20 Episode results for "Carol Cinci"
Pulling It All Together
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hello again I am carol how with. Let's talk dementia in. You had chosen to join me again. Whether you're doing so on video podcasts. For Matt Thank you. We are reaching folks in eighty six or eighty seven countries. I forget which and you're one of those people. Thank you for that well today. I'll be taking from my book. Mom is confused in some am I as I did. On our last episode you can find it on Amazon or on our website. Let's Talk Dementia Dot Org. I have a chapter in this book. Called pulling it all together now. If you are like me. I'm a Thai Bay personality. I want to get things done today. Don't put them off to Tamar. Get them done to day. Get the hard stuff down. I so that when you get to the easy stuff you're just flying through it. Organization is my thing. I organize everything. Dementia care giving. It can sure mess up some organization. Can it not? It can change everything you had planned for the day. You Throw Corona virus in that story in quarantine and store shutdown and and not been able to go out to eat when you want to or visit friends or whatever life really becomes very interesting and it has for me to understand what you're going through this chapters called pulling together and talk about how we are called to take care of other people if you listen to my show. A few days ago called the long spoons. I told you about how the people with the long spoons couldn't eat but the people in the other room who had the very long spoon fed each other. You need to watch and or listen. That episode called along spoons but we are called to take care of each other the Ten Commandments. Tell us on our father and mother. That's taking care We are taught to care for the widows. That's from I Timothy. And we vowed a loved one other till death do us part in regards to our spouses. That's what we're supposed to but in order to have a successful caregiving journey. We really do have to pull on the resources that are available right now. Your resources are limited in a big way. That's going to change folks we're GonNa come to the other side of the US and life will go back to normal. I'm being told no it won't life will never be normal again. What we consider normal the example. I was given of this as if you think about nine. Eleven and what? It was like to fly before nine eleven. The process is that we went through the board applying. The process is on the plane. What could be in your luggage? None of those things were in place before nine. Eleven in now boy it's big-time different. Life did not go back to quote unquote normal. I'm being told to expect the same thing with this. There will be things in our life that changed forever because of this quarantine is that bad. Probably not I think there'll be a lot of things that happen. That will be for our good in. How do I know this well? I'm not psychic but I can read scripture towns. May All things work together for good to them that love God for those who are called. According to his purpose in his Romans. Eight twenty eight but when life gets back to where we can have folks in her home and we can go out and do his. We plays and back to go shopping or grocery shopping and not worrying about what diseases we might come in contact with. When all that's over with then we need to be thinking about. Do we have the support system in place for good caregiving and I wrote in the book. Here is a less than comprehensive list of the things you will need to be successful. You need help you need support. You need dementia education. You need a helping hand. You need someone who will allow you to cry on their shoulder. You need a quiet place to which you can escape and finds solitude and baby in that quiet place that's where you allow yourself to cry scream and even yell at God. He doesn't mind it if you yell at him. You need to engage in stress reduction activities on a regular basis exercise. Yoga Meditation breathing. We've talked about breathing a lot. You need good nutrition daily and it's not coming out of the chips bag y'all know it is not unique to maintain regular visits to your position. You need time to go to the nail and hair salon. You need time to go shopping. Even if it's just for groceries in to do it alone you need other people most of all you need a close relationship with the Lord Jesus as you seek his Guidance Piece Direction Love Grace Mercy and hope and boy do we not need all of those things right now so I said to my husband this morning I said all right West Year might twenty nine eleven he goes. I don't know what is you know you could tell rock quick. He didn't appreciate me Quizzing Him I said Jeremie Twenty Eleven twenty nine eleven. I know the plans I have for. You says the Lord Really Does the Lord know what's going on right now. Is this part of his plan. What are his plans? He goes on to say plans to prosper you to give you a future and a hope not for calamity. No no no no and then today I pulled up much. Today's prayer card. I told you I have a stack. These read a different one every day. In what is today's prayer card? I don't know if you can see it there in today's preference for I know the plans I have for you. That's Today's prayer card after just said it has been this morning guides. Good reinforcing that in our hearts and minds. Well do what you can do the best. You can caring for your love when this stressful time and I know you're going to but in the meantime if you have a question you have a concern or you just need to let this story off your brain. You need to talk about it and you don't WanNa talk to your family. I can understand that. Sometimes families can be critical. But I'm not going to be. I am here for you know charge whatsoever. You can schedule a thirty minute phone consultation. You can go to our website. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org and click on calendar events. Pick the date and the time that you would like the phone call when you click on it it will come up and tell you to email me with your name and your phone number in and get in touch with you on that selected date and time and we'll talk about whatever you got thirty minutes of. Free Time. Let's do it. I'll enjoy hearing from you because I miss having people to talk to right. You guys have a Great Day. Be SAFE BE SMART. Cover your face and your nose. Take your scarf. Cover your nose in your mouth when you go out and about that you might be near other people. Keep a safe distance. Do your part. We all have our part to do. Blessings smiles let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the bedroom or both editor bed you can find Miss Beth. Crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure represents you will find her at. Www dot editor. Beth DOT COM and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for peril. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. Paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
You Look Fat!
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and SMILES IN THEIR DEMENTIA. Caregiving generally welcome to. Let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome to let's talk to meantime Carol how your host and today we're GonNa talk about being fat. Yes we are and we're going to talk about a few Bible verses in quotes that have come to my mind lately that reflect directly applying the situations in my life and I thought you know it might help you in your life to join just maligning here and having a bit of a problem. We'll have had someone tell you you're fat. You look like you're pregnant. When is the baby due? Or you know your hair just looks awful or where did you get that pair of pants? Were they bad on you? Something just so hurtful and so inappropriate. I think we've all had that happen. And if you haven't will then yeah for you but if you're caregiving hold onto those pants that you've got on letter to Die. 'cause he's probably going to happen are folks with dementia are none for saying things that are inappropriate? And it's not necessarily that they're out to hurt you. They just say what comes to their mind. If they think you look like you put on a few pounds in this just gonNA come out and it may not land on. You may not feel so good when they say it but the question is how. Are you going to respond to those statements that are inappropriate or hurtful or offensive in some way other? Well you can be defensive. You can go well. I'm not fat but outlook as fast as you or my herlitz better than your hair or do you think these pants look bad. You should look in the mirror. What you've got on. You could say that anybody and there's really nobody on the planet you can say that too that the end result is going to be good is it and certainly not with your folks with dementia. Now if they don't have the demand don't have dementia and they say that to you then you really do have to wonder what's going on in their world that they think it's okay. Say these inappropriate things and you know what we don't know what's going on in our in other people's world we do good just to keep up with our own world. Forget keeping everybody else's straight so maybe just maybe we should ignore it from them. Maybe maybe we shouldn't. I'm not sure I don't want to hear those words to have to discern what my response would be to my person who does not have dementia but to my person who has dementia. You Might WanNa go. You know what you might be right. I should probably eat more sale reinstated. Donuts where do you think in see what their responses it would probably just cut the edge off or or the tension in the room might be less than just by agreeing? Yep I'll look wolf. Fatima should eat celery instead of donuts. And see what they say. And then you might say something like. What do you like on your salary? If you were to eat salary. What would you put on it? See what their response is. And if they don't have a good response say. Do you like peanut. Butter on celery. Have you ever tried putting peanut butter with raisins on your salary? Do you know what they call that. That's called ants on a log if you have peanut butter on a piece of salary. New Put Raisins isn't that NEAT. See Now we've taken the conversation from something that was offensive. Something that made you feel not so good or maybe even a little angry to the universal language in what told you is the universal language it is not it is food. We all relate to it and we used to version therapy to do that. We took him from one point. All the way to something different Wa- stealing knowledge in what they said. It's hard to do sometimes but it is something that I tell you over and over again for various reasons in here giving their things you need to practice in diversion. Therapy is one of them on the tape the last few days. I've had some emotions to deal with that. I have not been enjoying As you know my mom passed may thirty first and I think about her day my life and there are days that I do it. Wale and there are days when it just gets a hold of me more than what I wanted to my friend. Linda told me lead those feelings com. Let them wash over you in. Let them leave. And I've done well at that but the last few days have not done so well letting him leave. I kinda came to the realization. I'm no one's daughter That's a weird feeling. Obviously my whole life. I've been somebody's daughter and I am not anyone's daughter right now. I am not my Mama's caregiver and I love being honest caregiver There was never a thing that I did that. Mama did not affirm that I did not hear from her. Oh cookie you've got this you can. Do it have a good friend that I've recently met Michelle and showbiz eighty two years old. She's only one year older than my Momma and She has a way of a filling in sometimes on the emotions that I might would have gotten from Mama and today. She told me kid. Whatever it is you WanNa do you just do you? Just make it work saying. I just heard mom in that. Made me feel good but I wanted to read to you a quote from the Bible that I'm reading. I'm trying to think of the that. This gentleman took the Bible. Broke it up into a year and is price for America Bible. That's it and so you have old testament new tests Moore Song proverbs but there is a little prayer at the beginning of each day. I'll read you what it was for yesterday. I believe these are my Abysmal glasses for you guys. That are not seeing this but hearing hit the color on. These glasses is awful but anyway. Here's the prayer and it just really struck me now thank you it relates to caregiving to Lord. You told your first followers to have courage because you were with them. Help us to soak in that message tune to fill it in our buried bones. Remind us you've got this. You're in control. It'll be okay. I'm in Oman. Does that not speak to caregiving? Yes I think it does. And so a while back. I was given a package of today's prayer cards. Can you see that with the light on it? And they're just little four by six cards assists. Today's prayer on one side on the other side as today's prayer this was yesterday's God is within her. She will not fall. This was today. Faith can move mountains kind of where I am in this journey. Feeling that I need bolstered up and I know you do too in your caregiving journey. Have days where you think you got it going on in the days when you need bolstered up you can do this. God's got you. Faith can move. Mountains God is within her. She will not fall. You won't either but I'm here for you. Email me Carol at let's Talk Dementia Dot Org. We'll talk about what's going on in your world blessing since miles. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth dot com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions. Be sure to like. Let's talk on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Are You Stressed Out?
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Well Hello Everyone I'm Carol. Let's talk dementia. Well I'm glad you're here today. We are still quarantined. Are Not to some degree of the other. We all are because of the virus. Well we're GonNa talk about that today. We're GONNA talk about the the effect that living stressful has on you. Now as a caregiver has a caregiver. If there's one thing I am sure of it is you are dealing with stress. Now that we have this virus is part of our world. Our stress levels just naturally seem to be higher because of the fear of the unknown that we've got going on living in a constant state of stress as you know is not good for you can explain to you what goes on in the brain with stress and why it is particularly important for you to know this as a caregiver so. I'm reading from a website called six seconds as I xe seconds dot. Org It's the number six and it's quite a good website in. This is what they wrote. So I'm reading from their website says a badge taking a leisurely walk in the park. When you suddenly see a snake on the path to fate in front of you in one quick second your body mobilizes your eyes register the side of the long winding menacing creature to the Migdal in your brain the mendel processes snake and screams to the hypothalamus threat threat. The hypothalamus quickly and competently shoots the message of alarm to your whole nervous system. Which prepares you for either a battle for either a battle or tells you to run Mike Hale. Epinephrine which is Adrenalin. Flood Your Bloodstream. Triggering. You're pounding quick heart rate. Extra blood fills your veins. Your blood pressure sharply increases rapidly. Funneling blood towards your your vital organs in your muscles your breathing quickens in shallow pressing extra oxygen into the Brian for ad alertness. You are now fully prepared. Fight this snake or you gonna run in Opposite Direction. Well does that sound familiar to you. Have you ever had those times in your life when you realize that you are in that fight or flight type of situation? Well we all have. Maybe you did in your drains you you. Oh God you're really stressed out from a bad dream that you've had and on your just full of anxiousness and and really jacked up that fight or flight from that bad dream that you've had or maybe something's happened in your life. This caused you to be like that. When we tell you what's going on in your life is causing you to be like that most likely caregiving people who caregiver folks with dementia have a higher level of cortisol in their body than those. Who Don't now when we're in that fight or flight when we're running from that snake or running from a bear or what ever ran from a bear Cortisol is in abundance in our body and we want it because if we're running from a bear we won't extraordinary power to be able to get away from that. They're right or running from the snake. We want to get away from it. I gotTa tell you. I opened the front door two nights ago to take our dog out for her last run of the evening an open door shut it real quick wit snake at the door snake at the door. Work Man in my freaked out by snakes. And I can guarantee you. At that moment. There was a lot of cortisol inmate. That's a good thing. You WanNa have cortisol when it is appropriate in your life to have it but you have a very high level of cortisol most likely because you are in a constant state of stress with dementia caregiving. Now this is more true if your loved one is in the later stages of their disease than in the earlier stages when they're more competent on their more able to do things on their own or with a little help but as we get into those last stages of the disease we see people who need constant care and they're not cooperative in their very confused in their sad in. They're sick and there's just so much going on in it makes it so hard for the caregiver a bigot. Been there done. That is hard. And because of that your cortisol levels in your body start to get higher and higher. 'cause you're staying jacked up. You're staying in that fight or flight. You're going to get this done. You're going to be successful in your tints and you got it off everything in your body's on Set on ready to go in. You don't let that stress go down and let breathing come back to normal living like that increases. Your chances of so many diseases is you. Don't I don't even WanNa know all the diseases that you're more prone to because of living in a high state of Cortisol but I'll tell you. One of them is Alzheimer's Alzheimer's caregivers have a higher risk of Alzheimer's than those who are not Alzheimer's caregivers and one of the reasons is because of this constant state of fighter flight. We're the brain so turned on so Ready to act quickly in those cortisol levels just get higher higher in. We don't allow them to come back down. Your Cortisol levels are higher in the morning than the rest of the day. And that's okay and then we want them to go down so that at night when we lay down to sleep we can actually sleep and have good restful sleep. So Cortisol levels do fluctuate throughout the day. Study was done with folks who just did a little bit of breathing every day three times a day. Six months later they check those votes in their cortisol levels had come down to normal in all they did was practice some healthy breathing now. What that healthy breathing look like? I've taught you about various types of breathing where you breathe in for three seconds you out for six seconds or it's called on square breathing called lots of things. Where maybe you breathe in for three seconds you hold it for two you out for six seconds you hold it for to any various numbers but whatever you number you breathe out. Whether it's two four six you breathe immanent whatever number you breathe in you break out twice along. That's the correct way. So if I'm breathing in one two three four I'm GONNA break out one. Two three four five six seven eight sometimes. We're going to hold it at the top of that breathing in in at the bottom of that breathing out for a number of seconds. The study that was done was just depress just literally sitting in taking deep breaths breathing in and breathing allowing yourself to do this. I'm trying to remember. I heard of a show on it. I've tried to bind. Silly showed which will get the exact numbers to tell you not cannot find it anywhere but it was only like three or four minutes three times a day where you just sit down and allow yourself to breed breathing in breathing out since your phone. You've got a timer on your phone. Said it for three minutes and allow yourself that time just took breath. Do It three times a day. The effect on your body on your brain on your whole being on your wellbeing on the how you process how you look at things. Your mood is improved just by taking three minutes to breathe. Isn't that incredible? I think it's pretty neat One of the things that you can do to improve even more so on the benefits of that breathing is to cy at the end of the breath. So you breathe it in and you breathe it out haw that verbal ization of letting it out seems to be very helpful for some of us. It's just very quiet. Little GENTLE FEMININE. Little in for some of its breathing in hollow. Really letting it out very good for you. You can do this. It will cost you nothing to do but three minutes three times a day. It's GonNa make you a better caregiver. Process ICAL make you live a healthier life make you healthier. And that's what I want. I want you to be healthy and smiling because I need you to come back tomorrow. For another episode of Let's Talk Dementia see then by let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol you. When you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find as Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written and making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on. I tunes remember. Knowledge Brings Power Power Brings Hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
The Female Brain Is Bigger!!
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome to let's talk dementia. I am care how your host thank you for joining me if you haven't done so if you're watching this on Youtube hell about subscribing Princeton debt thumbs thumbs up button that shows you like us. If you're listening on I tunes or any other format that you can leave us a kind word of review that would just be fabulous. Maybe share it on your facebook page and tell others about the work that we do what they want to talk to you about the size of the average brain what it it looks like and how. The brain works with in relation to Alzheimer's type disease. So our brain is similar in appearance to ahead head of cauliflower. Now this is just a piece of cauliflower abrogate my call our cut it up when I bring it home head to show you but it's tight bidding pieces in there folds in craters in sections much like what you see here in the cauliflower. You'll notice there's craters there now there's cauliflower on my lap but there's craters there sections there's bally's and that is much like the brain. If you took the average Brian you stretch it it out flat. You rolled it out into one thin area. It would be between Twenty by eleven in twenty by twenty three. This looks. This is as messed up here. Okay for those of you on the podcast. You can't see this but this is a piece of paper that's twenty by eleven. It's a fairly good amount of area that average brained with cover fit were just rolled out into one flat piece that average brained weighs about three pounds. Now I'm pretty sure. I know some people whose Brian from the time they were. I don't know maybe in high school their brain to never did weigh three pounds. You know some of them to non just kidding in fact backdoor throats with Alzheimer's their brains longer way that so I should not judge now. Here's a fact that I truly love this shows you that God is good. The female email brain is smaller than a male Brian. Now wait a minute. Ato d'you it was good good news but before you man start thinking too highly of your cells. Let me explain the reason for this. Let's go back to our cauliflower. The female brain has more craters and falls in valleys in their deeper her than they are in the male brain so the female brain is just more tightly packed. There is more area surface area because of those craters bally's to hold that information. Then you have in the male brain so the male brain may be closer to the twenty by eleven size whereas the female L. Brain may be closer to the twenty by twenty three size there. You go so We like that. Don't so what we know uh-huh Alzheimer's type disease is in the very center of the brain is the hippocampus in. That's where Alzheimer's I attacks on on the first bite of the brain is taken in the hippocampus and that's the part is the brain that helps us to Remember new information. Anything you here today that you didn't know whether it's just in a consequential things but things you didn't know like I need to move the pill from the right side of the bed to the left or something with a major like. Oh I've got to go to hospital because somebody's sick big things. I need to pay the bills. Whatever it is that you have heard this news lands on your hippocampus in all time? His eaten hip campus Quite drastically in you cannot recall that information so we've got to remember that when we're working with our folks who have dementia a recently did a show called early mid in late and with very early stages of Alzheimer's individuals we'll start having destruction or the eating away off the hippocampus as much as twenty years twenty years before they the individuals individuals. Something's wrong in the individual knows something is wrong or something's just not right within themselves much sooner than anyone else knows they feel well it within themselves. I'm just confused on having hard time processing. I can't remember Jack Squat you know. They know this. They recognize the US before their closest Tesla wants to name. Potentially their spouse will notice it or their adult children will notice it and then it just goes out further into their circle of friends and more more family members in employers or whomever in everybody knows in the reason that happens is that hippocampus does become more and more disease as is it becomes more and more disease it is more and more difficult for the brain to retain any information so if we cannot retain information. We've we've got to pull on old information and in those early stages we can do that. We can pull on more. Recent memories may be last week or last month or last year. But as the disease progresses our memories are lost in the reverse order in which their game our our most recent memories are. You're in the inner portion of the brain are older. Memories are on the outer portion of the brain in that brain is being destroyed from the center with hippocampus. Is Al so new. Memories are loss before odor memory so realizing that will maybe help you understand what it's like to be your loved one with dementia. We've gone over this several times. But I've had some people lightly caught right in. Asked me to talk about this so those early stages of the disease are very difficult for an individual. If you can imagine every day your life realizing that you're just not processing things like you wish you were. You couldn't do everyday retake task. You might find it difficult to remember you need to Bay or if you have bathed in Um you go into a building to do something they maybe go the doctor. You can't remember what Dr you're there to see. It's more the large kind of items that we start seeing problems with. Not The minute little things. We seem to okay. Okay we can handle some of those. We start having more of the larger more broad type problems. But then as the disease progresses we start having problems with everything in mid stage dementia As opposed to early stage in early stage. We can dress. We may not always dress appropriately. We may not may not always be dressed on time but we can dress ourselves Baylor sell grow marseils but then in mid stage dementia as that disease continues to ravage the Brian in various ways in various parts of the brain we he might totally forget that. We should have bathed in. If we've bathed win. It was and what is appropriate where what is not appropriate to. Where are we not forget to get dressed At all now this is not like my friend Charlotte who come yesterday said she was in her jam jams all day long. That's just a happy thing when you get to do that right. But I'm talking about where it it doesn't even ever come upon your brain I need to get on dramas and get into regular clothes. We start seeing that then in the very last stages we find find that people cannot dress them sales they cannot process that information. Pull my shirt up. Take the top off. Put on a new shirt in button ended up. 'cause that's a lot of processing in the brain damage is drastically damaged in it cannot process. They everything you you do in life is a process for talking about taking a shirt off. You've got to across my hands and pull that shirt up. You may just pull your arms out but you've gotta get it over your head you've got to pull it off you've got to set it down. You got to pick up a new shirt. You've got to put the new shirt on. You've got to straighten it and get those buttons lined up with the buttonholes rose and then you got that real small fine work you gotta do getting up button the button. Now say all those steps. You've got to do things that you just do. And don't think think about but someone with advanced Alzheimer's thank can't do that. They can't process that. The same is true if they're trying to feed themselves to aiding eating becomes a real problem with those with Alzheimer's early on probably not so much about mid stage. We start seeing problems with it though. Forget to eat a or they eat all the time. Because they can't remember that they did eat They're tastes buzzer affected drastically. They won't sweet and bitter. We have a hard time getting vegetables into won't won't they just want what they want. But in late stage Alzheimer's they may forget how to eat. Because you think about it again it's process you put a light light in front of them. They've got to think I'm hungry. They've got to think. Let me pick up the spoon. So the hands gotTA PICK UP THE SPOON RAISE IT up dip it in the mashed potatoes. It has raised mashed potatoes up. Bring the spoon to the mouth. Open the map. Put the potatoes in. Close them out. Take the spoon out. Chew the mashed potatoes swallow in. Hopefully it will go down the right pipe and we're not gonNA choke all of that has to happen to get one bite mashed potatoes in the mail in the bill. Nick for sustenance for votes with advanced Alzheimer's but yet we see people just put three right there in front of me go here Joe. Here's your food aid now. Joe Needs a lot of prompting. You might want to pick up that spoon when you said the food down and I do recommend a spoon most of the time at this point forecasts. We're GONNA be too shaky and not steadying foods kind of where where a spoon GonNa be easier for them to use. Pick spoon up loaded with mashed potatoes. Well Pat picked the spoon up input. Josiane put your a handover Josiane. Take that hand scoop up some mashed potatoes guide. Joe's hand at hand over hand with your hand over Joe's guide Joe's hand to his mouth with the mashed potatoes on the spoon in his mouth. Joe Does Not. Won't you push in your hand up his face go here joke. E Open up Nobody wants net but JOE's hand coming to Joe's mouth bills very normal that he's done it all his life right. You're just helping his hand get in sometimes with our folks if we get them started eating. We tantalize those taste buds. They will pick up in. Continue eating better. Keep an eye on to because they might forget in they may take two or three bites and sit down and just sitting there so lovely and forget that they need to continue eating. So we're going to keep an eye on them and go. Oh backup there into a little queuing. Little prompting may be another spoonful to help them get it make. Sure they're eating off both sides of their play. They may not be may need to turn the plate special I should have vascular dementia. They may only be recognizing what's on one half of their place or we're GONNA turn the plight so they can see what's on the other half of their play. Just be aware be kind of folks remember. The brain is diseased. He can't do it can't do well. I'm GonNa Cook this cauliflower later today. You know people do eat brains. This is his closest carols. Coming eating brains. Let me tell you. My grandma used to fix brains and eggs for breakfast ooh disgusting cooked them on master ship the other day not doing there. Oh my goodness you guys have a great day lesson since miles. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They you speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor. I bet you can find Miss Beth. Crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight hundred three eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for peril. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's Talk Dementia Book and leave us a kind word of review on Itunes and remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Preparing The Family For Thanksgiving
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hello and welcome back to. Let's talk the Ninja. I am here how we rose internationally. Certified Dementia Practitioner and author of Amazon bestselling booklets dementia and whole bunch of other books. You can check them out on our website. Www Dot let's talk dementia Dot Org. Well today. I wanted talk with you about Thanksgiving. We are less than two weeks or two weeks away. Whatever it is from Thanksgiving in? It's a great time. I am a lot of family gatherings lot of memories from the past. A lot of expectations. a lot of food and after the event we will realize that event did not go quite like we had in our mind it was not a Norman Rockwell. Seen it never has been at my house or even growing going up the Food might not have settled is good and our loved one with dementia well. They didn't respond quite like we thought they would. So let's Kinda on a plant that in advance what you say. Well this will be my first Thanksgiving without Momma. She went to heaven on May thirty first so that will be different for me. But that's okay because she's not missing me as she. She is celebrating in heaven. And I'm going to be celebrating here. That she is there. But it will be different and it will be different for you In your loved one because if you're caregiving for some dementia. They are most likely different than they were. Last year Their abilities have changed. Disabilities have increased. Their need for you to be more attentive is growing and we need to think about how that might mine affect your holiday. The first thing you need to think about is who is coming. Who is coming to your house or are you taking your loved one to their house okay? Let's talk about that last point for I are you taking your loved one to their house. all right now. That's going to depend on where your loved. One is in their journey. If there earlier mid-stage great you know piling the car go be prepared maybe to stop more often allow risk time and be prepared to answer the same question in here the same story story repeatedly. But that's okay because the day's GonNa come. You're not able to hear that so this okay but if you're looking at maybe even mid stage too late stage H.. Depending on where in the journey they are in the type of dementia. They have what their cognitive levels are are. Not How easy it is is for them to socialize and how easy it is for them to be comfortable somebody else's house or another location. Then you might need to rethink that plant so if you're having folks to your house There are things we need to do there to prepare for our loved ones for that visit. So okay we're GONNA Hop in the car. And we're GONNA drive two hours with someone with advanced dementia probably would not do that. I just don't think I I would put my loved one or myself through that two hours in the car of them. Not Recognizing anything because why will the scenery's changing quite rapidly piddly And they're totally unclear where they're going in. There probably not very happy about it. So that's your first problem. Then you get there and you're going into someone someone else's home supposedly maybe a restaurant but probably someone's home and again scenery. They're not familiar with. They don't recognize the house. They don't I know where the bathroom is. They're confused about why they're there. You might tell them repeatedly. We've come to have Thanksgiving with your oldest daughter and they're not gonNA remember that 'cause remember you to remember. They can't remember that part of their brain hippocampus which allows him to access. This current memories is very damaged. They cannot remember so they're in a state of confusion. I said before if you kind of wonder or experience or think about what dementia is lie as you sit and listen to this show or watch this show I want you to pretend that someone got you on a plane and Blindfolded you got you on a plane took you to a country that you've never been to before for me that would be most countries. 'cause I just don't travel but suppose I was dropped opt Japan where I speak Japanese. I have no one in the entire country that I know. I do not know how to get from where I am to anywhere I might. I WanNa be and the blindfold comes off and they say care all you need to go to these six places. I couldn't do it. I couldn't do it. I couldn't communicate with anybody. I couldn't find my way around. It would be very very scary. Well that's Sorta what dementia feels like for your loved one so you're taking them from their place of comfort the house they are in every day or this is the memory care or wherever to some other place in. It's very uncomfortable. So you got to think about that. But if if they're able to go and it's right that that travelling in that inner change between one one location other is still something they can handle in their journey. Then let's let's go but let's prepare our folks to know where mom is says in her dementia journey. It may have been a year since they saw her. Maybe it was last is Thanksgiving or last Christmas and they are expecting her to be like she was then and she may not be in. You need to ahead of time. You have in phone calls or emails or Heaven Forbid we should ride a ladder And get that information out. This is where mom is now. She probably won't recognize denies you She may not eat. Well she may need to take a nap just to Four Warrant Your folks that this is going on so so you get the to the new location. Please be aware that your loved one Might be a little overwhelmed and just the whole change of atmosphere is going to be overwhelming to them now. This is true even if folks are coming to the home that they're used to being in having all all these people in a little bit overwhelming. And you know this you love for your family to come for Thanksgiving but what do you love next when they leave uh-huh because you're not used Avin fifty nine people in your house. All of them want to eat at the same time is a little overwhelming for units definitely overwhelming for votes with dementia. So no matter where we are if we're at their home or where they live and we're taking their someone taking them somewhere. We WanNa make sure that there is a quiet spot for them so that after an hour hour and a half where you can judge it you pay attention to that person. Listen you realize. They're a little bit overwhelmed. I think I'm going to take him. Maybe let them take nap. And don't take them into the bedroom that they've never been to before and helping to lie down down and turn off the light leave. There might be frightened because they don't know where they are. What's going on again? Remember your Japan and you don't know anything you've never been to Japan before you might just want to sit there with them and If they WANNA talk talk or maybe they just want you to put on some soothing music and maybe sing quietly in the background or maybe they just want you to sit by the bed or lie on the bed with them and hold their hand so they feel comfortable and they can relax and then maybe once they doze off if you want to slide out and go have some conversation. That'll be fine but be aware when they wake up. They're not GonNa know where they are. So you've got to constantly be checking on them in making sure that they are okay with what's going on but allow that quiet space. Make sure that your family knows that you are going to to fix MOMS played in a way that will be acceptable for her brain. You know they may come in and load up one of everything that's been fixed in their pike. Looks it's a little bit like Mount Everest in you're gonNA fix moms play with maybe two or three bites of three or four things in. That's all or maybe just three everything's or maybe just one thing it depends on where your loved one is in their journey that you want to keep things simple but if there's a plate with a whole a bunch of things on it and they look at it is just overwhelming so there's just Turkey and it's cut up in little pieces. They can eat with their fingers. That's a thumbs up when they've finished the Turkey may be then we want to add green beans But you can judge how many items to put on the plight with your log on but you never wanna load their play it. It is overwhelming to the brain and the brain looks at. It doesn't know which direction to go so you know what we do. We pull back and we don't eat and you won't people to enjoy join meals. I mean this is something we do we eat together. It is part of every society. We always eat together when we can and especially at Thanksgiving or holidays. Today's or birthdays. Whatever so let your folks? No I'M GONNA fix MOMS Pie. I know what she likes. And I'm going to put on her plate. The amounts that will appeal appealed to her so that potentially she will eat. I just want you to know this in advance and then another thing you might want to do is to help those who are coming to visit knowhow to respond and interact with mom. Should they call her by her name. How do they go and get conversation going? And that's what we're GonNa talk about tomorrow. 'cause I can tell you for quite a while I didn't call my Mama Mama a powder veer gene and there was a very good reason for that and we're talk about that tomorrow excuse me and How to physically interact and ask our loved ones in guest interact with our votes with dementia? That will make Thanksgiving and Christmas. Or whatever were your holiday might be a more joyful and wonderful occasion and I look forward to that. So I'll see you tomorrow and we're GONNA talk Thanksgiving little bit early because I want. Oh you to be prepared in just in case you think you need to bring Turkey to my house now. I don't eat Turkey. Tofu Turkey now. That would be good to my. You should think about that for me. You guys have a great day bye bye. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families as you can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. WWW dot n. f. dot org. They speak veterans Edwin. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse better or both editor bed you you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing looking at what you've written in making sure represents you will find her at. WWW W. dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on flint straight extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three. We nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's Talk Doc. Dementia it's available on Amazon paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember member knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Turkey, Dressing, Deviled Eggs and Momma, Part TWO
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hi Maher Carol Hallel here with. Let's talk dementia. And I'm glad that together today we can talk about mentioned and the holidays specifically. We're coming up on Thanksgiving living in the Christmas and New Year's knows what you've got going. Maybe a whole lot of partying happening Adam. But we're going to talk about How to make get a very successful or as successful as possible holiday season with you and your loved one with dementia? You didn't catch the last episode. Let's stop stop may be an go back when episode in and pick up on that little tidbit of information there but as I finish that episode told you we were going to talk about how to interact interact with your loved one with dementia how to address them and the information that I will give you that needs to be shared with family members before the via so making sure your loved ones who are going to be attending the same event. You are now even if they aren't you loved ones and you. I really don't like them all that much. You know. I have to make you giggle but we still want anyone who's interacting with your individual with dementia your L. A. It to know what to expect in what they can do to have the best interaction possible so keep them informed of what you've learned so I can tell. Oh you did for the longest time in the last days of my mom's life when I say the longest time that's very bad against is isn't it. I should say probably for the last. Oh six six. To nine months of my mom's life I did not automatically recall her mama when I got to see her. It was always neat for me. She lived in a small group department. The front door had sidelights. You know down the side of the door and I could look in and if I saw four feet two ladies feet four feet I knew one one set of those feet belong to my Mama and I told my husband one day. I'M GONNA look in and there's not going to be the state there and it's GonNa be a hard day but it was just wonderful to look in my Mama's fate. Eight propped up in her lazy boy. recliner that was not a lazy boys. She didn't own it all but I told her it was. Because I'm kind like that and I I would not just go in and go. Hey Momma how are you today do not do that. I go in and go. Hey Beer Jane how're you. And if she looked at me this blank blank look like she didn't know who I was where you could tell. She wasn't focusing. She was not really there Then my conversation with her are we continue as Beijing but if I said Hey gene how are you and she went. Hey Kooky Hauer you. Then I knew that Momma was there in so my neck since would be will mama. I've had a good day or I would address her as Mama And that was important because on those times when my mom had that blank look and didn't recognize me as her daughter she would not feel comfortable with may calling for Mama because when she looked at me on those days. Shouldn't who I was so for me to say. Hey Mama would then be disconcerting to her. She'd be like much Mama or you. I do not know. Why are you calling me Mama? And that would be hard for her and let me just. Leyla wisdom Mr Monja. It's hard for the loved one. When that happens it would have been hard for me and there were a couple of times in my mom's life that she did not recognize me and that Her like a just a stabs his heart like bank. Oh Gosh it was so painful so I did not want experienced that and I did one moment to experience so adjuster as Vera. Djing so you WanNa say to your loved ones who will be at the holiday dinner or whatever it is. You've got plan when you see mom color bar first name and go. Hey Hey mary. It's good to see you John just coming to visit with you. And if she acts like she knows who johnny is has than John Mike can say. Hey Aunt Mary you doing all right if she doesn't know who johnny as or doesn't seem to respond in a way that would make him think. Okay she's recognizing me than he needs to continue calling her by whatever name it is she goes by. It will bring comfort to her. So that's our first point. We WanNa do on the last episode. We talked about not over filling the play. That's important and giving time for risk that's important but we also want to have some activities. Sometimes family family gathered Gathering going on besides just sitting down to eat that mom can participate in an under gonNa tell you one of the best things you can do. I have some music time so for my mom's last Thanksgiving last year. My family gathered in her skilled nursing room. Because you know it's just one room in skilled nursing way brought in all our traditional Thanksgiving foods we spread 'em out there in her room. We got permission ahead of time Although at at seven thousand eight hundred fifty dollars a month they were not going to tell me. I couldn't have Thanksgiving dinner with my mama yet. Try that one. I digress. But we ate together in Mama Eight. Well she was very alert and together and we must sister and her guitar and we signed hang with Mama and we sang some hymns and we sang some bluegrass. which I don't like but my sister does and we sang mom's favorite song? Put your sweet lips a little closer to the phone by Jim Reeves and Mama saying it was great. That was Thanksgiving at Christmas now. We're talking a month later. Not even a month. We tried tried that again. Exact same scenario just different food and she ate very little. She didn't seem very much and she even said you pay should shut up so doesn't always go as planned but normally music will reach our loved one so in in the Thanksgiving A the example I gave you way did fair Madison. You with Mama now not into line because Momma get tired pretty quickly in the Christmas example where we we realized boneless not responding to this. We stopped we did not continue doing. What wasn't settling on Mama? Well it wasn't falling on Mama landing on her in a happy place so don't continue doing now another thing you can do As a group is to sit around and talk about old times and let the family know ahead of time. Think about something. Oh you did with my mom. When she was in high school or a story you heard about her when she was dating dad or about the prom she went to what college she went to? You ask her about her Mama and daddy ask about what job her daddy had and if her mom had a job outside of the home talk about that ask her about her first job and have that conversation going on topics that mom can relate to and mom very well might do that for a while inch may get tired and just not WanNa do it anymore. In which case we're going to change the subject we're going to try doing something different or even offer our nap or maybe it's just time to go and be aware of that. Make sure that when you get ready to leave you take into account how long you're going to be gone. And his Arthur Arthur medications. You need to take with you that mom would regularly get. We don't WanNA throw were awful per routine of getting medicines to six and ten or whatever it is she gets You can check her out of any community and say please give me the midst mom take was. We won't be back till whatever time and I need to get permits and they'll do that but make sure you take them also. Make sure that when you leave your house or you leave the community you take with you. Depends Yeah Anna clean change clothes. Oh yeah because you don't want to get to our from home in thank our our from home or heck. You don't want to get across town and have something happen you know. And now we've got dirty this in dirty that nothing claim to put on so plan for that with your in the car plan for some snacks Plan for hydration and plan for some the music that might be soothing to them some conversation that you can have with him to. Hopefully they won't talk the whole way. But if you were in the car with my momma she talk the entire way by the time you got there would be totally exhausted so think about that. I just caution you about getting your loved ones out for big events like that unless less than just very early in the process but you know think about it because it's very hard you know that it's hard for you when you get back from big events like that you're tired tired and They'll be ten times as tire so make Thanksgiving Christmas. New Year's birthdays groundhog's Day. I don't know what chew celebrate but making an event that they can participate in if possible and keep it low key or to the level that that is acceptable for their cognitive and physical abilities. I can tell you from my mom's birthday in March of this year I remember Mama passed in Mesa. ISO- March Fifteenth Birthday may eight. She went on hospice may thirty first. She passed so by March. Mum was very so far in her Alzheimer's journey and for her eightieth birthday. It was just I think Seema Middle System husband myself the I think that it was just just us and And her favourite caregiver of course was there and That will thing was when I told her you know on the next week birthday and she goes. I sure hope you're bringing breasts. But the day of her birthday celebration she. She was just not there she was very much out and it was not fun for us. It was not fun for her the next day she probably was totally different. So be aware that just because you thank you know how your loved ones GonNa React in that gathering family situation. It might not be what you expect and if it is then you have to go with the flood you may you have to leave earlier and come home earlier than planned. But I'm just GonNa tell you folks it's not about you this Thanksgiving and Christmas. They're not about you. They are about doing doing whatever you can do. To make that holiday season that Christmas season as meaningful for the family and but most of all for your loved off one so that your loved one comes to wail and not exhausted in not stressed out in not needing anxiety medications because the whole family you know about the family got together well made you give a little bit and I hope that you will make good plans got questions. You can always write me. Carol at. Let's let's talk dementia dot. Org have a good day. Listen to smiles. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor bad head. You can find Miss Beth. Crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW ME WW dot editor Beth Dot Com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Powell. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia? We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll I'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Things Are Not What They Seem
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome to let's talk dementia. I'm Carol How will your internationally Certified Dementia Practitioner. I'm glad you've chosen to join me today. Did you see my little dog. Just leave the room. I guess she's she's bored. I don't know well today. I WanNa talk to you about how things are not always what they seem recently. We've been doing a lot of talking about preventing Alzheimer's and thought we'd just take a little break from that talk about life so today the kind of a weird day. It's been up. Call it a a weepy Mama Day. We'd be Mama morning. I heard the song on the gaither either vocal channel which I love the gaither vocal band. I listen to their music a lot of times. And this trio of women. I don't know who they were saying. The song angels in the Roane and it was talking about a man who is passing and he was saying to his family. Look don't you see there are angels in the room. Well it took me back very quickly to May thirty first When my mom passed and It was sad for me and it's still is obviously. I think about that day and I think about her passing and how beautiful and and wonderful in and full of the Holy Spirit that day was but in my heart when I think about it is painful and I don't know that it's something I'll ever get over were and I don't really think I want to. I want to always have that strong connection to my Mama and I know I will but when you see me out in public I'm always smiling. I'm always have a makeup looks much better than it looks right now. 'cause well I've been crying. You might not know in passing what has gone on in my life for the last. Thirteen years Tom In watching Mama go from being vibrant working woman who could outsail anybody in the store no matter what the product making me. Oh so happy. Every time she knocked on my door bringing me Sonic Cherry lime AIDS with extra Jerry's because she knows she knew that's what I liked to becoming becoming a woman who when she looked at me did not know who I was. You know how hard that is. If you're not there yet in your journey your loved one and sticks around long enough. You're going to experience that in. It's painful it hurts so when you see me out in public you would have no clue of that. It just makes me think about there are people in our world. Well let me just back that up. Everybody we literally everybody we meet is dealing with something that we don't know about. We don't know if they're caregivers we don't know if they have been abandoned Brandin if they have been abused maybe they are in a very stressful and awful life situation where they're being physically mentally l. e. sexually financially whatever kind of abuse they're receiving maybe they're being bullied at school. Maybe they're different for whatever reason and they're being made to feel less than maybe the morning. Maybe they're grieving. Maybe they've lost a job maybe they've they've lost their home. They've lost their income. Maybe they've lost their mama their daddy their husband their wife their sibling their best friend. You just don't know and so what I want to say to you today. Is Bill aware of that. You are not the only person person in the world who is dealing with tough times Thanksgiving's coming Christmas around the corner. Those are extremely difficult times for many many people. The suicide rate is higher between now in the first of the year that any other time of the year because holidays are hard. It's hard being around family. Sometimes that may not be accepting of you for whatever reason. It's hard being around families that don't understand your grief that don't acknowledge it. And maybe maybe you're not acknowledging it and their own world. It's hard sometimes to pull up your big girl panties and keep going for the day. But I want you to know that when you're meeting up with these people and you're realizing that everything is not what it appears to be that behind that or in front of that. In addition to that we need to bring smiles miles. We need to bring hope. We need to bring words of encouragement. We need to let folks know we are there for them. I have a friend who who donates to our company monthly and. I'm so thankful for all of you. Folks who donate to our ministry so that we can keep paying for these podcasts in these videos that you you watch her cards make me so happy. There's nothing profound. It's just. She took a moment to ride. Why in tell me what's going on in her world and into thanked me for helping her in her journey but just hearing from her that that touch in my world just means a lot it to me? I was riding her today. Thanking her for that people's lives are not all what they seem and I know in her world. She's dealt with a lot of great from the passing of her sister. People deal with a lot. Look at this picture. What do you see? You should see an owl and this picture was actually taken after. I had spoken. Okay one night in North Carolina back in October and the lady I was with went. Look there is an al I wear wear is the out. It had flown right over over. My head landed in the tree and she cut that pitcher. Isn't it incredible. I think it is absolutely a gorgeous pitcher but look at the purple in the background. You know that's not what you think it is to me. It looked like maybe purple flowers in the background. Purple something in the tree. But it's the dark night sky. See Things aren't what they appear to be. We see one thing but what actually might be could could be something totally different. You know you have to think about that. Think about that when it comes to your loved one. What they are experiencing is probably not what you think they are experiencing? What they are seeing is certainly not what you're seeing? Their vision has changed so much what they are wishing for in hoping for and desirous of. I don't think we can begin to imagine and the stress that they feel from not being able to to participate in life. We don't have a clue I can teach you about it. I can try to help you understand but I don't know and you no no one knows because the people who do know can't tell us about it but it's got to be it's just got to be a very agonizing using thing to be in a room full of people and not be able to participate in life with him. That's what your loved ones kind of feel like Thanksgiving and Christmas may be New Year's and whenever ever whenever you get the family together they want to be a part of the world. They want to be able to participate. They look like they should be able to man up until January of this year. Mamma died in May up into January. Viewer visit mom. You might not even guess just by looking king at her that she had advanced age. Alzheimer's would be leaving us in five months. Things are not what they seem but she was dealing with a lot in. She was confused a lot and she was frustrated law and she even had pain. Things are not what they seem and being aware of that. Uh when you're taking care of your loved one is important but helping your friends to be aware of that as they interact with you. That's SORTA Kinda maybe a little bit your responsibility because until you've care give in a in a specific situation especially dementia Asia. Then you don't understand it if your friends have not been through that caregiving experience. They don't know what you're going through so maybe just a little word from you. That says I'm having a weepy. Mama morning I feel like Poo Poo and it's messed my makeup all up an adult. Need you to solve anything for me right now. Yeah if you could just put your arms around me all I cry. Well that would mean a lot to me. I've told my husband husband that US if a Stark Ryan you don't have to fix its use after all me and as my friend Linda Tommy. She's a carol when those moments come let them come. Let them wash over you and feel you but let them leave GotTa let them leave today. See Her read. It makes my my face and I just put on my makeup on award well. I hope that you've got some words of wisdom from me today with my arterial itself and for you folks who don't have this video form in you're listening to maybe you can go to our website and pull up this this video and see that beautiful picture how it is quite something up. You have a good day. Blesses miles per by. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in a v F dot Org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to in you. Tell Them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor editor Beth Dot Com. She is at mazing looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com Tom and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight three nine eight five zero nine eight fine I they are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia tell them carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon Azzawi. Paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
A Dementia Sewing Project
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author Carol. Caregivers this is Carol. Let's talk dementia. Well today I met the sewing machine. I got to thinking about dementia in something. That's been a an important part of my world because my mama made everything us. Three girls war all our clothes. I mean all our clothes. She made she even made my dad's leisure suits. Do you guys remember leisure suits from the nineteen seventies where she made him with that double stitching on the outside? She made our joy reason covered our furniture. And well. I got a little bit of that talent but boy nothing like what she could do. But today I am covering Or recovering some pillaged from my law. That just got. They didn't look so that in it made me think about all the times I would sit and watch moms sub and she would teach me how to so so a little bit going beard. You're listening to this year. That noise in the background. That's the sewing machines which are not static on telephone in. Mamma taught me how the so and I'm glad I think about her lot now is I'm working on this but there came a point. My Mama's journey of dementia that sewing frustrated her and so I would be there to help her on the frustration that she would experience and she could keep going in. We would accomplish projects the last project moment I ever made together was we made twenty eight poodle. Skirts for one of the choirs that I worked with I conducted choirs for those with dimension. We were doing a sock hop in all those ladies. Well they need a poodle skirts. And Mama helped me and I say helped. Kind of loosely. Because he kinda was more in the room than anything in this kind of point. Mama got to the point. She couldn't read the machine she could not remember the processes for threading sewing machine. She could not remember how to make the bobbin thread. Come up on top on on platform here to begin sewing. Mama couldn't do that anymore. She couldn't remember how to turn a pattern to make it fit on the fabric but if I decided to do a sewing project and acted as if Mama steel could do it and got her Bob to whatever level she could do so much enjoyed it and just hung out together and instead of me going. Mama's moved also at myself. I'll go no mom. I want you to stand over. May and watch me while I do this so I can learn when folks knew how to do what I was doing. Okay I I really didn't have to have mama there. But it sure was more fun having her there and then giving her the sense of having accomplished helping with the project. That was pretty big for Momma then. Every time we looked at the poodle skirts. Aca Go mom of you and I made those together. We did a good job did and we did to a good job. I really did get very sick of sewing on poodles. I'm GonNa tell you that with the Courting you know for the caller that came up to the waistband. Thought we'd never get all those silly skirts done. But it was a fun time with our loved ones with dementia. We know that they start. Losing INTEREST. In hobbies we see that early on in their dementia. Journey is sometimes even before they're ever diagnosed. One of the symptoms is mom's not participating E. N. filling the blind. Maybe it's playing cards with their friends. may be it sewing like with Mama. Maybe it's cooking. I don't know what was her hobby. What was the thing? She likes most ADO in. If you notice a change in that that they're clicking away from it it might be time to stop and go. Why are they pulling away from it in? Is it dementia meaning that they cannot process the thaw to make that activity happened any longer? And that's what happened with Mama but she would get excited about assisting me in different things and you know it was quite amazing every once in a while in that process of making all those listed poodle skirts mama would come up with something that would really help. And I'd be like certainly wasn't expecting that for Momma but theory was and she was able to help it was so meaningful for her and for me too but break your people into that experience if they liked to cook bring them into the kitchen and allow them to do the things they can do. I remember the last time was in the kitchen with me was in her group home which is just a home where six people lived. It was wonderful and so it had a kitchen just a house in a neighborhood of course education and I cooked on. Sundays is just something I've done for years and cooked for everybody else Sunday so I asked the staff. Can I cook on Sunday so I yeah so mama would get in there and she would help me I remember one time we were having Kiwok patties and I buy them already made their quite good from all of you have not had them. I recommend you do. Mama could not handle that whole process. Moma here is the baking pan. Here's the bots. Will you open the boxes up for me? As we were cooking for six people took several boxes and she was able to open the box or the boxes and took a little effort for Momma. She wasn't super quick at it but it got her ball inside. She opened the boxes in the signal. Here the scissors because it was still okay from scissors. Cut The plastic that holds these keen walkers out could cut it away and get the burgers out and she did now Mama. Could you put the Burgers on the baking sheet? And she did some was involved. Now I will tell you mom very much did not mind at all. Having Somebody Cook for her so she wasn't really thrilled about helping to cook so after she got that done. She's like I'll go sit in my chair. You can finish this project like Okay Mama. Whatever makes you happy and she did. She did not help any more. But get your folks involved whatever degree they can help in. Change your definition of help if you want to have something to allow them to empty the dishwasher. Get the knives out ahead of time. So nobody's GonNa get hurt and then don't get freaked out when the plates are where the Cup should be in the cups or where the dish the casserole dishes should be. Just let her go in and straighten it out because what you did was you. Allow them to participate in life to the -bility they were capable of. Doing you celebrate it and you went on with it because I got used for you. You don't do things right every down anyway. So don't expect them to go incorrect. Which you think needs to be corrected when they're not looking while they're taking a nap. Go in and fix whatever you think just has to be fixed. And if it doesn't have to be fixed just let alone this my thought for today. Now I got three pillars to make in their coming out. What pretty I will show you the Fabric here may get this that you can take a look. I've got one finished but have already could it on the late night and this is pretty fabric for one side in the NBA. Coordinating Fabric. Come back and I'm just excited about him. I'm here quarantine because this is the project I can do. You guys have a Great Day. Safe DAY BE HEALTHY. See on the next episode of. Let's talk. Dementia let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF f. dot org. They speak veteran. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Miss Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure represents you will find her at. Www dot editor. Beth DOT COM and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. Paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's Talk Dementia Book and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
The Television Show This Is Us and Mild Cognitive Impairment
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Hi Carol Hello and welcome to. Let's talk dementia. Well today. I've already been out in the pool and it's just been wonderful into a mating things to do today and then a little more energetic. Maybe then I felt the last few days and I'm excited about that today. We're going to talk about mild cognitive impairment. I was speaking with one of my clients just earlier in Had the conversation that his mom had been diagnosed with. Mci Mild cognitive impairment in he was surprised. Learn a few things about it and I thought maybe I should do a show about it. Do you guys watch. This is us. I'm GonNa tell you that family never has anything good ever happen. I mean there's three kids and daddy died in a fire and Oma word life. There's they have good stuff is a depressing show and why I watch it. I'm not entirely sure but always do. I stay current well. The MOM has recently been diagnosed with. Mci Mild cognitive impairment in the doctor said Rebecca has mild cognitive impairment. That will lead to Alzheimer's or something along those lines and I thought okay. That's a little different than what I understand. Mild COGNITIVE IMPAIRMENT. Because what we know. is mild cognitive. Impairment is not Alzheimer's so when I was talking to my friend Jeff earlier about his mom and he said Mons just doing so much better than she had been doing. Mom's husband had died I don't end the last year eighteen months. I can't recall exactly when I've told you this. Grief businesses serious stuff and it messes with you. She was dealing with that and she came awesome medications and she's had a huge improvement in her cognitive bing but she does have some issues and the dodgers have called mild cognitive impairment while he was surprised to learn that mild. Cognitive impairment did not necessarily mean that she would have Alzheimer's he just thought that it was the natural progression that it was early. Alzheimer's and there are physicians who will refer to mild cognitive impairment as early Alzheimer's when it's not so what is mild cognitive. Impairment will it is that inability to think clearly in all the situations of live or in many situations of why but it is not disabling. You are still able to function live on your own and and probably still work and pay your bills but things are just more difficult and waste thank Things aren't right with mom and we need to find out what's going on so The symptoms you forget things more often. You might forget appointment. Serve going out with your friends. You might have trouble making some decisions but overall you're still functioning pretty well. Then that is often called mild cognitive impairment. It is the stage between expected normal aging the decline. We get with normal aging and the serious declined. It comes with dementia. It's right in the middle in between those two things But it does not mean. You will have Alzheimer's mild. Cognitive impairment can be caused by many things. It can be a precursor to Alzheimer's it can be a precursor to Parkinson's or Lewy body dementia. It can be brought on because a vascular issues The things that we do we don't do for our body can cause on increased risk of cognitive change like diabetes and smoking and eating wrong and not moving our bodies and not having social interaction with other people being a reclusive staying in our home and not actually having a life so to speak we know that people with Mc MCI have a significantly increased risk but not a certainty of developing dimension. Did you get that? The chance of dementia brought on by a disease where it is an irreversible dementia is increase. But it's not a certainty on the Mayo Clinic. Website says overall about one to three percent of older adults develop dementia every year one to three percent of older adults develop dementia. Every year study suggests that ten to fifteen percent of individuals with mild cognitive impairment go on to develop dementia so for my friend Jeff. That's good news that only ten to fifteen percent of those folks with MCI actually do wind up with dementia for some irreversible reason like Alzheimer's or Parkinson's Parkinson's are newly body struggle. Whatever so that that's a little different than maybe what you thought. So he was looking back. Oh thanks July. August of last year of moving mom to A community had a a section. That wasn't memory care and it wasn't system living right in the middle which had more of a lifestyle like assisted living but was more secure like memory. That was a very good plan. Well she wound up not moving and has gone through. This process is getting better. And now they're thinking maybe she could go ahead and move and be in a community around people and have that social interaction that so important for all of us and I said you know. I'm not sure that mom needs to be in that middle ground. I think she's fine right there in assisted living more interaction. More normal lifestyle. Been What we would have in that bridge unit. That's between the two. He was surprised to understand that in host all assisted living communities. They will handle medication management. He's like oh I don't know mom needs to be in that bridge unit because she still has Franck leatherman's well how honestly don't know of an assisted living in this country that does not offer mid management night until you in London on. That's not the case. Those communities there are called assisted living. But they don't offer help with care for the for the human body so it's different there but pretty much United States. You're going to get that here. He was surprised to learn. And so I'm so glad. His mom has improved so what was going on at grief was weighing her down. I get it. She was on medications. That maybe she didn't need to be on any longer. Inter MEDICATIONS WERE ADJUSTED. And now she's feeling more like herself and she's able to get out and get about in participate in life. How wonderful that is. I want her to participate in life in the assisted living environment with people like herself where she can get very involved in do more things in had more of a live right. That's what we want. She can afford it. And I think it'd be good for her something to think about for your loved one so if MCI mild cognitive impairment those words have crossed. Your path don't freak out. Don't go mom's got Alzheimer's going change tomorrow. Well it's probably not true. It's going to be very slow process for them and it may never change. It may always just be mild cognitive impairment not to downplay that. I don't want to have those words set over me. That Carol has mild cognitive impairment. That would not make me happy but it also is not a certainty of Alzheimer's. That's good news isn't it? I know lady who was diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment in her thirties. She's still doing okay. I spent some time ago. Well that gives you some hope in case you're learning about mild cognitive impairment. Or you're watching. This is us and Rebecca's got it and now they're worried. She's going to have Alzheimer's. And if you sing. The flash forwards were again. Never anything good flashing forward. I think we find her in a very dark place television. I've got to go back to watching friends and frazier because it made me laugh. You guys have a great day and I'll see you next episode of Let's Talk Dementia lessons and smiles. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF dot org. They speak veteran. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor. Bet You can find his Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Desiree Has A Question Or 12 - I Bet You Do, Also!
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol High Caregivers. I'm Carol Hello and welcome to this episode of. Let's talk to today's episode is brought to you by like. I'm GONNA do the cheerios commercial or something right here. But I'm not but it's brought to you. Because of a phone call I just had with aligning delray. And she's got quite a experience going on with mom right now and she's just kind of like. I need help help help. And that's what I'm here for. An all you've got to do is email me carol at. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org and tell me a little bit of your storing. GimMe your phone number now. We'll call you. You can also sign up for a free thirty minute. Consultation cost you not a dime and if you go to let's Talk Dementia Dot Org and you click on calendar of events. Click the date in the day in the time that you want it'll tell you to email me and you father's directions and we'll make that phone call happened will desharnais did make me think about a lot of things and maybe. I should talk to you guys about similar to. What's going on in her role before I do? GotTa Tell You I'm sitting here. I record the audio of this for the podcast. The video portion of it for the video series in so as I sit here recording the video. My desk looks up. Clean Natan organisms. Please but what you guys don't see is what's behind this this this area that I have exposed you to is not as clean in NATO's that I wish it were but there are a lot of papers such as live but anyway desert as mom is eighty nine in still lives alone. As far as we know she has Alzheimer's type dementia and potentially vascular dementia Alzheimer's Type Dementia being the number one of dementia in our country. As far as I know in the world it's number one for the reasons someone could have dementia over two hundred reasons. Someone can have dementia Alzheimer's being the leading calls but her mom also quite some time ago had a stroke and maybe even more recently had a second stroke they don't know when the second stroke happened so potentially potentially mom has vascular dementia which is the second leading cause of dementia where there's something that's gone on As far as maybe an aneurysm others blood not getting to the brain. We've had a stroke. Different things that have happened in the brain net bring about damage and then Dementia can result from that. So sounds like mom's got to whammy against her. You know two big things against her that could be bringing on issues cognitively. Her vitamin B. is also very low low vitamin B. as in boy low vitamin D. As in dog both can cause dementia but if that is the only thing going on and we get those. Two things cleared up and leveled out and the balance right on both of those vitamins. The dementia can go away but if there is another reason for dementia as there is in her mom's case then that vitamin B deficiency can make the worse so we WANNA get vitamin B. leveled out if possible to help balance out that DEMENTIA MAY BE IMPROVED. It a little bit because now we've eliminated a reason for dementia. So she's got a lot going on. She's overwhelmed and she's like a gut so many questions in those days that Mama's not the best days I'm not the best and I don't know what to expect. And how long is this going to go on Things like this and there's a lot of things I can answer for her when I cannot answer is. How long is this going to go on? And I'm sure she knows that there's no way we can predict how long someone is going to be in this world and Of experience that a lot and even today found out. One of my friend's MOM died yesterday on Easter Day and We don't know but we don't know that about our friends in ourselves the people who don't have dementia. We don't know there's no predicting but we do know that there are stages of dementia and they are broken down lots aways I call them. Beginning middle and end The doctor told her he felt like mom was in the beginning stages of Alzheimer's now. I don't know a lot about her mom. I'm just beginning to learn a might. We question that stage as far as the beginning stage based on some of the things. She's telling me about mom. It may be moms a little further along than maybe the beginning of her disease but nonetheless there are things that we look for specifically in the beginning stages than we see things that progress into the mid mid stages as I call them and then in the light stages so the Alzheimer's Association divided up into several different categories. I just do beginning middle in early mid late three categories. Because it's easier for this. Little Brian to keep track of and so realizing the kind of dementia have are your loved. One has and where they are in that journey if they're just beginning the middle or in their late stages that will help answer the question of potentially. How long will they live? But as you know there's so many things that can happen that can change on jeopardy but what I wanted her to know more specifically than anything is that understanding the kind of dementia mom has understanding what to expect what those stages look like having that base knowledge will make the journey easier. And that's what I want for you and that's why do this show so arranged for her to call me back tomorrow. She was actually with her mom when I talked to her earlier in this. Call me tomorrow when your wife for MOM and We'll get into more detail but understanding that those various stages will definitely have a dramatic impact on the caregiving experience because it has an impact on who they are at that time what they can do and what they can't do and what they can do in the early stages of the disease is definitely greater than what they can do in the later stages of the disease so for our next several shows for next three shows. We're GONNA talk about early stage. Alzheimer's midstate Alzheimer's in late stage Alzheimer's. I'll be covering those in the show to help. You may be discerned where your loved when he is or may be where you are. Maybe you have to mention. You're wondering where you are in that process and then understanding. What is normal for those stages to help you prepare yourself if you're the one with dementia or you as the caregiver to ban little more ahead of the game to know this is coming in. I'm preparing myself mentally and physically and preparing my home in maybe making plans for the future sparseness in living memory care and why that's important so be sure to join me on our upcoming episodes of let's talk dementia. We posed a three to four episodes every week in their free. You can find them everywhere so check him out on itunes and on Youtube and everything is on our website. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org Pure so inclined to make a donation to keep our ministry floating especially during these times of quarantine Thank you very much for that. Now GonNA finish. The show is here. Look and I can tell. I was outside today with my sunglasses on because I can see right. Where my sunglasses were. That's just not a cute look. Is it so? If you're listening to this. You are spared that yea for you. Well I hope you guys have a great caregiving journey tune in every day but especially for the next three to learn about stages of dementia that is brought on because of Alzheimer's lessons miles on your caregiving journey by. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and Families? You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at. Www dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse the veteran or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US. Today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all made more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Do I Have Mild Cognitive Impairment?
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles miles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here is your host bestselling author Carol. Happy Two thousand and twenty caregivers can you believe it. His Two thousand twenty. What happened just flew by? I was thinking just yesterday. Hey that my mom's been in heaven for seven months and in some ways it feels like that. It was just yesterday that she passed away and in some ways I feel like it's been just years since I got holder. Hear her say Kooky get your you know what over here you know her very last sense to me and this is just mom on. This is how how she was in her last day. So get ready her very last full sinister. Mainly Kooky get your ass over here and I just think that's funny. A you know my mom. I had lost the filtered node what to say in windows eight but in my nicknamed Bougie so she said it real output. Get your ass over here so you know what I did. I got my ass over Thursday. What mom wanted which was not anything important? I'm sure that was mom but our children go up and you look at them in one one minute there in four years older older in the first grade and the next thing to graduate from college and you go. Where was I doing all that? How did that happen but life is light at eight we grow? We change. We adapt we make steps forward. We make steps backwards. Unfortunately we go sideways a few days but hopefully were always moving always growing and trying to improve our sales and the quality of our lives and when we do that we help others and that's what let's talk dementia all about this. Is your first time watching this video or listening to it in podcast. Form in whatever of the various many mediums available. Then I'll welcome you and I hope that I will be able to bring you words of comfort and hope and joy and peace in laughter laughter and if there's a subject is on your mind or a question that you have or story you WanNa tell or maybe you just need to vent a call it verbal vomit. You know you you just get it off your chest. Then I'm here for you and you can write me Carol at let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org also find us on facebook at. Let's talk dementia. Manjoo ago there and like us go to youtube like us there and subscribe at anywhere else. You find Do all the Nice things nice words. Well well I always talk about dementia but actually today. I'm going to talk to you about mild cognitive impairment. Also known as M. C. I.. And what is mild cognitive impairment. Is it the same thing as dementia or is it different. Well Mild. Cognitive impairment is a disorder involving problems with memory But they they are greater than normal age related memory issues. You know as we age we all forget stuff like we do. Does anybody know where my glasses. This is our or we go I know where my phone is. Where's my phone and the whole time you've got your phone up to your your ear? You know we do crazy stuff like that or you walk into the grocery store you get your buggy in you. Stand there and go. What the heck was it? I was GONNA buy there. Were three things on motliest that I didn't write down. What did I want to buy? I'm one of these people that I will try to come up with an acronym to go with what I need to buy light. BB A B the other day. It was Be Let me think it was baby G. H. and it was bananas and brand and what stood did for but that's how our members in my head over and over went. BBC G. H.. Baby eight to help me remember it right and then you get there sometimes. You don't remember what your acronyms divorced so normal age related changes In your memory or normal that's okay. Dementia is not normal in my own. Kind of impairment is somewhere between the two inch. We've got normal age related changes in memory and we've got dementia in somewhere between that have mild cognitive impairment Symptoms do you become more noticeable especially to the individual more so to them probably than family But we realize Hannah. I'm just having a hard time keeping. Thanks straight so some of the common signs of mild cognitive impairment. And I'm reading to you today from the new the magazine Alzheimer's Today because don't get this. It's free highly recommend it. It's a great little magazine and I use information quite often from. They're always giving them credit for it but they say some of the common signs of MCI. Mike Mild cognitive impairment are forgetting things. More often we'll do. We know that you're talking about it. We just forget things more often than what we used to frequently Gwinnett losing train of thought Why are we talking about again? Oh Yeah NCI you. You just can't seem to stay on target of what it was. You were talking about difficulty remembering scheduled appointments android Vince In all of these are symptoms of dementia too but they are not as extreme. We don't notice them quite as frequently on Chang challenges was navigating familiar locations or environments girlfriend. Take me to the mall. Dropped me off I am. I'm not even GONNA be able to find my car but that's just carol I am. I am directionally challenged. And please don't tell me to go east or West. Got No clue what that means the increased difficulty or anxiety with making decisions planning or following instructions so those are just some of the things we might look for with mile kind into the pyramid. But you look for all of those things dementia too. So how are they different. Dan Okay Carol tell us that good question. Glad you ask in the differences differences. They do not affect the activities of daily living. Look you've listened to this show very many times. I told you my acronym beads like the beads on a necklace B. B. E. A. D. With T.. On the end bead with the young. and which makes my acronym spell nothing at all. But those are the activities of daily living bathing eating ambulation dressing in toiling be adt diminishes the inability to think clearly that affects those activities of daily living. Living Mild. Cognitive impairment are issues with remembering and maybe functioning in some of those ways that we talked about in a mild white but it does not affect the day to day a activities of live. These folks are quite well functioning on their own. Driving Going About Balancing Checkbooks Boone. All the things they normally holding cutting down jobs but they just realized that there's some issues there so now what causes that well many times mild. Cognitive impairment is brought on aunt by a reversible issue. Such as the side effect of a medication or maybe a urinary tract infection thyroid imbalance Depression Russian depression is a very real issue in the human body and when we think well. I hope you're not the kind of person who thinks so. My has has depression just needs to pray it off because I'm just here to tell you that's not logical that's like saying somebody has cancer needs to pray it off and yes guy does heal people from cancer but it is not an issue that you can just get over. It is something each trading so keep that in mind. I know this I've lived with this. I'm very well L.. Aware of what depression can do in body in a marriage is very difficult in a home. It's very hard so those side effects that can come from depression. Depression can look much like dementia in very often would be mild cognitive impairment not sleeping good That indefinitely bring about out this by Guinness in Just not quite autom- on your top gain not being able to think clearly High anxiety Being tense or stressed out about something you know that will do that. Too so we always work best when we're fully rested in win we're fully hydrated and we're not hungry in green are belly's not growling and we've In a good mood we're going to work better in those situations but with all of those things are okay okay and we still have issues then then we need to think what's going on Is this mild cognitive impairment or do we have the early signs. It's a a disease causing dementia. So of course what you WANNA do. You WanNa go to the doctor you want to say. This is what I'm dealing with. I want you right off the bat to tell me I have dementia. I want you to put put me through the process into steps to determine if maybe what I have is mild kind of impairment and is it caused by something that can be fixed as. There's something I need need to change in my life. That might help the in. Do those steps to make those changes What we know is that having mile conduct impairment does not guarantee you'll have dementia? People will call it free. Alzheimer's I don't know that that's exactly accurate although we do you sing. Many people with mild kinds of impairment. Who Do seem to go on and half a year reversible form of dementia such as Alzheimer's but it is not a guarantee not so? Don't get stressed out about that. There are people who have mild kind of impairment live with it other lied in. That's what they have in. It never progresses into a form of of dementia. So that's good news but always checking with your doctor now in that process of going this is what's going on in my world and I don't care what it is is that's going on in your world in your body. I mean what symptom you're having what issue you're dealing with whether it become negatively or physical emotional emotional or spiritual whatever. Let's get to the root of it. Let's see can we discern why we're dealing with what we're dealing with and then make appropriate changes and as we've talked in many of our shows in and I keep reading more and more this comes on my computer. I Dunno several times a week that more and more studies are being done island. Show that on. Ninety percent of Alzheimer's can be avoided. We can make huge changes in our world as far as the number of people who have Alzheimer's by the changes we we make in our lifestyle in our body eating right exercising. You've heard this all your life you know like Baba. I don't WanNa eat green stuff all day long will. I don't eat green stuff all day long either but I can tell you that since I have gone back to the Vegan lifestyle style. Thank you blue zones. Blue Zones has pushed me in that direction that I have gone off on a seventy five percent of the medications that I was on in that I just since July. We're talking in six months time And I am moving and I'm exercising. I feel better and Mama little less witchy. She almost say that. What the w today? My husband went use a different word but I'm getting to the root of what's causing the issues that I was having you making. He knows changes and for me. It is that Vegan lifestyle eating healthy moving exercising participating in things that I enjoy right like go into the pool and talking to my friend shelby every morning Erin. Her stories sharing live being Finding the good in life and I know that in your caregiving journey finding good some days. Who is just not going to happen? You're just overwhelmed with all that's going on especially if you're in those late stages when you're overwhelmed with caregiving but there is still good. There is still beauty in the world. And maybe you need to take a break and step outside and get some sunshine in experience that that even if it's just for five minutes binding the beauty but taking care of yourself in in in the interim not just in the interim but every minute of every day while you're caring hearing for somebody else you caring for your sale because we want to avoid the chances of mild cognitive impairment or physical things that might bring about dementia la La that gives you a little more information about mild cognitive impairment. That you didn't have and I hope you have a great day. I hope two thousand and twenty is just GonNa knock all our socks off in a way. That's happy and joyful and that will grow learn and we will be better people in better to other people along the way. Where do you think listening since miles? Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families as you can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot VF dot org. They speak veteran. And so you don't have to and you tell Carol Saint You. When you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the bed or both editor bed you can defined as Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com? She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW you dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's talk dementia dementia. It's available on Amazon. Paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave kind word of review on itunes remember. Her knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Dad Doesnt Want To Move To Foster Care!
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author. Carol I caregivers welcome to. Let's talk. Dementia I am Carol. How will your host? And we'll talk about foster care. Do you think this was a show about dementia. Am I totally confused. Well no not really had a very interesting conversation last week with a lady who. I won't tell you her name but a little bit. What about her story and it has just stuck with me and I thought you know this is something that I should share? She on call regarding her dad. Who is living being on his own and having some memory issues and been diagnosed with Alzheimer's Some very valid concerns about his safety in driving wink and in keeping appointments arriving at appointments five hours. Early you know all those things that start to happen with dementia. That kind of scare US Asas family members and we think ooh this is not safe anymore. I don't know that this is true but I think sometimes the females in the family worry more about at their parents and maybe the males duty I guess true. I don't know I just I listen to her talk and I hear myself in my story in lots of ways in what she's telling In touch my heart. Her Dad said to her. All you and your sister trying to do is move me to foster care will l. ever heard it got lots of things when we want to move our loved ones from their home to a community where they'd be geared of cared for but foster care. I had not heard of that one before. It just made me Giggle but the reason I tell you that is your loved. One may be protesting the move live to a group living situation whether it be a Assisted living in memory care or a wonderful group home. I do love group homes. You know where there's like five or six people in the home being well cared for. They may be protesting that because they have a vision in their head or a pitcher in their ahead of what that is like based on the last time they saw it in the last time they saw it was probably nineteen fifty or sixty or even the seventies Even the eighties folks but that is not what we have going on today and she said this lady that I talked with Satish I just really want dad to move to an assisted living. And we're going to start this week. Going in touring and But I don't ever getting a move and I said the first thing you have to help dad realize is not that he needs to move. We're not gonNA try to convince him of that what we're going to show him instead is retirement matt living in a wonderful exclusive high-end community. I don't care what do you choose. That's what the words were going to use. And when he goes and sees what assisted living is today will. He's going to be shocked. Because I can tell you. Even in the eighties assisted. Living was not something something we heard a very much in if we did it was not what it is today I remember before I ever started in this industry three bag in the early eighties visiting skilled nursing communities. And that's pretty much all there was and all the people were lying up. Just he's in their wheelchairs sort of not their drooling Curled in the fetal position. And you walk down the hall mess. What she saw will that is the vision or that is the picture that so many of our folks have in their head? There is nobody that says you know. I just think I wanNA move to that. Sign me up. No No. They don't do that. They're like whatever happens. You keep me out of that. I'll stay home. They don't have in their head. The picture of a one bedroom fully furnished apartment Martin with all their favorite things in a maid and a Butler initiative and a driver right inactivity stranger. They don't think that so. That's what we want them to seen. In a total of the best way to what not the best way but several ways to do it and one of them is just take that for lunch. One day we're going to a new place you're GONNA WANNA have launched their offering free lunch and I'm all for a free lunch. Dad What do you think take him get him in there. Let him see this beautiful community in if all you do is have have launched. Then you've got dad's foot in the door and then maybe you can talk to him in I in the car on the way home because he's not GonNa remember later in the afternoon. That's a wonderful wonderful retirement community where people live and then maybe go to another one in let him have lunch there with you save. There's one that he seems to respond more positively to than others that he has more of a reaction to than others And then at some point go back and May Have data look at an apartment now. If Dad's able to help make that decision having look at the apartment see what he thinks. If that's not able to make that decision and you're GonNa make it on your own then arrange warning where someone's GonNa Come Take Dad and take him out fishing or take him out to do whatever it is. Dad Likes to do if it was does your Mama I would say. We don't take her shopping but most been probably. Don't WanNa go do that but to get that out of the house for three or four hours and you're going to have a team aim of really good people and a truck or two and you're going to move at least the essentials from Dad's home straight DADS assisted living apartment. His bad his favorite uh-huh his favorite chair has favorite pitchers. Favorite blanket is TV that pitcher. That's hung above the TV the picture of his wife. The pitchers children whatever. It is that when dad walks into his house now he thinks this is home. You won't at least some of those things in this new assisted living apartment. Then take that back for lunch. Dallas about their. They're offering free lunch again and after lunch maybe he can play Bingo or whatever why you've finished setting up that apartment then you'd say dad come down here on the show you something. This is where you're going to stay for a few nights because we're all going out of town in we can't be here to take care of you just a little worried. What about you so I want you to love me enough just to stay here for a few nights? And then when we get back will come see In he might protests. Yes that yeah but you will work around it but thanking God. He's only there for a few nights will lay on him in a way that he's likely to to be accepting of that idea. Now if you take Dan go. Hey Dad here's your new apartment. You're gonNA live here forever because you can't live by yourself. I don't want to live by yourself. Okay so you next week think. Well that's not gonNa feel good anybody so don't be crazy and do that but tell dad you know you're going to be gone for a few days. I think we had a client that we told her her that family came up with this. That there was Talks Mold in her house and they were going to have it fixed in. She couldn't be there while they were cleaning ed maker sick and so they had arranged for her to stay in this wonderful apartment poly about a week while they fixed it in that worked so you think well what happens in a week AAC when the toxic malls supposed to be done or what happens after three or four days when we're supposed to be back from vacation well one of the beauties of dementias we don't have a good the perception of time and space a week really doesn't mean anything to us a week may feel like In two months or a week may I feel like a day so we don't understand that concept anymore time so if they say to you well can I move back to my house when no mom there. You had taught Simone Your House. They're trying to get it out or I've I'm going to be leaving in just a couple of days to go on a trip nap. You tell your votes. You're leaving to go on a trip that that might be a good time to leave and go on a trip. I'm just saying especially the first couple of days May Be at least twenty four forty eight hours give your. I loved one a chance to settle in there before he's sworn back in now their communities to stay stay gone a week. No you don't not when you first move a man if you taking it all help. It don't do that. They do need to see your face and know that you're still alive. You still love him. And everything's GonNa be okay but have your story straight in your brain about about why they are there and how long they have to stay in stick with that story it will work. I've told you before about the lady who moved in and her. The whole family just decorated her one bedroom. Apartments is just really really pretty and we were so excited I walked in with her and her boys For them to show her the apartment and she said this is pretty. This is pretty look there. You've got to pitch remain cutch collar husbands night. And then she sat down in her recliner. She said well this is my recliner and in her son Simone. This is your new apartment. You're going to live here. And she said you guys sit down and when they sit down she said. I hope you all rot inhale because I am not staying here wail we all about dropped. RT It was like holy cow. We so we're not expecting that because she was so receptive how gorgeous apartment was in all her pretty stuff in there. She was not happy but you know she lived there very happily. It took her three or four four days to figure out it was okay and she wasn't mad at anybody and To forget the whole episode and she became very easy to get along with and and Excited to live there. She also thought I was the Mayor of Charlotte North Carolina and. I did not proceed to dissuade her that I was happy to be. The mayor was for several years. Then all all of a sudden I was no longer the mayor. I don't know what happened that I lost that position in her brain so anyway I'm glad to know that this lady that I was talking about early early will not be moving. Her Dad foster care but potentially tune assisted living. If you're looking for an assisted living calming let me tell you I know of some good ones in your part of the world. I don't charge charge you to help you are not. Don't call me but you can email me email me carol at let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org in when you email now may give me your phone number now. Call you and we'll make some plans together. You'll be glad we talked. Blessings and smiles by bio. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www you've dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to in you. Tell Them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran and despacito veteran or both editor bed. You can find Miss Beth. Crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eighty three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol House Let's Talk Dementia to learn more about dementia. We we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more or smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Would You Like To Sleep Better?
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome back to. Let's talk dementia. I appear on how will your host thank you for joining me. In Our last episode we talked about the importance of civil things to help. Help reduce our chances of Alzheimer's in today I WanNa talk to you about the importance of sleep now. I told you that I had been having a hard time staying asleep in. That's it's not good. We need several hours of uninterrupted sleep. which I couldn't seem to get but I wanNA talk about Tim steps that you can do to increase your chances of getting healthy beneficial productive as well? I'll tell you as what in just a little bit how productive your brain can be Sleep for you and for your Elo. Cruiser L. O.. Niece has sleet to believe me. The first thing you can do is to maintain a schedule that allows for seven to nine hours of sleep in in the best way that you can do that is by not needing to set an alarm clock while you say I got to get up and get going but if you are going to bed at the exact exact same time every night and getting up at the exact same time. Every morning your brain will begin to adjust to that and I read that and I thought Um I don't know if I believe that or not till I started paying attention to it and my brain is waking me up somewhere between six and six fifteen which bad way. I am not entirely happy. I ride rather have ten o'clock. Don't be good and the other thing you WanNa do when you do get up to go the bathroom. I'm in the middle of the night like I'm good at doing is. Don't open your eyes all the way. Don't flip on the light unless you're going to go into the bathroom. They may be. You need just a little night. Light light put out or some things that keep you from having to put on the full overhead light. Because when you do in the light gets into your brain it resets your circadian Acadian Rhythm in your brain and that's what helps you stay on track for going to sleep and waking up so we don't want to wake up your brain okay. We want to keep everything dark working in his quiet as we. Can You WANNA stop caffeine by two o'clock now. have it. Had Caffeine like forever and thirty six days. So that's not an issue issue for me but you need to remember that if at Caffeine the half-life of caffeine is about six to eight hours so if you have caffeine at two o'clock in the afternoon in the half life of it is Eight o'clock then by Tiller clock half of the effect that caffeine is still in your body. It might be keeping you from going to sleep so think about that when you are discerning when you should stop having Pepsi Cola which. ps I know offense to Pepsi. But you don't need to be having it all is so bad for your body so keep that in mind. Avoid alcohol within three hours of your bedtime now. A lot of us will think. Oh I'll have a glass of wine to help me sleepy. Help me get sleepy and that okay. That might work but give yourself about three hours before you go to sleep That so the alcohol has time to bend to be digested and won't have a major effect on your ability to sleep peacefully because you can't have an issue with that exercising. Yeah you kind of heard this before from exercising during the day will help be sleep better at night but you also don't want to exercise like right before bedtime when it gets you really away. You don't WanNa do that so make sure you you avoid exercising. I think it's three to four hours before bedtime. Get Sunlight in the morning so my husband and I we get up while it's still dark with this dead gone time change. I don't know why we changed the time fall forward known. Yeah spring forward fall back. I don't know why we do that. Mass but now when we get up it's dark so we're getting outside justice. The Sun is coming up if you are outside when the sun is coming up or when the sun is going down it does help reduce depression but being outside when the sun is coming up So for about thirty minutes will help to set the the Circadian Rhythm and it turns off off Melatonin so being outside. We'll stop the release of Melatonin. You're Brian make you more effective and more awake for your day and make you more ready for sleep at night. Keeping your room. Cool between sixty five and seventy five degrees is important. I've had the heck with time getting my husband and go with that one Erin and I'm like did you turn the air down. Did you turn the air down. I told you Menopausal I get hot. I don't like to sweat avoid blue light at nighttime. What is blue light will that you tell your television your screens your phone your IPAD? Whatever it is that you're looking at all those darn hours Avoid avoid that Brooke Elise right before bedtime. Give yourself an hour so out there. I have a little thing that pops up on my phone that tells me how many hours a week spent on. Oh my phone is distressing. I was up was up. Twenty seven percent this past week. What did I do on my phone? I don't know how about doing a little meditation meditation before bedtime prayer before bedtime being thankful spending some time to be thankful spending time breathing being member that five five ten five talked about five Bresciano. Hold it five second count to ten to let it out. Hold it for vice again. I said it wrong to begin with not vibrates in. It's one breath in that you hope for five seconds one breath in how I go. Tell you this it's count the five when you're breathing. Okay breathe in one two three four five hold it for five against breath out for count of ten hold it for five seconds out boy. I had a hard time explaining that. But this puts your brain in the mood for sleep as does rating rating will make you so sleepy and get tested for sleep. Apnea they say seventy percent the people with sleep apnea go on diagnosed. That's not a good thing. You're GONNA have terribly difficult time getting useful restorative sleep if you have sleep apnea in an ask your doctor after about supplements for sleep as I mentioned earlier dough tears breathe is good for sleeping. I take Melatonin ten. Milligrams I'm not telling you to do that. I'm just telling you I take Melatonin. Melatonin ten milligrams in it does help me. Lock also take magnesium now magnesium. We'll help you sleep. Check with your doctor before you take anything okay. A y'all got that. Don't come back and say you told me to take it because I did not but magnesium. I started taking it because I'm Vegan While I'm piscotty cheering because I do eat some on fish. And so sometimes you need to supplement with magnesium but magnesium is good for reducing migraines and. It's good to help you sleep in that kind of neat and you see baby oil before I go to sleep just to help with that process so those are just a few things that you can do to help. Get good restorative sleep in talked about being productive sleep and it's productive to sleep because when you get in that good sound sleep as we've talked about vote for your Automatic vacuum your brains Roomba comes on and claims your brain in. You need that so we've got to do all those things that Brian controls every bit of your body. Everybody your body answers to your brain and your brain answers to in response to every bit of your body so we got to keep the brain right healthy in the body healthy and one of the things we can do to keep the brain healthy is good quality sleep argue. Thank you fill in sleepy. I feel a nap in my future. Have a good day blessings and smiles. Let's dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF dot dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor. Bet You can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia tell. I'm Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review review on I tunes remember. Knowledge Brings Power Power Brings Hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
The Super Bowl and Perseverance
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome to let's talk dementia. I'm Carol how are your host. I'm glad you're with me today. I'm recording this on the Sunday before the Super Bowl and I wanted to talk with you maybe a a little bit about the Super Bowl. It will be very little bit because y'all I don't know anything about it. I can't even tell you who's playing but I do have a few thoughts about it. I can tell humanely what we're GONNA talk about. Today is the topic of the sermon. That our pastor preached on our Saturday night worship pastor. Pratt he talked about perseverance severence. He talked about how our world we needed to be people who persevered more we have a tendency just to give up pin given when what we need to do is fight the fight and keep going and he said in marriages people are just too quick to give up. I can tell you when I started this company Buzney. Ten years ago I tend to training and one of the director said that most of the people in that room with not have a business five years from the because they with not persevere the air and I was like Oh will not be one of those people but in relation to the Super Bowl. All those guys out there playing on the field they persevere. They have done it for years and the years and they've practiced in played in persevered continuously to be able to play in the Super Bowl. Perseverance has been a part of their world. Well if you're a caregiver you are persevering least. I hope you are and I can tell you to your loved. One with dementia is persevering everyday we day they are facing adversity after adversity and they are walking through it as best they can use spill like well. You need to think about rather that their world is full of the can't they can't do this. They can't do that they can't they can't it's not that they want or they don't want to they physically can't they can't dress themselves anymore. They can't bay themselves. They can't feed themselves. They can't drive their car. They can't do the things they wanted to Eventually they can't even communicate but yet they persevere each day fighting through what they have to deal with. And you as a caregiver you're doing signed thank thing you're persevering so I kind of thought on the way home. After pastor press sermon you know maybe persevering through caregiving is something something we need to think about. Well this journey that I had traveled for thirteen years with my Momma. That's for pitcher in the background there. She is still to this day. Hey My heart people say she was. Your mom knows she still is. My Mama always will be in aunt. She persevered the thirteen years of Alzheimer's. And and my husband. And I we persevere through thirteen years of very close caregiving for her well. I'm thankful for those years. But you know what we're not through persevering because Michael's brother my husband's brother. My brother-in-law moved with us to Florida and has been in a memory care now in an assisted living rather since July and don't fairly well oncle Ernie has ptsd post matic stress disorder from being in Vietnam where he now has schemic heart disease because of exposure to Agent Orange and dementia brought on by agent. Orange it is a have Alzheimer's Alzheimer's but he definitely has dementia because of Agent Orange. But he's been good in Montana in assisted living. I think back about his journey and I I think about last week last week was a trip. It's not one I want to repeat. I can tell you that but on Monday God was laying the groundwork for for Wednesday for my husband and I of course we did not know that but I know it. Now you see on Monday. I had the opportunity to speak with an in home care company and learn more about them as I prepared to speak at an event that they were sponsoring in impressed with what I knew about them and it was a good experience and I also had the opportunity to talk with the marketing director at a nearby memory care community because I had a client looking for me right here for her mom and I was very impressed with what I learned on new fairmount about the company and how communities were run in the pricing was just amazing raising. 'em Like this is going to be a good resource for us. Move forward a couple days in its Wednesday up. Just pay my told across the water and to go into another town to attend my memory choir that I sing in in my phone rang and it was my husband. Michael and I could tell immediately things. Were not good so as wrong. He said we got a problem. We've got a big problem I said do I need to turn around. He said Yeah. You need come home so whipped around started back towards home another forty five minutes and What had happened is his brother? Ernie who is in a wheelchair and barely moved around in that wheelchair. He is slow. Slow Com Tom Moving from his apartment the dining room for lunch. I mean he has to start really early but on Wednesday morning while it was still early like six fifteen six thirty thirty Ernie got in his wheelchair and Ernie took himself outside with nothing on but his depends now. The main doors to the community were locked walked in Ernie had found a door that we did not even know it was there. And he had gone out that door and was outside near the dumpsters in the back of the community date by herself in his in God's good graces in providence his Physical therapist pulled in and went my goodness. That's that's Ernie. Let me see what's going on in journey. What are you doing out here? And he said I have one eight million dollars and I have to go to the Credit Union. I'm so so excited that he won a million dollars but of course he had not and she worked very hard using diversion their tactics taken his mind from one subject to another while still acknowledging. What's on his mind? She used those techniques to get him back into the building but it was not easily done but finally she she did staff called. Michael told him what had happened. And said you're going to need twenty four seven Care for him To make sure he doesn't leave the building or you need to move into memory care but even so until you getting moved a memory care he is going to need twenty four seven care well. This community did not have memory care so this meant moving well. That's where Monday comes into this story so I began thinking what we do. Wait a minute I taught I know about this in home. Care companies bring their sponsoring must speaking of in on Thursday so I called them and straight away they got someone out to sit with Ernie and I went okay. Where are we going to move Ernie to oh wait a a minute? What about that community talked to on on Monday? That has the memory care and I called. I told him the story that he's a veteran in what we're looking for and hand they were able to help us. We Got Ernie moved On Thursday I went on Wednesday. I toured I pay the deposit on got the paperwork. Two accounts of it. That is no joke to pounds of and Michael and I worked through the paperwork and while Ernie had private sitter and we got it all done now. Ernie is in a beautiful beautiful memory. Care Community here in Florida where thankful for that. We're thankful that God opened those doors on Monday and I didn't even think about didn't realize I was going to need but here on Wednesday idea so I sit here so many days past that from Wednesday to Sunday and I look back back on it and I realized God had a plan for us and he was working at plan but we must continue to persevere. We have a job to do steel and taking care of uncle. Earning where thank thank before we visit him. Bob And six well six times a week In spend my husband especially spends time with his brother in time rubbing rubbing shoulders in touching him. That that physical touch that Aren't he doesn't get is important in. He gets that from us in a year's awards. Yes I love you now. Have you have a good day. Those are important in his world. Innocent Port in our world to persevering hope you're persevering in your caregiving journey. It's tough at Ya. I know this. I don't come to you doing these shows. Having not been through much of what you're going to know. Two journeys are the same. They're very similar. But that's why I do this show so I hope you get some encouragement here and that you will feel more inclined to persevere the football players. They're keeping their reward on that Super Bowl. They've persevered. Hopefully your team will win. Whoever that is I don't even know who's playing y'all I do want to take commended? Tell you why Ernie thought he had one eight million dollars. There's actually some logic to it which you know. If you get into people's store you can begin to see that An explanation for why. They say do what they do. You see there had been a scam going through his assisted. Living a lot of the residents. Were getting a phone call telling them. They had one eight million dollars in if they would only send X.. Number dollars to this address than the people would send in their check. Well of course the mark the executive -secutive director got wind of this and tried to put a stop to it. That's next to impossible but a lot of conversation was going on in the dining room about this and it was on Ernie's as mind that he had one eight million dollars now really wish she had but he didn't but interestingly enough the powerball lottery ticket was sold in the seven eleven about two miles from his assisted living. How crazy is that? It was like three hundred seventy three hundred ninety as a million dollars. Can you even imagine now. I cannot but there was a little bit of logic behind Ernie story because this was going on in his head and it was getting all confused for him. mm-hmm well understanding what's going on with our loved ones does help us be better. Caregivers want you to persevere. Your loved ones persevering. Do with a smile and know that. God's got you right there. In the palm of his hand smiles let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors dancers National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot NAF dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to in Utah Carroll Saint You when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota. Ah Kia tell them. Carol CINCI thanks for joining us today for Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback and kindle versions short alike. Let's talk dementia on facebook and leave. Leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Are You Checking Your BP and Blood Sugar Levels?
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol Caregivers here givers welcome to. Let's talk dementia and Carol. How will your host Don glad you're here today but today I wanNa tell you a little story that makes me think about homeless total story about him in Nigeria? That's not what we're GONNA WE'RE GONNA talk about taking care of you Had A video pop up on facebook from one year ago go. Today was a video actually did one year ago yesterday and it was done at the hospital in consultation room while waiting being for my friend Charlotte to come out of breast cancer surgery now. Charlotte story was kind of interesting. And I want to share it with you and bring it to a point here CHARLOTTE ORLA had spent a great deal of time. Not going to the doctor. She didn't get regular pelvic exams. She didn't get mammograms. I don't think she got anything grand. She didn't get a blood pressure. Check dinner sugar checked and all that stuff she just was fine and then one day she had healthy she that took her to the -mergency room and Brought about need for little procedure and the doctor said how long since you've had a mammogram and she said well very long time and said he recommended she get the mammogram program. Well she did and found her breast cancer now. We are just amazed and blessed at the fact that she had stage zero. Eero breast cancer. Okay I did not know there was a stage zero and win the little mccollum Domi Caroline got stage zero risk cancer. I thought she didn't hear that right. Because because there is not a stage zero but there is and that's if you're gonNA find out you've got breast cancer you want to hear the words stage zero before it So that that was excellent. She wound up hat needing to have a lumpectomy fairly Incision that She took care of and healed quickly quickly from and then have radiation afterwards but it also made me think about you guys when that video popped up. Are you taking care of yourself. It's been on my mind lately last week. I did have my mammogram. And while I don't enjoy having that done now is not fun. But it's necessary and you know it only hurts parts while they're mashing your boob. It doesn't hurt after they let go. So you know you can breathe through it. Make it and my letter came this way that everything was fine you know. Are you read that letter and you think Oh. That's really good news though the trash. I didn't do that because I remember when Charlotte got the news that it was not off fine and how I wish wish she had gotten a letter. That said everything's fine. See you in a year. We kinda take that for granted. So don't do that but also make sure your current on that now I know you're you're busy caregiving. I know it's hard to get time away. And maybe you've got a range for someone to come sit with your loved ones so you can go get a mammogram or go to the doctor and get other things checked. Act You gotTa do it folks. You've gotta take time for yourself because if you're not monitoring your health and something happens to you who's GonNa take care of your loved one. You gotta think about this so periodically. We're supposed to do this about once a month at our house. Were not real good at remembering to do it. We check our blood pressure so today. We're going to do that so I have this. Omron version of blood pressure cut kit on safe. There's as a model on it here. Be Seven Acre but glasses back on. BP seven eight five in. That's it baby. Seven eight five. We researched it and found out that this particular blood pressure cuff was ranked among the most accurate. So we bought it in. It's easy to use and I'm just GONNA show you guys how easy it is the trap your blood pressure so you gotta get the cuff put on your arm and the tubing coming out of the Cup needs needs to line up with the center of your inner arm right where your armband make. Sure you've got the Cook Pasture Elbow up going towards your L.. Go torture shoulder intrepid on there now I was talked to hold my arm what is that thing called all heart heart level so that that would give them more accurate rating. Some people. Just let their arm hanging. It's not what I told or else rested on a pillar. Whatever I normally just hold my hand my arm and other hand let it rest there then all you have to do on this cute? Little machine is press the start button and when you do do it will start pumping up. You might can hear that pumping up noise and it gets tighter and tighter. Not One of the people who thinks having your blood pressure checked is not particularly enjoyable because my skin is sensitive and I really feel this on my skin but it's kind of like having you smashed it only only last for a little bit of time that I just say Bubis. You're not supposed to say that. So let me just steel here for men breathing the N.. Breathing out does if you're moving around a good bit you could call your blood pressure go up just by doing that of lab not done it in out and mine came up normal now on my machine. It shows one twenty nine over seventy two. Let me get this so so you can see it. Hopefully and you can see the light is on on the systolic in down below. What does that diastolic dial? I don't know I don't remember what that word is. Another talk was just olive but it's lit up in green in the green mates. Happy go all is well. It turns up in red not so happy. You need to be be working on getting your blood pressure down turn it off take it off good to go. That's how easy. Oh let's get this couple. That's how easy it is to check your blood pressure now if you noticed that. Your blood pressure's a little high highly. Recommend taking it in the other arm. So you what you show there in. Don't freak out if it's high check. GET TAMARA CHECK IT for three or four days. Maybe every other day for awhile or everyday for wild ride it down and keep track of it if you consistently have high blood pressure. Then let's get it checked. Excuse me if you have just had a stressful time with your loved one. It's not the time to take your blood pressure. goes his high you stress. Maybe take it when you wake up first thing in the morning and you're feeling relaxed now. We also want to check your blood sugar now. The Kit that we have is just one from Walgreens Oh Greens is called true metrix. There's all kinds of blood pressure are not blood pressure. Blood sugar kits. They're just very cheap on. But you take jake the needle Twist a little indoctrinated you stick it down in there you put the cap back on the little device and then you pull back doc it spring loads it when you press the button. Here it clicks implode clicks. That's when the needle is GONNA come out. You can set. Whatever you're on depth the needle cut needs to attract here by one two three four five one set right in the middle on three before you do that? You're GonNa Take Your Monitor and you've got a container of strips you're gonNA reach in and get a stripped and put it into the machine the side that has the little strip. The one single strip is exposed. The other end goes into the machine like so you just stick it in there in the machine. We'll come on so it's ready it be so all I've got to do is take my finger and massage and just a little bit and get the blood flowing to that end pullback on that put it on my finger press the button and a little bit of blood is going to come out GonNa take this monitor put it up to it new there we go in and did a little beep it is registering it. It's GonNa pop up here and tell us what my blood sugar is for my blood sugar right now at ten forty five in the morning after having had breakfast in walking for two and a half miles els is ninety six. That's good if you have Blood Sugar Below hundred at fasting. Meaning you've got you taking in your blood sugar reading first thing in the morning before you've eaten bits below one hundred that's a good thing mine's below one hundred already had breakfast so that's a very good thing for me you you say you want your sugar to be below one hundred fasting. You want your blood pressure to be one twenty over eighty all the way up to potentially one forty over ninety but I think your daughter's GonNa pay okay to keep a closer to twenty over eighty thing if your blood pressure's high consistently you need to do something about it. It is called the silent killer. Your blood pressure can be high and can you not know it and you've done some doing some serious damage to your body something to blood sugar. Your blood sugar. You might know that because it just makes you feel Feigen lethargic and yet you just don't feel Ri- in something just doesn't feel right about you could be a blood sugar to keep a check on these things folks. That's something simple you can do at home and you don't have to hire caregiver caregiver to go get it checked. Keep it monitor and if something starts getting out of wet then you know you need to go to the doctor of course member. We're going to the doctor and getting that blood work done in a mammogram program the PAP smear and all that junk. You don't like to do in every seven years seven years now. I'm here for years. It is you have to get the Colon US could be less just loads of fun. But you need to do. Take care of yourself because I needed to come back and listen to another episode or watch another episode so let's Talk Dementia blessings miles. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three two two nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in VF dot org. They speak veterans. So you you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Ms. It's Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on flint straight extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county halo. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us. Today for Cheryl. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Dont Treat Me Different Because I Have Dementia
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. I'm caregivers I'm Carol. Let's Talk Dementia Today Wet. We're GONNA talk about dementia. Why aren't you shocked to hear that you know. There's there's a smarty in every crowd isn't there and is my job just to make you giggle a little bit along the way I got adjustment. Close here and get more comfortable. Oh my today. We're GONNA talk about Stigma uh-huh acceptance you know. I think I've spent my life wondering if I was accepted in society and with friends at school and where I worked and always worrying about. What did my clothes look- Guide and you know. Did I have on the rightness or the right. That did my hair look oculus supposed to just always wanting to be accepted The stigma for me was spent my life overweight and always worried about that. How do people look at me. I'm more and more as I age and get a couple of years on me. I think I just don't care you know I just don't care you either like me or you don't and you know I can't do a whole lot about either about it either way so as long as I'm happy with me. But there is a huge stigma in relation to Alzheimer's diagnosis. And that's what I want talk with you about today. what your loved. One may be experiencing in relation to stigma In in connection with their diagnosis Susan. How other people treat me on. That's where I started getting a little bit upset with folks. It seems that when folks do admit to other folks that they have been diagnosed with dementia. They suddenly become death. And we feel like we've got to talk in this loud voice to them because now that they have Alzheimer's their death well you know what the sense of hearing. Most often is not affected by Alzheimer's. Just because you have Alzheimer's does not mean you're GONNA Luger hearing you'RE GONNA lose your hearing because you've got older and it was going to happen with you had Alzheimer's or not you scream at people you know it. My mom had a ah a nurse on her husband's team the every time she walked into the room her voice went up. I don't know how many decibels but I'm like Mama's not dead child you do not. They do yell at her. So don't do that. So people with Alzheimer's often experience that they all been realized that individuals are Thinking they have an instant change in their cognitive abilities. You know so you say I've recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's then all of a sudden everybody thinks that you cannot do. You cannot function you cannot be and you do not remember anything. That's just not true. They think all your members all of a sudden Bangor Bangor. They're all gone simply because yesterday. The diagnosis Folks that's not true. It doesn't work like that and we have to help The folks in our world that we associate with our loved one associates with to understand that this is a gradual process. They haven't suddenly changed overnight. They haven't suddenly forgotten everything overnight. in they've not suddenly stop being able to be who they were yesterday simply simply because those words were spoken on with the bill that those can no longer participate in life okay. They've got an Alzheimer's diagnosis. We should invite them to go out to dinner. Interpol they won't be able to go or he's not. WanNa go go bowling or go to the ball game. He got a diagnosis of Alzheimer's. We've got let him sit at home in his chair. Rot in a makes me so ill people. We think that folks with Alzheimer's don't have a sense of humor that we just need to coddle to them be some very very sweet and kind tendon. lovey-dovey don't say anything that might be the least bit off color. You should Spencer Tom Momma. She was perfect at that They they're they're not going to get a job. Don't tell him anything funny. No that's not true. Bugs will retain that says humor. Mos- often right to the end. I'm Oh you mama did so still allowing them to be who they are still participating in life with them still recognizing that yeah they have dementia but they still still probably know who you are. That diagnosis just gained through for Heaven's sakes yes all of that's going to change but for right now still treat them as you did with the day before their diagnosis but we also need our folks that on our in association with our loved one carrying four friends family coworkers. Whatever to understand that change is coming. And that who they are. Today is the same person they were yesterday. Ester Day but changes coming that it's gradual In that we will have to adapt to it but changes coming in. We want you to aware of that. But in the meantime still treat them well bring into their world positive vibes. I'm telling you bring music in our in poetry in prayer prayer in dancing sessions of gratitude. What are you thankful for. Let's talk about it. I did a show quite some time ago about forest bathing. Thank you know experiencing forest bathing and all of these things are good for you. The caregiver as well as for the individual with dementia but forest bathing is that time we spent outside with with the grass between our toes filling the dirt on the soles of our feet hugging a tree sitting under a tree making contact physical physical contact with nature. It's been proven to be extremely good for the nervous system and for reducing anxiety and depression just being outside. I feeling not just feeling sunshine but physically touching and experiencing nature. It is so good for us. I can tell you. Every time that I'd take my dog got side. is we live here in this tropical climate. I admire the flowers that are in balloon and I want to touch them. What do they feel icon is that is that a rub revealing plant. He sat assault furry feeling. What does it feel as one touch it. It's pretty neat. My husband goes never wash your hands. You've got all that code all of your Dino. They have have discovered that folks who spend time outside barefoot have a better Baion gut by on a healthier baion than folks who never expose themselves to dark to nature. Here people who put their hands in the dirt and plant flowers or or grow vegetables troubles or whatever so spending some time outside. What else can we do for them. Provide for them healthy eating and help to reduce that sugar content that they are experiencing experiencing every day. Now I don't want you to go in and take all the sugar out of their life cold Turkey because you're gonNA have some unhappy people do that. But where can we make changes changes. What can we reduce. Maybe instead of having cake and Pie at supper or at deserve have peanut butter and sliced apple. Peanut that buttering pair sprinkle some Are stirring some honey. There's no word into that. That's a wonderful dessert. I know because my husband and I have this many nights a week. AAC We do that instead of that. Nasty Sugary preserved flower book. Stuff people eight US kill us all exercise with your loved of one that has just been diagnosed or no matter where they are in that process. There are still things they can do. If it's just raising their arms barely up in Downer march barely in and out. They can still do that unless they're in their very last days in their in their very last days when we don't need to be worrying about that doing spend time. I'm with others. Helping their friends realize one of the best things they can do is to spend time with this person like. I said tatum bowling. Take them to the ball game. Go to apply. Apply to go to a movie. They can still do so many things and help them to maintain their spiritual connections for as long as they can. Now that may be. May I mean going to church deal or may mean you have to sit down and have one on one time with a little private church time. If they get to the point that they can no longer go to church. Be Aware of these. Things are things that we can do to help our folks so that there is no stigma attached to Alzheimer's. But you know. There is a stigma attached to being Alzheimer's Caregiver. Don't you think hadn't even thought about that until I started this episode and I realized that as has being a an Alzheimer's caregiver everyone on everyone a lot of people. I think assumed that I had no time for anything announcing that. I shouldn't be bothered that. All I was doing was taken care of my Momma will part of that was true. I was very busy. Taking care of my Momma in. You are understanding that time issue there too but because of that it was like well listen vicario out to eat and let's not say carol to do this because she's got to go see her mom today whereas if they had of just said. Hey I know you go see your mom everyday but do you think next Tuesday. There is a time that we could get together. I'd like to take you out to lunch. Sure could use your help. Picking out a new dress which you consider go with me. You know that kind of thing would work wonders for building up myself sale at that point in my world and I think it would promote caregivers to just to say hey take a break. Let's go you go do something being aware of other there paypal. Continue the more I do this. Show I've got three hundred and some episodes out there I just realized good dementia. caregiving is just about how how to treat people. Kindly in our world I think that a long ways to go in there. What do you think will not be. Because you've been you've been watching or listening listening to. Let's talk to manage. You've learned all kinds of good junkier good person. Couldn't Steve Blessings and smiles on your day. Let's talk dementia would like to thank our sponsors answers. National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot a. in a v F dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to in Utah Than Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the better or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill. Oh South Carolina. That's your county eight. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols Perils bestselling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions short alike. Let's talk dementia on facebook and leave vessel kind word of review on itunes. Remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
When Should We Change To Depends?
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles in their dementia caregiving journey. Welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Well Hello Everybody and Carol Hal which let's talk dementia. You've chosen join me as I sit here. Recording this episode. I realize I've got readers around my neck in readers on my head. I've got readers all over my house yet. Do you think I know where they are when I need them? No and then I take my readers off and I can't find my regular classes. Do you guys have these problems? Will today I wanted to share with you. A question that came from Janna Smith Genesis. Caring for her Step Dad who was a hundred years. Old Amazing isn't it? I have a client who is one hundred seven I believe and she a couple years ago told me she was going to get married. I'm like hey go for it. Who Am I decided right? She did not get married but jam. This is asking about when it is time to move from traditional underclothing undergarments and in this case on boxer shorts for her Stepdad. In for changed him into depends right when it's time to make that move and and she was expressing her frustration because her dad. Whose name is John Utterly. That's yes John He Urinate Liver. Everything in all the woman does is wash because she washes underwear. She washes closing. She washes bedding. She washes sheets pillows. She washes chair covers. She washes stuff all the time and her big frustration that brought about the email and a phone conversation. We had came win in the midst of all of this washing and drying her dryer dies. You know sometimes you just reach your point. Don't you think it's interesting? How in our lives the great big things? We seem to manage. It's the minutia of the day. The little things that sometimes. We'll just put US ride over the edge in for her. She kind of reached that when she called me and she said how do I know when it is time for him to start using Thebenz and I said well the answer is now thank you for Calling Goodbye. And she just laughed. I'm like this. Is You know no big deal. Just make it happen. I remember when it was time for my momma to move from her underwear and panties into depends pull up type products. I was really concerned about that. Just like Janice was because my mama had her underwear sent from a store in Washington state and my mom live in South Carolina. She loved her unware issue. Talk about how the most wonderful thing she ever worn. Not Oh if we take these away in wicked Mama these pull ups which aren't pretty. They're just not now. They're better than they used to be. You can even get them in colors. But they're still not my mom's comfortable underwear. She is going to not be happy. Well I'm a couldn't care less. She just transitioned ride into as if it was nothing. I'm still sort of shocked about that. So I told Janice this very well may be the same type thing with John. I did read the mand her going ahead and removing from the house all of his boxer shorts two reasons for that one. John Won't find them and put them on into Janice won't just give up is just forget it. You can wear whatever you out to him. Frustrated with you because they're going to have any kind of like when you were potty training your kids you know you got rid of all the diapers so they had to use the bathroom in you had met help them learn. Because you've already got rid of all the diapers understand that. But I told her I town it's GonNa be as big of a deal as she thought whereas you're imagining it to be and you know what she since written feedback and he was fine with whatever. I can do that. That's fine and it does cut down on the number of loads of laundry. The poor woman cut do all the time and we have to think about things like that. I told her also consider the blue pads that you can put under them. While they're lying on the bed you can either put it directly underneath them in their absorb it or underneath the sheet to hold it in place in most places do that. I think directly underneath the sheet where it separates the sheep from the mattress. So then the only thing that you might have to wash would be the fitted sheet. You can get those blue pads are disposable where you can get the conduct you wash then again. Backed Washington bunch of stuff. That's not so much fun. Will they not do recommend is if you're buying pull ups for a male by the kind made for men because where the urine comes out in a male is in a different position than it is on a female like you didn't know this already but if you're going to buy who loves you might not think about it so with the mail that sticker up near the Front for female. It's thicker down near the bat because of where you're GONNA come out. It's just GonNa work better so by mail products for males female products for females. Neither the to show mix so she did that. You also wrote me that. She had another item. She wanted discusses in Emma's like happy to read it and she said John has a boo boo under his nose above his lip there that he picks at all the time and she cannot get it to heal up. She tried putting a band aid on it. She's tried doing everything she knows reminding John. Quit picking adequate picking at it. But you know she doesn't keep eyeballs on John. Twenty four seven in just as soon as she's not looking you know what he does sure enough. Yep He takes the scam right off of that boo boo and it's not very attractive. And it's kind of embarrassing. We go out in public. But what are you gonNA do about it? Well my bought for her. Is this get it checked? Let's make sure we don't have some ambition going on there that there is not something that we need to be treating that it needs some kind of medication or some action taken and if everything is okay they may be just back off a little bit. In every time John goes to pick on it remind him not to. But don't stop there. Take that next sentence to be something like Hey John how about we do this instead. So we've taken John's hands from picking on this thing on his lip. Now we're GONNA take those hands and do something different to keep his hands busy and take his mind off of his lip. She's not able to do that every time. And you have to recognize that you just have certain capabilities within yourself. There are things we can change in our world. There are things we cannot change. Are we learning that Moore so right now in the midst of Rana virus than ever before and it's true in caregiving so we have to kind of take a chill pill sometimes and choose our battles and so that was my advice from his? Janice and I would love to hear from you. I am offering free thirty minute. Phone consultations they don't cost you don a promise you they don't cost you a dime you just need to go to. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org and Click on calendar events. I have put up some dates for the next week or two and you can click on the day and the time that works for you and you have instructions there to email me your phone number and I will call you at the day. On the day time you selected and we'll talk about what's going on in your caregiving world. Maybe you just want to share your frustration or maybe you have a question or maybe have a story just calm love having the conversations and Hey. I make that interaction too because you know what? I'm quarantined to. My husband always tired of looking at me. Well I want you guys to be very safe and I want you to win you what I want when you think about. You need to go out for something to think about this. Do I need it enough to risk my life than others? I don't care what it is unless it's medication and you can have that liver. Don't go out just don't you don't meet whatever it is that bad. My daughter and I had decided that for Easter Sunday. Since we can't be together she would cook a meal and I would cook too cook part of the meal. How could the other parts million we would leave it on each other's doorsteps so we have a regular Easter dinner? That meant I needed to go to the grocery store public today or tomorrow and get a ham which. Ps I do not eat but my son in law my daughter and my husband likes and I was going to go out just for the ham wasn't is just dumb. That is we do not need a ham bad enough to risk getting corona virus. Dying no especially for this girl. Don't even eat me so what I'm thinking about doing is placing my my monthly order groceries through the delivery service. I use INSTA- cart and if they have a Ham. I'll get the Ham if they don't have the ham carols not going to go out and buy one. I'm just not we don't do that. Spe- say don't spread what you've got and don't be in a place where you might get what someone else has in. Let's stop this whole situation in our world by being responsible all right. I hope you smile a lot. Hope in the process of all that's going on in our world you remember. You will come through this. We all will come through this in. Life's GONNA be different. Life will still be good. God still going to be with us at left. Us never will lessen since miles. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in a vhf dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol. Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Miss Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. Www dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining US Today. Peril howls. Let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia. We recommend carols best selling book also titled. Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
I Want To Go Out For Dinner
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome to let's talk dementia. I'm Carol Hallier hosted. I'm glad that you're hearing that you to him again. And see what the southern girls got to say about dimensioned and educator. I hope you'll check out what we have to offer at. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org you'll find my books. You will find this video series the podcast series. He's all of that there as well as blog. I do right of like everyone. Him really should do it more often. But there's also a late there where you can make a donation to our ministry if if you're so inclined we are getting near the end of two thousand and nineteen and we've got to get those donations made you know. Get them on your taxes and all that good stuff but whatever your reason as in we sure would appreciate you donating. We are hoping to raise enough money next year to hold four caregiver retreats and have the funding to totally cover it not have have to worry about getting sponsors how wonderful that would be. Maybe one of them needs to be in your part of the world you can write me about that or whatever else is on your mind and my email is carol at. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org Not to forget that part. I just got through sampling some Vegan slaw than I may okay from a red cabbage and orange peppers and grounded all up. I think God piece of it still in my mouth here and grounded up in Vitamix I tell if you put it in the vitamix is up to just little nothing. It just chops it up good and may integrate oil dressing and then I toasted and some Kapita and sunflower seeds and I toasted with it now. This is a little bit strange. I'm not sure entirely sure that begin. But what I did some Rama noodles. You take the dry Rama noodles. Break them up though men with the seeds and toast them a little bit sprinkled on top the Coleslaw and call me and tell me it's not good. Oh my gosh. It's really good. Get ready to have that because they eat healthy. Eat Vegan as much as I can with fuel exceptions here and there but not many doesn't try to heal my gut. Because what's what's good for your gut. I'm tapping my gut down here. You can't see that is good for my brain. We get inflammation down the microbial in get it balanced out. It's good for the brain. It's good for the whole body so considering a little bit of vegetables we're GONNA have some cooked beans some they're called Small Red Bates as They're called in the package for Walmart that fixing from dried form and we're having rice and beans and Coleslaw can hardly wait. It sounds so good I chose that going out to eat tonight so speaking going out eight. That's what I wanted to talk with you about the wonderful opportunity this afternoon to speak to the caregivers at a local law firm Muhtar law firm that I work with here in Florida. Ma T. A. R.. If you're in the Florida area in so you need advice regarding protecting your assets should you need care later on in your life or are even just planning for the future you need to give him a call. Got The best phone number of the world. It's area code. Two three nine two two two two two two. Is that not wonderful. Tell Them Carol. Since you and that you need to find out how to protect your assets because you know that dementia caregiving is very expensive. So and the prevalence of dementia is just crazy and it's just rolling daily whether you wind up having dementia or you just need care for whatever reason we need to be planning for that and I am so proud to work with them in the services they offer and I'm happy that they are helping my husband and I make plans for our future hadn't really planned on Talkin Talkin about that little commercial therefore Muhtar Law Firm. I'll have send them a bill for that but while I was meeting with the Care Givers near today one of the ladies Said Dad. She her days of going to find restaurants or gone. That's what she says they're gone. Her husband had a stroke about a year and a half ago and going to a fine restaurant is just not part of her world anymore. Well for me a fine restaurant Me think what is a fine res- has draw. I don't go to too many fine restaurants the I guess for me the closest I would get to that it's PF changs which. I did love going because I can eat vegan there. They've got cough Napkins. That's my definition of a fine restaurant. I Bet hers is better than that but getting our loved ones out to eat can truly be a challenge. Inge depending on the stage of their dementia and I don't know a lot about is his stage of dementia. Didn't get into that with her. But I gather that he needs quite a lot of help to talk to you about that because I do want you to take your loved ones out to eat. If it's a good idea for them and you will get to a point in your journey. Winning is not a good idea to take him out at all. It's just not but we want to accommodate them as much as we can force long as we can so one one thing you can think about doing is being very careful where you go on. There are restaurants that will be accepting of extra needs an extra requests that you might make on on behalf of your loved one or even yourself while you're in this caregiving Situation out in a restaurant and their restaurants that are not going to be accommodating of that so we kicked him to the carbon. But we don't go there and we let other people they're not very nice to people with dementia. You know because I don't take too kindly to that. You gotta be nice gotta be nice everybody it just makes the world. What a better place right in? Whether they need help themselves or not right now they need to think about one day they might think what what goes around comes around so anyway. Think about where you're taking your loved one and be careful about that once you get. That restaurant picked out. I I would recommend to that you think about how long it's GonNa take to get there if we've got to drive very far to get to the restaurant by the time you get there your loved one's GonNa be pretty retired If they're very far along in their in their journey just the act of getting out getting your stuff together getting them into the car getting the seat belt Hook getting yourself in. You'RE GONNA be tired and they are going to be tired also so we're starting this meal they're going to pay money for and if it's an expensive restaurant restaurant us really something to think about. We're starting that meal tired potentially agitated. Don't WanNa do that so did a somewhere kind of close to home. Also also I would not recommend going after about one o'clock in the afternoon we know that with our votes with dementia. They'll begin to sundown on even if they're sundown is very mild. It's still a more difficult time of the day. Sundown in can start as early as to climb afternoon and the closer we get to the nighttime hours. The worst sundown he he is so maybe going out to dinner is not in your future with your loved one. Maybe you need to hire someone to conceal them so you can go to that restaurant and by. Golly you need to do that. Yvonne de Girlfriend to go with you unless you're married male. Don't don't find a girlfriend to go with that case in don't say that lady that teaches about dementia don't me to go get a girlfriend and go out to eat. Don't do that the get an appropriate friend to go out to eat with you but going going early in the day even consider going for lunch at maybe eleven o'clock that's early on a lot of assisted livings will serve their lunch at eleven o'clock in. That's because so many of our folks do better at that time of day. We all do better in the morning. Did you know that. Because as I've told you got that Roomba Vacuum Acumen your brain that when you go to sleep comes in and it removes toxins from your brain so that when you wake up your fresh in your note your brain works better in the morning hang our than it does in the evening hours and that's especially true if we have dementia so we want to get them out early. Maybe even eleven o'clock launch call ahead of time. Tell them you're coming saying this is what you've got going on. You're going to need a little extra assistance in Can you see us somewhere with a waitress. Who are waiter who knows in advance what we're dealing breath? Tell them that you would like your loved ones food cook for them. Maybe they need the chicken cutter their state cut. You know I don't eat meat. Aw but whatever you need their sandwich cut into pieces on whatever you might need could you go make sure with the baked potato. Could you amash it before you bring it out. Whatever your special requests are most good restaurants are gonNA accommodate that and of course you're gonNA tip thanked him for having Donna? But YOU'RE NOT GONNA get it if you don't ask so let's ask for that in the don't be embarrassed if your loved one makes a mess on themselves. I can tell you that when my grandmother went out to eat my aunt carried with her a very pretty bip that bill quote back here but it was decorative it was was pretty and she put it on her when they went out to eight and then she took it off and put it in her person went home. That's a thought for you. I also liked the cards. That people carry a little business cards that might say this is my loved one John He has dementia. Please be kind to him and when the waitress or the waiter comes up you just hand it to Liam. They read it in their made aware of the fact that they're working with someone who has some special needs. Think it's a great idea. Make sure that you have planned that menu in the advance that you know exactly what they're going to order when the when they sit when they seed you neighboring you the the menu just hand menu backing. We already know what we won't thank you. Let me just go ahead and tell you I would say. Don't order the water or the tea in order the meal later now. That's pretty nice. If you're out with a group and you can sit there and maybe have a glass of wine or something before you Millkom my cases water with lemon. I'm very adventurous. But with your love on. They're gonNA start getting fidgety so I would say when they bring us seizure at the table mountain. May We please go ahead and give you our order. I'll give you the menus We we'd like to get our order in kind of quickly after you've handed them that card and they realize what they're dealing with. What the situation is they're not gonNA mind this folks and when you go ahead and order for your loved one we both would like whatever or my beautiful life this handsome man? I'm with would like to order blabbity Blah and you get that order In quickly ask them. Can they very quickly bring you crackers or some brand or something. That's going to keep the hands. The eyes and a pallet. How busy for a little bit? That will work good for your loved one and it's GonNa work good for you too because you're keeping them happy so think about those kinds of things they sure you take with you onto pins. Stick one in your purse because you don't know if you're going to need it and some wipes be prepared for that and then also of course nick about his medicine they need to take before they eat And don't be ashamed for a To Take Your love went into the bathroom with you. Now take it a male l. into the female bathroom. PROBABLY NOT GONNA be as big of a deal because each of the styles are closed or individual stalls taken a female into male bathroom. Where their urinals? You might need to think about that and so if you're a male and you need to take your female Person you're caring for your your into the bathroom. You Might WanNa say to the employees. I need to take Mary Jane in here to the bathroom. is there anyway. You could check and see if there's anybody in there and either take him into the men's bathroom author and shut the door. Lock the door if you can or tatum into the women's bathroom and and just let them know you need a little extra help with this situation. The people are I think people are good. I know we hear all the time. People are crazy in the world's phillip crazy people main Baba and this is true but what that song says one bad apple. Don't spoil the whole bunch and I think we kind of get stuck on that sometime. 'cause I'm GonNa tell you there are some wonderful wonderful wonderful people in this world in you know a lot of them. Then I want you to think about calling one of them in saying I really did want to go out to eat a really. Do WanNa go shopping. The big I really do want to go see the Christmas lights but I can't take John which she come and sit with him for just a little bit be surprised what people will do. Well that was just on my mind after talking to her today and Thinking about not going out to eat myself I just WANNA be home. Said you will get to the point the Finish the thought that your love does not WanNa get out. They are not comfortable to get out. It's not safe for them to get out in. You have to be aware of that and be accommodating. The dating of that my brother-in-law has ptsd and is in a wheelchair. Now in he does not want to get out. He doesn't want to go anywhere. My husband's going to have to take him out to get his haircut haircut and he's not really looking forward to that just the physical part of getting him in and out of the car but my brother-in-law just wants to get back. Add to his place in this is living. So that's what we do. We just try to accommodate as best we can. There is not the wrong with that. I like being onto what about you. I hope you have a good day. Do come back to see me next time bye bye. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the bedroom or both editor bad head. You can find Miss Beth. Crosby editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing. Looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW ME WW dot editor Beth Dot Com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight eight. Oh three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Powell. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia? We recommend Carols bestselling book also titled. Let's let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll I'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Shake Your Bootie
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol Caregivers Caregivers. I'm Carol. How will welcomed A? Let's talk dementia. Today we're GonNa talk about how dancing can reverse the signs of aging in the brain now the stock and think about what I just said I did not say that dancing can reverse the signs of dementia. I said it can reverse the signs of aging in the brain now. This is according to an article that I read by Medical Express Dot com onto a lot of reading and I share a lot of it with view. What we know? Is that as we age. Our cognitive abilities do change some It's not dementia but we just. I have a decline in our cognitive abilities. We offer we experience in our a decline in our physical abilities to so a new study study published in the open access journal. Frontiers in human neuroscience has a good name. It shows that older people who routinely partake in physical physical exercise can reverse the signs of aging in the brain will. We've known that I've told you many many times. How important it is that you get out walk you go to the pool? You go to the gym. You ride your bike. Whatever it is that you'd like to do do it and choose something that you'd like to do so that you will do but there's been a study that has shown that dancing dancing has the most profound effect and it? I you would think now. Why would that be? Let me help you understand that a bit little bit age relate it says the exercise has the beneficial effect of slowing down or even counteracting age related decline in mental and physical capacity. We know this but dancing and and endurance training seem to be more effective both increase the area of the brain that declines with age in. I'm reading to you now. From the article. So is his in comparison. It was only dancing. That led to noticeable behavioral changes in terms of improved balance. Elderly volunteers cheers with an average age of sixty eight or recruited to the study and assigned either an eighteen week monthly course of learning dance routines or endurance and flexibility. Alexa ability. Training Outweigh Rather. Do the dance routines. What about you? Both groups showed an increase in the hippocampus region of the brain. Now you remember the hippocampus offices that part of the brain that is I affected by Alzheimer's we want our hippocampus to be healthy. So it says both groups showed an increase in the hippocampus I region of the brain. That's good news. This is important because this area can be prone to age related decline and is expected to buy diseases like Alzheimer's said it is not known if one type of exercise can be better than another. So that's why they did this study just to see what would go on the doctor Rayfield. The old explains we tried to provide our seniors in the dance with constantly changing dance routines of different genres. I think this is the key to this study study. They did jazz square dance. Latin American line dancing girl. I liked him line dancing. That's fun. Steps are patterns formations in Spain and rhythm were changed every second week to keep them in constant learning process. So there's your key that constant stint learning process the most challenging aspect for them was to recall the routines under the pressure of time and without any cues from the instructor. Now you've got to remember remember this was done with a group of seniors who did not have dementia. They were sixty eight years or older. They had normal decline in cognitive function action but they were challenged both physically and mentally to do these dance routines physically by just doing it. Mentally Mentally by remembering how to do and win to move their arms wind move their legs wind move right when to move up. Wind put whatever whatever whatever to the beat of the music learning all those different different steps. You've ever taken a dance class or two it can be challenging and I have done that on line dancing in after all those line dances started turning into one huge huge big line dance. They all start looking alike to me but it's it was so good for me mentally physically and emotionally. I felt better hitter More energetic not necessarily better about my talents I have to say that but she goes on in the article to say right now we are evaluating the new system called Jarman. I guess that's how you say it's. It's a combination of jamming in gymnastics. This is a sensor base system system which generates sounds melodies and rhythm based on physical activity. We know that dementia patients react strongly when listening to music we. We want to combine the promising aspects of physical activity and active music making an making in a feasibility study with dementia inch patients. Well you know we've talked. been many times about how important music is the only thing that makes music better for our folks with seniors folks with dementia in really for all of us where you've got dementia or not whether your age is not important if we can mix music doc with movement both those things together. We're sparking different. Parts of our brain in. This is good for us. When I go to the pool each day I take with me my IPAD and I take my sound system that I can Play remotely the music. I can hear it in the pool. I put on some Ah Fifties and sixties motown move to the rhythm of that music now. I do that because I know that's good for my brain hearing that music. Good for the brain nine and moving good for the brain but also I am more inclined to move if I hear the music right and I will move to the beat of the music music. I have found on the days when I don't take my music. I'll walk in place but it's nice and slow as if I was just down there for you know ooh for the fun of it not just for not also for my health. It is fun to go but you know I'm not. I don't get intent on moving as quickly as I should. I get real lackadaisical about what I'm doing but if that news is gone girl I'm in there. I am walking to the beat of the song. Whatever that song might be Tom In that gets me going in. Its parts sparking different parts of my brain something you can do with your loved one with dementia to put the music that they like. Let the music that you like. But the music that they like on and ask them with consider doing their hands up and down and up and down in the air or right to left and right to left to the beat of the song. I feel good dude. The A new I would now so you move in your hands to the the beat that or maybe tap in their feet raising their legs To The beat of that music maybe swaying back and forth moving those shoulders right I to laugh to the beat of the music. Maybe even leaning forward leaning back leaning forward leaning back to the beat of the music. That's all things they can do. A seated if your folks can get up and move honey put your arms around and go to dance and hold them close shake their booty is good for them. It's good for you. They they will feel better afterwards in you feel better afterwards and because they feel better you feel better because you feel better they better. Dnc Howitzers is just a cycle. Gla helps you feed off each other. It is good for you to hear. Music is good for you to move your body but if you can hear music and move your body at the same time. Wow very good for us in. I'll be doing that at one o'clock today now. Normally go to the pool at nine o'clock I told you guys that but for some reason God has decided decided not to turn the heater on here in Florida until the afternoon has been too chilly at nine o'clock one o'clock today I'll be down at the pool with a little bit. I feel good in in step into that in kicking my legs and moving my arms then I wake up the next Hangup Command. My arms hurt. I really did that quite strenuously the day before but makes corroded. I did well. I hope that gives you some ideas as something you can do for your help in for the health of Your Ella come back tomorrow. We'll talk about something else listening since miles. Let's talk. Dementia would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www dot in dot org. They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call haul to inquire about benefits for the veteran spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Miss Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing at looking at what you've written in making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports imports located on Flint Street extension in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your Cownie Ada. Three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for peril. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon. In paperback and kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on facebook and leave us a kind word of review on. I tunes remember. Knowledge Brings Power Power Brings Hope hope brings smiles and we all need more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.
Did You Notice Something Different at Thanksgiving?
"Senior Life Journeys Presents Carol Howls. Let's talk dementia. A podcast designed to help caregivers find knowledge power hope and smiles lyles in their dementia caregiving journey welcome to let's talk dementia. Here's your host bestselling author Carol. Welcome to let's talk dementia. I am Carol. How will your host? And I'm glad you chosen to join me today. I hope you had a great thanksgiving. I am recording. This is December first first of two thousand nineteen. Where has the month the month of November gone? I woke up this morning. Holy Cow. It's already December. So that means today today is Sunday and it is the first Sunday of advent. I'm recording this before I go to church and worship later for a small gathering of folks at an assisted living living here my town and We will begin the advent season so I hope that this advent season is meaningful for you in that you find some time to stop up and to think about the anticipation of the season. They arrival of the Christ child in the difference that has made in our world and hopefully in your heart in your life. I wanted to tell you a little story about Dr Oz you know. There are a million things that pop up on facebook of where Dr Oz has supposedly supposedly endorsed some product. And they want you to Click on purchase it when Dr Oz done have squat deadly due to do with that product. But today today on tell you a true story about Doctor Dr. Oz has just learn or recently learned that. His mother has Alzheimer's now. Of course that is never a fun thing to learn. I don't care who were who you are. What station in life you are Is just not word you ever WanNa hear you know. You don't WanNa say the world's my loved one has Alzheimer's but Dr Oz has Face that in his life and died rises will television star An very well uh-huh cardiologists in. I have a friend whose husband was operated on had heart surgery by doctor. AUSE PRETTY NEAT Huh. So he's helped a lot of people in the medical field but now he helped people with his television show when his mother sooner was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's and of course as it was upsetting for for Dr Oz but for him in particular it was more difficult because he says he missed the warning signs totally missed the warning signs. He knew do. He knows the warning sides for Alzheimer's or dementia and they just didn't register that this is what was going on with Ms Suna. His mom and that was. It's very distressing for him. And I am sure there are many of you who are listening to Can Look back on your store and say Yup that happened to me and down idea. Get Yeah I do. I did not miss the warning signs with Momma. But I'm GonNa tell you I didn't know what I was. Seeing was warning signs of Alzheimer's I just knew it was warning signs of something really cruddy nasty going on with Mama in Dan. I found out it was Alzheimer's and that is what began my journey of learning and being trained to be professional in this field. Well that just leads me to the topic of here after Thanksgiving. Have you spent some time with your loved one in your tuning into this show for the first time because you think S Awesome stuff in Mama or daddy or whomever that bothered authored. Me Over this Thanksgiving holiday and I wonder if it's dementia and for those of you know this is what you're dealing with. You know a little refresher courses always a good thing so diminishes the inability to think clearly that affects the activities of daily living. That is my version of the definition for dementia Menchaca But activities of daily living are bathing eating ambulation dressing and tolerating you can remember them by the acronym Baid like the beads on a necklace. macos be a D. Put a T. on the end bathing eating amputating dressing and toiling so we start having problems in our ability to process process thought that affects at least two of those five areas of daily. Living doctors are going to call it. Dementia and Dr. Oz is Mama's case her a dementia as diagnosed as Alzheimer's type dementia. And there's over two hundred kinds of dementia so we need to get to the doctor. If you have recognized in your loved one some confusion that you've not seen before or they're asking you the same questions on then. It's time to be proactive. So one or some of those warning signs well a personality change. They just are not who they used to be. Maybe they seem little agitated will the reason they're Agitated votes is they know. There's something going on. That's just not right with them gacy. They've known it for a while. You might not have picked up on it. But they've known for a while and that's very distressing. I can tell you anytime something drunk in your physical being a has a way of stressing you even if it's nothing. The thing really large is just the annoyance of it can be stressful for you. Much less realizing you're just forgetting everything that's just got to be a horrible. Thank thank so that can cause a personality change Unusual behaviors one of the unusual behaviors. That doctor saw with his mom was that she began giving her personal belongings to total strangers. Well now it's okay to give what you got. If you want to share something with your children or your grandchildren you know. Pass it down on through the ages. That's wonderful but when you give Mama's heirloom necklace to someone you don't know that's that's kind of not so good. I could tell you. In one of my choir members I used to Choirs folks who had dementia and one of them wrapped up engaged me this really cool pair of clip on earrings which. I'm pretty sure clip on earrings. Something straight from the bowels of hell they kill your ears but anyway she's had just wanted you to have these and these were very expensive earrings that I knew I cannot keep these earrings and all thanked her profusely then took them and gave them to the executive director of the community. Will you please make sure her family gets easier rings bag. I didn't want to say oh. No you can't give me these. That would hurt her feelings so as far she knows as to have those earrings earrings but at all so giving away personal belongings to strangers. That's one type of unusual behavior but like I said personality changes. That's an unusual behavior. The spending money that they would never spend giving away money we see folks with dementia specially fairly early on when they're having problems processing thought they make lots of donations and is as if there's not a lot of opportunities to do that especially this time of year now now for those of you who are looking to make donation would love for you to do that to our not for profit. We are a a one. C three registered with the United Nine states government and it is tax deductible in you can do that at our website. Let's Talk Dementia Dot. Org and I thank you for that but if you're having problem processing assists foul don't make a donation disclaimer there but we also save that will begin buying a lot of things things Omar Work QVC. I think he probably makes a whole bunch of money off of people who are beginning to have cognitive issues because everything looks great. And all I've got to do is give you this number. Bring you'll send it to my doorway. Hallelujah thank you Jesus ended on and we say mom and daddy start having all kinds of stuff deliver his mom. Dr Oz is mom became can vary confused about place in time it was at main will place being as in where you are Time as in where you are in life. What what year? It is what month. It is not so much what time it is. We can get confused about that I can tell lately my husband. I've been sitting down been so oh busy during the day and by about seven thirty thinking well it must be about time to go to bed strong about nine thirty we look at our watching it. Seven fifteen seven thirty. We're like what so being confused about about time. is not the clock time but time as in What what year it is what month? It is WHO's the president those kinds of things? She began to happen with that she would constantly call and invite him to launch. Well that sounds totally innocent except she lives in Turkey which is in eleven hour flight from the United States and she didn't understand why doctor ause could not just come have lunch with her. We see folks withdraw from work. They withdraw from social social life. They withdraw from hobbies. They quit doing things that are important or were importing sent them. I can tell you with mom. Sweet Mama Miss Fear Gene. WHO Went Heaven on? May Thirty first was my first Thanksgiving without mommy. Oh but she started having problems selling mom all of my life had it made all of our close growing up. She made clothes for people in the neighborhood. She may draperies. I mean Mama just showed up a storm. At one point we owned more stacked up fabric Mama had had bought on sale than we probably did. Food Goes Mama was always buying fabric but mama couldn't thread the song machine. Yeah she Cookie come here and I've gone on their school. Got This machine messed up. Figure out what I did wrong and she would have the the process of threading Zome shink down through the various things that you do some she it it would be all messed up so those kinds of problems. We begin to say another thing. My mom had problems with was. I did teach her to crochet when she was very very very early early in her diagnosis I tell people she found out about five minutes before it happened that she our five minutes after happened that she had dementia. We found out very early and Mama decided she wanted to crochet and she was still able to learn that but as time went on. She couldn't remember how to do that. And believe me. My mom had made enough Afghans. We we're like thank you mama. We got no clue or do these Afghans. We began donating them to a charity. So difficulty completing familiar task. Navy that familiar. The attack is cooking or making peanut butter jelly sandwich or bathing themselves or dressing themselves the everyday things we have problems with so when we I notice these things we need to go to the doctor. We need to be aware of it. And that's why you need to keep in touch with your senior citizens. If you're not visiting your mom or your Daniel your grandma get your crazy self in the car and go see them. What's your excuse? There's a reason to be visiting your let. Once you have a responsibility please live up to it. And then you're gonNA. You'RE GONNA recognize very quickly that there are things going on and I'm GonNa tell you Dr Oz defense dance being able to recognize those changes over the phone. That's pretty difficult because even in the face of dementia over the phone our loved ones can just I amazed us. They're such good actors and actresses but until we spend maybe an hour to with them. We it takes that before we can see They're having some issues that we weren't quite aware of but get to the doctor find out what kind of dementia your loved one has if the doctor says yeah you're right you're mom's got dementia fat the Bat and singer out the door us back the truck up I wanna know what kind of dementia we're GONNA need to do some testing and if they don't want to do the testing you find a new doctor. Dr Is just that simple early. Diagnosis allows you to take advantage of any treatments or enroll in clinical studies. That might be out there. There's not medication. It's any any good right now for there's Air Cetin Amanda and Exxon they think it might help. Slow the symptoms of dementia. But it's very very minimal and Very shortly upped but then there are side effects especially Ariza has gastrointestinal intestinal issues with it. And then Dr. Oz decided to undergo testing to learn if he carries a copy of APO four gene. Any learning does US A P O F four gene. If you carry it does show an increase chance of having Alzheimer's now. There are people who have Alzheimer's that don't have. APO forging there are people who have the APO e forging that never get Alzheimer's so I'm not entirely sure why even need to go through that testing but what we need to do instead and for sure maybe not instead but for sure is to change your lifestyle so that you're eating healthy and taking care of yourself and exercising and resting being in having social activities that are healthy and good for your brain in your in your mind in your emotions. And we've had several shows on glad you've joined me today and we will think thank about Dr Oz and his mama soon have them in our hearts and prayers. He deals with this new aspect of his life and she does too in. May I'm here for you and you you can write me. Carol at let's talk. DEMENTIA DEMENTIA DOT. Org did it out here. And I will write back and we'll work your journey together. Check US out on Amazon. Let's talk dementia and our website. Let's talk dimension. Org blessings and smiles on your day. Bye Let's talk dementia. You would like to thank our sponsors National Association of Veterans and families. You can reach them at eight hundred three five to to nine one nine on the Internet at www w. w. dot n. a. v. f. Dot. Org They speak veterans. So you don't have to and you tell them Carol Saint you when you call to inquire about benefits for the veteran the spouse of the veteran or both editor bed you can find Ms Beth crosby at editor Beth Dot Com. She is amazing looking at what you've written and making sure it represents you will find her at. WWW dot editor Beth dot com and HD imports located on Flint Street extension inch in Rock Hill South Carolina. That's your county eight three nine eight five zero nine eight five. They are there for the hunt the repair and maintenance of your Honda Hyundai Toyota Kia. Tell Them Carol CINCI. Thanks for joining us today for Carol. Howls let's talk dementia to learn more about dementia inch we recommend Carols bestselling book also titled? Let's talk dementia. It's available on Amazon in paperback kindle versions be sure to like let's talk dementia on Facebook facebook and leave us a kind word of review on itunes remember knowledge brings power power brings hope hope bring smiles and we all tell me more smiles. Thanks for joining us today. And we'll be right here when you come back to. Let's talk dementia.