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Getting Through The Learning Curve by Kate Galliett
"Getting through the learning her by cake. Elliott of the unbreakable body DOT com. If you're going to gain any skill or ability. You'll go through a learning curve how much you feel that learning curve is dependent on two things you want to know what these two things are. So can work learning curve in your favor in the future. But I what's the learning curve? Here's the wikki quote. A learning curve is a graphical representation of how an increase in learning measured on the vertical axis comes from greater experienced the horizontal access or how the more someone or something performs a task, the better they get at it and quote. In. Slang often say that something difficult to learn has a steep learning curve with the implication that steep things hills feel difficult. But if you take a look at a steep curve on a graph and indicates, you're learning a lot in a short amount of time, which may or may not be difficult. Learning curve could be steep, shallow short or long, but only one thing really matters. How much do you feel the curve when you feel the curve, you know it you feel your deficiency in this skill or ability. When you feel the curve, you're more likely to become frustrated and you're more likely to quit before you get through the curve. To things influence how much you feel learning curve and if you use them to your advantage, you're going to navigate the curve better his worst understanding these two things because what other option do you have quitting? How much you feel learning curve is influenced by. Aptitude. Aptitude is your natural ability or skill you were born with it. If a learning curve is for a skill that is within your aptitude mule, likely only feel the learning curve minimally if at all his good capitalize on your natural aptitudes by learning skills at naturally fit with them. But if you only ever do things where you don't feel the learning curve, it's likely not expanding your abilities much aptitude is great but aptitude alone won't get you very far. We've all heard a story somewhere along the way where kid has a natural aptitude for sports or school, but doesn't put the work into better themselves, and then what happens all the other kids who weren't as naturally talented at that thing but who worked their tails off caught up in surpassed the natural talent in the end? You do not have aptitude for everything, and if you'd like to write yourself off because you don't have aptitude for something that's fine. You're overlooking something major you have aptitude for something and you can exploit that aptitude to get you through the learning curve of something else for which you have less aptitude. An example if your aptitude for public speaking is low, you get nerves. You've easily forget what you wanted to say big aptitude for things like mental imagery is high, you can easily picture things in detail in your mind you can exploit that to help you improve as a public speaker. There's a well known technique for doing just this rather than banging your head against the wall trying to become someone who's naturally talented at flowing through speech, you do this. Memory Palace. With this mental imagery technique, you imagine your own home or a similar place. You know well assigned key points or phrases in your speech to each place in your home who give your speech by walking through your house in your mind's eye and allowing your mental image of the Living Room. For example, to remind you of the key point you assigned to that room and the subsequent details that will come from that key point. By doing this, you put your aptitude in one arena to us to help you improve in another arena. Now. This sort of exploitation of aptitude will certainly make it feel more doable to get through a difficult feeling learning curve. But the second thing that determines how much you feel learning curve will be what gets us through or what becomes your undoing. How you interact with uncertainty Quote, pain, and pleasure govern us in all we do and always say in all, we think end quote. That line is from eighteenth, polymath Jeremy Bentham and outlines exactly what motivates we do in life, but which motivates you more avoiding pain or acquiring pleasure. Loss Aversion the tendency to prefer avoiding losses to acquiring equivalent gains has been well established. Most humans have some degree of loss aversion that influences how they act but there's a sizable degree of nuance within the realm of being motivated to avoid losses or acquire pleasure a two thousand seven study led by Russell a Paul drag professor of psychology at Stanford University found the following quote. We. Also found that individuals display varying degrees of sensitivity to loss aversion and these wide ranging neural responses predicted differences in their behavior for instance, people with stronger neural sensitivity to both losses in gains were more risk averse and quote. That is if your brain is more sensitive to losing and gaining, you're less likely to want to take a risk. Learning some new skill includes a degree of risk taking. There's no guarantee you're actually going to get or avoid the thing you are trying to get her avoid by learning the skill. You don't know yet. If it was well worth your time more a waste of time you aren't sure if it will work or if you'll get it or if you'll fail. And there's a second layer of wants to your loss aversion Dr draft shared a theory that losses may trigger greater activity in brain regions that process emotions such as the insulin amid Dula meaning if the parts of your brain where you process emotion namely the amid delays and the ensler become more active. When you experience a loss, you may be more likely to avoid putting yourself in a position where you could experience a loss. Interestingly, a middle damage has been shown to eliminate loss aversion with regard to money. This suggests that you're made Ila is a key player in how you handle loss aversion. Learning, a new skill requires a you accept the level of uncertainty. If you are someone who is less likely to bring uncertainty into your life by avoiding taking risks, you're more likely to feel the discomfort of learning curve does because learning curves include natural amplification of risk potential loss and uncertainty, which will trigger your brain in different ways than someone else's brain might be triggered. You can imagine how this could influence how a learning curve feels to. You not only is your brain dealing with the neural activity of the actual learning of this new skill. You're also dealing with really feeling the fear emotion or discomfort of being in risk-taking waters deeper than you prefer. and. So to navigate your next learning curve in a way that feels more doable and less like you should quit because it's just too much. It really comes down to understanding yourself better. Where do your natural aptitudes lie and how can you put them to work for you in arenas where you don't naturally excel? How do you interact with other entity? How much are you motivated by loss aversion? Learning new skills is awesome feeling like you suck ms not awesome. Take some time to learn about your own personal nuances in these realms and put what you've uncovered into your next learning curve. Then let me know what new skill you've acquired from doing so
Spooky Stories Week
"This week's theme comes to us from Shane McClellan and is called spooky stories. Here's why chose this theme he writes Hey. My name is Shane McClellan. I'm the creator of the files podcast and theme I chose is spooky stories because while October the spookiest time of the year. Here, are the episodes chosen by Shane for this week's theme along with short descriptions of each episode. The first episode comes to us from old gods of Appalachia and is called prologue. It's nine minutes long. Welcome to our APPALACHIA. We're hearts are good. Hands are. And no one wants to talk about what sleeps beneath us. The next episode comes to us from the cue files and is called the Donner Party, it's twenty three minutes long. This is the horrifying story of the Donner Party told like never before. Next up is scare you sleep and the episode is called Cannibals it's thirty seven minutes long. Spooky soothing unnerving bedtime stories. The next episode comes to us from stories with Sapphire and is called Dula for death. It's twenty nine minutes long. Listening for unique perspectives on death. and. The last episode of the week comes to us from euphemistic and it's called a vampire feeds. It's thirty three minutes long. Here's the description real vampires the draining of blood, the feeding on others and the quest to keep others fed. Those are the episodes chosen by Shane for this week's theme Spooky Stories.
The Doula Life with Interview by Jess Gronas
"So, just kind of. All these different snippets I feel it kind of led me to to wear with the Dula stuff in it was just the last. This last year that I started doing it fulltime I always did it kind of part time taking on birth here in their bouquets making many as adults is really hard. When you're starting out starting out a business, you have to find clients you are. A you know. Especially, if people have kids, you need to find child care and for me it was like, okay. Even if I find some clients enough to pay my bills I still have my job but I can't just call out of my job whenever I want when somebody goes into Labor you know so I would kind of take on like. Last year I. Think. I did five like I took like five birth rate. Need you have to be available? Twenty four seven, right. So. But I still needed a fulltime job. I was living downtown Chicago rent's not cheap saving up for a wedding. So. So I, just kind of dabbled in it and then it was. This. Last year that unlike. Okay. I'm going to focus on the podcast in on birth work. So In my thing with the podcast too was I wanted to empower women through storytelling it education people to listen to the podcast. was into different experts in different topics in different stories, women who have had different experiences so that you don't feel isolated in motherhood or in your story so that you can still feel and be a part of community and with the educational aspect it's fun for me because I'm learning but also so people know their options you know that. I've never thought about. Birth control display like we recently did an episode with Natural Family Planning which I've never done but I'm like it sounds really cool I don't know how to do it. So spun talking to somebody who that's what she and her husband used for eight years. Then she used it to get pregnant and through the process she wanted so much broader body about her cycle and her healthy ben in. So it's just kind of fun hearing from different people. To that you know okay if me and my husband after this baby, we don't have a kid. For a while. We have. Never considered this before, but maybe it is an option or now I know more information about this one thing. So that agonists make a better decision for myself and my family. Yeah and you've got a lot of awesome experts on the show in powerful women earn hiring women as well. Just sharing their story I've loved that What made you I think like I wanNA. Create a podcast. I. Mean it started. I it was something I wanted to for quite a while and then I partnered with a couple of other people for the first year a bit and they were new moms I worked as a Dula. So it was like, okay. You guys can talk about your mom experience in all kind of be the Dula on the show. And then after a year, it was just kind of going our separate ways and I'm like I really want this to be empowering. You know I want I don't want to necessarily be about. US just talking it's like I. Had the opportunity to do it on my own, and that's when I created miraculous Mama's it was like a little over a year ago. I'm like I really want this to be. To. Really dive into that community to really. Like for me it's it's it's nice to get people from all different walks of life form. But may focus wasn't like. Just, get somebody famous on which I felt like it kind of wants full or in now it was like, okay. But what are they gonNA talk about like what they offer Get somebody, who has experienced source story to share and Sony really wanted to turn it more educational and bring on more experts and specialists. So it was cool because I gotta talk to one of the top infertility doctors in the world he lives in Chicago they went downtown to his office than he so cool Bryan, Caplan, and. Actually Madame my work when I was working downtown. So There's just a small role in like your podcast. So it was it was nice to then be able to. To focus on. Just the learning part because. Although like do are concerned Labor experts. So when you're in labor, we know how what your body's doing, what it's going through the signs to look for when there are different interventions that happen were there to bounce the ideas off of you to talk about okay. Are you comfortable with this? Like are you do need a minute to think it over like Salat? You've blake when the doctor comes in and it's like, okay I think we need to do this. Now you have to give an answer nuclear what kind of I need a little bit of time to think it over and figure out what all my options are so but I'm definitely not an expert in other fields. So it's nice to be a part of this learning process case than. Right when the started a just gotten married and I'm like, okay no veto I wanNA start a family soon. So I wanNA bring on tons of people so that I can learn so that we can be prepared in new so many other women. Were on that journey as wall.
The Midwifery Model of Care with Sarah Stetina, CNM
"I would love to dive into. The training and education. So I know that there's different kinds of midwives but in order to practice in Illinois, you have to be CNN correct yes. Currently certified nurse Midwives at the only legal provider in Illinois but there's more than just two midwife types and that's kind of what makes midwifery kind of confusing or there's a lot of misconceptions about midwifery because there's so many different entries. So the first obviously as nurse Midwifery, that's what I am, and it made the most sense for me to choose nurse Midwifery because like I said I didn't learn about midwifery until was already in nursing school. So it made sense to go on and get my master's degree and specialize in midwifery, and so that row is a master's degree. It can also be a doctorate degree and it's similar to a nurse Practitioner which also masters program but you you have the same education to a certain point and then they branch off until your specialty. So you could be a needle natal nurse practitioner. You could be acute care nurse, practitioner, family nurse Practitioner. Nurse unnecess- or a nurse midwife. All of those things are kind of in the same level. Just our specialty that that varies. And so that was my education. was going to finish my masters degree doing clinicals and didactic and. Doing births and all being clinic and office visits and learning all the skills, and then you have to sit for a national. Certifying exam. And Pass that to become certified and then you have to apply for licensure in your state. So there are other routes there's also certified midwives which are Also. Take US certifying national exam. And may go through an accredited program, but they're not nurses I and it's not a masters of nursing degree at summit where free degree that isn't legal in every state. There's certain states that allow certified midwives and then the third is the certified professional midwife, which is also certified by a national exam and there are midwifery programs for CPM's or certified professional midwives. But they're not recognized every state. I, think it's up to like thirty two states now that recognized CPM's most of them work. In out of hospital setting wall nurse midwives typically work in hospital settings, but it can vary depending on the state. and certified professional midwives spent a lot of time in an apprenticeship without of hospital midway experienced midwives learning that in addition to their. Schooling. So very comparable it's just the model pathway that you want to enter midwifery. And then there's traditional midwives which maybe don't take a certifying exam don't. Have a license and have learned midwifery from being passed down through generations, and that's how midwife midwifery kind of started in the United States. And there's a lot of wisdom to be gained from traditional midwives but. The country doesn't usually recognize them as. Legal providers. Yeah do would you say that there is a lot of misconceptions around education as a midwife Oh yeah. I think a lot of people think you don't know what you're doing. Oh Yeah. I, think a lot of people don't realize they compare us with Dulas. People ask me all the time oh you deliver babies no. When I tell them I'm like, oh so like a Dula and I'm like well, no. And they're you know it's so interesting. Once, I learned everything about midway free. You just assume that everyone else is going to figure it out to which obviously is not the keys I was in nursing school didn't know what Wise Ray but that campaign in the nineteen hundreds that kind of. Discredited midwives which was led by the. Physicians and Medical Association to get people to him birth in a hospital. The kind of told the story that midwives were dangerous and an educated and not safe, and that is a really successful campaign because it is still prevalent in in the way that people think about midwives today and so I'd say whether you're CPM Siham, 'em or a CNN. Or choosing those providers most of them are very very educated and have a lot of knowledge and our experts at normal physiological birth. and. Midwives nurse midwives. In particular can we can prescribe we can order imaging, we can do lab work, we can manage normal guy any staff so whether that's a PAP smear. Cycles birth control throughout the life span. And I don't think people realize that we don't just do pregnancy and birth you can come see me for anything that you'd go see an ob for for the most part, and if it's out of my scope, I'm going to refer you appropriately in in there are levels of of scope of practice but. Yet for most. People you can see a midwife for pretty much everything related to reproductive health, right which leads us to another misconception. Because honestly I didn't really know that before. My introduction midwives was my sister when she was pregnant with her oldest who's twelve now. She didn't plan on using a midwife. She had some crazy thing happen. With her insurance, dropped her because her doctor mixed up her medical records and then they went take her and she got pregnant. No insurance started looking at alternative methods and found this midwife. And ended up doing an at home birth in that was my first. Experience seeing a birth and just fell in love with that and she ended up having all four of her kids at home. And I also dislike fell in love with her midwife she's she was doctrine Venezuela she studied birth the Amazon she came to the states started this practice and very wise. Gosh, she's so amazing and And so it's cool because then became a delay gotta work with her with some other berths to. But before that. Also, I. Yeah. You just you picture a midwife it's a home birth. It's You know. And that's all they do is birthing right and obviously now that I know it's like. I'm going to. Be Used mid wife's for the rest of my life. I'm like in menopause you know what I mean. I can still go to them not just when I'm having a baby you can have that relationship based care that really holistic approach in every aspect of your healthcare pretty much, and we're trained as a nurse midwives trained in primary care as well. So basic primary care, your annual exams, even just a asthma management simple things we are very capable and entering. To to manage as well and for for the the myth that midwives only do home birth that's really prevalent. I. Tell people a midwife and they immediately assume that I'm delivering babies at home which there's nothing wrong with that obviously uses your head a wonderful home breath but you can buy midwives in literally every setting whether it's home birth centers, hospitals clinics. Federally, Qualified Health Centers Academia doing research. You know we're we're everywhere that a physician might be
"I'm Martina. Abraham's Linga welcome back to NATO I have to be honest with you before we started the show I rarely thought about giving birth my indifference turned to fear and anger when I started to understand more about the American medical system and when I became aware of the Blackburn in crisis specifically like most people I assumed if and when my time came to have a baby, I'd go to the hospital I began to fear for mine and my future children's safety and grew angry at the idea that had have to settle for care that's less than I desire. Deserve. I started to question whether I wanted to have children at all the beautiful thing about my journey with natal is that I learned about an entire community that centers blackburn parents and their babies. I'm now more familiar with a network of midwives, dulas, providers, and healers who affirm the dignity and beauty in black breathing and intimately value black-eyed. Due to the history of anti-black blackness in the obstetrics and gynecology field. Much of their work happens outside of hospital I'd seen photos and videos of women all white giving birth in pools and at home. I assume all hippy dippy white people ship turns out. I was very wrong. In this episode, we leave the hospital and step into the world of home. Births. We also dive into the work of Dulas, like Charlie, Louis anderly the owner of Brooklyn based practice nor shing seats Dula. To begin to understand the role dualist play in pregnancy and childbirth. Let's start first with the story of Alexis Him. Some Alexi I am a Smith AC- native where my fiance and I live currently right now I'm training to become a Hamburg worker and I'm proud to say the coast model and this is my natal story. So that was pregnant was extremely interesting is so aware because. I keep up period Alabama foul and I'm looking at it like okay. Says on today's late this is not normal like mockery combs all the time in the night before at noticed the The second day late I was drinking I was having fun. Don't think I will up just like, okay. Today's is enough women is so I went to dollar tree The dollars as at the the tests that you put a little drop singing in wait for the line changes to it. So I dropped the little year in air in the I got one lot I'll say, okay, I'm not pregnant at this point I'm convinced that there is no baby in there. I'm in the one line was just mother -cation. I'm not pregnant sats to those once I got the one line I was the instructions clearly say that you have to wait I think about three minutes once I felt they line I was like, okay. Throw it away. So two more days game. And I'm like, okay. Until my boyfriend at the time like, okay four days is enough. I'm usually on copy now something is not right whale. I couldn't say that this was like something in my body changing or anything of that nature because I knew what took place prior to me semi period but also needed took a plan B. in our secure. This was everything that was a Mama. So. On the fourth day are caught. Another just like is not here. He's like you can come to my job stopping at apprentice in you can come here to take it I'm like, okay. Cool outcome there to do this. So I went into the restroom appeared on the State Ama- body like. It almost showdown at started shaking him. So like all my guy, it says positive if this point I'm scared I'm crying he was like you know go ahead and take the second one is at the second test in it said the same thing. So once I realized that he really decide positive I'm just like, what are we going to do? What do you mean we gotta do you know we're gonNA. Have a baby like it's Okay Hook. He gave me a hug AMC that was the in Twenty Sixteen Alexis was twenty three and still figuring out what you wanted to do in life. She was young and just having fun with her friends and now Fiance Cortez babies and parenthood weren't even a real thought even though she made up her mind Alexis didn't feel ready to share the news with her family little. Did she know they were already in on the secret? The funny thing about the stories that my sister knew that I was pregnant before I'd eat in that because. She was snooping garbage game. In those tested I thought were negative were actually reading positive, but I didn't wait for them to finish position. So how long they home to retrieve the man the garbage gain in Norberto they were definitely positive days. So they had sports as total. They revealed that I was pregnant and I didn't even know I can remember going at you mom if this. Already tell. In I'm just the one at the table this like awkwardly trying to not eat the. 'CAUSE I didn't want my mom to now that I was pregnant at the moment. I want to give her time. Alexis needed time to she hadn't fully wrapped her mind around what it meant to be pregnant. She recently started working as a receptionist choices a reproductive health services clinic choices provides everything from abortion to HIV, testing services to midwifery care. Alexis had options. So yeah. I had the choice to continue on my pregnancy abortion is something that I do think that it's easy choice I'm pro-choice. So you know but I knew my situation that it wasn't GonNa be something that I wanted to do basically because my boyfriend at the time we have been together for a while in knew that he wanted to Kate I was associated but I knew as speaking about abortion wasn't any wasn't a topic for us. actually when I told him, he was like on with whatever you want and I'm just like Ricky Ready. So although choices offer termination services in that wasn't something that I decided to do I was able to meet individuals that would still provide me prenatal
Delayed Umbilical Cord Clamping After Birth
"Before we dive into the interview with her, we're going to continue our little. Introduction. Birth plans series we've talked about preparing for your GB as test. We've talked about Bernie we've talked about all sorts of different things and today. I'm just going to touch on delayed cord clamping because it is something. So as a Dula. I started practicing in Vegas years ago, and at the time, not one provider would do it and it is something that is very beneficial for your children. And now more research is coming out saying that it is. Something that you should definitely consider putting in your birth plan and talking to your provider about so. According to. The. Pregnancy Association. It. Can Be very beneficial when he will allow the cord to. You don't clamp right away and you allow it to pulse for twenty five seconds up to five minutes after giving. Birth it allows blood to transfer from the placenta to the baby. Sometimes increasing the child's blood volume by up to a third there's tons of amazing iron stores in there. which is really good for healthy brain development also according to the a dot Org, which is the American College of obstetricians and gynecologists. It talks about how? DELETE UMBILICAL CORD clamping increases haemoglobin levels at birth in improved iron stores in the first several months of life, which may be very favorable for developmental outcomes. It can prevent NIMIA. A lot of kids can sometimes be Nimick in the first six months of life and with delayed cord clamping. Less and less, but with any decision you're making. It's also really important to know Not only benefits but the the potential risks and things like that. The only downside that they can see is that sometimes there is a small increase in John. Indus that might require therapy. In a certain group of infants. So there's the benefit of getting all that extra blood in iron stores and that helps with brain development and preventing anemia. But there is a very slight increase chance of having jaundice. So I can actually say in all my years practicing for anybody who has done it I have not seen jaundice case but I know that that research is out there that does back that. So as long as you have the information to. Make the best decision for yourself and for your family and have this conversation with your healthcare provider that to me I feel like is what counts I know that something that we're planning on doing it's a standard practice where. I am delivering so and we do touch on it. Next week a midwife is going to be on and she's going to just touch on it briefly, but I just wanted to go over the. So few are making your birth plan. Definitely look into delayed cord clamping I'm going to leave the links to these articles. In today's show
Dr. Abby Lev
"Welcome DR PODCASTS everybody support those export us, check deposit Dr Dot Com. Let. Me Get ready to my guests and my treatment Dr Abby Live. She decided bay area. CBT Center is where you can find her. Online. Dot Com she's the founder she's a US ideas. Psychologist and she has three relationship books acceptance and commitment therapy for couples acceptance and commitment therapy interpersonal problems. And interpersonal problems workbook Abby walpin program. Thank you. I'm excited to be here. So he two things I WANNA do today. So People talk about CBT all the time, right I always find that I ended up waving my hands and CBD practitioners Kinda grandmothers a workbook. We change your thinking and there's lots of sort of vague descriptions of would see bt is so one thing I'd love to do a little bit today is you to do some CBT on me? Yes yeah, okay and and just Today to in the middle is Kobe or a perfect data dulas DVD. Yeah. Yeah it is. But this this situation is pretty depressing. Yes. Yes. Now already started working on me but. Before we do that. I WanNa talk a little bit about acceptance and commitment there. What is that? Acceptance and commitment therapy takes its third wave behavioral therapy. So on the more third wave, cvt therapies take a more acceptance and mindfulness based approach. So rather than challenging thoughts too much they help us create some distance from plots and mindfulness and be able to diffuse from thoughts that they're not pulling us towards certain behaviors. Thoughts have less power. In. Controlling our behaviors. Zooming you example would be your in conflict with somebody and you have to become aware of your thoughts and how they're affecting the conflict. How is it different than dialectical behavioral therapy where you're trying to pull in your thoughts and awareness of the other person's thoughts and feelings right. Right, well, dialectical behavioral therapy is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy. So there's like a cognitive behavioral therapy umbrella. Cognitive behavioral therapies a DVD t would be one of them act would be one of them. emotions compassion focused therapy would be one of them or functional analytic psychotherapy would be one of them. So there's a lot of. Therapies that are considered to be more behavioral. Like psycho dynamic therapy is not so much behavioral. It's more insight focused and cognitive behavioral therapies more behaviorally focused. We do techniques and exercises under certain thoughts and feelings act as barriers to. to actions to behaviors. So it's not so much like figuring something out or having insight about something. It's more about practicing certain skills that help you change your behaviors, the fourth component for form. Therapy functional analysis which called. ME. What does that? Functional analytic psychotherapy is a form of behavioral. It's it's a very behavioral intervention where you're thinking about your own behaviors as a as a therapist what are some behaviors that you want to do more of or less of, and you're thinking about your clients cavers and you're doing a lot of. Against punishment and reward in your own interactions as to shape behaviors
Healing Yourself and the World with Meditation
"Hi Rebecca. Welcome to the House Meditations podcast. Hello, how are you good? Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to come onto the podcast? It's my pleasure. becks as a as a mother of five now a birth Dula and Meditation Yoga Guy You. You teach you write a lot about. Managing the mother lode. In fact, it was the title of one of your books. the motherload, so I'd like to start our conversation there. Okay, about tools. And methods that you teach in these times where? Our anxiety over health, the the the political divine racial tensions are just causing so much stress. And I saw a recent video that you posted Were you spoke about managing our expectations or managing your own expectations? And as this podcast is about meditation about the internal work that we do within the process of Meditation I want to ask you to first define what you mean by. By managing our own expectations. And secondly how we use meditation and contemplation to do that so I'm going to jump right in by making a statement that is incredibly important to me as a teacher as a healer someone who is an activist in the social of political racial justice, arenas citation is a political act so always naming where an idea or a thoughts or a teaching came from so this idea of managing expectations came from one of my teachers. Dr Ron Tonia. Pollens. Who in? A Beautiful Guide for me who I've known for a little while, but has recently become someone I considered to be a mentor, and it was through a personal struggle that she guiding me to manage my own expectations, which is so funny, because I teach about managing stress I, teach about managing like how busy schedules are overwhelmed, but I wasn't really practicing myself for a moment in this in the late so. The So. My practice allays is we'll let me define meditation for you. Really quick is according to me according to sit work as a meditation as a way for me to show up for myself to say hey I. See you. I recognize that you're thinking feeling person who deserves to be heard who deserves to be seen who deserves might time, and it's also a way for me to connect with truth, which is the truth of the moment what is happening energetically for me physically for me and then also what's happening in my environment, so it's really sitting in quiet contemplation for. For the purpose of self reflection, and then also connection, which truth and you know being there, it's a it's an act of self love being there for myself so. When I sit in meditation, it is not to cure anything. It's not to fix anything. It's to communicate with myself so that I can find answers on how to act outside of meditation to find. The cure the remedy or even the method to be able to move through stress and what I had been doing recently was sitting in meditation. Connecting with my truth, and then going out in the world and Practicing something that was outside of my truth, which was trying to change instead of trying to change myself. So I was pro. into this like active space and focused on changing the minds of others. Really investing in the impact of changing others instead of investing in what I can do, and that was leading me to a lot of overwhelmed frustration heartbreak. Really this this deep disappointment, so go back to where you. Can Ask right there. Were you You were deeply disappointed in that? People weren't seeing things the way that you wanted to see them or say things or do things or change in this. In his very divided society that we have right now. Is that all of that? It was this sense of urgency. And not being able to. Not being able to. Deal with the incredible that that sense of urgency was creating in me wall seen people not have that same sense of urgency like not doing what I thought they needed to be doing and that was It's really. It's a practice in self. Defeat is a practice in of destruction, because in not in in. Making my expectations, not managing my expectations meaning connecting with the reality of what I can expect. I was setting myself up for so what I learned. With Dr Franconian what she reminded me of that I already knew was. Not to give up hope not to be pessimistic, not to be cynical, but to understand where my energy should be invested and what I can expect from that investment,
C-Section Awareness Month
"Is c-section awareness month and we haven't talked about it yet guys so. I just realized it's the end of April. I literally have no concept of time right now. My niece asked me the other day she goes. Hey what's the day today as April eighth and she looked at me and she goes. It's the fourteenth I was like. Oh my bad I was so off and I still continued to be often. I feel like with this especially with the quarantine and happening. It's so hard to keep track of time but we have C-section awareness month this month. So I want to start just by saying that. I know there's a lot of mommas in my life and so many Mama's that are listening who have had C. Sections and. I really really hope that you've never been made to feel less than or that. You haven't had that conversation with your self filling less than because birth is birth. And you still are mom. You carry that baby. You still have that baby and it's I mean for me. It's incredibly courageous to have your body cut open to save your life to save your baby's life what whatever it may be that is. That's major abdominal surgery to have your child so I think that sometimes there could be a division between the way that things are worded with with moms like natural birth or you know whatever it may be and and I think some of that you know just kind of needs to be put aside just your mom and and I know every single mother that I know would do absolutely anything for their children and are so extremely happy that they were blessed with them and got to help them. So a C section awareness month is also just raising owners around Caesarean so in the United States about one in three births and in a C. section. And there's been a lot of studies and things done to show that about. Fifty percent of those are preventable. And a huge part of being able to prevent that is by Educating Yourself. By knowing your options by knowing what's going on even having a Dula present decreases your risk of C-section by twenty eight percent and a huge part of that is because we equip you with tons of tools and knowledge and education however C sections are an amazing thing that saves lives and is very medically necessary but it is highly overused in the United States. And we do have very high maternal death rate here as well compared to a lot of other countries so there is a lot that goes into it so I would just encourage women if you're pregnant or planning on becoming a mom does do a lot of your lottery. Research to equip yourself. Obviously there's people who elect to have them in that totally your choice in totally up to you but if that's something that you hope to avoid there is a lot of education that you can do. I encourage you to take any sort of childbirth class whether it's spinning babies or birthing from within has a bunch of great ones. The Bradley Method Hypno- birthing. All of these courses are Gopi with tools and education resources. Going into it and help you to to better prepare yourself your body and going in knowing that you have a voice in that you have options again. There are absolutely times that it's medically necessary and it saves lives and it's so important and I'm so glad that c-section aren't option and that they do exist but part of spreading the awareness is also spreading their research behind it. And I just want you guys to be equipped in knowledgeable but also don't carry any guilt. Don't feel bad if you have had one and if you know if you wish that you know there's so many things that you can use to work through as well there. There is birth trauma and there are a lot of things that come with it. So you know if you did have a C. section. You're really really struggling with how your birth experience went. I just encourage you to to find help to reach out to somebody whether it's a postpartum. Dula or a maternal health guidance. Counselor somebody to help you work through that because you'll find a lot of healing in in you'll get some resources on how to feel empowered in your experience in your birth because you you're are awesome and and there's so much that so many other things in our lives that that are gonNA knock down as you know as MOMS and and trying to figure this out so so being confident in who. You are feeling empowered in your birthing experiences so important and then that leads into feeling powered as a mom and into motherhood and in just goes into other areas of your life so if you are struggling definitely reach out to somebody because you're not alone a lot of women have been there before. I know you could even talk about it in our facebook group. I know a lot of women are so open to sharing their experiences on there as well. I just salute all of you. C-section Mamas who wear your stripes proudly. You guys are
Postpartum in a Pandemic
"So I want to start with your pregnancy I'm wondering given your knowledge and your profession as a Dula when you're pregnant with soula. What were some of the things that you're doing to advocate for yourself and prepare for the postpartum time. I think that I was concerned about possibly getting postpartum depression just because I do have a history of depression and I had to get off of my antidepressant when I was pregnant. Because it wasn't safe for the baby and I was just looking for whatever type of body type therapy alternatives that I could find so acupuncture was really helpful for that and then I also Was in therapy with two different therapists by felt like I worked really hard and my pregnancy to ensure that I had the mental health support that I felt like I needed And Not a part of that was going on a second part of that. Was Me heavily planning the postpartum time in order to prevent not that you can prevent postpartum depression but in my brain in order to prevent it from happening? I'm heavy planner and I'm like if I plan everything and organize everything and get support that I need and I'm not like isolated by myself in those early weeks than you know things are GonNa go better and so Yeah I was and so am very concerned about mental health in this postpartum time. And what else did you know about postpartum mood and anxiety disorders going in? I feel like people a little bit like no about postpartum depression but I feel like the broader public doesn't necessarily have all the knowledge about the different ways that that can look. Well I think one thing too is definitely left out of the discussion is postpartum anxiety. I everybody instantly goes for depression. But a lot of people have postpartum anxiety and it presents and like so many different ways that there's not even like one like by the rule book they can look because everybody's anxiety shows up differently and I feel like postpartum anxiety is harder to pinpoint because as a new parent. You're already so anxious. A lot of the things that it says like the book say about postpartum anxiety about like watching the baby when the Baby Sleeps. And like you think the telling bad. It's going to happen to the baby and all that like that's just being a new parent in general so it's really hard to lockdown when that becomes more excessive so feeling that goes under diagnosed and Under reported a lot and a lot of people don't get support around because people don't know what's normal and what's not so. I felt lake as much information as I knew about postpartum depression. I was not prepared for postpartum anxiety as much as I should have been and I feel like that has been what has like cut more into play then. The depression Yeah so and I know you had your own Dula. Ns what were some of the things that Dula was helping you do My postpartum duly came to my baby shower and basically pasta out a notebook to everybody so that they could sign up for jobs for postpartum and at first. I didn't WanNa do it because I just felt like. I didn't WanNa like ask my friends that bluntly to be like hey can you? Guys take my trout and dishes but Actually had several friends after the baby shower. That were like that was so cool that year. Postpartum Dula did that. And they're like I always wanNA like support friends. That have a baby but I never know what to do. I also like this idea of asking people to show up in this time because this is not meant to be done alone and even for people who are single and are people who choose to be single parents or whatever like it's you're never supposed to like parent alone. They're supposed to be a community aspect to all of this. Yeah definitely definitely and so you know you come home from the hospital. It's an February beginning of March. Were still a couple of weeks away from the CDC announcing that there's a pandemic and so what was that first week at home like the first week was like everything that I have planned with my Dulas. It was Me being fed and people bringing me drinks and you know. Stang over to help with the baby and my postpartum do alike. Massaging my body. Because I was so swollen from the birth and it felt amazing that basically like I pulled off Lake. It actually worked. They actually showed up and I'm really grateful for that. Everybody was kind of like on a schedule of like who could do what when and who do overnight and stuff and it was really nice for like a week and a half to have that and to have them coming over in helping me get a break and Just like Lebanon us and everything and then this corona Situation hit and yet kind of all went out the window. She felt prepared to be a single mom. But not like this after about a week of being homeless soula. The governor of New York City put a stay at home order in place and all the people that were supposed to show up. Couldn't come anymore. We're stuck in isolation and that's not something. I would really wish on anybody that was in the immediate stages of postpartum or really just in parenthood in general It sucks. I don't even know how to describe it because it's like the exact opposite of what is needed during this time So many people were ready and willing to show up. It is nice that we have that support system and that when this is over we will still have that to rely on people. Were jumping on soon. Calls like nonstop and like doing like zoom hang outs and all these like zoom events. And I'm just like where was this energy before when you know we were all so busy with our lives constantly and so I like do like that. We've been told to slow down and like forced to talk to each other. I do hope that after this whole thing is over or whatever life looks like when it's over. I hope that like people continue to show up with the same energy and like really show up for each other
Death and dying: how Indigenous communities grieve, survive and thrive
"A Dula is someone who supports another person through a significant health related related event the most common being a birth Dula. But there's another kind of Dula a death Dula. They help people through the end of life transition. My Kelly's an elder from the Schwab Hamill first nation and he is a death Dula. He joins me from Vancouver. Welcome Mike Thank you Wonderful trip down here in coming weather so this is a field that I never heard of before. Can you tell me what a death Dula. Dad's we as first nations people. We've been doing it for while myself. I've been doing it for almost half of my life on ready to Help the people crossover back into the spirit world way. And how do you do that through prayer and encouragement and Just making sure that they're comfortable with the prayers say always one hundred percent feel better after prayer in in a few words. So how did you get into this field of work back in seventies here when I changed my life into Christian life and started from there just doing funeral sedan after that asked go. Pray the people on her deathbed in hospital sending Zenden at just transpired from there So how do you incorporate your first nation culture into your practices at as Death Dula. It's pretty similar to what a death Dula does today. I go in and talk to the family and make sure that I can go in and talk to their loved one. That's laying there and pray with them. Talk to them. Encourage them narrow that there's life after the deaths and stuff like that and help them to let go of their fear and doubt and what's going to happen to them after the leave this physical plane. Is there kind of ceremony that that That you take people through everything we do with prayer and encouraging me is ceremony. I mean that's what I call her then as I talk to them I pray with them and sometimes I do the hands hands on healing tennis similar to Ricky. We do that kind of work to and that alleviates. Lots of the pain and fear that they have after I get done praying with them and encouraging them they always say way I feel better. I'm not so frayed today. Now it's it's all positive encouragement and a prayer and offering for their goal is a good place to after they leave the physical plane of life. So when you're taking people through this process what kinds of things do you do you. Tell them to to ease their pain or ease their krief. They're going to a place where there's no more pain. No more sorrel All of the Christians they call them angels and US as native people we call them ancestors and we meet all of our ancestors on the other side and they're singing and dancing missing while we're over here on this site Mourning and weeping. Hey it's sometimes when we lose an important person person on this scientists. It's a really big loss for sure. This must be very difficult work to be doing. What kinds of self care do practice to make sure that you're okay or go to we have what we call a nineteen ten Indian Shaker Church and we do prayers in hands don healing brushing in there? I have A sweat lodge. They're going pray in sweat large and and Downtown we have Asana were we going there and we use our medicine and abuser prayer scenario and to lighten the load off of our our own selves our mind our heart and our body. Why do you think that this this kind of work? It is important portent. This work is very very very important because lot of our people that you know we've turned to a different different cultures and our own and a lot of our people don't know our culture and all day knows you're GonNa go to hell or you're going to go to heaven to encourage him you know that there's a place of peace on the other side. It's not erasing what Man Says it is right. Well thank you so much for your time today Thank you for having me. That was my Kelly. An elder from the Schwab Hamill first nation. Shen he is a death Dula.
Nurses Are A Mom's Best Friend With Maternity Nurse Katie Verbesy
"Lena. Mom is the toughest job there is and it doesn't come with instructions so it's okay if you don't have all the answers. We'll figure it out together this. This is mom brain for the LARREA Baldwin Daphne us. Hey guys welcome back to mom brain. I'm ILARIA and I'm Daphne and today we have a episode for you where I am on maternity leave but Alario is having an amazing conversation with Labor and maternity nurse so today's Today's acne. We talked with Katie Versi who is a nurse at the hospital that both you and I delivered at I've had for I believe three out of my four our kids you know I have to say the the experience of giving birth is just because I'm the reason I'm not in the conversation fully today's because I'm actually home on maternity. Leave and it's funny because people keep asking you know how houses pregnant pregnancy been different than others and you know. Are you nervous for to give birth and all of this and it's like it's weird. Policy just does not let you fully remember all the details of any process of any part of this I wish I was more diligent about journaling but I just don't have time so could someone get me a third and fourth and to please stay there by journaling and a few extra hours during the day hours during the day although I it was really good for a while but voice notes to myself which which had helped but in any case you'll hear in this episode how soothing and Calming Katie Gruber See who will we hearing from is but she is just. It's just an example of how important the the great care around you when you're giving birth is excellent art guys this. I hope you enjoy this conversation with Katie. Silly Mommy got the gig okay. Can you please introduce yourself. My name is Katie Verb. AC- and I've been a maternity nurse for ten years in New York City. What exactly is maternity nurse so a maternity nurse. Their maternity nurse is on the different stages of your Labor Labor and delivery nurse which is the more common nurse it was heard of the nurse sets with you during the Labor but then after you have the baby for the two to three days that you're saying at at the hospital you have what we call a post partners and that just means that's the nurse takes care of you in the period after you have the baby so we help you with breastfeeding and teaching and just all the stuff that happens after baby that you don't know anything and you need someone to be there with you. The entire twenty-four hours doing all the teaching and helping thing just make you be less scared. Now is so funny you're so stressed and focused on the actual delivery any idea everything whoever whoever like no one told me any event always tell your friends or I tell my patients. Tell your friends about after stuff because it's the stuff you don't know and it's the stuff that's going to be what you need for after es tell your friends and then they won't feel alone when Carmen was born. I was so focused on the delivery and then I'll say everything will be find when she's out and everything is like how exactly to keep this thing alive. Oh my God all right so i WanNa talk to you a little bit about some of the things that you Komo women will experience as say it's my first my first child and I have my my baby and everything goes as planned but what are like really common surprises that that women have after you know giving birth. I think one of the biggest things that mom's experiences not understanding. How difficult breastfeeding is that breastfeeding. Yes it's natural that your breasts produce milk but short of that so much of it is a learned experience and based on how the babies are and how the moms are and feeling comfortable. That breastfeeding takes time. There's a reason that seventy five percent of my job as a nurse is helping with breastfeeding. There's a reason we have lactation consultants that come and visit you in the room and breastfeeding class but I think the biggest thing is understanding that if you do want to breastfeed that it more often than not can take a few weeks to really get established tablet and I think everyone has this idea in their mind for movies and seeing their friends when the babies are months old breastfeeding with absolutely no problem and people I think as baseline from what I've seen is that mom's always are going to feel like they're not doing everything right because they see everyone else doing it and everyone else seems like they're doing it easy but it's not easy for everyone. It's my first experience with breastfeeding is that breastfeeding was more painful than all of it. Avi I opted for an epidural with all of them with all of my births and I did a lot of the laboring until the last one you know without an epidemic in the last one. I was induced but I I have to say that those like contractions that you get when you get the letdown. breastfeeding are like no joke doc really really really. Yes and that's another thing that moms will say to me after is that they're in so much pain so with every after you have the baby has to shrink back down to its original size so that that you're not bleeding so with every baby every pregnancy recipient stretched out that many more time so your body has to work that much harder to shrink back down so I've had people that have had certified six seven kids that say the Labor at the contractions after the Labor is worse than the Labor itself. I completely agree with you. That's got an amazing thing. I mean people talk about. How breastfeeding helps you get back to original size. I think one of the reasons it is is the contractions that the uterus is having you'll this is I mean. This is mom rain so we get. Berry you know into the the gruesome for parts but it makes you really bleed and get rid of you know the blood that you need to get rid of so when every single time that your your body will have a letdown. which is you know for? Those of you. Guys who are pregnant and you know thinking about breastfeeding or you know didn't breastfeed one time around and next time so basically you know once. The milk starts like squirting. That's what it's called. That's what the letdown is that that is a contraction in the uterus that there's a there is a relationship relationship between the letdown and your uterus that am. I saying this right you yeah. You're the what the the like the science behind it. So most people have heard of Potosi. That's often given to you while you're in labor. Tell Labor progress shooters contract so when you breastfeed after the baby your body releases a natural form of Potosi called Oxytocin so every time you're breastfeeding oxytocin is released in your body. It does three things it makes you crampy. which is the body's natural way of preventing you from hemorrhaging because here we have chosen to give to patients after but in third world countries in places where that's not available? That's the way of preventing MOMS from hopefully not hemorrhaging it also makes you thirsty when you breastfeed because that oxytocin leaky thirsty and that's the body's ladies way of making sure that you're drinking enough because seventy three seventy five percent of breast milk is water so you. WanNa make sure that you're drinking water because if you're not hydrating yourself you're not. GonNa get yourself that full supply and the third thing that makes you sleepy and that I don't understand the science behind that because like you don't need help being tired because you only something that you watch Evan feared. evolution has figured if you don't even more reason to be tired but like. I'll literally be talking to MOMS while they're breastfeeding. I can literally see them haze over. We're and they don't realize that it's because they're literally drug okay. This is the thing that would drive me crazy with. That's after having the baby. You're so tired. ABC's up and you're like alone in in the room and then like nurses will comment. I Love Katy. She'll come hang out for a while and you feel like you're not alone but I'll be like holding my baby and I co sleep with my babies at home but like that's like a big no no in the hospital. You're not allowed to do that. I know goes goes holding one of my babies and like you're literally like you is just as you literally. Can't you can't because you're sleeping with the baby yeah so so you feel like you're getting in trouble a lot of your there which is always another reason. I mean as much as I love my X. I actually really love my experience in the hospital but you know you're excited took a homeboy yeah. I also just wanted to like sleep. Feel you really feel not. Nobody's yelling at me when I'm sleeping being with my baby in the bed but that's actually interesting what you're saying about and I wonder if I want to tell you what I do from pumping schedule because it's a very p you guys ask all the time time and it's very different from what is recommended as very different from what a Lotta people do but I have four gigantic freezer meals else full of milk and then fed the baby on top of that I don't know what I'll do with all the milk I you know. I don't think you can donate milk. That's already frozen. I think has to be fresh rush on. Somebody told me that I don't I think I'm not positive so check but I think every like they're different. People that receive milk. There are different ways of doing it okay if it's like the milk donor bank. It may be different but I know that like on a lot of like group chats. They're like there's Dulas that like we'll put you in contact with other people well. You know what for next time I will remember that because I literally through four. Oh milk. I just threw it away. I was like you know what it's pass the six months more and so and I've been holding on its own it not so because it takes so hard. It's like it's hard. I told Alec this time around. I was like I don't want to push gift. I don't I just want another freezer. Ya'll I want in. My life is another freezer. I had a patient that was we. We were talking. I I think your second or third kid and she was telling me she was going. She was let go on a trip to Europe or something.
EP80: Mommy's Inside Voice with Amie Jay
"Welcome back to miraculously mama's i'm your host lisbeth joy and we are a podcast that believes in empowering women through storytelling and education and with with those stories. We've been recording them from our community. Thank you sarah for that amazing intro. If you want to hear the rest of her story head over to the patron where those recordings earnings are up to bring women together by sharing how they became a mom and how their experience when it's been so cool who'll hearing their stories and there's like little pieces that tie people together but yet they're so different and empowering also we i love bringing on different educators to help us grow and learn and just be the best i of ourself. We love laughing here and having a a good time and that is exactly what's going to happen with today's guests. She is awesome. I have amy j on you may know her as mommy's inside voice voice on instagram she has a hilarious page who where she posts the things that you may be thinking but you might not want to say <hes> she's a life dula so she also has another page where it is a little bit more serious and she it's called deep breath boo and she just post <hes> <hes> addresses some of those more serious aspects of life but most people know her as the funny lady. She has three boys and she she's awesome. She has a lot of advice to offer us. She shares her journey about how she she's loves connecting like minded people bowl and building community and how she has gotten to where she is today and what her vision is for her platform that she has and she she does. She really plans on using that just for women to know that they are not alone in this journey at all. She's awesome and she's coming all the way from canada. So i'm going to grab amy are everyone. I have a super exciting for you. Today i have amy j and she is known as mommy's inside voice all about honesty in parenthood. She says the things that you're thinking and she's not as shame to say them so thank you so much for for being here with us. Oh thank you for having me yeah. <hes> tell us a little bit about yourself well. Yes i am a mom to call him. The three musketeers <hes> there three little boys there four five and six in there in shane <hes> actually i don't think i asked you can we swear yeah. I mean i would try not to say the f. word if possible we completely corral stopped my name. Just your mom right now. Earmuffs emma i can. I can keep myself. I can keep myself <hes> so <hes> yeah. I i started having kids. I was twenty two when i had my first and and then they were just like boom boom boom back to back and after my third was born i think i'd finally hit that point. Where a lot of moms reach of like oh my god who am i what am i doing. Why are they always on me so i just started writing something thing. I've always really enjoyed and didn't think anyone would actually read it beyond like my angie carol may be and then i actually wrote about about our wedding day where i had a tooth abscess and my face was massive and kind of <hes> when into you know on your wedding day you wanna look nice and i worked hard to lose three babies worth the wait in eight months before the wedding in it ended up having this based and i had to just kind of say well you know. Does it matter what i look like. No i'm here as a wife and a mother and a daughter and i'm here to celebrate my love. Not my cheekbones thankfully so. I shared that story in kind of took off from there and now we're here. I'm i'm actually also dula liz so i kind of did that as a passion project when my little one was one yeah just fell madly in love with women after becoming a mom
"dula" Discussed on Babes and Babies
"It's such a huge difference like I think we think we can save ourselves by like no but it's like you're really Lee making it worse. Though like that feed tension pain model it really is so true well the contractions coming whether you want it or not so you can accept it and let it move through your body or you can fight it which is just GonNa make it worse so and then what is something that you have to have in your Dula Bag. <hes> have five so <hes> I have to have some type of aromatherapy and this is not just for the client but also for the birthing team so I am that Dula who comes in I know a lot of those don't do this but I break the rule and I will spray the room and like head that room smelling really good in it's because specifically at a hospital worth it's because it shifts how people feel when they walk in the room. <hes> I've seen in so many times where somebody's walking in you can tell the tire. Maybe he's the nurse or whomever in then I get that lavender going in their whole mood takes a one eighty. God also good in here in so I know it's the Dula role we're not supposed to spray stuff but <unk> aromatherapy <hes> is huge and then I use this little <hes> like a massage tool so once I'm kind of like super tired from using my hands I can and try that <hes> for like counter pressure on but I have to. I have to have crystals in my Dula vague I have to because I really believe breath in like the power of energy in now quantum physics is beginning to catch up to what all of the will people already know in energy effects energy in if I can create a energy in this room that is positive and loving and powerful than that is going to really shift things and I had to have my phone 'cause I like to play like little frequencies. Yeah yeah is necks yeah. No absolutely you have to have snacks. I always bring a toothbrush. 'cause I forgot one before and it was bad because I don't know how long you're GONNA be there. I always will have mince or gum to like you want to like rats when you're breathing on your clients because you know when women earn Labor the last thing they wanna smell is your funky breasts so right but still if you're there for like a long time it's nice to have a toothbrush honey sticks. I like to have honey sticks for the woman because they get that's also like you're not supposed to eat or drink during labor but it's like okay does have a little honey. It's fine right. You need energy. You're running a marathon and then I always bring oils essential oils. I have my favorite blends but I like to use for like back labor or just relaxation <hes> yeah I feel like those are three three central's that I always have in my bag. Yeah you can make it work. If you just had the whole thing yeah. Oh I usually have a Rebozo to with me yeah yeah yeah does help with the HIP squeezes while I find when your hands get tired. Sometimes it can help but yeah <hes> I want to thank you so much for coming on and sharing all this it was so nice to to bring a dual on to talk about her experiences and to clarify things for the listeners <hes>. If you guys don't follow Olivia you should on instagram because she is always posting different tips and information and education about what your body's doing during Labor how to prevent back leg blazer flipped bunch of different things she always has something up that you can learn from. I always get sucked into all of your videos because they're so informational so definitely follow her. It's her holistic path. That's your instagram degrom rain. Yes that's it her holistic path and then is your website the same yes..
"dula" Discussed on Babes and Babies
"And then I'm trying to think of the another aspect of business building really networking. That's huge <hes> actually met a Dula who is I just like finishing up. Her birth work in was moving more into postpartum work in so she was kind of helping me find clients and really just getting your name out there. Try not to be like too aggressive but <hes> just going into places where you know pregnant people might be so like for me. <hes> that might be going to like a yoga studio imploding my information <unk>. I think my own second I think the second client that I got was from like some flyer that I put in a juice bar yeah so kind of speaking things in areas where it's not obvious like don't have to go to a doctor's office <hes> although although you could try to build relationship like <hes> like a referral type of relationship but go to places where you know those people will be in see if you can like stick a fly or business card like even maybe talked to breath photographers and say hey like. Would you mind referring meet people if I refer you people <hes> <hes> in in that kind of thing going to events <hes> Yeah Yeah I've found I think networking is huge <hes> and building relationships <hes> one thing that I've started to find here in in Chicago is just even working with other Dulas. <hes> I became friends randomly randomly or when I moved here is working at a restaurant I was serving this lady. WHO's a Dula and we ended up chatting got each other's information I love her and that was over a year ago and she actually just messaged me? We've we've met up for lunch here and there and just Kinda stayed in touch and she and her friend opened their own Dula practice together and they're really busy and she just message me the other day and she's like hey. We need a backup Dula like is there any way you could be a backup Dula for us so I I was like yeah absolutely so it's I think even just finding and I'm in a I'm GonNa Group on facebook. <hes> I think sometimes you can find stuff there in your area and there's people in there that asks for backup Dulas who or who ask ask for you know just Dulas in different areas around the city 'cause sugarbush Chicago in the burbs are pretty spread out some of them. Don't travel as far so like hey. I know someone who's looking for Doolan this area. I don't go that not far to do. Dula work or any of you available or <hes> or they'll say hey I have a client who's looking to pay this amount. Is Anybody open to doing Dula work for that amount so I've found a lot of stuff on facebook definitely networking. I love what you're saying. Though is kind of like set that intention like right like set what you're going to do as July the what you're prenatal visits are going to be what you're postnatal. Visits going to be what your contracts GonNa look like so that I think just kind of getting clear on your vision in your mission statement for yourself then you will be more confident approaching people as to be as well exactly in of course like your clientele is going to different too so by if I'm the type of person who's looking to do like home births as Zula in that's my kind of area of expertise not there may be <unk> link up with some home birth Midoi as say hey like in their way that we can kind of build a relationship or something like that <hes> or maybe if you want to lean towards doing more hospital bursts you can kind of go that route and see if you can have a friend who does childbirth education is though since now we have a relationship sometimes I can pop into her class and say hey. I'm a local Dula. You know if you're looking for somebody who works in this <unk> area in Canada. Do it like that but it's definitely like it definitely with a tricky start for me figuring out like okay. We're in the world. Do I go to find my clients. <hes> yeah no absolutely I think you just have to put yourself out there and <hes> so somebody else was asking. How'd you handle living on call Lou yeah yeah? That's it right there. Is that Mary trickiest.
Can You Live Without a Working Amygdala?
"Can you live without the umbrella but let's back up a tiny step. What is the umbrella located deep within the brain's temporal lobes since an almond shaped massive cells or nuclei? That's your Magdala. It's a bit misleading to think of the structure as one single unit since there are actually two parts to it each one located in opposite hemispheres of the brain but for general purposes the distinct halves are considered as one part of the LIMBIC system or which are the brain structures involved in matters offers of emotions and motivations the Magdala specifically associated with memory storage and the processing of emotions like anger pleasure and Yep. You guessed it fear one major part of the amid Liz role is its responsibility in fear conditioning and associated learning process that allows us to learn through repeated experience to be scared of something that learning process happens because experiences change our brain circuitry and four new memories. This concept was pretty clearly illustrated in a nineteen. Eighteen twenty experiment which was totally unethical by today's standards involving an eleven month old infant known as a little Albert Scientists John Watson and Rosalie Rayner wanted to see what would happen if they paired Albert's perfectly natural fear of loud noises with stimulus. He seemed to be pretty neutral about in this case a white rat watson and rayner allowed Albert to reach for the rat and every time he did they struck a hammer against a steel bar after sadden repetitions of this pairing Albert started bursting into tears. Here's the very sight of the rat no hammer needed because of this fear conditioning his amid had linked the disturbing noise with the neutral stimulus and the ladder now elicited fear without the former unfortunately for poor Albert and again this type of experiment would not go down today. The experiment led him to develop a generalized fear of things that even resembled the white rat so white coats and white dogs would freak him out too but backed patient S._M.. On the surface her fearlessness seems seems kind of funny charming. Even her kids even got a kick out of it. Her eldest son once wrote me and my brothers see the snake on the road. I was like holy cow. That's a big steak. Well mom just ran over there and picked it up and brought it out of the street and put it in the grass and let. Go on its way. She would always tell me how she was scared of snakes and stuff like that but then all of a sudden she's fearless up them but while navigating life without anxiety may seem somewhat exciting and patient as m has made it clear that a person can survive perfectly well without intact Amanullah the absence of natural fear can be dangerous even potentially fatal a complete lack of suspicion or distrust meant S._M.. was vulnerable in many ways once while walking through a small park at ten pm a man accosted S._m.. And held knife to her throat according to researchers quote in the distance she could hear the church choir singing. She looked at the man and confidently replied. If you're going to kill me you're going to have to go through my gods angels. I the man suddenly let her go and if that wasn't strange enough S._M.. Didn't flee the scene. She simply walked home and she walked past the same park the next day and showed no signs of fear or avoidance. She just didn't have it in her. That wasn't the only time S._M.. Walked right into seriously risky situations emerged unscathed and unbothered researchers say she was once physically accosted by a woman twice her size. She was nearly killed an act of domestic violence and on more than one occasion. She's been explicitly threatened with death. What stands out most? Is that in many of these situations. Situations S._M.'s life was in danger it. Her behavior lacked any sense of desperation or urgency but while S._M.. Has Been held up as the prime example of fearless emiddle less life more recent research has indicated that the connection between the a two characteristics isn't so clear according to a study published in the journal Nature Neuroscience people with damaged big delays did still report feelings of intense fear and some even felt more fear than those normally functioning big delays the study looked at participants with the same super rare genetic condition that caused as migdal damage whereabout vita disease less than three hundred people have been found to have it since it was discovered in nineteen twenty nine Orbach Vita Disease Causes Three main types of symptoms and extremely horse voice small bumps around the eyes and calcium deposits in the brain. The amid <unk> happens to be the spot in the brain where these deposits form researchers found that watching horror films did nothing to incite fear in participants with this disorder but they were curious whether exposing them to carbon dioxide would induce fear reaction the amid plays a big part in detecting carbon dioxide and when it detects higher concentrations of it in the blood a possible sign that suffocation is occurring it can cause a person to feel panic contrary to what seemed. Logical when participants with Burbach Vitas Syndrome breathed in air that was thirty five percent carbon dioxide. They freaked out so what's the deal. A researchers wrote results indicate that the amid Dula is not required for fear and panic and make an important Gordon distinction between fear triggered by external threats from the environment versus fear triggered internally by carbon dioxide so can you live without the Amiga yes can you live safely and securely without it still unclear but scientists are working to figure it out.
Jennifer Dulas discussed on Michael Wallace and Steve Scott
"To prosecutors say, missing new Canaan, mom Jennifer dulas blood was found mixed with a restraint husbands DNA on her kitchen faucet. The husband and his girlfriend today, pleaded not guilty to evidence
Husband of missing woman allegedly owes $1.7 million to mother-in-law
"The search for a missing mother from. Connecticut is now centered in Farmington, where her estranged husband lives. He and his girlfriend were arrested Saturday night. And we'll be arraigned this morning on charges connected with Jennifer. Do Laos's disappearance. Sean Adams is in Norwalk with the latest a missing mother, a father in jail, five children, suffering heartache and pain, Jennifer dulas disappeared may twenty four th after dropping her children off at school in new Canaan. No trace of her in spite of searches in new Canaan, Hartford, Farmington, and pound ridge. Now police have charged her estranged husband photos, tulips, and his girlfriend Michelle trek onus with evidence, tampering and hindering prosecution. More charges could follow. They'll be in court here in Norwalk later today. It's been a two year divorce and custody battle, Jennifer do Lois reportedly stated in court papers. She feared for her safety photos. Do Los allegedly owes his mother-in-law for a one point seven million dollar business loan as the search for Jennifer. Delos. Continues. People gathered to pray yesterday in west Hartford, and new Canaan
Husband of missing mom allegedly owes $2.5 million to mother-in-law
"Is now turning to a Connecticut courtroom in the case of a missing mother of five details. Live on the story from Norwalk this morning. It's WCBS reporters. Sean Adams, Sean, a family torn apart of deepening mystery and now criminal charges. No trace of Jennifer, do low since she dropped her children off at school in new Canaan may twenty fourth. The search continues for the mother of five locked in a bitter divorce and custody battle dragging on for two years. Now police have arrested her estranged husband photos, do those and his girlfriend, Michelle truck-owner and charge them with evidence tampering and hindering prosecution, there do here in court in Norwalk later today. Meanwhile, search parties, they've looked in new Canaan. They've gone up to the Hartford area to properties in Farmington, where photos to Delos lives. And also in pound ridge, where Jennifer goulashes families located Jennifer. Dulas mother. She is involved in a legal battle with her estranged, son-in-law over an unpaid one point seven million dollar business loan yesterday. Prayer vigils for Jennifer do Las in west Hartford, and
Estranged husband and girlfriend arrested in Connecticut mom's disappearance
"Police arrest, the husband of missing Connecticut, mother of five, and they bust. His girlfriend to his WCBS reporter, Steve burns, it was right around the corner from here at the new Canaan country school where Jennifer Farber dulas was last seen dropping her kids off back on may twenty fourth. Police say they are still actively looking for her, but now to arrests have been made in connection to this disappearance. Her estranged husband, photos, Stu Los and his girlfriend, Michelle tra-, conus, both are being charged with hindering prosecution tampering with physical
"dula" Discussed on WHOREible Decisions
"Just like really don't feel as if you can't afford it because I'm broke just as much as everybody else's broke me lake, and I receive wick and if I can afford if I can go and get a free Dula, I would because it's just so important, and it's just like not only why people deserve a Dula. And that's a lot of African American. No truth because play it makes me sad because mostly all my clients are white and it's because. Don't know the luxury, you know, it's just like popped up baby you'll be fine. But then you have postpartum depression. And we scoop it under the rug like, oh, Nope. Get over it. You gotta figure it out. You gotta go to work. You got to find the babysitter. And then what? So then we're full because it's just like you're just another crazy bitch like, yeah. Right moving always get the whole you guys. But like I feel like this was such out. I really be very honest with you liked truck to you on the phone. You were so quiet. I thought this trash. Because I'd be like we don't numbering around. We've got to do. I like I called her. And she she she had energy on the phone. You know, what you called me? I was like I was at my mom's house, and we have this fucking game. Like, we have to take one car. I'll put another car in the driveway and like welcome. You're calling me. I was just like, okay. Hello. Hold on. Hold on. And I'm like, well, I wanted to make the fucking Dr one talk someone this is gonna sound really fucked up after sugar daddy and after. The last HIV I h v episode we had just kind of getting him to open up, and I don't think he was willing to all the time. We like like, no. I know he d he wrote us as so he said he was willing to open. Right. So like whenever I can't find videos. I can't click on someone and hear their voice, which by the way with sugar daddy that was a trap. He may. What was he? He saw his energy. Yep. So if I can't see that let me just call on here. And then once said you to get pregnant I was like, well, if she sucks well at least ask her about. I was like oh my God. What am I going to say? I was working on my notes set down nervous. And it's just. I'm. All right, very nicely. If we if we have them in actually wanna talk about something because we don't know like, I we what I want what I want every woman to know, basically, every woman like myself African American Hispanic we got options, we're not alone that don't feel like just because you can't afford something that you don't deserve. It do you know resources or anything that maybe look up? There's so many resources like I'm from New Jersey still in New Jersey. We have it's a program called am. I allowed to late. Yeah. Absolutely. Absolutely. And you. I mean, honestly, you know, you being here is going to. I'm sure we're gonna have all the girls. Right. I wish I heard this before I wish absolute mess that thing that is just looking for that tell them where to mind you. Oh, yes. You guys can find me on Instagram. I am Micheli underscore, the lovely Dula, or that's my personal or you can go to my business page. It's the lovely Dula. Hold on. Let me double check. Sorry about that Dula fell D O U L A..
"dula" Discussed on Babes and Babies
"You're saying that there's all this different information out there. Right. So at the beginning of the year, I talked on the podcasts about how one of my nears resolutions this year woods to read more books, which I've definitely made an effort to do that. And now my pile of books is getting bigger and bigger, but I recently discovered a really cool app that I wanna share with you guys in that is the blinking st-. There are so many books on there to choose from. And what they do is. They condense it for you. So in less than fifteen minutes. I feel like I've fast-tracked my way through a book. I'm I downloaded a bunch of like marketing and business ones because I'm trying to grow my Dula business right now. Veto had talked about like wanting treat a bunch of parenting books before we become parents, and they have a list in there all of these. And instead of having to sit and read through the whole book, I can read it in fifteen minutes and filled. More informed. Phil educated on a topic. There's a couple of books in there that a lot of parents love they have the yes brain which talks about how to, cultivate, courage, and curiosity and resilience and your child how to talk so kids will listen, and listen, so kids will talk that's another book, they have the book no drama discipline. They have a book uniquely human different ways of seeing autism. Which is what we're talking about this podcast. So that's an amazing resource. The happy kid handbook. There's so many parenting books in there. And like, I said, not just parenting. I'm doing ones, I'm business. They have it's such an amazing resource because we know that not everyone has time to just sit down and read a book, but you have fifteen minutes that you can put into it and really get something out of a book instead of team to take.
"dula" Discussed on WBT Charlotte News Talk
"News product dulas Lethem, Andy with acidic and at that. But then again Salinas with that book. The Dawson in Bilton zone is good Mississippi. So good at you, speak standard about the phone that you say upper limit look at whatever the empathy Nedal medicine museum. This the other by the biggest at the. Former vice president Joe Biden says he will work to be more mindful after four women have come forward saying he acted inappropriately towards them. Trying to be in my career. Making human connection. As far as I shake cage. I hope people grabbed men Luebbe shoulders who say you can do this like making the comments in a video released on social media. It's the first time he's spoken about the allegations publicly. He also said in that that he plans to talk more to people about issues in the coming month possible hand about his twenty twenty aspirations a federal judge in New York Thursday, we'll hear oral arguments in a contempt of court case against Tesla's CEO, Elon Musk a lawsuit. Brought by the securities and Exchange Commission is looking to hold Elon Musk in contempt for violating terms of an October court approves securities fraud settlement. According to the agreement musk is required to get preapproval from tesla board committee for social media post about his electric car company. Tesla and musk each pay twenty billion dollars to settle the case after he tweeted that he had funding secured to take tesla private when he didn't have the money lined up this past February must tweeted about vehicle production and the SEC says that must. Did not seek or receive approval prior to publishing his tweet which was inaccurate. And must lawyers say that the tweet restated previously approved disclosures. Hillary barsky, Fox News. Prisons will no longer allow clergy in the death chamber after the US supreme court. Locked the scheduled execution of Patrick Murphy last week, he'd argued his religious freedoms would be violated if his Buddhist spiritual adviser couldn't be with him effective immediately. The Texas Department of criminal Justice says only prison security staff will be of the death chamber Justice department condemning virtually every aspect of Alabama's prison operations giving the state forty nine days to correct violations. Pervasive.
"dula" Discussed on Blogging the Boys
"Cleveland dot com that the Browns were considering shopping do Johnson of the talented running back formerly out of Miami. The hurricane the U S people like to say the Cleveland Browns, obviously have a stable of running backs and it looks fantastic for them throughout his rookie season last year. And obviously if you weeks ago the Cleveland Browns made some headlines when they signed Kareem hunt, and that's that's a whole different subject. But that means that Duke, John. Has a little bit more disposable than he may have been during the regular season. Certainly at the end of it and do Johnson, you're unaware of more of you know, and every guys going to have their own opinion on this. But do Johnson is receiving running back. A lot of people have thought he'd be a great slot receiver. So Johnson certainly has ability in that regard anyway, Cleveland dot com reported that the Browns were listening to trade offers for do Johnson. And Andy Slater reported that the Dallas Cowboys and Philadelphia Eagles have both expressed interest in trading do Johnson. You'll remember that do Johnson is part of the draft class from two thousand fifteen that was the year that everybody thought the Cowboys would wanna draft on air to DeMarco Murray who had just left ironically to those same Philidelphia eagles. They passed onto Johnson Coleman, David Johnson. Dula Tevin Coleman that I say. So it would be interesting. If he ended up on the Cowboys one way or another now last year Duke did sign a three year contract extension with the Cleveland Browns that begins this year as you get them on a three year contract passed his rookie deal is he on the books for big money, not necessarily. But there is a line of thought that you're going to get that guy and that guy being this prototype. If you're going to get that archetype why not just draft. Why not just draft? That guy yourself get a younger version get a gone a rookie contract that we don't have to pay more money. I mean, it's. You know, there's there's arguments who made one way or another perhaps that guy is going to be as good as do Johnson. He's going to be better. Maybe it's going to be worse. That's the difficult task with the NFL draft. So let's take your thoughts on Twitter. Periscope in the blog on the boys. Facebook live feed. Yes, or no. Do you want the Dallas Cowboys to trade for Duke Johnson? We ran a poll blog on the boys dot com at the time of this show. The poll was fifty one percent. Yes. So it is very very close. John Henry Facebook live feed says excellent bag Representative a fifth round. And for do Johnson. The Cowboys for what it's worth only have six draft selections here in a few months because they traded away their first round draft pick Amari Cooper, you trade went away to get do Johnson. While you do get a good player. You suddenly only have five draft picks to address a lot of needs. There was a comment a second ago on periscope apologies. If it was you. I mean, my not have Dupleix slot receiver. Why not haven't do that all the time? You know because the Cowboys kind of are in the market for slot receiver. We don't know what's going to happen with Colby's lead. It was reported by the Fort Worth Star-Telegram that he is seeking twenty million dollars guaranteed in whatever his new contract will be whoever that will be with maybe the Dallas Cowboys maybe somebody else, but if Kobe's Lee is gone to Dallas Cowboys are going to be up a creek without a slot receiver. So maybe that's the role that John central's?.
"dula" Discussed on Who? Weekly
"But she she was not nominated for best new artist. Which is surprising because she did have like a best new artist year, which was like everyone knew about her kind of. But then she released an album, you know. And there were two of her fellow Kozovo sisters, not actual sisters like, you know. Albanian sisters avian private. Yes. Yes. Dula and BB were both nominated Joe's great. Yeah. And so away rough weekend. So she didn't even get rewarded for that. And think. I know BB had a rough weekend. I haven't seen. I put it in here. Because I you put your like, here's the video of BB Wreksa freaking out. And then I clicked it to see it, and it was already deleted. No. It's further down it was deleted. And the only version I could find was dubbed in Portuguese. So basically the mean like when it's like too far gone from running a yelling at the audience, and then it, but it was in Portuguese. And I was like, oh, wow. Like, I really miss this one. So what happened? Do we was at a pre Grammys of that? I think for Spotify and people weren't singing along to her song, which which is wild not even her song. It's meant to be and Georgia line song. And so she was singing meant to be. She noticed everyone in the audience like or a lot of people in the audience, we're not singing along and she scolded them. And she said, quote, this song was number one for fifty fucking weeks. You know, what I worked too fucking hard for this bullshit. Girl. Oh head. That's meet karaoke. Right. I mean, I just to get mad about this specific song which was like in earworm played only Dwayne reads, like I am that is just a crazy thing to tie to have pride yen, Tom. How yet I mean, we love that's on me and Tom Hanks, but I would just say like it's just crazy that she got mad over this specific artistic contribution that she's made, you know. I mean, it's clearly there's so much more to the story because clearly reads this reads has just like she had a really bad day, for reasons, we don't even know, and it was like, you know, people not send you along to my song is the straw. That broke the camel's back. It's a straw that broke beebees back the straw that broke camp the camels BB stop. Did you see the camels BB the straw? That broke the camel's BB BB had a rough has had a rough week in terms of for Grammy. She's fine. I mean, but she was like the dress thing where they went, you know, she was like I'm too big to fit me for address. Everyone's like your size, eight stop, please. And she. Not. And then this and then the Grammy's she lost. She did were a beautiful. She did wear a beautiful dress to the Grammys. Did you see were a beautiful dress the red thing? Yeah. It was beautiful the red thing you'll issue. What address my fast? I mean, those support that I got from Jeremy Scott ski knowing Michael gazelle Cristiano August getting just car Lagerfeld's. Yeah. I was like. And then she was you know, she kept showing in the audience that was fun for her. The the person who posted the photo who post the video you put in that were like, here's the video of BB scolding the audience that is no longer there. The video has deleted, but the original posters reply to the video is still there. And she says everyone quoting this asking who she is. I eighty K I thought she was the woman who sold me stamps last week when you type in BB Rexon YouTube the first results are be Wreksa blank..
"dula" Discussed on Power 105.1 FM
"Her bussing through a door chicken down a police back and trying to get away while she's trying to push your baby out. You know what I'm saying? That's impossible. I would love to see the superwoman that can do that xactly that will be a complete unicorn it does not exist, and there's so much. There's so many hormones that starts operate when you give birth that needs to take place that is so helpful to watch this baby traumatized just woman from this baseball, which she will always be traumatized about birth. I get so many clients who are traumatized and this time it was the police that interferes, but I get a lot of clients what traumatized by their hospital birds, and I have to work with them on building confidence. And let them know that I'm going to have their back, and that's your safe. It's how we really need to get up. Wake up and start standing by women who was no reasonable have speed to be shackled her hands to be shackled right now, don't even seem ethical. Get up and run out. I mean, it sounds crazy. As yet. She's already said that she's thinking about how is she going to explain this to her child at some point. And you know, what's crazy where would a women police officers like you had to be at least in women police officers who would have some empathy Dr allowed? It didn't want. Yeah. Thank you. That's all I'm just here. So anybody who's listening and women together? Try to make these changes stand up for your birth. Like just one Dula a couple of bullets. So we everybody to stick together to change something. I would thank you so much for calling in with that. Thank you..
"dula" Discussed on Collider Movie Talk
"Can watch it wherever you. Want? You can go round we've worked with them which mos- in the past two. Great people great company brought us donuts one day. And so we wanted to talk about some of our movie I in honor their first birthday, and I'll kick off with the incredible. That was the first date movie that I went to out here in Los Angeles movie came out went two thousand when was it four. And it was it was two thousand four and it was around thanksgiving and my date wanted to go because she wanted to go see the incredible shuttles like a cute movie, and I wanted to go see it because it had the episode three revenge of the trailer attached to it and back, then he can really go online to see movie jersey again now so you had to go. So we went Thursday, I showing and enjoyed the incredible another one of my movie, I and all these movies that we're talking about available right now on movies anywhere is the water. Boy, that was the first movie that I saw in college a bunch of us get to know everybody in college and want to know, what everybody's sense of humor is if you get a bunch of college dudes around they're probably gonna love and Adam Sandler movies, especially one back in the day. Like the water boy, Bobby Boucher, Kathy. Bates in there. A lot of great candidate Henry Winkler is the befuddled coach the water. Boy, I haven't seen it in a long time, and you can catch movies. Anyway, I'm not sure if it still holds up, but that movie really crushed us college freshman when it first came out. Oh, it holds Bama Dula oblong goddess into that resonate for you in the classroom trying to learn about that. So those are some of my movie, I I want to go down to my partner in crime, Jeff Snyder here the first movie that you ever reviewed. Oh, it was the matrix revolutions. That's how I got my start writing for and cool news. My friend was the DJ for the NYU radio station, and she would get all these invites to these super early like fromm screenings and stuff. She's like, I don't want to see this. So she gave it to me. I saw it super early felt like I had something of value. So I reach out to Harry Knowles. It ain't cool. And I said, hey, I've seen the matrix sequel. I wrote up a spy report. And that's always sort of got started on this path. I feel like I was doing all the wrong things at the NYU radio station, you work there too. I did I used to guys too on and do news briefs at the touchy know Genucel, Gino Walton, I don't think she is when I own my whole career to I wanna hear one of these pair number off news briefs they would give honestly if you gave me a little time. I could probably on my like big crazy external hard drive because I'm afraid of losing anything that's buried a million times over if I go on that I guarantee you I could find a scrap a secret. So that hard. We're basically a whole bunch of super boring NYU and even high school assignments, I still have bad. If you do we guards it he does. It is also happens to be a cat that only Perry can hear kind of like pick later on the show. Let's get a little bit further because this is getting very interesting now into the background of the panelists here just night or the first movie the you saw in theatres. Well, oh like like ever first movie. I ever saw theaters was actually an American tail the member the animated movie idol, right? Leslie, I must have been two years old. I have the faintest memories. But they're in there. I remember American file will goes west. I remember thinking it was funny the beginning because they have the one kid rat kit or mouse, go with whatever the bible family is sing because she's so bad at singing that everybody throws fruits and vegetables at the house. And that's how they eat. How old like I? So I was two years old when that movie came out like when do you start taking kids to the movies, these as I don't know?.
"dula" Discussed on Around the NFL
"There's no reason he should be on the field with this jets team unless he's one hundred percent problem is it doesn't sound like one weeks gonna make him completely. Then they're fine. They have Josh mccown. I mean, if I don't know what the goal is with the jets right now. But you don't need to push Donald onto the US limping around at the end of that game. He also I think owned up to his play on Monday didn't make any excuses. No one even really knew he was that injured. But it sounds like a significant foot sprain. He said he was playing stupid football. Everyone needs to know I need to play better. So I think some time off could help and they have a better chance to win with Josh mccown, which I think it hasn't been talked about a lot. But now here we're at midseason, and I feel like that's safe to say that the jets would be a better team this year or have a better chance to win and a weekly basis with mccown plane when you agree don't you think they have a better chance to beat the. Bills now. Yeah, you could say that. But that's more than getting back to that Parcells progress stopper thing. I would never wanna play him. I'm not questioning decision. They had another winter to maybe maybe maybe a mental break isn't the worst thing. Especially the way this offense of lines plane the center with a snaps last week was a bit of a joke. He Darnall got hit quite a bit in that game in the receivers aren't playing well that ground attack isn't consistent better to have a veteran in there for two weeks while gets sorted out. And he's playing for a staff that's not going to be there. Right. It's become an awkward situation staff. That's done nothing to help them. Let's move on talk about the Detroit Lions and make a change in their backfield mihrab Dula who speaking of the jets and Todd Bowles I remember once upon a time about three or four years ago after a preseason game Todd Bowles made a Barry Sanders comparison to Amir up Dula, and we waited and we waited in the lines wait, and wait, and it just never happened. And he's barely been on the field this year. So the lines violent decide to make a move. They cut ties with the former. Second round pick fifty fourth overall. He went they Bill the slot with Bruce with Zach Senator who was the old AA Z swab, by the way, Mark. I mean, whenever you can pull off a deal of that nature. You must exactly end all in other lines news Bruce Ellington signed by the team. So he gives them a little bit more depth with golden Tate out the door. I Amir outdoor one other memory is that the cardinals were going to draft him and settled for David Johnson. Instead when the lions picked up dole ahead of them. But he's developed the biggest fumbling problem in the league. I think and that was the knock on him coming into the league that his small hands led to fumbling. And you think about the teams that need running backs. The patriots jump out. I can't imagine Bill Belichick going for a fumble. Yeah. I mean emir of deal is one of those guys that has been mentioned in incredible amount of times on this podcast with a total lack. Of production. Has the same amount of rushing yard category. To be since he was drafted as buck Allen. Who was was that year's draft and Terrance west like, that's he just hasn't. Yeah. He's shown potential, but he hasn't..
"dula" Discussed on Reality TV RHAP-ups: Reality TV Podcasts
"He's a man, gigantic man, but like logic, bear. That's just like that feeling in the event that you probably wouldn't even find out about this. But if he did, he'd be like Dula Dula going. going over especially because Haley. What would you do that? Like like Haley should with day? It's fine. I'm gonna. I'm gonna be exposing the rest of you anyway. So just wait for the wait for the speech. If the speech don't need to. Great, great stuff there. JC nj. See they. He's JC tells the Tyler Angela that Vesey thinks he has jaycees vote. He thinks he has SAM's vote, and that makes them a little bit excited, maybe does have sense that would be great. We want that to happen if Sam votes for festive stay, that would be ideal, but there there's hopeful at this point. Right? I I mean, the achy really a good thing for them. If Sam votes out Fethi because four facets day votes halio, right? Those processes because I mean it is Sam, is that mean that she comes back into the next week? Like kind of upset that the rest of the or at least he will actually thought would be putting him out, didn't vote him out and then Haley looks is coming after her because you know. I don't know. Like that's a little little like basically what they're trying to do is get get Sam to vote halio without misleading her, like basically saying, feel free to vote your conscience. You know, we're all going to vote the way we feel, but you know, if you want, you can vote, however you want, we don't. We don't need your vote this week. So we're like, you don't feel obligated to vote the way that we're voting. Feel free to vote. However you want, you can make whatever moral stand you wanna make Sam. And then hope that that she goes ahead and does that. I mean, I guess that that you know, you gotta have people like, especially, you have to sorta just coddle them play to their strengths. And if she feels like she has to make a statement with her vote every ripping week and let her do it. So I guess I guess that that that unpredictability with them always just our in house just like. The only way to really handle it just be like, hey. So I know that you kind of have a feeling about addiction votes just do what you need to do. I'm okay. I'll be over here. I'll see you only the day. So. The right. So. Men we're really could be a very short update is the last congress. JC and Tyler. It's the most important conversation of the day to be fair. JC talks to Tyler. Again. JC is coming back to the conversation. They had the day before. C. says, we need to separate Angela and Casey we. We need this to happen. Tyler again says, no, it's too early. We can't do this. It's not a good idea and Jason's like, well. What if he wins h Haley wins the wage? And then then we let her go after Angela and say, she puts up Angeline Sam or whatever..
"dula" Discussed on The Upgrade by Lifehacker
"Formalized training programs through different organizations but dula is non medical support person and they you know to be a deal you have have hours of training and you have to have attended births but the role of dula is simply support and they can do things like massage your back you know and you know give you some aromatherapy writer things like that you know someone to lean on physically but also someone who will help advocate for you in hell situation and that's what i had hired my husband and i hired dulas to we went over very specifically what our desires were in the things that were important to us and i kind of thought of them as people who held us accountable to ourselves into the things that we wanted and dula is not they're not doing things like helping with an iv they're not doing anything medical they're for emotional physical support and to help you and be there and they shouldn't shouldn't be driving any anyone's agenda extra own are they able to advocate for you to the to the doctor the nurse on staff they should be you know i think it's interesting because in certain pockets of communities in the book i compared dulas to farmers markets which is you know a lot of people talk about them and we have this kind of general understanding but who really it's still a small it's only it's only six percent of birds attended by dulas even though that number is increasing so i mean what you should have is like they should be on like you should introduce them to the staff that is attending your birth and they should be treated with the same amount of respect where there they should be i mean it's it's up to you but i mean basically mindelo was authorized to speak on my behalf you know i knew from the very beginning she had spent a lot of time with me and my husband listening to me and discussing the things that were important to me i knew that she could speak on my bashar sure and you might be in the right frame of mind some other things going on freaked out you know it sounds like a good thing to have i mean.
"dula" Discussed on Le journal de 7h00
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"dula" Discussed on 1A
"Role in the process and that's the thing that's really wonderful about dulas and midwives obgyn's is that it's an opportunity for the individual to be supported in the way that they need and to get the care that they deserve during the process there's lots of evidence and the american college of obgyn's put out a statement that said that you know having a support person like a dula or a birth sister improves outcomes for our patient so it decreases c section numbers it it decreases the need for epa dural the outcomes are better because you have a community of people that are supporting you and that's what the dula provides it's part of your community in that moment and has added benefit of having someone who is familiar with the healthcare system which is complex to navigate even for me i had my son a number of years ago i had high blood pressure during my pregnancy and as someone who is a participant in the the medical system it's even hard to navigate for me to have someone who sole focus is to help ease that burden on the patient is a huge benefit professor ho you were mentioning the intergenerational effects of racism on birth outcomes how much does this kind of advocacy dulas birth sisters or or other such advocates help with that are there ways like that society socially to break this cycle absolutely as an epidemiologist i like to think about the triangle of causation an agent a host in environment the agent in this case is institutionalized racism and interpersonal racism the environment is this country which actually has fostered that much more than other countries and the way to reduce that of course is not necessarily the.
"dula" Discussed on Slate's Double X Gabfest
"Tony watt started her birthmark dula collective because she was she's a nurse a labor and delivery nurse but she was so frustrated by what was going on the cheap preferred to be a dula so that she could help become the bridge between sort of our highly technical medical industrial complex and real people and real people were coming in ill scared you know afraid to talk back being treated badly and so she you know her collective works with women of means they pay full freight and then they pay for you know that covers the women that they work with for no cost and someone like simone land drum the woman of the main i'm using quotes character in the story who had been through every terrible thing in her life including the death of a baby and her near death in childbirth needed someone there to help her understand everything that was going on to be her advocate and actually to be her friend to drive her home from the hospital to have food ready for her when she got home sometimes to take care of her other children and so i see dulas as i mean angels the you know the good ones they work so hard they don't make a lot of money it is not very organized you know they're in collectives but why aren't they why isn't this something that we value higher lehtonen g what made six hundred dollars and believe me she is still right there with that mom because maternal mortality the actual definition is anyone who dies a year after the birth of your baby so you know she i think she feels really responsible for this woman and but you know the best of the dulas really really put their all into it and i was so impressed with the work she did and i've met a lot of dulas now and i think it's just really what is necessary right now.
"dula" Discussed on KFI AM 640
"And miracles and in the first doctorate ever mentioned any value to dreams at all kathleen book he wrote the four which i'm really honored about that it's coming full circle for me and so he mentioned the dreams could be valuable and i look back through my dream diary and i find the screen i had the only time i saw my dad that whole like six months period and i thought okay my name i'm a junior so same name as my dad tumors on the same side and the and the kidneys a little bit structured like the brain the cortex dula and so i figured i must've pick something up and translated into the dream and that was my first experience of anything you know diagnostic about a dream fascinated by that i was pretty amazing and at that time also guide in my dad threw a whole bunch of alternative therapies his cancer was like my initiation into the holistic realm we did meditation macrobiotic diet all acupuncture all kinds of new things for me and then fast forward nineteen ninety eight i am at duke university amount of fisher professor of radiology and we're just founding the duke integrated medicine center we had our first mindfulness meditation retreat with john tabs in and and just before the retreat i had a dream about having cancer but i had lung cancer i didn't smoke and i thought that was pretty far fetched any symptoms i remember my dentist said you know maybe this isn't about me maybe it's about somebody else i go to the retreat and a friend of mine who's lover integrated medicine colleague runs up and says hey i want you need someone he's just like you and i thought what does that mean and she he's a radiologist just like i am going to visit the guy and i said have even one radiologist at a meditation retreat when that we have to what are you doing here he says i'm here because i i have lung cancer and i got chills like that was a guy in my dream you know that was the dream and i thought okay the next morning i just went in and took a chest x ray myself anyway and it was normal so that's sort of set me up and this whole dreamworld experience and then a year later one of my colleagues came in and started telling me these wild stories about how.
"dula" Discussed on KTLK 1130 AM
"Both you and kathleen book he wrote the four which i'm really honored about that it's coming full circle for me and so he mentioned the dreams could be valuable and i and i look back through my dream diary and i find this dream i had the only time i saw my dad that whole like six months period and i thought okay my name i'm a junior so i say name is my dad tumors on the same side and the and the kidneys a little bit well structured like the brain the cortex emma dula and so i figured i must have somehow pick something up and translated into the dream and that was my first experience of anything you know diagnostic about a dream fascinated by that i was pretty amazing and at that time i also guided my dad threw a whole bunch of alternative therapies he his cancer was like my initiation into the holistic realm we did meditation macrobiotic diet all all kinds acupuncture all kinds of new things for me and then fast forward nineteen ninety eight i am at duke university i'm mount associate professor of radiology and we're just founding the duke integrative medicine center we had our first mindfulness meditation retreat with john cabot zinn and and just before the retreat i'd had a dream about having lung cancer but i had lung cancer i didn't smoke and i thought that was pretty far fetched any symptoms i remember the dream about my dad and i said you know maybe this isn't about me maybe thought somebody else i go to the retreat and a friend of mine who's lover integrated medicine colleague runs up and says hey larry i want you to meet someone he's just like you and i thought what does that mean and she's oh he's a radiologist just like you and i this the guy and i said it's unusual to have even one radiologist at a meditation retreat when that we have to what are you doing here he says i'm here because i i have lung cancer and i got chills like that was a guy in my dreams you know that was the dream and i thought okay the next morning i.