35 Burst results for "Caroline"
2-time Wimbledon champ Murray loses to Isner in 2nd round
"And Emma rata were eliminated in the second round of Wimbledon Murray disappointed the crowd by losing to American John Isner in four sets Isner had been zero and 8 versus the two time Wimbledon champion Radio can who was asked by Caroline Garcia in straight sets Three time defending champ Novak Djokovic and number 5 Carlos alcaraz won their second round matches while number three Casper Roode fell Women's second seat at net cultivate and number 9 gardenia muguruza were defeated I'm Dave
John Zmirak Shares a 'Tragic' Piece From the Washington Post
"A few days ago, Eric, I saw a piece in The Washington Post written by a clearly pro choice reporter named Caroline kitchener. She is their official abortion reporter. And she did a long feature about what she thought of as a woman who she thought of as a victim of the Texas heartbeat bill, heartbeat law, which says no abortion after her heartbeat can be detected. And she wrote this piece about the difficulties this woman faces and her troubles and the problem is it's a happy story with a happy ending to any normal person. When this woman gets an ultrasound and finds out not only do the kids have a heartbeat that is their heartbeat, she can't have an abortion, but it's twins. It's twin girls. She immediately gets excited and says, it's a miracle. I'm glad I'm keeping them. The boyfriend marries her. They're still married as of now. They're delighted to have each other to delighted to have the kids, but to The Washington Post, this is a tragedy because their blue collar. They live in Texas. Their kids won't go to boarding school. They won't go to Harvard. They won't go to Paris. They're going to live in the Bible belt where people try to pray for football games. And so to the readers of The Washington Post, this is tragic. I mean, the boyfriend can't skateboard all day anymore. He had to get a job. Blue collar job. Governor presents that Texas. He could run for president, is his name beto be honest. Be honest. A woman's not a billionaire. So he didn't have that motivation to marry her that beto
Update on the latest sports
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Hurricanes score 3 goals in 3rd to upend Rangers 4-2
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Power plays carry Hurricanes past Lightning 3-2
"The Carolina hurricanes scored two power play goals and got twenty seven season goalie Fredrik Andersen in route to a three two win over the Tampa Bay Lightning marketing they just opened the scoring in the second period with a power play goal for Carolina before newly acquired forward Nick Paul would tie the game at one for Tampa Bay Carolina would retake the lead after Tony deangelo point shot was redirected in front Sebastian I hope maybe three one for Caroline in the third temple will get a late goal by Alex killorn to cut the deficit in half but table could not find the equalizer DeAngelis said the power play was the key among those chances in last fifteen sixteen power plays is that one and so we have plenty of examples those needed when when they did thank those good I'm very fast Leschi made thirty eight saves for Tampa Bay Dennis **** Raleigh North Carolina
Dixon scores 24, No. 12 Villanova beats No. 17 UConn 85-74
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"caroline" Discussed on Forever35
"Polio brigade that make me die. I can't even I have no time. I can't listen to me off. That's a whole lot of camera. But you know, I think you have to vote with your dollar if you've seen that brands have reacted horribly. You know, L'oreal have basically saved themselves millions by apologizing to Monroe bergdorf because they were on course for a full boycott. Certainly everyone in the skin care community on Instagram was just like, well, they're done. You know, they're done. So and you know, they need to expand their testing. They need to support darker colors. I've done. I've sat on consulting gigs. You know, behind the scenes, because oddly, they want my opinion, but they don't want me in front of the camera. Funny, that, isn't it? And then yeah, we'll just get the young 20 year old to do the actual picture for Instagram, but we want your brain and the boardroom. But I've done consulting gigs where they will happily. And frankly, not be embarrassed as they should be to say to in front of a group of women that is all over 40 and includes black women, black journalists, to say that the product is aimed at a woman over 40, but the visual is someone who's 25 and white and no they haven't tested it on black skin. That shit's got a change. Well, Caroline, I don't even know what to say. This has been so freaking great. Well, thank you. Thanks for having me. Caroline, for those of our listeners who, for some reason, don't follow you already, where can people find you and follow you? Oh, I am Caroline hirons everywhere, literally. You can just put my name in and it all pops up. And if in doubt, just go to Caroline hirons dot com. And then I obviously linked to everything from there. That's the easiest way. Great. Well, thanks again. And my pleasure. Thank you for listening. We rent..
Prosecutors Have Nothing on Former Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu
"So fantastic piece by Caroline like Caroline glick is a brilliant person born in America She's an Israeli Author senior columnist Israel hayom But she's writing here an opinion in the American newsweek website She says the corruption trial of former Israeli prime minister Benjamin Netanyahu and the Jerusalem district court has been ongoing for the past two months Things are not going well for the prosecutors Israel's state prosecution submitted a list of 333 witnesses It front loaded its best ones so far 8 have taken a stand and all of them have obliterated the prosecution's case Longtime Israeli juris and former prosecutors attest that this is the worst presentation of evidence they have ever seen They ought to see the car rittenhouse case But nonetheless For the past three years has really attorney general avatar manda built Mandelbrot Manda bullet And it sounds better in real German I don't you know And his colleagues built their case for indicting Netanyahu a long serving successful and popular prime minister By claiming their star witnesses had given them proof that Netanyahu's corrupt and dangerous Though a legal selective leaks from investigation rooms and prime time press conferences the state prosecution insisted that the witnesses had given them incontrovertible evidence that Netanyahu received a bribe in the form of positive coverage from a news website Manga belt claimed that in exchange for the bribe of positive coverage Netanyahu compelled regulators to provide the owner of the website with a sweetheart deal worth hundreds of millions of dollars Well well but over the past two months as one allegedly star witness after another took the stand each rejected manda belts
"caroline" Discussed on In The Pews
"Daniele and caroline welcomed in the pews to have y'all here finally. This is so hard to get because we're scheduling our schedules year schedules and then of course the locations and schedule that everything. But we're glad to have you here. He has a our first pair of of young ladies on the first. Yes no..
Secretary of State Antony Blinken Covers up Afghanistan Disaster
"From the document. And the deal itself. That's not exactly what took place. The work conditions. And so what did the Democrats do today? What did they do at the blinking and they lied about the conditions. That Trump so went surrendered that Trump set the deadline. Cut five Mr Producer more blank and go When you came into office on January, 20th we were committed. This is Brad Sherman, who is a complete Cluster punk go ahead. We went out of Afghanistan within three months. By May, 1st. Did the Trump Administration leave on your desk pile of notebooks as to exactly how to carry out that plan. Did we have a list? Of which Afghans? Uh, we were going to evacuate Did what does this have to do with anything? Ladies and gentlemen? Yeah. You don't need no books on the list. You had a plan a deal that was set out that had already been violated. It was being violated upon the election of Joe Biden. That's the bottom line. You don't need a list and notebooks exactly how you're still accomplish these things. And by the way, If they needed those things, and they needed more. Why didn't they contact the trump folks? They could have done that to, you know. Go ahead. And to get Americans from all over Afghanistan to Kabul and out in an orderly way. How meticulous was the planning for the Trump administration declared May 1st withdrawal. Well, thank you, Congressman, uh, inherited a deadline. We did not inherit a plan. You're a liar. Caroline
Historic All-Teen Women's Final Caps an Open Defined by Young Star Power
"Amerada. Keanu is that good hits the backhand with ease when she has time to set on the forehand lookout can change directions off both wings is fluid out of her. Corners is a reluctant but competent. Volleyer more than fine. She just the way. She springs her legs into the serve. The way she keeps her back swings condensed on the return of serve. She can do it all and so again when we look at this matchup for rod kanye moving forward in the final against leyla fernandez. Two players playing with house money. And i posited this theory and this worming to end the show. Because i gotta go do some knoxville stuff. So i do apologize again for the lack of complete Analysis like we've had on some of her past recaps but it's interesting to note you know the players ages twenty two to twenty eight. They grew up watching caroline. Wozniacki reach world number one but just take lump after lump in the grand slams and just you know again have to deal with the pressure and the narrative of the pressure over and over again until she broke through. Same deal with simona hal. Made what three four grand slam finals before. She was able to capture her first title. And you just see you know. Repeatedly players like please give who in her prime and was at the top of the game win so many of these players were watching the sport closely sheesh struggled with the pressures and i think too you know. The players sap lincoln older the benches of the world that socrates of the world. They think they're supposed to struggle with the pressures and they put this additional pressure on themselves because they say well. That's what the orcs always been. That's always been the narrative and while. I'm less certain of that. Half of my theory theory when i am very certain of is. That's not the case with fernandez. That's not the case with rodney keanu. That's not the case with coco goff. They grew up in the wild west air
The Investigation Into Dr. Paolo Macchiarini
"Paolo shared his ultimate vision using stem cells to regrow or repair. The body's organs. This incredible idea that i hadn't thought previously if you could actually make that become true would be fantastic innovation in the past busa had met his share of medical luminaries through other projects oliver sacks robert gallo who co discovered hiv. Carlton gadget sick. Who'd help discover mad cow disease. What paolo macarena was doing was if it was true. Just as incredible as those discoveries i wanted to go. Bt bring this story and see who was in the wrong what actually happened was powder genius. Or was he possibly soon. After busa went to get the other side of the story he reached out to each of the doctors who had made the allegations against paolo. That i didn't want to talk to me. A very fearful and Suspicious and afraid. Eventually one of them agreed to meet with them on a cold day. In february busa walked up to the door of an apartment building in central stockholm. Dr matias chorba show buzzed him. In and he rode the elevator up to his apartment in rang the bell true to form the six foot. One american was wearing a black sabbath shirt. He invited busa into the apartment and proceeded to tell him everything had learned. He had a really hard time believing what i was saying. Car basha was making some pretty alarming. Comparisons and i started telling him stories about joseph angola. Now sweats and medical experiments or what was going on at caroline scott. I felt that maybe they were paranoid that they were afraid of things. The magnified things that perhaps exists. I thought that they would claims where a bit outlandish and we talked for like two hours. And then my wife came home and she's a blonde swedish woman presses. Well and looks like a normal person and he asked her. If what i was saying was of all this actually true and she said yes. Yes this is is absolutely true. This is absolutely what's going on. And he said after meeting her that he it was. I found that he actually started leaving me. Just like benita. Alexander in new york boost the link fest resolved to get to the bottom of the paulo macura. Any mystery
"caroline" Discussed on Get Real -w- Caroline Hobby
"A mark that way like in the music community as an artist and man. I hope that i really adventured properly. Like an because that's something that nick has really Opened me up to like there's more to life than than just constantly working towards bettering yourself spent like there's so much richness in the world and if you have the opportunity to travel like we do I spent most of last year new zealand because it him. Oh my god is unbelievable estrogen zealand. Okay so like six weeks. After we met he had to move to new zealand for year. To in the america's cup and new zealand was like the only country did not kkob it and the borders were closed but there was exemptions for like spouses in wives families the sailors so i got to go and all my tours have been cancelled as supposed to be touring with louis now. So like i'm telling you this whole thing was such a god thing but i got to go over because i had nothing to do as i'm not going to be touring this year so as well phantom maker record i can make it in new zealand and i just moved to new zealand and we stayed there for seven months. It was so unbelievable but you are seven months in new zealand with him. Frolicking in like mad. Bliss of love must beautiful country in the world. Yes that's exactly what it was and it is worth their build your relationship on yet and it was because i didn't know one person they're like nick was only i've literally moved across the world. It was only like. I'm very lucky that i was sure about him. You know like it sounds like a reckless thing to do. But i was like nothing was going to stop me and it was because we didn't have our families. Friends any no distractions. We just got to know each other so well and you've got a normal life because there is no kobe. Did you move really about the country. it was. I mean so lucky. A one place. It really had no cogut beautiful like clean place in the world. It's like super uninhibited in so many areas. Well that's what's so cool about new zealand. First of all the people are so you don't realize like how tight you are as an american league goes somewhere else and then you're like why do i top. So who mine was shrinking yet. They just don't take themselves as serious free and Best sense of they remind me 'cause i'm half australian my mom's australian so they remind me of my australian cousins just like so cool down to earth Practical just fun. And and then it's i think hard of the reason that it's so beautiful is because the population is so small like there's only five million people in the entire country And so there's you can be an auckland which is where we were base and you can drive an hour in any direction and be where there are. No people like on a beach with no people and you just can't can't have that in america anymore. So it's really so beautiful there. What and six what time it works. Yeah about so my next. I don't want to give away too much but my next album is a lot about my time in new zealand in a log the videos were filmed in new zealand. Abba song coming out next month. That has a lot of handmade iphone. Agent nick our adventures in new zealand. So my god and loic love the way. You're living your life because it's so inspiring. And i hope everyone listening. I have a little faith. That late trusting your gut near passion trusting your intuition knowing your priorities As he said can really guide you beautiful wind might knowing where you wanna go within like you said hoping it openly and let the pieces fall the takes a lot of lip like that you know it dies in there so much that we can't control so it's hard especially control but i do really strongly believe that there is no one who couldn't better their lives by paying more attention to their inner world and making like their happiness of stillman a higher priority on in their life like there's no one who can't a better day today if they do that and I know there's so many people in so many different challenges and different things but like everyone can be that It will pay off. Pays off so i always end. You've kind of been inspiring this whole time. But i always end with leader light and it's super open ended. What do you want people to know. My gosh well. I'm going to speak to myself too. Because i always. It's not like i know this Everybody else like trying to learn this every day. But i really wish that people now that i knew all the time that we are fundamentally good right and we should operate from not place than a bit. Something's wrong with us. Lackey me constantly have to be making or it that were good and right and were meant talbot. Beautiful life more meant to feel good in. We're meant trust ourselves Allowed trust ourselves. Like i always try to remind myself of Because i do think it inherently we are good in right caroline. You're so inspired in wise. You sweet very also. You've been around for many lifetimes. I can tell you know you know stuff. You've got a lot of wisdom. Thank you very much i.
"caroline" Discussed on Get Real -w- Caroline Hobby
"Not crazy. And that nichols light okay. There's you know pretty singer whatever. Thanks mom would. I didn't think about it and then over the next few months popping up In like his friend group. Or i don't know he would like seema name face or whatever long story short he found out there yet. A mutual friend. And so will you set me up with you try to have unique caroline and so this friend that we have started texting 'cause at first she was like i don't know currently doesn't really date. She's like super career focus. She's always on tour she. I don't know if that's gonna happen. Bob on the you know what you might be the only person that sharon might actually be so then she got really into it and she's already texting me like i know you're a mary. I know your husband was this is yeah you're so in sync with your like source. I'm telling you well wage lease Recipes i really wasn't i was like whatever like i literally could not have been laxed interested and this is a lie. I just have so much faith that when something's right you almost cannot mess it up because i literally did everything i could to ignore my friend and nick. For maybe like two and a half solid months and finally choose a contentious. Give this guy or number. Like i'm so sick of trying to do this on so secretary china you on a day and then he started bothering me. Bala this person. Once i can just tell jane i did it. She won't think a horrible person. You lied exit with you. Did you feel that when he was taxing or was it kinda like i wasn't in that place like i wasn't even remotely interested. Did you think it was in pictures. I didn't even. She sent me pictures of him. I didn't look twice late. Clermont and so then. I literally did it as like a last. Just cross off the checklist and then becoming. A citizen of the modern tyler. Can you tell sorry shawn. And so finally. I met as person one day And we met in downtown it. I swear it was like it. Was we work. It wasn't like love at first sight but it was like we were best friends like right it just like talking for hours and hours and hours and hours just fell in love very quickly after that and like god could not have if you scripted like the perfect person for me. You should not come up with this person will. He's a sailor sailing boats yes so he sales around the world on shore. He doesn't do it as much anymore. Used to do these falbo around the world racing so now he does like shorter smaller racist. Those were really really intense He did four their yearlong races. Where you literally sale from like africa to spain spain to wear like just around the whole world your officer stupor abstract in your life plans which i love. So he's a sailor. He's a perfect blend. I would need someone exactly like this. He's a perfect blend of very smart and very emotionally aware but also super sane and practical got very hard blend signed in a man because normally like the really smart manley stable. Practical men are not like we'll yeah exactly and so he's just like a perfect blend of that for me and he's just has the biggest heart. I mean i could go on forever. I love him so much. I felt as my dad said. I bowled like a cheap suit. I just felt so hard. I really found the one. I'm so lucky. That's so awesome. Okay yeah i'm gonna wrap up soon. I love talking to you win when you look back on your life and you are jimmy buffett at seventy five years old reflecting back on your career. What do you hope it played out. Like maybe not exactly play by play. What are you hooked. General feeling of your life has been gosh These are such great questions. Thank you. I hope that i can say that. I really filled mike attentional as musician and a great person and inspired people along the way in not just my audience but hopefully other musicians and other creative people that got to collaborate west Enrich their life. Inspired them in some way and.
"caroline" Discussed on Get Real -w- Caroline Hobby
"I felt like someone who put me like electrocuted me. Every night go on stage is life first tour. We just literally like the entire show. I would just feel like like i. It wasn't even it's beyond adrenaline. I don't know how to explain it. And i remember when not wore off Will last forever. And it's just funny. It's like years later actors so much. Calmer onstage And probably less nervous than i have been which i think is cool. Maybe i'm becoming more confident or more able to go with the flow. I used to be very like have to have the set down after everything. Perfect like judging every single thing is there's a little bit of first of all less of the weight is on you because you're not the front person and then secondly there's a little bit there's a degree to which you just have to let go because all those guys have so decades and decades more experience collectively than i do and they might change their and they're gonna coal mehanna take me along for the ride and i just feel lucky that they kind of take care means under their wings so It's actually a really cool experience. So far but fenway is always amazing. And i got jackson family and friends areas. Billy's official so every artist. Obviously you are bad bone. You're so talented. You have such a vision in. You deserve this spot in this opportunity more than anyone. But why do you think zack round shows you to take you under his wing and develop you and bringing along and give you these experiences and really like neutral you as you said you dreamed while i think. What's what do you think was the reason he picked you. Well actually johnson justice instrumental. Jimmy buffett has done similarly and learning like. They really are Well they to answer your first question. Why he brought me on this tour It's a weird question to answer. I mean obviously he thinks that can add something. Hope adding a cool female harmony that they usually don't get up top And some hopefully just really my goal with stories just like super solid insistent rhythm guitar playing irvine play banjo. Electric at it's very solid consid- just adds to the foundation of what they have so much. Virtuosity going on and their arrangements or so set in stone so Clearly he thinks that can add something. And i'm just trying to do that justice And you know it's cool to have email energy out there too. I think And then jimmy mentoring.
"caroline" Discussed on Get Real -w- Caroline Hobby
"Believe it. I was so excited since i'm So at the helm of my own career. It's such a cool refreshing gig to have to be in in the wheel of someone else's you know ban and and to really commit myself to learning their whole catalog with the hex learn fifty one songs and they changed their set lists every night and and to really dedicate myself to rhythm guitar playing. Which mostly what. I'm doing a show and that such a like deceiving lee simple thing but like great acoustic rhythm retired playing is especially in a band like this It's just been so fun to focus on not again and It's just a blast. Like i feel so honored to be up there with them. I pinch myself every night I had to learn be three. So i've never played. I'm really comfortable. Linke's by never played the oregon before so i'd like a crash course. Kazak was like will you. He's like you've played three right. I'm like but i will by august a crash course in three in accident so cool so it's just a great musical challenge. I feel really lucky. 'cause i love musical challenges like all in want in light superpower better musicians songwriters producers that i just want to be a better artist and so it's so cool that sack Has given me this opportunity. And so what does that. What the what is the feeling because you obviously played for big crowds as caroline jones as you're open for big artists. What does it feel like to be to be feeling the feeling of superstar artists though like being on stage background not disband being an integral part of the show. How does that feel to just feel that superstar energy coming at you. Audience is that is it. different is the same will. You're right it is different because there's a real Like meeting of energy in expectation that you get when you're the person ever comes to see you know versus weird opener. You're really trying to win over the audience your energy and so it is different. But i'd i've sat in with them over the years a bunch of times so i know kind of what they're ho said at stages in what that feels like but i will say it's really cool to be to not have to be the front man for once because a really got to focus on the guitar playing and singing in harmonies and rhythm section like there's so much going on it's hard to explain for people who haven't ever performed before but there's so much going on like in a band of that size of nine people there's just so much like musical richness and information that you could be listening to all the time even if the audience were there you you'd be all occupied like your brain and your heart your musical Brain heart and then there's twenty five thousand people out there and they're all having a similar but unique experiences and you can with the people watching. It's unbelievable so it's actually so cool. Because when i'm performing as the front person internally jones i'm i'm thinking about my vote on thinking about performing i'm thinking about playing. I'm thinking about leading the ban of onstage. Live is totally different. Yeah exactly and so. It's been really cool actually so far. I've i've million joy. Were you nervous that first night. They not play fenway park. I mean let's not forget that again. You played that round when he had the most consecutive sold out nights in a row match. Or yeah okay. you're playing again. What does that the first time. He stepped on stage as a special performer. Guest batman For this tour. What did you feel like. Did you like dislike energized. But our fis flying your ears. I mean what. Was it like. Absolutely i think i don't know if it's experienced our age i feel like i'm more calm than i've ever been which is really cool because i remember the first four was act like i literally every night i felt. Just you can't explain what it's like being put in front of ten or fifteen twenty thousand people like. I felt like someone who put me like electrocuted me. Every night go on stage is life first tour. We just literally like the entire show. I.
"caroline" Discussed on Get Real -w- Caroline Hobby
"So how do you know what your next step is. I always love people like you. Who are so in tune with like their guy regarded system from above unlike trusting. Their gut intuition. And clearly you have identified your dreams and talents and your drive and you're passionate a young age. You know you wanted to do for a long time. The more puzzle pieces that you found like the bluebird and realizing his country musee you died farther and farther into your passionate curiosity and love. because that's the sole guiding you. But how no when you have the green light to take that next step. When you are trusting and i love way said holding it open letting it having your visualization What your heart in your soul is telling you that you want to do but then like leading the pieces fall. I love that so much relates that how do you know when it's time to make moot. But what does it feel like when you all of sudden like. Oh my god. This is the next i feel it. I think it feels like the most natural thing. Like i think so. Many people just don't trust themselves and don't trust what feels good to them because we're not really taught in this culture that what feels good to you is right like or that being happy and fulfilled is ultimately the goal. You know we're taught to all these other. Trappings of success successor. The goal. so. I think once you get really clear about your priorities. I think the next step is usually pretty obvious natural. I think it's only when i get my priorities out of order that i get confused and unsure of myself like when other people convince you that this should be a priority sir. You realize that you're living for this or this or this instead of your values like i think if you're really clear about your values and what you actually want then you can go. That's not to say that. Any external success. Trappings wrong because if that is your word that is your old than just go straight ahead that an has its own challenges but i think being cleared. I think so many of us especially women which so so commonly second guessing ourselves you know. An- not trusting ourselves not like really living for what's going to fulfil us and then by extension everyone around us so this is awesome that you know all this. How did you get this. How did you get this confidence when you go into therapy to get this or were you born into family. That likes top. This or was just innately. How were they. How did you know this in. What are your priorities in like. What is your clarity that allows you to stay moving on the skull without like looking left right and feeling like you might get lost in the traffic comparison or trying to live for what someone else ones or feel. Like you've had her a cow does have gotten sidetracked by all of that in state clear on your priority during your career because sure. There's a lot of chances that you could have tried to jump ship in like abandoned. The road you're on and kinda gore mainstream or you know do something of feels like could be quicker to success but you have staged their true. So what are your priorities in. How did you learn these well. I'm very step. For.
"caroline" Discussed on Get Real -w- Caroline Hobby
"Appello. Caroline's do you get like carolyn all the time caroline all the time people like is a carolina thrilling. And i don't really understand. Because i clearly why n. Right yet it's so obviously. Why end so if it's irony. I don't understand why that's using to people. But people always as a carolina caroline. I know we have the word line in our name. I'm mike it's actually the word. Yes i do get along. But do you have to love being a carolina do i like the name caroline and actually we just played anyway ten days ago when we played caroline and i love his own i too i mean i know. I know it's very cliche but it's cliche for reasons. Such a great lyric and beautiful song and actually love. Neil diamond so oh yeah i I feel like it's like a common name but it's not a common name. There's a lot of us. But i also feel like we're there sparse now. I don't feel like there's an overwhelming amount of caroline dot there but it's not like a weird day you know. Yeah i like it. I'm used to it. what can i say. what's your nicknames. What people call your nickname. Cj earn jones. You've always been cj. I think so. Yeah i think i've always been. Cj nan My fiancee barbera. Lines bar baron. Barbie barbarian but do you find that sexy. I find it endearing sightseeing leslie. Poking fun at me is that mike. What does that mean is it. Because you're active and like you can really rocket. I suppose i can be a little bit abrasive or blunt. I'm kind of. I can be very honest in a way that may be learnt you stu and i i don't know i guess i am unique in certain ways that other people find funny or bizarre elaborate. This is interesting i just. I'm trying to be co at start. He'd probably barbieri line like a some examples would be if i'm not that into a party or social settings I just tend to like up and leave or something like that. And i don't. It doesn't occur to me that that's not right. That's not what you're the queen the hillbilly slip. I am a little bit yet. And and i used to do it. When are single is just not in a big twice man. When i have someone with may now. He's like what the hat like things like that. He started calling me barbaric. And i think the way that i eat sometimes. I just shoveled shovel. Things like avar varian job. You are like he after. Like like game on sorry. Wait revere question your food shows up. Is it like game on. If i'm hungry i'm very protective of it and also i get very angry so if if i'm very angry out i think he just calls me a barber line is i'm i'm i can be very tough. I can be a little bit abrasive Which is funny. Because i feel like my music is not necessarily like that. I'm not i think when you. I think i'm a very independent minded fiery person. I also think when you start to run your own business like as an independent artists. You have to become a bit like that in..
Prince Harry, Meghan Reportedly Considered Naming Racist Royals
"Meghan markle and prince. Harry almost exposed royal that they claim maybe racist remarks before their son archie bursts but they said that detail would be extraordinarily damaging the duke and duchess of suspect Sussex made the claims that an unnamed royal asked about how dark their unborn child could potentially be and megan made that initial revelation with oprah following up by asking harry if she would name the royal and of course. He didn't well in an updated edition of the biography. Finding freedom authors opened. Scooby and caroline duran alleged that the couple did actually consider sharing. Who during their interview with oprah but it was meghan who shut down the idea and she said to oprah face it would literally ruin this person's lifelock. Nobody would ever look at them in the same. Harry made it very clear after the interview. That person was not queen. Elizabeth prince philip the updated edition of the books set to be published next week and also alleges that members of the royal family were very happy. That mega missed prince philip's funeral in april because they feared to would create a spectacle essentially if she showed up So like lots of new little tidbits being added to this book. If you wanna check it out again next week. When that comes
How Sex and Mental Health Are Connected With Dr. Sherry Ross OB/GYN
"This before people don't talk enough about situa health and it needs to be spoken about. It sought some something that we should be hiding something that should be absolutely open and honest about sir. What's the easiest way to help. People understand six health mental health and being a woman in enjoying six year at well and this is so important. I mean here. Here's the problem. Is that our sexual. Health is kind of a barometer for our mental health. If you think about it it's it's so true because we're just not talking about the subject enough in because mental mental health effects so many women depression anxiety and when you think about the stages of our sexual response right desire is is the most important thing right if you don't have desire right that's the starting line and of course if you have anti-depression or anxiety the desire is not there like that's the last thing you're thinking about right absolutely absolutely will your brain is your mind is going to change your brain and if your mind is worrying about stuff too brain is just going to go hand in hand with leave your mind is doing and then your body just listens to the brain so everything of shuts down so yeah that is so important and you know and it's such it's so interesting because men and women i mean we are we are so night and day in every way but especially when it comes to our you know what really turns this on what organ needs to be stimulated the most right is our our brain. It's above the shoulders. And so this is where men and women really differ in. Why if anyone that has any mental issues as it relates to depression or anxiety. You know they they don't. They're not interested. There's no desire so might. My approach is always. Let's talk about it. let's ask you know. I always ask my patients right. The legs go up. Stir up in. I wanna know how how. How sex are you having orgasms by yourself with your partner or are you enjoying them. You know you having any issues. You wanna talk about or share. Because it's just it's very awkward conversation even for doctors.
"caroline" Discussed on Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations
"How can i really make the best of it so i went to a seminar that caroline mace was leading and she spent over forty five minutes with me one on one doing a medical intuitive reading of my body. The only thing that that i told caroline was that i had not been feeling well for a long time and then she looked at me and said you're disease started when you were five. What happened when you were five. And i looked at her and utter disbelief. And i said that's the year my brother got sick very suddenly caroline says that year changed ellen's entire being. Joey was nine months old. And i was five. He wasn't feeling well one night and so my mom gave him some baby aspirin and the next morning. Joey would not wake up. He was in what the doctors called vegetable state. He died three days before my eighth birthday. I made an internal packed with my brother. I told him that for the rest of my life. I would be sad and from that day on ellen. Says she lived in fear. I believe that for me. My fibromyalgia syndrome was simply frozen. Fear and caroline has helped me to see that as a young kid that the belief patterns that i had became trapped in the cells of my body and she also said your disease started in your legs. And i looked at her and said absolutely what i have now is a sense of freedom that i am really not ultimately in control of my cure. I am in control of whether i heal my spirit. And when i kill my spirit.
Eating to Prevent Muscle Loss as We Age
"So we teach real food nutrition to middle aged adults and seniors Who want to have better health as they age. And i believe that people generally know that what they eat affects every aspect of their life without question. Your nutrition certainly affects your body and your brain so today we went to discuss. How nutrition affects your muscles. And if you go to the gym you may be told. It's all about the exercise. Well yes exercise definitely helps but you really need nutrition to support what you're doing in the gym We especially need to eat sufficient amounts of protein to build and maintain the muscle. Yeah you know when. I was preparing for this class today or this this radio studio event in the day i found out that ten percent of adults over fifty years of age lose muscle mass and this is called. We're losing muscle mass. It's called sarka opinion. And why is that important. Well it's important because it decreases your life expectancy and your all overall quality of your life and after middle age. We adults lose three percent of our muscle strength every year on average and say that again caroline as really important yeah after middle age adults lose three percent of muscle strength every year on average. And you were telling me before we came in studio today about your experience as a trainer. What what were you saying about that. Well i used to teach fitness. And i've learned from you know. The research is that we are either losing muscle or gaining muscle. Muscle is not static and never stays the same. So while you're sitting there you're either. Losing muscle are gaining muscle. So it's important that if you know the old message if you don't use it you lose it right there's truth yeah so you know as your body ages. It becomes more resistant to those growth signals for your muscles. And that's going to result in the muscle loss. So not only. Is this balanced diet that we're going to be talking a lot about today with adequate protein and calories right yes necessary for maintaining that
How Money Really Got Invented
"How did money got invented so the story. Is you know before we had money. We were just sort of stuck in this unfortunate situation where we had to trade with each other all the time. This is alana. Strauss a producer at national geographic's podcast overheard so person number. One would be a butcher and they'd have meat person number two knew how to make furniture. And you know if if you were someone who had meat and you wanted a chair. But the chair maker didn't need meet at the moment. You just couldn't get a chair and who super inconvenient everyone was just like sitting around unable to get things but of course. Humans are quite inventive. We've talked about that on the show a lot so we figured out solution money so money. Is this amazing invention that comes around where you can ever has money and you can use that as a go-between. Hey i wanna chair right now. I don't have anything you want but here you go. Here's some money you can use that to eggs or whatever else you want and it'll all come around in the future great story. The problem is that it is just that a story it's not true for decades anthropologists have been studying the economic systems of different cultures through history and in nineteen eighty five dr caroline humphrey pointed out that. No one had ever actually documented an example of a pure barter economy. Nobody operates on this barter system. Like it's just not a real thing that anyone uses because leg. He said he would be so inconvenient. Like why would any like people were just like walking around like walking into walls before we came up with like modern ideas you know instead. One system that we know people operated under was a gift economy. These things might sound like the same thing right. Bartering gifting what's the difference so it gift economy is much more flexible right. First of all people aren't just like atomic thomas in a vacuum right like it's probably a friend or a family member someone in your community so when you have a relationship with besides just like this purely kind of economic ebay style thing and if if someone around you need something you're gonna wanna help them out. You know if the butcher needs a chair and you make chairs like the is probably your neighbor and like you have a bunch of chairs because you make chairs and you give them a chair and you know that your community in general is always helping you right like the woman down. The street gave eggs last week and got meat from the butcher a month ago. You probably already do this with your friends and family and community right. If somebody that you know needs something you help them out and you know that if you need something in the future. They're going to help you out.
The Benefits of Clearing Your Energy and Feelings with Caroline Perez
"Every time you have an emotion or traumatic than our life challenge. Economy creates a stress. Not in deals. Can you imagine like a bunch of stress knots and think of them as almost like a kink in a garden hose. So we're not like you know taking anything or moving all we're doing is on kingking allowing stop flow and we create these things sometimes with our thoughts and feelings so we have three choices when we have a feeling we can get swept away by a we can suppress it. We can let it go and usually what creates the knots. more is when we suppress it. Are we get sucked away by it right. So it's important to start to look feelings. Ask just information. I love to think of it in this way. So like you know if you walk into a room. That's just been painted and you can smell those teams are like ooh. I don't like that doesn't smell good. It's just information it's telling me know someone just painted here okay. It's okay. I'm not gonna freak out similar with a feeling like if we suddenly feel some anger if we just look at information Okay it's interesting really angry right now Because in our bodies really only feel it feeling for ninety seconds it only goes longer because of the stories the things we start an magin just letting it go at acknowledging it or even get curious and just like yeah. This is anger. it's not gonna be forever we'll pass right and just not getting swept away so another way to think about it is if feelings of balloon in it's coming up so it's like oh my god. I'm feeling the anger out. Right a key technology and be like okay. Get curious but not to grab the string in get sucked away away for days other things. Suppressing it in so like holding it down and you can imagine energy to suppress all these balloons. If you have all these balloons like it's you know it's exhausted. Physically feel that but then man just leading a up in letting it rise and let it go. You know it can take practice. We're not all perfect neglect epa thinking. You've a of our feelings. As just information into getting curious without nearly judgment can really help keep us balanced to
Brainwaves: The Difference Between the Mind & Brain
"I love talking about brainwaves and under that sounds crazy but brainwaves are so beautiful because brainwaves are like visual evidence of the fact that our mind is functioning and their mind is working they were alive and we had these and basically a brainwave is the energetic response the response of the brain to thinking feeling and choosing so thinking feeling and choosing his mind and we are always thinking feeding in choosing so mind is always in action so that means that our brain is constantly responding twenty four seven because our mind is working twenty four seven the different parts of the mind or working in different ways twenty four seven and the brain is responding in jd. Clean twenty four seven so these energy going through the brain so the mind is separate from the brain as you've heard me say many times the mind is how you think feeling ch- choose and as energetic force brain is the physical substance and the brain response to the mind but he has another way of looking at it the brain and body or how we experience on. Mind sir right now as you listening to me your ability to actually respond to me and understand me and experienced these feelings and emotions and apply this knowledge. That is your mind moving through your brain in your body. So you are experiencing your mind in your brain and your body so we use brain and body to experience or mind. Mind is the driving force behind getting the brain and the body to respond so brain many ways we can look at this but brainwave to what. I'm going to talk about today because just having a little. Bit of understanding of brainwaves is just another way of seeing how how phenomenon powerful we are and also give as her with this whole concept of mind management.
Controlling Your Temperature With Ecobee
"Thanks for joining us today. Caroline and i have a great guest today. We got cory fox with echo kobe. Welcome to the house brother. Thank sir appreciate. Hey hey hey yeah. This is awesome. I'm familiar with your product. My last house. I took one other product. That i won't mention it out and put yours in because it was working well and your guises rocked it. It was awesome. We not not surprising. It's If i had more fingers and toes there are so many stories of folks that i have met over the years who have any go be It's really really interesting. And that spans the gamut from folks who work at utilities to homeowners to a lot of people who work in the trade so it's a really good product. What's let's reset the stage here for everybody out there. That goes watson e kobe because we all know what it is. But there's so many people out there that have that nineteen seventy two thermostat and they keep swiping it left and right to change the temperature and that's all it does and they have no idea what the rest of the world is like. Yeah no thanks for that tia. So e koby is a smart home company. They're headquartered out of toronto canada and the flagship product that will probably spend the majority of the time talking about today that most people are are familiar with with our brand is smart thermostat so backing We launched a under our spiritual leader. Stuart lombardo alar launch the first smart thermostat The company has scaled and grown significantly From them so that's what we are known for There's a lot of things that we do with the smart thermostat and then some of the products that we've come to market with over the years
Why Our Emotional Health Should Be Our First Priority
"Today we're discussing. Why are emotional. Health should be our first priority. Welcome back nanga. Haitian always lovely to record a new podcast with you and today. I think that our conversation about emotional health is going to be so helpful for all who listen in because often are emotional. Health is pushed on the back burner and it really needs to be put at the front of the line. Yeah it's the thing we live through. We live by our emotions and we feel colors. Everything in my life. And ira veda told me the emotional. A mental wellbeing comes first before the herbs. Actually there's a hierarchy of of hailing in ira- vita which goes at the top of the list emotional a mental wellbeing then diet and lifestyle then herbs because if we're suffering with our emotions affects everything affects our ability to take medicines take herbs to digest. Our food affects everything it really does. And i love the quote that you found for us this week by dr caroline leaf. That says you can eat all the organic kale in the world. But if you don't heal your mind you're still gonna feel unhealthy and that is incredibly true. Yeah and then i reverted teaches that we're not what we eat. Where what we digest so even the healthiest food becomes unhealthy. It can even become toxic to us if we eat when we're angry or upset then you know again. We can be to really healthy meal. But it's how digesting it if we stressed anxious angry or upset we're not going to digest it well in it's not gonna service for so emotional health i
"caroline" Discussed on Dr. Caroline Leaf
"Hi, I'm Dr Caroline leaf and welcome to my part cost each week. I focus on topics related to maintain health and discuss ways to help you deal with issues like anxiety depression. Shame guilt, PTSD and more. I've spent the last thirty years, researching the mind brain connection and mental health, I worked with patients who suffered from traumatic brain injuries struggled with anxiety battled with learning issues and often worked with families to resolve major relationship and communication problems in this part cost you will hear the advice, I gave to my patients and take Knicks developed and used to help them. Find healing. My goal is to give you some pool effective and practical tips and tools to help you take control over your mental emotional and physical health. Before I begin today's discussion I want to just take a moment to thank everyone who has supported this part cost either by leaving a review spreading the word sharing episodes with friends and family. And posting about this part cost on social media. I love reading reviews and learning how I can make this podcast, even more helpful like this review, from a listener, I have battled mental illness for twenty years and was thrown into the psychiatric system. When I was a young high school girl, fighting for my sanity at my worst. I was on at least seven different psychotropic medications to cope with daily life over the past two years, I had been on a healing journey to find her Listrik and alternative solutions to get to the root of my symptoms and become the wife, mother friend and individual God has called me to be in this world. Doctor leaves work is validating, empowering inspiring, and practical at will make all the difference in your life. Thank you for your courageous. Call. Doc to leave keep spreading this valuable message. Thank you so much..
"caroline" Discussed on Dr. Caroline Leaf
"Hi, I'm Dr Caroline leaf and welcome to my part cost each week. I focus on topics related to maintain health and discuss ways to help you deal with issues like anxiety depression. Shame guilt, PTSD and more. I've spent the last thirty years, researching the mind brain connection and mental health I worked with patients who suffer from traumatic brain injuries struggled with anxiety battled with learning issues and often work with families to resolve major relationship and communication problems in this part cost you will hear the advice I gave to my patients and take Knicks developed and used to help them. Find healing. My goal is to give you some pool effective and practical tips and tools to help you take control over your mental emotional and physical health. Before I begin today's discussion I want to just take a moment to thank everyone who has supported this part cost either by leaving a review spreading the word sharing episodes with friends and family. And posting about this part cost on social media. I love reading reviews and learning how I can make this podcast, even more helpful like this review from Ozzy. Go your part costs are so powerful so many times the words hit right in that moment of need, and really changed. My mindset, such clear and understandable teachings on how minds and brains work, and how we can improve thank you so much for sharing with us. Thank you article. And now back to today's part cost. Today, we are going to discuss how to help someone who just won't listen and to just doesn't.
"caroline" Discussed on Dr. Caroline Leaf
"Hi, I'm Dr Caroline leaf and welcome to my part cost each week. I focus on topics related to maintain health and discuss ways to help you deal with issues like anxiety to pression shame guilt, PTSD, and more. I've spent the last thirty years, researching the mind brain connection and mental health, I worked with patients who suffered from traumatic brain injuries struggled with anxiety battled with learning issues and often worked with families to resolve major relationship and communication problems in this part cost you will hear the advice, I gave to my patients and take Knicks developed and used to help them. Find healing. Michael is to give you some pool effective and practical tips and tools to help you take control over your mental emotional and physical health. Before begin today's discussion I want to take a moment to thank everyone who has supported this part cost either by leaving a review spreading the word sharing episodes with friends and family. And posting about this part cost on social media. I love reading reviews and learning how I can make this podcast, even more helpful like this review from E eight five to six amazing practical steps in doctor leaves episodes, Datta leaf. I listened to your dainty fine. The root of anxiety episode and was able to talk myself out of an executive tech in five minutes by plying your steps when it usually takes twenty to sixty minutes. I was also able to identify the root of dang Zyrtec by doing the funnel sip of asking further questions, and editing. My written response. It was linked to an issue that happened over twenty years ago. Thank you so much for sharing. These applicable steps that really were. Work. Thank you Ellie. I'm so pleased at help too. Now back to today's podcast today on going to discuss teen simple and practical, mental self-care take Niks to keep your brain healthy and reducing Zayed's. I stop stressing about not getting enough sleep. Feel of not getting enough sleep is actually more dangerous than not sleeping. And with all the media around how dangerous wind how bad for your brain. Lack of sleep is it can be quite easy to get fearful about not sleeping? It's also often when you lying bid at night, and you disparately tired, and you Congo to sleep. What is a base away to manage sleep before dive into that? I just want to tell you what sleep does sleep helps brain body, and mind regenerate. So when you go to sleep, you kind of go into housekeeping mode, where your brain is cleaned up your body's seen that we generate cells and kind of prepare for the next day when we talk about managing sleep. We need to make sure that we do get enough sleep in order for this region ration- to happen. But the thing is, is that we all have to look at the context of our life, and depending on where we all in what context of our life, we in stage of life would be going through that is going to. Kicked, her sleep said anyone moment, we need to consider how busy we are. What are we eating diet? Like, what are we going through emotionally that moment? All you managing your talks thoughts tumors at Sitra because those things will definitely affect the quality of your sleep in how much you sleep in how deeply sleep. And so on. So to manage sleep. One of the first tips to manage sleep is number one darn fear that you won't sleep. And what is doing to brain, because the fear will cause more damage, and but one Secondly, look at the context of your life. Look diets look at the medications that you look at the business, the stage of life at two in workwise, maybe children, wise combination. How busy you are. And the third thing is all you dealing with your toxic issues. One of the main things that keeps people away, could not is a mind. That's chaotic a mind. We you feel everything's unresolved. So you go to bed with mass of chaos of have got to do this. I haven't done that. And I don't know how to do this, and I'm worried about that. And I haven't dealt with this and as you fall into sleep met Patten that talks energy, moving through brain, which is little quantum, toxic energy, moving through brain, which is literal, electromagnetic, and chemical chaos in your brain doesn't allow your body to go into the stages of sleep that you need. So you're not going to resolve everything by the time you go to beat, but you can make a determination how to go into the leap state. So you could say something to solve lack, I'm going accountable this now. But she all the problems that are wearing meet write them down. And I'm gonna sold this tomorrow next week over the next few days, and that sort of brings a closure that allows you to compartmentalize and allows you to go into steep, so it's not as chaotic and dealt with staff. Don't Saprissa don't pretend. It's not bring it out. Writer close the book compartmentalize at. Let's say that now you've done that, and you still betting to sleep. So it may be a good idea in the next coming days to raise to diet medications, and they look at the label of business. If you eating the wrong food, you can trace that I have a book thinking, each yourself, smarted can help you that if you are in terms of business mabul think Lewin, succeed addresses techniques on how to do z well, how to make sure that you give your
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"Hi, I'm Dr Caroline leaf. And welcome to my part cost. Just before we begin. I want to take a moment to thank everyone who has shared the word about my part cost who support mean so much to me. I also want to thank everyone who's lived to review. One last thing before we begin. I would love to invite you to Twenty-nine teen mental health solutions summit this year in Dallas, Texas, December six and seven this conference is going to be amazing in this conference. I will be teaching you how to overcome mental health issues like, anxiety, and depression and OCD. I'm also going to be talking about how to help teens and children with mental health issues. How to improve memory hotter? Dainty find the final unique identity grain avoid burnout, manage stress heart take care of your physical body hatch improve STI to deal with chaotic thinking and more. This summit is everyone teaches Hosters parents see owes entrepreneurs doctors lawyers life coaches, everyone for more information and to register visit doctor leaf conference dot com. We will also be offering see us NC in east. So this. Conference. So let's get back to today's topic. Why do we keep making the same mistakes over and over again, even though we know it's wrong. So why do we keep making the same mistakes over and over again, one of the reasons and is a few on Gun Talk partner. I reason is that if you just brush off the mistake. So it said that you make a mistake you respond in the wrong way or you do something. And you just brush it off you don't pay any attention to it because you not being rig self-regulatory intentional Abacha's sinking. If you do that. Then it basically passes into subconscious into unconscious mind in Nettie situation arises, and you do it again. And then you do it again. And then you do it again in over time. You have practiced it and it's become a habit. And so if you just brush off a mistake, you don't pay attention to it doesn't mean it's going away because every time in order to done at you've spent time building into brain. And then in order to make that mistake. You've. Then activated that and paid attention to it. So given that mistake structure in your brain more energy. So they fought not a non existent thing. You actually growing something in your brain cer- brushing aside, mistakes neighbor, good idea, we need to be very intentional about off thinking as you've heard me say so many times we need to constantly do mental autopsies chop apart. We saying what we thinking feeling and doing we need to get that self-regulation because if we don't AMI just brushed mistakes aside, they just growing, and then we ultimately that behavior we make automatic. And then your brain has now changed, and it's now, sir. It's a solid structure in your brain. And now it's going to take more time to break down. So the more you practice at the moment brush aside, the stronger actually gates 'cause you keep doing it. As the first point don't brush aside. It's going to grow the next thing that will next reason why we keep making the same stakes over. And over again is that we don't bring fully into our witness the triggers that are maybe initiating those mistakes, we making it's always a reason behind whatever we say what we do with at school bed. So there's a reason for that mistake, and there's a trigger. So these calls, and is a trigger so bad becoming very away. We can find the cause of why we react like that. While we making that mistake, and we can find the triggers that activated as to to make that mistake. And once, you know, the cause in the triggers, you can actually start fixing them because then you can look at the causes, and you can be proactive and cut away of managing and fixing that cause and then you can also be proactive about being aware of the triggers and in doing something about those triggers. So you become very proactive. So the second problem to reiterate is not being aware enough of the causes and the triggers not intentionally and deliberately choosing to sink one. My making this mistake. What is the cause? What is the trigger? The surgeries in while. We keep making the same mistake over and over is that it's easier to go back to bed habits because we've practicing it's less energy required. It's more comfortable to to move towards the familiar baseless effort, but that isn't necessarily a good thing. Because if it is what is how we grow and moving towards the things that are discussed. There are uncomfortable is actually good because it forces you look deep inside yourself to sink deep into make those changes in to grow to prove your brain structure, new mid to health Citra. So it may be easier. But is that a good be practice? It so many times we've both that into a brain. It's a familiar structure just because it's familiar and easier to go back to doesn't make good people often will make coming to me in in the in the nature of the point of this made back will that's the two. I n no it's not to you are it's you have become because it is a mistake that is hurting. You and other people in some way than at something that needs to be changed, so the familiarity and the ease does not give it an excuse to keep it such excuse to keep it. It's it's it's it's a signal for you that you actually need to make the efforts to change it. The fourth reason while we get stuck in in making the same mistakes over gain is do you actually want to change how much do you want to change? Does. It worry you enough to even make the effort to change or you just actually contained with it. And you don't really Kate that pips perhaps the people in your environment would office family home, wherever it may be are actually reacting negatively or you it knowing that feedback from the people around you people in your relationship from environments, all you willing to put in the effort to respond to that feedback that you getting to the if interchange changing that heb, it's so that you change the reaction that you get your environment. So so good may be into a way of the frequency. If someone if people around you different people around you are reacting in the same way to something that you doing that is very strong evidence for you the two environments giving you that you need to change something. And that's where you have to decide how much do you want to change because at the end of the day? You getting feedback from people that you can see it's definitely affecting people negatively, but you're going to have to decide a cable I care enough to make the if it's to change how much do you want to change? Now, let's talk about what can we do to stop this to stop making the same mistake over and over again, the first thing is to recognize that the effort that goes into change takes time. And this is having a time mindset, which I talk about a lot in my book think learn and succeed. Tom mindset, basically deals with the fact that in order to make change takes time. We all know that. But science shows very clearly that to break down a back. No thinking heb, it takes sixty three days three cycles of Twenty-one. We find that to break down the cool heads takes about twenty one days and to build up replacement habit. But to void folding back into the bed mistake with a bed. Hepatic whatever you want to call it you need to consciously deliberately intentionally practice using the new way of thinking for least another forty two days. So takes us actually takes sixty three days to automate ties a habit to turn something into. A behavioral change that. You will carry out in your daily life that people will see manifesting that produces fruit whichever way you want to look at the time months. It's important. What we seize that? Most people give up around before five they one day two of making changes, always quite easy because we get a huge rush of different neurotransmitters in our brain, very motivational you feel driven and motivated, but these chemical subside around three and four and that they make the kind of flat. So a lot of people give up her on dates three four five. But if you push through three four five, and you keep working at the change, you will start seeing major feel and see the fix around seven and a fourteen and a twenty one you'll be very excited and in the system metro
"caroline" Discussed on Dr. Caroline Leaf
"Hi, I'm Dr Caroline leaf. And welcome to my part cost. Just before we begin. I want to take a moment to thank everyone who has shared the word about my part cost who support mean so much to me. I also want to thank everyone who's lived to review. One last thing before we begin. I would love to invite you to twenty nine teen mental health solutions summit this year in Dallas, Texas, December six and seven this conference is going to be amazing in this conference. I will be teaching you how to overcome mental health issues like, anxiety, and depression and OCD. I'm also going to be talking about how to help teens and children with mental health issues. How to improve memory hotter? Dainty find the final unique identity Patrick grain avoid burnout, manage stress hot take care of your physical body. Hatch improve Steve Archer deal with Kartik thinking and more. This summit is for everyone teaches pastas parents see entrepreneurs doctors lawyers life coaches, everyone for more information and to register visit doctor leaf conference dot com. We will also be offering see us NC in east. So this. Conference. And now this kit back to today's cost how to deal with social anxiety bit start by discussing what social anxiety is. And why do we feel this capacity social anxiety is having Arctic toxic thinking win around people in groups to the point where you feel very insecure and anxious and Philip cope and even frightened. Why do we feel this? That's you have a sensitive that happened since two very sensitive to what people are the how they looking at you what they saying in in your misreading that making a lot of a sumptiousness about what people are thinking about you by the body movements in verbal communication. They words, and you could be misreading out of stuff. So that's happening to the team. It could also be making a lot of assumptions about what people are thinking about you, which links to the happens to the team. Also, maybe over thinking over thinking that these thinking things that aren't even you may have absolute. To feel accepted, and you feel unaccepted to the you feel insecure. So you dispute to be accepted the net can make very socially anxious. It can put your brain into into a state of needing to avoid danger, which from your brain does what your mind tells it to do your brain is responding to your mind every product body, and your brain older cells are spending to you mind. So when you are being hypersensitive making a sumptuous about what people are thinking about you maybe over thinking situations when you're feeling unaccepted an insecure Betty's all energy that is moving through the brain. And the brain is responding and you're activating existing structural physical protein memories of all those feelings. So you activating them whatever you activate and think about growth, if you don't manage the situation, and every time you go back into social situation, you go through the same things again, you are making the physical memory stronger and stronger, so they had to become fullback memory. All the time. So we're gonna be talking about how to deal with we need to be aware of what's happening as we keep feeding the social anxiety memory stray real to structure brain. And if we keep growing, the movie think about energy, we give to it and on the structure in your brain. You may be some of the other things that could be contributing to the social anxiety are things that you may not feel good enough. And in you could ask yourself things that Iran for good enough. Does it mean for the group for the people to talk to the people then you have to ask us up? What are you basing values on the worst annual danger? You may feel like an outsider an immune. That's not an uncommon thing when you're going to new situations. But is the reality all you making an assumption. And is it so bad to be outside? And how can you come that? So these old little patterns that we need in value that we've created inside of all brains through our minds that are influencing how we handle that situation. People do different things to many social anxiety to very common ways to. Lead them to the stock not going to search environments to them as much as they possibly can unloaded people drink, which they say calms him down and it helps him to deal with the social anxiety. So this talk about how to deal with social anxiety. The very first thing is a win awareness that you are experiencing social anxiety is very key. So being able to make yourself I feel nervous not going to crowds. Or when I go to networking event on a meet new people need a specific what what is your way Innis off be specific at Saint, although sentences, although situations find them be aware of them admitting. Save him speak the knock down in the second thing. Ask yourself in on yourself and discuss with yourself so osc on to discuss what you're going to have a focused thinking reflection analysis of why you feel nervous when you go into crowded y feel nervous when you going to need wicked into why feel nervous when you meet new people Oscars of y on yourself. Why not feeding this find the reasons? And as you ask me why questions you'll get deeper and deeper so the first onto get kitschy to the needs to ask on discussed in osc on discuss that on certain osc on discuss it on send keep guy. Going into keep getting sent on. So all these sorts in sumptious real good or the healthy, these sorts of things that you need to ask yourself to. Maybe you find that you are avoiding going into social situations. I find I do have a little bit of social anxiety. When I go to a party, and they find out what I do. So in Ascii myself why I'm feeding this fund that were not answered myself as I really love helping people really loved talking about my work and the passion in the science and clinical trials and the mind rain connection eleven I love people elect talking about that. But to in at a party or edit a party and have just come off work. I'm pretty drained. So to that becomes a counseling session. We have really go to think deeply in help someone analyzing diagnose treat the problem. Once partaking very draining. And so I've had to learn to relax help you. But you know, what if you listen to a podcast? So maybe we can talk about as it another time in a just deflect the situation even off questions backs. In other words by becoming. A way of win. I can't handle it. I'm writing the STAN talking to with my husband on my kids or something I can reenergize what my triggers are. And I can work out a way of a solution meeting Ford, Saddam five states have become away. I have asked myself why off on discussed found the reasons and of worked at all these healthy on good and real sometimes unrealistic is is it healthy for me to keep on working in Denton party situation is healthy for me it healthy for the people. It's unrealistic for person to try and fix pumped win one shot. So it would be healthy for me to say that the real issue. I agree with you. You can't manage it carry recombine that you listen to this podcast. In other words, I in asking in finding the root in Oscar, myself wine, finding the root. I start seeing a solution at talking to someone writing down solution by going into the fourth stage. Which is we to edit process unaware of triggers and on the wave my my thinking pattern and on. Also away of now at way of sort of finding funding solution or way Ford. So the footstep is what's my action state to action state? How can replace the toxic sort of having a fear of going into social situation with positive healthy soil can manage his triggers are cannot learn technolog- the humanity. Others Honda focus, helping mass of learn from others and others. Learn from me, how can learn Tim Bryce, except that I will not be locked by giving a variety of of examples. How can I learn how can I keep in mind that most people are more focused on themselves than on me? And are not really looking at me. But looking at action needing help themselves or concern about how they coming off to other people and will also not necessarily remember everything that you said if you did something silly sit something silly 'cause they move focus on themselves. So always try to see something good in the person any gauge that all baby steps. So the way I manage that. Now, my action step is going into the situation thinking people focused on themselves. They just really need help. I don't have. To solve a problem. I can listen with compassion in reflecting to another podcast evening. Change the subject in aas questions about themselves because people love to talk about the kids what action steps so one of my action steps in his being put up boundries. It's been my action staple whom such social anxiety may not necessarily be the same. But I've had to put up boundaries in noon ways of the Senate in a very kind and gentle way keeps me connected with the people in during the people, but helps me to attaching turn it into concentration. So you need to find your action steps that are going to work for you baby steps. So in some how do you deal with social anxiety? Stick one awareness is key. Stick to office of why step three rat down talk to someone. Stay four reanalyze. What are the triggers? Stay five action state pocket replace these toxic sorts in a member of this baby steps like anything. It's. A change make you making your life. So it's good to take time. So just listening to this podcast is not gonna fix it. You're gonna have to listen to this a few times in practice baby steps at a time. Search going to going into groups more often increasing frequency of doing that increasing the length of time that you may be spending the group if you find your canoe lost ten minutes. Translate to twenty minutes all process of growth done behold on new software. Give yourself time as you refine and develop your coping strategies, and you'll find that you'll be able to create a a way of dealing with the suddenly one day, you realize that you no longer have a big problem with social anxiety because you now have the ability to manage hope this has been helpful Sammy some feedback. Let me know sinister view sift. If this has been helpful to you. So that I can continue to make podcast that will help you. Thank you for joining me today. I really hope you enjoyed this episode and learn something new unhelpful. Till next week. Thanks again. I'm Dr Caroline leaf.
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"Hi, I'm Dr Caroline leaf. And welcome to my part cost. Just before we begin. I want to take a moment to think everyone who has shared the word about my part cost who support means so much to me. I also want to thank everyone who's lived to review. I just want to give a quick shot. Archer Tiffany Thompson. Who said I am so thankful for this part cost. I listen weekly and encouraged changed by the information, provided it's clearly communicated and based on research well worth the time. Thank you so much Fanie one loss thing before we begin. I would love to invite you to Twenty-nine teen mental health solutions summit this year in Dallas, Texas, December six and seven this conference is going to be amazing in this conference. I will be teaching you how to overcome mental health issues like, anxiety, and depression and OCD. I'm also going to be talking about how to help teens and children with mental health issues. How to improve? Memory how to identify define your unique identity after bull Joe brain hot avoid burnout, manage stress hot take care of your physical body hot improve St. Patchett deal with chaotic thinking and more. This summit is everyone teaches Hosters parents. See entrepreneurs doctors lawyers life coaches, everyone for more information and to register visit doctor leave conference dot com. We will also be offering see us NC in east of this conference. Now back to today's topic is over thinking bad, and how can we deal with over overthinking and over analyzing, I don't know about you. But I certainly need this information. I find that what I'm about to share with. You is something that I live in my own life. And I've applied the principles not only with myself in my family. But also was all the patients that I worked with for so many years. So I hope this information going to be hopeful to you. So let's start by defining overthinking and over analyzing what is over thinking and over analyzing basically replaying scenarios over and over and over again from something that is just happened. So let's say that you're in conversation with maybe family member or someone at work someone in just a friend, and they say something that lacked really something happens in in the discussion that. Just ducks throws you and you find yourself going away from that discussion. And you just find yourself thinking, not it's almost non-productive. It's just that you keep on replaying the over and over and over in your head. You just take those words in those Saint Ince's and that scenario, and you just keep thinking about it over and over and over and over, and then you find yourself moving into the next phase of overthinking, which is thinking about every and all possible outcomes. And the scenarios you go from replaying too now thinking of the scenarios, so then you start imagining thinking of scenarios imagining, so they say this ending you say that in they say this, and then you say that they say this, and you said that so you imagine these different scenarios, and you find yourself creating a loom movie in your head off what they saying what you saying what they saying. And you actually don't know what they're going to say because you only know what you're going to say. And you don't even know what you're going to say in those situations, but you create these scenarios, and then you think about. Him so much, and as you are creating thinking about them, you actually building that into your brain and into a mind, so you creating a physical structure change in your brain. And that can actually whatever you think about the most will grow. So the more you think about it. The more it grows more energy kits and the more real it feels and then it becomes quite hard. And it kind of takes us to the third phase of what over thinking analysing over analyzing becomes and that is not leading something. And that's because beef now both us into a brain otas into our mind, and we've given it a lot of energy why on earth? Do we do this because it certainly not going to help in the situation, nor is that going to make us fill very good. Very often these civil civil reasons why we do this. The first reason is that often it's because we trying to process we're trying to understand something that either you have done or someone else has done or say it, especially if it's out of the gnome anything out of the gnome engine. It's hurtful painful it goes against all natural wired for level optimism structure is going to grab our attention. And this is because we don't have wiring for anything toxic. And because all wiring inside of us is to naturally try and make things move towards the positive so anything that's may be suffering anxiety indicates kind of toxic or natural instinct is to grab that into try and redesign that into something that's positive, but we don't always follow that natural instinct of making it something positive reburied often get stuck in just the negative of it. And it's the overthinking over over analyzing that I spoke about in the defition so number. One in summary is trying to proceed understand something that's out of the norm such not normal for this negative thing. So
"caroline" Discussed on Dr. Caroline Leaf
"Hi, I'm Dr Caroline leaf. And welcome to my part cost. Just before we begin talking about today's exciting topic. I want to take a moment to ask you to consider partnering with me to reclaim this broken mental health system. I'm sure, you know, numerous people who struggle with anxiety and depression, maybe you struggle with their chaotic mind and have felt the pain of intrusive sorts too often. This topic is not addressed in churches, and the wolves on says medication will made a tation birth of which are not sustainable solutions. But the is a solution. And it's one that is easily accessible and applicable. But we do need your help to make the solution. Attainable for people all over the world, including yourself, as you know, we are passionate as an organization about helping people. Learn about the power of the minds and hard to overcome mental health issues. So starting in April may of this year, we will be beginning. A series of clinical trials to further the taste and improve our current programs and develop ways to make these programs easily accessible and affordable for you who community and people every way these programs will help you find an eliminates the root of mental health issues and build healthy new habits and mindsets. As you may be a way to nickel trials are not cheap. So we need your help. Please consider contributing to this research projects any amount will help and all proceeds go directly to the research and clinical trials for more information on this project. Enter donate, please. Visit doctor leaf research dot com that is D R L E A F R E S E A R C H one word lower case dot com. Please help me change this broken mental health system. Now back to today's podcast today. We're going to talk about some mental exercises that you can do to deal with disappointment. Let's face it. We've all faced many disappointments and we're going to face many disappointments. So to have a strategy to handle this appointment is really great because and dealt with this appointment can cause a lot of Celtic damage inside your brain. And inside your mind. So these five steps involved in dealing with disappointment. And these five steps I'm going to walk you through now and give you some examples. So the first thing the first step is to acknowledge to yourself that you are disappointed that this disappointment is real a witness is always a key. I to making any change I found the so so important with my patients and even in my cell phone, dealing with my family and friends over the years. It's so important that you actually acknowledge. And not supress a disappointment. So often, we just think oh, well, we shouldn't be disappointed. We'll disappointments bed. So we suppress it. But disappointment is a real thing that you've experienced and because it's an experience. It's a real thing that you have bolt into brain. You have a memory of it. And if it's disappointment is not is not healthy. It's toxic. So if you keep it new suppressor it it's going to actually cause damage in your brain and affect your emotional state and you'll physical state. So first thing is to say, it's okay, embrace it. Because once you're aware of it now, you can change it. Basically what we need to do is once acknowledged that is get to the point of Reconceptualise ING and redesigning it. So what's the second step off the first step of acknowledging the second step is to reflect on this disappointment? And that basically means asking yourself a series of why questions you ring asking you on Seraing, and you. Discussing. Why you disappointed? So you ask yourself. Why am I disappointed? Let me give you an example. Maybe someone they chewed on at work. We're quals in some way, you ask yourself. Why are you? Why do you feel frustrated? See the one question rolls into another some going to do to. So you're going through an exercise. So I'm disappointed. Why am I disappointed at personally be down at work? And that's lead lead made me feel very frustrated while my frustration what I trusted them, and I believed in them. And now they've jeopardize my business by the lack of work ethic and unhurt. I hurt while they convince me that they could do the job in promised all kinds of processes, which they didn't fulfill and the heaven apologized and this makes me angry. Why are you angry because they done deserve to be respected for boasting about quantities? They didn't demonstrate whatever. So why why does this frustration? You. Why does it make you frustrated and angry because they think they can get away with it? And so you go through and you start seeing why you've got to the point. And and the more why questions you ask the more you get to the root of their disappointment. Now, you know, why you disappointed so now you can actually do something about it. You'll know that you're getting to the core of the issue when you start on string the same to the unions. Keep on seeing the same thing to the why questions as soon as you hit the point that you offering one on seeing the same thing, then you know, you ready to move to step three and step three then is to rot down. What you've basically discovered from this osc onto discuss little exercise. Right. That Don because as you rotted, Dan, it's going to give you a lot of insight into maybe an into the solutions of how to manage that. Because the big thing is that you can't control. What that person is doing what the person is thinking why they did what they did. You can't fix it or change it in them. That's the job. But what you can do is control your reactions. And if you keep that disappointment inside, you it's going to fit you not them. So by writing down, it will give you a little bit more clarification and direction as to what action steps you need to take to reconsider nice. Once you've written it down. Now, you're going to the fourth steep, which is to kind of eight. It's it's like an eight Steve you rechecking what you've written down. So go back and read what you've reread what you've written off talking yourself. How can you make this work for you? So for example, it's take the example. I gave. You earlier on maybe by looking at what you've written down and saying that you and frustrated because they didn't fulfill what they promised, and they didn't apologize and all that stuff by writing down in your re it-it's in your irritate puree cheeks tip, you may sink. Well, why does that person need to be like that? What is driving the issue? Maybe they frustrated maybe they have got some issues. So in other words, you start with your edits process looking at how you can make even help that person. It gives you a different perspective on that person. Maybe sit a feeding anger now, which is maybe becoming destructive you start feeling sorry for them, which main able you to go and help them. But what it will do it will help you to forgive them. So when you forgive person, that's when you can really start fixing up what's going on in your own life. You'll start getting a real handle on how to reconsider July's in design and redesign this disappointment if something positive you look at what you've written. Remember, yukon? And control the reaction, but you can control your reaction in it begins with you starting to forgive that person. And maybe even forgiving a group of persons, if it's more than one person, then you go to step five, which is doing taking some kind of action state from that rechecked from steep full from reading through what you've written and forgiving, the person it starts leading you to realize and free new up in your mind to be able to find a way of getting through this. So it's a way. So steep five is to turn the disappointment into an opportunity to learn and grow, and that's key in the state take the disappointment turn it into an opportunity to learn and grow in the specific example, what you could say is maybe something like, okay, well, they didn't fulfill it, but you learn to hold the skills by working with them. And they're not doing what they supposed to do. And you realize that you need to gain another whole set of skills or you needed to work with. A different set of people you learned to whole lot of new information. So you can make you could even write this on a piece of paper, you make two columns to Cottam chiklis and on the one side. You can write the disappointment in the Sikh inside. You can write what you've gained from this. What you've learned from it. And so they so that means that you can turn the disappointment into opportunity because every disappointment will give birth to multiple opportunities. If you look for them. So let's take this through another example, let's say that you had been you've applied for promotion or another job a dream job. And you didn't get it. So now you disappointed. So the first thing is acknowledged that support -ment say it out loud acknowledged how you feel about that excite. I'm disappointed that I didn't get the stream job. So now you start asking yourself the why questions in step two year? Afflict. You ask yourself. Why am I disappointed and what you may find as you go through the series of why questions? He's at you actually felt the debt job was going to firm, you it was going to make you feel bitter about you, which then as you go to step three and write that down. You the expand on that idea which takes you to stay four, which is that editing recheck process, which helps you to analyze a cable. Why do you know, why am I feeding this this need for formation in? What can I do about that? How can I find this the saints of lack in me that are meeting affirming in another way? And then stood five would be. Okay. I'm going to do this and the action steps that you would take to sort out the nation issue before you then apply for the Knicks job, or whatever it is that you actually want need to do really as a knick, Steve as it may not be applying for another job. It may be doing this job differently. Maybe speaking to a boss, what may be getting with a coworker, or maybe just that you need to do with something inside to solve in order for you to actually be able to do their job more effectively. So as you can see dealing with disappointment is a process that you. You need to go through and as you going through it. You are helping yourself heal your mind, and he'll your brain in your body. And it's not easy. I mean disappointments is is not a NAS emotion to go through because it means something has happened. That has made you feel this way. But a hope this is hoped you see that you can deal with us that you can manage these things that laugh throws at us. And that we have to go through life.
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"Hi, I'm Dr Caroline leaf. And welcome to my part cost today. We're going to talk about why just being mindful is not sufficient before I start I ever I just want to tell you about my mental health initiative that I'm running this year each month. We're going to be studying different books. End with part Carson YouTube live all kinds of great details. Signed vite you to join me and dive in the you can find the details in the shirts and this month and next month. We specifically talking about my book think learn succeed, I'm really excited about this book. It really is a way of helping you to dive into the techniques of how to think in a way that leads to good learning Goodman rebuilding and successful decision-making, enabling you to thrive at school at work in relationships in life. So it's a very powerful very powerful information. So today, we're going to be talking about mine. Fullness as mentioned, and why mindfulness is not sufficient, and so I'm going to start by explaining it. And then I'm going to explain why it's not sufficient, and what should we do about? This all of this information is in my book think learn succeed in recent times. These being a big move towards mindfulness mindfulness at school at work all over the place. Lots of research coming out showing her we mindful whether it's through meditation, whether it's through pray pray for meditation. Various different techniques can be used we see that definitely enhances brain function and people's ability to function because it calms people down brings him into the prison moment helps him to to refocus get back and get going again, very very efficient very good at helping people to kind of get to the Knicks state, especially when the in a crisis situation. However, what the research has also shown is that it's not enough that the carryover effect in. Into daily life for extended. Periods of time is not sufficient, so it's not powerful enough. In other words to carry you through an entire day or student tire crisis for long enough. And yes, you can keep going back into those mindfulness exercises. And it's a good idea to do that. There's nothing wrong with that. But we've got to be very careful that we don't veer between kind of searching off to what's happening, and they diving straight back in ending confirmation five minutes. And then suddenly, we lose it again where we conference our, and we lose it. Again, we comfort day EMMY lose it again. So in other words, mindfulness alone doesn't create sustainable ways of functioning in crisis situations, and let's face it struggles are part of life. We all know that. So we need to have take Niks to manage your mind and thinking so that we manage the struggles and challenges and all the things that Australia has all the curve balls and unexpected things that happen daily. That we have take Knicks to manage them. Because the way that we use on mind is going to determine on extremity is going to determine how we get through that situation and get out on the other side. So what I've found in my research and working with people over these years is that we have to go beyond mindfulness bitch, do mindfulness we have to incorporate mindfulness in our teen. But that's only step one at to create sustainability to give you the ability to push through and persevere through situations for longer than just a few minutes were day, you need to go beyond us mon- from this end, go beyond sizing mindfulness s tip one. And then there's four more steps that have to be done in order to create sustainability the science very briefly behind. This is that you are when you go when you use all five steps. So in other words, mindfulness plus the four steps you are using your brain way fishing. Really, you are you taking advantage of the neuro pester city of the brain. Which is. The ability of the brain to grow in response to stimulation. So in other words, you're changing your brain structure you building healthy memories. You actually building networks into brain. And listen to this that are going to help you cope in that situation. So whatever you do in whatever you say is based upon what you have physically both into your brain with your mind. So the roots of awards words, new actions are coming from these physical things that you have both physical things being physical structures that hold the information of your thoughts memories, and you us, so if you don't build sustainable enough once you're not going to have sustainability through the crisis. So mindfulness is the first step in doing. This mindfulness is gathering awareness of the situation gathering awareness of how you are responding within the situation. It's gathering yourself together that you activate the internal networks of your brain to able you to go into a calm state to release the chemicals that will. Will remove the fullness from your brain that will help you to actually excess a level of clarity new thinking. So that you can start to see solutions, even if it's just a tiny little change. Even if it's just a little one percent change cumulatively, the one percents all add up, so mindfulness brings you into the now moment it's gathering an awareness of what you are thinking about in response to the situation how you are thinking about how your body's physically feeding neck moment. Taking a few deep breaths as you as you breathe in various different ways, you disappear the high levels of cortisol at would have been flying. If you've reacted booze a bit of a shock. If the situation was a shock. We meet to get this burst of the highlight higher levels of adrenaline and cortisol so by breathing and by being away by kind of capturing that situation in a few moments. Even views closure is however you do it. You are supporting the cortisol your dissipating, the adrenaline. In other words, you are making your body work for you and not against. You in that situation. So now, you do that you calm. But now you Beck in the work situation. And now you have to do the next four steps. The next step is going to be a very active for fictive thinking process where you are asking on sharing and discussing your way through that crisis. So you've calmed down enough to be able to reflect on it. So the second state is a reflective into active process. Will you have to almost objectify the situation, and what are often tell people to do which really really really helps is you could put that situation into an imaginary window of imaginary building, and you conceal it off or you could put it inside a box that see through. But it sealed something we contained any of its contained. You can now to be stand outside and say, okay, what is the situation on C yourself discuss with yourself. The who the what the win the way? The why the how those kind of things they as you doing that you starting to reach towards some kind of decisions that you can maybe write down. Maybe make a note of end as you at the. Dan may connote thin. You can lean that stick number three. So it's kept the data. What did you what kind of solutions? Are you starting to reach as you become aware of the issue in the box? And then you writing the down, and you can imagine writing on the box. You would have been analogy works for you. Then can look at what you've written, and which is the fourth step, and then you can start the Reconceptualise -ation with foot state, which are cool the active reach in other words, what are you gonna do? How you're going to see the situation. Now. What's the action step how you can to re conceptualize in order to move forward in a constructive way? In the next moment. Now, this may sound like a lot, and this is spelled out in detail in my book, think loon succeed. And of course, you can listen to this podcast over a few times. But these skills are worth developing, they are basic mind brain technological skills that are going to help you manage thought laugh in a multitude of situations. So let me give you an example. It say you get to work and things are going. Okay. And suddenly your boss his out of town phones, and he wreaks out. Chief he yells at you. And he's maybe really kind of a boss that Uber teen tobacco king taint solutions. Cool quite often, and you party may stop his travel arrangements. So now he stuck between. He stuck in April. And you've now got to think on your feet and get another flattened gay to to the next place in his yelling at you in debt that reaction that you having accurate freaking out. You can't think straighten view in a panic and your heart pounding in the adrenaline pumping in the cortisol. Find your brain is like oxygen depletion in your brain. And blood depreciated the patient in your brain from the toxic reaction. And then he slams down the phone off the ceiling June saying you better get this Rottweiler else. So now, you can do one of two things you can just fall apart in fix it. Or you can apply these five steps so go into mindfulness you go to calm down. You've gotta get the the cortisol dissipated. You've got to realize a K. Take ownership. You did may saboteur K you can fix this. If you come conflicts is if you freaking out, so it mindful of how you feel at that moment tuning. To body. So you distract yourself from moment from the situation and the content of the conversation and focus on your body and start breathing deeply just by seeing your body reactions as something that's actually telling you that you are able to use the these reactions for yourself instead of against you. So you change your perceptions and other words instead of seeing the pot pounding adrenaline pumping as something that's bad for you. See this is something that can work for you. Researchers a miniature change of perception. And you said okay while I'm a body's reacting like this. But this is good for me. I'm going to be able to sync with more clarity the minute. You do that your body will still be in that stress response. But not changed. You've got your heart beating correctly, the blood vessels dilating Sukatnu blood flow to brand new oxygen to brain, you care thought wonderful thing start happening physiologically throughout your body. Just by you saying it's a k- that I'm feeding this freaked out physical reaction. It's okay this I can make. For me. And the soon as you do that the shift happened. So these little mindfulness part of it now going to the second part. Okay. What am I going to do? Let me ask myself living on solit- me discuss stick that problem with your boss. Stuck at the April in a box seem in a box reducing to tiny little figure sooner you this big figure. He's tiny shrunk him at what if I'm just giving you some sort of an analogies in the box yelling at you. Frustrated at the April twenty three chew it's in the box lead his frustration which you because you're not gonna be able to solve keep the calmness that you cheat from the mindfulness tip and going to the reflects the osc onto discuss what's the situation packing, you fix it. Start getting logical start writing down notes. Start writing down topping down getting cooling up different flat. Whatever it is do get your plan of action in place start doing that take that as you doing is this working is a good idea as soon as you feel panicked coming up remember at your bosses in the box the situations in the box. Keep it objective to solve get back in the box. Maybe you'll had to just take a few deep breaths close. Your eyes for few. Moments. And so you go on until you solve the problem, and you stick number five thin is you actually book the new flat takes boss furniture, boss, speaking calmly and saying here's the details of Unix flag, whatever the detail may be a Kate. So you've now manage that situation. Now the rest of the day, you remove million more things to do. And because you've achieved success you're going to be much more able to cope with all the other crises that hit you during the course of the day because as we all know, they don't come a line. They tend to come in in a fly. But if you didn't get that situation under control, you wouldn't be able to do much else very fake to be for the rest of the day. So keep using those five states with each thing that you have to do each day, you could do five six like up describe or you could just be mindful and keep going back to calm yourself down. But then you get back in the situation, and you still not solving it correctly, you still not controlling how your mind is functioning. So one of the biggest things that that you are going to learn out of this to us these five six constantly, and the first step is really very very each step is uniquely powerfully isn't one more. Powerful than the other one any others. They worked together as a team so step number five is Reconceptualise ation active reach seen this from from a different angle and doing something positive about. So instead of beating yourself up and going to shame condemnation panic, you lose your job would ever what did you learn you for the Reconceptualise as you could see this from a different angle, you've got to see this as yeast you made a mistake. But that failure is is isn't a failure per se. It is a mistake and stay for a lesson learned to what lesson did you learn to pay more attention to detail to not make assumptions that that certain things were in place that weren't in place. So be very enu active. Reach state, not only did you find another flat for your boss, but you also need to look back at the lessons that you can actually learn from that particular incident, so that you can apply those lessons into the next the next situation, you see a big part of these five steps lead will end off with you realizing. That mistakes are learning experiences. You hear that so often, but it's so hard to do that unless you have a way of doing it. So that's what I'm supplying you with. That's what I'm telling you about going beyond mind from this helps you to turn the license of life into license and not just things that are going to Matar's you and completely recover function. So this Reconceptualise ation that you do in state number five helps you to learn to formulate those lessons that you're going to learn. I hope this has helped you today. I once again, a for you to my book think loon succeed and to my at the search efforts coming up very soon gun c- concealed information in the show notes. This information is very powerful to help you to realize that you need to do. Can't just be mindful. Great to be mindful to do mindfulness and calm yourself down. But you have to go beyond mindfulness. You have to do the other four steps in order to have to sustain the changes that you need in order to be able to coach in the course of the day. Thank you for joining me today. I'm Dr Caroline.