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Blue Moon (MM #3720)
"The Maison with Kevin Nation at this point in life, having lived all over the country and being up there in years, I'm always amazed when I encounter some kind of products. I probably should have encountered earlier on in life, but didn't the other day. I read a story about Blue Moon ice cream. It's a product. Usually of Wisconsin. Sometimes hitting the Chicago land area, which of course, is where I came from, and it's an extremely popular ice cream. Original ice cream flavor. That was started by some Dairy years years ago. Now, they say Blue Moon, ice cream kind of tastes like cotton candy in a way. But the one thing Blue Moon is a part of its Superman ice cream. What she may be aware of a lot of Midwestern towns. I know, it started in Detroit, it's in Cleveland. It's in Columbus Ohio Chicago it's kind of in those Rust Belt. Midwest states. Superman ice cream being blue and red and yellow supposedly the Blue Moon. Ice cream is a part of the Superman blue. Something I'm fascinated about finding now and I may have traveled, North when travel gets a little bit easier, cuz you can get Blue, Moon ice cream up in Wisconsin. Well, I've got friends and family there. Who knows? Dead.
297 | Minimalism Rules
"This episode of the minimalist is brought to you by nobody because advertisements suck every little senior me every little thing in you every little thing. That's just feeding your greed that you'll be fine without everybody. Welcome to the minimalist podcast. We discuss what it means to live a meaningful life with less name's joshua fields milburn. Non ryan nicodemus and together. We are the minimalists. Would you like to simplify your life. Yes cetera turell. These backdrops in here is just too much as three colors. How could i cope. I want to be monochrome. The gal will work with beulah beulah and you can follow her on instagram at beulah. She's doing the set design for our new studio which is hiding behind this beautiful wrapping paper. That's behind us. We're gonna unveil a gift to you really soon. And she text me other day. She said my soul is black and white and beige. 'cause i'm constantly asking like how do we inject some personality. Because if it's just me a news places like in the sane asylum white walser's paint the floor white Put in a straitjacket padded walls. Yeah i mean they're already kind of padded. Sound right they are. Oh my gosh no record saint asylum genius anyway. If you're looking to simplify your life that's often people tune in to this podcast especially this public version of the podcast. The minimal episodes a few minimal. Few minimalism rules might help now. Here's the thing about rules rules. Help us to a point. But the help as long as they don't get in the way become too constrictive or restrictive. Then they don't service. They don't add value now ryan and i got a new book. Just come out last week. Called love people use things because the opposite never works and in that book there are sixteen rules for living with less. These are sixteen rules which you can download for free on our website by the way the minimalist dot com slash rulebook is action expanded version of each of those rules there but i wanted to talk about some of these rules and how they might apply to some of the questions that people are asking but before we do that the thing the one of the biggest comments getting about this new book ryan is people. They're really enjoying the switch. Intone between my sections and your section. So the book is about the seven essential relationships in our life starts with our relationship with stuff and then talks about truth and self and values money creativity people and at the end of each chapter. You finish with coda. Yeah and so. It's really five questions about that chapter. So i wanna start today by talking since we're talking about stuff five questions for stuff. And then we have the do's and don'ts in each chapter as well the do's and don'ts of stuff so maybe ryan if we turn to page seventy here we can talk about this coda for stock. Let's do it right. So this is the very first kota after the at the end of the chapter stuff. How ryan nicodemus here. I'll be here. These end chapter sections throughout the book to help you reflect on what you've read and consider how you can implement the lessons learned from each chapter questions about stuff. I answer the following questions. be honest. Be considerate be rigorous. Your future self with appreciate your hard work contemplation and candor. Question number one. How much is enough for you and your household. Be specific amount of bedrooms televisions coats in the closet. Think closely about the things that actually add value to your life. Let's pause right there real quick so what i like about these questions. Is there not too prescriptive in fact. They're they're highly individual. Yeah and that's what i think is so important about these rules. And they're not stuffy. They're not well. Here's the seven things you must do. In order to be a minimalist here is our ideology our dogma we want to avoid all of that and if we avoid that and then some of these rules some of these questions they can actually help us identify with this question for example. What is enough for you or your household or the other people in your household and also keep in mind what is enough for. You might be different from. What is enough for your spouse or your daughter or your grandma you the whole point for me. When i was writing these coaches was really to help people set up their own boundaries. I mean we have the the rules We have the rulebook. But really i don't really. I don't like the word rules. I prefer boundaries. Because that's really what it is and areas and everybody's boundaries are going to be a little bit different but yeah like that first question what i was thinking to myself. How can i help someone get clear on what their boundaries might be And i think that's a very appropriate question like hey what's enough. Let's start there and then we can build around that rather than looking at your life or my life or someone else's life and saying oh that's how they live their life those are the boundaries that i want I mean could that work in. Maybe but there's a there's a little bit more of a. I know personalize way you can approach. I think i like to think of as recipe in a way as well. So i think boundaries worked really. Well i also think recipe works and so the reason we use rules. That's that's the term for people are familiar with. But then they get in here and they're like oh. These are so malleable. Just like a recipe is if you have this recipe for this amazing curry. But you don't like onions simply leave the onions out of the curry. Or what if you really like onions. And it doesn't have onions in the recipe within. You can put onions whatever you want including your breakfast cereal if you enjoy it right. We're not telling you to do anything. Specific ryan. Let's read one more question we don't want to have to go through all of them here but this The second one. I thought was was important. Yeah what are you afraid to let go of. Why i think i think we're all probably guilty of afraid to let go of something in our lives right. I think that this journey over the last twelve years has really helped me to let go of ninety nine percent of my expectations or has helped me to cling less things. But i mean there certainly are things that Yeah like my relationship with mariah. I would be scared to let go of that. Sure but why right. Well there's there's a deeper why there that That i really hope people can get to. And what i love about that is by articulating. It and so i often encourage people to say this out loud because with the mariah thing you can under as soon as you say it out loud. It's easier to understand the implications of that. But if you sam afraid to let go of the shirt i haven't worn in four years as soon as you say something like that out loud it becomes absurd and that absurdity quite often magnifies our need or sometimes even our desire to let go right so throughout the book. We have these Questions that you ask here but in the code as well you have the do's and don'ts maybe we could read a d. One of the dues the a five five don'ts with respect to stuff. Sure let's pick one of these. This page seventy two for those of you following along at home okay. Let's go let's go with the second dues of stuff Established your rules using the minimalist rules for living with less introduced in this chapter. Identify the rules. He will start using today. If a particular rule doesn't fit your situation feel free to modify it or create your own so this is specific. I said start using it today because for someone who wants to make a shift with how they approach their stuff or whatever it is i mean there is something that one can do right now absolutely to start living a little bit of a different life quite often. We feel like we have no momentum right. And so that's we're steeped in all of the stuff or steeped in consumerism. Were steeped in impulse and desire and yearn and craving and all of that is so overwhelming and so the fear question you asked earlier. What are you afraid of you. Sometimes you're always says something about the future right. You're never afraid of something that happened in the past. Unless you're very neurotic. But but which you know as a neurotic myself. I can identify with it but really fear says something worry says something anxiety says something about an imagined future. Yeah and the future doesn't exist. The past doesn't exist. Pass exists only in the present as memories of the past. The future exists only as projections as thought of what might happen in the future and so excitement is fear but the opposite obverse side of that coin in a way. I'm excited about what might happen whereas joy peace contentment happiness freedom. Any of these words that can often mean the same thing happens here and now it has not pursued. Happiness is not in the future. It's not in the past. And what i like about what you have here about. The today thing is simplifying is not tomorrow. We call it our last film less now not less as tomorrow right less as next week. Right less is now now is the time for less. So you have these five five dollars at the end of each chapter. We talk about one of the the. Don't here. I think this first one is pretty important for people to understand especially those who are super anxious about the way. They're living right now in the moment overwhelmed. Yeah so the. The i don't hear is this. Don't expect to get rid of everything at once. Took time to acquire those possessions and it will take time to let go I am so guilty of like wanting to change something in my life and make all. These are a set all these expectations for the immediate future. Whether it's that day or the next day or that week in the problem is set up way. Too many expectations rife. And when i do that as soon as i don't meet one of those i started. Just let everything go. Oh well you know. I said i was gonna work out every single day this week but i missed one day so manages ruin the whole thing. I might as well just not work out. I mean it's easier for us to talk ourselves out something when we feel like we're failing constantly so as ri- setting the bar not low but but just raising your standard a little bit. Maybe that's a better way of saying raising your standard. Just a little bit is going to help you start to build momentum get to that next step but if you read this book and you're like oh by the end of the week. I'm going to declutter all my three hundred thousand items. Yes just probably not a proper expectation. It okay q. Thirty years ryan to accumulate all of those things and to think you can get rid of it overnight and also get rid of the attachment to those things not just the things because yeah you could. There was the story of of the kurkin dolls in this book. jason and jennifer kirkstall. Who lost everything. I'm not gonna. i don't want to spoil the story because it's such a story. It's might be one of my favorites in the book if not my favorite. But they lost everything but they had already gotten rid of the attachment and had they lost everything a year earlier or even a month earlier for them. It would've been devastating. Yeah and so. You don't wanna devastate yourself. Same like when. I when i used to be obese right and i wanted to. I'm gonna. I'm gonna fix my diet. It's all going to be perfect. And i'm going to work out really hard every day and so what i did. I go to the gym the first day and where myself out right. I'm so exhausted. I'm sore the next. I don't wanna do anything. Yeah and you have to be careful with that as well when it comes to your stuff. I get you you get excited. You have this momentum but you can burn yourself out if you try to apply all the rules and everything all at once. It's like becoming clear me way. I chose to do the packing barney right because it was such an extreme. Let me get everything out of sight. but also. I could have put everything back if i wanted to. Yeah your safety net right well. So throughout the bulk of the sixteen rules for living with less ryan. Do you have a favorite rule. And the they'd rather peppered throughout the books so four there in the early stuff chapter. There's two rules throughout the book. And they sort of coincide beautifully with what we're talking about any chapter. Yeah oh man for me. It's gotta be spontaneous combustion rule. Okay so i just remember kind of coming up with that rule on the fly with a a lady who was at an event and she asked the question. she's like my mom like when i was sixteen years old. She made me this quilt. And she made it out of a fabric that she had printed memories on with me with me and my friends sports memories family memories and like just quilt of basically pictures of of her teenage years on it right. She was like. I don't use it anymore. Like it's a little body like it just sits in my closet and i don't know what to do with it. I tried to donate it. But no one's gonna want this quilt. Which i would posit that. You know there's somebody out there who would like see that a goodwill with these random memories on it and they will chris bailey. Who had on the podcast. Yeah exactly hundred so If anything that that's also a lesson in let the donation place decide whether or not it can be given away. Don't don't don't just decide that on your own. So i could just see the pain. She was going through like this. This clinging this attachment. And i just astrum like what would you do right now. He got home and you found out that that thing had spontaneously combusted. In your closet. How would you feel And she was like. I feel relieved. Yes like well. That's that's a symptom to sign that. It's okay to let that go. And i think with all of our things especially when you get away from the non sentimental items like that. The replaceable things clear if that things spontaneously combusted she couldn't replace. I mean she could replace it with another quilt sh- right functionally replace it. Yes but many of the things we have in our home asking that question. What i feel relieved in the question asked you before. That is what i replace it. And so for example. This fema that i'm holding up here. If you're watching this on youtube let me know if you enjoy this. Coffee mug in the comments can subscribe. Just kidding you can do whatever you want. I don't really care to make sure you're watching it. In what ten eighty so instead of liking subscribing just go down to the bottom and make sure it's set to ten eighty p none of the seven twenty craff for not gonna have. Isn't that right. Danny am i right. We have danny martinez in the studio today. He's he's helping out with some audio video stuff with us. He's next year to jordan. No more podcast sean. And so What was i doing. Yeah coffee cup. Yes if this thing spontaneously combusted. I wouldn't lose any sleep over i would go onto. What's the company called not neutral. And i would buy one more coffee mug because i have just enough coffee mugs and if this broke which has happened before we've broken these in the studio i would not feel relieved i but i was simply replace it. And that's great. But if there's something else where i'm like he know what that sound panel over there. Which actually selling this week. If it spontaneously combusted i would not replace it. So what does that mean. Why need to get rid of it. So we are selling it in fact and so we have old sound panels in here from our from our old studio until so the new stuff comes anyway. My favorite rule. It's hard to pick. Just one is probably spontaneous combustion roles because the utility of that simple it really is just right to the point and so i'm going to pick another rule because so that one helps you deal with the stuff that you have in your life. What rule really helps us. Staving off impulse and for me. That's the wait for rule is also known as the thirty thirty rule and so good one. You're all good really. We had way more than than sixteen. These are favorites right and so we collected them all into into one place anyway. The wait for rules. Hey thirty dollars thirty hours so if it costs more than thirty dollars and I give myself thirty hours. that means. there's no one clique purchase. There's no yeah. But i didn't think about this. I do want to buy that widget while i'm at the store. Okay great. I can come back tomorrow. It's adding a little bit of inconvenience but not really inconvenienced a little bit of friction. Because what's happened in the modern world of consumerism. We've removed all the friction. Well we'll have to remove all friction your ice rink and you slide everywhere and that's what consumerism is doing to us. Now we're paying careening from wall to wall to wall buying this buying that because companies are making us feel inadequate so i think that's probably my favorite rule but i'm interested to hear what your favorite rule is or if you have one that we're not talking about today. That's not part of the sixteen rules us know in the youtube comments. I'm always looking for new rules. In fact on the maximum episode this week ryan said on the minimum episode. Which you're listening to right. Now we're talking about minimum rules. But on the maximal this week we're going to talk about the best rules created by our listeners. We collect some of our favorites. That aren't part of the sixteen rules or some almost feel like off shoots of the sixteen rules for living with less anyway if you a patriot support and you haven't already listened last week. We did a three plus our extravaganza on the private podcast with our good friend. Tk coleman mvp. Now i can tell you this. It's my favorite episode. We've ever done really yeah. It was called the symbiosis of love. And we've recorded hundreds and hundreds of episodes that three hour conversation it could because it could have gone eight hours. We we just kept going. We're answering questions. The all three of us were just on at the time in a way where this conversation was flowing and i really enjoyed it. People the response over on patriot has been amazing for the tk episodes so good. That was his ninth appearance. You can find that on our private podcasts. Patriot dot com slash minimum. every week. We do a long form. Maximal episode over. There we also do bunch of other stuff live events etc etc but the main thing is the minimalist private podcast. Joining our patriarch is easier than ever right now so you can try it for a month. I think you'll enjoy it. We have a question here from anna in eureka california. I was calling because recently in my journey towards minimalism. I come against a fear. Fear of using things that i love and wearing out or breaking them. Those pants that look great on me. But i don't wanna wear them unless special occasion. I started wearing them three to five times a week. But i know that in some Future time i'm going to have to replace them Or they will get stained and worn out. Can you address that fear That many people may have so. And i notice a few things in your question. I just want to tweet out. Because i don't wanna be pedantic in terms of language but i think often the language we use around something forces us to accidentally cling to certain ideas narratives or even physical things without us realizing it so. The first thing that she talked about ryan is her. Journey toward. minimalism. While minimalism was not a destination right. Minimalism is the path. I and so. It's a tool that we use to simplify our lives so quite often one of the biggest misconceptions about minimalism is that i'm going to get there There's nowhere to get an a carpenter. Uses a hammer. The point of his or her job is not to get the hammer. It's to build something meaningful. Yeah that's what i want to do with minimal. So we want to build a meaningful life now ryan. You probably noticed. She talked about having some things that she loves. Yeah and of course in the book we we talk about this and let people use things about how we have this language problem right a. And how that if we if we love you ryan but then i also love this coffee. That's in front of me right now. We can make a distinction. We talked about this already. There's an extreme. Like i really like this coffee. Yeah and i love you. I don't like very much loved you right and so i think we have to be careful when we talk about the loving of things because i know what you mean. You know what you mean. It's just an extreme like sometimes we can get confused when so instead of saying. I love something i can say. This is my favorite coffee mug now places in its actual context is still gives us a place of importance. It's more important than other coffee mugs to me but at the same time i don't love it i'd be perfectly fine with out it right and so just simply saying that. The last thing. I'll say here is the fear of breaking those things are wearing them out. We don't have to fear that it's going to happen. Yes right it's like death. You could fear death until you die but it's still going to happen whether or not you fear it. You hear the story of the guy who said yeah. Worrying is very helpful to me. Because every time i worry about something it doesn't happen and and so we can worry about the things that are never going to happen but then also we worry about the things that we know. We're going to happen These are my favorite pair of jeans. And i'm right now. I don't love them. They're my favorite. But they're really sauna. Where i've got a hole in the crotch right now thankfully i wear same color underwear these black jeans. You can't tell so very soon. I'm going to have to replace them. But as a minimalist all of my things are my favorite things otherwise. I've let them go. Yeah oh man. I when i hear within his question is she's living in the future and she's worrying about the future and man that came to mind for me. Was these pair of pants. Have on right now. Goes about a pair really enjoyed them. Lots of compliments on them. And then like i ripped the really tight yoga pan. Has i make. They really accentuate his loot. Everyone has good gluts in yoga pants. So i'd i'd rip them or something. And i had to. I had to replace them. I went to go replace them. And they were gone and i was like. Oh no they got discontinued. And i realized that got discontinued. because of how easily they rip so Went to ebay. And i found a found a two pair and i was like you know what like a really. Enjoy these pants. I'm going to. I'm going to get two of the same pair but so that'll make them last longer. But i've also come to the realization that you said hey they're all gonna wear out at a certain point so instead of worrying about Instead of worrying about these pants You know ripping and being ruined really kind of appreciate like oh well. They're in style right now. They look good. I can alternate these. Two pair right and You know the by ten pairs of them. I didn't use it as an excuse. Sure i didn't. I didn't use these getting destroyed as an excuse to go by ten pair. So anna man. This sounds like there's to me. Sounds like there's something like maybe a little deeper going on. What are you scared of. What what what are you really scared of. Because ultimately you could wear a plain black pants and a plain black shirt. And you're still going to be okay. Yes yeah like you are complete. How you are anna. There's not a pair of pants or whatever an item that's going to make you anymore hole so maybe an exercise and i remember i did this back in twenty eleven and wrote about it. Someone asked me a journalist. Asked me what is your. What are your three favorite items right. And i had sort of step back. And i found my unlike This is kind of silly. Like this is not the point of minimalism. But okay i get it so my. Here's my favorite shirt here. My favorite shoes and here is my favorite pair of pants. And i got to thinking. Oh why are these. My favorite and i had an attachment. They're my favorites back from corporate days. Because it was just the same year. I left corporate world right. Yeah twenty eleven and so. I was clinging to part of the past. There was something deeper than the things. And so i said you know what these are my favorites. But they're only my favorites. Because i said they're my favorites i've allocated that favoritism toward them right and so i'm going to see if i can let even my favorite things go see how feels against would happen new favorites emerged. Yeah and by the way. If i still clinging to the that old pair of pants insured or jews from back then they'd be destroyed by now a decade plus later right. Yeah and so. If i was just clinging clinging to something that is disintegrating. Yeah but isn't that the metaphor for all clinging on a long enough time line. Yeah hundred percent man. Yeah i i really have practice over the last twelve years of letting go so like right now if these pants spontaneously combusted and right stop dropping role right exactly like oh man like there would be like a twinge of like. Oh man like now. You know the work of going out trying out some new pans right. I don't know what it is. Maybe forty and i'm getting older. I'm like i don't want to go and shop for pants bucks driving to the beverly center right exactly but ultimately i also understand. That's like what you just said. Something else will step up and become my new favorite pair of pants. So yeah anna practice letting go with other things in your life and see if that can translate or transfer over to the items that you're really cleaning right now. We also didn't episode about trendy fashion. We'll put a link to that in the show notes by the way and get your copy of our new book called love. People use things because the opposite never works if you enjoy our podcast. You'll really like the audiobook version ryan. I spent two weeks in the studio recording this audio book and it sounds great or if you want the book or the book version. Those are available. We'll send those to you as well around yesterday. We we drove around los angeles signing copies of the book. So yeah if you are in l. a. county the barnes and noble at the grove. Still have some copies but then we went to a bunch of india bookshops skylight cavaliers and larchmont We went to diesel over in brentwood. We went to romans in pasadena. We went to a couple of book soup. And i feel like there's one or two others out there but If you're in the la county you wanna grab an autograph copy of love. People use things you can do that or you can find it at your local bookstore or your local library nor are from. Facebook has a common about some of her favourite rules. My favorite rule is turning all the hangers in the closet backwards on january first replacing them correctly as items are used through the year. Anything still backwards on december. Thirty first goes. This sounds to me like a a visual version of our seasonality rule aka the ninety ninety rule. This is three sixty five for her or really. It's like six months six months. Whatever but it is so the ninety nine hundred was basically. Have i used in the last ninety days if not am i going to use it in the next ninety days so covers all seasons and if i give myself permission to let go in with nora's doing she's created visual representation of it because if sometimes we have all these clothes and i can't really remember the last time i wore that well now nor knows i haven't worn it since january first and you could attenuate this. If you want to get more aggressive you don't have to do it all in one day. But what if you did it in one month or three months or six months if you feel like that is more appropriate for you. Jensen had something in that same vein. You wanna read his comment. I had the exact amount of hangers needed for every item of clothing. I have so that. If i want another article of clothing i have to donate or sell at least one item to accommodate it. This reminds me of the one in ten out rule so this we can't rule because like bars nightclubs military establishments etc if they reach a fire code capacity. They do one in one out so you have to wait till some elise before someone can go in and we all saw this during the pandemic where grocery store lines. You had to wait for one person to come out so you could go in one in one out with our stuff. We're looking to let go now. This isn't sustainable in perpetuity. Because eventually you'd end up a negative number of items right but the one in ten out rule as you're letting goes. Hey if i bring one thing in my life. I going to give up ten of alike or a a like for like items so if i've clothing by one piece of clothing and i'm trying to get rid of clothing now i have to get rid of tonight. It's a great excuse to find ten things to get rid of you. Want to buy a new kitchen utensil. Great you have to let go of ten things in the kitchen and you can do that anywhere else in your house and so you can do that with the the hangars as well. You can do one in one out. It's again a visual representation. Let us know if you have some of your favorite rules. I them the seventeenth. Rule your rule. Your favor rule is the seventeenth rule. Let's in the youtube comments ryan. What time is it thomas it. It's time for our lightning round where we answer your text messages. Text your questions and comments to nine three seven two zero two four six five. Yes indeed those texts goto both of our phones and respond to some people personally or we respond to you on the air. Now during the lightning rounds or ryan and do our best answer every question with a short sharable less than one hundred forty characters response. We put the text of these minimum maximums in the show notes. So you can copy and share our pithy answers on social media. If you like and now you can find all of our minimum maximums in one place. Thanks to our good friend. Jessica williams over at minimal maximums dot com. Or i've got a question from emory's how do you develop and maintain the discipline needed to stick to your minimalism rules or other habits. You're trying to establish. I'll be on a role for a week and slip up for one day and struggled to get back on the horse for months after it's so frustrating that is frustrating. I totally get it. This is back to the jim analogy. I did earlier or for me. The food analogy was even bigger when i was obese. Weighed seventy eighty. Maybe even ninety pounds more than weight. Now and yeah. It was all third chin and muffin. Top real strangely saw these same skinny legs at two hundred and forty pounds anyway I would change eight. But i was so militant about it. I didn't really understand. I understand what i was doing. I just understood the actions. I wanted to take. But i didn't have a deep enough. Why something pithy for us. And then i can append it with my pithy answer. Yeah my pithy answer. Is this habit. Changes don't work as well as lifestyle changes amen. So you know it's easier to fast than it is to diet and what i mean by. That is like a diet. That is a habit that someone wants to bring in. But it's a temporary thing and that's really how a lot of our habits start or our desired habits is we have this outcome that we want and then we're like okay Once i i'm going to start doing xyz to get there but once you get there the habits start to fall off where you're really looking at something. A lifestyle change is going to be so much more impactful Then just trying to get you know. Try to get you know yourself a year in the future. Fifty pounds less. That is right. That's a temporary mindset But the the one thing. I will say emory's is just don't give up like that's i mean that's really like the one thing i want to encourage you to do is yeah you're gonna screw up. You're not going to be perfect but don't give up. Don't use this attitude as a reason to to give up Josh you talked earlier about the language we use in the language of emory's using here is a little disempowering. Yeah so what the question asked then is what does the empower language i can use. I don't. I don't want you to do anything in authentic right. It's simply a reframing right. We can talk about criticism where we can talk about opportunities or the same thing. We have fundamentally but one points toward where i can go right and opportunity for growth one points at the past and what i did wrong. It's the same thing we're just looking at it from a different vantage point right. Yeah we're something pithy for you. And then i love to unpack it with you ryan. Once you understand the why the how takes care of itself so right now you're understanding the how you know. It's the same thing with decluttering. You don't need more decluttering. Tips from me and ryan. You don't even need rules. They can be helpful as boundaries as ryan said but ultimately what you need is a deeper understanding of. Why is the reason we start our last film lessons now on net flicks. We started that film with that question. How might your life be better with less anthony. Danilo would say that anytime you're unhappy. It's because you're adding Anything additive creates discontent for us and so we're for simply just adding habits or adding changes to our life thinking. We're going to be happy. Isn't that the same thing as buying the widget buying the car. Buying the house thinking that's going to make me happy. Those things can only augment your life at best they can never make you happy happiness as always uncovered and it is blocked by addition is uncovered by subtraction. There's something pithy there as well. Podcast sean you can. You can tweet that ryan. We got so much more to talk about today. But first what do you got for us. Zero-some voicemail comments and insights from our listeners. Check him out hi. My name is candice. And i'm calling from ottawa canada. And they had hit for the girl on your non line Podcast where she was talking about how she liked candles I am Minimalist and also we. I live waste phrase. What i do is I get a candle without any packaging From you know. I'm really lucky. Because i had a friend who makes them But you probably get them from any craft store And then let it burn whenever you you when you like it. Put the excess wax that falls off Inter mason jar and then when that candle is done what i do is all the wax and Microwave it And now all the wax and then get a new Wicks from across store and the candle is on forever so you never have to buy a new candle And at the same time you are you still get to enjoy the pleasures of having candles and it's worked really rousey me a ton of money and saved a lot of plastic for the environment. I mean stop. would i live in phoenix arizona. I wanted to make a comment about a lot of people who struggle with them. Numbers were not minimalist I knew to the minimalism process. And how i got my wife into was to To discuss each purchase a month ahead of time we have a a top board attached. You talk word paint on the wall and we write down the purchases that we want to buy so we're walking grocery store were walking through A mall which we really don't do anymore but just for example and my wife. I really want that book or really want that. Or i say that we go ahead and right on the chocolate when we get home so it's not It's not an impulse purchase. And you wait till the end of the month and the reason in the month is i'm in sales my My large commission set comes in at the end of the month and my wife is in south as well. So we have the means without going into debt without using a credit card to purchase those items. I actually put your book on my list at one point in time and had to wait thirty days to get it so i read it But it's it takes a lot of things. So i mean put some items on there the first month and by the in the month about one or two next month and they have three or four items in the month about one third month ahead. Nothing on the list. And i was kinda disappointed but at the same time. There's a little bit of excitement. Because what good is it down by. My impulse needs to buy. And i started looking at things differently My wife wasn't sure whether she wanted to be involved with minimum or my kids who also use system had begun to see the benefits of we discussed a lot of pleasure versus happiness. And she did these things and they give you temporary pleasure or a spike of joy. Then you get home and you wrote them open or you you you experienced book or you you play with the item and twenty thirty minutes a week later. The item is just untested. So now they're there seems to be a lot more deliberate process in which we buy things iran. We got a bunch more to talk about this week. This thursday over on patriots. That's the maximal episode on the minimalist. Private podcast patriotic dot com slash the minimalist. But first real quick for right here right now. Here's one thing that's going on in the life of the minimalists now. Last week our book came out and we couldn't go on tour with it like we wanted to right away because there are still certain travel restrictions venue restrictions bookstore restrictions publisher restrictions. A lot of rules. I hate me too except for our minimalist rules. The only rules. So we're on tour but this fall this winter we're going to twenty different cities. Us and canada hopefully overseas after that. But we'll see right now. It's called beloved. People used things tour. You can get your tickets over at the minimalist stockhom slash tore and by the way our audience gets tickets are patriots gets tickets. Twenty four hours in advance so before anyone else can then our audience our regular audience can get tickets and then on friday. They go on sale to the general public. So get your tickets before they sell out. Some of these are some smaller than us. And so we're talking three or four or five hundred people we've done we've done two thousand seaters in the past right as some of these are pretty small. Get your tickets while you can. I would hate for you to pay a high price. He's a really inexpensive tickets for the types of venues that were in But if they all sell out than scalpers takeover and they start selling tickets. We're gonna be in san antonio houston dallas like. We're going everywhere around austin. Sorry about that. Danny but we're going to be three cities in taxes. Salt lake city denver. Phoenix orlando atlanta nashville washington. Dc new york. Boston toronto vancouver. Seattle san francisco los angeles columbus ohio chicago illinois and minneapolis minnesota. That's twenty different cities. We're going to go to the minimalists dot com slash tour to get your tickets before. They are available to the general public. This friday speaking of all people use things ryan. We had some bonuses before the book. Came out some preorder bonus. We had ninety page digital companion workbook. Yeah so anyone who pre ordered the book so if you priore. The book submitted a receipt. And now all of a sudden you have this ninety page companion workbook. it's or you can print it out and there's a lot of space for notes and reflections questions to ask yourself as well and then we did this. Event with erwin mcmanus. And it's one of my favorite live events we've ever done. It was great. Yeah we did it here in the studio. You should have seen beulah. Did with the whole setup. There's actually two paintings over here. You can't see on youtube right now. She painted these pink paintings which she was terrified to use pink. Because it was in black wetter beigey right right. It was a part of her soul apparently but she didn't outstanding job these abstract paintings we we had some balloons in here as well to celebrate the launch of the book and irwin was so magnetic. An amazing and you missed the event. I'm sorry but there's an opportunity for you to still see that event and to get that digital workbook if you head on over to dot com size virtual and upload your receipt if you buy it love. People use things before the end of january. I mean we're going to do this on publisher. Mike get mad. And i'm sorry but even if you check it out from a library your local library. Snap a photo of your library receipt. Nice the minimalists dot com slash virtual upload your receipt right. There you'll get the ninety page digital workbook for free. You'll get access to our live event for free. We're not to pay us anything and you'll get to enjoy love. People use things which very well could be our best book yet for added value this week. Ryan oh real quick before even that. I'm going to before we go out on tour because we're going to do some reading. We're gonna do live podcast when we do that tour. We're gonna have special guests on the tory naven. Have some musical guests on the tour that we're trying to work out so it's going to be Sort of this smorgasbord of reading and talking and live podcasts and and music etc all of these events that we're gonna have. I'm going to practice some reading on clubhouse this month and next month i'm not gonna give you any dates right now but if you follow me on twitter just a gem on twitter. I will post the day of or before the minimalists on instagram. Sure we'll post the day of We're gonna go live and just practice some reading. And who knows ryan nicodemus might even join me for added value segment this week. John mayer to set a brand new album come out. It's called sabra and he was on clubhouse the day the album came out the night it came out and backs and i just sat down. It was like gathering on. Am radio except it was clubhouse and he was playing his album song by song and he would give giving commentary in between the songs. There's maybe ninety minutes of talk plus music and it was really fascinating because the this album it takes on a different meaning when you see. The artwork in the album cover is very eighties. Don henley on the cover. But he's got these really deep profound lyrics he has this one song where he talks about If you hurt me twice you're dead to me if you hurt me three times your family. Oh and that just got man. Why do we hurt the people we love the most often is because we we love things and use people treat people as though they're objects anyway. This song is called shot in the dark. His new single off the new album. Sabra another one of my favorite lyrics on the album. It's from the song he said. I've loved seven other women. And they all were you There was just something in that or we again. There's an objectification. We all are foul fallible in that way. Enjoy shot in the dark from john. Mayer's new album sabra by the way we have a bunch more surprised questions this week lake water six important questions to ask before buying a new item. What are the minimalist favourite rules that they've learned from their audience. How do you deal with people who don't get it and continue to ignore your pleas to stop giving you stuff. What is the dual purpose rule. The if i died today rule and the forget about it rule. What does the container concept. And how might help you avoid over stuffing your home plus a million more questions for the minimalist if you want to hear all that. Join us on the minimalist private podcast. This week visit patriot dot com slash the minimalist to subscribe. And get your personal link. So that our private podcasts. Plays in your favorite podcast app. We've got simplified pricing over there so we moved over to monthly pricing. Make it easier for everyone. So even if we put out a dozen private episodes this month you don't get charged anymore. 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