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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

05:18 min | 8 months ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"To communicate their disapproval or their disbelief or its coworkers doing it, or entertainers, if it's a prominent trans person doing it, you'll sometimes see Caitlyn Jenner referred to by her dead name and Caitlyn Jenner. She's an odious piece of shit as some people, you know, some of all people are odious pieces of shit. She is an odious piece of shit. Shouldn't draw our dead name around shouldn't miss gender her. I've also seen Elliot Page get tagged with their dead name. Not a nice thing to do and certainly to equate someone in a cafe or a bar calling out the name on your ID that you provided to them with the kind of malice of a parent who disapproves of their child's gender identity or disapproved of their child for transitioning to their actual gender identity. I don't think those things are of equal weight and you shouldn't use dead naming to describe that. That said, you know, we live in an era where words don't mean anything anymore and right now we're having a moral panic and the right wing is describing all out gay people everywhere as groomers being out in gay where children might hear, you know, might know that you are a gay person is to somehow groom those children grooming now used to refer to pedophiles and child molesters insinuating themselves into the lives of children that they wish to pray upon, not just earning the child's trust, but often earning the parents trust, and it was grooming, not that just the kid but the family to abuse that child would get away with that abuse. And yeah, go look at Marjorie Taylor Greene's Twitter feed right now. We are living in an era where the worst people are using the worst words in the worst ways. To harm queer people, trans people, gay people, and yeah, so while I find what you witness with that person did, I hope they would think better of it. I hope they would recognize that to equate their experience with the trans experience around dead naming and then using that term to describe what happened to them. A little disrespectful, maybe on the edge, but yeah, not as disrespectful as this grooming shit that's going on. Or groomer shut. Okay, groomer, hello grummer, shit that's going on right now. And yeah, rather than queer people, policing each other attacking each other. I'm not saying you're policing or attacking the person you saw, you know, who's in the cafe or the bar who described as his dead naming in their Twitter feed. I'm not saying you're attacking them. You're just thinking about what they did. But yeah, we may need to link arms and unite and fight the right right now and do a little less policing of each other. All right, before we get to this week's listener response calls, let's read some listener tweets. Sully men O Cheney tweets, and I'm sorry, solely mean if I butchered your name there, it only took four years, but I finally sprung for the Magnum version of the savage love cast joining my first sack lunch this week can't wait. Thank you so much for joining. Thank you for becoming a Magnum sublimate. Your first sack lunch though will be may 5th looking forward to it. In the meantime, Solomon please enjoy the savage love archives and all the new bonus sex and politics conversations we're creating just for our Magnum subs. August 12th tweets, another way to strictly enforce those don't say gay laws would be to require gender neutral bathrooms in all schools, how do school workers indicate what bathroom should be used without presenting or educating about gender identity. That's a really good point, August, wished I thought of that no more little boys rooms, no more little girls rooms, only little persons rooms for everybody. And cat stark tweets, ah, is a great response to an unsolicited dick pic. But this pick, which cat and closed, is my go to. What that pick is is a sliced up eggplant on the very sharp knife, cat used to slice it up. And yeah, that pick will put most guys off, but not all guys, as any regular listener of my podcast would know. All right, if you want me to read your tweet on an upcoming episode of the savage love cast, please be sure to include the hashtag savage love cast in a big thank you to everyone who posted your social media this week about the show. And now listener response calls. Hey Dan, this is a response to the caller and episode 8 zero 7. Who lives in the northwest and whose husband moved down to Southern California. He was wondering about whether or not to sell his house because it was full of memories and Dan mentioned that it was a seller's market and I think there's a great in between. Maybe it's time for a remodel that could be something as big as new landscaping or opening up the kitchen or it could be something as small as just repainting the rooms might help. But either way, all the husbands, things need to go in a box in the garage and maybe a fresh coat of paint will do the trick. Plus that will definitely help the property value. Hi, Dan, Nancy, tech savvy youth and everyone. This community is great. And I wanted.

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

02:58 min | 10 months ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"This is why it's hard for me to date. I need a man who understands this balance in my life. Well, there's a man out there. There are men out there plural more than one. There is no the one, but there are lots of men who could be the one for you, the one you round up and some of those men are going to understand that balance in your life, but others of them, others can be made to understand it. Okay, thanks to everyone who tweeted about this show this week or posted your other social media accounts, we really appreciate it. And if you want me to read your tweet about the love cast on next week's savage love cast, be sure to include the hashtag savage love cast. And now your response calls. Hey, Dan Nancy, the tech savvy at risk youth, and all of the listeners. This is the caller from episode 7 9 8 who had her very first orgasms from oral sex at age 35 thanks to the erotic fiction I had been reading that flipped that switch in my brain. Here it is. I had been reading a book called sinner by the author Sierra Simone. I love everything I've read by her center in particular was the book that described the oral sex from the man's point of view in a way that just made me believe that a man wants to be down there. Hey, Dan and the team, I'm calling him response to the caller from episode 7 99 whose relationship has fallen into a companion at rut. My girlfriend and I have been together for two and a half years and living together for almost one. So I feel like our situations are similar. I definitely have a really low sex drive and I'm really quick to quote unquote forget how to have sex. A couple of things have worked for us that I think Dan missed. First, we really embrace the silliness of sex, even if it feels goofy and we're laughing for a bit, laughing together while coddling naked in bed really increases intimacy and makes us feel close. Second, we schedule sex when needed. Like if we're having an extremely busy week or if we aren't feeling very connected, if it's on my calendar, I won't forget about it. Third, we've bought some really low stakes adventures and taking them into the bedroom to help us move from silly to sexy. We went to our local sex shop and bought some kinky dice. We rolled the dice to determine who's the Dahmer sub, what clothes are costumes we're wearing, what tools to use like spanking or handcuffs. We also went out on a limb and bought a sexy activity book made by the folks who made the adventure challenge. We've only done one of the adventures so far. It was taking turns giving each other a lap dance while the other person was tied to a chair. And it took us from silly to sexy really quickly. How do you teach your man to clean his ass properly? Incentivize the most compelling tool to teach stubborn people. So get in the shower, make sure you have a handheld shower head, washes body, washes thoroughly, rinse it, bend him over, eat his ass out, install a bidet on your toilet the next day. Explain that clean ass is getting and dirty asses get.

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

01:34 min | 10 months ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"This episode of savage love cast is brought to you by talk space. Online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $100 off your first month, go to talk space dot com and use the offer code savage. Valentine's Day is coming, are you? Explore your pleasure with a toy or two from dame products. They have fun and functional products for individuals and couples to use, all designed with real bodies in mind. Visit dame products dot com slash savage to pick your pleasure for Valentine's night and beyond. Support for today's show support we are very grateful for comes from stamps dot com. With stamps dot com, you can access all the amazing services of the post office right from your desk in your own home, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Just click print mail and you are done. It could not be easier. And right now use savage for this special offer includes up to 55 bucks worth of free postage, a digital scale and a four week trial do not wait. Go to stamps dot com and before you do anything else, click on the microphone at the top of the homepage and type in savage that stamps dot com enter SAV AGE. Hi Dan Nancy and the tech savvy at risk use. I am calling about COVID vaccine related question and dealing with in laws. My in laws, I've worked really, really hard to love. And get along with, we have a lot of varying opinions and lifestyle and kind of more recently we've been feeling low love for each.

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

02:06 min | 11 months ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"What I'm highlighting here is a warning for others who may be thinking about having three ways. They initiated sex when you were out of the room with your back turned after you had agreed to the three way under the condition that your boyfriend always be lavishing attention on you at the same time that he was sexually interacting with this other woman and he didn't fucking do that because he's a selfish fucking prick. And she's an inconsiderate prick. And I'm glad he's out of your life. I think you should stick to your guns. I don't think that you should see him again. I don't think you should get back together. I don't think that you should off the engagement that you called off. Because it wasn't just about the three way going badly. It's why it went badly. What he was demonstrating to you. As it was going badly, which was a disregard for your emotional safety during sex. A willingness to selfishly violate your consent. What you had consented to in advance, during varsity level, sex play involving another person. I wouldn't feel safe having one on one sex with someone who had done that to me during the three way. I also don't think I could trust someone if I wanted to be in a monogamous relationship who would behave that way during the three way to honor the monogamous commitment that they made to me if monogamy was indeed something I needed or insisted on. And it sounds like monogamy is something you need and should insist on going forward. With someone else. Hi Dan Nancy and the team. I am a 48 year old straight cis woman from Colorado. And with perimenopause, my sex drive has gone through the roof and I am really interested in having the conversation with my husband of many years about opening our relationship. We've had this conversation before back when his sex drive was higher than mine. And.

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

05:31 min | 11 months ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"Hi, so I am a transgender man, very happily married to another man and a look we consider to be a gate relationship. So this is the problem is I started my medical transition in 2020. And in October, I finally came out to my mother who had an enormously bad reaction to it, including sending very, very painful comments, the attacks and email, including a few if I changed my name, it would kill her. Which December 6th, my mother suddenly died. And so now I have to figure out whether or not when I go to the funeral, it's going to be a few months later because we want to be able to have it outside. Do I go by the name I'm using legally and did my personal life and actually professionally now too or do I respect my mom's last wishes, which were the way she related to me were quite painful, but we never had the chance to work it out. Oh my God, I'm so sorry. You came out to your mother, she had a negative reaction, which a lot of parents do when their queer kids come out to them, but most of our parents eventually come around. So I would encourage you rather than regarding your mom's tantrum the way she reacted the way she lashed out. Rather than regarding that as her last wishes, regarded as her first impulse, and as is often the case with the parents of queer kids, those first reactions those initial reactions when they're negative. Are where that parent starts, not where that parent ends. When I came out to my mother, the first thing, one of the first things she asked me to do was to not bring or never bring these days, it's fuzzy. I can't quite remember clearly. But I wasn't allowed to bring a boyfriend to the house because that would have made it too real. My mom could interact with my sister's boyfriend and not see all the blowjobs that my sister was giving her boyfriend, but my boyfriend. That was different. My sister's boyfriend that could lead to marriage and kids, my mom said, when we had a confrontation about it, but my boyfriend. Let only to blow jobs. So she could ignore the blowjobs. She knew her daughter might be giving, but she couldn't blow jobs that she knew I was giving. And that was something we fought about. And I loved my mother. We were really close. We were cliche close. We fought about that. I can imagine how much pain I would have been in if that's where our relationship had ended if my mom after I had come out to her, as gay had suddenly died. And I was left to sit with that. That initial reaction. That's all I had. We hadn't progressed. But I think I hope what I eventually would have come to is when I'm encouraging you to come to is to give your mom some credit. On faith that she would have gotten to a place where she loved and accepted you. In part because you would have stood your ground with her about being the man you are about having the name that you have. And she would have as so many parents of queer kids do in time come around, perhaps in time apologized to you for that first negative reaction for the way she lashed out for the tantrum that she had. So I guess I'm asking you to do what I hope I would have had the strength to do and I'm not sure I would have had the strength to do if my mom had dropped out the day after I'd come out to her shortly after I'd come out to her. And assume that that's not the point where she would have ended up if she'd had more time. And instead of and it doesn't sound like you're angry with your mother, particularly, but instead of being angry with your mother about who she was at that moment, find it in yourself to love your mother for who you know in your heart or hope in your heart, she would have become if she'd had more time. And in that spirit, I think you go to your mother's memorial service as the person you are as the gender you are with the name that you have. Not out of respect for your mom's tantrum for that initial, negative reaction. You have to respect that. That wasn't our last wish that was her first impulse. And rather than round your mother down to the worst possible thing, the parent can do or say when their kid comes out to them. I think you should round your mother up. To the person that she was capable of being and would have become the mom, she was, I'm sure she loved you at times, unconditionally, as a parent should, and even though she had a negative reaction when you came out to his trans, give her credit for maybe being able to get there again. Give her the benefit. Of that doubt and go to her memorial service as yourself. Hello, Dan, Nancy, and the tech savvy at risk youth. I've been married to a man for 20 years. Our sex is fantastic. It is wanton. It's animalistic. It's instinctive and I love it. My husband is also very affectionate. He plays with my hair, he rubs my feet and I love it. He is loving and he is caring, and I would be delighted if I could transition.

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

02:01 min | 11 months ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"Step one, get the fuck rid of him, step two, reason with yourself. Talk to yourself. Let the rational part of your mind assess objectively, how attractive your body is. Not to everyone and no one's body is attractive to everyone. But attractive, objectively attractive because others have found it attractive and allow how other people have found you attractive to give you permission to illuminate the path back toward embracing your own body again and finding yourself attractive again and allowing yourself to know that indeed you are attractive and your tits are beautiful and fuck this guy. Please break the buck up with him right fucking now. Hi Dan Nancy and the tech savvy at risk youth. I'm a 32 year old cis woman, poly pansexual, calling to get some advice from you and your listeners about coping with changes in attraction, I guess, after weight gain. I've been married to my wife for four years. I gave birth to our baby almost two years ago. We have two long-term special guest stars with whom we are very close also outside of the bedroom. One who's been along distance partner on and off for the last decade. The other who was nearby present for the birth of our child and all other major life things until my wife and I decided to move from California to Illinois about 9 months ago. Over the last two years I've gained a lot of weight that I do not plan on trying to lose. What I'm up against is the feeling that my partners are no longer attracted to me now that I look different from before. Specifically, our male partner who became a long distance partner after the move earlier this year. He's always been a trick attracted to a different type than me. He and my wife have had a relationship for the better part of the last 15 years. They are life partners. So I know he's not going to stop being a part of my life, and I don't plan on asking.

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

01:53 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"The dick. What it is and what can be done about it. Also coming up, the holidays give the gift of well me, I guess. You can grab your loved ones tickets to hump 2021 at home film fes dot com or you can gift someone a Magnum subscription to the savage love cast at savage love or you can order a copy of my new book savage love from a to Z wherever books are sold. Oh, and abortion pills also make great stocking stuffers. Once again, go to share abortion pill dot info or plan C pills, dot com. For more info on getting yours. And now, let's get to the show. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep, the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now my listeners get up to $200 off all mattress orders at Helix Sleep dot com slash savage. Dame products is a woman founded company that makes toys for sex, developed and tested by real people, they're innovative, doctor approved products for pleasure are designed to enhance and enrich all kinds of sex. Visit dame products dot com slash savage to see what they can bring to your bedroom, or wherever, you know, you do it. Support for today's show support we are very grateful for comes from stamps dot com. With stamps dot com, you can access all the amazing services of the post office right from your desk in your own home, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Just click print mail and you are done. It could not be easier. And right now use savage for this special offer includes up to 55 bucks worth of free postage, a digital scale and a four week trial do not wait, go to stamps dot com and before you do anything else, click on the microphone at the top of the homepage and type in savage that stamps dot com enter SAV AGE. Hi, Dan Nancy and the tech savvy youth..

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

07:19 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"Sometimes when guys come on me, yeah, so I'm gonna get in my mouth so I'm gonna get in my eyes. I keep trying to ask my doctors a question and they keep interrupting me thinking I'm asking a different question. But the very specific question I'm asking is, if I'm not touching them, and they're not touching me, and the only thing that's happening is that they're coming on me and some of it gets in me. I know I'm at a slight risk for hepatitis. I know I'm at a slight risk for HIV, though I'm on prep. But am I at risk for the other diseases? Am I at risk for syphilis? Am I at risk for chlamydia, gonorrhea? Every time I try to ask this question, they interrupt me and say that if I'm sucking someone's cock, I might get those diseases. I'm not sucking their cocks. They're just coming on me. What's my risk for them? And I will follow-up question, I try to look this stuff up on the Internet, but I get very vague and sometimes shamey answers or all different answers. But how long after possible exposure to chlamydia gonorrhea syphilis? Do I need to be tested in order for the results of that test to be meaningful? I'm fluid bonded with my girlfriend. These are important safety questions. I'm not going to change my kinks. I like to do what I like to do. I'm kind of sick of the low level shaming as it comes from answering these questions. As if I shouldn't be fluid bonded, or as if I shouldn't have these kinks or that this shouldn't be both. Syphilis, gonorrhea chlamydia, all bacterial infections and easily googleable, all three, all three of those bacteria can be present in semen. So if you're getting semen in your mouth, keep getting semen shot into your eyes. There is a risk of transmission. You could get one or all of those infections if the person is coming in your eye or who's coming to your mouth. Has one or all of those infections. None of those infections are spontaneously generated when semen comes into contact with buttholes or mouths or eyes. It has to be there, the person blowing that load on you and maybe getting a little bit incidentally into you has to have chlamydia syphilis or gonorrhea to pass it along to you. But, yeah. Present in the semen. It's not all over the dick outside the deck. It's in bodily fluids, like semen, which makes the deck, you know, plunging in and out of you, shoving that semen up into your oropus as if you were having penetrative sex, the most efficient mode of transmission for all of those sexually transmitted infections, including, also HIV, but, yeah, there's a risk here. Early on in the aids crisis stage of the aids epidemic, one of the slogans, one of the safe sex slogans was on me not in me because somebody blowing the load on you was highly likely very unlikely. The chances that someone would transmit HIV to you, even if they had HIV by blowing a load on you, were so so small. Compared to the much more efficient mode of transmission that was somebody fucking your ass. So, yeah, I think what you're doing is really, really, really, really, really safe, but it's not without some risk. As for how long you got to wait between exposure if somebody blows load and hits you in the eyes and testing two weeks on the outside for symptoms to appear or for tests to show whether or not you were infected with a sexually transmitted disease, whether your symptomatic or not. So if you go to these sex parties a lot, you can come on a lot, your fluid bonded with your partner. There is some risk to you. There is some risk to your partner. You should be getting tested regularly if there is a moment where somebody was going to come on you and all that load went right into your eye or got in your mouth? Well, then you should probably stop having condomless sex with your fluid bonded partner for 5 days to two weeks, tasks, get the all clear, and then you can go back to condomless sex, with your fluid bonded partner. Hey, Dan, Nancy, and the tech savvy at risk youth. Bisexual cis male teenager calling from somewhere in Western Canada. My problem relates to delayed ejaculation. As long as I've been sexually active, I struggled with not really being able to reach orgasm from most forms of sex. I could be active and penetrative sex for hours on end and not reach orgasm or even really come close to it. I do get pleasure out of sex, and by no means does my usual inability to have an ejaculation ruined sex whatsoever for me. It would be nice to be able to finish with an ejaculation from penetration on my own end. I will add that I have been able to reliably ejaculate during sex before. But it's essentially for me jacking off for sometimes as long as ten or 15 minutes as my partner at the very least gives me affection. Is there many people with my problem who are able to overcome it? Is there any activity or exercise I should start doing to enable me to ejaculate from penetration? I wouldn't be opposed to trying ED medication, although from what I've heard, that can also further delay physical orgasm. What should I do, Dan? ED meds erectile dysfunction meds are prescribed to men who are having difficulty getting Iraq doesn't sound like you're having any difficulty getting an erection. And yeah, ET meds, sometimes help and get erections, but then make it a little bit more difficult for men to climax. So the last thing you want to add to the mix is an ED mad. I'm curious when you do masturbate when you're alone, how your masturbating. There's something we talked about a lot on the show. You're a teenager, perhaps a new listener. We've talked a lot about what I've called death grip syndrome. If you have a style when you masturbate, where you grip your deck with so much pressure and force the kind of pressure and force that a mouth and anus of vagina can't replicate, or if you masturbate, dry with a lot of I would find it very irritating friction, or if you hump a crusty pillow or as some men do hump a floor or put your penis between the mattress and box springs and hump that in order to masturbate, you could have been doing something that's called traumatic masturbatory syndrome, where you basically it's just fancy for your dick is just really accustomed to a certain kind of stimulation and shifting during partnered sex and you're young and I imagine you haven't been having partnered sex for that long. That ship that transitioned to partner in sex, where the sensations coming at your dick are very different than the cessations you've been providing your own dick for however many years you've been masturbating before partnered sex. That can be tricky. My advice is to vary your masturbatory routine, use a lighter touch, use lubricant..

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

01:32 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

04:42 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"And finally, Zack hemple tweets, come on, Dan savage the answer to the question, is the 69 position still a thing amongst couples is yes. Dan, how can you deny the ongoing existence of this very fun, though not always practical activity? Well, I think the poll was flawed, my only options were Yas 69 exists and no 69 does not exist obviously 69 exists people do it. I voted no, because people shouldn't, and most couples in my experience eventually don't. Even if two people did it when they first met 69 he really does tend to fall off the menu pretty quickly. Seems to me it's something people tend to do with strangers or near strangers when both parties are overwhelmed with lust and taking turns isn't practical because neither wants to wait their turn. The longer two people are together, the less frantic, the sex becomes, sex can still be good. It's just a different kind of good. And the less frantic sex becomes the less likely to people are to awkwardly and hail each other's junk at the exact same time. All right, if you want me to read your tweet on an upcoming episode of the savage love cast be sure to include the hashtag savage love cast. And now listener response calls. Hi, this is a comment on episode 7 82 for the experienced bisexual woman in a relationship with a man. I think it's a comment to both Dan and the caller. Dan, it felt really flippant of how you talked about the legitimate struggles of bisexual women in the dating pool. MF fellow bisexual woman living in a similarly lucky part of the West Coast is the color. And I have had many queer and lesbian women outright, tell me that they would never date me or have sex with me because I fuck men too. It is hard to date women as a buy woman, especially if you're inexperienced. And I think the caller needs to be realistic about the pushback that they're going to get from other queer women. Now that said, to the caller, there's a ton of blind women in the dating pool Dan is right, but it's also not a great experience for single by women to be your experiment while your boyfriend looms in the background making sure that you aren't too gay without him. If your boyfriend's concerns with your sexuality and the possibility of you all being open, which you would be if you're having sex with other people, you need to run away. You even saw that you need longer term intimacy and trust to be sexual with someone, which your boyfriend is outright ignoring because he doesn't like the thought of sharing you with someone else. You'll never get the validation of your sexuality that you want and need with someone like that. And quite frankly, it's a huge red flag to other women who will want to date and fuck you. So in my opinion, dump the motherfucker already. Hey, Dan, Paul and recent podcast about the guy whose partner blamed her lack of desire in his pot use. That sort of got me thinking that sort of maybe asking callers to clarify with pot uses an issue in the relationship that they should make it clear whether we're talking about smoking, whether we're talking about edibles, vaping, et cetera because like I myself, I don't partake, I've got no problem with pot. It's just not for me personally. I would not mind dating somebody who took edibles or possibly even vaped. But but pot smoke itself would be an absolute deal breaker for me. And I think that's actually a very relevant, very important detail. You know when someone talks about cigarettes, you know what they're, you know what, you know, the effects they're talking about. But if someone just says, you know, I use pot regularly, then I can't put wonder, okay, well, are you just doing gummies? Are you smoking up and somebody else living in the apartment has to smell that? I think it's a very relevant detail and I think it'd be nice if collars would specify when that comes up. Hi, Dan, Nancy and the Tex have yet rescued. This is the response to the woman in episode 7 82 who was wondering if she was being too judgy when she hesitated to go out with somebody who is only recently been vaccinated. I agree with everything you said about poor judgment, but I think you missed the part where she insisted she's in the Bay Area. Global vaccine distribution has not been equitable and still is not. Lots of people travel for work and for like me were stranded in countries where vaccines were not available until recently. I didn't get vaccinated until August of this year when I was finally able to go back to the United States. I live in a country where until very recently, the only vaccine available was Sino farm. I know a lot of people here who have reservations about signal crime that they wouldn't about a vaccine that is approved for distribution in the United States. So I think she should also ask him if there is some reason that he was in a country where it was not possible for him to get vaccinated until.

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

06:59 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"These dot com slash savage. That's me undies dot com slash savage. Hey, Dan, Nancy and the tech savvy at risk use. I'm here with a friend and we're watching a documentary on the Romans. They have an orgy, but we weren't sure how many people constitutes an orgy. My answer is a minimum of 5. Four to four, when you get past for an orgy, we ask Google, they don't know. We're not giving a specifics help us in. I wasn't where Google was using they them pronouns, good to know, going to file that away. I agree with you. I think you need 5 people at least to be an orgy. One, solo X two partnered X three four four 5 and up, yeah, that's an orgy. Officially, by my standards, I've heard from some people that don't regard a 5 way as an orgy they might call it a 5 way. Some people argue you need 6 or more and an odd number. So that people can't just pair off. You need 9, or you need 7, or you need a weapon, not good at math. I'm gonna toss out even number by accidents all stop. Yeah, some people feel differently and think vibe is too few. I think 5 is just enough. And of course, 5 is an odd number. Hey, Dan, 30 year old cis women who recently started dating a cis man. I have a terminology question. So when we're having sex, we really like, I'm trying to think of the right word, but just sliding his penis between my labia and it feels really good for the head of his dick. It feels really good for my clit. And I'd like to have a word for it because then I could say I wanted to do that or say it's hot. And both of us kind of laughed and got the only thing we'd ever heard was hot dogging, but then when I looked that up, that's apparently for butts. I know it's like a type of outer course, but that's really not specific. So I guess I'm wondering if you or any of your listeners have a word for that, that's hot and not icky. They call them buns, you put meat in it. It's a hot dog, hot dogging. This sliding the dick back and forth across the labia, straight up and down, bump in the clit, form of outer course. Excellent, I hear from people who practice this. Not hot dogging, lips aren't buns, lip service, I think lip service would be a perfectly adequate, acceptable term, he would know what you meant by that. But if anyone else out there has got a better idea, a better name for this sex act, give us a call, help this listener out. Hey, Dan. I'm a straight white guy. And I'm in a long-term committed relationship long-term like 20 years, part of that quite a while we've been married to a woman who's awesome, but we are kind of classic mismatched sexual desire. I would be happy with having sex and be once a week once every couple weeks even. She can go a year or more without being sexual. She just has other things on her mind. I don't think she doesn't like sex at all, but she just really doesn't have a lot of desire. And she feels pressured anytime I kind of ask for it or try to come on to her and a variety of ways. Butter sex toys and she doesn't have an interest in that kind of thing. So you've heard this before. I'm sure it's a great relationship. Otherwise, we're really well intertwined. We parent a dog together and communicate really well. I guess the interesting twist is she says, you know that my pot habit is what keeps her from being attracted to me. And that, you know, it's kind of like a balance of I want sex, and I don't get it, and she wants me to not be a stunner. And she doesn't get that. So we're in this like vicious cycle. I like bot. But I can go, you know, about a week. It seems like once a week or twice a week is about my happy place for keep my mental health. I don't use other drugs. The rest of my family is on antidepressants and I sometimes get a little dark without it. So man, I don't know, you know, maybe ten years ago, we had sex on and I think she didn't want me to get a high later that day, but I did. And she like took her hand like she would turn a key on her uterus and was like, that's it. I'm turning it off. And it kind of happened, you know, like, about two years ago, I quit for like a month and we did have sex that month once. It was great. And then but it's really hard for me to go that long without weed. So I know you like weed here and there. I don't have to be a total stoner. I keep my job. I try to manage my shit so I am a productive member of society and responsible most of the time. But I'd like to have a sex life and so I don't know, I'm wondering what your advice is. Like, quit weed for a while and see if she really would have a sexual desire without me being a donor or what? I don't know, discuss hoping the relationship once, and it didn't land well, so I don't think that's the solution for the time being anyway. And I really love this woman. We pretty good together. Otherwise, but man, I'm 50 and I don't want to think about the rest of my life without getting laid. I really like pussy, but I don't get to touch it, much at all. I'm glad you love this woman because I kind of fucking hater. I don't know her as well as you do, and I have a bias here. I'm a bit of a pothead myself. But I just don't believe her. I don't believe that the problem here is that you smoke pot and therefore she has no desire for you. She has a very low libido wants to have sex once or twice a year, maybe, and stupidly didn't prioritize sexual compatibility in her primary relationship just as you stupidly didn't prioritise sexual compatibility in your primary committed relationship. And rather than just take responsibility for that, rather than work out a reasonable accommodation that allows for you to have sex a little more often than she might like, and a reasonable combination might be go have sex with other people and just let's DA DT it I don't want to hear about it, but do what you need to do to say married and stay safe. That's a reasonable accommodation. Instead of being reasonable, she's being irrational and controlling and manipulative, and she's blaming you and your pot use for something that blame doesn't need to be assigned for. She has a low libido. But she's rationalizing that. Low libido, or trying to make it your fault. Rather than just accepting it as her.

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

01:33 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

01:57 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

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01:35 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

06:21 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"Committed relationship gets a call. Share your success story and we might start next week's love cast with it. Hi dan nancy and everyone. This is a thirty year old female bisexual from the north east calling with a sort of combo tech success story and question so i met a man in january sort of when i was had showed a lot of relationships during the pandemic and i felt ready for a partner in this man really compatible. Except i've had this really paulie non monogamous pass. He hasn't he hasn't had that much sexual exploration pretty scared that he couldn't really live up to my standards and like wasn't as interested in sexes. Me and had a ton of slow start in that way. And now he is like the kinky ass motherfucker. I've ever been with and we just bought tons of extra. I'm gonna just reflect all over the place and amazing. But i have parties. You know with my friends and it turns out. A lot of my friends are people i used to fuck. I mean in. Open times. And when i met them and then we sort of you know became friends instead and he can get very very very threatened by this and wonders if he can handle it and you know he seems really interested in pushing his boundaries than trying to grow in this way. He's afraid that he can't. But i guess. I talked to my therapist about this and she was like well. Maybe he should get a therapist to talk about that. Sort of abandonment and jealousy stuff therapists in the past and not necessarily about that and this relationship was wondering if you'd other advice In the circumstance is really opening up. And we're exploring together. And i have you know cuddly friendships with a lot of people who have been factual within the past and I wanna help us grow in this together. Positively the first part of your call the success story part reinforces my priors two kinds of people. You meet it. Kevin's play parties. The people who were kinky always people were tying themselves up when they were thirteen years old and the people who fell in love with those people and then being in love with that person having sexual experiences with that person growing with that prison awakened the kinks in them. As seems to be the case with your new and sounds like pretty great partner. The problem here is he has some standard issue off the rack. Lingering straight guy ish kind of jealousy issues. The fact that you've had sex partners in the past these people are still in your life and you enjoy them and your relationships with the mar- affectionate even tactile to a certain extent makes him jealous. And you say that you guys have been processing this my question for you the processing any progress on the process front when you have to process these feelings with him. Help him work through his jealousy. Is it getting shorter. Are the conversations. E developing a shorthand. He need a little bit of reassurance. It's become a base tag or has it escalated. Is he attempting to leverage jealousy to get all these people out of your by being inconsolable by being angry by being scary by being jealous is his jealousy and emotion that he's experiencing or is it something that he is weaponising to control you if it is the ladder if it continues to escalate and there's nothing in your call that makes you sound upset. Terrified afraid of him or under any sort of duress at all. So i doubt this is the case but if it continues to escalate it's getting worse and worse. Well then it's a tactic then. He's trying to manipulate you with his jealousy to get all of these people who mean something to you go are important to you out of your life people who pre date him in your life out of your life and yet it's escalating getting worse. He's gotta go but if it's not getting worse if it's getting better even by small increments you just having to pay my little bit more attention. G- reassure him but at some point he takes the yes for an answer that you're still going to be there. He is at this. Moment can make promises for the next seven decades but at this moment the most important person in your life and your priority be take those yeses for an answer if he can be reassured and his need for reassurance if the time that his jealousy consumes is shrinking. Well then you're on your way. He may get over. It could help him to speak with a shrink about this shit about why he feels threatened. You have these people in your life that you've had sexual connections within the past who you love and still feel for and why that's a good sign about you as a person and not a bad sign. Something needs to be threatened by. Even if your relationship doesn't last forever that means you could. He could potentially be one of those people in your life a decade from now. And wouldn't he want that if the relationship. God forbid should end. Yeah yeah i always thought it was a good sign when i was dating somebody. Who's exes still liked them enough to want to have them around. That meant if our relationship is only a success for a year or two. I'd get a friend out of it. Social connections out of it something to carry forward out of it maybe shrink can help him wrap his head around that but again if the processing you're doing is showing progress. You're in a good place if not if it's getting worse and worse if the processing is getting drawn out it's becoming a battlefield and you'll have to end it but i don't think that's the case. I think he would have mentioned that if that was the case. So i think you're on a good path here and this is going to work when it comes to therapy in psychiatry. Getting the help you need has never been so simple. When you're able to access your provider.

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02:37 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Blogging the Boys

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"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

Savage Lovecast

02:46 min | 1 year ago

"dan nancy k." Discussed on Savage Lovecast

"Code savage. Hi dan nancy and sorry. I have a single game and my thirties in a major city. And i have a sex worker at question for you for various reasons over the years. I have gone to get massages from certain men. Spas with the assumption of a happy thing started as a way to feel more comfortable with mountain body and then during covid safe for way to get some physical touch so i found masseuse who gives really good massages and has have been a repeat customer about once a month for the last six months last two times. I had gone one time on my back. He moved up encouraged me to give him a blow job while he did his thing. Since i'm fully vaccinated. I didn't resist at all now. I'm wondering if it would be appropriate to ask if he does out calls or seas clients outside of the spa is their best practices here. Include a note in my tip number since it's technically against the law here. I'm hesitant to just asking the rue. I wasn't sure there is an unspoken rule. I might be breaking and who else to ask but you stand if anyone was breaking the rules here. Spoken or unspoken. I think it might have been this body worker. This masseuse who asked if you wouldn't mind giving him a blowjob while you were on your body's shoved his dick down your throat. While he finished doing whatever it is he was being paid to do to you. Funny i mean. I'm kind of amused by your call. Because in a way you provided the masseuse with the happy ending when usually when it's body worker a sex worker. That goes the other way around usually. It's the body of provides the client with the happy ending. But you got to provide the masseuse with a happy ending. Not that there isn't something in giving a blow job to somebody that you're into his hot that you wanna blow dot certainly a happy ending beginning for many people second. Nick is awesome seems to me with him. Having crossed that line he opened the door. And you're not only free to walk through it in a way you've already walked through. You guys have had sexual contact during a session if you want to meet with him privately if you want to meet with him outside the spa that's something that he might be open to go ahead and ask feel free to ask when you consider the question he asked you. Would you blow him verses. The question you'd like to ask him. Do you see clients. Outside of the spa. His ass was a lot bigger than your ass. And i think his ask opens the door or the mouth to your ask so go ahead ask ask in the room or write it down next time you there handed to him with his tip with your phone number. I'm pretty sure you'll get an answer from him. One way or the other and my hunch is you're.

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