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03:23 min | 2 years ago

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"Up with Dr Gayle, Wayland Hobson and Dr Paul Tobin. We're talking about family resiliency and this very difficult time. So, Dr Tobin. I'm gonna let you pick it up where we left off, which was about developing resiliency and becoming a stress resistant person. Okay, Here we go. I appreciate it. And I wanted to say that perhaps in the dales can lead in is just fits perfectly with where we're going here with family dynamics and Ooking at resiliency within the family. We start off with just resiliency and his definition. It's basically the capacity to recover quickly from difficult situations. And in synonymous with resiliency would be emotional toughness or social, emotional toughness, toughness being that capacity to bounce back. So I want to talk about in the family system. That we have things that we learn in parenting grandparenting in different ways, in terms of development of kids, but also in our own lives now today And this is so relevant in terms of the crime necessity of what's going on with Kroehner, the coveted the chronic nature of the virus. A challenge and a difficult times, especially chronically difficult times to adapt. And so what I'm going to talk about comes from Actually, the National Institute of Health Center Stephen Age Glenn years ago developed concepts of resiliency in developing young people. This relevant also, just like the emotional intelligence we talked about a few weeks ago. It's relevant and all of our lives and our adult lives is well, it's raising kids. So what? I want to start Is, um having different factors, the affect our capacity to be more resilient adults. Chan young adults. Three of those are developed perceptions. And they're about a sense of self perception. They just jump right into those for the are concerned with time. Okay, um The 1st 1 is that we view ourselves as capable And within that what we're really talking about is that I have a capacity to solve problems. I am a problem solver. You both may be familiar with Kenny Rogers once put out a song. About a young man who was playing baseball by himself, throwing up the baseball on every time you throw it up, if you would swing and he would miss and he would strike and he would throw it back up again answering in this and strike, and I did that three times. And he struck himself out. Anyone walked away in the song singing. I am the best pitcher in the world and a great doctor and then two and again, I think there's an element of Viewing myself from a capable perspective. Now, obviously, that's a young person. But in these covert times We need to reach in and understand. Look at we are extremely capable people. For the most part, we're extremely capable communities, neighbourhoods,.

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03:03 min | 2 years ago

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"I am keeping my fingers crossed that you're there. Are you there? I am grand. Yes, I am. Thank you for calling back. Hey, a little less stress, right? When you know asleep. They're all here and we're all accounted for. And you know, I'm so glad that you're going to talk about family resiliency because the thing that probably has everybody Surprised, but not surprised is when you have relationships with people, you think. Oh, if I only had more time with that person to work on whatever it is. And yet what are we seeing? We're seeing all of these. Hollywood couples and friends and neighbors and all that, and they're all not all. Many of them are filing for divorce now, and they say it's because They finally had time to spend with this person and realize it's not working. Yeah, And then that's interesting, isn't it? Dr Tobin, and let me just add to it before. For Paul Paul comments that sadly, were also seen so many and so many other ways. Children are not coping. Necessarily. Well, That's why I want to talk to my grandkids about stuff for them fact that compliment in my teenage grandson 15 and said, You know, Ryan, you have to have the toughest Time right now because one of the kids at 15 want to do They want to be with each other yet, but they're having trouble early college kids have in trouble as older people are feeling isolated into our homes. That's hard. Uh, couples are struggling because I've got to deal with each other more. You know, there's people who are taking care of elderly parents are finding it hard. So you know, I don't think there's easy way through this. So that's why Dr Tobin, we have to develop resilience, right? Absolutely. And you guys are right on target with all of this. Well, I may be on target. But guess what? I have to interrupt already. It's already times but Dr Tobin, I promise we will let you go. First we come back. This is our mental health tune up. Dr. Gale Llewellyn Hobson, Licensed psychologist Dr. Paul Tobin, also a licensed psychologist, both over 40 years. Are here with us tonight to talk about family resilience, and we're going to take it on this whole hour. I'm good Falconer. Lippert, You're listening to 1000 Katie. Okay? Cereal again with all the junk too fattening up here in box for delete, But you can work up a sweat pushing that delete button delete, Delete. Can we get this guy a towel or water or something? Sign up for our daily email. A breakdown of the important stuff in your life gathering all the information news of the day. The stuff that's not junk. Very important news..

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08:55 min | 2 years ago

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"Is a food loose radio 1000. Okay with Falconer Lippard 92 degrees. As you know, Over the past few months on Sunday nights, we've been doing mental tune ups. With Dr Gala Welland Hobson and her colleague, Dr Paul Tobin. We are doing that again tonight during this first hour, and we're going to be focusing on family resiliency during these hard times. Let me remind you that doctor Gay Llewellyn Hobson is a licensed psychologist has been in practice for over 40 years and practices in both Norman and Oklahoma City and served many years as the medical director for behavioral health at Mercy Hospital. She joins us this evening from her of office in Norman. And let me remind you that she will be giving out her phone number. If she can be of help to direct you to someone to talk to About anything that is making you mentally challenged right now. So, Dr Hobson, welcome to 1000 Katie, Okay? Thank you. Mentally challenged is the right word for hope. Memphis right now or I Quinn. It feels that way. So that's why tonight We wanted to focus a little further on resilience. And really how How can we go forward? For what may be a while you and I next week, going on the talk about transitions and transitions generally take about five years to say that, but we may be in that so We need in the meantime, in terms of mental, our mental health, community and family health we need to focus on how are we going to make this the best? Most productive time And I have something to start with tonight and then I would have a question for you and usual. Oh, good. Okay. And You may have gotten Dr Tobin back on the line he had. I think I lost the connection. So I think I have him. I will not know. Until I try. You may have to try and get me a man saying he lost connection. Okay, So you know, got Garth Brooks, right? You know his music a little bit. Oh, yeah. I love Garth Brooks. I thought you probably did. So he has a song that a lot of people know called Winding River. Oh, I don't know. I don't know the winding river. Okay, I wanted to start with a little bit of say, saying from that because it's so feeding to what we're going to talk about tonight. And it goes even though we can't control the river, even though life is ever flowing, ever changing, ever threatening? Ever Madden maddening, maddening We must choose to chance the rampant and dare to dance the tide. But his love and I got this really a good way to start out thinking about this age that were in and out with the chalk later. Take a chance to talk personally a little bit about Conversations, grandsons, and I'm not getting to see very often, but it was feeling to this and the reason I did. That is because when we're kind of in what we're thinking of is a non linear age. And we'll talk about what that means. But things are not just kind of going A B T. So everybody's got to kind of have to stop and hopefully, young people, especially Kind of rewrite this time, so that makes me if they ask you a question, Alright? Okay. What happens when are fairytales go a ride. Oh, I cry will, And that is so true way. Do we have all of this habit? We cried more tears in this country during this time, and maybe in a long time. But it's It's kind of true that are that we go through life for all of us sometimes are fairytales go awry, and we don't really talk about that very much, But I think it's really important that we do that now, because what we're learning is that you go through life said Yeah, thanks. Don't always stay on the path. That we had thought there's their high points in our lives, and there's low point in her life and then they're turning points in our lives. Yes, And I think that's where we are. Right now. We're kind of a turning point. And what kind of forced with Cove it to really cope and deal with that so harrowing and help ourselves and our communities. But how are we gonna have a wee going to know? If we're helping our Children navigate this time, or that's a great question. Well here. I have a little bit of an answer to it. That maybe will help us lead into resilience. But the question is which Children navigate, navigate their lives the best No matter what their circumstances are, even if they're handicapped, or they have challenges, or they're the smartest kid or whatever they are. There's some some things that helped him navigate the best the best. So what would you think helps Children navigate the best in these difficult times thie ability to be spontaneous. Wow. Okay, That's a great answer like that, probably part of it. But here's the answer to that. Or at least one answer. And I'm reading a new book that you and I are going to talk about next week that I think will be very helpful. But here's the answer to that. It's the Children, the ones that know their family history. The best Risley. Yeah, and they've done studies about that. So they're the Children that no. Okay, what were what were my grandparent's like? And that was what happened in their birth. And were they immigrants? Or were they you know? Do they have a physical illness early in their life? That really shaped them? Some of them. Did you know, like Popeo? And so if Children no kind of history and are tuned in, like, what happened, How's your parents made? How did what happened here for when the second child was born with their trauma when the child Second child was born. You know that kind of story that families tell And what we know is that Children that they're talking about that hearing about bad and come and know their family history. I mean, you had to sit down with them like you're on. DNA show roots, although I like that, But you know it's good, though, if they know kind of a history kind of where they came from. And so that kind of gets me into this story briefly of why I talked to my grandson's about that this morning. I got to see them. Well, I can see why this This's an excellent answer. And let me tell you why. Because Your parents had to deal with Unforeseen circumstances and some have they made it through it. So that's why you are here. Absolutely. Yu just got Yu got it so perfectly, in fact, that picture Of the family that was dealing with the flu pandemic in 1918 where they're all they all had masks on. I got that out this morning at brunch distance brunch with my grand boys and said, Hey, guys, look at this. Even the cat head on. I know. Did they noticed that the cat had a mask on? Yeah, course they did. Of course they can love And so you know, I would. I had opportunity, they would say. You know, we all have and we'll we'll call it a term next week. It will explain further called oscillating family narrative. Ah, like the term it really says that yes, families have ups and downs. And Children over the years that are our best prepared for life is if they know that if they know life takes all kinds of different shapes that really we know from research that makes him better equipped. To face life's inevitable disruptions. Because we're boy were in a disruption right now, For sure this is called a disruption, so covet thing. And so our lives are not following the linear path and you know what? We're beginning to figure out Is that these? These transitions these non linear path are happening more and more frequently, too. Yes. So kids are going to need to just I'm going to need to become flexible. They're going to be neat may need to do all the things that Dr Tobin is going to talk about that has to do with resilience. And I am so grateful that he is your colleague and that he has agreed. Tio join us again. Let me remind everyone that.

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06:06 min | 2 years ago

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"News radio one thousand Katie okay eighty nine degrees in Oklahoma City when Faulconer Lippert it's time for our mental tune up and were really talking about emotional competency and emotional intelligence Dr Kayla Wellen Hobson licensed psychologist from Norman is of my co host each week when we do these mental tune ups we're joined this evening by Dr Paul Tobin who is an Oklahoma licensed health services psychologist and he makes presentations as well as has his own clinic we're talking about one of the presentations he makes on emotional competency and emotional development thank you intelligence where to go it went right down to remember was that tip of the tongue the things that we learned a few weeks ago right exactly yeah and Paul or doctor Tobin I've I wish you would talk a little bit more about that I think that's an important concept for people to keep in mind the listeners as they know that they have some power they have power to change like you were talking about is that one way that you you work with people who can help them understand them absolutely absolutely appreciate that yeah we're we're we're talking about we a resilient secrets and all that but let's back up a little bit and and talk about the level of stress what and I'm a refrence the model or the structure of the martial intelligence there's writings by Daniel Norman G. O. L. E. M. A. N. I'm not gonna as an occasional psychologist to organize these materials but his original concept I believe very well organized it to help students in the elementary and middle schools deal with is being able to focus and concentrate what I've heard from that was just the bottom haven't developed an enlarged to where even corporate America says gosh on that it is our mind body in organizations and mailing it on a regular on a larger basis it's all human beings here with these concepts of we're stressed entered into our lives and the influence of stress on our bodies and our minds and if you were on our spirits and for example with the cold and because of this uncertainty uncertainty by its nature create stress and when I was looking at again kind of where we are with this cancel fire hit the beginning and then we kind of reached a bit of what appeared to be sort of a middle before we started the reopening process and each one of those had different levels of stress in the very beginning very much like a tornado that came out of left field with Mikey el Reno tornado a couple years ago we didn't see it coming and and that just overwhelm people people not not gonna work it will contact other income people were sent home from their jobs students did not return to school colleges send people home office and everybody was put back into their houses an unexpected way and a lot of fear a lot of uncertainty and unclear about health issues these kinds of things can enhance US electronics date of the initial crisis interesting generously our cameras and our eating and nutrition seven difficulty with concentration those of us who have anyone who has health issues or mental health issues that can be kind of a worsening I'm a bit of a perfect storm actor Kevin I'm glad you brought that up because I know worry for me and I know it yeah it has been for several level all of us in our group is that we might not only get it ourselves especially if we were on the front line team patience but we might in fact are family members or someone around this is not well absolutely and then you know I struggle with that I struggle with what if I make someone else sick I mean that is that's a true struggle of mine it absolutely not I'll personalize this I have members in my close family who have health risk issues and also I have six lovely grandchildren in Oklahoma than I struggle to visit with us from time to time based on their social patterns and our own health issues and so it's relevant on a small scale in my own life but I know this is a broad scale across our entire world certainly Oklahoma in terms of people making choices about how we deal with social distancing because of those emissions based on on health issues those who are struggling with who have had not senior members and assisted living and and unable to visit them these are all stressors that trigger button and printer guilt trigger worry trigger despair and and all of that raw emotion is what government talks about is what's in our first client yes I want to talk about the structure of the instrument well we have one minutes before I have to interrupt here here okay I want to have a visual image of the pain felt when you have a surgery and the medical personnel the nurse the doctor the technician comes in the personal therapist on a scale of one to ten where you're paying we want to make an application of medication or some form of relief to be able to address that I take that same scale and honors and then wonder can emotionally where are we and this kind now we get back from the commercial but talk about bad loan that we often times talk about performing arts or in sports we have an ideal conduit connection but this kind of emotional crisis the type of health crisis the uncertainty of it all those are typically out of that affective functioning level that is so interesting that you would use that pain scale even for emotional pain I've I've never heard that used before so what during this summer break while low everyone is listening to fox news you.

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09:17 min | 2 years ago

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"It's a food newsradio one thousand Katie okay good Faulconer referred here with you ninety degrees in Oklahoma City we've made it through another week yes and those things are opening up how is your mental health well as you know over the past few weeks Dr Delaware one Hobson has been joining me for our mental tune up and tonight we have a very special guest with Dr Hobson and we're going to be talking about how to be handling this cove it nineteen stress with all of its things so let's welcome to one thousand KTRK doctor gala well in Hobson licensed psychologist for over forty years she has a private practice in Norman and for many years served as the medical director for behavioral health at mercy hospital she joins me each week to make us all feel better so take it away Dr Hobbs Linden and appreciate always your introduction and what a beautiful day I hope you've gotten to get some sunshine in the outside is is everyone is listening to it I hope they have because that's so good for our mental health or physical health and getting through this because it is long as you're distancing from people so hi we are going to have a special guest tonight is going to help us with he is really full range of knowledge about techniques that are used to help in my many stressful situations he has lots of presentations but he's going to talk tonight particularly about how those techniques can help with disco that crisis so if you don't mind let me take one second go back and just review what we ended with last week we will go forward we like the old saying right yes Edwards live forward and so we talked about it but the last week so let me read something just real quickly and then we'll we'll talk a minute about empathy and go on need to quote name it may sound a little well I'll just read it I thought it was was really wonderful it's ten four beautiful I look for the good in others for beautiful lips speak words of kindness and for poise walk with the knowledge that you are not alone kindness in words creates confidence and kindness in thinking creates profound I thought that who represented it that the empathy towards others and that's what we talked about last week and you know that is very very helpful when you're thinking about how to handle this cope with crisis because Hey you know what I looked up the numbers we are up today as I guess we kind of expected with the re open I looked up and your mayor there no complicity in we took I think this is the correct correct at twelve point nine percent rising cases of this week we had our highest debut in on Missy Saturday two hundred twenty five cases that was a record yes today a hundred fifty eight cases locally I don't think any deaths over the weekend so that's lucky but I think there were a couple last week so largest single day rise of this virus so you know what we see in N. Y. United continuing every week to talk about business things that we can do to help or with all of our mental health conditions as we move through this to administer this but it these numbers are making my anxiety grow what's happening and we can warn but this virus is not acting like the flute no because it goes away in December for the most part yeah this is not acting like that so we have got to continue to to do all those things are recommending pap pap he again recommended you know social distancing I heard that from a local doctor friend of mine local the you know distance where may I ask you so things that were not being done really static group the best you can stay home if you can't the things that are getting recommended to us any minute in the meantime let's try to be empathetic and give each other a break because you know we learned last week that empathy is the action of understanding being aware of another's feelings and being sensitive to another person's feelings and they can help their experience in the world and right now the world cobit plus the difficult I hope positive re working of the way we've treated each other but it's it it's not an easy time so we need to introduce Dr Paul Tobin who's gonna join us here and talk about resilience and I'm motional maturity M. motional intelligence and how those techniques can help us and you chime in with me grand because I may not know all of doctor Tobin's background we we have been in a consulting group for twenty five years so we're definitely all friends but he is a licensed psychologist for at least forty years he has a large clinic in Atlanta one of the larger that I know of mental health clinics and he organizes and and manages that he also does organizational consulting so he teaches supposed going to bring us some really special information tonight about hello we can psychologically handled this well and you were asking earlier about his education Dr Tobin welcome to Katie okay St Gregory's university of central Oklahoma and Oklahoma state university I would say Dr Tobin you are well rounded I appreciate that and I had a short stint in Norman for a few semesters requirement issue so I think that touch base on on all the majors I think you have a cover you can have one of those flags that's right right we you know we use the expression emotional intelligence and emotional competency what are those things to me what we're looking at is a lot of self awareness and the capacity to understand ourselves and understand others and being able to regulate our emotions and support others John talks about empathy I think it's the timing of that is really good in terms of where where are we these days because there's another concept of or within that is that self care that relates to self empathy and being able to kind of lighten up on ourselves under chronic stress issues but that emotional competency there's a there's an element of kind of the individual and the larger we which is the self emotional awareness ourselves emotional competence and social competence in and it is getting into some of the social tolerance issues and we're also dealing with in today's culture so it's the gamut of kind of a sequential process of self awareness self regulation in assisting others to do the same whether that be our children is our neighbor B. R. co worker on a church in our community so it is really kind of taking a look at a framework in which we operate more effectively in managing intentionally what I'll talk about in our presentation moving from reactive business to a choice and responding more efficiently and more effectively in a kind and thoughtful way Gail would yell that correct Paul at all makes so much sense and what thing you pointed out that I I hope you will talk about some point is that every one of us to act so differently to changing circumstances and we're clearly in a big changes right call absolutely absolutely and yes to the inner psychologists were familiar with the developmental aspect of our emotions and talk a bit about this in terms of that reactive nous but fight flight and the third responses comma CAFOs inner deer in headlights and and that reactive Mr occurs one of those responses of fight flight or just frozen under heightened or chronic stress India everybody's different even within different systems we all play different roles in those childhood early family patterns are kind of handed down generation to generation sometimes they're attractive and useful other times maybe fifty percent of the time they're not and and so some of the good news and what we call positive psychology is that these things can change we can learn change or we can understand ourselves well enough to be able to be intentional about making more effective reaction to responses.

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