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"dr mark burton" Discussed on Untangle
"How we can be with. What's unsettling and what feels out of our control and while we can't stamp out all of this uncertainty we can change our relationship to these are interesting times for sure now. Here's Dr Mark Burton. Dr Mark Burton. It is so great to have you on untangled today. Thank you thank you for having me here today. Well this is an interesting topic. A little different from what we've done before untangle but a lot of people are talking about the corona virus and we thought it might be really interesting to look at. What does it mean in our mindfulness practice to be aware of a health? Scare like this but to not be fearful of it. Where is that balance between taking care of ourselves than others but not getting super crazy about it? What are your thoughts on that I think? Part of it is acknowledging the fear actually though. I'm sure we can talk about that some too I mean actual. I mean this is something on a scale most of US presumably. I've never really experienced before. And actually just coincidentally as I'm sitting here talking about this like I'm not a particular expert on physician but my community is one of the ones that is dealing with it right now so I think in many ways as a starting point when we look at it. It's just like this is the essence of mindfulness practice. You look back at where I plus came from a lot of. It is just the presumption that life can be really uncertain and changing and difficult at times and a lot of our resilience relies on how we relate to that so when it comes to our day-to-day mindfulness practice. These are the moments were practising for in essence when we are dealing less something that can be so all consuming mentally. How do we stay resilient instead our best as as well as possible so I think in in many ways this is the ground of the practice? That is such an interesting way to look at it. I'm glad you said that it's important to acknowledge that fear. And it's not just the fear but what is our relationship to that fear and how will we relating to this in general and what are some of the practices that we can do to more calmly relate to something that really feels out of our control. Yeah I think that's a great perspective of Ray words into using a lot of what we're working with as we practice. How are we going to relate to our experience? Whatever comes up and it would be totally unnatural to say. We're not going to be anxious about something like this. We're not gonNA notice that but triggering us in that. We're worried about her own health about our community about some different things I mean. I think it's part of the last few years in general. There's so many things tree-ring us some things to worry about. At times and a lot of the practice is about when we feel ourselves getting codenamed. That's the core practices when we feel ourselves getting caught up in it acknowledging at and then coming back to really our overall sense of resilience so when it comes to mindfulness we noticed the difference between clearly. There's a practical side tells us? We need to see clearly when there's something we actually have to be doing because probably that's part of managing our stress and anxiety to when we know our can define for ourselves. What physically as the right thing to do in any particular moment around the corner virus. What do we need to be doing? In terms. Of some of the things they're recommending keeping the pantries stocked or a lot of hand washing and once we define that plan though we can begin to look at just? How much of our fear anxiety is that our tendency most of us is for to just keep going anyway from that point of truly. I'm doing the best I can here in terms of like I've taken care of my family. I'm taking care of myself. And so much is uncertain and his unexpected. Anyway we can begin to notice when our mind is now off into rumination planning fear of the future and just caught it and then use our practice. That comeback is best to raise able. Because I think that has layers of connotation to it on the one hand one of the things that can easily happen in stretches of time like this is it is so easy to lose track enjoying day to day life in a completely non glaciated way. Clearly if we're going to stay on top of the more challenging things that are going on we also need to be sustaining ourselves with the things that aren't so challenging and even in the middle of a time like this. I'm having a hard time sticking just two krona fire spending part of the climate change discussions part politics. It's like in the middle of all of this. If we are only caught up in the negativity only caught up in the news cycle as its own. It's like a habit of mine. Nowadays I think is that compulsive need to just be like immersed in the next news thing. The next bit of information way beyond just keeping ourselves informed. So sometimes there's value to just recognizing like in the middle of all this right now. I'm just having a family. Neil almost make that a mindfulness practice of curves sites in addition hopefully cheer today meditation practice. Whatever it is you're doing to keep yourself Strong this is the moment in time to sort of double down on your commitment to it. What are we going to do to stay resilient as this crisis continues? That's a foundational piece of this discussion to and then looking at what does it mean to today because in spite of the fact that all of this is going on. They're still family time. They're still your hobbies. They're still these moments. We can capture. That are hopefully in a nuanced way. I'm never WANNA be suggesting supposed to pretend anything feels good. That doesn't but it's more remembering that our minds you get caught up all the negativity and anger and activity and fear and then we lose out on this aspect of one thing. That's sustaining did life. Yeah I think that's a really interesting way to look at it. It's almost this idea of being able to hold opposites. You understand that there is this situation and you define the plan and you listened to the instructions that the experts are telling you and at the same time you go on with your life without getting swept into all of the nuances and details that can really be frightful right and then the second piece of probably the second layer to it obviously a mindfulness. This isn't just about is all good or anything like that. It's realistic be capturing those moments but that's part of our lives that we might miss out otherwise and then equally so looking at like this is the reality of our experience right now and it certainly all the things we already mentioned a few mass who've been talking but it's your thing and there's our reality to F- unsettling and then on some simple level to save a Nazi do we can just continually expert. Like how am I relating to that where am I am? I getting to cut up in my reaction. My Fear My denial might compulsively shopping for experts. My family needs for months now. Three months of that all these things which are not so easy to find. I mean I think that's one of the challenges of mindfulness practice quite often one of the biggest ones that comes up a lot certainly for parents you know in my field is that clearly. There's a point through which problem solving is like a really valuable important thing to be doing and then anyone who relates to. This is certainly. There's a tipping point where it often goes off into more like rumination compulsive nece all these other things and it's not such an easy line to define sometimes but even around him this we can begin to recognize that. I've done morning to do for now. There isn't anything more I can. There's nothing I can control about the situation and problem solve to the point and you today and then you notice that part of your brain. That's trying to keep you safe by continuing problem. Solve continually remain continuing to go down that path and it can be really circular over the intense and then you come back to your practicing like got it. Thank you took care of that. And then coming back to again. What's the most skillful doing right now? In the middle of all this which is all an ongoing practice and then you're going to get caught up in it again. You can make a parallel between the cell experience in any meditation on just. So you're GonNa you do your best. You'RE GONNA get up in it when you catch yourself getting caught up in navy. Nowhere News for night. No more problem solving. I'm going to then fill in the blank. Whatever feels most skillful right now? Another thing I think that's important to touch on is always the fit my essentially that bigger concept of just staying resilient during challenging times because this is also a situation where we're also talking about our physical also sleep matters and exercise matters and eating well and trying to manage a stresses best Israel because that keeps US physically healthier on the one hand held system more resilient on the other and I think that's a big part of this whole picture. I don't WanNa Talk About Mike. Plus in isolation of that too so as I was saying. It's catching yourself. When you're caught up and going down one path and just redirecting saying what would be more valuable for me right now. Yeah especially like what you're saying around problem solving and then potentially hitting that tipping point where you're leaning more towards the rumination and worry anxiety and noticing that you aren't doing that because a lot of what this is challenging us to do as you're saying how do we relate to this situation and it's the same with any crisis right. We notice how we feel. And maybe we create a plan of action and pay attention to what we can control versus what we can't control and so I think that's really interesting to be able to notice that tipping point and maybe not go there have a choice. Have not tipping point. Be a choice point where you can say. I know this is going on. I know which habits I need to change. I know what I need to do to be my best and most healthy self during this time and then do I still need to constantly worry and become anxious about it. I agree and letting go of that where he's not so easy. And I think this does relate to parenting to underlying that sometimes you were almost eluding to the serenity prayer there of which. I'm not going to buy now at the top of my head but it's like except to control what you can change the harder part of that whole quote though I think is and give me the wisdom to know the difference and I think that's where life can get really stressful and it's true. I talk about around parenting. Where the thing that's often. Triggering are stress in that moment disting- that's often triggering compulsion to do more is. We're trying to stamp out uncertainty. So the core were working with often is how are we gonNA relate you uncertainty? How are we gonNA relate to the fact that there isn't a Yes? No answer here that there isn't something to here that there isn't any way one hundred percent sure that there is a not like take this antibiotic and this is going to go away. Yes no question like that and I think that is often. What's triggering both the underlying anxiety because there's no way to get rid of uncertainty? There just isn't in this situation in many situations in life and then looking at how am I going to relate with uncertainty itself? How am I going to recognize that? Like I think in this moment as best as I can gather logically done what needs to be done. He can be into question. There's although practice along like if you can catch yourself thinking or believing something ask yourself is it. True is thought time having valuable and true because you can start to look at that a little bit and then recognized that a lot of it is actually being hooked by uncertainty and Pamela. Shoujun has a practice talking about feeling working with the hook working with the sense of we all get hosted different times in life by different..
"dr mark burton" Discussed on Untangle
"Welcome to untangle. The podcast from me is the brain. Scenting had banned and meditation studio the Five Star. I'm Patricia Carpet. Today's episode is a little different Bora. It's an interview about how he can be a bit more mindful as we face. The kind of health scare that we're facing now with the coronavirus. Please note the interview isn't with CDC specialist or even a virus expert. So it's not about what you specifically need to do day to day to prevent or limit your breasts. There's plenty of that information available. This interview is more about how we relate to uncertainty that it presents and use our mindfulness practice to be more skillful and resilient each day Dr Mark Burton is a developmental pediatrician and an assistant professor of pediatrics. At New York Medical College he incorporates. Mindfulness practices into his work. As a pediatrician at an his frequent lectures to parents teachers and healthcare professionals. Today we talk about how we can be more skillful when we get triggered were hooked into feeling a sense of panic or anxiety about it all. We have a choice to do what we can do to stay healthy as we're hearing daily from doctors and the media and we're certainly learning how to make choices over what we can actually control. He suggests that we may WANNA notice. Where are tipping point? Is that place where we go from problem solving to panic? I really like his ideas about.