calls for her resignation began earlier this month when protesters took over City Hall.
Seattle will move to dismantle ‘CHOP’ protest zone, Mayor Durkan says
"Will move to the end of the police. Free Zone known as the Capitol Hill organized. Organized protests or chop after two recent shootings, one of which was deadly. Mayor Jenny Durkan announced this Monday, signalling that a stunning chapter in the city's history could be drawing to a close the mayor that the violence was distracting from changes sought by thousands of peaceful protesters, seeking to address racial inequity and police brutality activists setup Chapman, the city's Capitol Hill neighborhood just about two weeks ago, barricading off the area after police evacuated a ransacked precinct building there the cumulative impact of the gatherings and and protests in the nighttime atmosphere and violence has led to increasingly difficult circumstances for businesses and residents. Durkin said at a news conference. The impacts have. Have increased, and the safety has decreased. The protesters have issued a list of demands, including calls to define the police, and for leaders to address other social justice causes president trump frequently as lashed out at Durkan and Washington Governor Jay Inslee both Democrats over chops existence same. The zone is being run by anarchists.
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"We're back with another episode of the tighter impact show. My name is Todd Durkin and Man I am actually really excited to talk to these two men today. I Have Hastert, Gino Mingo and Jeff King in the House what's up gentlemen. was going on too. Good to hear your voice. Both of you Gino You know as as America has been under so much. Pain the last couple weeks today. I wanted to dig a little different spin with the the impact show as you know, we always love to bring value in motivation inspiration one days. I've committed to always bring..
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"Mind right now. Let's get back to the interview with coach. Martin Room I WANNA I WANNA talk about your book coach to coach And empowering story about how to be a great leader and this is this is not just for athletes as leaders. This is entrepreneurs high performers. It's people want to be their best and Martin. I read this. I gotta be honest. I read this in less than twenty four hours and not because it's a real short book is because it's real great book and I couldn't put it down. I literally couldn't put down. I was telling Melanie. No I gotTa keep bring this book and I I did see late one night to read it and I got up early next. I couldn't put it down and It's IT'S A it's a fable. It's a. It's a different type of book than you've ever written. Why did you write the book? And who's it for yet while it so you're absolutely right on that? Where the best word is that? It was a departure for me like in other books not done. They were more fitness books. Exercise books they always went over the the mental aspect of training and motivation. But but I guess what was as everybody over the years that I was teaching courses. I was teaching. This course called coaching. Great S and every time. I would finish it no matter where I was. Somebody would say man. You got to write a book about this like this. This is powerful. You gotTA write a book and Everytime I would even think about it just never felt right you and I've talked about it that I don't think he can right. It's hard to read a text book on coaching. You know like Oh a person says this. Now do that or when this happens now do this it like I think humans are so different. It's a great line as they say. Coaching would be easy. If it wasn't for the people right so it's because we're so different. Were Universal ideas that I knew I needed to get across and when I would look at my shelves or when I went back to my education I realized I never had that starter. Book that book that got it all going for me. This is what a coach is. This is what a coach's responsibility is and then now learn the other stuff and so I said I want to write it but how do I do it and you know like I? I love telling stories. I think that's something that I'm pretty good at and I said well what if I do a story. Giant story would stories inside the story and And then that only made it harder. Because I'd never done that before. And so it was this process but I was always mulling around with the with the idea and the idea and then one of my kids called me out one day and I just sat down and started going and I had to. I had to take time off right like meaning I stopped podcasting. I stopped blogging. Stopped my emails for a wide like this period so I could try to do something bigger. And here's the coolest part of the story. When it was done I knew I had something man like like I knew it. It's the kind of DINU. Is Tom Durkin Regis? He's GonNa flip like I did. I did but I just knew and so I sent it. I had no agent no nothing. No current publisher. I sent it into the publishing house. That does that style of books. You Know John Gordon's books and Patrick Lynch. Yonis sent it in was expecting all my rejections. You know thinking here. We go like chicken soup for the soul. Hundreds of rejections J. K. Rowling dozens of rejections and a day later they wrote back the head. Senior editor said. It's the best story we've read in this genre and so long we want it and we don't just want we want fast track. It no usually a book could take you know. A book can take like a year and a half. They fast tracked in three months so they could come out in March which was just this March when we all went into seclusion and man and the names as you see on the back cover stuff of the people that have got behind it. It's just everybody is recognizing it for what it is and And you're not alone like everybody's reading it so fast then going back to pull out the gold but it's hitting them so hard. It's exactly what I wanted to do. And Yeah like I told you. I'm considering this gift. That was finally able to put out there for everybody and the feedback has made it all worth it for anybody listening. Everybody says they want to write a book. It's not easy right like it's it's not easy but this was one of those had to get done kind of things and and and but here's but here's the best. You'll love this though because you and I talk about this stuff right here. It's here in my hands. Real right what. I want people to understand is it's not about the book it's about manifesting something you wanted to give like. It was an idea till I took action. And then it became real so like guys. Your thoughts are power. Your thoughts are magic so make sure right. Now they're positive and and they're they're focused on what you want so you. Are you ready for big line? Td is when? I wrote down a few days shared my network Monday. What state what. It's Wednesday or groundhog's Day. I don't know what they what get ready because you got you're GonNa love it you manifest what you magnify so whatever. Your microscope is on you. Few focused on a ton of negative stuff. Then that's what you get. You focused on writing and you wanted to create a certain book. And that's all you'll see and then all of a sudden manifest that in your life and that's that's not just me talking that's history right like all the great inventors all the great whatever business owners all that they guys whatever it is going on in your life is a function of what your magnifying right now and this book whether you ever write a book not anything though use it as the example like it wasn't real a now it's real because look what I said. I had to take time away from certain things and magnify other things until it was real right which goes to another cool idea. You'RE GONNA love this one ready. People ask me they keep asking. How'd you do it? How'd you do it? You know how I did it rain for the word neglect. So somebody might say well neglect. That's usually a bad word. What do you mean there? What do you mean well? I had neglect all the things that were wasting my time. And we're helping any way to ever get this book done now. I wasn't neglecting my family or my business but hey I wasn't watching net flicks. I wasn't wasting my time scrolling through the Internet with I. I wasn't in bad. Conversations are things that weren't helping me. So here's what's cool you manifest. What you magnify. That'll be a part of your life. But your but your life will show up on the things that you spend a lotta time neglecting to. I don't know it's like I've had some time to deep. Think on it. How did it happen and yeah people you know what this is? This is all the. Tv shows didn't watch like people will say. Oh did you watch this show? Ten seasons to our fifty episodes each like now. I I wrote this. Did you read this book but using that as an example half neglected eating bed? I've neglected sitting on the couch instead of working out and depending on the things that you do the things you neglect. It's a weird way of looking at where your life's going to end up so I- extracted out a few of the principles our statements. I'm going to say the statement if you could just react to it. Let me know because in this story. Brian night is a coach. He's a football coach and he's got play. Air Marcus He he disciples called disciples but night has his mentor. Coach and that mentor. Coach imparts a lot of wisdom and makes Brian Nights Certainly a better coach assuming that mentor coach would be your coach. Scarola in in the in the doric wreck how I envisioned it. And it's a lot of people ask. Who are these people wasn't real and you and I talked about this everything. The book guys is real. It's based off things. Don't happen to me or or the people are composites of certain people like Marcus. The athlete in the story. He's a composite by handful of these athletes. I train what? There's some real deep stuff that goes on in there that it was rea- and take the Brian's wife in the story I picture that after a man the challenges that I was going through and why was going in it six. Am and coming home at night. Now I got two young kids and she's like. Hey you gotta start coming home like you to now. They they know you're not here anymore. And so there were so many challenges and yes I would say the. The old coach is a composite of people. But I also believe he's a little bit of me to like meaning was I at twenty five and who am I almost at fifty and when I tell that guy. That was a lot of inspiration for the book you know. So you're here. We go rapid fire enthusiasm and you have an I. A S M capped yet. What is what is the. I A SM in enthusiasm and why is it important? Yes so that was given to me by a mentor. A long time ago and he'll hey if we were to measure what Todd Naidoo best if you were to say one word that when people describe us it's going to be enthusiasm and everybody should read that as well. Yeah that's a ticket to success but see. I wasn't always like this when I was an orthopedic therapist before. I got into fitness and sport. I wasn't that enthusiast. You would have never said that about me. And here's why because of those four letters at the end it's an acronym I a s M. I am sold myself see therapy. I wasn't sold. That was the greatest thing in the world for me or that was going to be now if any therapists are listening. Hey if that's your passion and your purpose co for but you better be on fire like we are with veins on neck getting people and it's that wasn't me. I was the not my gut. Sundays ruined because I've got to go to work on Monday. Guy And sit in traffic on the Turnpike and the parkway where like but man when I made the switch and I and I really did chase what was so enthusiastic about because I'm so sold I get everybody else sold to and that is that is the biggest secret you ought to be enthusiastic and for it to be authentic..
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"How much sugar three teaspoons coffees? Would you say you have a day? I only have one. Maybe maybe to not often anymore. Okay Eighty six years old. Mom You can do that. You can have two cups of coffee water. Put your sugar in your in your water folks. Don't try that at home. You're eighty six and you want to try. Go for it I did. I say gives me energy south. I'm still hanging in there. I still remember the cruise to Bermuda when when one of your private duty clients past and left us some money. You took every single penny that you did instead of investing it. You wanted to family cooped up on a cruise ship. I flew home from Germany. I was playing in Berlin Germany Football at the time and you took all of us on a cruise to Bermuda because you wanted everyone on a cruise for one week where we were uninterrupted. Do you remember that yes and I think what impressed me a lady a couple that I work for for quite a few years around the time I was divorced. They took me on my first. Who's ever been on? And that meant so much to see Bermuda and I enjoyed it so much so when I did committed this financial money. I thought what better way. 'cause a Lotta my case. Maybe never have an interest or clean afford it And say I'm not going but at least you've had the experience of what cruises like like something seventeen and my sister a couple of others but all the grandchildren. We all went and had a good. They all can do what they want. They can go golf if they want. Or You could go. Yup silly the cooking class but it was fun. It was a highlight. I think the entire family would say that. My my need to reveal a few things to you that I'm actually still in psychiatry for when I was a young kid like you broke wooden spoon over my but one tile four but I did I wanNA know why the heck folks I remember mom chasing me around this massive dining room table. That was for ten year eight kids mom and dad for ten with a wooden spoon and I had must have probably said something. Deviant little kid was nine and you broke the wooden spoon because of my heart. But you broke it. Just remember why I have no idea I still have a yellow was probably a Gulf saying I go use to stir my watch the parents. We don't necessarily recommend that. I was spanked many times when I was a kid including check this out errands. I remember when I was a young kid. I was a Tyke I was probably. I'm going to say eight nine years old. I try to do this backflip off of a lot of call lawn furniture and I didn't quite make the back flips and I cut my back open wide open to the point where needed stitches. I remember crying so much I go in and tell mom and she looks like we're going to need stitches for that one and instead of you like urgently take me to the ER. You proceed CA. Start cutting coupons out of the newspaper. What are you doing? Can you please tell our friends today? Who are listening in. Why did you not take me to the hospital right away to get stitches and preceded cut out the darn coupon out of the newspaper? I really don't know but I think it was. It wasn't bleeding seriously but I knew it's going to need stitches saw thanks for doing and the Turkey. The hospital and I got eight stitches if I don't if I don't recall it's because you said I don't WanNa waste gas going to the hospital and not going to this to the store so I went and got stitches. Eight of them in my bag still got a beautiful scar and now we we went to the storm and save twelve dollars at the score because the stitches that mom mom you know always taking a look bottom. Line use coupons but don't have to combine your your your trips to the hospital on that. I'll never forget that but mom was so calm. It's good and it's not that bad. It's ripped I could see your spine. But that's okay. Let me get these coupons going so love your mom. Thanks for that. I am such a better parent now after your your calm cool and collected this on that as well. Hey Mom you know one thing. I joke around about that because you really are the most patient person I I don't know how you you've done it growing up. You're born nineteen thirty three. Obviously you've seen a lot lately. The Corona virus kind of pulverized and paralyzed so many people and I've been on this tolerating crusade lately to say. Hey listen despite adversity. We've got to continue to take care of ourselves. Our bodies our minds our spirits deepen your faith. Now is a great time to deepen your faith. Pray more than ever before Take care of your mindset. Don't just listen to the news all day. It's not good for your mental health. Just watch the news. I've been really really encouraging people to continue exercising. I don't care which is your home. You've gotTA continue exercise even if it's your body weight if you've got some court like you gotTa have a physical outlet of the stress now in your time you've seen a lot of stressful situations Along the way and when I say stressful situations I'm talking everything from World War. Two Korea Vietnam. Jfk being shot the Iranian hostage. The Gulf War nine eleven and now is Do any of those kind of like standout you virus now but like out of all the things in your lifetime this one maybe. Kinda like you reflect upon and say well this Kinda. I remember this vividly. I remember when Paul went to Iraq. He called in January. We're carrying our driver to see Maribeth in Florida. She was living there. And he call these like Hamas a beautiful day strange the way he said you knew. The accentuation meant something. Say couldn't tell me where he was. I knew that so. It was just a short talk. We're on our way to Florida and as we were driving in Washington. What three or four hours from New Jersey we heard on the radio the bond redraft over in Iraq. So now it's like now. I understood what Paul was trying to tell us because he was prepared new. There're practicing for this Big Event to happen and my brother Paul second oldest brother who is a retired colonel in the Marine Corps Had several deployments on that and mom one thing that you know in your memory there. You've seen a lot of of things. I just mentioned a couple of them. Heck I had replacement last year. Paul go in a war. Stephen Heaven Horrific Accident America. Judy having kids at a young age my sister Karen having type one diabetes. How do you get through like when you get the news of Paul going to war or Stephen Terrific action what is your what is your mindset? I was talking about. Get your mind right get your mind right what do you do? What's your mindset to get through challenging times? I think when you hear of a stressful situation or you think is like yet to say to yourself. Well a now. Don't get excited. Relax and control yourself. Just try to relax and sink it out. I was fiance easygoing button. I didn't want to overreact to the whole thing..
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"It wasn't bleeding seriously but I knew it's going to need stitches saw what I'm doing and it took the hospital and I got eight stitches. Welcome back to another episode of target impact show and today. You are in for a special treat. She has been a long time. I want to have her on the podcast for a long time. I have my beautiful mom. Mafi Durken in the house today. Mom Say hello to all of our podcast listeners. Today say Hello. Hi there and welcome in my son. Todd Arlando far. That's why I am in Orlando Florida and this podcast. Today is coming through my phone because moms eighty six years old and I was down here in Orlando four four perform better which actually was cancelled due to the corona virus. And I'm like you know what we're GonNa take advantage of this opportunity to talk to mom and is going to be fun. We're going to have a delightful session where you smile. You laugh you love and you get a chance to to get to know. My Mom The woman who made me and seven of my brothers and sisters yes. I said seven. I have five sisters two brothers. If you've listened to previous episodes I've talked about that and If you read the book I talk about my Mama Lot. I devote a whole chapter to a because she truly is the most loving sweet beautiful tough woman you could ever meet so some rapid fire questions for Durkan and you can let it up and I hope this puts a big smile on your face. First off mom went when. And where were you born? I was born in Orange. New Jersey is Memorial Hospital October. Twenty Ninth Nineteen Thirty Three Nineteen thirty three. And then what would be something about you that no one knows or that you what is surely what. Selden that. Maybe I don't know or or that the world doesn't know that you'd like to share probably recently. I noticed I talk to myself my silly but no one knows that. I think all of us talked to herself mom. I think I'd say when you talk to yourself. Get Ned if I did something wrong or they will that you did a good job. Mary a lot few did it. So you have self talk. That's right see I call that self talk and what you say to yourself is important like it could be positive especially nowadays with everything going on it could be saying good things or you can be beating yourself up right. I won't ask you who your favorite kid is. I won't say that 'cause I should say favorites exactly they'll have little likes and dislikes or they have their goods demands and they all get along with the kids because if you could see her not only she eighty six years old. Eighty six pounds eighty six pounds of pure muscle. This woman is easier as boys or girls. Equally the same for me might different. Fi- five daughters and three sons last rabbit far question and I'll ask some deeper ones. You Odyssey me growing up and for you. If you haven't listened to earlier episodes please go back. Always impact one in two episodes. One and two are fantastic. I share a lot about growing up but when I was five years old. Mom and dad got divorced And I had the wonderful wonderful Love of my mom growing up and from age five to ten DISA- tremendous impact. I mean my whole life but obviously being those formative years after you and dad got divorced. I was playing soccer. Used to go to a lot of those soccer games and do all the laundry after football basketball baseball. Do you have a favorite memory and again I know we have seven brothers and sisters but when I was growing up with her a favorite memory of soccer football basketball baseball that you would possibly share. Maybe it was doing the laundry and I was at a favorite memory. I agree I enjoy doing our lawn. So it's nice and fresh. We enjoy going to the Games and looking forward to the next game or even when he did get a college scholarship which is great. While was that great. Well really. We didn't have heat enough to be tied down to a big school loan and a little bit easier on myself thinking about it on worrying about it knows very happy and we. We're only five six hours away to be able to travel to go see in the room. Yeah so it was. It was good because we didn't have the money to pay for college. So right. So how earned that Scott College. One thing guys I'll tell you. This is not an eighth grade growing up. We had to move and sell the House that mom and dad had since one thousand nine hundred fifty eight sixty one or sixty one so in one thousand nine hundred eighty five mom sold that house and moved and I pleaded to not move out of the district where I could play for coach Warren Wolf and the Brick Green Dragon. Shout out to all you brake lights out there but I remember this. Is How an eighth grader things I remember throwing. Footballs at the real estate. Sign in cracking it and half thinking that if if the sign was up on the front lawn that we couldn't sell her house why didn't know about like the whole mls in the listings? And that stuff so I thought hey as long as there's no sale sign on the front lawn we couldn't sell but we ended up staying in district so that I could play football at brick and for coach Wolf and then earning that scholarship was as a young man. Seventeen years old tremendously gratifying. Knowing that we couldn't afford college and that was gonNA certainly help you know guys coming in here. Mom had a a new habit a new fun thing that she's been doing. Y'All know that I've always talked about. Get your mind right for many many years and in June June second. We've got the book coming out. I walked in and I see all these needlepoint. What would you call them on their needlepoint signs but logos get your mind? Right needlepoint signs. How many have you made? I've probably made over twenty already and I think you're writing a book that'll be get your mind right so I feel what better way? Try to make different colors. Thank God it gives me something to do. Five o'clock in the morning. I start my needlepoint. I enjoy to relaxing. Even though I have arthritis I could still keep moving my hands so finally all memories of what I did every stitch. There's a story to every little one Bryan Joy. So you've made twenty of these at least. Do you have a goal like you? WanNa make going keep going many as I want takes how long to make like some. I take two or three days and how many hours you do quite a bit all day. So you're basically in business right now making get your mind right so we enjoy. Hi Julie. Doing I love. Send them out of their sisters. They all have one to hang up. I think we may have to now than Boundary Orlando and I see these beautiful signs here. We may have to get your mind right little giveaway here on the podcast Sir. Social media will see go to the show notes guy to check out the social media on that by the way. This is a little a little coffee talk. We're having because buffy his front were from Jersey so we love our coffee talk right. Mom Try and we're talking about. Get your mind right today. So you WanNa make how many how many you WANNA make get your mind right needlepoint. I have enough with any goal. Basically just keep going as long as I can unless you come up with a new name or logo and ain't it the new name get your minds pretty darn good especially right now. We've got to get our minds right. People are living in fear and desperation and everything else and they're not now is the time that we've gotta get our mind right. And I I came to tears when I saw those. Get your mind right needle points in what you're doing so hey mate what we're gonNA do something special. I'm not sure what it is yet. But but thank you for doing that. Those those are things that I'll remember forever and ever and ever and pray for the world today what this offer viruses going around. Well we will we will. That's for darn sure mom growing up You're a single parent. Essentially you know you and dad got divorced when when I was five. What was the hardest part of being a single parent back then? I think the biggest problem of paying bills just making ends meet. I was always a stay at home. Mom basically a of till Zan I make my own meals and peel potatoes and desert so that was not a problem. Clean myself well. It wasn't just for yourself. You had a bunch of kids kids to think about and the need the needs. They weren't as bad as appeal at one time. I don't know probably couple pounds but they all had good appetite. They weren't seizures. I will admit they ate almost everything I made. You say that so nonchalantly just a couple pounds. A couple of pounds is probably what does appeal to the tales. Hard from here hard with my hands year but I still enjoy my potato. How how did you how did you? How did you do that? How did you making ends meet? How did you make ends meet? What were you doing? I was a nurse so I did go back to school to get by. Knut relicensing private duty a worked at the hospital and some friends. I would be paid cleaner house but I enjoyed helping people and it paid my bills. Even though the kids were good babysitting or watching into like at home I try to get home by nine o'clock at night Your bottom managed it. I managed to get through it. And You wonder but you did it. So when people ask me where I got my work ethic from from the time I was five seeing my mom raise eight kids On a basically while while that had moved away Mom was working double shifts private duty in a hospital. Boston TALE. That make ends meet to put food on the table. And when I say food on the table May rice and beans one day and beans and rice. The next it wasn't fancy if we had a pizza from Caesar's pizza member Caesar's pizza laws and circle dollars apiece dollars and Wednesday night. It was like two one if I if I don't recall you know forget because That that that was a big night in the dark and household and I I just WanNa say thank you. Thank you thank you for the sacrifices that you made. Not only when I was a young boy but Karen my my my siblings closest in age and certainly moving on up Judy Mary Beth. You know all the way from Stephen Paul Patty Pan. Mary Beth Judy Karen and then me like you. Some tremendous sacrifices What would be one of your father's memories of being a mom like what what are some of the highlights that you love eight kids? That's unheard of nowadays. What are some things that you'd say words and are some of your best members? Well Looking back at Memories. I always remember even with the kids. They always drop me off at school a block away because I had an old car while it's not like tonight years ago you didn't have brand new cars. But they still embarrassed. That didn't mean anything to me you. You're lucky you got to school. What kind of cars? That Ellis Chevrolet or Nash. Dodge Dart or something like that you know but but anyway I laugh but they used to. They got through with it. Just be glad you have a ride. I enjoy baking and cooking because I- everyday I bake a cake or a pie every day every day to heal my sweet sugar but an making the donuts if they go ice skating Adams Street in the winter and I shake the doughnuts in a bag with delicious powdered sugar. Oh good don't seem to do those. I hope you're laughing. I am right now because shaking the donut shop sugar. Don't you.
Seattle approves up to 40 tiny house villages
"Currently there are eight tiny house villages in Seattle with the Seattle city council has voted to allow up to forty despite some early concerns by neighbors a few years back city leaders say these villages do a great job of moving people out of homelessness Tracy Williams calls her new home in one of Seattle's existing tiny house village is life changing and I know eventually I will get my own permanent housing the legislation sponsored by councilmember Shamus to want will open the doors for tiny house religious tent cities and say for what for people living in cars will also now be allowed in residential zones janitor can still has to sign the legislation into law there's money budgeted open about two more villages Durkin says future funding will need to be coordinated with the county and the new regional homeless authority data shows fifty three percent of people in tiny house religious end up in permanent housing
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"I'd eat thirty two thousand dollars. Larry get wiped the hotel check for thirty two thousand dollars. That wasn't there so you talk about believing in something and saying you know what what's at work. I didn't know that's a risk. Welcome back to another episode of the impact. Show this is Todd Durkin your host and I M in a very very sacred spot today. I'm outta fitness quest. And that's right and today today is going to be an extremely special episode. Perhaps my favorite one. Why because it just a couple of days January first? Twenty Twenty is our twentieth anniversary of.
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"Like man. I've gained seven. Pounds is holidays. I feel like garbage on that. I'm just going to say than stop eating out as much. You are and make the right choices if you're going to eat out like have a salad with some chicken on top instead of having the whole Pizza Julie. That's right on the side dressing on the side or take half if it at bringing home in a doggy bag and had the rest for lunch or dinner like about that like overspending well the toughest thing to do is to to Woah. Set A budget folks. Yeah budget like you have to know what you can spend the holidays and not run up the credit cards. That's shot Dave Ramsey. Cut The credit cards cards up and don't overspend what's that caches get. Cash is good but most people don't and they overspend over the holiday so it's having the discipline when it comes comes to the finances of not overspending so if you're going into right now you're like. Hey I got a week or two left until Christmas or whatever whenever you WanNa get your holiday for Hanukkah whatever it is like. I'm not spending more than one hundred dollars. Five whatever it may be put number and that's what your budget is when you laugh like hundred dollars you get like five thousand dollars. They don't go into debt because of the holidays and then have to pay it off for the next six months with a credit card interest at eighteen percent. Look we're going to impact. PODCAST is going into finance. Ask You shall we talk money today and then when it causing like negative thoughts Because al you talk about how sometimes over the holidays. You're around family or friends who could be toxic. Woo family members that are optic. Let's let's get into the nitty gritty here But we talked about. Get your mind right you. Do you have to protect your energy Right now it doesn't matter by the wave as December or whatever month you're listening to the podcast at like listen there are toxic situations. There's toxic people. I Call Them Energy Vampires at all times you life and only you can protect your house. Must they protect your house on talking your Dome Your Head when you get your mind enright. That's protecting your dome and when you get your mind right when you get in there and you start to open up the heart and you give great light out you get positive thoughts out You GotTa be careful people of who you're spending time with or how much time you're spending with those folks jewelry comments on good point. You know what I would. I would limit my time with those people on. Just you know when you're around them pour into them pour into them and and Do what you can but then just walk away because you can't take what they have and what they're doing and carried it on your shoulders you have to be true to yourself and you have to love yourself and be able to walk away from that circumstance so so there you have it folks. Today's tighter can impact podcast. CAST is all about habits and I WANNA make sure that you are actually going into these next few weeks on fire. You're having these habits nothing. Oh I'm going to wait until January. Anyway I is that the New Year's off right. I'm going to start to lose weight on January second like no now. Don't wait okay Christmas. You might not work out or maybe you do Hanukkah workout. It's okay you're going to overeat a little bit then. Just burn more calories strap up your own heart rate monitor on your chest. Burn some calories get some maps and get your mind right. Whatever that takes you gotta make it happen now? That's a choice. That's a decision. Any final thoughts jewelry. Yes do it just do you. And don't don't say no. Just get up and go for that walk even if the ten fifteen twenty minute walk. You've got to do it. You got to move your body you gotta move your soul and start now. Don't wait I'm gonNA leave you with his quote. That's one of my favorite. When it comes to the habits yet I taught by the time? Is that your thoughts. Become your words your words become your your flesh your flesh become your actions your actions become your habits your Abbott Your habits become your character and your character becomes comes your destiny and your legacy all starting with your thoughts so don't eat too much sugar over the holidays because the sugar affects your thoughts. It's yes sugar legacy yes. There is a direct correlation via the study from Todd. Durkin that your thoughts are all impacted by what you eat it by who you hang out with who you train with what you're doing. And whether it's December you're listening or the middle of July never accept the excuse that all I'm busy we don't have the time. Listen we all have the same time. I want you to get out there and crush it today and make this holiday season. The best one of your life. Healthy Habits Abbott's healthy mind healthy body and healthy spirit love it and I want to thank Brian and Ali. Those are two really really great questions during this time and and speaking of Brian. I think todd has a little message. Brian Schatz you because one of the reasons why we picked your question because you gave us an awesome review and and why the way. Because you guys aren't busy enough for the holidays you're sitting around you under the mistletoe. Taste MUCCI smooching. All that with your your loved ones. You have plenty of time to write later review right now. Like a five star review for the toddler can impact show light bridet and he says I love what you do and you're a stand out in my opinion I'm loving the podcast. I'm doing my Wfan I listened to all the different episodes And thank you for bringing God into the mix mind body spirit with God. All things helps. I have a morning routine now now I have my holy hour and I'm I'm doing great things in my life. Thank you to you and the podcast Brian. That's what I'm talking about. That's an awesome review. Keep those reviews coming the star rating and writes reviews especially over the holiday. Times matter of fact. If you do that you might get a little special gift from yours truly. I'm watching aw..
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"Question? I think what I'm most thankful for. You're in the journey that we've gone through this year. Is that Gary Anaya Fall in love with each other again and have found a new way to live our lives and new norm We laugh we cry together. We work out together There's a lot of things that we do together that we didn't do together before because we took it for granted it We took our health for granted our time together for granted. We've been married thirty one years November eleventh so we just had a wedding anniversary and We're looking forward to renewing our vows in two thousand twenty and spend the rest of our lives together and hopefully In good health and sometimes times gratitude comes with loss enforcing you didn't lose Gary but Christie lost cabin. He succumbed the cancer. This year Christie what do you think she'll be most grateful for being her best friend. How does she find? Thanks in in such a tough time. You you could have lost Gary. And he's GonNa be sitting there with you. She won't have Kevin. What will she find gratitude? And do you believe in a year of loss. I think just being there for for her kids being there and just being thankful for the time she had with Kevin and I think thankful for that. Kevin didn't suffer too long even though he wasn't with us much much too long after he was diagnosed. But it was actually a blessing that He is now in God's its hands and that he's living under life and that he is looking down on us and the kids but I think Kristie would be most thankful for the kids and where they're at in the stages they're going through The struggles are going through but also the time that she has with them and the time that they're going to have together as a family And the joy they bring to her. That's great final question Julie when you sit down today what are you most excited for unbased giving what are you most excited not eat. Oh Gosh I must deserve a lot of stuff stuffing. I didn't ask that question stopping. She's he's got the Berry Pie. Jeff what are you most excited about. My sister's macaroni and cheese. Macaroni and cheese. Wow Wow now I gotta be honest with you I I. I mean as far as thanksgiving. I Love Apple Pie and my my mother. God bless her. She's eighty six years young. She has this thing called hard sauce. It's pretty much nothing but pure sugar and you put that all over the Apple Pie so I plan on absolutely crushing a workout on Thanksgiving thanksgiving morning so if you're out there crushing I'm probably with you right now on my mind zone belt getting after it so I can earn not just one apple pie slice. I'll probably have to do you eat and then you take a nap watching football and then when the footballs go back for seconds and then Friday we always have the you know the burn the bird workout in the Turkey toss. Aw there's nothing better than on Friday black Friday having a little extra some leftovers as well right so yeah so this this is being being real here and I want to hear from you guys on this thanksgiving. What are you most grateful for and What brings you joy? Because maybe you've been through hell and back and The beautiful thing about about Janet Jeff and Julie today is in their own right. They've all been through Helen back. Some of them are still facing their challenges right. I just like you I believe we face so much more adversity today than sometimes we even think we can handle and when you look at the the poem footprints when sometimes and you think you you you know you can't handle it you look in the sand and there's only one set of footprints and that's got said That's me caring you. You thought it was your footprints. No those are God's footprints that are caring you. If perhaps on this Thanksgiving Day this Thanksgiving weekend this holiday season. Whenever you're listening to this podcast is that I want you to realize this? Is You gotTa make sure that you continue your best practices. What was your saying Janet? You gotta eat that pain you gotta eat that pain. Jeff give any hope and inspiration for our folks listening being today over the holidays from Thanksgiving to let's say Christmas and Hanukkah into the new year. Is there one piece of Wisdom Janice had eat. Eat that pain. What would you say if you have kids? Cherish them out to make the time count and just because I don't get to see them every day Can you take it for granted. Does not there so every interaction with them whether it be a game or just as simple as playing tag or peek. A Boo. You know just you. You know sheriffs in and I know they'll remember it you know when they get older so just cherish these tribes nice joy final thoughts final thoughts. I want you all. I'm GonNa Challenge everyone out there today to go out and kiss your spouse love your spouse make sure they know how you feel about them. Don't take them for granted. Wanted and live the rest of your life with happiness. And if you don't have a spouse which the kiss someone that's at the table right maybe maybe just on your daughter. Maybe it's a friend. Make this holiday season one of love right so we talk about that. I think the thing. I'm most grateful four today on this Thanksgiving Day. Holiday is I always I try to spend a Lotta time in gratitude. But I like Jeff was saying like like Janet was saying Julia was saying Being in the moment and actually taking a snapshot picture of the people who are right in front of my face my family Who on the holiday today? We are more grateful for but the fact that we can break out the orange dishes. The dishes that have been brought to the Durkin household and in over fifty years. I think of Tradition and to eat off those plates at mom passed down and You know we continue certain traditions on that is just being in the presence of my family and knowing that there are so many blessings in life and define those blessings Right now in health in good times in tough times that you could always find something good out there. So on behalf of Julie Janet Jeff I wish you and your family a very very happy Thanksgiving a happy Thanksgiving holiday and as we embark upon the holidays To really stay strong and to think about to keep going These folks Via Pit. Him is what it means to keep going into. Not Give up into find fate into to relish and be grateful for your health and every now and then and to stop and make sure you eat that pain. That's a good one. Folks have an incredible Thanksgiving happy Thanksgiving holiday whatever day. You're you're listening to this. It's always a great day to live in gratitude. Peace and God bless thank you guys..
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"Given over thirty scholarships to student athletes who desire go to college and number ten and lastly and most importantly my relationship with God. My faith has always been important since I was young. God has always been in my life. I was raised Catholic and devoutly went to mass. Today I practice as a nondenominational Christian. Here's a recent prayer and when I often pray Lord please be in my heart and in the my head please be the courage. Please give me the courage to continue leading on all levels and Lord allow me to follow your will not mind whatever your path is for me. Give give me the strength courage and knowledge to follow your purpose for me so that I can turn glorify you thank you a man so folks that was read straight out of the wild book and I think about this Thanksgiving here and all that it is. I wish you and your family a very very happy Thanksgiving and as we approached host the holidays to slow down enough this week to really be present in all the conversations that we have all the people in our life and all the things McKenna Brady and Luke and Melanie all shared about what they're most grateful for and including enjoying the food kids any final comments. Thank you for having us. Yeah thank your comments. Thank you all right Meli. Thank you for listening happy Thanksgiving. Yeah thanksgiving Thanksgiving folks one final reminder whereas the Dirk and family wishes you and yours. Very happy Thanksgiving thanksgiving part of Thanksgiving with all those fs. I mentioned including football part of its fitness business Thursday plant. Get your booty up. Get up and burn calories you gotta earn the bird before you burn the bird so you got to earn it. I that means let's get up Thursday and make sure you get a great sweat on and then do me a favor. Can you share what. You're most grateful for whatever that one thing is that you're most grateful for. I want you to share share. It share it. Share this podcast if you'd like to Give it to some family or friends that want to release to spend more time in gratitude and this has been awesome awesome just having a family around the the dining room table talking gratitude and and having the family talk about what they're most grateful for obviously family is the number one thing we always say and I know. I'm most grateful for family as well for Melanie and the support. She gives our family all the time for Jersey. WHO's at her feet right now? Wanting to be part of the action. He's under they're wanting to go for a walk right now and for Luke Brady and McKenna We certainly don't take any of our family for granted so as you go about your Thanksgiving thank. Thank you for who you are and what you do. Every single day go out and be radiant light this week and as Thanksgiving approaches to slow down in the airports parts to slow down to smile at someone who needs to smile for someone who's down and has been going through a tough time right now maybe to reach out to a family member that you've been having a tough time with an connected with an awhile you to reach out and give a phone call to or even a handwritten note yourself get up. Get up and work out. This Thursday makes burn them calories and spent some time in gratitude without further ado. Happy Thanksgiving the durken's and I can't wait to connect with you happy Thanksgiving everybody Thanksgiving thanksgiving..
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"He's giving is gratitude. You don't need to start a foundation to have gratitude but you can give your time energy money to philanthropic efforts that align with your passion one of my best new practices. This is keeping a gratitude journal several days a week by the ten minutes are right when I'm prayed for in my journal. So guys check this out. I wrote this book several years ago. And these are the ten things as I wrote. And they're the same things. I'm still grateful for today number one melanie number two my kids Luke Brady McKenna three my mother. Now she's eighty six years old and she's she still here. There's not a single phone conversation that goes by. Don't just cherish number four. My extended family five fitness quest ten and our entire team and all of our clients and member member the actual brick and mortar are sanctuary. Where he worked as share our passion every single day? That's a blessing. I'm extremely grateful to get to. Ah Love every single day number six my own health remember he or she who has their health has a thousand dreams he or she does not has won and with my new knee now. I'm feeling extremely grateful. This thanksgiving my mastermind man. I love my mash among love hanging the having the Dakota hundreds of fit pros on an ongoing basis number eight of ten speaking at various conferences and events worldwide in two thousand nineteen been on the road forty two times for various events. I'm grateful for or that number. Nine the Durkan Impact Foundation as we speak. We're wrapping up Oliver efforts for impact month so we can give out more scholarships here in early early twenty twenty and thus far we've raised over two hundred and fifty thousand dollars four from the foundation and they've.
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"Deeply light that right number seven we can complain because Rose Bushes have thorns or rejoice Because thorns have rose's I see little smile on your face. Of course of course you think in the thorns you think in the roses. Oh it's a it's a good balance of both all right all right. Brady's got a big smile on his face over there I think he's like getting ready for the microphone. Zig Ziglar number eight be grateful for what you have and stop complaining. It bores everybody else. Does you no good and doesn't solve any problems ZIG ziglar. That's a great quote on gratitude. Number nine gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more it turns the Nile into Acceptance Acceptance Chaos. TO ORDER CONFUSION TO CLARITY. It can turn a meal into a feast a House into a home and a stranger into into a friend melody. Beatify great quote and number ten by the man Albert Einstein. He says they're only two ways to live. Live your life one is as nothing miracle the other as everything is a miracle ten great quotes on gratitude as we kick off Thanksgiving week any thoughts on any of those quotes Melanie. I love those quotes. I'm actually going to steal those so you can go. We were sharing. My favorite quote is about the sunshine. But don't pray when it rains if he didn't pro in the sunshine that's a great one voice voice actual so think about those share them with your family on this Thanksgiving holiday. Let's go right into it. I'm going to be going around the board here and asking the family about doc gratitude. Because I think it's important in this busy holiday too slow now it's busy and everyone's run into the store and making all the food and I think the average time to eat. The food is about twelve minutes in the preparation is about three days right. So I'm GonNa Start with mcada I'm done with you. I have two questions for you McKenna. I want this is the most important question of all. What's your favorite thing to eat on Thanksgiving? I have a couple I probably I love. Mom's stuffing that's really good that that is good by the way. Yeah that's good and then I love your sweet potatoes. potatoes `tatoes marshmallows. That is definitely. I think he puts Pecans in there. Yes big shout out to your there. She does make some really really great sweet potato pie sweet potato casserole. That's a that's a thumbs up good. And then how about on this thanksgiving. What's one thing now McKenna's eleven years old old a big eleven sixth grade? What's one thing that you're most grateful for? And by the way rule. You can't say family because I know everyone is grateful for family and everyone says family. So what's one thing before but you can't say family because we're all grateful for family. I'm grateful for my health and ability to play sports and Ryan you play soccer and Lacrosse S. So you actually are grateful that you have the health to do that two arms. It's two legs. Get out there and kick the ball. Throw the Lacrosse Ball. Okay good good and what are you most love about soccer right now. You're playing soccer. What are you most love about it? I have a bunch of friends on my team. So that's really fun and I love my physician. I play forward to score goals right all right. That's good so your health. That's a good one by the eleven year old. I liked that McKenna. Let's go over to Brady Brady. Brady's fourteen freshmen in highschool. Oh and Brady now. This is a dangerous question for a mom and dad to ask. Because we're talking about eating and if you've got any kids out there you know these kids each out of a household and between Brady Luke. They're eating us out of the household so if you only had to pick one thing what's like what you love to eat on Thanksgiving. Well I would probably have to go with the CRANBERRY member Mix because every year that is always great to put on sandwiches and with the Turkey and stuffing everything is good but with the cranberry sauce. This is just ten times better okay. How many how many times do you typically like? Refill your plate on Thanksgiving like you make multiple trips back after the first plate. Of course how many times do you probably go back for refills. Well I'm going to have to say more than three Okay Brady Brady. Maybe getting the biggest eater award this year. Yeah okay all right. I like that I like that. What are you most grateful for this Thanksgiving holiday on down to say the opportunity opportunity of life is something that I was given and I can do everything from so? Let let let's talk. Let's Br Brady. He's a global thinker. The opportunity for life now that could go in any direction. We had the opportunity for life. Are you talking like the fact that you're living your grateful that you're living like a blank slate Brady thinks like he's like you know. What did honestly these boys did? Not have this big microphone and you should not have sat them next to each other know. They've they've got the giggles right now and they're trying to make each other laugh and this could get interesting. That's what happens in fourteen. I said I think we need to pass going but I'm sticking with Brady here opportunity thirteen for life. I'm going back to this because right now you are in the car or the airplane. You're laughing because Brady is that the opportunity for so go back to it. I'M GONNA I'm GonNa get on you for this what you anybody opportune for life. The fact that you're living or because you can do anything in the in the world that you want someday well just the fact that I'm living every day to the fullest and I'm doing everything I can to be the best okay. And how do you do that. Work extremely hard. Do the best that I can in everything study practice and just focus on matters so you guys know I talk about parenting. All the time Brady is someone who spends hours a night studying. He practices in lifts really hard. And like you know the hardest work sometimes like Brady. You got to relax because he wants. He wants to do such big things which is awesome. I'm the King of dream big big and I think when you say opportunity for life you have multiple visions for your life right. You've got like a lot of different things that you want to do them. Scratching my head myself the king of positive thing and thinking man. He's got some huge aspirations and dreams. But what I was saying. You hear me say this. All the time is through hard work. Anything is possible so brady. That's a great answer. Thank you I like it. I like over over to our sixteen year old Luke. All right now. This is another dangerous because Brady Lucre are trying to make you laugh again. We're sitting at the dining dining room table. Where we we enjoy many of our Thanksgiving and Christmas meals and Easter and and special meals but as we go through this look? I'm starting with the food favorite thing to eat. I think I'm going to have to be original under say the Turkey and stuffing that best part of Thanksgiving so. I'm always looking forward to that when we sit down to eat. Okay I like that good. How many pieces of Turkey have one definitely more than that? I don't even know a few plates few plates. Let's go to which are most grateful for so luke you're sixteen years old. You're junior in high school. What are one or the two things that you're most grateful for besides family? I am really grateful for my friends and teammates because in a sense they kind of are like family to and now he's it's like put a smile on my face and laugh and it's always like being around them So as you've probably been following Lucan Brady both. I have been involved with football this year. And we've had an incredible football season and When you meet Luke's teammates They share our great young men. Because I have the opportunity to work with those guys on a regular basis both in the weight room and on the field and I love that you honor. Those guys is as one thing great for how about something else besides football you besides football family. I just like our blessings the gem in this house and all of that thankful for it. Because I know there's a lot of people that aren't there's fortunate is us is US Zoar lucky to have all this so simple some simple things that you sh- could easily take for food. Okay that's good stuff all right. Great Great Answers by a sixteen fourteen eleven year old on that Mel. Let's go over to my wife. Melanie now. This is GonNa this is GonNa get interesting but let's talk food because I know you are awesome because you make food all the time for these kids and me and that's one thing I'm most grateful for is how you take care of our home and take care of the kids and I know they didn't say that but they are extremely grateful. But for you favorite thing at Thanksgiving when you finally slowdown and sit down. What are you most grateful for? No no let's go with food. What do you love to eat really favorite food? My favorite food is all the sides. Actually the sweet potato casserole and the corn pudding and the Brussels sprouts. But I'm feeling really guilty right now because this week we are going out to dinner and I'm not cooking and I'm most grateful for that I wasn't it wasn't wanting to spend four days cooking but I may have to whip up a little cranberry sauce for Brady over. There is small Turkey. We may have have to do that. There's nothing to feel guilty about there. That is A. That's a great thing on that. So what's what's one or two things most grateful for besides family. I am most grateful that it is Thanksgiving Week and we have had no football injuries. That have been significant in our family and on our team and I was really praying hard for that all season and nervous about that. So I'm really grateful for for that and I am grateful that it is the last week of my semester next week and I'm heading into some time off and getting ready for the holidays. It was a great semester but it's almost over. I'm in week fourteen out of fifteen. So I'm I'm grateful for that attended gotTa pipe in what do you. What's your favorite Thanksgiving food? And what are you most grateful for eleven year old stepping on up. Well Aw you know dad I love everything you said. But I'm going right to the desert I love. I love Pecan Pie and you know what's critical about Bert folks. y'All are laughing like really yes. And you know what you have to do with your pecan Pie or even your apple pie you gotta put Nannies Special Heart Sauce on now look at the smallest. They just lit up like a Christmas tree over here. I was nannies. Got This.
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"Welcome back to another episode of the impact show and it is Thanksgiving Week and I am so pumped up today because I am in my dining room and with my family. I've got Melanie here Luke Brady and McKenna what's up FAM. How this is going to be a special episode because I am going to be interviewing interviewing them about gratitude and what it means To have gratitude in your life because Thanksgiving without a doubt is one of my favorite holidays. You talk talk about a great holiday. It's not saying the same stresses Christmas or Hanukkah with all the hubbub. You talked about Thanksgiving. You've got faith your family. You have feasting and yes. There should be some fitness in there as well. So are you guys pumped up for Thanksgiving. We are so excited. I can't believe you've forgot that one F- though football I thought I was waiting for you to say. Oh okay. I was waiting for Luke umbrella to say that as well. Football of course is one of the traditions of of Thanksgiving. So hey wherever you are today as you listen in. A lot of people are traveling over the Thanksgiving holiday. I'm GonNa make this snappy and short when it comes to gratitude as we you go through this and we're going to have a little fun as we go round the table and chairs some gratitude and thanks before I jump into that what I WANNA do is I came up with some of my favourite gratitude quotes. I want you to listen to these quotes and maybe some of these these These guys today are going to pipe in their thoughts but quote number one. I've got ten. It's not happiness this that brings us gratitude. It's gratitude that brings US happiness number two Melton Number two gratitude. A two-day opens the door to the power. The wisdom the creativity of the universe. You Open the door through gratitude. And that's Deepak Chopra a quote. I love that one about gratitude. And here's here's one of my favorites number three Alan Cohen love. Alan Cohen gratitude. Like faith is a muscle the more you use it the stronger it grows and the more power you have to use it on your behalf. You do not practice gratefulness. It's benefactions. We'll go unnoticed. And your capacity to draw on its gifts will.
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"You are asking great questions by the way that starts arts with your vision as a leader because in year two thousand three I started working with an athlete name Ladainian Tomlinson anyone by the way know who that is I don't know but lt was my first athlete I ever worked with. He was the first round pick for this anyway. chargers and I started working with with Lt and he came in and he was right after my seventy five year old woman Donna Dickenson now Donna was like my first client here at fitness quest ten year two thousand and I would train Donna for her tennis matches and the and the next hour I was training. Lt This incredible famous athlete here here in town and the more I was working with athletes grandma's and GRANDPA's people would start to ask like have you ever considered getting an athlete only performance facility Jodi and the more I went deep on Hayes at something I should do more is like absolutely not why would I do that you train nine athletes and clients and grandma's and GRANDPA's and kids the same way. They all want the same thing. They WANNA be great. They strive for excellence. They tried to become better so donna is pushing just as hard as Lt. He is now. Does he have more physical gifts. Of course he does. He was a twenty three year old athlete with a forty inch vertical jump as fast as lightning and and you know he was working on his craft but guess what Donna got so much joy out of playing tennis matches and that would that's what kept her alive and moving on that court was her joy how she expressed herself so from the start it was always my vision under one roof to combine training and massage therapy because I have back onto massage and bodywork as well it was the take the best of the Western world and take it with the eastern world of breath work meditation <hes> stretching and Yoga and Tai Chi and ricky work and how do you take this an integrated with Olympic lifts and and and apply metrics and if you take that under one roof and integrate into very complimentary three hundred sixty degree he practiced how can we affect all areas of the body mind and spirit and to me that from the start was always our philosophy and it has been that way for now over nineteen years almost twenty years. It's been that way of we work with you. Walk in an hour. You'll see kids training and you guys have worked a lot of kids. You'll see you've been on the field with the pro athletes you see the grandmas. GRANDPA's the class with the everyday duties weekend. Where's desk jockeys coming on in so that starts with a visionary thing and then the folks that you attract the trainers and staff massage therapist that you attract to your organization here at his quest ten <hes> then that just becomes is an aspect of your culture good question Todd <hes> you mentioned Lt and lt obviously brought in drew so and so forth Raza's history what what was it like for you personally to see their growth on the field as being you know a rookie for a second year player and then to where they became name and where they are now like for you to see knowing that you you know played a hand in it right. I love football season because I get to sit back and watch when when their off-season it's I'm in-season so from February through July. I'm in grind time. I'm getting these guys better and I am going to work my butt it off to make sure that these guys get better not just in the weight room but I'm peppering them in text them and send them crazy videos from the gym. I'm in their head and having them read and everything else so you know to get in to get in their head all the time a guys like Lt Drouin sp- Rosie and these guys is let's face it. I've been blessed <hes> part of the NFL is you gotta be lucky to get hurt. <hes> you know. Lt didn't have any major major. Injuries drew had a major injury from a hit in two thousand late late two thousand five but overall has been <hes> very healthy his nineteen year career part of that is because because of the hard work that they put in but I mean when you're when you're such a violent game as football <hes> hard work plus preparation you get a little bit lucky to on on that <hes> when I went to Lt's enshrinement in Canton Ohio two years ago it was the highlight of my career here because for nine years I saw that guy buses when he put on that headband and came in here and trained <hes> whatever I said that guy would do and then some <hes> when you see someone's fruits of their labor payoff it brings you tremendous satisfaction because of the platform they have and how they get back to the community drew brees is no different <hes> five years after that guy retires he will be enshrined in Canton and drew nigh become extremely close obviously with training him for sixteen of nineteen years almost seventeen years <hes> <hes> tremendous respect pride <hes> happens with a guy like drew and not only how he carries himself on the football ballfields but I've never seen drew ever once in my seventeen year relationship with him on ever say no to an autograph he stayed on a football field several several times for the military two hours after practice was over to sign everything for that military family all the soldiers men and women around <hes>. I've seen him in news interviews. I've seen him in radio interviews podcasts and everything else and that guy just serves people and let me tell you it's exhausting when you're on when when people like. Oh man you don't see all the things behind the scenes but <hes> I find tremendous satisfaction knowing that these men are men of CARE Chairman of faith men who are giving good things not the kind of guys. You're going to read about in the police blotter that are doing the wrong. Things are just they're good men doing great things out in the community minority for their teams and the organization great question so I was going to also talk about what the euro professional athletes that you have and just the way that they conduct themselves here as well <hes> because of the community you did that. You have set up here that they don't come in as make some space here. I come. You're there every day folks just just like the rest of US coming in and I actually had the opportunities to co train with Jeff King <hes> who is one of your coaches here and and I was training with Tony Gwynn junior and had no idea who he was and so we are having a conversation and and I hear coach Jeff King mentioned his wife's name and said Gwynn at the end but why introduce me to Tony Tony. He didn't say his last name didn't register to me so I actually did my first half marathon. The San Diego Heff was in honor of Tony Goin' senior and so I said to coach King. Do you think I could talk to him like I just WanNa tell them like about this half marathon on because the people that did the half marathon actually sent me a personal note because I did that marathon half marathon honor of my mother's birthday which was her birthday they weekend and I was able to share that with Tony Win Junior and he was so compassionate with me about the story of me losing my mother him losing his father and just the fact that I'm standing here having a conversation with him both of a sweaty because we just finished working out and I actually was like come on keep going to motivate him mm-hmm. You know standing outside looking like what can I do to motivate Tony Gwynn Junior. You know what I might WanNa trainer so he needs me so I'm in my head like okay this. This is what he came here for but it's just so amazing that nobody walks in here better than the next person's right and is just a community that everybody is giving and loving and even when we're off the schedule as interns there were still being contacted and and being taken care of or making sure that everything is okay with us and I just want to let you know that I appreciate that from you have an community and bringing us in as interns that we have an opportunity to <hes> build our toolbox and be able to say I work with this person and that person and and then no matter who comes in like you're talking about a fifty year old or eighty year old is coming in treat everybody the same and give them the same no matter who they are no matter what they're driving or what they're wearing. It's a person that's coming to you to make them better and so I really appreciate that. You have made their community here. We'll remember this the sweetest thing in the English dictionary if someone's first name yes when you call by name. You make them feel special <hes>. That's a really important thing so that's a skill. You'VE GOTTA learn. How do you remember People's names and you uh when you when you meet a lot of people but how you make people feel is everything <hes> and they always say they don't care how much you know until they know how much you care right so they don't care what you know until until they know how much you care so you gotta make sure that you you win the Karen Game. How do you win the Karen Game. You truly listen to people on that. Tony Gwynn Juniors a great example. Tony's been here cash for a dozen years since he's been playing and his father's an icon a lot of our younger kid you. Tony Gwynn is like no never heard of Mike Oy. He's one of the top baseball players of all time look them up on that and when Tony Senior passed away he was just in his fifties. Oh it's cool to see now. Tony Gwynn junior now doing so many great things in the community of San Diego and around. He's now commentating <hes> for the San Diego Padres <hes> <hes> but hey tony's like anyone else who he's here. He's the regular do trying to get better. He's trying to keep the weight off. He's trying to feel better trying to get his mind right. He's got a podcast as well. He's doing awesome. Things is and again when you're rubbing elbows Lotta Times. It's you know what it is. It's the athletes telling me men that Graham Graham over their their farm me up the way how hard they're working right into the aperture looking at the aperture fire never knows up no the athletes are looking at the regular person in the corner who's just banging out push ups in and TRX rose and they're firing the athletes elites up right so Tony's a great example of of just you know who we have here. F- in his quest hand the culture and regardless of where you train what I wanNa make sure you you find find around the world around the globe. There's so many amazing extrordinary coaches and trainers and fitness professionals find someone who's going to motivate hey you. It's going to inspire you go into an environment. That's positive go into a culture. That's GonNa Light. Your light your heart and soul on fire not just a place because it's pretty the and and the reputation precedes no good a place where you feel great. It brings up your vibration. Your mind and you leave there feeling amazing when you.
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"Listen to the chorus thing and hey we've we've asked the interns they've been grinding for eight weeks and they're graduating this week and the opportunity sit down on the podcast and to to ask any question they want on business leadership training personal growth career tracks whatever it is that's on their mind. They have a chance to ask the question today day. So let's go down the line real quick introduce yourself and a little bit of background and we'll dive right in. Hey guys I'm Julia. I'm currently going into my second year <hes> Fairfield University diversity which is in Connecticut. If you don't know I play volleyball there I've been training fitness quests per four years now and <hes> super fired up for this podcast <hes> and I've learned a lot out of this internship just seeing how much of an impact I could be to other girl training four years at ten and going in and in to what what year now airfield second year second year second year just a sophomore check it out guys. My My name is not. I am going to be a junior Washington University in a couple of weeks. Go cougs yeah there. I'm studying sport management. <hes> I WANNA get into to some sort of like sports business profession <hes> once I graduate but his internship here is helped me personally and physically on getting to know more people coming out of my shell that I've been in although I was finished quest client first time back in two thousand eight when I was about nine years old only so even living on the other side I've seen the impact I've seen the way of <hes> coming out and you know kind of finding your true self and getting along with people better and I've also in the physical side as well like learning about more like P- rehabbing rehab south. I'll take back to me that I didn't know beforehand interesting fact you had a class last semester with Mike Leach coach football coach Insurgent Warfare Football Strategies is a nice ninety minutes seminar <hes> for the month of April where we talked about war and the VAL football and not how they're the same because they're not the kind of how their little more similar. What was the one thing that you learned from coach. Leach either what he said how he carried himself. What what is it <hes>? It's more about his saying about swinging your sword about how your body's sort many. Don't want your store to be dull. Dull sword soared y'all can be able to take down your opponent but if you sharpen your sword if you know if you're in the weight room if you're training consistent love it you're gonna be able to take down your opponent and if you swing your sort of into nasty and your violent and you're aggressive. You're better off being passive love aggressive fantastic. Hey guys on Alex costs. I got my bachelor's in Kinesiology at San Diego state in two thousand seventeen currently have one semester left at San Diego State and I'm working on a master's in exercise physiology not nutrition science. This engine ships been great really diversified. Training South had a lot of fun here and it's really made me realize that there's not one way to train anyone. Athlete thebeat lot of cross training involves learning from the trainers and <hes> really excited for today. I really just want to go and see what's inside that brain those gears turning into the mind right maniac man and what what's your goal. What do you WANNA do Sunday. I WANNA work with professional athletes. Which is why I took this internship. I didn't do for college credits or anything I've just heard so many great things about it and I know some people who've been through it and so I wanted to do it mainly for the experience and I know that you train a lot of high quality athletes and even the average joes but they're all treated the same way I also have aspirations of owning my own facility at some point and everything I've learned this internship has just catapulted me into doing exactly that awesome awesome Nice Job Alex. Thank you Chevy. Hello hello everybody. Thank you for having us here. I'm so super excited for being here to to be able to talk to you. I am actually a fan of Melanie Durkin. Yes he's my professor to meet this <hes> I won't I'll say better half. Let's say this meet this. I'm super excited. I had no idea she's so modest about who her husband is so I'm just happy to actually be in the room with todd today and be able to talk to him. <hes> you know a little more one on one and <hes> have his attention rather than be watching him from the distance train which he is so great at <hes> so. I am alive learner and I go to southwestern college again with Melanie your wife and when and she gave us the opportunity to come here. I just knew that it had to be done and again. I had no idea what I was walking into but we came here for <hes>. I'm just to walk around before the internship started and soon as I walk through the door so much love and I said Oh yeah I need to be low so I'm very happy that I had the opportunity and much more excited to be able to talk to you. One on one like I get to do with Melanie more often also Chevy. If you guys haven't listened to the previous episode with with my wife Melanie definitely tuned and she talks about her experience as a teacher and professor at southwestern college and <hes> Chevy done a great job here the internship so congratulations. I think some semblance of Garett what's up on Garrett Garrett. I'm currently a student at UCSD going into my third year <hes> <hes> longtime client of fitness quest through both my family. My sister has gone here for multiple years. <hes> I'm actually going on seven years as a client. I'm here now and I intern last year and this is actually my second year interning finished quest and the main reason behind that is just the community. It's such an uplifting feeling being here with all the other interns and all the other coaches an environment of just motivation and optimism. That's just <hes> something I wanted in my life. It's something good to have so second time intern. Did you pass the first time I think the past because they brought me back nice good guys. You're looking at five and listen to five great interns on this end today. All we're doing is opening up for questions of who wants to go first and whatever you have question wise. Let's rock and roll tune in go ahead all right. Td I got a I got a question that I was thinking of. It's been on my mind for a while. While since I was in deficit training as a high schooler so your success and with the success of fitness has a gym the two different brands how come there was never are bigger expansion because there's forty two forty two forty one staff Yup Yup and if you look at the space when I walk in you're kind of like wait seriously you kind of you know. Take a step back and then you kinda grow to appreciate it more but how come there was never a bigger expansion into like a more of a warehouse type facility or more of a conventional right. That's it's a common question. I get actually is you know why why don't you have this twenty or thirty thousand square foot warehouse and people come in expecting that and they walk in and we have eight thousand square feet an eight thousand square feet is distributed between three thousand square feet upstairs in the roots and then five thousand square feet down here but two thousand square feet of this down here is absolutely massage therapy physical physical therapy locker room and everything else and <hes> you know believe it or not when when I was growing the business I always wanted to be the best. I never wanted to be the biggest. I always want to be the best and I remember wing cotton asking me about <hes> you. WanNa have won five hundred. I said I want to have one. I want the best one and I WANNA make sure people fly in from all over the world and come train with me and one thing I've realized over the last nineteen years is that it's not the size of the business that makes you successful well. It's the culture that you create in the community that you create your business. One of the secret sauce is that we have offended question is that we're not twenty thousand square feet. It's because the culture culture here is contained in a space that you can get this energy electric. You guys have felt that this summer with Alex and the training in that and that's part of the the secret sauce and I it took me a while they realized that because my mic growth mindset so I was like yeah we gotta get bigger and bigger and bigger but I've learned that bigger is better better better. Bigger isn't better better is better so my ego sometimes like man we should have that big space but Mike we will know because my love and my passion isn't and managing brick and mortar. It's not in growing in really changing lives and one thing of the last let's say five years especially the last two years. I realized as we've grown our our our brand with social show media and digital is that we don't need more or bigger brick and mortar to impact more lives right so what we have done now and I made a strategic decision when we expanded expanded down here in two thousand six took on the extra five thousand square feet is much of my growth in the last few years has been outside of the brick and mortar. It's been with growing my mastermind group. We have now one hundred eighty seven fire breathing dragons where I could digitally literally coach trainers worldwide we actually have a coaching program that just launched to every day high-performers MOMS and Dads grandmas GRANDPA's who want the most out of life in training and mindset and all that so what I realized is there's so many ways to grow and it's not always defined by having brick and mortar matter of fact unless you know you on brick and mortar. I would suggest maybe not having brick and mortar unless you know you wanna be really like doc here all the time so for me. That's the reason why we haven't grown to more quote space. It's been more. I want to grow in different areas. I want to write my books and speak more and and grow the mastermind group in the coaching groups in all of that as well right I'll say or I'll add one thing onto. What I've experienced has client is at you. You you meet people yummy different. You're not sure anyway just because you're so closing share the same space and I'll go for a while although you although you may never be in a training session with them you come to grow a a <hes> relationship bond some sort of friendship between the two that's part of the it's part of the tactic tripping over each others. You have to get to know each other right when when you have let's say eight ten twelve trainings actually going on some of those are small groups one of the things. I've always said since day one or two thousand is I won't ever trainer introducing their a client to another client always introducing why because.
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"Out. You're driving right now. You're laughing on s. up. Because you have a thousand thousand ideas go through your head in a day a week and you can only share so many of them with your spouse. I think back when i say i didn't. I didn't know you and i were together but we had been together for five years i didn't i was i was i was starting to get to know your entrepreneurial personality that i was like what in the heck so that that was where it took a little bit of took a few years to figure you out last talk about the future several you want to hear about the future and what's next but let's just think about over the next ten years or so <hes>. How do you foresee the next ten years in our life. I think there's going to be a lot of change a lot of chainmail with us. No no no but our schedules going to change in our schedule is going to change. The kids are going to be out of the house and i mean ten years. They're all going to be out of the house of crazy so i think we're gonna probably probably travel more and i almost see a move in our future not that we wouldn't keep our house but i feel like you're going to want to have to have a place yes in the mountains or some kind of second place to retreat to. I feel like that's common and i'm fine with that. That's exciting to me. I'm i'm gonna retire within ten years. I'm not going to be teaching and i don't know the exact timeframe of that but it definitely will be within ten years so that's that's gonna be a big adjustment for me. I'm going to have have to kind of recreate myself but i'm looking forward to doing that and i don't know i just i. I can't be super. Future focused because salat is dependent on on situations that come up so i don't. I live more in the now and i don't i. It's hard for me to go like like ten years ahead. I know you can live in the future a little bit more sometimes with your plans in your big planner and stuff but right after meet you halfway well. I love view. I love you about the way you think because you are definitely <hes> someone who even practice a lot of yoga. You're awesome at stay and the now and being present because you yeah you're teaching a lot of exercise classes nutrition kinesiology patrol so doing a lot of mind body and breath work and yoga and be part of my reinventing myself there you go but what i would say is if we look at the next ten years. I think a big part of it is the kids because mckenna our youngest who's eleven i think in five or six years when she doubted the house that would predicate probably some of our change because as you make out of the house for like seventy seven well maybe maybe longer i might not let it might not live out of the house college which you seventeen or i might not on that but i think in that timeframe i think certainly dictates a lot of it but i look at life and what we do now is a series of chapters and i think sometimes people are afraid of change and evolution heck. Even this podcast is brand. Yeah i knew right like in this year. The first guest on it is between writing and speaking in podcasting on my really found a lot of love and being able to to share with the world and how we impact people. Obviously we have our sanctuary fitness quest ten <hes> when i look at chapters of our life i'm really excited about the future and yes i am a planner but i've always been able to have a vision of life but also to try to stay in the now also and not live too much in the past so i think of course there will be change change evolution but we look back even ten years ago. There's been a lot of evolution and change over the last ten years and i think for anyone listening in. I think that's exciting. I think it's exciting when you look five years down the line ten years and to know that hey the best is still yet to come the vessel and i love that about you because you are always excited about the next phase and and you are fun to go through all of these different phases with and so that's that helps me and that's good for me because i get kind end of sometimes i get nervous about unsure about what is around the corner or the next phase with the kids grown and moved out but <hes> but that that that is it makes it easier when you're like when i'm along for the ride with you and you're like this is great. This is going to be the vast final points as we wrap up today's episode we talked a lot about parenting and relationships and all that but any final points for our listeners today on anything oh you do as a professor as mother as a wife that maybe you can impart any final wisdom final wisdom. Oh my goodness. I just feel like i've i'm part of why i'm here is to just to support into to to be kind of the rock of our family and our relationship and our kids and <hes> and sometimes that's not as exciting role. Maybe for compared to what you get to do but i've been i've been embracing it a little bit more. I think as i got older and i have just kind of see see that that's what i do naturally and genuinely and i enjoy it and it is who i am. That's just that's just what i'm going to be <music>. I'm just here taking care and being just gonna the the rock and helping everybody to be able to fly fire away and spread their wings got as well said as you just have to take me with you as we mentioned earlier passer mile said the man maybe the head of the household with the wife the neck and the neck and turn the head anyway that wants to write that she wants to and i think that's well said because i just want to publicly. Thank you for war being my rock. There are very few big decisions i've ever made in my life without going to you and and <hes> ask you about your thoughts because you think differently only the night do and i value that respect that and the man i am today is a big part of because who you are the faith that you bring the motherhood <hes> the wife hood in new showing up and one of the things going forward iowa say. How could i be a better man. How can i be a better husband on on that. How can i serve you better be better example for my kids and and that stuff and i think the bottom line is this is i haven't in my in the home offices i to whom much is given much is required. I believe that we've been given much because we have a lot of requirements that god has ordained to us. We've got a live that purpose and i think a driving purpose purpose. We've got to communicate that and and get that out there and in two thousand twelve when we started the impact foundation. I think over the next decade or so we're going to spend more time. <hes> i'm in impact philanthropy type activities on us and i just wanna thank you for being the woman that you are is this way and that and and letting getting all of our listeners know that when you see me going crazy up on stage or in a huddle or if i'm doing a keynote or on doing a video is that you may see that part part of me and that's a big part of me that lights me up but one of the things that light you up is the inside when i'm home and and you're making a meal you're you're carting two kids around and and there's no way could do what i do without you thank you. I love you to death and i love supporting you and being on your team and i appreciate you bringing bringing me onto your podcast. It wasn't too scary. Yeah there. You go so we talk about a happy wife. Happy life fellas. Remember to keep your wives happy but it is a two way street. We've got to continue to serve each other and make sure that we continue to make it not about us but how we make about them and <hes> those you with young kids or kids who are grown up or even older is how do we continue to strengthen the family unit in an a time in today's day where sometimes the family unit is dilapidated or struggling ling is the continued to strengthen yourselves up with your best practices and and making sure how can i be a better more loving father dad husband spouse <hes> a boy friend girlfriend whatever it is comes from love and empathy and faith those are words that i think we are both very.
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"And the family the time necessary to continue growing the way it did because my mentality was if i grow it now then i'll be able to take the foot off the pedal in five ten years and i don't think early on when the kids for babies i gave them the time that i should have because i'm like well. They can't walk yet her or they can't. They can't throw a ball yet. The euro is like they're not going to remember. They're not going to remember this. That was my thing. Is i remember so. I think i was just a workaholic. I mean that's the bottom line that was a workaholic and and and <hes> i going back to young parents. Everything counts <hes>. I think one of the things that i would have done differently as i wouldn't have been about me it would have been how can i help better. How can i serve better and i think even now in looking at our relationship much more. How can i be supportive to you. Melanie and to our kids kids and making sure it's not about me. You've done a good job too and i know that's your big regret. I i don't have that because that's where our differences were. I was like i know there's. I can't leave these babies. I want to be with these babies. Every moment that i can be so that was a good thing that we at least able to divide and conquer in that that area other advice for young parents out there or parents with obviously highschool teens <hes>. Would you have any else you feel like the authority and parenting i it's just it's just yes you don't quit and you just keep going and it's it's never over an hour and i know it's going to morph into this different relationship with m._s._a. Even get older and finish high school but we'll we'll deal with that. Then would always marvel's me is you could have two parents and sometimes it kid goes to patch a rough time time or vice versa right like on that a couple things i would say for any young parents out there pairs of any age it doesn't stop my good friend larry and the biggest one said <hes>. You're you're only as happy as your saddest child. You're only as happy as your status child and i think that's wise sage wisdom from wary but number one communication's important one thing i pride myself on is with my mission with my purpose in life and doing my annual robot strategic plan which i spent a lot of time on is at least communicating to you why i do what i do wanna get on a plane forty times a year and i now commute to you but the kids because it's all when you share that with us because the kids needs to meal and there's from kevin plank is like you gotta be purpose driven on that i think getting a date night in and we talked and joked about his not having a date night with the kids it's just our time we can talk as adults on that and then lastly is parents. Regardless of age is continue need to ask yourself as the father or the mother is. How can i change. How can i be the one that changes this relationship versus. Hey if we thought the exact same all the time and what's the purpose of having another person if we always thought the exact same i respect your individuality and vice versa. I think it's important to respect the individuality and make sure or that we have the foundation of me and you at the bottom and and got as the triangle at the top is that it's always about how can we best instill well our values in our kids and how we live in what we do in the decisions we make. I think that's a really important aspect in living for any young parents because let's face it when the kids are young and babies crying and the lack of sleep hack day. It's hard stressful. It's hard and you just do your best and it's you know we've been fortunate tonight to have healthy kids and they haven't given us too many problems yet. So you know it's it's the challenges are so different in different families and it's just hard to yup. We've got we have a few questions from our instagram friends here. Take railing fitness center. How do you manage to share todd the kids and even a dog with us all so railing finisher would i would say is that i just i document a lot of what i do not always creating. I just document on yet. Jersey should have his own instagram account but you're a share. You always have been a share so that's just a genuine genuine quality that you have see. I publicly publicly. I'm not i can take these long hiatus from instagram facebook and not check in at all but that you you enjoy it. You have fun with it. You almost us will enjoy an activity more if you can be sharing it out so lucan. I are patient with you because that's not how we are. Mckenna and brady are your stars. I wanna be featured and cameras melanie an iron in the background like this is melanie i guest on the podcast and like this is not her comfort zone being in front of a microphone in cameron all that stuff but it'd be it would it would not do her service if i didn't have her be the i guess because she is my backbone and she does so much for our family and for me and it totally as a team and a unit on that as well well. Here's one try hard fit asked the question. What was the moment. Melanie fell in love with you. And how the heck did she deal with your energy. We fell in love quick when we started dating because we'd been friends for almost a year so that was when we were dating in ninety seven we were just having fun fun and living in pacific beach and go into grad school and <hes> but your energy is not always over the top you can be very mellow and very kind of low key when there's not cameras and microphones and stuff so you definitely have both sides so it's not like you're always just this crazy energetic. Guy people think that i think but you don't. I don't feel that you're that way right right so which is good because i think that's that wasn't exactly how the heck this deal your energy. I think that's an important thing because those you think i'm always on time. I'm always positive for the most part but i'm not always crazy energy when it's time to turn it off. Turn it off and when it's time for yen it's time for a year and melanie does an incredible job in helped me in out so you're writer so you're on your computer. You know yeah you have different times for different different energies right great question here from brick lydman t._d.'s when when t._d.'s out inspiring others how do you keep your energy up to keep the family running great question and sometimes zajac ground that it's easier when you're gone. I don't know i can just like do my own thing with the kids and dinners a little different and you want me traveling no no different day. It's like it's not we're not waiting for you to get home or i don't know we just we just make it work and ryan ryan mauresom crucible performance ass melanie. What's the hardest challenge being an entrepreneurs wife and how do you deal with it. There can definitely be struggles you you can have this vision and you can be seen things down the road with your your plan and i'm kind of wanting to deal with the now and the logistics of of what we've got you know that we need to address today so yeah then we we definitely will have have that struggle. I'm not an entrepreneur. I definitely they don't have that personality so you know sometimes we just get frustrated at each other and have to take a little time apart and then we talk through and you just get through it. It's just our that's another area where we're different. I think that we certainly can still make it work org and i give you space to do your own thing and i'll just kind of try to stay outta certain projects that you have and just not get to stress sometimes they don't even and you know come about sometimes they do and it's a good thing i remember back to when you started with under armour and i didn't really understand why you needed under armor because has we had fitness cross ten we had so much. I've learned over the years i you. You have a pretty good feel for what you're doing. I just stay out of why wrote them holiday change the world's dan how they're gonna like. What are you gonna work for under armor. What are you going to do so it's it's. I'm learning. I would say that you're much more simple in what you you pleasure and what you enjoy on that yeah you need twelve things on your plate and and i need like one or two entrepreneurs. Can i get an amen. You understand what i'm talking about because here's the thing melanie only only gets about one hundredth breath of what actually is going through my mind. I have like oh. I know you keep. I have so many ideas every single day and there's a couple of things that happened number one sometimes i come home and i'm fatigued than she's got the kids and running them all over the place that i don't even have the time or energy to share a few of those ideas with her until i get into a car step away and some of them. I'm just going to let play out and get like three or four levels deeper against serious on that so and i know you like you're doing it without me knowing but i <hes> just happens it. That's how entrepreneur thinks and that's why i do believe in stepping away and working on yourself because when you step away and work on yourself and you have this vision and you get clarity on that i think the communication between a spouse is really important so that the spouse doesn't need doesn't need to be an entrepreneur like yourself but she or he does need to know where you're coming from so if melanie understands my thought process and what i'm trying to achieve and and that then she's much more likely to trust trust me <hes> and what we're doing and why we're doing it the kids if they see me boarding another plane to go to canada or go to europe going somewhere another city and why i'm doing it. They're more likely to understand that and i say hey listen when your purpose driven <hes> that's going to help make the world a better place and that's why data exists so that we can go out out there and create impact in the world so entrepreneurs. I know you're smiling right now. I know you're laughing if you're out. You're walking the dog. You're working out..
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"I miss that i'm i see you're gonna miss it so much and then brady the cool thing about coaching at the high school now is brady's out there and he's training and he's the only kid has got the biggest grin and smile on his face as i'm making these kids like run sprints and hills and getting ready for this season and here brady has got this huge greenwich love seeing how he enjoys working out and i've been telling that story a lot. He's this little linebacker with. This big. Smile on a small doesn't audie so cute and the kenneth for me joy. I just love watching her. I love watching her play soccer. Lacrosse doesn't matter she's just. She is a mini you but but she's she's so beautiful and she's grown up way too quick. It is crazy. It's true that's about mom. As far as what scares you the most now what scares me most of the mom cars. I've got life three sixty app and i can see how fast drives and it's freaking me out and not that he drives that fast but it shows like how fast anybody anybody drives when he's in the car and just i'm just so scared of car accidents right now. I'm just i'm just i. I'm living in a little fear right now. I gotta get over that. It's just a scary time. Did oh well listen before this podcast. I actually asked all of our listeners to pipe questions and all of you who actually sent a question wanted dirt on me. They wanna dirt so i don't want you. Throw me under the bus too much but the the overwhelming majority of people wanna know the questions about us you and me and what could i do better around around the house so if you could share a few of the things around the house house we have a lot of people who who ask questions and what do you wish. I did better around the house. Be nice somehow. Oh i i sometimes kind of fantasize about to have a handy husband. You know somebody that could fix ext things like i can't even imagine not having to hire handyman to just get some some stuff done around the house. You're you're. You're you're not handy. Eighty dad wasn't handy so i have not had handy in my life and i i see handy and friends families and how you change a life go. Oh wow i can't imagine it's like that's that would be. That would be life changing so you're good about you. You let me the higher the handy. I've got a lot of handyman that i bring member. We've hired that one guy. What was it rent. A husband was his company or something and let me be clear clear on this folks. Here's my philosophy on this. I'm not good at it. Do what you do best and hire. The rest would spend three hours twenty three years higher. Why would i try to do some for three hours on a saturday afternoon. I'd rather write a book. I'd rather write an email mathurin. I'd rather do anything but like do stuff. I'm not good at it frustrates me and then it affects it negatively impacts relationship and then you hanging things yes retires and then you even through that out yeah now retired. That can't can't even get a shelf hung. I'd rather do stuff inductive than i am now getting on us but but folks get anyone that. Can anyone agree with me on that like if you're not good at it now i'm not saying i wish i was handy in all honesty. I'm like hanging you know. Actually your mom is kind of my mom. Loves things out for us but i'm like is that the only bed bothers you about me like i'm not hanging on the house. This is a big. Mike receive me really official official. You want me to really start kidding. What what else i mean. You're not really into to decorate it. You don't really care less about what the house looks like so. I just kind of bypass you just do what i wanna do. I always say there could be a little more involvement here. You need a bad you need food. You don't even care if it's clean your very low maintenance that i do remind myself that i am very low no maintenance i whatever everything that i do. I'm totally doing for myself and everyone and she'll she'll get on me for leaving some piles around around the house. I inherited a gene from my mother called durkan piles and i'm. I'm a firm believer fiber to journal from like two thousand fifteen. I'm going to save uncle because i know go and you print email god. I throw them away. I just look at what who prince emails. I leave them. I do i yeah i. I love very much. How about as a dad. Is there anything that you wish. I did better as a father a husband father husband. Let's go with a great dad. You know i love your. I love your dad real here. It's hard to have your travel schedule so sometimes you'll miss things because you're on the road but but your travel we'll schedule. People think your travel schedules worse than it is. I don't think it's actually as bad as can sometimes appear to be because they're short trips. You're kind of in and out. I i don't know what i would do with out you in the dad department because you are so helpful with like decision making and just i don't now now. You're i'll struggle and not know what the right thing is. I ask you and you're like oh. That's easy boom each laid out so no i i mean you're the kids adore you. You can be that the bad cop when i have a little harder time with it so that's appreciated. How does the husband husband's disguised as a husband. Were your you work. You do work a lot. You're you you were so you could have a little more downtime. You could have more just like chill out. Let's do nothing. Let's hang out. Let's sit out by our pool. I it could do that. I could be better. Luckily relax your you go. You go go go go at leaving more love notes us do that. Oh my gosh i would come out to my car and there'd be like a note on my car at san diego state. I was like i have like years decade. Ah that yeah that was that's true. One of the most impactful books the five love languages and i love that book because whereas my love love languages is in praising acknowledgement years as time and reading. That is the more time i spend with you. I love time and were in the car together because we talk a lot in the car vacation. We get a lot of time to talk but we're all we're both so busy. I think it's important. I think one thing that we have done well is carving out time for us. Even when it comes to having the kids on that self so there you go folks. You wanted to hear more of of the the bad things so y'all are so. What do you think we'd do well as a couple. I think we're just a good team. Good team with the kids. We're on the same page with our faith. We pray together. We were both addicted to exercise our go to like the way we blow off steam and stress. I think we are very different. It's i'm sure people that that don't know us. Well personally think think that we're very different. I think when you get to know us better where we have very similar values and characteristics and stuff but i think we complement how many each other well i think a big part of what we do that we haven't shared a ton but as made us well think for eighteen years <hes> <hes> be married and stay together is our faith. <hes> i think to be equally yoked is important. It's hard when you're unequally yoked or someone is not of the same belief on that so i think you know in praying together. <hes> going to church together in having those beliefs has really got us through some tossed the hostile. What about the toughest time you feel. We've ever faced in our marriage. Obviously is not easy eighteen years of marriage. There's a growing growing business when we were younger. There's kids. There's a lot of things your your career. What was the toughest time. Do you feel in our marriage. I think when the boys were young when luke was to brady was an infant that was hard that was we were still getting to know you when i look back on it. I feel like i didn't even know you that well even though we'd been together for five years like i know you now so and just adjusting to you know being a mom and you working. You're working at ton back then too because that's when we just opened the business. You were literally working twelve hour days every the day so that was hard i think i think that you just don't quit you. Don't jump ship and bolt and think it's going to be easier you just to stick it out and now stresses change and we figured you know we figured it out. We figure it out how to you've found some more balance. It's you hired some key people to help you run the business. We didn't have hardly any support and help back then thinking about it so <hes> you you know those were those were hard years for sure go and they go fast. I look back. It doesn't seem like it was that long ago but it just gosh it was fifteen fourteen years ago. I agree with that. I think when we look back we were to go back even twenty years ago when we were opening fitness quest and we get a dog named sid. Oh my god we were so much said whatever we want just open fitness question and there were no kids ate sushi at that little sushi place around the corner all the time. We stayed at the gym until eight o'clock at night. We just did whatever we it's so different. When you don't have to race home and be home i put a baby down and have dinner and you know it. Just our lives are totally different than they weren't. What happens when you're going through it. It seems really hard looking back. It looks really simple now but really at the time. It didn't wasn't easy necessarily but looking back when i look back at that and i think oh my goodness i did did all i've taught. The pilates classes the six p._m. Pilates class monday wednesday worked saturdays for years and it was just it was no big deal we stay. There are so many hours. There's one thing you could have done differently. If you were to go back in time what would be one thing you would have done differently or would do differently fifteen twenty years ago early. When you see the kids were young. Would you have done anything different. You know in all honesty honesty. I think i was pretty clear with what i wanted and no that's when i started pulling away from the gym and i started realizing i'm gonna keep my teaching job aub and i'm off at three but i don't wanna have to be at the studio from five to eight thumbs. Not what the kind of mom schedule i want. I'm missing this baby and these babies and so that was when i started pulling away and got off the saturday schedule and fired i i yeah i run like fire me. Please please but i did. I juggled it with luke when we just had one. I continue to teach i had i cut my hours. A little bit brought home brady. I think still is teaching a little bit with brady and then it was with mechanics like you know they started to get so much busier. <hes> a lot of the questions that were coming in. We're asking for young parents. I believe one of the greatest mistakes i made aide in the early two thousands we started fitness quest ten in year two thousand so just nineteen years ago and i was so <hes> <hes> <hes> growth mindset oriented in growing the business is that i put seven days a week <hes> nonstop hours from the time am i woke up to the time i went to bed in growing the business and i loved it and many of you entrepreneurs out there can attest to the fact when you love something you you you you just put all in and what i didn't do a great job early on in our relationship was number one giving you.
"durkin" Discussed on Todd Durkin IMPACT Show
"Welcome to the toddrick and impact show. My name is pod durkin and i'm your host for the podcast and today is the first episode for an interview a guest on the show yes. It's my first guest on the show. Now i have a lot of guests lined up for future episodes but there will be no more important guests than today's people always always curious about my life outside of work. A big part of that is my family. Today's guests and the first ever guests on the show is my wife of eighteen years. Melanie melanie i thought can i do that. Should i do that and then i was like of course i can. It's my show and she impacts me more than anyone on the planet mellon. I met in graduate school at senegal state in one thousand nine hundred seven. We were friends for nine months dated for two and a half years and then we got married in two thousand and one fast forward to today we have three kids luke brady and mckenna and have lived and learned a lot in our twenty three years together. What many people don't know is that my wife melanie. He is also the health and what many people don't know is that my wife melania is also in the health and fitness industry. She's been a full time professor in exercise science for twenty one years ears at southwestern college so she has a chance to balance out a full-time professors job and a full-time parenting job melanie's my backbone. She's my best friend friend. She's often my training partner. She's my in to my yang. She gives me so much light. She's a woman of faith and i love her to the moon and back pastor miles mcpherson fierce once said that the husband might be the head of the household but the wife is the neck and the neck and turn the head any way it wants. How true is that. Let's go out to the dining room at my house house now and welcome in today's guest my wife melanie durkan welcome to the show melanie feeling my gosh. I just got so nervous. They get a microphone. Microphone is huge so excited. No i'm excited. Hey guys today. I'm gonna talk about parenting marriage and life today and before we get into all of that. I wanted to just have a couple of fun questions for you. If you weren't teaching in in college what would you be doing. Honestly i would still be in the health and fitness field and i would probably be working. Finis quest ten makes the most sense. I everybody always thinks it's so strange that i don't really work there full time or even part time that much anymore but i would be well yeah no no. I i understand why i let's talk about what brings you the most joy in life. What are you most happy. I'm most happy at my home with with all three of my kids home you in town you home all our family together and people at our house our shared today with all of or listeners the favorite thing that you do for yourself like when it's time for melanie time what's the most favorite thing you do for yourself. I take my little best friend. Mckenna and we go get a a pedicure so so those that don't know mckenna's are eleven year old daughter and when melanie and mckenna go out and and they get their their manny's and petty's i know they come back happy so that's always a great thing. Favorite date. We've ever had easy are fav- my favorite day was when we went to the pro for dinner and you you surprised me with our dog sid with a ring around his neck and we got engaged at dinner and it was just that was huge. That was the best date best night. I saw that was a great night. Obviously i'd actually say for me the first date we ever had at the catamaran hotel just just just you know we. I actually love the entertainment book. Two for one coupon didn't have any money then so. I'd have these coupons from the entertainment book and i had the cattleman hotel well. We're talking like it was on the beach and there is the belle boat and it was just one of those magical might of our first date and i think that's where it's like. Everything went from friendship to different level. That night is true. That is true. We actually we drink too much alcohol though on that boat. Do you remember that and we'd neither one of us drink very much so very very headache. I was definitely courting you. No doubt about it yeah. We are going to be real in this podcast today. We are going to go in deep on this best family trip we ever taken by far. Two thousand fourteen europe our european venture in england germany italy. We gotta get back. That was a bucket list trip. The way that worked out is i had to speak in london and at the same the next week either speaking not just in germany and we said let's pull the trigger on this and take all the kid. Take all of us and no doubt the thing that's interesting in europe. You're talking about a bucket list in europe. You have to get to hotel rooms because you can't sneak five people own love that back then for it to really make sense it would in heaven now with two hotel rooms best book you've ever read but not the. Let's go best book in the last year. You've read the in the last year i've done audible which i'm like getting through so many more books folks so i just finished where the crowd sang which was just unbelievable. I loved michelle obama's becoming. Oh my oh goodness. I've been going through books that i read. I have books that i read as well and if you could travel anywhere in the world. Where would you go i would. I've only been to europe twice. So i wanna get back. I wanted before luke graduates or maybe a graduation trip. I would love for the five of us to get back there and do that again new countries though i but i want to go to tahiti too he wanted like just face plant on one of those hot and stare for hours at the fish below me. Ah that sounds great with the on board of just like nothing to do because that's the sound so refresh mellow yellow timely like the bora bora man. We got to do with no kids though okay. It'd be more relaxing mode out so so let's dive in. I wanna start with the now. What's the hardest thing <hes> that you do now. The hardest thing that i do is juggle work with three kids schedule title with your schedule with my schedule. Just the juggling act is is so challenging. It is for all people especially moms. I i think working moms. It's just every day there's so many people going in different directions in different pickup times and different things on my list and i've got to get done and it's just i just feel like i'm racing the clock. So is a full time professor to share with us your schedule as as a teacher so i i have a great schedule. I mean no doubt have great mom job. I always say even though it comes with a lot of responsibility teach fifteen units college college units in the kinesiology department exercise science so i teach monday wednesday i teach three classes and tuesday thursdays. I teach three classes basis. I get down to campus at about eight. Am i stay down there no later than three three p._m. I'm racing jason out of there to beat the traffic because i've got a long commute down by the border so i gotta get back on the the fifteenth before it gets all junkie and a and and then the kids are going hard with practices and you know if i still haven't finished migrating crap. I've got to get that in dinner. It's just there's a lot. It's just a busy. Afternoons and evenings are super busy now lucas driving just one month into driving so that's going to change the school year because he he can help a little bit with he and brady schedules so that that should be a big difference but it's still it's just it's busy boy definitely marvel at you from eight eight a._m. To about three pm teaching is a short day from us people but you you commute about thirty minutes each way right. You're in the car five minutes door to door. H how do you maximize that time. That's an hour. That's an audible and that has been a great change and you know it in all honesty. I have no traffic. It's my downtime like i have. Nobody asking me for anything. I make phone calls and i'll listen to my books on tape. I just in the mood to listen to music and so it's just is kind of i don't i don't dislike my commute and not a problem so you were the teacher professor hat for half the day then you come home. You put your mom hat on and i know you're always making the food. I cook a top law. Yeah cook a lot idea so that takes a while so i go to the grocery store too often. I should be more organized organized and just like get there once a week but i don't get there like three times a week. Which is silly. I know but i just i don't know i could use more organization with camille prepping and all of that do all make a lot of food and for lunches and leftovers but not necessarily to dinner at a time we have a lot of parents listening into the podcast moms and dads who are like you like myself trying to balance it all out and i think you mentioned earlier that balance is always the hardest thing that we do and without doubt for me as well. Let's talk about life as a mom. I what brings you the most joy as a mom so i was always that girl all who wanted kids like i always knew. I wanted to have babies. There was no question and honestly i didn't have luke until i was thirty three so i was kind of an older thermometer so those three people in this world just bring me humongous joy and i mean i know everybody feels that way about their own kids but but i just i love watching them play sports. I love just looking at them. I love i love hanging with them. I you know i mckenna. I joke around. She's like my little best friend little pet she goes everywhere with me and we are super tight and i just love it and i know it's going to change a little bit as she gets busier and older bet it's like i'm just i'm so good hanging with them. I was laughing last night luke. Who's a junior in high school. He had about ten of his friends over here at the house and you're there's convertible doing dishes and you kept wanting me to come. Come into the other room to go over these questions and i was like i don't wanna do this right now. I wanna like do the dishes so i can just look at these kids and just just via around them and just get a feel because it's hard to get a feel for them. Now they're sixteen seventeen. It's rare that i get them all at my house. I was trying to feed them and you can get them set up as a parent even now as a father i find that my greatest joy doesn't come in the big trips. It's actually especially like over the last year. I've actually enjoyed a lot of the little things the daily things i love breakfast time whenever the breakfast able to gather and dinnertime when i'm in town <hes> and we're all eating together. You always put together a healthy dinner. I'm always most grateful for that. You do a great job just gathering the family. We do a lot of breakfast together n._f._l. Because we are all on the same schedule out of the house early or all breakfast eater so i would almost say like four days a week we have breakfast together and who table which i love of as well and then for me with the kids just now the little things tossing a football with luke..