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Barstool Pick Em
"dave rico" Discussed on Barstool Pick Em
"Company. You want again roy. Sure joel no rico. No i don't because you want you got what they wanted to have more coming picks you have more come off. You know you one big big you want to give you the picks i'll just go your would say all you're on track. No you didn't lose. I can't believe i'm not like our what. Rico you know what i can't believe picks relief. Can i just say real quick. I can't one fucking people attractive. Lost people killed for this. You know what. I can't believe rico is that we spent fifty minutes talking about a salary then fifty one minutes. You're like i'm actually getting paid more. That's what i can't. that's honorable. horrible knows honorable. You wanted to get paid more than he didn't want to take pay cut right and you didn't. You didn't have back. i don't i went flat. No but i don't think go flat because you were never making what you thought you would like. We didn't know how much you make. You also have the. And i. And i i let go. It was your job to when you send it over and the number came through like all righty bump it. That's like saying the the president of a bank when someone goes on. Atm is a fuck up. Has you write it out. Didn't they give it to you for review beforehand. No by the way you want. You want rico. Do you want an exact apples to apples. Comparison here began talking about other people. Hank will back me up. This literal exact thing happened with bill football. He was getting paid more than we thought and then he tried to negotiate their higher for eighty hours a week. Yeah a higher salary when he came in. And i said we're not going to pay you more just because we fucked up and we rectify also going to say something give. The money is not an apples to apples situation but there once was a guy by the name of bubbly gang around here and he was doing bubbly stuff and the only people that didn't know the bubbly gang was like happening. Was myself you. Dan and like paul other people knew if you thought i paid you and bubbly told me about everything is just like how could he omit this piece of information of what was happening. If you thought i paid you more hourly goodness in my heart and you thought i did on purpose and you didn't thanked me for. That doesn't sound like something you do. That sounds like somebody who knew a mistake was made in their favor. Let's not a thank you a million times for that extra money. No i thought that was his business. Yeah i didn't was like are at. That was an understatement. Like i don't believe you here. Here's one other thing. I'll throw out there because i told you the billy football story. And what did i tell billy football. I said were not going to give you a raise from a fake salary that you are making. That was a mistake. But what i will do for you is. I will have your back if you produce for this company when you go into dave and asked for a race and guess what. Billy has been producing. His blogs have been huge. He's been doing a great job. He's been doing a lot of content. And when he goes into dave in december. I will tell. Dave billy has been doing a great job. I will tell. Dave rico's men doing a great job. Like i when i when i have my guys. I always go to bat for them. And it's kind of disrespectful to me when you're like well. I need more anymore anymore. When i telling you i will go to bat for you. I want you more. We pay well. I can't give you more on a fake salary. That i didn't even know existed but i have. We signed the contract. You one where he co. You dance for you you know. You're you're getting paid more. Yes last year and off of okay a bank when there is a bank era. The bank makes you repay. Yeah actually now. That i'm thinking about it. If you actually do the math you're getting paid the number you want if you count all the extra sauce last year by accident they you're not having to pay back. You're getting that now. Can you. at least say thank you that i'm not going to be like. Hey riyals us this. Why thought i earned it you. You signed a contract with a number on it right. Yeah you you paid well about no no. That's the mistake. Maybe that's the disconnect. The contract that i signed was was that number. Oh they just sent the wrong number. I thought that was the right. Yeah i mean but that's all we got you got the auto renew number right so and again you are business guy. I'm not going to bother you. I i thought the change the change was your ex nor conversation with them or long conversation which down through mud. That was the hardest to go. She never thank god. I've read art of the deal because that was not easy. Let's get to the your conversation with them. I didn't win. You want you you one not. I think we had a now that we're now we're talking about. I have an idea of what i think. They probably did. Cause you were getting paid before that correct. Yes no but he talking. I was getting c. Yes seasonally. I bet. They added that yeah. They didn't they added by accident. That's my guess what they did. So you're good. They stacked it on by now. Getting paid guess they didn't cut your seasoned. They added what i said. Your new thing was the to me. Numbers add up. Okay and look at the number of times. What's your if you count the extra money that you made last year and then the auto renew this year. So let's say that you're at the real number last year and now you're now you're getting this right. It basically is like if we had a part time employee who prove themselves and we're paying them part time like here's their contract and they don't stop they don't somehow get. The new thing has taken out the old correct. So you're good. You actually did win. He won he fucked me in the us. You fuck me caller on. Yeah you fuck me in the. And i don't think you did. Your supercilious are the number that you gave was four limited stuff. I've done more after. I don't know let's not you know you want now you one you know what the listeners one. Because next week there's no more negotiating right loss. Two hours i listen forty. Got this all the way why next week. It's going to be all football. Next week's meal card is incredible by the way i can. What we do is nine hours. I'm so excited for this weekend. I'm so excited for this card. See you on saturday. We'll be doing a stream. Wisconsin first penn state. It's going to be see. This is going to be great dave. You wanna start yet just going week voice greek through the card so while this we've been going down the game where no two hours and we just gotta do. If you wanna talk about specific games talk about. This is two hours in all right. Here we go. You held out Last week dave went five to one on his mortal lock. I went six into Tune all my mortal lock added ucla. When i saw the chip kelly was wearing the visor for the first time since oregon. Rico you at four. No one on your mortar locks the mortar lock college. Football picking parlay hit. It was plus six twenty five. Is that correct. Yeah it was a union. The barstools sportsbook app. I guess on that and guess what this week. If you're a never have signed up before and you sign up in the barstool sports sportsbook cap you get and you deposit you get one hundred dollar up to match so if you put one hundred and you get a hundred dollars for free on football on saturday. How about that. Sorry i was thinking about stuff. I gotta sell. Yeah i heard a little. We did well. Is this what i get. There's a half ass guy he's you get. This is going to get more song. You'll never get it. You'll never get it with moat. Meco bosco attitude moebius. Look you sign the contract. You can't mope you know you're right. Yeah i want eight plus years zaire ben backing i know all right i got federal federal crop also cry yes not getting more money and not telling me ferrochrome so Sign up for the parcels sportsbook garin jersey. We'll tweet it if you are. We'll put on instagram. Put everywhere dylan. Make sure you put on them. I think it'd be on at friday friday so anybody who is not deposited yet parcells sportsbook. If you deposit this does not affect your thousand dollar risk-free bet but you put in ten bucks. You'll get a free ten dollar bet. You.
Psychologists Off The Clock
"dave rico" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock
"Dave rico excited that one of our listeners requested to have dr david rico on to discuss his books. Dave is author therapist workshop leader and teacher. He combines union poetic in mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. He's written twenty books pet one of his best sellers how to be an adult in relationships. The five keys to mindful loving. Be coming into its twentieth anniversary. This fall so we're going to be spending some time talking about that today. Welcome environment given how to be. An adult relationships is about to reach. Its twentieth anniversary. I'm curious what do you think makes this book so enduringly helpful for people. I think it's because i look into the various issues that come up in relationships in a way that kind of opens the reader into instead of coming up with a plan that everybody has follow. It has a lot of options as opposed to demands as to what you have to be like for a relationship to be successful. Yes kinda invites you to be really reflective about relationships your role rolling relationships how you engage your history of relationships. It is a book that covers a huge amount of topics relevant to relationships. So i'm curious. How would you summarize the goals of how to be. An adult and relationships are is the ability to be presents on showing what i call five eight. The five eight our attention exceptions appreciation affection and allowing. And we're always looking for those and the person that we built as a partner is one that we believe rightly or wrongly will get those to us and of course. Our commitment is to those to the other. Yeah so these five as being attentive accepting being appreciative being affectionate and allowing sorta sit at the core of healthy relationships. And what. I think is really important that you talk about in the book is that those are the necessary ingredients in a healthy relationship that we never perfectly get them as children even in the most ideal of homes and we never perfectly get them as adults and so what is the job of an adult in a healthy relationship in terms of orienting around. These needs in a healthy way. I saw the were inborn needs. We came into the world not yet ready to take care of ourselves. We weren't born like a little full Who stands up within minutes of being born. We had to be taken care of and that means somebody had to the paying attention to our needs so hence attention is not just something that you're asking for is something that is required if you are to survive. Somebody had to know whether we wanted to be fed. Or hells or change. And we had no words somebody had to define what are various sounds and cries represented of course all through life. We're looking for someone who and get a super configure out our stated cries likewise when we showed that we had a specific personality. And everybody's born this way. We're not just like a lump of clay that somebody can manipulate. No matter how they try there will always be a core self. That is you is different from your brother. It's different from your sister. And when you are jenner givers except you this way rather than demanding that you'd be the way they need to be that helps you grow in southie. So that also is the necessary building blocks for life on the planet lease to the feeling that your values for yourself at weren't being compared to your brothers and sisters that you weren't less valuable because of your gender or nay into someone to valuable because of how your parents represented you in their own minds. Just kinda like goldilocks just right. Then we also know that the human brain does not develop appropriately unless we are held and caressed and cradles and played with so. That's the need for affection. It's not something extra. It's a requirement for full development and then finally since every human is called to be on some kind of journey the first journey that we took with scrawling across the room on our own instead of being carried across as we have been before so we had to have the kind of cheer giver. Who could handle that. Who could lead it. Be okay that now. We are starting sue take over the functions of our parents and the first function is locomotion getting from one place to the other soon crawled across ruin than we walked across the room that we left the house altogether to go to school and we kept leading all through our childhood and adolescence in various ways than we finally left altogether to go to college or to start our own life and all of that had to be allowed. Obviously were free being so we can do things on our own allowing means that you can tell. They support your launching. Who supports the caregivers. They want you to grow. They want you to move on while still be connected to them. And that's the essence of health. At i can move forward in my life as myself while maintaining my connections to those who rodney into the world. Who created the holding environment. In which i could real as you said a. Nobody does any of this perfectly. But we don't need to the perfect. What all we need is good enough parenting. And how do you tell good enough. You can ring number. Sometimes that happened. Angie notice that. You're not crazy these things from other people now because you've already had been satisfied and you've come out of your childhood with a capacity to be satisfied with a moderate amounts of these days from other people other alice's other adults and that'll happen because your original experience of life on planet that.
Psychologists Off The Clock
"dave rico" Discussed on Psychologists Off The Clock
"L. here with debited introduced in episode on relationships with prolific author. Dave rigo. There's actually a backstory to how we got connected. Which is that a listener requested. As having him on. And then it turned out that my editor was also dave rico's editor so the fates aligned and brought us together and it was. It was really such an honor to have him on his writing. You really just kind of go into the heart of what relationships mean and how to do them in healthy mindful ways and our conversation touched on lots of different topics. But i wanted with here to focus our conversation on a five as that are core to healthy relationships and those are being attentive being accepting being appreciative being affectionate and allowing and that when we're mindful that were more likely to get into a mindset where we can offer those things and that we can more skillfully request those things from our partner but when i thought a lot about during the pandemic and throughout my time being a working parent who wants to have a healthy relationship but has very little time and energy at the end of the day to devote to. It is how to be creative in meeting the needs of those five as i mean. Everyone has maxed out. I maxed out my partners maxed out so debbie thought you and i might share some of our real life hacks to both offering and trying to get some of those five as met. I wanna just. I validate that. It's hard right. Like i think that it's interesting. Because even in fairly good marriages emotionally mature. People still struggle. I think sometimes with within relationships to both give their partner these things but also to ask for their own needs an effective way. And so when you say hacks. I think there's times when i have done things that i'm proud of and that have been effective and then there's other times not so much literally to practice what you preach thing as a therapist where i will spend the day and i'll talk to clients about assertive communication and go through some skills and then i'll go home and may or may not actually use the myself and so just to validate that. It's hard but i think from a philosophical place. One of the key. Things i think is that it's really helpful. Sometimes to let go of this need to control our partner or other people in relationships. I think sometimes we are very latched onto like i need to make my kid. Do this or my spouse should be doing this. And they're not and i actually think it's very important to speak up about our needs but from a place of like something more genuine rather than just trying to get them to do what they want. Because i found that when we just get into control and then can't accept if the partner doesn't do what we want it's it. It's not a helpful place to be. Yeah that's so well sad and just sort of echo. It's much easier to tell other people to do this myself done. Isn't it the thing that i'm thinking about right in the middle of a fight with my partners like dozens of people this week. Do this much better than i'm doing. So i was thinking about. The one of the as is affection. In how i think sometimes in this stressful situation you know affection with your partner sort of gets tossed aside or put on the backburner just because people are exhausted. And it's like. I've got nothing left to give you know and i. I do think that one of the things to think about is that sometimes it just takes a little bit of effort. It doesn't have to be a big deal or anything like that. But it's like just tuning in. I think but being aware that sometimes that does take effort. Yeah i have two thoughts. That in one is that being locked in. Her house is really a challenge for couples. Because it's much easier to make an effort if you can sort of have a change of scenery but in our homes we can carve out that space more deliberately. We can create an in home date night. you know. Have a glass of wine or a cup of tea. You were play a board game or even do a netflix. Show but be deliberate about it. Sit on the couch together and really savor that times. I have a firepit in my little backyard here in denver and sometimes will sit out sometimes with the kids. Sometimes just me and my partner. He'll go start a fire out there and sometimes just like my gosh. It's cold too tired. I just wanna like go to sleep or something like that but that little bit of effort of kind of making it happen. It's like really nice. It's one of the best times that we have. Just sit and relax and enjoy some time together but you know it takes effort. It takes effort. Amanda accomodation is like put it on the calendar and put it on for a weekly date and then aim for two out of four be disciplined about getting to two out of four but give yourself a little bit of wiggle room. That life happens and these times are exhausting. But that's sometimes you value consistent way it's useful to kinda give yourself that push and w as you're saying it can really be rewarding even though it took some effort to get there. It's like a lot of things in life right one hundred percent a couple of other things. I think we often don't feel like doing. They're very good for our relationship is working with our own brains right. Our brains are constantly scanning the environment. For what isn't going well so that we can make it go better and not applies to our relationship to and so when it comes to the two as of attentiveness and appreciation. I think being really deliberate about looking for things that you appreciate about your partner so paying attention to them and really actively looking for things that you like about them in sharing it either through verbal affirmation or through physical touch can be really helpful and similar if reinforcement. Xactly red bright Tried to enter into virtuous cycle instead of the vicious cycle. That can feel really natural. You know during a pandemic but just generally when life is stressful. I think in this pressure cooker situation. There is something about looking at some of those silver linings. And i just wanted to end to by noting that we tend to buy into this myth at our partner should be able to offer us everything that we want and all the times that we wanted but just to appreciate that. We're sometimes maxed out in our partner sometimes maxed out. I love in the episode when he talks about how acting lovingly helps us to be more loved and that there is something that even in these hard situations about just showing love and being loving toward others then sorta like the cycle gets created. So we hope you get a lot out of this episode with.