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"byron katie" Discussed on Untangle
"Like mindfulness or technique like mindfulness that allows you to see what's happening interrupt your habitual patterns and do something more skillful and different because without mindfulness, I think a lot of what we've been talking about radical generosity, shifting toward shared success, reveal and request, it's off the table, in a sense, because our hardwired habits are just so strong that those are always going to win the day unless we're able to slow it down as you said and see what's happening inside and experience some of the sensations and shift out of that ordinary habit stream. Can you talk a little bit about your own personal mindfulness practices and how you see it played out in your relationship? I find that lots of different things count in terms of centering and grounding. So for me, it's a lot about walking and particularly walking outside in nature, that there is something literally grounding about the experience of being on a trail. And leaving some of the things that are happening in my mind out on that trail. And the other thing that I think happens, and you were describing this earlier really beautifully, that facilitates some observation and some self observation. Where I can look back at a scene where perhaps there was conflict or a misunderstanding and get curious about it from a different perspective. And so being able to literally walk some things off, but also to ask the question, how else could I see this? Or how could the opposite experience be true? And practicing, I love the work of Byron Katie to be able to look at something and say, how could the opposite be as true or truer? Or how can I experience what ease happening and love what is rather than arguing with reality has been really significant. And the way that that shows up for me in our relationship is one being able to see the exchanges between us from that different perspective, but also being able exactly as Nate was saying to allow some space where when something happens, I can go, huh, I wonder how much of this is what actually happened and how much of this is just between my ears. And when I recognize that the very vast majority is just happening in my own self storytelling, it allows me to show up with him with a lot more love and compassion. Yeah, and then for me, I guess yoga was really my way into mindfulness. That's how this whole thing started for me. I got into a very serious yoga practice, but then I got really interested in a lot of different forms of mindfulness practice. So focused attention practice, training my ability to sustain attention on the breath. In the last four or 5 years, I would say that's shifted to a combination of focused attention and some open awareness, practice. I found to be very useful. And what that looks like on a day to today basis is I'll wake up, I'll do yoga for maybe 45 minutes. I'll sit for maybe 30 minutes or so. And then in addition to that formal practice, which I know a lot of people listening are likely doing, they're doing their muse meditation and mindfulness practice. In addition to that, I think it's just so key to have this integrated informal mindfulness practice throughout the day. I'm always working to find little cues in life that remind me to come back to the present moment, whether that's walking out the door or beginning a walk or even at the beginning of a meeting, right? I'm just constantly trying to find these opportunities to interrupt that ordinary sort of trans state of mind wandering that we slip into. One of the things that I really appreciate is that Nate's practice in some respects is much more formal and there was a way that, especially when you were first starting, I resented the practice, where I was like, that just feels like free time. Like, how do you have an hour and 15 minutes or like an hour and a half or two hours? Like, this is just free time. Don't you need to do some more child care or shouldn't you be doing housework and it's actually been incredibly powerful to shift where I now experience his mindfulness practice as a gift to our relationship. That that space I experience the compassion, all of that actually feels like a gift to me and a gift to our family. And I think about it, once upon a time, it felt like there were competing priorities, where it was like, well, you're getting what you need for you. What about what I need for me? And now instead, it feels much more like, this is a gift to us. Wow, this is huge. And I'm sure there's a lot of people on the call who identify with the sensation of potentially guilt doing their 45 minute long meditation practice in the morning. And looking over at their couple, their partner being like, is this okay that I'm doing this? But feeling the need to take the time, this is huge. So how did you make that shift to seeing it as generous? I'm asking on behalf of all of the meditators on the line who need to convince their spouses still. Please feel free to pause the interview, go get your spouse, bring them back to have them listen. So I think the shift happened for me when I started recognizing all of the benefits that showed up for our family. So the first thing that I noticed was how much less reactivity Nate had than many of the partners that my Friends were talking about. So I would say such and such happened and there was a deep breath and then he could say, hey, I have a reveal, and they were like, that would never happen. And it really felt like that was only possible because there was space because there was mindfulness. And then the second piece, I'm not sure if other people are teaching their kids, but Nate is also teaching our daughter how to meditate. And I am watching her show up in her own life when anxiety shows up and she's saying I feel scared or I feel really nervous that she has a toolkit that's available to her that's different and that to me feels like a gift to me to our family to her and to her future life and future partners that.
The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"byron katie" Discussed on The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"And maybe it's true. Maybe it's not get to. How do i react. When i believe the fought i get to see the calls of my suffering and when i turn it around it makes more sense in it. Some it's decks and you've held. Some people were challenging emotions and beliefs and and it works pretty quickly. What what are the kinds of ages seen happen to people. Are there any short stories you can share about. People have been able to get out of the the suffering state they're in challenging situations using the work. You know that's an on on people all the time you see this every day all the time all the time all the time i mean this is through my email through my just incredible testimonials just sometimes. We don't even dare things that we want to publish. We don't even publish because it's not believable. It it's it's its i can say just on radical turnarounds and it's. It's not that you know what. Madison kinder mothers and fathers more understanding more understanding in the workplace kinder out of a question. Mind the stuff we see on the internet around winning and losing you know just just and then we made some one. That's that's that's patient and and coming out speaking out of an off out of and authentic from an authentic place. We trust that. It doesn't great great great headlines but it it it shows us a piece of ourselves that we are we already know. It's like a home place and this work. Whether it's a question and turnaround it literally shows us how to live like people should be kind. You know that's like on the neighbor worksheet on questioned three in that situation. He should be kind to me. He should be kinder to me. Is it true. And how do i react that situation with him. When i believe the thought he should be kinder to me and he's not witness. How what. I say what i do. How am i body language expression. And then who would i be without the thought. He should be kind to me. I began to listen and more often than not. In fact for me it begins to make sense. I understand whereas. I couldn't ben as a believer but but then who would i be without it anyway. Toront- he should be kind to me in that situation. I should be kinder to him. And and and so. I live bat turnaround. In my mind's eye these living turnarounds on the worksheet will just shift life like so. I closed my eyes. I should be kinder him. So i live that out in my in. My mind's eye. And then i should be kinder to me so as i meditate in that situation i live. That turnaround should be kind me in that situation and i notice. I'm quiet i notice. I don't interrupt. Him and i was very interrupted. I notice living turnaround. I'm not interrupting. This is not a little. This is not a little pain because psych hog ships. And then i find myself being kinder to other people. Because i live the turnaround meditatively as i said in my work in that judge worksheet. Our winter you're offering people is way to little bit their beliefs and slow everything down question your own thoughts and beliefs and your petitions reality across suffering wasted. Most of us never learned how to do. I mean we think what we think is true that it's fixed reality and that will we interpret as reality with somebody else or something else in the world is just absolutely true. And it's it's it's it's that shit causing the suffering. That is that really what the buddha oxygen on. Your work is sort of a modern spin on buddhist thinking which allows us to get access to things like fashion having to be meditating nine years in a cave. John ready to do a john. Here's your idea of moving to kua the neighborhood you're looking for a the trick is to love where you are and it's it's buried our choices. Yes sir i mean this whole idea of it that we are so attracted our minds that they are the source of our joy but there of our suffering is a super empowering message because it it it takes the power out of the world to affect you instead of you being effective everything that's happening in your life you're sourcing your own joint happiness in you're at the cost of your life then you're designing your own experience in interpretation and i remember when i was real young i was picked on so much I was in nerdy kid reading books. Dirt again so i was. I was out backpacking out west. And i end. People i've met Was camping with them in the woods. Kinda goofy and i think guys are making finding me and i. It was so bearable. And i had this momentary. Tiffany which is stuck with me. My life ogies that you know either like what they're saying to me is their own movie like it's their own interpretation of reality and it may or may not be true and i don't have to take it on or maybe there's something really juicy in there for me negative wisdom and reflection that even though it's in a package that feels crappy may be something useful for me. Look at myself so amazon. I went from being like really torn apart and suffering so badly from all the hostility. That was coming at me. Who kicking on me making fun of me. Whenever that i was able to feel really empowered that will like we'll us their story islands taken on an or juicy and for me to learn and that really is stuck with me since i'm eighteen and it's really changed. My life is often. I'm not afraid of people's feedback or criticism or anything like this is deserving or something and it was seen. That is stunning. I was just and you know. That's that's that's adds had this other moment. Which was so when you had when you were a little different. I was like i was had a really really close friend. And he just. He's like an an adventure. Lover of life and spontaneous dances to the beat him his own drummer. And you know we just will be there next. Gone doing something and you're gonna win. We're camping out. One night and feel and i woke up in the morning and it was just got and he didn't say anything node. I mean there was no cellphones Decks neat but disappeared almost felt all the suffering. I oh He's off doing something fun. And on my life is in as valuable. And what. I'm gonna do is not good and he just having the best time and i'm stuck you're by myself and i just want to do this whole thing and then again. I had this epiphany. Wait a minute you know everything was happening in my life ins- equally valuable juicy and good and and it's the perfect thing for me to be experiencing right now and i don't have to worry about ever comparing myself to anybody else in my life around what they're doing and it's better than what i'm doing you know i it. Just it was a real breakthrough for me. I was like. I think i was twenty. Twenty four is such a gift. That is some kind of grace because you didn't plan to think that is the disk. And it's really helped me to be free more free..
The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"byron katie" Discussed on The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"Confuses hurt saturday disappointment. Why i'm so. It gives you an example out against various in both britain and gold a struggling with relationships or the worker beliefs are themselves but themselves. Her health is really a simple process. That i do and it's free. It's three and all the instructions that they are. There's a thing Posted there on. It's i call it the one two three. So you feel that. You answer the questions on the worksheet and and then you take like number one what you responded to number one and for example and then you move just that one concept over to the one belief at a time worksheet which that's one two three that's number two and and just answer the questions there. It's pure inquiry. It's the four questions and turnarounds. that's all and And so then to do that is to sit in the practice of the work there is. There is a one time worksheet which is essentially ridden. Meditation that your beliefs and how you react and change in turned around by and would you be without that thought. That's a beautiful woman. Who would you be thought that. I'm not love that i am not good. I'm not good enough. Whatever thoughts we have about ourselves. It's a really want my life minus stat. The cause of our suffering is what we're thinking and believing in given situation and that's not something that just sounds too simple took believed. I'll just throw this out there because here. We are all fears. Either remembered or anticipated yet never happened in the moment. Life is being mentored or anticipated. That's all remember anticipated. All physical pain either remembered or anticipated. Step on your foot. That's happening in the moment. What if someone is stepping on your foot okay. Someone steps on my foot. I am remembering okay right now. He stepped on my foot. I'm remembering it even know. His foot is still on my foot. And i'm anticipating that that he that i would feel less pain if his foot was off event anticipating when you sit on it you can see the images and his foot is still on my foot and in our time together. It's showing me you. You can do this. You have the gift of of of stillman's presence you've got some a buddhist practice in you. It's just an. I work with people at this. At home with barrack eighty three days a week. I work with someone every every every one of those everyone can sit in this practice and it and it is a practice and it's so simple people find difficult but you know mark sound is them. Remember anticipate you've you you you've heard life is an illusion and you sit in that practice. It's not a theory. it's good practice. Breaks down in real time and solves gives us. It's like on the on on number. Oh my gosh. let's say. I prefer your questions i could. You know i could. I want to ask you. I wanted to ask you about something about you. Said which is that that we all have our own happiness but we look to ourselves for that happens What are we want. Whatever we think another person needs to do. Maybe we need to do. And i it. Sort of Number you always looking outside of ourselves to blame. What's happening around us for happiness or suffering with i think we we externalize happiness but we also externalize suffering. You're seeing is that. None of them are external. They're they're coming from within. Us only was like dorothy in the wizard of oz. She always had the power to all three clicks over ramirez burst. But jesus and know that..
The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"byron katie" Discussed on The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"The possibility of the person groups in the turnaround is applying. Look at other ways of looking at the same situation perspective and try it on and see if it's true or not true how it feels and saying it is true. You're saying you know. I don't care about me but maybe that's true and then you start knowing that i don't i don't care about her in then i i sit in that and see see as i said earlier. Anything that i i said or did that would lead anyone to believe that. I didn't care about them. And and then there's another turnaround on. I don't care about me and in she doesn't care about me around. I don't care about me. So where is it that. I was disrespectful of myself that i didn't it time that i interrupted her of his in a hurry. I i was the one that pulled away. She didn't it. Some an it shifts every relationship with god because our identity is shifting every time we sit in inquiry. You talked about that. The the buddha's formidable truth on that that that fourth one the third one There's a way suffering right now. There's a way of suffering but he didn't. It's like years of buddhism for for some people and some get it right away you know all. But here's how is how and so And what was the fourth noble. Truth i guess you know the end of suffering and for me for me any anything i say or do the two that i experienced heads in you or me could use a little work because the people in my world if i don't respect them and feel connected to my world and my planet the gifts of nature each other than i have to look to myself because until i do not a lot of peace and not peace we heard other people in the cycle just continues. We feel guilty and we can defy. The vigo is so good at the really way to get free from self-destructive beliefs and thoughts that cause suffering and allow you to have in detroit. Navigate your relationships who work your experience. That sort of liberating right. I mean it's not like it's it seems so simple but it's so powerful and i think that we often spend years and therapy and years you know working on ourselves and shortcut short circuits a lot of any tsunami common with think about change just It's it's it has everything to do with health because when we when we when we bike ourselves our roy does are the decisions we make in life. Different they're gutting exists sanity is a. It's a great gift and we can. No one can make me sane. I'm i'm the only one. I'm the only one that could give me that. And it's it's it's a practice. It's a practice and stillness than it takes a a lot of courage as i said earlier. Result is what the owners altars then end result. I'm seventy eight years old. And i'm healthier than i was. I have less pain than when i was a teenager. I don't know how long's cut allows more but the choices i make make sense and no-one taught me you know what i eat might exercise. There's no voice in my head. That says i'll do it later. I'll double up tomorrow. Or i'll eat it and i'll make you know there's no ego in my head. That would argue with right doing where to go. Where the you know. Go go through inquiry the ego. That i'm i don't oppose it to question. It gives it fair play so the ego says she doesn't care about me ended smith with is true so it gives the ego a chance to just. Where do i michael from. What do i go from year in the end. You're just meditated isn't true and then the same wisdom..
The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"byron katie" Discussed on The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"But i believe it and it's causing me to have all these horrible and all this suffering examining miserable and how i break that cycle where i'm constantly leaving this dawson. I making them real meaning on things that they're causing so much pain. Yeah it would be. Like if. I have the thought like i ran into a old friend and she was in hurry and fluffy off and and and and my feelings were hurt. Okay and now. I think what did i say. What did i do. What did she achieve and she that and all of that going on. So what is the cause of my suffering. What i was thinking and believing in bat situation on standing on the corner when she did not have time for me so now people can do what i did. They can download on byron katie dot com. They can download what i call. A judge enable worksheet and there are six questions on that judge neighbor worksheet so because egos always in the past or future and sense sense. That situation is up for me now. I look at the judge neighbor. Worksheet knowing that the cause of my suffering again is what i was thinking believing then so six questions on the worksheet and i filled them in with what i was thinking believing dan..
The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"byron katie" Discussed on The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"I tried the people on the streets. I just did with the you. Don't have to suffer. But it was crazy times but learn to be quiet very very quickly and just live at and then out of that quietness people would notice my this radical shift in my life radical shift everywhere. My physical my emotional. My mental everything was noticeable to my family people around me and so they began to ask how because i couldn't tell them i put it their camp. That's why this work is just inquiry. There's no byron katie and it's just inquiry it belongs to everyone or what value is that. No one has to use it it just something that hangs out there. You know if you've tried everything else You might try this or you might start with it. But the i certainly encourage people to look into it now because i can see it shifting people all over the planet and so it's just me it says it's powerful clearly. It's a powerful tool to get into the details of how it works. How the work works. But but the don't want us to get to. I is how you were just one of us normal. Humans who was running around life miserable suffering trying to like find happiness and struggled in your forties and then before with real serious issues around self worth depression and suicidal thoughts and floor for more than a decade. Just a gore phobic depressed just just my prayer was death to die and it's possible it was painful debris saved no way out and so i guess seem really believing there was no way out a by. Some grace sean. Away out and people don't have to. It doesn't have to be that dramatic painful. Everyone has spiritual experienced enough suffering. As far as i'm concerned ball had enough that we've take us take us to look to ourselves. Which is what inquiries about. So you're your that state and then you pitney somehow like this crying opened up in your consciousness like you said where you couldn't rush in and new rail the sierra once which is not our works from us you know we're sort of 'incrementalist league learn a than what my friend tell me today. She's like you kind of forget. You have this forgetfulness. When learn something when you forget it if the relearn it and i found myself doing know maybe the lesson stick but the this method that you call the work came out of that insight and the unpacking almost a slowing down of our mental process is suffering in a kind of chiropractic. adjustment on. aren't getting that allows us to free from that suffering which is a crazy idea. And it's not something that most of us ever learned about which is how do we ma'am A the jungle of our own minds that take us into a dissatisfaction disease conflict of worry future orientation. How does drop into this moment that we're in and understand. That is perfect and you do that. The ego is its job is to not be here now. It's job is to job is neither be here. Then be here then because you are you know if you can hear if you can remember be saint me saying you are. You're in the past. So i recall being depressed in my bedroom just locked in there just paranoid as crazy and i'm i recall the pain. Okay so now to do this work. I would identify what. I was thinking and believing in that situation because in that situation what i was thinking and be leaving was the cause of my suffering and no way out so a diction happens in those states of mind. You're like how do i react when i believe the thought. I think i'm moving ahead. No you're right on it. I mean i think the whole idea of our beliefs in our thoughts and our emotions being exceeded. You can unpack most times. We're wearing this class reality. Where we we have a thought based on a belief. The krizan motion in all happens in a nanosecond. It's almost like what happened for you is that it's a slow downs. You could see. Oh this thinking may not be true..
The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"byron katie" Discussed on The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"See you on itunes especially being with you right here. You know i think through my life have have really struggled a lot Counted i face like everybody whether it's divorce or health issues or challenges at work or relationships and when i was younger i studied buddhism and that was my major in college and when i think about your work i often think about when the buddha was trying to do which was kind of buminate why we suffer the four noble truths basically the buddhis- is you know life is suffering. We suffer because were attached to the story. We have in our head about what's happening and there is a way out of the suffering and the fourth truth is eightfold noble. Pass your work as much. Simpler have it. It can take a while as they several lifetimes or fraud mark. I was in a hurry of deadly. I just wanted to cut to the chase. Something some by some grace is by some grace. I just saw in a moment before the iggy could fill that space i saw my world was created. It was like and i began to laugh. I was literally sleeping on the floor and open my eyes and again before the ecoed Fill the space. There was in end. It's nothing that i could tell her. Teach i tried tried my children..
The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"byron katie" Discussed on The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
"I think i get as much i do. And now let's get back to this week's episode of the doctors pharmacy. Welcome to the doctors pharmacy. Dr hyman that's pharmacy than ice conversation. The matter and you've ever suffered about anything. Well this is the podcast for about why we suffer and how can be free from suffering. Which seems like a crazy idea but it actually is awesome and today we have an extraordinary guests one of my favorite humans on the planet. Even though i don't know where that well who she is a gift to humanity She is a woman might have heard about her name is byron katie and she covered through her own suffering away out for all of us. Believe it or not and it was a way out. That is simple to do. Is obvious when you think about it. But it's not really much of us are very good at and byron woke up one day after ten years of depression and south loathing and suicidal thoughts and all kinds of horrible experiences woke up one day filled with joy and she realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts she suffered in when she questioned them and and that that was a true story. That will be true for everybody who wants to take that on. And she's created an incredible process of self recruitment. I notice help literally millions of people. They may have. I know in france called the work which is very simple but i see four questions and what. We call a turnaround which is way experienced in the opposite of what you believe. How do you. How do you on your stuck beliefs And she's just worked tirelessly for the.
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"byron katie" Discussed on The Doctor's Farmacy with Mark Hyman, M.D.
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The Ultimate Health Podcast
"byron katie" Discussed on The Ultimate Health Podcast
"Which again you know inquiry. Yes hannity allows me all of these. These things i make kinder choices. And what's next for you any big projects on the horizon or different areas that you're heading down this at home. Podcast opening up next week. I'm very curious to see how that's going to fly because each podcast is going to be so full of every walk of life at all these situations inquiries it's extremely radical to fit in. So i don't know i don't know how i'm looking forward to it. So that's exciting. Can't wait to check it out and other than listeners. Checking out the new podcast. How can they connect with you. After the show the work dot com or byron katie dot com takes the same site and how to do the work because front and center to rear their to To support anyone that has you know. It's it's if you're tired of this stuff rain you know the work has one way and and i invite you to to inquiry. What about that person out there. That's either watching. You're listening right now. And they're suffering in a big way and they feel like katya. This is all great. And i can see how it's helped so many people but i'm broken beyond fixing. Would you say that person no no. Because it's it's a true possibility. There might be people out there that feel that way and i know you don't think that's true. I don't think that's true. But how would you say to them after taking this in right now to give them that. Hope in that inspiration to take that next step forward then. It's never too late and that there is a way and that it's possible that if i can do you can do it. If you're out there is this name and experiencing and when i said oh no in response to us. What about that person. It was as deep compassionate. If i as i've ever experienced there's way if i can dig myself out of the whole than anyone can with this gift. Who knows what. I could've done where i can go with it. It's we give what we can by nature lovers i nature. That's our nature anything any kind of stress. We look at what we're thinking in believing that it's going against our nature. It's telling us what is not what is when it comes to nature. If i see a problem in the world i looked to death because what i'm thinking of believings the problem and that's without exception so i just find that for those listeners. Hearing this i just find that all the hope in the world because we can look at who and what we're thinking thoughts.
The Ultimate Health Podcast
"byron katie" Discussed on The Ultimate Health Podcast
"So he lied to me. I lied to him. he told me the truth. And then that would complete the turn around that that i can see. Meaning the opposites of lied to me and it's for questions in turnaround and it's a meditative state of mind and it's i understand it. For centuries people meditators have tried to clear their minds so that they can sit mindlessly so something meets that beyond their understanding and it to be in touch with the infinite but the mind interrupts ego does not sleep it has to be physical or it can't exist so it's i am i am. I am a woman. I am a daughter. I'm a mother. I'm a i'm a niece. I'm on and on. And on this. I am i am going to town today i am. I'm going to turn the i and you you. I think three's just doesn't slate so in this meditative state in stillness. What if any clutter that would cost us that stillness. We moved from our head to paper. Removed it into the world that way and question it and then we'll be sit in silence. Were wake and that space is unlimited and that grace is unlimited that gift the gift of the already giffen. There's no one that holds for wisdom than another way ball got that equally ego is some. I the terrified child fighting existence. And so i've come to love the land and it's finally. It seems found a home where it can just rest. It's safe. i'm not trying to attack it or blame it or shamet. Meaning mind is purely gold until we understand our.
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"byron katie" Discussed on The Ultimate Health Podcast
"And prior to that that life that creator prior to the life i'm just describing that twin out of that mere it's mind and body connected in that mirror and oh gosh this. Is these quite some questions. While i just i'm just curious and and at that time as you're going through that you know i'm sure you have a different perspective years later but what are you thinking at the time are you like. Am i going crazy. Or how do you feel that at going through what you just shared. There was none of that. I walk most mornings. I almost every morning but most mornings. It's my favourite time and it's it's just like being on the floor amusing the morning walk. You can do this from your home. You can do it from work and do it from anywhere but you know. Look at a tree. Just the way i thought from the floor. And if i don't believe onto it it is itself and everything is equal in the world. I can look at the pavement and just name just word. I call it first. Generation thinking trees sky wolman without definition and see the world living its life the state of of reality of awareness of the beauty of this were all not having to war with it just being present and in my words leading what is being connected to keeping that connected. That's best thing at no time. It seems i'm unable to disconnect with that reality that i mean that's all that's left of what we might call her the worthwhile so just to make sure i'm getting this right. Are you saying that since that moment you've lived in that new reality since or is it like there's ebbs and flows and you've had other experiences like the cockroach one no. It's just ongoing. Seem to be done. I can say it's the dose. I needed but it was beyond adults was how how my world began. Let's talk about how people in your life respond at that point you know..
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"byron katie" Discussed on The Ultimate Health Podcast
"Was just asking like somebody who is in that pit of despair and depression right now. How do they begin to see that as a gift like you do now to close their eyes anytime. They're upset for example depressed just to close her eyes set get ready still and then to notice. What's going through their head and to have a judge in neighbor worksheet in front of them. It's always free on the work dot com no newsletter. Nothing you just push print yours so to have that available and then to just sit diskette really still a notice. What's going on in their head. And then just fill in that worksheet but very short simple sentences because if they were depressed i was there all over the map because the ego is not going to hit. Doesn't want you to catch it. So it takes doughnuts and to be. They are now in the situation. That's in your head and to answer those questions. And then at the bottom of that worksheet there are. There's a way to question and turn around what they're thinking and believing and test that just to see for themselves what's true. What's your because people can tell us what the truth is. We believe it. Or not. But i had to take my own mind back and see what it was from me off fantastically what it was for me. What was true. And what was faults in my head. As i questioned there on the paper
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"byron katie" Discussed on The Ultimate Health Podcast
"Was just asking like somebody who is in that pit of despair and depression right now. How do they begin to see that as a gift like you do now to close their eyes anytime. They're upset for example depressed just to close her eyes set get ready still and then to notice. What's going through their head and to have a judge in neighbor worksheet in front of them. It's always free on the work dot com no newsletter. Nothing you just push print yours so to have that available and then to just sit diskette really still a notice. What's going on in their head. And then just fill in that worksheet but very short simple sentences because if they were depressed i was there all over the map because the ego is not going to hit. Doesn't want you to catch it. So it takes doughnuts and to be. They are now in the situation. That's in your head and to answer those questions. And then at the bottom of that worksheet there are. There's a way to question and turn around what they're thinking and believing and test that just to see for themselves what's true. What's your because people can tell us what the truth is. We believe it. Or not. But i had to take my own mind back and see what it was from me off fantastically what it was for me. What was true. And what was faults in my head. As i questioned there on the paper
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"byron katie" Discussed on The Ultimate Health Podcast
"Was just asking like somebody who is in that pit of despair and depression right now. How do they begin to see that as a gift like you do now to close their eyes anytime. They're upset for example depressed just to close her eyes set get ready still and then to notice. What's going through their head and to have a judge in neighbor worksheet in front of them. It's always free on the work dot com no newsletter. Nothing you just push print yours so to have that available and then to just sit diskette really still a notice. What's going on in their head. And then just fill in that worksheet but very short simple sentences because if they were depressed i was there all over the map because the ego is not going to hit. Doesn't want you to catch it. So it takes doughnuts and to be. They are now in the situation. That's in your head and to answer those questions. And then at the bottom of that worksheet there are. There's a way to question and turn around what they're thinking and believing and test that just to see for themselves what's true. What's your because people can tell us what the truth is. We believe it. Or not. But i had to take my own mind back and see what it was from me off fantastically what it was for me. What was true. And what was faults in my head. As i questioned there on the paper
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"byron katie" Discussed on The Ultimate Health Podcast
"We go with byron katie katie. Welcome to the podcast. How you doing today doing as well as i can possibly do. I think we all are. Don't you always. That's all we can ask. Ourselves watt katya it so many times in preparing for this interview going into old interviews. You've done and and reading your book. But i haven't heard you talk about the period of time before you had your awakening. Let's talk about leading into the depressive phase. Went through the ten years and then and then we'll come up to nineteen eighty six and and talk about the waking in and breaking free from that. I think the depression really started when my husband. And i divorced my father of my three children and in my world divorcee mary forever you know you marry and that's it. Well there's this divorce and the loss of home and life is my children understood it and i think that's what just threw me so deeply into the depression and trying to call up and do raise children as a single parent and and coming from wealthy to nothing. It was you know letting my children down failure. So yeah that just played played played and played and played in my hand. You know it was remembering the past and just living and and the future where there was no way out of this hole was going to get worse so that just. It's like recycling the ego just recycling recycling recycling and there was no exit to my mind only suicide and with three children. I just couldn't so i was stuck. I was stuck in a hopeless life which turned out site later. Became aware of by some grace a hopeless state of mind. So that's why i do what i do. Jesse there is a way out. I want i want the world to understand. There is a way out of suffering. And if i can do it anyone can do it so it. All it takes is an open mind and willingness lot of courage to look at one sounds deepen tall that but sticking to your story a little bit longer here and it sounds like your kids at that time were kept you from ending your life in kept you on the path so or i was just a coward or didn't have the means or afraid that i just do halfway and then we'd all be worse off just fear fear here. And how old are your kids at that time. I don't really be call. You just can't answer that. I think just generally though were they. Teenagers five maybe five and then a one brother two years older and another brother six years older than than my daughter just at the most oh most precious ages and all that hell replaced this beautiful life is they as they saw it so before the divorce and things started to spiral downward was your mental health like up to that point stable throughout your life or did you have your challenges. A kind of magical life. I didn't have a stop button. It's like there's nothing i couldn't do..
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"byron katie" Discussed on The Ultimate Health Podcast
"Coming up on the ultimate health podcast from the floor the laughter that came out. I don't know how many years in time since. I think that was probably the most authentic deepest laugh ever experience. Just like i got the joke. I got the key to what we call life. Hello and welcome to alternate podcast episode. Four hundred nineteen jesse chapas. And i'm here to take your health to the next level each week. Upbringing you deep conversations with health and wellness leaders from around the world this week chatting with byron katie.
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Feel Good Habits with Marcia Kilgore
"I'm so trade at trying to turn around how I feel and and how I'm thinking so if I have an important event and I have to do it I will use all the again all those chosen. If it's just a tiredness thing it's water benefits. I can't cope with this thing will question that thought it so this fantastic limiting Byron Katie. Have you ever heard? Yeah Yeah I mean just. You don't have to study everything that she does or or be an expert at her method but just questioning whether or not the thought that you having is correct and this. I think it goes into my second habit which is connecting. Sometimes tired you feel fearful of because you're not connected and I honestly believe that. Humans are kind of like batteries. Sometimes we need to go off and Y- recharge so Rechargeable batteries as sometimes. You need to just go sleep or rest or whatever it is. Sometimes the the solution is actually go plug into another battery. And so that's what gets your energy flowing and if rest hasn't done it for you or if you're having thought that maybe isn't helpful and I would say there two kinds of thoughts fight right helpful or not. Helpful never true. It's like well you can. You can think about the same thing two different ways in helpful away. And that's your choice but remembering that if you're feeling anxious about something is just a unhelpful. Fought and maybe you need to do something differently and very often. I find that if I just connect with other people and you know you go and you recharge you meet somebody. Suddenly it lifts your energy so much and it's because you've got somebody else's energy to lift you up to feel connected and really easy way reaching out zooming somebody calling someone or just going in and getting into a different mode where you don't necessarily theol- like that problem or the thing that was maybe reducing. Your energy is still there because it's not true anymore in story. I'm really interested in what you said about unhelpful and helpful foods and I think that's a really brilliant way of distinguishing them and also it makes it really easy when you feel like you're having a bad day or you're in a negative head space for you to be able to say actually maybe. I'm just being really unhelpful. Now I need to be helpful. Did where did you learn? That former was that was a business thing or is that just something you learn as a kid think somewhere. I re as much as I possibly can because I also find that reading gives you so many ideas idea whenever you stuck. I just hope right when you you are stop and you can find a little point of light. It's almost like the guy that's out of that stuck place when you're in that place where you don't have enough light really acknowledge that will take you out of there so. I tend to read anything I can. Whether or not Student 'cause you always find a little snippets of inspiration in there and someone just said very simply in its true. I guess there could be a neutral thought by means you're having a thought and it's not helpful you will. This spot isn't helpful. So let me have a different thought. I have a great example of this so we a Finance Director. At one point he was know mark the most positive person and sometimes instructors. They could be you. Want them to be constructed frugal. And that's what a good finance director and we were trying to. I think trying to sell a product to retailer and I said Hey. Could you make this call to this retailer? 'cause I'm really Swanton in Buffalo and he Had emailed me Taylor and not hurt back and I. I think I emailed him. I said so. I won't say his name. Just he's he's losing said did you the retailer. And he said yes but haven't heard back from and so they're not they're not interested. I actually laughed and I said that's running because if I emailed that person a tape myself to do this and they did email that I would say. Oh holiday it's different. He comes up when I did get back. So they're not interested at automatically. Assumes is unhelpful fe and I would think must be on holiday did time to get back to me and interestingly a couple of days later they emailed back so you can either stretch yourself out give up and say oh it's negative or you can think oh they must be reason for this and it is sprayed training to have like yourself immediately into the positive thoughts but you can do it everybody can do is just Joyce.