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"brett mckay" Discussed on Leading Saints Podcast

Leading Saints Podcast

05:54 min | 2 months ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on Leading Saints Podcast

"Today I'm the opportunity to sit down through the powers of the Internet with Brian class, how are you? Good, thanks for having me. Yeah, you know, I first came across your name and your work on the art of manliness podcast, my friend Brett McKay there produces some great content and I always listen and you had an intriguing topic from a book you wrote that I thought fit well in our audience, so I reached out to you. So maybe you just introduce yourself around your book and maybe give us a little bit about your background. Sure. So I'm an associate Professor of global politics at university college London. I grew up in Minnesota. I'm not English as you can probably tell from my accent. And the way I sort of introduced myself often is I study bad people who do bad things in power. So there's a fair amount of those out there. And what I'm really interested in is basically how we can make people in power behave better and how we can engineer systems that attract the right kinds of people to positions of leadership in the future as well. So my view very strongly is that there's a lot that can be done and I'm despite having met some of some really awful people around the world. I'm a die hard optimist and I think we can make a much better world. Nice. Love it. Well, before we jump into our discussion, I always got to ask you, you know, this is leading saints where podcasts to help Latter day Saints be better prepared to lead. And you are not a latter day saint at least I assume. I didn't read it anywhere near bio, but any strange like interactions with Mormons, Latter day Saints, or sometimes it referred to LDS that come to mind. We always love making those connections. Yeah, not particularly strange..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on Leading Saints Podcast

Leading Saints Podcast

07:57 min | 7 months ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on Leading Saints Podcast

"Kirk, Kirk, weissler. We're gonna. This is gonna be a tough one Kirk, 'cause I'm Curt and your Kirk. How are you Kirk? That's gonna be great. And everyone always asks is it KRT? Yeah. Exactly. And as Kurt with a T, but you know, you can go a different direction. That's fine. Yours is the true. That's right. Tell us a little bit about yourself. Put yourself in the context of Kurt. As far as where you live, what do you do? That sort of thing. Sure. So I live in Gilbert Arizona. We've lived here about 7 years, moved here from Georgia, we're out there about 9 years. The girl I married, Rebecca, we've been hanging out together for 30 years. Wow. We met both rejected BYU students going to the community college, which from what I understand now is even bigger than BYU. You view. I was one of those rejects that ended up in norm as well. But we were there during the main change. You know, when Carrie Romans worked was there and they were changing from two to four years and then all that. But we have 6 children together. Three boys three girls. I make my living primarily doing coaching training leadership and culture based team building called I call it culture building training. I usually in person training. It's been a little slow this last year and a half for in person training. So I've done something called zip zap zoom, you know, how to build a virtual team, things like that to kind of fill the gap, but being with people is obviously just so much more fun. But we could, I'd be needing me with you in the studio and it would just be so fun. And I listened to you so much. So that's what I've done. That's what I do. And then I think the context that got you and I connected was my recent service as an LDS bishop. I know you do a lot of so much of what you do with benefits leaders as they're trying to work with the different populations and challenges they face. And so I think that's how you and I got connected and through SQL Friends. Yeah. And what do you remember from that as far as starting that experience as bishop? I mean is there a story there as far as how you recalled or what that experience was like because even though you're this guy that goes around coaches and presents about culture and leadership, I just feel like church leadership sometimes can be the great equalizer, right? That just brings everybody to the same ground zero and says, all right, now you give it a shot. What do you remember about that learning experience at the beginning? Yeah. Okay, so at some point, so I'm 57 now, so I was in my early 50s when this happened. And I don't know how old you look very young to me. I turned 40 this year, so. But think about the number of bishops we've been through. Yeah. And I'm assuming you served in LDS mission, I don't know, but if some missionaries, some missionary stay with one mission, president submission had the experience of being with two. And so you see these dynamics in leadership and styles and that kind of thing. And so our ward culture, we just barely moved from Gilbert, just very moved to go to Arizona from Georgia. So we got there during the summer. I mean, we were just unpacking when this happened. And so we didn't have any preconceived notion or experience. Our first couple of Sundays at church, most people were already gone on vacation because in Arizona, people during the summer exit the state. Makes sense. Like a snowbird opposite thing. So I don't have any idea. I looked at my wife and I thought, well, this is interesting. There's a lot of people they could choose from. So we're going to say this came from God. We're going to lean in and have a great experience. And then I had a few people from the state tell me that this particular ward was a little bit of a stepchild to the stake in that there was a little higher turnover, more of a starter homes. There's going to be more needs. That type of scenario. And I said, okay, well, I didn't know what that meant. And so but I was like any bishop, I was excited. And like any bishop, well, I think, I don't know what anybody should does with that. I know what I do that. I'm going to be the best. I'm going to break records. My job allows me to go over in the morning. I'm just going to read that hammock a couple times. It's the first couple of weeks. I'm just going to be right and then and then you get on you leave the MTC and you hit the mission. This is how this is going to go. Yeah. Does that sound familiar? Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. I'm going to make the state president so proud, you know? Trust me. I love that. Love that. And then how long did you serve as a bishop? 5 years. 5 years. Nice. So pretty, pretty typical for Arizona, right? I don't know. I think think so. There was threats from the state president that my call would be extended and shortened. So there was moments when there was moments when he said, you know, I'd be the bishop, but I never thought you would do that. And we'll talk about that a little bit. But he still loved me and I still love him. Yeah. So let's just go to the basics as far as culture is concerned. You know, through the lens of your experience as a bishop, but also as a speaker and consultant and coach. We hear this term culture a lot. And sometimes it's just it can feel more like a buzzword. I think generally people understand what we're saying about culture. And these phrases that you're religious community. Oh, that's not doctor, and that's culture. And it's really hard to sit down with the concept of culture as a leader and say, okay, now we're going to do a B and C so where do we begin to even understand what culture is or how we can start on this path of implementing a positive culture in award? Okay. Have you interviewed the guy that does the website, the art of manliness? Yeah, yeah. Okay, Brett McKay, yes. So yeah, he wrote an article called the father with intentionality. It's my go to short piece that I use with my corporations when I'm doing culture work. Because it's a 7 minute read that gives you a good concept. But I drafted a little something for you today, thinking you might ask this question. So here's what I wrote. Like families, every water branch or steak has its own unique culture. That feeling that's made up of our collective beliefs and attitudes and energy of the members and the stories that they tell themselves and others about themselves and others and about how the ward is and how the bishop is and how the young men's program is. You as a bishop saw people come in, they were kind of surfing your award. They were like, I can move anywhere in this community. I'm just going to reward hopping looking for that fit, right? Like, that just when they moved to a new city, we go to church by zip code, but that just go to church by preacher. Like, a one looking for the preacher that kind of fits my so while everyone contributed to the culture, leaders can play this key role in shifting and shaping that culture. And they will do this intentionally, as Brett writes, or they'll do it unintentionally, either way, you and I are going to shape that culture. So my question for you Kurt is, have there been times in your church? Think of it. Think about times in nutrients where you visit another ward and experience something about that other war that you're like, wow, that's that's cool. I mean, or that's remarkable, or man, I wish our board did that, or I'm gonna do that when I'm a bishop's update. Can you think of any specific things that you saw? Just specific thing. I'll give you one. Okay. Yeah. Haven't you? Haven't we all gone to award and go, man, these deacons in the sacrament? That's tight. Yeah. They were crisp. That would have taken us 15 more minutes. How'd they do that in 15 minutes, right? Like, wow, those guys, right? Or you go to this ward and there's this buzz. There's just this, I mean, it's not reverent, but there's a good feeling. There's all this buzz, and then the bishop brick stands and it just goes like, wow, this got quiet. Or going to a singles ward, where there is no children and going, it's too quiet. I'm right. But we go to these wards and we had these experiences and those experiences are part of that world's culture. And sometimes we're like, wow, that's cool, and sometimes we're like, oh, I kind of miss my work. Yeah. But we all belong to the same faith. We all have the same doctrine. So I've imagined I've often imagined this dream calling in the church, which is that whether Kirk wisely, you've been called to serve as a best practice gather your assignment as to visit rewards each Sunday.

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"brett mckay" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

03:02 min | 1 year ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on Order of Man: Protect | Provide | Preside

"Hey dylan stopped smashing the shit out of your fingers that hammer. That's not what it's four instead. Let's go find it's pounded into here. And let's figure out how to build a home. So dylan you need to do one of two things. And i would suggest that getting off of social media actually isn't the answer and i hear from a lot of guys like i'm off social media offense emma facebook and if that's your thing fine that's cool or that's what he need to do maybe raya and if that's what it requires then great use it. But here's the beautiful thing about social media you can actually put boundaries and place like i'll only cheques social media from noon or from three to five or whatever. I'm not going to be on my phone after seven o'clock at night. I'm not going to check my phone. First thing in the morning in fact what i'm gonna do is i'm gonna put it downstairs so i don't even have access to it until i get my butt out of bed and get ready for the day. Then i go downstairs and get into it but for me. Having social media is a very powerful tool to grow this movement and to grow my business. So i don't i choose not to smash the crap out of my hands because use it as an effective tool. So you need to establish some boundaries create some boundaries uphold those boundaries. And put those things in place so that you're not abusing the tool at your disposal and if you're incapable of doing that for whatever reason then yes i would say. Stop smashing your hand with tool. Stop beating yourself up with the tool one of the things that i did early early. On with order of man is i would look at what some other individuals would do. One in particular was brett mckay with art manliness. I've thought very and i still do think very highly of brett mckay much of what he's done with artem. Manliness has been a huge inspiration for what we've done here. But what i would do is i would get on this little device and i would go to his account and i would see what he was posting. And how many comments and how many lakes and amateur action and i try to figure out you know how much money who's making officer and things and it was very very destructive is very damaging to my psyche. So here's what i did. I typed in order to manliness on instagram and facebook and i clicked on follow because couldn't handle. It could couldn't handle that. And now now i follow it. Actually because it's not that big of a concern. Because i'm doing things i've figured out how to use this tool but i'm gonna do whatever's necessary to make sure that my mental wellbeing is taken care of and the boundary. I couldn't i couldn't maintain it. So i had enforce a greater boundary which is completely follow. It was a very healthy move. That i made so yeah. Stop using social media's at thing to beat yourself up and put the boundaries in place make decisions and use it correctly or don't use it at all. use it correct. That's what i'd say that's how you use it correctly or don't use it at all. Very simple scott pat pay. Is there a tipping point in our country..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

The Art of Manliness

01:40 min | 1 year ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

"Its fourth of july or independence. Day here the united states. So i'm with my family reading hamburgers. Shoot fireworks off rebroadcast. Episode number six sixteen a guide for the journey to your true calling whenever most popular episodes last year. Hope you enjoy it. We'll see you on wednesday with a brand new episode brett mckay here in welcome to another addition of the arc of manliness. Podcast one of the most burning questions in life is what it is your call to do with what your life's purpose. What great work are you meant to do. Guidance on this question can come from many sources and my guest today so that one of the best of the bag of gita text of scripture thousands of years old stephen cope the psychotherapist yoga teacher and the author of the great work of your life. The guide for the journey to your true calling stephen. I began our conversation with introduction. The bag of akita significant influence. It's had on philosopher leaders for ages what it can teach us about making difficult decisions. We then discuss the insights gita offers on the four pillars of right living. Begin with discerning. Your true calling her secret duty. We impact the three areas in your life to examine for clues to your life's purpose. Why that purpose may be small and quiet rather than big and splashing stephen than explains the doctrine of unified action. While you have to pursue your calling full out and why that pursuit should include the habit of deliberate practice discuss white central. Let go the outcome of actions to focus on the work itself in the need to turn your efforts to something bigger than yourself. Along the way. Stephen offers examples of how these pillars were embodying. The lives of eminent individuals lived out their purpose after the show's over check at our show. Am dot is slash. Gita a right.

"brett mckay" Discussed on Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

04:25 min | 2 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

"And so we we did that you know are. Are feel things fewer and everything and then The breeze shifted directions the based circuit to blow against the waterfall which created this spray. And in the spray was a rainbow. I I thought that was just beautiful. If anyone is thinking. Yeah cremations. Maybe the wrong way to go. It competed beautiful. Yeah, I haven't experienced like that. Yeah to spread them somewhere where maybe they're person love to be. That there was that shift in the wind was like I'm here There was a a bird flying around and. You know I don't know it was just surreal. It was a beautiful moment. I wish I could keep talking I feel like you have more Stewart it's. We're to talk about. Yeah I. I have a few more back to yeah. We're. GonNa. Have you back on went through? Yes do you have another book coming out soon? Yeah, so I see the contract from rapper. Policy again. which allocated about and do you have a title for the next one that's coming out? Yeah, it's called Liberty Justice and this one has no supernatural To it, it's just a straightforward thriller, and a lot of drama. Drama night, this one came out of the blue from me. I don't know where it came from, but I just knew I had to write in about. A thirteen year, old girl living with her mother who is addicted to heroin Oh. Wow, and she basically is taking care of her mom's kind of being happened to be a the adult. And of course. Something, you know, drug dealer shows up and and ends up. She's fighting with her mom and. Over some kind of misunderstanding, and and before they know the drug dealers ted I mean he he kinda accidentally. You know through their kind of fight hands dead. So the daughter is like frightened. What do I do? My mom is is curly, not in a state of mind to make the right decision right now. So out of fear of losing her mom. She packs her up and they they. They drive off and now they're running from the police now and now the brother of the drug dealer ends up hiring a heart manda track down and kill him, and so becomes this really tough thriller Ben in the same time I'm trying to work out their issues between the mother and daughter. Story Yeah I'm really excited about that one. I, I hope it all. Turns out really well I think. been through so much work on it I think it really got to get spot and. Nice congratulations. Well congratulations! So, where can everyone find you? In Utah Uh. I guess my website. It's Brett McKay books. Our et MC Kyi. That's probably the best way. Obviously there have links to to book club and to Amazon and good rates and all those things. Okay perfect I'll put that in the show notes. Thank you so much and I'm definitely I love that you do this part definitely. Thank everybody of course, and you're definitely coming back if there are more stories in there, I know. Where we will help one or two mortgage. I definitely definitely coming back in congratulations on the new book, and I'll definitely put your website in the show notes that everyone can find new and check out all your books or good. You say that enjoy the rescue a youtube. Thank you so much for listening to science from the other side, you can find me firm on all social media at fern Rene Ro end a Y, a love hearing from you and I love hearing your stories of signs, and if you would like to hear more episodes of this show, please be sure to subscribe in Apple podcasts. Thank you again and sweet dreams..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

08:17 min | 2 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

"Haven't seen it, but he's very I know he's very genuine and he's in John, Edward, who has been wonderful supporter minus? Yeah a huge proponent of his like he's very. He's like says like he is legit like he's. He wants to help people in his home. His craft and he's wants to learn and yeah. You know look. Those people Look at their helping people all the time. And certainly I felt like. I was able to help somebody. That made a lot more sense. Yeah I. IT happens so I. Think Perfect that he came to you because if maybe he came to one of your cousins, they might have felt like. Of course I have a dream of mine. Because I wanted badly like the sometimes like when central. Yeah they will make net would have been like that must be my mind playing tricks on me because I want to hear that message so badly, but to come from you. It legitimises it like the IT really is real. I had thought about it that way, but you're right. That's true. And I love that they have a job up there. But. Yeah and and the job sounds like exactly what he did for your grandpa like he helped him. Yeah exactly this. He didn't just click these. James are years apart from. The fact that they tied together like that still was. I've had I've had other James to and I another one. That was pretty amazing that my mother-in-law passed away and she. You know in life she had A. Severe Drinking Problem and you know that obviously affected us, you know and and it was really sad this. She's a wonderful beautiful lady against the enough about how great of a MOMS who has. A button her last few years. It got pretty severe. She ended up in hospital and she ended up passing away before he could make it to see her. You know that's been really hard on my wife. And and then I received a dream and once again terrible states votes in a couple years later. Time is different. To like time is such a human thing like we were constrained by, but another side. There is no like you know like three dimensional restraints like time spacer so to them. Yet to the matter if it was a couple of years later, it's still to her. It was it wasn't so much time passed. I believe on the other side that you are released from so many of the things here on earth that suddenly there's more of an understanding and the knowledge. I'm what? The Universe is and and everything beyond that. We really don't know about Yeah, yeah, and so. You know had this James and I was in this real like a family room or something and ton of family where surrounding that room and. People from my side of the family, people from her side of the family people from her from my wife's father side of the family people that would never in their life together. Hard to go like. Would you. BE HERE ON MY GRANDMA? My GRANDPA's over there and her uncle. Hundred outside of whatever you know. They were there. Some of them were yeah well I. I didn't. I didn't recognize all of them, but I did know that. Some of them are for my side of the family similar for. Her Mom. was there us in the center and you know? I sat down on the table and. And she came over and said. Would you like a drink and and I said No. Thank you I. Don't drink anymore and she's smiling. She said neither do I.. O., ball and you know. It's so. Big Emotional when I think I was just really dispel so genuine, unreal, just comforting handing the next day before I even shared this dream with my wife or anybody we were driving in a car, and my was in the back feet, and he said hey guys, you know. And Jim about grandma. And chills just went through my body. And the same night that I had. That really cemented that and he's a guy. I met with earlier were talking we were I think they were at a fair or an amusement park or something? And then you know they stopped and. She was asking about my other sign hill at the time he was. Serving a Nail the S. mission. And, he was Mexico serving you missing and she. said that she was really proud of him for what he was doing. And everything and we had So you know my my summer, having this dream said. Do, you believe that then she says yes. Yes, I do. And And then, of course, I shared my dream right ever he's. Like wow? This means something. I love that it was. It was dominated by like that. You both had the dream the same night. Like what are the chances of? Down and they love that I could just cry that she says I don't either because it, so we were just talking about like different understanding you. Lose you know when you're on earth. There are certain things that hold you down like addiction or prejudices, certain things that are so that they're not like they don't come from a place of laws, but when you are on the other side, you're released of all of that and like she to tell you that like I'm real like I'm released of that burden, right had helped me down. Earth is so beautiful. That's so huge, and and it's something that I can you know I talked to my wife about and I said you know. She! you know because my wife says Gosh. Why did she have to pass away? Why does she have to leave? You know because she was never gonna find that piece here, but she was able to find the piece when she passed away. Or just gotten worse here now. I don't think she was ever GonNa. Find that peace in herself like she could she you know passed on the saving grace to it was my. My Wife Stacey. She did call her at the hospital the night before. And she talked to her and. You know she was able to tell her I love you. She said you're GONNA. Love you and give my left to the boys and. Them all hugging. She actually choose wife enough after that conversation. Write it down word for word. She? Has This conversation that she had? Very personal tour and and I can't remember all the things that was said, but they were great. There were what she needed to here. Yeah, so she's able to still have that and I believe that she chose pass before we got there 'cause. Yes absolutely she's, she said we said all these things. That's the best way for us to close I. Don't want like for US I don't want you to be there when I pass. Because the best memory is are all these words that means so much. There's just everything just really means everything. We cremated her. And you know, so. We got her ashes and we have you know. Sounds bad, but you know what we did. Yeah, she's between her and her sister and and. And everybody and so, but there's still quite a bit left of rashes and. Held onto him for a while until. You know we want? Them somewhere. And, so we chose to finally we. Felt right. And We went up there and on anniversary, but for passing, we went to yellowstone, and the you know there's just a nice little breeze, and so we. We went down the river, just a little bit, so they'll we spread the ashes in the river, and then they floated down the waterfall..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

08:56 min | 2 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

"Immense team in the SEC. And he you know he may man when he when winning. Put a coma and. The nobody could figure out what the problem was. But only that we configure was had some connection to that flew. Somebody action to that and. Without too much detail, he ended up passing away maybe about a couple of months later, they ended up having to to take him off. Life Support and I can't imagine i. mean that's the worst that's. Worse nightmare, right off. And so it was, it was after that maybe. A few months after that or almost not quite a year later, I had the stream and it was my. That's my uncle. So I found myself this really large room. I almost want to say look like a train station or something, but. The design and and the colors, and and the brilliance was just this beautiful and I couldn't I couldn't quite describe it other than just. It just had this really beautiful architecture to it. I know walked out of that that large station and there was a like this really nice trolley car outside. And there was three men standing there, and they were in white suits and one of those Michael, bad. And my uncle Brad when he was alive, he was a big man. He was tall, but you know he was pretty overweight. When I saw him there. He looked thinner. JUST MORE OF A. Perfect. Ward of a perfect himself. Like could still recognize him. And so as talking to them, and I list that I could remember. That was sad, but. I. Ask them about Chandler. My cousin passed away if if I had something to do with the flu shot and they said. that. There's more to that than. Think that that could definitely had something to do with it. And And then they sat down with. My uncle and I'll preface with a little bit. I 'cause I I. Don't want anyone to misconstruing anything because. There's a few ties to religion that will come up that that helps them but I in no way pushing any beliefs of religion on anyone. This is just how that transpired. But I was talking and talk to him for a really long time. And one thing I found that, was he? He like has a job on the other side and his job is to help people through the Vale help them. From when they pass away, the other side and him and I imagine other two guys. They all of do together. And then he talked about. Many other things they talked about and and Elliot's Temple being built. Somebody. That's GonNa be happy comes sometime soon I mean he's really excited about at what was. Then, after the dream I woke up. And a lot of those like where the temples may build some of the parts of the conversation. We're already deleted for my head I had. I couldn't. I couldn't remember them the instant I will. So these are kind of all that I remember. But, the one remarkable thing about that dream was. It did not feel like a dream to me. I never saw remember walking through when I was walking through that dream I was like. Wow is not a dream. This one ounce August. Is really profound. And so I tell you now. I didn't know what to do with that. Had Experience, and I told my wife about it, and of course I did tell my mom and. And and she loved it. She was really close to her brother bad. And And may cousins. I wanted to tell them, but I don't know how I didn't know. You Know I. Don't know why I was just like. They can try to, because it's not like a calm and talk to him every day or or anything like that, so to just call him out of the blue and say hey, guess what I have this about that. But his oldest daughter lives in Chicago at the time with her family and she has really She's really strong in the church so her religion. She's really strong with her. When she moved back to your. Family Lou back to you Sir Kenny at more of an opportunity to talk to I. Just didn't know how to still yeah I talked to my other on coal wake. He's the one that lost his son. Chandler and I told him the story. Of what happened with my with my gym and he said well. Have you told a net this? Is Brad oldest daughter? And I said no I haven't and and he said. Can I think you should really talk to her? She would really love to hear that. So I finally got an opportunity to. Tell her. Tell her until I I told it to. And she actually broke I'm the chairs are really meant something tour and she had soc- went on to say well. In Life Babb is. not, religious at all. And he was almost the opposite in the way of with life, and and he does it trouble, and and and all these things were kind of you know the. Opposite of the Church and so when he passed away my. Cousin a net. She went through the temple now in this religion in the temple. What kind of goes on? Is You know you can receive blessings the temple here on earth? They'll help you that actually you carry on even through. Beyond this world when you when you pass away well when someone is passed away. You can still go through the temple in proxy for them, and and and do these ordinances that give them the blessings, and then of course on the other side. They can either. Accept them or reject them. So my cousin did that. She went through the temple that she did these special ordinances for him, but she never knew if he them. And and it just it. Really bothered her. For so many years, not knowing. Maybe. What's going on with her dad and loving has a patient and I said Oh. Yeah, he expects them. Really I mean he's doing this. He's doing that. He loves it. He's got a passion for it and. And I can say that without with one hundred percent confidence. He wouldn't have been part of about. This church is going to be temple. That's going to be built if he didn't care about it right? Yeah, and and of course I still never knew what temple. I think it was maybe a year or two. Though the trips came out and announced a new pimple, they wearing outs, and all sorts of new temples, but then they announced the temple going to be built in Saratoga Springs which is close to where I live. And I immediately started saying my whole body started Sakic and I was crying. I'm trying yeah yeah. That's a temple. Okay, that's nice, but. They when they when I kept thinking about it, I would start. My whole body would shudder in cry and I suddenly realized Oh. Wow, that's a temporary. It was really talking about. Yeah years years before they. They ever announced it. Click Click tonight and they feel like. You know had that dream. He told me something that I clearly shouldn't know. Right. I don't know it's just. I I think the most. The takeaway from I was I. Just love being able to share that with my cousin. And then it really meant to her. And I ended up sharing that story with the other two siblings as well may other two cousins. But. It really meant something more to a network. Well so you know, and maybe you watch it. You know the the Taylor. Henry Medium Hollywood me. I actually, I. Haven't even you would think that I would be the first one to watch it but I..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

08:55 min | 2 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on Signs From The Other Side with Fern Ronay

"Welcome to sign from the other side with fern. Renee I'm your host Verno I, and this is the place to share stories signs messages received from the other side real quick before we get started if you enjoy reading about signs, and if you enjoy fiction like Bridget Jones and sex in the city, you might enjoy my books better in the morning and better believe it, and if you like this podcast, please be sure to rate review in subscribe inapt podcasts and tell a friend to thank you so much for listening and onto the show. McKay is the author of the other side of elsewhere tree of souls and the damage. INC books. He is a Seattle cryptic on winner, and like many horror writers. He is a fan of Halloween as it says in his Amazon Bio you start decorating his house much too early in the season for his neighbors today I am so happy Brett is taking time from wandering demons in bloodthirsty psychopaths says to share his story of science from the other side hype Brad. How are you? Good. How are you doing? So we are publishing, siblings have the same publisher, and you're always the most supportive I always noticed as you're always the first to share someone's new release or sale or you're very. Fellow, author software so happy to finally be touting with you. Yeah me, too, and I can't figure story, but before we get to that. We were chatting a little bit before this, so you lived your whole life in Utah Yeah. Is that where you met your white? That's where I met my wife. So, yeah, let my life I've done some travelling, but yeah. is she a hard John Roseanne. Not at all. No. Know She's read a couple of them and I don't for some. You know and it's Kinda like The first damaging, but came out is is a pretty vicious. How and you know my my? I know my mom's GonNa read. So growing up in Utah, did you write? Your own short stories are actually. A reader as a kid kinda definitely wasn't a writer as a kid. People seem like writers or writing stories your whole life. I actually haven't been but I. Know a lot of. Funny as I as a really young, I was always just intrigued with movies than action and. Of course and And I would act. I would come back come out. or I would make up a whole story in my head from start to finish and kind of kind of play acted out, or you know with with my toys or whatever? are kind of that way, and then my GRANDPA was a huge Louis l'amour. San And he had all the Lulu more westerns. And so he would always borrow me a couple of books at a time. And so losing the more was my first love of writing. Because I am a big fan of Western so I. I loved his story and then. As I started going up I guess I was probably. Twelve years old and I was in my in past we had an assignment to. Write a science fiction tale, this is short glow thing so I wrote one and I drew pictures to it and every. Time, the end and My teacher was so impressed that like she gave me like an above a great I mean. And she read it to the whole class as a as an example, and after that we had a project or had a you know separating the groups and and come up with the play. And everybody, all of a sudden kind of wanted to be in my group and record that really never got much attention was getting attention and. That so that was my first bug to. Right. Yeah, how nineties so your Grandpa who got you into? The got you into more counting your a very close him? Yeah yeah very close to him. But what's what's ironic about some of these dreams? As sometimes I, Mike well. Why are they coming to me and not to someone? That's closer. I don't know so. So for instance My uncle, Uncle Brad he was he. He passed away when he was fifty years old for cardiac arrest. way way too young and it was like shortly after. Myself my wife got married, so that was back in eighty nine. Yes i. feel I'm really old. I'm fifty and I think about that now I think about how young he died. Yeah! But I had a couple of games of him, but nothing really significant. And I was close to. Everybody loved my bad. He was that guy that. Just do anything for anybody. And what's mine is yours and just always helpful and. Just just eleven man, but later on my grandma and GRANDPA gotten a car accident. The hospital and that night I had a dream that my GRANDPA was or no that my uncle Brad. is lifting my grandpa a out of the water. And and he was walking him to the shore, and then the next day. My My GRANDPA passed away. Oh. That? Jane was the first thing to me that said wow. I I had a premonition that of him passing and now I know that his son. receiving. Side. The still is one of the most beautiful James I've had because. The the woods and the lake. You know my my uncle bad owned a cabin up in the woods up in Idaho that we would go to every year, and my grandpa loved being up there, and so when I had that dream it was that lake it was all the pines surrounded that it was just. Beautiful. It's. GonNa ask Psych. was the car accident like kind of near Lake, and like he kind of prevented them from going in the league, but it sounds like this car accident was separate, and then he was. With the night, it was like he was going to pass in Grad was there to receive him in their favorite place? Exactly right? Yeah, it didn't have any connection to the tax. Their Mo- it was more like yeah. It was this beautiful place meant something to both of them. I'm. Amazing I'm so sorry. Your grandparents were an was your grandma. She okay, that's so. My grandma was survived from that. And continue to live for several years. But never quite the same. Oh San. Sorry, but what yeah, what a beautiful thing to to see that to see that your uncle was there for him. That's amazing. replaced. Yeah. It's interesting that you that you said you'd like. Why was it knee like either one getting right? Yeah my grandpa know got made sense to me. And my my uncle Brad I mean. He loved three children behind. You know dozens and so when I started getting more dreams about him. That was my thinking like man I know they would. They would have really loved to have this. Why am I getting stream? Maybe some other people seem to be closer to him than I was, but yeah I'm getting this team, and so I was always kind of perplexed with that, but. I start to kind of realize well. Maybe maybe I really do have. Some what of a gift and and you know that's not everybody, hasn't so he's he's going to someone. WHO. Who he can talk to you know. Play share the story through me. And you know once I started to realize that. then. You know things can change with my perspective of it so. I. Had a I had a future about him that were. Different, but then. A younger cousin of mine. He passes away when he was young, he was. And He went to hospital. into the ICU immediately with Africa, just like days after he got a flu shot..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on The Circle of Dads

The Circle of Dads

04:38 min | 2 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on The Circle of Dads

"And then later on you start to learn how all these things sort of fit together when you might use them anglo-dutch versus tig motorist motor whatever in similar an organizing principles. Any figure out what the shielding gas does all the study. Start to learn the organizing principles behind the thing. That's the logic of the thing you're trying to learn and then later on you get so good at it that you start to teach other people and that's when you get really good at it because when one person teaches to people learn and that's the rhetoric of the thing so some people say rhetoric when you learn to speak convincingly beautifully about thing and that's when you really know you nailed it so you learn that's how people learn and since i don't know one thousand eight up until about eighteen eighty. That's how bright kids with resources were educated So they taught them how to learn. Here are the steps to learn something and then when you kick them out the door. At that time. When they're fourteen they knew how to learn something and so they. They became interested in any given thing they could do it. Why didn't have that. I they would just put a they would just say here's the syllabus and here's the textbook demi in the test is friday the questions and answers in the back of the book and i do my homework and maybe i could pass the test which has nothing to do with anything except what the teacher wanted. So i was like man. I want to get some this risk. This trivia gms this three classical liberal arts wanting to get that and By that time. I was thirty. Six thirty seven or something like that and probably too old to be trying to learn latin and be busy and run a business kids and an a lady and everything. And i found the great books the western world program that mortimer adler had started university chicago and decide while you that for myself and i actually started a group here. My home where. I've got about nine men who come here on the third thursday of the month and we we conduct a little socratic seminar over what we read that month. We've been meeting for about five five years. And one of the men in my group has brett mckay of art of manliness hammer. This awesome you need to get this. You need to move this online so that people can do this shit you know. That's all i need's another job right but we but we kicked it off in january of twenty. What was it twenty eighteen and now we've got hundreds and hundreds of people reading aristotle right now and so we we ship a book jim. We give him the reading goals. The text it to them on their phone They have a app as to sent their app so that we got a lot of so we kind of shepherded through them so if they read these for thirty minutes a day six days a week they ended up reading ten or twelve books a year and then once a month we host online zoom like this a socratic seminar..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

The Art of Manliness

01:30 min | 3 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

"This episode of the art of Malays podcast is brought you by brilliant earth, really nurses to global leader ethically sourced fine jewelry. Great your own custom engaging in pick from a variety of ethically sourced, diamonds gemstones. Metal types in settings. Gleaner also offers wedding rings, vintage pieces and many other handcrafted jewelry items with exclusive unique designs you can't find anywhere else. Enjoy free shipping and returns on any brilliant earth fine jewelry selections, just visit brilliant earth dot com slash manliness. That's brilliant earth dot com slash manliness. Brett McKay here and welcome to another addition of the art of manliness podcast. Many people today are feeling stressed or overwhelmed by life. The typical approach to treating these issues to learn how to manage symptoms through things like mindfulness or meditation. My guest a argues that mere management is insufficient. Instead me the tackle the root of what's causing us to feel anxious. Stuck in generally lost decreasing sense of agency Dr Paul Napper? He's colleges. The co author of the book the power of agency the seven principles to conquer obstacles make effective decisions and create a life on your own terms today on the show Paul makes the case that the reason more and more people feel like they're floundering is that they don't have a strong since a personal agency explains what he means by agency in white learning how to get better at thinking acting and making choices for yourself can be the real key to feeling less. Stuck in life Paul night into the seven overarching principles of increasing your agency as well as tactics to put them into practice after the show's over check out our show notes AM slash agency. Paul joins.

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"brett mckay" Discussed on The Jordan Harbinger Show

The Jordan Harbinger Show

01:43 min | 3 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on The Jordan Harbinger Show

"And this episode was co produced. Jason humble pie. Filipo and Jen harbinger show notes and worksheets are by Robert Fogerty. I'm your host Jordan harbinger. Remember, we rise by lifting others. So the fee for this show is that you share it with friends when you find something useful, which should be in every episode. So please share the show with those you love and even those you don't in the meantime, dear best to apply. What you hear on the show? So you can live. What you listen. And we'll see you next time. A lot of people ask me which shows I listen to and one that's in the regular rotation is art of manliness, and my friend Shane Parrish was actually on that show in four seventy one cyber brought Brett McKay here. The host of art of manliness to tell us a little bit more about that episode. Brett Shane is a really smart, dude. I'm excited to hear what you got out of them. Yeah. I've been fallen machines blog farnam street for years. I don't know how you discovered it. But we love about Shane he's a former Canadian officer. And he wanted to learn about how to make better decisions in his career. So he started looking at people who made really good decisions and that included Warren buffet and Charlie Munger, and from these guys he was inspired to explore this idea of mental models, right mental models, basically patterns you use to think to make hard decisions. So the very often very simple, but they're super profound. So some of the things we talked about is how sometimes speed isn't all that important sentence you to slow down and just make time for thinking. We talk about how you can combine. Until models to get what he calls lollapalooza effects. So this sort of compounding the benefits of mental models. So a lot of great insights, if you're just interested in how to make better decisions had Leadbetter how to how to think better you're gonna find a lot of insights with this episode with Shane and willing to that episode in the show notes. Thanks a lot Brad. Thank you..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on The Jordan Harbinger Show

The Jordan Harbinger Show

01:39 min | 3 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on The Jordan Harbinger Show

"Worksheets are by Robert Fogerty, and I'm your host Jordan harbinger. Remember, we rise by lifting others the fee for this episode is that you share it with friends when you find something useful, which should be in every episode. So please share the show with those you love and even those you don't in the meantime, dear best to apply. What you hear on the show? So you can live. What you listen. And we'll see you next time. A lot of people ask me what podcasts I listen to? And I've got one of my regular rotation called the art of manliness. I'm sure y'all have heard of it. I've got Brett McKay here with me today. And Brett you actually had a guy on recently who talked about the warriors manifesto sounded kind of grandiose. So I gave it a listen. But tell me about this episode. This was the guy named Daniel Modell. He is interesting guy. He's a twenty year veteran of the New York City police department, but he also has his bachelor's degree in philosophy. And so what he did in this book. The warriors manifesto is sort of combine both worlds of philosophy in his work as a New York City detective to explore it. What does it mean to be a warrior, and he's talking about first responders police officers military, and he goes to history to extract lessons. We look set Spartacus, right? The guy led the slave revolt in Rome. And then he also explores why violence is necessary for peace people are culpable uncomfortable that idea, but it's true the gets into leadership how bureaucracy. Crecy can kill leadership. And why you know, you don't need to be a have a title of leader to be a leader. So if you are interested in law enforcement, military stuff, a lot of great ideas there. But also, if you're just in leadership, you're gonna find a lot of inside there too. And that's episode four fifty two and we'll link to that in the show notes. Thanks a lot. Brett, thank you..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

The Art of Manliness

01:56 min | 3 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

"This episode of the art of Malays podcast is brought to you by towpath logic, Tope weth as a gimmick free athlete, footwear company. Delivering solutions for healthier more natural movement patterns to weth let it makes shoes for running fitness and recovery all featuring the Romy toe box in Konic fit. Get ten percent off your first pair by using promo code manliness at Tokyo, athletic dot com, or go to Tokyo, athletic dot com slash manliness, t- that ten percent discount. Your body favoring visit topa athletic to join the thousands of people who've done their research, that's Topol athletic dot com slash manliness or use promo code manliness. To get ten percent off your first pair of shoes. Brett McKay here and welcome to the art of manliness podcast. How do you make the biggest decisions you face, the ones that have significant consequences? It can change your life choices like whether to get married for move, tennis certain college taking particular job. And so on do you like most people just kind of wing it, and maybe drop a basic pros and cons list by guest studied, the latest research and decision making theory as formulated better approach is named Steven Johnson. This latest book is far sighted how to make the decisions that mattered. The most today on the show. He walks us through how to move beyond listing pros and cons Tuesday. More effective three step decision. Making process. We begin our conversation discussing how most you'll make decisions and how it hasn't changed much hundreds of years. Stephen then walks through the phase of a better decision making mythology including developing more, creative map of the. Possibility before you accurately, predicting the outcomes of those options and questioning the narratives you have about your choices. Stephen then makes the case that reading novels and watching quality television shows can be a great way to train our brains in the school of decision-making community conversation discussing what the rate on a summit bin Laden to teach us about making good decisions. After the show's over check at our show notes dot IS slash farsighted. Stephen joins me now via clear cast dot IO..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on The Jordan Harbinger Show

The Jordan Harbinger Show

03:55 min | 3 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on The Jordan Harbinger Show

"Thanks for listening in supporting the show. Your support of our advertisers is literally what keeps us on the air and keeps us being able to bring you great shows. If you're listening to the show on the overcast, Blair click that little star in the side. It really helps us out. Now back to the show for the conclusion of your questions here on feedback Friday. All right next up. Hey, Jordan, Jason gen my mother is in an MLM, which is a multilevel marketing scheme and her life revolves around it. It's hurting her relationship with my dad me and my siblings. She keeps buying products. She doesn't need or have us do it. Because she thinks it's going to make her rich. She doesn't even pay attention to her own vet practice because she's trying to recruit for the MLM. My mom is also convinced the main product has anti aging properties and is backed by peer reviewed studies always small sample sizes mostly done on mice by consultants of the company. She honestly believes the supplement prevents cancer MS and Alzheimer's. How can I convince her of the reality of MLM's in that she's putting time into something that will bear no fruit? Can I get her to become more measured in her involvement in the company, can I convince her that it isn't some miracle supplement? Hoping the question is applicable to any listener who has a friend or family member in an MLM. Thanks, mother losing money. So this stuff is always so sad. For me. I hear lots and lots of stories about MLM's the toxic practices. They use to keep people hooked losing money floating on some emotional high. It is really despicable and about you have you lost friends about MLM's because I have no because I tell people in no uncertain terms. I don't ever want to hear about this. And oh until you're out. I'm not interested in if when you need help with it, let me know. But wait like getting out of it. Let me know. But otherwise, I'm not I'm I'm not in. I had a really good friend who I've known for like fifteen years, and she started, you know, pimping this MLM product on Instagram in almost like who turned you onto this because that person is not a friend of yours, and you need to like back off of this stuff, and she just cut me out of her life immediately. And she's just like I'm just trying to make it in this world, man. I'm doing the best. I can. And we we've never. Talked since is crazy suck like how deep it goes. Yeah. Of course, you know, her training, which they do is. Oh, if somebody's not into it there naysayer they're trying to keep you down. They're not trying. It's not your best interest to try to get you to be not successful because they're not successful. That's all the BS. They feed you every time we tried to do an episode or piece on this. We get angry emails from people who get triggered. They insist. They're MLM is different. And I know people were warming up their Email inbox fingers was different. And then they go silent whenever they're asked about their profit above what they've invested to make it happen. Not. Oh, here's what I made last week. Cool. How much did you invest? Oh, crickets, all well. I'm making six cool. How much did you invest the last eight ten years? Oh, okay. Got I'm into this one. Let's go to a bit down the rabbit hole here. The following text is courtesy of my friend Brett McKay at art of mailing us, and we will link to the article in the show notes. Again, I wanna do a full. Episode on this at some point in just debunk all this bullshit. So here's the definition. The Federal Trade Commission has given for 'em. M's multilevel marketing is one form of direct selling it refers to a business model in which a company distributes products through a network of distributors who earn income from their own retail sales of the product and from retail sales made by the distributors direct and indirect recruits because they aren't.

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"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

The Art of Manliness

01:33 min | 3 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

"This episode of the art of Manley's podcast is brought to you by Tokyo athletic towpath, letting because he gimmick free athletic footwear company, delivering solutions for healthier more natural movement patterns Topamax shoes for running fitness and recovery all featuring the Romy toe box in Konic fit. Get ten percent off your first pair by using promo code manliness at Tope weth letting dot com or go to Tokyo athletic dot com slash manliness. Do your body favored visit topa athletic to join the thousands of people who've done their research, that's topa athletic dot com slash manliness or code manliness. To get ten percent off your first pair. Brett McKay here. Welcome to the of the art of manliness podcast in the past few years. Sports recoveries become a big business athletes, and we can warriors alike or stinging lots of time and money on things. Like kroth therapy flow, tanks foam rolling supplements. Order feel better push themselves harder and gained edge of the competition. But as any of the stuff actually, do anything, I guess they spent a year vesting science exercise recovery. Putting his Christie wanted the author of the book good to go with the after all of his learn from a strange science of recovery gonna show discussing what exactly athletic recovery is why the recovery business has been booming recently Christie, then dig into several different recovery. Modalities from Brecon Gatorade taking ice bast. Foam rolling the science or the lack thereof behind effectiveness Weiner conversation is actually works. Best for Rex is recovery. Hint dude every night, and it's free..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

The Art of Manliness

01:52 min | 3 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

"Then if you guys wanna check up e books making the bio lane store dot com and click on the assessories tab or the direct links to each year book, I have the complete contest prep guide, which is you know, if you're interested in doing the modeling show, it'll show you everything to do from point A to point Z in that you get that contest prep, book dot com and in fat loss forever, which we've been kind of discussing. I mean, really a fat loss. Manifesto? It's almost four hundred pages, and basically will show you everything from from how to lose weight how to keep it off one of the behaviors gonna need. What about the diet after the diet? We really spend a lot of time. We've already sold five thousand copies in just a few weeks in people are raving about it. And if you wanna get that the direct link is how to lose fat, forever dot com and check those out that on social media as by Elaine on pretty much every pet for fantastic willing Norton. Thanks for your time. It's been a pleasure. Thank you. Appreciate the Mike yesterday was lane Norton. He's the author of the book fat loss forever. You can find it his website bio lane dot com. Also, check our website, AM dot IS slash bio lane revived links to resources reading delve deeper into this topic. Well, that wraps up another dishes of Heywood podcast, chicken or website of matters dot com. Refined thousands of well researched thorough articles about anything personal finances out to be a better, dad, fitness. You name it. We've got it. If you haven't done already, take one minute to give review an IT, Stitcher and helps out a lot. And if you done that already. Thank you, these consider sharing the show with a friend or family member, you think would get something out of it till next time this Brett McKay, encouraging it only listen to the podcast but put with learned into action..

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"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

The Art of Manliness

02:04 min | 3 years ago

"brett mckay" Discussed on The Art of Manliness

"Is how I can be comfortable trusting you to make decisions I need to see the way that you think I need to see the variables that you consider relevant together. We're going to own your judgment. And if you're consistently missing something, it's my job as your boss repeated sort of like point that out so that we can come to better decisions together and. If we have to structural a process that may be your decision journal includes a flag for hey, are you a are you considering a large enough sample size because you have a bias toward small sample sizes and just that alone. Like you have to fill that in. It's on a checklist is something you have to fill out you have to explain and you have to do it in your own handwriting. And we were able to pretty dramatically raise the I think the quality of the decisions we made dessert someplace people can go to learn about this decision journals like how to do that yet. If you just Google decision journal or just go to FSL blog slash DJ for decision journal. You'll have a template online that we use. We'll be updating not seen working with the special forces to come up with a different slightly different version of right now. That's awesome will Shane this has been a great conversation. And there's so much more. We can talk about we could probably devote entire episodes individual mental models. So people go to f s blog dot com f s blog to find out more about what you do. Yeah. Our at firm street on Twitter in Shane Parrish. Thanks much time. It's been an absolute pleasure. Thanks, man. Really of the conversation. Well that wraps up. Another addition of AO of podcast headed art of manliness dot com. We find thousands of thorough. Well, researched articles on personal finances style life social skills. You name it. It's there you have it done already. I'd appreciate you take one minute to review on I tunes or Stitcher upset a lot. If you've done that are ready fate, you please consider sharing the show at the friend or family member and think on the out of until next time Brett McKay encouraging you to not only listen to the podcast, but put what he's learned into action..

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