20 Burst results for "Brunei Brown"
"brunei brown" Discussed on Stellar's Podcast Series with Shaun McCambridge
"You've come world champion. So that vision or dream is is perfect Doesn't always have the indiscretions of injuries. Knee losses losses. Not winning not getting on the on the ian party bossism perfect. You talked about that a full head. You manage your aren't expectations. Thank you so a win. They're a little bit before. I'll be really interested to stand in sharp. I'll say it will be really important. Understands well disappointment. Brunei brown writes a lot about expectations in suggests. That disappointment is the result of unmet expectations. It's difficult or challenging. Not expect things because we all do things with the or objective in mantra things to be different to what they are right now. So it's a matter of actually detaching from the outcome and falling in love with the process and that's how. I became so successful in surf and in life i stopped worrying about what's going to happen in the future and i just started taking ownership of the choices that i might today now one today. I'm in support of my health and wellbeing. Tomorrow i might sabotage it. But that's the choice. That i might tomorrow but these are the choices that are making an earning nice choices on a dice devices. Today i wake up tired. I had a lot of work to do for my course. I had a lot of meetings. I had a lot of Interviews and this podcast. So i chose not to serve today because i know it depletes me of my energy so we make these compromises sacrifices that will actually refer to his personal choices. I don't say them as sacrifices. Because i chose to bay that i chose to do that. I chose to feel that so it all comes back down to personal choice personal accountability personal ownership. And.
"brunei brown" Discussed on LifePix Relationships With ST
"That's the biggest thing is you know when you have a successful partnership, it's two people both showing up to do the work even when it's really hard uncomfortable and it's never just one person's baggage or one person's responsibility. It's how do we do this together because we recognize that's going to. Lessen. The weight but I'm not gonNA lie that it hasn't taken a toll many many times I just think it shows the strength of our relationship that we get through it. Every single time for Shoria you each give each other space and let each other be but same time take responsibility for what you have to do and worker and grow together and I'm not sure if you're familiar with Brunei Brown and some of her work, but one of the things that, of course..
Living a Daring Live with Mazi Robinson
"Welcome everyone to another not another anxiety show seniority. TOLD GONNA stutter. I, Erica Letham and I am with knees Robinson. How are you? I'm. Good I'm so glad to be with you this morning. Thanks so much for having me Oh. Absolutely. I'm just gonNa read a bio because I love it when people give me a bio I. Talk about Maisy is a licensed professional counselor speaker specializing in helping women discover their true voice as they navigate self worth self esteem challenges, relationship concerns, and life stage transitions by the way you and I will be talking after this in addition to her work as a therapist can maintains an active speaking schedule presenting workshops on topics such as anxiety, healing, healthy relationships, personal growth, and purposeful living. She's also a certified daring facilitator hallowed be dining, presenting, workshop and retreat space on research and methodology of Dr Bernard. My favorite person, Brown you individuals and groups. Me Is the founder and director of cultivate. which will obviously talk about threats counseling center and by monthly gatherings cultivate encourages women to cultivate joy courage in freedom in their lives as they pursue emotional, mental and spiritual health meath resides in Atlanta Georgia with her husband and. She's an avid friends. Fan loves dinner on Porch with friends and is passionate about telling women they are loved and worthy, and so he so happy you're here. Out Thank you. Thank you for having me. Excited to chat. So we were talking as. As you know. I frankly and sweaty was getting on air here. I have a couple Internet Faux Pas. I spent an awful lot of time in the south for work especially in in your neck woods near near Atlanta and I've been called a damn Yankee a couple of times our. I spent enough time I. Went to college in the West and There are a lot of folk that move there and someone i. To listeners if I drop my New York drawl and pick up a little bit of a southern trying as we. But. A welcome and dying to know what exactly daring facilitator as because you know if you're a browns fan like we are in, are a lot of our listeners are what the heck is that how do I become you? Can I think my head against yours? What is it? Yes. So very nice. ACILITATOR is someone who has been trained in research and the methodology of Brunei Brown and you are trained to facilitate the curriculums that she has written. That are based on her books to gifts of imperfection daring greatly, and rising strong, and then there are certified there to leave facilitators that are trained to. The curriculum that goes along with her books near to lead, which is for businesses in corporate work. In that sort of thing I I am a huge Bernice, out fan I have to say that Her work literally changed my life or Yeah in tooth and I'll I'll Kinda make the story short. But in two thousand, twelve several people from different areas of my life kept asking me if I had seen this woman's Ted talk and they're like name grenade or rene or something like that. This is before Burnett like really hit it big. And like we're five people in the course of a couple of months kept mentioning Ted Talk to me and finally I was like, okay, got to figure out who this woman is and what she's about and so because I tend to be a little bit upset. I I was. I was just going to dive right into Rene, and so I spent the whole, all of two thousand, twelve reading everything she'd ever written, and at that time she had dreamed books out Thought, it was just me the gift of imperfection enduring greatly had had just come out and I spent reading everything. She never written every article I listened to every podcast interview I just really like speak to myself in grenade for several months and I was totally taken aback I've felt like everything that she talked about in her books was what I heard everyday clients talking about on my couch and and I also felt like she was giving voice and naming so many things that that I still struggled with in my life that you know just in whole concept of shame. Keeps a small and and and chain can sometimes we really loud in our lives and sometimes it can be really covert and just recognizing in my own life like, wow, there there are a lot of ways in my life right now that I'm still hiding and you would never know from looking like looking out you know looking from the outside in you know I was at the time was a practicing therapist as I am still now and I'm giving talks and you know and I was out there but I realize in reading from work and reading her research I realized how? To little ways that I'm hiding hiding in things that I I do hiding in things that I never try hiding in people that I'm like Oh. We don't have anything in common I'M NOT GONNA you know get to know her just lots of little ways and and so I started taking comes little baby steps to come out of hiding really really small things that again, no one on the outside would have noticed any difference in my life but I was taking these little steps that felt very vulnerable to me and to my life and one baby step led to another baby step led to another baby step. And in two thousand thirteen. I had been working at a counseling center here in Atlanta were seven years at the time and or six years, and in two thousand and spring two, thousand thirteen. I went out on my own and started my own private practice and and it was because of Brunei and I know I recognized how cheesy. I mean out of my mouth, but it was you know these months with like Oh my goodness. I'm hiding I'm playing small. I. Am giving into those messages of shame and scarcity and I'm not enough I'm not enough capable enough. I'm not business minded enough and you know there was just a lot of not enough nece still going on in my life despite being a therapist and having done years of personal growth and development work and all of those daily steps to this big professional league of going out on my own and starting my own practice which you know has ended up just being. Probably one of the two best decisions ever in my entire life and So in the spring of two, thousand, thirteen I went out on my own, and then that summer was when I went to Texas for the training to be a certified waste, acilitator and So the the work the training just allows you to do a deeper dive into the work and teaches you how to teach the material to others how how to. Apply it to your client work and and so I, I hold daring way retreat to hold rising strong retreats and I integrate the work into my clients and and it's really foundational in a lot of ways to my practice and how I conceptualize shame with clients, and how I talk about all the different ways we armor up we protect ourselves from vulnerability and it's just been life changing personally and professionally for me.
"brunei brown" Discussed on How I Built This
"The. Same kind of audience you have and I get very little abuse because how I built this isn't that controversial but you know Caisley we do I do and and it sucks you know it's it's never fun because you want people to enjoy what you do. You want to make content for people that makes them happy and inspired How do you stay resilient and strong when you're just getting like pummeled with just meanness honestly It's something that can be very difficult to deal with at times because whether it's a stream or youtube channel a podcast, you kind of want to be creating and dealing with your community, the people that like that. So it's kind of hard to fathom why someone who claims to dislike what you do would barade- you with negative comments right a first starters I try to just accept that it's okay for me to feel bad about these things. I need like no emotions to not feel bad when I read some of these messages ultimately. Yeah. I. Try to validate my feelings but also not expose myself to all this feedback too much. I don't think it's healthy for me someone who probably gets thousands of comments about me to read all of these all the time. Now, of course that doesn't mean that I should ignore criticism or ignore the negative things that people say, but just to take everything in at an appropriate amount. So it's not overwhelming either positively or negatively, and also recently I read daring greatly, and that book was absolutely amazing especially I. Related so much to just when she spoke about also receiving so many negative comments or hate and someone in her position who's had so much success also say that there will simply be days where it gets you and where it feels bad and you cried out but then you just get back up and keep moving and keep creating the things you WanNa make for the people who WanNa see them. So such great advice a great book during greatly by Brunei Brown visit question from Jacks of Youtube Jax asks how do you keep a balance between your live streaming career and your personal life you know considering?.
"brunei brown" Discussed on The Ortho Show
"Pain-free and asked to go back to work, and I remember vividly saying to myself I've never seen this before in clinical practice, and that sounds exactly like what you experienced with this patient as well a new technique. You fight you get somebody to jump on board to do it thinking. Is this going to work or not work? And then you look at the results and you take a bet and you're like Oh my God. So only took me five years to collect my first twenty patients when I got up to about eleven, patients, or so I realized like Oh my gosh. I'm onto something here. I think this could change the world, and I was never a big research guy to be honest with you. I you know you. Each of us has different strengths and clinical side. Was always my strength and I wasn't a guy who really enjoyed doing research. But I said you know what I have to write this up and so I I got together with a resident etc, and we started to write it up and that's where the first big roadblock came. Because sent the paper in seal modern ACL repair results. It got rejected for two years just. Thrown back to. INBOX woods full quicker with my outbox was gone. It took me two years and endless revisions to to get that. Paper published in at the end of it I think it was a favor from one of the publishers. To help me out and then we're off to the races. And that's a common story. Common theme across you know depending on who you talk to. Especially for those those innovators early adopters who are really trying to push the curve you get set up and it's a real strength of character that you're in this vulnerable spot. We're really trying to change something. You really think that you are onto something, and you can make a difference and you get rejected and then. Then yet you persevere, and you continue on and a great common theme that's in a sort of Brunei Brown is a is a big believer in the sort of vulnerability, finding, courage, and moving forwards. Congratulations to you for persevering to tip to make that happen so now you know, let's play forwards now. It seems like every journal I'm picking up now. There's an article about ACL repair. It's a pretty profound. Yep so I I have another talk later on tonight and. Part of the talk. Is that if if people aren't talking about what you're doing that, it can't be very interesting. Right and so this year the past twelve months there's been eight systematic reviews on ACL primary pair. So if that's any indication, I guess people are getting pretty interested in it. That's that's amazing so I'm just sort of thinking out loud now..
"brunei brown" Discussed on More to Life with Faith and Lois
"I help? What would be or what would be helpful I love that phrase oftentimes when I don't know what to do. I will say the person what would be helpful. Yeah and you shared with me a really great post today from Brunei Brown and Most of you know who she is and she's an amazing sociologist that works out of Houston and she calls on us by the way today to see to share, and to honor the lived experiences of friends whose realities are or were very different than ours, and I think that is just so powerful for me, because it may not be my experience, but that doesn't negate it, and I think we. We have we're? We're plugging along doing our thing. Saying this is how I do it on our watching someone else do it differently, and so what she's asking us to see and this lived experience that people are going through and I love that she said that being held accountable is hard, and it's painful to your point faith when we finally step in and say I. Don't know what to do. Being accountable to what we even don't know is not easy, and it's painful for us to know that we don't have the answer in this moment, but we do have ourselves to offer and so continued offer yourself where other people can have the freedom to have their voice heard. And I think offering. An inner voice to ourselves is an again. This is such an opportunity for us to truly be honest and reflective about what's going on inside of us. What do we really believe? What what do we feel What is our reaction and own it instead of setting aside and saying I don't know what to do with it. Therefore, I won't.
What's Triggering You? Get at What is Keeping You Stuck!
"As many of you know. I'm really big on the awareness. Part of our journey we. I have to have awareness to gain insight by getting out there and getting curious about what's troubling you before we can invoke or practice or he'll through behavior change. Have you ever asked yourself? Why does this bother me so much? That's what we're going to try and answer today. The power of the feeling wheel knowing near feelings I has to come through somebody irritating us or of. Oh King that emotional reaction that feeling many unpleasant ones. Those are the Times that we can get clearer about what were angry about or what. We're sad about what we're happy about. Is it envy? Is it guilt is it shame is it freedom is it curiosity? Is it isolation or do you feel provoked? Do you feel worried. Do you feel inadequate. He get what I'm saying here if you are interested in boosting your emotional intelligence if I have to learn your emotional red flags your emotional triggers in Deir to lead Brunei Brown says wherever perfectionism is driving us. Shame is Riding Shotgun. Many emotional triggers down from perfectionism. We feel ashamed to admit things like anger because we are jealous of somebody who I don't know looks better than us. Got a promotion got married. I don't know it could be a ton of things in your world but unless we're willing to look within to see what is deeper and what is triggering us. We may never get to not feel that feeling asking ourselves those tough questions. What is it about this person or their life or their experiences or opportunities. That makes me so jealous. Angry inferior on comfortable. That's the key word. What makes us so uncomfortable around certain people or certain events or topics or even words triggers are unique to you your individual history your personality your experiences think of triggers as wounds. They often come from past trauma remembered. That trauma doesn't have to leave a scar. It doesn't mean hitting it doesn't mean kicking doesn't mean all those terrible things that we hear about emotionally neglecting. Someone is trauma when Moore triggered. We re experienced that past injury that past trauma it creates a disproportionate reaction tune event or to a word and it doesn't feel good. It feels really uncomfortable. Our primary triggers are inside of us in internal dysfunctional personal belief. That we somehow learned usually in childhood can trigger ourselves into feeling these really nasty uncomfortable feelings ashamed of something. If we don't measure up for instance we can activate our inner critic and boy you know how she he they roll right over you. And what the inner critic does is put everyone else before you shame based beliefs about ourselves can make us feel so vulnerable. But it's the wrong hind vulnerability. It's the triggering kind. We're vulnerable to the attacks that we perceive from words and behaviours of others. We surrender our self esteem when we're criticized even if it's not intentional because of these emotional responses for those of us who are highly sensitive in have built a life of co-dependency. Ooh When someone tells us where too sensitive or even selfish Gut Punch right. These are the words that become internalized and brand us for life these judgments that people put on. Us label us. They're untrue now. Triggers can also be external in some cases. They are imminent signs of danger that preceded in earlier wound. We learned to react to them in order to be safe in order to be loved when they were developed they were meant to be helpful but when they're Habich Uli automatically to different situations as we develop in. Grow our reactions become dysfunctional. They don't work anymore. This is when we get uncomfortable when we overreact. And we know were overreacting. We believe that our perceptions are accurate because were reminded of a circumstance of a moment or many moments important pivotal branding moments in our lives. And in some cases these overreactions are learned behavior that were modeled by a parent or a loved one. Someone who really influenced our daily lives
"brunei brown" Discussed on Energy Healing
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"brunei brown" Discussed on Whine Down with Jana Kramer and Michael Caussin
"That's where all my issues come from. Your like an and then they went back, and it was a hundred and fifty seven teenagers when they were sixteen. They found that those kids were forty percent more likely. The ones that saw their parents disagree in a healthy way thirty percent more likely to stand up to peer pressure when offered alcohol or drugs. So, I think about that all the time I'm like okay now that we're disagreeing and mostly a healthy way, this is good modeling behavioral bling for her to follow like. So so that makes me feel a little bit better like if you know then it isn't scary like in my family. It was like simmering tension and then explosions L-. That's not a healthy way to disagree you know, and so she sees us. We use the same therapy language that you guys use. Don't say no say. Yes, and you know. Your feelings. So the best ways that I have found to not have that. Hey, trade and I really should've called the book how how to love your husband after kids, but it wouldn't have sold as well. We. Are Nice looking like a I. Don't I. Don't have time to love him right now. So one is. Don't expect him to read your mind, and this is my classic thing that I did. I really was doing that thing that Brunei Brown calls this story. I'm making up, which is I would make story for him. Like Ha I'm sitting on the couch with my wife's doing all the work, we. Wasn't gloating. He just didn't know and I would do this thing where I would hate prepared dinner and Bang pats pots around, and it was like what just tell them how you feel you need so one thing is just don't expect them to read your mind. A number two is fight fairly us I describe the problem and not the person not. You're sitting on the couch, but I need some help, or there's crap on the floor. Can you pick it up? Describe the situation. I know you know all of this and also describe how you feel because I have found. Someone can't argue with how you feel if you say. I feel depressed that you forgot to pick up diapers. They can argue with that. You feel depressed kind of concrete. So that sort of heads off that like next argument and another thing is paraphrasing that I learned from I interviewed a couple of FBI negotiators because. I thought they would know how to calm someone down in three minutes they do. So my friend Gary who used to run the crisis negotiation unit of the FBI for years..
Reaching Out to an Ex
"Getting my paragon back. Everybody wondering I used my throat Chakra and fucking said what I would say I said so. If you guys didn't just to catch you up so once he was talking to someone and he borrowed the Thera- gone which is stay sick dating dating someone and but it was a six hundred dollar device that is used for muscial muscle tension and we need it back. Christa is really pushing for this so I I reached out I needed it. I said Okay said Hey. Ho Hope all is as well. It was wondering if I could grab or how classic Intro was wondering if I cope ball as well I literally I. I asked five people whether that was good or not so good. They approved wondering if a good grab or have you send my Thera- gun Miami's are also asking. I needed to add a funny love it. Hey yes absolutely I'm sorry I've been. I've kept it from your hands. This long appear well also was just thinking about this weekend. I feel bad about sharing that sarcasm being like a little interested leader. Now it is so there's actually no plan yet hook he goes. Let me know Do you have any plans to be on my side of town or I can bring it over to you and like obviously my a a habit is like oh you know when I'm on your side of town or make it fuck and easy let you know when I have my hair done I mean obviously of course full face on but actually my reading with Nikki number. Really helps is helping me right now 'cause normally I'd be like oh tempted to just like go. He was thinking about me but I'm like actually is not not the one but anyway getting back with Aragon. Thank God that it was an awkward which is Great. It's coming back home. Maybe anyway. It's our year twenty nineteen year. I always like is just reminder. -Til out there sometimes conversations conversations don't have to be that complicated. Yo you know what I mean especially with dudes to be honest. Yes they don't they don't care need to be that complicated. You don't have to call them. You don't and have to tell them like I'm so sorry if this is I was thinking of saying sorry if this is awkward but I need my therapy back. There was no. I'm not sorry the people on my God dude. People are like this so awkward. When you're in public. It's like shut the fuck. This is so awkward and and I. I wonder what your what does the subtext about. It's like just be able to sit to sit in a moment that doesn't feel a hundred read yeah exactly their inability so awkward. What's awkward about it. It's like not every moment it's GonNa be like perfect. Totally freaks me out of freaks me out. His turn always be this dude that we had in our friend. That always be like whoa that was awkward and unlike do that. You're like us now it. Is You fricken loser. It's that guy that wants to be a comedian of course Bram. Bear bear used the word yeah. I hate that hate hate that lake. That sort of marced yet forced lake. I don't know just like a weird humor. Yeah Weird Humor you. We had our you everything good good good cut. We asked the we as the group what we what we should talk about for the Intros and there was a suggestion a suggestion into the books we've read this year our favorite books that have really impacted us or Ben thought-provoking or interesting and so we are excited to talk about that in this intro throw Ya and my reading pattern I've learned and now accept is that I can't really sit for hours on end and read. It's not but I have friends who do and I'm among little jealous. You know where I finished his book. Today I started at this morning. I took out of House Harry Potter. I wish I wish I had that. I don't know if it's attention attention span or what so my styles just I'm able to pick it up. Open read for twenty minutes an that's up for the day. I think the books that I'm reading now now. Don't really allow me to to do that because most are self help rea- so I need to take one bet absorb it digestion and that's actually really early in this I was listening to this podcast. I forget the name of it but the person was talking about how you really learn and you should really be able to process and digest the information in order to make it applicable so it's not like plowing through everything just to get it done. It's really absorbing it right. Yeah I can start I have like I had this random one suggested to me recently by my therapist but and she gave it to me women who run with the Wolves Nice heard of that myths and stories of the wild woman archetype and I wanna read from the back that just gives a really good idea of what the says within every woman their lives a powerful force filled with good instincts passionate creativity and angels knowing she the wild woman who represents the instinctual nature of women but she is an endangered species in this book. Thus doctor stays unfolds rich intercultural miss myths fairy tales and stories many from our family to help women reconnect with the fierce healthy visionary attributes of this instincts nature so basically like we. I've lost this like we are condition not to be wild woman to tap into her to be her to really express her so it's a a really nice digestible. I just read one story like every day and I didn't think I would story is to be completely honest. I'm like Oh myths and stories. He's you don't even then I'm like Oh. This reminds me of college. Were breeding of Odysseus. I don't really know but it's great it. Like Kinda puts you in that you know Dreamworld of Oh this. This is something I feel very deep. Deep inside of me and I'm really unable to express this and like why I love that I really I really liked being untamed women y'all and then for for work. I just dip into Brunei Brown's dare to lead every night for a few pages brave work tough conversations and whole hearts so it's really coming from a heart centered that took place when you lead and what's been really helpful as how those hard conversations and so much bad is through wilner ability so much of that is through a setting expectations so much of that is being honest. You know being honest. When maybe you don't know or when you fuck up up your team if you have a team respects you more and there is more interconnectedness and the full goal or the the overall goal so I really I love Bernie? She's she's the best so even if you're not managing a team if you're managing a family oh you know a lot of different social construct sandwich that same structure or prescription. She prescribed works I completely agree. I'm talk. I'm excited to see that I actually haven't read it. Yeah that's really good and then I always have my. I've mentioned this on the podcast before but my ask your guides by chicks chocolate coat coach. Shit now. I read this romance novel. I notice it looks like our own Ken. This is connected to your divine support it systems so she really gives you a set by subway. Then it gets deeper as you go along to connect your spirit guides to your writing dear guides to do you know different types of guides so it's really cool and you do a little experiments along the way in it fucking works the all who's the the author for that one. Sonia Coach Coquette C. H. O. Q. U. E. T. T. e. she also trust or vibes at this one's. Real Rogan love that she got to work one works spiritual or and then like a story time where he time one love that that's great correct so I actually plowed through all love Janine roths books this year I needed dig in. I have read anything so Janine Roth is she talks a lot about the emotional relationship chip and familial relationship that we have with food our relationship with food and I really love her approach. She's been really inspirational for me and a few other people people that were very close to yet simkin who's been on the podcast Janet Cabreja who's been on the podcast so I read all of her books. when food is Love Women Food in God when you're eating at the fridge pull a chair emotional eating or breaking free from emotional eating and there was just a bunch of them and there's actually one that was a workbook that I didn't. I didn't do but an end to be to be completely honest. I think if you just read woman food and God or when food is love. You'll be good you could you could explore the other ones about it because I feel like sometimes there is redundancy. You know when I read all of them. At the same time it was really beautiful to kind of explore the ways in which I could could see how my eating patterns within my life and with my childhood came to play with my relationship with my family with my mom and my dad and everything like that so so it's really informational. It's it's not like a diet broke. It doesn't really tell you how to eat when to eat or anything like that. It just helps you to really analyze and look at your relationship with with food and what food means for you and your life is food. Intimacy is food. Love is food. Freedom is food and escape. Whatever food is for you. It helps you really understand that and then works through that in a really beautiful way so interesting about that like is intimacy. Is it freedom as an escape. Yeah it's interesting. I know it's like so they describe each one and then deciders like a little quiz or not. West but CERNAN yeah. That's really just how I kind of thought it so in there is different ways and relationships that it is described but that's kind of the way that I gathered that information information yeah expand the ways that works cool but yeah it's really good and I would highly recommend for anyone that has binge eating. You know anything related. Did you any food issues where they would like to better understand why they do what they do as relates to food so that was really good. That's Janine Roth. I'm hopeful to have her the podcast and then I just I actually reading Graham handcocks new book America before INS about new discoveries discoveries as it relates to findings archaeological findings and historical findings that they've discovered in north and South America in the recent twenty years I and it kind of goes against the fact that we believe that we are the most advanced civilization civilization to exist today and it speaks to the fact that there were most likely more advanced civilizations than us that existed in the Americas in previous times and it talked about about a global cataclysm that ended the last ice age and how there was people living before us that were more advanced and had better technology than we do so it's really beautiful and it's just really interesting and and really thought provoking and I really love grandma handcock. I think he's an amazing person. I think he's so well-spoken and it's it's interesting seem to think about and talk about and with that. It's kind of like a fun oftentimes what I'm looking for in books as something to better understand myself but more you're so I'm always looking for information. That's interesting conversations. I want to be always thinking of new things. I want to always be bringing new information to the table. Whether it's a podcast with friends with my relationship it's really important that I remain dynamic in that way and I'm learning something new so great man Cox books are really good for that and Graham was also on the Joe Rogan podcast cast so you can hear that podcast episode and he talks a lot about it so if you want a teaser to the information from his book you can look look there and then I actually got recommended commended this book by a friend 'cause I'm looking for more information about the history of race relations in America and and how I can go deeper and that now I can learn more about that
"brunei brown" Discussed on WTF with Marc Maron Podcast
"Right. So it's, it's about not, not perpetrating. You're on yourself because of what you are in from the perpetrator. Exactly. Because it just goes on. It's just goes on how many children who were who were horribly abused? How many women did I meet in prison who were abused at abused who became abusers? I mean it just goes on. So what are we going to do? Do in this world to take it in another direction. And I think that's why believe in apologies. I think they are actually a process, you know, their journey that brings you to another conscious were you able to write? And I agree with that now when I there was some vague conversation, I had with Brunei Brown about, you know, why she because she's she's a statistician she's a researcher and then she had didn't have conclusive research on policies because there was an issue with the Christian approach and the Jewish approach and the Jews that she spoke to spiritual leaders said that there's no apology without death, without grief, without Greif. That that's true. That's true. Did you find that you know this, what, this writing this was a grieving process or that you grieve before? I think when I was in my father writing this he was going through he screamed in his book enormous grape. Enormous grief every time he would get more open and more honest. There was grief. And when that revelation comes at the end where he says, I've been spinning in the place that's inside you like I now lost in the space that I created inside gym. That is such a grief moment. It's like look what I've done to the thing to the person. I love the most I destroyed her and in doing so I destroyed myself I mean, you know, somebody said to me that the day will what would motivate men to do this, and I just want to say, I, I know this that nobody does a mean horrible act to another person that doesn't stain their own. So there will be time, whether it's in this world or the next world that you come to pay for that whether whatever state, you're in, and the, the gift of volatility is that you get free do any of us want anything more than to be free. Of, of the harms, we've caused or the guilt we carry the shame. We carry know that's what we're doing. Here is to clean up that stuff. So I feel like we need to say to men step forward. Let's, let's create processes. Let's find clergy and rabbis and imams and people, and therapists, who can help you go through a process to clean up the message you've made in the hurt you caused in the damage. You've done so that you get to be a person who's living a life that isn't constantly in that web that my father created and down that road that just creates more and more and more pain for people, you know, like in the book where you make a queer couple times. I think it was important that yet here him realizing that he has to be thorough exactly that in order to take responsibility and experience real contrition, you have to do you have to do the work and the. The details are the liberation. You have to be specific. I did this to you. And this hurt you this way. I did this you and I wanted to hurt you like this. I did this, this was my intention, it has to be clean. It has to be all the way because, you know, somebody was asking me yesterday. When do you know it's a real apology? And I said, you know what it's a real apology because there's an alchemy that happens. You just unle feel everything gets released, which for me. I don't know what I feel about forgiveness. I have a lot of mixed thoughts about forgiveness. I don't even know what that is. But I know that the out chemic- we action of receiving apology feels like release feels like a letting go right? If because they're like you're supposed to like, you know, in, in sobriety. You know, when you clean up your recovery when you clean up your side of the street and you make that amends, you know, you the outcome of it is, is not about you, not about you at all..
"brunei brown" Discussed on WTF with Marc Maron Podcast
"And I wasn't always sure that what I was saying was funny. But I knew that there was vulnerable. There's a certain amount of vulnerability in anger. Unfortunately, it's destructive. But, but this is I I like the idea that used to think about taking clown course, I was sort of fascinated with the idea that every clown has designed his own makeup. And every clown was personal. And you know, when I've seen clown exercises. Sometimes they just wear the nose and nothing else. I think that through my own work. I sort of landed on certain elements of of clowning, I definitely think I may Mark clown. And I, but I appreciate that approach to vote ability. It makes sense in in. I, you know, I, of course, on reading it decided that I indeed m a clown and a lot of times on the unintentional clown. I mean, a rough place in a lot of ways it's just like I have this fuck in. Some some something inside is just has a grip on my God, damn heart. And I got a I got it. Like, let it go. And I'm not entirely sure how to do it. And. It. He usually reveals itself in my more intimate relationships where I realized that, you know, my own ability in my spectrum of owner ability, and my ability to sort of be myself is is kind of in place. But but there's a lot of dodging going on. You know, there's a lot of ways over the years from when I was a kid that I just learned how to sort of avoid that part of my heart, and I'm very aware of it. And I'm aware of the global climate. I'm aware of the cultural climate, and I'm aware of my own age, and some of the stuff that I talked about with Brunei Brown was very appreciate in just like not knowing how much longer I have and not knowing what it really looks like to get it. Right. But. I think as you get older if you're hyper self-aware like I m I mean, what do I do during the day? It's all pretty self involved. I don't have children. I I have a very sort of chaotic and anxiety ridden inner life, but I have an outer life that is a little more calmer. I'm clearly not incapacitated. I can manage my life to a certain degree. But I can't seem to I can't seem to not be. Yeah. Somewhat defensive on a very deep level, and it's really annoying. 'cause I know it I don't know if any of you experiences, but but I would really behave in a certain way, it's almost some sort of form of like, it's like an it's like emotional ale s you know, and again, I'm not trying to trivialize anybody with with the horrible muscular disease. But the the idea of somebody with LS in advanced stages where you know, their body is in muscles are completely unfunctional, but their brain and their inner life is, you know, completely functional, and they're just sort of trapped in this non-functioning husk of a body..
"brunei brown" Discussed on This Unmillennial Life
"And I have frankly found that advised to be something that fell flat for me. I didn't feel like there was a moment in my day that I really had to sit down and write thoughts out. And I kind of thought what is the point? But honestly enlist. Learning to dare to lead. There is some point that Brunei Brown talks about herself care routine and journaling and how much it's meant to her and my ears kind of perked up at that. Nothing. You know, I've really a big fan of this woman, and she seems to really relatable she thinks it's good idea. But I kind of just tucked away in my brain. And then a good friend of mine on vox or conversation other day opened up and shared with me about her journey towards journaling, and how she was somewhat reluctant, but really found that as she journal things out and put the problems out there that she could begin to see the way that things were working out and pulling together and being solved as she kind of wrote. It all out and thought, you know, another person kind of saying to me journaling is such a good idea. So something came up Emma personal life this last week, and I was struggling with it a little bit. It was something that I wanted to share with someone verb. Early. But I really felt like that in offering it up to them. It probably was not going to be something that we could talk about productively. I know that when I began to have confrontation that sometimes I can spiral into being angry or I can't begin to read into facial cues or the things that are being say said back to me things that begin to de rail and sidetrack what I really wanted to say. So rather than addressing it one to one and letting the conversation spiral as I was feeling upset and emotional about it took an opportunity to write down. Exactly what I wanted to say. I kinda did it with the intent of handing the paper over and letting the person on the receiving end is read it. But what I found is in journaling it all out and talking it all out. I was actually able to see that what I was upset about that. I thought had to do with them really had to do more with me and some things that I was struggling to piece together. And realize that we're stressing me and bothering me. I had honestly a good cry as I was writing it all out, and when I say riding, I'm going to be honest, I was typing, and I think that that is okay. I think one of my big obstacles was feeling like a journal needed to be pen and paper and written out in a book. And that's not me. I'm more of a computer sit down and type it out kind of gal. So as I typed it out, and I reread, and I edited, and I added things began to fall in place, and I began to see how things were all working together a cried a little bit as I was thinking about the things that were bothering me. And I realized that so many of the things that were bothering me didn't have anything to do with the issue that I originally thought I wanted to confront this person about I let that information sit most of the day and at the end of the day, I really found I didn't need to share it that I was in a good place. And that I felt like that I had worked it out. So I just share that personal story with you. So that if you find yourself being in a similar situation, and if you're someone like me who's been. Reluctant to pick up journaling as a habit just know that at least for my experience and a few people around me who I've talked about with this closely. It actually has been very helpful. And it is for some reason away for your brain to work through things without having to say it to someone else..
"brunei brown" Discussed on This Unmillennial Life
"As I said in that courtroom break Rene Brown, one of my favorite authors. So glad that I discovered her and started learning more about her. Shame research has been really impactful to me in helping me understand some of the triggers for some of my anger and some of my anxiety. I've talked about multiple times different books that I'm listening to a hope that I have mentioned her extremely impactful Ted talk that is available on YouTube. I believe it's the most watched Ted talk ever on YouTube. I could be wrong about that. Don't quote me if it's not the most heavily watched. It's one of the most heavily watched. And for good reason it in just fifteen minutes made such a huge impact on me and my way of thinking, but I'm mentioning it to you today because I'm so excited to let you know that if you haven't seen it. Netflix has a new series coming out specific. Typically with Brunei Brown. The Netflix show is called Brennan Brown. The call to courage, and it was actually filmed originally in front of a live audience in his recording of an hour long speech that she gave at UCLA one of the things that people tend to love about Brunei Brown is that she addresses heavy topics like courage. Shame vulnerability, but she does it with intense honesty and a little bit of humor that I just find extremely relatable. So if you haven't taken my advice and listened to any of her books or read any of her books now is your opportunity to check her out on net flicks. Okay. Moving on from Brunei Brown, but in a similar area of self development. And ironically, something that I've heard Brunei Brown talk about I want to mention something that I have been doing in my life that I kind of honestly. Sort of turn my nose up at for quite a long time. And didn't see any reason to do that. I have actually found in the last couple of weeks to be very helpful. And that is the art of journaling if you're not a journal or and don't fancy yourself one is okay. I have been with you there for many many years, but hear me out on how I came to find an opportunity to start journaling some things out, and what has happened as a result. So it has been suggested to me in the last year or so by people who are more knowledgeable than I am about the art. I would say of self care, and especially mental health that journaling can be a very very powerful tool to help put things into perspective..
"brunei brown" Discussed on Help! I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared
"I don't know which way to go really hard, but they want to and they want to do it. Right. You know, there's a strong desire, and even in these these these groups that were calling luminaries experiences. We gathered them outside of the workplace, you know, for these evenings. And I know people are coming nervous. You know, what they're going to be asked to talk about. But then they leave you know after. Just two hours of feeling like there's hope for the world again, they say, oh my God. I've never felt so energized. And so hopeful that there are better times ahead when you strip it down when you when you look past the movements and everything what do you think the origin for these for this divide us? Well, if I could sum it up, I think it's. It's a general misunderstanding of each other. As we go way back in time. You know, it used to be that women were revered and looked to for their wisdom and their superpowers. You know, they they were really at a central place in society. And what what Dan Doty the founder of every man. And I always joke about is. It felt like that was more of a matriarch easy. And now we're in a patriarchy, and what we like to see the Ali ARCHE, you know, where it's not like any one is in charge anymore because back in the day. I think than men. Really felt disempowered by women's power. I think they didn't understand the unique gifts that we have as women. And so then men took over and tried to shame us and make us wrong, you know, in the witch trials, and like all sorts of ways taking away our rights to vote and be equal members of society. And so now, we're seeing that, you know, we're finally kind of coming to a head with all of the separation and saying, hey, tenders fluid. It's really not about that in a more. And we're all the same. We're all human, and we all want to contribute. So let's just get rid of these old misunderstandings and find more of our common ground. How could could someone that's listening right now? Or even meet, for instance, how could we contribute, you know, because obviously a very heavily involved in the corporate hands on type of thing. Is there anything that we can do in our day to day that would help contribute to that? Yeah. I think that's really I think it's about being curious, you know, in your own relationships, not drawing lines difference as much as we've been trained to do. But saying I wanna know this person sitting in front of me woman or man, forget about all the differences that the color of our skin or what we believe or are choices that we've made in life, but just to get really curious about. Learning about each other. And what Brunei Brown always teaches being vulnerable? You know, saying I'm super scared to ask you this question or I'm really nervous about making the wrong move here. You know, but I really like you or I really want to know more about you and support you what do you need? It's just going in curious again instead of letting our fear SAPA from being connected and close. Now with you. Yeah. And then on Instagram who you could always come to these events where carrying we're going to take it on the road, and they'll be many more..
"brunei brown" Discussed on Mindfulness Mode
"I save thirteen thousand dollars scape. Living paycheck to paycheck. You know? I, you know, and those emails filled me with a level of joy that was beyond anything. I'd ever felt in my life better than you know, that fifty thousand dollar project better than the first million dollar project. I sold and to be honest like it was such a new feeling like I you know, I grew up and we live in a world where it's like find. Your wife, find your purpose. Find your passion. What makes you happy? I think a lot of those questions put a lot of stress on people. I didn't know my why I didn't know my purpose. I think a lot of people don't know. And that's okay. I had to get myself the time in space, and right and create and my purpose showed up. I I didn't choose this mission. This mission chose me, and it was the level of joy, and it was through that joy and kind of leaning into it. And when you when you are able to kind of find your purpose and mission, it becomes a filter into everything in your life. It makes decision making easier. It makes trade-offs easier. I work harder now than I ever have in my entire life. But it's very different work. I'm not working money. I make money, but that's not the goal. The goal is. How can I, you know, have the biggest impact, and I can tell you the more that I've leaned into that mission. The more opportunities that have opened up to me. And the book became one of those. I obviously write a lot about money. I care a lot about money. I've always wanted to write a book. But you know, it this the synchronicity around how it happened from being on MPR to the agents to the publisher. You know, my editors that are for the Dalai Lama and Brunei Brown and being able to work with you know, such an amazing team at penguin Random House..
"brunei brown" Discussed on Stronger
"Like that is that I have to tell you is been so fun for my brain. Because we watch all these. Dark mystery or you know, the one about the the women that have you know, that are all subservient. I know. Everybody's addicted that, and it's really great show. But it's depressing. Yeah. The show you talking about is called travels with my father. Thank you. Yes. Okay. Let's he'll brain book right now. My brain book is dare to lead. It just came out from Brunei Brown. But also a health book that I love if I could say two is Dr will and he came out with a book called Kito -tarian. And I love what he's doing with the Kito -tarian. Well, he's going to be on this podcast. He's fabulous. Yeah. He was one of my favorites. He was pretty he was so interesting. Okay. Brain trip, where do you go when you need to reset? I go to the Chinese spa, and I have a reflex algae foot massage because all your pressure points are in your feet brain music. What do you listen to when not the focus on out? I am been addicted to a star is born the movie out right now. So it's very timely, and it is fantastic. I mean singing to that music. Just totally lifts you up. And I haven't been really addicted to track in a long time and the movie was so good and lady Gaga, and they were both mazing brain day. What's an ideal self kitty that boost brain power? So that would be meditating first thing in the morning that absolutely. That's my day on the right course, in terms of calming down my brain because I'm just very hyperactive with everything I need to get done. Also, it would be having a green juice. I'm a big juicer. I don't put any fruit juices, but I'm big into getting lots of veggies. And if I really need a brain lift all add a little bit beat even though that has sugar, but beat is amazing because it opened opens up the blood vessels. And it really does wake up your brain. And then I would say the back through the reflexologist but massage and before bed detox bat. Right. Yes. So thank you so much for joining us today. Thank yous happy me. Thank you..
"brunei brown" Discussed on Jen Gotch is OK...Sometimes
"I was feeling really stuck creatively, very, very paralyzed by the voice in my head that was telling me like just inciting so much fear and myself while I was like getting these big creative projects off the ground specifically, it podcast hosted by me, the one you're listening to right now and writing a book. And a lot of people recommended this book to me and it's great, very digestible. Another one of those like chapters that are one page long, which is my favorite because I, I read three chapters last night, but really talks about how our thoughts create fear, what they're trying to do and why we should take control of that. It helped me enormously. So again, especially if you're a creative or really anyone that's taking on a big in Denver and just feels blocked by your own thought. What's this is great. The war of art, Stephen press field. The accidental creative by Todd Henry Todd Henry has become a friend of mine. We're not like best friends, but we've had dinner together. So that's something he was one of the first podcast that I listen to. He has a podcast called the accidental creative. The accidental creative was also the first book he he wrote, he has several books now they're all great and his whole deal is like helping those of us that have to create on demand. This book is is a lot about that. So if you if you within your career have to create on demand or a creative professional or even work with creative professional's, this is such a great book and again, like a lot of knowledge and skills that can be implemented. So. Highly useful. So I've kind of taken you. I'm winding down, believe it or not are winding down. I have like six more books list, but I'm just going to stop here because I think this is this'll be a great start, and then we'll come back for a volume to where it definitely talk about Brunei Brown because she's super important. But I feel like if I dig into that, that's gonna be a whole other thing. And I think Todd Henry book ends. Wherever I started, which I think was maybe the untethered soul. So there's a nice range in here of, well, I probably say this in the in the wrap up, but but anyways, like there's a little bit of everything in here. So I hope I hope that part helps not like a bunch of books on the same subject. They're definitely the first half all sort of speak to. I don't know to me the idea of personal enlightenment, which I have found incredibly helpful. And then some of these are a little bit more on like things that you can implement in your life and your work, but all have made a huge difference for me. I hope they do the same for you. I'm excited for you to read them, spread the word about them, and I will definitely come back with more because I can already think of. Twelve books. I wanna tell you about, but that'll be too overwhelming. So start here, get your book on girls and fight and the five gentlemen that listen as well by..
"brunei brown" Discussed on Christy Wright's Business Boutique
"You can still build your business even if you build a little slower or a little differently than some other people do by using social media. So the first and most important part of this is definitely stay true to yourself. Now, the second part, and I hope this is encouraging to you is I think you can do that and still use social media, see what you described as social media of people having a picture perfect life and feeling connected when they're disconnected, can be true, but the opposite can also be true. You have people making real connections on social media that then meet in person for coffee, and they have phone conversations and Skype calls, and they become great friends and people meet their spouse online and it can be the positive, of course it can be a negative like anything, but it can be a positive and those connections can be real. Then you do have some people on social media building entire businesses and brands under the banner of vulnerability. An authenticity. Sure. Your. Familiar with Brunei Brown, and she started this entire movement of people realizing that they don't have to be perfect online that they can be their true self. They can show their flaws. They can show behind the scenes. They can show themselves with no makeup. They can show the mom struggles. People may be impressed with your strengths, but they will connect with your weaknesses. And so you could actually make very great connections with people through your weaknesses through your ability through those very authentic moments that side of yourself that you show. So my second tip for you is, I would encourage you to explore how you could use social media to build your business and make real connections, stay true to you always. But use that strategy being vulnerable, be genuine, be authentic, you know, for as many videos that I have or have on makeup and eyeliner in very fun new earrings that I like to show. I have just as many videos of specially on Instagram of me with my boys. Wrestling being crazy, getting locked out of my car. If you saw that recently, that was a sore spot mums Ruggles, no makeup and crazy life situations because like you. I wanna make sure that my life does not set an example of some picture-perfect plastic, not real scenario that's not attainable. I want to show that you can have polished produced pieces which is great to be a professional. You can also have fun and be real and show behind the scenes. Now, the first tip is to be true to yourself. The second one is I would encourage you to explore how you could use social media in a way that Israel and true and makes genuine connections with people. You just use technology to leverage that for your business where you're able to do that. The third piece of information for you is actually some fun news. I have a brand new course called social media simplified specifically to help you what social media it's to reduce the overwhelm and the intimidation factor and Sarah, you know what I'm gonna. Send it to you for free. We have your information. So my team is going to be reaching out to you very soon to send you your copy of social media simplified. I hope that this helps gives you the encouragement and the information to get you off on the right track there, a love your heart, and I love hearing how you want to help people and be a great example. And I think you can do that. I think you can do it online just as much as you can do it in person. You've just gotta go about it a little differently. Thanks for your question, and I hope this helps now as we all know, marketing is one of.
"brunei brown" Discussed on Minority Korner
"And i'll be the first to say i do all the time i see a pack of teenagers and i cross the street because who've but they get it we need to listen to them we need to understand them we need to treat them as the citizens that they are of this country as well i agree and it doesn't you also reminds me of it's so interesting because it's like join these kids but it's also i mean we are all of all ages affected my mass shootings and so interesting that i i mean this it looks like we've never it's interesting we've never had a march for about gun violence so this is the this is the one and it was it was this moment so i have faith now that there will be that this will be a tipping point and that republicans will have to sort i mean look at the numbers of people that are coming out yes and getting these conversations going so i'm just i'm really excited hopefully this is friday so maybe you're listening to this and marching at the same who do not i'll speak yes i just feel like getting into the hot tub of your corner rate now well bubble bubble toil just ramble was months ago are you trying to cook me you know what i tried to cook some bravery teeder life because girl in his time for another book review know we're i'm going to help you all to dear greatly through brunei brown's book conveniently titled daring greatly yeah.