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Using Content to Grow a Loyal Audience with Author Joe Pulizzi
"What is the essence. What is the heart. What is the soul of the content inc model so basically it's seven steps. It's sweet spot. The content tilt building the base. Then you focus on audience building. Then you drive your first stage of revenue and diversify into other areas other platforms and then the end one is used either sell or you go big or you create an amazing lifestyle. Business like you have with with fire nation. The couple things that i wanna talk about that are really important and things that we found that a lot of people might not agree with because it might not make sense but the one thing is the base the focus on one platform over and over again we find these content entrepreneurs were building multimillion dollar enterprises. They're not everywhere they are on youtube or twitch or they have a podcast or they have an amazing email newsletter. They're not doing everything at one time now. Later down the road that's the thing that's called diversification that step six but you have to build a minimum viable audience. I so that's that third step. That's really important and then two big issues in the model or one that the thing that i get the questions on most of the time jail diese sink called the content tilt and the content tilt is something that everyone has to have but most content creators don't and that's an area of differentiation. It's an area of little to no competition on the web where you actually have a chance to break through so that means you have to focus on a different topic. You have to focus on a different audience type. You have to focus on a different platform. You have to tell a different story it. You can't talk about the same old things that everyone else is talking about in the same way like for you. I mean you did a great job. There were really no entrepreneur. Podcast that were daily when you started your thing and you knew that you saw that as your Opportunity and that became your content. Tilt so with me you know when we started content marketing institute our whole thing was hey. Can we build a category and call at content marketing. Nobody was using that term. But we went into that. We've focused all of our efforts on content marketing and three years. Later we built a million dollar enterprise but it a lot of people forget that all. I can't just talk about the same old thing. Or this is what i love and this is what i know. No you have to figure out what the audience is. Pain points are what keep keeps them up at night. And then you can figure out how you're going to position your content around
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"What's up everybody. Welcome back to couple things sean. Andrew podcast. all about couples they go through. Today is not quite about couples. It's definitely couple couples but it's definitely a different side of the couple things about parenting mostly. Yeah and we brought in our favorite. She's the only person that gave us sanity going into drew. Yes dr emily. Officer is a prolific author. One of my favorites and i found so much encouragement in her book. She's written three now. One is called expecting better all about the data driven approach to pregnancy second is called kripke the data driven approach to how to handle it. Newborn and the third is now the family firm which is coming out. August third and i love her style of writing what she does essentially study study so if the topic is breastfeeding she'll look at all the studies on breastfeeding and decide angle to decide every science all of it. Yeah and she'll say hey this is what all of the studies agr- agree. How do you say that. We're aggregated aggregated together. Say this is like the conclusion of conclusions right anyway and her inspiration for writing. This is not to psych you out and try to have this really ice cold Approach to parenting. It's more inspiration. It's actually the opposite end trying to call me down because intern. I learned first. Hand that when we got pregnant withdrew. People had such polarizing opinions and thoughts about how to do parenting how to make every decision. What whether to do something or not. It was always this right and wrong. And i don't wanna say she debunks all of it but she goes through every single decision in shows what the actual data proves. Which is it. Just don't think it's the best book you could read. Doc does a great job of making you feel confident as a apparent that you can do it and you're probably doing it well enough you know. She's a great sense of humor. I really enjoyed our conversation if you wanna to find out more about dr. Emily oster And what she's up to will link confirmation now blow as well as links to her book. The family firm without further do. Let's go and jump into this one with dr. emily oster. Dr emily oster. It's good to talk to you again. how are you. i'm good. how are you guys doing. We're grace excited to have gone. I don't know if you know this. We've only done one other solo interview doc and that was with another professor. Karl pilmer wrote He's written some really good books like yourself. Who's written amazing book. So you've written walk us through crib sheet expecting better and the family farm. My gosh okay. Talk us through. I feel like it's a progression of pregnancy newborns and now like elementary school years right. Yeah it is. Oh really started. Mapping my own journey so the first book came out. I wrote it while i was pregnant. A lot of a lot of the research. While i was pregnant with my first kid and then that came out when she was like two and then i waited. Have a second kid to write a second book. So i could make sure that you know i kind of got the important stuff and not all weird stuff out the first kid and so crunchy came out in two thousand nine hundred and then the family firm is about this next phase. I'm in now where the kids are in. School and a lot of life is decisions. You didn't necessarily expect logistics kind of how to shape your whole your whole life plus data about older kids so it's a little. It's a little journey. How do you describe your books as a whole like what are you write about. How do you write. I write about using data and decision making in parenting So i read a lot about how we interpret data in around questions in parenting and how we think about correlation versus causality and the limits of evidence. And what we can know and what we can't know. And then on top of that. I write about how we can use that data to make decisions. That work for our families recognizing that those are not always the same decisions for the same people and that the data is a big piece of it but not always the whole peace and i think part of what's happening sort of over the course of the books is it's become more about kind of using the data to inform your own choices and combined with your preferences and less about like okay. The dana says says this. So that's a little bit of a a journey as you parent. I have to say after enter. Did his first interview with you. We were pregnant with our daughter. It was that long ago. Yeah and i remember. He didn't stop talking about that interview for months. We were so terrified of having a newborn because so many people had so many very strong opinions of this is right and this is wrong and as a new parent especially like as a spouse to navigating that was terrifying and he would just sit down babe. You've no idea what she said. I feel so much better about just everything and we would run through all of it and it was just. Yeah it made. It made our life a lot. Easier to embarrass.
Staying Sturdy When Your Kid's out of Control
"The first thing i want to say is you are not alone. When kids are dysregulates. Did they do all types of things they kick they scream. They say i hate you and they can say bad words. So i step i would say is to see what true is doing from the lens of the pain and total chaos inside his body right. I think a big idea that i always think about with tantrums. Is we act how we feel right. And so if his actions and his words seemed totally out of control that means he's feeling totally out of control so a couple things i would think about number one is drew really needs you to differentiate between his behavior and his feelings and we need to help him do this in the moment and we also need to build the language to help him do this outside of the moment. So let's start with in the moment you say to him. Oh sorry sweetie. Dessert time is over right. I know in my house. It's i've already given five cookies. And that's just the line right in the six. Cookie seems to set my child off. And that's where. I'm holding my boundary right at this point drew. Might he might get really upset. At this moment. You might say shut up. Shut up shut up right first of all for you. He's acting how he's feeling. Let me set a boundary but also see the struggle. He's having a boundary. Might sound like this. Wow those are big words right. is that a boundary. it actually is kind of labeling. What's happening in. Maybe i'd even add while those are big words. I won't let you use words like that in this family now. A lot of us get caught up. What do you mean. I won't let them use words. They already are. We're still setting a boundary to differentiate between the behavior. Which were kind of saying isn't okay. And now i'm gonna help you kind of find words to speak to what's going on inside of drew where i would say i won't let you use those words and oh it is so hard not to get the things we want. What am i doing. they're Showing my child that i can differentiate between how he's struggling and how that struggle comes out in the behavior in the moment. This is really all we do. And then we survive through
When Is It Time for Women to Consider Taking Estrogen Replacements?
"You have your diet really dialed in Really important so you're getting good sleep you're matching your thyroid's working while your diet is dial you've done the verge diet figure out hidden thomas. You brought that information your everyday life. You've done the sugar impact. I to lower your sugar impact become a fat-burner and now you're adding in some intermittent fasting. You know what normal feels like for you right now right. You've got that new normal you've incorporated in some fido estrogen foods. Tahini garbanzo flax. You're eating a really good healthy diet because you love yourself. Then at that point. Oh and you've optimize your vitamin d. Which is the pro hormone at the top of the cascade at that point then you start to look at. How do i feel at this point. However my blood markers one of the challenges for women are estrogen. Go-slow is a couple things go go sideways. Low estrogen impacts your bone your brains and your heart women die of heart disease more than anything else so what you wanna see. Where are you now. You know what's going on with your heart where what's your cholesterol levels. All the different markers for good cardiovascular health homocysteine. ldl hdl looking at particle size number looking at l. p. little a super important one by brennan. John's you're looking at all of those looking at blood sugar and insulin. You're looking at your brain function. Meaning if you walk into a room and go. Why the heck am i here probably have a little brain fog right and then also you get into bone density test. That's important fish oil and sacks can help with bone remodeling so that's can be helpful so you're looking at all those aspects. You're going all right. How am i doing here and if you're not doing well that's a time to really look at doing hormone replacement. Therapy in the window is not white here. You can't you can't go into post menopause and then decide five years later. You gonna do that so you really have to be looking at this as you're going through and working with the functional medicine doctor to look at the bio identical how you're going to Optimize them and how you gonna cycle them. And what's important here is. You'll have the lab tests which will also have how you feel. That's why you've got so no in your skin. How you feel. What feeling good feels like so that you can use the least amount to get the most the best effect real
Biden Withdrawing Troops From Afghanistan Shows Weakness to Our Enemies
"Ladies and gentlemen, a couple things about this. We had 56 7000 troops in Afghanistan a month ago. No deaths in the last year and a half. We're not fighting a quote unquote war in Afghanistan. It's not an ongoing war. I think they called a hot war every day, going on, day in and day out. That's not what's happening there. That's not what was happening there. We haven't said that. Well, they've been trained enough the Afghani armed forces, they should be able to fight for themselves. Well, they were largely fighting for themselves with our advisers and support but We've taken their air power power away. We've taken their air cover away for the most part. So the Afghan ground forces have no air cover and they needed that air cover when we were pushed back On those occasions when necessary. The Taliban and the Taliban feared our air cover. This has been a disaster. This is a humiliation for us. Every one of our enemies are looking at this. The North Koreans, the communist Chinese Putin in Russia, the Islamo Nazi regime in Iran. They're all looking at this. And they're sitting weakness. They're seeing a humiliated United States. We're sending 3000 troops back in in order to try and get our civilians out, including out of the embassy, so
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"Worth what they're metal like symbolizes and to see a silver medal. The olympics as failure can mess a lot of people up in for me. I had a very great community of people around me to remind me that no that is an honor of lifetime but that can weigh in a lot of people. Do you have any regrets from your olympic experience. I do not. I think he make a lot of mistakes. I think you go through a lot of different things in life. But i don't believe in regrets because i think they shape who you are as a person as far as the olympics. If i were to joke around with one. I wish i would have taken more pictures and save those memories. I was so focused on the competition. That i tried to blur everything out. And it's hard for me to remember. I'm just going to publicly say this. I wasn't even no. But i keep me up at night. So sean when we first started dating. This is the first year of our dating. I needed a laptop for school so she was generous enough to lend me. Her laptop turns out that that was a laptop. She had all her olympic pictures on. The cloud didn't exist back then. So i lose the laptop and all of shawn's olympic pictures and memories along with that not all your memories but the tangible can i can't believe that i am a knucklehead. I guess our josh. I don't think anything of it. Maybe it's totally fine. I think about all the time anyway. My memories with you in our daughter and our family are so much more important for thanks for sharing. Those are good questions We'll wrap that up there. Let's if you wanna have a part to to the olympic conversation. This is different than our normal couple things episode but I don't know i think it's interesting for. It explore this as a couple. Because there's a lot of questions that we haven't discussed and then also each. And every one of those things that we discussed like michaela skinner mckenna is married and just think about the impacts of if you were going through the journey right now what would that look like or chelsea memo was trying to like. She is kids and a husband is like how what does that. Look when you're trying to make the olympics and totally different level only specific to this year makita skinner's a perfect example. There's an international ban on travel so her husband can't go crazy. Yeah well anyway. That's all we have committed this far. Please subscribe hit the little subscribe on whatever from listening and give it a rating. Let's not thought thanks for tuning in. That's all we have i'm andrew. I'm heroin east fan out..
Developing Resiliency and Self-Care Practices With Dr. Gregory Brown
"What are some of the things that you think especially coming out of seeing. All this stuff happened for people to go tie. You're right i needed. I needed double down. What are some things that can give like ten acts benefit to the things that you can invest in that can then create the foundation of the resiliency. That will be better served when something else happens. I mean first of all i think. I think that's an excellent question. But i think it's worth exploring. What is resiliency even me like. We're talking about that. As you know calmness from itself you a lot of work with men and a lot of time this idea of resiliency is interpreted as the tendency not to break right so we just have to fell through everything right. Tub it out. I like to think of resiliency as our ability to adapt right to adapt to change to adapt to uncertainty. And i think that's the real challenge. We have in front of us right now. So couple things. I think perspective is a powerful powerful powerful tool right. And that's something that no matter where you are. What your walk of life me all have control over our perspective the way that we use certain situations right the other thing is so care right and so i often talk about these tenants of self care especially when it comes to mental health sleep spirituality. Which doesn't just mean religion right nutrition breath and movement. And then you know the last thing that i would really encourage people to focus on. Is this idea of community. I think that's right now especially this idea of jurassic for judgment connecting with the people around us understanding their stories. I think things that can actually help us. Maintain better mental health and maintain all those things that take care of us navigate these uncertain
What to Know About the First Ever Olympics With Transgender Athletes
"On a story. We brought you last month about LGBTQ athletes from around the world vying to make history by qualifying for the Olympics. Was a week to go before the Games opening ceremony in Tokyo. The list is expansive, a record number of out athletes are set to compete, said Ziegler is sports writer and co founder of Outsports. It's a news outlet that focuses on LGBTQ issues in sports. He's been keeping score. Said. Welcome back. Thank you so much. Alright. Well, first of all up until these games no openly transgender athlete had ever competed at the Olympics. So how much will the landscape change when those games open next week in Tokyo? Well, there are three athletes going to Tokyo that we know of Chelsea Wolfe as part of Team USA. She's a BMX freestyler. She's a reserve athlete, so Chelsea is only going to compete if one of the two Americans can't compete. Quinn is a transgender, non binary soccer player who is going to compete on the women's Canadian soccer team, but the one that's really going to get the headlines. Laurel Hubbard, a transgender power weightlifter for was competing for New Zealand. The past. Laurel has won a couple of medals at World Championships, Never a gold, but she's the one people are really talking about. And what's the conversation Ben about how or if transgender athletes should be competing in the Olympics? Well, of course, you have a lot of people who see this large woman and say that it's unfair that she's competing, but a couple things that I want to point to number one. Weightlifting is by weight class. So Laurel is competing against the largest size women. It's not as though she's competing against women to £100 trying to lift weight. The other part is that Laurel has far and away exceeded the regulations that the international in Pick committee has put in for transgender
Alexa Commands to Celebrate Canada Day 2021
"Is July 1st and that means it is Canada Day. So happy Canada day, everyone hope you're having a really really fun day. As I like to do on holidays. I want to tell you a couple things that you can say to Lexi to help celebrate here. They are number one, you can say it Alexi, happy Canada Day. And number two, you can say, do you celebrate Canada day? And this one's interesting because normally does she give you a response, but then she goes on to actually play a little bit of Canadian trivia with you if you want to do that. And then the final one is you can say home, sing, O, Canada, and I will tell you who it is, but she has a special guest joining her to help you. Here. They're in addition of, Oh, Canada.
People on Instagram Shared Their Red Flags in Dating
"Asked you guys. I said what are red flags when it comes to dating and here are a lot of them. Ready within like the first ten five of them are exactly the same which is shocking is. They're rude to wait. Staff trading servers rudely short temper being rude to staffer anyone trying to do their job. Yes i think that is a massive red flag. How someone treat someone else a stranger. I think shows a lot about their core values now not to be too nuance. But you're standing for rudeness. I'm just saying there's been a lot of riffs between you. And i because you have different social norms and hyper sensitive to everybody around me. You better lock is better knowledge in the second they get to the table. But you're not conversational. No but i take that as route. So but you're not being rude. It's just you know what i'm saying. Okay we're getting to know us here. Servers i agree. I agree smoking really. Yeah i think it depends on the person right. Yeah i would. I would generally say it's probably not healthy. That's fine but i'm not. I'm not going to play devil's advocate through this. Someone's at a horrible family okay. We're gonna dive into bats if they talk to their mom this respectfully if he or she avoids introducing you to their friends. We will dive into that. Is that is actually very insightful. Khuda who said that. Emily siegman agree with you on that someone who does not believe in god. We talked about that with dealbreakers about like religious differences. Saying the l word too early seems a little specific. Might need to open that up a little bit actions. Don't line up with words. I i would agree with that honestly. These are tall because like the hat. Everybody's like everybody crosses that line I can't hold that standard all the time. If they don't want to see your family and friends if they're too touchy before they even go on a date with well. I agree with that one. Yeah jealousy if they ever ghost you drugs and alcohol abuse co-dependency anger issues family dynamics
Dr. Fauci Inconsistent on MSNBC's Nicolle Wallace Show
"Bounty scam. I mean, she's falling for every skin. Really, not that bright. And so Fauci, of course, goes on that show knowing she's not that bright and he'll be able to say whatever he wants. And he said this interesting thing on the show yesterday gonna play for you in a second. The odd thing about it is odd, given his history of saying contradictory things is he's actually right. So if he's right in this appearance with Nicole Wallace, then what do you complaining about, then? I'll explain on the other side. Check this out. And what they didn't seem to understand. I guess that's understandable that they didn't understand it is that science is a dynamic process. So something that you know, in January. You make a recommendation or a comment about it. But as you get more and more information, the information leads you to change because that's what science is. It's a self Correcting process. So when you hear someone say something at one point and then I think that would be inappropriate. Couple things on this left this do not believe science is an evolving dynamic process. Can we just put that out there? Toe left this listening? No, we do. Dan. We definitely believe it's time to really can. How come you keep telling us the science is settled. On climate change. How many times have you heard that? If science is a dynamic, evolving process, then how can science ever be settled? I'm just asking. I've had Let's not get sidetracked, though. Let's stick to the point here. Found. She's right. Ladies and gentlemen, I want to give a fair assessment of his comments yesterday on the disgrace in the cold, Wallace show. Science, his dynamic and evolving It changes all the time. He's absolutely accurate. My criticism with Fauci is not
Google Outlines Plans for the FUTURE
"So yeah that was one thing that they talked about a couple things that caught me on the hardware front or this was the main one that caught me on the harbour front was them announcing google announcing that wairoa s will partner with samsung. It'd be a samsung partner. Who because you know samsung has been all about this ties. Instead of they've been building their own stuff and as far as apple watch alternatives. Samsung has kind of been that player and a believe they had. They were using where at one point in their products. So this is a big deal that their partner up now and they actually google say complimentary things about samsung like through his partners. You we're going to get better battery life samsung's pretty cool sans. We like samsa sharia and so again. You don't always have these giants in space talking fondly of one another but it appears across multiple moments in the in the presentation that samsung and google or getting along right now at least in wearables another story ruins e as the show progresses. I got a lot to cover today told you this before. I'm a little pent up because we can show yesterday and of course we had the weekend so i got stuff for people today. Cure so bottom line now the other piece to add to the wearable front. You made the partnership with samsung on a wearable device wairoa s but then also remembered his little acquisition. We had fitbit on knows a few billion dollars this way or that way between friends. Don't get too worried about it. And they're like oh we're gonna put that to us now too so not only are you can get the better battery life through our up to thirty percent better battery life thriving developer community by working with samsung s with a unified platform. Say
How to Get Their Best Email
"Just having a wonderful conversation with my favorite personal trainer. Mia finn again. If you're listening via i love you. And she's got some great online programs bunch different offerings. You guys should check it out. I will put linked to her in our show notes because she is the inspiration behind. Today's she was saying you know. I have myself different emails. I have one email. That i use. When i just want the freebie and then i have the email that i used so that i make sure you don't miss something that we need to see or want to see and she just kind of asking like does everyone do that and i think the answer is yes the answer. Yes for you. I know the answer is yes for me in fact. I've got three different phony emails. That i use one that i opt into. I just wanna see. Swipe copy one that i opted into so that my staff doesn't have to weed through my online orders. Okay fine. it's because i'm embarrassed. About how much online shopping i do. And then my email address it. I use that i make sure i see everything or somebody on my staff is gonna see everything. Comes that inbox all right. The question is as an entrepreneur s. Who is building their email lists. How do you get daddy. Email the one that people actually check because think about it. if you don't if you're getting the spam email your follow up sequence is never getting to them your irresistible offer is never getting to them. You're like hey we haven't seen in a while. Here's a special discount. None of that is getting to them. None of it. So it's a one and done so couple things to remember. The first is this. You've got one chance to tell them that. You actually have a solution to their problem and that is why not electronic. Toot our own horn. I'm sure somebody else inspired me to do this. But we've been really bold about the concept of putting your offer in your very first email not shoving it down people's throat so if you opted into let's say for example are freemium for trying to figure out what you're saying is or a freemium for instant club hub like you want to learn how to do the swipe up whatever that very first female is going to give you what it is you ask for here. You go and that should be. The first sentence
How To Teach Your Kids About Money
"All have our own money stories. Is there anything. Guess is outside the research again. I apologize for that. However this is this is our story but looking back now zooming out and looking back at your past are learning moments are situations are teachings that your family taught you about. Money are things you observed now as an adult that drew you to being interested in family finances. Yeah couple of things. Come to mind my. I have awesome parents. So couple things one when i always about probably about ten years old and i'm one of five kids parents my siblings and me down and off. We'd been acting like kind of spoiled or entitled recently. But they sat down and they got out the monopoly in we had and they counted out in monopoly money. They said this is how much we make every month. And it's like a tenure. Although wow like so much money and from that stack. They counted out this. How much are mortgages every month. You know just to live in this house. It cost this much and then they counted out. This is how much our cars cost. This is how much we have to finish to buy groceries and just eat food utility. Just be warm and be able to turn their lights. And basically once they got through all the necessities there was like a a whittal stack at the end and so that was hugely. I opening at the kid to you. Know i. there were several take First of all. We're really lucky. We have all our needs met and we even have a little bit leftover the end you know and just a realistic view of this is how much real world costs. Life is expensive and then You know just to lessen title that we can have some of the things that we want. Kids were really blessed but this is why we say no to some things because this is the lowest staffer working with the end of the
The Interrogation of Kevin Maler
"It's february seventeenth twenty twenty one and i'm in greenville. South carolina at kevin miller's request. I've arranged a polygraph examination. He wants to clear his name. I want the truth. But the disappearance of jennifer and faith roach couple things okay Number one he said he gets. He told he's been shot. Apsos will physically assault. he's rallies thank you. He said that he did get up early this morning. Have such an hour and ten minutes says sleeping. He's did use meth west night. Totally things he did. That's the voice of andrew goldstein. The forensic polygraph examiner. We hired for the interview with kevin. Mister gold scene is licensed in north carolina south carolina and georgia and is conducting polygraph examinations for over a decade as this episode goes on. You may wonder why. Mr goldstein stayed in for my interview with kevin miller to be honest. I kind of under the same thing and i told me you know and i know i've got one shot and really make it work. Okay right for say something own when you see stuff like this is breathing swallowing movement. This movement is nodding off start nodding. Okay i go through again telling usual for you. People nodding mostly from that test saying he's done it for you Years back yeah. It's a countermeasure cash or not. i don't i can just tell you could be a kind of countermeasures. Well if you fall asleep right can't test when sleeping. He does it again. We'll see how it goes down. Almost nothing he's just. He's going out yeah. He looks super low energy. When we came in this morning. I nor the second time. Okay yeah go through it again. You did it again. he's out. She's sleeping to test is inconclusive. You re you. He's sleeping probably. You can hear my shock. I was stunned when mr scene told me. The kevin fell asleep. Three times during a polygraph. The first time as he said to me in his long career that someone's fallen asleep three times. It was an outcome that had never ever ever entered my thought process about this not once
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"Extra props in the family. That i was going to be on this so these Estrangement s- and issues with the extended family close untold problems for couples. What up everybody. Welcome back to couple of things. John and andrew podcast all about couple and the things they go through the day we have our first solo interview. Okay we've mentioned his books. Yes more than any other reference we've made on the show. We actually give them to a lot of our couples yes. I'm very excited about this. I'm honored that he took the time to join us today. We're talking about dr karl pilmer. He has authored thirty lessons on living thirty lessons on loving and his newest book faultlines internet. I've had more relationship. In depth like philosophical conversations regarding his books or stemming from his books than i think anything else we've talked about in a relationship so dr pill is a professor at cornell university and is a gerontologist which means that he works and studies with old people. Yeah and so. That's the inspiration for these books. Sit down with people who have lived a full life and get lessons on living loving and then also his newest book by sex how family estrangement so any riffs. That have happened any breaks and family ties. That have happened. He wanted to understand why those happen. And then also give words of wisdom as to how to repair these rifts. So you might be asking yourself. This is couple things. Why are we not listening to a couple. Well we thought he had so much wisdom from talking to thousands and thousands of couples around the world that he could talk about. Give such great advice and great wisdom about couples ships and all of the drama. That comes with yes and he doesn't just interview any couples he interviews couples that have been married for decades. And we talk about this all the time on our show. We don't necessarily want to give advice. The inspiration for the show is to share our life experiences as they happen and the things that we're learning through them by no means. Are we experts by no means. Are we family counselors. But that's what we're excited to sit down with dr villamor because he is an expert and He's spoken with so many different experts. He's an author. Anyway we're very excited again. If you wanna find out more about dr pilmer and the books that he's written. I would legitimately recommend every single one of these books. These are staple books in my mind and they make my top fifteen list for sure. We're going to link those down below and also more information about dr pill if you're curious and before jumping interview please subscribe this show and give it a rating on whatever platform. You're listening on. It really helps out. And let's just go enroll in this one with dr karl paloma. Let's do it. dr. Karl pillar i gotta i gotta say it is a true honor to have you here with us and i wanna start with two things one. This is the first ever solo interview. We've done usually we sit down with a couple and so i'm excited and anxious to see how this goes. The second issue. I want to bring up is more of a maybe like a bone to pick with you I am just dying to know why you haven't written more books. Everything you've written so far has been so life changing perspective change for me. I need you to write more books doc. Well.
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"Perfect. You will make mistakes every single day of your life. It's just for some reason within society we put a scale as to what matters. And what doesn't what's up everybody. Welcome back to couple shannon andrew podcasts. All about couples and the things they go through ten day. We are doing a topic that you guys have requested which is dealbreakers within relationships. That's right we asked instagram. What would be some things that if you saw might be a red flag for you and might be something that you could no longer continue the relationship with so we put together a list and we're going to talk through them and maybe some ways to to work through these issues because we do think that there is a lot of value in working through difficult problems in difficult situations with your significant other but maybe just maybe and this is up to you if there might be some things that you can't do with so yeah we're going to have discussions either really interesting. You guys had some very strong opinions on what would work and would not work within a relationship again. We are just giving our opinions when it comes to it. But i think this one's going to be fun. Yeah maybe just You know be a little thought provoking but before we jump into this list of what is it over ten plus things might be dealbreaker that yeah please if you haven't yet subscribed to show and give it a rating on whatever platform you're listening on. We hope this show provides value and our goal with all the content that we make is to help you. Draw closer and feel deeper connected to your spouse into your family so we hope that this does that and Anyway let's get to it. Yes we are going to dive right in. One of the most talked about topics within dealbreakers or issues within relationships are exit Okay what do you think. Can you have a relationship with an ex. You're saying in my dating this person again. No i'm saying you and i are you are you and i are married. Is it a deal breaker. If i'm a friend with an x of mine so my initial reaction is no. Maybe there's some extreme extenuating circumstances it might allow for that door to be opened. But i wouldn't feel maybe it's a pride thing. Maybe it's me not being secure enough in my manley hood or In our relationship to let you do that. But i don't view it as necessary. You know what i'm saying. I get that. And i feel like i personally have gone back and forth on this topic. We've had this topic or we've had this conversation a lot more so with which will get you can. Can your spouse have friends of the opposite sex. We've had that conversation a lot. Because i was always that girl in high school. That had a lot of guy friends. Because i was more athletic and i just related to the football team and are related to saturday more than the girls. It's kinda always ran. So i've kind of bounced back and forth. Can you have a friendship with an x. i think i think it would take special scenarios. I don't think you could have been in love with them in it. The friendship over. What does that mean. How do you even gauge that. That's what i'm saying. I think it's safer to just not have that in your life using it safer. Yes but do. I think there's like a fine line there potentially because you could have gone on a date with someone once in high school. Who like you're like. Whoa nab and you're a friend. Yeah okay okay okay. Okay okay okay. So you're saying there might be qualifications of hey. We dated for six months. Can i still be friends with this person. But if it's if it's over six months no what if it's under six months. Yes all of that to say. I think it's a gray line. Where at the end of the day you know the intention in your heart of what that relationship is if there are any harbored feelings there. It's best to stay away. But i agree. I think that dive into ken. You can your spouse have friends of the opposite sex. I don't think close friends. Now that's kinda how i feel and maybe that's too traditional of old school. I don't know what it is. I'm certainly not trying to be oppressive. But again why what's the i again. I've gone back and forth on that. But i think i agree because it wasn't until even recently that i had a conversation with someone wants in. They're talking about how they had been these best friends for so long and twenty years later he realized he had been in love with her the whole time. I truly believe if you're a really really really close friend than someone within that relationship wouldn't mind if things went further even if it isn't you and your truly they're just to be a friend you could never see. That person has something else. maybe they cut. I just feel like if i'm if i'm opening up to another woman about the struggles i'm going through and maybe even talking about gosh. My relationship with my wife is tough. That goes down the pass that that leads to is nothing good. I feel like i think. That's yeah i. I am on that team these days. I think it's just better to be bros. And hang and be like hey. They're a friend but they're more so like my husband's friend. You know then the person. I'm going to go sit down and have coffee with and tell them i'm having a really hard time because this they're not going to be your first call. Something goes wrong in your life. So that's how i feel about. It would love to hear your opinion to please. Share them in the ratings reviews youtube comments wherever i will say. There's a question on here. Can a healthy version of being friends with enacts exists or being friends with someone of the opposite sex exist. My answer is yes just. It's probably the exception. Not the rule. Yeah and i will say too. I do believe a healthy version could exist. As long as it's an open place for communication not with your ex but with your spouse your spouse should know their an ex you know this situation and and their input should matter even if it's the most platonic relationship in the entire world and nothing ever ever whatever your circumstances your current spouse's trust and trust and feelings even if it's nothing should mean something because you always want to put them it should be the power should be the priority over the i feel like. That's what marriage especially is engaged engagement. Same way dating in in Less intense but similar way is this person is my priority. We're talking about this. The other day of your choosing to empathize more with your spouse Than anybody else like. You're choosing you choose you you choosing to be on your spouse's team have their opinions. Have their back than anyone else. And so if that's compromise at all i would say it's a no-go and i hate to do that but i'm going to be that person i to throw in the aspect controlling your spouse and saying you cannot be friends just because it's the opposite sex just because those types of things. I do not agree with because in a similar way. It destroys the truck. Yes you're not giving your spouse any room to have their independent live in their independent like entity and trust within the relationship. I am relationships. Are this kind of two independent people figuring out how to be on the same team not dominating others lives or trying to hide their lives from the other so today's couple things episode is brought to you by best.
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"Amy is so he has a hard time pushing on the drawers because of her views. So it's often said that is perfect. Ama what is your biggest pet peeve with. John this is this is our culture. Put it in a compliment. You didn't care so much about those like sometimes. Fcd and i'm not too. I'm not the best shank annoyed that he is. Bet he cares about that stuff preach amy. That is literally orange. amy. I very similar andrew. Can you just like maybe shot a cabinet. Door doesn't take any effort you've been married eleven more years than us and this issue going away. It's great so you'll still be keeping the doors open. Eleven years awesome Amy you have to go first this time. What is the thing you love the most about john. There's you've shared a lot all right. Yeah houston great. Most the most. I think he is just so good at making me feel like i'm the best person you know. He's so company me so good about doing things for me. You know. I feel like i like. I'm the luckiest happen. Is i had no idea back then. The oh yeah. I don't think he's good looking but it's like no no no no. He's not as good looking like truly selfless truly funny. Truly everything you know besides. Ocd thing. Like i'm sorry. I don't think i answered it. Just no that makes sense. I think he wants to be a husband. And so i feel like i'm someone who wants to be like who wants that. Well every guy wants the some people in women. I think people just get married mary. I think john wants to a and i still feel at eleven fifteen years after. That's a pretty good complement to great government. Okay john what do you love. The most about amy possible. I don't. I don't know if this is the most and this is one of those questions where of course for the rest of the damn. I'm going to be another thing. That i could have said but i think a amy has a Amy has like a selfless like the her version of love so selfless and. I don't think everyone's version is that way you know i think the her i mean she said earlier. We have a great marriage and she attributed that to me. I feel the exact same way you'll like. Whenever people are talking about marriage being hard and marriage can be hard. I don't mean to you. Know this. Not that. But i always think eating married amy so easy i feel like she is. She shows me how much she loves me in such a selfless lay. So and also thousand thing. I love that. Well thanks guys now. I feel warm and cozy inside. Well we're thankful to get to know you both. Thank you for doing your first couples interview. Couple things So i love that you guys have. It's really frightening to you. Guys are having awesome. I'm glad is this week. You to know all these things about you. Yeah we'll listen. I didn't know john played tennis like he does. Do you play pong as well. John it but on in bomb. Pong serious toffee. I've tried it. I just trying to think of all the other pengs. And then i realized there are some but got deep on i. I'm a. i'm a less than average clear. Okay amy can school so maybe we have you over for some couples on thinking anyway. Thanks for the time guys. this is fun. Show thanks guys..
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"I have never experienced. Such unconditional love in such a vulnerable moments such as scary moment than with amy. What's up everybody. Welcome back to. Couple things sean. Andrew podcast all about couples. They go through day. We have an awesome couple. John and amy mclaughlin is right. So i'm a big fan of john mclaughlin. I have been ever since. I was in high school. He is a fellow. Hoosier like myself. If you don't know who's your is. It is someone who was born and raised in indiana. So i've been following john through his whole career a big fan. We actually grew up pretty close each other. He's way cooler than i am and john is a grammy nominated singer. Songwriter is amazing music. We will link down below but he has done songs with jason mraz. Sarah burrell's he's gone on tour with kelly clarkson and i'm going to link a couple of my favorite example but we sit down with john and his wife. Amy who now live in nashville. Actually we don't live too far from them as well so a lot of connections with them. And i really enjoyed this conversation a because i just feel like these are people that we would be friends with. I hope that they consider us friends. I consider them friends and also role models but they have two kids and we cover a lot of different topics including what. It's like to raise kids in their philosophy on that we also talked about some of john's more vulnerable addictions that he has shared recently publicly. And i'm grateful that he has occurred to do that. And we also have a lotta laughs. So we're excited for this episode. With john heyman russo thankful. They took the time to join us and john actually has own. Podcast called dad del that he does with dave barnes who is another musician and they interview a lot of fun people so we went that download to before jumping in this. Please subscribe to this show and give it a rating on whatever platform. i know. There's a lot of podcasts out. There we know there's a lot of shows you could be listening to but you chose to come and listen to us and we're honored for that. We'll try to make sure that this next hour of your time is well worth it. So without further ado. Let's go enroll in this one with john. And amy mclaughlin. I john and amy. What a pleasure to meet you. Thanks for joining us today. Thanks for having a excited so last time you and i talked. John was on my show redirected. A lot's happened since then. I think that was like last year sometime. But it's good to see in on the less. I do want to start off by saying. I haven't seen your cappuccino. You were on a roll there with making homemade cappuccinos. It looks like that simmered off a little bit drinking coffee now right here my friend we have you heard him up yet. No i actually haven't now. You're making me feel guilty on. You can't call indra. Friend has inter his own coffee and he hasn't sent it to you so this is a big day though because this is the first interview. You guys have done as a couple. If i'm understanding this correct yeah no pressure thank you. Welcome to use fewer we. Okay so i'm going to start off amy. i'm going to. It's right at you okay. First question heavy had we always ask. How did you guys. I mean i just wanna know or do you remember the day i met so we went to high school but we are not high school sweethearts years older. And oh her's a big deal. I take two years is like a big deal. Yeah oh I need a his friends Often he had older sister Sign new of john. We didn't run in the same circle and then it wasn't when we went to college my fifth year. His junior year is when we went on our first date and we have that was a very very short version. You have a very long drawn out. Version love to to offer this. And it'd be the whole podcast. What does one do for a first date in anderson indiana. You asked. Who are the school that we went to a real small little school University they do these things or roommate dates. Where like if you lived in the dorm it would be like your whole floor would go out on a roommate in you. Invite somebody or your roommate. So it's like a big blind date. It is really fun and so long story short. I had five roommates time and we were living in this amazing historic huge house. Taurean was like b. you've yeah It was actually my piano professors house and he went on sabbatical. We lived in so we were like we should do a roommate day in this house and like have somebody come in cook and will dress up and we'll dance in candidate in our campus mail. They sent invitations in the guys burned the edges of the invitations. Wow that's all we had. We had like house meetings for months about this. Mainly just about burn the edges. We allow subs for state. And we're the only ones that watts it from that rating so that's really sweet win. We want a hand burned. Invitation in the mail to myself. I never burnt anything for sean. Sadly probably it's probably good to say that. I don't wanna overlook the took a fifth year in college. Amy is there a was that four john specifically. Yeah feeling that that we were going to get together. No soccer and so. I took very light semesters like many fan of that. It'd be considered fulltime. So that's awesome my fifth years when i down found my husband student. So when did you know you're gonna marry each other who that's a good question. I feel like i knew really early. On and so early that it kind of freaked me out we et cetera. The we dated six months and then it was the summer and so he went and worked at a young life. Camp and i went and worked at a church in pennsylvania and summer. Remember like saying this is an naked riggott in dislike longing. What am i going to see. This is torture. Like i just knew after that we are going to get a break up or joe so i don't think there would like a moment like oh look into his eyes. I new remake. You're gonna wasn't about. John was it is was his classy messy hairstyle. Was it as boho fashion. Which be longer and my hair was never as long as your hair was but yeah are you saying it was too long. Well i think all of the girls liked him on campus. Obviously i was very.
Accidents And Aging, Learn How To Avoid Them
"Back with us. Today is our favourite cool doctor. Dr aleida mucci. You may remember her from last month when we talked about. Frailty today we're talking. Oh all things incontinent. So thanks for joining me today. Thank you very much. It's lovely to see her again. Jerry to hopefully soon we'll be able to travel and now my husband's go to europe so we have a lot of people to meet over in the uk soon so and me. Smile american college of physicians conferences. Which i used to do every yes. Oh yes looking forward to. That sounds terrific so last month we talked on. Frailty what it is how to prevent it or prevent it from getting worse. What's on on topic for incontinence today. How is that tied into aging. Will danny wed do. I stop you can enormous topic and a very interesting run and i think as we get into the conversation i like to get a couple things out there straightaway and the first thing as incontinence and age in on the same thing incontinence at any age is malt known as we get older and if we spot experiencing We shouldn't just say well. would you expect i. May you five ninety of those things happen. Not it is not normal to get incontinent. So eat back east happening. Medical attention should be sought because yes of course. We're experiencing certain down that in terms of our blige urination bottles of apple. Talk about this zoological. Changing changes in our water systems. However incontinence is abnormal. The sun at the second thing is it can happen at any age at fifty year old can be incumbent yet and nineteen year old lady campbell accidentally fine with the gains so these are the two important facts to consider what it comes to the aging changes incontinence. I will mean we will be talking about blood today. I think it will be too much. We'll maybe talk about bowels. If you have any questions but let's concentrate on the blood or in today's podcast. So when it comes to changes in changes of cools the bladder muscle which will detroit muscle does get a little bit on a mind of its own and will get more contractions mowing one in trade contractions and sunday out the blue. You might have been the toilet over half an hour ago and you saw yet energy. So that's one of the changes way experience. The capacity will how much you the blubber can hold before it Tells your brain that you need to empty your blood. That capacity goes down as well and then of course. Let's not forget as we grow all debit develop problems. Most commonly mobility problems arthritis muscle weakness. And of course the pure ability to go to that will becomes a challenge. And we'll get back in. Time sometimes can lead to their little accidents piece of the main agent changes when he to know about amicus please coupled weight changes in their body for example aud as the old abbey develop sound failing and harmon of the blood vessels are on the brain. Will that small vessel. Schemic changes are Disease that of course has an impact was won't our bodies regulated by multiple mechanisms up mainly by the brain. If you had the blood vessels of the brain for that will have impact on your brother and the blood to contracting voluntarily So these these are the main main aging changes. They need to be arou- make sense so we need to take care of our brains that we don't have bathroom issues. All that's that's most set jerry and go for a danger. They you a good point because we need to take account of our brain people with strokes people who go wall man Let's say that there are many reasons for strokes. Most common causes smoking diabetes. Obesity and sold this risk factors lead has had have recovered strokes and of course strokes is one of the main risk factors developing bladder problems as well. So what patients. With stroke do developing continous do develop imola These involuntary contractions which in medical terms were cool. All were active blooded syndrome so it leads to urge incontinence simple mechanism as imagine he'll blah. It consists of one muscle which is called the truth himself and he just contracts might warns involuntarily. So that's a basic sob- ov- that always active syndrome in swam back communist conditions which we see in our post stroke patients
Editor-in-chief of the National Journal, Jeff Dufour, Discusses Manchin's Role in Senate Negotiations
"Let's go live now, with an update on Skype to Jeff Do. Four editor in chief of National Journal. Jeff in the plainest language possible. What did mansion get that caused him to change his mind and end this Well in the context of a $1.9 trillion bill. Uh, not much. These air presents pretty small provision that took nine hours. The final deal essentially is $300 per week of federal unemployment assistance through the end of August, the house had wanted 400. Said. It's bringing it down to 300. It was originally supposed to expire at the end of September. Now it's going to expire at the end of August. Essentially now one of mansions things was he wanted Tonto. To exempt the taxi. You want to accept the tax exemptions from this two households making over $150,000 a year so currently, if you get these jobless benefits, you can deduct tow up to 10,000 of that from from your taxes. He said. That shouldn't apply. If you make more than 100 $50,000 a year in your household, and it appears the Senate is going to agree to that now, the votes technically still open, even though they supposedly have a deal. I mean time wise. A lot was made out of Senator Ron Johnson last night, forcing the clerk to read the entire bill, which took hours. But this one vote on one Amendment has now taken longer than that did last night. And this is the first vote in what they billed as a vote A Rama quote unquote to come. So they're in for a lot of overtime in the Senate this weekend, the Senate record as you mentioned for longest vote has been broken again because all of this the previous record was from back in 2019. Is this something like the longest vote a sign of serious dysfunction on the hill? Or is it a sign of something else? I don't know The dysfunction is any greater than it has been in years past, which is still pretty significant, But it's combining that dysfunction with a 50 50 senate. I think I think we know a couple things now going forward Number one. This bill is probably going to go to the house like this weekend. Like you said, we're barring anything else on foreseen. They're gonna sense that the president for his signature, it's gonna give Biden his first big victory as president. But maybe more importantly, we know now that any significant legislation like this is going to be a real slaughter and a real challenge to pass vote Counting is critical. And there's all kinds of procedural hurdles that a senator, One senator can throw in the way in a 50 50 Senate now that applies to three bills at the House passed this past week that high up on their agenda. The voting rights package. The George Floyd policing reform and extending civil rights toe LGBT Q Americans, It's going to apply the unorganized labor bill and and gun legislation that they hope to pass this week. Those five just to name a few are all going to need 60 votes in the Senate. And if I were a betting man, I'd say they're not going to get it for most of them. President Biden, who you could almost jokingly say it's still a senator. He's you know, inextricably linked to the U. S. Senate, he called mansion directly. One wonders whether this deal could have been done without the president's efforts. And some people, I suppose, would be encouraged to see that he's getting involved. Others would say, Man, it's a bad sign that the president has to get directly involved like that. And I would also say this is probably not going to be the last conversation that by the mansion have during this Congress, because, uh, mansion is for people who count these things. Mansion is the most centrist member of the entire Senate. He is the swing vote. In the Democratic caucus, and he's the most important vote in the Senate right now, and he knows it. He's gonna exact every bit of power he can out of this toe, get what he wants for his state and for his And just for his for his views to make sure that whatever passes the Senate reflects his
Illinois governor signs bill making state the first to end cash bail
"Justice reform bill that was signed into law by the governor. Fundamentally changing the way criminal justice is done across the state. The first state Illinois becomes the first state in the U. S to end cash bail, and I know a lot of law enforcement groups and attorneys generals across the state have come out. With some questions about it or not, they're they're a little concerned about some of the language language in this 700 plus Page Bill chief Mitchell Davis, though he's not one of them that that I understand he people leaves. This is going to be very good for the state. He's the hazel crust. Hazel Crest Police Department chief. Thank you, chief for spending time with us here on WGN. Thank you for having me. Tell us what it is that we should know about this. Why it is you are so much in favor of what was just past. We'll get to some of the concerns too. But what do you What do you like about this? How do you see this is the path forward? Well, I look at this as an opportunity for reforms. And I guess before I go toe reform for me is that after the definition says, is to make things better not just change, but the change them for the better. And this just gives us an opportunity to put reforms in place that can allow law enforcement to be more equitable in our administration of justice. Mm hmm. So, uh, specifically, some of the things that come out is the end of cash bail. There is the state wide use of force standards so statewide, they'd make determinations about what kind of use of force which is okay. These officers have to be equipped with body cams. Some of the ones that have him have to that goes into effect right away. If you don't have him, you've got some time to do that. Do you have those in Hazel Crest? We actually are in the evaluation process for our body cams. We were. It was already number one of our list of priorities. Before this. This legislation was enacted and it just, you know, just was right in line with what we were doing so many, many departments that don't have them, uh, law enforcement in general, I believe once by can, but it's the financial responsibility that comes along with him. Is what hinders most folks and that's what delayed us in getting Yeah, I hear that a lot. I hear that both the good officers, the law abiding ones, the ones that the vast majority overwhelming majority of folks who wear the badge would like them. They think that they help them sometimes to ever, maybe more often than the folks who are the suspects in the case. I don't know, but they say that it's not a bad thing. I think the only complaint I've heard is that how do you get the money for that? Right? They're expensive. They're expensive to buy the expensive to operate. Keep running and that for smaller police departments like yours That becomes a real sort of obstacle. Our burden? Yes, ma'am. And so the state of Illinois has a Body worn camera Grant fund through the Illinois Law Enforcement Training and Standards Board, and you can apply for grant money through that entity. And while initially when that program was started, there was a lot of different caveats. If you take this money, there was a lot of different quote things that you had to do in order to take the money and to get the body cams and what ultimately ended up happening it happening is a lot of people did not take the money because they didn't they weren't able to comply with what was being asked of them. What's happened since then, is those things that were initially asked were put into law. So whether you got body cams are now now you have to comply with those things. So, um, that Grant Fundo we need for it to be expanded. S O. Once again. Most folks are not against body cams. But we do need that financial assistance, especially as you say the most departments are like Hazel Crest. Most departments are Chicago. Most departments are, uh most municipalities don't have that money to outfit all of their their people that we work for them. So we absolutely need funding to be paired with this legislation, and that's one of the things that we have to try to make sure that is implemented. Because the unfunded mandates are what we're going to make this bill fail in a big way, and I'm just prayerful that they will have the commitment to making sure that we have the funding to make sure things happen. Chief. I've heard. I'm sure you've heard this. I've heard this number of law enforcement folks. I know who say this anonymous complaints thing. You're allowed to make anonymous complaints against a police officer. While that sounds like it should happen for certain reasons, people would be afraid of intimidation or something. Someone patrolling the neighborhood who now is going to hold something against them. There are a number of reasons why people might be fearful to come forward. And so I get the thinking behind it. What officers think, believe many of them and I'm sure you've heard. This isn't in this environment where there is a lot of anti police sentiment. Some people don't even believe we should have police. That there are just going to be targeted attempts to try to remove officers and if you could do that anonymously, boy, that's going to be a lot more simple to do. Well, you know, and I've heard that argument as well. But we have to realize is that just because somebody files a complaint, somebody's not gonna lose their job. They're still due process, so whether it's an anonymous complaint or whether it's somebody who's filled out an affidavit. They act. It has to be substantiated. It has to be investigated and an officer is not held accountable to that complaint until that whole process has done so that due process is in place. Okay, So you feel comfortable that you you tell your officers visit? You've heard it right that they come to you and said that I've heard it from from officers from all over the state of a little bit. That is a concern that you know departments will be overwhelmed with anonymous complaints and and I get it. It may require more work for us. But the the end result is there are areas and there are some communities where people need to be able to file anonymous complaints. And if we can find a way so that we meet that need for folks to file anonymous complaints and not cause undue burden on our police departments and not jeopardize our officers, making sure that they have that due process That's what we have to meet in the middle. And that's where moving forward we gotta come up with solutions that can help us solve those challenges. Yeah, I think a couple things that I don't like about the bill. One is that the way it was past it sort of was this lame duck session middle of the night. Truly, like three or four in the morning, They dropped this 700 page. Bill and they said, Go ahead, take a look at it and you got an hour and we're gonna vote. And so suddenly over the weeks and weeks that followed, there were little things in there and maybe some big things to the people found that they thought, Wait a minute. This This might not be the way it's written may not be what we really need in terms of That delicate balance between preserving public safety and also giving suspects who have not been convicted rights and not not going after poor people simply because they're poor. I get that one of the things that's pointed out to me, and this is more of a prosecutor thing and judges, but it has to do with law enforcement to is that Now, in order to detain someone that the whole no bond thing in order to detain someone, you have to show that they pose a threat specifically to a certain person. So anyone who does sort of crime of convenience, whether it's a Carjacking or sexual assault or robbery or so many of the crimes That you see unless you can say that this person actually would go back out and go after this person. The judge and the prosecutors don't really have a lot of leverage to detain that person. Do you think that that will lead to that person may be a person who does violent crimes. To just think. Well, there are no consequences. So I believe that the you know, and once again as you mentioned this is for the judiciary and for prosecutors, more so than the police, But I believe that the foundation of it is that the person cannot be a threat. Now what the determining factors are for that person being a threat. Those are things that that's all gonna have to be hashed out. And one of the things that I'm once again. I'm hopeful for I'm prayerful for is that the no cash bond. It does not go into effect for a couple years. So that gives time for judiciary for prosecutors for legislators to sit down and really hash this out and look at unintended consequences that may have resulted from the initial language and I think that for me, that's where I'm most hopeful is that throughout the entire bill, what the legislators have told us And they asked for input all along with this well what they what? They've told us that even with this initial passage that they're looking to make things better in the bill, and so that's where the collaboration comes into place by everybody by the legislators. By my police officers, everybody by the community that we all come together and look at things were not going to agree on everything. But if we could make it more palatable so that it at the end of the day it works out for what's best for everybody. I believe that this bill can ultimately be something that can be. It'll be was used around the country as a standard. Hey, they These are the mistakes. They made it to the things that they've done right, But at the end of the day, I think it can help everybody if it's done right with collaboration and proper funding for the mandates that are being given to us. All right, Chief, I I certainly appreciate time and and your perspective. It's good to hear from someone in law enforcement. Who does support this and hear what you have to say about it. So thank you for making time for us. Yes, ma'am. Have a great day. Thank you, sir. Chief Mitchell Davis. There. He's with Hazel Crest. Speedy. We're gonna get to the
The Top 15 Little-Known Secrets On How To Improve Your Focus
"If you don't know who i am. I am a author journalist and founder and executive director of the flow research collective. We study peak human performance where research a training organization on the research side. We work with scientists at ucla at stanford companies like deloitte energetics. Like that on the training side we work with everyday from the us special forces through executives in fortune. Five hundred companies essentially google etc microsoft. All the way up to the general public and focus on is kikkoman performance. What does it take to be your best when it matters. Most what does it take to level up your game like never before and most of my career has been spent studying peak performers. What i thought i was going to do today. Vision asked me to speak a little about my work on flow. Which will get to some of. You might be familiar with and a little bit about focus. And what i thought i would do is talk about fifteen things that peak performers know about focus and attention or routinely do surrounding focus attention and flow that most of us miss and this is something that is fairly common that i've noticed over peak performance. Meaning if you want to train people up in flow for example take repeat performers and regular people. Everybody can learn the flow stuff that works fine but afterwards peak performance can sustain it and most everybody else drop back towards baseline over time and a lot of that is peak performers to a lot of stuff through unconsciously along the way a lot of focus that the rest of us missed. So i thought i would talk about these things. We're going to start out with more general ideas about peak performance and get very very focused on focus as we move along so i wanna start with a really obvious statement but you see it very very consistently in all people formats which is a realization. That life is never going to be anything more or less than what you choose to make it. I like to talk about this. And i like to say there are only a couple things. We know absolutely for sure that we absolutely certain about the first is that we get one shot at this life. We know that for sure. Maybe we'll get more. Maybe we don't. We know for sure that we got one shot at this life. We also know we're going to spend about a third of it asleep. Which tells us that the only real question is what we do with the remaining two-thirds right. That's the only question that matters. And what p performers had figured out is that there's no magic pill nothing spectacular is ever gonna happen from them. I was just talking to andrew. Ubuntu neuroscientist at stanford and we do a lot of work with and heap says ever people former learn the same lesson. It is always crawl walk. Run there's no shortcuts. there's no way to get faster. You were going to crawl. Then you're going to walk then you're going to run over and over and over again. This brings us to the second thing which is building on the first. there are no shortcuts. There are no hacks in fact when we talk about p. performance after twenty five years of studying the neurobiology the science what goes on in the brain and the body when people perform their best can tell you. There are no shortcuts. There is quite simply getting your biology to work for you rather than against you. That is everything we mean by peak performance a different way. We sort of talk about this at the floor. Research collective as we like to say personality doesn't scale biology scales in other words. If you're in a looking through the kind of self improvement space at any level if somebody is trying to teach you what worked for them. They figured something out. This works may let me teach it to you. It's going to work for you. They're light they're absolutely lying. In fact that's a really great way to rue lives. I can guarantee one of the other truce peak performance. We don't like to say out loud is what works for me is almost guaranteed not to work for you. Personality doesn't scale why there are foundational things that have a lot to do with p. performance where you are on the introversion extroversion scale for example. How active are your dopamine receptors. Things like that. They are genetically coded for and laid down environmentally in. A lot of them are locked up before we ever become adults.
Why CMOs Get Fired: Results Do Not Equal No Results Plus An Excuse
"Do not equal no results plus an excuse one of things. I love about sales by way of example is sales is pretty binary. Yeah they're make your number you miss your number or exceed your number and in sales if you miss your number couple of quarters in a row two quarters out of four you just gotta start being worried about your job and if you're a ceo. Certainly ceos of public companies. Don't get to miss very many quarters. And even if you're a private company you don't wanna be missing your numbers and so at the end of the quarter. The ceo has to stand up and tell the world and investors. How the company did that quarter and the interesting thing. If you're a public company is wall street doesn't give a shit why you missed the numbers. So if you're not he hitting or beating your numbers every quarter. They don't care. It's like the like a kid that sticks us their fingers in the net. We're not listening. They're just gonna tank your stock and if you're going you're going into the penalty box for a two minute minor and if it was a really big miss it'll be a five minute major. Those are hockey terms. If you're not familiar with hockey and so as a ceo you live and die by the numbers every quarter and as a head of sales chief revenue officer vp assails Whatever whatever whatever title is head of sales That's true too and the reality is that should be true in marketing as well so results do not equal no results plus excuse and i knew that i was getting somewhere in my life in terms of training myself to produce results when i didn't even give a shit about my own excuses so when you can't stand your own excuses for For not producing results. You're probably getting somewhere okay. So now this sort of leads us to the question. Okay so what. What are the marketing results that matter because there's lots of things that marketing do you could say. Oh we build a new website that that that's a result it might matter. It might not matter but it's definitely a result so let's talk about the results that matter i think at the highest level. There's only three things that marketing organizations should be focused on number one design and dominate category. That matters number to drive revenue near term mid and longterm and number three create enduring value as measured by market cap or company valuation. We wanna be creating the most valuable company in a category. That matters okay. So let's just hit those three things again number. One design dominated a category. That matters number to drive. Revenue and number three create enduring value as measured by company value market cap valuation and ultimately our objective is to become the most valuable company in the category. That's how you know you're the category queen now. If you focused on just those three results it can be very clarifying on a number of dimensions. And i'll get to that in a sec. Let's talk about why those three things matter so much number one design dominate category. That matters i think that is the seminal be hag the seminal focus of the entire executive team and frankly company itself and if your company's not focused on that i don't know what you're doing number to drive revenue you know there's a lot of cmo's who get all wrapped around the axle about leads or sales off the website or this or that or the other look creating leads driving revenue in the business. These are not hard things you got to go. Do them the work that the doing of the work is real work. But it's not rocket surgery So if you need to drive revenue you probably need traffic to your website. So go to the traffic store and buy some and get really good at converting traffic into customers. And there's a million marketing podcasts and books and and all sorts of tools and tricks and tips we can do to drive revenue but the bottom line is as marketers. We have to be illu air. Wars and ground wars the high level strategic steph and the ground level revenue tactical stuff in the truth. Is you gotta do both. It's not an either or it's a both and legendary. Cmo's particularly when you start your new job. go to the driving revenue. I if you want to score points internally drive some revenue sit down with your head of sales. You're ceo and say what do we need to do to create massive revenue upside problems in this company and get busy on that if you get overly focused on the strategic particularly early on in your tenures cmo. You're probably in for deep shit so design and dominate a category that matters that's the medical driving revenue if there's no revenue the medical won't matter. We need to put food on the family. As george w bush said so put food on the family legendary. Cmo's drive revenue and then enduring value. This is also the objective of the entire executive team but marketing needs to be focused on it. We want to be the most valuable company over a long period of time in a category that matters and We're the category queen of that Category all right so these things are very clarifying because you can look at any execution any activity any investment Any new hire that you're doing in marketing and ask yourself the question. Does this one design and dominated new category that matters to drive revenue and three create enduring value. And if it doesn't don't do it stop doing it. Just don't fuck do it. now. I've sat in the cmo chair. I know there's a lot of things that are distracting. I think the cmo gets pushed and pulled in ways that some other c. level executives do not and so there's a couple things i'll you to number one. Marketing is not an internal service bureau. This idea that marketing has internal customers. I'll marketings here. Just depart the business You know sales our customer. That's insanity marketing is the business. It doesn't support the business now. Yes marketing does need to work with sales. Es marketing does need to work with engineering and product development and product management and so forth of course and in that context every department needs to work with every other department but if we are at the beck and call of these other departments and they ring the bell and we salivate then. We're going to be in a constant state of stimulus response so be very very careful about allowing yourself to get turned into an internal service bureau. That's one Another one is a lot of marketers. Cmo's even ceo's get very focused on the competition. Let's say the competition announces some cool new thing they do so they re a bunch of money or they launch a new product or whatever it is people get very focused on the competition. They start talking about the competition. You don't want that shit in your head the more you talk about the competition internally or god forbid sternly the worse off. You're going to be now. I'm not saying you should be ignorant about what they're doing. I'm not saying that at all but you don't want them living in your head rent free. You want to live in their head rent free. So don't be overly focused. Be smart. Be savvy be knowledgeable but not overly focused on competition another area. We get distracted. A lot in marketing is typically The cmo and the leaders of the marketing organization get a lot of help. Because everybody's marketing expert. Everybody saw an ad The super bowl. They thought was awesome. And they wanna tell us about it or they see something that someone else is doing in the text or email that thing and they say oh. We should do that. We should do this and we should do that. And so marketing. I think gets a lot more help the. Cfo doesn't get that much saying help. In air quotes right the. Cfo does not get that much help about like how to close the quarter. All right she's in charge. She does it and You know the head of engineering isn't emailing the cfo. Saying this is how she she should closed. Quarters books whereas as the head of marketing we get those emails a lot and so don't forget everybody thinks they're an expert and they're
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"This. Naked Time. Naked. Of course we've talked about and we start trying again if we get pregnant I, probably want to wait longer this time to share anything but. I'm challenging myself even in saying I think that perspective might be wrong because, yes it opens you up to more pain in it opens you up to having more people. I relive that pain by saying I'm sorry and they're they're there for you and they're supporting you. But maybe that's what we should do. Because, like you said, if we all just try to avoid emotion. I think we're failing to celebrate and mourn things that we should. This is all right. Enough on that I know curious to get your thoughts gets do wanNA share them. You can email couple things pod pudiere gmail.com. Interrupt for quick and talk about our morning routine. Yeah. We have drew squeak in the your. All right. So I wake up I have my protein, shake my Greens, my liquid Ivy, my coffee in that order. EP for the rest of the. Well Sean. Believe it or not. Dehydration occurs daily and three out of four people three out of four, seventy, five percent, and with Liquid Ivy you have the fastest most efficient way to stay hydrated. Each serving helps you get as much hydration as two to three bottles of water using their as they call it cellular transport technology I'm big on this because proper hydration is crucial for.
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"But I think aside from that. It's also really important to. Know that again I'm going to figure myself out as an individual, also wear where warranty now and. I realized like when we worked together as a team and Doing that really well I'm come is always better than trying to figure it out by myself, so and just always looking at a situation with. Full respect for one another and you know knowing that we're in this together and finding. In with it again has raised these or how? May Be. Also plays into that. We've done so many things on our own. deffinitely in so now you're saying. Like. We both Kinda have the mindset like Earth. We've been here so long I can do this. She's like I can do this. I'm like I can do this I. can do this in the wait a second not about. Not About if I can do it, it's that we have to do it. Not The my way our way in its. It's adapting from your her way in my way to was Oregon, GonNa be. And thinking out on. June. Richer an looking. Yeah Yeah, Hey. We're so grateful. You guys gave us the time to talk today. I hope you feel the same way that I know Shannon. I do in that I think we have new friends and. I I think. Speak for a lot of people when I. Generally thank you for all that both of you stand for dinner. Your story is incredible Tim your stories incredible and the message that you guys spread changes lives. On, so many different levels in so many different areas and Yeah, just I'm just honored to Be Able to help share that with maybe some people who haven't heard your message and I think your guys is marriage. I'm so excited. No, you're only four months in, but that's just going to be added to how you guys are going to change lives and emulate fantastic marriage fantastic relationship, so we appreciate the time and. Hope we talk soon. We appreciate your time. Thank you for having us for so grateful. We could both finally time to make this work in in. Just thank you for the kind words in this time. Yards You're so sweet and we're grateful we look forward to. A nurse goes to hang out before. The lay I can't say. Yes, we! We have a tradition where everybody has to say outdoors before they say. Absolutely not just. That he was not about. Anyway. Hey, thanks, guys. We'll talk later. Awesome! Thank you so much..
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"What's up everybody? Welcome back the couple things Sean. Andrew podcast all about couples and the things they go through today. We sit down with. Grammy nominated singer. Songwriter Jeremy Camp and his wife. Addie camp those Rosso singer-songwriter that's right They have had a massive two thousand and twenty. They came out with the movie. Camera with two books One of them is about their marriage. Actually it's called in unison. And they're really really cool couple. They've been married sixteen years but the movie that came out with what's called. I believe it's all about Jeremy. Camp and his first wife who he ultimately ended up losing bus- right and so German addy Sharon awesome perspective. Release I had to bring this to you. They also talk about what it's like to raise three kids. Yes which Addie camp has some incredible thoughts and perspectives on so many different things. Her and I are going to be great friends. You'll also notice. She has quite the accident which I love because she's South Africa. So if you WANNA find out more about Jeremy and Addie as well as their new book to just came out with called in unison. You can find that in the show notes or description down below and before we get started. Don't forget to subscribe to the show in rated on whatever platform you're listening on. We really appreciate it when you do that. Gordon Jumper this one with Jeremy and natty Jeremy Eighty. Thank you so much for joining us today. I kind of want to just start off Jeremy. We're both Indiana natives. I don't know if you knew that but I'm curious who your all time. Favorite Colts player is I mean. That's kind of easy. I'm sorry I'm not trying to be generic Manning but then Usak actually is a really good friend of mine. Know Ben. Yeah Yeah So. He's a good friend of mine. That Payton I'm sorry. Yeah Yeah Yeah. He's he's a classic but that is funny and then Yeah we I don't think you didn't go to purdue but my dad's boilermaker we got deep Indiana roots. And yet it's G I know like drew brees from from purdue and like Oh the drew brees.
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"Today by the Way Luke. That looks real. Great Nice spent cleaning up cats and cap and then ends in a beautiful proposal. Dream Day right. Nicole just blew that everybody welcome back in couple things all about couples and the thanks thing. I'm geeking out today because I'm a big Fan of country music and we're talking to arguably the hottest artists and country music today it's Luke combs and his fiancee. Nicole Hawking newly engaged. And we get to hear all of that. Which was maybe the best story ever heard when it comes to engagements. This is actually the first time. They've shared their engagement story. Publicly was amazing. Lucas menominee the top country artists. The top country male artist top country album and he had the top country song. This guy is crushing. It not just nominated babe. He won he. Has It all and Nicole? It's really cool their story because they have been together before luke struck stardom and so they kinda tell what that progression has been like what the evolution has been like how. It's affected their relationship. And I really respect Nicole and her public defense of Luke It's not an easy thing being the spouse of Someone who's kind of in the public eye from personal experience but Nicole is ferociously supportive of her significant other. And I really respect that. And if you want to find out more about Luke and his fiancee check them out in the description or shown down below and make sure you give the show a rating and subscribe to it on whatever platform. You're listening without further ADO Nicole and luke all right Nicole and Luke. Thank you for joining us. This morning I wait. And WHO's the dog? Joe Joe Joe Joe. He's so cute maintain. The clock are kind of I kind of want to start off. We have something in common super random. I don't know if you have the same feelings about as I do but we both studied civil engineering in college. Are you still doing that right now? Now are you still doing no? I'm doing everything I can't to not do. That did not graduate degree. You agree though. It's so tough like a year and I was like I can't do. This is funny because I feel like we're we're both kind of in a similar situation where we studied kind of like the concrete science. You know whatever like John Ra. And then we're were made with some creatives is made a weird word to use as we start. Yeah okay so we always start these couple of things. It's just you guys. We're going to ask questions. Just basically tell us all the stuff you love about each other. How did you guys meet what we knew? Each other for mutual friends. We kind of moved to national around the same time as you try so we kind of national was a little bit different about five years ago so everyone kind of knew each other. It was kind of a smaller group. I feel like now. It's just kind of crazy Bachelorette Coun- manager.
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"What's up everybody? Welcome back to couple things Sean. And Andrew a podcast all about couples and things they go through today We sit down with what I thought was one of our most fun conversation. Yes mayor favorite people. I mean I feel like we say that every single episode but I feel like with every episode. We just get new friends and I get really excited. I was having a blast. Pk Sue ban. And Lindsey Vonn just at the time to talk with us and not only. Did we laugh a lot? I thought they had some really good inciteful words of wisdom as far as relationships as they did newly engaged which is super exciting. They have some interesting stories are around a nonconventional way. But if you don't know who. Lindsey Vonn is multi time Olympic medalists which includes goals. I mean. She's a boss Alpine skier. She has over eighty two world championship medals to eighty two. Gosh eight to PK. Sorry when I'm about to do your resume right now. Pale in comparison fiancee's boss but Ben is one of the NHL top defenseman. He actually won the award for top top defensemen and they tied for the top scoring defenceman. we were really excited because PK. And Lindsey I kinda started a relationship while he was playing for the Nashville predators. Which is where we live in Nashville. But now he is no longer with this New Jersey with the the the devils powerhouse couple. Yes so much fun. Had such good insight. Mamie our new best friends if they want to be we. We not only respect careers but also they're really involved with charity efforts. And if you guys want to find out more about PK and Lindsey. You can find their information in the show notes down below And if you haven't before we jump into it please. Rate to show and subscribe to it on whatever platform you're listening to and let's go ahead and jump into this. Let's enjoy with PK. Lindsey I don't think there's anything better than to strapping young. Lads like your myself talking relationships do. Let's do it and by the way I do like the heretic. Spend like it was getting like Joe. Dirtyish Camille Lindsey. Pk thank you for taking the time to sit down with us on our couple things podcasts. You're invited me to come on with her. So I'm like Lindsey like you gotta take the lead well given the house. You're supposed to like come on. That's on the I'll take. I'll take responsibility for it. Like hanging definitely. Did I want to tell a story? Because we always start off these episodes asking couples how they met and so I want to set the scene. Espy's two thousand fifteen okay. Shana I are standing there on the red carpet and I'm looking around. We're about to engage the next week. Okay I knew this ad for their years already. There's a lot. There's a lot of beautiful women walking around and so we we go to dinner afterwards and I say I say Sean I just gotTa let you. Actually we met Lindsey there. Do you remember this now in. Espn DSP's okay. This is a long time with a monthly visa. I don't know what that word is amazing. Sushi if you've never been I've been there. Believable Sushi Masahisa Sushi people. Okay Carrie so here. We are after after the event. We're sitting at dinner and I'm like John. I just got to let you know that you know. We're we're around a lot of beautiful today and I've been thinking about Sleeping with other weapons. Not The actress I like.
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
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"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"Hours one hundred hours asleep right now. Sounds awesome to straight start. Start the clock now and seen Mike four days about that. Doesn't that sound great as new parents with us. We wrote this down. I think it's funny to talk about. I feel like we said outside of athletics. Sleep is a huge part of relationships arguing. Do you remember when we you were dating. We asked the question do you remember. Each Other's first sleepover and we got to laughing because we couldn't remember. Ember our first sleepover because you left every night at like four. Am Now our first sleepover. Was this this. We've talked about this when you came to visit me for the first time in Nashville. You had no place to crash you lied to me and said you tell room and then you came to me you so I wasn't GonNa just invite you to stay with. That was firstly bore though because I slept on a couch on the couch. By Our our first sleepover like same bed sleepover. You like cuddle. And then leave because he relies you fall asleep and I can't say here. It was hysterical. What you gotTa do you know? I do want to talk about one of my. I think my brother just told you the story. Oh my gosh that's ridiculous. Yeah so I was a boy disco. This'll tell you everything about relationship. Ray here will. Yeah apparently everything about her relationship right here in this story. Apparently I used to sleep. Walk a ton like literally do laps around our house anymore. I would creeped me out. So here's what I'm saying while everyone else also you know sleeping. I was training at night. I was putting in hard hours of running laps getting my cardio in increase. Anyway I used to sleep walk a lot. So I'm a boy Scout Camp we had this wilderness survival class we had to build lean-to's and like sleep outside anyway. I woke up one morning and everyone knows like freaking out there like like Andrew. Do you remember anything from last night. I was like no what happened wiser one so excited like you had obstacle course running. You're doing laps from the flagpole flagpole to the picnic table and then you were walking through the firepit Andrew and I was like what are weird prank. What are weird like story to tell me? Why would you tell me this lie? I checked the bottom of my feet and straight charcoal. I actually walk through the fire in this little. Of course you told me I was like when you first told me this. I was like you have a problem like we should figure this out. And then you're like it wasn't just a one time thing. I used to walk out on my like Old House and elementary middle school and high school if as a parent dedicated athlete. One I hope drew does not get that quality from you. We are setting every alarm and lock in the House to make sure that she's not walking laps around our house in the middle of the night. sleepwalking have you thought about that. Like really think. Think about that. Like your child your parents child you was like exiting the house every night and walking laps around the house. I think it's cool. That'd be that'd be very proud proud of your kid. You wouldn't be concerned at all. I do remember I had like two. You sleep walking episodes so one night. My Mom said that she woke up and she had thud like it sounded like banging banging or like someone is knocking at the door but it was consistent and so she woke up she walked into my room. I was standing against the wall hitting. Oh my head against the wall concerning never heard this story that freaks me out. Yeah even possess. I don't know it was really disturbing in the second time the second time I wanna hear anymore. The second semi parents room is right next next the stairs mine is like down the hall and my mom said that she heard the stairs. Creaky woke up and I was standing at the top of the stairs. And she's like honey anyway. You're doing and I was like I was trying to open my windows and they wouldn't open because I needed to do my bar routine so I thought I would go downstairs to do your Boutin. Yeah but the most concerning part of that is sleep. I was completely asleep trying to exit the windows of our second story. But I couldn't figure it out UH in my sleep state so these are concerning their jazz is concerning as you walking laps around your how Bingham ahead against the walls next. Yeah definitely definitely next level and curious if you guys have any interesting sleep stories. Please write them in the comments flow. I think they're hysterical. I mean I've had the friends who have made full-on peanut butter and Jelly sandwiches. I WanNa tell you okay so more. Here's one parallel between parenting and athletics is during college. Football we'd have four. AM workouts morning. Workouts yes and there'd be two months long and every day we kind. aww This Hayes right like I don't even actually looking back on. It doesn't even feel like my life because you're just tired the entire time I would get like four hours of sleep. You work really hard and and then you're tired. The rest day wiped out. It's kind of the same parenting when you're waking up two or three times in the in the in the night where like doc it's pregnancy. Everything's weird you know what I'm saying. Yeah but I had a buddy during one of these workouts. It was a fifteen minute drive for him to Taylor store. It's true I don't believe it and it's a one and a half hour. Workout class started at ten K.. So he he. This Guy Hi drove to the workout did the entire himself. Yes did the entire workout. And then at ten o'clock he woke up in his car and had no idea how he got is hoping he was somewhat awake. I this is what I think I think he was like like. In a haze driving hated the workout and then passed out and slept really hard so like when he woke up at ten years. Like I don't know it does have it. Was it a dream or was it not. There's no way he was asleep. Driving is that's how I feel like the last couple of months have been apparent. I have no idea what's going on. It's terrible member here but really we. Are we called him. The ghost rider. That was ghost writer. I don't feel very just listening to this. That stories about you. The ghostwriter has nothing to do asleep. Don't take I don't sleep take the fun out of the out of the nickname please. Don't please go fine. It was after Sean just had a fan girl pass by it was actually after I retired. I got really the end to running. That would maybe might have helped. Let me tell you some things about sleep more stats. No because it's interesting. I know what I'm saying. He supplies whether you're an athlete apparent or doing whatever.
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"On no I know sleep is just the worst. You just know. Your body can't do it. Can I just tell you some stats about what like marriage and sleep Cher check. Well there's an Oxford study says sleep. One partners negatively habits can negatively affect the others. All we know that this is the thing is as I was doing research on this. I'm curious your thoughts on this concept. There's this whole new trend going around known on as sleep divorce. I'm not kidding. No this is the thing. What is this? It's where couples are like. Hey for the sake of our marriage we're not gonNA sleep in the same bed. No okay I I'm not. I am not proposing trying to sleep divorce me it. I'm not. What are your thoughts on it? Though is my is my question I understand it. I'm I'm not a fan of it. Neither am I really know because I feel like our most intimate moments happen when were sleeping are about to go to bed or waking up. Yeah that's where like you know just a lot of things you're cute is part of this journey. Read doubt embarrassing. You really cute. I feel like okay so this this is as we mentioned. We're doing this partnership sleepnumber. We're really excited to be going on this journey with you guys. Let's just talk about why sleepnumber could be a good fit for us because you and I are such different sleepers because it supports the sleep divorce think about it think about about it. It supports the sleep divorce but you stay in the same bed okay. That's a really bad way of saying no that's a great way of saying can cater. Every person can have their own individual Sinoe saying like if you're at a point where like sleep divorce is thought like it's just so bad then you absolutely need to bet because you can actually cater each independent persons side to like your own settings. Yeah so you snore. I is super soft. Yeah I WANNA like I I wanNA being golfed by the mayor and then also you know like those little things. Babies in that are like swaddled giant pillows they just like sink into it. That's what I want my bed to feel like I have no idea what you're describing their big pillow and you put them in the middle and they sink and it just like hugs them no idea they also have a snore button. Yeah you need you know you start to nine. Don't let's I breathe. Okay Sean. I have some sleep stories to share from like when we first met is always interesting when you start dating a person like the first time you have a sleepover you learn a lot about that person like it could be make or break the first time spend the night together. You supervised snore. It was probably I was probably Out How bad us nor am I on a scale of ten. You're not bad because like it's fixable on my babe and I punch you and I'm like turnover and then you're fine. Okay so like if you snored from the time you went to sleep the time you woke up cutting handle it Sean. has this really gentle. snorts kind of like That really this is like right now. so the okay. Let's continue about the sleep number thing because it's cool. I'm really excited. I think could help us out. Because there's a lot of frustrations that happen with our sleep like like wh- as we have just shared so what's just walked. I'm not here's an interesting step. CDC has declared that sleep disorders are a public health epidemic. Really and that one one in three adults or not getting adequate sleep sleep. That's nuts but one in three adults have children. That's why they only sleep number pence one in three adults share one child math on that and then in what I'm excited about is the fact that they just sleep number. Just did this whole NFL partnership right. But there's so many advantages outside of the performance. where fatigue really just kind of negatively affects everything whether Everything yeah it's like even podcasting as we're seeing here live with you right now. You are not being nice. I Love uh-huh yeah. You should apologize for that. I'm sorry how's your podcasting going right now Andrew. Is it going well. I'm sure it's actually super cool. True to the super bowl which is really cool. Where is she by the way? She's just walking around benching around but no sleep..
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"Member for every NFL player. The he will he moved logic tired. Those funny I'm sorry I'm going to start. You WanNa say it again. It's cute it's cute. Do you want me to explain what I'm sending people why you don't tired Andrew. I was up just as much as you were really. Let's talk about this because You're saying that you had these nights where you were staying up on. Yes can sleep. I remember you. I want you to tell the story of when you competed after having my mom's in a be mortified because tied as I've never told the because of my mom My poor mom so I was nineteen I had made to the Olympics competed. We're tired come out of retirement and I was trying to make another Olympics tired. I'm going to kill. Oh you've retired retired and I came back uh-huh okay please hold for. The punchline of the story It was my first competition back so I had been training for a couple of years and this is my first time back back on the scene it was the US gymnastics national championships. It was the biggest competition in the United States that we host and it was a huge deal. Well the fact that I was coming back in first competition since the Olympics and at the time I had really bad shin-splints so I took like a lot of like ibuprofen to combat. That and it was like right before I was headed off to championships. You go to championships a week. Early like acclimate and to get used to the arena and the equipment and my mom had ran to kind of re the stock. My mom my mom had ran to kind of help me start packing so she went and got me into the shampoo and conditioner. And the Ibuprofen Wpro Finn and anything that I could need that championships as a sweet mom would and I go through that week. I struggled all week. I go through the competition. Terrible competition I fell on every event multiple times and it. It wasn't until I got back home. It was like the next day after I arrived back home. I was unpacking and I pull out that ibuprofen bottle and it was proven PM. I'm taking it. Four Times a day at like prescriptive quantities and I was sleeping medication for a week straight regatta theory competition. What's it like to be so good Sean? I was tired efficient while being on sleep I distinctly remember thinking man. I'm getting old and Oh my mom that I she. She will never like shelby modified. I told that story. 'cause I sorry for putting you on the started bawling. She's like I'm so sorry but you still want ice him. That really good. I've never been so talented that I could do what you just did. As far as challenging myself you look. The competition is not good enough so let me let me just drug myself on on prisoners. Sleep medicine compete. There's been a couple of times. I don't know if you've ever experienced this when I'm tired as an athlete though I remember we were doing a weight test for for football. He was like the two thousand five bench press and I had a bench press test. Say That ten th press bench test bench press test challenge go and do it anyway. I had a term paper due the next that same day and so I stayed up the entire night literally the only all night or of ever pull my entire life I drink you all nighters with little drew true. We're going to get we're going to get to. The parenting is a second. I woke up in the press bench. Press Ventura was eight. AM and they didn't wake up because you're already awake. Take the okay I arrived. I showed up and my muscles legitimately were not working. I couldn't even do one. Rep have your experienced like the paralysis. I mean evidently nine. Evidently I'm a better athlete than you know. 'cause I competed at the National Championships. I'm sleep medication. Pretty knows that. Got A rough it. Yeah so that's that's kind of death let it backdrop backdrop yes. I'm actually curious like I wish I. I wish I wish I could enter. You can't even talk right do do you WanNa say I wish I could interview the football players each one individually. It'd be really cool to see like a study on what they're like. Sleep routines are the night before the Super Bowl. I think he'd be surprised I think the majority of them will have very disciplined sleeper teens. But I forgot that has. y'All are pampered and spoiled here fighting for myself it was prescribed. Hi to say we get like nine hours of sleep. They take it seriously. It's a thing they will alter your practice if you don't get enough sleep. That is smart as they should. I'm very jealous. I wish I could go back in time. So obviously those stories about our athletic pass fit in where at the super. Yeah but also I want to talk about because this has been. Are you giving me the tired. I know this has been the big tally system. Going on. Dare you what are you gonNA do. You're not going to come across it. They might okay the big thing that we struggle with. We've mentioned this videos. The argument comments the biggest argument. We've had. Is You waking me up. As I was sleeping so that we could sleep. The argument was we should never are you and we're tired. We should never wait each other up to argue. I went to forty five minutes shower and just built up my argument and then came in at midnight and I woke you up up to argue. I am I remember as your arms going as you're lying down the bed. It was hysterical. Okay I just feel like it's a good time to talk about why that might be. What is your opinion on going to sleep angry? I I said this line. I'm curious what your thoughts are. If marriage is about not going to bed angry parents proud of this thing is about not waking up angry. It doesn't make any sense. There's so many things that happen because if you really think about that whole line they just put together and you're really proud of. It's like okay if you're not supposed to wake up angry. So does that mean in the middle of the night when your parenting. If there's an disagreement your star yet out how many how many things happened. What happened last night that you were frustrated about? How are you sir? I'm just saying like it never happened. Well first of all act like never happened to say. That's a general like generally good rule to go buy a relationship. Let's let's talk about last night as a sample of payments okay drew up at three. And here's the thing here about parenting. We have so many. We have so many gadgets. We take sleep seriously to yeah. We have so many gadgets in our room to try to help us sleep well so we have have like these little this little in the air like sleep sound things Drew has sound machine. We got special pillows blankets. Set it up. You WANNA set it up. Though I am lying in my side of the bed with the Monitor I don't have the luxury of wearing sleep air pods because I have to watch the monitor and then I had to try to wake you up if she wakes up and then you asked me if I wake you up to go take care of her. You know it's just it just is a bad admixture. Here's what we've struggled with sleep. Yes in the middle of the night when you're woken up. Yeah there's this process of trying to assess the situation and gather information. Okay okay. You're talking about yourself in decision making in in this compromise and negotiation in that has to happen as parents shade while happening at three. Am with the sound machine that is frigging blaring in the background. And as you guys know if you guys have watched watched our youtube videos versus podcast and youtube videos. I'm like pretty hyped up I'm loud. You don't like that side of me. In general I talk really low and quiet. Yes that's you'll get mad at me because I'm like Andhra hear what you're saying because there's t yourself yes and then we're frustrated so maybe the moral stories. You should talk louder so we can just do that. We I want to tell the people what happened at the hospital right after we had drew. Okay Okay so twenty two hours Labor c-section. I'm laying in bed the first night. Are you trying to has set the tone for like on you. Absolutely I can't do. It literally cannot function on my own so I had to have my husband. Our nurse helped me so right next to the hospital bed drew in her little bassinet. And then right next to the best and that is is that your sleeping. I woke up in the middle of the night. 'cause drew was crying and so she needed fed. Well I can't sit up. I can't grab her. I can't console her. Can't sue their nothing. You had to it. I said Your name twenty two times at increasing volumes she legitimately counted and then ended up having to throw a water bottle at you two two feet away because you couldn't hear me and you couldn't hear your unfinished air quotes screaming at. Aw Aw I think your sleep coach tie you to sleep too strong too deep like it's problem wonder. If that's a thing I have sleeping anxiety. You have like sleep. ZOMBIES S.. You think that's the term or as yeah it was bad. I'm disappointed. Find the word I chose. Here's what I realized though when when you're sleepy fatigue tired you everybody. This is my experience. It's so easy to like. Stop thinking about everyone else and only think about yourself absolutely. That's that's the that's also what I think we struggle with like. I can't be thoughtful if I'm tired. Well that sucks rule. We had a rule on our relationship. If you remember this when we are like really starting to figure things out figure out how to argue right right before we had a baby and everything changed. We made a rule that we were not allowed to bring up arguments or like things that were annoying us or anything when we are tired or going to bed. How how well have we done it? ever since we had drew were failing miserably. But we're always tired. We just crazy so we wrote this out and I wanted to walk through. Yeah because I think it's really funny. Sleep deprivation sleep deprivation socks can bring out the worst people we said it. Turns kids is into monsters. We're trying to come up with like analogies like what happens when people are with some groups are fatigued everyone can fill it in for themselves but sleep. Duration turns kids into monster turns husbands into. Can you say that we're into Too You can fill it in turns wives into you wrote this one. Yeah that's definitely not on air. TURNS PARENTS INTO TRAIN WRECKS ACHESON ATHLETES and design base. Yeah I remember waking up as an athlete tired and being so miserable because having.
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"Yeah we can edit this. Let's what's Ed's ever ready. Welcome back to Kabul things with Sean and Andrew Day is a special episode. I don't know if you've got to tell by the setting that we're in Also the audio quality. We've we've got professional. Thank you shout out. We should probably hire professionals for hours. We took care of some of the issues. Not all of them. We made it here your though. And that's what I'm saying where we're in Miami at Super Bowl fifty four yes and Harry with sleep number okay. So we are doing this year long experiment. I'll call it with them. Where as you guys know and we're going to a lot of videos on this? Sleep is as parents as humans as athletes one of the biggest things that Shannon I struggle with and it can either set us up for success or failure like today and so we're here sleep number to try to kind of attack that issue solve that problem and we just kind of wanted to talk to you guys because we've gotten a lot of questions sounds about what's been the biggest change The we've experienced as parents. So let's just go ahead jump in and hear what Marissa and hunter half to say. Hi Sean Andrew. My name is Marissa. I am from Ontario Canada. I just was wondering if you guys would like to talk about dealing with a baby and and how it has changed your relationship. I currently have a four month old so I would be very interested in hearing about that. Thank you Marisa and hunter. I would say AH obviously the biggest changes appearance your sleep. I'm excited talk about this today. 'CAUSE you're tired and so tired and we need to have this discussion. We tell them about today. You look sleepy right. Bow Me never tell your wife that she looks tired water in your eyes. I'm sorry I'll stop. You look tired tired of you said the context outside of were here so it's eight. Am Miami time and we've been up for five hours already. Problem you know drew decided to have a party at three. Am and we partied with her by the time. She decided to go back to sleep with his time to leave. You call that a party. What happened last you did not you were pretty mad? We get in some major phase so we get tired. Yeah we do we get spicy so anyway. If you get curious that's the kind of the backdrop of situation we are here at the NFL all radio row if you will so surrounded by that is radio row over there. I'm sorry this is just a media zone fan gallery. Actually actually this is. This is honesty cool set up in the entire room. That's a bad behind us. Guys can't tell and and these are the table are you okay. You're wigging out a little bit. John Okay funny story because they didn't want to forget two funny stories. I have a lot of funny stories about sleep so when I was competing I was actually the most mental individual when it came to my sleep. Okay so much so that my mom ended up taking me like five different doctors because she thought it was an insomniac because every night after practice when I came home I would lay in bed and I'd be like you have to go to sleep. You have to go to sleep. You only have seven hours sleep now. You'll have six and a half hours sleep now. You'll have six hours sleep now. Oh my God I was just thinking about it. I'd would be like if I don't get to sleeping and have bad practice bad practice. I can't make the Olympics if I can't make the Olympics you've never talk. I've never heard you talk bad. I didn't sleep for months months like literally months. I would like be bug-eyed at bed every day and I come and try moms or am I bowling. I can't sleep chows GonNa like be mad at me because I'M GONNA tired and it was just hot mess. This went on for months and then before every competition even the Olympics. I never slept. Maybe that's why as I can manage no sleep right now with as a parent but I really can't think there's a term for that what you experience variance outside of just being Tom. Nia No things -IETY and tired. No I have not. It's that thing where you are like. Oh my gosh I have to wake up in fifteen minutes and then you can't. Actually I think they get gain. Your head don't gator head. Yeah it went on forever. I'm curious I feel like as athletes Coming from our athletic background. If there's one industry where sleep is like highly regarded. It's athletics. Yeah you had your free in sleep coach so it didn't have this luxury. Maybe it would have helped my career. Yeah maybe I got a major another Olympics. NFL is all about like trying to improve in every area possible. Even if it's you know if it's a huge improvement or if it's a smaller one and so actually sleepnumber did partnership with NFL trying to combat combat that and there's legitimate like fulltime staff gymnasts on. We're mental. I'm just saying there's fulltime staff members on the NFL NFL teams NASA. They'll like the literally kind of track your sleep and they have access to how you slept the night before they'll get get like a metric on it and sleep number has like their sleep. IQ number but then based off of that. How will you slept the night before? They'll either increase or decrease like your workload it based off of that so because there's a higher likelihood of tearing muscles and getting injured if you don't sleep well just because the general fatigue they had a guy monitoring that's that's a thing does he like sin. The corner is your room and just watch you sleep now staff.
"couple things" Discussed on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew
"What's up everybody loved him a couple of things I'm shine I'm Andrew? We're married if you didn't know and we are so excited to be bringing you you guys show if you guys don't I'm just GonNa Brag for a second here real quick. My beautiful wife Shawn Johnson here is a Rockstar. She superwoman to ask me Olympic gold medal gymnast dancing with the stars champion. The most beautiful woman that ever walked earth and Mama to be. I can't wait. I can't wait and Deroga- my husband. NFL player NBA graduate from Vanrell cap in the football team. Hottest Guy. Now Wow and baby daddy. I'm flattered together. We have gotten to experience some pretty pretty fun things and we want to share those experiences with you so we have a youtube channel. It's called the East Fam- I know a lot of guys watching or listening are from the Youtube Channel. So thank you for joining us here as well. But on that Channel at one point we did a relationship series and people loved it people less and we wanted to. We wanted to do the relationship series on youtube because I feel like the world paints very unrealistic picture of relationships. They say that if it's not easy and perfect and it's probably the wrong a person we don't believe that we will you fight through relationships and it's hard and messy and that's what makes them awesome so we WanNa talk about all the awkward situations we've been through all the mistakes we've made other couples about all their weird interactions and how things worked out the lessons. They learned from it. Yeah so our goal goal is to so with every episode. You can expect to hear some fun or awkward or crazy experience from US or a couple of we sit down and interview and then what we learned from the experience and just to name a few experiences here. The first time she'd text me was like a drunk text text. Edu At midnight. It was a bootie call. I was living in L. A. and I you're living in Nashville going to be under bill and I said why don't you fly out. There lay completely drunk. went to bed woke up. And you're yeah no way. I don't mess around around here. I was freaked out and we could share about more about want. Just let us now if you do but but there's also been some things that that I personally regret doing like the. SP's let's right yes. We walked down the red carpet. We had gone to this amazing ward. Show the all these incredible athletes sit down for dinner afterwards. And what do you think this is a week before he got engaged in. I said Sean just got to be honest with you. You know. We're pretty serious as relationship. I need to let you know that I'm thinking about sleeping with other girls now. Look this is just a couple of examples and their stories behind them all. And there's there's expectations and context that we can provide you guys but it's such a couple of good stories who's not after. He met Alex Morgan all my Komo. Gosh I'm embarrassed yes anyway. We'll go through all these stories. We have friends who. We've heard a lot of awkward encounters and stories with. We'll talk about all kinds relationships and just how you can learn from. Yeah because here's the thing. People think that MS glaze over here lives the best S. Life Possible. You think that there's no problems that you encounter but then today I think we all have relationship problems and so we want to show you that even someone is Glamorous Sean on struggles and that it's okay for you struggle to so we're we're here for encouragement we're here to share some stories and laughs and get better together grow together. Yeah so with that act. Welcome to couple things. Please subscribe to wherever you are listening or viewing this episode. That'd be great and stay tuned for the posting frequency. We're about to have a child any day. Now yes today this right so the frequency will be changing also stay tuned for updates on the podcast. We want to expand very quickly. We have some really cool. Things thanksgiving at Domeisen Sandra Shan out..