35 Burst results for "Brenton"
The Exponential Trend Line on the Gold Price
"So here we are with our gold price curve. Again, we've looked at this so much. Don't think I need to go over the history of the last 50 years. You have the timeline there. You can check prior videos. If you're interested, but here we have the interest rates going up to 22% during the Volcker years kind of pricking the gold bubble in the United States and gold being priced here in dollars and floating freely for the first time since bretton Woods collapsed ten years prior. Gold actually peaked at about $850 an ounce for about two seconds and then in 1980 and then in December of 1980. Paul Volcker took interest rates to 22%. And then from here we had a falling interest rate period all during this period, the great moderation it was called some people called it the end of history at certain times. We had the Soviet Union ended the Berlin Wall fell. All sorts of great things for freedom, but this also happened during a falling interest rate environment, which is quite different from now. And then of course we have the global financial crisis and then gold popping back up in price. First and 2011. And again, in recent years, during COVID. So the current price as of a few days ago, December 31st, 2022, $1812 per Troy, ounce. And again, remember way back in August 1971, when many economists thought that gold would go to zero, gold was a deep pegging, the brenton Woods agreement was falling apart, the Nixon shock, the Smithsonian agreement ended. Even though they still statutorily have a value for gold on the books in the United States, there is nothing tying the dollar to gold. On the books of the United States, nor anywhere else in the world for that matter. And that all ended in the early 1970s. And then we had gold pretty much for the first time floating freely in the market. In the last 50 years.
"brenton" Discussed on Real Estate Coaching Radio
"You? I did say that. Yeah. And I remember that was one of the things that Julie and I, because we were in the coaching business forever. And I always own agents would come to us and ask which brokerage we should they should join priority XP. We'd say, they're all basically the same. So we say broker agnostic until we understood what you would create. And that very statement was so true. And it's true not just with beginning agents or middle and agents. It's true with top producers as well. We've coached all these guys in different spectrums of income and revenue and success. And they very rarely have been able to accumulate any meaningful net worth for a whole bunch of reasons. Not all of them, their own fault, truthfully. I mean, commissions as you talked about on the buyer agent side of the transaction has gone down. The business model has changed. They don't adapt fast enough. Whatever, right? The market changes. And a lot of these people end up and when did you get your license? 2002. Okay, so were you Howard brenton was barely Julie and I were hired Brent and starch in the 90s. Right. And Howard britton's business model was to interview what he perceived to be the top agents in the United States and Canada. And I remember when Julie and I got to know a lot of those top agents, penny McLaughlin doesn't live too long far from here and others. We get to know him and to a person, big lifestyle, big personalities, big whatever, but not a couple of bad seasons, and they were going to be out of the business. And Julie and I, that's how we learn in our formative years, fortunately, that following these big team models aren't necessarily going to get you to a point of having essentially being financially independent. By point being is that when you are in a similar situation, if I'm correct, when you start EXP, can you talk about that? Well, you know, fortunately, before EXP and before I got into real estate, I'd been around a lot of business people. My dad had started a successful business. And then ultimately lost it all, but I learned some formative lessons there. But I had some really good mentors in business. And what I realized is when I when I got my license in the business was that, well, one of the very first things I did is I put myself on salary. So I became an agent on somebody else's team, even though I did all the lead generation, he would just guarantee me a little bit of a salary. So I did my lead generation and I went and sold. And then I gave him 30% on top of that. And I gave the office 30 or 40%. So anyway, I was not I didn't have a lot of income coming in, but he guaranteed me three grand a month. So that's where I started. But within a very short period of time, I put myself on salaries. Hold on. Don't you think it's funny what you just said? How old are you? 35. Okay, so you're in your mid 50s now. But don't you think that's miraculous what you are like three grand a month sign me up and it wasn't that long ago Glenn. I know. And now you're one of your own Forbes list of one of the wealthiest people in the world. Yeah. My dad taught me a lot about equity as well. So one of the things he taught me years ago is he pulled out a $100 bill and he pulled out a shared certificate worth a $100. And he showed him both to me..
Brenton Davis Wins Erie County Executive Race
"And Selena zino good morning. How are you? Good morning, sunshine. I'm great. How are you? Great, great column. What happened in Pennsylvania? I know what happened in Virginia. It's where I live in the Democrats got blown out big time in New Jersey. A lot of them got blown out and the governor barely survived. What happened in PA? Oh, well, it was fascinating. So I'm going to focus initially first on the race that I covered several times. And that's the one for eerie county executive. The county executive position that's a county wide elected position has only been in existence since the 1970s. Since then, Republican is only one in 20 twice. And as you know and is probably your listeners know eerie county is a very important county in a state wide elected race. It's almost always gone for the Democrats. Don't Trump was the exception in 2016. It went back to Biden, albeit narrowly in 2020 and a Republican one that county wide raise running a very sort of boring race much similar to the youngin on very local issues and you wanted against the candidate who was the transgender school board president who ran on national issues. And they kept the public schools closed in eerie for a very long time. So that was a big problem for the Democrat. Was it close Selena? Or was it a blowout? It was, I don't know what the final numbers were, but it was much broader than anybody. What is even expected if the Republican had won? It was more than Donald Trump won it in 2016.
"brenton" Discussed on 90 Day Fiance Trash Talk
"Almost like talk this into fruition. Is that a they did? Yeah. It's like they made that happen. They made it happen. They made a mood board. Yes. They're like, all right, here's a picture of your dad, his back is to go. He's turning his back on you. Here's a picture of the wedding, and here's an empty chair where your dad's not going to be. There's a picture of your house, and here's a robber trying to get into the compound. Here, oh my God, someone's sticking up the candy store. Oh my God, the dog groomers is getting robbed of all their number 5 blades. Your dad has to stay home. Oh my God, he has to stay home. Here's a picture of Anne brenton texting and texting and texting. Oh, my God, the sun is never setting. The sun is out the entire wedding. It's hot. We're melting. It's hot. We're melting. Also, do we want to have a wedding in the sun outside? I don't. Oh, I don't either. Oh, you made me cry. That was very funny. Oh man. So that was good. Kenny suggested Armando Cole his dad. So he calls his dad and his dad's like, oh, you know, I'm not gonna come because I'm uncomfortable, but thank you so much. And I love you. And I love you, and I'll see you tomorrow. Why is this? Okay, it's maybe it's easier for me because this is not something that I have dealt with in my life. But it's like, okay, you know, listen to your dad loves you. Why do you need more than that? He loves you. He told you, I love you. I accept you. He hugs, Kenny. He got Cassie Cassidy castle. Yeah, a necklace, right? Necklace. Big Cassidy. Yeah. He got her a necklace. He hugs her. He loved her. There was crying. There were tears. Why is it not enough? And love. Why is it not enough? Okay, but I want to tell you something else that I know about his dad. Yeah, tell me..
"brenton" Discussed on Real Estate Coaching Radio
"Oh my gosh. India is a great story. We've been open in India for 9 months and we are just at a thousand agents right now. That's insane. Isn't that crazy? Well, you know, we say it because we've been Julian and I have all combined experience here. It's probably close to a hundred years, which is a little embarrassing to say, right? Crazy. Well, I won't even do combined ages. That's what I do. Please stop. Just 35 forever, so. Yeah, it's exactly. But, you know, it's incredible to be part of this because Julie and I and you, of course, have seen these big brands have their day in the sun and how they've really grown. But nothing has ever grown like this. So true. It's not just their organic growth. You might have had a great franchise model and you had people that are excellent selling the franchise's great region holders. Julie and I were with Howard brenton, the color Williams things were like coming on story. And that was very impressive in the growth that a killer was just incredible. And the company they built was extraordinary. It is extraordinary. But when you look at, for example, the growth curve of Keller Williams versus EXP. And you know, it's amazing. It just is amazing. We were just actually talking with the Orlando about this. Can you think of another anything else in real estate? Maybe pure tech platforms aside that have grown like this. I actually can't. And that's what's so exciting about this..
"brenton" Discussed on The Photographer's Journey
"I wanna get into the brand's world living breathing. You hear about them. And then i can be better used to them so one to something for the year or the next two years together so that it that has really been though issue. Blessing in in these times awesome. So what's What's next for alex drawer where you're headed. Where do you wanna see yourself a couple years down. The road take position from personal projects or ideas are to me in then. I do them and that attracts brands right. There's a personal project is important and then people will hire you because of that right because you read that book after book. Five years six years ago people. So tell me about the book is just. It's so powerful when you put something to you bring forth an idea that you haven't executed of over the next one too many years. I mean i have a friend ben. Tibbets who spent seven years making book those people who have education. So i'd say that it's following more personal projects that would may be leading to more commercial work. I don't know but whatever you wanna do is follow my interest in have brands. Luckily at brenton supported those interested in keep doing that. But whether you want to shoot more personal work like could that's where you can. Really experiment is difficult to experiment. When issa big company in specific. Shoplisting you. Don't we get to experiment This wanna do is gonna.
"brenton" Discussed on Real Estate Coaching Radio
"There's overlap with my story, but that's the gist of it. And then from that, we got introduced to Howard brenton and all the rest of it. But here's the takeaway. We got our butts out of Columbus, Ohio because we wanted to have exposure to people that truly thought big as a normal course of business. So when you take yourself even today, frankly, you know, with Julia and I drove all around the country with Zoe obviously we were gone for 60 days. You know, we just got back maybe two, three weeks ago. And when we were driving around, the like I always remember, I'm thinking of Boise, you know, and I'm thinking of some places in Iowa that we stop by. I'm thinking of some places in just Wyoming that we stopped by. All these towns, there was usually one top producing agent, but that one time producing agent was maybe doing like if you just look at units opposed to dollar volume because some of these talents, the average sale price was really high. There are maybe selling 75 homes. You go out to California, and then you had a someone with a really high sale price that was selling hundreds of homes per year. That's the same way it was when Julian I sold real estate..
"brenton" Discussed on My First Million
"But whatever since. I saw this idea like i don't know when this was seventy eight years ago. I i heard this idea stupid circus thing. I just thought it was such a cool. Smart idea. And i was shocked. I don't see more of. That's where this travelling circus where it's pop up tent that maybe leverage is science or technology because i think parents care to take their kids there and i think science and technology naturally make for great exhibits and demos and like learning learning plus like visual stimulation. Like if you just think back to like science fair or a science class with a volcano exploding or whatever like basically that on steroids. And i feel like that's a pretty big thing but these are hard businesses to do. I would never go to these hard but they see. I don't like events either but this is a little different than event but it does seem cool speaking of events. Let me tell you about something. So i got dinner the other day with jason my friend who runs a think of blocks and he had just hosted an event you any and i asked him for ago. Can you tell me. Numbers talk about the pie. Because i think it's interesting. So scroll down to the bottom and you'll see we're we're Scroll down past says a digital asset summit. You see it. I said okay. So this is jason. He's got this company called block. Works black works dot co but like the hustle but for Crypto so two day conference that he just hosted recently did two million in revenue. He's he told me he did. About fifty percent profit. Eight hundred attendees ticket costs one to two thousand dollars and and then they're doing another event he has another event coming out in may of a at about what's that six months eight months and their goal is eight million in revenue with five thousand attendees and then most recently he did a digital or this is not even a physical conference right The eight million dollar one is and the digital asset one. Yeah it's it's it's like negoti people's yeah yeah it's life and then he must recently did one call Things called brenton woods and that's four. Basically he had two hundred people come and maybe one hundred people come and they were basically large asset managers and all he did was talked about crypto and he did close to a million in revenue and they only had four sponsors and it seemed like a pretty sick event and i was just talking to them and We were at dinner. And i'll just. I'll just tell me everything that everyone said. Like what are the takeaways. And i thought a few things one. I think jason's only twenty six so kudos to this fucking guy for building this business and second. What a great hack. I mean just to like get the get the intel the best minds in the world and.
"brenton" Discussed on Bitches on Comics
"A lady there times when i can't sleep at night and i do just imagine myself between two big brenton helps quite a bit. I still can't sleep. But i'm thinking about brands so you know. Bread is a comforting thought. So i get it. I get it who among us hasn't wanted to nestle down into the middle back yet and then like close the top half of the bag over the top of us like a coffin every.
"brenton" Discussed on Latter-Day Lesbian
"As afterlife. You'll be walking a blank. Power cuts angry. So i'll try man. There is nothing for me. That's more of a turn off then. Having to fill a parenting role of a spouse or partner. It's just creepy. yeah. I don't know i'm of the mindset where someone a grown adult just figure out your life yeah you know what i think. She's also pointing out that. The boyfriend doesn't really listen to her but will listen to his mom. So kind of still mama's boy totally sounds like a momma's boy boundaries. Could be really good by the way phillips a moments boy. I love it. Okay care how great that will serve him. Well later in life that's been he's only den i think boundaries. Also don't set yourself on fire to keep somebody else warm. Yeah so if you are noticing that you're doing too much and you're getting frustrated. Maybe cleaning up after somebody too much and it's frustrating and you've ask that person to clean up after themselves because they're a grown adult or whatever the situation is you're frustrated you stop doing it That's an option. You can stop doing the thing that enables another person. But what if they just won't clean up all its challenging. You're with the wrong partner. Perhaps something to look at partner won't listen to you and make some changes. Yeah that's a tough situation. I know I'm gonna hearken back to glennon doyle's podcast again. She and her sister talked about those invisible things that a lot of times women do. And you know. I'm sure some men would fall into this category too but those invisible things that don't get acknowledged and they just kind of happened magically so it could be laundry laundry or dishes or turning the lights off every time you walk the fucking hall. Yeah because people don't wanna turn off lights whatever whatever it is those things that you have to do constantly day in day out because it's not being done by your partner and it falls to you And you feel like there's an uneven distribution of work in the household. Let's say right bringing that stuff bringing the invisible visible is a vulnerable position to be in. Because you're having that conversation with your person your partner. What if they don't give shit right. What if they don't give a shit. What if they're like You're exaggerating what. If they tried to downplay it would if they just don't want to help out so they don't want to talk about it or ever know or what if they didn't realize it. Yeah you never know it was just happening. Yeah they didn't think about it. Didn't realize it and you want to help out. It's like go ahead and give them the benefit of the doubt by having the conversation. Yeah give him an opportunity. Potentially to to rise to the challenge. If they don't want to say you know yeah that's something you're gonna have to deal with later now. Those conversations are not easy to have uh-huh and they typically don't happen only one time no we've had those conversations they're scary because you feel like a nag you feel like you're too demanding or whatever you're feeling that's keeping you from having those conversations but giving your person the opportunity to rise to the challenge could be a good thing absolutely otherwise. How are they going to know. Yeah unless you bring it up you so i would encourage this person to give their boyfriend the opportunity to try some adulting. You know. explain what you will and will not do in the relationship Give that person opportunity to rise to the challenge. Let us know how goes or pirate. God's gonna get after and there you go. You don't take the next one or is it me do you. Your attorney my partners. Xs very tb 'em on the outside this person says he thinks he's entitled to have us ask him first for everything. We do. Take a kid to the doctor. It's the old patriarchal mantra only. We're not buying. It pisses him off. He also wants to force their son who is fourteen to go to church when he refuses. Dad takes his phone away or turns off his data. That's one way to get him in. And of course it's because we are turning the kid away from the church right. This person says it's so exhausting to try and co parent with someone who hates every fiber of our being every fiber of our beings and takes it out on the kids. That's tough yup. I'm so sorry. I would lose my shit if my kids were being forced to go to church. Yeah i will lose my fucking shit. They don't have to deal with that and as a rough one. Yeah it's like. We need support group for people in this position in just help each other out. Listen to each other's stories help support each other. I mean we do have that on the on the group but it was probably a specific group for this providence. You i bet you could look into it because that is really hard yeah. I'm sorry that you're going through that. Well at least it's good that you're hates church. I mean that's a start but it sucks as being punished for not going But all this is doing is driving a wedge between your child and that other parents. So that's the that's the relationship that's gonna suffer. What do you think you'd say to your kids shelly. If this was happening over at brands I i would lose my complete shit on brand about that. Like for real thankfully again brenton's in doing that to the children and if there was nothing i could do legally you know i would tell said childlike. Look i i am sorry would you say. Sometimes you just have to do things that your parents ask you to do. Even though you don't want to like what would you say. Well you know what i.
"brenton" Discussed on Lace Out AFL Podcast
"Can you tell us what you can do your up. If the planet's really allowing and melvin and port. Mike the grave phone is if it does happen. We want you to the front bar. We want you to contact the herald saw. We want you to contact media outlets and contact them because you know what it will might. The pipe used to go on a podcast donor for four years. And they attained serene auto. It's gonna be. It would be beserk if it actually. But let's cross that bridge when we get to it. Lay moss get staffed. Six thousand two hundred. Who gives you shit. That's how many you'd wanna follow. Maybe bomas and it was twenty one years ago side. You'll get about it. Dr j. heart-to-heart that i'm brenton thornton. Hasn't been waiting for a taiwanese Four-night ever in doubt might or has got you nitto listeners. You can always go doubt. Let's say you're going to jinx them. Both pips are shop. Mostly that's eight. Everybody agrees you preview artfully next where you have to ecstatic ause. Leading into al preview way out the cats versus dogs ramp fondles. our guy. Thank you very much for joining the show. It's the end of the show in probably a good thing with that topic. Have a great week. Look after yourselves. We'll see you next week And hopefully you'll say winds jamie nutri peps. Mike appreciate it say business..
"brenton" Discussed on Crypto Voices
"Russia's sold off all their gold but the united states and countries in the zone pretty much hung onto their gold. And why don't they sell it. The i think they think it would look bad In the us we still have gold producers gold miners who lobby them not to drive down. The price of gold by selling it and the production of gold has become pretty decentralized the countries that have been buying gold in recent years pretty much china and india. It's not very widespread outside those two countries and why they're doing it. I don't know you have to ask them but it's been profitable for them. I guess they want to have a more diversified Set of reserves. I guess but why they came up with that. I'm not sure but it's interesting. If you look so i was gonna ask about like gold today. Still versus other assets that a bank or central bank could hold. I was we know that it's know. Sovereign bonds is the main one but It's it's about. I do for the website Working on more comparing bitcoin. Abass money's around the world Won't get into that but In ounces is about one point one billion ounces that central banks hold the moments. It's probably going to be this year. Like one point two billion so two thousand dollars an ounce or at two point two trillion two point four trillion dollar equivalent in central banks around the world. Interestingly that is about the previous all time high which was in nineteen sixty five nine hundred sixty five was about that. I'm as a big dip after brenton woods and then and now it's back up to the previous all time high and at the same time the public is holding even more than that. Yeah yeah there's much more that's outside of jewelry out. Atf's yeah much more exactly. That's outside of just jewelry. Much more private coinage for sure but still central banks Base money was like a couple of hundred billion dollars back then. Now base money is thirty. Trillion dollars globally All the all the central banks around the world my question would be gold. In ounce terms is about the same as it was in nineteen sixty five..
Ironman Duo Team, Brent & Kyle Pease, on Training and Racing Together
"Do you remember your first round together. Once you've got the chair and all of the proper equipment in place for you to train together what were your first runs together. Like our first one park and it was one of those weird days in atlanta on february where it was just perfect. Whether you know it was like sixties low seventy something like that and it was just it. it fell. you know we had done all these different things. We had done the wheelchair soccer. We had done the. We had done the modified sports in the backyard. But this for whatever reason just felt different felt like we were both going in the same direction at the same time So it was just it was. It was a lot of fun and we were already at an age. Where maybe you're not hanging out with your siblings like that. You're not competing together anymore and here. We were at in our twenties getting ready to tackle these huge goals that we had never thought of and what about the physical component. What was it like. For each of you brent. What was it like pushing a chair. Because it's very different than say pushing a stroller. Like i'm i'm a mother. I have a two year old and running with her a stroller. Like i'm i'm very weak. I do my best. But like i hit a slight incline and on my coo. Get out and walk. Andy like it. It's hard and so for you brenton. Obviously you're you're in incredible shape with a twelve hour iron man but tell me about the adjustment to running with the and then kyle. I wanna hear about from your perspective. What it was like to By the way. I'd rather push kyle than my three year. Old strollers are not. They're not like pushing. Kyle like we're in this now. But the original chair we had was basically an adult jogger or an adult stroller so is meant to hold somebody up to two hundred fifty pounds and so was very similar. My arms were kind of locked out there long and my back would get really sore in my last. I just. I would be really sore. Because i've lost that arm swing and you know we eventually got better equipment but even then you don't get the extra stuff that a normal runner does again. You're not swinging your arms. You don't have that extra motion so you're you're kind of just stuck right behind the chair and then of course there's the just the sheer weight of it There are parts. that are easier and also scarier. I mean the first ten k we did was downhill ten k And it's at the. Time was the fastest that i had ever run a ten k because it was all i could do to hang onto that chair as kyle's wait in the three wheels pulled me straight down at the bottom of the
"brenton" Discussed on 1865
"Home goal. I reckon he would have lacked. The service would like the news. If not the preaching much. Hail find brenton south carolina way income all the way from washington to make small talk. Mr what can i do for you. Mrs williams husband died seven his country and protect you from mr rainy. I was born in georgetown. South carolina slave slave man. Same as you fan suit. Thank you man. Look at this address. I'm waiting to my husband's food and tell me how you my people. What do you want. This is williams. I want to make an official statement about your husband's so i can present it to my colleagues in congress. I'll tell you the same thing. I told the local police. I'm not interested in making any states. Brave woman mrs williams after everything you've been through just to be standing here. I'm not breathing still win. I just don't have anywhere else to go. We done talking this. I took up collection. There's enough here to give you a fresh start. I don't want change. He died from me. Mrs williams and for so many others. It's not charity. I'm staying at a hotel in town. I left the address in the envelope. Change your mind. Your husband was a hero. Honor his memory help me ensure that his sacrifice will not be for sacrificed to make a damn bit of difference and method is in with. Gm should a can't less about our people and more about his own if he had maybe.
"brenton" Discussed on Hysteria 51
"You can grab yourself free cash on top of that and we try to get him to do some prop bets on like how many people by babu's this season and stuff that we don't know that they're going to do it. How many kids will get injured. My uncle conspiracy time toys. Or if you want to go and bet on youtuber jake paul getting beat up in the. Ufc you can do it. Do i gotta tell you though. John when they reached out to about this i did submit my idea for the commercial. They shot it down. I think i to do anyway. I told them everyone loves gambling. Everyone loves this. But you don't have a jingle. I wrote them one. Because something like this my bookie my book i really. That's as far as i got. But they really didn't like it. Wherever i bet they're gonna let me back bob. Lewke book me nation. You can bet on things that weren't submitted by brenton. I again you just sign up today with promo code hysteria and you can bet anything anytime anywhere with my book. If.
"brenton" Discussed on True Consequences
"Homey the second one. I'm worried about you and the third one. Please call me. Nothing has been heard of from caitlyn's phone since but several hours after caitlyn's phone had last texted caitlyn's mom amarin received a message through facebook messenger. It was on caitlyn's account the message read. I can't come back. I cheated on you two days. After caitlin had disappeared. Her small suitcase was found by a road. Crew in drainage ditch off of interstate ninety five near her former stepfather's home. The suitcase contain caitlyn's wallet. Which had her credit cards or ideas or cash. Her plane ticket her glasses and our phone charger. The things that were missing were her clothes her phone and her diploma that she had grabbed because she needed it for cosmetology school. James brenton stuck to the story about dropping caitlyn off. He agreed to a polygraph but then he lawyered up any. Shut the polygraph down in the beginning. He was very cooperative with police. Then he stopped being so james brenton never went on any of the searches for caitlyn nor did he ever tried to call her or text her when she first disappeared. There's a couple theories about him. The first is that he might have tried to put sexual advanced moves on caitland and she resisted so he got angry and he killed her. Another theory is that she wanted to disappear and start a new life she felt bad about her threesome and cheating on amber in. Maybe she wasn't living the life she wanted to live so james assisted her to escape. Either way it's pretty apparent from his lack of helping look for her. This guy knows more than he said. Incidentally remember james needed to drop caitlyn off early so he could get to work by three pm. James never went to work that day as for caitlyn cell phone when her phone texted her mother saying she was at the her phone ping thirty minutes away from the supposed metra station. She was dropped. At when caitlyn's mom called james his phone ping closer to his house and the very last text sent from caitlyn's phoned the one that said she needed time alone. Will that phone call paying about fifteen miles from where her suitcase was found. Police got a warrant to search james's house and they confiscated a number of things even his phone which had a high security encryption on it one. That james actually built himself and refused to give the password for james kind of technology wizard. No one seems to be able to hack the encryption code. He created in. Apparently there wasn't enough evidence that was collected his place that implicated him in any wrongdoing. But we're really begs. The question here is why. Would somebody take caitland close not cash. There's just so many mystery surrounding this case. If you are someone you know might have information on missing caitlin atkins. Please call spots lavinia. County sheriff's office at area code five four zero five eight two seven one one five a leave that information in the show notes Sixteen year old red sea martinez who went by f. c. was known in navajo culture as a naughtily choose spirits. More simply put a male bodied person with a feminine nature. Also a naughtily. He could be a female bodied person with a masculine nature. Too many non native americans we might identify a not a li a two spirit as a transgender. But we'd be kind of incorrect in ads in all explain more on that later. I've read conflicting reports that fred identified as a gay male. Another report said that bread was trans. I'm going to refer to fred as she in this episode because another report. I saw interviewed fred's best friend and she referred to fred is a she usually a best years. Who knows you the most. Even though fred went by fc she really loved to be called beyond safe. According to navajo culture to be a two spirit is a great gift. In fact many indigenous people not just navajo old two spirit people in great esteem as more spiritually gifted to spirits are often looked upon his spiritual leaders teachers rather than focusing on the human body. A person spirit or the character is what is important were humans could really take a notre to from that indigenous belief now fred header shera bullies but she was confident enough in herself to wear headbands in pink nail polish an island to school. She even wore jelly sandals. Some of the kids called her ugly and they asked why she looked in acted like a girl when she was a boy. Her best friend girl her age. Wanted to say something to those kids. But fred would stopper and say no. It's okay it's just words. Fred was often sent home by the school administration for wearing the liner. Jelly shoes in. Sometimes fred would even be sent home for wearing a bra stuffed with tissue. Fred stood six feet tall in. Wait around two hundred pounds though large in stature. Fred embraced a very feminine spirit. On june sixteenth. Two thousand and one. Fred went to the mountain rodeo. Roundup this is a big whoop de doo. Cortez colorado every single year. But no wonder it's a big d do there's a parade carnival fireworks all of this on top of the rodeo. It sounds like a blast in wet. Seemed like it was going to be a great night of fun for. Fred was anything but that was horrific terrifying and tragic upon leaving the carnival that night fred went to an after party. At someone's house when it was time for fred to leave the party. She started to walk home in whiz approached by a car holding three other young people. They were melissa. Sharon horn clint sanchez. In sean murphy. They ask spread if she needed a ride home. It accepted in got in on the way towards fred's house. The car full of young people stopped at a convenience store. Fred decided to go ahead and walk the rest of the way home from there because it wasn't too far the other three ran into the store. Got what they needed in quickly back at the car it was now a quick drive to melissa's apartment from the store on the way back to the apartment. Clint ask melissa and shawn. If maybe fred thought sean and clint gave way it was an odd question in one. That must've went unanswered when they got back to the apartment. Sean told melissa. Clint he was heading out to go see if he could score a joiner to smoke in. While he was out he cross paths. Again with fred. a verbal altercation ensued. And i can only imagine it was about sexual orientation. Even though fred towered over sean in height.
"brenton" Discussed on The PR Playbook Podcast
"Crisis management plan. There isn't any business. Listen i think if you're sort of like a small shop like ours you know when you're in crisis everyone's in it right because we're just a small group of people and we all everybody's in the war room so to speak right but you know i m stunned at the number of people that don't have actual crisis management plans in place for a series of things right so i think you know brenton's you're living in texas right now and you're a company. Did you have everything printed out because maybe you couldn't access ask. Did you have all the emergency numbers with bender's all those things printed out because you can access your internet like that is actually a thing that people like larger scale companies need to need to go through if you're the communicator. For that company. Do you have your key media relations people like do you have your key decision-makers because if you don't have your phone or you can access certain things or you can't like so it's understanding how you like really tackle that but there is an enemy organization. That shouldn't have some form out and it may be one page like you may just sort of be like page line. This is our thing and if we need a page to we'll add it later and large scale company..
"brenton" Discussed on KQED Radio
"July with us. Matt back and felled is a social studies teacher at Fisher's High School and Fishers, Indiana. Matt. Welcome back. Thanks so much for having me back cans, you know also, we have some new perspective from Brenton Kaba, Sixth grade history teacher and math teacher in Fort Worth, Texas. Brenton. Thanks for joining us. Thank you for having me out, too. Run. Let's start with you has teaching online and in person sort of prevented you from having in depth conversations about what's going on our students sort of approaching you with. Hey, what's happening? That's a good question. I think that with this, I'm teaching in person and online at the same time. It does have a barrier with students online at times and I mean, I feel like in the classroom. It's a lot easier to have those conversations but engaging with students online. There is still a barrier and I think that it it does cause some problems to have those deep conversations. Sometimes, I think also There's a disconnect to when you're online from your students here more When you're in person, you know those people, and I think that there's a lot of anxiety for these students during this time, and I think that that also takes away from, you know, just learning it, General. No, no one asked you a little bit, Brenton in a moment, Just about what kinds of questions your your sixth graders are coming to you with. But Matt, What about you? You teach high school? What are your high schoolers coming to you with? Doesn't matter if you're a motor in person, or did they have lots of questions for you right off the bat? Yeah, well, I mean, listen. I mean, if there's never been a better time to be a teacher, or a harder time to be a teacher, because I think the pandemic has kind of magnified every Imaginable social issue and so kids. I mean, the questions have been absolutely nonstop, and I kind of share the It's incredibly difficult What Brenton was describing kind of creating that safe space to have the environment to have sort of the honesty and the vulnerability to talk about politics to talk about race to talk about honestly, to talk about death as the kind of pandemic kind of drums on in the background. And so it's been incredibly challenging and very rewarding, working at kind of building a classroom space that is both online and in person at the same moment, and where you're still having those conversations because the kids have never had more questions than they do right now. Wanna come back to you Mad about what kinds of questions they have. Brenton. What are the sixth graders that you teach? What do they want to know about what's happening? Are they scared? Or they confused. Are they Excited. What? What are they? What are they coming to You with? Lot of them are nervous or scared or don't actually know what's going on because there's so much disinformation out there. And so I've had a lot of students like when an instruction happened. A lot of its students were like, Are we going to go to the war and even when Trump loss and remember Lot of the students came out to me, and they're just like, you know if he loses, Are we going to war tomorrow like what's going to happen and a lot of them were just really concerned. I think that a lot of them And understand certain things to which also promoted a lot of more more questions from me. And yeah, I just I felt like Sixth graders like all the information that they're getting is from their parents, too, And they don't really know much besides that, Like these students, a lot of them don't like search the Web or anything like that, or they don't really At this moment in time, they're just learning about credible sources. So its mean more like trying to find those credible sources for them and talking about that, too. So it's been quite interesting and teaching right now. That's a really important point. Because I often say we are in the misinformation wars, Aziz we speak and so For high school students that you're teaching. Are they coming to you with similar questions, or have they done their own research? Or are you also grappling with the effects of misinformation in the classroom? Yeah. I mean, undoubtedly, I teach in a interesting context where a suburban school just outside of the city. Very rapidly Diversifying. But you know, within my building we have You know, we have students who are sympathetic to the proud boys or even have said that they plan to join the proud boys. And we also have you know, undocumented folks just kind of trying to make it in America. You know, we have to sort this broad swath of society that we have to. We have to serve all of those students. And so you know, we have students that walk in and they ask. Is this a fascist takeover? We have students asking Are the police gonna be abolished students asking what is white supremacy? And so we're kind of hosting all those conversations within the context of a very Very divided city politically and you in every way you can imagine it's it's just hyper polarized is that polarization Matt showing up among students. So I think it's showing up in the classroom because we are kind of trapped with students. Who are they hear what they hear from home and they, you know, I guess what we say in the classroom is that pumps? Truth is pre fascism. So what we have to do is tell the truth all the time and hold the human dignity regardless of people's perspectives, And so when we sort of set that context Our conversations are I think much more productive and they would be otherwise. Madden Brenton,.
"brenton" Discussed on The Spivey Special Podcast
"No zen. Leonardo di caprio. Boy oh boy. That's a wolf of wall. Never mind yeah. i haven't seen it. you're old. I am old michael douglas when he was young. So we'll skip that. Skip that i get it. Would you pick took creep brenton. You took creed dana. You're taking i take. Gordon gecko know that if he is an elite businessmen. It's just who talk his way through it. I just think creeds broadmoor dice than anybody else. He's definitely the wild card in the game down. I wouldn't want to play him. No none of the other ones really intimidate me except banner fair enough. Dt anymore in your old satchel a really weird one and we love at confirmed for me. It was asked was it was. It was kind of more of a. Would you rather type question. Would you rather eat a costco size container of mayonnaise. That's been sitting out for a month war. Take a shot of diarrhea. I asked is chaser. Allowed said yes. That may be a little better for some weird reason. I would go diarrhea. That's what i said. I got so much grief over it. I think that's the right thing now you that we've seen the glutton bowl and they do that where they like competition but left out and was cool. I'd go the manny's get sicker from the manny's than you from the day. You're not gonna finish either. I don't think.
"brenton" Discussed on The Cave - A DC Universe Podcast
"Hi welcome to season two of bite. This is tony tiller parenting an apocalypse. It's it's not the same way that you you know how it works. Any views usually two to four minutes long but sometimes they can be a little longer. Only when you when you live long enough. All kinds of strange things happen very right in saying that. The greek heroes. Where the original superheroes in part because of the hopeful nature of genes vision but also because of its message of diversity and inclusion brenton thwaites plays dick grayson aka robin and then night wing on tights now hearing on. Hbo max. He talked season one at new york. Comic con leasing one at new york comic con where we start. There's so much room to travel. He becomes a different character. He goes on the road with so many different characters. So it's it's kind of. It's an it's an honor to have that depth and that That good material behind me but also to be at a point of the story that carry it will carry for so long hopefully. What's your relationship. I mean want her. What's going on between the two. There is love and the care that they both have won another that men took decreasing in at a time when he'd lost lost his parents and decided to mental him and give him everything place to sleep. Roof every said so So there's definitely that. I think underneath it all these that love. You know the father would have for that son but But the way bruce you know has been fighting and And the brutality in the ferociousness that he kind of that he inflicts on on his opponents. has driven dick to kind of go away and find a different way of fighting crime and Not necessarily what. He was what he learned from batman and on that journey he realizes that it doesn't have to be brutal enough you know. Ferocious the destructive And so he decides to figure out a new identity and find out you know basically who he is all over again. Why is dick gration. So interested in helping rachel. I think he sees in her a little piece of himself as a kid. He was also someone who didn't know his parents in a young age and Lost his parents and didn't didn't grow up with them and i think he feels Empathetic to that loss and decides to help him out. Because there's no one else he related to robin story. You know it's kind of breaking away from my not rebellion but the breakaway from from any you know god in parenthood town whatever it is in order to fulfil is what dick rice in his going through. You know. he left his home in gotham. He left his everything. You know to to basically find out who he is and And begin the search for a better a better way of doing what he loves to do. and in a way that's you know that's that's me going to la to become an active. You know when i was younger. Succeeding israeli jumping over the pond in trying to get gigs. Is you know. And that's kind of the way he recounts wearing the robin suit. For the first time i put the full suit on. There was a bunch of different fittings grad that gradually build the suit up multiple different. When i first put it on with the plates. I was really impressed. Yeah it had. It had a really cool chinese touch with but but also look. I've been fighting it for years and years which was really important to me so say i enjoyed the. Oh yeah awesome man thank second sequel for that liquor. Ms earbuds.
Chicago schools push forward with reopening plan despite teachers union, city council objections
"Public Schools leaders plan to update plans for reopening schools this morning, a day after some teachers protested by conducting classes outside of one school over covert concern Some 10,000 members of the Chicago Teachers Union have pledged their opposition to plans by Mayor Lightfoot to bring teachers back this week amid fears of the covert 19 pandemic. WGN's Glenn Marshall has more on CPS reaction last night, CPS CEO Janice Jackson responded, saying, Quote despite what you have heard, we believe there is a broad agreement with CTU on all of their in school safety concerns, including but not limited to ventilation, PPE contact tracing covert testing and school and district level safety Committee. CPS leaders Planet News conference for later this morning yesterday, teachers at Brenton Oh Math and Science Academy on the West Northwest side. I sat at tables outside the school while wearing masks and remaining socially distant. They were among the first group of teachers to return to in person teaching.
Christchurch Inquiry Says New Zealand Couldn’t Have Prevented Mosque Attacks
"A royal commission investigating loss. Jesus christ church mosque terror. Attacks has concluded that nothing could have been done to stop. Australian wants premises brenton. Taryn a report released. Yesterday he makes forty four recommendations to prevent a repeat of the attacks which fifty one people and left dozens more seriously wounded in the country's worst-ever mass shooting. The report concluded that while they were major failures and new zealand's gun licensing system the attacks not the result of failures by counter-terror agencies
New Zealand mosque gunman given life without parole
"Mosque massacre shooter has been sentenced to life without the possibility of parole. The judge in the case, saying that white supremacist Brenton Tarrance crimes were so wicked That a lifetime in jail could not begin to atone for them. 51 worshippers, a two mosques were slaughtered.
New Zealand mosque shooter sentenced to life without parole
"Court in New Zealand has sentenced the white supremacists to shot dead 51 Muslim worshippers in Christ's charge to life in prison without parole is the first time the sentence has been imposed in the country. The judge said the gunman, Brenton Tarrant, was devoid of empathy for his victims was neither contrite nor ashamed. New Zealand's prime minister, Justin Dry done so the killer deserved a lifetime off, complete and utter silence on DH. She hoped his name would never be heard again. This is thing a crime in New Zealand that is never the likes of which has never occurred before. And now we've seen a sentence the likes of which we've never seen before. A swell But yes, that gave me relief. You You know know know that that that that That That That That That person person person person person will will will will will never never never never never see see see see see the the the the the light light light light light of of of of of day. day. day. day. day. Miss Miss Miss Miss Miss Arden Arden Arden Arden Arden praised praised praised praised praised the the the the the survivors survivors survivors survivors survivors of of of of of the the the the the mosque mosque mosque mosque mosque attacks attacks attacks attacks attacks and and and and and relatives relatives relatives relatives relatives of of of of of those those those those those who who who who who died died died died died for for for for for their their their their their strength strength strength strength strength and and and and and sharing their stories in court.
Christchurch mosque attack: Brenton Tarrant sentenced to life without parole
"Zealand has sentenced the white supremacist who shot dead 51 Muslim worshippers in Christ Church. Life in prison without parole. It's the first time the sentence has been imposed in the country. Sentence was delivered by Judge Cameron Manda, who said the gunman, Brenton Tarrant, was devoid of empathy for his victims on each of the 51 charges of murder charges. 12 51 Was sentenced to life imprisonment. Order that you save the sentences without parole. On each of the 40 charges of attempted murder charges. 52 to 91. Your seat is two concurrent terms of 12 years in prison. The charge of committing a terrorist act, charge 92. He was sentenced to life in prison. New Zealand's from minister just in tow ARD and said she hoped the killer would now never be mentioned again. The trauma of March 15 is not easily healed. Today, I hope is the last Where we have any cause to hear or utter the name of the terrorists behind it. His deserves to be a lifetime off, complete and utter silence.
New Zealand mosque shooter sentenced to life without parole
"A judge in Christ Church. New Zealand sentenced white supremacist Brenton Harrison Tarrant to life in prison without the possibility of parole on his guilty plea to gunning down 51 Muslim worshippers at two mosques in New Zealand in March of last year. It's the first time such a sentence has been meted out in New
Christchurch mosque gunman Brenton Tarrant's sentencing
"A man is said to be sentenced in New Zealand for that country's worst mass shooting. Fox is Simon Owen. Reports. Australian Brenton Tarrant has admitted shooting dead 51 worshippers in a terrorist rampage of two mosques in Christ Church, New Zealand last year. Suspected white supremacist is expected to represent himself as his sentencing hearing begins, He'll be allowed to address the court on statements are expected from dozens of survivors. The judge has the power to jail Tarrance for the rest of his life, a sentence never previously imposed in New Zealand. Simon Oh, in Fox News,
Survivors will face New Zealand mosque gunman at sentencing
"Has set a sentence A man in that country's worst mass shooting. Australian Brenton Tarrant has admitted shooting dead 51 worshippers in a terrorist rampage of two mosques in Christ Church, New Zealand last year. year. A A suspected suspected white white supremacist supremacist is is expected expected to to represent represent himself himself at at his his sentencing sentencing hearing hearing begins, begins, he'll he'll be be allowed allowed to to address address the the court court on on statements statements are are expected expected from from dozens dozens of of survivors. survivors. The judge has the power to jail Tarrant for the rest of his life, a sentence never previously imposed in New Zealand. Simon
Christchurch mosque gunman Brenton Tarrant faces sentencing hearing
"In in New New Zealand Zealand is is set set to to sentence sentence a a man man in in that that country's country's worst worst mass mass shooting shooting Australian Australian Brenton Brenton Tarrant Tarrant has has admitted admitted shooting shooting dead dead 51 51 worshippers worshippers in in a a terrorist terrorist rampage rampage to mosques in Christ Church, New Zealand last year. A suspected white supremacist is expected to represent himself at his sentencing hearing begins, he'll be allowed to address the court on statements are expected from dozens of survivors. The judge has the power to jail Tarrant for the rest of his life sentence never previously imposed in New Zealand.
New Zealand mosques gunman pleads guilty to murder and terrorism
"In a surprise move the man who killed fifty one worshippers at two New Zealand mosques a year ago has unexpectedly pleaded guilty to all charges there were fears that Australian white supremacist Brenton Terrence would try and use his trial as a platform to promote his views he's entered guilty pleas to fifty one counts of murder and a single count of terrorism will be sentenced to life in
Christchurch shootings - Brenton Tarrant pleads guilty to 51 murders
"The Australian man in custody for the mass shootings at two mosques in Christchurch New Zealand just over a year ago has changed his plea to guilty during an unscheduled hearing via video link friends and parents admitted killing fifty one people he also pleaded guilty to forty charges of attempted murder and a charge of engaging in a terrorist acts nine members of the public will present at the hearing because of coronavirus court restrictions Terence film the shootings and live streams them on Facebook as a news conference new Zealand's prime minister Jacinda Ardern said the guilty plea would provide some relief to those whose lives were shattered by the attack the whole nation but particularly almost some community upping speeds from a trial that could have otherwise acted as a platform nothing will bring a loved one spec but this is a small reprieve
Save the Children scandal 'let down all charities in UK due to mishandling of sex claims'
"GONNA start with the Daily Telegraph. Now this is all about save the children which is alleged to have downplayed some sex scandals. Yes that's right. If you cost you mind not to fall back. There were some very serious allegations made against a number of international agent humanitarian outfits or humanitarian development outfits and save. The children was one of them so they were allegations about him. A culture of bullying inside the organizations themselves and indeed for some of these organizations inappropriate behavior actually extended to some of the very people. They were meant to help. And you've had this investigation which is carried out by the Charity Commission. And they've shown the spotlight on. Save the children and basically they said the term when these scandals about him bullying a first surface bullying within the organization the response of the charity was to effectively behaved like an ostrich and others. You Bury your head in the sand and you downplay the significance and is only as it really gained traction that they started shaking the tree that things started happening so for example you had accusations made by several women against two former senior members of staff. Now this is quite important because the two senior staffer gentlemen who joyful side. I'm Brenton Cox and Brenton Cox was the husband is the husband of Joe. Cox and Joe Cox Tragically murdered during the UK referendum on independence. She was Labor impe and out of her death came this organization. Hope not hate and so this this inquiry by the commission. It's been pretty extensive. It's made some very serious accusations but some visible the stinging sentencing here by the person who led this baroness stole of Beeston. And she said that no one gets a pulse because they all doing important work or are motivated by the desire to help some of the most vulnerable people around the world and this is a really stinging indictment of what actually went on and the whole point about it. Is that when you downplay scandals like this when these these terrible things happening in your own backyard? It's detract to not detract. It deters people who've actually very talented to want to get involved but more importantly it deters people from giving about is so so essential said they had had this open purge and to actually look at what was going on why this happened because clearly. They don't want it to repeat itself again but it's very disturbing but the truth has to come out. It's often very unpleasant but better to a face it now rather than to ignore it
Beirut Bakery Bridging Divides
"Bakery talks besides a row of small's cafes in central Beirutis north your typical location for community building checked but through producing high-quality Sour Dough. Bread and a roster of tempting bagels. Cookies and Mafias Ma. Baker is using business to bring together people who would likely never otherwise meet. Syrian and Lebanese who reached and poor old and young the bakery salsa focusing on using ancient varieties of local weeds as well as finding new uses for Levinstein. Kitchen cupboards staples like olive oil cumin seeds and great molasses. Monaco's Beta which correspond reports. Went along to meet the Bakers Kid kid scientists new to you as built up. Great confidence in myself. I used to be very introverted but now I talk before I never used to talk. People would come and I would never speak. I'll be ashamed but now I speak without a problem when a woman earns money she feels like she's done something in her life and has something now. My children are more aware about not just sitting at home between four walls. No I go out and work now policy. That's done your water for the past three years. She's been baking sour dough. Bread with us. Citizen Brent Stuart after a long period based in Tripoli in North Lebanon Brenton Dinya recently began baking but then new premises in Beirut Malia Bakery. It's named after a pre Islamic Arab Warrior Queen Reflecting the idea that work empowers women coming along to Mario Bakery in central Beirut's Bryant opened up a couple of weeks ago and let's go and have a look what they doing the bakery today. Smells just amazing and sledding bagels dipping them in great molasses and then covering them with sesame seeds and caraway seeds although their neighbors relations between Lebanon and Syrians haven't always been positive. Tensions have been exacerbated since the beginning of the war in Syria in two thousand and eleven Lebanese blame. The one million plus Syrians who sought refuge in their country for burdening and already creaking infrastructure and failing economy. Syrians blame Lebanese for discrimination and racism. So that's where the breadcrumbs and Brent had already started a small NGO in north Lebanon. He thought that by getting Syrians and Lebanese to bake together. Prejudice isn't fears might have less space to grow. My name is Brandt Stewart American from Las Vegas originally and I came to Lebanon about seven years ago. I started to realize in order to really support a community I needed to address the needs of everyone in the community equally. Not just one segment of it just to help foster these ties. I started to see that my role as a manager of this profit is to use various common goals in order to bring people under the same in the same space and so we don't come together and talk about. Let's say peace building or community building what we have in common and what we don't have in common. We actually just focus on the common goal and I've seen through that process whether that's baking bread or whether that's education in the classroom these barriers. They break away and they fall down and people. They focused on what they have in common instead of focusing on what they don't through baking bread with her. Dunya a mother of five from the great friendship with a Syrian woman. Oh bida she left law September because she married and moved to Turkey but didn't use realization that they shed more similarities than differences has remained bus another synthetic Halloween again. Two years we spent working together really wonderful. She was like my sister and more. We used to visit each other. Go to sitting cafe together and had a good time. Mom about Malia bakery staple product is a high quality sour bread baked in woodfired oven with Brunton Dina's meticulous work. One loaf takes three days to produce from start to finish if we go to the oven Ashley now and so. This is the oven where things baked. So there's a huge gold oven and would fights. It's what fired. Yeah so this door is made of steel. It's very well fitted just to keep steam. We have to steam the breath to keep the steam contained in. Wow Wow goodness me as you can see here still quite hot. We fired this about three days ago. Mase yeah you can feel the heat coming out still quite hot Brunton Dunya. Sour dough is different from Standard White Lopes produced in Lebanon and Syria Venezuela hovers hide. The hovers the Brady's really good it's healthy with natural wheat and fermentation honestly. When I got my mom to taste it. It reminded her of the bridge. He used to have in the old days when they would make the starter and use it to bake bread. My Mom really likes it always tells me to bring some for her to perform MOEE. Bakery is also promoting Lebanon's feed producers by using local varieties of wheat. That's an idea that attracted chef. Yes Meena Hayek who knows twenty loaves a week for restaurant. La Career in Beirut's to Maisy district so most of the flowers on Lebanon refined flowers and it's rare to find stone mill flowers like brands and brand stone. Mrs Practice Flower instantly before baking so which Which which gives his bread this awesome flavors because if power is very fresh. I think that's using these varieties of wheat. That are going to eventually disappear as a way to save. Our food heritage. Brent soon hopes to expand Maui a bakery into a cafe as well wet buyers can come to enjoy the products on site the seven spice cookies and smokey sour dough crust particularly Morrish. Junior may well soon have other bakers joining her to cope with increased demand
New Zealand’s leader tells AP she’ll try to stop mosque attack suspect from spreading his message of hate at his trial
"New Zealand's prime minister Justin the R. Dern says she will do all she can to stop a man accused of killing fifty one Muslim worshipers from spreading his message of hate at his trial if someone's motivated by and so many things you deprive them of it Australian white supremacist Brenton Tarrant goes on trial in June in an interview with the A. P. Ardern says it took some time to come to grips with what happened that was my just my instinct around the White at New Zealanders would be would be feeling that this was yes this was an attack very explicitly on them with some community but I what I almost community the gunman gunmen live stream his attack in New Zealand on Facebook are Duren says she hopes artificial intelligence could be used to stop future attacks from being broadcast and that everybody has a responsibility to prevent such broadcast from
Giving Yourself Permission to do Big Things
"Hey there welcome to this edition of of car smart Friday on the Shalini show which seatbelts on we're going for a ride welcome to the show lean show Jelena's a New York Times bestselling filling author celebrity fitness trainer in obsessed with helping you live your life so today I am answering your questions and these are really fun question so I posted this up on my instagram stories and I promised I would give you your answer. Some of these are really deep but I'm excited to talk about the stuff off by the way these are questions all pertain to like being successful or like going for it so the first question was why I do you think that people are afraid to go after their dreams and I think the reason why people afraid to go after their dreams is probably obvious it's either. They don't think they're anof. They don't think that they are big enough important enough smart enough that they're going to fail. L. And nobody wants to look stupid. Nobody wants to be vulnerable and that way and so. I think it's interesting that people don't go for their dreams. I think it's even more interesting when people don't have dreams or what. They say that they're dreamer. Their goal is it's like dude. You're already like that's just going to happen happen. It's like saying my goal is to someday be fifty one years old like that's GonNa Happen. You know what I mean like so often. I asked people like you know. What do you WanNa do like how how much money do you WanNa make or what would you like to build. How would you like to feel or look at things that there are already on pace for. That's not a goal. I mean that's not something that pushes you. That's not something that stretches you. When I'm talking about dreaming I mean giving yourself permission to dream think about something that feels elusive that feels difficult that feels far far away like Brenton I when we we're making our vision kind of like our five year plan if you will and we were doing this as part of a mastermind group remember the sunny. Do you remember orange when you're talking about three percents percent Yep. We're this mastermind group that we've formed where we invited the very first mastermind we did. I think this like two thousand nine we invited small group of people from different industries but all you know business folks but different stages like to the gals had like a a spray tanning business they were starting together and there was a psychiatrist and an inventor of physical therapists sutter capital of Yeah Yeah Venture Capitalists. It was Kinda cool. It was cool. It was really cool but anyways we did this exercise together as a group and we all wrote down what we wanted our lives look five years from that moment and Britain I wrote our own and then we were kind of comparing notes and one of our mutual dreams was to live on the ocean like live on the ocean or I should say on if near the ocean ocean your abuse like a Beach Beach House right. I don't know that was picturing living on the ocean but I was picturing living like you know I could see it where I look like a walk to the beach and yes and like frankly those homes here in southern California just to give you some perspective the same house that you were to buy like in a nice neighborhood neighborhood but off of the beach on the beach. It might be another add five million dollars. Would you say that about right. Maybe four million it depends on how big houses but yeah typically if you're moving towards the ocean you have a few of the ocean on the ocean. You're looking at you know four to six months in southern California yeah in addition to like that's minimum yes. Oh picture your average size house in southern California. You know how expensive that is and now take another four to six million on to the normal price they just because on the ocean so when we said that when we put that in our five year plan plan like that felt very dreamy. It didn't feel like it was for sure GonNa Happen. Were ready for it in the next year or two. That's for sure right and you know I said this today. I put that on paper but I am not an ally and tell you. I thought that was GONNA happen in five years. Here's how I create a dream and it's that would be super cool. I think it's within the realm of possibilities but I don't know that it's likely that's what I call a dream a dream emerson like I don't know if it's like that likely to happen. I can see that it's possible. That's a dream and I think too many of us too many view. You say okay well. Here's this dream but you know it's very likely if you just put a little bit of effort into it to come up with a dream that's really exciting is is to put something on paper that you like that would be freaking on freaking believable and a little scary and scary yeah to get to that point. It's GonNa. There's GONNA be some risk involved and there's GonNa be some a strategy and you really have to think about it. I remember those three percent or meetings that we had to Kinda correct a couple people because like you said earlier they put down goals or crazy things can happen if I were like. Wait a second you're already doing. It's like the next year like it's almost like when you write down tattoos that you WanNa do tomorrow and one of them's brush your teeth yeah. It's a a small. It's not even a drink. It's a small goal. It's not even dream so so there you go so the next question was what is the difference between between well okay with this kind of a local. She gives a little backstory and says she regularly self sabotage ourselves so she said I am trying to figure out whether I have fear of failure fear of success okay so I don't know the answer and I do think they're different. Someone who has fear of failure. Oh year typically in not always most situations you have either really critical parents errands or critical people around you and so your fear of failure is that you just want to be accepted and loved and when you messed up you didn't feel those things as a child usually sometimes fear of failure though is because you have so much success around you they you're afraid to fail because then you again you won't belong so. I think fear of failure is our desire to belong desired to have significance and we think if we fail sale that will be lesser yeah I like rejected or we won't be loved. We won't be accepted. I think that's what we're fear. Failure comes in and fear of success different. Fear of success in my estimation is someone who when they think about being successful that means a comes with more responsibility expectations demands change. Jim People are afraid of change that if they are also I think fear of success sometimes is that people think well if I'm successful of a lot of eyes John. Me and then people will know that I'm fried so can be some imposter syndrome imposture soon for sure and if I get too big I've been up too many eyeballs on me in somebody. If not many people are gonNA figure out like it's not real yeah so nope if you think about both of those things right or fear of success and fear of failure in either case you just want to be accepted and you want to be loved and appreciated you. WanNa be enough so the way you get around. Both of those is knowing that how other people feel about you has nothing to do with your worth earth. It has nothing to do with your value. You are enough. You're worthy and you are significant because you're you your child of God so get over that and I also think the only way that you can fail is by doing nothing. That's how you fail and the only person you'll fail feeling you're feeling is you're failing yourself all right next question. Shalini I really we have some big dreams and goals but I don't want to let go of the security that I feel and that security or my quote golden handcuffs are hold me back from doing my own thing okay well. I get that and I don't know if this is from a guy or Gal I can't tell from the username but security is another natural human desire like we all want to feel safe so that's normal. It's natural and I don't know your situation but when we want security it's oftentimes because we want to keep other. The people save two so my recommendation is because you mentioned golden handcuffs so I'm assuming that means. You have a well paying career. There are job or position. Maybe it's even a well paying business. You don't love and you want to go do something else. Here's my best advice. You frigging do it but don't quit that thing that provides your security. Is that what you're gonNA say hundred percent okay. What were you gonNA say Dabble. If you have some crazy like if you're you're not happy with what you're doing. I'm going to throw this out there but you're making a great income or you. Are you know you're providing for a family and it's just not in the cards but you know you're not happy but you have this like it to do something amazing or you know or different or something like that or you just have a great great idea then dabble in it trade out because you know what it might not be. It's that whole thing. The grass isn't always greener type of thing and it might be one of those things things. Were you start dabbling and you're like okay. I'm glad I didn't go this way because this would have been a disaster. If I were to quit this great thing so dabbling it see how it feels and then just go slowly because you don't always have to just jump all in to something that's so dip your toe in that's right absolutely Salihi in and you can dip your toe and realize this ain't that thing but I I at least I have the security of my job and I know this going way back but when we first I were married I was working as a paralegal and Brett was off playing football and actually at this point when we were first married to play football all right yeah true but actually when we first got married you were done playing football on uh-huh and I was working as a paralegal and I knew I decided my mind. Oh this is not my thing. I do not want to be an attorney. I thought I wanted all my life to be an attorney and I take them to L.