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Doug Welcomes Pete Hegseth to the Podcast
"It's my privilege to have Pete hex who is a good friend of mine. I got to know him over the years, so when I was time in Congress, working with him at Fox. And watching him just grow to be a very strong forceful voice for just American values, our military. He and our most share that military just, I'm 20 years in the air force. He's been military in his and he's wrote about that a great deal. But today we're going to get into not only a sort of both our backgrounds a little bit coming up through classical education and what that actually means, but also the attacks that have been coming up. And he has a new number one bestseller out on The New York Times Best Seller list, the battle for the American mind uprooting a century of miseducation. Pete, welcome to the Doug Collins podcast. Hey, congressman. Thanks for having me. I really appreciate it. We're glad. Before we get started into your book, sort of talk about, you know, how this evolved and you were talking offline about raising our kids and my kids are older years with younger. But you know, we both grew up in education and probably at the time we were going through it, didn't realize a lot of what you wrote about, but tell us about your background for those who might not be familiar with it. A 100% right. I mean, first of all, I consider myself a child of privilege because I had a mom and a dad and love me and a great community took me to church and taught me the basics. You know, that is the older you get, the more foundational you realize that is and you try to instill it in your kids, but I went to public school, played basketball played football, loved it. That's all I really cared about as a kid. It pretty much an apolitical household. I mean, they were conservative, but it wasn't, it wasn't something we talked about all the time. Yeah, went to college did ROTC went into the military, did a bunch of did a bunch, but a couple of deployments and got into vets work vets advocacy after coming home. And ultimately, that's where I ended up interacting a lot. The folks on Capitol Hill and realizing the challenges up there. And then stumbled my way into TV where I get a chance now to talk about the issues of the day with great folks like
School shooting suspect may testify at parents' trial
"The suspect in a deadly school shooting in Michigan may testify at his parents trial Ethan crumley is accused of killing four fellow students at Oxford high school James and Jennifer crumbley are charged with involuntary manslaughter for failing to reasonably care for their son Judge Cheryl Matthews says some text messages can be used at the trial I actually asked my dad to take me to the doctor yesterday but he just gave me some pills and told me to suck it out And quote my mom laughed when I told her unquote Shannon Smith is an attorney representing Jennifer crumley She says this is not about the charges against Ethan crumley He can answer questions that are not covered by the Fifth Amendment So we can call him as a witness Smith says calling the son to testify is not about the parents wanting to throw him under the bus or make him look bad It's about her clients defending the case I'm Ed
Andrew Giuliani invokes famous dad in bid for NY governor
"Rudy Giuliani gets slapped on the back at a Staten Island grocery store while campaigning for his son yesterday who's running for governor in New York now a worker there is facing charges Police are charging 39 year old Daniel gill with assault in surveillance video the ShopRite worker is seen passing Giuliani and giving him a smack on the back You did not knock me down But it hurt tremendously The former mayor says Gil then shouted at him and appeared to be upset about the Supreme Court ruling on abortion the tap wasn't hard enough to injure Giuliani but says he called police and asked to have the man arrested because this idea that you attacked people because it might in my case I'm pro life Someone answering the phone at a number related to Gil's address said no comment when asked about the incident Julie Walker New York
Mark Fleischman Plans to Die by Assisted Suicide
"I thought a lot about mock fleischman the other day because he's going to die soon. He's 80 years old. Actually he's going to die on July 13th. In Germany, but his wife of 27 years by his side. Some years after he stepped away from the insanity of owning nightclubs and restaurants, fleischmann understandably stepped away from the limelight that was the majority of his life. The last time I saw him was a little over two years ago. He invited me to a party that was throwing for the launch of his Studio 54 book. Is that some small joint in Beverly Hills? And the crowd was a mix of The Old Guard and the new. There was some New York City journalist dad too, namely my former nemesis at page 6, Richard Johnson. Fleischmann writing a book about Studio 54 was a good enough reason to get Johnson on a plane and out in LA to hang out. I said, the old man looks good. He said he sure does. Must been that good cocaine in the 80s and we both left. So smart fleshman came by and we posed for a picture. I wish I still have it somewhere. I got to find it. But he thanked both of us for helping keep the club and him and the column for years. It was a nice affair all in all, but I could tell this was one last gasp tomorrow. Like I said, I was closing in on 80. And so here we are. A couple three weeks away from July 13th. The day the music died from on fleischmann. And that's because several years ago, he became afflicted with a mysterious illness that would make him extremely dizzy at times. To his legs, sometimes flat out failing right beneath him. And over time, that illness could not be diagnosed by doctors and became worse and worse and more frightening by the day. As it is now Mark doesn't have any balance. He drops things and doesn't know where his body is in space. There was a time where a doctor is the very best doctor, by the way. Originally thought he had a form of Parkinson's, but it isn't that. Nobody knows what this is. He's suffering from. Once he heard that Mark knew what he had to do. One time he swallowed a bunch of Xanax, but doctors brought him back before he could overdose. When he was going to go buy a gun, his wife, Mimi, intercepted, and they had a long talk. Mark convinced her that he'd had a great life that he loves and now more than anything, but now what this mystery illness running his life, he said, it's time for me to say goodbye. Eventually, with his wife's support, they contacted a Swiss nonprofit group poll after multiple tests and psychiatric evaluations, it was obvious to see that Mark fleischman, a man who pumped so much life into New York City was now a candidate for assisted
A Brief History of the English-American Experiment With Bill Federer
"Being the Americans, we kind of go into the private property direction, right? Yeah, so England tried a 15 year American experiment called the English Commonwealth. So the King Charles the first got defeated and 16 40 or so and got his head chopped off. In the glorious revolution. This is prior to that, but that is a key revolution in 1688. But this was like 1649 to 1660. It's called the English Commonwealth. It was an American experiment of a Commonwealth of covenant. They had no king. Oliver Cromwell refused to take the title of the king, he called himself lord protector. He did an okay job. He dies, his son, Richard, can't keep it together. And so William Penn's dad, sales he's an admiral. Sales over to Europe puts Charles the second on the throne brings him back and re Institutes the monarchy. And in exchange he gets in a state in Ireland and then he's a famous admiral and then of course his son found Pennsylvania. But so they had an American experiment for 15 years, but they brought the king back. America, because of a 3000 mile ocean, because Europe was the chessboard in America was sort of an afterthought. I mean, we lost money. It wasn't like Spanish gold anywhere. It was a loser. And because of that, the king said, look, just don't cost me any money and stay out of my hair. And so for almost a century and a half, the Americans got to practice self government, like training wheels. And that's the dilemma. We go into these countries, we get rid of Saddam Hussein. We give them a constitution identical to ours almost. And then one election cycle they vote in Sharia law. And we scratch our heads thinking gee, why didn't our farmer government work? It's like duh, they have an Islamic soil that you planted the seed in, where an America you had a predominantly judeo Christian soil. The Berlin Wall comes down. Help them set up governments almost identical to ours. It gets taken over the bly that black market, the mafia, the organized crime, we scratch our heads, thinking, why didn't it turn out like America? Well, you planted the seed in an atheistic soil. They had 70 years of atheism, right? And so it worked in America. You have seed and soil or form of governments like a genetically engineered seed, but you plant seeds in soil and the soil is a predominantly judeo Christian populace. Right. So that's why it worked in
Ken Hartman: Educating Young People on the Constitution
"Well it is a great honor for me and my family And I want you to tell the American people about our community salutes Sure So you are right 14 years ago I recognized when I was serving on our local school board here in south Jersey and that's a whole nother nightmare story but in any case I recognize at that time that we were doing nothing to recognize now the kids were graduating from high school and who were in listing directly in the military I'm an old soldier myself but I was an officer So I held a dinner for all the kids in our community back then 14 years ago and now 14 years later we have our community ceremonies all over the country and not only do we recognize these young people who are enlisting in the military But we also educate them on the U.S. Constitution because they've taken a sacred as you we all know to protect and defend it So it's a twofer It is giving them and their moms and dads that recognition that they rightfully deserve After all only 23% of all high school seniors could even qualify to serve in the military these days And as you know and I know you've talked about it we have a we face a major national security crisis right now as our military is unable to list enough young people to sell us ranks So that's what we do We have ceremonies We educate them we celebrate them we educate them on the U.S. Constitution
Honest Reactions to Rising Gas Prices
"You see his Twitter account I was walking around the capitol and I had some kind Say to his son that guy swalwell He doesn't like Trump He's totally making this up That never actually happened I promise you He's totally completely making these stories up I don't make them up I go to the guest pump although and I watch people's reactions So a couple of days ago I'm at the pump business guy there There's a woman next to him two separate cars that right in front of me I'm watching them I don't know if it's his daughter or what they were talking like at misses daughter He's paying for both of them He looks at his thing He looks at the price on his thing He starts shaking his head He walks inside to pay the daughter yells to him like dad whatever 76 70 and a father's like David man I was like this is unbelievable This is affecting everybody to gas
James Ackerman: Angel Tree Campaign Is a Year-Long Initiative
"Because every campaign that we've done, this audience has donated well over $200,000 to send Christmas gifts and the gospel and a message from their mom or dad. In fact, if you don't mind, take just a few seconds, James to walk through the angel tree campaign because hey, before you know it, we're going to be at Christmas time. We are. And the angel tree is really a year round initiative. So right now, as we speak, we are working with chaplains to distribute angel three applications in prisons all over the country. We distribute to just over 1300 state federal prisons and high profile jails. And encourage moms and dads in prison to sign up with their children for angel three. We then take those applications towards the end of summer, process them, and then distribute those kids to churches all over the country. 5 to 7000 churches a year participate in angel tree. And in any given year, we have 250,000 to 300,000 children signed up to be served at angel tree Christmas. So it's happening right now. The parents are signing up their kids. All right, I'm going to put everybody into a holiday spirit because it may be June 23rd, but Christmas time will be here before you know it. And I get very excited at the idea of our audience delivering these Christmas presents and the gospel to these
Our Prison Fellowship Partnership Has Been a Huge Success
"Years ago, my wife said, why don't you not just jaw bone about issues on the air? I know you're a big mouth on the radio, but why don't you put your radio show and the heft of your audience to use? Why don't you do something for people? And we began sort of a philanthropic side to this show. And I can tell you that prison fellowship is one of the happiest, most joyful things we've ever done. The prison fellowship ministry is extraordinary, okay? And it is a ministry. I have been to summer camps, I have met children who are the children of incarcerated Americans, I have visited with many of the beautiful people who comprise the prison fellowship team and of course I've been telling you all month about the prison fellowship academy, which is changing hearts and minds within the prison walls. At Christmas time, you know, I get such a kick out of knowing that this audience is going to step up and participate in our angel tree campaign, which delivers Christmas gifts and the gospel to the children of prisoners, and the beauty of it is that children understand that these gifts are coming from their mom or dad in prison, as you've, but you're really the magic behind that. You're the impetus and we thought it would be successful when we first started partnering with prison fellowship a couple of years ago. It has exceeded our wildest
Rand Paul: Inflation Costs Are Outpacing Stimulus Checks
"But you know what what if I strange about this Is your man of science or a doctor But I've been following you and your father for a long time and you've been talking about these things forever that if you're going to have Fiat money not bedrock and anything other than the faith and credit of a government that is no intention of keeping a stable money supply that eventually you're going to get inflation You've only been talking about this for 20 years I don't know as long as I've been in politics I've heard you wouldn't even hear dad mentioning it Now you've been proved prescient right correct And again it seems to be like the data is always on our side Yet we mysteriously continue to lose this debate and I think it's intermediary we call the media here That just keeps telling people that no no if we try it this time it'll definitely work I don't know if we're losing the debate because I think the winds are behind us coming to November and in November people are going to attach blame to the rising gas prices and grocery spices They're going to attach blame to the lack of formula on the shelves the bare shelves for other supplies as well And I think the blame is going squarely on the shoulders of Democrats and Biden So I think people are smarter the media hasn't got it in the media is promoting fairytales like green causes inflation But I think we just keep hammering back I mean one of the indications of inflation is a measure of the money supply called the M two It's gone up 15% annualized over the last three years and last January it was going up at a 27% annualized rate So when you increase the money supply basically to pay or buy the debt that we have incurred by spending too much that's what inflation is And so it's an expansion of the money supply And I think people get that Even the people who received the $1400 checks kind of say to themselves well I know this really can't be free There's got to be this is kind of some kind of scam right I'm not going to have to pay somehow Well that's what's happening now The inflation tax is to pay for the free checks that went out And in the end some people are paying much more for gas now than they ever received in the stimulus
Civil jury finds Bill Cosby sexually abused teenager in 1975
"There's a verdict in the Bill Cosby sexual assault lawsuit near Los Angeles a civil jury in Santa Monica California has found that Bill Cosby did sexually abuse a 16 year old girl at the Playboy mansion in 1975 the Los Angeles County jury delivered the verdict in favor of Judy huff who is now 64 and awarded her half a $1 million Juris found that Cosby intentionally caused harmful sexual contact with huff that he reasonably believed that she was under 18 and that his conduct was driven by unnatural or abnormal sexual interest in a minor It is a major defeat for the 84 year old entertainer who was once held as America's dad It comes nearly a year after
Wife Is Sandscript for Flaw Finder
"You said to me once, wife is Sanskrit for flaw finder. Right. I went home. I totally believed you, because all the time you're telling me I was just reading genesis, your Torah commentary, and the verb Barra in the first baraja. Barah forgive me. And it means create. Correct. And so my point is you're constantly telling me about the origins of words and so I go, oh my gosh, wife is Sanskrit for flaw finder that's hilarious. And I go home that day and I tell my dad, hey, you know, he goes, that was your day with Dennis and I go, hey, did you know that wife is Sanskrit for a flaw finder? And he just cracks up. Oh, he did. And then I realized I love her. I am a fool. I totally thought you were not a fool. So I want you to build a tad gullible.
Santander homers, points to dad in the stands, O's edge Rays
"Anthony Santander blasted a first stinting home run onto Baltimore's Utah street Cedric Mullins followed up with an RBI double in the third and that proved enough for the Orioles as they beat the Tampa Bay Rays two to one They had to do it without their scheduled starter Jordan lyles scratched with a stomach virus forcing manager Brandon Hyde into a bullpen game The Oz used 7 pitchers Austin both the recent waiver claim from the nationals started throwing two and two thirds scoreless innings with four strikeouts Picked up the win and Jorge Lopez earned his 11th save I'm Ben
If You Want to Be Better, Fight for It
"Politics may be out of control, things may seem that they're going in the wrong direction. However, God is still in control, so no matter what it is, you can rest assure that it's going to be all right. God got this taken care of. There's a lot of things that we can use in this moment. To learn from, to grow from a lot of adversity that may come your way, it's happening to you so that you can become a better person on the other side. This is my pitch to everybody that is listening that if you want to become better and the difference between you and the person next to you that may become better is that if you take this as an opportunity and you come out on the other side victorious and you fight and you weather the storm, things will go well for you. If you do not and you sit around and make excuses and you have this idea of what was me, you're gonna come out on the other side and be hurting. I said this very same thing in 2020. And it was the young man that I listened to, there was a Christian. I think his name is Marcus Rogers. He said, dad, God gave him a message. That, in 2020, it's going to be a reckoning for some people. If you persevere if you hold true to the values you fight through it, you're going to come out on the other side and be victorious and there's going to be others that do not.
Donald Trump Jr.: Red Flag Laws Are a Disaster
"The same government that spied on your dad that suppressed or had a role in suppressing through intelligence officials the Hunter Biden laptop story You want to trust them with the ability to circumvent due process and take away people's right to defend themselves I mean I could not think of a worse idea than this and the fact that some Republicans are playing along It's just embarrassing Yeah no it's absolutely disgusting I mean think about it I mean not just those agencies right The same people who said a concerned mother who asked about the indoctrination of their children and public schools was labeled a domestic terrorist by the FBI and by the DoJ dance imagine letting every Karen that for the last 5 years has been wearing 15 masks while driving in a car by themselves Imagine giving her the power to call any law enforcement because their neighbor happens to take their kid duck hunting You know I'm a big outdoorsman but I'm also a big shooter I was a competitive shooter and pretty well ranked and this is a disaster The law enforcement officers would have no choice but to investigate There'd be no way for people to defend themselves The people who live in the more poorer areas who probably have higher crime rates around them who actually would probably need to have the ability to protect themselves more They're the people that wouldn't even be able to fight at the total lack of due process it would be spending tens of thousands of dollars to simply get their shotgun back Just imagine that though every Karen we've seen in America and a man there was a lot more of them than I ever would have thought Could call law enforcement I don't like my neighbor He posted something a little bit off You better investigate him for mental stability Imagine Amber Heard could weaponize red flag laws against Johnny Depp Maybe that's the most sort of recent current example
MyPillow Products Are Perfect for Father's Day
"But in the meantime, as we kick things off, it's a Friday, June the 17th. First of all, let me thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the love you gave Mike lindell and my pillow yesterday with purchasing my pillow products after the news broke that Walmart has canceled my pillow. It's going to be a tough, tough blow for the my pillow family. Walmart is woke like Disney like AmEx, like Major League Baseball, like all of these corporations, job creators network is fighting back. They got a big billboard, a new billboard on Times Square, go woke and go broke. They're fighting back against these woke politically correct cowardly corporations, but I said to you, if you go to my pillow dot com and click on the mic Gallagher radio specials box and click the promo and enter the promo code Mike G and you'll save a bunch of money on the slippers in the bathrobes and the doggy beds and the pillows. You're going to be supporting my pillow at a time when they really need it. A lot of people I met last night here in South Carolina told me they did just that yesterday. I saw the sales numbers tens and tens of thousands of dollars of orders. Let's keep it going, please. Go to my pillow dot com. Let's show Mike lindell and my pillow. How much we support them and love them. And we don't give a rat's rear end what Walmart does. Shame on Walmart for caving, shame on the politically correct crowd being afraid of the woke Twitter mob. So support my pillow. Be a great time. And here's a great Father's Day gift. I know Father's Day is this weekend. You won't get the slippers in time. Dad's gonna love these slippers. Dad's gonna love the bathrobe. Dad's gonna love the loungewear. Here's what you do. Or order the slippers or one of the great MyPillow products for dad for Father's Day, and then print it out on your printer. Print out the sheet from your confirmation form, put that in a box, give it to dad for Father's Day and then he'll get the slippers very
Another Immigrant Caravan Crisis Heads North
"There's another caravan heading to the United States. It started off in southern Mexico, many of them which coming from Venezuela. The other Central American countries are coming up. So timing is supposedly to get here for that summit of Americas in the United States, but they're coming into the United States. They don't want to be held back. They want to get in. And the number is ranging from 6000 to 15,000. This is a crisis that nobody's talking about. And it's sort of the hidden crisis because it's not just folks who are coming across the border who are families who are just trying to feed their families. They're not just moms and kids and dads who are just trying to find a better life. In the mix of all of these that are coming across is folks who are not coming here for purposeful means. They're not coming here to find a job. They're not going to get their lives better than not coming here to do anything except Carl's trouble.
Fox News Joins the FemiNazis With Morgan Zegers
"Let's play this shocking clip. This was sent to me by a Salem colleague on Friday. I have nothing else to say except fox is gone. Rylan whittington, whose journey of transitioning at age 5 has been seen by 7 million people in a family YouTube video. Brian Yanis has the story about that family that hopes they're experienced can help others. Watch here. If you saw me walking down the street, you wouldn't think anything different. 14 year old rylan winnington is a typical Southern California teenager. And the whittington's along with mom, Hillary, dad, Jeff, and sister brinley, are a typical family. The only difference, though, in rylan's eyes, is what this family can mean to the tens of thousands of kids under 18 who identify as transgender. We put our story out there, so people can see that there's another family out there that is going through what we're going through or there's another family who's proud of who they are. Before rylan could even speak, he managed to tell his parents that he is a boy. I could just see it. It wasn't true to be a brat. It was like painful. It was truly painful for him to have to wear feminine clothing and for us constantly telling him that you're a girl. So that's faulks, the erstwhile conservative cable giant that for Pride Month is celebrating a girl being mutilated and turning into a pretend boy. You can react, however, you wish to that Morgan, I would just say that I believe and have done for some time, perhaps this is the most important issue we have that will help wake up America to what is happening. I would agree. The left is taking this to our children and it's crossing the line. It's interesting I spoke at Colorado school of mines a couple months ago and I showed up to speak about history because I love history and this is my work. And there were 40 students outside, protesting me for being transphobic. That's not bad. 40. I was like, oh, they're here for me. And they had these posters saying that someone was there who was against human rights. And they had clips of me that they were referencing just talking about protecting women's sports and objectivity, basic truth and science. And so after that, what I found, what was most disappointing is there were some boys there in the crowd. And they came up to me after because I had addressed the protesters and they had said something along the lines of, I just don't know why you care about this so much. It's just women's sports. It's just a woman's bathroom. It's just whoever how they want to identify. And to me, it's everything.
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"dad" Discussed on Dad Tired
"With i do. I wanted nothing to do with the church. Like i said. But i didn't want anything to do with with this particular church Lower casey this this particular place and There have been all kinds of events that have been happening this year. Some restoration some some hard things. Some things have come to light this year that had been buried for a long time That's all been happening in my personal life behind the scenes. I haven't mentioned any of this on the podcast. I tell you all of this because this week somebody from that particular church reached out and asked if they could meet with me. They actually asked months ago. And i said no Because i didn't want to be part of it. I still didn't feel like that part of my heart was completely healed. And i wasn't ready to do that. And they reached out again and they said Not really. i'm not gonna let this go. I really wanna meet face to face and Here's the thing this this is. Why i'm telling you all of this as a man as a dad as as a disciple. Of jesus i am trying my best to figure out what it looks like to follow jesus specialty when god calls us to hard things. Do to be honest man. It's easy to sit in front of this computer and to record a podcast episode. It's easy to write a. It's not really. It's actually really hard to do that. But you know what i mean. It's like it's way easier to do these things to talk about. The things of god to actually live out the things of god and i don't wanna be a hypocrite. I feel all the time. Like i'm how in the world do i have any kind of right to tell you guys anything about god when i personally feel like. I'm struggling all the time with my own journey and following jesus and i just want to every time. I'm challenged with the situation to step outside of my comfort zone. I want to run toward it. Because that's what jesus followers do. We moved hoard heart things. We don't run away from hard things. This is what jesus meant when he said. Take the narrow road. Many will choose the wide path. But it's hard to follow me and very few people will choose to do it. This is why the road is narrow for all kinds of reasons. It's hard to follow. Jesus but this particular week was one of those moments rioted. Decide if i want to actually be a follower of jesus it will mean me doing what jesus told me to do and it will probably be really really hard Before we move on. Before i get kind of the main point that i want to make i want you to stop for a second. I wanted to ask yourself. What hard thing are you call to step into right now. Is there something hard that you're running from as something hard that you're avoiding. Is there something you feel like. You need to step into but just makes you a little bit uncomfortable because the truth is dude a good leader as not somebody who is never scared. A good leader is someone who runs towards the things that they're scared of. The reality is when it comes to spiritual leadership. It's really really hard to train your children and qualities that you don't currently possess If you think back with me to deuteronomy six you've probably heard this passage human. Maybe you're not familiar with the scriptures. That's okay But there's this passage that's used oftentimes when we're talking about you. You'll hear this a lot in parenting conferences. Or when we're talking about parenting. I even wrote about this In my book and when we're talking about parenting but listen to this verse. In deuteronomy verse. One says this these are the commands decrees and laws the lord. Your god directed me to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the jordan to possess so that you your children and their children after them may fear the lord. Your god as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that i give you and so that you may enjoy long life here israel and be careful to obey so that it make a well with you and that you may increase greatly and land flowing with milk and honey just as the lord the god of your ancestors promised you and then listen to what he says is very famous verse. Hero israel the lord our god the lord is one love the lord your god with all of your heart and with all of your soul and with all of your strength these commands. I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road you lie down and when you get up tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses in on your gates. God is saying the writer of genesis. Here of deuteronomy is saying listen. Love god with everything you've got and then teach your kids about god every opportunity you get but listen. Did you catch that first part before. God wants you to teach your children about him and talk to them about him. He first commands that. You love the lord with all your heart all your soul in all your strength bro. Listen this may be the most important parenting advice you hear all week the prerequisite for teaching your kids about jesus is first that you are in love with god yourself. It's really hard to pass on something that you don't have and so if i want to be a dad who teaches my children how to forgive than i must be a dad who's willing to forgive and then that is way easier to say on a podcast and an empty room with this microphone into computer in front of me. It's way easier to tell you when you don't know about my personal life and i can just kind of go do whatever i want and just tell you that you should forgive. It's way harder to sit across the table from somebody somebody that has potentially hurt you deeply to look them in the eye and to genuinely forgive them. That's way harder man. It's hard to pass on something that you don't have in so this week as i thought about manual. Want to be the kind of man that god is calling me to be. Do i want to be kinda dad. That i want my kids to be one day then. I personally have to step in to some hard things. It's hard to tell your kids to love. Jesus when you don't really love. Jesus it's hard to tell your kids to obey when you aren't obeying your heavenly father. It's hard to tell your kids to forgive when your holding onto hate. It's really hard to tell your kids to remain pure when you're looking at porn. It's hard to tell your kids to be patient when you're constantly losing your temper. If all of these sound hard to you maybe even impossible. I don't worry. I have good news for. You're in good company. Jesus wants taught a lesson to his friends about how hard it is for. Rich man to enter the kingdom of god. His disciples heard that teaching and they thought the same thing. You're probably thinking right now. What in the world like who can do it. Then who's going to be able to go to heaven if it's hard for this guy who's going to be able to do this. And jesus looked back and he said this with people it is impossible but now with god for all things are possible with god. Here's the truth man. You can be the man. God is calling you to be for your kids but it's not gonna be because you tried harder. It will be by the grace of god and his spirit working in and through you. I want you to stop. Whatever you're doing right now. Man i want you to pray just pause for a second and just pray this with me. God i want to be the man that you're calling me to be but i cannot do it by myself. I can't do it in my own strength. i need you god to be. the dad. threw me that you would be to my kids. I need you god to be the husband to my wife that you would be to her through me. God do things in and threw me that are bigger than myself. Give me the courage to step into hard things. I desperately need you got him. May we be men who don't just teach our children about forgiveness. Would we be men who have a reputation of radical grace. May we be men who don't just teach our kids not to lie. Would we be perpetual truth tellers. We not just be men who tell our kids not to look at inappropriate things. Would we be men of integrity. We be men who are beat up and running out and wore out for the sake of the gospel at the end of our lives but men who pass on a baton that we actually carried ourselves. Not just one that we read about. If you want your kids to be in love with jesus you. I must be in love with. Jesus you want your kids to forgive than you must forgive you. Want your kids to be pure than you have to chase after purity when your kids to be truth tellers than be a truth teller. This is what spiritual leadership looks like. It means that we actually live out what we believe. And that kind of experience builds deep character within us that we share wisdom. Not from a book but from something that we've lived out..
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"Hey guys welcome back to the dads hired. Podcast it's good to be with you. we're going to dive right in here man. I don't have any ads for today. I don't have any introductions on nothing really to talk to you about other the family leadership program which i'm always stoked about if you wanna come join us over there That'd be great. You can do that by going to data dot com slash lead with love to have you but we'll just dive right in dude To be totally honest with you man. It was kind of an emotional week for me A little bit of a heavy week. If you've been listening to the data podcast for a while. You've probably heard me allude to the fact that dad tired really started out of a really painful season in my own journey Just personally and i have purposely. Never really shared details about that. Didn't really feel like they were relevant or necessary especially for you. I know that you turn on this podcast to try to figure out what it looks like for you to be the best husband and father and disciple that you can be and so you're not always interested in my own personal story which i i totally get man I totally understand that But i want to share a little bit about why this week was heavy for me And then kinda give context How dat tired started. And i'm only doing that really to context of kind of the bigger thing that got us late on my heart for you this week So if you bear with me as i share some details from the past. I think it'll be helpful for you Just context wise as we jump into what it looks like for you as a dad to leave your family well Six years ago. I had been a part of a church For a long time. I i been church world ministry for thirteen years and then i was asked by a good friend of mine He said hey. Jared if you ever want to come be part of some church planting i'd love for you to come join me In in planting some churches. Which i have a very entrepreneurial spirit i think that's how god wired me and so i was excited about the opportunity. We had been friends for years and but we had never worked together and so i was excited to move on It it was hard for me to leave the church that i was currently acts as a wonderful church. Many of the top. If you've heard me say hey my mentor or mental once told me or any tummy the word mentor on the likely talking about some of the guys from that previous church Who were just deeply impactful in my personal journey with jesus man. They were just so so intentional. About pouring into me as a young pastor and so i left that church. Which was hard. But i was excited about the new things that we're gonna come In in the future with church planting. And so i step out of my role at the previous church and moved into this new role with my friend to plant churches. I was there less than a year and a new pretty quickly that this was not a good fit for me personally and how and it wasn't going to be a good fit for me and Pretty quickly me. And this person and i'm purposely being confidential here for the sake of it. It's the details. Really aren't the point of what i'm trying to get at here But i but i m trying to paint a good picture for me and this person We started to butt heads and We started to see things differently. And it came down to A final conversation where. I was blindsided by things that this person said and I've heard people talk about this in in the past been in the church world for thirteen years at heard a lot of people say that they had been hurt by the church and That that maybe somebody in leadership at hurt them and my experience in the church was good. And and i had met many wonderful leaders servants humble men and women who were giving their lives for the sake of the gospel and the glory of jesus and that was my experience and so when i heard people say that they'd been hurt by the church. My kind of default subconscious thought was always probably you. You're you're probably the one that did something wrong here because the church leaders. I've never been awesome well on this particular day After months of kind of friction. I sat down with this person. A friend and And my boss at the time and i was blindsided by what they said to me It was the most without a doubt the most hurtful words i've ever heard somebody say to me Deeply attacking my character who i am as a person My worth my value and just for context sake. I heard things about how i am not fit for ministry I'm not. I don't have a future in ministry not very good at this whole thing I mean it in these are giving you that the g. and pg version of how that day went And to honest man it was just. You can't under like. I can't overemphasize how hurtful that day was. I left and shock. And i left in pain that sent me that. That moment really sent my life into a tailspin. i came home. My wife asked me how that day went. I said that i had got fired. And these really hurtful things were said to me. I was blindsided completely and she laughed because she thought i was joking. I'd been ministry thirteen years at always had been going great so it. It was truly seemed unbelievable and And she laughs. Serious like today was terrible. And here's what happened. And that day started a season in our marriage that was by far the worst season that we've ever experienced deeply painful. I wrestled with identity. I moved into a deep season of depression. I pulled away from my wife. I pulled away from my kids. I hated the church. I hated being around anything. Christian or in god's ministry a hated all of it. And i had vowed i never want to be part of any of this ever again. I vowed i'm going to be in business. I'm gonna go do business stuff. And i will make my life outside of church because this is messed up and i never wanted to be part of that any of that ever again and and in the middle of all that i did not know if our marriage would continue in fact there were times where i thought for sure we were going to end in a divorce and there was one day in particular where Layla and i've shared the story in books and things before. But i wanted to give you some more context here. there was one day when layla we were in the middle of a fight and she was staring at me as i was saying really hurtful things to her and she started tears in her eyes. And she said jared. I just want you to know that. Every morning i get up at two in the morning and go into the living room and i pray that god would capture your heart again and that was a slap in the face to me man that was the holy spirit had used that moment had used her faithful prayers to start to turn my heart back to his to start to soften my heart toward all the walls ahead been built up and And and that was really the start of tired. Not that i was trying to start any kind of ministry but i just happen to write on my facebook page I wrote a little blog. That basically said that story. I told him i in this blog. I talked about how layla praying for me. about how i didn't wanna be the man that i had been the last several months i was depressed and that ended up me one. I ended up in counseling leyland. I went to counseling together. I started to find some healing. That blog ended up getting going viral. And you nothing about blogs or podcasts. Or anything like that. And i'll spare you all the details here man because i'm rambling a little bit. But that is how dad tired started. More and more people started to be interested in the idea that men could be broken and still want to follow jesus in lead their family. Well and so. I was just processing in the middle of all my heart..
"dad" Discussed on Dad Tired
"To be about six and a half feet tall. Just this big man and he comes up to me and walks up to me and he puts his hand out for me to shake. It and i was super intimidated so just stared at the floor while i she usually put my hand in his and he immediately said nope. That won't work. Give me a good handshake. A squeezed a little tighter. And then he said now looking in the eye tell me your name and so i looked up and i remember hugest so big giant guide of so timid. I remember telling you my name. Why squeezed his hand and he wasn't being mean or like overly aggressive us just trying to teach me the kinds of things at confident. Men do that. That man has named steve. He actually went on to me my first job. He spent years of his life really investing into me. He had his own sons and he was doing his own thing but he really brought me in and taught me a lot of things. And i sat there thinking about steve. A bunch of other guys started to come to mind like my youth pastor kayla. Who taught me with a real apology. Sounds like Or my friend. Michael's dad who taught me not only how to play drums to serve in church to like show up on time to not be the star of the show to listen more than i speak or randomly make noise or i thought about my boss. Bill who taught me how to negotiate with kindness and firmness at the same time or had this mentor. Monty who tell me what it looks like to say. Hard things in love. That was so foreign to me. I'd never experienced that as a kid. Especially from a man discipline always felt like somebody didn't love me and he really showed me that discipline and love. They aren't two separate things but they're actually one in the same and all these men that really liked took me in. I was taken back honestly man. I had this flood of memories in this at the same time this flood of like emotions. Because i thought to myself man. I am who. I am today because of these men. I wouldn't be the guy i am today. I wouldn't be the kind of father i am. The husband the disciple or leader. That i am if these guys didn't bring me into their fold. They all had their own kids. They were all doing their own thing. Had their own jobs had their own. Like you know problems that they're figuring out in their own marriages all that stuff that they're they're working on in their own lives in yet in some way. They sacrificed to bring me into their lives and to teach me what it looked like to be a man. I didn't have a dad growing up. And they brought me in to teach me these things. And i was as i was thinking about them and i was like really brought back to these motions because honestly i say frankly i suck at this kind of thing reflecting i suck at reflecting like i'm not good looking back at like taking the time to pause and to reflect back on my life my childhood i think some of that has to do with my god given wiring just to be a dreamer and You know wanna look forward to exciting things that lie ahead but also i don't like looking back because i know that there's part of me that behind me as pain. I think there's a part of me that knows when i look back. I'm gonna find pain. I'm gonna find i'm gonna find insecurity and so it's just easier for me to look forward but there was power from me and looking back even healing honestly. It was humbling for me to recognize that these men went out of their way to pour into my life. And some way you know. i'm. I'm not sure dude like the kind of personality you are How wired you but highly encourage you to stop for a minute and to think about the guys that have poured into you for a lot of you. I know that it was your dad. Like you guys had your dad's around and he was the driving influence her in your life as a man. He was the one that helped shape you to become a man but i know they're also a lot of you guys who are like me didn't have data around or maybe your dad was around physically. But he just. He wasn't that like a role. He was intentionally shaping you to be a godly man and so when you think about your own life your own childhood when you think about these guys who helped shape you like who comes to mind even right now as i'm talking. Is there a particular guy that sticks out to you in your head because the truth is even if your dad was around and he was engaged in your childhood it's still takes a village to raise a child and so who was in your village. I who what what guy brought you into his circle in some way to help shape you who who would you look back on and say i am the man i am today. Because this guy or these guys really pour into me. I was reading romans this week in some struck me in a way that it had before. It's crazy man. How you can like read the bible multiple times or the same verse multiple times but somehow when you read it again you feel like you're reading it for the first time. This happened to me. I was reading this verse. Romans and just hit different. Listen to what. This verse says in romans. Nine twenty two. What if god although choosing to show his wrath and make his power known bore with great patients the objects of his wrath prepared for destruction. What if he did this to make the riches of his glory known to the objects of his mercy whom he prepared in advance for glory even us whom he also called not only from the jews but also from the gentiles as he says in hosea. I will call them. My people who are not my people. I will call her my beloved. Who is not michael of it and in the very place where i said to them. You are not my people there. They will be called dron of the living. God do this is incredible this him he had. I've read this verse one hundred times in this. Hit me so different this week. I don't know if you caught that man. But the writer of romans as essentially saying this god is showing off his glory and his mercy not only to his chosen people his children the jews but also to us the gentiles us a random guys who aren't part of the quote unquote holy lineage. Have been brought into the fold of got expanded. the circle to include people who should have never been included. He expanded his circle to include you and me. To put it more bluntly the reason you in high are even here. Today as followers of jesus is because god made a tremendous sacrifice to bring you into his family. He expanded his circle to include. You do that is really really good. News and here's the thing. It isn't just good news. That god brought you into a circle and he called you his son but it's also that he's helping you grow as a mature followers him. Want you to ask yourself this right now. As a son of god who's been brought into the family of god are you growing in spiritual maturity. And i know dude i know that's a tough question to answer honestly like if if somebody asked me that question right now. I'm i don't even know if i'd know how to answer that. But try to over complicate it. Think about spiritual maturity in the same way that you would think about your children growing immature when you. I have kids your just excited. That they're part of the family. You're not like when you're we're about to have a newborn next month You know this will be our fourth child when when this baby comes in she's gonna be up all night. She's gonna cry for two hours because she wants to. Eat to have to change your diaper. I'm not mad at any of that. I'm not getting mad at her. Because she's waking up in the middle not you expect that she's a baby. She knows nothing. She's brand new into the world and we're just happy she's here. We're just happy to have a part of the family. We rejoice we have so much joy because she just part of our family doesn't matter like that she doesn't know anything doesn't matter that she's going to poop and pee her diaper and she's going to wake up in the middle of night shows and know how to sleep through the night shows know how to eat properly how to do any of this stuff. It doesn't matter we're just happy. She's here but eventually two years from now five years from now ten years from now if she's pooping and peter pants waking up every two hours. We've got a problem right. Like we want her. To mature one her grow and maturity eventually she will grow through the season She'll she'll get to the point in her life where she learned how to use the restroom when she learns how to eat on her own she to have manners and then she'll go through this like she'll go through this season. All your kids do this where they're very selfish. They're trying to figure out who they are and dude. That's okay sometimes. My son wants to be a soccer professional soccer player. And then yesterday he wanted to be a professional rapper and then a firefighter in the my daughter wants to be an artist today and maybe cut hair tomorrow and a babysitter. The next day like they're they're figuring out who they are in two. That's okay. I don't we don't get mad at them. Like oh you better figure out your life. You better figure out who you are what you wanted to know. It's okay for them to learn to explore to like figure out. Who has god created me to be what are the personalities and characteristics and unique things that god has given me that. Make me me. it's okay to look internally but listen in five years from now ten years from now twenty years from now. i don't want them asking those questions. I want them to start to expand their thinking and start to realize okay. The world is not just about them but they're part of something bigger. They're part of a bigger family. They're part of the bigger story. And so we want our kids to grow immaturity eventually there to the spot as young adults and that when they hit their late teens and twenties hopefully by that time they realize. Okay god is now using me to be part of something much bigger than myself. And they begin to serve and to give sacrificial they know who they are. They've learned they're not ignorant anymore. They're not selfish anymore. They're starting to use the knowledge that they have to recognize that they're part of a much bigger story and they serve in ways that are beyond themselves right. This is what all of us are hoping for our kids. This is the same thing and spiritual maturity man. If you just think through maturity for your kids think through the same thing and spiritual maturity when you first come to know jesus when you make a decision and god brings you in and you say. I'm following cry. Believe jesus is god as hard as that is. It's like crazy as it sounds. Is that you know. I've got so many questions in my head. I'm i believe. Jesus is god. I believe he is who he says he was. When you make that decision do it's there's so much we're just happy to have you here. We're just happy that you've made that choice that you're part of the family that god's brought u. n. Nobody's getting mad at you. You don't know all the lingo and you don't have bible verses memorize who cares. Just we're stoke that you're here man. We're still that you've made that decision. Don't feel guilty about that eventually. You'll go through really st- selfish stage in your spiritual maturity okay. That's totally okay man. You're going to be asking yourself like you know. What does it look like for me to pray. And what kind of church do. I like to go to an kind of bible. Should i get and you're just you're like learning it's all about you. I think i like this kind of music. And i i like this kind of teaching and I like this version of the bible. Like all that. That's okay that's totally okay. But eventually what it looks like to grow and spiritual maturity as you'll start to recognize. God didn't just save you. It's not that. I christians and non christians and that's it like now that you're christian you just wait till you die no goddess growing you up and spiritual maturity and so as you grow you become more you have more knowledge of what it looks to be a follower of jesus you kind of move past the selfish stage. Which again that selfish stage is okay a little bit but as you move past that and you start to recognize oh man i got his redeeming the whole world. He's doing something way bigger. This story is bigger than just me. My personal relationship with god and my own little family like god is using me or wants to use me for something much much bigger and this is when you know that you're starting to mature in christ that god is now using you for something. Bigger you're having is that are beyond yourself. So where am i going with all this now. The like talking on. It seems maybe like. I've been going all over the place i mean. Just get straight to the point. The reason you and i are here today is because god expanded his family to include you. That's what that verse was saying. You are not my people and now your children of the living. God you are not my beloved but now you are my beloved. You are not my people but now you are my people. God did not have to call you into his family. He had his people. Unless you come from the lineage. Of abraham unless you're part of the jewish people That you know has claimed now jesus as your savior unless that's your lineage. God didn't like you were part of it and got expanded it out to not just include his children. The jews but also us gentiles. The ragamuffin people that have been called and saved by jesus got has expanded his family to include you. You weren't part of his family and yet he made a huge sacrifice for you to be adopted in many of us have been on this journey for a little while. now we've got some kids. Were learning how to stumble our way towards spiritual leadership. We're our best to mature and to grow as a disciple. And i guess i'm just wondering if god is calling some of us to expand our circle to invite others who aren't part of our family in i am the man i am today because god invited me into his family. But i'm also the man. I am today because a lot of other guys invited me into their family as well. If you were to read the bible cover to cover front to back you would quickly realize that. God has a heart for a lot of people but he has a special place in his heart for fans widows and foreigners these phrases come up over and over and over again in the scriptures. You can't read the bible without recognizing man like really loves and he cares for and as a heart for the orphans the widows and the foreigners that comes up so much in the bible and maybe spiritual maturity isn't just memorizing more verses or tithing more and listening to more kayla maybe spiritual maturity means that your heart starts to look more like the heart of god. This is probably why. James says in james one twenty-seven religion that is pure and faultless in the eyes of god. Is this listen anytime now. Writer says this is what god accepts as pure religion. We should probably listen. Listen to what he says. Religion that is pure and faultless in the eyes of god this to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. Here's what i want you to ask yourself right now. Who is not part of your family that needs the love and influence of a godly man. A lot of you guys have been part of the dad tired community for longtime were stumbling our way through this stuff but maybe for all of us spiritual maturity means that we start to take our eyes off of our self for a little bit and we start to look at the world around us and see where god's heart is hurting and how our heart can start to look more like his. Is there a kid at your church. Doesn't have a dad. What single moms dino. That need help. What kids around you and your neighborhood on your street at your kid's school that are fatherless who comes to mind. Here's the thing bro. The the world isn't going to be impressed by our fancy. Lingo are eloquent words. That won't be won over by political policies or extravagant church services with cool lights and fog machines and cool music. But you know what i think might get the world's attention you know what i think might make them stop and look twice at christians. Seen thousands of men from around the world. Say not only am. I gonna lay down my life for my own kids but also for the kids who don't have a dad. Maybe then the world might get a glimpse of our father because what is the father like. What is this god like that we serve his name is the lord rejoice in his presence. He's the father to the fatherless. The defender of the widows. This is god whose dwelling is wholly psalm..
"dad" Discussed on Dad Tired
"In today's episode of the data tired. Podcast i'll talk about what it means to expand your influence as a dad. But i wanna take my friends over at make a fort for sponsoring today's episode one of the key indicators to me as a dad that i've purchased a good christmas gift for my kids is the fact that they're still playing with it weeks later literally as i record this episode. My kids are upstairs building. Four using the mak- fort kits from make fort dot fun when leyland. I are searching for good gifts to give our kids. We have three things that we look for number one. Does the toy require batteries. I hate batteries. I hate replacing them. I hate All the noises that battery operated toys create. I just don't want anything with batteries in the house. I want my kids to use toys. That don't require the number two. Does it require my children to use their imagination. I want to get them toys. That require them to think not toys that do the thinking for them and number three. I know it's a good toy. It can capture their attention for hours on end. This is why i love. The forts that make fort company provides. Their forts are made from durable cardboard. They can be used over and over again. They can be configured countless ways. So your kids can create something new every time and it's easily cleaned up and stored with their provided carrying case when not in use if you're wanting to get your kids off screens and allow them to be creative with their imagination. You must check out. Make a fort dot fun right now for a very limited time you can get five dollars off your purchase by going to make four dot fun forward slash. Dad tired again will put that link in the show notes. But it's make a dot fun ford slash dad tired and you'll get five dollars off your.
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"The crack in the door to the eyeball and that's all you have and that's how you make a friend. Now it takes six weeks of that repair it repetitively over and over again for them to actually open the door cuz they trust you enough now to have a conversation some day. They might invite you into their living room someday. They might offer you a glass of water when you get there. That's up to the neighbor say step-parenting has to work within the pace of the foiled and if you have this eager and if your eagerness gets the best of you and you start pushing the door down you lose trust you lose your opportunity and they see you as somebody who's a threat not someone to be allowed in and now you just made it ten times harder so somebody just listen to that moment and just said, oh now I get it now. I did I already pushed the door down and now I'm trying to build trust back again. Yeah, which means standing on the doorstep you might have to stand on the driveway and talk at a distance and it's slow going depending upon how long Pain has been has happened already. And that's the journey now. If you do it, well from the beginning then then the door opens a little more quickly. And by the way, you got three step-kids two of them open it fast. One of them opens it slowly. It feels a little schizophrenic trying to navigate each one of those relationships it is what it is caused by wage or just add another layer see Blended families have so many layers that that's the thing. We really have to spend time unpacking but imagine this guy is also a biological dad. He's got his own children and the door is always open and they're always eager for him to walk in and fact if anything they're running into his front lap on the doorstep and everything is not easy, but when it comes to the stepchild that one step child, it's hard. It's just hard knowing who you are at any given moment. Am I stepping in or my stepping out and my letting my wife do this or is that my job? Those are the things that you got to navigate work together with your wife work through your wife with her children and wage the doorstep until they allow you into their heart. Then you have more influence. Now you're able to to build character and do all kinds of awesome things that dads can do but she has to be on the child's timing Ron as you were talking man. I felt myself getting emotional and choked up and I'm just I'm not sure exactly what nerve that pricked, you know as you sharing but I know at the very least I just grew in compassion for that Dad and that mom who's listening. Yeah and mayonnaise one thing for us as men specifically to really open up our hearts and to step into vulnerability with our wives that what you described is really a relationship with their spouse. And anyways, like I'm home. I'm trying to knock on that door and go into and you can hurt me and I can hurry. It's a very vulnerable relationship anytime and that's hard enough. Right? Any married man would say that's really hard and not getting emotional just thinking about now, but the dad who is doing that with both his wife and now kids that is a heavy burden to bear but man so worth it. That's what I was thinking of and I think that's what was maybe just kind of pricking that nervous thinking when that door does open and how worth it is it? Yeah, there's a dad who's patient and who's stumbling Thursday through that. Sometimes he pushes too hard and sometimes he he realizes it now. He's in the driveway, dude. I'm going to get I'm going to start crying out loud too long, but man, I just want to like to that Dad and into that Mom just stick with it..
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"If you've been part of the data. Audience for any amount of time, you've probably heard me talk about how this whole thing started out of a really crappy season of my own marriage personally, and I've talked about this in the DAD tired book I've shared about it on many podcasts and but. There was a season where Leyland I were just this really really crappy season. I don't know how else to describe it It really wasn't her it was me if I'm totally honest like I just I sucked as a husband and dad I was really dealing with a bunch of identity stuff and my own just like personal stuff and I was blown away from my family. I was pulling away from my kids and I. Just I was a I sucked as a husband dad man I don't know how else to say it. It was really terrible and we were in just a really bad spot A. Marriage and there was a particular day in I know of shared the story in the book and the podcast. But on bear with me here I, there was a particular day where we were in another fight and I had said something on purpose to hurt her in just my complete immaturity as a husband and so I remember it. So vividly man we were standing in our bedroom and I said something to hurt her on purpose and she started to get tears in her eyes and in my stupidity I thought to myself literally, like I'm winning the argument like I'm I'm up is just so dumb. And Anyway. She's got tears in her eyes she and she's just staring at me and I'll never forget the way she looked at me. She's never looked at me like that before or sense and. It was very just heavy heavy moment and she looked she paused and she said jared I just want you to know I've been waking up at two in the morning every morning I set my alarm to go off and I wake up and go into living room and I pray that God would capture your heart again and always said man like I would have rather she custom me..
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"Burn off this little gut that I've got going to take care of this dad and I know this is something that you guys talk about all the time and something that you guys are concerned about as well because they see it in. There are closed data at facebook group. If you're not part of that group got about twelve thousand guys from all over the world or part of that group and oftentimes guys who post in there and say man, it's time for me to step up. I'm ready to get rid of his dad bod`ed, what do you guys suggest, and those are some of the most commented on Post that happened in the DAD tired group. You'll see hundreds of comments on their of really cool stories of like before, and after of guys who kind of lost track of their fitness and they just got things got out of hand and they got totally out of shape and then they decided they were gonNA, figure it out, and so they'll post before and after picture, and then all the guys will comment on their like dude, what you do or is it key? Does Paleo did you fast for three years? What do you got going on there, teach me your ways and it really is One of our most responded to post that happened in the data group is guys who are trying to get back in shape and looking for advice and ways to do that. So I know this is something that you guys talk about. So this has been the this has been what I've been focused on this week, and this is what have been This is my new thing. If you know me, I get into different things pretty much every week. And this week I'm focused on just men. How do I get back in shape at all start eating healthier being more disciplined, and as I do that one of the first questions I always try to ask myself as someone who's trained. My best to follow Jesus in the ways of Jesus is I was just asked like does God care about this does God's word have anything to say about this? Does he care?.
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"Trying to think what is the thing that I hope that guys who are listening get out of this and the first couple of things I would love to hear what you think, but first couple of things that come to mind number one is I hope guys can hear to Christians who are coming through this at a different angle? Just lovingly have these kind of conversations because I think they're so healthy and I think they're really unhealthy. doing them on the Internet where people are just kind of yelling at each other all the time. So that's the first thing I would say just having Christians being able to have these conversations in a loving way I think that the we it's important for Christians to be to to wrestle through this stuff and to do with love in like to say and I want we both want. Follow Jesus here I love that analogy gave at the beginning. We're. We're not on opposite sides. We're on the same hill, looking at Jesus trying to figure out our Jesus. What wisdom would you give it to us? And then the second thing is these are the kind of I think this should be the posture of the way that we have conversations with our kids on what I'm afraid of is, if we give our kids really definitive, black and white answers, this is what you should do then when they go out into the real world, and they have people who kind of test that or who have different perspective I frankly, that's where a lot of young people end up leaving the church like Oh, I, didn't even you know. My Mom and dad must be really old school and I'm GonNa. Listen to what they say anymore and so I think just being able to like process these. Obviously our kids are for some of US have young kids. Your kids are getting too into their teenage years old young adults, and so, but just to be able to like. Sit Down and have these like really. Let's wrestle through the scriptures. What does the Bible? Say What do other people's that we love? Say like what would our gay friends say? What would our? What would our Jesus loving friends say and like just? Just wrestle through all of that together I. Think it's just really really good model to set up for them, but anyway I guess that's kind of the things that I hope that. People who are listening to get out of it. Is there anything from your perspective like this is what I hope. A listener gets out of this. Yeah. I, think I need a really good I love the idea of as Christians we, we can work together work on the same team like we we we have to learn to like love each other enough like this liberal, rightly loving people, so let's do that to our brothers and sisters in Christ and like we don't have to die on all these hills. Linked to to get our.
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"On that data dot com number one is the community tab in that will link over to a close group that we have on facebook. We got about twelve thousand guys from all over the world. Who are taking this stuff seriously, so come hang out with us over there, and then we also have a free book so if you go to death her dot com slash. Slash Free Book. It's ten practical ways that you can start leading your family. Jesus today it's a short read and very practical way for you to get started and spiritual leadership as of like today, so that's a great way to start today. We're going to pick up on some of the topics that we're talking about last week if he didn't listen to last week's. which was titled Something to the effect of you can't lead where you haven't been around that If you haven't listened to that already, I highly recommend that you go back and listen to that one first and then today's episode might be helpful as kind of a follow up to that It's actually a message that I gave a couple years ago. Ago at a church as a guest speaker on, but I just think ties in really well, too with with what we were talking about last week. So I think that's GonNa. Be Helpful for you today. again as a follow up to to what we're talking about last week before we dive into that though I. Do want to thank my friends over at. At blinking for sponsoring today's episode, I love Lincoln's. It's one of the most used APPs on my phone. You can hear my baby going in the background, which is a good tie for me and talking about blink. We have very little time for us to actually sit down and quite into. Read a book I know. Very few of us can find the time. Time to do that without all the screaming and chaos, and so two like to finish a book as a young Dad, who's trying to be husband, a dad and work, and all the savages? It feels impossible. I used to read a lot before I had kids now i. hardly ever read, and that's why I love links. What they do is they condense? Thousands of nonfiction books, fifteen minutes, or less that you can either read or listen to you. I like to listen to a few books before I go to bed at night. They even now have a full audio books..
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"Jesus turns around after Peter had just an item, and they looked in the eye in that word, there is play Poe again. Just like when they first met, it was deep soul, the soul connection, almost as Jesus was looking into Peter Soul when he was denying him really really powerful stuff, but I just imagined. Do that Jesus like he looked at people? Now is a lot like that. That's the kind of person. I imagined Jesus was like when you were with him. He's constantly. Entering into that EM- Belay Poe where he's like. In deep into your eyes and he's beyond just seeing the outside of you. He's like looking inside of you like he senior soul, and who you are, and he's he's giving you as full attention at the deepest level like this is the kind of God that we serve what we don't see Jesus, doing is like overlooking people as he's trying to save people. Could you imagine that like Jesus? His whole point of coming to Earth was that he would save humans from sin that he would rescue them that he would invite them into a new kingdom. Kingdom into the way things were meant to be and supposed to be and so Jesus when he was interacting with people. He like gave them his full attention. You don't see him looking over people to try to accomplish his mission. What you don't see Jesus, saying like Hey, can you just like? Can you hurry up with the story, or can you hurry? Hurry hurry like. Can you just get to the point here? Because I got I'm going to try to save people. Jesus knew that the person right in front of him was part of the mission. Like. This is the mission. He came to save people, and now he's looking the people that he came to save right in the is. He didn't hurry past them. He didn't tell them. Get on with your story or get to the point, or I don't have time for that right now. Because I'm trying to do something bigger. No, he knew that like the person right in front of me. That is the mission. This is what I came here for that person in for. For All people whoever is right in front of me has my attention. They have my love. They have everything that I have to give them. He was fully present when he was present. And our mission as men is right in front of us. It's not work. Our mission is in our hobbies or the way that we can scale up on the social ladder or the way that we can accomplish more work or get more things done. It's not filling up the bank account. Like, our mission are the little humans under our care that we have the honor and the privilege of disciple. This is our mission. We don't get to say. Hurry up, get to the point. You're in the way. They are what we're here for. Our goal now listen hear me clearly our worlds are not supposed to revolve around our kids. That's an unhealthy relationship, but I think you know what I'm saying like I'm not saying that. But what I m saying is there's really what more thing. What could be more important in your life the to give your full attention to your children into your wife to your family, what could be more important than being fully present with the people that got us put right in front of you? What other relationship! What other thing is worth chasing after the to give your kids and your wife? Your full attention to be fully present while being present. We're GONNA. Talk about what it looks like to be president while being present, but before we do I want to thank my friends over at blinking for sponsoring today's episode. I love blinking there. One of my favorite I use on my phone constantly We're always trying to learn as guys in. It's really hard as busy dads to continue to find the time to. To. Sit Down and learn something which is why I love them. Because what they do is, they take three thousand over three thousand nonfiction bestsellers. They've got over twenty seven different categories, and they convinced them down into what they call blinks, which are just fifteen minutes or less that you can either read a book or listen to a book and really get the main. Main need to know information from thousands of books so again. If you don't have time to sit down and read a whole book or listen to a whole book, it will take fifteen minutes of best the need to know information. Really condense it down to give you the information that you need for it what they also have now. They've also just launched A. A brand new feature, or you can listen to full length audio books and exclusive podcast. That's brand new feature that they've just launched on. They're really excited to try that out. I think you guys are GonNa. Love that as well as podcast listeners. I like to listen to a couple of books every night before I go to bed, just continue to learn and. Gain more knowledge and short amount of time to books that I recommend that they have on there. They've got one on there for tire. Dad's called why we sleep by Matthew Walker It's a great book to check out just about sleep. And then they also got the ruthless elimination of hurry by John Mark Homer, which is one of my favorite books of two thousand twenty right now. Blankets has a special offer just for. For you are dead, tired audience, go to blink DOT, com slash tired to start your free seven-day trial and get twenty five percents off blinking premium membership and up to sixty five percent of audiobooks that you get to keep forever. That's bleakest spelled. B. L. I. N.. K. I S. T. BLINKING DOT COM slash tired to get twenty five percent off a premium membership and a seven day free trial. That's blink dot com forward slash tired. Here's one of my biggest fears for says Dad's. One of my biggest fears is that we're going to run past. Our kids in an effort to chase down a better life for them. I, mean just say that one more time because I wanted to soak in one of my biggest fears for us as dad's as that, we will run past our kids in an effort to chase down a better life for them. A Leyland. We'd just bought a new home and we've been trying for almost our entire marriage to save up and to get ourselves in a position where we could buy a house and we were renting for pretty much the entire time our kids have been alive, and and then we moved into a little town home kind of in the interim, and then we just we saved up and we worked hard, and we finally got in this home. Home that we love and it's it's great for our little family, and it's got a yard which we wanted and which it's Kinda hard to find him Portland like something. That has an a yard where the kids can play. It was just amazing, and our kids loved it like we we. We had been talking about this for years, and we finally got into a home and our kids that they really loved it for about three days. and there was this moment like three days into this house when and just kind of like the newness wore off, and my son Said Daddy. Will you play in the backyard with me and And when he said that I just thought man like this house means absolutely nothing. If Daddy isn't present and the house like sure that you know the, they're happy to have a room to sleep in the happy have A. A yard to play in and whatever, but like they're not gonNa grow old and think man I really love that house. Even though my daddy was never physically or mentally around like my dad, you know. He got us a house and that's really all we wanted in life. Do we all know that right and I? Guess? I can just subconsciously Kinda. Thought like if I get my kids a house that they love you know. Know we'll be set and the truth is. They don't care like they don't. They're not any more happy in this house than they were in this tiny little town home that we just came from our home, the small house we were renting before they just don't care. It means nothing to them. If Daddy's not present what they'll look back on is not the house they lived in, but with a look back on was daddy. Daddy, present and I guess what was.
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"Of the Gospel says that Jesus turns around after Peter had just an item, and they looked in the eye in that word, there is play Poe again. Just like when they first met, it was deep soul, the soul connection, almost as Jesus was looking into Peter Soul when he was denying him really really powerful stuff, but I just imagined. Do that Jesus like he looked at people? Now is a lot like that. That's the kind of person. I imagined Jesus was like when you were with him. He's constantly. Entering into that EM- Belay Poe where he's like. In deep into your eyes and he's beyond just seeing the outside of you. He's like looking inside of you like he senior soul, and who you are, and he's he's giving you as full attention at the deepest level like this is the kind of God that we serve what we don't see Jesus, doing is like overlooking people as he's trying to save people. Could you imagine that like Jesus? His whole point of coming to Earth was that he would save humans from sin that he would rescue them that he would invite them into a new kingdom. Kingdom into the way things were meant to be and supposed to be and so Jesus when he was interacting with people. He like gave them his full attention. You don't see him looking over people to try to accomplish his mission. What you don't see Jesus, saying like Hey, can you just like? Can you hurry up with the story, or can you hurry? Hurry hurry like. Can you just get to the point here? Because I got I'm going to try to save people. Jesus knew that the person right in front of him was part of the mission. Like. This is the mission. He came to save people, and now he's looking the people that he came to save right in the is. He didn't hurry past them. He didn't tell them. Get on with your story or get to the point, or I don't have time for that right now. Because I'm trying to do something bigger. No, he knew that like the person right in front of me. That is the mission. This is what I came here for that person in for. For All people whoever is right in front of me has my attention. They have my love. They have everything that I have to give them. He was fully present when he was present. And our mission as men is right in front of us. It's not work. Our mission is in our hobbies or the way that we can scale up on the social ladder or the way that we can accomplish more work or get more things done. It's not filling up the bank account. Like, our mission are the little humans under our care that we have the honor and the privilege of disciple. This is our mission. We don't get to say. Hurry up, get to the point. You're in the way. They are what we're here for. Our goal now listen hear me clearly our worlds are not supposed to revolve around our kids. That's an unhealthy relationship, but I think you know what I'm saying like I'm not saying that. But what I m saying is there's really what more thing. What could be more important in your life the to give your full attention to your children into your wife to your family, what could be more important than being fully present with the people that got us put right in front of you? What other relationship! What other thing is worth chasing after the to give your kids and your wife? Your full attention to be fully present while being present. We're GONNA. Talk about what it looks like to be president while being present, but before we do I want to thank my friends over at blinking for sponsoring today's episode. I love blinking there. One of my favorite I use on my phone constantly We're always trying to learn as guys in. It's really hard as busy dads to continue to find the time to. To. Sit Down and learn something which is why I love them. Because what they do is, they take three thousand over three thousand nonfiction bestsellers. They've got over twenty seven different categories, and they convinced them down into what they call blinks, which are just fifteen minutes or less that you can either read a book or listen to a book and really get the main. Main need to know information from thousands of books so again. If you don't have time to sit down and read a whole book or listen to a whole book, it will take fifteen minutes of best the need to know information. Really condense it down to give you the information that you need for it what they also have now. They've also just launched A. A brand new feature, or you can listen to full length audio books and exclusive podcast. That's brand new feature that they've just launched on. They're really excited to try that out. I think you guys are GonNa. Love that as well as podcast listeners. I like to listen to a couple of books every night before I go to bed, just continue to learn and. Gain more knowledge and short amount of time to books that I recommend that they have on there. They've got one on there for tire. Dad's called why we sleep by Matthew Walker It's a great book to check out just about sleep. And then they also got the ruthless elimination of hurry by John Mark Homer, which is one of my favorite books of two thousand twenty right now. Blankets has a special offer just for. For you are dead, tired audience, go to blink DOT, com slash tired to start your free seven-day trial and get twenty five percents off blinking premium membership and up to sixty five percent of audiobooks that you get to keep forever. That's bleakest spelled. B. L. I. N.. K. I S. T. BLINKING DOT COM slash tired to get twenty five percent off a premium membership and a seven day free trial. That's blink dot com forward slash tired. Here's one of my biggest fears for says Dad's. One of my biggest fears is that we're going to run past. Our kids in an effort to chase down a better life for them. I, mean just say that one more time because I wanted to soak in one of my biggest fears for us as dad's as that, we will run past our kids in an effort to chase down a better life for them. A Leyland. We'd just bought a new home and we've been trying for almost our entire marriage to save up and to get ourselves in a position where we could buy a house and we were renting for pretty much the entire time our kids have been alive, and and then we moved into a little town home kind of in the interim, and then we just we saved up and we worked hard, and we finally got in this home. Home that we love and it's it's great for our little family, and it's got a yard which we wanted and which it's Kinda hard to find him Portland like something. That has an a yard where the kids can play. It was just amazing, and our kids loved it like we we. We had been talking about this for years, and we finally got into a home and our kids that they really loved it for about three days. and there was this moment like three days into this house when and just kind of like the newness wore off, and my son Said Daddy. Will you play in the backyard with me and And when he said that I just thought man like this house means absolutely nothing. If Daddy isn't present and the house like sure that you know the, they're happy to have a room to sleep in the happy have A. A yard to play in and whatever, but like they're not gonNa grow old and think man I really love that house. Even though my daddy was never physically or mentally around like my dad, you know. He got us a house and that's really all we wanted in life. Do we all know that right and I? Guess? I can just subconsciously Kinda. Thought like if I get my kids a house that they love you know. Know we'll be set and the truth is. They don't care like they don't. They're not any more happy in this house than they were in this tiny little town home that we just came from our home, the small house we were renting before they just don't care. It means nothing to them. If Daddy's not present what they'll look back on is not the house they lived in, but with a look back on was daddy. Daddy, present and I guess what was.
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"All right guys. We'll welcome back. We have a bonus episode today. This is not a normal day that we would release an episode. And it's not a normal episode We are in the midst of a quarantine as you know. You're probably home with your kids listening to this. So I have a special guest. Somebody that's never been on our data show before may introduce to you for the very first time weighing in at sixty pounds soaking wet four foot. Three I have no idea what you are. My son allies yellows hate. But how are you how are you? I'm good let me just this microphone. Voice Don get areas. That's good heritage's me and Elijah Elijah and I I in Elijah the two of us. We should probably work on some grammar this week. we had this idea to since we've been stuck in the house. It's only been like three days and we're already at the top of our Getting a little antsy so we had this idea where we thought we would have. Families data hired families memorize scripture together. one verse a week for however many weeks were in this whole thing and And so Elijah tell them a little bit about how this whole thing is going to work. What's the first thing that people need to do? So the first thing you WanNa do is memorize What the verse. We're GONNA give you so. Let's tell them what verse. It is. What I do they memorized this week. Joshua one nine Joshua one nine They won't be able to see this because this is a podcast so they can't see us. Should we read it for him? So the verse Joshua One nine says have a now commanded. You be strong encourage courageous courageous. Do not be afraid. Do not discouraged for the Lord. Your God will be with you wherever you go. Joshua one not. That's right okay. So that's the verse. We're GONNA work on this week again. It says I have not commanded. You be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid. Do not be discouraged for the Lord. Your God will be with you wherever you go. Just real quick dude. What do you think that means? What do you think God was saying there? What does he wants to hear? Well I think it means that you shouldn't be afraid. Whatever you like run through and like I think God is always going to be with you so you don't have to worry and don't be afraid that's perfect. That's exactly what he's saying Is it kind of scary times? Some people kind of afraid right now with everything going on. Yes so it's it's it's easy to like watch the news and sometimes we watch the news and it's like Oh man that's kind of scary but we see God's say hey have I not commanded you be strong. Be Courageous courageous meets means have courage. Courage do not be afraid And do not be discouraged for the Lord. Your God will be with you wherever you go so we know even if we don't know what's ahead of us we know that God is always with okay. So that's the first thing we want everyone to memorize this verse. Verse will be memorizing together as a family this week. And then what's the second thing that they need to do? They need a Posted posted take video. And then what did take a video of your kid reading it. I mean memorizing it and You posted to dead tired kids so we created this group. We have a. We have a facebook group for normally for dad tire. Dad's but we created a dad. Tired Kids Group. So if you go to dad or if you go on facebook and you search dad tired kids and we'll put a link in the show notes here so you can click on that but you we've already got a bunch of people in this group already in their kids already started to work on this so if you're not in there yet jump in there. Today is Wednesday March Eighteenth So we'll have all week for the kids to take videos. And do you have a facebook now? I'll probably get grounded. Yeah if you ever get any kind of social media at all you will be grounded for life and if I did. I don't really know who I would have on facebook. I wouldn't really have anyone 'cause kids don't go to facebook and parents do but like I would just be going into facebook so it'd be kind of weird if you had to count and you're like adding people's parents 'cause you never know who's out there that's right that is exactly right so kids won't be able to probably don't have a facebook but we're going to ask the DADS to If you're listening to this take video of your kids only posted on the DAD tired kids group. It's a closed group for just the data listeners. And their kids but that way we can see all the other kids who are practicing this first together So upload the video of your child or children Sane this verse by memory and then And then what's the third thing that they need to do? What happens at the end of the week next week from now? What are we gonNA do when we look through? All these videos. I WanNa see the videos and we're GONNA see all the people who memorize the all the kids who memorized it and we're GONNA put all their names in This hat that and we're GONNA whoever gets picked out will be the winner and whoever's the winner will get a prize is it like while they win a new will we ship them Pencil No because they would not be happy with all the work they've done in basically something not could be that fun like putting all that work and you just want to Pencil So should we make huge like a house where they were in the house? No because they WANNA get to keep it for their selves. It's true and probably would be hard to ship a whole entire house just something smaller but like in between that kind of maybe a Lego set or something really fun. An art set or a Lego set. Boys girls anyone can enter into this and do this but we'll find a bunch of cool prizes and then we'll pick one winner every single week that we're all in this quarantine so again number one memorized. Joshua one nine we are using the NFC. Virgin you can use whatever version you'd like version Memorized Joshua one nine. Secondly go on the data kids facebook page and uplift upload The video of your child or children saying by memory can. Are they allowed to cheat? Like if you can have a bible behind the camera because if we saw the Bible behind the camera than knew for sure wouldn't get the price you got to memorize ak like do put in the work bro. So put in the work. Memorize it. You've got a week to do it. We recommend maybe doing a sentence a day and you should have it memorized. No problem and then Wednesday we will all these names and pick a name out and somebody will get to win a prize. We will go to the store before that. Pick out some really cool prizes ship. It out to you if shipping. If the post office is still open we will definitely get it out to you which we hope and believe that post offices will still be open all right. So that's your challenge for this week. Memorize averse as a family. Say By memory upload it and hopefully you get chose mic over. The Dad Tired Kids facebook group. Thanks for hanging out today..
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"Well I want to dive straight into today's episode and dive into what we're talking about today Eh on today's Sunday and it's actually my daughter's birthday. You may hear her screaming in the background because she just had her very first cupcake For the first time she's it just turned one year old and down so she got her first cupcake. We just did a little family celebration and she may lose her mind. I don't know how she's GonNa react to that I know there's like a trend that this may be a Portland thing you guys can reach out to me. Let me know as maybe a Portland thing but There's a trend where people are giving their kids now. like healthier alternatives jobs to cupcakes. Maybe your family does this. Maybe you're wiser than I am. And you give them like. I don't know like a cupcake Broccoli. Broccoli cupcake thing and dead spinach cupcake instead of like. I just went to Safeway man like I just went to the grocery store and picked up a chocolate cupcake and I gave it to my daughter. She's one so I don't know if I'm the worst parent the world world. She's never had that much sugar in her life and she's probably going to be screaming in the background. That's a tangent all that to say Today's her birthday and we're really excited about it. She she may be chaotic in the background. So bear with me. I'm dead tired. I'm still recording. This podcast My bedroom after all these years in our little home and it's chaos so thank you for your Dad Grace Today's Sunday yesterday was Saturday coach. My son's soccer game indoor soccer games on Saturday and we played a game yesterday yesterday and we got just destroyed. The other team beat us. I think it was like seven to one or seventy two. We got okay. Let's not lie actually know exactly what the scores it was. Seven not be real bad and so this is I've I've coached soccer games for years. Coach soccer teams for years. We played a lot of outdoor. We're you know not to like this. Sounds really dumb. Because they're eight years old but we've done very well in their little leagues and played soccer. We've always put good teams Coach good teams and the the the kids have done really well and had fun together. And I'm trying not to like just brag on kids right now because they're eight and it's really stupid but anyway we're we've normally really done very well and now we're playing. Indoor and the exact opposite is happening. We have not won a game. I think they've the opponents in the last three games of scored twenty six goals against us and we've scored a total of four. We're just getting destroyed like a big time taking a piece of humble pie here Thanksgiving giving week and In the last three weeks and we're just getting destroyed and yesterday we're playing a game and we're getting destroyed by the other team which has been kind of the normal for us the last couple of weeks and I'm like getting frustrated. The kids coaches kids for awhile. And I'm kind of getting frustrated McMahon. We know better like the. I've taught these kids for Awhile Tom for several years. They know how to play. AWW same position and I'm feeling myself get a little bit frustrating and at the end of the game as I'm kind of sitting there just watching the other team pound goals on us. I was thinking This isn't really the kid's fault like for one. They're eight and two. They're not trying to lose like no kids showed up today thing and now I'm just going to let the other kids beat us like all. The kids are trying gene whether they're doing the right thing or wrong. Or whatever like they're trying their best none of them showed up to lose and so then I had this thought of the person that's really blame. Here is me as a coach i. I can't blame these eight year olds need to look myself in the face and Look at my I look at my face in the mirror and really just say like men like what am I doing wrong. Am I doing something. Am I not coaching them. Well and is there something. That's falling short on me than I need to take ownership of so you fast forward. The reason we even tell you about the soccer stories because fast forward I leave the soccer game. I come home. Layla goes out with some ladies from our church to celebrate a birthday party. And I'm here with the kids kids and so it's just me and the three kids and the chaos pure chaos trying to feed them dinner. I've got a baby crying. I can literally hear my daughter screaming in the background right now I can hear her screaming. Remain in one room wondering she like getting into stuff and my other two kids wrestling around and the the couch is literally flipped over. Like I walk in from the kitchen and and I go into the living room and the couches flipped over. We have moving boxes everywhere because we have to move people to listen to podcasts. It's just everything is chaos and my first reaction is again frustration. Like the kids know better. Why are you being disobedient? Why are you guys acting so crazy before bed which I don't know what kind of universal universal truth this is but like every kid just loses their mind thirty minutes before bedtime And it's just the most frustrating thing the world has been dealing with this for the whole have been a dad so anyway they're just losing their mind. Couches literally flipped over. My daughter's like digging in the trash my one year olds digging in the trash just chaos and I'm frustrated. I yell upset. I tell them. Go the room. Go Brush your teeth get ready for bed. And I'm putting them the bed and I put them to bed kind of like frustrated frustrated and I have this long speech with him and everyone kind of goes to bed grumpy and then I'm laying in bed. My wife still our Enjoying the night with her friends and so I'm just laying in bed in quiet quiet and I just think to myself the same thought that just had with the soccer team and it really is like how much of this is on them. And how much of this is on me as the dad that like. What do I need to own as the dad here because ultimately their kids and they will follow leadership and of course every kid is naturally naturally by because of San the fall there naturally rebellious and they're going to make bad decisions all the time but really like my first reaction is to blame all the time and I think it's easy for us as husbands and DADS to find herself frustrated at our kids when they're not being obedient or maybe at our wives and our marriage when things aren't thriving having when things feel chaotic on but I think it's super important for us as DADS to really ask ourselves? How is my leadership Our first first tendency is always to blame like this is. This isn't just a youth thing or meeting. Our kids thing like our first tendency is humans has always been to blame. Listen to this. Listen Genesis. Three verse nine. This is actually right. The very first time we see sin enter the picture Adam and eve decide to turn their back away from God to make their own decisions. It's decide I wonder. If God's design isn't the best and of I wonder if I should kind of make my own rules and do the life the way that I want to do life and then they sin and this is what happens in verse nine Genesis Chapter Three but the Lord God called to the man and said to him where are you and he said I heard the sound of you in the garden and I was afraid great because I was naked and hid myself. He said who told you that you were naked. Have you eaten from the tree which I commanded you not to eat. The man said listen to this first of all the man said the woman whom you gave to me. She gave me the fruit of the tree and I ate verse thirteen. Then the Lord got to the woman what is it that you've done. The woman said the serpent deceived me and I ate super super fast and fascinating. God says to Adam what have you done he says. Well that's this woman. You gave me giving me a better woman. I probably wouldn't have eaten the fruit turn fault. And then he asked the woman eve. Hey what did you do. Did you give some fruits. Your husband will you gave me the serpent. The serpent's here had he not been here. I probably wouldn't have the fruit. Everyone's passing blame to another person. It's literally been in the very first pages of the story of humanity from the very start When when we do something that's frustrating? We get in trouble or something that we don't like our first reaction is to blame. Just I mean you know this girl like you've got kids and you ask your kids. What did you do the first thing my kids do this all the time well? He made me while she made me while they started it. And we get mad at our kids for that right like Croatia until our kids. Hey own up take responsibility. What did you do? Is there something you need to be responsible for. Apologize for but just watch yourself and how much you wants to blame other people. This happens to me all the time you know when it happens most like when you're most aware that you are blaming as usually usually when you get hurt this is the funniest thing that we all do this like you. You could stub your toe in the middle of an empty living room. When you're by yourself and you just the first thing like who put the WHO? Who put the couch there? Who What Kid? Why did you like? We're just immediately starting to blame somebody like somebody else's responsible for this It's our first reaction isn't usually comes out when we're hurt but we always find ourselves when we're frustrated like who can I pass the blame off to and so when our kids are being disobedient when in our marriage isn't thriving when our household feels chaotic. Are I thought like naturally this is just you and your human sinful. DNA your first thought is who who can I be mad at who is responsible for this because certainly the subconscious thought is. It's certainly not me like there's no way I would be responsible for this and I guess what I'm kind of revealing myself or with the Holy Spirit really revealed in me just last night as I'm coaching these kids and soccer and then kind of had a more personal snow bigger experience as I get home and I see chaos in my home. My first thought was like who am I. Who can I blame? And then the holy spirit is kindness really revealed to me like what what is. Is it in your leadership that you need to own. Is there something here and you. Is there some lack of leadership in you that that may be contributing.
"dad" Discussed on Dad Tired
"I'm clearly not out chasing facing tolerance for this trying to get rich off this thing So that was but that wasn't the reason the reason was because I felt like. Oh maybe I'm not good at this. Yeah and and then same with like a book review somebody will leave like a three out of five stars and I'm like Oh you know what I'm going to hang up the whole thing Because I'm this is I'm not could at this. Had I had a dad to as a kid being like who cares like who cares if you get somebody gives you a three out of five stars or say you're the Jolo hosting podcast who cares. Because here's who God says you are That would probably roll off my back a lot easier and again. It's not like Macho confidence. It's not this fake. We just WANNA be tough dudes who don't care what people say. It's we want to be grounded in our identity in Christ. That's what we want for our kids. I'm not just trying to teach my son and my my daughters. I that you just need to be tough and sticks and stones can break your bones but words don't hurt words hurt for sure what we're trying to do is give them a deeper foundation a more more solid foundation which is who cares what people say not because you're tough but because look what God says about you. This is your identity you were holy. You are chosen. You're delighted lied in because he loved you. Not because of anything you can accomplish. And then when they get out into the real world and thing people say hard things you can just be like. Yeah that's maybe. My Book was three out of five stars or maybe my podcast does kind of soccer. Whatever but this is what God thinks of me and it's not going to rattle me to my core going to be depressed for the next ten days or be chasing fifty different jobs and careers? Because I'm looking for my identity because this is who I know I am so anyway come go ahead. I'm sorry I'm rambling a bunch. No it's okay I was just I was thinking we're talking about how when Like a child is raised in such a way way that their identity is shaped by their father for good or bad Like what do you do then when you find yourself a thirty year old dad yourself self and you are just Kinda just confused about your identity and Don't always feel like do you are who got called you to be do feel like that kind of that child. Wouldn't you think of Your Dad. You just I don't know maybe heart starts pounding and you're angry or you're you feel sad or like all those so interesting how you know. I'm I'm thirty five now and I'm like I can think about my dad and just start weeping you know and Like what do we how do we. How do we move forward? How do we like find our identity now? I think not that this isn't isn't the answer like to just solve that but I hear for somebody. That's still struggling with it. Here's what I'm telling myself One thing is he's just knowing that the motivation behind majority of what I do is chasing identity because of the lack of presence that my dad had that alone is helpful just to like be able to put words and tie connections there. Start identifying some of your behaviors as like why am I. What's my real motivation here? Oh it's because I'm just trying to figure out. Am I worth something. So that's helpful by itself. The other thing is my my heart longs for the day as we talk about Rosa revelation. Where there will be no more tears and nor pain more sickness like this? These are all sickness pain hurting and Jesus will one day make that all new. I think we get glimpses of Heaven here. On Earth Praise God the Kingdom of Heaven is invading fading Earth at this very moment and so there are moments of healing for me. I will sit and be like man. I don't have to chase that because this is what God has done in. This is who he says I am but I will always care. There will be holes or ruts that I will die with And and in that time my heart longs for Jesus to make things right again one day. I can't win for spouses. I think it's important to just like I don't know if he's still call like Gospel each other but like when you start like for me for example not having heard a lot of words for my dad I always was wondering like does he love me you know he never ever ever said I love you like I don't I can't I try and remember and I don't know if I fabricate a memory or two here and there but I don't remember we're hearing it and certainly I'm quite positive I've never heard him say I'm proud of you and so now Sometimes you can project those things onto God as your father and an and sometimes I do wonder like am i. Am I making God proud. I don't even know if that's like a right question but like wondering. Would God say he's proud of me like you know. This is layla with whom I'm well pleased like doubtful. All ever hear those words you know and like just having somebody to kind of remind you like what is actually true about God and like what are some things that are maybe it just hurts from your own childhood or just you just projecting like who your earthly father was and you're projecting that onto your heavenly father and it kind of teasing those apart and Yeah I also wanted to say as we're talking the wives That I said this on a podcast. I was a guest on this week but for the wives listening. Just want you to know that your it more than like probably your your your husband's friends more than his bosses more than really maybe anyone else you carry such power in the things that you say to your husband and your husband Most likely is walking around with a lot of those holes or ruts in his life because he didn't have a dad say everything regardless of how awesome is dad is. He's got dad wounds somewhere. He's somewhere on the scale and the things that you say to your husband Carey deep deep weight. And there's many men who just need to hear from maybe their wives that babe art if for a wife to say a bear on proud of you you have what it takes and even if you don't accomplish anything your loved like the was just saying to Gospel each other to to sit like this is who God says you are and you don't need to chase after things like you don't have to prove yourself in this family you don't have to prove yourself in this marriage or to our kids you just deeply loved by God and we love you and most importantly like God loves you based on who. You are not anything you can accomplish. Those words wives like we'll we'll carry deep deep. Wait for your husband's and again I think there are a lot of husbands who are kind of walking around there. The problem solvers in the family. They're tough they're strong. They're whatever but man there's Oh boy under their who's wounded and they may just need to hear from you wife to say like to tell them the words the truth of the Scriptures the truth of the Gospel that they never heard from down so that's my encouragement to the wife's. I'll just end here by saying this again like Dad. You'RE GONNA BE MESSED UP UP. Your kids are going to have wounds. All of our kids are going to have wounds one way or another regardless of how we do at this because we're human and were sinful and were broken and we're going to hurt them in some way And they're gonNA carry that for their whole life but would we be parents who hold hold up a mirror to our kids and as they look in it we just point and say this is who God has made you to be so that as they go Out into the world again. We're not just creating like tough kids. Were creating kids who really were not creating kids or encouraging kids. Who really can go back to the truths of the Gospel that their loved? Not because you have the biggest numbers God said are your anything special on earth but you are loved because God loved you. That's it God loves you and your loved and delighted in by the God of the universe and I think when we do that we helped set our kids up for success. So they they don't they don't turn into confused adults who like many of us run around the whole their whole lives searching for identity and searching undefined worth. I hope that's helpful. Leyla thank you for hanging now. I know you're exhausted. It's been a crazy week or so grateful that because listen again if you give to. The Dad Tired Ministry. That's going to go to these conferences into our ministry for next year helpless. Lower the costs you get a free signed book out of it. We'll send that to you and you'll also be entered into win a two hundred fifty dollars Amazon Gift Card to pay for Christmas gifts for Christmas this year. We love gas. Thanks for listening to you later.
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"How's it going guys. Jerry Lopes back here with you on the dead tired podcast. This has been an absolutely incredible week for dead tired <hes>. I can't even begin to explain how amazing this week has been. It's the launch for those of you who don't know it's been the launched of the DAD tired book which I have been working on really for the last two years and it's actually been arriving in people's hands and people seem to be really enjoying it which is always converging <hes> but man. It's just been huge. You guys support for those of you who've been longtime dad tired listeners at and bought the book and just sending me messages. It's just been honestly it's surreal. I don't know how else to describe it. Just absolutely absolutely surreal <hes> blown away man. I'm just I'm totally blown away. God has been good. He's already using it to draw hearts back to him. which is really that's all? I want me and I just want God to use this book as a way for men to find rest for their weary souls. We're tired DADS AND <HES> I'm tired. You're tired the reason you're listening to this episode because you're trying to figure out what it looks like to be a man who's chasing after God and some of Your Dad's somebody who oh aren't dads some of your just men who are listening just trying to be more faithful to Lord and regardless of where you're at like most of us were just tired retired men and so my goal is that this book would bring rest your soul and it seems like so far that it's doing that in many ways so thank you guys. If you haven't picked up a copy I would love for you to pick up a copy and I just hope that it encourages you <hes>. If you did not get an email about the cruise you didn't win. Unfortunately somebody won the cruise which is super excited. I'm excited for that guy to bring his wife to come on the data cruise but if you still want to come on the cruise you have a few weeks left. September the end of September our is when crews registration ends for that so definitely would love to have you guys come on the cruise but you've only got a couple of weeks left to sign up. You don't have to pay for the whole thing by the into September but you do need to sign up. Make your initial deposit by September. So if you want to go on the cruise you didn't win. We'd love to have you come on. <hes> definitely go to data DOT COM. Click the cruise tap so you can come join us on the cruise before registration ends on that and speaking of registration ending. We've got to conferences one in Ohio and a couple weeks and then one in Austin Texas in November and the one in Ohio is filling up like we already have more people signed up for that than we originally expected so if you're holding now now I definitely recommend that you get your tickets now before that one fills up <hes> so anyway. I'm super excited. Come you guys out in Ohio and spent some time with view over there before we dive in today's episode which by the way I've got a guest on today's named David he owns a company called Rhodesia peril <hes> but more than that like he's just a normal dude. He's a normal guy normal husband and WHO's trying to figure out what it looks like to fall in love with Jesus into live radically in his normal everyday life life and I really love that I'm like I wanNA start having more guys on the show that aren't necessarily authors or celebrities or professional athletes are whatever like they're just normal dudes who who are trying to figure out what does it look like for me to be a worker or try to own a little small business and to fall in love with Jesus more help my family fall in love Jesus more and <hes> so I think David May he's done a lot of things but more than like all the cool things he's done. I just love this heart as like a normal do- trying to follow after Lorne figure out ways to help kids kids do that. 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