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"dr diane" Discussed on The Dream Detective
"Now at the young pattern as one we you're talking about it as an adult pattern it's called usually called preoccupied which means you're preoccupied you can't quite let go of the painful history avoid folks are very future oriented they they just think hey, I had three Meals a day and my mom took me to the doctor. I'm good. You know they don't. They don't really allow themselves to dwell on the neglect that happened they that takes a while for them to be willing to go there and because it's painful, right? The ambivalent is the opposite of that they tend to interpret things negatively and they tend. To, sometimes come across as complaining and that's sometimes pushes away the people they most want to be close to. But let me explain why that might happen because it's not that they're trying to be negative or anything like that. The way it was when they were babies usually the research shows that they had inconsistent parenting. So you know. Parents there, and then they're not and. It's Kinda like Russian Roulette. You never know if your parents gonNA show up there here today gone tomorrow and it's not consistent. So it's really challenging for a child because they start to blame themselves like well, how come my mom's or my dad isn't available now and yesterday they were and what did I do wrong and my lovable and all these questions start to happen about something's wrong with me children will internalize that or what can I do? How can I twist myself into a pretzel to get my mom's attention more consistently or more stabilized, and so this inconsistency and unpredictability. Actually is kind of a recipe for obsession away because if you think about intermittent reward, that's a psychological term, but it's just like gambling. You know when you're gambling one of the things that hooked you about gambling sometimes you win right and many times you lose there's enough winning going on that keeps you hooked into what's going to happen next well, I get it next I'm GonNa, put another quarter and maybe it'll work you know. So it's that kind of pattern that child often finds themselves in trying to figure out how they can stabilize the relationship with their parents and it's painful. It's very painful this pattern because very often there's a lot of hurt that comes from that and anxious folks they. Seem to not. Have a consistent internal image of the parent like a sort of a representation of the parent that they can rely on when the parents gone on a business trip or just out of the room they they tend to feel this loss and sense of abandonment like they're just not. They're..
"dr diane" Discussed on The KTS Success Factor (a Podcast for Women)
"Plan that they bring back to leaders. You're getting it just like Disney did from the horse's mouth basically all the things we need to be more curious to better and more productive very interesting. That's pretty cool. Can you point my listeners to one free and actionable tip that you can share with them to help them understand curiosity better. Well I think right now we have a lot of time on our hands you know and I think it's important to write down the things that why we do things the way we do. We don't do things differently. And I mentioned those four things of fear assumptions technology and environment and whether they take the assessment or not they can write down some things in those areas. What things do not talk about in your means are as a leader or whatever position? You're in that make you feel like it'll make you look dumb and a lot of people leaders are always worried that they're gonNA look like they don't know as much as they're supposed to know and but when you emulate what you want others to act like you really can open them up to doing what you need them to do so tell them. Hey I don't answer everything. This is what I normally wouldn't ask that you set the stage for them to get over their fear of asking and the same thing for assumptions. What are you telling yourself you're not interested in you. Don't WanNa look into because it didn't work in the past or wouldn't and we have all these voices in our heads and with technology. How are you over under utilizing it? Do you have days where you could maybe explorer some depth behind how the technology works because some people would be great math wizards. If they didn't just have calculator they knew how the mathworks behind who and other days you know how all these amazing programs are out there how you could use them environment. Consider WHO's impacting. How you and your employees are `having in certain situations. It might not be your current boss as bothering him but maybe a couple of bosses back said something that made him. Vic can never ask a question or explore another area. It could be teacher. Their family their friends the social media. There's all these things and that's why I cover all these things when we do the training because once you focus on these things and write them down you can create an action plan to move forward. That is very cool and those are really good self assessment questions. I like that now is a really good time to take the time to think about them to. Would you like to point the audience to a to some resources where they can learn more about this? Well you can go to my website at Dr Diane Hamilton Dot Com. But you can also go to curiosity CO DOT COM to go straight to the training and all of that if you're interested in maybe becoming certified to give the Curiosity Code Index. They give five hours of surgery. Recertification credit from sherm for going through the training which you can do virtually right now which is kind of Nice since nobody can go places and get that out of the way then. When you go back.
"dr diane" Discussed on Power 105.1 FM
"Hopefully you guys are enjoying your days with B. I have like fifty two degrees is very chilly outside looks like the sun is out which is a good day many no god damn high it sounds not out over here in New York I'm in Jersey to set his nose this is out right now is in those down here that make me hopeful that we'll get some sun at some point today wow I'm actually you know so crazy I'm mama go through to make today and the positive a check even though my wife is telling me that I could just do it online but I'm like no I want to go the money is made only like five minutes yeah but I feel like just driving for two seconds so it's literally like a two second you wanna get out okay well good luck on you today I mean I just deposited them up but eight if you want to be a lot three do you oppose they said they said the most New York City kids probably already have corona virus according to one pediatrician in New York Dr Diane Haynes they said that you can assume their children have the virus even if they contract even mild symptoms consistent because everybody doesn't update at so who knows this is one I mean according to the actor I think probably eighty percent of the children have corona virus we are not testing children but a lot of the kids according to Dr Diane he's is ours a symptomatic I mean the body building up the antibodies right I mean this sounds good I mean just if they can pass it to older people that's the only problem with the capacity grandparents parents.
Reducing Hospital Infections
"Acquired in hospitals are the number one cause of hospital harm hospitals. Those are fabulous breeding grounds for infections and hospital infections cost America about thirty eight billion dollars a year and result in about one hundred thousand deaths each year and among hospital acquired infections. Pneumonia is at the very top of the list list. which is the type of infection that I'm interested in? That's Dr Diane Baker. I'm a professor of nursing at California State University Sacramento Manam. Getting pneumonia in the hospital is not good. These infections or hard to treat they cause people to spend more time in the hospital and and they cost money to treat and they often cause death. That's why we're so interested in taking all the steps necessary to prevent these types of infections actions. It won't surprise you. That hospitals encourage frequent hand washing and the wearing of masks gowns. But Dr Baker's team team has discovered that a dollar thirty five intervention can significantly decreased pneumonia and patients like it. Dr Baker Acre observed that often nurses just don't have the resources to deliver fundamental nursing. Care things like helping people to get out of bed. Providing leading skin care and oral care the consequence of omitting this care of course is that it puts the patient at increased risk for hospital acquired infection. It it turns out that a good number of cases of hospital acquired de Monja can be prevented the Monja comes from germs in the mouth. If we omit ah basic or or care the germs over Berlin. The mouth and they can easily slip into the lungs causing an infection. That's what we call the MONJA. Hospitals are the perfect storm for pneumonia is to develop in part. This is due to patients lying in bed. Being given medicines that suppress their koff having dry. Maoz and an ultra diet. So Dr Baker's team began to think how they might change this pattern. That's got the idea idea that we kept the mouth clean and stopped the germs from Boeing. That perhaps we could prevent this the MONJA and indeed. That's exactly actly. What we did. Dr Baker got three large healthcare systems to give her idea. Try Simple as it might be. Nurses made sure or that. Mouths were healthy. And then encouraged hospitalized people to brush their teeth three to four times a day. This means that they're given a good couth brush. Toothpaste antiseptic now. France and we started brushing teeth before surgery as kind of a logical step. You're having a big surgery as someone's like they put a tube your throat without surgery. Your mouth should be as clean as possibly could be. It's a simple step. But does it reduce pneumonia. Absolutely did reduce the MONJA and one of our studies have to seventy percent saving about thirty one lives savings. I'm about six million dollars a year and the results from the Kaiser permanent case system were equally as impressive literally saving millions of dollars for the organization and hundreds of lives so the solution is simple low cost and low tech but believe it or not. Hospitals are still not adopting this a dollar thirty five intervention. Why because so far no accrediting organization has officially told hospitals. They need to to do it. Come on really. This is Dr Michael Wilks with a second opinion.
"dr diane" Discussed on James Miller | Lifeology
"Their, their communications. Sometimes you can do the parroting back literally word for word, but they said or you can do the summary of what they said, and then you check in with them. Is this what is this, what you said? And so with that from a from marital point, obviously, it works, and obviously, what you're saying years from a from a business point is well, it really can improve the effectiveness of communication. Right. I did you very effective in the marital? Yeah, it would really fine that, that allowed people because there's different connotations of words, for example, as an adult my version of love my definition of that is going to be different than say a fourteen year old girls version of love. And so our concepts are different. So I may use a word that's not emotionally charged for me. But somebody else hears that word, and it's like, whoa, that word means something very negative. And all of a sudden, like what is going on? I just simply said something and so it is so. Important to have that emotional intelligence, TB able to read the nuances of one's facial structure, or the muscular ones faces to recognize emotions or the movement of one's body until all that very subtle. And we do it all the time. But to really be aware of all those elements to create a really powerful in interpersonal effectiveness communication here. A lot of people actually a lot of people want him. I've worked have come to me and said, look this, look what they wrote, and I look at it, and I don't get the same meaning just for not, there's not even you're looking at words on age, and it's so we've got the technology aspect changing communication as well. And they would be very upset over whatever they read because they reading in all kinds of things that I not that I don't see at all. So there's, there's a lot of challenges in the workplace, especially with the virtual communications. And so. So learning these skills, and not necessarily looking for the negative overtones that made me aren't they're liable to do that. Exactly. In kind of reflect back in my field psychology. We has thinking is, so they're fifteen thinking errors into whatever you perceive causes you to feel something your feelings until your body how to react. And so the common thinking fifteen of them, which kind of a lens if you use one of these thinking, all of a sudden, you're going to create conflict, within yourself or conflict with someone else. And so I was out people if you're finding there's conflict, it's probably because one of us are thinking, so really being able to remove one of those lenses to say, well, this is what I think happened. But what if I thought of a little bit differently thinking of your thoughts like a rubik's, cube six different ways to look at a rubik's cube? If you only look at it one way, then you're probably going to have a conflict. So if you take out lens off, maybe they didn't mean to do that. Or what if I were to picture them saying this to me what I know about them do they mean that, and so it's like, oh maybe not. So let me kind of revisit that. But I agree with you. Without that. That emotional or that visual connection with someone once e Q is really going to determine if that conflicts. They're not. So it's really a digital adjunct that helps people communicate more effectively. Right. And there's just so many issues with communicating you know, virtually and technology is changing everything you have to be really open to giving people the benefit we, we call it network it in the classroom, and tone and different things that virtual courses. Yeah. And you don't want to type in all caps. You know you tell everybody. Do certain things people innocently type in all caps, have no idea that that's what it means. There's a lot of things that we try to teach one of my favorite classes I used to teach years ago was first line online first year. I'm sorry online, students who hadn't taken any courses at all. And they were so excited and to learn all the different things like that was, it was just kind of a fun. I love it. I even noticed some of the younger kids, but people younger than me, like even when they would right? If they would respond instead of just reading the word. Okay. K K K or kick. And that double, I guess, apparently that double letter means that they're open to talk to you later. There was like a hold nuance. And I was like, wait, what they were just very interesting to me. And there's this whole, I guess, text language if you will. That's. Younger younger generation knows. And I'm like, why did you write K twice? I don't get it. Anyways. Ha, ha, ha. That is to serve. There's so much of the evolution of all these things. Sometimes I'm behind the curve, and I'm like, wait a minute. Someone needs explained to me, or I have to go, and like urban dictionary to understand what is this acronym means? Or what does this term mean half the time? I don't even know. I know well, it does help being around so many people in my job. He has. I have like, oh, I'm glad I heard that because now won't feel right into that. Exactly. That is Dr Dan Hamilton. It's been Ashley has you're having you on my show today. If my listeners like more information about you buy all your books, your own radio show, which is amazing. Where would they find this information online? Well, you could find me just about anywhere if you put in Dr Diane Hamilton. So that's. DR. DIA. N. E. H. A. M. I. L. T. O N. So I'm on Twitter that way of Lincoln that way, I have a Facebook page.
Researchers hope new vaccine could improve odds for pancreatic cancer
"After chemo, radiation and surgery were unsuccessful Toma joined the vaccine trial last summer, so far he's doing well. My body has come back into tissue has come back. Yeah. I feel really good. As researchers continue to look for better ways of treating pancreatic cancer. They're also trying to figure out better ways of picking it up earlier before it has spread. This is something that we would want to follow in a high risk patient. Dr. Diane Simione heads the Pekkari at a cancer center at NYU Langone health in New York, her mission early diagnosis of a disease with few symptoms. She's been screening people at high risk. I can imagine. There are people out there watching her thinking. Well, I'm not at high risk, but let me just get tested. We really don't want to have people just getting testing willy nilly, but we do want to focus on people have two or more family members with pancreas cancer or people who might have a mutation that might put them at higher risk. It's early days for this type of testing and for the new vaccine treatment, but researchers are hopeful the odds can finally improve for this deadly
"dr diane" Discussed on WCBM 680 AM
"We are grateful to our Catholic radio partners for sharing with us some of the content in this program and for the opportunity to bring public Catholic programming to the archdiocese of Baltimore every Sunday. This is Chris. With us today on Catholic Baltimore is Bishop Adam Pirker, vicar general and moderator of the curia for the archdiocese of Baltimore because you're burqa was ordained to the priesthood in two thousand and served in several parishes before being assigned as priests secretary to Bishop Edwin f O'Brien when he was appointed to Baltimore in two thousand seven Bishop was ordained exhibiting Bishop of Baltimore in January two thousand seventeen welcome to the show. Thank you very much criticism pleasure to be with you today. We're gonna talk about a tough topic. This is the child sexual abuse. It's been happening in the church come to the fore, really, especially since some of the events this summer since that time you've been going out to honor the regional listening sessions and parish sessions to talk about this crisis this scandal. How many of those attended? And what are you hearing? As you. Go out we've done seventeen sessions NAS far, and that would include sessions that we have done with our priest here in your diocese are deacons. The folks who work here in central server. At the Catholic center as well. As people earn a pastoral staffs, and then parishes where prisoners have been violated to come at large. So quite quite a large population that we've had the opportunity to encounter thus far. What are you hearing from the people there certainly a lot of concern? There's anger there's confusion there's the wilder men. I think probably the prevailing sentiment has been. We thought we had this fixed almost two decades ago. How is it that we got back here today and people are wondering has the problem being fixed? Or is it still occurring today? How did we get back here today? The bishops pass the charter for the protection of children and young people with the accompanying norms that went with it. We thought those changes would take care of these concerns and yet here, we are two major things. Some course we heard about the revelations about archbishop McCarrick this past summer how he had four number. Of years been harassing seminarians. And also was found to have the substantiated allegation of child sexual abuse. Earlier this year, I think that revelation really kicked it off. And then it was compounded when the Pennsylvania grand jury report was released on August fourteenth detail in the fact that some three hundred priests had abused thousand children so lose to revelations this past summer brought us back and the took us back to where we are today. Certainly with the Pennsylvania grand jury report there is fueling even a perception created by the report and the news media following the report that that abuse happened in the very recent near past when in fact that report detailed allegations and incidents of abuse. Going back some seventy years, even in the state of Pennsylvania, the number of abuse cases since two thousand two is very very small, and I'm happy to see you. That is likewise true here in the archdiocese of Baltimore of the clergy abuse that we know of today it has been twenty five years since a priest heard a minor here in this archdiocese. Again, I want to be clear that that's what we know of today. So when we think about how we got back here. I think about the Pennsylvania report and the revelations there certainly opened up what was an old wound. But in fact, a story that we had heard before what I'm speaking on. I think you probably know is is the revelations that occurred back in two thousand and two as reported by the Boston Globe. And how the skin really broke wide open in Boston nearly two decades ago. How do you answer people who say that the church, and especially the bishops just aren't doing enough to prevent an address child sexual abuse in the church. I think it's important to take a look at our recent past in and how handling occur of allegations occurs today. Things are different. There has been a substantial evolution in the handling of allegations. And let me just for a moment about what we do here in the archdiocese today, and this is largely predicated upon the charter for the protection of young people. Unfortunately, thanks to our leadership here in yards diocese. Even prior to the charter, we have been handling these allegations in a particular way. What is that number one? The first thing that we do in an allegation of child sexual abuse comes in is we reported to civil authorities. That's been the law here in the state of Maryland for over twenty five years now and we comply with that law. So even if a person comes to us, and they're already an adult we still. Report that as is prescribed by Maryland law that gives the civil authorities their opportunity to do an investigation, and we likewise conduct our own internal investigation here at the level of the archdiocese. I who received a team that does those investigations which is primarily led by Gerry Burkhardt who is our officer for child and youth protection. The team is also staffed by our vice chancellor, Sean Kane who also works in communications our legal counsel. Dave king cough. Our chancellor, Dr Diane bar and our human resources director, Mr. Joe Smith. So we are the team that that oversee and investigate these allegations. Unless there is a an immediate, and very substantial reason to rule out any allegation that comes forward against a creased, we remove that priest immediately from ministry, if he's still active in fact. That happened earlier this year where a person came forward with an allegation dating back to one thousand nine hundred seventy s and as soon as we received the information about that alligator, and we reported it civil liberties did aren't initial investigation also immediately removed from ministry, a significant component on that removal from ministry is our public disclosure that the preseason been suspended and why so that's a substantial element in the evolution of how Al allegations of sexual abuse has has occurred in has changed because now in the priest is removed. We tell our faithful we tell the public why he's being removed. We've been doing that even since before the charter here in Baltimore that kind of transparency is extremely significant and important for our own credibility part of that process to in our public disclosure is if the priest is in active ministry. At the time of his removal. We will conduct a meeting at his parish on ministry. So that the people have the opportunity to be informed and also ask questions about the nation itself. A main reason why we want to make those allegations public is we understand that many victims survivors have a difficult time coming forward understandably, especially if they believe that they might be the only one. And so when we make a public disclosure about allegations, it gives other potential victims survivors the opportunity to know that they are not alone. And that the and should come forward to us. The other thing that we do with victim survivors when allegations made is we initially and immediately offer them with an apology on behalf of the church diocese. We also offer them counseling, and they can go to a counselor of their own choosing at the expense of the archdiocese. And we offer them counseling to them. For as long as it takes for their own healing, which for many if not most is over the course of many years, and it same process applies of the Gatien's against an allay employee, or volunteer and appearance your school. Correct. That's correct. And I'm glad you brought that up because it does happen. There have been allegations within the last twenty five years, in fact, much more recently with regard to lay employees and volunteers. So the problem regrettably is is not completely finished in. It's certainly is not isolated to clergy alone. But we do have a safe environment training process here in the archdiocese. Now, it's called versus and it is required by anyone who would volunteer or be employed or be ordained here in Baltimore. The purpose is that we want to create environments for young people that are absolutely as safe as they can possibly be. And we believe that that training has been effective. Why number one certainly we have seen the incidence of clerical sexual abuse decreased substantially since the nineteen seventies. In one thousand nine hundred eighty s also because of the reporting that comes into our office today, resulting from the safe environment sensitivity training that many of the reports that are made would indicate that people are keeping their eyes open. They're aware of things that are going around them. I would see that what we received today by way of reports into our office would largely fall under that broad category. You would call boundary violations or violations of the our archdiocese in code of conduct. So for example, it's against our code of conduct for an adult minister, whether it be a teacher or coach somebody working one of our schools to be texting a minor that's against the code of conduct. When that occurs, and it becomes known that's reported to our office. So that we can handle that here as well. So a number of those types of things certain are coming over the transom on a fairly regular basis, which means that the environment trainings are working that people are understanding what boundary violations are, and they know that there is a mechanism by which they can report them. In your meetings with victims survivors, what are you hear about their pain? And what do you say, what can you say to them? What I've learned is that healing is a lifelong struggle and most significantly that the healing process is not linear in terms of progress. In other words, it's not like they are better today than they were yesterday. And they're going to be better tomorrow than they are today. It doesn't work that way for most. If not all victims divers, sometimes they may have a period where they're making great progress. But at times, there are setbacks and certainly seen the incidents of child sexual abuse by clergy in the news would be something that for many does trigger a setback. So the healing doesn't occur in a short period of time. It's a lifelong journey it doesn't occur in a linear fashion. But. One of the things that I have learned from many of the victims were virus, I've met with is that healing is in fact possible, and so much do we want that healing to occur? We.
"dr diane" Discussed on The Brutal Truth About Sales and Selling
"Free chapter go to curiosity coach dot. Curiosities actually, like the number three thing that I hear from sales managers number one being coach ability number two being empathy in number three curiosity. Now, curiosity empathy very tightly coupled because you really can't be empathetic unless you're curious about the person about what their life is like what their day is. Like, how do they get rewarded what do they care about? And then be able to align what we do towards that. Now that seems obvious. But most people take just the opposite approach. We talk about who we are. And what we do. And that's you should be able to do that. But you shouldn't lead with that. You have to lead with what they care about the problems. They are facing and what they get rewarded for because it's very different. They don't get commission on what we so they get punished if it doesn't work. So they're going to be very cough. About change. So we have to walk them through that path and curiosity gets them to pull down the defenses. Because once they find out that we care about them that we're interested in them that we wondering how they're doing things today at what their thoughts and feelings are about what we are talking about that curiosity will help you understand where they're coming from understand what they're gonna do and how you can develop your judgment on where this deal should be in your priority, stack, and what to do next and stead of waiting for them to respond, and you give a proposal and have them try and fit into what you want. They don't care about what you want. So I hope you enjoyed that episode. I'm looking forward to reading that book. I think is I'm putting that into part of the course about closing the complex sale curiosity. Empathy and coach ability. I'm not sure how you present those things, in course. But even if you just greed yourself on it every day, meaning like how curious was I today about this call after that? Substantial call I mean, like a half hour sixty minute. Call ask yourself. You know was I curious enough. Or was I too curious and the time to create the curiosity is right before the call. What don't I know? What should I know? And how do I find that out? How do I develop those questions to find out that information, it becomes a superpower of very advanced sales people speaking of which if discover org, it's by far the best information source out there too, many of us are spending our time rummaging through the internet and linked in trying to find out information about who might be in market who might be interested. What the org chart looks like discover orcs cut it all done for you all put in a little bow for you. And as well as with pipe drive. You gotta check it out. It's really all they populate the CRM with a company information the contact stuff. And now you can automate your cadence when you move a deal from one stage to another you can connect that up with actions like sending an Email or putting something on the calendar. Something like that is super helpful to build out your cadence the coupon code for both nudge dot.
"dr diane" Discussed on The Brutal Truth About Sales and Selling
"So I I really think being curious about what the next job with the next step is what the next vacation is all that is really important in that all comes down to curiosity. Yeah. And can you really learn without being curious or is just one rotation. And they're, you know, it's funny because I had one of the first VP's from apple on my show who wrote a book about that. And he he did really well in IB league schools. He was like, you know, graduated top of his class. But it was just because he was great. He says is the only reason, but I. He says as he was very good at memorizing. And he thought that that was really not a good thing. And he realizes that. You know, I think he said it was on his final exam. He got in there. And they asked a question that nobody ever asked in class or wasn't in the reading it was, you know, just based off of if you knew that you could answer it, right? But he's just memorized. And he says he just went cold, you know. And if you just simply memorize it. It's not the same. You're not really a critical creative thinker. And I I think that a lot of us are taught to just do that night. And I think it's really important to to to change education up to some extent where you're extrapolating end and doing more than simply memorizing India fuel the school system kind of works curiosity out of us. I think it can I think that doesn't have to. I think that it has a lot of cases in not at not that. There aren't great teachers. But a lot of the systems are set up to reward teaching to the test and. It's just you know, everybody does what they think works, nobody's setting out related to liberally make people less curious, but it. That has been the unfortunate impact of some of the things that we've tried is some of them just don't work. And that's kind of socialize to to learn something memorize it. Then try and apply. It I guess. But college I think I think I see a lot of that. I have never taught undergrad undergrad, but not K through twelve I should say have not taught. So I can't tell you what they're doing as far as that goes. But I can tell you in college level courses that they could do more. I think sales is so much curiosity wondering how you're going to get somebody to understand what you want them to understand. It's a lot of reading people and understanding what ask you know, when I was in one of my mortgage sales jobs. They had us take personality tests include our personality type on our cubicle. So that everybody knew exactly what you were if you were red green blue yellow, and so you didn't even have to ask as you look at the wall and know who they work, and it was it. I can't say that it was absolutely accurate. But it was an interesting. Experiment in a way because you'd get the greens were pretty much extroverts in the reds were the direct kind of people in those were pretty much what you've found in salespeople and in sales every once in a while a yellow would sneak in yellow was the more of an engineer or the guy reads, the the manual from front to back kind of person. Right. And we would just all abet bet. How long this person would stand waiting? Stay. They never did. It was a it was just not a good job fit for them. And I think there are certain types of personality types that lend themselves to sales, and I don't know if reading manuals from front to back is necessarily the best quality for a salesperson. But I think curiosity definitely is. And I think people can get better. I think a lot of retrain the way I was like you have to say this you have to say that. And you forget to ask questions because you're so concerned about getting out. You wanna say you and trying to understand their world what their day is like because you know, just talking about features and benefits or even pains. Are helpful. But if you're not connecting with the other person about what they're going through. How are you going to really forecast? What's what they're gonna do next? It's tough..
"dr diane" Discussed on The Brutal Truth About Sales and Selling
"You know, how you take Sussman to give you results while it was like that to go along with it because I want to be able to fix it for people if they have a problem with it, and it's been really super exciting. It's gonna launch soon. And I have a lot of big name companies that are really interested in it. And it's an honor fun. So you feel obviously feel at something that you can teach. I do I think that a lot of people have their natural sense of curiosity as a child in things of impacted in what I found were four factors impact your curiosity and their fear assumptions, technology and environment. So use the acronym fate to remember it. But I think you can control that I think you can recognize what has held you back. A lot in sales fear is a big one in environments the big one because. I mean, you've been shut down so many times sometimes that makes it very difficult, and especially leaders of sales people may be even are a problem. You know, that they shut down innovative ideas. Maybe would be very successful. Just because they have always been taught a certain way that you only do things this way. And I think it's really important to to recognize some of the things that are holding people back from being more open with questions open with suggestions. And I think that really needs to look at some of those fears in sumptious thinking, you're not interested in in something or something's going to be hard or whatever our sumptious are. And the technology involves sometimes is intimidating and our environment often is very strong influence, even our childhood. Our parents our teachers and our current leadership, and that's it because when I talked to sales leaders all the time, and I always ask them. What do they look for? Great reps. How with a great reps different than the good reps. And it always comes down to you know, are they coach -able is always number one. Are they empathetic number two? And then cure are they curious number three. Now, if you do say, well, what do you look for in an interview most of them was outgoing confidence of gregarious those type of things, but so those are almost in conflict. Well, you know, it's interesting because there's been a lot of things you talked about empathy is a big part of emotional intelligence. And I wrote my doctoral dissertation on emotionally teleconference. So I'm very familiar with studying empathy and emotional intelligence in sales people because that was my dissertation was it was in mortgage selfie all specifically, and you really want to develop those things, and that's another thing you can improve. It's it's not fixed. It can be improved and any. Of the organizations icefield with they were very interested in developing emotional intelligence, specifically infancy and interpersonal skills in a lot of the things that sales people really need that does not conflict with being confident or outgoing gregarious. You can have all these qualities. You know? It's interesting to me is the more. I see some introverts in sales at. Conceals has kind of changed. You know, it used to be. Here's your phone book. Dial for dollars, and your it's all you. This is your territory, nobody's gonna help you sink or swim. Right. But now they have these teams were this person. Does this in this person does that and sometimes on sales teams? It's good to have introverts to be there to just ask more questions to to have they they tend to have a lot of empathy and understanding, and it's it's not the way it used to be. There's different types of sales settings now. And I think a lot of these things you can't pick a one-size-fits-all because the team is going to be different. It's not just one person anymore. So let's say you're rap you to move to the next level, you kind of become coach -able. You've developed, some empathy. How do you develop your curiosity? Well, that's what I was working on for this. And what we do is first of all you have to get a baseline..
"dr diane" Discussed on The Brutal Truth About Sales and Selling
"I really ended up in education for the longest time in still did it teach quite a bit in I teach marketing and sales in a lot of courses 'cause I've taught more than a thousand business courses now in my history and sales comes up to just about everything and up to get curious oppo curiosity. I mean, that seems well it doesn't seem unusual. It's actually pretty obvious in sales that that is a superpower that we all should develop. I agree. You know, a lot of sales people don't ask the right questions. I have a mortifying sales story of my own if you if you. Interested. It's not a loss. Okay. When I was a pharmaceutical rep, this is to bring out the power of asking questions and being interested in the other person and having curiosity. I have apparently did not do very well when I was young. I. Was a pharmaceutical rep in a building or a couple stories tall, you know? And you'd get an elevator. You go up to see the doctor, and you wait in the office. They finally call you back in one of the first calls that made it pretty nervous because I wanted to get in my three products. You know, it was really hard to get these doctors to sit still for more than five seconds that you had to try and get three products in. So I got an and he actually let me talk, you know, and I was so excited because a lot of these guys would even talk to you, and I got an all three products, and I walked out loud. This is really great. I'm so proud of myself, and I go down to my car to get more samples than so as I get in the elevator. This other gentlemen, gets on with me. And I being the true extrovert can't handle dead air. So I said so do you work in the building? And he looks at me goes, you just gave me a presentation. I was so obsessed with what I wanted to say I didn't even recognize them or any kind of conversation ages talk right out. So that maybe that opened me out to wanting to study curiosity 'cause I saw how bad it was not ask questions. But actually as I went through my career. I started to see a lot of my students. Really kinda just wanted me to tell them how to do things without explaining any reasoning. They wanted to do things for them. And I started interviewing such interesting people. You know, I've had everybody from Steve Forbes Ken Fisher, he's kraken really big names in business on my show, and they were just highly curious individuals, and they were so successful. So I started to research like what the background of what makes people here as I started to do that for my book. I started to realize that it was more important to kind of not only explain what three AUSSIE was but figure out what's fulling curiosity. Back woods inhibiting. It. So I created a curiosity code index to go along with the book, which is kind of a personality kind of test. Like if you took disc or Myers, Briggs or emotional intelligence..
"dr diane" Discussed on The Brutal Truth About Sales and Selling
"Truth is to coupon code for both pipe drive and nudge, check them out also co video they got the templates for the holidays. You gotta be sending video emails. Try it for a month. See how well it does video is the new tax. I'm telling you video is blown up my business year. Let's get into the interview and I'll summit up at the end. Hey, diane. Thanks for joining us today is way getting started tell us about yourself. Well, it's so nice to have you invite me here because I'm usually the one on the other end of the microphone, so it's kind of fun to be on this side. Thank you. I have a radio show as well. But I my background is I have several decades of sales experience, which I know your listeners are very much interested in that aspect, but have also been an education a X talk for mostly universities that used to be the MBA program. It's for school of business and written several books. They have another one coming out the experience in the year. And I am an expert of behavioral. Issues like emotional intelligence curiosity, and that type of thing. So that gives you a little bit of background, and let's start with your sales experience. How'd you get into sales? What you like about it? Well, you know, my first sales job was selling system. Thirty six thirty eight is a VAR wits the IBM. So we did that in nineteen in the eighties. I mean, it's been a while. And I really kind of still into it right out of college. Looking for your first job out of college at and everybody might family had gone into sales. So we were all super extroverted in. It was kind of a natural it's net and that led to pharmaceutical sales. I stayed with the pharmaceutical giant for being me fifteen years. So I I was in that for the longest amount of time, and it really liked that. But then I kind of a geek I like the paperwork very unusual for a salesperson. It's the first time. I've heard that. I know everybody thinks it's really weird. But I thought well, what's the most hip or were job you can get in sales. And I thought well, I really wasn't thrilled with arm cynical. Sales would try being a loan officer is a fat. Well, that's a lot of paperwork, and it was and I liked it. But it was also long hours and weekends different things. I n I went into real estate after that..
"dr diane" Discussed on KTTH 770AM
"A thank you from Salvation Army. I'm talking with my clinical psychologist wife a bestselling author. Dr Diane Medved, and there's another issue here about public expectations and psychology and shaming. And Diane you've heard something about lunch shaming, right? Yes. Okay. This is an amazing thing. I I didn't realize this. But the Democrats in the state legislature have pushed through in the state of Washington here. A a new Bill which is supposed to be a Bill of rights. It is a hunger free students Bill of rights, which means that they can't make any distinction between kids who pay what they're supposed to pay for their meals, and that's even with reduced lunch program, which is being heavily heavily subsidized by federal government state government and people who pay absolutely nothing, and here was a story in Thurston county. It was a kids are guaranteed hot meals now, regardless of whether or not they've brought in any money and in the past once kids went three meals into debt, they were given a cheese sandwich. Cereal or salad bar until their parents reimbursed their account, d do you think that this is psychologically cruel or damaging to children if they they actually go to a different counter in the cafeteria if they're unable to to pay for these meals. Well, I think that it can be. I mean, look I can't eliminate that possibility. Because obviously if you're going to be eating just a two slabs of bread whether a piece of cheese in the middle, and you're gonna stand out a little bit and people are gonna make comments about it. They might be joking about it. Let's face it. Because a lot of what people get ends up in the trash can as it is. And I think frankly, if you're given a choice of a salad bar that you're willing to get you can get for free. That's not a bad deal. People would pay for that. Nobody would know if you're getting it for free, or if you're paying I I mean, yeah, you could say it's a healthy. I'm I'm doing this for health reasons. I just don't think that what they. I do now is so bad that it would shame anybody. But on the other hand, I can I still have to have compassion for the children whose parents can't even afford to pay for whatever the reduced price meal would be okay. School officials are now in Thurston county, which is down in the Olympia area for people who don't know the state of Washington people in Thurston county are in trouble. Because of this new Bill because they're going deeper and deeper and deeper into debt every day north Thurston officials serve about ten thousand meals. This year. Fewer families are footing the Bill up front because of Washington's new hunger free students Bill of Rights Act prevents anyone student from getting recognized pointed out because they don't have funds in their account and what a shock that. If you give something for free, then nobody will pay for it. And again, given the fact that you can get a salad bar or at least that was the the rule beforehand right now. The Thurston north Thurston schools are twenty one thousand dollars in debt in this meal situation. Apparently, it's happened all across the the the district. Again. Right. And right now, they would have to I guess change the law to stop this situation. Let's go to Larry in Atlanta. Larry, you're on the Michael Medved Show. Michael, thanks for taking my call for so much. What you do? Appreciate. Thank you. Yeah. Growing up I always had to take a sack lunch to school. And I remember thinking I remember feeling you know, the the more quote wealthy kids. They got the buy their lunch. And you know, we we don't have control over how people feel I mean, we can intentionally try to make them feel badly. But you know, I'm gonna step son has cerebral palsy. He wouldn't care. And he wouldn't care because he's got other concerns. Yes. And he he just he doesn't notice that kind of thing, and and these functional, and but that just that wouldn't causes radar. I mean, he just he likes to be with people. You large the talk to people, and he wouldn't be sitting there thinking, oh, gosh, they've got more than I do. And so, but I felt better the child. I felt you know, but it wasn't anything that anybody else was doing. It was just the way the way I appreciate your call. Larry, and God bless you and merry Christmas to you and to your son. Let's go quickly to a break. And in fact, we will be back with.
"dr diane" Discussed on 860AM The Answer
"A thank you from Salvation Army. I'm talking with my clinical psychologist wife bestselling author. Dr Diane Medved, and there's another issue here about public expectations and psychology and shaming. And Diane you've heard something about lunch shaming, right? Yes. Okay. This is an amazing thing. I I didn't realize this. But the Democrats in the state legislature have pushed through in the state of Washington here. A new Bill which is supposed to be a Bill of rights. It is a hunger free students Bill of rights, which means that they can't make any distinction between kids who pay what they're supposed to pay for their meals, and that's even with reduced lunch program, which is being heavily heavily subsidized by federal government state government and people who pay absolutely nothing, and here was a story in Thurston county. It was a kids are guaranteed hot meals now, regardless of whether or not they've brought in any money and in the past once kids went three meals into debt, they were given a cheese sandwich. Cereal or salad bar until their parents reimbursed their account, d do you think that this is psychologically cruel or damaging to children if they they actually go to a different counter in the cafeteria if they're unable to to pay for these meals. Well, I think that it can be. I mean, look I can't eliminate that possibility. Because obviously if you're going to be eating just two slabs of bread with a piece of cheese in the middle. You're gonna stand out a little batch and people are gonna make comments about it. They might be joking about it. Let's face it. Because a lot of what people get ends up in the trash can as it is. And I think frankly, if you're given a choice of a salad bar that you're willing to get that you can get for free. That's not a bad deal. People would pay for that. Nobody would know if you're getting it for free, or if you're paying I I mean, yeah, you could say it's a healthy. I'm doing this for health reasons. I just don't think that what they. Do now is so bad that it would shame anybody. But on the other hand, I can I still have to have compassion for the children whose parents can't even afford to pay for whatever the reduced price meal would be okay. School officials are now in Thurston county, which is down in the Olympia area for people who don't know the state of Washington people in Thurston county are in trouble. Because of this new Bill because they're going deeper and deeper and deeper into debt every day north Thurston officials serve about ten thousand meals. This year. Fewer families are footing the Bill up front because of Washington's new hunger free students Bill of Rights Act prevents anyone student from getting recognized or pointed out because they don't have funds in their account and what a shock that. If you give something for free, then nobody will pay for it. And again, given the fact that you can get a salad bar at least that was the the rule beforehand right now. Thurston, north Thurston schools are twenty one thousand dollars in debt in this meal situation. Apparently, it's happened all across the the district. Again. Right. And right now, they would have to I guess change the law to stop this situation. Let's go to Larry in Atlanta. Larry, you're on the Michael Medved Show. Michael, thanks for taking my call for so much. What you do? Appreciate. Thank you. Yeah. Growing up, you know, I always had to take a sack lunch to school. And I remember thinking I remember feeling you know, the the more quote wealthy kids. They got to buy their lunch. And you know, we we don't have control over how people they are. I mean, we can intentionally try to make them feel badly. But. You know, I'm gonna step son has cerebral palsy. He wouldn't care. And he wouldn't care because he's got other concerns. Yes. And he he just he doesn't even notice that kind of thing, and and these functional, and but that just that wouldn't crosses radar. I mean, he just likes to be with people. He likes to talk to people, and he wouldn't be sitting there thinking, oh, gosh, they've got more than I do. And so, but I I felt better the child. I felt you know, but it wasn't anything that anybody else was doing. It was just the way the way I perceive it appreciate your call. Larry, and God bless you and merry Christmas to you and to your son. Let's go quickly to a break. And in fact, we will be back with.
"dr diane" Discussed on WBSM 1420
"A thank you from Salvation Army. I'm talking with my clinical psychologist wife bestselling author. Dr Diane Medved, and there's another issue here about public expectations and psychology and shaming. And Diane you've heard something about lunch shaming, right? Okay. This is an amazing thing. I I didn't realize this. But the Democrats in the state legislature have pushed through in the state of Washington here. A a new Bill which is supposed to be a Bill of rights. It is a hunger free students Bill of rights, which means that they can't make any distinction between kids who pay what they're supposed to pay for their meals, and that's even with a reduced lunch program, which is being heavily heavily subsidized by federal government state government and people who pay absolutely nothing. And here was a story in Thurston county. It was I kids are guaranteed hot meals now, regardless of whether or not they brought in any money and in the past wants kids went three meals into debt, they were given a cheese sandwich. Cereal or salad bar until their parents reimbursed their account, d do you think that this is psychologically cruel or damaging to children if they they actually go to a different counter in the cafeteria if they're unable to to pay for these meals. Well, I think that it can be. I mean, look I can't eliminate that possibility. Because obviously if you're going to be eating just at two slabs of bread with a piece of cheese in the middle. You're gonna stand out a little bit and people are gonna make comments about it. They might be joking about it. Let's face it. Because a lot of what people get ends up in the trash can as it is. And I think frankly, if you're given a choice of a salad bar that you're willing to get you can get for free. That's not a bad deal. People would pay for that. Nobody would know if you're getting it for free, or if you're paying I I mean, yeah, you could say it's a healthy. I'm doing this for health reasons. I just don't think that what they. Do now is so bad that it would Chaim anybody. But on the other hand, I can I still have to have compassion for the children whose parents can't even afford to pay for whatever the reduced price meal would be okay. School officials are now in Thurston county, which is down in the Olympia area for people who don't know the state of Washington people in Thurston county are in trouble. Because of this new Bill because they're going deeper and deeper and deeper into debt every day north Thurston official serve about ten thousand meals. This year. Fewer families are footing the Bill up front because of Washington's new hunger free students Bill of Rights Act prevents anyone student from getting recognized or pointed out because they don't have funds in their account and what a shock that. If you give something for free, then nobody will pay for it. And again, given the fact that you. Can get a salad bar or at least that was the the rule beforehand right now. The Thurston north Thurston schools are twenty one thousand dollars in debt in this meal situation. Apparently, it's happened all across the the the district. Again. Right. And right now, they would have to I guess change the law to stop this situation. Let's go to Larry in Atlanta. Larry, you're on the Michael Medved Show. Michael, thanks for taking my call so much. What you do? Appreciate. Thank you. Yeah. Growing up, you know, I always had to take a sack lunch to school. And I remember thinking, I remember feeling you know, the more quote wealthy kids. They got to buy their lunch. And you know, we we don't have control over how people feel I mean, we can intentionally try to make them feel badly. But you know, I'm gonna step son has cerebral palsy. He wouldn't care. And he wouldn't care because he's got other concerns. Yes. And he he just he doesn't notice that kind of a thing, and and these functional, and but that just that wouldn't causes radar. I mean, he he likes to be with people you talk to people, and he wouldn't be sitting there thinking, oh, gosh, they got more than I do. And so, but I I felt that as a child I felt you know, but it wasn't anything that anybody else was doing. It was just the way the way I perceived it. Appreciate your call. Larry. And God bless you and merry Christmas to you and to your son. Let's go quickly to a break. And in fact, we will be back with more on lunch. Shaming on the stunning trends on divorce and more right here on the Medved show..
"dr diane" Discussed on KDWN 720AM
"Dr Diane on Facebook the doctor deli show. So we learned this morning. I don't think the timing was a surprise. I think it was planned that Nikki Haley is not going to be the United Nations anymore. She's been a favourite with the administration pretty low key low drama very adept at her job. Things seem to have been going. Well, she seems to have been doing a fantastic job. So it was kind of a shock to the be the end of the world that something like this would happen. And even more of a shock is all this other stuff have got got leaked. This. So me wonder if there's a little bit more planning involved with some of these leaks, and with some of these not, so big leaks. So. People think oh, maybe she's running for twenty twenty. No, no, no. She even said, she wasn't my first thought when I saw that happen was. Because you know, what the media shows us. She looks happy. She looks comfortable. She looks really good at her job is either. A he's getting burned out. She's got issues at home or kids or health issues or two she may want to run for Senate. You have somebody who both Democrats and Republicans like. Maybe she's going to be ready for Senate later, and she needs to get back to South Carolina. Or go to run in order to do that. And I'm having haven't really been up on the whole South Carolina's Senate race for twenty twenty. But I'm wondering if maybe that could be what's going on. She actually kinda hinted that she's not really, you know, leaving the the, you know, her, shall we say driver loyalty to helping this administration. So you wonder if maybe that is in the works. So President Trump announces she sat together they looked great. They looked really comfortable. They look like they work together. They you know, I could read people's faces either. If they did have a falling out. It was a long time ago in trumpet said, oh, yes, she gave her notice six months ago. So they kept quiet. She said, no, I'm not running for twenty twenty. I look forward to support the president in the next election. So people are now saying, okay. Well, maybe she's leaving because the cabin thing. Maybe he's leaving. Because now. No, no, no, no. I I think this announcement was perfectly timed the president. And the Democrats were the president is getting criticized for the FBI handling the Frank cavenaugh, which again, I don't know what the F B I could've done this time around that they didn't do the first six. So I think the FBI did whatever they could especially not having any evidence or anything to go by because people were claiming, you know, such such, you know. Murty claims that even if they were true there was no way to investigate them. So the FBI did what what they could. But you know, the media has been all fired out they needed something to do. And so they were talking about. Well, let's talk about a peach mint. Can you can you impeach cavenaugh? Can you now investigate him for line? He was drinking and they needed something to do. They needed something. So then over this story broken. Now, suddenly, you know, journalists were saying, I don't know why he did this because he technically one with the cavenaugh thing. None of that was a good press. The cavenaugh win was not technically good press. So he needs to distract people in this day this did distract so. Nikki Haley said her family was supportive of her career, no personal reasons for her departure, and you wonder what she does her privacy with that. But for somebody like me. Who is very shall. We say. Gosh, goal driven and work driven. I just can't see leaving the administration. To not work anywhere. And so I find that a little bit odd for somebody who is such an overachiever. She was apparently, you know, I look at her her history. She I mean, she was. Up to Trump's you win. I mean faster than anybody else could have even thought she's the daughter of Indian American immigrants. She came from a small town, South Carolina. Her father was a professor at a government agriculture university. Settled in the US to teach to teach at a university. Her mother was a lawyer in India. Then became a schoolteacher in South Carolina. Then apparently she was entered in the child's beauty pageant at the age of five, but she was disqualified because she was neither white or black and those were the competitions two categories back then of the seventy s she's a graduate of Clemson university worked for mother's clothing company. It became a state chairwoman for the national association of women business owners, and then she ran for governor in two thousand ten and was able to narrowly the the Democrats Vincent Shaheem. And then she she you know, what for you and ambassador so somebody who's who's I don't wanna call a workaholic. But you know, she despite having a family, she, you know, she busted her her. But so then it makes you wonder what's going on my guess is after whatever after everything that happened the Senate, my guess is somebody suggested that somebody's popular is her to start moving into the legislator. So and you know, maybe she was going to consider that takes time. She's got two teenagers. She could start getting that ready for the next for the twenty twenty. And so that's my guess, but if not. Everybody's kind of praising her for saying look at some point. You need to. Step aside, and let other people come in like public servants should be term limited and recognize when it's time to leave. Now have any of you guys ever considered doing that? Just recognize that it was time for you to leave. I did. I recognize that it was time for me to not practice medicine anymore. And I never thought somebody like me who was workaholic think that I went to medical school. I busted my butt took on student loans. Busted my butt building a practice. A very successful. Practice was still successful today are closed. But after all the ObamaCare changes after I saw the writing on the wall. And I knew that eventually I would have to consolidate or I would have to become a somewhere. I decided you know, what it was time for me to leave. Was I out was.
"dr diane" Discussed on KDWN 720AM
"D A L I victims of Genesis communications network for making this happen. Daniel who's working the dials? We really do. Appreciate it. Follow us on Twitter. Dr Diane on Facebook, the doctor Dolly show, so the midterms elections boy that'd be pretty dramatic pretty contentious. And it is always exciting to hear from candidates running for congress. And joining us right now is David Goss who is running for in Nevada. US congressional district three seat. David. How are you? Thank you for joining us. Good. My name is pronounced ghosts. And she oh. Pronounced ghosts and ghost. Okay. Even though there's two okay? Excellent. Good. Okay. Yeah. So. So you are a nonpartisan, right? Independent candidates. What I go by independent. That's wonder. Okay. That's good. That's good. Okay. So, you know. Obviously, you're passionate about you know, the state the country in terms of national. The national agenda, and what what most Americans, shall we say would like to see done and fixed where do you stand on immigration? We'll start with. Border wall guy. I'm betting people like when you invite people to your house the same. There you wouldn't. But people just come into your house. More know who they are what they're about what they're going to do. So and so forth. Breaking and entering so on and so forth. And healthcare where do you stand on healthcare? That's the state's decision. The state's going to be much more. Drives me crazy a little bit. When people talk about healthcare because it's you go to your doctor where you live the federal government. You don't go to the federal government for healthcare, you go to the state and your personal doctor? That's why it's a state issue could handle it much better. So.
"dr diane" Discussed on KDWN 720AM
"Seven seventy OCD start. My nose is running big banks to Justice. Communications network for making show happen thanks Jason Manny and Brad we're. Working the dials and big things. Joe for tuning in we really appreciate it Follow us on Twitter Dr. Diane in on Facebook Up, to, Delhi show so no surprise here but David Katz the twenty four year old shooter that lost. And east, sports tournament. A tournament and started shooting excuse me hitting people now being told he killed two people. And wounded ten others before taking. His own life visit eleven people have been, injured now they're saying ten Apparently no surprise here had psychiatric issues at least as early as the age of. Twelve family divorce records David Katz. Twenty four years old Barely haven't prescribed a, number psychiatric medications including an antipsychotic and saw a quote succession of psychiatrists according to a two thousand six a letter from the father's attorney. A separate two thousand six court. Violence states that a therapist, that David had experienced a psychiatric crisis that we're going to talk about this we have, to be politically correct we have to be very very careful, because there's, a lot of, people that have psychiatric illness. That are not murderers and they deserve a, chance in this world and they deserve you know to. Get better get treatment and get better but A person, who chooses to kill other. People Probably has a psychiatric illness So it's like, all apples grow on trees. But Donald trees grow apples anybody that chooses to shoot people up after losing a video game has Psychological issues but not all people psychological issues are murders, okay we've got to be very careful because we. Need to be you know need to be very careful with how we say things these days but we need to. Talk about this very frankly now, CNN. Is reporting the police records that show twenty six, calls for service to the police from the cats family this is. Their home in Columbia Maryland this curve with the period of. Nineteen, ninety three two thousand nine, for issues ranging from mental illness to domestic. Disputes at least you those calls involve cats argue with his mother now none of the. Reports though provide. A CNN did show any, physical, violence the Howard county police department declined to release the reports from a number of the incidents since Sunday shooting. The family has, told investigators David Katz suffered from mental health, issues according to a law. Enforcement source to describe the family as being very cooperative both parents have For the federal. Government apparently Richard. Cats the father is a, NASA, engineer employed at the Goddard Space Flight center outside DC Elizabeth cats is listed as an employee of the food. And Drug administration Neither Elizabeth nor Richard cats could be reached for comment by CNN court records Avila. Divorce, a custody. Battle that apparently was so acrimonious that both parents filed to. Have a guardian ad. Let Lyneham you guys Bronco that is to represent the interests of the Oy Apparently they disagreed about his mental health. Treatment So cats the shooter apparently. Suffered, emotionally as a. Child had been prescribed now. This is interesting they say psychiatric drugs included Lexa, pro pro, isn't considered in, the medical community a quote unquote. Psychiatric drug but it does. Qualify as such and we'll talk about that Alexa, pro he was also on an. Antidepressant as well as respect Sometimes used for schizophrenia Cats mother took him see a number psychiatrists as well as a social worker and art therapists according to the two thousand six hundred. From the father's attorney now disputed the necessity of the drugs and a psychiatric evaluation by the mom suggesting that sun instead attend a support group for middle school students So there's a lot of issues here lot of issues we need to talk about I'll finish Richard cats Has, seen no evidence whatsoever of schizophrenia David Katz is Richard, Katz was. The dad medically qualified the diagnosis son who is the. Most common person to diagnose their kids. The parents they're also the most common people. To misdiagnose her kids On one occasion the a document, for the, father's, lawyers CNN reports a cat strongly reacted to the notion, of going. To an appointment any lots of stuff in the car Then the boy was on face of prospect, to be put in handcuffs by police Dance thirteenth birthday police were called to the mothers on the Columbia to help with the sun because. The volume of the television and over lack of respect towards her at his grandmother The day after his fourteenth birthday Cats called police at home because his mother keeps punishing him By taking away his video games Now this kid had issues This does not. Seem to be very happy Oh It doesn't seem to me that he got proper care now. Get I'm only looking at a sliver polaroid shot of what. Happened But from what we understand he legally purchased a nine millimeter. Handgun and a forty caliber handgun back in Maryland last month One of the weapons that laser sight that attached to the gun We don't know how he. Got them into Jacksonville or how he got them into the event Apparently, federal gun laws permit anyone who has committed been committed. To a health institution against their will or adjudicated as mentally incompetent from legally purchasing a firearm Clinical history of, psychological issues does not preclude someone from buying a gun And medical records are supposed to be considered private not anymore Your legal. Records obviously are not private as we see with Michael Cohen, Donald Trump So since two thousand thirteen they say residents of Maryland. Busselton a handgun qualification license for the state police, before purchasing a pistol or revolver this means a cats would have submitted his fingerprints. Undergone, a background check and passed a firearm. Safety training course, to buy those guts now some. Of you are going way. Bobo Alexa pro complex disqualify you from buying a gun it could in. The future there's a lot of people. In Mexico doesn't mean they have. Mental illness This is a. Very very tricky, scenario I look back and I. See what happened with this. Kid and you're like well you could see the writing on the wall But it's not that simple How many times to please come. To a, house for people I mean people. Fight, all the time people yeah my parents. Yelled and screamed every neighborhood we moved, to remove moved a lot Every neighborhood we. Moved, to aren't house was the loudest because. My parents were always yelling and screaming They weren't gonna kill anybody I mean you know they were solid people they were you know Did police have to. Come to the home I. Don't remember, and I, don't think my parents. Would have, admitted it The would've probably? Said oh yeah, they're just doing a sweep of the neighborhood and know So Please come to the house all the time for domestic. Services my husband was in a fraternity. House you think the police came by that, house Guys keep. It down yes officer are you drinking no So Katz attended, Hammond high. School Columbia CNN spoke to several graduates who remembered, MTR, Andre, Montana graduated. Here Ed, cats remembered, Amazon video, gamer who was ads is. Social these Eddie Saito. Himself he did talk about you was a good. Guy I couldn't imagine doing such a. Thing David Ford who graduated with. Cats in two thousand. Eleven and it was a quiet kid but when. You talk to him he seemed cool Now cool today is, different from us When we went to school somebody who would be, sitting there playing pong on his Atari we'd. Probably would have thought it was dark now, if you're really, big into. Video games you're cool. Late this fortnight this fortnight is huge I want to start. Playing and so huge kind of dorky I was, playing, dungeons dragons the other day. Again dorky but nowadays at school So we have a lot to talk about, here. Okay number one is Parents and their misdiagnosis of their kids I don't know what happened with the sandy hook shooting and Adam Lanza. And his mom's interaction and how his mom approached Adam, Lanza mental illness we don't really know a lot about his medical history but obviously something went wrong because. He kills her and then he kills a bunch. Of. Kids and teachers Our parents doing a disservice to society but protecting their kid from getting. Psychiatric help that they need now movies TV Hollywood have, scared the hell out of us parents we don't. Want our kids getting a diagnosis that he doesn't deserve And we want second opinions in. Medicine, I, mean all right you have cancer then turns out. Well. You don't have cancer so people want a second opinion in medicine But Well seeing a psychiatrist, psychologist Sometimes that second opinion doesn't necessarily bear the same. Weight as what another settings so now you have a diagnosis from some, doctor and that holds So we're going? To talk about in the, next, segment. How do we identify the next shooter and how do you not get accused. 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"dr diane" Discussed on News-Talk 1400 The Patriot
"Entries from my grandson uhhuh and he's planning who um have a mass shooting at one of the high school and i wanted to talk to somebody about pound okay uh i can advise and ever office free and have them call you okay okay they when he do call it will via blocked a restricted number i it just makes me an answer that when they do okay uh that's um uh the indication of the initial call right she was and sounds com she was she might not only likely saved her grandson's life but she could have saved countless other lies if you actually look at the the journal entries that are grandson made and you look at the fact that police later found an ak forty seven ina guitar case and all kinds of grenades homemade grenades in his room this is very very serious and by the way i i spoke about this with my licence clinical psychologist wife dr diane medved and our colour i think communicated the wrong impression yesterday in terms of codes of professional ethics if you have a client of patient who appears to be a threat an imminent threat to do violence to himself or herself or to do violence to others the confidentiality that normally of course is an absolute rule doesn't apply and nor should it one eight hundred.