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Game of Crimes
A highlight from 110: Part 1: Ryan Steck is a Spy - The Real Book Spy
"Ola, ola, ola, amigos, amigos, players, playwrights, dududettes, everybody in between, welcome back to episode 110. The 110th ongoing attempt to remove us from podcast land has failed. I can say, I'm not impressed with us, but I'm impressed we're still on the air, I have to say that. We're like cockroaches, Murph, we can survive a nuclear blast, we're still here. Turn the light on, we'll scurry away, but we're coming back. We're coming back, all right. Speaking of coming back, hey guys, glad that you came back to listen to us. Hey, you know something I keep forgetting to say, but just, you know, no matter what podcast platform you're on, hit that subscribe button so that it automatically downloads into your feed so you can hear us, hear the stories that are going to come out of this. But, you know, hey, just hit that subscribe button where you are, it increases our numbers so that Murph can afford a yacht. He needs a yacht. He's got a big lake out back. He's got alligator shoes now. Now he needs a yacht. I don't know, man. I'm reading the book of one of our future guests here. I won't let the cat out of the bag yet. But after reading what happens on some of those boats, I don't think I want to go out in the ocean anymore. Speaking of the upcoming guest, we won't give it away, but we will say that it was another series was made out of this person, this author's books. A popular series too. Very popular series. One of the longest running series on one of the networks. And so this will be fun. But anyway, let's get rid of, but we started off with the housekeeping. Hit the subscribe, but also hit those five stars, Apple, Spotify, wherever you're listening. Just remember Stitcher is no longer. If you're on Stitcher, head to another platform. Also head on over to our website, gameofcrimespodcast .com. That's where you will find the books for our guests we have coming up, for our guests coming up in a while. And we just got a note to one of our buddies, Pete Friselli. We'll talk about this later, but his paperback will be out in March. So we will obviously give you guys an idea about that. We'll talk about that because he's got a book coming out called The Deadly Path. It's about Operation Fast and Furious. And guess who got to write the forward for that book? Well, somebody who knows how to write would probably be Connie. You probably dictated to her. Well, fortunately we had Grammarly. There you go. That's one of the bennies of having a great sponsor like Grammarly. Grammarly, Murph wrote it and Grammarly made it sound good. There you go. Thank you Grammarly. Also follow us on that thing. They call the social media at Game of Crimes on Twitter, Game of Crimes podcast on Facebook and the Instagram. Also, go over Game of Crimes fans. Just type that in. Our favorite mafia queen, Sandy Salvato, the ruler with the velvet glove over that iron fist, by the way. Yeah. Don't take her off. We'll let you in. All right. So just answer a couple of questions. Get close, join the hilarity, the jocularity and it's insularity because we're a private group. You got to answer a couple of questions. So things get wild and we actually have had a couple of good stories came out. She just posted one. She was pissed. I don't know if you saw that Murph, but a Seminole County detective has been arrested for notifying targets child of solicitation stings. Yeah, and these were people who were soliciting. No children were involved. No children were harmed in the actual making of the arrest, but he was notifying them about through encrypted apps or other stuff, notifying the targets. Hey, this is a setup. Don't show up. You know what? This coming Tuesday, next week, I'm going to the board meeting for the Orlando Police Foundation, which is not only Orlando PD, but it's also Osceola County, Orange County and Seminole County. So the sheriffs will be there and they just invited me to speak at their fall gala this year, the big fundraiser. So I'm going to have to ask him about that. You know what? There's probably some good stories up there that we can bring here on Game of Crimes. Absolutely, absolutely. And that will factor into an announcement we may have for you later. We have a call coming up on Monday as this podcast is being released with our agents at UTA. Something may be in the works. Yeah, baby. We'll see. Speaking of being in the works, you need to work on heading on over to Patreon. Patreon .com slash Game of Crimes. That's where you need to be. We've had some good contentious stuff out there. We've had some funny stuff. 911, what's your emergency? We've got Q &A coming up. We've already fielding questions. So if you're hearing this and you're part of Patreon or you want to be part of Patreon, get your questions into us. We answer everything, even on the installment plan. Oh, and it's, you guys, I mean, just, you got to listen to that. Cause we, we give a little, we give a little hints and clues to, to our patrons that support us about what's upcoming. And, and, you know, they've got a good idea of, of some of our guests that are coming up really soon that I think you guys are going to like. And by the way, one of them will be a world premiere of a world famous name that was just in a huge movie. Huge, huge. It's huge. That has never been on a podcast before. Never been on a podcast. We got him first. We got him first. Took the US Marshals. You talk about dog and determination. Yeah. And a, and a selfie of a finger from John Bernthal to make this happen. Thank you, John. And John knows who we're talking about. Yeah. You know who we are. All right. So, but head on over there, guys. We've got a lot of good stuff coming out. So that is patreon .com slash Game of Crimes. But now, quick disclaimer. This is a show about crime. We talk about bad people doing bad things and bad people doing bad things to good people. We take the story seriously. But what Murph? If you haven't figured it out yet, we never take ourselves serious. Except maybe on Patreon. We get a little, we get on our soap boxes occasionally there. Yeah, we do. And there's some comments about that. So I'll have to tell you about it later. Oh, but hey, but in the meantime, you know what time it is, right? Guess what time it is? Let me ask you, guess what time it is? What, guess what time it is? I bet it's time for small town police blood. Bonanza. All right. Hey, Murph, have you ever been in a sticky situation in an investigation? Oh, yeah, but you weren't in this sticky situation. You mean literally or figuratively? Police in Pasadena, Texas are on the lookout. A 12 -year -old girl told KHOU -TV that she was shopping at a drugstore last week when she felt a wad of something sizzling in her ponytail. It turned out to be glue. So they have a sticky, you know, have a sticky investigation going on. The sticky bandits have attacked. Not only that, she had to cut off some of her hair. Managers say another customer had glued sprayed onto her earlier at the same drugstore and they're investigating a similar incident at a nearby grocery store. Why the hell would you go around spraying glue in people's hair? You're the sticky bandit. That means, remember the wet bandits from Home Alone? These guys are the sticky bandits. Oh, that's just so nasty to even be called that. Well, unlike that lady who thought Gorilla Glue was like a way to keep her hair. Remember that one? She put Gorilla Glue. It will keep your hair. It will, but folks, oh my God. But this was funny, Steve. I got these out of the Bristol Herald Courier out of Bristol, Tennessee. I thought, let me go to kind of a smaller area, you know, get some stuff. So that was one story, Steve. Here's another story. This comes out of Iowa City, Iowa. So, you know, people rob banks for the strangest things, right? A 19 year old North Liberty man used cash stolen at a bank robbery to play for a bond. He had on an outstanding warrant. The only thing that will make it better is if it had the explosive dye. Oh my God, he gave it to the police department. He was charged. Police charged Charles Curry with first degree bank robbery after the robbery of the American Bank and Trust. Curry cased the joint out by talking with the teller and leaving a second man armed with a handgun, then robbed the bank. Police say Curry used bank money to pay a bond for an outstanding theft charge at the Johnson County Jail, then went shopping at a Walmart and Gordon's department store. All I can say is, Curry, you're an idiot. He was taken to jail. There's a, there's an understatement. But hey, I got, I got to end up with this one. You ever had, remember all these things where people go hold my beer? Oh, yeah. Yep. This one comes from Bergetstown, Pennsylvania, population 1 ,425. Salute. The population makes a difference because we're going to get into the structural integrity of the holding cell. That Bonner Timothy was placed in. He was, he was arrested, taken to this holding cell, had his handcuffs removed. They shut the door, went off. That's when he knocked the cell door off its hinges and ran away. Now, what did he do? He stopped at a house, borrowed shoes, and then he went to a bar where he told a customer that, yeah, I just broke out of jail. Can I have a beer? The guy hold the beer, but before he could drink it, he goes, oh, hold my beer. Here's the police. The police came in and arrested him. Dang. How did he knock the door off the hinges? I'm telling you, some of these old places, it's like, it's more like having a fence, you know, you know, fences keep, you know, make good neighbors, you know, blocks keep honest people on us. But, you know, it's just, it was more the, you know, just like a Captain Jack Sparrow in Paris in the Caribbean. It's all about leverage. That's the day you almost caught Captain Jack Sparrow. Yeah, but he used leverage to pry that door off its hinges. Oh, my God. Okay. That's, there's a good, hey, hold my beer. I'm going to jail. Again. Again. Well, hey, speaking of fun stuff, I don't, I'm trying to figure out a good segue into this. This one, I get the intro because this guy I know, this guy actually has something in common with one of our other guests. Yes. Sherry Foster. And Sherry, if you're listening, tick tock, tick tock, I will get my book into him before you do, and I will be declared the winner. So this young man, and I say young man, he's got six kids. Oh, my God. He's been busy with everything. I don't know when he's had time to have six kids as busy as he is writing and editing books. But Ryan's - I wonder if there's a milk man in his neighborhood. Sorry, Ryan. Sorry, DNA tests are in your future, pal. So no, no, no, his wife's great. We don't want to make any insinuate, any insinuate, almost insinuations like that. Anyway, but let's get back to the case in chief. So, but, you know, many of you may not know who Ryan Steck is. You may have heard of big names like Jack Carr, Brad Thor, people writing thrillers. Well, not only is he the real book spy, if you go to therealbookspy .com, that is him. Ryan Steck, besides being my development editor and Sherry's development editor, guess who, you know, who asked him for recommendations and who's asked him to review their books? Jake Tapper, Bret Baier. He has got a list of celebrities and people, as long as my arm, of people that he's worked with, people that he's helped, people that are coming to him to say, hey, take a look at my book. And you got, so you're about to say something there, Murph. Hey, I've got, so I've got him pulled up on my laptop here as you're talking and he is, he's on his blog or whatever it is, YouTube. I'm not sure what you call it here. Twitch, yeah. Guess who he's talking to? Brad Thor, the author. Brad Thor, the author. How about that? He gets him on Twitch. Actually, I was supposed to be on that Twitch session, but yeah, Ryan is like, he's one of those unique people that has figured out how this thing works. Now you're going to ask, why do we have this author on? Well, for two reasons. Number one, his new book, Lethal Range is coming out. His initial book, his debut book was called Fields of Fire, a Matthew Redd thriller. So Matthew Redd is a Marine Raider. Now you hear a lot about Navy Seals, Delta Rangers, but nobody's ever had a book with a Marine Raider in it, you know? What do you call him, Marsoc? Marsoc, yeah, Marine Special Operations Command, I believe, Marsoc, yeah. And so he's got, so he had a, not only did he have a debut book, he's been helping people. Finally, all these guys are saying, write your own damn book, dude. So he did. So he got a contract for two books and a novella, which we'll talk about the novella. But his new book is, as we drop this episode, as you're listening to this today, his new book, Lethal Range comes out. And if I was just reading, just the quick thing from Lethal Range, let me just read you the intro. This is what Lethal Range is. On an island off the coast of Spain, Matthew Redd and his FBI fly team surveil a luxury villa in hopes of catching a high value fugitive. But when Redd leads an unauthorized raid on the villa, he discovers they've been set up and he is sent home to face the consequences of defying orders. Now, meanwhile, Redd's family, Emily, is on a remote stretch of Montana road driving their sick baby to the doctor when she finds her SUV surrounded by a biker gang. Intent on harassing her as they pound her fenders and infant sun screams, Emily fights to keep the FQB on the road. And then suddenly the bikers back off, leaving her safe but shaken. But when Redd returns home, Murph, he's suspended from his team and certain that he's to blame for Emily's harassment after his run -in with the local biker gang. So what does he do? He does what any guy does. He goes to war.
The Eric Metaxas Show
A highlight from Ricky Skaggs (Encore Continued)
"Welcome to The Eric Metaxas Show with your host, Eric Metaxas. Hey, folks. I'm talking to Ricky Skaggs. Seriously, look, he's right here. Ricky, welcome. I'm so happy you could be with us in the studio with your mandolin, with or without your mandolin, but even better with your mandolin. I want to talk to you a little bit about your faith. And you grew up, obviously you said your father would set you up on the pulpit when you were like five. So you grew up very much in the church. I did. Foot washing Baptist, you know, is what we were, free will Baptist. And was it just a beautiful thing to grow up like that, you know, and, you know, preacher would get up and say, has anybody got a word or a testimony? Well, here the testimonies would start, you know. So wait, the Baptist would think that somebody could get a word? That sounds more Pentecostal. Well, it wasn't like a word of prophecy. It was like you got a word to say, or do you have something to say or give your testimony? And so these precious old women of the faith would get up and talk about their son coming to Jesus, you know, and that they'd prayed for him for years and alcoholic and God has delivered him and stuff like that, you know, and just beautiful, beautiful things, you know. And when they prayed, they all prayed together. And boy, you talk about something that will run the chills up your back is to hear, you know, 75 people in a little small wooden church, you know, just praying to God, just going after it. You know, some of the old men up at the altar just going after it, you know, with the Lord and praying, you know, all at the same time, you know, and that's the way I grew up. So you go pray in the middle of this, but, you know, a lot of people talk about, well, I grew up singing in the church, but then they go on to have kind of a secular career that's extra secular. You know, they really move away from those roots. Doesn't sound like you ever did. No, no, sir. You always believed in Jesus. Yeah. You know, there wasn't it wasn't even five minutes when you were, you know, on a crack binge or something. This is the place to confess these things. I realize, you know, I've had experiences with the Lord where, you know, Sharon and I both, you know, when we got married, you know, we both had come from from a divorced background. She didn't have any kids. I did. I had two older children, but we dedicated our lives to the Lord from that moment on when we when we got married. And I had recommitted my faith, you know, to Jesus. And I wasn't baptized when I went to the altar when I was 13 years old. I wasn't baptized after that. And not that baptized baptism saves you. Go back when you went to the altar at 13. So you at age 13. Yeah, you made a profession of faith. But I mean, I get the impression you believe before that, but that for some reason at age 13. Well, I knew that I wasn't saved. I couldn't get to heaven just because of my mom and dad's goodness. You know, God has no grandchildren in heaven. That's right. You know, and so we all come and have our own relationship with Jesus. And I knew I needed that, you know, and I knew that I needed my sins to be forgiven, you know. And but, you know, we got baptized in the Holy Spirit, you know, a few years after after we got married, we knew that there was more. We knew that it was more than just just a Baptist, you know, come to faith that that there was a you know, there was, you know, John the Baptist talked about Jesus would baptize you with water and fire, you know. And and so we always always wondered what that fire was, you know, and that we wanted we wanted, you know, the baptism of the Holy Spirit, you know. And I mean, a lot of people listening don't even know what that is. And I you know, I came to faith around my 25th birthday and I pretty quickly got the whole thing. Yeah. You know, so to me, I was speaking in tongues and believing in the baptism of the Holy Spirit and all of that stuff immediately. But there are a lot of people that they think, well, that's a little odd or that's maybe extra credit Christianity. I'm not into that stuff. Well, it's I say it's the full package, but, you know, Jesus is always the full package. He brings everything with him. You know, he brings the bread and the wine when he comes to dinner. You know, in Revelation, you know, not only is he the wine and is he the bread of life, but he brings it with you with him when you when he comes in to have dinner, you know, to said, if you'll open the door to me, I'll come in and sup, you know. And so he's he's all of that, you know, and we need all of him. You know, we don't just need I don't want to I don't want to have anything hidden from the Lord because you can't you can't hide anything from the Lord. And so, you know, I just I really believe in communion, you know, with the Lord every day, you know. And there's just something about it, you know, that's very, very special. That time just to sit and have have time with the Lord, you know, and just just have communion with him, you know. Well, you I guess, you know, again, when we when we think about country music, it's a very faith friendly world. Obviously, Johnny Cash was a very serious believer in Jesus and God. And one of the things that I hated about the film, the only thing I hated about the film Walk the Line was that it completely left out how he gets pulled out of the hell of drugs and alcohol. It was Jesus. Yes, it was. And it was his wife praying for him and leading him along that and her dad. And, you know, in other words, that's that's the heart of the story, folks. If you want to know how Johnny Cash survived and lived and had a career, it's because of Jesus. And when they leave that out, I think to myself, Hollywood tends to do this. We live in a secular culture that secularizes everything. And you think that's that doesn't make any sense because you can't there is no story without that part of the story. That's right. And of course, you knew him personally, as you said earlier. So you knew this was real. I mean, I heard Billy Graham speak in in Central Park. I think it was 1990. And up on the stage, here comes Johnny Cash. And so I think a lot of people that they forget that a lot of these icons, these American icons love Jesus. And Johnny was one of them. He was. But so many I'm just fascinated by how that runs all through, you know, country music. You can't turn around without bumping into somebody who believes. And there's different, you know, different levels of belief. But I think I told you over the phone the story. I was in the Berlin Zoo in the hippo house in the Berlin Zoo. It's like I'm making this up. And this is about five, four, five years ago. And I'm looking for the hippos, can't find the hippos. And I turn around and there's a guy who thinks he's disguised standing there. But I knew who it was, and it was Chris Kristofferson standing there, this legend of legends or whatever. And anyway, I was honored to meet him. But a few days later, a friend of mine sent me Chris Kristofferson telling his story of being drugged, to use your language, being drugged into a church and having an experience with God that was so profound that he wrote that classic song, Why Me Lord, which George Jones sang about. But I mean, people need to know that a lot of these folks that they think, well, so -and -so's a legend. He knows Jesus. Yeah. Yeah, he did. And my friend Connie Smith took him to church, you know. They had a friendship and she loved his songwriting. And Connie Smith is the one who's married to Marty Stewart.
They Call Us Bruce
"connie" Discussed on They Call Us Bruce
"Wait. Potluck. Did you see canonical Connie? Hello and welcome to another edition of they call us Bruce. An unfiltered conversation about what's happening in Asian America. I'm Phil U and I'm Jeff Yang. And we're delighted to welcome Connie Wang, author of the new memoir in 9 adventurers. Oh, my mother, and of a fantastic story in The New York Times about her name, and the amazing people she shares it with, as well as fellow Connie and cartoonist Connie son. Welcome to the podcast. Welcome. Connie's. It's so good to be here. And to share space with another Connie. You don't thank you so much for having us. Should we be called W and S for this? We deal with our own version of that. If you have not heard, I and Phil and our friend Philip wrote a book together and as a result, we had many variations of the fill fill of identification wars. So we did go with Phil and Phillip and we can talk about the notion of Connie and whether it's short for anything because it is part of your piece that you wrote downstream, but Connie Wang, let's talk about your piece because you wrote a story about your name in The New York Times that has just gone viral. Everybody's reading it and sharing it because of how just beautifully it explores the interrelationship between identity, nomenclature, immigration, generational connection. And it all changes on this notion that your name, Connie, in particular. Is shared by a lot of other people and a lot of other people specifically who are Asian American of a certain age cohort. If you could talk a little more about the piece, again, it's so good. Oh, Jeff, thank you so much for saying that. I'm really glad that people are liking it because it was so much fun to finally write.
The Doug Collins Podcast
Retired FBI Agent Mark Sewell Describes His Time in the Marine Corps
"What did your Marine Corps career take you? I had really four tours in the Marine Corps. My first one was in camp lejeune, North Carolina, which is Jacksonville, north of Wilmington. The famous east coast base for the Marine Corps. And then I was selected for a officer commissioning program and then I spent the next three years down in Charleston at the Citadel attending college and getting a degree and becoming a commissioned officer. Then spent 18 months in the Quantico area going through the proper schooling to be an intelligence officer, and then I spent the last three years out in Hawaii at a place called Connie white bay and then finished up at camp Smith, but all of that being in Hawaii.
The Dinesh D'Souza Podcast
Two Dead, Two Alive After Americans Kidnapped in Mexico
"Two Americans are dead, killed by the Mexican drug cartels. And this assassination, I suppose I would call it occurred in Matamoros. Matamoros is in Mexico, but it's right across from the U.S. border, it is right across from the Rio Grande valley where Debbie grew up. And in fact, we talked to me when we go down to the Rio Grande valley about the fact that, hey, you know, people used to go all the time and maybe some still do over to matamoras. They come back across the border. I think Connie, have you been a couple of times to matamoras? Not as many years, but I used to go all the way. Yeah, Debbie used to go all the time, but hasn't obviously been recently. And it's known to be kind of dangerous. In other words, it's a little different than Acapulco or Cabo. It's a rough, it's a rough neighborhood. But nevertheless, here are these four Americans traveling in Matamoros. And I actually read, I sort of smiled because evidently they were going from South Carolina to Mexico and one of them was apparently getting a tummy tuck. They were getting some blasting surgery, I guess, to reduce weight. And two of them didn't come back. And out of the two that did get back, one of them apparently got wounded. So they were chased, they were kidnapped at gunpoint, and then they were shot at two of them were killed. And one of them wounded. Now, initially, the news reports said that they were. This was a case where the drug cartels probably got it wrong. They were identified as being cartel members or cartel Stooges, this to me makes no sense. Because apparently these Americans were driving an SUV with American tags.
ToddCast Podcast with Todd Starnes
Bruce Elliot: Teacher Unions Want a Monopoly on Government Schools
"Glad you pointed out the home component of this. I'm thinking if I'm a parent and my kid can't do multiplication or can't add or subtract, I should I should know that as a parent and bring that to the school's attention, but it looks like we've just had failure across the board and it's not just in Baltimore city or county. I suspect this is happening in school districts all over America. Well, check this out. What was up this study? And you want to be discouraged about something. Maryland, rates as a second, most educated state in the country. This is at the same time where you have these numbers. We're seeing schools. Well, they're getting a lot of help getting their numbers from Montgomery county, Maryland, and prince Georgia's Connie Maryland, which immediately about Washington D.C.. And in that case, yeah, you have a lot of working professionals with professional degrees or advanced degrees working for either institutions having to do with the government or working directly forward the government. But you get outside that kind of specialized area, you take a look at what's happening in Washington, D.C. take a look what's happening in Baltimore. Take a look at what's happening in St. Louis or Cleveland or Detroit or virtually any urban area in this country and you'll find failure after failure as your failure and still, you have the teachers union, pushing hard against the idea of what I think is a pretty common sense thing. The money follows the kid. That if your kid is going to public school, the money follows the kid, if your kid is being homeschooled, the money follows the kid. If your kid is going to either their Catholic high school or Jewish high school, whatever the case might be, again, the money follows the child. The teachers union does not want that to happen. They want to monopoly not on what I call public schools, but they want to monopoly on the government schools.
The Officer Tatum Show
A Lively Discussion on Minimum Wage
"Have a call to Connie and want to talk about the minimum wage. I had made mention in the last segment that is not really the minimum wage, it's your budget. Some people need the budget their money better. And stop begging the government to intervene and force unduly burdens on businesses. Because a good business will pay their people a good wage. And if you're a business that don't pay your people, you end up being a business with bad employees and you're not competitive in the market. Now, there are some jobs that people will take that are entry level jobs that pay you dirt poor, a dirt, you know, pay you pretty much nothing. But for you work on their job, and then you move up to a job that pays you more. But what happens is, is that if you force businesses to start going up higher and higher and higher on minimum wage, what it does is it forces low skill workers out of the work market period. People who may not have the skills and this may be what would originally be an entry level job, they're only going to hire people that got either experience or degrees. And now people who are low income ain't going to be able to get these jobs.
Overthrowing Education
"connie" Discussed on Overthrowing Education
"Play and learning and that going back to what I was talking about with my son and what you were saying star about there's a connection between play and learning that also can be in the classroom. So I know that that's in your book a bit and I'd love to hear about that from anybody. For both waiting for the other yeah, I think that play and recently there's been a lot more focus on this that school has become so structured too. Like the social skills that kids get from playtime, you know, like the whole idea of getting rid of unstructured play where kids have to work through all kinds of social paradigms that come up as well when you think about kids making up games on a playground or even playing video games to some degree help kids sort of deal with failure and all these other skills that we want them to be able to have in the context of learning and yet we're robbing them from these opportunities to actually participate in those learning environments that aren't necessarily just about content in school, but playing the games and working through different kinds of struggles that come up interpersonally when playing and I think if they're in school for 6 to 8 hours already, I think they've done enough academic learning in one day and valuing it more than the other kind of learning that also makes them a successful human being seems silly. It just makes so much sense what you're saying. It really just does. There are so many things that we learn outside of school. Besides the things that students like my son who pursue something, they're really interested in on their own. That's one kind of play, actually, in that joy of learning. But what you're saying is so important, there's so many other things that people learn, not in an academic way, that are very, very important. Yeah, I think the whole notion of curiosity and inquiry when you're playing and you're like, um, what's that? I wonder, how does this work? Just that whole idea of crafting inquiry questions and exploring those questions and it's fun. And as a result, we learn how things operate and we expose ourselves to things that we never noticed before. And there's a lot of research out there that shows how students the questions that they pose drop drastically as they move through the grades in school. And I can't help but wonder if that's connected to the fact that we switch the people who are asking the most questions to be the teachers, it's almost as if you can only ask questions if you know the answers already. It has opposed to toddlers and preschoolers who are just so inquisitive and constantly asking why, why? I mean, talk about the 5 why, is it originated with a toddler? I'm sure. But I think that when we structure every learning opportunity and just don't allow students to explore and then just maybe coach them a little bit like what do you notice saying and what do you think about that and does that make you wonder and what do you what do you see? Those kinds of things are what really develop students to be outside the box thinkers as opposed to just regurgitating information that they were presented with. Right. It's really, really true. So in your book, hacking homework, there's we've spoken about a lot of the main ideas in it. What are some other things that we haven't yet touched on and also talk about the help that it offers and tell us about the book and what else is. Connie, do you have the book handy? I do. I just grabbed it. So a couple of the things. I mean, we've touched on many of them already early in our conversation. We talked about the challenges that many teachers face when they want to change the way that homework looks, but they can't because there is a practice or a policy. That's the very first chapter. Break up with daily homework. And it's about maneuvering a practice when maybe you're locked into some of the rules and expectations that exist within the system. We know also talk about developing rapport with students and being flexible with the way that we identify or we define homework. So homework doesn't have to be a worksheet or a breeding log, homework can also be have a couple. I think star just threw up a little bit in her mouth. I totally hear that. I was trying not to react when you said that, but okay, yeah. Yeah, and so, I mean, it's just about if we could be flexible with that homework and say, okay, your homework is to have a conversation or your homework is to think of three questions or your homework is to look for ways to apply in the real world what we learned today. Some of those ideas continue student learning and connections, but not in a way that it's gotcha if you didn't do it. And it's so that's kind of what we're looking at. And again, we're not subscribing to the idea that homework should be eradicated completely. But we should be more mindful, really, about how homework is used because it's a great tool when used properly. When we can use it to spark creativity and allow students to pursue their passions and maybe even front load a little bit of background knowledge or make connections. But this idea of hours and hours of homework, I mean, think about kids that are involved in extracurricular activities. I remember my kids leaving the school on a bus, traveling to their destination for an athletic competition and hour and a half away, staying for the a team and the B team, and then traveling an hour and a half back, a lot of times they didn't get home until 9 or 10 o'clock, and the solution from the teacher is, well, they could do it on the bus. Are you kidding me? A, it's dark, B it's chaotic and see, I want them to get fired up and excited. And in the mindset of the game or the activity that they're doing, not to be isolating from their teammates and their coach and thinking about how they can get their head in the game. There are a lot of benefits there too. So I also just want to say they might get carsick. I could never do homework in a bus would be so sick. I think one of the other things we talk about too is just rebranding the idea of homework, the language we use around it, so that the idea of what Connie was saying about extending learning beyond classroom and just getting families to acknowledge the fact that learning is happening and it doesn't need to be a worksheet or even something other than that work on a project. For example, for learning to be happening and learning can be happening when I am doing laundry with my child when I'm baking. Like there's mass and English opportunities and social study, we could be talking about history of a place when we drive by and see one of those blue markers on the side of the road. That's an opportunity to learn something, be curious about it, learn about our local areas, like the world is full of opportunities for taking in new and exciting information. And I feel like the ideas that we put in kids heads about what homework is really about diminishes really just the complexity of the world that we live in and how much we have to gain from even the smallest things that happen all around us all the time. Absolutely. You know, I was just as star was talking and I was just sort of wondering, wouldn't it be an interesting activity to just sort of plot out a student's day and just try to think of if we were to think of all of the things that are important for a child or an adolescent, how much time should they spend on chores, how much time should they spend on exploratory play? How much time should they spend connecting with their family? I wonder if there are enough waking hours in the day for all of those things. And when we discover that they are that there are not, then it's a matter of prioritizing is homework really more important than working a job is homework really more important than shoveling your driveway. I mean, what are these priorities when you can't fit them all? I mean, is homework really more important than sleep? Because honestly, that's often what is sacrificed. Yeah. I know there's kids who stay up. Not granted, maybe they're also doing other things while they do their homework. That's what I always hear. Well, you know, if they were really focused, but I know kids who really focus and they're still going to bed at midnight 1 o'clock 2 o'clock in the morning. It's just not, it's not healthy. It's really not healthy. I was going back to what star was saying, I was just thinking of and the idea of play and curiosity is that I used to sit with my son and we'd watch The Simpsons, like in the earlier episodes. And I would stop every time there was a cultural or literary or historical reference and explain it to him. And it was such a wacky way of learning, but he learned so much that he still knows because we would sit there and do that. And it was fun for him to do that. And then he gets the joke and it's more meaningful. Just reminds me of Wayne's world, where Tia Carrere says she learned English by watching the police academy movies. I think board games think about how much kids learn playing board games, like low and I used to play Scrabble even before he knew how to spell really well. We'd have open hands and we talk about words and if I used a word he didn't know, we'd look it up on the phone and it was like this opportunity to have fun and also build his vocabulary and there's a lot of things even, like I said, even there's narrative in a lot of the games that he plays even though I don't like single shooter games that kids play with their friends but there's strategy happening. There's tactical discussions they're having on the phone when they're having those conversations. So I mean there is so much to learn from even the things they enjoy doing that it seems silly that what I perceive as important and going back to Connie's example of reading logs, which she knows that for me, if you want to kill a kid's love of learn of reading, ask them to do a reading log. So I think this is the last question I really want to ask because this is such the golden question. What's it going to take to change the thinking about homework in schools and with parents? We've been talking about sort of the paradigms and the attitudes. What can we do? What can teachers do, what can other parents do to change that thinking about it, the way we think about homework? I think the first thing really is to free teachers to exit or to walk away from just this tradition. I mean, most of us had homework and it's just the way we do things, right? And so just that first step of giving permission to look at things a little bit differently. And then looking at the purpose of the homework. And then aligning once you get clarity on what is the purpose of the homework, then kind of posing the question to say, is the method of this homework or is the way that students are engaging in this homework the best way to accomplish whatever the goal is that I am wanting to accomplish. So if we go to responsibility, then that question is is homework really the best way to teach responsibility. If we say that they have made an extended time, is homework really the best way to offer students additional time for things that they don't understand. If we're trying to establish routine as homework really the best way to establish routine. And so I think if we get to the root cause of what it is that we believe that homework, fixes or addresses and allow us to explore other ways, then I think that we will find that we can accomplish what we're trying to use homework for in more efficient and successful ways. And then it just becomes about acknowledging with parents, the benefits of not having homework. You know, all of the things that your child can do. And then of course, we can give them ideas like you were talking about with board games and watching The Simpsons and whatnot. We can certainly share those opportunities for parents to provide those learning opportunities at home and I imagine that many supporters of homework are saying yes if they were going home and playing board games and their parents were pausing the TV to have these conversations, then I wouldn't have to get homework, but that's not what kids are doing. They're going home and playing video games. Well, they're also quite a bit of research around looking at anxiety and sleep. And so also looking at what you have to give up in order to provide homework and when we present those things to students to school leaders and to parents to say, when we put tick for tech, homework against sleep, a good night's sleep is going to better prepare them for tomorrow's lesson, then staying up and doing problems in a frustrated mode. And so looking at how it impacts their state of mind, their mental health and just their physical health as well, all of those things need to come into play. In talking to a lot of teachers about this, the other thing that they say is, by either not having homework or by only giving the meaningful sort of non graded homework that it helps their life and bring balance into their life because I remember back in the day when I grated and gave homework in English, when you have 75 students, like going over those papers, it would just take, it could take hours and hours and hours of my time that I couldn't be with my family or do the things that I wanted to do and teachers really need a break right now. It's so, so stressful. I would say for teachers, there's so many benefits to doing exactly what you're saying. It's not just the benefits for the you're not chasing down kids who didn't do the homework and I was just going to see that too, Connie. There's that whole other thing to where when we give homework that class lessons are contingent upon kids doing, you always end up having to have a plan B or plan C for the kids who don't come prepared for whatever reason. So if it's important enough that you're going to be using what they did outside of school, why not just do it in school. Like with them as a part of the lesson instead of expecting them to have it in order to make the lesson work. Right. That was always something that I kind of struggled with in terms of what if they don't read? Well, if you're concerned about them, not reading, then why don't you spend the first ten minutes of class
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"connie" Discussed on Overthrowing Education
"So I want to go back to something that you said because you're really talking about how important it is to involve students in their learning process, like so for a kid to be able to say, look, I get this material. I really don't need to do this homework. You know it. I know it, you know. But tell me about that. What it takes to involve students in the learning process and how that will help the situation. If we're giving them multiple opportunities to demonstrate the specific outcome, you know, the different skills and content we want them to be able to master at a particular time in our classes. And let's say they're maintaining a portfolio or something of that sort where they have done the learning, demonstrated the learning in more than one way, reflected on the learning. And then we ask them, do you feel you've adequately had opportunity to show what you know in a way that makes good sense to you? And in partnership, we have that conversation, then if we're truly going to differentiate, why not just say, okay, yes, that's so, whereas, you know, you might have a student like who Connie described earlier with her daughter who genuinely needs multiple opportunities to have different ways of seeing things and really just more time because she's a brilliant kid who just it just takes her longer than it takes some other kids. It doesn't mean she doesn't know it as well, it just means it just takes her a little longer to process. So I feel like if we're truly going to live the values that we espouse in our spaces, we have to do the things that allow kids to do that to be successful at it. So if we have some that work really quickly and are able to demonstrate their learning in a variety of ways, then those students should be able to do that and then other students who need more time that flexibility needs to be a part of what's going on and if we give kids the tools to say that for themselves advocate for what they need, then that's half the battle right there. Definitely. I think so. I think that that's part of I've heard some teachers talk about optional homework. There's no grade on it. There's no, it's just an opportunity, like you said, to kind of delve deeper into something that maybe or clarify something they don't understand or find ways to express how they do understand it and but without the learning that goes with it, right? I mean, sometimes homework is given and the kids actually don't know the material. So then what's the point of having them take home something if they don't know how to do that? That's the $1 million question. Yeah. I mean, when you think about things like fluency automaticity, when you're trying to move something from students working memory into their long-term memory that they can use for immediate retrieval. Yeah, it makes a lot of sense to use spaced practice, which is challenging to do in a 50 minute class. So if you, if you're teaching a music class, for example, it does make sense that students would be practicing at different intervals. Or if they're learning another language, it does make sense. I was just thinking of that, right? Yeah, so they're definitely are some things that would benefit from 5 minutes now, 5 minutes later, 5 minutes at yet another third time. But I don't know that we always take the task, the purpose, the brain, how memory works into account when we're determining what makes the best use of homework and why is it the best use. And so when the reasoning falls on or teaching responsibility or it isn't fair to the other kids, that doesn't really have much to do with the individual learner and how that student is grasping whatever it is that we're trying to teach. And I think to further involve students in their learning process is to have them evaluate how do I learn best and this might help me and so I might take that option to do that or it might take that option this week, but this other material I totally have it down. And I think that that's really helpful. And also to ask students, what is the way that you learn these things best? Like for a foreign language. I mean, obviously a musical instrument is a very different story and I've heard people compare other subjects to musical instruments. And like, you know what? It's really not. It's not the same thing. And I hear the foreign language thing, but I think it'd be interesting to ask students how do you best learn a foreign language? Because there's different ways that different people do it, right? Yeah, and to that end, my son studies Chinese. He's got no one to speak with at home, like I have tried to study with him, not very successfully. Because I studied French and French and Chinese are not even close to the same. And you know, like if you have students who are studying languages that have different characters, different alphabets, that whole idea of practicing the immersion practicing. You have no one at home who could speak it with you. It's almost another one of those things that's ultimately going to create more friction at home. Yeah, I mean, my son speaks, we speak some Hebrew, and so when he takes paper classes and that's pretty easy, but he's teaching himself German and so he does speak German to us and we're like, okay, well, we'll try to learn some words. So that we can communicate with you. But it's really amazing. He's actually because students will really delve into something and you could consider that homework. He does that at home. He is busy learning another language because he's interested in it. And so I love that idea that the homework or whatever is connected to something that they really love doing. And they don't have to do it. But if there's something that they love, but there's an opportunity to pursue that thing. And if somebody has four hours of homework or three hours of homework every night, how do they pursue the other things they love learning about? And I think that that's, I mean, that's so true in general. And kids are already completely overbooked once the school day ends. So how much are we pushing them back more and more away from the things they feel passionately about because Boeing back to that idea of responsibility, there working a job or watching a younger sibling or helping a younger sibling with homework or helping out in the house in some way that their family needs them to help out in and then schools have these arbitrary time requirements for homework in high school. They shouldn't have more than two to three hours of homework, which means no teachers should be giving more than half hour or the fact that that starts in like third grade when they start giving these arbitrary random times of how much homework is appropriate for a kid that age when there's zero research that supports homework in elementary school is productive in
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"connie" Discussed on Overthrowing Education
"The whole process so that which was right around the time when Connie and I were writing hacking homework and there were days where I wrote an email to his teacher on like just FYI, he's not doing homework anymore. Like I made the executive decision as his parent that this was not helpful for him and therefore he should not be penalized because I am not letting him do it at home and that's my choice as his parent. Wow. That's awesome. I did do something very similar when my son was younger. But I've had the exact same experience and with my son as well of not wanting kind of wanting my help, but then not wanting my help because I wouldn't do it the way that his teacher would. And I think one of the problems that we all have is when doing that with our kids is like we actually know because we're educators. So that is probably I think that's what terrifies my son about working with me is I know what I'm doing in most classes. And I was not helpful in his AP calculus class. But yeah, I mean, it's really makes the doing of homework so much harder when they stress about that aspect as well. If I have to do it this way, I have to do it the way the teacher wants it to be. And sometimes not even knowing what that really means. Yeah, and how crazy is that though? The way the teacher wants me to do it. I mean, if we're truly in a situation where we're trying to empower kids to understand themselves as learners, like we tell them that there are multiple approaches like in math, there might be two or three or four ways of solving a problem and yet they have the impression that there's only one right way to do it. Like think about how much agency is lost there. If a student has the belief that they have to do it the way the teacher wants them to do it and not in a way that makes sense to them as a learner. Yeah, absolutely. Wow. And there's another group of students as well. I mean, you're talking about your high achieving children that you have and at the same time you also have students where learning doesn't come so easily to them. These are the kids that don't finish the assignment in class and then have more homework than other students because they take longer. And I can speak from experience one of my children. They're all very different in relation to homework, but one of my children is a very dedicated student. She's kind of the teacher's dream. If you say that your classroom is open at 7 30 in the morning, she's there at 7 25 with your favorite latte ready with a list of questions, right? But it takes her and she's 20 now and she's in college and even just the other day. She said, mom, why does everything always take me so long? It takes me so much longer than all of my other classmates. And it still does even as a college student. And so when we think about the effort that students put in, she may not get as far, but she spends way more time on it, and somebody else might whip right through it. And look at the inequities that exist there. And then I have another son who just didn't do homework and most of my exchanges as a parent were, did you do your homework? Yes. Well, but I looked on the online infinite campus and it says that you didn't turn it in. Oh, my teacher must have lost it. While I emailed your teacher and he said that you never turned it in. Like the whole conversation in our home was often around homework and when I look back at the quality of the conversations that I had with my son during his teen years, probably half of them were just arguing about school. And it damages relationships. It sends messages that, you know, that that's all you care about is my homework and not about me and looking all of those we can't spend our family time focusing on talking about our lives and our family because we need to get that homework done and it's just a constant battle. That is such an important point that I think people sort of overlook. Like sometimes we talk about, okay, it can be stressful or it takes away family time, but it's more than taking away family time. It's actually causing antagonism between parents and their kids often because of that constantly having to nag the kids or ask them did you do your homework? I mean, I hate asking that question. I really do. But for some kids, it is really harder for them to just jump in and do it when it's the last thing they want to do after a long day of school. Sure. And let's watch star's blood pressure will go up here as I describe my son that could pass every assessment with flying colors, but and therefore didn't see the benefit of the homework, didn't feel it was necessary. We do the homework because he already knew it. He didn't need to practice. And when he walks out of the class with a B because he didn't do his homework, but he has a 100% average on the assessments. I know star. That one and Connie knows it drives me nuts because I remember when it was going on and she would send me like screenshots of conversations going on at home and what the teacher was writing in emails and like I never want to say bad things about teachers in general because I generally believe their hearts are in the right place. Absolutely. But some of these really antiquated practices. Like they don't even, it doesn't even make sense. We talk about differentiation when we talk about what kids need, I don't understand why all bets are off when it comes to assigning homework. If a kid could demonstrate proficiency or mastery during that class time, why should they have to just be compliant? And if they're not, why should that impact the way, you know, the way we communicate learning about what they know and can do just because they called BS on your terrible homework, but they didn't actually need, I appreciate a kid like that. Like if you know yourself well enough to say, you know what? I feel confident in this learning. I don't need to do this work because I feel I've already demonstrated in a variety of different ways already. I say kudos to them. It's really upsetting when you're a consultant who goes into schools and you hear this conversation going on all the time and you can only push back for a certain amount because you know there is a culture and probably a policy that states they have to give homework, which is just so silly in my opinion. It is absolutely silly. I've heard from a lot of teachers on the twittersphere that this is a problem. That they themselves do not want to give homework, they don't believe in it, but the district or the school requires it. And so they don't, they try not to really give homework, but it's such a, like you said, it's like the culture that's steeped.
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"connie" Discussed on Overthrowing Education
"Pressure going up already. Same. So what do you say to that? I say homework doesn't teach responsibility. It expects it and then it punishes students who don't already have well established routines, procedures, time management skills. Right. That's really true. And I would say that if it's so important, why aren't we teaching it in class? Exactly. Previous conversation I had on homework was just about that. It was how real-time management means getting things done in class. That's if people want to teach time management and responsibility, that to me makes way more sense. Yeah, I think when we, when we talk about teaching something, to me, that suggests that there's a learning target and a purpose that is directly aligned with what it is that we want to teach. And so simply by creating the atmosphere where students need to be efficient with their time isn't teaching time management either, it really is more once again expecting it. So unless we're providing very specific strategies and offering students feedback on how they can manage their time in teaching them how they can be efficient and allowing them to reflect on what works for them and what doesn't work. That's very, very different than hurry up and get your work done so you don't have to have homework. Oh yeah, absolutely. That is absolutely it. And that's if the goal is to teach time management or to help them with time management, then you're right. It has to actually be a thing that's being taught. And not just expected. So I know the other issue that I always have is that the equivalence of homework with and I'm going to use this word even though I'm starting to really hate it with rigor. You know, like that class isn't hard or class isn't really helping unless there's lots of homework like that somehow equates the quality of the class and the education, which to me is, I don't know, comments. Yeah, I mean, I think that that a lot of parents think that way and maybe some kids do as well. I know my son, for example, he really likes when his teachers obviously don't give him homework, but there is some kind of equation that goes on about what they're learning and how they're learning it and whether or not the kind of homework that's being asked for them to do actually supports learning, which is one of those misnomers, I think, that I struggle with with this whole homework conversation and it's something, you know, Connie and I talk about in the book too that we're not necessarily against all homework we're against stupid homework. As you work, things like another chapter we talk about is that idea of required homework, like daily required homework, which kind of goes back to what Connie said before about like rushing them through class works, but they don't have to have homework like using that carrot to motivate them. The motivation factor there too and the messaging, I think, that that sends to kids about the value of what they're learning and why being fast is more important than effective. There's just so many mixed messages that kind of get tied up in this homework conversation that muddy the learning aspect of it. Yeah, I totally agree with that. It's interesting because a lot of people do say, I really don't give homework, but I only give homework when they don't finish something in class and it gives them the opportunity to finish it, but at the same time, the way that you're talking about it, it actually, yeah, I mean, if kids whole reason to get through something is so that they don't have homework, then what's the quality of what they're doing? And I think that that makes so much sense. I once had a situation and I've probably mentioned this before in other episodes where I was at a school where they told me because I wasn't giving homework. I was teaching English and I actually had like a double period of it. So we really got a lot done. And they told the head of the school told me that I had to give more homework that the parents were complaining that I wasn't giving enough homework. And I said, because I don't really need to. We're doing everything in class, where it's especially for English. It's really helpful to do it in class. And he said, well, you have to give more homework. And I said, so what am I supposed to do? Just give busy work and he said, if that's what you need to do. I was like, okay, clearly this might not be the school for me. It was so crazy. Well, and sadly, what you describe isn't all that uncommon where there's an expectation at the school level that homework is provided and oftentimes it's rooted exactly the way that you described is that parents have an expectation for it and they identify quality teachers or as you mentioned previously rigorous courses with the amount of homework that's there and so it's shocking and a little disappointing that our response to the confusion that parents have is to just comply rather than try to educate them on the pros and cons of homework and the benefits of students having someone there to provide scaffolding and questioning and feedback and all of those components as opposed to sending them home either with busy work or something that's too hard for them, which then either they're practicing it wrong or they get frustrated and begin to hate school. Yeah, it happens so often. I mean, even I was thinking about my son the other night who had homework in his AP class, I will not say which one that he did not he's like, I don't really know how to do this and it wasn't just not clear to me. Let's not helpful to be stuck in that area and not be able to get help on it. It just doesn't make any sense to me. Sure. And there are so many apps now that all you have to do is plug it into a computer and answer spits right out for you. Yeah. And I mean, there's that other thing too, like I remember when my son was in elementary school and he'd had these meltdowns because he was under the impression that there was a very specific way he had to complete the assignments. So even though he had somebody who could support him at home, he did not want my help because he believed that I didn't know the way the teacher wanted it. And if he submitted it in a different way, it was somehow going to be wrong. And it was a little maddening, but more upsetting to see how truly upset he was by
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"Hi, it's bachelor and welcome to overthrowing education where my guests and I explore what great education could and should be. On this episode, I'm continuing a topic that I think is on the front burner right now on educators minds and parents minds and students minds, which is homework. My guests in this episode are incredible educators, star sax scene and Connie Hamilton. Both who have been on my show before and they co authored the important book hacking homework. It's a great conversation that explores the homework issue gives practical ideas for how to do it right if you have to do it at all. And we also have a lot of fun. So you may ask, why am I doing another episode on homework when I just had a great episode with Elizabeth Jorgensen discussing homework. And if you haven't already heard it after you finish this one, listen to episode 86. So I'm focusing on homework again for a couple reasons. First of all, when I pose the question on Twitter for teachers and parents, how do you feel about homework? I got almost 500 answers along with a healthy discussion where people had a variety of opinions and, believe it or not, we're still respectful of each other for the most part. In addition to a lively Twitter discussion, one teacher, Alex giorgione, reached out to me with an amazing assignment he and his colleagues, Mike Reynolds, and Marianne Hilton, gave their sophomore world history in English two and junior U.S. history and English three classes when they were studying propaganda in the U.S.. It was called the war on homework. In this assignment, their students launched a full fledged propaganda campaign aimed at eliminating Homer within their high school. First, they had to analyze the history of yellow journalism and propaganda in America, and then they spent time researching just the topic of homework. The students were then tasked with identifying three things they had to find the impact homework has on students, the impact homework has on teachers and the efficacy or effectiveness of homework. And if you want to see the incredible results of these students from flagler Palm Coast high school and you should because they are really clever, you can find a link to them on the show notes and on my overthrowing education website. And if that wasn't enough, Alex was also kind enough to share the whole assignment, which you can find on the website as well. It's really great. I love the creativity. And now my conversation with Connie and Starr. Oh wait, wait, one more thing. At the very end of the episode is a little bonus. It's our very no holds bar gripe session about kinds of homework. We really don't like. It's kind of fun. Okay, there is one more thing that I did want to say before the interview, which is there are a lot of interesting sound effects in the background in this interview. So I don't know, you can play name that sound effect if you want. But just be aware that that's what's going to be happening throughout the interview. Okay, for real this time, here's my conversation with Connie and Starr. I have so been looking forward to talking to my amazing guests. Connie Hamilton and star sexting, who both been on the show before. In fact, this is star's fourth appearance on the show. So at this point, she's practically a co host. Connie and Starr are both well-known educational presenters who met when they co authored hacking homework. And they've since become dear Friends, which is so cool. Separately, they've published many other titles to offer resources to teachers and leaders in the area of assessment, instruction, and educator growth. Of course, we're going to talk about hacking homework since, you know, this whole episode is about homework, but you can hear more about their other books on previous episodes of overthrowing education, so check them out. Welcome, star and Connie. Thank you. Thank you so much. It's great to have you both back. Star do you feel like you're like, wait, it's once a month or something? It's starting to be like, no, I like it. I like our conversations. I like that you ask different, like we talk about different stuff, like even when we're talking assessment, it's different than what it is when I talk to most people who don't know me. So I appreciate that. I do too. I mean, we all could just talk and talk and talk about these things because we're all very passionate about it. And so now the thing that has been kind of buzzing around for me has been about homework and obviously that was a big thing for you all too. So I just kind of want to know what led you to the idea that homework was just becoming untenable and sort of needed hacking. I'll let you take that one coming. Well, I think star and I both share similar views on instruction and assessment and homework really hits on both of those things. Teachers often use homework to substitute for quality instruction and they often use homework in ways that don't align with the best assessment strategies. And so as we began having conversations about how homework is often miss use, we saw that our views aligned and thought that we could combine our thoughts and our efforts and decided to jump off the bridge here and challenge ourselves to write a book together, although it was a much bigger challenge for me because it was the first book that I wrote and star was already a very seasoned author. Wow. And since then, you've actually written more. So I have a good experience for you, obviously. It was a very good experience. She left out so many good parts about how that actually happened. Connie invited herself to my house after we decided that we were going to write this book. And we had not ever met in person only online. To make me sound so rude, I invited myself. Well, I mean, it was so awesome was you were like so confident that everything was like, it was amazing because you know me well enough to know now that I'm like super introverted. So thank God you are not as introverted as I am and you really took the initiative to get things rolling and it's one of the things I love most about you not to mention the look on your face when you got in the car when I picked you up at the airport and you were like, you don't look anything like what I was expecting. I was like okay. What were you expecting? That's what I want to know. Well, when you see star on social media and I think particularly I queued into the TED Talk that she did and she has just a very, I don't know like your stereotypical librarian type of look. When I think of if you were to cast someone in a movie as a librarian, that's what I expected. And she wasn't. She was in shorts and she was all tatted up and like typical New York fashion, her language fit right in with the geographic area. And I was like, wow, she's not as timid as I thought she was. That's great. Well, I am glad. Whatever it took, I'm glad it all happened because it's such an important book and it's such an important time for people to really be looking at it and cluing into it. Because I feel like there's a lot of assumptions that people have like administrators and parents and students and teachers about homework. So what would you say some of those assumptions are that really need to change? That homework is how we make kids accountable for learning. Yes. We both really hate that argument when people say we have to give kids homework because how else are we going to teach them to be responsible and accountable? I can't feel my blood
AJ Benza: Fame is a Bitch
Matthew McConaughey's Wild Hair Story
"One area that receded a long time ago was Matthew McConaughey's hairline. And if you look now, it's completely back. It's all back. I'm talking about a straight hairline in the front, like that could have been drawn better with a marker. He looks fantastic. His main is his manly as it ever was when he came up the ranks. It was one of the reasons why I thought this guy can't be a romantic comedy guy. His hair is he had like the Heath Ledger. Heath Ledger had a hair had a hair set that you knew eventually was gonna go. And he thought if you shave it and he was in like his late 20s when it started to go on him. And you thought, well, if there's anything that will hold him back, not to say hair is that important. You go, okay, he flex is gonna have a hair issue. I have a hair issue. Fuck everybody knows that. I shave mine off a couple of years ago because I got tired of looking down so thin on top. And in every man, every man grows a bolt on every man. Let's say let's say he's 75% of men in their 50s grow a bowl spot in the back of their head. It's natural. But since very few of us see pictures of us from behind, when you finally do eagle wait, wait, that's what my hand looks like from behind? Holy shit, I gotta shave this off. And that's what I did. I'm a Connie. He's hairstyle getting back to him. It just got better and better, and it's thicker than usual.
Game of Crimes
"connie" Discussed on Game of Crimes
"So the fact that your wife is a witness to this, your honor, case closed, but Noah. But Connie, you know, but obviously there comes a time too to where life in Colombia I've been down there not in early as long as you guys have, but there's some just beautiful areas, you know, Montserrat, the restaurant bought my daughter, one of the ruana at one of the markets. You know, just so much culture there. But at some point though, you got to have a little fun. So what did you guys do for fun? I mean, in addition to socialize with the other people, did you go to events? Did you get a chance to actually go out into the community and get involved in some things? We weren't allowed to do that. That was just their security protocol. And that was all the embassy people were supposedly controlled or we had guidelines that the RSO office there that handled the embassy security. They would put out guidelines as to what's happening around the city. And accordingly, these were our restrictions for the weekend. So and my first job there was with the office, that lady moved on. I took that job. And the job shared with another DEA spouse and so we were, you know, we were handed those at least, I think they put those out on Thursday or Friday, so everyone who's new. What the American should or should not do that weekend. But then you've got this group of DEA who don't go by rules. So they pretty much went on their merry way. Some weekends they were maybe be a little more cautious, but it still didn't stop that crew from doing what they wanted to do, which was Friday night, go to was it mister ribs for TGIS? Oh, yeah. Oh yeah. You know, drink can have appetizers for several hours. And on Saturdays, many times we would have outings as a huge group..
Game of Crimes
"connie" Discussed on Game of Crimes
"So were you wearing a helmet? Nurse Connie. Yes. Oh, thank goodness. Yeah. All right. So but you like, you also like to snow ski though too, right? We yes. Like I said, we found out we had a lot in common. We snow skiing. You know, he was, he was gung Ho on his career and I was as well. So, you know, that was easy to understand someone like that. At the point that you guys got married with Steve still on the police department or had he joined the railroad police at that point. I think it was somewhere in the transition between the two. He knew that he could never have weekends off, working as a street car. He had this weird Tuesday wind Wednesday after days. We were both working night shift and I said, I can't do. I work like 6 years of night shift. I said, I can't do this anymore. And I had gone on. Day shift. And he could see no way of getting out of that. So that's when he started applying, you know, other places, and then he worked for the railroad. I don't remember if we were married then or not. But then he moved away to turn Virginia Beach. And I went to Virginia Beach as well and got a job there too. So you say you weren't that interested in him, but you followed into Virginia Beach. Thank you very much. Thank you. We were, you know, we were he had worn you down enough, he just couldn't stand to be away from him, right? Yeah. I'm playing to Steve these Steve's ego now. There you go. I appreciate that very much. We had a pretty hot and heavy romance going. Oh, okay, well, since this is worth trying to stay family friendly on this one because you're the wife, so but what was it like when you moved down to Virginia Beach? What did you think of that? As.
Whimsically Volatile
"connie" Discussed on Whimsically Volatile
"Was directing the show. The show was speaking of tarantino. Was going to be called pulp. Nellie so Already i was like oh this sounds fun and then they were like do you have any characters and i had never thought of writing a character error. I had never written anything. I used to write songs. What because i was more into blondie and sure david bowie ito in rock music. And you know stuff like that. That i just thought oh. I have this character. Connie on an. I started doing the i love children. I'll have because the nowadays even though The girl that was in the group Nor burns she was like columbia. There were the two writers. Were both ivy lee guy. Graduated top of his class yale drama department so but they were also lowbrow. Humor stuff that we can't very politically. It was back in the nineties..
AP News Radio
Taliban: Women can study in gender-segregated universities
"The Taliban have announced that women in Afghanistan will be allowed to continue to study in universities what's with segregated classrooms and Islamic dress as compulsory meshes the announcement came as council's foreign minister arrived in Kabul the highest profile visitors since the Taliban announced then you can trim cabinets the minister for higher education of the Bacchae how Connie unveiled the new policies to the media a few days after new or male government was phones any female students who continues as studies because I think he's out he's not make Everett has no problem with them the world has been watching closely to see to what extent the Taliban might act differently from the first time in power in the late nineteen nineties during that era girls and women with tonight in education and were excluded from public life I'm Karen Thomas
AP News Radio
Pentagon Chief: Al-Qaida May Seek Comeback in Afghanistan
"The Pentagon's chief says al Qaeda may seek a come back in Afghanistan L. A. U. S. forces have left them the Taliban are again in power defense secretary Lloyd Austin says that's just the nature of all Qaeda and others like the Islamic state group they will always attempt to to find space to to grow and regenerate whether it's there whether it's in Somalia where the rich and any on any other on governor's race speaking to reporters as he ended a Persian Gulf states tour Austin says the U. S. is ready to prevent it all kind of come back and as war the Taliban not to again give the militant sanctuaries like they did before nine eleven Sager man Connie Washington
The South Florida Morning Show
Peppa Pig Trolls Kanye West on Twitter Over Mediocre Pitchfork Review
"A since deleted tweets should've left it up there. Pippa pippa said well. This is about a hiring whatever. A higher album review score from pitch fork dot com on her new album over kenya's and in the tweets. Pepe pepe said pepe didn't need to to host listening parties in mercedes benz stadium. Get that five sweeper. How dash wow because you use new album. Donde had been given a six point. Zero while pepper's adventures got six point. Five holy cow. Connie only six point zero. One that from pitchfork is what it
Mark Levin
Biden Knew Afghanistan Faced Invasion Theats by Pakistan, Told by Ghani
"But in mid July, Biden was intent on Ghani delivering a public message. And public plan that would sharp confidence in the Afghan government. He said. You clearly have the best military of 300,000 well armed forces. By the way, they've never had 300,000 armed forces. Versus 17 80,000 there clearly capable of fighting well, we will continue provide close air support for you know what the plan is and what we are doing. He pushed Connie to allow his defense Minister General Bismillah Karma Lama. To pursue a strategy that would focus on defending major population centers. And he urged the Afghan president to bring together some of the most powerful anti Taliban warlords in a show of support to reverse perceptions, perceptions of a crumbling government. He said. I really think I don't know whether you're aware just how much the perception around the world is that this is looking like a losing proposition. Which it is not. Not that it necessarily is that But so the conclusion I'm asking you to consider is putting together everyone. If they stand there and say they back the strategy you put together and put a warrior in charge in a military man con in charge of executing the strategy and that will change perception. And that will change an awful lot, I think, says Biden. Johnny responded by saying Afghanistan was facing not just the Taliban, but their foreign backers, he said. We're facing a full scale invasion composed of Taliban. Full Pakistani planning and logistical support and at least 10 to 15,000 international terrorists, predominantly Pakistanis thrown into this. You've never heard any of this. Neither did I have you, Mr Reducer. So they were being invaded. On top of everything else from Pakistan. You didn't know this either, folks. But Biden did.
Mark Levin
Reuters Reveals Biden Pressed Ghani to ‘Change Perception’ Before Afghan Collapse
"Reuters today released excerpts from last call between Biden and Ghani before the Afghan president fled. They talked for about 14 minutes on July, 23 is the Taliban advanced rapidly. Biden told his counterpart of a perception that the fight against the Taliban was not going well. Quote. There is a need, whether it's true or not the project a different picture, Biden said. Comments or indication by knew it was a matter of time before the Taliban. One. The months leading up to the withdraw by unpredicted pullout would go smoothly. Now Can we impeach the president over a phone call? This was the brilliant point made by my stepson, David. Now Can we impeach a president over a phone call? Ladies and gentlemen. He wanted to now departed Afghan president to create the perception, quote unquote that his government was capable of holding off the Taliban. This has been transcribed now. Four weeks before a couple collapse. Connie pleaded for more air support money for soldiers who had not been paid to To rise in a decade. Transcript obtained by Reuters revealed two leaders oblivious to the impending disaster, an American president focused on spinning the message. Hello. Kevin McCarthy. Where's Mitch McConnell today? Where? Where is he? At some cafe in Washington? I don't know. Quote. I need to tell you the perception around the world and in parts of Afghanistan, I believe is that things are not going well in terms of the fight against the Taliban. And there is a need, whether it's true or not, There is a need to project a different picture. Biden says.
America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast
Bill Rogio Describes ISIS-K's Role Within the Terrorism Community
"We are back with the editor of a superlative publication. The long war journal long war journal dot. Org bill roggio army veteran national guard veteran. He's been to afghanistan. He's been to iraq and he's telling us what we need to know about the recent withdrawal from kabul in may. He just sent me the article in may he predicted while the taliban would to build help on millions of listeners who now have to prepare for the twentieth anniversary of september. The eleventh. what you discussed the taliban you've discussed al qaeda where it is isis fit into this constellation of jihadi organisations and especially isis k. Who allegedly were behind the murderer marines coleman on that Army he stuff sajjan. Sure and the islamic state is an al-qaeda of course So al qaeda and the taliban host jihadist groups are in one camp these state is the bastard child of al qaeda they share the same ideology to restore the the calvet and impose islamic state. They just have different ways of doing it. The islamic speech way is basically my way or the highway they wanna declare the california now and go for it. Al qaeda's way is look. We build our emirates. Do this arab. Believe you don't declare until we protect it we build our state is like the The leninist versus. Trotskyite i i. It's the perfect analogy so That's what we have. The islamic state in afghanistan is There is an opposition time because it's opposes. The caliban primarily be a job her however there are reports and some of this comes from the united nations. And i'm not going to be very clear not saying this attacker. Those attack happened recently in kabul. Were related to this. However i suspect they were united. Nations has reported that the islamic state which has been largely defeated by the taliban now operates cellular moving small control. Small territory The reports that at work which is a part of the powerful group within the taliban uses islamic state sometimes to carry out attacks. Use them as a cut out for hang on this. This is getting deep dive. So let's just reiterate i. I love that phrase. Boston child of al-qaeda once the caliphate wants the world revolution now like trotsky did for the communists. I this karna son. Isis in afghanistan is small They're week but there are elements in the taleban like the connie's that use or exploit isis as some kind of cut out for their own personal
AP News Radio
For Biden, Ending War in Afghanistan Leaves Tough Questions
"Republicans are hammering president Biden and his administration over the Afghan pull out how did this get so wrong Texas congressman Michael McCaul is among those calling it shameful disaster a bungled operation so what is today about it's about fixing this fellow Texan Dan Crenshaw navy seal wounded in Afghanistan says first the administration needs to admit it screwed up and for starters make concrete plans to evacuate all remaining Americans from Afghanistan and then there is the longer term picture up terrorism Florida's Michael waltz another Afghan vet says all Qaeda is now primed to regroup and attack the west again the administration needs to be ready this notion that the war is over is garbage Sager made Connie at the White House
The View
Tennessee Health Official Fired in Retaliation for Coronavirus Vaccine Guidance for Teens
"Rates are still low for teenagers and covert cases or climbing in more than forty states including tennessee. But this morning the state's top vaccine official and pediatrician michelle feick. Claimed she was fired. Forgiven guidance to healthcare providers on teens who want to get vaccinated without parental consent. Take a look. Vaccination rate is thirty eight percents one of the worst in the country although we had one of the fastest rollouts of the cove nineteen vaccine in the country. And so there there is a significant contingent of people here and many of our lawmakers unfortunately shoot choose to buy into anti vaccine rhetoric and conspiracy theory instead of listening to actual science listening to cdc recommendations job is to protect promote and improve the health and prosperity of tennessee and that includes getting them vaccinated against cova nineteen and helping them understand the science around his scenes in the importance of choosing to give acceded.
The 11th Hour with Brian Williams
Afghanistan Crisis: Who Are Isis-K?
"Been discussing tonight. The president repeatedly insisting he's got to stick to this thirty. One august evacuation timeline deadline because of the threat posed by isis k. That's this terrorist. Group said that today claimed responsibility for this attack in kabul that has killed over a dozen. Us servicemembers nbc news. Chief foreign affairs correspondent andrea. Mitchell has our report tonight on this group in their motivations have been warning for days about the threat from isis k. Culminating in a red alert last night for americans to stay away from the airport gates a warning that all too true today. What is isis k. Off-shoot in afghanistan of the islamic state that originated in iraq created six years ago in pakistan an avowed enemy of the us and rival to the taliban is extremely real. We've been talking about. This is manifest here last few hours. Thousands of hardcore islamic state commanders were released from jails across afghanistan by the taliban in recent weeks since the taliban takeover easily melting into the teeming masses in kabul only yesterday the secretary of state warned it was a high risk threat were operating hostile environment in the city and country now controlled by the taliban with the very real possibility of an isis attack. And i says kay isn't the only terror threat. The taliban is name the leader of its most radical branch. The connie never to be in charge of security in kabul khalil. Connie a five million dollar bounty on his head. Brazenly showing up at friday prayers in kabul last week and the connie's have strong ties to al qaeda also in the mix. What's clear is that the taliban either couldn't defend against today's bombings or won't now the question is. How will the president deliver the forceful response. He's promised after the us withdraws
OneSharpSword
"connie" Discussed on OneSharpSword
"Dr wayne per now. What else do you do. What else happens for you in the process and what might our listeners or viewers take with them. What are some of the lessons the guy. I've i've paused you at various times. Going oh my gosh this stuff. I teach to the sauce A and and it. It's one of the reasons i wanted you on. One sharp sword is because your message is so congruent with the things. I believe in in the things the concepts that i want to bring talk a little bit more about how you bring what you bring talk a little bit more about you know. What are some key lessons. And what are some key action steps. Any one of our listeners or viewers could do could use -solutely. I i really do think back to my own personal experience with my son bringing him home from the hospital and remembering the psychologist words. Bring him closer and actually trying to hug him. I remember that was my first goto. Maybe that means bring hold him but never try to hold someone who's just regulated or in the back of their brain. It just doesn't work. But i remember sitting there with him. I all i can think of is removed the sharp objects and just sit with him. Sit with him. On the floor. As he's thrashing around and i would just say thanks to him like son. I see you. I see beauty in you. I see courage and you you belong in our home. We nothing will break our connection with you and then these words came out of my mouth. I'm not trying to change your behavior. And then i almost choked on my words because all i wanted to do was change his behavior. I wanted the anger stop. I wanted his mental health to be good. I wanted to feel like. I was doing a good job as a mom and fill in the blank. In whatever situation someone is in i. I don't want to change employees behavior. I don't want to change by students behavior. Don't want to change my clients behavior and yet so desperately want to for various motivating reasons for them for us but letting go of control of someone else and the way they act is the first step in really seeing and connecting with someone. The second thing i did was i had to look here. I write inside of myself as my son would rage. The storm in me was boiling. I did not realize how much of a storm. I had inside of me until i was being. Mirrored backed me by my son and so the bravest thing i did that year was allow myself to get curious about my own inner world. I didn't realize how judgmental. I what i didn't realize how impatient and and how just regulated i. What's and as i began to look into the crevices of my old soul which didn't impress me very much. It was. it was foldable l. greedy. I i began to see areas that i could get serious about not judge and i think that's the key right there. Would we when we decide to look inside of ourselves of realize i- i control me and as i control the and as i change as i crow. I'm able to see people better. Because i'm allowing myself to see me and as i did that it took me a year dr way. I showed up like that in my son's life for a year and surprised me. That as i changed qui changed. He's now fourteen. you would never guess. He was suicidal. I mean he's a teenager like you said until health illness being a teenager but it was amazing how it really did start inside of myself and as we see ourselves as we reflect in ourselves as we don't judge ourselves we can pass that naturally onto others without even really happy to try awesome one of the things that i learned that a in grad school the carried with me is that A child's behavior is the barometer of. What's going on at home. And i love that. I love that concept and it's like well. They're acting out their bed wrong there in. It's easy to put up that wall and judge instead of saying well if they if if we take that as a truth that their behavior as a barometer of what's happening than what's going on and for you to do a year long curious reflective study staying steady with him and really building that safety and building that ability to freely express. I think that's that's really magical. Connie that's it really is Thompson what are you working on now. What kind of things like where you going with. All of this went. How do you bring your magic now into the world. And how do people learn from you. Well anyone can go to serve certified flourish coach dot com. And you know like. I said we're launching this is. My new project is launching this practical way or anyone to learn the tools and skills. I mean i had to go in the grit in the dirt by myself for that year. I had to figure things out all of my all whereas now we have something that could really help parents. We have something that can give people the right strategies tools for them to to properly be the bottom hats or their employees for their students for their community. We're launching this all over the world or were starting in october or starting with a big summit of so excited and we're basically out there to change the game for mental health leadership harvests. Were putting our stake in the ground allowing people to know that they can learn how to thrive themselves and then they can help others the same. Its own a make. Sure that our That you're websites in the show notes. So it is wet. Certified flourishing coach dot com certified flourishing coach dot com. Okay very good This is amazing. This amazing what else is there anything that you wished i had asked you that. I didn't ask. You is anything that you were hoping to share that. We haven't touched on yet. No you're eight at amazing podcast coasts. Dr wait i think the only thing i would add that if there's any parents out there i know there's so many youths that are struggling and if any parent needs help again certification is a wonderful way but i also have my book bring them closer which really help any parent. It's it's about my entire journey that year and specific steps of how you can help your child. That's amazing a right. Well thank you this is. This is fantastic. I'm so grateful that you join me on this A again. I mean i. I know named my podcast. One sharp sword cutting through to what matters most. I named it that on purpose and this is a way to really cut through what matters. And there's nothing that matters more than human connection and seeing another human and so truly jake.
OneSharpSword
"connie" Discussed on OneSharpSword
"Calling identity force Is powerful. When when i took my first hip hop class someone said wow. You're so courageous. When i ventured into the middle of the circle even though i didn't want to and that was always in there it was always inside of me but it took somebody calling it out and same thing with my son. It took him sitting there in his rage in mess for his mother to see past stat. See actually you are someone full of so much potential. And i think that's what everyone wants. Everyone wants to be truly seen for who they are and so now. It's very interesting. My work has shifted from schools of i now work in more of a corporate setting. We were launching a global coaching certification program in the psychology of flourishing which excites me because for many years It's always just been the practitioner and client. And i don't know what it's like for you. Were you are with your mental health system but here in canada. It's very hard to get quality mental health help. And so what we're about to do is we're about to launch the certification for educators. business owners. Parents anyone who works with another human being with the certification they know how to bring someone safe from anxiety languishing. I love how. Adam branches brought this to the public to actually thrive in their lives. Not just be resilient because you can be miserable and be resilient but where do we bring people through to finding their true matter their meaning their purpose. And it's a scientific proven method. How you can do that and you can be just an average. Ordinary person like a chiropractor dance teacher. So i'm so excited because this is going to change the game for mental health that's huge. Connie it's amazing and While the fact that ed pretty much anybody has access to it is is really it's gigantic Because we're all in touch with people who are hurting whether we know it or not and being able to identify it and being able to help at. That's huge You said a couple of things that i want to highlight. I want to bring out just like these of the bullet points to remember. You know these of the things you said something in. And it's one of the key points that i really think is so valuable in working with parents to children in working from i do. I do leadership work as well in working from management to Employee base and. You didn't say at this way. And this is what you said which is separate the person from the behavior right. The person could be hurting and the behavior is a symptom of that hurt and so recognized that you know what they're exhibiting is not who they are necessarily at their core and your ability to step in and go who are you really right and and listen to their music. Which is something. I did with my kids in order you know. Teenagers are kind of aliens in so many ways right. They're trying to figure it out. They they try so hard to to to stand out and be and be themselves at the same time trying to fit in so strongly and that causes. And there's this i am independent. I need you and the causes all kinds of of strife so recognized that. There's there's that ache and so two in the corporate setting where people like will. Why can't i be noticed. You know the number one poll after poll year after year the The number one thing that most employees want is not money. it's to be given work that matters and the number two thing is to be acknowledged for that work number one and two on the list. And i think that goes for any of us as humans. It's like notice me. Tell me what. I do matters. Notice me and it's so huge. It's so huge and then and then on just going to paraphrase the things you said because i find it so valuable you talked about resilience and while that's important it's not as important as thriving and i think you know we have seen resilience coming through a pandemic day after day after day after day would have we been demonstrating. We're able to bounce back. Hey the rules changed bounce back. Hey the you can do this. You can't do that you you know an and you can eat here. Oh there's no this at the grocery store. Resilience is huge. Because we learned to to bounce back and more important than that at and i think this is huge is the difference between surviving and thriving and that you are teaching people. How to thrive as huge and that finding purpose is a massive foundational parts of how to thrive so I just wanted to pause for a second in talking with you and just punch all those points. 'cause hang those are those are big ones. So thank you for that so Can you talk a little bit about the process that you use this. The how do you draw people out. How do you help them find their purpose. Well you know it's very interesting We use a six step process. And i'll tell you the first step. Because i think it's the most important. Is that idea building. Trust and safety is that is eighty percent of coach's job and actually to be honest any anyone's job on employer an educator. I know my son has struggled in school because teachers would see his outward behavior and basically put the line in the sand based on what they were seeing and that would shut them down as well as many students that worked with in the past there anxiety it just brings them to the back of their brain. They are now. They're not willing to learn at all and it's the same thing with employees when they come to work and they they. They're doing what they know best. Maybe they weren't given the proper training. Maybe their behavior showing something and they just need someone to see them building. Trust and safety is eighty percent of our work as anyone leading anyone else. Fifteen percent is our knowledge which makes me feel great because you know what that means. Dr wayne that means that we all can be experts in a small area and help people as long as we truly care and see that and work in. Excellence and competence. Of course that is our first step. And i believe that that is a step that many people right now. They want to know how to do that. But here's a lack of the how it's amazing. Do you have steps for how to build trust. Is that a or can you just talk about it a little bit. How do you. How do you step in. And you're working with somebody who know you In in tribal language. It's in tribe out tribe and interloper and you come in as this interloper and they're going to decide whether you're going to be part of them or not part of them. So how do you step in to to that spacing go. I'm trustworthy as interloper. I could be part your tribe. Let me in. how do you do that. I think the number one way is to be a listener. I think The best coaches the best. Boston's the best leaders our listeners. They lean into listen. I truly believe that we have the capability to connect with everyone. We meet that. We may not see eye-to-eye with that person over always either moving towards connection with someone or away from connection. There really isn't a middle. And so if i'm trying to seek to understand someone by asking curious questions even if i don't agree with them it doesn't mean we're going to be best buddies but i i can lean in and listen and when someone feels heard and seen and validated to matter where the lines in the sand are with where we are in our diverse community they will lean in and i think sometimes we are coming with our old framework. We have our own story. That's been told. Our experiences have shaped the way we perceive the world and when we can just let go of our framework come out of our echo chamber. Just see someone who we may not understand. I believe that that can create unbelievable results in absolutely any area asked of life. This is awesome. I want to underscore this people who know me know that a usually have with me a little a little guy. That's about this big. And it's curious george and so i him with me he He travels with me and he comes with me as a reminder and even in the corporate setting a i will bring him to aboard room and somebody will go. Hey what's with the monkey. And i'll go is not just a monkey and someone else that the board in you know in in the meeting will go. Well it's it's george in it's like it's not just george someone else will. It's curious george like a hawk. That's where we start right curious. george He reminds me to stay curious and he makes me laugh. So that's why. I'm gary him with me. You talk about jerry acidy and this is the reason i paused you. First second is because that's the point so many people we believe we listen. We believe we collaborate. And the problem is that Were not listening. We're judging and and to recognize the internal dialogue. That's happening where you go. That person's just a suction such like they have this. They're they're bad ron stupid. And you can become dismissive. And i think that is actually a a a trigger inside. That is a threshold by which you can recognize if you've jumped into judgment. It is time to flip the switch into curiosity. It's like what am i missing about. This person that i'm judging them this way and i think that is a huge place to go because you do build trust when you start to listen differently and you step out of judgement One of the reasons. I do bring curious george with me. Is that He he does remind me to stay your ass any allows me to give the lesson of. If you live in curiosity you can't be in judgment and i think that Not only is that good for us but it's also good for the people were teaching right that that The those who are in a space of wondering what their identity is. They're judging all the time. It's like what happens if you stay curious. And so teaching that so great. This is good. I just i wanted to really just drive home. That point. curiosity.
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"connie" Discussed on OneSharpSword
"You're listening to one sharp sword cutting through to what matters most without fluence. Dr wayne cornell welcome to one sharp sword cutting through to what matters most. I'm your host. Dr p dr wayne pernell the up fluency and your powerful presence mentor. I have connie jacob with me today. She's a huge advocate for branching out and fighting against the status quo. I saw her speak. I was enthralled as her message of mental health expands beyond the bounds of what people usually think when they hear that term mental health. She's the director of community for flourishing life. Which is a global global movement centered around wellness and. She's the senior manager of wellness innovate. She has three books out there. Now and one of them has held bring them closer. And i've also seen her little hip hop which Was it just made me. Smile makes me smile. Distinctive about from calgary Connie jacob thanks to thank you so much for having me dr way. Yes yes so your your pathway into mental health and mental health treatment. And it's beyond that. It's it's global wellness Talk a little bit about that. And along the way you're gonna share some ideas about how those of us in our everyday lives can feel a little better. Get a little more a little more zip and happened Excitement too so talk about your what. You're working on talk about how. How did you get into the mental health thing anyway. You know it's very interesting. My i mental health work started in east vancouver which had canada is one of our largest impoverished areas in our nation The most heroin addict sides. It is legal injection. It's it's poverty. It's youth at risk. And back. When i started gangs and drug dealers that i was working with the most and there was fresh out of college. You know. Little white girl. From calgary alberta now moved to vancouver and not fitting into this at all. And so i was taking a hip hop class at the time just out of interest at a a new hobby and started to teach these gang members how to dance how breakdowns and i noticed that it really connected with bound and from there i went on after a couple of years to actually start my own hip hop studio that focused around building resilience building ehealth through movement posting rap battles hip hop battles and it was. It was connecting these kids. It was taking them off the street. And that's where it ignited from there. I moved back to calgary ab started. This work in schools. And i was shocked that to see a lot of those same mental health issues i saw in these youth at risk were same issues. I was seeing an affluent schools. Because i would go to any school. I went to affluent middle-class. The ghetto at the same issues were all there. They just looked a little bit different than they were hidden. And this is where. I started by circle work I started teaching an hip hop. It's a it's a big thing in our culture. it's it's called the decipher and it's basically a community way of living. Where you go into the middle you showcase your moves. You've probably seen it on a movie. It's it's absolutely hip hop culture. But i started to notice sociologically. What created an atmosphere where you would go in to the middle of a circle. For the times that they would remain hidden. They wouldn't go in. They wouldn't participate. And this is where i started to notice psychological safety i started to notice what created bravery what created the ability to go in. And where did i see. You start to loosen social anxiety or anxiety and so i created a twenty year social experiment that led me to really amazing research results for myself as well as a pattern of the way i would coach people through mental health issues like anxiety or depression. That's amazing did you call it the cipher. That what you saw cypher. Yes which is which is like a code right. It's right cypher. As cyp gr. Wow okay. that's awesome. That's awesome The whole idea of bravery and You know take. It does take some courage to be able to step into a circle. No matter what the circle is i in some of my talks i referenced. The bystander effect which talks about people in groups are reluctant to be the first to step in to render aid when it's needed and once one person steps in others will follow and so the idea of of there's this Social pressure the says. Don't do it you step in. You will be judged you you step in people will judge you badly you step in. What if you do it wrong. And that's all about judgment and that's really if you think about fear and bravery it's about a threat to identity right we are. We are afraid of losing us. And so when you're doing this amazing work with youth at risk. You're teaching them that. There's something we're losing and there's something worth fighting for and it's beautiful. I love the work you do and i. I love that you do it with hip hop. I love that you do it with hypothesis. Oh good so allowing safety is what you're was what you're doing. You're creating bravery courage You know were afraid of losing things and it's usually our identity when we when we're either triggered by something or when we are facing a great step a love that so Yeah talk a little bit more like where you going with. What is happening with it and and some of the organizations you're working with now. It's kind of incredible. Johnny sue like share some of that please absolutely. I should share that just before we go there that even even in my own personal journey i have two boys. I fourteen year old a ten year old and my fourteen year old actually went through. You'll mental health crisis. When he was eight years old he was suicidal. Used the depression when he was six. And this is my child. This is me. I mean my husband and i we've been married for twenty two years. We're educated were good people and they realize that mental health is not a respecter of persons. And hear here. My son was suicidal. Brought him to the hospital and depression or ham showed up his rage and.
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"connie" Discussed on Overthrowing Education
"And now my conversation with connie i have a wonderful guest today. It's connie hamilton and she has served the field of education as a teacher. Instructional coach elementary and secondary principal and district curriculum director. She is the author of two books including her latest the bestseller hacking questions which we are definitely going to speak a lot about today. Connie is known for hands on practical approaches to solving instructional snafus and she's often referred to as the questioning guru. Connie has a unique ability to coach administrators teachers to guide them through reflection and professional discovery. So welcome connie. I'm so happy to have you here. Thank you. I'm really excited to be here. I'll some well first of all. I wanted just I love the title of your book hacking questions. Can you tell us just a little bit about what it is and so forth on your inspiration for it. Sure of course. So hacking questions is part of the hack learning series. It's book number. Twenty three in the series and so it follows a pattern of looking at a specific problem in this case in regard to questioning and that verb of how we deliver questions and then provides a possible solution and then walks readers through how to implement that solution. What is some pushback so in theory things often sound really great on paper but when you go to put them to use in the classroom sometimes you have those. Yeah but kind of thing. So there's a whole section that addresses that as well and each chapter focuses on a different a different hack or a different problem in regards to questioning so for example. What happens when you pose. A question. Could say i don't know there's a whole chapter that's related to that. So that's a little bit about hacking questions that's awesome. I wanna come back to that dealing with the. I don't know answers a little bit later. 'cause i think that's so important we get that a lot right but but let's just look at the overall picture like why are good questions so important and if you anybody who's followed my work at all no i am like this questions are everything to me. That's why i was so excited to be here with you..
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"connie" Discussed on The View
"We of course will be back sooner than eric. I think because can't do it tomorrow. But maybe you could one day. We'll say flu. The magnificent magnificent collie kind of britain is all of the map lately. Filming her series the white lotus in hawaii and playing a ma an oregon mom in the new film joey joe bell and to institute story of how a teenage boys tragic suicide since his father on a nationwide journey to honor his son and find himself. Take a look. Keep walking keep walking. Don't come home okay. Don't come home till you figure out whatever it is you need to figure out but i really hope that's not just you being some facebook celebrity. Get your picture taken with people. Are you walking for jaden. Joe if you're walking for j you let david much wanted to come. Please welcome back. Connie britton joy has first question. Hi connie so nice to see you again getting too so we were talking yesterday and hot topics about valerie. Bertinelli who is fighting back against these twitter troll to fry who shamed for gaining weight and she was so upset about it. You know you've played strong. Female characters urine shows like friday night. Lights and nashville. And you say that you've made it your goal to counteract what women are supposed to look like onscreen that is not easy to do and show business. The maintenance of a skinny body seems absolutely on top of the list. So how are you doing this. Well you know. I just i i feel like my migrate joy and the opportunity that i've had over the years is to Depict women in very authentic ways close to the way we really are as as i ran depending on what the role is and as i personally get older as we all do i you know i'm feeling the effects of that. I'm doing it in front of the camera. You know. I have all of the impact of hollywood and you know the social media thing that i try to stay away from as much as possible but you know i just feel like if i can continue to convey the idea that we are are authentic solves our most beautiful selves And whatever that looks like and the more we can do to explore what that is each of us individually as women. The more powerful and i think the happier will be and and a lot of that has to do with walking out all that Outside noise because the outside noise takes away from what are true voices so you know. I just keep trying to do that and yeah it's not easy. You know i keep. I keep having people's lately are always you know what i love about you. I love that you're not doing anything to your face like i. That's a compliment. i loved. I love that you just letting yourself age. That is just a messing could free. And i'm like yeah thank you. I think at world needs to stop acting like women. Aging is an act of bravery. It's just what happens. But i think it's so toxic that people talk that way to women. But that's just me i your new movie joe. Belva do by the way they do it our whole lives. It just takes different forms depending on what iru decade. You're in also your one most beautiful woman in the world so people were saying that crap. Do you imagine what the rest of us feel like. I mean anyway. I talked to you about this whole show but we have to promote movie which is amazing. Your new movie joe. Bell is based on the true story. Of an oregon. Dad played by mark. Wahlberg who walks across the country to raise awareness about bullying after fifteen year. Old son jayden who was gay. Commit suicide you say that. The film teaches us how to be better allies house. Oh and how did you approach playing jason's mom lola. Well what i love about this film is that it's it's really it's it's really about redemption and what the film shows is people who have genuine misunderstanding about their own son and the fact that he's gay and is due and the community doesn't accept him and his and he is bullied and even his own father doesn't understand and what so we get to go on that journey in the film and watch through. His father's is joe. Bell played like by mark wahlberg. We get to watch him. Start to understand and discover and educate himself and not be afraid of who his son was. Authentically and i think by audiences being able to see that and experience it on this beautiful journey and the storytelling in this film. My hope is that we will open a lot of people's eyes and create a lot more understanding for people who just don't know any better opening their eyes and hopefully their hearts as well Thank you for doing this film because this telling these stories is so important. Because they're kids like that across this country that are watching right now But you're also starring in a new. Hbo limited series called the white lotus a social satire about the darker side of a group of wealthy vacationers in staff at a tropical resort. Now shot this series in hawaii during the pandemic which is not the worst place in the world to be holed up. What was that light. Well it was. I mean it was. It was fantastic and we felt a little bit while a lot sort of spoiled slash guilty because it was really right in the midst of the pandemic and really everybody had been locked down. We had all been live down and and in fact in maui at the four seasons which is where we were. We were also locked down so if there was ever an opportunity for the four seasons in maui to be to be locked out on that was it but it was just so beautiful and Rebel really fortunate and The cast really bonded and The scripts are fantastic. Mike white wrote and directed it and he's just an incredible voice and a very astute observer of human behavior. And so i think i think audiences are really gonna love the show. It's funny it's biting. it's jarring. It's a little too recognizable Yeah it's fun but the show is actually great. I've watched it. And it's it's all those things i to ask you this. You know this past year was a difficult one for a lot of people not only because of the pandemic of course but because of the racial reckoning going on in our country you are a single mom adopting you adopted your son from ethiopia ten years ago. What has your experience been raising black sun during this time. And what kinds of conversations have you been having with him. Well it's been Complicated and As if it. I think it's been for everybody in for different reasons and in different ways You know for me i. I am going through my own reckoning of the privileged that i've been raised with an and grown up in and and have been able to create my life in and At the same time and raising a black boy in america.
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"connie" Discussed on JOHN16AND12.COM
"Over the world so suddenly he lay in the hospital but he was okay because he come back to sweden and he he find a wife meriden kids than everything was. Okay no his stat. Because of age in not aids a age he was old. Essay was older than me. And now i'm old so that I make like sense for me what she was doing. Call knee converse that the achievers fifty years old when she disappeared and the the that's Where life gets you like that when you are fifty you're fifty. She had been to coalition she Got the scholarship. That was very much value in that scholarship so she could be at the university but she jumpoff universe the t she could have been the professor she was very smart and she didn't do and the drugs but i save picture that she smoke so maybe she smoker little stronger. I don't know so. I understand that. She only disappear. Because sometimes i am thinking that i'm going to leave everything only disappear from year that what i think but but then now why thinking that I have disappeared. Because i sit in my home and no one no one. No one carry fall down here on the floor. Be the head no before the smell of rotten rat stinky home here. No one care who. I am where i am nothing so in that way i am like colony because like connie converse because she disappeared but for me i am disappeared friday. I have my daughter some tests. She talked to me every six weeks once in six week like that to mouth like that. And if i should turn off facebook go away from facebook than she didn't find me she have to look for me but Take if i disappear from facebook it should take forever for her to wonder where i am because when we when we talk show or.
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"connie" Discussed on Resilient Life Hacks
"Guest. Today is connie baker. She is author of the book Stay on build resilience and thrive while facing cancer. Although her lessons. Apply to anybody facing anything so i really excited to hear what she has to share. She has a bunch of other experience in the medical field and working with children. And even the builder of the pain scale of the faces from one to ten that you see a lot so thank you so much for joining us. It's great to have you here. It's great to be with you elizabeth. Thank you for the opportunity to speak to. Your audience are sounds like you've been a lot of places done. A lot of things had a lot of adventures. I have. i'm grateful for all of them even the good the bad ones. So so tell us about your story where you learned about resilience. Well i would say you now. I grew up in a strong christian family of a real authentic christian family. And i had strong faith but one one thing that i discovered as an adult is that i. I didn't regulate my response to stressful situations very well and that started being evident in my body and i had various illnesses that we're really stress related and so i am. It was in two thousand nine that i began. I was going through a very difficult time in my life. And the most difficult time i've ever had and i learned about a heart math which is a program that helps build resilience and coherence through very simple techniques. And i can share with you if you'd like later on it's really easy but that began. That was transformative for me. Because i began changing the way i responded to life and i i became became well and and was able to make decisions based on my heart intuition and my relationship with god And.
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"connie" Discussed on MyTalk 107.1
"Isn't it, Shane Harry. Sherrybaby Renzi. Well, I was trying to get to that. But it just wasn't coming out the way it sounded in my head. Big girl. Go cry. Yeah. Girls found Wo O e. He was a customer of the pharmacy I worked in for eight years. No, Donna there A lot of those jersey people like Connie Francis would come in. Yeah, Yeah. You dropped the name. What do you get? It was friends with the doctor. So I was a medical center that I worked in, and I worked at Medical Center pharmacy. And then the doctors were kind of like down a hole. So there was, you know that connected the two sides and he would come in and be like Frankie Valli. Like, Yeah, you think Or would he say Francesco? Stephen Castelluccio Better? That was his real name. Connie Francis walked in and she said Hi. I'm Connie Francis. Well, it's a favor for the story to be better. Tell us who Connie Francis is for. She's also a singer, and she's like, you know, one of those East Coast. Let's see. What is Connie Francis thing? Grant? I was right there. Correct? Yeah, you didn't know. Thank you. You didn't know what I don't know your number and none of us knew Connie Francis or Connie Stevens. The Connie Francis. Yeah. Concetta Rosa Maria's probably join Camaro. She's from New York to so same same kind of the whole gang. Like who's sorry. Now, lipstick on your collar. Oh, yeah. Where the boys are well level. That's how it goes. I don't I can't trust you with abilities like that. You think you struggle with melodies, a touch? I know what? You know what? I'm a decent singer. I just can't remember in my head with two. You know, anyway, you with? I don't know if you'd be good on name that tune or not. I could name the tune. Just don't ask me to sing it. Sing that anybody watch that last week, By the way on Fox. I forgot Thursday, I guess this Thursday. You got another shot Name that too much. You guys I know I'll keep you posted on that. I wanted to let you know that Fauci is saying that if everyone smart ends up and practices covert 19 protocols Yes, we could see theaters and other life entertainment venues. Opening. Sometime in the fall. Yeah. Now far away. Here is the deal. Okay, he says you'd still have to deal. First of all for this to happen. Vaccine distribution needs to succeed. Theaters need to have proper ventilation and air filter's in place, and we all have to wear masks still When I went to my parents house they had to Happen Filters Like plugged plugged in. They look like Computers like a tower of a desktop computer. Sure, and too plugged in. I was like, what are those? That's good. Have a filters did did you guys see that we fest is going to be happening? Yeah, I saw they already announced. Dirks. I think in Florida Georgia line and remember who the other one wasp August 5th through the seventh, So they've got time, but that Yeah, Hopefully that'll work. It's going so I think on Friday, by the way, so f y Uh, Thank you, Steve. You should never go toe. We fist. Yeah. I don't think I'm gonna do anything. Let's just keep you out of there. Okay? They don't want me there. Okay, Let's see right through me. You know, I have that pompadour. They're like, Thank you Do us a favor and scram, buddy. Thinking of country music, though you know Barry Gibbs is doing that project Greenfield, American Nashville with lots of different country artists he covers. So they cover jive Talkin. And this is Miranda Lambert buried Gibbs and some other artists, but I think they did a really nice job with it. Ticket. Oh, can you live in? Uh, just what you mean to me? Kind of love that child you so much You're dead. With all you. You're telling me all I know He's a bit of a pressure, you know, soon get my get my eyes Nobody's ever Nobody sounds like the beaches. Yeah. May I? May I say something?.