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Do Your Employees Believe They're Being Asked to Do Things That Aren't Part of Their Job?

Hacking Your Leadership

02:31 min | Last week

Do Your Employees Believe They're Being Asked to Do Things That Aren't Part of Their Job?

"I wanna talk about something. That i saw on lincoln recently Posted by one of our partners with hacking your leadership. Nancy deborah mono she's been instrumental in orchestrating and moderating some of our clubhouse rooms that we've done over the last few months and she posted on linked in based on something she saw. That was a comment by an employee that said. I don't get paid enough to do this. And the employers responding to something says basically some employees are kind of being exploited or being asked too much for what their job is or what they're being paid and that made me think about that. Because i've been in some situations where i thought that thought what what they're asking me to do doesn't fall within my scope of work or or what my actual job is. But but i also don't want to make waves. I kind of have always believed in this whole like. Don't do the job. You have do the job that you want You know what do you think about this. Lorenzo is felt. Felt like you were being asked to do something that you weren't being paid to do. Yeah i think those words may have crossed my lips a few times mostly under my breath and to myself But you're absolutely has happened. yes. I think it's. It's one of those interesting things in in you know i. I also saw the post from nancy. Deborah and i saw some other posts in some conversation and dialogue on lincoln on the statement and in what kind of stuck out to me is remembering that when somebody says that they say like. I don't get paid enough to do this. That doesn't necessarily make them a bad employ. A non motivated employees or not a good team member. There are definitely times when probably everybody has felt that at one point And sometimes you're absolutely correct. You know you're being asked to do something that you really either shouldn't be doing or quite honestly you're being asked to the job of somebody else share in and i think over time that can get frustrating I think that could get something that somebody that they can really damage culture But also i have heard people say that when it absolutely. They get paid enough to do what they're being asked to Without question and so for me. It's kind of one of those things where the context matters. And i don't see it as one or the other. It has to live somewhere in the middle. But i think that based on the context it is one of the other. It's either somebody's being asked to somebody they should be doing. It's just a it's a bad statement and it means that maybe they're not motivated. They don't want to do their job or at the same exact time. Based on the context it can be a will. I shouldn't be doing this because maybe you're asking me to do more than was expected of me and my current

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Prince Harry Working On 'Intimate and Heartfelt Memoir'

Morning News with Manda Factor and Gregg Hersholt

01:51 min | Last week

Prince Harry Working On 'Intimate and Heartfelt Memoir'

"Prince Harry will soon release his memoir, maybe sees Deborah Roberts has the story just months after his stunning Oprah interview was reportedly angered the royal family, the Duke of Sussex, announcing plans to pin his own life story. Saying in a statement. I am not writing as the Prince I was born. But the man I've become. My hope is that in telling my story the highs and lows the mistakes, the lessons learned. I can help show that no matter where we come from, we have more in common than we think it's really going to focus on the people that have helped shape his life. And really come to discover the experiences that he's had made him the man. He is today the untitled memoir in the works since last year and will span Harry's entire life from his childhood in the spotlight to present day living outside the palace. The book reportedly a surprise to his father, Prince Charles. Tensions between Harry and the royal family have been high since he stepped away from his duties to make a life in America. So when I asked the question, why did you leave? The simplest answer is lack of support. And lack of understanding the publisher Penguin Random House, saying Harry will give the definitive account of the experiences that shaped him one of those becoming a husband and a father. But she also discussed with Oprah, I guess Highlight for me. Is Sticking him on the back of the bicycle. And his little baby, see? And take him on his boat rides or something which I never was able to do when I was young. This is the first time in modern history where a senior royal has written his or her own memoir, Usually other people write those books. The publisher says it will be released in 2022 Harry says proceeds will go to charity. But as you can imagine, there are strong opinions across the globe, many asking why others saying good for him?

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Palestinians Face Eviction From Jerusalem Neighborhood to Make Way for Biblical Park

All Things Considered

01:53 min | Last month

Palestinians Face Eviction From Jerusalem Neighborhood to Make Way for Biblical Park

"By Jewish settlers, an archaeological park near ancient ruins. It could be the next focus of the conflict over Jerusalem, plans to evict Palestinians from another neighborhood shakes Jura helped spark the Israeli Palestinian violence. In May, NPR's Deborah Amos reports on the latest neighborhood developing as a flash point. Usually we begin a story like this in the neighborhoods that are the flashpoints, But first we're going back in time to an active archaeological site and a tourist destination. The city of David National Park, named for a biblical monarch who ruled here more than 3000 years ago. There are plans to expand this site to create a biblical theme park. In the valley below. There's an underground spring here to a water source for ancient Jerusalem, where Christians believe Jesus toured a blind man, James L. Rod works as a tour guide. It's an underground, my handmade carved tunnels. Over 3300 years ago. How many tourists come to see this? In 2019? A million visitors arrived to see The city of David sites. This tourist site is just outside the walls of the old city on the edge of Silwan, a Palestinian neighborhood in east Jerusalem, which Israel captured from Jordan in 1967 and annexed. But most countries still consider this occupied territory. Israel claims the city as its undivided capital. Palestinians want part of it for their capital, the city of David tourist complexes run by a settlers group, the Air David Foundation. That critics say weaponize archaeological findings to cement Jewish control in this part of the city. The most important archaeological sites in the country are controlled by the settlers of still one. That's

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Did You Know Females Have a Prostate? Sex Educator Deborah Sundahl Explains

Sex With Emily

01:26 min | Last month

Did You Know Females Have a Prostate? Sex Educator Deborah Sundahl Explains

"Let's talk about the clitoral orgasm versus the g spot orgasm. How would you describe them. We'll first of all g-spot is the female prostate that female prostate surrounds. The re throw canal. It starts at the outside opening of the body. And it's thirty two ducks. Glands are sprinkled along the eureka three canal about two inches so therefore because you're re throw canal and the vaginal canal share the same wall that means you can easily access prostate through the roof of the vagina. You can easily feel it. It literally hangs down through the roof of the vagina. it's a prostate. It's not the clitoris. The clitoris is primarily erectile tissue. We have the little knob on the outside of the body. Full of nerves. But as feminists healthcare a nurse's rebecca shocker and susan gauge and nineteen eighty to redefine the clitoris. They said hey. It's not just the little knob on the outside of the body. That feels so good. It's actually erectile tissue that extends four to five inches inside the body. They thought these women were not strict. Fifteen years will now. They've seen this structure in the

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Boston Mayor Fires Police Commissioner After Domestic Violence Allegations

Radio Boston

01:17 min | Last month

Boston Mayor Fires Police Commissioner After Domestic Violence Allegations

"Earlier. Today i informed dennis white of his termination as commissioner of the boston. police department. Effective immediately rat is acting boston. Mayor kim janey announcing just this hour that boston police commissioner. Dennis white is out of his job following decades old allegations of domestic violence. Wbu our senior correspondent. Deborah becker is on the story and joins us now. Deb welcome back. Thanks for joining us. Oh you're welcome so. I know this basically just came down dab and we've been looking for this waiting for this announcement for a while. Tell us what's what's the decision. Malaysia said acting their janey says dennis weight is terminated effective immediately. He's also off the police force entirely. Not even some had wondered if he might go back to being a detective. Lieutenant but that will not be the case here Acting janey says interim commissioner. Greg long will stay in that role for the time being. And she says she's forming a committee and laying the groundwork to conduct a national search for a new commissioner and she says the that search will include extensive vetting and background checks of any candidates going

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Biden Won't Create Presidential Commission on January 6 Attack

WBZ Morning News

00:41 sec | 2 months ago

Biden Won't Create Presidential Commission on January 6 Attack

"Riot is estimated at $1.5 million, and prosecutors want those accused in the riot to help pay off that bill. Meantime, an investigation into what led to the day's events, stalls CBS news correspondent Deborah Rodriguez on what's next? The White House says President Biden has no plans to create a presidential commission. To investigate the attack on the U. S. Capitol. A spokeswoman says he's ruled it out because he believes it's up to Congress. Reports say Speaker Pelosi is ready to initiate a house led investigation after Senate Republicans next. A bipartisan commission more than 450 have been charged to have pleaded guilty. Former vice President Mike Pence says he and

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SLOW FLOWERS for SUMMER, With Debra Prinzing

Cultivating Place

01:26 min | 2 months ago

SLOW FLOWERS for SUMMER, With Debra Prinzing

"You know what if you were to tell people that the mission of your work bound up in all of those roles that i just described about you would that mission statement be deborah I think it's all about relationships. And community and sustainability and When i find a subject as a writer. Which is my background. When i find a subject that i am smitten by matt i get swept up by that. I fell down the rabbit hole discovering all of a sudden i it becomes sort of my lifestyle and gardening did that for me for twenty years and Now i guess for the last ten years it's been writing about and trying to learn as much as possible about the people who grow in design flowers in this lower society Universe which is basically noncommercial non factory like but more artisan like so. I've always written about creative people as journalist and them drawn to them. And so i want to live in that create a world. There's no boundary for me. -tween the people i want to spend time with the people. I have invited to be part of this society and the people that i'm writing about. It's just it's

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Why Can’t She Just Be a Comedian?

The Guilty Feminist

00:42 sec | 2 months ago

Why Can’t She Just Be a Comedian?

"I'm a feminist. But i recently did question time and my favorite of all the comments and there were many on twitter as you can imagine was. Why does the bbc have to bill her. As deborah francis white comedian political correctness gone mods. I mean this is what we're doing. Now dividing people racially why she just be a comedian to which somebody brilliance call. Jason would responded. The lady's name is deborah francis white. It's hyphenated like isla white ferry

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Maricopa County, Arizona Holding Meeting Monday to Refute Audit Allegations

Gaydos and Chad

01:39 min | 2 months ago

Maricopa County, Arizona Holding Meeting Monday to Refute Audit Allegations

"Capitol. But the public wasn't there. They got an update on the audit. Katya years, Peter say more begins our live team coverage in the news center Becky to Republican State Senate leaders would on Lee Live Stream their meeting in which they asked three leaders for an update of the audit of Maricopa County's 2.1 Million November ballots. Liaison Ken Bennett says the county is refusing to answer questions. As far as China. Custody is the documentation of the chain of custody between when the ballots or boxes in the ballots boxes with mallets in them started. Be filed away in their warehouse on Twitter. America to County responded the On Lee time We moved. The balance was when we loaded them in a truck to deliver to the Senate in early March, then heard the Senate wasn't ready to receive them back in the vault. They went War at six Reporting live Peter Same or Katie Air News. The Arizona on it quickly is turning into a national joke, but one lawmaker says it won't be funny with somebody gets hurt. Katia years. Deborah Gayle joins us live in the news center to explain people saying that they're gonna hurt much less kill public servants. It's gotten out of hand. In an exclusive interview with Katya Rs, Kato's and Chad. Maricopa County Supervisor Clint Hickman says that he and his family have been receiving threats online and at least one of the tweets. Escalated. That man came to my house on a Sunday night with 100. Other people and I had sheriff's office protection because I heard they were coming and they got out of their cars and they came to my house and to me threatened my family where we live. Hickman says That man is threatening to return to his home, and he says he's been getting threats since December. Reporting live. Deborah Jael, Katya our news.

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The Latest: Washington state schools soon to be full-time

AP News Radio

00:40 sec | 2 months ago

The Latest: Washington state schools soon to be full-time

"Since they are now eligible to get a corona virus shot kids twelve to fifteen are rolling up their sleeves fourteen year old they've accrued singer in New Orleans says the shop will let her see people smiles on their faces it's not scary it does not hurt and it's such a relief fourteen year old Jesse Pollock was one of the first to get a shot in New York City I just want everything in New York to visit as possible we've been trying to get back to normal life again his mom Deborah says it's a step in the right direction now that all four of us are vaccinated all feel a little bit more comfortable doing things like having my mom does it travel you know going to restaurants even Pfizer's vaccine has been used for months of people sixteen and older I'm a Donahue

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Ta Obreht Reads Thomas McGuane

The New Yorker: Fiction

01:59 min | 3 months ago

Ta Obreht Reads Thomas McGuane

"This is the new yorker fiction podcast from the new yorker magazine. I'm deborah tradesman fiction editor at the new yorker each month. We invite a writer to choose a story from the magazine's archives to read and discuss this month. We're going to hear gallatin canyon by thomas mccain which was published in the new yorker in january two thousand three. The road stretched before me like an arrow. There was only enough. That left before rigby for me to say perhaps involuntarily. I wonder if we should just get married. Louise quickly looked away. The story was chosen by oprah who is the author of two novels the tigers wife and inland. Hi hi deborah. So you said when we first talked about doing podcast episode that you wanted to read a western story. Why was that. I think that there's a a renewed interest in literature of the west and also by authors. Who hail from the west and the story. I think is so deeply rooted in landscape and space in a certain kind of mentality of the mountain west which it both honors excoriates i am. I've loved the story. Ever since. I first read it and it just feels very emblematic of the space to me. Now when the story came out in two thousand three or a teenager. Did you read it. Then i did not. I'm ashamed to say. I read it some years but i did read it before i became a resident of the mountain west myself and i certainly think it shaped the way i thought about the area. Have you been a longtime reader of maclean's work. I would say that. I've been reading his work for almost the entire duration of my quote unquote literary life. A friend of mine. Who is a huge fan of his work and introduced me to it and I mean there's such range in his stories in his novels there's so much. Discover with mclean. Always

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Pimp My Language

Stand Up

02:06 min | 3 months ago

Pimp My Language

"What americans have done with the language you guys have just while you've just done something you've put twenty twos on the english language. He's got rid of this pimp my language. That's what you've gone with. You know. I don't understand chatting to this woman downtown. Though the day she came up to me and she wanted me to see something. I don't know what though she was like. Oh my god look over ther look over. What's she's like. Oh the other. Look at that. Her and i said her she's like no har har two of them. I understand nothing. Even the small words just pronunciation small things that. Get you by for instance. I pronounce the opposites of ankle. As aren't i say my arts out here. You say my aunt which to me is an insect which made me look like an ass when my friend told me his aunt died house. Like so what. There's tons of those out there way to end the friendship. I couldn't get helped the other day when searching for a battery for my remote control. Because that's what. I say battery small form of power in america. You say battery which to me is a different form of power sponsored by chris brown. And you know what's understand. We live on different sides of the globe. So it's fine. The language will evolve. This is something. I've come it. But i hope i change one thing in your hearts forever. Just one thing. And that's is that animal in the wild. It looks like a horse. It has black and white stripes. Do me a favor from now on. It's not zebra. Okay it's zebra just like it's not deborah. It's debra structure of word plus you cannot name them because you do not have them

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Compelling Interventions That Motivate the Entire Family

Let's Talk Addiction & Recovery

02:18 min | 3 months ago

Compelling Interventions That Motivate the Entire Family

"Today. Our topic is love. I a families guide to intervention and my guests are the authors debra j and jeff j. in case you're wondering yes they are couple deborah and jeff have been married since nineteen ninety-two together. They are shining example of how it works and how impactful their work has been in helping thousands of other people in nearly quarter century that i've known them. Jeff and debra welcome to our program today. Thanks for having us william. It's so nice to be here with you. William thank you for inviting us. Well thank you for being here from your home. Actually grosse pointe farms michigan. I'm very envious of your location there. Jeff i want to start with you by reading. One of your famous quotes quote. I believe in intervention for a very simple reason. It saved my life. Can you explain. that's exactly right. My alcoholism and drug addiction had taken me down to the point that i was sleeping under bushes in the city parks Out in california homeless and penniless and it was a rather untraditional but effective family intervention. That got me out of where i was and and got me into a hospital and into treatment and without that intervention. I'm certain that i would not have survived. That was back in one thousand nine hundred eighty one. So it's been quite a while now there. You are already in recovery in your own right. Can you explain i. Can you know. I am an adult child of an alcoholic but in my twenties trust me. I didn't think that affected me. In the least in fact. I thought i was controlling the whole world and i went through a really excellent family program for somebody else that was helping of course and halfway through all of my illusions came crashing down and i had this understanding that no matter how hard i tried. My life wasn't really working and And i was told about alanon. And i ask for help. I reached out and i was directed to alanon. That was over thirty years ago now. Which i cannot not believe but truly changed my life in fact i would say it saved my life. I don't know where. I would have been if it hadn't been for that program. That's i'm still active in to this day.

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Singleness: Burden and Gift

Modern Anabaptist: The Conversations that Shape Us

35:47 min | 3 months ago

Singleness: Burden and Gift

"Join us today as we talk about singleness as well as what it means to be single and life in the church join us in having the conversations that shape us greetings tobin. Welcome to another conversation. Come listeners this amount of baptist. Podcast how you doing tobin. I'm doing good. How are you doing doing all right. It's been a tough week for for us. Say you recently lost a loved one in your family anthem. I'm mourning the loss of a friend. So you know different times during cova de wouldn't you say oh for sure. It's definitely a tough time to lose somebody during covid because you don't exactly get to see them funeral plans start looking different and there's a whole bunch of other different support. Networks are starting to look differently than they did before hand right. I was even thinking we talked about death last week. And then it kind of hits you personally so it's very interesting right. It's it's just part of our lives and when we don't think about it don't deal with it sometimes for caught unawares but yeah it's good to have to have that background and even as we are recording this we are almost at where death also plays a central role in the story and to defeat of death. Of course as well so yeah. It's very interesting. Yeah very much so. We had one of our recommendations to talk about singleness this week from a listener. Yeah it's quite the switch from death and there's quite a few ways we can take this conversation right so we'll kind of see how it unfolds. We'll see how the cookie crumbles but we could talk about singleness as an experience of individuals within the western culture right. We're probably talk about in our second half singleness as it relates to biblical values and and and culture and what the bible says there right and then we can also talk about a little bit in the beginning now about how singleness in psychology relate to one another. Yeah that's a good idea. Why don't you start us off with that Even as you're talking about it's interesting to even think about what is singleness right because singleness can be so many different things depending on how you define singleness and not being singled. So what do you think right. So single head is if we were to come up with something like a working definition here i would say. Single single hood is defined by not being in relation with another person. And i think the traditional idea of cygnus is in a romantic setting okay and you had some statistics on singleness in canada. As well which. I found fascinating i did and when i read these statistics. They're not exactly using the same definition. I am right and from what i understand. These are talking about single households so in canada. there there was an article in twenty nine thousand nine that wrote that compared to nineteen eighty six in two thousand sixteen. We had approximately double the amount of people who lived alone and so that means that we have about four million canadians across canada. Who who are single. Who who live alone and now with someone who provides that romantic so seventy percent of the four million have previously been in a relationship which would include widowed divorced or separated by any other means twenty percent of this four million are currently in a relationship with somebody but they just don't live in the same household right and then fifty percent of these individuals also have a child. Roughly speaking two million canadians live in a single parent or guardian household and are pulling triple or quadruple duty in order to support and care for the children or the dependence and simply don't have the same resources that we do with having an extra person there right fascinating. So when i asked you about the definition singleness you talked about not being in a meaningful relationship or romantic attachment to someone but then as you're giving us each statistics you already seeing a little bit of a clash with how you defined versus how perhaps canada or society defines it right because society defines this as just romantic attachment. I was just thinking about singleness before we even we even talk today and How we just assumed that you have to be part of a meaningful. You have to report a meaningful romantic relationship or attachment in order to not be single whether that's married or living with somebody or at least being boyfriend girlfriend whatever we wanna do whatever we want to call it but the experience of singleness goes beyond just that right. I mean The i was reading some articles about this author deborah hirsch. She's a christian author. She's a little bit out there because she talks about sexuality but she talks about homosexuality is not just a sexual expression within a sexual relationships ship between two bodies but that sexuality transcends also into every relationship we have because we we can't just separate parts of our being. We can't just say this part of me sexual in this. Part of me is relational. And this part of me is spiritual we are one hole and so it transcends. I heard a talk by her. And so she talked about what that means for single people and and celebrate people people who choose to be celebrate in that setting. And that doesn't mean that these people don't need community or meaningful relationships of attachment even if they're not romantic attachments over shirt and i like that idea of the embodied whole as you can't we can't segment like like you said sexual the the spiritual whatever that it all comes together as one person right that being said there are individuals out there who would find they can be in a non sexual relationship. That'd be classically to find a single but aren't troubled by that Right so you're looking at the asexual community where relationships with out that sexual component still fulfilling and meaningful right right and the flip side to that is you have people who have this meaningful community. Who who have lots of deep meaningful attachments to other people but are longing for would consider themselves being single and lonely and longing for a deeper expression for deeper romantic and sexual attachment to someone exactly while there are some that. Do not need that romantic or other person attachment to the same level. There's other people that crave and need it and desire so talk to me a little bit about what that means in terms of how how you live life and how you engage life as a single person. Well okay so growing up in canada as this as a single person who is wanting a relationship and can't find it what is what is that. Psychologically like and i would i have. I think i have a few friends who would fit this category and i just from conversations with them it's not a enjoyable experience Even in my own past bake as someone who from eighteen onwards wanted to have like girlfriends and wanted to be in those in in in relationships with other beings who felt that long. I've had a taste of how powerful that loneliness and that drive four relationship can be right and then there's a certain amount of feeling of rejection and isolation loneliness from not having that being fulfilled so as you're talking my question comes up. What's the. I am trying to word this but where maybe i'm using the wrong words but where does longing turned into obsession or or need so so what i mean by that is can you have that long. Can you desire something and still be content. With present circumstances. I mean that comes down to how you define contentment I would say that if contentment means you're all right with the circumstance. Then no because you still desire that relationship okay We talked quite a number of episodes back about the dark night of the soul right about longing for something how You desire of reality of presence to be with in in my circumstance was to be with god and how reality circumvents that there then becomes a conflict between what is felt. And what is known. That being said you've already touched on this with the obsession component right but then there is also that danger of it becoming an obsession of turning that pain right into something negative such as is found in some communities such as the involuntary salvator the in self community online right and then what you find in those communities is that a lot of this pain and turmoil gets turned outwards against other communities where they start blaming other people and other things for their own loneliness and rejection and in doing so their reactions become a negative coping mechanism an unhealthy behavior to try and alleviate the discomfort or rationalize it so then that goes back to my original question so because because my worry is that that we're kind of setting up a binary in the sense that i want to be in a more committed relationship of one sort or another. Let's call it romantic for for better for lack of a better word. So i want to be under romantic relationship. I'm either in the stage of wanting that and the more i wanted to do the closer i get to it being an obsession in my life or i get it and then i'm fine but there is no room to to to live a. Is there no room then to live a life. That says hey i would really desire this but i will also be content. Happy with where i am right now and and live into that to the fullest. And that's that's tricky because we don't have a lot of social narratives that kind of give us that framework to experience singleness in a healthy way. So if i were to break that down a little bit when we watch movies in rome these romantic movies and stuff. It gives us a lot of even you even say it's either healthier unhealthy. That's not me to judge right now but it still gives you those narratives to kind of go and say oh. This is what it's like to be in relationship. This is how i can experience relationship and and dating and being with another person. We don't have movies about what it's like to be alone at least not popularly right right or if they are they're fairly depressing right. There fairly depressing. It's all about not being in that relationship and own. Maybe i'll get into that relationship. There's the whole trope in the late. Two thousands of the manic pixie dream girl where it's all about these writers hollywood writers that use women and relationships to give men character growth in arcs in the movie right so it's all about being relationship pure like it's not about the expression of singleness as healthy in itself. It's about relationship as fixing your problems so that not then create problematic relationships as well. In the sense that i'm finding all my fulfillment than in that relationship once. I do find a relationship where i where i haven't grown as a person or don't have enough emotional intelligence to be content with the person that i am because the person that i was always looking for someone else to to complete me exactly. It creates problems both in relationships expectations for relationships and for people who also want to enter relationships. Right and even individually it creates a learning process or provides an opportunity for a healthy learning environment. Where you start to empathize with your partner where you can put yourself. In their shoes and learn that your flaws also have to be negotiated with their flaws and that there's a balancing act and interpersonal dynamics. Come in and i mean that turns even so now. We're talking about dating but that that that's the same thing with with friendships as well right. If you're i can see a scenario. I've seen lots of scenarios where where you're not content. You're not necessarily content with who you are and so you're you're expecting a lot of out of that friendship relationship for your happiness for your contentment even for your self esteem for the way you Assess your own value that kind of stuff And that can even come out in familiar. Familial relationships as well right where you depend. It's about on another to define who you are and to give you that esteem right and so i mean maybe we're getting off track but that's kind of what singleness conversations are in the sense. Is that the healthiest relationships in our lives are are where we have Some sort of independence isn't it. Yeah yeah independence crates freedom. Authenticity for who you are. In relation to the overall relationship that being said we also live in a society that needs us to be in relationship so to further expand on this point there is there has been studies. I was just scrolling passively I love read it i. I'm on it all day while just pathway scrolling on read it and they were talking about how people live longer when they're in hell in healthy relationships. Oh interesting and lots of articles in the medical community about how people who come in with their partners rent have better treatment results and partly to have somebody to talk to and somebody else to gather information. Yeah whatever the reason is another person there right even just as a tax bonus is is beneficial. So we have. We live in a society that set up for couples and yet the dangerous. become too codependent. And while there's this whole codependence piece talked about but then how as a single person do you live right right so if your approach this as as a single person you see the i live in a society that needs couples that needs you know somebody to stay home and clean the house or look after the kids while somebody else needs to go work. How do i be both people. Yeah or even attach detaches. I think in our society we attach maturity to to relationships as well right so a part of adulting is to be in a meaningful relationship. I always found that whole areas adulting if being an adult but somehow of verb but anyways You know like you are considered writes so you are considered to be a more mature adults in comparison to other people your age if you're in a meaningful relationship and on top of that if you do certain things if you have a certain job if you have a house and if you have kids right over sure i even feel that in school like what. I'm twenty five now. But because i'm married all of a sudden that puts me in a whole nother brand right of society all of a sudden i'm more mature i'm responsible and i'm sure if i had kids out even put me in another bracket above 'cause now i'm looking after little right little little children but as as we're talking i'm just wondering if we wouldn't have a healthier society if we we would learn what it looks like to live healthily in singleness for a time of our lives even just a how we talk about singleness it would be helpful for the individuals who are signal Because we are seeing a rise in people who live alone or who aren't conventionally married or unconventionally being with somebody else and just to harry healthier narratives for them to us and to understand themselves and even understand ourselves with. Kate will greatly benefit us as a community as a as a broad social community as christians and canadian. A do well. Let's transition a bit into the bible here. where So where have if. I'm a single person. And i wanted and i'm and i'm just lonely as all can be. Have you found that. Most people find their strength. I think were most people go in terms of the bible. At least we can talk about how we talk about church. How about single isn't church. And how we treat single people insertion. That's a separate thing from how the bible talks about singleness. I mean jewish culture. Very much thought that you had be married that that's just you know that that's the purpose of your life is to be married if you're mad at your purposes to have a have a wife so that your wife can have children and and your family line keeps going and if you if you were a woman you know your goal was that for your family to find to find the man or family who would take you i mean as a patriarchal society is but there is no. I don't know if there's a real allowance The only time there is conversation is about widows right and how you treat widows and so in that sense. The old testament is much more progressive than the surrounding cultures of its time and makes allowance for widows and treats them well and in that sense even relationships are still political. Yeah in that. It's not about so much being with somebody else. As it is a way to further your lineage as a way to get some gain right and not saying that there isn't a component. Alright love between why. Perhaps there is some counter cultural stories even embedded within the old testament to see the story of of ruth and her mother-in-law. Ruth naomi. i mean ruth's story restoring does end in marriage but it's very much naomi who makes it happen and they owe me you know. She kind of becomes a mother kind of surrogate mother to son that ruth bears. I mean that's how the story ends in the bible. Were supposed to see that image. Even though she's not married so it's a fairly counter cultural story there is rahab the prostitute who becomes part of israel. There's the story of tamar who forces kind of what we would call a constitutional crisis. It's not a constitutional crisis but it's a crisis of the law for for for one for for one of the for one of the men that was supposed to marry her. Her father in law's supposed to marry her according to the law because her husband has passed away but he refuses and so eventually she she forces her way into this. There's the story of astor who who kind of becomes part of this abusive kings. Well she's the she becomes the queen to disabuse of king and rescue the people of israel. I think all of those are somewhat counter cultural in the sense that that they're describing to us non normative relationships within that paradigm but also some of these women become not all of them that i mentioned but some of them are part of the story of jesus right so matthew mentions for women in the genealogy of jesus and even though clearly there had to be men for those four women to have borne children has not the men that are identified. It's the women that are identified. And so it already kind of focuses more on the person under relationship that that they were in jesus himself never married according to the gospels. All of a sudden you have these single people doing things right. i mean we. We don't we don't know of mary. Martha lazarus or married. We never find out. They are just people right. The assumption probably is that they would be. But but even when lazarus dies. we don't hear about his wife morning right. We we hear about his sisters. Mary magdalene she married. We don't know right. I mean you go down the list of all these characters and somehow we don't often find out about their familial relationships and isn't there a passage in there somewhere about how it it in summary. It's like get married if you want to. But you know your your relationship with the lord is i and you gotta serve that primary. I corinthians that where it is. I post writing. Yeah i mean. Paul paul is also single. There's a hint there. in first. Corinthians read the passage wrongly sometimes. But there's a hint there. In first corinthians step maybe at one point paul was married and he considers himself a widower. I've never heard preached in church but there is a hint there because he's talking to the widows and widowers and he's co counseling them to stay single and he says be as i am so he identifies himself with them. He doesn't leader. He talks to to what he calls the virgins which would be the single people who are potentially also engaged to be married which is different than the widows widowers and so there he doesn't say as i am because he's not. He doesn't see himself like that. He sees himself like a widower. So but in that passage. Basically what paul is saying. Yeah Marriage is a good thing and if you want to be married be married and if you don't wanna be married you have a gift to bring to the conversation as well and the way the we paul seasons in that conversation is gift that single people bring is is an attachment to church and into the work of god. I mean this comes out of paul of paul paul's idea anyways is that jesus coming back soon. You know. And so he saying why. Why waste your time getting married. We have so much stuff to do. Let's go get working and proclaiming. Jesus christ but that's the gift that single people that that's the gift that he sees himself bringing to the church as well right. I'm single so i can go and serve god and i can go and proclaim and so So he very much kind of trying to tell people. Stay in whatever situation you are. Don't get divorced if you're married. Stay married and have sex. He literally. I mean literally what he says. Don't don't all of a sudden now because you think that you're that you're christian. Stop having sex. If you're in a marriage you know. There's no you're not holier if you're in a celebrate marriage with somebody then if you're in a sexual relationship with somebody and so That's kind of his frame of mind right and so what. I take that passage. Don't i think what we should take a passage is that there's legitimate calling and gift to singleness within our congregations and we haven't really acknowledged that ever or very rarely and as as you're talking here. This is reminding me of a story that. I read quite quite a quite a few years ago when i was taking a family and marriage class. I believe that was the course. I was in for this. Where was talking about An evangelical preacher who was off doing missionary work off off in the boonies somewhere and then his daughter right was or his family was having trouble and distress and their daughter. I think even commit suicide over his lack of involvement. Yeah this is a story that i read in a book called sweet surrender by dennis hiebert and the question raised is what becomes more important family or missionary work right well. My critique on this was that he shouldn't this this preacher guys should not have even gotten married in the first place if he couldn't have committed to the relationship as a whole right right. And you know. I i mean before we talk. Today i went and reread some of this stuff. And i corinthians seven and you you can go and read yourself there paul saying that. If you're married you are committing to that relationship and you need to give it a significant amount of energy. That is your calling by god within marriage so you you know the the the calling that god puts on you cannot supersede that calling that god has put on you for that marriage. Because you're asked to be in this relationship of mutual self giving love so you have to kind of buy into that but if you don't need to be in a relationship like that then you can give some of that energy to the work at hand or two one way to one way to to translate it. There has to present necessities. Paul says And so that's that's how paul would put would address it. I don't think paul would understand. I don't think. Paul understand our fascination with saying hey To be to be a good human. I need to be part of a relationship. I need to be in a marriage any to have kids. And then i'm going to dedicate all my energy to my work or to my church. You know for pastors or or to this and ev- this relationship that i've committed to is going to take second place to another relationship i've inserted into it and then using jesus own words to kind of To support that is weird. I don't think paul would ever do that exactly. And i think we put this pressure on missionary work that It becomes the one and only calling for a christian to be part of god's works in the world. Yeah and what. Paul is trying to say i think is hey. If you're single now you can do mission or missionary work. You're not attached to the work of your marriage covenant relationship so why not not stay the way you are. He's trying to tell these people in corinthians why not stay the way you are and do missions work. If that's what you feel like god is calling you to see in our mind. We have turned completely around. We often how we are. We have such distrust of single people especially single men that we say. Hey no-no before you can do ministry worker before you can do missionary work and this is very much agenda conversation because it's not the other way around. We don't distress single women we asked him. and then. So that's an noticing this even as we speak right here. I've been hesitant to talk about this call. That paul has and says. Hey you're single and you can work for the church because to me. It sounds abusive. Make single women do often. We send them out to be missionaries. We asked him to serve. You don't have children. you can do this right. We don't do the same thing for single men or very scared of single men and if want men to do any kind of ministry. We want men to be married and have children because that safety as so. That's that's even the gender dwayne which we approach singleness right. And i think you're in a very unique position at thirty to even speak about that because of your work now with Generation rising coming up and with your older work at in out of town or you did that sort of abroad. Work right where you've seen students and individuals who either as a couple or who are dating or who are single going off and doing this work in in in africa or or wherever you sent them thinking of even thinking about who hires churches in terms of pastors right. It's okay for youth pastor. It's okay for a youth pastor to be single sometimes right because they're young Oftentimes if men right they're young. That's alright we prefer a single woman or a married woman to our children's ministry because they're just more approachable to children. Once you're past you get into a more. An associate pastor position or a lead pastor position. We really want that pastor to be married whether they're a woman or a man we really would like them to be in a committed relationship because that to us is the highest ideal. The highest value within the congregation. Right i mean. I don't think i've been to a church where we've had a single lead pastor. I have. I have not attended a church like that anyways. No i'm trying to think. I don't think i've ever had lead pastor as a single person. i've had associate pastors. Who were then in a divorce relationship or in a separate relationship right and that could be a whole nother podcasts. But yeah yeah. And i can't speak to their experiences. No no but within at least within the evangelical world that i've grown up in yet it's marriage seems to be this high ideal and so any time we talk about singleness and we talk about singleness even as a calling or as an opportunity We tend to think in our minds we tend to think about singleness calling opportunity for women not so much for men and we also tend to not put enough support around single people So we're tend to not give them the same community and while we say. Hey we value your singleness and if that's what god calls you to. Do we want to embrace that and you you can. You have something to give to us. We still want to celebrate mother's day and church and get frustrated when we celebrate we. Don't we still want to celebrate. Father stay in church and get frustrated when we don't and I can just. I mean i make a point of saying something to that effect every mothers and fathers day and i can just hear the roles you know i know the is aren't actually rolling but i can just hear that there's that pressure on you with the congress within the congregations like there there goes rafael again. Trying to be all politically correct not politically correct. It's an acknowledgment that our humanity is not just defined by our roles as fathers and mothers in within that attached relationship And committed relationship of of of marriage. I mean are not the only vision for for humanity not even in the bible. You know i mean. Let's talk about men. That aren't that that we wouldn't consider being fully men. I mean there's daniel and his three friends there most likely unix. Because that's what would happen in the bible. Once they were once they were taken as prisoners in palace. We have a whole book stories that we love to tell our kids about daniel right and we talk about the end times. We love to go to daniel and talk about you know that kind of stuff. There's there's a whole church in ethiopia that today still claims and traces their lineage. Back to a conversation with an ethiopian eunuch on-road from jerusalem Who's who has converted and baptized than an the ep ethiopian. Church still says. That's where we come from because he goes back right but somehow we've said that the highest ideal value is marriage is is being committed marriage with two children and suburban suburban right. Right right. I mean even within our culture. We do not have father's day and mother's day and a far saying on mother's day or a single people's they right we just don't either and so i would say for maybe the if we were to sum everything up that there's a really deep call. Or there's a really deep spirituality to being single and that there is special and it's needed and it's not any worse of a calling that being said we also need to adjust start cultural narratives and what we say in how we talk. And how he fee with people that needs to shift so that they can also feel that calling especially this has been another episode of the modern anna baptist. Please join the conversation by emailing us. At conversations that shape us gmail.com or joining us on twitter at modern anna baptist. Either way we'd love to hear from you and grow with you and continue to have fantastic conversations.

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Blooming Post-Divorce with Mindfulness Coach Deb Lauren

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01:52 min | 4 months ago

Blooming Post-Divorce with Mindfulness Coach Deb Lauren

"Am here with deborah lauren. Who is a mindfulness and meditation coach in a divorced mom of two. She struggled through her own divorce in dealt with depression and guilt and all of the things that keep us stop when life. There is a plot twist our way but now she teaches a heart centered approach to healing in his dedicated to helping women through their divorce. So welcome thank you for having me rene. So let's just start with what you do and why you doing okay. Two important questions. So i am like you said mindfulness and meditation all wrapped up in mindset. And i coach primarily divorced working mothers. Who are really overwhelmed and kind of overbooked and over scheduled in overthinking all of the roller coaster ride that is the divorce life and having that work life balance and oftentimes they feel like divorce might sabotage that success their chance at happiness their ability to be the kind of parent they wanted to be all those different things and i really help women step into this new version of self that they have to be in order to make good on those desires in those wishes and goals for themselves and their family and their future and it can be really tough to do that when you are kind of stuck in the sadness of it all in in the hard parts of it all which they are and so. I started to do this. Because i myself am a divorced mother and when i was going through it there was no such thing as this at least i didn't know that there was. I didn't know this kind of support was out there and i went through a really tough

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

03:02 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"Sitting, down with canes in Queens to the world. You know yes, I had flashback being this anti. You're. Like okay. You know but I was Hambo role right as I was humbled because the training that I received eighty I. could take anywhere in low APP is still apply the fundamentals of what I taught it is. Yes, Oh the importance of legacy. A really the yes ma'am. Yes. Around it has been like Fultz of blessing that like just talking to you being in Ada Spice I. It is such an on you're doing like so many great things to bless. DIFF- not just the yield but everybody like every part of you is about serving. Someone else and I think that is what life is about. It is not about a wanting to have these platforms and be leaders even Jesus third. and. That's just what is about firing. His. My podcast is not for me to be on someone's big platform is our spice phaser whatever he's about me connecting people. Together someone who may need what you have Miss Debbie was blessed tonight by what you say her and that's not only part is to be able to connect people together because we don't know especially now in this in this day and age where we gotta sit still and falls down what to do with bay sounds Yes you know what to do with time for you to get house in order, but you know why you know lack in. The blessing in sitting still. is to have that discerning ear. is also is an opportunity to to come those things that you don't need. So you really. As a matter of really focusing on what you really. God is placing your spirit. Understand and Sitting, still long now so it would be mold in a format that could allow you to get on the by. His perpetual by. And peddle. We'll see the point of of getting on that bike. Isn't you can't be in the front seat. He's the one that's got to be in the front seat in you've got to be in the back and when when when you get all nervous and you just don't know what to do. You know you just laying that he just lays back into says own I. got you. Trust me all the people that cross your path. All the people just pass everything off just.

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

03:12 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"Building. Programs Right? Up. Also, with our Educational Africa that's another organization that. We bring kids bomb or Kobi's these but we married kids from organizations that were were were. Covered were. Offered nations know they weren't as last know but we combined the kids had wealth those didn't and we may teams. And we brought them over to the United States to compete a united. Nations you know and. In doing that, I, mean these kids got to fly for the first time represent their countries for the first time and you know just just in what they what did they give me? Yeah I had the honor of being a jail for a couple of days in Africa but. It was such an experience because I was honored would be in place in Nelson Mandela's Joe. Aircraft three days. And And that experience in that experience? I had a true appreciation of the sweat and tears that was actually filling walls where he was. In and is experiences such as that that Led Me to start is is passion that I have in s the collect dirt from the beaches around the world. And Went. Out with this because I don't know how much you want to say you know but. When I went to go work with Her Royal Highness. There was this. Young Man. At. Asked me. Said Miss Debbie his broken language. Miss Debbie. What did it feel like being Uganda? How's it feel like the new on there? And I looked at him and I told him I said why I'm about to say is my store is not yours. Door. You know and I told him. I said when I go to different countries from around the world collect dirt. At. Said, how would you feel somebody told you to go home and you didn't know your address The jerk that I pick up from here. Is. Dirt that I've picked up. But when you pick up the same dirt, this is your dirt is your home. I'm still seeking mine I don't know. My lineage. You know. So I'm. Learning cultures learning, giving back learning the. Ways to articulate in the represent. At the time I was representing United States in Uganda..

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

02:56 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"One. I've I learned so many things from being acclaimed such as a tenacity humility. At the. Service of giving back you know. Obviously never given out from their GPA our overhead GPA. Because the beginning doesn't always just by the end's okay but always having a second chance to. To. Change Direction if that's what you want to change, you know Proficiency Accountability. You know those types of things allow me to stand and workum out were horrible skills because it's not just about me. It's about we you know. When I was at eighty again, it wasn't me. It was we it was we the student body was neither students the administration advanced. Julius that that it was all of that in one. You know. So as I go forward in a work in different groups in I'm also missionary March urge Luma Bob met in my shirt I guess you could. Not, on this they have in church but. But my I have a passionate I've always had a passion of of giving back in service I sit on different. Boards or organizations and and on a personal level. Platforms have exposed me to numb numerous diverse audiences. Powerful. Men and women in business political view celebrities. I've even worked with the pro. You know the United Nations ambassadors in etc you know but. My who would have thought?.

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

04:13 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"Exactly. So. So having to stay. Ahead of technology and banking as we see it today is there gonNA be a despair impact on the served and people that look like you and me you know, do we have access to technology? Now do we will we have access to lending? And deposits in those types of things you know. So we'll better to understand the curb again. Than people like me in either event in the industry that could speak. The language. So that's You know that's why stay in in banking because I love it. I love it. But is also a service is a lot of us that that are trying to start a small business loans are homeownership or or invest or those types of things but if you can't understand the basic financial literacy. We're going to be hurting ourselves exactly that saw true. Yeah. And Education knowledge is the basis of growth anyway especially to also who as you say are underserved who people think don't deserve the same as someone else is champions like you who are like. Now, this will not happen this happen I'm GonNa do my little piece in an amazing like a little piece. But it is something humans because this think of the number of people that your work has impacted have helped them be able to give fair mending. You know make sure there's someone is going over some. People. Give say when the bankers have to read this and I like Oh guys now it. Is the fun print you know and and it's it's it's really You know it's it's banking bank in today's thanking environment. It's. Interesting like I said it's so interesting because laws when the laws were written one where we're talking about the seventies eighties, you know depending on where the branches relocated. Okay. That's federal funding was going to make sure that the money was on back. But the banks aren't located in the same place anymore they're allowed to play. So I mean it's a very complex a model. But there's some strong young people coming up in the banking. Industry. Not only young everybody that understands language you know being able to communicate it. So folks can understand even those that don't understand making sure that they have access to the technology that can give them the information. Is Very. Important. That is very import. So. It's real. You. Know. International. Not This. United States International. Yeah. You have to understand what governs in who governs the flow of income. Yeah. So that's why stand banking industry. Yeah, that's awesome. I certainly you know appreciate the fact that you know like you said, it was a service you know ervices to you know help others I just love that I love that old. North Carolina. Ms Queen All. How has your experience? Being North Carolina. You know and being you know this beautiful quaint you still are. Are Definitely how has that helped? You be who you are today. The.

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

05:39 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"Your mom and dad, did you realize? It's amazing. Church in a minute you know but. But in in Just like the Bible says, you know in Psalms Psalms Ninety one you been covered under his way. Again at when the time was right That's when it was time for you. Give birth right ambulation six, nine, you no one will wreak if ye shall faint. And you're. On death one of my tho that one day are seventeen in nine, one, thirty, one, twenty, three, and twenty, four there on my whiteboard. Good and don't forget this ecclesiastic three. Okay because it's your season. Know what I'm saying it's your season and you're giving rise to everything you're dawn and you're doing beautifully. Beautifully saw. That is right there with you on there. So proud of what you're doing yes. Yes. You know that is making it happen. You are fine. Yes. I think in the PK my dad was a preacher. So yes. It was it was still an down leave you now. New Era off. Yeah. It's It's harmonies is always going to be on your heart in the right song saying with a time. Okay. Yes. Yes. Love you this is good. Taking notes, Kuzma's there have been dropping some gyms in. A missed out. IAGO Miss Out myth out. ANC that sounds like raising experience but only. You went into the banking industry? Yes. Why have you remained in this field for more than forty years? Stay tuned to hear about Mr Experience With being in the banking industry and why she stayed in it for so long. You know what? That that's interesting that you ask that I've been in banking ever since eleven to forty two years ago. and. Around that time, we were talking about the civil rights movement in all of that I had a tendency in the banking industry I had a tendency of moving into offaire landing, equal credit opportunity, the rights type of law, and I helped to write those laws not only for the people but also to ensure that the banks were operating in court to how they were supposed to operate of a I. Don't know if you've heard of community reinvestment, act those types of laws making sure that money's gone back into all communities not you might have heard about redlining. Will. We wrote laws to eliminate? It was even at one point and you can appreciate this but. When my kids are real small, that was in Federal Reserve, Bank. And? At we were looking at this film. As examiners. Looking at this dominant was called the color of money. And what was disturbing is. In the class, there weren't but a handful of us that..

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

03:17 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"So honored to her legacy this are still being a part of you. So thank you. Again for that. Thank you again. You. It's an honor Ms Debbie. Honestly it is. It's an honor for me. It really is. Never know. Your words is so powerful. You just don't know it just add to mid. ooh. Transition her transition sh is still it's still hurts because the ear her. You know. I'm not sure she had the ear. He's GonNa do for your skill set. In the season at you're planning in so many people's lives. I. Thank you. And continued to. cause. You just don't know who's listening. Yes. Mail and you don't know. If somebody's on the break. You know and break mini success or how bounce back from you know gist. From. Whatever the situation is a relationship issue Bag or being. Not Knowing where the next dollar is. GonNa be. Our. My child or you know almost types of things you know just to talk about is the lesson yet. So. I. Love You girl I just Oh my God. I love. Am Oh. My Gosh. There's reading about you and your everything. It was an honor for me like it truly wasn't on to give the opportunity the blessing to be able to talk to you in this space and us the connectedness not be a one time connection out for. Truly an honor for me because Like I said the way that we live. On A to other people who have transitioned on before I I'm doing things that I was telling the frame today I'm in all how God has really used me. In my parents both about the my parents have transitioned on. Space where I really wish they were here you. Are is an s for your. Are. They are they. Now may be there's so much innuendo you know because you wouldn't be who you are without implanting disease are needed. See the thing is, is that everything was planted in but from both your mom and dad was placed in you. Now, at the time that was placed now it's coming out in you probably sound more like.

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

03:48 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"Thread with all of the stories was the pride. Was the pride of their Hvac us. You know that is something that is hard to explain unless you've experienced it right up. So great hole that my daughter. Wet Soon H vcu. I had three kids, two boys and my daughter is she was the last one and I'm like come on you do this. And this. You know what? I'm sorry to two of them went to issue. My daughter went to my son went to. Stay. And my other son went to rutgers university you know but. The book was. I'm. Still Humboldt. Over listening to each of the stories you know, but the one thing I do want to mention this There was one a queen that wasn't in the book She transitioned. Out. But in her transition I think. Had there been a circle of Queens you know. She made a standing till this day. You understand. Having that outlook or that that circle that new circle of communication and being able to talk where someone can understand what you might be going through I. Think this this New Circle. OR BEGINNING OF EDITIONS IS GONNA HELP I just don't talk about her. You know because pal transition but I think has she had had into ear. Or War someone to talk to you know she might have been ending to this. Yes, and that's something I think that. I feel like we don't talk about Enough, we don't you know deal with enough and I'm grateful again I'm again that's another platform that I've been blessed to meet someone and we do a collaborative every month while we talk. you know mental health and removing the stigma and the conversations that have to go. With that, go with that is just follow. Such an integral part of who we are at the. And and our culture that we should not be. assigned. and that we should really embrace their how helps others because it's all. By Effects, a blessing to get the messages like application go live says. Really helped me. Like Sair like just really you know help me Maybe. All it may not like we never know how we touched people. In the things that we say in do so even again. Thank you for like even just sharing that with us because I know that could be difficult. You know to be able to share but I just think the life that you live and if people use sound into give honor to her life and just the fact that you know you were connected to her and she was connected to you and that the things you do. In we'll do our just all..

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

02:59 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"Questions. And just has it on. And have your own person, laver? Master. That thorough some cool that history that has history in the making. That lives. Beyond that person who you know transitions, but it also just sets the stage for I. Feel like other pieces of history and other things to be created. You know as I said way into your anthology like to me. This project this anthology, this book was. If. Awesome if I thank you finally, elderly. Awesome off especially for someone again who did not? Attend we see you whole doesn't really know that full experience, but you know have had a taste of it. So tell us about the inaugural. Cu Queen Anthology entitled the Hvac You Experience The ACC. Raw University Queens edition like just like when you say that Miss Davey fry regal. You.

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

04:55 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"To. Ask them favorite part. was had an honor. To represent the student body and the reason I'm saying this because you know when we started our conversation, I've told you about at one point nine eight. But That journey from the one point nine, eight to my senior year was an example of the students love ended. Cheer the the the court. Of the Friends of the earth, the student by everybody community, my my family, my church, my neighborhood everybody's saying death. You can do this. You can do this you can. You know. But honestly, at the time I did not. I did not see. What. They saw in me I didn't see it in I couldn't appreciate it until they said the. This is for you. We want you to take much to carry. A So. The clubs organised stations in a the. My cheerleading sisters we're still friends to this day. We talk every morning over forty six years. Later we talk every morning, but it's family that. Okay. Now with my age group. I've seen a lot of people transition yet. Family. Relatives Friends in etc.. But one thing that that. I can definitely standby..

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

02:29 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"In again. Those bullets net all. Those kids getting beat. In woolworth's counter we stood hand by hand and in back them and supported them. We can't forget where we come from exactly a history that's on the field. People don't even know about you know the black barracks. Colored solid that was on the based on the football field we have that history is air. Ride. Shots snack. Fast for come on exactly know bothma. Michelle Obama era. gracing art campus because they understand the value of the soil. In every burn. Not Around Yeah, oh come. On. The Blue Goal, you know come on when the aggies come home, they come home. Come home and that's why the the The thing for my coronation was coming home with class. Not only did they come home from from the students on common but is from everybody that graduated just come on home. Just. Come. You know. Girl you've got me. Have you do find something as so difficult to define Exactly a dominant rough, he don't see ant you. rubbed. TOUCH EXPERIENCE BEING THERE S. Value the. Exactly. Exactly. As Aki Fried. Yes ma'am I love the L. Eleven. So let's talk about. You know your time as Queen, what was your biggest your biggest accomplish and your favorite part Stay tune forward for my sponsors. This is mostly and I'm here to talk to you about anchor..

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

04:34 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"It doesn't matter who they are so. For those people who don't have a platform who feel like they don't have a voice to share what they need to share and I share very passionately and I think I was a little choked and I said. I don't care who doesn't like it. I'm going to speak for those who can no longer speak I'm tired of Hashtag. My brothers and sisters names, it doesn't make any sense for us to do that for people who feel like all it's powerless. We can't do anything I, WANNA platform where they they can come on there and they can tell me Lakisha I don't like this, and this is what happened to me and this is what's going on. So thank you for sharing of paving the way for us. Because we had to have an example someone wear and for you all to endure. A person be I'm not going to say in Durham aside, possibly through a because you made it through you know to to share your story. I if no one else tells you. I. You for just doing that for us because that's what I look back on when I go to research on what do I need to do differently in his new brand I look at what someone has done before me. Because that's what we need now. Ask. Me and important thing is, is to learn from learn from our experiences and grow and understand how to strategize moves on four. Everybody isn't bad. Isn't bad. You know it just a learning how to convey the message in a way that everybody understands. So collectively who Ford everybody will prosper exactly everybody offer you know so. Yeah. That's important. That's so important. I can just hear the pride as you talk about you know. North Carolina. And being an egg you. So tell me what is so special about being added. A legacy. Yes. The legacy, the legacy you. When I you know when when I think about an it you know it's it's about excellence. is about excellence? is about this level of pride where you know you'll see it in a band when the band comes you see again And the cheerleaders we talk big. Bowl. John. And doing it re bring it also, you know so on the bills on on the on the athletic arenas in the classrooms. We have some of the best professors and the instructors they are hard on you. You might not understand it at the time, right? Okay. You finish a graduation is like is level? Yes you crossed. Because you were here for a reason We thank you. I often talk about the parents in parents that sacrifice that allow us to get on the campus has they couldn't get there but they believed in us yet to bring it home. You know what I'm I am in bringing it home that means academically athletically. The research there's an IT's impacting. So many you know even we had astronauts then a successfully made it in eater you know Ron McNair. Are Still Proud with Ron McNair. Jesse. Jackson right. Next to me hand in hand in seventy eight. In I. Don't I don't take that like. Oh Michelle Bernie. I Miss Hvac Oh to be on the face of the Ebony magazine. I. That was my miss. I miss a leap you know but but. The legacy of an aggie is sold deeply rooted..

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

05:12 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"But if you around the right people in the right organizations which I was blessed to be around, you know. They they took me under. That never thought that I would take you know in my seat Marque junior year I was. Miss Omega satisfy. No. Purple and gold the brothers, Si- you know. Best experiences ever you know even to this day. Our friendships is self special. Yeah. Vessel you know I. You know. Keisha. Out, I don't have to tell you this. You know people. They plant seized in your life while you're on your journey man sometimes, you don't even understand what the seeds mean know. What they are until it's time for them to be berthed. Yes. Now and When I found out my junior year. that. At my classmates, I'm sorry. I. You know it is like. Almost fifty years later and. My emotions have not later at all you know. I have a tendency of. Thinking what they placed on me because they believed in meet. In the belief. WAS NOT. Only. Representing them. And being the voice in the face of the university. Representing, not just in the students ever on the campus. But..

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"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

04:15 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"Have to. And this is part of the book. This is part book and I have to share this with you when I first started an. Banh typical. Fresh. You Party you socialize try to figure out you know class you go through all of these types of things And in my particular freshman year and ask about this in a both because my story is very raw. It's I'm very open It was very difficult to ride. I'll be the first one to say that you know but I've found myself going down this path that that. Put me in academic trouble my freshman year. You know and. Yeah. My GPA was one point nine eight. of.

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

The Convo with Kisha

05:57 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on The Convo with Kisha

"Fifty years you know my feelings about attending. An HVAC. You let alone of planning and T as been such an honor continues to be to this day. 'cause folks just don't understand the roles HPC's of play. and. The one thing that I do is I speak on it. As, folks need to understand that. You know when I talked about HVAC, why? What does that mean? What is happening and? Basically. It's those doors that were close. To minorities from other institutions, HEC, US Open, those doors, and us to have that access to education that others didn't have and not only we have access, but it also provided support of environment. So B.. C., you know so Talking about us, which is. It's it's just it's just a legacy is just a legacy that we must hold onto and not forget. A lot of what the civil rights movement was about knowing who you were, who were what we stood for the boy system for. The question why these institutions gave birth Right That's true I actually this year on my blog. Entire month of February I blog about black history and ACC. US were one of the topics. Um for what am I blog post it was just interesting I didn't attend the ACU I started I wanNA started at southern university and the. Came home and. After my daughter was a few months ago I was like, Wow, what are the? Way You're not. You're not taking that baby with you. And I WANNA go to another you know university but. It was so interesting to learn. How they got started in how important? They are to our culture and to US knowing who we are and how we should move about now. As, it relates to education where you know we decide where our kids we have any influence in that you know where we send them. So I was really like sold. All into it when I was doing the research. We see us and are listed several of the schools that Wanna I in how they started.

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"deborah i" Discussed on Conversations

Conversations

07:09 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on Conversations

"They were able to sort of judge immediately, what my situation was and kind of steer me in a direction, and I graduated later on my own to to the classics of adults, literature, so Jane Austen for example sort of made a made progress in terms of of maturity, but I never reached for contemporary books, and I think that the best explanation for that is I was able to find myself more quickly in the classics because of the. The society's described in those classics ing more comparable to my own society than those of contemporary literature that makes sense and the heroines, a women in those stories their lives are so constrained, and and their only way out really is marriage and I guess that mirrored the kind of experience that you having when you were bold enough to borrow some of those books and and bring them home. How how did he keep them? where? Where did he keep them when you were at? I switched up. The hiding places a lot. Because I was always nervous that my grandfather would look through my room, so it was you know. Sometimes. It was between the Dresser on the wall. Sometimes you know between the boxing matches I I of moved them around a lot. Will you discovered Deborah I? Think I was once or twice. Yes, I was taking a large risk and had I been discovered only one more time I think there would have been serious consequences, but I kind of managed to war. Earn my way out of the situation in such a way that I could win back trust and still be allowed to have certain freedoms. One of the proverbs you heard a low growing up was an empty vessel clangs the loudest. What does that mean? Well it was a saying that, they told us in the girl school that I attended. It's opposed to explain that women who are silent. An inconspicuous are can be seen as full of wisdom and grace, because the louder we were the more attention we attracted the more likely it was that we were simply empty, and nobody says when you sort of like tap an empty vase. There is a reverberation of sound. The TAP will just be muffled. And there was this idea of like a woman. Full of wisdom will not make sound. Only a woman that is empty will make a sound, and it was one of the many sayings used to encourage us to attract as little attention as possible at women, and for you know not speak in public, not laughing public, not seeing in public, not walk in such a way as to attract attention, not giggle, not not dress in a way that attracted attention, so was it was designed to kind of keep us as invisible as possible. Tell me about your first meeting with the woman who's to become your mother-in-law. So part of the tradition of matchmaking in the community involved several steps. It's it's quite interesting to a matchmaker who keeps a kind of file on? You know on every family and a community divides. People up based on you know like. They're running the religious hierarchy, but you'll also divide them up like based on certain disadvantages like as she knows that a certain family has. A troubled child or A certain family has like you know difficulties in income. She keeps these in categories because she feels like you know if I find a family that has having a financial struggle, and then I find another family that have you know a good income, but maybe a troubled child maybe I can convince these two families to compromise because there will be a quid pro quo in so there's there's a lot of like you know brains unlike mathematics that goes into that, and so when when my family was looking for a match for me, it was a conflict situation because I had this stain of my of my parents, which was a huge disadvantage would have made my chances very bad on the. The other hand I had managed somehow in the in the preceding years to really prove myself in my community as a as a as a valuable member, so I had done very well in high school I had done very well. Socially I had made good friends. I had proved myself at least externally as someone obedient, modest, very industrious side I developed a reputation for having good qualities myself personally, but I have the set of the difficulty of the background, and so the matchmaker sort of found that kind of compromise and that she found this very religious family from from us from related sect in upstate New York, who had a son who was a little older, he was a bit, too. Too old to just marry anyone and he's got. He had siblings waiting as well so there they were getting a little desperate, and so they convinced the family to look at someone like me, because their some was already twenty three, and so, what happened was the first thing was that the parents of my future husband met my family, and then it was arranged that they would sort of parade me somewhere in a public space, so that the mother of my future husband could see me and see if I was at least physically worthy of marrying her son, and she felt that her sean could find me attractive, because in general, the the purpose inspections both the inspection by the future mother-in-law. mother-in-law the inspection by the future husband himself is written into tradition so that the man is not forced to marry someone. He doesn't find attractive and so she I'd me in grocery store and you need. This was happening. You were aware that you be odd. Yes. I was told to prepare in advance. I was told exactly how to walk through the aisles in order to put myself at split on display, and shortly after that apparently she had found we set factory, because they organized a meeting between myself and my future husband, and what was your impression? If he were I, found him very nice. Actually 'cause you have a lot of fear about being married off to someone just completely. Out of touch with everyday life, because many men in this community are solely rooted in the spiritual, and have really no idea of what a woman's life is like or what an everyday life is like outside of the synagogue, and so he was in comparison, someone who you could have a conversation with possible. And he did you know he seemed relatively intelligent and kind, and so I was very relieved I thought well. Really I mean this is much better than I expected. How much time did you spend with one another before you're waiting? Thirty minutes. Those minutes. The netflix series on all docs. It's based on your memoir. The wedding is this real centerpiece the rituals in the crowd. What stands out for you in your memories when you think back to that day? It was a very long night. I guess I. Guess What stands out is. The fact that I was very hopeful. And very happy. I think until the very last minute, and that that hope was sort of dashed the very next morning, and it never returned. How was it dashed? Well I think that I had this idea.

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"deborah i" Discussed on Conversations

Conversations

07:09 min | 1 year ago

"deborah i" Discussed on Conversations

"They were able to sort of judge immediately, what my situation was and kind of steer me in a direction, and I graduated later on my own to to the classics of adults, literature, so Jane Austen for example sort of made a made progress in terms of of maturity, but I never reached for contemporary books, and I think that the best explanation for that is I was able to find myself more quickly in the classics because of the. The society's described in those classics ing more comparable to my own society than those of contemporary literature that makes sense and the heroines, a women in those stories their lives are so constrained, and and their only way out really is marriage and I guess that mirrored the kind of experience that you having when you were bold enough to borrow some of those books and and bring them home. How how did he keep them? where? Where did he keep them when you were at? I switched up. The hiding places a lot. Because I was always nervous that my grandfather would look through my room, so it was you know. Sometimes. It was between the Dresser on the wall. Sometimes you know between the boxing matches I I of moved them around a lot. Will you discovered Deborah I? Think I was once or twice. Yes, I was taking a large risk and had I been discovered only one more time I think there would have been serious consequences, but I kind of managed to war. Earn my way out of the situation in such a way that I could win back trust and still be allowed to have certain freedoms. One of the proverbs you heard a low growing up was an empty vessel clangs the loudest. What does that mean? Well it was a saying that, they told us in the girl school that I attended. It's opposed to explain that women who are silent. An inconspicuous are can be seen as full of wisdom and grace, because the louder we were the more attention we attracted the more likely it was that we were simply empty, and nobody says when you sort of like tap an empty vase. There is a reverberation of sound. The TAP will just be muffled. And there was this idea of like a woman. Full of wisdom will not make sound. Only a woman that is empty will make a sound, and it was one of the many sayings used to encourage us to attract as little attention as possible at women, and for you know not speak in public, not laughing public, not seeing in public, not walk in such a way as to attract attention, not giggle, not not dress in a way that attracted attention, so was it was designed to kind of keep us as invisible as possible. Tell me about your first meeting with the woman who's to become your mother-in-law. So part of the tradition of matchmaking in the community involved several steps. It's it's quite interesting to a matchmaker who keeps a kind of file on? You know on every family and a community divides. People up based on you know like. They're running the religious hierarchy, but you'll also divide them up like based on certain disadvantages like as she knows that a certain family has. A troubled child or A certain family has like you know difficulties in income. She keeps these in categories because she feels like you know if I find a family that has having a financial struggle, and then I find another family that have you know a good income, but maybe a troubled child maybe I can convince these two families to compromise because there will be a quid pro quo in so there's there's a lot of like you know brains unlike mathematics that goes into that, and so when when my family was looking for a match for me, it was a conflict situation because I had this stain of my of my parents, which was a huge disadvantage would have made my chances very bad on the. The other hand I had managed somehow in the in the preceding years to really prove myself in my community as a as a as a valuable member, so I had done very well in high school I had done very well. Socially I had made good friends. I had proved myself at least externally as someone obedient, modest, very industrious side I developed a reputation for having good qualities myself personally, but I have the set of the difficulty of the background, and so the matchmaker sort of found that kind of compromise and that she found this very religious family from from us from related sect in upstate New York, who had a son who was a little older, he was a bit, too. Too old to just marry anyone and he's got. He had siblings waiting as well so there they were getting a little desperate, and so they convinced the family to look at someone like me, because their some was already twenty three, and so, what happened was the first thing was that the parents of my future husband met my family, and then it was arranged that they would sort of parade me somewhere in a public space, so that the mother of my future husband could see me and see if I was at least physically worthy of marrying her son, and she felt that her sean could find me attractive, because in general, the the purpose inspections both the inspection by the future mother-in-law. mother-in-law the inspection by the future husband himself is written into tradition so that the man is not forced to marry someone. He doesn't find attractive and so she I'd me in grocery store and you need. This was happening. You were aware that you be odd. Yes. I was told to prepare in advance. I was told exactly how to walk through the aisles in order to put myself at split on display, and shortly after that apparently she had found we set factory, because they organized a meeting between myself and my future husband, and what was your impression? If he were I, found him very nice. Actually 'cause you have a lot of fear about being married off to someone just completely. Out of touch with everyday life, because many men in this community are solely rooted in the spiritual, and have really no idea of what a woman's life is like or what an everyday life is like outside of the synagogue, and so he was in comparison, someone who you could have a conversation with possible. And he did you know he seemed relatively intelligent and kind, and so I was very relieved I thought well. Really I mean this is much better than I expected. How much time did you spend with one another before you're waiting? Thirty minutes. Those minutes. The netflix series on all docs. It's based on your memoir. The wedding is this real centerpiece the rituals in the crowd. What stands out for you in your memories when you think back to that day? It was a very long night. I guess I. Guess What stands out is. The fact that I was very hopeful. And very happy. I think until the very last minute, and that that hope was sort of dashed the very next morning, and it never returned. How was it dashed? Well I think that I had this idea.

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"deborah i" Discussed on Blank Check with Griffin & David

Blank Check with Griffin & David

01:33 min | 3 years ago

"deborah i" Discussed on Blank Check with Griffin & David

"But it's like one time where she calls and deborah i'm sorry mom like i'm putting the kids in the gang and she's like no i've called you ready to have a conversation like you're gonna talk to me right now they do have this nice kind of relationship though where they like meet in the middle and it's some points the movie does it feels like reduce it to like god it's been way too long and that's broad got laid yet i also feel like it's something about the fact that it's like here to people who are equally difficult in different ways but they're like willing to call each other out on bullshits because they both have so many weird like defensive walls built up around their personalities and how they want people to perceive them you know they they're both bolshevik they essentially also will accept each other in conditionally or their bullshit so there's no reason not to say something about which is kind of beautiful and like even at the end of the movie it's like maybe they weren't supposed to date but they're like good people to have in each other's lives you know i think a sex thing goes beyond like she needs to get later whatever's well it's also like finally she's like oh i get why you married the idiot this right like i see this like i maybe i didn't have that perspective before and also letting another person into her life like those three suitors are like you know the movie implies at that they've been following her around for like seven years let's kiss the ring and then the table a groveling i mean if you go into it like obviously we never see her relationship with her husband with right.

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