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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

11:43 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"Love what matters presents. Your story is a production of love. What matters and Iheartradio I said now. I talked to the kids. They were excited when I asked them if they wanted me to adopt them and I excited at first I was like I don't know what they're gonna say but they say yes I'm calling bells and this is a special bonus episode of Love. What matters presents your story that was triggered Engelman from Cincinnati Ohio trick is a longtime foster parent? Who just last year became. The adoptive mother of three children. Powerful story is a testament to the links that people will go to improve the lives of children in a beautiful reminder that those people often have their lives changed for the better return always knew that I wanted to be a mile. Even though I do not have any children of my own just you know. Bring these kids into my life. I see things a lot different. You know they teach me a whole lot and I know artistes no whole lot but this experience is really life changing in. It's not easy but every day. We're learning something different from each other tree gas passionate about childcare her entire life she spent her own childhood surrounded by siblings and cousins and was always eager to pick up sitting jobs or watch. The children are church. I am the youngest of eleven key. It's so I have five sisters and five brothers from my mom and dad together. We were always such a close knit family. I have a lot of cousins. They've always came over. We sleepovers any WIKI. And I'll be like can I go with my cousin's house can come over. It was never a dull moment in my family. We will stay with grandma sometimes and just sleep over. Never a dull moment. Since I was younger like at the Church we had a nursery and they were asking me to work at every. Sunday are during the week if we had service and I would gladly go into their hold all the babies and don't know they were just always drawn to me. Triggers natural instinct to nurture persisted into adulthood. Should begin to explore more long-term ways. She could properly care for children. Well since high school. When I graduated I started working in daycares foster kids come in and out of daycares also two hours working in daycares and seeing these kids annoy. Sometimes they may not go home to a nice family all the time. And I'm just like I have to do this. It's time for me to start what I know. I was placed on this earth to do just work in daycares. I've always had passion about me. Just one take a key at home you know just to give them the love and all that that I know that they need becoming a foster parent was something that interested her. Since adolescence. At my church there was a family that I had known for a little bit and I found out they were going into foster care. At the time I was about twelve years old in it just broke my heart just to know. 'cause I'm like how would I feel if I had to go into foster care? And I was split up from my brothers and sisters because I found out that they were all getting split up because there was about six Saddam and no one can take them out Lynn. And I'm just like Oh my gosh. Like this is so heartbreaking and at the time you know I couldn't do anything I was too young as I got older. I would often think about that family and I would often think about starting to do foster care because they've always had that passion to help other kids out so one day I thought about and I'm like I'm GonNa get a two bedroom apartment. I'm going to start this process. I did my research. That's when I started to become a faucet mile in two thousand sixteen. After years of wanting to make meaningful changes in children's lives she began the process of becoming a foster parent. You start off with taking two months worth classes after you make sure you need out of requirements the like CPR classes and stuff like that so those are the basic classes and you into where people come out and speak to people talk about their experience in foster care and then some people talk about their experiences with say a bio mom talks about getting her child back from foster care and just sitting in those classes. It can be so heartbreaking like some days I would just sit there and cry and be like. How could somebody not want these kids? That are in foster care are how could they treat them wrong? And all that so. The hardest part to me was just sitting through some of the trainings with some of the things they present as far as trauma that the key is go through. I feel like you have to have an open. Mind when you start to class because you have to think about the kids. That's going to come to your home. The trauma that they're going to go through being taken away from their mom or dad so you just have to basically go in there with the open heart and open mind to deal with all of that. That's GonNa come each and then you have your home study and stuff. That's when you finally get approved so I got approved in November of two thousand and sixteen. That's when I started actually foster more on love what matters right after a quick break. Welcome back to love what matters although she had spent her entire life looking after kids the idea of becoming a period in her own right was still daunting especially because she'd never really had a mother figure. I lost my mom when I was six. It was very very heartbreaking and I thank God that I had so many siblings in a father that was in my life I also knew that becoming a foster parent knowing that these kids are not losing their parents for good but just being away from their parents just giving them some of my experiences and helping them out like you know can't how you feel and just know that I'm going to be there with them through their journey like my siblings would me shed to learn the ropes quickly. Though because soon after she was approved to take on children she received her first foster placement. My first foster child was my baby lies and he came to me six days at first. I did not want any babies but I'm just like one day. I just sat there and I was like maybe it was just me so I'm like maybe I could use a baby in the house with me. I was kind of scared at first. 'cause I'm like even though I have a lot of nieces and nephews and I've always taking care of them just that this baby will be with me from now on is like Gosh. I really have a baby and I mean after a while you know. I was always excited but I was just always nervous because my mom did pass away when I was younger I was just making sure I could be that mom that he needed because I did not always have that role model after the first child hours knew that I could take in more because when they do your home study. I was approved up to four kids after I took in my first one. You know it was just me and him for a while and I knew any day they can call me and I can you say yes or no but I could never say no because I just couldn't imagine somebody calling and saying hey we have a and I'm just like no like where would they go so I was always nervous every time I took in a Italian in know how they would adapt to me when they came into my house because I was a stranger to now but we always seem to make it through each less than a year leader trick is family would expand to. She received a call about a pair of teenage sisters. Alexis a Mercedes who needed the home. When I brought the sisters I had got a lexus. I when they called me to take both sisters. I'm like yeah I'll take them and they only showed up one so I was like. Hey where's the other one and I found out. She got into a bit of trouble so she had to go to a group home. I talked to Alexis Guide. And she told me a little bit about her sister and I got to know her after that I reached out to her sister and eventually you know I talked to the case worker and we got her to move me into and just having older kids in the House. They were a lot of help with the little one in the other foster kids. They came in and out. They were always a lot of help just knowing that they were always there they always say. Do you need help this and that and even with them. I was still a little nervous because kids that are teenagers. They are already set in their ways. And it's like I'm still kinda young so I was just like oh my gosh. Can I really do this? And like I say they have especially my sixty year old. She has taught me lot about being a mom and taken all of their feelings into consideration. Because like I said they've already been raised by someone else. The family tree bill was thriving after she got both sisters under her roof. The family of four move to a bigger house and talks of adoption. We're underway. When I decided to adopt the caseworker had talked to me about potentially adopting all of the kids because they were already in the system as permanent custody. I knew that when you go to trainings and they talk to you about adoption because the kids were with me for so many years. I am the first choice. If I was to say no they will have to go to a whole `nother family and get used to them and when they told me that I'm like how can I tell these kids know they've been with me for years. How can I look them in the face and say I do not want to adopt like that could never do that? It was November first. Two thousand nine hundred ninety. It was probably one of the happiest days of our lives I think we were bit nervous knowing that when we went down to the ceremony we were going to be on camera. We knew that ahead of time. So we're trying to prepare ourselves but I don't think you can ever prepare yourself for that. We were so excited. We had so much support. My family came down. Kids there are caseworker. Mentors they all came down to support us. It was just exciting. We had a little get together after they call it their adoption parties so yes it was just so exciting and we have so much love that day around us as always but that day it was something different. Our support system. We have a really good support system. She had genuine conversations with their children. About what their adoption meant understanding the uniqueness of their situation of the adoption process itself of course three year old. He don't really understand you know but the two girls yes they knew what it meant you know and I explained to neon light. Your mom is always going to be. Your Mom and your dad is always going to be. Your Dad. I can never stop them from talking to their bio family. I would never do that. I want to know who their family is. And where they came from the same for the three wrote when he's old enough to understand everything I'll probably of course have to sit down and have a conversation with him but I want them to always know where they come from. We do keep open relationship with both families more on love. What matters right after a quick break? Hey guys it's bobby bones. I host the bobby bones show and pretty much always sleepy because I wake up at three o'clock in the morning a couple hours later. I get all my friends together. We get into a room and we do a radio show. We sure allies we tell our stories we try to find as much good in the world that we possibly can and we looked through the news of the day that you'll care about also your favorite country. Artists are always stopping by the hang out and share their lives and music too. So wake up with a bunch of my friends on ninety eight point. Seven W M Z Q in Washington DC or wherever the rotates you on the iheartradio APP. Back to.

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

08:06 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"Love what matters presents. Your story is a production of love what matters and Iheartradio. I sat down and I talked to the kids. They were excited when I asked them if they wanted me to adopt them, and I excited at first I was like I don't know what they're gonNA say, but they say yes. I'm calling bells, and this is a special bonus episode of Love. What matters presents your story that was triggered Engelman from Cincinnati Ohio. Trick is a longtime foster parent who just last year became the adoptive mother of three children. Powerful story is a testament to the links that people will go to improve the lives of children in a beautiful reminder that those people often have their lives changed for the better return. Always knew that I wanted to be a mile, even though I do not have any children of my own. Just you know. Bring these kids into my life. I see things a lot different. You know. They teach me a whole lot, and I know artistes more whole lot, but this experience is really life changing in. It's not easy, but every day we're learning something different from each other tree gas passionate about. Her entire life she spent her own childhood surrounded by siblings and cousins, and was always eager to pick up sitting jobs or watch. The children are church. I am the youngest of eleven key. It's so I have five sisters and five brothers from my mom and dad together. We were always such a close knit family I have a lot of cousins. They've always came over. We sleepovers any WIKI, and I'll be like. Can I go with? My cousin's house can come over. It was never a dull moment in my family. We will stay with grandma sometimes and just sleep over. Never a dull moment since I was younger like at the church, we had a nursery and they were asking me to work at every Sunday are during the week. If we had service and I would gladly go into their hold. All the babies and I know they were just always drawn to me. Triggers natural instinct to nurture persisted into adulthood should begin to explore more long-term ways. She could properly care for children well since high school when I graduated, I started working in daycares I used to see foster kids come in and out of daycares, also two hours working in daycares and seeing these keys annoy sometimes they may not go home to a nice family all the time and I'm just like I have to do this. It's time for me to start what I know. I was placed on this earth to do just work in Daycares I. Always had passion about me just. Just one. Take a key at home. You know just to give them the love, and all that that I know that they need becoming a foster parent was something that interested her. Since adolescence at my church, there was a family that I had known for a little bit, and I found out they were going into foster care at the time I was about twelve years old in. It just broke my heart just to know 'cause I'm like. How would I feel if I had to go into foster care and I was split up from my brothers and sisters because i. Found out that they were all getting split up because there was about six. Saddam and No one can take them out. Lynn and I'm just like. Oh, my gosh like this is so heartbreaking and at the time you know I couldn't do anything I was too young as I. Got Older, I would often think about that family and I would often think about starting to do foster care because they've always had that passion to help other kids out so one day I. I thought about and I'm like I'M GONNA. Get a two bedroom apartment. I'm going to start this process. I did my research. That's when I started to become a Faucet Mile in two thousand sixteen after years of wanting to make meaningful changes in children's lives, she began the process of becoming a foster parent. You start off with taking two months worth classes after you make sure. Sure you need out of requirements, the like CPR classes and stuff like that, so those are the basic classes and you into where people come out and speak to people talk about their experience in foster care, and then some people talk about their experiences with say a bio. Mom Talks about getting her child back from foster care and just sitting in those classes it can be. Be So heartbreaking like some days I would just sit there and cry and be like. How could somebody not want these kids that are in foster care are? How could they treat them wrong? And all that? So the hardest part to me was just sitting through some of the trainings with some of the things they present as far as trauma that the key is go through. I feel like you have to have an open mind when you start to class because you have to think about the kids that's going to come to your home. The trauma that they're going to go through being taken away from their mom or dad, so you just have to basically go in there with the open heart and open mind to deal with all of that. That's GONNA. Come each. And then you have your home, study and stuff. That's when you finally get approved so I got approved in November of two thousand and sixteen. That's when I started actually foster. More on love, what matters right after a quick break. Welcome back to love what matters? Although she had spent her entire life looking after kids, the idea of becoming a period in her own right was still daunting especially because she'd never really had a mother figure, I lost my mom. When I was six, it was very very heartbreaking and I. Thank God that I had so many siblings and a father that was in my life. I also knew that becoming a foster parent knowing that these kids are not losing their parents for good, but just being away from their parents, just giving them some of my experiences and helping them out like you know, I can't know how you feel and just know that I'm going to be there with them through their journey. Like my siblings, would me shed to learn the ropes quickly? Though, because soon after she was approved to take on children, she received her first foster placement. My first foster child was my baby lies and he came to me. Six Days? At first I did not want any babies, but I'm just like one day I just sat there and I was like. Maybe it was just me so I'm like maybe I could use a baby in the house with me. I was kind of scared at first 'cause. I'm like even though I have a lot of nieces and nephews and I've always taking care of them. Just knowing that this baby will be with me. From now on is like Gosh I really have a baby and I mean after a while. You know I was always excited, but I was just always nervous, because my mom did pass away when I was younger, I was just making sure I could be that mom that he needed because I did not always have that role model. After the first child hours knew that I could take in more because when they do your home study. I was approved up to four kids after I took in my first one. You know it. It was just me and him for a while, and I knew any day. They can call me and I. can you say yes or no, but I could never say no, because I just couldn't imagine somebody calling and saying hey, we have a and I'm just like no, like. Where would they go? So I was always nervous. Every time I took in a Italian in know how they would adapt to me when they came into my house because I was a stranger to now, but we always seem to make it through each. Less than a year leader trick is family would expand to. She received a call about a pair of teenage sisters Alexis. A Mercedes, who needed the home when I brought the sisters I had got a Lexus I when they called me to take both sisters I'm like yeah I'll take them. And they only showed up one, so I was like hey, where's the other one and I found out? She got into a bit of trouble, so she had to go to A. A group home I talked to Alexis. Guide and she told me a little bit about her sister and I got to know her. After that I reached out to her sister. And eventually you know, I talked to the case worker and we got her to move me into and just having kids in the house, they were a lot of help with the little one in the other foster kids they came in.

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

02:49 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"What. Tom's and that's what you're going to have to focus on to be the best. I mean I still think I'm a great employee. Still THINK EMIGRATE MOM. Jamie's now viral blog. Post Wilbert matters which begins. Please stop judging me for leaving. The office at exactly. Five PM was ultimately a call for empathy in it. She acknowledged all the things that make juggling work and life and kids difficult and things that people in her life for all the Times. They've extended her grace. She advocates for seeing things from others perspectives and is happy to be able to share things. She's learned with others who are struggling. They could be in your shoes one day. They're probably me from ten years ago sitting in an office in Nashville like wondering why. My boss was crying at her desk because she forgot to make your kid a hat for hat day. You have to keep going keeping on like some days. They're going to be good and some days they're going to be bad but in the end. I mean it's all worth Been Very lucky and very blessed to been shown grace and at Tom's that I have been really down in really bad situations and it's really made a difference. It's made me be like. Wow maybe this is all going to be okay and if I can help someone else feel that way. I mean I just feel like I have a better understanding of everything that can go on. Don't worry about the people that might be judging you for. You know running out the door at five o'clock every day you might not work there forever. You might not even know that person in a year like it's not a big deal. Your family is going to come first. And that means that you're doing a great job and you're good mom so you do you have to do you do your work and be done with it like leave it at work and you can go back to work again the next day make sure be separate the two. Thanks for listening today. I hope you heard something that inspires and empowers you for more stories like this one. Check OUT LOVE. What MATTERS DOT com? This podcast is a production of love. What matters and iheartradio. I'm your host Colin Valve. The love of matters percents your story. Podcast is produced by Miranda Hopkins and me in mix by Josh Stain. Emily Marinov engineer and Erin. Kaufman is our editor editorial oversight by Miranda Hopkins and me with help from Emily Mironov and Juliette Miller Nikki. Detour Kevin Bov Chris balfe Wilson Garrett Red seat ledgers and Craig kitchen you can find more inspiring stories at Love Matters.

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

10:16 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"My baby to go see neurologist and she was just sly so understanding and the sorry like makes me emotional thinking about it she was like. I would never make you miss something like that. That's important and that was like the best. So that's when I really realized that like these people have my back. They're not gonNA keep me from doing anything with my family more on love. What matters right after a quick break? Welcome back to love what matters. Although Jamie has a robust professional life. She's able to put the things that matter most to her. I her priorities. Always begin with family. I love my job. I love what I do. I'm good at what I do but in the end I know that everybody can be replaced. I mean it sucks to think that about you know a job. I worked so hard for but I mean everybody can be replaced. My kids are only GonNa be this age for so long. I'm not going to Miss Histories. Class is having a little skit on Friday morning. At eight o'clock it's GonNa to like twenty minutes. You know stuff like that when he sees me there and he gets excited. I'm not gonNA miss. That can be at work thirty extra minutes and some people might not even know that I'm thereby then that's why you know. I'm just so thankful to have bosses that have been so flexible with me That let me do that because actually had to switch my job at one point because that wasn't an option for me while having flexible bosses in a supportive work environment is incredibly helpful for working. Parents Jamie acknowledges there is an imbalance that disproportionately affects working. Mothers Was working eighty hours a week when I was pregnant with Henry. We have a convention center in Pearl. That just opened five and a half years ago and I help the Convention Center we had a gala twenty. Two hundred people like this big weekend. I literally worked for three months with no days off eighteen hour days. Maternity leave is not good for women's career. I mean people can say what they WANNA say. If you want to really take a maternity leave and not check your email not talk to anyone from the Office. Not Attempt to contact clients things like that. Have a real leave. That is a disadvantage to a woman. I mean I know some people are going to disagree but in the work that I'm in me not being there is a major disadvantage. Yes there are a lot of dads that are the main caretakers. I'm not saying anything bad about men but I also just think women are in. General expected to be more of the caretaker of the children for women in the workplace. I just think it really does make things more difficult because I feel like the responsibility falls on them. More and people don't expect men to have to leave in the middle of the day because the kid is sick or half to I. Don't know dough to whatever's going on at Church or something. I don't know I mean it sucks. I wish that it wasn't that way but it is what it is. Hopefully it'll change in the future. Having Children Lead Jamie contemplate her feelings of needing to overcompensate a work and led to challenge the compulsion to arrive early and leave late just to be seen as a good employee. She recognizes the need for more flexibility in American culture. If you want to be seen as a great employee a great employee is there before work starts at least like ten fifteen minutes get settled in get coffee. Do whatever you do. And if they need to stay late they do whereas I am rolling up right at eight o'clock and a couple days a week. I leave at four thirty because I have to pick my two year old from the Babysitter Baath and if I'm there after five which luckily I've only been there after five two times in the last five years because she kept Henry as well but if I'm there after five it's just a total inconvenience to her because all the other kids are gone. She's literally just waiting on me in the last thing you WanNa do is piss off the woman that's for your children. She knows them so well. She's taught them so much and I don't want to make her angry. I think that if workplaces were more flexible and more open to employees working hours that worked for them that it would make a huge difference. Not only I think it would make a difference in production. I think it would make a difference and employee retention and obviously it would make a difference in turnover. I it's just really freaking hard to balance the two and I have been lucky and found through writing all of this in writing this blog. Post that I'm one of the few women feel like that. Actually has flexibility in her job. A woman sent me a message and said she got fired because her son had RSP and he was in the hospital so they just fire her because she didn't have any more days to take off. That's insane I think it's having good business since you really have to evolve with the Tom's people can work remotely now. Toms are changing and businesses. Need to change with Tom that they wanna be able to keep good people in their seats. There are a lot of different reactions. Actually the article originally appeared on today's show and then you've all picked it up and then a punch of other places picked it up and it honestly depended on the platform that gave me different responses so on the today show and on love what matters. Most people like that's awesome. Thanks to my employer for being so flexible with me. A couple of people were like. Oh I got fired or wish that they'd be nicer and this some there was. There was a reddit thread that was started about people complaining about me because moms feel like they're entitled to Special Work Hours in that. We filled that. We don't have to work late hours. Just because we have kids and they pick up all the slack for all the MOMS that are always having to leave for things. The thread was also called childless. But there was one. Well there were. There were a couple people that commented directly on my personal blog saying like ear. An awful coworker. I would never want to work with you just because like these are your kids. This is your burden. If you'RE GONNA be late every single day then you need to find a new job kinda stuff like that. But that's the thing like I'm not late for work every day. You know I'm late sometimes. I'm late like maybe fifty percent of the Tomba only a couple of minutes. But if I wasn't good at what I did I wouldn't still have a job and mouth. It's it's like we all have each other's backs if I have to leave early. They're like cool. My boss has a son in College. The other lady. That's in the office suite that I has two kids in college. They understand. They know what it's like and they leave because they have obligations to you know and then I have their back for stuff like that so I'm lucky to have a situation like that where I can depend on people and they can depend on me. Jimmy finds support in lots of places from her husband to other women who can relate to what she goes through on daily basis. La Husband supports me of course but I don't WanNa make him a a main topic of conversation. I grew up here. I haven't always lived here. I moved back. But my mom and dad both live here. Mama's super helpful and then Logan's parents live here as well. They're super super helpful. And I've just had some really great people that have been lucky to meet. That have been super supportive of me. Kind of like mentors. I guess that have just taken me under their wing and women also that have kids and have careers and know how hard it is to balance it and kind of like keep me grounded. I can ask him questions and things like that. And they're just super honest about everything. That's really been helpful more in love. What matters right after a quick break? Hey guys it's bobby bones host the bobby bones show and pretty much always sleepy. Because I wake up at three o'clock in the morning a couple hours later I get all my friends together. We get into a room and we do a radio show wish our allies we tell our stories we try to find as much good in the world that we possibly can and we looked through the news of the day that you'll care about also your favorite country. Artists are always stopping by to hang out and share their lives and music too. So wake up with a bunch of my friends. I Ninety eight point. Seven W M Z Q in Washington DC or wherever the rotates you on the iheartradio APP. Welcome back to love what matters the concept of having all is all too familiar with working mom's often it's pose as an impossible lifestyle with the understanding the ultimately we all have to choose between family and a career but Jamie has found her own way to do all the things she wants and needs in life as much as I wish that act could be like a kick ass mom and I could be the most dependable best worker. That could work. You know late hours and come in early when I needed to and also like make Valentine's boxes for the kids and not forget to pay the babysitter and do the laundry. Like as much as I would love to do that. It's just I don't think it's possible you have to like figure out what's most important for you at.

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

09:09 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"What matters presents? Your story is a production of love what matters and I heart radio. I think that you can have it all to a point. You can't have it all and be the best to all of it. I think you can have the things that you want and you can excel in different versions of them. Different times and stuff is GONNA slip between the cracks. I'm okay with that. I'm calling bell and this is a special bonus episode of Love. What matters presents your story back in January? A woman named Jaime Johnson wrote a post on global matters about the trials and tribulations of being a full time working mother. Her post quickly went viral with mothers around the country deeply relating to the life of Juggling Preschool pickup times with work obligations and babysitter drop-offs with border meetings. Jamie's here today to continue the conversation. She started above the complicated realities. Oh achieving work life balance. Here's Jamie my husband. He's thirty six. I'm thirty five. We have two sons. Henry is five. He's in kindergarten now and salmon. Who is to. He's just like a wild crazy com on everything throw stuff and have tantrums little packet before she had kids. Jamie had different ideas about bringing family matters into an office environment. I had been working since I was twenty. Three twenty four one said never wanted to have kids and to Said MOMS. That left the office early or if they left office right at five o'clock I had. I had a boss at one of my jobs that had two little boys that are probably about the same age. My boys are now and she would get to work like five minutes late every day. And she was always like super frazzled. She was awesome matter job. She always got her work done. But she just always seems so frazzled. Some top she would sit at her desk and crab out something and at five. Pm She was out the door to go get her kids and I was like. Oh my gosh. She is such a slacker. Can't believe like she's doing that because everyone else said work until six or seven o'clock because the more you were the more you produce the more money that's just the way that it was there and looking back now at like breaks my heart for her that I thought that of her. Because I'm in that situation now. And it's so heart-wrenching. She gained a new perspective after his sons. Simon and Henry were born for one thing she now knows what. It's like to have a full morning. Wrangling kids before the proper workday even starts. I wake up at four thirty every morning so I can have a long time because it's the only time that I have that I don't have like kid clinging onto me or anything like that so hang out downstairs like thirty minutes do my whole phone. Scroll see what's going on in the world all the good news and then workout out and I take. A shower dislike very detailed my husband. Sometimes he gets up with me in the morning. Works out too sometimes. He sleeps in a get the kids up. We'll get him. Fed dressed is seriously the hardest forty five minutes of the day getting them out of bed. Getting my five year old out of bed is almost impossible this morning. He was like Mommy. I can't move. I just WANNA stay in bed and I was like I feel. You mean we've got to get out of the house at some point alongside the day to day challenges of parenting while working full-time Jamie was dealing with something. Incredibly common incredibly difficult for new mothers postpartum depression after ahead. Henry had really bad postpartum depression and it was like a kind of crippling. Like can't get out of bed. Don't WanNa talk to anyone and don't even WanNa Watch. Tv All WanNa do sleep kind of thing. It was. It was pretty rough. My husband kind of had an intervention like this has got to stop. Oddly enough it was over breastfeeding. It was really hard on me. Emotionally and mentally So he family knows you've got to do something about this like I'm worried about you so I went and saw my doctor and I got on an antidepressant and they recommended exercise and my husband had also said that too but of course when he said it was like a but he's he's an athlete he was a college athlete. He played professional baseball. So that's like his cheer for everything is moving your body. So He'd be like we'll go take the baby for a walk and I wanted to be like. Don't say that to me but when I heard my doctor say I was like. Oh okay well. Maybe that didn't make sense so I started just getting up in the morning before Henry would wake up and before I had to get him ready and get me ready to go to work and it has become math favourite habit. It's just Matt Tom. My quiet tom time to be alone. Think about things like plan my day. I'm very type A. When it comes to that stuff I need to know what I'm doing for the day and gets that necessary time if I don't have that time in the morning if something happens it like totally my day off so you have been doing it for right at five years now and I love it as any parent knows. Some days are harder than others. One of Jamie's tougher days. Mother should be familiar to anyone with young kids. You're at work and you get word. That one of your children is sick. It was after at had salmon a two year old. So Henry was three and he was going to the babysitter. Salmon was seven weeks old because only got seven weeks of leave with him and it was my first day back at work and we had a board meeting and so there were like ten people there. Ten Top people in the company. And you know everyone's like welcoming me back and I'm so excited to be there and let's get back to work and I get a taxed from the babysitter that said both of my kids had pink and I was like. Oh my gosh. You've got to be kidding me. When Henry had gotten up that morning I looked at him and his eyes were like kind of red and I was like. Oh it must just be allergies. Do I send him to the sitter? What if it is pink and I just talked myself I was like no? It's not pink Pinkai. It'll be fine and then the babysitter called and was like Oh. Yeah and by the way your seven week old has it too because you know. He hangs out with his brother and their texting me. This in the middle of this board meeting my first day back from being out for seven weeks and I was the only woman bigger as well. It was me and a bunch of older men. There was one guy that was a couple years older than me. Solve is definitely in the minority at that point and my heart just dropped I was like. Oh my gosh what am I going to do so I just had to like step out of the room really quickly. Well not really quickly add. It's been like thirty minutes on the phone. With all these different people thankfully have logan my husband. His Mom owns a dance studio so she's has very flexible hours and his dad is retired so luckily they can help me. With all of that stuff logan's mom ended up going to get the boys and getting him to the doctor so they could get their drops and then ended up leaving like early but even leave in an hour early on my first day back I was like oh my gosh. I'm like the worst employee ever have been out for seven weeks on maternity leave. So yeah that was. That was tough even on the toughest parenting days. A good support system can be the ultimate silver lining salmon when he was younger. He has low muscle tone in his legs so when I took him to the pediatrician for his like day after he got now the hospital visit He had lost about a pound. I think which is a big deal. I guess. And they noticed that his legs were. Kind of floppy. And they're like we'll just keep an eye on and then at a six month checkup they're like. We think that there might be something wrong. He needs to start seeing someone so we had to go take them to see a specialist at the University of Level Pediatric Neurology Unit One. I was devastated but I was so worried because I had just started a new job at a bank and I had to tell my boss that I know I just started three weeks ago but I need to take a day off so I can take.

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Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

07:41 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"Jamie had different ideas about bringing family matters into an office environment I had been working since I was twenty, three, twenty, four, one said never wanted to have kids and to said MOMS that left the office early or if they left. Left office right at five o'clock I. Had I had a boss at one of my jobs that had two little boys that are probably about the same age. My boys are now and she would get to work like five minutes late every day and she was always like super frazzled. She was awesome matter job. She always got her work done, but she just always seems so. So frazzled some top. She would sit at her desk and crab out something and at five PM. She was out the door to go get her kids and I was like. Oh, my Gosh! She is such a slacker. I can't believe like she's doing that. Because everyone else said work until six or seven o'clock, because the more you were, the more you produce, the more money. That's just the way that it was there and looking back now at like breaks my heart for her that I thought that of her. Because I'm in that situation now and it's so heart-wrenching. She gained a new perspective after his sons. Simon and Henry were born for one thing. She now knows what it's like to have a full morning wrangling kids before the proper workday even starts. I wake up at four thirty every morning so I can have a long time because it's the only time that I have that I. Don't have like kid clinging onto me or anything like that, so hang out downstairs. Like thirty minutes do my whole phone scroll see what's going on in the world all the good news and then. Workout out. And I take a shower dislike very detailed. My husband, sometimes he gets up with me in the morning works out, too. Sometimes, he sleeps in a get the kids up. We'll get him Fed. Dressed is seriously the hardest forty five minutes of the day. Getting them out of bed getting my five year old out of bed is almost impossible. This morning he was like. I can't move I just. WanNa stay in bed and I was like I feel you mean. We've got to get out of the house at some point alongside the day to day challenges of parenting while working full-time Jamie was dealing with something, incredibly common, incredibly difficult for new mothers postpartum depression after ahead Henry. Had really bad postpartum depression and it was like. A kind of crippling. Like can't get out of bed. Don't WanNa talk to anyone and don't even WanNa Watch TV all WanNa do sleep kind of thing it was. It was pretty rough. My husband kind of had an intervention like this has got to stop oddly enough. It was over breastfeeding. It was really hard on me emotionally and mentally so he family knows we. You've got to do something about this like I'm worried about you so I went and saw my doctor and I got on an antidepressant. And they recommended exercise and my husband had also said that, too, but of course when he said it was like a, but he's. He's an athlete. He was a college athlete. No, he played professional baseball. So that's like his cheer for everything is moving your body. so He'd be like we'll go take the baby for a walk and I wanted to be like. Don't say that to me, but when I heard my doctor say I was like Oh okay well, maybe that didn't make sense so I started just getting up in the morning before Henry would wake up and before I had to get him ready and get me ready to go to work, and it has become math favourite habit it's. It's just Matt Tom my quiet Tom. Time to be alone. Think about things like plan. My Day I'm very type A. when it comes to that stuff. I need to know what I'm doing for the day and gets that necessary time. If I don't have that time in the morning, if something happens it like totally I my day off, so you have been doing it for right at five years now and I love it. As any parent knows some days are harder than others. One of Jamie's tougher days, mother should be familiar to anyone with young kids. You're at work, and you get word that one of your children is sick. It was after at had salmon a two year old. So Henry was three, and he was going to the babysitter. Salmon was seven weeks old, because only got seven weeks of leave with him, and it was my first day back at work. And we had a board meeting. And so there were like ten people there ten top people in the company and you know everyone's like welcoming me back and I'm so excited to be there, and let's get back to work, and I get a taxed from the babysitter that said both of my kids had pink. And I was like. Oh, my Gosh, you've got to be kidding me. When Henry had gotten up that morning, I looked at him, and his eyes were like kind of red and I was like Oh. It must just be allergies do I? Send him to the sitter. What if it is pink? And I just talked myself I was like no, it's not Pinkai it'll be fine. And then the babysitter called and was like Oh, yeah, and by the way your seven week old. Has It, too, because you know. He hangs out with his brother and their texting me this in the middle of this board meeting my first day back from being out for seven weeks, and I was the only woman bigger as well. It was me and a bunch of older men there was. Was One guy. That was a couple years older than me. Solve is definitely in the minority at that point, and my heart just dropped I was like. Oh, my Gosh! What am I going to do? So I just had to like step out of the room, really quickly well, not really quickly add. It's been like thirty minutes on the phone with all these different people thankfully have logan my husband. His Mom owns a dance studio, so she's has very flexible hours and his dad is retired so luckily they can help me with all of that stuff. Logan's mom ended up going to get the boys and getting him to the doctor, so they could get their drops and then ended up leaving like. Early but even leave in an hour early on my first day back I was like Oh. Gosh, I'm like the worst employee ever have been out for seven weeks on maternity. Leave so yeah, that was that was tough. Even on the toughest parenting days a good support system can be the ultimate silver lining salmon. When he was younger, he has low muscle tone in his legs so. So when I took him to the pediatrician for his like day after he got now, the hospital visit he had lost about a pound I think which is a big deal I guess, and they noticed that his legs were kind of floppy, and they're like. We'll just keep an eye on, and then at a six month checkup like we think that there might be something wrong. He needs to start seeing someone, so we had to go take them to see a specialist at the University of Level Pediatric Neurology Unit. One I was devastated, but I was so worried because I had just started job at a bank, and I had to tell my boss that I know I just started three weeks ago, but I need.

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Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

01:53 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

05:24 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"Is just here in the building Faso probably a few years. We are building ourselves and we're building with cash, so it moves kind of slow, but. But it's an intentional choice. We could go out tomorrow and be approved for mountain of debt and we just we just don't want it, so the other thing is we've renovated. Camper and campers are are well-made, can tiny houses to use that space well, so it's not like two hundred forty square feet that you all of your furniture into and work around. The boys are in bunk beds that are in the wall. You know it's it's designed to do this and to do it well the difference for us is I mean. Of course they're still messes I. Get asked this all the time. Does it stay clean? Clean all the time. Of course now we have five people in three little boys living in two hundred forty square feet. There's messes. You know sometimes the kitchen semester. Sometimes, there's Legos all over the floor. The difference is that in that big house I could spend three hours doing something with my family and have to clean up after it for four days now I can spend all these hours doing things with my family and it takes fifteen minutes to put it back together. Everybody got the stomach flu back a couple months ago and I. Mean I'll just be honest. I was sick. It was a disaster. Disaster in there there was dishes piled up and toys everywhere it took forty five minutes to put it completely back together, including cleaning, and really making sure things were sanitary and safe. That was not my life in three thousand square feet. The other thing that I think is imprinted. Say is yes, it's two hundred forty square feet, but we don't just sit in there and stare at each other and at the walls. We have ten acres. We go explore. We go hike and we play gains a lot on where we we don't do much screen time, but they're small. They're completely occupied with checkers or card games. Just enjoy living our life and living abundantly instead of trying to constantly keep after our things, hyun her family's new way of life on their homestead has been rewarding in many ways, but the amount of quality time and genuine opportunities for family connection have given them might be the most valuable I'm not playing with them for a few minutes so I can go. Do they need to do I'm actually engaging with him and enjoying them and experiencing them and my husband is well. You know I think because as the mom of the house. House so much of that fell to me. My husband works full time I think. I didn't realize how much of a load in a way that was now i. feel completely free to live with my boys with my family in a way that is intentional in a way that cultivates that type of culture that I want them to reflect on as adults and think. Wow, we did that together, and that was so much fun, not. Where was mom when this happened? Cutie found a silver lining in the misfortune of losing her family's home. She turned a tragedy into an opportunity to reevaluate and reset her life and figuring out what was really important to her and her family. The Bryant's came out on the other as a stronger happier family. Remind us to make choices that matter into live authentic lives, whether that means buying the big house or thrive on the humble homestead. And what people to examine their lives and their choices, and if you know if if living in a three thousand square foot house in the city is your intentional choice, and that's great I'm not here to tell you that you need to live life like I do or that my life is something to aspire to, but I do want the people hearing this to look at their choices and decide if they made them intentionally or they just thought they had to. The life that we live, we get this win shot at you. Don't miss out on your children's lives or your own life for your future because you signed up.

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Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

08:10 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"Say it. More I love what matters right after quick break. Hey, guys. It's bobby bones host the bobby bones show, and I'm pretty much always sleepy because I wake up at three o'clock in the morning a couple hours later. I get all my friends together. We get into a room and we do a radio show. Share alive. We tell our stories. We try to find as much good in the world. Possibly can, and we look through the news of the day that you'll care about also your favorite country artists are always stopping by the hang out and share their lives and music to so wake up with a bunch of my friends. I Ninety eight point seven W. MC Q in Washington, DC, or wherever the rotate on the iheartradio APP. Welcome back to love what matters? With their friends and neighbors at their backs, the brands began the slow process of rebuilding their home and their life, starting with adjusting to hotel living, cohabiting tiny space was Katie surprise the ultimate blessing in disguise. We at this point owned basically nothing, so we kind of had to start from scratch, and they were able to repair the home, but pretty much everything in it was a loss. So we got moved into this little hotel suite honestly is probably bigger than what I live in now, but we had one room. It was like a bedroom, one bathroom a kitchen. That's very very small. You couldn't fit like an actual pot in the sink. and and a tiny little living room area all of this. Probably fit in I. would say four Hundred Square feet, so we went from three thousand Griffey to this, but we didn't have anything with us, so we started. Can, building like capsule wardrobes and Mr Turmes. There's like a dresser that the TV system and that bottom drawer we put books from the library toys in for the boys, and that was about it. We added a few kitchen things that was pretty much all that we had because. Honestly, there is nowhere to put it. Everything had to go somewhere. So. We lived there for a few months and we started. Realizing that. We were happier we. We played all the time I wasn't managing. Their stuff or occupying boys. So I could get something done. We were just able to play with him. So I was spending afternoons in the Hotel Lane cars on the floor. Somebody brought Dr Guns and Ambushed the hotel staff for hours on end. It was great fun. We played in that hotel pool. Until, basically until got old, you know we. We were just so happy. I. Think at that point in that stark contrast is when I started realizing. How a really hadn't been playing with them, I had been getting them set up to play, so I could wash dishes or getting them set up to place where I could wash five loads of laundry or something else, and it was more about occupying the time than it was enjoying their childhood. Months later would Katie returned home to the property for the first time since the fire, she realized your priorities and her vision for families. Future had fundamentally changed. We actually had what's called a walk through with the construction company that that was doing their innovations to the house, and so I walked back in to the house, and we had been back and forth some, but I hadn't really spent much time at the house at this point, and so you do what's called a final walkthrough to see if you know if you're ready to pay them if they need to do more work. Kind of like a punchout list and see what needs to be done. That night after that walk through. We kind of sat down and started talking about. You know well if we're so miserable in the house with other stuff. Why do we buy? How did this? How did this end up being our lives? If this is not what makes happy home for us? And we started the more that we really did an autopsy of it and an autopsy of the situation, we realized that we had kind of without to follow the herd mentality life is a checklist and that we had married young, and we had a house, and we each had a car and in a baby, and so obviously. We need it all of this stuff without I think really intentionally seeing that those things are all choices. so we? We decided to say okay well, if if these things are choices in, they're not working for us. What choices could we make instead? What is the fundamental difference here? What type of culture are wanting to create for our family if this is? What is the idea of living minimally had always appealed to Katie, but she'd never fully embraced it now. A more pared down. Lifestyle seemed like the perfect thing for family. I had dabbled in. China downsize before the fire, but looking back instead of purging things I was. Trying to organize stuff, so I don't think I really had the full benefit, but it wasn't until I could see all of that stuff gone and see that I had chosen to put it there that. I realized that that stuff in that clutter wasn't just. Causing mental anxiety was also robbing me of time and I didn't realize that things that you that you bring into your home or taking up your time, and of course you, you need things you need kitchen tools, and you need things to do in your home, but you need to choose them well, and you need to be sure that there something that you want to bring into your family. The bronze wallet to live in a way that prioritized family, time and connection instead of material goods they. They said goodbye to their big house in search for something more in line with their new mentality, but we bought as a ten acre homestead, and it's just it's. It was just the land. We renovated a camper and put it out there. It's red at two hundred forty square feet. So you know life is very different now, but we have not found that we need anything that we don't have We have a very minimal kitchen set up, but I'm able to cook meals without a problem. And the boys have one drawer of toys. And a few sets of building things like Lagos, and then we also home school, so they have a cabinet of their school books in their school supplies, which their elementary school, so that involves a lot of scissors, markers and crayons and stuff, too. So but it all fits and we've not had a problem. I think people, or at least I did associate children with massive amounts of stuff, but the reality is children. Don't take up that much space. It's all the nonsense that we think that they need that, does so you? Now I have capsule wardrobes for the boys, and they kind of have it down to a formula. Everybody gets one coat. Everybody gets senior one more PAT. Two pairs of shoes. We just keep it simple. It's something this is torn her birth and we can repair to replace it, and it doesn't mean that we need to go on a shopping trip and by twelve new things. More I love, what matters right after a quick break. Homicide suicide, or whatever natural causes is, it doesn't matter. When you dis someone has to pick up your body regardless of the circumstance and generally speaking, you'll see two types of people picking up dead bodies for a living you'll either see of thoughtful caring, professional or a complete train wreck of a person whose life is always about to spiral out of control. I'm somewhere in between and I. Don't know how much longer I can take getting called out in the middle of the night to scoop brains off a county road. Pick up pieces of people sleeping on train tracks. It's a lot for a teenager to handle. I'll tell you this much. Growing up in a funeral home is killing me. My name is grant, and these are my funeral home stories. I. Radio is number one for podcast, but don't take our word for it. Find my funeral home stories on the iheartradio APP or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome back to love what matters the giant change of a family of five to go from a two story five bedroom house. The just two hundred forty square feet is not lost on Katie. But. She prioritizes space in a different way now and is confident. The harder family will be happy and comfortable for the next couple of years and I. Don't think I've ever said the words. Two hundred forty scruffy and someone not slowly blinked at me just a second before. They absorb that number I think. A couple of things are important here to to say we are building our own home on this said to the two hundred forty square feet is not forever. This.

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

02:02 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

02:01 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

02:39 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"So on Monday came to became up so for the first time I sat down with a social organization. So what happened on these said well? He was putting the system on one nine one year and a half and then he was adopted at three and a half and the family that adopted him just dropped him at the hospital and never came back on. Of course I'm sitting there thinking. Oh my you know and then of course I feel guilty like I could not do what the previous parents had done so I say no. It took A. He can stay so from day one. They had already timing and bit department arrived so I knew there was. No ESI could go a the group home on nowhere when you when you save on a Bob. It's really hard to find a postal family. So I knew he's GonNa stay for as long as ECON and idea. I knew it was gonNA adopt him so the following week. I began to reprocess that I would like to adopt him. So what do I need to do? And so it was a long process but in the midst of that. We're living in Oklahoma. So I had took a job with World Vision side to North Carolina. So that I did another almost one year because you move to different states so now I have to deal with two states. Oklahoma and North Carolina Undo the whole license in order to to bring him home. And so that's why it took so but I knew north shore a father. He was my kid. I didn't how toy no matter how long it was going to go the system you. It's really difficult. I think foster kids. You have to love the kids despite the system. You know. It's frustrating away but men for those kids. They did not create the system to be that way his fist. The war when the system doesn't work for them you know so I want to gain the way but the kid no matter what in raising and loving child. He's able to see the full circle in his life and reflect on how his past informs his choices as a father. The bond between Peter and his son reminds us of the good can happen when we take care of one. Another for Peter. It was life changing when you're going through class and learning how to be a four sedan you realize that it's really lining about you and how you can be the best you can be for someone else realized it wasn't really about the kids but hours of lining about me and how. I can be to these kids. You know having keys. I think it's really helped me to to be there for someone else to love them yet. Net not forget about myself a short but also to love them and be there for them and that's been really thrilling in life. We can all do something to change a life of those in our communities. It's our community. It's not anyone so if we don't do who take care of our communities so that we can all do what we can do to change the life..

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

08:28 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"Each week will hear incredible story of compassion kindness and above all love. I think I realized that I had more more to give them. I thought you know there are some things that I went through other child that because I didn't have some onto triggered him or remind me of that I thought Oh those are gone you know and then I got keenum Mike Man I need. I still need more counselling sort of land. Their kids will push that button way. You thought had called chapters. That are not myself to to love but now accused him. Look back and say this how. My Dad will respond if I respond. Our just being was what I thought was going what I thought I had dealt. We've I think kids have helped me deal with it. Today's incredible story spans countries continents and even generations. It's about one man's impressive resilience and total dedication to improving the lives of others even while he continues to grabble with his own traumatic past. My name is p to Mutabazi and live in Charlotte North Carolina. Forty six years old. I just I just became a US citizen. So my lesson. I was happy at Amana and the reason why I was called again minor was for every one hundred four point in my village. Fifty would not make it to the age of two. You know so. My mom was afraid scheme in there because she didn't know our Mackie's sure waited until when ours too and shit you know what he's made it his a gift given to be got so basketball and my last year meant a gift given to me by God. I grew up in a small village at the border of Uganda. Typical African village so poor and still Measor bolt a place that we had Lee had anything to eat but that was my small villas. Peter's childhood was difficult one. It's shrouded him with a sense of hopelessness. That was impossible to shake groping where you know. No one ever told to drink. No one ever told you. Hey is awake For you you know. We grew up in home where you hide today. And that's all you could think about. You know grew up in a home where a begin to work at age of three outtake. Take Your my little. Sibling was just one. I will go fetch water about two miles away just to drink so life was really really really difficult. In ship. Foam also age of four. I began to realize them. Not only. Are we poor Bob. My Dad was the most abusive daddy could sink off so on one side. I had poor Z. And then the other side I had my own father that could easily take my my life. You know sorry. Age of four really. Life was just miserable in every ship form. You know the no food also watching your own mother. Being beaten abused our as a kid you just want to disappear you WANNA in some way just everything go away but there's no way they can go away in Africa. We have a tendency of seeing Father's as you know the shield the source of pride for me. I didn't really see my dad. Our you know the way. He treated my mom on the way he treated all of us. That I just had this hatred tour team that I hated him. With every ounce of my life and if he said there's no footfall week we didn't get food for the week if he came home before we ate you know the food was thrown away so for me was the worst human being I think of so I had no absolute any relationship with my dad but with my mom you know my mom was the one was there who fed us in Africa. We grow our own food. So we do subsidy forming. You know where. Mom's spend most the time in the guidance to grow food to feed the family. That's what we did help them. Raise OV- aches. My Mom took me to school not so I can be somebody but I think she wanted me to learn how to spell my name so went to school just so I can line to spell my best the best that she could differ me then age of nine they abuse. I think they grew older. They became worse than wise. Maybe I was growing up as well so I understood and felt in the worst way. Posible THE ABUSE. Peter's father inflicted on his family soon became too much to bear. Peter and his family were at his mercy and one night. Peter decided he'd had enough so he came that night. He was really mad as usual which was almost every day and he realized inaba cigarette so he said Hey. Can you get me cigarette? It was raining pouring out so much as a kid. We didn't have rain coats. Have anything else you know. I didn't have a pair of shoes in two thousand sixteen hours. No anything to protect myself but I walked was about. You know maybe a quarter mile away so I walked you know went knocked her the door of Lismore show on so they give me the cigarettes. I remember. There were four secrets but before I get home. I mean it was raining so much that the best guy got destroyed all his cigarettes had been destroyed. As he's GonNa kill me and so I thought look I can either lay intech my life or icon. Choose life to disappear that he never get to see me so I ran to the bus a rich there and I asked the Lady said. Hey of these buses which one goes the farthest on the lady say that one and so I got an boss had never been twenty miles away from my village in a win five hundred kilometers and I ended up in Kampala at just ten years old. Peter was alone. It was the first time he was away from his village and his family. He needed to learn how to survive on his own in quickly. That boss arrived around three in the morning so I stayed around the boss. You know I didn't know where else to go this book in different language that I could barely understand but I could also Elizabeth of English so I didn't go more than a hundred feet away from the boss. I stay under well more than other twenty five bosses. There were coming in from different villages different towns so I figure itself. It's all I know so I'm going to stay around here and quickly. I got to know other kids. Well and that's how I made it on the street and half found I can survive really doing whatever was needed for me to stay but also there was a lot of food there and so quickly found also. The Boston was by the the sewage canal. And there were. There was a bridge where we could go high that nobody could good at. You would smell so bad and all the garbage. That's where There were thrown so most people didn't go there by street kids. It was a safe place to go but also simplest to to somehow you know. Cook US kids Africa. We don't beg for money you know. We help all the US for cheap labor in order for us to be valuable to them so we knew that the only way we can still food was always when you helping if they needed cleaners cleaned for them if they needed kids to lift things for them. We did live things if the the Bosnian to be cleaned we did whatever we could find but too so we can be busy. It was an another way of owning a right to be on the street and stain the whole small town or small little parking space. Well all the commotion was women. Selling bosses arriving produce being shipped in there so there was a lot of food but also that we could be useful as street kids and so that became my life from the age of nine ten to until when I was fifteen years of age escaping an abusive household living on the streets forced Peter to think of himself as less than as undeserving home. I was considered as useless. I think those are. The words are hard for my died and so for me I really really never saw myself as a human being like. I feel like I did much up to any other. Human being who who walks in on earth apply for my fellow street kids because of what how we're treated also what told we are if someone say where dog I mean. We're leaving lack them. You know if my dad said I was good for nothing I understood that. More unlovable matters right after a quick. Break guys bobby bones host the bobby bones show end up pretty much always sleepy because I wake up with three o'clock in the morning a couple of hours later I.

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

01:44 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

11:18 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"Each week will hear incredible story of compassion. Kindness and above all love is really really hard to put into words though what what I was feeling but being able to see their reaction for me was everything that I went through everything. That's that happened from the day. I stepped foot into that university to that day of that photo shoot. Everything didn't matter. What mattered was that moment? What mattered was their reaction. Would matter was that we had a moment as a family. A happy moment because as a family we've been through so much and I think for me being able to give them that's completely completely erased were I had given them earlier. Which was a sense of disappointment? A sense of sadness a sense of of never never going to get my education and I completely erased that with that moment. That's twenty five year old Hans Mujica from mission Texas. The moment he's describing came after years of hard work and total dedication to one goal graduating college in two thousand twelve after being suspended from his university for poor. Grades Hunts found himself reckoning with his parents deep sense of disappointment in his failure especially they valued higher education in their children above all else. Despite his academic setbacks Hans decided to continue on with school and to do whatever it took to get a college degree both for his parents and for himself. You know my parents was traditional Mexican American parents. They never got the opportunity to continue their education. For whatever reason it was for work or taking care of the family so that we were you know we would behave bad or or you know. Had those little miscues and in-school our parents were riveria very You know adamant about US going to the university and making sure that we were correct with our grades and everything was going in line because they would always tell us. I always wanted to study. I always wanted to go to university but it never ended up happening for them. So that's the only thing that I for us to go to the University. Get your degree. There would always tell us ultimately this degree and education for us. It's for you to be able to succeed in. The future. Hans enrolled in university right out of high school but had trouble with the transition. What had got him through. High school wasn't necessarily going to work at the university. Well when I was in high school I think I can pretty much say that wasn't the greatest student out there but I was always involved in extracurricular activities such as sports and dance so I think it in high school and what motivated me to continue. My education was dance dance. Always a big part of my life and it's those a big part of my life now so I transferred the the passion and the energy that I put into dance into my academics and I think that's what helped me get through high school and what ended up leading me going to the university as well. I graduated from high school and got in that same fall semester which was in two thousand twelve as well and it's pretty difficult once you get into the to the university because it's pretty much on your own you're on your own you know in high school in in Grade School. I guess you can call it They're always like you know. Remember to do your work and remember you turn this in and all that stuff so I guess we were used to that and going into the university. It's A. It's a whole different Michigan a whole different culture. You study on your own. You turn in assignments on your own ultimately. It's your position if you're going to end up passing or not the classes and I think that was pretty much my downfall. As far as going into the university. The first couple of years I was there I would attend class and the thing is I guess. I just wasn't motivated enough to be paying attention and and Goto Goto the librarian study. And do all of that so I think ultimately also downfalls the students not being prepared enough to be able to be on my own because I kept the same the same routine that I did in high school into the university and didn't work out too well for me without motivation or incentive to succeed in this classes. Hans grades slipped until he eventually was suspended from college while surprisingly I wasn't really to set about it at first because here were were on from. We don't make it in the university to make it through the higher education. We usually you know we'll figure it out and we either go work somewhere trying to make money some other way but you know so. It wasn't really too disappointing. I I I figured I can just end up getting a manual labor job and trying to make some money somehow but in a Mexican American household whenever you receive a letter. Your parents opened that first before they get to you so that's pretty much how they ended up finding out but you know what the disappointment came after. My mom found a letter. I wasn't even going to tell my parents that I got suspended. I was just going to say you know what the school's not for me. I'm not I'm not. I'M NOT GONNA go anymore but received a letter I even though it was addressed to me and Since my parents do not read English the asked me to translate it and they told me what what is his letter mean and bring told them. I have pretty much flunked out of the university on. I gots and I got suspended. Usually my parents are really really local. When when they want to express their anger or whatever disappointments but I think my mom's silence was the one that really got me. She's a woman that expresses her feelings very well but shown had a few words from me and what she told me was. You had one job to do what's was to get your education and you couldn't even do that. And she turned her on. She walked away like the look that she had. I completely overwhelmed me completely. You know disappointed me because I knew I. I just disappointing. My parents and I told my son says that very day that I was gonNA. I wasn't going to do anything to make my mom. Feel that or make. My parents are like that because the look that she gave me was completely completely blank. And I think that's what motivated me to go back to the university. I didn't want to see my parents like that anymore. I assume during react the way they usually. We Act when you know when we misbehave or they find out something that we're not supposed to be doing but I think it was a lot worse the fact that she didn't react the way she did and it was more of a disappointment rather than an anger and that doubt with that with for me was the completely broke me honestly. My father's reaction was pretty much the same way as my mom. He just found out later. He's the rock of the family. So it's it gets. It takes a law for him to be disappointed and it takes a lot for him to be able to cry and be able to do all of that and the fact that his son was a flunked out of college and wasn't going to tell them completely broke him and he actually stopped talking to me for a couple of days. I intended to do some conversation with him. He just went and talk to me. And that's pretty tough for a kid especially at at the age of like nineteen. I think it was nineteen or twenty Looking for parent's approval and support for you know. Try to guide them and to not have it. It's really it's really sad more with Hans after a quick break. Hey guys it's bobby bones host the bobby bones show and I'm pretty much always sleepy because I wake up at three o'clock in the morning a couple hours later. I get all my friends together. We get into a room and we do a radio. Show share allies. We tell our stories. We try to find as much good in the world if he possibly can and we look through the news of the day that you'll care about also your favorite country. Artists are always stopping by hang out and share their lives and music to wake up with a bunch of my friends. I Ninety eight point seven W. MC Q in Washington dc or wherever the rotates you on the iheartradio APP. Welcome back to love. What matters it an emotional time for Hans and his family seeing his parents reactions to this news jolted Hans because the last time he had seen such sadness on their faces was years before when tragedy struck their family. I was in my senior year of high school. It was October. Twenty four two thousand eleven. My older brother. He was twenty one at the time and we opened the door to a detective. It was about four Four twenty in the morning and they let us know that my brother had just passed away in a car accident as seventeen year olds and having a little sister as well you know and him being my older brother just complete chaos morning and it was. It was a sense of shock. It was a sense of. He knows sadness and sorrow and disappointment and there was just a lot of things going on that morning and I remember my mom's phase after she stopped crying and it was just a blank stare. It was just like like she couldn't believe it. It was the exact same expression that my mom gave me. When she found out I was suspended. And it hurt me completely because it was me. It was her son. The one the one that's alive the one that's trying to better himself the one that's still here and I was the one that made her feel that way and looked that way and express yourself that way and for me it was just an overwhelming feeling because we had just gone through a a very very tough hardship as a family and obviously you know my suspension doesn't compared to losing a loved one and losing your older brother and losing your son but it was right there for me being the person that made her feel that way. I completely felt overwhelmed and sad because I was the one that made her feel that way. And when I saw that I told myself I wasn't going to do anything else to make you feel the way that She felt that day. Hans kept that promise to himself and re-enrolled for the summer semester. This time he knew what he had to do. I actually visited the library for the first time at the university so that was a big plus. I had never been to the library or had never actually study for an exam. It was a really big change. I got I thought it was one of those movie type plots where you know you get down but you get back up again as cheesy as that sounds. That's exactly what happened when suspended from the university. You have to sit out a semester. They take away all your financial aid. And then if you WANNA come back you can you have to pay your own way and you have to come back the semester following your suspension. Dad Day. I tell myself that I was GONNA do whatever it took so I can get back. I would just a completely different person. I was asking questions in class. I stayed after school. I stayed after class. I went to the library. Hans was keeping his grades up participating in classes and beginning to enjoy school. However there was one major setback about to come. He was paying for everything out of pocket and soon enough. The financial pressures caught up to the first year that I that I went back to university after this suspension I was paying out of pocket because I couldn't even apply for loans. Either the loans that they give you. It's still part of the financial aid so since I couldn't apply since I was trying to get back into good standing. I couldn't apply either for loans so all that was coming out of pocket you know. I had a pretty decent job so I was able to pay my first. I WANNA see my first year but after that it's super super expensive and I just ran out. I ran out of money in the first year and I was actually doing good. I was I was getting as and BS. My GPA UP. But I reached the point where I just couldn't pay anymore. It was either go to school and not have any money or keep working and and try to pay my bills and try to help out at home as much as I possibly could. I ended up leaving The university to go look for another job so I was pretty much in debt for about five thousand dollars for that semester and I was working at a local bank at the time I had a couple of friends working in north Texas They were working refinery. Reason and oil rigs and stuff like that so I called up one of my buddies and let them know my situation and he told me you know. Let me look for you. Appear and within a matter of two weeks he said I got a got a spot for you are.

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

02:18 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

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"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

07:06 min | 1 year ago

"colin balfe" Discussed on Love What Matters Presents: Your Story with Colin Balfe

"Feel like I shouldn't have to be turned into a facebook. Post to be validating my beauty like I. already know my worth my beauty and it shouldn't be assumed that I don't know that I'm beautiful because I look different than everybody else. I shouldn't have to have people told me I'm beautiful. Because the assumption that people physical differences aren't beautiful, and so I was trying to sympathy cause, and then I was Sira bullied because of it with millions of people, millions of comments or thousands of comments anyway and I went viral to thirty million people around the world I'm not one post. More on love. What matters right after a quick break? It's one thousand, nine hundred four Michael Jordan is the most famous person in the World He's reached the pinnacle of his career as one of the best basketball players to ever play the game. And what does he do? He leaves a sport altogether to try his hand baseball. Then something funny happened Jordan Young Baseball. Career cut short when Major League. Baseball goes on one of the longest strikes in its history. And Michael. Jordan goes back to basketball. The story could stop here, but as we all know it doesn't. Jordan goes on to win another three championships in kickstarts. What economists call the Jordan effect generating billions in revenue and re-energizing a struggling NBA? I'm Sean Braswell I want you to check out the new show presented by ozzy flashback and find out how some of the best laid plans can go horribly wrong or prove unexpectedly magnificent. Listen to flashback on the iheartradio APP apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm calling balfe welcome back to level matters. So in crystal heard the shelter volunteer called Dixie of Freak, just because she was a little different, it set off a lot of the arms. She began to think about the consequences of that kind of language, and how hurtful and demeaning can be for a person to hear those snap judgments, but also like what if somebody had come in to get the dog and they didn't have an obvious physical difference that they were feeling insecure about. Their birthmark was under their shirt, or on their leg, covered by jeans, and they didn't feel comfortable going out swimsuit because so often i. read about people who have birth marks or something else on their leg, and they haven't gone out in a swimsuit since their child because of severe bullying. And what does she had made that kind of comment and she had no idea like she. She knew I had a birthmark on my face because it was a cold day on on cold days. My birthmark is really purple, so what she had no idea. This person had something on their leg, and it was preventing them from feeling secure enough to go on a swimsuit and enjoying summertime our what if like a child had gone in to get this dog and she? That child heard this woman. Say the statement about this dog. And from then on out, the child associated something different about a body, being a freak of nature, which then made my job as an advocate like going to that child school like that child, sitting in that audience, thinking Oh that speaker, that writer is a freak of nature, and that child already had a wall up at a young age, and I have to break down that wall even harder and so there were just a lot of layers for me when I heard that comment that day about a dog, even though it was just a dog, there are a lot of layers. Still Christo was determined to make a responsible decision about when and how to adopt Dixie so she waited. I kinda knew in that moment, but at the same time. I didn't want to take her home without my husband meeting her. Because you know, it's a new house and. Those fair to my husband to bring home a dog and not have to meet her and make sure like he liked her to. I told him later. That like I just wanted to take her home and he said we'll. Why identity you? You should have brought her home and so basically telling me like you could have brought her home, and I would have been okay with it like I would have understood that scenario so the next morning we got up, which was Saturday and animal shelters on Saturdays. Is like super chaotic busy time and we went back and Dixie actually had a hold on her from somebody and that person wasn't there yet, but they had an appointment like. Thirty minutes out or something, and so they said we know what that person has employment with her, and while you play with her until that person comes, and so we were outside playing with her and playing with her, and playing with her, and that person never came, and so they do you know what they didn't come? You get to take home next thing I knew we were adopting her and she. She was in our car, and then at our house, and we ought to love on her and tie her trainer, and just you got to be ours. Dixie was a breath of fresh air in crystal and Richards new home. Life is just more energetic and more fun that she keeps us on our toes. This extra energy in the house with a dog someone to play with and cuddle with and. You know that there's someone there always excited to welcome you when you walk through the door and excited and thrilled Decio, and so it's just fun to have a dog I think. It's one of my favorite things in life. Is Napa Dog in the home? Although Crystal and Richard Love Dixie, their home ended up being a bid too small for a pup, bursting with so much energy and life. And at the end of the day they wanted to do what was best for Dixie, so we actually in the end had to rehome her, sadly, because she just need more room to run and play ended up being, she kept jumping our fence. We really loved her and it was actually a really emotional situation because we didn't want to. And so at the time we had two dogs, and we still have one, but we had to rehome her because. Because she just kept dumping our fence and we're right across the street from a busy street and from school and we tried all sorts of methods talked to a dog trainer everything, but because she was a red healer, and she just has so much energy, and even though it had brain games and the whole thing for dogs, we just decided to go someone who had lots of acreage, and ever since then and we stay in touch with the. The people who have like we did this interview process and I wrote up this whole profile from my dog like she was on the dating APP or something, but we stay in touch with them, and she's loving it like they have a kid who runs like a mile or two a day, and she gets to play with chickens, and like run, and so it's really fun staying in touch with these with this family who gets to love on? On her and they've offered for us to go play have play dates with her with the other dog that we've had. And they knew each other. When we had both of them, Dixie went from being labeled a freak, just because of a small body difference to being adored by two loving families, all the crystals compassion, their story reinforces how important it is to be open, minded empathetic. It's not be turned off by the things that make us unique. Dixie may be different, but she's loving life and using her extra claws to open Christmas presents chase after chickens and run around and wide open fields as not the ending, we expected, but in the end is better ending for Dixie..

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