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Dear Sugars Presents: Loneliness In A Socially Distant World
"Kind world is sponsored by apple books. WHO's partnering with the One and Only Oprah to bring you her next book club pick. This one is Deacon King Kong by James. McBride it's a story of connections and community. In one, thousand, nine, hundred, sixty nine New York City. It's also a social novel with a heart of gold with characters that will crack you up and I'll make you cry Download Deacon King Kong on Apple Books at Apple Dot Co. Slash Ob. See once you're done with that. You can explore millions of other books and audiobooks on the apple books up. It's got a lot. Get started today and read with us. Hate your sugars, fans. This is Andrea. A Swahili Co host of kind world where sister podcast of your sugars and recently we made an episode. We think you'll like and we want to share it with you. It's about combating loneliness in a socially distant world. We hope you enjoy it. Produced by the I lab at WB YOU ARE BOSTON. Welcome to kind world, I'm yes-men, Amer and I'm Andrea a he so last week we talked all about meaningful gatherings. If you haven't heard conversation with Priya Parker, go back and listen. She's got some great tips, but this week we're talking about the polar opposite of gathering being alone. We've all felt lonely at some point in our lives, but the reality is loneliness is so much more than a bad feeling. It's a public health crisis that affects more than half of adults in the US. Many. People feel that if they're lonely. That means that they're not likeable or that. They're broken in some way and I certainly felt that as a child that was one of the reasons I never told my parents all those years. I struggled with loneliness. In fact, feeling alone, and we WANNA, ultimately address loneliness. We have to figure out how to eradicate that stigma and help people see loneliness from what it is, which is a human condition that all of his experience at some point in our lives. This is the former US surgeon general Dr Viv AAC morphe- who served from the end of two thousand fourteen until twenty seventeen. He's the author of together the healing power of human connection in sometimes lonely world, and just make it even more clear. Listen to the scientific finding Dr Martha told us so. Loneliness is associated with an increased risk of heart disease of depression, anxiety of premature death of sleep, disturbances of dementia of impaired wound healing, and the list goes on when studies have actually looked at them. Mortality impact associated with loneliness. What they have found is that that mortality impact is similar to the mortality impact seen with smoking fifteen cigarettes a day. Okay fifteen cigarettes a day. That is almost a full pack. In one day. We were shocked when we heard this. How can loneliness cost so much damage? Well, Dr Martha says it's because it puts our minds and bodies in this primal and unsustainable state. Loneliness is a natural signal that our body sends us when we're lacking something that we need for survival in this case, human connection, we literally need him. In connection for survival in that sense is very similar to hunger. Thirst signals at our body sends up when we're. We're lacking food or water now we if we respond to that signal by getting a meal or a drinking some water than the hunger, thirst will subside similarily, we seek out connection with others. If you pick up the phone to call a friend, get in the car and go visit a relative. That loneliness may subside, but when the loneliness persists for a long period of time is when we run into trouble, because physiologically loneliness induces a stress state in our body, and in the short term stress, states can motivate. Motivate you to action in the long term, they're associated with increased levels of inflammation. That's associated with an increased risk of heart, disease and other chronic illnesses. The chronic illnesses are what surgeon general's have focused on in the past and Dr. Murphy said that was initially his plan to when he came into office, but when he actually traveled and spoke to citizens across the country. He had an epiphany. What I recognize overtime was behind. Those stories were so many threads of loneliness. People would often say I feel I have to. To deal with all of these challenges by myself, or if you if I disappear tomorrow, no one would even notice or feel invisible and hearing that again and again from college students from parents from people in remote fishing villages in Alaska to members of Congress in Washington C.. It struck me that something deeper was happening here. He'd heard that a lot, too as a practicing physician, and he knew it was a problem, but addressing loneliness. It wasn't taught in Med school when you enter a profession like medicine or nursing. Because you want to help people and relieve suffering, and when you see people suffering in front of you from 'cause you have no idea how to address something like loneliness. He doesn't feel good, and that's how I felt when I was in the hospital. And I. Encounter patients who were alone and I didn't know what to do and I felt I wasn't serving them. All of this inspired him to make this topic loneliness, the focus of tenure as surgeon general, he looked into how loneliness affects people of all genders, ages, cultural backgrounds and socioeconomic levels Dr Murphy can even draw a line between loneliness and another pervasive illness in our country racism. I remember what it felt like to be called out or having dark skin for people making assumptions about me, calling me pejorative names. And even as a child I remember feeling to sense of shame when people tell you that you're less than that, you don't matter and they were inferior. You internalize some of that for me. As a child, I remember reacting to it by withdrawing further and further into my shell. and. Here's the thing about loneliness. That is so challenging. Feel connected from other people. You would think while our instinct should be to reconnect, but there's a paradoxical said of wheels that are set in motion if you will. On that actually functioned to deepen our loneliness when we experienced cleanliness, and so when we feel separated from other people, whether that's because we don't have the connections around us that we used to have, or because we're feeling uttered and made to feel inferior, an isolated we enter into this trustee, and in that stress date because we're worried about our safety are focused turns increasingly inward, we also become hyper, vigilant, more likely to perceive threats around us, and we also experienced this erosion of self esteem. As over time we can come to believe that may be the reason we're being offered. Maybe the reason we're alone is because there's something wrong with us. It's hard to imagine a way to overcome such a deeply rooted issue like loneliness, but Dr Martha says it's possible to start healing ourselves and our communities because he's seen it happen all around the world. After the break we hear more from Dr Morphe- on some proven solutions to battling loneliness, and how we can keep loneliness at bay at a time when social distancing is crucial to our survival. Kind world is sponsored by Apple. Books we've been telling you about the new book from Oprah's Book Club, but why not hear it from the herself? Hello, everyone. I'm excited to share my expert club. Pick with you, Deacon King Kong by James McBride a story of connections and community in nineteen, sixty nine New York City the characters will crack you up and make you cry. Get Deacon King Kong at Apple. Dot Co splash over. Then explore millions of other books and audiobooks on the apple books APP. Download today and read with. Welcome back to kind world today. We're speaking with Dr Vivek Murthy. The former US surgeon general author of together the healing power of human connection in a sometimes lonely world. Have you seen any really great examples of people? Getting together some community building or outreach that has helped. Break that stigma a little bit. To share the story of Serena. Who during her freshman year at the University of Pennsylvania extra experience, extreme loneliness, and she built these wonderful gatherings called space gatherings. Where students could come together and have open honest conversations about the connection disconnection. There are feeling on campus about what worried them about. Their sources is a fear as well as what was giving them joy, and by creating an environment or people could do that. Sereno loud hundreds and hundreds, and now probably thousands of students over the years to have a place where it was okay to say I'm lonely and I didn't mean that you were broken. Small gesture big impact that philosophy is also infused in some community-wide. Like the men's shed movement, which was specifically designed to help elderly men connect not through talking but through work. The idea was that if people came together to work shoulder to shoulder that they were more likely to connect with each other, and would lead to dialogue, and for thousands and thousands and thousands of men around the world, men's sheds have become part of their community, and in the UK. They have founded men who participating these sheds, experiences, significant reduction in depression and anxiety and loneliness. The men's shed movement spread from the UK to other parts of the World Ireland Canada Greece, and even here in the US, but the most important way to heal loneliness is to start with ourselves. Dr Morton says. We should all reflect on this question. Am I truly living a people centered life? It's something he asked himself during his medical residency at was seeing so many young patients with end stage cancers and he admits he wasn't exactly practicing. Practicing what he preached, no thinking to myself am I leading my life. The way I truly want to if I was in their shoes, would I be able to look back and say? I spent my time in a way that was consistent with priorities that I truly did put people first, and it was painful to admit this, but the answer was no, and so I made a point after that to use whatever time I had vacation time. Etc Go visit my parents and my sister. even though it didn't make a Lotta money as a resident and he was always convenient and a win, and we had a couple of days off, I never regretted going to see them I often regretted not doing so, and so the first point for us all. If we want to build a truly more connected world is to look in the mirror and ask if we're leading the kind of life that we want to be leading. Right now, though living people, centered life is pretty tough. We're supposed to be staying away from each other in the time of covid nineteen. And, this of course is fueling the loneliness crisis in our country. So what do we do? How can we connect at a time? When we aren't supposed to be physically close to anyone sort of one, we can make a commitment to spend at least fifteen minutes each day with someone we care about that could be video conference with them. They could be talking to them on the phone. Where simply writing them to see how they are? The second we can do is to focus on the quality of time. We spend with one another if you're able to put away. Away distraction and focused entirely on them. The connection you feel can be extraordinary. The third thing we can do and this was a surprise to me as I was writing. This book is, we can look for opportunities to serve because it turns out. That service is one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness when you understand the downward spiral that loneliness drives you understand that service breaks that cycle by shifting focus from ourselves to someone else in the context of a positive interaction, but also reaffirming to us, the we do, in fact, have value to bring to the world. The final recommendation from Dr Morty is one that may seem a little counter intuitive. He says we all need to embrace moments of solitude. This might seem strange because you might think gosh. Why do I need to protect? Solitude of my goal is to connect with other people, while it turns out that our ability to connect with other people is driven by our ability to connect deeply with ourselves. That can be just a few minutes sitting on your porch, feeling the breeze against your face. It can be a few moments spent in meditation or prayer or remembering. Three things are grateful for. Or short walk in nature or some time spent with a good book, but however we find our solitude, we all need to anchors house, and when we approach other people from that place of being rooted. Were more able to listen to them to focus on them and to forge a stronger connection with other people. Ultimately Dr Murphy says the message of his book and his research can be summed up in just three short words put people i. It is so clear that we are wired to connect with one another. That's how we're built and the pain that so many preserve experiencing disconnection is a pain that stems from not being who it is that we were designed to be all over these thousands of years we put people first, and how we live our lives how we design policies how we design our institutions, then I believe we will create a world that is healthier is more resilient or fulfilling, and certainly the world that our children deserve. Thank you so much Dr Vague more for speaking with us. His book is called together the healing power of human connection in a sometimes lonely world, and it's available in bookstores everywhere. Hey thanks for listening to kind world this week. Our show is a production of WB. You are Boston's NPR station. Paul Vike Samat Redo our sound design Sophie Eisenberg is our W.. B. U. R.. Fellow Catherine Brewer are managing producer and editor and Iris. Adler is our executive producer. I'm reporter producer yes? And I'm reporter and producer Andrea. Will be back with a full episode of kind world next Tuesday but on Friday. We'll have another classic kind world episode dropping your feed, just a little extra dose of kindness to start your weekend right? Thanks for listening. We'll see you next time. Kind world is sponsored by Apple Books We've been telling you about the new book from Oprah's Book Club but why not hear it from herself? Hello, everyone I'm excited to share my next book club. Pick with you Deacon King Kong by James McBride. A story connections and community and Nineteen sixty-nine New York City. The characters will crack you up and make you cry. Get Deacon King Kong. At Apple Dot Co slash obesity, then explore millions of other books and audiobooks on the apple books APP download today and read with us.