18 Burst results for "Brunei Brown"
Zen Parenting Radio
"brunei brown" Discussed on Zen Parenting Radio
"There's a disconnect here and i'm ultimate important distinction it is. It is one more time. Because i think bears -peutic I don't know if i can do well it just that instead of me. Always being the one who's having a meltdown and being viewed as maybe neurotic or needing more than the other. I'm the one who's feels that there is something not right. Assistant uncomfortable is when you bring something up. That's not working although it's uncomfortable. It's a gift for us on something that is not working and it shouldn't all be on you and i should be also aware of when something's not connecting and i can excuse myself law. I'm just not as empathetic or i'm more extroverted. Your whatever like. There's so many different excuses. I can make ten minutes to play that clip. No let's this for another time. And then we were gonna play something from brunei brown's podcast but instead let's answer this question that Someone on teams and gave us like todd said we try dancer during his end. Talk and we kept. Internet kept going. So if you're interested in teams then getting questions like these answer. Just click on the link below these show notes. First month's free So here is my question for tomorrow's talk which we didn't get to. Sergeant is regarding teen sex the background we're raising three teenage boys and per usual. My fourteen year old is changing my mindset. He went to sleep away camp this summer and minute thirteen-year-old girl they're in love. The girl lives eight hours away from us. And they've been communicating communicating frequently via text facetime but no visits despite my challenges with my boy. We're pretty open with each other. And i work. Hard to stay connected. Wherever he's at this girl who i've never met says she hates her parents and hides things from them including a romance her romance with my boy. Of course. I realize her parents could truly be unpleasant or they could be lovely. I have no idea. So here's the issue. Both teens and both teams are big readers and my boy has slowly revealed to me that she's been sending him. Pdf's of romance novels that they both read and discuss. Initially it sounded cute until i s exactly the right questions to understand that these were adult romance novels and they describe hardcore sex scenes. I'm half freaking out half remember that i'm a cool progressive sex positive parent and half understanding that. There's literally nothing. I can do to stop this short of the nuclear option of taking away electronics forever. She says that too many house. I took a few days to process with my husband and then had brief talk with my son to make sure he feels safe and keeping her emotions safe. I'm comfortable talking openly about sexuality consent relationships. But i've kept it age appropriate and now realizing that my idea of h appropriate for the kiddo was totally off. My other boys had first girlfriends at seventeen and that seems a world away from fourteen. So here's my question. Am i doing the right things. Do you have any suggestions. I'm moving forward. Do i all phone call to her. Parents would have. They can figure out a way to visit each other. What then tells me call me most every night. That he wants me to drive her him to her house. Okay so first of all There's no like tyrod gonna go. Here's why i liked this question..
High and Mighty
"brunei brown" Discussed on High and Mighty
"And i've i've i've since then just like trying to hold onto it you know and hold onto that feeling in my normal body you know because i don't look like the children in dealey as magazine or seventeen or whatever. Yeah i mean. La is not the best place to live. if not a hundred percent into the way you look Yeah and like. I live west. Hollywood where i'm i think i'm the only person with only man without a sin only male presenting person without a six pack. That's rough yeah and i live. I live in glendale where it's like well. Huge asses are in which capacity news for these women but not me k. I want yeah. I would love it. I would love for like tummies to be in. That would be really cool. I know a lot of people are into them. But it's alec societally is like who guys seriously and babe. The good and bad or the internet is that the bad is that people who want to overthrow the government because a black person moved into their neighborhood can find each other but a person with a tummy can find someone who wants to fuck someone who has ave. And if the if the internet just helped people eliminate sexual shame. Like and i think it's a huge factor in it and it maybe is arguably like a fire hose of doing that and we use a garden hose of information but at the same time for all the wrongs that that has brought the internet and social media and being this connected has brought us a society. I think one of the major positives is sort of people becoming more and more comfortable being like we didn't even know brownies existed right now l. Found each other. Because it's like and. I don't know if that's a. That's a healthy cold anything about if you can find a room where it's like. Hey we all like the same super niche sci-fi book. Let's talk about it here. Like the fact that that world exists like the internet helps us if some little kids somewhere is like. I think i'm bisexual and gets to see something that they think is hot because the internet has something for everyone like and that helps you learn that you're not alone. There are some like porn genres. That i'm like. Oh why why is this so popular. And i like it too and then you you try to like and this'll be something fun to do on your part is like try to unpack. Why like i shot. Yeah yeah. Because i have. I have a strong to you. Know he i. I have strong theory about one genre. That i'm i'm into so any any people who are holding out to find out what porn genres i'm into you got us out on killing. What are you into totally any anything else. Do we want to say before. I don't wanna like ended. And unless you have if you don't how no i was going to like. I had some talking points. Because i like brunei. Brown is like the speaker on shame. Now because she's like had the balls to do she did a ted talk on vulnerability and then a whole tedtalk on shame which you guys should go. Listen to so. I had some like soundbites from that but i don't need to say. She had like a netflix special of the netflix special. To and then she's like put out a really good book. Like guys for brown is is all mommy's i i will. I will watch it. Yeah i will watch a tedtalk said. It's stuff i'm all for eliminating shame. Like get it out of there is also poison. It sucks. I know it's cliche. It does feel like so many angry people just need to be get unpacked in that way. And i don't i like 'em stopping short of saying get fucked the way they wanna get fucked but like that is like sort of like a one sort of rosetta stone to like. Why aren't you happy. And it's definitely not because critical race theories being at your school district. Yes that's not what's making you unhappy exactly. Is it motherfucker. You didn't care about adam. Month ago. Like i talked to this. I've i've liked gotten to know this amazing community of people on instagram. You were just talking about nisha cultures on people finding each other on instagram. And i've found so many cool sex positive people and i interviewed this dominatrix. Who's also a witch during these frantically writing lady exa and she was talking about how just one of her one of her clients was just bawling after a session. Because they're like. I just wanted to do that. My whole life and i finally got to do it. It's just you know you were just talking about what's and for some people. It is that thing of being like sexually expressive. How they need to be. Yeah and then. Even if it's like dump on my throat even i think also just expressive even like the sexual part of it but some people who are just not even comfortable saying how they feel about certain situations like or what their opinion of something like the ask so much. There's so much fear of people presenting themselves the way they wanna be Understood and like in a way lying about who they really are an or at least hiding some truths and like get. let's abolish. All of that people are going to hate you no matter what and people are going to love you no matter what that's because people are crazy fucking dive in you. Know what i mean. P your sivan please yourself guys. It makes it a lot less scary for the rest of us who are trying. Try and our darndest to be ourselves to whenever someone is like real invulnerable. You're just like Thank you thank god like all right. Thank you Did you see. Gary coleman stand up special for great depression. Yeah that had a few moments. Where i'm like. I'm so happy your saying that. His whole thing about not drinking sprite because his friends thought it was gay like so real us like he like the way he does it such a better job too. I don't think he's from boston via okay. Same shit different toilet. She even more yes. Yeah spite so we'll check rene brown Listeners checkout gary coleman's great depression. Kelly where can people find You or what are you into you. Have you can have an instagram. it's what are you into And then you know you can find me on any podcasting platform. Please subscribe get in there. Whatever you're listening to high and mighty on just take your phone. Open up that.
Oil and Gas Startups Podcast
"brunei brown" Discussed on Oil and Gas Startups Podcast
"I don't think. I realized just how much stress i was under and i give the analogy. My mom got a hip replacement. And i went and saw her the next day after surgery and said mom. How you doing she goes. Well obviously a hurt because my body was splayed open and a bone was cut out of me but the chronic arthritis that i had in my hip that constant pain. She was like i had no idea. I heard that bad until it was gone. And now i feel great and so in the last year has been. Wow not a lot of stress in my life anymore. I mean. I'm dealing with three teenagers and all that to knock on wood. They're all doing really well right now but just not having. That stress has been amazing. I think what it's allowed me to do. You know mouth doing the podcast and having a blast doing that the other thing and this is gonna sound weird but feel like i'm the brunei brown right now the oil and gas business. I mean i kind of feel. I went through a divorce five years ago. Threw myself into tons of therapy of read every day brown book and all and i feel this weird obligation that if somebody sends a tax at eleven o'clock at night saying hey i just got fired. You know my life's over. And all that. I need to do something about it is so i've spent a lot of time doing that. And it's actually been really really rewarding so you know my running joke is i'll get out move in with my parents before i get another job. Well i think there those those eleven eleven. pm two am phone. Calls are a part of life. And i think is it just like exposing yourself to the risk of starting starting a company and being okay with balancing the fact that some of those starts are good and some of them turn out to where you have an exit of some kind.
The Marie Forleo Podcast
True Belonging With Brene Brown
"What i found is that true belonging is a spiritual practice and it's about the ability to find sacredness in both being a part of something but also the courage to stand alone and the people for those of us who struggled to have the courage to stand alone especially when we know that it risk we're risking that sense of being a part of something because we disagree. Yes because we have a different opinion Because we love something different That is the mark. That's the mark of true belonging to be able to say. Yes i am a part of something bigger. But i also will stand alone when i need to and then then it was like whole chat you belong everywhere and nowhere and that is liberation.
The Long and The Short Of It
"brunei brown" Discussed on The Long and The Short Of It
"Hey gene hey pete. So i was going through the back catalogue of brunei brown's podcast and one of the episodes in particular blew my mind not surprising right not surprising however what might be surprising. Is the topic of the conversation. What do you think when you think of. Brunei brown a ha moments mind blown. What do you think of vulnerability shame. No but these are the classics right. This is what you expect bravery slash courage sort of knock. What leadership no. The topic of conversation was actually pricing pricing. What all right. I can't wait to hear about this. Pricing and rene brown color me curious. This is the long and the short of it. Okay so the episode in question is an interview with pre pokka incredible pre apopka. Who has written the out of gathering which is one of my favorite books of last few years. And so i guess. I have to actually attribute this to pre apopka but it was in the conversation with brunei. So let me. Just give you the context. The two of them having this conversation about the work. That priya does the work. The bernie does as facilitators speakers but also as folks who help other companies and held by the leaders and pre shares. His great story that will pull a quote from it that she's talking about this work that she used to do with the business culture. She had a business coach that was helping her with her particular business and on one particular day she tells the story that the business coach was looking at the pricing of the services that pre off it and he said to. Oh was the number so low on this particular thing. And she replied. Oh that's because. I could do it in my sleep like it's really easy for me to do that thing. And then the business coach said if it's really easy for you that is your gift and you should be charging the most for that. Oh i had the same reaction as brunei. What she was like. Wait wait wait wait. Say that again. Say that three times brunei. Like i love the way that she reacts to these 'cause i was like ready to pull my car over and pause and like wait a minute. I need process that. And i just feel like there's probably twelve episodes in this. There's definitely at least one that that is your gift and so you should be charging the most of that. I just i think as rich what do.
10 Things To Tell You
"brunei brown" Discussed on 10 Things To Tell You
"Costs like not fun but pain forces us to pay attention and so i think look at those pain points that are that you're feeling inside again was painful for me to realize i was not saying what i wanted to say or doing what i wanted to do because i was going. Gosh i kinda missing out. And then i think you ill. You will get to the point where you're like and i think this is the the beauty of midlife where you're like. I'm too tired to keep pretending to be something i'm not. I'm too tired to keep doing something that i that does not bring me joy that does not bring a sense of meaning to my life and so i think that is painful itself if we keep living like that so getting to the point where you just go. I'm tired and i really want to be who i am in. Stop striving to be someone else. But i do think that first step is curiosity learning to ask questions and pay attention to to what you're feeling inside. This doesn't this. I'm feeling this is not. This is not who i am down. Is that why started your podcast. Yeah i love conversation. A love talk. I love learning. And i love that in it. I truly think the podcast has been such an avenue. And i didn't fully know it when i started it but it has been one of the biggest avenues of growth for me like that of learning like. Oh i'm i'm feeling like paying attention and again curious questions and i would have people on the show constantly. That was helpful in that process. I used to joke and say like well. I'm just having on the show like i'm looking at. What do i need help with. What am i wrestling with. And i'm gonna find like the best person to have a conversation with about this subject and so it was it. Was i remember right when i started the podcast. I read rising strong by brunei brown and that was such. I had never read anything of hers before and it was just such that was like oh like there's so much depth that's behind what i'm doing that i did not know that there was all this depth there wa. I was doing what. I was dealing. And so that really did kind of coincide with starting the show going okay. Like let's have conversations in get.
Behind The Screen
"brunei brown" Discussed on Behind The Screen
"I really love to make sure our lyrics always really lay down theme. So what's next for both of you. We have a lot of projects. But i'm not sure if any of them are on the on the we're able to discuss any of them right. Kristen i'm not sure if we've talked about we're allowed to talk about princeton. The dressmaker prince. Dressmaker is a graphic novel by gen wang That is a wonderful wonderful fairytale with a little bit of twist on gender roles. And we're having the best time working on it with amy herzog. Who's this incredible. Playwright and i was just listening. We're listening to the songs. 'cause we have to write one more He does songs to more. And i was. I was like this. This can be fun the way i'm imagining it. I'm very excited for for the world. I'm just hope. I hope movies movies are there because we've written and i would very much like to share it with the world. This would be our first movie are live action movie musical And it's a real opulent costume piece from the turn of century With the idea of a fairytale in there to costume period piece and And it's it's it's it's going to be beautiful when if when it gets done and we've got. I think we can say anything else about it. But i can say that we're working on an original streaming musical with some wonderful collaborators. But i think that's all i'm allowed to say at this time and you also recently worked on the The we the people project for yes. Thank you caroline. Thank you for doing that more knowing us better than we know ourselves. Yes that's right we got to right. We got notes from obama. That was fun like the president wants us. And instead of the or the prison and the president wants you to know that the constitution was ratified in a different era than you think it was a apparently the constitution. A some blurry some blurry battleline about about back in seventeen eighty nine and he was like well it would have been before that because they they ratified it in in seventeen eighty nine so yes. It's really cool to get notes from obama. And then we the amazing adam lambert just sings his face off About the bill of rights and then we got to have a superfund summer project with lin-manuel where we were talking about the balance of power and we decided to approach it like a game and and each of us took a branch of the government. So i wrote the president at like a bad ass. Female president Bobby took on the supreme court and lended the congress But he brought in digs too because he was lynn was voicing both branches of the of the congress and we had to bring indeed. Who i think is the house of representatives and lynn is the senate because we we actually did do a separation of powers ourselves and we kind of he was like okay. Well when we each go in a different room and take half an hour and come back with with our verse zinc. Pretty sure was my idea. Because i was like okay boys. Here's how it's gonna work executive took executive order so before we wrap. I wanted to ask you a few questions about the emmys. So first of all one of the emmy nominated episodes of ted lasso features the character rebecca singing your song from frozen. Let it go in a karaoke bar. What do you think of that episode own. My god my twitter exchange with hannah The actress but we we're obsessed with. Ted lasso loved it just like all of the rest of the world dead and then when sudden wheat firstly mentioned frozen in that episode and we look they made us and then she sings it an our whole family. We all just jumped off the couch. And when i saw it was this real. We had forgotten that we had we had said it was okay to license it. They had asked us like a year before. We don't remember stuff like that whenever whenever they ask for these things. It's always some show you've never heard of so you're like okay. I i don't know that show Same thing happened with big little lies had avenue q. and frozen and book of mormon. I don't know. I think. I think we need to have a drink with reese witherspoon one. She's available but that was such a fun thing and an hanna hanna. Wadham the actors is like my favorite. She so she so beautiful and she's shows us how to walk through the world like goddesses She's not a girl. She is a woman as britney spears. Wouldn't have sung at that time and that show Lives at the intersection of brunei brown and and sports culture. Which are i mean. Certainly the brenes. Brown's side of it is a place that kristen lives all the time and keeps improving my life with so i'm i'm just grateful and And i am not a sports guy. But i kind of i kind of understand the the stunted emotional masculine thing that show is also about and I i just appreciate that show so much as the psychology of of how to be human they do such a beautiful job You know talking about the power of vulnerability. And i think bobby and i spend a lot of time thinking thinking about you know. How do we get in her own way. whether it's as songwriters or or athletes. How do we make sure that we we aren't stunting ourselves or getting in fixed mindset Which is what. Ted lasso is is a lot about so last question about the emmys. Kristen should you be holding an emmy next month. You would be one tony away from e status. Is that something that's on your mind. It's not on my mind all the time. No i mean someone has has pointed that out and You know the it's it's the wonderful thing about being a songwriter. is that we get to keep growing and playing in these different sandboxes so we can go from theater to film to tv Which gives us this opportunity to to cross cross award lines. But i happen to live with the only living god and i know that On one hand it's a huge honour on the other hand. He still lost empty the dishwasher every day and he still has to still has to exercise and ship. Still have the same amount of calories No matter how many he eats the w. got if the w. got allowed you to use many chips as much ice cream then then i'd be like oh my god get that. That's what i thought it should. It should that was a little bit of a non linear answer It would be amazing. But i also know how possible it is to achieve. You got status in that. My my husband has done the impossible twice. And i don't hold myself to that to that level of of perfection. Because i make me crazy. Congratulations on all of fantastic work. And it was so much fun talking with both of you. Thank you so much for joining us thanksgiving..
Hurry Slowly
"brunei brown" Discussed on Hurry Slowly
"I like not all need need other people and i think often when people try to create gatherings around a need that is not shared. They're wondering what people are saying. You know aren't rsvp to their invitation. Right people often ask me. This is a real example pre pandemic. Someone asked me you know. I i really want to get to my new neighbors. We created this like monday. Neighbors night there. The first few people were super excited and the novelty of meeting was really nice. You know twenty people showed up and but then it started dripping dripping off like people supp- coming is like just three of us and the question came like what's wrong with them right and and like why. Why don't they see that. This is such an awesome thing. And i said to them. Well maybe there need is not the same as yours. And if you if you are wanting to create i think you need a sharper need a sharper. Those people are saying that there's other needs or obligations in their life. That don't that. Are that this regular repetitive. Invitation does not outweigh all of their other obligations. And so you need it either. Sharpen the purpose to sharpen the specific need or go and ask them what around. What would you to gather around what read some people just wanna have social time and maybe you have enough people. That are just want to do that but other people actually you know we all are part of many. Different communities community is built when there is a legitimate need at the center and one of the many tools to build community as gatherings. But it's not the only one you said in a recent interview with brunei brown that you would describe your work as helping people have complicated conversations that they've been avoiding. The past year is made even more apparent if if it wasn't already that there are a lot of complicated conversations that need to be had here in america conversations that some of us have been avoiding.
How I Built This
"brunei brown" Discussed on How I Built This
"I've ever worked with or advised. Is that the faster you are to recognize. When you're wrong the faster you can move toward being. And i think there's there's even a case to be made that we should experience joy around being wrong. The most visible example of this. That i've ever seen as the nobel prize winner danny condiment. I'm sure a lot of a lot of folks here. I've read thinking fast and slow. And danny's i think one of the great social scientists in history and i have seen him on multiple occasions. Just put out a hypothesis and then find out. It was false and light up with delight and after seeing it a couple of times. I finally asked him about an satanic. There's something very strange going on here. Each seems like you enjoy being wrong and he corrected me as you would expect a nobel prize winner to do. He said i don't know anyone who enjoys being wrong. I definitely don't enjoy being wrong. But i do enjoy finding out that i was wrong because it means that i am now less wrong than i was before. And all of a sudden it hit me. This is why. I was drawn to to organizational psychology in the first place. The rush of finding out that one of my assumptions about leadership or people culture was was not correct or not complete. That was a moment of discovery. And i said of course. Finding out that you're you were wrong. That means you've learned something. And danny said that's the only way. I'm sure that i've learned anything. It reminds me of something that brunei brown talked about. I'm not mentioning all of your friends writing a book club with brunei brown But she she mentioned something last night. that struck me. She said you know people are more open to being wrong if they are fundamentally curious which makes a lot of sense but it is that a choice people. Do you think that's a choice. People can make him they. Choose to be fundamentally curious. Can they choose to to be been joyful when they're wrong. Of course it's a choice. What would make you think. It's not. I mean i don't think it's easy for everybody to to to find joy in being wrong. I agree with that. I don't think it's easy. But that doesn't mean we don't have discretion that we don't have control over whether we seek it out or whether we we basically Except our defensive response when somebody tells us that we are incorrect about something. And i think that one of the ways that you learn that curiosity and that humility. Is you experienced pain from being wrong. A bunch of times. My first version of that that i remember i think i was twelve and i was on the phone with my best friend and we started arguing about a movie quote and i had a nickname as called mr fats. My friends did not consider this term of endearment. They found it really irritating that i collected lots of information and of course now i've turned that into a career but that is another story I thought okay. Well i'm just gonna. I'm gonna go i have i have the movie gonna go play it. And then a correct him. And i played it and i found out that i was wrong. And i couldn't bring myself to admit it. And i you know i started backpedaling. And he hung up the phone on me. I called him back and he said i won't talk to you until you admit you're wrong and.
Post Show Recaps
"brunei brown" Discussed on Post Show Recaps
"So we could see a very hilarious kind of world where afc richmond is struggling for money and has to pander to local businesses or local sponsors or the kind of sponsors who are interested in seeing their name and the premier league. Because it's not happening right now so that could be funny and could be a thing we do. But there's an opportunity for an ugly fallout. I also want to go back to mars bars. Mars also in the discord posted a link to a podcast episode. That jason sued acres. Brendan hunt did with brunei brown. Who is a social worker. Professor researcher thinker. Somebody who. I didn't know very well before that podcast. I've only really heard the name. I loved that podcast. I wanna thank mars bars posting. That was from october of two thousand twenty. So it's from before the show was where the show is now. The show had blown up obviously but maybe not to the extent and hurt their take the way they talk about the show in that podcast is unique in very specific to some of the things that that professor has researched and some of the things that went into the show. It seems very clear to me that her research influence the writing of the show. They say as in that podcast. So it's a fascinating podcast. And i wanna thank mars bars. Were putting that in the discord. I would not have been able to listen to that if not so. Thank you very much for sharing. That and i encourage people to check that out. The podcast unlocking us. If you go into the podcast feet of it. You're not going to be able to find the older episode but it is on spotify if you have spotify which another itself is a terrible corporation to that point. Your friend in mind the great brooklyn's dead had been messaging me about ted lasso. They said that this was their favorite episode by far so far i make deserting by far but said said this has been my favorite episode of ted laso. What did they say. I love the rebecca. Norris stuff and how roy played into it and how kelly handled jamie and his interaction with dr fieldstone all the secondary pots. Really great this week. But the sam story line was just incredible in the whole team standing in solidarity with his protest in the way ted gave him a platform to speak about it to the press was also powerful and good. I look forward to seeing this build. It's interesting to see a show on a network like apple. Tv which is so connected to producing products not just a streaming service tackled. The idea of a corporation impacting country and the government's involvement in it. Yeah very salient points. Yes yeah i mean that an i are very much kindred spirits in that regard for sure and the foxconn the the iphone construction. The degradation just everything that apple has contributed to definitely not lost..
Occupied
"brunei brown" Discussed on Occupied
"I. I feel like trauma if you have a high a score it usually. I feel like trauma follows you everywhere it goes or you're more sensitive to the world or maybe have a low resilience Score and you know. I feel like i'm building. I'm constantly rebuilding my resilience Because started off very low And so around college. I didn't really have a social support system meaning like my family. We do not have a close relationship at all I just felt really alone in the world's and so i started listening you brunei brown and on her research on connection empathy invulnerability. And i will tell you. Her work was life changing. I would listen and re listened to her. Ted talks into her audiobook sites even ran a marathon Just listening to all her work. And i would start to practice those things and now i'm starting to listen to her podcast and Every person that she has on their mike buying their books in doing all the self help Situations but when it comes to neuro. I definitely felt like i taught myself with the neural pathways. And why i am the way i am and With my capstone now. I you know wanted to learn about trauma informed care so i honestly i could out myself and how i deal with thing and so Yeah i guess that's kind of why in that way. Now that i think about it think he's good thriller. All out here is great so less dove into it. So what what. What is your cap san about so originally was supposed to do. A capstone on pediatric oncology working with kids and service dogs in working on social participation. That did not happen. Dacoven this participation of peace kind of knock that out So i had to kind of dig around Last minute in order to graduate on time. And so i was between racial injustice since that is a huge problem especially here in america and i was going to maybe go police academies and talk to the police officers about implicit bias out to work with kids or adults that have sensory issues or that may have autism. Then i was going to do a more love on the spectrum kind of thing on that. It's a series on netflix with this building dating That was already taken though. And i was like dang it i'm gonna be original and then as blow to the place on mike. Ot's really a lot of work in human trafficking or that's a new spike. That's coming up I guess you could say trend And so i was really interested in that. So i looked at the hospitals around me and i saw that there was a hospital that had organization that helped victims or patients who with domestic violence sexual abuse or if they their child was going through something and they suspect something and so they're called forensic nurses. Ooh i could do something that could help me. Learn more about this population and bring something to them. So i talked to the site mentor. And she says we are bird out With the kobe pandemic And the rise in corentin of domestic violence cases because people are stuck at home we are experiencing tremendous turnover We're mentally fatigue. We're seeing so much reading these cases multiple cases over and over again. We're seeing deaths adults in and we.
4 Things with Amy Brown
"brunei brown" Discussed on 4 Things with Amy Brown
"Save twenty dollars and get cooking today tuesday. Welcome to the fifth thing. This is the bonus episode to the fore things podcast over emails that you have sent in and sometimes i have guessed that join me might be a friend. A family member like a legit real guest guest but we have an og guest joining us today. My friend chase. He used to the fifth thing with me all the time but then schedules got crazy. Live took some turns and then the fifth thing just you never know what's gonna chases here today super talk to be here. What up. where are you coming to us from today. bitten ville arkansas out represent. Now we always start. Tuesday episodes off with the quote and chase and i didn't discuss this before other than i told him. I wanted him to be in charge of the quote sell. I have no idea what she got from me. So bring us are quote for the day. So i wanna burnett brown kick right now. So this one's from rene owning our story in loving ourselves through the process is the bravest thing that will ever do. That was pretty good at as such a good one and hold on scrolling through down to the emails that i had today which i just have a couple. We're going to go over some stuff today. But only a couple of them were emails and literally the last email that i have is from nancy and she sent a whole note which i'll read and then the very last sentence or thing that she shared was thank you for letting me pour my heart out. In this cathartic email brunei brown says owning our story and loving ourselves through the processes. The bravest thing will ever do so clearly chase. That is a quote that people need to hear today i. I don't believe that that's an accident that you had that quote on your mind and then. Nancy shared it in that emails. That's kinda funny and awesome at the same time. Another thing that. We're going to do which i gave you a heads up on but i have no idea what you're going to say is in sad news. That happened and but then also to counter that in happy news did it. That happened because i have a sat and a happy story. And do you want me to start your you sir. Okay well in sad news. I killed a bird which is especially if you know my current bird obsession and i'm really not okay with what happened at all. It was so awful. I was driving down like a road near my house that you go. I don't know forty forty five miles an hour so that means probably going to fifty. I switched lanes. And i guess i caught a bird off guard that was flying because i switched lanes and the bird was crossing the street. You know with its wings but a little bit lower and it boom hit the grill of my car. And i thought i saw it flying and i thought oh shirley it's going to like take off like go higher but it didn't hit the grill and then i thought well where to go. Where did it go. And i decided to look in the rear view mirror to hopefully see it flying away but now i kind of just saw it like in the air and then boom call flat to the ground in my rear view so that was very sad and it was the worst so that is my sad news but in happy news twenty dollars fell out of my purse and there was this teenage boy like near me in the parking lot and he chased me down and gave me the money back and i thought that that was like the coolest thing ever so. That's my sad news. Meets happy news. What are you have jason awesome. So mine is kind of genuinely sad. But i promise it's going to be worth it with the happy side so at the end of two thousand nineteen. You don't even know this. I'm telling you this. For the first time there was a listener we talked about was so inspired by your mom and pinton joy. Her husband was diagnosed with cancer and we sent them. All to. George strait showed disney. Show this whole deal with the family anyways this past summer jeff passed away her husband and of course. That's the sad news at all but the happy news is. He was a coach on their son's baseball team. And the weekend after He passed away. All the kids got together to honor coach. Jeff and their team may and they went on to win the championship so they won the state championship in honor of coach. Jeff and there. And i thought it was the coolest thing just their story and how positive they are and again. They're always mentioning. I see on social media. Choose joy. I just thought it was need for young boy to have his teammates during such a tough time for to end with a state championship. Yeah i love that. So that's my sad and happy sad and happy. I'm something that is making me. Happy lately is trying to work outside. As much as i can. When i'm working from home or maybe even if you have an office you have a shaded area. I guess it would really depend. Which part of the country that you're in because it's super hot some places but if your work is set up for that and like my. I have a back patio. That has a fan above it. So i'm able to circulate. That in there is something. That's been really really nice. Like moving my workspace outside because i do a lot of work from home and i'm on my computer and some days i'm like you know what i have zoom meeting or whatever or even therapy if i'm doing it on the computer i've been going outside to my porch to do it and i saw this whole article talking about the benefits of working outside. Because you're already doing something that's using your brain can be maybe stressful or but if you do it outside it can help you. The article was titled working outdoors. Improves our well. Being and these are five science backed benefits of spending time outside increased. Happiness boom been making me. Happy reduced inflammation more energetic improve memory and stress relief and sta sheer is even picked up on me doing it. Because she's been having to do some summer reading and it's something. I even really shared with her but she saw me working outside and one day i came home and i couldn't find her and i looked out on the back patio and she was sitting there reading her book and so kids are very observant. And i'm glad that she saw that. Because i love that. She's getting outside and completing tasks that she needs to get done right. It's not like she's outside taking a walk or being with nature. It's like when you're out there working and doing something you already have to do but getting the benefits also being outside which chase you grew up on a ranch so your family there ranchers so they get to work outside all the time. Although i'm sure ranching can be stressful i mean any time i talked to you and i talked about ranging it makes me yellowstone and i don't understand when that show's coming back does anybody now. I think it's this fall. I think they like addressed. Everyone's like conspiracy theories over the release date. This fall okay. I missed that ted. Lasso is back though. Have martin so good puts too big face as of right. Now there's only two episodes of season two. But i've watched both so far. I like season one better. But maybe that's because. I was late to the party on that. I watched it last.
Life Will Be the Death of Me with Chelsea Handler
"brunei brown" Discussed on Life Will Be the Death of Me with Chelsea Handler
"Ten plus years of friendships means that you have been given all of the proof that you need that. That person isn't a good friend to you right. Ten years is long enough to make it assessment. Yes so there you go. You have all of this room right and you have all of these experiences with that person. It's like what brunei brown says about the marble jar do you. Do you know what she said familiar. Like if you you know a friendship or any relationship is like a jar of marbles and every act of kindness. Every act of reliability every act of compassion puts another marble in the marvel jar. So if that person wants screws up. It doesn't matter because there's so many marbles in the marble trump but if they consistently screw up and they're taking marbles out at a rapid pace then there may be never wasn't marvel jar to begin with and if something doesn't make you feel good over a period of time then that's all the information you need and talking to your friend at this point i would say after. Ten years probably futile. Well there are. There are multiple layers this so let's start with the first. How do you move has friendships. That have done you wrong. I think it would be based on the consistency of those wrongdoings. Like you know the the scale because that people make minor mistakes all the time and you can't get rid goes for. You can't get rid of friendships over annoyances like you have conversations about what needs to change in that relationship or that dynamic and then if both people accept those conditions you can move forward. You've had to have a conversation with one of your friends recently. Actually about that which one. Which one are you talking about without saying who. It is where they're going to be more excited about things in your life. But that's not how i suggest it. Yeah somebody says yeah. Yeah for added context. So you know chelsea had been very politically active Prior to the election and because we did not have the results of the election and we didn't have the senate seats there was not a response is like fuck. Yes we did like. I didn't feel celebratory..
Optimal Living Daily
"brunei brown" Discussed on Optimal Living Daily
"Mdr works because of the bilateral stimulation which helps to weaken the effects of the negative emotions that are associated with the trauma is several sessions of amd are a few years back for some mild situational trauma and found it very helpful. I'm on wait. Lists start more sessions focusing on the trauma from my childhood. Mindfulness the different mindfulness techniques. I've used over. The years have absolutely helped me to heal to to a point. However when i'm in full blown panic mode i struggle to employ any of the techniques. I've learned this is why focus on making mindfulness. Not just a tool to use. But a way of life. I believe that eventually being more mindful of each movement activity and word could become the default. I operate from and then from this place. I'll be less likely to get to a full blown panic attack slowing down saying no more often scheduling less and choosing a quiet. Life are all things that helped my anxiety just not have the fortitude to run a million miles an hour in my body and mind are quick to tell me when i try slowing down with. The family can be problematic but it doesn't always have to be the more time i spend with my family the more inclined. I am to under schedule. Our lives parenting is chaotic. And noisy enough. Without having the noise of million other should in coulds overflowing my calendar under scheduling has become my superpower. So this is how i. He'll is not an exact science. Not men exact recipe. It's more of an art. A little of this a little of that slowly meandering my way healing if you experience emotional distress or diagnosed mental health problems. I want to encourage you. Allow yourself to be seen and heard miss. it's scary. it's vulnerable is what brunei brown calls a courageous act. Don't be ashamed of who you are. Don't be afraid of speaking truth. The more we talk about it the less stigmatize we will feel as a whole and the more we talk the more we heal after all everyone his a little crazy most of us. Just leave our evidence in the closet. You just listen to the post titled five things. I need to from trauma. Anxiety by ama- shy.
Shareable
"brunei brown" Discussed on Shareable
"As the world's most handsome strategists and professional speaker. I'm also a superhero. Make sure subscribes. You don't miss a single sharable episode and that's it. That's the and trump short sweet. Let's get to the show. Welcome back to sharable today. My guest is jeff. Harry who combines positive psychology and played help teams and organizations creates psychologically safe workplaces and assist individuals addressing their biggest challenges through embracing a play oriented approach to work. I am so excited about today. We've been trying to make this happen for a really long time Let me finish the intro. Though before we go into our it's the today is going to be one of those awesome just banter. He kind of awesome episode so Fours work. Jeff was selected by bamboo. Hr engage the as one of the top one hundred hr influencers twenty twenty has been featured in the new york times mashal up worthy and shonda land. Jeff has worked with google microsoft southwest. Dobie the nfl amazon and facebook helping their staff to infuse more play into the day to day. Yo this guy is legit. I'm so happy to have you on the show. Jeff welcome to sharable. It's been a long time in the making let's play. Let's go ready. Let's do this so many things to cover so many things so so play has been very much on my mind. Cause i'm a giant child. And i love superhero stuff and having fun and talking about geek stuff so let me just describe me. Yes exactly second thing. Is i routinely see your content come up in my linked in and i love the fact that i get to go on lincoln now i actually get to laugh unlinked in and like professionally appropriate laugh like relevant and like it's just great and then third thing is. I just finished reading. Brunei brown's the power vulnerability rape broke. If you haven't read it's great but in it. She talks about play. There's a whole chapter on play and she defines it as time spent without purpose. That you don't want end and that you can lose yourself without any worry of external judgment ever definition of it. So let's talk about play today and why it's important so to start with what you leaders need to know about play. Why is this an important conversation. Why is it important now. Like why play dude. Why because you know you know the thing play. This is work. We lay less. So i always answer that question to company leaders with steven johnson's quote the futures. Where people are having the most fun so if your company is one of those antiquated places where fun is like. The soul is being sucked from you like gen. Z is pushing a new labor movement and people are following it and if your company is not bringing a certain level of fun sort of level of play allowing your staff to be in flow allowing your staff to actually show up more as their full self right not just say it you're done. You're going to be obsolete you might still be around what you're not going to be relevant like if you think of all the companies that thrive during twenty twenty was all the companies that were playing. Were trying stuff out there. Were testing stuff out. Tiktok clubhouse disney plus like they were just netflix and it was just throwing things out on the wall but they're willing to experiment right and a lot of people don't realize this but like i give the example of google's twenty program which i don't even know if they still have anymore but at one point they gave their staff twenty percent of their time devoted to whatever they wanted to do. That's a fifth of their time. Every month where they could pursue anything that is interests of them as long as it benefited. Google and what came from the google twenty percent program. Google meet google maps g. Mail like so many of the things that that google is now built on is because they allowed their staff to come from a place of curiosity. And there's so many other examples of that of like where play is the reason why a company was able to innovate and thrive. And if you're venturing into this uncertainty and you're not willing to play and you're trying to go back to normal I'm sorry you've done you've done it. It's probably a little early to ask this question. But i'm to do it anyway. Because it's my podcast. And i take bold actions so i'm a thorough believer in play the data. Obviously to to kind of the point. You just made supports the idea of play as sort of a central trait of innovation. I think we all want to have more fun at work like. I don't think anybody wants to go in and do this thing. That is just arduous in sucks the soul out of them okay. So we've we've now got several data points lineup. Here we've got. We want to have more fun at work play actually leads to more innovation and said whatever it was point is all of the all of the points point to the fact that this is so why the hell is it. Still like your. This isn't a nationwide worldwide conversation that we're having like you're still pushing this boulder up to get people to pay attention that this is important but similar to like diversity equity and inclusion initiatives that there's loads of data to support why that is the better way to approach your business. We're still fighting these fights. Why is it that play is not the dominant conversation about how we should be approaching our work. Why because it's because it's hard because it's extremely lays hard. Yeah it is because for you to play you actually have to be real and a lot of the reason why most places remember eighty. This is twenty eighteen. When the twenty nine hundred greg gallup did the study eighty five percent of people are disengaged to work this was before the pandemic pre pandemic. It was like it was its own issue right so you know i hate forced vote like i hate light forcing people to do team building events when they don't like each other if cathy doesn't like chad and you put them in escape from the room and they get out of the they're not better. They still age because like you have to first create a psychologically safe workspace in order to play right. You have to like help. People navigate difficult conversations. You have to address the toxicity at work you have to would i say. Psychological safety is defined by the worst behavior tolerated. That's your culture. What's the worst behavior tolerated quotes. Who a lot of times. We're not even there yet. Companies are not even ready to play because they haven't even had certain conversations they can't even talk about what happened during the pandemic. You know one of the suggestions given to a lot of companies right now is like let's analyze what went on during the pandemic. Did you build trust with your staff or did you lose trust with your.
That Sounds Fun with Annie F. Downs
"brunei brown" Discussed on That Sounds Fun with Annie F. Downs
"Do you think sevens are not connected feeling triad so we gotta work at that. What does it look like when you go toward a five. What does it look like when you get slower in decision making and slower and processing. How do you see that in your life. I think for me. It's anytime that. I'm doing some kind of like they -cation or i have a space where spread out and i don't have to do anything in that time. I think i get really into future thinking and creating things in the future like what could happen. Either it's especially for me. It's like business ideas. Being accused new things that i could do or try to get really creative about switching things up or creating new things in my five space that or just like planning vacations or future fun things that i could buy an rv and good every national park. I dunno list. It's one of those. But i get really into it though like i go five deep. I'm like okay. Here's how you would do that. You're gonna get the pass you're going to do. I like fully-fledged. I don't ever do that. But like in those spaces where i'm relaxed. I can go really deep into those things. And i think i usually end up starting into some kind of hobby. I don't know if i ever finished hobby. But i start into something. What do you think i mean. It's funny listening to her. Talk about going to five. Because i'm as she was talking like what did it say in the book like. I don't really know what that means. I don't remember. I don't know enough about the ideogram but i don't know why i'm trying to remember now. What about both is when we go on vacations together. People would think that you and i would be like okay. So at eight o'clock we're doing this. We're doing this and there were no wait a higher schedule. Don't give me a schedule or a deadline on rama. They made me do anything. I'm going to read a book for probably seven hours. Yes i wanna sit like vacation. I just went on. I was at the pool by like seven. Thirty eight o'clock in the morning grams two hours behind so as up earlier but i laid by the pool and read a book and then got in the pool. Got out rat kep reading like that is rest and i think people would expect sevens on vacation to go willy. Nilly now we did. One of my friends planned an atv trip to go ride. Atv's in desert in scottsdale outside of scottsdale while we were there this weekend and i could feel myself getting anxious about going to ride. Atv's in the mountains as much fun as that is leading up to it. Because i was like wait. This is taking away from pool in me lane at the pool and reading a book and then once i was there i was like oh this is so fun. This is great. Like why was i nervous about it but i was wrapped. I was cutting into there was a time we had to be. There was a time we may or may not get back. What if the pool chairs are. Are we where am i going to. Sick was crazy. And i noticed in myself that i slow my speed decreases greatly when i am going toward that security number when i feel safe in my seven nece when i feel the healthiest in my seven seventies and and i'm going toward my security number toward that i feel like i'm a little bit slower. I feel like. I don't have to make quick decisions because i'm not trying to get out of pain. Well i think. I feel really confident in myself. Yes and who i am. And i'm i'm not living in comparison of looking at someone else and what they're doing and how i'm measuring up or not measuring up that as i've done a lot of work on the last couple of years in brunei brown 'cause at the hustle for worthiness like that has been the thing that i've really had to work through over the last couple of years partially. Because it's just naturally who i am to hustling but at the same time previous relationships that told me. I had to jump through hoops to be loved and so it was kind of first person to give me language around all of that. But i think when. I'm in like security. It's i feel comfortable and confident in my own skin. I feel like when my mind is not racing about thinking about what i should be doing to keep up with other people or whatever. Yeah when i can just sit. That's where the savoring comes for me. Where i can just sit in life and wake up and say you know what sounds really good is coffee and i could just have a cup of coffee and sit on the back porch. That's where i can really slow down and really appreciate the small things and things that i actually have. Just let's listen to suzanne talk for a second about what happens in when we go toward our stress number the number that actually we need to take care of ourselves because i it is.
Mom And ... Podcast
"brunei brown" Discussed on Mom And ... Podcast
"My gosh. A certification that helps people that are even scared of putting this space in the latter. They've had some sort of trauma around water but it helps people get from that state of fear in into the water. Just one step at a time. So that you've had unleashed that here. Oh my gosh okay. That's my newscenter goal. That is my new goal. I taught kids to swim. But i've never taught an adult swim. I think it would be very different. A yeah we've got a lot of issues built up. We've got a lot of years events you deal with and i wanted to jump back a little bit to talking about helping especially teens with eating disorders. I've been reading a lot of articles lately. About how during the pandemic it has it skyrocketed for especially teenage girls which having girl scrolling tick tock Well i think that that's the other now. I'm getting worried. Because i also think there's a bunch of teenage girls moms who are now talking a lot about. Oh the pandemic weight and especially now that we're all getting out for the summer so we're just going to be saying things that are exacerbating things that they're already thinking and kind of like you were saying it's not necessarily a weight issue but they've also got the compounding factors of being out of control having this year has been such a weird complicated confusing play. So i just feel like there's this horrible overlap of all of these these danger signs of just you know. I didn't plan on getting into this because we talk more about the moms but i'm like things that we can be doing. Moms make sure that we are not layer in on any additional triggers or issues that that they internalize but also maybe warning signs things that we can be looking out for proactively absolutely having two teenage girls. Girls are identical twins that are going to high school so I'm seen all of the facts firsthand and i was talking with a therapist not too long ago. We were talking about this. This also started even before the pandemic like these kids are under so much pressure to perform. And to do well academe medically into do well in sports and i know that there's kids that were doing or have had their sports. Things interrupted with covid in. They're not doing sports. And there is so much pressure on them to perform in different ways because there was pressure on them before now they feel like they're falling short in that letting people down whether it's themselves or their parents and i'm seeing the of it where i see not only eating disorders but seeing kids that are cutting themselves and i always say that That cutting and blame. You are very similar. It's a lot like where you don't feel like you can open up and talked to whether it's apparent or appear because there's so much judgment especially in that age group there's so much judgment so it's almost like i'm let where you're like swallowing your emotions and i feel like this is what happens when people are binging. And whether they're pershing or they're not or if they're not eating but either they're just keeping their emotions out or their swallowing their emotions When they can't hold it anymore because you don't feel like talk to anyone is letting your emotions out by purging. And i feel like the same thing is what happens with cutting. It's a release. it's a feeling in. That's the thing like feelings are for feeling right. And so if you're not letting yourself feel than it's manifesting itself in another way and whereas in eating disorder might start off. I i wanna be skinny it. Dan exacerbates itself into a coping mode. Allah said is lake alcohol. Where it is like you out so all of these addictions are very similar to each other. And it's just whatever form that happens to take so a lot of teenage girls will turn to something like food or eating disorder. And i don't want a single boys out either because it is more rampant in boys and especially boys that either end wrestling energy nostitz or in the gay community Deffinitely in his more rampant in boys and men people would ever imagine there are signs to be aware of some of that can be like sneaking food or being in the bathroom for a long time or unexpected. Visit stu if your child's driving too fast food places but it is kind of that it's very very shameful. Which is why people don't talk about it. It's hidden in its shameful so going back to brunei brown. There's so much shame. And there's so much heidi and there's so much of a downward spiral into shame. The in i am bad instead of did something bad that people just stuff. They're in it happens over and over and over again it becomes a a habit and so like you're saying that you'll hear moms or dads or you know family members talk about like. Oh ho like really put on that freshman fifteen you know or you'd covid. Nineteen go on or the comparison of like. Oh my gosh. This bathing suit really fit me last year and it didn't this year One of the things in my house. That has always always been a thing. Because here i am on a mom of three girls and i'm like with eating disorder has three three girls right. I mean but One of the things from first off always is our house. The f. word is not allowed in our house. And i'm not talking about the four letter one. I'm having three letter. Yeah so it is not. It's not allowed. I mean we don't rush over things. You know an important employees dance. But it's not talked about in a way of like this makes my butler bigger. Yeah it's not tossed around casually right. And how do you frame those conversations. Because of course they're hearing that elsewhere so they come to you and.
Christ United Methodist Church - Plano, TX
"brunei brown" Discussed on Christ United Methodist Church - Plano, TX
"The beauty and the power of this new covenant promised by jeremiah and written on our hearts by the power of the holy spirit. Is that because it's part of who we are. It shapes what we do it influences the decisions we make. It helps determine our core values especially those those two core values that brunei brown talks about which grow out of the beliefs and the commitments that we hold most dear and the new covenant changes us if if we say yes to god through our faith in god son during the season of lent the whole point of lent is that we're called to say yes to god a new to deepen the practices that inspire the imagination of our faith and draws closer to god to eliminate the distractions that divert our attention from the things that we cherish the most with just two weeks to go until the holiest day in the christian calendar. This is a good day to ask ourselves. Just how fully just how completely we've said yes to god through our faith in jesus christ to me a wonderful example of unconscious. Competence is a virtuoso musician having mastered their craft. they spend their lives devoted to it. Blessing others through the gifts that god has given them and to me a wonderful example of a virtuoso. Musician is yo yo ma. Last weekend the famous cellist received his second kobe nineteen vaccine at berkshire community college in pittsfield massachusetts and during the required fifteen minute waiting period. After receiving his vaccine he pulled out his cello and he gave a mini concert including the song ave maria as a as a gesture of gratitude and praise in an interview on the today. Show this week. He told jenna bush about an older man who brought a chair and sat in front of him while he played socially distanced of course and he said that this man obviously needed something like needed. Something emotionally needed something spiritually and he was he was visibly moved as the most famous cellist in the world played. What was almost a private concert just for him. Your ma said. I'm always happy to respond when people feel like they need some music. That's what i'm here for at this point of his life. I'm guessing that yo yo. Moths cello is like an extension of his body. For virtually his whole life music no doubt has come from the depths of his heart and soul and god knows how many times he's played ave maria over the years but for those who heard him that day including that older man who pulled up a chair and sat in front of him. It was a transcendent blessing at the end of what has been an unimaginably difficult twelve months. What a gift it would be if we all had that kind of clarity about purpose in life friends whatever your two core values may be if you consider yourself a faithful follower of jesus. I already know something about what you hold. Most dear because who we are what we believe the decisions that we make how we show up in the world all grow out of this this covenant that is written on our hearts thanks to our faith in jesus made that covenant transform us and in transforming us make us a blessing to this world that we all share..