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Fresh update on "cure" discussed on Here and Now
"Live from NPR NEWS. I'm Laxmi saying closing arguments today in a former Minneapolis police officers trial for the killing of George Floyd. NPR's Cheryl Corley, RECAPS with jurors heard from both sides of the cases surrounding Derrick Show van's actions. Curing Floyd's arrest last May, beginning with prosecutor Stephen Slasher. He says This was not policing but an insult. And he said the state doesn't have to prove that Derek Sheldon intended to kill George Floyd. But it does have toe prove that Derrick Show been applied Force to George Floyd, and it wasn't an accident, but it was one purpose. For the most part. The defense has argued that George Floyd did not die at the hands of Derrick Show Open, and they say that it was drug use in part Um, that George Floyd had heart problems that it was those complicating factors that cause George Floyd's death. NPR's Cheryl Corley reporting after scouring the waters off Louisiana for 175 hours, three U. S. Coast Guard says it has suspended its search. For the remaining crew members of the Sikh or power lift both they've been unaccounted for since their commercial lift. Bo capsized during hurricane force winds and rough seas nearly a week ago. Six people were rescued. Five bodies have been recovered. Vice president Kamila Harris is hitting the road to promote the White House is $2.3 trillion infrastructure plan. NPR's Scott Tetro has more from Greensboro, North Carolina..
Nature Makes GMO Fish
"Skeptical of aqua bounties fast-growing salmon while nature makes genetically modified fish to next up. Why the effort to find a quote biological basis for being transgender is misguided and harmful and finally cure for sickle cell diseases inches closer with the launch of a major gene. Therapy trial very exciting stuff. But first up kevin. Let's talk about Natural gm fish apparently. Yeah this is really cool and this is a report that came out in. Cbc news which is canadian broadcasting company usually not writing very favorable things about genetic engineering because this isn't genetic engineering unless it's genetic engineering that nature did so the story goes back to a couple of researchers at queens university. A lorry graham and peter davies found this evidence a while ago now that there was this antifreeze gene that helped the rainbow smelt live through freezing temperatures so super cooling fish and some other organisms can endure temperatures below freezing because of a mechanisms that keep their cells from forming ice crystals. What interesting stuff going on there and if you think about it. These are cold-blooded so when it gets below freezing you have the risk of freezing so years ago. Probably a decade and a half. I guess they found this evidence that there was A this gene that that didn't seem to make a whole lot of sense that that it that it looked like a in so we go over now to herring and smelt How was this hearing. Gene ending up and smelt the last time that they were related was by extremely distant ancestor. They said by the article article here. Two hundred and fifty million years ago so that was like the carbon difference period so these two individual lineages of fish split off pretty early a back before dinosaurs or you know and so this really cool so well same time as early dinosaurs.
Fresh update on "cure" discussed on VB in the Middle
"1970 in November. George Harrison's triple solo album goes to number one in the U. S and the UK Al meals and a born single in My Sweet Lord and TV should come. The Partridge Family generates a number one hit with I think I love you with vocals by newly minted teen idol David Cassidy again. Not so much the thing about Hey, I love you, my friend. I'm a breakdown. Sure. Love. There is no cure.
66 Days Of Feelings With Nicole Klassen
"Semi call. When did you first start thinking that. Maybe you were drinking a little bit too much and you want to make a change in how. How much were you drinking. And i had about a period of your app to. When i actually start i actually start with. I was considering stopping drinking an playing without the onion. That yet it really became thought wasn't drinking a lot. And i thought it was a normal drinker but in something something was saying no this is not right and when i realized how much i was actually drinking i was drinking about five or six days of the week out of seven When actually sat down with of most of the time. I was drinking a bottle of wine by myself at nights and then on weekends i would have a big splurge like friday will be two bottles of wine And then maybe what else is around. All on saturday. All its Your would be would be more but Yeah a minimum of a bottle in in in one session of drinking and I i never wanted to be an everyday drink because there was. That's what i considered. A problem not realized that five six days a week. Out of seven He's anti-israeli problematic. Because you're never regained recovering. And what was the older you get your hangovers along as well. So you're not giving your body enough time to re both Each time and binging has particularly from what i've read and understood Particularly of bad effects on serotonin levels levels abso-. I would offer on a sunday evening to monday. I'm i would have sunday blues in hang zeiss by time. Monday came Which have of course strived to cure with. Having drinks on a sunday
Is Your Acne Caused By What You're Eating?
"We have a tendency to think that glowing can be achieved as the result of what we put on our skin as opposed to what we put in our bodies in fact we spent over a billion dollars collectively on prescriptions and over the counter products to cure acne but eliminating acne as best approach as an inside job. Dr hemming recently spoke about this with his colleagues at the ultra wellness center. Todd lopin and dr elizabeth bow him. The skin is contiguous with the guts of. I draw a line on the skin. And i keep drawing a line and go down my tongue. Go into my gets done on my stomach and intestine. I'm still on the same surface. So oftentimes you know mark. Is that thought of that. Yeah it's a cool. That's how i explained to patients. So the skin is contiguous with a gun incident echo dermal tissue and when their skin issues think got. It's really a tube tunes outside your body is your gut yes it's true. I mean when patient with psoriasis eczema. Acne rose atia treat their gut. Yeah and i don't put stuff all over their face or on their body exactly as the inflammation. I get rid of that and it's like a. It's a really an american miracle i mean it is a dermatology is not something that i'm an expert in although i was trained as a family doctrine dermatology but i feel like it's we get the most amazing results just for something as simple as fixing the gut and changing the diet. I remember i was having a conversation with my daughter. You know about skincare products you know and okay what what's the best thing to use for my skin and and all of a sudden i realized even though we had been she live with me your whole life you know. I don't think i ever said this. I said what's what you're eating is so much more important than what you're putting on your
Kevin Bacon Reveals Why He Returned Kyra Sedgwick’s Engagement Ring
"Kevin bacon returned kira sedgwick's engagement ring. Because she hated it. Can you guess the jokey lead the kevin bacon e jokey lead. I'll seven degrees of rang hating or this degree of. Let me tell you something. You're on the right planet. You're right there. you're hovering over the. Is it the right joke. It's the right joke continent. You're like hovering over the right continental joe. We're this many degrees from kevin bacon. But we know he'd return cures that what is it is. We're sorry. I thought it'd be easy. I know it's not easy but it is it. Is this call it. Six degrees of miscommunication. Oh happened to say
Manchin after border visit: 'Past time to do immigration reform'
"Senator Joe Manchin thinks his past time for lawmakers to work on immigration reform, Brian shook reports The West Virginia Democrat visited the southern border and argued he sees a human crisis there, He insisted something needs to be done quickly because this problem will not cure itself. Mansion noted immigration reform should provide a pathway to citizenship, including for dreamers who have no other home but America. His trip comes as the Biden administration faces criticism over a surge of migrants at the border. Including thousands of unaccompanied
Manchin after border visit: 'Past time to do immigration reform'
"Joe Manchin thinks it's past time for lawmakers to work on immigration reform. The West Virginia Democrat visited the southern border and argued he sees a human crisis there. He insisted something needs to be done quickly because this problem will not cure
The Rock Doc Who Prescribed 1.4 Million Pain Pills
"Once. You found the right doctor and of told him or her about your pain. Don't be afraid to take what they give you over. Twenty years ago pharmaceutical companies began to market the use of a magical pill. Often it will be an opioid medication. These drugs which repeat our best strongest pain. Medications should be used much more than they are for. Patients in pain opioids would be a new kind of painkiller to treat not just acute pain. After event like surgery but also paying that was more mundane like chronic back pain. That patients would complain about for years but which doctors didn't have a clear cure for some patients may be afraid of taking opioids because the perceived as too strong or addictive that is far from actual fact pharmaceutical companies marketed. These drugs aggressively to doctors. They don't wear out. They go on working. They do not have serious. Medical side effects at the there wasn't a lot of limits. On pharmaceutical company is being able to tell doctors that oga. Hassan is a staff writer at the atlantic whose been covering the opioid epidemic for the last seven years. So doctors were kind of like a lot of them unfortunately went with it and now we see the result the result is that more than four hundred and fifty thousand people are dead from overdose in the last twenty years. And what part of the crisis were you most focused on so ridden a million stories about this but one thing that i was really curious about is how you actually went. From having opioids being a thing that existed to having opio being a thing that existed in people's medicine cabinets.
"cure" Discussed on The Secret Adventures of Black People
"An older person goes up. Say wild shape or just from a different. You know what i mean but but there's a there's a certain sense of talking to like my uncle or like my grandfather and it's like here's a level of respect that That i've personally. Because a mile of experience i really appreciate as opposed to a contemporary when i picture that absolutely picture like old lady Glasses for sure waters. Wait. don't you didn't matter to you for the person was like male or female black or why did you have an opinion. I'm just realizing picture. A black lady. But i wonder if the did full transparency i. I didn't necessarily wanna have a white person. I'm just gonna you know. I am half white however i cognizant of lived experience. You know yes so we An older black man was was more or less noticeable. And that's what you have. That isn't necessarily like therapies working or whatever but how do you get to the place where you're like. I will keep doing this. What does he say or do you make sure the alcohol use again. Why it's wonderful question. And i will. I will say there had been shooting multiple rows like i'm not recall this dude ever. That's right back on. Need a second opinion on this Having a therapist doesn't mean that the work is done like. Oh i got my therapist check. I'm good and the therapist for my experience. Your therapist is biggest. Role is to you. And and and carefully holding you accountable. You know and the work is for you to It's kind of crazy hustle. Because it's like you pay them to listen. Has you thoughtful questions and hold you accountable. And it's like you know the majority of the work is for you to do. I will say. I wish i had had one and then comes. I hadn't had a. I'm i'm i'm i'm down to i've had therapists in the past. I had an years. Because i don't have any But obviously that actually isn't a barrier leg it is but only if you think it is and And i think that i would compared to having like a journal that talks back to you saying you fill me like it's you. You have permission to be as vulnerable as you want and there will be there will be and it's not like some dumb genoa talks back to you and says my irresponsible by just ratchet. Y'all this like you know i. It's not that it's all but there's there's a sense of You know this this journal this journal is curing something for me. You know what i'm saying. Which i think is a pretty powerful to have prompts prompts. that changed you know what i'm saying. It's promise that involves Tension that involves you know i. It's it's i think it's like if you're if you're if you had you know anybody turtles rights like if if you're journal were to come to life and was and was on there was a confidante. You.
Why Organizing Employee At Alabama Amazon Center Wants A Union
"Ballots are due today. For thousands of employees at an amazon warehouse in bessemer alabama. We're voting on whether to unionize. If the organizers are successful it would be the first union for amazon employees in the us. There is a lot at stake. Cure for the workers for amazon and for the rest of the tech industry. So for more on this we turn to our reporter sebastian herrera. He covers amazon and ecommerce for us. Hey bashing thanks for joining. Thanks for having me. Okay so bring us up to speed on this unionization effort. Who's been leading the charge. And what are they pushing for. Well there's a set of pro union workers inside of this facility in bessemer who have been leading the charge alongside of the union which is the retail wholesale and department store union. And they've they've basically been trying since the start of the election obviously to rally workers for pro union vote. They're trying to change. What a lot of employees bring up at work at these facilities which is breaks. Pay other benefits and what they focus on. Two is the rate at which they have to work because at these facilities employees are expected to fulfill items that go into packages hundreds of items per hour. And it's pretty taxing on these employees. Because i do it for ten hours a day you know they pretty much in the same spot isolated for amount of of the day and they are penalized. If they don't fulfil items at a certain rate you could easily be fired for for not making rate so they point to that as something they feel can change. They point to the fact that even though amazon offers fifteen dollars starting pay that it is really not enough to make a living wage. Some of these employees they go to second or even third job to support their families. So i feel like with as of successful advocacy as a company is amazon has been they could be receiving more and so they're ultimately fighting for these various
Vaccines haven't cured loneliness in New York nursing homes
"I'm Julie Walker New York nursing homes are finally reopening to in person visits for family members after a year of being shut down because of covert restrictions but the visits may not feel very personal for some Debbie Barbato finally got to sit down six feet across the table from her mother in a common room with others visiting family members at her mom's nursing home to me it kind of felt like going into a jail or you know visiting an inmate first as going in to see your loved one staff stood by and watched it wanted to hug her but I didn't want to you know have them tell me that you know I'd have to leave the visit Barbato nurse who got the vaccine had the new guidelines whether to prevent confusion but says there is still lots of issues and blames governor Cuomo I don't know why he's still in office with everything out there what he did to these to these residents and now everything else that's going on and not all nursing homes are open yet for family visits I'm Julie Walker
Going After What You Want in Life Without Shame
"I feel like what we have to do here. I is talk a little bit about shame. So a lot of what i've learned about. Shame comes from bernie brown which is probably no surprise. So i feel like. I need to shout out here at the top of the episode because she researches shame like that's been her main life's work and of course she's written a lot of books about it and ted talks about it and all that stuff. But she's like the foremost researcher chaim. And so this is where i've learned a lot about. What is what it means and what we can take away from ant so her work has informed a lot of thoughts and reflections here. So let's turn to brennan for a comprehensive definition of shame. So this is what she says. I defined shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. Something we've experienced done or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection. I don't believe shame as helpful or productive. In fact i think shame is much more likely to be the source of destructive hurtful behavior than the solution or the cure i think the fear of disconnection can make dangerous another interesting quote from brennan. Shame corrodes the very part of us. That believes we are capable of change. The reason this particular hind stuck out to me so much is because if we don't believe we can change. We're not going to go after what we want right. That's if our belief in our mind is that. I'm not capable of change or i'm not worthy of change than we never take that step forward to actually go after what we want in life and part of living unapologetically as this line says that we're talking about today. Unapologetic is going after what you want in life and so when we believe that we will accept where we are without question because we don't think we're worth whatever comes on the other of change for us. We believe that what we have is. Maybe even what we deserve. It also makes me think of that quote from one of my favorite books of all time the perks of being a wallflower. That book has meant so much to me and my life and there's a quote from the book that when i read it as a teenager it certainly meant something to me then but it does not even come close to the understanding. I have of this quote now in my life and that cool is we accept the love. We think we deserve and as a teenager. I was like okay. Yeah like i get it. I'm like kind of a surface level. But now i've had a lot more experience both with accepting love from other people and for accepting love for myself and i have found that to be so incredibly true. We accept the love. We think we deserve. We accept a lot in a lot of ways. We accept the life. We think we deserve right. And i don't wanna like gloss over privilege and access and and having money like the things that that can do for us in the world's because there is certainly certainly for a lot of us relations. Why maybe the exact life we want. It's not just because we we don't think we deserve it right. There's a lot more to it. The not but i think it is hopeful lens to look at some of this stuff through like i simply accepting what i think i deserve here. Do i think the. I deserve less in this situation and so i have found it very enlightening to look at in this in this area of like accepting a life that i think are or am i accepting lake the call for something bigger or something different and so matching like my sense of worth my sense of deserving ness to what i want so yeah but yet we were talking about shame. I got off her but i do. Think that year quote from brunei. About like shame corroding the part of us. That believes we're capable of change I think that's really important to look out along with her definition so now that we've established like what we're talking about when we say shame. Let's think about the first part of the cement going after what you want in life. So let's give this some context. Okay i have had conversations with people where i will ask them what they truly want in their lives and they can't answer me and by the way that's not because they don't want anything bites. I believe it's because they have learned that the are allowed to want things or that they're not worthy of wanting things that they should just accept things the way they are because what they want is impossible for them and again. This is not something. That's like a super conscious thoughts on the surface. It's not like i asked the question. What do you actually want in life. And they're like While what i want is impossible Because they don't believe him worthy of it right not the actual thoughts going through. Someone's had but it's kind of these underlying beliefs that we have about ourselves Sue ya and and it's really interesting. Because i think on the surface to a lot of us think i know what i want. I totally know what i want like. I just wanna be happy or ida. Slake wanna i don't move to a bigger house or like i just want to be out of debt right but like my question is what are you truly. Want in your life lake. Where do you truly see yourself and what. How does that correspond to like the values that you have your core values right and that's when the conversation gets gets more interesting because it's kind of off of that surface level and more into like the depths of lake. How do you actually want to live. And that question can be challenging to
The Concept Of Metabolic Flexibility With Robb Wolf
"Let's dive a bit deeper into metabolic health in general. I would say the us stephanie. Facing metabolic health. Dem's it's become so so tough that you know. Diabetes is on the rise diabetes type two and obesity is on the rise and aloft. It can be let back to metabolic flexibility or the lack of it. Maybe can talk about more about the concept actually pollick expolit the actually means and why it is important. Yeah being metabolic flexible in in kind of a textbook definition really speaks to the ability to use a variety of different fuel sources that mainly really carbohydrate and fat though although by extension ketone very seamlessly with with little drama little difficulty really not a big change in in performance or perception. My wife is an example of somebody who's very metabolic flexible. She can go kito goes in. She goes out no headache. Lethargy no problems She can eat a fair amount of carbs and doesn't suffer. You know a really crazy blood. Sugar excursion she doesn't get like blood. Sugar crashes unless she really you know if she a ghost for the extra large mexican meal of beans and rice and tortillas and you know and right and then she can feel kinda rough from that like she can overdo it but she needs to really try to do that and in researching some material for my second book wired to eat. We did some side by side. Comparisons where i would eat say fifty grams of carbohydrate from white rice. She would eat the same amount. She's a good thirty or forty pounds lighter than i am but she would still her blood. Sugar would over a two hour period of time. Never really get above about one hundred and fifteen hundred twenty you know. Throughout the course of that whole experience was mind would top off round one. Ninety one ninety five. I would then suffer. Really cloud rafic crash blurred vision cognitive problems. I mean i was. I was kind of a disaster on that. And so this was you know it was cool in that it gave a little bit more concrete explanation for what i'd seen clinically. Which is that. This person seems to run great on carbs. This person doesn't and you know here's there's kind of like an actual yeah and just to be clear. You're not diabetic. North korea pre-diabetic new. But i think if i ate carbs pretty consistently i would get there rather rather rapidly. Yeah or or the minimum. I would suffer a lot of deleterious health effects. Light like a a vision problems and and whatnot. Yeah yeah so. How do you explain now. Like metabolic flexibility. Like how does it cure or is it just something that some people have in some. Don't i not entirely sure. I think that there's multiple factors at play here for sure. Genetics is a piece of this. People who have more of the emily's gene more frequency of the emily's gene seemed to do better with carbohydrates. They seem to digest them better but they also have a more favourable insulin response. It seems to keep the insulin. Or the blood glucose levels within tighter parameters and. Here's an interesting thing that i For me it was kind of this. This pretty deep inside. I don't know if it is for other people but an individual like myself to have good blood glucose levels after he reasonably low carb like probably below fifty grams of total carbs. Day sometimes more. Like if i'm really active or whatnot but it in that situation. Abbott pretty consistent blood glucose response throughout the day. People were very metabolic flexible or very insulin. Sensitive they looked like i look like eating significant amounts of carbs. And that's really the big difference there in the people who eat significant amounts of carbs and don't suffer the blood sugar crashes which then lead into the over over consumption of food writ. Large i think is where we kind of see the distinction between folks Twenty years ago. I was definitely a bit indie. Insulin hypothesis camp. I think over the over the course of time. I've i've come to the conclusion to. Yeah chronically elevated. Insulin levels are definitely a problem but insulin. In and of itself is not the primary driver of of Say type two diabetes and insulin resistance and whatnot you kind of a classic gary tops approach I don't buy into that but at the same time ni- fully on board with say like it fits your macrophages crowd. That will just say so. Long as composition doesn't really matter you just need to keep control of your portions and a free living world free living population. How you keep control of portions is really important. Not that many people have the discipline or the neuroses to do basically like a figure competitors lifestyle like that. That's a big lift for a lot of folks and so finding a way that people can spontaneously match caloric intake and output. I think is kind of where the ticket is. And that's where people kind of find own their their metabolic flexibility optimum belay yet. He asked a really good question. I did a poor job of answering it at you. Know what is metabolic flexibility. What goes into a defining it genetic so definitely a big piece. The gut microbiome appears to be a big piece. The caveat to that is we know it's important. I don't think very many people have any idea what to do to improve that. Like probiotics works for some people pre baddeck fiber work for others and for some people all of those absolute disaster and do nothing. So i think there's a lot of Charlatanism that goes around the gut microbiome. We know absolutely that. It's important. But i think the only thing that we can really hang our hat on is if we do something and has a clinical outcome of improving gut else and improving metabolic flexibility. That's great but we're not really at a great predictive place with that like i. I think there's a lot of goofiness that on the testing and whatnot. There is some lesser known or considered things like iron overload particularly in in men or postmenopausal women excess iron accumulation in the body is a pro oxidant in that pro oxidative status can increase inflammation and increased inflammatory state Degrades insulin sensitivity and by extension the Metabolic flexibility so. There's some big picture things that we know. Feed into metabolic flexibility and again. I think that we have burying degrees of control over those different lever.
Which Malware Is Scarier, State-Sponsored or Criminal?
"We've got an awesome yesterday. His name is brandon levin and nobody expects this but his title is power inquisitor cure. Google will. I'm sure he has some kind of a boring title in our official records. I don't with a number and all that so we'll we'll stick to inquisitor. I like that you're they don't really enforce it too heavily unlimited so i can put ever want which is really a nice perk but why not achieve malware inquisitor like a quiz lead or something. I don't want to overstate my capabilities. So it works out a little better just to under promise over deliver so recently. Seeing saying that for many organizations made be crime where matters more than the nation state threats. What do you care to defend this argument. Would you say that for some reasons. They don't have to care about state-sponsored threats. Or how do you think about it. You're giving me a soapbox early. But that's an easy one fremantle so there are a few key factors which contribute to. Why state that. This is the case you know i. The average customer breaches estimated that just over four million dollars with the average ransom. Payment is about two hundred thirty. Three thousand dollars actually. The highest ransom was roughly thirty million according to pronounce networks. I've seen my self twenty million financial motives. Actors must extract payment for victims and they will go to accept Increase routes this beans going after backup sensitive data and leaks. This is an opposition to say a recent type of thing where the nobel lewinsky's of tax where a price stealth over anything and really. The the biggest problem here is that modern businesses are dependent on the data. Customer data customer lists are dis timetables. Data is a core of an organization's ability to operate. So a threat actor will follow the money and has led to the targeting data in two complementary ways you have disruption of an organization's ability to access data things like hospital records in the case of uhs local governments which have hit multiple municipalities in the us and that a surface as a prime monetization opportunity in the form of the reds aware itself.
1 Resident Dead, 2 Firefighters Injured After Massive Nursing Home Inferno In New York
"Nursing home home reported reported dead. dead. Two Two firefighters firefighters hurt hurt after after a massive a massive fire fire tour tour through through the Evergreen the Evergreen Court Court for adults for adults early early this this morning. morning. That fire That fire broke broke out out shortly shortly before before one a.m. one a.m. the building the building collapse. collapse. Fire Fire coordinator coordinator Chris Chris Cure Cure on scene. on scene. He He just just wrapped wrapped up a up press a press conference conference Moments Moments ago, ago, There was There a whole was a section whole section of the one of the one part part of the building of the building that collapsed. that collapsed. The other rooms, The other rooms, the the hallways, hallways, staircases. staircases. There was a There was a It was a It pretty was a pretty major major collapse collapse way. way. See the See building the building and back and back here in the here back in the of back the building, of the building, the wall the wall collapse collapse and some and areas some of areas the front. of the front. The building The building collapsed collapsed to to firefighters firefighters were hurt. were hurt. Fire Fire officials officials say. say. Firefighters Firefighters rescued rescued 20 20 to 25 to 25 residents residents from that from burning that burning building building become become a course a course victims. victims. They get They him. They get pull him. They them pull out them out and they bring and they him bring out. him out. You go back You go back in. I sort in. I sort Numerous Numerous firefighters firefighters come out come out drop drop pages, pages, Wolf Wolf PMS PMS was taken. was taken. I'm picking I'm picking him up him up and firefighters and firefighters going back going here. back here. 125 125 firefighters firefighters A total A total of 23 of 23 departments, departments, responding responding that fire that fire not not yet yet declared declared under under control. control. One One firefighter firefighter released released from the hospital. from the hospital. The other The other will will remain remain hospitalized hospitalized for observation for observation after suffering after suffering apparently apparently a heart a heart attack, attack, state state investigators investigators on on scene scene Police say Police charges say charges are are
2 Firefighters Injured After Massive Fire Erupts In Rockland County, New York
"In Rockland County. Now at least One resident of this nursing home reported dead. Two firefighters hurt after a massive fire tour through the Evergreen Court for adults early this morning. That fire broke out shortly before one a.m. the building collapse. Fire coordinator Chris Cure on scene. He just wrapped up a press conference Moments ago, There was a whole section of the one part of the building that collapsed. The other rooms, the hallways, staircases. There was a It was a pretty major collapse way. See the building and back here in the back of the building, the wall collapse and some areas of the front. The building collapsed to firefighters were hurt. Fire officials say. Firefighters rescued 20 to 25 residents from that burning building become a course victims. They get him. They pull them out and they bring him out. You go back in. I sort Numerous firefighters come out drop pages, Wolf PMS was taken. I'm picking him up and firefighters going back here. 125 firefighters A total of 23 departments, responding that fire not yet declared under control. One firefighter released from the hospital. The other will remain hospitalized for observation after suffering apparently a heart attack, state investigators on scene Police say charges are
Pakistan Prime Minister Khan tests positive for coronavirus
"Prime minister has tested positive for the coronavirus. A senior health adviser says he saw self isolating at home. NPR's DEA, Hadid has more from Islamabad. Sighting of us from the Muslim holy book, the Koran. And when I'm ill, it is he who cures me, the prime minister's office announced. Imran Khan, who was 68 years old, tested positive for covert 19. It came just two days after the prime minister received his first dose of the covert 19 vaccine. Likely the Chinese sign of farm using the Hashtag vaccines work. Pakistan's Ministry of National Health Services. Quickly tweeted out that with only two days after the first dose, it was too soon for the vaccine to be effective. That would take about two weeks. Hours before the announcement, authorities had shut down restaurants across the Pakistani capital as the contagious UK variant of the virus continues to spread.
Pakistan Prime Minister Khan tests positive for coronavirus
"Pakistani prime minister has tested positive for Coben 19, NPR's DEA. Indeed reports from Islamabad sighting of us from the Muslim holy Book, the Koran. And when I'm ill, it is he who cures me, the prime minister's Office announced. Imran Khan, who was 68 years old, tested positive for covert 19. It came just two days after the prime minister received his first dose of the covert 19 vaccine likely the Chinese sign of farm using the HASHTAG vaccines work. Pakistan's Ministry of National Health Services quickly tweeted out that with only two days after the first dose, it was too soon for the vaccine to be effective. That would take about two weeks. Hours before the announcement, authorities had shut down restaurants across the Pakistani capital. Has a contagious UK variant of the virus continues to spread, Do you indeed NPR NEWS
The Vigil (Featuring Josh Bell)
"Talk the vigil okay. Josh bell is back with us on the podcast josh. How's it going man. It's going all right. How are you. I'm alright watching a ton of movies. As i know you are always including including this weird one. The vigil this is. This is something i found out about through you through your review and immediately spoke to me. Of course i do love. Jewish demons are. You are jewish demon. Maybe that's right. Thank you josh. I'm putting that as a poll quo. My next prided right. Where did you find out about. It was something that like a- did you know this was coming. Or is it something just kinda popped up out of nowhere. I mean it's a it's an ifc released. So i get you know press releases and she'll rules from their pr folks. So i knew that it was coming. I think it had played a number of festivals. Maybe even going all the way back to playing some person festivals. I think it was it was doing that circuit for a while. So i may or may not have heard about it before then but certainly when i saw it as an upcoming ifc release. It intrigued me and And i pitched the review and got the chance to write about it. Which was cool and i certainly also i'm interested in this whole jewish horror angle. Which is not a common thing but is a thing which will talk about more. There's so many horror movies now. It seems like every week. There's like you know so many horror movies that come out and so many deal with you know either you know possession or some form of religious iconography so like to get this jewish angle definitely at least makes it something interesting and different right. I mean and i yeah certainly i. I write about a ton of horror movies whether it's full reviews like this or in my little. Vod column that. i write And it seems like in this past year with people in the lockdown. And whatever. And i i don't know if it's The world is scary and people want to see that reflected in movies or they want to watch movies where the scary stuff ends. But certainly there have been a lot of horror movies. And but i think this one does kind of rise above with the way that it approaches the subject matter in this in this unique way even though it does also do a lot of very familiar horror. Movie things sure. Yeah and and that score gets very very loud at times as many horror movies do it does. And there's some some some jump moments or whatever and i didn't feel like they were cheap necessarily. I felt like they fit with. What the character that. You're you're in the perspective of this main character as he's in these circumstances but i can understand if you felt like this was too many basic horror movie things and not enough to set it apart. I think you didn't like this movie as much as i did. Oh no i. I did like it but maybe not as much as you did because yeah it does it does have a lot of those tropes in it but i i do very much appreciate when a horror movie can at least try to do something different. You know. it's this movie definitely does and We'll get into a lot of those differences as were going through this thing. Why don't we jump into puzzle pieces. What you for your first one. Well my first one is Sort of as we were just saying sort of the bad version of this movie called the possession from two thousand twelve. That is a completely forgettable. Generic horror movie. That i had to look up on wikipedia to remember. Virtually anything about. Even though i saw it in the theater But it also involves this jewish mysticism and jewish the as the source of its horror. And i remember watching it and thinking. This movie is really dumb but at the same time i appreciate that it's dumb. It's using a different source material to be tom. It involves it involves a book. Which is i think. The the sort of jewish demon or whatever that people are most aware of An an a box that Is a thing that contains this demon and of course the dumb characters. They buy the box at a garage sale and get some some. Not good stuff happens and cure. Ascetic is is the main star of it. And jeffrey dean. Morgan and i don't remember for sure. But i don't think the characters are even jewish. I think it's just their random people and they picked up. You know just like in a weird way like the exoticism of an older horror movie. Which were they would buy like a more. We're told them from africa or would have a demon in it and it would mess with them so it's not a good movie but i think it points to the way that you could do this poorly just kind of reach out and i don't know if the filmmakers behind that film or jewish at all verses This filmmaker who get someone who went to rabbinical school and he's got this very strong jewish background So i can't recommend it. But i think i i wonder if he maybe saw that movie or looked to that movie and thought okay. Here's a mainstream movie with some of these ideas and that is a way to think that maybe people will accept my movie. Yeah no absolutely. I don't remember if i ever actually saw that one. I probably did at some point. But i think it's interesting though just to speak to the the fact that the characters possibly weren't even jewish like it's funny that us jews like. I don't even think we know this dark. Like creepy side of judaism. Because we just don't really pay attention to that stuff. It seems like at least most of us. I think i mean maybe it's just because there's so many more horror movies about christian mythology. But i feel like the demonic side of christianity is a lot more prominent even an stream christians so i'm just looking and and and to be fair to the possession of the main characters. I don't think our jewish but they do eventually consult a rabbi played by modest yahoo of course okay these are things i didn't even remember but i'm just thinking we competed. How can you forgive modest. Yahoo i know that's up to him. I mean he's i mean obviously if they're like we need a jewish pop culture guy who you know. He seems like the right one to go to. I suppose
Keepin it 100 with Kirti Dewan from Bugsnag
"In this episode. Nelson interviewed. cure. T. day one. Vp of marketing at bucks neck. Which as you may have guessed helps fix software. Bugs charity is a veteran of the consulting industry and she understands the difficulty of gaining new clients. But what's what's secret sauce being your authentic self and not afraid of cold prospecting have listen. This hope consulting world really cool. You mentioned that one of the greatest difficulties was at the same time that you have to execute you also have to to do some business development and get some clients and hopefully land a client. That's that's quite large With the duration of the contract as long enough to keep you entertained in happy so that you don't have to hunt right. What advice would you have to someone. Who's in a similar boat was thinking about that. And that's one of their. Maybe i guess the biggest thing is how do i get clients so any any advice to the audience some on the maybe the hardest art about consulting so there are these consultant networks and if you become a part of the network and you are able to specify of company the functionary that you likely working probably certain audience that you like air into more than the out and they do the be for you and they make these opportunities consulting gigs available and then you can apply and they do the matching for you and then if it works out at tell you have your next opportunity so i did about a gun. Remember exactly now is probably do betwee containing projects that way by being barred of these networks. One of my favorite stories from my consulting experience has been that. don't give up on cold calling. It actually works. And i was completely surprised and shocked by when it worked for me and i couldn't believe and that's why to this day. It's one of my favorite stories to. I met someone at a product marketing conference or rather on stage. The said that so and so from this company is has all these job. Openings andering copy lower you know go and say hi and check with that person so when gawk our came about as you can imagine there were four rings of people that were swarming this person right and Before you know it. The person's already latch so did have a look at the jobs. And i said all the all four of food i'm employee positions. What can i do here and just out of a whim. I send linked in and i said hit. I love what you said on stage. I loved her talk. I gotta get a hold of you dance by. You're just totally surrounded. And i know your jobs are for jobs. I cannot apply to any of them. Because i'm conducting an consulting for these reasons however if you need head in any of these areas i'm more than happy to have a jack and response and i had a meeting and it just went from there so always quit for the person who gave me a chance and do the the fact that you know. He responded and he was just so open minded about it. And i think the takeaway from there is do. Just be yourself. just be authentic. You know. I literally wrote the lincoln message as though it was a conversation like you. Nra speaking and that is what it was. Hey here are the facts. But i would. I would love to if you have something. I would love to chat in if you don't have something right now but something down the road if we could just don't form a connection if not and you have any before that will be great but if you don't even have that that's totally fine so just plain speak only genuine and sincere and going to work every single dime right because people have different circumstances as well that didn't work within the parameters within their own jobs and companies but i feel that it it. It does that sometime. People do like to have other pedo.
"cure" Discussed on THE SMART ART SHOW
"Good morning friends. How are you guys doing today? I want to appreciate you guys once again for the love and the support and I will never stop seeing that because I truly love you guys and I'm grateful and I want to use this opportunity to send my love to the families in Louisiana that was affected by the hurricane Laura, you know, those that lost their loved ones those that they are home damaged. Those are lost one thing or another as a result of this ugly incidents. Our heart goes out to you guys and we pray that God will comfort you today. I want to be on the cure for procrastination, you know, this is a very interesting topic because procrastination is a terrible thing procrastination is a robot of goals and dreams and Visions apps customization can make a mountain out of a molehill. You know, I came across a definition of procrastination on the social media and he hit me hard. It says procrastination is the art. Has option that God knows you another opportunity to do what you have time to do. You know, the reason I said procrastination is a terrible thing is it can take something that would cost you money on F was and time and turn it into a big deal procrastination doesn't care if you were wise person or rich or poor person it sneaks up on anybody. This is why when you think you are wise person or knowledgeable person you must invest that wisdom or that knowledge in level that being said level is one of the cure for procrastination, but I'm not just talking about any label and talking about targeted and meaningful label, you know, because one of the causes procrastination is lack of return or a words when time and effort is invested in labor, you know people tend to develop code feeds where they don't get rewards for the time and effort they invested in labor. And this is why I said it must be a target a dog. Meaningful level because when you have a targeted tax, which is Meaningful to you, you'll be able to measure your progress and when you are able to measure your progress toward any given tax, it increases your enthusiasm, you know, an enthusiastic person don't procrastinate because they motivate themselves and they find pleasure in what they do then secondly faith faith imagination invested in activities also cures procrastination, when you invest your faith and Imagination into level, it produces Miracles. So no matter how may be your faith is or how Wild your imaginations are when you don't Channel them into activities. He causes you to use your nerve and motivation and that will lead to a custom nation and other thing that causes procrastination is neglect neglecting to do the easy stuff till it becomes they had stuff and people neglect because they don't see values in those dead. You know like someone neglecting to brush twice daily. You don't see the value in that from that leg. Let it begins to procrastinate. You know, what we'll do it tomorrow morning and I will do it the next morning and that how it becomes he would do that too. He would develop a to disease now something that was easy is now hard so identify the value in any tax you want to do that's where you'll be able to terminate procrastination. So identifying the value in any tax helps you to cure procrastination identify the value in taking a walk or doing exercise identify the value in eating healthy identify the value in studying identify the value in communicating and building relationships with that's where you don't neglect things necklace is like a virus and when you don't take care of it, it becomes a disease. These are the things that has happened to me. That is why I can log Able to resonate with this topic very well, then finally another cause of procrastination is lack of skill when you don't require a good amount of skill in what you do becuse your confidence and that leads to procrastination when you lack confidence to undertake any level it causes you to procrastinate. So the Cure is to go for a more skills acquire as more skills as possible to boost your confidence. It is very important to know the causes of a disease so you can cure it and procrastination is a disease. So this is what I want you to take home today the summary of everything I have said today is number one. One of the causes of procrastination is lack of return or reward when time and effort is invested in level and the Cure is to make sure you involve yourself in Target and meaningful level not just any level because even in the dog What proof of Chapter 14 verse twenty-three it says in all labor there is profit, you know, this profit doesn't necessarily mean money profit The Profit can be fulfillment wage can be mental growth. It can be subjective rewards that you get from doing attacks, but it must be meaningful to you. Then. Number two are not a cause of procrastination is neglect neglect in a small stuff till it becomes the big stops and people neglect because they don't know the value of the tax. So the Cure is to identify the value of the tax acts yourself. How long is this tax to me or what are the advantages? I will enjoy later by doing this thing. Now then finally number three. I'm not a course of procrastination is lack of lack of skill cues your confidence and the Cure is to go for more skills in that field you are in or the fuel you intend to go in get a coach if possible that will hold U age. Countable so when you practice these things you will no longer be a slave to procrastination you will struggle to make sure you keep all those things instead of struggling with procrastination. So I thank you today for your time and thank you for listening. I just want you to share these short teaching with your friends with your colleagues at work because almost everyone suffers procrastination, and you wouldn't know who you are helping when you do that. So thank you for listening and God bless you. I will see you next week by if you like this podcast, make sure to subscribe leave us a review and share it with family and friends. Just noticed and remembered the significance can't.
"cure" Discussed on Coffee with The Couple Cure
"And while we could look at the wives anger at the husbands which it's like Da. They're going to be a little frustrated. How often is it that the husband is Angry with the wife that happens a lot come to copy with a couple of care. I share practical tips for your relationship before you finish your first. Here's John I am. I everybody and welcome to A.. Another podcast on cast episode of Coffee With a couple of cure and another video on the couple cure youtube channel. Hey everyone I'm Laurie. I'm gene today. We're GONNA talk about anger. Basically anger toward God on the part of the partner where this is coming from. Oh my I write for network and I written an article for that network and the phrase as it used for a certain part was I was angry at God and what I meant. was you know I was angry at him. For allowing the betrayals allies allowing me need to be in the dark for so long and the word processing software. Didn't like the word at in so I tried okay angry with. I was angry with God for allowing all these things things. And so you know time went on but then my mind went back to the angry at God angry with God angry at God angry with God and I feel feel like what God said in that moment to me was you. Were angry at me but what you didn't understand was I was angry right along with you. You were angry right along with me and so I wrote on that and under stress you a part of it I remember back to the at times I screamed at him but I also remembered something interesting I remember in those moments of screaming at him. I never felt like he was upset with me. And those moments I felt something else else I felt it changed from my being angry at God to my being angry with God being angry right alongside him over what had happened being angry three over my husband's actions together. It was as if he'd been angry. I he mourned with me he tore his garments with me he. He held me after I screamed at him and we cried because God was angry at being replaced too. And then I go on. You know asking the ladies if they'd ever experienced anything like this and then something funny happened when I posted it to that network it auto corrected on that platform form as well too angry as God and somebody else caught it like I had published it. And someone's like oh I don't know if he meant to do this or not. Or autocorrect it again. But it has angry as God and I feel like it was you know not. I'm angry as a God but but I feel like that. Was God saying no your level of anger toward this is how angry I am about two and if you read how God feels about people who pour out their lust with prostitutes or pour. We're out there lost with other women you'll understand. He is mad about it not that he doesn't love those guys but there's a part of him. That's really angry about this so I thought I would cover that today and just kind of Duke it out with my husband over or discuss it when my husband and kind of pick his brain on it. Yeah both of you have good reason. Be Angry with me I did replace God In fact I even treated him as a presumptuous. Child would to go to his father. And saying I know I screwed up but you just gotTa take it basically because even though I was confessing to God I wasn't really you know I wasn't confessing delory at that time and I wasn't really taking all of that interaction seriously with God so I can understand. Why both of them would be angry with me? And I feel like that. That anger is very righteous. You Know I. I didn't just stand before people and agreed to hold this marriage pure and be the one and the only interaction with Lori but I stood before God and I didn't keep that promise either. Okay where where are guys angry. In the reason I bring this up is because we see the men's anger and probably ninety nine percent of the the couples. Also come our way. I think some of the guys are angry with God because they're you know they go to God oddness had gotten take this away from me and God doesn't And I think they're angry because they they want to be easy. They want they want it to somehow be slapped out of their hand and not from a heart of surrender render and really recognizing something but I think they got angry with God because he's not somehow stopping them from from being free to do whatever they want which is what God has said he values in us. You know you values us to be free. I think they're angry with that. I think they're angry that there's and I don't know if they can be angry with God about this or not not just that. It's so prevalent it so easy to get to. It's not talked about in the church. It's you you know. There's so much shame that goes along with it that I think they're angry. Somehow feeling like God is going to ultimately reject them for their sins and they don't see that the that they're actively rejecting God's so I think I think it's. It's a twisted wasted anger. How many of them are angry at themselves? Or how often do you see that. I wish I could control this us. Yeah I think that's kind of very deep rooted anger for most of these guys is knowing they can't control it. There are so angry with themselves. Like I have all this self control in all these other areas of my life. Why does this one continued? Denuded just to be so hard to deal with and You know a lot of anger over over choices that they made and the consequences of those choices the you know I think. Sometimes they're just angry that the consequences are actually coming through but There definitely angry with themselves. I was angry that that they made the choices they did. And well. We could look at the wives anger. The husbands which it's like duh other GonNa be a little frustrated depending on how many betrayal cycles and cycles of lying and that sort of thing how often is it that the husband is angry with the life. That happens a lot really well. Well let me put it a different way The anger comes out not necessarily early at the wife. Some of it is like like I said about you know between us when you would bring it up for whatever reason the only any way I could see was you're only bringing this up to make me feel and therefore your trying to somehow somehow hurt me so I can be angry or upset about that and that's not true. What you were bringing it to me for was hey this Hurt and I need to talk about it but the the time line of trauma is non-existent you know for most of these guys is like but that was years ago and apologized for it. Why would you bring it up right now unless your only motive to bring this up is to hurt me so therefore I can get angry about it? That's one way way in which the guys get angry. I think the other way in which they get angry is the women see more clearly clearly so when the guy says well I did this that and the woman says wait a minute. That's not what you you told me about this other thing or I noticed that you did this or that and the guys are like that can't possibly be true. Oh and instead of looking at themselves and saying that's disruptive to me they lash out at the person pointing now they're shooting the Messenger and I think that tends to happen a lot more frequently than the guys would like to admit okay. One thing in to keep in mind is something our marriage therapists said and that is all upset is due to unmet expectations. Obviously the women if they're upset over other women being brought into the marriage their expectation is. I thought what you said at the wedding altar that you would forsake all others. I've been doing that because I thought that was our thing you know. I thought we were going to do that for each other. So that's her obvious expectation. That wasn't met but guys if you're being upset with her then you really need to figure out what is my upset. What was my expectation was you know was it that she would get over? It quickly was was it that I would be able to lie to her and then she just trust me anyway. In that you know in the future I think that the anger may may be what I've heard described as angry as shames bodyguard that that anger is A. I don't WanNa feel vulnerable. I don't want to open myself to more scrutiny. So I'm just going to get angry and I think that is probably eighty percent. You know it may not not be. I wish she was over this right now. But it's like why do we keep pointing the spotlight at me. And it's it's that same thing I don't want my shame out in the open and so I'm going to get angry and getting angry gets the spotlight off of me. uh-huh who says kind of used as a smoke and mirrors or deflections along with the shame. Something else I've seen in some guys. That just makes them look bad. You you know she's bringing it up he doesn't WANNA look bad he doesn't WanNa look like the bad guy And he might bring you know stuff that she's done up at that point So that can be part of his angers. Just that that pride that pride that We see somewhat often in our work so guys if you are having issues as with anger my first recommendation would be to look internally your probably angry because this means something about you you're gonNA have to take some ownership and either out of pride like defending yourself herself all guys do this my pastor. Does this whatever. Excuse you WanNa give yourself or that. You don't WanNa be pushed out into the light and talk about about all the shameful things you've done and therefore you're you're using anger to shut down the conversation. There's a place for you to look at. Why anger has become your go-to emotion and honestly is probably because it's been very effective It's probably been used. Maybe by the people who raise you or maybe your siblings. But you've seen that it's very very effective in controlling the conversation controlling. What's being said are basically keeping somebody quiet and the anger that God and your wife have our legitimate well? This one's gone on long and so we're going to wrap it up now Yeah if you're having anger issues reach out to somebody it is potentially just covering other things that you really not wanting going to deal with. So there's hope you know that you're not just an angry person that there is something they're driving and there are some easy not easy. There are simple solutions for that. Actually get you really really far in rebuilding. Trust all right everybody thank you. We'll see again on the next episode by.
"cure" Discussed on Coffee with The Couple Cure
"Even many years into my recovery Laurie still helps me see things approach is instead of going hey you're trying to control me he thanks me everyone thank you for joining us on the podcast coffee with a couple cure and on women find their voice and so I thought on this one we would give examples well the so the first one was we had someone who that person said it seems very codependent which the same so this person had had made some very clear as going to take the writers Part and I was found out I immediately told my ex that I was willing to do whatever it took I right you did that this kind of productivity is required for trust to be rebuilt so I think it has to do with the way porn inhibits healthy brain development as well as the stickiness given your healing in my situation Jay was not for a very long time thirty forty to fifty fifty and so on until there was one hundred percent trust our marriage therapist progressing forward it seems to have gotten worse this behavior fed but what the study is Sh studies are showing is that there's something else going on with porn addiction that model doesn't work in intimate relationships because when a couple is truly unified than to injure slash betray slash traumatized the partner more because it places partners who are treated this way end up being traumatized by all the inner inaccurate information it able to codependent by you I know in my heart that if he got around the controls he has the PTSD but when I do it lasts only a minute not days like in the past the situation instead of giving them a tool that doesn't work in our closest relationships I hated myself for why can't I stop why that's the PTSD and trauma addict the consequences of risky behaviors and more he was able to rebuild trust by a person can can be punished before it becomes no longer about the wrong and I guess I'll have to be okay what matters is I am clear with how all of this progressed Internet and social media by chance that someone might speak of or post horsing alcohol and movies doesn't mean that they're going to act out he and I think I have to say porn as a different monster the only way this is an apples to apples comparison what are the chances the alcoholic would get free if ingested alcohol as frequently as awesome where to get it lifted to his lips or ingest it and it's not forced upon can therapy triggers become desensitized meaning the seeing this over and over with sober addicts they call it recent sedation chill triggers were in it all along this person said we don't watch something because and what I wrote was because I advocate for partners I have to say the only way the situation would have as many shooting up scenes as it does skin that because all of its internal you could lie about it and have be called names forever doubting you all of this painful so painful think it's all about the images if those things happen on a regular basis there are much and yet they're shamed for wanting to protect themselves for for basically being kicked where it hurts loved with betrayal trauma I don't feel uncomfortable at all it just don't feel weird about this at all trust me I'm used to these types you know how many months after that it might have even been during this time I think back to the The chemical they were used to is that Lori would be we'll unaware of a lot of our behaviors and what we're noticing and what and that's critical for me to recover because it is not like being with any of the stuff I've seen I would be breaking sobriety snows. He has blind spots and instead of going. Hey you're trying to control me. He thanks me one way that that self-sacrifice mm-hmm will also cover how this impacts the family the family unit family and we will get into that in the next episode right in the next episode.
"cure" Discussed on Coffee with The Couple Cure
"As we heard another mentor say had one client who would be using porn during the group sessions there delusion. Is that somehow by showing up there. They're doing enough to manage their issues. Come to coffee with a couple cure where we share practical tips for your relationship before. Were you finish your First Cup here. Stay Laurie Pionk. I everybody welcome to another episode of coffee with a couple of here again. In this season were covering the topic epic betrayal and I guess I just want to start off by saying again that you know the messages. I've heard outside. The church have been that you know portions okay unless there's two things involved and one is addiction. You know as long as you don't get addicted to it and number number. Two you know but lying is not okay. There's a third one that I want to talk about and that's sell flies. I dated a person who was in active recovery way back when for another another type of addiction and so I became acquainted with a twelve step groups and their philosophies if he's in that sort of thing and one of the things they were very clear on was the self lies that people tell themselves the self-deception and I have heard it said before. It's one thing to be deceived is another thing to be self deceived because if you're deceived you might be able to find out about it but if you're self deceived then then it's really a problem and from what I've seen in j you can confirm this for me from what I've seen. The the self deception deception comes in many different ways the yeah I agree. There's self-deception of you know what I'm doing is not so bad. You know. I'm not having an actual affair so there's some justification or rationalization that's done there. There's other her self deceptions that somehow you know the deception. I had of lying to you being better than than telling you the truth and just dealing with the hard reality that fall out right and I think there's even the deception of being involved in recovery somehow. Oh how lightens the yeah. It changes it. It's like while I am doing something about it. Just Kell little less guilty about acting out can feel and and I'm not saying everybody I'm recovery is doing that but I've seen guys who same to actively attend recovery covering and continued to really struggle in quitting their addiction and it's one of those things I really don't understand where a guy will come in and and week after week he's stumbling. He's struggling but they they keep coming back. You know and so it's it's almost like they're they're delusion. Is that somehow by showing up there doing enough to manage their their issues and one of the things you brought up this morning was we heard another mentor. Say you know had one client who would be easing porn during the group sessions Russians or during their sessions. I can't remember which one they said but it's different forms of self-deception. You know I've seen it time and time again where guys guys will accuse the wife of doing something the very same time. They're doing it themselves. Oh Yeah it's get the spotlight off a me. I'm I'm you know I. It's not just the spotlight but it's almost like there's. There's something you're doing wrong. That's either as bad or worse than on what I'm doing right and we're not going to deal with or look at my issues until you know they want it to be balanced. We're both GONNA look at our issues as opposed post to let's look at the thing that's really tearing the marriage down and and what the cards fall winter may right what I was. GonNa add though was yes. They really believe it. They re the guy's really believe it sometimes not all of them. I'd say it's May Be Twenty Two hundred ten twenty percent yeah yeah but those that ten or twenty percent the women really start feeling like they're going crazy and even people around him. It's like this is just it's mind blowing some of the ways that guys get self deluded and expect others to believe it. If that's your case get proof. That's one of the things the trauma training taught me get proof and then also get third third party observers who can confront heard a story recently where a guy had acted out with or at least you know got a little inappropriate with a married in family remember and that was my first thing you know have you and then your sibling and then their spouse who you know this. The husband tried to act doubt with have them all confronts him because then and maybe even bring in a neutral roll third party to say you know this is not okay. We all know what's going on here. In you can't lie your way out of it and this was in ways he had done before so he had already established a pattern he was starting to go back to that old behavior and that's when you bring the bigger guns and really prep them beforehand beforehand. This is repeating behavior. He used to do this a lot. This is heart of his acting out. This is what leads to his relapse so so that's what you can do. There's just get other is on the subject and let them know the typical pattern that this takes because the person's GonNa lie. They might even think it was just a simple hug. It was just a simple hug. you know they might even think it themselves. They might need to know like no. This is for people that are not okay with that right right and I think that's the you know it's why we you talk about getting a wider sport network because you do need people who have a different perspective you do need some people who are not not in the midst of the issue to to give some clarity. The support network will help you keep the marriage together or move on right right and that that may be possible for some of these guys. They're delusion. The damage they've done in that process has there's too much water under the bridge and I would love to say everybody can be saved saved but really it boils down to do they want to do. They WANNA be saved some of them. You know the very what we started this whole thing talking about. Is there actively in recovery but they're not recovering. Just the active being in recovery allows them to stay stuck. I've had guys that have have come out said they were lying to their sponsor. They were lying to therapists and yet believing that they were in recovery every and then when all of this comes out that again is another betrayal the the person feels like oh my gosh they've been lying this this whole time and they've been lying to the pros yeah yeah and the pros didn't pick it up. That is a scary thing for women yeah you know so there's there's a place where all of this this creates A. I don't feel safe and when I don't feel safe. The betrayal trauma dynamics begin to grow and grow and grow and guy. That's lied to that many people. It's really hard to now say no really until the truth and I'm I'm really being honest. And how do you go about doing that. In a way that someone can say I believe you now and and it's tricky and and I think that's where this whole recovery process can be so painful is yes. I'm in recovery. That doesn't doesn't mean you can trust me and doesn't mean I'm safe. That doesn't mean that I have stopped all the other behaviors all the other stuff. That's done so much. Damage might even mean that there's other behaviors have increased. I mean what we've seen is. When she finds her voice he can't get angry can get that's when even the sweet guys might awesome hangar right right because they're finally having to live within boundaries that are hard for them to do. They've always found their way around around them in the past and now now they're kind of feeling caged in and that anger is like a way of trying to move the bars yeah so so we kinda strayed a little bit self-deception is option yeah. How did it happen in your life. You know I I tell guys. The first person I lied to was me and then you know I returned to my addiction after a six year period of clean being clean but in that process there was a delusion. There was a self deception that in lying to you I was doing the better thing than telling you the truth because telling you the truth would cause breakdown. Um It would cause all this pain and if I could just get it fixed on my own the lies then were weren't ends too or remains to an end and and it was completely crazy thinking. What do you think you're really doing by lying to me. I was covering my bud. you know I was just I was staying out of trouble and avoiding a bunch of hard conversations. I really didn't know oh how to have or want to have and I kept thinking that if I lie to her today somehow I'll we'll get it right tomorrow and the Leisel stop and they didn't the WHO sorry you may Delus- is very painful thing to have show up in your relationship that self delusion into that somehow my issues and your issues need to be balanced especially when it's accompanied accompanied with lies and the and the betrayal dynamics that some people use to to cover their bud and it takes a long time to heal it if if you get the opportunity to heal it it can take a long time. Thanks everybody Seattle on the next episode.
"cure" Discussed on Coffee with The Couple Cure
"A former client said he became a bully of lies when guys know they've been found out they go on the attack. Welcome to coffee with a couple of care. Louis share practical tips for your relationship before you finish your first. Here's Jay Laurie pionk on everybody and welcome to coffee with a couple of cure. I'm Jay I'm Laurie and thanks for joining us. We're still on the topic of love trauma the trauma of betrayal and today we're going to talk about the other types of betrayals that we've seen <hes> even after <hes> she finds out that he's had a hidden life of <hes>. Maybe not having the highest sexual integrity today we're GonNa talk about the betrayal <hes> of anger issues or gas lighting or minimizing minimizing blame shifting all that kind of stuff and in this conversation we're going to be talking a little bit about like postwar vets and and I don't want to make light of our servicemen and women who have gone to war to protect our freedoms freedom's the stuff they have gone through created the very term P._T._S._d.. So their sacrifice has also given a lot of other people insight into what's happened to them after trauma so my hat goes off to Y'all thank you for your service. I do not mean to make light or equate <hes> the betrayal of trauma to the trauma that can happen after after or in war <hes> side just WanNa make that clear up front and at my husband's ex military so he has a lot of <hes>. He's a part of the band of brothers and sisters. So thank you for your service as well and it the the difference for the soldiers is they can leave the combat zone and they can come home and they can be a safe place. It's just it takes a while to convince them that they're safe for people who have been through betrayal trauma if they decide to stay in the relationship they're they're still in an unsafe place because of who they're living with yes <hes> and I thought about this. I thought about that very thing that you talked about and what I thought was it would be similar to what happened to the the <music> a Vietnam vets where they came home and they were bashed and they were blamed in that you know home wasn't safe anymore so yes there. There's a lot of other things that happen that are worse than the betrayal bill and again you know if you saw it as a triangle pointing up the porn and cut that triangle into three sections. The porn is the smallest part the hidden S.'s another part but where she really starts going insane is is the bottom part where she doesn't feel safe with kind of anybody. <hes> which is similar to what I think some post war vets go through if they're blamed or that sort of thing in another one difference I thought love was she didn't sign up for this when when you signed up with the military you knew you could go to war you knew and you were kind of ready for it when she signs up for marriage typically in the vows is I will forsake all other so that's what she signing up for. She doesn't understand that she's going into war like we said anger. Issues can be part of the everything else that makes her go a little insane as well and I just I talked to a dot talk to I just got an email from a former client who's reflecting back on the previous years and she said you know she knew something was up but every. Time she brought it up he would blame her but then when he got caught you know when the evidence showed he had been lying. She said he became a bully of lies and we've seen this with other other clients as well. I have <hes> have had another client. WHO said You know for the first twenty six years? He was a great husband but once he got found she's like why can't he go back to that and I said because the cats out of the bag when guys no they've been found out they go on the attack because they feel such shame they feel such exposure. Yeah they think she is thinking the same crappy things about him that he does and and so he goes on the attack yeah and kind of the problem of shame Innis is as much as you try to tell the guy that's not what I really think. He is still stuck in thinking that himself and that makes makes everything she says land in him in a different way and he feels like I can't believe she said that or how dare you say that and let you know like we talked about last time he's he's he's triggering on things and lashing out and because he can't he cannot see himself as the kind of the monster he believes himself to be right and if she thought he was the monster her he thought he was she began most likely yeah yeah and it's so it's tricky and and the the worst part of this is the woman thinks okay. He's told me we can talk about this. He told me he wants to make me feel safe. And then he blows up at her and then he blames her and then he says something awful trying to get her to stop and now he's made it worse. You know it's yes. I'll be a safe place for you and oh by the way now. I'm going to stab you one more time one more time while you're sitting here talking to me and the wound doesn't get heal. The wound has a fresh wound and lorries referred to it as a death of thousand cuts yeah and <hes> you know I've seen this in her her. How incredibly painful it is and I've seen how painful it is for the women that we work with just the pain of this consistent pattern pattern from the guy that continues to do more damage instead of healing yeah and that was you know the anger issues in our marriage would come out when I tried talking about it and again? If you listened to the last episode episode I wrote you know. I hope we can talk about it this time. It was one of the first things I wrote after you know I found out it was any day and <hes> over the years offers over our healing years at least trying to heal ears. I realized the very conversations that were meant to heal actually cause more damage so that was not fun anyway back to you know being still in the war just like we said we said on the last episode that you know she still in the war because there are all these images around but she also still is in the war because of this volatile real situation with him that he promises and then goes back to not even prior behavior in explosions but possibly and typically even bigger explosions is his what we've seen pain. <hes> another issue we wanted to cover was gas lighting and I wanna be very clear on what gas lighting is gas lighting comes from the Old Nineteen Thirty's thirties film called gaslight and it was where <hes> a man and his a husband and wife or living in this house and he started having feelings for the maid. Aide and she started picking up on it. So what he did was he would chew the wife would leave the room and he would turn the the gas lights down and she'd come in and go. I thought I turn these up already while you know did it get darker in here. He's like what are you talking about and then she would turn them back up at or he would like then she would leave and eternum back up again. It was an intentional deception intentional actions unintentional choice to try to get her to doubt what she saw what she was picking up with our own senses because then he could get away with an affair so that's what gas lighting truly is gas. Lighting is an intentional channel. It's abuse basically but it's an intentional <hes> behavior an intentional choice to cause a person to not trust their own senses <hes> now what we see is a lot of the time there's unintentional gas lighting where <hes> anyway that's a whole other topic but sometimes it can feel at gas. He's trying to make me feel crazy. It's kind of rare that the guy at least the guys that we work with are intentionally doing that so I kinda think sometimes that term is overused yet. Whether it's intentional or unintentional the result does the same the result is the same. She still needs <hes> clarity in those moments for her own sanity. She needs to be able to be brought back into like I can trust my gut. I can trust what I see. See in here. In my own life yeah it undermines reality and <hes> one things one of the things that I did was I had a tendency to owning deny. I would say yes I did this though are oh my gosh that with some of the hardest times and then later she would come back in and asked me the same question again and I would say well. No I didn't really do that. And so now she's like okay which one is true which one is real and that's when you're trying to repair when when she's not sure what is going on for me and I'm giving her conflicting answers it leaves her spinning and that's not an easy place to be when you're trying to heal and that's kind of common. I don't know maybe maybe he four fifty percent of our clients but maybe not that high but some guys you know sh hill say okay. This is the truth about me and she'll say are you going to take that back soon and he'll say no and then in a few days. I wasn't telling the truth then but you know she's already kind of gotten the truth from him. He's just he doesn't WANNA stay there. which which just like Jay said is very damaging because it's like okay I I I can't I can't I still can't trust a word you say right right so there's a whole lot about rebuilding trust and and all of that that we you know we've got a video series called the basics Zev rebuilding trust for you guys go find the basics of rebuilding trust? It's a one a two and a half hour series that Laurie and I put together to help you in that process because rebuilding building trust is not something that's just going to happen because you quit doing a certain behavior. You've got to be very intentional about rebuilding trust making her feel safe because she is still sleeping sleeping with the enemy. I mean until you until you start doing some of these other things that betrayed spouse is wondering what's going on. I don't have an answer here. I can't read his mind to know what's ruining so I think we'll wrap this up because the other stuff I have my list kind of goes into a whole different topic so I think we'll put this here and we'll..
"cure" Discussed on Coffee with The Couple Cure
"Welcome to coffee with a couple of cure where we share practical tips for your relationship before you finish your first. Here's Jay Laurie pipe. Hi, everybody. We're jam Laurie. Pionk from the couple of here. Yes. We also run a couple of other websites. Mine is called his porn, your pain healed or porn pain. Heal dot com. In mine is porn is killing me dot com. And we're basically here to let you know, what season two of our podcast will be like is basically going to cover the issue of betrayal. And obviously we cover a certain type of betrayal, a certain type of sexual integrity issue. But we also going to be talking about other types of betrayal as well. This the dynamics that we have seen cover any type of lies or where one person is dishonest and the other person finds out about it, and it creates trauma and betrayal issues between the two. Yeah. Maybe not always trauma. But definitely a breakdown in trust. Yes. Agreem- now normally on our podcast. We would have a big fat s after the episode number this episode or the season should have S's on all of them because they are safe. The stands for safe for betrayed as j just alluded to betrayal can cause trauma. And when that's the case, we need to be very careful. I like to be very careful about the information. We give to betrayed people because it can be triggering not that we're putting out, you know, bad staffer anything. It's just the nature of our podcast. You know, we started it in order to. Can have more fun. And and and be with each other in our healed state versus just trying to combat what almost broken down broke us down several times. So. Yeah. The so all of these episodes should be safe. We had a friend who mentioned to us that just seeing us relate. Well, was something of a trigger for him. So we plan on dropping these. Well, we did plan on on doing like a a net. Flicks. You know, binge drop drop them all at one time. But because of some technical problems were just going to do this as we can. But we also want to cover some other stuff which will get to two minute. But we're going to be covering some new stuff this season. If you've heard of us, or if you've heard our interviews, and that sort of thing, then, you know, some of our story we've already covered that in episodes three seven ten and. Seven of the first season. So if you don't know our story, go back and listen to those if if you've seen any of our interviews, though, we might repeat some of that basic information, but we're also going to be sharing new information with you as well. One of those areas is institutional trauma. This has to do with a lot of what I've seen in my work in that is where. Basically institutions like certain churches or certain therapists, or even certain schools of thought within those institutions they can actually do more harm than good. Sometimes even though they're probably well-meaning because of certain dynamics which will go into on the next season. They can actually do do some harm themselves. Well-meaning people can consider things that are just not helpful. Right. One of the other things that we're going to be covering as it's not just about the behavior of the person who betrayed their spouse. So for me, it's not just about my behavior wrapped around the pornography issue, but it's more about making Laurie feel safe. It's more about what what will it take for her in her traumatize state to feel safe around me? So that's not necessarily about. Just meek waiting my certain behavior. It's me getting into a routine of new behaviors that help her feel safe in those situations. So we're going to cover quite a bit on that. I think in this next season. Yeah. And other thing we're going to talk about a little bit is known. No news is not necessarily good news. Meaning you guys have to talk about this. And so we're going to give you some hints about how to talk about that about the the break down that can happen after betrayal and the last one is is pretty significant as well. Which is what can the betrayer do with the pain that the betrayed person's feeling? This is probably the primary place where I work with most of my guys is they may have years of establish sobriety. And yet they don't do a good job of hearing what their partner is going through. And therefore the breakdown continues. Right and. JJ said, you know, the last one that's not going to be the last subject we cover on or you know, that's not the sum. Total of all the subjects will be covering, but blessed when we have listed is at one we're going to be covering more issues as well. And this might not even be just one season. We're learning new stuff about betrayal all the time. So I can see this being multiple seasons in the future. This is this is our our regular work. So far work gets in the way of our other work. Well, that's just the way it's gonna go one thing we want to let you know, though, is the first thing we're going to be recording is I don't know if we're gonna do this on the podcast or not. But we're going to be doing human a sessions mainly because we've been getting a lot of questions, and we will probably be podcasting those as well. So that'll just have QNA on the front, right? So if you're looking for on YouTube, look for the couple cure that that phrase, the couple cure will get you us. Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and you yeah. And we're just now getting started with he Instagram now. So hopefully by the time, this is released there will be a few post out there. So we just wanted to give. A heads up. And we look forward to connecting with you on the future. I guys.
"cure" Discussed on Coffee with The Couple Cure
"Welcome to coffee with a couple of cure where we share practical tips for your relationship before you finish your first Cup. Here's Jay and Laurie pipe. Hi, everybody. Welcome to another episode today. We're going to be talking about seasons. And we're not talking about the normal seasons. You might think of in certain circles seasons mean seasons of life. You know that we have big seasons of life. Like when kids are small big seasons of life like during the honeymoon period. Retirement can be season. We're talking about something different. Yeah. Yeah. In a way, these are sometimes shorter seasons. When. Yeah. You know, your relationship is going through a rough patch when not even really your relationships going through a rough patch. Life has brought you to a rough patch and. That could be what happened us three years ago four years ago when I lost my job. You know, a season of transition and. And those seasons are in Evansville. You know, I wanna say if you came on this podcast looking for two people that are always smiling faces and always super upbeat and were not those people, but we do have a great relationship because we know how to whether these seasons, we know they're going to come. And we know that the other person isn't the enemy and isn't their fault that we're going through a hard time. We just our life is going to do that. And if we can't or won't pull together and say, you know, what I get it. You're going through a rough patch. Whether it's some something going on with your family or with your job, I'm gonna stand right here next to you. And I'm gonna say how can I support you? What can I do to help because your relationship is not always going to be sunshine? You know that the only place that the sun shines all the time. Is the desert? There's not a lot of life there. There's a lot of life where their seasons rain their seasons. A son. There's winter there's it's not always the best weather, but those changing seasons produce beautiful flowers produce strong trees produce a healthy environment. That reminds when we went to Ireland fears ago it rained there every single day every single day at rain, but the green I think that Swick gave it the different shades of green and beautiful flowers and everything just looked healthy. So Jay's correct that the rain does bring health brings life in a way that. I don't know huge storms that come through. Yeah. They can water the ground, and they can maybe get things reset things. But. The daily storms of life will will give us life. It can make us more fruitful in a way that one big huge storm can't. So I'm starting to see the frequent rain we get in our life as maybe a blessing in a way. I don't know. I think it does produce fruit. That's for sure. You know? And I when Lauren I started thinking on this topic. What struck me was the plane that that landed on the Hudson river several years ago, those people still get together. Those people stay in contact with one another because they went through something hard people that go on a cruise ship and go on a big party and have a ton of fun. Those people don't stay in contact with one another because it didn't go through anything together. And it's in the. Testing of our. Nettle metal. Yeah. I think it's it's in the testing it's in the stretching of our abilities that we learn who is in the foxhole with us, and who isn't and I think when our marriage if if in our marriage were not able to weather some changes and some setbacks together, maybe we have on reasonable expectations. Or maybe we really don't know that that life is gonna have ups and downs in having someone to share them with is
"cure" Discussed on Coffee with The Couple Cure
"Welcome to coffee with a couple of cure where we share practical tips for your relationship before you finish your first. Here's Jay Laurie pipe. I everybody today's episode is going to be about anniversaries and celebrating. Our victories today is our anniversary. Yes, we have had good anniversaries. We've had really trying inverse Sary's. This one was difficult not because of our relationship, but because of things surrounding what we do in. And that kind of thing where counting off of least I'm coming off of a big month of. New endeavors. And that's if you know anything about me, I throw myself into what I'm doing. So came off of that into kind of a. What could have been a really really bad thing. But it took some research and and actions on my part to make sure it didn't snowball into something bad. So whereas we were going to take off the weekend. It ended up being kind of a Downer and pretty high stress for me stress to the point where just like, I think. Something got blown out in me. It's like I can't keep doing this. I cannot keep doing this. So I'm going to need J to take the lead on this. Because I woke up this morning going. This has been a hard twenty four years. It's been a really good last five years but coming off the month, and then trying to take some rest, and then it being, you know, us being hit with something that kind of took away. It turned her turned our retreat into a working retreat. So coming off of that. It's hard to celebrate. Sometimes. Well, and that's really where I wanted to go with this was. You know, anytime you try to change something. Life is going to ask you how serious are you? It's going to throw up road blocks. It's going to bring up old memories. And sometimes it's hard to think where victorious at all. Where we need to invest. Some energy though is celebrating the victories. We do have because life is going to continue to bring up the the rough stuff. It's going to remind us of all the things that went wrong. It's going to remind us. We're not in heaven yet. This is still a rough life. There's definitely going to be days, you know, seasons of sunshine and seasons of storms and. Earthquakes and tornados. What I've seen. And and what I tell people is you can't paint a masterpiece using only the bright colors sometimes there's dark colors in the masterpiece, but painting masterpieces victory. Sometimes our victories are just getting through today. And that's victory, and we need to sometime, you know, we need to value. We got through today today was hard, but we got through it. Yeah. And honestly part of my victory soon to be could be I'm gonna have to go a little differently with the business. I can't I can't keep it up. You know, I do have an end. And when I come to the end of myself, there's always something good on the other side. So this might end up being a really big victory. Roy I so even out of our mistakes, if we learn how to live healthier if we change what we do if we change our interactions with one another to something that is healthy that's a victory. And so I'm not saying paint, everything with with my typical pollyanna. Everything's fantastic brush and not my all gray colors or hey, here's some bright spots. But I know something bad is on the way because that's just the way life. Take time to truly celebrate it without qualifying run out qualifying the future. Even in the midst or after. Hard seasons. There's victory in developing our enduring that's I think the biggest victory when it comes to. Certain ancient sayings. Sir. John, I think life is going to throw things at us and say. Oh, look at all those things you've done wrong. Look at all the things that aren't working well like hard. This is right and. When we allow ourselves to go down that path is very easy to stay on that path. It's very easy to stay on the negative path. It is difficult to see even. Through the negative that there are some victories going on. And again, I'm not saying ignore negative behavior or ignore things that are not working. Well. But the there can be victory in just noticing. Hey, I noticed I have a negative pattern. That's that's really tearing down the relationship. The victory is going to be changing that behavior long term. You know, even if you have to establish some accountability with somebody and say, you know, I really want to take my wife out. And celebrate something once a month. And maybe you need somebody to remind you and say, hey, have you been keeping up with that? Or have you been doing those things that you've been trying to do to become that better person? You wanted to be now if there's been betrayal or a lot of harm from one person in the relationship, this is not we don't intend for you to take this and say because you're down because you're hurting your harming our relationship, you're not celebrating the victories. There truly are things that can happen in. Relationships that can.
"cure" Discussed on Coffee with The Couple Cure
"To coffee with a couple of cure where we share practical tips for your relationship before you finish your first Cup. Here's Jay Laurie. Pipe. Everybody and welcome to another episode today. We're going to be talking about came you say it differently. Is basically a technique or maybe it's not even technique. It's more of a like something to remember when you're having breakdown conversations. Or when it seems like you're just not getting anywhere in conversation. So our example comes from watching a couple of people, we know we were going to restaurant and one person was they were asking for directions. But what they were asking for was, where's the parking lot? And. They. Felt like they were being clear, they they knew the intent of why they were asking the question, but the answer was the parking lots right in front of the restaurant. And then the person would say, but that's not what where's the parking lot. And and so then they would say is right. It's right. They are around the restaurant and the person giving the directions had been there before. Right. And I I guess he had a person hadn't yet probably had her. Yeah. Hadn't been there in a while. And so one of the things we noticed was that the person. Asking for the directions was feeling some anxiety about driving in a big city and driving in this area. And then some anxiety about getting into the restaurant. And and yet they were so kind of impatient. With the answer. That they couldn't think through what they were truly trying to ask. And it was like they were impatient with themselves as well. Like, I I know I should be able to do this differently. And and that couldn't and somehow in this communication things just continue to Kennedy terrier rate. It was funny because the person giving the answers like it's in its around. You know, it's it's in front of the building the parking lots in front of the building. And then they were trying to interpret like are you are you wondering where the parking spaces are like where to park and the person could just kept saying, no, where's the parking lot? And what they were asking really was where's the entrance of the parking lot? Should I go straight and make a left or should I turn left and then turn into the department? Yeah. You know because there was a street. It was on the corner. So they ended up against figuring out. But I thought it was kind of got a little tense there for a bit it got tents. And it was something that from an outsider's perspective. We could see that that neither one of them really knew. How do we change this dynamic and both of them kept kind of escalating, especially the person who is feeling they anxiety because they were assuming like, you should know what I'm asking. Right. Right. And and I'm not picking that happens all the time with Jay. And I so yeah there and so it's number one an opportunity to live in grace or. Mercy for the other person. Because sometimes their own emotions have them. Stuck their own state of mine has them stock that they just need an answer to something. And can't clearly tell you what the question really is could be just their state of stress. Right. And so it's, you know, the idea of Kanye ask it a different way. Number one is to ask the person to us to take different approach can use different words. Right. Can you can you phrase it a different way use a different sentence? Yeah. And if you're both ready for it, then it won't necessarily hack the other person off. It's like, okay. I'm not understanding what you're saying. Obviously. Can you say it in a different way that I might be able to like I really want to answer. Your question is just were speaking to different languages right now, or I don't know how you're defining things or since I can't see into your brain. I don't know exactly what you're talking about in. You know, maybe then we'll be able to take this more calmly and in you'll get you'll get you know, one step closer to your answer. The answer you're looking for.
"cure" Discussed on Christ is the Cure
"Welcome to Christ is the cure with Nick Campbell. Here. We bring you theology apologetic and a resource for growth on the basis of scripture alone said back and enjoy today's episode. Hey, everyone. Welcome back to the show. This is up so seventy seven and this weekend is the conference in Houston and south Houston with Jason Lyles on a Sunday, only if you want information on that Email me quickly, and I'll get you that information, and maybe we can shake hands and meet at that. I highly recommend Jason Lisle if you are in Houston. He is awesome originally from answer is Genesis. And he he just has awesome stuff. He really does. Anyway. Well, two weeks ago now I had a series on Instagram because I'm doing series now on Instagram where I talked about King James only them, and if you're with us last year, then you got to hear like a four part series on that. And so I decided to address it again, this time making more accessible to people in general and. Well, we're just going to kind of go over that again here. And really nothing has particularly changed the arguments fort haven't really changed, and we're gonna talk a little bit about some of that that's gone on today. So we'll see how this goes. So is has been quite some time since we discussed it. But there have been a number of individuals who have their faith shaken or in a crisis because of the King James only movement. I think that's sad and dangerous. I have heard people say that their salvation has been questioned because of their position on the TV or the ESP and that is also dangerous. So this doesn't really apply to those who are majority text only because really I think that's a more appropriate view in light of this. And so if you prefer the King James because it reflects the majority tax more than anything than okay, sure. But that's not usually what we're talking about here. We're addressing those individuals. I consider him the King James the only superior word of God, it's infallible. It's the only translation, and that's usually who I'm geared towards SU there's a lot of different views in. I think TR only is kind of a stretch to in some sense. Which I am not an expert in this field. I have just done enough research to to know that I do not hold this position. So you'll likely see graphics online with the King James comparing it to the NFC saying these versus are missing or you have this one where it's all these verses in the cage. Av says has them hasn't hasn't hasn't been then on all the other modern translates says removed, and so the misconception is that. Well, really it's easier to propagate simplistic nonsense rather than try to understand why this occurs, and there is a presupposition behind the images, and basically it makes King James the standard, and we'll get a little bit later. But ultimately, you can make any translation the standard and say look these other versions are different. Therefore, they are corrupt. They are of the devil. And you can do that with anything if you make it standard. So what is the standard while the standard is the manuscript? And that's why the majority text position makes more sense to me because if you're gonna make an argument from any position should be while these manuscripts are are more of them. Etc. But in terms of the verses, I would argue that they were added into the King, James. And the question was how can this be the King James older? Yes. The king translation is older. But the manuscript spend it or not. So it all started with a series on Daniel Wallace. And he had a quote that I put up on my page, and you can see all this on at Christ dot is dot the duck. Your the King James version based six eight manuscripts while modern editions consider at least fifty eight hundred Greek manuscripts. And the difference is pretty staggering. The Greek text behind King James is demonstratively inferior to the Greek Tech's we have today and the author of the King James greet, text or considered variants and made changes the King James translators and their sixty seven noted variance translational differences, and they recognize and called for the production of future and better translations versus we're not removed from the scripture asking James only advocates. We'll tell you about rather late editions. I think personally it would be great to have a new translation base off the majority text. I think that would be really cool, but we just don't see that really happening as far as I am aware. So the next part of the series was basically opposed about the Greek text behind the King James version, which was made by harassment's and eras was trying to be the first published Greek New Testament before a cardinal in Spain Rasmus used half a dozen of the earliest. Greek manuscripts, which I believe dated from the twelfth to fourteenth century, sometimes he had to just guess at what the regional mindset, and you see this with revelation, and he admitted that his own edition was contained or contained hundreds of errors. So the reality of the matter is that there are differences also between the sixteen eleven and the King James you see today. So this raise the question if the King James the only foul word of God without air them. Why are there any changes whether some of those changes here in a minute? But the main thing is the Greek text that it's based on the often, call the Texas receptive. So the received text. But which one is the pure one, which one is the true in which TR should we accept on? There are five additions from Arash Smith's, and then the additions of Stephanus which there are four, and then those Beza which is eleven most exit are called it's Yar would actually be the work of Scrivener who used the fifteen ninety eight version of basis text any looked at all the variants, but he conformed his Greek text from the English translation of the King James version. So he took the King James version, and he translated into Greek. So of course, that one matches up perfectly because he he created a whole new edition based off of an English. Translation, so there are thirty editions of the TR or the Texas Persepolis with variants. And so which one would be the pure Tech's, which one be inspired. So the most prominent one courses harassment's who started the tax and fifteen sixteen who
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"Welcome to Christ is the cure with Nick Campbell. Here. We bring you theology apologetic and a resource for growth on the basis of scripture alone said back and enjoy today's episode. Welcome back. This is up sewed seventy and today is a brief reflection on my past month and QNA. So I put up the the option to leave questions on Instagram, and we got quite a few. So we'll get through some of them. And we'll see how it goes today. So I took last week off. We just had the reposting of the thanksgiving special and. It was a really good week off. There is this assumption or misconception that this is. Easy in the sense that I am always ready in wanting to do it. There's a lot of times. And this is where I kinda wanted to just get on. Because I get a lot of questions about how to do this. How to maintain zeal how to do all these things? And at the end of the day, if we're really talking about this subject every single person gets discouraged. Every single person has doubts every single person has their lows that is a part of the Christian walk. So whenever we're talking about that whenever it's assumed that I don't go through that or something like that whenever there's a question that kind of presupposes that I don't struggle with these things I want you to know that it's complete opposite for quite a while. I was in a low slump, and I was still putting out content. The last episode we did on the God's decree was kind of hard for me to do research for. Because I was having a hard time. And last week kind of got me to the point where I worked through that. And I got out of that. And it's just I want you to understand that other believers go through what you go through. There are other people that have those experiences, and that's why we are a church. We are there to help each other to support each other to build each other up. Someone said that they suffered with depression and anxiety. And we talked about it on the show as well. I understand that I completely sympathize with that it needs to be understood that there's no. There's no individual who hasn't experienced that. Even Jesus had his own experiences that can relate to that. So as we go through life just know that I understand I suffer from anxiety. And I go through depression, and there's some weeks where it's really hard whenever I answer a question on how do you consistently pray or how you consistently read your bible just know that I struggle with this too? And as we go through the questions today. I'll I'll bring this up again. But it's important to know that now only this, but I am fallible I can make mistakes. And so I always encourage people to come and talk with me about. What they may think I'm incorrect on a weekend discuss it through Email, or what have you there is people though, it had great discussion with and we find out that we were saying the same thing just from different perspectives. Now, if you live in Texas. Victoria, Texas on March twenty nine th through the thirty first is having a conference with Justin Peters and James white. I will be there. So if you are in that area, I'm driving two hours to go. See it my wife, and I are gonna take a trip with a couple of friends. We're going to drive two hours out to Victoria to go to that conference because it's pretty close to home. If you're in Houston or something that's two hours away for you as well. And I know there's a couple of my listeners from Houston because Houston's a big big city. So I encourage you to to go into check it out. It is called the, wow, I feel like I should have been prepared for that. One. Let's see. Let's see. I. This. It is. The south Texas bible conference. March twenty ninth through the thirty first and you can find it by going to CBC, Victoria dot org. At the community Baptist church in Victoria, Texas, highly recommend you go, and it should be good. It's it's going to be good. Anyway. I wanted to also bring up that this last week was a great I'm reflecting on talking to agree and deal with people who who haven't got the scene a long time. It's been very interesting to see where everyone's going, and that those kind of instances really get you outside of your box. And I think that we all need to be talking to people and staying in touch with the the reality of what's going on around us and people that, you know, desire to help us or people that we need to help. I don't know if that made any sense, but that's kind of where I'm going with that little rant here. So to summarize the conference is coming up in March. It's a long way away. I guess, but we already got our registration. You can get early registration, and we already booked our hotel. So meet us there, if you are going, please, send me an Email or something and let me know, and then we can try to meet up and find each other.
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"Welcome back to the show this episode Twenty-three in today's about the pure Chen's thanksgiving, it's a special. I wasn't really planning on doing anything this week. But I let Instagram have the vote where most of my decisions are made through Instagram now because I have these little polls and I put him up. So if you want to be a part of that you can follow me on Instagram at Christ dot is dot the dot cure in the link will be in the description for this episode. So this can be a special. I don't know if it's going to be shorter or not we're just going to go through some notes that I have and see what happens. So the bureau jen's were ultimately reformers who wanted to finish a reformation now. And what was a better way for them to do that except come over to the new world and establish colonies centered around their convictions? It is notable though that they're calling these were not theocracies. This is kind of a misconception, and we can see this in things such as the Mayflower compact, which ultimately was a primer for the constitutional Republic that we have today. In fact, we can note that many who were on board the Mayflower were not a part. The congregation at all. Now, the Mayflower desire was to stylish fair and equal laws and ordinances and rules among the civilization in the new world. Now, the curtains driving convictions mimicked those that came from the reformation as we said they wanted the reformation to be done. They wanted to reform the church he wanted to do it now and the Puritans believed many things that drove their lifestyles in. I the Puritans believed that mankind was entirely dependent upon God for salvation among this the thirty of the bible was greatly emphasized. They lived off of the bible, and they believe that Christians should do only what the scriptures explicitly direct, which I would argue is where we see they're unnecessary limitations in terms of Christian liberty. But of course, as with any group, the Puritans can always agree on what the bible instructed in particular. This was an issue with church organization and another notable aspect was that the notion that God created society as a whole, which means that all spheres of. Life are connected in terms of church state, public individual, etc. Now, I noted the theocracy issue. We had people in the church who were asked for vice in terms of leadership, but they were never running the so the colonies so to speak. But we need to address that one of the greatest achievements of the Puritans has to be the push of education in which John Harvard was the name to be used for college in sixteen thirty six, of course, every group has is extremes and pitfalls in we have to address them and people like to kind of overlook things, but we have to address them less befall into the same pits. And we see that the Puritans Tennessee was to have a low tolerance for others when they in positions of power, namely those outside there's fear of theology. Especially little things the things that don't matter not this inches, and we see this with individuals such as Roger Williams who was considered a threat to the origins. Of course, the debacle at Salem in sixteen ninety two must also be addressed though, it is often exaggerated in the secular world today in order to push an anti religious agenda and truth, Vince, assailing were subtle compared to the witch trials occurring in western Europe. If you want to call them, which..
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"Welcome to Christ is the cure with Nick Campbell. Here we bring you the apologetic and a resource for growth on the basis of scripture alone. Sit back and enjoy today's episode. Welcome back to the show. This is up fifty nine and well. Things right now are kind of crazy. We got a lot of stuff going on and. In September. I'm going to have one or two weeks off from the show. And right now we're restructuring are coming up with new ideas for the patron account, and we're coming up on our year anniversary, which means that how we handle storage and things like that are kind of coming up and being discussed. We have people who want to interview, and actually I think I'm doing interview with someone as well. And so there's a bunch of different things happening. One of the cool things doesn't seem very exciting is that we're going to have a new introduction affair would start the year off with a new introduction. Maybe make that a yearly things. You don't listen to the same thing every time you started the program, even though there is a nostalgic factor to that, I suppose. So the theology series, I want to try to work on and get another episode in next week. So we will do that for sure. Well, not for sure, but hopefully for sure. I will make sure to work on that. This weekend. Today I wanted to talk about an Email. Okay. So if you things are really crazy right now between what's happening on the Roman Catholic church and pope Francis and politics, things are crazy, and we're gonna talk about one of those things today. But I, I got an Email. A video about whether or not it is a sin to have a job to work for money and part of the argumentation was Jesus saying cannot serve two masters. You'll he won in love the other any reference money. And the way this man presented, everything sounded great until you start seeing what he was saying. There's a lot of presuppositions about the church all failing about how the church only serves money. And he said that Romans six sixteen says that if you work for something, you're a slave to it. And so you're saying that if you work for money, your slave to money that he misquotes the passage in it says, a all money is the root of evil and all these things. And at the end of the day, he says that working for money is a commandment that we break because Jesus told us not to do that, which. Of course, there's nothing like that and there's and so the the person Email he was concerned about this. And so my response was was this he caused some scriptures and seems to apply correctly, but makes leaps for example, using Romans sixteen say that scripture proves that working for money means that you're serving. Money simply is not true for Matthew six, twenty four hig nor is the reality of the language to just vice been position. You cannot serve God and money. It means working as a slave, not as employees. Slavery is a property of a master money here being a master of the one being controlled by money, working for money is not being a slave to my as an arrangement for means of living something that we find in all of scripture. They apostles all worked in various fields and even after Jesus's death in John Tony one, we see the Fishman back to work. Paul worked as a tip maker and and this man, second video, he tries to make that story as if Paul a repents of being tin maker, which he just completely reasons the tech, what he does he, he says, and acts eighteen. You see this happening. This. Opening this happening, but he never costs the scriptures. He says it happens there. So I'm wondering if people aren't actually reading the passage while it's happening. So I encouraged my listener to compare the passage while he's talking about it because you won't find the main points that he's stressing in those passages. But regardless. The ten commandments around the fact that we worked for six days and rests for one and stewardship of what we earned his found to be important people were to share the yield with the Lord and with and with their neighbors, and proverbs is filled with wisdom on properly handling resources. You also makes the statement that money is the individual makes the statement that the money is root of all evil and reemphasize us in his own words. He says it several different ways, but the simply is not true. When you look at the verse that's misquoted for the love of money is the root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wondered away from the faith Pierce themselves with many pangs. I Timothy six, ten. This is often misquoted. This is not the first time. This was misquoted this, but the text is not say that money's the root of all evil, but is a root of all kinds of evil. There's a big difference if you found simply in that. Additionally, if working for money as a sin, would Jesus tell several parables of money and Luke fifteen eight through ten and working Matthew twenty five fourteen through thirty as well as handling proper money, a Luke, fourteen twenty eight. Additionally, why would Jesus tell the people to pay taxes to Caesar? Wouldn't it be leading everyone to sin according to this individual, Matthew twenty two twenty one. Additionally, Jesus pay to get into the temple to come time to participate in holy week. Paul states in helping the poor even while we were with you, we would give you this command. If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat for we hear that some among you walk in idleness, not busy at work, but busybodies. Now such persons, we command encourage in the Lord Jesus Christ to do the work quietly to earn their own livings Thesselonians three, ten or twelve. Also also encourages the churches to pay their pastors and leaders. So there are several passages than it was. It was complete Nores and he said, and is follow videos that people say that the maker. The main rebuttal but to come back inclusion throughout reading, all the New Testament is very peculiar. Additionally, Paul says that he took no money from the church, but in second Thesselonians three eight, nor do we anyone's bread without paying forward. But with toil and labor, we worked night and day that we may not be a Burge interview. Paul worked for money and paid for bread was he and sin in the video. He stated that people tell them the preach John three sixteen, and this is the part that was kind of weird me. He says people telling them pretty strongly three sixteen, but he can't sway says, but he can't because people don't care about turn a lot, but instead care about money. Now for video that stresses obedience to Christ and not quote working and not earning money to say that preaching the gospels useless. When the major purpose is a major purpose of the church is quite dangerous. In my opinion, he claims basically that the gospel is empowering if the say people from their idolatry of money is very dangerous claim and the cure for such a problem is the gospel and terms of Bill. Teachings. First stewardship, we were told to be a good steward, our resources in our family. We must take care of her family. Roma's tells us that we are to obey rulers thirties, and currency is the means by which we provide for families according to the government. Not only this book. Currency has been around since the day of the Hebrews. It was always a means by which individuals quite provisions in trade. The theology money is summarized as this money doesn't solve problems. The love of money is a berry between manning God and leads to destructive self. Reliance handling money can be a way of serving God and we must use money in accordance with the love of God. Money is to be used wisely because it was God's provision to us and should we used for good and helping others? There was no base for saying that working for money, sinful. In fact, it is a send to be sloth on not to work for food for your feelings provision. In fact, if you were to fall teaching, we wouldn't give the homeless money but have them work and pay them with provisions. Second
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"Welcome to Christ is the cure with Nick Campbell. We bring you theology, apologetic and a resource for growth on the basis of scripture alone. Sit back and enjoy today's episode. Welcome back to the show. This is up so forty, eight today we have a special guest, Nathan Davis, but before we begin, I want to let you know that this episode was brought to you by our patrons. So thank you very much for a patriots who supports ministry, and you could become a patriot patriotic dot com. Slash crisis, the cure for as little as one dollar month, which is dollars a year which is cheaper than Hulu, Netflix and all that jazz. But anyway, they keep this show ad free and keep it free for all of you to listen to, but let's get into it because we have a longer episode today. Our special guests caller today is Nathan Davis, and Nathan has been the United States Air Force for seven years and is currently a student at liberty university to earn a bachelor's in history. So Nate, why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself and your interest in textual criticism? So we're, we're on you, will you ever on? Sorry, my bad. All right. So I'm twenty five years old. I've been an airman in the air force for. About seven years now, currently attending school at liberty university to earn my BS in history, how so? That's just a little bit about myself there on if we need warm formation, we can delve into that later on. So before we start, I wanna put out a disclaimer that the views that are expressed by me are not those of the US air force. So I just wanna be upfront about that so that no one would twist that anything else in on currently studying to become a history professor in the perhaps minor in textual studies of ancient tax. What I would say would really got me into textual criticism was throughout my career. I've come across a lot of atheists that I've worked with and they would posit things like we can't possibly know what the bible is said because it's been edited. So many times. Or it's corrupted hopelessly beyond belief. Yeah. And in the early days of my young faith, that's of course really shook me and I would go home and just kinda stare at the lawn. Just wonder if this was even true or not. But once they forced me to dig into history in look at the transmission of the tax might might doubts simply vanished away because the textual transmission in the preservation of the bible that we have in our answer today is absolutely unparalleled. Daniel Wallis probably the leading New Testament scholar day says, when it comes to the biblical tax in that that are currently surviving a, we have an embarrassment of riches like just to give you an example we have. I think it's five thousand eight hundred thirty. Some odd. Greek manuscripts for Aerostat. Oh, we probably have about ten. So we have so much wealth to work with. In having having examined the history that we so the tax that we so treasures Christians, it's made me thankful to God that he preserved his word in the way that he did by leaving behind. So much evidence to compare in come to conclusions on. In terms of what you were saying about eight Theus being on the opposite end of that, I used to do the same thing to Christians. Never I would talk to them. I would always talk about, you know, while the Catholic church has piece together, the Parsa light, it's kind of like what you see with mon- Islam, you kind of assume that they just took what they wanted, and they burn the rest and kind of got rid of it. And they just make copies. And there's there's changes and edits and revisions. And of course, that's all misleading as you kind of dove into their little bit. It really is. There's a lot of, you know, we live in a sound bite culture. People will hear that. Within at least you there. Now you're good. All on people will hear a difference. Misinformation, you know, just copies of copies of copies hopelessly corrupted beyond belief, but if you if you just do just a baseline surface, scraping of the evidence, all you have to do is say, okay, name one. And then oftentimes you'll find that the they're just simply parroting what they've heard a, but you know, we don't want to use the knowledge. We gain to just use it as a club, but rather to to challenge their beliefs in make them see that, hey, the the New Testament is on parallel right now is one of the things is that you'll always find especially with with a if I can throw that in there because I feel like I have some kind of say in that, but as mostly confirmation bias, you find what you wanna find and you run with it because the. That's what you do whenever you're defending a position that you know. You're trying to force upon other people really. And that's that's really kind of what it seemed to be like for me, it was like, well, you know, you guys don't know what the bible actually
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"Welcome to Christ is the cure with Nick Campbell, Haley. Bring you theology, apologetic, and a resource for growth on the basis of scripture alone. Sit back and enjoy today's episode. Hey, everyone. Welcome back to the show this episode. Forty, six, I believe. And this is the last episode before we begin our series on theology and next week. Hopefully we're going to be discussing what the is why theology is important, and we're gonna be going into what biblical theology is in what systematic theology is. So I hope we're looking forward to that. It's going to be good. And during this a really long series, as we break down all the components of the all, we will have breaks and we're gonna have interview soon with a friend of mine and it's going to be awesome. So look for it to that. By the way, if you are interested in being on the show, feel free to contact me if you're interested in having me guest right on your blog, or if you're interested in being on the show here and having interview Email me, tell me what topic you want it to be about whether or not you want it to be an interview or whether or not you want me to review something for you. Just send me an Email we can discuss. It sounds like fun. Onto the weird side. Note who just started the give away for the reformation study bible to enter in that you want to go to the Facebook or Instagram page and like the post that pertains to that. That is the rule for entrance. You have to be in the continental United States to enter end the drawing, and then we're gonna be having the Hebrew into linear and the Greek Leonard drawing soon a couple of weeks actually. But the big one is the reformation study bible there. Plenty of people who really liked to have reformation study bible. Maybe your mom or not. In ally, said your mom. Maybe one of your friends wants to enter and give them a chance to win surprise them. So today we're gonna be talking about basically the notion that the world will be a better place. If Christians did not take the bible as the word of God and most people regard the bible as a collection of ancient myths and run, we're talking about that just a little bit. It's cover that extensively would take a long time. There are people who spend their careers defending the bible in these ways. So we're gonna get into a little bit. So the notion that the world will be a better place if Christians did not by was little word of God is a demonstratively false, really if we look at those who did take the bible to be the word of God because they lived out lives of great charity and influence beyond what many, realizing what beyond the many are willing to acknowledge and recognize. And I think that is one of the things that we need to address firstly, that it is not that there's a lack of great influence in help that the biblical world he has been given, but the lack. Recognition for people want to think other things afford or just take it down to individualistic level. And instead of saying that it was the world view that was the cause of this. They won't say it was just an individual, but what drives a person is their worldview. It is what they believe, regardless the idea that the bible is also a collection of ancient myths has also proven itself to be found wanting and the archaeological and historical evidence for the bible, and it continues to stack up and the Bible's favor and looking at some of the most common alleged miss. We can establish that the Bible's reliability is only far fetched when one holds to anti biblical presuppositions. Now, throughout the years, the bible stroke of Lydia has been questioned. This is not new. It's been going on over and over again and is going on right now. Now has to do a lot with the manuscripts and you'll see a lot of them. In fact, we'll be going out a little bit, I'm sure. And the next interview I have on the show, so we'll move on from that. That way. We don't spoil that too much. We've talked about manuscripts and we talked about translations here quite a bit, and I want to save some of that for the next year. But there's this typical charge of being a collection of myths, but the why was the self to be based in reality time in time. Again, there's many instances where there's been some kind of charge against the bible and pop goes. Historical fine that confirms, hey, this was a this place that only the bible mentions here. It is. So we see this all the time. Now, while there are some that are more difficult to place because of the supernatural worker, God, we have knowledge that others can be confirmed in history and archaeology. One of the greatest alleged myths have to be the flood and Noah's ark bona removing the presuppositions regarding the ark and looking at the geographic observations and examining other flood legends around the world. We can find viable reasons for accepting the foot. Now.
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