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Matt Peterson From 'The New Founding' on Defeating Corporate Tyranny

The Charlie Kirk Show

01:38 min | 1 hr ago

Matt Peterson From 'The New Founding' on Defeating Corporate Tyranny

"Got to counter woke corporations and woke capital. And there's finally a concerted effort to do that. A friend of the program Matt Peterson joins us right now. He is behind American firebrand pack and also general partner of new founding, Matt welcome back to the program. Thanks for having me. Always good to be here. Matt, I enjoyed the article in breitbart, where you talked about how we need a new venture organization to revitalize America and counter woke corporations walk us through what you are doing to empower everyday people to smash these companies. Yes, we are sick and tired as I'm sure all your listeners are, what's going on in American commerce and culture. And we know that what's needed is not just attacking the wokeness, but establishing a positive vision of a pro American pro human way of life that businesses can rally around. You can't defeat as you well know a negative with a positive or negative with a positive. You have to come out with a positive vision, because everyone's complaining, you know, I don't want wokeness. And the old way of thinking about this is to say, so I just want businesses to go back to neutral to not talk about politics. What we realize is that that's not going to work. What's needed is to say there's a positive vision of how we want to live, of what's attractive to us. It's pro family that's protect, but pro human first, or we're not enslaved by technology. Yes. Yes, this is what people want. This is what they're attracted to. This

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Brandon Tatum Discusses Larry Elder's New Film 'Uncle Tom 2'

The Eric Metaxas Show

02:17 min | 10 hrs ago

Brandon Tatum Discusses Larry Elder's New Film 'Uncle Tom 2'

"As promised, the officer Tatum Brandon Tatum is my guest. He's a former Tucson police officer. He's the founder of the Tatum report dot com, CEO of three companies, cofounder of blexit. What? Brandon Tatum, welcome to the program. Thanks for having me. It's always a joy to talk to you. I saw you on the plane with your family when we were all headed down to Mar-a-Lago for the premiere of 2000 mules, so you and I are crazy enough to actually care about elections. It's good to know that I'm not the only one. Great to see you. And I want to talk to you about the film that our friend Larry elder has made, what can you tell us about the film? I mean, I told my audience a little bit about it, but how did you get to be involved in it? Well, Justin Malone, before, I guess I could say he's the genesis of this idea of exposing what really happened in the black community, the history of black people in America, the untold history. And I would argue that it's the true history, because we've been told for way too long, way too often, that black people have been just set in a plight ever since the day that we landed here in America and that we have been hated and we don't belong in this country all the way up until now. And that's not true whatsoever. And so Justin Malone had this idea he partnered with Larry elder and they created one of the most incredible films that I've ever seen and I was blessed enough to be in it. And that was the first version of Uncle Tom. And then there was a lot more to unpack in more details. I think that was, you know, to put all that in the first movie would be too much for people to stomach because it is a lot of information and a lot of shocking information. And so they came up with Uncle Tom two to expand on the ideas and show how Marxism has infiltrated the black community and we went from prospering and having hope and loving God to hating this country and to putting the government over God,

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US to hold trade talks with Taiwan in new show of support

AP News Radio

00:39 sec | 23 hrs ago

US to hold trade talks with Taiwan in new show of support

"The U.S. government plans to hold trade talks with Taiwan an island China claims as its own The announcement comes after an angry Beijing held military drills following this month's visit to Taiwan by U.S. House speaker Nancy Pelosi Taiwan is currently the U.S.'s 9th largest trading partner and being allowed to export more to the U.S. might help Taiwan blunt China's efforts to use its status as the island's biggest trading partner as political leverage China blocked imports of Taiwanese citrus and other food in retaliation for Pelosi's visit and U.S. Chinese relations are at their lowest level in decades I'm John of water

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Charlie Welcomes Dave Bahnsen to Discuss the 'Inflation Reduction Act'

The Charlie Kirk Show

01:37 min | 23 hrs ago

Charlie Welcomes Dave Bahnsen to Discuss the 'Inflation Reduction Act'

"Inflation reduction act, the hiring of 87,000 new IRS agents, it didn't really get a lot of coverage. Joe Biden signed it into law yesterday. With us right now is someone who I really respect, and he's an expert of all things economics. David bonson is the founder and partner and chief investment officer of the bonson group and author of the book. There's no free lunch 250 economic truths and he just launched a free online video series economics one O one at von San dot com. Dave, welcome back to the Charlie Kirk show. Thanks for having me, Charlie. So Dave, tell us about the inflation reduction act. Will it reduce inflation or is this another orwellian curveball thrown by our politicians? Yeah, it's a good thing the bill doesn't have anything about false advertising because this is really as Bernie Sanders said. Absurd to call it an inflation reduction act. I'm not one who thinks there's a whole lot it's going to be doing to make the inflation worse because it really almost does nothing at all except for ad IRS agents. It's much more of an orwellian bill than it is economic. Even the climate issues, there is about 304 100 billion of corporate welfare to green energy companies, but Manchin to get his vote also agreed for more permanent approvals for oil and gas companies. So even the greenies in the Democratic Party proved to be a cheap date. It's really a disaster of a bill and the IRS agent issue is the primary thing stayed in it.

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Liz Cheney Takes a Big L

The Officer Tatum Show

01:22 min | 1 d ago

Liz Cheney Takes a Big L

"Liz Cheney, you dirty Bitcoin. Y'all thought I was gonna say it or did you? Thought I was gonna call it a B on the radio, but I didn't. I call her a Bitcoin. Liz Cheney, that's what you get. You got your butt kicked and Wyoming and I'm excited about it. I'm sick of these fake, feckless lukewarm Republicans thinking that y'all run the party, your partner, the way y'all been doing stuff is over. And to be honest, it really don't have much to do with Trump, but it has more to do with the people are sick of y'all stuff. You set out and you did the whole Janie 6 thing and it backfired. You guys are not gonna come against the American people. And she, she's just lunatic. She's a lunatic. I want y'all to, I know some of you guys probably heard a circulating because my show is a little later in the day. You know, her consistent speech was out of control. She really thinks let me tell y'all something. I forget who made this prediction. I don't know if it was Larry elder, somebody made this prediction. And they say, Liz Cheney, after she get her head beat in in the Wyoming primary. Why don't we primary? She's going to switch parties and run for president.

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Who Does Adam Kinzinger Represent?

Mark Levin

01:20 min | 2 d ago

Who Does Adam Kinzinger Represent?

"Why would any reputable news platform still be bringing on Adam kinger Who exactly does Adam kinga represent Even his own family hates him We know this because he said his family hates and for good reason He couldn't get reelected to dog catcher which is why he chose not to run again And losers like king singer wear that like a badge of honor See me I stand out for the rest I have the courage to stand up I think Benedict Arnold used to say that as he was taking a boat to Britain if their stabbing thee the American colonists in the back although he's a very interesting story one day I'll explain it It's not all as it appears And that's a whole nother story Where the kings are it is And now his partner may I say dizzy Lizzy Cheney is running in the Republican primary and Wyoming She's encouraged as many American marxists as possible to flip over into the Republican Party to taint the Republican Party and to vote for her Because dizzy Lizzy has become a Democrat Make no mistake about it She's a Democrat

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Anne Heche in 'Stable' Condition After L.A. Car Crash as Family and Friends Ask for 'Prayers'

AP News Radio

00:32 sec | Last week

Anne Heche in 'Stable' Condition After L.A. Car Crash as Family and Friends Ask for 'Prayers'

"Actress Anne hesh remains in the hospital after her car crashed into a Los Angeles home Friday causing flames to erupt Hashes podcast partner Heather Duffy boylston said in a statement and is currently in stable condition her family and friends ask for your thoughts and prayers and to respect her privacy Police say hesh was speeding when her mini Cooper clubman came to a T shaped intersection ran off the road and into the house in mar vista No one else was injured It took numerous firefighters nearly an hour to put out the blaze in

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What Is NATO?

The Charlie Kirk Show

01:23 min | Last week

What Is NATO?

"What is NATO? NATO is the North Atlantic Treaty Organization. NATO was formed post World War II, and it was formed with the idea of trying to hedge against the Soviet Union. Now there are some good reasons for that in the Soviet Union was an evil empire in more ways than one. Albeit, I don't think we're quite honest with some of our relationship with the Soviet Union. We did partner with the Soviet Union to defeat the Nazis. After that there was this mad dash of who will control Europe and NATO was formed. NATO has 30 member countries. These countries, Albania, Belgium, Bulgaria, Canada, Croatia, Czech Republic, Denmark, Estonia, France, Germany, Greece, Hungary, Iceland, Italy, Latvia Lithuania, Luxembourg, Montenegro, the Netherlands, North Macedonia, Norway, Poland, Portugal, Romania, Slovakia, Slovenia, Spain, turkey, which I never quite understood. United Kingdom and the United States. These are 30 independent member countries. And there is what is called article 6. The article 5 article 6 of NATO, which is the mutual defense clause of NATO, which is an attack on one, is an attack on all.

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Beyonce's New Album Is Causing Controversy

AJ Benza: Fame is a Bitch

02:45 min | 2 weeks ago

Beyonce's New Album Is Causing Controversy

"Her latest album is called renaissance. It's the first one she's released since lemonade. Remember that hoopla 6 years ago? It's causing quite a stir in the business. Remember she's saying in the Super Bowl? Oh my God. A lot of shit in the business now because of this album. A couple of singles were secretly released. I don't believe that for a second. I'm sure it was coordinated without her consent. Yeah, sure. She knew what was going on. Another pop star, kelis, and the police, my milkshake brings all the boys to the yard and they're like, it's better than yours, right? That's kelis. Kelis went on Instagram to give Beyoncé some shit. 'cause her album has 16 tracks and it pays homage to dance music and she samples some iconic hits from Donna Summer and Robin S, Robin S recently said she was thrilled to have a work included. But now everybody's thrilled. Apparently, kelis is not thrilled because milkshake was incorporated to Beyoncé's album on the 5th track called energy. So now she's speaking out to claim that the song was used without her permission. And without getting too in the weeds, let me just say the production duo of Pharrell Williams because I'm happy and if you feel all right, Pharrell Williams and his partner Chad Hugo, they're known as the neptunes. They're listed as two riders of milkshake, which was released back in 2003, and kelis is credited as a sole performer. So she and the neptunes have a long and complicated history. We don't need to know that. They worked on a first three albums in 99, 2001, 2003. Who even knew, kelis has three albums. I didn't know. But either way, it's not my world. But according to new track credits for energy that you see on Spotify and Apple music, both Pharrell Williams and Chad Hugo are listed among the numerous co writers on the song while kelis goes on mentioned. And despite not being listed in the song's credits, her involvement in renaissance was teased earlier last week after Beyoncé released an official track list naming the artists set to be sampled in each song and as a fan account on Instagram that put up the list, she repulsed the list of Beyoncé put out. And that got a response from kelis, who said that this was the first time she'd heard that her work was being used on Beyoncé's album. And she wrote in response to this fan, it's not a collaboration. It's theft. So right away, shots fired. And kelis went on to say, my mind is blown because the level of disrespect and utter ignorance of all three parties involved is astounding.

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FBI in for a Rude Wake-Up Call Over Hunter Biden Investigation

The Charlie Kirk Show

01:52 min | 2 weeks ago

FBI in for a Rude Wake-Up Call Over Hunter Biden Investigation

"Joining us right now is a friend of the program someone who is super smart and does phenomenal research and investigations, Miranda Devine from the New York Post also author of the laptop from hell, Miranda, welcome back to the Charlie Kirk show. Thanks Charlie grot to be with you. Thank you. So I want to talk to you about this story here. FBI, director ray, are in for a rude wake-up call over the Hunter Biden investigation to your latest piece up at the New York Post NY post dot com. What do you mean by that? Well, on Thursday, Christopher wray, the FBI director appears in Congress before they oversight committee and the Republicans there are planning to really grill him on a few very sinister and concerning issues that have come to the fore in the last week. And you probably know already about chuck gresley has had several FBI whistleblowers come to him and give him information that basically the FBI just sat on buried the Hunter Biden information that came out in 2020 in August 2020 when graz Lee and Ron Johnson were both investigating the Hunter Biden and burisma corruption connections. And then again in October 2020, which was, of course, the month that we at the New York Post broke the first story from Hunter Biden's abandoned laptop and October was also the time the month that tiny bubble linsky, the navy veteran and former business partner of Hunter Biden came forward publicly to say that Joe Biden was involved in his family's influence peddling scheme that Joe Biden was the big guy who was slated to get 10% of one of the Chinese deals and that Tony bubba linsky himself had met twice with Joe Biden to discuss these deals. So

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Please Support the 'Food for the Poor' Campaign

Mike Gallagher Podcast

01:06 min | 2 weeks ago

Please Support the 'Food for the Poor' Campaign

"Me invite you to once again go to Michael line. Dot com, Michael line dot com. Click on the send food banner as we rush urgently needed emergency meals to thousands of displaced children and families around the world. When everything is ruined and their previous lives due to ongoing wars and other conflicts, when the plans are dreams of children forced to relocate as refugees are destroyed, food for the poor and their ministry partners, they report that the kindness of people just like you give kids and families hope. Listen to Andy Carr a spokesman for feed my starving children a nonprofit relief organization helping to distribute mills to some of these refugees children. Right now, the need is exceeding the supply. And the only way that we catch up with that is with the generosity of people stepping forward, making that contribution in whatever way that they can. And that will allow us to reach those people that are there right now, sheltered in place or ending up in a refugee situation. You're allowing us to respond to this and go further faster.

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New Founding's Matt Peterson on Justice Alito, Christian Nationalism

The Charlie Kirk Show

02:20 min | 2 weeks ago

New Founding's Matt Peterson on Justice Alito, Christian Nationalism

"With us right now is a great American patriot cofounder and general partner of new founding and also the president of American firebrand super PAC and friend of the show. Matt Peterson Matt, welcome back to the program. Hey, it's great to be here, Charlie. So Matt, I want to get through a couple news items here. But first, I want to play a piece of tape here from justice Alito's speech. I think he gave it in Rome, which is super scary 'cause that's where the Catholic Church is headquartered and not allowed to do that. And I want to play cut 94 here. And the way the media has responded is a new line of attack that you can see in kind of the smart coordinated circles, the people that are considered to be smarter than not. However, they are all kind of coordinating their attacks around Christian nationalism, play cut 94. Over the last few weeks, since I had the honor, this term of writing, I think, the only Supreme Court decision in the history of that institution that has been lambasted by a cold string of foreign leaders. Who felt perfectly fine commenting on American law. One of these was former prime minister Boris Johnson. But he paid the price, Matt kind of mocking Boris Johnson there, Sam Alito, who I think is the best thing George W. Bush ever gave us, probably my favorite member of the court. They're attacking him as being a Christian nationalist. What do they mean by that, Matt? Well, in their minds, of course, they think Christian nationalism is a smear. They think both of those words are bad. And if you put them together, it's too bad things. And that's one big bad thing, and it's a scary monster, which I think in their minds means something like handmaid's tale and enforced Christian religion. They think it's racist too, somehow they seem to only regard whites as Christians, interesting. But white people who are Christian controlling the country and shoving their views down everyone else's throat is what they mean by it. And the hilarious thing here is that neither of those words are bad and when you put them together, you actually get what I think millions of people throughout the country think is normal.

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Ned Ryun Calls In to Discuss Controversial(?) Monkeypox Comment

America First with Sebastian Gorka Podcast

01:49 min | 2 weeks ago

Ned Ryun Calls In to Discuss Controversial(?) Monkeypox Comment

"Have a little bit of fun right now. My good buddy, Ned Ryan, CEO of American majority. Was on with former VJ Kennedy on Fox business. And was telling some painful truth about monkeypox and all of a sudden the rest of the panel just went spastic. I think why don't we roll the clip and just see this entertaining display? As for monkeypox, I think there's a pretty good rule in life. Don't attend gay orgies. When you look at the New England Journal's report of the 5. Don't attend gay orgies if you don't want to get monkeypox, which 98% of the people at this point who got monkeypox got it from having unprotected gay sex with multiple partners. So it seems like common sense advice to me, but let's bring Ned in and see where this outrageous statement he make actually came from. Ned, what in the world were you thinking, telling the truth about monkeypox on television? You know, the fact of the matter is it's all science facts and data, Jim. That's the I think that's the thing that probably caught me a little by surprise. Of course, you know, you compress all of the who and the CDC guidelines into essentially don't attend gay orgies. You know, essentially don't attend gay orgy for 15 days to slow the spread. And say that I actually was honestly a little surprised to be called a bigot for actually stating science and data and facts. But if you'll notice in the clip later on, they greeted with 95% of what I said. I mean,

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Dinesh and Debbie Reflect on Their Meeting With Trump

The Dinesh D'Souza Podcast

02:00 min | 2 weeks ago

Dinesh and Debbie Reflect on Their Meeting With Trump

"Debbie and I along with our partner, our business partner Bruce schooly, our friend, we were we saw we saw former president Trump. Now this wasn't in Florida at Mar-a-Lago, which is kind of close this time of year. It was at the Trump golf course in bedminster, New Jersey, right across from New York City. And what was your impression of how, well, just how Trump looked as compared to the times we've seen them before. He looked very relaxed, you know, he was this really chill and funny as ever. I mean, listen. he didn't have a career in being an entrepreneur, he could have been a comedian. Well, the thing about Trump is I don't know, this may be partly a function of age. He sometimes will tell the same story more than once. Now listen, Reagan did exactly the same thing. In fact, Reagan would tell the same story. Well, that's just because you know why it's because they talk to so many people. You do the, you do it too. What? I was trying to make this a feature. The story, but okay. And I do it too. But no, it's just that here's the thing, is he talks to so many people that he forgets who he tells the story to. And so he doesn't talk to us that often. I mean, maybe we've met him maybe four or 5 times, you know? And so he doesn't know that. He talks to a lot of people. And so he doesn't know who he tells me. Well, the point I was trying to make is that with Trump is that normally when you hear the same story, the second time or at least the third time, you inwardly roll your eyes, which means that you don't publicly acknowledge that you've heard it before. But, you know, you're inwardly you're like, I've heard it before. But with Trump, he is such an amusing way of telling him. And he tells it differently. Yeah. He doesn't say the exact same way. Like, there are people that tell the story the exact same way every time. He doesn't. He does a little bit of a different take every time we hear him. So, but he's just hilarious.

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Miranda Devine: Media Didn't Talk of Hunter to Get Rid of Trump First

Mike Gallagher Podcast

01:24 min | 2 weeks ago

Miranda Devine: Media Didn't Talk of Hunter to Get Rid of Trump First

"Of Hunter Biden's former business partners referred to Joe Biden as the big guy in a panic message the same day the New York Post broke news of the laptop from hell left behind by the president's son. I got to just start on a personal note with you. Are you mad? Are you angry that outside of the New York Post, the mainstream media is avoiding Joe Biden's relationship with his son hunter and hunter's business dealings like the Bubonic plague? Does that infuriate you? I'm not sure anger is the right emotion, but it certainly baffles me and worries me because I guess it just shows us all how dishonest and in the tank for the Democrats, that section of the media is and these are the pre stage so called publications like The New York Times and The Washington Post and NBC and CBS, they just don't do what they're supposed to do as journalists hold truth to power. They actually hide truth to protect power and that's what they were doing for Joe Biden because I guess they were so desperate to get rid of Donald Trump at the 2020 election that they were going to make sure that any derogatory information that came out about Joe Biden was buried.

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Zelenskyy visits port to see ship loaded with grain

AP News Radio

00:56 sec | 2 weeks ago

Zelenskyy visits port to see ship loaded with grain

"President volodymyr zelensky has visited one of Ukraine's main black seaports Odessa A week after a deal was struck with Russia turkey and the UN to create safe corridors for ships to export grains that have been trapped in the country Zelensky's visit comes as workers are preparing terminals for grain exports which are relied on by millions of people worldwide facing hunger Zielinski told reporters the export of grain will begin with the departure of several ships that were loaded but could not depart reports after the Russian invasion Zelensky says our side is fully prepared We sent all the signals to our partners The UN and turkey and our military is guaranteeing the security situation The complexities of the grains agreement and concerns about the safety of shipping crews has set the deal off to a slow cautious start I'm Charles De Ledesma

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Kash Patel on the Recent Hunter Biden Revelations

The Charlie Kirk Show

01:52 min | 3 weeks ago

Kash Patel on the Recent Hunter Biden Revelations

"I want to get to another story here, cash, and maybe cash if you're in town, please stop by the studio, would love to chat with you about this. So this story from the post millennial dot com. Joe Biden met with at least 14 of Hunter Biden's business partners while vice president under Obama. Now I'll be honest cash, you know, I have a lot of things going on and I'm reading news. 7 to 8 hours a day. People say Charlie, what's your show prep? Show prep is life, okay? Everything we're doing is show prep. Right. But I'll be very honest. I'll be very honest. That I can't even follow all of the wrinkles in this Joe Biden Hunter Biden story. There's new messages coming out saying that he did indeed call him a the big man. I mean, it is daily at this point, cash, walk our audience through these recent revelations and the significance. Well, I think as a former federal prosecutor and the Russia gate guy, I think the only place you need to look is the fact that CNN is headlining that Hunter Biden is now under investigation. And if you rewind the clock and you remember these people are the same ones that said, all of this information is coming from one place. Hunter Biden's laptop. And everybody, including Twitter and CNN said that was fake information, disinformation, including 51 former intelligence officials. What you now see is what I've always done when I was leading investigations made in the house or the Department of Justice. They're following the money. Money doesn't lie. Tax evasion schemes don't lie. So what you are seeing is piecemeal evidence text messages which sort of color the window framing of this money trail of him getting paid by burisma that not declaring in federal taxes. Did he register with the overseas authorities to lobby on their behalf? These are the snippets of information that's coming out. And when it's coming out like this, that, to me, is certainly always meant that there is a pending indictment coming in the near future and they're just trying to leak favorable information to muddy the water.

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Why America Is More Miserable Than Ever Before

The Charlie Kirk Show

01:20 min | 3 weeks ago

Why America Is More Miserable Than Ever Before

"So there's a very fascinating chart here that I believe is one of the reasons why America is becoming significantly less free. Modern families in our households have changed since the 1970s. So for example, I'll narrate this and then we'll put it up on screen. The percentage of 25 to 34 year olds living with a spouse in the United States in the 1970s, 82% of 25 to 34 year olds were living with a spouse. Now it's 38%. That's right. Not only have marriage rates gone down since 1970, but a dramatic decline, a 44% decline of who, young people are living with. It's going to be put up on screen. The percentage of 25 to 34 year olds living with parents or relatives, in 1970, 11% of 25 to 34 year olds were living with their parents. Now 29%. But in addition, cohabitation has increased, living with an unmarried partner, 17% of young people are living with an unmarried partner. Whereas that number was about 1% in the 1970s, 10% of people are just living alone, whereas in 1970, it was 5%. So America is less married than ever before. More people are living with spouses living without spouses or living with their parents or other relatives or the living with roommates are living with a cohabitated partner, and yet we're more miserable. Isn't it interesting how that all works.

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"both partners" Discussed on Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Therapist Uncensored Podcast

05:43 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on Therapist Uncensored Podcast

"Oftentimes winds up happening is if i'm activated. I'm suddenly in that place of fear. Even if i know it part of what i might be doing is telling you what to do differently right. Likes don't talk to you that we don't use that tone of voice. Don't don't get me with those eyes. Don't sit like that. Because that's the only strategy that we can think of. Then those strategies don't work and it's incredibly frustrating to both partners so we help people help couples organize. Oh this is. What's not of course frustrating for you. This is what's happening on the inside. It's getting disorganized. And together when they begin to organize it bakery eight safety. They create a new experience together. Their best entered brings you decades of experience with interpersonal psychotherapy relational neuroscience modern attachment. In anything else. They think will be helpful and healing humans. Now here your co host. Dr anne kelly and soumare yacht.

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"both partners" Discussed on The Birth Ease Podcast

The Birth Ease Podcast

03:46 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on The Birth Ease Podcast

"I found on the five love. Languages that had great tips for partners regarding supporting their wife or partner during pregnancy birth and postpartum. However i wanted to focus on both partners. As i could not just on the birthing person perhaps if we can provide insights to what makes each partner feel loved and supported throughout the perinatal period. It may soften prenatal or postpartum depression and anxiety. Something that many are not aware of is men can be impacted by perinatal mood disorders as well bringing a new baby into the world changes relationships and family dynamics for all involved in this episode. I'm going to share the suggestions that dr chapman provides the reader in his book. The five inches. The secret to love that lasts in order to learn to speak your partners. Houses love languages more fully. My intention is to read the tip. And then i'll share some additional thoughts to consider from the lens of perinatal health and life was small children. It seemed like a simple task but actually it took me much longer to compile all this and think all is through the night then too stupid to write out and prepare this for the podcast. It's by no means a complete list. I did tat with my daughter bid to get some ideas. But i know that there's always more ways to like at this. My hope is that this episode. Invite some thought introspection communication and emotional preparation between you and your partner to help you feel loved and supported. I believe in understanding of these love. Languages can help explain why we might feel. Let down by partners spouse as well as family members if our relationships are otherwise healthy. We may be speaking completely different. Love languages are partner may feel that they're doing things to make us feel loved or we may be living our love language so fully in shoring that on our partner but if that's not their love language it won't speak to them and help them feel support it and understanding of the five love languages can help new.

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"both partners" Discussed on What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't

What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't

07:07 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on What Healthy Couples Know That You Don't

"In their house and that that was often followed by physical violence. One thing i've really worked with that couple of stay way from this race voices reach voices are going to be super triggering for your partner so to be mad. Can we speak about that anger but without the race voice. Yeah so understanding what. Your partners triggers are and trying to have that conversation so that there's clarity for both of you. That's great okay. My second question piggybacks on the i often trauma survivors have very high expectations as a way of determining safety with a constant vigilance for potential harm. How can trauma survivors begin to look at the way. High expectations can push partners way. Yeah this is one. That's so hard. Yeah i know. I wanna guarantee our safety and the truth is and actually i was listening to a podcast of yours just season two. So it was ages back but You were talking about how hard it is to be vulnerable. Yes and this is the thing. Vulnerability is risky. And so it is gonna feel scary and sometimes when we when scary doesn't equal just emotional scary bras but it could have equalled like physical danger for Really really hard emotional or psychological abuse. If that's my history then. I'm going to want to have lots and lots of safety. Guaranteed that. I'm not taking risks in that thing. That happened before won't happen again. But the problem is is that so protector driven right. My system is now in charge. That means my connection bonding sn online. So here are tips on. Get clear with yourself. About what kind of safety. You would be looking for to check your expectations. Are they actually reasonable. In three comes here partner with vulnerability and if you're one of those people who has trauma history but has not told your partner about i. I have a lot of curiosity about that. Not you have to go into detail. i think. Empowerment in healing with trauma. Work is still important your stories yours and who you tell it to is your is your journey. And and if you're in a long term partnership and you're getting triggered a lot it's going to be super confusing for your partner and so it might be helpful. Not that they know every detail. So maybe that you you let them in on. Oh you know there are hard things that happened. And here's what i feel comfortable sharing and if you're the partner of somebody with Some history just know that empowering is an important part of trauma healing is when people have trauma they got trapped and were felt really alone and empowerment is going to be a big wave. Come back from that and so we don't wanna push them to you. If you love me tell me your story. No no no no. You don't want that. I'm giving everybody a warning to not do that. Let them tell your story. Just understand that like whatever it is they feel safe and revealing or they risked revealing that one. That's hyper vulnerable sufi gentle and to that them learning how much they tell you. It's actually in their empowerment healing journey. Yeah i yeah. I think that narrative being able to own your story and the more you can own it with less charge when people ask me what progress is for them. I always say you know when you're in a more neutral place even a positive or negative judge. They're still unfinished business. Lingering but when it's kind of tral unquiet it doesn't disappear but it's too hasn't have that loaded this. Yeah exactly. yeah yeah so. This question also fits right in. Silence can often be seen as safety so the currency of power is to withhold. And i actually wasn't thinking so much about the particular story or narrative but the moments where somebody may feel stepped on but not sharing and if there is sharing it might be waiting until there's accusation. so how can communication be improved by both partners when trauma is in the mix. I love going meta. When i say what i mean is talking about a process. So if you're person who needs quiet in moments or Needs to hold back a little bit and process some things before you come out and talk to your partner about it were if you feel more empowered or safer. When you're when you're in space where your voice is a little bit more quiet. I would actually talk about that so rather than in the moment when something got sticky or when i'm using silence to keep myself safer that's probably not the moments talk about it but let's say there's a moment where we're just taking a walk and we're in the park and do people get to do that anymore right but let's say we're just we're having a lovely moments and now i feel a little bit safer about talking about my process. One of the big ways. I helped my couples is to get out of the content and come up above it and just look. Hey there moments when. I'm gonna need to be quiet. Could i send you some sort of hand signal that would tell you. That's what i need right now and we can just broke the no. Oh you're increasing your safety. So i'm thinking about a couple who had a little hand signal and when she did it he said. I'm so glad you're keeping yourself safe right now. Wow i'm big on hand signals. But i honestly don't know if anybody's actually ever taken at home and done it you know and can i say something about that. Point for everybody. Listening is practices are actually the thing that changed neural network. Yes the practice out them. Don't doesn't change anything about them like it's fun curiosity exercise but actually doing it is. What's going to change your brain and buying the book and that reading it.

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"both partners" Discussed on The Relationship School Podcast

The Relationship School Podcast

05:22 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on The Relationship School Podcast

"And so what i'm looking for is what are the values in the system of their relationship. What is their relationship committed to. If you were able to interview it like a bike an interview you and your partners relationship. There is something it would say like. This is what we stand for totally. That's what i like to help my clients figure out because until the relationship has its own identity values and purpose. The two components aren't pulled up into that vision so i'm trying to create a a third gravitational body that sort of hold both proponents. Which is both partners into their next level and i. I don't think most partners don't think i'm part of a relationship. What would serve my relationship. Rather than what would serve me no bernie. There should be three votes i want. What does the other person. And what is the relationship be served by be nourished by and that usually is a way to get out of collaboration. Increase.

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"both partners" Discussed on Touch me there

Touch me there

04:26 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on Touch me there

"We all are exposed to a variety of stories that portrays different concept of our understanding of love. The interaction of personality and firemen explains how we develop love stories. We look for someone who shares our love story. Or what least have a compatible. Love story that fits with ours but we may not always look for someone who is just like ourselves rider. We may look for someone owes life plus shared a love story are similar story or hope and complimented off in the road with in the story. Most important are healthy. Happy relationship is that both partners have a compatible or complementary story. the more similar stories are as a couple. The happier you'll be. It's important that you become aware of your love story so you can change patterns and relationship look for partners. Who partners with compatible stories are rewrite stories. That aren't working. If you find that you keep picking the wrong partner on keep making the same mistakes in a relationship. It may be an indication. You forcing your story onto your partner expecting that person took oxide what you view as your ideal relationship and it may put.

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"both partners" Discussed on Loving BDSM

Loving BDSM

04:18 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on Loving BDSM

"You are very terret oriented. Oh yeah bride. Who lock out of newly. You will chase that carrot. Till the end of the world. I'm goal oriented and i wanna treat at the. Thanks so if i were to say to you you know baby girl. You've got the stuff. You've got these tasks that i gave you you get these done the end of the week. There's going to be a special starbucks treat for you and you're like i've got it done now while you were explaining it to me. So you know while while punishment does work for you in in many cases You know corner time being the as far as the harshest and most effective for you. What what really truthfully works for you. Positive reinforcement is is a big thing for you. Because i'm very. I'm very motivated. Find the right thing for me and i. I'm not alone in this other. People are like find the right thing. Find the right motivator and like you said give me the i will chase i think positive reinforcement and even the negative reinforcement is a great alternative for people who kind of cringe and sort go. No thank you at punishment. there is Nothing is universal and power exchange but it is fairly common in many power exchange relationships. Four either a submissive to want to change their behavior. Maybe they've got some habits they really wish would like go away and they didn't do any more or for a dominant to say. I really want you to do things this way for me. But what we're talking about there and we really need to do an episode on this is on changing your habits habits is super super hard across the board. Yeah the more motivated. You ought to change it. Sometimes the easier it can be and sometimes motivation is internal. Sometimes that motivation is this mutually beneficial thing. Like hey if. I change my behavior and Circuiting more sleep than we have more energy for fuck. Sometimes that's enough but sometimes you need a little bit of external either pressure or hope i guess is the word and punishment is the most common empower exchange. And when i say the most common i should say the most commonly asked about the most commonly tong to and so people think it's kind of the standard and then the the folks are like. But i don't like that and i don't want that or i'm not comfortable with think that the either don't have a choice or they can't get the behavior that they want from themselves or their partner and positive reinforcement wall. It might not work universally in every single. Solitary situation is the alternative. It is also in my mind own less. Both partners are deeply interested in only want to deal with punishment consequences. And that's how they want to change. Behavior is also a great tool for people who practice punishment like we talked about. There are punishments that could happen and as people constantly asked what are good punishments. I can't give you a list of punishments that are punishments. They are unique to the person. What does the person want to avoid having happened. That still within their limits me time. Don't stick baby girl in the corner. I don't so. I will do what i need to do. To actively avoid that correct and for you a warning now not every dominant parenting not every parent not every dominant wants to give warner as willing to give a one. I do believe that at the beginning of a new behavior. I think warnings are fair. I think it's inherently unfair. If we're talking about new behavior modification or a new thing that supposed to be happening don't give at least one warning but as a parent. I know well your patients where stanton you have given enough warnings given anymore And so some people want to go straight to punishments to change it and they don't want.

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"both partners" Discussed on Wealth Academy Podcast - Wealth Is More Than Just Moneyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/paullawrencevann

Wealth Academy Podcast - Wealth Is More Than Just Moneyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/paullawrencevann

02:54 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on Wealth Academy Podcast - Wealth Is More Than Just Moneyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/paullawrencevann

"Through a mediation but other things can be just as relevant family businesses Joint assets Retirement funds. You know it's all going to be something that's going to have both a financial legal animal channel audible absolutely and you shared something with earlier. We talked before and a couple who got a divorce and they were in business to please share that. I thought that was a very powerful story. Actually worked a couple and again. I really our respect confidentiality so not gonna provide any but they didn't have a family business together and so even though they were going through a Marriage divorce they did not want to go through business divorce so they want in you to work together as business partners shan based a lot of stress and anxiety over their families perspective on that because their families were like no. No no you know. One of you has to buy the other out. Can't stay in business together and Both of them were working with divorce. Coaches are typically. A divorce coach does not work with both partners. So there's another be to and they really work with the individual coaches. I was lucky enough to work with the the woman and Talked about it and consider the options and he decided to continue to stay in business together may have a thriving company. They both have new partners now and they are on their own relationships but they still are able to work together as colleagues and i think that's phenomenal and people do not have to be adversarial after a divorce. There is the potential to have a good co-parenting role even have a relationship as friends not immediately after the divorce. I'm not suggesting that it may take a while to ball to that. But i think that traditional Idea of divorce has to be adversarial. Israeli old school anymore. It looking choose to chart their own course going forward absolutely so again. That goes back to what mardi was saying earlier about a transition. They transitioned even though they divorce but they're still working together for the business and the business is striving so as we see it's not a bad situation as transition which is courageous of the great great testimony. They're great absolutely so do. Let's talk about the other end of the spectrum and that being one of your greatest successes that can be either personal or professional as well and then how is helping you.

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"both partners" Discussed on The Workr Beeing Podcast

The Workr Beeing Podcast

04:40 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on The Workr Beeing Podcast

"They don't have help from anyone else. And in the other instance. They didn't help from anyone else either. And what they're doing is they're sort of taking shifts where they're working or doing home stuff so we're planning to two three hour shifts as needed triage and complete only essential projects as needed and work after our children. Go to bed or on the weekends if necessary or we will do split shifts for hours each and probably take a lot of emergency sick or vacation time and or unpaid leave so they're basically Splitting up there working home by being like this is when i'm working and you're gonna take care of the kids during that time and then we're going to switch. I've seen people do this. This is the one that is pretty familiar to me. Because i have had a co workers that i've done this where it's like okay. They blocked her counter that from nine to eleven. They can't do any meetings because they're setting up the kids for school and getting food and doing whatever and then they're on at eleven and then the the husband will go ahead and take care of lunch and do all that stuff until they switch again. So i've seen that one a few times. Yeah yep and so. We're going to learn more about that. There's another one called a galateri in remote workers were. They're both working remote with daily need-based alternation. So this is we take turns working while the other entertains the kids and vice versa. So they don't really have shift work but they so they're not doing like you work from this time to this time and then i'm with the kids from this time to this time they're just saying like based on our needs for that day we're gonna flex around who's watching them. When so if. I have a really important meeting. You can take them if we both have a really important meeting. Figure it out if neither of us do maybe we do a coin. Toss whatever so. They're kind of alternating back and forth. Who's going to be watching after the kids during the work day. So on that note do we know if like we don't know if people actually split that evenly though or if the wife woods or the female partner would be the one that ends up doing more you losing more of those coin tosses if you will yeah. They didn't measure hours. But the way they coded it was that both partners said that they alternate. Who's doing it. Based on meetings deadlines trials needs and it seemed like they were not really basing it on anything other than who was busier at that time. So it they're calling it a gala -tarian. We don't know for sure what that looked like. That was fourteen point. Four percent of the sample.

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"both partners" Discussed on The Workr Beeing Podcast

The Workr Beeing Podcast

04:23 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on The Workr Beeing Podcast

"Maybe it doesn't change the way that people pitch in because the same ideologies are operating so regardless of whether or not you're in the same space and these things are confronting you right in the face it would still be that people would split things more traditionally But there's another opportunity where these situational demands might disrupt the norms Because again you literally can't keep separate spaces. You may have to make decisions together in a way of dealing with this crisis and in making those decisions together it may involve more of both partners making decisions about their work in their home lives and so it may create an opportunity for like renegotiation of those boundaries in a way that might be more favorable or more more equitable for both partners involved and then the last is that when people adapt to crisis situations. They're more likely to accept shifting patterns so if people know they're in crisis they're more likely to be like okay. Things are not going to be the same as they always are. And they're more open to the idea of restructuring things so it could be that people continue to cling to tradition in this instance. Or it could be that. This provides an opportunity where people are really going to renegotiate these boundaries and these new ways of doing things will emerge so. I don't wanna do a big spoiler alert here. But i'm going to take a guess. Yes because we have a lot of data already that i'm assuming many listeners of probably seen that women are generally exiting the workforce at much higher rates during this pandemic. Some is from job loss but some of it is voluntary. And a lot of what we're seeing is that people are leaving because of childcare burden. So i'm gonna guess that it hasn't pat as big of an impact on changing disrupting norms as maybe mean my dream world would like it to have. Yes i think that you are correct about that. Indeed a majority of couples continued to split things in a more gendered way or A large percentage of the sample did but in the other portion of the.

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"both partners" Discussed on Awakend Wife - Marriage Advice for Successful Women

Awakend Wife - Marriage Advice for Successful Women

04:29 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on Awakend Wife - Marriage Advice for Successful Women

"Your exceptional relationship dot com for slash three. The number three so. This is a situation that a lot of couples find themselves in. They want to talk about an issue and it kind of has become a problem that problem he gets emotional and they fight and they want to hurt each other. Yeah so pretty much even before they talk about it. It's like okay. Time to drop the bomb and this is kind of how it goes. They bring it up. It's maybe something sensitive things get uncomfortable. Someone might take something personally or in my reference. The past something has happened. That's quite emotional from the past and before you know it to conversation. That's gotten quite emotional. One or both partners are now kind of getting triggered and the emotions are like higher and higher and higher and before you realize it People saying things that they don't really mean or being quite reactive and then whatever was to original intention of the conversation it's just down the drain because now you have to people who are either arguing fighting or just going at each other and there's no resolution to be seen and you're just caught suddenly in this conflict so you walk away from this conversation actually being more discouraged being feeling more helpless and maybe even feeling hurt by the things that your partner has said or you might even be disappointed in yourself or completely disappointed in your marriage because well there you go again you failed again so the pattern that a lot of couples face when it comes to some serious topics and serious issues that they they do want to address. It's not like they don't want to talk about it but when they do it kind of blows up get extremely emotional and then they go and say well if only it could be emotional when we talk about those topics. If i could be an adult then i wouldn't have this issue i. That's the conclusion. I can't come to and i mean we've heard this from couples who have trouble themselves. They literally say the motions..

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"both partners" Discussed on A Desi Woman with Soniya Gokhale

A Desi Woman with Soniya Gokhale

05:59 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on A Desi Woman with Soniya Gokhale

"Like i as a human being as a person have a special relationship with my walk my climbing with my writing. Perhaps the the kind of public work that i do and is supportive of these things so my husband is also a mountaineering instructor and that is why we have a lot of understanding on these issues but for other women. I would say that if you have to wait for that right person. It is alleged to do not come under pressure of society that now you have attained particular age and you need to get married. No you do not need to get married just for the sake of it at does not equipment. The also complete beings in offsets. Mileage is a part of life. Marriage is not the entire life on. I would advise them not to give up their own identities their own. Walk the whole being as a person for manage embrace nottage as just one aspect of your life but you have other specs also so you had a human being a professional you are perhaps a public speaker writer all generalists or whoever let that thing also the main in the same quantity that it was so this is my perspective on knowledge and both partners need to understand that apart from being. Somebody's husband somebody's wife. We are also individual beings. I remember a boy by a collegiate. Run on nottage. And he says that both of us he says for man and woman nodded that both of us bill drink from our own cups but we will drink together been drink together but from our own cups so this is the kind of concept of managed. I have lived together but we are not an extension of the other person. You're not a photocopy of the us. I think that is absolutely a beautiful definition. And some now i wanna pivot to talking abou what your next. Expeditions might be an what you have planned mount In the bottle which is the highest Which is the sixth highest mountain on. Earth is my next expedition. And i am in the process of collecting finances again because as you said that we have to wait sometimes with this to happen so whenever it happens. This will be my next expedition. As soon as i'm able to get the finances.

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"both partners" Discussed on PodcastDetroit.com

PodcastDetroit.com

04:47 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on PodcastDetroit.com

"Because it's so much easier for the neuro typical person to say like okay. You don't respond well to this. I can reroute versus someone who's neuro diverse may not be able to reroute easily. And so i think it's really important for us as typical to do our own words to do our own research to really be talking to our partner friends or whoever in the community we know. That's how test dick to try and meet them where they're at an order to have success. I don't think we can place the burden just on someone autistic to meet us on our level. That seems really unfair. Yeah and my therapy room. When i've worked with these couples on the neuro. Typical partners resentful of this. They get it right. And i think that's just part of how we're socialized as we expect you know like if i'm talking to my parents for example. Both of my parents are neuro. Typical and i might be able to set a boundary of. Hey i don't like this. don't do that anymore. And they can respond really well versus if i tell my husband. I don't like don't do this anymore. His you'll get stuck on ono. What should i do instead. Like they can hear your request. They can take your information but because the brain is processing differently just by how it set up. We're creating all of these barriers and so there can be a level of resentment there. But i think you can also do some work on yourself. Do we really needed to be our way all the time. No there has to be a way to meet in the middle. We're both partners are getting their needs. Met time right and for me what. What really helped was. When i realized that he had asked burgers than i was like. Okay you know Fifty percent of our problems went away. Because i didn't feel like fighting him. I could always see that. He was working really hard to be in relationship with me and i couldn't. I just didn't understand why it was so hard..

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"both partners" Discussed on The Most Hated F-Word

The Most Hated F-Word

06:49 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on The Most Hated F-Word

"That's not defensive. That's not attacking in a positive environment can help that. Thurrock uil have less atkin. Fourth people just feel heard seen in their voice matters. I would your experience on that that concept of like we as humans. We just wanna be significant. We want to be heard. We want our voice matter. No i think we paraphrase glenda therapy. God would call a larger house. Maybe read somewhere. That is one of our human needs to be understood and gotten and this is why therapy effective when a therapist is able to provide the type of team in the price of safety needed type of environment where the client field card and gotten back from therapy and put it on the head and follow a particular point. Yeah exactly so. When we're meeting couple we do something called a. They're fighting in basically guidelines and ruled or both partners with you say both partners heard and for both partners to be able to have an open conversation. Curious conversations really understand the other person's point of view be able to live in the other person's shoes and you'll be cry back after some time whether you know a year five years or thirty years when their conflicts when somebody fold now only don't the on dot and they feel completely misunderstood so much more between them then actual physical What did you call that contract fair fighting contract. Oh it's interesting. How people might all married. I'm not. I don't need a contract. But i think it's so useful and beneficial to be understood. I have a business partner. And we went into a contract that we put in our agreements like google. Will we need to do. But why dot with our spouse. I think it's a phenomenal idea. Is just to be feel understood. Come up with a. But i'm glad i could be so. Do you have any on your blog or anything about that contract. I don't buy back in log about it and spotting. I really think that's good because like i just think back to my relationship with my business partner. We know that if emotions get evoked emotions get stoked that we go to the contract. And here's what the contract says black and white emotionless and we're like oh yeah okay that makes sense. Here's how we operate. And i think that it's just a phenomenal way to eliminate emotions in a decision even though that's next impossible but the contract was written in a motion neutral state that we both agreed. On so yeah. I think that if you get blog post up send the link our way. I will do that. But i want to delve into what you do. Yeah one year writing contract. You were emotional. If you wanna to get back to that date. And i'm i'm gonna delve into that a little bit. Maybe okay that you know. I think emotions are so difficult for though minneola and i think in our culture. We're having move hard time dealing With our emotion regulation when it comes to personal finance and money right. Nothing general narrative. I made very bring that up. Costa money in emotions did not nick Reality where human beings writing to be emotive and emotional and we can't stop that from happening or years way One of things. I usually have with my own. Money is one of the most important affect of our lives in excess security safety pre experience. So why wouldn't i d notion know about something that matters so much any why would be emotional about it right but i understand at the same time that there is a conversation about data emotion motions and their contract in the conversation that i have been happening. Nothing now the love through reading that into the funds that are emotions by the crime they do get into this overwhelming overbearing emotional state. Yeah no they are definitely impacting us. In a way that is not healthy but really understanding that you know. There's a way for us to work in our world and our internal lane get back from the negative overwhelming emotion more and through a positive equilibrium of an emotional state right. Yeah and you know. I appreciate you catching that. When i was saying that in the contract and bring that out and i guess something i've found that since has done and i mean for twenty twenty s. Been probably the most emotional year i only had and it's been for whatever reasons a year that i really decided to sit in like understand the meaning in the with the emotions are actually trying to tell me and it's been eye-opening actually perspective changing that. How valuable these emotions are and maybe it's because there's no iron man's for me to run marathons to run that i can distract result from it. I don't know but i've learned so many valuable lessons from just sitting with my emotions this year that it's not that i've ever thought intentionally. I want to go be busy and run iron man to void my motion. But i think there's some element that subconsciously that was happening and i agree fully that these emotions just so pot like are they can be used in a positive way but for me what it really comes to mind when i look at money emotions and motions in general that contract with my business partners along to get to the point. Where viktor frankl. Saint is of like putting that space between the stimulus and response. And that's where i feel like contract could help is that. I don't know if we're all very good at having that emotion understanding what it means and then reacting where sometimes it just like a reaction and i guess that's where personal finance can i guess we can improve is if we can put that space between our stimulus and response to respond accordingly. I don't know if that makes sense to you. Yeah i wanna thank you for bringing a dog on the banking. Obviously you're one of the most amazing book ever written.

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"both partners" Discussed on PUT IT IN THE AIR PODCAST

PUT IT IN THE AIR PODCAST

08:08 min | 1 year ago

"both partners" Discussed on PUT IT IN THE AIR PODCAST

"Just cleaned it. I'm just going to accept that. But then i'm thinking that you have to be talking about is i don't know if you watch that show like what's that asian show on netflix. The blink so negative right so shout outs. Tv washed the overnight right so the couple on this girl and she got hello boyfriend and now they got the most toxic fucking relationship. They went to paris in her friend was taking her on a trip for her birthday to paris. He went along with them. They left him in. This nigga went ballistic. He called a quarter all kinds of names. You abandon me. I don't like you. I can't stand you like he left it. This horrible message messed up our entire birthday and this is something that he apparently has like an issue at doing right so this was like the final straw because her friend was like you know she thought that you know that was just too over the top her our friends and our cautioning her like you should separate from him. So he'd go to counseling and she decides to separate from him and then like two weeks later not even two weeks back together. So it's like when you know so so he was supposed to be. They were supposed to have separated because he couldn't figure out a plan. That's exactly what the therapist like. How are you going to. You know work on having these outbursts and so he was just saying like he felt abandoned when she left him like he needs the mighty desk consistently by like he doesn't want her to leave and go anywhere essentially he didn't want her to have any friends and so to me. It's like you know people have like those types of issues. That's what we really talking about when we started to get into with share referencing right. There's like the day to day stuff that you know you. Can't you just have to adjust the people you have to decide in that you want to live with who they are right. So do you really wanna fight me choosing your battles. That's what i like to think about. You really going to fight me. But he's like clothes that are saying here by the door or do you want to pick a battle like actually worth it now him having those kind of outburst anybody who's dated a woman that they feel like she's insufferable. Every time you have you tried to communicate were about anything is going to be world war. Three that is something where you might decide. It's not something. I could forgive. Like i love you but i can't forgive the fact that we can't communicate right so yeah i think that his levels to it and is really about choosing your battles. I would about this one accountability. The star stepping balls both parties setting some expectations for the future however accountability involves more than holding each other responsible for making change. It's also about developing plan success. They clearly identifies all the factors that contributed to would happen. This includes both partners as one partner behaves. This includes both partners as one partner. Behavior may influence the ability of the other to make necessary. Changes got hold on so the last part i sometimes in being accountable like a that you gotta understand it maybe your your behavior impacts the other person and and and as a consequence day they have a responsibility and you being accountable or do right define whatever. You'll go with accountability part. Are you looking at me out. I'm just asking because i'm curious accountabilities. Harvard me really. Accountability is hard because africa. Yes yes Because i feel like when. I'm making a decision for myself. Is very easy for me to be accountable for me for asia but when i'm part of being accountable for another person that's holding them. Accountable holding them accountable. That's been hard for me because it's sometimes hard for me to determine like how hard i'm gonna go right. I'm a perfectionist are the same signs. I mean it's just like because when i make this when i say i'm gonna do something. I know that i'm going to do it. I do what i say i'm going to do. That's why i say it loud. I say you probably tell everybody doing this. And then they like okay. And then i do it so when someone else says that they're going to do something what i've learned is happy hitting gonna do shit and they don't do it and now if i have to hold you accountable for its i'm going to be era -tated and it's not gonna be nice and so i've tried not to hold people accountable for things because i don't want you to say like i wanna do this and i'm calling. You are checking on you. And i'm like what's next and what john. Hey listen i'm trying to be great. Ciampi start off like that to be great in. No no no no. No this other day is that they already already told bay Like i need you. And this is how i need to write. I know that these are primarily using my weaknesses. And i'm with you. And i need you to help me be who i need to be when i don't wanna be that person right Or when i'm fighting that person right so it's going to require you. I need you to keep me accountable. I don't care what you say. I don't care how many times you gotta setting will ever be a prom. 'cause i need you to save my see my issue with that is like i don't have a problem with holding a person accountable but you also can't dictate how i'm holding you accountable. Okay book where people like to do is say. Don't say to me like that. Or don't present it. That i like i need. I need sugar. I somebody who likes the sweet manner if you should be able to hold yourself accountable vaccines now. If you're using as a crutch you can't dictate how. I'm going to eight in this guy she goes. You should be able to own so the fact that we've been having this conversation is a problem. That's true that in a second. I don't agree with that because before. He just proud of himself to keep you. Hold yourself accountable. But that's because i start with stuff that i know that i can do. Sometimes there are things i wanna do and i don't take it on because i'm afraid like that i won't be able to finish. I can't do it alone and it's like the people will take to get it done sometimes. It's the point me. So i'll give you an example a recent example so just released my second book and there are a lot of people who were supposed to help me and getting some of that work done and so i ended up having to do all myself in. I wasn't exactly thrilled about like how came out. I still put it out. Because i said i was going to do it because i already wrote the book so the people were supposed to help me do x y and z. They know who they are with the project. That kind of was just like. Oh it's christmas. I'm so busy so this. I didn't hold them accountable to what i just got it done on my own and put it out. You know what i'm saying but at the same time it's just like sometimes there's more that i wanna do like. Sometimes i want to pick up in. Just do different things. But i need help in if i don't have that and i can't do it. I don't put it out to the universe. 'cause i can't get it done and the people who have my are not always reliable so i won't say that no sometimes you gotta you know you can want to do a lot of things but execution is hard. Now i say yes and get on if you have to hold them accountable for the way that you see fit because that's the conversation ships. That's the conversation. I think if i if i if i especially if i ask you. That's what i'm saying if i ask you. I think that that's the that's the that's the that's the follow up. Hey listen i'm gonna do this tranquil light yummy you might not like. Sometimes we try to be sweet but it's gonna come high come so you gotta be willing to take are you. Are you cool with that. We good if you me you not then. You don't want me to hold you accountable but we were talking about in a relationship in a related to the same day came. It's harder because if if you're in a relationship with the mahdi right. I've learned this the hard way and holding people accountable. And that's probably why like another one of my relationships didn't work out. Because in holding somebody accountable. Sometimes that's to cause a different type of a rift that you can't come back from because now when you start to understand this is how people's like normal reactions things are and it's a move. You got action long-term. Can i deal with those. But that's the thing though that was gonna come.

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"both partners" Discussed on The Investigation Guru

The Investigation Guru

05:48 min | 2 years ago

"both partners" Discussed on The Investigation Guru

"I think that's the most important in both both behind it. All both partners have have some work to do. Both partners have I don't really wanna say accountability But again you know something you. There was a need right. That was not met in again. Kind of what we talked about. At the beginning you know with that whole compassionate phase in meeting each other's needs and putting their needs ahead of your own somporn because again if you're if your partners or your needs are not met then that can you know over time that can really that can really lead to something that is is not where you wanna be. But it definitely is possible for relationships to overcome infidelity With the with the hard concerted effort and the a drive and determination that you really want this to work and you really love this person you know you you have this strong drive in a need to make it work. Then yeah i you know we're all for for for going for it You specially you know if you've put a lot of time and energy and if you have children and you know all kinds of other things can go into play and and again you know. Every relationship is different and what You know when you have to kind of reevaluate and decide for yourself if this is something that that You want do because a lot of a lot of relationships aren't gonna make it whether there's infidelity or not just statistically speaking against as we just do it's just you know the world is complex. He s it is so That is that is pretty much all we have to say on that again Don't make mountains out of molehills. Don't don't start accusing me if you if you don't know for one hundred percent certainty and you know again until you get some kind of evidence some kind of proof there. There's really no way to know for certain because really honestly your significant other is not going to admit it. If you're the one cheating you probably would not admit it either. I don't know that come from well. I mean if you ask. Are you cheating on me than most people will say. No discuss at a personal protection. Maybe they want to get their conscience clear. I would think conscience. I don't know how would you just just Thinking that if you're hiding that in and you're not you know you're you're i guess if you're going to great lengths to keep it hidden or i don't know man that's communicate. Tell each other how you're feeling beforehand if you think you're you you are on the verge of of needed. Step out on your marriage for some kind of motion or sexual comfort. Go go to your partner and tell me how you're feeling tell that you're there's something going on with you. Of course there's so many things again can obstacles in this world that can affect your relationship but none of the times. It's personal. I don't know i. I would want to think someone would be honest. Maybe i just have more faith than people maybe. Yeah yeah and you know. Every relationship is different in every everybody is different. And you can't really. There are no hard true laws or facts or anything like that you can't you know. Yeah so. I guess that that about does it for this. This is a pretty long episode. Yeah we didn't intend on that. This is a hefty topic though. And there's over how we we know we might revisit this topic again in the future. But yeah maybe there's a lot of other things that I mean that influence custody and all this you know the comes from not just infidelity but comes from you know feld.

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"both partners" Discussed on The Investigation Guru

The Investigation Guru

04:17 min | 2 years ago

"both partners" Discussed on The Investigation Guru

"What's been broken and sometimes you know even if if both partners are committed to to make it work in both partners are are wanting to resolve this. And you know there's true you know Accountability and and they have a true desire to overcome this then. It may be possible to come back in. Be stronger than than you were before That sounds kind of kind of hard to believe in kind of maybe a little bit I think that that would take a lot of time which is to maybe if a family. It's worth it. But honestly i think it matters if you have children with that person because you're not just divorce in each other you're you're essentially divided family and there's a lot that comes into the hat so it's it's just so devastating in the end so It's it's just it's just not worth it. cheating is just infidelity adultery. Whatever you wanna call it. It's just it's just not not worth it It it can cause irreparable damage to not only your spouse but know specially if you have children In any kind of strife than in life is hard enough marriage is tough marriages is a is a it takes constant work and effort and you know why why bring more trouble into it than than is already there but you know people just don't don't seem to to learn don't seem to learn their lesson or they're sarah cheaters. Too surreal theaters. Yeah sometimes it's a it's a one time deal and then they're sterile cheaters who i don't know the can't settle down. They think they know what they want. And they don't so balancing from one out. Yeah passionate face to the next exactly right but it is. It is possible to overcome infidelity. Again it's gonna take a a whole lot of work on both on both parties and A real commitment to making that change in neo never ever ever doing it again..

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"both partners" Discussed on NewsRadio KFBK

NewsRadio KFBK

03:57 min | 2 years ago

"both partners" Discussed on NewsRadio KFBK

"And say the key word money again just dial pound two fifty from your cell phone and say the key word money Jim let's go back and finish up this last which we're talking about and that's if it's okay to just have one spouse handling all the money if one spouse doesn't have any interest in the finances we say no that's not okay because both spouses must be involved we talked about first that while they're both they're living it's important to make sure the money does what the money needs to do for both spouses to have a very very successful comfortable and happy retirement and could be different things one spouse might wanna spends more money one might not so you have to compromise and if you don't know any about the money you're never going to be able to get that position to discuss okay what would you like I need to do with the money now let's look at the second phase of what could happen why it's so important both spouses understand the money why you have to have everything in writing and that's if one of the spouses passes away and that spouse is the spouse that's handling the money if it's the other spouse does not have the money then dispatch handling the money knows what to do but if you're not having the money and your spouse passes away you have all kinds of issues you're gonna have to work through and you don't want to have to work through those issues when you're going through the emotional turmoil the pain of losing a spouse you want to make sure things handled in advance because what if now you're not handling the money and your spouse is fairly aggressive and you now take over the portfolio you're not sure what to do when you see it going up and down on a daily basis and your spouse's inheriting longer has that make you feel and what do you do that well you know they're they're they're lost in and they really don't think they can do anything but but but they can't do something if we're talking about on the show right now you can't put your life in order you can feel comfortable that if something happened to one of the spouses the other person can take over particularly if you're mentioning right now Dan what if it that spells that passes away as a person and manage the money and it's a very deep concern that we see every single day with the people come in here and when we're finished with the process I can tell you that in every case the spouse the plows debt did not manage the money knowing are they empowered but they feel significantly better because they know that if it if something happened to their spouse they're in a position now to manage the money and understand what's going on in our portfolio that's because I feel safer at that point and that's the whole key can they be made to feel safer and they can that's the whole goal feel safe about these things and you have to just think about the whole reason you save this money forty years ago thirty years I have a long sticky saves money was to make sure that both you and your husband are you and your wife we're going to be financially secure throughout retirement time it wasn't to play the stock market wasn't have all this excitement the ups and downs it was to make sure that you were going to then have a very secure retirement and if you don't build the plant around making sure that both spouses are protected it's gonna leave one or both of you feeling strange what we found lately in the last couple years especially is that a lot of the men have actually taken the lead in saying you know what we need to get our plan in order for you honey we need to make sure that we have a plan that will be positive for you that will keep you safe from anything bad does happen to me and I think those are the best kind of husband Jim to actually leave the charges that you know what Sally we need to make sure you understand the money we need to get a plan we do get a group we can trust their make sure if I'm gone you're going to be okay you know Dan and we're seeing it a lot particularly since March of this year we have people calling in very regularly with these concerned because they've gone through this dramatic time of the market swinging thousands of points today and yes it's recovered somewhat but nevertheless if they've come to a realization that the world can change very quickly your life can change very quickly and making sure that everything's in order so that both spouses understand and not just having a bunch of statements in front of you but actually a full plan in place its causes and really eliminate teachers say a great great deal of anxiety amongst both partner Dan.

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