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Why Dr. Kumar is Changing The Wellness Game

Outcomes Rocket

06:24 min | 11 months ago

Why Dr. Kumar is Changing The Wellness Game

"Welcome back once again, see the outcomes, rocket podcasts where we chat with today's most successful and inspiring health care leaders. I really WANNA. Thank you for tuning in again and I welcome you to go to outcomes rocket dot health slash reviews where you could rate and review today's podcast because he is one outstanding individual and healthcare is name is Dr Rajiv Kumar he's the president and chief medical officer at Virgin Pulse during medical school he realized that many of the worst health problems we face as a nation diabetes heart disease cancer hypertension. Et, CETERA. I related to the collective unhealthy lifestyle, and so he has pledged to make a difference in this industry. He's done and as a frontline physician and now through various different companies, some amazing things and so what I WANNA do is open up the microphone to Raji to fill in any of the gaps of the introduction and then a so we could get into the podcast. Reggie welcome to the PODCAST. Think saw glad to be here. So Rajiv, what would you fill in in your intro that I that I left out? I think that was pretty comprehensive. Just, a little bit about virgin pulse. You know what? I think that may not be familiar name to a lot of folks on your that are listening to your podcast. We are an employee wellbeing company. We work with large employers all around the world, and our goal is to help them activate their employees to lead healthier lifestyles which had to kind of go around the healthcare system a little bit, and go direct to the employees and figure out ways to motivate them to inspire them and to help them sustain behavior change over time, and it's not just about healthcare cost reduction. It really is about how do we help people be? Healthier, happier and more productive at work in their personal lives. So that's really what our mission is. That's beautiful and listeners for those of you who haven't connected the DOTS virgin pulse. One of Sir Richard Branson's Virgin Group companies. So you know with the gentleman like that behind something like this and and Rajiv as part of the executive leadership team, you can imagine some great things are happening. It's an exciting time for us. We definitely are inspired by Sir Richard Branson leadership in his philosophy is if you take care of your employees, they'll take care of your business, and so we're trying to empower employers to take better care of their employees. So strong, and and you know it's really interesting that you guys are tackling this employer perspective of the entire health career equation because costs are soaring and aside from labor costs, it seems like healthcare cost is oftentimes double digits in that front. What are your thoughts on what should be on every medical leaders agenda today? Well, I'm biased but I think it has to be a behavior change remember too often looking for a magic pill or magic device or something to kind of stem the tide of rising obesity, diabetes and heart disease in our country and at the end of the day, there's so much. We can do to actually change people's behavior a lot of what we're facing as a result of our diet, our physical activity or lack thereof the stress that we have in our lives just how we how we treat ourselves and how we don't take care of ourselves, and so I think it's not necessarily a hot topic I. Think it should be and and I wish there was more focus on it is the perennial that if we can change behavior, we can prevent a lot of disease and we can produce significantly greater outcomes and Reggie. What would you say right now at at at Virgin? Pulse. Is an example of how you guys are improving health outcomes. Well, I think we really tried to think outside of the box I think traditional health interventions and and health and wellbeing platforms have largely been ineffective and they've been around for decades. So we sat around and we said what if we took a different approach rather than making people feel like they're failures rather than telling them that they're sick what if we actually make them feel successful what if we make them feel good about themselves right off the bat what would that do for self esteem for their motivation and for their ability to change. Most of what we see in our industry is a heavy focus on screening, and so employers asked their employees to take health risk assessments and do biometric screenings and so forth, and the problem with that is they take a health risk assessment tells them you're sick. You know you have high risk, your unhealthy needs to do more change your lifestyle, get your biometric screening results and you have high blood pressure. You may not like the results that you get back and that can be very demotivating, and so we've said is, is there a scientist out there? Is there a behavior change model that focuses on success? We found a scientist by the name of Dr Bj fog out of Stanford University and Dr Fog is sort of a new guru of behavior change and he's come up with a behavior change model that he caused the fog behavior change model and it's very simple as model is is a formula to it is called B. Equals M. A. T.. Equals motivation times, ability times a trigger, and so what he means by that is to get somebody to do a behavior that we want them to do or they want to do. First of all, they have to have the motivation to do it. Second is they have to have the ability to do it, and a third is you have to trigger them. To trump to do that behavior and too often in the in the kind of behavior change space, we ask people to do things that require either too much motivation or too much ability. So we say something like go to the gym four times a week and exercise for sixty minutes. Each time you go that takes a lot of motivation and some people may not even have the ability a really know how to do that where to get started so forth so Dr Fog says, well, motivation is hard to change. Your motivation waxes and wanes on a daily basis on an hourly basis, we can't really change somebody's motivation that easily what you can do is changed the behavior you're asking them to do to make it easier. You can change the ability to perform the action, and so the idea is if you take a behavior like washing your teeth and you break it down to the smallest tiniest thing that somebody could possibly do like floss one tooth and you ask them to do that they can actually do. That very easily, it doesn't take a lot of motivation is very quick to do, and if they do that and you celebrate the fact that they did it, you can help them build what we call success momentum, and then they're going to feel better about going to the next step and try something harder and so in our entire approach to behavior change, we break behaviors down into their simplest most basic action we ask people to do that would trigger then and then when they do it we. Reward them make them successful. We give them social status. They might get some kind of points or some kind of reward, and then we ask them to do something harder the next time around and stuff feedback loop that builds up momentum, and it changes behavior in a very sustainable way in a very habitual way, which is really the key to behavior changes creating habits.

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"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

Nobody Told Me!

04:35 min | 11 months ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

"So we should all watch ourselves I do think that this you know this crisis the question is, is this crisis deep and long and thorough enough to actually change behaviors we've had crises over the course of our lifetimes. Major financial crises in various things have gone wrong in a big systems way. So but they didn't last long enough to actually change behavior. You know they weren't deep enough. So we'll see we'll see if this one is I. Really I am optimistic that like the Great Depression, this will be something that we've gone through together and can look back on and remind ourselves. that. This happened that this happens there will be and will be lasting damages and impacts effects that's going to change the makeup of daily life I. I believe that's all going to happen and in a way that's good news I want this to let us change I want. I want us to marinate in this difficulty long enough that we are compelled to change because in. So many ways we were living in a way that wasn't really sustainable. So. Stay tuned we will see but I am. In a weird way, I'm optimistic that the pain is great enough that we will pop out changed, and in this way I am for change I think being changed by life is one of the greatest responses to it ever. BJ. Our show is called nobody told me and we always ask our guests at the end. What is your nobody told me lesson and I know you have so many valuable lessons to pass onto people. But what would you like to say what is it that nobody told you about life or death or a pandemic that you had to learn the hard way and you think would be a really valuable piece of advice for others. While couple one, the mind is probably my favorite shows nobody told me that independence doesn't really exist. Nobody told me that this thing that this vaunted. Of Independence that we all seek as Americans in particular was was. Was a high state that one can approach but never really get to. We always need each other. It's just a matter of degree. The world is not filled with dependent people versus independent people. We are all on that spectrum so. My nobody told me would be the nobody. told me that independence doesn't really exist. I love that I. Love. Naturally we love. Yeah. Yeah, and Bj how can people connect with you and learn more about mental health? Come visit us at mental health dot COM. Or Twitter I..

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"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

Nobody Told Me!

03:32 min | 11 months ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

"I'm thinking about the conversations, my mom and I have had we've talked about died from covert and the seriousness of it, but there's something that doesn't quite let us get to the level of hey, if this happened to me, this is what I would want to be done. And I think a lot of it. You is that we would be making really uninformed decisions, and since we're not having a conversation or making even more uninformed decisions, we don't know what would you recommend? Well. Great points, guys, I mean so yes, one of those things, one of the great things that could that is happening is more and more people are turning their attention. So their advanced directives advanced care planning, living wills, estate, planning all this all that goes into preparing for that eventuality of someday you're going to be not here. So that's wonderful. I mean that's a very healthy response but to your point advance care directives are difficult to fill out because they contain decontextualize information in most of us don't know enough for what goes into these decisions. What the? Trade. Offs. Excuse me what the trade offs are around these decisions. So it it's a weird exercise to be able to first of all difficult enough as we've been talking about project ourselves into this future state where we're at death's door. But even if you can manage to do that navigating the questions, you're asking advanced directive divorce from the the details of what that means that looks like and feels like is a is a really challenging prospect. The trick here is now a couple of things one is that the best care directives best directives, you can change your mind gazillion times. In fact, most people do these are not one time conversations, your own attitude towards your own demise and how you might WanNa, go out and what's important you will change over the course of a lifetime. So we should all get in the habit of revisiting our advanced directives over time. That's one big point. Another big point air is these are some rough guidelines. That will guide your family physicians in the event that you cannot advocate for yourself. These these advanced directives only kick in when you can't speak for yourself. Okay. So it's not. It doesn't it. It's not as high stakes as it might feel. You. Can you so that that's another big point. Third would be. A piece of council here would be to talk to others review your advanced directive with your doctor talk to your family about it It barring all that come talk to us at Mental Health this is a lot of what we do is walk people through these kinds of decisions and help them understand what goes into these and what the trade offs are at Cetera. So I don't mean to be plugging mental health but I. But this is a this is a good use of counseling like ours mental health or otherwise talk to clinicians who understand what goes understand what goes into these decisions. And that will help allot. Our nobody told me conversation continues in just a minute after we tell you about one of our favorite sponsors air medicare network much like our extraordinary guests on nobody told me many Air.

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"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

Nobody Told Me!

02:02 min | 11 months ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

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"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

Nobody Told Me!

03:11 min | 11 months ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

"So many people are familiar with you because of your Ted Talk, which as we mentioned, has had eleven million views but for those who aren't familiar with you, you had your own serious brush with death because of an accident in college which resulted in the amputation of one arm below the elbow and both legs below the knees and I'm wondering how that impacted your life and how you are a different person now or how you were a different person in the aftermath of that then before when you were a college kid. Well. Somebody. That's the perfect segue I mean yes. So So that's right this. I was nineteen sophomore in college when this happened electrical burns from screwing around on a train and a semi, just acting invincible like I reference earlier an. Learn the hard way that we're invincible. in that, we're we are very much hurtful and that life is precious again, go away very quickly. So. So in a sense. I had my existential crisis at Ben at age nineteen..

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"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

Nobody Told Me!

01:42 min | 11 months ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

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"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

Nobody Told Me!

02:14 min | 11 months ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

"Transmitting some of the facts about the krona buyers that's not. That's not cutting it. In so each of us would present it with kind of this kind of information we respond very differently than sort of adolescent minor young adult mind where you feel invincible while then you're going to act invisible and I think a lot of us would have memories of that when we were younger to. Hopefully got through data maturity without hurting ourselves or or somebody else. But in answer your question how to talk to younger people well, it's tricky in general the science around sort of childhood developments. Latest thinking is that you basically are just very straightforward with younger people than you to speak plainly about the facts of life including death you don't use euphemisms because they can be so confusing. And scary for kids. So just plain talk. Kids are very smart whether it's they've already experienced death from their goldfish or from someone in their class or watching the news or through video games one way or another they they already know probably more than most of US imagine. So speaking plainly to them is the idea in I. Think I think the sense here is, yes. Death is a part of life it can come from it can come suddenly or can gradually we never really know and it's something that we humans have learned to live with knowledge in. Really there's a developmental opportunity for young kids to rope this this fact into their developing mind into the way they think. and. That's that's the opportunity here. I think my generation in a and others experience a lot of of obfuscation in we had to revisit the facts of life. As adults because they had been so obscured either food talking about them or from using a confusing language like euphemisms, etc.. Now deputies at young people can rope this into their field of view as at at a young age in a non depressive. And more constructive way. Our nobody told me conversation continues in just a minute after we tell you about better help online counseling. You know you're not alone if in these times.

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"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

Nobody Told Me!

05:11 min | 11 months ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Nobody Told Me!

"The. Welcomed nobody told me I'm Laura Owens and I'm Jan Black. The healthcare system can be tricky, emotional, frustrating, and overwhelming, and that's why on this episode, we're very glad to welcome Dr bj Miller back to the podcast, Dr Miller is a longtime hospice and palliative medicine physician and educator whose Ted talk on what matters most at the end of life has been viewed more than eleven million times. He's the founder and president of a groundbreaking new organization called metal, health, which provides personalized consultations with patients and caregivers who need help dealing with the practical emotional and existential issues that come with serious illness and disability Dr Miller, thank you so much for joining us again. Guys thank you for having me. It's nice to be back. Tell us more about mental health where the name comes from and why there's really a need for it right now. We'll metal helps is very simply as a place you come to get extra support It's a place online where you can. You don't need a doctor referral you can just come right to us. And scheduled time and we can talk through. All sorts of things ranging from how to approach treatment decisions, how to communicate with your family around illness how to communicate with your doctor how to get what you need from healthcare system. What other resources you might need all sorts of things that go into managing life with serious illness we talk about grades. We do advanced care directives family caregivers are welcome as much as patients. We all know this. Illness doesn't happen to people in a vacuum. So this is a place to come to get support you need when you need it at where did the name come from? Well my partner selling and I were banning around the name for a long time and this. The the name set up because we heard the word used the word metal used and loved it so much simply metal being. One's inner reserve once it's someone finds their metal, they're finding their own resilience either own strength and that fit. So well with what we're trying to do here, we're trying to like coach council people to find their own research rather than this idea that you have to Kinda look outside yourself and master or acquire something new. It's rather a process of looking inward and finding your own strength and that's what we're here to help to and that's metal m. a. t. t. l. e. that's right. Yeah. It's part of the ADS it. Of course, is a lot like metal like with dis like your meddling in someone's business which supposes. Or Metal Med al but anyway, yes. M. E. T..

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"dr bj" Discussed on Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit

Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit

05:36 min | 1 year ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit

"A there's various stories, but it when you get good at creating habits, and it's pretty easy to do that. You can then apply those skills to other challenges in your life that are harder. So. Let's talk about that. Let's talk about creating a new habit, and then we'll come back to stopping a habit and kind of the step by step process, even though you shared your approach with. The popcorn how change leads to change, so give us the elevator pitch for tiny habits and approach elevator pitch. It is the simplest fastest way to create new habits supported by my research of over forty thousand people who've done the method who coach personally and measured results week after week. That's the elevator pitch. I guess the way you do add. I'm looking at the book. It's like they're does, but it can be somewhere like this. Take any habit you want and make it really really easy to ridiculously easy to do so say you want to read more. Will scale it back to be read a paragraph. Maybe it's Rita sentence. Maybe it's just open the book. There's a summer that was the habit as all I did was open the book. Then you find. Where does that tiny version of that habit? Where does that fit naturally in your life? And one of the breakthroughs I had my work was understand. What is it come half? Of So. I opened the book after I sit down on the patio in the evenings. So what you're doing is you're designing dairy tiny behavior into your life. You're fitting it into your routine where it will fit naturally just like you'll take a little seedling or a seed and. This seed. Take root and thrive, so it's the design process. So. The tiny habit recipe becomes after I. sit down on the Patio in the evenings. I will open my book now. Some people think that's not very meaningful, so they might say well I will open my book and read one paragraph. It's not one chapter has to be so simple. So easy to do that even when you're sick or busy or stressed, you can still do the behavior, so you can be very very consistent. The third piece and all of these are hacks making tiny, reminding yourself by connect, call it anchoring anchoring it to an existing routine like sitting down on the patio. That's a hack. Because you're not using alarms or post. It notes or whatever you are using your existing routine to remind you. Then the third one called celebration you wire in the habit into your brain by deliberately causing yourself to feel a positive emotion. And The emotion of the feeling of success in the book shine so you? There's different ways to help yourself feel China so. One thing I did with opening the book was my bookmark. Had this really cutesy Smiley face on it? And when I opened the book, I looked at that smile face, and as I could for you Bj you're reading right and that would create shine which would help wire in the habit. If you're a flashing, it could be after I brush I will floss one tooth, and you could look in the mirror and smiling. Yep, that's how you do it..

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"dr bj" Discussed on Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit

Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit

02:47 min | 1 year ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit

"Come back late at night. There's a place on Nineteenth Avenue in San Francisco where I would stop and fill the car or if I, didn't need to I would buy a bag of fritos in a bag of doritos. It's like I deserve this. I've had such a long day and I repeat that. and stopping that behavior. took. Some design took. But it was related to the popcorn and what I learned for me, anyway was for. Creating habits stopping habits are different processes, and so what I learned for me on stopping habits. It's like Nope, it's you just you draw the line and you never get Fritos. You can stop at that gas station. You never can buy. I was at a special party here in I'm in Maui now we live part time here and really dear friend in her nineties. CUT This cormet popcorn. She's No. You don't eat popcorn, but here's one. This is really special. One little kernel in this special ball where other people got the whole ball? And It was. She wasn't looking. I took that piece and put it in my pocket because it's like not even one carnall. There's no way I'm going back to this popcorn. So. change leads to change both good and bad. And so if you change in good ways, it opens you up to other good ways of changing. If I start eating that one kernel of popcorn than maybe next thing, you know I might eat some. fritos there on the table which would lead to other things, so it's really and maybe not everybody has that maybe some people can do moderation and all things when it comes to addictions, but from your sharing about your own story, and the interesting thing about it though is that you have that data of your life and the whole approach around the tiny habits which I which I think we should. Include an elevator pitch four and just make sure we summarize with the audience is with us, but the whole approach tiny habits is that it's not an all or nothing approach. It's not you have to go. In you know all and go into this habit that already say. I'm going to go to the gym three hours a week and this this much about it's actually about taking those golden behaviors and starting small, making them tiny, so they can be incorporated into our life so. Drew. Let me repeatedly the way that you. Stop Habits and the way that you start. Them are different processes as different as the way I plant a tree and the way I pull the tree out of the ground. It will always come back to motivation ability prompt, but the way you use. It is different so even though. You might struggle with an addiction or untangling an unwanted behavior. That might be hard. The process for creating habits using tiny habits is really easy, and it's not all or nothing, and it's playful on. It's fun and IT'S A. In the book..

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"dr bj" Discussed on Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit

Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit

03:32 min | 1 year ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit

"And so the habits were a flashing one to doing push ups after I peed certain things about how I aid or what? I wouldn't eight eat. Howard noted things I wish I had kept a list actually I, didn't I mean because you don't know that you know ten years later? You can be publishing a book on this. You're just. In some ways out of need. Trying to use what you know about behavior and exploring, how do I change my own behavior? Now that I understand that it's not about the size of the behavior about being consistent, and you can be consistent if it's tiny because you're not susceptible swings motivation. And then just. Doing stuff and know I. One of the classes I'm going to rewind a little bit to the heritage. In the mid nineties, I took a Stanford class with David Kelly, and at the time David, Kelly was running idea, which was a big company, but not the huge companies now, but there's no such thing as design, thinking or the Stanford. D. School out would come later out of David, Kelly and actually one of my classmates. So the thinking. Of just you know you design you. Try stuff you hit rate that was. Some ways David Kelly. Really! Got Me going on that so when I started hacking my baby fifteen years later. that was natural because I had done that another kinds of projects, so it was like okay. Try something it rate iterating rate. Until you find the right design. And that's fundamentally today to the tiny habits method you, you make the best design you design the habit the best you can, and that works you keep going if you don't it, doesn't you? Rate and you it you re design it. You don't blame yourself. You don't say you know black willpower motivation. It's design challenge, and in some ways I really credit David Kelly in the mid nineties of training me in tuning in to the power of design. And jump in and actually even zoom out even further I. WanNa even start off with that was profound back then, but it's still profound today, because there's so many misconceptions that we still all have many that people who are listening to the podcast today, actually probably still believe around habits and change. Can you run through some of the most common misconceptions I feel like we can really. Really, appreciate the behavior model and everything teach tiny habits. When we looked at the common misconceptions that are out there about how to actually create a habit and change in your life. Yeah, kind of do a laundry list and you can stop me, or you can rewind to the ones you want me to d-print one that it's all about motivating yourself. If you just keep yourself motivated. You can change habits to if you can't change your habits then it's your problem that you lacked motivation or you lacked willpower three. Repeat it over and over twenty one days if you just repeated twenty one days or sixty six days, the habit will wire, and so it's a matter of repetition. Next? Just do one habit at a time that you. That's the only way that works next. It's hard to change habits. All of those things are not true. I want to take a couple of them and UNPACK why they're not true, and we'll kind of zoom zoom out with your model in the context of it. So what do we know about why the whole idea of like?.

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"dr bj" Discussed on Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

02:06 min | 1 year ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

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"dr bj" Discussed on Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

02:06 min | 1 year ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

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"dr bj" Discussed on Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

05:16 min | 1 year ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

"Prompt again. Think of it like Legos the way that you take apart. This big Lagos structure depends on what it is, but it will always. Comfortability ability motivation are always components that you're. You're fiddled. Let's say right now. The goal for we want to make limitless the most read in finished book of the year. That's Michael. So what would you recommend to somebody watching this right now? And they just have the book some reason they just. They haven't even help Ya. Love it love at. Is Reading or the Audio Booker either one. Let's take reading the book. Say That okay. I almost put this as an example in my book, but it was a little too self referential, but it's perfect for you, so here's what so first of all. Get the ball. And then take the reading behavior. One chapter is too big instead scaling way way back. You might think one paragraph. That's okay. You could even go back to one sentence, and you might even go back to. My habit is just going to be opening book. Right as simple as possible, but you might want to pick a sentence or a paragraph, so you take the behavior. Make it super tiny. Don't think you're GONNA. Read five pages. It's not tiny enough. You gotTa make it so easy. That, even when you're sick or busy or in a rush, she'll still do it. Will you still ran the one sentence or one paragraph? So they're gonNA make that tiny. Then you're you won't have to relax motivation you're in this. Next, find where it fits naturally in your life. Where does it come after? To read limitless. Come after. Maybe it comes after you start the coffee maker. Maybe it's after you sit down with lunch. Maybe it's actor. You go to your afternoon break so what you have to design it into your life. Look like a my fingers on. You have to decide what where does it come after? And this is a design process? It's not about willpower. Okay, so if you're tapping into willpower. If you think you lack motivation, you're headed down the wrong path. It's designed challenge. Not a will project so you? You find where it fits naturally in my life. There was a time when summer where I wanted to to reading, and always sat down on the deck with my partner looked over the river in the evenings, so that was the moment after i. sit down with my partner and for Tim. It was just opened the book. It wasn't read anything. It was just open and what I did and I drew this up as you were talking. I made a bookmark that had a happy Smiley face on it like that. So when I opened the book. Looking at that Smiley face made me feel successful than happy a little bit of a hack. But what you could do is open the book. An azure. Book. Wow. This is helping me achieve my life's purpose, because it is but gem teaching, you is so if you can connect the habit of opening the ball. To Howitt's help inactivity think about how it's helping you achieve your life purpose. That's a form of celebration that can help you feel successful, and that's going to help the habit form really quick. You change best buy feeling good, not feeling bad now who read that that's a thread that runs through my entire book because too often, people think that change is hard and after beat themselves. That's not the best way to change, so yeah, the details about tiny habits. He'd your model I think the powerful message to get out there as change. Best. Buy Feeling good. And there are ways to transform your life by feeling good, and if you're feeling bad, that's a signal to find a better way to do it, and that's really what my works about him I think your work is bad. Is Helping people upgrade and transform in these positive ways, and it's not about guilt or shame or Self trash-talk. There's ways there's better ways to do it, so forget about a lot of the traditional stuff you're you thought about behavior change and understand that you change best feeling good. You're changed best. I feel good I. think that that's amazing. Remember when you teach something you get to learn. It's wise to share this winter. Fans, your friends or family. Your your followers online eilly recommend. People get the book. Tiny habits by Dr. bj fog, and it could also follow you on social media on Instagram and twitter all this fun. Thank you so much and everybody. I'm so glad you're here with Jim. He's amazing. You know that you would be here and huge. CONGRATS and I'm cheering. You Yuan. I'm watching the. Itself Point the people get the book, but there's something exciting about seeing how. It's doing incredible. A lot of people are connecting with the book just cheering you on. Thank, you bj although. Want to double your brain speed and memory power. If you'd like to learn rapidly, get ahead faster I'd like to give you my brand new quick brain accelerator program. You will discover exactly what I teach my clients to learn read and remember anything in half the time there is no.

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"dr bj" Discussed on Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

05:16 min | 1 year ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Kwik Brain with Jim Kwik

"Prompt again. Think of it like Legos the way that you take apart. This big Lagos structure depends on what it is, but it will always. Comfortability ability motivation are always components that you're. You're fiddled. Let's say right now. The goal for we want to make limitless the most read in finished book of the year. That's Michael. So what would you recommend to somebody watching this right now? And they just have the book some reason they just. They haven't even help Ya. Love it love at. Is Reading or the Audio Booker either one. Let's take reading the book. Say That okay. I almost put this as an example in my book, but it was a little too self referential, but it's perfect for you, so here's what so first of all. Get the ball. And then take the reading behavior. One chapter is too big instead scaling way way back. You might think one paragraph. That's okay. You could even go back to one sentence, and you might even go back to. My habit is just going to be opening book. Right as simple as possible, but you might want to pick a sentence or a paragraph, so you take the behavior. Make it super tiny. Don't think you're GONNA. Read five pages. It's not tiny enough. You gotTa make it so easy. That, even when you're sick or busy or in a rush, she'll still do it. Will you still ran the one sentence or one paragraph? So they're gonNA make that tiny. Then you're you won't have to relax motivation you're in this. Next, find where it fits naturally in your life. Where does it come after? To read limitless. Come after. Maybe it comes after you start the coffee maker. Maybe it's after you sit down with lunch. Maybe it's actor. You go to your afternoon break so what you have to design it into your life. Look like a my fingers on. You have to decide what where does it come after? And this is a design process? It's not about willpower. Okay, so if you're tapping into willpower. If you think you lack motivation, you're headed down the wrong path. It's designed challenge. Not a will project so you? You find where it fits naturally in my life. There was a time when summer where I wanted to to reading, and always sat down on the deck with my partner looked over the river in the evenings, so that was the moment after i. sit down with my partner and for Tim. It was just opened the book. It wasn't read anything. It was just open and what I did and I drew this up as you were talking. I made a bookmark that had a happy Smiley face on it like that. So when I opened the book. Looking at that Smiley face made me feel successful than happy a little bit of a hack. But what you could do is open the book. An azure. Book. Wow. This is helping me achieve my life's purpose, because it is but gem teaching, you is so if you can connect the habit of opening the ball. To Howitt's help inactivity think about how it's helping you achieve your life purpose. That's a form of celebration that can help you feel successful, and that's going to help the habit form really quick. You change best buy feeling good, not feeling bad now who read that that's a thread that runs through my entire book because too often, people think that change is hard and after beat themselves. That's not the best way to change, so yeah, the details about tiny habits. He'd your model I think the powerful message to get out there as change. Best. Buy Feeling good. And there are ways to transform your life by feeling good, and if you're feeling bad, that's a signal to find a better way to do it, and that's really what my works about him I think your work is bad. Is Helping people upgrade and transform in these positive ways, and it's not about guilt or shame or Self trash-talk. There's ways there's better ways to do it, so forget about a lot of the traditional stuff you're you thought about behavior change and understand that you change best feeling good. You're changed best. I feel good I. think that that's amazing. Remember when you teach something you get to learn. It's wise to share this winter. Fans, your friends or family. Your your followers online eilly recommend. People get the book. Tiny habits by Dr. bj fog, and it could also follow you on social media on Instagram and twitter all this fun. Thank you so much and everybody. I'm so glad you're here with Jim. He's amazing. You know that you would be here and huge. CONGRATS and I'm cheering. You Yuan. I'm watching the. Itself Point the people get the book, but there's something exciting about seeing how. It's doing incredible. A lot of people are connecting with the book just cheering you on. Thank, you bj although. Want to double your brain speed and memory power. If you'd like to learn rapidly, get ahead faster I'd like to give you my brand new quick brain accelerator program. You will discover exactly what I teach my clients to learn read and remember anything in half the time there is no.

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"dr bj" Discussed on Habits and Hustle

Habits and Hustle

07:17 min | 1 year ago

"dr bj" Discussed on Habits and Hustle

"The ability to have a small. It's a small little win smaller changes and you know it's easiest doing to push ups after. Up or waking up by the Maui. Abbott which is saying today is going to be a great day right on the tiny things transform. You maybe in the next when we get back together. We'll talk about how that works and how I know that works. But what essentially happens is even as you feel successful in these tiny things your identity shifts the way you think about yourself changes to be much more positive the way you deal with challenges or opportunities in your life shifts and it doesn't have to be massive changes that get you there. It's these tiny things as long as you feel successful at them that then leads to all these other positive things and that's what the subtitles about the small changes. That change everything. It's the way you process the world where you feel emotions. The way you experienced emotion that I call shine and you do that by displacing one to doing push ups pouring a glass of water. Not by running marathons or You know taking twenty thousand steps every day. Now it's Momentum right when she star you can send you right. That's the whole thing right as a big part of it. It's it's a change in your ability to change your confidence to change and really important that shift in identity that something. I saw research pretty early and I wish little sewage by it. People are changing their identity within five days. Because that's what the program was launched in two thousand eleven five day tiny habits program and I had to look carefully and it's like Yep people are thinking about themselves differently and then that leads to perceiving the world than Acting in the world differently with the much ripple effects is that. Why when you say that will be no. Today's the Mary Abbott. You've named after your friend abode stepping stepping on the floor and saying today's going to be a great day it does it. Does it change the synapses or neurons in your brain to be more positive are what is it now? I think I'll just think you set an intention and or if you're feeling doubtful you at least you open the possibility and you will have a great day so it's just seven words but I'm some of my friends who are really into intentionally that like. Oh you're setting intention it's just exactly right And and that Some of these things Like the practice of celebration. The MAUI habit started as techniques and then we can look back and explain why they work and that's totally a legitimate way to discover stuff. You don't have to do an experiment. In fact it's really hard to do an experiment. The tiny habits method came out of a hacking stuff like. Let's hack the behavioral attack. What the prompt is. Let's hack emotions in worked and then you can explain why later it worked. It didn't start from reading theory on deriving a method. Okay so academics are not going to like me for this but facebook twitter. Google instagram zoom does not start as theories and then they. They started as practical hands on things and we can look at them and say why they work. That's how tiny habits evolved as well. It was like it was a set of techniques that worked it did not get derived from theory and so many people think. Oh we have to read all the theory in them will know how to do the techniques. That's like let's read everything up plants in the world. Then we'll learn great cooking techniques and you can explain those may be conceptually but you actually work with people who know the techniques lead to great dishes. Those start with theory and then try to derive a method from theory. I hope I could. I don't hate me for saying that but that that's how you create things that really work. I mean look at the everything you know things that are really popular. People use did not derive by reading theoretical papers. You're not offending me. Just any academic. Some people will be maybe gave a cat would be upset. Or it's not worth me. Probably though I attrition and where you can actually measure. Physiology is a kind of a different thing. Social Science. Social Science is way harder than Physical Sciences. So she does not get the credit for that. But it's way harder than chemistry astrophysics Radovic. 'cause you're dealing with human beings dealing with all these variables you can't fully control so absolutely not. I mean that's I mean that's why I love you because you're very on instant your real and I really love having you on this podcast. So thank you for taking all this time out. Talking to me in everybody and I'M GONNA I'm GonNa Harass you again though I not to talk to you again. You have such great questions and you put me totally at ease and I shared things I showed before so there you slap. I'm so happy to hear that compliment for me. You have no idea. I'm so happy to hear that I really am. I loved your book and I honestly would if you stay in that too. If it wasn't true and I really do think everybody can get something out of it and it can really tweak and help people's Habits and behaviors ship for the better especially in a time like now. Let me tell you right. So thank you tell dem say hello making you bring is making. Everyone goes needed. Any email thing I need a denny. I do maybe income to La after the smoke. Quarantine things all over. I love it. I would love to meet Danny Battalion for you. Sounds amazing. I'LL GO KILL THEM. Featured in the show he definitely was. He was a star. Actually people find you if they want to know more about about websites. Pj FOG DOT COM and tiny habits dot com. That's probably those are probably the easiest ways and you also have these tiny coaches ninety headed hoses like some young people can certify with me and train become certified coaches starting point there is still tiny habits dot com and so we as coaches just an amazing community man. They're stepping up to the plate right now. I'm so proud of him. That's amazing that's a whole other podcast. Right there but Articles Dixon Habits and hus- Tom Akita Ronin. Stay up on the cry. Don't stop keep it going. Habits us from Minnesota hosted by Jim Cohen visionaries. Tune-in gets not be inspired. This show moment excuses. We haven't met the habits and cast power have this..

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"dr bj" Discussed on With Whit

With Whit

03:53 min | 1 year ago

"dr bj" Discussed on With Whit

"To be here on this island in Idaho. You can't use your screens while we're together and I thought people were just going to freak out. They really loved it so they had the same frustration. I had. It's like Oh everybody's on their screens or not really connecting and so anyway. If people want details email me but long short of it is. You might be surprised that at a dinner the people to party you have a home and so on to say no in our home of the policy. Is this your phones aside and we connect as real humans in real time and we're not being distracted so there's a lot more innovation that needs to happen. They're certainly you can turn off notifications and one of my former students. Tristan Harris advocates putting on a gray scale. And so on. What does that mean? That means you don't see the colors you just see black and white and according to his hypothesis it's less compelling but certainly the way we use screens is household issue so you can decide as a household. Here's when screens are allowed. Nears when we're not doing it and even if it's a couple that can be a decision together. I don't want to be too prescriptive about that. 'cause people should be able to live their own lives and how they but there are ways For example I will not take a phone into a restaurant and a Maui. I never take my phone to the beach. Are you kidding me? And then I walked on the beach and I see people live their halftime but I see tourists or temporarily. They're they're on their phone. It's like so just deciding and it's not so much about tiny habits but it is about designing your life and that's the broader picture of tiny habits. You can create the life you want. Just put a little teeny bit of effort into designing it and if it feels really hard not to go into the restaurant without your phone to one time and see how it goes right. Just say I'm going to one time and habits of your family says no were. We always have a refund table to say. Just give me one time right so just skillet back and make it so easy that you're you don't resist it right. Yeah for me as as a mom now my defense mechanism what I tell myself is like I just have to have. God forbid something happens like I need to be available. I can't just not be reachable but then I think like a tricky. Yeah like that's that makes it a little bit more complicated but then again how often I mean. How often does something actually happen? And then you're you use it for something else and you've probably seen this novel where he changed the Password. You make the password very hard to do. I love to save so you just so. There's this moment of pause launching instagram. I told you one of my students was the CO founder of Instagram. So I kind of smile and I kinda smile. I don't know what it would be but an odd way when I'm like saying don't use instagram. But yeah can really distract you from creating personal bond right meaningful conversation again. That's the close relationships that makes us happy. It's not the strangers on Instagram. Right so true. Sorry Mike former student cocoa he would totally agree with me on. Yeah Yeah all right well thank you so much for a year. I'm chatting. I learned so much was so inspiring. Thank you guys so much for listening. I hope you love to this episode. Don't forget to subscribe rate and review. I'd love to hear what you think and anything more or even less you'd want to hear about tune in every Tuesday for a new episode. If you WANNA know more about what? I'm up to you can find me on Instagram at Whitney Tort. My website Whitney Port Dot Com and my youtube channel Whitney port piece.

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"dr bj" Discussed on With Whit

With Whit

11:24 min | 1 year ago

"dr bj" Discussed on With Whit

"Your closest relationships is directly correlated to your happiness so happiness comes from the quality of the close relationships. So it's simple things so my partner cooking won't let me Cook so it makes me breakfast so after there's a specific moment after eight breakfasts. I put by the thing because he doesn't let me do the dishes either. Wow All right well let me curcumin laundry but yes so so. That's one sure. And then he goes out. He figured out weirdly that he loves to rowing in the morning. Like I wouldn't have figured that was bigger. That's what he lost. His exercise comes in so. I'm playing my flute. He's out in the garage. Jim Rowing he comes in. And I'm like awesome. I celebrate him. Sometimes I go get a hug. And she's not going to listen to this so I can say sometimes I'd like grabbed his muscles and go man and I'm genuine right but if I'm feeling that why not express loves it. He just being really and I'm like yeah look firm you are. Just now he's like lifting weights more what I didn't tell you my partner. Seventy five twenty years older than I am and so for him to lift weights and really firm up and take. It seriously is incredible. It's important to me want him to last long. Be Active. I kind of stopped in some ways. What you I think. I'll just talk. We've been together thirty years for a gay couple and how hard it's been with all the culture that kind of the big long time no matter who you are and what you do. Essentially is what's going to affirm this person and help them feel successful things that matter to them so I could prescribe stuff but you really WanNa do say for my significant other. What really matters to them. Yes what fails up their love bucket. There we go. I just started going to therapy and talking about me and how I can be sort of insecure. Sometimes and the therapist said to him. You just you need to fill up her love bucket more. You need to find out. What is her love language? Yeah we go okay. Yeah maps of that. So we'll find out what matters and then find ways to firm them in ways that matter to them. I mean that's what it boils down to. It could be tiny. Little statements can be little nuts. Okay so with my partner. It's like you know heat any. I'm on the plane. It's a simple text message with an Emoji as soon as I land just landed or like soundview random things throughout the day and it sounds simple. But those tiny things add up more than me buying something lavish rare Valentine's Day right right and then you know because I have a two and a half year old. Wow you sell I am thinking about you. Know my biggest. My biggest job in life right now is just creating a good happy human rights and so for two and a half year old. He's really starting to understand so much he understands so much more than I even realized understand. So what are some of the things that I can start to do with him to teach him some? I've been there. I know there are like tiny habits for MOMS and tiny habits or kids moms and so again. I'm not right. This is from experience from my coaches and all the people I've I've coached and so on is soon as you can teach your kids to do the celebration thing to say good for me. I did a good job because at some point. Thirteen Fourteen fifteen sixteen. They'RE NOT GONNA. They're not gonNA listen to you but if you can get them saying good for me to self basically self-reinforcing and if they can apply that to any behavior that they think is a good one they want to repeat more often than you're giving them a superpower to change a superpower decree habits and. There's a story in the book where one mom was like. I mean she's a working mom really really busy. And then she would celebrate wiping counter. Inert kid saw her and her kids started celebrating along with like go mom so they'd like did it together and that not only helped her wiring the habit and feel like a good mom but it started teaching her kid. This is how you you know. This is how you up your game. Basically your daily life because kids at this age they just WanNa do whatever you're doing. They're like little shadows she so if if you lead by example like we. He must have always been hearing. Say like Nice to meet you when we would meet someone and then recently we were meeting a neighbor and I said this is Sonny and Sonny stuck out his hand and said Nice to meet you and it's not like we taught him to say that it's like Oh my God. It was proudest moment of all time that emotion. You were feeling what? We're talking about celebration. It's that feeling of success okay. So that's you felt that naturally what you're kidding. Congratulations you can also find ways to hack it. That emotion has never been named okay. And so when it's when it's somebody else we call it. Pride refilling it about ourselves. It's not quite pride and so it's not confidence. Well I've done a bunch of research on this. I called the emotion experts around the world. Four of them my academic colleagues. And they're like they're right. There's no name so in tiny habits I give it a name so that feeling you have when you feel successful now is named shine shine shine. Okay your shine shine yacht so you're feeling shine for your kid and what you want to teach them how to feel shine. Oh you put your you put your your socks away good. You should feel shine you through your clothes in the hamper. Boom celebrate feel shine. Yeah that's amazing now more than ever. We just have to set ourselves up for success and others. We need to bring China into our lies shine with other people. We have to understand that we change best. Buy Feeling good not by feeling bad. There's no role for shame or guilt or self trash. Talk in this kind of change. Do it the opposite way. And nobody's perfect right but when you don't to perfectly like Oh adopt the floss in the wrong place or whatever. Think of it this way sort of like. Let's say we're redesigning this room and put pictures and chairs around and in the first attempt. We put that table in the wrong place. We don't beat ourselves up over it. We just make an adjustment right. Same thing with your habits right design your habits try amount and something doesn't work. You're just adjusted right. That's what it is. It's a process of exploration. You know there's a very specific step by step way of doing it. But one of the staff's is if it's not working tweak it tweak it until you find where it fits naturally and it's a habit that you love that can take root and grow We've talked a lot about like specific habits and Diet relationships kids. Motherhood what are just some of the the broader ones that you feel like are really helpful. Like if someone was coming to you would just like. Bj What are the top three habits. That I should definitely be doing in my life every single day. We've talked about some of them. But I'll give you three more productivity and in my view productivity is really a function of prioritizing. You want to be productive and things that matter because if you're in productive things that don't matter than so what so have a tiny habit of where you identify your top priority for that day. Okay and so one of the working moms in the book her. Name's Amy. That's her real name. All the stories are true but some of the names we had to change in case. We didn't what she did was. After she dropped off her daughter Rachel school she would immediately park and write down her top priority for business because their business wasn't really progressing and that was a game changer. Now she does multimillion dollar account. It's grown so have a habit of prioritizing I'm GONNA go back to the relationship one have a habit of you know. Think of somebody in your life that needs to be closer like your mom create the habit of texting. Your mom doesn't have to be a big long conversation. As reconnect there could be Emoji and a little bit of an interaction. Because I think that's so important and then from a financial perspective a big challenge have the tiny habit of after. I see something I really want. I'll say to myself I'm going to sleep on it now. I know that's not so like groundbreaking novel but you can think of it as a tiny habit. That is your policy. So if I'm in with didn't and I were in shopping for. We saw some great artwork in Maui and of course they're trying to sell it to you and I was like oh we really like it but I have a policy. I never buy it the same day right so it allowed me to push back And even announced to my partners like okay. We're GONNA sleep on it. We're always going to sleep on this and guess what the next morning. I didn't even remember. Okay one more question. Phones and Technology were always out of habit reaching. When we're we are a second alone. Have a second to wait for something. We just are constantly looking at our phones. How can we get ourselves out of that? Bad Habit this has been the focus of my Stanford lab the last year. Okay I don't doubt at. Ya so what I always try to do in my classes and my research at Stanford is pick a really hard problem. That hasn't been solved yet has to do with behavior so last year. It's that with continues this year. It's climate change climate action so I'm training professionals backed. I just did it. This morning professionals around the world how to change behavior so we can say this planet and really is small. Things can add up with social media. It's again different for different people and my research team. I'll just give a stanford resource than I'll get my answer at screen time. Dot Stanford Dot. Edu is a little shoot little character. We call screen time genie. And you answer three questions for her. And then she goes into the database and pulls out here the three ways that you know. I think it's a recommendation. Yeah Yeah so people can do that but certainly in your own. Life have the habit of or have the policy part of its policy. Part of its habits policy is like no phones at the dinner table. That's fresher or when you host a party. Hey everybody welcome ballsy in. My home is no phones. We're going to really connect with each other. Yes we'll take a group picture at the end but we're not going to be doing social. It'd be so pissed if I sat down. Okay maybe not because. Here's here's how I know. So I was in charge of my family reunion. Big Worm and family reunion than Idaho on two thousand nineteen and it cycles through the siblings so now it was my turn and I thought I know 'em you pick a theme every year and so the theme for this year that I came that I thought people would hate was airplane mode in other words. We've come from all over the country.

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