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"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Breakfast Leadership

Breakfast Leadership

04:39 min | 3 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Breakfast Leadership

"So that's kind of a big deal happen okay. It's like the brain is an interesting thing. that's for sure. So so if you had one piece of advice for people that are struggling and i mean narrowing it down a little bit too much. Maybe but people that are you know dealing with things ideas especially during this pandemic but even during normal times In what are some things that they can do to kind of help. Ease those anxious thoughts. Yeah the the main theme of my book and we always encourage my clients to think about as to how curiosity is kind of an antidote to anxiety. And if there's so much going on your in your life right now can you find one challenge that you're just naturally curious about an interesting and start at start there to lead with your interests. You know if. You're know if i give all these common examples but you know if you're finding that you and your spouse are arguing over how to load the dishwasher and you can laugh in that and that's interesting to think about them play around with your responses to that you know if if you're curious about noticing how you interact with a certain co worker who just really makes you anxious intense. You know can you. Can you reach out to them more and have more conversations with them and play around with regulating yourself and coming down. When they're freaking out you know to just pick an arena of life where you have enough energy and interest to to work on managing yourself a little bit better and acting a little bit more with more maturity and you know can you write down some of your observations share them with your therapist. Do something that engages that front part of your brain. That problem solves. Because i think what people tend to do is they tend to tackle everything and they overwhelmed with it or they feel bored with it and they wonder why they're not getting anywhere. And so you know..

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Breakfast Leadership

Breakfast Leadership

04:49 min | 3 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Breakfast Leadership

"Definitely not a situation you want to be in with your family and so in especially specialist parents right now too. I just encourage everybody to let other people surprise you with their capabilities. Because i think we tend to assume especially when it's people we care about that they're going to need more help or they're going to have a harder time than they actually might and so just not not going into it assuming that people are going to be helpless but giving them a little bit of space to show you what they can do i. This is this applies at work too. I think we all could probably do a little bit of that. Right now on definitely applies both at home and work and we're seeing that with managers in the workplace that were used to stopping by the desk or the cubicle. The see how work was going well. They don't have that opportunity now. So that's why phrases like zoom fatigue has come into play because sometimes these managers wanna have several meetings during the day to see how things are going instead of let your employees do the role learn their job and do their job and check in and say do you need anything. And i'll likelihood they don't and let them do their job and let them do it in the way that they did. It seem similar to that lean exercise. You hired these people to do this work. They should know how to do it. Let them do it and let them figure out their way to complete it as long as it's not an assembly line kind of thing and it just says here's the outcome that we need to work on. Let them do it. Let them have that creative flow to figure out how to do it because they may find a more efficient way to do it. That's better than the way that the manager thinks. that can be done. Same thing with taking care of letting your kids do some chores or your spouse handle some things that you normally do. It's right now. Is the definite time to delegate as much as you can and let people have an opportunity to help out because that reduces the strain and the time crunch on everything that we're facing right now and and you yes anxiety on okay. It may not work. Well once source thing is going to happen if it doesn't work and you kinda turned the tide on how you're thinking about some things like ok not to go. What's worse case scenario type of thinking because that just adds gasoline to a fire. But it's like okay. What what's the potential outcomes if it goes this swear this. According to a question i commonly people are what are the stakes here. How high the stakes are you acting. As if they're much higher than they actually are. And i think that's that's a useful question for people because they start to realize that someone being less efficient than you. That's not most of the time that's not high stakes that that's a manageable thing. It bubble a little better..

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Breakfast Leadership

Breakfast Leadership

05:10 min | 3 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Breakfast Leadership

"They're engaging that part of their brain that is going to come up with solutions. And then is gonna make things seem more manageable. And so i think it's largely a the exercise of kind of putting the focus back on on the president and what being responsible and being kind to yourself. Looks like in the moment in on the other thought i had was. I think that going along the lines of kind of the boundaries between work and home being blurred. I think that also happens in our relationships. You know a lot of my work is on relationship focus. And i think what a lot of people have observed is that they start to become over responsible for their spouse for their kids maybe even for their co workers because these lines have gotten blurred and a lot of their energy and time is getting directed towards managing other people instead of themselves. So a lot of the work. I'm doing right now. With people is to help them observe when they begin to over function or direct the people around them in their house. And how they can kind of step back a little bit from that and reclaim some of that energy. Because i think it is such an automatic thing that happens when you're all cooped up together. I noticed that very early on my husband. And i were both working for home. And all of a sudden. I was telling him how to structure his day. And that's not my responsibility but it's just a thing that happens when you're stressed out and when you're close together and so i think it's i always encourage people to ask themselves you know. How do i be less responsible for everyone else and more responsible for myself right now and. I think that the people who are able to do that aren't getting burnt out quite as quickly as everyone else because they are. They're working on managing themselves in their own anxiety as opposed to being responsible for everybody else's screwed advice because taking care of i is crucial. Because you won't be able to take care of anybody if you don't take care of yourself i and setting those boundaries in doing the work and dealing with your own anxious thoughts and behaviors and thought patterns as really beneficial because that way you can like okay. Let's take a look at this. And i love the example. You shared by your husband where it's like okay. We're working together now boy. It'd make life so much easier for me if he would just do it this way. And and sometimes they may be open to that and realize. Hey that's actually a better way for me to do it. Or they may say well you know what now. This is actually the best way for me. A real quick story I have a lean certification and that was mostly healthcare but in other areas as well and there was a nurse at a hospital and there was a lean exa part of it. But i heard the story where this nurse had been working in this particular ward of the hospital for over twenty years so she knows every quarter inch of that floor and everything about it..

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"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Breakfast Leadership

Breakfast Leadership

03:52 min | 3 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Breakfast Leadership

"Call your parents to come help with your kids if they're at risk or if they're not around right you can't maybe make a big job change or switch things up that you would be able to do a normal time so people have to get more creative than they have to really think about what it looks like on a daily level to be more responsible for yourself in your anxiety and i'm happy to to think about that with people. I've seen a dramatic increase in in out and had a conversation with individual earlier this morning for a pre interview for show that i'm going to be on In a couple of weeks and we talked about burnout in how the traditional remedies and you alluded to that of how you deal with. Burnout aren't necessarily available. And also a lot of ingredients that can lead into burn which is of course. Prolonged stress is coming at a snatches from our work environment but everything else because for many of us our work environment and our home environment. Congratulations the same place. And then toss in the fact. That many of us became fulltime schoolteachers over the last few months. And we're trying to figure out the third grade math and we haven't done third grade math since third grade and it looked a lot different than than it does now or at least that's what we think square like. What in the world is this. And all of these stressors That are coming into pretty much. Every aspect of people's lives working on resiliency and finding that spacey talked about is so important because she said we may not have a private place to go to but going outside even walking. If you have a yard or an apartment or condo building you know walking around the building just yourself just to take a few minutes in and breathing some outside air Can help with that in..

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Breakfast Leadership

Breakfast Leadership

04:01 min | 3 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Breakfast Leadership

"Welcome back. I've got dr kathleen smith on the line. Dr welcome to the show. Thank you you can just call me. Kathleen i'm happy with that quantity at least give you your title and then from there. We'll go from there so that's awesome so great to have you on the show. He wrote a book a little while ago and During this time of this recording we're in the middle of a pandemic and the title of your book and what it's about is amazing and it's the message that i think a lot of people need to hear so sheriff's a little bit about your the book and some things you've discovered after releasing it. Yes so the name of the book is everything isn't terrible conquer your insecurities interrupting zayed's and finally calmed down and came out at the beginning of this year. And little. did i know that. I already seemed. It was going to be an anxious year. But i had no idea how anxious it would be for so many people and you know i'm a therapist i Have a practice in dc. And i am trained in a theory called in theory which is Sort of a family systems way of thinking or a relationship way of thinking about anxiety. And i wanted to write a book that i could give to my therapy clients. You know because i live in. Dc have over achieving clients. They always want homework and things turn. And i wanted a book that kinda summarize the theory. I was trained in in a way that's acceptable in narrative and is not to to academic to it at the same time and so you know. The book is just stories of various clients. That i've worked with obviously details are changed to protect their identity. But just what it looks like to to grow up slowly and calm down slowly over time because that's the only way it happens anxieties Thing that challenges so many people And even in quote unquote normal times anxiety can be really problematic..

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"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on KROQ 106.7FM

KROQ 106.7FM

05:48 min | 4 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on KROQ 106.7FM

"Kids helping kids. Thanks again. Amber. We appreciate you and I appreciate you a swell happy Halloween. Thank you. Thank you Take care. Open line with Tammy Heidi Thanksgiving this year. Well, it's going to be different, thanks to Cove it and that's a double edged sword for the lonely and isolated. It's devastating for those looking to avoid annoying family. It's great. So can extend 70 News Radio's Charles Feldman and Mike Simpson talked about this with Dr Kathleen Smith. She's a licensed therapist and author of the book. Everything isn't Terrible. Conquer your Insecurities, Interest. Your anxiety and finally calmed down Thanksgiving Christmas other holiday is coming up. Not so sure that they're not going to be, if not terrible, They're not going to be as good as they once were. Yeah, I think there's a lot of uncertainty. People aren't sure whether they should make plans or sort of hunker down and see what's going to happen. And I think that causes a lot of anxiety and even some conflict and families, So people probably been worried about it before now, But now they're getting closer. They're going to keep worrying about it. It's just going to get worse. So what do you think people should try to do it? Especially if they've been looking forward to this and let's say you live alone. This is the only time you're going to see your family or you were hoping to. But now Cove, it's on the mine. And you're thinking maybe I've got a skip it this year. And then that's just going to make an already depressing year. More depressing. Yeah, letting first the temptation is to just not talk about it with your family and hope they don't notice if you don't show up on. So I think communication is definitely key, You know, be honest about what you're willing to do. What you're comfortable with. What you're thinking is and be prepared that people might not always agree with That and that that's okay. I think is the first thing to remember. Okay, but But that may take care of how you sort of communicate with your family, But But now what happens you're you find yourself at home, Whether it's Thanksgiving Christmas, Whatever. And you got no place You can go. Yeah, absolutely. You know, I think what happens at the holidays a lot. As we see maybe lots of family and we interact with lots of people on that option isn't available to us And you know, I encouraged. Might there be clients to think about one or two family members or close friends? You know those relationships that you want to focus on? Can you spend time talking to those people catching up with them learning about their lives sharing what your challenges have been this year? Because I think that the holidays we missed that one toe one connection. We're just overwhelmed with everybody right? So this year could be an important time to kind of focus on those relationships that have been put on the back burner. I think that can help sort of ward off some of this mental whole funk that people are experiencing. What about for people who say that zoom and face time They just don't cut it. It's nice. Could see him and it's way better than what we used to have. But it's just not quite there, and it doesn't make you feel the same. You know, encourage people to get creative, You know. Are there people in your neighborhood you can see from a distance, you know? Do you want to send long e mails to people telling them stories about your life or lots of Christmas cards or whatever you know, I think to just get creative and recognize that there are so many ways to communicate other than just being there in person or zooming. Do not forget that those air option It's a cz. Well, you know, I wonder if you know how Some sporting events there now putting cardboard cutouts of people. Maybe we should do that and sit them around the table. That's a wonderful idea. And it would be the first Thanksgiving where everyone agreed with you about. Yeah, you can. You can have whatever political discussion you any. Anyone in the table descent and crickets, Doctor. What are you going to do for the holidays? If we may ask, And I guess it all comes down to personal preference. And trying to do things is safely as possible. Right? That's the key. You know for us, I think We're going to be spending Thanksgiving just with me and my husband and my daughter, you know, and we've had conversations with family and we've tried to be, you know, really thoughtful about what we're going to do, and you know, over the Christmas holiday season, and that's still an ongoing conversation. And what we're trying to do is just keep that communication going getting a good sense of what people are comfortable with, and and making plans for. How do we, You know, howto we rest how to re relax If we don't have the grandparent's there to do childcare for us, I think we might have to get creative about Dr Kathleen Smith, licensed therapist, author of the book. Everything isn't Terrible. You're Listeningto Online. As of open line production time the Dodgers and raise had each won a game in the World Series. Can IX, 10 70 News Radio's Mike Simpson and Charles Feldman spoke to Charley Steiner play by play broadcaster for the Dodgers before the World Series started as Faras comebacks go deficit wise in this Siri's Wow. You know, you look back at this. Theories and you look at the two teams. The Dodgers were the highest scoring often in the National League by one run over the Atlanta Braves. They were down three games to one to the Braves. They win by one game, and in that deciding game it was one run. So it was. It was thrilling. It was terrific. It was strange, and I mentioned it on the Arab few times. One of the things you expect in a highly dramatic game is the crowd of 55,000 standing as one cheering like crazy, and it felt more like covering a high stakes poker game. You know, it was mano a mano and who would finally flipped the deck with the best hand and ultimately, the Dodge. So is there. Do you think some secret ingredient some secret sauce that this time? The outcome different for the Dodgers. I have no earthly idea. Everything.

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"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on KNX 1070 NEWSRADIO

KNX 1070 NEWSRADIO

05:11 min | 4 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on KNX 1070 NEWSRADIO

"I'm like Simpson and I'm Charles Feldman. Kirky. Cranberries stuffing. Thank Well, wait a minute. Maybe there won't be Thanksgiving. But then there's Christmas, and people will be going on planes and going to see their fit. Oh, but wait a minute. Maybe that won't happen either. Is 2020 going to be the A year with no holidays. We'll go in depth at Burbank to the list of cities and acting facemask ordinances and promising to put some teeth into enforcement. We're going to talk to the Burbank Police Department person if they're ready to start writing tickets. And a few months back. We told you about some very scary inflammation symptoms that we're showing up in Children with Cove it now doctors air, seeing adult patients presenting with some of those very same symptoms, So I'm still on the stuffing. I love sort of line L. A's mayor Eric Garcetti has a lot on his plate the immediate future and try to contain the covert outbreak in Ella stubbornly refusing to level out and then down the line. Maybe A cabinet position in Impossible Biden administration but later this hour he is back here with us on in depth as we revive. Ask the mayor, we start with Cove it infected holidays. Dr. Kathleen Smith is a licensed therapist, author of the book. Everything isn't Terrible. Well, it's good to know, Doctor that everything is in terrible for her some good things right. But Thanksgiving Christmas other holiday is coming up. Ah, nuts so sure that they're not going to be, if not terrible, They're not going to be as good as they once were. Yeah, I think there's a lot of uncertainty. People aren't sure whether they should make plans or sort of hunker down and see what's going to happen, and I think that causes a lot of anxiety and even some conflict and families. So people have probably been worried about it before now, But now that we're getting closer, they're going to keep worrying about it. It's just going to get worse. So what do you think people should try to do? Especially if they've been looking forward to this and let's say you live alone. This is only time you're going to see your family or you were hoping to. But now Cove it's on the mine, and you're thinking. Maybe I've got a skip it this year. And then that's just going to make an already depressing year more depressing. Yeah, well, I think first the temptation is to just not talk about it with your family and hope they don't notice if you don't show up on. So I think communication is definitely key. You know, be honest about what you're willing to do what you're comfortable with. What you're thinking is and be prepared that people might not always agree with it. And that that's okay. I think is the first thing to remember. Okay, but But that may take care of how you should communicate with your family, but But now what happens your find yourself at home? Whether it's Thanksgiving Christmas, Whatever. And you got no place you can go. Yeah, absolutely. You know, I think what happens at the holidays a lot as we see maybe lots of family and we interact with lots of people, and that option is available to us. And, you know, I encouraged. Might there be clients to think about one or two family members or close friends? You know those relationships that you want to focus on? Can you spend time talking to those people catching up with them learning about their lives? Sharing what your challenges have been this year because I think that the holidays we missed that one toe one connection. We're just overwhelmed with everybody. Right? So this year could be an important time to kind of focus on those relationships that have been put on the back burner. And I think that can help sort of ward off some of this mental whole funk that people are experiencing. What about for people who say they've Exume and face time They just don't cut it. It's nice. You can see him and it's way better than what we used to have. But it's just not quite there, and it doesn't make you feel the same. You know, encourage people to get creative, You know. Are there people in your neighborhood you can see from a distance, you know? Do you want to send long e mails to people telling them stories about your life for lots of Christmas cards or whatever you know, I think to just get creative and recognize that there are so many ways to communicate. Other than just being there in person or zooming to not forget that those air options as well, You know, I wonder if you know how some sporting events there now putting cardboard cut outs of people. Maybe we should do that and sit them around the table. That's a wonderful idea. And it will be the first Thanksgiving where everyone agreed with you about. Yeah, you can. You can have whatever political discussion you have to say any anyone in the table descent and crickets. Doctor. What? What are you going to do for the holidays? If we may ask, And I guess it all comes down to personal preference and trying to do things as safely as possible. Right? That's the key. Yeah, you know for us. I think we're going to be spending Thanksgiving just with me and my husband and my daughter, you know, and we've had conversations with family and we've tried to be, you know, really thoughtful about what we're going to do, And you know, over the Christmas holiday season, and that's still an ongoing conversation. And what we're trying to do is just keep that communication going. Getting a good sense of what people are comfortable with, and and making plans for..

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"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on KNX 1070 NEWSRADIO

KNX 1070 NEWSRADIO

05:44 min | 4 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on KNX 1070 NEWSRADIO

"And I'm Charles Feldman. Turkey cranberries stuffing. Thank Well, wait a minute. Maybe there won't be Thanksgiving. But then there's Christmas, and people will be going on planes and going to see their fit. Oh, but wait a minute. Maybe that won't happen either. Is 2020 going to be the A year with no holidays. We'll go in depth at Burbank to the list of cities and acting facemask ordinances and promising to put some teeth into enforcement. We're going to talk to the Burbank Police Department person. If they're ready to start writing tickets and a few months back, we told you about some very scary inflammation symptoms that we're showing up in Children with Cove. It Now doctors air seeing adult patients presenting with some of those very same symptoms, So I'm still on the stuffing. I love sort of Ella's Mayor, Eric Garcetti has a lot on his plate, the immediate future and try to contain the covert outbreak in Ella stubbornly refusing to level out and then down the line. Maybe A cabinet position in a possible Biden administration. But later this hour he is back here with us on in depth as we revive. Ask the mayor, we start with Cove it infected holidays. Dr. Kathleen Smith is a licensed therapist, author of the book. Everything isn't Terrible. Well, it's good to know, Doctor, that everything is in terrible for her some good things, right? But Thanksgiving Christmas other holiday is coming up. Ah, nuts so sure that they're not going to be, if not terrible, They're not going to be as good as they once were. Yeah, I think there's a lot of uncertainty. People aren't sure whether they should make plans or sort of hunker down and see what's going to happen, and I think that causes a lot of anxiety and even some conflict and families. So people have probably been worried about it before now, But now that we're getting closer, they're going to keep worrying about it. It's just going to get worse. So what do you think people should try to do? Especially if they've been looking forward to this and let's say you live alone. This is only time you're going to see your family or you were hoping to. But now Cove it's on the mine. And you're thinking maybe I've got a skip it this year, and then that's just going to make an already depressing here. More depressing. Yeah, well, I think first the temptation is to just not talk about it with your family and hope they don't notice if you don't show up on. So I think communication is definitely key. You know, be honest about what you're willing to do what you're comfortable with. What you're thinking is and be prepared that people might not always agree with it. And that that's okay. I think is the first thing to remember. Okay, but But that may take care of how you should communicate with your family, but But now what happens your find yourself at home? Whether it's Thanksgiving Christmas, Whatever. And you got no place you can go. Yeah, absolutely. You know, I think what happens at the holidays a lot as we see maybe lots of family and we interact with lots of people, and that option is available to us. And, you know, I encouraged. Might there be clients to think about one or two family members or close friends? You know those relationships that you want to focus on? Can you spend time talking to those people catching up with them learning about their lives? Sharing what your challenges have been this year because I think that the holidays we missed that one toe one connection. We're just overwhelmed with everybody right? So this year could be an important time to kind of focus on those relationships that have been put on the back burner. And I think that can help sort of ward off some of this mental whole funk that people are experiencing. What about for people who say that zoom and face time They just don't cut it. It's nice. You can see him and it's way better than what we used to have. But it's just not quite there, and it doesn't make you feel the same. You know, encourage people to get creative, You know. Are there people in your neighborhood you can see from a distance, you know? Do you want to send long e mails to people telling them stories about your life for lots of Christmas cards or whatever you know, I think to just get creative and recognize that there are so many ways to communicate other than just being there in person or zooming. Do not forget that those are our options. PSAs. Well, you know, I wonder if you know how some sporting events there now putting cardboard cutouts of people. Maybe we should do that and sit them around the table. That's a wonderful idea. And it would be the first Thanksgiving where everyone agreed with you about. Yeah, you can. You can have whatever political discussion you have anyone in the table descent and crickets. Doctor. What? What are you going to do for the holidays? If we may ask, And I guess it all comes down to personal preference and trying to do things as safely as possible. Right? That's the key. Yeah, you know for us. I think we're going to be spending Thanksgiving just with me and my husband and my daughter, you know, and we've had conversations with family and we've tried to be, you know, really thoughtful about what we're going to do, And you know, over the Christmas holiday season, and that's still an ongoing conversation. And what we're trying to do is just Keep that communication going getting a good sense of what people are comfortable with, and and making plans for. How do we, You know, howto we rest how to re relax. If we don't have the grandparent's there to do childcare for us, I think we might have to get creative about Dr Kathleen Smith, licensed therapist, author of the book Everything isn't Terrible. What kind of stuffing With gravy. Yeah, they're making you hungry when mechanics and death continues. Is the city of Burbank really prepared? To back up its new face mask ordinance with a show of force..

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"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on KNX 1070 NEWSRADIO

KNX 1070 NEWSRADIO

05:59 min | 4 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on KNX 1070 NEWSRADIO

"Simpson and I'm Charles Feldman, Turkey Cranberries. Stuffing. Thank Oh, wait a minute. Maybe there won't be Thanksgiving. But then there's Christmas and people will be going on planes and going to see their faces. Oh, but wait a minute. Maybe that won't happen either. Is 2020 going to be the year with no holidays. We'll go in depth at Burbank to the list of cities and acting facemask ordinances and promising to put some teeth into enforcement. We're going to talk to the Burbank Police Department person if they're ready to start writing tickets. And a few months back. We told you about some very scary inflammation symptoms that we're showing up in Children with Cove it now doctors air, seeing adult patients presenting with some of those very same symptoms, So I'm still on the stuffing. I love sort of line L. A's mayor Eric Garcetti has a lot on his plate the immediate future and try to contain the covert outbreak in Ella stubbornly refusing to level out and then down the line. Maybe A cabinet position in Impossible Biden administration but later this hour he is back here with us on in depth as we revive. Ask the mayor, we start with Cove it infected holidays. Dr. Kathleen Smith is a licensed therapist, author of the book. Everything isn't Terrible, but it's good to know doctor that everything is in terrible for her some good things. But Thanksgiving Christmas other holiday is coming up. Ah, nuts so sure that they're not going to be, if not terrible, They're not going to be as good as they once were. Yeah, I think there's a lot of uncertainty. People aren't sure whether they should make plans or sort of hunker down and see what's going to happen, and I think that causes a lot of anxiety and even some conflict and families. So people have probably been worried about it before now, But now that we're getting closer, they're going to keep worrying about it. It's just going to get worse. So what do you think people should try to do? Especially if they've been looking forward to this and let's say you live alone. This is the only time you're going to see your family or you were hoping to. But now Cove it's on the mine. And you're thinking maybe I've got a skip it this year, and then that's just going to make an already depressing here. More depressing. Yeah, well, I think first the temptation is to just not talk about it with your family and hope they don't notice if you don't show up on. So I think communication is definitely key. You know, be honest about what you're willing to do what you're comfortable with. What you're thinking is and be prepared that people might not always agree with it. And that that's okay. I think is the first thing to remember. Okay, but but that may take care of how you sort of communicate with your family, But But now what happens your find yourself at home? Whether it's Thanksgiving Christmas, Whatever. And you got no place you can go. Yeah, absolutely. You know, I think what happens at the holidays a lot as we see maybe lots of family and we interact with lots of people, and that option is available to us. And, you know, I encouraged. Might there be clients to think about one or two family members or close friends? You know those relationships that you want to focus on? Can you spend time talking to those people catching up with them learning about their lives? Sharing what your challenges have been this year because I think that the holidays we missed that one toe one connection. We're just overwhelmed with everybody right? So this year could be an important time to kind of focus on those relationships that have been put on the back burner. And I think that can help sort of ward off some of this mental whole funk that people are experiencing. What about for people who say that zoom and face time They just don't cut it. It's nice. You can see him and it's way better than what we used to have. But it's just not quite there, and it doesn't make you feel the same. Yeah, you know, encourage people to get creative, You know? Are there people in your neighborhood you can see from a distance, You know? Do you want to send long e mails to people telling them stories about your life for lots of Christmas cards or whatever you know, I think to just get creative and recognize that there are so many ways to communicate other than just being there in person or zooming. Do not forget that those air options as well, You know, I wonder if you know how at some sporting events there now putting cardboard cutouts of people. Maybe we should do that. And set them around the table. That's a wonderful idea. And it would be the first Thanksgiving where everyone agreed with you about. Yeah, you can. You can have whatever political discussion you have anyone in the table descent and crickets. Doctor. What? What are you going to do for the holidays? If we may ask, And I guess it all comes down to personal preference and trying to do things as safely as possible. Right? That's the key. Yeah, you know for us. I think we're going to be spending Thanksgiving just with me and my husband and my daughter, you know, and we've had conversations with family and we've tried to be, you know, really thoughtful about what we're going to do, And you know, over the Christmas holiday season, and that's still an ongoing conversation. And what we're trying to do is just keep that communication going. Getting a good sense of what people are comfortable with, and and making plans for. How do we, You know, howto we rest how to re relax If we don't have the grandparent's there to do childcare for us, I think we might have to get creative about Dr Kathleen Smith, licensed therapist, author of the book Everything isn't Terrible. What kind of Stuffing With gravy. Yeah, there, make it. Yeah. Hungry When can IX and death continues? 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"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

02:12 min | 7 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Relationship Advice

"Bonus content at the end of each episode where our guests provides a round up of that day's topic and anything that we skipped over or what they really want to emphasize, and then our bonus round of actionable relationship tips, and then our insider plus members are enjoying that free episode. Of, completely new content that fifth episode, a month that they're also contributing in helping decide the topic for next month. So we're excited to be bringing that to you guys become a loved member at the link in the description. Super easy, and of course, you can cancel anytime if you don't love it and it's really a great way to get more actionable relationship advice and help support the show. Yeah. We created three tiers. The first one starts at two dollars. Dollars for people who just want to support. US support the show. We've had a lot of people reach out asking how they can do that. So you can easily do that for the two dollars, and then we have the next two tiers that chase already kind of gave a lot of information on the next one is seven, and that is the at free episodes with the bonus questions, and then the ten dollar tear is that everything we already mentioned. Plus that extra bonus episode each month and we are just loving these new questions and all this new content that we are creating and we know you guys will have to, and on today's episode, we welcome back Dr Kathleen Smith, and she is a licensed therapist and the author of the book everything isn't terrible. Conquer your insecurities, interrupt your anxiety, and finally calmed down and re talk with Dr Kathleen about taking responsibility for ourselves and responding rather than reacting. Reacting in our relationship. So there's a lot of great stuff in today's show where a lot of time we want to project onto our partner, but we want to have happened in the relationship, but really we need to take responsibility for ourselves. So Dr Kathleen goes over ways to do that, and when we're communicating, it's also showing for.

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"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on WCBS Newsradio 880

WCBS Newsradio 880

03:40 min | 11 months ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on WCBS Newsradio 880

"One New York City now has forty seven thousand four hundred thirty nine cold nineteen coronavirus cases more than half the cases in all of New York state mayor de Blasio announced today that all the city's public hospitals are being turned into I see you hospitals to Wall Street apparently fears the covert nineteen pandemic will go on longer than expected the Dow was down nine hundred seventy three points at the close a close to twenty thousand nine hundred forty three the S. and P. five hundred was down one hundred fourteen points the nasdaq closed down three hundred thirty nine points and three doctor Kathleen Smith is a therapist and the author of everything is in terrible conquer your insecurities interrupt your anxiety and finally calm down I think that's really good advice for a lot of us especially these days because when we are dealing with something you discuss this in your book that is a big news event or its global or all around us it can really cause extra anxiety in our lives yeah absolutely because anxiety is contagious if we can sense it from other people you know we absorb it just as quickly what you discussed in your book is that you say that are thinking tends to jump to the worst case scenario can you explain that to us and why that is well you kind of have this you know you need power that other animals don't have we don't care since the danger in front of us we can imagine potential danger and that can really distract us from the problems that need to be solved today in the concerns are very real only began to sort of focus on the what ifs and the worst case scenario I can really distract us from from the troubled at hand and I think a lot of us want to balance staying informed when we have a situation that's going on like the corona virus pandemic with sort of keeping our common keeping our anxiety in check what are some tips that you have for that what's your advice it's useful for people to sit down and write out a couple questions they want to ask themselves every day you know for me it seems like one of the problems I need to solve today what information do I need when is the best time of day to update myself that might not be before you go to bed at night right what would it look for me to hold on to it my best thinking when everyone around me is panicking you know another one could be how do I be helpful to other people right now without becoming over responsible for them are trying to control them you know those are just a few examples of good questions but I think people can generate and sit down and have them guide them through this really anxious time every day and I think those can be really powerful in your book suggests avoiding that all or nothing thinking yes we tend to jump jump into that all or nothing thinking and we don't see the new wants and the complexity of the problems in front of us you know when your brain is using words like always or never things are always going to be this way right I will never leave the house again those are through right so if you just feel right you know it's useful to recognize when you're doing that kind of thinking and you also say it's wise to accept on some uncertainty and then just stick to the facts yeah you know only the only thing you can control right now really is yourself right so if the future is uncertain if you're focusing on the person you want to take into the future right that work will benefit you so it's useful to remember that managing your anxiety today taking care of yourself and doing good thinking is going to benefit you in the future no matter what the future brings Dr Kathleen Smith is a therapist and the author of everything is in.

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"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

03:04 min | 1 year ago

"dr kathleen smith" Discussed on Relationship Advice

"Chris Paul Sarah over there. Dj Now it's just my fellow time coming through here. Sounds like a DJ intro. Welcome to the show guys. Thank you for Tuning in Sarah's sounding a little loosey Goosey southern after three interviews. That's rabbits by the third. Were very engaged. We're excited but our brains need a little bit of a well. We just get silly goofy. I'm just making excuses for your silliness as always today. We have a great show for you guys where we talk about how to have less anxious relationships and I know I really identify with a lot of times just putting my issues out into the world a lot of times. That's on Sarah or like issues like maybe an issue at work and we're venting to our partner and can that's okay but it can also be unhealthy. So that is what we mean by the anxiousness getting it out there and Dr Kathleen Smith walks us through a better way to go through this process. Yeah like like chase mentioned. He definitely likes to vent and talk about his problems. And I. I love that I love being able to to be there and Kathleen actually gave me some amazing tools of how to listen and respond with a neutral response which I had not heard of and I have not been doing so. I'm looking forward to implementing that in a relationship because I think it can benefit us. Both I'm ready for the new two inches. Not Me yelling at you now I am. Neutral is really good stuff and Kathleen is a licensed therapist and mental health writer. And she's the author of the new book. Everything is in terrible conquer. Your insecurities interrupt your anxiety and finally calm down and as always thank you guys for listening to the show sharing with your friends and family subscribing to are fourteen day. Happy couple challenge that on our website. It is a free challenge if you have not done it before and then checking out. Online course spark my relationship and enjoy the episode. Today show is brought to you by our online course spark my relationship create more passion improve your communication and build a stronger more intimate connection with your partner unless the ninety days we've collaborated with fifteen therapists and psychologists to bring you the strategies marriage therapists teach their clients to unlock a special offer only for ID podcast listeners. Visit spark my relationship dot com slash unlock. That's spark my relationship dot com slash unlock..

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