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The Anti-Trump Supporters Incited Violence Against Trump Supporters

ToddCast Podcast with Todd Starnes

01:39 min | 1 d ago

The Anti-Trump Supporters Incited Violence Against Trump Supporters

"They've got people assigned to listen to this radio program. They've got people assigned to actually monitor what I say on some of these TV appearances that we do on newsmax and real American news and many others. And they're flat out lying about what I said. So I want to go back and I want to play for you. Again, I was reminding people that it was the anti Trump crowd that actually facilitated an incited violence against Trump supporters back in 2016. Keep in mind the number of forget. Going back to 2016, Trump supporters were brutally beaten and attacked and left bloodied in the streets of city after city after city. The left they don't want they don't want you to remember that, but we do. We have a mind like an iron trap here at the Dodge turns radio show. As a matter of fact, one of the attacks in San Jose. I mean, people were getting pelted with rocks and bottles and eggs so there were fist fights and it was so bad even Hillary Clinton came out and condemned the violence against the Trump supporters. There was a situation in Chicago where a guy was beaten in the streets because he was wearing a maga hat. There was an incident in I believe Maryland, Montgomery, high school, where a teenage boy, a 15 year old boy was wearing one of the red maga hats, and this kid was attacked by four other students. They punched him, threw him to the ground and just started kicking the child.

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Gov. Scott Walker: The Feel-Good Gun Control Laws Don't Address Issues

Mike Gallagher Podcast

01:44 min | 2 d ago

Gov. Scott Walker: The Feel-Good Gun Control Laws Don't Address Issues

"You know, we need warriors right now. Boy, do we need we need conservatism and it feels to me like the Republican Party is teed up to have a really successful November to start taking this country back. We desperately need a return to sanity and normalcy and yet a lot of conservatives are very upset about this gun control, you know, bipartisan deal. Now 14 Republicans are supporting it. What do you say to the American to the average American who cherishes the Second Amendment doesn't want red flag laws doesn't want our constitutional rights taken away from your perspective and you've been at the game a long time. You know you know this world is this advancement problematic or is it something that needed to be done after you've all in Buffalo and other mass shootings? Well, I think this unfortunately reflection of the Senate or you've got a number of people who on any number of issues are on the bubble. They've held firm up until recently. I think because of obviously the dismal ratings of Joe Biden and his economic policy, but I do think it's a reminder that we've got to have a countermeasure to this. When I was governor years ago, we initiated a number of things to improve school safety, put our money where our mouth was did more to put officers into schools did more to reinforce schools and did more to deal with mental health issues. We've seen in Texas as we've seen elsewhere, time and time again, particularly coming off this pandemic. We've got a mental health crisis, particularly amongst young people, and these feel good. A gun control laws aren't addressing those issues, and that's rarely really where we should be spending our time.

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Texas GOP 'On Fire' With Passing Resolutions

The Dinesh D'Souza Podcast

02:23 min | 4 d ago

Texas GOP 'On Fire' With Passing Resolutions

"Is the Texas GOP was, you know, they were, in a sense, on fire on all fronts. And they were passing important resolutions that, you know, these resolutions look. Their statements have conviction. They don't have legislative impact. They're almost like a platform. There are a positioning, if you will of the Texas GOP. But the new Texas GOP platform requires Texas students to quote learn about the humanity of the pre born child, including that life begins at fertilization at conception. It even actually requires students to listen to ultrasounds and watch ultrasounds. Hey, listen to the science. Nothing wrong with that. It demands the Texas constitution to remove the legislature's power over a firearms. Quote with the view to preventing crime. So the idea here is that, listen, this is part of the, this is a constitutional right, of course it's in the U.S. Constitution, the Second Amendment. But the idea here is also to amend the Texas constitution to disempower the legislature to be able to take your gun rights away. The idea I guess being that the gun right is an individual right that is outside the province of the government. I won't comment on this one. Treating homosexuality as an abnormal lifestyle choice. Despite the way it was not in the 2018 or 20 platforms, but it is being brought forward now. And I suspect it's being brought forward and not even so much directly because of the gay issue, but more because of all this stuff. Involving the trans involving women's sports, involving pressuring young children. Are you a boy? Are you a girl? And the reason I say that is there's also a gender identity, a clause in here that describes it. I think accurately as a genuine and extremely rare mental health condition and the Texas resolution requires official documents to adhere to quote biological gender. In other words, kind of what doctors and nurses did from time immemorial as you hold up the kid, you take a good look down there, you decide if it's a boy or a girl, and that's what appears on the record. It's not like I identify as this I identify as that. You identification has nothing to do with the matter. This is your biology, whether you like it or not.

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Uvalde Police Hire Lawyers to Stop Release of Body Cam Footage

Stephanie Miller's Happy Hour Podcast

01:06 min | 4 d ago

Uvalde Police Hire Lawyers to Stop Release of Body Cam Footage

"But you know, and I got to say, this Yuval di police situation, oh my God, if ever the good guy with a gun, argument has been blown to smithereens, right? What is this latest thing? The one guy didn't fire because he was afraid he'd hit kids. It's like right, that's why we're saying you shouldn't harm teachers and we need to do something about not enough guns because he's like, I didn't want to fire because there were kids playing in the background. And this is why the whole like, oh yes, all we need more guns in all of these situations, right? Would only add to anyway, but you just, you retweeted, Yuval, you police have hired a private law firm to fight against being required to release body camera footage and other records related to school shooting, files could be highly embarrassing and involve emotional and mental distress they argue, and you just said utterly shameless if they can't, if they can afford to hire lawyers to block the public from knowing what cowardly pieces of they are, then defund them. Boy, if that's not an argument for defunding the police. Well, essentially, they're defunding themselves. They're saying, we're going to ship some of the money we get. And I think the police get 40% of the budget in the town or the 40%.

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A highlight from Which Piece Of God's Puzzle Are You?

Live Behind The Veil

06:58 min | 5 d ago

A highlight from Which Piece Of God's Puzzle Are You?

"Welcome to live behind the veil and atmosphere where men and women of God speak his word to this age and bring his kingdom to this earth. Do you have ears to hear and eyes to see what God is doing in this hour? Let us join our host and the family's conversation as the Holy Spirit is unfolding. The word behind the veil hello and welcome to live behind the veil. I'm Ron, your host, and on this podcast, the family talks about how God has created us all different with many different expressions. And yet, as we come together as one body, we are perfect in his sight. We're created in God's image. So I think that everybody is perfect. And I think that the perfection it is being unveiled as we mature in Christ, as we mature in our walk with him, is totally awesome. Because the ground is all level at the foot of the cross. The one thing that has caused astounds me, we are perfect. He made us that way. We're in his image, and now it's for us to realize it. Realizing who he has created you to be. I raised twins, you'll like this. I can't compare. You can't compare one child to the other, and you can't compare twins to all the other because they're all individuals. And thence that coming together of individuals that make one body. I think the perfection is the relationship. That you have with the lord and with one another, because I just flashed back on the prodigal son. When he came back and his father loved him. He suddenly knew who the father was. More than he ever had before. And as we get to know that the father loves us, and that we get to know that we love one another, I think that's where perfection lies. Because we all have those things in our hearts that protect ourselves from one another and from the father. But as we learned that love is the only thing that the father is, then we learn that we don't have to protect ourselves anymore, and that's where the perfection will lie. You can not be perfect without others. Yeah. They are perfectly what God created each individual to be are, but the perfection actually comes when there is a culmination or a bringing together a many membered body. As we learn to trust one another in a depth to where we understand that the heart that each of us have that God is speaking through that other individual, we draw the Christ out of each person and together that creates that perfection because Jesus is perfect, and if he's in us, each of us we might be a leg and I arm a finger, but altogether we make a perfect body. Amen. I would say this, the only entity that I'm worried about being perfect towards is my father. You're perfect right where you are. Right. God gave you a gift. And he gave me a different gift, and it takes a long time sometimes for us to find out which two pieces of the puzzle go together. You know, sometimes we try to make it fit, and boy, it just doesn't work, but boy, when you find that puzzle piece that goes with yours, oh my gosh. What a liberty in a freedom when those pieces come together and you find out that there can be blood flowing through the veins. I always love those puzzles, my little kids had the, you know, it was innate, but ten puzzle on the hat about 5 pieces. Exactly. There's an old saying simple mind simple pleasures. I went through chemo. Back in 2010. I couldn't be around people, because my white blood count was so low. So I got into doing puzzles, and it was one of my biggest meeting with meetings with the lord, just about that issue because I was doing a puzzle where a piece would look like it fits in with the three other sides already there. And it looked perfect. But then you found the foresight and you're going that piece doesn't go there. Right. It was so frustrating. But then you find out the true piece that goes there and it is so rewarding. It's true. Yeah, that's very true. And that's the joy of actually being different. Is because none of us are the same. Thank God. The worst thing you could ever do is homogenize people to where they're all exactly robots, right? We are individuals. Created that way by God on purpose, and as we come together in who we are, we become more than what we ever could have been by ourselves. On this podcast, we've seen that although, we are very different as individuals with many different expressions. As we come together under his lordship, we flow together and become the great many membered body of Christ. Experiencing the impartation of God's word through his family is a life. As this time in his presence blessed you, then please subscribe to our podcast at live behind the veil dot com. If you would like to contact the family with questions or topics that you would like to discuss, you can email them to living epistles at live behind the veil dot com. Stay connected, tuned in and grow with the family as the lord unveils his word to us live. Behind the veil.

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How Can Parents Remove Woke Orgs From Schools? Pastor John Tells Us

The Charlie Kirk Show

02:11 min | 5 d ago

How Can Parents Remove Woke Orgs From Schools? Pastor John Tells Us

"I'm pure ya mom here with my son tonight. Connor. And I had a question regarding, we've been going to school board meetings for the past two years in puree unified. And a big group of parents and we've got this organization right now called bloom 360 five going on in a lot of the school districts in Arizona. And I wanted to point on it because you talked about what is a man and in this organization, they disguise it as something else where they basically paint boys and men as all bad abusers and that if they're the provider of the home, that's a stereotype. So I guess we're having trouble. How do we get these organizations out of our schools? Besides running for school board, because I'm already doing that, this coming November. So I'm going to get on there and get it out. But I just want to help, I just want parents in the community if they're having these situations where we've got these big organizations or these big companies in our schools, how do we get them out of our schools? Right. And you're speaking about our public schools, correct? Yeah, correct. You know, when Madeline O'Hara fought to remove prayer from school. They had to replace prayer with something. They brought in metal detectors. They brought in cops. They brought in dogs, and they brought in all kinds of things. Here's the reality. When a place has told God that he's not welcome, that place becomes cursed. It's kind of hard for us to expect to have children receive our viewpoints and ideologies in a school system that's postmodern. And a school system that pushes socialism and Marxist ideologies. The best thing for us to do when we see that taking place is to find turning point school. Find dream city school, find a charter school that's not pushing those woke ideologies.

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Drag story hour hosts, under attack, dig in their heels

AP News Radio

00:57 sec | 6 d ago

Drag story hour hosts, under attack, dig in their heels

"Hateful rhetoric against LGBTQ people is now targeting drag story times with protests around the country during Pride Month Protesters outside Chicago harassed parents attending an event while in New York they pray to disrupt another event drag queen story hours director Jonathan Hamel says there's been pushback since day one and phobia against the LGBTQ community isn't new but this looks different This is a hate crime This is organized by extremist groups from the right that are looking to incite violence and still hurt At an event near San Francisco members of the extremist Proud Boys entered a library hurling insults at a drag queen reading to children librarian Cindy Chadwick the horrible irony of it was they said over and over we're here to protect the kids And it was the kids they were terrified Hamilton says they plan to enhance security but won't stop drag queen story hour I'm Julie Walker

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The Left's Ongoing Indoctrination of Children With Deborah Flora

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

01:20 min | 6 d ago

The Left's Ongoing Indoctrination of Children With Deborah Flora

"I mean, the things that we are projecting onto innocent young children in the name of ideological agendas is inexcusable. You know, some of the students you talked about that we interviewed in our documentary said exactly the opposite, which we know to be true. No child is born a racist. No child is born thinking that someone is better or worse depending on the melon in their skin. That is projected upon them and taught to them. In fact, some of the students that we interviewed that were wonderful in this documentary said, they're losing friends now because they were not even aware of one another's race until it was introduced. So the reality is there's a lot of projection going on. No data to back it up. And you know, I just want to share one story. One of my favorite stories was a young black child and young white child. All it has to do is melon and skin level, where they were probably about 6 years old. And the young toe headed blond boy said he got his hair cut exactly like his friend, who happened to have more melanin because he knew if he did that, his teacher couldn't tell them apart. He did not see color. He simply saw a friend at a human being. Let's face it, CRT is simply the latest permutation of Marx's critical theory critical race theory being the rapper on this one that does one thing. It separates people into groups and pits them against each other. It's time we stop experimenting on our children. Enough is

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The Theology of Marxism With Dr. James Lindsay

The Charlie Kirk Show

02:02 min | 6 d ago

The Theology of Marxism With Dr. James Lindsay

"With doctor James Lindsay a few minutes ago. About the theology of Marxism. And we're do you want to kind of sum up what you had just said, and then I want to transition from that into a conversation with Charlie, because Charlie serves at the front lines of everything that's happening. In many ways, I've been behind the scenes for a number of years. James, of course, is front lines, but boy, Charlie takes most of the arrows. So, but doctor Lindsey, could you just explain to us again when you just spoke about? Yeah, so we got another two hours. It'll be easier this time. No, it's really simple. There are two major components or three, I guess. Marx wants to throw down religion as a mystification and place of that he's going to take Rousseau's leftism, the idea of a social contract governing society and increasingly socialist way where we use we willingly give up our freedoms to achieve more freedom in the name of the greater good. And then he's going to tuck that into the hegelian dialectic as a process to transform society into its ideal state. And so man is the creative subject in this religion who doesn't realize that he is his own God yet, but can realize that through this process by understanding the nature of his suffering rather than masking it with the opium of religion. And in the long march of history can actually realize his true nature, which is transcendent of private property, totally communistic, perfectly social, and social man lives in social society with no difference between man and society any longer, and thus everybody pays marks as bills. And the way that we get there is that the conscious within the woke was in this religion, the born again within this religion, however you want to phrase it, seize the means of production of man society in the world and transform it into a more human form, a form more usable man before more suitable to man, which is essentially the Garden of Eden remade by men for men on earth as it isn't in heaven. Charlie,

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Why Is There Such a Fuss Over the LIV Tour?

Fore The People

02:11 min | Last week

Why Is There Such a Fuss Over the LIV Tour?

"Like, what's the problem with there being two tours? There was already two tours. There was the European tour of the PGA Tour. There's already two tours. Like, you didn't care if Patrick Reed went and played the European tour for 6 weeks a year. That's what he was going to do. Well, guess what? He's just going to do that. It's just going to be 6 weeks. It's just going to be renamed called the live tour. Who cares? You know, I don't think the player is really care. Where these guys play in between the majors. Do you? No. I mean, well, I think they care a little bit from some of the statements regarding, you know, what guys said and where they're going. However, at the end of the day, does it not make it easier that some of the competition is leaving? You bet. I mean, like, you know, if we were like boys and I told you I was going to do something and then I didn't do it. You'd be like pissed and they'd be like, well, probably could beat this guy every time I play against him anyway. However, now I don't have to worry about it at all. See you later, he's gone. Like the couple tournaments he'd sting me a year. He's out of there and I don't even have to worry about it. In some dude that's barely going to get in the field because of it. So that part, that part makes sense, but dude, I've heard all sorts of things. I don't know. And in his U.S. open week, but the European tour has been very silent during this whole deal, right? Like, I mean, noticeably silence. And without a doubt, they have ties to, you know, they had a tournament. They had a tournament with that was sponsored by, you know, the folks that are sponsoring the lives were and things like that. So they're in a different position than the PGA Tour. What I mean, if these guys all become European tour members, somehow like all of a sudden they're back in the world rankings, they're back in all these other tournaments. And can the PGA Tour suspend someone from a WGC? I don't think they can, because it's like co sanctioned by all the other tourists. You know what I mean? And I don't know. I can't say I'm not an attorney. I'm not an accountant. I'm not, I can't give you tax advice. But I would guess that if someone got world ranking points and qualified for a WGC, and it's not a PGA Tour event, it's a world, whatever golf championship. They'd be able to play.

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Joe Biden Offers Condolences, Saying Jo-Ann Stores CFO 'Dropped Dead'

Mike Gallagher Podcast

01:05 min | Last week

Joe Biden Offers Condolences, Saying Jo-Ann Stores CFO 'Dropped Dead'

"But we were talking about the state of affairs and Dennis talking about Joe Biden's inability to be a decent person. I don't know if that's what this is all about or not, but listen to what he said to the CEO of Joanne stores who again, her husband passed away. This is how the consoler in chief. That's what they like to call him. The consoler in chief, check out how he consoled her. And by the way, my sympathies to the family of your. You CFO, who are drop dead very unexpectedly. And my best of their family is tough stuff. Oh boy. Oh boy. When you're saying you're sorry that your husband died, you might want not want to say he dropped dead. To the grieving widow, that's our president, yep,

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Google's Shadow Operation to Kill Gendered Language With Allum Bokhari

The Charlie Kirk Show

02:50 min | Last week

Google's Shadow Operation to Kill Gendered Language With Allum Bokhari

"Let's just kind of talk more broadly about Google right now. And this is a phenomenal story you guys could check it out at the great breitbart dot com. We love breitbart dot com. By the way, a story right next to your story. I just have to say this. We'll talk about it. Miss Universe insists, not all people who menstruate are women. That's where we're at. This is a breitbart dot com story. Go ahead all them. Well, yeah, that's exactly the kind of thinking that's driving this Google's happenings at Google. There are no men and women. If you even use the word men or women or mother or boy, then you're somehow being non inclusive. That's the way they want. It's what we like. It's one of the great and Elon Musk pointed this out. I've said this for a while, but the fact Elon is saying it is hilarious, which is in the same sentence, they'll say, there's no such thing as a woman, but trans women are women. Oh really, so which is it? Or trans women, women? What is that word woman? And I just, I just I've plugged at so many times. Matt Walsh's just precise focus on this question of what is a woman is one of the most brilliant approaches to the trans calamity that I've seen in quite some time. But let's talk about kind of Google as a whole. Do you think that they have been kind of quiet in the last couple of months, at least this is not my beat. I know you're a reporter on this stuff. What have they been up to? What do we have to keep our eyes on when it comes to Google? There's still manipulating search results. Are they woke or than ever? Are you seeing any sort of kind of back to reality movement at Google? What's going on there? I actually don't see any back to reality inside Google. And I've always considered Google to be the worst of the Silicon Valley tech giants. Twitter arguably has a more work culture, but they have less because Twitter is a smaller company with a smaller user base to have less impact on the information we receive, whereas with Google, everyone uses Google. And Facebook, you know, they someday sometimes they sometimes try and throw a bone to the right. They don't always do what the left says. They're still extremely left wing. But Google suppressed right about news completely during the 2020 election. They took our visibility on certain central almost zero. You could even type in bright news headlines and they wouldn't show up in Google even when you're typing in the exact headline. So they clearly intervened in the 2020 election. And we even got a tape of their executives discussing doing that after the 2016 election. So they are the openly and brazenly imperial and elections. We've seen the manipulating search results related to referendums around the world. And nothing is stopping them from doing that again. So I think Google is definitely one we should continue watching. We should look for discrepancies in search results. Discrepancies and traffic from Google to the mainstream media as opposed to Google to conservative media.

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Liz Cheney's Contradictions About January 6

The Dan Bongino Show

01:53 min | Last week

Liz Cheney's Contradictions About January 6

"Liz Cheney The biggest fraud in the history of Congress the biggest fake and phony a woman who will say anything to stay in power Who is delivering an opening statement saying two completely contradictory things And nobody gets it Nobody gets it Except if you listen to this show the premise of the January 6th star chamber right Has been too completely entirely contradictory ideas And I don't hear anyone other than the people on this show talking about it What are those two ideas Well the January 6th star chamber on one hand is telling you this was a planned insurrection Jim the most dangerous day since the Civil War Pearl Harbor 9 11 all of it Most dangerous day ever the insurrection of his plan the Proud Boys Chewbacca guy The QAnon shaman although that may be the same guy The guy sitting on the floor when the cop came into the Senate chamber hey man are you okay Yeah I'm okay just try to keep that guy Dave dainties people were in They were taking the country over Taking it over With no weapons Chewbacca guy Chewbacca guy was taking the country over with the Proud Boys They were there It was like fort Sumter man Pearl Harbor Was like some of all fears they had of nuclear weapon in a Coke machine somewhere So you told this was the deadliest insurrection in American history Deadliest And then on the other hand is anybody caught this They tell you Donald Trump is definitely a fault The inside of the whole thing I don't understand You understand how both of those stories can't exist at the same time right There's zero sum one takes from the other

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Bob Cesca Doesn't Understand Why People Are Willing to Die for Trump

Stephanie Miller's Happy Hour Podcast

01:45 min | Last week

Bob Cesca Doesn't Understand Why People Are Willing to Die for Trump

"So your thoughts on what we've heard so far from everybody thus to this point regarding January 6th. I mean, your thoughts about the people testifying and what's been said so far. The thing I can't get beyond Jody is the bigger picture, which is that so many people, whether we're talking about the foot soldiers on the ground who did all the hard work, or the people in the inner circle who planned this whole coup. I still can't believe that they took this caliber of risk in support of this game show host con man. That's the thing that has always confounded me that all of this that we're going through right now. These hearings and all the trouble, grand juries and investigations. And people going to prison. I mean, for good stretches of time in some cases, it's all in service of Donald Trump. There was a clip from last Thursday nights. I think it was our two when they were covering the Proud Boys. There was a clip from one of the insurrectionists. I think it was inside the rotunda of the capitol building, and they were on camera phone and the guy said, I'm willing to lay down my life if it requires it. Is it that for Donald Trump? For that ridiculous cartoon character from New York City that we've been making fun of for 50 years for God's sake. As long as I've been around, Donald Trump has been this. This goofball, who, you know, no one really takes all that seriously. And maybe that was part of the problem. Maybe all of that, that finger pointing and laughing is what caused all of it. But I don't know, I don't think so. I think this is all about his basic inability to accept

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Fox News Joins the FemiNazis With Morgan Zegers

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

02:42 min | Last week

Fox News Joins the FemiNazis With Morgan Zegers

"Let's play this shocking clip. This was sent to me by a Salem colleague on Friday. I have nothing else to say except fox is gone. Rylan whittington, whose journey of transitioning at age 5 has been seen by 7 million people in a family YouTube video. Brian Yanis has the story about that family that hopes they're experienced can help others. Watch here. If you saw me walking down the street, you wouldn't think anything different. 14 year old rylan winnington is a typical Southern California teenager. And the whittington's along with mom, Hillary, dad, Jeff, and sister brinley, are a typical family. The only difference, though, in rylan's eyes, is what this family can mean to the tens of thousands of kids under 18 who identify as transgender. We put our story out there, so people can see that there's another family out there that is going through what we're going through or there's another family who's proud of who they are. Before rylan could even speak, he managed to tell his parents that he is a boy. I could just see it. It wasn't true to be a brat. It was like painful. It was truly painful for him to have to wear feminine clothing and for us constantly telling him that you're a girl. So that's faulks, the erstwhile conservative cable giant that for Pride Month is celebrating a girl being mutilated and turning into a pretend boy. You can react, however, you wish to that Morgan, I would just say that I believe and have done for some time, perhaps this is the most important issue we have that will help wake up America to what is happening. I would agree. The left is taking this to our children and it's crossing the line. It's interesting I spoke at Colorado school of mines a couple months ago and I showed up to speak about history because I love history and this is my work. And there were 40 students outside, protesting me for being transphobic. That's not bad. 40. I was like, oh, they're here for me. And they had these posters saying that someone was there who was against human rights. And they had clips of me that they were referencing just talking about protecting women's sports and objectivity, basic truth and science. And so after that, what I found, what was most disappointing is there were some boys there in the crowd. And they came up to me after because I had addressed the protesters and they had said something along the lines of, I just don't know why you care about this so much. It's just women's sports. It's just a woman's bathroom. It's just whoever how they want to identify. And to me, it's everything.

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Two of the Most Important Questions in Life

Dennis Prager Podcasts

01:24 min | Last week

Two of the Most Important Questions in Life

"I was thinking about the theory that I now have. I always have theories. By the way, just side note, I always have side notes. You're going to get a big kick out of this. So I've always thought about life from the earliest memories that I have. And in my 20s, so many realizations about life just hit me. And I even wrote my first book then, and it's still in print. It's the most widely read English introduction to Judaism, so I've been thinking a long time. And I remember thinking when I hit my 30th birthday, I don't think these realizations about life are going to come quite as hard and fast as they have been in my 20s. Boy, were you wrong? Boy was I wrong exactly. So here's one of my latest. The most important question in life is there a God, because if there isn't, then this is all somewhat of a bad joke. It's over. Eternity and oblivion, et cetera. Second most important is are humans innately good. Because everything changes if you believe that they are.

James Como Shares His Favorite Story 'Perelandra' by C.S. Lewis

The Eric Metaxas Show

02:43 min | Last week

James Como Shares His Favorite Story 'Perelandra' by C.S. Lewis

"That you've written a book about one of my very, very, very favorite books. It's called mystical peril and so there are a lot of people listening, they're not even C. S. Lewis devotees, so describe, if you would please, what is para landra for my audience, tell my audience. So that I don't. All right, I'll begin with the subtitle. Mystical peril angel my light my lifelong reading of C. S. Lewis and his favorite book. Because peril andro, he said, more than once, was his favorite book. What year did he write it? Amazing. Out of the silent planet, the first of this trilogy had preceded it in 39, and that hideous strength, which is really a stand-alone thing in 45, I think, was the third book. I think of it as the ransom trilogy because of the hero ransom appearing in all three. So let's call it the ransom trilogy, but the so the middle book and you say, it was Lewis favorite book. And boy, he wrote a lot of books. It's called peril lander. So it's a novel. Yes, a fantasy. He would have called it a romance using the old medieval classical term for an adventure. Now, peril andra, people who don't know the book should know, is Louis's name for Venus. The planet Venus. And in this book, elwyn ransom travels magically in a coffin like object transported by el dila angelic creatures to this unfallen Paradise, which is peril andra. Populated by two people, the king and the queen. Prelapsarian before the fall. I mean, look, this is a heavy idea, so I'm going to have to interrupt a lot, because I want my audience to be tracking. This is amazing stuff, folks. So this is a novel. It is brilliant. It is brilliantly written as a writer who values writing who values literature. There are passages in the book power lander, particularly toward the end that are some of the most glorious passages of prose ever written in English, bar none. Some of the most spectacular writing that I have ever read. But the plot is that elwyn ransom goes to this planet. It's his version of Venus, Lewis's version of Venus. And he is sort of confronts the atom in the eve of that planet before the fall, and then is used by God to help them prevent the fall to prevent the fall.

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Actor Kirk Cameron Joins Dinesh to Talk About 'Home School Awakening'

The Dinesh D'Souza Podcast

02:21 min | Last week

Actor Kirk Cameron Joins Dinesh to Talk About 'Home School Awakening'

"Guys, I'm really happy to welcome to the podcast, actor, producer, court Cameron, some of you will remember him as Mike Seaver from the 1980s hit sitcom growing pains, but since then he's been the kind of entrepreneur in faith and family focused films, TV shows, live events, he made, of course, the film called fire proof that many of us saw monumental connect the way of the master TV series and also a whole bunch of stuff focused on marriage and family and parenting. He's a evidently has a new feature coming out with the Kendrick brothers called life mark coming out in September, but we're gonna talk now about his new documentary. It's called the homeschool awakening. It's in theaters. Today, June 13th, and also tomorrow, June 14th. Kirk, welcome to the podcast. Thanks for joining me. Man, you are a productive guy and the new film looks great. Tell us a little bit about it. Well, why did you choose this topic? And what can people expect to see in the film? Thanks to that shit, it's so good to be with you. And I'm excited. You know, this is really exciting because there's an awakening that's taking place across the nation. And it was really sparked by the pandemic and the response of locking public schools down, sending children home, parents got a front row seat as they watched their kids on their laptops, be taught things that just horrified them. I mean, this is just crazy stuff that they're teaching and while they're removing a lot of good things from school, teaching kids to love God, love their neighbor, be proud to live in America. They're replacing it with critical race theory, they're replacing that with gender queer theory, encouraging their kids to choose their own pronouns decide if they want to be a boy or a girl. And parents said, we're not going to do this anymore. So they kept their kids home, even after the schools opened back up, and homeschooling doubled in 2020. And homeschooling is actually this amazing, wonderful community of families who are passing on their values and giving their kids a great education in the context of a community that is on mission to bring faith, family, and freedom back into

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

02:53 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"How can people connect with you and take advantage of your wisdom in order to move on to more peaceful family relationships, you know, it is so hard to do this alone and nobody ever imagined parents dead. During a pandemic and even without a pandemic parenting was pretty darn challenging. So as a family coach for over 20 years. I've been helping hundreds and hundreds of families Jose kind of right the ship get back to connection and Harmony because parenting does not have to be heart or miserable or miserable so you can connect with me via a breakthrough session and that is a complimentary call we get on the phone we talked about where you are where you want to go and how to get you there. You can schedule that with me at Boys Alive. S as in Sam golbach. Slash breakthrough - session. That's a big old link and we will post that in the show notes. I look forward to connecting with you. We are both here in support of your families in support of your peace in your parenting and we want you to know that you are not alone and now back to on boys.

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

05:54 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"The boys it's around ourselves as women as mothers and and again this community that develops its we meet every other week for six months. So we get connected and it's just it's so beautiful to watch how we support each other and receive support. And again, if you are interested in being a part of these very small intimate groups Janet boys alive.com just reach out put Mom's group in the subject to have a safe place with a group of people who are all there for the same reason and you can honestly share What your parenting challenges are major benefit of this podcast for me has been that Janet and I tend to record every week. And so before we get on off and on like Janet you are not going to believe what I'm dealing with now because even though I have them parenting boys for twenty plus years. I still get slammed with situations and I'm like, I don't know what to do about this. Yeah, I love our morning check-ins before we record it's definitely a grounding place for us for me. I'm quite proud over the last year as well. I reached a major life and professional goal. I signed book contracts..

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

04:26 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"Of building Boys. Net and Janet Allison of Boys Alive, Happy birthday. Happy birthday to you on boys podcast is now officially three years old. We have entered the toddler stage and I don't know about you but one thing that always stands out to me about three years old is that three year olds are way worse than two year olds true. What does that mean for us know maybe we're going to get into some trouble this next year cause some controversy. Maybe maybe we will test our boundaries. Maybe we will do it myself all those things that three year olds do oh boy. I'm excited. Jen it's been such a ride through infancy and little babyhood. Right? Right. I mean you guys we are just sort of looking at each other and beaming as you do when your child turns three and you look ahead and you look at that person and it's amazing. This thing that you created now is going out into the world and I think for me Janet and I think for you as well, like that's the most beautiful thing this on boys podcast which started as a little idea in our heads has gone Global I know to your credit it was your idea to start with yes, but I could not have met this without you just like I couldn't make my children all by myself. I needed help. All right, we're talking to go down that road but wage. Yes, indeed. He listeners. You know, I don't know if you know our backstory at all, but Jen and I connected a long time ago on the interwebs as you do and I you know, I always admired her work with boys and she's a writer and I was like kind of in fangirl mode with her and then she sent me an email in January of 2018. Hey, do you want to start a.

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"boys" Discussed on The Bad Boys

The Bad Boys

02:54 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on The Bad Boys

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"boys" Discussed on The Bad Boys

The Bad Boys

04:11 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on The Bad Boys

"Some cultures actually practice it as both control quite regularly go. Gosh you've been on way too long. I it's it starts. This is what happens. This is what happens when we don't record. Daily rolled up until the tensions high. Someone's gotta god. Well we are going to take a break and listen to some music. I think this is icy. Dc realize they wrap brand new open. And we're going to be back with some more craziness. Frank post began allen bird dan Welcome back to bad. Boys unleashed a bit of academica. There we realize and time for the entertainment news. I gotta get myself one of those little intro things on.

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

05:09 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"I remember, you know Quinton, I'd throw baseball in front of his garage would they had plate glass and I broke the glass and don't have a broken plate glass window on the front of my garage due to a boy related issue. Yes. Exactly. And I remember he was punished and I told him we were so tired. I was like, I will take your punishment, right and he was like, you don't want to take this punishment. Yeah, but that's how that's the relationship that we built this level of vulnerability and and love and camaraderie that we have for each other has continued to grow and now he has children are the best friend country has children. So it's amazing for us to get together to pour into the next generation of boys about our experiences that we had growing up and why we continually are so tight now I think part of it is what you said Jen about women women's friendships girls friendships are so different than both ways. We love you know, we can just sit in a circle and talk and we're just happy as can be and and what you said Charles is playing it's all comes back to playing and boys playing together, maybe not having deep meaningful conversations, which moms are always wanting to have with their boys. You know, when is he? When are we going to have those deep meaningful conversations and to recognize that birth? Poised that act of just hanging out together of just being together. That is the glue. That's the bonding. It doesn't it doesn't mean that there aren't those deeper conversations age appropriately but that the the glue is the doing together the playing together that is a wonderful wonderful description of that doing something together and going back to that length of time to form friendships. We did a lot together you think you know we were laughing we were going through our teachers that we had from first to sixth grade just laughing at those times with a lot of things because at that point in time you went from kindergarten through sixth grade in this basically in the same class..

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"boys" Discussed on The Bad Boys

The Bad Boys

03:14 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on The Bad Boys

"A big steel dildo broke the taste of the of the damon and led to be free forever and this is what they celebrated says. What is celebrating right okay. We've got fairy bread day a country. I wanna be leaving. Apparently apparently six workers in the brothels in japan mike their white to the sought to pray for protection and healing from sexually transmitted diseases. Because that's what's gonna get was like an essay. Td okay boys open for business. He's gone up being healed right away. Specific date that this is This is it's on every year in In in april. I think it is right Assayed weighed to do a bad boys to a japan is calling. I think you can do that one. I don't wanna go to a festival. We'd big joint pain joyner instead. Oh my god. I've got better things today. Like the big bugging in the will big banana. Well you know to the front row santa. I taking a tour to the big banana we've got to be done. It's got to be done you notice strategy and you've link to the banana and have one of those photos that andrew this girl andrew you can just tell andrew wanting to do one of those voters isn't he. He's not just not just one. he's learning ending. I for big banana shot. When he comes up to quainton. Does that road trip. He's gonna say to the kids on kids across the road right this friday up one of those ones where you're holding the moon Sorry true the full. That is what we will never forget it. Make sure you hit over to a facebook page into the drawer. Just put a comment on. We're giving away five double passes to the premia screening of occupation rainfall. Tom white to see you. They so make sure you hit there and thanks for joining us on the show tonight. It's been paint fantastic not thanking the listeners. I don't give a shit about you. Now he l. going to be he you just get down with it like you know andrew's looking at me going worries thanks. I'm glad oh well. Yes and a big shared out tool the listeners. There and Yeah appreciate them tune in so hit the official bad boys podcast on apple on On facebook and on instagram and Make sure you hit to a website which is bad boys. Fame dot.

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"boys" Discussed on The Bad Boys

The Bad Boys

04:04 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on The Bad Boys

"Passing. miss them was happy birthday. Oh shit that's up to Let me stop that a guy in five years ago david bowie passed away my goal. But if you're listening to this i'm sorry. Oh he character would if he would've loved along with saw a record have but he's in the entertainment news obser- this we're gonna coming with some entertainment news first. Let's take a listen to ashes to ashes. The david bowie. You're listening to a bad. Boys unleashed saw true. Some of the towns okay being strong abbas trump own no smoking. Oh The welcome back to a bad.

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

07:51 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"I'm part of that is calibrating your own kids so. A bunk ships, toddlers, you have active boys maybe you're GonNa stop at the park before you go see grandma and have. have some run around time so that they can be a little bit more able to you know sit in the room and I as you were talking emily I I was thinking about the you know the natural progression of aging is it is important for kids to be for for grandkids to be aware of that. Having to you know look at at Grandpa with Parkinson's now yet got a walker and now he's got a wheelchair. Now we're sitting beside the their grandfather's death bed and to have that connection to the the normal natural passages of life grandparents are the place that you can have that intimate experience and it's so it's so necessary I feel and my children were at their grandparents deathbed and I feel like it's necessary for. A truer understanding of life and as the value of life. Yup Yup. One of the things that I was thinking about as you were saying, that is how important it is for grandparents. To, recognize that they are failing in their health and they're getting older to start giving things to their grandchildren that they want them to have and I think that's just it's really easy for for grandson grandparents to to not. Be Willing to face the fact that pretty soon they're not going to be around but it's so much more meaningful if you can give something that is meaningful to you to your grandchildren do that all the time I don't even think you have to wait until you're eighty inner eighties or nineties you just should do it whenever you find something that you think I'm not gonNA use this anymore but I'd really like my grandchild a habit ben means so much that can mean so much that connection they can keep it. You know one of the other things that account wanted to mention when we were talking about inlaws. Is How important it is that you support as grandparent, you support the other grandparents in terms of their relationship with their grandchildren. You are sharing grandchildren with this other couple or other person, and it's only to their your grandchild's fit for them to have a fantastic relationship with both sets of grandparents. So drop the LLC drop the whole like Oh did you spend more time over there where you were them then did you you know do things? Together, if you need like to me, it's like we should do birthday parties together but we need to recognize that we're a united front with our grandchildren and that they can enjoy going out on a boat or the swimming pool that the other grandparents have you B- You you develop your relationship with your grandchild with what you are, and then let the others do what they do and be supportive because like I said, no one loses when. have good relationships with both grandparents on either side. Yeah. Yeah. The more people who care about your kids the better absolutely and period. Absolutely. Because this is on voice I feel like we have to go here. Societal norms for boys for men have been shifting over the last twenty, thirty fifty years. increasingly, it's not universal but increasingly among parents, there's recognition that you know maybe saying, Hey, man up or you know put some dirt on it is maybe not the right thing to say to a little boy who's crying Yep. There's generational differences between parents and grandparents because there is a generation in between there. what's the grandparents perspective? Do you hear from your grandparents friends kind of like some confusion or questions about boys today? What's that on the Guy Yeah I? Mean you're talking a grandparents can say things that are racist grandparents can say things that are. Prejudice of all sorts of could say things like you were just saying that are very misogynistic and I think I. I mean I even experienced that with my kids grandparents with one side who I was like wow, that was so we would always have to have a conversation afterwards with our children about. Well, that's probably the right thing is saying that we have it all together now but I do think the generations are coming closer to understanding each other. There's been a lot of talk about empathy and trying to make sure that you understand putting yourself in the shoes of your children and how they might look at something even if you're. Particularly, conservative about something in their more liberal about something. That is a really hard conundrum because sometimes I think you gotta let your grandparents the grandparents be who they are. They are who they are and you there in a stage. You know you're like, wow, that's that's that that's who they are and then you recognize with your children that's just who they are. They're not going to change I don't think it hurts his for the adult children to say, Hey, Dad, when you're here, we would prefer that you not. You know tell them to buck up or be do this too especially boys yeah. Don't don't tell them that they can be an you know they don't have to if they want to be a Shafir, they wanna be seem stressor know whatever they can be that. Well, the stretch goes both ways and I think adapt islands the conversation about I mean, my mom occasionally some like things would slip out of her lips that I'd be like mom, are you kidding me and? And it's the conversation that I had with her but it's also that the kids also recognized and just gave her grace on brandon. That's unless unlearn. Yeah. That's part of who she is. That's her generation and it's an you know just makes it a heightened awareness for us what what were believing and what our kids are believing. So yeah, I think graciousness on both sides and assuming the best of both the grandparents and the grandchildren and the adult children. Always, a good policy. Yeah Jed Denier all about giving grace on this on on boys aren't we jen I'm so much better at saying it than remembering. Life you. Let them couple days have been rough. I'm going to try to remember this moving forward and he this is where a grandparent relationships are so valuable our families. are where we practice these skills. Our families are where we learn how to forgive how to deal with. Okay I don't love everything about this person, but I still love this person and make room for them in their life, and so in facilitating these relationships, we are jointly as parents grandparents preparing our children for the larger world. Absolutely. One of my themes is that if you can go run out and pick it for peace or black lives matter or any of the things that you believe. But if you can't practice love and kindness in your own home, go back to your house and figure out how to do that with people you live with. Because that's where it starts. I absolutely agree with you on Jennifer. Emily. For joining us today podcast is the grand life will put a link in our show notes and share it with your parents. The this is fantastic. Let's keep these conversations going..

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

07:28 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"You know Janet never leave that might twenty, two year old young adult son prioritizes. Spending time with grandma and GRANDPA that almost tears me up you guys. Me I don't underestimate as a grandparent don't under underestimate the relationship you can have the grandchild and how meaningful it is to both parties. So yeah, parents I want to say that. So. Much of this can be facilitated in the tiniest little ways and I have to actually give a lot of credit to my ex husband who in many ways did more to facilitate the boy's relationship with my parents than I did my parents live not far from us but they they live in the country they had. More land than we do here in the city. He planted a garden out there with the kids when the boys were younger. So with the garden, you have to go out pretty frequently to pull the weeds and and harvest the plants. You wouldn't necessarily be out there for a long time, but they would go out there and my mom employing the tricks. Grandma's have done throughout the ages she always has like cookies. Ice Cream treats or something. So even if they were only there, you know fifteen minutes, it was a positive interaction and time that builds up it really does it really does and I have to say, you know my my parents did not have that kind of relationship with my my children and my children grew up seeing friends of theirs had that kind of relationship with the grandparents and wanted it so badly, they didn't have a bad. Relationship with my parents, it was just a kind of distant relationship and you know distance in in in proximity and also in terms of involvement, and so they would I remember they said, one of them said, they were college and they heard overheard telephone telephone conversation with one of the college girls who's talking to grandma and telling her everything and they were laughing and my daughter said, I just don't even understand that. That's so cool. You Imagine. That's how I feel Janet. I want to hear your story after this like. My parents married late. So I actually only knew. The only ones I knew were my dad's dad and my mom's mom and they had both been they both got remarried after original spouses died but all of my grandparents were dead by the time. I was ten one died when I was five, the other died when I was ten and he'd been so hard of hearing for so long. You know it's hard to have a relationship when you can't talk and so I like I feel like I don't even really get what this relationship is supposed to be about Janet. What's your grandparents story? Oh, my Gosh I was really close to my mom's parents and we would travel. You know I have been the Norman Rockwell memories of traveling to Denver for Christmas with my grandparents and We also had a farm in the family and Kansas and we would gather at the farm and play cards. Emily was really fun I need to do it. US Suck it up emily. Good memories with that and just being really close to my grandma. My grandma was a quilt maker and I learned to quilt from her and that those memories are so precious and I think that that really having that connection than was the the impetus for me as when my kids were little as I want that connection for them with my parents and it's interesting because my in-laws you know we would go and visit them but there was not the it wasn't the same relationship that they might my husband's parents and and. And what did I? You know I can look back and go ooh, probably didn't facilitate that as much as I could. But then they they had health is shoes when my. When they were little when my kids were little. So we did they didn't have that connection but my mom used to travel to. Oregon. Every summer we would go on girls trip every summer. So many good memories and I really see than as my children became adults they had that connection with my parents and as you were saying, you know as adults, they would take a weekend and fly to Houston to see my parents just and I mean that makes me wanna cry. Yes. So precious and then of course, you hope that that happens for you as the grandparent. That then that relationship. Continues and they see I know for my oldest she was connected to my mom like from day one and I know she knows how important grandparents can be. So I took that grandma I have. A question about how to facilitating the grandparent relationship. So one thing that I and my siblings have noticed in I'm one of six siblings. My mom is now eighty three and she has had. More than her fair share of health problems. She's had cancer three times and survived cancer. But you know that leaves you with all kinds of side effects that affect Jer everything rain One thing that we have all noticed about my mom is she is very excited about the idea of the grandchildren coming over. But the reality is that little kids. Especially, they are loud. They are noisy. They are whatever, and so like there's what she thinks it will be in her head and then there's the reality and then she just Kinda you know withdraws and. Because, it's more than she can I think physically and emotionally handled, and so one thing we've discussed among ourselves as like what's your advice for how to handle that situation? You know you want to you want to bring the kids over, but you don't want it to be a bad experience for the kids like well, grandma grandma's not actually spending time with me. And Granny you Kinda. crabby. Thank you. Thank you because it goes their own. Ends up snapping. What's your advice emily, Gosh, you know I think that one of the wonderful things about grandparents is that they introduce children to limitations and I do think it's really important whether whether you have somebody who's differently abled or you have somebody who's old and can't handle things very well, and as you're right as people get older does expectations they the fact that she responds positively positively to the idea is is showing you that she really does still love these children and new love one being with them. I guess my biggest piece of advice would be made it really short like it might only be fifteen minutes and for you. You're fortunate if the grandparents live close because then you're like Oh Tikolo fifteen minute whatever and comeback if they live far, it's hard I know for myself that my husband and I have as empty nesters recognized that there are times when it's just too long we've been with them too long and I would have to say that's a good three or four days that's about it. That's about all one can handle if you're used to being an empty Nester and everything's quiet and you're doing your thing all the time. So we try to keep it Ford four days maximum three nights..

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

06:17 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"As a child. So you're looking at how your parents parented if you value that respect it and if they had good. Outcomes. You. Might. What they have to say or ask them because I. Think the best grandparents are not going to tell you unless you ask the worst grandparents tell you all the time but. That's not what you you should be doing is grandparent. Your advice freely and without a without being asked. But if if a adult parent wants to tap in to the wisdom, I think that they should I think that I think we have kind of. In fact, the next hike has has coming up is about this that there is so much value in the wisdom of older people and I think somehow our culture just doesn't. Doesn't really want to tap into that. They keep thinking. There's something better i. think maybe like they often I think often. People who are raising kids now talk to other people who are raising kids but you guys are all in that like you know you don't know what you know, right? Leading the blind isn't it? It kind of is and I think it's valuable. But I also think there are some really interesting things that can be. Garnered from listening to older people and I think, of course, you have to take it with a grain of salt. I. Think my my children are always like you have your memory. It's all idealistic like you think you're never remember the bad things. Like. Yeah but I think the one the few bad things that I do remember the one colic he baby or the one whatever those are because they were they were real standout things. So we're talking about all the things that are wonderful and that you have a good relationship with your. Adult, children and you know we have to talk about also the spouse of the adult child because that brings another dynamic into the relationship, and so you know ideally we would hope that everyone has a great relationship with the grandparent said and the grandparents with the adult children. But talk about the experience of you know maybe some of those doors are closed or maybe there's some you know contentious relationships in their talk about what your listeners experience and how they work. With may be when the door isn't quite open to see children. Yeah. It's it's very, very difficult and and I'm planning an episode about that because I think it is hard to get people to talk about the hard things. Those are the things people kind of want to keep behind closed doors but we know it exists and we know that there are many many grandparents who are disengaged unable to be with their grandkids because one of the one of the spouses. Are probably the in La but sometimes, not always dave cut off relationships and they've decided that they don't WanNa have a relationship with the grandparent and that is one of the most painful things I can think of you you have this granddaughter grandson and you have no access. So I, mean, I think that what is required is I look at yourself first and make sure there isn't anything you're doing or. Not, doing that is causing the lack of access adult child says, no, you can't see them. There might be reasons I've I mean there could be good reasons maybe you are difficult maybe you are giving too much advice. Maybe you aren't building trust and then once you've looked at that and there doesn't seem to be any falter blame on your side, which would be highly unlikely, but it's possible. Then I think you just have to deal with it is what it is and I've talked. I've talked to parents who grandparents who have said they had to wait until their grandchild became independent after they were sixteen eighteen and then don't give up because you can still have a relationship with a grandchild when they're eighteen and you can build that from scratch you know and and you can. Explain you know that that wasn't your choice, but now this child grandchild has a choice and they can you know you can renew that relationship and so I wouldn't give up I would never give up and you can always I mean unless somebody's really doing something like intervening and taking mail away from the Kid you can still send letters. You can still send notes and gifts and a friend of mine has A. As a blog called the long distance grand parenting Her Name Is Carrie Burn, and she talks about things like pudding putting a sticker on the back of an envelope. That's always the same sort so that a child sees and recognizes that's their grandmother that that's always a pink heart that means it's my grandmother. They're even reading. They can know that that's a grandma and they always get it. The other thing you can do that she talks about his journal. So you can have all of these little journals for each grandchild and write about what you're doing, what you're thinking about with them and how you wish you had been to the park with them and then give it to them when they're eighteen. No They then they know that you have been thinking about them that whole time. Well, that's powerful. Yeah. Yeah. A good thing I think I think it takes some intention -ality that some grandparents. Don't WanNa put forth that effort, but it's totally worth it and I do not have a grandchild who's eighteen yet but I look forward to that because I think we could have a great relationship. You know I I'm looking forward to the talking and finding out about their college and all that stuff that'll be fun. My oldest son is now twenty two he lives in Tennessee. I'm in Wisconsin my parents winter here in excuse me not winter they summer in Wisconsin. He came he made it a point to come up a weekend this summer yet he wanted to see me but me and his brothers had been camping near him. Not that long ago. He really came up because he wanted to see grandma and GRANDPA they winter in. Arizona. So many months go by without seeing them. Kovin restrictions there now as of today my dad is eighty four my mom's eighty three like you don't know how much time you have left and it means so much to me..

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

06:15 min | 1 year ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"So they're grandma and how really close that was even though we lived far away. So they really had. In that was finding commonalities. So they loved to sew and quilt and Cook, and so that that. So it's finding that one thing that you connect with with your grandson. You know it might Yeah Art Games. Maybe they do seem to like cooking pasta. We make pasta hanging out on your drying that they think that's fun. Yeah. So finding out one thing and I also actually called my sister this morning before we recorded because she is living in a three generation household and her her. So her daughter and her granddaughter live with her and her husband, and so I wanted to check in like how is that grandparent relationship and the the grand daughter is eleven and has been with them since the mom was pregnant. So a long time while and really the first thing that she said was. That it was unexpected. She did not expect to be an empty Nester raising her granddaughter. You know in concert with her daughter. And how really having to grieve that life that she thought she was gonna half with just her and her husband and they were going to go on holidays and you know it would just be the two of them and. It's for eleven years. It hasn't and into the future, it won't be so having that a different course to your life. And recognizing that, and also you know just this notion and we touched on it a little bit of kids and their devices parenting grandparent's now is so different from when when grandparents were parenting. So dealing with devices dealing with twenty, four, seven news cycle, all of these things are really challenging when and you didn't have to deal with that in your parenting absolutely in fact. Part, of I think that the theme that runs through the grand life podcast is that the expectations for grandparents are way different than they were for our parents. The expectation is that you will. You'll be there a lot. You'll even if you have to travel, you'll travel used to be back back in the day that the kids would be expected come dangled to their homes. And Parent. The grandparents were just Kinda hang out and wait for the grandkids to get there. That's that just isn't expectation anymore I hear a lot of grandparents moving actually picking up stakes out of their own community moving to be closer to their grandchildren, which is huge life disruptor even though of course, you want be close to your grandkids many people do but you've given up your community that you've lifted for many many years. Yeah. COMES WITH RISK I mean. What if they then move again? And you're alone in a community and the only reason you had that community was because you developed, it could be with your grandkids. So I I think that I'm not sure I I'm not sure that I would make that move, but I might I don't really I can't tell you until it happens I'd like to hear you say a little bit more about how those expectations of grandparents seemed to have evolved because you know in our head. Every one of us has an image of grandparent, right? So often, it doesn't necessarily reflect reality like the image might still be a kindly gray haired woman in a rocking chair while according to stats like half of grandparents are still working site you're like you can't be expecting your grandparents to be providing full-time child-care. They've got their own life. So talk about these changing expectations so that the parents who are listening can understand we're grandparents are coming from too. Yeah. I think it's it's totally right I think devolving grandparent you know to be either a little bit couldn't do very much. We think of them as being kind of like you're right sitting in a rocking chair, and now we've got them running marathons and Already doing those sorts of creative things having careers as we do, and you know it does take such a huge sacrifice because we we have our lives we have our own lives I. think that that is the kind of big thing that seems to have changed that grandparents in the past I don't want to say that they didn't have their own lives, but they had hobbies and things, but they didn't have. full-blown careers most of them I'm sure there are many listeners who had grandparents who had careers, but an actually retirement was what sixty sixty two people aren't even retiring until seventy anymore. So yeah. That that completely changes the game, but it also means that we have a little more disposable income perhaps, which means that we can maybe we have earned through our careers a little vacation time. So we can go off and do something for ourselves, but also have time to go see the grandkids but you know I it it's a struggle I think. We try to see grandkids sick every six to eight weeks and ended in DC and that is that has me hard harder and harder. It's becoming harder and harder. But the thing is I feel like you get this sense that time is just rushing by and pretty soon, the kids the grandkids will have jobs and I mean I. You remember that probably yourselves your your kids end up having all these jobs they can't go and visit the grandparents they. They can't be around when the grandparents come and all of a sudden start to feel like they're. And I think sometimes when you have younger grandkids, you feel like I gotta get this stuff in because pretty soon, I'm going to be older they're going to be older and I you know I wanna I, WanNa develop this foundation, and so that's you know part of the grand life is the idea that you know. Let's invest..

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

07:41 min | 2 years ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"Because if I had a problem. If I had an issue, my family was intact meaning. They were available to me. So I could go to my mother and say. Yes. Not right here for example I'll give you a really personal example, but I wanNA make the point. When I was in elementary snow, it was when I was in middle school I stopped by a guy because I used to go to the library by myself after school and wait for my mom while he started stalking me well. I went to my mom. said. Some creepy guy is hanging around and I don't know him and I don't think he's in our neighborhood who my point is. I had a place to go. Ordered that my mother had a place to go. says it. She got home. She would go back out back Atag. To best friends who lived in three row houses right behind us. Yeah, so the communities neighborhoods tight. There was an. Exceptional amount, of accountability. That's the other thing I think that is very important. To remember is that we have lost many of the protective factors? That? Really shielded our kids from having relieved to even think about meeting therapist so in terms of access. I mean I understand that issue. I understand the narrative behind it, but you're. You're looking at community that that is really foreign to not necessarily because it's like Oh, Gosh. If you go to a therapist year you're also. It's because it's new to US having to even think about talking to somebody outside of our family, our church or our friends about things like that. If that makes sense absolutely makes sense. Yeah, it does, and it's a thought provoking point that. Really makes you think as our communities have changed as our families have changed, and people are more disconnected from one another and live further apart in people have to work more simply to support the family. Yes, those connections have kinda fallen apart and so one of the reason why we're struggling. And you mentioned you know your mom meeting that support to. It's not just our kids that needs support when the kid has stressed. The parents are stressed. Everybody needs support. Exactly and to be told the DADS NEEDS SUPPORT TILL You know at the whole system the whole ecosystem needs. Support and Again back in different times because of what you said. The connectedness connection is probably the biggest protective and re mediating factor, because even if once something happens, if it doesn't prevent, it wants, something does happen. connection and connectedness is really like a bomb on these voice souls. They they need somebody that they can go to that. They can talk to and again. That's like the other boy. Yes, every boy needs somebody. They could go to and talk to, but you know somehow we've. We've managed to carve out this little odd space in society that Oh these black boys they need. We make it sound like it's something special when we talk about them like they need something different in. They really don't. They. Really don't right. You know one thing that Janet and I have talked about in previous podcasts is often for boys. Anxiety depression stress can manifest as anger frustration irritation that can happen for anybody. It can happen for me to an email, but more commonly with males in large part, because their social conditioning says that's how you express strong emotion. But there is this tendency of society to see those things in boys as Signals of danger and respond that way rather than with compassion. My perception is that it seems that often magnified with black boys. There is this stigma and stereotype and people are far more likely to assume that angry black boy is trouble. He needs connection. Yeah, and I think this is happening I mean we see this in schools and Mike. Concern for these boys is not only their boys, being taught by women mostly, but often day our boys and black boys being taught by white women who has don't understand the the importance of the connection of the community at not community ability, also that everybody's looking out for everybody else you're onto your cousin or somebody knows what's what you're doing, and we've lost that for all of our kids in in our dispersed communities, but I have great concern for especially little boys in school, because there are being expected to do things outside of what they are developmentally ready to do academic. and. Coming into kindergarten and sitting on a little carpet square this. How our boys designed and I. Wonder that for a white female teacher that it can be Kinda scary to have a voice that are not. Falling in line, not sitting still and have so much energy, and that exacerbates the problem and continues at right up a line. Yes, I would tend to agree with you and I definitely am share your concern. I've been doing substitute teaching. How Bravo? In. That is an experience unto itself. Because you know, you're temporary, the kids know your temporary. You know your temporary so a lot of the emotional mechanisms that you have at your disposal. When you're the regular teaching, you do not and also a lot of the disciplinary tight things you might be able to do you do not. So I definitely see what you're talking about. Especially for the little ones you know they are coming in. To this structure, because and system, because that's definitely what school is about especially now they're coming into the structure and system. Where they are definitely expected to toe the line. And behave you know and do what they're supposed to do when they're supposed to do it, but that involves sitting paper pencils. For long periods of time. and. It's very very difficult. So what happens though. Is that even at the preschool level we see? That the responses to that same behavior begin to diverge so the little white boy who is having trouble sitting being quiet and let me just say you know there's like a some kind of wrong stereotype we had that boys aren't talkative. They are the chatty is. So Much have been at my house last night for supper..

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

07:45 min | 2 years ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"And until there's something. To. Be Quote taking care of so you got. A! Need to meet with you know the Church Youth Group we I mean whatever the case may be. Something is wrong, but now I have this wonderful opportunity I'm so grateful I so much appreciate it to actually talk sort of somewhat who active sense about these topics so thank you. We appreciate you sharing your expertise and your experiences with us, and it feels like a difficult topic to address. Janet and I are two white. White women who have no experience being black or raising black children, so we have limited expertise I can look at the statistics I can't tell you the lived experience and I know as well that there is racism certainly has a tremendous effect on black boys, mental health, and at the same time there are all the other factors that affect mental health. It's not always just racism like there's all these entangled being so. help us understand some of the interplay of these factors in why black boys struggled with mental health, and why we as a society have failed to respond to that. WHOA WHOA all right. Question and I would even encourage maybe a bigger bird's eye view in the just the acceptance. Access to mental health within communities of color. And the generational I mean for my parents like you would never talk about going to therapist at all. No wasn't done. I'm curious just culturally like what is the messaging around mental health and seeking help and admitting that? Hey, I'm struggling and then maybe go in to. Deeper, I feel like now Janet night. We'll just sit back because that's quest. He Yeah. Forty. Go. No those are all fair questions in the questions that everybody just about really. Is, asking so here we go. Let me start by saying that I think going back to Jennifer question. I think that mental health for Black Boys, and really if I want to broaden it out for just a moment as by way of context. or The African American community is pretty complex. It's pretty layered but it doesn't mean that strange or odd, or you know. We're sort of on the ends of the bell curve in terms of normality and what I mean by that. Is that black boys really, and this is hard of the message that African American mothers in the community wants to get out black boys in many many senses are boys. Yeah, they have some of the very same issues. Concerns challenges loves hates as other boys do and see. I had to catch myself because I almost said regular boys. You see the messaging even seeps in subconsciously with us as parents so as as. Any other boy. They have a lot of the same. Life experiences in life concerns but. I think what has happened is because of stereotyping. Because of stigma because of color ISM in racism. So I'm going to answer your question at the same time again. So this is how in the largest sense racism comes into raising and dealing with the mental hopper voice. Is that because of the overlay of historical? Ideologies about black families. It Puts A. Pressure on all of the members of black family in different ways meaning black bombs black. Dad's know that they're boys are in many ways just like any other boy, but because they're black ways now we've got another layer that we're dealing with. And so we do something that a lot of us are trying to get conversation around which is sweet over pathology is our own kids. So everything they do every move. They make every you know little blit that we see on the radar of their life gets magnified and blown up to something that it really is it so if your kid comes home and you know. He throws his Book Bag on the SOFA, he starts back to his room and he slams the door. You're like Oh my God. He's bipolar. He's You know something's wrong with him, and then you immediately go into lockdown. Gosh I don't want anybody to know about this. You Know I. Don't know anybody, think kid. Something's wrong with him. I don't want to make him think I think something's wrong with him. But in the back of your mind, you're fighting all of these things and so black boys walk around with this double burden of trying to just be normal boys. Know without all of this over super imposition of baggage. The United Combat. Yeah? Is some of that. From a healthy and historically appropriate fear. because. As a parent of a black boy. You know that the reality is that your son is not going to get the break or the OH. He's just a kid if he does something in the community. Do you feel like sometimes? The community is hard on these boys in in a little hyper reactive because. Trying to keep them safe, not giving them space necessarily to be just boys. The short answer to that is yes I do think that has a lot to do with it. You know a black mothers, especially, since you know factually can't get around it lasts are raising black boys without. Rent without a father involvement without close father involvement whether it be in the home or out of the home quite frankly. Mom without close father involvement so. That means a lot of this emotionally falls on a mother, so all of that fear all of that. Hesitation all of that is heap now onto her, and she carries that and so yes, she feels afraid. You know I talked to my house. I'm afraid for my son. You know to walk out the door. I'm afraid for him. Now you know, go play like he normally did I worry all day when he's in school. You know you hear this over and over in quite frankly it's exhausting and it's debilitating emotionally to parents into the caregivers, but. Just in my experience what I have found helps mitigate. That is first of all I have a system, so I have to. I have to speak to that, because that's a real thing, and in my view, that's also a real thing that has really contributed to what we're experiencing in the black community in terms of this appearance explosion in mental health concerns for black kids in general. Because and I'll and this is why, because back in the day like when I was growing up you, it wasn't that anybody was quote afraid necessarily to talk about mental health or afraid to send their kids there because it's that it.

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

04:19 min | 2 years ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"As! This road airs. It is early June of twenty twenty. It has been a week of unrest. It has been a week of anger and sorrow and. A week of hope. Jenin I felt it was important to bring back an episode that we aired earlier this year a conversation with Shonda White Cummings who is a lawyer and an activist, and that episode we talked about Black Boys and mental health and the black community, and we talked about our own lack of knowledge and our desire to be more connected and understand more the. The challenges that black community faces so we are choosing to air this episode. This conversation with Sean Tower White Comings and I hope that it will I hope that you will listen, and maybe discover some new information, inspiration and insights, meanwhile we are sending you our love, and our thoughts, and hope that you also can find some et's during the stressful time. Welcome to on boys, real talk about parenting teaching and reaching tomorrow's men wear your co host Jennifer L. W. think of building boys dot net and Janet Alison of Boys Alive Dot Com. Now between two thousand and one and two thousand seventeen suicide rates have been climbing have climbed for boys. They have climbed for girls. They have climbed significantly for black boys. Black Boys ages thirteen to nineteen, their suicide rate increased by sixty percent in those years and for Children Ages. Five to twelve black males are committing suicide at higher rates than any other, racial or ethnic group think about that five to twelve years old. We've talked about mental health and suicide podcast before we will keep revisiting. This is such an important topic, but we can't ignore those statistics and we felt the need to dive in. More deeply and talk about what is going on with lack boys, mental health, and how we as individuals, parents, teachers and community members can work together to support black boys mental health. We are thrilled to have with us today Chandra White Cummings Chandra is a mother of two grown sons. Now I, believe twenty three and thirty one, and she is a lawyer and has served as a policy. Fellow for MOMS of Black Boys United Chandra Welcome. Thank, you thank you. Thank you thousand times. Thank you so much. I truly truly appreciate it, and I do want to say that It's a special privilege to be invited the dial. Into the conversation. Because oftentimes you may have noticed this. Both of you that there's a lot of discussion going on about all of these topics, suicide, mental health emotional wellness. Stick by all of those things much of it, centers around on African American and other communities of color how! Often. It is the sad unfortunate case that African American women MOMS don't get invited into these conversations We are on sidelines, unless and until there's something. To. Be Quote taking care of so you got. A! Need to meet with you know the Church Youth Group we I mean whatever the case may be. Something is wrong, but now I have this wonderful opportunity I'm so grateful I.

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"boys" Discussed on Bad Boys

Bad Boys

03:08 min | 2 years ago

"boys" Discussed on Bad Boys

"Wouldn't do zoom calls with wearing your best best friends? I don't know maybe maybe this new facebook page that that Denny's got could be like the new dating APP dress up Gibbes experience taking you beneath me. Been Benjamin got solved done. That's the new dining binda pinned up there you go. Danny we've got a marketing ploy for you. End Up. They we want to register that one before we so so I was thinking my brain was going about you know what Brian's gold and I figured out that we were GonNa do official born fair batboys. Podcast we're going to do a launch at Alba right and then. Boris hit stopped so we can't do a bunch right but if we can get past this pandemic by Paula Wayne home. We are going to talk with Vulgaris jail about the biggest Halloween dress up. Potty at Bugger Road Jail. What are you reading? I think that's a great idea. This is coming at you again. You just want to dress up as Franken told me. She said all shameless address up his Franken food and we find a way to a party. We'll say down that's it no. I know you would veteran of Franken masculine. But let's face it. I mean at me up your old man. Oh man just go on the facebook page and have a look man. He is. Well look at tomorrow. We're going to have another guest on the show we're going to bring so we can bring someone on each time to talk about the be. Nice Elation Challenge. I think this is a great idea to to enter this way because we only need to from this love. This stage look even higher. We might have been set up in Dubai. Then that's right go. I think we need to register that register that just bring people together better together. What leftist what. Jeff. Put them in the trash. The weakest trash. Thanks for joining us on this show. Today it's been very predictable so as away stuff. I need to say again facebook page and checkout Africa. I think we've also got up on Instagram as well. Which is official bad boys? Podcast ON INSTAGRAM. And it's official bad boys dot com that you want to go register so that you can get into this competition. You really need to do that. People Hurry up and we're going to check with you tomorrow with a brand new been isolation guest guest yes. It'll be okay guys. Thank you very much listening. Have dight enjoy it and style. See You tomorrow.

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"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

ON BOYS Podcast

14:48 min | 2 years ago

"boys" Discussed on ON BOYS Podcast

"He he used that discount code on boys and now let's hear about some of the conversations that Kayla had with families across across America. Let's talk a little bit about some of the conversations that this documentary has already inspired. I know I have had some very positive. Exchanges with a fellow parents online ahead apparent share with me how it made her cry. Because it sort underscored what. This is what she's feeling incensing even if she doesn't always have the words for it like this is my world and to see it. Reflected was powerful in inspiring and validating and then on the flip side. I have had some people on twitter making comments like while. Yeah when are they going to do the raising girls to prevent toxic femininity and bash. Oh yeah and I don't know if you if you looked. I looked because I've been doing this well and I expected it but On Youtube where they had the clip of the CBS morning one. There are people calling for child protective services and the FBI to look into those parents because of people have some very limited views of. What's okay for boys it should? It should be surprising and they never look at the comments right. I knew but but Yeah so that's I mean it's nice to hear people feel like they are own experiences reflected in these pieces. That's what we do a lot of this right. You know especially a piece like this. It isn't necessarily Asas -sarily breaking news or something like that. But it gives you this way to show people who aren't experiencing this issue. What's happening what parents are dealing with and then also To to help parents who are raising boys to be able to see either themselves or see a new perspective. It's interesting to hear people say toxic sick feminine. That was something that he actually in our research. Where was this idea of well? Are we like raising girls to be too tough at the expense of boys and it was really nice as I never heard a single parent talk about that Not to relieve any any validity. or any I think there was some concern that maybe were not And maybe we're losing sight of boys but there was no sense of. Oh we are harming we are like raising girls to like take place of men in like bully men sort of the all conquering Kinda in a female trope. But I imagine on the Internet and with trolls. That's the kind of thing that they would latch on to and is so unfortunate because they think that that is not the point of this documentary. It's right it's about parenting and it's about boys and the issues they're experiencing and to take that and say well. What about what girls roles are doing when a three year old argument? I mean if you ask me like well you're doing this. What about this and I? I don't find that very mature approach to conversation and I did actually respond to one of these people on twitter. Because that's how I am and I said so. Should we wait until the media makes or should we talk about what's like Or should I keep raising my boys right now and I think there's this tendency in society to do this thing of saying well but what about this thing that we're not paying attention to and sometimes it's done as a way to detract from the media story at hand and that's counterproductive because you just can't cover everything in one story story. I mean we can't concentrate well world and twenty five minutes for Jenin. I who are almost into your three of boys are name is pretty clear about boys. But that absolutely doesn't mean that we're not about girls and yet we can't cover it all so there's this balance that we strive for and yeah we're GONNA it land on the side of talking about boys but that doesn't mean that we don't want equity with girls and I talked to so many parents who feel and this may have come across to you but feel judged by parents of girls you know you can't keep your boys under control and all you know all of the at is it's paralyzing to parents of boys it's shaming and embarrassing and I had one mom who who had a girl first and then was you know in that camp of why can't you control your boys until she had a boy and then she changed her Tune at apologize. I think documentaries like this. Open up that. Hey this is happening. The man who talked about up his his son with the man Bun Pony Tail. How much do you tell your child ahead of time? Like you don't want them to go into a socially embarrassing situation but yet you don't WanNa diminish you want him to wear his ponytail in sparkly shoes if he wants to you but you also have the reality of what's going to happen when he enters classroom and his peer group. Yeah I think parents I mean so the first thing I do. Do you think there's just a lot of pressure on parents in general pressure parents of boys and girls. I think there always has been right. There's always a lot of judging when it comes to parenting. I think that the Internet parents met my sense. was they've got a feel are feeling a lot of pressure then in addition to pressure. Then there's so many more you can go find an article that supports any of those opinions. There is a lot of judgment regardless. Listen to what the gender of their kids are I. It was really interesting to hear parents talk about that specifically you know. We're kind of in this evolving era when it comes to gender roles and gender norms. And there's a lot of parents who are trying to do the best that they can and they want to support their kids in there so open to whatever their child wants to be. They recognize as reality that just because they're open Does not mean the rest of society is and a lot of society might be right. You know especially kids. It really is something that I seem to pick up on was kids themselves selves at this moment are pretty open. They're pretty used a lot of these things that might jar Older millennials Jackson older parents probably aren't very jarring to kids. They are pretty used to a lot of this stuff on. But yeah so you haven't parents. After trying to raise kids. In this era where EMBUREY WE WANNA raise our kids to be who they are and to express their gender however they want express their gender but then there's this concern. I think there's a sphere all parents and I think it goes beyond gender. There's a sphere her near putting your kid out in the world you know you are day estimate they step out of your house. They're at risk of being bullied being teased of having something that happened to them. And you want to protect them and you don't want them. I'm to go through something. That hurts them in hurts their feelings. Then they kinda grapple with this issue of what I wanted to protect my kid by letting himself but then I'm also worried that when he goes on on the playground that something might happen that might impact his day and might impact him for longer right. I think we worry that was something happens on. The playground could impact them for a quite a long time so that came up a lot with parents and was something I hadn't thought much about previously. You know and it Kinda showed that it's the parents that are worried and then yet how do you what because you tell your you warn your kids right that society might not accept because then I think one of the parents didn't make it into the documentary. One of the parents said something. Like what if you throw a party and no one shows up you know if you tell the kid. All these bad things might happen doesn't happen then have you overprepared the kid. Did you scare the kids. And I think that was the period sphere here with the ponytail was like oh no in trying to do that. I inhabited him from expressing himself. The way he wanted wearing that ponytail. Did I sort of preempt something. That was maybe never going going to happen. And how do you grapple with that. I think it was a really compelling issue that I don't think there's any easy answers for this do you Janet I mean. I don't think there's a this. This is the right way to handle those. No absolutely not and I think to your point Kayla of there's just so much information out there now I I mean I didn't have the Internet when I was raising my kids. You know I had my neighbors. I had my mom and I had Rudolph Drivers Book and that was pretty much. It appearance now are inundated with even just reading the comments of the documentary. And then it's like Oh this or that or it's an so. We have to filter some of it out and get back to an support. People listening to their intuition listening to their own gut about what is right right for them. What's right for their families in you know at the same time to me? Calm the fact that this is such a paralyzing and angst provoking moment for so many parents and families underscores why it is so important that we continue to have these conversations because we are talking about if a child wants to put color on their fingernails. WHAT THEY WANNA do with their hair? These things are not important in the grand scheme the things right but it still this huge issue right right like the fact that something what seems so minor can create such ripples on the playground or in parenting or at society at large the people can become so worried or or that. You know that people might have such reactions to summarize ponytail tale ERECK because it shouldn't matter what should matter these parents should be able to just focus on how their pitas doing it's wolf. They're happy there is safe but instead they have to focus on. Okay okay. How is he gonNA react to my child really simple choice? You know to do this thing that actually reflects nothing nothing of their character right. It's this child is creative. And he likes what he likes. And that's what it reflects in but instead you have to worry about how society Everything and how that's going to affect the candidate. I think you know on. We get a little into mental health in. I think almost every parent that we talked to especially of young kids at had a recent experience in their community where a kid had committed suicide. There was a couple couple parents who had been stories gotten how that had changed the community and I think that's become like a very headline-grabbing issues. I think parents are even more concerned. Like what if you know. What if this bullying leads to something? Worse down the road and so it's created this fear and understandably so and it's just unfortunate that a society we haven't been able to calm down and just let kids kids be kids and instead we sort of politicized the issues. I WANNA go a little bit off on a tangent here and that is as you went run around and talk to parents. What was your impression of the dads and I feel like DADS are at such a crossroads? The UH of being raised. Maybe more What you think? At stereotypical their DADS were not very emotionally available. Vailable and all the things that we think about a now I feel like Cardin now are at this crossroads where the expectations of their ability to communicate their feelings to be in relationship with their kids and their spouses than oh but still go often earn earn money and support the family. Not that the mom isn't doing that too. Did you get any sense of this. Struggle of Dad's being at this crossroads. Yes definitely there is some promising aspects of the fact that I think most of the men that I talk to recognize that they wanted their son to feel comfortable having conversations with them. They want undergill to express his feelings. But what I found at least in listening to these conversations was that the parents DADS were making very active decisions to do things a certain way because what might be more innate there more innate reactions are probably more informed by how they were raised by this past generate Kind of these outdated views so they might have this gut reaction into something that their son does and then it was what you know. I think a lot of them work are working. Pretty hard to consciously kind of like squash that gut reaction even the most like you know easygoing loving kind of Hippie dippy parents still have the dad's still have that sort of gut reaction in what they showed me. was that there consciously recognizing it and then they're taking conscious like `active action can't expect parents to naturally do all of this right and it actually really takes effort so it takes these conversations in order to make sure that that's happening parents are not gonNA especially DADS are not gonna overnight become sensitive and empathetic all end allowing their sons to QB express their emotions overnight because these DADS have been ingrained with these outdated toxic masculine norms as well and so there were to retrain themselves in it. Takes effort hurt. So no my even. If you think you're really the most open parent you really need to step back and think I think a lot more actively about what you're doing our listeners can't see us but we record with video so we can see each other and jen both nodding our heads vigorously up and down. Yes Kayla yes Kayla Creator is nothing like having an actual child to force you into situations facing situations that you're like I'd never thought about that before. Or what do I do and Kayla you said you know about. I'm doing everything right that there's no guarantee the only guarantee that we can give parents as they are going to screw up you. Knowing grew up your kid is going to screw up and it's okay. It's all right. We are learning and we are growing together and I know one of the things that we keep circling back to here on the topic. Epic of boys is really. It's about letting your child be. The human being that they are and that applies applies to boys and it applies to girls and in applies to all of us so we share information about what we know about male development and we share information. About what what we know are some of the challenges boy's face in the world and boys families face in the world but we're not saying that because your kid is a boy he needs to you act or behave in any kind of certain way we're saying look at the individual in front of you and support that right and that's it's not going to happen. Actually you know I think that you actually you have two parents have to like again with everything you eat. Don't trust none of us are born perfect. We have to approach issues. You have to actually step back and think about issues right and you have talk about how you're going to do things and you can just wait. And that's great and some parents. I think are probably better naturally. But but it's okay if you don't do it right the first time and that it's okay if your natural reaction isn't what you expected it to be and that amount in you did have to retrain yourself recognizing that is just as valuable..

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