35 Burst results for "Brian"
Ponzi Schemer Bernie Madoff Dies in Prison at 82
"Age of 82. It was once chair of the NASDAQ stock market, pleading guilty in 9 2002, security sprawled and other charges, he admitted. Swindling billions of dollars from investors in a decades long scheme. When hearing about made off step this morning, New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio said made off hurt a lot of people. They someone passes is not a time to dance on the grave. But let's just be honest. Many, many people were hurt by his actions and No, it's time hopefully. Turn the page and move forward. And those hurt by made off include many in South Florida all the way into Hollywood and across the globe, a source telling ABC News that made off died of natural causes at a federal prison hospital in North Carolina. Or federal mass
Slain Capitol Police Officer Billy Evans Honored at Capitol
"As a national hero line honor in the capital returned to this hour. Capitol Police Officer William where Billy Evans was killed April 2nd when a man crashed his vehicle into barrier on the Capitol grounds. A second officer was injured. President Biden joined members of Congress that the capital for a memorial service where Speaker Nancy Pelosi spoke of the immense loss to the U. S Capitol police just months after its officers face down an angry mob of pro trump extremists just months after the January six assault on our democracy. Men and women of the Capitol Police were again called to duty on April 2nd officer Evans answered that call and giving his life to protect the capital and our country. He became a martyr for our democracy. Rare distinction of lying in honor was also extended to the late officer Brian Sick, Nick, who lost his life during the January six insurrection by NPR's count, more
Biden, Lawmakers at Tribute to Slain Capitol Police Officer
"President Biden has been among those paying tribute to slain U. S. capitol police officer Billy Evans at a ceremony in the building's rotunda Evans was remembered as a guy who would love to golf and read Harry potter with his kids young login and Abigail were in the rotunda where their dad became just the six person to lie in honor his flag draped casket surrounded by fellow officers as the president said their father died a hero and his memory will live forever my prayer for you is the moment of a smile comes before the tear quicker than longer it was the second such memorial Justin this year for a capitol police officer who fell in the line of duty after officer Brian said Nick was killed in the capital riot Evans died after being hit by a car that rammed a capital barricade Sager mag ani Washington
New York Pauses J
"York. Say they're joining other states. In suspending use of the johnson and johnson covid nineteen vaccine. The cdc and fda have raised concerns about rare blood clots following administration of the shot npr's. Brian man has the latest federal agencies. Say they've identified six cases where women developed blood clots after receiving the j. and j. vaccine they've called for a pause in its distribution new york health. Commissioner howard zinn healthcare provider. Statewide will follow the recommendation. So said people in new york who have an appointment for the j. vaccine will instead receive a dose of the pfizer vaccine so far roughly seven million doses of the johnson and johnson vaccine administered. Nationwide soccer noted that adverse reactions appear to be extremely rare. But he said people who've received j vaccine should contact a health provider if they experienced severe headaches abdominal pain leg pain or shortness of breath
CDC, FDA Urge Pause in Johnson and Johnson COVID Vaccine
"Bump in the road on the way to herd immunity to separate regulatory agencies are recommending that immunizations using the popular One shot Cupid vaccine be put on hold CBC's Aaron Carter ski a certain severe blood clot occurs and fewer than one in a million people, but it has to be treated in a special way. So the CDC and the FDA want to temporarily halt the U. Of the Johnson and Johnson vaccine so doctors can learn about it. About seven million doses of the J and J vaccine have been administered. So far, there have been only six women between the ages of 18 and 48, who developed a blood clot about a week after receiving their doses. ABC News Medical contributor. Dr Ashish Joshi, the dean of Brown University School of Public Health, says Despite the pause, I think the Jang jae vaccine is both terrific and its efficacy and it is exceedingly safe based on everything I know I'd feel comfortable having my family get it. Walgreens this morning announced that is putting a hold on the use of the J and J
Fallen Capitol Police Officer Lies in Honor at Capitol
"Year. Capitol Police officer Billy Evans will lie in honor of the Capitol Rotunda today, and President Biden will attend the ceremony there along with congressional leaders. Evans was killed earlier this month when a driver rammed his car into him at a barricade near the capital on that driver was then shot and killed by police. This is the second ceremony at the Rotunda this year honoring a fallen Capitol police officer. The other was for Brian Sick, Nick, who died from his injuries that he sustained during the capital
Capitol Police Officer William Evans Lies in Honor at Capitol
"Building that he was hired to protect a ceremony today to honor Massachusetts native William Billy Evans killed in the line of duty when a driver rammed into a security barricade. President Biden and congressional leaders will be there. It follows a similar ceremony for Officer Brian's Technic killed during the capital riot in January. Much different scene this year in the Holy Land. Today is the beginning of Ramadan.
Japan to Release Fukushima Treated Radioactive Water Into Sea
"Government decided to start releasing treated radioactive water from the wrecked Fukushima nuclear plant into the Pacific Ocean. Two years from now, the decision fiercely opposed by fishermen and residents. The water's been used to cool the melted fuel with plant damaged by the 2011 tsunami
Honolulu resort evacuated as armed suspect barricaded inside room
"Resort after an armed man barricaded himself inside a hotel room. Police negotiators are on the scene at the Kahala Hotel in Honolulu. The incident started last night when the suspect fired several shots through his hotel room door. No one was hurt in the gunfire, according to Honolulu police captain Brian Lynch. The resort said in a statement that hotel security and law enforcement evacuated the area around the room. Police officials told reporters. They're just waiting for the suspect to give up. Kent S'more
Biden Digs in for Negotiations Over Infrastructure and Jobs Plan
"I'm Brian Clark president, Biden said to invite Republicans and Democrats to the White House Monday to discuss his massive infrastructure proposal. Some Republicans have criticized the package for including items they say are not related to infrastructure. But energy Secretary Jennifer Granholm tells ABC the definition of infrastructure is changing in 1990. We wouldn't have thought that broadband was infrastructure because it wasn't on the scene yet. We? Of course, the broadband in
Armed Man Remains Barricaded Inside Honolulu Hotel Room
"Least negotiators are on the scene of a shooting in Hawaii, where a gunman has barricaded himself inside a Honolulu hotel. Local media reports say A standoff is currently underway between police and a male suspect with a firearm has barricaded himself inside a hotel room K I T V says The incident started early Saturday night when multiple shots were reported at the Kahala Hotel and resort in Honolulu. Police captain Brian Lynch says 18 officers responded to the scene and evacuated all the guests on the fourth floor. No injuries have been reported, and Lynch has confirmed that the male suspect is alone in the
MLB All-Star Game Reportedly Moving to Denver
"Francisco. The governor of Georgia is stepping up his attack on Major League Baseball days after the league announced it was moving this year's All Star game from Atlanta to Denver. Baseball officials say the decision was in response to a newly passed state law, which critics say will suppress black and minority voters. Republican Governor Brian Kemp says the move will only hurt minority owned businesses, especially those near the stadium that have gotten hit. Covert 19. Now they're getting hit by decision that they had no control over. And that's not right. Several groups have filed lawsuits over the voting measure. The bill includes strict identification requirements for voting by mail and limits the use of
Source of Piney Point Wastewater Leak Undergoing Repairs
"Com divers had piney Point have been working to secure the leak that led to the dumping of untreated wastewater from the old phosphate processing site into Tampa Bay. Congressman Brian Master represents a treasure Coast on the other side of Florida, says the state Department of Environmental Protection Needs to doom or this incident and Piney Point you look what's happened Previously, it lets you know that that oversight has not been appropriate and needs to be increased. Earlier this week, the state Senate approved $3 million to fund the first stage of clean up at the
Kemp: Moving All-Star game will hurt business owners of color
"Republican governor is continuing to criticize major league baseball after the league moved. It's all star game to denver over the state's controversial voting laws from member station w. a. b. e. roxanne scott reports at a press conference. This weekend governor. Brian kemp said the move politicized baseball. An hurts businesses owned by people of color who have already been affected by covid but critics of the law which places ide- requirements on absentee voting and limits the use of ballot drop boxes say disproportionately affects people of color. The mlb said it moved the game from the atlanta area. After having discussions with players the law which was signed last month also expands weaken early voting and criminalizes handing out food and water to voters waiting in line to cast a ballot. Several groups have filed lawsuits about the state's new voting law
Freeman homers, drives in 3 as Braves edge Phillies 5-4
"All right Adriana is a scored on a bloop infield hit by pretty premium in the seventh inning as the Atlanta Braves defeated the Philadelphia Phillies five to poor Freeman hit a dribbler to Phillies pitcher Jose Alvarado but instead of going home right away all right turned a second by the time he threw home Adriana's scored the winning run but Braves manager Brian Snitker said to him it was a typical Braves win it seems like it's always there a tight game which is a good thing because then you know I mean it it becomes the normal and and guys you know it didn't phase him at all but we have a Tennessee it seems like the the play that game every night Freeman had a home run and three RBIs Andrew McCutchen and Bryce Harper had solo shots for the bills Gary McPhillips Atlanta
Sean Couturier's goal gives Flyers 3-2 home win over Bruins
"Sean couturier scored the game winner in the flyers improve their playoff position by nipping the Bruins three two Kateri a tally seven minutes into the third period leaving Philadelphia four points behind Boston for the fourth and final playoff berth in the east division Travis connect me scored a first period goal and set up Shayne Gostisbehere is power play tally about six minutes later Brian Elliott stopped thirty shots to blank the Bruins following Jake DeBrusk tying goal with eight forty five left in the second Patrice Sharon also scored for the bees who won six of eight from Philly this season I'm Dave Ferrie
Matt Gaetz dismisses sex trafficking allegations
"Florida Congressman Matt Gates is dismissing sexual misconduct claims against him. Brian shook with more. Speaking to a conservative women's group at Trump National Doral in Miami, Gates argued he's built for the battle and not going anywhere. Republican called the claims smears but argued the past week has been very encouraging. His comments Friday come amid a reported federal investigation into Gates over sex trafficking
Dustin Johnson down 9 in Masters
"Thanks bill after round one of the master's Justin Rose has the early lead despite being to over seven holes into the first day. Rose finished with a seven under 65. Four shots ahead of the rest of the field. Brian Harman and Hideki Matsui Yama are tied for second defending champion Dustin Johnson Shallah to over 74. He's nine strokes back. The second round started this morning
"brian" Discussed on Reply All
"Welcome back to the show. Okay so Monday morning. I get back on the phone with Brian Colon in from every song and he says hey so I went into our database. I looked at our Christmas playlist. We have eleven versions of. We wish you a merry Christmas in our database and Brian. Deane's is not among them. What yeah it was really weird on the Friday. He was like I recognize the song and on Monday. He was like. I don't know I guess I made a mistake because it's not there and I'm trying to think of possible reasons why that would happen. And he said that like one of the possibilities is maybe it is in our database is just not coming up in my searches you know. Is there the possibility that something happened with our systems? Something rogue happened and somebody uploaded a song and they got the artists the song title and some other things wrong in the Meta data entry. Sure it's just the whole cascading series of errors that would have to happen to kind of put a Phantom Song in there and get all the data wrong and then just to have ripped it off of Youtube in the first place which is something that we don't do the chances of that happening. It's kind of like a comet hitting a comet over your house right. So that's you know or or you know getting attacked by a shark and Grizzly bear the same day like it's you know it's not impossible and I can't sit here and say that it's impossible but I mean it really. I wrack my brain to think how it would be possible. So what's the other possibility? Well he also said like maybe it was never in our database at all. Maybe someone at a Kroger hacked into their their system and we're playing it off a CD. No but that's said that was as likely to bear attack. Yeah if you're going to hack into your corporate. I like his ability to rate probabilities. Millions according to horrific. If you're going to lake hack into like like when you have read every time had a retail job where it was like canned music and somebody like figure out how to get there and music on it wasn't to play like more seasonal hits like it was to play music that humans light. Listen I am so tired of this demon Martin Standard what. I really wanted to hack into from youtube players. You Merry Christmas so every song. Brian had like one last theory about what might have happened. Which at the time. I found very convincing. Which is then he just had like. Imagine yourself in brine shoes right. At the moment he walked into Kroger. You're in a grocery store a busy time of year. There's a lot of people. There's a lot of noise you know you're hearing bits and pieces. Maybe especially over the store speakers. Which sometimes aren't the best and you know stuff in the challenging environment. If you asked me to put money on it I would say you know this. It was probably a case of the song being this hurt in the store. It's difficult for me to say that I make music myself and it's difficult to say because you you know. If you'd asked me that question I would be one part of Barris. The one point. Maybe a little bit annoyed that you would ask the question in the first place. So he's saying it's like your clients mistake. Yeah what he's saying is like if you're in a circumstance where it's loud where your kids distracting. You like it's possible to miss hear your song and like sure. It's possible that Song Brian is lying to me and like I can't see their database and I have no idea whether he's telling the truth but like what's more likely. Is it more likely that ever song went on Youtube found a version of? We wish you. Merry Christmas. Like twenty-five views ripped it in violation of copyright law. Put it on their playlist to play and Kroger as all over the country and then Brian Deane just happened to walk into one as it was playing or is it more likely that he just misheard. The song like people miss here songs all the time also ever song. Brian told us that there is a version of. We wish you merry Christmas in their system. That does sound a lot like Brian. Deane's and he thinks that that is the likely hope bread. I don't know dude. I still just have a hard time imagining that. A musician would not recognize a song they recorded. I mean if it was an instrumental cover. It would make some sense to me but there was one thing that was nagging at me. Which is like do you remember how? I Talk to Allah. Brian's bandmates yeah one of them. This guy's AC. I asked him directly like. Do you think that Brian just could have misheard? His own song. Anzac was like honestly. Brian has one of the best ears of anybody that I've ever met. His ear is UNCANNY I can't imagine that he would be wrong. Brian like is the person who sends me clips of raised theme from Star Wars next to the emperor's themed show how they're how they're how similar and predicted the end of the Star Wars Movie. At least a little bit Based only on the musical themes from the first doors yes the soundtrack and and business on the recurring. Musical motifs came up with spoilers for the movie. Yeah what a lunatic insane so I just wanted to test Brian's ear like was he actually as good as that claimed he was. Now what you need to know about Brian. Is that beyond just star wars. He's like scores in general. Okay so I. I called up musician Brian and told him whatever song. Brian had told me that they couldn't find a song in the database and at first he was like really questioning himself. Do you think I'm crazy? I'm starting to think I'm crazy. And maybe all I mean a piano version with some drums and a base of We wish you merry Christmas may be sound similar. We aren't sure if you're crazy and we WANNA find out okay. So we have come up with a game that tests. How good you are at recognizing music. Oh Jeez and it will help us understand why you think that it was your song that you heard in the storm. Okay okay since I know that you are John Williams Fan and since Zach specifically mentioned your ability to pick out star wars music. I am going to play some star wars or not star wars music for you. Tell me if if it if it is from star wars or not we go. This is track number one star wars not stores..
"brian" Discussed on The Moment with Brian Koppelman
"Hey is the moment I'm Brian complimented thanks for listening today's guest is you not in some crazy Meta sense but you are today's guests because I asked on here and on twitter for your questions and the response some of your questions surprise me some didn't surprise me there was a good deal of I'd say similar concern expressed a lot of it had to do with some kind of insecurity about whether you should be tried to do this kind of work creative work or not and I'm GonNa give you my best answer to each of these questions as I can get to you need to know that I don't necessarily hold myself out as having definitive answers these questions and some of them are quite difficult to answer with any authority for anyone especially the Russian I got many times which is how do I know if I'm good enough and the reason that that question is so hard to answer and why it's so prevalent is the same in it's because it's a foundational primal early life question and question that has as much to do with the way you were raised the way you grew up the way your parents express love didn't express love as it is is about whether you're really a good enough artist so there are there are things one can look at metrics one can look at it can view an indication of whether your impulses toward this artistic life seemed to have a chance to hey some kind of dividends to you but I don't believe that's at the heart of the question at the heart of the question is the desire for some outside force to tell you not only are you good enough is your work good enough you essentially are good enough that you don't have to a change that you don't have to run the fastest store that you don't have to learn to walk the fast stored who read the fastest but dead in fact what you are made of is worthy of Love Sport Protection respect all that stuff and so if you're somebody who asks that question frequently about the work you're doing and I want to separate it out right because yes it's a very legitimate question to say hey I wrote this short story I've sent it out about twenty times it got rejected Twenty Times Hey Mrs Editor Ms Editor Mr editor mix editor hey is this story essential really fucked up or Ken this story be fixed that's quite a different question from am I good enough am I crazy and I want us to be clear about which question we're asking and I want us to be clear about why where asking that question and and one of the questions you can find an answer for kind of easily or in a kind of straightforward manner and often the answer that one we don't know yet the easy one right is if you wanna quit because or if you want to try to sell the things you can on to me the the question was do I still get something out of doing the creative work if I still get something out of doing the creative work that I'm gonNA keep doing the creative work and I'm and as long as the creative work is making me feel more alive during the day not less alive during the day as long as the creative work is inspiring me as long as it's making me seem kind or those that I love because I'm engaged in something that matters to me then the more I'm going to do it and that was magnitude before we sold I gripped if instead it is pulling you down then I would look at it but I wouldn't look at it from a standpoint of has the thing sold yet or I wouldn't let that be the definitive thing and whether you continue you or you don't continue continue as long as the work is fulfilling continue as long as when you get up in the morning that's the thing you WanNa do now that doesn't mean it's easy to do that doesn't mean you're never dealing with a sense of feeling either blocked or stopped somehow what I'm talking about when you look at it overall is it additive to your existence or is it taking something away from her existence and if you can answer sleet it's additive than I you know I think keep going because I don't really understand how to give advice in the opposite direction I don't really I in the purpose of giving advice in the opposite direction and I'm not surprised this is the most frequently asked question I've said many times that the line between being has successful artists in delusional very thin and that line when I say it is true but there is a little bit of glibness to it because it it subtracts the pain of not knowing so I I understand that there is a pain of not knowing I understand there's a fear attached with not knowing but that's the terrain we're in the terrain of creating stuff for the terrain of making stuff the terrain of changing things by definition were in scary terrain and I choose to embrace it aw and yet easy from my perch on a certain level because I've had success at it and because I've had rewards people also I'd be lying if I didn't say that the fact that people respond to the work didn't matter to me it does it makes it easier in the fallow periods to know that on the other side is the very real possibility of an audience because I had one before so that in the times when it wasn't going so well commercially I didn't really ask myself whether I was a person who could tell these stories do this that had been proven to me already that said in the beginning that was the case and I just knew I had to do it and so that's the answer to sort of the most frequently asked question and think it's a very deep question and I understand it and now let's move on to a couple of other questions and maybe will circle maybe circle back so what's the next question I want to answer okay it's related Jacqueline said this quote of yours is so powerful to me in the quote is blocked people become toxic they become toxic themselves into the people around them and the person wrote in says I recognize so many my own family members in this quote people who could have had bruin creative lives and instead became toxic how void the same fate and get unblocked we're living in among these people has led me to believe that create a fulfilled life is not for me I specially struggle with this because I benefited from my parents stable career choices Sinoe college and yet I see how they denied their own dreams and desires for mine never became fulfilled people yeah well me too uh not the they didn't become fulfilled people my parents both of them in their own way were and are fulfilled my mom passed away my dad's still thriving but I definitely also had college paid for the people who were responsible I've often talked about the fact that one of the reasons I was able to dream and live a life that was beyond life of just trying to take care of me and mine was because I didn't know college debt I had family that there was a safety net there for me I college paid for an I could figure out how I wanna live but the question of how to get through the block for me as complicated as it is as disturbing it is and you know I was blocked writer until I was thirty this is my foundational story and it's true Until I found a way through so painful to be blocked by felt that toxicity thing happening and I didn't want to be toxic to those that I loved and I did straightforward things I I wrote down what I wanted to be doing how I wanted to feel and I knew that was doing something creative I couldn't do it and I read the book the artist's way Julia Cameron I started doing morning pages everyday three longhand pages every morning and doing the morning ages something happened and reading her book and doing the exercises and I would say her book and Stephen Fields Book the war of art and I pressed field on the podcast I those tools are just they work if you do it if you do the way if you read the book can you do the exercises you will be presented with the opportunity to get past this block and to create the work that you WanNa Create I can't say that strongly enough the power of three longhand pages every morning it tips your unconscious tips your subject watches out onto the page it could you pass the perfectionism it gets you past the guilt which you here in your letter guilt but he in your even if your family tells you they want you to responsible the truth is they did all this work so that you can try to soar parents terrified side of their children not being able to survive so their fear is GonNa make them look at you askew if you are trying something different in that but that's fear don't let that don't catch that fear it's contagious don't catch it and just do a little bit of work every day into this this idea one page today for years three hundred and sixty five pages even one page day for a year minus Sundays or Saturdays is over three hundred pages so and that's three screen plays where that's a novel you don't have to carve a giant chunk of time or you have to do is produce a little bit of work every day and then you'll find yourself living a life that feels a bit more.
"brian" Discussed on The Moment with Brian Koppelman
"Hey this is the moment brian koppelman thanks for listening today i'm going to i'm going to do another episode where i answer your questions is the last time i did it we got wonderful feedback a bunch of good conversation started out of it i got more emails than i usually do after an episode from people telling me that they appreciated sort of longer answers to things that come up off and on the show the only thing i didn't like about it completely was that i ended up like asking myself questions and answering them so have i've asked my son sam koppelman hey sam how's it going it's going well to come and help me out so he may ask some of the questions or we may just talk some of it through but also i just like having him here to help me so you know i'm going to start with something that's i got a bunch of different questions about salmon you've heard me talk about a lot but but it's something that i'm gonna i'm gonna start by saying something i don't really have the answer to a bunch of people have written me asking what i understand is really crucial question then that's about breaking in and the truth of it is it's really hard to give an if you're if we are being honest how to break in how to get somebody to read your your script or your article or or your idea it seems insurmountable at the beginning.
"brian" Discussed on The Moment with Brian Koppelman
"In the middle of writing a script i often feel like it's worthless in useless i and on this isn't i'm not isn't a platitude is how i feel i feel like no one's going to care about the world datum creating about the story about the characters and i inevitably have a day that i want to hang it up greeks i could have that i want to hang it up that i'm like no one's going to give a shit about this but when you power through the end and men redefining you've suddenly of ways you can fix it make it better than a week later you're like oh this in bad there's things here that work and so i've train myself dave was amazing teaching me in the beginning when a train myself to press on and if you press on you will often find that uh these solutions are out there so um brian berreby who plays randy corn blue fun billions like you checked episode to eleven he's one of the two reporters and he's just great and dumb a terrific act and a great guy and he asked me if i can give an example of a kind of artistic calculating that i warn against as opposed to following passion and this comes from um somebody has had a long time ago when i was when the vine series on uh screenwriting and i said calculate us and what i mean by that is that i think it's pointless to try to game the market to look at what was popular and try to recreate it for a few different reasons one is i'm not interested in that kind of work for the work i'm interested in his personal work is work that comes from an artist and that you feel has a spark of life to it so there might be people smarter than i am who are capable of looking at the hits of this summer and doing the math to figure out what the hit two summers from now will be but since that's probably oh point oh oh one percent of the people for most of us if you wanna do this kind of art you should listen to the quiet voice.
"brian" Discussed on Brian
"Readers. I didn't know is doing a transcript as well. Is for you to come up with your four individuals listeners. Listeners are going to be your for individuals. You just said you own after referring to. All right. I got to contests ideas. In two or three episodes of the show, the listeners can pick my wedding party. I'm gonna end up with carrot top Donald Trump. All right. But they have to be realistic. Cocoa has to be realistic here. Like, you know, we're not going to have cardboard cutouts of individuals standing there, Donald wants my vote. I'm sure he'll show up. He's just so weren't. So it was carrot top. That was the theme echo was on the other side. Got to the other side air enough. Yes that is what we're waiting for it. I'm sure they'll be updates as the podcast moves along. He's her asked about it regularly. Yes. I am. Guys have three is your brothers just kind of a shoo-in. He's kind of like just lumped in with everybody else. So hey, I got one because you don't have three friends. That hurts my feelings Evans here for you, man. All right. Evans backup. Do. Can we put them in a little doggy talks? Does he need one color that way already already has about? He's been waiting and waiting dying. Tries it on every night. He prances around the living room aside from the every night, part serious. I'm sure you'll hear all about those extra those two extra choices now that I have to make Evan you're in. Hi, assign. One way or the other, but an addition to listening to this podcast every week where we'll give you some updates. You can also check out our website at the dark ravine dot com or all podcasts or posted updates there as well as well on our Twitter, which is at dark. I forgot it at dark underscore ravine. Yep. That's right. And then the, the Facebook page Facebook dot com Ford slash the dark ravine, make it so hard typing for people to do. It's less than some of the things we've come up, come up. This is true. It shorter. It is. So in addition to that, if you want to support this podcast and the other's at the dark, Wien dot com, you can head over to our website, and we have banners all over the place for Amazon dot com. Oh, you need to do is click on those banners and they'll take you directly to Amazon, and you can do all the shopping your heart's desired, perhaps looking at someone's wedding registry, buying some gifts. You know what I mean? Yes. And then we'll get a couple of pennies back just for you doing absolutely nothing more than you. Normally would do Amazon dot com, supports this podcast and all the podcasts at the dark, Wien dot com. So shot there today through those links and you'll help us out as well as helping yourself. In addition to that we also have the patriots page was his at the dark ravine dot com forward slash patriots. Build spelled P, A T forgot. I'll spell it AT e Owen. Thank you. And there's also links on our website as well. There you can donate one time or a regular monthly amount to the dark ravine to support this show because despite what it may sound like producing the show costs money. It does money involved and every little bit helps. So if you like the podcast here, certainly throw a little bit of a couple of pennies are way, either by shopping, Amazon or going to patriot. As far as other new things you need to listen rates and subscribe to our podcast on itunes and Google play this new today. It's very exciting. So if you go to either of those if you use either those ecosystems either you have an iphone like idee over here or you have an Android based phone like myself. You can go to your favorite podcast store and download these show. Subscribe, they'll show up right on your phone or your device, and you'll be ready for hours of listening pleasure. Ours, ours. Literally hours now it is our multiple hours. I know it's very exciting. Anything else that I need to my forgetting any plugs that I'd normally do. I don't think so. I don't think so. I think I had him since like, Heidi took over and had all the funny jokes during this episode. So I was just resolved like feeling bad at the end because I don't have a wedding party. Thanks guys. Thanks preciado. It I love this podcast. We do. We can't. So I think that's been all this week for Brian Mel get married. So until next time thanks for being here. Thanks for having me. I
"brian" Discussed on Brian
"Yeah. Going full on, like kabuki makeup all white. What's the next one attend the engagement party, unless there are major constraints you don't need to worry about that as I'm not having one of those. Okay. So what for some people they do? I guess I thought that was a thing of the past. But apparently, it's not this is just another reason or rich people just know the reason to get together and shower, the soon to be married. Couple with gifts. True. No gifts. It engagement party really? We just literally. Yeah. We did wedding registry as one of our last episodes, and they literally said register for gifts for your engagement party released early as possible so that people could give you gifts there. And then you have to keep updating your registry because, as people give gifts for your engagement, party, your shower and your wedding. Well, heck I'm having one. Engagement party is going to do this now. Help the bride shot for her wedding dress, and accessories within reason. Within reason you don't have to tag along to a tour of all fourteen local bridal boutiques, especially if a bunch of other people will be there. But if the bright asks you to join her for fitting to help her choose between two gowns don't get diggity. What does the dignity me? This is the point where I tell you that you should summarize the articles that you're that you're using. I haven't been actually I didn't know if I'm getting taken, I don't know what it means. But. Gosh, darn time. That's the first thing that comes to my brain. When I think of Heidi is Judy. Not mad was that spelled b g I g g I t y yeah. Sorry, j I. Letters. B E J. I g I. There's no other way you, I wasn't like mispronouncing word. Well, if you come away learning nothing about weddings from this episode then at the very least you'll know have a new word that. Yeah. You don't don't be it whenever it is. You don't want to be at the thing. You don't wanna be exactly. And from here on out, I have no diggity, no doubt in my head. Perfect, probably for, like two or three days. Just going to start sending text messages. JD. Help the bride with a few wedding related tasks. Right. Okay. All right. I'm sure I was gonna have you cut to the chase on this one because it's feels like you're going over the same to help. Yeah. I mean, that is, basically that's exactly what it is be present at important events and help the bride out now for your own stuff now, me, not knowing anything about what like the actual functions of a wedding party are is there like specific roles assigned to the ladies as they go down in order, just just the one lieutenants. And it's just the one the one your maid of honor is kind of your go-to Brigadier General kind of. Your maid of honor is kind of the one that you. What most of your trust in us? Yeah. Unpressured and pressure. So they got to pick up the slack when you're like freaking out and going half bridezilla. Yes. Okay. The other ones are just people, whom you find. Doesn't stand up for you day support, you, they're supporting they're there for you. They're showing you love and support. I mean, I don't mean to cut off the article. But it seemed like every point was helped the Brian help the bride help the bride, and also says that they have to give you gifts have to give shower and wedding gift. Okay. See as any guest of the wedding would. Should do do. Yes. Also speak at the rehearsal dinner at that is true. Donor. Oh I feel weird about that. Like you have to give a speech at a wedding like net, do you if you're not getting it? I've told you about my history with the speeches. Right. I was gonna say, like the rehearsal dinner is more like the coachspeak 'cause you're talking to the team, you're not talking to the masses of people that are coming to see the wedding that core group. You know, you're getting them really jazzed up. He sent him off to the side and be like, all right. You everybody's got their task those where they need to be tomorrow. You know, you kind of get the raw raw speech, I should probably wear any of that. He gets very sport like in the show. I think it's because he's trying to hold onto his manliness. I can do. All I got. Thus far has been very non dude Centric. Well. Anyways speeches. I can do but. I promise it will be without incident. I give me an example right now. I wanna hear your best off the top of your head. You can make it doesn't have to be about us or, or anything like that. Just do general speech for the dog. It's going to to your dog. We have actually another guest in podcast studio tonight as well. Heidi dog Eban. So if you were going to speak at Evans, wedding now give us like your top line. This notes. Well, I prepare now because the first time I gave a speech at my sister's wedding. I was a we last eighteen and unprepared, and I didn't know that I had to give speech because my sister, who was the maid of honor passed it off on me, and I totally agreed. Didn't know that. It was true. So we're sitting there at the at the reception all of us waiting for dinner, Ardy NAR salads. And then. Kate, or my sister leans over and she's like so are you ready for your speech and I was like? What is like your speech, you have your speech write your notes, and then? Honestly, it's a miracle that I my dress wasn't soiled, and I grabbed a napkin demanded a pen and no one had them because they were all wearing dresses and Texas and pantley carrying a pen is not something most people do I'm getting like panicky reliving this. And so the best man is giving his speech, I and I can feel my time, ticking down, and my sweet. Glowing sister is ready to hear all the nice things I have to say about her, and I had not prepared thing. So as he's giving his speech, I somehow a pen appeared, I don't even think I ruined realized that I was not joking. And somebody like raced out to find a pen that you were insure panic mode at this point here. Parents sweaty red faced panic. So I wrote down bullet points as fast as I could shaky hands. I remember the shaky hands, the groom sister was sitting next to me. She left in to help me like throwing out memories or you know, stories but I pulled it off. Nobody knew except the people at the table on probably, whoever saw my face turn ghost white, and then bright red. So you. Pulled it off though. Heck, why are you nervous then? I pull it I pulled it off. Okay. It's unbidden. Sweet. So you've got you've got a practiced darn near professional I- speech giver. Well, that was just the first one, but the moral of the stories that I made it happen. The you one was worse. Anyway. Moving on times to three and three and a half knots. Third. One was fine. Some tears. I may I make people cry with that one. I'll look at you. Go I get better. Time better. Now, you we were just joking about how this is very not guy friendly podcast for the most part, other than me, making terrible jokes. Do you have any tips for a guy picking his wedding party? Well, they kind of go and at the same time, so I should. So my, my best man should knock complain about his dress. No, I'm moving into the second one. Okay. So. When you are picking your wedding party think twice before you ask taking notes is that just is that male specific? No, it's just in general because once you've asked someone to be in your wedding party. You can't go back. No undue. Let me take that back. No take backs facs. So take your time, give yourself at least a month to mull over the actions roles e pose the question yourself, you magin you'll be just as close to this person in five years as you are now, if you're on the fence about asking someone imagine how they would fit in with the rest of your attendance. Just think about how they like, okay. Got it continue. I thought I had something funny. I didn't I'm expectations. This is basically what you want your wedding party to do and making sure that the people, you're picking in your wedding party can do these things. Don't expect the poor guy to pay for his tuxedo. No. Not even that. Don't expect your friends that you cannot commit to suddenly commit to things or you friend, that your friend that, you know, we'll get slap. He maybe not wedding party matere? Yes. Yes. All right, good. Got it. Check include your brothers and sisters. Okay. I mean that's just a. Fairly simple, one consider the size of your wedding. I'm considering obviously if you're having a super large wedding, and you have one person standing up there with you. Probably strauss. People in me and. Uber driver that brought me to the.
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"Oh, you can sort of hear it in the background of that show. It's there we were recording outside with a fire. Brian now where getting married three hundred sixty eight. Gonna talk about bending. Wedding parties. The actual party. At the end of the wedding ceremony itself, like the stand up there with, that's the thing. Yes. On this podcast. Remember, we're not experts. We're just telling you a little bit about our experiences in planning weddings tonight. We're going to tell you a little bit about wedding parties, and what we've found out and planning our own wedding, and in hopes that will actually help you and yours. And if you have any questions for us in the future, certainly you'll free to Email us any wedding party questions you have, and we'll try and address those on future episodes. Remember that experts just our experiences laid out for you on tonight's episode. For the first time, a very special guest, a third person sitting in on Brian get married Heidi's here, Meli wanna tell the people who Heidi is would be in the maid of honor. She's stuck with me. Oh, and you're gonna explain a little bit about what the maid of honor, does this podcast. So we won't get too deep into that. But before the show started out of your mentoring that you've been a maid of honor several times. Three and a half three and you wanna explain the half that's going to confuse. A lot of people I pretty much did all the duties without the official title all the work. None of the perks. Exactly. Excellent. I'm still a bit better. But. Working at working on it being mills maid of honor, the makes up for it. Number four. She's very popular. Hi demand in the maid of honor category. Do you have like a resume that you send out and working on compiling it? Okay. You have to be unique in the in the field. Otherwise, people won't take resume. Seriously? You really have to have that. I ain't gonna pop off the page. Just, you know, I'm not sure what you're trying to say. Is this, if you wanna have your fifth sixth and seventh maid of honor duties at imagine it gets harder as you get older to be a maid of honor. And now I'm old. No. Mouth insert foot. Good japane- officially offended. Considerably younger than me, and how many maids of honor, have you been routes passing on my disease. She ran with it, though. Well, thanks for asking. I've never been a maid of honor been an usher, once though. That's sorta. It's like. You see people that's like. The wedding party adjacent, isn't it? You may not even make the rehearsal dinner with that one. I did. I was at the rehearsal dinner, I had to know how to see people. It's hit or miss. I had to know how. But did you do your job? Well, I think screwed it up several times. In all fairness for that wedding. We took the wedding party, Monica, very, very seriously. Matt's. Yes. Makes perfect sense. Absolute perfect. So you're gonna tell buy wedding parties. All right include Heidi. Well. First off. Congrats, your brights made well maid of honor, the brides bridesmaids, the bride's, the bride's. Thank you. T H E. Thank you, hear the jobs. You signed up for. Six things you have to do if you're a bridesmaid have to. You've signed a contract, I assume it's sort of like a blood oath one. That is if broken there'll be some great curse that befalls you. Another one. Okay. Go with the story. All right. You have to buy a bridesmaid's dress and you can't complain about it. Don't say a God damn word I can just not to you. Exactly fairly certain that's the underlie ING tone of the entire article mum's the word just don't piss off the bride. You have to show up for the wedding. I feel. I feel like that's kind of a given should I be taking note. I mean, if you have to tell one of the bridesmaid's or the maid of honor to show up for the wedding, I think they're confused though. We've been party to weddings that have gone off with things. We're there have been questioned. I was gonna say, I thought I was at a wedding with you guys where no one was sure where they were supposed to be if the wedding was happening if they were in the wedding, and if they were in the wedding, exactly what they were doing for the wedding right? Exactly. Yes. So it's very good to know what your role is specifically to this wedding. Exactly so, so far I'm showing up in a dress that I'm not complaining about exactly. You have to help plan and pay for the bridal shower and bachelorette party without that money. Well. That's why we picked you Heidi because you're rolling in dough just rolling mouth. That's true. I was more concerned about the planning bit. You have met me before. Yeah. You are on our wedding planning podcast. I think we have most of it covered. Okay, good moving on. And I'm already pretty sure I told you what we had to do for the shower so Verdi that went down. Just talked about this last week. She forgot tech my notes. You have to eight ten the bridal shower bachelorette party, wedding rehearsal, and rehearsal dinner, unless there are major constraints. That's right. Your schedule is booked up. In about a year. Take a block. Two weeks. Filled. Okay. Well, the shower doesn't happen that soon that close to the wedding usually. But okay. I reiterate how little I know about any of this. It's very true, pay for your own transportation and accommodations on the night of the wedding. No gas mileage not going to happen. Doesn't everyone do that. Like, right. This is this is the thing like, okay, okay? You have to listen to a little bit of bitching. So what's new there? You'll breaker. I'm done goodbye. Responsibilities of officially become too much for me. That's the one that just center over the isn't that isn't that a part of friendship. Okay. So I wouldn't have been made of honor that hadn't already happened. Right. Pretty sure there's reasons that, you know, that's pretty normal. Eight things a bride can reasonably expect from her bridesmaids. There's more. Yeah. I guess. I can expect you to help. Choose the Bright's main stress. I thought I didn't have a say in the dress, and I had to wear it without complaining. These articles are conflicting. Wait. It's the same article wait. The bright is allowed to just pick address without consulting the crew. Right. But if she does ask for your input don't barrage, her with votes, I won't spaghetti straps or an airline, skirt or any color. That's not black. Instead, let her know things that make you majorly uncomfortable. I'd really love, if we could find a non strapless dress, if you fall in love with something strapless, I'll be happy to have straps added well fellows, that are still listening to this podcast. Just have a little time for us now. No continue going. Pay for bridesmaid extras including shoes and getting your hair makeup and nails professionally done. If all are affordable. Yep. Knows that again, seems pretty. And say that. But not everyone knows that. There are people out there that don't know that. That's part of the deal are there. Yeah. Are they all may or the audience? Most of them are all of them are. But if you if someone asks, you to be in a wedding, or are you going to expect them to pay for your tux rental? Going to expect them to pay to get your makeup done. Oh, yeah.
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"Kohl's. Do not register for only expensive pieces. So the one hundred twelve inch TV is like can't be the only thing. No. It cannot be the only thing can we get it set up so that like the hundred and twenty four inch TV is like a joint thing from everyone at the wedding. Well, what actually says, here is that if you register for some things under fifty dollars or right around fifty dollar Mark, and you were there's something bigger that you truly wanted you can return things and get that bigger up that bigger gift good, because one hundred thirty six inch TV is not going to cost less than fifty dollars. It is not this is true. Do not just register for the essentials, so. Things like that. So pin toothpaste. Thanks, jude. You wanna make sure that you're registering for things. You'll be excited to receive not just things that you could go to the local store and buy yourself and as just as easily. By so. Do not earn do not forget to put your registry on your wedding mope site. Oh, that's about that earlier. That's a big thing in our wedding website. It's going to be in our podcast website that as well. Who do we do have a wedding website? Oh doing. Yes, we do. You looked at it. I looked at it. Do not register only once I don't think you've covered that one on here again like. Do not register only one I think what they're saying. Back in registry. Change it at things as you see fit and was needed because a lot of times, you'll be getting shower gifts wedding gifts. So like you don't want seven gutters. Right. So take it off. If someone bought it, exactly and do not procrastinate on. Thank you cards. We kinda cover that but Sam ideal. You wanna make sure you're getting those out. I want everyone to know who buys anything off our wedding registry. You are essentially creating a child labor situation. All five kids, just signed writing goods. I feel like. Trace will give them the first card, and then they can just trace every card has to be different. You have to rate personalized notes based on what someone has given you and how, and why you're going to be in. Yes, it doesn't work, but I do have some other great articles that I will make sure put up on the website. You'll check them out while he'll make sure Honey. But I'll make sure that you do it. You know, thirteen unconventional registry ideas cash wedding registry options things, like what I was talking about with the honeymoon and other things that you can register for ideas and resources for you, the listener exactly that if I read, all these would take us into, like two hours worth of show. So check it out some good ideas. I actually found a lot of great things on Google. That was wonderful for this one goal registry. Yeah. They don't have that already. Also very true. Speaking of people giving people other things. Before we go into a little more personal side of things we're going to talk about the podcast right now. The podcasts at the dark, Wien dot com. You can head over there and check out all of our shows one where I'm allowed to curse, and then this one. Yep. And then how that goes that's pretty much what that is. Speaking of registering, there's one thing that we here at Brian Mel get married and the dark ravine need from you, and that's for you to register and basically, not even register just like our Facebook page. So go to Facebook dot com forward slash the dark ravine, all lower case. They'll take your right to our Facebook page just like the page. Great thing about that doesn't cost, you any money doesn't do anything other than tell us that you're listening. And it gives you access to all the podcast content that the dark ravine produces including the unadulterated Bs podcast as well as at some point leaguer flakes. We're literally going to do this at some point we have. Honky. Do that. We basically said, we're going to do these movies to figure out how to make it all work. Yeah. 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By us things and the great thing about that is, if you go through that link mentally, are you buying us something, but you're also giving back to the podcast by clicking through those links? Those affiliate links help get us a percentage of the price of whatever you're buying, and it doesn't cost you anything extra. You just get the. The joy the warm feeling in your heart of knowing that, not only these, you get something for us in our wedding and registry.
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"Perfect. I know. Thank your lawn. Listeners. This is Brian, I am out and we're getting married in three hundred seventy five days seventy five. It's just constant March. The countdown continue it does seems to faster and faster every week. Welcome to Brian Mel get married. This is the podcast where we Brian Mel talk to you about our wedding planning and some things we found out along the way, one thing rest, you is, we are not certified wedding planners in any way, not even close. We probably don't even know anything more than you do, but we have been doing our research, and we hope that through our experiences and us answering any questions that you might have the you learn a little bit about planning your wedding. Whether you're just going to be like we're loping I mean, we're not dealing with this definitely is some pros and cons to all things, I think, on this week's episode of Brian Mel get married. We are covering wedding registries who this is where I get stuff. Yes, you did. This is where people give me stuff. Yes, or us. But yes. And really fancy like three hundred dollar nights sent. I mean you can register for it, but somebody supposed to buy that really fancy three hundred dollar knife set. So what's the deal with wedding registries? Why did that start? Why is that a thing? Why do I get to put my name on a list and have people? Get me stuff. Well originally really had nothing to do with you. It would have to do with me. Oh. Actually, wait, wait. No, no. Are you sir? I'm pretty sure like we're going to start talking about, like wedding dowries and stuff. Right. Still technically to do well, yes, dowries go back, but they still technically to do with the bride because it was, essentially you and your family. Hang my family for me. How much? Twelve dollars seventy five cents the same amount. It was willing to spend on my college being invited to the wedding. Usually it would include, you know, land animals treks of land, money or other forms of historical wealth. Historical. Well, sure. Yeah. Basically, interestingly enough the first week four dollars. The first recorded dowry was exchanged in three thousand BC. Okay. That's that's all well and good. But how do we go from me getting huge tracts of land to people getting maker? Yeah. You gotta fast forward on this because as time went on things changed as marriage change. What marriage mentioned evolved. Yes. Inserted marriage well through Elvis presence in such changed. If you go into like the renaissance, for example, marriage, chests were thing, these chests held all of the bright future wife goods right up there with huge tracts of land, which she would then take to her groom's house. It was sort of an early form of a hope chest. So, you know, unmarried women would collect things that they would need to embark on married, life linens, things like that. This is kept them in there. They did on us until they were married. I just have a chest of linens towels and sheets. And Dell's heats. And things like that. Guess nothing more I could possibly need other than just clean sheets. And tells I have always found that entire thing to be very weird in very strange. But the thing is, is that as a for a hope chest, you really talk to your mom, my mom, they would know what that is. That was a thing when our parents were growing up that this is what they did like they had hoped Chester. This is my mom, I who is her cedar chess thing that she still has that would've exactly been it. That cedar chests would have been that what they used for that. My mom had one as while it got destroyed in a flood, however many, many years ago, it was just smell weird. But yes that is what the dress was in and things like that. That's yeah. That was essentially, what that was women had these chests. So we moved from there from there, too. Eleven key basket. Ooh. This sounds like it just got a little kinky, everybody drafts their keys in a bowl, and then you just take a key later on. No, this is not wife. Swap. Oh. This is an American thing. This was solely. An American thing American brides would be gifted other key basket, which would give her keys to unlock doors, chests, cupboards, and things in her new home. You can get into your house. Exactly it symbolized her new status. This is what that did this symbolize status lady of the house. Cube
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"People. Total retail value. Blah, blah. Contest. I've decided now. You can make it onto my wedding guest list. We'll say four spots. For four spots for random podcast listeners. So there's someone randomly listening to this. Especially since after the show will be on tunes here, people randomly be listening to this and like extend bowl Turkey. Decide they want to come to the wedding. When I come to our wedding. See what it's all about you wanna go with an overly like racist name. There's I'm not gonna say name of said person, this is they wanna come that's probably eight to come to our wedding, but they just randomly like I want those tickets, and then we'll make them jump through some weird hoops. Because, you know, flying in from Istanbul Turkey to get to our wedding. That goes Istanbul may not be in Turkey. I may not be I actually don't know either. I feel like. All right. This podcast is now going off the rails. Yeah, we've lost it. It's all gone. We went from being the wedding show to more like the unadulterated Bs podcasts happen. We apologize for that. We were definitely in a mood to record a certain type of podcasts in it. Yes. And this one is suffering for it. All right. So we're getting married in what three hundred eighty one days Eighty-one days, three hundred eighty one days to finalize our guest list, if you have any guest list questions remember him over to us via Email will answer them in future episodes of this podcast. But otherwise until then the countdown continues. Love you Honey. See you next week. Twig. Perfect. Stayed. Pooffy. Turn. I know it's true. I've been in the class with you think you're the wooden shoes. Agree perfect for me. A jazz up the show a little bit. Oh, goodness. Hi, everybody. I'm brian. I'm oh, and we're getting. Distracted reading them, Celje, -tations, marital miscreants.
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"How? So yes, but don't feel bad just inviting people to the party, a part of that, and enjoying them or having them come in. Say Hello to you and enjoy your presence. Joy the festivities. Yes, they can enjoy your party. They can enjoy that part of it, but they don't necessarily need to be there for the entire thing. They may not be that close. This is a great thing for co workers. Those are the people that are like the satellites. So it's not like the moon. The moon's, always there moons kinds of moon and the earth rock-hard satellites come and go. Their orbits can sometimes be ellipses therefore, they're further away, sometimes closer. Sometimes they crashed into space debris in fall, plummeting to the earth, or Corinne, outerspace. Never to be heard or seen from again. I think that happens quite a bit. So make sure you don't invite satellites to heading. It's okay to have them come to the reception. Yes. By losing it here. Yeah. It's really stop. This is not working as far as like an allergy, you started out strongly, super strong super super strong on the money on. And then it kind of doubts. Yeah. Drifted off. You tried to keep it going. I think you forgot what started on those minisatellites that the bigger satellites spit out in space. Those are the Kwaidan ses, you don't want them there at all. Maybe you do. I don't think I've learned anything from anything. You said haven't no. Sorry. At this point, I'm going to have space analogies, and cut it out jokes the entire time. We're referring to, I guess, list, different strokes for different folks for not going to get very far on this. Why do I have the bad feeling that it's just going to be a Honey invite whoever you want? I got a list of like seven dudes I met down at the biker bar last weekend at the bike to a biker bar. Was there for this today, part go to bed? And yep. Sure. Yeah. So no questions of reach the mailbag this far on Brian Melba Mary, but if you do have a question, but anything that we've talked about, or perhaps, even have a tip of your own, you want to send along to us. We'll read that on the podcast, you can send that to be M G M, the dark ravine dot com. In addition, you can always go to the dark, Wien dot com and check out the podcast show post for this podcast and you can post your comments in the comments section there, we'd read those as well. If you're interested in helping out this show, or the other shows from the darker Wien, or even just donating to the wedding effort, you can check us out at a patriot and the link is on our website at the dark, Wien dot com. I believe it's patriots dot com slash the dark Wien. So not only can you donate to the wedding effort. But if you just like listening to the podcast, I want to help support this show and the other's at the darker Wien you can actually just submit your donations that way. There's two ways to do it. It's a nice tidy little tiny amount out of your checking or credit card account once a month, they want to donate a dollar a month every little dollar. That's right. Exactly. And it comes out automatically union have to think about it ever again and it shows up magically in our account power of financial institutions, otherwise you can also do one time. Nation. So let's say I don't wanna give you three dollars and fifty cents every month, but I'm be more than happy to give you twenty five bucks. Once you can do that as well. The other thing that we've been trying to get people to do is follow us on Facebook through Facebook dot com. Forward slash the dark ravine, and that's our podcast network page, and anything about this podcast and our other podcasts shows up there. So check that out become a follower on that Facebook page. Do we have anything else to add about guest list now that I've done pimping, all of the other stuff that we have to? It. Don't think so that's it. We hammered out our guest list yet. No, it's an ever evolving beast. Well, I shouldn't say that we have we have the family parts we have my half of the wedding party, we have the children weird. We have to sit down and hammer out the friend Clayton's part of this acquaintances. Yeah. We haven't gotten there yet. This can I give away on this show? It invitation to our wedding tickets. It's like. Right. Right. We ask a question. We'll have a competition. This is this is going to be in the works coming next week. Who knows us best. Well the contest. Actually get to eat. Have a few drinks. Yeah. It's well worth it. It is room and board has not provided no traveling accommodations are not provided by that is. I knew. I have to look, up some contest language, so I can go off and rattled off in the if you've ever listened to the radio, and they do the long like you're only allowed to win a contest, once every thirty days from the global related to affiliated with anyway, for this company or any of its sister companies. You are unable to win a prize. Less than twenty five dollars. Maybe giving to other people.
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"Susie. Right. Thanks pretty much. Will they make your wedding more fun? A wedding isn't about fun if they're going to make your wedding more fun than you should just invite them. Apparently according to. Just do it just do it guys. The life of the party is going to take all attention away from you, your bride or your bride. And or groom whichever way you're looking at that from say you and your bride or your bright and new. Giving no option. Same thing continue. All right. And as if it's family is it someone your parents would want their, the answer is no then cut them. If the answer is, yes, the next question is are your parents paying for the wedding? The answer is no cut them. The answer is, yes, they're invited while we're cutting the Dave Kuei cut it out motion. Every time that okay. If that's what you're going to feel better. Out. It's gonna get old real fast cut it out, just like about now got through two of them. And I'm done cut. Continue. So. Kinda summarize this. Because guessing summation. Yes. 'nother thing we really need to talk to family, because I see you're going to have to go to your parents on both sides and find out who they feel is necessary to be indication is key. Now, if you've got a little bit more of a thing, where you have maybe a bigger room smaller room. You can give them a number. Don't feel guilty about that. You can go, you can have twenty people that's going to be really hard for pretty much any family. I know. But hey, if it works for yours, then great. Your list is ten people long that includes, you make it. So we have unfortunately, we kind of have downside to that, as you come from a very large family. So even with just your aunts, and uncles on our list, then added, you know, quite a few people eleven on one side and six on the other five. Sure, I don't know. I have a list, I can look at it, but communication. But that being the point that, you know, that definitely comes up with numbers, very quickly, when you start talking about siblings that parents, come from large families or you yourself, come from a large family us in our family alone, or seven people, and we have to feed all of us. So, nope. Kids, get finger, sandwiches and slices of processed cheese product. They would be happy as plans, they would probably that more than whatever. We ended up saving them. That's another thing that was on was on these lists. If you don't feel comfortable children at your wedding that is your right? You should not feel guilty for saying you do not want kids at your wedding, obviously, for us. That is not something those feasible. Not something that seizable. I remember so but all of these different things for different people different strokes for different folks, as they say. Yes, sir. Trying to produce the show and listen and not know anything about guest lists. Well, I gave you a list said here, I didn't even know my parents gave you a list. You didn't. Give me any didn't do anything. Nope, that's right. Don't be me fellows for those fellas that are still listening to this podcast three episodes in. You have to be involved. Well, I mean, we do have a podcast about our wedding. So in that way you are involved. I am. So by me, making terrible jokes while you explain things I'm involved. Some it wouldn't be that much different. If we were just sitting down talking about it either. No come out, it really wouldn't be. And I feel like half of our conversations that we've had to try to have regarding this. I have to turn into Nagy little woman just did what you need to do. No. You don't sit at done. In a while. I got put away a monkey. Yes, you do. Oh man reference, not gonna make any sense. No sound terrible, which podcast in my listening to and why does he have what does he do with monkey? What is going on here? What more do I need to know about guest list? That's good. We're going to call it today, right there. Give you a few flow charts. What you should really do is make up a nice power press presentation and show it off to your family and tell them, why each and every single person has been cuts. It's like the weakest link you are the weakest link you really wanted to get into that much detail in good. Go that far into it. I'm sure you could. Basically with guest list. The hardest thing is that you feel like you should have to invite everyone. Everyone feels like you should have to invite them. And it's really kind of sticking your round another thing that we've always talked about that I meant to throw in there and forgot you is do not feel bad doing dual invitations dual invitations. Whatever do you mean. So. Just answer the question, I'm chuckling. Don't feel bad just inviting someone to the reception. Oh, absolutely. Not anyway, sit around with a bunch of study old people while we eat lukewarm piece of prime rib, most likely came from. Very, very sick. How?
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"Family friends. Whoever it is get the list from your parents. Get the list from whoever and start there, because this number is going to be astronomical. It's going to scare the crap out of you, but you have to start somewhere. So. Ten rules to keep in mind when you're trying to cut people number one. If you live in the same city as the potential invite and don't see them outside of events organized by mutual friends. Then don't invite them. These people are not your friends. They're your friends, friends friends friends at this point, what you're doing is you're inviting acquaintances. What if all I have is acquaintances, that's a whole nother pet guest. Number two. If when you visit the town where the potential invading lives, and you don't call them or plan to see them then don't invite them getting shorter and shorter by the minute. If you have noticed to see them when you go to visit them, then obviously, they are not that important to you check and check. If you wonder what do they want when a person calls, you, then they should not be attending your wedding. Ooh, Tom go into voice mail. Unfortunate name to have randomly picked out. It was, which was actually I'm using but. All right now, offense meant anyone named Tom who I may or may not actually. No. If you or your significant significance other has had sexual relations with a person than the one who did not engage in such relations has veto power over the invite. Just take this step further and be like you've had sex with somebody don't invite them to your wedding. Just seems like an awful idea across the board. For co workers apply the but for test if the if the company dissolved, tomorrow, would you still be friends with them, but for your job, do you have anything in common? No, really. Workers tend to get a little bit dicey and we'll go into that in a little bit. We're going to touch on coworkers again. Well, not particularly just co workers, but this kind of goes back to the people that you feel should get an invite. But you may not be as close to many more you should not let the HR department at your job here this if you're going to touch co workers. Honey? I got nothing. All right. I'm sorry. I don't know much about guests if the names like okay continue if the potential recipient has never met your significant other, and especially if they don't even know who they are, then don't invite them. That seems kind of like it would be something that would be pretty self explanatory most. But you never know but, you know. If your parents went to invite friends of theirs that you do not know or barely remember than your parents should help offset the costs pay the Bill. This is the thing. If your parents to you to invite specific people, the new really need to talk to them about how much or if at all they're willing to chip in because you should be footing. The Bill for a hundred of your parents friends, and not any of yours when it comes to plus ones, or guests of guests. No ring no bring is a nice goal, but is not realistic wait. Okay. Well, did you find articles full of wedding buzzwords? Ring to no brain article is actually one that I found. Don't cough into the microphone. It was just a very like powerful. No ring. No bring come on. All right, fine. But it doesn't work. It's not it doesn't work it because you're going to have friends that may never want to get married. You're going to have friends that could have been somebody for longer than you and your significant other. It's not a realistic, but you do have to keep in mind and be aware that plus ones are another person. So you're. Your headaches. Otherwise, we're just like randomly bringing stuffed animals. It would be cheaper. This is my plus one fluffy. He'll have the prime rib the private. For any potential invite you still on the fence about your relationship with this person, five years from now is their chance. You look at your wedding pictures, and say who is that? Weights. I'm hoping not sunny. I think we're not inviting anyone. All right. One final factor to consider is what kind of guests they would make. I want the rowdy ones that are going to be dancing on the bar with their ties wrapped around their head tied around her head draped in front of their face santee. I think we probably have several of those ready. I don't think we need to look. For more Damon eighty so those are just some rules for wedding guest. Lists their little weird not very specific. But I don't know. I think those were all fairly specific view. I guess they give you a general sense to take that one step further one thing that I found that was absolutely awesome. Is that you make some rules for cutting you both agree on and you actually stick with them? That's right. I got the cut list. So it's cut down day at the NFL NFL preseason why I suddenly forgot sports. I don't know what sports are the wedding just fogging your brain down. Preseason. We need to get down to fifty three dudes, Saul. We're inviting fifty three fifty three six foot four two hundred plus pound guys. I know that many, I just wanna say that would probably like be a little bit harder to come up with to be honest with you. We're just inviting the Green Bay Packers. The entire team. That's it. That's it. All right. But it is a little bit like that. You know, you kind of have to be like, I want XYZ adding, that's exactly what it is. The guy who can play man-to-man defense and as good and the bump and run coverage. But what I don't need is another big three hundred plus pound. Do push around people agreed. So we have to make those compromises. Yes, just like you would building. This is how I'm going to think about this. You're going to think about this is what you're gonna guest list is now my own personal NFL roster. Hey, you know what? Honey, sand salary cap, although we accept we sort of have one of those two, as far as the budget is also true. I'm just not paying that budget that money to them. Yes. That's very important. I'm willing to spell spend twelve dollars and seventy five cents on my old college roommate. Why did you get all said? It's very, that's very cute. If that's what you think of meals going to cost. I just said this what I was willing to spend, therefore, he's probably getting cut. Gotcha. Gotcha. All right. So a really cool thing that I found was kind of a fullest flow, I know this was something that made it a little bit easier and kind of helps you go through those cutting rules, you can change them to whatever you need them to be. But this was just their idea of what you should have on their the start off, as have you talked to this person in the last year. If the answer is, yes, do you spend time with them outside of work? If the answer to this is, yes, is it someone you would normally buy dinner for that question. Feels a little bit weird to me. I feel like this is some sort of a wedding guest list, choose your own adventure. Well, that's actually what it is. It's a it's a very cute. Little flow chart here. If you would go out to dinner together turn to page twenty seven right now. If the answer those questions was yes, then they're invited. Oh, no. You've opened the airlock and now we're floating in space. You have died. Those people that choose your own adventure books. If you're if the answer this questions was no than you do not bite them. Oh, they get skipped onto the cutlass. Yes, you don't make the fifty three man roster. Now, if you go back to the heavy talk to this person in the last year if your answer is no, the next question is, do you have close personal family connection with this person? If your answer is friend, feel weird about that question. What, what entails, a close family me? I can't talk on this show tonight. What entails a close family connection like they're actually, in my family or we had children together? That would fall into the have you ever had sex question. So that would be a no. Okay. Just wondering, like, I feel weird. Like, that's what we're questioned aren't relatives generally just invited. Well, are we going to invite third cousin George whose, nobody's ever met before? I don't know. Third. Cousin, George exactly. So you would not have a close personal or family relationship with emperor enough think my point has been defended. So the next question is, do they know your partner's name, if they do not know your significant other's name, don't invite them? So nice to see you again, Susie.
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"Hey, this is Brian Dunkel of the unadulterated BS podcast. And it's time to listen to our show. Wait. I can't say that. No. So this is what podcast is this, that I'm doing this ad on the wedding. So you're telling me I can't say. None of that. I can't say any of that on this show. Well. Sorry. Anyway. Listen to the NFL three two Bs podcast on the dark ravine dot com and you can hear exactly what I said. I'm assuming it was all bleeped out, probably. Hello, everybody. That's not how you start. Cream. Cotin and the Hugh Grant stub Q watch your mom elite in your dreams Iraq, our on brew. Golsen two weekends dancing Jammie pants deal. The. Of our listeners. I'm Brian, I am out and getting married. Three hundred eighty one days. Perfect. Steve. Intern. I know it's true. The clouds with you. With you think you're. Perfect for me tonight. We're going to touch on the topic of guess guess lists. This is ready to start striking people down. Tell them that they don't get to come to my wedding. You do except for I don't be rude, but we're going to start taking out like. A donation box pretty soon. Donations are fun before we get really started into guest list. That's what it is guest list. Let's talk about a little bit about this podcast as you said, we're getting married in how many days now, three hundred eighty one so not enough times dwindling quickly. But anyway, this podcast is about us giving. You are lessons learned in a few tips on the various aspects of planning, our wedding, and hopefully, it can be helpful for you and your wedding. Problem. Listened to the fuck. Swarmed by mosquitoes. And as a result, smell was itching furiously very. So yes, lists knows don't invite the mosquito. Yes. Keep them -squitoes far far away. Do invite the bug control specialists. Yes. No to the mosquitos such candles. And I mean the bad way and not good say, not Zeka. All right. Enlighten us a little bit on the guest list supposed to do. And we're like what we're more than a year out still. And I'm thinking about who gets to come. Well, yes, because, well, you have to. Because who gets to calm is going to determine how much food you need much food, UNITA's is going to determine how much you're going to spend on food, so on and so forth. The size of the room already, as well as we talked about location on the most recent addition to the spot guest right on that. Right. Which will? No, you're right. Okay. The other thing is, is that people like to assume that, who you should invite. So you've got. You and your fiancee, wanting to come up with people that you want to have their both of you are going to have people that are close to you that you want invited. Then you have to explain that out even further, and you have your parents on both sides, and in some situations, you may have a split family where there's now suddenly. Four sides set of people, then you have the people who just think that they should be invited. Those are always fun people. So it can get very out of hand very quickly. So I found some articles tips for simplifying in helping you with your guest list. Yes. Invite only people whose names begin with litters eight through the no not quite that way. So. You wanted to come up with the main list or a masterless this master list should include everyone. You think you should invite? Okay. So you're talking about family
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"Handle. And as always, you can always find everything we do at the dark ravine dot com. The other reason we started this podcast is because not only are we going to provide you with some information about weddings and our wedding experience, but we're going to beg you for money. And there's a couple of ways that you can actually support not only just us and this whole marriage thing. But the Dirk ravine is a whole one of the easiest ways to do that is go to the dark ravine dot com whenever you're thinking about shopping on Amazon. Amazon's really great for podcasters because they give us these banners that you can just click on from our websites you go to Amazon, and you can buy, whatever you like, and we get a little bit of a taste, and it doesn't cost you anything extra. Nothing doesn't even affect you in the least, not even just have one more. Click one more click. That's all it takes. Go to the darker, Wien dot com. All lower case, all upper case doesn't matter and click on our Amazon banners. You'll go to Amazon and at some point, I'm sure we'll have some kind of wedding registry up there. They all sorts of fun gifts. Oh, yeah. Because we're giving him information things you might not know helpful things. And in fact, registries will be covered on this as well. So that, that's the way this works, and for us, you're going to help our podcast, but we're also gonna start at some point, probably asking do nations for the wedding. When did we mentioned this is a very tight budget. Very tight very tight budget. And for those listeners out there, that know, us personally, who expect to have an invite to said wedding. We have to feed you. Yes. So if you want to be fed writes, think of us think of us, five dollars a Cup of coffee span, just send it our ways and we're gonna play play some links on our actual page on the dark room, which is the Dirk ravine dot com for slash B M GM already set up look at you all good to go. And in addition to being able to find the latest Brian Mel get married podcast. You'll also be able to see the links for donating to us have a patriot and page all set up. Not quite yet. It'll be there or I also have pay pal links so that you can just through the convenience of your cell phone. It's you paltry dollars to help us get married. And also to thank us for the information that we may be providing you that you didn't know. Yes, and I promise it will get at least slightly more informative than this ipad can. Oh, this is really just laying it out there, because some big plans in addition to location, next week, we discuss what we're gonna do two weeks from this podcast. We didn't. But going off of the wonderful informational things that I found our next conversation should more than likely be wedding party. I know you're dreading conversation. Oh, see conflict. This is why you came to the podcast. You don't wanna hear people get buried. You wanna hear a marriage dissolve before. Time. We also have plans interview guests things like deejays cake bakers all these different things until we get up to the point of our actual wedding at which point, we've already decided we're gonna find some time to set aside and do a final podcast after we've actually been married. Yes. If we decided what the entire like, like, how that's gonna work. Nope. Nope. We haven't gotten there we've just we've just decided that there will actually be sometimes that aside at some point, which means weirdly, all of our recording equipment has to go to the wedding with us on this. Nice little carton. Now. Perfect we can just roll it there. We will set side sometime to maybe interview some guests, maybe interviewer bridal party, maybe drunkenly. Joe my wedding suck. But we also promise some experts from our own guests. Ooh. Yeah. Will those will be screened for. Right. We know our friends poet production. But yes, I think that we will definitely have to give you listeners than anyone who. Is being run in the garbage cans. Promise to give you listeners some insight into how our own wedding goes, and hopefully he'll be able to give us some feedback on year. Go yours goes. Who follow podcasts? I like it. Four hundred eight days. How many weeks is that it's going to be there? Well, there's fifty two. Take sixty weeks. So at most sixty sixty one podcast for you to listen to coming up in the future all around our wedding, and hopefully yours. Yep. Sorry. The so the seeds of romance for the people out. There are romances already budding blossoming. There's could just be beginning. Just be happy young couples listening to dismiss on really old. But yeah. Forgetting there. So that's what you have to look forward to for the next sixty weeks. I'm Brian Mel get married. So remember, check us out on the dark Wien dot com. We haven't come up with an ending the show. Hence the rambling. Yeah. We have nothing. We don't have anything we hit all the points. We did. I think that's good. We can figure something I don't know how I can on this show. Well, have you baby? Next week.
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"Second. So unfair, isn't it? Really? Why is it always the dudes fault? Fellas. Am I? Right. Because I know there's tons of fellas listening to the wedding podcast. Wedding podcast, tons. I'm sure there's tons. Yeah. You know, apparently you really wanted to follow that whole romantic comedy. Script. Go that way. Right. It really does for beat. Yeah. Meet cute. Dude screws up. And then finally lack they get back together again. And everyone off into the sunset sunset. I'll happy as can be now in most romantic comedies. It doesn't take a decade and a total of five children to get to the final act. Ours was just a grueling long, slowly paced methodically paced romantic movie methodically pace. Well, that's what they call most movies that are really, really long was very long. Just methodically. Paste. It's a grinder. Ryan through it. True. So the end result here to some all of this jumbled nonsense up, I have three kids. Yes. But you don't. One two, three. Is that Matt's many, many years ago, dude, screwed up, wait? Faux pas. All right. Screwed up continue. Reconnected now have five children between us, and we're not getting married wedding. Parties solved. Not really. That's another one, other podcasts though, isn't it? Yeah, yeah. So they had it, that's our story. The story that is the very roundabout compasses the entire timeframes zombie apocalypse with a spoon. Are you having faux pas minors? Reach of etiquette. That's a whole nother pike. Okay. Sorry. Five children. Children getting married. Yeah. Four hundred eight days this as yeah. To figure this out, and this is what you're getting into listening to this show. She's going to give you valuable precise information. I'm gonna make jokes that might need to be believed up. That is a very, very good way of looking at this guest. Great. Yes. So with that in mind, what are we going to be talking about next week on this show? And I know this show is going to be a little on the short side. But this way, the folks out there can actually Email us any questions, they might have that we can then, do some research on since we're already researching these things, anyway, we are, and the male dress, that you can send any questions to the ways you can go to the dark ravine dot com, and that is our podcast network home to this podcast. The unadulterated BS podcasts and liquor flicks. Is that too racy to say, even no, that's fine. That's fine. You're good at the dark. Ravine dot com. There's a contact us page link at the bottom of the page. Click that, that sends it to our Email or you can reach out to be M G M as in Brian Mel, get married at the Dirk, ravine dot com with any questions on locations. Yes, definitely and we'll talk about locations next week. We'll talk about why it's so important to start your search for a location way in advance in advance, you really need to get on that right away. And why teasing don't give out too much information. They won't have to listen to. We'll talk about how we came up with our location. And also, what locations could cost you who. Yeah. Money already. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Money. I already laid out money. Also. What you should know about deposits for locations. Who, yeah, what do I need to know about deposits for locations, right tease? It is good idea. Good idea. In the meantime, in addition to just setting us, Nima with any questions you might have about wedding locations. You can also reach out to us on social media where available mostly through the darker Wien social media web presence, so we're on Facebook at Facebook dot com slash the dark ravine. That's probably where you find this podcast in the first place. That'd be my guess I'm not uploading us die tunes for a couple of episodes. So anybody who found this got this pre I tunes. Ooh. Now, I know they're on the cutting edge of technology. Not dependent upon the tune store. They're searching it out. They're finding us or we're also available on Twitter. Debating whether to start when actually four the wedding podcast, we've basically, it have tagging have like has taken might be better. Anyway. It's dark underscore ravine on Twitter for the network. Twitter account. You don't think be MGM at B M on Twitter might work someone might already have that. So somebody could already have that researched this at. Yeah. And it might work. But I mean, if we're going to start a Twitter account for everything we're gonna get really really, really overwhelmed with Twitter accounts, get, like six exactly, my point only check to exactly, and I've only been recently good at actually having anything to do with my Twitter account. Well, I mean, that's okay. So for now just dark underscore ravine, or actually could reach out to us individually mines at BC Dunkel. And you don't have to get out if you want mine's pretty public. So so is mine. I just can't think of it now at Ma'al eighty four. Yup. Go. See I almost my own Twitter handle.
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"Bing bong. You take copy with your cream screen Cotin, and Hugh Grant stub, Q, fraudster mumble it in your dreams Iraq, our own brew. Golsen two weekends dancing Jammie pants deal. The afternoon. I know it's hard to thing, someone could be in sync with your ex entrace t. The per way. Perfect. Stay. Self turn. I know it's true. With you. Think your wooden shoe. I am Brian. I'm oh, and we're getting married and four hundred eight days or hundred eight days four hundred eight days. That's it, that's it. And that's what this podcast is about. It's about our experiences and getting married and hopefully Rabl to help some people along the way, maybe answer some questions. Are you a wedding expert? I am not are you? I am not a winning expert. No. Oh, that's what we're gonna talk about on this show. That was gonna be the first thing was going to be the first thing. How, how would this is essentially our first wedding despite us both being married in the past? It's very true. Very, very true. And probably even more that you already kind of went through the whole big wedding thing, once without having any idea, how to do any of this. Right. I had almost nothing to do with any of it now. And I, I'm legitimately the one who did the let's eloped Tobago's things. So I have no idea what any of this is about. So in four hundred eight days. Yes. We have to plan an entire wedding. Correct. I'm going to say something bad. I guess if that for the other podcasts. Yes, toned down the language. This is the nice pie mice podcasts. Nice pack it out. You really had to say it didn't. Yes. And four hundred eight days we have to pull off an entire wedding from start to finish. Yes, I'm a very low budget, very low budget, very low budget. So hopefully through our experiences you'll learn a little bit. So what your job is this show is just an intro. We're not going to go through a whole lot today. We will be going through some more next week and we'll tease that at the end of the show, just at the teaser, they have to come back. For more next time, figuring out exciting news. So what are we gonna talk about today, then because it's been like three minutes of podcast? And we can't just go, like a three minute. No, I don't know. Maybe we should say who we are, that would be helpful would. I'm Brian, I'm oh, all right. Well, I suppose we should probably tell some background why there's a history in the first place we should do that. Yeah. Well, you're gonna Edger inappropriate jokes here. Well, we met going on eleven years now to figure this out the other day. But eleven years now this over a decade ago. Working for the same bloodsucking company. And nothing like financially serving for telephone data systems. Oh, yes. And the lovely people, the lovely lovely people who use that service over a decade ago. Know was pre like cable internet, and all that stuff. So people still head online. It was it was we have that, that's a whole nother podcast. I'm back in a week for. Butts ari. So we might you know yen's ago back there. And our entire relationship started over an Email, an Email about the Zambia, Pacalypse and spoons. Well. What relationship doesn't start over an Email about surviving, those ambi- apocalypse with spoons? Yes, throwing spoons on base because, hey, it's just a spoon. I think I was talking to my best friend at the time not that long before that. But we're just going to hoard guns and stuff to stave off his ambi- buckle up. Yeah. I'm pretty sure that came up somewhere in there, too, because I'm pretty sure the next question I had for you after reading this Email in this article, you sent me was why are we talking about this on clips? That's my go-to icebreaker. Oh, that's here. That's only one that's ever heard it, so. Well, I feel I feel special obviously worked to some extent for you. Right. It did, ladies man. Apparently, so our. Or I just thought you were such a door. Yes. So huge. I just figured that, you know, in my corner, and that little office that I'm like, oh, he just needs a friends. Well, that's I mean, that's not the whole story. It's not like we've been together for seven years. She'll it's true. It we haven't been has, then you'd probably be getting your ass kicked, if, oh, know eleven years, and we weren't already married. Know someone who's an idiot, always. Yeah. Well, you know, the fingers wait a second.