35 Burst results for "Duff"

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

01:41 min | 4 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"But yeah, the bystander effect absolutely plays out in the workplace. And that's tough because things get really ingrained, becomes a culture almost. And then it takes somebody being brave to do something about that. But once that ball gets rolling, often you're able to actually make some significant change. Hey everybody, before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. And some of those could be sensitive for you. I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave and consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely. But feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need to skip, that's okay. But, you know, feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right, hello, friends of all varieties. This is the hardcore self help podcast episode one 96. I'm your host doctor Robert Duff, AKA dove this psych. I make mental health content for real people, just like you. And today I have a question and answer episode to really interesting questions from listeners like yourself. If you want to send me a question, please shoot me an email to Duff the psych at Gmail dot com or.

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

05:38 min | 5 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"Limited resources at the time to other people, especially during a time when you were emotionally vulnerable. And you were in a way supporting his ambitions. That's just pretty fucking disrespectful, right? Hey everybody, before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. And some of those could be sensitive for you. I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave and consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely. But feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need to skip, that's okay. But, you know, feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist, and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right, hello, friends of all varieties. This is a hardcore self help podcast episode two 95. I'm your host, doctor Robert Duff, AKA deaf the psych and make a mental health content for real people, just like you. Today I have a question and answer episode with two really good questions. First one involves a little bit of trauma talk. Sexual abuse, I believe, yes..

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How Do We Keep U.S. Forces Effective? Jessie Jane Duff Explains

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

02:20 min | 5 months ago

How Do We Keep U.S. Forces Effective? Jessie Jane Duff Explains

How Does One Train for War? Jessie Jane Duff and Sebastian Discuss

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

01:54 min | 5 months ago

How Does One Train for War? Jessie Jane Duff and Sebastian Discuss

"I don't want to have some kind of war is awful, isn't it so sad? Because yeah, it has been since the first caveman picked up a rock and used it against his fellow caveman. But I just want people to understand. First, the message of those young men who look so incredibly young, Jesse Jane and also that statement from that 18 year old death is not an option. Will you talk to us as somebody who's worn the cloth of the republic? This isn't just a news story. It stands out to me as they only had three days training and as a United States Marine and go through recruit training for 30 months. God willing you don't get recycled and how to stay longer. You have to learn how to deal with intense duress, intense stress. And you basically train your body to respond to it in a logical way without panic without collapsing. I don't know how anybody can go into the front lines or combat without some form of training. But I absolutely admire these young men for being able to say, if not me, then who. And if it's not going to be us to defend the Ukraine, obviously we can't count on the NATO, United States, despite the promise that the United States and Britain made two the Ukraine to give up their nuclear weapons, what was that in 1998 or 94 under president Clinton, the promise that we would defend them, what the heck you know? I'm not suggesting that we would have American troops down there. I don't want to promote that, but I just feel like we're inevitably heading down that path because we've been so weak in our response initially. We didn't come back out forcefully. We didn't put the swift banking in immediately. We didn't cut off the oil immediately. And we've got NATO alliances that are still dependent upon Russian oil, and they're fiddle farting around trying to decide, well, we need this oil more than we need them to be alive. It's just a debacle on so many levels.

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

04:40 min | 6 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"You don't have to be perfect or address this perfectly. You don't have to figure out the exact best way to say things and plan out the entire interaction beforehand. Hey everybody, before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. And some of those could be sensitive for you. I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave and consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely. But feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need to skip, that's okay. But, you know, feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right, hello, friends of all varieties. This is the hardcore self help podcast episode two 91. I'm your host doctor Robert Duff, AKA dove the psych. I make mental health content for real people, just like you. Does it have.

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

03:32 min | 6 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"Rather than recognizing that the thought is intrusive that it's unwelcome and it's not in character for you. And then allowing that to pass, you sometimes feel this desperate need to make it go away through your efforts. It doesn't have to go away. There is no correlation between how big and scary your intrusive thoughts are and the likelihood of coming true. Hey everybody, before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. And some of those could be sensitive for you. I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave in consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely. But feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need to skip, that's okay, but feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist, and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right, hello, friends of all varieties. This is the hardcore self help podcast episode two 90. I'm your host doctor Robert Duff, AKA doth the psyche and make mental health content for real people, just like you. And today we have a good question and answer episode for you. The two questions are like sort of thematically linked sort of having to do with rumination, obsession, things like that. Nothing too graphic in here at all. But yeah, good stuff. So if you want to send in a question to be considered for the show, shoot me an email to duck the psych at Gmail dot com. That's the best way to get me questions. And I will consider it for the show..

Robert Duff
"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

05:12 min | 7 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"So I have stuff in progress, but yeah, if you're out there and you've consumed really any of my content, but especially the writing, thank you. I really appreciate it. It's fundamentally changed the course of my life in terms of my career and things like that. And it allows me to have more flexibility to do things like the podcast to take my kids to school every day, things like that. So I really, really appreciate you. Wow, that turned out to be a little bit deeper than I anticipated. Let's go ahead and get into the questions. So here's the first one. Okay, so first question reads, dear doctor Duff, I have a somewhat specific question. I'm in therapy for childhood trauma no one but the abuser knows about. Years of physical and verbal abuse. Me and my therapist discovered have a strong need to create reminders for myself that my trauma really happened. I do this with self harm and can not let it go. I have an irrational and somewhat intrusive thought in fear is saying that if I stop self harming, I'm admitting the trauma never happened. I can go several weeks without harming myself, but eventually the voice in my head starts nagging me. My therapist says I'm putting up a memorial for everyone to see since no one in my life knows about the trauma. Also, I turned out, okay, I'm quite successful, and that's great, of course, but it's not helpful with this need for reminders. There's nothing about my life that would imply anything bad ever happened to me. Have you ever heard of anything like this? What would you recommend? My therapist admitted she's never encountered anything like it, but we'll do some research to see how we can approach this. Thank you and have a nice weekend. So yeah, really good question. Thank you for this. It's a very interesting question. And as always, with questions related to trauma, especially childhood stuff, thank you for trusting me with it..

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Robert Wilkie on Biden's Latest Ukraine Blunder

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

01:27 min | 7 months ago

Robert Wilkie on Biden's Latest Ukraine Blunder

"As secretary Robert wilkie. Welcome back to America first. So we as usual, we could talk for hours. Let's just have your reaction to what the incumbents said about a Russia and a Ukraine play cut. Better. And so I think what you're going to see is that Russia will be held accountable. If it invades, and it depends on what it does. It's one thing if it's a minor incursion and then we end up having to fight about what to do and not do it. The president of the Ukraine has been making public statements. He says there is no such thing as a minor incursion. Is he overreacting how much of a blander could this be? Well, it is on par for this president. It's on par for 50 years of being wrong about every major national security issue facing us. And I thought about just how wrong it was this morning when this administration refuses to supply the Ukrainians with weapons that can make colonel Putin's decision a little more difficult. And now they've bullied Estonia Latvian Lithuania into sending missiles to Ukraine. So now these three lilliputian NATO members should be doing the job of protecting you. Absolutely. Absolutely. And that's what this has come

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Jessie Jane Duff on the Midterms and Biden's Afghanistan Disaster

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

01:10 min | 7 months ago

Jessie Jane Duff on the Midterms and Biden's Afghanistan Disaster

A Look Back at Biden's Disastrous First Year With Jessie Jane Duff

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

02:03 min | 7 months ago

A Look Back at Biden's Disastrous First Year With Jessie Jane Duff

"Can follow her right now Jesse Jane Duff if it's got 230,000 followers. You've got the right one, not only the gunnery sergeant. She is the former coach F of veterans for Trump and a colleague of mine on newsmax. Great to have you back. I'm so excited to be back. I love being in studio with you. So whenever I come into town, I'm pinging your team and I'm like, I'm here, I'm here. We are delighted the energy's always better when you're physically in studio, especially in this age of zoom and Skype. Enough of that, just because of the China virus, we gotta talk military got to talk about the minor incursion invitation that Biden gave to Russia and to Putin. But first, let's just let's just talk about the big picture. I did a kind of spontaneous monologue to open this show about the last 12 months of the Biden regime. Give us your take. Let's get your balance sheet of the year of what was that movie the year of living dangerously? This is the year of living with senility. Highest inflation rate in 40 years. That kind of sums up a good stop. Good stuff. For highest inflation rate in 40 years, you had to work hard to get here. You had to really work hard and to do that in less than a year and less than a year stunning. You managed to make us have the highest inflation rate in 40 years. And last night on newsmax, we were talking with Monica Crowley. Absolutely, and she was talking about how difficult it is to reverse that once that starts. It can take a very long time to strategically get things in place so that your economy can sustain itself. So let's go across this Joe Biden brags about increasing wages by 4%, but inflation is at 7%. So essentially, this has become a tax on the middle class and the poor. That is the taxes that he doesn't want to talk about because your cost of living has increased. So that sums up your lack of energy independence. He, which is going to go into our next topic of Russia, he has now enabled the United States to have to be dependent upon foreign oil, which we were energy

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

05:36 min | 7 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"There's absolutely no shame in using medication, long-term or short term. And I think that your partner should take that even as a compliment that they are important enough for you to go on medication to facilitate your sexual relationship. That's pretty awesome. That's like a big leap, and it's not convenient for you. And you're willing to do that. So I think that's cool. Hey everybody, before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general. And some of those could be sensitive for you. I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave and consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely, but feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need to skip, that's okay, but feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist, and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right, hello Friends of all varieties. This is a hardcore self help podcast, episode two 86. I'm your instructor Robert Duff, AKA Duff the psych and make mental health content for real people, just like you..

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

05:23 min | 7 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"But definitely I have had some anxious tendencies. Like if I think back as a kid, I mean in high school, I used to throw up before every single school dance. I was so nervous about that sort of thing. Hey, everybody. Before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general, and some of those could be sensitive for you. I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave and consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely, but feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need to skip, that's okay, but feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist, and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right, hello Friends of all varieties. This is the hardcore self help podcast episode two 84. I'm your host doctor Robert Duff, AKA Duff the psych, I make mental health content for real people, just like you. And today I have a not question and answer episode. I'm doing a kind of more informal off the cuff episode. And we're going to focus on predictably the new year and in particular I want to talk about just sort of my approach to new year's in general and also how I'm looking to approach this coming year for myself. So this will be more of a personal episode sharing what's working for me, what my hopes for the year are things like that. If that's interesting to you, stick around. I know you guys tend to respond well to these types of episodes, but if it's not your bag, no problem. I'll see you for the next episode. But I hope you guys are doing well. We are back now from the holiday if you celebrate any holidays. Even if you don't celebrate any holidays, I hope you've had a little bit of time off of work or school or something like that and you've been able to spend time with those that you love over here it was a very quiet holiday that we celebrate Christmas. We're not Christian, but that's just sort of what we've always celebrated..

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

04:44 min | 8 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"Unfortunately, one of the things that happens when we don't have clear answers in a situation like this is that not only does our brain start to make assumptions, but it uses the situation as a platform to fuel our own confirmation bias. Hey everybody, before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general, and some of those could be sensitive for you. I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave and consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely, but feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need to skip, that's okay, but feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist, and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right, hello, friends of all varieties. This is the hardcore self help podcast, episode two 82. I'm your host doctor Robert Duff, AKA does the psych and make mental health content for real people, just like you. I have a question and answer episode for you today to really good questions from listeners like yourself. If you want to send in a question, please do send it to me via email to duck the psych at Gmail dot com. And that's where I look for questions. Don't worry if you feel like your question maybe isn't appropriate for the show or something like that. Ask any and all questions and I'll figure that part out. I like a variety of questions. It doesn't have to be the same as other questions that you've heard or anything like that. If you are interested though in looking into whether I've covered a topic or not, head over to my website, so Duff the psych dot com and you.

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

04:19 min | 9 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"After I finished the session, I will take a few moments just to have a few deep breaths, slow down, and consider what I did well. So what I did well as a psychologist, one of my proud of myself for in relation to the session I just had how I handled myself how I handled the situation. These little things have an effect similar to tracking gratitude. It's just a subtle shift. It's taking your attention and biasing it towards something that works well for you. Hey everybody, before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general and some of those could be sensitive for you. I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave and consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely, but feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need a skip, that's okay, but feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist, and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right, hello Friends of all varieties. This is the hardcore self help podcast, episode two 81. I'm your host doctor Robert Duff. AKA Duff the psych. I make mental health content for real people, just like you. Today I have a question and answer episode. Two really good questions. Nothing significant in the depictions of trauma realm or anything like that. One involves some trauma topics, but nothing explicit. But yeah, really good question. So I'm excited to get into these. If you have a question, please send it to me by emailing me. Depth I get Gmail dot com. You know, a few sentences to a paragraph or so is good, try not to write me a whole novel..

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

04:19 min | 9 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"With that, though, I don't think there's anything else I need to ramble at you about. Let's go ahead and get into the first question. Okay, so first question reads, dear doctor Duff, I struggle. I never feel worthy. I'm intimidated by most every situation because I don't believe I deserve anything. Example, I'm currently experiencing issues with my heart and blood pressure. I can't bring myself to get treatment. I am overweight and have not paid attention to my health, so I'm pretty much just reaping what I've sown. How can I turn around and ask for help? Not to mention that I feel like I will be ridiculed for having let myself get to this point. It's overwhelming and the anxiety makes it all the more difficult to do anything. I need help. Okay, so thank you very much for writing in. I feel free so much hearing about the position that you're in. I think it's really, really common for people to feel overwhelmed by the enormity of issues. Especially when they built up for a while over time. There's this really interesting phenomenon that happens in many different ways for people. But you know, when something that goes unaddressed, becomes harder and harder, it sort of crosses a threshold where it becomes harder to address simply because it's unaddressed. It's hard to explain, but if you've been there, you know what I'm talking about or something kind of becomes a thing in and of itself. You know, the difficulty, it was hard to start with, but the fact that it's not addressed now it's just the fact that it's not addressed that you are having a hard time dealing with and it becomes a whole ball of wax. That's really hard to get into. It's kind of like if you have like a piece of mail that you procrastinated opening and now because you've put it off, it becomes scarier and harder to open it, and then all that procrastination turns a small issue into something that's legitimately big. And now it feels insurmountable because there are actual stakes here and you're probably going to find bad news when you actually get to it because it was procrastinated in all this. So I think that that sort of overwhelmed that sort of buildup is definitely probably a piece of the puzzle here, along with the self concept issues that you mentioned about feeling like you don't deserve anything. An interestingly they can go hand in hand..

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

05:44 min | 9 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"All right, back to the show. All right, so on to question two, it reads hi doctor Duff. See they get it. I'm sorry, I'm being such an ass. I promise you, I truly don't care. Call me Robert, call me dev call me Duffy. Call me mister Duff call me signor. I don't care anything is fine. Anyway, hi, doctor Duff. I'm almost 21 years old, and I want nothing more than my life to end. I'm miserable in school, miserable in my living situations, horrible at making and maintaining friendships, and most relevant to you, not making any progress in therapy. I've been in therapy on and off since I was 14 years old. And in that time, I feel as if I've made virtually no progress in improving my mental health. I saw the same problems in negative thinking patterns I did when I was a teenager. And at this point breaking out of them feels impossible. Every week I go to therapy and it feels as if me and my therapist cover the same subjects. But by the end of the session, nothing has changed. I'm also terrible at doing work outside of therapy when I'm feeling this miserable the last thing I want to do is put in genuine effort into something that will make myself feel better. My question to you is how do I make progress? How do I start actually utilizing my therapy sessions to improve my mental state and overall well-being? If change doesn't start happening soon, I'm fearful that I won't be alive for much longer. Well, thank you for writing in. First off, I'm really glad that you're still here. I don't take the fact that you feel this way and also still decided to write into the show lightly. I greatly appreciate it. And I think it's clear that you want to live or at least you want to want to live. But right now you've been having such a hard time that it's difficult for you to see how this will work out. But there's still part of you that sees a possibility of making it. Otherwise you wouldn't have written in. That would be a foregone conclusion. There'd be no point to getting, you know, my thoughts on it because you would already be on the way to being gone..

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

04:54 min | 10 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"There are different types of it which we'll talk about. But I think that if I could probably make a list of top 5 skills that are useful in terms of your mental health, meditation very well may be in that in that top 5 along with journaling and, you know, some other things like that. So it's a really important skill. And it's one that I find gives a lot of people trouble. If you're in the camp of falling out of a meditation practice, not really getting into one in the first place because it's difficult for you or you don't know what to do or you feel like you have a hard time clearing your mind, any of the common objections, just know that you're not alone. It's very common for people to not understand it or have a hard time with it. So hopefully these tips can kind of get you going. I hope that you guys are doing well. I will be back to the question and answer format next week. I believe, unless something else strikes my fancy and comes up. So if you want to shoot me a question, please do. Send it to Duff the psych at Gmail dot com. And as I've said before, you know, I don't tend to check social media messages and things like that for questions. So if you want me to potentially get to your question on the show, please send it in an email. I don't typically respond when you send those emails. I just label them put them into a folder and pull them out when it's time to create an episode. And yeah, like I said, I hope you guys are doing really well. It's been an interesting week for me. I'm a little tired today. Not prohibitively so. I'm still happy to be here recording with you guys. But I feel in mellow and it's been a up and down week. You know, some really shitty things have happened. Some really great things have happened as well. And it's been very much life. Life is like that. But yeah, so let's just go ahead and get into it. So some tips, some things to think about related to meditation. First off, I want to talk about the purpose of meditation. What is the purpose of meditation? It can serve a lot of different purposes. So you know, of course, the one I'm not really going to talk about too much is the spiritual purpose. But for many people that is important meditation can be an important spiritual practice, whether it is focusing on a particular mantra related to your faith, whether it is channeling the energy of a God or goddess or something like that. If it's reflecting on something that's related to your faith, there's a lot of reason somebody might integrate meditation into their spiritual practice. I don't know what goddamn thing about that. So I'm not getting into detail about that. But, you know, that's absolutely one valid reason to be to be using meditation. Another one would be relaxation. And I kind of separate out relaxation meditation from mindfulness meditation..

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

03:23 min | 10 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"And that's a practice. You're not going to be great at it when you first start. But you will get better at it. So if you lose the visualization and lose touch with it or you lose the focus on your breath or whatever you're watching, that's okay. Just try to work your way back, try to work your way back gently. And if you lose it once and you can't possibly find your way back and then eventually your timers off, you're done meditating. Okay, that's fine. Hey, everybody. Before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general, and some of those could be sensitive for you. I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave and consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely, but feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need a skip, that's okay. But, you know, feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist, and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right, hello, friends of all varieties. This is the hardcore self help podcast, episode two 75. I'm your host doctor Robert Duff, AKA Duff the psych. I make mental health content for.

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Jessie Jane Duff's Hardcore Response to the Concept of Women in Combat

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

02:31 min | 10 months ago

Jessie Jane Duff's Hardcore Response to the Concept of Women in Combat

"And we're back one on one with Jesse Jane Duff. Okay, we discussed it at the beginning of the show. Let's open it up a little bit further. The NDAA, the national defense authorization act the Republicans who are bending over backwards to facilitate the crazies in the Democrat party. Well, not crazy. The crazy Democrat party told us about this idea of the draft for women. And who's behind this insanity and give us your take justice? Well, you know, there is so much disarray with this current administration that I couldn't tell you the logic behind any of it. Other than they have been enabled by our enemies. I mean, I look at this as just watering down the capabilities of our United States military one drip at a time. And people, you know, I get on Twitter and I get these guys. I wanna say, well, you all wanted equality. And I'm like, stop it. Stop it. Don't sit here and argue with someone like me. I wasn't one of those lieutenants that went to go to the courts and protest ensues, so I could become a general one day. The odds of you becoming a general in the infantry are slim to almost zero. Number one, number two, what is your motivation for this? It's not going to impact combat readiness. On one level. So first of all, there was a study done by the United States Marine Corps when Obama had lifted the combat exemption for women. And I believe it was 2015. April 15th, I remember was tax day. And it went without nobody cried. Nobody cried. Civilian women didn't even care. And I'm sorry, civilian ladies, you never care till it impacts you. And the fact is, as they've taken it for granted that their daughters wouldn't get drafted, but I told that many radio shows and TV shows as soon as you put women in ground combat, how are you going to be able to say you can justifiably stop putting it having them in the draft? So here's the thing, the bulk of the women don't want to go in the infantry for a multitude of reasons. We have 45% less muscle mass 20% less won capacity. And I hear women in the army particularly want to get mad at me and say, oh, you're against women's rights. Say, you are not thinking this out. Even if a woman can get through the training, what are her odds of surviving hand to hand combat with the enemy? Because that's what Fallujah was. This is equivalent to putting a woman in a mixed martial arts cage with a man. You can not believe pounds or 80 pounds of equipment. And not only that, the enemy tends to fight on methamphetamines and other drugs. So that right there. Two. Even if you pass the training, your odds are you're going to be at the lower percentile of the men. Unless they've done so many accommodations, they've lowered the standard. You now have

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Gunnery Sergeant Jessie Jane Duff Describes When She Knew She Was Different

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

02:57 min | 10 months ago

Gunnery Sergeant Jessie Jane Duff Describes When She Knew She Was Different

"Welcome back to one on one with Marine Corps guttery sergeant Jesse Jane Duff. All right, so you joined the Marine Corps, Jesse James, you don't have driver's license. I want to give you MOS transport. They're going to be driving stuff. Big rigs. I got to ask you first because I'm just curious. What was your favorite thing to drive of all the rigs? Oh, they probably the Mac that when we at least a Mac truck at my commercial motor pole at camp Pendleton base motor transport. They at least a Mac at one time, and let me tell you there was nothing like it. It's like the Cadillac 20 feet up in the air. But I can tell you two of my favorite experiences. One was when I was driving. It was probably a flat nose white. I don't recall the tractor that I was in. And I was hauling heavy equipment to an Air Force Base outside of riverside, California to get offloaded onto a aircraft. And I have to drive through commercial streets, civilian streets, and I didn't have a concept of how I looked. I didn't realize I was pretty. I really didn't. I wasn't even allowed to date for goodness. Yes. Protective family. Straight into the moon. I mean, I knew I wasn't ugly, but I just did. So what happened? Well, so two things. Well, one. What are you wearing? Are you in common? Yeah, it's always in camouflage. So to experiences, being naive like that was very good for me because I was never arrogant or big headed, and I never thought I could. Manipulate people. No, I was always like, I got to prove myself. I got to work harder. Always. I was always like a maniac. So I'm driving this tractor trailer. Now remember looking at the roads and how the navigate the turn. This is a long trailer. And I look down and there's a civilian lady. She looks up at me. Her eyes pop out of her head. Her jaw drops, and then she gives me the biggest thumbs up, you would ever see. Like, she just thought that was so cool 'cause the side of the truck said the United States Marine Corps. I'm in camouflage. The second experience was offloading heavy equipment and, oh, no, to pick up equipment from an infantry unit in 29 palms. So I get out there, that's the desert. I have to back up into and I'm backing up into the dock to load up their hummers. They're humvees. And I jump out of the truck and the look on their faces was absolute shock. Now I'm a sergeant at this point. Marines are professionals. You hear all these horror stories from I'm sorry. In the Marine Corps, they see your rank, you don't hear a PEEP of disrespect. And I'm out of that truck and they'll look on their faces was seriously. She's gonna hold us out of here. You could just see it. And I said, all right, double dogs. I need to get you to drive up the hummers onto the trailer. And they're waiting for me to ask for help to chain it down. But we don't do that. When you're trained in the motor pool, you're taught how to chain down your gear. And again, I'm not thinking I'm a lady opened the door for me or help me. It was a different mindset. And then they stood there and watched me get the underneath those at the chains and then take the break apart, pull it in and clamp them all down all two or three hummers. And then I said, anybody want to ride back to camp Pendleton and that one of them had the balls to get on that truck. And I roll back to campell, guys, I'll see you there. And then they offloaded. But I would say those stood out to me because that's when I realized I was different.

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Gunnery Sergeant Jessie Jane Duff on America's First Openly Transgender Four-Star Admiral

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

02:37 min | 10 months ago

Gunnery Sergeant Jessie Jane Duff on America's First Openly Transgender Four-Star Admiral

"She's none other than gunnery sergeant, UN United States Marine court Jesse Jane Duff, she worked on the Trump campaign co chair of veterans for Trump and also contributed a fellow colleague of mine on newsmax. Gunny, welcome to one on one. Thank you so much. I love your introductions. I get real big headed. Can't get me out of the studio after that. We will always stick to the truth. You are a gummy always a gunny. We've got to talk about what is happening in the last ten months to our services. As you know, the Marine Corps is especially close to my heart. I've worked with all the armed services but I spent two and a half years in Quantico. The latest breaking news item is we find it. I'm sure the Chinese are most impressed. I'm sure Vladimir Putin is quaking in his boots. We have a transgender admiral. Now thank the good lord, it's not in a real armed service. It's not in the coast guard or the navy. It's in the health corps, but put the footage up. This is what's his name Richard Levine, HHS, who has been made a quote unquote admiral in the health corps by the man who sadly bears the title commander in chief and president sleepy creepy Joe Biden. Jesse Jane, this disturbing turn of events, they're not going to keep this just to the health cor are they. Oh, absolutely not. For example, the national defense authorization act right now in Congress got passed. It has to go up to the Senate still. Got passed, though, that taxpayers would pay for transgender surgery. And vote for military members. Military members. So you could join the military. Now, here's something that a lot of people are not aware. The Trump administration did a year study on this under general Mattis, who was very open minded, maybe a little more so than many of us would have liked. For other issues such as women and ground combat, but getting back on this, general Mattis had this studied conducted and they came to find out that transgenders could join the military, but it would be after they've had the hormone treatment, the surgeries. And they were psychologically fit. So they were actually capable of doing the job. And there would be a 5, I believe it would be 5 years within the time that they are surgery. So that you knew that they had fully adjusted. We know that there are record breaking medical concerns among the transgender community for psychological issues, the what is it? What is it called gender dysphoria things to that effect? And I'm no expert on the topic. And I have no issue with the transgender being in the military, but I have a huge issue with the transgender who is using the military to be non

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

01:50 min | 10 months ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"He said, I just imagine that doesn't feel great for him. You don't know that. Right? You said it in your question. I just imagine. That doesn't feel great for him. Hey, everybody. Before we start the show, I want to make a couple disclaimers. This show does cover a wide variety of topics related to mental health and life in general, and some of those could be sensitive for you. I want to simultaneously encourage you to be brave and consuming difficult content, but also respect and recognize your limitations. So please use your best judgment. I will never be offended if you need to skip a question or an episode entirely. But feel free to feel it out, check out the episode and just see what happens. If you need to skip, that's okay. But you know, feel free to give it a shot first. I also need to say that while I am a psychologist, I'm not your psychologist, and I'm not your therapist. This is not intended to be direct medical advice and you should not use this as a substitute for professional help. So with those said, let's go ahead and get into the show. All right, hello Friends of all varieties. This is the hardcore self help podcast, episode two 74. I'm your host doctor Robert Duff, AKA Duff the psych, I make mental health content for real people, just like you. And fun fact, I had to record that intro over again because the first time I recorded it, I said episode two 47. You'll hear me at the end of this episode realizing that. So I'm gonna splice this into the beginning of the episode and we'll see if it comes off seamlessly. Today I have a question to answer episode to really, really good questions today. As usual, if you want to send me a question, please do so by emailing me. Duff the psych at Gmail dot.

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

02:06 min | 1 year ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"You. Anything else you'd like to say to the people know if anybody ever messages me And i don't respond. I'm sorry i'm really bad at that. But i appreciate. It is what. I'm trying to say. That i if you're trying to like message her in to be a little more overt. I can't understand things so subtext is not thing that she does now. It's not. But i mean i really appreciate everybody. It's been almost seven years since we launched duff the psych guise true. Yeah 'cause i Made you your website in two thousand fourteen so like seven years since we were doing my post pre doc internship and he went to the hospital and all of that stuff No it wasn't before it was after because his after a hard hardcore self. Oh sure. Because i launched it. I gave it to you for your birthday in october. Okay the this is the human human thing i told you this is this is good for and this is why i have such a hard time with my book because there's so many details that africa you gotta give them right on the end so beget has been a long time. And so we've had you know together. You know at least some degree this audience for quite a while so yeah. We both appreciate you if you're listening if you're in your car or your headphones or have you sitting on the counter while you're washing dishes or you're trying to change your kid's diaper. We appreciate you we do. We really do. And i'm sorry if Always seemed like the nicest media. Wait a fuck it up. You're doing solo. Ignore what i just said. Goodbye everyone i love. You don't succumb to the patriarchy. Who wants to end on insider note. You see much better..

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

03:01 min | 1 year ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"Robert at the mental health question. So i'm thirty four married with two small kids job and in a few months. I've a history of self harm due to having very strict and controlling parents in a lot of drama in my teenage years. I self harmed ton. Sorry i self harmed on and off for ten years but stopped. After i managed to distance myself from my primary family after leaving university i never had professional helper therapy but i kind of managed to fix myself a bit if you know what i mean my life now is okay in general obviously stressful occasionally kids doctorate etc but okay. My question is this. I sometimes feel all my resolve passes lurking somewhere in the background. The fact that all these issues were never properly addressed really worries me. Sometimes i tend to crack under pressure. Occasionally when i'm really stressed out and seek ways to harm myself without leaving marks cutting is not an option for me anymore because of kids and husband and i feel the weight of having fewer options harming myself calms me down and gives me a sense of control but all the secretiveness is really bothering me. I thought i was done with self harm when i stopped. Cutting years ago is therapy is still an option after all this time. Thank you and i look forward to. Maybe hearing your answer to my question on your podcast. Okay so really good question. Thank you for that and definitely very proud of you for all the progress that you've made it sounds like you've been able to really build a good life for yourself and overcome a lot of challenges and what you're talking about here is kinda somewhat common scenario for people that have a history of self harm for these things to become less intense Less overt over time. You know not doing as obvious of self harm methods but for it is still linger in some way and then definitely it rears. Its head when you're under significant pressure. It's sort of an old standby right. The self-harm is an old coping strategy. That has gotten us through a lot. And maybe at a certain point even though we would like to avoid it as much as possible. It served a purpose for you and it really helped you out. And so it's something that you have kind of a well worn groove in your brain for and so when you come to situations that are really stressful for you. That are Really difficult than it pops up again at least whether you're engaging in cutting itself or not you have this urge to self harm this urge to calm you down to ground yourself in that sort of way but you're trying to avoid that you don't want to do that. But a lot of people over time who used to maybe cut might move from that to over exercising excessively to scratching themselves burning themselves slopping themselves with different objects or You know giving themselves burns things like that. There's there's lots of different potential ways that somebody might harm themselves in a similar vein but Yeah it's it's pretty common for people to transition to different forms of this as they are less able to sort of get away with cutting or moreover things like i talked about

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Q&A: Addressing Self-Harm as an Adult

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

03:02 min | 1 year ago

Q&A: Addressing Self-Harm as an Adult

"Robert at the mental health question. So i'm thirty four married with two small kids job and in a few months. I've a history of self harm due to having very strict and controlling parents in a lot of drama in my teenage years. I self harmed ton. Sorry i self harmed on and off for ten years but stopped. After i managed to distance myself from my primary family after leaving university i never had professional helper therapy but i kind of managed to fix myself a bit if you know what i mean my life now is okay in general obviously stressful occasionally kids doctorate etc but okay. My question is this. I sometimes feel all my resolve passes lurking somewhere in the background. The fact that all these issues were never properly addressed really worries me. Sometimes i tend to crack under pressure. Occasionally when i'm really stressed out and seek ways to harm myself without leaving marks cutting is not an option for me anymore because of kids and husband and i feel the weight of having fewer options harming myself calms me down and gives me a sense of control but all the secretiveness is really bothering me. I thought i was done with self harm when i stopped. Cutting years ago is therapy is still an option after all this time. Thank you and i look forward to. Maybe hearing your answer to my question on your podcast. Okay so really good question. Thank you for that and definitely very proud of you for all the progress that you've made it sounds like you've been able to really build a good life for yourself and overcome a lot of challenges and what you're talking about here is kinda somewhat common scenario for people that have a history of self harm for these things to become less intense Less overt over time. You know not doing as obvious of self harm methods but for it is still linger in some way and then definitely it rears. Its head when you're under significant pressure. It's sort of an old standby right. The self-harm is an old coping strategy. That has gotten us through a lot. And maybe at a certain point even though we would like to avoid it as much as possible. It served a purpose for you and it really helped you out. And so it's something that you have kind of a well worn groove in your brain for and so when you come to situations that are really stressful for you. That are Really difficult than it pops up again at least whether you're engaging in cutting itself or not you have this urge to self harm this urge to calm you down to ground yourself in that sort of way but you're trying to avoid that you don't want to do that. But a lot of people over time who used to maybe cut might move from that to over exercising excessively to scratching themselves burning themselves slopping themselves with different objects or You know giving themselves burns things like that. There's there's lots of different potential ways that somebody might harm themselves in a similar vein but Yeah it's it's pretty common for people to transition to different forms of this as they are less able to sort of get away with cutting or moreover things like i talked about

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Q&A: Why Do I Still Crave Attention?

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

03:18 min | 1 year ago

Q&A: Why Do I Still Crave Attention?

"I don't have a therapist yet. Currently looking for a trauma therapist. My parents divorced when i was six. My mom's boyfriend molested me at age. Nine she didn't believe me for a long time. My dad came back quote as friends to help him get up alcohol. I think i was about twelve at thirteen. I was raped by my boyfriend in field. I started running away from home. My dad left because he couldn't handle me running away. I started doing drugs and being promiscuous. I stopped at seventeen in got with my now husband. I have cheated and have six kids. But here's the thing. I still feel the need to be wanted by other people liked. What sam forty. I have twenty year olds my. Dm's wanting me to be there. Cougar actually want people to want me. My husband chose me affection. Don't get me wrong. But i would like someone else. Allies the time to. I can get where my fucked up past 'cause my bipolar depression anxiety. Ptsd but to be like this. What the heck. Thank you for listening. So good question. I think there will be elements of this that resonate with a lot of people here So thank you for asking it. I'm glad that you're looking for therapist. You mentioned that you're looking for a trauma therapist which is really important because not everybody does specialize in trauma work so really good instincts there to be looking for trauma based therapist Also just want to say that. I feel for you. You know. i'm. I'm sorry that you've been through so much you didn't deserve it. You're not responsible for it. And i'm glad that you're here that you're alive and able to ask this question both for yourself and for anybody else that benefits from hearing what i say to you. So thank you for that. And as i said. I'm glad that you're here. This is sort of a complex layered question. I think there's a few important threads to tease apart here. First off Let's talk about desire versus action right. Because i think it's one hundred percent absolutely totally normal to have attraction to people other than your partner that you committed to that could be romantic sexual or otherwise But i think that this is something that society and movies and Maybe our own sort of internalize. Jealousy tells us that we're not supposed to do that. We're supposed to somehow turn this off completely when we commit to being with another person romantically and you know people are different. There are certainly some people where the romantic or sexual interests and other people really fades or dwindles or basically goes away when they commit to somebody. But that's not the case for everybody and there's nothing wrong with that. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having Feelings right what you do about. Those feelings is a different story right. You're allowed to have whatever private thoughts you want. You know you can enjoy whatever kind of attention you might run into in daily life But you need to make a choice about how you engage with that with those thoughts with desires without attention. Whatever it might be you need to make a choice about what you do about that. How you engage with that. Are you going to be actively drawing in that attention playing into it. You know actively flirting are you allowed to talk about attractions with your partner with other people. What are you gonna do about that.

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"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

02:36 min | 1 year ago

"duff" Discussed on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

"My partner goes away a few weeks at a time two three times a year and i join him partway through but when away. I get crippling anxiety about how he feels that he will have decided to leave me while away etc. Since spending the last year cooped up together this is now even spread to win. He is out without me. I must note that. I came to the realization that this is affected me in relationships so like i said shortened. Sweet good question. Oh there's one line and says i know these feelings are irrational in that it's unsustainable for me to keep getting sucked into make believe situations some questions. Do you have tips and managing this. And should i talked to my partner about the issues. I have so very good question. Thank you an awesome job giving you a little little golf. Clap here awesome job. Getting yourself into some therapy. I know it's not always easy to take that leap. We all come from different backgrounds with different attitudes toward therapy different limitations. So i'm always super proud to hear somebody you know finally does that. So good job. What you're describing here is fairly common issue. I've even answered some similar questions on the podcast before. And i think that a lot of people do experience this to different extents know for some people it's just uneasiness for some people it's full blown anxiety for some people. It really really really interferes with a relationship where they can't let things be in intensity and even fights and things like that so it is a common issue but it's on a spectrum. Everybody kind of sit somewhere else on that spectrum. I also understand how this could be. Totally exacerbated made worse by spending so much time together during cove it. It's you know. Obviously there are good elements to that you get to spend a lot of time together. Presumably you like each other. So that's a good thing but you do get used to a certain routine in a certain sense of security with that. I think that one of the things that this type of anxiety that you're describing often leads to is checking behaviors so by checking. I mean things that are attempts to resolve your sort of internal sense of tension so you kind of have this like build up of uneasiness of tension things -iety and you wanna do something to resolve that right so in other situations may be like if you take somebody who has obsessive compulsive disorder. They might have ritualistic behavior. That is an attempt to decrease that internal sensings eighty and it may be something related or unrelated. I mean not be very logical. But they're just trying to do something to ease that a little bit. It's not a sustainable thing. It doesn't help in the long but in those moments it's like what else can they do. They don't wanna sit with this nasty. Feeling this this frightful thing that's going on inside their body

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Q&A: How to Deal With Relationship Separation Anxiety

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

02:36 min | 1 year ago

Q&A: How to Deal With Relationship Separation Anxiety

"My partner goes away a few weeks at a time two three times a year and i join him partway through but when away. I get crippling anxiety about how he feels that he will have decided to leave me while away etc. Since spending the last year cooped up together this is now even spread to win. He is out without me. I must note that. I came to the realization that this is affected me in relationships so like i said shortened. Sweet good question. Oh there's one line and says i know these feelings are irrational in that it's unsustainable for me to keep getting sucked into make believe situations some questions. Do you have tips and managing this. And should i talked to my partner about the issues. I have so very good question. Thank you an awesome job giving you a little little golf. Clap here awesome job. Getting yourself into some therapy. I know it's not always easy to take that leap. We all come from different backgrounds with different attitudes toward therapy different limitations. So i'm always super proud to hear somebody you know finally does that. So good job. What you're describing here is fairly common issue. I've even answered some similar questions on the podcast before. And i think that a lot of people do experience this to different extents know for some people it's just uneasiness for some people it's full blown anxiety for some people. It really really really interferes with a relationship where they can't let things be in intensity and even fights and things like that so it is a common issue but it's on a spectrum. Everybody kind of sit somewhere else on that spectrum. I also understand how this could be. Totally exacerbated made worse by spending so much time together during cove it. It's you know. Obviously there are good elements to that you get to spend a lot of time together. Presumably you like each other. So that's a good thing but you do get used to a certain routine in a certain sense of security with that. I think that one of the things that this type of anxiety that you're describing often leads to is checking behaviors so by checking. I mean things that are attempts to resolve your sort of internal sense of tension so you kind of have this like build up of uneasiness of tension things -iety and you wanna do something to resolve that right so in other situations may be like if you take somebody who has obsessive compulsive disorder. They might have ritualistic behavior. That is an attempt to decrease that internal sensings eighty and it may be something related or unrelated. I mean not be very logical. But they're just trying to do something to ease that a little bit. It's not a sustainable thing. It doesn't help in the long but in those moments it's like what else can they do. They don't wanna sit with this nasty. Feeling this this frightful thing that's going on inside their body

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Advice on Supporting a Grieving Parent

The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

02:21 min | 1 year ago

Advice on Supporting a Grieving Parent

"Hey dr death. My someday to be mother-in-law has lost her son to suicide. He just had a baby and was planning a wedding. The baby mama is very cold and distant to her since the beginning of the relationship. My mother-in-law someone who spreads the gospel help strangers in loves everyone even through her own depression recently. My boyfriend and i witnessed her have a breakdown. She became the opposite of who she is threatened to take her own life. We'd never seen her get to this point before this is a pain. I can't imagine. And i feel lost on how to be there for her. How can i be a better support for her. He has thank you for creating the podcast. And you're fucked depression book. You've helped me visualize struggles in a different light. They'll eat better days. Will you very welcome for that and to the question how what a tough situation man. That's that's brutal in hard and sad and my condolences to your whole family. It sounds like from the outside perspective. This sort of came out of nowhere. You talked about all this other things that were going on and then suddenly this happened and that's one of the things about depression and suicide -ality. I've actually talked about this a lot with people recently. Which is You know deep depression and suicide alley. They they're like a parasite. I kind of think of them This is somewhat silly. I suppose but i kind of think of them like the if you're familiar with a spider man envenom. The bad guy in spider man venom has like this black suit. And it's a it's what's called a syndicate and it's like a alien sludge that like latches onto a person is essentially a you know kind of like a parasite in so that's kinda how i picture depression and suicidality. It's like this black sludgy parasite and when you try to Bring it out into the light. It acts up flares up in tries to hide itself. And so i've been talking about that a lot with people recently how You know these symptoms and issues. Try to hide themselves. They try to stay away from other people. Because you may have thoughts that you know you recognize our illogical or not helpful you know harmful in some sort of way but you don't share them with other people because your depression tells you to keep them private once it starts to get threatened. It closes down it. Gets you know more isolating and so you end up suffering through through these things alone and suicide risk becomes much greater when it suffered in

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How the Bible Addresses Depression

Magnify Him Together

02:00 min | 1 year ago

How the Bible Addresses Depression

"How to diagnose it and what could cause it. We also discussed ways to get help or to give help with that background. We are now going to open our bibles and see what it has to say you know. Depression is not named in the bible. But it is certainly there. This is not something new but when you know the symptoms you can easily recognize it. The psalms have great examples in psalm. Seventy seven has to be the best of all. Listen to this and see if you recognize these feelings. This is reading from psalm. Seventy seven verses one through thirteen. I cried unto god with my voice even unto god with my voice and he gave ear unto me in the day of my trouble. I sought the lord. My sore ran in the night and ceased not my soul refused to be comforted. I remembered god and i was troubled. I complained and my spirit was overwhelmed. Silla thou hold us mine is waking. I am so troubled that i cannot speak. I have considered the days of old the years of age times culture remembrance. My song in the night. Commune with mine. Own heart and my spirit may diligent search will the lord cast off forever and will he be favorable. No more is his mercy. Clean gun forever duff. His promises fail forevermore hath god forgotten to be gracious. Has he in anger. Shut up his tender mercies salah. And i said this is my infirmity but i will remember the years of the right hand of the most high. I will remember the works of the lord. Surely i will remember thy wonders of old i will meditate also of all the works and talk of all doings by way. Oh god is in. The

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Hilary Duff officially confirms "Lizzie McGuire" reboot is dead

Jason and Alexis

01:55 min | 1 year ago

Hilary Duff officially confirms "Lizzie McGuire" reboot is dead

"Okay. There was a really popular show that my daughter loved on Disney, and it was called Lizzie McGuire. It start Hilary Duff and this other dude and this other dude who was in it who I believe played her best friend. He's pretty disappointed. I'm sure because the Lizzie McGuire reboot is not gonna happen. Disney. Plus, Yes, Disney Plus announced that they weren't going to go on with their effort to do this show because it all started before the pandemic. It has something to do. I'm sure with the writing Because, um, you know, they say, Listen, Maguire fans have high expectations for any new stories. And unless and until we are confident we can meet those expectations. We've decided to hold off and today we informed the casts representatives that we're not moving forward. So I guess I just couldn't find enough Good stories. The writing sucked. That's the way it translates to me, right? Yeah, Yeah, This script sucks. We can't move forward with this way really wanted to do this, But upon reading the actual scripts New. Yeah. Exactly. S O. Production on the show actually begin in November, But then they paused. In early January because Hilary Duff was going on her honeymoon. In Mozambique. And two days before she return Variety broke the news that, um that this the writers would be Show runner would be fired from this variety kind of told us send them were like what's going on. Are you going to find a new one? So that's it dead in the water? Not gonna happen? No, Like like I said, the played the guy who played the best friend characters. Probably pretty pretty disappointed. I don't know if he's had any thing going on. No, I don't think so. I don't know. On the crew. You got a thing for the crew to. It's like, you know, Lindsey will get some anyway. Yeah,

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Why the Treasury wants its money back

Marketplace with Kai Ryssdal

02:40 min | 1 year ago

Why the Treasury wants its money back

"There are days of which this is one when we are obliged by the news to get just detached down in the weeds so we will because we have to. But we'll do it gently back in march in the cares act. Congress authorized the treasury department to let the federal reserve us about four hundred and fifty billion dollars to fund. A bunch of fed lending programs programs that would and remember back in march and april. The fear factor was pretty high in this economy. Right these programs would stabilize credit markets. And in a way thus backstop the whole economy. Well yesterday treasury secretary steven mnuchin. Told jay powell. He wants the money back. In other words those lending programs the secretary said are none the fed not known for its political loquaciousness. Said in a statement. Yesterday afternoon it would prefer the money and the emergency programs. Stay where they are. But after noon sherpao roach secretary mnuchin and told him the money's on the way so we will get to the what it all means thing with lopez and genus smile. Like in a minute but first marketplace abbreviation shore with what exactly these programs did in different ways. These programs all allowed the fed to get down and dirty in the mud of credit market so for example a couple of them allowed the fed to actually buy corporate bonds another loved the fed to buy short-term bonds from state and local governments another allowed to indirectly by up car loans and student loans they essentially stood there and said you know we'll be a buyer of these things will support these markets yousef obasi is global market strategist at stone ex. Now the reason we care that the fed could buy these securities. Is that for a while. They're in this pandemic. It was looking like nobody else would and if nobody wants to buy up for example loans. People aren't going to get as many loans and loans are what kept some businesses. Live and local governments functioning. You're talking about essentially the entire credit markets could've yearly froze if the fed didn't step in with these facilities the fed supported credit market so credit markets could support people. Chris campbell is chief strategist at duff and phelps and former assistant secretary of the treasury they allow for serbia liquidity or money available to banks or institutions to have them to be able to lend you money by all accounts. These programs worked. Edward altman is professor of finance emeritus at nyu. The treasury felt that it has succeeded so well that it's no longer necessary. Oldman sees that is. Ill advised to give them the looming threat of further shutdowns but secretary mnuchin has said businesses need grants now not loans. The four hundred and fifty. Five billion dollars in question could be re purposed into a miniature stimulus. Deal before a new president is sworn

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Why This 17-Year-Old Wants To Be A Poll Worker

Weekend Edition Saturday

03:19 min | 2 years ago

Why This 17-Year-Old Wants To Be A Poll Worker

"Lucy Duck Worth of Philadelphia as a memory of what election Day used to be like when I was little. I used to go vote with my parents, and I got to see them, you know, push the button. And where the sticker The Seeker is always a very fun part of that. But this year, Lucy Duck birth isn't going to the polls with her parents. She is not going to the polls to vote. Lucy Duck Worth, can't I'm 17, but I could be a poll worker in Philadelphia and I can help other people vote. Lucy Duff Worth a 17 year old high school senior, will be working the polls on November 3rd. She's part of the pool Hero project, which has been recruiting young people to help on Election Day I found out about the whole hero project through Instagram actually. In July. I was taking a writing class online, of course, and I wasn't working my restaurant which I usually work was closed due to Cove it I think itwas a kind of a difficult time for a lot of people who felt a little bit helpless. And you know, what can I do in the upcoming general election? I can't even vote. I started reading about this problem I didn't even know existed. You know, Poll workers tend to be on the older side. Many of them have been doing this work for tens of years and this year specifically because of the pandemic. A lot of those workers don't feel comfortable coming out and working in person, and that's created really big issues. As we saw in the primaries, there weren't enough people to work the poles. So I signed up to volunteer with the project. Pull Hero project is a lot of recruiting through social media, focusing on certain cities where poll workers are really needed, and once we get people to sign up, we have them re post one of our instagram posts once we get, you know, maybe three or four people in a given school in a given community to repost that Maura and more members of that community are seeing that post. And then are signing up without us even reaching out from there, you know, they post and it sort of grows on its own. I think it's really important for young people. Teenagers, even if you're not old enough to vote for start getting involved with the process. Young people across the board participate in democracy the least and we need to make sure we're showing up. So that we see our voices reflected in decisions and and I think a great way to do that is to start by making sure that everyone can both if they want to vote. That's all. Great to start early as possible to make that a habit and make that a lifelong decisions. You know, I don't want to speak for my for my older self, but I am so fired up about doing this. I really want to keep doing this for a while. The cool thing about poll workers is that so many of them they come back year after year, and it's really exciting to think that process can start with the new generation right now. That's been really inspiring for me. Lucy Duckworth's high school senior looking forward to November, 3rd one shall help voters cast their ballots in Philadelphia. So far, the Pole hero project says it's signed up about 30,000 people. To help out in their communities, too.

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Kentucky Native George Clooney Says He's "Ashamed" of Breonna Taylor

Daily Pop

05:47 min | 2 years ago

Kentucky Native George Clooney Says He's "Ashamed" of Breonna Taylor

"Of course running so high across the country today after no officers were charged directly related to the killing of Brianna Taylor took testers hit the streets after the news broke the grand jury indicted a former police officer on three counts of wanton endangerment for firing into neighboring apartments and the other officers were charged and Louisville, Kentucky where Brianna was shot the protests took a violent turn to police officers were shot and suffered non-life-threatening injuries. A lot to unpack here. How do you feel about all of this? Both of you? The saddest part about all of it is that I am not shocked that this happened. I'm in shock that I'm not shocked and whenever you look at the footage from the night before or two days or four and they're boarding up downtown and they're putting road blockades before the verdict even came in something that was honestly supposed to be stay hush-hush between jurors and a judge. You just know what to expect. You know, my people understand what to expect and that's the saddest part. Yeah, and what's really sad to me is that, you know people on the internet and Instagram often go to this thing where they say. Oh, well, you know, this person was a bad person. We shouldn't be making this person a hero this twenty-six-year-old woman was a front line worker who was doing the most legal thing that an American Canyon. She was sleeping and getting ready for work and people barged into her home and shot her and there's Justice for the wall of her neighbor before there's Justice for her. So you're telling black Americans and black children that your life is less valuable than a plywood wall. Yeah, that's what the issue is. And I know we have to go to break and we're going to be back cuz I know we have a lot more to talk about so you guys join us. We're going to keep this conversation going. Welcome back to daily pop as we mentioned before the break. No officers were charged directly related to the killing of Brianna Taylor protesters hit the streets across the country celebrities like George Clooney Oprah Winfrey and Alicia Keys are all speaking out Kentucky's attorney general warned people not to be influenced by celebrities and social media influencers off. So he says don't understand the case and their Community but George Clooney who's a Kentucky native wrote an open letter saying he is quote ashamed of this decision off, you know, you and I all three of us have had such open conversations about this. What are you guys think when you see something like this after six months of trying to get jobs or somebody? Yeah. It's obviously not served. The whole thing is outrageous. It's outrageous. It's insane and the contrary to how you felt. I'm still shocked and maybe that's my whiteness wage. That I'm still shocked that this didn't Justice wasn't served here. I really thought it was going to be and I saw that it was not gonna happen and you know, and I've been following the case. It's just shocking to me that It ever happened. Honestly, I have to say that there's no justice served. I I kind of have to second what what Justin said, I'm not shocked at all and to put it pretty blatantly and off early. If this was me there would have been Justice served if I was if I was shot sleeping in my bed. All three officers would be their licenses would have been revoked. They would have never been able to be police officers. Again. They have City wage had to pay my family a tremendous amount of money. Like we are not treated equally and yesterday, I mean, I just didn't I we spoke a lot about this before we started the show this morning and we kind of got into a little bit of sort of the racial Justice is yesterday with stassi and everything and I said this to you before the fact that stassi Schroeder has had more of a negative impact to her life off. Okay and has lost every stream of income because she made some ignorant horrific comments and I'm sure she's ashamed of and the police officers who killed and shot somebody while she wage Sleep in her own residence that she pays rent for okay walk free with not a single problem in site can still continue to make money can still connect to pursue the job but they've trained for it is effing bananas. But this is way this world works. This is why people are calling for police reform and I'm going to let you guys found something the person who brushes my hair in the morning for two seconds every day had to go through 1600 out 1600 hours of training before he could touch a follicle on my head, right and police officers go through less. Yeah the end of the day I want to urge everybody. I know November 3rd is coming up and yeah, you guys should get to the polls. But also when your local channels, and your District elections come up and your state elections come up, I want you to Google the people who are running for those offices and I want you to look at what they said or didn't say wage. About what happened to Brianna Taylor McClain are George Lloyd Wright? Those people stay quiet throughout those whole things your answer is deafening. Yeah and did not want those people presiding over and making decisions about your life. That's a question that you have to ask yourself because that woman was twenty-six years old that could have been your daughter and that could have been your thoughts

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Mourners pay tribute to RBG outside Supreme Court

Family Financial Focus

01:07 min | 2 years ago

Mourners pay tribute to RBG outside Supreme Court

"Continue to gather outside the Supreme Court and tributes pour in for the late Justice Ginsburg W. B. C Suzanne Saz Ville got reaction from a former justice on the state Supreme Judicial Court. She just learned large one thing. No one could argue with this that Ruth beater. Ginsberg inspired women. When you see someone like that on the bench, it really makes you feel Yeah, I can do that Retired state Supreme Court Justice. Fernand RV. Duff Flee, who goes by Nan met Ginsberg as a member of the National Association of Women Judges and remembers one day when Ginsberg warmed her heart I had given her a pin. In one of these times, she looked at me, and she paused for quite a few drinks. And then she said, I still where your pin man and I just thought it was amazing Five memories aside roughly a sad that Ginsberg was burdened by concerns she would be replaced on the court before November's election. She knew her life was so public and had a deep sense of obligation to the world. To live as long as she could so that this wouldn't happen. Suzanne Sauce Bill W. B. C. Boston's news radio. The

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