35 Burst results for "Depression"
Pulling Back the Curtain on the Female Orgasm
"Briefly go over some issues women face when it comes to difficulty orgasm. We've discussed before psychological issues like low self esteem poor body image or something like anxiety or an eating disorder at can affect sexual performance ability to orgasm. There are medical issues. Like denia niceness and difficulty producing lubrication to name a few a at twenty t analysis identified some top factors in sexual dysfunction relationship problems stress mental health issues. Poor physical health. Genetic urinary issues. Such as pelvic pain a history of abortion a history of female genital mutilation sexual abuse being religious. Perhaps due to sexual shame and stigma so the nelson's found that things like communication positive body image exercise. Masturbation can help improve sexual dysfunction. Some people experience depression sadness shame irritability crying self-loathing etc after orgasm achieved consensual pleasurable sex things. Like post-coital trustees or coil destroyer. Some studies suggest over half of women have experienced post-coital foia or cd at least once in a recent survey found that it often is linked more to one realistic expectations than underlying medical condition. Yes And this is kind of related to the petite more or the little death which is used to describe the unconsciousness people. Some people experience after orgasmic. Likening it to death and something. I've just learned about an experience and foolishly did an experiment to test for research for this episode and it took me out a whole day are sex are orgasm but overall i am so these intense headaches that occurred during or after sexual arousal. They can be short-lived or lasts a few hours a couple of days about three days. They're pretty rare and men are more likely to experience them than women. If you are someone who suffers from migraines you're more likely to experience them as well. There are two types orgasmic headache. Which is intense throbbing pain during her after orgasm or sexual benign headaches. Which are these headaches. That build during sexual arousal the kinda guy come from the and then go up some experience both at once and they can be A one time thing or happening clusters of risk six. Twelve month period. Some people have said they're around for life They happen because of muscle contractions and or a spike in blood
T-Pain Says a Comment Usher Made Sent Him Into a 4 Year Depression
Study: Rates of Anxiety and Depression Among College Students Continue to Soar
"Story out of lebanon new hampshire which includes the dartmouth college very high end college. That did a study on some of their own students that found that two hundred and seventeen students were tracked when they entered the school as freshmen in two thousand seventeen in the hopes of understanding how they behave students stress levels rise and fall usually in tandem with midterm and final exams but since the onset of the pandemic quote unquote rates of depression and anxiety have soared and show no signs of coming down. Said andrew campbell researcher and computer science professor. The research points to how the public health crisis they say is affecting young people and raises questions about what will be done to support them a group that struggled disproportionately with mental health issues for years before the pandemic set in the question is how long will they stay like. This said the researcher. The findings also added a growing body of research that or to a growing body of research that indicate the effects of the corona virus have extended beyond physical health and safety particularly as people deal with social isolation grief unemployment and uncertainty about the future.
Tropical Depression Claudette Kills at Least 12 in Alabama
"Least 12 people were killed as a result of tropical Storm Claudette, which drenched parts of the southeast with torrential rain over the weekend. Correspondent Clayton Neville reports during the storm 10 people died in a fiery crash on an Alabama highway. Claudette dropped as much as 12 inches of rain along the Mississippi Gulf Coast. Parts of Alabama and Georgia also got hammer. Flash flood watches lasted through the weekend, a 24 year old man and a three year old boy reportedly killed when a tree fell on their house outside Tuscaloosa. And in Butler County, a horrific crash about 35 miles south of Montgomery on Interstate 65, 9 Children and one adult dead. A van from a youth home for abused or neglected Children, was carrying eight of the victims. The adult driver of that van survived, but it's believed her four and 16 year old kids died in the crash. 29 year old man and his nine month old daughter also killed. Authorities believe the vehicles likely hydroplaned on wet roads. More than a dozen were involved and several fully engulfed in flames. It's a tragedy not only for ranches, it's not only a tragedy for Alabama It's a national strategy, Michael Smith, the CEO of the Alabama sheriff's youth Ranches, told ABC News. The vans from the Tallapoosa County Girls Ranch in Camp Hill. It was coming back from Gulf Shores where the kids went for a vacation. They all wrote me a little sticky nose and oh, But the sticking those over my office saying Now they look forward to being down there and and they end together. He told ABC. He was able to make the trip to visit the girls for a few days before the crash. I can't tell you what it meant to me. And and I just know in my heart that it meant something to them A go fund me account now set up for Tallapoosa County Girls Ranch to help offset the funeral costs and counseling. As for Claudette, the system continues to move east with potential for more heavy
Tropical Storm Claudette Batters the South
"Storm Claudette is downgraded to a tropical depression but is being blamed for two tornadoes. The tornado in southern Alabama cause three injuries and damaged several homes. Another tornado was confirmed in pace, Florida earlier in the day. Officials warned the storm could contribute to coastal flooding, dangerous rip currents and gusty
The Goal of the American Marxist Is to Destroy the Current Society
"Depression in this country. The Democrats know it. Keep something in mind. The influence of the American Marxist on the Democrat Party is significant. And what is their goal, ultimately, to destroy the existing society, replace it with some kind of Rube Goldberg Marxist socialist system. They're never very clear about what it is, but it doesn't really matter. Any important storm critical race theory, critical immigration theory Critical trends theory. I call them those things and that's fine. And so for them. It's a win win. But they have to also control the political system. That's precisely why They want to control the Supreme Court. I don't know why they pretty much control it anyway. You can see. Tony Barrett Kavanagh. They've already buckled. John Roberts wants to be the next, uh Chief Justice Warren, So that's three. Um Pretty much there's there's three Constitutional is left on the Supreme Court to in particular one most of the time. And that's where we are. But that's also why they want to change our election laws. They're breaking their backs. They're afraid the house will be taken by the Republicans. Given the economic situation that's right on the horizon. To try and institute with no majority in the Senate. They don't the majority in the Senate. It's the Constitution that gives the vice president of vote. They have no significant majority in their house. They're hanging on by a thread. And by the way, the finished thread in 100 years.
Picky Eating Or Something Else?
"Why. Don't we dive right in and talk about picky eating. I think it's safe to say that. Most parents have kids with picky eaters and in fact there was a recent survey that showed that thirty nine percent of parents say that it's a challenge in their home. So what do you see in your practice. I see a lot of picky eating and there's levels of picky eating the general. Please eat your vegetables. And then there was very serious. Actually medical condition called avoided. Restrictive food intake disorder or kids are frantic about food and react in a very abnormal way. That's very difficult for parents to take care of. So it's a significant problem and researchers also found that picky eating is associated. Now is hard to do this with a direct causation. Because we're not gonna starve children and see what happens to them. But there's a direct association between picky eating and an almost double chance of developing mental health. Diagnosis wow okay and do we know why that is. I think that were. We have a pretty good theory about that. Which is that. Your body isn't the government and a deficit. So if you don't have it you budget cut and survival is the most important thing. So that's going. Be the last thing budget cut so things like learning to speak a second language and mood and and energy those are things that will get cut right right and i had seen that you wrote an article about anxiety and picky eating and obviously now we're seeing increasing rates anxiety and depression particularly among children due to the pandemic so what kind of role does anxiety play in in picky eating. an excellent question julie and plays a big role. Because would you think about kids in today's society especially with the shutdown and pandemic that's raging. They have control of so few things the one thing they do get to control they can close their mouth and you can't make them. Yeah so so. That's a place that they very often. What people are anxious. They want to find something. They can have some providence over right so so for kids. It's like well you make me go to bed. You make me stay home making me wear this mask but gosh darn it. I don't have to eat that. All right yeah. So that's where so very often. These issues are playing out in food. So i'm seeing more and more psychological issues that we used to take care of other ways playing out in my realm in nutrition.
Shwen Gwee Describes How Voice is Transforming Diagnostics
"Let's talk a little bit about Diagnostics which i think is fast. Here's a lot a lot happening here. So i'm just gonna let you take that. The shirt i think on the front. And you know you're starting to see some of these companies e startups whether they're still startups now or whether the much bigger than that because the funding is a good question but some of them are starting to come into this space to really play that role of being more of a triage right. Where you're asking questions based and they'll ask you know they'll ask you about your symptoms and they'll start to narrow it down and provide a recommendation for what hype of condition you might have and so you've got a little bit of that fun end triage before seeing the actual healthcare professional specialists. You go through that kind of process examples of that Like a babylon health where they've actually become really popular globally especially in the uk where the nhl has adopted them as part of the process and then on the other end when when it comes to diagnostics to see some companies and startups really work on that audio channel. That the sample you get from somebody voice to be a way of detecting and diagnosing a condition or disease so really much more what we call it digital biomarker where we're at a voice sample analyze it and then from there detect if maybe you might have signs of depression or anxiety or ms for that matter. So it's really exciting to see how this feels really changing and leveraging these types of channels to provide new kinds of data that can be analyzed through a and machine learning to really start to provide that information and insight to predict what you might have in the suggests based on massive amounts of data and voice apples that were collected. And then if you think about that. I'm so complex. Human tools starting to also collect voice data As you know your apple watch can hear what you're saying go. Hey siri. I should say that. Early watch achmat. Picks up on that something like amazon halo actually picked up in Is able to record your voice and it's starting to be able to Provide information about your mood or or your your your overall condition that day as a result of that. But that's where it's getting really exciting as unique my own voice channels when we talk on the phone or we recorded I know a snapchat or tiktok recording or post and in what did it could be analyzed. Could pick up nuances that allow for that digital biomarker to be Detected and then realized that before you even knew it. You had a specific condition that you should probably go checkout out
Interview With the Director of the Stern Grove Festival
"Joined remotely by the director of development of stern grove festival. Alana vasconcelos being here alana. Thank you so much. I'm delighted to join you. So i wanted to have stern grove on the show because i went to the festival with my grandfather who used to live literally ten blocks away from stern grove. Back in the sixties. You're eighty four the season. that's right. Tell us about stern grove festival and a little bit of history in. What are some of your progress because this festival but you also do education as well yes. That's right so as the eighty fourth season might imply we are going on our fourth year of concerts and programs provided for the community. Stern grove festival. The festival has a wonderful history. Our core was from. Rosalie meyer stern. Who was the wife of sigmund stern. Who was the nephew of levi. Strauss actually purchased the land where the festival takes place in san francisco in the sunset neighborhood back in nineteen thirty one with the goal of providing space for music and concerts and performances to take place for free for the community and this initial thought of hers was shortly after the depression as a way to hire and support this symphony musicians and the land was given to the city with the caveat that these concerts would need to be held here in open and free for the public and here we are eighty four years later coming out of another kind of rough patch and we at the festival or just thrilled that we've been approved to hold the live season again this year in two thousand nineteen we saw over seventy thousand guests over our course of ten free concerts and in two thousand and twenty a month before we were ready to announce are amazing lineup. You can imagine that we were told everything else that we were not going to be able to do that. And so that was the first time in eighty three years to not have held the season and like the rest of the community. We are just so eager to reconnect and bring this back to the city. Starting june
Former Disney Channel Star Alyson Stoner on Mental Health Struggles
"Ellison. What an honor and privilege to meet you to talk to you and to hear you a nasal story so part cost today. Thank you so much. It's truly mutual and honored to be here as well thank you. I'm a great fan of yours. I watched you in. You're a little girl and in movies you've done and you've got such a phenomenal story. Would you mind share you story with the audience. Yes sure. I began working in entertainment at six years old and it was a fulltime job. You could say. It was a combination of training and learning about the craft also embarking on the industry side of things so meeting with agencies and having representatives and going on these auditions and it was a very reoccupying all consuming endeavor that ended up up rooting my entire family from ohio. All the way to the other side of the country to las angeles. And you know there's a mixed way of interpreting this because in many ways i was very very fortunate to have experienced quite a significant amount of success. Early on you could call it. Beginner's luck you could call it really great mentorship from my teachers. But there's also the flip side. Which is the psychological impact the developmental impact when you're removed from normal socialization. And when you're no longer in academic settings and you're you're learning a lot of different patterns that deeply embed themselves and and and give you a sense of reality that's quite skewed from the quote unquote normal. So it's been a multi layered experience but it's the story that i have to work with so here. We are turning turning everything we can into something purposeful. I love it and you've become a huge mental health advocate and just before we began. You made a very interesting comments about helping others in two different states one way you still proceeding through and one way you sort of proceed through now you moving into that other side. Can you talk about this. Because i found it really stinks. Yes as i'm meeting with a lot of different folks in the space were discussing the advocacy at hand for child actors child performers in terms of labor laws in terms of mental health practitioners on sets etc etc. I'm noticing that of course everyone is at different stages of their own healing and process. And you know some like to bring their pain into their advocacy because it's it's the passion it's the spark it's the fire that that really keeps them going
Economist Noreena Hertz Says Loneliness Is Bad for Our Health and Wealth
"And your book. You make an interesting argument. You say that woman is not annoying is not only initiative mental health. There's also Economics and politics involved in this. You know what do you estimate is the The four extent of this problem even beyond the mental health issue. So you know as as you know all too well that leninist is bad for mental health and that there is a link between loneliness anxiety and loneliness and depression and even leninists and suicide. Wilson know that lenses Physical health Manifesting in high blood pressure high levels of court could sell stress hormones in our body pulse rates all if these essentially not good for our body to be in a state of for protracted periods as loneliness often as many Which is why loneliness can even reduce our life expectancy by as much as Make our risk of dying prematurely Is much is said. He percent higher than if you're lonely so It is. It's not just health effects. Leninist is also bad for our wealth bad for our wealth collectively in part because if the cost the health k. bud healthcare bird and That lameness puts public health systems but also because leninists is bad for the workplace. Lonely work is less efficient s mandated less productive and more likely to quit company. The work as want that the single biggest determinant for whether somebody will remain at compute note is whether they have a friend at work so leninist really significant business program as well and also as i found in my research Inexorably linked to the rise of right wing populism in recent years. I'm not saying that everyone who's lonely. The populists of the right. Of course they don't but a significant katri if those who do lonely lonely in the sense of have more limited social networks much week support systems. We ca- ties with friends. Fewer acquaintances even fewer people to rely upon and times. If need but also langley in the sense of failing
Osaka Withdraws From French Open After Bitter Row, Reveals 'Bouts of Depression'
"Naomi osaka withdrew from the french open. that is the big tennis tournament for all those tennis fans out there. One of the grand slam grants. I'm so she withdrew from tennis From the french open over media obligations and the reason why she said in a very lengthy instagram post. She said i'm not a natural public speaker. And i get huge ways of anxiety. Before i speak to the world's media i get really nervous and find it stressful to try and engage and give them media the best answers i can't. She also opened up and said that she has experienced And major zaidi and depression since her first major win at the us in two thousand eighteen and that she will take some time away from the court she also said. I never wanted to be a distraction and the withdrawal is the best thing for the tournament the other players and my wellbeing considering that every to go with media obligations. Do you have a problem with us at all. No absolutely not anybody that does meat or not. She didn't say she can't stand the media. She's not in a feud with the media. She's freight now when it comes to mental health and depression is far more important than what you and. I wanna ask you a question. I've never understood the media's infatuation with thinking they're owed squawked we're not we're not just like the just like if you're under contract is a player the organization doesn't owe us squat to renegotiate three years left on your deal. Now you have to. You could stay home. But i don't know what this account with. This young lady did to bother me a hell a player. She came out and was honest. We beg for transparency. She gives his transparency. And there's people out there a well. She got to be better to the media.
Naomi Osaka Reveals Mental Health Struggles
"Last wednesday naomi. Osaka said she wouldn't attend postmatch. News conferences at the french. Open writing on instagram. That i'm just not going to subject myself to people that doubt me on sunday. She won her opening match and kept her word. The french open find. Her and tennis officials threatened to kick her out of this and future events and then on monday asaka withdrew from the tournament. She said she had suffered long bouts of depression since winning her first major in two thousand eighteen and would now take some time away from the court. Joel there's a lot to discuss about. The events of the last few days from athlete mental health as josh said in the intro to news conferences at big sports events to the treatment of black and women athletes the way athletes express grievances on the way that sports authorities respond to them. But i want to start here with the observation. That is pretty banal. But i think encapsulates all of this. This whole episode just feels so profoundly sad and also so utterly avoidable. Yes i think you know first and foremost like everybody. I hope that now asakusa okay and on the road to getting better getting healthier and getting the help that she needs at this point. You'd have to say this seems to be much more about her health than media access. Post-match press conferences so clearly tennis can wait for another day.
Naomi Osaka Withdraws From 2021 French Open, Citing Anxiety
"Osaka electing to withdraw from the twenty twenty one french open and rather than purse. Her words rather than again offer my spin immediately. I just wanna read all of you listeners. In case you aren't on tennis twitter in case you didn't have the chance to read statement announcing her decision. Here's how the statement goes. Hey everyone i. This isn't a situation. I ever imagined attended. When i posted a few days ago. I think now the best thing for the tournament the players and my wellbeing is that i withdraw so that everyone can get back to focus on the focusing on the tennis going on in pairs. I never wanted to be a distraction. And i accept that my timing was not ideal and my message could have been clearer. More importantly i would never trivialize mental health or used the term lightly. The truth is that. I've suffered long bouts of depression since the us open in two thousand eighteen. And i've had a really hard time coping with that. Anyone that knows me knows i'm introverted. And anyone that has seen me at the tournaments will notice that. I'm often wearing headphones. As that help stole my social anxiety though the tennis press has always been kind to me. And i want to apologize especially to all the cool journalists who i may have hurt only eo. Moussaka is a classy enough individual to apologize to people when she's speaking about something so personal that's me editorializing. But again you have to praise her and her class her grace. Everything about naomi osaka reflected in the statement. I am not a natural public speaker and get huge waves of anxiety. Before i speak to the world's media i get really nervous and find it stressful to always try to engage and give you the best answers i can so here in paris i was already feeling vulnerable an anxious so i thought it was better to exercise self care and skip the press conference.
Roland Garros Day 2: Osaka Withdraws and Tennis Reels
"Naomi osaka. We had a statement from her couple of hours ago. Now we recording this just after nine pm. uk time a statement right as follows everyone. This isn't a situation. I ever imagined or intended. When i posted a few days ago. I think now the best thing for the tournament the other players and my well being is that i withdraw so that everyone can get back to focusing on the tennis going on in paris. I never wanted to be a distraction. And i accept that my timing was also ideal and my message could have been clearer. More importantly trivialize mental health. Use the term lightly. The truth is that. I have suffered long bouts of depression since the us open in two thousand eighteen. And i've had a really hard time coping with that. Anyone that knows me knows i'm introverted. And anyone that is see me. The tournaments will notice. That wearing often headphones is that helps. Dole's dole my social anxiety. The tennis price is always been kind to me. And i apologize. I want to apologize especially tool the cool journalists. Who i may have hurt. I am not a natural public speaker and get huge ways. Anxiety brought before speak to the world's media get really nervous and find it stressful to always tried to engage and give you the best as i can so here in paris i was already feeling vulnerable and anxious so i thought it was better to exercise self care and skip the press conferences. I announced it. Print wli. Because i do feel like the rules are quite outdated imports and i wanted to highlight that. I wrote privately to the tournament apologizing and saying that. I'd be more than happy to speak with them after the tournament as the slams are intense. I'm going to take some time away from the court now but when the time is right. I really want to work with the tour to discuss ways. We can make things better for the players press and found anyways. Hope you're doing well and staying safe love you guys. I'll see when i see.
Naomi Osaka: 'Best Thing' for French Open Would Be Her Withdrawal
"In a tweet Naomi Osaka says she's out of the French Open Naomi Osaka who decided not to talk to the media at the French Open says on Twitter that quote the best thing for the tournament is if she withdraws from the grand slam event Osaka is a four time grand slam champion and former number one ranked player she was fined fifteen thousand dollars after she skipped the post match news conference following her first round victory on Sunday Osaka also said on Twitter that she thinks the best thing for the tournament and other players and my well being is that I withdraw so that everybody can get back to focusing on the tennis she also wrote that she suffered long bouts of depression since winning the twenty eighteen U. S. open I'm surely after
A Desperate Writer Steals 'the Plot'
"Let's start with the premise of this book. And i i want to say upfront. There are a number of big twists plot to us in this book and we are not going to give away anything. So if you haven't read the book please don't fear. We will not ruin it for you. But give us the premise. The is about a a writer who i think we can. Safely say has failed is failing is well on his way to complete obscurity and he is seen in a pretty bottom of the barrel. Mfa program a low residency mfa program in into his classroom into his depression about his life walks. Just the worst of all possible students. He's arrogant he's dismissive. He has no time for anybody especially his teacher. Jake and he basically says i donate any of you people because i am writing this great novel that is going to be so successful that all of the good things that we book world are aware are going to happen to this novel. And jake ecorse dismisses this as the the arrogance of the young and the the early career writer the untried writer but then during a private conference he actually. Here's this plot and he unfortunately realizes that everything that this guy has said is going to come true. Some years later when he's even closer to the terminus of his own career he discovers that this young man has died and has died pretty soon after their encounter air. Go there is no book. There's not even a manuscript. There's only this story and as any writer would agree. This is a story that has to be told so. He writes his own novel with the story and all of the good things that his former student has predicted come true but he can't really enjoy it because he so terrified that somebody is going to step out of the shadows and accused him immense. Somebody does and the rest of the novelist really about his trying to steer clear of this person tried to avoid the disaster that this person represents for his professional life in his personal life and also ultimately to find out who this person is and where the story came. Pro-
S6 E11 - This is what it's like living with someone with PTSD. . . - Full Episode
"All right you ready. I actually hit record this time here. We go so in the most recent episode of the podcast season six episode ten. I sat down with my wife patricia. I talked to her about the challenges. She has faced in dealing with multiple mental health diagnoses over the years and right after we published that episode. We received an excellent recommendation from a listener. Asking us to tackle the topic of what it's like living with someone with ptsd. And i think patricia. And i are uniquely suited to tackle this since both of us. Have this diagnosis in in. Its for completely different reasons. This episode is going to be an unfiltered. Look at what. It's like to live with someone with post traumatic stress disorder and by way of introduction. This is the we served now. What podcast where. I do my best to answer the questions. Veterans and their families are already asking so you can make your post military life. Your best life money erin perkins. I'm a. us army combat veteran daddy to two amazing kiddos host of this podcast. If you hadn't guessed. And i am joined today again by my beautiful bride patricia. Welcome back to the show thank you. I'm so glad to be here. Well good good so it's been a couple weeks right and last time we talked about the treatments. You're getting and things like that for depression. Talk to us a little bit before. We're gonna dive into the. Ptsd topic talked us a little bit. About how those are going those are going. I'm not going to be very honest. they're painful. I think Winning expecting almost a miracle. I mean you you let somebody shock your head for twenty minutes a day. You expect something but it's actually made my depression a little worse. They said that's normal. It can get worse before it gets better. So actually they're going to re map tomorrow and see if there's a different place. They need to put the magnet. But i think it's gonna go all right. Yeah we hope we hope and pray as well trained for this for that. This works in putting you through a lot of distress but like you said pain to try to to address the depression right. And so that's that's just one part of what can be a result of ptsd another city but the actually brit really brings up our our first thing to talk about is. Let's talk about ptsd a little bit. What it is. And how. I understand it. How do you understand. ptsd how. I understand it is. I mean we all know it stands for post traumatic stress disorder and that can be from your childhood from your teen years from adulthood. Something you went through something. You saw something you experienced. That was just traumatic for you. And i know that it can you know make you. Have you know nightmares it. Can you know how you can have memories of that trauma and then you avoid situations that you know make you think of that trauma and you know a lot of even soldiers you know. They get like hyper vigilant. You know because of how it makes them feel and it can call anxiety and depression as well. I think the hyper vigilance was one of the i. I realize that i that something was wrong right. I knew i had a lot of anger in. I was like i don't know why angry like i'm i'm not in the army anymore. I thought you the anger was just part of just being in the army. You're just mad something every day. And so i thought that it would go away and it didn't in fact he got worse and it. Was that hyper vigilance piece. I always felt. I still do. But i always felt ready. This constant state of readiness hyper vigilant. That's one of the behavioral parts because there's behavioral parts psychological mood in general sleep. And then you know it you can break them all down like you know behavioral is like you know you feel agitated or irritable or hof style or hyper vigilant like you were saying or you know you start doing self destructive things like you know. Drugs are becoming an alcoholic or or if he just completely isolate yourself. That's me raise my hand right there myself psychological as you know flashbacks which i don't have those fear that comes from nowhere severe anxiety failure to trust other people. Because you don't know what's going to happen the mood part of it. You know you lose interest or pleasure in doing stuff that you used to enjoy doing right or you feel like the severe guilt or you are incredibly lonely like you have tons of people around you. You have a family that loves you but you are so lonely and it messes with your sleep. It can cause you to sleep too much. Not enough to have horrific nightmares and a lot of people have detachment from other people and like intrusive thoughts that they just can't get rid of you know that you know. They go through their day and i guess to some other people they might look like legitimate list crazy but they just have these constant like thoughts and some people have to talk it out. You know there's so many parts to ptsd. yeah. I think that's one of the challenges with even realizing that you might have it right because there's so many parts to it. Depression anxiety intrusive thoughts avoiding situations. Not sleeping sleeping too much having horrific nightmares having too much emotion having no emotion at all. There's so many things and so what i was told. People especially veterans is if if something feels off. Don't try to figure out if you have. Ptsd anxiety or depression go to mental health right and talk to the professional about it and let them figure out whether you use the va or you go out to out to in the civilian sector. You go get it checked out. Because there's there's nothing that's not going to hurt you to go get it checked out right and that was a question that i was going to ask you. Is you know like when did you realize you had ptsd. I think it was what year wise was twenty seventeen. I got out and twenty. Fourteen of twenty seventeen anger progressively got worse. The hyper vigilance. And what. I say hyper vigilance. I i don't mean just like you know on edge all the time and i guess that was part of it but for me it was this feeling like i'm about to go into a fight like just ready like i mean you know kind of like almost kind of like a sprinter would be at the starting line. Okay here we go all right. I'm ready. i'm ready and it was like that all the time. That sounds exhausting. It is it really really is it took i say i want to say it took a long time to get past that but truth is i'm up past that no the pd. Has these not a broken limb. You know you can't cast on it and wait six weeks and go back and get the cast off and you're good to go. No i mean people can't get past it it's it. There are stories of people who you know they had. Ptsd and to you know after a few months few years depending on situation you can't get past. It depends on the person. I think it's post traumatic growth right where you know after your trauma you become a stronger person. A bigger percent better person. I don't know if i would. I would say that people ever get over their trauma. They just they build one right in that instead of letting the letting it crush them they use it to to fuel becoming a better person in the end and the thing is it's not always a choice. I don't think this is my opinion right. I don't think it's always a choice whether you get to say like oh. I'm past the worst part of my ptsd. And i'm only headed for post traumatic growth now. I don't even think i've heard that term post traumatic growth. So i don't know. If i would be i don't know if my opinion i mean i hope that's a real thing Veteran futterman talk to me. One time so you're doing it basically you're doing to post traumatic growth thing like you like you know you start a company like you've got a great career you've got a great family you know you've got a beautiful home cars dog you've got all this stuff going for you you're doing life right you're in your a great church like you're doing all these things right and hosting this podcast you're getting so much stuff done okay and i'm like okay cool why don't it feel better yeah really i'm like okay. We'll see if this post traumatic growth. I number one. i'm happy i'm growing. I'm happy growing getting better. getting smarter. Faster stronger whatever it is. I'm happy about that part but like it is this like is post traumatic growth a destination or is it just this constantly journey. Yeah i think it's a journey in. It reminds me of what we heard in church on sunday about walking wounded. And that's what that means is like. Es your wounded mentally sometimes physically but you know ptsd is a mental disorder and your your wounded mentally but you continue to walk. Wounded is when you stop that. There's no growth And so the post traumatic growth is continuing to walk. Even though you're wounded i love. Obviously you we're in the same service. Same church service right and we were both talking about how great it was so we can ask each other. This question okay. What's it like living with me especially within. What's it like living with me. Especially when i'm experiencing some sort of triggering episode so you mentioned 2017 when you first realized that you had p. Tst then it was. You're angry and you know we tried to give you a little bit of space and like you know. Let you breathe calm down. But i think i think you have grown because now you take that space for yourself. You're like i'm going to go run or i'm going to take the dog and we're going to go hike for a few hours. I think that you know living with you. I've able to watch you grow. And and learn how coping mechanisms coping skills. And i think with. Ptsd you have to learn. Those people might not always understand them like. I'm not hiking ninety degree weather with a dog. It's not happening but three you that works that would trigger trigger something not. Ptsd that would trigger anger. It has nothing to do with. Ptsd you you. You've joined small groups that you guys run and you know for exercise in general for you just really helps you a lot of that. Is you know twenty seventeen. We had just moved to alabama and things weren't going the way we wanted them to and life was just really stressful right. And you hadn't even been diagnosed yet. sure sure. So you've you've grown okay. So i don't even ask this question. What do you like living with me. It's amazing it's amazing. I love it. Let next question experiencing some sort of triggering episode. Well i've told you this before but as a man as a husband i feel. It's my duty my job to keep you happy. You know and so a lot of times i think. Ptsd manifests itself in your life as overwhelming depression and crippling anxiety right. And there's not a single thing i can do about it so for me. It's not that living with you is better or worse. Y you know with a triggering episode. It's that my hands are tied right. And so i think it's super frustrating. Because i'm like. I see a problem my wife is in. It's not just unhappy. You know it's like she. Has this a legitimate mental diagnosis. A mental condition that. I can't do anything to fix Frankly doctors can't do anything to fix every single part of that right and that conversation we've had many times because you're like i just want to fix it and i'm like doctors i have and they can't fix it. Release yourself up that burden. You can't fix it and that is so tough as a man who says you know what i'm here to lead my family my wife and my kids and you know kind of you know take charge and we're going to go tackle life together and that is so appreciated but sometimes you just got. It's true it's true like it's nothing you can do. Well that's not true. Okay that's not true space. Give me space. You know like like you did tonight. I had that treatment today and it made me sick today. I was actually really upset stomach today. And i'm just chilling in the bedroom lennon bed phone and you just made dinner that i did that helped i did. I logged off my computer at work and went and made dinner. It was amazing. I don't know if the dinner was amazing. But it's good good good so coming up after the break tricia and i are going to ask each other one more question. We're going to ask this question. Is there anything good about living with someone who has. Ptsd and we're gonna share several takeaways with you. 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You can also schedule your free consultation with marco once again that's live like others can't dot com get on the path to your dream life today all right and we are back and as promised. We're going to talk about ptsd or would keep talking about ptsd right but the question that we have for each other. Do you wanna ask it. I want me to go go ahead. Is there anything good about living with someone who has ptsd. I wrote this question. I still think it's a tough question you know i would not wish. Ptsd on anyone true. I'll start with that so with that in mind. What the good that has come out of it. It helps me to understand other people abso win. I hear about a veteran struggling with. Ptsd or a a veteran's family member or or family member or friend who is struggling with ptsd. I'm like i get it. I know how you feel. I completely understand and so for me. It's if there's anything good. It's that i can better relate to people who are going through the same frustration and anguish and honestly emotional pain when they see their loved one going through this right and i know not everyone copes. Well that's true and so this question might be difficult for some other. Some people listening you know like they're their loved when ptsd is raging alcoholic. Who's angry all the time. In what would you tell that person. That's an even to that. That in itself is even tougher. I think what. I would be telling that person is i. Can't i cannot tell you what you should be experiencing if you're living with someone with ptsd and you're like you know my spouses a raging alcoholic as a result of pd. St how do i find good in that. I can't tell you what good you should find. I i'm in no place to tell you that the only thing i can do is point you to the one that is jesus christ the principe who can give you peace in the situation and and the bible even says you know piece that passes all understanding basically piece. That doesn't make sense. So i can't tell you. This is what you should be feeling. This is what you should be experiencing. But i can recommend you to eat a formula so to speak of how to live better in that situation right and and i would add onto that to a more. You know just. I don't know. Do we say worldly. Come that. Try to under try to understand. Don't don't try to fix but like research. See how you can help your one with ptsd. Because i think not. Understanding is a part of the problem right for years i had. Ptsd and you did not. You didn't understand it in in mind would manifest in depression anxiety in the soldier new said just go exercise pushups drink water burpee strength water and i'm like you so don't get it and it was true i didn't you act totally asked you to research it to better understand it and you you did better understand it but now that you have experienced for yourself it's completely different really it. It really really is just just so different when you experience it for yourself. So i'll ask you the same question. Is there anything good about living with someone who has ptsd. I think it teaches you. How similar to what you said compassion. I mean i've always had a big heart. And i think it's because it's been broken a lot and you don't hurt anybody else because you know what that feels like you know you have more compassion. Because you know what it's like to fill abandoned or left out or or or thrown away so you're not gonna do that to anybody because if you're not a monster you're not gonna do that because you know what that feels like me and so i have probably too much compassion. My heart's honestly probably isn't too big for people. There are worse things that people not for pets. But that's a whole different. That's a big for people. Pets you can have one. That's my ocd. Am sorry that's okay. But yeah i would say me. It's compassionate and i've seen more compassionate you as well 'cause i was saying earlier when you didn't understand it you just dislike. Oh burpee and water. But now you're like. Do you want to go take a nap. You need to lay down like there's way more compassion than there was before so if if anything good can come out of such a horrific diagnosis like ptsd. I mean if you can just you know. Be patient and be kind. You can learn compassion. Sure yeah that's a really good point. So that's it for the questions right now. We honestly united had these types of conversations for year really really long time and and this is just another one of those conversations of how to how to live with someone with ptsd. What it's really like. i. I'm going to go out on a limb here. What's the worst part about living with someone with. Ptsd not knowing how they're gonna react something and so you know there's times when not recently but you know there were times i'm like oh i don't know if i want to tell him this 'cause i don't know how he's gonna react. I don't know where he's at today. You know mentally like you know. He's already got a lot on his plate. I'm kinda it's almost like an egg shells kind of thing like the. You wanna be really careful. You know so so those can be a little. And i'm sure i'm the same way i'm sure you and the kids stay away. Well i think for me and maybe for the kiddos too. I don't know but for me. It's the the worst part you know other other than the obvious of you. Know seeing my spouse going through this right but you know how it how it affects. Your frustrates me is the inability to plan. I love planning. I'm like okay. What are we going to do tomorrow. Six weeks from now five years from now and like i don't know win and might depression depression. Yeah and you're going to be like. Oh sorry man like as much as you would love to go do that. Depression is just crushed. You for that day or week or i mean there are many many times to. I'm going to say through the years that i've pushed myself. You know because. I i wanna do fun things at the family like you know. I think a lot of people feel that way. Like yeah wanna goaded disneyworld and make memories you know and you feel like that that depression creep over you and you just got to push through it as hard as it is. You just gotta you can't quit. You got to keep moving gonna walk wounded speaking of which so i know we. We referenced. The walk wounded message right. So so for those of you. Who don't know this was a message from church. The highlands with A great jura tear in this region of the country. One of the biggest in the nation as i recall got twenty plus camp twenty two twenty. Three i don't even know now. We got a bunch of campuses anyway. The the one of the pastors nikon carter. He spoke any told the story about a guy that will testament by the name of jacob who ends up wrestling with this angel and this angel as he's wrestling with jacob he he knocks jacobs jacobs hip out of socket right but jacob keeps wrestling. He's like hey. I am not going to let you go until you bless me. And so he. He eventually wins the wrestling match. The angel blesses him. And then jacob has to go meet his brother. There's whole back did this to me his brother and as he's going to meet his brother he's limping like crazy. And so even though the angels blessed and basically god putting his hand on him and saying hey like i you know i i love you. I approve of what you're doing. You know i'm blessing right now. Even though god did that he didn't heal him completely soup but jacob still had to keep moving and he had to walk wounded. Right into put in real world speak is like yeah. You can have blessings you can have all these great things in life you can have money. Houses cars land lakes pools vacation homes. But that doesn't mean you're not going to have wounds right from other people from yourself from life itself. Ptsd is usually a a life itself kind of thing so what you gotta keep walking for. Sure for sure so what's another takeaway back to. What we're saying is be patient and educate yourself. If you want to help your spouse or even yourself like okay like read just read read. How other people are doing it and that have been successful and and see how it actually manifests in your own life. Because just saying it's ptsd. I bet there some other things surrounding it that maybe you don't even know. And so educate yourself and be patient with yourself and your spouse if it's your spouse right right and somebody said this is another great takeaway. Here is give your spouse space if your spouse was the one who has the. Ptsd right give them the space they need. I will say that with the caveat if you believe. They are in danger of hurting themselves. Get the appropriate help. Absolutely this is not the your spouse said. Hey i'm gonna take my own life and then you say okay one. That's giving them space. No no no. That's not a time when you need to give them space. That's a time when there needs to be an intervention right. You know so when we're talking to give give your spouse space. it's you patricia. Saying yeah take your dog for hike. Its ninety degrees. go ahead. i'm not with you. I'll be in the pool right. Yeah right yeah gopher run go go do something to to just relax to take that. Take the edge off so to speak. Then so give your spouse space. I think is a really really great takeaway there so anything else any other takeaways. We should share with our audience today. I don't know. I think we've covered it. I mean just to walk wounded. Hold their hand while they're walking did. Oh may that's the that'll pre treat there. that's good. That is so good well patricia again. So much for coming on the show really really appreciate. I know you didn't feel great today but you muscled through it and i'm so so glad you did. I know our listeners grew be happy as well and obviously on this show. We ask a lot of questions that we do our best to answer a lot of questions and we all have a lot of questions but the most important question we can ask ourselves is this. Have i accepted the forgiveness of sins. That only comes through faith. In jesus christ will thank you so much for listening. Be sure to follow social media. Facebook occurred to fight again. Same thing on instagram and twitter ad courage again. You can pick up. A copy of my book resolve at courage to defied again dot com or also on amazon. It has been such a pleasure sharing our hearts in this conversation with you today until next time. Thanks for listening.
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"To care for him as they know how intense is journey was. Thank you amy now over to well I guess. Another amy to tell us about a more low budget film. Hello this is sal away from Minneapolis. Minnesota one of my favorite movies is the station agent. This beautiful quiet little indie film. It was Peter. Drink Lynch's breakout movie actually About a young man named Fimat who has dwarfism who is willed by his friend an empty abandoned train station in the middle of nowhere New Jersey and he goes there to live thinking that he will have a life of solitude. Free of other people and that is not. What happens? The the thing that I love about this movie is the three main characters Finn and then Livia a woman who lives nearby and Joe who runs a side of the road coffee cart. They're all lonely. They're all palpably lonely. And as far as thin in the Livia those two characters are are for sure both depressed and are both living with grief and loss and even self loathing But they they show that totally differently from each other. So fen is completely shut down. He does not express motion. He is shoved everything down. He does not want to talk to people or see people. He's isolating he does not ever want to have to be confronted with the pain that he's carrying around and Livia is an artist and is big and flailing a needy and frazzled. And you can see her doing everything possible every day to sort of talk herself down from the Ledge. I just love how it works to the reality without exaggerating it or making it larger than life that we can be in pain with other people but still not be on the same page of pain next up Dave. Where's Dave Hi Dave and a lot of people will know this one by a short snippet of Song?.
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"And stop the stigma surrounding mental illnesses not just depression but all kinds of mental illnesses. We enjoy having a lot of laughs on this show. It's a way of dealing with depression. Maybe demystifying it a little bit making not so scary but let's not kid ourselves. It's serious the good news is that people can and do recover. They get help. And that's why we need to make it okay to talk openly that can be an awkward conversation but make it okay dot org is full of information you can use like what to say or not to say and stories from people who tell you what it's like to live with depression anxiety and other mental illnesses go to make it. Okay Dot Org where you can take the pledge to make it. Okay thank you so much to health partners to make it. Okay for joining us in fighting stigma so we can all get better. Okay well everyone. Everyone back comfortable seats. Everybody cool okay. Let's dive into some more recommendations some previews of films that get depression right. I know a lot of people like this next one. So Erica Anna where are you okay? Hi Good let's have you both talk about this movie. It's a two thousand and four Michelle Gunnery film written by Charlie Kaufman. That takes place in a world where you can have difficult. Memories like from a collapsed relationship simply erased. This is Eric Samy from Irma South Carolina. Hi this is Anna from Oregon. One of the movies that got depression right for me was eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind exemplifies depression because we get to experience the cognitive distortions of the protagonist Joel Barish play by Jim Carey from overgeneralization to emotional reasoning and all or nothing thinking to labeling. We see firsthand how these cognitive distortions affect his well being spoke to the part of me. That just doesn't wanNA feel anymore As a depressed and anxious person my feelings can be heavy and painful and A lot of times it just wanted to stop and it's frustrating to me that I just can't be enormity. Anxiety occurs when we fix a on the future and oppression when we fixate on the path and this film definitely Spotlights Jones depression if I could just in race. What's in my brain and replace it with something that allows me to just be a normal happy person but in the end we get hope as JOE talks to. Clementine play by Kate winslet before losing his memory of her forever. She asked what do we do joy it. His two word response means we must.
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"Soon to be high school senior son. Charley Getting Ready to apply to colleges booking the next season of our show and trying to do a good job writing the book. You're listening to right now and yes. There's always stress in life. We all go through stuff. But the rate at which is metabolized stress into depression had gone through the roof. It was a brutally efficient machine. What do you have to be stressed about? The normies might have said if I ever talked about these things with normal people. You have a family a house car a good job just deal with it as if I could simply do that as if I chose this as if I looked at the options available to me and they were clearly labeled perseverance and freaking the fuck out all the time and calmly said Yes I select option B. normies and sandy's are different. Uc Let's say there's a long bridge going over a High Canyon and there are two cars on it one for the normies and one for the Sandys the normies are in a big land yacht of a buick weighs a ton low to the ground. What a stiff wind blows. The normies feel a mild push but continued driving perhaps casually noting that. It's getting windy out there. Then they go back to listen to. I Dunno foo fighters the SANDIES are piled into a model t with a sail on top of it. For some reason they see the wind coming and it's all they can do to keep from being blown off the road and plunging into the Canyon. The normies struggle and wonder where the problem is because to them. The wind doesn't seem that bad. Try being more positive than shout as the SANDIES Model T. goes tumbling off the side. And the Saudis. Deploy the parachutes. They've gotten used to wearing. I'd had good therapists in the past briefly but all I ever took away from. Therapy was a somewhat clearer. Understanding of how messed up I was. That's helpful Shir but it's not really progress like knowing the brand of refrigerator you're locked in and this was not the fault of the therapists I had seen. Who were all trained pros and good at their jobs? It was my fault or cleaning these fault. I never wanted to go all that deepen therapy. Because that's where the monsters were. I'm talking about the really really bad memories. The deep bruises the scars the events that significantly shape a person through injury trauma rather than tackle the past. I was willing to settle for a tense ceasefire with it. Letting my life be like Middle East countries that hate each other. There would be car bombings but a homeland is a homeland. I'd gone through life with the belief often heard in simple-minded quarters of popular psychology that the past is the past and you just have to move on let it go the simple minded say again as if no one had ever tried that before Don Henley and Glenn Fry wrote a song along these lines called get over it my response on would be called fuck off Don Henley Glenn Fry. You don't know what you're talking about. I suspect most people who choose the willfully simplistic Henley method are people who've never had much unpleasant stuff in their pass to begin with because this notion is some bullshit. If you can't understand your past then you don't really know how your mind got to where it is now because you simply don't know yourself making matters worse. Depression causes the saddest to lose hope. It inserts despair where hope should go. And you're left at least suspecting if not believing in your heart that nothing will or even could get better so to figure things out. I mean. Depression doesn't even want you to get up. Take a shower and brush your teeth so something like figuring out and how your own mind works. Feels about as easy as taking a bus to Mars over and over and interviews I conducted for the show I heard about. Cbt cognitive behavioral therapy. It's a practical method of psychological counseling. That's built around retraining. Once thought patterns so that everyday stimuli aren't converted into toxic thoughts you tear down the old roads that always go to the bad parts of town and you build strong new highways to prosperous neighborhoods on the show. It was the guest who had gone through. Cbt who seemed to be doing the best. So when I went to find a new therapist I limited my search. They had to offer this specific approach. They had to be relatively close to my house so I couldn't talk my way out of going. And they couldn't be like twenty three and or named Christine with a K. An I at the end in that First Session. I only got about halfway. Through my biography I think most therapists and patients can get this all done in one session but we had to schedule a second fully. Describe all the MIC. I recall Julie's mouth actually dropping open during one description of family behaving in a not at all nurturing manner when you've shocked a professional therapist you've accomplished something at the end of the second half of intake. Julie paused collected some thoughts. And Said you've been through more than most other people. I gave myself a little mental high five for being the trauma champ quickly imagining lavish yet morose award ceremony. The longest road person with depression travels can often be the one between where they are at present and where they can get help to improve seeking them out making that appointment and keeping that appointment can be a Herculean task and yes. That sounds well crazy. If you can get better..
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"It uses your brain to make you think that these lies makes sense. It's hard hard work blowing the bullshit whistle on that sometimes and sometimes depressions lies can be pretty creative. My name is Hannah. I live in Seattle donal and my depression likes to come up with lies that we're not in the throes of a depressive episode are ridiculously silly which makes them very easy to recognize now An example a few years ago was unemployed. Going through a really serious medical issue and deeply depressed might version decided that all of my friends that they weren't a secret club dedicated to hating the one day soon they would pull the got from under me and the way they would trip me was by doing nice things for me like bringing me food after surgery and not just take out food. That took a lot of time to make lasagna. brisket that kind of thing and and now. That's pretty hilarious. But at the time I was like Oh yeah that makes total sense. Of course. That's how they're gonNA drink me a more. Recent example is I published writing online online anonymously and some people have said some very nice things about that but my brain has decided that none of these people meant what they said and they all felt sorry for me. Because I'm a terrible terrible writer. And how could I ever think that anything that I wrote was worth reading. which also does it make any sense? Because these people don't know who I am. What has helped is really interrogating those weird lies because depression is in the business of making you feel bad and not making logical sense chance? I have at least one friend who I can go to who will tell me without judgments to not let depression drive the car. Even though it wants the keys very badly ably and the thing that's probably helped the most is cognitive behavioral therapy. It's a lot of work you have to put in the time in the effort but it really really really really helps. Thanks a secret club. A conspiracy. It's all built around this idea that since depression made do you hate yourself others must feel the same way about you. It's the only logical way you're capable of seeing yourself but it's line number nine if if people are being nice and caring toward you there's a very high probability that they like you and care about you because Clinton d diminishes your value you to yourself. It's easy to project that diminish self into other people's secret motives and agenda but it's ally Elissa mouser her. I live in Akron. Ohio Depression told me that I wasn't good not just that I wasn't good enough but that I wasn't good at all as a result I wasn't able to see my own value for a long time. I did things that were harmful to myself because I didn't care about me. Figured it out after realizing they help people and I do good things and then I can choose to do that. My depression just tells me that I'm not good but it's full of Shit like that. You're no good. You're not no good. That is good all right. Let's do one more make an.
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"Okay. Let's expose more lies. Let's offer the service to our listeners. Because people deserve to know people are valuable and worthy of love and care and consideration which brings us to our next lie. Hello my name is Jared Adamson I live in Cincinnati Ohio. Depression told me it was my own fault. Holt it's not. It told me I was helpless to do anything about it. I'm not so I took control. I started with my primary care care physician and now I have a slogan of Jesus Coffee Zoloft. I walked away from a toxic situation. That depression told me I needed to stay in in for the good of my family and situation but I am better away from that which means my family is better and stronger because with with the help of my wife I was able to discern the truth we are living in a very happy state right now. I'm still working working on it. I'm still seeking treatment but I took back the truth. Hi My name is emily. I'm from Ravensdale Avondale. Minnesota depression showed up and started to lie to me constantly in medical school at the beginning of my second year. I missed classes and I failed to exams damns. I had to leave school for a year. I repeat my classes. The next fall when I started back to school with classmates had never met before. Depression lied and told me that I was wearing a sign on my forehead. That said I'm a failure. I'm weak. I have mental illness. It was hard to make friends and of course I still had depression. I kept plugging away. But I wasn't getting a grades. I wasn't achieving my way out of depression anymore. Depression lied and said see. You're not good enough. You won't make it as a doctor. But if there's one word that describes me it's persistent the constant lies. The depression told me kept me down. But not out I got into my first choice.
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"But we are. We are together on this together in the studio today to talk about the show. You know ally that depression tells us is that we're all alone. Nobody else is going through this. Nobody else feels this way that you'll be more isolated. If you even try to talk about this you're GonNa make it worse if you spill the beans and talk to anyone. This show is the ultimate myth buster of that one. Yeah when you listen when you connect with our guests when you hear these stories that they say and something goes off like oh my gosh. That is how I've been feeling I didn't know anybody else felt that way. Let alone it being like ms crack her or DMC from run DMC You get you get a connection with other people and that helps fight off depression in our society that helps us smash down those walls that keep us apart and you connect with other listeners. As well a whole community of thought balls Listener Jocelyn in other candidate told us I live alone and depression is very isolating when I need a bit of of connection that satisfying connection of hearing. Someone say I get it I turn on Wad. It always helps. I wish I could give you as much as you give me. That's Great Jocelyn on. Thank you for leaving us that note when you donated to support this show. We really appreciate it. You're giving means a lot of things You know we are are giving you a show who you are sometimes giving us help with that show as as is the case with this episode and you're giving US financial contribution to help the giving heap going to allow this whole sort of cooperative experience to even exist and now we are asking you dear listener to join Jocelyn. Give what you can give the amount that's right for you. That's what we're asking. It's really simple. We don't know what financial situation you're in so find a level all that works for you and that's that's the perfect amount you pick the goal. It's not like You know it's not like there's a price tag on it. You can still hear the show no no matter what but we just ask you if you're getting something from this if you've appreciated it if you've been helped in some way give something that works for you. It's the fact that you give it all that matters to us. Be One of the six hundred thousand balls. WHO HELP US meet this goal? We're a community will get there together and it's time to announced this wonderful new prize that we have all right. Everyone who gives by midnight on December thirty. I can get a special gift. A pill shaped stress ball. That's you know we're talking about what new gifts to offer in this one just made us all crackup in the meeting. It's it's something to have at your work. It's a little bit of medication That that is in the form of just gripping your hand And it's you know. Your insurance has nothing to do with it. The we'll give this to you. There's no copays snow uh-huh premiums to get this one. It's a pill shaped stress ball. You can even go look at it over to hilarious world dot org slash donate..
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"Lines is needed told that someone's mood disorder has evolved into a storm a veritable howling tempest in the brain which is indeed what a clinical clinical depression resembles like nothing else. Even the at informed lehman might display sympathy rather than the standard reaction hi my name amos michelle. I live in kankakee illinois. My book choice was where'd you go bernadette. Even though it's told from the daughter's perspective it really hit home for me after having my daughter and me dealing with postpartum depression as a new mom it's easy to feel overwhelmed or like the life that you thought it was going to be isn't exactly what you turned out to have and that desperation to get it back can lead to some pretty severe depression and i really identified with a story ceremony. Nelson half moon bay california another suad listener recommended the bible particularly the psalms of david. I agree one hundred percent and the best part to me is that god called david man after his own heart which helped me to no end when i thought about the the struggles that david faced and the fact that god's still loved and cherished him and saw him and accepted him as flawed and still the man that david was supposed to me gene and perhaps that god in his wisdom and love and struggles looking at his own creation might go through the same. Hey i'm shannon receive from minneapolis in the book. That best captures depression for me is a little known. Semi autobiographical novel called welcome to my planet in it by shannon olsen for me. She totally nails how there doesn't have to be like anything exactly wrong. In order to suffer from depression the main character also called shannon has decent people in her life good things around her but those people and those things can't fix everything everything hi my name is kelly and i live in rhode island. <hes> my recommendation for a book that got depression right was prozac nation by elizabeth wurzel. I read it i when i was in high school and my sister was was experiencing depression and i wanted to try to understand what she was going through. It did a really nice job of trying to explain and and i felt like i understood a little better. A few years later i started experiencing depression and i went back doc to prozac nation and as i reread it i kept thinking. How does she know what's going on. In my mind we have a complete and exhaustive austin list of your recommendations for books that get it. That's hilarious. World dot org can get that library card a workout <music>. The hilarious world of depression is a production of american public media. Chrissy peas is our producer christine. Lopez is our web and social media producer philip fletcher provides us an extra aditorial brain recording engineers for this this episode johnny vince evans and a lot of listeners on their phones. Veronica rodriguez was technical director. Our theme song
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"Comes up a lot when you talk about it and you sometimes develop it as a character you anthropomorphized you. Turn it into a person or at least a a ghost monster of some sort and what are the what are the advantages of humanizing humanizing it into a into a being and what are the pitfalls of that well. I think the advantages are <hes>. There's something about accepting these terrible monsters that are with us and a owner tenths. I mean my depression is pretty much always with me. In in some form or another it never completely goes away <hes> but when i'm able to deal with it it becomes sort of a pocket monster <hes> that's always with me so if it's going to be with me always i might as well make friends as with it as much as i can <hes> in in the way that like if you have a terrible pets whose constantly biting you mulling all the furniture and peeing being everywhere and you want it to leave but at the same time you just want to be like okay well. You're part of me so let's deal with us <hes> but i think it can be a real. It can be a real pitfall to look at it that way. Because then you start to think that that you are your depression and you're not you know you. You aren't your your mental illness. <hes> as much as it is. <hes> you know possibly deeply ingrained sounds like it is with me. <hes> i'm still me and i have mental illness. Fight depression doesn't have me or at least when things are going well. It doesn't tap me by calling it a pocket monster. I think this is the first time i've heard it compared to a pok mon in my history of doing this show. It's a ghastly instead of a water or air. It's a mind signed type pokemon. It is it is poison. It says poised any else. This is <hes> this is actually this is really this is going to go in the chapter on my next book which i actually literally am writing about cokie mind at the moment about how it helps with a hey you're helping depression. I choose you and then it's just a question of what it's is going to evolve into. What are the next forms exactly right martha. Stop after stop getting candy. It just keeps needs crowley jenny. Let's turn this into an augmented reality game and make millions of dollars in what do you you know people. Obviously come up in talk to you all the time about about your books in about what your books into them. <hes> what's the most satisfying thing thing that you hear.
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"Are you ready to spend the wheel very it's been all interviews should be like this. I totally agree. Ready? Give it a spin. Four. Can there be luck with fourteen depression questions on a piece of paper? Number four. What did the worst day of your depression feel like? Boy could choose to describe it or create analogies to describe it. She's a layer assessed thing about depression for me is that once it's gone. I'm kinda like that bad. But, but then I then I tried to think about I mean, I think that for me there's a lot of immobilization and. It also is to with anxiety. And I think what happens is that the depression is like a gigantic lid that tries to crush, the feeling things -iety and feeling of being overwhelmed. There's like part of it feels like I need to. Like rest up or Marshall, my resources or something by laying in bed forever. But it just makes it impossible to do anything or to or to interact with anyone. Yeah. That that anxiety is very paralyzing. So it's like there's a lot of paralyzing and crushing and. Down. Man. Thanks so much. First quitting wheel. West. Now, I want Terry gross to start using real all the time. Maybe she maybe she does the thing about depression is that it affects your ability to see things the way they are arose becomes just a tacky plant symphony is just some sounds the depressive perspective could be found quite easily at Google reviews where even landmarks that the whole world agrees are wonderful are seen as not so wonderful at all we now present one star reviews of places. Everyone has already agreed are wonderful. This is Google review theater. American addition..
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"Watch later, Jim Watson and seized Ella. And delegate mitts that she sold her hair to buy president, Jim then gives della her present an assortment of combs useless, now della than shows, Jim the the chain that she bought from Jim says, well, I sold the watch to get the money to buy the combs, and they're left with gifts that neither one can use. And they realize how far they're willing to go to show their love for each other still pretty traumatic for both of them, and Jim and della. Of course, no that trauma can really Prager other mental health issues, so pleading depression, so off they went to the therapist to learn cope. Ping mechanisms. And perhaps a better way to route their anxiety and depressive tendencies, let's take a listen. Dela gym in our last session. We talked about how effective counting ten was when we were angry before saying anything, and we decided to try tending, no matter. What emotion we were having? How'd that go for you? Don't do it here. I Bill by the hour. Worked out. Okay. Yeah. They would miss it. If we stopped doing it either. I'm glad you said that I'm glad you agree with me still keeping up with the glads then. Yes, we're glad I need at each other all the time. So I wouldn't miss it. If we stopped that. That's not funny. That's not funny. All no, never stopped me. Jim. I swear to God. It's the light my heart plant needs to grow. Glad you like it. I don't like it. Jim I need it. Hugh Hewitt what you said. Wait. Wait, wait. What is that? But here you hear what you said, someone are you? Seeing another therapist. No. I know. Oh my God. You're seeing someone else Curtis. No. I just said what my instinct told me to say, okay. Let's change. Jim della. How was Christmas? Great best ever in a way, in a way, was lovely and ironic conversational pivot. You're just opposed to say fine. Okay. Okay. You say Jim saw these lovely combs that he just comb, my long hair, really just perfectly. Wait, your hair isn't long. Did you get a haircut? Don't don't. You're getting the story. Don't get ahead of the story. I'm sorry. Please. Okay. So you know, how selling hair is really common. Yes. Of course. Who has sold some hair walk a block without saying air buying place. Retail is a giant market one of the big way up. So so I sold my hair, which I mean, I had all that hair. I made a lot of money, but all is real sweet combs turned from the most thoughtful gift of all time to such a bittersweet gift bordering on mean that does sound mean. But at least you are hair money rich, but I wasn't rich because I use the money to buy a chain for Jim's pocket watch. Yes. Oh my God. Yes. That bogging. It's the best thing about giants. Oh, man. So great. It's just perfect. I married him. Why barry? Only one thing wrong with it. No chain. Not no Kane. Good enough. I found the team good enough must have caused a fortune. It did. Oh my God. You used all your hair money. I did use all my hair money. Only problem is I sold the pocket watch. Jim how could you all tell you how I could. I sold it to buy the combs for Delo. Oh. Oh. Wait, how expensive were these combs real expensive like expensive as a pocket watch? Well, I see what you're saying about Iran at Christmas. That's not even the ironic part. Well, it is unknown part. Sure. But the real ironic part is that without her hair. I kind of don't love della. And ironically without that pocket watch. How could you even love, Jim? I'll tell you. How don't you see it's right in front of you? You're both terrible. Sweep dummies who are both just so exact same. Same z's? Because we both sacrificed our one lovable thing about us for our loved one. And we'll do it again. Once our hair grew back and watched grew back. Yeah. I mean, I guess, but really because each of your love is fixated on the one thing of the other. Therefore, you're kind of perfect for each other. Okay. So maybe call it a day, marriage wise. Right. That rings true. Expecting a little harder pushback on that. Why literally maybe figure out the flu in yourselves solution solution could there possibly gift receipts? You were turned the combs. You can buy your watch back turned the chain. You can buy some hair. Dr perfect..
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"But then the letters started coming in and a guy that I went to the guy that I knew in high school named Don who went to a different high school, but he was the student body president there, and he was top of the world nicest guy, you'd ever wanna meet I hadn't heard from him in decades. And he wrote to me after our first show and said, I just heard your show with Peter Saigal. Because I'm a fan of his I'm a fan of yours. And I just so happened to be listening to it while I was on my way to work. It was my day. It wasn't my day to pick up my daughter and visit with her because that's my ex-wife's day. But I thought well, maybe I'll just go visit her at school and tell her I love her and then go kill myself, and I listened to your show, and I thought well, maybe not today. And. And we got it a lot of letters like that we started hearing from a lot of people volumes and volumes and volumes of people. And and we started kind of realizing I started kind of realizing, oh, this isn't a just a show for people with depression. This is the show for people who are touched by depression, which is to say people all of them, and and people really love talking about it and people really love hearing stories and telling stories, and I noticed that when I was approached by people they didn't have any questions about what we were doing. They just wanted to tell me their story. They had heard a guest on the show tell story or meet tell a story and they wanted to do the same thing. And so I'm at lunch by the oranges and. This guy comes up, and he says, hey, I've been listening to your show. I really love it. I want to shake your hand. And I said, oh, sure, I'm glad you like it. And he tells me about his mental health struggles and the struggles and hence family and the handshake stops. But after a while I noticed, oh, I'm still we're still connected here. And then I realized I'm just holding a dude's hand at the grocery store. This is new in my media experiences. But that's what it's about. And that's what we've been doing. And that's what we find. That people have been starving for. I think we do a good job with the show. But I think people are just really eager to have that connection and hear other stories and hear other voices. So we're going to hear some other voices here right about now. Thanks..
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"And I got really stressed out. And so the more I did the show. I thought this is messed up. This is supposed to be the greatest thing. But somehow, I'm it's now it's not working. And I thought, you know, even if this is a dream come true and the dream job. Maybe I should quit because I'm not doing well. And then the show got cancelled which saved the effort. Got cancelled because of reasons. And I had been thinking even before this happened of thinking. Well, what about if I did some opposite things what if instead of doing a show in front of a thousand people I went into a tiny room and talk to just one person what if instead of trying to get it out to radio stations. I've just tried to get a show out to people. And so what if I did a podcast, right? And what if I? So I was kind of thinking what do I have to work with you know, like if you're gonna make dinner you open the cupboard in the fridge to try to see what ingredients you have. And I thought well, okay. What do I have? I mean, usually in that situation. I make an omelet, and it's not very good. And I thought well, I know a lot of comedians and musicians who become my friends, and they're really wonderful people. And also whenever I seen whenever I talk to people about depression and mental health. There's a great response. People really are are eager to talk about this thing instead of covering it up all the time. And I thought well what if I what if I combine those things what if I get comedians whose job it is to spread joy and happiness and then completely ruin them by having them talk about depression. Could work. But I also thought well, why are so many creative people so depressed all the time. And so I thought maybe that would be the focus of the show until I talked to patent Oswald about it. And he said, no, no, no, there's depressed, people everywhere you go. It's just that. We're allowed to talk about it at work. If your dentist talked about suicidal ID Asian you'd find a different dentist. With comedians. It's okay. And and so I started to put together this show and everybody kind of got on board with the idea right away, which really surprised me in a in a very delightful way. And ultimately, we kind of came up with the idea of thinking about what comedians and musicians do really really well, which is they phrased things in such a way that cuts through all the fog in the world and connects straight to your heart. And if it's a comedian that's doing that. What happens when they connect with you as you laugh because you're relieved because you're not alone. And that is an incredible talent that comedians have in musicians can do the same thing. Not with a laugh, but but with a lyric or not even connect with you, and you go, oh, I am understood. I'm not alone. I've made this connection with somebody. And and something good has happened thought. Well, what what if we just apply? That to depression, the thing that nobody really is able to define nobody can really talk about what this thing is. Right. And so that became the idea of the show, and we made the show, and we got this wonderful assistance from the organization health partners and make it okay dot org. They got on board early. I want to thank them right now in this theater for sponsoring us in a very fundamental way. Because those people and God love them for saying. Yes, we'll fund a thing called the hilar-. What is it called? That allowed us to go all over the country and make this show and make it reach a lot of people. Make good. So we started this show. And we really thought it was going to be oh, you know, a few people will download it will feel good about ourselves. And then we'll move on and go do something about Gulf or something. And then within a couple of days of it launching it was number two on the I tunes chart among all podcasts or among podcasts where no one gets murdered number one. And that felt good. And we got we got, you know, press coverage, and we won some awards, and it was really nice..
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"Not the best match and if you ever hear that from therapist don't take that as an injury maybe they actually don't know how to treat panic disorder there's a very specific kind of treatment exposure response treatment for phobias fears of snakes fears of flying panic disorder ocd compulsive disorder the coach travels with depression for a specific kind of treatment most people can't do that so don't assume that it's a bad thing or it's only about you even if a person has we might not be the best fit i've ever seen people with depression get easily overwhelmed because simple tasks seem very difficult so complex tasks such as finding a mental health care provider consume overwhelming to the point of freezing you out from ever getting help and it's vicious cycle what advice would you give to somebody who sees this whole project of getting help as impossibly overwhelming yeah i get the problem and i've seen that problem so the question is are there support people in your life who can support any do some of this leg work for you your spouse your best friend a child who sympathetic to this a person at a local nami support group who's traveled in these waters and happens to know the best psychologist in your city or become friends with them you know it's an interesting challenge that's an important challenge and i think that shame and stigma also compound the complexity for a lot of people so the question is do you have people in your life that you can have support you and once you get into treatment that's going to continue to be a need 'cause you're battling a condition that can be disabling and life threatening and so you're going to need some help and if you don't have that if you have a primary care.
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"Stigma is to top is to talk about privilege at the same time and think about how privileged effects that conversation number eight weird dumb about terms so often you hear people talk about use words that they don't really mean they're trying to hyperbole lies certain conditions that you have some might say oh i'm totally oecd about my pencils but they're not oecd they just like their pencils a certain way there merely tidy someone is not schizophrenic for changing their minds someone has not doesn't have ptsd because they had a bad day they simply had a bad day and depression being depressed doesn't mean you're moby and sullen that's a mood that's not an illness people coop these terms and lessen the power of them and lessen the importance of them and they rob those from people with those mental illnesses and i think they should cut it out number nine there is no magic cure everybody i talked to his tried something else nieto brennan talked about zoloft ketamine micro dosing lifesavers those didn't work at all he finally arrived back at zoloft margaret show works out like crazy and that works for her i talked with people who've gone tech alanon and that's worked for them people who've tried all sorts of meds and found some that work people have tried meds and haven't found any that work everybody has a different way of going about it there's no magical cure i wish there was we'd altake and finally there is no ending.
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"Depression is not a moral failing it's a mental illness you didn't miss place your car someone hotwired and drove off with it the car is your mental health depression can steal your ability to feel good things it can make you feel like you're in an even more vulnerable position more likely to be expose youth think that you've been careless you think that you've done something wrong you think that you weren't strong enough and if you've tried harder you could be stronger but the fact is somebody messed with you might be your mind might be chemistry might be trauma but it's not your fault you've been ripped off and the thief still has the keys to your house a lot of the time the thief comes in while your home and takes her stuff and you need to say hey that's my alexa speaker you can have that that's my toaster you don't get to happen it's tough though but it's not your fault number six there is no achieving your way out of this the first conversation i had for this show is for our first episode with peter sale host of wait wait don't tell me who has had an incredible career of plays being produced in books being written pbs series and of course wait wait don't tell me in he went to yale and he always said that i thought that if i could just keep achieving things then i couldn't possibly be depressed because someone who achieves all those things wouldn't be depressed therefore if i achieved them it will go away and it doesn't work like that neil brennan who we talked to for this season said this about the biggest stars in hollywood he said oscar winner actors and actresses people you know people are household names have pulled him i achieved all this and it didn't do anything i didn't i still feel terrible and they need to go get that taken care of you can.
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"I am i got out of school but i also really loved you know i love tv i loved but you know cheers in moonlighting and lots of other stuff that many people loved at the time we talked to some guests on our show point two apparents divorce or childhood trauma that really kicked off depression lease made a dormant disease become much more pronounced but linda had a happy home supportive loving depression can happen regardless linda says she had depression and anxiety to contend with growing up but she didn't realize she had both at the time i don't know that i ever thought about anxiety when i was younger i think depression when you're young depression is an easier thing conceptualise because you put it in terms of feeling sad um i think anxiety for me was largely masked by feeling sad and feeling worried all the time but i just thought of it is being that i was somebody who worried and you know there were other people in my family who were warriors though it was sort of a somewhat classic family trait adding to this was the fact that lindo wade noticeably more than the average kid a lot of mental health stuff when i was growing up was masked by the fact that i was struggling so much with my weight all the time i've i've struggled with my weight all my life and when you are a fat kid every time somebody looks at you and you say you're unhappy the answer is wolf course you are we're going to put you on a diet and then you'll be happy and then you'll feel better and so i don't think i really came to terms with the complexity of mental health stuff until i was old enough to understand that there was a.
"depression" Discussed on The Hilarious World of Depression
"The hilarious world of depression is supported by health partners and by making okay'd dot org make it okay is a campaign to start conversations and stop the stigma surrounding mental illness noxious just depression but all kinds of mental illnesses we enjoy having some laughs on this show it's a way of dealing with depression demystifying that particular disease a little bit making not so scary but let's not kid ourselves depression is a serious disease the good news is that people can and do get better they get help and that's why we need to make it okay to talk openly it can be an awkward conversation but make it okay is full of information you can use what to say what not to say and stories from people who tell you what it's like to live with depression anxiety or other mental illnesses go to make it okay dot org you can take the pledge right there to make it okay thanks so much to health partners and to make it okay for joining us in fighting stigma so we can all get better hey folks you have heard stories on this program a lot of stories that reflect how many of us feel but can't always articulate those are valuable stories to here valuable stories to tell it's your donations that make this show possible we need your support make a gift in any amount before december 31st and will send you a hilarious world of depression pillbox it's cheeky but useful cog the show just click the donate button at hilarious world dot org.